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COUNTERFEIT GOD

- WHAT KIND OF GOD DO YOU WORSHIP?

THE INVISIBLES

- EXPLORING GENERATIONAL DIFFERENCES

- A FIERY CRASH, A DIVINE APPOINTMENT, AND A MIRACLE MORNING

ADVICE FROM 50+ MARRIAGES - TIPS ON SUSTAINING A GODLY MARRIAGE

CAN ROMANCE LAST?

HOW TO KEEP YOUR ROMANCE STRONG Page 1

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TIDINGS FEBRUARY 2011

Faith Sharing

Likewise, we are to be people who share our faith with others.

At our Membership Exploration class, one of our pastors, Spencer Smith, often presents our “Objective 2:”

One of the best ways to keep our faith active is to share it with others. While we don’t want to be obnoxious about it, we do want to be contagious. We want others to experience God’s love and grace. Sharing our faith should be an important part of our lives.

“Every Member living to love, seek, and save the lost through Christ.”

In 2011, the Lord willing, we will finish the rest of the Book of Acts. We’ll be looking at this in different units.The first is entitled, “Faith Sharing.” We’ll look at Acts 17–19.We learn much from the example of the early Church.They did so many things so very well.

February 6 FAITH SHARING: “Persuasion” Acts 17:1–9 February 13 FAITH SHARING: “Open Hearts & Inquiring Minds” (The Word of God) Acts 17:10–15

When Spencer bought a new cell phone, he would hold it up and talk about how much he enjoyed it. He would describe its features and applications. He would tell us how he was sold on his new phone. He was not embarrassed in the least by being an “iPhone evangelist.” It was a natural thing for Spencer to describe since his phone had become such a big part of his life.

In many ways, that’s what faith sharing is—one person who’s experienced something good sharing with another person about that process. Instead of our object of focus being a cell phone, we like to talk about our faith.

When we share our faith, we don’t have to describe everything about it or try to guess at how the “phone” was made. Sometimes too much information is irritating. One of the best ways to share our faith is simply to have conversations with people. Instead of feeling compelled to make long, memorized speeches, we can simply ask good questions. Instead of feeling we have to answer all of the questions people have about God, faith, and the Bible; we can simply say, “I don’t know.” I’ve said “I don’t know” numerous times because I genuinely don’t know the answers to many questions.

February 20 FAITH SHARING: “Jesus and the Resurrection” Acts 17:16–34 February 27 FAITH SHARING: “Preaching/Teaching/Faith Sharing” Acts 18:1–5 March 6 FAITH SHARING: “The Holy Spirit” Acts 19:1–7 Paul loved to go and share at the Jewish synagogue at the outset of his visit to a new city. The Jewish people had the Old Testament scriptures. That’s where Paul would begin. He was quite passionate about his faith and experienced wonderful conversions and unbelievable fellowship. He also experienced suffering and persecution. But he was a passionate man who was trying to persuade others to follow Jesus.

When we are respectful and kind, people enjoy talking about faith. As Paul said: “Though I speak in the tongues of men and angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or clanging cymbal.”

Faith sharing is an extension of a heart that loves God and has a desire for others to know God, too. When faith and hope are wrapped in love, it makes for a very attractive package.

Dr. Tom Harrison (senior pastor)

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What’s Happening Counterfeit Gods Alright God, I’m Ready for My Close-up Women of the Word What Thirst?

Can Romance Last?

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Tom’s column

last month he listed several of the things that will have his special attention in 2011. One of those was our local outreach ministry. I’ve talked briefly about this in recent columns, as has Radhika Mittapalli, our local outreach director.This month I will give a more thorough view of the ministry and where it is going.

A major outcome of our long range planning (LRP) effort was the strong indication that Asbury’s members wanted to see our local outreach grow as measured by participation and by the impact on our community.

No other subject received more feedback from the study than did local outreach. Following that study a number of suggestions were made concerning the direction that we might take. As you probably know by now,Tom wants all of our missions and outreach to be guided by the principles outlined in When Helping Hurts by Corbett and Fikkert. Simply stated, the idea is to focus more on development than on immediate relief. The purpose is to help people develop so that their long-term prospects are improved and so they will not need ongoing relief. This goal of development underlies Tom’s thinking in all aspects of ministry. (If you are interested in missions or local outreach, please read that book.)

Most of 2010 was spent getting ready for this expansion. As Radhika reported in her article last month, we have restructured the ministry and have a new local outreach board in place. Consistent with Asbury’s model of ministry, this board will work closely with Radhika in both direction and execution.

Another important point came out of the long range planning exercise. Our missions and outreach ministries should play a more explicit role in the discipleship development of our members. In addition to the specific goal of a mission/outreach project, there will also be the goals expressed in our MVO (Mission, Vision, Objectives), which outlines how discipleship is expressed at Asbury. So “development” applies both to those we are reaching out to and to each of us as we participate. (If you are not familiar with our MVO, please visit our website at www.asburytulsa.org/about/ what-we-believe.html.)

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The board has adopted another principle, also supported by the findings from the LRP. Asbury seeks to not only impact the community by our ministries but also to actively engage with other organizations and individuals. Not every project will be “Asbury only.”

A relatively new opportunity for local service is Second Saturday. On the second Saturday of every month, people meet at the church and are taken by buses to local projects. This is a great opportunity for families to serve together. The idea was borrowed from another church and brought here by two of our pastors,Todd Craig and Spencer Smith.The program is run by an incredibly dedicated volunteer, Betty Higgins, to whom much thanks is due. If you are looking for a way to begin your engagement in service ministry or if you want something in which to participate as a family, I encourage you to check this out. Hundreds of Asburians have found it very effective and enjoyable.

Tom has spoken often about his desire to see the full MVO realized at Asbury. Appropriate here is the balance between Bible study and biblical living. He does not want our members to continually gain Bible knowledge while not applying it to service. Likewise, he does not want service independent of a biblical worldview. If you are part of a group that is looking to add the “Becoming” aspect to your group life, or if that is true for you as an individual and you want to express it through local outreach, please contact Radhika at rmittapalli@asburytulsa.org.

PS. Asbury had another strong year financially in 2010. Thank you. It is only through the obedience and generosity of our members that ministries such as local outreach are possible.

Matthew 6:21: “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

Gods.

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You’ve got one.

“They did what?”

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hat might be what you said when you first heard the story of the Israelites and their sojourn in the wilderness from Egypt to the Promised Land.

You can read in Exodus 32 that after all of the miracles God had performed in securing their release from Pharaoh and in launching them on their trek to the homeland He had given them, they turned their back on Him…again! Only this time, they not only turned their back on God, they in effect left Him and sought other gods to worship and lead them.

Moses went up the mount to talk with God and receive further guidance, and the people “became restless,” and, because God was not pleasing them, they literally took things into their own hands, pooled their gold together, and had Aaron, Moses’ brother, fashion a golden calf that they could coronate as their new god.

“How could they do that…after all that God had done for them, all that He had shown them, and all that He was leading them into?”

Here are some things I am learning, some of which were gleaned from reading Timothy Keller’s powerful little book, Counterfeit Gods.

by Dub Ambrose

You remember…if you are a Christ-follower, He has given us two proactive commandments to perform: love God, love others. When I fail at either of these, I am not following Christ. I am following some other god.

#2 – WE ALL EXPERIENCE “IDOL INDICATORS”!

I have a multitude of “buttons” that if “pushed” by a person or a circumstance, will cause me in an instant to stop loving and trusting God and stop loving people on His behalf. That would indicate someone or something other than God has control of that part of myself.

These are what I call “idol indicators.”

So, let me ask you a few questions…

- What sets off anger in you?

- What causes you to be anxious?

- What strikes fear in you?

- What stirs sadness in you?

- What steals away your peace?

- What steals away your joy?

- What steals away your contentment?

(See Phil. 4:10–13.)

#1 - WE ARE ALL IDOLATERS!

#3 – IF I HAVE A “TRUST LINE-IN-THE-SAND,”

Just like the Israelites, when I am faced with a life situation I don’t like (for any number of reasons), I become restless, stop trusting God, and take things into my own hands.

Sometimes I find myself saying/praying, “God, I’ll trust You…BUT… (fill in the blank)” If I draw a line in the

Let me put it more personally…I am an idolater.

I SERVE SOMEONE OR SOMETHING OTHER THAN GOD!

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sand and tell the Lord my love for Him, my trust in Him, is conditional on Him not crossing that line (“Don’t let anything happen to my children” or “If You’ll give me that job…” or “If You’ll heal me…”, etc.), God is not really my Lord, my Master, my God.

#4 – THE HEART THAT BEATS IN EVERY IDOL IN MY LIFE IS MY SELF.

When I choose to stop following the one, true God, it is usually because I’m uncomfortable and I’d like for things to be different to reclaim my comfort. There are plenty of idols out there that offer brief, immediate comfort but that ultimately lead to long-term discomfort, grief, and even death. (See John 10:10.)

#5 – GOD IS RELENTLESS AT RELIEVING ME OF ALL OF MY IDOLS.

So much so that…“He gave His only Son that whoever will believe in Him will not perish, but will have eternal life!”

Here are some further points from Counterfeit Gods… *Idolatry is taking some “incomplete joy of this world and building our entire life on it.” p. xi *Idols are spiritual addictions that lead to terrible evil. p. xv

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*(An idol) is anything more important than God, anything that absorbs your heart and imagination more than God, anything you seek to give you what only God can give. p. xvii *The human heart is an “idol factory.” p. xiv *Anything can be an idol, and everything has been an idol. p. xvi *Anything can serve as a counterfeit god, especially the very best things in life. p. xvii *A counterfeit god is anything so central and essential to your life that, should you lose it, your life would feel hardly worth living. p. xviii Lord Jesus, I pray that You would continue to refine me, to remove me from my idols, and as I release them,

by Your grace, have me cling more tightly to You than ever.

And I would proclaim with Peter, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God” (John 6:68–69).

Amen!

All Right God I'm Ready for My Close-up

by Sylvia LaRose

Happy are those who hear the joyful call to worship, for they will walk in the light of your presence, Lord.

(Psalm 89:15 nlt)

it’s the red-carpet treatment I receive every Sunday morning when I arrive at church…because Asbury makes me feel like a star!

radio, too. Really. He must know that at 7:50 a.m. the kids are at school, and I have a chance to sit a bit with a second cup of coffee before dashing off to work. Because that’s when he brings Perceptions into my kitchen.

Of course, there’s no crimson rug rolled out for my procession into the building. No stretch limos. Not even one paparazzi flashbulb. But the way Asbury greeters open the door for me, beam with good-mornings, welcome me with such exuberance, and really seem delighted to see me…why, I could be Julia Roberts— without the flowing locks and ultra-brite smile.

His stories are sometimes strange, often funny, always memorable.Then, Wait a minute, wait a minute…you ain’t heard nothin’ yet, because BAM!—there’s that spiritual message meant just for me. Thanks, Pastor Tom, for bringing the Word of God into my heart and helping me live a Christlike life throughout the day.

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There are those mornings when I’m running late and in the foulest of moods. An Asbury usher is always at the sanctuary entrance to witness my tardiness. I just want to scowl and say, “Go ahead, make my day.” And you know what, they do! With a friendly hello and a genuine “We’re glad to see you!” Hey, you did make my day.Thanks so much!

I remember the very first Sunday morning I visited Asbury. It was right after the new building had opened.

