Jesus Loves Me, This I Know

january 2013

Jesus Loves Me,

This I Know

a story of healing

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he beginning of a new year is a time of optimism and energy as we consider what the new year will hold and what we would like to accomplish. This will be an important year for Asbury. There are challenges to be dealt with but also opportunities to which we will respond. We will fill some vacancies on staff that came about last year due to retirements and to people moving on to a different ministry opportunity. We will continue to respond to what we learned over the past year as we studied and surveyed our church and community. Some of the changes and improvements will be visible; some will be behind the scenes. One of the biggest subjects to address is communications.

Every organization struggles with communications. The bigger challenge is not the communication of factual information but of message, direction, and intent. Method and quality of communications is significant, especially when dealing with multiple generations. Good progress has been made in all aspects. Our commitment remains strong to continually improve. One of the things we learned is that many people feel that they get so many individual communications from Asbury it is hard to deal with them all.

Therefore, some don’t get read. A solution for that problem is now in place.

A new facility is in place at myasburytulsa.org. It is also accessible from the main page of our web site. Each person sets up their own account. You can then select communication interests (look for the “interests” button on the right side). You will only receive communication that belongs to the selected interests. Of course, communication from Tom and certain “all church” items will still go to everyone. This will minimize the volume of individual communications. Hopefully, it results in more attention given to what is received. Note that from myasburytulsa.org you can also review and edit your contact information, view the church calendar, register for events, look at your giving record, and set up regular giving.

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Contents A Word From Tom Harrison Asbury’s New Vision Building Significant Lives For Christ Faithful Servant of God Together, Serving Him Jesus Loves Me, This I Know Bridging the Gap I Can See the God in You Thank You for Celebrating Asbury’s 50th Anniversary During 2012 Do Life (Better), Part Two Communities Impacting the Nations…Right Here in Tulsa Grandpa John Recipes of the Month Opportunities Special Announcements

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I hope by now that everyone knows that the debt campaign was a great success, with more than $5.25 million committed over the next three years. Tom is very pleased and calls it a “game changer.” Thanks to all who participated. This is a very intergenerational thing to do by providing a debt-free and well-maintained facility for future generations.

We need you! Do you have a story of what God has done in your life? Please contact us and tell us a little bit about what God has done. We will all be encouraged by hearing stories of what God is doing in the lives of those around us.

Beginning this month Tom is again increasing his focus on the sermon journal. If you’ve not paid attention recently, it is much more than a notebook with Scripture references and blank lines. Much effort is now devoted to meaningful content. Many of you have said how great it is. To encourage everyone to try it, we are giving away the first one of the year for free. Tom hopes everyone takes a copy. It will also be available online as a PDF file. (We plan soon to have a sermon journal app for smart devices.)

Are you a writer or someone who enjoys writing?

The Communications Department is always looking for someone to do an interview and write a story for us for Tidings.

In 2013, there will be an increased emphasis promoting planned giving. Tom encourages every person to consider Asbury as they prepare their wills and do estate planning. This can be done directly to Asbury or through the foundation. Guy Ames is the most recent addition to our pastor staff, having joined last June. Guy is chair of the Asbury Foundation.

Please contact him if you want to discuss options or ideas about planned giving. (GAmes@ asburytulsa.org) This year you will often hear four terms that reflect what motivates Asbury. These terms will be in our minds as we make decisions, allocate resources, and execute in our ministries. They are development, intergenerational, outward-focus, and strategic clarity.

These concepts capture the essence of who Asbury is and how we want to grow.

Thank you for a great 2012 and for your continued support by your prayers, presence, gifts, service and witness.

Dwight Yoder Executive Director

Have you noticed that we’ve been making some changes in Tidings? Please give us your feedback—both good and bad. Email kmains@asburytulsa.org or call 918.392.1140.

Asbury Tidings is a monthly publications designed to tell stories of lives being transformed by the power of Jesus Christ. You may read back issues by visiting www.asburytulsa.org.

Editor: Asbury Communications Department, 918.392.1140, kmains@asburytulsa.org Graphic Design: Tim Jurgensen, tjurgensen@ asburytulsa.org Photographers: Mark Moore (mark moore.photo.net) Guest Contributors: Guy Ames,Nancy Baxter, Christine Hickey, Marilene Long, Rob and Linda Marshall, Gloria McGee-Denton, “Joy” Alice Morrow, Dick Read, John Westervelt

A Word From Tom Harrison We’ve spent 2012 celebrating our first 50 years as a congregation.

We’ve such a wonderful story to share. It’s been a lot of fun to be able to look back and to remember all God has done. God brought us into existence and has sustained us by His grace for these years.

The outstanding “History of Asbury” which was produced in 2000 is such a great testimony. It told of the first 38 years of our church. We’ve added to that story. 2012 was a very good year for us. It culminated in the pledges of our congregation to pay off our building debt and even to help establish an endowment fund to take care of future capital needs for our facility. That means every year from now on, a substantial part of our budget won’t have to be allocated for our facility – but will be used to fund missions and programs. 2012 ended in an incredibly favorable light!

Now, a new year is upon us. What’s going to happen in 2013? With our first 50 years under our belt, what is God calling us at Asbury to do? Again, our future is rooted in our past. Like a kid swinging – momentum is gained when you draw upon the resources behind you. Lean forward – kick back.

We believe all churches are to Glorify God - Make Disciples. (If they don’t do this, it’s hard to call them “a church.”) Furthermore, we want all people to “belong to the Body of Christ, believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and to become servants of Christ.” This is a biblically rooted and theologically sound concept. I will always believe these things are true.

Beginning on January 6, we will begin making a new emphasis.

This is the Sunday I will unveil our new vision statement. It’s very simple, direct and succinct: “Develop all generations for significant lives in Christ.” You’ll be hearing about what it means and how it applies during the first six weeks of our new year.

This will be a huge investment of our time and energy. It’s very important for you to be here to understand what’s going to be happening and why.

The sermon series will take each word/phrase and explain it.

For instance, what does it mean to “develop” someone? And what do we mean by “all generations”? What is the definition of “significant lives” and what does it mean to be “in Christ”? We will explain this and illustrate it with both a “corporate” aspect (“What is God calling us to do at Asbury?”) and an individual application (“What is God calling me, specifically to do?”)

We want to live out our discipleship by doing what Jesus wants.

Following Jesus means obeying His call. We’ll begin 2013 by giving a new vision. While who we are is built on who we’ve always been, 50 great years doesn’t mean God is finished with us now! Our prayer becomes, “God what do you want us (and me, personally) to accomplish with this year?”

2013 – a perfect time to begin a new chapter in the life of a significant church!

Dr. Tom Harrison Senior Pastor

Think Next Sermon Series Have you checked out the new sermon journal (prayer journal)? It is full of wonderful content to help you in your daily walk with the Lord. Pastor Tom wants everyone to have a copy of the sermon journal with them each Sunday. A free copy will be handed out with your bulletin on December 30 and January 6.

ON: A NEW VISI TIONS FOR ALL GENERA DEVELOPINGANT LIVES IN CHRIST SIGNIFIC

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Developing all for significant l Asbury’s New Vision: Developing all generations for significant lives in Christ Asbury is a unique church with a unique calling from God. There is something God intends for Asbury to do that only Asbury can do, and thus, something that Asbury must do. If we don’t, it will go undone, and God’s purposes for our church and our people and the people He intends us to reach will not be fulfilled.

This is THE work we MUST do.

Asbury’s new vision is “developing all generations for significant lives in Christ.”

This is THE task we believe God is calling us to perform. THE thing that becomes our new standard, our new measure of success, our new normal.

Seeing this as a must also requires us to see Jesus as an authority in our lives and our church, which in turn presents an opportunity to recommit ourselves to Jesus as Lord and Leader of our lives.

The transformational stories included in this issue of Tidings are people who represent this vision and are fulfilling a purpose, a significant life in Christ.

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all generations nt lives in Christ Building Significant Lives For Christ

by Guy Ames

“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?” (Luke 9: 23–25) Can anything be more American than success? Success conjures images of Wall Street, Beverly Hills, Beyonce, Donald Trump or Bill Gates. History teaches that significance far outweighs success.

We remember those whose lives have transcended success but left a foundation for those who came afterward. Long after the world has forgotten Warren Buffet and Steve Jobs, history will remember Mother Teresa, Ghandi, Abraham Lincoln and Martin Luther King. These built their success on the foundation of serving others.

Starting January 30, Rev. Gloria McGee-Denton and Dr. Guy Ames will co-lead a new RoadMap class entitled “Search for Significance.”

Built on the work of Christian psychologist, Dr. Robert McGee, The Search for Significance will apply Christian truth and sound psychological principles to four life obstacles that keep many of us stuck. McGee names these obstacles, the performance trap, the approval addict, the blame game and, shame. A workshop approach, we will meet 11 weeks and conclude before Easter.

Bob Buford found “success” as CEO of a multi-million-dollar communications network when tragedy struck. Bob’s only son died in a drowning accident. Devastated, he began a pilgrimage.

A friend and mentor, Peter Drucker, challenged Buford to think about turning his life’s “success” into something more significant.

Why not use the experiences and successes of life and offer those “gifts” to others? Buford took those words to heart and in his book Half-Time shares how he moved from “success to significance” by leveraging his expertise and influence to benefit others in the “second half” of life.

My mother was fond of saying, “We must LIVE until we die”.

She was struck down very young by a severe form of Parkinson’s disease and literally losing all ability to move and even speak, I often remembered that quote as she would communicate through the only expression left to her, her eyes and eyebrows. When grandchildren would come near her eyes would smile. On her last night, her eyes lit up with laughter at a funny television skit we watched in her Hillcrest hospital room. Significance need not mean wealth, nor world-wide influence, but each of us can move beyond success in our search to become whom we were created to be. Come join us in January!

Hurricane Hugo struck Charleston, S.C., with fury in the fall of 1989. Nearly 15 years had passed since the last major hurricane hit the U.S. As I drove through the wreckage of that massive storm in one of our oldest cities, I was struck by the sharp contrast between homes built in the 1700’s and those built in the 20th century. Those ancient Southern homes were built to last! The homes built in the 20th century were built to sell. Significance means making a contribution that lasts!

• Class is on Tuesdays, 6:00–7:30 pm, Room 2818 • Starts January 30 • Register through RoadMap: www.asburytulsa.org/ roadmap • Taught by Pastors Gloria McGee-Denton & Guy Ames

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Faithful Servant of God

by Angie Brashears

Basil James is a strong example of a kind, gentle man who loves the Lord and wants our future generations to love the Lord too.

He taught his three children to be strong witnesses for Christ, but he gives all of the credit for their strong Christian upbringing to Barbara, his wife. They spent 57 years together before she died.

Basil and his wife, Barbara, started attending Asbury in 1977. However, they had connections to Asbury before becoming members. They attended Rose Hill Methodist, were best friends with Pastor Tom’s mom and dad while attending the University of Oklahoma together, and Rev. Alan S. Cameron, who is Bill Mason’s grandfather, married Basil and Barbara. He was also the godfather to his daughter, Denise.

