baystateparent magazine December 2019

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DECEMBER 2019

Home Births Rising in Popularity Can You Spot a Counterfeit Toy?

Giveaways Galore

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What Fun!

Holiday Festivals, Traditions, & Gifts

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‘Tis the season to make memories

As a kid, I got my share of amazing Christmas gifts. From bikes to baby dolls, there was plenty of good stuff under the tree over the years. The excitement of waking up on Christmas morning and running down the hall to see what Santa had brought was a magic I’ll never forget.

But when I think back on my most cherished holiday memories, the presents blur into the background. In fact, it’s a tradition that took place weeks before December 25 that’s probably my favorite to recall.

I can still remember the sound of the creaky attic stairs as, one by one, my parents would bring down the boxes of holiday decorations. I can remember the glee of unpacking what was inside: trinkets and garnish both familiar and distinctive. Old favorites were rediscovered; stories were recalled. We’d dance to Jingle Bell Rock, drink hot apple cider, and drape our home in cheer and memories.

Looking back, the anticipation of Christmas coming might have been better than the day itself.

There’s a lot of buildup this time

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of year for a particular day or event. For many of us parents, that’s Christmas morning. And in the hustle of bustle to get everything ready for that big moment, it can seem like the rest of the season passes by in a blur.

But what will your kids really remember? It’s not just one day that makes this the most wonderful time of the year. Remember to relish it all.

We’ve stocked this issue with ideas to make the most of this month with your family. On page 38, you’ll find a list of magical holiday experiences to share -- from quaint Christmas festivals to dazzling light displays.

And since it’s the season of giving, think about involving your children in charitable acts of kindness this month. On page 12, you can see how some local moms have made giving back part of their family traditions.

In this issue you’ll also find DIY gifts, mustmake recipes, and more ideas to make this a whole season to remember.

Enjoy the buildup and don’t get lost in the bustle. ‘Tis the season to make some memories.

Happy holidays!

Amanda

COVER CONTEST CUTIES ON THE COVER:

MEET OUR HOLIDAY COVER CONTEST WINNERS, Kennedy, 6, and Camden, 5, of Auburn.

Photo by Sue Bray portraitsbysuebray.com

Holy cuteness! Thanks to all who sent in their adorable seasonal shots for our first-ever Holiday Cover Contest.

Here’s a sampling of the darling photos we had to choose from. See all the entries online at baystateparent.com.

Emma Boudreau, 3, of Auburn.

Photo by Tiny Toes and Little Bows.

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Jacob, 4, of Brockton.

Photo by Charles at Portrait Simple.

Ryan Elizabeth, 3, of Holden.

Photo by Kelly Callahan Photography.

Wes, 3, and Ben, 1, of Plympton.

Photo by Mom.

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to know...

Six ‘small cities’ in the Bay State are among best in the country, study says Six cities in Massachusetts rank among the 20 best small cities in the state, according to Wallethub’s recent study, “2019’s Best Small Cities in America.”

The personal finance site took more than 1,200 U.S. towns and cities with a population between 25,000 and 100,000 and analyzed factors among five key dimensions - affordability, economic health, education and health, quality of life and safety.

Leawood, Kansas, topped the list. Here’s the six that ranked in Massachusetts: Arlington - #18 Newton - #16

Needham- #11 Milton - #7

Lexington - #6 Melrose - #4

Screen time might be physically changing kids’ brains

These could be the top baby names of 2020 Nameberry.com has released its Top 20 Names of 2020 List, calculating which names saw the biggest increases in interest from visitors to the website so far this year compared with last year.

The list features newly-minted names, rediscovered antiques, plus names imported from around the world. Other names reflect celebrity and pop culture influences.

Keep in mind, the list is just a prediction. According to Nameberry, we won’t know which names were actually used most often for babies in 2020 until May 2021.

Top Girl Names

Top Boy Names

Adah Reese Mika Paisley Amina Teagan Nova Aura Pearl Billie

Austin Alva Acacius Tate Diego Easton Lucius Cash Ash Luca

Top Unisex Names Ellis Phoenix Remy Marlowe Shea

Zephyr Darcy Rowan Quinn Emerson

Too much time looking at tablets, smartphones and television screens may actually be affecting brain development in young children, a new study has found.

Researchers at the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center found that preschool-age children who get more screen time than doctors recommend have differences in parts of the brain that support language, literacy and self-regulation. The study, published recently in JAMA Pediatrics, found that there were actual structural differences in the brain related to screen-based media use.

The study involved 47 children between 3 and 5 years old, and their parents. They were asked detailed questions about screen use, and their answers were scored against guidelines put out by the American Academy of Pediatrics. The kids also had their brains scanned in an MRI machine.

The scans revealed that kids who spent more time in front of screens had what the authors call lower “white matter integrity.”

The integrity of that structure is associated with cognitive function, and it develops as kids learn language.

Though researchers noted it’s not clear how these changes affect child development, they said the results raised questions about using screen-based media “during this rapid, formative state of brain development.”

“Screen-based media use is prevalent and increasing in home, childcare and school settings at ever younger ages,” Dr. John Hutton, the author of the study. “These findings highlight the need to understand effects of screen time on the brain, particularly during stages of dynamic brain development in early childhood, so that providers, policymakers and parents can set healthy limits.”

Currently, the AAP recommends children ages 2 to 5 limit screen use to 1 hour per day, and that children 18 to 24 months watch children’s programming only with their parents to help them understand what they’re seeing. Children younger than 18 months, they say, should avoid use of screen media other than video-chatting.

You can read the full study at jamanetwork.com.

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The Great Christmas Takeaway

BY JOSH FARNSWORTH ILLUSTRATION BY KIRA BEAUDOIN

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t’s my kind of time.

No, I am not finally in line to inherit the remote control for more than five uninterrupted minutes of side-stepping the kids’ shows for mine.

That time isn’t coming.

Not soon.

It is Christmastime!

Christmas is in full swing. Not semi-Christmastime prior to Halloween. We are in the epicenter of full-scale Yuletide cheer.

Christmas is impossible to ignore. This is especially true for a 3- and 6-year-old surrounded by family members (myself included) who obsess over the wonderments of December 25.

There are many components to Christmas that have become a part of the American fabric of Christmas celebrations.

For the young and unaccustomed, Christmastime can bombard us.

Heck, drive down any Massachusetts street in December and the millions of tiny lights illuminating the neighborhood let you know there is nowhere to hide.

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down. For my kids (and yours, if you accept this list of personal agenda items), I offer the Christmas takeaways I yearn for them to have...

• The only real estate worth stressing over is a well-frosted door on your gingerbread house.

• There is no such thing as too many lights on a house.

Same for candles in the window.

Light ‘em up!

• Fake trees are just as festive as real ones. Don’t let those pine-pushers make you feel different.

• Nothing wrong with Christmas shopping on Dec. 24.

As a journalist, it only made me stronger when facing a lifetime of deadlines.

• There are thousands of Christmas movies out there— hundreds on the Hallmark Channel alone. There is no wrong Christmas movie to watch. However, make sure you are present for at least one viewing of: Rudolph the Rednosed Reindeer, the Charlie Brown Christmas special, Elf and It’s a Wonderful Life. Side note: this only applies if you relinquish the remote control.

• Don’t wish for a “white Christmas.” Wish for a “lightly dusted Christmas.” Walking around in a New England postcard looks nice with all the white stuff, but not so cute when you’re trying to navigate the roadways.

• Gingerbread, eggnog, peppermint and sugar cookies are nice holiday flavors, but they are all runners-up to cinnamon.

Go ahead and debate me on this one. You’ll lose. Name one cinnamon-flavored holiday treat you dislike. I’ll wait for you to think of one… …See? Nothing.

• When you go caroling, do it with the confidence of a 3- or 6-year-old loaded up on candy canes and carrying a questionable amount of sleep.

• Ugly sweaters should be required at every fancy Christmas party. And the ugliest at every said party shall be its king or queen.

• Those who participate in Elf on a Shelf rituals should be in charge of running this country.

They have creativity, organize themselves well, show a great deal of patience and are actively and consistently engaged (all

the social media posts are evidence enough of this). Vote Elf on Shelfers this November.

• Santa is an amazing dude, but he is not a genie. Let’s keep his sleigh as light as possible.

I suppose much of this content is personal and up for debate.

Except the cinnamon piece, of course. I’m right about that.

But there is one last Christmas box to check, which is certainly not specific to Christmastime: kindness.

It really is the only box to ever check.

