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Passing it On Alumnae help collegiate Sisters realize their potential

Foundation Annual Report

President’s Letter A Time for New Beginnings

Sisters,

Although nature is winding down for the year, it is a time of new beginnings and introductions for Alpha Xi Delta. We enjoyed a very successful fall recruitment season, and this month thousands of young women across the country will be initiated into our beloved Sisterhood, learning the full meaning of our symbols, taking vows to uphold our ideals and feeling the joy of wearing our Quill badge for the first time. As we share our secrets and welcome these new Sisters into the heart of our Sisterhood, the initiation experience enables them to connect directly with our Founders and all the Alpha Xi Deltas who have preceded them, with the words of the ceremony inspiring them (and all of us) to realize our potential and make a difference throughout our lives as Alpha Xi Deltas. Also beginning a new relationship with Alpha Xi Delta is our new National Executive Director, Elysia Balster Gallivan, South Dakota ’93, and I introduce her to you with great joy. If you’ve participated in any area or national gathering or have served in any office in the past decade, chances are that Elysia needs no introduction, as she has been a valued, visible member of our Headquarters staff since 1996 when she traveled as an Educational Leadership Consultant. Most recently serving as our Director of Member Services, Elysia has played key roles in executing our major national events, including this year’s Workout and Volunteer Leadership Conference. As you read about these events in this issue, I hope you’ll sense the excitement and potential that was unleashed for our members, and can appreciate the quality of experience that our personnel will continue to provide under Elysia’s direction. In this issue we also introduce to you our 2008-09 Educational Leadership Consultants and Leadership Coaches – bold

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and talented women who are already shaping our organization in new and exciting ways as they travel to our chapters and associations. To all these Sisters I say, “Congratulations, and Welcome!” We place in their hands these new responsibilities for our beloved Sisterhood, confident that they will ensure Alpha Xi Delta remains a place where women are inspired to realize their potential, and where our members continue to enjoy genuine, lifelong friendships. Ironically, while winter sets in it’s already time to start thinking about next summer. I fully appreciate that economic realities make travel planning difficult right now, but if you’re able to plan a summer vacation, I encourage you to think “Denver” and to schedule it to coincide with Convention 2009. Denver is an exciting, vibrant city with much to offer reuniting Sisters, families and individual travelers of all ages. (My boys have already made a list of the region’s steam and cog train attractions, and my Big Sis and I are pouring over menus of the local spa offerings!) Convention 2009 will be a magical, meaningful gathering of Sisters with much to offer in the way of opportunities to connect and reunite with one another, benefit from personal- and professional-development programming, improve the lives of Denver’s children, conduct the Fraternity’s business and elect our new national governing boards and, above all, have fun! Please join us. Finally, a note to all the Foundation donors whose gifts are recognized in these pages: From the bottom of our hearts, we thank you. Your gifts allow Alpha Xi Delta to truly impact the lives of the women who wear our Quill and to improve the lives of children. Loyally,

Deanna Detchemendy National President

Contents 5 New Executive Director Appointment Elysia Balster Gallivan becomes the Fraternity’s new National Executive Director.

6 Volunteer Leadership Conference Alumnae Sisters attend “summer training camp” in St. Louis.

8 Recruitment Training at The Workout Sisters pump up their potential during the Fraternity’s recruitment training experience.

10 Traveling Leadership Team Educational Leadership Consultants and Leadership Coaches hit the road to assist chapters.

13 Governing Body Nominations Nominate a Sister to serve on National Council, the Foundation or the National Housing Corporation.

20 National Panhellenic Conference The importance of Alumnae Panhellenic Associations and why you should join one.

24 Alumnae Association Membership Fun ways to connect/reconnect with Alpha Xi Delta.

36 Foundation Annual Report Thank you to the Sisters and friends who gave so generously.

In Every Issue

4 Letters 23 News & Notes 26 Member News 33 Reunions 54 Honor Gifts 56 Memorial Gifts 61 Chapter Eternal 63 Living our Symphony

On the Cover Jenn Tripoli, Marquette ‘05, and other collegiate Sisters are being encouraged and mentored by alumnae, such as Lori Bleich Gallogly, Drake ‘55. Learn more about how alumnae are “passing it on” and helping collegiate Sisters realize their potential, starting on page 8. www.alphaxidelta.org

Letters of Alpha Xi Delta

Steadfast Love for Alpha Xi Delta Ready for I so enjoyed reading the summer Quill. I am bursting Recruitment with pride that Alpha Xi Delta is involved in so many humanitarian endeavors around the country. I am an old gal – a charter member of Beta Tau Chapter at Kent State University – having become an Alpha Xi on November 22, 1947, according to the back of my Quill pin. I have since visited the chapter house at KSU and had a guided tour by a lovely young woman. I now live in Altamonte Springs, Florida, and am not able to travel, but I love to read The Quill, I love the Sisterhood and I am still in close touch with several of my chapter Sisters. With thanks, I remain, Ethelyn “Scotty” Scott Ryder Wilhelm Beta Tau, Kent State University ’47 A behind-the-scenes look at member selection Summer 2008

Road Trip! 14 must-see places for Alpha Xi Deltas

Successful Build-A-Bear Event 1,000+ bears donated to children in need

50 Years and Counting Gamma Nu Chapter celebrates a half century of sisterhood Record-Breaking Year Sisters, friends give $245,000 to the Loyalty Fund Remembering a Sister Foundation pioneer enters Chapter Eternal

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Road Trip Map Leads Sister to Respond The summer edition of The Quill was outstanding in information, especially the “Out and About with Alpha Xi Delta” map on pages 22-23. Could I please have a copy of the Alpha Xi Delta Grace that was mentioned? Rita Zahn Sahm Beta Pi, Indiana University ’54 Editor’s Note: Rita, we’re glad to oblige. Here it is.

Alpha Xi Delta Grace Be present at our table Lord. Be here and everywhere adored. These mercies bless and grant that we May feast in paradise with thee. God bless our dear Fraternity. May we er’e united be. May our Quill reign eternally. Alpha Xi Delta praises thee!

Volume 105/Issue 3 Copyright 2008 by Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity Submission Deadlines Spring issue: December 1 Summer issue: April 1 Fall/winter issue: August 15 Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity Headquarters 8702 Founders Road Indianapolis, IN 46268 Telephone: 317.872.3500 Fax: 317.872.2947 fhq@alphaxidelta.org National Executive Director Elysia Balster Gallivan, South Dakota ’93 Editor Ruth Goodman, Northern Iowa ’80 National Council 2007-2008 National President Deanna Wollam Detchemendy, Cal State Northridge ’83 National Vice Presidents Ann Ward Adams, Nebraska Lincoln ’66 Evonne Carawan, North Carolina State ’83 Sandra Ellen Edwards, Kentucky ’75 Diane Curtis Gregory, Wittenberg, ’61 Susan Eicher Mamber, Kent State ’77 Danica Vanasse Olson, Marquette ’90 Founders Cora Bollinger Block Alice Bartlett Bruner Almira Lowry Cheney Frances Elisabeth Cheney Bertha Cook Evans Eliza Drake Curtis Everton Julia Maude Foster Lucy W. Gilmer Harriet L. McCollum Lewie Strong Taylor

And from our Panhellenic Sisters… Just a quick note to say how much we enjoyed your road trip map in the summer Quill. What a fun and well-executed idea! It inspires us to try something similar in our magazine. Whitney Parker Scully, ANCHORA Editor Megan M. Lloyd, ANCHORA Associate Editor Delta Gamma Fraternity

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The Mission of The Quill of Alpha Xi Delta: To inform, inspire and challenge. To sustain and nurture membership loyalty and interest. To recognize individual, group and Fraternity accomplishments. To provide a forum for the exchange of information and opinion. To be the permanent record for the Fraternity.

In Praise of Sisterhood I have special memories of the Alpha Tau chapter house at the University of Alabama. I loved to sing with my Sisters after dinner – and even study together! We had a precious housemother, Mrs. Thomas, and we adhered to strict curfews: 11:00 on Friday nights and midnight on Saturdays. We were given an important piece of advice: Don’t just be a sponge. In life, try to give something back. I have tried to do that in my pictures and poems. Please dedicate this to all my Xi Sisters, who I cherish still. With my Love and Blessings, Margaret Wilson Batley Alpha Tau, University of Alabama ’51

Sisters A Sister is a “forever friend.” Someone to share our joys and Someone to share our tears; Someone to whom we can always confide. This is a lifetime friendship From birth until life shall end. We thank thee, Lord, for our Sisters They are our closest kind of kin. God bless them for the way they enrich and bless our lives. They make our families complete; They bind our hearts together in more than just name. Without Sisters, life could never be the same. Editor’s Note: Thank you for sharing your poetry, Margaret, and mentioning Mrs. Thomas. Sisters, do you have remembrances, stories, or photos to share about your housemother? If so, please send them to rgoodman@alphaxidelta.org so we can include them in our salute to housemothers in an upcoming issue.

Reading The Quill Online Versus In Hand In the summer issue of The Quill you asked Sisters to let you know if they wanted to be removed from the magazine’s mailing list and read The Quill online instead. Please remove my name from the list. I thoroughly embrace this idea and am excited to see our organization continue to move in a positive direction, both environmentally and fiscally.  Sandi Edwards Xi, University of Kentucky ’75 Alpha Xi Delta National Vice President Editor’s Note: Sisters, many of you requested to be removed from The Quill’s mailing list to read our online issue instead. The current issue and issues from the past three years can be found in the News & Events section of www.alphaxidelta.org. The Quill can also be emailed to you as a portable document format (pdf) – an electronic image of the printed version of the magazine. If you would prefer to read The Quill on the Fraternity’s website or receive your copy via email, please contact the Editor.

Connecting Sisters with Sisters In reading the Realize Your Potential section of the summer Quill, I was fascinated by Debra Lens Drysdale’s involvement with Hereditary Hemorrhagic Telangiectasia (HHT) Foundation International. Please share a word of thanks and encouragement to her from my family and me; we also have a history of HHT. My grandfather had severe symptoms, and I still remember his numerous nosebleeds and hospitalizations due to needing blood transfusions. My mother’s case isn’t as severe, but she’s had heart surgeries and complications due to HHT. Monitoring her condition has been crucial indeed. I still am only slightly affected. It’s less lonesome knowing there are others out there who truly understand! Thank you, Debra. Alice Hink Hinrichs Epsilon Tau, Central Missouri State University ’81

National Council Appoints a New National Executive Director Elysia Balster Gallivan, South Dakota ’93, has been selected by Alpha Xi Delta’s National Council to serve as the Fraternity’s National Executive Director. Elysia began her career with Alpha Xi Delta in 1998, traveling as an Educational Leadership Consultant. She later became the Fraternity’s Program Development Coordinator, Director and Assistant Executive Director of Member Services and, most recently, as the Director of Member Services. In addition to her work with the Fraternity, Elysia is well known throughout the fraternal community for her service with LeaderShape, the Undergraduate Interfraternity Institute, the Interfraternity Institute and the Fraternity Executives Association. “Elysia is an experienced, dynamic leader whose talents will help shape Alpha Xi Delta and bring great success to our Fraternity,” said Deanna Detchemendy, Alpha Xi Delta’s National President. “During her tenure with Alpha Xi Delta, Elysia has proven to be a capable and devoted Sister who displays the values we hold dear, who engages and connects well with our Sisters and the fraternal community, and who consistently fosters a spirit of cooperation and collaboration.” Elysia, who stepped into her new role October 1, said, “Alpha Xi Delta inspires me every day of the week, and I have great passion and dedication for the work I do on behalf of the organization. I look forward to serving Alpha Xi Delta in this key leadership role and to continue our Fraternity’s great tradition of success.” www.alphaxidelta.org

A Major-League Hit Sisters knock one out of the park during the Volunteer Leadership Conference.

