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WHAT’S INSIDE

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Upfront

Profile: Kevin Hoch New Woolaroc CEO Progressing the Vision

From the Heart: Mastering Your Time Move Through Your Days with Greater Intention

Knowing Nowata: The Jaguars

Baby New Year 2022 Meet all Our Contestants

Sports: Tradition of Excellence Gymnastics Club Longest-Running in the US

Feature Sponsor Story: Where are They Now? Looking Back to 2017: Rhett Smith

Stars In Our Back Yard: Clyde Vernon Reasor

A Fresh Perspective: The Man from 1933

Kids’ Calendar

Year In Review: Oh What a Year!

Chick-fil-A Events Calendar

Business Spotlight: PuriFi Your Air IAQ Solutions Helps Protect Indoor Environments

Destination Downtown: Community Through Food

Health & Wellness: Change Comes to Elder Care

Once Upon a Time: What Comes Our Way We Should Learn to Accept What Happens in Life

On the Osage: It’s Time to Dream Again

Out & About: Photos from Around Town

Now You Know: Transition of Progress Looking Back at the Bartlesville Vitrified Brick Co.

Looking Back: Bartlesville’s First Baby Rilla Johnstone was Born in January of 1883

Funny You Should Ask: Arguments Against Vulnerability

A Good Word: Here for a Reason

Arts & Entertainment: Bartlesville Bound The Simon & Garfunkel Story Coming to BCC

Let Freedom Ring: Emancipation Proclamation JANUARY 2022

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UPFRONT

upfront Welcome to 2022 friends, and Happy New Year! Every January for the past 11 years, bmonthly magazine has held its Baby New Year contest. This year was a record-breaking year. We had 106 babies signed up this year, even after we had a glitch during signup that left hundreds of moms and dads blowing up our website, Facebook page, and our phones. We fixed the issue, and within 40 minutes we were up and running and we had all 106 babies signed up!

helping with the registration. Thank you for fixing the website and getting us up and running. We also want to thank our good friend Crystal Sare with The Johnstone-Sare Building, who each year lets us photograph these babies in her beautiful building.

For our prestigious Baby New Year 2022 cover baby, which was voted on by 11 judges this year, we announce the winner is … baby Kysen! This was the tightest vote in the last five years that Christy and I have been doing the Baby New Year contest. We had three babies tied for 1st, and it came down to a tie-breaking vote. Baby Kysen won by just one vote. This was absolutely the toughest vote for the judges, and we can't thank them enough for the time they gave to us and each of these precious babies. Congratulations Kysen!

As we start this new year, Christy and I want to thank some people who are very special to us and without them this magazine would not be what it is today. First we want to thank Brian Engel, the owner of bmonthly magazine, for allowing us to be us and giving us the freedom to put this magazine together each month. We want to thank our incredible writers and photographers, who month after month bring their passion for this city and this magazine. Thank you to Debbie Neece with the Bartlesville Area History Museum for your incredible passion and love for us and this city’s history. A very special thanks to Shelley (Greene) Stewart, who is my editor for all my stories, a lifelong friend for both me and Christy, and without a doubt Christy’s right-hand girl, keeping us both in line. She is a huge asset to bmonthly and Christy … thank you, Shelley, for all you do! We want to thank KOPCO Printing in Caney, Kansas for the quality and integrity you share with us for this magazine.

I love numbers, and this year we blew away all previous years. The baby album reached more than 200,000 people and had nearly 700 shares. More than 29,000 total votes for all the babies were cast, with 5,000+ comments with all our Baby New Year posts from our video, which is our favorite thing to do each year. We have all the babies on our laps and all around us for the picture in the magazine. We used this post to hype the contest before the vote. The official baby album reached close to 325,000 people on Facebook! That is nearly the size of Tulsa. We had votes from all 50 states and five different countries this year. I love all these numbers because it showcases Bartlesville and puts all these beautiful babies in the spotlight for all the U.S. and the world to see ... that’s pretty cool!

Every month we go to print, you get this magazine for free. None of that would be possible without the support of many businesses who advertise in the magazine month after month. Many of you have been with us from the start. You believed in us and our vision for bmonthly, which now has become the largest media outlet in Bartlesville. I personally want to thank my beautiful wife, Christy. Without her, we wouldn't go to print each month. While I have the flashy job of story ideas, creating the cover, and the look of the magazine, she is the one in the background answering emails, sending emails, gathering information and pictures, and keeping me focused and organized — which I can tell you, is the toughest job of them all. Thank you, Christy, for always keeping us moving forward and believing in my vision.

We want to congratulate baby Salome as the People's Choice Winner with over 870 votes. It was a tight race between her and a few other babies, but she pulled it off in the end and took the prize!

As we all embark on 2022 and try and forget the last two years of this crazy world we all live in, we hope that bmonthly magazine can help you relax, sit back, and read some incredible stories of the people, places, things, and the history that made Bartlesville the “Greatest Little City in America.”

There are a lot of people we want to thank for helping us put this Baby New Year contest together. The first is you — the moms and dads who took the time to register their babies and bring them down for the photo shoot. We hope the experience was fun, and you will always have the magazine and the pictures taken to show off your beautiful baby. We want to thank our amazing photographer, Karsyn Shalae. Every year she spends three days taking over a 1,000 photos to get that one special picture. We want to thank Copper Cup Images for setting up this masbmonthly managing editors sive task on Facebook and Keith & Christy McPhail.

Christy and I pray for this city everyday. We love Bartlesville and her people. We are blessed beyond measure. It is our honor and privilege each month to bring you bmonthly magazine! God bless, Keith.

Volume XII Issue XII Bartlesville Monthly Magazine is published by

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ABOUT THE COVER Cover photo taken by Karsyn Shalae is Kysen, winner of Judges’ Choice in the Baby New Year 2022 Contest! Creative Concept by Keith and Christy McPhail Design by Copper Cup Images

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PROFILE

Kevin Hoch New Woolaroc CEO Progressing the Vision by Sarah Leslie Gagan Frank Phillips was a visionary. As one of the major players in the industrial revolution, Frank brought to life aspects of the oil industry that may not have been developed otherwise. But there was more to Frank than oil. He had a deep and lasting love of art, and beauty of the wild nature that surrounded him on the Oklahoma prairie. This focus of his legacy continues at Woolaroc. Once the Phillips’ private ranch retreat, the 3,700-acre wildlife preserve is home to many species of native and exotic wildlife, and includes one of the finest collections of Southwest art in the country. Today, the Frank Phillips Foundation owns and operates two of Oklahoma’s historic treasures, Woolaroc and The Frank Phillips Home. On August 1st, 2021, Kevin Hoch began his position as CEO/Director of the foundation, following in the legendary footsteps of retiring CEO Bob Fraser. For Kevin, the position was the fulfillment of what he considers to be his dream job. Born and raised in the Lehigh Valley, Pennsylvania, Kevin has one sibling, his sister, Allie. Their mother is a schoolteacher, and their father is a defense contractor, working in Washington D.C. Kevin’s sister currently lives and works in San Francisco, California and has a PhD in Biomedical Engineering. Following high school, Kevin attended Penn State University, receiving his degree from the Smeal College of Business. Kevin received his first taste of Bartlesville in 2011 while interning at ConocoPhillips, following a trip from Houston to Bartlesville on the company shuttle. He immediately fell in love with the town and community and envisioned it as a place where he could settle down and raise a family. He interned in Bartlesville with ConocoPhillips again the following summer and accepted a full-time position with ConocoPhillips Alaska, Inc. upon graduation. Kevin met his wife, Hannah, in 2012 during his internship with ConocoPhillips and the two were married in 2014. Hannah Brown Hoch is a native Bartian, born and raised in Bartlesville. She attended Oklahoma Wesleyan University, and received her master’s degree at Penn State University. She currently works at Phillips

