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Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40

JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Rabbi Dovid Heber. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Rabbi Silber. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Rabbi Berel Wein. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36 A Fulfilled Life. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 All Things Considered. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56

HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

LIFESTYLES 613 Seconds with Hillel Soclof. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 A Message of Courage, Fortitude and Hope. . . . . 52 Could Israel Have Prevented the Yom Kippur War?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 Travel. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62 Biz Wiz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 The Forest Cantor. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66 Forgotten Heroes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Palms and Fronds and Citrons. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 72 Political Crossfire. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 Forgotten Heroes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Shimon Peres A Controversial and Combative Leader . . . . . . . . . 77 Mental Health Corner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 80 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 84 Gluten Free Recipe Column. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Cooking for the King. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87

Dear Readers, Sometimes we wish we were a child again, running into the Sukkah to make a bracha on the Lulav, kissing the Torah or davening from a Siddur. Our inner child feels trapped by our mistakes and the cynicism that has accumulated over the years. “Ki naar yisroel viohaveiu.” For the nation, Israel is but a child and I love him. Our Father in Heaven sees us as His children. Yom Kippur gives us the opportunity to tap into this relationship followed by Sukkot, a time when pure joy emanating from the soul can be experienced. Still, we sit in the Sukkah wrapped in Hashem’s embrace and wonder what happened to us during the year... but G-d says, you’re the one I want. You are the purpose of creation.

If we can accept that we have flaws, but we have purpose, then perhaps this year we will indeed change our behavior. If we are not the glutton we sometimes feel like, the insensitive person we sometimes act like and the impulsive being we sometimes think like, then we are simply shedding outside layers which have covered us. And that is a reason to be joyous. Harachaman hu yakim lanu es sukas Dovid hanofales, may the Merciful One establish the fallen Sukkah of David so we will all be together, with the entire Jewish people united as one. What a sight and experience that will be. A true zman simchaseinu. Wishing you a ‫גמר חתימה טובה‬ and a beautiful Sukkos,

Moshe Meir

NEWS Israel News . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 That’s Odd. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24

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Congregations Shomrei Emunah & Bnai Jacob Join for Annual Yom HaDin Yarchei Kallah at Yeshivas Ner Yisrael By BJLife/ Binyamin Ansbacher BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

n Sunday morning the first day of selichos two kehilos joined in a morning of learning and inspiration. Members of Cong. Shomrei Emuna and Bnei Jacob Shaarei Zion met at

Yeshivas Ner Yisroel for the Annual Pre-Rosh Hashana Yarchei Kallah. The attendees were greeted by Rabbi Baruch Neuberger and Rabbi Eli Greengart, Ner Yisroel’s Director of Alumni Relations. The morning began with coffee and danishes and greetings by the Menhel, Rabbi Sheftel Neuberger. Rabbi Neuberger spoke about the The

13 Attributes of Mercy that are a common theme throughout the Days of Awe and their meaning as explained by the Ner Yisroel Mashgiach, Rav Dovid Kronglass, Zt’l. The attendees then proceeded to the Beis Medrash to prepare for the shiur that would follow. At 11:00 am Rabbi Tzvi Einstader gave an engaging shiur on the subject of “One who forgets Yaaleh

Viyavo on Rosh Hashana”. Lastly Rav Shragi Neuberger gave an inspiring talk on the global power of each individual’s prayers and repentance on Rosh Hashana. The attendees left feeling uplifted and inspired toward the upcoming New Year.

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On Clarinth Road, No Fences Make Good Neighbors

ast Wednesday afternoon was quiet and sunny when Toby Passe went for a walk. At around 3:00 pm, Toby was walking with two infants that she babysits on her block, Clarinth Road. Clarinth Road is a small, tree-lined street between Clarks Lane and Labyrinth Road in the Park Heights neighborhood. The residents are a mix of African American and Jewish families. Toby saw a Forest Park student, who attends the nearby Northwestern High School, staring at her from across the street. He did not look well and compassionately she asked him if he was feeling okay or needed help. When he started cursing and yelling racial epithets at her, she was shocked. He then verbally threatened to hurt her and the two infants in the stroller. He demanded she give him everything she had on her. When she offered him her iPhone 5, he was not interested since he only wanted an iPhone 6 or better.

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Fortunately, Toby’s wonderful neighbor, Debbie Montague, who lives a few houses away, just happened to come out onto her porch. Debbie noticed from a distance that something was not quite right with the way the teenager was acting towards Toby. Fearlessly, without thinking of dangerous consequences to herself, Debbie confronted the teenager, insisting he leave Toby alone and if he did not comply, she would call the police. He then threatened to harm Debbie and the police as well. Unfortunately, police officers did not respond to the call

until the teen had already taken off. Debbie Montague is a true community hero. “Debbie saved my life. If she had not been alert and was not willing to get involved and help me, the situation probably would not have ended well,” said Toby. Debbie has lived on Clarinth Road for only two years but even in such a short amount of time, her neighbors have taken note of her pleasant and kind nature and are grateful to have her living on the block. How apropos that this incident occurred on the 3700 block of Clarinth Road, which was renamed Schleif-

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er Way in 2011. This honorary street naming honors Clarinth Road residents Barry & Florence Schleifer, parents of Councilman Elect Isaac “Yitzy” Schleifer. Barry, who has since made aliyah with his wife, was a community liaison and neighborhood activist for over 30 years, who always made tremendous efforts to ensure Baltimoreans were safe and secure. Debbie’s immediate response to her neighbor being threatened shows she truly belongs on “Schleifer” Way. While the media focuses on recently increased racial tensions throughout the country, let us not forget the Debbies of the world, who remind us that regardless of race or ethnicity, we are all human beings who should strive to care and stand up for one another. We commend Debbie for following her instincts and bravely intervening. Clarinth Road and the Baltimore community are fortunate to have Debbie Montague as a devoted resident.

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Board Meeting Minutes Naming Baltimore’s Talmudical Academy (TA) ‘Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim’ Named for the Chofetz Chaim Whose Yahrzeit was the 24 Elul By BJLife Newsroom BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

here is hardly a name that carries as much meaning to every Jew as that of Rav Yisrael Meir Kagan, the saintly Chofetz Chaim. Each of his many accomplishments would be legendary on its own; when combined, they are beyond our comprehension. The Chofetz Chaim was niftar 83 years ago on the 24th of Elul. The first known dedication to his memory in America took place just a few weeks later. In a small room in Baltimore, Rabbi J. Heffland, the chairman of the Board of Directors of Talmudical Academy, which was founded in 1917, organized a meeting to discuss what could be done to preserve the legacy of the Chofetz Chaim. Rabbi Heffland suggested that they rename the Yeshiva and call it Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim of Baltimore. The resolution was unanimously accepted. (See the actual minutes of that meeting from 1933 attached to this article.) Little did those at the meeting know the role that Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim — Talmudical Academy would play in the rebirth of Torah in America. Providence had it that this act of dedication to Torah would not only help build the community of Baltimore, but also spread Torah through-

out the world. The Yeshiva endured the roaring 20’s, the Great Depression, the First World War, the Second World War, and more. Changes in society never affected the Yeshiva’s commitment to provide a Torah-true mesorah to its students, as a wide array of gedolim, askanim, and chashuvim made their way through the hallowed halls of the Yeshiva. For the Yeshiva continues to work toward the goals of its founding fathers: to serve only

Hashem. What better way to learn to appreciate the greatness of the Yeshiva than through the words of the Chofetz Chaim himself. The Chofetz Chaim spent nearly 30 years working on the Mishnah Berurah, his magnum opus.

While working along with him on one particularly difficult passage, Rav Tzvi Hirsch Levinson, the Chofetz Chaim’s son-in-law, expressed his frustration to his father-in-law over the fact that they had worked for so long on clarifying this one challenging nuance, which would ultimately express itself through a mere four lines of the Mishnah Berurah. Rav Tzvi Hirsch lamented, “Rebbi, there will be thousands who learn through these few lines, yet they will have no idea how much time, effort, and energy we spent on these words.” The Chofetz Chaim empathized with Rav Tzvi Hirsch and then shared the following story. A father and son were taken away to the frozen tundra of Siberia, where they were given the task of building roads. It was nearly impossible to break the ground, but they would work continuously, day after day. One day, the young boy asked his father, “Papa, thousands will travel these roads. Will any of them ever know how hard we worked on building these thoroughfares to enable them to travel on them?” The father replied, “We don’t work for accolades or recognition; we work for one reason and one reason only: for Czar Papushka — the Czar, our father.” The Chofetz Chaim explained, “Rav Tzvi Hirsch, we do not work for accolades or recognition. It makes no

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difference whether or not those who learn these lines will appreciate the effort that went into them. We work for one reason and one reason only; we work for the Aibeshter Papushka — the Al-mighty, our Father.” The same can be said for the founders of Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim – TA of Baltimore, who built a Yeshiva for one reason and for one reason only: to bring honor and glory to the Al-mighty. And now, Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim — Talmudical Academy of Baltimore is gearing up to celebrate its 100-year anniversary. This monumental milestone is rare. How many yeshivos can boast such a long and rich history on this country’s shores? At the same time, YCC-TA is in the process of expanding its campus to keep up with the growth of the community. As they celebrate their 100th year, this is a great opportunity for anyone who wants to have a share in this amazing institution, which is dedicated to the memory of the Chofetz Chaim. There are many dedication opportunities available. Please contact Rabbi Yehuda Lefkovitz at (410) 484-6600 x304 or ryl@talmudicalacademy.org. We would also like to ask anyone who has any pictures, documents, or memories of the Yeshiva to please contact Rabbi Yechiel Spero at chiely1@gmail.com. Rabbi Spero, the noted author and lecturer, is writing a book to be released in conjunction with the Yeshiva’s centennial dinner celebration.

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What’s so GREAT about the GREAT CHALLAH BAKE Updates and Reassurance from an Insider

By Yael Zelinger

aybe it’s my Boro Park upbringing but I love interfacing with Jews of all stripes! For the past seventeen years, I have been working at the Macks Center for Jewish Education, whose staff is a fabulously eclectic group of professionals, and I enjoy our unlikely conversations. When Baltimore decided to get on board with the world-wide Shabbos project, we joined a loose network of Jews from 365 different cities who were all inspired by the concept of keeping one Shabbos as one people and I was inspired to “mix in”!

While the Baltimore Shabbat Project’s foundation is unity, the Great Challah Bake’s reason d’être is uniting Jewish women around the mitzvah of Challah. This admirable goal speaks to my soul, as it combines mitzvos, unity and femininity. Being in a room with thousands of Jewish women where boundaries melt makes me feel exhilarated! A project that has grown from 1,000 to 3,800 and hopefully to 4,000 Jewish women this year, gives me goose bumps and drives me, on a hectic Monday morning, to contact the new audio-visual company, email the program committee and sit down at a computer to compose an article. The Great Challah Bake has grown in more than numbers, the committees

have diversified, the number of volunteers has exploded and the vision to create an event that is meaningful to everyone in the community has evolved to a new level of sensitivity. This year the program committee hired a master of ceremonies, Yaffa Palti, of Aish haTorah renown, to set a tone of singing, spirituality and sisterhood. Yaffa just moved from Mexico to San Diego and will be flying in to bring us her unique surge of energetic fun, musical talent and warmth. Linda Hurwitz, the new Associated chair and veteran BSP participant, will welcome us and set the tone for an exciting evening. The program will be set to an all Jewish music selection whose volume will be tempered to evoke excitement and camaraderie, fun and festivity, sanctity and …Shabbos. Together we will mix and knead. Together we will dance and sing. Together we will bless, pray and bond to each other, to the mitzvah of challah and to Hashem. Last year we had over 300 responses to the request for feedback last year and we read every one of them! The devoted committees are working extremely hard to make this year’s experience smooth and efficient, fun and meaningful, safe and accessible, kosher and inviting. Hours and hours have gone into hashing out every single detail! Every element is important because we know that if someone cannot navigate the registration site or cannot park or cannot understand the speaker, or cannot hear herself over the speaker or cannot find gloves or eggs or a table, then the Great Challah Bake will not be the GREAT event we all want to look forward to. Here is a sneak peak at some of the details you can expect at The Great Challah Bake 5777: • TRANSPORATION: o There will be buses leaving from 3 convenient locations. Pre-registration is required. $5 per person: o Owings Mills JCC: 3506

Gwynbrook Ave, 21117 o Baltimore Hebrew Congregation: 7401 Park Heights Avenue, 21208 o Beth El: 8101 Park Heights Avenue, 21208 o There will be limited parking at the Arrow Parking Garage on 210 W Baltimore Street for $5 a car. Carpools are strongly suggested. o The Light Rail stops right at the Baltimore Convention Center • Greeters in lime green t-shirts will be stationed along the blocks from the parking lot to the BCC to keep everyone feeling safe and welcome. • Reserved tables for groups of 9 women are available for $136 and will be situated up front, near the stage. • Ushers will help everyone find a table and mingle with new women. • Following the Star K’s guidelines, once again, individuals will NOT be taking Challah except for the people on stage who will make one big batch of dough. This is the way we were advised by Rabbi Heber shlita”h. • Security will be adeptly handled by Mr. Franky Storch whose in depth understanding of security, both visible and undercover, (and sometimes canine too!) is virtually unsurpassed among laymen. • We expect to sell out, so get your tickets today! $10 in advance, $20 the day of the event. For a GREAT time, Schedule yourself to be at The Great Challah Bake on Wednesday, November 9 Registration is open so sign up quickly! www.baltimoreshabbatporject.org. If you have any questions please email info@baltimoreshabbatproject.org

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How did you get so active in the community? I was fortunate to have two mentors: Reb Dovid Kronglass, Z”L, Mashgiach Ruchani Ner Israel as my spiritual mentor and Rabbi Herman Neuberger, Z”L and when you have a mentor like Rabbi Neuberger, you get involved in the needs of the community. How did you get involved with Baltimores Kashrus needs and the Vaad Hakashrus of Baltimore? In the early times prior to 1940, individual Rabbi’s provided kashrus supervision. There were no organized structure or standards. Lenny Sperling got me involved with the formation of the Vaad. The Rabbanim were very upset with us young people who were taking over the kashrus of the commu-

nity. During my tenure as President, Rabbi Heinemanm became the head of the Vaad Hakashrus. We worked it out that he would be Rabbi of Agudah 1/3 of his time, 1/3 Rebbe at Ner Israel and 1/3 at the Vaad. Did you ever expect the Vaad to become the international organization it is today? We hoped it would grow to that level, since it was important to create kashrus standards that everyone could hold by. What are your thoughts about how the community has grown from where we were in the 50’s? When my wife and I were married in 1957 we lived on Jonquil Ave and Davened at Shearith Israel Congregation, where HaRav Schwab, Z”L was the Rov. It was the Shul furthest north from where most of the Jewish community resided at that time. In 1973, we moved to Willowglen, and I joind Shomrei Emunah. We hardly had a Minyan this far away from the community. It wasn’t until later on when people started moving from Forest Park and Park Heights areas. Now B”H, the community Blossomed. Ner Israel has always been the main hub that’s allowed the community to become what it is today. What did you do for a living? My degree was in accounting. I was a public accountant for 5 years. Then I took a position as member

of Internal Review Division at Edgewood Arsenal, the forerunner to the Aberdeen Proving Grounds. It was the chemical warfare research facility for the Department of Defense. Afterwards, I became first Administrator of The Baltimore Cancer Research Center. It was part of the National Institute of Health, which later became the University of Maryland Cancer Center, I was the Administrator of the UMD Cancer Center for 16 years. I then became the Administrator of The Intramural Program of the National Heart, Lung & Blood Institute of the National Institute of Health. When I retired in 2000, My budget was 132 million dollars, with 800 employees. How do you spend your retirement years? When I first retired, my son-inlaw, Dr Paul Schuster was the President of Shomrei. He asked me to help him design and build of the current Shomrei Emunah facility. I was the inhouse construction manager. I currently volunteer in the Maryland Attorney General’s Office as a Mediator in the Consumer Protection Division. I go to the 6am Daf at Shomrei, Go to the gym at the JCC, and play with my great grand-children. B’H my wife Dena and I have been married since 1957. We have two wonderful daughters and son-inlaw’s who have brought us great nachas from our grand children and great grand children.

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What brought you to Baltimore? I was born in Cleveland. I attended the very first class of The Hebrew Academy of Cleveland. Nearing my 18th birthday, on Simchas Torah in 1953, I said to my father that I want to go to Yeshiva. He agreed to my request that I go right after Yom Tov. I went to YU and met with Dr. Belkin. Since I was a Senior, I would have to take the New York regents and that I would be required to be a New York resident for two years. During that time, the only other options besides New York, were Chicago and Baltimore. I was accepted at TA and graduated from there. On graduation night , Rabbi Milakovsky recommended that I should attend Ner Israel and the rest is history. ((Side Bar: unbeknownst to me. My father knew Rabbi Belkin and Rabbi Ruderman who were both in Cleveland in the 1930’s, which didn’t hurt))

What organizations in Baltimore have you been active in? Well, there are too many to mention, but I’ll give it a try. I was the 3rd president in Shomrei’s history , I was on the Boards of; Baltimore Jewish Council; The Jewish Cemetery Committee; TA and Bais Yaakov. I also helped design BY in Owings Mills, was a early member of the Vaad Hakashrus, I also worked on the Eruv and Mikvah and was the head of the Baltimore Kosher Meat and Food Control Bureau and helped write the kosher food laws for the state of Maryland.