By Sara Des Jean Konopka, Purdue ’01 Assistant Director of Alumnae Relations

lpha Xi Delta’s 2008-10 volunteer season kicked off during “summer training camp” in St. Louis, July 25-27. Since Alpha Xi Deltas are team players at heart and because we were in Cardinal’s country, the theme for this year’s Volunteer Leadership Conference (VLC) was…what else? Baseball! Alpha Xi Delta’s roster showed a lot of depth this year. On hand for the action were more than 130 fired-up Fraternity volunteers from across the country, including National Council members, Foundation Trustees, members of the National Housing Corporation and local housing boards, National Directors, Territory Directors, Area Facilitators and advisors from chapters all across the country. The game plan for this actionpacked weekend was clear: 1. Bond as teammates 2. Share winning strategies 3. Maximize individual and team output 4. Recognize and congratulate each other for a job well done

Yankee Baseball great Babe Ruth said, “The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they don’t play together, the club won’t be worth a dime.” With these 6

immortal words in mind, Sister-teammates learned to “play together” during mix and mingle sessions throughout the weekend. They also learned about the Fraternity’s new lineup of winning strategies that includes the Group Interactive Network (GIN) System. The system’s cutting-edge technology allows our collegiate Sisters to communicate with alumnae and each other more efficiently. Each chapter can choose from three custom website designs and change the design in real time, instantly creating a fresh presence for their chapter on the web. Using the GIN System is also a great way to attract new members to the team. Individual and team output was maximized when Sisters learned more about The Blue Room, the membersonly section of the Fraternity’s website. This playbook of sorts contains policies and procedures, reports and checklists, and award and recognition programs that collegians and alumnae can use to maximize their chapter and association output. The VLC lineup continued with Michelle Marchand Rebholz, Mount Union ’02, Greek Life coordinator at Lehigh University in New Jersey, who presented a major-league look at current campus trends. Michelle coached Sisters on how they can use these trends to tap into the needs of today’s collegians to form strong, winning teams. Next at bat was Ginny Carroll, Western Kentucky ’82, CEO of InGiNuity, who shared with Sister-teammates “The Gift of Sorority.” Her world-class message reminded Sisters of the dedication our Founders displayed while establishing our Fraternity, rallied Sisters around our

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Ritual and fired everyone up about their lifetime membership in Alpha Xi Delta. Ginny hit a homer the next day with her presentation on generational differences and how Sister-teammates can become more adept when working with people of all ages. Sisters really put their heart into it when they brought pencils, calculators, rulers, paper and other school supplies with them to St. Louis for donation to the United Way of Central Indiana. During BackPack Attack 2008, supplies were collected and later donated to Indianapolis-area children in need. The VLC team, which was part of the larger North-American Interfraternity Conference team, was recognized for donating 5,310 school supplies – the most of any small-membership/volunteer organization! High fives to these two powerhouse teams! The VLC closing ceremony celebrated the weekend’s success, recognized Sister-volunteers for their dedication to the Fraternity and acknowledged the team’s hard work. These Sisters then went back to their communities not only as players but as raving fans of Alpha Xi Delta, eager to work with chapters and associations in their area. Want to become part of Alpha Xi Delta’s volunteer roster? Fill out a volunteer interest form in the Alumnae section of the Fraternity’s website, or contact Sara Konopka at skonopka@alphaxidelta.org.

2008 Volunteer Leadership Conference

Building the Foundation The Housing Foundation, that is! By Tabatha Donahue Phan, Indiana U of Pennsylvania ‘89 Director of Housing

s I made my way back to Indianapolis from St. Louis after the Fraternity’s Volunteer Leadership Conference, I thought about all the amazing women I met and the important lessons I learned. One thing that came to mind was the conversation I had with Alpha Xi Delta veteran volunteer Marian Sayward West, Michigan ’45, who wore her Housing hat that weekend. “This was one of the best sessions I ever attended,” said Marian. “I can really feel Housing and the Fraternity’s other departments working together for a common goal.” Marian hit the nail on the head. Working together as a team to move Alpha Xi Delta forward is what the Vol-

Alumnae volunteers shared ideas and successes between Housing educational sessions at this year’s Volunteer Leadership Conference.

in their roles. Housing volunteers could choose from five conference educational tracks facilitated by vendors Culinary Consultants, Inc., HRH/Kirklin Insurance and interior designer Sandy Levin. Sisters gained knowledge about insurance, decorating

“As a first-time volunteer for Alpha Xi Delta, I found the Volunteer Leadership Conference extremely valuable in helping me with my position and in reconnecting with the Fraternity. I feel reenergized, recommitted and am in love with Alpha Xi Delta all over again!” Carrie White Gray, Elon ’94 Housing Facilitator unteer Leadership Conference was all about. (See related story on page 6.) To that end, alumnae volunteers who serve on chapter corporation (housing) boards came to the conference to learn about the latest resources available to them and how they can be even more effective

and kitchen management to help building corporations be successful no matter what type of housing they oversee. During the two financial tracks, Sisters learned about new filing requirements (the IRS now requires all nonprofit organizations, regardless of size,

to file IRS form 990) and the financial review process recently developed by the National Housing Corporation (NHC). The new financial review form allows the NHC to review a corporation’s financial position if the corporation wants the Fraternity guarantee or grant a loan. Along with the Housing sessions, Sisters who volunteer on local building corporations were introduced to several recruitment and chapter sessions they had not been exposed to before, such as StrengthsQuest®, the new chapter website system, how to work with generational differences and Sister Ginny Carroll’s presentation “The Gift of Sorority.” I encourage all local building corporations to send at least one representative to Alpha Xi Delta’s 2009 National Convention in Denver, Colorado. The National Housing Corporation promises to offer informative sessions that will allow your local housing corporation make the right decisions and work with the chapter to build a strong housing foundation. www.alphaxidelta.org

Once a sister program to The Leadership Conference, The Workout, the Fraternity’s recruitment training experience, continues to grow. By Gretchen Balling DiMarco, Syracuse ‘96 Director of Membership Growth

ome of the most important skills Sisters need to be successful in their personal and professional lives are the same skills needed to be successful during recruitment. With that in mind, the National Fraternity expanded The Workout, its summer recruitment training experience, to help collegiate Sisters develop these skills. Instead of hosting one Workout week in a central location, we took the program on the road this year and hosted one session in Atlanta, Georgia, one in Fresno, California, and two in Bloomington, Indiana. More sessions meant more participants since Sisters could plan their training week around their summer school schedule and other commitments. The Workout helped participants explore critical leadership skills like action planning, motivating others and solving problems from a position of strength. The Art of Storytelling as a Leadership Tool was a cornerstone of the week’s curriculum. Participants drew inspiration from the story of our Fraternity’s founding, as well as from

their own personal Alpha Xi Delta story, to craft a compelling vision of the future to take back to their chapter. The rest of The Workout curriculum demonstrated how a robust recruitment plan can help bring that vision into reality.

When participants were challenged to apply all of this to their chapter’s recruitment plans, the result was powerful! Colleen Casey, Syracuse ’06, said, “My participation in The Workout made me very aware of my leadership skills by focusing on my personal strengths and recognizing those skills I need to work on. I’ve learned how to be a more effective leader [by] managing myself internally and managing my relationships [with] others.” While the planned curriculum was beneficial, many Sisters found their inspiration in a different source – each other! By attending The Workout, Sisters had the chance to network with peers from across the country. Chapters large and small, east and west, were represented at each of the four sessions. Imagine the number of creative ideas that were shared! And the week wasn’t just about recruitment. Sisters had the chance to contribute ideas ranging from aca-

Sisters who attended The Workout in Bloomington, Indiana, enjoyed a trip to Indianapolis and a tour of Fraternity Headquarters.

One highlight of this year’s Workout was “The Gift of Alpha Xi Delta,” a presentation by Ginny Carroll, Western Kentucky ’82, that explores the critical lessons we learn as Sisters that can’t be taught in any class. This gave Sisters plenty to talk about as they reflected on the skills they’ve gained through their Alpha Xi Delta membership.

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demic incentives to sisterhood event themes. Chapter presidents gathered to share best practices, and representatives from each chapter had the chance to sit down with a trainer for a oneon-one consultation to discuss their chapter’s strengths and challenges and draft a plan for success. Supporting our collegiate Sisters

“The National Fraternity is thrilled to offer recruitment skills training to so many collegiate Sisters. Through The Workout, we hope to provide Sisters an advantage that will help them on their journey toward real-

Sisters shopped for the latest Alpha Xi Delta merchandise in the Xi Boutique.

izing their potential.” Deanna Wollam Detchemendy National President throughout each experience were teams of Trainers – alumnae Sisters who volunteered their time and expertise to serve as role models to the next generation. “The best part of my Workout experience was seeing the collegians’ excitement and the belief in possibilities,” raved Jenny Greyerbiehl, Alma ’01, one of this year’s Workout trainers. “They were excited about making their chapters better using the knowledge and ideas they received. I am so proud to call each woman I met my Sister!” If you’re interested in realizing your chapter’s recruitment potential, submit an application to attend The Workout 2009. Details will be posted at www. alphaxidelta.org in January. Apply early because space is limited. Alumnae, if you’re interested in volunteering as a Workout trainer, contact Director of Membership Growth Gretchen DiMarco at gdimarco@alphaxidelta. org for details. A rousing “thank you” to the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation for its generous financial support of The Workout.

After their Workout, Sisters took time for their Cool Down – an exercise that helped them process each day’s activities.

Sisters attending the Fresno Workout participated in activities that built team unity. www.alphaxidelta.org

There’s a Job, and Then There’s Your Passion Traveling leadership staff gives back to Alpha Xi Delta while helping collegiate Sisters become their best.

uring the 2008-2009 academic year, six Educational Leadership Consultants (ELCs) are traveling to Alpha Xi Delta chapters across the country to educate, inspire, and help chapter officers and members create the most rewarding Fraternity experience possible. Two Leadership Coaches (LCs) are also traveling to our chapters to help collegiate Sisters develop leadership skills, emotional intelligence and career plans to propel them even further in life after college. These professional staff members, who are recent Alpha Xi Delta alumnae, received extensive training over the summer at Fraternity Headquarters. Here’s a little bit about these amazing women.

2008-2009 Educational Leadership Consultants Emmalie Krysl Chapter: Rho,

Nebraska Lincoln ’04

Fraternity Involvement: Membership

vice president, alumnae relations chair, social chair

Chapter: Theta Sigma, Central Florida ’04

Fraternity Involvement: Philanthropy

chair, historian, Recruitment Day chair, recording secretary

Degree: Early childhood education Chapters Working With: Beta Al-

pha (Texas) and Nu (U of Washington)

Awards: Who’s Who Among Col-

lege Students, Dean’s List, Orlando Area Panhellenic Alumnae Association scholarship, and Rho Lambda, Order of Omega and Golden Key honor societies

Won’t Leave Home Without: My

camera

Three Words that Describe Me: utgoing, caring, funny O

Samantha Solis Chapter: Gamma Zeta, Eastern Michigan ’04

Fraternity Involvement: Assistant mem-

manager, chapter life vice president, Founders’ Day committee, activities chair

Degree: Early childhood education Chapters Working With: Zeta Xi (Auburn), Pi (Ohio), Epsilon (South Dakota), Gamma Epsilon (Cal State Fresno)

Awards: Heart of Alpha Xi award, Miss Alpha Xi

Won’t Leave Home Without: My

cell phone

Three Words that Describe Me: S punky, driven, a believer

Heather Haroff Chapter: Zeta Xi, Auburn ’03

Fraternity Involvement: New member

orientation chair, Coaches Taste-off chair, Greek Sing chair, publicity chair, second-year ELC

Degree: Public relations Chapter Working With: Kappa

bership chair, philanthropy chair, activities chair, College Panhellenic Council president and vice president of external affairs

(Illinois)

Degree: Communications and marketing

camera

Awards: Dean’s List Won’t Leave Home Without: My

Chapter Working With: Theta

Three Words that Describe Me: utgoing, spontaneous, competitive O

Awards: EMU Greek Life’s Distin-

Laura Thompson

Omega (New Mexico State)

guished Individual Service Award, Greek Woman of the Year, and Gold Medallion awards from EMU Student Affairs for Outstanding Leadership by a Student and Outstanding Student Organization (College Panhellenic Council)

Chapter: Beta Sigma,

est Virginia Wesleyan W ’05

Fraternity Involvement: Membership vice

president, Panhellenic vice president

Degree: Elementary education with a

iPod® and Burt's Bees® Lip Balm

Won’t Leave Home Without: My

Degree: Art administration with a fine arts minor

Chapters Working With: Sigma

Three Words that Describe Me: P assionate, involved, a believer

Chapters Working With: Gamma

Star Salute Service Award, Rho Chapter Outstanding Service Award

Winter Hollingsworth

Awards: Who’s Who Among Col-

Won’t Leave Home Without: My

Chapter: Iota Delta,

concentration in fine arts

(Iowa) and Alpha Eta (Purdue)

Awards: Lincoln Public Schools Gold

Samantha Wells

“Good Luck Wishes” scrapbook

Central Oklahoma ’06

Three Words that Describe Me: L oving, musical, crafty

Fraternity Involvement: President, house

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Theta (East Tennessee State), Kappa (University of Illinois)

lege Students, Irish American Scholars Program

Won’t Leave Home Without: My

massive carry-on suitcase

Three Words that Describe Me: rtistic, a fashion fanatic, fun loving A

2008-2009 Leadership Coaches

Providing Support at Home

Margaret Lee

National Housing Corporation creates new Housing Facilitator role.