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PROFILE 66 in the Marketing department. The couple recently had their first child, Grace, in July 2021. Kevin and Hannah have always been very passionate about Woolaroc (where they initially met) and the history behind Phillips Petroleum. So much so, they chose to be married at the Philbrook Museum of Art in Tulsa, the historic home of Waite Phillips, Frank Phillips’ brother. They have made their home in Bartlesville because of the outstanding quality of the community, with its rich history and dedication to the arts. Together they attend City Church and enjoy traveling whenever they get the chance. Kevin left ConocoPhillips Alaska, Inc. in 2014 and moved to Bartlesville to join a local firm, Element Integrity Group, providing inspection and engineering services for the petrochemical industry. He progressed to Partner and Head of Operations by 2018, and led the company through a successful acquisition of New York-based Dorilton Capital in 2020. The trustees of the Frank Phillips Foundation were drawn to Kevin’s passion for the history of the community, including the rich legacy of Frank and Jane Phillips. Kevin had the strong business background with expertise in finance, technology, and successful leadership of a large and diverse workforce, which made him the clear choice of the foundation’s Board of Trustees. The position at the Frank Phillips Foundation ties together all the things that Kevin thrives in. His love of nature, fine art, history, and the titans of the industrial age has opened the door for him to use his passions to serve the community, incorporating his natural talents for marketing and vision-casting. It is important to Kevin that he adhere closely to Frank Phillips’ original vision for the future of his legacy of Woolaroc and the Phillips home. It is his desire to take Frank’s original love of the Oklahoma ranch and bring it to the people in a way that captivates the public as much as it captivated Frank. He is honored to be able to carry on the vision and legacy in Frank’s name. Kevin finds great motivation in all that Frank Phillips was able to accomplish here in Bartlesville as a young man defining the

oil industry, noting that Frank once was tempted to move the headquarters to New York to be closer to financiers. However, he remained steadfast in staying in Bartlesville, making the town what it is today. Kevin has the same resolute steadfastness about preserving the jewels known as Woolaroc and The Frank Phillips Home, seeing them as treasures of the past that were meant to be carried into future generations. He feels an immense amount of responsibility to continue the traditions of Frank Phillips, to preserve the history of the west, to educate, and to entertain. Kevin currently serves on the Bartlesville Chamber of Commerce Board of Trustees and the board of Green Country Tourism. He sees enormous opportunity throughout Oklahoma and adjoining states to grow the knowledge of Woolaroc and plans to focus on marketing to increase awareness of and education about Woolaroc. He stresses that the attraction has something for all generations, with one of the finest collections of Western art in the world, the ranch and wildlife preserve, hiking trails, Frank’s historic lodge, and children’s playground. It is much more than just a museum. In 2025, Woolaroc will celebrate it’s 100th birthday. Kevin desires to ensure that Woolaroc has a booming second century. With his love and desire to follow the footsteps of Frank Phillips’ original plan for the ranch, the community can excitingly expect great things ahead. We can’t wait to see where Kevin takes these priceless gems of our community. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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“As citizens in some states live in mandated lockdowns and their leaders are seeking to infringe on their freedom, conservative leadership matters more than ever before.”

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LOCAL LEADERS

A Seat at the House Bartian John B. Kane Running for State Rep in 2022 by Mike Wilt Continuing a long-standing tradition of quality representation at the Oklahoma State Capitol is at the heart of John B. Kane’s run for House of Representatives. The cattle rancher and businessman is seeking the Republican nomination for House District 11, which includes a large portion of the Bartlesville area. “It takes a lot of time and effort to be an effective representative,” Kane said. “The same can be said for raising a family and running a small business, which I’ve done. I’m now at a point in my personal and professional life that I have the time to put my knowledge and experience to work in Oklahoma City.” A native of Bartlesville, Kane graduated from College High School in 1978 and went on to earn a personnel administration degree at the University of Kansas in 1982. A year later, he graduated ranch management school at Texas Christian University. After a few years working in the banking industry, Kane had the opportunity to move back home and begin a cattle-ranching operation with his father, John F. Kane. “Dad’s ranch foreman was going to retire, and he said that if I wanted to be a part of the business and work alongside him that the timing was right.” The father-son partnership blossomed into a wonderful working relationship and a very successful business. Along the way, both father and son developed interests outside the cattle business. For over 20 years, the younger Kane owned a manufacturing facility in Dewey, which he just recently sold. John B. Kane is now carrying on the family tradition by having his son, John J. Kane, work with him. Kane listed the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling in McGirt v. Oklahoma as one of the biggest challenges facing the state. The high court ruled that Native American lands in much of eastern Oklahoma were never disestablished by Congress. The decision has created confusion and uncertainty in the areas of law enforcement and criminal prosecution for both the tribes and the State. “We just cannot operate as a state without equal treatment under the law. And the competition for recruit-

ing business and industry is tough enough without having all kinds of question marks.” Kane also listed school choice for common education, halting federal government overreach, enforcing marijuana laws, and securing the U.S. borders among his top priorities. But Kane said the main reason he decided to run for state office was his desire to return to the kind of representation people are used to. “Traditionally, those who have represented us in Oklahoma City lived here, worked here, and were actively involved in the community. They were great public servants because they knew what issues were important and how people felt about those issues. Not only were they able to communicate our views and values, but they were committed to being engaged in the legislative process to get things done.” In addition to his professional experience, Kane’s extensive civic involvement through the years has led him to become well-informed about healthcare, education, and the nonprofit sector, just to name a few. The House District 11 seat is currently held by Wendi Stearman (R-Collinsville). The filing period is scheduled for April 13-15 with the Primary Election dates at the end of June. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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We want to thank all the moms and dads who made this Baby New Year contest the biggest ever. The baby album photos reached more than 225,000 people on Facebook. We had over 28,000 votes for these 106 cuties! Bartlesville undoubtedly has some of the most beautiful babies around, which always makes choosing just one for the cover nearly impossible for our judges. We want to thank our sponsor, Sutterfield Financial Group, and our photographer, Karsyn Shalae, who takes the best pictures each year. We also want to thank Crystal Sare with the Johnstone-Sare Building for providing the space to hang out with all these babies. Thank you!

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SUTTERFIELD FINANCIAL BABY NEW YEAR CONTEST

PEOPLE’S CHOICE WINNER

Salome

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Abel

Abigail

Abram

Aliya

Aniston

Annabelle

Anna Olivia

Aspen

Averie

Avery

Avik

Beau

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Beau

Benjamin

Betsy

Blaine

Braeli

Braylee

Brecken

Brooklynn

Caitlyn

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Charlotte

Clark

Creek

Daniel

Devonté

Dreodyn

Easton

Eden

Elijah

Ellie

EmberLea

Emilyn

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Emmett

Emmie

Emmitt

Ethan

Gentry

Greyson

Harlem

Harper

Harrison

Hollyn

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Ingrid

Jack

Jameson

Jasper

Jaylon

Jensen

Jhett

Kamrie

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Kendall

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Koral

Kylie

Kysen

Lane

Leighton

Lillith

Lola

Lonnie

Luka

Lyla

Lynnetta

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Madeline

Malachi

Marcos

Marko

Mateo

Matthew

Maxton

Maylee

Miller

Millie

Milo

Naomi

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Tyler

Waylon

William

Wren

Wyatt

Congratulations to all of our 2022 Contestants! See you next year! Thank you to our sponsor,

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WHERE ARE THEY NOW

Looking Back to 2017 Rhett Smith by Lori Just It’s been five years since then-seven-month old Rhett Smith graced the covers of the bmonthly magazine as the judge’s choice Baby New Year. Like every parent, Tiffany thought her baby was cute, but mostly she thought it would be something fun to keep around to show him in the future. “I signed up for the contest mostly because I had seen it before and always thought that the pictures of the babies

in the New Year’s outfits were cute,” said Tiffany Smith, Rhett’s mother. “I happened to catch the sign-up at the right time.” The Smith family had never been into modeling or pageants, so they didn’t have much experience with these types of things, but felt the process went smoothly. Tiffany felt the contest and the photography of the babies were well organized. “Rhett was a pretty easy-going baby and usually pretty smiley, so the actual picture-taking wasn’t much of an issue,” she said. “The hardest part was getting him not to eat the little gold circles on the ground.” After the votes came in and Rhett was announced as the judges pick, Tiffany was a little surprised. “It was pretty cool that he won, but we mostly did it for fun,” she said. Rhett is now five years old and in kindergarten at Wilson Elementary. In most ways, he is a typical rough-and-tumble boy. He likes playing outside, soccer, jumping on the trampoline, and playing with his brother and sister. When he grows up, he wants to be a “worker man,” or as his mom explains, a construction worker. “He has a funny sense of humor after he gets past his initial shyness in new situations and is good at impressions,” she said. “He has strong opinions about his clothing and most other things, but he is quick to help a friend and gives the best hugs. He is very bright and we are excited to see what he does in the future.” Rhett doesn’t remember the experience; however, he does think it’s cool when he sees the magazine now and again and can’t believe that there is a picture of himself on the cover of a magazine. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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JANUARY EVENTS CALENDAR

Know of an upcoming event you would like to see on our calendar? Visit us at www.bartlesvillemonthly.com to submit a free listing!

Sat, Jan 1

Mon, Jan 3 8:30 AM

End of the Line: The Short Life of Bartlesville’s Interurban Railway Bartlesville Area History Museum 401 S Johnstone Ave. The End of the Line exhibit will be on display at the history museum through February 25. The museum is open Monday - Friday, from 8:30 a.m. until 4 p.m. Admission to the museum is free, but donations are appreciated.

12 PM

Bartlesville Artisan Market Washigton Park Mall 2350 SE Washington Blvd., Ste 218 The Bartlesville Artisan Market is an indoor market with fresh baked goods, coffee, home decor, clothing, soaps, live succulents, unique homemade products, local art, and more! Shop local to find that special gift. The market is held from 12-4 p.m. every Friday & Saturday.

1 PM

Christmas in the Ville Final Weekend Ice Rink at the Depot 201 S Keeler Ave. The ice rink will be open from 1-9 p.m. on Saturday and Sunday, then will close for the holiday season. Make sure to get out and enjoy this fun community event before it’s too late!

8 PM 7:30 PM

History and Haunts at the Dewey Hotel Museum

An Officer and a Gentleman

DeweyHotel Museum 801 N Delaware St., Dewey

Bartlesville Community Center 300 SE Adams Blvd.

