Inspire your child
Relate to your child
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be himself
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choose good friends
written by
To be careful of fake friends
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Signs of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend
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How to be careful of fake friends who use you
60
If they don’t appreciate you , they don’t deserve you
62
T he problem with being too flattering to a friend
Facebook: 66
Facebook pretend friends = Fakebook
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How social media affect self - esteem It’s hard to be yourself
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S ocial media : keeping us
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connected or escaping reality
Personal Connections
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in the digital age
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Teamwork: 80
Teamwork is the best
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Keyword
Ahava Ve Ahva Cong.
AVA
30
347-702-6207
Ahi Ezer Cong.
AHI
62
718-627-2500
Beit Yosef Cong.
BYS
70
718-645-0448
Bet Yaacob Cong.
BTY
46
718-336-3543
BSM
92
718-382-0941
Beth Torah Cong.
BTC
32, 42
718-252-9840
Bnei Binyamin Cong.
BBC
82
718-376-3500
Bnei Yitzchak Cong.
BNY
60
718-382-6688
Bnei Yosef Cong.
BYC
68
718-627-9861
Edmond Safra Cong.
ESC
80
732-517-1155
Har Halebanon Cong.
HHC
70
718-339-0209
Keter Zion Cong.
KZC
86
718-645-8006
Kol Isreal Cong.
KIC
72
718-951-1417
Magen Abraham Cong.
MAC
66
732-870-2225
MDWD
54, 84
732-531-3220
Magen David Cong.
MDC
44
718-236-5905
Mikdash Eliyahu Cong.
MEC
36
718-996-0026
Ohel David U Shlomo Cong.
ODS
74
718-648-0100
Ohel Simcha Cong.
OSC
98
732-571-2711
Ohel Yaakov Cong.
OYC
94
732-531-2405
Sephardic Community Center
SCC
78
718-954-3159
Sephardic Lebanese Cong.
SLC
76
718-627-5300
Sephardic Cong.
SC
34
718-998-8171
Shaare Shalom Cong.
SSC
56
718-376-6756
Shaare Tefilah of Eatontown
STE
90
732-272-1143
Shaare Zion Cong.
SZC
40, 58
718-376-0009
Yad Yosef Cong.
YYC
48
718-677-3707
Beth Shaul U Miriam Cong.
Magen David of West Deal
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S igns of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend By: Edgar Chkalo Magen David Yeshivah Often a person takes advantage of his
B y : Yo s e f M i z r a h i Magen David Yeshivah A bad friend is someone who will invite
By: Nissim Khafif Magen David Yeshivah A good friend is someone who cares
friend because he has the most ad-
you over and not do anything with you.
about you. He wants you to come over.
vanced phone or he is the best in any
He would just play on his xBox the
He is loyal and honest. A bad friend
type of sports. A friend must be fair.
whole time. He would never let you talk
is someone who hurts you; some-
Don’t choose a friend who is selfish
in conversation, will cut you off when
one who is a sketch friend. He only
because he will always talk about himself.
You
AHAVA VE AHVA CONG.
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even
friend who you going to be there for you, who likes
but hates everyone
FRIENDSHIPS
IF
else. That
shows
that
to
you.
A bad friend is some-
you for who you
he likes only you
talk
By: Edgar Chkalo Magen David Yeshivah
could trust, who is
bad friend is if
for the test but, right after the test, doesn’t
should choose a
are. A sign of a
AVA
wants your answers
he
just wants to use you for what you have and, when he gets what he wants from you, he will be even meaner to you. Make
ARE LIKE BIRDS.
one
who
is
self-
ish, someone who
YOU HOLD TIGHTLY THEY DIE.
talks about himself.
YOU HOLD LOOSELY THEY
who likes only you
IF
FLY.
BUT
IF YOU HOLD
WITH CARE THEY REMAIN WITH YOU FOREVER. you are saying something. A good
sure you choose good, friendly friends.
friend will try to make you have fun by
B y : M i r i a m S h a d ro u z Masores Bais Yaakov
playing with you when you come over
You, your friend and another girl are going bike riding. The other girl is not
By: Fortune Saideh Magen David Yeshivah
allowed to go to the next block. You
If you are studying and someone
ask your friend, “Do you want to go the
wants to study with you but she wants
next block?” And you dump the other
you to test her and doesn’t let you
girl. You know you are a bad friend.
study, that’s a bad friend.
and will actually listen when you talk.
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Beware of a friend because
he
just
wants to use you for what you have. When he gets what he wants from you, he
will
start
hat-
ing you. That’s what I think about how to choose a friendly friend.
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Signs of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend BETH TORAH CONG.
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BTC
B y : Ta n i a B u k a i Magen David Yeshivah Sally was the most popular girl in school. She was always in the center of attention and everyone looked up to her. One day, Mary, who was not very popular, came in with a beautiful golden set of jewelry. It included a bracelet, watch, ring and a necklace. When everyone saw it, they ran up to her and
Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.
asked her lots of questions about it. Everyone gave her so many compliments, including her best friend Celia. At recess, Celia made her way through the crowd that was around Mary and asked her if she wanted to play jump rope like they always do. Everyone told her not to play because she might dirty her jewelry. Celia walked away sadly and played by herself. The next
B y : Vi c t o r S a rd a r Magen David Yeshivah A good friend and a bad friend are to-
By: Madalyn Zalta Magen David Yeshivah A good friend is someone who you
tally different. Good friends are peo-
can trust, doesn’t use you. If your
eryone was her friend, she wouldn’t
ple who are nice. One time, I went to
friend always asks you for homework
need the jewelry anymore. Everyone
my cousin. We went together to our
every night and when you need home-
asked her where her jewelry was. She
friends. I am not as good of a sports
work she is not there, that’s a sign of
told them she didn’t wear it today. Ev-
a friend using you. You shouldn’t be
eryone just walked away. Everyone,
player as other kids. They let only the best kids play. My cousin was part of them and I wasn’t. He was so nice to me. He wasn’t playing because I wasn’t playing. A bad friend is a person who, when he sees people he knows, he starts acting not like himself. One time, I was in the park with my friend.
friends with someone who does that. If you take advantage of someone, you will never get the opportunity to have a good friend and experience what a true friend is. If you don’t have a true friend, you will never have someone
day, Mary came to school without her jewelry. She thought that, since ev-
except for Celia. Mary kept asking Celia why nobody was her friend anymore. Celia told her that they weren’t her real friends. They were only being her friend because they liked her jewelry. Celia gave Mary a big hug.
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He was acting all cool around the cool
you can trust and you will never have
kids and left me behind. That’s when I
someone who is always there for you. B y : L i l l y Ta w i l Magen David Yeshivah
from your shul on p.104 .
A bad friend is a person that if you
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knew he was a bad friend. People use each other to fit in. People want to be like other people so much that they end up being mean towards others.
failed and she got 100, she pushes it into to you.
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Signs of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend SEPHARDIC CONG.
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SC
B y : Ya e l A b r a m o w i t z Masores Bais Yaakov If you are feeling left out of a group, what do you do? Do you try to befriend somebody in the group? Which girl do you choose? The most friendly girl? Probably not. Most likely you will befriend the most popular, stylish girl. After all, she is the one who will help you ‘fit in’. At recess, you play the games
True friends are the
that she plays. At home, you call her to chat. On your way to school, you go
ones who have nice
out of your way to pass by her house – just to say hello. Finally, to your delight
things to say about
you’re ‘in’. The next year, the classes are mixed. You’re in the opposite class
you behind your back.
of the popular girl. You’re the cool girl in this class. Suddenly the old popular girl is forgotten. She starts to wonder if
B y : S h i r l e y S a rd a r Magen David Yeshivah One day, I was walking in the hall-
If you are new in town and you are not
ly happy – why? Perhaps – no, defi-
way when my friend came up to me
comfortable, a good friend would walk
nitely – it’s because you don’t have a
up to you and say, “Hi” or, “Do you need times, you think that you have a good
real friend. No one understands you. By: Chaviva Martin Masores Bais Yaakov You have a classmate who you get into
friend but then you hear them talking
a lot of fights with. One day, you hear
we opened the door, we saw it wasn’t
about you behind your back and, even
that she is head of a play. You really
there. We went to her math class. It
when she sees you, she keeps talk-
want to be the main part. So, you start
wasn’t there. We looked in her sci-
ing and laughing at you. That’s a bad
acting nice to her when you really don’t
ence class. It wasn’t there. Then she
friend. If you got into a fight with your
like her. You hear that you got the main
said, “Let’s just give up.” I said, “No.
friend and you fall and get hurt and no
and said, “Can you help me find my jacket?” I said, “Ok, I’ll help you.” We went into the last class she was in and it was locked. We had to go downstairs and get the key. When
We will find it. Let’s go look in Lost and Found.” We found her jacket there. She was so happy that she found it. She was thankful that I helped her. I told her, “Anything for a best friend.”
By: Elena Betesh Magen David Yeshivah
you ever liked her. You’re not perfect-
help?” That’s a good friend. Some-
were fighting with, that shows that she
part. After the play, you forget about her. By: Joseph Ades Hillel Yeshiva When you have a good friend,
is really a good friend who cared about
he will always be there for you. It
you even in a fight.
doesn’t matter about the games,
one helped you but your friend that you
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Signs of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend MIKDASH ELIYAHU CONG.
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B y : B re n d a H e f f e z Magen David Yeshivah Sarah and Michelle were best friends. Sarah was smart and kind. Michelle wasn’t so smart but she was still kind. It was Tuesday and an assignment was due in English class. Michelle didn’t complete the assignment and asked Sarah if she can borrow it. Sarah wasn’t so sure about giving Michelle the work because they would
A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future and accepts you today the way you are.
probably get caught. Michelle would also not learn anything by copying. Even though Michelle thought it was helping her, it was only making things worse. Sarah told Michelle that she couldn’t give her the work. Michelle got really angry at Sarah and she got a zero for that assignment. She didn’t talk to Sarah for 3 days. On the 3rd
B y : R a y m o n d Ta w i l Magen David Yeshivah One day when I was in recess, we
By: Jack Jemal Magen David Yeshivah People choose friends who take ad-
day, another assignment was due.
were trying to make the teams. We had
vantage of them because they want
that was due again. Sarah knew how
a really hard time trying to decide what
attention. It makes them feel good. A
much trouble she would get into but
the teams were going to be. Then we
popular kid goes to another kid and
gave it to Michelle. The teacher caught
decided to make captains but I thought
says: “If you give me your lunch mon-
Michelle for cheating. Sarah and Mi-
it wasn’t right because the last person
ey, I will let you hang out with me.” A
chelle were in detention together. They
who was left to pick would be the worst.
sign of a good friend is someone who
both apologized. Sarah was happy be-
It would really embarrass that person
will always be there for you when you
cause she knew that Michelle learned
a lot. So, right when they decided to
need him. Someone who won’t make
her lesson. Michelle also apologized
make captains, I said that I would like
fun of you, that’s what a true friend is.
for taking advantage of Sarah. Mi-
to be a captain. I first chose someone
A bad friend is someone who will use
chelle realized what a good friend
who everyone would’ve thought was
you and would not keep secrets. Be
the worst player. He really felt great!
wise! Choose carefully who you are
Submit on
friends with and always have a heart.