When I saw the huge structure, I thought, No way—that place is way too big for me. I’d get lost! Well, I had been attending Financial Peace University with a co-worker who invited me to attend the 9:15 service. Okay, I said, I’ll give it a try. And guess what—I felt more welcome and embraced by members than at any of the houses of worship I had ever attended. I said to myself, “I think this is the beginning of a beautiful relationship.” And it has been! My children and I have been members for the past seven years.

Then there’s Pastor Tom. He has such a wonderful way of making the Bible come alive. His sermons are always on target with what’s happening in my life. And I promise, when he’s making a point, he’s looking right at me. I just want to leap up from my seat and say, “Hey, you talkin’ to me? You talkin’ to me?” Why, yes, he is!

I can’t tell you how his Sunday morning chats have brought me closer to God and made me a better person.

And guess what, he talks to me every morning on the

Now, about the fan mail. Yes, fan mail! It comes as postcards and letters inviting me to all sorts of fun and meaningful events at Asbury. Wow, it’s nice to feel so wanted. But my biggest fan must be Pastor Dub (I attend the 9:15 Open House Worship), because he always sends me the nicest e-mails…just wondering how I’m doing, asking my opinion on OHW, or saying I was missed. Wow, again. Thanks, Pastor Dub! You make me feel “on top of the world.”

And then there are the phone calls. Every so often a friendly Asbury member will call me out of the blue, just to check how I’m doing, or ask if Asbury can do anything for me. For me? I usually say, “You had me at hello!” How nice is that? It’s a wonderful outreach that truly makes me feel part of the Asbury family.

At this time of year, when Hollywood stars are collecting their Globes, Grammys, and Oscars…I would like to deliver my acceptance speech for the best award ever: Eternal Life through Christ my Savior. To the pastors and members of Asbury United Methodist Church, thank you for helping my star shine so brightly.

You have brought me closer to God with your open arms and kindness. You guide me and inspire me to be the person Christ wants me to be here on earth. And you have shown me that the Lord loves me just the way I am…even if I’m not quite a superstar!

And as for being a member of Asbury, well, frankly, my dear, I do give a…you know.

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Women Word of the

by Sylvia LaRose

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Left to Right: Dee Dee Geddie and Gail Knox Nancy Staab not pictured

he Bible is filled with women who exhibited religious leadership. Deborah was a judge of all Israel appointed by God. Miriam, sister of Moses, was a priestess speaking God’s Word to the masses. Pricilla was Apostle Paul’s fellow worker in Christ Jesus. Well, Asbury is also filled with many virtuous women who God uses to advance his Kingdom on earth. Among them are three women who bring their spiritual gifts of teaching to all who want to know more about the Lord.

like living beyond yourself or when godly people do ungodly things…to Biblical figures like Paul, John or David…to the book of Revelation. Dee Dee brings topics and individuals together two to three times a year.

Gail Knox has been teaching Bible Studies at Asbury … well, let’s just say, a long, long time. Not only does she lead study groups and Sunday school classes, but she writes Bible Study materials and workbooks, in addition to mission work and developing the overseas ministry “Word Within International.”

And Dee Dee says she is blessed by her students as well, especially when God asks them to lead, and a spiritual “chain reaction” results. “I would be lost without my Bible Study. Besides my family, it’s my biggest joy!”

She’s traveled half way around the world to help plant churches and teach others about God’s love.

“I became a Christian late in life,” says Gail. “When Jesus Christ became my Lord and Savior, He wanted me to study scripture and teach. So for six hours a day for three years, I read and learned the Bible.”

That’s a lot of insight. And she uses that knowledge of scripture to explain scripture…line by line, word by word.

She communicates the Word of God in its simplest form, then conveys how to study and apply the Bible to personal lives.

Gail’s teachings have even crossed over to the internet with interactive lectures.

“I ask a bunch of questions, and help others pull out what they need to know,” she continues. “I was called to do this, and it keeps me going. I got involved with the internet, so when I’m not able to keep up with traveling and classes, I can go until I drop!”

Check out a sample of Gail’s teachings at wordwithin.org As a young mother hungry for the Word, Dee Dee Geddie never imagined that a search for a Bible Study group would eventually steer her to becoming a Bible Study leader.

“A friend invited me to Asbury’s Mother’s Fellowship,” she explains. “That leader touched my life and I fell in love with Asbury.

Who knew it would draw me into leadership.”

Beth Moore Bible Study was Dee Dee’s first experience teaching.Now,her toddlers have grown up,and she is still leading the study group which targets women. Through scripture, DVDs, dynamic discussions and a little bit of homework, Beth Moore studies dive into topics from a personal nature, Page 7

“And they are ALL my favorites!” she chuckles. “Bible Study is such an essential part of Christian life, and there is such a need for it for women of all ages -- the discipline, fellowship, God’s plan and expectations.”

Nancy Staab says “It’s our job to know Him.” That’s why she’s spent over three decades traveling and teaching others how to study scripture. From Asbury, throughout Oklahoma, the United States, even in England and the Ukraine she leads a precept ministry that evaluates line upon line in scripture. She brings study tools, so others can instruct.

“I have always loved to teach,” says the former first grade teacher. “I use the ‘Dick and Jane’ principle…who are the characters, what are they doing. It makes Bible content easy to understand.”

Nancy leads two to twenty classes per year. And even if scripture passages seem “Greek to you,” that’s okay…because Nancy also interprets Biblical words with Greek origins. “It’s exciting for others to find answers. If you want to know what God says, He’s got it all written down. It just may take a while to understand,” she reveals.

All three of these wonderful women say their leadership roles are a gift from God. It’s what they are called to do.And He keeps them going. Their advice to others stepping into leadership roles: “You’ve got to give it a lot of prayer…and time.Take the time when you don’t have time…and put God in charge,” recommends Nancy.

“And don’t be afraid to do it,” adds Dee Dee. “You don’t have to know everything, just be there. Let the Holy Spirit be the leader. I pray while preparing a lesson and during a lesson.

My words are His words. Write scripture on index cards!

We can’t hear God speak to us unless we open our Bibles.”

And Gail says, “Study. Be doers of the Word. You can’t keep taking it in without giving it out.”

Scripture states, “Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser; teach a just man, and he will increase in learning (Proverbs 9:9).” Gail, Dee Dee and Nancy are doing just that. Lovingly, purposefully, completely!

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ever in my life did I think that God would place such a heavy burden on my heart with something so simple; something we all have access to without realizing how big a blessing it is. It is something that I take advantage of when most people suffer because they do not have access to it. It is something that kills a child every 20 seconds and is the second biggest killer in our world today.

It is water.

There are 884 million people in our world who lack access to clean water; that is one in every eight. At any given moment, over half of the world’s hospital beds are occupied by patients suffering from a water-related disease, and over 5,000 children die each day because of lack of clean water.

While we cannot see this around us, it is reality. It is happening right now, in this very moment, in the world in which we live.

The worst part about the water crisis is that the people suffering have no power to control it. Women and children will walk up to eight miles (one way) to get their water for a single day‌dirty water. Because of that, 443 million school days are lost each year, and 40 billion working hours are lost. They do this every day because they are trying to survive, yet the thing that they need the most is killing them.

Wha by David Read

The world today does not expect college students, or high school students, to change the world in any significant way.That is why I am motivated to do just that.

While looking for a ministry to get involved in during my sophomore year of college, I got a call from a friend, Thomas, wanting to talk to me about starting a ministry that would provide clean drinking water for people around the world. Thomas had met a guy named Henry from Texas A&M who was the founder of what is called The Wells Project, and he wanted some guys to start this group at Oklahoma State University. Thomas and I got together and discussed how we could bring The Wells Project to Stillwater and get the entire campus involved.

A couple of weeks later, we were filming a promotional video that would eventually be shown all around campus asking people to get involved. We then began to set up informational booths on campus in which we would take one-dollar donations.

You see, one dollar will provide clean water for one person for an entire year. Believe it or not, when college students hear that they can give a person life for an entire year, they want to be a part of it. After just three days of having a booth set up on campus, we raised nearly $1,500, all of which would go straight toward the water crisis.

The Wells Project continued to get more and more popular on campus at OSU, and more people wanted to get involved. At this point, more Wells Projects were Page 8

at Thirs t? being formed at other universities around the United States. We decided, as a whole, to do a major fundraiser on each campus.

With much preparation, The Wells Project put on the first ever “10 Days” campaign in which we asked people to drink only water for ten days.

Not only that, but we also asked for them to take all the money they would normally spend on coffee, soft drinks, juice, and other drinks, and donate that money to water crisis.

To kick off the 10 Days, The Wells Project brought in “Shane and Shane,” a very popular contemporary Christian band, to get students motivated to be a part of the 10 Days. The concert venue was packed from front to back, and people left that room ready to make a difference.

During those ten days,The Wells Project raised close to $10,000 that would eventually be used to build two water wells in villages in Ethiopia.

We chose to give all of our proceeds to the villages in Ethiopia for a couple of reasons. One, as a country, 52 percent of Ethiopians lack clean water. This was an opportunity for us to give to a country in desperate need, and save many lives by providing clean water.

Second, and more importantly, these wells are being built by “Living Water International,” which sends Christian missionaries to build these wells. That means that not only are the people in Ethiopia being introduced Page 9

to clean water, but they are also being introduced to the Living Water, Jesus Christ.

You see, The Wells Project strives to provide clean water to people so that they can come to know Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. This is the heart behind everyone who is a part of The Wells Project and is the reason that we are so passionate about providing people with clean drinking water.

The more that I learn about the water crisis, the more God seems to make me more passionate about putting an end to it. It is estimated that it would cost about nine billion dollars to completely end the water crisis. That is a lot of money.

I am ready…are you?

If you’d like to donate to The Wells Project, send an email to david.read@okstate.edu or learn more about Living Water International at http://water.cc.

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R@mance last ?

by Kim Beair, MS, LPC, NCC

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Romance must be important to

God because He dedicated one whole book of the Bible to it. God created the male and female brains differently, and as such, men and women sometimes see the long-term goal as the same, but take two different paths to get there. Song of Solomon perfectly blends the male and female brains into one book of love and romance, by incorporating flowery romantic words with nittygritty action, so to speak. The point? When each side of the couple in a romantic relationship gets want they want in terms of romance, there can be fireworks!

Every couple has their own “couple personality”; therefore, their “couple” definition of romance will be different from anyone else’s. Boredom and/or conflict erupts when a couple has not clearly defined what romance means to them individually The dating game is wonderful because people are putting forth their best efforts to present well while working toward obtaining the mate of their dreams.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this approach.

But at some point, for many couples, the initial romance dies, and boredom or frustration set in. This can come within months of getting married or after jobs, kids, family, and career have stolen so much time from a couple that romance is nonexistent.

Interestingly, couples put a lot of time into maintaining pets, cars, careers, and the like, but many people stop trying to maintain a marriage once they say “I do.” People respect the fact that careers, children, and other life elements ebb and flow throughout

time in an ever-changing dynamic, but they sometimes forget that marriages change and grow as well.

Zechariah and Elizabeth (parents of John the Baptist) were ancient when John was finally born. Think of the “romance” that was involved for that to happen. On top of that, Zechariah had been out on the jobsite, and when he returned home to Elizabeth, he could not speak.

Try to kindle the flames of desire in pantomime form!

What did Zechariah and Elizabeth share? A common goal. Even though they were very old, they still dreamed and prayed about having a child. We know this is true because the angel mentions answering their prayers. I wonder if Zechariah and Elizabeth had been “trying” all those years. They must have been! You wouldn’t pray for a child if you weren’t doing your part to make it happen. Clearly, their common goal, among other things kept their spirits connected.

