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This month’s Tidings looks at ways that our senior adults at Asbury stay young at heart.

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Tidings Staff Sandy Wagner Jan Weinheimer Juli Armour Lina Holmes Lisa Tresch

Sylvia LaRose Marti Morris Joe Simmons Liz Reece Christy Capps Nikki Boyd Marty McBroom Rod Giles John Westervelt

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The saying goes, “It’s not your age – it’s your attitude !” In the course of my ministry I have often seen this. I’ve met prematurely old people. They never met a change they liked. Life was always better in the “good ole days.” Their favorite phrase began: “when I was your age...” They were quick to criticize, and reluctant to praise. They zapped energy from you. “Grumpy Old Men” seemed like the script was based on their lives. Even their posture and their gait often betrayed their slowing-down stance. On the other hand, I’ve met chronologically advanced people who believed: “If you slow down – you go down.” Their cup was half-full, not half-empty. They liked new things. They treasured the enthusiasm of young people. They liked to read, travel, and make new friends. They stayed active physically, even with their aches and pains. They were magnetic in their appeal – you wanted to be around them. They were “ frequent smilers.” They brought out the best in us. In Victor Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning, he describes how the Nazis stripped everything from him when they placed him in the Concentration Camp for the crime of being a Jew. He lost his family, his clothing, his shelter, all of his possessions; they even stole his wedding ring. As he watched others around him respond to the oppression, he realized something transforming and powerful. The Nazis could take everything except one thing from him…his attitude. They could never make him hate or remove the power of hope from his life. He alone determined his response to life. Certainly, good circumstances make for a better opportunity to have a good attitude. Yet, we also know people who, in the midst of plenty, grumble with their imperfections. And we’ve also known people who have had little, but were gracious and generous amidst their affliction In the pages of this month’s Tidings, you will meet some of the “Young at Heart” people within the life of Asbury. They are not perfect people, but they are still engaged with life – learning and growing, giving and receiving. They serve as examples of who we can be, too, regardless of age. Like them, our dreams can flourish and not fade.

of lives being transformed by the power of Jesus Christ. Back issues are available on our webiste at www.asburytulsa.org

Dr. Tom Harrison, Sr. Pastor

National Day of Prayer Service & Vigil Thursday, May 1, 2008

Service:

12:00 -12:40 p.m. Mason Chapel

Vigil:

7:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m. Mason Chapel Prayer Room See page 26 for details.

Christian Service Scholarship Several years ago a scholarship fund was established in memory of the teenage son of Tom and Mary Lou Detjen. Since that time, many of Asburyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s young people have benefited from this fund. These scholarships assist in educational costs and are intended for those full members of Asbury who have elected to enter some form of full-time Christian service. Scholarshiops may be awarded to persons who are studying at either the undergraduate or graduate levels. The amounts of the scholarships will vary and they may be renewed. Applications may be picked up from Victoria Williamson inthe main office and must be completed and returned by June 7, 2008, along with a photograph. A personal interview with the See page 25 for de ta ils

Scholarship Committee may be a part of the selection process.

Summer 2008 RoadMap Classes

Waiting for the Second Coming! (Part 2)

have experienced loss find themselves in a small, safe setting with others on a similar journey, they begin to find hope and healing with the help of these new relationships. Come and be with others who have been where you are. There can be hope and healing in sharing with others in similar circumstances!

6 sessions Tuesdays, June 3-July 15 (not meeting June 17) 6:30-8:00 p.m. Room 2820 Teacher: Gail Knox Cost: $15 The Church is God’s instrument for taking the Gospel to the World so that as many people as possible will know Him before Jesus’ return. In 1st and 2nd Thessalonians, Paul instructs the church on how to live while we await that return. This study includes exploration of what the Bible says about End Times. An Inductive Bible Study by Word Among Us Ministries with workbook provided, there will be 1-2 hours of outside work each week. It is not necessary to have t aken Part 1.

Dynamic Marriage 9 weeks Wednesdays, July 2 – August 27 6:30 – 9:00 p.m. Room 1506 Facilitators: Doug & Brittain Keifer Cost: $130 per couple Give us 8 weeks…we’ll give you a dynamic marriage! This is an interactive class that will help you replace old habits with new ones in a unique, safe environment. Go from good to great, mediocre to magnificent or hurt to healed. To register, contact Jackie or Ron at 251-6665 or email at rcarjac@valornet.com. Limited to first 12 paid couples. Scholarships available.

Biblical Studies

Beth Moore Bible Studies Stepping Up: A Journey Through the Psalms of Ascent 7 Sessions Wednesdays, June 4 – July 23 6:30-8:30 p.m. Room 2820 Teacher: Cost: $13 This detailed study of Psalms 120–134 engages particip ants in unique opportunities for personal reflection and worship while exploring the background of each psalm and psalmist, the majority of which were written by David. Just as a song or poem can express feelings of fear, doubt, hope, and joy, these 15 psalms model how study p articipants can voice their own petitions and praises to our God, who is always available and ready to hear us. Precept Upon Precept Bible S tudies Forgiveness: Breaking the Power of the Past 6 Sessions Tuesdays June 3 – July 15 (not meeting June 17) 9:30-11:30 a.m. Room 2820 Teacher: Nancy Staab Cost: $9 Just 40 minutes makes a dif ference — 40-Minute Bible Studies without homework! As we uncover biblical answers to the difficult questions of forgiveness, we will also discover how choosing forgiveness can free us from a painful past and propel us toward being all God intends us to be. Book included.

Care and Marriage Pathways Through Grief 12 weeks Tuesdays, May 13-August 5 (not meeting June 17) 7:00-8:30 pm Room 2500 Facilitators: Claudia Kleeman & Sylvia Dean No cost The Pathways through Grief audio series is based on the book Don’t Take My Grief Away! by Doug Manning. When people who

Stepfamily Couples Getaway 1 Weekend 6 pm Friday, June 27 through Noon Sunday, June 29 Neosho River Ranch (55 minute drive near Wagoner) Facilitators: Rod and Charlene Giles, M.A., L.M.F.T. Cost: $50 per couple Been so busy meeting kids’ needs that you’ve forgotten one another? Come relax, share and regroup in a “bed and breakfast” atmosphere just 50 minutes away from Tulsa. Come remember why you got married! An amazing bargain at $50 per couple, limited to first 10 paid step family couples. To register, send check to Event Registration c/o Asbury.

Come Anytime Studies Women of the Word Wednesdays 10:00 – 11:00 am (not meeting on June 18) Room 2319 Teacher: Darlene Johnson Believers Bible Study Wednesdays 6:30-8:30 pm May through July (not meeting on June 18) Room: 1508 Teacher: Don Herrold New Members Asbury Exploration Class 1 Session - Choose a Sunday: May 4, June 1, August 3 12:15 – 2:15 pm (after church) Lunch provided Community Life Center Teachers: All Pastors and Senior Staff Childcare provided (reservations are requested) Asbury Exploration is a required for membership with the Asbury family. It is a time to meet the Asbury pastors and enjoy a wonderful meal, fellowship, and presentations. An overview of Asbury’s Mission statement, V ision, and Objectives is given, along with information about John Wesley, Francis Asbury, and the Sacraments. It is a time to learn “What it means to be member of Asbury.” Much of what Asbury has to offer and what is expected of members is discussed, as well as the process of how to join Asbury. Written information on all the above topics is provided to each family. Please call 392-1191 for reservations

A Note from the Journey By Lisa Tresch

s a young writer I did exercises in high school and college classes that were supposed to jump-start the creative process. One of those writing “prompts” was to compose a letter to ourselves that we would read in 20 years. I wrote the letter but didn’t keep it. It would be an interesting read, but like other important items, it was probably delegated to the trash bin in one of my many frantic purges. The value of a letter written to one’s older self is that, much like a time capsule, it can be read and evaluated many years later. A letter to the younger self, on the surface has no such practical benefit. But, as my writing instructor would say, “No words are wasted.” So here is a completely impractical writing exercise: Dear Lisa, I’m sorry it has taken me so long to write you back. I got busy and time flew, and somehow I ended up being 42 years old much sooner than I expected. I know that at age 22 you are thinking that anything over 40 sounds a bit old. And yes, I have little wisps of gray hair now, and tiny lines around the corners of my eyes and lips. My knees are getting tricky on me and my hands are starting to look like they have too many veins. You know none of that yet. You are still playing tennis on Saturdays without worrying about a knee that might lock up, and you don’t pluck gray hairs from your scalp or look down at your hands in surprise. Your life is stretched far and wide in front of you – almost as if it goes on forever. I

could whine about getting older, but the truth is it doesn’t bother me as much as I thought it would. And, no offense, but I wouldn’t trade places with you. That’s probably hard to believe, but I mean it. I’m sure you’re wondering what would cause me to come to that conclusion, especially since it seems you have the world at your feet. Amazingly, I keep meeting these extraordinary people…and they’re old. Not old as in 42, but more like 70, and 84, and even 90. And they’ve taught me that just because your body doesn’t look so youthful anymore is no reason to stop learning, growing, serving and making a difference. These people travel, take classes, tutor students, create art-

work, share the Gospel with unreached people, write poetry, disciple young mothers, train missionaries. I could go on, but I think you get the idea. At least I hope you do, because if I remember correctly, you are a little skeptical about growing older. You’re quite convinced that once you reach a certain age, let’s say around 50, life is mostly over and that it’s time to sit in the recliner and stay there. But these people don’t sit and stay. They get up and go. And they inspire me to do the same. It’s very interesting that when I’ve talked to these people, they don’t really see themselves as old and they certainly don’t see themselves as having wrapped up the story of their lives. As long as God has given them breath, they are going to seize the day, or as you would say, “carpe diem!” So I look at my little gray hairs and the crow’s feet around my eyes, and I’m determined to do the same. If you are sitting in your apartment in graduate school believing that older people have no lessons that they could teach you – and if I remember correctly, this is what you believe – then maybe the purpose of this letter is really not a meaningless writing exercise after all. Because the older me can often slip into this kind of thinking as well. So this is a reminder to the 42 year-old me: watch carefully and listen closely to those you have deemed “too old to matter,” because they have much to teach you. And you have much to learn. Grace and peace, Lisa

Lisa Tresch has been a regular contributor to Tidings since the inception of the magazine format. You may continue to enjoy her work by going to www.lisatresch.com 3

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Les Clutter

es Clutter has a message for young and old alike: “Don’t just sit in a pew. Get up and do something.” There is no retirement, he believes, from the Body of Christ. At age 84, Clutter models this belief. After his wife Ginger ’s death in 2006, he could have decided to put his feet up and pat himself on the back for a life well lived. But that didn’t seem quite right, even though he had lived quite an extraordinary life thus far. He flew B-17s in World War II, became a petroleum geologist after earning degrees at the University of Illinois, lived in Libya, London, Montana, North Dakota, traveled as a geologist to Trinidad, Venezuela, Kenya and along the way, with his wife Ginger, had four children. His life has been full, and slowing down just hasn’t quite crossed his mind. The Clutters became members of Asbury in 1980. Les was raised Lutheran and came to the clearest understanding of who God is and how He wanted to live fully for Him during his time in World War II. Just as there are no atheists in foxholes, there are no atheists in B-17s. God became very real to Les, and he began to shape his life around that faith. Asbury was, and continues to be, a vehicle for expressing that deep and abiding faith. The list of areas where he serves roll easily off his tongue – Seekers

