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Publisher’s Note I always felt that L’Amour Diversity Magazine was a magazine out on the grid that was striving to look for the diverse in arts, fashion, life and entertainment. L’Amour Diversity Magazine has dealt with some controversial issues and touched on subjects as they were happening in the real world. I take pride in having been the first SL magazine with a transgender story. We covered the mighty election of the century with many diverse reactions between who wanted Hillary or Donald and why. We covered the controversial topic of marijuana for what I know for many, is much more a positive than a negative. We will again be covering some great stories for our readers of L’Amour Diversity Magazine. We have the Classy N Sassy Spotlight story, other stories will include an expose on Sex & Fashion in Second Life and much much more. So please keep an eye out for these and many Diverse stories from the staff of Diversity. And remember if it needs to be said, “L’Amour Diversity,” is going to bring it. Write On!!!
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STAFF PUBLISHER/EDITOR Ava Jhamin EDITOR IN CHIEF Rienna Rieko Lenoir FASHION EDITOR Trinity Aironaut WRITERS Hadley Carrington Ava Jhamin Rienna Lenoir Jude Tatham PHOTOGRAPHERS Trinity Aironaut Ava Jhamin Rienna Lenoir DIVERSITY MODELS Trinity Aironaut, Jan Bacon, Resmay Bloodstorm, Vichonette Constantine, Jonelle Devonshire, Ava Jhamin, Brice Meda, Thunderstormin, VanessaDelRio Underwood, WhiskyWolf Lighthouse The views and opinions expressed in this publication are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the Publisher. ®2018 L'Amour Productions. All rights reserved. Second Life™ is a registered trademark of Linden Research, Inc.
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Can you believe it's almost Halloween already? Where did 2018 go? Soon it will be time for Christmas shopping and winter will be upon us. This issue is jam packed with lots of treats for you as we start to move into the holiday season and that 'busiest time of the year!' In this issue of L'Amour Diversity Magazine, we have an article featuring one of my favorite SL friends, Avalon Birke and her friend MarieComber as they invite us in to a look at their awesome sim dedicated to learning, mental health resources and a tour of beautiful vintage homes!
Hadley Carrington brings us the wild story of Gyspy Blanchard in her article about Muchausen Syndrome By Proxy. Plus, I am excited to tell you about a new article that will be running regularly in Diversity, Jude's Jewels, brought to us by Jude Tatham featuring those "jewel" locations on the grid that you may not know about. Please enjoy this issue of L'Amour Diversity Magazine!
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Table of Contents
14 R ebranding of a Legend Ava brings us a look at Classy N Sassy in an interview with Cassie1961.
26 Classy N Sassy Editorial See the models of Diversity in these great designs from Classy N Sassy.
40 The SimED Network & American Historic House Tours Meet Avalon Birke and MarieCormier and learn about their sim and all it has to offer!
56 Jude’s Jewels Go inside Limelight, a great club Jude hopped to!
60 Weird Y Wacky Ava brings us a list of October holidays you may have never known existed!
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66 Unity Productions - The Outsiders Ava talks to Pet Karu about her dance troupe and all that she does in SL.
80 Karved Tattoos Meet Toby Velvetleaf, owner of Karved Tattoos and see some of his stunning work!
90 Expose! Sex & Fashion Jude Tatham investigates the question Are people showing too much on SL?
96 Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy Hadley Carrington brings us the heartbreaking story of Gypsy Blanchard
102 Rock Your Rack Event Get an update on how this awesome charity event is doing this year.
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Spotlight Story
Rebranding By: Ava Jhamin
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I met the original Bitch Barbie many years ago. I would say she is in the top 10 of my most favorite people on SL. When she decided to leave SL, I was beyond sad. I never had someone leaving SL affect me the way it did when Barbie left.
By the time I shut down B. Barbie I was hemorrhaging money. I am much more streamlined now. Ava: What is the satisfaction in running an SL Business?
Forward a year, and I get Cassie1961 in my Cassie1961: Seeing a finished outfit, that I box, “I am back Ava!” I had no clue at first, am proud to wear. who it was, and was so confused. Then it hit me, Cassie1961 is B. Barbie, re-branding and coming back as Classy N Sassy, better than ever, with a renewed inspiration. I was so happy to have Cassie1961 back and thought to myself, it was worth her being gone for a year. Her designs are fierce! She has a renewed sense of gusto with her designs. I sat down with Cassie to get the scoop on her return and her new brand, Classy N Sassy. Ava: How did you find SL? Cassie1961: I was looking online for roleplay options to relieve stress in real life. Ava: When and why did you start creating? Cassie1961: I was looking for clothing that fit the roleplay and was unable to find anything I liked so I started to make my own. Ava: I know you left Second Life for a bit. How has your clothing line evolved since you have been back? Cassie1961: I am no longer trying to please everyone, and I have slowed down, so what I produce is higher quality.
Ava: What has changed over the years in running a business on Second Life?
Ava: What are the challenges in running a Cassie1961: The customer base is smaller business in SL and how has it changed over and more discriminating. There are so the years? few that can make original meshes, we are having to be more creative in texturing, so it Cassie1961: Pricing is a challenge, trying is all not cookie cutters. to find that sweet spot between keeping things affordable and not losing money.
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Ava: What is your RL satisfaction regarding creating in SL? Cassie1961: The ability to show my creative side. Ava: What are RL challenges to create in SL? Cassie1961: Balancing family and Second Life. Ava: What do you look for in staff, models, bloggers for your brand? Cassie1961: Honesty, Individuality, Loyalty, and dependability. Ava: How do you market your brand? Cassie1961: At this point, shows and word of mouth. My goal for the next three months is to increase my brand viability. Ava: What sneak peek or new things can we expect from Classy N Sassy for the fall/ winter season? Cassie1961: Warm and cozy to sizzling hot sexy. Ava: What do you want your customers to know about you? Cassie1961: I am always willing to listen. Ava: Do you have anything else that you would like to add? Cassie1961: One of the hardest things that many designers must deal with is the number of amazing mesh makers who have left due to the rampant theft of their work. I totally agree with that statement Cassie, and I have also seen stolen designs being taken to other worlds other than Second Life. I would like to thank you Cassie for not only being my friend, but for coming back to Second Life, and being a wonderful designer on the grid.
