Pastor on Patrol

november 2011

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november 2011

From the Desk of Dwight Yoder Important Things Happening Around the Church November brings my favorite holiday, Thanksgiving. It is a great time to review some of the many things that we have to be thankful for at Asbury. At the top of the list has to be our senior pastor, Tom Harrison. The love and respect of our congregation for Tom is wonderful. His leadership style is empowering for the staff and the congregation. We are fortunate to have each of our associate pastors. Asbury has a great staff who are incredibly dedicated to the advancement of our ministry. I am particularly thankful for the individuals on my team. Several of them are relatively new but have quickly become acclimated.

Many of you have expressed thanks for efforts of our recently restructured and revitalized local outreach ministry. The recent 9/11 day of service was a spectacular success. Positive feedback has been huge, providing further confirmation of Asbury’s energy for outreach and missions. Global Gardens and the GED training programs are both underway in facilities on our north property.

This ramping up of Asbury’s local outreach was a major project begun well over a year ago in response to previous long-range planning. We are thankful for the foresight of that planning and for the huge effort of the local outreach council, staff, and many others.

A couple of our new local outreach initiatives are possible only because Asbury has been able to acquire additional land to the north of 66th Street. Of course, the acquisition was possible because of the financial generosity of our members. Earlier this year a group of individuals purchased an additional four acres and donated them to the church. Funding required to modify existing

buildings so that they would be suitable for the new projects came from a special gift for that purpose. Very simply, ministry requires money. We are thankful for the financial stewardship and generosity of many of our members.

Tom makes a practice of acknowledging the service and contribution of the many people who are behind the scenes. We are very thankful for these individuals without whom our church and our ministries simply would not work. Within our staff and our congregation only a small percentage serve in an “up front” role. Many more are never seen as they provide administration, maintenance, infrastructure, service, and labor that supports everything Asbury does. Asbury is also blessed with a rich supply of leaders who are willing to serve on councils and committees that govern the church and our ministries.

Asbury’s mission is to “Glorify God and Make Disciples.” That alone is something to be thankful for. We are also thankful for the disciple-making opportunities that are available. I’ve already noted outreach and missions. Our adult discipleship communities are doing well. We are pleased with the new Grouplink initiative to connect people in small groups. Two of our “core” discipleship courses are Disciple Bible Study and Spiritual Disciplines.

Enrollment in both of these has been outstanding.

This Thanksgiving season I hope that you will take a few minutes and make your own list of things associated with Asbury for which you are thankful. To all who are supporting Asbury by their prayers, presence, gifts, service, and witness - THANK YOU.

Contents A Word From Tom Harrison Senior Adults Kingdom People Pastor on Patrol Pastor Dick Read Serving God and Country Youth At Heart Three Asburians To Follow For One Year This is My Story, This is My Song

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Asbury Corner Thanksgiving Memories While I Sat in Church Today Grandpa John Music Recipes of the Month Opportunities Special Announcements

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Asbury Tidings is a monthly publications designed to tell stories of lives being transformed by the power of Jesus Christ. You may read back issues by visiting www.asburytulsa.org.

Editor: Asbury Communications Department, 918.392.1140, kmains@asburytulsa.org Graphic Design: Tim Jurgensen, tjurgensen@asburytulsa.org Photographers: Chris Lo (matchadesign.com), Mark Moore (markmoore.photo@cox.net)

On the cover: Officer Antonio Porter. Read his story on page 4.

Guest Contributors: Nikki Boyd, Angie Brashears, Charlene Giles, Rodney Gray, Diane King, Jim Lenderman, Marti Morris Joanne Stadler, Jan Steffensen, John C. Westervelt, Dolores Willits

We need you! Do you have a story of what God has done in your life? Please contact us and tell us a little bit about what God has done. We will all be encouraged by hearing stories of what God is doing in the lives of those around us.

Have you noticed that we’ve been making some changes in Tidings? Please give us your feedback—both good and bad. Email kmains@asburytulsa.org or call 918.392.1140.

Are you a writer or someone who enjoys writing?

The Communications Department is always looking for someone to do an interview and write a story for us for Tidings.

A Word From Tom Harrison

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sbury’s “Mission Statement” is not unique.

“Glorify God - Make Disciples” is hardly new. It’s what Jesus commissioned His church to do. But what does this mean?

a church that doesn’t worship. Glorifying God is the vertical dimension of our faith.

“Make Disciples” is the second aspect of our mission statement. A disciple is simply a learner. Jesus commissioned us to do this, too (Matthew 28:18-19):

“Glorify God” comes first.

It also comes last, as it is an eternal call. These words are in our communion liturgy: “And so, with your people on earth and all the company of heaven we praise your name and join their unending hymn.”

Our loved ones in heaven are glorifying God. The church is first and foremost a place of worship. Without it, we become distracted.

Jesus informed Martha of her loss of focus (Luke 10:40-42): “Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!’ ‘Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed.

Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.’”

Responsible people may prefer work instead of worship. Worship engages our minds, fills our souls, and re-directs our hearts. It is THE essential. We worship before we do anything else. We worship while we do everything else. It is the unifying element of our faith.

Unfortunately, sometimes we get caught up in the wineskins of worship (music, musicians, clothing, seating arrangements, personalities, bulletins, etc.) and our corporate worship is turned into corporate war. Nothing delights the enemy more than

“Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations…”

Since Jesus has been given all authority, we should worship Him. Since Jesus has been given all authority, we should follow His instructions. He has told us to “GO!” He has told us what to do (“MAKE DISCIPLES”). He has told us where to go and make disciples (“OF ALL NATIONS”).

A disciple is a follower of Jesus. This is not someone who makes a one-time decision to follow Jesus and then resumes the old pattern. Jesus didn’t ask us to go “Make Converts” or to just baptize people - He insisted upon discipleship. These are people who are very serious about their faith. While no one is perfect today, nor were the original disciples, they were people who made a genuine commitment to follow Jesus. As we follow Him through the years, we learn and grow in all aspects of our faith. As such, the faith never becomes dry, boring, and routine. “Making Disciples” helps keep us energized, vital, and enthusiastic. It is the horizontal dimension of our faith.

Why are we here on earth: “To Glorify God - Make Disciples!”

John Wesley, the founder of Methodism, said: “If your heart is as my heart, lend me your hand.”

Dr. Tom Harrison

Tell Us How Asbury Is Doing Asbury is conducting a congregational research study. The purpose of this study is to better understand the people who attend Asbury – especially their needs, interests, and opinions. This information will help us make the best decisions possible regarding the ministries and worship services of this church.

I am asking for your help and participation in this research study.

We need and want to hear your thoughts and opinions.

The research will take place within the next few weeks. You will receive an email or notification through Facebook with an invitation to participate in an online survey. Whether you have been here a short time or have been a member for many years, we want to hear from you.

We are asking everyone to complete the survey. If both a husband and wife receive separate email invitations, we ask that each of you fill out your own survey.

Even if you do not have access to a computer, you can still participate in this study. Please call the church office at 918.492.1771 to discuss the different options that can be provided.

The online survey is anonymous. You will not be identified in any way. All responses will be aggregated together in the final report.

We will share some of the results when the studies are completed.

Thanks, in advance, for your participation in this important study.

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SENIOR ADULTS

Backpacks Provide Backup at Walt Whitman

by Joanne Stadler and Jan Steffensen

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s one enters any classroom at Walt Whitman Elementary School, a special “backpack” may now be found. It is easily identified by a large red apple appliqué which contains the room number and donor’s name.

In 2007, the need for each classroom to have some minor emergency medical supplies available for use was mentioned by Walt Whitman staff members. Due to concerns for limited access to the school nurse, wise use of classroom time and immediate relief for minor medical needs that could be administered by the classroom teacher, this idea was brought to the attention of our Asbury Senior Adult Council by Jan Steffensen, Mission Coordinator. The vote was unanimous to help meet this need as part of our continuing support for Walt Whitman.

The backpack packaging initially suggested by Jan and the list of supplies suggested by the nurse and staff have been refined each year. The supplies we now include are: plastic gloves, band-aids, adhesive tape, gauze pads, hot/cold compresses, flashlight, hand sanitizer, facial tissue, eyewash, wipes, towel, water bottle, toilet tissue, medical scissors and bacterial ointment.

The shopping is done by Jan with help from the Senior Adult Chairman, Joanne Stadler, with a goal of balancing quality and cost. Each of these ladies also shared responsibility for assembling and filling the bags as well as hand sewing the “Big Red Apple” patches on to each bag. Carol Fisher, coordinator of the Asbury Quilting Ministry, provided the big, beautiful “Red Apple” patches.

Carol said, “It took 42,000 stitches, using my computerized embroidery machine, to produce each patch.” Barbie Paige, Asbury’s “A and W” liaison person, was also very helpful by getting the classroom numbers for us and facilitating our presentation of the backpacks at the school in September.

Johnson. This year there was an increase in cost due to the addition of the 6th grade at Whitman which meant more bags were needed for the additional classrooms. The Senior Adult Council, guided by Pastor David Thomas, stepped up to contribute additional funds.

Something new was added this year-- a plastic-encased list of the supplies included in the backpack. This will enable the teacher to know at a glance the contents and be able to note items that need to be replenished. The principal, Mrs. Buxton, expressed her appreciation for this helpful project for the teachers, students and the school. Barbie Paige commented, “We will now be prepared for minor first aid needs so that class time won’t be lost with the student going to the office for help.” The School Counselor, Michealle Wasson, expressed the following: “As part of Whitman’s Safe School Plan, these backpacks meet all emergency requirements for electrical outages, atmospheric emergencies, first aid items, and other emergency supplies. Each year, Asbury Tweenagers gather these backpacks and determine what things need to be replaced. This is not an easy task. This year we have additional classes with the growing pains from Project Schoolhouse. The patches are eye catching, too. It is not hard to spot these bags. Several times a year faculty members are asked to review contents. Whitman staff thoroughly appreciates the love and devotion Asbury and this community shows to us.”

Funding for the project has been supported primarily by our Asbury Tweenagers under the leadership of Charles and Janet

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Invitation to Join Kingdom People

by Jim Lenderman

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f you were hauled in front of a jury of your peers, would there be enough evidence to convict you of being a genuine Christian?

Upon examining your life to evaluate the sincerity and maturity of your faith in Christ and how inextricably it is integrated into the fabric of your life, what do you find?”

Christian sociologist and researcher George Barna asks those ageold questions in his foreword to Jim & Molly Davis Scott’s book, Kingdom People. What a profoundly sobering question that is if it’s taken seriously. Can people clearly tell that I am a genuine Christian by looking at my life – my words and actions? Would people say that my faith is inextricably integrated into every aspect of my life – family, relationships, work, conversation, recreation, etc?

Personally, I don’t want to be “convicted” by only a preponderance of the evidence (just enough proof to persuade my peers that it is more likely than not that I am a genuine Christian). I want the evidence to be beyond a reasonable doubt (that no other reasonable explanation can be found for who I am and how I live publicly and privately). What about you?