Community, Usher in the 8 a.m. Chapel service, Friendly visitor, North door greeter, Singing Ambassador, small group member, Men’s Prayer Breakfast, Volunteer in Mission team member….the list goes on. But Les will tell you that his service at Asbury isn’t to gain notches on a spiritual belt. A few moments around him make it clear that he has a genuine and transparent love for people. He is unafraid to involve himself in the lives of others, and that involvement has often led him to the most interesting places and relationships. A case in point: For about eight years Les has been involved in International Student Ministry at the University of Tulsa. This begs the question: why would a member of the “older generation” want to connect with a university student who barely speaks the language? Relationships, Les believes, are what moves him closer to God. And so he took the risk of building a relationship with someone that others might consider far out of the comfort zone. Serik and Asem came to the University of Tulsa from Kazakhstan. Asem was pregnant and the couple knew no one in the city. Les greeted them at the airport – part of the ministry of ISM – and took them on a driving tour of the Tulsa. He gave them his phone number before taking them to the campus. They called him the

next day. Asem was having pains and they didn’t know a doctor, or the location of a hospital or clinic. They only had the phone number of Les, who took the time to start a relationship with them the moment they walked off the plane. And so a relationship began between two very unlikely groups of people: Les and his wife Ginger – an older American couple, and Serik and Asem – a young Khazakh couple. When it came time for the baby to be born, Les sat in the waiting room with Serik. After the little girl’s birth, Les and Ginger became Camilla’s godparents. The couples spent Christmas together and Serik and Asem ate many meals at the Clutter home. When it came time for Camilla to get her traditional Khazakh haircut (which involves shaving the head except for one lock of hair), Les was given the honor of performing the ceremony, which is always reserved for a close relative. There came a point in the relationship when Les decided it was time to talk to his new friends about Jesus. He gave the couple a Russian Bible, and told them that it would be worth it to learn about other faiths. He shared his own faith quietly, mostly through meeting the needs of the young couple – shopping trips, meals

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in the home, caring words and a relationship that continued even when the couple left Tulsa and went back to Kazakhstan. Emails were exchanged and one in particular informed Les that the couple had been “reading that book you gave us.” Although Les now lives alone, his life is anything but lonely. He continues to be active at Asbury, and in the International Student Ministries, building relationships with internationals who need friends in their new homeland. And every now and then, he joins a group of people who travel as a VIM team to faraway places. He

returned in early April from Rio Bravo, Mexico where the team was involved in construction and puppet ministry. On most Sundays you will find him sitting in the pew in 8 a.m. Chapel worship, but that is never where his involvement ends. He takes his own advice and isn’t content for the pew to be his only

place to meet God. When the worship service is over he doesn’t let his age keep him sitting in one place, but instead gets up and joins God in the continuing adventure of serving Him. -Lisa Tresch

Les Clutter developed a close relationship with Serik, Asem and Baby Camilla while they were studying at the University of Tulsa. While they have returned to their home country of Kazakhstan, they still maintain their friendship. Submitted photo.

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Bill & Kathryn Metsker They glide across the floor with precision and flair. Cha-cha, rumba and foxtrot! Could it be a celebrity pair from Dancing with the Stars? Actually, it’s Asbury’s own Bill and Kathryn Metsker. Waltzing through life is God’s blessing and confirmation--and keeps them young at heart.

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“It’s fun,” exclaims Kathryn. “We both like ballroom dancing. It’s good exercise and we meet new people.” The Metskers are long-time members of Asbury. You probably know Kathryn’s son, Pastor Tom Harrison. Bill is one of the first 100 members of Asbury UMC, joining during the church’s infancy in 1964. Dancing and music have been part of their lives, well . . . almost forever! “When I was in junior high, my older sister give me 50-cents to pay for dance lessons on Friday night,” explains Kathryn. “It was during WWII and we listened to the big bands like Harry James and Glenn Miller. I’m a huge fan of Lawrence Welk.” “My Dad was an amateur musician and led the village band in Central Indiana,” says Bill. “At seven years old he encouraged me to take piano lessons, so I could accompany him.” Though the years, Bill played the keyboard in church, mastered trumpet in high school and eventually joined his father ’s band. Now, he plays with Asbury’s Dixieland band

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Saints of Swing. “That keeps me young too,” he adds. The seniors met on a churchsponsored Tweenager’s trip to Branson. “Bill knew exactly the right question to ask,” remembers Kathryn. “Would you like to take ballroom dance lessons with me?” Soon after, the couple became partners on the dance floor and partners in life. “I never thought I would be married to the minister’s mother,” chuckles Bill. When they had been husband and wife several years, they knew they’d never live long enough to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary, so they had a 50-month celebration. Over 300 well-wishers came to a party at the old church. And in lieu of gifts, the happy couple asked for donations to build the sanctuary on Mingo. Nearly $3,000 was accumulated to buy bricks for the new building. Now Bill and Kathryn are kicking up their heels into their 109th month of wedded bliss. The Metsker’s love for each other and love of God have led them into the

Lord’s service. They are active in the Seekers Community, Singing Ambassadors, Tweenagers, Bible studies and more. But one of their favorite ways to spread the Word is by hitting the dance floor. Decked out in sequined dress and white dinner jacket, the couple brings their two-step to clubs, retirement centers and schools to share dance lessons and witness to generations of past and present. Kathryn exclaims, “At Key Elementary School, one amazed little boy said he had never seen anything like it.” She continues, “We also witnessed to one couple who are now members of Asbury and sing in the choir.” Their faith in God and each other is what keeps them going. “When we jitterbug, Bill says he can throw me up but wouldn’t be able to catch me coming down,” laughs Kathryn. Although the dancing couple may not be young in years, they are certainly young at heart--by bringing joy and the Lord’s blessings into every step they take. -Sylvia LaRose

Bill & Dixie Keeth

un, food and fellow ship. This hackneyed phrase shows up far too often in church literature. But regardless of its overuse, it still spells out some of the ingredients to a happy life. Add faith, love and service to the list and you really do have a recipe for a successful life. Just ask Bill and Dixie Keeth. This delightful couple considers those secrets to their successful marriage and their happy life together. “The two of us laugh and have fun in almost everything we do,” said Dixie. “We have fun together, we travel and we pray together,” added Bill. They recently had an opportunity to test the strength of their beliefs when in November Bill suddenly developed pneumonia. This supposedly short hospital stay became a grueling 82-day stint in St. Francis Hospital. Dixie faithfully stayed at the hospital most of that time and believes she and Bill grew closer than ever. “Dixie was the angel God sent to me. I knew she loved me, I just didn’t know how much,” said Bill. “I didn’t know how much either,” Dixie quipped. “I’m truly a better person for having known Bill.” During Bill’s illness he had seven different doctors who marveled at their positive outlook and cheer. Dr. Bordeaux said, “On a scale of 1-10, Dixie’s positive attitude was a 12!” She knows that it would have been easy to get down and lose hope when Bill’s kidneys began shutting down, but she refused to give in to it.

Bill and on Him,” said Dixie. During this time a neighbor said, “I don’t know how you do it, Dixie. I see you every morning—hair done, makeup on, sometimes with tears in your eyes, but even then you have a smile on your face.” Another blessing that was derived from this trial was the understanding of just what Tom means when he emphasized the important of community. Both Bill and Dixie said family and friends enveloped them, bringing food, doing kind and thoughtful things that helped keep their spirit’s hopeful. One day Dixie and her daughter drove into her garage and noticed someone had been in her garage. At first she thought they might have been robbed, only to discover that three precious friends from her community had been in her attic, found her Christmas decorations and decorated her house for ChristDuring this time they faithfully completed the Asbury Prayer Journal together and now that Bill’s home and making a rapid recovery, they continue that practice. The holidays took on an entirely different tone—they celebrated Thanksgiving, Bill’s birthday, Christmas and their anniversary at the hospital. Nonetheless, each of those occasions took a decidedly different and more meaningful tone. “It was a really different, but wonderful Christmas—no baking, no shopping, no wrapping—we all just concentrated on

mas. Bill and Dixie have a blended family both having lost their previous spouses through death. Dixie had two sons and Bill, five daughters. They met for the first time at the children’s school. “My son had attended a Valentine’s party at Bill’s home, so I thought I should introduce myself when I saw him at the school. Later, some of the Asbury Singles group I was in had a bridge party at my home, but only seven showed up. My son was on the phone with Bill’s daughter and I said to my son, ‘Ask her if her dad plays

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bridge.’ He did and came to be the eighth player. I asked him, ‘Should I call you Richard or Dick?’ He laughed and said, ‘Either one, but my name is Bill.’” That was the beginning of a whirlwind romance and eight months later they were man and wife. Dixie was always raised in the church, but remembers a time in her mid-30s when Christ became very real to her. After she joined the Seekers Class in Asbury she attributes a friend’s comment that really spoke to her heart. She said, “Just because you go to a church, it doesn’t mean you’re a Christian.” That penetrated Dixie’s heart. Bill on the other hand had a Catholic background, but it was the death of his wife due to alcoholism that brought him to a crisis of faith that began changing his beliefs. The Keeth’s faith grew stronger

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by sitting under the excellent teaching of the late Bill Elliott. According to Dixie and Bill he was a phenomenal teacher. “He brought a black hat and a white hat to class. He told us, ‘When I have the black hat on, don’t believe a word I tell you.’ Then, he’d don the white hat and tell us to believe him when he was wearing it. He was a very visual teacher and his teaching probably strengthened my faith like no other man,” said Bill. Both believe in service. For many years Bill has been an active member of Rotary, wholeheartedly helping provide for their adopted school, Roy Clark Elementary in Tulsa. He has also been two-time president of the Seekers Community. Both have helped pack and distribute food baskets. Dixie was the first volunteer coordinator of the newly opened Ronald McDonald House. She was recently president of the Asbury

Singing Ambassadors. But one of her greatest joys is found in being a “cuddler” at St. Francis Hospital where she rocks newborn babies who have had to remain in the hospital for longer than usual. Many of these are preemies and most are only there a few extra days. Since Dixie’s sons were adopted she finds added fulfillment in rocking these precious little ones. Has Bill’s recent illness dulled their zest for life and positive attitude? Not in any way. Instead it seems to have strengthened their commitment to God, family, friends and one another. -Sandy Wagner

Dixie Keeth with preemie Kellen Disney where she serves as a volunteer “cuddler” in the St. Francis NICU (Neonatal ICU). Kellen is the son of Asbury members Brandon and Andrea Disney. Photo by Lina Holmes

