Once again, this month’s Tidings is dedicated to the importance of belonging. Asbury has 35 discipleship communities, where members seek to nurture one another in living the life of a disciple. Communities are designed for warm fellowship, spiritual growth, and serving others. We featured half of the communities last month and feature the rest this month. If you are not part of a discipleship community, we hope that the stories will inspire you to find one that fits your needs. Here are four easy ways to find a community that is right for you: 1. Check out the Discipleship Communities brochure available at the Welcome Centers. 2. Check out the website: http://www.asburytulsa.org/ getinvolved/communities/index.html 3. Ask a friend or another church member which community they belong to, and ask them to take you with them. 4. Call the church (492-1771) and we will help you.
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The word “disciple” simply means “a follower of a person.” It is the Greek word mathetes, meaning, “learner.“ As disciples of Christ, we learn from Him and from one another through koinonia. 1 John 1:3 says “Truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ.” Fellowship with one another begins with fellowship with the Father and His Son Jesus Christ. As disciples in fellowship we learn how to love the Lord, one another, and consequently grow together. Sola Akala
March 1 7:00 pm in the Sanctuary
Mission: Possible Our “Mission Possible” capital funds campaign will certainly benefit our Children’s and Student ministries. We plan on adding on to our children’s facility, and totally revamping the Tulsa Ice Arena into a Student Ministry area. Jesus said about kids, “Don’t hinder them, for to such belongs the Kingdom of God!” We are taking His mandate Dr. Tom Harrison seriously by making sure our kids come first. Senior Pastor We are also a missional congregation. We are going to assist a new United Methodist Church, Abiding Harvest, as they begin their very first building program. We will help a (yet to be identified) urban UMC that needs assistance in their ministry. We will also assist the Baltic Methodist Theological Seminary in Tallinn, Estonia. We heard from our Church survey that people feel strongly about connecting the chapel with the main building, and about adding some porticos to our facility to help during bad weather. These are on the drawing board as well. With a successful campaign, we will reduce our debt load significantly. Mission Possible will help us so that we will be debt-free in 7.5 years after the campaign begins. We will not be adding to our debt-load with Mission Possible. One other area we are excited about developing is our Adult community space. We anticipate remodeling the current Student Ministry facility and making that into additional adult classrooms. We certainly need the space NOW for that. This will be a significant help to our ministry to adults. Adult Discipleship Communities are so important to us! I remember my dad always saying about church, “It’s the best place in the world to witness.” (He also said that it was the best place in the world to meet your wife.) My parents found deep and life-long friends at Rose Hill, and at Epworth United Methodist Church. I tell people all the time that one of the very best things about going to Asbury is that we have some of the best people in the world here! We certainly do! Dana was telling me the other day about talking with someone who told her that she and her husband did not have any real friends. I grieve when I hear that, because I think having friends who are Christians is one of the most important things in all of life. Our friends certainly shape us, even as adults, for good or for not so good. As Paul said, “Bad company ruins good morals.” I hope you have an Adult Discipleship Community where you are making Christian friends. I cannot emphasize enough to you how important building this connection is to people. Our Communities are able to respond to the needs of people in wonderful ways. You need a place, and that Community needs you! There are guides available (you can even check on-line). We have some building to do! Our facility has some growth opportunities. But our greatest opportunity is to reach more people! A Discipleship Community is probably the best place to start. See you Sunday,
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Peter Mayer is Returning to Asbury!
Women’s Spring Retreat
with special guest speaker, Jenny Broughton at Mt. Sequoyah Methodist Retreat and Conference Center in Fayetteville. The cost is $55 per person, which includes all lodging, meals and materials.
Last year, Asbury hosted The Peter Mayer Group for a concert benefiting Grant Miller and his work in Tanzania. Once again this year, Peter & Co. will return with their ‘Stirrin’ up the Water’ tour, an eclectic, energetic and inspiring evening of music you must not miss. Perhaps best know as Jimmy Buffet’s lead guitarist, Peter Mayer— guitarist, vocalist and songwriter—has built an impressive career in his own right, and with the four members of the group, tours regularly all over the country. The group’s repertoire is extensive and varied, making it difficult to categorize them. The one thing that is obvious about a Peter Mayer concert is the excitement and intensity of the music. Peter’s life began in India, where his parents served as missionaries for 17 years before returning to their Missouri roots. Musical influences from that period of his life can be heard in his playing. Peter recalls, “I can remember Indian musicians giving Christmas concerts in my parents’ house. Wildly playing drums and flutes, shakers and bells, they would go on for hours and hours.” He went on to study formal theory and composition, and to teach jazz guitar as a faculty member of Webster University in St. Louis. These life experiences and musical influences are readily evident in all Peter Mayer Group concerts. Don’t miss this inspiring evening—Sunday, March 12, 6:00 P.M., in the Sanctuary. There will be no tickets sold for the concert; however, an offering will be received benefiting Celebrate Recovery ministries in Tulsa.
sponsored by Asbury’s United Methodist Women
MISSION: POSSIBLE... is a spiritual journey that we will take as a church body, and as individuals. Each person will have the opportunity to prayerfully consider how they will be a part of the future of Asbury – and the mission of building God’s kingdom. As we make this journey, we will be provided with resources and teaching to help make a financial commitment decision. On May 21, 2006, each individual or family will have the opportunity to make their commitment for the three-year giving period. Jesus looked at them and said,
“With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.” Mark 10:27
Why We Give to Student Missions When my sister asked me to write a little something about why my husband and I give to missions, I was thrilled! What an exciting way to participate in the mission process! Giving to missions is one of the most rewarding things that we can do as Christians, and as Americans. It is also one of the best ways that we can invest in our future and the people we care about. I give for four reasons: 1. I’m a Christian. My sister introduced me to Jesus after she returned from her first mission trip. Before leaving on the trip, she was in love with Jesus. When she came back, she had a vision and a new determination to go along with that love. I couldn’t understand it; she grew up with some of the same life experiences as me, yet somehow she had found hope. All that I had found was anger and confusion, but I desperately wanted to have just a little bit of the hope she had found. After many long talks, tears and prayer I found that hope. That was over ten years ago. Since that time, I have experienced many difficulties and life threatening challenges. It was that hope, love and forgiveness that has gotten me through and brought me so many blessings. I can’t imagine what my life would have been without Jesus and therefore I must do what I can to help others find that same hope. As a Christian, I give to spread hope. 2. I’m an American. As an Air Force wife stationed overseas, I have witnessed the many differences in opportunities, culture, religion, and
conveniences from one country to another. With our 24-hour superstores, big houses, education, and freedom to practice our religious beliefs, we are, at times, unaware of the gift it is to be an American. Often, we take for granted the freedoms and niceties that we have until we are faced with not having them at our disposal. In many countries, like Guatemala, opportunity and education (among other things) are far from common. As Americans, we are afforded many freedoms and opportunities; and with that, we have a responsibility to help others. As an American, I give to help others. 3. I’m a sister. It is said that people will rise to your lowest expectation. If that is true, I expect my friends
and family to rise to their greatest ambition. It is only through my actions that they will know my belief in them is sincere. For my sister, her dream is to give people the opportunity to experience God’s amazing grace, to go where there is a human need and to fill it with the blessing of Christ. It is something that she developed a passion for as a teenager and has continued to strive for ever since. She has accepted God’s plan for her life. For that, I will contribute every penny and prayer I have to give, because I believe in her. As a sister, I give to express my support! 4. I’m a concerned citizen. The teens that sit in our churches today will be the leaders of tomorrow. These teens grow up with all of the comforts and opportunities that money and freedom can provide, yet are still missing something. Taking part in missions gives them that experience and knowledge of other countries. It allows them the opportunity to see and experience different cultures, and gives them an appreciation for what it means to have freedom and live in America. This experience shapes their personality and beliefs and ultimately makes them a better person with a stronger appreciation for the needs of others. As a concerned citizen, I give for the future. Kendra Gilpatrick (Sister of Kerry Loescher) U.S. Air Force
Capt. Brian & Kendra Gilpatrick. He is a pilot in the USAF.
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Worth the Wait What do 45 vans, 650 Arby’s sandwiches, 10,000 ping pong balls, 50 lbs. of chocolate, 300 tea bags, and over 200 volunteers have in common? Worth the Wait! On January 20-22, nine churches and over 450 junior high and high school students and leaders participated in this very special weekend retreat. This retreat was a time set aside for students to really spend time working through what God’s word has to say about purity in our lives. We looked at the power of the media, our standards for dating and friendships, what God’s plan is for physical intimacy in marriage, and our own hearts. It was a powerful weekend for not just students but parents as well. For every student that participated in the weekend, there was an adult sponsor—usually a parent. Parents participated with their student in some special times of worship and teaching as well as a workshop just for them dealing with practical strategies for how to help their student live a lifestyle of purity in an “R-rated” world. The grand finale of the weekend included a special commitment service where sponsors/parents presented their student with a purity ring. This ring is an every day reminder of God’s plan for their lives and their commitment to pursue Him. Here’s what students had to say about their experience….
“He did not create us to just “give away” our bodies, our temples. ”
“Purity isn’t only about not having sex.”
“Dating is more serious than I thought, even at our age.”
“I will stop being a mean girl.”
“Forgiveness is a very healing power.”
“God wants for us an amazing sexual, spiritual, and
“I will bounce my eyes and think of women as creations of God.”
emotional relationship with our spouses.”
“People must be broken to realize how much God loves them.”
“I’m ready to give up my “wish” for a boyfriend.”
“I have set boundaries.”
“I can stand up for my values and for what I believe in.”
“I learned guys aren’t everything.”
“I know that I am worth the wait.”
“I am making plans to become a real person in God.”
“I’m going to keep my body a secret.”
“I don’t have to be dull and boring to be modest.”
“I don’t need a guy to tell me how great I am -
“I will spend a lot more time with God.”
all I need is Jesus.”
“Purity is in God’s Word.”
“Purity is more than just a line, it is a journey.”
“Others struggle too; I don’t have to feel alone.”
“God thinks I am beautiful just the way I am.”
“I won’t look at girls like they are cars anymore.”
“When you do something bad, it is ok to talk to God
“Purity will make marriage more enjoyable.”
and He will forgive you.”
“It is worth the wait.”
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photos by Lisa Tresch Above: Joe Taggart, Nick Vinyard, Brian Ivey, and Callie Hall at the Friday night Worth the Wait worship service.
“I had so much sin in my life, I was finally relieved of those huge cinder blocks.” “God can fulfill my need for a fatherly male influence.” “I will stay as far away from the line as I can.”
