Asbury Tidings - Lessons Learned in Childhood

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This Month at Asbury

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Notes from the Journey

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Regional Outreach

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Global Outreach

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Evangelism

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Women

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Support

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Childhood Remembrance

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Children

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Student s

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Prayer

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Senior Adults

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Pastors’ Childhood Lessons

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Singles

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Lesson from a Child

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Care

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Music

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Marriage

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Men

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Asbury Heritage

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Communities

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Calendar

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New Members

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Family Room

Lessons Le arne d from Childhood The Tidings is published monthly to convey the message of transformed lives through Jesus Christ and to inform Asbury family and friends of the many opportunities made available through the ministries of Asbury United Methodist Church.

All photos by Lisa Dunham unless otherwise noted.

Cover design: Sandy Wagner

On the cover....

“Whe n you go out into the world, w a t c h out for tra ffi c , hold ha nds, a nd sti c k togther togther..”

- “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergar ten”

Barbie Paige, Tulsa Public School’s Site Volunteer of the Year and Asbury member, learned this lesson well when she attended kindergarten at Lee Elementary in Tulsa. Kindergarten rolled around in her life again a number of years later.

When Barbie and Dee’s oldest son, David entered kindergarten she went back to school too.

She has volunteered at five Tulsa Public Schools, moving from place to place with her children.

Sons David and Kyle are TPS graduates and daughter Annie will be at Booker T. Washington this fall.

During the past 17 years, Barbie has served in every PTA office possible and has chaperoned, test monitored and fund raised as the need arose.

In 2003, she took lessons learned at her own children’s schools to another level. She had seen a Title I school “adopted” by a church where wonderful things were happening. (Schools are designated Title I if 57% or more of their families live at or below the poverty level.) Barbie felt called to do this type of work. “I realized I had been preparing for an opportunity like this for a long time.” Barbie had the skills, the confidence and the know-how to do the work. Then she felt a nudge, “So why don’t you go ahead and do this?”

Hand-in-hand with her Mom, also a dedicated neighborhood schools volunteer, she went to find a school where the needs were greater. They looked for a school that didn’t already have a wealth of volunteers and found Walt Whitman located at 3924 N. Lansing. Thus was born “A & W”, the Asbury/Walt Whitman collaboration that just completed its first full school year.

Over 100 Asburians served this ministry in a variety of ways. Starting out with weekly on-site math and reading tutoring, it was soon apparent to Barbie that there were many other areas where God’s love could be shared. Asbury members, circles, and K groups eagerly stepped up to the task and made an impact on Whitman students, staff and parents.

Barbie has coordinated, encouraged and spent hands-on time both at her daughter’s school Carver and at Whitman. It is easy to see why she was named Volunteer of the Year for all Tulsa Public Schools. Barbie says, “ It takes a whole lot of people working together. It’s not me. They all deserve recognition.” But she admits she is glad for the nudge she got to expand her volunteer work and the opportunity given her to be obedient to God’s calling.

- Liz Reece

Lessons Learned From Childhood 1.) I learned that kindergarten is one of the most wonderful experiences of life. I also learned that 1st Grade is a “bait and switch.”

Dr. Tom Harrison The kindergarten Senior Pastor games and fun are replaced by all day WORK in “reading, ‘riting, and ‘rithmetic.”

2.) I learned to do my homework FIRST as soon as I came through the door after school, and then I could go play without the homework cloud hanging over me.

3.) I learned it was wise to get along with both classmates and teachers. Both had ways to either help you or get back at you if you didn’t treat them with respect.

4.) I learned that if I ran in shorts I could run a lot faster than if I ran in long-legged jeans. (It’s best to remove obstacles in life rather than allow them to slow us down.)

5.) I learned the value of reading books. I loved reading sports books, and books on history, biography and World War II. (Some things never change!)

6.) I learned that the reason people act like bullies is probably because they aren’t getting much love at home. Since they don’t feel good about themselves they try to feel good at someone else’s expense.

7.) I learned that there are people a lot poorer and a lot richer than I am.

8.) I learned that the elementary school principal really didn’t have an “electric” paddling machine in his office (think of the fear that it caused us--it was “electric!”--think how horrible that could be!). But I don’t think I really believed the rumor wasn’t true until I was in Jr. High school.

9.) I learned that if you sit in the back you can “hide” from the teacher. I also learned that when I sat in the front I was a better student and made better

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grades. Hiding reduced both my responsibilities and my growth.

10.) I learned that it helped to have an older sister who went ahead of me who bore the brunt of being the “oldest child” and paved the way for me to follow in her steps.

11.) I learned that music and art weren’t in my skill sets. Neither were math and science. Even if some of my teachers were disappointed that I didn’t have the intellectual capacity of my older sister, Kathy, they knew not every student is going to be a National

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Merit Scholarship winner.

12.) I learned that there’s a lot more learning that happens outside the schoolroom than inside it.

13.) I learned that school doesn’t last forever. We had summer reprieves, and after 12 years of getting a high school degree, 120 hours of college, 90 hours of seminary, and another 3 years in a doctoral program, it really doesn’t last forever….it just seems that way at the time!

See you Sunday!

Financial Peace University I’ve been asked, “What is the defintion of financial peace?”

Let me answer that with some questions: Are you already worrying about how you are going to pay for this year’s school supplies, clothes, etc.?

Are you still praying credit card bills on last year’s holiday season?

Are those pleasant vacation memories becoming financial worries?

Do you have a college fund in place for your kids?

Do you have a plan for getting out of debt or does it seem hopeless?

Do you know how to make practical choices regarding insurance and investment options?

Financial Peace University Sunday, August 7th (FPU) is not a quick 6:30 pm, Room 2820 fix for financial worHow you answer these ries. It is a 13-week questions is a good indicaSunday, August 14th program which retor of where you are on the 6:30 pm, Room 2820 quires real commitfinancial peace spectrum.

Wednesday, August 10th ment. The program Married or single, kids or no 6:30 pm, Room 2820 developer, Dave kids, financial problems can devastate your life. Proverbs Classes Start August 24 Ramsey, shares his personal experience 22:7 teaches us that, “The 6:30-8:30 pm, Room 2820 and how God used borrower is servant to the Childcare Available. that time to teach lender.” Did you know that For more information, him about financial there are 800 references in contact Nancy at 392-1124 management. This the Bible to money? God or AsburyFPU@yahoo.com class teaches you wants us to properly manage money managethe resources (money) He’s given us. The way we do it is an indica- ment basics. FPU can give you hope and tion of our heart. “For where your trea- provide a solid plan to walk you from the financial bondage of debt into true finansure is, there your heart is also.”

Luke 12:34. cial peace.

Orientations:

Creating for the Creator Once again this year Cathy Ambrose encouraged children (first through sixth grades) to develop God’s gift of creativity. In the annual summer offering, “Creating for the Creator,” students learned various techniques in drawing, such as shading, perspective, and drawing in proportion. Each session included a Bible lesson, a video presentation, and a small group discussion, as well as a concentrated art lesson.

Cathy’s desire each year is that students will cultivate a personal walk with the Lord as they use their art to express the wonder and beauty of God’s creation. No doubt these childhood lessons are seeds planted on fertile soil.

Some samples of their work may be found on the bulletin board of this month’s Tidings cover.

Creating for the Creator teacher, Cathy Ambrose, with a few of her budding artists.

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Play Fair.

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Not es from the Journey This I Know

by Lisa Tresch

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hildhood memories can be odd and unpredictable. I can’t remember the name of my best friend in second grade, but I can remember a custodian tying a rag around his mouth and nose when he sprinkled sawdust on the floor after a kid threw up. A random memory.

Unimportant. Or maybe not.

I remember the kid’s name was Ben, and he whispered to himself when he colored, and no one ever played tetherball with him because he was too tall and had a temper. These are things that can be socially lethal in the kid world. No one wants to play tetherball with a kid who throws a tantrum when he loses. I tucked this lesson away carefully, along with other lessons Ben taught me: don’t talk to yourself; try not to look too different; and never throw up in class. I can’t remember what I got for Christmas my second grade year, but I remember the smell of rancid sawdust and the way certain kids, including Ben, ended up alone on the playground.

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By that time in my childhood, I had learned the song “Jesus Loves the Little Children.” All the children of the world. Red and yellow, black and white. They are precious in His sight.

Precious.

Over the years, I knew quite a few children like Ben. The odd kid out on the playground. The kid who had been dealt a tough hand when it came to fitting in. At times, I was that child-a tomboy with a penchant for Matchbox cars, dirt piles and cowboy boots.

As a teenager I worked hard to leave all my quirks behind, because fitting in and being accepted was the lesson that had been working on me since those days of watching Ben and all the other misfits on the playground.

Perhaps that is why we teach our children so early that simple truth with repetitive force: Jesus Loves the Little Children. Jesus Loves Me. The world of childhood can be cruel. Mixed in with the sweet memories are the painful ones--the ones that reinforced the idea that in the scheme

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Don’t hit p eople.

of things, fitting in is of ultimate importance. We long to be accepted.

We keep looking for that acceptance, and trying to refashion ourselves to assure that someone will give us the thumbs up. Meanwhile, the song continues: Jesus Loves the Little Children. Jesus Loves Me. Sometimes it takes a while to learn this lesson. Despite all the Sunday school flannel board lessons— the ones where the fluffy sheep is being hunted down by the loving shepherd with the outstretched hand—and the songs, and the Bible verses, it has taken me quite a while to begin to fathom the depth of God’s love. Sometimes I’m more like my second grade self; paying attention to the wrong lessons and forgetting that despite my missteps and imperfections, I am loved without measure and eternally accepted. So are the Bens of the world.

The lesson keeps repeating itself.

It is simple, yet startlingly profound.

Jesus loves the little children. Jesus loves Me. And you. This I know.

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youth at heart

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ecause it’s my gift.” This was Frances Jamieson’s reply when asked why she started tutoring Destination Discovery kids around 20 years ago.

She says a few of these inner city kids who grew up in housing projects and low-income apartment complexes have gone on to receive college scholarships. Some of them attribute their success partly to the support they received from the tutoring and recreational programs.

Destination Discovery was started at Asbury 29 years ago by former assistant pastor, Joe Harris, and Pastor Bill Mason. In 2003, it joined with a similar church-based ministry, Helping Hands, that provided after-school and summer recreational activities. Their new name became Youth at Heart. Many churches are now involved in both the tutoring and the recreational programs.

Also an adjunct teacher of math at Tulsa Community College, Frances is the coordinator of the Asbury tutoring program for Youth at Heart.

They meet with the kids during the school year each Monday afternoon from 4:00-5:30 p.m. There is one tutor per child. The men who volunteer are

paired with boys, the women with girls.

The tutor works with the same child the whole school year so a bond will be formed.

Some of the tutors, namely Darlene Mann and Hazel Clayton, have been with the program since the beginning. Darlene was coordinator when the program started and for many years thereafter. She handed over the reins to Frances several years ago. Many of the tutors return year after year--an indication of blessings received.

The kids have a snack upon arrival and then pair up with their tutor who often helps them with their homework. If the child doesn’t have homework, there are other resources available to the tutor which will enrich the child’s learning. The tutor is free to give spiritual as well as educational help. These little ones are mostly from disadvantaged homes or are being raised by a grandparent. Often they are in need of encouragement since they see a good deal of hardship around them.

About 40 Youth at Heart kids attended Asbury’s Vacation Bible School. A few of the older kids were sponsored by Asbury to participate in

our Youth in Missions program at Spring Break.

