Digital Edition: September / October 2012
F E A T U R E Interview with
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SNOW
former Real Housewives of Atlanta Star
HEALTH AND FITNESS
MUST HAVE FALL COLORS
What is GMO?
Get ready, get set, Dare to Dream!
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PUBLISHER’S NOTE
Welcome Welcome to our first digital edition of Inspired Women! We hope that you will enjoy reading IWM and that we are able to accomplish our mission of encouraging, motivating and inspiring divine excellence in you. Regardless of where you find yourself today, we all need some encouragement and inspiration. We hope that Inspired Women Magazine is one of those tools that will shed light and encourage you to move forward with God’s purpose for your life. There is power when women come together and unite as daughters of the King. These articles are written by ordinary women who like you, desire to live extraordinary lives to honor the gift placed inside them. In this issue you will read about DeShawn Snow, former Ex-Real Housewives of Atlanta star. Her story, like many of us, is about the struggles of life and the victory she attains through standing firm in her faith. Today, she stands strong and using her talents to help other women and “tweens” find their inner strength.
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Wisdom Speaks Excellence &
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CHRISTIAN LIVING
by Karin Syren As we promised in our June article, we are continuing this month with our examination of what Wisdom speaks to us. (see Proverbs 8:6-14) As we dedicate ourselves to speaking the words that God has spoken, His wisdom, we can be assured of a good harvest. (Isaiah 55:11) What incredibly practical insight we have been given to help us live our daily lives! After all, God is eminently concerned about our day-today existence and wisdom is the vehicle He has provided to insure our success. (Psalm 138:8) The kingdom of God is seedtime and harvest (Genesis 8:22), so today let us set our intention to sow nothing but words of wisdom, good seed, into our surroundings and we can expect the same kind of harvest that God Himself reaped throughout Genesis 1 – God said and then God saw. Thomas Jefferson said honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom. So if excellence produces right things, then honesty, which is simply transparent truth in all things, freely salted with love, would seem to be a good place to begin. Let’s begin by checking to make sure our words are excellent and true. Straight dealings with no twists or bends will be the result.
“For my mouth shall speak truth; And wickedness is an abomination to my lips.”
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Proverbs 8:7 KJV One cannot speak excellence without speaking truth; the two are inextricably linked. The excellence of Wisdom is founded in Truth (John 14:6). Proverbs 8:7 takes it a step further and assures us that anything but truth is wickedness and cannot be in the mouth at the same time as truth and still be called Wisdom. (See James 3:11) Truth and wickedness are incompatible on every level and nothing less than truth is acceptable to Wisdom. Not only is Jesus Christ Truth personified, but 1 Corinthians 1:30 assures us that He has been made Wisdom to each of us who has chosen Him as our focal point. Hallelujah - we are not left to our own devices! (1 John 4:4). What changes might you experience in your surroundings if the only words that came from your lips were excellent and true and each time you opened your mouth, you were assured that your words pro-
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“Finally, brethren, whatever is true,whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure,whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute,if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things.”
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duced only right things? The Hebrew word for right things is miyshor, meaning straightness, concord, honesty, equity, righteousness, a level land.
“Listen, for I shall speak noble things; and the opening of my lips will produce right things.”
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Take a few moments to consider quite specifically what would be produced in the circumstances of your life if each time you opened your mouth, the words which came out were words of wisdom. Would you perhaps be better positioned for healing, for promotion, for healthier relationships, and a great deal more, if your words were in line with God’s words, reflections of true Wisdom? What do you have to lose? Begin today by monitoring your words closely. What is coming out of your mouth? And what is the fruit you have been experiencing? If you are not pleased with your results, make a quality decision to fill yourself with the Word of God and then to speak from the overflow of a heart filled with wisdom. (Matthew 12:34). Acknowledge that you have the Greater One in you and that He has been made Wisdom to you, that you have the mind of Christ and Truth itself lives within your reborn spirit. Then purpose this day, and every day going forward, to speak into your world, not the world’s wisdom, but the Wisdom that is the Word of God. This requires a critical quality decision not to go back and forth between the wisdom of the world and the Wisdom of God (see James 1:8)! The change in your circumstances will not only be measureable, but breathtaking and awe-inspiring as well! Jesus said in John 14:6, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. And since we have learned that Jesus Christ has been made Wisdom unto us (1 Corinthians 1:30), we have also seen that we can be assured that it all ties into one package. Jesus makes it abundantly clear to us that it all goes hand in hand.
