Investing in People for a Lifetime by Asbury Church

august/september 2013

Investing in People for a Lifetime

ometime in August, you will be introduced to our new director of traditional music, Sean Groombridge. Sean is an outstanding musician and comes to us with an impressive history in church music. We are extremely pleased to have him join our staff. Also taking place in August, Chris Cleveland will assume a new position as director of contemporary music. Of course, Chris has been leading the 11:00 Venue music for a long time. He is widely recognized in the field of contemporary Christian music. These gentlemen are developing a partnership in which they will collaborate to create a more integrated music ministry at Asbury. We are looking forward to new and great things. A number of people have helped during the months we have been without permanent leadership. Specifically, I want to acknowledge and thank Ed Morse, Skip Sidner, Cynthia Bedford and Rosanna Corrales as they assisted Ken Gabrieles with traditional music. Jon Odom stepped up on short notice to lead the 9:15 sanctuary music beginning in January. What these individuals, with the help of many others, have done was not easy. We truly appreciate their service. Improvements are on the way later this fall in the area of pastoral care. A congregational care ministry (CCM) is being formed to help our pastors with various aspects of congregational care, the major component of which is hospital visits. A group of laypeople who possess the necessary gifts and skills are being trained to augment the efforts of our pastors. These individuals will be referred to as congregational care ministers. In addition to freeing up some time for our pastors to do other work, this is an excellent opportunity for laypeople to develop and make use of their gifts in an important way. In conversations with our congregation, our staff has repeatedly seen that people are not aware of things about Asbury that we take for granted. In response, Tom has asked that we begin communicating some of these “Did You Know?” informational items. You will see these occasionally in the bulletin, video announcements and elsewhere. Examples follow. Did you know that Asbury just released (or soon will) an app for the iPhone, iPad, iPad mini and iPod Touch? You will be able to access live sermons, download daily Bible readings with the sermon journal, church events and more. You can browse the current and previous sermon series and watch or listen whenever you like, then share it with you friends on Facebook or Twitter. Did you know that we need complete information in order to visit you in the hospital? The best way to get that information to us is through our website at www.asburytulsa.org/hospitalvisit. Or you can use the new app mentioned above. Did you know that ongoing support of Asbury can be part of your legacy through estate planning, e.g., wills, trusts, insurance policies? One of several avenues is the Asbury Foundation. If you would like to talk about the possibilities, contact Pastor Guy Ames. As I’m writing this column, the sermon series on The Apostle’s Creed is just wrapping up. I hope that you have made a personal commitment to memorize this extremely effective summary of our fundamental beliefs. Thank you for supporting Asbury by your prayers, your presence, your gifts, your service and your witness. Dwight Yoder Executive Director

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Contents A Word From Tom Harrison 1 Developing All Generations for Significant Lives in Christ 2 Touching Hearts, Influencing Lives 4 Our Little Hands Are Able to Serve 5 Children’s Choirs – No Audition Required! 6 Of Gardens and Marriages 8 Laughing and Growing in Marriage 9 Fifteen Years of Service in Tanzania 10 When Disaster Strikes 12 Helping Moore 14 Christian Explorers Community Reaches Across Generational Lines 16 RoadMap Fall 2013 18 Grandpa John 20 Recipes of the Month 21 Opportunities 22 Special Announcements 28 We need you! Do you have a story of what God has done in your life? Please contact us and tell us a little bit about what God has done. We will all be encouraged by hearing stories of what God is doing in the lives of those around us. Are you a writer or someone who enjoys writing? The Communications Department is always looking for someone to do an interview and write a story for us for Tidings. Have you noticed that we’ve been making some changes in Tidings? Please give us your feedback—both good and bad. Email kmains@asburytulsa.org or call 918.392.1140. Asbury Tidings is a monthly publication designed to tell stories of lives being transformed by the power of Jesus Christ. You may read back issues by visiting www.asburytulsa.org. Editor: Asbury Communications Department, 918.392.1140, kmains@asburytulsa.org Graphic Design: Tim Jurgensen, tjurgensen@ asburytulsa.org Photographers: Chris Lo (matchadesign.com), David Mains, Mark Moore (mark moore.photo.net), Ryan Farran (ryanfarranphotography.com) Guest Contributors: Guy Ames, Cynthia Bedford, Jim Davis, Janet Day, Charlene Giles, Diane King, Christina Lee, Leslie Runyan, Joanne Stadler, John Westervelt

A Word From Tom Harrison

ur new vision statement, “Developing all generations for significant lives in Christ,” begins with one of my favorite words. While we have certain memorable and life-changing experiences, life is more than event centered. Development is also a continual process. I was baptized as an infant, confirmed in the sixth grade, and gave my life to Jesus when I was in the ninth grade (teenage decisions can last a lifetime!). God called me to a relationship with Him through a variety of people and situations. My parents set the agenda. Since going to church was non-negotiable, I was exposed to sermons, songs, prayers, vacation Bible school and Sunday School lessons. I met other families at church. Ina Sperber, who was not “cool” in a teenager’s worldview, was our sixth grade Sunday School teacher. Even if she was old-fashioned, she cared for us. When Larry and Verla Richardson volunteered as our youth leaders, they were “cool.” They cared for us and made our youth group fun. I also remember some of the preachers who served us. (A particularly gratifying thing for me at Asbury has been the privilege to baptize the great-grandchildren of Rev. Deloss Welsh, who was our minister at Rose Hill when I was in the sixth grade.) I became a follower of Jesus under the tutelage of older generations. But God wasn’t finished with my 1968 commitment to Him. I’ve learned a lot since then about my beliefs and about how to practice those beliefs. I’ve grown, developed and improved. I’ve found other believers who help me, too. While growing, developing and improving, I’ve also been an influence on others. I’ve been able to share my faith in a variety of ways with my peers, my seniors and my juniors throughout my

Christian journey. And since God called me into ministry, I have made this my life pursuit. We engage people’s hearts through the practice of the faith. If we don’t come to worship, how will we learn our music? How will we know our creeds? How will we know how to pray? How will we find a place to serve? How will we meet other Christians? How will we learn what God is doing in the lives of other people? How will we form Christian friends? How will we learn the scripture? How will we hear God’s voice? How will we give our lives to Jesus? How will we win the world for Christ? If my parents hadn’t set the table and if the people at Rose Hill hadn’t shown up and assumed their roles in my life, I’d not be your pastor today. In fact, the church would cease to exist if Christians didn’t continue to live out and hand off the faith. This Tidings issue lists many ways you can engage with others in sharing your faith. We want to engage your heart – not only initially, but in an on-going way to help you find your significance. While it doesn’t begin or end with you, your response is critically important. I pray you’ll join with us in this quest: “Developing all generations for significant lives in Christ.” Dr. Tom Harrison Senior Pastor

NEW MUSIC DIRECTORS I am pleased to announce Chris Cleveland will start on August 4 as the new Director of Contemporary Music for our 9:15 am sanctuary service. This will be in addition to continuing his role as our 11:00 Venue music leader. We are blessed to have such a wonderful and talented musician. Chris and his wife, Mackenzie, are the proud parents of 3-month-old Kingston. Welcome to this full-time position, Chris! We are also pleased to say that we have reached an agreement with Sean Groombridge, our new Director of Traditional Music; he was previously with the Crystal Cathedral in California. Sean started playing the piano and pipe organ at the age of 6. He grew up in a family that appreciates music, but he is the only musician. He and his wife are excited to come to Asbury. During their visit, they were impressed with the warmth and friendliness of the people they were able to meet at Asbury. They know they are coming into a strong, well-established music program that is committed to excellence and growth. In the October issue of Tidings, you’ll learn even more about Chris and Sean.

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As you know, our vision statement is “Developing all generations for significant lives in Christ.” From early childhood to our senior adults, you will find opportunities for spiritual development and discipleship. Discipleship is not just the process of learning about Jesus but is about becoming more like Christ which involves transformation. As Christian disciples, we are not passive spectators but energetic participants in God’s activity in the world. Because of what God has done for us, we offer our lives back to God. We order our lives in ways that embody Christ’s ministry in our families, workplaces, communities and the world.

Developing All Generations for Significant Lives in Christ by Janet Day

On Sunday mornings, infants 6 weeks of age through toddlers learn Bible basics in their classrooms through songs, crafts, games and activities. Beginning with preschoolers, age 2 through pre-kindergarten children are located in FaithZone. A big group worship time is added to their morning in addition to time in their classrooms. The big group time gives children the chance to sing, dance, participate in various missions projects, memorize a Bible verse and view a video Bible lesson. In their classrooms, adult and teen volunteers emphasize “the bottom line” or basic truth we want the children to take away each week. Each Sunday, we are intentional about helping our children and families learn a basic truth about God and how parents can apply this at home using a Parent Cue page. Sunday programming for children kindergarten through sixth grade includes a big group time with worship songs, celebration time, local and global missions outreach, and a weekly Bible lesson taught by staff. Students then break into small groups led by volunteers who use different activities to focus on “the bottom line” and how that applies to their everyday lives. We understand parents have the greatest influence on their children and want to equip parents to lead in the discipleship of their families, so check out the Parent Cue take-home page for application ideas. Another great way to connect with our parents and families is the new FaithZone Facebook page. This offers another opportunity to know what your children are learning in both our early childhood and elementary areas and ways you can influence

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and share your faith. We want children to learn that part of discipleship is worshipping the one true, living God. So we encourage you to begin taking your kindergarten-age children to worship with you as a family in addition to attending their Sunday morning class.

group leaders. Each grade focuses on strengthening the student’s faith through different topics that build as they get older.

Our student ministry is divided into junior high (seventh-ninth grades) and high school (10-12th grades). As children move into the student ministries, the focus becomes more about exploring and developing their relationships with Christ and learning what it means to be a Christ-follower. On Sunday mornings, students will find opportunities at 9:15 and 11:00 am in the Venue Breakaway area to connect with other students and still have the opportunity to worship with their families. On Sunday evenings, the students return to Asbury to meet with their small group and to engage in student worship. Students become involved in a small group of 6-12 students their same grade and gender, led by two adult volunteer small group leaders. A smaller group setting creates an environment where students can grow in their spiritual development and relationship with God while being mentored by an adult other than their parent. Meeting at Asbury on Sunday evenings offers the opportunity for a greater sense of community for students and parents as well as improved communication for parents and small

Adult discipleship is offered in a variety of settings and times, including adult communities, small groups and RoadMap studies. On Sunday mornings, adult communities meet at 8:00, 9:15, and 11:00 am in different classrooms at the main building. Communities are designed for spiritual growth, studying the Word of God, warm fellowship and serving others together. Another opportunity is an Adult Small Group which is a group of 6-12 who commit to meet regularly to study together, pray for each other and keep each other accountable. The RoadMap adult studies offer yet another opportunity to develop a sense of community and learn through in-depth Bible studies, topical studies, studies for women, men, etc. The RoadMap studies usually meet during the week, some in the mornings and others in the evenings. Check out the options for the fall session at www.myasburytulsa.org. Fall classes begin September 10, 2013. Asbury provides ongoing opportunities for every generation to grow and develop toward wholeness and spiritual maturity. Let us know how we can help you become all that God desires for you to be as you embrace your significance in Christ.

