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The “12 Days of Christmas” is an interesting song! I know there’s a reason for the song, but honestly, I don’t get it. I am sure the song made sense once upon a time, but it seems quite strange to be singing about a partridge in a pear tree today. There are a lot of nonsensical things that Pastor Tom Harrison happen at Christmas time. 1.) Why do we give each other gifts? The wise men brought gifts to the Jesus – they didn’t swap the treasures among themselves. 2.) Some people who cannot afford Christmas presents buy them anyway using their credit cards. January’s credit card statement will not be a good way for them to start a New Year. 3.) People who cannot get along with each other during the year expect that somehow everything is going to be perfect during Christmas. It just doesn’t work that way. 4.) The kids who get the expensive toy they’ve been wanting end up saying, “More!” instead of “Thank you!” There are some other nonsensical things that happen at Christmas time, but these have an entirely different tenor. 1.) People who find the greatest joy in giving to others, not in getting more. That is not a message we hear often from American culture. 2.) The emotions that come from Christmas music do not make sense! Yet, this music is often so rich and spiritually full that it blesses us in ways that we can describe. 3.) Having cold weather makes it seem like Christmas to me. However, a “White Christmas” was far from the way it was with the original Christmas. 4.) The greatest nonsense of course, is the very reason for Christmas. That God would become a human being so that we might become children of God. This is such a profound mystery. It shows God’s goodness and greatness, and that the heart of God is to reach us. Isaiah 55:89 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” We will never be able to figure everything out in life. But we can still know God, and the Savior of the world, Jesus Christ. We pray that the peace of Christ will be in your heart this Christmas season. Merry Christmas to you and to yours!

Dr. Tom Harrison

CHRISTMAS SHOP Saturday, December 1 10:00 am - 2:00 pm Community Life Center Did you know there are approximately 175 single parents at Asbury, with 350 children to raise, and so many more just outside the doors of our church? During the Christmas season, it becomes more difficult for those families to make ends meet, and many children do not get to experience the joy of selecting and purchasing gifts for others. Through the Asbury Singles Ministry Christmas Shop, we hope to offer some relief from that pressure. On Saturday, December 1, kindergarten children through fifth graders coming from a single-parent home will have the opportunity, for just $5 each, to select gifts for their parents, grandparents and siblings. The Christmas Shop will be open to children of Asbury families, Grove Elementary School, Jenks East Elementary, Walt Whitman Elementary School and Youth at Heart. Individuals and Asbury communities are being asked to assist by providing small gifts for all ages, valued at no more than $5 each. Financial contributions are also appreciated to help with additional gift purchases and refreshments, as well as to fund scholarships for families in dire need. Unwrapped gifts or contributions may be brought on Sunday mornings to the singles “Meet & Greet” table in the CLC or during the week to the Adult Ministries office. All purchasing proceeds will be divided equally and returned to Grove, Jenks East Elementary, Walt Whitman and Youth at Heart. In addition to the purchase of gifts or financial contributions, volunteers are needed to assist with set-up and clean-up, greeting, registration, hospitality, wrapping gifts … the list goes on and on! To offer your services, email Gretchen at information@asmtulsa.com, as soon as possible, and begin praying for this inspired effort to bring the love of Christ to “the least of these.”

REAL MEN (no genius required) Attention Men of Asbury! Are You a REAL Man? What the heck does that even mean? We want to help encourage authentic manhood and give you some tools to deal with your past, be a genuine leader in your home and work and to invest in things that matter. Asbury Men are invited to a retreat where we’ll tackle what it means to be a REAL MAN! What: Retreat for REAL Men (no genius required!) Who: All Men of Asbury, 18+ are welcome When: Friday, January 11 , 7:00 p.m. through Saturday, January 12, 3:00 p.m. (return to Tulsa no later than 5:00 p.m.) Where: Camp Egan (near Tahlequah) Cost: $40 if registered before Christmas; $50 after that. Call 392-1177 for more information.

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n preparation for writing this column, I took the spiritual gifts inventory that is on the Asbury website. I’ve taken similar inventories before, and my results have always come out differently. In one season of my life, the gift of mercy came out on top. In another season, I had the gift of administration, which I found to be particularly odd since I had always taken a certain amount of pride in being happily unorganized. I took these inventories when I was much younger, and so many times my answers were based on who I wanted to be, not who I really am. It’s been about 15 years since I’ve taken a spiritual gifts inventory, and with age comes a certain amount of nonchalance about what other people think, so my answers were much more honest and real. Spiritual gifts inventories are great. Knowing your spiritual gift and using it is a beautiful thing, but because we are human and imperfect creatures still waiting for the day when we will be made whole, sometimes our perception of spiritual gifts can get a little messed up. It’s easy to think that these gifts are about us. In fact, it’s easy to think that this whole thing is about us. I took a class on spiritual gifts many

by Lisa Tresch years ago, and we shared the results of our inventory and talked about what we could do with our gifts to benefit the church. The first confession is: I fudged a little on my inventory. I answered the question with too much thought about other people’s perception of me. The second confession is: I was pretty happy with my result, because I thought it made me look good. Let’s face it, some of the gifts just sound more “spiritual” than others. Given the choice between Administration and Faith, what would you choose? The third confession: I got involved in a ministry that wasn’t a good fit for me because I thought it would impress God and all the good church folks I hung out with. It didn’t work out too well. I got grumpy with the other people in the ministry, and eventually I burned out on it and let some people down. I didn’t look so impressive after all. I suppose it’s taken me a while to learn the lesson that the gifts are not for or about us. This involves wrapping our

minds around the concept that we have been given a gift that is to be used for others. Most of our physical gifts, probably all of them, are given for us, and they usually are things that make us look good, feel good, or make life easier for us (my mother got a sewing basket from my father one year and it made her furious, so you have to be careful about those kind of gifts). Spiritual gifts, however, are not given to make us look good, feel good or make life easier. We may enjoy using them and feel a sense of fulfillment as we live out the purpose of the gifts in our lives, but they are given, as Paul says, “for the common good.” (1 Corinthians 12: 7) The gifts are given to help build up the entire Body of Christ, so that Body can be the light that shines Jesus to the world. The gifts that God has graciously given me are not mine. They are His, to be

used to build up His Body, for His glory. And when we use it for the Body, we are ultimately giving it back to God, over and over.

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Sing to Him. Sing praises to Him. Tell of all his marvelous works. I Chronicles 16:9

t 6 p.m. on the evening of December 9, the Sanctuary will be filled with voices of Young Musicians. They are giving the gift of music to all those who will listen, during Asbury’s annual Christmas Pageant. Ashlyn, McKenzie, Rachel, Melissa, Ariah, Emma, Sophia and Faye are veterans of the Pageant, having performed last year in the holiday production. The fourth, fifth and sixth graders all say their spiritual gifts are singing and acting. “I think it’s fun to sing and worship God,” says Ashlyn. “That’s why I joined choir.” The Young Musicians meet in the choir room every Wednesday evening. And for the past few weeks, they’ve been very busy practicing for the big event.

God brought Rachel to Asbury from another church. “When I found out there was a choir here, I wanted to be in it,” explains Rachel who had the “lead” role in last year’s performance. “Doing the Pageant has been my favorite part of choir.” All Young Musicians are encouraged to convey their spiritual gifts, and try out for a part in the Pageant. The roles include singing, acting and playing instruments. There are even scripts! The girls compared their experience of “trying out” to being on a TV show—but the big difference is that they’ll be in front of a live audience instead of a camera. “When I read my lines, I prayed to God that I would remember them,” reveals Emma who likes being in the spotlight. “I’m so enthusiastic about acting, that I forget how hard it is. I know God is with me.” At the heart of the Young Musicians is choir director Marti Morris. The girls all agree that Miss Marti makes serious things fun. With her gift

for teaching music, she offers the youngsters a chance to express themselves though peppy songs, slow songs, songs in different languages, and accompaniment with instruments made of common utensils. “Yes, it’s always fun,” says Faye. But along with the fun, this year’s Christmas Pageant will deliver a very important lesson about caring for others, even when they look different or wear different clothes. “The Pageant changes you,” states Melissa. “Getting in front of people and preaching the Word of God helps me look to the Bible, and look for the right way to do things.” McKenzie adds, “God said to me, just say your part and it will sound right. It’s great being able to spread His message.” And the Young Musicians will do just that . . .by breathing life into the season and giving voice to God’s Word with their special gifts. -Sylvia LaRose

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nowing and experiencing God requires a willingness to step out of our comfort zone. Remember Peter? He and the disciples saw Jesus walking on the water but only Peter stepped out of the boat and experienced the miracle of walking with Jesus on the surface of the lake. The story of Matthew 14:22-29 is a favorite of Robert Steele. Like Peter, he is learning to step out of what is familiar and comfortable. Through the process, God is growing his faith and giving him a love for evangelism. “It is so important to try and lead people to Christ and make new disciples,” says Rob. “Telling my story of how I came to Christ is easy for me; I love to talk and meet new people. This is very strange considering I am British!” Rob, who works in Christian broadcasting, grew up in Wimborne, a little town in southern England. In 2001, Rob married Meredith, whom he met while she was studying abroad, and they moved to Tulsa, where Meredith had family. It was difficult leaving the security of England, but over the next few

years God would continue to move Rob out of his comfort zone – logistically and spiritually. Rob’s childhood memory of church, where he attended occasionally with his grandmother, was a cold and drafty place where he was told to be quiet. “This put me off going to church and I never really had any knowledge of what being a Christian really meant,” recalls Rob. A co-worker invited the Steeles to church, where they attended for several months until Rob’s health began to decline. Constant debilitating headaches led to six months of different medications, tests and treatments. Doctors discovered an aneurysm behind Rob’s left eye. The news was terrifying. “I hung up the phone and started to cry thinking I was going to die,” recalls Rob. In June 2005, he had a craniotomy; a procedure where a piece of the skull was removed, the brain lifted up and the aneurysm is clipped. Around the time of Rob’s diagnosis, he and Meredith visited Asbury. Rob began to feel something missing from his life; like the “weight of the world on his shoulders” and he didn’t know how he would cope. “One night I asked Jesus to come into my life and forgive me for all my sins,” says Rob. “I asked for His help and thanked Him for dying for me so I could live.” With that simple prayer, Rob

woke the next morning as if “he didn’t have a care in the world”. Rob attended an Asbury men’s retreat where he found out about Alpha – a discovery that would have a profound impact on his life. Alpha is a course on basic Christianity that offers a safe place to meet others, ask questions, and exchange ideas in a relaxed atmosphere. “Before Alpha I wouldn’t really share my faith, now it is a huge part of who I am.” Rob and Meredith now help with Alpha and Alpha Sprouts, for children, ages 4-12. “Working with kids is one of the best things I have ever done. I hope by teaching them about Jesus, they won’t have the same experience of church I did as a child.” “It’s as if God laid out the footprints to follow and they led him to Asbury and Alpha,” says Rob. “If, through my testimony, I can bring one person to Christ then I just may have achieved what I was put on this earth to do.” Rob encourages Christians to step out of their comfort zone, discover how they’ve been gifted and use it for God’s glory and others’ good. “Using your gifts not only changes others’ lives, it will change your life too.” -Nikki Boyd

Feels compelled to share the good news of Christ and to win souls for God’s Kingdom. Has the ability to communi cate the Gospel naturally and effectively. Is deeply compassionate toward “lost” people.