God’s purpose for those who follow Jesus is for us to love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength; and to love the people around us as much as God loves us. God’s purpose is for us to be fundamentally united with God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit. God’s purpose for us is to be taught and led by the Holy Spirit so we can experience intimacy with God and so we can be the hands and feet of Jesus as we go out in ministry and service in the world. To take our queue from Asbury’s mission, our purpose is to glorify God and make disciples. The big question is, how do I make this a reality in my life so my peers will clearly see that I genuinely follow Christ?

Later in his foreword to Kingdom People, Barna adds, “If you choose to live for God then you must ‘work out your salvation’ by accepting the challenge to grow spiritually. That means you will have to intentionally throw yourself into the hard work of having your heart, mind, spirit and soul irrevocably altered by God. He will transform you, but you must partner with Him in the process.”

There are many things one can do to live life and faith at a higher level. There are many things that can contribute to someone’s life and faith being irrevocably altered by God. But the thing I have discovered that makes this kind of transformation possible in the deepest, most sustainable way is Kingdom People. If you really want to grow in your faith, if you are teachable, and if you are willing to join God and others in working out your salvation, then Kingdom People may be what you’ve been looking for.

By participating in a Kingdom People group you would have an opportunity to intentionally focus on your faith – to “work out your salvation” as Paul put it in Philippians 2:12. You will grow in developing a biblical worldview so you see life and faith more and more though the lens of the Bible. You will grow in your understanding and experience of God in His fullness – God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. And you will learn how to approach your life and faith in a way that can lead to sustained spiritual growth long after the 12-session Kingdom People study group is over.

Kingdom People will show you how to become more intentional about how you approach your life and faith in four vital areas: • You will learn how to create a “Christian environment” in your life where God is more real and personal – where you can learn to hear and follow as God speaks to you through the Holy Spirit.

• You will discover who God created you to be when He handmade you in your mother’s womb. You’ll see that God loves you for who you are, not what you do.

• You will discern where God is calling you to join Him in ministry and service using the gifts and abilities God has given you.

• You will uncover essential character qualities that are common to spiritually mature Christians. Then you’ll develop a plan to grow in the qualities God places on your heart.

If you want more out of your life and faith than you’re getting now, then Kingdom People may be for you. If your walk with Christ seems bland and powerless, then Kingdom People may be for you. If you are serious about intentionally throwing yourself into the hard work of having your heart, mind, spirit and soul irrevocably altered

by God, then Kingdom People may be for you. And if you want to know more, then contact me, and we’ll visit about how you can join with others in leaving the common life and faith behind.

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Jim Lenderman Senior Associate Pastor 918.492.1771 | jlenderman@asburytulsa.org

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by Nikki Boyd

Antonio Porter recalls how his heart was stirred while listening to his grandfather preach in a little church in Hartshorne, Oklahoma. At the age of twelve, he knew God was calling him into the ministry.

Years later as an officer in Oklahoma’s Highway Patrol, Antonio has not forgotten that call. Assigned to Tulsa’s Public Affairs Office, he assists police agencies on the city, county and state level, local campuses, as well as tribal police. He also works with church groups, schools, and other organizations.

He reaches out to kids who have been in trouble and first offenders, desiring to help them find positive role models for their lives. He was a part of the creation of a youth summer camp held each year at Victory Camp in Mannford.

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Porter often takes these first offender kids and other youth to see the Creek County facility in Taft. He says, “We give them a tour of the men’s and women’s prisons to show them the outcome from making bad choices.”

It was during a routine traffic stop that Antonio sensed God calling him to become a pastor. He was nearly run over by a person driving under the influence. On the way to jail, Officer Porter found himself ministering to the driver. That person later contacted him, thanking him for sharing Christ. “This person turned their life around and rededicated their heart to the Lord,” he says.

Antonio’s family and friends weren’t surprised when he told them he was going to pursue the pastorate. “They could see that I had a calling on my life,” he says. “They were just wondering when it was going to happen.”

A recipient of the Tom Harrison Scholarship, Porter is a student at Asbury Theological Seminary in Wilmore, Kentucky through extended learning. He has less than thirty hours to graduate, and this past July he was appointed to lead the congregation of Rose Hill United Methodist Church here in Tulsa.

“Our church is very small in numbers and an older congregation but they truly love the Lord,” says Porter. “They believe in doing outreach to serve others while serving their community.”

diversity to the congregation. “God can use us, no matter what our age. We would love for anyone to fellowship with us on Sunday mornings at 10:40!”

Antonio has been married to Vandra for 27 years and they have three children: Jonte, 20, Andranez, 18 and Antonio, 17. Their family is rounded out with two small dogs and a cat.

As Antonio continues to serve with the Highway Patrol and as a pastor and still fulfill this call God has put on his heart, he realizes the importance of God’s word in his own personal walk of faith. “I believe the Bible is the Word of God and has the right to command my beliefs and actions. Being still before the Lord gives the Holy Spirit time to nurture my soul even beyond what my mind perceives! God’s word ministers to the depths of my soul and molds my heart to His!” Porter sees some similarities in his two vocations. “Protecting and serving others is the role of both the pastor and police officer. I’ve encountered many people going through certain situations and I’ve had the opportunity to counsel with them and lead them to Christ.”

For those who desire to be used by the Lord, Antonio gives this counsel: “Truly trust God. He will never lead you wrong or forsake you. He is always standing at the door and knocking. He wants to share his love with us if we will just let him into our hearts!”

Antonio adds the church is ninety-two years old, still looking good and holding strong. He loves seeing the Lord bring more

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Serving God and the Asbury Congregation Faithfully for 31 Years

by Diane King

Of all the staff and pastors who have served Asbury UMC, Pastor Dick Read has been here longer than everyone, except Pastor Emeritus Bill Mason. On September 1 of this year, he celebrated his 31st year of service at Asbury, not including the time he spent volunteering while attending ORU. Pastor Read’s face is familiar to most around Asbury as he presides over the 9:15 Sanctuary service, teaches RoadMap and community classes, counsels parishioners, and performs weddings and funerals. His relaxed demeanor and friendly smile has endeared him to all, and his calm in the midst of many a storm has won him respect around Asbury, Tulsa, and Oklahoma. So, how did Asbury get so lucky?

Growing up as a “military brat,” Pastor Read lived in many different places all over the world. When choosing a college to attend, he decided on ORU sight-unseen, and in the fall of 1976 he packed his bags and moved to Tulsa.

His plan was to graduate from ORU, attend Asbury Seminary in Kentucky, and become an Air Force chaplain.

While a student at ORU, one of Read’s course requirements was to volunteer in a local church. Dick had attended Asbury a few times, so he joined with Dee Paige in teaching eighth grade boys in Sunday School. Dick enjoyed it so much that he came back again the next year and asked to do it again!

One might say he was “hooked” on youth ministry. Asbury’s youth minister at the time, Doug Walker, talked Read into working ten hours per week for his last four months of his senior year at ORU. He agreed, rationalizing that it was only temporary, since he was still set on his plan to attend Asbury Seminary.

As the time for graduation neared, Walker approached him with a new suggestion. “How about staying on as full time staff? You can take charge of the junior high, and I’ll take care of senior high.” Read discussed his dilemma of whether to go or to stay with Nancy Staab, who was involved at Asbury as a lay youth advisor at that time.

Nancy suggested, “Let’s just wait and see what the Lord has planned for you here at AUMC before you head off to Asbury Seminary.”

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Famous “Dick Read-ism” submitted by Pastor Todd Craig: “God is tickled silly pink madly in love with you.”

As he began filling out the paperwork to apply, he also filled out an application for ORU graduate school. He prayed, “Lord, show me your will. Make it clear to me where to go from here.” He received acceptance letters from both institutions on the exact same day!

After much prayer, God seemed to be saying to him, “Dick, it is your choice.”

As he looked around at his surroundings, his love for the AUMC young people, the beauty of Tulsa, his already established homestead in his own apartment, Read chose to continue his studies at ORU instead of leaving to attend Asbury Seminary. After 31 years, he is still serving here at AUMC. During that time he has served in the capacity of Assistant Youth Director, Youth Minister, Executive Pastor, and Pastor of Discipleship. Today, he and all pastors on Asbury’s staff are simply known as “Pastors,” denoting their allencompassing role to our church, with Tom Harrison as the Senior Pastor.

In response to the question of who had been influences in his life, Pastor Read responded, “Of course, (Pastor Emeritus) Bill Mason, Nancy Staab, Doug Walker, and Tom Harrison. Tom has taught me what it means to live from God’s grace, to be a person of grace in daily life. If we are going to err, let’s err on the side of grace rather than judgement.”

Pastor Read is married to Cindy Bohannan, whom he met while she was volunteering as a youth worker here at AUMC. They now have two grown children, Rachel, who is 24 years old and serving with International Justice Missions in southeast Asia, and David, a 22 year-old student at OSU studying to serve in church ministry. It is no surprise that both of their children have a passion for missions, because the Reads began taking their children on mission trips every year since Rachel was a 10 month-old baby!

When asked how he saw Asbury’s role over the years he has served here, Pastor Read says, “Asbury’s challenge has been to own up to the potential God has given them. ‘To whom much is given, much is required.’ A number of years ago, the people of Asbury recognized their potential to change the world. Things like Super Care Sunday, the Congo Bible giving, recognition of students being sent out internationally, the 9/11 ‘I Will’ campaign, all of these show that Asburians stepped up and declared, ‘We want to influence other people for Jesus.’”

As for what Pastor Read sees for the future of Asbury, he states, “There is a great deal of power in knowing who we are and what God has called us uniquely to do. God will cause our influence to grow in our city, our country, and internationally. Our people, both individually and collectively, have to recognize what He has called us to be and have the courage to DO IT! It means being more than just a successful businessman. Who is going to give their kids to be pastors and missionaries?”

Quotes from others regarding Dick Read: Pastor Charles Ryser, “He is one of the most passionate advocates for Jesus that I know.”

Nancy Staab, “He has always been dedicated to giving out The Word, and that has influenced me and my whole family. It would be interesting to know how many of those students he pastored are now themselves pastors and missionaries, due to his influence.”

Pastor Jim Lenderman, “He’s kind of an E. F. Hutton when it comes to [biblical knowledge and wisdom.] When he speaks about scripture, people [need to] listen. I know I do.”

Famous “Dick Read-ism” submitted by Pastor Todd Craig: “God is tickled silly pink madly in love with you.”

From the entire staff: “I don’t know what he’s eating or drinking, but he still looks the same after all these years!

As always, Pastor Dick Read leads us by his own example.

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N’S DAY:

by Robert Armour

I consider it a tremendous honor and privilege to have served my country in the United States Air Force (USAF). Reflecting back on my military experience, I can see how the Lord blessed my family and me as I grew in my faith while serving and defending the freedoms of our great nation.

My wife Juli and I both served on active duty in the USAF and our son, Trip, is currently an Air Force Captain stationed at Tinker AFB OK. My family’s connection with the United States military represents over 100 years of USAF service over three generations, and we are proud to consider ourselves a part of the United States Air Force Family. I joined the Air Force to serve my country and to fly.