While his children were growing up and attending the youth and children’s departments, Basil and Barbara would always volunteer. Barbara and Basil took their children everywhere they went. They were involved in their children’s activities, and they brought their kids along with them when they volunteered. They couldn’t afford a babysitter so the kids went to nursing homes and John 3:16 mission with them. Barbara would play the piano and Basil would give the message to the group at John 3:16 while their children, Denise and Dan helped out. “We shared our life with our children.

We both wanted them to be strong witnesses for the Lord Jesus.”

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Basil is proudest of his family, and especially his children Dan, Bill and Denise. “They know and love the Lord and serve his people.”

Along with his children, he has five grandchildren and two great grandchildren.

Basil who is now 83 years old and has been volunteering close to 25 years with the children’s area has spent most of his time with the 5th grade boys who range in age from 10-12. He would sit in the middle of the floor and go over important topics that were scripturally and biblically based such as the birth of Jesus and how it affects their lives, and Easter with the crucifixion of Jesus.

He has spent many years with the 5th graders and even did a tour of duty for one year with the 7th graders. “The 7th graders were tough, but I loved them. They caught on very quickly, but the 5th graders were quick and sharp too.”

“It is a real thrill to see these kids in later years. I get lots of high fives and hellos. I may not remember their names but I remember their faces, and I am so blessed that I got to talk and listen to them.

Kids are a lot like women. Women want to talk and so do kids. You just have to listen to them.” Basil had to stop volunteering with the 5th graders when they had to help him up from the floor. Now he is with the four year olds and this is his 4th year with them. “They are my little buddies and friends.”

He remembers one boy from Sunday school who was just incorrigible. He came from a broken home and was raised by single mom. He took him down the hall to talk and listen to what was wrong. Years later Basil ran into him at Denny’s. This man came out from the kitchen to say, “Hey, Mr. James! Just wanted you to know that I am doing ok; I am not on drugs and not in prison.”

Basil has some very good encouragement to all adults who are working with children or who are parents, “Listen carefully to the young kids. Encourage them to talk and lead them to discover for themselves. Don’t tell them what to do.”

Basil has now bee married to Gay for seven years. They are active in ushering and 11:00 am communion. “We love to be communion servers. I am also allowed to give communion at nursing homes. Plus I volunteer with the home improvement ministry, men’s ministry, Stephen ministry, and we are active in the Seekers community.”

At the end of December, Basil will finally be retiring from work but not from volunteering. “I learned some very important lessons at an early age. I learned to never tell a lie because you will get caught. I did and it was terrible. This lesson was reinforced over the years. I always try to remember the truth. This has been the most helpful lesson for me, and I have remembered that lesson when working with children.

Always be honest, tell the truth and say anything that is positive.

Also, express your love so people know what you really like.”

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Together, Serving Him

by Nancy Baxter

Nepal. A beautiful, small country that lies between the two most populated nations in the world, China and India. It is the home of the Himalayan Mountains which contain eight of the 10 tallest peaks in the world including Mt. Everest. Ninety-seven percent of the people of Nepal are Hindu and are isolated from the world in a primarily agrarian society without much communication.

When Eric Watt, a pastor and missionary from Virginia, asked me to go on a women’s trip to learn about and support the work in Nepal to end human trafficking, my heart leapt within me. With the encouragement of my husband Phil, I left Tulsa and began a long, rigorous and emotional trip. After 40 hours of travel, we landed at the Kathmandu International Airport and felt like we had stepped back in time. We raced out the door, scattering monkeys as we ran to catch our local plane to Nepal Gunj. Boarding a small, exceptionally dirty airplane, I chose to sit by a young Hindu mother with her baby.

Note in the picture the red dot on her forehead which signifies she is married. As a part of this fear-based religion, the baby wears black eye makeup to scare away the evil spirits.

girls go home. Some have actually been sold by their parents. The ones most in need are then taken to safe houses.

The next day, we traveled to the first of three border stations between Nepal and India that we would visit. The Nepali girls are very beautiful. Because of open borders with India, human traffickers are able to move freely between countries. Most of the girls are enticed to leave their villages to marry the trafficker or have a better life. We worked with the local Nepal ministry, Kingdom Investment Nepal (K.I. Nepal), which is desperately trying to educate girls in this nation about the sex trade. It is difficult without television or any Internet usage in the poor rural areas. The first line of defense is the border.

While they live in the safe house, they learn a trade such as sewing, beautician training, jewelry design or accounting skills so they can run their own businesses. After about nine months they (unofficially) graduate and usually head home where they now have value because they can earn money. Many of the girls take positions similar to bankers, loaning money to family and friends in the villages.

Young women, who were once trafficked themselves, are stationed at the K.I. Nepal booths at the borders, and their eyes never leave the road as they watch for suspicious groups of people. The men will often bring seven girls at a time through. With the support of the local police and army, these girls can stop and question girls passing through. They have them sign a book and question them.

Usually, the girls break down very quickly. By this time, all of these girls have been abused. They are then taken to a safe place where they are counseled and Christ is shared with them. Many of the

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I visited two safe houses which were beautiful and clean, two things rare in Nepal. I was told that 100 percent of the girls who live in the houses come to faith in Christ through lifestyle evangelism; being loved into the Kingdom of God. We had a Nepal-style retreat with these girls. Praise and worship, Bible teaching and small groups for two days. These young women between 14-18 loved it, something totally new for them. Through their faith, their lives had been transformed. Yes, we all wept at one point for two hours. We held them and simply loved them!

God is doing many wonderful things in Nepal. He is turning ashes into beauty with these young girls who are saved. They return home with more than a skill. They go with their faith in Christ and begin house churches.

I had the privilege of visiting two of the house churches and worshipping with the girls and villagers. One of these young women had led her father and mother to the Lord. As we worshiped outside her home, an older woman wanted to speak and was so fervent in her witness. She said she had been a Christian for two years (led to Christ by the trafficked young woman). She cried and cried and said over and over that she was praying for the nations

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to be saved! It deeply touched my heart as I realized high up in the mountains that this woman had probably never been in a car and probably had never traveled very far out of this village but the Spirit was at work in her heart and life. And all because of this young girl’s faith serving God. I saw God at work in the most horrible of circumstances. Many girls who aren’t rescued die. Some commit suicide while others develop deadly diseases. K.I. Nepal is now working to rescue the children of these girls.

My desire and encouragement to you is that we would stand up with courage and serve our Lord in leading others to His wonderful gift of salvation through the repentance of our sins and pray that the nations would come to know Him. Together; serving Him. What can we do? First we must pray for human trafficking to stop in this world as it is a huge problem even in our own country.

Second, we can get involved locally with OATH, Oklahomans Against Human Trafficking (www.oathcoalition.com). Mark Elan, OATH coalition director, will be speaking at the February 7 UMW meeting, so come hear him speak and learn more ways to be involved. There is also a website to visit to get updates and information on the Nepali Rescue Project (www.runministries. org/PROJECTS/NepaliRescueProject.aspx).

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Jesus Loves Me,

This I Know

by “Joy” Alice Morrow

I am a walking miracle, healed by the Lord on March 8, 2005. In 1993 a car accident rendered me 100 percent disabled forcing me to use a wheelchair.

Initially, the doctors diagnosed me with total reversal of my cervical spine curvature and associated injuries which summed up in laymen terms were a “severe concussion of the spinal cord.”

A few days into my six months of bed rest, the elders at Liberty Church where I attended at that time, anointed me with oil, laid hands on me praying for the Lord to heal my cervical spine curvature and watched. Immediately, I felt “something” in my neck!

I went to my regular appointment with a Christian physical therapist who initially evaluated me. I said nothing. I wanted them to discover without any prompting what the Lord had done. As they began my treatment session, he said “Hmm?... Hmm!... Hmm? What happened to you?” I responded “What do you see?” He said “Did the Lord heal you?” I then explained what had happened. We had a grand time celebrating the normal curvature the Lord gave me!

Despite that healing, I was still on six months of bed rest because of associated injuries. I next discovered that in addition to continued

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severe pain requiring narcotics, muscle relaxers, NSAIDS and treatments, I had facial “numbness.” The back pain had so distracted me that I had not noticed the numbness. I returned to church where the elders anointed me a second time with oil, laid hands on me praying for the Lord to take away the numbness that I would be healed.

Again, they watched. Immediately, I felt “something!” This time I felt pain in my cheeks! This pain allowed the doctor to diagnose and treat me for TMJ (temporal mandibular joint syndrome).

The Lord’s economy is so excellent. The way He uses everything in our lives for His purposes physically, emotionally and spiritually. I learned about His physical healing and saw I must be careful what I ask for. We simply asked for the Lord to take away the numbness, not heal “all” so He did only that, taking away the numbness without healing the underlining problem. Note to self, “Joy Alice pray, Ephesians 3:20 NKJV “Now to Him (Jehovah Rapha) who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we (Joy Alice) ask or think, according to His power that works in us.”

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Despite two healings, I continued on with the six months of bed rest.

The doctors further diagnosed me with three ruptured neck discs between C4 and C7 and fibromyalgia. The pain required narcotics and massive doses of Neurotin which I renamed “Rotten Neuro.”

I gained 65 pounds on my small 5’2” body. The doctor said he was surprised I did not gain 100, especially since I battled addiction to food. I then discovered numbness in my fingers and lost my ability to pump up a blood pressure cuff. I was a nurse, unable to work and approved for 100 percent SSI disability. As for the fibromyalgia, 11 trigger points are needed for diagnosis. I had 18. My pain and fatigue made it impossible for me to drive for five years. I could no longer walk to the back of a store without resting, much less walk back out of the store. I then found myself in and out of a wheelchair for most of the next 12 years.

After my two big healings and weeks into my six months of bed rest, the elders again anointed me with oil, laid hands on me praying for the Lord to heal me the Ephesains 3:20 way (I may be clueless but I am teachable!) and watched. Immediately, I felt “NOthing?!” SELAH. (Yes, I paused and thought about that for most of the next 12 years.)

The Lord blessed me with a great outpouring of support and practical help from housecleaning to carpooling to meals which the body of Christ gave. With continued tremendous support from family, church family and friends, we raised two wonderful children.

I learned to have fun in spite of my limitations. For example I requested a limousine for the same price as a taxi in Hawaii, to carry the wheelchair. The Lord gave my mom a chance to speak with Joni Erickson Tada and her mom to see how she coped with a wheelchair bound famous daughter. When the family went hiking or skiing in Colorado, I appointed myself as “trailhead monitor” or “snow bunny” in the warm house.

The Lord also provided an opportunity to begin a Mom’s in Touch praying group at my house, since I could not easily go anywhere. In another creative way, the Lord blessed me by starting a Bed Bound Bible Study with a fellow disabled friend. We did weekly Bible study by phone as we both lay in bed.

My old life verse until this time was Psalms 46:10 “Be still and know I AM God,” says the Lord.

I discussed with God that this was not funny “being still” on bed rest and then “being still” when I used a wheelchair. On good days, I enjoyed activities outside the house. On bad days when the fibromyalgia and neck pain took over and no amount of coping tricks worked, I required more bed rest.