Spend an evening at the Dewey Hotel. They will go over some of the hotel’s unique histories and take a lantern guided small group tour. You will go into some of the rooms, usually blocked off access to guests. Each journey will be unique, as you can never predict what our fellow specters will do during the tour, or what you might hear or see. Tours are held every Saturday.

Rescheduled from last November. Based on the Oscar-winning film starring Richard Gere, An Officer and a Gentleman is a breathtaking production that celebrates triumph over adversity and includes one of the most iconic and romantic endings ever portrayed on screen. Featuring the Grammy Award winning #1 hit single “Up Where We Belong,” and a score based on a 1980s catalogue of music that gave voice to a generation, the live stage production is a new adaption by multiple Tony Award nominee Dick Scanlan (Thoroughly Modern Millie, Everyday Rapture), based on the original screenplay by Douglas Day Stewart. The musical is directed by Scanlan with choreography by Patricia Wilcox (Motown, A Night with Janis Joplin).

Tue, Jan 2 6 PM

Johnstone Irregulars Free Book Club Bartlesville Public Library 600 S Johnstone Ave. The book club meets in the Literary Services Office on the 2nd floor of the library on the first Tuesday of every month.

5:30 PM

Free Spanish Classes Bartlesville Public Library 600 S Johnstone Ave. Free Spanish Class every Monday evening at 5:30 p.m. in Meeting Room B on the first floor of the Bartlesville Public Library. This class is free and open to the public. Please contact the Bartlesville Literacy Services office at 918-338-4179 if you have any questions.

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Tue, Jan 4 TIMES VARY

Free Citizenship Class Bartlesville Public Library 600 S Johnstone Ave. Citizenship classes are held on Tuesdays at 6 p.m., Wednesdays at 5:30 p.m., and Thursdays at 11 a.m. on the second floor of the Bartlesville Public Library in the Literacy Services office. Classes are free and open to the public. Please contact the Bartlesville Literacy Services office at 918338-4179 for more information.

Wed, Jan 5

Wed, Jan 19

6:45 PM

ELL Conversation Class Casa Hispana 822 S Johnstone Ave. These classes are held every Wednesday at 6:45 p.m. These classes are FREE and open to the public. Please contact the Bartlesville Literacy Services office at 918338-4179 for more information.

7:30 PM

The Simon & Garfunkel Story

Dueling Pianos performed by Fun Pianos

Bartlesville Community Center 300 SE Adams Blvd.

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Class is held outside on the stage every Wednesday at 7 p.m. It is free and open to the public. This class is a step up from the traditional cardio step class. Tarah will teach basic to complex moves on a raised fitness step to hip hop beats. Beginners are welcome to come learn and practice the moves without a raised step until they are ready to progress. Please bring a fullsize 43” wide step.

1 PM Tower Center at Unity Square 300 SE Adams Blvd. Tai Chi w/ Bee is held outside at Unity Square if temperature is 50° or above. If temperature is below 50°, Tai Chi is held inside BPL in Meeting Room A. Class is held on Wednesdays at 1 p.m. Tai Chi will help improve your balance and wellness. 6 PM

Dance N Define w/ Tarah Tower Center at Unity Square 300 SE Adams Blvd. Dance N Define w/ Tarah is held outside on the Stage at Unity Square on Wednesdays at 6 pm. It is free and open to the public. This fitness program incorporates a mixture of dance, core work, and lightweight/full body toning.

Cooper & Mill Brewing Company 200 S Dewey Ave. Join the Frank Phillips Club for a fun-filled evenng to benefit Paths to Independence. Tickets are $500 per table of 8 or $50 per single chair (not at a table). Drink package is included with all tickets. You can also bring cash to request songs. All money raised benefits Paths to Independence’s capital campaign. Tickets can be purchased at www.eventbrite.com.

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Oklahoma Student Worship Choir Concert Calvary Baptist Church 620 E 15th St., Pawhuska

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Cooking Smart: Healthy Cooking Classes Bartlesville Public Library 600 S Johnstone Ave., Meeting Rm A This free healthy cooking class will be held at the library and live on the library’s Facebook page.

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It’s Time to Dream Again Don’t be Afraid to Live the Life You Were Born to Live by Kelly Bland One of the first times I ate at the Painted Horse Bar & Grille was shortly after I accepted the position of executive director of Osage County Tourism. I met Kaci Fouts (Woolaroc rockstar and one of my Osage County favorites) there and she introduced me to her friends, Keith and Christy McPhail. I loved the atmosphere, rustic décor, good company, and delicious food. If you had told me then that three years later the owners of the Painted Horse, Mark and Kelly Spencer, would be sitting in my office in the Pawhuska Chamber of Commerce doing a podcast, or that I’d be writing for the bmonthly Magazine on a regular basis, I’d have thought you were stretching it — just a bit. Yes, it’s January — a time of new beginnings and Baby New Years — but I wanted to begin by going backwards. Just a glance over the shoulder can sometimes make sense of the moment and give meaning to the momentum. For instance, I remember well the day I was drowning in a pool of my own tears and a sea of sadness — crippled, crumpled, and crying on the floor of my Texas bedroom, heart shattered and hopeless. Nevertheless (I love that word), out of the blue … like a quarter dropping into a coke machine, I heard the Lord whisper to my heart, “It’s time to dream again,” and those words sank into my spirit with a weighty thud. The year was early 2017. That inspirational, thud-heavy whisper is what pulled me off the floor and brought me to Oklahoma in the wake of a devastating divorce. I came here to dream again, to begin again, and to live again. Then, down south of the Red and in the middle of that big D moment and its aftermath, I could make no sense of anything. Pain swirled around me like an F5 tornado that made it hard to focus on more than just survival. But the making sense of it all came as I purposefully laced up the shoes of restoration and redemption and started running a new race up

here in Osage County — one that has me crossing paths with some other morethan-conquerors. While at the time back down in Texas I feared my story would end in tragedy, I’ve been pleasantly amazed as I’ve glanced over my shoulder at how it’s now becoming the beginning of a legacy — the story of an overcomer-in-the-making, seizing opportunities to give from the heart, speak life, and impart to others the courage to live again. I have a little black and white tin sign that hangs on my bathroom wall at the foot of my tub. It says, “What Would You Do If You Knew You Could Not Fail?” Well, my first answer to that was — move to Oklahoma, go for broke, and create a new life for myself. I was scared to death — but I did it anyway. Now, back to the Painted Horse Bar & Grille — Mark and Kelly Spencer are two brave souls not afraid to venture out, start something new, and go for their dreams. They recently purchased a ranch in Osage County and have turned it into an agritourism facility where folks can learn to ride a horse, trail ride, experience a working ranch, or even host a soiree! Wolf Creek Ranch is located just north of Pawhuska amidst some of the prettiest vistas and best grasslands in the county.

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Transition of Progress

Looking Back at the Bartlesville Vitrified Brick Company by Debbie Neece, Bartlesville Area History Museum The Caney River Valley was rarely silent even when darkness the perfect fuel to fire kilns to a temperature suitable to vitrify fell and stars filled the evening sky. Sounds from the Jacob Bartles’ shale into brick. gristmill lulled area residents A vitrified brick is fired at a higher temperature and for a longer An election of officers took to sleep while the daylight period of time than a conventional brick used in construction place and the company brought hammering as homes or those used for sidewalks, making it harder and impervious became chartered under and false-fronted business to the absorption of water. Oklahoma laws as the buildings were construction of Bartlesville Vitrified Brick native walnut lumber, allowing the community to grow. Company. The brick plant created an employee base and ecoAt the turn of the century, a transition took place in the name nomic boom which established a path for other large scale of progress. Oh yes, Jacob Bartles moved his settlement north to industries like our three smelter operations. establish the town of Dewey, but Bartlesville was about to take a The plant produced enough brick to fulfill local needs and giant step forward. As soon as the railroad agreed to locate a large shipping contracts, like 5-million bricks to Topeka which depot in Bartlesville, residents along the southside of the Caney required 500 Santa Fe railcars to deliver. Shipping large quantiRiver at the North Delaware Settlement began building business ties of brick brought controversies with the Santa Fe Railroad structures along what became Second Street. Among the first over freight cost gouging; however, this was quickly resolved were George B. Keeler and William Johnstone who constructed through the court system. multi-storied quarried stone buildings at Johnstone Avenue and Second Street. Soon others followed with some buildings being Bartlesville bricks were constructed of brick hauled by team and wagon from one of mostly produced in red, Coffeyville’s three brick plants: Standard chocolate and black Brick Company, Vitrified Brick colors with varied patCompany or Yoke Brick Comterns stamped into the pany. Other brick plants were bricks; many of which scattered throughout the area have become quite with some as close as Ramona, collectable. In fact, Nowata, Pawhuska, Caney and the International Independence. Brick Collector AssoBy April 1901, shale and clay had been tested, financing was secured and Walter Coombs of Blackwell announced his intentions to establish a “mammoth vitrified brick plant” in Bartlesville. The abundance of petroleum waste in the form of natural gas presented 48

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ciation holds “brickswaps” three times annually at various locations worldwide. Among the most collected are bricks stamped with “Don't Spit on the Sidewalk.” Spitting on the sidewalk has long been an issue with area ladies when their

NOW YOU KNOW dresses became stained with chewing tobacco waste. However, the “Don’t Spit” bricks were actually part of an early 1900s tuberculosis prevention measure by Dr. Samuel Crumbine, notable physician of Dodge City, who convinced brick companies to imprint the slogan as part of his health campaign. The Bartlesville Vitrified Brick Company was located at 119 W. Third Street. The plant was at the west end of 4th Street with the mill and drying sheds on the south side of Fifth Street. The shale pit was across Fifth Street to the north, east of Virginia Avenue, and extended from Third Street (now Frank Phillips Boulevard) south to the plant on Fifth Street. The first kiln of brick was produced the last week of September 1902. Bartlesville had an inexhaustible supply of shale for brick which was superior to clay brick. In fact, so superior that the Coffeyville Brick plant often ordered Bartlesville brick for resale. Bartlesville’s brick plant employed an average of 40 men in 1902 and produced about 50,000 sidewalk, street paving and building brick daily. By 1904, six kilns were operational and street paving began on Second Street between Osage Avenue and the railroad tracks.

