SE21 June 2020 by SE Magazines

The only Community Magazine for Dulwich Village & West Dulwich Established 2006

Issue 163 - June 2020 In this issue Shop Local - P4 Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Online - P10 Garden Talk - P12 Food & Drink - P14 Buy Them A Coffee - P18 Featured15 - P20 Link Age Southwark - P26 The Last Word - P32

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Welcome to SE21 We are now approaching our 10th week of lockdown and life has changed so much. Unfortunately I was unable to distribute my April magazines until early May, which meant I only did an online edition of the May issue. So I am really pleased to be back in print for June and am so grateful for the advertisers who have supported me with my decision not to print for May. If you do get chance, please do go back and take a look at the May issue online; there were some great articles and fantastic businesses advertising. This issue is also available too and you can easily share the online issue too. We have a wonderful story written by Jill Orr, who set up Buy Them A Coffee in support of the staff at Kings. It is truely inspiring, all that Jill and her contributors have done. It is well worth a read on pages 18 & 19. Our fantastic local charity Link Age Southwark have had to adapt their services for older people recently and I am delighted to say that they have just won a top quality standard award! See page 26 for more. The Last Word goes to local artist Mehreen Lodhi who finds inspiration for her art from the local area, read more on page 32. It has never been more important to Shop Local (page 4), so please do try to buy local where you can. Keep checking our social media channels for updates on businesses reopening. Until next time, take good care.

Angela Angela Burgess, Head of All Things Community SE Magazines/Around Dulwich

Contents

Welcome ..................................................................... 3 Shop Local .................................................................. 4 Business in Focus....................................................... 6 What’s Online...............................................8, 10 & 22 Garden Talk ............................................................. 12 Food & Drink ........................................................... 14 Fitness Tips............................................................... 16 Buy Them A Coffee ..........................................18 & 19

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Featured15................................................................ 20 Financial Matters ..................................................... 24 Link Age Southwark................................................. 26 Pets Corner .............................................................. 28 Mindset Matters....................................................... 30 The Last Word ......................................................... 32 Index ........................................................................ 34

July Deadline - 15 June (please allow an extra two days if design is required) To advertise in SE21 please contact Angela Burgess on 020 8693 9040 or e-mail: angela@semagazines.co.uk for further information. You can download our media pack from our website: www.semagazines.co.uk. Printed by Stephens & George Ltd ©SE Magazines Ltd All rights reserved. No reproduction can be made without permission. “This Publication is manufactured from (ECF) Elemental Chlorine Free pulp; sourced from certified or well managed forests and plantations, printed using vegetable based inks” “The fibres in this paper can be used up to a further seven times in the production of recycled paper. Please recycle this publication when it’s usefulness has been exhausted” Front cover image ©istockphotos.com SE21 - June 2020 | 3

Five Reasons to Shop Local

ne unexpected and welcome outcome from the Coronovirus lockdown is the way in which many small businesses have been able to adapt so that they can keep trading. We’ve seen cafes become grocers, restaurants develop collection and takeaway services almost overnight, shops develop online e-commerce stores, and salon owners becoming YouTube stars as they share their skills and expertise with ever widening and appreciative audiences. Even during times of crisis, the demand to shop can open up new opportunities in many industries. At SE Mags we’ve always believed that shopping local plays a vital role, and no matter what our world will look like in the future we should all carry on supporting local enterprise. So here are 5 reasons why shopping local matters, now more than ever.

1) It builds local communities & strengthens local economies When you support a local business, you are supporting your friends, family, and neighbours. The availability of local shops is especially important for the elderly, vulnerable, young people and those without access to private transport. Plus the more money that local councils make in rent and rates, the more they can spend on supporting local infrastructure and public services.

2) Local small businesses add character to towns& villages A small business or boutique shop adds character to the city or town when you walk or drive by. In a world that has become increasingly dominated by chain stores, a local business’s branding is unique and often quirky, adding something different to your High Street, offering an alternative experience, and bringing a much needed breath of fresh air into areas populated by generic stores and companies.

3) Creates more job opportunities & encourages entrepreneurship A local business that becomes a success will grow, and as they grow they’ll recruit more staff from the local population. Plus their success will encourage 4 | SE21 - May June 2020

other local businesses to open up to take advantage of the footfall, encouraging other people to take the plunge and become entrepreneurs too!

4) You get a more personalised service Local business owners are friendly and engaging, they get to know their customers at a personal level and can provide better advice about their products and services. Local traders value your business more since their survival depends on their good reputation and repeat business. They can often adapt their products to suit your personal requirements, or source something bespoke for you, which big chains won’t do.

5) It’s better for the environment Shopping local means less mileage and petrol costs for you, which helps reduce CO2 emissions. Plus local shops often stock locally sourced goods which not only supports the local economy but also reduces transport times and costs of the goods, which impacts positively on their carbon footprint. We know it’s tempting to default to the big chains or to buy online. But shopping locally is usually just as cost-effective and convenient, plus you are supporting your local community, rather than putting money in nameless and faceless shareholders’ pockets.