Dan Scott

an Scott just came from a meeting of Stephens Ministry participants. It’s a group he has helped lead since 2001. In his early 80’s, Dan is at an age when most folks just want to kick back and relax. Not Dan. As he talks about his life and how he has served others, his secret for staying young at heart is becoming clearer. Over his lifetime he has found real joy in helping others, giving of himself, adding happiness to someone’s life, be it a friend, someone who needs a kind word, even a store cashier. Dan is a Tulsa native. He grew up attending another church. During the summers he attended Kamp Kanakuck, which still operates today. His father was a great role model, getting Dan started in the Boy Scouts. He went on to receive his Eagle Scout award. He even helped his dad start troops in the north side of town. He learned early what service to others meant and the joy a person can find in that. Dan calls it giving back for benefits received. Dan’s secret to staying young at heart is becoming

very apparent. We talk some more. After a short stint in the Navy towards the end of the WWII, Dan returned home and attended the University of Tulsa, graduating at the top of his class. Wanting to teach at the university level, Dan earned a scholarship to Texas Tech University for a Ph.D. program. One of those “twists in fate” caused this opportunity to taken from him. A recent change of address caused the mailing of the good news to arrive too late. Dan never went to Texas Tech. Dan decided to join the family business, the Scott-Rice Company, a successful office supply and furniture business. After 20 years, Dan took a big step of faith and began his own company, Dan P. Scott & Sons. During all this time Dan continued to be involved in civic and church activities. He wanted to bless others because of the blessings he received in life. In 1988, because of economic pressures from the mega office supply stores, Dan had to close his business. At the of 61, when most people begin to think about retirement, Dan and his

wife Margie, took another step of faith and moved to Washington D.C. He became head of the National Office Products Association. For ten years Dan traveled extensively, serving the members of the association. At the age of 71, Dan returned to Tulsa. He and his wife found their way to Asbury. As always, he jumped right into the life of the church. He joined a K-Group that he has been a part of ever since. He also made use of his gift of teaching and became a leader in the Stephens Ministry and has been at it ever since. Dan even serves at a mentor for a second grader at Westwood Elementary School near his home. He loves kids! He tells me about his next goal: He wants to act on his dream of writing about his life and times as a legacy for his family. A major part of Dan’s story will be how he has served and loved others, witnessing for Christ with his entire life. Thanks, Dan, for sharing your secret. It’s very clear now how you managed to stay young at heart! -Rod Giles

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Barbara Graves

arbara Graves, pianist for Asbury’s 8 a.m. Chapel service, has been a staple of the Music Ministry since 1987. She and her husband, Gene, came to Asbury in 1975 from another church where she was the church pianist for 11 years. Their loss was certainly our gain. Barbara, the oldest of four children, grew up with a mother who taught piano lessons. She remembers going home each day to care for her little brother and keep everyone quiet during those lessons. As a young person, she was very shy and found she could hide in a corner as she played the piano. Her mom always told her that her playing would open doors for her, and it has. As a young mother she, like her mom, taught piano lessons in her home. Though it was not her calling, it did lead to other opportunities. “The mother of one of my piano students asked me to accompany her choral group of ladies called the Tulsa New Belles. I had never done accompanying before but it seemed so natural for me,” said Barbara. She had been a church pianist but had never been an accompanist. There is a big difference. She stayed with that group for 20 years. In 1980 she began Bible Study Fellowship and was completely inspired by the woman who was the accompanist for the music

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portion. “This woman played the piano like a concert pianist. When she quit, I was asked to fill in as an interim which soon turned into a regular position. It was there that I developed a deep love for Christian music. That is how I learned to play from my heart.” How does her volunteer position keep her young at heart? “As a musician you are always learning. It’s good for your brain!” she laughed. “You have to stay current musically, and the more I play the more I love what I play!” Barbara prepares a

prelude every Sunday for the 8 a.m. service for which she practices weeks ahead. “Sometimes I feel led to play a certain piece for the service and it is always the perfect choice. Or someone will say something to me that will confirm my choice of a song. God speaks through people and circumstances.” she added. Since coming to Asbury she has accompanied the Sonshiners, the Seekers Community, the Children’s Christmas Eve services, Vacation Bible School, soloists, ensembles and various children’s choirs. She also plays for funerals, receptions, social functions and in the community. When she married Gene almost 50 years ago she realized her world of music was completely different from his. He grew up loving Country and Western music. “But he has supported me from the beginning. Our first major purchase was a piano!” she said. Since then they have added three other pianos to their household. Sunday mornings find her at the Chapel preparing for the service. She takes off only two Sundays a year (“as little as I can.”) and is rarely sick though she has come when not feeling well (“I stayed away from people.”) because she loves it so. “When I have extra time and am not reading a book, I am practicing the piano. Every time I play I worship.” And so do we, Barbara. -Marti Morris Submitted Photo

Skip Sidner

t was the morning after Easter; Hart Morris, our Minister of Music, and I were cleaning up the chancel from Easter lilies and palm branches. “It’s Monday! But Sunday’s a-comin’!” rang out in the Sanctuary. A smiling Skip Sidner was joining us to help get things ready for the Sunday AFTER Easter. Skip retired for the first time from Sun Oil in 1987 and the second time from Sun’s Credit Union in 2002. (He doesn’t really believe in retirement.) He still serves as a human resource consultant with the Credit Union. (Do you see what I mean about retirement?) That spirit has worked well for us in the Music Ministry. Since he didn’t have to go in to work everyday, he had a place in mind to volunteer which would be a huge help to us. He has been the music librarian and a trumpet player for the orchestra since it was begun by founder Richard Richards. He saw an urgent need for organization in that area. Now with a freer schedule, he could really make a difference. Asbury was

getting ready to move to Mingo so it was imperative that music be catalogued and ready to install in the new place. As he began this endeavor, which was solely his job, he sorted through endless single sheets of music, estimating he probably handled about 400,000 sheets! During that time he created and implemented the library numbering system for the instrumental library. He also created a distribution system for instrumentalists to easily find Sunday’s music and any new music for each Wednesday night rehearsal. “My role is to serve the director so the musical talent can be maximized; I want every member to be ready to play at the downbeat and have everything they need for that rehearsal,” he said. It was on Monday, August 19, 2002, after playing with the Asbury Brass in the worship service on Sunday that everything came to a halt for him. Skip was heading out the door to the Health Zone when Dyanne, his wife, heard a thud and found him lying in a pool of blood on their kitchen floor.

He had a cardiac arrest and injured his head in the fall. We feared the worst: that he would never recover. After 12 days in the hospital he was moved to rehab. During that time his therapist asked him what he wanted to accomplish. “I want to be able to play the trumpet,” Skip replied. The therapist knew from that response that this man would make it. Now, six years later, he has once again become an invaluable part of our volunteer music staff. He continues to come up with new ideas to keep the instrumental department in order. He spends about six hours a day averaging three days a week in the music office organizing music, keeping orchestra folders up to date, helping with weekly preparation and forever rearranging the orchestra chairs on the chancel for Sunday. “Now I never have a ‘senior moment’ because I can always say I have had a traumatic brain injury!” he laughed. “I feel so blessed to be here and do what I do.” We are the ones who are blessed. -Marti Morris

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Otis Osborn

tis Osborn’s lucky number may be two. The 82-year-old Asburian has two children, two grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren. He starts each day with a two-mile walk. And he counts two fellow Asbury members as “spiritual giants,” people to whom Osborn has good access through his job as a churchlibrary volunteer. (He’s held that position since 2000; there’s that number again!) Osborn, a Shawnee native, says his best years have been since age 70. According to my math, that means the last 12 (note the “2”) have been especially rewarding for the Standard Oil retiree. He has shared all of them with Nell, his wife of 58 years. When asked what he does to enjoy those years while staying active and young at heart, Osborn nonchalantly pulled out a piece of paper listing no fewer than two dozen daily or weekly activities, a daunting number even to a man a few years younger than he. Among the items are playing golf twice a week, serving as a greeter during the 11 a.m. Sanctuary service, taking part in a weekly Bible study, and participating in a men’s accountability group. And then there are his beloved three hours on Wednesday mornings

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in the church library. Osborn’s friend, the late Jack Greer, talked him into serving there.

“When you’re sitting in the library there, you see what everybody else is reading. You get to take a glance at it, see if it looks like it might be interesting,” said Osborn. Osborn says reading a wide variety of spiritually-focused books, including works by Joel Osteen and Rick Warren, has helped him in his journey with God. “You see that you’re not unique in your walk. It seems like everyone else has been there or is going through the same problems,” Osborn said. Osborn’s favorite genre of books

is non-fiction, and he has a special interest in biographies. But the book which he has studied more than any other is the Bible. For a decade, Osborn read it every year, switching to a different version each time. That’s right-Osborn has read the entire Bible ten times. “And every year it was a new Bible. There was something new in there,” said Osborn. Oh, remember Osborn’s two spiritual giants? One of them is Pastor Tom, with whom Osborn shares a passion. “I was journaling before Tom made it popular.” Osborn faithfully follows the church prayer journal every day. But each morning he also writes an entry in his own journal, something he’s done for years. “I just talk to God,” said Osborn. His other spiritual giant is longtime Asbury member Don Herrold, who leads Osborn’s Believers Bible study. “He’s a man of the word,” Osborn said of Herrold, a fellow attorney, to whom he also gave a nod regarding his academic background. “He had to study a lot harder to get his degree than I did because we only had about three or four laws, plus the Ten Commandments.” -Joe Simmons

John & Judy Marquis

John Marquis and a beautiful black lab Switzer have been involved in the Asbury PAWS ministry. Switzer delights patients at Forest Hills Nursing Home, Clarehouse, the Methodist Manor and students at Roy Clark Elementary School, Tulsa. Admiring Switzer are Sarah and Wyatt (2-1/2) Vanse.

udy and John Marquis consider their retirement time to do God’s work and they stay “young at heart” from the experiences they enjoy through a myriad of service activities. The Marquis joined Asbury shortly after moving to Tulsa in 1974 and have always been involved with ministries, but retirement has allowed them to expand their service to others and find spiritual blessings in their every day activities. Judy has served on Asbury’s Regional Council for 15 years; the name has recently changed to Oklahoma Outreach Council. She is currently chair of the screening committee. This job gives her a

unique view of the “big picture” of Asbury’s ministries throughout Tulsa and indeed the state. “This committee and the work it does representing Asbury within the community is the best kept secret at our church,” Judy says. With a budget of $268,000, Oklahoma Outreach supports over 20 programs. The screening committee yearly reviews each ministry receiving support and assures monies being spent are impacting needs. Every community at Asbury is asked to send a representa-

tive to the monthly Council meeting where they learn of special needs on the local level. They share this information with their community’s members giving them the opportunity to participate in a ministry of their choice. Judy says through these ministries “you can help build a house, paint a room, read to a child, prepare food, plant a garden, visit prisoners or be a mentor” and that’s only a short list. Another service area Judy devotes time to dovetails nicely with her outreach work. She is Hands-On Chair for Asbury’s United Methodist Women. This involves coordination of donations from nine different Circles that each month select a ministry and provide useful items for that program. Items have include: 200 teddy bears for Domestic Violence Intervention Service; paper products for Happy Hands, Little Lighthouse, Clarehouse and Walt Whitman School; canned goods for Restore Hope; and gifts for Cookson Hills’ Christmas Store among others. By encouraging people to get involved in the lives of others, Judy says, “I feel as if I am a cheerleader for serving, sharing and helping.” Obviously you have to be “young at heart” to be a cheerleader. When John retired the Marquis’ were able to coordinate some of their service to others. John often picks up and delivers the many items Judy collects. PAWS (Pets Are Working Saints) is a program of Outreach Oklahoma. Judy does the paperwork and John handles the dogs and does the visiting. When their dog Shadow