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Israeli Kids Tip the Scales Our Israeli readers may want to read this and think twice before send-

ing their kids to school with Nutella sandwiches for lunch. The World health Organization is coming out with a report that shows that Israel is in second place for overweight persons compared to other European countries. When children are counted, Israel is the third most overweight country in the entire world. The findings of the Commission on Ending Childhood Obesity report are not officially released for another couple of weeks, but its interim findings were shared with medical profession-

als a little early. The report monitors children’s health around the globe. A whopping 28.8 percent – that’s over 500,000! – of Israelis under the age of 18 are overweight. According to the report’s forecasts, that number is likely to jump to 50 percent in just 8 years. The only country that Israel trails in childhood obesity is…you guessed it…the United States of America. While 12.6 percent of young Sabras are obese, an astonishing 12.9 percent of underage Americans qualify.

To allow for a little perspective, the European average is 7.4 percent. In the overweight category, the European average is 23 percent.

Obesity is considered by many health professionals to be the most serious epidemic in recent years. “This is the biggest health problem in the Western world. It’s a ticking time bomb, with many health implications even in the present, and we aren’t doing enough,” warned Dr. Gal Dubnov-Raz, a senior doctor and manager of the Sport, Nutrition and Healthy Living Clinic at Sheba Medical Center. “The simple reason for this is that children are taking in more calories than they are expending. According to WHO studies, children eat less healthily in most Western countries, they’re less active and they drink more sugary drinks.” Dubnov-Raz also says there is less emphasis placed on physical exercise in Israel. “There are countries with daily sports classes, but in Israel, there are places that have a class just once per week. In addition, we don’t talk about proper and healthy nutrition, and even though the Ministry of Health makes efforts, it’s too little too late.” The effects of obesity are very serious. Overweight and obese children can suffer from prolonged headaches, diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, joint and muscle pains, and breathing problems during sleep that are likely to reduce their alertness and concentration during class. “In many cases, these children have more depression and low moods, low body image, and they suffer from a lack of friends,” said Dubnov-Raz. Dubnov-Razadded that “to prevent the epidemic, you need to change habits, teach kids to eat healthier and to exercise.”

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Many do not need a subscription to Forbes magazine to know this, but the international finance magazine has officially ranked Tel Aviv among the most beautiful destinations in the world. According to the “travel community’s rating,” the beachfront city is the world’s 15th most beautiful destination. The top three spots went to New York, Venice and Los Angeles. Each of the competing cities was photographed by a local photographer. Sivan Askayo, who presented Tel Aviv, called the city a place whose main attraction is “not necessarily cafes and restaurants, but people who love the good life.” As TJH has previously reported, Tel Aviv has been put on many impressive lists lately. The city was named one of the “best ten coastal cities in the world” by National Geographic, “one of the five best culinary cities in the world” by Conde Nast Traveler, and “Europe’s innovation center” by the Wall Street Journal. So what’s keeping you?

More Power Struggles between Abbas and Hamas Mahmoud Abbas’s claim at the UN’s General Assembly that the PLO is the only legitimate representative

of the Palestinian people is coming under heavy fire from many sides, in particular, Hamas-affiliated Palestinians are speaking out against Abbas’s claims. Dr. Faiz Abu Shamala has publicly challenged the PLO’s ability to lead and represent the Palestinians. Abu Shamala is a prominent journalist in the Falastin, Hamas’s official newspaper. “How can we believe that the PLO is the only legitimate face of the millions of Palestinians that live in Jordan and have Jordanian passports?” Shamala queried.

He added, “With what happened to the Palestinians that live in Jordan and carry Jordanian passports, how can the PLO call itself a legitimate representative?” He writes that Abbas and the PLO wish to remove the democratic right of the Palestinians to elect their own leadership. Hamas has reportedly been pressuring the PLO for some structure changes that will allow for other factions of the Palestinian people to join the leadership. Of course, their main concern is that the terror groups Hamas and Islamic Jihad be allowed to gain even more control in the region.

$20M Paid to Flotilla Families

As part of the recent reconciliation agreement that was signed between Israel and Turkey, Israel just paid $20 million in compensation for the 2010 Mavi Marmara flotilla incident. The controversial funds were deposited in the Turkish Justice Ministry’s bank account. After months of negotiations, the finalized agreement removed all sanctions between the two countries, normalized relations, and increased the level of diplomatic exchange. The $20 million in compensation will go to the families of the 10 Turkish Islamists who were killed during the highly publicized raid on the Mavi Marmara. The agreement was announced by both Turkish and Israeli officials simultaneously in Ankara and Rome on June 27. Turkish President Recep Tayyip Erdogan put his signature on the document earlier this month. After the money was paid, a Turkish official said that the name of Turkey’s new ambassador to Israel will be announced in “one week or 10 days.” Israel is expected to announce its ambassador to Turkey somewhere in that timeframe as well.

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Azerbaijan is Israel’s largest oil supplier. They receive Israeli arms as part of their compensation. In February 2012, a $1.4 billion defense deal was signed between the two countries which focused on missile defense systems and drones.

Spanish Court Declares BDS Illegal

Iron Dome Batteries Reportedly Sold The country of about 9 million that lies at the crossroads of Southwest Asia and Southeastern Europe will be buying Iron Dome batteries from Israel, its regional ally. According to the as-of-yet unconfirmed reports, the government of Azerbaijan will be stocking up in response to Armenia’s recent purchase of Russian-made Iskander short-range missile batteries. Armenia and Azerbaijan have fought for years over the Nagorno-Karabakh territory, which technically belongs to Azerbaijan but is ruled by Armenian separatists. The fighting intensified this year, after Armenian forces claimed Azerbaijan used Israeli-made kamikaze drones to kill a bus of several Armenians “vol-

It’s the first time Spain’s High Court has weighed in and it’s a blow to the BDS movement. Last week, a Spanish High Court of the Asturias region upheld a decision, declaring a Langreo City Council agreement to boycott Israel illegal. This marks the first time that a High Court in Spain has issued a judgment relating to BDS, thanks to the legal actions brought forth by ACOM, a pro-Israel lobby group working to combat BDS in Spain. ACOM’s president Angel Mas recently told The Jerusalem Post that the call for a boycott against Israel

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tion and lack of neutrality that such a boycott would represent.” This ruling provides an historic achievement for the Spanish pro-Israel lobby group, as the High Court effectively legitimized its anti-boycott legal initiatives. According to ACOM, the ruling further expanded a previous constitutional doctrine on the matter that allowed any Jewish individual to sue for defamation against any Jew or Jewish community, and allowing the pro-Israel group to take legal action based on discrimination or slander against Israelis.

Pilot Killed in IAF Crash On Wednesday evening, an Israeli Air Force pilot died during a crash landing of a F-161 fighter jet in southern Israel. The aircraft’s navigator ejected from the plane and was evacuated to hospital after sustaining light injuries. The jet, which was landing at Ramon air force base in the Negev, caught fire when returning from operational activity. The IAF conducted

multiple air strikes on Wednesday on the Gaza Strip, after a rocket was fired on the Israeli town of Sderot.

In July 2013, an F-16I on a training flight crashed in the Mediterranean Sea, some 50 km. off the coast of the Gaza Strip. The two-seater fighter jet was taking part in a training exercise in which it attempted an interception drill. In that incident, the plane’s pilot, an IAF flight instructor and navigator, who was being trained, safely ejected from the aircraft and parachuted to the sea before being rescued.

pharmaceutical executive Martin Shkreli’s smarmy countenance during recent hearings. In an effort to raise funds for the family of Mike Kulich, his former PR consultant who recently passed away, Shkreli offered to auction off a punch in the face. The lucky winner will land a slap on Shkreli’s face and many vied for the position. As of last week, the winning bid came from “Katie” from Florida in the form of $50,000. But Katie got cold feet and Shkreli is now looking for another boxer. The executive will match the donation to pay for Kulich’s fiveyear-old’s son’s college education. Start packing your boxing gloves.

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Slap Shkreli Silly Ever want to slap someone’s smirk off their face and then get cold feet?

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What’s on your bucket list? Traveling the world? Sampling every ice cream flavor? Skydiving? Edie Simms has done lots of things in her life. At 102-years-old, she’s basically seen it all. But she wasn’t able to get one thing crossed off her bucket list and so she enlisted the help of the local police department. A group of officers came down to Simms’ home and slapped some handcuffs on her frail wrists as she ducked into the back of a squad car. The elderly “prisoner” was escorted to the Five Star Senior Center where she vowed to cease her life of crime. What advice does this charming

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Hermit Found “In Michael, we have found a charismatic personality, which is the right quality for our hermit,” City Council president Sergio Wyniger announced. Well, it’s good he has the proper personality. Twenty-two people vied for the job and only one person can get the $24,000-salaried position as the town of Solothurn’s hermit. Duties include living in a secluded cave-like cabin to take care of a nearby chapel and gorge, dispensing wisdom, and talking to tourists. Michael Daum, the newest hermit, will also receive a paid vacation. Daum is a former policeman. The 55-year-old snagged the job that has been around since the 15th century. He started this month. “I have lots of respect for the new job,” Daum told the Solothurner Zeitung newspaper. Daum, who studied theology and meditation after leaving the police force, will take over a position created in 1442 in honor of St. Verena, who was believed to have lived as a recluse in the region. The previous hermit left the position in February. Another previous hermit quit after complaining that people wanted to chat with her, and – in a true hermit-like manner – she was unwilling to engage in social interactions. But there are others who enjoyed their tenure as a recluse. Johannes Leutenegger spent 25 years on his own. Historically, only priests were allowed to hold the position in the Swiss town, but in the past decades civilian

A Change of Penny Heading to business school? What if I offered you a spot in Stanford Graduate School of Business – one of the top ranked business schools in the nation – and you got to go for free? Seems like a dream, but it really is true. There’s just one catch and if you go into business you always know you need to read the fine print. After graduating, students must find a job in the Midwest. Many business-minded individuals head to Stanford for its stellar education and its connections to Silicon Valley businesses. But the school is endeavoring to funnel business students to “underserved regions,” where the economy can benefit from business savvy graduates. “When we look at our country, and we think about different places where there’s still a lot of room for growth and development, the Midwest was a big part of that,” Simone Hill, an assistant director for MBA admissions at Stanford, said. In its inaugural year, the Stanford USA MBA Fellowship will pay three students about $160,000 over two years to attend the university. Within two years of graduating, recipients are required to find work in the Midwest, where they will “contribute to the re-

When is a Chevy SUV a Lincoln? When it’s covered in thousands of pennies. Larry Hall of North Carolina turned his 2000 Chevy Blazer into a copper car by plastering its exterior with 51,300 pennies. Excluding the painstaking work, the magical transformation cost Larry only $513. “I had to put them on one by one and it took like seven weeks, six to seven hours a day, and it took 80 tubes of silicone glue and 3 gallons of fiberglass boat glue,” the proud car owner said. The pennies haven’t just added to the truck’s shine, it’s added an extra few pounds as well. “The hood is so heavy that I have to prop it open,” Hall said. “Now sometimes if you slam the doors real hard, [the pennies] will come off but I have a little glue kit in there and I just get them put them back on there.” Seems like it was worth every penny.

For the next thirty days stay away from Rob Greenfield. The New Yorker will be wearing a clear plastic suit containing every piece of garbage he produces within that time. That means you’ll be seeing every banana peel, bowl of cereal, and chicken bone that he’s left with. An average American dumps 4.5 pounds of trash per day. Multiply that by 30 and you got a whopping 135 pounds that Rob will be lugging around. Rob’s trash trek will be filmed by a film crew throughout the thirty days. “Most people never think twice about the trash they make. Once it’s in the garbage can it’s out of sight, out of mind and although the 4.5 pounds of trash per day statistic is widely known, very few visuals exist to help people truly understand it,” a post on Greenfield’s website stated. Now people can follow his trash on videos, live streams and blogs. “Rob will be a walking billboard of environmental awareness to educate and inspire people to make positive changes in their life to reduce their waste,” the website stated. Seems like one man’s trash is another man’s social media lesson. Sounds like trash talk to me.

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Trip of a Lifetime!

It is the mindset of calmness that is associated with hiking, playing and other similar pursuits, that stems from being totally involved and in touch with our vitality and vigor that makes us feel so alive.

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We are all familiar with the mitzva to eat, drink and sleep in a Sukkah. The Talmud however adds an additional category: ‫לייטמו‬, and to “stroll”. (‫חכ הכוס‬:) Strange though, how a Sukkah that halachically only requires a surface area of seven by seven tefachim with a height of ten tefachim (21 x 21 inches area and 30 inches high!) could possibly provide an ample promenade for strolling! Even more intriguing is the omission in the source quoted above of the obligation to sleep in a Sukkah: ...‫הכוסב ןנשמו לייטמ התושו לכוא‬... (‫חכ הכוס‬:) ,...to eat, drink, stroll and learn in the Sukkah... Rashi elsewhere translates the word ‫ ןילייטמ‬to mean "‫"ןיקחשמ‬, to play. (‫אצ ב"בב‬: ‫)ןילייטמ ה"ד‬

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derstanding of “strolling” or “playing” in the Sukkah?

Indeed, the Rama in his Darkei Moshe quoting the Mahari Weil states that one who plays games, such as “dice”, should do so in the Sukkah as well.(‫)א ק"ס ט"לרת השמ יכרד‬ Could this be all the Talmud is referring to? In many sources there is mention of individuals who are ‫ןדע ןגב לייטמ‬, strolling in Gan Eden with G-d. (‫כ"ות‬ ‫)דועו בי וכ‬ Does this mean they take walks or perhaps engage in a game of chess with the Almighty?! Why are sports, games and entertainment, which have no tangible objective other than winning, so exciting and enthralling? The inimitable Rav Shimshon Pin-

cus explains this phenomenon. The greatest pleasure in the world is life itself. The moment one is saved from being a step away from death is a most wondrous one. In our everyday life we are distracted by the pursuit of the things we need for survival: livelihood, health, shelter and the like. We are consumed in the goal without being conscious of being alive. When engaging in “fun” we are not exercising a necessity or a need but rather are engaging in nothing but life itself. I am alive and powered. Unbeknownst to us, the reason we thrill at these activities is due to the fact that G-d is the constant provider of life. At these circumspect moments of being “alive” we are connecting with life; G-d Himself, the Source of all life. An infant can joyfully play simply with its hands since there are no objectives, merely the enjoyment of life itself. In truth were we not distracted by the pain of a headache and the need to rid ourselves of it, we would regale in the glorious reality that simply in our ability to experience pain lies a thrilling testament to our being alive. (‫)הכר 'ד תישארב ןושמש תראפת‬ There are two ways in which we refer to G-d. The name of ‫י‬-‫ה‬-‫ו‬-‫ ה‬, in its written form expresses a notion of ‫ה"יוה‬, existence, the Omnipresent G-d, He was, He is, He will be. The way we express this name, ‫א‬-‫ד‬-‫נ‬-‫י‬, exclaims our accepting his ‫תונדא‬, authority, despite our inability to sense tangibly His presence.

Our goal in life is to bring a heightened level of awareness and sensing of His ‫ה"יוה‬, and enmeshing it into our affirmation of ‫תונדא‬. The Holy Reb Elimelech in his famed Tzetel Katan (Small Note), teaches how we must transform the everyday mundane acts into encounters with G-d. When eating food one should realize, he instructs, that the word for food, ‫לכאמ‬, is numerically equivalent to 91, the same value of the two names of G-d, ‫א‬-‫ד‬-‫נ‬-‫ י‬and ‫י‬-‫ה‬-‫ו‬-‫ה‬ ! We must experience “life”, G-d, as we engage in otherwise mindless eating. ( 40, 1, 20, 30 = 91/ ‫מ‬-‫א‬-‫כ‬-‫) ל‬ In a remarkable parallel, the word for the booth we sit in, ‫הכוס‬, also equals 91, with the central letters, ‫כו‬ equal to ‫י‬-‫ה‬-‫ו‬-‫ ה‬, (10, 5, 6, 5 = 26) sandwiched amidst the letters, ‫הס‬, that equal the name of‫א‬-‫ד‬-‫נ‬-‫( י‬1, 4, 50, 10 = 65)! The primary mitzva that dictates the reciting of the blessing upon entering the Sukkah, the activity of eating, with all other activities secondary to it, embodies this noble goal, which is the essence of this mitzva. We sit in the Sukkah not merely to attest to G-d’s dominion and authority but to connect with the life force which is G-d. Without need for any outside stimulus we sit joyously in His embrace, experiencing the thrill of being alive! The notion of “playing” represents an activity in which we are absorbed in the “game” itself, thus sensing the vibrancy of our existence, as Rav Shimshon taught. Might this be the underlying un-

Since the sin of the Tree of Knowledge man has been seeking to restore the idyllic existence of Gan Eden. There Adam “walked” with G-d. There Adam sensed the exciting presence of G-d in every endeavor. The thrill of His presence and the tangibility of “life” were ever present. In our efforts to restore that joy we re-enter Gan Eden, our Sukkos, where we contemplate the reality of ‫ה‬-‫ו‬-‫י‬-‫ ה‬in an obscured world of ‫א‬-‫ד‬‫נ‬-‫ י‬. We cast off our distractions and peer deeply into the circumstances of our lives to feel alive once again in the presence and embrace of G-d in everything we do. Perhaps the Talmud omitted the mention of sleeping in the Sukkah, because in the world of accurate perception there is no sleep. Sleep is after all one sixtieth of death a by-product of our failure to see ‫ה‬-‫ו‬-‫י‬-‫ ה‬clearly. In fact, the Mitteler Rebbe, Rav Dovbear of Lubavitch, posited that the spiritual light that emanates on Sukkos is so overwhelming, it is a wonder how can anyone possibly sleep there. The Mishna (‫גנ הכוס‬:) indeed records that the joy that was experienced in the course of Sukkos was so overwhelming that it prevented our “eyes from seeing sleep”! We must take a journey, a trip, to newly discovered territory as we sit in the Sukkah. We must learn once again to appreciate life in its fullest sense, focusing on the presence of G-d that permeates every experience of life. If we succeed we will feel the joy once again of being in the Garden of Eden!