All the lights and presents and fresh smells and carefully-wrapped and presented seasonal tidings can be intoxicating when ensconced in red and green. Those things run shallow, though, if we trudge through without considering others.

We’re lucky to have the time and resources to celebrate Christmas the way we do. Not everyone has that luxury.

Kids, I want you to understand the religious reasons why we celebrate Christmas, but exercise kindness at every juncture for those who do not. We are linked arm-in-arm in our communities with neighbors, friends and rel-

atives who celebrate everything from Christmas to Hanukkah to Kwanzaa.

Maybe they partake in Festivus on Dec. 23. No excuses for showing anything less than genuine kindness.

Always.

Whether you celebrate or not, I hope your December is jampacked with positive vibes and cinnamon-flavored treats.

Most importantly, I hope you find your December filled with kindness. It’s my kind of time.

Let’s hope that transfers over to January 2020 and beyond as well.

Merry Christmas! And, Santa, if you are listening, I’ll take those five minutes with the remote control now, please.

Josh Farnsworth is a husband, father of goofballs Cooper and Milo, goofball himself, and award-winning writer and columnist living in Worcester.

He can be reached for column ideas at josh. farnsworth@ yahoo.com.

Kids Communicate Through Behavior…

Actually, We All Do

BY DR. ELAINE HEFFNER

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hen mothers wonder what is causing a child’s behavior that is worrying them, they usually know the answer themselves. They know the answer because they have understood the child’s behavior.

Their seeming confusion comes in part from not having enough confidence in their own answer.

But it may also come from not liking the answer.

Children communicate through behavior. Actually, we all do. As adults we have a greater mastery of language - and hopefully of our feelings - which enables us to communicate to others more clearly and directly. Not always, though. If a spouse blows up seemingly for no reason, we might think something must have happened at work or wonder if we did something to cause the behavior or just feel angry at the outburst.

Everyone communicates through behavior as well as words; we interpret the behavior and our interpretations influence our response.

The same is true of our interactions with our children. If a child becomes angry and defiant, or unusually quiet and withdrawn, we try to figure out what that behavior means. The problem comes when our own reaction to the behavior interferes with our ability to understand it.

Angry and defiant behavior is very unpleasant, so the focus becomes the behavior itself what to do about the behavior.

But how can you know what to do about the behavior if you haven’t stopped to understand what it - or your child - is telling you?

If you ask a mother, “What do

you think he is so angry about?” mom may say he resents all the attention his sister has been getting or he is angry at her for restricting his watching television. In the same way, the mother of a withdrawn child might say her daughter feels excluded by some of the girls at school or that she may be reacting to too many after school activities.

In both instances our emotional response to the behavior

gets in our way. A child’s angry or defiant behavior often makes us angry in turn. Withdrawn or unhappy-seeming behavior can cause us to worry that something is wrong. To the degree that we’re angry or worried, it seems that the behavior must have some special meaning that is beyond our grasp. We may start to label the behavior as “bad” or “not normal” and look for methods that will fix it.

A child’s behavior, (adults’ behavior, too, if you think about it,) has two parts. One part is the communication and the other part is the means of delivery. We often don’t like the behavior - the method of communication - and so forget to think about the message itself.

But sometimes we also don’t like the message. We don’t like it if a child is angry at us. We don’t like to know that something is making our child unhappy. We may not like hearing it, but hearing the message can tell us how to begin to respond to it. The behavior is an expres-

sion of how strongly a child feels about something, but the message tells us what he feels so strongly about. We have to address both the message and the feelings. If we want to correct the method of delivery (the behavior), we have to first show that we heard the message.

The point is not to turn away from your own understanding of what your child’s behavior is about - whatever the behavior is. The behavior persists when the child feels not heard. The same is true for us as adults, too. We all want to feel understood, even when we can’t have what we want.

Elaine Heffner, LCSW, Ed.D., is the author of “Goodenoughmothering: The Best of the Blog,” as well as “Mothering: The Emotional Experience of Motherhood after Freud and Feminism.” She is a psychotherapist, parent educator, and senior lecturer of education in psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College. She blogs at goodenoughmothering. com.

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5 Ways to

Family Health This Holiday Season

BY SAAD AND RAY DINNO

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he holidays are an exciting time of year, filled with festive gatherings, home cooked meals and maybe a road trip to Grandma’s house.

Yet, we also know that this time of year can mean catching colds and other illnesses that detract from all the fun. To help keep you and your family healthy this season, we’ve listed five things to keep in mind so that you can all enjoy the holidays.

1. Balance your plate We know that at the heart of every holiday party is a table filled with cookies, cakes and other desserts. If you and your family are frequent party-goers this month, you may find your kids’ sugar consumption at an all-time high. To offset this imbalance, offer to bring a fruit or vegetable tray to your next gathering. Presenting an alternative to the sugary sweets will encourage kids to add an assortment of food to their plate, so that they are still getting nutrients along with a few treats. Sugar actually lowers our immune systems, spikes and then zaps our energy, and when paired with the stress of travel and lack of sleep during the holidays, heightens the risk of illness. So, next time you come face-to-face with another dessert tray, encourage your kids to create a more balanced plate, mixed with fruits, veggies and of course, a few treats.

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what vitamins and supplements could be helpful health aids this time of year. Elderberry, sometimes referred to as Sambucus, is an immune-boosting supplement that reduces inflammation and is packed with antioxidants to help fight cold and flu symptoms. Look for brands that sell it without any added sugar. Monolaurin is another immune-boosting supplement made from lauric acid, which is found in coconut oil. It has multiple anti-viral properties and helps fight cold and flu. Vitamin C is also known for its role in supporting the immune system and is available in a variety of dosage forms including capsules, powder and tablets. Don’t forget, of course, to continue taking your daily probiotic to maintain a healthy gut.

3. Wash, wash, wash your hands Washing your hands is an easy thing to do, yet sometimes we forget. This is particularly important to remember in busy places such as malls or airports, where thousands of people are visiting each and every day. If your child is feeling a bit under the weather, as a courtesy to others, have them stay home and rest up. While it can be frustrating for kids to miss out on the holiday activities, it’s better to avoid spreading illnesses at school and in other places, and for them to take the time to recover in the comfort of their own home. Remind your kids to use soap and warm water for at least 20 seconds, or sing “Happy Birthday” to themselves two times through. While hand

sanitizer is quick and easy to use, it is still no match for soap and warm water. Keep this mind when you and your family are out and about this December.

4. Don’t forget your flu shot If you haven’t already gotten your flu shot, it’s not too late. By December, flu season is already well underway, and sure to be an unwelcomed guest this holiday. The flu shot is particularly important for children, as they are at high risk for contracting the illness, and is recommended by the CDC for everyone above six months of age. Remember that the flu vaccine is the best way to reduce your family’s risk of catching the flu and disrupting your holiday plans.

5. Bundle up and get outside Getting some fresh air is always important, and playing outside in the snow is a great way to get outside. Going outside in the colder weather speeds up metabolism and also boosts vitamin D. However, before your kids to head outside, make sure they are properly bundled up. Hats, gloves, boots and a coat, of course, are a must for sledding and building snowmen. We highly recommend dressing in layers, too, for added warmth. Outdoor activity in the winter is an easy way to limit screen time indoors and plays an important role in your child’s health and development.

Saad and Ray Dinno, brothers, are registered pharmacists and co-owners of Acton Pharmacy, Keyes Drug in Newton, and West Concord Pharmacy.

Buying Toys Online?

Make Sure They’re Not Knock-Offs

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t can be hard to tell the difference between an authentic and a counterfeit toy -- especially when you’re shopping online. And while a recent survey found that nearly 70 percent of toy-purchasing parents don’t believe there’s any way imitation toys are being sold on major online marketplaces, unfortunately, they’re wrong.

Findings from Wakefield Research say that nearly 1 in 3 parents don’t realize counterfeit toys are lurking online, representing a blind spot through which fraudulent toys that might be unsafe can slip into households.

There’s a few issues with knock-off toys. First, they’re a rip off. But more importantly, imitation toys can pose a real danger to children since they haven’t been vetted with safety tests and verified to comply with U.S. toy safety standards.

“U.S. toy safety standards are among the strictest in the world,” said Joan Lawrence, senior vice president of standards and regulatory affairs at The Toy Association. “Before reaching your house, toys are subject to over a hundred safety standards and tests and must be certified compliant by a third-party testing lab.”

More than a third (34 percent) of moms and dads surveyed didn’t know that counterfeit toys are not always tested for safety.