There is no doubt that these special children will remember these important lessons learned in their childhood--the comfort of being in a safe environment after school, being helped and encouraged by a caring adult who was there for them every week. Every Monday before leaving, the children join in saying The Lord’s Prayer. Seeds have been planted and watered in these young children. We pray these memories will help guide their lives.

Last school year we had 16-20 tutors. Frances doesn’t know how many she will need until she finds out how many children are assigned to Asbury. If the call goes out this fall that more tutors are needed, pray about investing a few hours of your Monday afternoons to a needy child. If you’d like more information about this ministry, call Beth at 392-1116.

-Marty McBroom

…Always giv e yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, b e c ause you know tha t your la bor in the Lord is not in vain. . . I Corinthians 15:58

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Put things b a ck where you found them.

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milee Hudson memorized 66 Bible verses last year and she hasn’t learned to read yet! Emilee will be in first grade this fall. Lynette Hudson, Emilee’s mom, grew up in a Christian family overseas and spent five of those years in Egypt. It was as natural as breathing for Lynette to talk to her three children about the world and God’s love for all people. Their shower curtain even has a world map on it and has been a catalyst for conversations about children growing up in many different cultures—some without opportunities to hear about God’s love for them.

Lynette also has a passion for teaching her children God’s word and so she has used Awana, a wonderful memory verse program, with them from infancy. She said that one of the important lessons in this program is to pray for a missionary. Emilee didn’t know what a missionary was and Lynette explained the concept as well

as she could. As new members of Asbury, they were looking for opportunities to serve together as a family and decided to adopt a missionary. She said that Emilee, the oldest of her children, has always led with her heart.

Emilee pledged to give one dollar per week to missions.

Mary Ann Smith, Director of Missions, called Lynette in response to her offer and recommended they adopt Jana Cunningham, who was preparing to go to a sensitive area in the Middle East. “Mary Ann made a world of difference,” said Lynette. “She spotted Emilee one Sunday morning and talked to her about the difference she was making. She told her that she saw her envelope each week and was directing her gifts specifically to Jana.

A week before Jana left for the mission field, Mary Ann set up a luncheon so that Emilee and her cousin Ashlee could meet Jana. Emilee really picked up on Jana’s heart for God and for the

lost. Now, when Emilee prays each night, she asks God, ‘Help me to be more like Jana so I can tell others about Jesus.’”

What a powerful prayer for a six year old.

Cousin Ashlee’s mother, Cheryl, said that Ashlee is a very perceptive little girl—constantly pointing out children who seem to be unhappy or in need. She takes her commitment to Jana and missions very seriously, to the extent that she is upset if she forgets her envelope for the offering plate. Their family also prays nightly not only for Jana, but also for children around the world in different countries and circumstances. If her mother forgets, Ashlee reminds her. Ashlee is constantly looking for opportunities to earn money so that she has more to share with missions.

Meanwhile, the Hudson and Steffan families have both adopted Jana and they exchange emails with her regularly as they continue to pray daily for her needs. Lynette, having lived in the Middle East, has a unique understanding of Jana’s cultural adjustments, health care, loneliness and challenges.

The children have helped their parents serve meals to the homeless here in Tulsa, so they aren’t limiting their understanding of missions to overseas.

“These experiences are building a heart in my children,” Lynette said. “Don’t tell me even a two-year old can’t get it— because they can!”

Only God knows the rest of this story!

-Donna Miller Emilee Hudson and Ashlee Steffen.

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Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Cle an up your own mess.

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lebanese proverb know how brothers and sisters should interact? It was God teaching me.”

Chuck and Beth became very active at Asbury. They enjoyed working in their community and in the Couple to Couple ministry primarily with couples getting married for the second time and blending families.

Beth’s life was “perfect” until the day in 2001 that Chuck was diagnosed with colon cancer. When the surgeons went in to remove the cancer, they found that it had spread to Chuck’s liver. Chuck’s failing health, painful and difficult as it was, gave the family an opportunity to experience God’s grace and to marvel at His faithfulness.

“The whole time Chuck was sick, God provided us with all of the people that we needed, even before I knew we needed them.” The members of Faithbuilders stepped up to the plate time after time. They stayed overnight with Chuck at the hospital, took Beth out to dinner, helped Beth and Chuck at home when family members could not be present.

“After Chuck died in 2003, I can remember reading Jeremiah 29:11: ‘For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you, not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” Beth

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he Lord throws you—with one hand—but, He always catches you with the other.” This is how her father described life with God to his young daughter, Beth.

Years later, as an adult, Beth Dennis began to understand by experience the truth of this curious bit of Lebanese wisdom. Divorced and raising a daughter of her own, Beth was working at Rockwell, when she met Chuck Dennis, CPA. She recalls: “They transferred me in to be Chuck’s secretary. You talk about God’s plan for your life! We worked one floor from each other for six years and never met until after we were both divorced.”

After an eight-month courtship, they married and began the work of combining their families. After a couple of weeks of everyone getting along perfectly, the kids experienced their first sibling fight. It was then that Beth knew that they were truly becoming a family.

When their youngest child was born some eight years later, Beth says that he really tied the family together, because he was related to everybody.

“That was the first time I was ever totally aware of God working in my life, because, I’m an only child. How would I

had never heard or read those words of scripture before. Now, they became her anchor of hope. “I realized that even though I was no longer anybody’s wife, and my kids didn’t need me to be their mother, and I had given up all the titles that you have when you’re working— God still had a plan for my life. He still had a purpose for me.”

Last year she hosted a “40 days of Purpose” group in her home. She had recently run into an old friend, Dwayne Gregory, at a high school reunion. An ordained pastor serving the BSU at the Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs, Dwayne was organizing a mission trip to Belarus for the Academy students. He invited Beth to chaperone the female cadets.

Always ready for a challenge, she was excited for the opportunity. The group traveled to Orsah, Belarus to work with college students and to Vitsebsk where they taught conversational English. For their curriculum, they used The Purpose Driven Life.

“Talk about God preparing you!

“Dwayne called me aside one evening and asked, ‘Would you consider speaking in one of the services?

People in Belarus don’t believe that Americans ever have any problems. I’d like you to tell Chuck’s story.’” Beth reflects, “God had prepared me all the way, because I could tie it in with the Purpose Driven Life.”

Beth told her Belarus audience: “I’m here to tell you that God loves you, that Jesus wants to have a personal relationship with you, and he has a purpose for your life, just like He does for mine.”

What tomorrow holds for Beth is yet to be seen, but she has confidence that God will catch her and she will be safe in His everlasting arms.

-Lea Spencer

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Don’t t ake things tha t aren’t yours.

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t’s like being with Miss America, says Janet Thomas’ daughter, Darcie Taggart, when she rides in the car that was awarded to her mother who was named Teacher of the Year for Tulsa Public Schools (TPS). With a beautiful and contagious smile, Asburian Janet Thomas, an American History teacher at Carver Middle School for 11 years, exclaims, “I absolutely love what I do.”

Janet credits her mother, Marilyn Heath, for giving her what it takes to be successful in the classroom and laughingly recalls, “One particular lesson that serves me well in many circumstances and continues to influence how I handle life came about when I was in the fourth grade and with my family on a vacation trip in Colorado. We had gotten lost while hiking on the side of a mountain and it began to rain. We started down the mountain with three kids in the middle of mom and dad. My dad was leading the way when we found a deserted cabin and

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built a fire. All of the kids were crying yet my mother was laughing. I said, ‘Mama, why are you laughing?’ ‘Well, Janet Ann,’ Mama said, ‘in some situations you can either laugh or cry, and I choose to laugh.’

“My mom is a very positive person with great enthusiasm for life, and I have learned that a sense of humor gives me the balance to deal with the demands and challenges of teaching.”

Both grandmothers have also influenced Janet’s life. Grandmother, Mae Vassar, was a one-room school teacher and Janet knows without a doubt that her grandmother has told everyone in heaven that her granddaughter is Teacher of the Year.

Grandmother, Gladys Heath, a banker, “thought every little thing that I did was absolutely fantastic, and she called everyone she knew about everything I did.”

In addition to the positive role models, love, and attention from her

family, Janet explained that “both grandparents and parents took me to church since I was a baby and I grew up in church.” She is convinced that she is “doing what God wants me to do with my life. He walked me right into my job and TPS Principal Leader Bobbie Booker took a chance on me.”

Before her teaching career at Carver, Janet worked as Kindergarten Playtime Teacher at Asbury for four years and Pre-School Director at First Presbyterian for five years. She is married to Les Thomas who plays guitar at the 9:15 a.m. worship service.

The couple has three children, Darcie, Tricia, and Mike, and four grandchildren, Caden, Halle, Kale, and Jake.

With three children and four grandchildren and as a classroom teacher, “I am committed to maintaining my sense of humor and enthusiasm at home and at school to be the best teacher I can be.

-Judy Johnson

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Say you’re sorry when you hurt some body.

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herry Vanscoyoc loves to chronicle the youthful wit and endearing sayings from her grandchildren, Alex, nine and Samuel, five. She takes loads of candid photographs and records their poignant sayings for use in the memory books she assembles. She loves to do this so much that she has put the instructions into a soon-to-be-published “how-to” book entitled, “It’s All About Kids.”

She’s excited that her book is being published, but most thrilled that perhaps, with her help, others can enjoy the fruits of her labors and lessons learned along the way.

Memories. Sherry cherishes many of her own childhood recollections. She learned that it didn’t take money or material possessions to be happy. She relates, “I knew my parents loved me. We had ‘sing-a-longs’ in the park, family picnics, Sunday afternoon drives and we especially loved listening to radio programs like ‘Fibber McGee and Molly,’ and ‘Amos and Andy.’

She continued, “I also learned

that I couldn’t have everything I wanted, but received everything I needed. I was taught how to be frugal with money and how important it was to tithe the penny from my ten cent allowance. Since then, I’ve always tried to practice tithing and the Lord has more than blessed our family.”

Sherry had many positive memories from her childhood. Unfortunately, not all were pleasant. At a very young age she endured a traumatic event, an experience that had an impact on her life and how she thought. It also caused some fear and distrust in her young, tender heart.

This was a secret she carried within, never bringing it to light or sharing it with others.

At an Alpha overnight a few years back she discovered a safe place to share this painful experience with a small group of women. This was a first step toward

lasting freedom. Following Alpha, Sherry joined a Bible study and when Celebrate Recovery started she recognized it as a place where she in turn could help other hurting women.

“Was I ever surprised,” she said.

“I’ve been the one who has benefited and continued my healing from those childhood wounds.”

Sherry is helping others through her volunteer work in Celebrate Recovery. She has been a participant in the 12-Step study, has been cofacilitator in another and soon will begin her third. In addition, she is teacher/facilitator in the Women of Faith community on Sundays. She finds that even there she utilizes her rich experiences and growth received through participation in CR. “Early in childhood, I learned that I couldn’t trust everyone,” concluded Sherry. “But, I also learned that Jesus loves me no matter what and I can trust Him! He is always with me every step of the way to love, comfort, guide, teach, heal and forgive. He is my happiness and joy!”

Sherry adds this wisdom from Rick Warren, “God never wastes a hurt!”

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Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Wash your hands b e fore you e a t.

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By Liz Reece ne of my most cherhave learned that you and I are among ished childhood memothe luckiest people on earth. Even at ries is about something our hungriest, we have not experiI had begged and pleaded to receive. I enced the hunger of many Koreans; was 12 years old and my hero, my even at our dirtiest, we have not been so well acquainted with filth as older brother, was serving in Korea. the children of Seoul.