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Rosh Hashana 5777 – The Beginning of a New 19-Year Cycle By Rabbi Dovid Heber

This past Sunday night when Rosh Hashanah 5777 began, was not only the beginning of a new year but was also the first year of the 305th 19-year cycle since brias ha’olam, as indicated in the luach of the Tur in Orach Chaim siman 428. 5776 was the 19th and final year of the previous 19-year cycle which began on Rosh Hashana 5758/1997 and 5777 (2016-2017) is the first year of the new cycle. Unlike the solar cycle of 28 years (Machzor Gadol) which is used in the Jewish calendar to calculate tkufos (seasons) and begins with the recitation of Birchas Hachama, the new 19year cycle (Machzor Katan) will begin almost unnoticed. Indeed, we will experience Rosh Hashana night – one of the most beautiful nights of the year. But, as the sun sets and it gets dark on Sunday and we transition from the end of one cycle into the beginning of a new cycle – there will be nothing special to mark the beginning of this new machzor. What is this cycle and why is it necessary? The 19-year cycle consists of 12 regular years and 7 leap years (Years #3, 6, 8, 11, 14, 17 and 19 of the cycle). So, 12 years of 12 months plus 7 years of 13 months equals 235 months in the 19-year cycle. 5776 was a leap year with two Adars because it was the 19th year of the cycle. The next leap year will be 5779, the third year of the cycle, with two months of Adar in 2019.

As is well known Pesach must occur B’chodesh Ha’aviv – in the spring. Using just a lunar calendar, this is impossible for the following reason: There are approximately 29.5 days between one new moon and the next, so 12 lunar months add up to about 354 days. The earth takes just under 365.25 days to go around the sun, forming the basis of the solar calendar and seasons. A strictly lunar calendar is about 11 days shorter than the solar year. Without a leap year, eventually, Pesach would drift into the winter and not fulfill the Torah’s requirement of “B’chodesh Ha’aviv.” This cannot happen. The solution is a leap year – seven times every 19 years an extra Adar is added to push the Hebrew dates ahead thereby insuring Pesach remains in Aviv/spring. The simple math is that 19 solar years (365.25 days x 19, the amount of time it takes the earth to go around the sun 19 times) takes between 6939 and 6940 days. With seven leap years (shana me’uberes) in 19 years there are 235 months. Since the time between each new moon (the basis for each month in the Hebrew calendar) is 29 days 12 hours 44 minutes and 1 chalek (i.e. 3.33 seconds), 235 rotations take between 6939 and 6940 days – about the same as 19 solar years! [The exact amount of time between 6939 and 6940 for both cycles and why some cycles are longer than 6940 days are beyond the scope of our

discussion.] During the 19-year cycle, there can be 6939, 6940 or 6941 days. It is interesting to note that the 19-year cycle we are about to complete is 6941 days long – the last cycle that was so long concluded with Rosh Hashana 5682 (1921). [In theory, it is possible for a cycle to be 6942 days, but this has not occurred since Hillel Hasheini established the calendar in 4119/359 C.E.]. This issue relates to something very well known. In general, one’s 19th Hebrew and English birthdays coincide. This is because the number of days of both the lunar and solar years are about the same, so the two birthdays occur on the same day. However, this does not always happen. The same applies to birthdays that are multiples of 19. The 38th, 57th, 76th, 95th, and 114th birthdays have English and Hebrew days which usually coincide but sometimes do not. It should be noted that one’s 19th birthday will never occur on the same day of the week that he was born (even if the Hebrew and English dates coincide). The following will illustrate why it is impossible to always work. Purim 5724 occurred on February 27, 1964. 19 years later, Purim 5743 also occurred on February 27, 1983. In both years, Shushan Purim (15 Adar) occurred on February 28. The next day in 1964 was 16 Adar and February 29th. The following day was 17 Adar

and March 1. However, 1983 was not a civil leap year, so there was no February 29th and the dates were therefore “out of sync,” as 16 Adar was not February 29 (it did not exist), but rather March 1. 17 Adar was March 2, 1983. So, those born on March 1, 1964, or on any day in 1964 after this day, did not have their Hebrew and English 19th birthday on the same day. When the Hebrew and English correlation becomes “out of sync,” it takes another additional or subtracted day to rectify the situation (e.g., 30 Marcheshvan or Kislev or a February 29th in one year and not 19 years later or vice versa). Indeed the Machzor Katan/19-year cycle plays a very important role “behind the scenes” with regard to when Yomim tovim occur and numerous other occasions in the life of a Yid. Understanding it gives us a better appreciation of the Torah Hakdosha and Chazal. May this 19-year cycle bring much brocha v’hatzlacha to us, our mishpochos and gantz Klal Yisroel and may we merit to see the ultimate geula during this upcoming Machzor Katan. Ksiva vachasima tova. Rabbi Dovid Heber is the Rav of Khal Ahavas Yisroel Tzemach Tzedek in Baltimore and a Kashrus Administrator at Star-K Kosher Certification

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Yom Kippur The Courage to Dream By Rabbi Silber

If there is one prayer that resonates in the heart of every Jew, it is Kol Nidrei. The very tune is haunting yet enchanting, saddening yet uplifting. Yet, when one looks at the words – they seem to be anything but inspirational. Kol Nidrei is a form of Ha’Toras Nedorim, revocation of vows. We begin the holiest day of the year by releasing

ourselves from the vows of the past and proactively releasing ourselves from the vows we may make in the future and fail to fulfill. On a legal level this is very important, as violating one’s vow is considered to be a severe transgression. Yet, we find ourselves confounded by a basic question – of all the beautiful prayers we have in

our liturgy why begin the holiest day of the year with revocation of vows? There are many prayers with moving words, prayers that capture the true essence of Yom Kippur, purity and repentance. Would not these prayers be more appropriate to open this special day? Why do we begin with Kol Nidrei? What is the message? Perhaps, to answer this question we must strive to understand the purpose and power of a vow (neder). The paradigmatic neder is the Nazirite vow. A person takes a vow not to partake of wine and not to cut his hair. This individual is forgoing certain physical pleasures and is choosing to place less emphasis on his “self.” Why would a person do such a thing? The Rabbis explain because deep down he knows he can be something more, deep down he knows that he possesses greatness within but needs the proper framework to extract it. He needs to shift the focus from pleasure seeking to purpose seeking. Sometimes in life we need a push; we need some level of tension to actualize our potential. This is the neder – it is the framework that allows the individual to access his internal reservoir of potential. To take this one step further, perhaps, the neder can be viewed as a personal aspiration or dream. I know where I am now and I know where I need to get to – the neder is the vehicle to help me bridge the gap. But there is a danger in dreaming – many dreams fail to materialize, many dreams come crashing down, many dreams end in disappointment. When I experience too many failed dreams – I lose my re-

solve and courage to dream any more. It is too hard, I leave myself open to hurt and feelings of failure – better to live without dreams than to dream and fail. This coming Tuesday night when we enter the hallowed sanctity of Yom Kippur, we reflect back on last year and realize that many of the things we wanted to do – we didn’t; many of the dreams we had – remain unrealized, or worse, ended in failure. And so the first thing we do on this sacred day – is revocation of vows, Ha’Toras Nedorim – we let go of our failed dreams. We let go of the unrealized dreams of last year and we acknowledge that there may be more unsuccessful dreams for the coming year. We let go because we will not allow ourselves to be burdened by the yolk of failed dreams. Carrying around these failures can be stifling. We let go in order to dream some more. This is our mandate over Yom Kippur – to dream a new dream. Who do I want to be? What do I want my life to look like? What do I need to accomplish? We unburden ourselves in order to fill our hearts and souls with new, magnificent and holy dreams for the coming year. There is no better, more appropriate way to start this special day than with the recitation of Kol Nidrei. I hope and pray that we will each find the courage to dream a new dream. Let us hope that God sees the beauty in our dreams and gives us the strength to make them come true. Gmar Chasima Tova and Good Shabbos

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Shabbat Shuva By Rabbi Berel Wein

he name of this week’s Torah reading is taken from the first word of the parsha itself –vayelech. This word signifies movement, the action of going somewhere. The subject of this verb is a great teacher and leader Moshe. According to Jewish tradition and the words of the great commentators to the Torah, this parsha was recorded for us by Moshe on the last day of his presence on earth. It is truly wondrous that on his last day on earth Moshe should be described as being in motion, going in strength and fortitude to further teach and guide his beloved people

Israel. Perhaps in this word vayelech alone we discover the secret of the greatness and manifold achievements of Moshe during his lifetime. Moshe was always going, always engaged in teaching and counseling Israel. We do not find in the Torah that Moshe ever rested from his mission or stopped working and striving towards his goal of raising the Jewish people to be a kingdom of priests and a holy nation. Moshe, so to speak, is in perpetual motion, always advancing, going, cajoling and instructing the people of Israel. The Torah records for us that at the end of his life his physical

strength and faculties were in no way diminished. That certainly was an exceptional and most unique blessing. But that was a gift from G-d, as health and longevity always are. The continued activity on behalf of Torah and the Jewish people was a gift from Moshe to Moshe. It was entirely dependent upon his attitude, commitment and vision for himself and his people. Therefore he is truly described in this week’s Torah reading as being a person who is on the move, constantly going towards greater heights and more meaningful accomplishments. This is also one of the messages that Shabbat Shuva teaches us. In order to return to G-d and to begin anew in our quest for holiness and sanctity, we must be proactive in our behavior and attitude. Being passive or apathetic certainly will not accomplish the goal of national and personal return to greatness and holiness. The new year dawning upon us, with all of its blessings, also brings

with it all of its challenges as well. The ability to face up to those challenges, to keep on walking so to speak, will truly be the measure of our accomplishments and the events of this new year. Moshe has taught us by personal example that it is never too late in life to keep on walking and attempting to fulfill our hopes, aspirations and visions. Life is precious and fleeting and should be exploited to the fullest. Being in motion, physically and spiritually, is really the secret of successful longevity and lifetime achievement. Even the great Moshe is not granted physical immortality nor will he even be granted all of the wishes he had for himself on this earth. Yet, until his very last breath, Moshe devotes himself to accomplishing his goals and to leading the Jewish people. This short parsha, which should serve as an inspiration to all of us, should be well studied. Shabbat shalom and gmar chatima tova.

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recently traveled to Phoenix in order to present at a national conference for school business officials. When my teenagers found out where I was going, my trip quickly took on new meaning. To them, the conference was really only a means to a loftier purpose, which was to shop at a local clearance store called Last Chance. For the uninitiated (which included this author until very recently), Last Chance is Nordstrom’s only true clearance store in the country (as opposed to Nordstrom Rack, which offers savings when compared to Nordstrom stores but not to this degree). Clothes, shoes and accessories that end up here are sometimes new, sometimes used, and often damaged. This merchandise comes to Phoenix because it was accepted as a return somewhere along the way and could not be sold in any other Nordstrom store. Last Chance sells it at steep discount, and offers shoppers hope that they might to get their hands on high-end Italian and other products that would otherwise be cost prohib-

itive for them. As you might imagine, shopping at this store has the feeling of being part Marshall’s, part Grand Central Station, and part Black Friday. For me, it was quite the experience. Shopping for my children with my outdated sense of style is hard enough (especially as one is a girl, for whom I was told that I have no sense of fashion). To do so while navigating through the bustling store made matters all the more interesting. Suffice it to say that any return trip to Phoenix will go unmentioned to my kids. But the fact that I wound up at Last Chance on the same day that we (Ashkenazim at least) began to recite Selichos was not lost on me. There was something about having this “last chance” to jostle with complete strangers over possible merchandise deals just hours after going to shul late at night to pour out my heart to my Maker. But instead of pursuing merchandise deals, we crammed together in hope for a different kind of deal, one that would get us through this judgment period despite our im-

perfections. Rosh Hashana presents an unusual paradox. On the one hand, focus is placed on the past. All of our deeds and thoughts from the outgoing year are assessed by our Maker as part of our judgment. In that respect, the Jewish New Year serves as a culmination for the year gone by. On the other hand, we call the day “Rosh” Hashana, which focuses us on the future, and the year that is now beginning. Our rabbis explain that this first of our High Holidays is both the end and the beginning. Hashem, as it were, uses our behaviors of the past as a way of determining how to empower us moving forward. The more that we have shown ourselves as deserving His blessing, the likelier He is to bestow it once again. This is the meaning of the phrase that we add in the Shemona Esrei during the Aseres Ymei Teshuva: “Zachreinu l’chaim…l’maancha Elokim chayim – remember us for life…for Your sake, Living G-d.” Our lives take on meaning only when they contribute to the goals of our Creator.

These last days of the year represent a final opportunity to end our year on a positive note and demonstrate a real commitment to change. Like the merchandise on Last Chance’s shelves, we may be in good condition or we may be, so to speak, damaged goods. But we gain comfort and confidence in knowing that regardless of our condition, there is a “Buyer” who willingly and devotionally invests in us and sees our inner beauty. The potential that lies within us holds us in good stead, despite the fact that it may remain largely untapped. May we merit on this coming Yom Hadin to reconnect with our vast potential and find ways to better harness it for its true purpose – to advance Hashem’s will in this world.

Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive coach, organizational consultant and President of Impactful Coaching & Consulting. He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at nhoff@impactful coaching.com.

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“Say What?!”

I guess I’m having an Aleppo moment.

The second presidential debate is just 11 days away, and this one will have a town hall format. The first question will be, “Why’d you have to do this in our town?”

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- Libertarian presidential candidate Gary Johnson, when asked on MSNBC to name a world leader that he respects, referencing a faux pas that he made several weeks ago when he didn’t know what the Syrian town of Aleppo was

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Notable Quotes

– Jimmy Fallon

Do you think you could put those handcuffs on me? - Edie Simms, 102-years-old, to Missouri police when they took her in their police car and “arrested” her so she can check it off of her bucket list

A woman in Virginia got nearly 600 calls after C-SPAN accidentally posted her number on the air. In response, the head of C-SPAN said, “Wait, we have 600 viewers?” – Conan O’Brien

It’s reported that even the Taliban actually had a debate viewing party. So for the first time, it looks like they’re torturing themselves. – Jimmy Fallon

– President Obama eulogizing Shimon Peres

America Online founder Steve Case endorsed Hillary Clinton for president today, although the last thing Hillary wants to hear is “You’ve got mail.”

The organizer of the presidential debates is allowing social media users to vote on debate questions. That’s why, as of today, the No. 1 question for the next presidential debate is “Hey, u up?” – Conan O’Brien

– Seth Myers

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I think our friendship was rooted in the fact that I could somehow see myself in his story, and maybe he could see himself in mine.

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Starting next month Uber will try to compete with New York City’s subway by offering unlimited carpool rides in Manhattan for $200. So your choice, New York: a crowded train, or dropping off a drug dealer in Queens before heading to work. –Seth Myers

They gave me a defective mic. Did you notice that? My mic was defective within the room. Was that on purpose? – Trump in the spin room after the first presidential debate

Anybody who complains about the microphone is not having a good night. - Hillary responding to Trump’s claim, the day after the debate

Regarding the first debate, there were issues regarding Donald Trump’s audio that affected the sound level in the debate hall. – One sentence statement by the Commission on Presidential Debates, released four days after the debate

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Hillary Clinton has vowed to crack down on hackers who launch cyberattacks. She said, “If anyone’s going to abuse U.S. government computers, it’s gonna be me.” – Conan O’Brien

It’s rumored that Donald Trump’s tax returns were leaked by one of Trump’s ex-wives. In other words, it could be anybody. – Conan O’Brien

A man in Washington State was fined this week for trying to drive in a carpool lane with a cardboard cutout of Donald Trump glued to his passenger seat. Cops became suspicious when Trump’s mouth wasn’t moving. – Seth Myers

So you’ve got this crazy system where all of a sudden 25 million more people have health care and then the people who are out there busting it, sometimes 60 hours a week, wind up with their premiums doubled and their coverage cut in half. It’s the craziest thing in the world. – Bill Clinton in a candid moment at a rally talking about how Obamacare is crushing the middle class

During the final push of the election, Bill Clinton criticized Obamacare in a speech and said it’s “the craziest thing in the world.” It’s all part of Bill’s nationwide “Not Helping” tour. – Conan O’Brien

There’s bad people and there are good people and you have to separate the difference and the bottom line is my son was killed by Islamic terrorists… Call them what they are. - Tina Houchins, the Gold Star Mother who asked President Obama this week about his refusal to say “radical Islamic terrorism,” after he gave her a convoluted non-answer

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–Seth Myers

- Philippines President Rodrigo Duterte, comparing himself to Hitler

We need someone who’s honest and plays by the rules.

- Sheldon Adelson, the main supporter of Birthright Taglit, at the organization’s conference in Washington, D.C.

Donald Trump is a domestic terrorist; only his form of terror doesn’t boil down to blowing things up .- Charles M. Blow, The New York Times

- Michelle Obama – ironically – talking about why Hillary should be elected

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There are 3 million drug addicts [in the Philippines]. I’d be happy to slaughter them. If Germany had Hitler, the Philippines would have [me].

Without Birthright, there are statistics that have been proven at least twice that there’s only 42% of Jewish kids between the ages of 18 and 26 that say they marry within their religion or bring up their children Jewish… In another two or three generations there won’t be any secular Jews left. Think about that. For 3,000 years we’ve been fighting for acceptance, and now that we’ve been accepted it’s turning around to kill us. [Birthright] is the most important program of my lifetime. All the kids that go to Birthright, the number jumps from 42% to 76%.