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Lonely Planet, Part Two by lisa tresch
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od declared that it is not good for man to be alone, and this is true. Loneliness is an ache and an emptiness that leaves us feeling less human. We were not created to be alone. Man is a communal creature. So is woman. A neighbor that lived across the street from our family many years ago set up a hospital bed in her living room so her husband could die with a view of the tulips she had planted in the front yard. After his death, she closed the living room curtains and we didn’t see her for a while. About a month later we gave her a cat, thinking that this might ease her loneliness and I suppose it did in some way. She spoiled the cat and left it messages on her answering machine when she was away for long periods of time. Then one morning as we were chatting in her front yard, she began to tell me what it felt like to wake up in the morning and have no one to talk to. “I can talk to Frannie (the cat), but she doesn’t answer.” She smiled sadly and thought for a moment as if she
were just now discovering all the facets of her newfound loneliness. “If I lay something down, it doesn’t move,” she said. I had to think about that one. It came to me that evening as I was scurrying around picking up all the mess in my house that had been left by other people (I hushed my grumbling immediately). And then she told me that she never went to restaurants because she felt the loneliest in a crowd. Suddenly I could relate because I remembered what it felt like to be surrounded by people yet feel all alone. I hugged her and told her that she could call me anytime. But she didn’t. I was young and busy--always waving to her as I backed my car out of the driveway on my way to this and that. One spring afternoon I walked across the street while she was planting flowers and invited her to church. When I look back, it seems it was a risky thing to do. Our church was crowded with couples and families and friends who were tightly bonded. Sometimes people frowned at you if you sat in their pew. I knew what it felt like to sit in the middle of a
church service and feel like an anonymous intruder who had crashed someone’s family gathering. I didn’t want that for my friend. But the cat didn’t seem to be helping too much, so I took the chance. “Don’t go to the worship service first,” I blurted out. “Go to a Sunday school class.” She took my advice and walked into a singles class for older people. The rest of the story is familiar, but that doesn’t make it less than a miracle. My friend was suddenly surrounded by a group of people who took away the loneliness. They invited her to game nights, and movies, and Bible studies and dinner. She found a crowd and in the midst of it she found Jesus. She was baptized on a Sunday night and we all applauded when she came up out of the water, dripping and smiling. Sometimes it feels like we live on a lonely planet, but there are places where people act as Jesus’ hands and feet to welcome us into the crowd and take away the aching, empty place within us. And in the middle of that crowd we are made whole.
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he Asbury shuttle cautiously zigzags between rows of cars, making stops, starts and occasionally a Uturn. The driver is Martin Imrisek and his warm smile is familiar to those who use the shuttles on Sunday morning. Martin’s walk of faith has also been characterized by zigzags, stops, starts and, recently, a U-turn. His story is one of God’s grace, faithfulness and patience. Martin grew up in a Roman Catholic family in the Chicago area. His early memories of church were unremarkable and he quit attending when he was about 17. He later graduated from DePaul University, and eventually took a job in Des Moines. “I always knew I was missing something, but I didn’t know what created that void in my life. I volunteered in Chicago with adult literacy programs, and continued that work in Des Moines, as well as Special Olympics. I read books about other religions. Nothing filled that empty spot in my life though.” It wasn’t luck that planted Martin next door to Ed and Jan Hines when he moved to Tulsa in 1996. Ed and
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Jan are longtime members of Asbury and of the Happy Christians community. They quickly made friends with Martin and often invited him to church. “I’m spiritual,” Martin proudly told them, “but not religious.” They weren’t easily discouraged. Knowing Martin was available on Sunday mornings, Ed asked if he could help him out “now and then” by driving a shuttle. Always eager to lend a helping hand, Martin said yes. Soon he found himself providing weekly shuttle service for the members of the Happy Christians community—who were then meeting in the Outback. Martin said they were so cordial and kind to him. Their joyous spirit impressed him. About that time a special need arose in his life and he bargained with God—“If you’re really there and you answer my prayer I will start going to church again.” The next day his prayer was answered and he began attending church, and later the familiar Happy Christians. He received a personal card from the class the first time he visited and he said that really touched him. He appreciated being in a community of people older than himself—
“They had so much experience and wisdom to share.” It was the developing friendships, their example of serving others and the teaching that made such a difference to him. He soon became a regular volunteer for the Media Team, Celebrate Recovery, Habitat for Humanity, Children’s Ministry and Life Senior Services. Still, Martin says he was only trying to “impress God” and to “keep up my end of the bargain.” However, just a week before Christmas, during a time of great soulsearching, God revealed himself to Martin in a very personal and profound way. For the first time in his life, he committed himself fully to Jesus Christ as his personal Lord and Savior. He began to pray regularly and trust God with his future. He said that the void he had felt since he was 17 is finally gone and he praises God for this new gift of faith. He heard someone say once, “It’s not about showing God how good you are, but about God working through you”. God loves U-turns. -Donna Miller Happy Christians meets at 9:15 in RM 2820
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s a teen she turned her back on God thinking Christians were a bunch of fakes. He professed to be a Christian, but you couldn’t tell it by his life. But God wasn’t through with Joe and Jeanette Hooks. He pursued them until they found their place within His kingdom. Jeanette explained, “God got my attention when something happened totally out of my control (my younger sister died unexpectedly) . I remember thinking that surely there had to be more to life than just living and dying. I thought I would find that ‘something more to life’ by attending church (a lonely experience), reading the Bible (boring and unrealistic), and then I would deserve my salvation (an impossibility). I am so thankful for the friends at Asbury that invited me to attend a women’s conference where I heard the Gospel message and had an opportunity to receive Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I do not know why I felt like I had to change before God could accept me into His family, but I did.” Romans 12:1-2 became meaningful to Jeanette, signaling a lifechanging experience for her. She explained, “Jesus did it ALL and I
became a new creature. Everything was new and the old had passed away. It didn’t take long to realize that a relationship with Jesus was the something more to life that I had been searching for and the Christian life was possible only through Jesus’ death on the cross and not by my works.” Joe’s experience was different. “I professed to be a Christian because I had been baptized at a young age, but there was little evidence in the way I lived my life,” said Joe. “I came to church at Asbury because of Bill Mason’s visit to our home. After a few years, I begrudgingly started attending Sunday school classes. Through my wife’s prayers, the witness of my children and the godly men and women of Asbury, God changed my heart and I found that I needed Jesus to be Lord of my life. After that, I had a desire to study God’s Word and the Sonrisers community fulfilled that need. I thank God for not giving up on me.” Both Joe and Jeanette liken the body of Christ within Sonrisers to the body of Christ spoken of in Romans 12. “We each have different gifts and therefore we are all part of that body of believers. In every area of responsibility you have people supporting you and they come alongside you without your
even having to ask for their help. Sonrisers do not work alone—we are there to help each other. And most importantly,” said Jeanette, “when someone from our class is missing, a very important part of the body is missing as well.” According to the Hooks, teacher Gail Knox presents an exciting study of the Word of God and helps them see how scriptures found in the old and new testaments have application in their lives today. As stated in 2 Timothy 3:16 it is useful for “teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness. . . “ Jeanette added that excellent teaching is only one aspect of this caring community; responding to one another with love and compassion is also a constant within Sonrisers. “Joe and I experienced God’s comfort through the people in our community during my experience with breast cancer. Before, during and following surgery, chemo and radiation, our community was there to help with specific needs as well as in prayer and with an outpouring of God’s love.” -Sandy Wagner
Sonrisers meet at 8:00 in RM 2821
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n Rick Warren’s bestselling book, The Purpose Driven Life, he states: You were formed for God’s family. God wants a family and he created you to be a part of it. Family is important to Teresa Brockwell. That is where she met the Lord. While in college, her father had a serious stroke and Teresa was appointed to be his guardian at the tender age of 19. “I was very blessed to have a wonderful father. We had always been very close. The Lord’s presence with me and my father during this time was so strong and evident. I accepted Christ while watching a Billy Graham crusade on television,” she explained. So, it was natural for Teresa to look for a family to belong to at Asbury. The idea for Purpose Driven Fellowship (PDF) began at a wedding reception in the fall of 2003. As Robin and Matt Bartlett celebrated their new life together, Basil James was also beginning something new. Basil had the idea of forming a new community of single professionals who are in their 30’s & 40’s. Teresa was hesitant to
begin a new community because she knew the time commitment would be great. She owns a Farmer’s Insurance Agency which demands much of her time and attention. Basil, however, is a wonderful salesman and his excitement won her over. Teresa said, “Let’s go for it!” The class was formed with the help of Dave Fling, Amy Miller and many others. On February 1, 2004 PDF had its first meeting with about 10 people. That number quickly grew. Currently they have 65 members and are still growing. “It turns out there are lots of single people in the Tulsa area and God is using Asbury and our community as one tool to reach them. Single people have struggles, temptations, victories, stories, and issues that are different from married people. I think sometimes single people can feel left out or different especially at our ages when most of our friends are married. We desire and need the support and love of a Christian family too and this is one of the many things PDF offers.” Teresa feels that PDF has made
a wonderful difference in her life. “I have grown a lot in the last two years—spiritually, personally and professionally. I know much of it has to do with my role and friends in my community. I am so happy that I was obedient to God and trusted Him. He has blessed my life and the time I have given in ways that I could not even imagine.” When Teresa walks into room 2821 on Sunday mornings now, she is excited to see all the people who belong to the PDF family--established friends, new friends, people who know God, people searching for God, those who are divorced, those who have never been married, people with children, people without children. She hears comments like, “I was looking for something exactly like this!” Or, “This community is just what I needed.” And, “I had been searching for something like this at other churches but had not found it.” Teresa is thankful and feels fortunate to have been used by God and to have the opportunity to be a part of such a wonderful group of people. - Christy Capps Purpose Driven Fellowship meets at 11:00 in RM 2821
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t looked like they were ready for the next phase of their lives. It was almost 20 years ago when Dorothy O’Neal and her husband, Don, were newly settled in Tulsa where he had just taken a position with an architectural firm and Dorothy was the new secretary for the senior pastor of a Tulsa church. Within a year, however, her world turned upside down. Her husband of nearly 40 years died of a heart attack and she was a widow. “My daughter, Kathy, lived in Tulsa,” she said. “That’s why we moved here when the economy made a drastic downturn in Pennsylvania where we’d lived most of our lives. We had visited Tulsa many times when Kathy was at Oral Roberts University, so it was easy to accept it as our new home.” Dorothy and Don had also found their “second family” at Asbury. A year together, making new friends, and loving the pastor, Bill Mason, and then it was over. Don was gone. Dorothy was in that dreaded “no man’s land of widowhood.” But she found new family. As so many have said, when talking about