Frontier Park was the location of Bartlesville’s first public swimming pool which at one time contained “an AAU (Amateur Athletic Union of the United The buildings at Dewey’s Prairie Song, I.T. are a combination of Anna Witteman was a States) standard swimming log, stone and brick construction, designed and constructed by missionary and deaconess for pool with six swimming lanes Mr. Kenneth Tate, a storied brick mason by experience. the Free Methodist Church. In and three diving platforms.” In 1910, she established the 1987, two-time gold medal winner, Greg Louganis participated in donation-supported “Home of Redeeming Love” on an 80-acre Olympic diving tryouts at this location; then, in August 1991, working farm in Oklahoma City. Among the donations was a full Bartlesville hosted the Phillips 66 National Diving Championships. railroad car of Bartlesville Vit- rified Bricks to aid in the construction of the DeaThe pool was closed in 2007 due to maintenance issues but a coness Hospital. This 2008 citizen-approved bond brought renovations that allowed the hospital is now the Integris citizens to enjoy the facility although without the divBaptist Medical Center. ing pool. In 2010, the park was renamed Veteran’s Park The Bartlesville Vitriand a small waterpark fied Brick Plant operated facility became a citizen from 1902-1914 with sevfavorite. eral shut downs due to labor disputes and Although our brick paved equipment upgrades to streets are covered with increase production, asphalt and rarely seen, the including a steam legacy of the Bartlesville Vitrishovel. Bricks fired before fied Brick Company continues statehood were stamped with “Bartlesville to shine in brick buildings of IT” while later bricks dropped the IT. Some were stamped varied colors and sizes that line with decorative designs as well but none as decorative as the the downtown streets of Kansas Sunflower Brick. Bartlesville; some have aged over a century, but hold firm in the name of progress. In 1915, the property was sold to the Board of Education. The buildings were razed but the shale pit remained active with fishing and swimming until several people drown. At that time, the pit was filled with local debris, scrap metal and useless brick plant equipment, including the steam shovel. Our Sedan, Kansas friends hold the world’s longest yellow brick road consisting of 10,650 bricks with names of people When the original Bartlesville town-site was surveyed in 1902, and places molded into the bricks representing every state a 16.64 acre industrial park was designated with the Westside and 28 countries. Take a road trip and locate the names of Park on the west end and later REDA Pump was established on celebrities like Bob Hope, Liz Taylor, Zsa Zsa Gabor and Boxthe east end. As REDA’s business grew, the expansion necessicar Willie. tated the park be relocated. The City of Bartlesville acquired the brick company property and moved the Westside Park to that Now You Know* location which became Frontier Park.

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Bartlesville’s First Baby Rilla Johnstone was Born in January of 1883 by Kay Little, Little History Adventures Not only is January the birthday month of Bartlesville, but also of the first child born in the original settlement, on the northern side of the Caney River. January 16, 1883, Rilla Johnstone was born to William and Lillie, who married on January 12, 1882. Her Delaware name was Ningo-Ma-Pa-Na-Qua, which means “bright girl of the morning..” The Johnstones were living just south of the Carr-Bartles Mill. Rilla was born into a very prominent family of area. Her father was a pioneer merchant, cattleman, oilman, banker, promoter, school board member, and builder of much of early Bartlesville. Rilla’s mother was the granddaughter of Charles Journeycake, the Delaware Chief and Baptist minister who helped start the first church in the area, First Baptist Church. She was also the niece of William’s employer, Jake Bartles. Rilla started her education in the school building on the south side of the river, close to her father’s store. Her first teacher was her Aunt, Carrie Armstrong Overlees. In 1887, William built a large Queen Anne Victorian home on his wife’s Indian allotment on Cherokee Avenue. By 1917, he had the house moved south to the next block to make room for the first junior high in the state to be built. The house is still standing at this location. Rilla recalled walking over to see the building of the school. Unfortunately, in 1893, three days before Rilla’s tenth birthday, her mother died shortly after giving birth to her third child. Rilla and her siblings subsequently spent a lot of time with their Aunt Carrie. Rilla kept a diary and allowed many of her friends to write verses in it. In 1901, Rilla married Harvey Pemberton, a local businessman who dealt with real estate, insurance, and oil leases. The wedding took place at her father’s house. Only family and very close friends attended. The couple immediately moved to Missouri, but returned a few years later. Together, they had four children. The newspaper, in reporting the wedding, said, “Her bright and cheerful disposition, her amiable and affectionate nature, have endeared to Nellie, Leo & Rilla sitting in front of the house on Cherokee Ave.

Rilla with her parents, William & Lillie Johnstone.

every heart and her departure for her Missouri home was the cause for general feeling of regret in the community.” By 1904, the Pembertons were back in Bartlesville and Harvey started construction on a housing addition on South Cherokee. One of the first homes to be built was the Frank Phillips Home. In 1910, the Pembertons built a home at 1220 S. Cherokee. Ten years later, they moved to 1120 S Johnstone, and sold the house to the John Irvin family. It later was the home of Don Tyler and family. Rilla and Harvey were very involved in the community. They tended to quietly work behind the scenes in the development of Bartlesville. They were early-day Sunday School teachers and very active in the First Christian Church. In fact, the church acquired the land for their current building from the Pembertons in 1908. Rilla passed away on January 2, 1948, just 16 days before her 65th birthday. So many events happened in January for this family — some good and some sad. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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John Wesley, the founder of Methodism in America, is quoted as saying: “Let me do all the good I can, to all the people I can, as often as I can, for I shall not pass this way again." There was no guarantee for how the past year would turn out. For many, the days of any given year are incredibly good and full of blessings too many to count. For others, there are difficult trials of excruciating pain and devastation. There is no one on this earth who can control what today or tomorrow holds. Yet, one thing remains true with the dawn of each new year. That is, “…we shall not pass this way again.” No two days, months, years, or situations are ever identical. In 2022, I want to be the kind of person who sees others for whom God created them to become. I need to look at things through a more optimistic lens this year than I did over the past two years. I would like to acquire eyes and ears and hands to see and hear and do something tangible to serve others more this year than in years past. I want my opinion list to be for more things that I agree with than the long list of things that I am against. Join me in praying that God will help both of us to uncover the fact that we are on this earth as his created men

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and women to bring honor to Him above all else in everything we think, do, and say. Personally, I am occassionally asked why I would ever want to be the president of a university, even a Christian University. For reference, someone has stated that being a university president is one of the top five most difficult jobs in the world. I am not sure who determined this ranking, nor do I know the other four most difficult jobs. Regardless, let me tell you what my answer has been and what it remains today. I am prompted by the Lordship of Jesus Christ in my life to be the president of Oklahoma Wesleyan University for one very specific reason. It is not about fame or fancy titles. The reason I work as I do in this season of life is not about a paycheck or a parking space. The reason I do it has everything to do with the young adults of today’s generation. I believe that as they get right with Jesus Christ, follow Him, and take the compassion He has uniquely given this generation for their fellow human beings — I believe they can fix this world for God’s honor and purposes. I do. That is my “why” in this station of life. Not only do I believe this, but we need them to fix this world, because humankind is in desperate need of personal repentance, corporate healing, and unconditional reconciliation toward God, and therefore — with each other. If I can be part of that journey where young adults give their lives to Jesus Christ and follow Him while earning a world-class education at OKWU in order to advance God’s Kingdom and fix this world, I’m all in! Someone around you needs you to believe in them. Allow the God of Heaven who believes in you so much that He gave His Son, Jesus, for you to do His good work in your heart and life. Allow him to help you to, “…do all the good you can, to all the people you can, as often as you can, in 2022 and beyond — for you and I shall not pass this way again. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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FROM THE HEART

Mastering Your Time Move Through Your Days with Greater Intention by Lori Kroh January. All the calendars are so fresh and new. As you flip through the pages, they are empty and your life is ahead of you. I use this time to really look at my calendar and see my life and how time moves so fast. Each day passes and I want them all to count. For many years, I used to live a rushed life. It was hurried, frantic, and did not have much peace. I didn’t appreciate my days or even people because I was off to the next big thing. I was jam-packed on my calendar with work, family, obligations, and events, yet deep down I knew that something was missing. I wanted to lay my head down at night knowing I did my best that day. I wanted my life to matter and make a difference for others. I knew I needed to change. I wanted to live authentically. I had a mentor once tell me in order to understand time … one must fully realize the purpose of their life. Once you grasp hold of it … you move through your days with greater intention and with an added value of your time. I learned to understand how my time was wasted and how I had the power to change with a few tweaks here and there. I could give attention and intention and that is when I created my Best Life Calendar. I got serious about what my time wasters were and how I could fix them. I created more time by admitting the truth. Some days were filled with an invisible to-do list and were a burden to my soul. I put it off until tomorrow day after day. I learned that when I postponed things it was more than procrastination. I was not dealing with the deep feelings associated with the list I needed to get done. I was waiting to “feel like it” and that day was never coming. The wasting of time ticked slowly in my soul. I woke up with regrets and ended the day with regrets — and in between that was no way to live.

