2016 Alumni Memorial Service

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ALUMNI MEMORIAL SERVICE

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Order of Celebration “To live in this world, you must be able to do three things: To love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your life depends on it; and when the time comes to let it go, let it go.”

— Mary Oliver

Organ Prelude Adagio e Dolce (From the Trio-Sonata No. 3 in D minor by Johann Sebastian Bach)

Words of Welcome and Call to Memorial The Rev. Brittany Longsdorf, Multifaith Chaplain

*Gathering Hymn

“Come Down, O Love Divine” (Words: Bianco da Siena, tr. Richard Frederick Littledale. Music: Ralph Vaughan Williams)

*If you are able, please rise.

Reading

Excerpt from the sermon of the Rev. Peter Gomes ’65 at the Bates Alumni Memorial Service, June 13, 2010 Paul Bomely ’76 We are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, and in our day, and in our time, we will join them. What the young aspire to, what we still aspire to, these are the things that define who we are in this beloved community of memory and hope. And my hope is that we will never fail in that ambition. For, you see, it is our duty to remember.

Duty is a peculiarly Batesie word. You know it, and I know it. It is our duty to remember, to recall that which was, and to preserve the best of that for the time to come. The young, while they are young, may not get it. They get so little. But their time is coming, and some of them will learn from some of us that this duty to remember is not onerous. In many ways it is joyful.

So when we come back and engage in our duty to remember those gone before us, we in some sense are made whole again. Our classmates come back to us. Our experience is complete because of them and with them. And they are given new life in this place, which continues to give life to us and to others.

Musical Interlude

“Allein Gott in der Höh’ sei Ehr’” (“Alone, God, in Highest Heavens” by Johann Sebastian Bach)

Reading

John 19:28 After this, when Jesus knew that all was now finished, he said (in order to fulfill the scripture), “I am thirsty.”

Homily

The Rev. Lillian Jane Buckley ’81

Anthem

Earth Song

By Frank Ticheli Sing, Be, Live, See....This dark stormy hour, The wind, it stirs. The scorched earth cries out in vain: O war and power, you blind and blur.

The torn heart cries out in pain, in pain.

But music and singing have been my refuge, And music and singing shall be my light.

A light of song, shining strong: Alleluia! Alleluia!

Through darkness and pain and strife, I’ll sing, I’ll Be, Live, See.... Peace. Peace.

Introduction to the Procession of Flowers

The Rev. Raymond Clothier, Associate Multifaith Chaplain

Procession of Flowers You are invited to bring your flower forward and place it on the Memorial Wall in memory and honor of a beloved friend, family member, classmate, or colleague who has died.

At the End of the Year

By John O’Donohue William Hiss ’66

One:

The particular mind of the ocean Filling the coastline’s longing

Many:

With such brief harvest Of elegant, vanishing waves

One:

Is like the mind of time Opening us shapes of days.

Many:

As this year draws to its end, We give thanks for the gifts it brought

One:

And how they become inlaid within Where neither time nor tide can touch them.

Many:

The days when the veil lifted And the soul could see delight;

One:

When a quiver caressed the heart In the sheer exuberance of being here.

Many:

Surprises that came awake In forgotten corners of old fields

One:

Where expectation seemed to have quenched.

Many:

The slow, brooding times When all was awkward

One:

And the wave in the mind Pierced every sore with salt.

Many:

The darkened days that stopped The confidence of the dawn.

One:

Days when beloved faces shone brighter With light from beyond themselves;

Many:

And from the granite of some secret sorrow A stream of many tears loosened.

One:

We bless this year for all we have learned, For all we loved and lost

All:

And for the quiet way it brought us Nearer to our invisible destination.

Reading of Names

After the reading of the names, we will observe a moment of silence as the bell tolls in memory of the deceased.

Choral Response

Come, My Way, My Truth, My Life Music by Richard Delong, text by George Herbert Come, my Way, my Truth, my Life: such a way as gives us breath; such a truth as ends all strife; such a life as killeth death.