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hey come in all colors and all sizes. They come from small towns and the big city. They come in all levels of education and awareness. However, regardless of who they are or where they come from, they usually have one thing in common: They’re scared and unsure of what lies ahead…they may be having feelings of self-consciousness and awkwardness; maybe even low self-esteem and depression. That is, until they meet Mollie and Jennifer…that is, until they see a reflection of Christ’s love and mercy. Yes, here they come—dressed in their navy blue scrubs, pushing their pink cart, and bringing with them their special gift of kindness and mercy…mercy that sees past the wound and sees the heart…mercy that looks past the physical and sees the spiritual…mercy that has the power to open a person’s heart…mercy that we are all searching for…mercy that we are all in dire need of. Mollie Hall and Jennifer Roark are registered nurses who work at St. Francis Hospital and every day they seek to fulfill the mission of Saint Francis: “To extend the presence and healing ministry of Christ in all we do.” As specialists in wound, ostomy, and

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Identifies with the need, heartache, and sorrow of others, and offers cheer and encouragement to the afflicted. Demonstrates genuine sensitivity to suffering, and responds to sufferers with soothing Christ-like care and compassion. (Romans 12:8)

continence care, they often see patients who are discouraged and at a very low point in their lives. By giving them encouragement, education, and the skills they need to care for themselves, they empower their patients to heal both physically and emotionally. It’s with a great sense of joy and humility that they use these wonderful talents that God has given them. Jennifer often encourages her patients by letting them know that, “None of us know what situations we will be faced with as we go through life, but it’s how we deal with them that

make the difference.” Jennifer has been in nursing for 38 years, and Mollie is not far behind with 30 years experience. Through the years, they have had opportunities to touch many people in very special ways. Recently a former patient called to say thank you—thankful because the ostomy no longer defined who she was or what she did. She had returned to a normal life. To say that these ladies work well together is an understatement. Mollie and Jennifer have worked together as a team since 1984. They laugh together and they cry together…they share special moments and “secrets”…they share common values and they are best friends. In a culture that glorifies aggression—it’s refreshing to see compassion. In a culture that promotes materialism—it’s nice to see unselfishness. In a culture that screams, “But what about me? What about my needs?”—it’s reassuring to hear, “Here, take my hand and let me help you.” In a culture that increasingly tries to tell us that God doesn’t exist—it’s nice to see, as evidenced in Mollie and Jennifer, that God indeed does exist! As Mollie encourages, “Always do your best because it is a reflection of God.” -Marcia Curley

Randy Patterson gives Terry Bales a lesson on proper use of the miter saw.

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ere, let me show you how,” Randy said. In this case of practical help, Randy was building a privacy fence for Virginia Huddleston, Asbury’s talented cook. Randy strives for excellence in any project, using his refined precision and pride in his work. This was the second fencing project that Randy had invited me to help with. He used those words: “Let me show you how,” to help me learn the right and best way to build something. Since I’ve known Randy (about a year), he’s shown me many ways of how to build something. He is physically a strong man, driving posts, but he is even stronger in his faith. In this important way he has helped me learn how to be stronger spiritually and psychologically, by following him in his walk and behavior. Most importantly, however, Randy has taught me how to be happy. He has determined that he is going to be happy in this blink of light

by Terry Bales on earth all the way to paradise. He has helped me so much in overcoming negativity that I have acquired in the past few years. I was happy in my younger years, but somewhere along the line, I completely forgot how to be joyful. Randy reminded me how. I have had the benefit of knowing many leaders at Asbury—Bill Johnson, Michiel Conner, and others. They have been a friend and have tried their best to show me how to become happy again. I fought their teaching. I finally let the teaching of Randy Patterson come though. For whatever reasons, my negative mindset was imbedded in my being and I really didn’t want to escape. Randy, without realizing what he was doing, released me from this negative pattern in my life. Now I have a wonderful feeling of happiness within my mind and heart again. I believe Randy carries this innate capacity of “how” to others

beside myself. He gives his all to helping others in practical matters and while doing so, touches them with his blessings in the Holy Spirit and by allowing others to see Jesus in his works. Along with the many other great leaders at Asbury, we thankfully, have Randy Patterson.

Communicates biblical and doctrinal information in such a manner that the body of Christ is motivated to learn. Loves to study and learn and, in turn, instructs others in the truths of God’s Word. (1 Corinthians 12:28-29; Romans 12:7)

n a Sunday school classroom with the innocent faces of four-year-old children looking up at her, Susan Palm was teaching the beautiful story of Jesus washing the disciples’ feet. She posed this question: “Boys and girls, how can you can help other people?” Immediately hands shot up in the air. One boy replied, “You can help them if they are hurt…unless it’s a serious injury… like a broken leg or something.” Susan replied, “What would you do to help if someone had a broken leg?” “Call 9-1-1, he stated matter-offactly,”and it’s toll free!” The adults in the room all chuckled. Another child raised a hand to add to this dialogue, “I know one way we can’t help others…only Jesus could die on the cross to save us from our sins.” “There is no bigger privilege than teaching children God’s Word,” Susan said. “They are like sponges. The most profound spiritual truths come from their mouths. And I believe that when I am studying the Bible and preparing a lesson for the children, God gives me a clear understanding of the truth from His Word because I give it to children. Teaching children is my passion and is part of my soul.” Susan was 15 years old when she surrendered her life to Christ. Her loving mother had always taken her to 9

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church while growing up in Oklahoma City. Susan’s father had suffered with the debilitating disease of Alzheimer’s, causing stress for everyone in the family. One night in desperation, Susan prayed: “Lord, I can’t do this. I want to be like you but I can’t. All that I have and all that I am, I give to you.” After that prayer, her heart warmed. Immediately following, Susan knew something was different. God had changed her heart and answered her prayer. Now, when God presents an opportunity to Susan, she wants to be in the center of His will even when it’s hard. “When opportunities arise, I’m not one to say, ‘Pick me.’ I usually say, ‘Oh man, this is out of my comfort zone!’ but I know God has blessings in store for me when I obey. And I’ve found that unless there’s a challenge, unless it costs me something sacrificially or is going to stretch me to grow,it’s probably not from Him.” She focuses on God’s sufficiency instead of her insufficiency. Susan’s most recent ministry opportunity came after a year of prayer

and many middle-of-the-night Godcentered ideas. She couldn’t go back to sleep until she wrote them down. Pretty soon, she had a drawer in her nightstand filled with notes. She continued praying about it and the class, “Teaching Minds…Training Hearts” came to fruition. This class was Susan’s answer to God’s call for Asbury to have a place to equip parents, volunteers and anyone who loves and teaches children. For Susan, the spiritual gift of teaching is just that, a gift. The blessings she receives from using her gift are extraordinary. “I learn from the children. If you’re going to teach it, you have to know it. And it’s not just teaching the children I love. I love what’s being taught,” she said. -Christy Capps

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Pastor Sonny Plischke and Gretchen Valentine.

laughed to myself when I read the description of the gift of administration. It perfectly described Gretchen Valentine, head of the Singles Ministry of Asbury. She has a passion and a commitment to this ministry, one she has led since 2003—almost five years. She thinks she could be the poster child for what can happen when laity is empowered to do ministry and she is passionate about doing just that. She believes in singles and their potential to bring unique gifts to Asbury. “I believe singles are a great, untapped resource of the church. They give their time, talents and gifts in every area of the church, even in the face of singleness,” said Gretchen. Asbury Tidings 10

rying to keep up with Gretchen is somewhat like trying to lasso a tornado. But even tornadoes eventually dissipate. Has she experienced such times of dissipation? Has she had periods of fatigue or burn out? “Truthfully, there was a time about two years ago when I had a difficult time. I was leading in a way, but I wasn’t delegating like I needed to. I have moved from being a ‘doer’ to being a ‘trainer.’ I have found that I love helping and encouraging others as they take responsibility for certain parts of the ministry. I want them to be all they can be,” she said. “I’m also no longer afraid to fail, instead I learn from my failures. Real failure is not doing anything.” Beginning January 1, 2008, Pastor Sonny Plischke will be assuming the role of Pastor for Singles. This is a joy to Gretchen for more than one reason—first, because he will bring an added dimension to the ministry and second, because it was Sonny who during a Walk to Emmaus brought Gretchen into a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. “At that 1991 Walk to Emmaus I not only met Mary Helen and Sonny, but also Linda Nagy who was sponsoring another lady at my table. I’m grateful for the influence they have been in my life. I was deeply moved by the whole experience.” Gretchen feels Sonny will bring wisdom, clarity and pastoral care to the singles. “To me Sonny is a friend, dad, fellow worker in Christ and a mentor. I know he will help with boundary issues and provide a layer of accountability. I feel truly blessed to have him in this position.”