“Unfortunately, bad actors frequently outside our nation manage to infiltrate online marketplaces, so we continually alert and educate parents on how to protect themselves by purchasing toys only from honest, legitimate manufacturers

How to avoid purchasing counterfeit toys lurking online and sellers,” said Steve Pasierb, president and CEO of The Toy Association.

Many parents admit that they might gamble on unverified sellers when they’re searching for the perfect gift or if they find a deal they can’t pass up.

In the survey, 32 percent said they’d buy a toy from an unverified seller if it was out of stock everywhere else, and 27 percent said they’d be enticed by a lower price.

How can you spot a counterfeit toy online? First, do some sleuthing. Parents are advised to dig a little deeper into a lesser-known seller’s online presence and reviews to be sure the toy they are considering is authentic – and therefore, safe.

Can’t find a website for the manufacturer or seller at hand?

That’s one red flag.

Multiple grammatical errors in a product description or poorly photoshopped pictures are more red flags.

The Toy Association says an alternative is to visit the toy brand’s website and either purchase directly from the site or follow links to an official retailer to purchase.

Finally, if a deal seems too good to be true, it probably is.

The product might be a counterfeit or imitation.

Other Important Toy Safety Guidelines The Toy Association is urging parents, grandparents, and other gift givers to ensure their kids stay safe by following important safety

tips – not just leading up to the holidays, but all year long.

Age Grading An alarming 96 percent of parents are confident that their children can play with a toy even if they are younger than the toy’s age recommendation, according to a recent survey of 1,000 U.S. parents conducted by Wakefield Research on behalf of The Toy Association. But the age-grading on a toy isn’t related to how smart a child is or merely a suggestion — it’s based on the developmental abilities of kids at a given age and the specific features of a toy. When children play with a toy above their age grade, they might misuse the toy and get hurt. Age grading is found directly on toy packaging or in the product descriptions for all legitimate toys sold online.

Small Parts Pay special attention to toys labeled 3+, since these toys may contain small parts that can be a choking hazard for children under three (or kids who still mouth toys). Toys with small parts will be labeled, so keep a careful eye out as you shop, and consider getting a Small Parts Tester (available in the baby-proofing section of most toy stores) to test other small objects found around the home.

Household Dangers Kids can find ways to play with anything – including objects that are not toys, like small powerful magnets (found in executive desk toys) or button cell batteries (from remotes, hearing aids, and so on). These objects are not meant to be played with and can be very danger-

ous if accidentally swallowed.

Always keep them out of children’s reach.

Parents are encouraged to share these tips with grandparents and other gift-givers and to supervise children and demonstrate safe play.

“Showing little ones how to properly use a toy or game is the best way to make sure they understand how to safely enjoy it. Best of all, playing together as a family is lots of fun and even has enhanced developmental benefits for children,” added Lawrence.

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Teaching Kids to

Give Back

During the Holidays

Local moms share the fun ways their families get into the spirit of the season

BY JOAN GOODCHILD

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he holidays are a busy time, and many families have a long list of commitments

and plans to get to each year. With so many things they need to get done, parents know time is tight. This season can be both overwhelming and joyous.

But amid all of the hustle and bustle, this time of year can serve as an opportunity to stop, reflect and give back in ways that reflect the spirit of the giving season.

Involving your children in charitable acts of kindness and donation sends a powerful message that the holidays are not just about gifts, food and fun. It is also a time for compassion, to serve others and reflect on the needs of those who are less fortunate.

Simple or grand gesture.

Community service or your own private family tradition. All are meaningful and soul-enriching for both those who receive – and those who give. I asked around my local community in Shrewsbury for ideas on how families like to give back this time of year.

Toy Drives Toy Drives are one of the most popular ways to teach your children about giving back and acts of kindness. Well-known charitable organizations such as Toys for Tots and the Salvation Army hold drives around the state all season.

“With 32 Corps across Massachusetts and service extension units that serve every zip code in the state, our toy drives and holiday assistance programs vary in every community,” said Heather MacFarlane, the organization’s director of communications, marketing and public relations.

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tions around Massachusetts which allow volunteers to select tags with requests from families who need assistance this time of year and purchase those items.

“We’ve always made it a point to donate toys to Toys for Tots and through a collection with the Scout pack as well,” said Anne Gray, a mom of two. “Most of the time the things we donate are things they themselves would like to get. While getting it would make them feel good, making someone else feel good with that item is an even better feeling!”

Clean out and brighten someone’s day The things we no longer need can be very helpful for others. Instead of a spring or fall clean out, the holidays can be a time to look around and see what you have that could be put to good use elsewhere. Eirinn Campaniello and her daughters, Michaela and Maria, have a holiday tradition that includes bringing party dresses to families in need.

“Years ago, I read about a small temporary family shelter near Newton Square in Worcester. Since then, before the Christmas and Easter holidays, the gals and I gather up all their no-longer-fitting fancy dresses, shoes and sweaters and we bring them to the shelter. Usually there are a couple of girls there who fit into what we’ve brought. It makes us all feel good that these clothes, worn at so many festive family occasions, will go on to make someone else feel special on Christmas Eve or Easter morning.”

Visit a nursing home Residents at nursing homes or assisted living facilities may not have family nearby to spend the holidays with them. Call ahead and find out if some of the local elderly housing organizations in your town offer opportunities to visit and bring cards

or sing carols.

Deanna Swan, program director at Southgate, an assisted living facility in Shrewsbury, said the annual tradition of a visit from a local Cub Scout pack is always meaningful for the residents.

“Every year around holidays they come and carol in our dining room,” said Swan. “What I tell the kids is that what they are doing is important. When kids come visit, it’s an intergenerational experience and I think it gives our folks a sense of hope. It makes the biggest difference to our residents to see kids who are being brought up to have values.”

Swan said in addition to caroling, some children bring holiday cards or just visit with the residents, which is appreciated by many.

Adopt a family Many local organizations, schools and religious groups organize efforts to sponsor a family over the holiday season.

This gives kids a chance to buy or make gifts for another family in need and help them make the holidays bright. Gift requests can range from clothing and essential items, to fun gifts like toys.

“Our family always supports Toys for Tots, but this year we’ll sponsor a family,” said Kelly Molter, a mom of two. “We want our children to be grateful, but I think sometimes it can be difficult to teach gratitude without any context. So I’m hoping when they see the simple things these families are asking for it might give them a greater sense of appreciation.”

Donate to a food pantry – or deliver food Bringing kids on a special shopping trip to buy food items for a food pantry is another powerful message about the basic needs some families have over the holidays. Check with your local pantry about which nonperishable goods are in demand around the holidays and have your kids fill the cart and then bring the items in for donation.

Many pantries or shelters may also offer volunteer opportunities to deliver holiday meals.

Lisa Vuona and her daughter Lily have made meal delivery part of their family tradition.

“Lily and I have delivered turkey dinners on Thanksgiving day for the past few years,” she

said “We pick up the meals from the food pantry and they give us addresses and then we deliver them. It’s a good lesson on being thankful for all that we have.”

Bake cookies or casseroles Sure, cooking with kids can be a little messy at times. But many love spending time with you in the kitchen. And what better way to make use of what you create than by bringing your homemade desserts to those who need to be at work during the holidays?

Bring treats to your local fire department or police station, or make a meal and take it to an elderly neighbor.

“Last year during Christmas

we made some cookies and dropped them off at the police and fire station to thank them,” said Jenn Luke, a mom of two.

“I have conversations with the kids all the time about how there are many children out there who are much less fortunate than them and they should do their best to be kind and help out either with some gifts or their time.”

Engage in small gestures with big meaning Even a seemingly tiny gesture can have significant impact when it comes to teaching kids about the meaning of the holidays. Kristen Hawkins enjoys

teaching her son, Calvin, about taking time to appreciate others this time of year.

“When I was little, I always remember going grocery shopping with my grandmother and she would save a dollar for us to give to Salvation Army bell ringers each week during the season,” she said. “It sounds like a little, but at the time not having a lot ourselves, it felt like more.

And more importantly, I remember her taking the time to talk to the person volunteering. I’ve tried to carry on the tradition.

Calvin has become very savvy on how to fold a bill to get it to fit in with ease and always remembers

to thank the bell ringer.”

Whether it is getting out there to volunteer for a visit, or an entire day, or just finding a way to take a few minutes to say thank you to other volunteers, there are so many ways to teach valuable lessons to children this year. The opportunities are all over your community.

Joan Goodchild is a veteran writer and editor and mom of two living in Central Massachusetts.