Chapter: Alpha Beta, Cornell ’05

Fraternity Involvement: Founding Sister

of the reestablished Alpha Beta Chapter, social chair, Panhellenic delegate, second-year LC

Degree: Hospitality management Chapters Working With: Zeta Xi

(Auburn), Gamma Theta (East Tennessee State), Epsilon (South Dakota), Alpha Kappa (Kansas State)

Won’t Leave Home Without: High

heels

Three Words that Describe Me: ccommodating, cheery, a dreamer A

ourteen new Housing Facilitators were recently appointed by the National Housing Corporation to guide, educate and provide support to local building corporations. These accomplished Sisters have served on local building corporations and possess extensive knowledge on everything from accounting to property management. The Housing Facilitators work with chapters in four territories, which mirror the territories covered by the Area Facilitator role within the Fraternity’s Volunteer Structure. Please join us in welcoming the following Sisters to the Housing team: Midwest Territory

Northeast Territory

Diane Caupp Parent, Indiana ‘90

Carrie White Gray, Elon ’94

Sheley Miller Peetz, Wisconsin Madison ’94

Marian Sayward West, Michigan ’45

Jenny Suitor Buckman, Lyon ’96

Jennifer Gerez Morin, Illinois ‘87

Marijon Chandler Lococo, Kentucky ’76

Mary Bershenyi Chapter: Alpha Kappa, Kansas State ’04

Fraternity Involvement: Chapter life vice

president, public relations vice president, historian, publicity chair, Panhellenic director of public relations

Degree: Double major in print journalism and advertising with a minor in leadership studies and programs Chapters Working With: Alpha Eta

(Purdue), Sigma (Iowa), Nu (U of Washington), Beta Alpha (Texas), Gamma Epsilon (Cal State Fresno)

Awards Received: Royal Purple

yearbook Reporter of the Year, Rho Lambda Greek Honor Society, Eisenhower Society

Won’t Leave Home Without: My

journal – perfect to document what is sure to be an amazing year!

Three Words that Describe Me: E nergetic, passionate, creative

West Territory

Southeast Territory

Kathy Moore Dwight, Texas ’70

Nancy Whittaker McCully, Florida State ’69

Michelle Wilson Richardson, Southwestern ’92

Sara Pullis Molnar, Ferris State ’64

Dinah Hutson, Texas ’98

Wendy Packan, Tennessee ’87 Val Wax Carr, Ohio Northern ’88 Karen Broetzman Valiquett, Michigan ’97

The Housing Facilitator Role in Brief ✱✱ Identify local alumnae to fill open corporation board positions ✱✱ Perform annual housing assessments with regard to interior design, risk management and campus competitiveness ✱✱ Develop and implement long-term goals for chapter housing issues such as sprinkler mandates, interior design planning and house renovation planning ✱✱ Help file federal, state and local financial documents ✱✱ Serve as a liaison between the National Housing Corporation and the local building corporation A building board is comprised of local volunteers who serve the corporation and chapter by handling and facilitating the day-to-day operations of the house, suite or lodge. The volunteer board handles preventive maintenance and the upkeep of the chapter house, manages finances and payroll, and helps with decorating and property remodeling when needed. www.alphaxidelta.org

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2 0 0 9 N at i o n a l C o n v e n t i o n i n D e n v e r , C o l o r a d o

Help Select our Next Governing Bodies Alpha Xi Delta’s Nominating Committee invites you to recommend women to serve on Alpha Xi Delta’s 2009-2011 National Council. From the recommendations made by individual members, college chapters and alumnae associations, the committee will prepare a slate of candidates for National Council offices to be voted on at our 2009 National Convention in Denver, Colorado. As the governing body of the Fraternity, National Council represents and acts for the Fraternity in all matters between meetings of the National Chapter. The 2009-2011 National Council will provide the leadership for our Fraternity to pursue its mission: to enrich the life of every Alpha Xi Delta. The National President and six National Vice Presidents make up the National Council. Members of the

current 2007-2009 National Council are: Deanna Wollam Detchemendy, National President, and National Vice Presidents Ann Ward Adams, Evonne Carawan, Sandi Edwards, Diane Curtis Gregory, Susan Eicher Mamber and Danica Vanasse Olson.

Who can serve on National Council? Under Alpha Xi Delta’s National Constitution, “No member may serve the same national office for more than two consecutive terms.” (Article 5, Section 5). National President Deanna Wollam Detchemendy will complete her first term as our National President, and consequently, is eligible to serve as National President for the 2009-2011 biennium. She also is eligible to serve

as a National Vice President. Two National Vice Presidents are ineligible to continue in that office, although each is eligible to serve as National President. These women are Ann Ward Adams and Diane Curtis Gregory. The other four National Vice Presidents are eligible to continue in their current positions, and each is eligible to serve as National President. These women are Evonne Carawan, Sandi Edwards, Sue Eicher Mamber and Danica Vanasse Olson.

Is anyone else eligible? In addition to current Council members as described, any alumna member is eligible to serve in any position of the National Council if she is in good standing. (Article V, Section 2). www.alphaxidelta.org

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Nominate a Sister for National Council, the Foundation Board of Trustees or the National Housing Corporation.

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What qualities and abilities are important to serve on National Council? The person you recommend should have outstanding ability in the following areas:  Leadership  Creative and visionary thinking  Communications (oral and written)  Understanding higher education and its issues  Teamwork  Professionalism  Envisioning the big picture  Previous board experience

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What are the responsibilities of Council officers?

The National President works with the National Council to develop the overall direction of the Fraternity within the framework of the National Constitution and Bylaws, and decides all points of Fraternity law, practice and procedure as may be presented to her. She also serves as a Trustee of the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation. National Vice Presidents work with the National President to provide leadership, oversight and guidance to the Fraternity as we seek to fulfill our vision of inspiring women to realize their potential and our mission to enrich the life of every Alpha Xi Delta. Powers and duties of the National Council may be found in Article IV, Section 2, Clause 1. Additional powers and duties of the National President may be found in Article IV, Section 3, Clause 1, and in the Bylaws, Article V, Section 4. If you need this information, call or email Fraternity Headquarters for a copy.

What is the time commitment for serving on National Council? All National Council officers attend three meetings each year, have monthly conference phone calls and may be asked to attend other meetings as deemed appropriate, and to visit college chapters. Between meetings and conference phone calls, business is conducted by email.

How do I make a recommendation? Complete the Recommendation Form for 2009-2011 National Council. The form may be downloaded from the Fraternity’s website, photocopied or you may ask Fraternity Headquarters for a copy of the form by phone at 317.872.3500 or at fhq@alphaxidelta.org. Return each completed recommendation form to Dorothy Sheldon Williams at 3906 Tyndrum Drive, Durham, NC 27705. If you have any questions about making a recommendation or the nomination and election process, please contact Dorothy at Dorothy.williams@duke.edu or by voice mail at 317.872.3500 ext. 250. Recommendations must be received by February 15, 2009.

What happens after recommendations are made? The Nominating Committee will review all recommendations received by February 15 and obtain resumes. They will prepare a slate of the candidates they believe are best qualified to fulfill

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the responsibilities and meet the challenges of the various offices for the 2009-20011 biennium. By late April, the slate and resumes of the candidates will be sent to those eligible to vote at the 2009 National Convention.

Can nominations be made after the slate has been sent? A person who has not been slated and wishes to be considered for a National Council office may submit her name in writing (with a resume) to the Nominating Committee. She must do so within 21 days of the mailing of the slate. The Nominating Committee will verify the eligibility of each such nominee and distribute the resume(s) to all who are eligible to vote at Convention. There will be no nominations from the floor.

Who is on the Nominating Committee? Three alumnae and one collegian have been appointed to serve with Dorothy Sheldon Williams, Western Carolina ’70, the Nominating Committee Chair: Krizia Arias, Florida International ’06, Betsy King Helber, Mount Union ’84, Erin Lewis, Ohio ’05, and Megan McGowen, Cal State Northridge ’91.

2009-2013 National Foundation Trustees Baumback, Ellen Gibson Goodwin, Mary Ruth Hadley Snyder and Cheryl Johnson Weldon.

What are the Trustees’ responsibilities? Foundation Trustees are responsible for managing resources wisely, ensuring adequate resources, monitoring programs and services for consistency with our vision and goals, and enhancing Alpha Xi Delta’s public image. Trustees establish prudent investment philosophies, policies and practices; approve and monitor the budget; and identify, cultivate and steward donors. Trustees are expected to be pace-setting contributors or fund-raisers and join The Society of 1893 (planned giving society) during their tenure.

How much time is involved? Foundation Trustees attend the annual meeting and represent the Foundation

in at least one development event per year. Trustees serve on a maximum of two Foundation committees, which are Audit, Development, Executive, Finance, Grants and Awards, and Scholarships. The work of these committees is facilitated by email and phone conferencing.

How do I make a recommendation? Complete the Recommendation Form for 2009-2013 Foundation Trustees. The form may be downloaded from www.alphaxidelta.org, or you may contact Fraternity Headquarters to ask for a form. Return each completed recommendation form to Foundation Nominating Committee Chair Becky Druetzler. If you have questions about a recommendation or the nomination and election processes, please contact Becky Druetzler at 9505 Hadway Drive, Indianapolis, IN 46256 or bdruetzl@butler.edu. Foundation Trustee recommendations must be received by February 15, 2009.

2009-2011 National Housing Corporation Are you interested in gaining a national perspective on our Fraternity, working with Alpha Xi Delta’s National Council, and providing safe, well-maintained housing for our collegiate Sisters? If so, the National Housing Corporation is looking for you! The NHC is seeking five strong, passionate leaders to serve on its board of directors for a two-year term beginning July 1, 2009. NHC directors work in conjunction with National Council on housing-related issues and support the NHC’s mission: to strive for competitive, safe, properly maintained and financially secure chapter housing.

What qualifications are needed to be on the NHC board? Nominees should be creative thinkers with a good business sense who understand the needs of today’s college woman. She must be responsible, work well individually and in a group, have strong written and verbal communication skills, and be committed to perpetuate Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity. Nominees should also have experience/expertise in one of the following areas: fund raising, accounting, finance, banking, real estate, law,

strategic planning, property management, construction, interior design, engineering, recruitment, public relations, or Greek/student housing operations. Nominees must have served or currently serve on a local building corporation board, chapter advisory board or in another Alpha Xi Delta volunteer role. www.alphaxidelta.org

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The Nominating Committee of the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation asks for your recommendations for Trustees to serve for the 2009-2013 term. Successful candidates will have experience in board service, community leadership, public relations, finance or fund raising; be able to open doors and influence donors; and embrace Alpha Xi Delta’s vision and mission. Consider your recommendations carefully so we can present a slate of women most capable of leading the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation in the 2009-2013 term. The Foundation bylaws state: Four Trustees shall be elected by a majority vote of the delegates at the National Convention of the Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity from a single slate prepared by the Foundation Nominating Committee appointed by the Executive Committee of the Foundation. The four elected Trustees shall serve for a term of four years, thus maintaining a board of eight elected Trustees at all times. Trustees completing the 2005-2009 term are: Janice Sheldon

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How do I make a recommendation? An application and further information about the NHC board position can be found at www.alphaxidelta. org. Nominations may be submitted by a sponsor or individuals may nominate themselves. If you have questions or need an application mailed to you, please contact Julie Dillon, NHC Nominating Committee Chair, at axd84@aol.com. Applications must be received by February 1, 2009.

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Proposed Amendments to Alpha Xi Delta’s Constitution

The Alpha Xi Delta National Chapter may amend the National Constitution when deemed advisable. As stated in Article XIII, Section 1, “This Constitution may be amended by a two-thirds (2/3) vote of the National Chapter.” All proposed amendments are voted on at the National Convention held immedi-

ately following their proposal. An amendment may be sponsored by any of the following: a college chapter, an alumnae association, the Constitution Committee, National Council, a member of National Council or a Past National President.

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The proposed amendment should state in which article and section it is to be placed, and it should be stated in language appropriate to the Constitution. If the proposed amendment conflicts with an existing statement, the sponsor(s) is responsible for proposing additional amendments to resolve the conflict, or the proposal will be void. If two proposals conflict with each other, the National Chapter at Convention may vote to accept only one of the proposals or it may vote to reject both. A proposed amendment to the Constitution must be submitted to the National Executive Director so that it is received by February 1, 2009, for it to be considered at the 2009 National Convention.