community at Asbury, she began to became surrounded by nothing less than family. Speaking of her community group, the Singles Class Act, Dorothy named time after time when those in SCA have cared for, lifted, served, helped, comforted, and loved each other in ways that sometimes biological family cannot match. Several surgeries and illnesses over the past 20 years have revealed that it is her community which showed family-concern, taking her to and from appointments, visiting her, making certain she was safe and not alone in her trial. Now she is a Stephen Minister and has led grief recovery groups for seven years. Her own suffering and loss have given her a keen empathy for others. But it’s the Singles Class Act community where Dorothy finds the most purpose and joy. “Gretchen Valentine is such a wonderful Bible teacher,” she said. “She is just the best. We are so blessed to have her. It’s not a large group and we’re mostly ladies. Sometimes men join us for a while, then they get married and we’re a class of
ladies for awhile again. But I like a small group. You really get to know and care for each other.” She explained that SCA is about 15 to 20 members and how much more she enjoys that size than that of a larger class. She also confided that her community group is as important to her as the worship services. Maybe even more so. “You can sit next to others in the Sanctuary, even in the same area Sunday after Sunday and you never really know them. It’s community where family happens. It’s where the deeper questions about spiritual things are asked and answered. Everyone in community is a Christian brother or sister and that makes things safe. I left so many friends back in Pennsylvania,” she said. “But I wouldn’t go back now at all. I have family. . . here.” -Donna Wilson
Singles Class Act meets at 11:00 in RM 1506
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tarting on the very back row of Asbury 23 years ago, Sig and Jan Schwier have moved forward in more ways than one. Jan was able to talk Sig down to the middle of the church after a short while. He was working very long hours in those days and would sometimes nod off during the sermon. One Sunday Sig’s arm was in a sling because he had broken it in a fall. That afternoon the phone rang. A few minutes later, Sig told Jan, “That was Bill Mason wanting to know what happened to my arm. I’ll never sleep in church again!” After that, they moved to the third row, and that’s where you’ll still find them each Sunday morning. After moving to Tulsa and starting at Asbury, Jan started going to Bible Study Fellowship. In the general meeting Jan was awed by the piano music a woman was playing. It turned out this lady was in her small group too. It was Barbara Graves, one of Asbury’s outstanding musicians. Jan discovered Barbara had gone to high school with Sig back in Wichita, Kansas, and later Sig had attended
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college with Barbara and her husband, Gene. So Barbara and Gene invited Sig and Jan to visit Seekers with them, and that’s where they remained. Bill Elliot was the teacher of the Seekers back then. He and his wife, Dottie, decided to start a couples’ Bible study and they invited Sig and Jan to join them along with five other couples. Jan had been praying for 26 years for a couples’ Bible study! Sig said, “We’ve met on Wednesday nights for 20 years. They are our family now. We take trips together-three cars for all of us. Once we went to Branson, and some others in Seekers said, ‘Hey, we’d like to go too!’ So for several years Barbara Graves has arranged to lease a bus so a load of Seekers can go to Branson for three days. We have a great time!” The Seekers also have small group dinners as well as other socials for the class as a whole. Jan said, “Another thing that is very special--we have some great prayer warriors in there. We’ve been
the recipients of those prayers! When Sig had his heart problems recently, I asked the doctor, ‘When should I be concerned?’ The doctor said, ‘I’m concerned right now and I’m putting him on the transplant list.’ We went to Seekers that Sunday, and they gathered round Sig and laid hands on him and prayed. Darlene Johnson also prayed for him in the Healing Service that evening. The next Tuesday they did another echocardiogram. When the doctor came in, he kept thumbing through the chart and finally said, I can’t explain it but we’re up about 20 points,” Jan said, “Well, you’re a good doctor, but we know someone who is just a little bit better.” The Schwiers have two sons and six grandkids. Sig said. “If you want to get to know people in a church the size of Asbury, you have to get in a small group. In the Seekers Community I have about a 100 brothers and sisters, or at least that’s the way I think about it.” -Marty McBroom Seekers meet at 9:15 in RM 2319
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melia McCarthy recommends Bible 101 for those who want a “firm grasp of the Word.” Though Amelia has always had an active church life and was already a member of another community, she decided she wanted to know the Bible better. Bible 101, a community she joined shortly after it was formed a little over a year ago, offers that in-depth study she was seeking. Teacher Gail Knox says the group studies the Bible book-by-book, line-by -line. Time is allowed for questions and discussion. No questions are too simple to ask. There is no outside study required. The small class has members of all ages and stages in their walk. There are singles and married couples. It is a mixed group that Amelia says makes the class more interesting. Amelia and her husband Bill joined Asbury after moving to Tulsa in
1999. She says they visited Asbury at the invitation of their friends Norm and Nona Ryser. Bill passed away in 2003, a month after the couple celebrated their fiftieth wedding anniversary. Amelia credits Stephen ministers with helping her through that difficult time. Amelia decided she wanted to spend time on two things…learning more about the Bible and helping others. Bible 101 gave her the opportunity to study the Bible. “People in 101 are so helpful,” Amelia says. “ I don’t drive at night and members offer to pick me up so I can attend functions. This is not just a group of people who meet on Sunday. They have a true concern for each other. “ She is a participant in another community as well, the Wordfinders, and enjoys taking advantage of the many opportunities Asbury offers for growth. In addition to Sunday morning
activities, she attends Bill Mason’s Bible study each week and is a member of a group that started with the Purpose Driven Life study and has continued. The group calls themselves the Snowflakes and they meet weekly and are currently following some Beth Moore studies. Volunteer activities include working as a server each week at Meals on Wheels and helping at the Little Light House with mailings and special events. She will soon start taking her golden retriever Hannah to visit with the children there. To keep in shape Amelia swims laps for an hour twice a week. This octogenarian is a great example of how to receive and multiply all Asbury has to offer. -Liz Reece
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tan Dixon lives his life by the book. Actually “books” is probably more appropriate. One of Stan’s prized possessions is a foot-thick Bible commentary published in 1850. The commentary was carried by Stan’s great grandfather, Josiah Shepard. He was a Methodist circuit rider in Kansas and rode with this portable Biblical library as an aid in sharing the Gospel in that area. Stan will pull excerpts from the book to aid his community, the Mariners, when needed. Of course if he can’t find what he needs in his greatgrandfather’s book, Stan may turn to one of the 28 Bibles or the other 150 religious books for a little insight into the scripture. Stan did not always have this insatiable appetite for Bible knowledge. He grew up in the Methodist Church, but actually found Christ at a community church in California. “One day I am sitting in the balcony of the church and realized that I had never asked Jesus to be Savior, so I did. That is when I really got into 13
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Bible study,” said Stan. “I went out the next day and bought and Ryrie NIV Study Bible. I really wore it out.” Bible reading and study is a daily regime for Stan. He has a great passion for learning about God and the fire is definitely fueled by the fellow believers in his Asbury community. Stan has also found a new book-related interest that, with the backing of his community, he is tackling head on. Stan has been participating with the area Rotary Club and got involved in an initiative to give dictionaries to three third grade classrooms. Each dictionary had the child’s name in it. Stan said, “The very first time I handed a kid a book with his name in it, he said ‘How did you know my name?’ Their name is their most important asset.” The next year the club decided to give dictionaries to every third grade student in the Tulsa Public School system. It was Stan’s assignment to get these books to all the children in 188 classrooms at 57 schools—3,800 students altogether. The project has now been
adopted by the Rotary Task Force for North America to be a model project for all of Rotary International. Stan is heavily involved in this initiative and has personally handled 165 orders for 60,000 books this year. Stan will admit that the teaching by Bill Mason, former senior pastor of Asbury, and the variety of social outings is a great part of their Asbury community. An equally important aspect was that some of his fellow Mariners saw his passion and joined in. About five members of the class are helping him “throw the book” at third graders all across the nation. Every community at Asbury is different. Stan is a testament to what makes these groups special is that it is a group of people who will stand side-by-side with their members in all things, even projects outside of church. I think Webster sums it up best. Com·mu·ni·ty - noun: a unified body of individuals. -Jeremy Burton Mariners meet at 9:15 in RM 1508
Roscoe & Stacy Migliore cornerstone discipleship community
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t’s a place to laugh and a place to connect. It’s a place to share and a place to grow. It’s a place to love and be accountable. It’s a place that Stacey and Roscoe Migliore have come to love and value, and a place where their spiritual journey has blossomed and grown like a mustard seed. Where is this place? It’s Cornerstone—a community that had its beginnings as a 40 Days of Purpose group. What started as a core of 4-6 married couples has grown into a vibrant and growing community. It has developed into a group of caring and faithful people who support and encourage each other in all things. When the Migliores talk about their friends in Cornerstone, their faces light up with love and their enthusiasm overflows like water spilling over a dam. In their quest to grow as Christians, Stacey and Roscoe have found a place to be connected with other believers. It just seems to make things easier when you’re hanging out with other Christians. As Roscoe points out, “We enjoy being around
like-minded people of faith who support each other and are fun to be around.” Fun fellowship activities like Girls Night Out, Guys Night Out, and Bowling Nights are just a few of the social functions in which they participate. Their friends in Cornerstone are dear to their hearts and evidence of God’s goodness is all around as their class continues to grow. But being involved in community is so much more than just fun and fellowship. Roscoe and Stacey have grown in their walk with the Lord over this past year. For the first time in their 15-year marriage, they are involved together as a couple in an indepth bible study called Bible Study Fellowship (BSF). They are quick to point out that it is because of the encouragement, and initiative of other Cornerstone members that they have become involved in BSF and have grown in their faith. Like many of their counterparts in community, the Migliores have children. In fact, they credit their teenaged son with their introduction to Asbury. The Migliores started attend-
ing Asbury about two years ago after their teenage son became involved with the youth program. Roscoe and Stacey also have an 8-year old daughter and are expecting a new baby on March 7. You might be thinking that a small group community is not for you. Or maybe you’re thinking that you just wouldn’t fit in with a small group. The Migliores know where you’re coming from, because for 13 years, they attended church as a family but were not involved in a small group. They understand the uneasiness and hesitancy for some people when it comes to visiting a community. But they have experienced first-hand the joy of being active in Cornerstone. Roscoe shares that every Sunday is a blessing for him and Stacey. And they would encourage others to give it a try and, “Just open up your heart and soak in what the Lord has to share with you.” -Marcia Curley
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here was a television show, still seen in syndication, about a neighborhood Boston bar where, according to the theme song, “everybody knows your name.” More than likely, the primary reason most people frequent these kinds of establishments is the sense of belonging which goes along with their participation. Fortunately, Asbury has a couple dozen places where one can truly belong without running the risk of meeting weird characters and bizarre story-lines. The Wordfinders Discipleship community is one of them. Nanette Creamer and her husband Joe attended Asbury for 13 years without participating in a discipleship community. They were real estate agents and would generally run straight from church to attend an open house or to show a house. Then 14 years ago, Joe passed away. Nanette went looking for a community. She had been raised in another tradition and “felt like I didn’t know enough about the Bible, so I went searching for some Bible teaching.” She had planned to visit several of the communities, “but I never got out of Wordfinders.” She reports that she