What I wanted most was a letter from But above the material him addressed just to me. He made advantages you have are the my wish come true as he so often did supreme advantages of being free and sent me words to live by. and being loved. Too many people here are denied these; they have lost Korea -15 May ‘55 their families who cared for them, they Dear Elizabeth, must be hospitable to inhospitable You asked me to write a letter to you strangers who, by necessity, restrict and personally, so here it is.

I believe it takes something like control them.You know none of this.

You are secure, cared for, you are free Korea to make an American, such as to walk anywhere you please without myself, realize how fortunate he has having a permit or being accompanied been in his life. I had never thought by a soldier. until now that simply being born in Liz, you are graced to be living Oklahoma City and being raised on th where you are. But because you have 38 Street in a decent American had so many advantages there is environment could be a privilege; occasionally a tendency in children once, I had believed such to be only such as yourself to feel themselves my natural right and heritage. But if better than others. You must know you had ever seen the people of that you are not better than the Korea, especially the children who are children of Seoul, only more fortunate. starving, who sleep in the dust beside You are not the favorite, but you are the naked remnants of a wall, who are the favored. Wars begin because forced to make their living begging from G.I.’s, you could not help but feel people not only take their privileges for granted but also because they feel yourself extraordinarily rare among the they deserve these privileges and peoples of this world, and you would others do not. There are just as many begin to think that there but for the deserving people on the 38th parallel as grace of God go I. there are on 38th Street.

I am doing little at the moment I am writing this to help you to besides waiting to see what the next appreciate your life, each petty part of communist move will be. Due to this it, while you live it. Perhaps, you will stalemate, there isn’t much action for also learn to accept your advantages those working where I am and though humbly, unselfishly, for only in that way we are safe, we are also a bit inert and will you be able to begin to pay for all weary. that has been lavished on you and Perhaps, to you, there is nothing denied hundreds of others. unusual or precious in being able to I hope to go on R&R to Japan take a hot bath, or ride in a Dodge, or soon, and then I shall send you some go to school at Putnam Heights. Yet, gifts.

Let me hear from you soon. as you will someday discover, you All my love, learn only by comparison, and from the Bill comparisons I have made over here I

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Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Take time to smell the roses.

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Billy was awarded the Bronze Star. He succumbed to cancer at the age of 27.The letter was read and re-read and shown to others with great pride.

Looking back, I think it, along with my family’s example, is what made me know an important part of my life would be trying to give back a small part of God’s grace.

My work over the years has centered on children’s issues. From direct service to advocating, from volunteering to career work, I have tried to champion the cause of good programs and outcomes for all children. I know I have received far more from this work than I have given—another sign of God’s grace.

Editor’s Note: Liz Reece was recently presented the Life Time Achievement Award by the Oklahoma Institute for Child Advocacy. She was winner of the Pinnacle Award for Service to Families in 1995, and the Friends of Early Education Sandra Nicholson Award for outstanding contributions to early childhood education in 2001. Governor Keating appointed her to the Governor’s Taskforce on Early Childhood Education in 2000 .

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mother of three rowdy preschoolers was asked, “If you had life to live over again, would you have children?” Her response, “Sure, just not these three.”

Parenting is hard work. And even though we sometimes joke about it, investing in the lives of our children is a gift from God. Asbury’s Children’s Ministry staff’s passion is working alongside parents to see all children discover what it means to believe, belong and become all that God wants them to be.

Get to know these people who minister to over 1,400 kids each week:

How did you c om e to know C hris t ?

Sandra McAteer, Manager of Children’s Ministries — When I was 17, my boyfriend (now husband) attended a Billy Graham Crusade in Charlotte, North Carolina. Together, we publicly accepted Christ into our lives.

Susan Baldwin, Preschool Programming Team Associate — I accepted Christ at a really young age. Several years ago, God brought me to a place in my life where I had to declare total dependence on Him and total surrender to Him. Susan Rizzotti, Preschool/Mother’s Day Out Assistant Director — I don’t ever remember not knowing Jesus. My daddy was killed in an ambulance/auto

accident when I was four. My mother never remarried, so Jesus was my “father” that I “talked to” all the time.

always told me, “Don’t judge a book by its cover!” I’m learning that works for books, people and many situations!

Ho w h a s J e sus tr a nsf orm e d y our li f e ?

Susan Baldwin — Be kind.

Debbie Wallis, Ministry Team Associate — Because of my relationship with Christ, I have hope. Even in my darkest hours, I can hear him say, “Hold on. I’m here. We’ll win.”

Janet Teel, Upward Basketball and Recreation Team Leader — My mother showed me that it isn’t about me but those I can serve. Everyone is important to God not just me.

Christy Capps, Elementary Team Associate — Jesus transformed my life when I told Him I was finished trying to go my own way. He is constantly transforming me through His Word, prayer, people and circumstances.

Kathy Owens, Elementary Team Associate — My mother always says, “God always gives you more than you can handle on your own. He expects you to give it all up to Him when you can’t handle it.” That’s what I try to live by.

Heidi Sanchez, Elementary Programming Team Leader — There is peace when life is anything but calm. There is purpose where before there was indifference, and there is comfort wherever and whenever there is need.

Heidi Sanchez — I have always felt that I could do anything, regardless of my age. I still feel that way. With Christ all things are possible.

Sh a r e o n e spiritu a l l e sso n you l e a rn e d a s a c hild th a t h a s st a y e d with you in t o a d ult ho o d .

Sandra McAteer — “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” (Luke 6:31) Mallory Roark, Preschool Programming Team Associate — My grandmother (a retired school librarian)

Wh a t ’’ss th e gr e a t e st thin g a b out c hild r e n’ n’ss ministry?

Debbie Wallis — Children’s ministry is about eternity, and that is the greatest endeavor of them all.

Christy Capps — Only one thing?

Come on! The greatest thing is the relationships I share with the kids and watching them mature in their faith. I also love working with the children’s ministry staff and my faithful volunteers. They are like extended family.

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Warm c ookies and c old milk are good for you.

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Left to right: Jennifer Ruley, Christy Capps, Kathy Owens, Vicki Ihrig, Patrick Jackson, Mallory Roark, Janet Teel, Sandra McAteer, Debbie Wallis, Kim Renkema, Joanne Miller, Heidi Sanchez, Susan Baldwin, and Mona Carouthers.

Susan Baldwin — The honor of knowing and loving God’s kids. Catching a glimpse of God’s glory in their smiles.

Vicki Ihrig, Childcare Team Leader — The spirit of a child is priceless. Their unconditional love and trust is inspiring.

Joanne Miller, Preschool/Mother’s Day Out Director — The greatest thing is the children! They are counting on

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us to help them discover Christ’s love.

They are a gift from God.

Wh a t is th e most im p ort a n t thin g you w a n t c hildr e n t o r e m e m b e r a b out y ou?

Kim Renkema, Preschool Programming Team Leader — I want them to know I care about them, that Jesus loves them and that I had the privilege of being a very small piece of their journey.

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Take a na p every a ft ernoon.

Jennifer Ruley, Elementary Team Associate — My love for Christ and my desire for them to know Him better.

Mona Carouthers, Childcare Team Associate — I want children to remember that I honestly cared about them, we are teaching the next generation so we had better do a good job.

-Nikki Boyd

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sbury’s Student Ministries exists to reach students, connect them with other Christians, empower them to grow in their faith, and equip them to live lives that honor God. So be careful not to judge youth ministers too quickly. Beneath that exterior of flipflops and a camp T-shirt beats a heart that loves teenagers.

There is a simple purpose behind all their craziness--they want to see students transformed by the reality of Jesus. Although it might look like play,

they are building relationships that will make a life-long impact. Take a glimpse at our student ministry staff and see them in a different light:

How did you come to know Christ?

Kerry Loescher, Student Programming — During junior high, my parents’ divorce left me hopeless and tired of hurting and I almost slit my wrists. But in my pain, God somehow spoke His love to me. Soon a friend invited me to hang out with her youth group. That

was the beginning of my learning about who God is and where I fit. That girl is still one of my closest friends.

Todd Peterson, 10th-12 th Grades — When I was 17, I went to visit my dad and stepmom. They seemed really different. My dad told me they had given their lives to Jesus. Later, I noticed my parents’ light was on and I saw them kneeling by the bed praying for me. That night my dad led me to the Lord.

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Live a b alan c e d lif e--le arn some and think some and . . .

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Mark Fowler, Student Ministries Team Leader/7th-9th Grades — Even though I grew up in the church, it was at Disciple Camp ’99 that I finally realized what God really wanted from me — faithfulness, holiness, and brokenness.

Todd Craig, College & Young Adults — I don’t remember exactly how old I was, probably in the second or third grade but I remember laying in my bed one night and realizing that I needed to accept Jesus’ forgiveness and to do all I could to follow Him.

How has Jesus transformed your life?

Marsha Statesir, 7th-9th Grades Assistant — Jesus has given me unconditional love, forgiveness, purpose, hope, joy, and peace. He is my life. He is the reason I get up each morning with a desire to change the world and the reason I am who I am.

Erica Logan, Ministry Assistant — Jesus is the foundation of joy and contentment in my life. I have learned that abundant life is not represented by physical things or circumstances, but by the abundance of Christ Himself.

Mark — At every retreat, mission trip, camp, Jesus tells me more about who and what He wants me to be. Jesus has also been transforming my life through spending time with and listening to Him. Youth Staff, Left to right: Mark Fowler, Marsha Statesir, Erica Logan, Kerry Loescher, and Todd Peterson.

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Share a spiritual lesson you learned while you were a student that has stayed with you into adulthood.

Todd P. —The investment adults made in my life. They not only told me about Jesus, they let me see Him in their lives and families.

Kerry — I went on my very first mission trip in high school. There I realized God had a plan for my life, what I did mattered and that students can change the world.

Marsha — Despite circumstances, I can turn to God as my Daddy. Even when I make mistakes and don’t feel good enough to be loved, God is always there, loving me.

What is one thing you wish you would have known as a student?

Mark — I wish I would have known, really known, Jesus. My youth directors were fun and they spent time with me but they really didn’t talk much about Jesus and why it was so important to have a personal relationship with Him. Erica — If I had been taught how beautiful and acceptable I was to Christ, I could have avoided some of the pain of trying to please others so desperately. I am still learning these lessons today.

Todd C. — I think too often we want to know right now what tomorrow will bring. I have learned that God reveals these things

to us in His perfect timing and that we should be satisfied with that!

What’s the greatest thing about being involved in student ministry?

Marsha — Helping students see that God has given them the ability to impact their world.

Mark — Being there and watching when students have an “aha moment!” and connecting the dots between what Jesus says about living and actually being able to live it.

Todd P. — Seeing God transform hearts and watching students go and touch others with the Gospel.

What is the most important thing you want students to remember about you?

Erica — More than anything else, I hope my presence and my work brings God into the room and that’s what they remember.

Todd C. — That I desperately want them to know the love of Christ, and that I don’t want them to settle for anything less than what God has to offer them!

Kerry — I would want students to remember me as a person who was passionately in love with Jesus and who cared deeply for them.

Todd P. — That I love Jesus, that I love my wife and son, and that I love them.

-Nikki Boyd

dra w and p aint and sing and d an c e and play and work every d ay. . . some.

c overing our sc hools

in prayer

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By Marsha Owen

am a product of the Baby Boom generation and of my own employer, Tulsa Public Schools. Way back in the 1950’s, my teachers made certain to start each day with the Pledge of Allegiance and the Lord’s Prayer. That time of thanking the Lord for our blessings and honoring those who died for our freedom was a very important time for me.

The day was just not complete without joining my voice with those of my third grade peers in reciting what I have come to believe should be the start of EACH AND EVERY DAY—the Lord’s Prayer. True, I think most of us were Christian and I don’t remember many ethnic differences other than the occasional American Indian student.

