Mission Team to Camp Gideon, Estonia by Asbury Church

september / october 2014

Mission Team to Camp Gideon, Estonia

ovember 24, 2013, was a very important Sunday in the life of Asbury. On that day Tom told us what he wants to see happen at Asbury over the next several years. He carefully explained why we would be making changes in three major areas: worship, outward focus, and adult discipleship. In my last column, I reported on the successful April 27 debut of our new worship services and schedule. It went even better than expected. In this column I’ll talk about outward focus. We appreciate the challenge in communicating and understanding what is meant by outward focus. It will take time for all of us to get the full meaning intended. It will take even longer for it to become a natural part of our thinking and of everything we do. I will attempt to contribute to the explanation. It is an attitude and perspective, not a ministry program. A common confusion is to equate outward focus with our local and global outreach ministries. That is not the desired understanding. Those ministries are expressions of outward focus. Likewise, our new guest services ministry is a very direct expression of our desire for outward focus. But it is not the definition. Outward focus implies that we, as the church, should pay attention to those not part of our congregation. Of course, that is a critical aspect. But if we stop there, we have an incomplete picture—one that I believe actually contributes to some misunderstanding. The most fundamental and important foundation for outward focus begins with our personal attitude and perspective. It involves reducing focus on I, me, and mine and increasing focus on the needs and desires and welfare of others whether inside the church or outside. Here are some examples that I hope are helpful. It is not my parking space; perhaps someone else could be better served if I park in a different location. It is not my seat in the sanctuary; I am simply happy to see others present. It is not my community room; it belongs to the church and must be useful and attractive for many other groups. It is not my personal preferences that are most important in worship services; I want everyone to find the service meaningful. It is not my schedule that is most important; perhaps someone else needs special consideration. It is not my taste in aesthetics that shapes the look and feel of the facility; I want it to appeal to a wide group and to communicate the essence of Asbury. When we catch ourselves thinking in terms of I and me, when we sense impatience or annoyance, these may be signaling the opportunity for an outward focus response consistent with Philippians 2:3 “…Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” It is this perspective that all of us desire for the development of all generations and for individuals who are part of Asbury or not. Outward focus comes out of who we are and will impact our response within Asbury as well as our response to those who are outside our congregation, those with whom we live, work and socialize. We are thankful for all who support Asbury in so many ways. We also want to hear your feedback. You can email us at asburyinfo@asburytulsa.org . Dwight Yoder Executive Director

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Contents A Word From Tom Harrison Upcoming Sermon Series Time for Marriage Enrichment? Sharing Love. It Matters. What Would You Say or Do? Permit the Children To Come Stand in the Gap for Widows A Ligament in the Body of Christ A Very Full, Very Blessed First Year Changing Lives Through Missions Dreaming of Something…Big Train Up a Child Kindergarten Blessing Service Why Not Wednesday Grandpa John RoadMap Fall 2014 Opportunities Special Announcements

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We need you! Do you have a story of what God has done in your life? Please contact us and tell us a little bit about what God has done. We will all be encouraged by hearing stories of what God is doing in the lives of those around us. Are you a writer or someone who enjoys writing? The Communications Department is always looking for someone to do an interview and write a story for us for Tidings. Have you noticed that we’ve been making some changes in Tidings? Please give us your feedback—both good and bad. Email kmains@asburytulsa.org or call 918.392.1140. Asbury Tidings is a bi-monthly publication designed to tell stories of lives being transformed by the power of Jesus Christ. You may read back issues by visiting www.asburytulsa.org. Editor: Asbury Communications Department, 918.392.1140, kmains@asburytulsa.org Graphic Design: Tim Jurgensen, tjurgensen@asburytulsa.org Photographers: Mark Moore (mark moore.photo.net), Ryan Farran (ryanfarranphotography.com), Sarah Adams (yellowchairphotography.com) Guest Contributors: Chris Barricks, Claudia Cobbs, Charlene Giles, Marilyn Glass, Russ Knight, Katelyn Moore, Melissa Phenicie, Lisa Thomas, John Westervelt

PA S TO R TO M

A Word From Tom Harrison

ne of my favorite things about being in our present location is our opportunity to expand and to grow. Something new will come our way in the next few months which I wanted to share with you. On our church’s east side is the “Francis Asbury (on horseback)" statue. More Americans had met Asbury than any other American alive in the late 1700s and early 1800s. He wasn’t the best preacher, visionary, organizer or leader —but there’s one thing he did—he showed up. That’s why he’s on horseback. This statue was given by the Bob and Hilda Bynum family while we were at our Sheridan location.

these and other Wesley words will surround our new statue. They link our past with our present and our future.

John Wesley founded the Methodist movement. While he always remained an Anglican (“Church of England”) priest, he wanted Methodism to be a special aspect of highly committed Anglicans (and beyond). He did not want Methodism to become a breakaway denomination from the Anglican Church. But Francis Asbury, whom Wesley had sent to America, notified John that the Americans had to have a new identity after the Revolutionary War. With the greatest reluctance (and fierce opposition from John’s little brother, Charles), the Methodist Episcopal Church was formed.

1. “I felt my heart strangely warmed…” (describes his conversion experience) 2. “The world is my parish.” (a “parish” was a way of describing an Anglican’s congregation—so Wesley was saying he wouldn’t be confined by a geographic barrier) 3. “In souls filled with love, the desire to please God is a continual prayer.” 4. “If your heart is as my heart, lend me your hand.” (Christian unity/fellowship) 5. “I am a man of one book.” (the Bible) 6. “Gain all you can, save all you can, give all you can.” (stewardship) 7. “We are always open to instruction, willing to be wiser every day than we were before, and to change whatever we can change for the better.” (growth in grace) 8. “Do all the good you can.” (ministry, service) 9. "The Best of All…God is with us." (eternal perspective)

I love reading history and biography books. We learn so much from those who have gone before us. Here are some of Wesley’s famous words. They are words to ponder and apply. I hope that

Dr. Tom Harrison Senior Pastor

In the next few months, a second statue will be erected (exact location to be decided). This will be of John Wesley. The new statue is being given from two sources—the Sam J. and Nona M. Rhoades Foundation and from your gifts given to honor Dana and me in observance of our 20th year of ministry with you at Asbury. (Thus, no budgetary funds will be spent.)

Asbury Theological Seminary has started a very special award to honor, called the Asbury Ambassador Award, those alumni and friends of Asbury who go above and beyond. This award will only be given once every three to five years for exceptional individuals, and our own Pastor Tom is our inaugural member for this award. The Seminary described him as “the kind of person that you have to create a new category for because the ones that exist just don't capture the magnitude of the person and their exceptional service.” Pastor Tom’s name will be on the wall plaque, housed in the administration building. A small bronze statue, now housed in Pastor Tom’s office, bears this inscription: Asbury Theological Seminary is proud to present Rev. Dr. Tom Harrison with the Asbury Alumni Ambassador Award for 2014 In honor of extraordinary service in promoting the missional growth of Asbury Theological Seminary and exemplary representation of the alumni community

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Upcoming sermon series Begins September 7 A sense of purpose and meaning in life increase well-being, satisfaction, mental and physical health and self-esteem. When we see how our days months and years add up to create a life and legacy, we can focus on what is most important in our service to God.

Begins October 5 What does the word “grace” bring to mind? Chances are you know somebody with a sweet Grandma named Grace. You may think of the short prayer your family says before a meal. Or maybe you start humming that famous hymn. But what is grace, really? And what does it have to do with me, my kids or my neighbor? When it comes to grace, most of us are a little fuzzy on the details. During this series we’ll put grace in focus as we learn to clearly recognize the many ways God’s grace is at work in our lives.

Begins November 9 Do more. Be more. Have more. The culture is always telling us we’re not enough and often times, we agree. It seems no matter how hard we strive—personal satisfaction is always just beyond our reach. Or is it? Maybe, just maybe, the culture’s mantra of: do more, be more, and have more is simply overdone. Maybe what we really need is a new perspective.

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CARE AND MARRIAGE

Time for Marriage Enrichment? By Lisa Thomas

arried? Check. Work? Check. Kids? Check. Coordinating busy schedules? Check.

Marriage enrichment? Hmmmmm. It’s hard to make time for marriage enrichment. And let’s be honest, sometimes it’s hard to finish a simple conversation with your spouse. Jeff and I understand. We have been married for 11 years, and have three children—ages 8, 5 and 3. We figured out early in our marriage that we did not have all the answers, so it made sense to prioritize growing as a couple.

have been blessed and mentored by other couples and individuals who have stepped up to lead these events and classes. Now we are looking forward to hosting a new series offered by Asbury’s Marriage Ministry this fall called MarriedPeople. Whether you are recently married or have been for several years we hope you will join us. No matter whether you are new to Asbury or have been here a long time (like us!), you are welcome. Join us for MarriedPeople this fall as a way to stay connected with your spouse. You’ll also make some new friends as you discuss these timely topics at roundtables. God has great plans for you and for your marriage.