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Gretchen believes that ministry to singles must be vital and lifechanging. “In a 2005 survey by George Barna, he found that 51.2 percent of the population 18 years and above were single. That’s quite a figure and shows there’s an open door for ministry to singles and to their children. I think we can be a positive influence within those families.” Because of this philosophy, Gretchen and her team are intentional about planning events that include children. One event, the brainchild of Michelle Caine, was the Christmas Shop, a first-time event for the singles, but Gretchen welcomed it with zest. “We envisioned this as an annual event. In Asbury we have 175 single parents who with 350 children. We wanted those children and others to find a place here and to know we care about them,” she explained. In addition to those Asbury children, the Christmas Shop was available to youngsters from Youth at Heart, Jenks East, Walt

Enjoys organizing or delegating others into organized systems for effective ministry. Evaluates what needs to be done, then designs systems or gives responsibilities to those who can get the job done. (1 Corinthians 12:28)

Whitman and Grove elementary schools. “We wanted to disciple those children and their parents,” she added. The Christmas Shop provided gifts for people of all ages, valued at no more than $5 each. Asbury’s communities responded through gifts or money donations. They also volunteered to be mentors to help wherever needed. The children came on December 1 to shop for their families. A mentor was with each child while the parent relaxed in the Breakaway area where they enjoyed food, music and conversation with other volunteers. A few years back Gretchen took a class on “Discovering Your Life’s Purpose.” It was life-changing for her. Through that she discovered the futility of serving without God’s call or the spiritual gifting to carry it out. “Before, when I would serve I noticed a pattern. I would start with enthusiasm, full of energy, eager to serve—time goes by—enthusiasm dies, energy is gone, commitment drops, meetings are missed and eventually I would quit. In that class I learned that my ministry must be motivated by love, not obligation and that God’s anointing is present when we are serving God’s purpose. I discovered I needed to listen to what God is putting on my heart—no ‘I should’ or ‘I ought to’—instead, it should be a matter of the heart. Doing good deeds isn’t enough, it has to be your passion!” she said. Gretchen is passionate . . . and committed . . . and effective . . . and energetic. Yes, somewhat like a tornado, but one that is able to harness that energy for the singles of Asbury! -Sandy Wagner

hris and Missy Cooper have learned to keep the refrigerator stocked with food for hungry teenagers. Besides their three boys, there is a whole crowd of Asbury students who have learned that the door (including the refrigerator door) of the Cooper home is open to them. At the end of a winding street in a south Tulsa neighborhood is a sprawling house where teenagers are always welcomed, but the Coopers don’t just open the door for them, they open their hearts to them also. Sixteen years ago, Chris and Missy were asked to teach the 11th grade class at Asbury. “I expected it to be like teaching little kids where you’d see them on Sunday, and that would be it,” Missy

Welcomes others to life in the body of Christ with a natural warmth and friendliness. Has special interest in opening one’s home and resources for ministry. (Hebrews 13:2)

said. “But I was blindsided. I fell head over heels in love with these kids. They would show up at our house on Friday nights just to hang out. They wanted more than someone to show up on Sunday morning. They wanted relationships.” As a young married couple, the Coopers began having their own children and stepped away from the ministry so they could be involved in Children’s Ministry. A few years ago, however, they came back for several

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reasons. “Most decisions for Christ are made as a child or teenager,” said Chris. “It’s awesome to see people come to know Him. Also, I love the uninhibited nature of these kids when it comes to worship and service. So often it is students who are ‘sold out’ to Christ and furthering His kingdom. Who doesn’t want to be around people like that?” Both Chris and Missy became believers when they were teenagers. Chris was in junior high, and Missy a senior in high school. They realize the importance of these years and are intentional about building relationships and discipling the students. “I don’t think students are looking for just another way to spend their time,” Chris says. “I do think they are looking for someone they can trust – someone other than a

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parent. Building relationships is the only way to establish that trust.” “It brings me joy to be an encourager,” Missy says. “It’s such a great purpose. Everyone needs a cheerleader.” But the ministry has not been without challenges. Chris and Missy agree that it has been hard to watch students who have walked away from Christ and made poor choices. “It’s hard to see them struggle when you can see the outcome is going to make things so difficult for them,” says Missy. They have seen students hurt by divorce, doubt and poor self-image. Yet they continue to open their home and heart to the students with energy and enthusiasm despite the busy lives they lead. “I do recognize what we do as a gift, because it isn’t work or stressful, it’s

Is the “cheerleader” of the church. Comes to the side of others with words of comfort, encouragement, counsel, and/or motivation. Blesses others with a strong sense of concern and is often compelled to give advice, providing wise steps toward full spiritual maturity. (Romans 12:8) joyful,” says Missy. “It has also given our marriage another facet that makes me feel so close to God, and Chris.” “It’s easy to make time if it’s something you love to do,” Chris says. “Leading a small group and being with the students really gives me a good perspective. Sometimes as responsible adults who have lots of pressing issues, we lose eternal perspective. We are all called to ‘spur one another on toward love and good deeds…encourage one another, and all the more as you see the day approaching.’” (Hebrews 10: 24-25) So the door of the Cooper home will continue to be open for students, and, as Missy says, there will always be food for hungry students. -Lisa Tresch

et’s be honest. For many of us, giving generously just doesn’t come naturally, but rather our attitude is often like getting the flu shot—we do it because we know it’s “good for us.” But for others, giving is a source of great joy and satisfaction, and they truly would rather give than receive. Mike and Susan Burkhart have learned to be cheerful givers as they have exercised and developed their spiritual gift of giving. Mike and Susan have been married for 32 years, and have two sons and one grandson. For Susan, being raised in a Christian home gave her knowledge of the Lord from as far back as she can remember, but in the 5th grade her love for Him matured because of an awesome Sunday school teacher who taught passionately from the Bible. As the years passed, her walk with the Lord took a few detours, but after moving back to Tulsa, she remembers that Tom Harrison’s sermons, about letting others know about your faith, changed her life. She understood for the first time that “confessing with your mouth Jesus as Lord isn’t just about baptism, but is a daily expression of who I am.” Mike was born into a very strong Christian home, even once considering the ministry. “Ironically, it was also college and early post graduate life, when my relationship with the Lord was weakest. Susan and I have had many church homes during our marriage, as my career always relocated us to another town about every 3-4 years. Finally, when the decision to take a job in Tulsa that hopefully would be permanent and

finding Asbury, my spiritual life begin to really mature. We have been attending Asbury for 15 years . Praise the Lord!!” said Mike. Mike and Susan both had an amazing legacy of family members who were very influential as they “walked the walk as well as talked the talk.” Mike’s grandfather especially, was “the most generous man we have ever known” while he was alive, but they discovered after his death that he was giving in many ways that no one knew about. He was a living example of Matthew 6:1-4 “Beware of practicing your righteousness before men to be noticed by them; otherwise you have no reward with your Father who is in heaven. When therefore you give alms, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they many be honored by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. But when you give alms, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your alms may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will repay you.” Susan’s family has inspired them by being generous with their time, love, kindness and compassion; their servant attitudes have been a blessing to many. Susan remembers being the Red Cross representative in the 5th grade, where one project was to assemble Christmas stockings for those in need. The satisfaction she received was unmatched, and she was forever hooked on giving. Susan says Mike has always been a very generous person, “I have even seen him literally give someone the shirt off his back.”

Besides being very influential through their faith walk, Mike’s parents were honored this year as Philanthropists of the Year for western Texas. “I think the concept of “giving” was one of the attractions Susan and I had for each other when we first met and started dating,” explained Mike. “It was something we had in common and I think an important ingredient to the success of our marriage.” Asbury and the Tulsa community have been blessed by the Burkhart’s generosity in many ways. For the past several years, they have arranged for musician Peter Mayer to come to Tulsa for benefit concerts. As Susan explains, “Peter Mayer concerts are win-win situations. We get to hear his beautiful, poetic way of worshipping the Lord while the proceeds benefit a charitable organization. In addition, the income from merchandise sales is tithed to the church.” Some of the ministries benefiting from these concerts have been Goodland Academy, Celebrate Recovery, and Tanzania missions. Asbury’s Senior Pastor Tom Harrison, is especially appreciative of the Burkhart’s support of Asbury Theological Seminary. As Tom recalls, “Mike and Susan have been to some Asbury Theological Seminary events and have realized how important a strong seminary education is to the future of our church, because today’s seminarians are tomorrow’s pastors. Last year, shortly before my prostate cancer surgery, Mike and Susan showed me a check for $23,583 that was raised to help start a scholarship fund for ATS students named in my Asbury Tidings 14

Mike and Susan Burkhart (right) with musician Peter Mayer and other family members.

honor. This was a wonderful tribute. I know the money will be spent in extremely helpful ways. I deeply appreciate Mike and Susan’s leadership in this endeavor.” The Burkharts are especially fond of giving to organizations that teach people how to take care of themselves, such as Methodist Boys Ranch, Habitat for Humanity, and Exodus House. They even see their new furniture business, where Susan is currently spending most of her time, as an opportunity to give others employment. It’s another example of how their generosity is shown in creative ways—way beyond just “writing the check.” In giving this way, they bring others alongside and multiply 15

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Is a natural, generous, and cheerful giver. Perceives needs and responds to them. Is sensitive to how money is spent and saved. Focuses on the financing of ministries and sets the standard and pace for giving. (Romans 12:8)

their investment of time, energy and talents, as well as finances. Not only do Mike and Susan receive great joy and satisfaction from giving, but they consider it a serious responsibility. They genuinely desire to be good stewards of God’s resources, and as Susan shares, “we have found that He always leads us in the right direction if we keep the lines of communication open between Him and us. Everything is from God, He is just letting us borrow it while we are here on earth. We want to do the wisest thing possible with the gift he has given us. To God be the glory!!!” -Juli Armour

he Asbury website offers a Spiritual Gifts Inventory to help determine your spiritual gifts – unique and individualized! My passions are as a Teacher, Pastor-Shepherd, and for Knowledge. Anyone who knows me pretty well wouldn’t be surprised by that. The inventory helps identify my core God-given passions, and also helps reveal “latent” areas which can be nurtured as I continue to grow into an ever-maturing disciple. I also find it very informative that the inventory points out the “danger zone” of each gift if it becomes misused. For example, I love to teach from the scriptures. The inventory says my danger zone is that I may miss the obvious which is what most people need while trying to discover deeper truth. My danger, easily put, is that I need to be aware of digging too deeply. So, you might say, my goal needs to be to reveal truth and not exhaust it or the people! (Romans 12:6-7b and Colossians 3:16) As a Pastor-Shepherd I encourage people to work together for the Body’s sake with an emphasis on harmony and spiritual health. My danger zone is that I can become manipulative so my goal needs to be providing strong leadership without manipulating other persons. (Ephesians 4:11 and 1 Peter 5:2-4) The other passion out of which I tend to work and reflect upon concerns the gift of Knowledge which has to do with the revelation of certain facts in the mind of God. According to this inventory, this type of knowledge is not the amplification of human knowledge, but rather the receiving of specific truth from the Word of God. More easily put: Divine Insight! The very real danger with this gift is making others feel inferior or ignorant. So my goal is to focus on changed lives rather than trying to impress them. (I Corinthians 12: 7-8 and 8: 1b-2) I seek to tie each of these passions into my functions as a minister and

especially in my joy of serving Christ, the Asbury family, and those they associate with through the ministry of pastoral care. Spiritual gifts which are under-utilized for Christ quickly die and fall away like leaves in an Oklahoma fall, but gifts which are put into service for Christ just find new paths to grow and positively influence the Kingdom of God. Do you know what your Spiritual gifts are and have you offered them back to Christ for service in His Kingdom?

s a pastor—an old pastor— most of the spiritual gifts manifest themselves in and through me. As I have taken spiritual gifts in victories over the years more of the gifts keep coming. If I must name one, it would be the gift of mercy. God has given me a heart for people and their needs. It is not natural for me to listen and respond to others as they share their concerns. Long ago I learned that God ultimately meets our needs, so I do not feel a heavy load on my shoulders. Seeing people reach the understanding that God does provide gives me great joy.

y primary spiritual gift is Evangelism and Pastor/ Shepherding; there is only a one point difference between the two. Ephesians 4:11-12 gives a clearer view of what evangelism is, “It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.” The Scripture above states that a

person who has the gift of evangelism is one who is called to motivate and train Christian laymen to preach the Gospel. By this I mean that the body of Christ, individually should be sharing Christ at every opportunity that is given them.