I think I was born with a love of flying and grew up with a strong love of country. I believe we must preserve and defend our way of life, including the freedom to write a letter without any fear of harmful consequences and your freedom to read anything you desire. Having the freedom to worship where and how one chooses and the freedom to have a voice at the ballot box--these freedoms and many others must be protected and not taken for granted.

I entered the Air Force in 1976, six months after I had given my life to Christ. Consequently, my walk with Christ and my service in the military started at roughly the same time. As a new Christian thirsty for the Word, I was blessed by the mentoring of several mature Christians I encountered in my first years in the Air Force. I learned what I call Christian fundamentals which I believe are valid in any walk of life. Spending time in prayer; spending time in the Word; daily quiet time; Bible study; belonging to a local church to worship and serve corporately; staying accountable and challenged as a member of a small group; remaining committed to growing spiritually and sharing my faith. To this day I seek to remain true to these fundamentals. Throughout my military career I was fortunate to be surrounded by others that encouraged me in my Christian walk.

While the fundamentals are the same for all, being in the military puts a different twist on things. On the face of it, serving in the military might seem the same as any other job, but despite many similarities, there are some very stark differences. The most obvious difference is that when you join the military, you agree to being sent into harm’s way in the defense of our nation

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should the need arise (and you don’t get to determine if the need has arisen). Other significant differences include not being able to quit (at least for the term of your commitment), giving up some rights guaranteed by the Bill of Rights, a different legal system (The Uniformed Code of Military Justice), and while you still have the privilege to vote, you are required to remain publicly apolitical.

In short, joining the military means you have little to say in what to wear, where to be, what to do, how to do it, and, oh by the way, there may be people trying to kill you during the course of your work day. Initially, I was somewhat flippant and arrogant in my thoughts concerning the consequences of combat; but over time, I realized I needed to do some deep soul searching to be at peace about the realities of war. After prayerful consideration, time in the Word and numerous discussions with fellow Christians, I found peace on the issue. I believe that serving in the military is a noble profession not in conflict with my Christian faith.

The regimented life style and discipline of the military is certainly not for everyone, but it seemed to agree with me. I enjoyed the camaraderie, the traditions, challenges, and, of course, the flying.

Without question, the highlight of serving in the military was the people I served with and the close relationships. The normal tour length at a duty station during my years in the Air Force averaged three years. This meant that every year roughly one third of the unit left and was replaced, so you learned to make close friends fast. These close relationships provided the support network needed to deal with the most negative aspect of military life--the frequent and sometimes lengthy separations from family. These quickly-made friends were also the source for Christian fellowship and for sharing my faith with non-believers. Many became lifelong friends, and it amazes me how quickly we reconnect on a deep level when we have the opportunity to get together.

I spent a year away from my family serving in Korea. At the time I thought this might be the toughest challenge we faced as a family.

I had been away for all of the holidays at one time or another and had a few deployments that lasted several weeks, but a year away seemed daunting. Again, the prayerful support of friends and family saw us through the year, and I gained several close friends that I still consider among my closest friends today. Little did I know eight months after returning from Korea I would be deploying for a combat tour.

After a 16 hour non-stop flight in an F-16 to the Middle East in 1990, I started a seven month deployment that would end with the conclusion of Desert Storm. Leaving behind my family shortly after learning Juli was pregnant with our third child was difficult and weighed on my mind as we prepared to go to war. Many memorable events unfolded during this stressful period. My family received tremendous support from other military wives, close friends, from our church and prayers from friends and family all over the country. A Bible study we had started shortly before deploying came together in the desert and grew while we were there. I was strong in my faith, well trained and tremendously supported by my family and the American people. This gave me tremendous peace and allowed me to focus on the mission at hand.

My combat experience seems “short and sweet� compared to the rigors faced by our current warriors; nonetheless, it contained all the fear, excitement, ugliness and loss that are the reality of war.

I was able to return home in time for the birth of my son, Michael, realizing how blessed I was to be alive and how my faith had once again carried me through another trial in life. My faith continues to grow and I continue to rely on the fundamentals, knowing they carry me through the challenges of life with a peace only possible from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. I retired from the Air Force in 1995 but almost every day and especially when I hear the sound of an F16, a part of me longs to be back in the Air Force serving our great nation.

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Youth At Heart Teens Have Life-Changing Experience in Uganda

by Rodney Gray

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hey have been home now over three months, but the impact of their trip to Africa still lingers for the six Youth at Heart teens who traveled to Uganda this summer to work with orphans of the Watoto Child Care Ministries. The Youth at Heart teens received financial support for their trip from Asbury.

For 10 days in June, the Youth at Heart teens joined forces with 11 adult volunteers from Tulsa, Oklahoma, Texas and South Carolina to perform a number of humanitarian projects. Several days, the teens rolled up their sleeves to build a brick wall around a Children’s Facility in the Suubi Village. Additionally, the teens spent time caring for toddlers at the Children’s Facility and interacting with youth in their homes and at a school assembly.

The teens also got to speak on a radio program in Kampala and perform songs at a worship The Watoto Child Care to service. Apollo Karuba, of the Ministries, applauded Watoto Child Care Ministries, applauded the teens for their the teens for their service, saying they made a service, saying they great impact on Uganda.

made a great impact on Uganda.

Recently the group spoke at a global outreach dinner at Asbury to express their thanks

Chapelle Roberts at the Bulrushes Child Care Facility #1

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for the support they received for their trip. Jaylon Jackson told the group that his experience building a wall for the children’s facility, and interacting with people from another culture, forced him to get out of his comfort zone. Jackson said his school counselor noticed he had matured remarkably over the summer, which he attributed to the Africa trip. Shawntrell Lowe said the trip helped her gain a deeper appreciation for school after witnessing the difficulties the orphans faced to get a decent education. She said she is now making all A’s and B’s on her school work because of her improved attitude.

Chappelle Roberts was the veteran of the group that made the trip to Uganda. Last spring Chappelle joined Asbury youth over spring break in Jamaica where she helped paint walls and benches at a school, and played with children on the island. Chappelle said her trips to Jamaica and Africa have made her rethink her goals in life.

Her experience interacting with children on the trips illuminated her natural gift of working with kids. She now plans to pursue a degree in early childhood education after completing high school this year. She also hopes to rejoin her teen friends from Asbury in Guatemala over the 2012 spring break, to help other hurting people in the world experience the love of God.

(l to r) Chapelle Roberts, Chapaign Holocomb, and Shawntrell Lowe during a worship service in Uganda

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Three Asburians To Follow For One Year We will be following three Asburians during the next year as they serve in ministry overseas. As you read a little about their work, please pray for them.

Christian Roderick – World Race (11 countries in 11 months -1 month of ministry in each). He is in Romania as the first country in the sequence. He left his accounting job to pursue this desire to be in missions and gain a broader perspective of the world’s cultures and needs.

Kayla Dobbs – doing a STINT project which is a year long mission for Campus Crusade for Christ (now known as Cru). Her mission is in Venezuela. Kayla spent a summer doing mission in Venezuela and was asked to return for a year as a team leader.

Rachel Read – serving for a year in South Asia training social workers to assist people being rescued from slavery. Rachel just finished her masters’ degree in social work and has had a heart for serving abroad, especially with people caught in slavery and prostitution rings.

Christian God is moving here. It’s really cool to see the places where the Gospel is really taking ground and the words of Jesus are really taking root in people’s hearts. The city of Tirgu Mures is surrounded by small villages of 100-500 people each. These villages are largely Hungarian and Gypsy villages. On village ministry day, we go out into these villages to either play with children, speak with Gypsy adults about Jesus, worship with/over families in the villages, pray over the villages, and pretty much just follow the Lord’s leading. The pastor feels very strongly that Jesus has a big plan for these villages and that the glory of God is coming to this valley outside the city.

We consistently met people from the villages when we were in the Targu Mures city center, and we were just having really awesome experiences in the villages with people whose hearts were so open (which is atypical here)! So we have upped our village ministry to two days a week.

I believe that God has big things that He wants to continue to do in each of the villages.

Rachel The past few weeks have been really challenging for me in the sense that I am having a difficult time processing the poverty here. I see need everywhere. I am in contact with beggars every single day singling me out to say they have a need. I have people sleeping on my sidewalk outside my apartment. While I have been exposed to poverty throughout my life, this is closer to home...literally. I am broken more each day and am challenged by the response Jesus calls me to have. I have been reading through different passages in the Bible about poverty and this is what I’ve found: Luke 6:27-31: “but to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who

curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

It would probably be more comfortable to ignore this command, but I can’t. GIVE TO EVERYONE WHO ASKS YOU. Jesus knew how big of a challenge this would be for believers, but he still commanded this of us. I did some research and this verse is in reference to poverty. What challenges me about this verse is that when someone asks for money my thoughts are “well, what if they use it to buy drugs” or “what if they aren’t really in need?” I have all these excuses in my head. Unfortunately, Jesus doesn’t say “Give to everyone who asks you...unless they look like a drug addict.”

Kayla Since being here in Valencia, my team and I have already begun our college ministry here with the Venezuelan students at the University of Carabobo. Our first day on campus, we split into groups and did a prayer walk, saying prayers for the different schools, the students, and the faculty. I prayed in the Law, Business, and Education buildings. We prayed that God would provide us students to share the Gospel with. We also prayed for God to keep doing some big things here in Valencia and at the University. This week we have been able to share the Gospel with students in the Dentistry, Medicine, Education, and Business campuses of the university. Some of my teammates have already seen students come to Christ! Michelle, a medical student, accepted Christ this week, and she has already been sharing her faith with other students! God is already working some miracles here, and He is definitely giving me a heart for the lost as I talk to students daily who tell me they are looking for meaning in their lives but haven’t found it yet. We are praying for God to prepare our hearts and students’ hearts for what He is going to do this year through our college ministry.

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this is my

story this is my song

by Dolores Willits

I am the middle child of nine. I was born when folks didn’t think about birth order, so I didn’t know I might have problems during my life-- so much for the Middle Child Syndrome. Recently I opened my Storehouse of Memories so I can share my love of gardening and singing with you, and how it all began.

My DNA is woven with the love of gardening and singing. I think hymns are prayers set to music, don’t you?

At a young age, I worked in our vegetable garden with Mama. I can still hear her words, when she awakened me. “There’s oatmeal for you. Don’t forget your bonnet; you don’t want more freckles.” That’s how my day in our garden began. Little did I know what these memories would mean to me after all these years. I asked Mama why we didn’t grow flowers, and she said Daddy’s hounds and flowers didn’t mix. The zinnias Mama planted in our garden at my request were beautiful; zinnias are in abundance in my garden today.

Mama often sang hymns as we worked. Although I learned later Mama didn’t have a lot to sing about, still she sang .

Before I was ten years old, a new family moved to our neighborhood. They had a piano, and the mom played every day. I loved going to her house. She let me sit on the bench beside her.