Discipleship Opportunities at a Glance Age/grade

8:00 AM

9:15 AM

11:00 AM

Childcare

6 weeks–PreK K–6th grade

Sun PM

Location

Contact

1st Fl Children’s Wing

Eryn Wallis ewallis@asburytulsa.org

1st Fl Children’s Wing

Eryn Wallis ewallis@asburytulsa.org

2nd Fl Children’s Wing

Abby Sluice asluice@asburytulsa.org Mark Fowler mfowler@asburytulsa.org

7–9th grades

Venue Breakaway

10–12th grades

Venue Breakaway

Katelyn Moore kmoore@asburytulsa.org

Main Building

Diane King dking@asburytulsa.org

Adults

Caroline Smallwood csmallwood@asburytulsa.org

Upcoming events for all ages are listed in the back pages of every Tidings. You may also want to check the website regularly for most current schedules.

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SENIOR ADULTS

Touching Hearts, Influencing Lives Project Transformation in Action! by Joanne Stadler

ooking up, the child said, “I’m stupid. Everyone tells me I’m stupid. Am I stupid?” As the adult volunteer put her arm around the second-grade girl, she replied “No, you are not stupid, and I’m here to help you learn words so that you can read.” This brought a smile to the child’s face as they continued to work with vowel and consonant sounds on her word recognition flash cards. Correct pronunciation leads to words with understanding; understanding words lead to sentences; sentences lead to information and application. This exemplifies our goal as we influence and interact with these young children providing instruction, approval, encouragement and the love of our Lord during our Project Transformation experience. Project Transformation was originally initiated in our area in 2004 at St. Marks United Methodist Church and West Tulsa UMC. It is designed to improve reading skills and build positive relationships with young students. Project Transformation provides a safe environment with gentle instruction while building self-esteem, we are able to enhance the academic success of underserved, at risk, elementary-age children. We are blessed to have this opportunity to demonstrate the love and compassion of Jesus while we serve “the least of these.” Another positive aspect of the program is the opportunity to provide intergenerational experiences rarely available to this population. As we think back about our own “learning to read” experience, we were often supported and encouraged not only by the school, but also by mom, or grandmother, or granddad, a big sister or brother, an aunt or uncle, or a neighbor or older friend. We grew up with positive “built in” intergenerational experiences. Many children we are seeing today don’t have this enriching opportunity due to single parenting, irregular working hours, or lack of academic focus by the adult(s) in the home. In this eight-week summer day camp, adult volunteers, teen volunteers and college students all work together to provide a safe, accepting, nurturing, one-on-one experience for these children of His. Asbury’s site church this year was Southern Hills UMC. During the week of June 23 through June 27, Asbury was fortunate to have the opportunity to interact with some delightful children. They were so loving and sometimes challenging as they were seeking attention, recognition, affirmation or just to be loved in return. We provided amazing, dedicated, caring volunteers to listen to the children read and help with crafts and science daily for three days plus volunteers to accompany the children to the Mohawk Zoo.

As the week progressed, we shared some of our conversations with these refreshing, uninhibited campers. We all had our favorite comments! “You look like you are about 17” expressed to Jan by a young girl. A young man reaching out to touch Larry’s arm, looked up and said, “I wish I were your son.” Linda was listening to a child read. The child was having trouble with the word “ate,” finally pronouncing it correctly. The child said, “Oh,” and held up “eight” fingers. (Word recognition at its best?) An 8-year-old young man said, “I can now read to my little sister at home.” Another young lady said, “I’m glad you wore pink today because I did too! I made some smiley faces yesterday and want to give one to you.” One camper was having trouble understanding that the period at the end of a sentence meant to “stop” or pause in reading. So Karen put up her hand straight out in front of her to demonstrate the meaning, and then when the young girl came to a period, she paused and shot out her hand (policeman fashion) each time to show she understood that it meant “stop!” There were many smiling faces each day when a camper recognized the person he/ she had read with the day before. They hurried quickly, with folder in hand, right back to that same person. Lots of bonding occurred! It was evident that the experience was enjoyed and will be treasured by both the children and the volunteers. All volunteers expressed an appreciation for the opportunity to serve Him by serving His children. “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.” –Mark 10:14

DID YOU KNOW? Event calendar for seniors - You can pick up a monthly schedule of activities designed just for our seniors at the Welcome Desk each month. Surgery or hospitalization? When you enter the hospital, please designate Asbury as your church. If you don’t we will not know you are there and a pastor will not come by. The after-hours surgery and hospitalization line can be reached by calling 918.392.1198. Please leave a message. If you know ahead of time, call 918.492.1771. Asbury pastors want to be in prayer for you and your family!

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OUTREACH

Our Little Hands Are Able to Serve by Christina Lee

t is so important for children to grow up knowing that they are significant and their life has purpose and meaning. There is no better way to feel needed than to help and serve others. That is exactly what these 8- and 9-year-old girls are doing this summer. They are in a “Girls in Action” Bible study designed to help them learn more about Jesus, godly character and how to put their faith into motion by serving and influencing others. During each lesson, the leader invites the girls to wave their hands up and look at them and realize that their little hands are perfect to serve Jesus RIGHT NOW! They do not have to wait until they are older, wiser, bigger…or anything else. They are in just the right season to use their gifts, passion, efforts and smiles to change the world. The lessons all revolve around being thankful for what they have and what it means to serve and influence others. They have already been busy this summer doing service projects around town. They had so much fun making and delivering chocolate chip cookies to a local police and fire department. Next, the girls completed chores to raise money for toiletry items as well as cleaned out their own closets. They used the items collected to assemble bags for families in Moore who are in need after the recent tornados. Each time they serve, they also make cards to send to the recipients with encouraging words and beautiful artwork. Another project they will do is make bags of birthday supplies for the Asbury Birthday Blessing ministry. This ministry provides all the items needed for a parent to throw their child a birthday party that otherwise may not happen. The girls can really relate to this project as they all love to be celebrated on their birthdays, but they cannot really fathom that there are children that may have to miss this celebration. They will

As these girls grow and serve together, there is no limit to what they will accomplish and how the world will forever be influenced by the hands of little girls. also make pillowcase dresses for little girls in Africa and serve at Christ for Humanity assembling food baskets for families in need in the Tulsa area. It is so amazing to watch just how capable these girls are and how much they can do to help others. It is good for them to see that their small parts all add up to something big. They look at the service portion of the Bible study as fun and enjoy doing it together. It is my hope that they will grow up with a heart to serve and help others and a desire to learn more about Jesus. It would be really exciting to see them lead their own Bible studies in the future and not be afraid since some have been participating since age 7. One of my favorite Bible verses is from Ephesians 2:10: “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” I want the girls to know that they are precious and significant, designed by God, and that He has made them with a purpose in mind that will further the Kingdom of God. As these girls grow and serve together, there is no limit to what they will accomplish and how the world will forever be influenced by the hands of little girls.

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Children’s Choirs

No Audition

Required! by Cynthia Bedford

When you walk into an Asbury children’s choir for the first time, you will find friendly teachers and fun activities. If you are new to our church, you might not know anyone at first, but the teachers will introduce you to a new friend and help you feel welcome. The younger choirs might have a picture to color or a puzzle to solve. The older choir will have a musical game or drums to play. We have lots of fun ways to experience music, such as musical chairs, concentration, marching to a song or moving to the music, echo rhythms, playing melody bells and more! You will not be bored! Our songs are written for children with voices like yours – not too high, not too low and not too long. If you are a preschooler, you might even get a snack. Our moms know never to bring snacks with peanuts because some of the kids are not supposed to eat peanuts. Our songs are really great. They help us learn about Jesus and how He wants us to act. Last year the preschoolers sang, “Wait and see what God can do for you. He will help you every day. Just remember, you can pray.” The kindergarteners learned a really pretty chorus with lots of words: “You came from heaven to earth to show the way, from the earth to the cross, my debt to pay. From the cross to the grave, from the grave to the sky, Lord, I lift Your Name on high.” The first- and second-grade choir was our largest children’s choir last year. When they sang in big church, they belted out, “Gonna climb up the mountain going down to the valley. Gonna give my Lord the praise that’s due His Name.” The third through sixth graders’ favorite was “Lean on Me, when you’re not strong, I’ll be your friend; I’ll help you carry on.” After your choir learns a song really well, you will get to sing it either in “big” church (the sanctuary) or in the chapel. Big church is lots of fun because there are lots of people, and it’s really loud when they clap for you! We love to sing in the chapel because those people really appreciate our getting up early to sing for them. It’s also fun because, after we sing, we get to eat breakfast in the CLC (Christian Life Center). Miss Virginia always wants to know when we are coming so she can buy lots of extra doughnuts for us! Miss Melissa’s kindergarteners got to sing in the chapel for Palm Sunday last year and marched down the center aisle waving palm branches. The first through sixth graders surprised everyone

when they came into the sanctuary waving their palm branches and shouting, “Hosanna! Blessed is He who comes in the Name of the Lord!” There were 65 children that day singing with the adult choir and orchestra! The orchestra got louder and louder and so did the children! Another fun thing about singing in church is that we get to wear choir robes just like the adult choir except sized for us. The first time you put one on you might think it’s too big, but it isn’t. The sleeves are way too long, but they have Velcro on the cuffs so they will fit just right and look really cool. We have all sizes of robes, and we have a measuring rod with colors to match the colors on the hangers. Someone measures you with the rod and tells you which color to look for. It’s fun to watch how much you grow each year as you move up the colors on the rod. In the spring, our third through sixth graders get to play real instruments. Each child gets to try guitars, handbells and chimes, autoharps and Orff percussion instruments. Our church has lots of great resources for teaching music and making it fun. Our choir theme last year was The Greatest Rescue Ever. Our book had three or four very short skits about helping our friends understand how Jesus would have us treat our friends, parents and teachers. The third through sixth graders had so much fun acting out these skits they wanted more. So, 9-year-old Rylee Taylor began writing skits for the others to act out. Pretty soon, 11-year-old Sami Ward decided she would like to try writing, and she turned out to be quite a little drama director, as well. Children’s choir is a great place to discover talents you never knew you had! Last Christmas, Ken Gabrielse selected a beautiful Michael W. Smith song, “All is Well,” for the adult choir and orchestra for Christmas Eve and requested a child soloist to sing the verses. Six-year-old Caleb Walton from our kindergarten choir sang at the 7:00 and 9:00 pm Christmas Eve Services with the adult choir and orchestra. At the 5:00 pm Children’s Christmas Eve Service, some of our Young Musicians played handbells and led the

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congregational singing of Christmas carols with sixth grader Abby Ruley accompanying on the piano. One Sunday in February, Pastor Tom requested a child to sing “Jesus Loves Me” in every service at the close of his sermon. We had tryouts with a microphone in the choir room, and many of our children could have sung. Cora Spatz sang at the early service, and Emory Parris sang at 11:00 am.

In the Old Testament, we read of David growing up, playing his harp on the hillside as he cared for his father’s sheep. Many of the Psalms were probably prayers he sang to God on that hillside. In First Samuel 16, David was called to play for King Saul when he was distressed, and the evil spirits left the king. God used David’s music in a powerful way, and we believe He still does that today!