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Michelle apologized for being mad at her. She asked for that assignment
Sarah was being by not giving her homework because, then, Michelle would learn to do her homework by
By: Abie Chamah Magen David Yeshivah A good friend is someone who prom-
herself. Sarah liked Michelle better
ises not to tell Loshon Hara and
and we should not rely on our friends
keeps it. If you do something em-
for work, especially because the out-
barrassing, he won’t tell anyone.
come would be bad for the both of you.
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Who led his life devoted to his family, Torah and Mitzvot. Our memory of his warm smile, generosity, honesty, compassion, and humility will always remain with us. From his wife Cheryl, Children Linda and Joey, Jack and Sylvia, Evelyn and Joey, Jennifer, Isaac, And all his grandchildren.
Signs of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend SHAARE ZION CONG.
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By: Esther Chabbott Magen David Yeshivah There was a girl named Sophia. She had 2 friends, Samantha and Victoria. Sophia’s dad got her real gold “best friends forever” necklaces. She walked into school wearing one of them. Renee and Molly came up to her and were trying on her other 2 necklaces that she had. So, they hung out with Sophia
Only a good friend can see the pain behind a fake smile
the whole day. By the end of the day, Sophia thought they really wanted to be her friend. One day, something sad happened to Sophia and she needed to talk to someone. She called Renee and Molly. They both said that they had to do homework. But, she really knew that they just didn’t want to talk to her. She called Victoria and Samantha. They rushed over even though
B y : E v e l y n Te b e l e Magen David Yeshivah A good friend is a friend who is always
By: Matilda Kassab Magen David Yeshivah One day, I went to school and I told
there for you. Someone I know was
my friend Lina that I got a bad mark on
better. Sophia realized that Saman-
being teased by a group of mean girls.
my test. I told her not to tell anyone.
tha and Victoria are true friends.
She needed someone to be there for
In the lunchroom, everyone knew that
her. Her friend stood up for her and
I got a bad mark. I was really mad. I
told them to stop being mean to her.
only told Lina. I went over to her and
By: Mark Barsano Magen David Yeshivah A sign of a good friend is a person who
Even though the girl was very shy,
told her, “Why would you tell anyone?
cares and motivates you. One time at
she stood up for her friend because
I thought you were my friend.” She
the basketball game, there was one
she loved her friend and couldn’t just
said, “I am your friend.” “I thought I
good player and one bad player. The
sit there and watch her true friend be
could trust you,” I said. “But every-
good player said to the bad player,
teased. That showed that she was
one was asking me,” she said. “They
“Keep trying. I think you are a great
there for her and she was willing to
said, if you tell us, we will tell you
player, even though people think you
take the heat for her friend. That’s why
what’s on the test. “You would rath-
are not.” A different day, kids were
they are really true friends because if
er get to know what’s on a test then
she was just using her, she wouldn’t
picking on someone. Another boy
keep a secret?” I asked. She said, “I
care about her as much as she does.
joined in and started picking on him
am really sorry. I won’t do it again.”
as well. The kid that was being picked
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they were in science club meeting. They hugged her and made her feel
on said, “Aren’t you my friend?” The other kid said, “No” and made him feel bad. That’s a sign of a bad friend.
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Signs of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend BETH TORAH CONG.
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By: Stephanie Franco Magen David Yeshivah It is important to know who is a true friend and who isn’t. The feeling of having a true friend is comforting. Your real friend should respect you and accept you for who you are, not what you have or wear. On the other hand, a fake friend would judge you for what
A friend is someone with whom you are comfortable to be yourself.
you wear or buy. Having a true friend is good. If I like to bake and my friend makes fun of me that I bake instead of going shopping, she is a fake friend. By: Sophia Rofe Hillel Yeshiva A good friend is someone who appreciates you. I made my friend a bracelet and she didn’t like it. But she told me ‘Thank you” and wore it anyway. A bad friend is someone who takes you for
B y : Vi c t o r F t e h a Magen David Yeshivah
By: Jack Guindi Magen David Yeshivah A good friend means someone who
One of my friends is Joshua. Joshua
She knew that Marcy would always
cares for you. An example is if you
has all the qualities of a good friend,
make up anyway because Lilly was the
are down and your friend helps you
from sharing to honesty. When we play
back up. A bad friend will not help
Xbox in his house, he lets me choose
you back up. A good friend is unselfish. For example, he asks you, “What game do you want to play?” If he is a bad friend, he will probably say, “No, I don’t care what you want to play. I want to play my game.” A good friend will say ‘hello’ to you when he sees you and not just walk away.
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granted. One time, Lilly started a fight.
if we should play NHL or not. Another
only friend Marcy had. So, Lilly would always tell Marcy mean things and get away with it. That’s a bad friendship.
basketball. I’ve improved from his ad-
By: Jack Shalom Magen David Yeshivah A good friend is someone who will stick
vice. Teddy lets me play football with
up for you when you have a problem. If
him every day in recess. Even if I miss
someone is embarrassed because he
a couple of passes, he says, “Don’t
has a pimple on his face, a good friend
worry!” He never lies to me about
won’t laugh and make fun of him. He
who is on the 3 way calling. That’s
will stick up for him and be on his side.
friend, Morris, teaches me how to play
what makes someone a good friend.
A bad friend will laugh at him and make
By: Sarine Zafrani Magen David Yeshivah
jokes about him. If you accomplished
Let’s say you like a different style
team, a good friend will congratu-
of clothing than your friend. A good
late you and be happy for you. A bad
friend won’t push you to pick her style.
friend will be jealous and mean to you.
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STELLA LINIADO A”H “a
pure soul taken too soon”
Our beautiful stella,
You have left us way too soon for words. In your short time here you have shown us strength when we were weak. And you gave us happiness to keep us afloat. Although there are no footprints for us to follow, we know you will carry us on this journey and guide us through our lives. Your full of life spirit and angelic beauty is our inspiration to keep moving forward and make you proud. You are an example of what a daughter is. One of a kind! Our hearts beat differently now. You, our beautiful Stella are missed every day!
With all our love,
M ommy , D addy , M arc , J ustin , M ichael ,
and
S itto .
Signs of a bad friend & the qualities of a good friend MAGEN DAVID CONG.
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By: Morris Esquenazi Magen David Yeshivah I have a friend who is everything I can ask for. He shares because he knows how it feels to want something and not get it. He is also a good influence. He is well behaved. My friend has a great quality of honesty. He is always nice even when we disagree. Today, most people don’t have friends as good as mine. Most people take
I don’t have a problem with those who don’t like me, but I do have a problem with those who pretend to.
advantage of different people for different things. They like their games or friends, but they don’t like him for who he truly is. That person doesn’t know what fun is because he is always taking advantage. Also, the person that is being taken advantage of is not happy because they both don’t like each other for who they are.
B y : Vi c t o r F a k s Magen David Yeshivah A sign of a good friend is one who cares
By: Sam Dweck Magen David Yeshivah What is a sign of a good friend?
for you. If you get hurt, your friend runs
They share with you, they are there
to help you. That’s a good friend. An-
when you need them, and they ac-
if he takes time to help you. For ex-
other sign of a good friend is an hon-
cept you for who you are. A sign of a
ample, if you are not so good in foot-
est friend. An honest friend doesn’t
bad friend is when they are mean to
ball and your friend takes time to help
other people but nice to you. They
you. David and his best friend Yosef
don’t share with you. They use you
love football. David isn’t so good in
by asking you to do things for them
it. Yosef comes to David’s house and
and then they stab you in the back. By: Joey Hamui Magen David Yeshivah A good friend wouldn’t use you for all
they play basketball. Later, Yosef tells
the cool things you have in your house.
with Yosef, Yosef says that he’ll go
talk bad about you behind your back and doesn’t lie to you. A good friend is someone who is coming to your house for you, not for your things, someone who likes to hang out with you. By: Michael Ancona Hillel Yeshiva Let’s say that there are 4 boys hav-
By: Ezra Faks Magen David Yeshivah You know someone is a good friend
David to bring his football and they’ll play catch. When David plays catch
They will come over because they like
easy at first and then harder and hard-
ing a sleepover and there are only 3
you. You could fight but you will al-
er. Yosef is taking his time to teach
beds. So, one boy will have to sleep
ways get back to being friends again
and help David with his football skills.
on the floor. A sign of a good friend is someone who cares about you, someone who will sleep on the floor
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R.C.
Raymond Chera A�H
R.C.
A Man of Faith and Vision
Raymond was a successful businessman with an honorable name. His greatest satisfaction came from Torah. He personally was instrumental for the openings of the Lawrence Avenue Synagogue, the Park Avenue Synagogue and The Cedar Avenue Synagogue along with contributing Sifrey Torah to all of the mentioned synagogues also the Kollel and other institutions throughout the community. Forever in our hearts. From his wife Claudia and sons Steven, Charles, Victor & Michael and their families.
How to be careful of fake friends who use you By: Michelle Kassab Magen David Yeshivah One day, my friend Emily and I were
By: Ikey Dayan Magen David Yeshivah Why do people choose a friend who
By: Chanie Klug Masores Bais Yaakov “Sara, can I please have snack? I
at school. Lisa, the popular girl, came
may take advantage of them? People
don’t have any,” said Leah. “Sure,
up to me and invited me to her party.
do that because they want to be popu-
Leah. Here, I have an extra snack
But my best friend, Emily, wasn’t in-
lar and they want friends. They also
bag.” “Sara, school is over, but I am
vited. I told Emily that if she wasn’t
do that because they think that per-
so in the mood for pizza,” said Leah.
invited I won’t go either. Emily said,
son is cool. So, if they are friends with
“My father owns a pizza store. You
“Go
and
have
fun.” So, I went.
