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Wellness

BY COACH CHRIS

Years ago, before I married my awesome husband, Dr. Shondell Jones (co-owner of Kinetic Physical Therapy & Wellness), I had taken my car to the mechanic shop because I was hearing a noise that did not sound normal. The mechanic walked around the car several times. He told me to “rev up” my engine as he put his ear close to the place where I was hearing the noise. He got down on the ground and looked under my car. He lifted my hood and began looking at the various parts of the engine. “Aww, he said—here is the problem.” Of course, whatever he described or named as the problem; I had no earthly clue what that was or what it meant, but he made a statement about my problem that has turned into a life principle for me—including marriage. The mechanic said, “Ms. Christy, your problem with this car is that you have not been doing the routine stuf and that has now caused you to have to do a major repair!” I thought I would have screamed because that one statement spoke volumes to me, even past the $1500 cost for what was happening with my car.

You see, in so many areas of our lives, for one reason or another, many of us struggle to create and execute routine investments and those neglects leave us with major life repairs. As you are preparing for this phenomenal season of your life, becoming a married woman, you will of course receive a lot of encouragement, advice, and pointers. I have been working with couples for over twenty years now and this life principle applies to marriage in more ways than one. If I could be your life coach for just a moment (and this session is FREE OF CHARGE), please do not neglect the routine investments that could prevent major repairs.

You may say, “Okay Coach Chris, make investments in what?” I am so glad that you asked that question. I believe that there are several areas that are super important for you to invest in routinely as you are taking on the role of a wife.

NUMBER 1: Invest in yourself. It is important for you to do what you need to do to take care of your physical body, mind, emotions, fnances, dreams and whatever else is important to you. I cannot begin to share in this article, the number of women who put so much efort into planning their wedding day that they neglected to pour into themselves so that their cups could be full enough for their spouse to access. YOU ARE IMPORTANT and you do not want to forget it. YOU MATTER. For you to be the kind of wife that you desire to be, you must intentionally make those deposits and investments so that your life can yield return. You need to feed what feeds you on a regular basis and make sure that you have space in your life for those times of nourishment for your soul and spirit.

Not Just Repair

NUMBER 2: Invest in constant communication skills. Communication to a marriage is like oxygen for the body—without the marriage goes lifeless. You are going to want to make sure you have a true understanding of communication, communication styles, communication barriers, and communication timing. You will need to LEARN your spouse and LEARN how to, when to, and what to communicate with them specifcally. Every person is diferent, and we all hear and process information diferently. Communication on a regular basis will be important if you are planning to have a successful relationship that does not require consistent repairs. If you need to take a communication course, read books, or meet with a coach or counselor—I would recommend you take this seriously and invest in your communication skills.

NUMBER 3: Invest in forgiveness regularly. If you can understand that hurt is a part of the human experience, it will save you so much time, energy, and emotional stability. I am not saying that I believe that you should just let people run all over you emotionally and do whatever they desire without you giving feedback—but I am saying, in a marriage, forgiveness is an investment that you make often. It is critical because if you are making a commitment to live with another IMPERFECT person for the rest of your life in a way that pleases God, then that means that you are opening yourself up to periodic times of misunderstanding, frustration, and even some hurt. When you understand that forgiveness is a gift that you give, it frees you to love without hesitation.

I hope that as you are preparing for your beautiful wedding day that you will take a moment and consider this conversation that you and I are having through this article. I hope that you will remember what my mechanic shared with me, to invest in wellness so that you can skip unnecessary repairs. Until next time, I pray blessings upon your marriage, that it will be flled with lots of love and joy!

Christy Jones, also know as Coach Chris, is an improvement coach for leaders. She helps them break free from feeling overwhelmed and prepares them to take their teams to high levels of performance. Contact her at www.beginmonday.com.

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