Jeff and I were raised in loving homes by parents in long-lasting marriages and attended church from a young age. We were given a solid foundation, one that we don’t take for granted. We met at Asbury in a community for singles and married couples. Several married couples mentored us through our engagement and the “honeymoon” phase of our marriage. Marriage seemed simple in the beginning. Work? Check. House and yard work? Check. Friends and family? Check. Vacation? Check. Disagreements… Wait, you don’t want to do it my way? I’m supposed to do all of the laundry? Yes, Monday night football happens EVERY Monday! We learned about resolving conflict early on. We disagreed and talked through it. (I’ll admit—Jeff is a much better communicator than I am.) We learned each other’s love languages (from Gary Chapman’s work) and began paying attention to how to we give and receive love. To this day, our love languages come up as part of any major conversation we have about communication and expectations. After three years of marriage, we had our first child. We were in survival mode for several years. Taking care of young children began to replace taking care of each other. We eagerly took classes offered by Asbury’s marriage ministry to learn about God’s way for marriage. We attended a weekend marriage retreat when our first-born was 13 months old. It was a breath of fresh air. We connected with so many couples at Asbury whom we may have never met otherwise. We talked about important topics like communication, trust, finances, spiritual growth and intimacy in a safe environment. For the past several years, our home calendar has been planned around Asbury Date Nights (second Thursday of most months, check the Asbury website!) We have also participated in The Art of Marriage weekend at Asbury. We

HERE ARE THE DETAILS OF MARRIEDPEOPLE • Tuesdays, September 16–October 14, 6:30–8:00 in the Family Room • No cost • Register online, including child care needs • Each class is stand-alone; come to one or all September 16: Love is a Verb (video by Andy Stanley) September 23: Great Expectations with Kim Beair, MS, LPC, NCC September 30: Trust VS Suspicion with Jeff Rindt, MA, LPC October 7: Social Media and Your Marriage with Brittain Keifer, MA, LMFT October 14: Kids and Marriage with Betty and Mark Higgins

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Sharing Love. It Matters. By Claudia Cobbs, a Stephen Minister

“I never felt more loved than while I was undergoing treatment for breast cancer.” Does that sound surprising? It surprised me. You see, I was reared in a home where we were somewhat reserved with expressing love. I was one of four children, and we grew up in a household where secrets were the norm. There were problems that were never discussed openly. I never felt comfortable expressing feelings toward my family because I was afraid of not being loved. I acted differently around different people to try to be loved. I worried that if my family never expressed love either verbally or physically, how would they react to a hug or a kiss or any other expression of love? As a matter of fact, the first time I ever even kissed my brother was at my wedding. Yet, I know that we love each other very much. When I was diagnosed in 2007 with breast cancer, I was, naturally, petrified. I had received mammograms every year. I had seen my OB/GYN every year. Yet, the doctors were telling me it had been there 5-10 years. I have never felt more scared or alone than I did at the time. Where could I turn? My husband and children tried to provide the support I needed. The problem was that I was unable to accept this support because I felt unworthy. Once again, I was afraid to be vulnerable with my family. I felt completely alone. For some reason, maybe it was God calling me, I went back to my Methodist roots and telephoned Asbury. I had to reach out to something! This was one of the best things that ever happened to me. A minister prayed with me. And, I was assigned a Stephen Minister. After that phone call, I fell to the ground, sobbing, and asked Jesus to take over. This was one time I KNEW I couldn’t handle this alone. And He was there! I became very withdrawn. As a matter of fact, my Stephen Minister only met personally with me once (my choice); yet, she always knew when I needed a card, a call, some recognition that I mattered. What she never knew was that she changed my life. I felt God’s love wrap me in warmth and love unlike anything I had ever felt before. Friends I thought were only acquaintances

sent cards, stopped by for lunch and called. I reconnected with childhood friends who made trips with me to MD Anderson when family couldn’t accompany me. It was during my cancer that I felt more loved than ever before! I felt God’s presence with me every step of the way. I allowed myself to feel the love others had been trying to show me. Cards and flowers filled the house. I actually felt LOVABLE—more than I have my entire life. Jesus carried me all the way through, and without His love, I would have fallen apart. It was life-changing! My double mastectomy was in October of 2007, and I have been cancer-free ever since. Now I know that my cancer was a blessing in disguise! I believe God sent me to Asbury and specifically into Stephen Ministry. I now know I am capable of being loved and accepted just as I am. If I am good enough for God, I am good enough. The saying “God doesn’t make junk” sticks with me a lot. I want everyone to experience that love—either through me or by my helping them. My promise to God was to bring that to someone else. I AM worthy. I am God’s child, and I know now He will NEVER leave me nor forsake me. My wish is that everyone can experience the warmth and the love that is the Holy Spirit. God loves us unconditionally, and He only wants the best for us. His love is never failing. I am now a Stephen Minister. Perhaps the biggest surprise to me is how much more I feel blessed than I think I am helping my care receiver. God uses the least of us for his glorification. I feel humbled that through Stephen Ministry, God has allowed me to use my experience to make a difference in someone else’s life, while at the same time, healing my wounds and helping me to become a better person. And I think that is God’s plan.

Stephen Ministry training begins in January. Contact Charlene at cgiles@asburytulsa.org or 918.392.1145 now to arrange an interview.

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What Would You Say or Do? By Charlene Giles

uppose you were talking to a good friend on the phone, or sitting beside your child on the couch watching TV, or fishing with your brother, when you heard something like this: • “Sometimes life just doesn’t seem to be worth the effort anymore.” Or, • “When I go to sleep at night I wish I wouldn’t wake up in the morning.” Or, • “If my wife won’t agree to give me one more chance, I’m just going to end it all.” What would you say? What would you do? It is an honor when someone trusts us enough to honestly let us know they are having these sorts of desperate thoughts and feelings. And there can be a big step between despairing thoughts and suicidal actions. Yet it can feel scary and overwhelming to consider the importance of our next steps. What is the best way to respond? We may mistakenly believe that there is nothing we can do or we may be so frightened of the possibility of suicide that we deny or minimize what we have just heard, missing an opportunity to encourage hope and life. In 2011 (the most recent information available from Centers for Disease Control) there were 39,518 suicides reported in the U.S. That means that in 2011, someone in the country died by suicide every 13.3 minutes. Of those people, 78.5 percent were male, with the fastest growing at risk population being men ages 45-64. Sadly, no age group is immune. Even among Christians, including loyal Asbury friends and members, too many have died at their own hands leaving trauma, grief and anger in their wake.

Just as CPR training instructs up how to respond to a heart attack, so QPR training teaches how to respond to a person in despair. Though some people who decide to harm themselves act impulsively, giving no warning whatsoever, others do give behavioral and verbal signals of their intentions. By attending QPR training on Thursday evening, September 4, you can discover what QPR stands for and how to help. We never know when we will have an opportunity to possibly save a life. Isn’t it worth two hours to learn how to respond in a truly helpful way? Everyone over 16 can benefit from this training—friends, family members, coworkers, teachers, youth leaders—everyone. I hope to see you there.

What: QPR Training When: Thursday, September 4, 6:30–8:30 pm in the Family Room Instructor: Tim Reside, MA, MHC, President of Bright Tomorrows No cost: Child care vouchers available at the meeting; no onsite child care Call 918.392.1191 for information. Sponsored by Asbury Stephen Ministry

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Permit the Children To Come By Marilyn Glass

They stream into Southern Hills United Methodist Church every weekday morning. They seek out friends, line up for breakfast, gobble down their food, and dash off to report to a summer intern for further direction. Thus begins an average day in the Project Transformation program, a federally funded summer project with the goal of helping underprivileged elementary students. Project Transformation is a product of President George H.W. Bush and his 1,000 Points of Light initiative, established in 1989. Encouraging neighbors to help neighbors, the president, in his inaugural speech, called for benevolent and faith-based programs to lead the way in service. The program came to Tulsa in 2004. Student literacy is its primary focus. During the two-month summer camp, participating local churches provide adult volunteers who have one-on-one reading time with a child. As the student reads aloud, the “adult helper” encourages greater proficiency by helping the young reader sound out words and understand word definitions. When Jesus said, “Permit the children to come to Me,” He surely must have been thinking of children such as these. They’re in the program to improve reading skills, but the untold story is probably just as significant in a child’s life. The untold story tells of poverty, pain and fear. Without Project Transformation, the family with several children would have very little or perhaps nothing to eat. There would certainly not be breakfast, lunch and snacks made available, as is the case with these campers.

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Nor would there be a safe place for the young boy who spends the entire day alone inside four walls because, fearing for his safety, he rarely goes outside. The cute pre-teen girl who confides to an adult that she is the victim of bullying and physical attacks at school would likely have nobody to comfort her and pray for her. As a volunteer noted, this is a mission field, and the harvest is ready. Asbury has embraced the mission, proudly supported, and participated in Project Transformation for several years. Joanne Stadler, program coordinator, articulates the goal: By providing a safe environment with gentle instruction while building self-esteem, we are able to enhance the academic success of underserved, at risk, elementary-aged children. We are blessed to have this opportunity to demonstrate the love and compassion of Jesus while we serve “the least of these.” Joanne reports that again this year, Asbury members have been generous—with their time, their encouragement and their love. In the Project Transformation camp recently concluded, 73 children were served and more than 700 hours of loving attention were showered on the campers by Asbury volunteers. They served in a variety of ways. Besides assisting the children with their reading, there were also opportunities to help with arts and crafts, computer lab, math and science. Additionally, meals were supplied; baked goods and snack items were provided daily for 75 children over a seven day period; and many hugs, smiles, words of affirmation, and high fives were given. Financial donations were also made by generous supporters. A total of 146 volunteers combined their talents, efforts and dedication to help Project Transformation accomplish its goal.

show make the experience fun, as well as instructional. As a camper remarked, “We like to come here.” Mike Skaistis, a community coordinator volunteer, also likes being part of the project. Mr. Mike, as he is affectionately known, is exuberant and passionate about the program. He explains that a former church member’s love and devotion for the children was infectious. “She spearheaded the effort at Southern Hills and just reached out with what Christ had put into her heart. When she died, I just felt compelled to step in and fill the void.” A veteran of approximately five years with Project Transformation, Mr. Mike says that he fully appreciates that the camp is possible because of a united effort. “It truly is a community partnership between Project Transformation, the churches and Tulsa Public Schools,” he emphasizes. “But the very core of this outreach are the volunteers.” He points out that a broad cross-section of the community has helped—from the teen preparing to enter high school to the retiree to Tulsa’s compassionate First Lady Victoria Bartlett, wife of our mayor. A volunteer observes, “I’m not sure who was transformed with joy and satisfaction more today—us or the campers.” And Joanne, who tirelessly serves and gives, reminds us of this truth. “Our Lord, when He was on this Earth, said that the kingdom of God belongs to the children. We are told that He took them in His arms and blessed them. What a wonderful privilege to be His hands and feet to the children placed in our care. May we be found faithful...as the children come.”