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could come with me,” answered Sara. “I’d
At the party, Lisa
love to, but I don’t
was acting like
have
my best friend,
Leah replied. “You
but it felt strange.
could come and get
But, I still went
it for free,” said Sara.
with it. The next
We went to get piz-
day, Lisa asked
za. “Yum, that pizza
if I wanted to do
was great but I have
homework
to-
gether with her by her house. I said, “Yes.” But, then, Emily came up to me and asked if I want to go out tonight with her.
True friends are always there when you need them. Fake friends are only there when they need you.
I told her I had
any
money,”
to go. So, bye,” said Leah. “I could take anything
from
that
Sara,” Leah thought to herself. Today is Leah’s birthday. She said she would call me at 3pm to come. It’s 1pm, why didn’t
plans with Lisa. I said, “I won’t go.”
the cool kids they will be cool. What
But, Emily said, “Don’t worry, just go.”
is a sign of a good friend? Someone
I went to Lisa’s house. When we were
who shares with you, fair, nice, there
doing homework, it looked like I was
for you when you need him. Some-
doing all the work, but I just went with
one who is a giver, not a taker. A bad
it. The next day, Lisa asked me to do
friend is someone who talks behind
her homework for her. I told her “No”
your back, uses you and is selfish.
and went to my best friend, Emily. Emily was a real friend, she took me back.
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she call me? It’s 2:30pm, come on Leah, call me. It’s 8pm. “Sara, it’s bed time,” my mom called. Leah didn’t call me. I am so upset. Leah is missing out on having a true friend. She just likes Sara for her pizza and snack. She is taking advantage of Sara. That is not a true friendship.
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In Loving Memory of
Albert “Shanty” Mishaan A”H
A Man of Honesty and Integrity who always put the welfare of his Family and Community above all.
Shanty Mishaan A”H taught us the Jewish values of truth, unity, dignity, humility and kindness. He will always be remembered for his outstanding commitment to follow the Laws of Torah and Mitsvot and for his unwavering faith in Hashem, his belief and the people he loved. We hope to follow in his footsteps and continue the family values He bestowed upon all of us.
May his memory be a constant source of inspiration to all who knew him. We miss you and love you everyday that passes. From His Wife Rose, His Children, Grandchildren, Great grandchildren and Loved ones.
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How to be careful of fake friends who use you YAD YOSEF CONG.
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Naomi ignored Shira. “After all, I am not her friend anymore.” Shira asked Naomi if she could play. Naomi looked at her and said, “No. We are in the middle of the game. You can’t play.” Shira looked at Naomi with a shocked expression on her face. She turned her back and walked away. By: Jack Mosseri Magen David Yeshivah One day, Yitzchak had a huge party.
In friendship, expect less & appreciate
Yosef didn’t get invited. Yosef asked Yitzchak, “Can I come to your birthday party?” Yitzchak said, “Yes.” The day of Yitzchak’s birthday everyone said, “Yosef, why are you here? You weren’t invited.” “No,” said Yosef. “Yitzchak invit-
more. By: Adina Feigelstein Masores Bais Yaakov Shira burst into the classroom. Her
ed me.” All of Yitzchak’s friends asked Yitzchak, “Why did you invite Yosef?” “What are you guys saying? I didn’t in-
Shira so much. One day, Shira invited
vite him,” Yitzchak answered. “Yosef is
Naomi to her house to play. Naomi
so bad at basketball and he never ever
eyes were sparkling with excitement.
immediately accepted the invitation.
will be my friend.” Yosef heard this and
She announced to the whole class that
At Shira’s house, they played the
said, “What are you saying? You in-
she had gotten the newest game that
expensive game over and over and
vited me yesterday because I helped
was very expensive. All day, during
Naomi loved every minute of it. “Now,
you with your homework.” If someone
recess and lunch, Shira talked about
I could stop being her friend. Sure, I’ll
takes advantage of you, he thinks he
the game. A crowd of girls gathered
be friendly. But, I’ll hang around with
is the winner. But, he is really the loser.
around her to listen. Among those
my friends.” A week later, Morah an-
girls was Naomi who was extremely
nounced that there would be a big test
B y : Ya a k o v E l i a s Magen David Yeshivah
jealous of Shira. She had begged her
the next day. Naomi was nervous for
Michael was at Robert’s house. Mi-
parents to get that game but they said
the rest of the day. How will I study?
chael used his laptop, enjoyed com-
it was too expensive. Naomi longed
Shira called her after school and said,
fortable couches ate good food. In
to play the game at least once. “I
“I saw you were very nervous today
school, when they were making bas-
must go over to Shira’s house,” she
when Morah announced the test. I’ll
ketball teams, the other captain didn’t
thought. Throughout the day, Naomi
help you study.” Shira explained very
pick Robert and Michael did the same.
hung around with Shira walking with
patiently and clearly the material on
They didn’t pick him because Robert
her. She invited Shira to play ball at
the test. Naomi began to understand
wasn’t a good player. Robert went
recess and sat next to her at lunch.
it. The next day, at recess, Shira was
to sit on a bench and started crying.
Shira took a liking to Naomi right
standing on the side of the yard while
Michael saw him and just ignored
away. But, Naomi didn’t really
Naomi started a game of Machanayim.
him. That is a sign of a bad friend.
like
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How to be careful of fake friends who use you At TorahValues.com MAGEN DAVID WEST DEAL search shul abbreviation MDWD
By: Esti Samel Masores Bais Yaakov “My birthday is in only three more weeks!” screamed Chavi. “And this year my birthday party is going to be the best!” she boasted. “We’re going to go bowling and get ice cream,” Chavi exclaimed in joy. Aliza, on the other hand, really wanted to be invited. So, she decided on a plan. The next morn-
Fake friends: once
ing, she came to school and went over to Chavi. “Oh, how pretty you look,” she
they stop talking
said. Then, by recess, she came over
to you, they start
on for two weeks. Now, it was a week
talking about you.
giving out the invitations. Everyone
to her and offered her snack. This went before Chavi’s birthday and she was was eyeing whoever got invited. Finally, she passed by Aliza and slipped
By: Sarah Cohen Magen David Yeshivah A good friend never tells you to
B y : Yo s e f F t i h a Magen David Yeshivah There was once a boy named Mi-
an envelope on her desk. “Phew,” all
change. If you are wearing something
chael who was the smartest boy in the
you really like and your friend tells you
grade. He got 100s on his test. One
was really excited. She went to the
to change because she doesn’t like
day, a boy in his class named Benny
your outfit, that’s not a good friend.
heard that Michael got 100s on his
A good friend knows how you feel
Mishna, Navi and Chumash tests.
even if you don’t say anything. When
Benny had a Mishna test coming up.
you take advantage of someone, you
Everybody knew that Benny was not
yourself are suffering. Why? Because
smart. Benny was the coolest guy in
you never experience real friendship,
the grade. He went to Michael and
By: Esther Maleh Magen David Yeshivah
you don’t have any good friends and
told him, “Hey, friend, can I come over
Someone is showing off their stuff and
they won’t be there for you when you
and study with you? I will put you up
she never liked you. Then, one day, you
need them the most. Sure, you got
in the basketball team. Ok, friend?”
have something very cool. She comes
a lot of “friends” on Facebook. But
They finished studying. Benny went
up to you and wants to be your friend,
think to yourself, “Are they really my
home. The next day, Michael said
all of a sudden. That means she is try-
friends? Are they going to be there
to Benny, “So, what team am I on?”
ing to use you so she could have the
for me when I really need them?”
Benny answered, “Who are you?”
cool things. That’s called a bad friend.
of her hard work was for something. The day of the party came and Aliza bowling ally. There were balloons and streamers all over the place. When the party was over, Aliza went home. A few months later, when Aliza made a party, she didn’t even invite Chavi. She wasn’t Chavi’s friend anymore.
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How to be careful of fake friends who use you SHAARE SHALOM CONG.
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By: Rachel Lati Magen David Yeshivah Carly knew Melissa from school. Carly asked Melissa, “Do you have any hair clips, pony tails and fun games?” Melissa replied, “Yes.” Carly asked, “Can I have them?” Melissa said, “Ok.” They played together the whole day. The next day, when Carly was walking back from school, Melissa said, “Hi, Carly.” Carly replied, “Oh, Melissa.
Jewelry is like friends.
I don’t like you because you are not really fun.” Melissa thought to her-
Sometimes fake ones
self, “I think she just used me to get
look better than
my stuff.” If you have a girl who asks
the real ones.
flattering to you, do not listen and do
you to give her things and being too not talk to her. She is not a real friend. By: Faigy Eisen Masores Bais Yaakov Huvy is not the best student in school.
By: Hodaya Bentyaghoub Masores Bais Yaakov One day, Dina came to school in her
B y : S h i r a F re n k e l Masores Bais Yaakov “Hi, my parents are going away. Can
new school shoes. Everybody always
I stay with you for today?” Atara just
wanted those shoes. So, everybody
asked me if she could stay at my house.
started being friends with Dina. She
She is the most popular girl in school.
never used to be as popular as she
“Yeah, but I’ll need to ask my mother,”
was now. One day, everyone found
I said in excitement. I watched Atara
out that Dina’s shoes were not re-
go back to her popular group. Knock,
ally hers. They were her cousin’s.
knock. “That must be Atara,” I thought.
From then on, everybody stopped
“I’ll get the door.” “Hi, Malky. I like your
being friends with Dina. Everything
house.” I think she is trying to be my
changed. Dina wasn’t popular any-
friend. I think tomorrow she will let me
more. Everyone went back to the
be in her group. “So, what do you want
people they used to be friends with.
to do?” Atara said, interrupting my
Dina was all down. Everybody was
thoughts. The next day at school, Atara
nice to Dina, but not anymore. A good
pretended like she never met me. After
in school having a blast with her new
friend is not friends with you because
all I did for her, she betrayed me. “Ata-
toy. Dasie asked, “Can I borrow it
of what you have. Everyone took ad-
ra don’t you remember you stayed by
for a little?” “No way, smarty pants,”
vantage of Dina because of her shoes.
me? We had so much fun?” I wanted
said Huvy. And, that was the last time
Nobody took advantage of her heart.
to scream, but walked away instead.
Dasie ever helped Huvy.
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One night, our teacher gave way too much homework. Huvy sighed. When Huvy came home, she thought of only one thing. The homework. Huvy ran to the phone and called Dasie. “Hello,” said Huvy. “Hi,” responded Dasie, the smartest girl in class. “I need help with homework,” stated Huvy. “Sure,” exclaimed Dasie. Huvy was excited that she should get help with homework. After 3 hours, homework was done. “Bye, friend,” said Dasie hoping for a good response. Huvy was a little unsure but she managed to say, “Bye.” The next day, Huvy was
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M. Cohen
L. Savdie
I. Esses
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How to be careful of fake friends who use you SHAARE ZION CONG.