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Business Focus in Lockdown

We caught up with one of our lovely clients, John from Alexandra Nurseries

t Alexandra Nurseries in Penge we are proud of our place in the community and delighted to find people feel the same. Our existing customers, neighbours, friends and newcomers have been keen to support us with kind words and custom! Of course this would be one of the peak times in our industry and it has hit us all hard, including our loyal growers, nurseries and suppliers. We have found the relationships built from 8 years of trade; of trust, loyalty and flexibility - both ways around - have kept us in good stead. Small independents have been able to suddenly downsize, re think how to operate and market and between us we are just about keeping each other going. Moving into ‘Amazon’ territory has been very challenging especially for a small shop with no existing online sales operation! We have all become perhaps too familiar with a click and collect climate and expect our stuff tomorrow! We have one person and one phone-line, one person on admin and email and a very talented instagrammer! With over 100 queries a day on those three platforms it’s been fun! So to all your readers— so sorry if we didn’t return your call, you couldn’t get through, or we lost you somehow - please forgive that and return for excellent cake and coffee and browse the lovely vintage garden things and quality plants soon . We thank too our lovely loyal furloughed team, who have been patient and trusted us as we work through the uncertainty. Being partly family run has been important giving an incentive to adapt and proceed beyond a straight business ethic, and the directors of the company have been working flat out to keep on top of everything. Our 8th birthday this week would have been our opportunity to greet you all with tea and cake. Watch out for the celebrations next year! Being a small business has allowed us to remain true to our values and, while we are not perfect, we rejoice in that. We are a creative

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company made up of different personalities and skill sets, and in the current context this has meant we have the ability to adapt. We are fortunate to be a garden centre as the demand for our products remains strong, It has been satisfying to help people enjoy Spring, get into their gardens, connect with loved ones from a distance - they’ve been sending plants seeds soap and vouchers! Enabling people to create, grow and be in touch with nature has always been our aim - we are still here and hopefully back to full speed soon! Estate House, 56B Parish Lane, London SE20 7LJ alexandranurseries@hotmail.co.uk 07939 110 970 | 020 8778 4145 www.alexandranurseries.co.uk

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What's Online - June Tuesdays 2, 9, 16, 23 & 30 June: Live Stream Short Post Life Drawing 2pm-5pm. This is a live stream art class. Untutored but advice is always available. There are options to come for just 1 hour (£5) and 2 hours (£10) and 3 hours (£15). For all abilities. When life drawing, short poses are excellent for training the eye and the hand and building the ability to sum up the essence of the figure with economy. Each hour will start with short poses and work up to two or three ten minute poses. This is a familiar format for life drawing sessions which most of us find very satisfactory. Whilst the session runs for three hours it is possible to attend one, two or three hours, as works for you. Joining or leaving the group happens promptly on the hour. The Dulwich Art Group & School. www.dulwichartgroup.co.uk.

Wednesdays 3, 10, 17 & 24 June: Live Stream Life Drawing & Painting

10am-1pm. This is a live streamed, online class on life drawing with the Dulwich Art Group. Untutored sessions with a long pose generally held for three weeks giving the artist a chance to produce a more considered piece of work. Our models are carefully chosen and are lit with professional lights. Advice is always on tap but we tend to leave you to your own devices unless encouraged. The atmosphere is relaxed and friendly the quality of attention is always excellent. The Dulwich Art Group & School. www.dulwichartgroup.co.uk.

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Wednesday 3 June: Online New Mums’ Group

10.30am-12pm. Free online weekly drop-in group for mothers with children under one. Becoming a mother can come with a range of feelings, both positive and negative. Many mums feel worried and confused if they are struggling with negative feelings after having a baby. This free online group, will provide a supportive environment where mothers can get together with others who may be struggling with one or more aspects of being a mum. This could be feeling low in mood, anxiety about being a good parent, feeling isolated and lonely, sadness about changes in your relationships, etc. The group is facilitated by assistant psychologists at Circle Psychology Partners and under the supervision of Dr Christine Langhoff, a clinical psychologist who specialises in perinatal difficulties. All sessions are free and will be held using Zoom. You will need to register in order to access the link to join each session. www.bellhouse.co.uk

Wednesday 3 June: Celebrating 25 years of Multi-Sensory Teaching with Dr Susie Nyman 7.00pm. Join Dr Susie Nyman’s online webinar showcasing her ‘Multi-sensory Toolkit’ strategies based on 25 years teaching in Early Years to Key Stages 1-5. www.bellhouse.co.uk.

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Grow Your Own Fresh Herbs Garden Talk with Janine Winlaw | Instagram @janinewinlaw

here’s nothing nicer – or healthier - than cooking with fresh herbs picked from your own garden. Most are easy to grow and look fab, whether in borders, containers or raised beds. Mediterranean varieties prefer sun and free-draining soil - add coarse grit and organic matter to clay soil. Others, such as coriander, mint and parsley are happy in some shade, with plenty of moisture. Here’s some to try

Mint Great in herbal teas and summer drinks, with roast lamb or in Middle Eastern dishes, mint is a great herb to have in a pot outside the door – it can be invasive in a border. As well as spearmint and peppermint, there are masses of different varieties to try including large woolly leaved apple mint, lemon mint, pineapple mint, and chocolate mint – nice in puddings! It Iikes rich moist soil and can tolerate shade. Keep picking it to encourage growth and divide it when it’s outgrown the container.