God is definitely working in our children’s lives through children’s choirs. As adults, it’s too easy to see them as cute little children in oversized robes on display in the front of the sanctuary or chapel, singing little children’s songs. Yes, they are cute! And, yes, it’s fun to watch them, especially our own children and grandchildren. But, God is doing so much more! “Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (I Samuel 16:7). Jesus’ disciples tried to keep the children away, but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. I tell you the truth,” said Jesus, “anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”

Our children’s choir leaders have so much fun, they return year after year. Joyful Noise director is Michelle Minton, returning from last year. Joyful Sound director is Melissa Lenhart, returning for her ninth year. Music Makers director Donna Stutzman is returning for her 11th year. Young Musicians’ directors are Angela Parris, returning for her 14th year and Cynthia Bedford, returning for her 15th year. Our choir helpers are as important as our directors, and most of them return year after year as well. Our longest term choir helpers are retired school teachers, Pam Williams and Judy Walton, who have served together with the first and second graders for the past 10 years. All of our volunteers say they love working with children and helping them grow in their faith and love of Jesus.

ASBURY CHILDREN’S CHOIRS BEGIN WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 6:00-6:50 PM To register, please go online to www.asburytulsa.org and take the Quick Links to Children’s Events. There you will find children’s choirs. All the choirs meet on the second floor of the main building. Ages 4 through second grade meet in the children’s department. Preschool (age 4 by Sept. 11): Joyful Noise – Room 2945 Kindergarten: Joyful Sound – Room 2946 1st and 2nd Grade: Music Makers – Room 2927 3rd-6th Grade: Young Musicians – Adult Choir Room 2706

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CARE AND MARRIAGE

Rod and Charlene Giles

Of Gardens and Marriages by Charlene Giles

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ut blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” – Jeremiah 17:7–8 Marriage is like a garden. Times of drought come to gardens and marriages. That’s why it’s important to grow deep roots in good times. Rod Giles, my husband of 42 years, has been an avid gardener for 12 years, since a serious health issue sidelined him from his high-pressure career. He says, “I’ve learned the importance of careful garden planning and cultivation. In fact, winter is my most important gardening season, because that’s when I dream about and draw up plans for the coming growing season. In our marriage, Charlene and I have experienced some dry spells and storms in spite of our plans. We find it beneficial to review the state of our relationship periodically.” Rod notes, “I love to help plants grow. Sometimes they’ve just been planted in the wrong type of soil or have too much sun or

too little water. It’s really fun to watch them bloom once they have the right conditions.” Asbury believes in cultivating strong Christian marriages. It is never too late to benefit from review of the basics. You’re cordially invited to grow your marriage this fall through the course, “Developing a Marriage That Lasts a Lifetime.” Using the same tools Asbury uses with engaged couples, you’ll take a stroll down memory lane while also learning your strengths and areas where you need to grow. We’ll be discussing important topics common to all marriages. Whether married a few years or many, we hope to see you there. (Register by calling 918.392.1199.) Immediately following this course, there will be a special training for an additional six Sunday mornings for those who opt to serve in the future as support couples with the engaged. (Note: this class will not take the place of Couple-to-Couple for engaged couples.)

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CARE AND MARRIAGE

Laughing and Growing in Marriage by Leslie Runyan

hrough our (almost) 15 year marriage, my husband and I have had some wonderful times. We have laughed with each other, at each other and even about situations we have encountered together. I have often said that if you can’t laugh about it, you just might breakdown crying—we do that sometimes anyway! Asbury’s Marriage Ministry has provided us with many opportunities to grow (and laugh) in our marriage. We are thankful for the opportunity to be involved, and if you have spoken to me or heard our testimony, you have likely heard us say that it is the accountability of this involvement that has helped Bryan and I stay married! A few years ago we had the opportunity to participate in Mark Gungor’s “Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage” that was hosted by Asbury Marriage Ministry. As an Asbury community, we even borrowed the DVD’s from the Asbury library and watched a few segments. The comments have always been positive; like Bryan and I, other couples begin to realize that it is not just my spouse that acts that way! Gungor does a fantastic job exploring (and making fun of) how husbands and wives (men and women) are wired differently. Friday evening, August 9, and Saturday morning, August 10, Asbury is once again hosting a “Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage” DVD event in the Venue. (Tickets are free and available in the Asbury main office.) Another event that we have been privileged to participate in is a new nine-week class called “United.” This class offers a more in-depth

look at marriage and how we understand ourselves in relation to what Christ expects, as well as how we relate to our spouse. You will even find out a little about why you interact the way you do with your spouse! Bryan and I had the opportunity to facilitate a “test” class a few years ago, and what we found helpful in this course is that it focused on what the Bible tells us about marriage. So many times we focus on what the world describes as a happy, fulfilling marriage. Our culture tells us that our mate should fulfill every desire we have and they should make us happy. Actually, if I am looking to my husband to fulfill me, then I will often be disappointed. My husband will fail me. I will fail him. WE ARE MERE MORTALS. The only true fulfillment we find is in the Lord. The Bible tells that we are to serve others, but the world tells us others should serve us! Participating in the events that are promoted by Asbury’s Marriage Ministry has given us the opportunity to understand that we are not alone in our marital drama. We are not the only couple who disagree on things. We are normal. However, Ephesians 5:20 reads, “Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.” (The Message) By growing our marriage through Asbury opportunities, we begin to realize our accountability is truly to Christ. Then we are more able to do what Pastor Tom always says, “Lower your expectation and raise your commitment.”

Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage (by DVD) Friday, August 9, 6:30-9:15 pm AND Saturday, August 10, 9:00 am–12:30 pm, Venue Guy and Tammy Yoes

FREE tickets in Asbury office weekdays in July and between services in the Community Life Center (CLC) and August 4.

United Guy and Tammy Yoes are one of the couples leading the fall marriage class, “United” on Thursday evenings beginning September 12. Cost is $99 per couple, with scholarships available. Space is limited. Register online at www. asburytulsa.org under Quicklinks/Adults/RoadMap.

Mark Gungor

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Fifteen Years of Service in Tanzania by Jim Davis

When Asbury first connected to the people of the Kami tribe in Tanzania in 1998, there was no witness of the Gospel among them. This particular tribe was selected as Asbury’s first work with an “unreached people group”—a group that has no indigenous, selfpropagating Christian church. Taking the Gospel to a group of people is more than just words—the love of Christ must be demonstrated as well as being spoken. Asbury began work in a variety of different areas to proclaim His Name including water wells, agricultural projects, medical teams and construction as well as church planting and theological education. Through evangelists and pastors, approximately 30 churches have now been planted in Kami villages. Asbury continues to support these villages and their growing churches in many ways, including support of missionaries there, ongoing projects, theological education for church leaders and through Volunteersin-Mission teams (VIM). Two Asbury teams have been to Tanzania this year, and another is scheduled for this fall. Here’s an update from those teams and of some of our projects:

Strategic Planning Team Mary Ann Smith, Jim and Rachel Davis, and Mark Dalton went in May to Morogoro, Tanzania. The primary purpose of the trip was to meet with leadership at the Evangelical Lutheran Church of Tanzania, with whom we work, the pastors who work in the Kami area, and missionaries Robert and Linda Spitaleri to check in on our ministry partnership and to plan for the future.

We worshipped at the church in the village of Lukangazi, led by Pastor Steven Nuru who preached a passionate sermon that included playing a Bible passage in Swahili using one of the Proclaimer audio Bibles. An auction followed the service, where tithes and offerings given in the form of animals, produce and fabric were sold so the money could be given to the church. Asbury bought a goat that day which was given to a widow in the village.

Water Projects Access to clean, nearby water is often a struggle in villages, which is why Asbury has drilled many wells over the years. It was encouraging to see wells drilled 10 years ago still in service and producing clean water. To supplement well water, many of the churches in the Kami area have added gutters and cisterns to harvest rainwater to use and to sell. Asbury has played a role in funding some of these projects. We spent one day repairing a broken water well at the village of Kiagea. Pulling the pump and rods from the well, replacing a broken rod and reassembling the well was an all-day affair. The highlight of the day was the giggles of little kids from behind a bush. Somehow the kids’ contagious laughter made the hot hard work easier and more joyful.

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Microenterprise and “Get Your Goat”

Medical Team: God’s Divine Timing

Throughout our trip, we saw some of the microenterprise projects in which some of the pastors and evangelists are participating. Through leadership from missionary Robert Spitaleri, these projects include the raising of chickens and goats, the installation of rain water harvesting systems, solar panels to recharge cell phones, and efficient farming plots using the “Farming God’s Way” methods. Farming God’s Way involves spiritual principles and disciplines in addition to agricultural techniques to provide a strong evangelism component to the farming methods.

In June, Asbury sent a medical team of 18 people to serve in the villages of Mkuyuni, Mtamba and Mahungumkola in the Kami area. The doctors, nurses, and pharmacists saw and helped more than 1,000 patients in five days of clinics, and yet still had to turn many people away because of time. The team also prayed for each person that their relationship with Christ would strengthen and God would heal their body and soul.

The Happy Christians community at Asbury has played an important role in the goat project by raising money through their “Get Your Goat” idea. Enough goats have now been purchased and seeded into the congregations that the program is now selfsufficient, producing enough young to perpetuate the program. Part of the obligation of a recipient is that the first two female offspring must be given back to the program. The program is a great success.

One of the most incredible experiences of the trip happened on their way to set up a clinic in one of the villages. The bus had stopped to let everyone out to cross a bridge with a low weight limit. Just as they were about to re-board the bus, a mother and her family carrying her young son came running toward them. The little boy had been in a motorcycle accident, with a bad injury on his head and a broken femur. The team quickly went to work on him, bandaging his wounds and putting a splint on his leg, praying over him and ensuring he could get to the hospital. The doctors strongly believe that the injuries were so bad that the boy’s life would have been at risk if treatment had waited to get to the hospital which was so far away. The team was very moved by God’s divine timing. Being used by God in this way is truly honoring and humbling. Bwana Asifiwe (Praise be to God)!

TEAM WORLD VISION / TULSA MARATHON Asbury and Team World Vision are partnering with The Route 66 Half and Full Marathon on November 24. Get in shape for a purpose and help provide clean water for those in Tanzania. We will train together on Saturday mornings with a run, building friendships, growing spiritually, and together we will make in impact on global poverty in a fun way. Casual and non-runners are especially encouraged. You can join the team at teamworldvision.org/goto/asbury.

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When Disaster Strikes… by Dr. Guy Ames

ou may be surprised to know that Oklahoma ranks #1 on FEMA’s list of disaster related states. Will Rogers’ famous quip, “If you don’t like the weather wait a minute and it will change…” aptly explains why FEMA has decided to award us in this manner. Whether it’s wildfires, ice storms, hail damage, tornados or perennial flooding, in a variety of Oklahoma communities, Oklahoma’s weather can be devastating. The most recent EF5 tornados that roared through Moore and El Reno remind us why we Okies do well to pay attention to both preparation and recovery priorities.