Come, my Light, my Feast, my Strength: such a light as shows a feast; such a feast as mends in length; such a strength as makes his guest.

Come, my Joy, my Love, my Heart: such a joy as none can move; such a love as none can part; such a heart as joys in love.

Prayers for the Dead The Mourner’s Kaddish Dylan Carson ’16 Translation Exalted and hallowed be God’s great name in this world of Divine creation.

May God rule in our own day, in our own lives, and in the life of all Israel; and let us say, Amen.

Let the Holy One’s great name be blessed forever and ever, praised and honored, extolled and glorified, adored, and exalted.

Supremely blessed be the Holy One, beyond all blessings and hymns, praises, and consolations, that may be uttered in this world; and let us say, Amen.

For us and for all Israel, may the blessing of peace and the promise of life come true; and let us say, Amen.

May the One who causes peace to reign in the heavens let peace descend upon us, upon all Israel, and upon the whole world; and let us say, Amen.

An excerpt from “The Prophet”

By Kahlil Gibran Mary Morton Cowan ’61 For what is it to die but stand naked in the wind And to melt into the sun?

And what is it to cease breathing, But to free the breath from its restless tides, That it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence Shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountain top, Then you shall begin to climb.

And when the earth shall claim your limbs, Then shall you truly dance.

Saying of the Buddha Translated by Thich Nhat Hanh John Ducker ’91 I am of the nature to grow old.

There is no way to escape growing old.

I am of the nature to have ill-health.

There is no way to escape having ill-health.

I am of the nature to die.

There is no way to escape death.

All that is dear to me and everyone I love Are of the nature to change.

*The College Hymn

“O God, Beneath Thy Guiding Hand” (Tune: Duke Street. Text: Leonard Bacon, 1838) O God, beneath thy guiding hand, Our exiled forebears cross’d the sea; And when they trod the wintry strand, With pray’r and psalm they worship’d Thee.

Thou heards’t, well pleased, the song, the prayer; Thy blessing came; and still its power Shall onward, through all ages, bear The memory of that holy hour.

Laws, freedom, truth, and faith in God Came with those exiles o’er the waves; And where their pilgrim feet have trod The God they trusted guards their graves.

And here Thy name, O God of love, Their children’s children shall adore, Till these eternal hills remove And spring adorns the earth no more.

*Benediction

The Rev. Raymond Clothier, Associate Multifaith Chaplain

**Organ Postlude

Toccata (from Organ Symphony No. 5 by Charles Marie Widor)

The Rev. Brittany Longsdorf, Multifaith Chaplain The Rev. Raymond Clothier, Associate Multifaith Chaplain Bagpipe music by Kate Savidge Special thanks to all those who helped with today’s service. *If you are able, please rise. **Please be seated for the Postlude.

In Memoriam Names of those who have passed away or those whose passing we have learned about in the last year