Recently, I had the chance to attend a special event at my grandson’s elementary school. Matthew was completing fifth grade and was receiving some academic and athletic honors. I was disappointed that there was no invocation before the awards ceremony and, even more, I was captivated by the diversity he is experiencing in his classes at such a young age.

He and his older brother, Michael, who is a sophomore at Union, have friends who are Hispanic, Russian, Asian, Nigerian, and Indian, as well as Caucasian and African American.

Their experiences differ little from that of our students

in Tulsa Public Schools. In addition to the diversity of cultures, students today also represent a diversity of faiths. And this can be challenging to Christian young people. While I believe in respect for all others and their faith, I stand firm by my belief in one God who is Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

There are so many needs in our schools. One of our middle school secretaries told me a heartbreaking story that a student had shared with her. She said that this student feels it is necessary to sleep on the bedroom floor rather than risk being shot at window height.

What a sad commentary on our society! It is these students and their

parents, teachers, administrators, and support staff that the Educational Prayer Ministry Team seeks to sustain through confidential prayer. The most difficult part of getting this ministry off the ground is “getting out the word” to administrators at the district and school site level.

Our goal is to cover all of our area schools in prayer. As a district level administrator, I have visited with principals who are facing what seems to them to be insurmountable obstacles: teacher burnout, parent apathy, low test scores, student violence, and so many other woes common to today’s society. The Educational Prayer Ministry Team hopes to develop a contact in every school in the private and public schools in the area who will inform us about those daily needs.

As the Coordinator of the Educational Prayer Ministry Team, I will e-mail those requests to the members of our team asking them to pray for those special needs. We seek to preserve confidentiality by using only initials and school district unless directed otherwise.

While I do staunchly support The Constitution of the United States of America, I also feel just as strongly about the need for more prayer coverage in and for our schools. Please help us by letting your administrators, teachers, and staff know that this is available for them. Our area students will thank you for it!

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . When you go out in the world,.

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AND WHATEVER YOU DO, WHETHER IN WORD OR DEED, DO IT ALL IN THE NAME OF THE LORD JESUS, G I V ING THANKS TO G OD THE FATHER THROUGH HIM. . . C OL 3:23

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four schools

f you ask Rosy Cunningham to volunteer for a job that keeps her indoors, she’ll probably turn you down.

Most days, she pulls a black trash bag out of the box, grabs her grass shears and heads out her front door to one of four Tulsa area schools to make the place look pretty. She likes to be outside in the fresh air, she says. “I’d rather be doing something outside. I don’t really like to be indoors as much.”

Two of the schools, Memorial High School and Byrd Middle School have Bradford pear trees that give her fits. Their roots and branches are growing in ways that cause them to need frequent trimming. So Rosy takes it on herself to tame and trim these trees and when she is done, she opens the black trash bag and finishes her job.

“Most people don’t see the trash around the school, especially the kids.

They’re so busy with other things. But the trash is always there, and someone needs to pick it up and get rid of it.”

For almost eight years, Rosy has been doing a job that no one ever asked her to do. “There isn’t enough money for the schools to hire someone to pick up trash and keep the place looking nice every day. Someone needs to do it. Since I noticed it, I kind

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of felt like I was nominated.”

For a while, she picked up the trash that would blow in from the businesses and Sheridan Road onto the grounds of the former Asbury facility. But when the church moved to its new location, she was pleased to see how clean the grounds remained. Now she concentrates only on the schools.

She credits her love of the outdoors and her desire to make it look nice to her mother. During World War II, Rosy’s mother began maintaining the graves of two British Royal Air Force Pilots who had died while training in Miami, Okla. The pilots were training in the small Oklahoma town because it was too dangerous to set up training camps in England during war years.

Over the years, there were enough training accidents that a cemetery was established for the RAF soldiers.

“Mother wanted to do something for these men,” Rosy remembers. “I dated one of the pilots, and when he was sent back to England to fight in the war, he was eventually killed.

Mother felt like she needed to do something in honor of him. So she started keeping the graves. For 15 years she took flower baskets and sprays.”

In 1982, after the death of her mother, Rosy took over. She made the drive to Miami on Memorial Day every

wa t c h out for tra ffic, hold hands and stick tog e ther.

year to put flowers on the graves.

That small lesson from her mother has given Rosy a dedication to the care and keeping of the outside of four schools. She doesn’t advertise what she is doing, or seek recognition.

And even though she says that most people don’t notice the trash, they seem to notice when it is gone.

Memorial High School has put a brick in their alumni wall in her honor that identifies her as “Our Garden Angel.” Key Elementary invited her to their volunteer luncheon and gave her a pin in appreciation for her work and someone from Byrd Middle School-she still isn’t sure who--arranged for the school to send her a thank you note for all that she has done to beautify the school grounds. And one day, as she was clearing the trash from the fence area at Salk Elementary, a class walked over from the playground with their teacher and gave her a collective “thank you.”

For Rosy, this outdoor volunteer work is done in memory of her mother.

“She loved to make things pretty,” she says. “I guess it rubbed off on me.”

-Lisa Tresch

What are some of the lessons you learned as a child that impacted your success in life?

From whom did you learn these lessons? Why were these lessons significant?

Childhood Photo Not Availa ble TOM HARRISON Senior Pastor

BILL MASON Pastor Emeriitus

See Tom’s letter on page 2 for more about these lessons:

Though my immediate family seemed small— three people—I have been blessed by a large extended family.

My Mother was one of six children—five girls and one boy—when they married I was blessed by many, many cousins.

My maternal grandparents “flooded” their own children with love, praise and affirmation. It was natural for each one to do the same with their children.

In my “family of three I grew up being loved and affirmed every step of the way.

I don’t suppose it registered with me until young adulthood, but I never felt unloved. I never lacked for affirmation, not only of what I did, but that as a person I was alright.

I shall be eternally grateful for all that assurance.

Live with the assurance, “You are loved.”

1.) I learned that Kindergarten is one of the most wonderful experiences of life.

2.) I learned to do my homework FIRST as soon as I came through the door after school.

3.) I learned it was wise to get along with both classmates and teachers.

4.) I learned that if I ran in shorts I could run a lot faster than if I run in longlegged jeans.

5.) I learned the value of reading books.

6.) I learned that the reason people act like bullies is probably because they aren’t getting much love at home.

7.) I learned that there are people a lot poorer and a lot richer than I am.

8.) I learned that the elementary school principal really didn’t have an “electric” paddling machine in his office.

9.) I learned that if you sit in the back you can “hide” from the teacher.

10.) I learned that it helped to have an older sister.

11.) I learned that music and art weren’t in my skill sets.

12.) I learned that there’s a lot more learning that happens outside the schoolroom than inside it.

13.) I learned that school doesn’t last forever.

MARK MCADOW Sr. Assoc. Pastor Active church participation.

My parents taught me the importance of not just regularly attending worship—but also of service. I was involved in choirs, Sunday school and helping set up, clear and tear down tables and chairs for Fellowship Dinners (a precursor to my Casa Bonita experience!).

The benefits of hard work.

My Mom served in various capacities—homeroom mom, choir mom, UMW President, etc. Dad worked two jobs. He was active in UMM—one of the chief cooks for those pancake breakfasts and chili suppers. A good work ethic helped me to earn the rank of Eagle Scout and buy my first car in high school debt free—a gold 1975 Camaro!

Scripture memory. Mrs. Hathcoat—my first grade Sunday school teacher challenged me to memorize scripture. With a sweet smile and Listerine breath, she taught us all to recite Deuteronomy 6:5 aloud.

Why was that so significant? Because only two things go to heaven— the souls of God’s people and His Word. It helped me impact my life motto—“To know Christ and to make Him Known”—and that’s one life lesson I’ll never outgrow!

DICK READ Pastor for Biblical Literacy

TODD CRAIG Pastor with College & Young Adults

DARLENE JOHNSON Pastor with Women

DUB AMBROSE Pastor with Men

LINDA PETTY Pastor of Access

DAVID THOMAS Pastor with Senior Adults

SONNY PLISCHKE Pastor of Care

JUDITH BANYA Pastor of Missions

I don’t remember my parents using the phrase, but they certainly lived it out and passed it along to me: Anything worth doing is worth doing right. My parents have always been rather particular people, striving for excellence to the best of their ability and resources. My own kids just might accuse me of being like my parents--I hope I’m passing that legacy along.

As I reflect on the lessons I learned during my childhood that have impacted my life, I have to admit that I find it much easier to recall lessons that I learned the hard way.

I learned that lying is never an escape from the truth. For instance, telling a teacher that you turned in a report that you never turned in will not shift the responsibility for the “missing” assignment to the teacher, nor will it get you out of having to do the assignment anyway.

I learned that mediocrity and laziness will not make life any easier but will often times make it harder and always make it less fulfilling.

I learned that short-cuts usually make a trip or project longer.

As an adult I have learned that learning the principles of success is easier and quicker than the application of those principles. Never stop learning!!

I loved going to school and hated to miss a day for any reason. My teachers all had high hopes for me because I loved learning and reading. My biggest problem was that I loved people and the other classmates would listen to everything I said. For some reason or other they thought I was Ann Landers because they always wanted me to speak up for them, and of course, I did.

Because of my ability to talk to anyone, I was often cautioned about watching what I said to others. This helped me not to say ugly and mean things to people. Mr. Delbert Burnett, was my elementary principal and he inspired me to carry myself in such a way that others would listen to what I said.

I still talk a lot, but I seldom say ugly things to others. I try to never attack a person or their integrity.

If I speak too quickly and judge too harshly I am reminded that words can be deadly and I don’t want to be guilty of destroying someone’s life with my words. I can speak the truth in love and stay with the issue at hand without attacking the individual.

Mr. Burnett was a wonderful principal and teacher and I still remember how much he loved the children.

I’ve never told anyone this before, but when I was very young, I picked up our telephone and heard my Dad talking with a neighbor. The neighbor was very angry because he was a car salesman and Dad had bought a used car from someone else. The man was so rude and mean to Dad that I wanted to interrupt him and even had thought of going over to his house and anointing it with raw eggs!

But Dad remained calm and never raised his voice. He apologized to the man (though in my opinion he didn’t have any reason to apologize…in fact, it was obvious the neighbor had plenty to apologize for) and genuinely expressed concern for him.

At first I thought Dad was a pushover and I never told him that I had heard the conversation. But, it didn’t take me long to understand how incredibly strong, kind, and loving he really was. And it took great courage and character to do this.

This wasn’t the only lesson nor was it the only time Dad taught me something of great value.

I only hope I learned at least half of what this man of God passed on to me.

As a child, my role models included my Mother , Grandmother and Great Aunt. All three women were very dif ferent in personality, but very influential on my character development.

They were loving, honest, hard working and God honoring.

They taught me about loyalty, responsibility, forgiveness and unconditional love. Their lives were consistent with their words. All three have gone home to be with the Lord. Rarely a day goes by that I don’t give God thanks for their influence on my life.

I am who I am because of them.

The church was a great influence on my young life as well. Sunday was church and fried chicken day. I looked forward to church because I knew I was a valuable member of that community, although I was young. I felt the “holiness” of the worship hour. I knew it was a special time and I needed to behave. Also, I was the recipient of a butterscotch candy from my Great Aunt when I was “good.” I was always “good.”

Because of my family and the church, the greatest lessons from childhood were to love God and do what’s right.

When I was a little lad my Sunday school teacher was Mrs. Gilliam, a grandmother in her middle seventies. I don’t remember many of the lessons she taught, but I do remember the love she showed. I not only learned to sing how “Jesus Loves Me” but I saw that love demonstrated in her life.