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By: Jake Bivas Hillel Yeshiva My friend asked me for review sheets a day before an important test. But, I also needed it. He kept on complimenting me and saying that I am so nice. The next day, at recess, I asked him if I could play basketball with him. He didn’t let me. He didn’t pay back.
I don’t like people who only need friends when it’s convenient for them. By: Ruthy Mineh Magen David Yeshivah The new school year started and Sarah was new at the yeshiva. She didn’t know anybody in school. She was really shy and thought, “Who will ever be friends with me.” She went to Hebrew class and knew every question that the Hebrew teachers asked. In her school, there was a popular girl named Miriam.
And, I didn’t get my review sheets back from him. When I asked him to give back my sheets, he said he lost it. It’s priceless to have a really good friend because your friend will be there for you in time of need. Your friend will be nice to you. Even if you and your friend fight, it gets over with faster and you forget and forgive each other.
to give them her homework. Sarah did, but she didn’t want to. Miriam and her friends kept bossing Sarah around. Sarah heard them talking that they were using her. The next day Sarah completely ignored them. She saw a different girl who she thought was loyal. Her name was Marilyn. Marilyn introduced Sarah to all her friends. Sarah learned
B y : C h a v i We i l l Masores Bais Yaakov One of my “friends” is really popular. But, she always tells secrets that I asked her not to say. She always leaves me out and takes advantage of me. I don’t like it, but I didn’t leave her out. I included her even though it was hard. Some people take advantage of others to be cool and popular, but they are making themselves miser-
“Hey, why don’t we tell Sarah to be
to really think before choosing friends. B y : Vi c o M i z r a h i Magen David Yeshivah I like a friend who accepts me for
friends with us and everyday we’ll just
who I am. I don’t want a friend who
know you. A true friend means some-
copy over her homework?” After class,
wants me to be someone I am not.
one who can be happy for you, be-
Miriam and her friends came to Sarah
A real friend is someone who likes
lieve in you. That’s a true friendship.
and they were all nice to her. Miriam
you for who you are. When someone
told her to join their group of friends.
takes advantage of people, in the end
Sarah joined in and everything was
of the day he feels bad. He doesn’t
normal for the rest of the day. But, the
have any friends. He doesn’t experi-
next day, Miriam and her friends were
ence a good friendship. Every person
bossing Sarah around and forcing her
needs a friend who can respect them.
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memory of
In
Joseph & Esther Bailey A”H
l o vi n g m e m o r y o f
Odette and Ralph Ades A”H By Brenda & Morris Massry and children
In
memory of
Harry & Viola Bailey A”H
In
memory of
Maurice Elbaz A”H
In
loving memory of
Albert Hazan A”H & Peggy Hazan A”H
In
memory of
Jane Levy A”H
In
memory of
Albert Manopla A”H
In
memory of
Yitzchak ben Mazal A”H
In
memory of
Albert Moghrabi A”H By
his children
In
memory of
Morris Saffati A”H
In
memory of
Eli Zeitouni ben Helen A”H
I f they don ’ t appreciate you , they don ’ t deserve you B y : Yv o n n e M i z r a h i Hillel Yeshiva Shelly is a very quiet girl. She is very
By: Clarisse Cohen Hillel Yeshiva “Help me,” Alison said acting all ner-
By: Paulina Cohen Hillel Yeshiva Adrienne was at school one day when
good at sports. One day, loud and
vous. “Alexis, I didn’t do my home-
her friend Grace was walking down the
popular girl Lauren was in a tennis
work,” Alison said. Alison rushed to
hall and slipped and dropped all of the
tournament and needed a partner.
Alexis and said, “Please help me.”
books all over the floor. Adrienne ran
Lauren decided to ask Shelly because
Alexis knew it was Alison’s first time not
to Grace and asked if she was okay.
she is good at sports.
Shelly
agreed and prac-
BNEI YITZCAH CONG.
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when she stepped in
how to do a vol-
a puddle. The mud
ley, and helped
splashed
her with her back-
Trust is like a
day of the tournament was here
paper. Once it’s
and Shelly and Lauren won the
at
Lauren cided a
school, de-
to
club.
all
over
her. Grace and three
hand. Finally, the
day
pick up all of the
in the baseball field
also taught her
ment. The next
helped
Adrienne was walking
every day. She
tourna-
she
books. The next day,
ticed with Lauren
whole
BNY
Then,
crumpled it can’t be perfect again.
make When
other friends walked over and started to laugh
at Adrienne.
Adrienne
realized
that Grace was not her friend. Why is it important to have a friend?
When
you
have a good friend, you will have some-
Shelly asked to be in it, Lauren de-
doing homework so she gave her the
nied. Shelly felt terrible. The problem
worksheet. One week later, Alexis for-
is that Shelly had just helped Lauren
got to write down her homework. The
with her tennis and helped her win
next day, she asked Alison if she can
the tournament. Lauren had not acted
copy the questions on the worksheet
very generously back to Shelly. The
she forgot to do. Alison said, “No.” Alex-
least she could have done was let
is said, “It’s only one time,” while her
for all their help with
her in the club. A bad friend uses oth-
face turned red as a watermelon. “No,”
Torah Contest
ers. A good friend cares for others.
Alison said repeating it over and over.
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problem with being too flattering to a friend By: Steven Gammal Hillel Yeshiva Picture this, one day, you and your
By: Sara Silber Masores Bais Yaakov Leah’s party is tomorrow. Chanie
B y : S a r a Ta w i l Magen David Yeshivah This past year, there was a new girl
friend are playing basketball. Your
needed a present. “Mommy, Leah’s
in our school. Her name is Jill. Every
friend asks you, “Are you excited for
birthday is tomorrow and she is so
day, she would walk to school alone.
the trip tomorrow?” You say, “Yeah,
popular. Get her the fanciest pres-
One day, her parents won the lot-
I have been looking forward to this
ent.” At the party, they played a game.
tery and the news spread all over the
trip for months.” Then
your
friends ask you, “Are
we
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be her friend. After a
together in the
few days, she real-
bus?” And you “Definitely.”
The
next
ized that everyone was using her. But,
day,
there was one girl
you go on the
who liked Jill even
bus and you get a seat. A popular kid comes to you. He asks if he can sit with you. You say, “Of course.” You forgot about your friend who
den, everyone ran to her and wanted to
sitting
say,
AHI
school. All of a sud-
Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself
before she won the lottery, but was too shy to talk to her. The next day, Jill told everyone that her par-
and the right people will
ents lost the money.
like the real you.
if people would still
you promised the seat next to you. A few minutes later
She wanted to see talk to her. But, not one person talked to
“Leah, you go fist or tell someone to go
her, just that shy girl. After that, Jill
you said yesterday we were sitting to-
first,” we all said . Leah opened all the
became friends with the shy girl. She
gether on the bus?” You say, “Sorry.
presents and Chanie’s was the best.
saw clearly who was a good friend
He was here first.” Your friend walks
“Chanie should go first,” Leah thought.
and who was a fake friend. Some peo-
away and sits the whole ride alone.
“Fraidy, go first,” said Leah. “Why
ple only like you for what you have,
You have just lost your good friend.
didn’t I go first,” thought Chani.
some people like you for who you are.
your friend comes and asks, “I thought
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Social media can be harmful to friend-
By: Diana Hoffstein Magen David Yeshivah Facebook, Instagram and Twitter al-
ter, Instagram and other social media.
ship, to the way you see and feel
most everyone has one. It changes
When someone posts a picture and
about yourself and gain respect for
your life and your friendships. You
gets many likes on it, then other, less
yourself. The second you log onto so-
probably don’t even want a Facebook
popular, people try to do something like
cial media, you can gain 500 followers.
or Twitter but you get it so that, maybe,
the popular people. When they
By: Nina D. Barkai Yeshiva
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you could be just like the other people who
copy the popular
seem “popular,” but
girls and don’t get
really they are just
the same amount
like you. All you do is
of likes or com-
compare yourself to
ments, they start
your other “friends.”
to think they are
Some might be real.
not as good as
Others are just people
the rest of the
who followed you to
world. It changes the real person to be a person who they want to be not to be who they really are. They act
like
Don’t count the number
gain followers. They don’t care about you
of friends you have, but
or your personality. They just want to be
the number of friends
more popular. You try
you can count on
and likes. Why? So
some-
one they are not
to get a lot of friends you would feel better about yourself? It
just to get ahead in competition and be popular. It also
But, the second you log off, they dis-
doesn’t make you feel better because
causes people to be jealous of their
appear. They are not there to support
what happens if these social media
friends. They feel that they have to do
and care about you. All you have to do
sites get “unpopular” or “overrated?”
better than all the other girls. It creates
is press one button to gain a friend.
a fake person who just wants to be like
But, you are not making a real effort
all the other girls and not feel left out.
to make a friend, to know how much
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that will help you in life are the friends that are real and supportive.
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By: Samantha Chabot Barkai Yeshiva True friendship is one of the most important things in your life and it’s being ruined by social media. Social media allows friendship to be a click of a button. Someone could have a million ‘friends’ on Facebook, but, out of those, how many are genuine friends? Almost every kid and adult has either
From the 300 friends
a Facebook, Instagram or Twitter account. You might ask what is wrong,
that you have on
why is it bad? On someone’s birthday a person might get a text or tweet
Facebook, how many
of “Happy Birthday” but what does it mean? You don’t put any effort in say-
of them are real?
ing it. The person gets so happy that she got a million texts that say “Happy
By: Gabriel Bildirici Barkai Yeshiva When you log on to any social media,
By: Rachel Gammal Magen David Yeshivah Social media can ruin a friendship. A
Birthday” but, in the real world, did
you waste time on trying to keep up
girl has an Instagram and took a pic-
away reality and people along with it.
with the whole world rather than build-
ture with her friend. Her friend looked
ing and growing relationships. Real
gorgeous and wanted to post it but
By: Bobby Matalon Barkai Yeshiva Did you ever have a real friend? Well,
friends will be there for you if you need help. No one posts on Facebook what’s real. As a result, everyone thinks you are someone who you aren’t. It doesn’t
the girl looked not as pretty in it. So, the friend posted the picture but she cropped the girl out. To the girl, she
any one of them make an effort to say it in person? Social media takes
Facebook tricks your mind. Facebook makes you believe that, if you get “Friended,” it means you got a friend.
matter if you don’t have a lot of follow-
looked pretty. So, the friend posted
But, while you think you have friends,
ers as long as you have your friends.
the picture and the girl looked on In-
you don’t know them in real life. May-
By: Susan Esses Barkai Yeshiva can’t find real friends
stagram and saw her picture and she
be the reason you got friended is be-
wasn’t in it. So, the girl asked her
cause the person who friended is say-
friend, “Why did you take me out of
ing, “Oh look. If I friend this popular
ing everyone else. It makes you
the picture?” The friend answered,
guy, then he’ll friend me and because
feel as if you have a lot of friends
“Because you didn’t look pretty.” The
he friended me everyone will friend
when, meanwhile, you really don’t.
girl got so mad. She went home and
me. That’s how people think on Face-
unfollowed her on Instagram, Face-
book. Most of the time people who
book, Twitter. She never talked to her
friend you on Facebook are fake. They
again on social media and in real life.
are just using you to get followers.