The Emergency Phase

Every disaster is unique because of both the nature of the disaster as well as the people and community it impacts. Those who work disasters know that each disaster requires workers to be flexible and always prepare for the unexpected. For almost 35 years, I have served as a church-related disaster relief consultant for United Methodist Committee on Relief (UMCOR). During those years I have witnessed extreme losses, created both by nature and humans. In each and every disaster, large or small, three basic phases emerge that help guide the priorities of responders: emergency, relief and recovery.

The Relief Phase

During this phase, media presence is strong, shelters are established, and search and rescue (along with recovery efforts) are top priorities. Sometimes the emergency phase is over within 24 hours. In Moore, this phase involved search and rescue, emergency shelter for the affected, and putting the vast area “under control.” While the length of the emergency phase varies, it took more than two weeks before this phase was over and emergency shelters were no longer needed in Moore.

Normally 10 times longer than the emergency phase, by this time the media have moved on to other hot topics. During this phase, Red Cross, FEMA, Salvation Army and other agencies provide longer term care. A Disaster Assistance Center (DAC) is established for people to meet with and make application with FEMA, Red Cross, SBA and other groups for recovery assistance. While the Red Cross and FEMA provide some financial assistance (FEMA’s cap for uninsured is $31,900), other voluntary groups provide assistance through the Unmet Needs Committee. The United

Emergency Phase Community pulls together Before the disaster

Shock Period

Relief Phase 10 times longer

Threat of disaster

Recovery Phase 10 times longer than Relief Phase

Disillusionment 1 to 3 days Emergency Phase

1 to 3.5 years Relief and Recovery Phases

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Methodist Church through UMCOR plays a strong role in this process, providing volunteers for case management as well as additional funds to help people who fall through the cracks and need more than other agencies can provide. During this period, many churches work together to help people get back on their feet. Many organizations and churches provide specialized help during this period. The main goal of the relief period is to help individuals with financial assistance, transitional housing, and identifying the gaps between available resources and individual needs. During this period, the “unmet needs committee” begins to gather information through case management and determine if additional resources might be available to help in those situations. (For more information regarding this, go to the website for Oklahoma Voluntary Organizations Active in Disaster.)

goal is to help individuals recover to the health they knew on the day before the disaster struck.

The Recovery Phase

Over the weeks and months after the disaster, disillusionment and depression often set in as people take stock of their losses and realize how long it will take to get “back to normal.” During this period, families are particularly vulnerable to stress, depression, rising anger and violent outbursts, sometimes leading to abuse or violence. Divorce rates normally sky-rocket, domestic violence reports increase, and in extreme cases, suicide becomes an answer for some. During this period, United Methodist churches have historically given significant support and resources. Underinsured families might need our volunteers to help fill financial gaps in rebuilding or repairing a home. Others need special financial assistance due to a unique issue. And almost always we champion the presence of free individual and family counseling.

During this period, people are beginning to rebuild and neighborhoods emerge, but just like losing a loved one to death or a family through divorce, only time and support can heal the invisible scars that linger beneath. During this phase (10 times relief phase equals approximately 1,500 days for Moore), volunteers continue helping those who “fall through the cracks.” Red Cross, FEMA and most other agencies have moved on to other disasters in this phase. However, at this point in time, people are especially vulnerable to emotional, spiritual or physical problems. UMCOR’s traditional goal is supporting people through to “recovery.” Our

For now, while clearing away debris, our main job may be to listen to someone who needs to tell their story, but over the course of the next two to three years, we’ll keep raising funds to help those who are falling through the cracks. We will repair and rebuild homes, provide ongoing free counseling, watching for the signs that their children are finally sleeping without nightmares. We will hold the hands of families torn apart by this disaster until they feel a strong foundation being once more formed underneath. We will remember Paul’s words, “Bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2)

We will hold the hands of families torn apart by this disaster until they feel a strong foundation being once more formed underneath.

I’ve received a very gracious note from Dr. D.A. Bennett, the senior pastor of St. Andrews UMC in southwest Oklahoma City thanking us for the generous support we have sent to his congregation to provide support for those affected by the May tornado. As of this date, more than $120,000 has been raised to help those affected by the tornado. Teams are still going on a weekly basis, sometimes more often than that, to serve those in Moore in a very tangible way. –Pastor Tom

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Helping Moore

tornado’s path as it took a slight turn north, only to continue to ravage the neighborhoods.

by Kay Mains

We had been advised at the church to work our way into the house from the outer edges. So we spread out, working on one side and the back of the house. After an hour on the side, I realized we were not even up to the foundation of the house yet as there was so much rubble (bricks, insulation, drywall, tiles) around the outside.

“W

ow.” “Unbelievable.” “Amazing.” These were the comments heard as we were pulling up in front of what had previously been a two-story home, housing a happy, growing young family. Now it was a pile of rubble with few pieces even requiring two or more people to carry them. The tornado moved through the neighborhood leaving massive devastation. There were 11 of us that day who journeyed down to Moore in the Asbury van and individual cars. We really didn’t know what to expect. Upon first arriving in Moore, we went to the First UMC in downtown Moore to get our assignment. We were given a stack of work gloves and masks, and instructions to put baby powder on our arms to prevent insulation from sticking to us. Our job was to begin clearing debris from a house totally leveled by the tornado and to look for personal items. Yes, the insurance would pay to have equipment come in and just shovel everything to the curb, but if that was done, there would be zero chance of the family recovering any personal items. But if we cleared the debris, not only would it be possible to find some personal items, it would also save that portion of the insurance money. Hopefully this would allow the family to put in a storm shelter if they rebuilt. One team of six had already been sent to the house a little earlier that day; we would be joining them. As we pulled up to the house, it was difficult to even know where to begin. You could clearly track the path of the tornado. West of us (to the back of the house), the tornado path was three-houses-wide of total devastation, with major destruction for another house or two on each side. Just across the street, the path of total destruction widened to five houses. Continuing east, you could follow the

All the debris had to be hauled out near the street so that it could be picked up. We raked, picked up, hauled and shoveled for a couple of hours. Slow going, but we were making progress. And we began finding things. The family Bible. A small wooden box containing dog tags, jewelry and momentos. Wedding photos. A child’s photo and one solitary slide. In the back of the house, we found what had been the baby’s bedroom. We pulled out a playpen and toys, stacking them to one side. We also found a small notebook with a letter from a mother to her child, talking about how much she loved her and how proud she was of her daughter. That may or may not have come from that house. The mother and daughter may or may not have survived. But either way, the note was a treasure. As we worked our way farther into the house, we reached what was obviously the downstairs bathroom areas as there were two commodes several feet apart still bolted to the foundation. Behind one of them was a pillow, so this was obviously where the family rode out the storm. The pre-fab, one-piece bath enclosure had either fallen with them in it or fallen over on top on them. During the storm, this would have been terrifying. But God used it to cover them, preventing swirling debris from injuring or killing them. During the late morning, a car pulled up and some people got out. They said they were looking for somewhere to help and asked if they could help us. Of course! Now we had more people (and fresh ones at that!) to help. Side by side, we all continued to work.

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A little bit later, just before we headed to get some lunch, another car pulled up. A young man and his son, about 8-10 years old, came over with a case of Gatorade, and wanted to thank us for our work. They were from Tennessee. Their small act touched each of us. And that young boy will never, ever forget the experience. Our work there was only on one house; there are hundreds more. But to the one family who received four boxes of their personal items, this was a special day as a few of their memories were recovered. Do we know their name? No. Do we know their reaction? No. Does God know? Absolutely. More volunteers are still needed. You might or might not be called upon to do what we did since the jobs will vary. But lots of clean up remains. One brick at a time needs to be moved. One more bucketful of debris needs to be hauled. People need to be encouraged. Working for a few hours might not seem to be much to us, but it matters. Every single hour worked matters. To God, and to the people of Moore.

HERE ARE THREE SIMPLE WAYS FOR YOU TO HELP: PRAY. GIVE. GO. First, Pray. You offered your prayers for Moore at the church-wide prayer meeting on May 22. Thank you for the wonderful response. Please continue to pray for the people of the Oklahoma City area. The Asbury Prayer Ministry has created a Disaster Response Prayer Guide available at www.asburytulsa.org/relief. Second, Give. The most effective way for you to give is through financial gifts. You have offered Moore an outstanding contribution. We have received close to $100,000 to help the residents of Moore. Third, Go. Asbury Local Outreach will be sending volunteers to Moore in order to offer a helping hand. First UMC in OKC has graciously agreed to help serve as our contact. Team members will be making day trips to Moore on a weekly basis and will be working to help clear away and sort through debris. Teams will be going out on Fridays. Who Can Go and When You may go individually, as small groups, or in the Asbury church van. Individuals - Go any day of the week. Asbury will reimburse for tolls and gas. Please call 405.802.0039 two days in advance to make sure they are taking volunteers that day. Families/small groups/communities - Go any day of the week. One car per team is preferable. Take your vehicle. Church will reimburse for tolls and gas. Kids 14 and up may participate. Bring ID and/or drivers license. Work projects include removing debris and sorting valuables, and site clean up. Asbury mission team - Maximum of 10 can go in the Asbury church van. Day trips on Fridays will continue as long as volunteer response remains strong. Registration for Asbury Mission Team If you would like to be part of a team, please email Hanna Duininck at hduininck@asburytulsa.org, subject: MOORE VOLUNTEER. Please provide the day that you would prefer to go as well as any additional dates that you are available. Remember that the Asbury van will only be going out on Fridays. Registration is â&#x20AC;&#x153;First Come First Serve.â&#x20AC;? Once you have emailed your preferred day, you will receive a follow-up email with additional details about the workday.

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Christian Explorers Community Reaches Across Generational Lines by Diane King

ur new focus at Asbury is “Developing all generations for significant lives in Christ.” We have been encouraged to re-think the old way of doing things, where each age group functions in its own silo, rarely interacting with the others. Recognizing that there is great benefit and biblical precedents in intergenerational sharing, many of Asbury’s adult communities have picked up that gauntlet by combining with others who have younger or older members for socials, parties and serving opportunities. In July, Christian Explorers community ventured into the Sunday morning lesson time for “developing all generations.”

How it began Susan Burkhart, Christian Explorers’ grow leader (formerly known as believing leader), became excited about the prospect of inviting other communities to join them for a special series of lessons taught by one of the CE members during the regular Sunday 9:15 am meeting time. Dr. Jean Mosley, a professor of early childhood education at ORU, and had taught in Christian Explorers previously about the importance of godly training for our children and grandchildren. In planning the teaching schedule for 2013, Burkhart thought a more extensive month-long series on the topic would be a good plan for this community of grandparent-aged adults (ages 50s-60s). So good, in fact, it would be a shame not to share.

“I have always loved how Tom and the church leaders try to keep Asbury a relational church, even though it is so large. But I must admit that we lacked intergenerational activities and interactions. I love to be with young adults, especially the same age as my own children. As the grow leader of my community, I felt that Jean Mosley’s subject provided the perfect opportunity to involve the generations.” The invitation was extended to several younger communities, especially those whose members were either just beginning or in the “thick of” raising their own children, to join Christian Explorers for the four Sundays in July. The series taught by Dr. Mosley entitled “Living as God’s Children—Guiding Our Children” would help parents and grandparents develop a biblical perspective for raising the children, but with an added benefit. “Not only do we view this as a wonderful learning experience but also as an opportunity to get acquainted with the members of [the other younger] communities,” Burkhart states. Of those other communities invited, several were able to accept and join the Christian Explorers. Rooted (married couples ages 20s-early 30s) and Covenant (ages 30s-early 40s) arranged their teaching schedules to participate in this special endeavor. The Ark (ages 30s-40s) was able to attend the first session on July 7.