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Woman of Distinction Awards Nominate a deserving Sister for the Fraternity’s highest alumna award. The Woman of Distinction Award recognizes alumnae who exhibit excellence and extraordinary leadership in their professions and careers or in service to their communities. Nominees should be widely recognized within their field of service to be considered for this award. Past recipients include a CEO of a Fortune 500 company, an astronaut, a national political correspondent, a congressional leader, a Navy rear admiral and a university president. Any Alpha Xi Delta alumna in good standing is eligible to receive this award. Nominees need not be current members of an organized alumnae association. Nominations may be made by: • Individuals • College chapters • Alumnae associations • Advisory boards • Housing corporations

Susan Winckler, Iowa ’88 Acting chief of staff, U.S. Food and Drug Administration 2007 Woman of Distinction

Marianne “Mimi” Blackburn Drew, U of Washington ’64 Rear admiral, U.S. Navy 2001 Woman of Distinction

Woman of Distinction award recipients will be honored at Alpha Xi Delta’s 2009 National Convention in Denver. Visit www.alphaxidelta.org to download the application, or call Fraternity Headquarters to have an appliation mailed to you. Please mail, email (fhq@alphaxidelta.

Karen Tumulty, Texas ’75 Time political correspondent 1995 Woman of Distinction

org) or fax (317.872.2947) nomination forms to Fraternity Headquarters. Nominations must be received at Fraternity Headquarters by January 15, 2009. If you have questions about the award or the nomination process, please contact Kendra Lewis at klewis@alphaxidelta.org or 317.872.3500 ext. 117.

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Ready to Explore, Discover and Realize?

Get ready for the time of your life at Convention 2009 in Denver! The Rocky Mountains of Colorado are the perfect backdrop for exploring new skills, discovering your talents and realizing just how great it is to be an Alpha Xi Delta! Here’s what’s in store for you during National Convention this summer in Denver. Wednesday, June 24 – Welcome, Sisters!

The first day of Convention is an exciting time for Sisters who are just meeting as well as those who are reuniting for the 20th time! Our journey kicks off with a spirited Welcome Banquet and the 2009 Woman of Distinction awards presentation.

Thursday, June 25 – Explore New Things

Today’s educational programs will help you build skills that can immediately be put to use in your Fraternity, personal and professional life. Highlights include exploring new ideas as well as our Sisterhood.

Friday, June 26 – Discover Our Strengths

During any journey, you learn a great deal about yourself and the world. Convention 2009 will be no different. Today’s highlights include free time to explore our host city with friends old and new.

Saturday, June 27 – Realize Our Potential

Celebrate Alpha Xi Delta as we shine the spotlight on the unique programs and valuable resources available to Sisters. We’ll also recognzie Sisters’ achievements at the Rose Banquet dinner and awards presentation.

Learn more about Convention on the Fraternity’s website. See you in Denver! The Quill of Alpha Xi Delta | Fall/Winter 2008

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Panhellenic Is There Greek Life After College? Stay active and involved in the Greek community by joining an Alumnae Panhellenic Association. Here are a few of the benefits you’ll receive by joining an Alumnae Panhellenic:

By Nancy Fehrmann Gainer, Iowa State ‘69 NPC 3rd Alternate Delegate

• A wider circle of friends

he natural next step for any sorority woman after college is to join her local Alpha Xi Delta alumnae group in addition to an Alumnae Panhellenic Association (APH). (Don’t worry. If you’ve been out of college for a while, joining an association is still a great thing to do…and you’ll meet lots of women your age!) Joining an Alumnae Panhellenic, which is different from but just as valuable as joining an Alpha Xi Delta alumnae association, gives fraternity women the chance to come together and promote the advantages of joining a women’s fraternity. Members of APH groups work together toward common goals to make a difference in their communities.

Who can join an Alumnae Panhellenic? Any alumnae member of one of the 26 women’s fraternities that are part of the National Panhellenic Conference. You don’t need to belong to an Alpha Xi Delta alumnae association to join an APH.

Where are Alumnae Panhellenics located? More than 200 associations exist in the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom. Find an association in your area or learn how to start one by visiting the Alumnae Panhellenic section of www.npcwomen.org.

• The ability to network and tap into job opportunities and social events • Greater greater confidence by mentoring/being mentored by colleagues and peers • An increased awareness of issues that affect women • The chance to increase national awareness of our Fraternity • Maintaining your connection with Greek life • A chance to help college chapters with recruitment • The distinction of being one of more than 5,000 passionate women who are creating opportunities for young women to reach their potential, stronger communication, leadership and program-development skills

What do Alumnae Panhellenics do? Associations make significant contributions to universities and their communities through philanthropic events, community service activities and information forums. For example, the Atlanta APH sponsors a recruitment roundtable to educate young women about Greek life and how membership leads to personal growth and excellence. Nearly 300 young women and their parents attend this annual event. Raising money for scholarships continues to be a significant service provided by Alumnae Panhellenic groups. Collectively, $435,000 was raised last year and granted in scholarships to 580 deserving women. Here are just a few of the fun, creative ways Alumnae Panhellenics raised money to help young women further their education: • Colorado Springs, Colorado, alumnae raised scholarship dollars through their “Poinsettias for Scholarships” sale and an American Girl Fashion Show and Tea • Clear Lake, Texas, alumnae held a “Divas’ Day Out” style show and luncheon, raising nearly $25,000 in scholarship money • Houston, Texas, alumnae raised hundreds of dollars by producing and selling a cookbook

Sisters, consider joining your local Alumnae

Michele Herbst Evink – mevink@iowatelecom.net

Panhellenic Association or be a founder of a

Jane Hooper Sutton – jhsutton@juno.com

new APH. They’re where lasting friendships

Erin Macdonald Peck – erinm@bresnan.net

and memories are made! If you have further questions, please contact one of Alpha Xi Delta’s NPC delegation members:

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Nancy Fehrmann Gainer – nolefan59@aol.com

Guest Columnist Taking the “Work” out of Networking

How to apply the skills learned during recruitment to your life and career today. By Terri Limehouse Herren, Newberry ‘69

hile I thoroughly enjoyed planning for and participating in Alpha Xi Delta’s rush process, I never considered how the experiences could be advantageous to my career. Recruitment success can be attributed to effectively reaching out and connecting to the right people. Networking can produce effective business results by reaching out and connecting to the right people! For many in the business world, networking is considered a necessary evil. They realize it’s something they should do to create more business opportunities, yet they aren’t totally comfortable with networking or fully understand now to network. They marvel at those who seem to go about it effortlessly, almost as though it’s not work at all. While I know of no statistics to prove it, I strongly suspect that those with prior recruitment experience generally appreciate and maybe even enjoy networking. Several years ago I became disillusioned and wanted to uncover the secret of being more engaged in my profession. I contacted the best person I knew in the profession and got on her calendar for lunch. After that meeting, this wellconnected woman connected me with others in her network, providing me with professional growth opportunities. Now, doing the same for others is a great source of satisfaction for me. The key to being a good networker is the willingness to help others succeed. Networking appears to come more naturally to men. The rules of work were written by men years before women

were represented in the business world. It may be that men are more comfortable than women because they’ve been networking longer and understand the rules of engagement. Typically, when I call a man to set up a business meeting, he immediately knows the purpose of my call. We meet and talk primarily about business, and he asks how he can help. It’s business. Typically, when I first meet with another woman, we talk about how we’re doing in our lives. It’s almost as if we’re uncom-

and network. While I realized I had developed connections with others, I had not considered it a major advantage. In analyzing this, it occurred to me that my best networking results were associated with things about which I was most passionate. To be successful at networking, start with your passion. If you’re passionate about animals, volunteer to serve on the board of the local humane society. If your passion is in the arts, look into leadership opportunities at your com-

Terri Limehouse Herren, president of The Herren Dimension, has 30 years’ experience in organizational and human resources development. A business expertise and passion of Terri’s is helping companies develop and advance women’s leadership programs. Terri can be contacted at terri@theherrendimension.com or through her website, www.theherrendimension.com.

fortable admitting the reason we’re getting together is to become more successful business people! When we become comfortable, we talk about business. After we develop a relationship, we talk about ways to help each other. It’s a relationship involving business. As with rush, a major advantage of networking for men and women is the friendships that develop. In the business world, people often meet others and bond with those who have common interests and an understanding of their working challenges. These people become great sources for collaboration, advice and empathy. When I started my business, people readily said I should be successful because of the depth of my experience

munity theater, art museum or symphony. You’ll meet other business people who share your passion and will connect you with others. Successful business people, like sorority Sisters, enjoy associating with those who share their energy, optimism and enthusiasm. Look for opportunities to connect with other positive people. Use the connecting skills you developed during sorority rush. Share networks. Have fun. The end result is netting without the work. Sisters, do you have a career-related question you’d like Terri to answer? Please send it to the Editor at rgoodman@alphaxidelta. org. Terri will answer as many as possible in upcoming issues of The Quill. www.alphaxidelta.org

From Sister to Sister

Finding My Life After Almost Losing It don’t know what you’re talking about.” In treatment, I realized what she was trying to tell me. I didn’t want to listen. graduated from the University of Denial is a powerful tool. North Carolina-Wilmington in July 2006. After completing my treatment proI got an unpaid internship at Lowe’s Mogram, I received a job offer at the headtor Speedway near Charlotte in Septemquarters of a grocery store chain in ber 2006. The next month, I started treatGreensboro. I thought it would be great! ment for anorexia nervosa. It was a marketing job. How could I turn The pressure I was under from that it down? I wish I had. Having my boss tell last year of college had surfaced, and me to my face that I disappointed her and the only way I knew how to cope was to that I couldn’t do anything right put me control my weight. I couldn’t control a back into my old habits. job finding me or the pressure I got from Things were not good at home either. friends and family. I felt like I couldn’t The bills began piling up. My family was control the direction my life was going hounding me. I felt I just couldn’t get it together. I couldn’t please anyone. I didn’t want to please myself, just everyone around me. My weight dropped significantly. I began running, playing tennis, going to the gym, doing sit-ups and pushups in my room, and obsessing about how much I walked. I did anything to get my mind off food, my problems and me. “I’m finally living my life and loving every minute of it,” said Emily, I had another intervenwho traveled to Europe to gain perspective and regain her sense tion for my anorexia from of self. my family in October 2007. either. The past three years have been I was put in a hospital in Arizona that the hardest I’ve ever gone through, yet works specifically with people with eatthe most inspiring. ing disorders. I didn’t see my family, I went into treatment for anorexia friends or boyfriend for six months, exnervosa in Chapel-Hill. Prior to that cept for the week I saw my parents and time, my Sisters had already noticed sister for an intensive family therapy sesmy dramatic weight loss. I stayed with sion. Three 15-minute phone calls a week my Big Sister one weekend and she didn’t cut it either. Many tears were shed. started crying, telling me how worried I wanted to go home, I wanted to die. I’m she was about me. “What?” I said. “You so glad I stayed. By Emily Fry, North Carolina Wilmington ‘02

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Emily Fry at her college graduation, prior to receiving treatment for “this ferocious and deadly disease” – anorexia nervosa.

While in Arizona I received letters from Sisters I didn’t even know. Letters even came in from Zeta Chi new members. I cried more, but these were different tears. These young women didn’t even know me, yet they knew how to help my wounded soul. Our Sisterhood is very powerful. I value each of these women and I am proud to call them my Sisters. I came home in April of this year and received the best gift my boyfriend could ever give. He started a nonprofit foundation in my name, the Emily Fry Foundation for Eating Disorders. Helping others who suffer with this ferocious and deadly disease and raising people’s awareness brings so much meaning into my life. This summer I took a trip to Italy and Greece to gain more independence and explore who I really am. I moved to Raleigh and found work. My life is finally coming together. I’m finally becoming who I’m supposed to become! Connect with Emily at emilyvictoria2006@gmail.com or 919.924.4896. For information on eating disorders, visit www.nationaleatingdisorders.org Do you have a message you’d like to share, “From Sister to Sister”? This new forum is where you can. Send your story (maximum 600 words) to the Editor for future consideration/use.

Changes to Quill Submission Deadlines Please note that submission deadline dates for The Quill changed over the summer: You can continue to submit news and Spring issue: August 15 photos online or send them to the Summer issue: April 1 Fall/winter issue: December 1 Quill Editor at Fraternity Headquarters.