As she learned to play a new song from sheet music, I learned to sing it. That’s when I first knew I loved to sing. In high school a music teacher joined our faculty. He organized the Glee Club, and chose students for an octet, a quartet, and solos. I was in the big middle of it all, and I loved it.

At this time in my life, I know why Mama sang—it’s the same reason I sing in my garden today. My DNA is woven with the love of gardening and singing. I think hymns are prayers set to music, don’t you?

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“I come to the Garden alone, while the dew is still on the roses, and the voice I hear, falling on my ear, the Son of God discloses. And He walks with me, and He talks with me, and He tells me I am his own, and the joy I hear, falling on my ear, none other has ever known.”

When weather and time permit, this is how I love to start each day. This year has been a challenge with both weather and time. In my personal life, I found myself in the midst of frustration and despair. I made a commitment to care for my husband, Neil, at home. Even with Hospice care, it became more difficult as time passed, and at times seemed almost impossible. I said to friends and family often… “With God, all things are possible.” When it seemed as if we were close to “impossible,” something wonderful happened – I began to sing.

I was in my garden very early one morning, when these words came to me, “Are we weak and heavy laden-cumbered with a load of care, Jesus knows our every weakness, take it to the Lord in prayer” As I heard my voice, I also heard Mama’s voice. I was a young child in our garden. Mama was singing. What a magical time it is for me to revisit memories of time in our garden with Mama.

As my care for Neil continued, so did my singing. It has truly been a lifechanging experience. My favorite hymns became hymns of prayer, praise and promise. As I finished one song, another one came to mind. I’m singing from memory, so I may have a word or two wrong: “I must tell Jesus all of my trials, I cannot bear these burdens alone; In my distress, He kindly will help me, He ever loves and cares for His own. I must tell Jesus! I must tell Jesus! I cannot bear my burdens alone.”

I have many hymns in my storehouse of memories.

My garden and I have survived Oklahoma’s hottest summer on record, and as I enjoy the cool days of autumn, I am already dreaming of spring. That’s what gardeners do. When I’m in my garden at the end of each day, these are the words I sing: “I’d stay in the garden with him, though the night around me be falling.

Though He bids me go, through the voice of woe, His voice to me is calling.

And He walks with me, and He talks with me, and He tells me I am His own.”

This hymn has special meaning to me now – It is truly a hymn of promise.

“O yes He cares, I know He cares, His heart is touched with my grief; When the days are weary, the long nights dreary, I know my Savior cares.”

I know God lives in my garden; I hope He lives in yours.

O yes, He cares, I know He cares, His heart is touched with my grief; When the days are weary, The long night dreary, I know my Savior cares.

I find everything I need in the words of my favorite hymns. “In my heart there rings a melody.” I know God lives in my garden; I hope He lives in yours.

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From: Does Jesus Care When My Heart Is Pained Source: http://www.hymnal.net

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Signs will be installed Fall 2012

by Angie Brashears

Have you noticed all of the activity on the corner of 66th and Mingo? This corner is now formally known as “Asbury Corner.”

For many years, Pastor Tom Harrison has had a vision for the property now owned

by Asbury at 66th and Mingo. You are beginning to see the seeds being planted for the community that surrounds Asbury. Tom’s ultimate vision is to have a Community Center that can be used by Asbury and other organizations to serve the Tulsa Community. That vision is partly operational now. This corner currently accommodates some of Asbury’s Local Outreach projects in partnership with Union Public Schools, Habitat for Humanity and Global Gardens.

Asbury, along with Habitat for Humanity, is building their first “build and move.” This is their 14th house overall. Construction began on September 10 and continued for five weeks. Then the house was moved to its final destination in West Tulsa for five more weeks of continued construction.

This is what the area from 71st and Memorial (top) to 71st and Garnett (bottom) looked like in the 1950’s.

Photos courtesy of the Beryl Ford Collection/ Rotary Club of Tulsa, Tulsa City-County Library and Tulsa Historical Society

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The house next to the Habitat House formerly known as “House of Prayer” was purchased by Asbury in June 2010 and will now be the “Asbury-Union Learning Center.” The Learning Center is facilitated by Union Public Schools to enable adults to finish their GED and learn English. Union Public Schools has now taken over the GED education for the city of Tulsa. The program started in August 2011 and had 82 people enrolled as of October 2011.

Skip down the street from the Asbury-Union Learning Center and you are at the “Garden House and Gardens.” The Garden House along with the Gardens is the site of an after-school program in partnership with Union Public Schools and Global Gardens. Global Gardens is a non-profit organization dedicated to empowering students and communities through hands on-science education.

This project will help students create a garden with a goal of helping them learn about community development, science, health and the environment as well as challenge them to become caring, forward thinking and confident individuals.

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Thirty-eight students from the Union 6th and 7th Grade Center are participating in this new program. The 7th graders meet on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays while the 6th graders meet on Tuesdays and Thursdays. In the coming months Global Gardens will also host Saturday community day events. During the 9/11 volunteer effort, 40 raised planting beds were made to help the students with fall planting.

Asbury Corner consists of 12 acres owned by Asbury UMC. The property has changed a lot over the years and will continue to change as we move forward. Please refer to the illustration to see the properties and the year they were purchased. Do you remember when the property was just a dirt road? Now look what God is doing and will accomplish at Asbury Corner.

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Tom Harrison My family always went to Arkansas to see my grandparents for Thanksgiving. Lots of food (cranberry salad was my favorite).

Football always seemed to be important, too. It was a safe, good feeling, even if we did a lot of driving over the weekend. (I remember being terrified when we crossed the rickety old bridge over the Arkansas River near Webbers Falls before I-40 was built.) Both my parents loved their parents, and as such, the family time was a great source of blessing to me.

Todd Craig Until the time I was about 16 or 17 nearly the entire extended family on my dad’s side would gather at my grandmother’s house, the same house my dad grew up in, for Thanksgiving. I am not sure how many friends and family members would gather together, but it was more than fit into the house comfortably. In fact, there were enough people there that I probably didn’t know half of their names. My grandmother would always make turkeys out of apples and construction paper that we would “feed” candy corn. The best part for me was that I never graduated from the “kids table” (I still prefer it). The kids table meant I got to have fun with my brother Nathan and three cousins Chas, Cameron and Colton. I think the adults kept my brother and I at the kids table hoping we would keep the younger ones in line.

Of course we knew the kids table was more fun (and it meant we didn’t have to eat cranberry sauce and vegetables).

cakes, and I simply love sweet potato pie and did not have the heart to share it with anyone.

I have grown out of most of my selfishness, however, there are some areas I still have to work on. Thanksgiving, therefore, is very special not only because it is my birthday, but it is a time that I set aside to be with my family and share our thanks, prayers and fellowship. The food no longer plays a big part of my holidays but gathering with the family is extremely important. As my mother (who is still living) continues to be the matriarch in our family since my father died many years ago, we often still gather at her home after dinner. She has so much joy having her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren in her midst that the joy of watching her is more moving than all the delicious food.

My immediate family, my two sons, their wives, and my daughter also have a special time on Thanksgiving. We all get together with my grandchildren and one great grandson as well as other in-laws and celebrate with prayer, lots of food, fellowship and laughter.

Each year any one of us may invite someone else who is alone to share with us as we celebrate this day. I am most grateful that we are afforded the opportunity as a family to understand that every day is thanksgiving, but on this particular day we focus more on our thanks for the entire year, than for one specific event that may have occurred on any given day.

The tradition that has changed in the last few years is that my daughter and daughter in-laws do not allow me to do any cooking– all I have to do is sit back and listen for the announcement, dinner is served. Now how wonderful is that, and I do indeed thank God for such beautiful daughters with the amazing ability to prepare a meal that all can share and there is no complaining or competitiveness.

For this I give thanks!

Darlene Johnson

Jim Lenderman

Thanksgiving was always a very special day in our family, mainly because I was born on Thanksgiving morning. However, I think it spoiled my mother’s Thanksgiving dinner.

As a child, our home was always where all relatives who lived in Oklahoma City would gather for the holidays. I remember my mother would start cooking cakes and pies days in advance, and since my birthday would fall on or around thanksgiving I always got a choice of having chocolate cake or sweet potato pie. This would become my very own cake or pie. I rotated each year my particular choice, and of course I was very selfish because it was mine. However, I would allow everyone to have some cake, but the pie was a whole different issue, because pies are smaller than

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Thanksgivings were always very special to me growing up because it was a holiday when all my brothers’ and sisters’ families would come back home. As the last of eight children, this meant that the house was bursting with people. I remember Mom cooking the turkey, dressing, mashed potatoes and gravy. My older siblings would bring the rest of the fixings and desserts. And then just before we sat down to share our meal together, Mom would always burn the rolls. It became one of our thanksgiving traditions. I remember our home being filled with laughter and hugs and catching up with each other. Great food and fellowship with family. I miss those times now that my parents have passed away, but I cherish the fond memories.

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Gloria McGee-Denton Food, Family & Football—And Big Bertha My parents have 7 ‘kids,’ spread from Alaska to Austin, Texas, and 30 grandkids & greatgrandkids. Understandably, holidays are tough. We rarely get all seven of us in one place, but we rely on a long series of phone calls to make our holiday greetings. The last Thanksgiving we all got together at my house was 10 years ago.

Since Carter and I were married 12 years ago, every holiday but one has been at our house. This suits me just fine. I love to entertain, decorate and cook. Love it!! For Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners, I use lots of fresh ingredients, so I start the washing, chopping and slicing the day before. Kalissa sets the formal table, Kiara now makes the pies, and they do a great job. I use Carter’s dad’s recipe for the most amazing dressing ever, which is all from scratch, I also bake bread and cornbread ahead of time. My mom’s turkey is the most tender and tasty I’ve ever had, so I use her method for “Big Bertha,” (the name I give to the turkey every year).

That usually requires me to start the day by 4 a.m.

We cook lots of family favorites, and I test out a few new recipes each year. A few have totally bombed…creamed onions I remember from childhood—mine weren’t edible. Sugar-free sweet potato casserole with honey & bananas…so-so.

Here’s my schedule for Thanksgiving Day: Between mid-night and 4 am, start Big Bertha. We eat “dinner” at 2 pm, all seated at one table, even if I have to put tables end-to-end. Then it’s football time. (When people leave depends on how the Cowboys are doing, if it’s close, they stay. If it’s a lost cause, as it is sometimes, they leave at halftime.) By the time football is over, the dog is exhausted, the kids are exhausted, and I’m giving thanks for a great day with the family.

On two different family gatherings, my brother-in-law and nephew snuck food under the table to our West Highland Terrier, Apple.

Both of them have scars on the same finger from her aggressive acceptance of their gift.

Two other favorite memories—all the kids playing football in the yard with my dad. And the Cowboys’ 42-31 win over Green Bay in 1994, when 3rd-string QB Jason Garrett led the Cowboys to score 36 of those points in the 2nd half. We still talk about that game every year.

Dick Read For Cindy and I, Thanksgiving is never absent of family. Both of us coming from close families, when we reflect on what we are most grateful for, family is a natural object of that gratitude. Whether spent in Oklahoma or Tennessee, you’ll find us celebrating God’s goodness among family!