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I remember when I was young how inspirational and important those relationships were that I had with people within the church (who) were older and more experienced than I Burkhart reflects, “I remember when I was young how inspirational and important those relationships were that I had with people within the church (who) were older and more experienced than I,” and was pleased at how eagerly the young adult communities wanted to join her community in this inter-generational endeavor. Christian Explorers are also in communication with Legacy community (ages 30s-40s) for a future social event together. A practical challenge for combining for class time at 9:15 on Sunday mornings was that none of the rooms of the participating communities could hold all of the people attending, and every adult classroom in the building is full at that time. Mason Chapel became the solution to that problem. Participating communities met first in their own rooms to check in and handle class business, then moved to the Chapel. This gave the 8:00 am Chapel service participants plenty of time to complete the taking of communion and disperse in reverence without interruption.

About the study The four-week series is the partial result of Dr. Mosley’s reading the Bible cover to cover, focusing on God’s wisdom concerning parents raising and disciplining children. She found through this that God set the family up in the beginning as the primary teaching institution. The family as established by God shows what His character is, and His discipline should be seen in a positive light. “I began this project when I saw books about guiding children from a biblical perspective that didn’t match my understanding

of scripture or what I had experienced and observed over 20 years of working with children. I used the Bible as field notes to do an ethnographic study of God’s discipline (a study based on observation in natural situations with a goal of finding patterns that inform our practice). What I found both confirmed many of my beliefs about guiding children and expanded my perspective on what is involved in that process. One of the most important things I discovered is that we can’t discipline children using God’s methods if we don’t think about how God has disciplined us. “God’s discipline is good, as opposed to God’s discipline is nice. He uses 20 different methods for discipline, including punishment. We must be willing to do what is good. That involves building a trusting relationship,” states Dr. Mosley. “The emphasis should be on teaching the children the ‘why’ of their desired behavior, rather than just getting them to do things so that they will outwardly appear ‘good.’ Too often, children are trained to follow rules with no inner motivation to do so. This will not translate into long-term desirable behavior, because the motivation is merely to avoid punishment. If we teach them instead who God is and how He can be trusted, this becomes a loving tool to help parents with their discipline. “An ORU instructor used this material when she taught the child guidance course to graduate students who were currently teaching. The feedback from these students focused mainly on how it had changed them, rather than on how it changed their work with children.”

About Dr. Mosley Before moving to Tulsa, Dr. Jean Mosley taught at and later directed a preschool in Baton Rouge for nearly 20 years. She and her husband Mike moved to Tulsa as a result of his job, and she began teaching preschool again. Having already begun her PhD in Early Childhood Education, she still needed to complete her dissertation at that time. When she went to meet with the administration at ORU, she found that they did not have an early childhood education degree program. They asked her to write a degree program plan for it, she submitted one, and it got approved. Dr. Mosley is now responsible for the ORU early childhood teacher certification program and serves there as a professor of early childhood education. Between various schools and churches, she has taught every age level from toddlers to adults. She has also written preschool curriculum for LifeWay publications. She and husband Mike have two grown children and six grandchildren. They have been members of the Christian Explorers community and Asbury for two years. Mike plays trumpet in the Asbury orchestra. If your community would like to schedule Dr. Mosley to teach in your community, you may contact her directly at 918.946.5452. To share other ideas of intergenerational community activities, contact Diane King at dking@asburytulsa.org.

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How do you live with integrity in a nation without morals? You can change the culture into which God has called you. This short book of the Bible requires only three sessions but does include homework.

gain an understanding of prayer from God’s perspective and purpose and confidence, and embrace a biblical pattern for developing a dynamic personal relationship with Christ.

BETH MOORE: Daniel

PRECEPT: Genesis Parts 1 & 2

CINDY READ

DEE PAIGE Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 4–November 20 Room 1504, cost $30

Tuesdays 9:30–11:30 am September 10–November 26 Room 2818, cost $20

FALL 2013 BIBLICAL STUDIES Something to Chew On JESSICA DYER Mondays 12:00–1:00 pm Ongoing (will not meet September 2) Room 2818, no cost, no child care

This one hour interactive Bible Study for men and women of all ages is intended to provide encouragement and hope through God’s Word. Open to all! No registration, no homework, come whenever you can. Bring your own lunch and your Bible.

PRECEPT Fatal Distractions: Conquering Destructive Temptations

This Old Testament Bible study falls in two parts. The first portion, from Daniel chapters 1–6, deals with the prophet Daniel’s life as he faced the kind of pressures and temptations Christians encounter today while maintaining integrity. The second portion, chapters 7–12, explores prophecies from the time of Daniel through the second coming of Jesus Christ.

BETH MOORE: Jesus, the One and Only DEE DEE GEDDIE Tuesdays 6:30–8:30 pm September 10–November 19 Room 2820, cost $20

Join Beth Moore in this life-changing journey as you get to know Jesus intimately... as if you had walked with Him during His days of earthly ministry. Based on the book of Luke and filmed on location in Jerusalem and throughout Israel.

Return to Me – The Book of Zechariah

NANCY STAAB Tuesdays 9:30–11:30 am September 10–October 15 Room 2820, cost $10

GAIL KNOX Tuesdays 6:30–8:00 pm September 3–October 29 Room 2821, cost $20

Any type of sin can undermine a believer’s effectiveness, but certain sins can become so deeply rooted in our lives that they become fatal to our spiritual growth. This study looks at six of the “deadly” sins that threaten spiritual progress: Pride, Anger, Jealousy, Gluttony, Slothfulness, and Greed. You’ll be equipped to conquer these destructive temptations so you can mature in your journey with Christ. No homework.

This book of prophecy recounts the word of the Lord to the prophet Zechariah during a period of great sorrow for the Israelites. The people of that day were very much in need of a word of encouragement—much like the people of our great nation today. What God had to say to Israel is especially relevant to the church today.

PRECEPT: Titus – Developing Character and Integrity NANCY STAAB Tuesdays 9:30–11:30 am October 22–November 5 Room 2820, cost $10

Developing a Powerful Prayer Life JACKIE CARTER Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 11–October 23 (will not meet October 16) Room 1507, cost $10

This course is designed to help participants

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Genesis – Part 1: The Creation (Genesis Chapters 1–2) explores the biblical account of creation, how the world was created, and how man came into being. Genesis – Part 2: The Fall, the Flood and the Nations (Genesis Chapters 3–11) covers Adam and Eve, Noah’s Ark and the Tower of Babel. We will examine God’s plan for marriage, the beginning of sin, God’s judgment of the wicked and His plan of salvation.

Ephesians: Instructions for Christian Living and Unity MARY ANN SMITH Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 11–October 30 (will not meet October 16) Room 2500, cost $5

An interactive study of the book of Ephesians, using inductive methods and small group discussion to make the scripture easily applicable to our daily lives.

Defend the Faith DR. SAM AND CHRISSY THORPE Wednesdays 6:00–7:30 pm September 11–November 6 (will not meet October 16) Room 2818, cost $10

This study of the uniqueness of Christianity among all worldviews will examine how to answer non-Christians’ questions about Christianity and how to best discuss the most controversial issues of our time.

Believers Bible Study DON HERROLD Wednesdays 6:00–7:30 pm Year-round, takes a break in August Room 1508, no cost

Completing 1 Thessalonians and starting 2 Thessalonians.

WOMEN Mothers’ Fellowship KATIE RULEY Tuesdays 9:45–11:45 am September 10–December 3 Room 1900 (Parlor), cost $10

Mothers’ Fellowship is a Bible study for mothers of all stages and all ages. This semester we will begin with the study of the book, A Confident Heart, which gives voice to the questions, doubts, struggles, and hopes that so many women have.

MEN Men’s Bible Study: When The Game Is Over, It All Goes Back in the Box GREG RULEY AND BROCK KING Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 11–November 20 (will not meet October 16) Room 2821, no cost

Using popular games as a metaphor for our temporal lives, this strategy-filled playbook walks you through what it takes to really win big at the game of life. Based on the DVD series by John Ortberg.

MISSIONS Mission Ready JIM DAVIS Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 11–November 20 (will not meet October 16) Room 2820, no cost

We will discuss the Scriptures that give our biblical mandate for missions, strategic mission methods, how short- and long-term missionaries fit in, Asbury’s mission involvement and possibilities for the future.

CARE Boundaries LYNN ARCHIBALD AND EMILY CURZON Tuesdays 6:30–8:00 pm September 10–November 5 Room 1621, cost $10

Do you have trouble saying no? Learn how to set healthy boundaries in relationships as we look at what Scripture says about boundaries. Enjoy a 30-minute DVD session led by Drs. John Townsend and

Henry Cloud, followed by a time for discussion.

September 12–November 7 Room 2201, cost $99/couple ($50 holds your spot, scholarships available)

GriefShare

Grow together in your marriage, learn to be best friends, celebrate your differences, talk with, not at each other, seek forgiveness without fear, work though life’s challenges, share and support each other’s dreams, believe in and re-commit to your marital and spiritual journey together.

ANN PETERSON AND CLAUDIA KLEEMAN Wednesdays September 11–December 11 (will not meet November 27) 3:00–4:30 pm (no child care) OR 6:00–7:30 pm (child care provided) Room 2319, cost $15

GriefShare is a special weekly support group for people who are grieving the loss of a loved one. The group offers a comfortable environment where the emotions and process of grief are understood and welcomed. Individuals may begin attending this group at any time.

Beyond GriefShare ANN PETERSON AND CAROLYN MOORE Wednesdays September 11–December 11 (will not meet November 27) 3:00–4:30 pm (no child care) OR 6:00–7:30 pm (child care provided) Room 2201, cost $15

Especially designed for those who have completed the GriefShare video series, this group provides participants an opportunity to continue processing their grief while deepening their spiritual walk.

MARRIAGE AND FAMILY Developing a Marriage that Lasts a Lifetime HOSTS DEBBIE AND CHUCK WILSON + VARIOUS TEACHERS Sundays 11:00 am–12:15 pm August 18–October 13 (will not meet September 1) Room 2504, cost $45/couple (partial scholarships available) Registration/payment required by August 12 Must do online inventory before first class

Strengthen your marital foundation by addressing topics common to all married people. Opportunity for additional six weeks to train to become a Couple-toCouple Support Couple.

United GUY AND TAMMY YOES, RON AND JACKIE CARTER Thursdays 6:30–8:30 pm

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Raising God-Reliant Children in a SelfIndulgent World BETTY HIGGINS Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 18–October 30 (will not meet October 16) Room 1506, cost $15

FINANCIAL Financial Peace University RON CARTER Sundays, September 15–November 17 (child care not available) OR JOE SPENCE Thursdays, September 12–November 14 (child care available) 6:00–8:00 pm Room 2820, cost $95 per kit, 1 kit needed per couple

Financial Peace University will teach you everything you need to know about dumping debt, building wealth and changing your family tree. *Attend the free orientation from 12:30–1:30 pm Sunday, September 8 in Room 2820. Orientation and/or registration highly recommended but not required.