Doris Neilson Whipple ’34 Robert J. Darling ’36 June Lovelace Griffin ’36 Bernard A. Hutchins ’36 Eleanor Weiler Lucas ’36 Harriet VanStone Vernon ’36 Ruth Clough Mendall ’37, P’63, P’66, P’71, GP’99 Sadie E. Stevens ’39 Mary Bullard Hennessy ’41 Maizie Joy Newcomb ’41 Edward J. Raftery ’41, P’79 Warren Williams ’41 Elaine M. Hardie ’42 Martha Blaisdell Mabee ’42 Eleanor Davis Scully ’42 Chester W. Wezevitz ’42 Rose Worobel ’42 Thomas A. Doe ’43, P’68, GP’05 Dorothy Winslow Drew ’43 John E. Marsh ’43 Ruth Swanson Rollins ’43 David B. Sawyer ’43, P’72 Jane White Stoddard ’43, P’75 Richard Stoughton Jr. ’43 Stephen J. Bartlett ’44 Daniel C. Boothby ’44 Walter M. Davis ’44 Ruth Sullivan Finnegan ’44 Almon S. Fish Jr. ’44 Virginia Stockman Fisher ’44 Bonnie Laird Marsh ’44 Miriam Dolloff Chesley ’45 Arline Sinclair Finch ’45, P’70 Janice J. Freeman ’45 Elaine M. Harrison ’45 Elizabeth Haslam Henry ’45 Jean Phelps Lehnen ’45 Norman P. Morin ’45 A. Louise MacArthur Scholtes ’45 Beula Greenberg Diamond ’46 Joseph S. Dow ’46 Donald P. Richter ’46, P’77 Patricia Wilson Sanborn ’46, P’75, GP’14 Herbert L. Shulman ’46 Elizabeth Alma Stover ’46 Erma Rowe Sturgis ’46, P’69, GP’93 Doris Adams Beverlin ’47 Roberta Watson Libby ’47 Sophie Matus Rurak ’47 June Duval Smith ’47 Elizabeth A. Stover ’47 Jane Blossom Tolbert ’47

April 7, 2016 August 9, 2014 April 25, 2016 October 3, 2014 November 6, 2013 August 17, 2012 September 21, 2015 February 29, 2016 March 17, 2016 December 14, 2015 March 16, 2016 February 9, 2016 June 13, 2015 July 22, 2015 December 18, 2015 December 10, 2015 September 26, 2015 September 25, 2015 April 20, 2011 September 15, 2015 September 29, 2015 February 11, 2016 June 25, 2015 January 13, 2015 December 1, 2015 October 16, 2015 October 29, 2015 February 23, 2012 June 11, 2015 October 26, 2015 February 24, 2015 June 11, 2015 October 20, 2015 December 26, 2015 May 6, 2016 February 29, 2016 March 20, 2016 March 19, 2016 April 28, 2016 August 7, 2015 March 5, 2010 January 25, 2016 June 15, 2015 December 21, 2014 October 11, 2014 August 8, 2015 October 7, 2014 January 12, 2016 April 4, 2016 September 15, 2015 October 11, 2014 January 5, 2016

Peregrin F. Schwarzer ’48 August 1, 2015 Leighton Shields Jr. ’48, P’96 October 30, 2015 Marjorie McKeand Sturges ’48 February 9, 2016 Stanley B. Hall ’49 July 16, 2015 Athena Tikelis Kutrubes ’49, P’75, P’81, P’83 November 21, 2015 Nancy Jepson Leslie ’49 February 1, 2016 Jean M. Nauss ’49 March 11, 2016 Shirley Pease Sawyers ’49 June 3, 2015 June Ingalls Stevenson ’49 March 9, 2016 Carl L. Tibery ’49 December 6, 2014 Audrey Hudson Winslow ’49 November 1, 2015 Jane Appell de Beauport ’50 August 27, 2015 Barbara E. Chick ’50 October 13, 2015 Fred B. Dickerman ’50 April 28, 2015 Myles J. Ferrick ’50 September 17, 2015 S. Stephen Gilbert Jr. ’50 January 6, 2016 Imogene Rollins Krall ’50, P’77 February 9, 2015 Muriel Mansfield Leach ’50 May 19, 2015 Charles E. MacArthur ’50 July 18, 2015 Horace A. Record ’50 March 10, 2016 Leon C. Blackmon ’51 September 11, 2015 Lois Spofford Griffiths ’51, P’73, P’75, P’77, P’81 March 11, 2016 Owen J. Kittredge ’51, P’76 February 13, 2016 James R. Andrews ’52 February 25, 2013 Rinaldo J. Colby ’52 March 9, 2015 Sara P. Denby ’52 April 10, 2016 Cynthia A. Keating ’52 March 8, 2015 Ronald L. Kellam ’52 February 17, 2016 Nancy L. Kosinski ’52 February 27, 2016 William J. Leahey Jr. ’52, P’86, P’88 March 26, 2016 Robert R. Renwick ’52, P’83 April 11, 2016 Jean MacKinnon Rogers ’52, GP’01 February 23, 2015 John N. Wettlaufer ’52 September 20, 2015 Seymour E. Coopersmith ’53 November 6, 2015 Donald G. Giddings ’53 February 11, 2016 Norma K. Judson ’53 August 1, 2015 J. A. Palmer Jr. ’53 June 2, 2015 Charmaine Kinsley Slingerland ’53 January 6, 2016 Jacqueline Loveland Thomson ’53 June 8, 2015 William N. Thurston ’53 August 16, 2015 Milton C. Van Vlack ’53 April 15, 2016 Eleanor Root Burgess ’54 February 21, 2016 C. C. DiMaria ’54 November 29, 2015 Barbara M. Doane ’54 July 26, 2015 Meredith B. Handspicker ’54 February 28, 2016 E. K. Hempel Jr. ’54 March 30, 2016 Jill Durland LoMonaco ’54 August 16, 2015 Marilyn Skelton Patch ’54, P’78 August 12, 2014 John R. Sherman ’54 April 30, 2016 Shirley MacDonald Struthers ’54 February 2, 2016 Jerome D. Dubrow ’55 April 2, 2016 Alison Brown Grinder ’55 October 5, 2014