There were layers of feelings that I associated with my to-do list and I kept highlighting tomorrow for tomorrow. I had to write some truths down and stare at them. I used the words of my list as a mirror and reflected on who I would become tomorrow, so that I could truly live today. Here are some of the truths and perhaps you can relate: I didn’t want to clean my garage completely because there were boxes of items from loved ones that are in Heaven and I still had not addressed the tremendous void and deep grief. Cleaning the garage would open boxes that I did not want to open. It was better to seal it all up and hide them away. It is time to open what has been closed. I did not want to sign up for the gym because that would mean I would have to deal with the issue of wondering what others thought of me and the insecurity of being judged. It meant facing truths I never wanted to face and admitting it was all my fault for being out of shape. It was time to fully love myself inside and out and take care of the one body I have been given. I didn’t want to look for another career that suited my nature because to change would mean more skills needed. I would need to be vulnerable again and it’s hard to admit that I don’t like feeling that inside. It is time to become who I was always meant to be … the job that steals my joy and doesn’t fit my gifts is slowly poisoning me. It is time. My prayer is that those who read this and feel like they are overwhelmed will see that you can mark your days any way you choose. No matter what has happened. Pay attention to your intention of how you want to live. It’s time for us all to lose our fears of tomorrow and replace them with living our best today. Happy New Year and it’s all fresh and new! Just believe 2022 can be the year of your Best You! JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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KNOWING NOWATA

The Jaguars Remembering the Popular Nowata Band from the ‘60s by Carroll Craun A historic day in the music industry occurred on February 9, 1964, when the Fab Four appeared on the Ed Sullivan show. This not only marked the debut of the English Beatles sensation arriving in America, but it also marked the inspiration for the creation of The Jaguars. One of the 73 million viewers that night was Nowata native and budding musician J.D. Paige Jr. He was so inspired by what he saw he burst into his music class the next day at the Nowata High School and announced “Guys we need to form a band and that’s how you get girls!” So they did. The rest is history. The group became one of many garage bands of that time. Original band members were Robert Bailey, lead guitar; Keith Vernie Bennett, rhythm guitar; J.D. Paige, bass guitar and lead singer; and John McCracken, drums. The happy group needed an audience, so J.D.’s parents and John McCracken’s mother drove around the surrounding areas looking for Friday and Saturday night venues for them and special events. Mr. Paige acted as the general manager, and both parents provided transportation as well as acting as chaperones. The parents never missed a performance over the years. The first paying ‘gig’ was when they performed at a Nowata Country Club Christmas party hosted by the Flora girls. Dr. Flora gave the band $20, which meant each member received a whopping $5. They became professionals that night. The band performed in Vinita, Coffeyville, Bartlesville, Caney, Pawhuska, and many other area communities. The boys stood out as they were some of the few young people to have a salary, funds to purchase their own cars, clothes, and other items. When Robert and Keith left for college, two new members were added to the group, Ray Clark, lead, and Joe Lane playing rhythm. The two new members would drive from Vinita one night a week to practice. The band reach expanded to Fredonia, Pryor, Sand Springs, and Cleveland. They also played at the Nowata VFW and for the KAKC and KELI radio circuit. Keyboard players Rob Reid and Larry Harvey were added, and the band continued to perform in a variety of places until 1966, when J.D. and John graduated from high school. There are a number of stories from these times. One is the time they would not let Robbie in a bar because he was underage but his mother wrote a letter for him explaining that he was performing and a part of a band; he still carries the letter today. Another favorite story is of the Gypsy Wedding that took place in the armory in Vinita. The wedding ceremony was not a traditional service, in this case the wedding party escorted the bride into the wedding area and her parents carried her veil. There was a lot of dancing and then the parents placed the veil, which had a crown attached to it, upon the bride’s head and the couple was officially married. No words were spoken during this service, just The Jaguars playing music and the wedding guests dancing to their own form of dance…..similar to today’s individual youth dancing. The band was playing rock and roll music until they were requested to play the wedding march, which they did not know, so they ad libbed the music. The final story is when John was

arrested for beating and kicking on the door of the Howard, Kansas armory. The band arrived to find the doors locked and John was trying to get someone to open up. The sheriff was called in and put John in handcuffs. Mr. Paige Sr., was able to persuade the sheriff not to arrest John, explaining why they were there. By 1969, the band began to dissolve as players moved away or lost interest, and the band ceased to be active. The Jaguars played an important part in the growing-up years of many youth in the Nowata area, with lots of dances and social events to remember. The 50 Year Anniversary of the class of ‘66 was approaching and J.D. was supposed to bring his record show. In conversation with band members still around and fellow classmates, it was suggested the band get back together to play for the reunion. The only surviving living members were J.D. Paige, John McCracken, and Rob Reid, so more members were recruited. Local Nowata music store owner Paul Hughes and Kirk McCracken, John’s son, were added to the group and serious practice time began. The new-and-improved Jaguars were a hit at the reunion and they have continued to play different venues for the past five years. The band is now designated as the “Living History Exhibit” for the Nowata Museum. They are the house band and have a stage built in the Annex for practice. Anyone is welcome to watch them in action. John’s mother, Jessie, is still on-hand for practices and performances. J.D.’s parents have since passed away. The oldest band members are now in their 70s, so only age and physical ability will determine how long they continue to play as a group. All the members love to do it. If you should be around the museum annex when practice is going on, it is not an earthquake you are feeling; it is the volume of the music. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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Bartlesville Gymnastics has a long-running tradition that all Bartians can be proud of. Founded in 1966 as Phillips 66 Gymnastics, the club is the longest-running gymnastics program in the United States. Every year, the club hosts prestigious competitions and helps young athletes reach their goals. As head coach and director Lorrie Bertolet likes to say, “Bartlesville may be a small town, but we do big gymnastics.”

Qualifiers and Medalists and State Championship teams. The club has won every level of competitive gymnastics. This past season, the Bartlesville Gymnastics club won the Level 3 Team State Championship and the Level 7 Team State Championship title, as well as the XCel Gold State Championship. These awards are just a small sample of all of the accolades the club has and continues to receive.

Bartlesville Gymnastics is open to all children from Bartlesville and the surrounding area. Families drive from Pawhuska, Ponca City, Sedan, Independence, Coffeyville, Nowata, Skiatook, and Owasso to be coached by the incredible staff. Boys and girls can start the Tumble Bug program at 18 months. This class allows children to try out different kinds of movement and get acquainted with the gymnastics equipment by running, jumping, and climbing. Preschoolers can graduate to the Tiny Tumblers class to learn to take turns and follow directions. At age five, children can begin the class program, where they learn specific gymnastic skills on each apparatus. The gym also teaches tumbling and trains the Bartlesville Bruin cheerleaders. “All of our programs and classes are listed on our website with definitions and what we aspire to teach,” said Bertolet. “My goal for the Gymnastics club is to have a place for every child, whether it be classes to just learn how to do a cartwheel or all the way to achieving a college scholarship. Knowing every child is their own individual and that every child has their own goals is what is of utmost important to us!”

Bartlesville Gymnastics has a rich history and has been fortunate to be tied with Phillips 66 for such a long time, but is beginning a new and exciting part of their story. “We are given this amazing opportunity to be our own entity, but I have to say, I’ve been spoiled for a lot of years by the lavish support generously provided by Phillips 66. I have a lot to learn moving forward, and with the help of my staff and the community I am confident that things will go wonderfully,” said Bertolet. “A lot of companies have reached out to us, and in the new year we will just see what transpires.”

Bartlesville Gymnastics prides themselves on teaching more than just tumbling. The program teaches life lessons like discipline, time management, accountability, sportsmanship, and how to be a good teammate. Through this ideology, the club and its nationally-rated coaches have produced multiple Division I scholarships for both girls and boys. Most recently, Kelci Lewis received a full scholarship and All-American accolades at the University of Arkansas. Presently, Bartlesville High School senior Kylee Green will be competing next year for the Air Force Academy. The Club has had multiple developmental National

Each summer, the community has the opportunity to watch the Bartlesville Gymnastics Club perform at Sunfest and Hot Street Party, and they encourage everyone to come out and cheer on the amazing student athletes. “Performing for our community is one of our favorite things to do,” said Bertolet. Bartlesville is lucky to have a wonderful gymnastics program and the community is excited to see what lies ahead for the club.