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Start a New

Holid� Tradition Anything that makes memories is a good idea, experts say

BY MELISSA ERICKSON

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rom cookie baking to game night, read-aloud storytimes to chopping down your own Christmas tree, family traditions create memories, teach values and bring a sense of belonging and connectedness.

Think of them as the glue that keeps families together from when children are small and as they grow, leave home and start their own families.

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“A tradition can be something simple that happens frequently, such as going to get a hot chocolate after a sports practice or a game. Other traditions may only take place once a year and are more elaborate, like the large family dinner at the holidays that is always at a certain grandparent’s house,” said Mary Dell Harrington and Lisa Heffernan, co-founders of Grown and Flown, an online community for parents of teens and young adults.

“Traditions evoke memories

that are multi-sensory, such as how the turkey smells at Thanksgiving or how hot the sand feels at a favorite summer beach vacation. These memories of family traditions may represent some of the very happiest times in a family’s life and serve as reminders of family closeness,” said Harrington and Heffernan, co-authors of “Grown & Flown: How to Support Your Teen, Stay Close as a Family and Raise Independent Adults.”

Starting a tradition may be

easier when children are small, when parents are more in control of the family calendar, Harrington and Heffernan said.

As they grow, kids and teens can take part in planning new traditions.

“For example, board games are very popular with teens and young adults now and, if they want to begin a tradition of playing a game with you after Thanksgiving dinner, give it a try to learn the game and carve out time to play it with them. Nurture the tradition of time together,” Harrington and Heffernan said.

Many family traditions revolve around food.

“Food feels like family. It’s what we first know. It’s what surrounds us: family, love, comfort, security, home,” said Jorj Morgan, author of cooking, entertaining and lifestyle books including “Fresh Traditions: Classic Dishes for a Contemporary Lifestyle.”

“We pass down family traditions because we want to surround our children and grandchildren with the feelings of love and security those traditions gave us,” Morgan said.

If your family wants to create a new family tradition include a bit of humor, said Morgan, who shared a bit of family lore.

Many Thanksgivings ago, Morgan’s family walked into her mother’s home and instantly knew something was off.

“There was no turkey smell.

It was the year grandma forgot to cook the turkey. She had trimmed it and put it in the oven but forgot to turn it on. Then

she was busy getting ready for all of us to show up and never noticed. So instead we ate ham sandwiches for Thanksgiving dinner with all the sides. Now years later we have a baked ham in addition to turkey as a tribute to grandma and as a laugh,” Morgan said.

To keep traditions alive families need to be flexible, especially as children grow up and apart as kids leave home.

“If traditions begin to feel restrictive rather than celebratory, it may be time to examine how to continue to embrace the spirit of the tradition while making small adjustments to the practice,” Harrington and Heffernan said.

If you’re not already doing these, here are some fun traditions to start: 1. Use an Advent calendar or DIY calendar to count down to Christmas.

2. Write letters to Santa.

3. Visit a Christmas tree farm.

4. Trim the tree as a family.

5. Start an ornament collection.

6. Have the kids make a decoration each year.

7. Set up a hot cocoa bar on Christmas Eve. 8. See holiday lights in different neighborhoods.

9. Bake cookies with the kids.

10. Wear matching holiday pajamas.

11. Take a holiday photo at the same time each year.

12. Research other cultures’ holiday traditions and try one.

13. Volunteer.

14. Ask everyone to contribute to a holiday playlist.

There’s nothing better than a homemade gift made with love. These four crafts are easy enough for any kid to do - and they’re gifts that grown-ups will really use. Plus, they’re all super cheap to make (you might even have all the stuff you need laying around your house already!).

Tile Coasters What you need: • Ceramic tiles (we scored ours from Home Depot for 8 cents a piece!)

• Acrylic paint • Clear gloss protective finishing spray • Felt furniture pads • Painter’s or masking tape (optional) How to make them: Decide on the design you’re going for. You can tape of sections to create a pattern, or paint the entire tile. Then, get painting! If you’re painting with multiple colors, be sure to let each color dry before adding the next.

Allow paint to dry completely overnight. If you taped your tiles, remove tape now. (Tip: run an x-acto knife along the edges of the tape before pulling it off to be sure paint stays put.)

Spray with gloss finishing spray and allow to dry completely.

Stick four felt pads on the corners of each tile.

Stack coasters and tie together with twine or ribbon.

Sock Cup Cozy What you need: • Long adult-size sock • Hot glue or fabric glue • Embellishments (buttons, ribbon, jewels, beads, etc.)

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How to make it: Cut about a 3-inch section off the top of your sock and glue on desired embellishments. Slide onto your mug and… you’re done! No sewing required.

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DIY Dish Towels What you need: • Plain white flour sack kitchen towels • Fabric markers • Pencil and painter’s or masking tape (optional) How to make them: Let kids draw whatever their heart desires with the fabric markers on the towels.

For older kids who want to create a more sophisticated design, try stretching the towel out over your workspace and taping the corners down to make it taut, and easier to color on. Use a dull pencil to sketch out the design before going over it with the fabric markers.

Dry flat overnight before washing.

Scribble or Dot Mug What you need: • Plain white ceramic mug • Oil-based Sharpies or paint pens • Alphabet stickers How to make it: Wash mug and dry it well. Peel and stick stickers to the mug with the letter, word, or quote you want, making sure they are smooth with no air bubbles. (You can also add star, polka dot, or heart-shaped stickers around the word to add to your design).

If you have a young child, let them scribble away on the mug.

Older kids might want to try a polka dot pattern -- color dots closely around the stickers first, then spread them out as you get further away from the pattern.

Let pen dry completely, then gently peel off stickers.

Bake mug in the oven at 400 degrees for 30 minutes.

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The Elsewhere USA Scratch Off Map lets kids scratch, write on and explore in ways most maps don’t. It’s an interactive way to learn about the places they’ve gone, locations they can visit and other facts, figures, and notes. $19.99. amazon.com.

3. The Synth Wave Kit from Tech Will Save Us allows kiddos get creative with sound waves, learning how to create electronic music and produce beats like a pro. They can record, layer and share their own tracks. Let them push their imaginations to the max, discovering the wonderful world of electronic music. $34.99. techwillsaveus.com.

2. For as long as there have been blankets and chairs, there have been forts. Kids love forts, but they never want to clean up the mess they’ve made. AirFort is an easy-to-putaway floorless fort that attaches to a box fan and inflates in seconds. A mesh protector inside keeps curious hands away from the fan. $49.95. airfort.com.

4. What better time to start learning a new

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instrument? With fewer strings and less tension, the ukulele is easier to learn than the guitar, and within a few days of practice, kids can start making music and playing songs. KeiKi Ukuleles, for ages 5+, are designed for little ones to learn to pluck, strum, and play. $29.99. keikiukuleles.com.

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A warm breakfast on Christmas morning is easy with these two overnight casseroles. Prep them the night before and pop them in the oven when you wake up. One is sweet and one is savory -- sure to please kids and guests alike

Overnight Egg Casserole Ingredients 8 slices of bread, cubed 1 pound ground sausage, browned and drained (or substitute cooked cubed ham or cooked crumbled bacon) 2 cups grated cheddar cheese 4 eggs, beaten ¾ teaspoon dry mustard 3 cups milk 1 can (10.5 oz) cream of mushroom soup Directions Place cubed bread in greased 9x13 baking dish. Layer sausage over bread, then sprinkle with cheese.

In a bowl, combine beaten eggs, dry mustard, and 2 ½ cups of milk. Pour over ingredients in the dish.

Cover and refrigerate overnight.

When ready to bake, combine soup and the remaining ½ cup of milk and pour over all ingredients. Bake at 300 degrees for 1 ½ hours.

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Crème Brûlée French Toast Casserole Ingredients 1 stick salted butter 1 cup packed dark brown sugar 1 tablespoon corn syrup 1 (16-inch) pre-sliced French bread 5 large eggs 1 ½ cups half-and-half 1 teaspoon vanilla 1 tablespoon amaretto (or substitute more vanilla) Maple syrup and pecans, optional Directions In a small saucepan, melt butter with brown sugar and corn syrup over medium heat, stirring until smooth. Pour into a greased 9x13 baking dish.

Arrange bread slices in one layer over the sauce, squeezing if necessary to fit in the dish.

In a bowl, whisk together eggs, half-andhalf, vanilla and amaretto. Pour mixture over bread. Cover and refrigerate overnight.

When ready to bake, preheat oven to 350 degrees. Bake, uncovered, on middle rack until edges of bread are lightly golden, about 35-40 minutes. Serve with syrup and pecans.