Are you and your significant other keeping your spirits connected? Let’s look at some of the ways to keep romance alive in your relationship so you can have love and happiness long into your golden years. We know happiness promotes good health,so do it for health today.

To embark on this activity, you and your significant other can write a few things down privately, and then share later—on date night! Yes, you can do it—have a date night—at least two hours away from work, kids, family, and friends, and share the answers on this list.

(In order to do this activity, assume you have nothing to hold you back—meaning time, babysitters, money, etc., are no object. Remember, this is fantasy).

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Here goes:

- The three physical traits about my significant other that I like the best are…

(Be honest—it’s ok to be graphic.)

- The three character traits I love most about my significant other are…

- The three things my partner does that make me feel loved are…

- If my partner and I only had five minutes to have a romantic interlude, here are my top three ideas of what those five minutes could involve…

- If my partner and I had only five hours to have a romantic interlude, here is the way we would spend those five hours…

- If my partner and I had a weekend to have a romantic interlude, here is the way we could spend it from my perspective…

- If my partner and I had a week to have a romantic interlude, where in the world would we go, and what would we do?

Now, share your lists, but DO NOT JUDGE the other person’s answers, or comment that their answers are insignificant or impossible to achieve.

The point is to have some fun, and really listen to the other person.

Romance is hyped to be candlelit dinners, long walks on the beach, holding hands watching the sun go down, and the like. But let’s face it—every person is so different, it would be impossible to “assign” a label to romance. Getting down to shared commonalities and listening to the things that are fun or important to your partner will help you get an idea of whether or not you share ideas on what romance looks like.

It should not be seen as a negative, however, if your lists are totally “off.” Many people are attracted to people with similar perspectives, while other relationships thrive on the differences.

Redefine your ideas about romance today, and you may answering “YES!” to the question, “Can Romance Last?” for years to come.

Read more at http://kimspirations-bykimbeair.blogspot.com/

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Mary Magdalene: IN HIS SERVICE

by John C. Westervelt

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y home is in Magdala on the west side of the Sea of Galilee. I am a cobbler, as was my father before me. My daughter, Mary Magdalene, who is sixteen, works with me in the business. The customers all love Mary because she is genuinely interested in them. The fact that she looks like her mother only endears her to them more.

Her mother, Rebecca, and I were sweethearts when we were young. Our friendship waned during the years that boys had nothing to do with girls.

But as we grew older, our love was renewed, and eventually we were married. I was glad our friendship had begun early in our lives; otherwise, I might not have won Rebecca, for she was the most beautiful girl in all the towns along the western side of the sea.

Rebecca worked beside me, she on the belts and I on the sandals. Occasionally I would watch her small, strong hands as she cut the leather. She would gently bite her tongue in her precision. Her soft lips and smooth complexion were nearly perfect. Her eyes glistened when she talked. I thanked Jehovah for His design of the curves that made her a woman.

Heaven could be no better than living with Rebecca.

For years Rebecca suffered from seizures. The doctor told me he couldn’t rid Rebecca of the demons that caused them. So four years ago Rebecca died. Following Rebecca’s death, Salome had come by more often to spend time with Mary Magdalene, talking with her as a mother would to a daughter.

Two years ago my daughter had a brief seizure, and I asked Jehovah to heal her as I had for Rebecca. This time I sensed an answer—be patient.

Soon after the second anniversary of our wedding, God blessed us with a baby girl. The name Mary sounded soft, so Rebecca and I agreed to call her Mary. In time she grew to look just like her mother, beautiful inside and out.

“I’m so glad you have,” Mary said. “They told me You could heal me.”

Rebecca’s closest friend was Salome, the wife of Zebedee and the mother of James and John.

Salome lived in Capernaum, seven miles northeast of Magdala. Her husband and sons were commercial fishermen. Occasionally they would put in at Magdala to sell fish. When they did, they always shared the catch with my family. James and John were like older brothers to my daughter. They were the ones who first called her Mary Magdalene in order to distinguish her from the other Marys that they knew.

As time went on, James and John came less often as they were spending time with Jesus. I had heard that Jesus had healed many people, so I asked James if Jesus could come and heal Mary Magdalene of her seizures.

A few weeks later, a visitor entered my cobbler shop. Mary Magdalene asked if she could help Him, and He introduced Himself saying,“My name is Jesus.”

I stopped my work to look at Him a little more closely. He was a large man with powerful shoulders and arms, yet He seemed gentle in composure.

His eyes captured my attention when they met with my daughter’s. They were intense yet kind.

“James and John asked Me to come,” He said quietly.

“And you, Mary, what do you believe?”

Mary looked down then up. Her eyes settled on His as she nodded her head. “Yes.” Then Jesus, with a heart full of compassion, commanded the demons to come out.

Mary Magdalene’s lithe body quivered, not once, but seven times as the demons left. She stood relaxed for a moment. Then with complete abandonment, she threw her arms around the neck of Jesus to thank Him. Page 12

After that, Mary Magdalene wasn’t home quite as much, as she traveled with a group of women who served Jesus. When spring arrived she told me that Jesus was going to go to Jerusalem for the Passover.

She was worried about His safety and wanted to go with Salome to minister to Him while He was there.

I told her,“If you feel in your heart that you should go, then you and He will be in my prayers daily.”

So one morning she joined the small band of disciples headed for Jerusalem. Each day was lonely for me. It just wasn’t the same around the shop without her. I think I missed her enthusiasm the most.

Ten days had passed before she returned with Salome. Salome was unable to stay as she had to reach Capernaum by sundown. After Salome had left, I asked what had happened to their friend Jesus.

“Oh, Father, it was awful. The Pharisees had the Romans crucify Him. I was so glad I was able to be there with Him. I stayed until He died and was placed in a tomb. The next day was the Sabbath.

Before light arose on the third day, I went to the tomb with spices. When I got there, I saw that the stone was rolled away.”

“Was Jesus in the tomb?”

“No. When I looked in the tomb and saw that His body was gone, I began to cry. In His place sat two angels, and they asked me, ‘Why are you weeping?’

‘They have taken away my Lord,’ I said. Then when I turned, I saw Jesus, but I didn’t know it was Jesus until He called me by name.Then I knew it was Him. His voice was gentle, but His eyes were firm when He said, ‘Tell My disciples that I have risen.’ ” “Did you tell them?”

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“I tried to, but they wouldn’t believe me.”

It was then that I took my daughter in my arms as I could feel the pain she must have felt to have watched her friend suffer and die. Tears flowed down my cheeks. The last time I had shed tears was at the death of Rebecca.

Mary, sensing my pain, reminded me that Rebecca had always believed in the coming Messiah and that now, since His death, she, too, would finally meet Him. Her words of encouragement brought me comfort, and deep down inside I knew she was right, especially when she said the last words He spoke to her were, “I shall ascend to My Father and your Father, to my God and your God.” Based on Matthew 27:56; Mark 16; Luke 8; John 20.

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INVISIBLES

- ARE THE YOUNGER GENERATIONS BLIND TO SENIORS?

by Adrena Mahu

S

ome years ago, while living in South Korea and teaching a number of Bible studies in Korean homes, I observed a culture quite different from ours. One cultural practice was quite evident. In almost every home, I would see an elderly person participating in the activities. One example: I noticed the elderly women joined in the preparations necessary to make the many delicious Korean meals I experienced.

As I drove around Seoul, I did not see one nursing home, retirement home, or any place where the elderly were segregated. I finally asked: “Do you have nursing or retirement homes here in Seoul?” The response was always: “What do you mean? Our elderly are taken in by the eldest son, and the rest of the family includes them in all activities.”

It was as if I had mentioned something almost too awful to contemplate. In all fairness, I have to say, most of the homes I taught in were middle to upper class. I do not know about the poorer people, but when I drove into the countryside where I saw more poverty, I regularly observed family members of all ages walking along the road.

Christopher Xeniopoulos Janus wrote in Care for the Elderly—Greek Style:“…during the golden age of Greece… the Greeks regarded the care of the elderly which they called geroboskia as a sacred duty, the responsibility rested exclusively with the offspring. In Athens those who neglected either their parents or their grandparents were either fined or partially deprived of their citizenship.

There were no public facilities for the aged—the very idea of an old people’s home would have been utterly alien to the Greeks.”

I am saddened that in our country some of our elderly have become “invisible.” Many live in retirement villages, assisted living centers, or nursing homes. Children visit them occasionally, but for the most part (and there are exceptions) our elderly are cast aside to live and die alone.They are not honored for their years of experience nor respected for their wisdom.

How did this happen? In “American Attitudes toward the Elderly,” from Life in the USA, it is said that presentday American attitudes about the elderly have been reinforced by a century’s worth of media, especially in movies and television. This article stated, interestingly enough, that from the 1950s onward, a great culture of youth, fed by teen heroes like James Dean, emerged and strengthened. Since then, our country seems to value youth over the elderly. The media often casts them in roles very unbecoming. I am reminded of a former female star who has made a comeback as a comedian. We all love a good laugh, but she acts sensual, uses vulgarity, and is made to look ridiculous.

Currently, I am contacting seniors who used to be quite active in some way with Asbury. Many are still able to participate in our church but a good number are living alone, in assisted living or nursing homes, and some feel that basically life is over. Relationships with their children are often estranged, and they are left to live out their lives practically “invisible.”

A blanket statement saying that we in America do not honor or respect our elderly cannot be made, but the culture does not encourage us to interact and glean from them all the lessons they have learned through life.

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Perhaps they would be willing to share not only their successes but their mistakes, plus tell their stories about their lives, if we were willing to listen and encourage our children to relate and learn from them.

Yes, I know the younger generations are very busy, tending to jobs, raising children, and involved with many activities. We in America have created a conundrum. Many don’t have time to give; we’re a very busy society; and all have come to expect our elderly to fend for themselves. I don’t want to neglect those who have made their elderly a special part of their lives, but it seems as though they are in the minority.

The fifth commandment tells us to “Honor your father and your mother; so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you” (Exodus 20:12). Perhaps as we consider these things we can make a mental note and evaluate how we are doing. Are we so enamored with the youth that we unconsciously forget about our elderly? Only you can answer that.

May the Lord help each of us to be less affected by our American culture. May we glean from the Word ways we can make a difference for the “invisible elderly” and make them a positive part of our lives.

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Psalm 119:90: “Your faithfulness continues through all generations; you established the earth, and it endures.”

A Community

by Brian and June Post

Far and Wide

featured

community

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sbury’s Generations community is a multigenerational gathering of Christians ages 15 to 80, who would love to expand both directions and who regularly have teenagers and babies who grace us with their presence. Generations’ people are devoted to knowing and serving Jesus. Single adults and married couples are both welcome!

We are a newer community that started in January 2009 and meet at 11 a.m. in Room 2319.The Generations community has some amazing teachers who regularly lead and teach us, such as Dick Read, Mark Springer, Randy Bunn, and special guests.

In addition to meeting on Sunday in community, we have men’s and women’s monthly Saturday morning book clubs, the Truth Project, and several other small groups.

As a group, we emphasize and participate in local service opportunities. Additionally, we have three couples of Generations who are participating in mission or pastoral work: the Schells, the Soderstroms, and the Hesters.We regularly do work projects at Sheridan Avenue UMC in North Tulsa, help with Habitat for Humanity, mentor students at McAuliffe Elementary, and lend a hand whenever we can to organizations or individuals.

Social activities are key to our community development. Examples include: An annual swim party at Marge Bohannan’s home

An annual Christmas party with games and other fun activities Regular dinners in small groups and lunch after church once a month Last fall we had a chuck-wagon dinner on a ranch outside of Claremore that was cooked by real cowboys and horse rides for the kids.

