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OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I’m embarrassed to ask this question with my name, so I hope it’s OK if I use a pseudonym. I was never a book smart girl and did really poorly in the local Bais Yaakov school I attended. I’m surrounded by siblings who
are brilliant and always did well, which tainted my reputation even more in school when teachers expected more of me. To make things short: I got through school but with a very negative experience and with teachers who always compared me to my siblings. I
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went to an amazing seminary for two years and did very well there. I am creative and became a successful graphic designer and started shidduchim about three years ago. Every time I’m asked for my resume I get asked if I could also give a high school reference which I choose not to provide – I refuse. I think this is the reason I’ve been set up so few times. Boys don’t often say yes to me. Can I ever get past my past as a non-academic kid? Can I get away with never sending a high-school reference? Thanks, Elisheva*
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