Thyme An incredibly attractive and useful herb, this is a fab choice for a pot or sunny spot in the border. The tiny white, pink or purple flowers are very pretty so I like to pick the leaves early in the season then leave them to flower. You can then give the plan a prune afterwards to keep it compact. Like mint, there are lots of different varieties, from the low growing Thymus vulgaris to the more mound forming golden T. ‘Bertram Anderson’ and gorgeous variegated T. ‘Silver Queen’. A few fresh leaves are great in Mediterranean dishes like Bolognese or minestrone soup or for seasoning meat such as beef burgers.

Oregano (marjoram) This spreading herb seems to thrive in the borders in our garden, carpeting the front of borders. Like thyme it’s lovely in flower – with pink or purple flowers that attract masses of bees and butterflies. Best harvested before the pretty flowers appear - strip off a few of the leaves for tomato-based dishes such as pasta sauce or Bolognese, or pop the woody stems in a bouquet garnet. 12 | SE21 - June 2020

Sage This is another drought tolerant sun lover that hates soggy roots. Sage has lovely silvery leaves and there are varieties with golden leaves and the stunning purple sage, which looks stunning in full sun - they look great in borders with lavenders and other Mediterranean herbs. To keep them compact and avoid them getting leggy, they need a prune in early spring and again after flowering. As well as stuffing try sage with pork or in sage butter.

Bay This is a vigorous shrub that can get huge in the ground but can be trained into a ball or lollypop in a pot – it’ll need benefit from a yearly top dressing of mulch and given a monthly feed to keep it green and healthy. Bay leaves – fresh or dried - give a lovely flavour to stocks and soups. (Remove them before you do any blending!)

Rosemary A must have herb – rosemary provides the garden with good evergreen presence and is tasty too fab with roast lamb and roast veg. It has pretty flowers, varying in intensity, which comes early in the season, so are an excellent early bee magnet. It can get big but is easy to prune into a neat shape. R. ‘Benendon Blue’ and ‘Miss Jessopp’s Upright’ has a tall habit whereas creeping prostrate varieties are good hanging over walls.

It’s pretty tough and easy to grow but prefers a free draining soil so add grit to clay soils.

Chives Chives like sun and well-drained soil, but can grow in heavier soils in partial shade. Lift and divide them every few years. Although the flowers are pretty, snipping off buds will encourage growth. But you can eat the flowers in a salad and cut back the plant to the ground for a second flush. With a similar flavor to garlic and onions, they’ll liven up salads, eggs and cheese dishes.

plants – I bought a pot from the supermarket and divided it into five or so different pots. Sweet basil and Greek basil are two good varieties to look out for. Delicious sprinkled on pizzas or tomato and mozzarella salad or blend with pine nuts and Parmesan to make your own pesto.

Fennel The tall feathery foliage of fennel looks lovely with other perennials in a border and the fab yellow flowers are followed by edible seeds. The fresh leaves are tasty in salads and with seafood and collect the dried seeds to make teas.

Basil Grow in pots on a warm windowsill indoors or outside and avoid overwatering. It’s a very tender annual so don’t plant out until after the last frosts. You can grow it from seed or small

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Afternoon Tea Recipes from Suzanne James | www.suzannejames.co.uk

– this will stop them rising so much and give them a lovely gold amber coloured surface. Some people prefer the look of a glazed scone – this is always a topic of much debate in our kitchen, so do try both and see which you like best! Bake for 10-12 minutes until well risen and golden. Cool on a wire rack and serve with butter, your wonderful home made jam and maybe some clotted cream!

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For the Scones Makes 6-8 good sized scones • 225g/8oz self raising flour • 55g/2oz butter • 25g/1oz caster sugar • ¼ pint of milk • 1 teaspoon of baking powder • for rich scones add 2oz dried fruit • for cheese scones add 2oz grated cheese plus a teaspoon of English Mustard Powder and omit sugar Heat the oven to 180C/360F. Lightly grease a baking sheet. Sieve the flour and baking powder and rub in the butter with the fingertips. Mix In the sugar (and dried fruit or cheese and mustard if making the rich or cheese scones). Using a knife stir in the milk to make a soft dough. Turn on to a floured work surface and knead very lightly (be careful not to over-knead). Roll out to a thickness of about ½ to ¾” (2cm) thick. Use a 5cm/2” cutter to stamp out rounds and place on a baking sheet. Lightly knead together the rest of the dough and stamp out more scones to use it all up. * You can, if you wish, brush the top of the scones with a very well beaten egg using a pastry brush

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Makes about 3kg/6½lbs • 1.8kg whole strawberries • Juice of 3 lemons • 1.8kg jam sugar (not to be confused with preserving sugar) • knob of butter (optional) Hull the strawberries and combine them with the sugar and balsamic vinegar. Leave for 1 hour before serving. Wash, drain and hull the fruit and put in a large non-metallic bowl. Sprinkle over the lemon juice and sugar, gently mix. Cover with a tea towel and leave overnight. This helps to keep the strawberries whole. Put a saucer in the freezer. Tip the fruit and juice into a preserving pan or a 4.5 litre/8 pint heavy based pan. Heat gently, stirring, to dissolve the sugar (do not allow to boil until it has). Turn up the heat, then boil hard for exactly 4 minutes using a timer. Take off the heat to test for setting point. Spoon a little jam onto the cold saucer. After a couple of minutes gently push your finger through the jam and if the surface wrinkles it is ready. If not, return to the boil for 2 minutes, then re-test. Take off the heat and swirl in the butter – this should dissolve the scum, however if it doesn’t, skim with a slotted spoon, you can cool for 10-15 minutes before potting (if you pot it too soon all the fruit rises to the top). Stir gently to distribute the fruit, then pour into warm sterilised jars. Put waxed discs on straight away, cover with lids or cellophane circles, then seal, label and wipe the jars. The jam will keep for 6 months in a cool dry cupboard – unless you’ve got children of course!