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I have been on Second Life for 11 years now, and in the course of that time, I have met many people. In 2016, one of my friends mentioned that he was interested in getting into some kind of therapy program on SL. I knew SL had support groups, but he was actually interested in trying to find a therapist. I had never even considered such a thing existed on SL before. So, I began searching groups and started messaging a few group owners asking if they could send me in the right direction. One of those people was Avalon Birke. Avalon has The Virtual Mental Health Center on the Nonprofit Commons sim, where she provides the SL community with mental health information and resources. We instantly became friends because of my own background in Psychology and have been friends ever since. Avalon is a lovely caring person and we have stayed in touch over the last two years. Recently she was telling me about her new RL and SL Non-Profit, Sim Ed Learning Network. After she told me about it, I really wanted to feature it in this issue of L'Amour Diversity Magazine, because it's a really great resource that I feel people should know about. So, let's learn more about Avalon and her business partner and RL friend, MarieCormier. Their sim consists of two halves. One side is dedicated to the meeting rooms and resource centers and on the other part that Marie calls American Historic House Tours, she is bringing her RL vintage home passion to life. Avalon tells us that in 2006, her RL husband read an article about Second Life and told her "you should check it out, it's like The Sims, maybe you'll like it" Avalon laughs when she tells me this and says, "12 years later..." Marie says that she and her friend Avalon were having coffee together at DZ Akins, one of their favorite RL restaurants when Avalon told her about SL. Marie says that she wasn't sure what to expect, but she checked it out that very day. She tells us that she was immediately hooked and still looks forward to the fun she finds on SL everyday. Avalon says that right now, her main focus on SL is the SimEd region. They are creating educational content, setting up meeting spaces and classrooms and seeing to the everyday operation of the sim. She admits though, that she has a tendency to live at the Collabor88 event when she needs a break from the "work" side of her SL. Marie says that her obsession is old houses, both in RL and now she has brought that obsession into SL. She is currently working on a tour of houses that are good
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examples of the styles presented in "A Field Guide to American Houses" by Virginia Savage McAlester. She says that she enjoys hunting down houses that clearly demonstrate Amercian house styles to visitors, and hopes to get people interested in preservation efforts in the real life struggle to save America's endangered vintage homes. Avalon tells us that the real life non-profit organization of the SimEd Network came about organically for them. She says that they each had some projects they wanted to develop, and they were brainstorming the best way to do that. They knew they wanted a virtual platform, and were very pleasantly surprised when they got their 501(c)(3) status fairly easily. She says that they looked at all the different platform options, from Sansar to Sinespace, to High Fidelity, but none of them came close to what she knew was possible in Second Life. Avalon managed the Wellness Island sim in Second Life for five years and still maintains a mental health resource presence at the Nonprofit Commons. She knew there was a significant number of educators, clinicians, researchers and students in Second Life, so it made sense to her to bring the Sim Ed Network to SL. Marie expands upon what Avalon has to say and explains that they wanted to bring their projects and ideas to a virtual world where people could get free information and education. She says that it is important to both of them to help people, and that Second Life affords them a way to do just that while still having fun. She tells us that "Second Life provides a special opportunity for old house lovers to step into a world where their passions come to life." Marie says that in Second Life, "The vintage homes people drool over in books and photos are now right in front of us in a surprisingly real way, and you can explore and see themn in all their glory." "It's an emotional pull," Marie explains, "and we learn best when our passions are nutured." I asked them what made them want to build a sim like this, did it start as one big idea or start small and grow from there? Avalon laughs and says, "it was one biiig idea." She tells us that they were able to get a great deal of help from the Lindens and particularly thanks Bianca Linden for all her help, "so we were able to hit the ground running." She says though that it is a continual "work in progress" for them as they L’Amour Diversity Magazine | Issue 20, October 2018
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add new content and projects. For Avalon, and how to make it all a reality. I am so that potential for growth is one of the best grateful to her for this!" things about the project. They both say that they met and became Marie enthusastically agrees that from the the best of friends in RL, Avalon says very beginning it was one big idea. She they met "under a very lucky set of says, "we were focused and enthusiastic circumstances" and Marie says that she and still are." She says, "I really do have "immediately knew that this was a lifeto give the credit to my wonderful and time friendship." Marie adds, "She is my AMAZING friend Avalon Birke for making best friend, so when she introduced me it all happen! She knew exactly what to do to Second Life it naturally followed that
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Avalon and Marie would have many, many adventures together, and we have many more to go! I am amazed at how PATIENT she has been with me as I learn Second Life, and how she takes all my constant questions and sweetly answers them without even a hint of annoyance. No small gift, seriously." I asked Avalon if she will be providing psychological services at the sim for the
SL Community and she said, "That’s a good question, since that was my focus on Wellness Island. I don’t provide direct psychological services in Second Life. There are some legal and ethical ins and outs that I am not completely comfortable with yet. That said, we have migrated the entire Wellness Island library and added to it, region-wide. We have a strong Mental Health Resource Center, and have expanded our resources on the Education
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Center side to include physical health and wellness. I also want to get back to offering support groups and classes. My focus is on providing resources and information, offering support to other SL groups, and providing a bridge to RL help when needed. Marie adds that Avalon's Education Center side of the sim is "so welcoming, bright and cheerful. It is healing just to be there." When I asked them both what inspires them in SL, Avalon said, "I am completely incapable of designing or building anything, so I am always inspired by the residents of Second Life and what they are capable of. There is no place like SL, and after 12 years I am still blown away by what residents create. Marie inspires me as well! Seeing SL through the eyes of my dear friend has been a lot of fun." Marie told me, "Avalon inspires me because she is SO creative, even though she doesn't see herself that way, skilled and knowledgeable! She can do anything in SL
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and does it all with such kindness. And the house builders in SL are my superheros. I have had the pleasure and good fortune to meet some of the most talented creators in all of SL." When I asked them about the ups and down of owning such a sim in SL, Marie said, "For me, the downside is definitely that I am not a techy person, and I often run in to issues that I can't resolve. It takes me 5 times as long as the next person to fix something, or to figure out what is going on. But in the end it is worth it because we are always learning, and that's what SimED is all about." Avalon answered the question this way, "Managing a big project like this brings a good deal of work. We both have jobs and families in RL, so time can be limited. The upside is that it is definitely worth it. When someone visits and expresses that
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something here answered a question or opened their minds to something new, it reminds me of why we are here." I asked them if they had any crazy stories they can share with us about things that have happened at their sim, which as our regular readers can attest to, is a standard question that we typically ask people when we feature their sims in the magazine. It just so happened though, that she told me a story prior to the
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interview when we were setting up a time for me to ask her the interview questions, about something that happened recenty. So, when I asked her the question she laughed and said, "Oh boy. We just discovered that a SimED visitor snuck a bunch of pornographic stuff into an alcove of our main Library, and set herself up a home up there! Sex furniture and‌" she coughs, "toys, a condom machine, and x-rated anime running 24/7. We couldn’t figure out why she and assorted
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“guests” were on the region more than we were, or where all our prims had gone! Lesson learned – be careful who you give build rights to. Of course we reported and banned her – seriously, who does something like this? On a Nonprofit sim?? We’re a charity, for goodness sake. But truthfully? We haven’t stopped laughing about it. It was the most bizarre thing I have seen in SL in my 12 years here." Marie adds, "oh man, that story will blow their socks off! This person had no
conscience and violated our very special Island where we want all to feel safe and welcomed. It was so disappointing, but then it was hilarious, just so outrageously funny that I barely even know how to talk about it!" I asked them both what they would change on SL if they could change anything. Marie says she would like "more help from support, or faster replies for support tickets." Then she adds, "they
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need more staff." Avalon tells me that she was asked that question years ago in another interview and her answer is still the same, "technical issues can still be a pain."