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“liked the teachers and the teaching and everybody was so lovely and made me feel right at home.” Nanette goes on, “At first I was a little unsettled because the group was predominately couples, but I was never made to feel uncomfortable about it; in fact, it wasn’t too very long before they elected me president.” Wordfinders is now a mixed group welcoming singles and couples. It was during that first term in office (She has been once again raised to leadership) that Nanette became more fully aware of the workings of Asbury church and of all the opportunities available to the membership. Bill Mason apparently kept her busy, and she really got to know all the members in what is, admittedly, a sizable community (Weekly attendance regularly hits the 85 – 90 person mark). The teaching responsibility in the Wordfinders community is handled, on a rotating basis, by three strong teachers--Don Herrold, Don Johnson and Gloria Phillip--and the lessons are always applicable to life. Nanette says, “The lessons are not so staid that you’ll drift off to sleep.” Laughing, Nanette goes on, “We hear the word, but we have fun
too.” The community sets time aside to join together in prayer, in worship and in Bible study – and there’s always time for fellowship. “We’re a family, pure and simple,” she said. Nanette has faced her share of adversity over the years, a fact belied by her happy, pleasant, and positive voice and outlook. Nanette grows quieter and says,” I felt led by the Lord when I was first widowed and Wordfinders is where I was led.” And, it’s a safe to say that everybody knows her name. She sure knows theirs. Nanette Creamer has a strong belief in belonging. She also serves on the ushering team, which, she acknowledges, has broadened her circle of Asbury acquaintances even further especially among Asbury’s more mature ladies with whom Nanette has formed a special bond. Her daughter, Cynthia, also belongs to Asbury, but she’s unable to attend due to health/ physical challenges Wordfinders welcomes guests in the name of Jesus. Lives are enriched by earnest community worship, prayer, Bible study, and fellowship, -Scott MacDonald
Wordfinders meet at 9:15 in RM 2818
Stacy Reinkemeyer praise & worship discipleship community “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil…”
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tacy Reinkemeyer knows what it is to walk through the valley of the shadow of death. She has faced heart disease, diabetes, loss of vision, inability to digest food, the threat of foot amputation, a broken ankle, and months of hospitalization. She’s been resuscitated from respiratory arrest nine times. She’s been sent home to die. And she’s only 38 years old. Stacy grew up in Tulsa, attended college in Switzerland and California, was a nurse and an avid runner with a vibrant social life. She confessed Christ as her Lord and Savior at age 12 and was actively involved with
InterVarsity campus ministries. But visiting Stacy in the hospital during an eight month period in 2004, the only evidence of that life was a glimpse of her spirited personality shining through the darkness of excruciating pain and suffering. In 2002, Stacy was diagnosed with cardio myopathy while running tests for routine surgery. Already a diabetic since age 19, the surgery caused the first of several detached retinas. Her health then made a rapid decline from complications of diabetes. For the past three years, Stacy has lived a life of pain,
suffering and isolation. She has been stripped of the things we think life is about--independence, a job, health, vision. Yet she has had hope, and she has not been alone. For Stacy, one place of strength has been the Praise and Worship community at Asbury. Stacy began visiting Asbury with longtime members Joe and Jeanette Hooks. In God’s sovereignty, Stacy’s college roommate’s parents were friends with the Hooks when they lived in San Diego. By the time Stacy returned to Tulsa, the Hooks had already moved back. They invited her to Asbury and introduced her to Doug and Peggy Walker, who led her to the Praise and ASBURY TIDINGS 16
Worship community. Even at that time, Stacy’s heart condition and poor eyesight made it difficult to walk, so members of the class would carry her up and down the stairs. A few months later, as her health declined, she was admitted to the hospital. Several members of the community began to reach out by visiting daily, praying, reading the Bible, and sending cards and scripture to encourage her. At one point, because the nights were especially difficult, the community gave her an “on-call” list. Just knowing someone was willing to be awakened to talk and pray gave her peace to make it through the nights. Stacy remembers Dub Ambrose visited one day when she was struggling with the thought that God had abandoned her. He encouraged her by reminding her that even Christ felt He was abandoned, when He cried out, “My God, why hast Thou forsaken Me?” And yet, the truth is that He didn’t, and will never leave us or forsake us. During another particularly bad day, Mark McAdow gave Stacy a suggestion, “When you don’t know
how to pray, just repeat, ‘Thank You, Jesus.’” At first, she couldn’t imagine being thankful for anything about her situation, but as she began saying the words, an amazing thing happened; she started to feel a peace and even began to see things to be thankful for. She was thankful for the community who encouraged and inspired her. In Stacy’s words, “When I lost hope and doubted, there were people around me who were trusting God. I trusted, because they trusted.” And she saw that their faithfulness was making an impression on her mom, Adrienne, who has been challenged to deepen her own relationship with Christ. She’s thankful her foot did not have to be amputated, but has healed completely. She’s thankful her vision has improved enough that she is able to live in her house with her cat, Peanut. She’s thankful that despite being told she would have IV nutrition the rest of her life, she’s been able to eat regular food. And on January 26, 2006, Stacy did something few people do. Eighteen months after being told she was not expected to live another six months, she was released from
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Hospice Care. Stacy has learned that her worth comes from God alone. She’s learned humility by accepting help from others. She’s learned about His sovereignty; because He’s in the center of her life, she has assurance that her pain and suffering will not be wasted. He’s been there when she feared death. He was there when she wanted to die because of the pain. She believes that God has taken her to the end of herself, so she could truly know Him in a place where nothing stands between her and God. In other words, Stacy knows the depth of Psalm 42, “As the deer pants for the water, so my soul pants for Thee, O God…My tears have been my food day and night, while they say to me, ‘Where is your God?’” And yet she can proclaim, “My hope is in God, for I shall again praise Him for the help of His presence.” -Juli Armour
Praise & Worship meets at 11:00 in RM 1504
“The class means so much to me because of the kindness they showed my father, Russell Fenner, when he was a member of the class. They have been so supportive of me since I’ve been involved as their teacher.” “They’ve [the children] been part of our class a long time. When we moved to our new location it was one of our conditions—that the children would still be connected with our class.” Chris Tom “We enjoy the people of the class, and especially enjoy our time with the children each Sunday morning.” Frank and Bernice Sober
Friendship Class “The class is great. I had back surgery. I received so many cards and phone calls, everyone in the class helped me. When I came back they all made me feel so welcomed and missed. They were all so loving.” Hope Gology “We’ve been members of the Friendship community for 33 years, joining when Bill Brown was the teacher. The class lives up to its name. It’s a place to find true friendships.” Ruth and Al Meyer
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“We’re just like family. We are aware of each others needs. We so enjoy the children. We watch their growth. I wouldn’t leave this class for anything. I’m the care person, so I make lots of phone calls. It’s a great class.” Rosalie Veech “Art and I continue to learn more and more about our Lord Jesus Christ through being a part of the Friendship Class. We think it’s a wonderful place to belong.” Hazel Clayton “I feel empowered, but also challenged in the class. We’re all a loving family.” Jan Reece
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Lovelle Butler friendship discipleship community
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riendship. From the time we are little children, having friends is a basic human need. Having friends is how we learn to share. Asbury’s longest-existing community, Friendship, has met the needs of hundreds of its members for over 40 years.
Sharing a Backyard When Lovelle Butler and her husband, Jim, moved from Bartlesville in 1993, Asbury was literally at their back door. But there was more than convenience that drew the Butlers through the gate and onto the church grounds. They had left friendships behind in Bartlesville and they longed to establish new ones. After visiting every adult Sunday school class, Jim and Lovelle knew they were “home” when they joined Friendship. Sharing the Gospel Lovelle grew up in a small, rural Methodist Episcopal church southwest of Cherokee, Oklahoma. “I not only heard the Gospel there, I saw it lived out in the Depression Era by my parents and other members of the church. Their faith sustained them and gave them hope for the future.” She remembers a wall hanging in her home that read “I know the Lord will make a
way for me.” According to Lovelle, this kind of witness is contagious and she accepted the Lord at age 14. Sharing the Word of God Having been taught the importance of the Word from an early age, Lovelle is appreciative of the teachers who have been a part of Friendship over the years. “The community has been blessed with wonderful teachers: Bill Brown, David Thomas, Marjorie King, and Esther Gene Morrison. Each had vast knowledge and insight in their presentations.” Sharing Gifts and Talents In addition to receiving inspired teaching, Lovelle and Jim found that their community supported several worthwhile causes, both monetarily and in service. Over the years Jim served as President and Treasurer, Lovelle has played the piano, and as a couple they found their niche in visiting shut-ins.
Sharing Burdens “Now I’m on the receiving end,” Lovelle said. Af ter sharing nearly 65 years of marriage with her best friend, Jim died in December. “The Friendship community has ministered to me in many ways. Any investment we made in the lives of others has certainly been returned, through cards, phone calls, visits and the wonderful meal that was provided after Jim’s memorial service.” Sharing the Future While members of the Friendship community are rich in history and have vast memories of days gone by, they are instrumental in creating memories for some of the youngest members of the Asbury family. Each Sunday the two-year-olds come to visit the folks in Friendship, where they sing songs together and share hugs and high-fives. (see pages 18-19). They are modeling for them the value of sharing…a sign of true friendship. -Jan Weinheimer
Friendship meets at 9:15 in the Parlor
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Steve & Mary Pat Fennema homebuilders discipleship community
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lmost any conversation about Asbury adult communities will include words such as: family, friends, fellowship, prayer, love, and support. These words convey the true spiritual connection felt by singles or couples, including Steve and Mary Pat Fennema, who are involved in a community at Asbury. Steve and Mary Pat met in the CIA singles class in 1985 and were married the following year at Asbury. Soon after being married, they joined the “Young Marrieds” class, whose name was eventually changed to the Homebuilders community. As Mary Pat describes, “Many things in the class have changed over the past 20
years but one thing that hasn’t changed are the strong prayer warriors in our community.” Being active members in Homebuilders, Steve and Mary Pat did not hesitate to support a brother in their community who was going through a hardship. A few years ago when Bo Boaz took a fall from his roof and broke both feet, they were instrumental in helping the Boaz family acquire financial assistance. “I can’t even express how much gratitude, appreciation, and love we have for the Homebuilders community for assisting us in our situation”, said Bo. It is during times of tragedy when friends and family really pull together. The Fennemas experienced this first hand on July 25, 2005 when their 14-year old son, Gary, was in an accident. He was attending a Boy Scout National Jamboree in Virginia with Steve, when a large pot of boiling water slid off a picnic table and poured onto his legs and feet burning him severely. Steve called Mary Pat to inform her their son had been taken to a hospital burn center. She reflected, “My only child was 1000 miles away, in pain, but I could be close to him through prayer. With one phone call Gary’s condition and prayer needs were emailed to the Homebuilders and beyond.”