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The Importance Of Taking Regular Breaks

Fitness tips with Leanne Spencer | www.bodyshotperformance.com

'm very lucky. I have an outdoor studio and once I have finished writing this article, I will get myself ready to take a break out there. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll actually lie down on my mat, I'll get my bolster out and Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll use my lovely lavender eye cushion. Ready to take a short break. And the reason I do this is it improves creativity, it improves focus, it improves productivity. I see me getting better value from the work I do by taking regular breaks, and it is not just me, it is not just anecdotal evidence.

The Benefits Of Short Breaks Some of us are still in lockdown and working from home. Work and private live can blur together into one long day for some of us. In those circumstances, taking regular breaks can be a game changer. As I mentioned briefly above, this is not just anecdotal. There have been lots of studies around the benefits of taking regular breaks. There is a 2011 study that I was reading earlier, from the University of Illinois, that found multiple benefits from employees taking regular breaks in their day. And by break, I mean it could be two minutes in an hour, it could be taking a solid lunch break, or 10-minute breaks every few hours, maybe one in the morning, one in the afternoon. But they found that employee engagement went up as well as improved focus, improved concentration, improved creativity as well, and better problem solving. So tonnes of reasons why it's really valuable to take a break.

Sun, Fresh Air And Walking Now, you may not have a studio, you may not want to meditate or lie out with a bolster and an eye cushion. Maybe you stand in the sun, get some glorious benefits of Vitamin D3 and the energy that the sun provides. Maybe you go off and do something completely different, but try and make it non screen-based whatever it is you do. And what would be fabulous is to go out and just take a 10-minute brisk walk somewhere. Get fresh oxygenated blood flowing around the body, good for neurogenesis, the creation of new brain cells, good for the whole body to move. That is what we were designed to do. We were designed to locomote. We were designed to move. 16 | SE21 - June 2020

Human Movement So that is my tip for you. I know most of you are still working from home. You probably have sat your desk, you are getting those tight quadriceps, you are getting those slumped shoulders. A lot of our clients are reporting that they are feeling stiffer than ever because they are just not moving at all, not even to get on a train, or to go to their manager's office, or walk around the building. So please do move and please do take breaks. Both of them are going to have work wonders for your professional and your personal life, and make you feel better.

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The BuyThemACoffee_KCH fundraiser was set up on March 23rd. I have lived in this area for nearly 20 years so I know a lot of people who work at Kings; my eldest son was born there and a number of friends have received essential and sometimes lifesaving treatment from the hospital. www.gofundme.com/f/buy-them-a-coffee-kch | Instagram buythemacoffee_kch/ When the pandemic started, I searched to see if there were any local initiatives set up to support Kings during the crisis, and not finding any, I decided to do it myself. Early on, I was advised to speak to the hospital to find out what support they needed: Kingâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s was already handling covid patients when we spoke to them - and the management quickly decided that staff wellbeing needed to be an essential part of their response to the crisis. They centralised all the wellbeing through the hospital boardroom

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“Just providing small things for staff like a place to just come and sit has gone a long way in making people feel relaxed. Staff have realised that someone is there for them; that Kings and the community have thought of them. The fact that someone is looking out for them is so appreciated and its now week 9 and they are so grateful that the support has continued.” Khadija E (redeployed non-evasive cardiology staff member working in the wellness hub)

which was set up to serve staff with a growing set of support services: within a week meditation, massage, counselling support, chaplaincy; meal deliveries and food donations were all being centralised through the hubs. BuyThemACoffee_KCH was lucky enough to speak to the right person on that first Monday and, with overwhelming support from the community and local businesses, we delivered 30 boxes of fruit to stock the wellness hub within 2 days of launch. Since then we have continued to partner with local businesses to deliver food and supplies to the wellness hubs; whether that partnership has been via fundraising events (e.g. the sale of NHS t-shirts by Hospital Records in Herne Hill; Wine Box Sales by @SalonWineStore in Brixton; Yoga Classes by @ taniabrownyoga; gourmet dinners hosted by guest chefs and delivered by 161 Food and Drink) or weekly food orders made for staff visiting the hubs (Ayres Bakery; Suzanne James Catering; Cinnamon Tree Bakery; Smith and Brock; or food donations by the likes of Bermondsey Street Bees, Odyssey; Petitou and countless others. The generosity and