and activities not always available in RL."
I asked them both what a day at the SimEd Learning Network would be like and Avalon says, "We are still in building mode in some ways. There is always a When I asked them what they enjoy most new notecard to develop, a new group about SL, Marie thinks for a moment and to contact, a new item to add. As we get says, "hmm just about everything. Where more and more visitors, we get to visit else can you go and do all the things with them, answer questions, and you love in such a short time? Tour a give them a tour." historic house, swim at the beach, visit a museum, take a class, shop for clothes, Marie adds, "If you start your day on the start a study group, build a town?? I really Education side of our sim, Avalon's side, believe that SL is a place where we can you will immediately feel uplifted when explore ourselves and what makes us you land in her town square and take tick." in the welcoming buildings, landscaping and places for outdoor relaxation. Then Avalon winks and adds, "Other than hair as you explore her buildings you will find and clothes and home decor? I believe every kind of resource you that this platform can reach people with can think of related to mental health, even resources, opportunities, socialization, the history of medicine and nutrition! I
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have to say that no one should miss her aviary where you can see, hear and almost feel the water, the sound of the birds, and the beauty of plants. Then she smiles and contiues, "I never want to leave when I visit."
and will have activities and events in the future, mostly related to preservation topics. I am looking for old house lovers to come and study, socialize, and enjoy talking about why we are so drawn to vintage homes!
Marie tells us that on her side of the sim, "there are six houses in McAlester Park that I have chosen based on their realistic adherence to American house styles as defined by Virginia Savage McAlester. There are signs in front of each house that will have notecards explaining the defining features of each style, and will teach the visitor how to identify these styles in real life. This will be an on-going project and will eventually have lots of information inside each house, so "house museums" that visitors can come to enjoy.
I asked them what their future plans are for the SimED Network and Avalon shares, "I’d like to see more SL nonprofit or educational folks use our free facilities for their meetings, displays, and workshops – we are still getting the word out about that. I also plan to update the SL Health Directory – SL has a number of RL qualified clinicians, therapists, social workers, and doctors, and an even higher number of residents who claim to be those things but are not. Consumer education is a passion of mine in both worlds. A list of legitimate health professionals in SL would be a big help." Marie smiles and simply responds, "I look forward to creating new activities and fun things to do for everyone who visits us."
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They would like us to know that they have a Facebook page, a Twitter Feed and a Plurk for the SimEd Learning Network. They are also listed in the Second Life search and they spend a lot of time in outreach to market the sim. I asked them if there is anything else that they wanted to tell the readers of L'Amour Diversity Magazine about the SimEd Learning Network and Marie enthusiasically responded, "Oh gosh yes please come and participate in our Halloween Costume Contest! The very first custom, historically accurate house made for me by VRCreative goes
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to the winner! This house is special to me because it is based on an RL little folk house that was saved from demolition in San Diego, and has now come to life in SL. It is our Folk Victorian, and I love that little house. You get it free if you win!" "Also, for the most creative photo you will win a historically accurate pose created by Avalon Birke! You can test out this pose in the Tin Type studio on Oak Street. It was based on an RL tin type photo. And we had to have a 3rd place prize so we are giving 250L to the 3rd place winner....so you see, you can't
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lose! Just come to our sim and explore all the haunted and creepy spots we have prepared for you, and take a creative and fun photo. Send it full-perm to me or to Avalon before Halloween, and we will let you know the results. I am so excited about it!" Marie also wants us to know, "that eventually American Historic House Tours will need docents to hang out and answer questions for visitors. You don't have to be an expert, just an enthusiast! A select few will be able to live in town in one of the many apartments, rooms, or even townhouses that I have placed on
Docent Row. That is a future endeavor, but I would still love to talk to anyone who loves old houses like I do, and discuss possibilities." Thanks Avalon and Marie for sharing your big idea with us for this issue of L'Amour Diversity Magazine. To our readers, use the SLURL to go visit their sim right now. What are you waiting for? If you want more information, please visit their website.
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Welcome to the first article in my column featuring the gems and jewels Second Life has to offer. Each week I will be exploring the grid and checking out the hottest hangouts, craziest clubs and those special spaces we love to gather in to socialize and have fun. Kicking things off is a rather funky place I stumbled into called Limelight. Labeled as a Social and Sex Club, I haven’t come for the sex, just for the company and if you can ignore the couples getting freaky in the corner and the bootylicious bodies on stage, this club is awesome!
loving the decor, there is something else that makes this club rather appealing; the music.