Laurie Silva Collins, known affectionately as Goose by her grandkids, is a nurse, mother and grandmother who is happiest when she’s in the kitchen, cooking and baking for those she loves. She learned to cook from her parents, and has perfected her recipes over the years while raising three daughters… and spoiling seven grandchildren.

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ove over dairy: Plant-based alternatives like almond, soy, rice and oat milks now make up 15 percent of the milk market, according to the Plant Based Food Association. All these choices can add up to confusion for some parents.

“There are many issues to think about when deciding on a milk choice for your family. We are essentially the only species on the planet that knowingly and purposefully drinks the milk of another species, even going so far as to breed cows to produce high amounts of milk for humans to consume,” said dietitian Dana Hunnes.

When choosing milk or milk alternatives for their families, parents need to think about things like nutritional impact (calories, protein, types of fat) as well as endogenous hormones in the product.

“Many people wrongly fear phytoestrogens in soy products when I believe they should be more fearful of the higher amounts of analogous estrogen in cow’s or goat’s milk,” Hunnes said. “Because these are animals, their estrogen is basically the same as our own and behaves the same way in our bodies whereas the phytoestrogens do not.”

Affordable and easily available, traditional milk offers a unique nutritional profile with nine essential nutrients: calcium, potassium, phosphorus, protein, vitamins A, D and B12, riboflavin and niacin, said registered dietitian Jean RagalieCarr, president of the National Dairy Council. Eight ounces of milk has 8 grams of protein regardless of whether it’s no-fat, whole or even flavored, Ragalie-Carr said.

Without drinking milk, a regular diet is often incapable of providing the necessary amount of calcium, potassium and vitamin D recommended by U.S. dietary guidelines for children and adults, RagalieCarr said.

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ethical side of how dairy cows are raised are other considerations, said Hunnes, who has chosen soy milk, almond milk and coconut milk for her family. Soy milk is a favorite because it contains a lot of protein but no added sugar.

Through the years, the healthfulness, nutritional profile and taste has improved, which has helped push people in the direction of milk alternatives, Hunnes said.

“When I stopped drinking cow’s milk in 2001, there were only two brands of soy milk on the market and no almond milk,” she said.

The major differences are protein content, sugar content and other trace minerals, Hunnes said.

Oat milk has a little more protein than cashew, almond or coconut milk and a little naturally occurring sugar. Some people find unsweetened cashew and almond milks more watery, Hunnes said. Hemp and rice milks usually have added calcium and sometimes added sugar to make them comparable calcium-wise to cow’s milk, Hunnes said. Pea milk is a newer plantbased beverage made from pea protein.

What’s the difference in 1 cup?

- Cow’s milk contains 8 grams of protein, 12 grams of sugar, 300 mg of calcium, some phosphorus and other trace minerals.

- Unsweetened organic soy milk contains 7 grams of protein, less than 1 gram of sugar, often 300-400 mg of calcium, some phosphorus and other trace minerals.

- Unsweetened cashew or almond milk frequently contains less than 1 gram of protein, less than 1 gram of sugar, phosphorus and trace minerals. It is not naturally a good source of calcium but many varieties are supplemented with calcium and vitamin D. - Coconut milk (the kind in the refrigerator aisle) tends to be low in protein and if unsweetened will also be low in sugar. It usually has calcium and other minerals.

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BY KERRY MCCREA MS, BCBA, LABA

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he holiday countdown has begun. Invitations have been extended and preparations are in full swing.

For many families, it’s custom to gather together for a special holiday meal. For children with autism, a holiday meal — from sitting at a table to the texture and taste of various foods — can be quite overwhelming. How can you help your child prepare?

Here are some guidelines to help children and families with ASD prepare for that special meal: What’s on the agenda? Before you do anything else, determine what the day will hold. If you are not hosting the holiday meal, inquire with your host as to what is on the menu and whether it will be a sit-down or buffet-style meal. Then, set up a visual schedule for your child. (This is appropriate for both younger and older children.) A visual schedule is used to preview the events of the day so that your child will know what is going to occur. The

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visual schedule can have pictures, text, or both. Pictures are generally used with both younger and older children. However, if your child is older, able to read, and doesn’t require a picture to inform them about the day, he or she may feel more comfortable with a schedule with only words as they may find the pictures unnecessary. Consider using photos you already have to create a visual schedule, or you may be able to find food and related images on the Internet.

A social narrative would also be appropriate. A social narrative includes pictures and text that tells a story about the day.

The story can be read by your child, or your child can listen and follow along or read the story aloud with you, in a preview of the upcoming events. What’s the environment going to be? Who is going to be there? About oneto-two weeks in advance, start reviewing your visual schedule or social narrative with your child each day, including on the day of the event.

Table time. If you would like your child to participate in the holiday meal and your child does not currently sit at a table at mealtime, then you’ll need to

start rehearsing sitting at a table well in advance. Your child may also have to get used to having food on a plate in front of him or her. Practice each day, and gradually increase the increments of time sitting at a table.

If your child cannot vocalize what they want, be sure to use picture/text cards during practice and bring them to the holiday meal. This way, your child can point out what they would like, such as more potatoes or another dinner roll.

Unfamiliar food. Although the main course may not be truly exotic, new flavors and textures of foods that are unfamiliar to your child may be well outside their comfort zone. Introduce these new foods to your child days or weeks prior to the holiday meal. Encourage your child to touch and smell the food first.

If your child does taste it and doesn’t like it, or refuses to taste it, opt for a food that is close to what will be served at the holiday meal, but with a texture that is acceptable to your child.

For example, if your child does not like roast turkey, then opt to serve your child a different texture of the same food, such as deli turkey.

Bring your own plate. If your child is able to adjust to new foods in advance, that’s great. If not, don’t stress about it. Pack up foods they like and bring the items with you to the dinner. Be sure to include plates and utensils that they are used to, as well.

Scents and sensory overload.

Although the scent of cinnamon, pumpkin, roast beef, turkey or seafood may be familiar to you – these and other food aromas may be new to your child. If possible, cook a mock meal of the foods that will be served. Roast turkey on the menu? Check with your local supermarket as they may carry a rotisserie turkey which you could use for your mock meal. Look for candles, scented markers or stickers with the scents of various foods so your child can get used to them and they are not overwhelming, but familiar and identifiable.

Eliminate the wait. Is there a children’s table or will everyone be seated at the same table?

Determine in advance where your child will sit. To minimize waiting while everyone comes to the table and is served, seat your child last and have their plate ready to go. Seat your child at the end of the table if possible,

to ensure that your child does not feel confined (sandwiched between other guests) and to enable your child a quick escape if he/she becomes overwhelmed by noise, aromas and more.

Address sensory needs. If you want to keep your child at the table longer, be sure to bring a “busy bag” of items and activities to address sensory needs. Your child’s busy bag may include a squishy ball, stuffed animal or blanket, coloring books, toys that light up, electronics along with headphones to use while accessing the device or to block out noise overall if it is an issue. Try not expect more from your child simply because it is a holiday.

Figure out in advance how long your child can tolerate being at the table before reaching his/her threshold.

Quiet space. Identify a calm, quiet place in the house ahead of time to enable your child to get away from the smell of food as well as the crowd and noise.

For example, you may be able to get your child to sit at grandma’s table, exchange a few words and eat, and then allow them to go to that designated quiet area.

Dressing for the holiday meal. Is the entire family dress-

ing up for a holiday photo prior to the meal? In addition to all the other stimuli, the clothes your child wears can set the tone for the entire day. If you want your child to wear a new outfit, then practice wearing it in advance, every day if necessary. Make sure it is comfortable and bring a change of clothing that is familiar, just in case.

Preparation is key and involves planning well in advance, from several weeks to months ahead, depending on what you are looking to achieve.

Take it slow and work on these various activities each day with your child so they become familiar and predictable, as doing so will contribute to the overall success of the day.

Kerry McCrea MS, BCBA, LABA is the Assistant Clinical Director of Specialty Early Intervention Services at Behavioral Concepts (BCI), a company of behavioral clinicians specializing in the care of children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) in Massachusetts.

For more information visit www. bciaba.com.

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Why Some Women Are Choosing Out-of-Hospital Delivery

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Melissa Dubois delivered her third child at her home in Millbury.

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ome births are on the rise and some delivery room nurses are stepping out of the hospital and into midwifery to offer expectant mothers “concierge” care.

Home birth has ancient roots in every culture.

Most families delivered their babies at home with midwives or family doctors until the early 1900s, when a major push moved birth into the hospital.