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Eric Trump today defended his father’s recent 3 a.m. Twitter rant…telling reporters, “At least my father is up at 3 o’clock in the morning.” Why do you think that’s a good thing? You know who’s up that early? People who are wondering where they went wrong with their son.

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– Seth Myers

They are living in their parents’ basement. - Hillary Clinton, at a fundraiser during the primaries, talking about Bernie Sanders supporters, according to recently leaked audio

Bernie Sanders is also campaigning with Hillary. Yesterday, he asked a crowd at one of her rallies, “Is everybody here ready to transform America?” Followed by his next question, “Does anybody here remember where I parked?” – Jimmy Fallon

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SpaceX CEO Elon Musk announced plans yesterday to colonize Mars, saying the main requirement for early settlers would be that they are, quote, “ready to die.” Said Hillary, “I’ll let you know November 9th.”

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Centerfold kidding

You gotta be

A rookie pitcher was struggling at the mound, so the catcher walked out to have a talk with him. “I’ve figured out your problem,” he told the pitcher. “You always lose control at the same point in every game.” “When is that?” “Right after the national anthem.”

Baseball Playoff Facts

Riddle me

this?

During a baseball game, the first baseman, Johnnie, was his team’s leadoff hitter. There were no substitutions or changes in the batting order at all during the nine inning game. Johnnie batted in every inning. What is the least number of runs that his team could have scored in the game? See answer on next page

The World Series began in 1903 to make peace between the two rival baseball leagues, the American League and the National League. B

New York Giants’ manager John McGraw so hated the American League in 1904 that his team refused to play in the World Series. B

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Reggie Jackson once hit three homeruns on three consecutive pitches in a World Series game.

B Frank Robinson and Brooks Robinson (no relation) hit back-to-back homeruns in the 1966 playoffs as members of the Baltimore Orioles. In 2014 J.D. Martinez and Victor Martinez (no relation) did the same thing for the Detroit Tigers in the post-season. B “The dreams are that you’re gonna have a great series and win. The nightmares are that you’re gonna let the winning run score on a ground ball through your legs. Those things happen, you know. I think a lot of it is just fate.” – Bill Buckner in an interview several days before he allowed Mookie Wilson’s dribbler to ramble through his legs, leading to the Mets beating the Red Sox in the 1986 World Series. B

The Braves won the World Series in three different cities: Boston (1914), Milwaukee (1957), and Atlanta (1995). B

More people have walked on the moon (12) than men who have scored against Mariano Rivera in the postseason (11).

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2. Who threw down the Yankees bench coach Don Zimmer in Game 3 of the ALCS in 2003? a. Pedro Martinez b. David Ortiz c. Manny Ramirez d. Curt Schilling 3. Which of the following sluggers hit at least 25 homeruns in postseason play? a. Manny Ramirez b. Reggie Jackson c. Babe Ruth d. Mickey Mantle

5. Who has played in the most postseason games in MLB history? a. Billy Martin b. Yogi Berra c. Derek Jeter d. Reggie Jackson 6. When did the MLB add the wild card round to the playoffs? a. 1956 b. 1974 c. 1994 d. 2002 7. Which team holds the record for most consecutive playoff appearances? a. Yankees b. Dodgers c. Cardinals d. Braves Answers: 1. B 2. A - When the Yankees and Red Sox had a bench clearing

brawl, Zimmer charged towards Pedro Martinez. Martinez grabbed Zimmer by his rather large bald head and threw him to the ground. Not nice. 3. A 4. C - The “shot heard ‘round the world” is the game-winning three-run homer in the bottom of the ninth by New York Giants Bobby Thomson at the Polo Grounds in New York City, to win the 1951 National League (NL) pennant over the Dodgers. That was the first game ever broadcast on television. 5. C - Jeter played in 154 postseason games. 6. C 7. D - The Braves made the playoffs from 1991 through 2005. Scorecard: 6-7 correct: Boom! It is high it is far … it is gone! The Shot Heard Around the Centerfold! 3-5 correct: Congrats! You are in the wild card. 0-2 correct: You win front row tickets to see the Mets play in the wild card game at Shea Stadium!

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4. Which Giants hitter hit “the shot heard round the world” in the 1951 playoff win over the Dodgers? a. Carl Erskine b. Don Newcombe

c. Bobby Thompson d. Ralph Branca

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1. Which team has been in every American League Champion Series (ALCS) between the years 1995 and 2001? a. Red Sox b. Yankees c. Orioles d. Mariners

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MLB Post-Season Trivia

Answer to Riddle: Zero. In the first inning John and the next two batters walk and the next three strike out. In the second inning, the first three walk again, which brings John back to bat. But each runner is caught off base by the pitcher, so John is back at the plate at the start of the third inning. This pattern is now repeated until the game ends.

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Dating Dialogue

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Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

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What Would You Do If…

Dear Navidaters,

I’ve been dating Leah for over a month now. She seems to really have her life together and that’s a big part of what I’m attracted to in her. She seems to really know what she wants and how to get it. I believe I know what I want in terms of my future, but getting there is never a simple thing for me. I’m not the most organized guy in the world. I tend to goof up a lot, oversleep, get distracted, etc. My intentions are always good, but I know my followup is not the greatest.

What do you think about our relationship? Can such a setup work? Sometimes I think she’s the best thing that ever happened to me and that we should marry quickly and my life will be infinitely better than it’s ever been. But other times I start thinking that I’m not viewing her with any sort of romance, if you know what I mean. The way things are going now, my gut tells me that something is way off kilter. Is there a way to rebalance our relationship so that it’s still great, but more normal?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration. Check out Soon By You’s Aftershow with the Navidaters on YouTube for a sit-down with coproducer Danny Hoffman.

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So Leah has quickly taken on the role of acting as a mentor with me. I feel as though she’s probably thinking that if she could just teach me a few tricks, I would be a worthwhile husband. She’s comfortable giving me advice on all sorts of things. From creating better “sleep hygiene” (her words), to dressing better, keeping lists, etc. I’m grateful for all of her caring and advice. But it’s gotten to the point where Leah is totally comfortable telling me what to do all the time and calling all the shots. I don’t really like making too many decisions and am often thrilled to have her decide where we should go on a date or what I should order at a restaurant. But lately, it’s starting to feel like I’m dating my mother! And that’s starting to feel really uncomfortable for me.

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The Panel

The Rebbetzin R’ Faigie Horowitz, M.S.

ou are right to trust your gut. If Leah is already trying to change you after one month of dating, she doesn’t know enough about relationships and marriage. She has a lot of growing up and learning to do. It’s not your job to teach her. She needs help but your relationship is imbalanced from the get-go, so get out.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A.

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ardon me, sir, but I thought the object of your dating life is finding a soulmate, not a mentor or mommy. Years ago, growing up in LA, I lived next door to the Kugelmans. Every Friday, Mr. Kugelman handed over the paycheck. Each morning, Mrs. Kugelman sent her husband off to work with a lunch bag and $2 – $1.50 for carfare and $0.50 for the newspaper. Every six weeks, she gave him $5 for a haircut. On Thursdays, she handed him the vacuum cleaner; on Sundays, she proffered the lawn mower. That was life in the seven-

ties; Mrs. K flourished in her role as Lady of the Manor, Mr. K withered in his role as henpecked husband. You are astute enough to sense discomfort about this skewed relationship, or as you say, “setup.” I agree you have a lot of growing up to do in the responsibility department – sleep hygiene, time management, and decision making. Marrying Leah, or a drill sergeant, is not the answer. Even if you think Leah enjoys wearing the pants, she will disrespect you in the long run. If your “goofing off” or inability to focus on your commitments prevent you from succeeding at school, work or relationships, I suggest you invest in therapy or a life coach. Once you gain mastery of your time and your life, you will become better husband material and, most assuredly, attract a soulmate with whom you can enjoy a balanced, romantic relationship.

The Dating Mentor Rochel Chafetz

aybe you should follow your gut. If she has that personality, even if you talk about it, it will be hard to change. How can you marry someone who wants to fix you all the time?

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relationship like yours works when it works. What I mean by that is that there are plenty of marriages in which the wife calls the shots and the husband goes

with the flow. When this arrangement is satisfying to both partners, then why not? The tidy and orga-

Don’t you want someone to love you for you, even with your faults? You’re right, she is not your mother. Move on.

The Single

It’s gotten to the point where Leah is totally comfortable telling me what to do all the time and calling all the shots.

Ahuva Guttman

efinition of transitive verb “henpeck” by Merriam-Webster: to subject (one’s husband) to persistent nagging and domination. Old Jewish Joke: There was a rumor in the shtetl that all Jewish husbands were henpecked. In order to determine if the rumor was true, the mayor of the town called all the men to the town square. All henpecked husbands were to stand in one line, all non-henpecked husbands were to stand in another line. The line of henpecked husbands was very long and went on for nearly a mile. But the line of non-henpecked husbands had only one man standing on it. The mayor walked up to the one man standing on the line of non-henpecked husbands and said to him, “This is remarkable! It seems all Jewish men are henpecked husbands and that you are the only exception. Please tell me, what is it that keeps you from being a henpecked husband?” The man looked at the mayo r, s h r u g g e d , and said, “I have no idea, sir. I’m here because my wife told me to stand on this line.” Of course that joke is always told by henpecked hus-

bands. There are also unfortunately too many (even one is too many) controlling and abusive Jewish husbands who are the opposite of henpecked. They don’t tell that joke. There are as many different types of marital relationships out there as there are many different types of people. However, if the relationship is not based on love, attraction, trust and respect for one another, it is bound for failure. This one seems to be lacking in love, or at this stage of the process, attraction. There are some men who are romantically attracted to women who dominate and take over their lives. As you said, none of that attraction exists for you with this young woman. So it would seem to me that it is time for you to move on. What you have learned from this experience is that you would be helped very much by having a life coach. That’s great! Find one and pay for one. Then go out and find a wife who you are attracted to. She could be a very capable, organized and independent young woman. But you need to be attracted to her and there needs to be some draw on the level of a real relationship. As an aside, if you want to marry a young woman strictly as a utility, you could probably find one who is a good cook. But marrying her for solely that reason without any attraction would not sustain the relationship, even though you like to eat good food.

nized wife gets to take the wheel and the “laid back” husband keeps the passenger seat nice and warm. When one partner has a change of heart, the resentment is likely to

build on both your parts. When this arrangement no longer works, and the couple is knee deep in children, careers and/or mortgages, couples can begin to take on the roles of angry mommy and naughty boy. The

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been? I am not an expert in ADD nor am I giving you a diagnosis through a column. Just something to consider. If these behaviors are explained by ADD or ADHD, then there are all sorts of management strategies out there to help you gain greater awareness into your behaviors and ultimately help you function more optimally. Some of the greatest relationships contain two people whose strengths complement each other’s weaknesses. It is often in our marriages that a spouse holds up a mirror and reflects our flaws. Some people do not want to look into that mirror because it’s easier to keep the status quo. Some people decide to look in the mirror, reflect upon it, and take steps to become to the best version of themselves. I wonder if the universe may be presenting you with an incredible opportunity to do just that. Good luck! Sincerely, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail. com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram.

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Who says she enjoys making these lists for you or ordering for you? Maybe she has been waiting for you to get into gear, or maybe all of her actions are the ultimate acceptance of you? Maybe she sees you for who you are and has been trying to give you what she thinks you need. Who knows, really? Once you step up and make yourself an equal in this relationship, you may find yourself becoming more attracted to her once again. Of course you aren’t attracted to her right now. Men aren’t supposed to be attracted to their mommies. But have you turned her into Mommy? If Leah is condescending to you, rude, impatient, judgmental or verbally abusive, then now is the time to exit the relationship. But if that is not what is going on here, and you feel in your heart that you somehow contributed to Leah becoming “mommy,” then I think you should stick around and work on asserting yourself. Get to know your own voice. What do you like to order at the restaurant? Can you get on top of those lists yourself? Will you work on your sleeping habits? What exactly is your difficulty with follow through? Get to know yourself now and do this soul searching now so that you don’t find yourself in the same relationship with another woman. As long as your signal is help me, fix me you are going to attract someone ready, willing and able to get to fixin’! I am not jumping to any conclusions, just pointing out that some of the attributes you described (easily distracted, goofing, etc.) may indicate a diagnosis of ADD/ADHD. Of course, wearing my therapist’s hat, I am wondering when the symptomology appeared. Have you been this way since you were a kid? How was school for you? Were you the kid with the knapsack full of crumpled up papers and empty snack bags? Has focusing always been an issue for you? Or, are these new symptoms and are drastically different from how you’ve always

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fingers and label Leah as “bossy” or “demanding,” let’s acknowledge that you have sent Leah a loud and clear signal: help me, I can’t do this myself and I need you to do this for me. Whether it’s the schedule you keep or an indecisive nature, you may have invited Leah to become this “mommy figure.” Part of you feels like something is off in this relationship, but another part of you freely gives Leah the reins to make decisions and invites her to take on the role of Mommy. Maybe Leah has become Mommy, in part, because you have allowed her to. Some of the panelists suggested leaving the relationship. I say, there’s time to do that later, if it should come to that. If you make some changes, maybe Leah will happily sit in that passenger’s seat.

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husband may resent his wife for always acting like his angry mother (overbearing, critical, uptight, no intimacy or affection, nagging) and the wife may come to resent her husband for acting like an overly indulged, self-entitled child (lazy, immature, not a partner in life) for whom she must do everything. The good news is that if both spouses are willing to put in the work, the cycle can be stopped and the couple can achieve closeness and intimacy again. You and Leah are only dating one month, but a cycle has begun. You are cruising along but growing unattracted to her, and she is in charge, unbeknownst to her that this isn’t working for you. There are two people responsible for the current dynamic. Before we point

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A Message of Courage, Fortitude and Hope Hillel Ariel’s Parents Bring the Jewish Nation Closer BY TAMMY MARK

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the past few years there have been a surge of tragic events in Israel, one more heartbreaking than the next. Sometimes there are so many in succession that one can almost forget the details of the individual stories, and yet there are those that can impact us forever, like the tragedy of young Hallel Yaffa Ariel, Hy”d. On June 30, 2016, 13 year-old Hallel was asleep in her bed at home in Kiryat Arba when a terrorist entered her bedroom, stabbing her in her sleep. The shock and cruelty of the attack perpetrated on an innocent girl left a deep wound on the nation. Rena and Amichai Ariel had to sit shiva for their precious daughter. While thousands of people came to pay respects to the Ariel family, two individuals were compelled to take action and ensure that Hallel would be remembered in a meaningful way – Moshe Rothchild and Elana Kronenberg, neighbors from the community of Efrat. Elana had purchased wine from the Ariel family winery where Hallel loved to work and helped to promote and sell the wine for the family with the intention that more blessings would be made in Hallel’s memory. Moshe had contacted Elana to purchase wine, and they subsequently joined forces, selling hundreds of bottles of wine in the young girl’s memory. Elana and Moshe still wanted to do more for the family. Moshe knew

that while the pain will always be sharp for the Ariels, as for all grieving families, there would only be a short time that the world would feel the sharpness of the pain along with them. The Ariel family understood that the most significant time to connect with the community would be soon after the tragedy. Accompanied by Elana and Moshe, who both left their own families, the Ariels agreed to travel to the United States to share their personal story of loss – and give the greater Jewish community the opportunity to offer comfort and pay their condolences.

plaining that rachamim is when a person in need comes and asks for help and you respond. Chessed is when you actively go and look to help – when you respond without being asked.

Rena

Ariel recalls details from the tragic day Hallel was murdered. Rena was on the way to work when she received the text from a friend, telling her to contact Amichai. “I’m sitting in my car in Jerusalem, knowing that the worst of the worst was happening in Kiryat Arba. On one hand I’m

“We felt side by side that Hashem gave us some kind of mercy, some kind of chessed.”

Moshe posted a message on Facebook about the Ariel family’s upcoming visit. His step-sister, Tamar Einstein of Woodmere, offered immediately to host. Many other communities followed, graciously opening their arms to welcome the Ariels. Moshe expressed his gratitude for the opportunity to help share Hallel’s story. He expounded on the difference between the Jewish concept of chessed and that of rachamim – ex-

dead, on the second hand you must function, you must take the car and drive… This feeling of functioning and dying at the same time – I feel sometimes it’s the story of the Jewish people, living where we are, and we have to function even if we feel like dying.” The terrorist had jumped the fence in Kiryat Arba. Amichai belongs to civilian unit that helps the army. He knew something was

happening but nobody knew exactly what. He was told to run home. Two of Amichai’s friends went with him. The three men ran into the house with Amichai heading directly to the room where his daughter Hallel had been sleeping. He saw the ultimate horror and started screaming. Shukie, his friend and former student, stayed with him. The Arab terrorist was in the house waiting with a knife. The terrorist stabbed Shukie in the leg. The third man heard the shouting, saw what happened, and alerted the civilian unit who shot and killed the terrorist – the whole exchange took but a few seconds. Amichai’s life was spared.