I applied the part the Lord says about “know I am God.” I grew spiritually as my relationship with Him blossomed. My new life verses became “Do not grieve for the joy of the Lord is your strength.”

(Nehemiah 8:10 NIV) and “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”(Romans 15:13 NIV)

The Lord began my road to recovery out of codependency. Sadly, my first husband chose to divorce me. Our family died in many ways.

In 2004, I started Celebrate Recovery to finish childhood and adult emotional healing. With my study set to complete in June 2005, emotional and spiritual healing progressed. Life verses became more real and my life song became “Jesus Loves Me” on a whole new level.

A friend arranged for me to volunteer as a nurse at a free clinic called Good Samaritan once a week only. I used an automatic blood pressure cuff, since I could not pump up a manual cuff nor could my fingers “feel” a pulse. I could rest up for Monday clinic, go slow and sit while volunteering. How rewarding to serve. The Lord blessed me with a fabulous, caring, Spanish translator. He told me he loved the way the joy of the Lord showed in my life despite my disability. God is so very good!

March 8, 2005 my neighbor talked me into at least asking God if He would have me go to Open Bible Fellowship where the Lord often healed people. Suffice it to say nothing could have been further from my comfort zone on many levels! After much prayer, God seemed to prompt me to go despite myself. Strong in faith in the Lord and very short on people faith, I purposely went without taking my routine narcotics and other meds. I decided if the Lord wanted to heal me, I wanted to know it instantaneously. Sudden withdrawal from my meds was quite medically unsound but I gave the problem to God. In the service I felt the strong presence of the Lord. How refreshing! When they began praying for me, the power I felt running through my body amazed me. I squeezed their hands as I felt the healing take place in my body. I simply felt the love of Jesus who I knew loved me so, wash over me. I walked out totally healed and pain free. During the night, may I say the drugs left my body.

Wow. I never took narcotics again until shoulder surgery in 2010.

Twelve years; how very interesting the Lord’s number for complete is 12. In the 12th year of my disability the Lord healed me from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet which included associated generational sin roots.

Several wonderful things happened after the Lord healed me. I took dancing lessons! I married that fabulous caring translator I met at Good Samaritan and joined Asbury. “Jesus loves me this I know!” I returned to work once again as a nursing instructor! Yes, I can again “feel” that pulse and squeeze a manual blood pressure cuff up!

Since retiring from teaching, I am now a nurse manager for my beloved Good Samaritan. At Celebrate Recovery, I continue to facilitate a small group. My son said it best, “Mom, you have changed so much, and it is so good to see you happy, really happy.

You deserve it.” I know my Lord is in the miracle business, and He is my hope (Romans 15:13). Yes, Jesus loves me! May you know His faithful healing in different ways and in His perfect timing.

May you too receive the Lord’s healing love through salvation and Lordship in your life.

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Bridging the Gap

by Christine Hickey

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A great number of Asbury members have extraordinary talents, skills and hearts to serve. Dr. Fred and Mrs. Ruth Blythe are among this group, and they agree that many in their Family Fellowship Community also fit this description. Fred and Ruth care deeply for those who need someone to reach out to them, whether for a place to stay over Christmas break or just to show they care.

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Fred is a dentist and serves on the Scholarship Foundation for the Dental School of the University of Missouri-Kansas City.

Ruth has joined his passion for dental health by serving on the board and as president for the local five-state district of the Alliance of the American Dental Association. She has focused on education on dental health for children and their caretakers and serves as chair of the board for the Foundation for Dental Health Education. Fellow Asbury member and Tulsa Jail Chaplain Rev. Mike Hardgrove oversees the “Storytime” program in the jail that allows incarcerated mothers to record themselves on a cassette tape reading a children’s book; the tape and book are then mailed to the child. Ruth spearheaded a project with Rev. Hardgrove to incorporate dental education books. The Tulsa World featured her project in an article they published in 2011: “Blythe, wife of a dentist and former manager of a dental office, merged her interests of promoting oral health and offering a helping hand to people in need. She applied for and received a $1,000 grant from the Foundation for Dental Health Education and the Alliance of the American Dental Association to provide dental kits to children of parents in jail. Each kit contains a children's

book about brushing, a toothbrush, toothpaste, flossers and some educational material. Dental supplies were purchased at a discount from Burkhart, and she scoured online and in stores for the best deal on books. She recently assembled 96 kits at her home and delivered them to the Tulsa Jail.”

–Tulsa World, 11/14/2011 As a graduate of the University of Tulsa, Mrs. Blythe is very supportive of programs at TU. After hearing about the university’s International Students Ministry, she and Fred jumped right into the action. English Corner is a place where volunteers like Fred and Ruth help teach the students the English language, American customs, and more. Furniture Fest is an event that occurs annually at the school to allow first-year international students to choose from donated furniture for only $1/item. Fred and Ruth hit the pavement last summer during a neighborhood garage sale to ask neighbors to save any unsold furniture; Fred hauled all of the items to the school for donations to the Furniture Fest.

Many of the international students have nowhere to live when the dorms close for three weeks during Christmas break. With love in

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their hearts, the Blythes opened their home over Christmas break 2011 to their very first international student, Sun (pronounced ‘soon’). Sun is an ambitious, studious fellow who has always wanted to have brothers and sisters. He was in for an active and joyous few weeks, because Fred and Ruth have their children and 16 grandchildren, four of whom are on the autism spectrum, in their home to celebrate the holidays! Sun fit right in, playing with the grandchildren as though they were his own family. That holiday season marked the beginning of a new chapter in the life of the Blythes.

Through hosting international students over holiday breaks and helping with the other ministries, Ruth and Fred have developed relationships over the last year with Sun and two other students, Mei (pronounced ‘may’) and Jun-zhu (or John, as he is nicknamed).

Fred and Ruth have had the most amount of time to get to know Sun, but all three students are close with the family. Fred taught Sun how to work with tools. Ruth taught Sun to drive a car, and Mei might be next behind the wheel. The students have witnessed the Blythes’ example of living as a Christian family in America and have visited Asbury on occasion. The Blythes have helped the students shop for weather-appropriate clothing, interview clothes, and more. Sun, Mei and John are now roommates in a rental house near campus. They refer to each other as brother or sister and care for and support each other as true family. Sun and John are even beginning to get involved with a ministry opportunity called Missions of Mercy (OkMOM), a two-day clinic designed to meet the critical needs of dental patients of all ages by providing free dental care to as many adults and children as time, volunteers and supplies will allow. OkMOM is sponsored by the Oklahoma Dental Association, the Oklahoma Dental Foundation and the Delta Dental of Oklahoma Oral Health Foundation.

Bringing a stranger into your home during the holidays may sound like a strange decision, but the choice was clear for the Blythes. “I seem to get inspiration from unusual sources; I think God leads me to reach out by constantly putting opportunities in my path!

My poor husband had never been this busy until he married me 12 years ago. He is great about supporting these activities and gets involved on his own now,” says Ruth.

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Mrs. Blythe grew up on a small farm in Brewster, Kansas. One year in Brewster, a group of Chinese students needed a place to stay. The town residents just backed away from the group, but Ruth’s father knew what had to be done; he took in every last student. Ruth’s daughter studied in Germany three times during her college days, so Ruth also knows how it feels to have a child in a foreign country and hope they’re alright. When Sun was spending his winter here in Tulsa, his grandmother called from China. She was so worried about Sun and wanted to know that he had a warm coat for the season. Of course, he did; the Blythes had taken him shopping. Not only did he have a warm coat, but he also found the perfect gift to send home. Sun wanted to send home a special gift to his father and his father’s business associates, as customary in China. The things Americans give are different from what they might give in China. Because the Chinese consider symbols of health to be of the wealthy and very valuable, Sun chose to send home big bottles of vitamins.

The story of the vitamins is one of many memories that have served a bonding moment between two cultures. Sun is now considered a member of the Blythe family. Sun calls Ruth and Fred ‘Mom and Dad’, and they call him their son. Both Fred and Ruth have been touched with how much more Sun smiles. Last spring when Ruth had her first shoulder replacement, Sun studied extra hard until the early morning hours so that he could spend time with her in the hospital and be helpful at home.

The effects of the Blythes’ kindness, generosity and Christian example are clear. The lives of international students, incarcerated mothers and their children, and countless others have been changed by and for the glory of our Lord. “We’ve gotten more than we’ve given,” Ruth said recently regarding their service. Fred and Ruth are firm examples of what it means to be ‘developing all generations for significant lives in Christ.’

“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’”

–Matthew 25:40

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I Can See the God in You This really happened. It didn’t happen to someone else or in a different church or in a different state, but it took place here at Asbury, at my own desk. Our staff members were the responders.

The focus should not be the individuals, therefore names have been omitted. The sweet woman was quite real, as was her sincerity and need. She was so real, in fact, even those who were not in conversation with her felt her presence as they walked past.

Jesus Christ was in our office today; He took the shape of many voices, many hands, and many feet.

She knew that although she may not have much, it could always be worse. Over time, however, circumstances changed, and she was then the one without a home. Her path crossed with a family that wanted to give her their RV. What a gift! Not being able to drive a manual transmission, however, she could not accept their offer. She asked something of them in return: If your path crosses with someone else who needs shelter, for one night or several, please let them rest.

he embarrassed woman walked up to my desk and quietly, feebly, began to compose her thoughts. She asked me four questions. Did we have a hot meal, something for which she could pay just a little? Did we have something cold to drink, something for which she could pay just a little? Did we have any tampons for her daughter who just began her womanly cycle for the first time? Did we have a few tissues to assist in her daughter being hygienic? She didn’t want cash. She didn’t want to cause a fuss.

My coworker had recruited the help of several others along the way.

When she and another helper returned to the office with their arms full of two boxes of food made especially for our guest, along with toilet paper, tampons, and two cans of cold soda, the sweet woman wept. Her gratitude was overwhelming, and her tears became our own. She embraced each of us in a hug before giving us parting words.

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I saw the face of Christ today.

The sincerity of her heart poured from her meek stature. When she suggested soda to be the cold beverage, shame filled her expression from feeling guilty to ask for such extravagance. The meal was not for her, but for her children and grandchildren who were home waiting to see if she managed to find any nourishment for them.

She asked for no more than one meal. Wearing no more than a thin housedress and a dirty, oversized jacket, she sat down, filled with a tender hope, waiting patiently to see if we could accommodate any of her requests.

I saw the face of Christ today.

I saw the face of Christ today.

“Do not worry about me. I will be alright. We should be worrying about our brothers and sisters who do not have a roof over their heads. I have a roof. My family will be alright. Please do not worry about me.”

I saw the face of Christ today.

Shepherding to our neighbor, embracing a soul who cried for love, feeding our friend.

Rising to your greater calling, saying yes when we are programmed to turn away, responding with compassion, showing patience and grace, exemplifying what it means to be a disciple.

I can see the God in you.

One person walked by my area, with whom I shared the situation.

Benevolence is a delicate subject in any church office today.