To say it is eclectic is an understatement and when I arrive there is a rather cool rap tune pulsing across the place and avatars all over are shimmying to the beat. Not The first thing that catches my eye is the my usual choice of music I decide to give dance floor. It is disco and makes me it a chance but then, just as things start want to dance! The flashing lights and to rez and I find a dance I like, the familiar colors are really alluring, and I find myself intro to the Bee Gees classic ‘Staying Alive’ asking where the dance ball is located just starts playing and I can’t help but smile. so I can cut a rug and create some shapes. For the first time in my life I wish I was But other than being a total magpie and wearing a 70s white suit and some killer
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platform heels, but I’m not, and my simple dress will have to make do. Some music just makes you feel upbeat and that has a real effect on the mood of the place and this is one of those tunes. Then like lyrical whiplash the music changes and I am listening to an unknown tune all with French lyrics. I must confess, as an ignorant British girl, I, of course, don’t understand, but I like it.
don’t mind, it comes with the territory and I love that my name is such a great conversation starter.
I chat to a few of the other patrons and the usual subject of my name comes up and that it always makes people think of the Beatles. A few of my fellow dancers start singing a few bars of ‘Hey Jude’ and I laugh and go along with it, probably for the ten thousandth time this week. But I
Limelight is just that, light and fun with a side of naughty. It isn’t a place for the kids, but certainly the ideal hangout for you and your honey. So, grab the SLURL and add Limelight to your teleport list today.
There are plenty of snuggle spots at Limelight and as previously mentioned, plenty of chance to get naughty. You might be put off if carnal pleasure isn’t your thing, but in my opinion, it doesn’t define the club.
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Just For Fun Just when you didn't think the world could not come up with anymore awareness in the month of October.....Surprise here are some of them. Adopt A Dog Month Adopt A Shelter Dog AIDS Awareness Month (President Reagan) (also December) American Cheese Month American Pharmacists Month Link Antidepressant Death Awareness Month Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Month Apple Month Bat Appreciation Month Breast Cancer Awareness Month Bullying Prevention Month (World) Blindness Awareness Month Down Syndrome Awareness Month Dyslexia Awareness Month Eat Better, Eat Together Month Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month Emotional Wellness Month Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home Month (10/1-3/31/13) Fair Trade Month Feral Hog Month or Hog Out Month Gay & Lesbian History Month German-American Heritage Month
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Global ADHD Awareness Month Global Diversity Awareness Month Go Hog Wild - Eat Country Ham Halloween Safety Month Head Start Awareness Month Health Literacy Month Home Eye Safety Month I'm Just Me Because Month Italian-American Heritage Month International Walk To School Month Learn To Bowl Month LGBT History Month Long Term Care Planning Month Month of Free Thought National Aesthetician Month National AIDS Awareness Month Link (Note: July is HIV Awareness Month also.) National Animal Safety and Protection Month National Arts & Humanities Month National Audiology/Protect Your Hearing Month National Bake and Decorate Month National Bullying Prevention Awareness Month National Caramel Month National Chili Month National Chiropractic Health Month National Cookbook Month National Crime Prevention Month National Critical Illness Awareness Month National Cyber Security Awareness Month National Dental Hygiene Month National Disability Employment Awareness Month National Depression Education & Awareness Month National Disability Employment Awareness Month National Domestic Violence Awareness Month National Down Syndrome Month National Dwarfism Awareness Month National Ergonomics Month Link National Family Sexuality Education Month National Field Trip Month National "Gain The Inside Advantage" Month National Go On A Field Trip Month National Kitchen & Bath Month Link National Liver Awareness Month National Medical Librarian Month National Medicine Abuse Awareness Month National Orthodontic Health Month National Physical Therapy Month National Popcorn Poppin' Month National Pork Month Link L’Amour Diversity Magazine | Issue 20, October 2018
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National Protect Your Hearing Month National Sarcastic Awareness Month National Seafood Month Link National Spina Bifida Awareness Month National Stamp Collecting Month National Stop Bullying Month National Substance Abuse Prevention Month National Toilet Tank Repair Month National Work and Family Month National Sudden Infant Death Syndrome Awareness Month Organize Your Medical Information Month Photographer Appreciation Month Pizza Month Polish American Heritage Month Positive Attitude Month Right Brainers Rule! Month Sausage Month Spinach Lovers Month Squirrel Awareness Month Link (Different Than Squirrel Appreciation Day in January) World Menopause Month
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Unity Productions Take
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I felt the Lord's presence at this amazing event regarding suicide, strength and the ladies of this production, who found their inner strength. Readers of L’Amour Diversity get ready, as the ladies tells their stories of struggle, hardship and suicide.
never expericenced on Second life. I wanted to know each one of them and show them that even when it’s difficult to trust in the Lord....know He will never leave you and that He will never give you more than you can bear.
They came to a valley, each for their own reasons, and each had considered ending their life. I bawled at their individual stories, I felt them in such a way that I had
I sat down with Pet and the ladies that made up the troupe for The Outsiders, which is a remake of The Misfits, one of their older productions. I wanted to
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first ask all the ladies in the troupe a few questions and then sit down with Pet to find out about this wonderful dance company, and their goal, and to delve deeper into the reason they all brought their stories to Second Life. We begin with Lillybett Latrell, Lilly to her friends, who also runs Deserie Goulet.
Ava: Why did you join Unity Productions? Lilly: The warm feeling when we are together is so important. All our productions are heartfelt. Ava: How is working with Pet? Lilly: It's an inspiration she pushes us to learn new things. She finds our talents
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and uses them. Ava: How has this story impacted you in SL and RL? Lilly: It has reminded me about what some people go through in their lives and to have more patience and compassion.
would be doing. I was new to dance so, I was excited for the opportunity. Initially, I did not really comprehend exactly what we would be doing or how it would affect me. Ava: How is working with Pet?