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were miracles alongside the tragedy. The two younger Ariel girls, ages 8 and 4, were sent to school early for their last day. The sisters shared the room – the next day it could have been all three of them in the room. “We felt side by side that Hashem gave us some kind of mercy, some kind of chessed,” believes Rena. A bullet had entered Shukie’s eye. The Ariels found out two weeks later that he lost the eye. A millimeter over and he would have been brain damaged or dead, but he’s alive, driving and shooting. These are the miracles they hold onto. “We hold onto the miracles. The fact that Amichai is alive and the oth-

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Rena

thought nobody would come during shiva since they would be afraid to travel to Kiryat Arba, but thousands and thousands of people came. “All of Israel heard our cry,” she says. “People came, hugged us, said, ‘Hamokem yenachem etchem’ and left. Jews from the north, Jews from the south, Jews from America.” People visited in droves waiting

lel would have written. Rena and Amichai already felt fortunate that Hallel had recently expressed to her father how happy she was. She had her friends and her dancing, which she loved, and was happy to start a new school. Five minutes after Ilan’s visit, a woman entered the shiva house – Hallel’s grammar teacher. She explained that Hallel had done some essays in class and wanted to read them something she had written. The exercise was to write to an American “friend” in a notebook. Hallel told the friend how happy she was in Israel despite the hard times and the dangers. Amichai and Rena feel like the chain connecting these young women one to another – Amichai’s moth-

“All of Israel heard our cry. People came, hugged us, said, ‘Hamokem yenachem etchem’ and left.”

was named after an aunt named Ilana. Ilana was murdered at the age of 16 in that tragedy that Amichai had spoken about. Ilan told the Ariels that before Ilana died she managed to write a letter, which he proceeded to read. Written in her last hours, knowing that she wouldn’t survive, Ilana thanked her parents for everything – for good values and a Jewish life. The Ariels felt that this letter would have been the letter that Hal-

er, Ilana and Hallel – while all very sad has much power. “People ask us how do we rise up, how do we stand,” relates Rena. “We’re just parents, a mother and a father. We have to survive so we have to stand – the only way to survive is standing.”

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Ariels feel that their story actually started more than 70 years earlier, when Amichai’s mother was a child. At the age of 13 or 14 – just around Hallel’s age – she was put along with her family on train to Treblinka. As the door was locked her wise father told her that she must jump, that it would be the only way for her to survive. The young girl jumped off the train into the forest in the middle of nowhere. She was the only one on Amichai’s side that survived the Holocaust. She made her way to Israel and eventually married. Today she has children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. “That she had to lose a whole family just because she’s Jewish links to our story today. It’s the same story and it’s important for us to tell it,” says Rena.

on a long line that ran through the entire house. One couple who came to give comfort confided to the Ariels that had not yet had children. Amichai, a kohen, blessed the couple for children in an emotional and moving encounter. On Shabbos during the week of shiva, Amichai told a story at kiddush. He told how in 1974 his family witnessed as a terrorist came to his town came through Nahariya through the seashore. Amichai’s father was a military man and managed to move them out, but tragically another family was murdered. One visitor later that week was a man that had a story to tell them; he is the mayor of Tzfat. He told them his name was Ilan Shohat and he

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morial service 30 days after her Hallel’s murder. Hallel loved to dance and was already very good at it. Even when she did four performances in a row, she told her mother how much she loved it – she said it gave her power and energized her. Rena decided to plan an evening to empower the women of Kiryat Arba, again not sure how many would come. Hallel’s dance teacher had the idea to perform a dance in memory of Hallel, including their 8-year old daughter Shira to show that life continues on. The older girls from the dancing school took young Shira under their wings and taught her the dance. 500 women came that evening. When Shira went up to dance there wasn’t a dry eye in the house. Wherever the Ariels go they feel the strong connection from their Jewish brothers and sisters and it gets reinforced at each turn. When the Ariels were in Miami sharing their story, a woman stood up to speak. She told them that she was there at the shloshim and witnessed something inspiring and amazing. The Ariels’ 4-year-old daughter, Kana, also wanted to dance, so they dressed her up in a small white costume and the dancers brought her along at the end. Little Kana, however, did not want to leave and stayed throughout the rest of the program. As Kana danced through the whole night, the lady said she saw the future in the little girls. “With all this sorrow we have a future, and the future is this 4-yearold and 8-year-old girl dancing and the future is our country and our people. We share the same history. We can’t collapse because we have a story,” says Rena. The Ariels know many stories of families who have suffered losses – a wife who lost her son and husband, a young man of 18 who was missing a leg came at the end of shiva. He survived his family being murdered 10 years prior and came to tell the family that there is a future, and that though it took time to get through the trauma, he is alive. Rena’s faith is very strong. She relies on certain beliefs that help her survive. “First is the fact that I’m relating to G-d as he’s a king and I’m a slave – an attitude of humbleness.

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er girls were spared and Shukie – we have to hold on to that. That Hallel was stabbed in the heart and was not injured or terrorized – she went up holy like the sons of Aharon. For us this was a chessed. The paramedics said she did not suffer.” Rena and Amichai Ariel also maintain a global perspective on their personal tragedy that helps comfort them. They feel that they are a part of a long chain of Jewish history. Living in Kiryat Arba, on the outskirts of Hebron and the Cave of the Patriarchs, reinforces that connection. “She’s our girl, but we feel she became, to some extent, everyone’s girl, and if we can share the story it becomes a story of the Jewish people,” hopes Rena. “We’re not heroes, we’re not special people, we’re not any different than any of you here, and the only difference is we live in a special place, in Kiryat Arba.”

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The question I want to ask is ‘why her’? There’s no answer, but also we’re taught there’s no question. It’s hard in this generation when everyone Googles the answer. There’s a point where we have to say, ‘I do not know’ and accept it as being a Jew. Knowing she’s in the highest of the

hands. It helps us.”

her short life 13-year-old Hallel managed to affect those around her. There were sometimes social issues in her class of girls, but Hallel was a peace seeker. One particular girl was lonely and

“There’s a point where we have to say, ‘I do not know’ and accept it as being a Jew.” high – I don’t know exactly what it means but I know there’s something beyond me and that helps us accept it.” She continues, “Another way – when we say Avinu Malkeinu we accept that He’s the father – a father will be a father until death. He’s taking care of Hallel. She’s in good

Hallel quietly befriended her and built a relationship. When Hallel was murdered the girl wrote a letter thanking the Ariels for the years of Hallel’s friendship. They value the message that Hallel taught them – to look and see who needs something, to remember to look around

since in the rush of life we tend to go too fast. The Ariels live in the last house on the edge of Kiryat Arba; beyond them there are no Jewish houses. A friend had asked Hallel if she was scared coming home late from her performances and she said no, it is my home. “Hallel was a happy girl and we want to be happy parents so Shira and Kana can have a happy life too. They deserve it and they need us for this.” Rena speaks of her visit to Florida the previous day when they were taken to Disneyworld and their girls saw the Disney princesses…and how she thought of their own princess that was missing. Again she was split: she can’t collapse while watching her girls so happy and wanting to take pictures with a princess – she has to live for them. “I wanted to run away…but we were there for the girls.” The dance recital in memory of Hallel was a very special night. When the family returned home it was late but the girls asked their father for a story to help fall asleep. Amichai, a former Torah teacher, decided to tell the story of Miriam the prophet and how she was the very first dancer in Tanach and taught all of the women of Israel to dance. Again, the family felt the overwhelming connection to something greater, of their beloved Hallel connected with the heroes of the nation. When the younger girls see all the different Jewish people from all walks of life, they also feel connected. This gives them a lot of strength. Terror and tragedy in Israel has become too commonplace. Rena laments how in their small community of Kiryat Arba alone there are ten families that have suffered through major terror attacks in the last year and a half. She says that it has become like their own language. Moshe tells how even during this U.S. visit, while Rena was speaking about her Hallel’s tragic attack, he was getting texts and alerts from Israel because of an infiltration in Efrat – with video showing four IDF soldiers standing on his patio at home. After hours of searching the terrorist was caught, luckily before another tragedy could occur.

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“In America you talk about politics, but it’s not always real politics. In Israel, it affects our day-to-day lives and it’s very serious,” he says. “While this resonated around the world, people living in Israel were affected very deeply obviously, the nature of it with the innocent sleeping child.”

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Ariel family is hoping to preserve their daughter’s memory in concrete ways. They are working to build up the family vineyard in Hallel’s memory. They appreciate how the Jewish community is reaching out – there is even an original piece of art created and printed in Hallel’s memory available for purchase. The family is also trying to raise awareness and funds towards increasing the Jewish population. Moshe quotes the statistic that Jewish people are the only people since World War II that have not gotten back to their pre-war numbers. To that end, the Ariels have created a fund, the Just One Life Special Fund, to help mothers who have difficult situations. “Our enemies are doing everything they can to hurt us,” says Moshe, “and we are doing what we can to increase the population.” For more information email HallelsVineyard@gmail.com.

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What Makes The World Go Round By Chasida Teichman CLC AAPC

It’s that time of year again, when we have come full circle – more like a spiral- same place, but we hope a bit higher this time around. It is fascinating to note that so much of our culture is based on circles: The bride encircles the groom, is betrothed with a ring, and both bride and groom are made merry by circles of joyous friend in dance. In Shul, those carrying the Torah encircle the

Bima, and the jubilation of Simchas Torah is known as Hakafos, meaning “the encirclements.” It is mentioned that in the future, G-d will make a circle for all the righteous men who will break out in dance. In the realm of Time, the two Holidays of Pilgrimage whose dates are mentioned in the Torah take place when the moon is a complete circle. In the realm of Space, Jerusalem is described in Psalms as a

city that is surrounded by mountains, to replicate the concept that G-d surrounds His people with loving protection. And in Man, his most prominent feature is his head, which is round, and by this word, Rosh, all new beginnings are referred. The beauty and deep message of the circle is clear: Everyone is equidistant from the center, and anyone joining can never change the sphere, which is not true of any other geometric shape. The circle, even widened, remains a circle. In the Season of Judgment, we are accustomed to thinking of G-d as a judge. In truth, we are all judgmental. At times, we pass the harshest judgments on ourselves. If we do not internalize Blame properly, it will cause Shame, which, in turn, will cause stress, which will prevent us from being our best selves in the future. We will stumble again, and the Shame will persist. To break the cycle, we need to distinguish between Shame and Guilt. Shame means I am bad. Guilt means I did something bad. A world of a difference. To the extent that we can learn to have compassion on ourselves, we can have compassion on others. Understanding that failure is integral to the growth process is paramount and enables us to accept our shortcomings with grace and resilience. To enable us to shift from Shame to Guilt, we need to be able to tell ourselves: I could have done better. I could have done worse. I did the best I could under the circumstance. Self-compassion enables us to see the world with greater kindness. I recently heard an incredibly powerful and profound story about a

Rabbi in Israel. For many years he was involved in Kiruv. One day, he experienced a terrible personal tragedy – his young son suddenly died. Amongst the many who came to comfort him during the week of Shiva was a group of wayward looking youth, bedecked with piercings and tattoos. They were his devoted students who came out of respect and love to visit their Rabbi. Before leaving, they told him that in honor of his child, they were committed to keeping Shabbat one time that very week. The rabbi was very touched, and embraced them emotionally. When they departed, others in the room turned to the rabbi in disgust, and said: “One Shabbos?? All they will keep now is one Shabbos?? How about keeping Shabbos from now on?? How can they be so insulting?? To which the rabbi replied: “Do you know what I would give to spend just one Shabbos more with my son? To take him with me to Shul, to share a story with him, to sing Zmiros with him, to pinch his cheek, just one more time? I would give everything I own for just one Shabbos. G-d misses his children. Terribly. How much He would enjoy spending just one Shabbos with them! Even just one Shabbos.” G-d loves us. Let’s love ourselves, and in turn, love others. Let’s put Him in the center of our Universe, with all we do and with everything we are. Let’s open our clenched fists and grab the hand of anyone else and pull him into our circle. Now, let’s dance! Chasida Teichman is a Certified Life Coach who resides in Baltimore, Md. To contact her, please email chteichman@gmail.com.

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reduce Egypt’s motivation for going to war. Two months later, the new Egyptian president, Anwar Sadat, reshaped Dayan’s proposal and adopted it as his own. In an address to the Egyptian National Assembly he proposed a partial Israeli pullback. He saw it, however, as a means of catalyzing, not indefinitely postponing, a final withdrawal from Sinai. Sadat startled his listeners by declaring his readiness for peace but only if Israel agreed to withdraw from all territory captured in 1967, including East Jerusalem, and resolving the Palestinian refugee problem. Meir was content to wait indefinitely – without conciliatory gestures, as the Americans urged – until Egypt was prepared to meet her demands: border changes and recognition of Israel. Now, on Yom Kippur morning, 1973, she faced the consequences of that stand. She had spent the night not in her official Jerusalem residence but in her Tel Aviv apartment. Arriving at her office in Tel Aviv, she had to wait for two hours while her two senior military advisors – Defense Minister Moshe Dayan and the chief of staff, General David Ela-

zar – debated what to recommend to her. Elazar wanted a preemptive air strike against the Syrian army, which was closer to the Israeli heartland than the Egyptian army, and full mobilization of the reserves. Dayan was dubious about the Mossad’s war warning – there had been similar warnings before from the same source which proved false alarms, he noted. He opposed a preemptive strike and favored only limited mobilization since full mobilization in the absence of fighting could itself be taken as an act of war. At 8:05 a.m., the two veteran warhorses took their dispute to Meir, a 75-year-old grandmother who did not even know what an army division was. The prime minister smoked cigarette after cigarette as they made their cases. The officers and advisers present squinted from the acrid smoke filling the room. She hemmed uncertainly for a few moments but then made a clear decision. Yes on mobilization. No on a preemptive strike. The Americans opposed Israel making a habit of preemptive strikes and Israel might soon be needing American political and logistical assistance. (As it happened, cloud conditions over Syria would have prevented a preemptive strike.

In addition, as the air force would soon discover, it was unable to penetrate the Arabs’ anti-aircraft missile defenses.) Meir made one decision as a grandmother rather than as a prime minister. Dayan suggested that children be brought down from the kibbutzim on the Golan Heights before the fighting started. He said that buses would bring them down in the late afternoon under the pretense of taking them on an outing. If the war warning had dissipated by then, the trip would be canceled and they would be spared an outcry from the religious sector at the government organizing an excursion on Yom Kippur. According to the Mossad’s agent, the Arab attack would not come before sundown. Meir overruled Dayan. The children must be brought down this morning, she said. The Arabs, in fact, had made a last-minute change in zero hour, moving it up to 2 p.m. when a massive barrage would descend on the Golan Heights. All her decisions had been sound and they would remain so for the duration of the war. Common sense and political savvy would serve her well in the unfamiliar terrain of military matters. She would leave the running of the war to others but her input

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had been sleeping poorly for several nights but this morning she was wakened into her nightmare – a ringing telephone at 3:45 a.m. on Yom Kippur. It was her military aide, Gen. Yisrael Lior, passing on a message from Mossad chief Zvi Zamir who had just met in London with his most valued source. War, said Lior. This day, before dark. For all her toughness and experience, Golda Meir had never imagined leading her nation into war. “What do we do now, Yisrael?” she asked. The threat had been in the air since the Egyptians began moving large forces into the Suez Canal zone a week before. Military Intelligence Chief Eli Zeira assured her and the general staff that it was only a military exercise. She remained uneasy but didn’t challenge a roomful of generals who were counseling calm. She had been confident since the Six Day War that Israel’s geopolitical situation had never been better and that the Arabs, who still refused to recognize Israel, would eventually bow to reality. In December 1970, she rejected a proposal by Defense Minister Moshe Dayan that Israel pull back 20 miles from the canal in order to enable its reopening and thereby

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Golda Meir devastated by the news of the capture of Bar Lev line by the Egyptian army

would periodically be required. As soon as the meeting was over at 9:30 a.m. and the signal given to begin mobilizing the reserves, Meir met with American ambassador Kenneth Keating and his assistant, Nicholas Veliotes, whom she had urgently summoned. The diplomats were stunned when she said Israel expected to be attacked on two fronts that day. They had been assured by CIA reports and the Israelis themselves only a few days before that there was

An officer distributing mail from home to soldiers in one of the forward positions on Mount Hermon, October 11, 1973 (Photo Credit GPO-Eitan Harris)

was about to happen, the U.S. was a critical anchor and Dinitz, a former director of the Prime Minister’s Office, was a channel she could rely on. There were no flights from Israel on Yom Kippur but Gen. Lior arranged for an executive jet from Israel Aircraft Industries to fly Dinitz to Rome where he boarded a commercial flight for Washington. At 12:30 p.m., Meir met with the cabinet, all except the religious min-

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Even as Meir declared the meeting closed, sirens began to wail in the streets outside. no danger of war. Meir assured them that Israel would not strike first. If the Arab moves were dictated by a misreading of Israeli intentions, she said, Washington should assure them that Israel had no intention of attacking. Keating asked whether it was certain that Israel would not preempt. “You can be sure,” she repeated. In his report to Washington, the ambassador quoted Meir as saying, “We might be in trouble.” Waiting outside the prime minister’s office when Keating emerged, looking pale, was Israel’s ambassador to Washington, Simha Dinitz. He had arrived a few days before for the funeral of his father. “You’ve got to return to Washington immediately,” Meir said when he entered. Whatever

isters who had not come down from Jerusalem. She was pale and her eyes were downcast as she walked slowly to her chair at the head of the table. Her hair, normally neatly combed and pulled back, was disheveled and she looked like she had not shut her eyes all night. For the first time, her ministers saw an old woman sitting in the prime minister’s chair, slightly bent. She lit a cigarette, leafed briefly through a pile of papers in front of her, and declared the meeting open. She began with a detailed report of events over the past few days – the Arab deployment on the borders that had suddenly taken on ominous color, the hasty evacuation of the families of Soviet advisers from Egypt and Syria, the air photos, the insistence

Prime Minister Golda Meir and Cabinet members visiting the southern command, October 29, 1973

by military intelligence that there would be no war despite mounting evidence to the contrary. The military leaders were divided, she said, over whether war would break out, over mobilization and a preemptive strike. She spoke in a monotone, sounding like a judge reading out a sentence. Then she reached the bottom line. In the early hours of this morning, word had been received from an unimpeachable source that war would break out at 6 p.m. this day on both the Egyptian and Syrian fronts. The ministers were stunned. They had not been made privy to the Arab buildup. Furthermore, they had been told for years that even in a worst-case situation military intelligence would provide at least a 48hour warning to call up the reserves before war broke out. Now they were told that a two-front war was less than six hours away with the reserves, constituting two-thirds of the army, still unmobilized. Meir asked Dayan to describe the situation along the two fronts. Despite her depressed look, her voice had been firm. But there appeared to be a tremor in Dayan’s voice.