Jill Hoffman, site coordinator at Southern Hills, relates some impressive results. State Department of Education statistics released this past May show that one-third of the third graders in Tulsa Public Schools scored “unsatisfactory” on the state reading assessment. But 100 percent of those third graders who attended the Southern Hills reading camp last year passed the test. (Four students could not be reached to determine the outcome.) “Several of them I know wouldn’t have passed” without Project Transformation, Jill asserts. A highlight of the “curriculum” is the outside recreation. Program coordinators are careful to schedule play into the busy schedule. Afternoons are filled with field trips. There are trips to the zoo, the aquarium, a bouncy fun zone, a home improvement store and much more. Swimming, bowling, games and a talent

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mindset and prayer as God laid it on my heart to speak with Pastor Tom about starting a widow’s ministry at Asbury. I am not a widow. I have not experienced the depth of grief, pain and loneliness felt by a widow, but I have witnessed those I love walk the path of widowhood and knew I needed to help widows. It was in my meeting with Tom that I experienced my own “God Sighting.” I really didn’t know what to say or how to “convince” Tom we needed a widow’s ministry. I just began rambling on and on as Tom sat there in silence. I have never known him to be at a loss for words, so I assumed he was lovingly humoring me. He patiently waited for me to finish then shared with me that I was sitting in the very spot where his dear friend always sat when he was in Tom’s office, his dear friend who has now gone to be with the Lord. He continued by telling me that he had been praying that God would show him a way to help his friend’s widow and other widows. Our meeting was an answer to prayer and our very own “God Sighting.”

Stand in the Gap for Widows

I have watched in awe as God has guided each step of this ministry and placed His people on every path to make Asbury’s Stand in the Gap widow ministry a reality. Stand in the Gap is not new to Asbury. Asbury has supported their ministry based on utilizing small groups focused on helping neighbors rise above overwhelming life challenges through a loving spiritual family experience. A spiritual family for widows is comprised of four to six widows meeting together on a regular basis to provide a loving community that creates the necessary, safe and healthy environment to allow God to bring about the changes He desires. Unlike other Stand in the Gap families, a widow’s spiritual family is comprised only of widows. Miriam Neff, an author of several books focused on helping widows, says, “No one can comfort a widow like another widow. When we see another woman enter this experience…we want to comfort her. While the need for practical help is common, the need for connections is perhaps more pressing. We need believing friends near us.”

“God Sighting” is a term proclaimed often at Stand in the Gap Ministries. A “God Sighting” is witnessing God working in the lives of others.

Our precious widows have shared that the insights and experiences of their friends in their spiritual family have been invaluable. If they had shared certain feelings with anyone else who had not experienced those same feelings, they would not have had the same perspective. There are feelings that you do not talk about with just anyone. When they are talking to each other, it doesn’t matter what step in grief they are on because either someone else had been through it, or they have a word for you. Everyone walks this path differently; their spiritual family meeting is a place where they can be real. They can rely on each other for wise advice and encouragement. Every time they are together, they come away refreshed which strengthens their faith. God encourages them through each other.

One of my favorite books is Being a Vessel God Can Use by Donna Partow. Her book taught me that even though I am imperfect and unqualified, God can work through me. It is by His strength, not mine, that His work will be accomplished. This was my

When a widow’s spiritual family meets, they invite the Holy Spirit to lead them. The transformation of everyone in the group is dependent on the presence of God. They review their prayer journal and share any requests or “God Sighting” since their previous meeting. The group then presents where each member

By Melissa Phenicie

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needs to see God move in her life. The group will have a healthy family discussion regarding the issues presented. They then pray and wait for God to work. When a widow speaks to me about joining a group, two common themes always come up in our conversation. One is that “no one will understand my situation. My experience is so different than anyone else’s.” Once in a group, these wonderful women realize that their path to widowhood may be different but the experiences concerning their emotions, family, friends and new reality are similar, and they are able to help and encourage each other.

A spiritual family for widows creates the necessary, safe and healthy environment to allow God to bring about the changes He desires.

The other theme is loneliness. The visits, calls and cards stop. They don’t want to be a burden, so they don’t ask for help. Research indicates that support to a widow drops off significantly after a few months, but her grief, pain and sadness linger much longer. They feel that after a few months, most people have forgotten or moved on. Stand in the Gap’s widow helpers program is designed to empower the church to systematically support widows though personal phone calls, anniversary cards, birthday cards, practical help with home and car issues, group get-togethers and more. James 1:27 tell us that “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress.” Widowhood can happen to any woman at any age, and the need for fellowship with other widows doesn’t stop at one year, five years, 10 years or even 20 years into widowhood. Asbury has widows of all ages and stages that are experiencing that being part of a spiritual family is a blessing. Widows know that when it comes to grieving, one size does not fit all, there is not a time limit for grieving, they will never “get over it,” and there is no longer a “normal” for them. If you are a widow and desire to learn more about joining an Asbury’s Stand in the Gap Spiritual Family for Widows or if you have a heart for widows and wish to learn more about becoming a widow helper, please contact Melissa Phenicie at Melissa4141@cox.net or 918.640.7573. Please like our Facebook page at Stand in the Gap Ministries for Widows. To learn more about the Stand in the Gap for Widows program, please visit www.sitgm.org/widows .

My dad died in 1986. He was 57 years old. His death obviously left a big hole in my life. I can certainly relate to people who grieve. However, my grief was far less than what was experienced by my mom. She was 54 years old. She’d gone from her parents’ home to being married so this was the first time she’d ever been alone in her life. It was difficult for her. Since then, I’ve encountered other widows who grieve the loss of their husband. Not only have they lost their spouse but there are many other changes which happen at this time. Others who don’t share that experience often don’t understand the language of grief. They can’t understand why the person hasn’t gotten over it in a couple of months. The friendship circle changes. Two couples who used to be friends are now one couple and one single. They are still friends, but it’s different. Everything is different. Steve was in my Tuesday morning group. Steve and I were both born in 1954. After being with him in a small group for a number of years, we finally discovered we’d actually played Little League baseball against each other when we were kids. Our dads both coached our teams, too. Steve got to go be with Jesus before the rest of us. Our group rejoices in his gain, but we still grieve his loss. But our grief pales in comparison with that of his widow. I think of Steve often; and always on Tuesday morning as his regular seat in my office is empty. I grieve for his wife, too. She misses him all the time. When Melissa Phenicie told me of what she felt the Lord was laying on her heart, I immediately knew it was something which could be incredibly beneficial to us. (That she sat in the very seat where Steve had sat was an interesting twist, too.) I felt that it could not only help us connect widows in Asbury who were sharing some of the same struggles but it could also be an opportunity to reach out to other widows in our community, too. This fellowship will help people bond who speak the same grief language and have similar needs. I’m so grateful that Melissa was one who stepped forward and responded in this way. If you or someone you know is interested in this fellowship, please let us know. We’ll help get you (or your family member or friend) connected. –Pastor Tom “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” – James 1:27

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The weekly Thursday meetings started slowly, but word quickly spread. At the first meetings, attendees gathered around just a couple of tables. Gip invited me as a struggling jobseeker where I was blessed beyond measure; I needed the help! After I found employment, they invited me to stay and help, and I’ve been one of the out-front leaders ever since. In the fall of 2009, we started OJT here at Asbury as an offshoot of what began at FUMC. This is a monthly workshop that meets on the third Tuesday of every month from 6:30–9:00 pm. We have breakout sessions about resumes, networking, LinkedIn, interviewing and sometimes more. The mission is the same: Offer help and hope to job seekers. OJT has seen Harvard MBAs and engineers, accountants and seamstresses, truck drivers and sales people. Weekly attendance has varied between just a few to more than 70 job seekers. Lately, attendance has been averaging about 30 people each week. Since early 2009, we have met for 276 weekly events at First Methodist, 60 monthly workshops at Asbury through August 2014, and touched thousands of people.

Bill Johnson

A Ligament in the Body of Christ By Russ Knight

Several years ago, Pastor Tom spoke about the Body of Christ. Who would ever want to be a ligament in the Body of Christ? A ligament is essential; it makes things happen; it allows movement; but doesn’t get a lot of attention unless it stops working properly. Bill Johnson is a ligament in the Body of Christ. In early 2009, an “errant” email came to Bill discussing the formation of a new ministry effort at First Methodist (FUMC) led by Berry Miller and Gip Gibson. They were recruiting a team to offer help and hope for jobseekers. Bill Johnson responded to the need and joined the effort at First Methodist, then creating Overcoming Job Transitions (OJT) at Asbury.

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These ministries are made possible with an incredible team of faithful volunteers from FUMC, Asbury, Faith UMC, River Oaks Presbyterian and several other churches, as well as supporters, friends and alumni (people who have been through this) who send us more candidates and support. At the end of the year, Asbury will bid farewell to our long-time members, Bill and Jodi Johnson, as they move to Georgia to be close to children/grandchildren. Over the past five-plus years, Bill has consistently functioned as a ligament of Christ, showing compassion for people in transition, learning their stories, sharing his story and offering real help and hope. A ligament is essential in the body’s movement, and Bill’s contribution has been essential in the functioning of this ministry. When you take an ACL out of a knee, it stops working; so to replace a ligament like Bill Johnson, we need significant help. The volunteers who make the job search ministries at Asbury and FUMC possible give two to more than 10 hours some weeks. Each volunteer fills a different, loosely defined role. The only requirements are compassion for people in transition (often due to experience). We need people with the gifts of administration, leadership, hospitality and more. OJT operates solely through volunteers, many of whom are balancing professional careers. However, as Bill has demonstrated, this opportunity to offer real help and true hope to job-seekers at their moment of need is a deeply rewarding way to fulfill our call to be ligaments in the Body of Christ. For more information on how you can be a part, please contact Russ Knight at OJTjobs@gmail.com or 918.640.6148.