“The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” Vince Lombardi
The Greek word for life in John 14 is Zoe and it denotes the God kind of life, the high life, if you will. If we take time to ponder it, we will admit that is the kind of life we are all seeking. Living in the Way will result in this high Life of God, and Truth and Wisdom are its characteristics! Make your own quality decision today to walk in the Way, speaking only Truth in excellence, and actively submitting to Wisdom’s way in your life. This will definitely exercise your faith, but after all, we are meant to walk by faith and not by sight. (2 Corinthians 5:7) Consider a word study of truth in both Old and New Testaments. It may well reveal to you that an adjustment in your personal concept of truth is in order for you to be in agreement with the Biblical standard.
Copyright ©2010/2012 Karin Syren Adapted & Reprinted with permission from The Bible Minute: One Year of Concise Bible Studies for On the Go Christians Order your copy at BarnesandNoble.com
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FAMILY
Mama Bear and Brave:
A Post for Every Christian Parent by Lori Hatcher
I say no. While most Christian parents acknowledge their young adult children’s right to choose their own professions, spouses, and recreation, we do not have to stand idly by and watch our children fling the faith of their fathers to the wind. Unlike the myriad of possibilities for a major, a profession, or a job, all of which can be subject to the individual interests and inclinations of our children, there is only one viable option for our children’s spiritual lives: Faith. “I am the way, the truth, and the life,” states Christ, “no one comes to the Father except through me.” “See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. For I command you today to love the LORD your God, to walk in his ways, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the LORD your God will bless you in the land you are entering to possess.
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It’s been a while since a cartoon moved me to tears, but Brave, Disney’s new release by Pixar, did just that. An enchanting story about the wonderful, sometimes awful, always complex relationship between a mother and daughter, Brave begins with a curlyhaired redhead sitting at her mother’s knee learning the basics of life as a princess. Along with the decidedly manly pursuits of archery and horseback riding allowed by her father, Merida learns the dress, decorum, and skills necessary to one day rule a kingdom. And like many modern-day princesses, she chafes at her mother’s tutelage and chooses instead to go her own way. She rejects her mother’s vision for her life and casts off the perceived shackles that come with living out the destiny of a king’s daughter. Through an exciting series of events, Merida realizes the value of her mother’s traditions, while Elinor, her mother, realizes that her daughter should have the freedom to choose her own future. Perhaps it’s ok, she concedes, for her daughter to be a bow-toting, horseriding princess. Maybe it’s not just ok, she acknowledges, but even good for a young adult to choose her own recreation, profession, and spouse. The movie is a thought-provoking, sensitive encouragement to mothers and daughters to respect and embrace each other’s differences. But what’s a parent to do when her child rejects the faith of her parents in her quest to make her own way in the world? Pixar doesn’t examine the spiritual side of destiny and calling, but the parallels are there. In order to respect our children’s independence, must we concede our children’s right to choose a path that travels away from God? Must we allow them to cast faith by the wayside like so many traditions in their quest for independence and self-government?
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But if your heart turns away and you are not obedient, and if you are drawn away to bow down to other gods and worship them, I declare to you this day that you will certainly be destroyed.” (Deuteronomy 30:15-18). Without spoiling the ending for those who haven’t seen it yet, one of the most intense and poignant scenes of the movie comes when Elinor, Merida’s mother, fights a raging, maniac bear that threatens to rip her precious daughter to shreds. As the bear looms over Merida with its teeth bared and its jaws dripping, Elinor springs to her rescue as only a mama bear can do. It is a life or death battle that the mama bear fights with every ounce of strength she has. There is no other option. A great and terrible battle wages for our children. Instead of a grizzly bear trying to sink its teeth into their tender throats, the enemy wants to destroy their souls. He will not rest until he has devoured our sons and daughters, and it’s up to us, Mama and Papa bears, to vanquish him. We must do battle for the hearts and lives of our children. We must fight with every ounce of spiritual strength we possess. We must win this battle of all battles. There is no other option. “For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds” (2 Corinthians 10:3-4). “Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. “Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand” (Ephesians 6:10-13). Will you join me in doing battle for the hearts and lives of our children? I invite you to stand with me as I wrestle in prayer before God like Jacob, who stated, “I will not let you go until you bless me!”