In October we will enjoy an Amish dinner.

We went to a Drillers game as a community and plan to attend other sporting activities such as TU football and ORU basketball games.

We have celebrated five babies, all girls! And grandbabies!

Discipleship communities help individuals in our large church feel more intimate and connected.

You can find descriptions of them on the Asbury website: http://www.asburytulsa.org/get-involved/ communities/index.html. Click on the drop-down box to find a time that works best for you and read through the descriptions of the different communities.

Community members seek to nurture one another in living the life of a disciple as manifested through Asbury’s eight objectives. Communities are designed for warm fellowship, spiritual growth, and serving others.

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The Generations community has made a huge impact on our life and our family’s life. We love sharing experiences, stories, knowledge, friendship, fellowship, etc., from the diverse age group of people that attend Generations. Having a group of Christian friends to be there for us during hard times and rejoicing with us during great times is probably one of the most important attributes our community has provided us.We love serving and spending time with our Generations family and are continuing to get to know some incredible people. If you aren’t currently in a community, we encourage you to come visit us!

Here are some other comments and feedback from members of the Generations community: “I was looking for a new community to become a part of. After one visit to Generations, I felt like this would be the place for me. The combination of a wide array of people and the incredible teaching was very appealing to me. The Generations community is truly a community that reflects its name.” — Michelle Caine “Two years ago, after a lifetime in Ohio, Karen and I found ourselves new to the Tulsa area. We were strangers in a strange land: a land without the comfort of a loving family, longtime friends, a church that knew us, and a strong college football team (the Buckeyes spoiled us).

For six months we attended Asbury and loved it, but we really did not do much beyond the Sunday morning worship hour. Then we heard about a new community—Generations—and we thought, Hey, let’s give it a chance. After all, Dick Read was going to be one of the teachers, so we knew it could not be all that bad.

The Generations community has been a blessing to us. We have been edified by the teachings, we have had fun with the social events, and we have been challenged with the concept of serving. The neat thing about Generations is its diversity in age.

In only 18 months, we have celebrated the birth of five babies. Some of the teachers have found it a little distracting when the womenfolk (Okie speak) fuss over who gets to hold them.

Now Karen and I feel very much a part of the Tulsa community. She has developed close relationships with other women through the women’s programs at Asbury, and both of us have felt very supported and loved by our Generations friends.

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Through this close-knit group of varied ages, we feel like part of a small church but yet have all the opportunities and outreach of a large church.

While we still miss our Ohio family and friends, we definitely feel like we have a strong group of family and friends to fellowship with and a church that we love. And I can still watch the Buckeyes on cable!”

—John and Karen Ward “We attend the 9:15 a.m. church service. We needed a community that met at 11 a.m. So when Dick Read announced that a new community was starting at 11 a.m., one that included multi-generations and one that he would be involved in, we were elated.

We have been part of this community from the very first meeting. We are amazed at how quickly the class has ‘bonded’ and how caring everyone is. The class is quick to respond to needed outreach—local schools, churches, and individual needs. We are so fortunate to have several qualified and interesting Bible teachers in our class. We enjoy all the social events and are very pleased to be one of the ‘older’ generations. It’s kind of nice being around those young folks!” —Perry and Yvonne Partney “Being young parents, we love that there are many people in the class who can share their wisdom with us, as well as love on our children.

To us, Generations is definitely more welcoming and relaxed than other communities we have been to. Also, there are some really good cooks.

We love that Generations is both an active class, like finding ways to meet outside of church to get to know each other better, and they are a very giving class, like helping out the people inside and outside the class. We love the relationships we have cultivated in this class and look forward to making many more.”

—Daniel and Katie Bedford “I could not find a class that I really liked. Most of the classes just didn’t have enough energy. I talked to Pastor Dick Read about this, and he said, ‘Oh, I am thinking of starting a community with no age parameters.’ I said, ‘Count me in!’ I love our

ADVICE FROM

COUPLES MARRIED 50+ YEARS Compiled/ Updated by Charlene Giles, Director of Marriage Ministries

3couples years ago we asked our senior to finish this statement, “IN ORDER TO HAVE A GOOD MARRIAGE,…”

Some chose to remain anonymous, but many listed their names and number of years married.

I have updated the number of years to accurately reflect how long they have been married now.

Read ‘em and learn!

Let God do His job when it’s time to make changes in you and your partner (when there are flaws.)

Love first, respect spouse’s feelings, look out for each other and be kind!

Worship and pray together.

(Ray and Ada Miller, 60 years)

Learn to say, “Yes, dear.”

And be sure you pick the right girl.

Forgive, forgive and forgive!

(Shirley Ann Smith, 55 years)

Kiss your mate every morning!

Honor your vows and commitments.

Talk things over and laugh with each other as often as possible. Do things together but be able to enjoy doing things separately, too.

Honor each other in all ways.

(Tom and Elizabeth Diehl, 62 years)

Stay best friends. (Ron and Pat Thomson, 57 years)

Remember, if Mama isn’t happy ain’t nobody happy!

(58 years and still happy!)

Don’t sweat the small stuff! (Jim and LaRue Coover, 61 years)

Treat your spouse as you want to be treated.

Count your blessings, not faults. Listen.

(Dick Loerke, 57)

Love and respect each other always.

Try always to say, “I’m so sorry” after a disagreement.

Have faith. Love and faith sustained us through the drug addiction and recovery of a daughter and seriously illnesses of grandchildren.

Be an active partner with lots of hugs and kisses!

Listen. Laugh. Be NICE! Communicate with each other! Do not possess each other’s spirit! God is in charge always!

Praise each other! (Vida Bruntzel, 57 years) Keep the grass cut and your wife warm.

Say, “I love you” every day.

Communicate (try and hear it right the first time.)

Don’t gripe (at least not about everything!)

Stay out of debt.

Never overreact to anything.

Discuss big decisions. No secrets. Be open always.

Be considerate. Respect differences and opinions.

Pray together. Attend church regularly.

Take the vows seriously.

Don’t take yourself too seriously!

Accept the imperfections in your spouse and hope the spouse accepts yours.

There is no perfect person or marriage.

Treasure every moment together.

(Wayne and Sammie Kendall, 54 years) It really is true, “Come grow old with me, the best is yet to be.” (J Pottorf) Remember why you fell in love all those many years ago.

A lot of things happen through the years, but true love never changes. (Dolores Willits, 67 years) Remember, it is not your mate’s responsibility to make you happy.

Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, it takes 100% from both of you.

Be not only willing, but eager to show your love.

Be sure to be kind.

Place your loved one before yourself.

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To volunteer to help deliver corsages To grow your own marriage: to 50+ couples on Saturday, February 12 , contact Scott Brown at sbrown@us.ibm.com. th

To help at the 50+ banquet Sunday noon, February 13 , contact the Owens: th

docowen47@cox.net.

10 Great Dates with Your Mate

2nd Tuesdays, February 8 – November 8 6:15 – 7:00 p.m.

Room 1502 Facilitators: Kimberly and Steve Widner Cost: no cost

Gather to hear a variety of topics led by various speakers (30 minutes), then have dinner out. NEW TOPICS/SPEAKERS!

Never get angry at the same time.

(53 years) Give and take.

After 66 years it still works for us.

Learn to laugh at yourself.

Smile and speak softly.

(John Keil, 54 years) Participate in prayer together.

Laugh a lot!

Of course, love Jesus and serve Him. Pray a lot, too.

(Beverlyn and Bob Summers, 55 years) Don’t be afraid to give in.

Praise out loud, criticize silently.

(Paul and Shirley Hockett, 56 years) SMILE (John Schwendimann) Smile back!

(Merle Schwendimann)

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Dynamic Marriage 9 sessions Wednesdays, March 23 – May 18 6:00 - 8:30 p.m.

Room 2201 Facilitators: Ron and Jackie Carter Cost: $130 per couple, $50 deposit holds your spot (many materials included, scholarships available)

This interactive class will help you replace old habits with new ones in a unique, safe environment. Go from good to great, from mediocre to magnificent, or from hurt to healed. To register (required), call Jackie or Ron at 2516665 or asburydynamicmarriage@windstream.net. Limited to first 12 paid couples.

50 years Ray & Barb Boone Jim & Linda Pat Colgan Randy & Fannie Edens Tom & Pat Hailey Bill & Jane Hamilton Burton & Freddie Howard Jim & Gail Hunt Jess & Mary Mitchell Ed & Ann Parker, II Perry & Yvonne Partney Glen & Bettye Perry Richard & Linda Polk Warren & Lydia Reichert Jim & Ann Schulz Ken & June Scoggins Chuck & Ginny Scott Jim & Danys Self Jim & Christine VanderLind Dean & Vesta VanTrease

51 years 4/30/1960 9/3/1960 6/18/1960 1/14/1961 2/3/1961 12/27/1960 7/12/1960 2/3/1961 4/14/1960 9/16/1960 7/8/1960 6/4/1960 11/11/1960 9/29/1960 4/16/1960 4/3/1960 6/17/1960 6/18/1960 12/24/1960

Jim & Sue Allison Jim & Susie Barrett, Sr. Gary & Ruth Beatie Harold & Donna Brantley Cecil & Jan Burnett Ron & Jackie Carter Dick & Billie Corley Dean & Jessie Cox Lee & Toni Flowers, Jr. Giles & Barbara Gere A.C. & Arlene Griggs Donald & Chris Hoose Joel & Gloria Johnson Lou & Gloria Lasiter Ed & Leslie Lusk Bud & Dianne Mathes Jim & Judy Parker Truman & Linda Rachels Glen & Charlene Ravens Carl & Sue Richards Charlie & Jeanette Sessom John & Betty Jo Vogel Tommy & Martha Wilson

4/11/1959 11/21/1959 9/11/1959 7/24/1959 7/25/1959 4/24/1959 10/16/1959 2/5/1960 4/18/1959 1/10/1960 9/2/1959 2/6/1960 12/27/1959 3/6/1959 6/17/1959 12/18/1959 8/22/1959 3/15/1959 7/25/1959 8/29/1959 8/8/1959 5/29/1959 12/5/1959

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52 years Charlie & Sue Archambo Bob & Dorothy Beck Bob & Mary Ann Charles Don & Cleo Collins Joe & Zagnona Cox Bob & Jimmie Dozier Gene & Barbara Graves Charlie & Janet Johnston Larry & Judy Lairmore Robert & Joy Long John & Judy Marquis Bill & Jayne Mason Bruce & Carolyn Nixon LaVerne & Jean Reed Vic & Liz Schock Gary & Dorothy VanFossen

54 years 8/30/1958 6/14/1958 7/12/1958 6/3/1958 12/22/1958 2/20/1959 12/28/1958 8/25/1958 5/29/1958 9/20/1958 1/24/1959 7/9/1958 3/29/1958 6/21/1958 8/31/1958 1/1/1959

53 years Rick & Vi Bowers Cal & Doris Brusewitz Don & Pat Chandler Glenn & Syd Chowins Dale & Pat Davidson Rex & Dovie Edgar Harley & Jackie Hinson Russ & Norma Jones Brown & Becky Joyner Joe & Beth Limes, Jr. Wally & Sue Maurer Dan & Margaret Slagle Al & Ruth Sowards Bill & Rosalie Veatch Carl & Joanne Weatherford

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8/18/1957 6/25/1957 3/22/1957 3/9/1957 12/22/1957 1/12/1958 4/18/1957 1/25/1958 6/23/1957 5/30/1957 1/18/1958 7/20/1957 11/23/1957 4/20/1957 6/15/1957