A Very Full, Very Blessed First Year By Chris Barricks

It’s been a great, very full year since Sean Groombridge joined the Asbury staff as director of traditional music. While the first 12 months in a new position can seem a blur for most anyone, they have been especially fast for Sean. It has been a time of transitions for Asbury, and there are many reasons to look back, with gratitude, for God’s blessings. “When we arrived in Tulsa, I knew I would be leading the traditional side of the ministry: Chapel, the Sanctuary service and, by extension, some of the other musical ministry areas,” he recalls. “Shortly into the fall, we launched into the implementation of several years’ worth of planning for Asbury’s future. Our five services would streamline into two services and the Chapel service. That was a significant shift.

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“The ministry teams,” he remembers, “went through several months of some uncertainty in the Sanctuary, within our rehearsals and Sunday morning structure, before moving into our new service dynamic in late April. Our service times shifted, so that brought some realignment in the way families would manage Sunday morning … the way they would fit into their communities after worship service … and how we would accomplish our preparation for services.” It was a strategic, reasoned process, yet it presented an additional layer of complexity for the entire church staff. He’s quick to point out that the changes were all carefully prayed through and deliberated and, as a result, were better for the church. “There could have been a lot of grumbling or confusion, but the process has gone remarkably well because of the generosity of spirit given by the members, staff and volunteers at Asbury. I’m very thankful for how supportive and genuinely positive the music teams were through this whole transition. The goodnatured collaboration with my colleagues, with caring leadership from Jim Lenderman and Dwight Yoder throughout the process, stands out in my memory. Tom’s warm welcome to us and weekly support of us is so evident. We applaud the many truly talented,

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dedicated individuals who keep us moving ahead like a welloiled machine—volunteers and staff alike. Our staff members have shouldered their responsibilities beautifully, and I thank them for getting through year one!” The ministry celebrated Cynthia Bedford’s retirement with a wonderful evening honoring her years of major contributions to the ministry. They were able to bless two graduating orchestra members with scholarships to help further their education. In addition, they were invited to Carnegie Hall to perform as part of the 20th Anniversary of the work Saviour. About 70 members will be representing Asbury this October in New York City!

We hope that people will say, “Wow, there is something really alive by the power of God there that is transforming people.”

Of course, the holidays were also highlights for the music ministry. Christmas, Palm Sunday and Easter were exciting, with nine decades of Asbury congregants represented in the children’s choirs, Chancel Choir, Singing Ambassadors, participants from the handbell choirs, and New Covenant Orchestra. “Between the children and most seasoned members on the platform,” Sean reports, “we had an age span of more than 90 years involved in leading worship. It was a rare privilege to combine our lives and expressions of one faith and praise. “Later in the year, our Independence Day concert was thrilling for us to put together. We also formed executive cabinets for the Chancel Choir and New Covenant Orchestra, and through the generosity of several members, saw the chancel chairs recovered, and new robes made to update our attire. “One of the most significant aspects of being involved in a large, team-based ministry like ours is the intergenerational cross-pollination. We have built into our ensembles mentoring relationships, combining professional musicians to amateur or hobby musicians and students who are learning. They’re all interacting … so they’re sharing more than music. They’re sharing their faith. They’re sharing wisdom, sharing life. That is an essential part of what is happening throughout the music ministry that we don’t have to force. “I was blessed with godly counsel when I was quite young, that I rely on today.” Sean reveals. “I was mentored by people a couple of generations older than myself, and I am very grateful for that.” Sean hopes more people will be able to experience that fellowship by joining the ministry. He urges anyone considering involvement

musically to pick up the phone or meet us at the end of a service and express your interest to find out more. “We have plenty of room and an enormous desire to engage as many people in our ministry as possible,” he says. “Of course, one of the difficulties with a church as large as Asbury can be people’s perception that they aren’t good enough to get involved in some ministry, or that the church already has all the resources we need. However, it’s about how can we unite our gifts and talents and all simply do our part. Then, with discipline and spiritual focus, we pray God makes that alive for all those who come to worship or to whom we minister in the community. We hope that people will say, ‘Wow, there is something really alive by the power of God there that is transforming people.’ Not because of the impressive building or the excellent music, but because the spirit of God is working through the people of Asbury.” It’s an exciting and vibrant vision. Most importantly, it’s not just for those called to the music ministry. Worship is an offering from all of us. “Let’s have a shift in thinking,” he encourages, “that moves us from enjoyment to more active engagement in worship where, as words are sung or spoken and prayers are prayed, we are affirming them in our own minds and spirits. Rather than allowing ‘it’ to happen outside of ourselves, I pray that everyone at Asbury internalizes every act of worship. When we do that, we’ll sense that God is in dialogue with us. Let’s have that, rather than perform, or watch others ‘perform.’ Let’s encourage one another. When we meet each week, as God teaches us, and we are renewed in worship, our church body will truly become ‘one.’”

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GLOBAL OUTREACH

know it deep down, but when you see it for yourself, in person, it just resonates.” Angie’s experience opened her eyes to deeper, more spiritual truths as well. Camp Gideon, where the Asbury group goes to minister each year, draws students from Finland, Russia, Ukraine, Estonia and other countries in the region. They gather to strengthen their faith and worship with other believers. Many are surrounded by atheists, with no Christian support other than this one week, once per year.

Changing Lives Through Missions A Mother and Daughter in Estonia at Camp Gideon by Chris Barricks

ince the mid 1990s, mission-minded members of Asbury United Methodist Church have travelled 5,000-plus miles from Tulsa International Airport to Kohtla-Järve, Estonia. This year, Angie Brashears and her 17-year-old daughter, Alyssa, joined the group to attend Camp Gideon. They went to build relationships, to spread God’s love and to help change lives. And while they accomplished all this, the lives that changed most were their own.

“I met an 18-year-old girl from Tallinin, Estonia, and she had the sweetest spirit and smile,” said Angie. “She had a hard time speaking English but shared with me that her 3-year-old brother had cancer, and she wanted to show me a picture of him. He was so cute, smiling in his picture. He had lost all of his hair, and she asked me to please pray for him. She told me both her parents are atheists and she is Christian, and she attends the Methodist church every Sunday by herself. Because of the relationship I made with this girl, I was completely touched that she would share this about her brother. The youth pastors at her church didn’t even know. I promised her I would pray for her, her brother and her parents. “The night before we left, a Ukranian teen we were ministering to broke down in tears. She sobbed in my arms, afraid for the future of her family. The next night her family of 14 was leaving the violence and uncertainty of Ukraine for a new life in Finland. She had no idea what they would find. She begged us to pray for her family’s safety, and they would be able to make a living in Finland.”

“This was our first missions trip,” Angie shares. “And while I’d always heard that missions really impacted those going as much as it did those they were ministering to, I don’t know that I really understood what that meant.” To begin with, Angie and Alyssa both gained a new perspective. “First world problems,” a phrase Alyssa used to refer to jokingly, suddenly had real meaning. Students from the camp don’t eat out like Americans do, and they don’t have as many clothes. In fact, it is very normal to see them wear something for a couple of days. One Estonian student asked Alyssa if Americans ate hamburgers every day for every meal. She laughed and said no, but that is the perception they have of us. Most of them have gardens where they get their fruits and vegetables daily. “There’s nothing like a mission trip to open your eyes to how truly blessed each and every one of us is,” Angie says. “We all

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Angie with two campers

Alyssa also added, “I have made such strong friendships with so many of the students at the camp that I am definitely planning to go next summer before I head to college. Camp Gideon and Estonia stole my heart, and I loved every minute of my mission trip, except the food,” Alyssa jokes. Angie and Alyssa were blessed to be a part of the team that helped these young Christians grow. More than that, however, this mother and daughter were simply blessed by being there.

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Stories like these can only truly be appreciated when you experience them in person. The week is packed with teaching, worship, mentoring, and plenty of fun and games. But the worship is what struck a special chord with the group from Asbury. “We didn’t know most of the songs,” Alyssa says, “and they were all singing in Russian. However our translator helped interpret the songs. Our favorite worship song was called, ла-ла-ла-, which translates to (la-la-la in English). Once the music for this song started, the whole room would erupt. The younger students would grab someone’s hand and start a line through the room with each one grabbing another hand. The line would just dance all around the room singing, ла-ла-ла-. Everyone was laughing, singing and praising the Lord. Most of the Asbury adult leaders had to stand up on the chairs to get out of the way it was so crazy. It was so memorable to see everyone dancing in this line, or dancing in their spot arm-in-arm.” “I’ve never been touched so deeply by worship,” Angie admits. “I was inspired by them. I praised God like I’ve never done before. It was liberating and beautiful and … I really can’t describe how amazing it was.” The teaching at the camp also made an impression on Angie. “I learned how to have truly meaningful alone time with God— how to really break down the scriptures and meditate on them. That, along with my worship experience, has drawn me closer to God than I’ve ever been.” Here at home, people say they’ve seen a change in Angie. Others can’t quite describe the difference. But all agree it’s obvious the trip blessed her and made a lasting impact on her life. One thing Angie also enjoyed was the friendships she made with Angel O’Dell, Julie Wilson and Chris Miller. “All three of these adult leaders were wonderful examples of Godly people. It was such a blessing to be around them and witness the Lord through their actions and spirit,” commented Angie.