Charlie Ryser It had been quite a few years since our family had attended my mother’s traditional family Thanksgiving reunion in Muskogee. Living in western Oklahoma at Laverne, it made for a less than ideal driving situation. With Advent Services usually falling on the Sunday following Thanksgiving, it was difficult to justify, but we were determined to “do it.” We got all ready to go the evening before we were going to hit the road when the area got hit by a blizzard. Our little Honda station wagon disappeared in a drift sitting in our driveway. The next morning, our girls discovered that they were light enough to walk over the drifts that covered fence rows and could almost walk up the drifts onto the roof of the parsonage. The roads to the main highways were shut down. Fortunately we were able to dig out enough that Sally could creep to the tiny local store, get a few Thanksgiving items that remained on the shelf to cook a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner as we settled in for more than a few cold nights. Though my family was disappointed we couldn’t attend the reunion, the event taught us that flexibility and creativity are vital.

Spencer Smith There are the obvious Thanksgiving traditions everyone enjoys: turkey, gravy, and football. Those are all great and enjoyable traditions, but what I really like about Thanksgiving takes place on the following days when I wake up early and head out deer hunting. We spend Thanksgiving with my wife’s family in central Texas, and Thanksgiving weekend will be the first of a few trips down south over the next couple of months to spend with family and hunting.

What could be better than waking early, sitting in the cold, and waiting for a deer to pass by? Not much.

David Thomas We love the Thanksgiving season. For the past fifty-five years, Patty and I have had a discussion about “who’s mother fixes the best dressing.” In the early years of our marriage, we would try to eat a Thanksgiving meal in each parent’s home.

It began then…out of fun…and every year since, we get in a debate about who’s mother fixes the best dressing.

As our two children were growing up…we would get into a heated discussion about this item, and they would get so upset with us, even though it was all in fun. We still have that debate every Thanksgiving. And I’m not tell you which dressing was the best.

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While I Sat in Church Today

by Charlene Giles If we could read the minds of those around us at worship, these might be some of the things we would learn:

married in three months! What an exciting time! I can’t wait to tell all my friends in community!”

“All I can think about are my two young grandchildren. They live in town, but I hardly ever get to see them because my son and his wife live a different lifestyle from mine and are ashamed to let me see the way they live. At least I think that is why they shut me out.”

“Everybody else at church seems so together. I keep looking around wondering if anyone else has the same temptations I do. I’ve heard about Celebrate Recovery, but I’m so ashamed of my secret that I don’t know if I have the courage to try that tomorrow night.”

“I’m trying to focus on Tom’s message, but yesterday Mom called and told me that my father’s dementia is getting so bad that he doesn’t even know her anymore. Later today I need to decide whether to take an unpaid leave from work to go visit them awhile in New Jersey.”

“I just saw in the bulletin that there’s another marriage class being offered. If only my wife would go! For years I have been encouraging her to come to something like that with me, but she is always too busy with the kids’ activities. Doesn’t she know how frustrated I feel to always be the last priority in her life?”

“We just had communion, and all I could do was cry. I have a spouse who does not believe in Jesus. Before we married he said all the right things, but now he won’t come to church with me. It is so lonely to sit here by myself and watch all the other happy couples holding hands.”

“Today in church I feel numb. When I had cancer surgery and treatment four years ago, all my friends and family celebrated with me at the good news that God had healed me. How could this latest test result be so negative? Surely it’s just a mistake. Would I even consider going through that horrible chemo again?”

“My thoughts are jumping around like crazy. I’ve been unemployed for nearly a year, and last month my wife left me to go live with her parents until I find a job. I’m clinging to my faith by a thread. Why won’t God answer my prayers for a good job to support my family?”

“All I can think about is where my seventeen-year-old son might be right now. My husband and I had a fight with him Friday night, and he stormed out. We haven’t seen him since. Surely he’s just with one of his seedy friends we don’t like. I wonder how I could get their phone numbers? Or should we report him missing? I’m so tired I can’t even think straight.”

“I’m looking around and feeling like an outsider. Today is the first time I had courage to even try this giant church. It’s so many times bigger than the church I was raised in. I just wish someone would look over at me and smile. I wonder if it’s okay that I wore jeans? I don’t own any “dress up” clothes. I’ve only lived in Tulsa a couple of months, and it would be so nice to eat out with someone after church.”

“Tom mentioned ‘people in grief’ in his prayer today. I felt the tears roll down my face as I remembered the many times I used to go to church with my parents. They are both gone to be with the Lord now. I miss them so much.”

“Today at church I can barely focus! I feel like I am walking on air. My daughter called yesterday to announce that she is getting

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“Nobody knows but my husband. I had a miscarriage day before yesterday, and it was so early that hardly anyone even knew I was pregnant. So, who do I tell about this? What do I say? Is there anyone else in this huge church service who has been through this, too?”

Next Sunday let the Holy Spirit lead as you greet those around you.

The person sitting next to you may need your encouraging smile more than you ever knew.

“Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.” I John 3:18 NIV

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GRANDPA JOHN

The Man I Hoped to Be

by John C. Westervelt

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t age eighty-three, I am moving late in the spring to Crestwood retirement home on the campus of Oklahoma Methodist Manor. With both of my children living in Texas, I have been cleaning out shelves to ease their task on moving day. While throwing away old records, I came across a quarter-inch stack of three by five index cards held together by an aging rubber band. I stopped to read a few cards and then read all twenty-five of them. A single card covered a subject, except that two cards were needed for my job and three for my wife.

Dr. Bill Lantz taught an eight-week course at Asbury in 1973. With our children busy with high school, my wife Nelda and I enrolled in the class. Each week the members of the class would develop a description of who we would like to be in a relationship and write those words on a card.

Week by week, we developed cards on family, friends, job, and our personal and spiritual lives. The cards were personal and not to be shared. Dr. Lantz said if we would read our cards each day, we would become the person we hoped to be. I did that for many years.

With life nearly complete, I’ll share my cards about my wife, my son, and my daughter.

“I love my wife Nelda. I remember the command of the scripture.

I adore her. I think about her many times daily. I look forward to being with her. I give thoughtful and meaningful gifts to her. I notice things that she is wearing and comment on them. When I kiss her and verbally express my love it has feeling, emotion, and passion. I show affection and attentiveness warmly, feelingly, and frequently. I take her out with the enjoyment of fresh courtship. I find things to praise her for sincerely and eagerly.

“I make appropriate remembrances of holidays and anniversaries. I am sympathetic with her and her work. I truly appreciate the work she does with the children and do what I can to help. I am concerned for her feelings and ideas. I respect her and like her. I think of us as a team working together. I recognize clearly the mental and emotional differences between men and women and respect them. I find delight in pleasing her. I find joy in her joy. We enjoy expressing our love verbally, physically, and in subtle indirect ways.

“I am generous, gentle, considerate, kind, patient, positive, trusting, prayerful, understanding, fun-loving, courteous, and romantic. Our love is a great love and a testimony to the power of God in a marriage and home.”

“I love my son Paul (age 17). God, I give his life to You. I understand You expect me to continue to have responsibility in some areas of Paul’s life. I also know my release of him must move at a pace that puts Paul on his own decision-making path in another year. God, where you lead Paul, I will be supportive of his goals.”

“I love my daughter Mary Kim (age 15). God, I give her life to You. I am patient in her growing into womanhood. I provide freedom for her and constraints appropriate to her age and maturity. I am interested in her interests. I appreciate her determination.”

My children now have children of their own. You can ask Paul and Mary Kim if their dad did what he hoped he would do.

Unfortunately, Nelda moved on to heaven twenty-four years ago, so you will have to wait to ask her. I don’t suppose I ever fully became the man I hoped to be, but I feel sure I was a better man for having tried.

Other stories at www.jwestervelt.com

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Chancel Choir Race for the Cure

by Marti Morris It rained all Friday night so when we got up on Saturday morning I thought to myself, “Hart and I will be the only ones walking the race today.” We got to the church to pick up the people movers that we were to take to the downtown race site and were happily surprised to meet the rest of our team all dressed in their Voices of Faith team t-shirts ready to walk despite the cloudy skies. We began pinning signs to the backs of our team shirts which had the names of our ten Chancel Choir women who have survived breast cancer. This was the first year we have walked in memory of one of our sisters. We boarded the people movers and headed for One-Ok Field, the new location for the Komen Race for the Cure. The day was perfect for a race. It was cool and the clouds rolled away by race time. Over 11,000 people converged there to participate in the race this year. It is quite a sight to see that many people walking and running in the race. Area high school and junior high cheerleaders

cheer racers on all along the way and other volunteers hand out water at designated points. Before and after the race free food, drinks and water are available to all. It is wonderfully organized and once you have done it you are hooked! The Chancel Choir has had a team for the past 9 years. Each year we encourage everyone to participate by entering the race as a runner or walker or as a sleepwalker. (The sleepwalkers pay a larger fee and get a race t-shirt but they can sleep in on race day.) Failing those options we ask for a donation from everyone else. Our team captain is Donna Stutzman who is a great encourager and gets most everyone to do something for the cause. The morning of the race we ended up with 24 adult walkers, 5 youth walkers ranging in age from 3 to 13 years and 15 sleepwalkers and raised $2814. It is always a fun morning spent with friends, celebrating our survivors and doing something really good for our bodies, our minds and the fight against breast cancer.

Children’s Choirs at Asbury “The Word of the Lord is a lamp for my feet; the Word of the Lord is a light to my path.” These words rang out in the 8:00 service sung by the Young Musicians choir just before the third grade children received their Bibles. It was a perfect song chosen for this special presentation. Fall is a busy time for the Children’s choirs at Asbury. They are preparing songs for our worship services, playing instruments, musical games and activities as well as learning songs for the Christmas Pageant. The Young Musicians (grades 3-6th) have had a very full fall already. They made a CD to be used in a professional puppet show and are also planning to make a music video for the children’s ministry. That is in addition to preparing

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songs for worship and for the Christmas pageant. Each year the children’s choirs combine to tell the story of Christmas through drama and song. The Young Musicians are the force behind the pageant, acting, ringing, dancing and singing their way through.

This year’s pageant is entitled, The Bows of Holly, will be held on December 4. Holly has launched a toy and food drive for the needy.

Her heart is in the right place but when she starts getting a lot of publicity, it seems she loses focus on the reason she’s doing it. There are sets to build, dances and solos to learn, there are handbells to perfect and lines to learn. It is an exciting time to be in Children’s choir as we share the Good News about God through music.

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RECIPES OF THE MONTH

The following recipes are taken from the Asbury UMW Cookbook. Copies of the cookbook can be purchased for $20 at the gazebo on Sundays or at the front office. Proceeds support Asbury’s church projects, scholarship program, and local and global missions.