When Mary Pat joined Steve in Virginia, they were comforted to know their son was covered in prayer during his surgery, physical therapy, and recovery. The prayers of the community even covered some of their unspoken needs. “At the time, we just thought we were lucky. We would later find out that someone in our community had prayed for transportation, housing, or some other need that had been placed on their heart. We were not lucky; God was faithful in answering their prayers to meet our needs even before we knew we had those needs. It was really powerful and humbling at the same time.” After returning home, the Homebuilders continued to take care of the Fennemas by providing meals, visiting, and sending cards to Gary. “Our son observed first hand the power of prayer and the compassion of our community”. If questioned about whether his injury was painful, amazingly their son responded, “Not really.” Gary is now recovering well and has been playing basketball at school. He also plans to go backpacking in New Mexico this summer with Steve and the scouts. Mary Pat attributes much of his recovery and degree of pain to the answered prayers of their community for healing and comfort in his time of need. “We are so blessed to be a part of such a wonderful community,” she said. Undoubtedly the Homebuilders community would respond how blessed they are to have the Fennemas as members. -Scott Stone
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Pat McTigue vineyard discipleship community
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ne thing is for sure. Pat McTigue’s spiritual gifts do NOT include mercy. He readily admits it. And you can tell by the way he hits that little white golf ball. As a golf-pro, now working in golf sports media, you would think he would show a little mercy now and then. But no, that is not how the game is played. You might say he is a “driven” man. Pat’s career started in Phoenix, Arizona. In the mid-nineties he moved to Tulsa, married, and started his family. By the year 2000, he and his young family began to attend Asbury. He had a real affinity for Tom Harrison, the senior pastor. It might have been the way Tom sprinkles golf stories throughout his sermons. To this day Pat would encourage anyone with questions about their faith to, “go listen to Tom.” Pat was raised in the Catholic tradition but still had a lot of questions about his Christian faith. He remembers meeting with Tom in the Pastor’s
Study. Tom encouraged Pat to “drive a stake in the ground.” Pat decided to do just that. It was a very special moment for Pat, because he remembers the exact date--October 10, 2000. Pat and Patti attend the Vineyard community on Sundays at 11:00. Patti started to attend on her own at first. Pat thought the idea of “Sunday school” sounded too much like catechism. But, Patti was very patient with him, and he became more and more comfortable with the idea. It wasn’t long before Pat found himself in the middle of things in the Vineyard. As Pat says, “If I am going to join something, I am going to be active.” Soon, he found himself the community president. He and Patti are now part of a small Bible study group with several other members of the community. For others joining a large church like Asbury, Pat would encourage them to find a dynamic small group for the relationships that can develop there. Pat and Patti are in the midst of raising two young daughters. He loves
to spend time with them reading, playing games or watching TV. Pat says that trying to be an example to his children helps him stay accountable and on track. One thing Pat has learned in his parenting role is to be vulnerable. “I’m sorry,” is a phrase he has become comfortable with. That is a big step for a proud Irishman. Pat has come to love Sunday morning worship at the 9:15 service with his family. Sundays have become far more than just another day to play golf. Pat encourages others with family members who are not active. He says, “Don’t give up. God can make changes happen!” Pat is a great example of how, when you drive a stake in the ground, God can really go to work. -Rod Giles
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ike many Asbury members, I was inspired each morning by Tom’s daily Perceptions, which led me to visit regularly and eventually join the church in February 2001. On the day that I joined, Pat Calhoun handed me a bookmark from the Storm Shelter community and invited me to come. As a child, I had accepted Christ by repeating a prayer after my pastor who had paid a home visit. In my early 20’s, I responded to an altar call and was baptized. It never really changed my life, though, until early 2001. That was when I literally gave my life to Christ, with all of my heart and soul, for the very first time. The most amazing thing was that I didn’t even realize what I was doing at the time. I had just found myself right in the midst of the most difficult period of my life and I was completely alone. Like many days, I found refuge and comfort in the little Chapel in the back of the Sanctuary at our church on Sheridan Road. That day I had hit what I consider “rock bottom.” I fell to
my knees and begged God to take control of my life. And He did. Some people think I’m crazy, but as I knelt in front of the Chapel on that day, I literally, physically, felt arms around me, as if someone were standing behind me. I’ll never forget that moment. Needless to say, I found the name Storm Shelter very ironic, being at this low point in my life. It wasn’t easy, walking into a room full of strangers. I slipped in the back of the room, hoped no one would notice me and ran out the door as soon as we said Amen. I’m pretty sure that I was older than everyone else and I believe that I was the only single person at the time. But I kept going back. The people were wonderful. My life has changed drastically over the last five years. I’m now married to a wonderful man, David, who has gone from being “between theologies” when we met, to giving his life to Christ, joining Asbury and is now copresident of the Storm Shelter. I’m so incredibly proud of him. It’s amazing
how lives and hearts can be changed with Christ as Lord of your life. Being a member of the Storm Shelter has played a very prominent role in our growth as Christians. We’ve learned so much from the lessons we’ve shared. I’m not one to sit and read the Bible and absorb it all, much less figure out how to apply it to my life. But no matter what the subject is, we are all learning and growing. I’ve even gone from sneaking in the back of the room to standing up front and teaching a lesson of my own! The Storm Shelter ranges in age from 20’s to 50’s. We have a wide range of education levels, backgrounds, and marital status. Everyone fits here and we have a pretty good time, too. But the greatest thing about being a member of the Storm Shelter is that no matter what happens in my life, I will never, ever have to go through anything alone again. By Carol Grisham Storm Shelter meets at 9:15 in RM 1507
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Paula Goree new beginnings discipleship community
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hen I had the opportunity to meet with Paula Goree for this interview, I found her where you might expect—surrounded by her loving friends in Asbury’s New Beginnings Class. Paula was eager to talk about the long-term relationships she had built with those friends and, frankly, I regretted having to take her away even for just a few minutes for this interview. The love and care that she has for those class members and the entire Asbury Singles Ministry just glowed on her face as we talked. Paula’s history with Asbury precedes her involvement with the New Beginnings Class, however. Paula and her young family bought a home in Sungate and became actively involved in Asbury—“the closest church to our home,” Paula says. Paula’s participation in the New Beginnings Class, Asbury’s first singles class, runs deep. She, along with five other charter members, was “looking for
a place to fit in” after the loss of their spouses from either death or divorce. Paula found that “place to fit in” and she is still there every Sunday morning as a leader of the NBC’s, sharing that joy with many others. Paula and I estimated the class began some 33 years ago. Admittedly, in that time they have changed—they have grown up together. From Paula’s early days with two young daughters ages two and eight when she first became involved with the class, to the grandparents and great grandparents of today, the class has endured. Paula said Asbury’s willingness to provide free babysitting to those young parents at the time really allowed them the freedom to be involved without having to worry about cost or something productive for their children to do. The class membership has fluctuated from the six original charter members up to 150 at one point in time. Now the they are an active group of approximately 20 regular attenders who have the opportunity to
love and care for each other on a daily basis as well as time to participate in ministry and social events. They can often be found literally sitting beside a class member who is ill or running countless errands for each other when one is incapacitated. David Haug was the first class teacher and they have managed to hang onto David over the years, enjoying his vast store of Biblical knowledge. Others now assist in the teaching of the class with David teaching less—guess he has earned that right after 33 years! Given the crime rate statistics I asked Paula if the class members were reluctant to go out at night. Her response was that there are always those willing and able to drive and, besides, THEY STICK TOGETHER! Guess that describes the New Beginnings Class best! -Marsha Owen New Beginnings meets at 11:00 in RM 2500
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ost people remember what it feels like to be the new kid. You are nervous when you walk into a room and you feel like everyone is watching you. You get a little tongue-tied, too. Robin Kurzyna and Jennifer Vesper are two girls who were the new kids just a few months ago, back in May. Robin and Jennifer are in eighth grade and enjoy attending small groups. And both were nervous about showing up at a strange place. “Jennifer and I were just sitting there, watching everyone else. I didn’t know what to think,” Robin said. But they were excited to come back. “I was begging to come back the next Sunday,” Jennifer said. Robin and Jennifer came from a small church where they didn’t have very many opportunities to connect with other students. Friends since they were toddlers, both go to Union 8th Grade Center and are actively involved
in sports. It was both of the girls’ decision to come to Asbury because they both wanted a change. Jennifer started attending before her mom did. Both remember the first couple of weeks they came, Mark Fowler and Marsha Statesir met them and introduced them to other people. It didn’t take long for them to get involved. “The first thing I started coming to was Bible study on Wednesdays,” Jennifer said. “I met Jennifer Jeter and she helped me get to know people.” Robin began to jump into activities to meet new people and make new friends and the first thing she went to was Disciple. Disciple Camp was an important event for Jennifer also. It was her favorite large-scale event she’s attended since she began coming to Asbury. “The reason Disciple was my favorite was recreation. It was fun and I’d do it again in a second.” The camp is held for incoming seventh to ninth graders and recreation was a competi-
tion to see who could get every group’s chosen person the dirtiest. Robin has a different favorite and enjoyed hers for a different reason. “I liked Fall Retreat because I met more people and I got to know some of them pretty well. It was also fun to just get out of the house for the weekend.” All the events Robin and Jennifer have been involved in have helped them form a sense of community with Asbury. “Community to me is a group of people who share interests and just hang out together,” Robin said. Jennifer’s response was similar; she said that community means a group of people who get to know each other. And when you’re a teenager, this community is important. Jennifer believes it’s important because we get to know each other and respect each other more. “It’s important because we can talk to other people our age about things going on it our lives because we are all probably going through the same stuff,” Robin said. Both girls have been here for such a short time, but that time has done so much for their relationship with God and with other students in the church community. Neither of them is close to being done yet, either. “My goal for the future is to go on all the mission trips up to Guatemala,” Robin said. Jennifer has some she wants to do also: “I want to welcome people and do what they did for me.” -Erin Tresch
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Ben & Pat Long faithbuilders discipleship community
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aving always lived away from home since we married, Asbury and the Faithbuilders community have become our family. When Ben and I reflect on our blessings, God brings to mind our family the Faithbuilders community. Charlene Giles invited us to visit one Sunday. Because of her invitation and the warm fellowship extended to us, we have been members of the class for many wonderful years. Our Faithbuilders family has always been there for us. If we need our spirits lifted or have special needs, they have prayed for us, prayed with us, and have shared our joys and pain. They truly have caring hearts and sensitive spirits to others in need, and we are very grateful to God for each of them. Even though the class is large, the fellowship is loving and warm. There are numerous
small Bible study groups that meet on a regular basis. One of the strong points for us is the strong Bible based teaching which is provided by the class’s gifted teachers. We also enjoy the numerous class fellowship functions which provide the opportunity to grow closer to each other. When Ben was growing up he was very active with his mother and father in their Methodist church in Eufaula, Alabama. As a member of Boy Scouts, Ben was working to receive a merit badge in religion, when he realized a strong calling to join the church and invited Jesus into his heart. From the time I was small, I loved to go to church. My mother and daddy were charter members of another denomination in Birmingham, Alabama. My cousins were missionaries in Brazil, so when I was four I was
the first child baptized in our church by my cousin. At 12, I understood the message really clear that I needed to ask Jesus into my heart. I knew I needed Jesus Christ and was a sinner and He died on the cross for my sins and He arose. I’m grateful to God for preparing my heart to receive Him. Just as our class creed states, each one in our class has been given gifts for building up others, and we have been blessed by these. Through their prayers, presence, gifts, service, and witness, their love and support is immeasurable. By Pat and Ben Long
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do not think we can show our Lord to the world as isolated pieces. We have to function as a united, whole Body of Christ,” says Claudia Kleeman. This can only be accomplished as Christians grasp the importance of “community.” Though connecting with others involves personal risk and vulnerability, Claudia has come to realize it is crucial for every believer. “A community gives us opportunity to grow together into the fullness of Christ as we demonstrate His love to each other.” Though she was raised in the church, Claudia “got serious” about the Lord when she was dealing with a troubled marriage and had moved away from friends and family support. “I needed a personal, close relationship with a real and personal Savior, not just a religion. God was faithful and consistently revealed Himself at my points of need.” Claudia first came to Asbury through her daughter who was attending alone with two small children. Another daughter and granddaughter soon began to visit and Claudia joined Asbury to be with them. When searching for a community to invest in, Claudia was drawn to
Women of Faith. “The small group of women studying the Bible in an interactive, discussion format is very stimulating. Our facilitator is always prepared but lets the Spirit lead.” Through her involvement, Claudia is growing in Biblical understanding and learning how to apply God’s truth to her daily life. The relationships Claudia is building have also had a profound impact. “The women are open and real and I feel safe sharing prayer requests or praise reports of God’s workings. I value their caring and the support of their prayers,” she says. “I know they would ‘be there’ for me in any times of trouble.” Members stay connected through the week via email. They share needs and prayer requests as well as reminders of upcoming opportunities and social events. As a widow living alone, Claudia enjoys the fun times they share together. Within her community, Claudia takes on an active role. “I support our leader and facilitator by studying the lesson and being willing to participate. I also try to be sensitive to reach out to others in the class and be faithful in attendance.”