“It was gratifying to see Alyssa praising God,” Angie says. “But just as important to me, as a mom, was knowing that she was absorbing the Godly teaching we were experiencing at the camp.”

Obstacle course at the Gulf of Finland

Even today, Alyssa texts and Snapchats friends half a world away. They’re from different places and different cultures, but they shared an experience that bonded them together … and she will carry that with her for a long time to come. Alyssa’s most memorable experiences at the camp were from the daily sports and games activities. Alyssa recalls, “I had so much fun on Water Day. We competed in teams in an obstacle course (that rivaled American Ninja Warrior) on the beach to giant water balloon fights. There were mentoring opportunities with younger children. There was a bonfire and a prayer vigil. At Camp Gideon, students find others going through the same struggles in their Christian walk. They talk with teens they can relate to. They learn from each other and have fun together. More importantly, they receive a message from God that changes their lives. Alyssa also has fond very memories of her time with a young Ukrainian boy named Bugdon. “I learned a new Russian card/board game called JungleSpeed. It was the craziest, fastest and best board game I have played. I am addicted! I can’t wait to purchase the English version so I can play with my friends and family.” Angie and Alyssa were blessed to be a part of the team that helped these young Christians grow. More than that, however, this mother and daughter were simply blessed by being there.

Ask Angie about Alyssa’s experience, and she’s sure to smile. She was excited to take her daughter, as any mother would be. After all, seeing your kids actively live their faith is one of the greatest moments in any parent’s life. Angie recalls a moment seeing her daughter across the room during one of the evening services. The speaker had been preaching for quite a long time. So long, in fact, that the translator earpiece was getting very uncomfortable, and Angie was beginning to tire of standing. Then she glanced over at her daughter. Alyssa seemed captivated by what the speaker was saying. She was very focused on listening, and she was soaking in his words, allowing Christ to move in her heart. Later that night, Alyssa told her mother she could’ve listened to that man speak all night.

Alyssa and Bugdon

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STUDENTS

Dreaming of Something…Big By Katelyn Moore

his all began while sitting at a conference last fall. The student ministry staff was attending the National Youth Workers Conference, and Caroline Smallwood and I had decided to check out a seminar taught by Megan Hutchinson, speaker and co-author of Life Hurts God Heals, and Sticky Faith contributor. Her seminar was called “Secret Survivors” and was about helping students reveal and heal from their hidden pain. The seminar that day was so impactful that we approached Megan afterwards to talk more about it, and to thank her for sharing her story. What we quickly discovered is that she lives a “big” life; she doesn’t do anything half-heartedly. Soon the three of us were sitting around the dinner table sharing stories about our lives and dreaming of new adventures in ministry. Megan, with her approachable personality and passion for student ministry, had lit a spark in us. What we didn’t know at the time was that God had begun cultivating something big in our hearts that night. Caroline and I share a passion for girls’ ministry, and we both began to feel led to start a new girls retreat. At this time, we had each been on staff for less than six months, we weren’t sure where to start, but we knew we wanted to start with Megan. During our first conference call with her, we realized that this was going to be big, and she wanted to be a part of it. Megan’s ministry is called Think Big 320 (thinkbig320.com), and takes its name from Ephesians 3:20, “Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according

to His power that is at work within us…” The message Megan feels called to carry is that God can do way beyond anything we could ask for or even dream up. His plan is infinitely bigger than ours, and He is fully capable of pulling it off. He even works out His power through us and lets us be a part of it all. But we’ve got to start thinking big. Our God is able to do immeasurably more than all we could ask or imagine, so why wouldn’t we start praying God-sized prayers and dreaming God-size dreams? Asbury Student Ministry is thrilled to announce that Megan Hutchinson will join us as we launch a brand new retreat this fall: Girls Night. Girls Night is open to all junior high and high school girls and will take place October 24-25 in the Venue. Mark 12:30 begs us to, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength,” but often we let a lot of things stand in the way of loving Him like that. During this weekend we will be challenged to reveal the pain in our lives so that we can be healed and made whole. Then we will be able to love Him with everything. If you know a teenage girl, please encourage her to come experience the redeeming work of Christ, as we learn more about what it means to think big with Megan Hutchinson. We are encouraging our girls to think big and bring a friend with them that might need to hear this message. Registration will be available online at myasburytulsa.org beginning August 24, and is due by October 6. Event cost is $35 per person, or $50 with a T-shirt. Let’s think big together.

Girls’ Night October 24–25

Guest speaker/writer Megan Hutchinson (co-author of Life Hurts God Heals) Learn more about what it means to think big! Register now at www.myasburytulsa.org $35 per person, or $50 with a T-shirt Contact Katelyn Moore (high school) kmoore@asburytulsa.org or Caroline Smallwood (junior high) csmallwood@asturytulsa.org for more information

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ADULTS

Train Up a Child Asbury Awards UMM and UMW Scholarships By Marilyn Glass

eet Sarah McMullen and Sam Jellison, this year’s college scholarship recipients. They are bright, talented and focused.

Both Sarah and Sam grew up at Asbury. “I love it at Asbury,” Sarah volunteers. “My best friends are here, and I’ve had some wonderful experiences in this church.” Sam also has great memories. Now a junior at OSU in Stillwater, he is grateful that Asbury has been such an integral part of his life. “We were always at church. Being part of small groups was very helpful to my spiritual growth. And I think the strongest impact on my life was the missions I did with the church.” Sara agrees wholeheartedly. “All of the spring break mission trips were so awesome,” she declares. “Having been in church my whole life, I was soaked in the truth of God’s Word, raised in it. But by the time I was in high school and had been on several mission trips, that truth had become my own. It was more real in my life.” Both Sarah and Sam are looking to a future in medicine. Sarah will be a second semester freshman at OU this fall. She was a competitive gymnast throughout high school and is now enjoying coaching 3–5 year olds. Her love of the sport makes her inclined to pursue a career in sports medicine— perhaps physical therapy. Again, her participation in missions helped clarify direction for her life. “At the beginning of the summer, I went to Rio Bravo on a mission trip, and I loved it,” she relates. “I’m not certain what field of medicine I will go into, but I definitely want to be involved in medical missions. “Working with the kids and the teens was so rewarding for me. I loved their openness and willingness to trust. To see them

embrace the truth of Christ and accept Him into their lives was incredible.” Sam is pursuing a medical degree, with emphasis in physiology. He is particularly interested in surgery and is excited about the opportunity to shadow a couple of surgeons in San Antonio, one of whom is the team doctor for the San Antonio Spurs. “I have shadowed ER doctors before, but not like this. I am delighted that I will be inside an operating room, observing the medical staff perform life-saving procedures.” His favorite Bible verse is Proverbs 27:17: “Iron sharpens iron.” Or, as The Message says, “You use steel to sharpen steel and one friend sharpens another.” “I first heard this verse quoted when I was returning from a mission trip to Kentucky. I began to realize that interaction and relationship with others help fill us out—our personality, our emotions and our spirit. And I learned so much from helping others. I believe that caring for others helps develop leadership skills. I know it was taking that first step and reaching out that has set me on this path. A highlight of my life was the experience I had as the leader of a group of eighth graders at Falls Creek, a Baptist youth camp. I had the privilege of seeing 23 young people give their lives to Jesus!” Sarah and Sam realize how blessed they are to have grown up in Christian homes. They are so thankful to God for their loving families. They would also like to extend their thanks to church family— the United Methodist Women and the Methodist Men’s groups. In chorus, they relay this message: We are honored to receive this assistance. Thank you. We will strive to use this gift wisely and to live out God’s Word.

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CHILDREN

Kindergarten Blessing Service On August 10, we had a service to bless our children who will be entering kindergarten this fall. Continue to pray for them as they grow in their relationship with our Lord. “And he took them up in his arms, put his hands upon them, and blessed them.” –Mark 10:16

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CHILDREN

Why Not Wednesday “Why Not Wednesdays” was a huge success! This summer, our children from kindergarten through sixth grade had fun events every Wednesday. In July. The activities covered everything from watching movies to jumping on inflatables. It culminated with a great family time playing bingo and silly games. Friendships were forged and new friendships blossomed. Now, they’re heading back to school after having a great summer at Asbury.

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G R AN D PA J O H N

Andrew: The Friendliest Disciple by John C. Westervelt

y name is John. From my home in Tiberias, on the Sea of Galilee, I began the walk to Capernaum, a distance of 10 miles. My father had asked me to deliver a payment to the collector of customs whose office was in that town.

“Peter, remember, Jesus taught us to forgive, even Judas.” “Yes, true, still I am mighty angry about it all.” And with that, we gathered up our gear, and the three of us walked briskly toward the sea. At the lakeshore, Peter, Thomas, Andrew and I boarded one boat, and James, John, Nathanael, and another disciple pushed off in the other. The disciples had good reason to be sad. I wondered if Peter had decided they should go fishing to get their minds off of their troubles. He definitely was the leader.

