Sport Psychology Success: Restructuring the Fear of Scarcity to a Balance to Maintain

Success: Restructuring the Fear of Scarcity to a Balance to Maintain

by Laura King, CHt, NLP & Life Coach

It’s an understatement to say that 2020 is a challenge. Our world is being rocked with social change, health concerns and financial uncertainty. As a trainer, you may be juggling the desire to provide optimal horse and client care with the worry of a decrease in resources because of reduced lessons, clinics and horse sales. Although I can’t provide a cure for COVID-19, I can help you deal with anxiety associated with this change. Read on to learn some tips, techniques and exercises to realign your focus from a fear of scarcity to a balance to maintain using the DISCOVER Process to help you achieve a mindset reset.

The DISCOVER Process First, you must examine your thoughts.

The media is slamming you with worst case scenarios and gloom and doom stories. This information is bombarding you without providing suggestions or preparations for a best case scenario. Can we take this world “pause” and move forward with a positive plan for whatever occurs? Let’s create some options that prepare positively for the future. We must use our magic to survive, and then thrive through this upheaval. D Decide There is a Way to Succeed Deciding to believe that you can succeed is your first step toward creating a brain restructure. Grab a notebook to jot down thoughts about your current situation. Are your thoughts negative? Create positive scenarios to replace these negative thoughts. Use words that help you brave, prepare, rebalance, breakthrough, move, release, reshuffle and inspire positive visions of success.

Begin with some form of affirmation like: I recognize and embrace this dramatic shift as an opportunity to regroup and redefine. I can survive and thrive by creating a different balance in my life and finding success all around me.

I Identify Your Fears What fears keep you from believing that you can have success during changing times? List your fears and any thoughts you have about them. Where do these fears come from? Are they coming from outside voices (family, friends, media)? Are they real or imagined? Take your worst case scenario

and flip it to your best case scenario and put your focus there. Create multiple options of great case scenarios. Get the positive imagery moving for all areas of your life.

S Self-Inquiry What do you want? Success and balance. Have you had success and balance before? Of course you have. Remember and relive one of those times and write about it. And how do you remove current obstacles to achieve success and balance? Transform your mindset using your past successes to reshape your future.

What you think is what you become. When you concentrate on your success, you create future success. Be the future you want to become.

C Conscious-Level ActionSteps Take conscious-level action steps toward positively creating and embracing your new equilibrium. Organize differently. Educate yourself. Increase your success literacy. Whatever your old beliefs are about success (money, work, family, home), label them “the past,” and put them in a mental drawer. Lock it. From this moment, envision positive, expansive beliefs about your future and commit to these new beliefs.

Use visualization. Allow your imagination to create every detail. How does success feel? How does it smell? How does it taste? What are you wearing? Your brain doesn’t distinguish between “real” and “imaginary,” so when you imagine your new life, go big. Visualize only your successful outcome. If you get bogged down in the details of “how to,” you tell the world that there is only one way to create this success. Concentrate on the end-product and let the Universe find the path for you.

Visualize the life you desire, including good health for you and those around you. Visualize your achievements with enthusiasm and satisfaction for reaching or exceeding your vision. Visualize gratitude for your blessings, including friends, family and your meaningful job. Visualize paying each of your bills on time and having a large, positive balance in your accounts. Visualize how you give to others. Call family members to thank them for their love and support. Thank your clients for being faithful friends and students. Be especially kind. Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself that all good things you do come back to you tenfold (or more!).

O Outcome DevelopmentBoard Create your new future on a board or in a notebook by cutting out photos and words that represent your past success. Use your previous accomplishments to help re-engineer your new success scenarios. What do you want your story to be? Begin with the words “I am . . . ”.

Choose outcomes that represent health, successful scenarios or material wealth, but don’t stop there. What else does success mean to you? Healthy horses? A barn upgrade? If it’s your dream, put it on your board!

Be careful with limiting thoughts such as, “I’d like to have a new footing for the arena, but I can’t afford that. It’s not realistic.” Let go of what you think is realistic. Let the Universe work for you.

V Visualize, with the Help of Hypnosis All of the above are actions that engage your conscious mind. When you practice them daily, they become habits and restructure your con sciousness. You can turbo-charge your efforts by enlisting your subconscious mind through hypnosis, which will make everything flow more naturally. Start by listening to my MP3 called “Prosperity and Abundance” found at www.laurakinghypnosis.com. Listen each night before retiring for 21 nights. If you miss one, begin again, until you reach 21 consecutive sessions.

E Evaluate Your Progress After you have experienced the entire DISCOVER Process once, evaluate your level of progress. Do you carry the fears you first listed or have you reshaped your future? Have you created a new definition of success? Do you see ‘best case’ scenarios?

R Revise & Repeat If you have achieved success, congratulations! Continue using positive affirmations and the MP3, and update your outcome development board to position you for new growth. If you haven’t achieved your success – try again. Sometimes it takes a little longer. Reshuffle the Discover Process, including all exercises, and listen to the MP3 for another 21 days. It takes commitment and awareness to change your mindset.

The world is going through an epic shift. I suggest that you carefully and responsibly face this challenge with positive thoughts that you can attract well-being and your own personal best.

You are brave, strong and courageous; your dreams are worthwhile and valid. You are reorganizing your future and moving through change to a new balance. You’ve GOT this!

About the author: Laura King is the Director and Founder of Summit Hypnosis and Wellness and is a Certified Hypnotist, NLP Practitioner, Life Coach, and Sports Performance Coach. Laura has written and published several books and workbooks, including ”Power To Win” for equestrians and “Perfect Enough,” a guide to help you evaluate your perceptions and experiences around vital areas of your life.