If you’re still searching for a place to belong and grow, Claudia prays that you will follow God’s guidance. She says, “Be willing to face your fears and go to different groups until you find your ‘home’.” The process may take a while but don’t stop your search “until you know you are where you belong for this season in your life.” God wants to use “community” to enrich our personal and spiritual lives. “We’ll never feel loved if we don’t let others know us. And we can’t give God’s love if we’re not full of His love. We can’t give what we don’t have.” Claudia adds, “Being known and loved can give such security and a safe place to learn more about our Lord and ourselves. Letting oneself be known is scary, but oh so important.” Claudia loves what 1 John 4:12 reveals about our need for love from each other, “No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and His love has been brought to full expression through us.” (NLT) -Nikki Boyd Women of Faith meet at 11:00 in RM 1621
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asbury opportunities general information SPRING FORWARD! Remember to set your clocks Saturday night, April 1, before you go to bed! Breakfast Served from 7:00-9:15 a.m. in the CLC Come enjoy fellowship with Asburians along with fresh donut s, bagels, biscuits & gravy, sausage, eggs, fruit, and cereal. $2 for adults & $1 for children 12 & under Sunday Morning Worship 8:00 am Mason Chapel (Traditional Communion) 9:15 am Sanctuary (Contemporary Communion) 11:00 am Sanctuary (Traditional) Sign interpreter provided 11:00 am Mason Chapel (Contemporary) Children and Students 6 Weeks - 4 Years 8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am K-6th Grades 9:15 or 11:00 am 7th, 8th & 9th Grades 9:15 & 11:00 am 10th, 11th & 12th Grades 9:15 am only Adult Discipleship Communities 8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am and Wednesdays, 6:30 pm The Gazebo is Open ...each Sunday morning between services and Wednesday evenings from 5:30 - 7:00 pm. Perceptions and Prayer Journals on sale (note: the new sermon notes page on the bulletin is designed to fit in the Prayer Journal) , as well as selections in Pastor Tom’s Book Club, including: Seasons of Life by former AllAmerican and NFL All-Pro, Joe Ehrman and The Life God Blesses by Gordon MacDonald. New book selections include Don’t Sing Songs to a Heavy Heart by Kenneth Haugh, for anyone who has ever wanted to help others who are suffering and The Screwtape Letter by C.S. Lewis, a classic that every Christian should read. AsburyWear is also for sale. Aluminum Can Recycling Hey church family! Keep collecting those aluminum cans and bringing them to the church when you come! Once a month our resident “can man,” Jim Schultz, picks them up from the east side storage area and takes them to the recyling center for us. Gently toss your wellbagged cans into the fenced area, and be a part of ministry to the children in our church and the community. On behalf of our children and the environment, thank you! Asbury Family News is available at the Welcome Centers. It includes hospital lists, births, deaths, marriages, baptisms and military listings.
Doors of Asbury posters are at the Welcome Centers...our gift to you. Suitable for framing. Recycling Bin Locations - Recycle unwanted paper products. Two bins available, located in the south and east parking lots. Free Tax Assistance - Every Wednesday through April 12, 1:00-4:30 p.m., room 1504.
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Hands of Love Sign Choir Sundays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 2821
biblical literacy Asbury University Classes are available for all levels of learning. Brochures are available at the Welcome Centers and on the website: www.asburytulsa.org
care and support Critical Incident Stress Management Friday and Saturday, March 10 and 11, 8:30 am - 4:45 pm (both days) in Rm 2820. Cost: $175 ($115 for Stephen Ministers). Christian Crisis Response Training (Critical Incident Stress Management). Is God calling you to be prepared to help in times of disaster, trauma and crisis? This is the training for you! Registration forms available in Care Notes Racks in South and East lobbies. Prayer Card Ministry Creative people are needed for a new prayer card ministry. If you have skills in drawing/ sketching, scrapbooking, card stamping, and/ or MS Publisher, call Ruth at 392-1146. Minimal time required. Our Journey of Hope Seminar: Foods of the Bible Monday, March 6 from 7:00-8:30 pm in the Parlor. Do you know of any family who hasn’t been touched by cancer? The Pastoral Care Department of Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA) will present this seminar. New Alzheimer’s Support Group Third Thursday, starting April 20, from 1:303:00 pm in Room 2821. Christian hope, support and education for friends and family of those with Alzheimer’s or other dementia. Cancer Support Group Second Sunday of each month, 4:00-6:00 pm, Parlor - For those living with cancer and their family and friends Bipolar/Depression Support Group Second and fourth Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 1508 - For persons living with bipolar disorder or depression Divorce Recovery Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. Divorce Rebuilding Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce.
Grandparents Raising Grandchildren First and third Tuesdays, 6:30-8:30 pm, Rm 1508. Family to Family Usually meets the fourth Tuesday of the month, 1:30-3:30 pm, Parlor. For family members or caregivers of people affected by a mental illness. Joint informational dinner meeting with Mental Health Support Group, third Wednesday of each month, 5:30 pm at the Rib Crib, 81st and Yale. Asbury Bear Bags Asbury Bears are not just for little kids anymore! Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books have comforted young children for many years, but now you may give a Bear Bag with a scripture-based journal included instead! Great for teens and adults. Anyone may deliver an Asbury Bear to someone who is grieving. For more information, contact Beth at 392-1116.
children Registration forms for all children’s activities are available in the preschool and elementary lobbies. Core Hours for Childcare Parent s who are involved in AU classes during these core hours will have childcare provided with no reservations needed: Sundays 7:45 am - 12:15 pm Mondays 9:00 am - 12:00 pm Tuesdays 9:00 am - 12:00 pm Tuesdays 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm Wednesdays 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm Thursdays 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm Children’s Ministry Enrichment Training Tuesday, March 28 from 7:00-8:30 pm. “Setting Your Kids Up for Success,” is the second in a series of four enrichment courses offered in 2006 by our Children’s Ministry for volunteers, parents and grandparents. The goal is to assist anyone with a heart for kids in gaining a better understanding and knowledge in areas that benefit working (and playing!) with His children. We hope to see you all for a little fun, and a lot of learning! Childcare for children 6 weeks through 6th grade. Call Kim at 392-1159 or Heidi at 392-1168 for more information. Easter Egg Hunt Candy Drive Sunday March 12 - Sunday April 2. The annual Family Easter Egg Hunt, scheduled for Palm Sunday, April 9, is for children all the way through 6th grade, which means we enjoy the participation of hundreds of youngsters! With that in mind, please consider helping out by donating a bag or two of small, individuallywrapped, chewy-type candy. (No hard candy or sof t chocolate, please). Or, we can accept other stuffers, such as stickers, tattoos, and other small toy items as well. If you have any questions, you may call Deana at 392-1169. Donation boxes have been provided in the preschool and elementary lobby areas for your gifts. Thank you so much! CALENDAR
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Rock U Wednesdays through March 15 from 7:00-8:00 pm. Cost: $8 for study book, “Boy, Have I Got a Problem!” All kids are attracted to fun and games, and attracting kids is what we want to do! However, our ultimate objective is obviously far beyond just having a good time together. We desire to use God’s word and the conviction of the Holy Spirit to impact fifth and sixth grade kids’ hearts, and to change lives forever. Our Wednesday night program moves this process beyond the “teaching and discussion” model of early elementary to a more serious small group interactive Bible study program requiring personal responsibility and accountability. It’s good stuff, folks! Don’t let your fifth or sixth grader miss out! Dismissal from the Chapel. Rock 5.6 All-Nighter Friday and Saturday, March 10 and 11 from 9:00 pm - 6:00 am. Cost: $40. Do you want to get out and get crazy all night long? We have food...we have games...we have fun, fun, fun! Come check out one of Tulsa’s coolest entertainment places, the Incredible Pizza Company, open all night long just for you! You’ll want to invite all your friends. The fee covers a late dinner, breakfast, awesome t-shirt, and all activity expenses. The paid registration deadline is Monday, February 28. Parents are needed to help with this event and volunteer “shifts” are available. Call 392-1166 for more information. Preparing for Adolescence Workshop Wednesdays, March 29 - April 26 from 6:45-8:00 pm in Rm 2901. Cost: $8. This is a 5-week course designed especially for our fifth graders. We will discuss the topics of inferiority, conformity, puberty, romantic love, and identity from a biblical perspective. Our reference book is Preparing for Adolescence by Dr. James Dobson. Parental permission is required. Call 392-1166 for more information H2O Scavenger Hunt Saturday, April 1 from 1:00-5:00 pm. Cost: $10. You and some of your H2O friends are a team! You get a bag, a Polaroid camera and a little spending money. You also get a van (driver included) and a list of weird and wacky people, places and things to find inside the church and outside in the world. If you and your friends are up for Polaroids, prizes and pretty crazy places, then come see if you can win the great H2O Scavenger Hunt!! The paid registration deadline is Sunday, March 26. Parents are needed to help with this event. Call Jennifer at 392-1170 if you can help. Rock 5.6 Road Trip Saturday, April 29 from 6:00 am - Midnight. Cost: $60. Hey 5th and 6th graders! Come with us as we pile onto a charter bus and head for Six Flags Over Texas in Arlington! The cost includes transportation, gate admission, and the official Road Trip t-shirt. Kids will need to bring additional money for breakfast, lunch and dinner, 29
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and for souvenirs, etc. The paid registration deadline is Monday, April 17 or until the trip is full. Don’t wait...register today! Parents are needed to help with this event. Call 392-1166 for more information. Sizzlin’ Summer Sign-Up Sunday April 2 from 8:00 am - 12:30 pm in the Elementary Gathering Area. Pick up enrollment forms for every summer activity planned for your children in 2006! Annual Family Easter Egg Hunt Sunday, April 9 from 2:00-4:00 pm. Make plans now to join us for all the fun and excitement! There are three age-level hunts for all children through grade six, taking place consecutively withing the fenced playground areas. There will also be a variety of inflatable games to enjoy while your child waits for his or her turn to hunt! Cookies and lemonade will be served throughout the afternoon. Don’t miss it! Asbury Family Picnic/Campout Friday and Saturday, April 21 and 22, Bluff Landing Campground in Broken Arrow. (See more under Recreation). Wednesday Night Live Wednesdays through April 26 from 7:00 - 8:00 pm. For 4 year olds through 4th graders. Our action-packed evening will start with highenergy games in the main building, followed by worship in the Chapel - kid style. This overall program is designed to help children build character and develop qualities that will help them live productive and fulfilled lives as followers of Jesus Christ. Dismissal is at 8:00 pm from the Chapel. We can’t wait to see your kiddos (and parents if you like) in worship with us soon! Children’s Choirs Wednesdays through April 26 from 6:00 - 6:50 pm. Children’s choirs are for children ages three through sixth grade. Different choirs will be singing in all our Sunday morning services during the spring. Registration forms for NEW choir members are available in each choir room. Returning choir members do not need to re-register. We are so excited to be working with your children again! Spread the word! Children’s Choir is not just singin’. We play musical games, instruments and have lots of fun! Call Marti at 392-1147 for more information.
christian living Equip Your Teens...No Matter What! Financial Peace Junior Series - Dave Ramsey Call Nancy Staab at 392-1124 or email asburyfpu@yahoo.com if you are interested.
discipleship Spiritual Gift Connections Sessions are held the second Thursday of each month in Room 2821 from 7:00 pm to 8:30 pm. Focus on volunteer opportunities at
Asbury that use your Spiritual Gifts and personality traits. You are requested to complete the Spiritual Gifts Inventory prior to attending this class. Call the registration hotline at 392-1191 to register for one of the Thursday sessions.