You cause
you
are
too
busy
bechas-
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By: Sari Cattan Barkai Yeshiva In my opinion social media can affect friendships and relationships in both good and bad ways. In a negative way, social media gives you the wrong judgment of others and gives others the wrong judgment of you. If one of your friends doesn’t post a picture for your birthday, apparently it
Social media encourages to impress, not to connect. By: Raquel Botton Magen David Yeshivah Social media affects quality of true
means that you are not close friends. It definitely lowers your confidence, especially when you see a popular person who has tons of followers and getting lots of likes and you are not getting as many as them. Everything with these social media causes people to make judgments about each other.
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friendship. But how? One time, I decided to go on Instagram. I saw one of my friends posted a picture with a few of my other friends. When I saw that picture, it made me jealous. I decided not to go on Instagram anymore because I realized that, every time I went on it, I always wanted what everyone else had. Social media makes a person addicted to likes and followers and many more unproductive things. On social media like Twitter, Facebook and Instagram,
you’re
gaining
“friends”.
But, in real life how many of those people are really your friends? It’s better to invest in 1 friendship than 100
Social media encourages you to do what’s cool and not what you enjoy
people and end up with zero friends.
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Sarah
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Kimberly
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I t ’ s hard to be yourself on social media B y : Ya a k o v S h m u e l J . G r u n s f e l d Barkai Yeshiva Social media kids all over the world
Be
change
B y : D a n i e l l e Tu a c h i Barkai Yeshiva When you see that someone popu-
are using Instagram, Facebook and
your whole personality based on
lar has something that you want, just
Twitter. Kids are following and friend-
what people like and don’t like.
because they have it will you get it?
ing random people to look popular. It
Maybe in school you don’t have so
Put yourself in their shoes. When the
might look cool to pull a prank or act
many friends, so you would think
most popular person in your class gets
mischievously to fit it. When
By: Coral Cohen – Saban Barkai Yeshiva yourself!
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that popular item and you don’t even like
a kid feels he
it, you will go home
ranks
he
and beg your parents
would want to do
for it. Then they will
something
silly
get it for you and you
and funny to fit
won’t even appreci-
in.
pres-
ate it. By the time
sure comes out
you got this item, ev-
of all of this. Of-
eryone is moved into
low,
Peer
ten, fake friends online make you act a certain way. This pushes you to be someone else. On social media,
you
try
to please people
You were born an original. Don’t end up a copy.
These aren’t your real friends who
that on Instagram or Facebook and
you could share problems with and
Twitter you could change your whole
friendship. In life, you need a real friend, someone who will care for
they love and no one will like you like you thought they would. So, your plan starts over and over and never
works.
Find
good friends who love you for who you are.
who aren’t you.
feelings. Social media isn’t really
the next big thing that
personality based on what people like and don’t like. The difference
By: Raymond Dusi Barkai Yeshiva Social media strips your identity from you. You will post things that aren’t you. The second you post a bad picture or
you, help you, give an advice and
between real friendship and fake
will lead you through the maze of life.
friendship is that real friendship is to
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dia, your friends will leave you while
have a real connection with some-
your true friends will stay by your side.
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one who you could really talk to.
That’s why social media is bad for you.
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B y : E d d i e Ta w i l Barkai Yeshiva When Michael got a new skateboard, he took a picture of it and he got a lot of likes. Michael really hates to skateboard but he only bought it to be popular. Michael was only acting to like it. Also, his friend told him that it was so cool. His friend also told him that if he didn’t get one, he
By being yourself,
wouldn’t be popular. Michael couldn’t
you put something
he wouldn’t be popular. Michael is
in the world that was
not post real comments on Face-
not there before.
By: Renee Hadef Magen David Yeshivah Do you have true friends or fake
just do what he wanted to do or else always afraid to be himself. He does book. It’s just what other people like.
By: Moshe Chaya Barkai Yeshiva You should use social media the right
By: Moshe Benhamu Barkai Yeshiva When I got home one day, I went on
way. The right way is that you should
Facebook. I saw that people began
follow your own goals. Do not follow
to follow people who surfed. I went
other people’s goals. Be individual!
on line to get a picture of a kid surf-
Be who you are! Don’t follow other
ing. I posted it in Facebook and I got
people just to be cool. An example of the down side of social media is that if you see a picture of Instagram
more followers. Social media strips our individual qualities. If you like music and people don’t, you’ll get a dif-
friends? Your followers aren’t your friends. Some are but some aren’t. You shouldn’t be jealous of someone who has more followers than you. Don’t change your identity because you want to be “cool”. Do what you feel comfortable. A friend is someone who will be there all the time. They will lend you a helping hand and a shoulder to cry on.
book, you can’t express your feelings
B y : M i r i a m Tu r k i e h Barkai Yeshiva Instagram, Facebook. All social media
because your friends aren’t really your
distracts you from being you! When
friends. It locks you away from be-
do you ever stop and think, “What
ing yourself and having true friends.
do I want to do?” When you are in your teenage years, all your friends
media the right way and be yourself.
B y : Yi s r a e l M e i r O v a d i a Barkai Yeshiva If a cool person likes one type of
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music, then everyone follows him.
that has a lot of likes, you try posting that same picture to get more likes. Use social media the right way. Real friends are friends who care about you and let you be yourself. Those are your real friends and those are the people you should be with. Use social
by shul page 104
ferent hobby you don’t like. On Face-
They don’t search for the music they actually like but the one he likes.
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In honor of my wife
Barbara
Arlene
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by Ralph Sassoon
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Arlene
Audrey
by Stephen Beda
by Steven Shalom
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In honor of my wife
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Adele
by Joseph Bibi
by Joseph Sharaby
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Morgan
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Amanda
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S ocial media : keeping us connected or escaping reality B y : E v e l y n Tu r k i e h Barkai Yeshiva
is when fear of truth is sucked back in and everyone will face reality. At the
By: M.S. Barkai Yeshiva
Friendship is the key to happiness.
end, the amount of friends and “Likes”
Social media has many pros and cons
Over time, the meaning of friendship
people get on a picture is just a num-
just like most things in life. Social me-
has changed. People care more about
ber. Whether it’s 1or 101 friends, very
dia has corrupted many minds. For
popularity and avoid reality. A real
few people will care about the real and
example, it can boost our morale and
friend is someone who you’re able to
true friends they really need in life.
self confidence but not in a real and
trust. you
Someone can
on.
count
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true way. Yet, it manipulates our brains into
thinking
we’re
who will always
all that. But, in real-
be there for you,
ity, we are not. So-
through the good
cial media allows us
and
bad.
to conceal our true
Real friends ac-
selves and become
cept each other
someone we’re re-
for
they
ally not. We con-
truly are and not
trol what we put out
the
who
something pretend
to
Don’t ignore the
they be.
Today, in the so-
there. Why should we
people that care about
cial media world, reality doesn’t exist. People focus on the amount of
they are able to count on. Social media is a black hole. People show certain qualities that will gain popularity for themselves. Instead of revealing the truth and the real personality, they avoid it and give people what they want to see. All this is considered a lie. The only way this black hole will open up
imaginary and fake
you for someone
life? Yes, we get a
you hardly know.
social media. Be hon-
friends they have instead of the actual amount of friends
live in a world of an
few friends or likes on est! It feels good. But, it’s not anything we
By: Shirley S. Barkai Yeshiva Whether people like it or not one thing is for sure, social media affects friendship. For example, if a
invest in so we can lose it all in a minute. We are blinding ourselves to see true connections and effort.
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In
& J oe C ayre
honor of my parents
Albert & Rochelle Ades
In
honor of our parents
Bobby & Rosie Antar By In
their children
honor of my parents
Shelly & Albert Antebi By
their son ,
In
honor of our parents
By In
In
Galit & Sammy Esses their children
their children
honor of our parents
Eliot & Doreen Harary By their children Morris, Claire, Sherry & Freddy
In
honor of our parents
Isaac & Brenda Saada By In
their children
honor of our parents
Allan & Bella Savdie By
their children
honor of our parents
By
By
P hilip A ntebi
Nathan & Estelle Botton
honor of our parents
Albert & Cheri Falack
B y J immy A des In
by their children
In
their children
honor of our parents
David and Alicia Tobal By
their children
P ersonal C onnections in the digital age B y : O l g a Ta w i l Barkai Yeshiva Friendship through social media has
I think when people get into a fight with
B y : Ta l i Z a b a r i Barkai Yeshiva Social media affects your identity and
changed over the years. Social media
their close friends and text them while
who you are. It affects the way you in-
can lower your self esteem. When you
they are in a fight can often be meaner
teract with your friends. Let’s say you
see profiles with more followers than
than how you would talk to them in
have a Facebook and you get upset
you, you feel less important. You feel
person. Sometimes, if they text you
at your friend. You want to talk it out
bad that you aren’t as popular or don’t
about how they feel, they would also
with her so you send her a message
have
as
friends. that’s
many But,
not
By: Sara Sultan Barkai Yeshiva
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saying,
“Why
are
you being so mean to me?” Your friend
Most friends on
gets very offended
social media are
because
fake and many
what you sent from
of them you don’t
a different perspec-
even know at all.
tive. So, it’s different
So,
you
talking to someone
someone
on the internet than
see with
when many
fol-
lowers, most of them aren’t their true friends. True friends are friends who are kind and care about you and not people
she
saw
Spend time with
talking it out with
friends who make
front of you with your
you happy, not who
meaning them from
you have to impress
have social media,
your friend right in actual
words
and
your heart. If you do be careful what you
who push the ‘fol-
post and what you
low’ button. People with fake friends
jump to conclusions and say hurt-
say because everyone always sees
will never know how it feels to have
ful words that they don’t really mean.
and
S tudents
real friends. If you don’t put in your effort to make friends, then you never really know who they are and how it feels to have true friends. On social media, you see only what’s on the outside and not the person’s personality.
interprets
words
differently.
from the following schools submitted inspirational stories . T he best ones made it into the magazine .