Ronald & Phyllis Allison Rollo & Liz Brasuell Tom & Lou Ann Costello Clifton & Lamyrle Cox Arlyn & Shirley Daering Bob & Jean Dalton Stanley & Shirley Dean Jim & Maxine Dempster Paul & Linda Hancock Jim & Nancy Harrison Ed & Jan Hines John & Jo Keil Wayne & Sammie Kendall Marold & Patty Lohrenz Bill & Joan Matzdorf Larry & Mary Metz Frank & Darlene Peterson Reynard & Betty Spence Leonard & Mary Stubbs David & Patty Thomas Don & Barbara Thornton Milton & Patricia VanDerwiele Russ & Florrie Washburn Carl & Novella Willis

6/8/1956 5/26/1956 12/29/1956 5/18/1956 1/26/1957 5/12/1956 6/3/1956 8/17/1956 1/19/1957 6/2/1956 1/19/1957 12/8/1956 5/25/1956 6/17/1956 4/12/1956 5/12/1956 7/25/1956 7/8/1956 6/10/1956 8/31/1956 5/21/1956 9/1/1956 11/30/1956 8/16/1956

55 years Warren & Wilda Burdine George & Maxine Clinton Bill & Naomi Culver Bob & Helen Frymire Bill & Dorothy Kisselburg Ed & Rita Lenfestey Bill & Dottie McKie Larry & Jeri Myerley Gary & Jackie Parker Mel & Mary Pearson John & Shirley Ann Smith Bob & Beverlyn Summers

3/18/1955 10/4/1955 8/12/1955 5/21/1955 6/24/1955 2/19/1956 1/7/1956 2/26/1956 2/4/1956 6/1/1955 5/31/1955 8/14/1955

56 years Don & Ruth Bauer Roger & Joyce Clark Ralph & Marion Daugherty Fred & Nancy Gardner Charlie & Elaine Hack Paul & Shirley Hockett Merle & Marylou Howell Vernon & Maralee Jones Ted & Pat Kelly Howard & Joanne Ledbetter Jim & Norma Morrison Ron & Sue Shook Bill & Phyllis Taylor Ben & Joy Weddington

58 years 2/27/1955 5/8/1954 9/24/1954 1/15/1955 12/19/1954 1/14/1955 9/4/1954 4/3/1954 6/4/1954 11/17/1954 2/12/1955 11/25/1954 8/22/1954 6/17/1954

57 years Floyd & Vida Bruntzel Bill & Shirley Curry Ken & Carmen Finch Dwayne & Awilda Godsey Vic & Roberta Hairston Jerry & Johnna Himes Glenn & Norma Hogg Don & Betty Kent Dick & Nevin Loerke Bob & Mary Lynn Milam Walt & Marion Neary Frank & Betty Schemm Al & Lu Seiter Ron & Pat Thomson Gordon & Lois Vetal Ross & Ina Vrooman Cleo & Frankie Warren Gary & Celeste Zarley

12/13/1953 5/30/1953 12/27/1953 9/5/1953 6/1/1953 2/27/1954 6/6/1953 5/30/1953 8/9/1953 9/6/1953 6/10/1953 6/18/1953 6/28/1953 8/18/1953 5/2/1953 9/26/1953 11/26/1953 3/28/1953

Bob & Martha Carpenter Bill & June Carr Wayne & Betty Crockett Dean & Regina Daniel Bill & M.A. Kohl Jim & Pat Miller Dick & Gwen Mohler Bob & Gladys Murphy Monroe & Jan Reece Lee & Oneta Roles Fred & Joanne Setser Dean & Marilynn Smith Gene & Mary Ellen Whiteford

4/22/1952 6/30/1952 5/31/1952 11/8/1952 10/25/1952 1/16/1953 8/1/1952 1/24/1953 8/2/1952 9/19/1952 6/28/1952 8/17/1952 8/2/1952

59 years Richard & Darlene Baker 6/10/1951 Jack & Pat Compton 9/29/1951 Jim & Bettye Craig 6/21/1951 Don & Terry Davis 11/3/1951 Bob & Donna Keener 5/4/1951 Bill & Mary Kirwin 9/22/1951 John & Eddie Middleton 11/22/1951 Bill & Donna Ritchie 2/9/1952 Bob & Wanda Stotts 8/31/1951 John & Anna Taylor 6/23/1951 Jim & Lavonda Wallis 9/23/1951

60 years Jim & Betty Jane Bailey Richard & Geri Dixon Lou & Loraine Edmonson Ray & Betty Gordy Dale & Patricia Gregston Jerry & Imogene Headley Clyde & Mary Johnson Alden & Sarah Miller Ray & Ada Miller A.B. & Gwen Steen David & Janet Wehrenberg

2/3/1951 11/22/1950 9/16/1950 2/17/1951 12/9/1950 2/2/1951 6/11/1950 6/4/1950 6/4/1950 12/23/1950 11/25/1950

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61 years Jim & LaRue Coover Tom & Lillie Hardcastle Gene & Betty Hobson Otis & Nell Osborn Joe & Mary Pottorf Harry & Lois Robbins Warren & Roberta Roberts Allan & Marian Tonding Wally & Barbara Westervelt

12/10/1949 7/2/1949 8/21/1949 11/12/1949 7/31/1949 9/4/1949 8/21/1949 6/26/1949 12/18/1949

8/21/1948 10/1/1948 10/31/1948 6/15/1948 5/20/1948 2/18/1949 9/10/1948 7/15/1948 10/2/1948

12/20/1947 6/7/1947 8/14/1947 6/21/1947 12/28/1947 6/29/1947 4/6/1947

64 years Laneer & Jean Ham Edison & Audrey Jeffus Lester & Betty Kelsey, Jr. Paul & Marion Kerschner Barney & Kay Welch

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8/18/1945 6/23/1945 1/6/1946 1/10/1946

66 years 6/29/1944 2/25/1945

67 years Gene & Joy Bortmes Vic & Betty Goodknight Bill & Betty Manley Al & Ruth Meyer Charles & Shirley Nelson Neil & Dolores Willits

2/5/1944 6/26/1943 9/10/1943 1/28/1944 11/20/1943 1/6/1944

68 years

63 years Jim & Fran Allen Jack & Doris Bruin Murrel & Helen Cowherd Chuck & Maddy Crowell Phil & Jean Essley, Jr Rudy & Alice Jane Gorishek Paul & Donna Wicker

Bob & Marguerite Keasler Sid & Maxine Lee John & Joanna Neely Ted & Virginia Wellendorf

Herbert & Betty Maresh Bill & Shirley Parkinson

62 years Tom & Elizabeth Diehl Bill & Janene Jones Dick & Joan Link Howard & Vera McCloud Delbert & Nell Pool Tom & Evelyn Porter John & Merle Schwendimann Jimmy & Nancy Swindler Don & Ellie Todd

65 years

Gene & Irene Bond

69 years Herman & Nellie Kloehr

1/17/1942

71 years Frank & Bernice Sober

9/28/1946 2/2/1947 5/3/1946 12/28/1946 7/3/1946

8/15/1942

1/6/1940

asbury

opportunities

THE GAZEBO IS OPEN CDs ofTom’s message of the day are available immediately following the worship service - $3. Prayer Journals are also available for $5 each. Additional volunteers needed.

RECYCLING Recycle unwanted paper products. Three bins are available, located in the south and east parking lots.

GENERAL INFORMATION

DOORS OF ASBURY POSTERS BREAKFAST Served from 7:15-9:00 am in the CLC. are at the Welcome Centers...FREE! Suitable for framing.

Come enjoy fellowship with Asburians along with fresh donuts,bagels,biscuits & gravy,sausage,eggs,fruit, NEW ADDITIONS TO THE LIBRARY and cereal. $3 for adults & $1 for children 12 & under. The Asbury Library is a wonderful resource. Thank you to all who continue to contribute books to our Library.

SUNDAY MORNING WORSHIP 8:00 am Mason Chapel TOASTMASTERS (Traditional Communion) Toastmasters is a learn-by-doing workshop in which 9:15 am Sanctuary (Contemporary) participants hone their speaking and leadership skills in 9:15 am CLC (Open House Worship) a friendly atmosphere. Members learn communication (Acoustic Worship, Casual Setting) skills by performing a series of 10 self-paced speaking 11:00 am Sanctuary (Traditional) assignments designed to instill a basic foundation in 11:00 am Venue 68 (Modern with sign interpreter) public speaking. Members also learn leadership skills by taking on various meeting roles. Every Monday that the SUNDAY EVENING WORSHIP church is open, 11:45 am – 12:45 pm, Room 2820 6:00 pm Venue68 (Modern) SUNDAYS FOR CHILDREN AND STUDENTS 6 Weeks - 4 Years 8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am K-6th Grades 9:15 or 11:00 am 7th, 8th & 9th Grades 9:15 & 11:00 am 10th, 11th & 12th Grades 9:15 am only ADULT DISCIPLESHIP COMMUNITIES Adult Bible study, belonging, and serving together Sunday at 8:00, 9:15, & 11:00 am, and options during the week – Tuesdays at 6:00 pm, Wednesdays at 6 and 7:30 pm. Annual Community Leadership Training Conference will be Sunday, January 30 right after church at 12:30 p.m., starting with a lunch provided

by Virginia followed by breakout workshops.

SURGERY OR HOSPITALIZATION SCHEDULED? Be sure to let Asbury know ahead of time by calling Joan at 918.392.1176 so your pastors can be in prayer for you. When you enter the hospital, please designate Asbury as your church. The afterhours pastoral emergency line can be reached by calling 918.492.1771, selecting option 6, and leaving a message for the pastor on call.

ACCESS

HANDS OF LOVE SIGN CHOIR Sundays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm. 2821 FRIENDS IN CHRIST COMMUNITY Sundays, 11:00 am, Rm. 1507

BIBLE STUDY

Check out the Winter 2011 RoadMap courses in the brochure located at Connection Corner and Welcome Centers, on the Asbury website at www.asburytulsa.org.

Accept Pastor Tom’s challenge to get actively involved in digging deeper into God’s Word ~ there is something for everyone! RoadMap registration can be done via the Registration Hotline 918.392.1191.

CARE AND SUPPORT

AMERICAN RED CROSS BLOOD DRIVE Sunday, February 27, 8 am to 1 pm, in the Gym. Call 1.800.REDCROSS to schedule your appointment.

GRIEFSHARE 13 Thursdays, January 6 – March 31, 1 – 2:30 pm, Room 2314. GriefShare is a special weekly video series and support group for people who are grieving the death of someone close to them. It’s a safe place to be around people who understand what you are feeling.

ENGAGED COUPLES At GriefShare, you’ll learn valuable information about If you are planning to use an Asbury pastor to recovering from your grief and renewing your hope officiate and/or use Asbury’s facilities, be sure to for the future. Group sessions are offered three times book ASAP to allow ample time for Couple-to- per year. You may begin attending this group at any Couple (required premarital sessions). time...each video session is “self-contained.” $13 for workbook. Call 918.392.1191 to register.

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CHANGE YOUR BRAIN, CHANGE YOUR LIFE 4 Thursdays, January 13 – February 3, 2011, 7-8:30pm, room 2201. Anxious or depressed? Neuroscience now reinforces what we’ve always known. An important part of dealing with these most common issues is our willingness to retrain our brain through positive thought, prayer and faith. Come find out how these and other effective brain exercises can change your life. Facilitator: Maribeth Blunt, MHR, LPC. Call 918.392.1191 to register.

the coordinator, Linda Pat Colgan at 918.366.3287 or jsclpc@yahoo.com.