For more information, pick up a RoadMap brochure at any Welcome Desk or visit www.asburytulsa. org/roadmap. If you have questions, contact Diane King at 918.492.1771.

GRANDPA JOHN

My New Neighbors by John C. Westervelt

ob and Norma Kramer and I moved into Crestwood at Oklahoma Methodist Manor in June 2012. Bob and Norma live across the hall from me. Every time I passed these two, each had a smile, confirming for me that life is good. Early in 2013 I began to miss seeing Bob and Norma. Then I learned that Bob had been diagnosed with myasthenia gravis. One day in early March, Norma called to say, “I hate to leave Bob alone. Could you pick up my mail?” After that, each afternoon I called Norma and said, “I am going for my mail. May I get yours?” Her response was, “I would appreciate that so much.” Standing in the doorway each day, I learned something new. Norma grew up in Shawnee, Oklahoma. Her brother Winfred was 14 years older, and Harrell was nine years older. She doesn’t remember her dad because he died when she was 18 months old in the beginning days of the depression of the 1930’s. Her mom Bernice was educated to teach school but elected to get a year round job. She attended cosmetology school and opened a beauty parlor. The bungalow where Norma lived had a porch all across the front. A hydrangea at the side of the porch was as tall as the house. It had both blue and pink blossoms. Sitting in the breakfast nook surrounded with windows, Norma could look out on a backyard full of flowers. Along the side, honeysuckle overflowed the trellis. Farther back were stately red and pink roses. Winfred was in love with Thelma, the daughter of a university professor in Shawnee. When Thelma’s dad moved to a university in Arkadelphia, Arkansas, Winfred chose to go there for college. He was in ROTC. Harrell joined the Army Air Corps and was stationed at Hickam Field near Pearl Harbor, Hawaii. Norma was 11 years old on a peaceful Sunday afternoon on December 7, 1941. The word spread throughout Shawnee by radio and word of mouth that the Japanese had bombed Pearl Harbor and Hickam Field. Norma and her mom began hopefully praying that Harrell was safe. In a few days, Christmas packages came in

the mail for Norma and her mom from Harrell’s address in Hawaii. Hope surged until on that same day a man arrived at the door with a telegram reading, “We regret to inform you....” Winfred could have left the army since his brother was killed, but he chose to serve his country. By now Winfred and Thelma had a little boy, and Thelma was pregnant. Winfred was on a training mission in Kansas when he was burned by an exploding flamethrower and later died. Four months later, a healthy baby girl was born without a daddy. Norma graduated from Shawnee High School, and from the University of Oklahoma in 1952 with a degree in speech pathology. Norma’s first job was as a speech pathologist with the Oklahoma City Public Schools. She and her roommate had an apartment near the Oklahoma University Medical School. Bob Kramer (King Daze Class of ‘49 Tulsa Central high school - http://www.tulsacentralalumni.org/royalty.htm) entered Oklahoma University Medical School after completing pre-med in three years. Bob met Norma, and in time they were married. From their mid-town home, Bob had a short drive to the Utica Square Medical Building where he practiced as an ophthalmologist. Life was good all those years of raising a daughter and two sons and then the retirement years. Finally, they moved to Crestwood. No one expected myasthenia gravis. But since it happened, it is good to have the support of Oklahoma Methodist Manor. When I see Norma, she is smiling. I smile back. When we go our own way, I feel in my heart a tug of gratitude for her family’s sacrifice during World War II to protect my freedom.

Other stories at www.jwestervelt.com

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RECIPES OF THE MONTH

Apples and pumpkins! Does anything say “fall” better than these foods? As these fruits and vegetables become more plentiful, what a joy to use them in our cooking.

Cinnamon-Apple Pork Chops |

YIELD: 4 SERVINGS

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1. In a large skillet over medium heat, cook pork chops in 1 tablespoon butter for 4–5 minutes on each side or until meat thermometer reads 160°. Meanwhile in a small bowl, combine the brown sugar, cinnamon, nutmeg and salt. 2. Remove chops and keep warm. Add the apples, pecans, brown sugar mixture and remaining butter to the pan. Cook and stir until apples are tender. Serve with chops.

4 boneless pork loin chops (4 ounces each) 2 tablespoons reduced-fat butter, divided 3 tablespoons brown sugar 1 teaspoon ground nutmeg ¼ teaspoon salt 4 medium tart apples, thinly sliced 2 tablespoon chopped pecans

Apple-Spice Acorn Squash |

YIELD: 2 SERVINGS

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1. Cut squash in half; discard seeds. Place squash cut side down in a microwave-safe baking dish. Add 1/2 inch of water. Microwave, uncovered, on high for 10–13 minutes or until almost tender; drain. 2. Combine the apple, raisins, cinnamon and nutmeg; spoon into squash cavities. Dot with butter. Microwave, uncovered, on high for 6–8 minutes or until squash and apples are tender. Let stand for 5 minutes before serving.

1 medium acorn squash 1 medium tart apple, chopped ¼ cup golden raisins 1/8 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/8 teaspoon ground nutmeg 2 teaspoons butter

Pumpkin Nut Bread |

YIELD: 3 LOAVES (12 SLICES EACH). ENOUGH TO SHARE!

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1. For streusel, combine brown sugar and flour in a bowl; cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Stir in ½ cup pecans; set aside. 2. In a large bowl, combine the pound cake mixes, pumpkin, eggs, water, baking soda and pumpkin pie spice; beat on low speed for 30 seconds. Beat on medium for 2 minutes. Fold in remaining pecans. 3. Divide half of the batter among three greased and floured 8x4” loaf pans. Sprinkle with half of the streusel. Top with remaining batter and streusel. 4. Bake at 350° for 45–50 minutes or until a toothpick inserted near the center comes out clean. Cool for 10 minutes before removing from pans to wire racks to cool completely.

¾ cup packed brown sugar ½ cup all-purpose flour 1/3 cup cold butter, cubed 1 cup chopped pecans, divided 2 packages (16 ounces each) pound cake mix 1 can (15 ounces) solid-pack pumpkin 4 eggs ¾ cup water 2 teaspoons baking soda 2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice

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Asbury Opportunities GENERAL INFORMATION SURGERY OR HOSPITALIZATION SCHEDULED?

Be sure to let Asbury know ahead of time by calling the church receptionist at 918.492.1771 so your pastors can be in prayer for you. When you enter the hospital, please designate Asbury as your church. The after-hours pastoral emergency line can be reached by calling 918.492.1771, selecting option 6, and leaving a message for the pastor on call. WWW.MYASBURYTULSA.ORG

This website is available to all members as a way to update your contact information, register for events, give online and indicate ministries you would like to receive communication from. Make sure you have an account and check it out.

BOUNDARIES

Do you have trouble saying no? Learn how to set healthy boundaries in relationships as we look at what Scripture says. Facilitators are Lynn Archibald and Emily Curzon. • Tuesdays, September 10–November 5, 6:30–8:00 pm, Room 1621, Cost is $10, child care available • Register online or 918.392.1191. GRIEFSHARE

A weekly support group for people who are grieving the loss of a loved one. Individuals may begin attending this group at any time. Facilitators are Ann Peterson and Claudia Kleeman • Wednesdays, September 11–December 11, 3:00–4:30 pm (no child care) OR 6:00–7:30 pm (child care provided) • Room 2319, Cost is $15 • Register online or 918.392.1191

ASBURY FOUNDATION Leave a legacy that continues to give forever to a ministry you want to support. There are endowments that support many areas of Asbury’s outreach including children, youth, music, missions, and training of pastors as well as a general endowment. You can easily impact a ministry through your will or a current gift. • Contact Dwight Yoder at 918.392.1113 or dyoder@asburytulsa.org

BIBLE STUDY Check out our adult Bible studies listed in our RoadMap brochures found at all welcome centers or online at www.asburytulsa.org/ AdultMinistries/Roadmap.aspx SOMETHING TO CHEW ON

This new Bible study led by Jessica Dyer for men and women of all ages will provide encouragement and hope through God’s Word. No registration, no homework, come whenever you can. Bring your own lunch and your Bible. • Mondays, 12:00–1:00 pm, Room 2818, no cost, child care not available

CARE AND SUPPORT STEPHEN MINISTRY

There are days when we feel discouraged, alone, maybe even a little frightened; you do not have to face those difficult times alone. Please call Adrena at 918.392.1144 if a Stephen Minister may be the support you need.

BEYOND GRIEFSHARE

Especially designed for those who have completed the GriefShare video series, this weekly support group will provide participants an opportunity to continue processing their grief while deepening their spiritual walk. • Wednesdays, September 11–December 11, 3:00–4:30 pm (no child care) OR 6:00–7:30 pm (child care provided) • Room 2201, Cost is $15 • Register online or 918.392.1191 QUILTING MINISTRY

Utilize your love of quilting to make lap quilts that warm and comfort those who need to feel the loving presence of God in their lives. Quilts are prayed over before being given. • Second Wednesdays in odd months (January, March, etc.), Room 1621 • Contact Dotti Westerberg at 918.369.5460 or dottiwesterberg@hotmail.com S.M.I.L.E. (SINGLE MOTHERS IN THE LORD’S EMBRACE)

Join us for a DVD series and book entitled “21 Principles of a Healthy Single Mom.” • Third Thursdays, 6:00–8:45 pm, Parlor, child care provided • RSVP to Janet at 918.688.3392 or asburysmile@ymail.com HEALING HATS/BALL CAPS

An Asbury ministry created to provide hats to cancer patients who have lost their hair. Simply knit, crochet or sew a hat or decorate a ball cap of your choice and drop it in the collection box located

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OPPORTUNITIES

near the northeast entrance. Or come to the following groups for fellowship creating hats. Contact Sue Fisher at healinghatsmin@ aol.com or 918.455.2816. • Crochet Group –– Second and fourth Tuesdays, 6:30–8:00 pm, Room 1506 • Ball Caps (If you can cut and glue this is for you! Baseball caps and decorating items available) –– Fourth Tuesdays, 9:30–11:30 am, Room 1508 VISITS TO ASBURY MEMBERS

Asbury has a group of volunteers (Asbury Connection) who regularly visit people who are homebound, in nursing homes or in assisted living facilities. • Contact Lisa at 918.298.9014 or lisa_dalt@sbcglobal.net

CELEBRATE RECOVERY CELEBRATE RECOVERY/THE LANDING/CELEBRATION STATION

• Celebrate Recovery – God never intended for you to live in bondage. Every Monday night: dinner at 6:00 pm, worship from 7:00–8:00 pm, small groups from 8:00–9:00 pm, dessert from 9:00–9:30 pm • The Landing – Hope-filled truths and real-life strategies for students. Every Monday night, 6:30–9:00 pm in Venue north lobby. Grades 6–12 • Celebration Station (CR for kids) – Kids discover the same truths in age-appropriate ways through worship, crafts, games and activities. Mondays, 7:00–9:00 pm, Faith Zone. Contact Eryn Wallis 918.392.4588 or ewallis@asburytulsa.org

PRAYER CARD MINISTRY/ MILITARY CONNECTION

Send cards with God’s encouraging words and our prayers to those who are ill, going through hard times or in the military. If you would like to receive cards or know someone who would like to receive cards, please send complete name and address. • Usually meets first and third Mondays at 9:00 am, Room 1508 • Contact Gwen Mohler at 918.258.5479 or grmohler@aol.com to design cards • Military: Contact Jo VanDeWiele at 918.459.0888 or Nancy at rnficken@aol.com

CHILDREN Registration forms for all children’s activities are handled through www.myasburytulsa.org. CORE CHILDCARE HOURS

DIVORCE REBUILDING

Parents who are involved in RoadMap classes and/or communities during these core hours will have childcare provided for children 6 weeks–6th grade with no reservations needed: • Sunday 9:00 am–12:00 pm • Tuesday and Wednesday 8:45 am–12:00 pm • Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 5:45 pm–9:00 pm In order to encourage families to worship together, children from kindergarten–6th grade are permitted to stay in their Sunday school room for one hour only. An exception is made if parents are volunteering somewhere within the church so that they may attend either a service or their community. In that case, children are permitted to spend two hours in their Sunday school room. Nursery/preschool does allow children to stay for both hours.

MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES

Do you have a heart to help children with special needs? If so, the Children’s Ministry needs you to volunteer. • Contact Dotti Westerberg at dottiwesterberg@hotmail.com or 918.381.0874

DIVORCE RECOVERY

For those suffering from the early, highly emotional stages of divorce and separation trauma. • Tuesdays, 7:00–8:30 pm, Room 1335, child care available • Contact Malia Miller at 918.494.9596 or malia.miller@ sbcglobal.net

For those ready to rebuild their lives after separation or divorce. • Thursdays, 7:00–8:30 pm, Room 1335, child care available • Contact Jim Small at 918.697.4220 or divorce-rebuilding@ cox.net

For family members or caregivers of people affected by a mental illness. • Usually meets fourth Thursdays from 1:30–3:00 pm, Parlor • Contact Linda Lytle at 918.298.2707 or lllytle@wildflower.net ASBURY BEAR BAGS

Asbury Bear Bags with coloring books and a scripture-based journal are great for all ages—children and adults. Anyone may deliver an Asbury bear to someone who is grieving. Pick up bags at south security desk.

SPECIAL VOLUNTEERS FOR SPECIAL KIDS!

KINDERGARTEN BLESSING SERVICE

Children who are entering kindergarten this fall and their families are invited to come be a part of this service of affirmation and blessing; reception and activities will follow in the CLC. • August 11, 4:00 pm, Sanctuary and CLC, register by August 3 • For more information contact Stephanie at 918.392.1171 or slong@asburytulsa.org

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4.5 SCAVENGER HUNT

Calling all 4th and 5th graders! We’ll be out and about clue finding and good deed doing! • Friday, August 30, 5:00–9:00 pm, deadline to register August 18 • Cost of $15 includes a t-shirt • For more information, call Jennifer Barnes at 918.392.4582 or jbarnes@asburytulsa.org. ODD SUNDAY – SERVE SEPTEMBER

Sixth graders, after a pizza lunch after church, we will take to the streets serving others and spreading God’s love. Parents can pick up their children at Asbury. • September 8, after church, ending at 3:30 pm, cost is $8 • For information, contact Kim Broadhurst at 918.392.1165 or kbraodhurst@asburytulsa.org WEDNESDAY NIGHT LIVE

Join us for worship in the chapel—kid style! We combine music, Bible lesson and verse memorization in a setting that encourages kids to learn about worship. Our lessons tie into what we are doing on Sunday mornings. • Wednesdays, September 11–November 20, 7:00–8:00 pm, drop off in upstairs children’s wing and pick up in chapel • Ages kindergarten through 5th grade • For information contact: Kindergarten, Stephanie 918.392.1171; 1st and 2nd grade, Shanon 918.392.1170; 3rd–5th grade, Hollie 918.392.1183 PREPARING FOR ADOLESCENCE

This course is designed especially for our 6th graders. We will discuss the topics of inferiority, conformity, puberty, romantic love and identity from a biblical perspective. Our reference book is Preparing for Adolescence by James Dobson. Each week, kids will have class discussion and two nights of discussion at home with parents. • Wednesdays from September 11–November 20, 7:00–8:00 pm, Room 2901 • Cost of $20 includes student and family workbooks • For more information, contact Christina Treat at 918.392.1172 or ctreat@asburytulsa.org MISSION MINDED CLASS

Join us as we embark on an awesome adventure through Asbury’s global missions sites. We will visit a different country each week as we learn about their culture and how we can share the love of Christ with them from right here in Tulsa. • Wednesdays from September 11 through November 20 (no class on October 16), 6:00–6:50 pm, Room 2909 • No cost. For questions contact Cara Phillips at cphillips@ asburytulsa.org or 918.392.1131

UPWARD BASKETBALL AND CHEER

Registration will begin September 1. Watch for more information as the date draws near at www.asburytulsa.org.

DISCIPLESHIP If you have not yet found an Adult Discipleship Community check out “Community Life” on our website, www.asburytulsa.org, or pick up a brochure at one of our welcome centers. • If you are 20s to early 30s, come check out our newest Sunday morning group at 9:15 am in Room 2314, “Transitions,” or “Rooted” for married couples in Room 1507.

HOSPITALITY Are you a friendly person who would be willing to serve on Sunday mornings? We need volunteers to serve as greeters and at the welcome desk. Call the church office at 918.492.1771 to volunteer.

MARRIAGE & FAMILY LAUGH YOUR WAY TO A BETTER MARRIAGE

Mark Gungor’s DVD event provides hilarious, practical and no-holdsbarred advice on developing marriage and male/female relationships. (This isn’t your typical marriage weekend!) Topics include: “A Tale of Two Brains,” “Why Does He/She Do That?” “The #1 Key to Incredible Sex,” and “How to Stay Married and Not Kill Anybody.” No one under 18 due to mature content. Bring your neighbors and family! • Friday, August 9, 6:30–9:15 pm (doors open at 6:00 pm) AND • Saturday, August 10, 9:00 am–12:30 pm (doors open at 8:30 am) • Venue; no child care • FREE tickets Asbury office weekdays and August 4 between services DEVELOPING A MARRIAGE THAT LASTS A LIFETIME

Spend eight Sunday mornings on an adventure with your spouse, taught by various marriage ministry leaders. Opportunity for additional six weeks to train to become a Couple-to-Couple support couple and influence families of the future. • Eight Sundays, August 18–October 13 (no class on September 1), 11:00 am–12:15 pm, Room 2504, deadline to register online and submit payment August 12 • Cost: $45/couple for workbook and online relationship inventory (partial scholarships available) UNITED

Grow together in your marriage to last a lifetime. Learn to: be best friends; celebrate your differences; talk with, not at each other; seek forgiveness without fear. Facilitators are Guy and Tammy Yoes; Ron and Jackie Carter.

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• Thursdays, September 12–November 7, 6:30–8:30 pm, Room 2201, child care available • Register online, cost is $99/couple, and $50 holds your spot, scholarships available • Contact cgiles@asburytulsa.org for more information RAISING GOD-RELIANT CHILDREN IN A SELF-INDULGENT WORLD

This class is for parents who want to better understand and communicate with their kids. It is based on the book by H. Stephen Glenn titled Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World, as well as the concept of What Would Jesus Do As A Parent. You will learn important parenting skills, like avoiding barriers to communication, using natural and logical consequences, and applying the techniques Jesus used to “parent” His disciples. Facilitator is Betty Higgins. • Wednesdays, September 18–October 30 (will not meet October 16), 6:00–8:00 pm, Room 1506, cost $15

MEMBERSHIP

MEN’S FALL GOLF OUTING

Join us for this four-man scramble. You may form your own team or be placed on a team. Net proceeds support Asbury’s Men’s missions. To register, pick up registration form at the security desk and return with payment. • Friday, September 27, with deadline of September 22 • LaFortune Park Golf Course, Shotgun start at 8:30 am • Cost is $60 per person, which includes green fee, cart, range balls and lunch • For questions, contact Donnie at 918.519.4567 or Clay at 918.629.7727 HOME IMPROVEMENT VOLUNTEERS

Please consider joining our Home Improvement Ministry to serve widows and single women of Asbury with minor home repairs and home improvement projects. Commitment is only five Saturdays per year. • Contact Michiel Conner at 918.640.4382 or michiel0930@ sbcglobal.net to volunteer MEN’S PRAYER BREAKFAST

ASBURY EXPLORATION

Are you interested in membership at Asbury or just want to learn more about who we are? Plan to attend Asbury Exploration. After a wonderful lunch, which is provided, you will enjoy time with our Asbury pastors as you learn about the ministries of Asbury, important United Methodist beliefs and how you can get into the mainstream of our life together at Asbury. • Sunday, August 4, 12:15–2:00 pm; lunch provided; Community Life Center (CLC) • Child care available for children 6 weeks to sixth grade • Call 918.392.1191 to register or register online at www.myasburytulsa.org

Make plans to join us for a great time of meaningful worship, lifechanging prayer and an awesome big breakfast. • Wednesdays, 6:30–7:30 am, Community Life Center (CLC) • Cost is $3 per person; first-time guests are free MATURE MEN’S MINISTRY R.O.M.E.O. LUNCHEON

Are you a “Retired Old Man” who wants to “Eat Out” and 60 years old or more? If so, then these luncheons are for you! • Meet every second and fourth Friday, 11:15 am, Village Inn (71st and Memorial) • Contact Bud at bdmathes@cox.net or Jim at robersonjim29@ ymail.com

MEN

MISSIONS/VIM

MEN’S BIBLE STUDY: WHEN THE GAME IS OVER, IT ALL GOES BACK IN THE BOX

Using popular games as a metaphor for our temporal lives, this strategy-filled playbook walks you through what it takes to really win big at the game of life. Facilitators are Greg Ruley and Brock King. • Wednesdays, September 11–November 20, 6:00–8:00 pm, Room 2821, no cost CAR CARE MINISTRY VOLUNTEERS

Come join other volunteers outside the Family Room as they perform basic checkups on the tires, belts, fluids, filters and batteries of vehicles of widows and single women of Asbury. Workdays are every other month, five times a year. Contact Mike Nalley at mnalley16@cox.net. • Saturday, September 14, 9:00 am–noon, will be the next workday

TEAM WORLD VISION / TULSA MARATHON

Asbury and Team World Vision are partnering with The Route 66 Half and Full Marathon on November 24. Get in shape for a purpose and help provide clean water for those in Tanzania. We will train together on Saturday mornings with a run while building friendships and growing spiritually. Casual and non-runners are especially encouraged. Contact Jim Davis at 918.392.1117 or visit teamworldvision.org/goto/Asbury. OJT (OVERCOMING JOB TRANSITIONS)

God created each of us uniquely for a specific purpose—some people are still seeking that. Invite people to OJT on the third Tuesday of each month. • Tuesdays, August 20 and September 17, 6:30–9:00 pm, Room 2319 • Contact Russ Knight at OJTJobs@gmail.com

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2ND SATURDAY

• Tuesdays, 1:30–3:00 pm; Choir Room 2706

VIM 2013 TEAM SCHEDULE

Come learn about God through music as we sing, play instruments and musical games. • Wednesdays, 6:00–6:50 pm • Available for children age 4 (by September 1, 2013) through sixth grade

Join us for 2nd Saturday and choose from different local mission opportunities. Individuals and families of all sizes encouraged. • Saturdays, August 10 and September 14, 8:30 am–12:15 pm, meet at Venue • Contact Betty Higgins at carevets@aol.com for more information

• September 19–30 –– Tanzania, East Africa, Construction • Fall –– Cookson Hills, Oklahoma, Light Construction • October 8–20 –– Central, Asia, Relationship, Teaching, Light Construction • October 12–19 –– Monterrey, Mexico, MBS & Construction • November 6–10 –– Rio Bravo, Mexico, Medical • November 13–17 –– Men’s Rio Bravo, Mexico, Construction Team VIM TEAM LEADER TRAINING

September 7, November 2

For more information about these exciting mission opportunities, contact Marilene Long at 918.392.1164 or mlong@asburytulsa.org. For information about the Men’s Rio Bravo, Mexico opportunities, contact Jim Furman at jnlfurman@cox.net.