May God in his mercy grant to each one of us the lives and souls of our children. Lori Hatcher, Editor Reach Out, Columbia magazine Author of Joy in the Journey ~ Encouragement for Homeschooling Moms and the blog Be Not Weary www. lorihatcher.com A transplant from Bristol, Rhode Island, Lori has lived in Columbia for 32 years. She is the author of Joy in the Journey — Words of Encouragement for Homeschooling Moms, due out in early 2012 and available on Mardel.com. A contributing writer to South Carolina’s Reach Out Columbia magazine and The Mother’s Heart Magazine. Lori has been published on Christian Devotions and the WOW (Writing on the Word) blog and is a featured blogger for Inspired Women Magazine. She has feature articles pending publication in P31 Woman, Inspired Women Magazine and At the Shelter Magazine. She loves reading, writing, and walking with her dog Winston.
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WRITE THE VISION
Write the VISION...Write the DREAM the routines of life, but because you question whether it is worth the effort. Many think, “Well, if the Lord is coming soon why even bother to dream or do anything more?” But His word clearly says that no one knows the time or the hour. So, until that time...keep busy! God has been waiting for you in the wings, waiting for you to look back to Him and the plan He has for you. It is not a mistake that you have certain passions and desires in your heart, Psalm 37:4 says, Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Interesting enough, if you are walking closely with the Lord, He most likely placed those desires in your heart. So, what is your first step? How can you get back on track? How can you, write the vision and make it plain? (Habakkuk 2:2). Take a long deep breath, close your eyes and ask yourself; “How will I grow? How will I dream? How will I learn? How will I celebrate the talents God has given me? What is most important to me? What did I once do that I stopped doing in the hustle and bustle of everyday life?” Open your eyes.
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Many of you live busy lives and you play multiple roles: mother, sister, friend, boss, peer, daughter and mentor. As the rush of life goes on, it becomes harder not to lose sight of someone very important, someone you once paid much more attention to—-YOU. God never stops planting seeds in your soul, God never stops paying attention to you or the plans He has for you. Even when you can’t find time for yourself. Remember when you were growing up and you spent a great deal of time looking towards the future? You most likely spent time dreaming about whom you would become, who you would marry, how many children you wanted to have, what your house would look like, the car you would drive and what career you would choose? Then slowly day by day life got more and more complicated and you became distracted, putting your dreams and visions on the back burner. Slowly, you went from a long term vision to a day to day routine. There are some of you that have been lifelong dreamers, but have stopped dreaming. You have lost your vision for the future and feel a lack of desire not because of
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You just saw a glimpse of your vision for the future. Perhaps you are tired or maybe you are ready to reach the next level in your career. Maybe your kids are growing and you are redefining yourself or maybe you have found yourself unexpectedly unemployed looking at the future with uncertainty. Whoever you are, wherever you are, you can be bigger than you are! God says in Philippians 3:13-14; Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Are you willing to forget what lies behind? Are you willing to strain forward by bringing all of the life experiences you have had thus far as resources for your vision to soar? God plants talents and gifts in His people not only for their enjoyment but for His ministry. We have a responsibility to God to grow our passions and to use our talents to impact the lives of others in a positive way. You are a living
ministry and it is no mistake that you desire certain pieces of your vision; God has placed those desires in you. Whatever nagging goals you have allowed to lay dormant, you must now put out for all to see as instructed in Habakkuk 2:2 and the LORD answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. Write it on your heart and put it out for all to see so that God may grant the desires of your heart as it pleases Him. Sit quietly while you do the following exercise. What are some of things that inspire you and have been deposited within you? Is it to live in a big city, the country, the beach? Is it to laugh more and know happiness? Is it to go back to school? Find a new career? Understand your passion better? Whatever it is, write it down. Inspired Women Magazine would like to partner with you and provide you with the inspiration and the tools you will need to write your vision, make it plain and then to see it flourish. Please write us and let us know how you are doing.