SEXUAL ABUSE RECOVERY 13 Thursdays, January 20 – April 21, 2011 (will not meet 3/17), 6:30 – 9pm,Venue 68Yellow room. Sexual abuse doesn’t just affect us as children – the ripples spread throughout our lifetime. But there is hope! If you’d like to be a part of a small group this January that’s committed to recovery, healing, and a life of freedom, call 918.392.1134 to sign up. All calls confidential.

MILITARY CONNECTION Please join us in praying for our troops in harm’s way and their families. Periodic care packages and monthly encouragement cards with God’s Word are sent to Asbury-related military personnel. The Prayer Ministry also covers them in prayer. Please call Jo VanDeWiele at 918.459.0888 with complete name and address or send to Gwen at grmohler@aol.com.

REINVENTING YOUR LIFE 4 Thursdays, February 17 – March 10, 7:00 – 8:30 pm, room 2201. Sometimes life throws us a curve ball, or we turn a corner and have to completely reinvent our lives. It can be a blessing in disguise!

Come learn a logical, proven method of finding new purpose and reinventing your life in a way that makes it even happier and more fulfilling than ever.

Facilitators: Maribeth Blunt, MHR, LPC and Melissa Rutherford, Life Coach. Call 918.392.1191 to register.

ASPERGER SUPPORT GROUP First Thursday from 7:00-9:00 pm in Rm 1506. For mothers of children with Asperger Syndrome. Childcare available.

S.M.I.L.E. (Single Mothers in the Lord’s Embrace) A ministry that seeks to strengthen, empower, and support single moms while providing emotional and spiritual encouragement; a place to belong, be loved, and accepted; allowing ‘me’ time with free childcare.

An opportunity for single moms to walk with others through this challenging journey knowing they are not alone. Meets third Thursdays, 6:00-8:45 pm in the Parlor. Contact Mary-Margaret at 918.808.0981.

RSVP to Kellie at austin.kellie@ymail.com.

Childcare and free time included!

SURVIVORS! Second Sunday of each month, 4:00-5:30 pm, Parlor - Reaching out to one another with God’s eternal perspective through the storms of life. For those living with life-changing physical illness. Friends and family too.

Contact Rod at 918.740.4393.

HEALING HATS MINISTRY An Asbury ministry created to provide hats to cancer patients who have lost their hair. Home spun with knots of love, woven together with help from above!

Simply knit, crochet or sew a hat of your choice and drop it in the collection box located next to the Gazebo. Find more information in the literature rack attached to the collection box. Contact Sue at 918.455.2816 or HealingHatsMin@aol.com for more information.

VISITS TO ASBURY MEMBERS Asbury has a group of volunteers (Asbury Connection) who regularly visit people who are homebound, in nursing homes or in assisted living facilities. If you are interested in being visited or doing visits, call Adrena at 918.392.1144, or contact Page 25

PRAYER CARD SENDING TEAM Usually meets first and third Mondays at 10 am in Room 1508 to send cards with God’s encouraging words and our prayers to those who are ill or going through hard times. Cards and care packages are also sent to Asburyrelated military personnel. Contact Gwen Mohler at 918.258.5479 or GRMOHLER@aol.com for more information.

ALZHEIMER’S SUPPORT GROUP Third Thursday, from 1:30-3:00 pm in Rm 1621. Christian hope, support and education for friends and family of those with Alzheimer’s or other dementia.

DIVORCE RECOVERY Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 1335 - For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. Childcare available.

DIVORCE REBUILDING Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 1335 - For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce. Childcare available.

EATING DISORDER RECOVERY First and third Wednesdays, 12:00-1:30 pm, Room 1621 For individuals seeking support in the recovery process.

Bring sack lunch.

GRANDPARENTS RAISING GRANDCHILDREN First and third Tuesdays, 6:30-8:30 pm, Rm 1506.

MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES For family members or caregivers of people affected by a mental illness. 4th Thursdays from 1:30 - 3:00 pm in Rm 1507.

ASBURY BEAR BAGS Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books have comforted young children for many years, but now you may give a Bear Bag with a scripture-based journal included instead! Great for teens and adults.

Anyone may deliver an Asbury Bear to someone who is grieving. For more information, contact Sue at suemorey@yahoo.com” suemorey@yahoo.com.

CHILDREN

Registration forms for all children’s activities are available in the preschool and elementary lobbies.

Edwards at 918.392.1166 or jedwards@asburytulsa.org WEDNESDAY NIGHT LIVE Wednesday s, January 12 – April 27, 7-8pm, in the Chapel.

Join us on Wednesday nights for worship in the Chapel— Kid Style. We will combine music, high energy, verse memory and a Bible lesson in a setting that encourages kids to learn about worship. Our lessons will tie right into what we are doing on Sunday mornings. You may pick up a registration form in the Children’s Ministry area. For more information contact the age appropriate staff member: Kindergarten- Amber at 918.392.1171, Shannon at 918.392.1170, or 3rd – 5th grade-Jennifer at 918.392.4582.

CORE CHILDCARE HOURS Parents who are involved in RoadMap classes during these core hours will have childcare provided KAMP KINDERGARTEN for children 6 weeks - 12 years of age with no March 4, 6 – 8:00 pm, $5. Come join us for an awesome reservations needed: adventure at Kamp Kindergarten! This is a special event for our kindergarteners and a parent to explore and Sun 8:00 am - 12:00 pm discover the many places or our wonderful church!

Mon & Tue 9:00 am - 12:00 pm We will have a scavenger hunt with clues about God, Tue, Wed, & Thur 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm crafts, and activities along the way! We will meet in the kindergarten room and receive the first clue. We will SUNDAY MORNING VOLUNTEERS end our evening with an ice cream sundae dessert and Children’s Ministry has several openings for room words from Ms Shawn. Registration by February 24th volunteers and security volunteers. We have will help us plan out purchases of supplies. For more openings on the Alpha (1st and 2nd Sunday) and information contact Shanon Brown at 392-1170 or the Omega (3rd and 4th Sunday) at both the 9:15 sbrown@asburytulsa.org and 11:00 class times. Please contact Marcia Culver at 918.392.4585 or mculver@asburytulsa.org for 5TH & 6TH GRADE FAMILY RETREAT more information and to volunteer.

Friday, March 25th at 5-6pm to Saturday, March 26th 5pm departure, Cost $85/family of 2, Heart O’ Hills Camp, MURDOCK VILLA VISITS Tahlequah. We are so excited about our upcoming 5.6 February 20th, 12 – 3:30pm. Our 5th and 6th graders family camp! This event will be for a 5th or 6th grade have the opportunity to serve at an assisted living boy or girl and one parent. You will need to arrive at housing project - Murdock Villa. The $5 fee includes Heart O’ Hills camp (about 1 ½ hours from Tulsa) no the cost of a pizza lunch. Sign up is required since later than 6pm Friday night for dinner. There will be space is limited to the 1st 10 student. If you have separate indoor male and female cabins. Saturday, we’ll additional questions, please contact Joanna Edwards have lots of family time activities planned including sports, at 918.392.1166 or jedwards@asburytulsa.org. crafts and nature walks along with breakfast, lunch and worship in the awesome outdoor chapel. Please pick CELEBRATION STATION up a registration form for more details about this great Mondays, 7:00 – 9:00, Faith Zone. Celebration Station event. There are a limited number of beds, so be sure is a 52-week complementary children’s program to to register soon! The registration deadline is Monday, Celebrate Recovery. So while adults explore topics February 14th. For more information you may contact that bring healing and wholeness, kids discover Amber Cox at 392-1171 or acox@asburytulsa.org the same truths in age-appropriate ways through worship, crafts, games and activities! Contact Eryn DISCIPLESHIP Wallis 392-4588 for details.

DISCIPLESHIP COMMUNITIES If you have not yet found an Adult Discipleship 5TH & 6TH GRADE BIBLE STUDY Community check out “Get Involved” on our website, Wednesdays, January 12th – April 27th- 7:00 pm – www.asburytulsa.org or pick up a brochure at one of 8:00 pm, Cost $10 for workbook. On Wednesday our Welcome Centers. Looking for a Home-Based nights our 5th & 6th graders will be working from Small group? Email JOdom@asburytulsa.org for more “How to Study your Bible for Kids” by Kay Arthur. information.

Discover for yourself what God’s Word says. You’ll sharpen your skills so that at you can know what the Bible says, understand what it means, and apply it to your life all on your own.Your early registration helps us have the correct number of study books. If you have any additional questions, please contact Joanna Page 26

ENDOWMENTS

Leave a legacy that continues to give forever to a ministry you want to support. There are endowments that support many areas of Asbury’s outreach including children, youth, music, missions, and training of pastors as well as a General endowment. You can easily impact a ministry thru your will or a current gift. Contact Dwight Yoder at 918.392.1113 or dyoder@asburytulsa.org.

MEN

MEN’S PRAYER BREAKFAST

Wednesdays, 6:30-7:30 am in the CLC. Attention men of Asbury. Make plans to join us for a great time of meaningful worship, life-changing prayer and an awesome big breakfast,

all for just $3 per person. First-time guests are free.

MEN’S OPEN BASKETBALL Fridays, 11:30 am – 1:15 pm, Gym. Men! Make plans to join other Asbury guys and their friends each week as HOSPITALITY we get together for a little “round ball” and lots of fun!

It’s the art of welcoming and treasuring people. It is Come show us what you’ve got, and we’ll have a great extending the grace and welcome of God to all people. time of exercise and fellowship. Invite your friends, and While we all should be extending this welcome and grace, we’ll see you on the court! there are specific positions within Asbury where we need volunteers willing to commit to serving once or twice a month. These positions include shuttle drivers, Gazebo cashiers, Connection Corner consultants, greeters and ushers. To volunteer, Call Joan at 918.392.1176

MARRIAGE & FAMILY

10 GREAT DATES WITH YOUR MATE 2nd Tuesdays, February 8 – November 8, 6:15 – 7:00 pm, Room 1502. Gather to hear a variety of topics led by various speakers (30 minutes), and then have dinner out. NEW TOPICS/SPEAKERS! Call 918.392.1191 to register.

MATURE MEN’S MINISTRY R.O.M.E.O. LUNCHEON Are you a “Retired Old Man” who wants to “Eat Out?” If so, then these luncheons are for you! A really awesome bunch of guys are meeting every 2nd & 4th Friday at 11:15 am, for good food and great fellowship. They take place at Village Inn (71st and Memorial), and are open to anyone 60 years and up. For more information, contact Bud at bdmathes@cox.net or Jim at rober@cox.net

“FATHERED BY GOD” MEN’S BIBLE STUDY Wednesdays, January 12 – April 27, 6 – 8 pm, Room 2818.

Join with other Brothers in Christ as we study the biblical DYNAMIC MARRIAGE and practical ways men of faith have enriched their lives Give us 9 weeks…we’ll give you a dynamic marriage! through relating cross-generationally for their benefit, This is an interactive class that will help you replace and for the benefit of the Kingdom of God. This video old habits with new ones in a unique,safe environment. series will be facilitated by Greg Ruley.

Go from good to great, mediocre to magnificent or hurt to healed. Cost: $130/couple (many materials RAISING A MODERN-DAY KNIGHT included, scholarships available) $50 holds your spot. Wednesdays, January 12 – February 23, 6 – 8 pm, Room To register, contact Jackie or Ron at 918.251.6665 or 2500, $17. This six-part video series hosted by bestasburydynamicmarriage@windstream.net. Limited to selling author/speaker/pastor Robert Lewis, is designed to first 12 paid couples in each class. Childcare available. help concerned dads understand the critical issues they Next class on Wednesdays, March 23-May 18. must face in order to be an effective, strategic father as they lead their sons on this great adventure call authentic ATTENTION ENGAGED COUPLES manhood. The study provides an overall fatherhood If you are planning to use an Asbury pastor to officiate game plan, including what your son needs to see, receive, and/or use Asbury’s facilities, be sure to book ASAP experience and hear each year of his life, from ages 1 to 21. to allow ample time for Couple-to-Couple (required premarital sessions).