Kappa’s Back Alpha Xi Delta welcomed nearly 130 women into our Sisterhood when Kappa Chapter was recolonized this fall at the University of Illinois. This group of remarkable young women, which includes four legacies, was hand-selected from more than 200 collegians interviewed. Regarding housing, Alpha Xi Delta will lease the Phi Sigma Kappa Fraternity chapter house at 1004 S. Second Street in Champaign for the next five years. During the 2008-2009 academic year, Alpha Xi Delta will rent the first floor common areas of the house. Colony members will use this space for meetings, sisterhood events and as a general gathering place. Sisters will move into the house, which can sleep 57, in August 2009.

Position Change Barbara Boland Stuckwisch, Culver-Stockton ’93, resigned her position as Alpha Xi Delta’s National Executive Director, a position she held from August 2006 to March of this year. Barbara is now serving as executive director and head of school at Community Montessori School, a private elementary school in Fishers, Indiana. During Barbara’s tenure the Fraternity underwent a major visual identity redesign of its printed materials and website, revised its strategic planning process, and established the Leadership Coach program to benefit collegiate members through the generosity of the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation. Two chapters were also installed: Iota Nu Chapter at Monmouth University and Iota Xi at Worcester Institute of Technology. The Fraternity, Foundation and National Housing Corporation thank Barbara for her outstanding service.

Get the Latest Fraternity News An RSS feed has been added to the Fraternity website that will automatically send you Alpha Xi Delta news updates. To subscribe, click on the orange icon at the bottom of the page and choose how you want to receive your updates.

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Here are a few of the story ideas we’re exploring for future issues. Contact the Never settle: Editor if you want to take part or provide other story ideas. • Are you a pet owner? Send us a photo of you and your pet(s), which will be used alongside our upcoming feature on Sisters who work with animals. • What are you doing during spring break? If you’re taking an alternative break, let us know where you’re going and what you’ll be doing. • Did/does your chapter have a house mom? Share stories and photos of these wonderful women for our upcoming tribute. • Are you going to Denver for National Convention? We need alumnae and collegians to be on-the-scene reporters and share their Convention experiences. • Help us help others as we examine domestic violence and abuse. If you are/have been in an abusive relationship and want to share your story, please contact us. Your name can be kept confidential. If you’re a professional who can serve as a subject matter expert, we want to hear from you. • We’ve heard from Sisters who have weathered the recent hurricanes, floods and tornadoes. If you have a story to share, let us know. A be at m hind-t embe he-sce ne r se lect s look ion

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New Alumnae Associations Formed The following alumnae associations are looking for new members! Contact the Sisters below to learn more. Miami, Florida

Monica Borcegue

4310 SW 104th Ave, Miami, FL 33165

305.528.5309

BrattyMissMonica@aol.com

Treasure Valley, Idaho

Katrina Clifford

2994 W. Lost Rapids Dr, Meridian, ID 83646

208.631.6422

trinaclifford@gmail.com

Chicago Northwest Suburban

Deb Keyes

4281 N. Cottonwood Tr., Hoffman Estates, IL 60192

847.991.3205

axiddeb@gmail.com

Southern Maine

Kristin Lewis

37 Malilly Rd, Portland, ME 04103

207.415.7971

maineaphaxialums@gmail.com

Greater Worcester, Massachusetts

Stefani Magnino Holmes

2 Brittany Rd, South Hadley, MA 01075

413.532.1148

stefalphaxidelta@comcast.net

Central and Southern New Jersey

Jennifer O’Donnell

139 Hawthorne Dr, Mt. Holly, NJ 08060

Albuquerque, New Mexico

Mink Price

170 Big Sky Ave, Los Lunas, NM 87031

505.565.0617

minkprice@yahoo.com

Salt Lake City, Utah

Delia Bayna

1819 N. Silverwood Dr, Farmingon, UT 84025

801.447.4270

imdelia@hotmail.com

csalphaxinj@hotmail.com

If you live in the Sacramento, California, area and are interested in forming an alumnae association, please contact Annie Hallsten at ahallste@stetson.edu. www.alphaxidelta.org

Fraternity Life

How ’bout a Little “Girl Time”? S Twelve fun ways for alumnae to connect/reconnect with Alpha Xi Delta. By Julie Wilson Dillon, Illinois ‘84 National Alumnae Director

ince your college graduation, how often have you thought about Alpha Xi Delta? When was the last time you talked with a chapter sister? Have you thought about what “Alpha Xi Delta for a Lifetime” really means? Whether you are the CEO of a major

Have you visited Alpha Xi Delta’s website, www. alphaxidelta.org, lately? If not, you’re in for a surprise! The website has been updated and reorganized so information is easier to find and the site is easier to use. Take some time to reacquaint yourself with the site – especially the new “Alumnae” section.

Alumnae whose current email address is on file at Fraternity Headquarters automatically receive an Alumnae eNewsletter. The quarterly eNewsletter is packed with women’s issues, NPC updates and Alpha Xi Delta information. The Alumnae eNewsletters began this year, so if you didn’t receive the April, July or October 2008 Alumnae eNewsletters you can update your email address at the “Update Your Information” link in the upper righthand corner of the Fraternity’s website homepage to receive future issues.

corporation, a busy stay-at-home mom, a recent graduate, a retiree, or somewhere in between, Alpha Xi Delta is still relevant to your life today. Below are 12 sure-fire ways to create an alumnae experience by getting involved, connected and inspired by our Fraternity.

The National Panhellenic Conference offers a network of Alumnae Panhellenics across the country to promote a panhellenic spirit in local communities. Read more about Alumnae Panhellenics on page X of this issue.

Our new Bridges program, which “bridges” the transition from collegian to alumna member, is for Sisters during their collegiate senior year. The program helps them explore their unique role within the chapter and identify their future role within our Fraternity. The program is facilitated at our chapters by local alumnae. To learn more about Bridges and to help present this program to our collegiate women, contact the Assistant Director of Alumnae Development.

Through inCircle, the Fraternity’s online social networking site, thousands of Sisters are connecting, reconnecting, chatting and meeting other Alpha Xi Delta alumnae with similar interests. Alpha Xi Delta’s inCircle network is a safe, secure site that is FREE to alumnae. Join the conversation by registering at www.alphaxidelta.affinitycircles.com or click the “inCircle” link in the upper righthand corner on the Alpha Xi Delta homepage.

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As a volunteer-based organization, our Alumnae Volunteer Network offers opportunities for Fraternity involvement at the local, territory and national levels. The “Volunteer Opportunities” section of www.alphaxidelta.org provides a listing of available positions, as well as ways to be involved on shortterm projects too. If you’re interested in volunteering for the Fraternity, complete the online Volunteer Interest Form, or contact a member of the National Alumnae Team.

Potential New Member Profiles from alumnae are invaluable for introducing potential new members to our college chapters for recruitment. PNM profiles are necessary, even for an Alpha Xi Delta legacy, so our chapter members know when a special woman is on their campus during recruitment time. The PNM Profile can be completed online or sent in the mail. Profile information can be found on the Fraternity’s website or in the summer issue of The Quill.

Alumnae Associations are groups of women in communities across the country who get together regularly to promote Alpha Xi Delta sisterhood. Each association is unique in its focus and mission. Associations range from five to 105 women and vary in their efforts – from social-only groups to do-it-all groups that focus on chapter support, philanthropy, social activities, networking and more! Some associations have one or more subgroups that cater to the needs of a specific demographic, such as a New Moms Group, a Runners Group or a Knitting Group. Joining an alumnae association is a great way to stay connected with Alpha Xi Delta, meet Sisters in a new city and network with Sisters from various chapters. A list of associations is available in the Alumnae section of the Fraternity’s website, or you can contact your Territory Alumnae Director for more information. If there currently is not an alumnae association in your community, contact the National Alumnae Extension Chair or the Assistant Director of Alumnae Development to learn more about how to start one!

Alpha Xi Delta’s Alumna Initiate program extends Alpha Xi Delta membership to family members, friends and women leaders in your community who are past their college years yet would make wonderful Sisters. For more information, visit the Alumnae section of the Fraternity’s website.

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Did you know that alumnae are eligible for scholarships and grants from the Alpha Xi Delta Foundation? You can apply for funds to go back to school or to attend a noncredit conference/program/seminar for personal or professional development. Applications can be found in the Alumnae section of the Fraternity’s website.

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Check out Alpha Xi Delta’s newest program, Xi Traveler, which offers Sisters the opportunity to travel together to exciting international and domestic destinations. Learn more about these fabulous excursions in the Alumnae section of the Fraternity’s website.

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Alpha Xi Delta loves when Sisters get together! Whether it’s a local/state Founders’ Day Celebration, a reunion during homecoming or at Alpha Xi Delta’s National Convention, the Fraternity can help you spread the word about your event by posting it on the website’s Fraternity Events Calendar. Go to the Alumnae section of www.alphaxidelta.org to post your event.

These are just 12 ways that Alpha Xi Delta can be a relevant part of your alumnae experience. Today’s Alpha Xi Delta may be different from what you remember from your college years, but rest assured our Fraternity’s vision, mission and values remain the same as those created by our 10 Founders. Alpha Xi Delta can inspire you in so many ways. The next time someone asks if you were in a sorority in college, don’t say you were an Alpha Xi Delta. Instead, respond with pride: “Yes, I am an Alpha Xi Delta!”

Where to Find out More Learn more about any of these 12 opportunities by contacting a member of the Fraternity’s National Alumnae Team. National Alumnae Director Julie Dillon 773.875.6769 alphaxi84@gmail.com Assistant Director of Alumnae Development Sara Konopka 317.872.3500 ext. 116 skonopka@alphaxidelta.org National Alumnae Extension Chair Heather Lerch 609.647.5651 AlphaXiAlum@verizon.net Territory Alumnae Director Northeast Jill Potts 508.339.3202 jillpotts@comcast.net Territory Alumnae Director Southeast Sarah Rochford 615.385.7087 sarahrochford@yahoo.com Territory Alumnae Director Midwest Julie Holmes 319.936.1603 imadncr2@yahoo.com Territory Alumnae Director - West Julie Lindsay 916.608.9742 julie@sjclindsay.com

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Member News ALABAMA Zeta Xi, Auburn University During Zeta Xi’s seventh annual Coaches Taste-Off, coaches, students, alumnae and members of the community helped the chapter raise nearly $24,000 in just over four hours. All proceeds from the event were donated to Lee County’s Partnership for Children, which helps provide daycare for low-income working families. Auburn football coaches grilled ribs using their special sauce recipes, and the ribs were later judged and auctioned to the

Omaha Alumnae Association | Cheryl Miller, Jen Baber, Jane Eidam Schauss and other association members purchased $500 worth of books for local schoolchildren as part of their Read-A-Book philanthropy project. Nameplates were affixed in each book for the name of the child, the donor and our Fraternity.—Jen Finnerty

highest bidder. The Taste-Off had both live and silent auctions that included items such as signed footballs and basketballs, Auburn memorabilia, gift baskets from local businesses and a weekend beach package. Event attendees enjoyed a barbecue lunch catered by Country’s Barbecue, and the kids had fun at the moon bounce house and the face-painting booth.