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died, the Marquis decided not to take on full time care of another dog, so John set up a unique “adoption.” Switzer is a beautiful black lab that belongs to Asbury member Blake Simon. Since both the Simons work, Switzer was home alone most of the day. John “borrows” the dog on a regular basis. Switzer is certified to work as a visitor in nursing homes and children’s programs. As well as taking Switzer on weekly visits, John instructs owners on how to certify dogs for this environment. Each dog has three supervised visits and then are approved and insured for service. The Director at Clarehouse, a hospice center, asked John to bring Switzer to the Episcopal Church’s animal blessing service, so Switzer is blessed as well as being a blessing. John regularly visits Clarehouse, Roy Clark Elementary, Methodist Manor and Forest Hills, an assisted living facility. Spiritual blessings come from interaction on these visits. John recalls a blind lady that told him how beautiful Switzer was when the dog rested his head in her lap and let her feel his face. He saw the eyes of a paralyzed stroke victim whose hand had to be placed on Switzer’s fur and whose fingers barely twitched, light up with joy at the contact. He watched as Switzer calmly roamed around a nursing home room and settled by a man who had told John he did not like dogs and to get that one away. Switzer’s patience was rewarded when the man finally reached down and started stroking him. Now he

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calls Switzer over each time John stops by. John obtained his chauffer’s license so he can drive the bus for Happy Hands, an early childhood program for hearing impaired children and their siblings. This enables their teachers to spend more time with the

Judy Marquis is an active volunteer in various Oklahoma Outreach ministries. Judy’s efforts help supply the needs of Asbury’s nurser y, Domestic Violence Intervention Services, and Redemption House among others. Photos by Lina Holmes

children on field trips. Through Rotary he is part of the Adopt a Dad program at Roy Clark Elementary. He recently was invited to come along on a trip to the zoo. Judy said it is like going back to having school-age kids again when John lets her know he is supposed to bring cupcakes for the next day’s event. Another activity that keeps John “young at heart” is singing with the Asbury Singing Ambassadors (ASA). To sum it up Judy says, “Yes we are seniors. Yes, we have some aches and pains. Yes, we have had some challenges in our lives, but what we have found is that when we are actively serving others there isn’t time to worry about self. We are out in the community meeting the needs of others.” That must be why her favorite Bible verse is Proverbs 14:31: He who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker but whoever is kind to the needy honors God. -Liz Reece

In an effort to leverage more help for ministries Asburians are encouraged to save Betty Crocker Coupons and Campbell soup labels, old telephones, eyeglasses, hearing aids, printer cartridges and holiday cards. These and other items that could be used by any of the ministries can be left at the South Welcome Desk with Judy Marquis’ name on them and they will be put to good use.

Dean Cox

is hands work with the precision of a surgeon, the smell of sawdust rising in the air. Dean Cox knows the joy of creating pieces of art with his jigsaw. For years after retiring from business, he and his wife Jessie enjoyed the monthly trek to “craft Mecca,” Canton, Texas, to display and sell the works of his hands. He enjoyed making everything from Texasmotif wall hangings to items with religious themes. While they loved those experiences and made many friends along the way, it soon became too difficult to travel the distance and to lift the heavy boxes of unfinished woodworking. “I kept asking God if there wasn’t something I could make…simple and not too expensive… that I could give away to help people with their prayer life,” Dean said.

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It wasn’t long before he got the answer he sought and the “keychain ministry” was born. “God’s Holy Spirit can take something like a 2” x 2” piece of wood shaped like a dove, with a message of commitment – and use it to change lives, enrich families and make us aware of God’s presence and help us with our daily prayer growth,” Dean said. “The constant availability of the key-chain reminds us of something to which we are committed, leading us to a deeper faith, greater dedication, more concern for others, brighter ideas, more self-worth and a more positive attitude. The Holy Spirit creates these wonders of God’s grace and love in and through each of us,” he continued. Dean met Jesus at a revival in Englewood, Kansas when he was 12 years old. He and Jessie were looking for a smaller church but soon felt comfortable and welcome at Asbury where they have been members for over 22 years. One of Dean’s first big orders was for Asbury, where 2,500 keychains were sent out. They were accompanied by a pamphlet which asked the recipient to consider doing the following things: First, keep the dove keychain in your purse or pocket where you will touch it several times a day. (The keychains become smoother the more they are handled…just as God works out our rough edges, smoothing us out.) Second, each time you touch the dove, he asks that you say a prayer in which you ask God’s guidance as how and where you may serve and give to your church above and beyond what you are presently doing…in time, talent and service. Third, he also asks that you make a commitment to yourself that

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you will start each morning, naming someone or something you will pray about each time you touch your dove that day. Pray for your spouse, family, friends, missionaries, church, neighbors, pastors, government, and perhaps even those persons with whom you find it difficult to relate. “If you accept his challenge,” Dean says, “you will never be the same person because along with your prayer life, the Holy Spirit will grow within you just as the Bible tells us.” Dean uses various woods, including Bolivian mordillo, walnut and pine. “Each is beautiful in its own way, just as each person is beautiful in God’s sight. The slight irregularities or imperfections (and there are some in each piece of wood), like our imperfections and irregularities – don’t affect the effectiveness of our purpose, as both can be used just as they are at any time,” said Dean. Jessie helps by putting the chains on the doves and getting them ready for shipment, but more importantly, Dean says she is always there when he needs her. They both are committed to never charging for the keychains and count it a privilege to have been used by God in this unique ministry. Now20 years later, over 66,000 keychains have made their way from Dean’s garage workshop to people all over the United States and more than 20 countries. Because the dove is not a recognizable Christian symbol, the keychains can be sent as an encouragement to believers in countries where there is religious persecution. Stories get back to Dean as to how the keychain reminders have affected to people. - A large church used doves to help members with a campaign to get out of debt. Their goal was $670,000; $670,600 was pledged.

- A couple in Chicago said that the prayers that the dove inspired helped heal their marriage. - He also heard of a lady who requested she be buried with her dove in her hand. And how has the keychain ministry affected Dean? “How can it not affect my life, as each time I cut, finish or get ready to distribute the keychains, I touch each one and it reminds me of God’s presence in every aspect of my life. What a life-changing experience.” Inspired by The Carpenter, Dean will keep working with wood and touching lives…one dove at a time. -Jan Weinheimer

Dave & Jan Meilner

sbury has a brand new member who brings smiles to the faces of hundreds of young children. He didn’t go through Asbury Exploration and he didn’t stand up at the front of the Sanctuary when he joined the church. Nevertheless, he’s part of the Asbury family and he jumped right into serving in the Children’s Ministry. Last month he went on a mission trip to Monterrey, Mexico. Who is this new member, you ask? His name is Do Do Bird. He is a five foot tall full-bodied puppet. Do Do Bird joins our friends Chico (another full-bodied puppet) and Pablo the Parrot, who specializes in teaching Scripture memory verses. The puppets are handled by a team of Asbury members who love to have fun. Dave and Jan Meilner are the leaders of that team. They are joined by Richard Laughlin, Jennifer Rowe, Clark Hays, Jennifer Mulvaney and Kara White. “It was the dream of Adrian Mauerman that Asbury have its own

puppet ministry. Adrian wrote puppet scripts and sent them to Puppet Productions and in turn received free puppets to form Asbury’ s puppet ministry,” Jan said. Adrian has since passed away but her dream has become a lasting ministry. Dave and Jan have led Asbury’s Puppet Ministry since 1985 when Dottie Kemp saw them entertaining a group of pre-school aged children in a Sunday school classroom with a hand puppet. “Puppets can say things in a way that everyone can understand,” Jan said. The puppets deliver a true message in a playful way. Now since the puppet scripts are recorded in different languages, Dave and Jan jump at the opportunity to bring the Word of God and their puppets to different countries. When the Meilner’s go on mission trips, the puppets play a big part in Mission Bible School. Children and adults love watching the puppets. Through the various puppet shows, the Meilner’s

tell the Gospel story. In a recent puppet show, they told the story of the Good Samaritan. Since young children may be unfamiliar with the label placed on Samaritans, they used a purple monster to play that role. All the puppets passed by the hurt man and then the purple monster stopped to help him. Jan said, “None of the children expected a purple monster to be loving and helpful!” It really brought the message home to them. The puppet shows aren’t just for young children. They’ve done shows for adults as well. Jan described a puppet show they performed called “The Sacred Pew” in which two puppets, Eb and Flo were upset because someone sat in their seat at church. People, young and old, can laugh and learn about Christ watching the puppet shows. Dave and Jan love delivering the message of God’s love for all people! How do they do it? “On our knees” Jan said, matter-of-factly. -Christy Capps Currently, the Meilner’s and their puppet ministry perform in Asbury’s Children’s Ministry at 9:15 and 11:00 on the third Sunday of each month. Their audience is made up of children ages two through five years-old. If you are interested in volunteering with Asbury’s Puppet Ministry, please contact Christy Capps at 392-1172 Photos by Chris Lo

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Puppets Keep You Young at Heart!

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Shirley Martin Jesus is all the world to me, my life, my joy, my all; He is my strength from day to day, without Him I would fall. When I am sad, to Him I go, no other one can cheer me so; When I am sad, He makes me glad, He’s my Friend.

eing “young at heart” for Shirley Martin begins and ends with her relationship with Jesus. She may be a volunteer extraordinaire and her life may be filled with serving, but as it says in her favorite hymn, it is Jesus that means “all the world to her.” Shirley accepted Christ at the age of 19 while attending a camp in Colorado. Around an evening campfire she remembers having “a deep glow inside and out.” The encounter with Jesus changed her and even though she fell away from her faith for a time, Shirley has always sensed the Lord’s hand on her life. Wanting to live closer to her mother and three children, Shirley returned to Tulsa in 1994 after the death of her husband. Taking a drive with her son one evening, they passed

Asbury and he said, “I understand they have a good singles group there.” Once she visited, the teaching, the choir and the people drew her in and within the year, Shirley joined the church. Over the years, Shirley has found it easy to get involved in the life of the church through many opportunities. In addition to being a long-time volunteer at a local hospital, Shirley is also an active member of UMW and a charter member of the Women’s Ministry Council. She is one of the cooks for the Tweenagers monthly meetings and often helps out on a Sunday morning as an usher or at a welcome center. Shirley is a member of the Asbury Singing Ambassadors and loves being a part of the Wordfinder community. As busy as her life may seem, every opportunity brings her joy. “Jesus had led me through each phase and I praise Him,” she remarks. “Having a ‘young at heart’ mindset enables you do so much more than you would ever consider doing,” says Shirley. Though many senior adults face physical challenges, she believes there is something that everyone can do – whether it’s sending a card or making a phone call. “As we age, I feel it’s very important to keep a non-judgmental attitude,” says Shirley. “I need to be helpful whenever and wherever I can. It’s a good and loving attitude that keeps us going.”