BOY SCOUT SPAGHETTI & CHILI LUNCHEON MILESTONE WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES Sunday, February 20, 10:30 – 2:00 pm, CLC. The Asbury Email your upcoming Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, Boy Scout Foundation, sponsored by the men’s ministry, 15, 20, etc.) to Carolyn Schutte at brucars2@cox.net would like to invite you to its 6th Annual Spaghetti & or call her at 451-1559.

Chili Luncheon! Come celebrate Scout Sunday with the scouts, and enjoy a generous serving of spaghetti & chili, MEMBERSHIP bread sticks/cornbread and salad with your family and ASBURY EXPLORATION friends. The cost is just $5 per person, or $20 maximum Come to a lunch/class to learn more about becoming per immediate family. Tickets may be purchased Sunday, a member of Asbury. Sunday, February 6, from 12:15- February 6 & Sunday, February 13, from 8:30 am to 2:00 pm in Community Life Center. Lunch provided 12:30 pm or the day of the event at the door. However, and childcare is available for children six weeks pre-purchasing is appreciated to help with planning! All through 6th grade. Call 918.392.1191 to register. proceeds will benefit the Boy Scouting programs ofAsbury.

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ANNUAL MEN’S RETREAT Friday & Saturday, March 4 & 5, 2011, Men! A time to get away with Brothers in Christ and friends for… GREAT FOOD – Our World-Class BBQ Feast Friday evening! GREAT WORSHIP! GREAT SESSIONS – Led by Courageous Brothers who will lead us and challenge us, including an intergenerational panel! GREAT CONVERSATIONS – In our powerful Bro-Groups (small groups)! GREAT ACTIVITES! Registration forms available at all welcome centers.

to register. (Receive a $50 discount if it’s your first trip to Rio Bravo!) $100 deposit holds your place, and the full balance is due on Monday, March 14. There may be incremental costs for additional airline tickets after the first 30 spots are taken. Scholarship/financial assistance is available on an as-needed basis. We don’t want finances to keep anyone from attending this trip!

This mission endeavor is a great way to serve others while showing the love of Jesus Christ. It is also a great way to get to know other men in our church and to HOME IMPROVEMENT WORK DAYS come back with relationships that will last a lifetime.

Saturday, February 19, meet in the CLC at 8:30-9:30 Please consider being a part of this great effort to proam for planning. The Home Improvement Ministry vide decent housing for those in desperate need. You serves widows and single moms within the Asbury won’t regret a single moment of fellowship and minisfamily. Our men’s ministry volunteers make them- try. For more information contact Frank Field at frank. selves available every other month to help folks out field@williams.com 918-630-0717/cell, or Jim Furman with minor home repairs and/or home improve- at jnlfurman@cox.net 918-625-1316/cell. ment projects. If you’d like to help, contact Michiel at michiel0930@sbcglobal.net. If you are in need MISSIONS of help, just pick up a request form at the south SUPER CARE SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 6 welcome desk, return at least ten days before the Asbury will hold its 4th Annual Food Drive to benefit scheduled work day. A Home Improvement volun- Restore Hope Ministries on Sunday, February 6 from teer will contact you, and make final arrangements 8 am – 2 pm. The most needed items are canned vegto get the job(s) done! etables, soup and fruit, peanut butter, canned meat and fish, and pasta products. We need volunteers to assist CAR CARE WORKDAY with unloading food, packing loose cans, loading boxSaturday, March 12, 9:00 am – 12:00 noon, Outside es on the truck, and assisting members who shop at Breakaway entrance, northeast side. Car Care Sat- Sam’s. Please contact Joan Henning at 918-392-1176 or urday is an every-other-month workday provided jhenning@asburytulsa.org. for Asbury’s widows and single moms, through our men’s ministry. While the ladies wait in the comfort MISSION DINNER of the café, volunteers check tires, belts, fluids, fil- Join us for our quarterly Mission Dinner on Tuesday, ters and batteries. They also vacuum and wash the February 8 at 6 pm in the Family Room. Cost: $7 vehicles, and then update owners on what’s running (payable that night). Contact Missy Sistrunk at 918-392smoothly and what needs professional attention. 1163 or msistrunk@asburytulsa.org for reservations by This free service gives our men the opportunity to February 2. put their faith in to action through loving and serving those in need. If you would like to volunteer to 2ND SATURDAY help, contact Mike at mnalley16@cox.net. If you are Looking for an easy way to make a difference and share in need of these services, just get your vehicle in line Christ’s love in Tulsa! Join us this 2nd Saturday, Februby 11:30! No reservations necessary! ary 12, at 8:30 am at Venue68 and choose between local mission opportunities. At 8:45 we head to the ministry MEN’S RIO BRAVO MISSION TRIP sites. Teams work from 9:00-11:30 am and buses return Join with other men of Asbury as we build casitas to Venue68 no later than 12:15. Families with children (small houses), and help local churches. No building welcomed and encouraged! Contact Betty Higgins at experience or skills are required; just a willing spirit! carevets@aol.com for more information.

All men are invited to participate. This is a great trip for “first-timers,” but we have quite a few previous RÉSUMÉ ASSISTANCE AND REVIEW participants going as well. We anticipate a minimum Do you have an effective résumé? An extra set of eyes of 30 men for this trip. can make a difference. E-mail your résumé to employ.

transitions@yahoo.com.

We will be flying out of Tulsa on Wednesday, April 27 and return on Sunday, May 1. We will stay at the Volunteers in Missions headquarters, which provides basically hotel rooms with four beds (2 bunks) with linens and towels and one bath per room. The sign up deadline is Monday, March 14, and the cost is $550 per person for the first 30 men Page 28

OJT (OVERCOMING JOB TRANSITIONS) Wonk, wonk, wonk, wonk! It all sounds like Charlie Brown’s teacher when you’re out of work. Asbury offers OJT to help those looking for work. Do you know someone who is looking? Is your company hiring? Do you know about resumes, interviewing, etc. and have a heart to serve? We want to hear from you! OJT meets the third Tuesday of each month, 6:30pm - 9:00pm, Family Room. Contact Russ Knight - OJTJobs@gmail.com.

VOLUNTEERS NEEDED FOR REDEMPTION DINNERS Asbury provides dinners on the third and fifth Sundays of each month at 6 pm to Redemption’s congregation at St. Luke’s Redemption Church at 1839 N. Boston, which includes inmates, family members of inmates, and volunteers. Dinners are for about 100 people. Ovens, stove top, and microwave are available for cooking or heating the meal. Paper goods, plastic ware and ice will need to be provided with the meal. Volunteers need to deliver the meal, set it up for buffet service, and clean up after.The available dates for this mission opportunity are January 30, March 20, May 29, June 19, July 17, July 31, August 21, October 16, November 20 and December 18.

Please sign up with Missy Sistrunk, 918-392-1163.

MISSIONS/VIM

VOLUNTEERS IN MISSION 2011 OPPORTUNITIES February 26-March 5 Monterrey, Mexico, MBS & Construction

September Tanzania, East Africa, Construction September 30-October 2 Cookson Hills, Oklahoma, Light Construction Early October Central Asia, Relationship, Teaching & Light Construction October 15-22* Monterrey, Mexico, MBS & Construction November 2-6 Monterrey, Mexico, Medical * Tentative VIM TEAM LEADER TRAINING March 5, September 17, or November 5 (All training dates are in Oklahoma City.) For more information about these exciting mission opportunities, contact Marilene Long at 918.392.1164 or mlong@asburytulsa. org. For information about the men’s Rio Bravo, Mexico opportunities, contact Dub Ambrose at 918.492.1771.

We also plan domestic teams in response to needs due to natural disasters.

MUSIC

Chancel Choir Wednesdays, 7:00 – 9:00 pm, Choir room New Covenant Orchestra Wednesdays, 6:00-7:30 pm, Orchestra room

April 8-10 Cookson Hills, Oklahoma, Light Construction

Children’s Choirs Wednesdays, 6:00-6:50 pm,Various rooms

April 28-May 7 Central Asia, Relationship, Teaching & Light Construction

Perpetual Light Thursdays, 10:30 -12 noon, Handbell room

June 2-13 Estonia, Lighthouse June 3-12 Ecuador, MBS & Construction June 15-27 Tanzania, East Africa, Medical June 23-July 4 Estonia, Camp Gideon,Youth Camp July 21-August 1 Estonia, Parnu, MBS & Light Construction Mid-late Summer Central Asia, College Students Page 29

Celebration Ringers Tuesdays, 4:30- 5:30 pm, Handbell room Asbury Power & Light Co. Sundays, 8 to 9:15 am, Orchestra room Asbury Youth Orchestra Wednesdays, 5:30-6:15 pm, Chancel Asbury Singing Ambassadors Tuesdays, 1:30- 3:00 pm, Choir Room

PRAYER

YOUTH ON MISSION 24/7 PRAYER VIGIL SIGN-UP This is a prayer opportunity you won’t want to miss!

Commit to an hour of prayer in the Venue 68 Prayer Room, on behalf of our Youth on Mission, March 12-19.

Sign up for a time slot Sunday, February 27 or Sunday, March 6 at the south entrance, main building or in the Venue 68 before and after Worship. You may also sign up at home via the Asbury web page. Be a part of this powerful prayer effort to support our youth and leaders as they serve in mission fields on U.S. soil and beyond.

“I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. Matthew 18:19 ALTAR PRAYER If you would like someone to pray with you during Holy Communion or immediately following a worship service, please come to the altar rail. A pastor or member of the Altar Prayer Team will be glad to pray with you for your needs – physical, emotional or spiritual - at the altar or in the Prayer Room.

PRAYER ROOM RESERVATIONS The leadership of Asbury’s prayer ministry would like to remind you that the main facility Prayer Room is open not only to individuals desiring to pray in a quiet, meditative atmosphere, but also to prayer groups within communities and ministries. Just give Pam in the Adult Ministries office a call at 918.392. 4589 to reserve the Prayer Room for your group on a weekly or monthly basis.

PRAYER ROOM DAYS & TIMES Our prayer rooms are accessible to you at these times: Mason Chapel & Venue 68 Sundays from 7:00 am - 12:30 pm through the interior doors.

in being visited,callAdrena at 918.392.1144,or contact the coordinator, Abby Sluice at ozyanks2000@yahoo.com.

SENIOR SIT AND FIT STRETCHING CLASS Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 9:00-9:30 am in the Gym. All senior adults are invited to join us for a time of stretching, coupled with lots of fun and fellowship. No high impact workout here. We take it nice and easy. Come give it a try.

SENIOR WALK IN THE GYM WITH HIM Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 8:30-9:00 am in the gym. All senior adults are invited to join us for power walking, coupled with lots of fun and fellowship.

Come give it a try.

SENIOR GAME TIME Every second Thursday – 1:30 – 4:00 pm Attention Asbury Senior Adults! How would you like to get together on a regular basis with a wonderful bunch of folks and play a few rounds of cards, dominoes, or whatever board or card game you chose? You KNOW you’d love it! If you’re a senior adult age 55 and up, come check it out in Room 2820. Bring a friend and stay for as long as you like!