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ollow the ways of love and eagerly desire spiritual gifts, especially the gift of prophecy. For anyone who speaks in a tongue does not speak to men but to God. Indeed, no one understands him; he utters mysteries with his spirit. But everyone who prophesies speaks to men for their strengthening, encouragement and comfort” (1 Corint. 1:1-3). Over the last 66 years of my life I have found myself being an encourager which is part of being a prophet, I love to cheer someone on to victory, to accomplish great things, to be a winner . . . not a whiner. What we say and how we encourage a person, especially a child will mold that person into what they will be someday. As a youngster playing baseball I could always hear above the rest of the crowd my dad’s voice, “Pitch to him son, you can do it.” And sometimes after a game my mother saying to me, “It’s all right Sonny, you didn’t win tonight but you pitched a great game. Next time!” In my parents eyes I was always a winner. Not too long ago when Mary Helen and I were at the Mall, or Maul as I like to call it, I overheard a dad saying to his child, who evidently had done something wrong, “That’s about the stupidest thing I’ve seen lately, maybe I ought to rename you dummy.” So, how do we encourage another person: in a positive sense, or as someone who plants seeds of being a “dummy” in the soul of an individual? I choose to tell someone, “God does not ever create junk, but rather persons of worth, priceless, as we are created in the image of our Heavenly Father. So how does it work, that is, to be an Asbury Tidings 16

encourager? Most of you know I am a golf junkie I love the game! One day at LaFortune Golf course I saw one of Asbury’s finest playing on the hole behind me. He was just getting ready to hit to the green when I pulled up and said to him, “Don’t let me bother you but I just wanted to see you make a great shot.” With that he hit just a couple of feet short, but right at the pin. I clapped and said, “Great shot,” and drove back to the tee box to hit my next shot. Just a couple of minutes later I heard this yell, and someone saying, “Hey Sonny, I just chipped in for a birdie!” It really is amazing what encouragement, being a cheerleader will do in the life of another person. Why not try it? You might be surprised what affect it has on another person, and perhaps even you. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). AND SO CAN YOU!

ust about my favorite place to be is in front of a classroom of people, all with open Bibles together, exploring the inspired Word of the Scriptures. With the primary spiritual gifts of teaching and exhortation, I am energized with Bible study and Bible teaching, as well as encouraging God’s people to make daily application of Biblical principles in their lives. Those spiritual gifts, mixed together with the heart of a pastor (pastor/shepherd), I absolutely love walking along with God’s people as together we line up our lives with principles that the Lord has revealed in His Word.

am not always comfortable being a leader. There are tough decisions that need to be made, hard truths to face and confrontations that some17

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times have to take place in the life of a leader. Sometimes I wish I didn’t have to fill the role of a leader but God has gifted me with the tools to lead and a calling to use those tools. I am learning that I must surrender my own comfort (and pride, but that is another story) to be obedient in serving Him. My prayer is that, by God’s grace alone, I might use the gifts He has given me to influence those around me with the light of Christ.

way toward erasing loneliness and isolation. In a church the size of Asbury, it is possible for someone to feel alone in the midst of thousands of people on Sunday morning. When you can look people in the eye and let them know you’re glad they’re present, people feel nurtured and valued. They no longer feel alone. And they come away from a hospitable experience feeling better about themselves and the people they’ve been with. I have had some wonderful encounters with people simply by offering a smile or a kind word. It’s a simple thing. It usually takes very little extra time. But the blessings that come from such simple acts always fill my heart in unexpected ways.

y spiritual gifts are primarily that of Pastor/shepherding and Leadership. Being a pastor means to pay attention to what is going on currently in the lives of people. I love this role. I find great meaning in getting to know people and take great joy in having these relationships last for years. I still have conversations with people in the churches I have previously served (Vici, Sallisaw, and Sunny Lane). I also have the gift of leadership. I cannot stand it if something is not getting done. I like looking ahead and thinking, “How can we do this?” or “How can we do this better?” On the one hand, I like the “status quo” of being in relationship with people. On the other hand, I recoil at the idea of not changing and getting better. Sometimes these two spiritual gifts create conflict for me, but that is how God gifted me.

ospitality is more than a spiritual gift for me. It is also a core value. Too many people are isolated and alone in our world. A friendly smile and welcoming word goes a long

ow great it is to be a part of the congregation that believes in, seeks to discover, and structures ministries so that everyone in the church can utilize their spiritual gifts! I became aware of spiritual gifts over 30 years ago when my spiritual life really began to mature, beginning with the infilling of the Holy Spirit. I have been through many books, courses, teachings, seminars, and conferences dealing with gifts of the Holy Spirit and, as a result, I have come to this conclusion... that the gifts of the Holy Spirit are just that, the Holy Spirit’s gifts. And the good news is that He distributes them as He wills in order for Christ to be lifted up and God to be glorified. This means that as we are faithful to make ourselves available, He is faithful to make us capable! So my question is this... in what ways are you allowing Him to make you capable as you make yourself available to Him on a regular and even daily basis? At church? At home? In your neighborhood? Everywhere you go?

by Sylvia LaRose

’m one of those nutty people who actually enjoys eating Christmas fruitcake. Although, one or two slices is usually enough to satisfy my seasonal craving. I’ve often experienced varied reactions to the giving and receiving of fruitcake too, like “Thanks, I’ll try some later.” Or, “Gee, another opportunity for regifting.” And even, “Oh dear, one more fruit-laden, rum-soaked confection from Aunt Barbara to put in the freezer.” Once I heard that there’s really only one hard, stale fruitcake floating around the world that’s been passed from person to person every year since time began. Is there any holiday food product that is more ridiculed and parodied than the poor fruitcake? So to get the story straight, I did a little investigating. According to historians, the fruitcake dates back to times prior to the birth of Jesus. In ancient Rome, raisins, pine nuts and pomegranate seeds were added to barley mash as a hearty, compact food for the conquering legions. Egyptian fruitcake laced with honey was considered essential food for the afterlife. Centuries later, Europeans added preserves, nuts and spices, bumping the status of fruitcake up to decadent dessert. The fruitcake as we know it today evolved from English plum cake recipe of the late 1700s. In those times, there was a “plum cake law” restricting the dried fruit creation to Christmas, Easter, weddings, christenings and funerals. It became a traditional food to have on hand for holiday celebrations since it could be made in ad-

vance, and families could be prepared to serve fruitcake as a treat, or exchange as a present. So why give a fruitcake as a holiday gift? Well, I like to think it’s because that sweet something was made with loving hands, meant for someone special. It’s a gift from the heart that beckons all to eat, drink and be merry as we celebrate the coming of Jesus. I truly believe that if the masses had been invited to the birth of the Christ Child in Bethlehem, a homemade fruitcake would have been among the gold, frankincense and myrrh. Just in case you’ve never tried fruitcake, or (in spite of the jokes) want to try baking your own for giftgiving. I’ve included an easy recipe with fruits of the Spirit to guide you. Like crafting a relationship with God, the process may be trying, but should produce a colorful outcome of exceptional quality! And one small reminder: I may be nuts about fruitcake, but please don’t give one to me this year. I still have a dozen of Aunt Barbara’s finest in my freezer. -Sylvia LaRose

J EWELED F RUITCAKE 2 c. dried apricots (Galatians 5:22) 1 ½ c pitted dates (Genesis 1:11) 1 c. red and green maraschino cherries (Leviticus 23:40) 1½ c. nuts (Genesis 43:11) 1 c. candied pineapple, cut up (Deuteronomy 33:14) ¾ c. all purpose flour (Leviticus 2:1) ¾ c. sugar (Psalms 119:103) ½ tsp. baking powder (I Corinthians 5:6) ½ tsp. salt (Matthew 5:13) 3 eggs (Jeremiah 17:11) 1 ½ tsp. vanilla (Matthew 7:17) Heat oven to 300. Line loaf pan with aluminum foil, grease. Mix all ingredients and spread in pan. Bake 1¾ hours, until wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool, wrap and store in refrigerator.

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Ethel among some of the wonderful gifts she makes for the shurt-ins on her list.

thel Hubbard, a petite great-grandmother, could have been the prototype for the Energizer Bunny. Gifts that she has created and shared have multiplied throughout the community as have the collection of bunnies she loves to use in decorating her home. As well as being a homemaker, Ethel has been a realtor for over 40 years. She and husband John have raised four children who have added nine grandchildren and six great-grand children to their family. Even with this busy schedule she is continually involved in projects that use her spiritual gift of giving. Ethel admits that her busy life can be a balancing act. “I do look for projects and ministries to fit when I have available time,” Ethel says. This means she is often up late laboring over a gift. At the heart of her giving is a deep wellspring of creativity. Ethel has been involved in Asbury’s Care Ministries for over 30 years. Each Christmas she creates gifts to be delivered to shut-ins. Over the years she led volunteers in making from 40 to 100 gifts a year. The shutins are Asburians and non-Asburians as well. They reside in different places 19

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throughout the community. Volunteers visit on a regular basis. At Christmas, delivering Ethel’s projects add a special glow to the visits. Ethel admits collecting or shopping for craft items to create each project can be a year-long endeavor. She can find items at craft shows and supplies at discount stores that will spark an idea and soon she will be producing enough individual gifts for each on the shut-ins list. At times Ethel’s family joins in to help with projects by drilling holes, wiring lights, attaching small decorations. Ethel cares for her six-year-old granddaughter Kate after school. Kate loves to be a part of the projects. Volunteers make cookies to go along with the gift and a note from Asbury is added to the holiday package. The recipients have told Ethel that they enjoy displaying something new for others to come and see. Projects include such things as uniquely decorated trees, a bottle filled with tiny strings of lights painted with holiday charm, angels, and many more. Over the years original gifts have gone out all over the community to bring the spirit of Christmas through giving to thousands of people.