He looked like a man whose certainties had suddenly crumbled. As he neared the end of his review, an aide entered and handed him a note. The defense minister announced that Egyptian planes were attacking in Sinai. Even as Meir declared the meeting closed, sirens began to wail in the streets outside. Dayan, for long Israel’s icon, was unnerved by the situation Israel now found itself in. Military intelligence had what was supposed to be a failsafe system that would let it know if the Arabs planned to attack in ample time to mobilize the reserves. It had failed to activate the system because premature activation risked its exposure, and Gen. Zeira, despite all the evidence, did not believe the Arabs would dare attack. For two days or so, Dayan suffered a failure of nerve and spread despondency among his peers by warning that Israel faced destruction. When he spoke to the inner cabinet after

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returning from flying visits to both fronts Sunday morning, Meir, who had dark thoughts enough of her own, listened to him “in horror,” as she would write. She would acknowledge that she had thoughts of suicide. As the cabinet meeting broke up, she telephoned her long-time aide, Ms. Lou Kedar, whose office was next door. “Meet me in the corridor,” she said. There were other people still in Meir’s office and she wanted a private space. Although she had the

But he had spoken of surrendering territory — pulling back from the Bar-Lev Line — and of his belief that it would be impossible to force the Egyptians back across the canal. When Meir asked what his reaction would be if the UN ordered a ceasefire, he said he would grab it. He offered his resignation but she rejected it. Meir stared hollowly at Kedar, her mind elsewhere. The wait seemed interminable. Slowly, the expression on

country’s top political and military advisers on hand she could share her deepest feelings only with an old friend. When Kedar emerged into the corridor, Meir was already waiting for her. Kedar was shocked at her pallor, which matched the gray jacket she was wearing. There was despair in her face. Kedar would remember the prime minister leaning heavily against the wall and saying in a low and terrible voice, “Dayan is speaking of surrender.” If Dayan had used that word, it is inconceivable that he used it in the conventional sense and none of the many other people who had been in the room would ever suggest he did.

Meir’s face began to change and color seeped back into her cheeks. “Get Simha,” she said. Kedar heard the familiar determination once again in her voice. Through Ambassador Dinitz she would begin to pressure the American administration for arms. Many excruciating days still lay ahead, but psychologically the prime minister had touched bottom and begun to regain her balance. The previous spring, at a meeting in her Jerusalem home with her top military and civilian advisers to discuss indications of a possible Arab attack, Meir said that if war appeared likely Washington should be asked to head

On the fourth day of the war, Dayan, who had by now returned to himself, proposed that all efforts be made to knock Syria out of the war, including the bombing of Damascus, so that the army could concentrate on the Egyptian front. Meir objected to

bombing Damascus. If civilians were hurt, she said, the Americans might hold up arms shipment. But when she put the question to Galili he said, “We have to do it.” It was pointed out that the Syrians had fired Frog missiles which caused casualties in Kibbutz Gvat and the town of Migdal Haemek, justifying an attack on Syrian urban areas. She finally gave her assent to the attack as long as it was confined to military targets. By that afternoon, the last Syrian troops were driven from the Golan Heights in a remarkable drive by the Israeli tank corps. The policy makers now faced one of the most important decisions of the war — to cross the ceasefire line and drive towards Damascus or to dig on again along the line and send a division to the southern front to help drive the Egyptians back across the canal. The final decision would be Meir’s. Although she did not presume to understand military strategy, she well understood political strategy. It would take four days, she was told, to move substantial forces to the southern front. During that period, there was a chance the UN might order a ceasefire. If that happened, the war would end with Egypt holding a strip of territory in Sinai that it had captured from Israel and Israel would be holding no captured territory at all. She came down firmly for an immediate attack into Syria. She did commit one potentially serious tactical error on the tenth day of the war. Finding a gap in the Egyptian lines, General Ariel Sharon

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Kedar would remember the prime minister leaning heavily against the wall and saying in a low and terrible voice, “Dayan is speaking of surrender.”

it off. Her closest adviser, Minister Yisrael Galili, reminded her of the meeting between Henry Kissinger and Hafez Ismail, Sadat’s national security adviser, which the Americans had informed them about. Ismail had declared Egypt’s willingness to make peace in return for a complete Israeli pullback. Galili later returned to this theme, as if fearing that his previous remark may have been too oblique. “There is also a possibility that we can avoid all this mess [the danger of war] if we are prepared to enter into talks on the basis of returning to the previous border.” From the protocol, Galili’s remark sounds more like an observation than a proposal, but the fact that he voiced it twice suggests that the veteran political adviser, of hawkish bent, thought it perhaps worthy of exploration. Meir, however, declined to pursue it. She was against war but she was also against total withdrawal. “Neither war nor threat of war” would divert Israel from its insistence on defensible borders, she said. Defensible borders “by their very existence will dissuade our neighbors from touching us.” Her position embraced the premise that the Arabs had no viable war option. This had now been proven wrong.

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Haim Bar-Lev (center L) consults with Ariel Sharon (with bandage) and Moshe Dayan (cap) during the Yom Kippur War. (Photo credit GPO-Flash 90)

had put a tank force across the canal on motorized rafts. It was supposed to protect the site where a pontoon bridge would be thrown across but its presence was kept secret lest the Egyptians attack it with a nearby

Golda Meir with President Richard Nixon and Henry Kissinger in the Oval Office on March 1, 1973, a few months before the war

end of the war, the prime minister made a visit to the southern front to talk to the troops. “How could we have been so unready?” asked one soldier of Meir who sat on a chair between Dayan and Elazar. She was

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“You must take my word seriously,” it said. “When I threatened war, I meant it. When I talk of peace now, I mean it.” armored division. Unaware of the secrecy, Meir could not contain herself after all the grim news she had digested until now. “As we convene,” she said from the Knesset podium, “an IDF task force is operating on the west bank of the Suez Canal.” Fortunately for Israel, Sadat dismissed her statement as “psychological warfare.” In the third week of the war, Secretary of State Kissinger stopped off briefly in Tel Aviv on his way back from Moscow where he had been hammering out the terms of a Middle East ceasefire with Kremlin leaders. When he asked Meir if she thought Sadat would survive the military setbacks of the final days, she said he would. “He is the hero. He dared.” Kissinger told Dayan that Israel had been wise not to preempt. If it had, Dayan would recall him saying, it would not have received so much as a nail from the U.S. Before flying to Washington at the

not an expert on military matters, she said, and relied in this area on the two men alongside her. This infuriated a battalion commander who shouted, “Because you don’t understand these things I lost 48 men?” Other officers calmed him down. The strain of the war was imprinted on Meir when she arrived in Washington. “The war had devastated her,” Kissinger would write. After returning home, she received a note passed on to her by Kissinger. It was from Sadat. “You must take my word seriously,” it said. “When I threatened war, I meant it. When I talk of peace now, I mean it. We have the services of Dr. Kissinger. Let us use him and talk to each other through him.” Her first reaction was “Why is he doing this?” but she recovered quickly. In a note she sent Sadat via Kissinger, she wrote, “I am deeply conscious of the significance of a message received by the prime minister of Israel from the president of

Golda Meir and Anwar Sadat sharing a laugh

Egypt. I sincerely hope that these contacts will continue and prove to be an important turning point in our relations.” In a talk to the Labor Party Central Committee a month after the war she expressed contrition for the first time publicly at having rejected Dayan’s proposal three years earlier. “I didn’t understand what he was talking about,” she confessed. “We should just propose pulling back from the canal?” She did not elaborate but the implications were enormous. Had she understood that the Bar-Lev Line was a death trap as Ariel Sharon and other generals contended, the war would have taken a very different course, if it had broken out at all. Elections to the Knesset, postponed from October because of the war, were held on December 31. It was too soon for voting patterns to have changed and Meir was reelected, albeit with five fewer seats. She asked Dayan to stay on as defense minister. Three months later, the Agranat Commission of Inquiry issued its interim findings calling for the resignation of Elazar, Zeira and other

officers. It absolved Meir and Dayan, a finding which touched off widespread public protests, including mass demonstrations. A week later, Meir, weary and attuned to public sentiment, announced that she was stepping down, obliging new elections. She reappeared on the Knesset podium in November 1977 as a special guest when Sadat made his historic visit to Jerusalem. Responding to his address to the Knesset, Meir expressed her hope from the podium that “even an old lady like myself” will live to see peace between the countries (still two years off). “Yes, yes, you always call me an old lady.” A photograph of them sharing a hearty laugh would come to be seen as more evocative of the potential of peace than any treaty.

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In one of the most memorable scenes of the Israeli film, Ushpizin (2004), the main character, Moshe, a former secular Israeli turned Breslov Chassid is enjoying a breakfast in his Jerusalem Sukkah, prepared for him by his unexpected house guests, two old friends from his past on the run from the law. After a buildup of many struggles, personal and financial, the scene quickly turns from a calm moment among old friends to an intense eruption of emotion when Moshe’s friend, Eliyahu, comments about the secret ingredient in the salad, the only lemon left in the house. Realizing what may have happened, Moshe runs up the stairs to his apartment to search for his cherished Esrog which he worked so hard to obtain and quickly discovers that his clueless friends had mistaken his treasure for a simple lemon. In the eyes of his naive friends, it was just a lemon, but to Moshe, it was an object of great value and importance. Incredibly both Moshe and Eliyahu had each defined their own value for the same exact object. How can the same item carry such a wide range of value? When it comes to pricing of products, is it as simple as the laws of supply and demand or is there something else to it? In 2011, US customs reported that nearly 46% of the imports of citrons (and kumquats and bergamots) took place in the months of September and October alone. Yet, with a holiday market that is seemingly flooded with supply, the hunt for “the one” and the back room pricing on the Aleph-Aleph Esrog, available only to the most important VIP’s (and their sons-in-law) remains the practice of so many. So what’s going on? Pricing models for products can take many paths from the most basic “cost plus” model, where the total cost

of creating and delivering a product plus a set profit margin determines the price, to more strategic long term plans that include loss leaders, brand building, and establishing a market. In my observation, the Jewish Holidays highlight another well-known pricing model, value-based pricing, where the customers drive the pricing based on their own definition of the value an object has to them. Using the timely example of the Esrog, in a beautiful display of enthusiasm for Mitzvos, the inspired shopper has really put the value-based pricing model to work. Despite the abundance of products, we, the consumers, have defined a very personal and individual set of criteria for what we want and in doing so, we have created a market where a truckload of citrons, many of which are technically “kosher”, may end up being dismissed, one by one, until we find the one that speaks to us. Nobody minds saving money, and certainly it’s important to spend responsibly, however, there is something powerful about the realization that the value you place on something can actually re-define it completely. Try it for yourself, it can be a mitzvah related item, a special Sukkah decoration, a tradition, or even a commitment to spending time on something or with someone. Start by placing great personal value and importance upon it, and then see how valuable it can become simply because you focused on what it means to you instead of what it costs! Azi Rosenblum is a business consultant and the founder and CEO of RemSource, an outsourced provider of administrative and bookkeeping services for small businesses. To suggest a topic or ask a question for a future #BizWiz column email BizWiz@ baltimorejewishhome.com.

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The Forest Cantor By Rabbi Yerachmiel Tilles

ense weeks and months crawled by, with Zalman Bronstein forced to spend most of them lying motionless in muddy foxholes on the Russian battlefields of World War II. Whenever he trained his rifle on the German enemy only a few dozen meters away, he knew well that his counterpart was simultaneously aiming at him, waiting patiently for an opportunity. His thoughts were constantly on his wife and three children; this supplied him the strength to struggle on against the ominous threat of the warfront. The blood-saturated battles between the Russians and invading German forces had already stretched on for over a year. Tens of thousands of young men had already paid with their lives. The two sides were of equal strength and no end to the war was in sight. During a brief lull in the shooting, a squad of Russian soldiers arrived to relieve their comrades. Zalman crawled slowly and carefully to his bunker, sank onto a plank, and tried to doze off

for the short time before he would be ordered back to his battle post. Suddenly a Russian officer entered the bunker, humming an upbeat marching tune, and began to shave. Zalman opened his eyes, annoyed. He couldn’t figure out why an officer would have decided to shave in the tent of the common foot-soldier draftees. And the officer’s off-tune singing aggravated him even more. “Comrade Officer! Excuse me, but I have to tell you that in the original version, that song is sung differently.” The officer turned towards him with a look of surprise on his face. “You know this song? If so, you must sing it for me. I can’t get along without it.” Zalman tried to refuse, insisting that in his present downtrodden state of mind he couldn’t possibly sing a cheerful song, but the officer wouldn’t relent. With a shrug, Zalman began to sing. After a few bars, the officer’s face lit up with pleasure. When he finished singing, the officer’s expression became fierce. He began

to rail against the Russian Army leadership. “How can it be that they sent such a gifted singer like you to the front? This is an unforgivable outrage. I shall raise this issue with headquarters as soon as possible, even today.” Zalman dismissed the officer’s words as polite exaggeration, and promptly forgot about them. After a brief rest, it was back to his regular battlefield duties and terrors. The next few days were filled with pitched explosive battles. Several times Zalman felt death was near, but he survived through verita-

ble miracles. In those desperate situations he pictured in front of his eyes the face of his holy rebbe, Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak Schneersohn of Lubavitch. He felt secure in the knowledge that the Rebbe was praying for his wellbeing. Suddenly an announcement blared over the bunker’s loudspeaker system. “Paging the singer Bronstein. Report to headquarters immediately.” Zalman hurried to present himself before the commanding officer of the bunker. The latter told him, “I just received an order to transfer you to officers’ headquarters. Get your things right now and crawl

out there. But be careful! One wrong move on the way could mean your doom.” Zalman began his crawl along the muddy earth, his belongings on his back and his heart full of suspicion. What could possibly be the reason behind this incomprehensible transfer? Only when he reached his destination and was told to report to a high officer in the Culture Division who was in charge of the Army choir, did he realize the connection between what was happening and the words of that officer in the bunker before whom he had sung the battle song. The choir leader told him that he must now sing before

Source: Translated-adapted by Yerachmiel Tilles from the Hebrew weekly Sichat Shavua #1081. Reprinted with permission from Festivals of the Full Moon from Menorah Books, which is now part of the Koren Publishers and Toby Press family of publishing companies, by Rabbi Yerachmiel Tilles to be launched on November 1.

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front of many different platoons. So Zalman became the lead soloist in the Army choir, and they traveled from base to base giving performances. Everywhere they went, the Russian officers in charge were very friendly to Zalman. His performances and popularity became a particular source of pride for all the Jewish soldiers. At one of the concerts a Jewish officer passed him a note requesting that he sing something in Yiddish. He complied, choosing a song that he felt would be sure to arouse in the Jewish soldiers memories of their religious roots.

born; …who shall live out his allotted time and who shall depart before his time; …who shall be at rest and who shall wander; who shall be tranquil and who shall be harassed; who shall enjoy well-being and who shall suffer tribulation; who shall be poor and who shall be rich; who shall be humbled and who shall be exalted. Zalman concluded his mini-performance with the popular lively Lubavitcher tune for “Hu Elokeinu, Hu Aveinu – He is our G-d, He is our Father” – usually sung in unison by the congregation during the repetition of Mussaf shortly after “Unesana Tokef.” He exhaled deeply and slowly opened his eyes. The sight that met them remained imprinted in his memory for the rest of his life. The three officers were bent over, sobbing like little children. In the midst of lethal war, their futures concealed in the smoke of daily battle, three Jewish souls became revealed in a forest, flaming brightly with Yom Kippur holiness. “Who knows?” he couldn’t help thinking to himself. “This could be the reason that Heaven directed the steps of that non-Jewish officer to me that morning in the bunker.”

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a group of very high-ranking officers. Zalman well realized that his future depended on the success of his performance. He started by singing the same military marching tune, but this time with a lot more feeling. The officers reacted boisterously with excitement and appreciation. Each one wanted Zalman to be assigned to his own unit so that he could give a concert to the brigade under his command. They began to quarrel with each other about who had the top priority. Finally, they came up with an arrangement that made it possible to schedule their new star to perform in

On Yom Kippur morning, he informed the musical director that he had terrible pains in his head and throat and that it would be impossible for him to sing on stage. The director pressured him to change his mind, but Zalman was adamant; he could not possibly sing this day. The director had no choice but to accept that the choir would have to perform without its star soloist. Zalman retired to his room, where he devoted himself to the Yom Kippur morning prayers, those which he was able to remember by heart. Afterwards he began reciting Psalms, while in the background he could hear strains of singing and musical instruments from the military concert that was proceeding without him. Several sharp knocks on his door broke his concentration. Three officers, whose epaulets indicated very high rank, quickly entered the room. “Are you Zalman Bronstein?” one of them queried. He nodded, whereupon of the other officers demanded, “Do you know what day is today?” Zalman was taken aback by the unexpected question, and upon reflection, a bit afraid. He took a moment to compose himself, then answered calmly with the truth. “Yes. It is Yom Kippur.” His guests’ faces softened visibly. “We too are Jews,”

they said. “Please, could you sing for us a few sections of the holy day’s prayers?” Zalman felt great relief upon hearing of their Jewish identity and at the same time felt compassion for them. Nevertheless, he demurred, “How can I sing for you? In order to escape having to go on stage, I arranged to be officially registered on the sick list as ‘unable to sing because of head and throat pains.’” The three officers did not give up. They presented a possible solution. “In back of the camp is a thick forest. Let’s go deep inside it; then we can hear you pray and sing without anyone around to bother us.” Their excitement was contagious. Zalman could feel how strongly they desired to be reminded of their parents’ homes and of the Jewish life they tasted as children. They entered the forest. Under a tree with a thick trunk and large, draping branches, Zalman stood facing the three Jewish officers. He closed his eyes and began to intone softly “Kol Nidre,” the opening prayer of Yom Kippur evening with its traditional haunting melody. He repeated it a second and third time, following custom, each time successively louder. After Kol Nidre he switched to “Unesana Tokef,” the thrilling lyrical invocation that is the highlight of the cantor’s repetition of Mussaf, the “additional prayer” recited on Yom Kippur (and Rosh Hashana) morning. He became absorbed in the intense phrases, singing each one with deep feeling. On Rosh Hashana they are inscribed, and on the fast day Yom Kippur they are sealed: How many shall pass away and how many shall be

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The date for the next concert, the most important one on the itinerary, was already set. They were to perform before an audience of hundreds of commissioned military doctors. However, the date coincided with Yom Kippur, the holiest of holy occasions. Zalman was firm in his mind that no matter what the consequences, he could not and would not perform on the holy day.