It’s that kind of determined attitude that has helped keep Shirley her faith intact, even in the face of extreme loss. Over the span of four years, she experienced the death of her husband, her son and her mother. Through the loss, God continues to teach Shirley about patience and trust. “I don’t know how people go through the death of a family member without God to give them peace and stability.” Another crucial part of Shirley’s faith is her study of God’s Word. Through the years, Shirley has taken advantage of the variety of studies offered at Asbury. “Serving the Lord takes first place in my heart,” she says. “And, reading the Word and praying to Him are an honor. An hour or two each day is small compared to what He does for us.” There is a challenge that Pastor Tom gave the church that has stayed with Shirley. He encouraged everyone to extend a personal touch to someone on any given Sunday, because that may be the only human touch they get all day. Shirley sees that through a simple handshake, we can show the love of God. It is senior adults that Shirley sees as guides for the younger generation. Whatever their investment – be it their time, finances or just giving that loving embrace - our seniors can make a profound difference in the life of our church and beyond. -Nikki Boyd (Jesus Is All the World to Me, words and music by Will L. Thompson, 18471909) Asbury Tidings 20

Bill Jones W

hen Bill Jones talks about being blessed, he never mentions material possessions or status. He said, “I have a very devout wife. My son and daughter are both active in the Lord’s work and so are my five grandchildren who all love the Lord. “When someone says to me, ‘Can you help?’ What can I say, I’m blessed to be able to help!” Bill and Janene Jones will have been married 60 years this October 1. Bill served during World War II in the Navy. After undergraduate work at the University of North Carolina and earning an MBA at Harvard, he attended the University of Oklahoma Law School and eventually set up a law practice in Tulsa in the late 1950s. The Jones’ association with Asbury began when the church still met at Key Elementary School. Their neighbors, Jerry and Johnna Himes, invited them to visit. Pastor Bill Mason said, “I believe it was the daily living out of the Himes’ faith that the Jones decided they should see what Asbury was all about.” Pastor Mason went on to say, “Over the years, Bill has given invaluable service to Asbury. He has blessed our church family.”

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Pastor Tom Harrison said, “Bill has not only saved Asbury thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) of dollars in donated legal services, he has been a visionary for us as well as a wise counselor. His wonderful wife, Janene, is the perfect complement to Bill. In my 15 years at Asbury, I have seen Bill’s growth in his faith in Christ. This has been a wonderful privilege for me.” Bill said his faith really began to grow when he got in a study group with a few guys who loved to play golf. “That was what got me interested in serving my church in ways that seemed purposeful in using what little

gifts I might have. We still meet over at Southern Hills Country Club and got to be known over there as the Bible Toters.” Bill taught The Cornerstone Sunday School Class for about five years and was then asked to serve on the Board of Trustees approximately 15 years ago. It was on this committee that Bill’s expertise clearly became indispensable. “We had simply run out of room at our facility on Sheridan,” he said, “and we had to take action.” “After it became clear that God was leading us to relocate,” Bill said, “my job was to handle the legal work on the sale of the old property, the acquisition of the land on Mingo and the contracts with the architects and contractors and anything else which required legal work. We had some fantastic people on the committees who worked hard to make it all happen.” Bill was recently asked by a personal friend what his fee would be to help First Baptist in Jenks accomplish the same type move Asbury carried out. “I felt very strongly that God wanted me to do this as a gift to Him. So here I am, working for the Baptists,” he laughed. Bill’s day starts out at 5:00 a.m. when he prays and reads scripture. At 83 years young, he still works 40-60 hours a week “Because I like it,” he says. “It’s still exciting. There’s chemistry in our office that is different. I think the chemistry is just Christ!” -Marty McBroom

Ralph & Pat Patterson

f you met Ralph and Pat Patterson, your first impression might not be “these are a couple of really courageous people,” yet after visiting with them for an hour recently, that’s the word that came to me. While looking for the ways in which they have remained “young at heart,” I saw that their youthfulness is founded in the way they remain adaptable and teachable, lessons they’ve learned through a lifetime dealing with the uncertainty of life with grace and courage. It took courage for Pat and Ralph to yield to Christ while in their forties. Pat responded to an altar call at a Living Christmas Tree presentation, asked Jesus to come into her heart, and immediately began to see the need to change old attitudes and ways of thinking. She started seeking the Bible for the truth and welcomed the changes that were revealed. Ralph recommitted his life to Christ at a Bill Gothard Seminar, after having put his faith on the back burner since an initial

commitment at a Billy Graham rally in 1958. This turning point was when he began to see the need to grow in his Christian walk, while at the same time pursuing his career as a successful attorney. It took courage for Ralph to face his wife Gloria’s diagnosis of Lou Gehrig’s Disease and to lovingly care for her through the years of her illness and death in 1994. It took courage for Pat to start over after her first marriage failed, as she moved to Dallas and was a single, working mom to her children. It took courage for Ralph to go on after the loss of his son, who went through a heart transplant, and then 28 months later, died after his body rejected the transplanted heart. It took courage for Ralph and Pat to begin a new life together. At ages 65 and 53, Ralph and Pat recognized not only that there was a significant age difference, but they had many differences in the way they did things. Yet they have both learned that the old

adage about old dogs and new tricks hasn’t applied. They find it invigorating to see that they can indeed choose to adapt and change and see things through someone else’s viewpoint. It took courage for Pat to make a major career change at age 58. After having been in the IT field for her entire adult life, Pat decided to become a high school math teacher, something she’d thought about back in college. For five years, she’s been faced with new and different challenges, many of which she hadn’t expected, but has seen this time in her life as an opportunity to make a positive difference in the lives of high school kids. It takes courage to step out and get involved. At a time when it would be easy to sit back and think, “now’s the time to let others care for us,” Ralph and Pat have invested in the lives of young people as they mentor through the Couple-to-Couple ministry at Asbury. They share their life experiences and wisdom with couples, focusing on those going through remarriages. They must give good advice as evidenced by the fact that all eight of their children have had successful, thriving marriages. What’s their secret? Ralph and Pat have learned a few nuggets of wisdom that have guided them: be adaptable, pick your battles, don’t forget how to laugh, respect one another, and most importantly, pray together. Ralph and Pat Patterson have lived the truth of 1 Corinthians 16:13, “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.” -Juli Armour

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Words of a Child By John Westervelt

s a weekday preschool volunteer, I listen to the words of a child. I have found that the words of a child are insightful in their simplicity. As the three-year-olds helped make pudding, Miss Sue asked, “Where does milk comes from?” A little girl answered, “From the refrigerator.” We have a battery powered toy mixer that we get out occasionally. Kyndall said, “Grandpa John, would you get the mixer so I can make a pie cake?” I pulled up a chair beside a threeyear-old boy in time-out and asked, “What are you in for?” The boy put out his hands, palms up toward me, and shrugged his shoulders. I told him I would talk to the warden. Of course, he didn’t understand any of my conversation, but seemed pleased that I stopped to visit. A little later, Miss Jan knelt beside him, asked him to look into her eyes, and said, “Remember we don’t wrestle.” Time will tell if he remembers, for he didn’t remember this same lesson given last week and the week before. I was helping Annie in the three-

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year-old class with some paper on the easel so she could dot stamp blue and green. She leaned her head back, looked into my eyes, and softly said, “I love you, Grandpa John.” A Thanksgiving note from threeyear-old Adison. “Grandpa John – I am thankful for you and how you open the door for me.Thank you for having a tea party with me. Thank you for helping me put my things in my cubby (their personal shelf where they put art work to take home). Love, ADISON” Of course, Kendra, the mom, wrote the note except for the large signature. It is evident that Kendra has listened to what her daughter has told her about preschool. Each four-year-old boy had on a unique Halloween costume. Five of the girls were princesses, each with a different color dress. It looked like girls ready for their high school prom. To celebrate Chance’s being star of the week last week, his mother brought Halloween donuts for the fouryear-old class. Conversations flowed among the five children at each of three round tables. Chandler told his

friends, “I sure am enjoying this.” In the four-year-old class we made a valentine by pasting a heart on a piece of construction paper and making lace around the heart with white reinforcement small donut shapes that are designed to reinforce the holes on notebook paper. Kole asked Rylan, “May I have some more little circles?” Rylan said, “Here are some.” Kole said, “Thanks,” Rylan replied, “No problem. That’s what friends are for.” Two boys in the four-year-old class were coloring side by side at the table when one said to the other, “You are my friend. You would never breakup with me, would you?”

What better way to stay “young at heart” than to work every day with preschoolers. Known to his students as Grandpa John, John Westervelt has been a contributor to the Tidings for 13 years. If you would like to read more of his observations, you may find them at www.jwestervelt.com

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Thursday Night Worship 6:45 - 8:00 pm Simply Worship (CLC) (Casual, Praise and Worship) Sundays for Children and Students 6 Weeks - 4 Years

8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am

K-6th Grades

9:15 or 11:00 am

7th, 8th & 9th Grades

9:15 & 11:00 am

10th, 11th & 12th Grades

9:15 am only

Adult Discipleship Communities 8:00, 9:15, & 11:00 am and Wednesdays, 6:00 and 6:30 pm and NEW! Thursdays at 5:30 pm. (See Discipleship) Surgery or Hospitalization Scheduled? Be sure to let Asbury know ahead of time by

New Additions to the Library

Alzheimer’s Support Group Third Thursday, from 1:30-3:00 pm in Rm 1621. Christian hope, support and education for

The Asbury Library is a wonderful resource.

friends and family of those with Alzheimer ’s or

Thank you to all who continue to contribute

other dementia.

books to our Library.

access Hands of Love Sign Choir Sundays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm. 2821 Friends in Christ Community Sundays, 11:00 am, Rm. 1507

bible study RoadMap

Cancer Support Group Second Sunday of each month, 4:00-6:00 pm, Parlor - For those living with cancer and their family and friends. Divorce Recovery Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. Childcare available. Divorce Rebuilding

calling Ruth at 392-1146 so your pastors can

All courses being offered in the Spring 2008

Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those

be in prayer for you. When you enter the

RoadMap session are listed on the Asbury

ready to rebuild their lives after separation or

hospital, please designate Asbury as your

website at www.asburytulsa.org. Look for

divorce. Childcare available.

church. The after-hours pastoral emergency line

the new Summer brochure coming soon!