Taco Soup 2 lbs. hamburger meat 1 med. onion 2 cloves garlic, minced 1 lg. can stewed tomatoes 1 can Ro-Tel tomatoes 1 can red kidney beans

1 can pinto beans 1 lg. can chicken broth 1 can corn 1 pkg. Hidden Valley dressing (dry mix) 1 pkg. taco seasoning (dry mix)

Brown hamburger meat with onion and garlic. Drain grease. Mix in stewed tomatoes, Ro-Tel, kidney beans, pinto beans, chicken broth, corn, and both packages of dry mixes. Stir well. Simmer for 30 minutes. Serves 10.

Pumpkin Pie Crunch 1 (16-oz.) can solid packed pumpkin 1 (12-oz.) can evaporated milk 1 ½ c. sugar 3 eggs 4 tsp. pumpkin pie spice

½ tsp. salt 1 yellow moist cake mix 1 c. chopped pecans 1 c. butter or margarine, melted

Preheat oven to 350⁰. Grease 9 x 13-inch pan. Combine pumpkin, milk, sugar, eggs, pumpkin pie spice and salt in large bowl. Mix until well blended. Pour into pan. Sprinkle dry cake mix evenly over top of pumpkin mixture. Top with pecans. Drizzle melted butter over all. Bake for 50 to 55 minutes. Cool before serving. Can serve with whipped cream. Refrigerate leftovers.

Submitted by Mary Pittman: The recipe came from “America’s Favorite Brand Name Baking” cookbook that was a gift from my sister Teresa. I highly recommend the book for bakers who love comfort food especially during the holidays. The Pumpkin Pie Crunch recipe is one of my fall favorites and is always a ‘hit’ at gatherings just as is. The recipe can be made ahead as it keeps well. Additional serving suggestions are to serve slightly warm with spice or vanilla ice cream. Caramel can also be drizzled on top.

YUMMY!

Submitted by Emily Long Walton: “For the life of me, I cannot remember where I got this recipe. I use it a lot for fall and winter pot luck events as it is just as tasty at room temperature or chilled as it is right out of the oven. It is super simple to make with just a short list of ingredients. You can make it a little more calorieconscious by using reduced fat cake mix, egg substitute, and reduced fat margarine. Many times, I will put nuts on half of it and leave them off the other half to please everyone. Top it with cool whip or vanilla ice cream and ENJOY!!”

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Asbury Opportunities RECYCLING PAPER

GENERAL INFORMATION

Recycle unwanted paper products. Three bins are available, located in the south and east parking lots.

BREAKFAST

Come enjoy fellowship with Asburians along with fresh donuts, bagels, biscuits & gravy, sausage, eggs, fruit, and cereal.

• Served from 7:00–9:00 am in the CLC • $3 for adults and $1 for children 12 and under

NEW ADDITIONS TO THE LIBRARY

The Asbury Library is a wonderful resource. Thank you to all who continue to contribute books to our Library.

SUNDAY MORNING WORSHIP

8:00 am

9:15 am 9:15 am

11:00 am 11:00 am

Mason Chapel (Traditional Communion) Sanctuary (Contemporary) CLC (Open House Worship) (Acoustic Worship, Casual Setting) Sanctuary (Traditional) Venue 68 (Modern with sign interpreter)

TOASTMASTERS

Toastmasters is a learn-by-doing workshop in which participants hone their speaking and leadership skills in a friendly atmosphere.

Members learn communication skills by performing a series of 10 self-paced speaking assignments designed to instill a basic foundation in public speaking. Members also learn leadership skills by taking on various meeting roles.

• Every Monday that the church is open, 11:45 am–12:45 pm • Room 2820

SUNDAY EVENING WORSHIP

6:00 pm

DOORS OF ASBURY POSTERS ARE AT THE WELCOME CENTERS

FREE! Suitable for framing.

Venue 68 (Modern)

SUNDAYS FOR CHILDREN AND STUDENTS

6 Weeks–4 Years K–6th Grades 7th, 8th & 9th Grades 10th, 11th & 12th Grades

8:00, 9:15 and 11:00 am 9:15 or 11:00 am 9:15 and 11:00 am 9:15 am only

ADULT DISCIPLESHIP COMMUNITIES

Adult Bible study, belonging, and serving together • Sunday at 8:00, 9:15 and 11:00 am • options during the week – Tuesdays at 6:00 pm, Wednesdays at 6:00 and 7:30 pm SURGERY OR HOSPITALIZATION SCHEDULED?

Be sure to let Asbury know ahead of time by calling Joan at 918.392.1176 so your pastors can be in prayer for you. When you enter the hospital, please designate Asbury as your church. The after-hours pastoral emergency line can be reached by calling 918.492.1771, selecting option 6, and leaving a message for the pastor on call.

THE GAZEBO IS OPEN

CDs of Tom’s message of the day are available immediately following the worship service - $3. UMW Cookbooks available for $20. Additional volunteers needed.

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ACCESS HANDS OF LOVE SIGN CHOIR

• Sundays, 5:30—6:30 pm, Family Room FRIENDS IN CHRIST COMMUNITY

• Sundays, 11:00 am, room 1507

BIBLE STUDY Watch for the new lineup of classes coming for winter 2012. Make a plan to dig deeper into God’s Word with some of our weekly studies. Check online at “Roadmap” on the Asbury website or watch for brochures coming soon.

Here are some ongoing studies you may attend at any time: BELIEVERS BIBLE STUDY

Study on the Imperatives of the New Testament: Meanings, Objectives and Applications • Wednesdays, 6:00–7:30 pm • Room 1508 • Instructor: Don Herrold

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WOMEN OF THE WORD

Join Darlene Johnson as she leads an open Bible study focusing on the practical application of the Scripture sermon series.

• Wednesdays, 10:00–11:00 am • No childcare • Room 2319

CARE AND SUPPORT SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS

Experiencing grief and loss can be especially painful during the holidays, so let’s spend some “sharing” time together. We will have materials for you to take home to discuss ideas with family members and others about ways to spend the holidays during those particularly challenging times following a loss. There will be special programming for the children provided at the same time.

• Saturday, November 5, 10:00 am–12:00 noon • Parlor STEPHEN MINISTRY MEETING

Stephen Ministry is God’s love in action to those dealing with life’s difficulties. Learn more at an info meeting. Training will begin mid-January.

• Monday, November 7, 9:30–10:30 am or Thursday, November 10, 6:30–7:30 pm • Contact Charlene at 918.392.1145 or cgiles@asburytulsa.org S.M.I.L.E. (SINGLE MOTHERS IN THE LORD’S EMBRACE)

Join us for a DVD series and book entitled “21 Principles of a Healthy Single Mom.” You will learn to apply specific, workable guidelines so you can flourish spiritually in the midst of overwhelming circumstances. Each principle/video session is selfcontained, and you may begin attending at any time.

• Third Thursdays, 6:00–8:45 pm • Free childcare • Parlor • $12 for book • RSVP to Kellie at asburysmile@ymail.com

• Contact Adrena at 918.392.1144 or the coordinator, Linda Pat Colgan at 918.366.3287 or jsclpc@yahoo.com PRAYER CARD MINISTRY

Send cards with God’s encouraging words and our prayers to those who are ill or going through hard times.

• Usually meets first and third Mondays at 9:30 am • Room 1508 • Contact Gwen Mohler at 918.258.5479 or grmohler@aol.com CARD DESIGNERS NEEDED FOR PRAYER CARD MINISTRY

Volunteers are needed to design encouragement cards. Cards can be designed at home and drawn by hand or on the computer.

• Contact Gwen Mohler at 918.258.5479 or grmohler@aol.com MILITARY CONNECTION

Please join us in praying for our troops in harm’s way and their families. Periodic care packages and monthly encouragement cards with God’s Word are sent to Asbury-related military personnel. The Prayer Ministry also covers them in prayer. Send complete name and address to: • Jo VanDeWiele at 918.459.0888 or Gwen at grmohler@aol.com SURVIVORS!

Reaching out to one another with God’s eternal perspective through the storms of life. For those living with life-changing physical illness. Friends and family too.

• Second Sunday of each month, 4:00–5:30 pm • Parlor • Contact Rod at 918.740.4393 DIVORCE RECOVERY

HEALING HATS MINISTRY

For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma.

• Tuesdays, 7:00–8:30 pm • Childcare available • Room 1335 • Contact Malia Miller at 918.494.9596 or malia.miller@ sbcglobal.net

VISITS TO ASBURY MEMBERS

For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce.

• Thursdays, 7:00–8:30 pm • Childcare available • Room 1335 • Contact Jim Small at 918.697.4220 or divorce-rebuilding@ cox.net

An Asbury ministry created to provide hats to cancer patients who have lost their hair. Home spun with knots of love, woven together with help from above! Simply knit, crochet or sew a hat of your choice and drop it in the collection box located next to the Gazebo. Find more information in the literature rack attached to the collection box.

• Contact Sue at 918.455.2816 or HealingHatsMin@aol.com

Asbury has a group of volunteers (Asbury Connection) who regularly visit people who are homebound, in nursing homes or in assisted living facilities.

DIVORCE REBUILDING

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MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES

For family members or caregivers of people affected by a mental illness.

• Usually meets the fourth Thursdays from 1:30–3:00 pm • Room 1507 • Contact Linda Lytle at 918.298.2707 or lllytle@wildflower.net ASBURY BEAR BAGS

Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books have comforted young children for many years, but now you may give a Bear Bag with a scripture-based journal included instead! Great for teens and adults. Anyone may deliver an Asbury bear to someone who is grieving.

• Contact Sue at suemorey@yahoo.com

CHILDREN Registration forms for all children’s activities are available in the preschool and elementary lobbies.

CORE CHILDCARE HOURS

Parents who are involved in RoadMap classes during these core hours will have childcare provided for children 6 weeks–12 years of age with no reservations needed: • Sunday 8:00 am - 12:00 pm • Monday and Tuesday 9:00 am - 12:00 pm • Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm SUNDAY MORNING VOLUNTEERS

Children’s Ministry is actively pursuing classroom, security and hospitality volunteers. We have two rotations: Alpha (1st and 2nd Sunday) and Omega (3rd and 4th Sunday) at both the 9:15 and 11:00 class times.

• Contact Joanna Edwards at 918.392.1166 or jedwards@ asburytulsa.org ODD SUNDAY

We’ll have a good ol’ time bobbin’ for apples, turkey bowling, and all those fun fall festivities! Open to all 6th graders.

• November 6, 6:30–8:00 pm • Gym • Cost is $5 • Contact Jennifer at 918.392.4582 or jbarnes@asburytulsa.org MURDOCK VILLA

Our 4th through 6th graders have the opportunity to serve at an assisted living housing project – Murdock Villa. Sign up is required since space is limited to the first 10 students. If you have any additional questions, please • Sunday, November 20, 12:30–3:00 pm • Cost is $5.00 which includes a pizza lunch • Sign up required; limited to the first 10 students

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• Contact Shelley Hughes at 918.392.1172 or shughes@ asburytulsa.org CELEBRATION STATION

Celebration Station is a 52-week complementary children’s program to Celebrate Recovery. So while adults explore topics that bring healing and wholeness, kids discover the same truths in ageappropriate ways through worship, crafts, games and activities.