Create your Master Dream List for each area of your life:
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Before you begin writing your list, understand what has stopped you from attaining your dreams or living out your passion and vision. Fill in the blanks. The dreams of my life have slowly faded because ____________________________________________ ____________________________________________. I realize I have falsely believed ______________ _____________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________ but I know God has
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Pray daily about your dreams and ask God to lead you into which ones to pursue now and ask Him to reveal which ones over time weren’t so important after all. It doesn’t mean you can’t add to the list as things change, but there may be some that later you may feel different about. Keep Focused: It’s easy to get discouraged. Don’t let hindering thoughts come between you and your dreams---dreams that have been placed by the Master. There is a quote that says, “If it is important to you, you will find a way. If it is not, you will find an excuse.” There is a lot of truth to this. Be careful of those thoughts and people that come to snatch your dreams. Remember, God wants to give you the desires of your heart. Create a Vision Board. Some people are very visual and creating the images of the things you have noted may be a way to consistently keeping your dreams before you. Get ready, get set, Dare to Dream! The list you will be creating is not about getting rich or getting bigger homes, cars, or material things. It is about drawing out your full potential and in the process helping others around you too.
Shape your life’s potential by listing everything you’d ever want to do and achieve. Remember that God is the source of your dreams and that it doesn’t matter your age because even if you accomplish one thing you’ve purposed, you have honored something inside you.
Spiritual Dream List This category encompasses all the spiritual desires to which you aspire. It may also include accomplishments of a more tangible nature connected with these aspirations. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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Romance Dream List If you are married, write down how you visualize your marriage. Write how you’d like to see it grow and the efforts that together you can make to get it there. What kind of passion do you envision? If you are single, write down what kind of mate you desire. What dreams have you had of this marriage or future husband? Write down your dream wedding. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
Family Dream List Here you may have wanted a family reunion to create a deeper connection with your family. You may have desired a family vacation somewhere you’ve never been. Perhaps there is forgiveness from deep wounds that you have dreamt about. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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Finance Dream List List here the monetary dreams you hope to attain (i.e. debt free, money in the bank, etc.) and a listing of anything which is symbolic of financial success. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
Health Dream List This encompasses more than health. List here the dreams for your weight, conditioning of your body, nutrition, physical activity you have always wanted to try. Perhaps the pampering you’d like to experience. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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Career Dream List List here the dream job and the type of career you have always wanted to have. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
Education Dream List This list should encompass all the things you’d like to know, the degrees or education you’d like to attain—formal or informal. Also include any form of recognition connected with your intellectual development. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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Community Dream List List here how you would like to impact your community. List any dream involving social activities. You may also list any type of volunteer work you’d like to be a part of. ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________
May the seeds of your thoughts, imagination, and dreams grow and give birth to the greatness that’s inside you!
© 2012 Contributing writers:
Dawn Ferry Dawn Ferry is a single mother of two young boys who resides in R.I. She has spent the last 12 years working in the Hospitality Industry in Training and Development. She is a part time contributor to IWM and a full time reader. Dawn has a strong faith which has carried her through all of her life’s trials and blessings. Dawn has a passion for graphics, film and theater. She has a B.A. in Communications. Dawn lives by the motto; there are no mistakes, only lessons.
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Adriana Zamot is editor and publisher of Inspired Women Magazine. IWM began as a two page newsletter when she wanted to share with a few friends some of the highlights of Christian conferences that she had attended. She enjoys writing and sharing of the Lord’s goodness and mercy. Her hope is that IWM will inspire, motivate, and encourage other women towards their divine excellence. Most people refer to her as “AZ.” She has a Master Degree in Human Resources Administration and Development. She attends Calvary Christian Center in Ormond Beach, Florida. You may contact her publisher@inspiredwomenmagazine.com
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BEAUTY
Fall Beauty Psalms 90:17, NKJV “And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us.”
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Summer is almost over as we are swiftly moving into another season and this year the must have color for your fall wardrobe and accessories is a beautiful shade of orange, a deep rich burnt orange to be exact. I love it because it’s such a versatile color that can look great on everyone.