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Eating Disorder Recovery

Asbury Bear Bags

missions. The week’s activities will come to a

For individuals seeking support in the

Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books have

recovery process. Wednesdays at 12:00 pm

comforted young children for many years, but

in Room 1621. Bring a sack lunch. Contact

now you may give a Bear Bag with a

Marcy McMurry at

scripture-based journal included instead!

marcymcmurry@sbcglobal.net.

Great for teens and adults. Anyone may

Employment Transitions

deliver an Asbury Bear to someone who is

Need a second set of eyes to review your

grieving. For more information, contact Beth

resume? Free male and female one-on-one

at 392-1116.

children

employ.transitions@yahoo.com

Registration forms for all children’s

Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

activities are available in the preschool

First and third Tuesdays, 6:30-8:30 pm, Rm

and elementary lobbies.

Parents who are involved in RoadMap

For family members or caregivers of

classes during these core hours will have

people affected by a mental illness. 4th

childcare provided for children 6 weeks - 12

Thursdays from 1:30 - 3:00 pm in the

years of age with no reservations needed:

Military Connection

Sun

8:00 am - 12:00 pm

Mon & Tue

9:00 am - 12:00 pm

To demonstrate the love of Christ, periodic

Tue, Wed, & Thur 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm

care packages and monthly encouragement

Family Movie Night

cards with God’s Word are sent to Asbury-

Friday, May 30, 6:30 pm in the CLC. We’d love

related military personnel. The Prayer Ministry

to have you and your whole family join us as

also covers them in prayer. Please send

we watch “Game Plan” on the screen in the

contact information (complete name and

CLC. Invite friends and neighbors to this great

address) to Gwen Mohler at

event. Bring the whole family along with your

grmohler@aol.com or call 392-1146.

chairs, blankets and enjoy this movie with us.

Pathways Through Grief

The movie is free, but we will be selling

This audio series based on Doug Manning’s

concessions if you think you’ll need to snack

book, “Don’t Take My Grief Away!” Once

during the movie. For additional information,

people who have experienced loss find

call Jennifer Barnes, 392-4582.

themselves in a small, safe setting with

Vacation Bible School - 2008

others on a similar journey, they begin to find

Tuesday - Friday, June 17 - 20 from 9:00 am -

hope and healing with the help of new

12:30 pm. Cost: $10 per child with $25

relationships. Facilitators: Claudia Kleeman

maximum per family. Kids will have a great

and Sylvia Dean. Tuesdays, May 13-August

time living God’s unshakeable truth. They will

5, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2500. Call 392-1191 to

experience God’s Word and biblical truths

each day in Worship Rally, Life Time Drama, Crafts, Music and Recreation. They will also learn how we take God’s Word to others in

Asbury Tidings

hang out with friends and family, play on the cool inflatibles and eat, eat, eat! Cost includes a VBS T-shirt. Registration must be received by Friday, May 23 to be guaranteed a shirt. To

the form. Hit submit, then print out the form,

Core Childcare Hours

Parlor. Call Ruth at 392-1146.

time to celebrate the fabulous week of VBS,

go online to www.asburytulsa.org and fill out

Employment Transitions at

Mental Health Support for Families

June 20 from 5:30 - 8:30 pm. It’s an awesome

help us with our registration process, please

support available through Asbury’s

1506.

close with our Family Fun Night on Friday,

sign it and bring it to the South Welcome Desk with the fee. For additional information, call Kim Renkema, 392-1159. VBS T-Shirt Hand Out VBS T-shirts are available to pick up on Sunday mornings May 4 and May 18 if you have registered and paid your fee. Shirts can only be guaranteed if you are registered and your shirt is picked up before May 23rd. For additional information, call Kim Renkema at 392-1159. VBS Challenge Camp Monday, June 16 from 3:00 - 8:00 pm and Tuesday-Friday, June 17 -20 from 9:00 am 12:30 pm and a Luau after Family Fun Night, June 20. Cost: $25. Challenge Camp takes place the same week as VBS. On Monday, the 5.6ers will meet from the 4:00 - 8:00 pm for worship and dinner and then do our planning for the entire VBS week. Each day, they will st art their day in Worship Rally, then go their own way to several small groups, learning the crafts, games and Bible stories they will share with others. They will even have a day to practice their missionary skills in the Tulsa community. This week is all about setting up our 5.6ers to get ready to serve in the world around them; it takes VBS to the next level. We will celebrate our week of hard work on Friday after Family Fun Night. Registration must be

received by Friday, May 23 to be guaranteed a T-shirt. To help us with our registration

discipleship Discipleship Communities

families. Resumes should be sent to Vicki Ihrig, Asbury UMC, 6767 S. Mingo Rd., Tulsa, OK, 74133 or call her at 918-392-1160.

process, please go online to

If you have not yet found an Adult

www.asburytulsa.org and fill out the form. Hit

Discipleship Community check out “Get

Children’s Ministry Programming

submit, then print out the form, sign it, and

Involved” on our website,

Assistant

bring it to the South Welcome Desk with the

www.asburytulsa.org or pick up a brochure

The position is 25 hours weekly. The

fee. For additional information, call Amber Cox

at one of our Welcome Centers.

schedule will include Wednesday nights,

at 392-1171 or acox@asburytulsa.org.

New Discipleship Community

Upward Basketball assistance, all children’s

Thursdays, 5:30 - 6:30 pm. Shepherd’s Flock

events outside of Sunday morning and

Wednesday, June 4 from 6:00 - 7:30 pm OR

- a community for all who desire to

daytime office work. Successful applicant

Saturday, June 7 from 8:30 - 10:00 am in the

strengthen their relationship with the Lord

should have a love for children with strong

Children’s Elementary Rooms. VBS is success-

through prayer, biblical teaching, mission and

administrative and computer skills along with

ful thanks to the hundreds of volunteers. We

service projects, as well as fellowship with

the ability to creatively teach Bible lessons.

simply could not do it without you. All volunteers

other believers. Our general focus is to

Resumes should be sent to: Kim Renkema,

must attend one of these trainings to ensure

strengthen the ministry to God’s precious children.

Asbury United Methodist Church, 6767 S.

our VBS kids are safe and learning about the

We invite you to come and join us as we support

Mingo Rd., Tulsa, OK 74133, or

love of Christ. If you are interested in

one another and grow in the love of God.

krenkema@asburytulsa.org, 392-1159.

employment

marriage & family

VBS Volunteer Training

volunteering with VBS, please contact Shelley Hughes at shughes@golfillustrated.com, Tiffanie Garrett

PT Sunday Early Childhood Associate

Stepfamily Couples Getaway

at tsgarrett@olp.net and we will find a place

20 hours/weekly. The schedule will include

June 27-29 (from 6:00 pm Friday through

that works for you.

Sundays from 8:30 am - 12:30 pm with the

noon on Sunday) at Neosho River Ranch.

remaining hours during the week preparing

Been so busy meeting kids’needs that you’ve

Thursday, June 12 from 11:30 am - 1:00 pm in

for Sunday morningneeds. Successsful

forgotten one another? Come relax, share,

the Student Ministries Area. VBS is success-

applicant should have a love for children,

and regroup in a “bed and breakfast”

ful thanks to the many teen volunteers! Teens

administrative/computer skills, and be able to

atmosphere just 50 miles away. An amazing

must attend this training to ensure our VBS

recruit and rain volunteers for Sunday. This

bargain at $50 per couple. Come remember

kids are safe and learning about the love of

candidate will direct and mentor volunteers

why you got married! Limited to the first 10

Christ. Pizza lunch is included. If you are

serving children from infant to 23 months.

paid stepfamily couples. To register, send

interested in volunteering with VBS, please

Resumes should be sent to Vicki Ihrig, Asbury

check to Event Registration, c/o Asbury UMC,

contact Leslie at lowryrn@yahoo.com

UMC, 6767 S. Mingo Rd., Tulsa, OK, 74133 or

6767 S. Mingo Rd., Tulsa, 74133. Facilitators:

call her at 918-392-1160.

Rod and Charlene Giles, M.A., L.M.F.T.

VBS Teen Training

Murdock Villa A mission opportunity for our 5th & 6th grade

PT Nursery Staff Positions Available

Dynamic Marriage. Give us eight

students. Usually the second Sunday of the

Part-time position will work 10-15 hours

weeks…we’ll give you a dynamic marriage!

month from 12:30 - 3:30 pm. Cost is $5 for

weekly in the Asbury Nursery. The schedule

This is an interactive class that will help you

CiCi’s Pizza. We’ll eat then visit Murdock Villa

will include Sunday morning from 8:30 am -

replace old habits with new ones in a unique,

where we will play Bingo and do crafts with

12:30 pm with a few remaining hours during

safe environment. Go from good to great,

special needs adults. It is an amazing time to

the childcare weekday and weeknight core

mediocre to magnificent or hurt to healed.

witness in our local community. Limited to 10

hours. Successful applicant should have a

Wednesdays, July 2-August 27, 6:30-9:00

kids each month. For further information

love for children, willingness to portray

pm, room 1506. $130/couple (many materials

contact Jami at 392-1166.

Christian beliefs and values to children and

included, scholarships available). To

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Campbell’s Soup Label

volunteers check tires, belts, fluids, filters and

rcarjac@valornet.com . Limited to first 12

batteries. They also vacuum and wash the

Save Campbell’s soup labels for missions.

paid couples. Facilitators: Doug & Brittain

vehicles, then update owners on what’s

Please cut the UPC symbol and the Labels for

Keifer

running smoothly and what needs

Education symbol together. Turn these in for

professional attention. This free service

missions! Questions: Contact Missy Sistrunk

If you are planning to use an Asbury p astor to

gives our men the opportunity to put their faith

at 392-1163.

officiate and/or use Asbury’s facilities, be

into action through loving and serving those in

sure to book ASAP to allow ample time for

need. No reservations required; just get your

A monthly newsletter is available with recent

Couple-to-Couple (required premarital

vehicle in line by 11:30 am.

news of mission happenings. If you would like

Attention Engaged Couples

sessions). Six months to one year lead time

Home Improvement Ministry

Mission Matters

to receive the newsletter, please contact

Saturday, June 21 The Men’s Ministry offers

Missy Sistrunk at 392-1163 or

home improvement for widows, widowers

msistrunk@asburytulsa.org. Preference is for

Email your July or August Milestone

and single moms within the Asbury family.

the email version, but hard copies can be

Ann iversary (5,10,15,20, etc.) to Carolyn

Volunteers make themselves available every

mailed if needed.

Schutte at brucetschutte@valornet.com or

other month to help folks out with minor home

call 392-1146.

repairs and/or home improvement projects.