Southern Maine | Epsilon Rho Sisters carved pumpkins for Camp Sunshine’s annual Pumpkin Fest, which raises money to help terminally ill children and their families attend the camp in Casco, Maine.—Elisabelle Bocal, elisabelle_bocal@yahoo.com

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socialize while supporting Alpha Xi Delta and the local Boys and Girls Club. The chapter collected more than 1,000 items at their school supplies drive, put them in backpacks and donated them to impoverished children in the community. The chapter’s hard work was recognized at the annual Panhellenic/IFC Awards Banquet. Omega won a new award named after a late Phi Sigma Kappa, Scott Miller, for the most money raised during the year. The chapter also won an award for Highest New Member GPA and the university’s Legacy Cup, which goes to the sorority whose alumnae donated the most money during the academic year. Robyn Mike-Mayer received Zeta Tau Alpha sorority’s Intramural Award, Chapter Advisor Pam Barkman was named Greek Advisor of the Year, and 2007 chapter president Anneliese

Phoenix Alumnae Association | Margaret (Peg) Wilson Van Winkle Schweibert, Cornell ’33, received the Order of the Diamond pin and award recognition for 75 years of membership in Alpha Xi Delta.—Bobbie Rauch, rrauch@cox.net

Hallsten won the Panhellenic Greek Woman of the Year award.— Annie Hallsten, ahallste@stetson.edu Theta Omicron, Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University Sisters welcomed 11 new members into the chapter during fall

COLORADO

recruitment. Later in the semester, the chapter held its annual

Denver Alumnae Association

campus-wide Penny Wars fund-raiser. At the end of the week, the

Active participation in the Denver Area Panhellenic is an important

organization with the most points received a dinner cooked by the

part of the association’s calendar of activities and projects.

women of Theta Omicron. This year’s event raised more than $1,600

Representatives and alternates for this year were Cindy Gray

for child-related charities.—Tess Doeffinger, doeffint@erau.edu

Bowers, Diane Andrich and Floy von Groenawald Senior. The collection of items for New Garments Always (formerly the

Theta Sigma, University of Central Florida

Needlework Guild) will be part of the Area Panhellenic’s January

The chapter held its annual Xi Man fund-raiser, which included

meeting, and members will participate in the Phantom Tea, which

10 gentlemen from 10 different fraternities competing to win the

provides scholarships for Greek women attending Colorado

coveted title of Alpha Xi Delta’s Xi Man. Sisters hosted a barbecue

universities and colleges. Special events, such as the President’s

and a supply drive, as well as the pageant, to raise money for

Tea and the Awards Luncheon, are also important parts of the

Orlando’s BETA Center. Austin Purvis of Theta Chi Fraternity

yearly calendar.

raised more than $2,000 and was this year’s winner. With the

Recognized at this year’s Awards Luncheon were Alumnae Achievement Award nominee Sally Cline-Beerman and Woman of the Year Award nominee Floy Senior; Diane Andrich received the Spirit Award.

help of the competing fraternities, Sisters were able to donate $7,000 to the center. The chapter was paired with the men of Lambda Chi Alpha Fraternity during UCF’s Greek Week competition and placed sec-

A 100th anniversary gala was held this year for the Denver

ond in the dance competition, third overall in the Greek games,

Area Panhellenic. Attending the celebration were Diane Andrich,

and captured a special spirit award for overall participation and

Cindy Bowers, Jill Shafer Kelley, Dee Stutz Frazier and Floy

enthusiasm. House Director Judith Adams, affectionately referred

Senior.—Barbara Nelson Stover, barbstover@comcast.net

to as Mom Judy, was named UCF’s House Mother of the Year based on the praise and recommendation letters submitted by

FLORIDA Omega, Stetson University

Sisters.—Heather Robbins, Miata14359@aol.com

Omega held a Choose Children 5K Walk/Run, which brought

GEORGIA

together students, alumni, faculty, staff, and community

Zeta Omega, State University of West Georgia

members, to raise awareness and funds for local charities.

For the fourth year in a row, a Zeta Omega Sister was crowned

Sisters also hosted a Pizzapalooza where students could eat and

Greek Goddess during Greek Week. As a whole, the chapter won

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Greek Week for the second year in a row and was named Most Spirited. Zeta Omega was also recognized for receiving top grades among all National Panhellenic Conference chapters on campus. During fall recruitment, the chapter pledged 38 new members. In fall 2009, Sisters will move into their new 20-bed chapter house.—Amanda Hackney, ahackney54@yahoo.com, and Michaela Boggs, mboggs2@my.westga.edu

IDAHO Epsilon Psi, Boise State University At this year’s Greek Awards Dinner, Alpha Xi Delta was named Greek Organization of the Year for its outstanding fund-raisers

Auburn | Sisters at Auburn raised nearly $24,000 during their

and philanthropy service work, both on campus and in the

annual Coaches Taste-Off. The tasty ribs, prepared by Coach Dunn, pictured, won second place.

community. Epsilon Psi was also recognized for having the highest Greek GPA on campus, and membership vice president Devin Laky was named Greek Woman of the Year.—Tawnee Haber, tawneehaber@boisestate.edu Iota Kappa, Idaho State University Sisters welcomed five new members into the chapter and received the following awards at the Greek Awards Banquet: Outstanding Community Service, Highest Chapter GPA, Greek Woman of the Year and New Member of the Year. Sisters raised money for First Book through their Quarter the Quad event. Because of its success, Sisters plan to hold the event every other year. The chapter gave back to the community by participating in the Take Back the Night walk to raise awareness of and support for those who have been victims of domestic or

West Virginia Wesleyan | Sisters raised funds to help children and their mothers at Women’s Aid in Crisis by “Xi-Sawing” for 24 straight hours.—Carlee Gault, gault_cr@wvwc.edu

sexual violence.—Kristen Williams, willkri3@isu.edu

LOUISIANA Delta Epsilon, University of New Orleans Delta Epsilon won “Most Talented Sorority” in the Lambda Chi Alpha Sorority Showcase Talent Competition benefiting the North American Food Drive. The chapter won first place in the Solo Performance, and placed first and second in the Small Group Performance. Sister Vittoria Soleto received campus recognition as Outstanding Greek Scholar of the Year.—Lindsey Jones, lljones@uno.edu

MARYLAND Theta Delta, Towson University The chapter had many achievements over the year, including

North Carolina Wilmington | S isters and the men of Delta Chi Fraternity co-hosted the Kelp Classic surf contest at Wrightsville Beach. The contest raised $6,100 for the Pediatric AIDS Foundation and The V Foundation, which supports cancer research.—Corey Woodard, cmw3126@uncw.edu

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placing second overall in Greek Week and winning the President’s Cup. Theta Delta was also recognized as having the Best Recruitment Chair, being Most Involved on Campus and being Most Valuable Chapter on Campus.—Stephanie Colao, scolao1@ towson.edu

Chesapeake Alumnae Association Sisters interested in getting involved with the association can contact Janet White at janetgwhite@ comcast.net.

MASSACHUSETTS Iota Xi, Worcester Polytechnic Institute At the Greek Awards banquet, the chapter received the Outstanding Educational Programming award and an honorable mention for Outstanding Academic Support, Leadership and Public Relations. The housing corporation board worked hard to help the chapter buy its first house, which currently sleeps seven Sisters and will sleep up to 12 in the future. Sisters are raising funds to help finance its purchase and pay for necessary renovations. For alumnae in the area, Iota Xi alumnae recently created the Worcester Alumnae Association to keep everyone active and

Alpha Xi Delta Public Relations Director Lori Goble Lambert, Indiana ‘94, met President-elect Barack Obama after a political rally in Indianapolis. Joining Lori were her husband, Geoff, her father, Ed, and her friend Reggie Love, who is also Mr. Obama’s assistant.

involved with the Fraternity.—Jyotsna Vinayak, jvinayak@wpi.edu

Sisters and potential new members had fun making activity books that were later donated to Children's Hospital. At the end of

MICHIGAN Theta Eta, Western Michigan University Sisters made bears at Build-a-Bear Workshop® and then visited schools, read with the children and gave them the bears.

the week, Sisters celebrated a job well done by getting to know their new members during a pot luck and during a trip to the nail salon for some pampering.—Emily Peters, emilypeters116@ hotmail.com

During Greek Week the chapter was recognized as a Five-Star Chapter and received an award for being the sorority with the

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highest overall GPA. Sister Stephanie Schley was also named

Tau, University of New Hampshire

Greek Woman of the Year. A chapter team participated in the

The chapter hosted its annual Say What karaoke contest to raise

on-campus Relay for Life, and Sisters were present for all 24

money for the Children’s Hospital at Dartmouth. Sisters also

hours of the event.—Alison Legut, alison.t.legut@wmich.edu

participated in community service events, such as blood drives, senior dances and road races.—Audra Peterson

Ann Arbor and Western Wayne County Alumnae Associations Nearly 100 alumnae and collegians enjoyed a sisterhood event featuring Sister Ginny Carroll and her presentation “The Gift of Sisterhood.” Throughout the presentation the group heard the voices of our Founders in their own written words. Seven alumnae were honored with the Order of the Rose Ceremony for 50 years of membership; door prizes rounded out a delightful afternoon.

NORTH CAROLINA Theta Nu, Elon University The chapter held a Founders’ Day luncheon and hosted Sisters from Gamma Phi Chapter (East Carolina University), Iota Iota Chapter (Greensboro College), and the Raleigh/Durham and Greater

The two associations sponsored the event, which was par-

Greensboro alumnae associations. It was a great experience that

tially underwritten by an Askey Grant from the Alpha Xi Delta

allowed Sisters to make new friendships as well as catch up with

Foundation to nurture collegiate/alumnae relations. In this regard,

old friends.—Melia Mauldin, meliamauldin@gmail.com

the event was enormously successful!—Marian West

OHIO NEBRASKA

Beta Mu, Bowling Green State University

Gamma Delta, University of Nebraska at Omaha

During Dads Weekend, Sisters were excited to welcome their

Sisters had a fun and fruitful recruitment week and welcomed

fathers, show off the campus and let them see what being an

25 new members into the chapter. During Philanthropy Night,

Alpha Xi Delta is all about. Activities such as a golf outing and

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a cookout made for some great father/daughter time. Thanks to the chapter’s housing corporation, the stairways and three floors of the chapter house were painted. Thank you, Sisters! —Rachel Mandeville, rachelm@ bgsu.edu Beta Xi, Marietta College The chapter was recently honored for having the highest grade point average of any organization on campus. Sister and cross-country runner

Randi

Robertson

was

honored by being named Ohio

Ohio Northern | Gamma Tau Sisters gathered for one last picture in front of their chapter house.

Athletic Conference Player of the

Over the summer, the chapter moved into a new home in Affinity Village on the ONU campus.

Week in her division. Sisters battled the cold and raised $250 for child-related chari-

SOUTH DAKOTA

ties at their annual dunking booth.—Emily McGinty, ejm001@

Epsilon, University of South Dakota

marietta.edu

Sisters and the gentlemen of Pi Kappa Alpha and Phi Delta Theta fraternities participated in the Strollers show and received second

Gamma Tau, Ohio Northern University

place. With help from the community and Greek Life, the chapter

After several months of talking and planning, Gamma Tau

raised more than $2,000 during the annual Spaghetti Supper. The

moved into a new chapter house on campus in Affinity Village.

chapter gave the money to a local couple whose twins were born

In preparation for the move Sisters served on fund-raising,

prematurely.—Alyssa Block, Alyssa.Block@usd.edu

decorating and moving committees, and also held a yard sale. The sale of furniture from the former chapter house raised nearly

Epsilon Eta, South Dakota State University

$1,000 to help buy furniture for the new house. Gamma Tau’s

Sisters participated in the seventh annual Children’s Miracle

former chapter house, which was purchased in 1978, was the

Network State-a-Thon and danced from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m.

chapter’s first fully functional house lived in by Sisters.—Erin

Eleven families attended the event and shared how CMN helped

Millar, e-millar@onu.edu

them through difficult times. Epsilon Eta Sisters raised more than $5,000, and all monies raised went to the local hospital.—Tara

Zeta Nu, Miami University of Ohio

Tschetter, tltschetter@jacks.sdstate.edu

Chapter president Emily Hanks and recruitment chair Allison Zackaroff attended The Workout recruitment training experience

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in Fresno, California, and brought back some great ideas to

Beta Alpha, University of Texas at Austin

share with the chapter. In September, Sisters had the honor of

During its annual 3-on-3 basketball tournament, Beta Alpha

participating in the recolonization of Kappa Chapter at University

raised more than $5,000 for the Austin Miracle League at Town

of Illinois. They helped with Kappa’s recruitment open house,

and Country, which sponsors a baseball league for children with

Preference Ceremony and bid day.

disabilities. More than 30 teams participated in the event.—Katie

The following month, “left foot green, right hand red” was

Willcutts, k8t87@yahoo.com

heard on campus as the university hosted its annual Twister Tourney to raise awareness and money for the Cancer-Free Kids

Foundation. The chapter was paired with the men of Pi Kappa

Zeta Lambda, Texas Wesleyan University; Dallas Alumnae Association; Arlington Alumnae Association

Alpha and raised $900 for the foundation.—Jess Emerick, emer-

Founders’ Day 2008 was a double celebration honoring our

ickl@muohio.edu

Founders and the Dallas Alumnae Association. The association

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turned 50, and two charter members were among those in attendance. Alpha Xi Deltas from the Arlington association joined their Dallas-area Sisters for a luncheon that brought together old friends and created opportunities for building new friendships. Collegians from Zeta Lambda Chapter conducted the Founders’ Day Ceremony. Highlights of the day included recognizing Order of the Pearl, Order of the Rose and 25-year members, and serving a 50th birthday cake for the Dallas Alumnae Association. Circulating scrapbooks brought back memories of good times and treasured friendships. Sisters were especially honored by the presence of Ruth Wilson Sherman, a member for 73 years who is still going strong.—Virginia Salter, ginnie‑s@sbcglobal.net

WEST VIRGINIA Gamma Beta, Marshall University Sisters were reminded of the true meaning of friendship and sisterhood during the chapter’s Alumnae Weekend festivities.