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or several decades, the Israeli Air Force (IAF) has been on the top of the food chain with the best pilots, planes and systems in the Middle East. Planes are always ready to takeoff even when there are no current threats. Pilots are in the planes at all times and for most of Israel’s history are called on more frequently than not. Even recently IAF planes have struck targets in Syria because of threats coming from that war-torn country. However, there was one time that the IAF was caught flatfooted. In fact, the entire military was not prepared for the huge Arab – which included Egypt, Syria, Iraq, Algeria, Libya and most likely North Korea and the USSR (flying fighters out of Egypt, if the reports are true) – armies that attacked on Yom Kippur 1973. Egypt and Syria were supposed to coordinate their attacks at the same time on October 6, 1973 but due to miscommunication the start of the war began at different times depending on the front. Usually the IAF would use a preemptive strike to knock out targets that could pose a threat to Israeli air assets but the air force was denied permission. Therefore the Israeli pilots that made it over to enemy airspace also had to

contend with surface-to-air missiles. These wreaked havoc with the Israeli planes during the first three days of combat. Three types of first rate planes were available in the IAF’s arsenal. The A-4 Skyhawk was an attack plane that was best suited for air-to-ground operations. Many times it helped out ground troops that found themselves faced with the odds stacked against them especially if there were tanks involved. The French-built Dassault Mirage III and the Israeli version of the plane, the IAI Nesher, were built with the interceptor role in mind. With their innovative delta wings they were great for defense roles. F-4 Phantoms were the best the Israelis had and could match the MiG-21 Russian-built planes. All three types plus some aging Dassault Super Mysteres and helicopters were used to in both attack and defense roles. There were two fronts during the war. In the south, Egypt attacked Israeli bases with a huge army, and to the north, Syria attacked with a large tank army. At first, attacks on Egyptian SAM (surface-to-air missile) sites were targeted in Egypt and several were damaged with the loss of two IAF A-4 Skyhawks. The threat to the north was considered direr

An Israeli F-4 Phantom during the war

because there were Israeli towns just miles from the front while the Sinai Desert acted as a buffer zone in the south. Over a thousand Syrian tanks attacked an Israeli force of just 200 some odd tanks in what is considered the largest tank battle since WWII. The outnumbered and exhausted tank units kept on calling in for air support but the planes had troubles of their own. The story with engaging North Korean pilots took place on the first day of combat. Four IAF Phantoms from two different squadrons were patrolling Egyptian airspace when ground control sent them towards a pair of bandits (air force terminology for enemy aircraft) nearby. They came upon two MiG-21 Fishbeds but one left the area before the Israelis could give chase. Three missiles barely missed the MiG, and the Phantoms, who were low on fuel, gave up the chase to go home. One of the Israeli pilots noticed a SAM streaking towards the MiG and scored a direct hit. Later Israeli intelligence confirmed that the Egyptians shot down one of their own fighters! After the war the incident became more bizarre when the Israelis learned that the MiG belonged to North Korea. An air operation on the Syrian

front took place on the second day of war. Unfortunately, intelligence failed the pilots who had no idea where to find the SAM batteries. Six IAF F-4 Phantoms were shot down. On October 14 an Israeli air counteroffensive in the Nile Delta failed to destroy their objectives. Despite these failures the IAF pushed back. Repeated attacks on Syrian airfields and infrastructure allowed ground units to come within artillery distance of Damascus. Success by ground forces in the south punched holes in the Egyptian air defense system and allowed the IAF to cripple the enemy air forces. With the Arabs receiving help from the USSR and North Korea, the Israelis were assisted by the Americans. While no American plane took part in aerial combat, they were vital in the resupply mission and flew key intelligence reconnaissance missions. These missions were flown by the famous SR-71 Blackbirds and were assisted by KC-135 air refueling tankers. Three missions over Egyptian territory provided a wealth of information that was passed onto the Israelis. 37 F-4s, 52 A-4s and 11 Mirages (all estimates as the number of planes lost by both sides fluctuates

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depending on who was keeping tally) were lost. About two-thirds of the losses happened in the first three days of combat. Both sides were getting new planes and material. The U.S. initiated Operation Nickel Grass (sometimes referred to as Nickel Glass) on October 14 to transfer war supplies to Israel. Five days earlier 36 F-4E were transferred from the U.S Air Force and went right into

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combat. Some of the planes were still painted in American camouflage and only the tail had IAF identification. Also in the operation, the U.S. Navy provided Skyhawks and new technology was supplied by the USAF. Several types of missiles and smart bombs were able to knock out SAM sites and air-to-air AIM-9 Sindwinder missiles proved effective against MiG-21s.

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Palms and Fronds and Citrons

Meet the Farmers who Grow Our Lulavim and Esrogim in the American Southwest BY BRENDY J. SIEV

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On Futterman Farms, in Riverside County, in Indio, California, Arthur and Gale Futterman grow lulavim. Their date farm, on a four-and-a-half acre ranch, grows the premier Dayri date trees whose leaves become perfect and prized lulavim. Two weeks into this year’s lulav harvest, I speak to Arthur Futterman as he comes in from another 110-degree workday in the Coachella Valley. “Phoenix isn’t hot enough,” he chuckles. Originally from southern Iraq, Dayri date palms can grow in very few parts of the United States. They need extreme heat, Futterman tells me, and the heat must be dry. But

their love of desert heat doesn’t stop them from drinking: on a typical 105-degree day, a single date palm requires 185 gallons of water. The rain-free Futterman Farms gets its irrigation from a canal that draws water from the Colorado River. So Futterman Farms, a drive from Palm Springs, is the perfect location. Currently, Arthur Futterman has 120 producing trees; 120 young trees are not yet producing. These trees have been coaxed from saplings that sprout off the sides of older palms, as it is nearly impossible to grow healthy Dayri trees from seeds. Once mature, a good palm tree produces approxi-

mately 18 new fronds per year. The lulav is the very center leaf that hasn’t emerged and opened. Once thorns are out of the way, the young frond is cut just enough so more will grow. In order to keep the palms alive and healthy, only between six and eight fronds can be cut per year. That means six to eight lulavim come from each Dayri palm annually. After each lulav cutting, the lulavim are sent to a local facility for preserving them until Succos. The last cuts are packed well in crates and overnighted through FedEx to their distribution centers. Dayri palm trees can grow 80 feet tall. Of course, past 40 feet, it becomes too difficult to harvest lulavim

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On five acres of John Kirkpatrick’s California farm grow 800 esrog trees. He is the only kosher esrog grower in the United States. “Less than five percent of the citrons make it to

program lesson plans on Succos esrogim. Back in 1979, Kirkpatrick worked as a citrus farmer and real estate agent. He received a call from an Orthodox man in Brooklyn who was looking for someone to grow esrog trees for him. They spoke for an hour. “You’re talking to the person,” he said at the time. And so Kirkpatrick diversified his farm. He woke up every day at 5:30 and worked until bedtime at 9. He tended to his citrus trees: lemons, tangelos, mandarins, and pomegranates. And he planted esrog tree seedlings from Israel—including the Braverman, Halpern, Chazon Ish, and Teimani varieties (among others). “We limped along for 14 years,” he says. “Fortunately, we didn’t destroy the trees’ integrity.” During that time, he learned about Jewish culture and what it takes to observe all halachic laws and traditions connected to growing and harvesting kosher esrogim. After 14 years, he brought in an Israeli consultant. Kirkpatrick also visited Israel for a week, noting that his farm’s climate is most similar to the area halfway between Tel Aviv and Jerusalem. He visited esrog farms across Israel, observing the construction of their trellising, the way Israeli esrog farmers discipline their trees, and irrigate their farms. After that, he quickly became the only successful esrog grower in the U.S.

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quality market,” says John. While he does market non-kosher esrogim to local green grocers and to three distilleries for citron vodka, most esrogim that show signs of being non-kosher are “dropped” off the trees before they even ripen. This ensures that only those most likely to be kosher are cultivated and cared for. Lindcove Ranch, located in Tulare County, one of the major citrus counties in California, is inland from the coast. The farm, in Exeter, California, is posed in the perfect geographical location for raising esrogim. While well over 300,000 esrogim are exported from Israel, Italy, and Morocco, Kirkpatrick’s five acres produce up to six percent—a significant portion—of the total world production. That is why Kirkpatrick is the only successful citron grower in the United States. Several other farms are trying to grow kosher esrogim; none are currently successful. His farm is even featured in PJ Library

non-Jew, Kirkpatrick comes from a long line of farmers who started farming in North Carolina, Kansas, and Illinois. By the early 20th century, they came to California and began citrus farming. Kirkpatrick and his son, who is taking over the daily farming operations, have been working on bringing the farm into the 21st century, “one innovation at a time.” At this point, the farm has special cold storage for storing citrus; this ensures that they can start picking esrogim in early July and storing them so that they will be ready for Succos in the fall. The esrogim are even boxed on-site. Esrogim and their care is a full-time job. Kirkpatrick’s esrogim, certified by Rabbi Avraham Teichman, are nurtured by five full-time staffers, rather than seasonal workers. The workers are Seventh-Day Adventists, so that the orchards “rest” on Shabbos. Because esrogim require skilled workers, Kirkpatrick’s staff is not only respectful and serious about their work, but they have been working on esrogim for years. In fact, one lead staffer has been caring for these esrog trees for 28 years. Kirkpatrick has a special incentive program to reward their efforts and recognize the importance of doing work correctly. “If it has a California appellation, it should be good,” he says with pride. And while his esrogim are primarily sold in New England, citron vodka, an increasingly popular drink, is produced all over. One distillery, owned by an Orthodox family is southern California, uses Kirkpatrick’s esrogim for Sukkah Hill Etrog Liqueur, a kosher for Passover, “grain-neutral” spirit. “We are immersed in this,” says Kirkpatrick. “We produce fruit that qualifies for performance of the TJH mitzvah.” 

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I ask, how did Arthur Futterman, a devout Bible College graduate, end up in the Succos business? Decades ago, Futterman teamed up with the son of his father’s old friend. Both were interested in farming; Futterman had worked on several farms before. Both were considering growing dates. “It’s gratifying,” says Futterman. “Dates are a magnificent fruit.” He then lists the benefits of dates—their 26 antioxidants, high iron, magnesium, and potassium content, and their role in reducing colon cancer tumors. After finishing his degree at Bible College and graduating in 1988, he and his wife set out in a UHaul for the farming life. “She was two-and-a-half months pregnant. We entered the town at midnight. She got out of the truck, and it was 105 degrees. She started to cry.” But that’s the farming life. Twenty-nine years later, Futterman laughs, Arthur and Gale have put a lot of work into their farm, selling their dates at farmer’s markets and living on farmer’s wages. They grow organic date palms and harvest the dates for sale, especially the Medjool and Barhi breeds. But back when they pulled up in that U-Haul, he tells me, Futterman did not anticipate an email he received ten years ago from Shulem Ekstein from Kiryas Joel seeking to grow Dayri date palms in the United States. The man had been trying to connect with someone willing to grow the palms and farm them for him. Futterman, who had only the vaguest knowledge of Succos (Tabernacles?), knew an old date farmer who, in his 80s, was retiring. He gave the frum Ekstein family 900 offshoots. Futterman agreed to plant some of them. Now, Futterman is one of four farmers who have a special leasing-growing agreement with the Ekstein family to grow Dayri palms for lulavim. Why Dayris? Futterman grows serious when explaining the detailed halachos of kosher lulavim. “There are four requirements for kosher lulavim,” he declares. The lulav must be straight, green, and closed. The middle leaf must have a tip like a pleat. If it’s open, it’s not good. Medjool palms, that are plentiful in the United States (just note the number of Medjool dates in the supermarket), produce lulavim whose center leaf opens quickly, rendering it unkosher. The Dayri’s center pleat stays closed nicely. There are fewer than 10,000 Dayri palms in the United States, let alone those grown for lulavim. But from 300 palms, farmers recently have coaxed 2,000 offshoots that are just now being planted. It will take years for them, however, to be ready for harvest. Now it’s my turn. Two feet in front of my Miami kitchen window stand two palm trees, I tell Futterman. Sixteen feet further, on my front lawn, stand four more. Their leaves fan and bend like palm fronds are supposed to in all the tourist brochures, but right

in the center of the leaves stand a single green stick, a tall, ramrod straight, unopened palm frond. A lulav? Not so fast, says Futterman. He quickly lists the types of palms found in Florida. Those ubiquitous trees have plenty of fronds, but they don’t meet the halachic requirements for kosher lulavim. Oh, well. We’ll just use them for Florida schach. My final question for Futterman: Why do you do this? “For the holiday and the people,” he says. I can tell he’s smiling.

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or dates, and so the palms are sold or given to landscapers. Futterman’s palms are still under seven feet. Of course, to be kosher, even the non-Jewish farmer Futterman must wait the requisite four years before touching the tree.

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But the audience didn’t laugh. It applauded. Nor was this mere spur of the moment hyperbole. Trump was reading from a teleprompter. As he was a few weeks earlier when he told a conference in North Dakota, “Politicians have used you and stolen your votes. They have given you nothing. I will give you everything.” Everything, mind you. “I will give you what you’ve been looking for for 50 years.” No laughter recorded. In launching his AfricanAmerican outreach at a speech in Charlotte, Trump catalogued the horrors that he believes define black life in America today. Then promised: “I will fix it.” How primitive have our politics become? Fix what? Family structure? Social inheritance? Selfdestructive habits? How? He doesn’t say. He’ll will it. Trust him, as he likes to say. After 15 months, the suspension of disbelief has become so ubiquitous that we hardly notice anymore. We are operating in an alternate universe where the geometry is non-Euclidean, facts don’t matter, history and logic have disappeared.

Going into the first debate, Trump was in a virtual tie for the lead. The bar for him was set almost comically low. He had merely to (1) suffer no major meltdown and (2) produce just a few moments of coherence. He cleared the bar. In the first half-hour, he established the entire premise of his campaign. Things are bad and she’s been around for 30 years. You like bad? Stick with her. You want change? I’m your man. It can’t get more elemental than that. At one point, Clinton laughed and ridiculed Trump for trying to blame her for everything that’s ever happened. In fact, that’s exactly what he did. With some success. By conventional measures – poise, logic, command of the facts – she won the debate handily. But when it comes to moving the needle, conventional measures don’t apply this year. What might, however, move the needle is not the debate itself but the time bomb Trump left behind. His great weakness is his vanity. He is temperamentally incapable

of allowing any attack on his person to go unavenged. He is particularly sensitive on the subject of his wealth. So central to his self-image is his business acumen that in

taxes, that “I am your voice.” When gaffes like this are committed, the candidate either doubles down (you might say that if you can legally pay nothing, why

After 15 months, the suspension of disbelief has become so ubiquitous that we hardly notice anymore.

the debate he couldn’t resist the temptation to tout his cleverness on taxes. To an audience of 86 million, he appeared to concede that he didn’t pay any. “That makes me smart,” he smugly interjected. Big mistake. The next day, Clinton offered the obvious retort: “If not paying taxes makes him smart, what does that make all the rest of us?” Meanwhile, Trump has been going around telling Rust Belt workers, on whom his Electoral College strategy hinges and who might still believe that billionaires do have some obligation to pay

not, given how corrupt the tax code is) or simply denies he ever said anything of the sort. Indeed, one of the more remarkable features of this campaign is how brazenly candidates deny having said things that have been captured on tape, such as Clinton denying she ever said the Trans-Pacific Partnership was the gold standard of trade deals. The only thing more amazing is how easily they get away with it.

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nd now, less than six weeks from the election, what is the main event of the day? A fight between the GOP presidential nominee and a former Miss Universe, whom he had 20 years ago called Miss Piggy and other choice pejoratives. Just a few weeks earlier, we were seized by a transient hysteria over a minor Hillary Clinton lung infection hyped to nearmortal status. The latest curiosity is Donald Trump’s 37 sniffles during the first presidential debate. (People count this sort of thing.) Dr. Howard Dean has suggested a possible cocaine addiction. In a man who doesn’t even drink coffee? This campaign is sinking to somewhere between zany and totally insane. Is there a bottom? Take the most striking – and overlooked – moment of Trump’s GOP convention speech. He actually promised that under him, “the crime and violence that today afflicts our nation will soon – and I mean very soon – come to an end.” Not “be reduced.” End. Humanity has been at this since, oh, Hammurabi.