If Jesus loved me as much as Mrs. Gilliam, then I wanted to love Him back.

The lesson I learned is that people are not as interested in how much you know as they are how much you care.

When I thought about this question I found it difficult to answer. First because it was a long time ago, and second because there are so many things that my father and mother did that molded me into what I am today, along with others. I remember my father being a man who believed in honesty, integrity, and “never lie.”

He was a full-blooded German who also believed that a man”...should not cry or show emotion!” So it was my mother who taught me how to do that.

My father and I spent lots of time outdoors fishing and hunting together so that formed my love of outdoor life. Even today, if I spend an hour or so inside, I get that boxed-in feeling.

My parents were very plain and simple people but ones who gave to others even when they didn’t have much. They were independent, free spirits and ones who taught me to trust in God first and others second.

Others I remember are too numerous as they were the ones, who when I entered the military at a very young age, helped me to continue to find my way and instill in me the “can do!” spirit that is still a very part of my character today.

Always speak the truth, be honest even in you’re thinking that no one is looking or listening to you, and be yourself. Never entertain any thought or feeling that you would like to be someone else.

The lesson about being honest is one that my mother taught not just by word of mouth, but also by rubbing it in through her many ways of discipline.

“Even when you know that you will be in trouble, still speak the truth because you will end up in trouble anyway,” she said.

Not speaking the truth compounds the problem and leaves you without anyone to sympathize with you.

In my country people believe that the more a child is disciplined the better and faster that child will learn and hence become a better person in the society. My mother lived to the letter of that belief and so looking back later, we the children, realized that she was a little more heavy on discipline. That explains why we were closer to our father who never hit us.

Thank you, Mother, though you hit really hard.

Things I’ve Le arned . . . Be aware of wonder. Remember the little se ed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody re ally knows how or why, but we are all like that.

stud ents st arting their

day with the Lord

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arly on Friday mornings during the school year, a carpool line forms around the campus at Jenks East Elementary.

Why would over 60 elementary school children give up a half hour of sleep to come to school early? To be a part of Trojans for Christ. For the past ten years, first grade school teacher and Asbury member Linda Nagy has volunteered her time to organize and lead this Christian club that meets every week to hear a guest speaker, memorize scripture and sing songs. Linda feels it gives children and their parents an opportunity to start their day with the Lord, and teaches kids that God is with them wherever they go.

Linda Nagy never thought of being anything other than a teacher when she was growing up. She was one of those kids who lined up the teddy bears to have play school. She loved learning and was blessed with many kind and encouraging teachers. After graduating from college in Pennsylvania in the early 1980s, a downturn in the local economy forced Linda to

consider the option of moving near her sister, who lived in Tulsa and was a member of Asbury. One day, her sister asked if she could practice the questions she needed to ask as part of theAsbury Room ministry, where people interested in joining the church went to learn more about what it meant to be a Christian. Linda realized that, while she knew the right answers, she wasn’t completely sure if she had ever truly accepted Christ as her Lord and Savior. After she prayed the salvation prayer with her sister, she asked, “What do I do now?” Her sister replied, “Go on with your life and know that God is with you. He will lead the way.”

After nine years teaching in another school, Linda was encouraged by a friend to apply at Jenks, which she did, even though she felt stretched outside her comfort zone. She was apprehensive about the change, even up to the day of moving into her new classroom. She received God’s assurance, however, when she moved a file cabinet and found a small lapel

button on the floor that read “Trust God.” Linda sees now that God used that step of faith to teach her a truth from Jeremiah 29:11, which she now considers her life verse: “For I know the plans that I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.” The door soon opened to expand the TFC program to include the younger elementary kids, and her involvement with TFC has been a huge blessing in her life ever since. She sees kids being witnesses of their faith with their fellow students by wearing TFC t-Shirts. They also try to be on their best behavior, knowing that others are watching to see how Christians behave.

In addition to her TFC ministry, Linda is a part of the 9:15 worship team, the PAWS ministry, volunteers on Sunday mornings with the two year olds, and is active in the Singles Class Act community and the Singles Ministry.

-Juli Armour

“FOR I KNOW THE PLANS I HAVE FOR YOU,” DECLARES THE LORD, “PLANS

Photos submitted.

TO PROSPER YOU AND NOT TO HARM YOU, PLANS TO G I VE YOU A HOPE AND A FUTURE.” . .

JEREMI AH 29:11

Things I’ve Le arne d . . .Never give up . . .

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so c ks

for orphans

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By Lauren Mc Adow, a g e 7 With help from Da d

sa w the so cks and pic tures of Russian orphans in the May issue of Clubhouse Jr. I re a d the words in blue tha t said, “In the last 14 ye ars, the numb er of orphans in Russia has double d.”

My old er sist er Hannah was a Russian orphan b e fore my f amily a dopt e d her eight ye ars a go. I d e cid e d to ask my

f amily to buy some ne w so cks for the orphans b e c ause my sist er would have gott en ne w so cks if she was still in the orphana g e in Russia.

My f amily said w e c ould buy and send some so cks, but Mom also ha d another id e a.

She said w e c ould mayb e ask the mana g er a t our Wal-Mart if w e c ould se t up a t a ble outsid e and ask p e ople to buy so cks to give us to send. He said yes and so w e did. My d a d help e d us print some signs and my sist er and I c olore d them in with markers. We all w ent to the Wal-Mart over lun c h one d ay for two hours. We d e c ora t e d our booth and got over 140 p airs of so cks and $40 to buy so cks! My Da d also told the st a ff a t our c hurc h a bout it and they g ave another 128 p airs! So

all tog e ther, w e g ave 344 p airs!

My sist er c ount e d them and aske d my d a d if w e c olle c t e d enough so cks for all the c hildren in the orphana g e in Bla govesh c hensk, Russia where she c ame from. He said he thought yes. By the way, Bla govesh c hensk me ans, “G ood N e ws!”

PS - When w e got to Fo cus on the Family, w e took all our so cks to the Int erna tional Ministries building.

They told us w e w ere the only ones to d eliver so cks in p erson.

They also told us they only ne e d e d 300 more so cks to me e t their goal of 10, 000 p airs.

We got to “put them over the top!” I even got to c olor in the last rows on their Big so ck!

Praise the Lord!

Robin, Lauren and Hannah McAdow set up shop outside Wal-Mart to collect socks for orphans in Russia. After informing the Asbury staff they collected a total of 344 pairs of socks. The McAdow family delivered the socks to Focus on the Family and Lauren had the joy of putting them over the top (10,000 pairs!). She got to color in the last stripe on the Focus chart. Photos submitted.

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Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Exp e c t mira cles.

following the

example of caring

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etty Braithwait grew up on a working sheep farm in Colorado. Surrounded by loving parents and extended family, she experienced security and acceptance.

She remembers how her mother exemplified the meaning of “caring,” opening their home to whomever had a need and being available to help anyone in any crisis.

God surrounded Betty with people who had a great influence in her life. She made a decision to follow Christ as a young teenager and it was her parents’ and later her husband’s faith that helped her grow strong in her own walk with the Lord. Her mother’s example would later inspire Betty’s to be the same kind of caregiver to those in need.

Though she recalls wonderful childhood memories, God would also use difficulties in Betty’s life to equip her to minister to others. After 43 years of marriage, Betty faced the illness and death of her husband, Bill. And though she was able to share in his passing at home surrounded by family, the loss eventually led to anger.

Betty did make it through the journey of grief. Since 1999, she has served as the Bereavement Coordinator for Asbury’s Stephen Ministry, overseeing the care of those who may not have a community to reach out to them in

the time of loss. Betty coordinates the contact of those who have lost loved ones--helping with funeral details, sending notes or making calls, extending whatever help might be needed.

For children, they offer “Care Bear Baskets” which contain a teddy bear to help children remember their loved one.

There are also things like crayons and a coloring book that helps point a child to the love and hope they can find in Jesus as they deal with their grief. A journal is offered to older children, as well as a special scripture book.

An Asbury member for over 35 years and long-time Stephen Minister, Betty recently completed the Leader’s Seminar that has helped her see the “big picture” of Stephen Ministry and prepare her to train other leaders. She bubbles with excitement about how God is using this ministry to bring genuine healing and peace to those who are grieving.

On one occasion, Betty spoke to a brother of a woman who had been shot and killed. Over the phone, the young man angrily said he wanted to kill the man who had murdered his sister. He proclaimed himself an agnostic and made it clear he wanted nothing to do

with any ministry. Betty felt the urging of God’s spirit to go visit the young man at home, even though it was something that is usually not done. He invited Betty in and after two hours of conversation, he realized his need for God and he gave his life to Jesus.

Betty’s involvement in Stephen Ministry has had a profound impact on her private life. “My whole outlook has changed.” She adds, “It’s made me more forgiving. Everyone has problems and difficult times and there’s just no room for judging people and being critical.”

Every Stephen Minister seems to say the same thing--“You get more out of the experience than those who are actually receiving the care.” Betty would agree. She adds, “It’s refreshing to know you had a part in bringing healing to someone’s life--that you helped make a difference.”

-Nikki Boyd

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Rememb er the Dick-and-Jane books . . .

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en c oura g ement to

follow my dreams

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t age six, I lived in a Baptist Children’s Home in Texas. When I first arrived, I had to choose an activity for Saturday morning. Fawn and Kim, my roommates, talked me into horseback riding. Unfortunately, I was not very good and fell off the horse. The next two Saturdays, I continued to find myself on the ground instead of in the saddle. I needed a different activity. The housemother in the last cottage gave piano lessons. Since I loved singing and wanted to be a ballerina I thought piano lessons might be just what I needed. I took my new books up to her cottage and stepped in. It was wonderful! Sitting by the window was the most beautiful black piano I had ever seen! It had pretty figurines, pictures and doilies on it. I felt so good at that piano. The teacher was the nicest person I had ever met. Each week after my lesson she always gave me a hug. I can’t remember her name, but I still remember her hugs and how important and talented she made me feel.

When I was older, I went home to live with my parents. In the beginning, we lived very close to my grandparents. I enjoyed Sunday morning church with them, and soon decided that I would be a singing pastor. Every afternoon I would take my Bible outside, sing all the songs I could remember from Sunday and then give a rousing sermon. My loud sermons and continuous singing began to irritate family members. I was informed that according to the Bible girls could

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By Vonna Stout not be preachers. I decided to be a music minister, but was again informed that girls could not lead anything in church. Because God gave me a deep desire for His music, this setback did not stop me. I secretly decided to become a Christian singer on the radio!

Two years later we moved away, and my home life became almost unbearable. There was a small Baptist church in our neighborhood and that summer as I walked by, I noticed the front door was open. I crept into the sanctuary and sat down at the piano. I opened up the hymnal and began to pluck out the notes. I worked for hours. I continued to come back several times a week. I was sure no one ever knew I was there. As an

adult, I realize that the staff knew an 11 year old girl was in their sanctuary practicing hymns. I am so grateful that they allowed me to stay in that refuge.

My prayer is to sing and to make a difference. I remember the love I felt each week from my first piano teacher.

I remember the love God put in my heart for His people, His music and His Word. I remember an unknown staff in a little church who loved me more than they worried about their piano. As a music teacher, my deepest desire is that each of my students feels as important and talented as my first piano teacher made me feel. I pray that they will see God each day through me and grow to love Him. I hope they will always remember my classroom as a safe place to grow and learn.

and the first word you le arne d -- the bigg est word of all -- LO OK.

support & t e amwork:

marriage lessons learned

“T

hey just need extra support during their fight with cancer. The spouses need the support as much as the patients do.” Harold Mannon’s passion to begin Asbury’s first generic Cancer Support Group was intense. He was prepared to invest whatever energy and talents it would take. Sixteen years later Asbury’s Cancer Support Group still has 25-30 regular attendees.