Resmay: When I joined Unity, Pet did not realize what she was in for. I did not want to Resmay Bloodstorm (Meishagirl), plays admit I knew almost nothing. I had taken Montana in the production. a class or two at JAPA (Journey Academy of Performing Arts) but I had no actual “hands Ava: Why did you join Unity Productions? on” experience. Pet picked a song and said “dance us” to it. I had no idea what she was Resmay: A friend of mine is a dancer and he asking me to do, so I IM’d my friend to ask introduced me to Pet. She invited us to come him how to do to do that. I had just bought meet some of the other members of Unity. a few dances, but had no idea what any of She explained what Unity was and what they them were. Scared to death, I just picked a
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this production 3 days a week for more than 7 months. To say it has been trying No one in the show just dances, we were at times is an understatement. We have all given a song to choreograph, which laughed, cried and even screamed at was a new experience for all of us. Pet things that would not work. The show worked hours with each of us. Pet is an runs 3 days a week the entire month of amazing person and her approach to October and I have seen so many lives Christianity is different than most. She touched by it, I was one of them. God has been criticized by many for it. To me used us as a tool to deliver His message, she is real and approachable. She makes that we are all worthy of His love and me realize I am worthy and it is ok to forgiveness. This story was not an easy make mistakes and I am human. one for many to hear, yet those who needed it, received it. Ava: How has this story impacted you in SL and RL? I did connect with parts of the story on many levels. I am a very upbeat, happy Resmay: Being involved in Unity and The person who always wondered how Outsiders has touched me at a deeper someone could ever consider committing level than I ever imagined. We worked on suicide, I found out. At a very low part L’Amour Diversity Magazine | Issue 20, October 2018
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in my life I was having issues with a best friend, a family member and a separation from a husband. While dealing with all of that I lost a dog. This dog was my world. She is what kept me going. She was my best friend. Losing her on top of all of that, was more than I could take, and for months, all I could do was cry.
took a leave of absence from work to go to outpatient treatment every day for a month and drove 45 minutes each way. God was with me every step of the way. He delivered me from the depths of hell.
Afterwards, I got a tattoo on my back of angel wings with puppy paws going up it and across the top, the words "He Carried I did not want to hurt like that anymore. I Me." The Outsiders show reminded me
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how I felt. I was so honored to be a part of His work, hoping to reach just one person who needed it. Thank you Pet for believing in me and allowing me to be a part of something so important to so many.
felt God in the presence of the whole sim. We hit it right off and ended up spending 5.5 hours on Skype, discussing the story and also getting to know one another. I am truly honored to know Pet Karu. Ava: How did you find the wonderful world of Second Life?
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mine. We were both in Paltalk, where we did poetry readings and hung out. He brought me to SL and I was blown away by it. My male friend used a female avatar and he sent me to sex sims. He also gave me lingerie to put on and as a former sex addict, I did it. My first 3 weeks I was basically doing cybersex on steroids. God allowed me to meet a gentleman by the name of Harvey Global and his
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partner Cris Cross. Harvey saw me at one of the sims buying clothes. I was putting on boxes and Harvey helped me. Harvey took me dancing at the Titanic and bought me a gown and jewelry and took me to far more appropriate sims. He took me to Lost Gardens and I would go there every morning, and do Tai Chi and talk to God, and to understand my place in Second Life.
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I would hear music and dancing was always in me. I would see the music acting out. In RL, I always wanted to be a choreographer and now 40 years later this is exactly what I do in Second Life.
When I go to clubs, I use Nadine 6 and don't ever use my dance hud in clubs.
Ava: What can Pet be found doing if she isn't doing all your work in SL: for fun, hobbies etc.?
I collect art, am involved in discussion groups, philosophy and poetry readings at Pillow Talk, Roadside Philosophers. I also lead my group, Relationships in SL & Beyond, on Wednesdays at 8:30 a.m. SLT at Whole Brain Health.
Pet: I love meeting people and dancing.
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geared toward the older generation. Ava: What is your history of performing on Second Life?
vision with another gal and that is where Unity Productions was born. Ava: Can you tell the Readers what exactly is Unity Productions?
Pet: I started about 6 months into Second Life. I attended a HUD-based spiritual Pet: Unity Productions is a faith based, dance group. We wanted it to be more group that tells the Bible Stories on stage Christian-based and started Come Away in my own personal way. The turning point was that I wanted to appeal the all My Beloved Moving Meditation and I avatars and The Misfits was the first one would play music and dance. I saw the that we did. The Outsiders was taken
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answer, it's getting to know the person’s heart. Ava: For our readers that don't know can you give us the inspiration for The Outsiders performance? Pet: There is a line that most of you will be familiar with - into each life a little rain must fall. These stories in "The Outsiders" are real and personal to us and maybe to you also. The sampling of horror stories that are depicted on stage are real and can be any member of the audience. We all know someone whose life has been touched by a horror. We all know someone who is just too good for words and freaks out when they discover, "they are not the best.” What we tried to demonstrate in this show was the formation of community. It is through the lack of community that we begin to feel loneliness, sorrow and that our lives don't matter. Each actor on stage felt some degree of aloneness or that they have hit rock bottom, and no one cares. This play is to show you that you do matter to someone. You have a unique voice to be sung by living your life out loud. Your face will be missed. Even your energy, spirit and light contribute to the tapestry of the universe. from the original of The Misfits. The Outsiders was taking it to the next level. Ava: Can you tell the Readers how they can get involved in Unity Productions.
Ava: This production deals with the very sensitive issue of suicide. Can you tell the readers of Diversity why this was important to you and the troupe?
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Ava: Was it hard for you and the others to ok to be me. I accept me for me and the open yourself up to the subject matter? rest of society, if you do or don't isn't my worry. God loves me...The rest of the Pet: Some members of the troupe were world will tell me I am ugly, I am this or timid and shy and worried how they were that. I love me, and God loves me, and going to be perceived after this. They the rest can suck SL rocks. want to please me. Unity Productions was missing two members of the troupe as Ava: Why did you and the others need to they are still healing and just can’t receive get this out? the message right now. For the rest of the troupe it had to be done. It's cathartic, and Pet: It needed to be told, the story it's where the healing starts. needed to be put out there. With the ridicule of kids and bullying, my heart Ava: Can you tell the readers of Diversity aches for kids and humanity in general. what “This Is Me” on your titles is about? We need to get back to loving one another Pet: The ending song for the show is “This and put all the crap behind us. Is Me” from The Greatest Showman. That is what I consider my theme song. It's Ava: What do you have coming up for
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your wonderful gifts on Second Life. I thought I would also end this with my Hip Hop De Boc a fun non-heavy show own take on this show. It takes a lot to with 45 minutes of classic music but the impress me. I think the realness of the dances will not be the typical ballet. This people in this performance, along with will be around the 1st of November. the music being spot on for each dance they did brought it home for me. 10 OUT In December, we will also be doing a show OF 10 STARS.... called, "Not Another Christmas Carol.� This is not your typical nativity, mushy Christmas. It starts at a bus stop and the commercialization of the holidays, but ends with the gift of the Spirit of Christmas. Thank you so much Pet, for sitting down with me. It has truly been an honor to speak with you and get to know you and
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I was at one of Second Life hangouts when I met Toby Velvetleaf. We were just talking, and photographer talk led to tattoo talk, and we really got along.
process of working with him on the project, and not only seeing the final work but having a say in exactly the placement and the look of the tattoo.