library New Additions The Asbury Library is a wonderful resource. New additions are listed in a black notebook on the Librarian’s desk. Thank you to all who continue to contribute books to our Library.
marriage & family
Milestone Wedding Anniversaries Email your May or June Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) to patticooper@cox.net or call 392-1146. Want to Build a Better Marriage? Thursdays, February 16 - March 23, from 6:30 - 8:30 pm in the CLC. Offered to the entire Tulsa community by Asbury and the OK Marriage Initiative. Falling in love is easy! Staying in love is easy, too, if you learn “love skills” to stop the four corrosive behaviors that ruin relationships. Open to single people and couples who are dating, engaged or married. These six weeks are not about “sharing” or invading your privacy...no Kumbaya! Just 12 hours of cutting edge, faith-friendly techniques that will help you prevent problems or solve them. C-PREP materials used. Come as you are. No cost. No childcare.
membership Asbury Exploration Come to one of these classes to learn more about becoming a member of Asbury. Upcoming session: Sunday, March 5, from 12:30-2:30 pm. Call 392-1191 to register. Childcare available.
men Men’s Prayer Breakfast Wednesdays, 6:30-7:30 am in the CLC. Join the Men’s Ministry for a delicious breakfast , meaningful worship and lifechanging prayer! Cost: $3/person March 1 Mark Springer, speaker March 8 Dub Ambrose, speaker March 15 Pec Clark, speaker March 22 Don Herrold, speaker March 29 Mark Hoffman, speaker Car Care Ministry Saturday, March 25, Car Care for Widows and Single Moms from 9:00 am - noon. Asbury parking lot. (Workers come by 8:30 to set up) Home Improvement Work Day Saturday, April 15. Meet at 8:00 for planning...then off to work! The Home Improvement ministry serves widows and single moms within the Asbury family. Our Men’s Minsitry volunteers make themselves available every
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other month to help folks out with minor home repairs and/or home improvement projects. (See our Women’s section for details on how you can apply to have work done). Call 3921142 for more information).
missions/outreach Global Outreach Prayer Ministry News and prayer requests from our missionaries and ministries are sent each week to our prayer ministry list. If you would like to join and become a prayer intercessor for those serving around the world, contact Missy at 392-1163. Global Outreach Ministry Teams These teams specialize in certain areas and all are open to anyone having an interest in those areas. They are as follows: Caspian Ministry (work in Azerbaijan), Central America Ministry (work in Mexico, Costa Rica, and Guatemala), College Missions Ministry, Communications, Estonia Ministry; Kami -Tanzania Ministry, International Student Ministry, Missionary Care, and Prayer. If you need further information call the Global Outreach office, 391-1117. Mentor Moms/Young Lives First and second Tuesdays of the month, 7:009:00 pm in the Parlor. This is a support group for teenage moms, sponsored by Young Life.
missions/vim . The first three Volunteer-in-Mission teams for 2006 are: Costa Rica March 4-11, Light Construction and Mission Bible School - $1000 Mobile, Alabama March 11-18, College Ministry - Hurricane Rebuilding - $300 Cookson Hills (Oklahoma) April 21-22 Estonia June 2-12, Lighthouse (Tallinn) - $2,400 Costa Rica June 17-24, Construction and MBS - $1,000 Azerbaijan June 19-30, Youth Work and Construction $2,000 Estonia June 22 - July 7, Camp Gideon - $2,400 Tanzania, East Africa July 6 - 17, Medical - $2,600 (FULL) Estonia August, Outreach Assistance - $2,500 Cookson Hills (Oklahoma) Fall, 2006 Estonia Late September, Business Mission - $2,400 Monterrey, Mexico October 14-21, Construction and MBS - $900 Rio Bravo, Mexico November 1-5, Medical and Construction $500
Estonia December 28 - January 7, Camp Gideon $2,400 For further details about Volunteer-inMission opportunities, contact Marilene Long, 392-1164 or mlong@asburytulsa.org
music Peter Mayer Concert Sunday, March 21 at 6:00 pm in the Sanctuary. Back by popular demand, Peter Mayer shares his testimony in song. (See more on page3). Chancel Choir Wednesdays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Choir Room Asbury Singing Ambassadors Tuesdays, 1:00 pm, Choir Room Orchestra/Concert Band Wednesdays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Rm 1510 Celebration Ringers Tuesdays, 4:30-5:30 pm, Rm 2506 Asbury Ringers Wednesdays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 2506 Perpetual Light Thursdays, 10:00 am - noon, Rm 2506 Carillon Quartet Wednesdays, 5:00-6:00 pm, Rm 2506 Handbell Ensemble Tuesdays, 5:30-6:30 pm, Rm 2506 New Covenant Ringers Wednesdays, 4:45-5:30 pm, Rm 2504 Wesley Ringers Sundays, 4:30-5:30 pm, Rm 2506 Asbury Power & Light Sundays, 8:15-9:15 am, Rm 1510 Brass Quintet Tuesdays, 7:30-9:00 pm, Rm 1510 String Ensemble Wednesdays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 1510 Wednesdays, 8:00-9:00 pm, Rm 1506 Clarinet Choir Wednesdays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 1506 Dixieland Band Thursdays, 2:00-3:00 pm, Rm 1510
prayer Altar Prayer If you would like someone to pray with you during Holy Communion or right after the service, please come to the altar rail at the front of the sanctuary. A pastor or member of the Altar Prayer Team will be glad to pray with you for your needs – physical, emotional or spiritual - at the altar or in the Prayer Room. College Moms in Touch Prayer Time Wednesdays, 11:45 am - 12:45 pm, Rm 1506 Mason Chapel Prayer Room Accessible during core hours. You can enter the room from the outside entrance of the southeast side of the Chapel. Prayer Journals Available in Gazebo Asbury Prayer Journals now available in the Gazebo. This valuable tool is filled with scripture and resources designed to enhance
your personal prayer time, plus a section for keeping sermon notes.
recovery Celebrate Recovery Mondays: Dinner at 6:00 pm Worship: 7:00-8:00 pm Small Groups: 8:00-9:00 pm Dessert: 9:00-9:30 pm Hiding any hurts, habits or hangups? God never intended for you to live in bondage. Come join this supportive group of people each Monday night at 6:00 pm. Childcare available. Celebrate Recovery Childcare Volunteers needed. Time commitment is one Monday evening per month from 6:45 pm to 9:10 pm. Please call 392-1103 if you can help.
recreation Asbury Recreation Center - Hours Mondays 8:30 am - 9:30 am 5:00 pm - 9:00 pm (Upward Practices) Workout room available Tuesdays 5:00 pm - 8:00 pm (Upward Practices) Workout room available Wednesdays 8:30 am - 9:30 am 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm Workout room available Thursday 5:00 pm - 9:00 pm (Upward & Metro Practices) Workout room available Fridays 8:30 am - 9:30 am 5:00 pm - 9:00 pm (Upward Games) Workout room not available Saturdays 9:00 am - 5:00 pm (Upward Games) Workout room not available Sundays 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm Single Adults Volleyball Singles Volleyball has moved to Wednesdays through February, 7:00 pm in Rm 2319. Adult Volleyball Sundays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Gym Come join a time of exercise, fun and fellowship Junior High Basketball Thursdays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Gym Metro Area Basketball League. Senior High Basketball Thursdays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Gym Metro Area Basketball League. Senior Sit and Fit Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays 9:00-9:30 am, Gym. Come join a time of stretching with fun and fellowship. Walk in the Gym with Him Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 8:30-9:00 am in the gym. Come join a time of power walking with fun and fellowship. Upward Basketball Practice Mondays from 5:00-9:00 pm
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Tuesdays from 5:00-8:00 pm Thursdays from 5:00-6:00 pm Lifestyle Weight Change with Christ Wednesdays from 7:00-8:00 pm. This class and Bible study is for men and women interested in setting goals and learning to use exercise and God’s Word to build a healthier way of living. Contact Crista Grimes at cristagrimes@sbcglobal.net Asbury Family Picnic/Campout Friday and Saturday, April 21 and 22, Bluff Landing Campground in Broken Arrow. The fun begins at 3:00 p.m. on Friday. Cost: $7 per campsite. Make plans now to be a part of one of the coolest, most awesome outdoor experiences this side of the Rockies! You can arrive at any time, stay as long as you like, and leave when you’re ready. The event will be held at Bluff Landing, just 15 miles east of the church. You provide your own camping equipment and food, and we’ll provide opportunities for canoeing, fishing, hayrides, games...you name it! If it’s fun, we’ll be doing it. No reservations are required. The event is sponsored by our Children’s and Recreation Ministries, and hosted by Venture Crew 909, Cub Pack 10, and Troop 10. Great fellowshiop, great friends, and great memories await you! Contact Bob Walters at BLWALT6884@cox.net.
seniors Asbury Singing Ambassadors This senior adult choir rehearses Tuesdays at 1:00 pm in the Choir Room. ‘Tweenagers Thursday, March 23 at 10:30 am in the CLC. Program: The Tulsa Zoo Rain Forest. If you are between retirement and heaven, come and bring a friend! Call Doni at 492-1771 to make your reservations by noon Monday, March 20. Sunset Years Symposium Saturday, April 8 from 8:30 am - 4:30 pm in the CLC and Parlor.
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Singles Meet and Greet Sundays from 8:40-9:10 am or 10:20-10:50 am in the CLC. All singles are invited. Incredible Pizza Party Saturday, March 18 from 6:00-8:00 pm ASM Singles Luncheon Sunday, March 26 from noon - 2 pm in the Parlor ASM Neighborhood Ministry Saturday, April 1 from 10:00 am - 2:00 pm We are all called to make a Kingdom difference and to reach out beyond ourselves to our community and the world. The Single Adults Neighborhood Ministry plan for April is to take an Easter Egg Hunt, with all the bells and whistles, to our apartment neighbors just across the street! Our goal is to help build a stronger community and to reach out to children and their families in a spirit of 31 CALENDAR
fellowship and the love of Christ. Come ready to work and play! Singles Bible Study Mondays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Rm 2820 Divorce Recovery Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. Divorce Rebuilding Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce.