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Clyde Vernon Reasor Remembering the County’s Unselfish Gentleman by Debbie Neece, Bartlesville Area History Museum Clyde Vernon Reasor wrote about the Good Neighbor Club in his October 1947 “Caney Valley Fringed with Bluestem” article praising neighbors helping neighbors for the betterment of the whole community…a concept he lived well. Edna, Kansas born Clyde Reasor graduated from the Edna High School, attended the Commercial College at Parsons, KS and arrived in Bartlesville in 1907, 29 days after Oklahoma became a state. He found employment at Frank and L.E. Phillips’ First National Bank as an assistant cashier, a position that opened many unforeseen possibilities. After several years of dedicated service, he became a stock broker for the Cities Service Oil Company Stock and Security Corporation before becoming a cashier at the First National Bank in Dewey. Early day newspapers were filled with who visited, who was ill, what new items arrived at the local store and a host of much needed local information. The Washington Countian was established in Dewey by Hugh Amick with the first print March 28, 1939. Amick and Reasor became close friends and upon Amick’s death in 1943, Clyde Reasor assumed the owner and editor responsibilities of the weekly newspaper through the end of 1949. Clyde made sure Washington County news took priority over stories of war and politics. His gift of newspaper gab served him well and brought him favor throughout Washington County. So, when he ran for County Clerk and Register of Deeds in November 1944, he was a “shoo-in.” He took office January 1945 but continued printing the Washington Countian each week for the 900 established customers and mailed 300 copies to Washington County WWII service men keeping them apprised of all Washington County happenings, a service funded by six Dewey organizations. After the Washington Countian was discontinued, Clyde shared his Washington County knowledge through his “Caney Valley Fringed With Blue Stem” articles in the Bartlesville Record newspaper, chocked full of reminiscent history, tickled with humor and county business, and sealed with his signature closure, “I’ll be seein’ you.” His memory lane of area history was an

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A FRESH PERSPECTIVE

The Man from 1933 by Brent Taylor I imagine people I admire, when they were young. What were they like in their prime, before I existed? This story is about one of those moments. — Brent Taylor I was napping in my recliner when the phone rang. It was a strange mechanical ring coming from the Bell Telephone Company oak phone mounted on the wall. I was curious, since it is only an antique. “Hello”, I mumbled into the mouthpiece. “Hi,” replied the man on the other end. “I was calling to ask about the cattle you have to sell. I’m looking to buy.” I was stunned by the voice coming from the oak box. “I need to buy a Hereford breeder. Can I come by and take a look?” My voice replied as if from another world. “You betcha, c’mon out.” The flinty response sounded eerily familiar, “Be there in an hour.” I wandered out to the front porch and sat on the swing and waited, kick flexing my left knee, listening to the crackle of 53-year-old cartilage. From the north came the clatter of a 1931 Ford Model A truck lurching towards my house. The flatbed was enclosed with a triple rail wood sideboard and the saucer headlamps looked like eyeglasses, while the windshield visor made me think of a nearsighted bookkeeper clattering along on vulcanized rubber wheels. The man climbed out of the truck and walked toward me, 6’1”, dark hair slightly receding, sun-worn smile creases forever marking him as a friendly man. He wore overalls and a white t-shirt, weathered work boots, and he moved along the ground as if he were part of the earth — like he owned a farm or had a garden. “Afternoon. Are you Taylor?” the man drawled in an easy and unaffected way. I replied, “Yes sir. I guess you came to look at my herd?” It occurred to me that I did not own any cows, but these words flowed from my lips from places I had seen but never been, like honey dripping off a ladle. We walked across a cattle guard, up and over the berm next to the pond, and I asked, “Where ya from?” “The Oklahoma Panhandle,” he replied. “I’m on my way to Arkansas. If we can strike a deal, I’ll stop on my way back and make arrangements to pick up the breeder.” To which I replied, “Just take your time and pick out what suits you.” I watched him pacing along the edge of the herd, eyeing several of the bulls. He looked like Tom Joad in the Grapes of Wrath. Afterwards, walking back up to the house, I asked if he had family. “I do, just had a baby girl, name is Jessie.” He talked about being a dad, how having a daughter had changed him in ways he

never anticipated, how the world was changing so quickly, and he spoke of losing their wheat crop to the drought, everything withering in the hot blowing dust, wondering how he would support his wife and baby daughter. I stole a glance at him as he talked and he seemed wise in a way I couldn’t quite comprehend, like he knew my story, even though he seemed to be 20 years younger than me. My cell phone rang. It was my wife. I hung up and he looked at me, then at my phone. “What is that?” I looked down at my cell phone and told him it’s a phone. Without the wires. The signal goes through the air. And you can get online, check email and social media and…” I recognized the blank stare as lack of comprehension. And so I just told him, “It’s how we run our lives now.” I asked him, “So where you live you don’t have these?” “No,” came the reply. I asked, “How do you live then?” He replied, “Hard work, desperation, faith, and hope. That’s how we get by. We just know somehow we will.” Then he said something I’ll never forget. “Can your unwired phone tell you why I get up every day before the sun rises? Or tell me why I’m here? Tell me what’s important? Can it tell me why I love my baby daughter? Can it tell me what my life will be like in 10 years?” And then he was gone. As the young man drove away, I looked down in my hand at five silver dollars he had handed me for a deposit on the Hereford. There was an eagle on the back and a woman with a spiked crown on the front. The words “Liberty” arched over the top edge of the coins along with the banner phrase, “In God We Trust.” They were dated 1921. I slipped them in my pocket and walked back into the house. I awoke in my recliner and looked over at the old oak phone on the wall and realized that I had been dreaming. I had recently walked through the cemetery, looking down at my Grandpa Jess’ grave, born 1901 and died 1969. He died when I was nine years old. I walked into my closet and pulled open the top sock drawer. That’s where I keep important stuff. Nestled next to my 1979 U.S. Amateur medal was a quarter my Grandpa gave me in 1968. He picked me up at school and asked me to help him. I rode with him in his Ford truck to Woodland Park, where he was working on a house. He said, “Can you stick your arm into that hole in the wall and pull out that wire?” I told him sure. But after trying for several minutes, I gave up. I had failed. He drove me home, and as I was getting out of the truck he reached into his pocket and pulled out a quarter, handed it to me and said, “Thanks.” I walked to the porch and sat down, watching my Grandpa drive away. I glanced down at the worn Washington quarter and read the top word gently arching along the coin edge, “Liberty”, and clustered to one side “In God We Trust.” The year embossed along the bottom, 1933. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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Oh What a Year! by Keith McPhail As the curtains closed on 2021, we paused for a moment to look back and highlight some of the stories and events that shaped our magazine last year. January always brings the biggest issue of the year. Not only does the January issue fly off the racks, but the bmonthly Facebook page completely blows up with the “Baby New Year” voting and comments. It is crazy to us how many people actually vote. The contest in 2021 was no different, and we had more than 30,000 votes for the babies. The judges chose baby boy Bjorn to win! February was the biggest eye opener for Christy and me. When researching our annual Black History Month issue, we learned about the most shameful and unforgiving moment in our state’s history and, really, our American history. I decided to have Natasha Mitchell write “The Tulsa Massacre,” which is now up for a National award. It was the 100th anniversary of this brutal and deadly event, which was never taught in our schools (NEVER!). I boldly decided we were going to do the Feature story on this event. I searched high and low for the pictures that would alone tell the story of the murder of our brothers and sisters! We did not hold back on the pictures that told the story. We were the first to write about it because most, if not all, of the other Tulsa media outlets were waiting for the month it occurred. We did not. We were honored to be allowed to do our bmonthly Facebook Show at the only structure that survived the fire. It really was just the basement and a

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small portion of the original Vernon AME Church. We had the privilege of standing in the basement and see the burned walls where men, women, and children hid as their beloved city burned to the ground. You can still feel the weight of the sadness in that room after 100 years. March featured the story of Frank Grigg. I call him the Godfather of Bartlesville Photography. This man took more pictures than anyone else of this city, the people, and the area from 1910 through the 1970s. Even today we use many of his pictures for our stories. April was our 4th annual Best of Pets issue, which set many voting records on our Facebook page, and in the end Bardot was voted winner by our judges. Bob Fraser let us photograph the cover in the Frank Phillips Mansion inside the library. It is my favorite cover for the Best of Pets Contest. May was a very busy month for us. Our feature story was on the sacred grounds of Arlington National Cemetery in Virginia, which is on my bucket list to see. The big event in town was Gracefest on the Green 2021. For six months, Christy and I put together our first concert, and trust me, when we started we had no idea what we were doing. The only thing we did know is the city and state were fully open from COVID, and we wanted it to be the first concert of the year. We wanted to bring people and families out of their homes and enjoy a Christian concert. You showed up big time! We estimated we had over 1,700 people attend the free concert, in