Edgar M. Holmes III ’55 Arthur H. Paton ’55 Daniel Rubinstein ’55 Hans H. Bauer Sr. ’56 M. Lewis Chaplowe ’56 Jacqueline Boucher Letendre ’56 Gilberta Morris Morrison ’56 David J. Olney ’56, P’81 Richard I. Johnson ’57 Ronald E. Dolloff ’58 Judith Perley Fitzgerald ’58 A. Theodore Lindquist Jr. ’58, P’85 Elizabeth Trotter Paiva ’58 Nancy Tobey Roy ’58 Arthur F. Wohllebe ’58 Mary K. Grant Farquhar ’59 David W. Hall ’59 Jeannette B. Rose ’59 Marc L. Schwarz ’59 Gene R. Verdier ’59 Diane Crowell ’60 Sally Sessions Culton ’60 Joy Anderson Downs ’60, P’92 William C. Hayes ’60, P’97 David J. Rushforth ’62 Lee H. Smith ’62, P’90, P’93, GP’19 John R. Cook ’63 Robert C. Huggard ’63 Alison White Muschinsky ’63, P’90 Nancy Prosser ’64 Peter M. Spooner ’64 Judith Magyar Isaacson ’65, LL.D.’94, GP’07 Robert L. Borland ’66 Wayne A. Pangburn ’66 Bonita Popek Peterson ’66 Elizabeth Clark Barrington ’67 Thomas A. Flach ’67 Roger J. Marecaux ’67 Charles L. Phillips III ’67 Steven F. Rogers ’67 Philip A. Towle ’67 Richard J. Gates ’68 Renee Phillips Reid ’68 Daniel J. Toran ’70 Leslie J. Miller ’72 Richard C. Woodman ’74 Helen Mahood Ball ’75 Douglas Caracappa ’76 Nicholas J. Dell’Erario ’77 Harry M. Landis IV ’77 Paul J. Loiero ’77 David E. Mathes ’77 Thomas R. Quinn ’77 Barbara J. Kittredge ’78 Timothy D. Hillman ’80 John A. Marder ’82 James L. Campbell Jr. ’84 Sheldon H. Wappler ’84