students 10th, 11th & 12th Breakaway Wednesdays, 6:30-9:00 pm - Breakaway Area Join us every Wednesday for a time of connection, worship, and God, and some nights of just random fun. Don’t miss the food and hang-out time afterwards. Note: We will not meet March 22 due to Spring Break! 7th, 8th, & 9th Grade Breakaway Sunday Mornings, 9:15-10:30 am in the Breakaway Area. This isn’t your normal Sunday School! Come join us for worship, fun and games, interactive talk/lesson, and sometimes free candy and gift cards! 7th, 8th, & 9th Grade Bible Study Every Wednesday night except the first one of the month through April 26 from 6:30-8:00 pm. Come to the Student Cafe, hang out, have fun, and study what God’s Word has for us. Marsha will lead the 7th and 8th grade study, and Mark will lead 9th. It’s going to be aweinspiring. You won’t want to miss it! Note: We will not meet March 22 due to Spring Break! Sunday Night Small Groups 7th, 8th from 5:30-7:00 pm at Asbury 9th, 10th, 11th, and 12th from 6:00-7:30 pm in homes. Don’t miss out on being a part of a small group! It’s a place to grow in your relationship with Jesus, have some accountability, and just have fun! Sign up in Student Ministries area. Note: We will not meet March 19 or 26 due to Spring Break! Metro Worship Wednesday, March 1 from 7:00-8:30 pm. for 7th-12th graders. Come join youth from all over the city in a night to just worship Jesus. We meet the first Wednesday night of every month from 7:00-8:30 pm at Believers. If you need a ride, meet at Asbury at 6:30 pm. We’ll be back by 9:00 pm. Mexico/Guatemala Missions Training Sunday, March 12, 12:30-2:30 pm (Guatemala) Sunday, March 12, 12:30-5:00 pm (Mexico) Both in the Student Ministries Area. Cost: $5. Don’t miss this MANDATORY training! Spring Break Missions Commissioning Sunday, March 12 at the 9:15 and 11:00 worship services. All student s serving on a spring break missions team will be commissioned to go out and serve. Meet in the
Student Ministries Area at 8:30 am if you are going on a missions trip. Pray for Spring Break Missions Trips March 18 - 25. Please pray for students and leaders serving in Guatemala, Mexico, Kentucky and Houston as they travel and serve this week. Stock Campaign 2006 It’s time to get ready for student missions 2006! We are heading out to some amazing places over spring break and then will be working hard in our own backyard with Tulsa missions over the summer! Without the generous support of the stockholders, this wouldn’t be possible. In 2005, the stockholders invested over $85,000 in student missions. It’s time to invest again! Our goal for 2006 is to raise $90,000. College Bible Study Each Sunday night from 6:00-7:15 pm in the College Room. Come learn about God with other college students. College Sunday Night Dinners 7:15-9:00 pm in the Student Ministry Cafe. Come eat a great home-cooked meal with other college students.
women Mothers’ Fellowship New class to begin February 27 through May 15. Mondays from 9:30-11:30 am in the Parlor. Cost: $20. Childcare is available. “Bad Girls of the Bible and What We Can Learn From Them.” Book and workbook by Liz Curtis Higgs. “For ten years I studied bunches of biblical role models and finally realized what we had in common: ZIP. Sarah was so faithful. Esther was so courageous. Mary was so innocent. I was so none-of-the-above. Then I happened upon Jezebel, and something inside me clicked. I identified with her pushy personality. I understood her need for control. I empathized with her angry outbursts, and I began to wonder. Could those Bad Girls from the past teach us how to be Good Girls in the present. I’m here to tell you...YES!” Women’s Monthly Luncheon Thursday, March 2 from 11:30 am - 1:00 pm, Lunch in CLC, Piano program in Rm 2818. All women of Asbury are invited to attend our monthly covered dish luncheon in the CLC. Following the “feast,” we will be treated to a mini-concert of Great Hymns of the Church by our very own accomplished pianist, Barbara Graves. Devotion by Mary Lou Hartung. Scripture: Colossians 3:16. Come be blessed! Dorcas Setup, food for pantry, curb pickup Rebekah Cleanup, food for pantry All Others Covered Dish 2 X 2 Mentor Training Friday, March 24 from 6:30-9:00 pm in the Parlor. Women’s Spring Retreat Friday and Saturday, March 31 and April 1, “Take Time to Smell the Roses” with special
guest speaker, Jenny Broughton at Mt. Sequoyah Methodist Retreat and Conference Center in Fayetteville. The cost is $55 per person, which includes all lodging, meals and materials. Home Improvement Work Day Saturday, April 15. Our Men’s Ministry volunteers make themselves available every other month to help out widows and single moms with minor home repairs and/or home improvement projects. Just pick up a request form at the South Welcome Desk, or call your request in to Debbie Wallis (392-1142) in the Adult Ministries Office by April 5. A Home Improvement volunteer will contact you before the work day and make final arrangements to get the job(s) done! Whirlwind for Willard Friday, April 21 from 10:00 am - 3:00 pm in the CLC. Come one, come all and be a part of our annual Whirlwind for Willard Game Day! Hosted by Asbury’s United Methodist Women, this awesome, fun-packed fundraiser benefits the Frances Willard Home. If you like to play games, then bring those and your friends! Tickets may be purchased in the church office for $7.50. (Deadline is April 17). A delicious lunch is included. Women of the Word Wednesday from 10:00-11:00 am in Rm 1502. Rev. Darlene Johnson, teacher. Phone Buddies Ladies, do you want a “cheer me up” with your morning coffee? We have ladies that can fill that need by being your own “phone buddy!” Call 392-1122. Lea or Shirley will return the call and get you set up! Arts and Crafts Mondays, 9:30 am - 2:00 pm, Rm 2820. Women who enjoy crafts are invited to come any Monday morning...come and go any time. Bring lunch to share. Contact Beverly Clarke. (See page 35 for more.)
worship Ash Wednesday Worship Service Wednesday, March 1 at 6:30 pm in the Sanctuary. Join Pastor Tom in a service of introspection to begin the Lenten season. Online Worship Did you know that you can watch the 9:15 and 11:00 a.m. Sunday services online as they are occurring? Go to www.asburytulsa.org then click on “Watch Sermons” (by Tom’s picture). If the winter flu gets you down, or you are out of town on Sunday and you cannot attend worship, you can log on and share the experience. Or if there is a sermon that you wish someone else had been able to hear, send them to our website where several weeks of sermons are archived.
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Charles and Ann Hearne
John and Diane Pittman
Greg and Denise Rinehart and Ryker
Don and Nell Drain
Tony and Michelle Taylor and Zoe
Ron and Joni Thomas and Christian
Chris and Calista Evraets Gabriel and Timothy
Right: Carl and Annette Novinger Tony Phillips NEW MEMBERS
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John and Lisa Killingsworth, Cabe and Kylie
Marlon and Jeri Wells, Derek and Darci
Greg and Laura Phillips and Joseph
Scott Creed, Katie, Megan, Allison & Matthew Tina Walker, Preston and Jordan Paul Iwanaga
Robert and Kim Pitchford, Alexandra and Ryan 33 NEW MEMBERS
Sue Pringle
Bill and Renee Weaver and Emma
We’r e’ree glad you’re here!
We rejoice... with those who have experienced the joy of a new baby in their family:
In appreciation... I wish to express my heartfelt gratitude for the many kind expressions of sympathy sent to me and to my family following the death of my husband, Clarence Morrison, on December 21, 2005. So many of you, my Asbury family, have overwhelmed me with your love shown in cards, telephone calls, visits, gifts, and hugs in the halls of the church. Special thanks go to the Naomi Circle of the UMW who prepared and served the delicious meal the noon of the memorial service, and to the Asbury Orchestra, the Chancel Choir, the Seekers and the Friendship classes, and the many individuals who sent flowers and gifts to the memorial fund to honor Clarence. May God bless you all! Esther Gene Morrison and family
To my dear friends, Thank you for all the prayers, cards, telephone cards, and personal visits while I was in the hospital, and then home during my recuperation. God has blessed me with wonderful friends who have been an encouragement to me during this recent surgery and healing period. I especially want to thank Dr. Bill Mason and Rev. Dave Thomas for their presence with me prior to the surgery, and later hospital visits. Thanks to the friends who stood with me before the surgery, and prayers offered for healing. God heard those prayers and answered them beyond what I could have imagined. In Christ’s love, Bob Greaves
Youth at Heart is giving a great big thanks to Asbury members for brightening the lives of our children. The children that attend Asbury tutoring are doing extremely well this year, averaging as a group a B+ in Math and English. Enough cannot be said for the efforts of the CIA and Family Fellowship classes. Their monthly outings for our youth are helping them to realize that God, indeed, cares about them. And though Christmas has passed, thoughts of your generosity linger with our families. Our parents and children photo are stillbyexpressing Christy Capps appreciation for the gifts you delivered. A million thanks, Asbury, for caring enough to give your time, talent and love to our children. Rodney Gray, Education Director Youth at Heart
Marriage Milestones Dennis and Karen Linscheid February 12, 1966 40 Years Congratulations to all couples who are celebrating Milestone Anniversaries. Report your Milestone Anniversary to patticooper@cox.net or call 392-1146.
Free Tax Assistance Every Wednesday through April 12
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Jordan Leigh Terry Daughter of John and Michelle Terry Sister of Jack, Ethan and Tyler November 9, 2005 Greyson James DeVore Son of Jason and Kristen DeVore Grandson of Kay DeVore November 28, 2005 Alyssa Mae and Lorelei Rose Vogler Daughters of Ryan and Michele Vogler December 20, 2005 William Lloyd Spatz Son of Jeff and Ricinda Spatz Brother of Claire, Emma and Cora January 18, 2006 Jacob Robert Day Son of Michael and Andrea Day Brother of Nicholas Grandson of Jim and Janet Day Allison Elizabeth Turner Daughter of Mike and Nikki Turner Sister of Emily and Haley Corley Blaine Wagner Son of Eric and Renae Wagner Brother of Ashley, Hailey, Brody, Chaney and Blaikly Grandson of Jim and Judy Payne January 23, 2006 Olivia Dawn Sailsbury Daughter of Brad and April Sailsbury Sister of Dax January 25, 2006
We remember... and pray God’s peace for those who have lost loved ones: Jack Anthony Husband of Barbara Father of Joe, Jeff, Janie and Jack III January 14, 2006 Charles Copeland January 16, 2006 Cornell Barnes Father of Becky Baker Grandfather of Courtney and Stephen January 31, 2006 FAMILY ROOM 34
Thoughts from Grandpa John Feeling good about life is more than feeling good for the moment.
Because you care for me, I want to care for others.
Anything worthwhile is a little bit of trouble.
Jesus didn’t say life would be easy, only that He would be with me.
Most of my growth has come with some pain. For the hard job, just start in. To cope with the harried changes of life, I seek a moment with the familiar. While seeking an understanding of life, I discovered acceptance. God uses imperfect people for perfectly good works. God gives me some victories to salve my defeats. Most of my inspiration has come in the midst of labor. Only I choose the priorities for my life. I love you, so I affirm you. I could not have been my best without your challenge.
Creating Community Community can be found in many places. One of the best-kept secrets at Asbury is a group of women who have found community through the enjoyment of arts and crafts. If you do any type of creative project, from painting to all types of crafts and handwork,you are invited to join the Arts and Crafts group which meets every Monday morning at Asbury from 9:30 a.m. - 1:30 p.m. Not only can you get away from all the interruptions at home that keep you from those creative projects your psyche longs for, but valuable ideas and help are there for the asking, since many of the women who attend the group are experts in several areas.
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Always and forever, there is blue sky above the dark clouds. Acceptance is a needed virtue for aging. There will come a time when you will need a Comforter. Get acquainted with Him ahead of time. If someone reaches out to you, reach back. Words written capture thoughts and preserve them for posterity. Sometimes it’s hard to speak my thoughts, so I write. I am more comfortable being myself than trying to be another. Tidings stories by Grandpa John at www.jwestervelt.com
The creator of the group, Beverly Clarke, says on occasion she has left her oil paints at home and addressed Christmas cards. She has even spent the time catching up on her bookkeeping and paying her bills. This is evidence that the fellowship is rich. There is, indeed, a strong bond among these friends who do lots of laughing together and claim they have been able to solve even the stickiest problems plaguing society, if only those in charge would ask them! Some of the participants bring their lunch (and other good snacks to share) , and there is no charge to join or belong to the group. - Marty McBroom