New procedures, medications and technologies were appealing, and soon mothers were led to believe they were necessary.

Birth was taken out of the hands of women and placed in the hands of predominantly male physicians, almost exclusively.

Today, less than 2 percent of U.S. babies are born outside the hospital. Yet the rate of homebirth is rising according to federal data that says it went from less than 1 percent in 2004 to 1.5 percent in 2014.

“They are taking back their birth,

and some choose to take it home,” said midwife Rachel Blessington, a Certified Professional Midwife offering care in Central Massachusetts.

The 500 or so Massachusetts families who choose to deliver at home each year, she said, receive comprehensive care from qualified midwives throughout their pregnancy, birth and postpartum time.

Most are Certified Professional Midwives by completing years of study, training, apprenticeship, and advanced training in midwifery at the graduate level to meet certification standards of the North American Registry of Midwives.

Some are Certified Nurse Midwives by first training as a nurse.

Blessington, of Dudley, is married with two children and holds a Bachelor of Science in nursing, and in biology. She was a hospital labor and delivery nurse for two years.

“I left to concentrate fully on midwifery training, as I prefer to work in an environment where I can provide care that is customized, respectful and

evidence-based,” she said. “In the hospital, care is often dictated by policies, profit margin, liability and provider preference. I knew I would be free to provide better care outside of the hospital.”

Blessington is a member of the Massachusetts Midwives Alliance along with 27 of the about 35 Certified Professional Midwives in Massachusetts.

She has attended more than 300 births, with about half of those delivered outside a hospital.

One such home delivery was with Melissa Anne Dubois of Millbury, a labor and delivery nurse at Milford Regional Medical Center.

“A lot of people were surprised I was having a home birth because I work in a hospital,” Dubois said. “I don’t believe everybody is a candidate for home birth, but I think it should be a woman’s choice.”

Her 6-year-old son was delivered in a hospital with midwives attending and the experience, she said, was good. The delivery of her 3-year old son, however, went differently.

“I went to a city hospital and it was the opposite of my first experience. There was a lot of unnecessary intervention and there were extra people in the room that didn’t need to be there,” she said.

Dubois chose the home-birth option for her daughter, who is now 3 months old.

“I have a lot of midwife friends, but I didn’t think I could do it at first,” she said. “Rachel is a former labor and delivery nurse. I felt like the stars aligned. We come from the same place, we have the same background.”

The midwives, Dubois said, brought with them everything but an epidural and operating room. She had an unmedicated delivery after laboring for three hours in her brother’s pool.

“The care was incredible. If I had a fourth (child), I would absolutely do it at home. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done but it’s the best choice I’ve ever made,” she said.

Certified midwives, Blessington said, are experts in caring for low-risk pregnancies, and in identifying when clients need to be referred or transferred to a higher level of care.

“We are trained professionals providing concierge service in your home,” she said. “It’s more customized care so each family decides their choices along the way.”

Her Worcester-based business Blessing Birth & Bodywork offers individualized maternity care for “birth your way, in your home, supported by a team of skilled midwives.”

“All types of families utilize midwives, but most don’t know it’s an option. Some think of homebirth as hippies giving birth in a tent in the woods,” Blessington said.

Midwives Alliance of North America promotes a “Midwives Model of Care,” which includes: monitoring the physical, psychological and social well-being of the mother; providing the mother with individualized

education, counseling and prenatal care; continuous hands-on assistance during labor and delivery; and postpartum support; minimizing technological interventions, and identifying and referring women who require obstetrical attention.

“Midwives are experts in low-to-moderate risk birth.

That’s what we’re trained to manage,” Blessington said.

Yet, the option comes with out-of-pocket costs that could range from $4,500 to $7,000.

“Most home birth is not covered by insurance yet,

which is a shame because it would save insurance companies a whole a lot of money,” she said. “Even if an insurance company doesn’t pay for the birth itself, it’ll often cover some of the care.”

Jessica Shephard of Worcester, whose daughter is now 1-year-old, said, “This is absolutely the way I would do a second child.”

Shephard self-funded the birth with no help from health insurance but plenty of help from three attending midwives, with Blessington at the lead.

“I gave birth in my bedroom on my bed after I was in and out of water for a few hours. I received a lot of emotional support from Rachel. She was constantly checking on me and I felt safe with her taking care of me and my daughter,” she said. “I’m not too big with hospitals because I like my privacy. Once I met Rachel and got to know her, it felt like the perfect choice for me.”

Massachusetts presently does not offer licensing for Certified Professional Midwifes, and Certified Nurse Midwifes are licensed under the state Board of Nursing.

Two Massachusetts statehouse bills to change that (H1948 and S1332) titled, “an act relative to out-of-hospital birth access and safety” are presently in review by the joint committee on public health.

If enacted, the legislation would form under the Department of Public Health an 8-member, governor-appointed board of registration in midwifery consisting of midwives and medical professionals. The board would create regulations and processes for licensure to practice midwifery.

Debbie LaPlaca is a veteran journalist, photographer, and joyful mom of two living in Central Massachusetts.

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3 10 {FREEBIE} Boston’s original holiday classic, Urban Nutcracker, combines ballet, tap, hip hop, swing and jazz for a modern twist on the timeless fairytale. Here’s your chance to win a 4-pack of tickets to this enchanting show.

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Illuminus Festival. Financial District (High, Summer, Federal streets and Milton Place), Boston. Thursday and Friday, Dec. 5-6, 5-11 p.m. Local artists turn downtown Boston into an immersive art experience, using well-known buildings as canvases at this free nighttime festival. Visitors can play in pools of colored light, engage with thought-provoking works, and move to the beat of live beat DJs, all while sipping cups of hot cocoa. Free. illuminusboston.org/2019.

Moscow Ballet’s Great Russian Nutcracker. The Wang Theatre, 270 Tremont St., Boston. Friday, Dec. 6, 7 p.m. Step into a time filled with sweet dreams and Christmas magic, as world class artists, over 200 dazzling costumes, and towering puppets present an acclaimed Christmas extravaganza. $44+. bochcenter.org.

Teddy Bear Tea. Worcester Historical Museum, 30 Elm St., Worcester. Saturday, Dec. 7, 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Bring your favorite stuffed friend to this annual holiday celebration featuring a puppet show, Bingo with Mrs. Claus, crafts and activities. Sandwiches, cocoa and cookies served. Reservations required. Adults $15, children $12, members $12 and $10.

Kids under 3 free. worcesterhistory.org.

Festival of Lights. Worcester Common Oval, 455 Main St., Worcester. Friday, Dec. 6, 4:30-9 p.m. & Saturday, Dec. 7, 1-7 p.m. Food trucks, live music, ice skating, a vendor fair and more will take place at the city’s two-day holiday celebration..

The Hip Hop Nutcracker. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester. Sunday, Dec. 29, 7 p.m. This contemporary dance spectacle sets itself to Tchaikovsky’s timeless score to The Nutcracker ballet with a new verve and supercharged by a cast of a dozen all-star dancers. $42.5062.50. thehanovertheatre.org.

ADVENTURES 1 SUNDAY Backyard and Beyond: Winter Tracking with PrimiTim. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Join primitive expert Tim ‘PrimiTim’ Swanson to learn and practice the ancient skill of tracking. Register ahead. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Hanukkah at WAM. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Enjoy candy dreidels, origami, games, menorah games, food, story times, and more during this celebration of the Jewish holiday of light during the darkest time of the year. Free. worcesterart.org.

LEGO Zone. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Bring your imagination and try your hand at some fun LEGO challenges, games, or free-space play. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

An American Tale. Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline. 10:30 a.m.

Fievel journeys from Russia to turn-of-thecentury America in this animated quest and the adventures of a courageous little mouse. Adults $9.50, children $7.50. coolidge.org.

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Sing-A-Long Sound of Music. The Regent Theatre, 7 Medford St., Arlington. 1 p.m.

Come in costume for a festive screening of the Julie Andrews-led musical movie ‘The Sound of Music’ with lyrics right on screen. Adults $15.17.50, children $12.50-15. regenttheatre.com.

The Nutcracker. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester. 1 p.m. & 5 p.m.

Kick off your holiday season as the Hanover Theatre Nutcracker Orchestra and fantastic dancers bring to life the classic story of Clara on a Christmas adventure after being gifted a nutcracker. $32-44. thehanovertheatre.org.

Wachusett Jazz Holiday Favorites.

Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 2-3 p.m. Join the Wachusett jazz Group as it plays an assortment of Christmas and Hanukkah favorites in the Renaissance Court. Free. worcesterart.org.