I have had a hard time finding tattoos I like since I have gone to mesh, because I loved my old system tattoos so much and several of them were custom made. Slowly, I have found people to remake them for me, and I had that one last tattoo to find someone to recreate for me, so I hired Toby to help me out with it. I loved the tattoo, and I thinkToby's way of doing a tattoo is brilliant. I loved the
I knew I had to do a story on Toby. We sat together and got right down to what inspires this man and makes him tick.
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Ava: Where is Toby in this great big world outside Second Life? Toby: Greater Western Sydney, Australia. Ava: How did you find the wonderful
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Once I learned how to make changes to my avatar with freebies, I was thrust Toby: I was told about Second Life by a into the SL sex trade, like most people, family member who had just joined, back apparently. I learned that my emoting in 2010. skills were pretty good, so I was put on a pole to dance for my first L$'s. Shortly Ava: Can you tell the readers what you did after, I began to learn photography and when you first came to Second Life? became good at that, enough to gather money to upgrade my avatar's skin, eyes, Toby: I ran in to walls, struggled to return hair, etc., leading me to become curious conversations in Nearby Chat and learned about making my own tattoos. that flying was not my forte. Fortunately, I met some great people who helped Ava: How did you come to do Tattoos in me with the basics and I was walking a Second Life? straight line in no time. L’Amour Diversity Magazine | Issue 20, October 2018
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Toby: While I could have bought all my tattoos at the time I felt, as in RL, tattoos should be personal in nature. This drove me to learn to make my own, for personal use. I was later encouraged by friends to sell my creations as they were good enough, in their eyes. I enjoyed the process, and since I was experienced in Photoshop, it seemed a natural progression from photography. Ava: What inspires you in your work?
Toby: Whether it's photography or tattoos, I get my inspiration from the people I work with, or who commission my work. Most of the time it is simply through chatting with friends, who offer suggestions through "You know what would make a cool tattoo?" scenarios. Ava: Are you an artist in RL? Toby: I am not an artist, but I enjoy and appreciate art. I do like to draw, and I am pretty good at it. I designed my RL tattoos, as I felt I wanted something truly mine and not picked off a wall or out of a book,
like everyone else's. I have designed a few SL tattoos which I hand drew for a few customers. Having purchased my pen and tablet, I now do a lot more hand drawing and touching up of my SL tattoo designs.
My part is to bring it all together, as radical or unrelated as their texture designs may be. I am very OCD, so explaining what goes through my head is difficult, but I do have the ability to see the designs from so many angles that my customers get as many options as possible for their final piece.
Ava: Can you explain to the readers what goes on in your head or the process of Ava: Do you have a creative process as far making a custom tattoo for a client? as how you work with clients, Toby? Toby: Making a custom tattoo is easy as Toby: I didn't when I first started out. It the customer generally has their idea and was very much a "take the textures, make textures in mind. the tattoo and deliver it" approach. There
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was a lot of to-ing and fro-ing, sharing are offline. snapshots, uploading textures wastefully, etc. Ava: What is your RL satisfaction from creating in SL? The process was crude. Thanks to applications like Skype and Discord, I Toby: I enjoy knowing the person gets now hold free consultations, sharing exactly what they want in the end and my screen, showing the customer how their reactions are truly priceless. I have the tattoo will be put together as they heard too many horror stories, ranging watch and instruct me. I feel that making from bad customer service to poor quality a tattoo for someone is now more of a work, delivered after long waits, etc., journey, where they play a big part in and have performed countless tattoo getting exactly what they wanted. I also rescues in SL. I get a lot of satisfaction show customers progress videos, if they from making people happy. As far as the are not able to screen share at the time or quality of my tattoos goes, I try to make
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them as seamless and non-mirrored as possible. Something very few tattoo designers do in SL.
non-custom tattoo customers. Anyone who has bought a generic tattoo from my Marketplace store should also come away with the satisfaction of wearing a KARVED Ava: What do you want the people to take tattoo. away from owning a tattoo of yours Toby? Ava: Do you have a favorite tattoo that Toby: I want them to take away the you created so far? experience, how they were included in the process at every step and truly made to Toby: Yes. I created a very simple, yet feel it is their custom tattoo. I want them powerful tattoo that meant a lot to the to be so satisfied with the quality and person for whom I created it. It was the service, they find it easy to recommend words "Dum Spiro Spero,” which means me to others and, more importantly, "While I breathe, I hope" in Latin. It was return to me for more work. This includes just text that went under the left collar L’Amour Diversity Magazine | Issue 20, October 2018
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bone of one of the most amazing women in my SL. What made it my favorite was how it related to the wonderful spirit and resilience of this courageous woman. I will be accused of bias, but it truly is my favorite. As a more generic tattoo, I am fond of my Flowing Bloom and Dragon Majesty tattoos on Marketplace.
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I am a curvy girl in real life, and like the Sir-Mix-A lot song, this Baby Got Back’. Unfortunately, I have rather low body confidence, so my avatar doesn’t reflect my real-life shape. But even if your selfesteem is sky high, is it okay to show every inch of skin, even in a virtual world?
attention? Surely there is a time and a place for that, but does it have to be on display when I am out shopping or at a casual hangout with my friends?