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L auren
Lisa
by Joey Abadi
by Morris Shasho
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Fern
Sari
by Eddie A. Ash
by Jack Sasson
In honor of my wife
In honor of my wife
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Sarah
by Albert Bijou
by Albert Savdie
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In honor of my wife
Miriam
Audrey
by Danny Sabzehroo
by Victor Set ton
In honor of my wife
In honor of my wife
Cl aire
Grace
by Ikie Shabtai
by Joey A. Tawil
T eamwork is the best formula for success By: Melanie Baum Magen David Yeshivah Vivian was having color war in her
By: Malky Fogel Prospect Park Yeshivah One time, when we had color war,
By: Leah Faena Bet Yaakov Orot Sara Everyone would want to be the cap-
camp. She was captain to team one.
the girl who was chosen to be a cap-
tain so they could get a lot of credit.
She chose all her friends for the com-
tain didn’t let anyone do anything.
People don’t want to make banners
mittee. They sat down and started to
She wrote the song and sang it. She
because they don’t get so much atten-
work. Vivian and her best friends would
drew the poster and presented it. Of
tion for it after only 2 minutes of show-
get all the good jobs. They would
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ing the banner. One time, a girl wanted to
dance and sing.
help with the banners
She
her
and other girls didn’t
other friends the
let her. At the end, we
jobs of acting and
lost points for it. When
art. Vivian was so
everyone
excited to start.
each other do the
Alison, a shy girl
banners and badges,
asked, “Can I be
it came out very good
gave
in art? I am a re-
Alone we can do
ally good artist.” look up. “No,” she When color war was over, Vivian looked at Alison’s
and putting all these
together we
said and just left.
everyone
had her own idea
so little,
Vivian didn’t even
because
helped
can do so much.
work of art. “I
different
ideas
to-
gether made us win. By: Miriam Hunger Bnos Yisroel When you are working on color war, if
should have picked her,” she thought.
course, we lost and the other team
you are in charge of badges, people
That year Vivian didn’t win color war
who worked together won. Another
might say that what you made up is
but she learned an important lesson.
year, a girl got chosen as a captain
weird and then you’ll feel like you did it
B y : F re d d y B i j o u Magen David Yeshivah If you have teamwork and you are
and she really knew how to be a cap-
all for nothing. When everyone fights
tain. She put people who were good
and wants to do everything by them-
working together, then you have a bet-
at things in charge of what they were
ter chance of winning. If you try to be
good at. All she did was present the
the star, you are not going to win be-
poster and make sure everything runs
cause everyone is trying to be the star.
smoothly. Obviously, we won that year.
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By: Morris Lati Magen David Yeshivah When you are playing basketball, there are different positions. You always work as a team. There is a shooter, a rebounder and a defender. When you work as a team, you have a bigger chance of winning. The defender blocks the ball; the rebounder could get the rebound and pass it to
Teamwork
the shooter. The shooter could score.
divides the task
then there will be no defender that can
and multiplies
can’t rebound and pass it to the shoot-
If everyone wants to be the shooter, block the shooter. And, the rebounder er. That is why teamwork is important. B y : Yo s s i O s t ro v i t s k y Yeshivah Chaim Berlin Dovid, Chaim and Mordechai were
the success B y : Ye h o s h u a L e i b Yeshivah Chaim Berlin I was playing hockey with my friends
By: Moshe Strauss Yeshivah Chaim Berlin An example of teamwork is writing a
and I was skating down the rink. I had
book. There is an author and an illus-
a shot but, instead of shooting myself,
trator. The author might know how to
I passed it to a kid who no one would
write well, but when he tries to draw a
pass to otherwise. No one knew how
picture, it comes out terrible. The illus-
good he was. He shot from half of the
trator might know how to draw well, but
rink and he scored. Everyone started to
he does not know how to write a story.
pass to him. He was the best player of
So, they work as a team and it comes
our team. If Chaim didn’t pass to Moshe
out very good. But, if they do each oth-
and Moshe didn’t pass to me and I
er’s job it will come out terrible and no-
didn’t pass to Chezkel, we wouldn’t
body will want to read their book. This
have won. What a game it was. We
shows that teamwork is very important. B y : D o v i d B ro d t Yeshivah Chaim Berlin
started winning with him on our team.
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One time, we had a word search race.
a lesson you learned from the
We were split into teams. Some kids
stories & you will be entered
were good at translating the word
in a raffle for great prizes. See p. 52
into English. Some kids found words, some kids remembered words, but when we worked together, we won!
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playing basketball. Mordechai has the ball but he is not very good. Dovid is behind him, who is good. Dovid is open. So, Mordechai, instead of shooting and missing, passes to Dovid who shoots and scores. If Mordechai would’ve shot, he would have missed. So, he used team work passed to Dovid who was good. He shot and scored. By: Binyamin Zev Schwartz Yeshivah Chaim Berlin Working as a team is very important and things get done a lot quicker. When doing a choir, one person can’t do it all. There needs to be a drummer, a pianists, a guitarist, a lot of things are involved. Focus on what you are best at. Even if you might have more than one talent, but it’s still good to work as a team and do what you are best at.
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Elyse
by Moshe Assis
by Abie Tebele
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Vivian
Cleme
by Raymond Dayan
by Joe V. Saideh
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Tania
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Margret te
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Give the spotlight to the one who is the most qualified
By: Sara Halwani Magen David Yeshivah One day, a girl named Gabrielle came
When you are a team captain, you are
B y : Ta l y a G re g o Magen David Yeshivah A few weeks ago, my English teacher
home from school and told her mother
the star of the team. You are in charge
told the whole class to make a play for
that she was chosen to be the director
of your team. You feel very important.
the whole school to see. My teacher
of the school play. Her mother spoke
Most people wouldn’t want to be in
said, “We are gong to be divided
to her about choosing the right ac-
charge of making the costumes of the
into groups.” She picked me, Emily,
tors to star in the play.
Gabrielle
By: Chayala Danziger Bais Yaakov Academy
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Suzy and Alison. My teacher said, “One
thought about it
person is in charge.”
before she had
So, I said, “Ok guys,
the talk with her
I am in charge. I am
mother and said
getting the main part
to
of
herself
that
the
play.”
Em-
she would pick
ily, Alison and Suzy
her best friend
said, “Why are you in
Shelly for the star
charge? Why not one
A good team is when
of us?” I said, “Be-
each member is happy
of what we should
with his part & praises
ticing our play. In one
the skills of others
to juggle 3 or more
of the show. But, her mother said, “It
wouldn’t
be
nice to do that because there are other girls who have
great hid-
den talents and
cause I am in charge do.” We were all pracpart of the play, I had balls. But, I didn’t know how. They kept
would want to be the star of the play.” Gabrielle said, “Ok,”
color war skit because no one knows
on falling. However, Emily knew how
and went to school. She was planning
who did it and they do not care. The
to. Emily said, “Do you know how to
to pick her best friend Shelly automati-
team has a higher chance of losing
juggle?” I said, “No, but I’ll practice.” I
cally for the part but she listened to her
color war when the team is fighting and
got very frustrated. Emily said to me,
mother’s advice and had an audition
starting to divide up. What will make
“Can I just do that part?” I said, “No,
for the play. One of the shyest girls
you win is when you give up what
this is the main part and I will be the
in the school was very talented. She
you want for what’s best for the team.
star in it.” I kept practicing and prac-
was picked to be the star of the show and became very popular girl because Gabrielle picked her for the lead role.
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ticing and I didn’t get it. So, I said to myself, “You know what? I will give this part to Emily. I am horrible in juggling.”
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In honor of my wife
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Ruthy
by Jack Abady
by Nathan Mann
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Lulu
Stephanie
by Jack Cohen
by Jack Mosseri
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Lynn
by Raymond Esses
by Charles SUED
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by David Wahba
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By: Gabrielle Harari Magen David Yeshivah There was a girl named Sara who was the head of the play. Sara needed to find three more people to be in her play. Sara didn’t want to pick the popular girl as the lead role just because she is pretty. Sara needed to see how she acts and sings. It turned out that
I can do things you cannot. You can do things I can’t. Together we can do great things.
the popular girl wasn’t a good singer or actress. When Sara told the popular girl that she didn’t get the lead, she was so angry that she said, “If it’s not me, then who is it? “Miss shy” or “miss ugly”? Sara gave the shy girl a chance and she was a fabulous singer. She just needed to believe in herself. Then, Sara gave the “miss ugly” a chance and
B y : S h i r l e y M a s s re Magen David Yeshivah
she was an amazing actress. When
We had a science project to do. My
By: Alison Salman Magen David Yeshivah Once, there was a girl named Melanie
group was Jacqueline, Emily and
who wanted to do a science project.
acting. So, that shows that Sara didn’t
Raquel. First, we argued on what
She had a friend, named Fortune, who
judge by the looks. She dug deep and
project we should so. Then, Raquel
wasn’t so smart. And a friend, named
found the inner soul of those 2 girls.
thought of doing something with mag-
Raquel, who was extremely smart but
nets. Jacqueline, Emily and I thought
was less friends with her. She decid-
By: Jaqueline Sasson Magen David Yeshivah Teamwork: when everyone works to-
that was a great idea and would get us a lot of points. We figured out that Emily is a good writer and she could write the paragraphs. With Jacqueline’s artistic skills, she could design the tri board. With Raquel’s intelligence, she could think of the hypothesis, conclusion methods, and the questions. With
ed to do it with Raquel. Melanie was a smart girl but she wanted to see Raquel’s thought before she said hers. After Raquel said her thought, Melanie liked them. So, she thought that she doesn’t need to say hers. Raquel wanted to hear Melanie’s thought but,
she gave ‘miss popular’ a chance, she wasn’t good at all at either singing or
gether you can achieve more. Let’s say you are making your friend a surprise party. You want to be in charge, take all responsibility. Only one problem. You are not an artist. Don’t let your ego take over. You don’t want to be and do something you aren’t good at. Let the
my speaking skills, I could explain to
after Melanie said it, Raquel liked
all the guests who came. Since we got
her thoughts. They took a little bit
master be the pro. You buy the decora-
it all worked out, we could now focus
of Melanie’s ideas and a little bit of
tions and let the friend who is respon-
on the project. We got an A+ and came
Raquel’s ideas and made it into one
sible in all ways take charge. Team-
in third place (which is really good!)
idea. This is using your talents wisely.
work: Let it be less of me and more we.