Harold’s first wife died of cancer just before their 30 year anniversary. It wasn’t long before a friend told him he’d be crazy not to get together with Jean, a woman in his Sunday school class. Harold and Jean married 24 years ago. Their marriage is a study in support and teamwork. Many Sundays you can see Harold trudging over the parking lot, saving Jean (who has arthritis) some steps. When they walk together, his courteous manner shows how much he cherishes her.

In the past 12 years they have often reversed roles, as Harold has gone through open heart surgery and other more minor surgeries. Several years ago, he was diagnosed with trigeminal neuropathy, resulting in removal of an eye and acquisition of an amazingly real looking prosthe-

sis. Swapping stories in their comfortable living room, they explain that for a long time Harold needed eye drops every two hours. He would put his head on Jean’s lap for the procedure, and miniature poodle Buddy insisted on “helping,” too! Harold still gives long foot massages every night to give his bride some relief from her pain.

That’s teamwork.

As they reflect on their childhoods, both reminisce about parents and grandparents who modeled respect for mates. These people were not “showy” about their love. “It was care and respect that we just felt— nobody said it,” said Harold.

When Harold’s father had Alzheimer’s, his mother cared for him as long as possible. It is no coincidence that Harold also championed Asbury’s first Alzheimer’s Support Group!

Jean’s favorite relatives were her maternal grandparents and she giggles as she confesses, “They spoiled me terribly!” Though her grandson lives out of state, she has done her best to pass on the tradition with her granddaughter who is closer. Jean’s parents demonstrated teamwork in a rather unusual way. Her mother didn’t drive,

so her father did all the shopping.

Once the food was in the house, her mother took over and did all the cooking.

Jean is Harold’s number one fan.

“Harold is a true servant. He tries to help everybody—he’s just built that way.” She also reports that, “He tells me all the time that he loves me. I am blessed to have a considerate, dependable husband. During the benediction Sunday mornings we like to hold hands.”

Harold explains, “She doesn’t say she loves me as much, but I feel it in the way she always cooks for me and does different things for me.”

Advice for young couples?

“Respect the other person, their ideas and habits,” counsels Harold.

Jean adds, “I hope when young people see us, they see the benefits of being true to each other.”

Jean had a 30-year marriage that ended in divorce. “The other night I told Harold, ‘I’m living the nice quiet life I always wanted.’”

You might say their marriage is their own exclusive support group.

-Charlene Giles

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Wha t goes up, alw ays c omes down!

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c ontinuing

the tradition

“A

game with a purpose.”

That’s how Lord Baden Powell envisioned scouting when he founded the organization in 1908. He believed the outdoors could be used as a classroom to teach boys valuable lessons in leadership, living and character development. These childhood lessons continue to be taught today. For nearly 40 years, Asbury has been committed to Scouting in the Tulsa area, and through a sponsorship by Asbury’s United Methodist Men, it looks as though the future is an exciting one.

Martin Cranke, the newly appointed scoutmaster of Troop 10, joined Asbury in September and felt led to take on the responsibility, as Brian Whitt retired from the position after serving for many years. In addition, several of Asbury’s Methodist Men have expressed a high level of interest in sponsoring a Cub Scout program.

According to John Curzon, who along with Bob Funk represents the UMM in this endeavor, “We have identified 250-300 scouts who may end up as part of Asbury’s scouting program, not including future recruits.

Along with parents and siblings, this ministry has the potential of affecting up to 1,000 people, most of whom are

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not currently connected to Asbury. And because service is one of scouting’s primary objectives, we anticipate the benefits directed toward Asbury and its members will be significant.”

In addition to Boy Scout Troop 10, Asbury’s Men sponsor Venture Crew 909, a high adventure arm of scouting for young men and women.

Participants have finished eighth grade but are not yet 21. They enjoy adventures of all kinds, including shooting (with law enforcement advisors), caving, rock climbing, rappelling, backpacking, water skiing, snorkeling, and survival experiences. The Crew 909 motto is, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.

Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:2-4.

Venture Crew 909 has sponsored and staffed the last two Asbury Family Campouts and provided color guard for the recent National Day of Prayer Breakfast. Bob Walter is the Crew Leader.

Asbury’s Methodist Men and Troop 10 will be hosting an outdoor carnival on Saturday, September 10 to promote

scouting. (Watch for details). The event will serve as a recruiting tool as well as a fundraiser. The goal is to bond with church members, recruit new scouts, and raise the operating monies to include scholarships for those scouts who may have difficulty paying for summer camp, uniforms and dues. Every effort will be made to assure no scout will ever be denied the right to participate due to lack of funds.

The outreach event will be promoted at area schools.

“A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean and reverent,” according to the Boy Scout Law. Helping develop young men and women with these character qualities while making the process fun and exciting is a challenge. Developing a game with a purpose, coached and supported by Christian men and women, is a privilege. If you feel called to be involved in any way, your help will be greatly appreciated -Jan Weinheimer

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . Don’t b e a fraid to ask dumb questions.

quie t, ple ase--you’re

in the library

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e was a graduate of Southeastern and OSU, a teacher, a middle school principal, a Sunday school superintendent, chairman of the administrative board at his church, a mayor, a husband, a dad, a grandpa, and last but certainly not least, an avid volunteer. Likewise, she was just as active in her roles as a secretary, a treasurer, a Sunday school teacher, a hospital volunteer, a mom, a grandma, a wife, a church volunteer, and an avid reader.

Together, Jack and Lena Greer spent 40 years in McAlester, Okla. where they were active members at Grand Avenue United Methodist Church. It was here that the Greers first began to expand their love of reading by sharing that love with the children of the church. They put that love into action and started a church library.

Jack and Lena left their library and McAlester about 16 years ago to be near their children in Tulsa. Their

son, Dr. Jerry Greer, and his wife Joy, have four children: Jon, David, Paul and Bethany. They were active members at Asbury, participating in several mission trips, Bible studies, and discipleship classes. And of course, they spent many hours with their love and their passion—the church library.

Jack passed on to eternity a little more than a year ago and is now with his Lord. Following his death, the Asbury church library was named in his and Lena’s honor, the Greer Library. Lena is very modest about this. She prefers to talk about those she shares time with in the library— her fellow volunteers—Otis Osborn, Naomi Mitchell, Edna Willmann, Winnie King, and Curtis Biggers. She prefers to mention the many, many Asburians who have made significant and generous contributions to the library over the years. Clearly demonstrating that together, in Christ, we can accomplish much!

Jack and Lena were involved with the church library for about 11 years,

and Lena continues with that commitment. Their love for reading and their love for children have been transformed into a legacy. Lena’s prayer is that, “The church library will be an honor to the pastors, the employees, and the members of Asbury, especially children of all ages.”

The library is a valuable resource. It holds the stories, the wisdom, and the lessons learned in the lives of the various authors. Jesus often taught the lessons of life through stories. Luke wrote, “One day Jesus told his disciples a story to illustrate their need for constant prayer and to show them that they must never give up.” Luke 18:1 (NLT) Who has been encouraged by one of these books or tapes? Who has been touched or blessed? Who has been lifted up? Who has grown spiritually? The church library— quietly touching people’s lives, one person at a time.

-Marcia Curley

Things I’ve Le arne d . . . I dle hands are the d evil’s workshop.

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Adult Discipleship Communities How are you passing on your values to the next generation?

Members of Discipleship Communities seek to nurture one another in living the life of a disciple as manifested through Asbury’s eight objectives. Communities are designed for warm fellowship, spiritual growth, and serving others. There are over 30 Adult Discipleship Communities at Asbury. Find and connect with a community that best meets your needs.

8:00 am Sonrisers — RM 2821 (ages vary) Our senior pastor talks about his Mom making him wear “scratchy wool pants” to church when he was a young boy. Mr. and Mrs. Harrison not only attended church as a family, but led by example by being lay leaders in the church. There is much more to this story, but Mrs. Kathryn Harrison (now Metsker) still is a role model for Christian love, sacrifice, and humility. She still passes along her values to her children, as well as to everyone she comes into contact with.

Joy — RM 1508 (ages vary) The grandsons of one man forego spring break at the beach to spend time with their granddad driving a tractor doing maintenance on a country acreage.

One grandmother is sharing her hobby of genealogy with her grandchildren.

Our teacher reminded us that our most important job is helping our grandchildren know Jesus Christ.

9:15 am Disciples — RM 2500 (ages vary) W isdom comes from God’s word. As Christians studying together with a willing heart and a Bible-trained mind, we pass on to our children, our grandchildren and our neighbor’s children what we have learned. We are God’s messengers and these children’s success depends on us as we ourselves continue to study the Bible in the Disciple’s Class.

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COMMUNITIES

Family Fellowship — RM 1504 (30’s+) A major focus of our community is mission.

Whether in Tulsa or Tanzania, we have continual involvement in mission opportunities. What makes many of these opportunities special is that we include our children in them. When we serve at Salvation Army, we take our children with us. When we have activities with Youth at Heart...bring on the kids! We also support Asbury Youth Missions, both as volunteers and as “senders”. The best way to pass on our values is to include our children (or any other children) in the activities that support what we value.

Wordfinders — RM 2818 (late 50’s+) Wordfinders members hope to pass worthy values on to the next generation by buying stock in Youth Missions, enabling our children and grandchildren to experience charitable works and deeds for others both at home and abroad as they minister to others. Participation in “doing for others” brings good spiritual rewards to those who serve.

11:00 am Harvest — Choir Room 2706 (ages vary) Setting an example by serving others is a priority for the members of Harvest Community. A recent day spent at the Laura Dester shelter served as a reminder to us that our responsibility to children extends beyond our families, and that time invested in others is our opportunity to be Jesus to them.

Praise & Worship — RM 1504 (30’s - 50’s) We are passing our values on to the next generation through purposeful and active participation in our children’s lives. We are youth small group leaders, Sunday school teachers, Upward Basketball coaches & referees, Girl Scout leaders, Boy Scout leaders, school volunteer coordinators, VBS volunteers, music teachers, camp

retreat counselors, to name a few. All are opportunities to guide and influence our children.

Purpose Driven Fellowship — RM 1504 (30’s & 40’s) The PDF community includes many single parents who feel that it is very important for their kids to be connected to other people their own age with similar backgrounds. That is why we have created a PDFKids community for them to enjoy fishing, roasting marshmallows and swimming together.

Tapestry — RM 1900 (ages vary) Our community passes on Christian values in a sundry of ways: living as Christian role models; singing Christian songs to children/grandchildren; giving them Bibles; memorizing Bible verses together; kneeling with and teaching children to pray; sharing the plan of salvation; creating a memory scrapbook that chronicles family members’ lives of faith; lovingly disciplining the young.

Women of Faith — RM 1621 (ages vary) Our discussions in class focused our thoughts on values and future generations; “Since we are here, acknowledging Jesus as the source for everything in life that we need, we know we have had many positive influences in our lives that began a long time ago and continue to this day.” We shared, “that these things learned from childhood were from people who lived their lives by the teachings of Jesus. Remembering this, we want to pass on our values to the next generation in the same manner that we learned, by seeking to live out our example every day in the same way..” Join us any Sunday, “seeking to find and follow God’s purpose in our lives.”