News and prayer requests from our

Just pick up a request form at the South

missionaries and ministries are sent each

Welcome Desk, or call your request to Pam

week to our prayer ministry list. If you

Wallace at 392-1199, ext. 253 at least ten

would like to join and become a prayer

Come to a lunch/class to learn more about

days before the scheduled work day. A Home

intercessor for those serving around the

becoming a member of Asbury. Sunday, May 4

Improvement volunteer will contact you, and

world, contact Missy at 392-1163.

from 12:15-2:00 pm in CLC. Lunch provided and

make arrangements to get the job(s) done.

is suggested. Milestone Wedding Anniversaries

membership Asbury Exploration

missions/vim

childcare is available for children six weeks

Volunteers-In-Mission Opportunities

through 6th grade. Call 392-1191 to register.

missions/outreach

men

New Mission Books Are In

Men’s Prayer Breakfast

Pick up the newest mission books at the

Wednesdays, 6:30-7:30 am in the CLC.

Welcome Centers or come by the Missions

Attention men of Asbury. Make plans to join

office. Make sure to pick up two

us for a great time of meaningful worship,

books...one for Global Outreach and one

life-changing prayer and an awesome big

for Oklahoma Outreach (previously called

breakfast, all for just $3 per person. First-time

Regional Outreach).

guests are free. May 7

Global Outreach Dinner Pec Clark

May 14

Don Herrold

May 21

Todd Johnson

May 28

Bill Johnson

Car Care Saturdays May 17, 9:00 am - 12:00 pm. This every-

Wednesday, May 7 at 6:00 pm in the CLC. Come enjoy dinner and hearing about Asbury’s global mission efforts. Cost: $5. Contact Missy at 392-1163 for reservations by Wednesday, April 30. Eyeglass Donations

other-month workday is provided for

Are you wondering what to do with those

Asbury’s widows and single moms. While the

old eyeglasses? Donate them to missions!

ladies wait in the comfort of the cafe,

You may drop your glasses off in the Global Outreach office.

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Global Outreach Prayer Ministry

May 2 – 4

Cookson Hills, Oklahoma

Light Construction, $50 May 22 – June 4

Tanzania, East Africa

Work Team, $2500 June 12-23

Estonia

Lighthouse MBS & Construction, $2500 June 18-30

Tanzania, East Africa

Medical, $2700 June 26 – July 7

Estonia

Camp Gideon, Programs & Const., $2500 July 31 - August 10

Estonia, Parnu

MBS & Light Construction, $2500 Sept/October

Azerbaijan

Construction & Teaching, $2400 October 11-18

Monterrey, Mexico

MBS & Construction, $950 Fall

Cookson Hills, Oklahoma

Light Construction, $50

November 5-9

Monterrey, Mexico

National Day of Prayer Service & Vigil

Medical, $900 November 12-16

prayer

Rio Bravo, Mexico

Thursday, May 1. Service from 12:00 - 12:40

kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Matthew 19:13-14. Altar Prayer

pm and Vigil from 7:00 am - 7:00 pm in the

If you would like someone to pray with you

Mason Chapel and Prayer Room. “The Lord is

during Holy Communion or immediately

September 13, Enid

my strength and shield; my heart trusts in

following a worship service, please come to

October 25, Ada

Him and I am helped.” Psalm 28:7. The

the altar rail. A pastor or member of the Altar

All costs are approximate. For more about

National Day of Prayer is an annual

Prayer Team will be glad to pray with you for

these exciting mission opportunities, contact

observance held on the first Thursday of

your needs – physical, emotional or spiritual -

Marilene at 392-1164 or

May, inviting people of all faiths to pray for

at the altar or in the Prayer Room.

mlong@asburytulsa.org

the nation. It exists to communicate with

Men’s Construction, $600 VIM Leader Training

Prayer Room Reservations

every individual the need for personal

The leadership of Asbury’s prayer ministry

repentance and prayer, and to mobilize the

would like to remind you that the main facility

Christian community to intercede for

Prayer Room is open not only to individuals

America’s leaders and its families. Plan on

desiring to pray in a quiet, meditative

long music camp for kids entering 4th through

joining your church family and the community

atmosphere, but also to prayer groups within

7th grade. Registration forms are available in

on this special day, as we pray with

communities and ministries. Just give Debbie

the music office and will be taken Sundays,

conviction that God would continue to “shed

in the Adult Ministries office a call at 392-1177

May 4 and 11 from 8:00 - 10:30 am and

His grace on thee.” The prayer vigil will be

to reserve the Prayer Room for your group on

12:00-12:30 pm and Monday, May 5 -

held from 7:00 am - 7:00 pm in the Mason

a weekly or monthly basis.

Thursday May 8 from 10:00 am - 4:00 pm.

Chapel Prayer Room, and the prayer service

Limited number of spaces available.

will take place from 12:00 noon to 12:40 pm in

Our prayer rooms are accessible to you at

the Mason Chapel.

these times:

music SummerSong Registration

Chancel Choir Wednesdays, 7:00 pm, Choir Room New Covenant Orchestra Wednesdays, 6:00-7:30 pm, Rm 1510 Asbury Singing Ambassadors Tuesdays, 1:00 pm, Choir Room Celebration Ringers Tuesdays, 4:30-5:30 pm, Rm 2506 Asbury Ringers Wednesdays, 6:00-6:50 pm, Rm 2506 Perpetual Light Thursdays, 10:00 am-noon, Rm 2506 Asbury Power & Light Sundays, 8:15-9:15 am, Rm 1510 Saints of Swing Dixieland Band Thursdays, 2:00-3:00 pm, Rm 1510

VBS Prayer Vigil

Prayer Room Days & Times

Mason Chapel (during construction)

Monday, June 16 - Friday, June 20 in the

Sundays from 7:00 am - 12:30 pm through

Mason Chapel Prayer Room. (Monday: 3:00-9:00

the interior door.

pm and Tuesday - Friday (8:00 am - 1:00 pm.)

Main Facility

Make a difference in the lives of children.

Monday - Friday

Commit to one hour of prayer, on-site, while

Saturday

10:00 am - 3:00 pm

our children attend Vacation Bible School. It is

Sunday

12:30 pm - 9:00 pm

essential that we pray for our children during

recovery

VBS, considering many children make firsttime decisions for Christ while attending. Sign-up will take place on two Sundays, June 8 and 15, in the CLC Gallery from 8:00 am 12:15 pm. “The little children were brought to Jesus for Him to place His hands on them and pray for them.” Jesus said, “Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the

7:00 am - 9:00 pm

Celebrate Recovery Come join this supportive group of people each Monday night at 6:00 pm. Dinner at 6:00 pm; Worship from 7:00-8:00 pm; Small Groups from 8:00-9:00 pm; Dessert from 9:00-9:30 pm. Hiding any hurts, habits or hang-ups? God never intended for you to live in bondage.

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senior adults

gather at the church at 9;30 am and depart at

services are invited to join together for a

9:45 am. You will be treated to a piano

short time of fellowship. Look for the singles

Asbury has a unique group of volunteers

concert by Anne-Marie McDermott and a viola

signs in the southwest corner of the main

(Asbury Connection) who regularly visit

concert by Paul Neubauer. Also presented

foyer, and we’ll see you there!

people who are either homebound or in

will be a lecture by Matt Rose, a representa-

nursing homes. If you are interested in being

tive with “The Voice of the Martyrs.” We will

Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those

visited, call Ruth at 392-1146, or contact the

enjoy lunch at the Copper Restaurant in the

suffering from the early, highly emotional

coordinator, Abby Sluice at

Price Tower, returning to the church at

stages of divorce and separation trauma.

ozyanks2000@yahoo.com

approximately 3:00 pm.

Childcare available.

Visits to Asbury Members

Asbury Singing Ambassadors Choir

Senior Sit and Fit Stretching Class

Divorce Recovery

Divorce Rebuilding

Tuesdays from 1:00-2:30 pm in the Choir

Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from

Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For

Room upstairs through June 24. Come enjoy

9:00-9:30 am in the Gym. All senior adults are

those ready to rebuild their lives after

fun and fellowship with other senior adults

invited to join us for a time of stretching,

separation or divorce. Childcare available.

(60+). This awesome choir is made up of

coupled with lots of fun and fellowship. No

over 160 senior adults who sing on occasion

high impact workout here. We take it nice and

during Sunday morning worship services

easy. Come give it a try.

and on special occasions and holidays, as

Senior Walk in the Gym with Him

students Promotion Party May 18 from 5:30 - 7:00 pm in the Student

well as out in our community. No experience

Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from

Ministry Area. Don’t miss this awesome night

necessary...just show up and sing!

8:30-9:00 am in the gym. All senior adults are

to welcome our new 7th grade students to

‘Tweenagers Program and Luncheon

invited to join us for power walking, coupled with

the 7th, 8th & 9th grade Student Ministries

Everyone aged 55 and up is welcome to join

lots of fun and fellowship. Come give it a try.

family. It’s gonna rock! Guys bring something

us for our monthly Tweenagers meeting & luncheon, Thursday, May 22 from 10:30 am. to 1:00 p.m. in the CLC. Our program will be

salty; girls bring something sweet. Everyone

singles ASM Memorial Day Picnic

bring $1. 7th, 8th & 9th Food Bank

presented by Rev. Jessica Moffatt-Seay,

Monday, May 26 from 3:00 - 7:00 pm at

May 31 from 8:30 am - 12:30 pm. Don’t miss

Senior Pastor at First UMC in Bixby. Rev.

Haikey Creek Park Tri-Plex. Join us for our

this opportunity to step out and serve Tulsa

Moffatt-Seay will perform a monologue

annual Memorial Day Picnic. Bringyour lawn

like Jesus teaches! We will fill a school bus

presentation entitled, “Meet Susanna Wesley.”

chair, sunscreen, and favorite family-sized

with about 50 students and head to the Food

Music will be presented by a mystery duo!

dish, dessert or drinks to share with the

Bank, change lives, and feed the hungry

You don’t want to miss this program. Don’t

group. Hamburgers and hotdogs will be

through service. Pay attention Sunday

forget to invite your friends. Call the church

provided by the ministry. And your children of

morning to sign up and get more details or

office at 492-1771 to make your reservations

all ages are welcome!

just show up in the Breakaway Area.