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memory of
In
V i o l e t & H a r o l d S u t t o n A” H
memory of
Nelly Ades A”H
In
memory of
Gabriel Ben Lea Bildirici A”H 10 Year anniversary
In
memory of our father
Joseph Cohen A”H
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memory of
Isaac Dana A”H By his children & grandchildren
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memory of
Norman Esses A”H
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memory of
Joseph (Yosef) Hamaoui A”H
B y A lbert
In
and
S ally M osseri
memory of
Joseph S. Jemal A”H
In
memory of
Ralphael Sarway A”H
In
memory of
Cheryl Shalom A”H
In
memory of
Sol N. Tawil A”H By his wife, children and grandchildren
Give the spotlight to the one who is the most qualified B y : S h a ro n R o u b i n Magen David Yeshivah If you are part of a dance and you
PROSPECT PARK YESHIVA
are in the back, but your friend is in the front, you’ll most likely try to move up. But, then, everyone will get confused with their spots and the dance becomes a mess. So, now you don’t get the spotlight and neither does your friend. If you and your friend are trying
Wearing the
to make a fruit basket for sick children, the designer gets the credit. But, she
same t-shirts
couldn’t have made it without someone buying those ripe, fresh looking fruits
doesn’t make
and someone picking that right basket to match the fruits. Maybe the design-
you a team B y : Vi v i a n e F a rc a Magen David Yeshivah One day, a 5th grade class was starting to prepare for the Bridge competition where they would have to build a bridge and see which one can hold the most weight. The teacher was making groups and one of them was Fortune, Sarah, Allison and Lauren. Each person had a job in the group. The jobs
er knows how to do these things, but, thanks for all those people involved,
is best for the job. Before Fortune was about to say how unfair it was, she thought about how she was always the leader of everything and all she does is demand things. She thought about what Allison said and then said, “You know what? I nominate Alison to be director because she has fair ideas.” Everyone else agreed
they made the idea happen. B y : Te h i l l a N i s a n e v Meorot Beit Yaakov When you make a play, each individual should use her own talents. Smart girls do the research, artistic girls draw banners, loud ones present the banners and cheer. When one works on a science project, it will not succeed
and they won the project excellence
if no one does the research on the topic and no one likes to do it since
discussing, Fortune said, “I am being
award because they worked together. By: Chaim Janani Yeshivah Lev Torah In a sports game, by passing the
the director.” Fortune is used to the
ball you allow other people to play
spotlight because she is always the
and make it fun for them. The oth-
head of everything. Then Allison said,
er boy gets a chance to shoot and,
“I think we should go around and see
if he is a good shooter, you might
which girl wants which job.” Fortune
even score. But, if someone is a
thought it wasn’t fair because what if
ball hugger and he shoots even
submit a lesson you
two people want the same job? Al-
though it’s a very far shot, he would
lison said that they should see who
probably miss and you would lose.
learned from their stories.
were the director, the tri board designer, the bridge designer and the journalist. Right when they sat down to start
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it won’t put you in the spotlight. But, too little research and too many eager presenters is a sure way to fail.
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Gl adys
Kim
By Richard Adjmi
By Ralph Haber
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Frances
Lisa
By Hymie Betesh
By Joey Jemal
In honor of my wife
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Yvet te
Freda
By Alie Cohen
By Eddie Levy
In honor of my wife
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Lori
Lynn
By Harold Dweck
By Marc Moghrabi
In honor of my wife
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Linda
Joyce
By Harold Ebani
By Nathan Shamosh
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other about everything that they do. Some kids get upset that the better kids do everything and they don’t want to play anymore. I really think that
every
single
person
should
be treated the same way no matter how good they are at sports. By: Leah Hatanian Masores Bais Yaakov “Girls, listen up! We are going to make a play, ‘The Wizard of Us.’ I am going
Successful
to split you up to practice with your group lines from the play. On Monday,
teamwork starts
will be the auditions. Good luck! So the groups are: Sarah, Miri and Chana
with a good
in the 1st group.” The second Sarah heard her group she grabbed Miri and
communications
Chana and said, “I’m Dorothy! I am clearly made for the part.” “Woah-ohoh, oh no!” Miri cried. “Sarah, the last
By: Malky Ettlinger Lev Bais Yaakov When we had color war, our counselor
By: Eli Nahamias Magen David Yeshivah When we play football, all of the good
picked out a girl to be the head. No one
players get the ball. All the kids that
wanted to listen to her because they
are not so good don’t get the ball a lot.
wanted a popular girl to be the captain
They always get upset because they
instead. So, instead of listening, the
don’t get the ball. Except, sometimes,
girls didn’t do anything she said and
we let all the kids get the ball. We let
the team lost. It’s hard for people to
them do what they want. We compli-
work as a team because everyone has
ment them about the way they play.
their own opinion and doesn’t always
When we give all of them credit, it
like to listen what someone else has to
makes them feel very good. There are
say. To fix it is to compromise and it will
some kids who are very good at sports,
all turn out fine and, actually, probably
who don’t care about other people’s
be the best project yet. When everyone
feelings. They yell at kids for doing
takes each other’s ideas and listens
something wrong. I always tell them to
to them and asks even the shy kid’s
stop. I think that everyone should be
opinion, everyone will click and the
treated the same way. I want to make a
puzzle will come together. After all, in
change so nobody puts anyone down.
you work with what you’re good at and
order for a puzzle to be complete, you
All the good players and the not so
together as a team, you will succeed.
need all the pieces in their own place.
good players should compliment each
And, in fact, the play was a success.
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time we had a play you were the one who got the main part by nagging the teacher. On the day of the play, you were so nervous that you stuttered through the whole beginning and then I had to take over.” Chana continued, ‘Yeah, Sarah, you should be the dog because your animal impersonations are excellent.” When Sarah heard those words, she ran out of the class and began to cry because she wanted to be in the spotlight. The day of the play: “Ruf, Ruf, Ruf,” Sarah barked dramatically. After Sarah stopped barking, she heard laughter from the audience. She realized that Hashem made you with ups and downs and sometimes you can’t be in the spotlight. But, if
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Raquel
By Adam A. Ash
By Joseph A. Franco
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Rose
Nancy
By Ike Betesh
By Charles Grazi
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Lisa
Leah
By Jackie Cohen – Arazi
By Joey Habert
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Simone
Sofia
By Matthew E. Dweck
By Alan Jemal
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Joy
Randi
By Martin Erani
By Joey Levy
C ompliment talent that doesn ’ t draw attention (H idden T alent )
B y : L a u re n S a v d i e Magen David Yeshivah One sunny day in camp, there was a
By: Gail Hafif Yeshivah Of Flatbush In a play, the actors would have a bet-
By: Judy Shalam Magen David Yeshivah There was one girl, named Rebecca,
group named 5G. They loved to play
ter chance of having an amazing play
who wasn’t as popular as Elaine. She
dodge ball. There were two captains.
if all the characters focused even if
had to work with Elaine and the other 2
One was Patricia and the other cap-
they had one line, but said it with confi-
girls on a project. Rebecca is, secretly,
tain was Sandy. Patricia grabbed
dence, belief, voice, feeling and hope.
the best drawer you would ever see.
the ball first and tried to throw it
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She went to Elaine and said that she
but was having
has an idea to draw
a
trouble.
on Tri board. Elaine
She threw it but
told her, “No, I am
missed everyone
going to draw it, but
on the other team.
thanks.”
Then Sandy got
was so sad from what
the ball, but felt
she was told so she
bad
hasn’t said a word to
little
that
other
girls never got to throw.
So,
she
It is amazing how much
anyone in her group.
you can accomplish
how to make a 3D
when it doesn’t matter
other girls suggested
who gets the credit.
try. So, she tried.
gave the ball to a different girl and she got 2 people out. Sandy said, “Great job,” and cheered her on. Then
Rebecca
Elaine was stuck on bridge. One of the that Rebecca should Once she was done, all the girls loved it. At
Patricia
got the ball again but kept it to her-
That would make the play wonderful
the science fair everyone was saying,
self and she missed again. Sandy still
even if you didn’t have the spotlight.
“Wow, what a great drawing.” Elaine
cheered her on and said, “It doesn’t
The main actor should make it a point
then realized that she didn’t have to
matter. You’ll get them next time.” An-
to recognize all the people who work
be great at everything. She told Re-
other girl said, “At least we are work-
behind the scenes and make the play
becca, publicly, “You were right. Your
ing as a team.” So, Patricia realized
possible. One person can’t make a play
drawing is wonderful.” Rebecca was
that she should work as a team just
a success. He should say, “Sorry you
so happy because she never imag-
like Sandy. So, she did and cheered
didn’t get so many parts but, if it weren’t
ined a shy girl like her would be recog-
her friends on just like Sandy. She
for you, I wouldn’t have known when to
nized for her ability to draw. Now she
said, “You learn new things every day.”
start and what to say. So, thank you.”
felt more confident to show her talent.
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their children
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honor of
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their children
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honor of our parents
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her children
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honor of our parents
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honor of our parents
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By: Evelyn Antebi Magen David Yeshivah Hanukkah was coming. My classmates and I decided to make a play about Hanukkah to perform to the whole 7th grade. We were picking jobs to do for the play. I decided that I wanted to design all the costumes. When I got home, I noticed that I didn’t know what I was doing. I tried
Leaders become great,
to think of who would be a good person to help me. I thought and thought
not because of their
until I remembered how good Susan
power, but because
dresses. Maybe, if I call her she’ll
of their ability to
I called her up and explained to her
empower others
if she wanted to come. Then I compli-
come to my house and help me. So, what happened. First, she wasn’t sure mented her on how much I liked her style in clothes and she came right
By: Charles Seruya Magen David Yeshivah One day, my 3 friends and I were walk-
By: Amanda Heskiel Magen David Yeshivah Last time we had color war, Sarah was
ing to a pizza shop. About half a mile
the general. We split up the team. Es-
away, we came to a street that we didn’t
ther was chosen to write the songs.
recognize. We were lost for about half
She thought that Rachel was much
an hour. One of my friends said, “Hey,
better in writing songs. Esther gave
the pizza shop is that way.” We didn’t
that job to Rachel. When Rachel fin-
believe him but we were lost anyway.
ished writing it, she gave it to Sarah.