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Accessories
Lightly dust soft shades of orange across the lids, and if you’d like to make a bolder statement with your look then sweep a bit of color underneath the lower lid as well.
Often times as women we can be a little afraid to step out the box and take a risk with certain looks, but if you are looking to create a striking look during this year’s fall season, then you do it with a matte orangey shade of lipstick.
If you are not too excited about using orange cosmetics in your beauty looks, then you can use the color as an accent to accessorize with. The sky’s the limit when you’re creating fashion looks with a pop of color. So, let your mind run wild with creativity as you search for handbags, belts, scarfs, shoes, and jewelry to add to your collection this fall.
*Remember to use a shade of orange that compliments your skin tone. Note* If you have blue eyes then this is the color for you because orange will make your blue eyes even more blue.
*Remember to line your lips with a lip liner in a similar shade to avoid your lipstick feathering or bleeding.
Mia Green is a professional makeup artist, and the owner of Les Fleur Cosmetics a makeup studio that specializes in ethnic skin and custom blended cosmetics. For more info you can visit www.lesfleurcosmetics.com
P.S. If orange is a color that you detest don’t worry there are other beautiful shades of color for you to choose from! Check out the color palette for the 2012 fall season.
by Lanette Kissel “And other (seed) fell on good ground, and sprang up, and bare fruit an hundred-fold.” Luke 8: 8 (KJV)
INSPIRED POETRY
Receptive Soil Some of Your seeds fall by the wayside where it is overlooked and ignored. I don’t want to be blind and barren ground refusing to recognize Your value, oh Lord. I don’t want to be that stubborn rock where Your seeds fall only to disintegrate upon a heart that is arrogant and hardened, because I must be master of my own fate. I don’t want Your seeds sifting through the cracks, or for the tide to slowly wash them away, if Your word falls on slippery, shifting sand when I long for it to take root and stay. Some of Your seeds fall among the thorns, like the ones that encircled the Savior’s head. I don’t want to be those sharp needles, which caused Your wounds that so freely bled.
I long to be receptive and fertile soil that will produce the strongest and deepest root, so Your word can take residence in my soul, and I will bear Your most amazing fruit.
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Let me grow into the choicest of wheat, so I can be made into the finest of bread, so that whoever would partake of me will find their lives by Your spirit led.
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FEATURE
DeShawn Snow
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Some of you may remember the beautiful DeShawn Snow as the former Real Housewives of Atlanta star and the ex-wife of Eric Snow a former professional basketball player who played with the Seattle SuperSonics, Philadelphia 76ers and the Cleveland Cavaliers. Her life may have appeared picture perfect. In fact, she was let go from the RHOA because she seemed “too normal” on the show. However, we all know that even those that appear “normal” experience life’s issues. Two years after being let go from the show and after being married 12 years, her husband filed for divorce. Today, DeShawn has come back stronger and has a clear message to women and young girls. She inspires us with her message of perseverance, faith, and how she pulled through these difficult moments of her life. We had an opportunity to ask DeShawn some questions in which you can sense her strength, humility and passion to live out her purpose in God.
Q. You have been described as a strong and classy woman. What builds that confidence and strength in you? A. I am blessed by the compliment. The two things that have built my confidence and strength are: 1) My faith in God. I know that God never ends on a negative note and that I am guaranteed a victory. This gives me the confidence that I need to keep pushing through whatever I am faced with. 2) The various trials I have experienced throughout my life. As the old saying goes, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!” All of the various trials I have endured have produced staying power. The rough diamond that doesn’t remain under the chisel will never become a precious jewel.