Chicago West Towns Alumnae Association | Attending this year’s Founders’ Day gathering were (front left) Deborah Helmer Utecht, Cynthia Rossi Kass, Barbara Oras Blatchford, Paula Borchers Giese, Sandie Bryant Gibbs, Pat Smith Musson, Marilyn Mesko Kroenke and Susan Lemperly Kosciulek.—Paula Giese, PaulaG23@aol.com

Alumnae from the spring 1958 new member class returned to campus to celebrate 50 years of membership with the Order of the Rose Ceremony. There were various gatherings during the weekend, tours of the chapter house and plenty of time to catch up with friends. The weekend concluded at Guyan Country Club with a luncheon and the presentation of the 50-year pins. Emotions ran high as members sang Alpha Xi Delta songs and recited The Symphony. The familiar words brought back fond memories for Sisters of all ages.—Miranda Rosiek, rosiek2@marshall.edu

WISCONSIN Delta Alpha, University of Wisconsin La Crosse Sisters dressed up as storybook characters and handed out candy to children who trick-or-treated at the local nature center’s Enchanted Forest. Sisters also trick-or-treated for UNICEF and raised money for children all around the world. The chapter continued its spirit of giving by holding a two-week on-campus book drive to gather reading materials for a Phoenix, Ariz.-area school that was hit by a monsoon.—Marissa Knabach, knabach. mari@students.uwlax.edu Epsilon Alpha, University of Wisconsin Eau Claire The chapter donated more than $4,000 to the Make-A-Wish Foundation after holding its third annual Teeter-Totter-A-Thon. During this 24-hour event, Sisters took shifts on the teeter-totter, which was located in the middle of the campus mall. This is Epsilon Alpha’s largest fund-raising event, and this year was its most successful – even in the rain!—Kelsie Bauer, bauerk@uwec.edu

Little Rock Alumnae Association | Attending a recent dinner outing were (front row) Miranda Traw, Katherine Tucker, (back row) Mary Hyne Fine, Jennifer Cushing, Sarah Harvey, Jean Friederici Meacham, Maruka Reecer, Jamie Deere, Lara Obert Swearingen, Sarah Deere Hagan and Jamie Lapington. To learn more about this new association, contact Lara Swearingen at 501.551.5436 or littlerockazdalum@yahoo.com Pikes Peak Area Alumnae Association | Deb Pyles Grandia (left), association president for the past three years, turned over the office to the new president, Jo Goodlove Weilbrenner, during the association’s luncheon at the Broadmoor Hotel in Colorado Springs.— Gini Simonson, gini.jim@ comcast.net

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Theta Epsilon, Marquette University The chapter took first place in the annual Airband competition during Greek Week by performing a choreographed dance while lip-synching. The theme for this year’s performance was “Predict Xi Weather.” Children at Milwaukee’s Hispanic Cultural Center experienced the joy of reading as chapter members donated books, read to the children and helped each child pick out a book to take home. Sisters co-hosted a financial education program with the women of Alpha Chi Omega sorority, which was open to all women on campus. Seventy women came out to hear accountant and guest speaker Jessica Jatzke who spoke about credit scores, financing cars and houses, and repaying student loans.—Nici Takala, nicole.takala@marquette.edu Theta Tau, Marian University Sisters helped out at the Ronald McDonald House in Milwaukee and Madison by cooking and serving meals to families staying there. They also raised more than $350 for the Make-A-Wish Foundation during their Mr. Marian competition. The chapter sent letters to students’ families, letting them know they could send a care package to their son or daughter with a “good luck on finals” note attached. After the orders were placed, Sisters went shopping and bought three carloads

St. Louis Alumnae Association | Lucy Scott Mueller,

of goodies to include in the care packages. The leftover food was

Washington St. Louis ’34, received her Order of the Diamond for 75 years of Alpha Xi Delta membership. Lucy plays a great game of bridge and is active in her local garden club.—Anna Louise Larson Fisher

donated to the summer program at the Fond du Lac Boys and

Greensboro | Iota Iota Chapter nearly doubled in size after

West Virginia | I ota Sisters participated in WVU’s Dance

having a successful fall formal recruitment.—Brittany Eckard, beckard@greensborocollege.edu

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Girls Club.—Lindsey Sell, lmsell@marianuniversity.edu

Marathon and helped raise thousands of dollars for the local children’s hospital.—Michelle Goodliff, mgoodlif@mix.wvu.edu

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Jacksonville State | March 28-30, 2008, brought great joy to Epsilon Pi Sisters as they celebrated 40 years of Alpha Xi Delta at Jacksonville State University in Alabama. The reunion kicked off Friday night with a “Remember the Good Ole Days” alumnae social. On Saturday morning, alumnae and collegians gathered at the JSU Alumni House to make get-well cards that were donated, along with teddy bears, to children at St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. Later, alumnae were welcomed to Curtiss Hall, which houses Epsilon Pi, for a hall and chapter room tour. A sisterhood luncheon followed. Tears and smiles abounded as Sisters joined together for an emotional Rededication Ceremony, held Saturday afternoon in the Leone Cole Auditorium. Epsilon Pi was honored to have Kristy Keith, Assistant Director of Member Services for the Southeast Territory, as a guest speaker. During the banquet alumnae and past presidents shared stories about their Epsilon Pi collegiate years. Chapter Advisor Kaci Smith Ogle, ’92, was honored for her devotion to Epsilon Pi, and Membership Advisor Lindsay Spurlock, ’02, was honored as Alumna of the Year. To conclude the weekend, current chapter members hosted a send-off brunch to show their gratitude to the Epsilon Pi alumnae who continue to be a source of support to the chapter. “It was so wonderful to meet our alumnae,” said Epsilon Pi president Lisa Reed. “Sisters enjoyed hearing stories from the amazing women who had come before them. It was an extremely enriching experience for all of us.” Cornell | Fourteen Sisters and their spouses from Alpha Beta Chapter reunited in Ithaca, New York, to renew friendships and get acquainted with the current collegians. Attending the weekend reunion were Sonia Werker Butler, Judie Baker Byndas, Anne Church, Sharon Hey Gage, Nancy Coles Hallinan, Ricky Heinze, Judy Piorun Pedlow and Roberta Stillman Wisnosky. Alumnae enjoyed a tour of the chapter house, entertainment by some of the collegians, a luncheon, a behind-the-scenes tour of the Cornell Laboratory of Ornithology and an evening banquet. Collegian Sara Messelaar presented Judie Byndas, a past president, and her husband with a weeping cherry tree and plaque for the front lawn in recognition of their work on the chapter house. During the Greek Awards Ceremony the following week, Judie received the Distinguished Alumni Service award from Cornell’s Office of Fraternity and Sorority Affairs.—Judie Byndas

Rochester Institute of Technology | Amy Rosenfeld Sullivan, Nicole Duffy Tesoriero and Raffaella Savarino Tasca met in Paris for a wonderful reunion after not having seen each other in three years. They spent four days in Paris, then flew to Prague where Raffella now lives. “The kids, husbands and dogs were all left behind and away we went,” said Raffella. “Cheese, baguettes, The Louvre, The Prague Castle. We did it all!”—Raffaella Savarino, raffysavarino@ hotmail.com

Lyon | Z eta Iota Sisters traveled from all parts of the country to attend a reunion weekend at the historic home of a Sister who lives in Baldwin City, Kansas. It had been nearly 16 years since graduation, and many Sisters hadn’t seen each other since that time. Time was spent reminiscing and catching up on current events, while the slideshow of college photos reminded Sisters that the bond that brought them together years ago is as strong as ever today.—Tanya Ford, fordtanya@msn.com

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Reunions Florida Alumnae | Last year Florida alumnae staged a one-day luncheon cruise on the St. John’s River and had a fair turnout. They decided right then and there that one day was not enough. Jan Swanson Barris suggested that next time, everyone should come to her town, Belleair (near St. Petersburg) and she would host the gathering. The invitation was accepted. This year some 30 alumnae had a wonderful weekend, which culminated with a fine banquet at the Belleair Country Club. It was a fun weekend of sightseeing, brunch at the Vinoy, shopping and just plain fun. Sisters raffled off baskets filled with special things made by various alumnae associations. What’s really special is that all Florida alumnae were contacted, whether or not they belonged to an association, and the group met several new Sisters! It was a good mix of sharing and laughter. The next reunion is planned for 2010. T.J. Parker (TJPV8@aol.com) is the hostess, so come on out, Florida alumnae, and join us. Let us know where you live and we’ll send you an invitation.—Nancy Larkin, nslaxid@ yahoo.com

Thinking About a Get-Together? Renew your friendships and Fraternity ties by holding a reunion! Fraternity Headquarters can help you put together your guest list by providing invitation mailing labels, sorted by name or initiation year. There is a nominal fee for the labels. Order your labels by calling Fraternity Headquarters or by sending an email to memberservices@alphaxidelta. org. Be sure to put “Reunion Label Request” in the subject line. After your reunion, send your news and photos to The Quill so everyone can hear about the great time you had with your Sisters. If you’re in the process of planning a reunion, spread the word by posting your event in the Alumnae section of the Fraternity’s events calendar. Learn more at www. alphaxidelta.org.

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Reunions

A Reunion to Remember An Order of the Rose recipient shares the joy of reconnecting with Sisters. By Jan Anderson Lightner, Nebraska Lincoln ‘58

e were initiated 50 years ago? How can that be? That would mean we’d be how old? No. Couldn’t be. If it is right, we’d better get organized and plan an Order of the Rose Reunion. But how could we pull it together? I volunteered to send emails. Cathy Scott Linscott called or snail mailed others. Mary Quackenbush Garrison thought it would be fun to put on a skit, so she was in charge of that. Notes went out in November, telling people the date, place and time of the April event. We also included a gentle reminder that traditionally, Order of the Rose classes make a donation to the Rho Chapter Building Association. Since none of us are very good about asking for money, Jan Anderson Thoresen, ’56, shared with me the wording she used when contacting her class for their 50-year reunion: “Life has been good to most of us, and giving back is a way to support an obligation we made 50 years ago.” Perfect.

Members of Rho Chapter’s 1958 pledge class returned to Lincoln, Nebraska, for an Order of the Rose Reunion celebrating 50 years of Fraternity membership. Author Jan Lightner is in the back row, second from right.

How was our reunion? Amazing. Thirteen of us came back for the event. A number of Sisters who had been a year or two ahead of us even came. Some of

us were there when these Sisters received their Order of the Rose and now they were coming back for our celebration. It was truly appreciated. After a lot of catching up on Friday night, we went to Cathy Linscott’s home the Rho Chapter’s 1958 pledge educator Sondi Lee Rathjen (back left) next morning for Rho and Sisters Gaye Engel Harris, Yvonne Umland Jameson, MaryAnne Chapter’s Senior Sen- Weber Guggenmoss, Shirley Chab Adkinson, Nancy Lee Funston, doff Breakfast. Since Mary Rothell Benson, Mary Quackenbush Garrison, (front row) Jackie we came back to Lin- Beard Kegley, Shirley Gibb Sandstedt, Kay Rocke Owen, Bonnie Beckman Spomer, Jan Anderson Lightner, Cathy Scott Linscott. coln from all parts of the country, we were able to offer informamatch and recite the Greek alphabet betion to these young women about some of fore we burned our fingers! the places they were considering as they We had the formal presentation of rosbegan their careers. We hope they saw our es, along with Order of the Rose pins, and lifelong friendship and commitment to Althen a picture session. We insisted that pha Xi Delta. our pledge trainer, Sondra Lee Rathjen, From Cathy’s house we went to the join in that. Afterward, we left the CounLincoln Country Club for the Founders’ try Club to tour the chapter house. The Day luncheon. Mary Quackenbush Garribuilding corporation has done an incredson did a beautiful job putting together a ible job and the young women who live memory book that included a picture of us there are very appreciative. There were from 50 years ago, letters from each of us many involved in raising money to make and a skit, which included a song we used the needed changes and provide funds to sing during rush week. Fortunately, for the future. Caryl Craven Greathouse, Shirley Chab Adkinson, our song leader, ’59, and her Kappa Sigma husband, Ross, remembered all the words, the tune, evcan never be thanked enough. The house erything – even the two-part harmony that is beautiful, functional, safe and still the was required. The skit was unrehearsed loveliest house on campus! but Mary pulled it off in grand style! She Oh, by the way. That whole “asking for narrated and each of us had a part to money” thing for the chapter’s building share. The skit shared our life of 50 years corporation? I’m proud to say we raised ago with our Sisters – having “hours,” be$2,100! ing “campused” for infractions, hour dances, pinnings, no jeans – all things of the Need some tips on planning a successful redistant past. Some of us could still light a union? Contact Jan at jglight@comcast.net. www.alphaxidelta.org

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lizabeth Venemann Lyles, a 1930 initiate of Alpha Eta Chapter at Purdue University, entered Chapter Eternal on March 30, 2008. She was 96 years old. Ellen Goodwin, Foundation Chair, said, “Elizabeth was a remarkable and gracious woman. Our Fraternity is so fortunate to have known her and to have been a recipient of her loyal dedication and kind benevolence.” Elizabeth married William M. Lyles in 1933. From 1935-1950, Elizabeth was a substitute secondary-school teacher in Indiana and California. In 1945 she and her husband founded the W.M. Lyles Company, a California firm specializing in pipeline and utility construction. Elizabeth served as secretary-treasurer of the company until her husband’s untimely death in 1965, at which time she became president. In an era when few women worked outside the home, Elizabeth handled payroll, administration and personnel for the growing company – all while raising two sons and a daughter. Today, the construction business the Lyles began includes real estate, pipeline, utility, concrete, and mechanical construction, as well as agricultural manufacturing operations. Its offshoot, Pelco Sales, Inc., is a world leader in the design, development, and manufacture of video and security systems and equipment.