So, how much worse would it get? We
Sarah photocopied it and gave it out
began walking in that direction and
to the whole team. We practiced the
sure enough we got there in 20 min-
songs when we sang it against the
utes. Because of his hidden talent of
blue team. Every one compliment-
sense of direction, we got pizza and
ed Sarah on the great song. Sarah
me and she got the credit for doing it. By: Shelley Sitt Magen David Yeshivah In my gymnastics class, I was lead
he led us home. It’s important to com-
said, “Thank you.” and then she said,
and my friend felt bad. So, I told ev-
pliment hidden talent since, then, he
“But, Rachel was the one to write it.
eryone that my best friend helped
will use this talent more often because
She should be the one being compli-
me on this part. She felt very good.
he will think it is special and important.
mented, not me.” We learn from Sarah
My friend said, “Thank you so much”
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that, even though she was the main
to me. I told everyone that my friend
person, she didn’t want all the cred-
will show her moves as well. I de-
it. She was nice enough to give the
cided that I wanted to share my spot-
credit to the person who deserved it.
light. We both ended up enjoying it.
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over. She helped me with all the styles and the costumes looked better than ever. When the day of the play came, everyone kept telling me how much they liked the costumes. I said thank you but I told them that Susan did most of the work and they should go to her and compliment her. They did. Susan felt very happy that she helped
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Eshet Chayil Joey Sitt in honor of his wife B etty In honor of my wife
In honor of my wife
Raquel
Violet
by Jacob Aini
by Eddie Salem
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Compliment talent that doesn’t draw attention LEV BAIS YAAKOV
By: Mary Salem Magen David Yeshivah The teacher asked Rachel to organize the play and to give everyone a part in the play. Rachel had the chance to take the main part for herself. But, she knew she was not very good at singing. Also, she knew her best friend Sandy was very good at singing and
Finding good players is easy. Getting them to play as a team is another story
acting. So, she decided to give the main part to her. Rachel was done giving the main parts and responsibility. The whole crew was working hard. But, Rachel saw one girl, Lisa, working very very hard. Lisa was the costume designer. She would work day and night making the costumes. On the day of the play, when Rachel made
By: Esther Dweck Magen David Yeshivah My friend was the writer of the play
By: Eddie Halwani Magen David Yeshivah We were playing a game and there
her speech, she told everyone about
that our school was producing. The
was a boy who was dribbling. He was
writing was wonderful and everybody
confusing everyone. Then he ran and
face. She knew that Lisa would always
who heard them loved it and was
scored. This is a good talent because
excited to come see the play on the
he can confuse anyone and get past
opening night. The people in the play
everyone easily. If you are not a good
rehearsed and loved doing it. On the
dribbler, don’t try to do a great drib-
that she has a gift talent from Hashem. By: Lisa Jammal Magen David Yeshivah One day, there was a play going on.
opening night before they started the
bling move because it’s not your tal-
The hidden talent was the maid and the
play, the lead actress said she need-
ent. Tell the person with the dribbling
spotlight was the queen. The maid was
ed everyone’s attention. When the
talent that his part in the game is very
jealous and wanted the spotlight. The
room got quiet she started to speak.
important and you rely on him. He’ll
queen was very good at her part. The
She said, “Can I have a round of ap-
feel like part of the team and try harder. By: Eddie Kababieh Yeshivah Lev Torah Everyone performs better when
maid made the queen get hurt so she
they get compliments for what they
be the new maid. When the show was
do. In basketball, you could tell the
going to start, the new queen got ner-
passer, “Nice pass!” the rebounder,
vous and messed up the whole show.
“That was a great rebound,” the drib-
But, the new maid saved the show
bler, “Wow, you dribble really fast.”
even though she was the hidden talent.
plause for my friend who wrote the play?” Everyone was clapping. My friend was so happy. When the play was over, my friend continued to write very good plays that everyone loved.
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Lisa’s designs and how she worked so hard. Rachel saw the smile on Lisa’s work on her talent. Now, she knows
could take the part. The maid was horrible as the queen. The queen had to
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Compliment talent that doesn’t draw attention OHEL SIMCHA CONG.
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B y : Te d d y L a n i a d o Magen David Yeshivah I was playing a basketball game in camp and we were losing. The time was almost up. We were down by two. My friend stole the ball and hit a three pointer. Even though he wasn’t a very good player, we won the game at the end. I told him his stealing helped us win the game and that was important. It’s
Teamwork:
important to give recognition to people because the next time he will do even
Simply stated,
better and will be inspired to play more. B y : M a r i e l l e M a rc o s Magen David Yeshivah There is a girl who has a hidden tal-
it is less me
ent of writing. I know that she spent so
and more we.
much time writing the play and making it the best. At the end of the play,
By: Fraidy Emanuel Bnos Yisroel Most of the girls would want the main
B y : R e b e c c a S a rd a r Magen David Yeshivah It was the summer of 2012. We had
part in acting because then they would
color war in camp. I was chosen to
be the center of attention. A solution for
be the captain of my team. I was so
this would be for the girl who acts the
happy and I, maybe, was too excited. I
best, she should get the main part and
put myself in the color war dance, play,
for the girl who sings well, she should
games and everything else. I was so
get a solo. The girl who dances nicely
carried away that I was selfish and for-
should be in dance. This way each girl
got everyone else’s feelings. It was the
gets to shine in her own way. Also, the
day before color war and I was walk-
teacher should say you are really good
ing to the gym. On my way, I heard
at dancing so why don’t you be in the
people. I looked and I saw two girls,
dance? Then, together, it will be a great
from my color war group acting. They
play. If the girl is good at the part, then
were background dancers from the
maybe you could add on a few lines
play I was the star of. I said, “Wow you
for her or you can give her another lit-
guys are good actresses.” They said,
tle part in addition to the other part. So,
“Thanks.” That night, I was thinking that,
this way, if everyone’s happy with her
if they have talents, other girls might
part, the play would come out great.
have so many more talents as well.
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when we introduced to the audience the people in the play, I took the writer of the play and introduced her. I announced that she wrote the whole play. Everyone was clapping for her. That day, she was asked to write every play of the year. You should always compliment people with hidden talent because if you don’t they are never going to do what they are truly good at again. B y : P a t t y S h re m Magen David Yeshivah There was a girl who was the director and the head of the play. But, she didn’t know how to act so good. So, she gave the acting part to someone else who wasn’t popular. The unpopular girl was really good. After the play was over, the popular girl told the unpopular girl, “You were really good. You should be in a lot of other plays.” The girl felt good and comfortable with herself ever since.
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G et to know your team members ’ strengths By: Jacob Rishty Magen David Yeshivah Imagine yourself being the leader of a
By: Rachel Russo Magen David Yeshivah This past year, when we were as-
B y : Vi v i a n E l i a s Magen David Yeshivah My friends and I were working on our
group to work on a bridge for a class.
signed a science project, I was given
science project on the solar system.
Your team is: you, your best friend, an-
a group of girls that had all differ-
I was in charge even though I didn’t
other friend, and two other boys from
ent talents. One person knew how to
want to. I just wanted to get the cred-
your class. You want to be appreci-
draw, one person knew how to type,
it. But, my friend was a better leader
ated but not to be selfish. You try to in-
one person knew how to sculpt, and
and she was better at making every-
clude everyone’s talents. But, you only know your
BAIS YAAKOV D’RAV MEIR
thing work out fine but I wouldn’t let her be the leader. After a
best friend’s tal-
while, I told her that
ent. You need to
she could have been
find out everyone
a better leader than
else’s
talents.
me and I made her
You try to hang
the leader. She gave
out with everyone
everyone
else and you find
jobs for their talents.
their hidden talents. When the teacher says everyone get in your groups, you and your
group
do
just that. Everyone is waiting for
Together
the
right
I was the researcher because I was able
Everyone
to find very important details and informa-
Achieves
tion. Sara was the writer because she
More
knew how to make the writing flow so it
you to tell them
sounds
interesting
what they are doing. You tell them
one person was very organized. Since
when we read it to the class. Rachel
what you have decided. None of them
everyone knew how to do something
was in charge of decoration since she
are unhappy with his part. They are all
different, we were very organized.
had a great taste for decorating the tri
happy that they have the part that they
We combined our talents and made
pod and making the solar system. On
wanted. In the end, the teacher smiles
it a success. Since I just knew a lot
the bottom of our essay, we wrote who
at your group knowing that we all got
about our topic so I helped write and
did what. We said that without each
along. Your group got an A+. Without
plan the project and our project ended
other doing what we are best at, we
my team, I would’ve gotten an “F”.
up getting an “A” since we all worked
wouldn’t have finished it. , which is true.
But, thanks to my team, we got an A+.
together with our different talents.
I am glad that we worked as a team.
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T aking credit for someone else ’ s success By: Esther Kishk Magen David Yeshivah “I want the lead role,” I shouted. “I re-
B y : L a u re n S a rd a r Magen David Yeshivah If you are the lead in a play, before you
By: Joyce Cohen Magen David Yeshivah There was a group of kids who had to
ally want to be the lead in our school
start the play you should give credit to
make 600 cookies for the event. The
play. I will be amazing in the spotlight.”
the people who wrote and directed the
leader’s name was Frieda. Frieda was
“I think that Leah will be amazing in the
play. It is important to give a compli-
a bad leader. They only made 300
spotlight,” Barbara stated. “No, I want
ment because if you have a friend who
cookies and they needed to bake 300
to be the lead. I am a really good sing-
is good at poetry and you don’t thank
more cookies in one hour. They de-
er,”
I
moaned.
“Even
though
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cided to switch leaders. The new leader
Leah is a bet-
was Joy. Joy gave
ter singer, I still
everyone a job that
want to be in the
they were good at.
spotlight.” “Come
Frieda wasn’t pay-
on, you always
ing attention. So, she
get to be the lead
messed up. When
role,”
she finally starting
Barbara
told me. I guess she was right. “I’ll give Leah a shot.” “Leah, want
do the
you spot-
They’re smart and quiet. Listen to their ideas and don’t
light?” We asked her. “No, I am okay. I don’t like the spotlight,” she
steal their credit.
told us. “Should
paying
attention,
she realized that the cookies were burned. The event organizer came and saw only 500 cookies. He said it was a good job. Frieda tried to take the credit. But, Joy’s friends stuck up for
we convince her into doing it?” Bar-
her, she will stop writing poems and do
her and said that Joy was the leader
bara asked. “No. If she doesn’t want,
something she hates instead. Esther
we shouldn’t force her.” “I’ll just write
was the writer of a play and, on the
and helped to make all of the 500
the songs,” Leah said as she left. The
night of the play, I announced loudly
night of the play, “We would like to give
that all of this happened because of
credit to Leah for writing the amazing
Esther, because she wrote this play.
songs of the play,” I shouted. I could see Leah. A small smile appeared on her face. She was happy and so was I.
cookies by working as a team. The event organizer offered Joy to be in charge of the next event as well.
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