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he death of Shimon Peres last week symbolized the closing of the beginning chapters of the State of Israel. David Ben Gurion himself, Israel’s first prime minister, whom Peres fought beneath in the Haganah while the country was still Palestine, appointed the 29-year-old Peres to his first governmental position in 1953 as Israel’s first Director of Defense. He was

active in politics until 2014, when the term to his (largely ceremonial) presidency was complete. Originally a hawkish leader who was one of the masterminds of Israel’s’ nuclear program (which is still officially a secret), Peres helped start the left wing Labor party in the 1960s and was eventually the catalyst of the Oslo Accords in 1993 and the recipient of the 1994 Nobel Peace Prize. He was the last surviving founding father of

the state. Born Szymon Perski in 1923 in modern day Belarus to a timber merchant and librarian, Peres was a descendant of Rav Chaim Volozhin zt”l. His grandfather was responsible for teaching him Gemara and all Jewish matter, as his parents were not observant. He one time related, “At one point, I heard my parents listening to the radio on the Sabbath and I smashed it.” He recalled being taken to

the Chofetz Chaim as a child and receiving a bracha, for which he credited his survival and success in politics. He later said of his grandfather, “I remember the last words and the order that I heard from his mouth: ‘My boy, always remain a Jew!’” Many of his family members were murdered in the Holocaust. His grandfather was among those locked in the shul and burned by the Nazis. In 1932, the Perski fam-

ily emigrated to Tel Aviv, and Shimon helped found Kibbutz Alumot in 1936. Always active in the Zionist movement, he was elected to the HaNoar HaOved VeHaLomed national secretariat, where the promising youth came under the attention of David Ben Gurion, the head of Mapai, Peres’s party. In 1944, on a clandestine map-making mission to Eilat, a friend suggested he change his name to Peres – which means a

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nest of eagles – after sighting an eagle, and the name stuck. Perhaps with a tinge of irony, the bird sighted was most likely a vulture. In 1945 Peres married Sonya Gelman and in 1946 was sent to the Zionist Congress in Basel, Switzerland, along with Moshe Dayan. Shortly before Israel’s establishment, Peres joined the Haganah. In 1948, after being named head of the nascent country’s navy, the 27-yearold Peres left to New York on a mission, knowing no English. Within three months he was fluent in the language and was able to study at NYU, New School and Harvard. He was a polyglot, speaking Polish, French, English, Russian, Yiddish and Hebrew. Peres was a polarizing figure who at many times

was motivated only by a desire for power, something which he was never able to completely attain. He only served briefly as de facto prime minister at a couple of junctures – such as after the assassination of Yitzchak Rabin –despite having bid for the office on numerous occasions. His two short stints in Israel’s top office did not come through popular vote. Indeed, Peres’s split in 1965 with his original party, Mapai, was because of differences he and Ben Gurion had with the other members of the party. The newly formed party, Rafi, ended up reconciling with Mapai, but in the course of the political turmoil overtaking the country in the months leading up to the Six Day War, the fractious environment in the Knesset Peres helped create allowed

Ben Gurion’s sworn enemy, Menachem Begin, who led the far-right Cherut party, to gain legitimacy. Begin was eventually awarded the prime minister’s office in 1977, perhaps only because of the events caused by Peres a decade earlier. Originally a self described hawk who followed in the footsteps of his mentor, Ben Gurion, Peres was one of the earliest champions of settlements in the West Bank and other disputed territories. In 1956 he was awarded the highest

and Britain. His special relationship with the French, who ended up providing the necessary expertise in building the Dimona nuclear reactor later, proved critical to Israel. “I reached the stage in France where I was trusted by everybody, and really the sky was the limit,” Peres boasted many years later. But politics forced his views to evolve, and in the 1970s he began to distance himself from the settlement movement. Peres even met secretly with King Hus-

graces of Turkey. His stance forced the Israeli Foreign Ministry into the awkward position of appeasing Armenian survivors while not stepping on Turkey’s toes. In 1996, Peres founded the Peres Center for Peace, which has the aim of “promot[ing] lasting peace and advancement in the Middle East by fostering tolerance, economic and technological development, cooperation and well-being.” As president he ceaselessly pressed for peace. “The Palestinian problem

“For 60 years I was the most controversial figure in the country, and suddenly I’m the most popular man in the land. Truth be told, I don’t know when I was happier, then or now.”

medal of the French Legion of Honor for his role negotiating $1 billion in arms sales from France to Israel, which allowed Israel to attack Egypt though the Sinai, a military operation known as the Suez Crisis involving Israel, the U.S., France

sein of Jordan in the 1980s in London, in the hopes of reaching a peaceful agreement with the Palestinians. He sought to placate many of Israel’s hostile neighbors, going so far as to downplay the Armenian genocide in order to get in the good

isn’t the main problem in the Middle East. But there are a billion and a half Muslims. The Palestinian problem affects our entire relationship with them. Peace is not an exciting thing, and it entails accepting many compromises and tedious

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to let it be known that Israel would not sit idly as Mahmoud Ahmadinejad spoke of genocide. “The president of Iran should remember that Iran can also be wiped off the map,” he told Army radio.

eres’s political life was very much intertwined with that of his primary adversary and Labor party companion, Yitzchak Rabin. The two rivals’ career vicissitudes often negatively correlated. In 1973, Peres sought leadership of the party after the Yom Kippur War, and Rabin was recruited from within the

party ranks to oppose him. Rabin won that battle and again in 1976, after the Air France hijacking in Uganda, Peres led a bid to have Rabin replaced as prime minister with himself. He finally was able to take over the party’s top spot, if only for a month, after Rabin was forced to step down after a scandal involving his wife having a foreign bank account – which was illegal at the time – came to light. But by then Menachem Begin’s party had enough seats to wrest control from Labor. Again, in 1984, Peres was able to briefly serve as prime minister, but only under a “rotation” agreement with Likud leader Yitzchak Shamir, who took over after Peres served two years. Then in 1990, Peres secretly looked to undermine Shamir’s leadership by aligning with Agudah in an attempt to dissolve the coalition in place at the time with a no confidence vote for the Likud government in place. But Peres’s movement, which became known as Hatargil Hamaasriach, the “Dirty Trick,” quickly came apart after Rav Schach, Hacham Ovadia Yosef and the Lubavitcher Rebbe con-

demned the idea of religious politicians serving in a leftist government. At the time Rabin denigrated Peres, saying, “This bluff and corruptibility which came into the Israeli political life in an attempt to form a narrow government failed not only tactically but also conceptually.” Peres experienced his greatest political success as a foreign minister in Rabin’s government. It was in that role that he was able to bring the PLO and Israel to the negotiation table, proclaiming, “We are leaving behind us the era of belligerency and are striding together toward peace.” Even then, Rabin attempted to marginalize Peres and claim most of the credit for what was at the time viewed as the turning point for hostilities in the Middle East. Since 2007, when he was appointed to the State’s presidency, Peres was transformed from a polarizing, back-room wheeler dealer to a symbolic pioneer who promoted dialogue and culture. “For 60 years I was the most controversial figure in the country, and suddenly I’m the most popular man in the land. Truth be told,

I don’t know when I was happier, then or now,” he quipped of the change. His wit never failed. When a well-wisher said on his 88th birthday that he should live until 120, he shot back, “Don’t be stingy.” In December 2015, when a rumor of his death took over the internet, he replied on his Facebook page, “I’m continuing with my daily schedule as usual to do whatever I can to assist the State of Israel and its citizens.” “When you say, as I do, that you are a confirmed optimist, you are seen as unbalanced. But if you look at history, you will see that it is an ongoing failure for pessimism, not for optimism,” he recently said. After the signing of the Oslo Accords in 1993, Peres was sentimental, “An ancient Greek philosopher was asked what is the difference between war and peace. ‘In war,’ he replied, ‘the old bury the young. In peace, the young bury the old.’ I felt that if I could make the world better for the young, that would be the greatest thing we can do.” He most definitely tried.

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details,” he told the New York Times. Most recently, he created a firestorm in Israel, when, as president, he publically disagreed with Prime Minister Netanyahu’s desire to attack Iranian nuclear facilities, despite opposition from Washington. “I cannot tell you what Bibi’s considerations are on the subject of Iran. I am not his spokesman and also not Barak’s. Israel cannot solve the problem alone,” he said. “There is a limit to what we can do.” The man who helped create the nuclear reactors in Dimona and headed the country’s navy in the most tremulous times was offering up dovish views. Still, he made sure

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Many people are often puzzled by the concept of diagnosing certain behaviors or emotions as mental health disorders? Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t we all suffer from a certain amount of anxiety, depression, impulsivity, or many other common experiences of the human condition? The answer is that of course we all have a little bit of everything. The uniqueness of a disorder is not the

if those debilitating symptoms persist well beyond the appropriate period of grieving. There are situations when the disorder is not in the individual but in the system. This is common in marriages and families, where there is no individual person who has a disorder, but the members of the family or the marriage are having difficulty interacting

condition itself but the level of impairment of our functioning. For example, if someone has all of the classic traits of ADHD, but it is not affecting them socially, academically, and in their occupation, then that person does not have ADHD even though all of the symptoms are present. Similarly, if someone has anxiety, but it does not significantly impair their functioning then that person does not have an anxiety disorder. Another aspect of a clinical diagnosis is the duration of the symptoms. It is not clinically significant to have symptoms of depression after suffering a loss. It is clinically significant

with each other. The bottom line is that the purpose of a diagnosis is not to pathologize normal issues; rather it is a tool to measure if a personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s life is being affected enough to the degree that intervention would be beneficial. This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals to the frum community. Rabbi Azriel Hauptman is the director of the Baltimore branch of Relief. He can be contacted at 410-448-8356 or at ahauptman@reliefhelp.org .

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By Allan Rolnick, CPA

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att Bissonnette grew up in a dinky flyspeck of a town off the Alaskan coast that you can’t get to without a boat or a plane. He ultimately escaped to join SEAL Team Six, the Navy’s most elite counterterrorism force. He took part in the 2009 mission to rescue Captain Mark Phillips from Somali pirates, a story which was told in the movie Captain Phillips. But that was just a warmup for his biggest mission: “Project Neptune Spear,” the 2011 raid that killed Osama Bin Laden. In 2012, Bissonnette wrote a memoir called No Easy Day: The Firsthand Account of the Mission That Killed Osama Bin Laden. It earned him $6.7 million in royalties, which he planned to donate to the families of fallen SEALs. It also launched a lucrative second career as a public speaker. Unfortunately, Bissonnette broke the Pentagon rule requiring him to submit it for vetting before publishing. The day after the book landed on shelves, officials said it revealed classified information, a breach that could subject him to years in prison. Last month, Bissonnette settled the dispute and agreed to pay back every dime of royalties, plus another

$100,000 in speaking fees he earned before they approved the slides he uses in his presentations. Question: can he now deduct that payment from his taxes going forward? Code Section 162(f) seems to shoot down any tax benefit. “No deduction shall be allowed . . . for any

serve to compensate the government for the damage his book caused? If so, then he gets his deduction. Or does it merely settle his potential liability for civil or criminal fines or penalties — in a way that benefits both the government and him by avoiding the time, expense, and po-

The day after the book landed on shelves, officials said it revealed classified information, a breach that could subject him to years in prison.

fine or similar penalty paid to a government for the violation of any law.” But what about payments made to settle a dispute before a fine or penalty is imposed? Treasury regulations state that payments made to settle that sort of potential liability aren’t deductible. But the regulations also state that compensatory damages do not qualify as fines or penalties. So, that’s the $6.7 million question. Does Bissonnette’s payment

tential public disclosures involved in a trial? In that case, no dice. Bissonnette isn’t the only celebrity who may miss out on a fat tax deduction for a big gesture. An actress, Amanda, recently finalized her divorce with a $7 million lump sum payment, then announced she’s giving it all to charity. But she probably won’t get the deduction you’d expect. That’s because you can only deduct up to 50% of your adjusted gross in-

come in any year (and carry any remaining balance forward five years). Ouch! Bet she didn’t see that coming! Now, there are two ways Amanda and her ex might be treating that $7 million. It could be a transfer between spouses, incident to the divorce. In that case, it’s nondeductible to the man and tax-free to Amanda. (Too bad her financial disclosures show she doesn’t have nearly enough income to take advantage of the full deduction.) Or it might be alimony, deductible to him and taxable to her. In that case, she’ll still owe tax on the 50% of her donation that she can’t deduct this year. Here’s the lesson. Sometimes pricey things happen, and we console ourselves by saying “at least I get a tax deduction.” But that’s not always true, and it’s rare that value of the tax deduction is enough to compensate for the loss that creates it. Make sure you plan ahead before your next big transaction and that it serves you best!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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Have you been missing knaidlach in your chicken soup simply because you have adopted a gluten-free diet? Not necessary!! Here are some delicious gluten-free matza balls for your Yom Tov soup, which the whole family can enjoy.

2 eggs 3 Tbl oil 1/3 tsp. salt ¾ cup plus 2 Tbl. instant potato flakes

Preparation: Beat eggs slightly with fork. Add oil, salt, and potato flakes. Refrigerate for 30 minutes to an hour. If mixture is too loose, add more potato flakes. Form knaidlach and drop into boiling salted water. Cook, covered, for 30 minutes. Enjoy!

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Non-dairy Pumpkin Cheesecake Looking for a really delicious Yom Tov dessert, that does not taste gluten-free? Try this delicious parve pumpkin cheesecake.Â All the filling ingredients go right into thefood processor, so it couldn't be any easier!

Preparation:

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What You Will Need: Crust 8 gluten-free vanilla cookies (or similar cookies) 2 Tbl. sugar Filling 1 8oz. pkg. tofutti cream cheese 1 cup sugar 1 15 oz. can solid-pack pumpkin puree 3 large eggs 1 Tbl. potato starch combined with 1 Tbl. gluten-free bread crumbs 1 tsp. pumpkin pie spice (or cinnamon with a little ginger and nutmeg)

Â˝ tsp. salt

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line bottom and sides of an 8 inch square baking pan with parchment paper, leaving an overhang on all sides. Set aside. 2. Crush cookies and mix with 2 Tbl. sugar. Transfer crumb mixture to pan, and press gently into bottom. Spray with cooking spray. Bake until slightly firm, about 12 to 15 minutes. Set aside to cool. 3.

Place all filling ingredients into food processor, and process until smooth.

4. Pour pumpkin mixture into prepared pan, and bake until cake is set, about 40-50 minutes. 5. Cool in pan. Cover and chill, at least 2 hours. Using overhang, transfer cake to work surface and cut into 16 squares. Serve with whipped cream. Enjoy!

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Simple Pre-Fast Chicken

Serves 8-12

The perfect fall off the bone chicken to eat before the fast. Ginger and maple syrup have been shown to stabilize blood sugar and pineapple juice & garlic boost the immune system. Prep a day ahead and pour into the pan in the afternoon an hour before the seuda. 1/4 cup white wine or salt free chicken broth 2 inch knob fresh ginger, peeled and grated 3 cloves garlic, grated 4 shallots, minced 1/4 teaspoon dry mustard

Preperation: 1. Combine pineapple juice, soy sauce, maple syrup, wine or broth, ginger, garlic, and shallots and dry mustard in a large resealable plastic bag, stirring the marinade until mixed well. Place chicken pieces into the bag, squeeze out air, seal bag. Massage bag to coat chicken with marinade. Refrigerate at least 4 hours to overnight. 2. Place oven rack 6 inches from heat source and preheat oven to 425Â°. Remove chicken from marinade and arrange, skin sides up, on a foil lined baking pan. Set marinade aside. 3. Bake chicken in preheated oven 20-25 minutes until browned. Turn chicken, baste (see step 4) and bake 20-25 minutes until the juices run clear. 4. Meanwhile place reserved marinade in a sauce pan over high heat. Bring to a boil for 10 minutes. Baste chicken with boiled marinade after turning. Serve immediately. MAKE AHEAD-must make ahead partially. After baking, chicken will keep, covered well in the refrigerator for up to 5 days. Can freeze fully baked or in the marinade (step 1) for up to one month. Serves 6-8

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Ingredients: 12 pieces bone in chicken, rinsed and patted dry with paper towels 1 cup unsweetened pineapple juice 1/2 cup low sodium tamari or soy sauce 1/2 cup maple syrup

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by Renee Rousso Chernin

Barley & Brown Rice Pilaf with Pomegranate Seeds

Preperation: 1. Heat oil in a large saucepan over medium heat. Add onion and cook, stirring often, until softened. Add brown rice and barley; stir for a few seconds. Add broth and bring to a simmer. Reduce heat to low, cover and simmer until the rice and barley are tender and most of the liquid has been absorbed, 45 to 50 minutes. 2. Meanwhile, toast pine nuts in a small, dry skillet over medium-low heat, stirring constantly, until light golden and fragrant, 2 to 3 minutes. Transfer to a small bowl to cool. 3. Add pomegranate seeds, lemon juice, parsley or dill and the toasted pine nuts to the pilaf; fluff with a fork. Serve hot. Make Ahead Tip: Prepare through Step 2. Cover and refrigerate for up to 2 days. To reheat, place in a baking dish, add 1/4 cup water and cover. Microwave on High for 10 to 15 minutes or bake at 350Â°F or 25 to 30 minutes. RubyLaskerDesigns

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Hearty with feuling, filling grains and good ingredients. Ingredients: 2 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil vegetable broth 1 medium onion, finely chopped 1/3 cup pine nuts 1/2 cup brown rice, rinsed 1 cup pomegranate seeds 1/2 cup pearl barley 2 tablespoons chopped parsley or dill 3 cups reduced-sodium chicken broth, or 1 teaspoon lemon juice

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