SENIOR ADULT MEAL & MOVIE Attention all senior adults of Asbury! If you’re 55 years of age or over, our monthly meal and movie day event may be just the “ticket” for you! We get together at a different Tulsa restaurant each month, and then head off to see a “first run” movie. The dates and times vary according to the movie selected, but those who express an interest will be contacted a few days ahead of time so they can make plans accordingly. For more information or to sign up for the call list, contact Sally Wood, sallywood@sbcglobal.net.

RECOVERY

TWEENAGERS PROGRAM & LUNCHEON Everyone aged 55 and over is welcomed to join us for our monthly Tweenagers meeting and luncheon, taking place Thursday, February 24th, from 10:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.in the CLC. Our program, “Mission Puppets History”, will be presented by Dave and Jan Meilner. This will be an opportunity to learn the history of the Asbury Puppets and the various missions in which the puppets have been involved. The puppets will sing some songs and there will be a demonstration of what goes on “behind the scenes” of puppetry.

SENIOR ADULTS

Call the main office at 918-492-1771 to make your reservations BY NOON, Monday, February 21st. If, during that week, you need to cancel your reservation, PLEASE let us know so the cooks will have an accurate account.

The luncheon is provided by Asbury, but a donation to Tweenager’s missions and other expenses will be greatly appreciated. Come join us for fun and fellowship!

Main Facility, Mason Chapel, & Venue 68 Monday - Friday 8:00 am - 9:00 pm Saturday 10:00 am - 3:00 pm Sunday

12:30 pm - 9:00 pm To obtain pass codes, call Pam in the Adult Ministries office at 918.392.4589.

CELEBRATE RECOVERY Come join this supportive group of people each Monday night at 6:00 pm. Dinner at 6:00 pm; Worship from 7:00-8:00 pm; Small Groups from 8:00-9:00 pm; Dessert from 9:00-9:30 pm. Hiding any hurts, habits or hangups? God never intended for you to live in bondage.

VISITS TO ASBURY MEMBERS Asbury has a unique group of volunteers (Asbury Connection) who regularly visit people who are either homebound or in nursing homes. If you are interested

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SINGLES

DIVORCE RECOVERY Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 1335 - For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. Childcare available.

DIVORCE REBUILDING Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 1335 - For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce. Childcare available.

STUDENTS

789 SUPERBOWL LUNCHEONS All 789 small groups will be going out to lunch together as a group on Superbowl Sunday, February 6th. Students need to meet their small group in the Venue Café directly after church and bring $8. Groups will return about 2:30pm.

SBM FINAL PAYMENT 7TH & 8TH GRADE PAPERWORK DUE Be sure all your money is paid for Spring Break Missions

by February 13th and 7th & 8th grade SBM Medical Paperwork is turned in.

informational meeting. Lunch will be served 12:15-2pm!

All welcome, please RSVP to mbaker@asburytulsa.org.

789 GRADE BREAKAWAY Sunday mornings, 9:15-10:30 am in the Breakaway Area.

This isn’t your normal Sunday school. Come join us for worship, fun and games, interactive talk/lesson, and sometimes free candy and gift cards.

LHGH AND 789 BIBLE STUDY Life is crazy hard and everyone needs a safe place to get real and deal with it! That is exactly what Life Hurts God Heals is all about. Every Wednesday night 5-7 pm in the Venue, 7-12th grade welcome anytime contact Marsha for details 918.392.1157. Or come learn about God in 789 Bible Study every Wednesday 6:30-8pm!

10TH- 12TH BREAKAWAY Every Wednesday night we come together for a time of connection and worship. Our desire is to explore who God really is and how our lives matter to Him. We get started around 6:30 pm and wrap up around 8:30ish. Plan on hanging out afterwards for pizza.

7TH GRADE CONFIRMATION PARENT MEETING If your 7th grader is going through the Confirmation program don’t miss this mandatory meeting, February 13 4:45-6pm in the UPSTAIRS CHILDRENS AREA, don’t forget your homework!

10TH- 12TH GRADE SMALL GROUPS Get Connected – Are you looking for a way to get more connected? Are you looking for a place to grow in your walk with Jesus? Then being a part of a small group is where you need to be. If you are already in a small group, don’t forget to re-sign up for your group. Our small groups meet every Sunday night, times vary. Some of the groups meet in homes and others meet at the church. Call Todd @ 918.392.1154 or Amy @ 918.392.1156 to get more info.

SBM HOUSTON MANDATORY MEETING February 27, Venue, 5-6pm (no 7th grade small groups.)

Going on 7th Grade Houston Spring Break Missions?

STUDENTS AND PARENTS must attend this MANDATORY meeting!

7TH-12TH GRADE METRO WORSHIP @ VENUE 68 Come join youth from all over the city in a night to just worship Jesus. We meet the first Wednesday night of every month from 7 – 8:30ish.

PARENTING SEMINAR – TEEN CULTURE Ever wonder what is going on with teen culture, and why and how your kids get away with some of the stuff they do? Get hints and tips on keeping informed and up to date on what kids are doing today. Upstairs in the Venue blue classroom, any parent welcome- February 27 at 9:15am or 11am.

SBM RED BIRD MANDATORY MEETING February 27, 3-6pm,Venue 68. Going on 8th Grade Red Bird Spring Break Missions? STUDENTS AND PARENTS must attend this MANDATORY meeting from 3-4:30pm, then students will stay from 4:30-6pm for more training.

HOUSTON LEADER TRAINING If you are a leader on the Houston Spring Break Mission Trip, don’t miss this mandatory training! Feb. 27, 3:305pm, then stay for the Houston meeting 5-6pm.

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10TH – 12TH SPRING BREAK MISSIONS TRAINING DATES:

Guatemala: Feb 13 – 12:15pm-6pm

(bring $3 for lunch)

Feb 13 – MANDATORY

parent meeting time 5-6

Mar 6 – 8:30am Commissioning

Mar 6 – 12:15pm-2:30pm

(bring $3 for lunch) Jamaica: Feb 13 – 12:15pm-6pm

(bring $3 for lunch)

Feb 13 – MANDATORY

parent meeting time 3:30-4:30

Mar 6 – 8:30am Commissioning Mar 6 – 12:15pm-2:30pm (bring $3 for lunch)

10TH – 12TH SPRING BREAK MISSIONS MONEY DEADLINES: February 13: Guatemala $300

(make check to ASBURY) Jamaica $100

(make check to ASBURY)

VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES

GET PLUGGED IN! Volunteer opportunities have been updated and can be found at the information desks near the main entrances and Venue68. Updates are also posted on the website.

There is a link in the left column on the home page.

WOMEN

WOMEN OF THE WORD Wednesdays from 10:00-11:00 am in Rm 2319, Rev. Darlene Johnson, teacher.

CRAFTY LADIES FELLOWSHIP Mondays, 9:30 am - 1:00 pm, Rm 2820. Ladies, if you enjoy doing crafts and fellowshipping at the same time, this activity is for you! We gather on Monday mornings to work on our own individual arts and crafts, stop for a delicious pot-luck lunch, and continue on through until 1:00 pm. We have a wonderful time together, and would love to have you join us! For more information, contact Betty Seetin, and stop by some Monday and check us out!

FEBRUARY UMW LUNCHEON & PROGRAM Thursday, February 3, 11:30 am – 1:00 pm, $7 for lunch, CLC. Attention ladies! The program planned for February’s luncheon will be presented by Angela Mitchell. Domestic Violence Intervention Services, Inc. (DVIS)/Call Rape, a Tulsa Area United Way agency, is the only nonprofit agency in Tulsa, Oklahoma and the surrounding communities to provide comprehensive intervention and prevention services to men, women and children affected by domestic and sexual violence.

The DVIS/Call Rape mission is to rebuild lives affected by domestic violence and sexual assault through advocacy, shelter, counseling, and education. Our scripture emphasis for this month comes from Ephesians 5:29-33

HOME IMPROVEMENT WORK DAYS Saturday, February 19. The Home Improvement Ministry serves widows and single moms within the Asbury family. Our men’s ministry volunteers make themselves available every other month to help folks out with minor home repairs and/or home improvement projects. If you’d like to help, contact Michiel at michiel0930@ sbcglobal.net. If you are in need of help, just pick up a request form at the south welcome desk, return form at least ten days before the scheduled work day. A Home Improvement volunteer will contact you, and make final arrangements to get the job(s) done!

CAR CARE WORKDAY Saturday, March 12, 9:00 am – 12:00 noon, Outside Breakaway entrance, northeast side. Car Care Saturday is an every-other-month workday provided for Asbury’s widows and single moms, through our men’s ministry.

While the ladies wait in the comfort of the café, volunteers check tires, belts, fluids, filters and batteries.

They also vacuum and wash the vehicles, and then update owners on what’s running smoothly and what needs professional attention. This free service gives our men the opportunity to put their faith in to action through loving and serving those in need. If you would like to volunteer to help, contact Mike at mnalley16@cox.net.

If you are in need of these services, just get your vehicle in line by 11:30! No reservations necessary!

WORSHIP

8:00 AM COMMUNION SERVICE Mason Chapel. Traditional service with music led by Hart Morris. Communion is served and Dr. Harrison preaches.

9:15 AM CONTEMPORARY PRAISE & WORSHIP Sanctuary. Contemporary music led by Mark Bennett and team, time of prayer and the message will all carry a prevailing theme for the morning. Dr. Harrison preaches.

9:15 AM OPEN HOUSE WORSHIP Community Life Center. A relaxed atmosphere with engaging worship led by Dub Ambrose and team. Dr. Tom Harrison’s message is simulcast with an occasional live sermon from another pastor.

11:00 AM TRADITIONAL SERVICE Sanctuary. The Chancel Choir, the New Covenant Orchestra and various vocal and instrumental ensembles offer a variety of styles of music led by Hart Morris. Dr. Tom Harrison preaches.

11:00 AM MODERN SERVICE Venue 68. Rich blend of ancient and modern worship, led by Chris Cleveland and team. Sign interpreters for the deaf are offered. Dr. Tom Harrison’s message is simulcast.

6:00 PM MODERN SERVICE Venue68. Rich blend of ancient and modern worship, led by the Ben Kilgore and team. Rev. Spencer Smith preaches.

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milestone anniversaries 60 years

Ray & Betty Gordy 02/17/51 Jerry & Imogene Headley 02/02/51

Ray & Betty Gordy

Jerry & Imogene Headley

Gary & Jackie Parker

Ed & Rita Lenfestey

55 years

Gary & Jackie Parker 02/04/56 Ed & Rita Lenfestey 02/19/56 Larry & Jeri Myerley 02/26/56

50 years

David & Shirley Wilkinson 02/21/61 Jess & Mary Mitchell 02/03/61 Bill & Jane Hamilton 02/03/61

30 years

Jan & Bernie Skinner 02/21/81

20 years

Jason & Donna Rushing 01/05/91

15 years

Rodney & Tiffany Huss 12/23/95

5 years

Larry & Jeri Myerley

Emsy & Nicole Clark 12/10/05 David & Shirley Wilkinson

Bill & Jane Hamilton Page 33

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new members

Jannis Hallford

Ray & Beth Hudson

Gene & Linda Snodgrass

Eleanir & Murch Smith

Larry & Sarah Turner with Allie, AJ and Schafer

Asbury Exploration Classes

Come to a lunch/class to learn more about becoming a member of Asbury. Sunday, February 6, March 6 or April 3 from 12:15-2:00 pm in Community Life Center. Lunch provided and childcare is available for children six weeks through 6th grade. Call 392-1191 to register.

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