Ethel’s giving is not limited to her annual Christmas projects. Recently she has assisted the prison ministry in creating theme baskets to be auctioned at their fund raiser. She also joins with Prudential Realtors in planning a Christmas party for children at a local child care center. She and John have the opportunity to share their giving spirit with other members of the Friendship community. Ethel says her creative skills were honed at a young age. “Growing up in a small town and having few resources you learned to make everything you wanted.” She actually started sewing at the young age of four. Later she remembers going to the milling company to get printed sacks to make clothes using her own patterns. One of her daughter’s favorite childhood memories is an example her mother set. They had learned of a baby who had no clothes. That need was immediately addressed by her mother who told her, “Don’t dwell on it, just live it.” It is not surprising that she has passed her giving spirit on to her children who are involved in giving ministries at their churches in Georgia, Louisiana and Tulsa. Ethel has returned the gift of creativity given her by blessing many over the years with her spiritual gift of giving. -Liz Reece

Happy Birthday, Grandpa John! The children at Asbury all know him as “Grandpa John.” 0ur own John Westervelt will celebrate his 80th birthday in December. We hope you will join with us in thanking Grandpa John for his service to the children of Asbury’s preschool program where John volunteers five days a week! His love for Jesus Christ and his commitment to Asbury’s children has inspired all who serve in Children’s Ministry. You can enjoy stories from Grandpa John online at www.jwestervelt.com

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s a young teenager, I experienced a chemistry change, and suddenly I began to notice girls. I liked what I saw. Ten years later, I found a pretty girl who agreed to marry me. That same chemistry encouraged Nelda and me to have a family. Now 65 years after the arrival of this mysterious chemistry, it keeps hanging around and can be a source of temptation. A few years ago the Holy Spirit led me to a “First Peanut” theory to help control temptation. I recalled my days as an officer on a naval destroyer during the Korean War. The supply officer told me he finally received a shipment for the ship’s store that included some canned peanuts. I bought a can of peanuts and

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went to my quarters for a break before supper. I decided to taste one peanut. That led to another, and finally I ate the entire can. Just like eating the first peanut, a first look can lead to trouble. TV commercials can be provocative for me. When they are, I close my eyes, mute the sound, and visit with Jesus about Ariella. I picture in my mind a multitude of people following Jesus across Galilee from Capernaum to Nain. The countryside is green from the winter rains, but the road approaching the city gate outside Nain is dusty from the trampling of the feet of people and animals. Coming out of Nain is a crowd carrying a coffin. Jesus knows that the woman who is sobbing uncontrollably

is Ariella, a widow and the mother of the dead boy. As Jesus draws closer, He stops His dialogue with the multitude and focuses all of His attention on Ariella. Walking up to her and looking into her tear-filled eyes, He says, “Do not weep.” Touching the coffin, Jesus says, “Young man, arise.”Galen sits up and speaks to his mother. Ariella turns to Jesus with gratitude showing on her face and asks, “How can I ever thank you?” “Ariella, all that I ask is that you continue to love all My children in Nain as you have in the past, for as you love them, you are also loving Me.” By the time I open my eyes and restore the sound, the TV is back to the ball game. Asbury Tidings 20

ometimes people can’t picture teenagers affecting this world. Teens have so much on their plates that they most likely wouldn’t focus on serving others. But the freshman with the bright red hair is dispelling this belief. His name is Sam Bevilacqua and his heart has been focused on serving since he started attending Asbury about eight months ago. His family heard about Asbury from their next door neighbors. They made the switch from another church earlier this year because his family had heard about the youth group at Asbury and they wanted to check it out. Sam immediately started getting involved with service opportunities the youth group had to offer, starting with Project Transformation, a summer camp held at various churches around Tulsa for elementary-aged children who come from underprivileged homes. “The first project was a new experience and I was slightly reluctant to go,” Sam said. At Project Transfor-

mation, Sam and the other teens working there made a lot of arts and crafts relating to the food pyramid and played duck-duck-goose with the younger children. He continued to get involved with projects offered in both the youth group and elsewhere at church. “I love the service projects at Asbury,” Sam said. “They are the best thing about this church.” Sam’s favorite has been the Food Bank. “It was my favorite because most of my friends were there, I made new friends, and I felt as if my work there had an immediate affect on society and it was as if God’s love was being shown through us as we worked. It was so much fun, though, that it didn’t seem like work.” Sam has also worked in H2O, the Sunday school for third and fourth graders, and he was sent, during the heat of the summer, to pick green beans. “I was a little surprised that my church sent me to pick green beans, but it was fun.” Through the projects he has worked in, he has made many friends and he has also grown in his relationship with God. “The pleasure I get out of serving keeps me in more church activities, helping me focus more on God.” Sam wants to continue to work and serve, and is planning on going on the Mexico mission trip with other ninth and tenth graders this coming spring break. “I think it will be a new

Interested in serving the Lord by blessing others in practical ways. Sees practical needs and desires to meet them. Is motivated by a strong sense of need, care, and concern for others. (Romans 12:7) experience because I’ve never been on one. I’ll build better relationships with my friends and with God.” Sam’s dedication to serving God reiterates the catchphrase of Mark Fowler, the junior high youth director. He says that he believes teenagers can change the world. Sam Bevilacqua is living out Mark’s belief, spending his free time for the glory of his God and to help other people. He says that he loves doing it and wants to keep volunteering, to grow in his relationships with others and his relationship with God. When asked what he looks forward to doing in the future, Sam simply says, “Everything. I love it all.” -Erin Tresch

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f, like me you are lacking the spiritual gift of hospitality, you may think such a gift enables a person to supernaturally keep a perfectly clean house, which is ready for unexpected visitors at any given moment. You may think that gift includes the ability to perform the miracle of the loaves and fish, whereby the host miraculously feeds twelve people a fabulous meal with only two pork chops and a half jar of applesauce.

Welcomes others to life in the body of Christ with a natural warmth and friendliness. Has special interest in opening one’s home and resources for ministry. (Hebrews 13:2)

Susan displays a joyful spirit as she serves food at Celebrate Recovery on Monday nights or at the Salvation Army.

But when I looked at Scripture regarding hospitality––mainly 1 Peter 4, Romans 12, and Hebrews 13––I learned two things. Each of these passages begins with love. To summarize: Keep loving one another deeply with a brotherly love. And secondly, be hospitable. All Christians are exhorted to love others and be hospitable––not just those who are gifted with it! Recently, I visited with Frank Foreman about his good friend, Susan Stockwell. Frank and Susan have

known one another since 1996 and have been “pew buddies” at Asbury since 2000. Frank explained how Susan exemplifies the gift of hospitality in her daily life. “What really formed my friendship with Susan was when she met my son, Andy. Susan, having a soft spot in her heart for children of single parents, adopted Andy. She has been so supportive of and helpful to me over the years and has been a positive influence on Andy’s life. She has attended many of his concerts, plays, school programs, and scouting events. And Andy is certainly not the only child that Susan has adopted,” said Frank. “I know of at least two others she has taken under her wing.” As long as Frank has known Susan she has been “involved in two or three different ongoing missions projects and service organizations at the same time.” This includes serving breakfast monthly at the Salvation Army with her community, serving dinner weekly at Celebrate Recovery, and visiting prisoners weekly at the Tulsa County Jail through the prison ministry. “She is constantly involved in various other projects like rounding up hand-me-down furniture for some single parent who is down on her luck or raising money for a friend who is having

surgery. And the list goes on and on,” said Frank. “Much of what I have learned about being a servant and disciple of Christ,” Frank enthused, “I have learned by watching Susan and being involved in various missions projects with her.” Susan’s gift of hospitality enables her to meet new people, make them feel welcome, and set them at ease in unfamiliar surroundings. “It is part of her mission in life to make people feel special and wonderful and loved,” said Frank. Paul wrote to the Corinthians about spiritual gifts, claiming “And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love” (1 Corinthians 13: 13). Susan demonstrates love for friends and strangers by using her God-given gift of hospitality. Frank said he is “forever thankful and indebted to her” for the difference she has made in his life and that of his son. Being hospitable may involve serving meals or visiting prisoners, but it is mainly about caring for and valuing others. It is mainly about love. When we love and serve others we are serving God, and it has nothing to do with pork chops or applesauce. -Stephanie Hurd

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e had been visiting relatives in Kansas for Thanksgiving and were on our way home. Jay gave five dollars to each of our kids so that they could stretch their legs a bit while they shopped at the craft mall on the side of the highway. Handmade wooden toys and crocheted knick-knacks lined the shelves. Our serious shoppers contemplated their purchases as they strolled up and down the aisles. Eager to get back on the road, we hurried them into the car and began the journey home. I can’t remember what Jason and Joy purchased that day, although it was most likely the multiple-flavored candy sticks that filled the mason jars by the cash register. But I’ll never forget what Jennifer bought with her five dollar bill. An indelible memory was forged as I looked over my shoulder to see

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by Jan Weinheimer her wedged between her siblings in the back seat. Her legs were too short to touch the floor and her dimples seemed to dig deeper into her chubby cheeks as she struggled to suppress a smile. In the corrugated box on her lap was a gift so special that she was compelled to lift the lid and peek inside every few minutes to be reassured that the treasure was still there. It was obvious that Jennifer was fighting the desire to heave the box over the front seat so that I could share in the excitement; but she conquered the temptation. The surprise was far too special to waste on a simple drive somewhere between Marion, Kansas and Tulsa. Whatever was in that brown box was worthy of being wrapped in shiny paper and adorned with curly ribbon bows. Christmas morning arrived and I finally had permission to open the prized package.