kindness demonstrated is testament to our fabulous community of people and businesses. At the end of the first week, there were 14 Covid wards at Kings’ peaking at 31 wards during the height of the Pandemic (Easter weekend). Initially, our fundraiser focused on getting food to the frontline staff who had little time to leave their wards, whether that be delivering groceries for them to take home with them or supplying meals to eat before, during or after shift. The volume of support from local businesses, charities and fundraisers swelled with the crisis and the wellness hubs were required to handle and distribute thousands of meals each day as well as servicing the hub spaces for a shared space for staff to step away to during their shift. The wellness hubs are staffed by redeployed King’s staff and volunteers so the learning curve has been steep and challenging, but throughout it all they have kept staff wellbeing at the heart of their intentions and it’s been amazing to see what is possible with the right support from the community and industry. 10 weeks on and there are still over 2,000 staff visiting the wellness hubs every day; there are 5 wellness hubs at Denmark Hill and staff continue to need a place to step away to and the wellness focus is shifting away from delivering to food to the wards to providing a shared space that provides essential staff services and a place to enjoy a socially distanced cup of tea and a doughnut with others. BuyThemACoffee_KCH has now raised over £43,000 and we continue to deliver food to the wellness hubs four times a week. Our plan is to continue supplying food through the end of June if our fundraising allows for it. We hear that there a desire by King’s to continue this commitment to wellness hubs and staff support informed by the learnings of the crisis. If there is a positive to this crisis, this feels like one to celebrate.

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Featured in Fifteen

eatured in Fifteen was set up in 2017 by two good friends, Helen Holden and Maya Weier. After the devastating impact of Grenfell and the terrorist attacks in London, they wanted to create an evening of positivity and hope that would pull their community together. They sat and thrashed out ideas around ‘What would be our perfect night out?’ The answer was - an evening of interesting discussions that provoke us to think more openly. The idea of providing an audience with more than one speaker (with a drink in hand) in a considered time frame (15 minutes) felt like an interesting challenge for them…So that’s when Featured in Fifteen first came to life. Their events (up until Covid19) were a live event held bi-monthly in the Signal Pub, Forest Hill. Helen and Maya would work together finding their features with very different personal stories to explore their theme; be it someone that has been challenged by mental health, an artist that is working for societal impact, explorer, writer, someone living with terminal illness… you name it they seek it and they find it. For those that have had the privilege to be at one of their events, you will all have experienced how unique these nights are and what inspiration and intrigue each and every one of them presents. Since 2017 Helen and Maya have successfully hosted 15 events representing almost a 100 individuals. Helen and Maya set out from the very beginning to provide a night that was inclusive to all and just by looking at their past events on their website (featured15.co.uk) you can see the rich diversity of age, gender and ethnicity within every single one of their evenings; fulfilling their ambition to amplify community and bring people back together. With Covid19 hitting our shores and sending shockwaves through every aspect of our personal freedoms, like so many other events of this nature, the pandemic presents bleak outlook on what their future featured in fifteen events will look like. But Helen and Maya, true to form, haven’t let this stop them. After spending a few weeks pondering what their landscape of lockdown looked like and readjusting to their new norm, they connected via a few phone calls and went back to the drawing board. They decided that it was time to work on their podcasting presence. 20 | SE21 - June 2020

Very quickly they found an online platform that they could podcast from separate locations. Within hours, miraculously they not only found something that could work for them but something that appeared pretty straight-forward to use. If it’s one thing they do extremely well together, they certainly do not waste time. The conversation happened in their separate homes on Easter Sunday and two hours later they were recording their first episode. By the following Friday (17th April) it was available for download - the story of featured in fifteen. Since then they have released 3 podcast interviews with past features and recorded six more, their podcasts are scheduled to be released on Spotify and iTunes every Friday. For Helen and Maya Covid19 allowed them time to explore the expansion of their project which until then they felt challenged to make happen. They were determined to not let unpredictable times and societal challenges get in the way of doing what they do best - bringing real stories and open conversations to their community.

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Tuesday 23 June: Webinar: How to deal with change The only constant in life, 7pm. Led by Tracy from Way to Wellbeing, this will look at how our heads and hearts deal with change and tools you can utilise to manage change positively. www.bellhouse.co.uk.

Laugh Train Comedy Nights Focus on our values- 7pm. Led by Tracy from Way to Wellbeing, this explores looking at how to define your values and how to take steps towards a more meaningful life given the last few months which has been a time to stop and reflect and notice what is important in our life. www.bellhouse.co.uk.

We are your local comedy club (Laugh Train Home) and are doing ZOOM comedy nights every Tuesday, 8-9pm. June 2nd: COMEDY FOR THE CURIOUS: Host Robyn Perkins (Sydney Fringe Comedy Award Winner) asked the big, small and stupid life questions, and tries to explain them with science. She is joined by Jen Brister (Live at the Apollo) and Jacob James Garcia.

