Is self-doubt stopping you from moving forward? 5 ways to step forward with self-confidence. lifestyleanytime.com.au/self-doubt-to-self-confidence/ Angie Emde
February 20, 2018
Am I doing enough? Am I going to be successful? Am I doing this correctly? Is this where I should be right now? Everyone at some time questions decisions, thoughts, ideas, things in life. It is natural. It is life. A few years ago I had a major setback when I started to self- doubt myself. I was working in real estate at the time and felt like I was up against a brick wall with nowhere to go. I know I had the skills for the job and was until that point doing quite well, so what changed. I changed I started to doubt my abilities, I doubted my career choice and questioned the support and my values.
When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt – Honore De Balzac While studying at a local university last year, I had an ‘Aha moment’ while discussing the expressions of power. It was at this time I realised I had the power to shape my life and my world and it started with me as I have the power within. The power within to change my thoughts and recognize my value and self-worth.
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Progress forward requires stepping through self-doubt and trusting yourself so you can have the confidence to move forward in life and take on new adventures and opportunities with confidence. Opportunities present themselves, a new job, a promotion, stepping into business for yourself, starting a business while working, yet you feel stuck, frozen on the spot. Self-doubt holds you back. You are not alone. You know you have the knowledge, the skill, the time, the want to go for the opportunity yet the lack of self-confidence is stopping you move forward. You are not alone. Self-doubt and lack of confidence are normal. It shows signs of learning, developing skills and growing into the person you want to be. The reason you allow the self-doubt to take hold is you listen to others who doubt you or bigger still you listen to yourself and you doubt yourself. Your doubt, your feelings have the power over you. Take back your power. You have the power within you to step through self-doubt and grow in confidence.
Below are 5 ways I have stepped through self-doubt and grown in confidence. 1. Acknowledge the doubt. Acknowledge the doubt especially the self-doubt. With self-doubt, the voice in your head saying you cannot, answer back. Say I can, and I am, I am learning new skills every day and I can do this. Believe in yourself. Say I can every day and every day you will grow in confidence.
2. Don’t worry what others say or think of you. Don’t worry what others say or think of you. It is not the way to progress forward. To move forward with confidence, try new opportunities and grow from them. Learn new things, discover new skills. The dreams and vision you hold for your future self can only proceed when you let go of what others think. Do nothing and you may feel sorry for yourself for not trying. I used to love showing the naysayers that I can and I will. Every day I believe I get closer towards my goals by taking action.
3. Draw on your past successes.
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Draw on your past successes, compliments, awards, accomplishments, all the little things that you have achieved are worth holding onto and drawing on when self-doubt sets in. Draw on the compliment of ‘doing a fantastic job’, ‘your worth your weight in gold’, these are ways to show you can do it. You have before you can again. Look at self-doubt like a plateau in achieving a result. Ask yourself why have I the self-doubt? Remind yourself that you have the power within to succeed. Picture the success. Self-doubt is a fear. A fear of failure, a fear of disappointment. No matter the fear it is possible to draw on your past successes to step through to self-confidence. For me, self-doubt is a fear, a fear of failure, a fear of disappointing others, yet I have mentioned not to worry what others say or think. My fear of failure and self-doubt stems from childhood when I got laughed at for getting an answer wrong in class. In fact, lessons had not started, I was at my seat waiting for the class to start when a peer asked me to answer a hangman question, most of the letters were on the board, the whole class listened and laughed when I got it wrong. I did not know the answer. I did not follow pop music, however, this experience stopped me from speaking up on many occasions as not to be riddled, laughed at or to disappoint myself and others.
4. Be a sponge. Be a sponge, that is read positive quotes and absorb self-development books daily or listen to positive audio books, podcasts or YouTube videos. Postive talk is so motivational and inspiring. If you have a dream, a vision, a desire to grow in confidence, find people who excel with confidence and listen to them.
I have turned my car into a learning machine by listening to podcasts, listening to webinars, listening to self-development on YouTube. I have found this a great way to boost confidence and learn new skills.
5. Write in a gratitude journal. 3/4
Writing in a gratitude journal is a great way to start and end the day. At the end of the day write things down that you are grateful for include your feelings in your gratitude. Focus on the positive not negative as if you focus on lack you may feel empty. By expressing positive feelings more positivity will be drawn to you. To start with write three things you are grateful for that day. So what is self-doubt? Self-doubt is when you get in your way. Take your power, step through self-doubt by doing. Take the promotion, start your blog, start your own business, take the holiday you have always wanted. Focus on success, not on the fears and self-doubt. Success comes from moving in the direction of your vision, your dreams. Life is not about having the answers, it is about taking action and learning by doing. Seek and you shall find. Choose to focus on your power within and move forward with selfconfidence. Have a great day. Angie Emde www.lifestyleanytime.com.au This blog has affiliate links see disclaimers
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