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which all proceeds benefited The Journey Home. Because of your donations, we were able to give them a check for $10,000. Gracefest 2022 will be Saturday May 7th at Unity Square. See you there! June is a special month to me. I wrote a story on “What makes a Dad,‘’ which really was very emotional for me to write because of all the times I have failed my kids in the past. It’s easy to look back and see all your wrongdoings, but I know that today, after all this family has gone through, each of my kids loves me, respects me, and has forgiven me. July was our Historic Homes and Buildings issue. It was also our second year to have our Landmark Buildings contest, just like the babies and pets. It was incredible to see some of the pictures of downtown Bartlesville taken by you, which was the theme of the contest. At the end of the thousands and thousands of votes, Kumar Krishnan won with a beautiful picture of downtown, and he framed it for us. We have it hanging on our wall in our home. August is always our Back to School issue, and our feature story was dedicated to the one room school houses that dotted our city and the area when Bartlesville was becoming more than a town — it was becoming a city. Over the years, I became good friends with Jim Hess, and we would sit around and talk about Col-Hi, or just Bartlesville history in general. I made Jim our Profile because of all he has done and the friendship he has with so many people. When he took the magazine home to show his beloved wife Linda, he had found that she had peacefully passed away while soaking up sunshine on their back porch. Three months later we lost Jim, a treasure to our city.

September we showcased as our feature story “The Delaware Tribe,” which is headquartered right here in Bartlesville. We love doing these Native American stories in September and learning how they helped build the history of Oklahoma. We also showcased the FAM (First Americans Museum) in Oklahoma City, which is one of the best places we have visited. Everyone reading this should drive the two hours to see this incredible addition to our state. October is when I have always wanted to do a story on this event: the great flood of 1986. We lived through it, and it changed the course of Christy’s and my life for 18 years. It made national news and caused devastating loss of homes and businesses across the area. November, for our Veterans issue, which we always do for this month, we featured Vietnam. We have done many stories on World War II through the years, but I wanted to change it up and get the real story of the war that killed over 55,000 Americans. You can come up with your own opinion, but mine is that the war was all about money and power. December is my favorite cover to create and get that special Christmas look. This was our fifth Santa cover and the picture speaks for itself. Our feature story was written by Debbie Neece. She wrote about the Interurban Railway that ran the streets of Bartlesville and Dewey, carrying thousands of people through its time of operation. Christy and I want to say thank you to all of our writers, photographers, Copper Cup Images, and all the businesses that support us every month. We could not do it without you. Thank you for believing in us and our vision for what we believe is the best city magazine in the state. And a big thanks to all of you, our readers. You have grown with us for almost five years now, and we are blessed every month to be able to bring the people, the places, and the great history that makes Bartlesville “The Best Little City in America.” God Bless, Keith and Christy

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Community Through Food The Coffee Exchange a Memorable Eating Experience by Maria Gus There is something special about the feel of an old space coming back to life. The building comes alive, the activity creates community, and the positive energy continues to grow. Downtown Bartlesville has seen a steady increase in activity for the last several years, and The Coffee Exchange at Hotel Phillips is riding the wave. Located on the first floor of The Apartments at Hotel Phillips, The Coffee Exchange is a small space with flavor as big as its dreams. Co-owners Albert “Nook” Ducre and Rylea Bolton are no strangers to fine cuisine and hospitality in Bartlesville. Both have extensive experience in the service industry and wanted to create something original and impactful. The menu has a wide range of influence, but every item is thoughtfully prepared. The breakfast menu has homemade biscuits and gravy and freshly-prepared breakfast burritos. The lunch menu has everything from house-cured ham to pork bahn mi. The influence from Ducre’s native New Orleans is evident, but so are latin and asian flavors. The concept is simple — Bolton and Ducre make their food with a passion. “The food is about creating something delicious, maybe remembering an experience,” said Ducre. “You can taste the love,” added Bolton. Both said they prepare the food like they’re cooking for family. That is love and care you can taste in the cured meats (making the ham is a seven-day process) and homemade chorizo (Bolton ensures it’s just right every day). “We wrote the menu five times,” said Ducre with a laugh. “But when we made this ham, we thought, ‘what can we do with this?’ and that’s where the Jambon-Beurre (a ham and cheese sandwich like none other) came from.” The menu grew from there and soon they were not only curing ham, but making deli chicken, chorizo, breakfast sausage, and pickled vegetables. Building community through food is what The Coffee Exchange has been doing since they opened in early September. With the perfect location between downtown business and residential, the space has become a stop for many on their way to work or on the way home. “Someone (opening an AirBnb close by) came in to have our information available for guests. Residents in the apartments have

become regulars,” said Bolton. Ducre added that they are eager to build community with the neighborhood. “We love it down here; we’re not going anywhere any time soon,” he said. Each week, the pair has a special and soups are usually posted on Tuesdays. The influences from the south, where Ducre grew up, and latin flavors from Bolton, pair perfectly. Most importantly, the tastes from The Coffee Exchange complement each other. Vietnamese coffee is on the menu, along with bahn mi. Enjoy avocado toast for lunch or a coffee from roasters across the country. The menu clearly shows two people who know how to make memorable food experiences. Eventually, The Coffee Exchange has plans to grow into an additional location with full service and a bar, but Ducre said he’s perfectly fine with growing slowly. Ideally, the pair would like to be downtown as they expand not only The Coffee Exchange, but also the Cicada Restaurant Group. “I want to have some fun and I want to contribute and make an impact,” said Ducre. “I love being here.” Added Bolton, “Bartlesville is home. We are happy to be here and look forward to deepening our roots.” JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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ONCE UPON A TIME

What Comes Our Way We Should Learn to Accept What Happens in Life by Rita Thurman Barnes Do you ever wish you could know what the future holds? When I do, it brings to mind the old Jimmy Stewart movie, It’s a Wonderful Life. His character, George Bailey, got to see what life would have been like if he had never been born but he never got see what his future would hold “with” him included in it. He had to put one foot in front of the other just as we do and take one day at a time. Actually, Frank Capra directed a timeless film chock full of mistakes. For instance, Stewart’s character's pipe disappears when he's talking to the person in his office named Violet. George jumps into the river to save Clarence. As he does so, Clarence is screaming "help," but his mouth isn’t moving. Do these mistakes mean Frank Capra shouldn’t have made this movie? Of course not. It simply points out that in real life whether it’s yours or mine or Frank Capra’s, we have to learn to accept what comes our way. Going from past experiences, I don’t think knowing about what’s coming down the pike for me is something I’d want to take advantage of even if I could. It would ruin all the surprises and the fun and unexpected happenings such as winning the lottery – well, maybe that’s not a likely candidate for inclusion but I think you know what I mean. It would also allow us to see the not-so-pleasant things that await each of us as vulnerable and sometimes fickle human beings making our way through our day-to-day lives; things such as an illness, the loss of a loved one, or a job or a conviction.

Barnes because we found her as a kitten one dreary winter’s night in the alley behind Murphy’s Steakhouse. Her favorite person next to us was Paul Murphy himself. She knew a good friend when she met one. I wouldn’t have wanted to be a cat, but I could possibly have learned a lesson or two from our old girl. Life is a big mystery and much like a good work of fiction, we don’t know all the answers till we get to the end of the book. But here lies the rub; I love to sneak a peek at the end of a good story and it’s hard to refrain. We kept her ashes and she’s never far from us. If Murphy were here, I’d give her a scratch on the head, and she’d be good to go for another year. She already understood the lesson that George Bailey took the length of an Oscar-winning movie to understand. Happy New Year from me and Murphy, too!

I think that’s where our old cat of nearly 20 years had it all over me. She didn’t expect anything of the New Year. She made no New Year’s resolutions and therefore didn’t have to bother breaking them. She just got up every day and did what cats are supposed to do. She stretched and yawned and cat-napped a lot. She spent a lot of time trying to persuade someone to feed her the little packet of soft food she loved so much, and she eagerly awaited her daily brushing. She was content to be where her “people” friends were, and she let us know she cared about us in her loving feline fashion. By the way, her name was Miss Murphy

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FUNNY YOU SHOULD ASK

by Jay Webster The author CS Lewis is credited with saying, “To love at all is to be vulnerable.” And certainly there is no shortage of voices calling us to vulnerability in marriages, friendships, even our cubical relationships. Suddenly vulnerability is the new kale of emotional/mental health. It’s the trendy, new power food with untold promise for growth and flushing out contaminants.

removes facades, and increases community bonds sounds good. But under closer inspection, I think you’ll agree that self-reliance is a strategy with far fewer pitfalls. Here’s what I mean:

Let’s say I choose to be open with a friend about my struggles or feelings or failures. There are three outcomes which will However, without being contentious, I’d like to throw my likely follow. First, in my attempt to be vulnerable and lay all my support behind the opposing party; the Party of Self-Reliance. I short-coming-cards on the table, my friend may look at them know on the surface the call and say, “Is that all he’s Suddenly vulnerability is the new kale of emotional/mental health. to open ourselves to those got? I’ve got a failureIt’s the trendy, new power food with untold promise for growth and around us in a manner that full-house over here and flushing out contaminants. deepens our relationships,