Q. Were you always confident as a child and did you know what you wanted to do when you grew up?
Q. You went through a painful divorce. How was that for you? And how are you now?
A. I definitely knew I was destined for greatness; however, I was not always confident as a child. In fact, I suffered from low self-esteem (especially during my teen years). A. It was unexpected, life changing and very When I was growing up, I always wanted to be a traumatic for me. It was a businesswoman. I didn’t exactly know to what capacity, very humbling experience but I always knew I would be an entrepreneur of some that brought me to my knees. type. I know that God was using this Q. What have been some of your biggest trials divorce to get my attention…that there was something unfolding growing up? How did you overcome them? that was so far beyond the pain A. When I was younger we moved around a lot. I had that I was feeling…so I had to try to start a new school every year from 6th-9th grade. This to focus on God’s purpose for the was very challenging for me because I was always the trial (rather than focusing on new girl, and I had to worry about making new friends my pain). I also know that this and fitting in. Eventually I realized that I had to stay situation is my opportunity to true to myself and not worry so much about what people shine the light of Christ on those who observe me. thought or whether or not they liked me. Another issue I had was low self-esteem. When I started seeing myself the way that God saw me, I stopped dishonoring myself. Faulty behavior results from a faulty belief system.
Now, I like to say that I am “growing” through it. Healing is a process, it
“I know that God never ends on a negative note and that I am guaranteed a victory.”
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doesn’t happen overnight. I am much better than I was Q. You have written a book series for little girls and I am looking forward to what is on the other side! titled, “Lil Shawnee.” What inspired you to write the books and how are they different from other Q. Last year you dropped some weight. It’s obvious children’s books? one of the many things women struggle with. How A. I decided to write a book series for preteen girls as an did you do it and why? extension of my life’s A. The summer that Eric filed for the divorce, my friend and former trainer, Trey, got me out of my bed and into purpose (to empower, encourage, and enrich young the gym. He wouldn’t ask me any questions, I didn’t girls/women). I have nieces and friends who have girls, have to talk about anything, and we just worked out. not to mention I have boys in the same grades that the This was very instrumental because it took my mind off books target; so I understand the level of peer pressure and the type of things girls are exposed to at much my problems and it got me back into the routine. earlier age. I feel it is necessary to start planting seeds From there, I started taking it seriously. Everything in girls younger than the girls I serve in my foundation. that was happening in my life was out of my control and I felt that the working out and dieting was something I Lil Shawnee is a classic book series that provides could control. So I got consistent with my work out and empowering and encouraging messages perfect for tween girls in grades three to six. Nevaeh, Lil Shawnee’s went on some intense diets. spiritual guide, provides a sprinkling of heavenly advice Altogether I’ve lost about 35 pounds. and a “you can do it” message to overcome negativity and build inner strength. Q. How was it being on the Real Housewives of Atlanta? Any regrets? Two distinguishing key features and benefits of the books are 1) it has an A. Being on the first season of RHOA was an amazing experience for me and I don’t have any regrets. I enjoyed African American character with multiracial friends, it and was really looking forward to the second season. which means that minority children can identify with it I was disappointed that I wasn’t asked back and it took and see how adversity can build a better future for all of me a long time to accept the fact that God has something us; and 2) There are strong biblical messages intertwined else planned for me. Ultimately, I am happy that my throughout Nevaeh’s stories and teachings offering girls divorce did not have to play out on national television! an alternative culture that will help them counter the media and pop culture’s unhealthy messages. Q. Although you have three boys, you have a passion for girls. Why? Q. How can others support this foundation or ministry? A. I have a passion for girls because I was a little girl/ teenage girl trying to find my way. I didn’t always make A. People can visit the website, deshawnsnowfoundation. the right choices, but I eventually got it right. I feel that org, to make a donation and/or sign up to volunteer for it is my life’s purpose to empower, encourage, and enrich future programs. the lives of young women. Q. What’s next for DeShawn Snow? Q. You have a foundation to help teenage girls…. A. We are currently in the process of finding a home for tell us about that? my adult book, “Drawing Strength: How God Uses Your A. I established the DeShawn Snow Foundation to Challenges to Fulfill His Plan for You” as well as my assist teenage girls with low self-esteem issues; girls that teenage book series, “Vanderbilt High.” Additionally I face challenges and roadblocks like I did. I think it’s have some television projects that I am developing and important for girls to know that it does not matter what pitching. mistakes they’ve made, what labels they’ve been given, or what experiences they’ve endured – they can have Q. As we close this interview, what is the one thing life and have it abundantly! I believe that together we people should know about you? can make a difference and have a substantial impact in steering our teenage girls toward successful life paths. A. People should know that although I’ve been humbled, “Together we can create stepping stones that create I am not off course. God is doing a mighty work in and through me and I can’t wait for His glory to be shown success and opportunities for every girl.” on the other side of this!
by Laurette Willis, PraiseMoves.com GMO = Genetically Modified Organisms.