There are so many who truly need assistance, and their stories are heartbreaking. There are countless others who feed on the compassionate by taking advantage of assistance programs, telling lies and making good livings doing so. I cannot express to you how eminently rare were this woman and her unpretentious request. In one swift move, my coworker and I made a judgment call outside our normal protocol to help this woman with her request for a hot meal, something cold to drink and feminine hygiene products.

My coworker immediately went into action to fulfill these requests while I shared a cup of coffee with our guest.

I saw the face of Christ today.

She spoke slowly, through a timid, shaking voice and shy smile. She shared about her family and areas of her past. Sitting in front of me was a woman who had seen many things. Years ago, she took a bus to Tulsa to start over. She got a job and volunteered at the Salvation Army.

Blessed are the poor in spirit,

for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are those who mourn,

for they will be comforted.

Blessed are the meek,

for they will inherit the earth.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,

for they will be filled.

Blessed are the merciful,

for they will be shown mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart,

for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers,

for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,

for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

–Matthew 5:3–10

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Thank You for Celebrating Asbury’s 50th Anniversary During 2012

by Dick Read

We have had a fantastic year celebrating Asbury’s 50th anniversary: beginning with that tremendous weekend of worship and celebration in early February and continuing throughout the year, taking a closer look at the various ministries of Asbury, how they started, evolved and grew into what they are today.

We’ve also begun to talk a lot together about Asbury’s future. What do the next 50 years look like for us?

What if we were convinced that the next few years are going to triple the adventure of the first 50? What if we chose to multiply the impact of our church in our life together, in our Tulsa community, in our nation and world?

Asbury has a strong past, a past that we have gazed back upon throughout this whole year. Now, how about this…

What does God have in store for us for an AMAZING FUTURE? The Old Testament book of Joshua opens up with the people of God having lived on the eastern side of the Jordan River for 40 years, waiting to enter into the Promised Land that God assured them was theirs.

Finally, one morning Joshua calls together the leaders of the people and tells them that the wait is over, the time has come to experience the promise of God. Consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the Lord will do amazing things among you. (Joshua 3:5) I think Joshua 3 is relevant for Asbury today because I’m certain that God has set before us the opportunity for an amazing future… if we will go get it! I think our first 50 years was just the dawn… the preface…the preview…the opening pitch to what is ahead for us. What might that future look like? Here’s a bit of what I see: We are going to keep learning how to worship and to love worship.

Like entering into a majestic throne room and being in awe of the king who sits on the great throne, we are going to grow in our awe of God and God’s move among us and through us. We won’t be so concerned about the style of worship, for we will be captivated by the One who is the object of that worship.

Asbury is going to grow in our understanding of the healing presence of the Holy Spirit. Have you noticed how Celebrate Recovery has

transformed our fellowship together? The masks have fallen off, and we have recognized that, even with Jesus in our midst, life is still pretty messy. We have become a more gracious and compassionate people… thanks be to God! We are finding that our church can be a recovery room for others, like us, who want to be whole, and sometimes Asbury is their last resort. We will bear witness that Jesus is the One who transforms brokenness into wholeness.

The other day, as I was leaving a Tulsa QuikTrip, I noticed again the displayed “Safe Place” signs, letting anyone know that if they are in danger, a QuikTrip store is a place of safety.

Like when you are in your own home, Asbury should be the safest of all places for those who enter. When you are with fellow Asburians (at the church, in your/their home, in a restaurant, out and about town, et.al.), you should know that you are ‘safe’ in every aspect of the word. Jesus told us, “As I have loved you, so you should love one another.” Won’t it be great to display the ‘Safe Place’ signs of our own lives so that others will know the safety of Jesus!

Asbury is going to continue its focus on developing all generations.

Like the shed in my backyard provides me with the appropriate tools to accomplish the tasks I need to perform around the house, Asbury is going to be a toolshed of Christian discipleship for followers of Jesus. This is the place folks will continue to come and expect to be taught and developed to live significant lives in Christ.

And I am convinced that Asbury is going to greatly increase in the number of people that we are sending out to influence others with the life changing message of Jesus Christ. If you live near a UPS distribution center, early each morning you see a long parade of brown box trucks distributing themselves throughout the city. And so it is that Asbury is like that UPS distribution center; from our campus on South Mingo, we will commit ourselves all-the-more to delivering this good news to those in our community, nation and world.

As we launch into the next 50 years, I am excited about Asbury’s new vision of “developing all generations for significant lives in Christ.” I think we have had a wonderful past 50 years, and we are building on that wisdom.

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Do Life (Better), Part Two

by Gloria McGee-Denton

Imagine turning to the next page in your novel and finding it was left blank.

You wipe your eyes and stare into the vast nothingness that seems to stare right back.

You return to the previous page, and sure enough, the serif-fonted words stop mid-paragraph and mid-sentence, and you realize you’re left with much more than a dangling participle.

Each tomorrow brings an almost blank page, pregnant with potential for the rest of the story you choose to write: people to be met, places to be gone, memories to be made, steps to be taken.

Never is the blank slate, fresh start, new beginning more promising than when one year closes and another opens.

John Lennon invites us to a sort of Yearly Examen in the tradition of St. Ignatius Loyola with these lyrics to “Happy Xmas (The War Is Over)”: “So this is Christmas, And what have you done? Another year over, And a new one just begun.” I would like to think it was John’s Anglican roots that led him to depict Christmas as the beginning rather than the end of a year just as it is in the Christian liturgical calendar.

Early last year, a personal study of Hebrews 12:1–3 led to selfexamination: “Since we are surrounded by so many examples of faith, we must get rid of everything that slows us down, especially sin that distracts us. We must run the race that lies ahead of us and never give up. We must focus on Jesus, the source and goal of our faith. He saw the joy ahead of him, so he endured death on the cross and ignored the disgrace it brought him. Then he received the highest position in heaven, the one next to the throne of God. Think about Jesus, who endured opposition from sinners, so that you don’t

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become tired and give up.” (God’s Word Translation) I wrote a Tidings article inviting you all to join with me in this new adventure of finally taking care ourselves—snatching our spiritual, mental and physical health from the condiment bar and making them a main course. Hebrews 12:12–13 put it this way: “So don't sit around on your hands! No more dragging your feet!...Help each other out. And run for it!” (MSSG). Are you willing to make prayer and worship a staple in your diet? Tidy up your life? Mend some fences?

Give or help others more? Let me know. We’ll “run for it” together, and we won’t get “tired and give up!” And I’m sure that God will provide all the strength and faith we need to do life (better) together.

Well friends, we did do it together. I’m so very pleased and honored to share these stories of victory with you.

A Whole New World Last January, 28-year-old Sheena Coberley’s husband Dustin left for basic training with the Army National Guard. As she looked at the pictures taken of him and her four kids at his graduation in March, he had lost so much weight and looked so good. She, however, didn’t like what she saw when she looked at herself. Sheena had steadily gained weight over several years as she struggled with loss of loved ones and a number of health challenges.

She joined the YMCA and set a standard of working out at least 50 percent of the time to make it worth the expense. Using their free

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child care, Sheena embarked on a journey to rediscover her old self by doing something just for herself for the first time since she had kids. She worked out in the gym and started doing Zumba a few nights a week, followed a healthy diet and counted calories using a cell phone app. All the while, her husband was still gone and she was a ‘single’ parent to BreAnn, 10, Daegan, 5, Carson, 3, and Aislyn, 2.

daughter Jaylyn who was to be born in the fall. He started riding his bike three miles round trip to work, but it was slow going.

Noting that many people tend to over-exercise which prevents them from achieving their goals, Peter learned to manage his energy and rest appropriately which has made all the difference now that a newborn needs him to be awake so much at night.

With the support of the women in Asbury’s Mother’s Fellowship and all the new friends she made at Zumba class, she lost 63 pounds in four months. She did a great deal of praying and healing, and when Dustin returned home in June, he had a new wife. They immediately faced some job and financial challenges, and for the first time in five years, she felt the confidence to follow God’s leading to return to work and say goodbye to her career as a stay-athome mom. Sheena says they felt complete peace that everything would be fine. Both of them started new jobs and they moved into a new house in a new town during her first week back at work as a regional dietary manager for nursing homes.

Pastor Guy Ames realized just how out of shape he was when he’d have to stop to catch his breath on the way up to the third-floor walk-up apartment he and wife Margaret moved into while waiting on their new house to be ready.

God has done something miraculous for their family with all the new they experienced in 2012.

One Step at a Time The plot certainly thickened—or make that thinned—for member Asa Adamson, 63: My clothes were uncomfortable, my energy level was low and I had just read the results of the worst physical in my life. It seems my weight and blood pressure were the highest they had ever been, and my HDL (good cholesterol) was the lowest it had been. My doc said to start exercising. But when?

God reminded me of Pastor Tom’s recent sermon when he shared a conversation with another member about his 10 and 15 minutes of exercise. We all have those short time periods if we would just learn to take advantage of them. I made a personal commitment to lose 30 pounds in three months. In the absence of some physical reason for weight gain, it’s just simple math. I had to burn more calories than I took in.

I started walking the three flights of stairs at work the first thing every morning, at lunch and before I left for the day. I would hit my wife’s aerobic step at home after dinner. I also gave up four major food groups February through April: crackers, chips, bread and dessert.

By May, I’d lost 30 pounds, my HDL was up significantly, my blood pressure was normal and I was full of energy! I did have to buy new slacks to be comfortable, but instead of buying pants an inch larger, I bought them an inch smaller. I have been maintaining now for seven months. I still exercise daily in 10 and 15 minute time slots, and watch what I eat. When I think about eating something high in calories I think about how many steps I have to walk to justify it.

Asbury Staff on the Way Down Asbury web developer Peter Thavornrat felt out of shape in spring of 2012 and knew he wouldn’t be able to keep up with his new

Following Margaret's health crisis of 2008–2010, she had gained significant weight (for her) that simply would not fall off with her usual eating plan. She began to walk every day. As a former quarter mile sprinter and hurdler, she quickly regained her step and soon the weight came off. “Being in a new city and a new job left me days during the summer where I simply did not have the excuse that I didn't have the time to walk with her. So, I began walking... at least three days a week. Now, I am up to four miles per walk (two to three days a week) and recently discovered that I was able to get into an old suit that had hung in my closet for nearly ten years!” says Guy. Pastor Dick Read hit the gym and followed a healthy diet that lowered his cholesterol by 30 points and his weight by 13 pounds!

Now he’s working to keep those numbers down.

Charlene Giles, Director of Care and Marriage, lightened her load in a different way. “In 2012 I read Henry Cloud’s book, Necessary Endings. Soon after, I felt led by God to get out of a fourteen year ‘helper/friend’ relationship that had become toxic and hurtful to both of us. What freedom to follow God’s leadings!”

Keeping On And what did I do, you ask? I actually took my own advice in lots of ways. Answering God’s call to further simplify our lives, I lost about 500 pounds. That is, our family sold or donated approximately 30 to 40 percent of our possessions this year, keeping only the things we actually need and use on a regular basis. Going to Financial Peace University last spring also helped us respond to God’s leading in another way: paying off debt. Talk about feeling lighter!