Wednesday 17 June: Protect your baby: Q&A session about vaccinations

7.30pm-8.15pm. Get answers to your questions about vaccinations for your baby with paediatrician Dr David Elliman in this online Q&A session. Vaccination is one of the best ways of protecting the health of young children. Most parents accept having these as part of normal childcare. However, some parents have questions they would like answering before they go ahead. This Q&A session will look at some of the common questions (what’s in vaccines; can vaccines cause immune overload; why do we give vaccines to very young babies; what about homeopathy) and give you an opportunity to ask your own. www.bellhouse.co.uk 22 | SE21 - June 2020

June 9th: Straight Stand-Up ft. SINDHU VEE (Live at the Apollo), Matt Green, one act TBD, plus host Robyn Perkins(Sydney Fringe 2019 Comedy Award Winner)! June 16th: COMEDY FOR THE CURIOUS: Host Robyn Perkins (Sydney Fringe Comedy Award Winner) asked the big, small and stupid life questions, and tries to explain them with science. She is joined by Nathan Caton (Live at the Apollo) and one act TBD! You now need a ticket (£5) which you can get on DMN. Full details at www.designmynight.com.

Wednesday 24 June: Cooking with Scissors – Via Zoom An opportunity for local business professionals to meet, make new contacts and gain new business. To find out more or register your interest in attending, please email: sbn@cookingwithscissors.co.uk.

Lockdown Tips for the Top

Prendergast Sixth Form is an outstanding mixed sixth form located on Hilly Fields in Lewisham. As Year 11 students have completed their GCSE courses earlier than expected, students have found themselves with some extra time on their hands. Prendergast Sixth Form is using this period to help prepare prospective students for post16 study so that they can make a strong and competitive start once they begin their A Level and BTEC courses. Simon Conway, head of sixth form stated, “This is an excellent time for students to fully prepare for the rigors of post-16 study. The increased difficulty of A Level and BTEC courses can be challenging and we want to ensure that all of our students joining us in September have the skills necessary to excel in their subjects from day one of Year 12.” The Sixth Form have created a programme of transition work for all subjects that is released to students every two weeks to ensure they are consistently preparing themselves for September. This has been extremely well received by parents and students eager to develop the skills they will need when they start their courses. All transition work can be found on the Prendergast Sixth Form website under the heading ‘Y11 Transition Work’.

However, transition work isn’t the only way students can prepare themselves for sixth form study. Simon Conway continued to say, “Success at post-16 begins with a broad understanding and deep passion for subjects. We are encouraging all of our prospective students to widen their understanding of their chosen subjects through exploring free online courses on www.futurlearn. com, exploring online articles and watching documentaries or TED talks on their areas of interest.” This is a challenging time for many, but Prendergast Sixth Form is supporting students to use this time as productively as possible so that all those that join in September can make a head start in the next stage of their education If you would like to find out more about Prendergast Sixth Form and how students can prepare further for Year 12, or would like any information about how to apply please email: 6thforminfo@prendergast-school.com

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Homeworking Under COVID-19

he coronavirus pandemic finds employees either furloughed or working from home. If you are a furloughed employee, this means you remain on your employer’s payroll but you are not required to undertake any work for your employer during your period of furlough. Any work requested from you is a deliberate breach. However those of you working from home may have the same question that I was asked recently, “can my father invoice my employer for the additional use of electricity?” Prima facie, I thought, how much additional electricity is being used via an 18 months old laptop? Then I reflected and recognised the great rush to transform employees into homeworkers overnight has left a gap in some quarters. I wonder how many employers have reflected or even addressed this small matter? Similarly how many employees working from home have had this matter addressed by their employer? It would be interesting to see the results of this research. As some background good news before addressing the main question, employees working from home should be aware of the following nontaxable employment benefits of the provision of: • a mobile phone and SIM cards without a restriction on private use; • a laptop, tablet, computer, and office supplies for business purposes without significant private use. However, the same does not apply to office equipment purchased by the employee and reimbursed by your employer. These purchases are taxable and must be reported on a PAYE settlement agreement. HMRC has already put in place guidance to avoid employers being bombarded with a mountain of claims for household expenses. All employees forced to work from home due to measures to control the coronavirus pandemic are covered by HMRC home-working expenses rules. HMRC have recently updated its working from home expenses

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guidelines to include employees working from home due to COVID-19 where: • their workplace has closed, or • they are following advice to self-isolate. As a reminder furloughed employees are not covered, because they are being paid by their employer but they should not be undertaking any form of employment duties for their employer. The working from home rules applicable 2020-21 allows employers to pay employees a maximum of £6 per week or £26pm to cover their additional costs if they have to work from home. For employees home working in 2019-20, the maximum allowance was £4pw or £18pm. There will be no requirement to keep records to claim this working from home allowance. Homeworkers can go to https://www.tax.service.gov.uk/claim-taxrelief-expenses/who-claiming-for, the HMRC online tool to check if the expenses they have incurred in working from home qualify for relief. In the pandemic rush to advise or request employees to work from home, employers and employees may have overlooked the cornerstone of homeworking best practice, homeworking arrangements. When requiring or requesting employees work from home employers should ensure that there is a written homeworking agreement in place, outlining the homeworking arrangements, the equipment and supplies to be provided by the employer and any expenses that will be met. Whilst under the current climate this may be difficult, given the volume of employees that some employers are having to relocate to home working and the daily changing operating and political environment, it is still advisable that arrangements are put in place to minimise and avoid any future disputes or challenges arising. At the same time as the homeworking arrangements are being crafted and agreed between employers and employees, employers should also consider the impact of homeworking within reference to their telecommunications security and GDPR policies. Pandemic or not, the rush to homeworking goes beyond the distribution of mobile phones and laptops to employees and waving them goodbye, until we meet again.