• Mondays, 7:00–9:00 pm • Faith Zone • Contact Eryn Wallis 918.392.4588 SPECIAL VOLUNTEERS FOR SPECIAL KIDS!

Do you have a heart to help children with special needs? If so, the Children’s Ministry needs you to volunteer.

• Contact Dotti Westerberg at dottiwesterberg@hotmail.com or 918.381.0874 WEDNESDAY NIGHT LIVE

Join us on Wednesday nights for worship in the Chapel—kid style.

We will combine music, high energy, verse memory and a Bible lesson in a setting that encourages kids to learn about worship. You may pick up a registration form in the Children’s Ministry area.

For more information contact the age-appropriate staff member: • Kindergarten, Stephanie L. at 918.392.1171 • 1st and 2nd grade, Shanon at 918.392.1170 • 3rd–5th grade, Jennifer at 918.392.4582 CHRISTMAS EVE FAMILY SERVICE

The 4th–6th graders have the privilege of presenting the Christmas Story to the congregation at the 5:00 pm Christmas Eve Family Service. We need instrumentalists, Scripture readers, and actors/ actresses to make this a memorable evening for all.

• Call Jennifer Barnes at 918.392.4582 or jbarnes@asburytulsa. org by December 5 if your child is interested • We also need adult help with rehearsals

DISCIPLESHIP DISCIPLESHIP COMMUNITIES

If you have not yet found an Adult Discipleship Community check out “Get Involved” on our website, www.asburytulsa.org, or pick up a brochure at one of our Welcome Centers.

• If you are 20’s to early 30’s, come check out our newest Sunday morning group at 11:00 am in room 2201, “Transitions” • Looking for a home-based small group? Email JOdom@ asburytulsa.org

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ENDOWMENTS

MEN

Leave a legacy that continues to give forever to a ministry you want to support. There are endowments that support many areas of Asbury’s outreach including children, youth, music, missions, and training of pastors as well as a general endowment. You can easily impact a ministry through your will or a current gift.

• Contact Dwight Yoder at 918.392.1113 or dyoder@ asburytulsa.org

HOSPITALITY New opportunities coming soon! There will be some special events in early 2012 that will require many smiling servants. We also need new volunteers to serve in a hospitality role at Connection Corner where many people have their first experience at Asbury.

The Gazebo needs new volunteers as well.

• Call Joan at 918.392.1176 to volunteer

MARRIAGE & FAMILY 10 GREAT DATES WITH YOUR MATE

Gather to hear a variety of topics led by various speakers (30 minutes), and then have dinner out.

• Thursday, November 10, 6:15–7:00 pm • Room 1502 • Contact Eryn at ewallis@asburytulsa.org or 918.392.4588 to arrange childcare ATTENTION ENGAGED COUPLES

If you are planning to use an Asbury pastor to officiate and/or use Asbury’s facilities, be sure to book ASAP to allow ample time for Couple-to-Couple (required premarital meetings).

We are privileged to salute those men and women who have served their country as members of the armed services and those today who proudly wear the uniform of the Active, Reserve and National Guard forces. The Asbury Scouts Leadership Foundation and the Asbury Military Connection, along with the Asbury Prayer Card Ministry, invite you to join them in “A Salute to our Veterans” which will include a flag ceremony, speakers, songs and videos, To kick off the celebration, the annual Pancake Breakfast hosted by Asbury Scouts will be held that morning All proceeds will benefit the Asbury Cub Scouts, Boy Scouts and Venture Crew programs.

Please come and help us celebrate!

“A Salute to our Veterans” • Saturday, November 5, 2011, 8:15—10:15 am • CLC • Pancake Breakfast • Saturday, November 5, 7:00–11:00 am • No admission but donations gratefully accepted CAR CARE WORKDAY VOLUNTEERS

Car Care Saturday is an every-other-month work day provided for Asbury’s widows and single moms, through our Men’s Ministry.

While the ladies wait in the comfort of the café, volunteers check tires, belts, fluids, filters and batteries. They also vacuum and wash the vehicles, and then update owners on what’s running smoothly and what needs professional attention. This free service gives our men the opportunity to put their faith in action through loving and serving those in need.

• November 12 • Contact Mike at mnalley16@cox.net to volunteer MEN’S PRAYER BREAKFAST

MILESTONE WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES

Email your upcoming Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) to Carolyn Schutte at brucars2@cox.net or call her at 918.451.1559.

MEMBERSHIP ASBURY EXPLORATION

ASBURY SCOUTS VETERANS’ DAY CELEBRATION AND PANCAKE BREAKFAST

Come to a lunch/class to learn more about becoming a member of Asbury.

• Sunday, November 6, 12:15–2:00 pm • Childcare available for children six weeks through sixth grade • Community Life Center • Lunch provided • Call 918.392.1191 to register

Make plans to join us for a great time of meaningful worship, lifechanging prayer and an awesome big breakfast.

• Wednesdays, 6:30–7:30 am • CLC • Cost is $3 per person; first-time guests are free MATURE MEN’S MINISTRY R.O.M.E.O. LUNCHEON

Are you a “Retired Old Man” who wants to “Eat Out?” If so, then these luncheons are for you! A really awesome bunch of guys meet for good food and great fellowship.

• Meet every second and fourth Friday, 11:15 am • Village Inn (71st and Memorial) • Open to anyone 60 years and up • Contact Bud at bdmathes@cox.net or Jim at robersonjim29@ gmail.com

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MISSIONS/VIM 2ND SATURDAY

Looking for an easy way to make a difference and share Christ’s love in Tulsa? Join us for Second Saturday and choose between local mission opportunities. Families with children are welcomed and encouraged!

• November 12, 8:30 am at Venue68 • Head to the ministry sites, 8:45; teams work from 9:00–11:30 am; buses return to Venue68 no later than 12:15 pm • Contact Betty Higgins at carevets@aol.com THANKSGIVING FOOD BASKETS

The Thanksgiving Food Baskets will be assembled and delivered as a part of 2nd Saturday. Individuals, families and children are welcome. We will first assemble the basket in the CLC as we enjoy fellowship with some of the Youth at Heart kids. Delivery will be to the apartment complex community centers where a brief gathering with the families will take place.

• Saturday, November 12 • Meet at Venue68 at 8:30 am and choose this service opportunity • Contact Radhika Aussieker at 918.392.1116 • If you would like to donate, the cost of one basket is $40. Make checks payable to Asbury UMC with “food baskets” on the memo line.

ADOPT A CHRISTMAS CHILD

and networking. We meet the • Third Tuesday each month, 6:30–9:00 pm • Family Room • Contact Russ Knight at OJTJobs@gmail.com A&W (ASBURY AND WHITMAN)

A&W is an outreach ministry of Asbury UMC to the staff and community of Whitman Elementary School. A&W volunteers help in a variety of ways: listen to students read, tutor math, be a lunch buddy, help in the library or with various school projects.

Volunteer as often as you like.

• Contact Barbie Paige at 918.250.9194 or bepaige@hotmail.com VOLUNTEERS IN MISSION 2011 OPPORTUNITIES

• November 2-6 Monterrey, Mexico, Medical, $900 VIM TEAM LEADER TRAINING

• November 5 (Training date is in Oklahoma City) • Contact Marilene Long at 918.392.1164 or mlong@ asburytulsa.org We also plan domestic teams in response to needs due to natural disasters.

MUSIC SERVICE OF LESSONS AND CAROLS

We are blessed with a wonderful opportunity to reach out to children from Youth at Heart, Operation Hope Prison Ministry and Circle of Care. We have names of 450 children needing gifts for Christmas. We would appreciate your help in providing gifts for one or more of these children. The children have requested articles of clothing with sizes and a game or toy. We ask that you provide one article of clothing and one game or toy. Please prayerfully consider how you might be able to help with this outreach.

• Sunday, December 4 - Date to adopt a child • Locations to adopt a child –– South entrance downstairs by preschool –– Upstairs by children’s lobby –– North entrance by gazebo –– Venue68 north lobby • Sunday, December 11 - Date to bring your wrapped gift • Locations to bring wrapped gifts –– CLC Gallery –– Venue68 north lobby • Contact: Jamie at 918.636.2460 or Radhika at 918.392.1116 for questions or to volunteer to help with delivery on December 15 at 5:30 pm.

We will celebrate the first Sunday in Advent with a Service of Lessons and Carols. The New Covenant Orchestra, Chancel Choir, Celebration Ringers, One Voice, Perpetual Light, the Young Musicians and our pastors will lead us in Scripture and carols as we prepare our hearts for the season of Advent. Join us for this hourlong service to enjoy the sounds of the season.

• November 27, 6:00–7:00 pm • Sanctuary

OJT (OVERCOMING JOB TRANSITIONS)

We have so much fun…singing, laughing and serving together.

Come share your God-given talent with us.

• Wednesdays, 7:00–9:00 pm

CHANCEL CHOIR

Reaching out to job seekers; it doesn’t work if you don’t help us spread the word. Job seekers can get help with resumes, LinkedIn,

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CHILDREN’S CHOIRS CHRISTMAS PAGEANT

Our second Sunday of Advent will spotlight the Asbury’s children’s choirs as they present Bows of Holly. The drama will feature the Young Musicians choir who will present the story of Holly who is collecting food and toys for underprivileged children and how she finds the true meaning of giving. Joyful Sounds, Joyful Noise and the Music Makers will tell the age-old Christmas story through songs. You will not want to miss this heart-warming evening.

• Sunday, December 4, 6:00 pm • Sanctuary

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• Choir room • Available for seventh grade through adults.

service will offer words of comfort, a time of healing prayer and a time for participants who so desire to light a candle in memory of those they have lost. This special hour can bring encouragement during the Christmas season and offer strength for today and hope for tomorrow.

• Sunday, December 11, 2011, 5:00 pm • Mason Chapel

NEW COVENANT ORCHESTRA

• Wednesdays, 6:00–7:30 pm • Orchestra room

PRAYER ROOM RESERVATIONS

The leadership of Asbury’s prayer ministry would like to remind you that the main facility Prayer Room is open not only to individuals desiring to pray in a quiet, meditative atmosphere but also to prayer groups within communities and ministries. Just call the Adult Ministries office at 918.392.4589 to reserve the Prayer Room for your group on a weekly or monthly basis.

ASBURY YOUTH ORCHESTRA

• Wednesdays, 5:30–6:00 pm • Orchestra room PERPETUAL LIGHT

• Thursdays, 10:30am–12:00 noon • Handbell room

PRAYER ROOM DAYS AND TIMES

Our prayer rooms are accessible to you at these times: • Mason Chapel and Venue 68 –– Sunday, 7:00 am–12:30 pm, through the interior doors • Main Facility, Mason Chapel and Venue 68 –– Monday - Friday, 8:00 am–9:00 pm –– Saturday, 10:00 am–3:00 pm –– Sunday, 12:30 pm–9:00 pm To obtain pass codes, call Pam in the Adult Ministries office at 918.392.4589.

CELEBRATION RINGERS

• Tuesdays, 4:30–5:30 pm • Handbell room ASBURY POWER & LIGHT CO.