Feeling inspired, I took the oh-so-risky step of coming off of stimulants…yes, I mean caffeine and most sugar. I felt so good, I went to a specialist for testing and found I’m intolerant of about 75 foods and additives…gluten, dairy, eggs, anything I would eat in a Mexican or Italian restaurant. I’m now learning a whole new way of living that is based on whole foods and balance.

What an adventure 2012 has been for so many here at Asbury!

Truly a year of great stories of wholeness you all have chosen to write with God. When we’re better, our witness, our work and our worship are better. When we’re better, our church is better.

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COMMUNITIES

Covenant Community

by Marilene Long

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ovenant Community was formed in 2004 as a “class for couples in their mid 20s to early 30s.” During the next eight years, the class demographic of newlyweds soon became young families that have shared the experience of “doing life together.”

The class of mostly 20-somethings began experiencing life as a new family together shortly after its formation. The first wave of babies came in 2006 when Covenant Community had eight expecting mothers at one time. What had been wedding showers soon evolved into baby showers, which soon turned to children’s birthday parties (and more baby showers) thereafter.

Emily Walton, one of Covenant’s original members, says, “Growing up at Asbury, I’ve witnessed my parents and their Sunday school friends go through life together: births of children and now grandchildren, illnesses and deaths in the family, job advancements and job losses. We soon found that those surrounding us were going to mean more than just attending class and sharing a few social events. We truly would be ‘doing life together’.”

Covenant Community is a class that loves parties and social time together. The social events at Covenant are full of laughter and fun times. The social activities rotate between those for couples, family and those geared just for women and men’s events. The children of Covenant have become friends themselves through many class playdates and activities. Covenant family events in the past have included an annual hayride and bonfire, Tulsa Driller Nights, TU football games, swim parties and movie nights. This year, Covenant Community had an “Easter Brunch with Bunnies” at a local park, complete with real rabbits. The most recent family Christmas party was be filled with pajama-clad children of Covenant members, ready to board a Christmas train for a light

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tour around Tulsa and concluded with hot cocoa and a visit with Santa Claus.

Covenant couples events help to fulfill the need of their muchneeded adults-only nights, which have included a date night at the Dust Bowl Bowling Alley, progressive dinners, and Minute to Win It game nights. The first Sunday of every month, Covenant also attends service together as a class and meets for lunch afterward with their families.

Most of Covenant Community’s men and women events involve serving as well as fellowship. The men of Covenant Community are regular car care ministry and 2nd Saturday volunteers. They also get together for fellowship for an annual golf trip in the spring and a camping trip in the fall. The women enjoy quarterly girls nights out that can involve anything from bowling to pedicures or running 5k races together as well as their annual women’s retreat.

“We have found a second family in our friends in Covenant. The support and love we have received during the ups and downs of life has been priceless,” says Covenant member Leslie Lowry.

Covenant has partnered with Happy Christians community to help with a Walt Whitman school carnival and works together on a prison ministry dinner each year. The relationship with Happy Christians has been a wonderful experience for Covenant in building relationships between two communities at Asbury, whose age and life experiences differ but whose heart to serve together unites them. They’ve also enjoyed shared social events. In addition, Happy Christians has provided financial and prayer support for Covenant mission teams.

At the center of the class is a love for the Lord and a willingness to serve others. Covenant Community made its first class mission trip to Red

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Bird, Kentucky, in 2009 and came back with a heart even more willing to serve. The mission trip T-shirt quoted 1 Peter 4:10, “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.” It was a verse that was simply used for a mission shirt but has become the core of the community and a verse that is still displayed in the classroom.

Following the Red Bird mission trip, Covenant members planned to organize a mission team every other year based on a concern that family, work and finances would not allow a yearly trip.

However, God had a different plan. One of the class members, Santiago Ruiz, felt led to take a team of Asbury members to his home country of Ecuador the following year. The class was anxious about going out of the country and away from families to serve, but faithfully took a team to Ecuador and came back with an eager desire to continue to serve in missions. Covenant has developed a special place in their hearts and a love for Ecuador - so much so that they have returned every year. Following the first mission trip to Ecuador in 2010, the class connected with a unique organization in Shell, Ecuador, known as Casa de Fe.

only a base of a building that would later become a school house.

So, when I took my first trip to Ecuador last June, I was able to see the transformation with my own eyes. The one room orphanage house we walked past every day to get to Casa de Fe is now a bright and happy home filled with laughter, love and the most adorable children of God. We were able to work several years to help build a school house and were blessed and excited to hear in class from the full time missionaries about how special the school house opening was for the kids. We were sent pictures of the children sitting in their new desks and smiling for their first day of school; a place that was for the first time not also the same place as their home. It has been an unforgettable experience working with the children, and I can’t wait to go back again.” says Alissa Adams.

Covenant has developed strong relationships with the missionaries and children of Casa de Fe. Members of the community have individual pictures of the children of Casa de Fe on their refrigerators.

The kids are specifically remembered and covered in prayer every day. The class receives monthly newsletters from Casa de Fe, they Skype with the ministry staff quarterly during class time, and they financially support the non-profit organization in addition to their now annual Covenant mission trip to Shell, Ecuador.

The spiritual growth of Covenant Community continues to evolve as the class experiences life together. “Members can depend on each other to come together under the bond of Christ,” noted Emily Walton.

Last year, Covenant class member, Rob Sher, encouraged members to join small groups to help develop even deeper relationships within Covenant Community. These groups of four couples continue to meet weekly to develop meaningful and spiritual relationships together. After meeting and completing several Bible studies together last year, one of the small groups made a commitment together to make each other accountable in reading the Bible. They are doing this together through Asbury’s Disciple Bible Study.

Casa de Fe is a safe haven for special needs, abused and abandoned children in Ecuador. An orphanage may be a heartbreaking and difficult place for a youth mother or father to serve, but that is exactly what Covenant has done for the last three years and has plans to continue this annual tradition.

In 2012, the mission team worked on finishing a school house for the children of Casa de Fe. The 2010 team went to the orphanage to assist in laying the groundwork for the school building, while the 60+ children lived and went to school in what was known as the multipurpose building. “It is incredible to see the transformation of God’s work when you support an organization for an extended period of time. We have been able to witness an orphanage become a safer and loving home for these kids. The first time I saw pictures of Casa de Fe after our mission team returned to class, there was

“Covenant Community has been a special place for our family. We have enjoyed spending time with our friends outside of class time and sharing life experiences together - both the good and the bad” says Alissa Adams. “Some of my fondest memories of Covenant have been surrounding the worst moments of my life. This year was the fifth anniversary of my brother-in-law’s passing and, although we didn’t mention it, our Covenant small group remembered. They laid their hands upon us and covered us in a tearful prayer that night during small group. My husband and I returned to the car that evening blessed by the sweet moment and couldn’t help but reflect over the last five years. So much healing had taken place because of our amazing friends in Covenant Community. A hole that was once in our hearts had been healed with friends that have cried with us, prayed with us, and remembered with us. They are friends we first labeled as ‘church friends,’ but have become so much more as some of our nearest and dearest friends.”

Life happens every day, but is so much sweeter when you experience it in Christian community with one another.

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Impacting the Nations…Right Here in Tulsa

by Linda and Rob Marshall

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ould you like to travel without the hassle of airports, language barriers and the threat of disease? Have you ever wanted to have an impact on the nations of the world, but you didn’t know where to start?

God has brought the Gospel-unfriendly countries right here to our doorstep, to the University of Tulsa---countries that would be very difficult for us to reach with the vitality of the Gospel. The students that come here are the "cream of the crop" from their countries.

We pray they will return home with not only an education but also Christ as their Savior. When the students first arrive, they already speak English, but their fluency improves the longer they are here.

What they are missing is family. God has told us to do several things---practice hospitality, welcome a stranger in your land, take the Gospel to all the world. Many of the students we encounter have never had Christian relationships before, although some have been in Tulsa from two to five years. It is an emotional experience to Rob and me when we see the transformative power of God at work as we share the breaking of bread with these students and then share our lives with them.

To reach the nations of the world, God has supplied all we need.

We share His love, grace and empowerment as we open our lives and home to them. It is, quite simply, a very powerful witness. In addition to this, of course, are the structured activities of each weeks such as the Free International Lunch (and we always need volunteers to help us), Bible studies, English Corner and parties.

We also are involved in the August Furniture Fest. Furniture is available for international students to purchase for $1. We then take what is purchased to their apartments and begin to build relationships. Earl Stutzman (we have dubbed him ‘Earl of Asbury’) makes his homemade ice cream for the Fest and the

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students love this. Homemade ice cream is something many have never seen in their home countries.

Our journey with international students began in 2007 when we began helping with the Free International Lunch (FIL) each week at noon on Thursdays at the Wesley Center on the TU campus.

Through this lunch, we were able to meet students then follow God’s leading in building personal relationships with some of them. This is an easy way to explore the possibility that God will use you to minister to these students so far from home. The love God has put in our heart for international students is huge, but we recognize that God is the Host and the Provider of the home, the activities, even the food; we are only the vessel He is using.

We recently had an “intimate” dinner with 12 of our closest students, and the time was full of laughter. None of us wanted the evening to end. A home is so much more inviting than a bare apartment. We plan to have a group of 10 join us soon to roast hot dogs and marshmallows! Then we’ll open our home at Christmas and share meals.

Does it take special training to do a ministry like this? Absolutely not! You just have to be willing, and God will show you how to reach the students. Some students just need emails to encourage them every day. Some need just a little nudge and guidance to walk through day-to-day activities. Others love to just spend an evening in a home. God has brought the nations to us, removing all the excuses about not traveling to a foreign land to witness. If you take that first step, God will reward you with an overwhelming sense of love, the love that He has for all nations to know. Take that first step. Rob and I would welcome you to help.

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GRANDPA JOHN

A Sack Full of Tokens

by John C. Westervelt I recorded the story that follows in 1998 while watching a musical on the stage in the gym of the old Asbury church on Sheridan.

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y friends Ken and Sheila picked me up early for the evening performance of “Sound of Music” at Asbury United Methodist Church. We found seats up close on the side behind a young mother and her two sons who looked to be 5 or 6 years old.

Thirty minutes until show time is a long wait for young children, but the boys were as orderly as I would have expected. I learned that the mother taught kindergarten Sunday school at 11 o’clock.

At one point the talkative child broke a family rule, and his mother said, “You owe me a token.” He immediately shaped up but was certainly not crestfallen. His mother explained that he received a token for a good deed and returned one for a misstep.

When I asked the boy about his tokens, he turned around and, sitting on his knees, said, “I have 20 tokens at home.” Then with a questioning expression he asked, “What comes before 20?”

“Nineteen.”

With face beaming, he exclaimed, “I still have 19 tokens.”

When other children came in with strudels from the vendor in the hall, the boy’s mother asked if they would like one. While she was gone, I asked the spokesman for the two brothers, “What’s your name.”

“My name is Clayton, C-L-A-Y-T-O-N, and this is my brother C-UR-T-I-S.” “What is your last name?”

“My mother told me not to spell it for strangers.”

While Clayton, who someday will have his own talk show, continued to chatter, Curtis reached over the back of the chair and laid his hand gently on mine. As I stroked the back of his hand, I thought, “This child with Down syndrome even has gentle skin.”