On the way, I met a man who was also going to Capernaum. I said, “My name is John.” Peter steered his boat to a spot where they had found fish before. After a while, he called “I am Andrew. John is a common name in out to James and John, “Let’s try it here.” Galilee. In fact, one of my fellow disciples is named John.” At the first sign of dawn, having caught no fish, Peter yelled across to James and John, Andrew and I became good friends on “Let’s take her in boys!” As we approached the walk to his house in Capernaum. He land, we could see smoke curling straight shared that his friend Jesus had just died. up from a campfire on the shore about a Andrew fed me supper before asking, quarter of a mile away. Beside the fire was “John, would you like to go fishing with the figure of a man. Peter and me tonight? We had planned to head out around midnight.” As we closed the distance, the man on the shore called out, “Did you catch any fish?” “Will you have room for me?” Peter spoke for all of us, “Nothing for this night’s effort.” “Sure, some can fish from Peter and my boat and the others from James and John’s. Then came back the response, “Throw Why don’t you lie down on this mat and out your net on the right-hand side of the get in a few hours of sleep.” boat, and you’ll get plenty of them.” We all looked at each other, then Thomas stated I rolled out the mat then lay down on my the question we were all asking, “Why back, staring at the shadows made by the throw the net here? You can’t catch fish in moon shining through the open doorway. the shallows.” Soon I was sleeping. Then Andrew, without a word, threw the It seemed like only moments had passed net over the right-hand side of the boat. when I was awakened by a loud, jovial Soon it was overflowing with fish, and we voice, “All good fishermen arise!” all strained to pull the net into the boat, but we were not able to do so. John, now A more familiar voice, that of Andrew, recognizing the man, said, “Peter, it is our said, “Peter, this is my friend John. He Lord.” would like to fish with us.” Without another thought, Peter wrapped “Welcome aboard, John. You can take the his outer garment around his waist and place of the scoundrel that betrayed our threw himself into the sea. I turned to Lord. Luckily for him, he took his own life, Andrew to say, “Peter certainly has a for had he not, I might have.” rambunctious love for Jesus.”

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The rest of us came in the boat dragging the net full of fish. Peter helped us draw the net to land. I could see some fish on a fire of coals. Jesus said, “Bring some of the fish you have caught.” It wasn’t long before the fish had been cooked over the fire. Jesus turned to us and said, “Come and have breakfast.” Carrying bread, hot fish and wine, Jesus walked toward me. His servant attitude made me think of him as a friend rather than a Messiah. Then He read my thoughts, saying, “John, I know you must be famished after a night of fishing. Take this bread and fish and wine to nourish your body.” I shall never forget those eyes that looked into mine with such a caring spirit. As I accepted the food, I noticed that in the center of each of His calloused hands was a recent wound. Then Jesus served Andrew and moved on to another. As Jesus turned away, I leaned toward Andrew and said, “You told me Jesus was the Messiah. Why would a Messiah serve me?” “More than a Messiah, He is a servant. That is the way He leads. He said for us to learn from His example.” The sun was fully up now, and my father would be wondering what had happened to me, so I turned to Andrew and said, “I must be going now. Thank you so much for your hospitality. After I deliver a payment to customs, I will return to Tiberias and tell all my friends about Jesus the Messiah.” Based on John 21:1–14. To learn more about the transformed lives of those who encountered Jesus, go to www.jwestervelt.com and read 32 more stories like this one or click on a link to download the book Jesus’ Friends for Kindle.

ROADMAP

RoadMap Fall 2014 BIBLICAL STUDIES Believers Bible Study Don Herrold Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm Ongoing (Except 11/27, 12/24 and 12/31) Room 1508 No Cost Children of the Day: 1 & 2nd Thessalonians by Beth Moore Cindy Read Tuesday Mornings 9:15–11:15 am Room 2818 Or Dee Dee Geddie Tuesday Evenings 6:30–8:00 pm Room 2820 September 9–November 11 Cost: $20 Ezekiel Part 2, A Precept Study Nancy Staab Tuesdays 9:30–11:00 am September 9–October 21 Room 1504 Cost: $20 Joshua, A Precept Study Dee Paige Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 10–October 29 Room 1504 Cost: $15 Revelation Part 1 Gail Knox Wednesdays 6:30–8:00 pm September 3–November 19 Room 2818 Cost: $20 (Pay in class) Telling Jesus Stories Mary Ann Smith Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 3–October 15

Room 1502 Cost: $10 The Truth Project Dewey Sherbon Wednesdays 3:00–5:00 pm September 10–December 17 ( Except 11/27) Room 1335 No Cost and no child care available

CARE Creating Balance in a Hyperdrive World Coach Rod Giles Wednesdays 6:00–7:30 pm Meets every other Wednesday: Sept. 10, 24, Oct. 8, 22; Nov. 5, 19 Room 1507 Cost: $10 GriefShare Ann Peterson & Tom Berry Wednesdays 3:00–4:30 pm or 6:00–7:30 pm August 27–December 10 (Except 11/26) Room 2319 Cost: $15 No child care for afternoon class Beyond GriefShare Ann Peterson & Tom Berry Wednesdays 3:00–4:30 pm or 6:00–7:30 pm August 27–December 10 (Except 11/26) Room 2314 Cost: $15 No child care for afternoon class Making Peace with Your Past Diane Taylor & Tasha Milligan

Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm August 27–November 19 Room 1335 Cost: $15 Must pre-register by calling Diane at 918.254.6131 Limited to first 12 paid registrants QPR Suicide Prevention Training Tim Reside, MA, MHC, President of Bright Tomorrows Thursday 6:30–8:30 pm September 4 Family Room No Cost Register by August 20 No onsite child care; reimbursement vouchers available at event The Holidays are Coming… Good Grief! Larry McCool Saturday 1:00–4:00 pm November 8 Room 2820 Cost: $10 indv./ $20 Family. Includes materials and refreshments Pre-register online by October 25; seating is limited No child care

FINANCIAL Christian Estate and Legacy Planning Seminar David Battles, Mark Springer & Pastor Guy Ames Wednesday 7:00–9:00 pm September 3 Room 2820 No Cost Financial Peace University Rick Boothe Tuesdays 6:00–8:00 pm *Free Orientation: September 9 Classes: September 16– November 11

Room 1508 Cost: $95/couple (register online, pay in class, check or cash only) The Legacy Journey Ron Carter Sundays 6:00–7:30 pm September 14–October 26 Room 2820 Cost: $105/couple, first class is free (register online, pay in class, check or cash only) No child care

MARRIAGE & FAMILY Married People Hosts: Jeff & Lisa Thomas Tuesdays 6:30–8:00 pm September 16–October 14 Family Room No Cost Raising God Reliant Children Betty Higgins Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 10–October 22 (Except 10/15) Room 2500 Cost: $15

MEN “Go Fish” by Andy Stanley Greg Ruley & Brock King Wednesdays 6:00–8:00 pm September 10–December 3 (Except 10/15 & 11/26) Room 2820 No Cost

WOMEN Mothers’ Fellowship: Women Living Well Katie Ruley Wednesdays 9:45–11:45 am September 10–November 19 Room: Parlor Cost: $10

For more information, pick up a RoadMap brochure at any Guest Services desk or visit www.asburytulsa.org/roadmap. If you have questions, email discipleship@asburytulsa.org or contact Robin Brush at 918.392.1133.

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O PP O R T U N ITI E S

Asbury Opportunities GENERAL INFORMATION

CARE AND SUPPORT

When you enter the hospital, please designate Asbury as your church. Otherwise, we will not know you are there, and a pastor will not know to visit. Some hospitals in the Tulsa area do not ask for this information, so you will need to alert Asbury at 918.492.1771, Monday–Thursday from 8:00 am–5:00 pm and Friday 8:00 am–noon. The after-hour hospitalization and surgery line can be reached at 918.392.1198 and is checked each weekday at 8:30 am. If you know ahead of time and would like a pastor to do a pre-surgery visit, please call 918.492.1771. Please know that Asbury pastors want to be in prayer for you and your family.

QPR Suicide Prevention Training The risk of suicide can be decreased if those closest to the individual in crisis recognize the warning signs and know how to help. • Thursday, September 4, 6:30–8:30 pm, Family Room, no cost • No onsite child care; reimbursement vouchers available at event

If you have an emergency or death to report after hours, please call 918.392.1192 and leave a message for the pastor on call. You will be contacted as soon as possible. Prayer Line If you would like for Asbury’s prayer team to pray for you, please call 918.392.1142 to leave your prayer request so that you will be included on Asbury’s prayer list. Death in the Family When a family member dies, you should make one phone call automatically. Contact Victoria Williamson at 918.492.1771 and she will help you make arrangements for your loved one. Victoria will also work with your family to arrange the memorial service at Asbury. www.myasburytulsa.org This website is available to all members as a way to update your contact information, register for events, give online and indicate ministries you would like to receive communication from. Make sure you have an account and check it out. If you have any problems setting up your account, call Kim at 918.392.2159 or email her at krenkema@asburytulsa.org. Breakfast available on Sundays Did you know that you and your family can enjoy one of Virginia’s wonderful breakfasts every Sunday morning from 7:30–9:30 am in the Community Life Center (CLC). Cost is only $5 for adults, $1 for children, $20 maximum for family.

ASBURY FOUNDATION Leave a legacy that continues to give forever to a ministry you want to support. There are endowments that support many areas of Asbury’s outreach including children, youth, music, missions, and training of pastors as well as a general endowment. You can easily impact a ministry through your will or a current gift. • Contact Guy Ames at 918.392.1125 or games@asburytulsa.org

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Creating Balance in a Hyperdrive World Six classes based on In Search of Balance, Keys to a Stable Life by Richard A. Swenson, M.D. • September 10 & 24, October 8 & 22, November 5 & 19, 6:00–7:30 pm, Room 1507 • Cost of $10 covers books and materials. Register online or call 918.392.1191 The Holidays are Coming…Good Grief! Workshop to provide hope, support and practical holiday planning guides for individuals and families grieving the loss of a loved one. • Saturday, November 8, 1:00–4:00 pm, Room 2820, cost is $10, maximum $20 family • Minimum age 16. Register online by October 25 GriefShare and Beyond GriefShare • Wednesdays through December 10 (except November 26), 3:00–4:30 pm (no child care) OR 6:00–7:30 pm (child care provided), Room 2319, cost is $15 • Register online or 918.392.1191, Team Leaders: Ann Peterson and Tom Berry Congregational Care Ministers (CCM) Do you believe God is leading you to help our pastors in ministering to persons who have been hospitalized or who have long-term, chronic health care needs? • Training will be Tuesday evenings, September 23–November 11 • Be available to serve for 3–4 hours per week • For more information contact Adrena Mahu or Pastors Mike Hardgrove, Charlie Ryser or Guy Ames Asbury Bear Bags • Anyone may deliver an Asbury bear bag to someone who is grieving. • Pick up bags at the south Guest Services desk. Counseling Referrals • Individuals or couples who are seeking referral to a local Christian therapist are encouraged to call 918.392.1199, X270 anytime, night or day, and leave a message. • Calls are returned Monday through Friday. In-church recommendations also given.