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FUNNY YOU SHOULD ASK ings could ever do. They suggest that opening yourself up to he’s worried about his measly pair? I’m a much bigger mess others helps both you and them. They’ll talk about the mental than he is. I’ll never be able to open up to him and show my health and overall happiness of hand. I’ll just keep bluffing.” I think it’s far better to go it on your own. Even if it might those who “let others in.” It all See? Better to play it close to mean potentially hurting yourself, taking three times as long sounds nice, but what they the vest and relate broad genand not being done properly. At least I will not have had to leave out is independence proeralities about ourselves that subject myself to the shame of someone helping me and tects my alone time, keeps my don’t give away too much proving how bad I am at whatever. pride and self esteem intact about our pain, inner thoughts, (sorta), and avoids all that annoying intimacy. or emotional well-being. The second possible response is the opposite of the first, but the outcome is really the same. In this case, when I lay my soul bare, my confidant will look at my depravity — utterly disgusted — and say, “What kind of freak is this? He’s a far bigger mess than me. I can’t believe this guy. I need a new friend.” Now I’ve soiled myself, lost a friend, and only confirmed what my inner dialog was saying this whole time - I’m a schmuck of the lowest kind and if most people knew what was going on inside they would drive me to the edge of town, bathe me in peanut butter, tie me down and let the ants slowly eat me alive. Then they would drive back into town and tell my second grade teacher what a depraved soul I’d become … which would of course kill her, because I had such promise as a young boy.

Here’s the deal; I am not even saying you shouldn’t associate with people of the Party of Vulnerability. It’s fine for others. In fact, that’s part of my trick. I can let people be vulnerable with me, without feeling obligated to be vulnerable in return. That’s what makes me such a “great listener.” And then everyone will assume I’m one of those touchy, feely guys too — even if I never actually dive in while they’re looking. Does it take more energy to be self reliant? Yes. Does not being vulnerable result in me becoming spiritually, emotionally, and sometimes physically constipated? Obviously. But I get to live things out on my terms and no one else has to know how miserable I often am … and that I’m dealing with the same issues year after year … because I can’t seem to make any change on my own. It’s all worth it!

The third option (and probably the least likely) is I will “unburden myself,” finding out as I say these things out loud So, I put these arguments before you and will let you decide. for the first time that things are not nearly as bad as I thought. The Party of Me (a safe little island of blissful Me-topia) or the In fact, I’m not the only one with these thoughts or impulses Party of Vulnerability — where healthy, positive relationships or struggles. And after this bloodletting, my friend may actually take over your life. Seems pretty clear to me. be relieved to find there are others that struggle as well and feel a new-found sense of relief and security. But all that And, not to brag, but I present these arguments backed by a seems unlikely. lifetime of evidence. I am a Does it take more energy to be self reliant? Yes. Does not case study in avoiding volunHere’s the other thing the being vulnerable result in me becoming spiritually, emotary vulnerability at all cost. Vulnerable Party doesn’t tell tionally, and sometimes physically constipated? Obviously. you: If you open yourself up to But I get to live things out on my terms and no one else has I was pretty sure you’d see others there’s a good chance to know how miserable I often am. things my way. You’ve always they will just get up in your had a quiet intelligence about business. That’s right, they might start asking how you are … you. So — button up, stiffen up, and pull up your own bootstraps or someone may call or text you … or express genuine conthe way God intended. Then I’ll meet you back here next month. cern for you. God, who has time for it? I just wanted to be (Please come back. I need you … but don’t tell anyone.) open for minute, not start a relationship. Let’s just keep this Cheers, my friends. thing platonic. Oh, and here’s another thing. Let’s say you make yourself vulnerable by asking for help. (This one is my least favorite.) A. There’s the embarrassment of not being capable of doing it on your own. B. If they come over to help, your ineptitude maybe fully exposed. C. It’ll be obvious you’re not the man (or woman) your friend is and if you’re incapable here, where else are you a dismal failure? I think it’s far better to go it on your own. Even if it might mean potentially hurting yourself, taking three times as long, and not being done properly. At least I will not have had to subject myself to the shame of someone helping me and proving how bad I am at whatever. Look, I know the Party of Vulnerability makes convincing arguments on the surface. They’ll say that we burn far more energy protecting our insecurities than revealing our shortcomJANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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Bartlesville Bound The Simon & Garfunkel Story Coming to Community Center Area residents are in for a harmonious treat later this month, as the second installment of the Broadway in Bartlesville! series hits the stage. The internationally-acclaimed hit theater show The Simon & Garfunkel Story will stop by the Bartlesville Community Center on Wednesday, January 19, 2022 at 7:30 p.m. during its coast-tocoast U.S. tour. The immersive concert-style theater show, which is this season’s second show in the Broadway in Bartlesville! series, chronicles the amazing journey shared by the folk-rock duo, Paul Simon and Art Garfunkel. It tells the story from their humble beginnings as Tom & Jerry to their incredible success as one of the best-selling music groups of the 60s to their dramatic split in 1970. It culminates with the famous “The Concert in Central Park” reunion in 1981 with more than half a million fans in attendance. Using state-of-the-art video projection, photos, and original film footage, the show also features a full live band performing all of their hits, including “Mrs. Robinson” (featured in the 1967 film The Graduate), “Cecilia,” “Bridge Over Troubled Water,” “Homeward Bound,” and many more. With more than 100 million album sales since 1965, Simon & Garfunkel’s perfect harmonies and songs that poignantly captured the times made them one of the most successful folk-rock duos of all time. Over the years, they won 10 Grammy Awards and were inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 1990. In 1977, their Bridge Over Troubled Water album was nominated at the 1977 Brit Awards for Best International Album. In 2003, Simon and Garfunkel were awarded a Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award and the following year saw their “The Sound of Silence” awarded a Grammy Hall of Fame Award. Tickets for The Simon & Garfunkel Story are available in person or by phone at 918-337-2787 and in person at the BCC box office from 9 a.m. – 5 p.m., Monday through Friday. For 24/7 tickets sales, visit the community center’s website. Season seats will be placed in will call for your convenience. Special thanks goes to The National Endowment for the Arts, the Oklahoma Arts Council, and the

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Emancipation Proclamation Proclamation Transformed Character of the Civil War by Jay Hastings The American Civil War was fought between the United States of America and the Confederate States of America. The Confederate was a collection of 11 southern states which left the Union in 1860 due to differences over the institution of slavery. President Abraham Lincoln was elected in 1860. Alarmed by Lincoln’s antislavery stance, seven southern states seceded from the Union soon after Lincoln was elected. Four more southern states were soon to follow, and Lincoln declared that he would do anything necessary to keep the United States just that, united. Lincoln refused to recognize the southern states as an independent nation and on April 12, 1861, the Civil War erupted. The Emancipation Proclamation, or Proclamation 95, was a presidential proclamation and executive order introduced by President Lincoln on September 22, 1862, during the Civil War. It was issued in two parts. The first, issued on September 22, 1862, was a preliminary announcement outlining the intent of the second part, which officially went into effect 100 days later on January 1, 1863, during the second year of the Civil War. The proclamation reads: “That on the first day of January in the year of our Lord, one thousand eight hundred and sixty-three, all persons held as slaves within any State, or designated part of a State, the people whereof shall then be in rebellion against the United States shall be then, thenceforward, and forever free; and the executive government of the United States, including the mil-

itary and naval authority thereof, will recognize and maintain the freedom of such persons, and will do no act or acts to repress such persons, or any of them, in any efforts they may make for their actual freedom.” As soon as the proclamation went into effect on January 1, 1863, it changed the legal status under federal law of more than 3.5 million enslaved African Americans in the secessionist confederate states from enslaved to free. The Civil War was still raging on, so this would mean a slave would need to escape the control of the Confederate government — either by running away across Union lines or through the advance of federal troops. Once in an area controlled by the Union, the person was permanently free. What seemed a victory was also argued as being limited in many ways. It applied only to states that had seceded from the United States, leaving slavery untouched in the loyal border states. It also exempted parts of the Confederacy that had already come under Northern control at that time. Most importantly, the freedom it promised depended on a United States of America “Union” military victory. Ultimately, that victory was won on May 9, 1865, and brought the proclamation into effect in all of the former Confederate states. Sadly, President Lincoln wouldn’t live to see the victory, as he was assassinated weeks earlier, shortly after winning a second term. When the Emancipation Proclamation was written, it suddenly transformed the character of the Civil War. The Proclamation announced the acceptance of black men into the Union Army and Navy, enabling the liberated to become liberators. By the end of the war, almost 200,000 black soldiers and sailors had fought for the Union and freedom. The original Emancipation Proclamation of January 1, 1863, is in the National Archives in Washington, DC. The text covering the five pages is handwritten and the documents were originally tied with narrow red and blue ribbons. The ribbons were attached to the signature page by a wafered impression of the seal of the United States. Most of the ribbon remains today; however, parts of the seal are deteriorated. JANUARY 2022 | bmonthly

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