He didn’t understand the message about strangers, for he was showing love to one. And this stranger loved him.

The musical was a delight, but the young boys on a flat auditorium floor couldn’t see. Soon Clayton was on his mother’s lap. For a long time Curtis was just patient. After a while both boys were on their mother’s lap. I was thinking, “She must have tireless legs.”

After the intermission the three of them sat on the floor to the side where all could see. Clayton sat alone engrossed in the singing of the von Trapp children. Curtis stayed close where he could feel his mother.

A child’s play is filled with pretends. Let’s pretend that Jesus gives tokens. If this were the case, Jesus would be holding a sack full of tokens for Clayton’s and Curtis’ mommy.

As I read my story from so long ago, I had a yearning to know the whereabouts of the young mother and her two sons, who would now be in their early 20s. Through the years I have continued to hope that her diligence resulted in much happiness for her and her boys.

Other stories at www.jwestervelt.com

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RECIPES OF THE MONTH

The Month After Christmas…

T'was the month after Christmas, and all through the house, nothing would fit me, not even a blouse; The cookies I'd nibbled, the eggnog I had to taste, at the holiday parties had gone to my waist;

So, away with the last of the sour cream dip.

Get rid of the fruit cake, every cracker and chip.

Every last bit of food that I like must be banished, 'til all the additional ounces have vanished.

When I got on the scales there arose such a number!

When I walked to the store (less a walk than a lumber), I'd remember the marvelous meals I'd prepared, The gravies and sauces and beef nicely rared;

I won't have a cookie--not even a lick.

I'll want only to chew on a long celery stick.

I won't have hot biscuits, or corn bread, or pie, I'll munch on a carrot and quietly cry.

The wine and the rum balls; the bread and the cheese, and the way I'd never said, "No thank you, please."

As I dressed myself in my husband's old shirt, and prepared once again to do battle with dirt, I said to myself, as only I can, "You can't spend a winter disguised as a man!"

I'm hungry, I'm lonesome, and life is a bore, But isn't that what January is for?

Unable to giggle, no longer a riot.

Happy New Year to all and to all a good diet!

–Author Unknown

Morning Glory Muffins These Morning Glory muffins are full of everything you'd expect in the bakery favorite—carrots, apple and raisins, topped with nuts and toasted wheat germ. But most versions are high in fat so we substituted apple butter for much of the fat, which makes each bite superbly moist and tender. If raisins aren't your favorite, substitute an equal amount of the dried fruit of your choice.

Ingredients • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •

1 cup whole-wheat flour 1 cup all-purpose flour 3/4 cup sugar 1 tablespoon ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon baking powder 1 teaspoon baking soda 1/4 teaspoon salt 2 cups grated carrots, (4 medium) 1 apple, peeled and finely chopped 1/2 cup raisins 1 large egg 2 large egg whites, or 4 teaspoons dried egg whites (see Ingredient Note), reconstituted according to package directions 1/2 cup apple butter 1/4 cup canola oil 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 2 tablespoons finely chopped walnuts, or pecans 2 tablespoons toasted wheat germ

Preparation 1. Preheat oven to 375°F. Coat 18 muffin cups with cooking spray.

2. Whisk whole-wheat flour, all-purpose flour, sugar, cinnamon, baking powder, baking soda and salt

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in a large bowl. Stir in carrots, apple and raisins.

Whisk egg, egg whites, apple butter, oil and vanilla in a medium bowl.

3. Make a well in the dry ingredients and stir in the wet ingredients with a rubber spatula until just combined. Spoon the batter into the prepared muffin cups, filling them about three-fourths full.

Combine walnuts and wheat germ in a small bowl; sprinkle over the muffin tops.

4. Bake the muffins until the tops are golden brown and spring back when touched lightly, 15 to 25 minutes. Let cool in the pans for 5 minutes. Loosen edges and turn muffins out onto a wire rack to cool.

(Makes 18 muffins)

Notes

Ingredient note: Dried egg whites are pasteurized—a wise choice when making meringue toppings that may not reach 160°F (the temperature at which eggs are considered "safe"). You'll find them in the baking or natural-foods section of most supermarkets.

Reconstitute according to package directions.

Nutrition

Per muffin: 163 calories; 4 g fat ( 0 g sat , 2 g mono ); 12 mg cholesterol; 29 g carbohydrates; 3 g protein; 2 g fiber; 154 mg sodium; 149 mg potassium.

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OPPORTUNITIES

Asbury Opportunities MYASBURYTULSA.ORG

GENERAL INFORMATION BREAKFAST

Come enjoy fellowship with Asburians along with fresh donuts, bagels, biscuits & gravy, sausage, eggs, fruit, and cereal.

• Served from 7:00–9:00 am in the CLC • $4 for adults and $1 for children 12 and under SUNDAY MORNING WORSHIP

8:00 am 9:15 am 9:15 am

11:00 am 11:00 am

Mason Chapel (Traditional Communion) Sanctuary (Contemporary) CLC - Open House Worship (Acoustic Worship, Casual Setting) Sanctuary (Traditional) Venue (Modern with sign interpreter)

RECYCLING

Recycle unwanted paper products. Three bins are available, located in the south and east parking lots.

Recycle aluminum cans by bringing them (in plastic garbage bags) to the wire collection cage located up the short driveway towards the east side of Asbury’s main church building. Thank you for helping to support the Boy Scouts.

DOORS OF ASBURY POSTERS ARE AT THE WELCOME CENTERS...

FREE! Suitable for framing.

SUNDAYS FOR CHILDREN AND STUDENTS

6 Weeks–Pre-K K–6th Grades 7th, 8th & 9th Grades 10th, 11th & 12th Grades

This website is available to all members as a way to update your contact information, register for events, give online and indicate ministries you would like to receive communication from. Make sure you have an account and check it out.

8:00, 9:15 and 11:00 am 9:15 or 11:00 am 9:15 and 11:00 am 9:15 am only

ADULT DISCIPLESHIP COMMUNITIES

NEW ADDITIONS TO THE LIBRARY

The Asbury Library is a wonderful resource. Thank you to all who continue to contribute books to our Library.

OJT (OVERCOMING JOB TRANSITIONS)

Adult Bible study, belonging, and serving together • Sunday at 8:00, 9:15 and 11:00 am • Options during the week - Wednesdays at 6:00 pm SURGERY OR HOSPITALIZATION SCHEDULED?

Be sure to let Asbury know ahead of time by calling the church receptionist at 918.492.1771 so your pastors can be in prayer for you. When you enter the hospital, please designate Asbury as your church. The after-hours pastoral emergency line can be reached by calling 918.492.1771, selecting option 6, and leaving a message for the pastor on call.

CDS OF TOM’S MESSAGE

CDs of Tom’s message of the day are available immediately following the worship service for $3 in Connection Corner.

Unemployment isn’t forever. You can help by telling people about OJT (Overcoming Job Transitions) which meets on the third Tuesday of each month.

• Tuesday, January 15, 6:30–9:00 pm • Community Life Center (CLC) • Contact Russ Knight at OJTJobs@gmail.com

ACCESS HANDS OF LOVE SIGN CHOIR

• Sundays, 5:30–6:30 pm, Family Room FRIENDS IN CHRIST COMMUNITY

Bible-based class designed for developmentally disabled young adults. Focus on discipleship, service and mission.

• Sundays, 11:00 am, Room 1507

OVERFLOW PARKING AT UNION HIGH SCHOOL

Asbury’s Sunday overflow worship parking area will return to the Union high school parking lot (located along Mingo Road towards the north corner of their campus). Asbury shuttle service will operate continuously each Sunday from 8:30 am to 12:30 pm.

BIBLE STUDY Check out our adult Bible studies listed in our RoadMap brochures found at all welcome centers or online at www.asburytulsa.org/ AdultMinistries/Roadmap.aspx.

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OPPORTUNITIES

CARE AND SUPPORT GRIEFSHARE

A weekly support group for people who are grieving the loss of a loved one. The group offers a comfortable environment where the emotions and process of grief are understood and welcomed.

Participants will learn practical strategies for grief recovery through the highly acclaimed GriefShare video series, study guide and group discussion. Individuals may begin attending this group at any time.

• Wednesdays, January 9–April 17 (will not meet February 13 or March 20) • 3:00–4:30 pm (no child care) OR • 6:00–7:30 pm (child care provided) • Room 2319 • Cost: $15 • Register online or 918.392.1191 BEYOND GRIEFSHARE

Especially designed for those who have completed the GriefShare video series, this weekly support group will provide participants an opportunity to continue processing their grief while deepening their spiritual walk. Through small group study & discussion, the group will focus on transitioning from the pain of grief to hope and optimism for the future.

• Wednesdays, January 9–April 17 (will not meet February 13 or March 20) • 3:00–4:30 pm (no child care) OR • 6:00–7:30 pm (child care provided) • Room 2201 • Cost: $12 • Register online or 918.392.1191 S.M.I.L.E. (SINGLE MOTHERS IN THE LORD’S EMBRACE)

Join us for a DVD series and book entitled “21 Principles of a Healthy Single Mom.” You will learn to apply specific, workable guidelines so you can flourish spiritually in the midst of overwhelming circumstances. Each principle/video session is self-contained, and you may begin attending at any time.

• Third Thursdays, 6:00–8:45 pm • Parlor • Child care provided • $12 for book • RSVP to Janet at 918.688.3392 or asburysmile@ymail.com HEALING HATS/BALL CAPS

An Asbury ministry created to provide hats to cancer patients who have lost their hair. “Home spun with knots of love, woven together with help from above!” Simply knit, crochet or sew a hat or decorate a ball cap of your choice and drop it in the collection

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box located near the northeast entrance. Find more information in the literature rack attached to the collection box. In addition, the following groups meet regularly for fellowship, while using their creative ability to make hats: • Crochet Group –– Second and fourth Tuesdays, 6:30–8:00 pm –– Room 1506 –– Contact Sue Fisher at healinghatsmin@aol.com or 918.455.2816 • Ball Caps (If you can cut and glue this is for you!)

–– Fourth Tuesdays, 9:30–11:30 am –– Room 1508 –– Baseball caps and decorating items available –– Contact Sue Fisher at healinghatsmin@aol.com or 918.455.2816 VISITS TO ASBURY MEMBERS

Asbury has a group of volunteers (Asbury Connection) who regularly visit people who are homebound, in nursing homes or in assisted living facilities.

• Contact Lisa at 918.298.9014 or lisa_dalt@sbcglobal.net PRAYER CARD MINISTRY

Send cards with God’s encouraging words and our prayers to those who are ill or going through hard times. If you would like to receive twice-monthly cards or know someone who would like to receive cards, please send name and address to Gwen at grmohler@aol.com.

• Usually meets first and third Mondays at 9:30 am • Room 1508 • Contact Gwen Mohler at 918.258.5479 or grmohler@aol.com MILITARY CONNECTION

Please join us in praying for our troops in harm’s way and their families. Periodic care packages and monthly encouragement cards with God’s Word are sent to Asbury-related military personnel. The Prayer Ministry also covers them in prayer. Send complete name and address to: • Jo VanDeWiele at 918.459.0888 or Gwen at grmohler@aol.com VOLUNTEERS NEEDED

• Design patriotic cards for Asbury-related military. Cards can be designed at home and drawn by hand or on the computer.