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Link Age Southwark Link Age Southwark adapts services for older people in Southwark and achieves top quality standard award! The past two months have been trying for the whole community. And charities such as Link Age Southwark have had to step up to a whole new level while serving the needs of our older people. With the social distancing rules in place due to the COVID-19 pandemic, they have had to suspend their over 20 groups and converted face to face befriending relationships to telephone befriending. Fortunately, with their amazing army of volunteers, they have risen to the challenge and have succeeded in reaching out to even more older people, having set up over 40 new matches on top of their 160 existing ones. Their group volunteers and tutors have been heroes too, keeping up their activities with group members, conducting chats, singing and exercise over the telephone and Zoom. Link Age Southwark has also set up a shopping service for the first time for people who are completely isolated. More plans are in place including setting up conference calls with groups of older people. Living their ‘can do’ value has never been so evident! While these measures are no substitute for the human contact that Link Age Southwark’s usual services bring, they have been able to enjoy the good news that they have been awarded Investing in Volunteers Quality Standard, recognising the excellent experience they provide volunteers. “We are delighted to share this news at this time – we all need a boost! Achieving this award is testament to the dedication of our team to involve volunteers and provide them the best possible volunteering experience we can”, says Sophie Wellings, director of Link Age Southwark. “And our volunteers nothing less, with their dedication to helping the older people in our community to ensure that they are not isolated and lonely, particularly at this time”. Investing in Volunteers (IiV) is the UK quality standard for excellence in volunteer management. IiV aims to improve the quality of 26 | SE21 - June 2020

Our volunteer Ori on one of her regular calls with her befriendee in one of Link Age Southwark's new telephone befriending relationships.

the volunteering experience for all volunteers and for organisations to acknowledge the enormous contribution made by volunteers. IiV is managed by the UK Volunteering Forum and delivered by National Council of Volunteer Organisations (NCVO). Link Age Southwark was assessed against a range of best practice standards and proved to excel in all aspects of working with their volunteers. This has been well tested during the past two months with the increase in volunteer recruitment they have experienced. If you are interested in hearing more about volunteering with Link Age Southwark, visit www.linkagesouthwark.org/volunteering or call the team on 020 8299 2623 (voicemail is being constantly monitored at this time).

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Call 0808 196 3646 or visit nhsvolunteerresponders.org.uk Help is available if you have a medical condition which makes you vulnerable to COVID-19, especially if you are over 70. You also qualify if you are pregnant or have a disability. Royal Voluntary Service is a registered charity 1015988 (England and Wales) & SC038924 (Scotland).

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Can a dog be too ‘Friendly’?

Pets Corner with Leonie St Clair | www.londondogstraining.co.uk

he problem with over- friendly dogs and puppies is something I have written about before, however, with so many of you getting new pups, now feels a good time for a refresh. How can a dog ever be too friendly you ask? To be clear a friendly, relaxed outlook is great, we do not want nervous, uptight dogs and puppies. However, there is friendly and then there is rude, boorish, overbearing behaviour that is erroneously labelled as friendly. Dogs are intelligent enough but they are not capable of self-analysis or reflective thought. A dog is incapable of reasoning that their own behaviour might have caused another dog or person to respond to them in an aggressive manner. There lies the rub. Allow your dog or your puppy to impose itself uninvited onto other dogs and you run the risk of an unfriendly response which in turn may lead your dog to learn other dogs are unreliable, resulting in anxiety and possibly aggression down the line. Of course, some dogs may welcome interactions with most dogs they meet (think classic Labrador). Like humans, our canine friends can be incredibly gregarious and want to be friends with everyone and everything. But others are naturally aloof and picky about interactions (think classic Border Collie). It really pays to help your dog learn how to recognise when another dog does not want to interact- this does not always come as naturally as we’d like to believe. Some dogs are great at reading other dogs; others seem to have a blind spot in this area and are oblivious to subtle canine signals only getting it when the other, exasperated dog lunges and growls. The final group might understand but have got into a bad habit of rather enjoying the drama and fallout of their unwanted attentions and I blame the owners. If there is one thing puppy owners can do that will have lifelong benefits it is to begin to teach the pup the meaning of dog manners and how to interact with other dogs, and humans, politely. One real positive of lockdown is that social distancing means that pups and young dogs should not be careering around the park

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like little hooligans. A good socialisation routine means your pup should be exposed to other dogs but under control, learning to ‘read’ other dogs and as a by-product to learn what kinds of behaviour lead to pleasant interactions. One on one meetings with older, calmer dogs can teach your pup volumes in canine social etiquette. Puppy owners should also educate themselves about canine social signalling- how to know when a dog is happy, when a dog is not interested and when an aggressive response is on the cards. If all breeds looked the same this might be straightforward, but major differences in body shape between dog breeds and types, means there is a lot to learn. Puppy and dog owners alike need to understand what happy interactions looks like and how to interrupt them once things look as though they are too intense or getting out of control. Most of all, please don’t allow other dogs to ‘teach’ your pup what goes and what doesn’t. Not all dogs are good or competent teachers. A puppy badly scared by clumsy discipline from an older dog can develop issues later on. In brief; loose, bouncy body language with gaps and where the dog seem to take it in turns is positive. Stiff or very still body language, overly fixated interactions where one dog just keeps on at the other without breaks or changing ‘sides’ spells trouble. For more information see: https:// bit.ly/36gnOY3