A little tin tub the size of a coffee mug held cotton balls which spilled over to emulate soapsuds. Three little corks sat atop the bubbles. They had faces painted on them and somehow were made to look like three little piglets. Two of them wore bonnets. A silver pipe cleaner emerged from the “bubbles” and was bent to portray a shower. Twenty-five years later I still smile every time I think of that tub of pigs. Jennifer had hand-picked the perfect present for a mother of three children and had anxiously awaited the day I would finally open it. I imagine God must feel a bit like Jennifer did. He knows and loves us and has carefully chosen perfect gifts for us...and eagerly anticipates the day we will open them. “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father.” James 1:17

asbury opportunities general information Breakfast Served from 7:15-9:00 am. in the CLC. Come enjoy fellowship with Asburians along with fresh donuts, bagels, biscuits & gravy, sausage, eggs, fruit, and cereal. $2 for adults & $1 for children 12 & under. Sunday Morning Worship 8:00 am Mason Chapel (Traditional Communion) 9:15 am Sanctuary (Contemporary) 9:15 am Open House Worship (CLC) (Acoustic Worship, Casual Setting) 11:00 am Sanctuary (Traditional with sign interpreter) 11:00 am Mason Chapel (Modern) Thursday Night Worship 6:45 - 8:00 pm Simply Worship (CLC) (Casual, Praise and Worship) Sundays for Children and Students 6 Weeks - 4 Years 8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am K-6th Grades 9:15 or 11:00 am 7th, 8th & 9th Grades 9:15 & 11:00 am 10th, 11th & 12th Grades 9:15 am only Adult Discipleship Communities 8:00, 9:15, & 11:00 am and Wednesdays, 6:30 pm Family Night Dinners Wednesdays, 5:00-6:00 pm in the CLC. Cost: $5-adults, $3-children ages 2-12, $20 maximum per family. Surgery or Hospitalization Scheduled? Be sure to let Asbury know ahead of time by calling Ruth at 392-1146 so your pastors can be in prayer for you. When you enter the hospital, please designate Asbury as your church. The after-hours pastoral emergency line can be reached by calling 492-1771, selecting option 2, and leaving a message for the pastor on call. Engaged Couples If you are planning to use an Asbury pastor to officiate and/or use Asbury’s facilities, be sure to book ASAP to allow ample time for Couple-toCouple (required pre-marital sessions). Six months to one year lead time suggested. The Gazebo is Open CDs of Tom’s message of the day are available immediately following the worship service - $3. Recycling Recycle unwanted paper products. Three bins are available, located in the south and east parking lots. 25

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Asbury Family News is available at the Welcome Centers. It includes hospital lists, births, deaths, marriages, baptisms and military listings. Doors of Asbury posters are at the Welcome Centers...FREE! Suitable for framing. New Additions to the Library The Asbury Library is a wonderful resource. Thank you to all who continue to contribute books to our Library.

access Hands of Love Sign Choir Sundays, 6:00-7:00 pm, Rm. 2821 Friends in Christ Discipleship Community Sundays, 11:00 am, Rm. 1507

bible study Brochures with details about Fall ‘07 RoadMap courses being offered are available at each of the Welcome Centers or online at www.asburytulsa.org

Declares the truth of God’s Word in clear and concise ways. Tends to be straightforward in teaching or reminding fellowbelievers of the precepts of the Word. Prophets are compelled to reprove, rebuke and exhort others in specific areas, calling for action and change. (Ephesians 4:11; Romans 12:6; 1 Corinthians 12:10 and 12:28-29)

care and support GriefShare Thursdays, January 10 - April 3 (13 sessions) from 1:00-2:30 pm in Rm 2500. This special weekly video series and support group is for people who are grieving the death of someone close to them. It’s a safe place to be around people who understand what you are feeling. At GriefShare, you’ll learn valuable information about recovering from your grief and renewing your hope for the future. Prayer Card Ministry Let us know of anyone going through a tough

time (including Asbury-related military and families) that would be blessed by prayer cards sent twice a month, filled with God’s encouraging words, love and our prayers. Calligraphers and card designers are needed. Contact Gwen Mohler at grmohler@aol.com or call 392-1146. Asperger Support Group First Thursday from 7:00-9:00 pm in Rm 1621. For mothers of children with Asperger Syndrome. Childcare available. Alzheimer’s Support Group Third Thursday, from 1:30-3:00 pm in upstairs Administration Conference Room. Christian hope, support and education for friends and family of those with Alzheimer’s or other dementia. Cancer Support Group Second Sunday of each month, 4:00-6:00 pm, Parlor - For those living with cancer and their family and friends. Bipolar/Depression Support Group Second and fourth Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 1621 - For persons living with bipolar disorder or depression. Divorce Recovery Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. Childcare available. Divorce Rebuilding Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce.Childcare available. Employment Transitions Need a second set of eyes to review your resume? Free male and female one-on-one support available through Asbury’s Employment Transitions. Contact Barbara Wright at blwright1@yahoo.com Grandparents Raising Grandchildren First and third Tuesdays, 6:30-8:30 pm, Rm 1506. No meeting December 18. Mental Health: Support for Families (formerly Family-to-Family) For family members or caregivers of people affected by a mental illness. 4th Thursdays from 1:30 - 3:00 pm in the Parlor. Next meeting is January 24. Call Ruth at 392-1146. Military Connection To demonstrate the love of Christ, periodic care packages and monthly encouragement cards with God’s Word are sent to Asburyrelated military personnel. The Prayer Ministry also covers them in prayer. Please send contact information (complete name and address) to Gwen Mohler at grmohler@aol.com or call 392-1146.

Prison Fellowship Support First Tuesday of each month, 7:00-8:30 pm. For family and friends of people who are incarcerated. Meets offsite. Call Ruth at 3921146 for location. Asbury Bear Bags Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books have comforted young children for many years, but now you may give a Bear Bag with a scripture-based journal included instead! Great for teens and adults. Anyone may deliver an Asbury Bear to someone who is grieving. For more information, contact Beth at 392-1116.

Has the obvious and natural ability to trust God, even in the most adverse circumstances. Believes strongly in, and reminds others of the presence, power, and promises of God. (1 Corinthians 12:9)

children Registration forms for all children’s activities are available in the preschool and elementary lobbies. Core Childcare Hours Parents who are involved in RoadMap classes during these core hours will have childcare provided for children 6 weeks - 12 years of age with no reservations needed: Sun 8:00 am - 12:00 pm Mon & Tue 9:00 am - 12:00 pm Tue, Wed, & Thur 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm (Childcare will be closed the week between Christmas and New Year’s.) Teaching Minds...Training Hearts Ever wish you knew how to talk to your children about God in a more natural and comfortable way? Ever want to learn some fun and creative ways to enhance a Bible story? Ever want to be able to hold the attention of a circle of preschoolers during Bible story time? Then join us for this interactive, casual, fun class. This is for anyone who has an opportunity to teach children about God’s love - whether in their home or on

Sunday morning. First two Wednesdays of the month, beginning in 2008. (January will only meet the secon Wednesday, the 9th) Children’s Ministry Office Lobby. No cost. No obligation. You’ll be glad you came! Sponsored by Asbury Children’s Ministry. Murdock Villa A mission opportunity for our 5th & 6th grade students. Usually the second Sunday of the month from 12:30 - 3:00 pm. Cost is $5 for CiCi’s Pizza. We’ll eat then visit Murdock Villa where we will play Bingo and do crafts with special needs adults. It is an amazing time to witness in our local community. Limited to 10 kids each month. For further information contact Jami at 392-1166. Children’s Choirs Wednesdays, 6:00-6:50 pm, Various Rooms

discipleship Discipleship Communities If you have not yet found an Adult Discipleship Community (similar to Sunday school) why not visit one of our Welcome Centers and see what’s available for someone just like you! Brochures are available in the Welcome Centers, or you may check them out at www.asburytulsa.org (Get Connected).

marriage & family 8 Dates/Double Dates: Dinner on the Town Second Tuesdays, February 12 through September 9 from 6:15 - 7:00 pm, Rm 1502. Celebrate your marriage with conversation over dinner alone, or with a couple who has a marriage that has lasted through the years. Monthly menu: gather to hear a variety of conversation topics led by various speakers (30 minutes) then have dinner out. NEW TOPICS! Register by January 6 at 392-1191 and indicated “Date” or “Double Date.” Double Dates will be matched on January 8, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 1502. Dynamic Marriage Tuesdays, February 5 - April 8 (no class on March 18) from 6:30 - 9:00 pm in Rm 1507. Give us eight weeks...we’ll give you a dynamic marriage! This is an interactive class that will help you replace old habits with new ones in a unique, safe environment. Go from good to great, mediocre to magnificent, or hurt to healed. Cost: $130 per couple. (Scholarships are available). Contact Jackie Carter at rcarjac@valornet.com, or call 392-1146. Limited to first 12 paid couples. Attention Engaged Couples

If you are planning to use an Asbury pastor to officiate and/or use Asbury’s facilities, be sure to book ASAP to allow ample time for Couple-to-Couple (required pre-marital sessions). Six months to one year lead time is suggested. Milestone Wedding Anniversaries Email your February or March Milestone Anniversary (5,10,15,20,etc.) to Ruth Winn at rwinn@asburytulsa.org or call 392-1146.

membership Asbury Exploration Come to a lunch/class to learn more about becoming a member of Asbury. Sunday, December 2 from 12:15-2:15 pm in CLC. Lunch provided and childcare is available for children six weeks through 6th grade. Call 392-1191 to register.