Call Jo VanDeWiele at 918.459.0888.

• Design encouragement cards for prayer card ministry.

Cards can be designed at home and drawn by hand or on the computer. Calligraphers and help with mailing also needed.

Contact Gwen Mohler at 918.258.5479 or grmohler@aol.com.

DIVORCE RECOVERY

For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma.

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Tuesdays, 7:00–8:30 pm Room 1335 Child care available Contact Malia Miller at 918.494.9596 or malia.miller@ sbcglobal.net

SPECIAL VOLUNTEERS FOR SPECIAL KIDS!

Do you have a heart to help children with special needs? If so, the Children’s Ministry needs you to volunteer.

• Contact Dotti Westerberg at dottiwesterberg@hotmail.com or 918.381.0874

DISCIPLESHIP

DIVORCE REBUILDING

For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce.

• Thursdays, 7:00–8:30 pm • Room 1335 • Child care available • Contact Jim Small at 918.697.4220 or divorce-rebuilding@ cox.net MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES

For family members or caregivers of people affected by a mental illness.

• Usually meets the fourth Thursdays from 1:30–3:00 pm • Parlor • Contact Linda Lytle at 918.298.2707 or lllytle@wildflower.net ASBURY BEAR BAGS

Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books have comforted young children for many years, but now you may give a Bear Bag with a scripture-based journal included instead! Great for teens and adults. Anyone may deliver an Asbury bear to someone who is grieving. Pick up bags anytime at south security desk.

CHILDREN Registration forms for all children’s activities are available in the preschool and elementary lobbies.

CORE CHILD CARE HOURS

Parents who are involved in RoadMap classes and/or communities during these core hours will have child care provided for children 6 weeks–12 years of age with no reservations needed: • Sunday

9:00 am–12:00 pm • Monday and Tuesday 8:45 am–12:00 pm • Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 5:45 pm–9:00 pm CELEBRATION STATION

DISCIPLESHIP COMMUNITIES

If you have not yet found an Adult Discipleship Community check out “Community Life” on our website, www.asburytulsa.org, or pick up a brochure at one of our Welcome Centers.

• If you are 20’s to early 30’s, come check out our newest Sunday morning group at 9:15 am in room 1507, “Transitions,” or “Rooted” for married couples in room 2314

ENDOWMENTS Leave a legacy that continues to give forever to a ministry you want to support. There are endowments that support many areas of Asbury’s outreach including children, youth, music, missions, and training of pastors as well as a general endowment. You can easily impact a ministry through your will or a current gift.

• Contact Dwight Yoder at 918.392.1113 or dyoder@ asburytulsa.org

HOSPITALITY We were recently asked, “why don’t you have volunteers holding the doors open on Sunday morning?” The simple answer is we have very few volunteers willing to do it. Most say Asbury is a friendly church, yet we don’t have enough friendly people willing to serve on Sunday mornings when the need is great to welcome folks who have possibly had little contact with people during the week. We need new volunteers to serve in a hospitality role as greeters and at Connection Corner where many people have their first experience at Asbury. Are you one of those friendly people? Contact the church office at 918.492.1771 to volunteer.

MARRIAGE & FAMILY THE ART OF MARRIAGE

Celebration Station is a 52-week complementary children’s program to Celebrate Recovery. While adults explore topics that bring healing and wholeness, kids discover the same truths in ageappropriate ways through worship, crafts, games and activities.

• Mondays, 7:00–9:00 pm • Faith Zone • Contact Eryn Wallis 918.392.4588 or ewallis@asburytulsa.org

A fun, edgy video marriage class from FamilyLife. Expect: expert teaching based on the Bible, engaging stories, real-life testimonies, man-on-the-street interviews and lots of fun! Whether contemplating marriage, engaged, or married many years, this is for you. No in-depth sharing with anyone but your partner.

• Wednesdays, February 6–March 27 (will not meet on March 20), 6:00–8:00 pm • Room 2821 • $20/person • Child care available

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OPPORTUNITIES

• Facilitators: Pat & Deborah Calhoun • Register online or 918.392.1191

• Village Inn (71st and Memorial) • Open to anyone 60 years and up • Contact Bud at bdmathes@cox.net or Jim at robersonjim29@ ymail.com

DATES WITH YOUR MATE

A ministry designed to bless and strengthen marriages. Materials from Christian Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP) will be taught by certified counselors, then couples have a dinner date (or coffee!) alone.

• Second Thursdays, March–October (except June and July), 6:00–8:45 pm • Room 1502 • Cost $15/date, some scholarships available • Child care provided (75 children max) • Space is limited • Register online ATTENTION ENGAGED COUPLES

If you are planning to use an Asbury pastor to officiate and/or use Asbury’s facilities, be sure to book ASAP to allow ample time for Couple-to-Couple (required premarital meetings).

MEMBERSHIP

MEN’S BIBLE STUDY: EXPERIENCING GOD

This is the revised and expanded edition of the 13-week study based on the Experiencing God book written by Henry Blackaby, Richard Blackaby, and Claude King. Through examination of biblical and contemporary illustrations, participants will understand and apply seven realities of experiencing God. This classic study shows believers how to know God intimately and encourages them to step out in faith and join Him in His workwith miraculous results. Many truly amazing testimonies are included in this revised version, but God has more work to do. Will you join Him? • Wednesdays January 9–April 17 (will not meet February 13 or March 20) 6:00–8:00 pm • Room 2500 • Cost $15 • Child care available • Facilitators Greg Ruley and Brock King • Register online or 918.392.1191

MISSIONS/VIM

ASBURY EXPLORATION

Are you interested in membership at Asbury or just want to learn more about who we are? Plan to attend Asbury Exploration. After a wonderful lunch, which is provided, you will enjoy time with our Asbury pastors as you learn about the ministries of Asbury, important United Methodist beliefs and how you can get into the mainstream of our life together at Asbury.

• Sunday, January 6, 12:15–2:00 pm • Community Life Center (CLC) • Child care available for children six weeks through sixth grade • Lunch provided • Call 918.392.1191 to register or register online at www.myasburytulsa.org

MEN MEN’S PRAYER BREAKFAST

Make plans to join us for a great time of meaningful worship, lifechanging prayer and an awesome big breakfast.

• Wednesdays, 6:30–7:30 am • CLC • Cost is $3 per person; first-time guests are free MATURE MEN’S MINISTRY R.O.M.E.O. LUNCHEON

Are you a “Retired Old Man” who wants to “Eat Out?” If so, then these luncheons are for you! A really awesome bunch of guys meet for good food and great fellowship.

• Meet every second and fourth Friday, 11:15 am

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2ND SATURDAY

Looking for an easy way to make a difference and shares Christ’s love in Tulsa? Join us for 2nd Saturday and choose between local mission opportunities. Families with children are welcome and encouraged!

• Saturday, November 10, 8:30 am–12:15 pm • Meet at Venue VIM 2013 TEAM SCHEDULE

• February 23–March 2 –– Monterrey, Mexico, MBS & Construction • April 24–May 4 –– Central Asia, Relationship, Teaching, Light Construction • Spring –– Cookson Hills, Oklahoma, Light Construction • Late May/early June –– Central Asia, Relationship, Teaching, Light Construction • May 30–June 10 –– Estonia, Lighthouse • June 8–15 –– Ecuador, MBS & Construction • June 13–24 –– Tanzania, East Africa, Medical • June 27–July 8 –– Estonia, Camp Gideon, Youth Camp • July 18–29 –– Estonia, Parnu, MBS & Light Construction

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• Fall –– Tanzania, East Africa, Construction –– Central, Asia, Relationship, Teaching, Light Construction –– Cookson Hills, Oklahoma, Light Construction • October –– Monterrey, Mexico, MBS & Construction • November 6–10 –– Rio Bravo, Mexico, Medical • Men’s Rio Bravo, Mexico construction teams are April 14–28 and November 13–17 VIM TEAM LEADER TRAINING

ASBURY POWER & LIGHT CO. (PRAISE BAND)

• Selected Sundays, 8:00–9:15 am • Orchestra Room 1510 CHILDREN’S CHOIRS

Come learn about God through music as we sing, play instruments and musical games.

• Wednesdays, 6:00–6:50 pm • Available for children age four (by September 1, 2012) through sixth grade

March 2, September 7, November 2

PRAYER

For more information about these exciting mission opportunities, contact Marilene Long at 918.392.1164 or mlong@asburytulsa.org.

MUSIC For more information on any of the music groups, please contact Cynthia Bedford at 918.3392.1151 or cbedford@asburytulsa.org CHANCEL CHOIR

We sing. We laugh. We share. We love. Come and join us.

• Wednesdays, 7:00–9:00 pm • Choir room • Sundays, 11:00 am Sanctuary service • Available for seventh grade through adults.

ASBURY SINGING AMBASSADORS

Join us for a great time of fun, fellowship and singing.

• Open to seniors 55 and over • Tuesdays, 1:30–3:00 pm • Choir Room 2706 • Contact Cynthia at 918.392.1151 for more information NEW COVENANT ORCHESTRA

Play an instrument? Come and join us.

• Wednesdays, 6:00–7:30 pm • Orchestra room 1510 • Sundays, 11:00 am, Sanctuary service • Available for seventh grade through adults HANDBELL CHOIRS

• Celebration Ringers (adult handbells) –– Tuesdays, 4:30–5:30 pm –– Room 2506 • Perpetual Light (women handbells) –– Thursdays, 10:30 am–12:00 pm –– Room 2506

ALTAR PRAYER

If you would like someone to pray with you during Holy Communion or immediately following a worship service, please come to the altar rail. A pastor or member of the Altar Prayer Team will be glad to pray with you for your needs – physical, emotional or spiritual, at the altar or in the Prayer Room.

PRAYER ROOM RESERVATIONS

The leadership of Asbury’s prayer ministry would like to remind you that the main facility Prayer Room is open not only to individuals desiring to pray in a quiet, meditative atmosphere but also to prayer groups within communities and ministries. Just call the Adult Ministries office at 918.392.4589 to reserve the Prayer Room for your group on a weekly or monthly basis.

PRAYER ROOM DAYS AND TIMES

Our prayer rooms are accessible to you at these times: • Mason Chapel and Venue –– Sundays from 7:00 am–12:30 pm, through the interior doors • Main Facility, Mason Chapel and Venue –– Monday–Friday, 8:00 am–9:00 pm –– Saturday, 10:00 am–3:00 pm –– Sunday, 12:30 pm–9:00 pm To obtain door codes, call Pam in the Adult Ministries office at 918.392.4589.

DEVELOPING A POWERFUL PRAYER LIFE

This RoadMap course is designed to help participants gain an understanding of prayer from God’s perspective and purpose, learn how to let Christ become the source and power of your prayer life, experience new motivation and confidence, and embrace a biblical pattern for developing a dynamic personal relationship with Christ.