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Divorce Recovery • Tuesdays, 7:00–8:30 pm, Room 1335, child care available • Contact Malia Miller at 918.494.9596 or malia.miller@ sbcglobal.net

Asbury Connection • Regularly visit members who are homebound, in nursing homes or assisted living • Contact Adrena at 918.392.1144 or amahu@asburytulsa.org

Divorce Rebuilding • Thursdays, 7:00–8:30 pm, Room 1335 • Contact Jim Small at 918.697.4220 or divorce-rebuilding@ cox.net

CELEBRATE RECOVERY

Healing Hats (Created to provide hats to cancer patients) Simply knit, crochet or sew a hat or decorate a ball cap of your choice and drop it in the collection box located near the northeast entrance. • Crochet/Knitting Group –– Every Tuesday, 2:00–4:00 pm, Room 1506 • Ball Caps (If you can cut and glue, this is for you! Baseball caps and decorating items available) –– Fourth Tuesdays, 9:30–11:30 am, Room 1508 –– Contact Sue Fisher at healinghatsmin@aol.com or 918.455.2816 Mental Health Support for Families • Fourth Thursdays, 1:30–3:00 pm, Parlor • Contact Linda Lytle at 918.298.2707 or lllytle@wildflower.net Prayer Card Ministry/ Military Connection • Send cards to people who are ill or in the military • Usually meets first and third Mondays at 9:00 am, Room 1508 • Contact Ruth at 918.392.1146 or rwinn@asburytulsa.org to volunteer or add someone to list to receive cards • Military: Contact Jo VanDeWiele at 918.459.0888 Quilting Ministry • Second Wednesdays in odd months (January, March, etc.), 1:00 pm, Parlor • Utilize your love of quilting to make lap quilts. Contact Dotti Westerberg at 918.369.5460 or dottiwesterberg@hotmail.com . • If you know of someone who is ill or in the hospital and would benefit from the comfort of a lap quilt, call Adrena at 918.392.1144. S.M.I.L.E. (Single Mothers in the Lord’s Embrace) Join us for scripture-based lesson and discussion. • Third Tuesdays, 6:00–8:45 pm, Parlor, child care provided. Attend at any time. • RSVP to Janet at 918.688.3392 or asburysmile@ymail.com Stephen Ministry Our Stephen ministers are here to walk with you during hard times, or to listen as you work through difficult decisions. We are there for you as a nonjudgmental Christian friend. Please call Adrena at 918.392.1144 if a Stephen minister may be the support you need.

Celebrate Recovery/The Landing/Celebration Station • Celebrate Recovery – God never intended for you to live in bondage. Every Monday night: dinner at 6:00 pm, worship from 7:00--8:00 pm, small groups from 8:00--9:00 pm, dessert from 9:00--9:30 pm • The Landing – Hope-filled truths and real-life strategies for students. Every Monday night, 6:30–9:00 pm in Venue north lobby. Grades 6–12 • Celebration Place – Inspiring kids with hope, joy and happiness while they learn to rely on God. Mondays, 6:45–9:00 pm, downstairs children’s area. Kindergarten through fifth grade. Contact Christina Treat at ctreat@asburytulsa.org . • CR Child Care – Parents who are involved in Celebrate Recovery have child care provided for children 6 weeks to pre-k with no reservation needed. Mondays, 6:45–9:00 pm, downstairs children’s area.

CHILDREN FaithZone Sunday Mornings • Sundays, 7:45 am, ages 6 weeks to pre-k, downstairs children’s area • Sundays, 9:00 am and 10:45 am, ages 6 weeks to pre-k downstairs, and kindergarten to sixth grade upstairs in the children’s area In order to encourage families to worship together, children from kindergarten-sixth grade are invited to stay in their Sunday school room for one hour only. The exception is for those children of parents volunteering within the church or members of the choir/orchestra. These children may stay two hours in their Sunday school class to allow their parents to serve. Children in the nursery and preschool may stay for both hours. Core Childcare Hours Childcare for children 6 weeks to sixth grade is provided for parents attending RoadMap courses or communities during these core hours with no reservation needed: • Tuesday and Wednesday 8:45 am–12:00 pm • Tuesday and Wednesday 5:45 pm–9:00 pm Special Volunteers for Special Kids Do you have a heart to help children with special needs? Contact Dotti Westerberg at dottiwesterberg@hotmail.com or 918.381.0874. Upward Basketball and Cheerleading This program promotes character and self esteem in every child. • Registration at www.myasburytulsa.org begins September 1,

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for 5 years old through 6th grade, for the 2014–2015 school year • For more information, contact Jennifer at jbarnes@ asburytulsa.org or 918.392.4582 God and Me, God and Family Award We will provide the materials for the student and mentor to work on at home to complete the course. • Mandatory orientation meeting September 16; a paperwork turn-in meeting October 28; Awards Ceremony on November 4 • Register at www.myasburytulsa.org by September 14 • For more information, please contact Kim Broadhurst at kbroadhurst@asburytulsa.org or 918.392.1165 3rd Grade Bible Presentation All children entering the 3rd grade will receive their own copy of the Word of God during all worship services. • Sunday, September 14, at all worship services; followed by reception in the Asbury Gym following services • Contact Shannon at 918.392.1170 or sbrown@asburytulsa. org for more information Bible Explorers In this class, designed for the 3rd grader and an adult (parent), you will learn how the Bible was written, discover how it is organized, and see how to use it. • September 14 and 21 from 3:00–5:00 pm, register online at www.myasburytulsa.org • For more information contact Shanon at 918.392.1170 or sbrown@asburytulsa.org 4th–6th graders Overnight Event Stay the night in the church, and wake up to a yummy breakfast. Then plan to stay for 2nd Saturday, where you and your parents can check in and serve our community until noon. • Friday, September 12, 8:00 pm, register online at www. myasburytulsa.org • For more information contact Cara Phillips at cphillips@ asburytulsa.org or 918.392.1131

DISCIPLESHIP Adult Discipleship Communities • If you are looking for an Adult Discipleship Community, check out “Community Life” on the website, www.asburytulsa.org, or pick up a brochure at one of the Guest Services desks. Ongoing Opportunities • Women of the Word –– Gail Knox teaches on different passages from God’s Word. No cost and no registration. –– Every Wednesday 10:00–11:00 am, Room 2818, child care not available –– Lunch September 24 and October 22, 11:00 am, Community Life Center (CLC)

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GUEST SERVICES The guest services team will welcome all guests (whether they are regular attendees or first timers) that enter the church. In addition to greeting people, volunteers answer questions and proactively help guests find their way around the campus. As a Guest Services volunteer, you are one of the very first impressions our guests will have of our church. If you would like to volunteer, contact Lauren Burke at 918.392.1104 or lburke@asburytulsa.org.

MARRIAGE & FAMILY MarriedPeople Five stand-alone classes, come to all or a few. Topics include: love, expectations, trust, social media and the impact of kids on marriage. • Tuesdays, September 16–October 14, 6:30–8:00 pm, Family Room • No cost, child care available, register online or 918.392.1191 8 Great Dates with Your Mate • 2nd Thursdays through November 6:15–6:30 pm, Room 1502 • Child care cost: $5/child, $20 max per family (RSVP to discipleship@asburytulsa.org no later than one week prior to each date) Milestone Wedding Anniversaries Milestone Wedding Anniversaries Email your upcoming Milestone Anniversary (5, 10, 15, 20, etc.) to Sheri Morrison at tiptap83@gmail.com or call 918.455.7542.

MEMBERSHIP Joining Asbury Are you interested in membership at Asbury or just want to learn more about who we are? Plan to attend our Joining Asbury luncheon. • Are you interested in membership at Asbury or just want to learn more about who we are? Plan to attend our Joining Asbury luncheon. • Sundays, September 14 and October 12 , 12:15–2:00 pm; lunch provided; Community Life Center (CLC) • Child care available for children six weeks to sixth grade • Call 918.392.1191 to register or register online at www. myasburytulsa.org

MEN Kingdom Man Study This six-week DVD study, based on Dr. Tony Evans’ book Kingdom Man, challenges and equips you to fully understand your position under God. • Every Tuesday, September 16-October 21, 6:30 pm, Community Life Center (CLC) • Cost $7 for study guide; contact Frank Field at 918.630.0717 to enroll

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Men’s Construction Mission Trip to Rio Bravo, Mexico Would you like to work on construction projects for local churches and those in desperate need in Mexico? No building experience or carpentry skills required—just a willing spirit! • November 12–16, cost is $595 per person. Partial scholarships may be available. Deadline to sign up October 12 with $100 deposit • Contact Jim Furman at jnlfurman@cox.net or 918.625.1316, or Frank Field at frank.field@wpxenergy.com or 918.630.0717 Car Care Ministry Workday • To volunteer to help with this ministry, contact Mike at 918.492.8177. • Saturday, September 13, 9:00 am–noon Home Improvement Ministry Workday • To volunteer to help with this ministry, contact Michiel at 918.640.4382. • Next work day is Saturday, October 18 R.O.M.E.O. Luncheons • Meets every second and fourth Friday, 11:15 am, Village Inn (71st and Memorial) • Contact Jim at 918.249.4571 Men’s Prayer Breakfast • Wednesdays, 6:30–7:30 am, Community Life Center (CLC) • Cost is $3 per person; first-time guests are free

MISSIONS/VIM 2nd Saturday • Saturdays, September 13 and October 11, 8:15 am–noon, meet at Venue. Choose between multiple work sites. • Contact Betty Higgins at bhiggins@asburytulsa.org or ssaturday@asburytulsa.org OJT (Overcoming Job Transitions) • Third Tuesday of each month, 6:30–9:00 pm, Room 1502 • Contact Russ Knight at OJTJobs@gmail.com Volunteers in Mission (VIM) 2014 TEAM SCHEDULE Where will God have you serve? • September 3–8: Guatemala – Construction & serving at orphanage • Oct. 2–13: Tanzania, East Africa – Construction • Fall: Cookson Hills, Oklahoma – Light construction/ ministry support • Oct. 31–Nov. 10: Central Asia – Relationship & evangelism • November 5–9: Rio Bravo, Mexico – Medical • November 12–16: Rio Bravo, Mexico – Men’s construction VIM Team Leader Training September 6, November 1

For more information about these exciting mission opportunities, contact Marilene Long at 918.392.1164 or mlong@asburytulsa.org. For information about the Men’s Rio Bravo, Mexico, opportunities, contact Jim Furman at jnlfurman@cox.net.