MUSIC For more information on any of the music groups, please contact Cynthia Bedford at 918.392.1151 or cbedford@asburytulsa.org. CHANCEL CHOIR AND NEW COVENANT ORCHESTRA

Looking forward to the arrival of our new music director, rehearsal times and beginning date will be published on the Asbury website and in the Sunday bulletins. WORSHIP TEAMS FOR CONTEMPORARY SERVICES

• Worship band, Tuesday evenings (monthly), Venue, auditions required • Worship vocalists, Tuesday evenings (monthly), Venue, auditions required • Please contact Chris Cleveland at ccleveland@asburytulsa.org for more details. ASBURY SINGING AMBASSADORS (WILL RESUME IN SEPTEMBER)

Join us for a great time of fun, fellowship and singing. Ages 55 and over.

CHILDREN’S CHOIRS (WILL RESUME IN SEPTEMBER)

HANDBELL CHOIRS (WILL RESUME IN SEPTEMBER)

• Celebration Ringers (adults) Tuesdays, 4:30–5:30 pm, Room 2506 • Perpetual Light (women), Thursdays, 10:30 am–12:00 pm, Room 2506

PRAYER DEVELOPING A POWERFUL PRAYER LIFE

This course is designed to help participants embrace a biblical pattern for developing a dynamic personal relationship with Christ. Facilitator is Jackie Carter. • Wednesdays, September 11–October 23 (will not meet October 16), 6:00–8:00 pm, Room 1507, cost $10 PRAYER ROOM DAYS AND TIMES

Our prayer rooms are accessible to you at these times: • Mason Chapel and Venue –– Sundays from 7:00 am–12:30 pm, through the interior doors • Main Facility, Mason Chapel and Venue –– Monday–Friday, 8:00 am–9:00 pm –– Saturday, 10:00 am–3:00 pm –– Sunday, 12:30 pm–9:00 pm Call Pam in the adult ministries office at 918.392.4589 to reserve the Prayer Room for your group on a weekly or monthly basis or to obtain door codes.

SENIOR ADULTS MANY OPPORTUNITIES ARE AVAILABLE FOR OUR SENIOR ADULTS:

• Senior Walk in the Gym With Him - Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, 8:30–9:00 am, gym • Senior Sit and Fit Stretching Class - Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 9:00–9:30 am, gym • Senior Adult Meal & Movie - Dates and time vary. For more information or to sign up for the call list, contact Sally Wood, sally77onestick@cox.net • Best Choice Save-a-Label - Can you help? Seniors are collecting Best Choice product labels from canned goods, boxed food, eggs, cheese, etc. Bundle your labels and drop them off at the south desk to the attention of “Tweenagers.”

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Community Life Center (CLC) • Lunch $8.00; no reservations needed

SINGLES ADULT VOLLEYBALL

Do you enjoy playing recreational volleyball, mixed in with a little bit of competitiveness? All skill levels of play are welcome. It’s free, and you do not have to be a member of Asbury. • Every Sunday, 6:00–9:00 pm, gym • Questions? Contact Doug at 918.607.0830 COMMUNITIES

• Sundays, 9:15 am–New Beginnings Class, Transitions (mixed singles/married) • Sundays, 11:00 am–Ambassadors for Christ, Footprints (ladies only), Salt & Light, Christ Centered Singles, Single B.A.S.I.X. • You are always welcome to join any other communities that are not “Singles Only,” as most are a mix of singles and marrieds

STUDENTS 789 SUNDAY MORNINGS

• Sundays, 9:15 am, Junior high room upstairs in the student ministry area • Sundays, 11:00 am, Green Room 10 11 12 SUNDAY MORNINGS

• Sundays, 9:15 am, High School Room

HOME IMPROVEMENT WORKDAY

If you are in need of help for minor home repairs and qualify, just pick up an application at the south desk, fill it out, and return it at least 10 days before the scheduled work day. A volunteer from the H.I. team will contact you and make arrangements to get the job done! • Next workday is Saturday, August 17 CAR CARE MINISTRY

Single women and widows of Asbury, volunteers from the men’s ministry will check your vehicle’s tires, belts, fluids, filters and batteries. They will also vacuum and wash your vehicle, and then update you on what is running smoothly. If your vehicle needs a basic maintenance check-up and you qualify, have your vehicle in line by 11:30 am at the Family Center entrance. • Saturday, September 14, 9:00 am–noon. WOMEN OF THE WORD

Gail Knox will teach on different passages from God’s Word. No cost and no registration. • Every Wednesday 10:00–11:00 am, Room 2818, child care not available • Lunch August 14 and September 11, 11:00 am, Community Life Center (CLC)

WORSHIP SERVE THURSDAY

It’s missions here in our own neighborhood all summer long. • Meet at and return to Venue on Thursday, August 1, from 8:15am–noon; wear closed-toe shoes. BACK TO SCHOOL BASH

Small group kick-off party for incoming 7th–12th graders. Come for live band and ice cream extravaganza! • Sunday, August 25, 5:00–7:00 pm, Venue

• 8:00 am • 9:15 am • 9:15 am • 11:00 am • 11:00 am

Traditional Service in Mason Chapel Contemporary Service in Sanctuary Casual Service in Community Life Center (CLC) Traditional Service in Sanctuary Modern Service in Venue

WOMEN UMW LUNCHEONS FOR AUGUST AND SEPTEMBER

Jim Davis, Asbury’s Director of Global Outreach, will share with us some highlights of recent mission trips and discuss what makes Asbury so committed to global missions in August. In September, Katheryn Pennington and Phyllis Morris, cofounders of Kairos 10 Jewelry International, will speak about their ministry in Africa providing mosquito nets and and how each of us can impact others • Thursdays, August 1 and September 5, 11:30 am-1:00 pm,

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

Deaths • Sue R. Scott died 4/23/2013, sister of Lamyrle (& Clifton) Cox • Jerry Hoover died 4/24/2013, husband of Barbara • Jim Hickman died 4/25/2013, husband of Sally Hickman • Edna Middleton died 4/28/2013, wife of John Middleton, and mother of Michelle Naylor • Delbert Fuhrmann died 5/5/2013, father of Donna Hardway • Delbert Pool died 5/12/2013, husband of Nell Pool

• Kathryn “Kitty” Andrews died 5/26/2013, wife of George Andrews • Bill Ritchie died 6/4/2013, husband of Donna Ritchie • Ann Tolbert died 6/12/2013 • Emma “Maxine” Dempster died 3/18/2013, wife of James Dempster • Don Baumunk died 6/23/2013, father of Doug (& Nancy) Baumunk, Donna (& Steve) Cropper and Lori (& Rob) Fitzgerald

Milestone Anniversaries 65 YEARS • Howard & Vera McCloud • Tom & Elizabeth Diehl

06/15/48 08/21/48

60 YEARS • • • • •

Dick & Nevin Loerke Ron & Pat Thomson Dwayne & Awilda Godsey Bob & Mary Lynn Milam Ross & Ina Vrooman

08/09/53 08/18/53 09/05/53 09/06/53 09/26/53

• Martin & Marilyn Brown • Ed & Cay Anderson • Herb & Mary Sue Whitney

40 YEARS • Phil & Darlene Truman • Ross & Lyla Brown

Charlie & Janet Johnston Charlie & Sue Archambo Vic & Liz Schock Robert & Joy Long

• Nathan & Diane Taylor

Bill & Geneva Tinkler Ken & Janie Bradford Skip & Dyanne Sidner Tom & Bonnie Brinner

06/16/78

30 YEARS 08/25/58 08/30/58 08/31/58 09/20/58

• Scott & Kelly Luttenberg

08/03/63 08/31/63 08/24/63 08/24/63

09/03/83

10 YEARS • Matthew & Robin Bartlett • Don & Karen Johnson

50 YEARS • • • •

08/25/73 09/02/73

35 YEARS

55 YEARS • • • •

08/24/63 09/07/63 06/08/63

MILESTONE WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES

09/06/03 08/30/03

Email your upcoming Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) to Carolyn Schutte at brucars2@cox.net or call 918.451.1559.

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

Ed & Cay Anderson 09/07/63

Ken & Janie Bradford 08/31/63

Tom & Elizabeth Diehl 08/21/48

Charlie & Sue Archambo 08/30/58

Tom & Bonnie Brinner 08/24/63

Dwayne & Awilda Godsey 09/05/53

Martin & Marilyn Brown 08/24/63

Charlie & Janet Johnston 08/25/58

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Dick & Nevin Loerke 08/09/53

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

Howard & Vera McCloud 06/15/48

Robert & Joy Long 09/20/58

Vic & Liz Schock 08/31/58

Ron & Pat Thomson 08/18/53

Bob & Mary Lynn Milam 09/06/53

Skip & Dyanne Sidner 08/24/63

Bill & Geneva Tinkler 08/03/63

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Herb & Mary Sue Whitney 06/08/63

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

New Members

Caroyln Addington

Jeremy & Kelley Bryan with Zoe

Joel & Marie Jackson with Joseph and Brianna

Dave & Jennifer Heinlen with Shelby

Jill & Michael Hairston with Ashley

John King, Sr.

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Grace Banheh

Jim & Billie Randle

Jon & Angela Parris

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENTS

Karen Lowe

Kathy Boen with Jaden

Kirk & Tammy Cleveland with Jennifer

Lynn Douthitt

Marilyn Slayton

Michael & Amanda Harrington with Kate and Jude

Kellie & Steve August with Seth

Linda Gerhold and Andrew Allen

Mike Nossaman

Rebecca Prag with Connor and Cassidy

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Richard & Andrea Reese with Kinley and Cooper

Mollie and Shannon Coleman

Sue Brookover

We would love to have you join us for Asburyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s annual Day of Service on

Sunday, September 29, 2013 from 12:00â&#x20AC;&#x201C;5:00 pm

We will take the church into the Tulsa community by helping with painting, moving furniture, packing care boxes, neighborhood cleanup and much more. We encourage entire families to serve together; you are welcome to invite friends. This is a great opportunity for Asburians to honor Jesus by serving others. Online registration will be available beginning 8/4/13.

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