March 8, 2016 March 16, 2016 November 23, 2008 March 14, 2016 September 26, 2015 October 17, 2015 June 26, 2015 July 29, 2015 March 5, 2016 January 27, 2016 December 19, 2015 March 24, 2016 July 6, 2015 February 29, 2016 March 19, 2016 August 27, 2015 October 7, 2015 March 13, 2014 September 1, 2015 January 12, 2010 July 16, 2015 March 4, 2016 March 7, 2016 December 30, 2015 September 29, 2015 October 11, 2015 January 7, 2016 November 7, 2015 April 17, 2016 May 6, 2016 January 30, 2016 November 10, 2015 November 1, 1985 December 14, 2015 June 20, 2015 July 17, 2015 September 14, 2015 September 30, 2015 September 29, 2015 August 19, 2015 February 10, 2016 January 1, 2016 September 2, 2015 September 16, 2015 March 9, 2016 December 20, 2015 May 23, 2015 October 7, 2014 August 13, 2015 November 1, 2015 June 18, 2015 November 11, 2015 June 26, 2015 February 4, 2016 April 1, 2016 January 31, 2015 April 11, 2016 September 2, 2015

John Fiske III ’86 Mark P. Zengo ’86 Brenton J. Allen ’87 Holly A. Menoher ’91 Derek E. Boggs ’95 Jack N. Sandler ’02 Timothy C. Conn ’05 Derek S. Rocchini ’12 James K. Jhun ’16

January 7, 2016 September 2, 2015 March 6, 2016 February 8, 2016 April 15, 2015 November 19, 2015 November 29, 2014 June 24, 2015 January, 17, 2016

Faculty Emeriti Marsha A. Graef

November 16, 2015

Staff (Current and Retired) Ida A. Dumais Laurette Jalbert James A. Lamontagne Francis Lukaszewicz Theresa Y. Marcoux Mary M. Riley Agnes S. Spaulding Katharine F. Stevens Joshua R. Titus Sheila C. Walton Gordon W. Wilcox

December 22, 2015 June 16, 2015 April 2, 2016 April 19, 2015 November 8, 2009 October 23, 2015 May 21, 2015 August 5, 2015 April 6, 2016 December 27, 2015 June 13, 2015

Cheney Society Barbara Varney Randall ’46 Barbara E. Chick ’50 Anne D. Berkelman ’57 Paul W. MacAvoy ’55, LL.D.’76

November 22, 2015 October 13, 2015 February 19, 2016 February 24, 2016

Friends Roger S. Aaron Richard L. Achorn Ronald E. Blaisdell Bradford M. Blanchard Mardena K. Boyko Nancy B. Brannock John Osborn Chesley Miriam Colwell Richard York Coombs Margaret Dudley Corey James R. Costello Herbert E. Daitch Kenneth Berthoud Denby Pearl M. Ebert Louis Fishman Robert E. Grinder Suzanne Mulford Ham Lowell H. Harrison George Kerr Daniel M. Krajcik James G. Lehnen Uriel Levi Joane Gasior Milardo Robert F. Orr Steven R. Orr

February 11, 2012 February 7, 2016 October 19, 2015 June 30, 2015 January 10, 2013 April 7, 2013 January 27, 2011 December 14, 2014 April 25, 2015 March 6, 2015 July 9, 2015 October 3, 2011 January 1, 2000 December 18, 2014 November 9, 2015 August 14, 2012 September 28, 1961 October 12, 2011 February 26, 2016 May 28, 2010 October 27, 1975 March 16, 2008 June 29, 2012 October 19, 2005 July 2, 2014

William Reis Waldo A. Rowell Marvin Sadik James B. Satterthwaite Douglas M. Schair Barbara Sherman Thomas Aquinas Stanley Barbara Giffen Swain Ralph A. Taeger Nancy Joan Wiggin Mark W. Zacher Honorary Degree Recipients Derrick Bell LL.D. ’97 Leon A. Gorman LL.D. ’91 Marian T. McPartland D.Mus. ’89

December 1, 2015 October 25, 2015 May 29, 2013 January 23, 2008 January 27, 2005 April 30, 2016 August 1, 2013 February 4, 2011 March 11, 2015 November 28, 2015 October 25, 2014

October 5, 2011 September 3, 2015 August 20, 2013

Members of the Bates community who died after May 20, 2016, will be honored in 2017.