men REAL Men (no genius required) (see page 2 for details) Men’s Fraternity: The Quest for Authentic Manhood Wednesdays, January 9 - April 30 from 6:00 8:00 pm in the Mason Chapel and CLC. Cost: $10. Fulfilling men’s need for a compeling vision of Biblical masculinity, this teaches men how to live lives of authentic manhood as modeled by Jesus Christ and directed by the Word of God. More than just a rally or Bible study, it is designed to help men come together, strengthening each other through weekly session of biblical teaching and small group interaction. These time-tested resources have equipped men all over the world to opursue noble manhood as a lifelong priority. Facilitators are Rev. Dub Ambrose, Greg Ruley and Glen Fisher. Call 392-1191 to register. Men’s Prayer Breakfast Wednesdays, 6:30-7:30 am in the CLC. Breakfast, meaningful worship and lifechanging prayer! Cost: $3/person December 5 Todd Johnson December 12 Bill Johnson December 19 Mark Springer December 26 Dub Ambrose

missions/outreach Global Outreach Dinner Wednesday, December 12 at 6:00 pm in the CLC. All are welcome to attend to hear about Asbury’s mission efforts around the world. For ASBURY TIDINGS

reservations, contact Missy at 392-1163 or misistrunk@asburytulsa.org by December 5. Christmas Food Baskets Donations are being accepted for Christmas Food Baskets that will be delivered to Youth at Heart and Operation Hope families. The cost for one basket is $35. Any donation amount is accepted and checks are made payable to Asbury marked “holiday baskets.” The baskets will be assembled and delivered on Tuesday, December 18 beginning at 1:00 pm in the CLC. If you would like to volunteer to help with assembly or delivery, please call Beth McCalman at 392-1116. Christmas Child Adopt a Christmas Child by providing a gift for one of our Youth at Heart or Operation Hope children. Names can be selected December 9 and 16 in your Discipleship Community or in the CLC Gallery. Perspectives to Begin January 7 Perspectives on the World Christian Movement is a 15-week course where you’ll learn about God’s nature, purpose, and ways in the world. You’ll be enabled to let Him grip your heart with the things close to His… and become a vital part of them. This course is designed to equip and mobilize Christians to contribute their own unique abilities in their own strategic place of service to advance the Kingdom whether locally, nationally, or internationally. Students and churches benefit as God brings an increased vision. Classes start January 7th with options at Fellowship Bible Church (91st St west of Sheridan) on Monday nights or at First Christian Church in Owasso (on 86th Street North just east of 169) on Wednesday nights. Scholarships for a portion of the class fees will be offered by Asbury. For more information, go to www.tulsaperspectives.org

or you can call Mary Ann at 392-1117. You will be blessed by participation in this class. Eyeglass Donations Are you wondering what to do with those old eyeglasses? Donate them to missions! You may drop your glasses off in the Global Outreach office. Campbell’s Soup Label Changes Save Campbell’s soup labels for missions. Please note that a different part of the label is now required. Please cut the UPC symbol and the Labels for Education symbol together. Turn these in for missions! Questions: Contact Missy Sistrunk at 3921163. Mission Matters A monthly newsletter is available with recent news of mission happenings. If you would like to receive the newsletter, please contact Missy Sistrunk at 392-1163 or Msistrunk@asburytulsa.org. Preference is for the email version, but hard copies can be mailed if needed. Global Outreach Prayer Ministry News and prayer requests from our missionaries and ministries are sent each week to our prayer ministry list. If you would like to join and become a prayer intercessor for those serving around the world, contact Missy at 392-1163. Young Lives (formerly Mentor Moms) First and second Tuesdays of the month, 7:009:00 pm in the Parlor. This is a support group for teenage moms, sponsored by Young Life.

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Please watch for our 2008 VIM Schedule and prayerfully consider where you can serve! For further details, contact Marilene Long, 392-1164 or mlong@asburytulsa.org

music Has the ability to know with assurance whether certain behavior professed to be of God is in reality divine, human, or satanic. These persons will tend to see through confusion and pinpoint problems and solutions. They will distinguish between truth and error, good and evil, right and wrong, the real and the false. (1 Corinthians 12:10) 27

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Chancel Choir Wednesdays, 7:00 pm, Choir Room New Covenant Orchestra Wednesdays, 6:00-7:30 pm, Rm 1510 Asbury Singing Ambassadors Tuesdays, 1:00 pm, Choir Room Celebration Ringers Tuesdays, 4:30-5:30 pm, Rm 2506 Asbury Ringers Wednesdays, 6:00-6:50 pm, Rm 2506 Perpetual Light Thursdays, 10:00 am-noon, Rm 2506 Asbury Power & Light Sundays, 8:15-9:15 am, Rm 1510 Saints of Swing Dixieland Band Thursdays, 2:00-3:00 pm, Rm 1510

Children’s Choirs Wednesdays, 6:00-6:50 pm, Various Rooms

Leads, guards, comforts, and cares for his/ her flock. As a teacher he/she instructs, explains, and applies the Word of God. Assumes a long-term responsibility for the spiritual welfare, health and growth of believers, with a strong emphasis on teaching and learning God’s Word. (Ephesians 4:11)

prayer Altar Prayer If you would like someone to pray with you during Holy Communion or right after the service, please come to the altar rail at the front of the Sanctuary. A pastor or member of the Altar Prayer Team will be glad to pray with you for your needs – physical, emotional or spiritual - at the altar or in the Prayer Room. Prayer Room Reservations The leadership of Asbury’s prayer ministry would like to remind you that the main facility Prayer Room is open not only to individuals desiring to pray in a quiety, meditative atmosphere, but also to prayer groups within communities and ministries. Just give Debbie in the Adult Ministries office a call at 392-1177 to reserve the Prayer Room for your group on a weekly or monthly basis. Mason Chapel Prayer Room Because of construction, you may not enter the Mason Chapel Prayer Room from the outside entrance of the southeast side of the Chapel. Sundays from 7:00 am - 12:30 pm the Prayer Room can be accessed from inside Mason Chapel.

recovery Celebrate Recovery Come join this supportive group of people each Monday night at 6:00 pm. Dinner at 6:00 pm; Worship from 7:00-8:00 pm; Small Groups from 8:00-9:00 pm; Dessert from 9:00-9:30 pm. Hiding any hurts, habits or hangups? God never intended for you to live in bondage. Childcare available.

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Has the special ability God gives to know the mind of the Holy Spirit in such a way as to make concrete, practical applications of scriptural truths to specific situations. (1 Corinthians 12:8)

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Asbury Singing Ambassadors Choir Tuesdays from 1:00-2:30 pm in the Choir Room upstairs. Come enjoy fun and fellowship with other senior adults (39 and holding). This awesome choir is made up of over 120 senior adults who sing on occasion during Sunday morning worship services and on special occasions and holidays, as well as out in our community. No experience necessary...just show up and sing! ‘Tweenagers Program and Luncheon Everyone aged 55 and up is welcome to join us for our monthly Tweenagers meeting & luncheon, taking place on Thursday, December 13, from 10:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. in the CLC. Our program will be “The Sounds of Christmas,” presented by the Edison High School Singers, directed by Brad Morris. We know you won’t want to miss it. Call Doni at 4921771 to make your reservations BY NOON, Monday, December 10. If, during that week, you find you need to cancel, please let Doni know as we need to give an accurate count to the cooks. Should you choose, you can make a donation for the meal when you check in that morning. Come join us for fun and fellowship! Senior Sit and Fit Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 9:00-9:30 am in the Gym. Come join a time of stretching with fun and fellowship. Walk in the Gym with Him Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 8:30-9:00 am in the Gym. Come join a time of power walking with fun and fellowship.

Singles Ministry Christmas Shop Saturday, December 1, 10:00 am - 2:00 pm. Did you know that there are approximately 175 single parents at Asbury, with 350 children to raise and so many more just outside the doors of our church? During the Christmas season, it becomes more difficult for those families to make ends meet, and many children do not get to experience the joy of selected and purchasing gifts for others. Through the Asbury Singles Ministry Christmas Shop, we hope to offer some relief from that pressure. Kindergarten through fifth grade students coming from a single-parent home will have the opportunity, for just $5 each, to select for their parents, grandparents and siblings. The Christmas Shop will be open to children of Asbury families, Grove Elementary School, Walt Whitman Elementary School and Youth at Heart. Individuals and Asbury Communities are being asked to assist by providing small gifts valued at no more than $5 each, or financial donations to help with purchases and refreshments. To offer your services, email Gretchen at information@asmtulsa.com. Singles Annual Chili Cook-Off Hey single adult families...Join us on Saturday, January 19 for our Fourth Annual Chili Cookoff. There will again be judging in three categories: Hottest, Specialty Chili, and BestTasing. If you’d like to cook up a batch for any of these contests, sign up at Sunday’s “Meet and Greet” table in the main foyer, or give Gretchen Valentine a call! Cooks and all children ages 12 and under eat FREE! You provide the chili, and we’ll provide all the trimmins’! The event is a favorite in our singesl ministry, so don’t miss the fun. Singles Ministry Potluck Luncheon Sunday, january 27 from 12:00 - 2:00 pm in the Parlor. Come, bring your children and enjoy a delicious lunch, courtesy of your fellow singles. Just bring a “family-sized” food item, homemade or purchased. Great food, great fellowship, new friends. It just doesn’t get much better than that. Singles Meet and Greet Sundays from 8:40-9:10 am or 10:20-10:50 am in the CLC. All singles are invited. Divorce Recovery Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. Childcare available. Divorce Rebuilding Thursdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, Rm 2319 - For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce. Childcare available.

students 7th - 12th Holidays There will be no Breakaway, 7th, 8th, 9th Bible Studies or Life Hurts God Heals on December 19 or 26. Also, Small Groups parties will be December 16 and no Small Groups will meet December 23 and 30. 7th, 8th & 9th Food Bank Don’t miss this opportunity to step out and serve Tulsa like Jesus teaches! December 1 we will fill a school bus with about 50 students and head to the Food Bank to change lives and feed the hungry through service! 7th - 12th Metro Worship Wednesday, December 5. Come join youth from all over the city in a night to just worship Jesus. We meet the first Wednesday night of every month from 7:00-8:30ish. If you need a ride, meet at the church by 6:45 pm or you can just meet us over at Believers Church, 47th and Memorial. Questions? Call Todd at 392-1154. 7th - 12th Grade Small Groups Don’t miss out on being a part of a small group. It’s a place to grow in your relationship with Jesus, have some accountability, and just have fun. It’s never too late to sign up. Just come by the Student Ministries area. 7th - 12th Life Hurts, God Heals Wednesdays through December 12, 6:00-8:00 pm in Rm 1502. Don’t forget special GRADUATION December 14 from 6:00-9:00 pm, offsite. Truth. Find it. If you’re tired of the burdens (divorce, hurting, friends, etc.) and secrets that keep you from really living, or if you know there’s an addiction you have to stop but just can’t, Life Hurts, God Heals is created specifically for you. Meet with a group of students facing tough issues just like you, and learn how God can heal you together. Join any time.