Ironically, this has become the norm now in our virtual world, so much so that when someone walks past you, totally covered Second Life has made mega bucks up, they look out of place. Now don’t get on avatars letting it all hang out, and me wrong, Second Life is about freedom everyday, designers are bringing us more of speech, expression, experimentation revealing and intimate day wear, showing and everything in between. Other than off more of those pixelated bodies. a few that have been in SL for years, Perhaps SL should go full natural and let and simply aren’t interested in how us all be naked all the time! their avatar looks, we all try to create a character that is confident and a big pull I am by no means a prude and some of this game is that we can wear anything tasteful cleavage or a sneaky butt cheek we want, anytime we want. here and there is all good in my book, but why do so many beautiful avatars, My avatar is everything I am not in real life of all shapes and sizes, choose to dress and I constantly refer to her as my virtual like a street walker? Have we forgotten Barbie. I like nothing better than styling how to dress for ourselves and are we a look or experimenting with my clothes, only interested in gaining mostly sexual however, I don’t always want parts of my
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body on display. But does covering up make lady called Storm, that I met at a shopping me a bore and out of touch here? event disagreed with me. “I think you can find anything you want, just like real life. Everywhere I go in SL, I am faced with When I was into BDSM I was buying sexy and extreme fashion, items of clothing most revealing clothes, but now I buy anything people wouldn’t look twice at in real life. that fits well and looks good.” I was curious Whenever I search for a place or a person, as what drew her to an outfit, expecting her to soon as I click the search button I am faced mention how revealing or fitted it was, but with ads for ‘gentleman’s’ clubs full of female she didn’t. “I shop for myself, so the main avatars in all manner of positions, their body thing I look for is the quality. I don’t want my parts sized to the max and exposed to the clothes to look cheap and they must have full. good textures.” Why does SL have to be so overtly sexual? Can’t we play in this adult game without every encounter turning into a pornographic nightmare? And before you say ‘sex sells,’ so do a lot of other things. This isn’t about sex in SL, but rather SL fashion, so I talked to a few fashion-conscious folks that I met on my travels and asked their opinion on the fashion trends out now. Suggesting that clothes in SL are too revealing, one of the people I spoke to, a
I talked to a female friend of mine about this and wondered if perhaps I had got it wrong. “I actually do think there are too many poorquality outfits that over-expose, but there are also a lot of clothes, in a hundred different styles to choose from, that are actually pretty great.” She went on to say, “So if you are prim and proper and don’t like the revealing outfits, there is a choice for more every day clothing, you just have to look a bit harder.” Still not convinced, I had a chat with another
good friend of mine, Jaylen Oh, who also happens to own shopping event On9, and is the creator behind Me Sew Sexy fashion brand. I asked him straight out, “why do women in SL wear such revealing clothes?” His response was not what I wanted to hear, but actually made sense. “In SL, we do things that we generally would not or cannot do in RL. We all wear and do what makes ourselves feel good. Let's be honest, few of us have model figures and walk around wearing sexy clothes in RL and so, in SL we get to dress like those lucky few the mainstream media has told us look great. So, we want to look good and feel good in SL. That is the reason why.” I wanted to stamp my foot and say “No,” that clothing in SL is degrading to women and then I stopped and realized that unless you are playing a slave on a Gorean roleplay sim, you wear whatever you want and for many different reasons. If you have curves on top of curves it is fine to wear a pair of denim shorts that disappear among your folds. If you have perfect perky gravity defying breasts, why can’t you wear an open chested dress? It seems that this writer’s idea of what is acceptable and what isn’t, doesn’t echo what many people say in SL, and that is okay. Dress in what makes you happy and lets all enjoy the fashion highs and lows this crazy, curve obsessed, virtual world has to offer.
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Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy: Murder of Mom By: Hadley Carrington It all began at the age of three months for Gypsy Rose Blanchard, reports her father, Rod. Though divorced, Dee Dee Blanchard began telling him about different ailments that Gypsy had, beginning with Sleep Apnea, for which Gypsy would need a breathing monitor. As the years passed, more ailments
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seemed to continue to strike poor Gypsy. Although, even at the worst times, Gypsy could smile and laugh.
Unfortunately, when the pair were forced to flee from Hurricane Katrina, they could still only afford a public tenement in Springfield, Missouri, thanks to Rod’s child
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camera, even when she was bald from chemotherapy for the leukemia. Dee Dee was so supportive of Gypsy, she shaved her own head as a sign of love and care. She appeared to be a real “supermom” by anybody who knew the two. They were constantly holding hands. Sadly, Gypsy also developed even more illnesses as the years passed by. She suffered from problems with her eyes and ears. She needed a feeding tube inserted as a result of gastrointestinal issues. Gypsy also developed: incontinence, allergies, anxiety, seizures, lung disease, asthma, and a heart murmur. support and the governmental check Dee Dee drew for Gypsy’s disabilities. They were lucky in the fact that someone in the community started a GoFundMe page to assist in all the extra costs. A look in the medicine closet revealed 50 or more medication bottles. The town of Springfield stepped up to assist this loving mother and daughter establish housing and other essentials. After hearing Gypsy’s struggles, Habitat for Humanity built them a fully accessible home after Dee Dee broke the news that Gypsy now had Multiple Sclerosis and needed a wheelchair. Hospital records show Dee Dee taking Gypsy to the hospital over 100 times from 2005-2015, including several free medical air lifts and non-profit hospitals like the Children’s Hospital of New Orleans. Those around her felt inspired by her bright glow under such dismal circumstances. She was gifted trips to Disney Land by generous citizens.
Even in seemingly dire circumstances, she somehow made trips to the Special Olympics and was also named, Honorary Queen of the Krew Parade, the city’s version of Mardi Gras. It was quite the honor. Throughout it all, Gypsy never seemed to feel sorry for herself, as many in a similar circumstance would. She seemed to always see the glass half full even when they removed her salivary glands to control her drooling, and she endured other multiple surgeries. Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy is feigning or inducing sickness to one’s child. The goal is to receive sympathy and care from others for the parent, normally the mother. When a mother introduces an illness or ailment causing substance that is too harsh for the child, many times it ends up in death. The Syndrome is known as a mental illness, because it involves an emotional condition. Let’s fill in the blanks in the story.
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read examining the Harry Potter series. Gypsy was isolated and controlled by her mother. Remember the hand holding? Dee Dee used that as a type of assertive power by squeezing Gypsy’s hand, to keep her from seeking outside help. According to Munchausen Syndrome expert, Dr. Marc Feldman, the victim is like a hostage and suffocating under the abuser’s control. Along with the medical abuse, Gypsy reported physical abuse. She was hit with coat hangers and an open hand. She did try to runaway once; however, she was located by Dee Dee who claimed the girl had the mental capacity of a 7-yearold, who’s real birthday was unknown as Dee Dee “lost” her birth certificate in the hurricane. Dee Dee then handcuffed Gypsy to her bed for 2 weeks.
her mother was sleeping. She was on a dating app, when she met a man named Nicholas Godejohn. They exchanged sexy photos and texting relentlessly. After a while, they were discussing killing her manipulative and dangerous mother. Godejohn agreed to kill Dee Dee when Gypsy told him about her abuse. Godejohn traveled to MO to protect his girlfriend, and the plan was in the works; it was an easy enough scheme.