Next month:

How does your community do missions-at home and abroad?

asbury opportunities sunday mornings

Breakfast Served from 7:00-9:15 a.m. in the CLC Come enjoy fellowship with Asburians along with fresh donuts, bagels, biscuits & gravy, sausage, eggs, fruit, and cereal. $2 for adults & $1 for children 12 & under Sunday Morning Worship 8:00 am Mason Chapel (Traditional Communion) 9:15 am Sanctuary (Contemporary Communion) 11:00 am Sanctuary (Traditional) 11:00 am Mason Chapel (Contemporary) Children and Students 6 Weeks - 4 Years 8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am K-6th Grades 9:15 or 11:00 am 7th, 8th & 9th Grades 9:15 & 11:00 am 10th, 11th & 12th Grades 9:15 am only Adult Discipleship Communities 8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am and Wednesdays, 6:30 pm Summer Childcare Core Hours.

Mondays no childcare Tues. & Wed. 9:00 am - 12:00 pm Tues. & Wed. 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm Sundays 8:00 am - 12:00 pm

access Hands of Love Sign Choir Sundays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 2821

biblical literacy Financial Peace University Wednesdays, beginning August 24 from 6:308:30 pm in Rm 2820. Cost: $91.00. See page 5 for details.

Some things are d e finit ely worth fighting for.

The hard p art is d e ciding whic h ones they are!

care and support Celebrate Recovery Mondays: Dinner at 6:00 pm Worship: 7:00-8:00 pm Small Groups: 8:00-9:00 pm Dessert: 9:00-9:30 pm Hiding any hurts, habits or hangups? God never intended you to live in bondage. Come join this supportive group of people each Monday night at 6:00 pm. Childcare available.

Red Cross Blood Drive American Red Cross Blood Drive is Sunday, August 21 from 8:00 am - 1:00 pm in the Community Life Center. Call 831-1176 to schedule your appointment.

Asbury Bear Bags Asbury Bears are not just for little kids anymore! Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books have comforted young children for many years, but now you may give a Bear Bag with a scripture-based journal included instead!

Great for teens and adults. Anyone may deliver an Asbury Bear to someone who is grieving.

For more information, contact Beth at 392-1116.

Exploring Your Relationships with Your Adult Children Wednesdays, July 27 - August 31 from 6:308:00 pm in Rm 2319. This will be a six-week seminar-type course in which those who attend will have an opportunity to gain insight into their relationships, both positive and negative, with their adult children. We will focus on what in these relationships we can control and what we cannot, discuss ways we can show that we care, regardless of the type of relationship and talk about some guidelines for communication with our children.

Mainly, this seminar will provide an atmosphere in which we can prayerfully explore ways to maintain the positive side of the relationship and turn the negatives into positives. Childcare available. Register by calling 392-1191.

Cancer Support Group Sunday August 14, 4:00-6:00 pm, Parlor - For those living with cancer and their family and friends Bipolar/Depression Support Group Second and fourth Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2502 - For persons living with bipolar disorder or depression Divorce Recovery Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those experiencing pain from a broken or lost relationship Divorce Rebuilding Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - Rebuilding when your relationship ends Grandparents Raising Grandchildren Tuesdays, August 2 and 16, 6:30-8:30 pm, Rm 1508 Mental Health Support Group Wednesday, August 3, 7:00-8:30 pm., Parlor For family members of those affected by mental illness.

Alzheimer’s Support Group Thursday, August11, 1:30-3:30 pm, Parlor Thursday, August 25, 12:00-2:00 pm, Ryan’s Steak House - For caregivers of persons with Alzheimer’s Disease and other dementia MS Support Group Thursday, August 25, 7:00-9:00 pm, Rm 1502 For those suffering with MS and their caregivers Family to Family Tuesday, August 23, 1:30-3:30 pm, Parlor - For family members or caregivers of people affected by a mental illness

Some times a blanket and a thumb are enough.

Some times they aren’t.

children Registration forms for all children’s activities are available in the preschool and elementary lobbies.

Kindergarten Blessing Service Sunday, August 7, 4:00 pm in the Chapel What a wonderful adventure our kindergarten children have in store for them at school!

Children who are just entering kindergarten, and their families, are invited to be a part of a service of affirmation and blessing at this tremendous milestone in their lives. The service will be followed by a celebration reception and commemorative activities in the CLC. Childcare available for young infants and older siblings, up to new 6th graders. Contact 392-1159 for additional information.

Third Grade Bible Presentation Sunday, September 11 at all three worship hours. On this very special Sunday our third grade children will each receive a Bible from Asbury! The presentation of Bibles in congregational worship is an annual event of immense significance for our children. Following the presentations, special “Bible Explorer” classes will be offered on three Sunday evenings, for third graders and their parents. The goal is to give everyone a better understanding of the Bible and its ultimate purpose in our lives. No registration or sign-up required. For more information, contact 392-1170 or 392-1168.

Asbury Preschool/Mothers’ Day Out Classes begin the week of August 22.

Monday: 9:30 am - 12:30 pm and Tuesday through Friday, 9:30 am - 2:30 pm.

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Even a b a d d ay of fishing is a very good d ay!

membership Asbury Exploration Come to one of these classes to learn more about becoming a member of Asbury.

Upcoming session: Sunday, August 7, from 12:30-2:30 pm. Call 392-1191 for reservations. Childcare available.

men

christian living

Equip Your Teens...No Matter What!

Financial Peace Junior Series - Dave Ramsey Call Nancy Staab at 392-1124 or email asburyfpu@yahoo.com if you are interested.

First Step –Advisory Session Sessions are held the second Thursday of each month in Room 2821 from 7:00 pm to 8:30 pm. Bring your completed Spiritual Gifts Inventory for discussion with an advisor.

To take the Inventory on line, prior to attending, see Asbury’s website.

Call the registration hot line at 393-1192 to register for one of the Thursday sessions.

hospitality Friendly Visitors Sundays, 1:30 pm - South Welcome Center

library New Additions The Asbury Library is a wonderful resource.

New additions are listed in a black notebook on the Librarian’s desk. Thank you to all who continue to contribue books to our Library.

leadership Coming in September!

Leadership Lessons from Willow Creek September 7-28. This 4-week video-assisted course featuring Bill Hybels and other leadership speakers facilitated by the Leadership Asbury Team. Details to follow.

marriage & family Milestone Wedding Anniversaries Email your October and November Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) to patticooper@cox.net or call 392-1146.

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Men’s Prayer Breakfast Wednesdays, 6:30-7:30 am in the CLC. Join the Men’s Ministry for a delicious breakfast and fellowship. Cost: $3/person August Speakers: 8-3 Mark Springer, speaker 8-10 Dub Ambrose, speaker 8-17 Pec Clark, speaker 8-24 Don Herrold, speaker 8-31 Mark Hoffman, speaker Home Improvement Work Day Saturday, August 20. Serving widows/ widowers and single moms. Work projects include home repairs and/or improvement projects. Call 392-1122. Application Deadline: August 10.

Guys’ Night Out August 18, 6:00-8:00 p.m. in the CLC. Are you sleepy on Wednesday mornings? If so, then maybe you can try United Methodist Men’s new Guys’ Night Out. In an effort to get more men involved, to inform them about all the cool things we’re doing, and to have fun fellowship, we are trying a once-amonth dinner meeting. It will be a little different than our Wednesday morning Prayer Breakfast. The meetings will be held on the third Thursday of the month and each will have a different theme. The first meeting will be a baseball theme, and we’ve got Bob Carpenter tentatively lined up to be the master of ceremonies. There will be a testimony from one of our members and Tom will give a short devotion. Call 392-1122 for more information.

music

Asbury Power & Light Sundays, 8:15-9:00 am, Rm 1510 Chancel Choir Wednesdays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Choir Room Asbury Ringers Wednesdays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 2506 Celebration Ringers Tuesdays, 4:30-5:30 pm, Rm 2506 Clarinet Choir Wednesdays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 1506 Dixieland Band Thursdays, 2:00-3:00 pm, Rm 1510 Perpetual Light Thursdays, 10:00 am - noon, Rm 2506 Carillon Quartet Wednesdays, 5:00-6:00 pm, Rm 2506 String Ensemble Wednesdays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm 1510

Wednesdays, 8:00-9:00 pm, Rm 1506 Orchestra/Concert Band Wednesdays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Rm 1510 Brass Quintet Tuesdays, 7:30-9:00 pm, Rm 1510

missions/outreach Global Outreach Prayer Ministry News and prayer requests from our missionaries and ministries are sent each week to our prayer ministry list. If you would like to join and become a prayer intercessor for those serving around the world, contact Missy Sistrunk at 392-1163.

September is Missions Month at Asbury!

“It’s About Time” is the theme and we will have something fun and informative for all ages throughout the entire month.

Habitat for Humanity Starts August 13 We need volunteers for meals through October.

Contact Beth at 392-1116.

You never get a se c ond chan c e to make a first impression!

missions/vim For further details about these Volunteer-inMission opportunities, contact Marilene Long, 392-1164 or Mary Ann Smith, 392-1117.

Monterrey, Mexico September 24 - October 2, Construction and Mission Bible School - $875 Monterrey, Mexico September 28 - October 2, Medical - $675 Rio Bravo, Mexico November 2 - 6, Construction and Medical - $450

prayer

Women Praying Together Mondays, 11:30 am - 12:30 pm, Prayer Room.

Join other women as they pray together.

Parents Praying Together Wednesdays, 11:30 am-12:30 pm, Rm 1507 Join other parents to pray for families and children.

singles

Lif e ’s a lot more fun when you share it with a friend.

Women’s Prayer Breakfast Monday, August 22 from 7:00-8:00 am in the Community Life Center. $5 per person donation appreciated. No reservations needed.

College Moms in Touch Prayer T ime Wednesdays, 11:45 am - 12:45 pm, Rm 1506 Altar Prayer If you would like someone to pray with you after the worship service, please go the front of the Sanctuary and people will be there ready to pray with you, either at the altar or in the Prayer Room.

recreation Single Adult Volleyball Tuesdays, 7:30-9:00 pm, Gym Adult Volleyball Sundays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Gym Walk in the Gym with Him Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays 8:00-9:00 am, Gym Senior Sit and Fit Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays 9:00-9:30 am, Gym Pilates Saturdays, 10:00-11:00 am, Rec Gym Wednesdays, 8:00-9:00 pm, Rec Gym Abs and Stretching Class Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays 11:30 am-12:00 pm - Come join others during your lunch break for a 30-minute class. No equipment required (except a towel or mat).

Open Men’s Basketball Mondays: 6:00-9:00 pm Saturdays: 11:00 am-1:00 pm Wednesdays: 6:00-8:00 pm Arts and Crafts Mondays, 9:30 am - 2:00 pm, Rm 2821 Self Defense Class Tuesdays, July 12 through August 30 from 10:30-11:30 am in the Asbury Gym. This 8-week program is open to ages 20-65 and is limited to 10 participants per class. Preregistration is required. A pre-registered wait list of four will be accepted and individuals on the wait list will be contacted in the event someone is unable to attend. To register, call 392-1191.

Asbury Recreation Center - Hours Mondays

8:00 am - 12:00 pm 4:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Tuesdays

10:00 am - 1:00 pm 3:30 pm - 5:00 pm 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Wednesdays

8:00 am - 9:30 am 10:00 am - 1:00 pm 3:30 pm - 5:00 pm 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Thursdays

10:00 am - 1:00 pm 3:30 pm - 5:00 pm 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Fridays

8:00 am - 9:30 am

Saturdays

10:00 am - 1:00 pm

Sundays

7:00 pm - 9:00 pm

seniors

Singles Meet and Greet Sundays from 8:40-9:10 am or 10:20-10:50 am in the CLC. All singles are invited.