Someone said that in light of man’s attempts to “improve” on what God has created, GMO stands for “God, Move Over!” That seems like a very sorry recipe indeed. I experienced food poisoning recently for the first and by-the-grace-of-God LAST time in my life. The topic of food purity suddenly became of great interest to me. Genetic engineering of our food supply is being called “Cell Invasion Technology.” It is estimated that GMOs are found in 80% of the foods we find in our supermarkets (including GMO corn, canola, soybeans and sugar beets). Believe-it-or-not, up to 90 percent of all major U.S.
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GMO: You Are What You Eat? Notice the italicized “which God created.” Genetically Modified Organisms invade the cellular integrity designed by God (much as bacteria or a virus would do). Injecting genes from cold water flounder into tomatoes so they can withstand colder temperatures (yes that is really done) is not my idea of food which God created. This next verse of Timothy’s many of us have used to bless the Triple-Decker Belly Bomber with fries we were about to eat: “For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be refused if it is received with thanksgiving; for it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.” Doesn’t that cover us? I believe if we are evangelizing in a foreign country, for example, and handed an unusual something to eat (such as a monkey meat sandwich), we are definitely covered when we sanctify/bless the food “by the word of God and prayer.” However, I question whether organisms man has “Frankensteined” into something else can qualify under the “every creature of God is good” category. Wouldn’t it be wise to avoid such foods whenever possible?
What Can We Do?
Abstaining from foods?
Scripturally speaking, 1 Timothy 4 speaks about the deception and “doctrines of demons” that will come in the last days. In part this includes “commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth” (1 Timothy 4:3 NKJV).
Christian Fitness Expert Laurette Willis is the Director of PraiseMoves Fitness Ministry (http://PraiseMoves. com and on Facebook http://facebook. com/PraiseMovesFan). Get your free fitness kit at http://ChristianFitnessKit. com and something brand new: www. MIRAdance.com – MIRA! is Christian Fitness with a Latin Beat! Hallelujah!!! ©2012
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grown crops are grown with genetically engineered seed, and can be used in our food with little or no safety testing or labeling. Since being introduced into the food supply, multiple chronic illnesses jumped from 7% to 13% of the population and food allergies doubled. Coincidence? Many think not.
Be proactive. Study about GMOs and support legislature to counter Genetically Modified Organisms being introduced into the food supply. You can shop at local farmers’ markets, thus supporting your local economy, too. You may need to educate your commercial grocers, asking them to direct you to non-GMO foods, and to order more foods without GMOs. What do you think? Is Genetically Modified Organisms in the food supply a good thing, bad thing, or “no big deal”? Share your comments. We’d love to know what you think!
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What Am I Doing? I don’t realize what I’m doing. I don’t do what I want to do. Instead, I do what I hate. 15
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Romans 7:15 GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)
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Please tell me that Paul and I aren’t the only ones that have had these thoughts, anyone? You read the latest diet book, carefully write out an exercise plan, and you have written out your positive power statements on index cards for your spiritual health. Next, you pull out your calendar, you schedule each cardio and strength training workout, and then head to the grocery store to purchase all the healthy foods you need to guarantee your success in transforming your body. Yes, I’m really going to do it this time! Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday—you have completed your workouts and stuck to the eating plan every day—yea for me!!!! Before you know it, it’s been almost three weeks, you’ve done an amazing job, and it’s starting to show up in how your clothes fit and in how you look in the mirror. Week four, you have a busy day and you say, “Oh man, I’m tired. I will do my cardio and weight training workout tomorrow.” You were running late, didn’t plan your food over the weekend and think, “I’ll find something to eat at the deli by the office; no big deal.” I would agree with you if it was only day but, what we really have to be careful about is making sure one day doesn’t turn into one week, two weeks, and so on. Pretty soon we have returned to our old eating habits, and not exercising and think—what am I doing? I’m right back to where I started? I think you can guess why I know this scenario all too well. I was reading something in Beth Moore’s Bible Study on the book of James this morning, and this statement struck me, “Usually when I’m most passionate about a subject in my teaching, it is either because I struggle with it myself or because I’ve been personally injured by it.” Amen sister!