In June of 2015, Godejohn entered the house where he stabbed Dee Dee to death while Gypsy crouched in the bathroom covering her ears. She was able to make out some of Dee Dee’s screams, as she was yelling for Gypsy’s help. Gypsy held her ears closed more tightly, so as not to hear the murder. When it was over, Nicholas and Gypsy had sex in her bedroom, mailed the knife to After one argument, Dee Dee smashed Nicholas’ house, stole about $4000 Dee Gypsy’s computer with a hammer and Dee had in the house and left for a hotel told her if she wasn’t quiet, she would outside Springfield. When they were smash her fingers with the hammer. The caught, they were held on $1,000,000 threats came continually and left Gypsy in bond. After considering the abuse and a constant state of fear. Gypsy was forced life that Dee Dee had devised for Gypsy, to pretend she was paralyzed from the mitigating circumstances applied to her waist down and Dee Dee warned Gypsy case. She was sentenced to 10 years. not to move her legs in the wheelchair and threatened her with severe Godejohn’s trial starts later this month. punishment. The lawyers will also seek mitigating circumstances for him, as Nicholas has As soon as she within reach of a Autism, and they feel this factor should be computer, she talked with people while considered in his sentencing. Godejohn’s
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existing criminal charges included fondling himself in McDonald’s for 9 hours. However, the prosecutor is going to try to convict Godejohn on the charges of First Degree Murder and Felony Armed Criminal Action, and Nichols faces a lifetime sentence.
a month in child support to help pay for what he believed to be true, that Gypsy was severely disabled. Rod Blanchard posted a petition in an attempt to say that Gypsy never had a chance. Rod says “We all have failed Gypsy, her mother, the doctors, the police, and myself. Any one of us could have done more to free This is an unusual case of Muchausen her from hell with her mother. She never Syndrome By Proxy, because normally the had a chance, she was brainwashed, mother kills the child, but in this instance, threatened.” The petition closed with the mother was killed by the child. 9,442 supporters. Gypsy has recovered According to the petition Gypsy’s father, from all her “ailments” and is currently Rod Blanchard, put up on change.com, he incarcerated in Missouri for her 10 year was forcibly estranged by Dee Dee from sentence. his daughter. He states he continued to try to be the best father he could to his daughter. He continued to pay $1,200
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Rock Your Rack is the creation of Jamee Sandalwood and is owned exclusively by Models Giving Back in SecondLife. L’Amour Diversity Magazine has been supporting Jamee and the cause for over 3 years. I believe in this charity and Jamee, and her team works hard to give back. Any charity we partner with must be a legitimate and documented RL charity. They also need to have a charity rating of at least 90 percent on Charity Navigator. The dates are slated to be October 5 - October 19, 2019. We want to see anyone who is willing to be a team player and has top notch skills on the runway, with styling and technique, at our castings! Watch our FB page for all the details! In 2018, once again, Jamee and her team didn’t disappoint with shopping, shows, artwork and much more in her cause for Models Giving Back. It’s not too late to give to this wonderful cause.
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Here are some stats for this year’s event: To date, Models Giving Back & RFL have raised L$540,841(approximately $2000 USD) to donate to charity. Part 1 – selling the Lindens – was done 10/14/2018 Jamee states: “We took out our limit with Linden Labs – all but L$200L was able to be sold – which will be kept in our fund and added to as people continue to sell items in their stores and contribute to the cause – the remaining funds will be removed at the end of the year – We will round up the amount to make it $2000 USD.“ Congratulations Jamee and Models Giving Back!
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lamourproductions.org CREATIVE ACKNOWLEDGMENTS GRAPHICS Magazine Layout by Rienna Lenoir PHOTOGRAPHY Photos by Ava Jhamin (4, 14 - 23, 66 - 79, 102 - 115) Photos by Trinity Aironaut (Cover, 26 - 39) Photos by Jude Tatham (58 - 59, 90 - 93) Courtesy of Avalon Birke (42 - 43, 46 - 47, 50 - 51) Courtesy of Toby Velvetleaf (80 - 89)
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Advertising Special!!! Choose L'Amour Diversity for your advertising needs. The following are the advertising packages for ads within the magazine utilizing your own artwork (see specifications for each package). If you would like us to create your ad, please request that from Ava Jhamin, who will schedule that for you at an additional cost. ::NOTE:: These are special pricing packages for L'Amour Diversity Magazine, which means if you purchase NOW you are locked in at this price for consecutive future issues. If you cease to run your ad for even one month, the pricing specials will no longer be in effect.
PLATINUM LEVEL $L5,000 / Issue
$L4,000 / Issue
Full-Page Ad (full spread)
Full-Page Ad (full spread)
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Bi-monthly 6 issues/year.
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Size: 2048W x 1536H (72 dpi)
GOLD LEVEL
• Bi-monthly 6 issues/year. • Size: 2048W x 1536H (72 dpi)
Includes your logo on
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L'Amour Productions
website
Package does not include website advertising.
lamourproductions.org. Get 1 Ad FREE if paid up front 1 year $L25,000.
SILVER LEVEL $L3,000 / Issue
BRONZE LEVEL $L1,500 / Issue
1/2-Page Ad (single page)
1/4-Page Ad
• Bi-monthly 6 issues/year.
• Bi-monthly 6 issues/year.
• Size: 1024W x 1536H
• Size: 512W x 768H
(72 dpi)
(72 dpi)
Package does not include
Package does not include
website advertising.
website advertising.
IMPORTANT All ads must be PAID IN FULL at the time of ordering to reserve your spot immediately! ALL FUNDS MUST BE PAID TO AVA JHAMIN. Please include a message in the payment details text box indicating what the payment is for (LEVEL/MONTH/BUSINESS NAME). Your ad must have your store or brand name included in the title. Unless told otherwise we will use the same ad issue. Contact Ava Jhamin with questions.
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Issue 20 October, 2018 | L’Amour Diversity Magazine