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Mindset Matters With Becca Teers | www.healthy-habits.me | www.mindplus-experience.com How to Deal with Your Emotions and Stay Calm & Positive It’s human nature to not want to feel pain (emotional or physical pain) and this is why we often prefer to ‘bottle up’ negative emotions rather than feeling them and expressing them. Another aspect of this is that many of us have grown up without being shown how to express our emotions in a healthy way and so we can become afraid of them. We’re scared of a bad reaction or confrontation when we do say how we feel. We may also have learnt to believe certain emotions are ‘wrong’, such as anger, fear, dissapointment, sadness or jelousy. The truth is these emotions are natural and normal and they just need acknowledging (even just to yourself) to become ‘unstuck’, allowing you to release them and feel better.

What happens to suppressed emotions? We push our feelings down but by doing this they don’t go away. They sit beneath the surface and can affect us negatively in different ways. Our emotions are held in the subconscious part of the mind: the part that is not under our conscious control. If we don’t identify them and release them they tend to fester and can be unhealthy for us. For example, if you’re upset about something a partner has said or done and you don’t acknowledge these feelings in a healthy way, you may become more and more resentful and this can affect your relationship negatively. Using this example you may only need to identify these feelings just for yourself and assess whether you do need to express them to the person involved, or not on this occasion. But if you don’t even articulate these emotions to yourself, you’re not really dealing with them at all.

depression, insomnia and physical symptoms like stomach issues, headaches, neck and shoulder tension and pain.

You need to feel it to heal it Here’s a simple tool for acknowledging your feelings and in doing so they become ‘felt’ and will simply pass. This is a super-simple way to acknowledge and process an emotion in order to let it go so that it no longer affects you.

Thought/Emotion Interrupter It is best to write this down, but you can also just run through the process in your head if it is not possible to get pen and paper out! By acknowledging the thought/feeling rather than trying to push it down or letting it take over, it will be processed & released. The second part of this technique allows you to identify an alternative positive feeling, which starts to train the brain to be more positive and resourceful.

Fill in the blanks below when you are feeling triggered; 1) “I am feeling........................................................................................ because...................................................................................................... ” Stay with the feeling for a couple of minutes and breathe. Now the turnaround, which gives you the opportunity to identify and feel an alternative or more helpful (or even just a neutral) way to think about something: 2) “I would prefer to feel................................................................. and feeling this way will allow me to

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We may use distractions like overeating, drinking alcohol, drugs, watching TV, excessive work or shopping to prevent us facing unwanted feelings. These distractions work in the short-term but suppressing and not dealing with negative emotions can put stress on both the mind and body in the long-term. This can result in anxiety,

If, like many of us processing your feelings is a new habit just practice this tool whenever you need it. The habit will become easier and more natural the more you do it. Realise that by developing this new behaviour you are looking after your mental and physical health and also improving your relationship with yourself and others.

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The Last Word – Mehreen Lodhi a homage to my love for Dulwich Park. It is called Autumnus Dulwich.

The one thing you couldn’t do without? Almost needless to say that as an artist I love going to all the exhibitions at Dulwich Picture Gallery. You will often find me there looking at the paintings and exhibitions closely.

Cafe, pub or bar? I love going to the café at the West Norwood Picturehouse. The reclining sofas against the large glass windows looking out onto the church and vibrant high street will makes me spend an extra hour sipping a cup of tea or coffee there. The library integrated in the building is also friendly and cosy place. I hope to be exhibiting there in July. If out and about do come up to see my work there.

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I am an artist living in Dulwich, London. I have pursued my passion for art vigorously alongside practicing as a lawyer over the last decade.

How long have you lived in the area? I grew up in Dulwich and love everything about it. I was born in Pakistan and attended a private school there before moving to Dulwich, London. I was 12 years old when we moved to Dulwich, it was in the height of the 80s when I used to see young people in Dr Martens and punk hairstyles walking along the streets and Madonna topped the music charts. I have lived in Dulwich for over three decades.

What has changed most during that time? Not much but places like The Rosendale used to have smoky windows and you could never see what was going on inside. I was always curious and imagined trays full of cigarette butts next to empty bottles of wines and beer on the tables. Now it is a gastro clean pub and I love going there. Dulwich Park seemed to be in need of repair and now it is landscaped and beautiful. What is really nice is that the Victorian features have been retained in the park. One of my paintings is paying 32 | SE21 - June 2020

I love to go to Richmond Park as I love deer. It takes some patience and stillness to be able to get close to the deer and observe them in their habitat. I have a painting that I did from a beautiful day at Richmond Park, called Autumn Deer. These things that influence me have found their way to my website MehreenLodhiArts.com and my Instagram mehreen_l_

When I want to relax... Meditate and yoga. I have a beautiful mature garden with green gage, plum, cherry, pear and apple trees and plenty of roses. In the morning the sun shines on the trees and lies gently on the grass which has stayed green all through the winter. The pull is strong enough to get me out there even in winter, so I dress warm and step out for my relaxing yoga and meditation sessions. @mehreen_l_ | www.MehreenLodhiArts.com

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