• Wednesdays, January 9–February 27, 6:00–8:00 pm • Room 1507 • Cost $10 • Instructor Jackie Carter

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OPPORTUNITIES

• Child care available • Register online or 918.392.1191

ADULT GAME DAY

RECOVERY CELEBRATE RECOVERY

Come join this supportive group of people. Hiding any hurts, habits or hang-ups? God never intended for you to live in bondage.

• Every Monday night: dinner at 6:00 pm, worship from 7:00–8:00 pm, small groups from 8:00–9:00 pm, dessert from 9:00–9:30 pm

SENIOR ADULTS TWEENAGERS PROGRAM AND LUNCHEON

Mary Helen Stanley will review the book Being Dead is No Excuse, a laugh-out-loud novel about Southern rituals. Come enjoy the humor, a delicious lunch, fun and fellowship. Music by Ed Haynes.

Ages 55 and older are welcomed.

• Thursday, January 24, 10:30 am–1:00 pm • CLC • Lunch $1.00 • Donations welcomed PHILBROOK MUSEUM TOUR

We are looking forward to seeing the exhibit of Max Weber, a key figure in early 20th century art. He was an early cubist and important conduit of avant-garde art to America. This exhibit spotlights how this immigrant artist established a solid and inventive voice through figure painting, ultimately becoming an important teacher around the World Wars. Following this tour, we will be treated to a sumptuous buffet luncheon at the Foundations Restaurant. This full-service, student-operated restaurant offers a varied, international and American cuisine. The students, working directly under the supervision of professional chefs, will provide an excellent meal and superior service. We are privileged to be a part of the educational process at the Culinary Institute of Platt College. This is one of those “win-win” occasions, so come join us.

Registration flyers at south desk. Deadline to register is January 9th.

• January 11, 9:30 am–2:00 pm • Meet at Family Center entrance • Cost $18.00 BEST CHOICE SAVE-A-LABEL

Save those labels! The Tweenagers are collecting Best Choice product labels and would like your help. Please turn in the UPC portion (proof of purchase) from more than 2,500 Best Choice items, including canned goods, boxed foods, eggs, cheese, etc. Best Choice products can be found at local Reasors, Food Pyramid and Warehouse Markets.

Bundle your labels and drop them off at the south desk to the attention of “Tweenagers.” That’s all you have to do to help us help others.

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Attention all adults! How would you like to get together on a regular basis with a wonderful bunch of fun adults and play cards, dominoes, or whatever board or card game you choose? Bring a friend and stay for as long as you like!

• Every third Thursday, 1:30–4:00 pm • Room 2821 SENIOR WALK IN THE GYM WITH HIM

All senior adults are invited to join us for power walking, coupled with lots of fun and fellowship. Come give it a try.

• Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, 8:30–9:00 am • Gym SENIOR SIT AND FIT STRETCHING CLASS

All senior adults are invited to join us for a time of stretching, coupled with lots of fun and fellowship. No high impact workout here. We take it nice and easy.

• Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 9:00–9:30 am • Gym SENIOR ADULT MEAL & MOVIE

If you’re 55 years of age or over, our monthly meal and movie day event may be just the “ticket” for you! We get together at a different Tulsa restaurant each month, and then head off to see a “first run” movie.

• The dates and times vary according to the movie selected, but those who express an interest will be contacted a few days ahead of time so they can make plans accordingly • For more information or to sign up for the call list, contact Sally Wood, sally77onestick@cox.net

SINGLES ADULT VOLLEYBALL

Do you enjoy playing recreational volleyball, mixed in with a little bit of competitiveness? Then come join us for a few hours of exercise, fellowship and fun. All skill levels of play are welcome.

Good sportsmanship and positive attitudes are required. It’s free and you do not have to be a member of Asbury to participate.

• Every Sunday, 6:00–9:00 pm • Gym • Questions? Contact Doug at 918.607.0830 COMMUNITIES

• Sundays, 9:15 am – New Beginnings Class, Transitions (mixed singles/married) • Sundays, 11:00 am – Ambassadors for Christ, Footprints (ladies only), Salt & Light, Christ Centered Singles, Single B.A.S.I.X. • You are always welcome to join any other communities that are not “Singles Only,” as most are a mix of singles and marrieds.

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• Lunch $8.00 • No reservation necessary

STUDENTS MEDICAL PAPERWORK SIGNING PARTY

Every student with their parent(s) and leader needs to come January 20 – OR – January 27 anytime between 9:15 am–12:00 pm, ready to fill out the medical paperwork and sign in all of the necessary spots.

JUNIOR HIGH SUNDAY BREAKAWAY

Sunday mornings we have two great options. At 9:15 am, we have our large group time with a worship band, fun games and God’s Word. Then at 11:00 am, we have a small Bible study group.

Whatever your preference, don’t miss out.

9TH GRADE SMALL GROUPS

Another year is here and that means that small groups are back.

This year, meetings are twice a month and held at their leader’s homes. Can’t wait to see you there!

• Contact Mark Fowler 918.392.1155 10 11 12 SUNDAY MORNINGS

Join us every Sunday morning for an in depth Bible study and discussion.

• Sundays, 9:15 am • High school room 10 11 12 SMALL GROUPS

Get connected. Grow in your walk with Jesus. Our small groups meet every Sunday night, times vary. Some meet in homes and others at the church.

• Call Todd 918.392.1154 or Amy 918.392.1156 for more info

MOTHERS’ FELLOWSHIP

Mothers’ Fellowship is a Bible study for mothers of all stages and all ages. It is a time set aside to nurture your soul. This semester we will begin with the study of the book, The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child’s Heart for Eternity by Sally Clarkson. No calling is greater, nobler, or more fulfilling than that motherhood.

Every day, as we nurture our children, mothers influence eternal destiny as no one else can. Tragically, today’s culture minimizes the vital importance of a mother’s role. By catching a vision of God’s original design and allowing it to shape your life, you can rediscover the joy and fulfillment to be found in the strategic role to which God in all his wisdom has called you, for a purpose far greater than you can ever imagine. Discover how understanding God’s purpose and design can empower you to be the mother you long to be.

• Tuesdays January 8–April 30 (will not meet March 19) • 9:45–11:45 am • Parlor (1900) • Cost $15 • Facilitator Katie Ruley • Child care available • Register online or call 918.392.1191 WOMEN OF THE WORD

A slate of varied instructors will teach on different passages from God’s Word. Join us on this new adventure among our women as we explore new vistas with new teachers!

• Every Wednesday 10:00–11:00 am • Room 2818 • No cost • Various Teachers • Child care not available • No registration, come whenever you can

10 11 12 WEDNESDAY NIGHTS

Every Wednesday night we come together for a time of connection and worship. Our desire is to explore who God really is and how our lives matter to Him. • Wednesdays, 7:00 until around 8:30 pm • Hang around for pizza afterwards

WOMEN UMW JANUARY LUNCHEON

James Walker, Executive Director of the Youth Services of Tulsa, will share how this organization offers young adults creative ways to improve their decision-making skills and values while building them up to become productive citizens. Scripture: Matthew 25:35–40.

• Thursday, January 3, 11:30 am–1:00 pm • CLC

WORSHIP 8:00 AM COMMUNION SERVICE

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Mason Chapel Traditional service and music Communion is served Dr. Tom Harrison preaches

9:15 AM CONTEMPORARY PRAISE & WORSHIP

• Sanctuary • Contemporary music • Time of prayer and the message will all carry a prevailing theme for the morning • Dr. Tom Harrison preaches

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OPPORTUNITIES OPPORTUNITIES / SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

9:15 AM OPEN HOUSE WORSHIP

• Community Life Center • A relaxed atmosphere with engaging worship led by Dub Ambrose and team • Dr. Tom Harrison’s message is simulcast with an occasional live sermon from another pastor 11:00 AM TRADITIONAL SERVICE

• Sanctuary • The Chancel Choir, the New Covenant Orchestra and various

vocal and instrumental ensembles offer a variety of styles of music • Dr. Tom Harrison preaches 11:00 AM MODERN SERVICE

• Venue • Rich blend of ancient and modern worship, led by Chris Cleveland and team • Sign interpreters for the deaf are offered • Rev. Todd Craig preaches

Marriages, Births and Deaths • Scarlett Rachel Lees born 11/8/2012, daughter of Deril & Sara Less

MARRIAGES • Leah Staten & John Sebring married 8/18/2012 • Ryan Schooley & Allison Christine Carpenter married 11/3/2012 • Kyle Andrew Denny & Ashley Michelle Whitehead married 11/10/2012 • Spencer Williams & Mary (Betsy) Murphy married 11/9/2012 • Mitchell Sims & Brooke Kendall married 11/9/2012

BIRTHS • Olivia Grace French born 11/6/2012, daughter of Marc & Pam French

DEATHS: • Jannis Jones died 10/31/2012, spouse of Terrill Jones • Joseph Cox died 11/4/2012, spouse of Zagnona Cox • Mary Keefe died 11/4/2012, mother of Carla Richardson • Gloria Phillips died 10/31/2012 • Ervin Propes died 11/4/2012, spouse of Dianne Walker-Propes • Loraine A. Edmonson died 11/17/2012, wife of Lewis “Lou” Edmonson

Milestone Anniversaries • Wally & Sue Maurer • Russ & Norma Jones

60 YEARS • Jim & Pat Miller • Bob & Gladys Murphy

01/16/53 01/24/53

• Rex & Dovie Edgar

50 YEARS • Al & Sharalea St. John

55 YEARS

01/18/58 01/25/58

01/25/63

01/12/58

MILESTONE WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES Email your upcoming Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) to Carolyn Schutte at brucars2@cox. net or call 918.451.1559.

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Jim & Pat Miller 01/16/53

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

Rex & Dovie Edgar 01/12/58

Wally & Sue Maurer 01/18/58

Russ & Norma Jones 01/25/58

Al & Sharalea St. John 01/25/63

New Members

Heather Berryhill with Grayson and Madison

Deborah Tahkofper

Ed and Annette Bogard with Jeff and Sam

Todd and Laura Hoffman with Caroline and Ryan

Jennifer Buchanan

Charlie and Leigh Ann Willis

Margeret Ames

Peggy Williams

Wayne and Kara Schatz with Andrew and Emily Hoke and Will Schatz

Nancy and Ted Forcum

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6th Annual Food Drive Benefitting Restore Hope Ministries January 27, 2013 According to the Community Food Bank of Eastern Oklahoma, • 65% of all client households had monthly incomes of less than $1,000 • 44% of clients seeking emergency food assistance are children under 18 years of old • Only 10% are homeless • Oklahoma is the fourth hungriest state in the nation • One in five Oklahoma children is at risk of going to bed hungry Contribute to the drive with a financial contribution or canned food. Cash donations give Restore Hope wholesale buying power and the amount of food per dollar is greater. Cash donations also allow Restore Hope to support resources needed to help those families in need.

Volunteer for the food drive. For more information or to volunteer, contact Kim Renkema at 918.392.1159 or krenkema@asburytulsa.org.

NOTE: No glass jars or out of date food, please. Checks may be made payable to Asbury UMC with Restore Hope in the memo line.

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