First Fridays Artswalks. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 5-8 p.m.

Enjoy free admission during extended hours at one of Berkshire Museum’s many exhibitions as part of the Cultural Pittsfield’s First Fridays Artswalk. Free. berkshiremuseum.org.

2 MONDAY Dance Me A Story. Newton Free Library,

A Christmas Carol. The Hanover Theatre, Worcester.

330 Homer St., Newton. 10-10:45 a.m.

Don’t miss this fun, family event where music, movement, and literature align to encourage exploration and imaginative play. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

MFA Playdates: Winter Adventures.

Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston. 10:15-11 a.m. Enjoy story time and looking activities in the galleries followed by artmaking exploring the wintry season on

our doorstep. Recommended for ages 4 and under. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $25, youths 7 and up $10, ages under 7 free. mfa.org.

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Boston. 7 p.m. The world’s most famous reindeer flies into Boston during this musical performance featuring Rudolph, Hermey the Elf, Yukon Cornelius, the Abominable Snow Monster and more. $43+. bochcenter.org.

Mirror, Mirror, What Do You See? Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 1011 a.m. Drop-in to play with different kinds of reflections and experiment by using mirrors to create symmetry, refract light, and expand our fields of vision. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Winter Crafting Fun. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 10-11 a.m.

Come make a Winter Wishes Snowman Boxes and Welcome Winter signs, perfect for the season. For ages 3-7. Register ahead. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

Folk Open Mic. TCAN: Center for Arts, 14 Summer St., Natick. 8 p.m. Enjoy the area’s most vibrant folk and acoustic music community showcase, with a special performance by artist Eric Kilburn. Members free, public $5. natickarts.org.

4 WEDNESDAY Artful Play: Light. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 10:30-11:15 a.m. Enjoy a story in the galleries, a hands-on activity led by a Museum educator, and refreshments for your littlest learner. Designed for ages 0-5. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

ARTfull Play. deCordova Sculpture Park & Museum, 51 Sandy Pond Rd., Lincoln. 10:3011:30 a.m. Fill your morning with art and play with art, stories, material exploration, and nature. Best for ages 2-5. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmember adults $14, ages 12 and under free. deCordova.org.

Backyard and Beyond: Trim a Tree for the Birds. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Design your own birdfeeder from materials provided and hang it in the Discovery Woods for the birds or bring it home to feed the feathered friends in your backyard. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

PJ Masks Live: Save the Day. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester.

6 p.m. Enjoy this all-new, super-heroic, musical show featuring the heroic trio from ‘The PJ Masks,’ as they save the day from sneaky villains with leaps, flips, and more. $29-49. thehanovertheatre.org.

5 THURSDAY Take Aparts, Jr. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10-11 a.m. Drop-in, grab some tools, and discover the inner workings of household gadgets and gizmos, for younger visitors. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Take Aparts. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 2-4:30 p.m. Grab a screwdriver and discover resistors, capacitors, and circuit boards as you uncover the inner workings of everyday electronics. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

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Meet the Scientist - Free Friday.

Discovery Museum, Acton Winter Tissue Lantern. Worcester Public Library: Great Brook Valley Branch, 89 Tacoma St., Worcester. 3-4:30 p.m. Come drop by the library to create a 3D winter tissue lantern.

Free. mywpl.org.

6 FRIDAY Music and Movement with Miss Bernadette. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 9:30-10 a.m. Explore sound through singing and playing, during this multi-sensory workout. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Backyard and Beyond: Forest Fridays.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton.

10-10:45 a.m. Enjoy a nature-based activity based on the weather and season either in the Discovery Woods or out on the adjacent conservation land. Recommended for ages 2-6. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Book Corner with Mary Westgate.

The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst. 10:30-11 a.m. A fun, music-filled story-time with Berkshire Hills Music Academy’s Mary Westgate reading through a selection of braille picture books. Free with admission.

Adults $9, youths $6, ages under 1 free. carlemuseum.org.

First Friday Nights Free. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 4:30-8 p.m.

Non-perishable food donations for local pantries accepted on this evening of free discovery.

Special ‘Meet the Scientists’ program from 5:30-7:30 p.m. Free. discoveryacton.org.

Festival of Lights. Worcester Common Oval, 455 Main St., Worcester. 4:30-9 p.m.

Enjoy food trucks, live music, ice skating, street performers, tree lighting, and more during this celebration of the season. Free. worcesterma.gov.

Festive Frolic. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 5-8 p.m. Explore this year’s inspiring Festival of Trees by the twinkling lights illuminating every tree during special hours, with ornament crafting and hot apple cider. Members $3, nonmembers $5, ages under 4 free. berkshiremuseum.org.

Holiday Lighting Ceremony. Newton Cultural Center at City Hall, 100 Commonwealth Ave., Newton. 6 p.m. Enjoy a community sing-a-long, refreshments, and tree lighting with Mayor Fuller on the front steps of City Hall. Free. newtoncommunitypride.org.

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: The Musical. Shubert Theatre, 265 Tremont St.,

Boston Pops Holiday Tour. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester. 8 p.m.

Join the Boston Pops and conductor Keith Lockhart for their sparkling and beloved Holiday Pops concert. $59-129. thehanovertheatre.org.

7 SATURDAY Santa Claus Pancake Breakfast. Bay Path Regional High School, 57 Old Muggett Hill Rd., Charlton. 7:30-10:30 a.m. Enjoy a tasty pancake breakfast before meeting Saint Nick. A 5x7 photo with Santa included with breakfast. Admission $5, children under 5 free. baypath.net.

Sensory Santa. Cater 2 Kids OT, 64 Main St., Sturbridge. 9 a.m.-12 p.m. A quiet, calming and friendly space to visit with Santa. By appointment only, email melissa@cater2kidsot. com to schedule a time. cater2kidsot.com.

Holiday Pops: Sensory Friendly Concert.

Boston Symphony Hall, 301 Massachusetts Ave., Boston. 10 a.m. This sensory-friendly concert designed for families with members diagnosed with autism or sensory sensitivities. $25-80. Bso.org.

Public Works Open House. Framingham Public Works, 100 Western Ave., Framingham.

10 a.m.-2 p.m. Touch-a-truck exhibit, arts and crafts, games and light refreshments. Clothing, hygiene products and non-perishable food donations accepted. Free. framinghamma.gov.

Wild About Winter. EcoTarium, 222 Harrington Way, Worcester. 10 a.m.-4 p.m.

Enjoy indoor sock skating, winter-inspired science and crafts for toddlers to teens, and try your hand at building a winter shelter that’s just your size. Free with admission. Adults $18, youth $14, members and children under 2 free. ecotarium.org.

Swedish Yuletide. Cyclorama, 539 Tremont St., Boston. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. A Scandinavian holiday celebration and fair featuring performances, foods, and crafts. $10, ages under 13 free. boston.swea.org.

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: The Musical. Shubert Theatre, 265 Tremont St., Boston. 10 a.m.; 1 p.m.; 4 p.m. & 7 p.m. The world’s most famous reindeer flies into Boston during this musical performance featuring Rudolph, Hermey the Elf, Yukon Cornelius, the Abominable Snow Monster and more. $43+. bochcenter.org.

Beyond the Spectrum: Amazing Abstracting. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston. 10:30 a.m.-12 p.m. Look at examples of abstract paintings and prints, and create your own abstract prints during this adventure in art for children on the autism spectrum. $9. mfa.org.

9th Annual Holiday House Tour. Concord Museum, 53 Cambridge Turnpike, Concord. 11 a.m.-4 p.m. Celebrate the holiday season with a tour of seven of Concord’s most beautiful private homes. Members $45, nonmembers $55. concordmuseum.org.

Festival of Lights. Worcester Common Oval, 455 Main St., Worcester. 1-7 p.m. Enjoy local vendors, performances, ice skating, a brilliantly lit tree, and more during this celebration of the season. Free. worcesterma.gov.

Holiday Tour. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 2 p.m. Look for themes of fellowship and celebration on this docent-guided tour focused on merry-making.

Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Mrs. Claus & Snowman Puppets. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster.

2-3 p.m. Share a story with Mrs. Claus and make some snowman popsicle stick puppets before searching for the library’s little green elf hiding somewhere on a library shelf. For ages 12 and under. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

Vanessa Trien & The Jumping Monkeys.

Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline. 10:30 a.m. This award-winning band returns for its highly anticipated annual Coolidge Corner Theatre show featuring audience participation and original songs. Adults $13.50, children $10.50. coolidge.org.