A Great Love Elizabeth’s son, Gerald Lyles, said, “Along with my mother’s religion, family, her business employees and Purdue University, Alpha Xi Delta was one of her great loves. She brightened up when her Quill magazine came and while speaking of her Sisters on a national level or at the 60

chapter here at FresEpiscopal Church, the no State, which she first woman director supported financially for the Fresno County and participated in and City Chamber of socially.” Commerce, the first Elizabeth gave woman trustee on back to Alpha Xi Delthe West Hills College ta in so many ways. Board and the first She was a charter woman director for member of Alpha Xi the Purdue University Delta’s Fresno AlumAlumni Association. nae Association and The following are an officer of the Alincluded among Elizapha Xi Delta Buildbeth’s many honors ing Corporation of and recognitions: Elizabeth Lyles Fresno, California. 1980 Purdue Alumni She served the National Fraternity as a Association Alumni Citizenship Award, member of the Foundation Nominating 1984 Purdue Alumni Association DisCommittee in 1982, the National Finantinguished Purdue Woman Award, 1987 cial Planning Task Force in 1984 and on Fresno Bee and YMCA Business-Profesthe Foundation Board of Trustees from sional Woman of the Year, 1992 Lewis 1988-1993. Elizabeth was the first Alpha S. Eaton Award from Valley Public TeleXi Delta to become a member of the Cora vision, 2004 Outstanding Philanthropist Bollinger Block Circle, which recognizes of the Year designation from the Associalifetime Foundation giving of more than tion of Fundraising Professionals, and the $100,000. Bishops Cross from the Episcopal Diocese Fraternity awards include Woman of San Joaquin. of Achievement in Business in 1968, Elizabeth’s grandson, Thom Porter, Alumna of the Year in 1979 and Woman said at Elizabeth’s memorial service, of Distinction in 2005. Elizabeth’s sister, “My grandmother lived 96 years. Oh, Minadel Venemann Smith, was a 1934 the things she must have seen! She lived initiate of Alpha Eta Chapter at Purdue; through two World Wars, the Deprestheir mother, Elizabeth Doughty Venesion, amazing technological advances, mann, was organizing president and acpersonal tragedies and many successes. tive in the Alpha Xi Delta Mother’s Club I have been witness to less than half of at Purdue University for more than 36 that time, but from my observation, she years. was always optimistic, matter-of-fact, and genuinely happy and contented with life. What a lesson: hard work + loyalty + unAhead of Her Time derstanding what really matters = happiElizabeth was a woman of firsts who was ness. That is the legacy she leaves and truly ahead of her time. She was the first the lesson I’d like to leave to my children woman to represent the Diocese of San about their great-grandmother.” Joaquin to the national convention of the

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he fall/winter Chapter Eternal includes the names of Sisters whose passing was reported to Fraternity Headquarters between May 1 and August 31, 2008. Sisters are listed alphabetically in chapter order, along with their initiation year. To notify the Fraternity of a Sister’s passing, please send an obituary notice, memorial service pamphlet or other written confirmation to Alpha Xi Delta Fraternity.

Beta Chapter Iowa Wesleyan College June Ione Hatfield Ankeney ’44 Eva Munson Wolfe ’28 Gamma Chapter Mount Union College Eileen Brown Boyee ’44 Margaret Kotte Stone ’43 Delta Chapter Bethany College Jane Bowman Bair Savage ’29 Dorothy Ralston Sutton ’41 Epsilon Chapter University of South Dakota Mildred Marshall Morgan ’46 Daisy Wheeler Rini ’41 Zeta Chapter Wittenberg University Frances Tuttle Caldwell ’45 Margaret Willis Miller ’35 Eta Chapter Syracuse University Lois Marion Wicks Leebrick ’40 Theta Chapter University of WisconsinMadison Edythe Klapka Gatenby ’33 Wilma Goedecke Griswold ’37 Marcia Waugh McDowell ’58 Iota Chapter West Virginia University Rebecca Carpenter Runnels ’38 Norma Jean Crase Valentine ’51 Kappa Chapter University of Illinois Della Vandyke Chesnut ’40

Chapter Eternal Nu Chapter University of Washington Helen Bowen Pratt ’28

Alpha Eta Chapter Purdue University Virginia Straley Duvall ’59

Omicron Chapter University of California, Berkeley Elizabeth Nielsen Mortensen ’39 Mary Delmore Ramsden ’38

Alpha Kappa Chapter Kansas State University Madeline Asher Osborne ’46 Phyllis Riley Wallisch ’49

Pi Chapter Ohio University Jane Jones Dole ’39 Vera Scholl Forsstrom ’34 Esther Hafner Mathes ’38 Rho Chapter University of NebraskaLincoln Pauline Nelson Kesselring ’30 Carolyn Kay Washburn ’59 Sigma Chapter University of Iowa Nita Melsh Welch ’56 Tau Chapter University of New Hampshire Mary Zacharias Sophios ’25 Upsilon Chapter University of Vermont Cornelia Josephine Baylies ’30 Phi Chapter Albion College Barbara North ’70 Mary Holtz Warson ’61 Psi Chapter Ohio State University Rosamond Sterrett Eliassen ’30 Alpha Gamma Chapter Coe College Bonnie King Andrews ’42 Louise Northcott Knapp ’29 Alpha Delta Chapter Oregon State University Louise Ratto Calcagno ’48 Josephine Woolsey Dana ’39 Alpha Epsilon Chapter University of Michigan Lynn Kimpton Grammafico ’50 Paula Wilson VanNatta ’54 Alpha Zeta Chapter University of Oklahoma Gayle Thornton Grotts ’47 Shirley Barbour Lowe ’46 Gladys Pierce Whelihan ’26

Gamma Epsilon Chapter California State UniversityFresno Esther Mae Hawley 2005 Gamma Lambda Chapter University of Tennessee Jeanette Booker Troth ’59

Alpha Lambda Chapter University of Oregon Wilma Billie John Howard ’45

Delta Epsilon Chapter University of New Orleans Marilyn Schof Gover ’62

Alpha Omicron Chapter Hunter College Johanna Elliott Buehrer ’53 Virginia Katherine Re DeMarinis ’45

Delta Tau Chapter University of WisconsinOshkosh Diana Sarnowski Weyers ‘65

Alpha Rho Chapter Allegheny College Helen Allison Baughman ’36 Alpha Upsilon Chapter Brenau College Mary Jones Cain ’32 Alpha Chi Chapter Randolph-Macon College Elon Gillaspie Hutcheson ’30 Alpha Omega Chapter Florida State University Betsy Stewart Osborne ’42 Beta Beta Chapter Washington University Patricia Waterman Huber ’38 Beta Delta Chapter Denison University Annabel Sheppard Anderson ’36 Esther Marner McClelland ’36 Beta Eta Chapter University of Maryland Lynn Saville Jones ’69 Kathleen Hensley Woods ’80

Epsilon Kappa Chapter Western Kentucky University Marilyn Martin Lagrange ’69 Epsilon Lambda Chapter Rider University Sharon Ward DiVernieri ’71 Epsilon Mu Chapter University of Northern Colorado Priscilla Davis Dingler ’74 Epsilon Xi Chapter University of Missouri-St. Louis Deborah Pelant Younce ’70 Epsilon Tau Chapter Central Missouri State University Patricia Newlon Williams ’69 Epsilon Phi Chapter Iowa State University Amy Kathleen Meyer ’86 Zeta Rho Chapter North Carolina State University Louella Anderson Bottrill ’83

Beta Pi Chapter Indiana University Patricia Locks Banker ’51 Hazel Shirley Nordsieck ’48

Zeta Sigma Chapter Hillsdale College Constance Peters ’86

Beta Phi Chapter University of Connecticut Isabel Miller Weigold ’49

Theta Zeta Chapter Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University (AZ) Tommi Lee Gatti Simcox ’94

Gamma Alpha Chapter San Diego State University Nancy Graves Dentt ’51

Theta Nu Chapter Elon College Catherine Zagrodnik Rose ’93

Gamma Beta Chapter Marshall University Ann Marshall Egnor ’59

Theta Sigma Chapter University of Central Florida Heather Dreslin 2006 www.alphaxidelta.org

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Living Our Symphony That We may Share both Joy and Sorrow The Symphony of Alpha Xi Delta These things do we earnestly desire: A clear vision of life, that with gracious and kindly hearts we may share both joy and sorrow and bring into living reality the sisterhood of women. An appreciation of real merit and worth, steadfastness of soul, that without bitterness or defeat we may encounter misfortune and with humility meet success. These things, O Lord, help us to instill within our hearts, that we may grow in courage and graciousness and peace.

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The story I’m about to tell is filled with almost every possible emotion. I’m making it through this difficult time, thanks to the love and support of my Sisters. Six months before I married my husband, Josh, we found out he had a 2-year-old son, Logan, from a previous interlude before we met. I was angry and sad that another woman had Josh’s child. I was also outraged that this woman waited so long to contact Josh, who had already missed out on two years of Logan’s life. As soon as my Sisters heard my news, they were there to support me. Phone calls and visits were frequent, as they helped me work through my feelings and turn my hurt and anger into optimism and excitement about having a son. They helped me see the big picture – that everything happens for a reason – and reinforced what a wonderful addition Josh and I would be to Logan’s life. A five-hour drive separated us from Logan, but that didn’t matter. We traveled there once a month and slowly worked up to bringing Logan home for weeks at a time. I’ll spare the details of why we filed for full custody. Let’s just say Logan’s life with his mother was less than desirable. A 10-minute custody hearing gave us full custody, and Logan’s mother lost all parental rights and received no visitation. After hearing that Logan would be with us all the time, my Sisters threw a “toddler shower” for us. They also set up play dates with Logan and their children, and Logan quickly had many friends. He adjusted to his new life with absolutely no problems and immediately became part of our family. Logan loved us so much and meant the world to us. He was incredibly intelligent and knew no strangers. He loved going to church and was fascinated with stories about God and Jesus. He also enjoyed being around other children and was delighted when Josh and I had a baby girl. He said he would be the best

brother ever, and he certainly was. On December 7, 2007, Logan passed away. His first cough was at 2 a.m. on a Thursday. Since Logan had never been sick before, Josh took him to the doctor. The doctor said Logan had a viral infection and gave him some

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medication. Just 26 hours after his first cough, he was gone. Logan stopped breathing in his sleep. Logan was only 3 years old. We already had his Christmas presents under the tree. We already had his 4th birthday party planned. There were just so many things he never had the opportunity to do. In the midst of planning funeral arrangements, my Sisters were there for me. Some called constantly. Some sent flowers and cards. Some never left my side. Some drove many hours to see me, and some even flew across the country. Nearly a year has passed and some days are very difficult. My Sisters still touch base to see how we’re doing. I know I can call any of them any time and they’ll be there. Many people underestimate what it means to be in a sorority. Either they never had the experience or tainted ideas kept them from exploring the possibility. Our Symphony could not state it any better: “…that we may share both joy and sorrow and bring into living reality the sisterhood of women.” Thank you, Sisters, for everything. Brandi Miller Hobbs Marietta College ’97 Brandimillerhobbs@yahoo.com www.alphaxidelta.org

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