Singles Bible Study Mondays, 7:00-9:00 pm, Rm 2820 Coffee Cup Cafe Sunday, August 7 and 21, 6:30-8:30 pm. in the Asbury Parlor. Come join Asbury singles as they fellowship over coffee and refreshments.

Fifth Night at Utica Square Thursday, August 25 at 7:00 pm. Meet in front of Restoration Hardware at 6:30 pm, 1740 Utica Square, west side of the parking lot. Children are welcome. Come join Asbury singles for a night out. Bring your lawn chairs. (No alcohol allowed). Join us for some fun fellowship, listen to some great music, and meet new friends.

Asbury Singles August Potluck Sunday, August 28, 12:00-2:00 pm - Parlor Bring a covered dish! Children welcome!

Labor Day Luau Picnic Friday, September 5 from 4:00-7:00 pm at Haikey Creek Park - Triplex Site (11327 S. Garnett Road). Children are welcome. Bring a covered dish to share and your own beverages and ice chest ( no alcohol, please)! This annual event guarantees fun, fellowship, good food, volleyball, horseshoes, games, and Hawaiian luau music. Bring your own instruments if you like. We will have a limbo contest as well as a best costume contest.

Divorce Recovery Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those experiencing pain from a broken or lost relationship Divorce Rebuilding Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - Rebuilding when your relationship ends

AARP Safe Driving Course August 5, 9:00 am to 4:00 pm, AARP Defensive Driving Course For Older Adults with Marge Creagor as teacher.

Senior Adults Theatre and Dinner August 6, 12:30 pm, the Senior Adults will be 10th, 11th & 12th Breakaway leaving to attend the River City Players of NSU Wednesdays, 6:30-8:30 pm - Breakaway Area in the production of “Movie Magic - Songs 7th, 8th & 9th Breakaway From The Big Screen” followed by Dinner at Sundays, 9:15-10:30 am - Breakaway Area Fin & Feather on Lake Tenkiller.

7th, 8th & 9th Bible Study Autumn in Eureka Springs Sundays, 11:00 am - 12:00 pm October 24-26. Cost $181.50/person with 2 per room, $166.50/person with 3 per room; $158.50/person with 4 per room. Balance due August 15.

Price includes transportation, 2 nights lodging, 2 breakfasts, the Great Passion Play with buffet dinner, Holy Land Tour, Thorncrown Chapel, Pine Mountain Jamboree, Abundant Memories Heritage Village, allday trolley pass, all taxes, gratuities and baggage handling.

Call 392-1122 for more informaI f you c an’t say some thing nic e, tion. don’t say nuthin’ a t all.

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from 5:00-5:30 pm, then hit the mudpit. Fire trucks will arrive just before 8:00 pm to spray us down. Be sure to wear old clothes (not white) because they will get ruined!

Ignite - 7th, 8th and 9th Grades Sunday, August 28 from 6:00-8:00 pm in the Studnet Ministries Area. Come get ignited for God and start your school year right. This will start with pure fun: inflatables, burgers, and loud music. Then we will worship, hear about what all is going on at Asbury in the fall, and be motivated to make this school year one in which you are on fire for God! College Bible Study Each Sunday night at 7:00 pm in Rm 2319.

volunteers

7th, 8th & 9th FlicknBurger Wednesday, August 3,12:00-2:00 pm. Bring your own lunch and come down to the Student Cafe for a movie. It’s a time to hang out, get out of the house, and have some fun!

Student Ministries Mud Fest For all 7th-12th graders. Sunday, August 14 from 5:00-8:00 pm in the Student Ministries Area. Mud, mud, and more mud is what will be in store for you when you come to Mud Fest! We will eat

Asbury Event Team This is a new ministry team forming that will assist in the planning and implementation of various events at Asbury. Not only internal events, but also for events held by outside groups. Wide variety of positions available, like Event Coordinator, Registration, Communication and PR, Volunteer Coordinator, Hospitality including theme development, decorations and food arrangements. Two events ready for planning - the Ministry Fair in September and a Christmas party for Asbury staff. Time commitment will be for one event at a time. The amount of time needed will vary with each event. Contact Teresa at 392-1135.

women

Wednesday Morning Bible Study Wednesdays, 10:00 am, Rm 1502 Crafty Ladies Friday, August 12, 6:30-9:00 pm, Rm 2820 Women’s Monthly Luncheon Thursday, August 4 from 11:30 am - 1:00 pm, CLC. Program: Youth Missions Women’s Prayer Breakfast Monday, August 22 from 7:00-8:00 am in the Community Life Center. $5 per person donation appreciated. No reservations needed.

Home Improvement Workday Saturday, August 20. The Home Improvement ministry serves widows and single mothers. If you have a home repair or improvement project that needs to be done, contact Roxanne at 392-1122 by August 10.

You’re never fully dresse d without a smile!

“Overboard,” the story of Jonah and the whale, was this year’s SummerSong offering. In five short days, the music staff and volunteers coached sixty-five children who entertained and inspired those who attended

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the presentation. This annual event has become a favorite tradition for all who participate.

Welcome to Asbury...

Thelma Richard

Bill Rozell, Jr.

Brent Fischer

Jeff and Jonna Polk and Elise

Laura Wiese

Brock Ivers

Jason Veale

Scott and Caryn Brown and August

Robert Walsh

Marcel Splane

New Member Photographers: Allen Robison, Michael Reynolds, Roxanne Whiteis, and Lisa Willard

Nancy McDuffie

Mark and Debbie Freeman

Elizabeth Robb

Emsy Clark and Cole Hutching

Bethany Vespar

Vanessa Lee and Megan

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Bradley and Lynn Brill, Rachel and Andrew

Lou Ann Gruber, Nicholas and Christopher

David and Adriene Riesen

we’re glad you’re here!

A Few More of Life’ Life’ss Lessons To anyone with kids of any age, here’s some advice. Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about eleven things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

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Rul e 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rul e 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rul e 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rul e 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rul e 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rul e 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rul e 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rul e 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rul e 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rul e 11: Be nice to nerds. You’ll likely end up working for one.

But according to Jesus, there are basically two rules by which one should live.

Once these are mastered, the rest take care of themselves.

He taught: “Love the Lord Your God with all your heart, mind and spirit,” and “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

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We Remember...

Please pray God’s peace for those who have lost loved ones: Flora Galusha Mother of Joe Galusha

June 18, 2005

Patricia Morse June 20, 2005 Wife of David Morse and mother of Ed, Karen, & Greg

This year’s VBS was awesome! A total of 1,010 children, (402 non-Asburians), 129 teen helpers, 279 adult volunteers, 40 leadership team members, and numerous staff made the Ramblin’ Road Trip a journey everyone enjoyed. At least 58 children made professions of faith in Jesus Christ! All honor and praise and glory be to God!

Sunday School

by John C. Westervelt My mother’s father was a Presbyterian minister in Baird, Texas during the first decade of the 1900s. In 1910 he completed a red brick church with stained glass windows in this small railroad town. I visited this church in 1993. I found on the outside wall a brass plaque that read “Texas Historical Site.”

As a preacher’s daughter, my mother took my brother, my sister, and me to Sunday School at the First Presbyterian Church in downtown Oklahoma City. I was not old enough to start kindergarten, but old enough to remember the day I looked out the window, and our car was no longer parked in the driveway. No one explained to me that the country was in the midst of the Great Depression of the 1930s.

Determined to have her children in Sunday School, Mother took us downtown on the street car. Making

connections was difficult. Before the year was out, Mother left the church of her girlhood and joined Wesley Methodist Church, which was two blocks from our house.

I began my journey of listening to Bible stories in the Primary Department (first through third grades) at Wesley.

Long before I arrived and long after I left the Junior Department (fourth through sixth grades), Mr. Gibbons was Junior Department Superintendent. He rewarded each child that had perfect attendance for the year with a gold pin, and I wore mine proudly. A little old lady (may have been fifty) asked each boy in my class to memorize a verse from the first chapter of Psalms until we could quote the chapter. This chapter is familiar to me to this day.

By the time I reached high school, all my friends came on Sunday night for Methodist Youth Fellowship. The Wesley MYF became the center of my religious and social life.

During the 1990s, my brother and his wife, my widowed sister, a couple from Kansas, a couple from Vermont,

Carroll Webb Husband of Dale Webb

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Ralph Bray Husband of Betty Bray

June 25, 2005

Jean Mizelle Wife of Percy Mizelle

June 28, 2005

Janet Maureen Carlton

July 6, 2005

Louise Dyer

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and I vacationed together on six occasions. With the exception of two spouses, all of us were Wesley MYF buddies. So it seemed natural when the engineer from Kansas named us the “Wesley Eight.”

A lifetime of friendship had seasoned my relationships with the Wesley Eight. By now our children were on their own, and our working careers were winding down. It was a time for contemplation. What had we made of life’s journey, and where would our last years take us?

I remember sitting on the Village Green in a small town in Vermont, on a bench beside Lake Chautauqua, New York, and on a rock beside the Grand Canyon. On each of these occasions, I shared my inmost feelings with one of the Wesley Eight. I had not experienced sharing at such depths before.

To this day, my body warms with these remembrances.

I am grateful that my mother sacrificed to keep me in Sunday School, so I could enjoy the lifetime of blessings that have followed.

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M arriage Milestones “Let marriage be held in honor among all.”

Hebrews 13:4

Asbury Family...

Making a Difference It didn’t take us long to fill the pages of this Tidings as we explored the subject of childhood lessons that are being passed on to the next generation. In addition to Janet Thomas being named Tulsa Public

Bill & Naomi Culver August 12, 1955 50 Years

Robert & Marguerite Keasler August 18, 1945 60 Years Dale & Joyce Pritchett July 9 - 45 Years John and Donna Miller August 29 - 40 Years .

Leonard & Kathy Szopinksi August 1 - 35 Years

Bob & Beverlyn Summers August 14, 1955 50 Years

Robert and Gene Treadwell July 7, 1945 60 Years

the Year, largely due to her investment in the A & W (Asbury and Walt Whitman) project. (This is our cover story this month.

See the inside front cover for more.)

Asbury’s June Scoggins was also honored

Jerry & Joy Greer August 22 - 35 Years

by being nominated by Whitman as Senior

Steve and Paula Berry August 9 - 30 Years

Volunteer of the Year.

Steve & Kathy Bunting June 13 - 25 Years

Dr. Dean VanTrease, former Tulsa

Kevin & Denise Jeter August 2 - 25 Years

Community College

Jeff & Jonna Polk August 2 - 25 Years

President (from 1970-

Don & Paula Hubbs August 16 - 25 Years

2004), and long-time

Jack & Isobel Bourns July 28 - 15 Years Al & Deborah Komarek June 10 - 5 Years Raymond & Michelle Goldesberry July 7 - 5 Years Wayne & Nancy Dirks August 5 - 5 Years

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Barbi Pagie was named TPS Volunteer of

Mike & Sandy Mastraccio August 21 - 35 years

Rick & Peggy Lisenbee August 3 - 20 Years

Willis & Rosy Cunningham August 20, 1950 55 Years

Schools Teacher of the Year (see page 9),

Congratulations to all couples celebrating Milestone Anniversaries this month.

To report your milestone anniversary, contact patticooper@cox.net or call 392-1146.

all photos submitted

Asburian, was recently inducted into the Higher Education Hall

Dr. Dean VanTrease

of Fame. Inductees must have performed outstanding meritorious service to higher education, above and beyond financial contributions.

Congratulations to these and the many other Asbury family members who make a difference in the lives of students...each and every day.

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