MUSIC For more information on any of the music groups, please contact the music office at 918.392.1151. Choir and Orchestra • New Covenant Orchestra meets Wednesdays, 6:00–7:30 pm in Room 1510 • Chancel Choir meets Wednesdays, 7:00–9:00 pm in Room 2706

PRAYER Prayer Room Days and Times Our prayer rooms are accessible to you at these times: • Mason Chapel and Venue –– Sundays from 7:00 am–12:30 pm, through the interior doors • Main Facility, Mason Chapel and Venue –– Monday–Friday, 8:00 am–9:00 pm –– Saturday, 10:00 am–3:00 pm –– Sunday, 12:30 pm–9:00 pm Call Pam in the adult ministries office at 918.392.4589 to reserve the Prayer Room for your group on a weekly or monthly basis or to obtain door codes.

SENIOR ADULTS Tweenager September Program and Luncheon Mary Helen Stanley will review the book, “Somebody is Going to Die if Lilly Beth Doesn’t Catch that Bouquet,” a story of a southern wedding filled with laughter, life, love, advice and charm. Bethany Wagner, who has been performing since age 6, will be our vocalist. • Thursday, September 25, 10:30 am–1:00 pm, Community Life Center (CLC), Lunch $1.00 Tweenagers October Program and Luncheon Life Senior Services, a non-profit United Way organization, will inform us of home and community-based services that promote healthy aging and places for aging seniors. Services and support for those who care for their loved ones at home will be covered. Music by Judy Edmonson, accompanied by Linda Shade. • Thursday, October 23, 10:30 am–1:00 pm, Community Life Center (CLC), Lunch $1.00 Many opportunities are available for our senior adults: • Senior Walk in the Gym With Him – Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, 8:30–9:00 am, gym

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• Senior Sit and Fit Stretching Class – Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 9:00–9:30 am, gym • Senior Adult Meal & Movie – Dates and time vary. For more information or to sign up for the call list, contact Sally Wood, sally77onestick@cox.net • Save-a-Label – Can you help? Seniors are collecting Shurfine and Best Choice product labels from canned goods, boxed food, eggs, cheese, etc. Bundle your labels and drop them off at the south desk to the attention of “Tweenagers.”

SINGLES Singles Ministry Fall Luncheon Single adults and their families are invited to a fall luncheon and mixer. Great food, fun and fellowship! • Sunday, October 19, 12:15 pm, Community Life Center (CLC) • TICKETS ON SALE October 5 (CLC desk) and October 12 (south foyer), 8:15–11:45 am • Cost $5, kids ages 10 and under eat free Adult Volleyball • It’s free, and you do not have to be a member of Asbury. For ages 18 and up. • Every Sunday, 6:00–9:00 pm, gym • Questions? Contact Doug at 918.607.0830

STUDENTS 789 Sunday Mornings • Sundays, 9:15 am, Junior High Room, upstairs in the Venue 10 11 12 Sunday Mornings • Sundays, 9:15 am, downstairs in the Venue Student Small Groups We are called to live in community, and we want to help you get plugged in. Small groups are made up of students your same grade and gender. We meet together for worship then break into small groups around the church. • Sunday nights beginning September 14: 7th-9th grades: 4:30–6:30, 10th-12th grades: 6:00–7:30 • For questions contact: Mark Fowler, junior high, mfowler@ asburytulsa.org; or Josh Coats, high school, jcoats@ asburytulsa.org High School Seniors Bible Study Pastor Tom Harrison and Pastor Todd Craig would like to do a Bible study on the Book of Romans with you this school year on Wednesdays after school. • Register online at www.myasburytulsa.org • For more information, contact Victoria at vwilliamson@ asburytulsa.org or 918.392.1113 Junior High and High School Fall Retreat Come find out what it means to be known and to know Christ.

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• September 5–7, register online at www.myasburytulsa.org • For questions, contact Mark Fowler (junior high) 918.392.1155, or Josh Coats (high school) 918.392.1154 Girls Night We will be hosting speaker/writer Megan Hutchinson (CoAuthor of “Life Hurts God Heals”) as she teaches us what it means to live out Ephesians 3:20. • October 24–25, register online at www.myasburytulsa.org; cost is $35 per person or $50 per person if you want a T-shirt • For questions contact Katelyn (high school) at kmoore@ asburytulsa.org or Caroline (junior high) at csmallwood@ asburytulsa.org

WOMEN UMW September Luncheon Toni Moore, President/CEO of Hospitality House of Tulsa, will share the mission and ministry of their program which is to provide a “home away from home” for families caring for loved ones in medical crisis. • Thursday, September 4, 11:30 am–1:00 pm, • Lunch $8, no reservation needed UMW October Luncheon Rodney Gray, Director of Program Management at Youth at Heart, will present a program, “Reaching the Least of These.” Come, be blessed and encouraged. Scripture: Matthew 25:40. • Thursday, October 2, 11:30 am–1:00 pm, Community Life Center (CLC) • Lunch $8, no reservation needed Car Care Ministry Workday Single women and widows, if your vehicle needs a basic check-up and you qualify, have your vehicle in line by 11:30 am. Volunteers from the men’s ministry will check your vehicle’s tires, belts, fluids, filters and batteries. • Saturday, September 13, 9:00 am–noon Home Improvement Ministry Workday Teams help widows and single women who are Asbury members with minor home repairs and home improvement projects. • Applications located at main Guest Services desk must be turned in by October 8 for workday on Saturday, October 18

WORSHIP • 8:00 am • 9:15 am • 11:00 am

Traditional Service in Mason Chapel Traditional Service in Sanctuary Modern Service in Sanctuary

S PE C IAL AN N O U N CE M E N T S

Deaths • Bill Hamilton died 6/5/2014, husband of Jane Hamilton • Jan Reece died 6/3/2014, wife of Monroe Reece • Roy Danner died 6/20/2014

• Carol Herwig died 6/22/2014 • Betty Manley died 6/27/2014 • Patty Thomas died 7/2/2014, wife of Pastor David Thomas • Ted Kelly died 7/8/2014, spouse of

Pat Kelly • Lois Robbins died 7/19/2014, mother of Joe (Lynn) Robbins • Lamyrle Cox died 7/25/2014, spouse of Clifton Cox • Mullins Scott died 7/24/2014, spouse of

Tammi Mullins • Wynona (Ruth) Surry died 7/22/2014, spouse of Max Surry

Milestone Anniversaries 60 YEARS • Merle & Marylou Howell • Ralph & Marion Daugherty

09/04/54 09/24/54

55 YEARS • Gary & Ruth Beatie • Richard & Billie Corley

09/11/59 10/16/59

Merle & Marylou Howell 09/04/54

Ralph & Marion Daugherty 09/24/54

Gary & Ruth Beatie 09/11/59

Richard & Billie Corley 10/16/59

Chuck & Janeen Atkins 08/29/64

Kent & Sandi Gardner 09/05/64

50 YEARS • • • • •

Chuck & Janeen Atkins Kent & Sandi Gardner Greg & Jan Schueller Easter & Carolyn Moore Thomas & Sharon Sowell

08/29/64 09/05/64 09/12/64 09/05/64 10/31/64

35 YEARS • Curtis & Carol Craig

10/06/79

25 YEARS • Bill & Kelly Dudney

08/19/89

10 YEARS • Jason & Amanda Sanderson

07/31/04

Greg & Jan Schueller 09/12/64

Easter & Carolyn Moore 09/05/64

Thomas & Sharon Sowell 10/31/64

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New Members

Betty Jones

Blake and Mary Jo Jared

Dan, Jenny, Amanda, and Zack Haberman

Dean and Julie Atteberry

Diane Rutelonis and Mark Gappa

Glenn and Cynthia Ward

Jill and Steve Reynolds

Jim and Jan Neel

Judy Bomar

Justin and Sarah Kellogg

Lawrence Sullivan

Marcia Lawlis

Randy and Helen Kuhn

Rhonda Colley

Sandra Phillips

Conne Bullard

Scott and Chung Lee

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Stephen Romero and Ivonne Duran

Tyler and Tara Pyle

Save the Date: September 28, 2014 We would love to have you join us for Asbury’s annual Day of Service on Sunday, September 28, from 12:00–5:00 pm. We will take the church into the Tulsa community by helping with painting, moving furniture, packing care boxes, neighborhood cleanup and much more. All logistics will be taken care of; all that is needed is a willing heart. Everyone is invited to participate in this intergenerational event; age doesn’t matter because there are a variety of jobs to choose from. We especially encourage you to invite friends and neighbors to join us. This is a great opportunity to honor Jesus by serving others. Online registration is now available. Go to www.asburytulsa.org for more information or to sign up.

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