Has a supernatural revelation of certain facts in the mind of God which gives information that one would have no other way of knowing, except from God. (1 Corinthians 12:8)

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and learn how God can heal you together. Join any time. 7th, 8th, & 9th Grade Breakaway Sunday mornings, 9:15-10:30 am in the Breakaway Area. This isn’t your normal Sunday school. Come join us for worship, fun and games, interactive talk/lesson, and sometimes free candy and gift cards. 7th, 8th & 9th Grade Bible Study Wednesdays through December 12 from 6:308:00 pm. Come to the Student Cafe, hang out, have fun, and study what God’s Word has for us. It’s going to be awe-inspiring. 10th, 11th & 12th Breakaway Join us every Wednesday (except Dec. 19 and Dec. 26) from 6:30-8:30ish pm in the Student Ministry Cafe for a time of connection, worship, and God. We will also have nights of just random fun. Don’t miss the food and hangout time afterwards.

women UMW December Luncheon Thursday, December 6, 11:30 am - 1:00 pm. Attention ladies! The special program planned for December’s UMW luncheon will be “The Sounds of Christmas,” presented by members of our very own Asbury Choir. And appropriately, our focus scripture for the month comes from Psalm 147:1: “Praise the Lord. How good it is to sing praises to our God, how pleasant and iftting to praise Him!” A delicious luncheon prepared by our church hostess, Virginia, will be provided for just $6 per person. Bring a friend, and be a part of the blessing! A Very Jazzy Asbury Christmas Widows and Widowers Luncheon Saturday, December 8 from 12:00 - 3:00 pm in the CLC. Attention Asbury Widows and Widowers. Are you looking for a special event to help ring in the Christmas season? One that includes lots of food, fun and fellowship? Then join us for the first annual Christmas Luncheon for Widows and Widowers. The cost for tickets is just $9.00 per person, and you can bring as many friends as you like! Tickets may be obtained by contcting Dee Coy or Jane Hedrick. Let’s celebrate the season together! Women of the Word Wednesdays from 10:00-11:00 am in Rm 2319. Rev. Darlene Johnson, teacher. Phone Buddies Ladies, do you want a “cheer me up” with your morning cofee? We have ladies that can fill that need by being your own “phone buddy!” Call 392-1142. Arts and Crafts Mondays, 9:30 am - 2:00 pm, Rm 2821. Women who enjoy crafts are invited to come any Monday morning....come and go any time. Bring a sandwich for yourself or a lunch to share. 29

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This service is traditional in nature. It is in the Mason Chapel and music is provided by a wide variety of vocal and instrumental solos and ensembles: the Chancel Choir sings the second Sunday of each month; children’s choirs, the Ladies’ Ensemble, handbell ensembles, Asbury’s Brass quintet are but a few of the many musical offerings in this service. Pastor Tom preaches every week, and Communion, served by intinction (dipping the bread in the juice), is a regular part of this service.

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The first thing people will notice is that the chancel area will look quite different. With new lighting and backdrops for the front of the sanctuary, we hope to create an inviting and intriguing focal point for worship. And from the moment the service begins, worshipers will know “the big idea” for the morning. Music, time of prayer, and the message will all carry a prevailing theme for the morning. It is the intention of the design team to create time and space in the service each week for worshipers to let go of the distractions of their lives and find themselves in the presence of God in ways they’ve not experienced before. The service is infused with experiential times of prayer and creative elements.

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Open House Worship is a place where you can be yourself and experience Jesus with others. You are invited to come as you are to meet new friends, enjoy “old” friends, have a cup of coffee and relax. In this casual environment you will be touched through active and engaging worship led by Pastor Dub Ambrose and the worship band. You will see Pastor Tom’s sermons by simulcast or hear a special “live” sermon from another pastor. Each week you will experience something different, such as a children’s message, personal testimony, group dialogue, or some other creative element. Prayer centers will be available throughout the service for personal and family prayer.

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This service is lead by our Minister of Music Hart Morris, the Chancel Choir and the Asbury Orchestra and Concert Band. While the service itself is traditional, the music is an offering of a variety of styles. On any given Sunday you may hear a spiritual, a classic, a “praise” song or an anthem. Our handbell choirs, dance team and children’s choirs are regular participants in this service as well as vocal and instrumental ensembles. This is the only service in which sign interpreters for the deaf are offered. We are blessed to have Pastor Tom preaching each week. If you enjoy tradition with a little diversity, then you will enjoy worshipping with us at this hour.

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Encounter the Lord with a rich blend of ancient and modern worship. You’ll find the music a bit more intense, the context more interactive and the experience refreshingly passionate. Pastor Tom’s messages are simulcast on large screens, and the rest of the service is live with Pastors Dick Read and Todd Craig and music led by Chris Cleveland and the worship band.This fast-growing service will be moving to the renovated ice rink when it opens Summer 2008.

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Join us for this casual, simple, and friendly time of worship where we can “take a breath” and worship our Lord.. The music will be a mix of contemporary praise songs and hymns. Spencer Smith, who is interning at Asbury during his final year of seminary at Perkins School of Theology at SMU, brings the message. He works closely with Tom to match the message on Sunday morning. Tom will also be preaching occasionally in the service. This is a great opportunity for those who work on Sundays or will be out of town on the weekends. Families are encouraged to bring their children to the worship service; however, childcare will be available for children ages 4 and under.

Did you know that you can watch the 9:15 and 11:00 a.m. Sunday services online as they are occurring? Go to www.asburytulsa.org then click on “Watch Sermons.”

welcome to asbury...

Irene Armstrong

Mike Baker

Chris Kennedy and Stacy Withrow and Morgan Kennedy

Jessica Kurtz

Ricky Rowlan

Matt and Cheryl Martin, Corbin and Logan Lane and Jamie Collier

Brady and Kimberly Watson and Madison Ryan and Amy Shepherd, Gracie and Penny ASBURY TIDINGS

Autumn Pohl and Parker

Warren and Sandy Gandall

Cary and Jamie Moss

If you are interested in learning more about who we are, plan to attend one of the Exploration classes designed to tell you more about Asbury and what we believe. We will spend our time looking at Asbury’s “Mission – Vision- Objectives.” Most of the time will be spent in talking about our eight objectives. Another part of the member-ship process is to spend time in a pastoral visit. We want you to know at least one of our pastors so that when life’s difficulties arise, you will have a pastor who can help you through it. Perfection is not required of Asbury members, but we do want to grow and get better. As John Wesley, the founder of Methodism said, “If your heart is as my heart, lend me your hand.”

Bill and Dottie McKie Wes and Julie Holmes

Choose from one of the upcoming Sunday membership classes: December 2, 2007 January 6, 2008 February 3, 2008 March 2, 2008 April 6, 2008 May 4, 2008 June 1, 2008 August 3, 2008 September 7, 2008 October 5, 2008 November 2, 2008 December 7, 2008

Lee and Oneta Roles Keith and Margie Kirkendall

Gordon and Lois Vetal

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Mike and Cris Kurtz

New Member Photographers: Allen Robison and Diana Fields

...we’re glad you’re here!

Construction Update we rejoice...

with those who have experienced the joy of a new baby in their family:

Lauren Olivia Henley daughter of Joe & Kerri Henley September 28, 2007 Henry Alister Palmquist son of Todd and Elaine Palmquist brother of Conor October 2, 2007 Kaydee Le’ Taylor daughter of David and Lori Taylor sister of Lexie and Parker October 8, 2007 Robert James Eldridge son of Chris and Mandy Eldridge grandson of Richard and Nellene Eldridge brother of Marcus Bryan October 10, 2007 Miller Brent Barnes son of Brett and Jennifer Barnes brother of McKenzie, Maddison and Maxwell October 11, 2007 Violet Danielle Holland daughter of Matthew and Jeneen Holland sister of Faith Elizabeth October 22, 2007 Wyatt Hoyt Campbell son of Marcus and Melody Campbell brother of Olivia Dawn October 24, 2007 Jackson Ross Powell son of Ross and Melanie Powell brother of Alexa November 6, 2007 Beau Michael Barnes son of Rennie and Kelly Barnes brother of Ty grandson of Mike and Carol Padgett November 8, 2007

December 2007 If you have ever built a house, you really appreciate the time when the inside of the structure starts taking shape. The walls going up help define the space and you can get a real feel for how you are going to “live” in your new home. Well that is where we are with our expansion project. The interior walls are up and the spaces are getting defined. The Children’s Expansion will provide 25,000 square feet of additional space adding seven new classrooms and a large group space on the first floor and six new classrooms on the second floor. It also provides additional offices for staff, storage and resource areas and was designed with future expansion in mind. The “Tree House” theme will make this a very interesting and exciting area for the preschool aged kids in our program. The remodel of the ice rink has gone very smoothly. The conversion of the north end into a worship auditorium is very impressive. This space has a gathering area at the north end. It also includes a bank of restrooms on the west wall, a large video booth upstairs, a prayer room, backstage area and green room. The south end will provide program space for our student ministry with offices, a “coffee house” assembly area and game room on the first level and four large class rooms and a large assembly room on the second floor. We have also provided a prayer room, restrooms with shower facilities and a kitchen. The east entry opens into a café area for people to meet before worship or student ministry activities begin. Small group areas are scattered throughout the space. The covered walkway to the Chapel and the south portico are really taking shape. The covered walkway will be a welcome addition for everyone who makes regular trips to the Chapel. The south portico will provide a covered drive and drop off that will protect people from the weather which is a much welcome addition. We hope to have the south portico completed by Christmas. Thanks to all of you that have sacrificed to make this wonderful project happen!

we remember... those who have gone to be with Jesus:

Kaye Helterbrand mother of Mark Helterbrand October 20, 2007

Willis Cunningham husband of Rosy November 1, 2007

Don Zwayer husband of Pat Zwayer October 30, 2007

Wanda Crow wife of Robert November 6, 2007

Phil Martin October 31, 2007 ASBURY TIDINGS 32

The Greatest Gift About that time Caesar Augustus ordered a census to be taken throughout the Empire. Everyone had to travel to his own ancestral hometown to be accounted for. So Joseph went from the Galilean town of Nazareth up to Bethlehem in Judah, David’s town, for the census. As a descendant of David, he had to go there. He went with Mary, his fiancée, who was pregnant. While they were there, the time came for her to give birth. She gave birth to a son, her firstborn. She wrapped him in a blanket and laid him in a manger, because there was no room in the hostel. There were sheepherders camping in the neighborhood. They had set night watches over their sheep. Suddenly. God’s angel stood among them and God’s glory blazed around them. They were terrified. The angel said, “Don’t be afraid. I’m here to announce a great and joyful event that is meant for everybody, worldwide: A Savior has just been born in David’s town, a Savior who is Messiah and Master. This is what you’re to look for: a baby wrapped in a blanket and lying in a manger.” At once the angel was joined by a huge angelic choir singing God’s praises: “Glory to God in heavenly heights, Peace to all men and women on earth who please Him.” Luke 2: 1-16 The Message

in celebration of marriage 55 Years Paul & Deloris Messick Deceomber 22, 1952

50 Years Dale & Pat Davidson December 22, 1957

45 Years Charles & Mary Anne Stenslie November 30 David & Maria Cowan December 23 40 Years Ron & Sherry Carter December 23 Danny & Karen Mecher December 28

60 Years Philip & Jean Essley

December 28, 1947

Congratulations to those who are celebrating Milestone Anniversaries (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) Report your Milestone Anniversary to Ruth Winn at 392-1146.