BY NOON, Monday, May 19. If, during that

Singles Ministry Potluck Luncheon

week, you find you need to cancel, please

Sunday, June 22 from 12:00 - 2:00 pm in the

Join us every month on the second Tuesday

call the office, as we need to give an

Parlor. Come, bring your children and enjoy a

in the Student Ministry Area from 7:00-8:00ish

accurate count to the cooks. Should you

delicious lunch, courtesy of your fellow

pm for a time to be still, pray and seek God.

choose, you can make a donation for the

singles. Just bring a “family-sized” food item,

Everyone is welcome.

meal when you check in that morning. Come

homemade or purchased. Great food, great

join us for fun and fellowship!

fellowship, new friends. It just doesn’t get

Wednesday, May 7. Come join students from

much better than that.

all over the city in a night to just worship

Senior Adult OK Mozart Trip Wednesday, June 18. Make plans now to join

Singles Meet and Greet

Student-Led Prayer Service

7th - 12th Metro Worship

Jesus. We meet the first Wednesday night

us as we travel to Bartlesville to enjoy an

Sunday mornings from 10:20-10:50. All

of every month from 7:00-8:30ish. If you

afternoon of culture and inspiration. We will

singles out from communities or worship

need a ride, meet at the church by 6:30 pm;

29 Asbury Tidings

Phone Buddies

we will be back by 9:00 pm. Or you can just

guest speaker. The 1008-2010 Circle Leaders

meet us over at Believers Church, 47th and

will also be installed. A delicious luncheon

Ladies, would like a “cheer me up” with your

Memorial. Questions? Call Todd at 392-1154.

prepared by Virginia will be provided for just

morning coffee? We have dedicated, caring

7th, 8th & 9th Grade Breakaway

$6 per person. Our scripture emphasis for

women who would love to meet that need in

Sunday mornings, 9:15-10:30 am in the

this month is Luke 18:16: “But Jesus called

your life by being your very own “phone

Breakaway Area. This isn’t your normal

the children to him and said, ‘Let the little

buddy.” Call Shirley Martin and she’ll connect

Sunday school. Come join us for worship, fun

children come to me, and do not hinder them,

you with a loving volunteer.

and games, interactive talk/lesson, and

for the kingdom of God belongs to such as

sometimes free candy and gift cards.

these.’” Bring a friend, and be a part of the

Mondays, 9:30 am - 2:00 pm, Rm 2820. We

blessing.

gather to work on our own individual arts and

Called to Ministry - 10th, 11th, 12th Is God speaking to you, leading you...okay,

Car Care Saturdays

Crafty Ladies Fellowship

crafts, stop for a delicious potluck lunch, and

maybe CALLING you into a future vocational

May 17, 9:00 am - 12:00 pm. This every-

continue on through until 2:00 pm. We would

ministry? You may not know what that looks

other-month workday is provided for

love to have you join us. For more contact

like; you just know that God is stirring

Asbury’s widows and single moms. While

Beverly Clarke and stop by some Monday!

something in you. Join us every month on the

the ladies wait in the comfort of the cafe,

SECOND SUNDAY from 12:30-2:00 pm in the

volunteers check tires, belts, fluids, filters

Student Ministry Area for lunch and to talk

and batteries. They also vacuum and wash

about what this means for you. This is for

the vehicles, then update owners on what’s

Mason Chapel. Traditional service.

10th, 11th and 12th graders. RSVP to Amy at

running smoothly and what needs

Communion is served and Dr. Harrison

392-1156 the Thursday before.oi an

professional attention. This free service

preaches.

worship 8:00 am Communion Service

10th, 11th & 12th Grade Small Groups

gives our men the opportunity to put their

These groups meet Sunday nights. Times and

faith into action through loving and serving

Sanctuary. Music, time of prayer and the

places vary. Contact Todd at 392-1154 or

those in need. No reservations required; just

message will all carry a prevailing theme for

Amy at 392-1156 to get plugged in.

get your vehicle in line by 11:30 am.

the morning. Dr. Harrison preaches.

10th, 11th & 12th Breakaway

Home Improvement Work Days

9:15 am Contemporary Praise & Worship

9:15 am Open House Worship

Join us Wednesdays May 14, 21 and 28,

Saturday, June 19. The Men’s Ministry offers

Community Life Center. A relaxed atmosphere

6:30-8:30ish pm in the Student Ministry Cafe

home improvement for widows, widowers

with engaging worship. Dr. Tom Harrison’s

for a time of connection and worship. Our

and single moms within the Asbury family.

message is simulcast with an occasional live

desire is to explore who God really is and

Volunteers make themselves available every

sermon from another pastor.

how our lives matter to Him. We get started

other month to help folks out with minor home

around 6:30 and wrap up around 8:30ish.

repairs and/or home improvement projects.

Sanctuary. The Chancel Choir and the Asbury

Plan on hanging out afterwards for pizza.

Just pick up a request form at the South

Orchestra and Concert Band offer a variety

Welcome Desk, or call your request to Pam

of styles of music. Sign interpreters for the

Wallace at 392-1199, ext. 253 at least ten days

deaf are offered. Dr. Tom Harrison preaches.

women UMW May Luncheon

before the scheduled work day. A Home

11:00 am Traditional Service

11:00 am Modern Service

Thursday, May 1 from 11:30 am - 1:00 pm in

Improvement volunteer will contact you, and

Mason Chapel. Rich blend of ancient and

the CLC. Attention ladies! The program

make arrangements to get the job(s) done.

modern worship, led by the worship band. Dr.

planned for May’s luncheon will be UMW’s

Women of the Word

annual Asbury “Salute to Walt Whitman

Wednesdays from 10:00-11:00 am in Rm

Elementary.” This wonderful “partners in

2319. Rev. Darlene Johnson, teacher.

education” event will feature Barbie Paige as

Tom Harrison’s message is simulcast. Thursday Night Simply Worship 6:45-7:45 pm in the Community LIfe Center Mid-week gathering with contemporary praise songs and hymns with a message from Spencer Smith.

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welcome to asbury... we’re glad you’re here!

Marilyn Hazel Jenna Sannito

J.B. and Barbara Barrett Brett and Kristi Richison and Tyler

Kelly Pinson Ted and Ginger Haws

Nancy Auer

Carol Borgmann

Chris and Buffy Ebright, Sarah and Jake

Patricia Nash-Williams Robert and Heather Sher If you are interested in learning more about who we are, plan to attend one of the Exploration classes designed to tell you more about Asbury and what we believe. Choose from one of the upcoming Sunday membership classes: Bonnie Benton

Rebecca Gage, Daphne Salter and Connor Gage 31 Asbury Tidings

Joanne Beckman

Sunday membership classes: May 4, 2008 Jun 1, 2008 Aug 3, 2008 Sept 7, 2008 Oct 5, 2008 Nov 2, 2008 Dec 7, 2008 Classes are from 12:15 – 2:00 pm Call 392-1191 to reserve you place. Childcare is available and lunch is included.

we rejoice... with those who have experienced the

we appreciate... messages from the congregation

This is the first time we’ve visited your church and the first time we have ever visited a Methodist church in over forty years of marriage. Wow! What people and place. Thank you for having so many people at the front door to greet us and be so friendly. We felt immediately that we were welcome and among friends. Wow! The first thing I noticed in your bulletin were the worlds, “How can we serve you? What a statement and the first thing you said to us. Thank you for letting us come among Godly people and join you in worship of God.

We would like to acknowledge all of those who have been a blessing to the Asbury Library. In 2007 alone, 2,226 books were donated, along with 107 cassette tapes, 60 videos, 72 CDs and 38 DVDs. The Asbury Library is limited in space and we have been able to donate some of our books, etc. to the following places: Restore Hope Ministries, Abiding Harvest United Methodist Church, Prison Ministry, Woodland Hills Retirement Center, Southern Hils Retirement Center, Brighton Gardens, Town Village Retirement Center, Asbury’s UMW Garage Sale, Women’s Prison Ministry, Ambassadors Retirement Center, and to our servicemen and women oversas. We’re pleased to be able to offer this outreach to others. Thank you to the following Asburians who have donated their time to work in our Library as well as to deliver books and tapes: Lena Greer, Otis Osborn, Edna Willmann, Winnie King, Jerry Oxley, Naomi Mitchell, Jerry Greer, Jo VanDewielle, Harry Kincaid, Perry Mitchell, Giles Gere and Debbie Wallis.

I am writing to say “thank you” for everything the church has done for my daughter, Lauren. She is a senior and went to Gautemala for the last time as a student. I know her missionary work will not end for years to come. Lauren is a true blessing. She embodies everything that I believe a good Christian should be. I have called her my “little Mother Teresa.” I am constantly humbled by her sweet spirit. Now why am I thanking the church? I would like to say that her personality is completely derived by her parents and family, but that would not be entirely true. The church has played such a huge part in her life. I have been one of the nay-sayers about the size of the church, but no one could deny the impact Asbury has had on Lauren. Asbury has always figured out a way to get Lauren involved, starting from Sunday School, choir, and later small groups and mission trips that she started in 8th grade. We have been blessed that Lauren has had such wonderful people (Dick Read, Mark Fowler, Todd Peterson, Tom and all the incredible volunteers). My oldest daughter, Ashley, was married at Asbury and my grandson, Jackson, will be baptized at Asbury. We are so excited for the two and three year area to be complete for Jackson to be able to go there, too. I know that Asbury will be everything to him as it has been for Lauren. Lauren will be off to college in the fall. She will carry her gentle spirit with her that the Asbury family so lovelingly nurtured. So once again, thank you for your size, what you offer, and the impace you make on people. No longer a nay-sayer, but a proud and blessed parent, Lori Christopoulos

joy of welcoming a new baby:

Benjamin Oliver Yang son of Jason and Emily Yang grandson of Mac and Melissa Stallcup and Johann and Susan Yang February 28, 2008 Rhett Hummel Wilson son of Marc and Victoria Wilson brother of Cole, Trace and Norah February 27, 2008 Kellen Wren Disney daughter of Brandon and Andrea Disney sister of Cole and Ethan granddaughter of Ed Disney niece of Emilie and Sara Disney March 12, 2008 Addison Kate Greer daughter of Jon and Sheri Greer grandson of Jerry and Joy Greer great-grandson of Lena Geer March 12, 2008 Siena Page Graham daughter of Scott and Meighan Graham sister of Caroline and Madison March 20,2008 Emily Reagan Kiker daughter of Brian and Tiffany Kifer sister of Kate March 24,2008

thank you... It has been a great honor and privilege to have had a part in telling stories of lives being transformed by the power of Jesus Christ. We will miss the interaction we’ve enjoyed with the Asbury family through the Tidings and other publications. Thank you for being such a gracious and receptive readership. May God continue to be glorified. Jan, Sandy, Juli, Lina and Lisa Asbury Tidings

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we celebrate... the anniversary of:

we remember... and celebrate the lives of:

Frances Ballone February 22, 2008 Cindy Hidy daughter of Beatrice Hidy March 10, 2008

Gordon and Lois Vetal 55 Years May 2, 1953

Glenn and Norma Hogg 55 Years May 31, 1953

Gene Treadwell wife of Bob Treadwell March 19, 2008 Scotty McElroy husband of Jeannie March 21, 2008 Alice Laster wife of Ben Laster March 31, 2008 Glenn Tucker husband of Holly Tucker father of Megan Haddock grandfather of Holt Haddock March 31, 2008

Abe and Evelyn Brentlinger 65 Years May 10, 1943 Debert and Nell Pool 60 Years May 20, 1948 Don and Betty Kent 55 Years May 20, 1953

Charles Hart husband of Nettie Hart April 4, 2008

Bill and Shirley Curry 55 Years May 30, 1953

Larry and Judy Lairmore 50 Years May 29, 1958

Report your Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) to Carolyn Schutte at brucetschutte@valornet.com or call 392-1146

John and Beverly Baker 55 Years May 31, 1953

Walt and Marion Neary 55 Years June 10, 2008