So, we know the problem right? None of us want to stand at the altar of conviction so let’s come up with a few strategies for success, huh?
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Change-Your body will learn to adapt to your current program whether it’s an eating plan or workout plan. This usually takes place within 3-4 weeks. The latest buzz word is muscle confusion. Just another way to say, avoid hitting a plateau…change it up.
Colossians 3:23 (GOD’S WORD Translation) Plan-It’s far easier (in the long run) to be proactive in life, rather than reactive. Plan your goals, food, workouts, “what if ” strategies, free days, devotional time….all of it. Don’t leave anything to chance. Don’t be too rigid-Seriously, this is a lifestyle change which in all practicality means--this is something we will sustain. When you are planning your goals and strategies don’t make it so hard on yourself that you are doomed before you even begin. Free day-I bet you were wondering when I was coming back to the “free day” that I glossed over in item number one didn’t you? Schedule a day off that you simply rest, and also give yourself a day or meal once a week that you eat what you want but, make sure you get right back to “living right” the following day.
Forgive yourself-If you mess up, forgive yourself and move on. Berating and beating yourself up won’t really do you any good. If you are like me you have probably been there, done that-move on!
Phyllis Stewart is the author of God’s Temple-40 Steps to Total Transformation, Christian Fitness Coach, and Personal Trainer. You can contact Phyllis at Phyllis_L_Stewart@yahoo. com.
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Progress not perfection-weigh in days and measuring are a way to check your progress. If you didn’t get the (reasonable) desired result, you go over your week and see what you might need to change. For this reason journaling is a great tool for checking your progress.
If you’ve read anything that I’ve written before, you will hear me say over and over again, “glorify God with a healthy body.” I really mean that and end my blessing over meals referencing that statement. Your body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit. Glorify Him through great health. Every effort that you make will be rewarded.
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in·spire (n-spr) v. in·spired, in·spir·ing, in·spires ~ To affect, guide, or arouse by divine influence. ~To fill with enlivening or exalting emotion: ~ To stimulate to action; motivate ~ To affect or touch ~ To breathe on. ~ To breathe life into
Lifting My Head by Daphne Tarango He extended his arms to her and gently raised her head so she would look him in the eyes. “Come here, baby girl. Lift your head up.” He caressed and reassured her. “Daddy always wants you to lift your head. There’s no reason to look down.”
God wants me–He wants you–He wants us to approach Him. He wants to forgive us. He wants to lift our heads. When we accept His forgiveness, there is no reason to hang our heads. If you set your heart on God and reach out to him, If you scrub your hands of sin and refuse to entertain evil in your home, You’ll be able to face the world un-
Daphne Tarango is a freelance writer and speaker who comforts others with the comfort she herself has received from God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). She lives in the Southeastern U.S., where she is a leader in a Bible-based recovery program. Visit Daphne’s blog at http://blog.daphnewrites.com/.
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Our dog has this habit of walking with her head down. Sometimes she even approaches you, cowers, and tucks her tail in between her legs. Some ashamed and keep a firm grip would say she’s overly submissive, and on life, guiltless and fearless. I agree. Others would say it’s a result of You’ll forget your troubles; they’ll be being disciplined, and I would also agree. like old, faded photographs. Your world will be And yet others would say she knows when she’s washed in sunshine, every shadow dispersed by daydone something wrong. Agreed. But this isn’t about my dog. It’s about me. It’s about spring. Full of hope, you’ll relax, confident again. ~Job you. It’s about what we do when we approach God–and 11:13-18 If we would only look to Him! others. Our pasts weigh us down. Our faces are never covered with shame. ~Psalm 34:5 • Lies. God will shield us from shame. He will ground our • Cheating. feet. He will lift our heads high. Psalm 3:3 • Abuse. Come here, my child. • Addictions. Come alongside…What keeps you from holding • Hurts. your head high? Would you allow your Daddy to forgive We feel humiliated, beat down, guilty, and ashamed. you, to raise your head, and blot out your shame?
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