• Sundays, 8:00–9:15 am • Orchestra room

RECOVERY

CHILDREN’S CHOIRS

Come learn about God through music as we sing, play instruments, play musical games and prepare our Christmas pageant.

• Wednesdays, 6:00–6:50 pm • Available for children age four (by September 1, 2011) through sixth grade

CELEBRATE RECOVERY

Come join this supportive group of people. Hiding any hurts, habits or hang-ups? God never intended for you to live in bondage.

• Every Monday night: dinner at 6:00 pm, worship from 7:00–8:00 pm, small groups from 8:00–9:00 pm, dessert from 9:00–9:30 pm

ASBURY SINGING AMBASSADORS

SENIOR ADULTS

• Tuesdays, 1:30–3:00 • Choir room • Available for senior adults

TWEENAGERS NOVEMBER PROGRAM AND LUNCHEON

PRAYER ALTAR PRAYER

If you would like someone to pray with you during Holy Communion or immediately following a worship service, please come to the altar rail. A pastor or member of the Altar Prayer Team will be glad to pray with you for your needs—physical, emotional or spiritual, at the altar or in the Prayer Room.

SERVICE OF REMEMBRANCE

Asbury’s Singing Ambassadors, under the direction of Charlene Ravens, will present a program that is sure to be inspirational and a blessing. The “Getting to Know You” segment will be by Steve Wright. A donation to Tweenagers’ missions and other expenses will be greatly appreciated. Come join us for fun and fellowship!

• Thursday, November 10, 10:30 am–1:00 pm • CLC • Lunch is $1.00; no advance reservations required • Everyone age 55 or over is welcome ADULT GAME DAY

Join with us in a service of prayer and healing. The emphasis will be on grief and loss experienced within the past year or two. This special

Attention all adults! How would you like to get together on a regular basis with a wonderful bunch of fun adults and play cards, dominoes, or whatever board or card game you choose? Bring a

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friend and stay for as long as you like!

• Every third Thursday, 1:30–4:00 pm • Room 2821

You are always welcome to join any other communities that are not “Singles Only”, as most are a mix of singles and marrieds.

STUDENTS SENIOR WALK IN THE GYM WITH HIM

All senior adults are invited to join us for power walking, coupled with lots of fun and fellowship. Come give it a try.

• Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, 8:30–9:00 am • Gym SENIOR SIT AND FIT STRETCHING CLASS

All senior adults are invited to join us for a time of stretching, coupled with lots of fun and fellowship. No high impact workout here. We take it nice and easy.

• Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 9:00–9:30 am • Gym SENIOR ADULT MEAL & MOVIE

If you’re 55 years of age or over, our monthly meal and movie day event may be just the “ticket” for you! We get together at a different Tulsa restaurant each month, and then head off to see a “first run” movie.

• The dates and times vary according to the movie selected, but those who express an interest will be contacted a few days ahead of time so they can make plans accordingly • For more information or to sign up for the call list, contact Sally Wood, sally-wood@sbcglobal.net

SINGLES SINGLES FALL LUNCHEON

789 GRADE BREAKAWAY – SUNDAY MORNINGS

On Sunday mornings at 9:15 am, we meet in the BAM room (upstairs in the Venue) for a large total group experience of games, worship and teachings from God’s Word. If you like large groups and worship, be there. At 11:00 am, we meet in the green classroom as a smaller group and do a more in depth Bible study.

7 8 9 GRADE BIBLE STUDY

Come join us for Wednesday night Bible study; hang out, have fun and study what God’s words has for us.

• Wednesdays, 6:30–8:00 pm • Student Café 10 11 12 GUYS RETREAT

• November 5–6 • Contact Todd Peterson at 918.392.1154 10 11 12 SUNDAY MORNINGS @ VENUE 68

On Sunday mornings we meet for an in-depth Bible Study and discussion.

• Sundays, 9:15 am • High school room 10 11 12 BREAKAWAY

Single adults, come enjoy food, fun and fellowship with other Christian singles at Asbury.

• November 13, 12:15–1:30 pm • CLC • $5.00 per person; kids 10 and under eat free • No reservations required

Every Wednesday night we come together for a time of connection and worship. Our desire is to explore who God really is and how our lives matter to Him. • Wednesday nights, 7:00–8:30 pm • Hang out afterwards for pizza

SINGLES CHRISTMAS LUNCHEON

Get connected. Are you looking for a way to get more connected?

Are you looking for a place to grow in your walk with Jesus? Then being a part of a small group is where you need to be. If you are already in a small group, don’t forget to re-sign up for your group.

Our small groups meet every Sunday night; times vary. Some of the groups meet in homes and others meet at the church.

• Contact Todd at 918.392.1154 or Amy at 918.392.1156

COMMUNITIES

Come join youth from all over the city in a night to just worship Jesus.

• The first Wednesday of every month, 7:00–8:30 pm • Venue68

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Single adults and their families are invited to attend our Singles Christmas Luncheon to celebrate the holiday season. Great fellowship, food, fun and door prizes. Bring a friend.

• December 11, 12:15–1:30 pm • CLC • $5.00 per person; kids 10 and under eat free • No reservations required

7TH–12TH GRADE METRO WORSHIP @ VENUE 68

• Sundays, 9:15 am – New Beginnings Class • Sundays, 11:00 am – Ambassadors for Christ, Footprints (ladies only), SEGUE, Salt & Light

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7TH–12TH GRADE GIRLS ONLY NIGHT

All 7th–12th grade girls, get ready for an awesome night focused on being a young woman of God. Further details will be coming.

• Saturday night, November 5 COLLEGE COMMUNITY GROUP

If you are a college-age student, we would love to have you come join us. We eat a homemade meal together then open up God’s word.

• Sunday evenings, 7:30–9:00 pm • Briggs home • Contact Todd Peterson at 918.392.1154 or tpeterson@ asburytulsa.org

VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES GET PLUGGED IN!

Volunteer opportunities have been updated and can be found at the information desks near the main entrances and Venue68. Updates are also posted on the website.

WOMEN UMW NOVEMBER UNIT LUNCHEON

Dr. Ray Crawford, Senior Pastor of First United Methodist Church of Claremore, will present “Haiti – Hope and Healing after the Earthquake” as he shares his work of helping people experience the saving love of Jesus Christ through his church’s missionary work in this earthquake ravished country. Scripture: 1 Corinthians 12:7.

• Thursday, November 3, 11:30 am–1:00 pm • CLC • Cost: $7.00 for lunch; no reservations necessary CAR CARE WORKDAY

Attention Asbury widows and single moms. Car Care Saturday is coming up! Our Men’s Ministry volunteers will check your tires, belts, fluids, filters and batteries, all free of charge, and let you know what needs professional attention. They also wash and vacuum your car!

• November 12, 9:00 am–12:00 noon • No reservations required; just get your vehicle in line by 11:30 am

work on our own individual arts and crafts, stop for a delicious pot-luck lunch, and continue on through until 1:00 pm. We have a wonderful time together and would love to have you join us.

• Mondays, 9:30 am–1:00 pm • Room 2821 • Contact Betty Seetin or just stop by

WORSHIP 8:00 AM COMMUNION SERVICE

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Mason Chapel Traditional service with music led by Hart Morris Communion is served Dr. Harrison preaches

9:15 AM CONTEMPORARY PRAISE & WORSHIP

• Sanctuary • Contemporary music led by Mark Bennett and team • Time of prayer and the message will all carry a prevailing theme for the morning • Dr. Harrison preaches 9:15 AM OPEN HOUSE WORSHIP

• Community Life Center • A relaxed atmosphere with engaging worship led by Dub Ambrose and team • Dr. Tom Harrison’s message is simulcast with an occasional live sermon from another pastor 11:00 AM TRADITIONAL SERVICE

• Sanctuary • The Chancel Choir, the New Covenant Orchestra and various vocal and instrumental ensembles offer a variety of styles of music led by Hart Morris • Dr. Tom Harrison preaches 11:00 AM MODERN SERVICE

WOMEN OF THE WORD

• Venue 68 • Rich blend of ancient and modern worship, led by Chris Cleveland and team • Sign interpreters for the deaf are offered • Dr. Tom Harrison’s message is simulcast

CRAFTY LADIES FELLOWSHIP

• Venue68 • Rich blend of ancient and modern worship, led by the Ben Kilgore and team • Rev. Spencer Smith preaches

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Wednesdays, 10:00–11:00 am No childcare available Room 2319 Teacher is Rev. Darlene Johnson

6:00 PM MODERN SERVICE

Ladies, if you enjoy doing crafts and fellowshipping at the same time, this activity is for you. We gather on Monday mornings to

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

Marriages, Births and Deaths MARRIAGES

DEATHS

• Kathleen Patricia Wagner & Graham James Akers married 9-3-2011 • Lisa Bennett & Jeffery Showalter married 9-10-2011.

• Karla Sue Minardi & Lance Blaine Taylor married 9-17-2011 • Tiffany Susan Wortham & Jeffrey Scott Grantham married 9-24-2011

• Jack Shoalmire died 8-27-2011, father of Rebecca (Barry) Bennett and Jon Shoalmire • Barbara ‘Gail’ Hunt died 9-6-2011, wife of Jim Hunt, mother of Amy Susan Sell • Virginia Overstreet died 9-21-2011, mother of Karen (Rev Don) Johnson

BIRTHS • Audrey Elizabeth Metcalf born 6-29-2011, daughter of Eugene & Amber Metcalf • Alice Kate Newhouse born 6-30-2011, daughter of Cashel & John Newhouseister • Corbin Moden born 9-22-2011, son of Darin & Amber Moden

Milestone Anniversaries 60 YEARS

25 YEARS

• Don & Terry Davis 11/03/51 • John & Eddie Middleton 11/22/51

• Mike & Margaret Hosier 11/15/86

20 YEARS

55 YEARS • Russ & Florrie Washburn 11/30/56

• Steve & Pam Hurst 11/02/91

10 YEARS

35 YEARS • Scott & Marilene Long 10/23/76

• Johnny & Yvette Onkst 11/03/01

30 YEARS • Jim & Cathy Breece 11/07/81

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

Don & Terry Davis 11/03/51

John & Eddie Middleton 11/22/51

Russ & Florrie Washburn 11/30/56

Mike & Teresa Angel with Natalie and Laken

Tony & Laurie Bropst with Megan and Michael

Pam Cooper

Mark French

Bruce & Anne Heine with Lily and Raymond

Keith & Susan Landers with Kelsey Jamison

New Members

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

John & Jennifer Matson with Jordan and Johnathan

Phil Rodenmayer

Diana Rose

Jolly & Christine Salehy with Julien

Marilyn Smith

Andrew & Amanda Stephens with Max and Henry

Cathey Williams

Alice Yang with Solomon

Special Recognition Asbury United Methodist Church would like to congratulate Daniel Steven Troxel for becoming the first Boy Scout in Troop 10 to receive the Eagle Scout badge. Daniel is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Peter Troxel.

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The wise men weren’t looking for a great parking space. advent conspir acy december 2011

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