Wild About Winter. EcoTarium, 222 Harrington Way, Worcester. 11 a.m.-4 p.m.

Enjoy indoor sock skating, winter-inspired science and crafts for toddlers to teens, and try your hand at building a winter shelter that’s just your size. Free with admission. Adults $18, youth $14, members and children under 2 free. ecotarium.org.

Little Women Victorian Holiday Fair.

Lyman Estate, 185 Lyman St., Waltham.

11 a.m.-4 p.m. Celebrate the holidays with craft-making activities, Victorian holiday card

making, holiday treats, and a visit from Santa.

Families $20. Historicnewengland.org.

White Christmas in West Brookfield. Town Common, Main St., West Brookfield. 11 a.m.-8 p.m. Enjoy a horse-drawn wagon ride or stroll Main Street and beyond during this day filled with local tradition, family entertainment, and the warmth and spirit of the holiday season. Free.

ARTfull Explorations. deCordova Sculpture Park & Museum, 51 Sandy Pond Rd., Lincoln. 1-3 p.m. Explore deCordova with the whole family.

Investigate new ideas and unique materials inspired by the themes and artists on view. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $14, ages 12 and under free. deCordova.org.

Assumption College Chorale. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 2 p.m. Listen to the sounds of the season with

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer - The Musical. Boch Center, Boston.

We Can Be Heroes. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 2-4 p.m. Discover and share the traits that mark a hero, and create a unique holiday ornament featuring your own hero to take home. For ages 5 and up. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $13, youths 4 and up $6, children under 4 free. berkshiremuseum.org.

Downtown Winter Stroll. Downtown Leominster. 3-5 p.m. See beautifully-decorated store windows, enjoy music, do some shopping. Parade of Lights at 5 p.m., tree lighting follows on the common. Free. leominster-ma.gov.

Memories on Main. Main St., Fitchburg. 3-7 p.m. Hayrides, hot drinks, food, and music are all part of this festive day. Kids can enjoy arts and crafts, stories with Mrs. Claus and pictures with Santa. The evening ends with the holiday tree lighting. Free. reimaginenom.com.

Diane Kelly Presents Holiday Spectacular. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester. 6 p.m. Enjoy this upbeat holiday variety show featuring dancing snowmen, singing elves, and the finest singers, dancers, and actors of all ages in Worcester. $28-34. thehanovertheatre.org.

Atlantic Wind Symphony Christmas Concert.

Machlan Auditorium, 338 Main St., South Lancaster. 7 p.m. A fun family holiday concert including Santa Claus. Free. thayerconservatory.org.

Christmas Parade of Lights. Main St., Spencer.

7-10 p.m. Watch as a parade of festively-lit floats makes it way down Main Street. Free. spencerma.gov.

8 SUNDAY Sensory-Friendly Sunday. USS Constitution Museum, Building 22, Charlestown Navy Yard, Charlestown. 9-10 a.m. Learn about the incredible history of America’s Ship of State in a quieter setting without loud sounds or flashing lights. Register ahead. Donations appreciated. usscm.org.

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: The Musical. Shubert Theatre, 265 Tremont St., Boston. 10 a.m., 1 p.m., & 4 p.m. The world’s most famous reindeer flies into Boston during this musical performance featuring Rudolph, Hermey the Elf, Yukon Cornelius, the Abominable Snow Monster and more. $43+. bochcenter.org.

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Preschool Story and Nature Hour: Bears. Wachusett Meadow Wildlife Sanctuary, 113 Goodnow Rd., Princeton. 10:30-11:30 a.m. Come for an hour of nature themed fun with your youngster. Read a book, make a nature craft to take home, and walk on the beautiful trails. For ages 2-5. Register ahead.

Member children $3, nonmember children $4, adults free. Register ahead. massaudubon.org.

WeeMuse Adventures. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 11-11:30 a.m.

Explore the Museum with stories, songs, scavenger hunts, play time, and more. For ages 18 months to 3 years. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $13, youths 4 and up $6, children under 4 free. berkshiremuseum.org.

Winter Workshop: Papermaking. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 2-4:30 p.m. Explore the science of papermaking as you sculpt and squish recycled paper pulp into new, usable paper perfect to send messages this holiday season. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Winter Stroll. Downtown Leominster. this holiday performance by the Assumption College Chorale in the Museum’s Renaissance Court. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Special Storytime: Julia Denos & EB Goodale.

The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst. 2 p.m. Join the author-illustrator team behind the book ‘Here and Now’ that explores identity, curiosity, and guided meditation. Free with admission. Adults $9, youths $6, ages under 1 free. carlemuseum.org.

Berkshire Concert Choir. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 3:30 p.m.

Join Pittsfield’s own Berkshire Concert Choir as they perform a program of Christmas music from early Renaissance to contemporary compositions. Free. berkshiremuseum.org.

Youth Ensemble of New England Christmas Concert. Evangelical Congregational Church, 793 Main St., Lancaster. 4 p.m.

Enjoy seasonal favorites for orchestra. Free. thayerconservatory.org.

Odaiko New England 25th Anniversary Extravaganza. The Regent Theatre, 7 Medford St., Arlington. 8 p.m. Experience the art of Taiko, or Japanese Drumming, during this New England performance extravaganza. Early bird $20, at-door $25. regenttheatre.com.

9 MONDAY Build a Wooden Reindeer. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 6 p.m. Caretakers and their children are invited to build a wooden reindeer with hammer and nails, before painting and bringing them home. For ages 3-7. Register ahead. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

Buster Keaton Double Feature. Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline.

7 p.m. Composer Jeff Rapsis performing piano scores live to two classic Buster Keaton silent comedies, the Cameraman and Sherlock Jr. $23. coolidge.org.

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Wild Tales with Drumlin Farm. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 10 a.m. & 10:30 a.m. Listen to a skunk story and meet a real life skunk from Drumlin Farm Wildlife Sanctuary. Register ahead. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

iStorytime. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 10-11 a.m. Watch and listen to a story, sing songs, play instruments, and join in for an activity and craft. Aimed for ages up to 4. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

Pop-Up Play Day. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 10 a.m.-12 p.m.

Enjoy the big blue blocks of the Imagination Playground and the colorful Bilderhoos architectural building components. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $13, youths 4 and up $6, children under 4 free. berkshiremuseum.org.

Winter Workshop: Stamp & Wrapping Paper. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10-11 a.m. Create a stamp of your own, and then test it out along with others to make some homemade wrapping paper for the holiday season. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Especially for Me: Free Sensory-Friendly Afternoons. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 1:30-4:30 p.m. Come explore the accessible Discovery Museum and Discovery Woods during this time of limited crowding and exhibition support. Register ahead. Free. discoveryacton.org.

Game Night. Worcester Public Library: Main Branch, 3 Salem Sq., Worcester. 6-8 p.m. A night of fun and friendly competition, featuring games from Chees and Checkers to Scrabble and Catchphrase. Free. mywpl.org.

11 WEDNESDAY Ukulele J. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 10-10:45 a.m. Come prepared to sing, dance, and have fun with traditional and original children’s song, plus bring your favorite stuffed animal for a stuffed animal parade. Aimed at ages 0-5. Register ahead. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

Black Nativity. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston. 6:30-6:45 p.m. & 7:30-7:45 p.m. Enjoy short 15-minute vignettes from Black Nativity, a cherished Boston tradition choreographing the Nativity song-play

by Langston Hughes. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmember adults $25, youths 7 and up $10, ages under 7 free. mfa.org.

Little Yogis & Me. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 10 a.m. & 11 a.m. A fun-filled yoga play for active tots and preschoolers featuring yoga poses, songs, and movement. For ages 1-4 with caregiver.

Register ahead. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

Winter Workshop: Snow Globes. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10-11:30 a.m. & 3-4:30 p.m. Take a sprinkle of snow and a dash of creativity to make your very own mini snow globe. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Snow Day. Worcester Public Library: Great Brook Valley Branch, 89 Tacoma St., Worcester. 3 p.m. Come join your friends and watch the library’s showing of this live action comedy following young students when snow cancels school. Free. mywpl.org.

13 FRIDAY Backyard and Beyond: Forest Fridays.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton.

10-10:45 a.m. Enjoy a nature-based activity based on the weather and season either in the Discovery Woods or out on the adjacent conservation land. Recommended for ages 2-6. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Open Book, Open Play. The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst. 10:3011:30 a.m. Enjoy an interactive story-time followed by movement, play, and an exploration of art materials. Free with admission.

Adults $9, youths $6, ages under 1 free. carlemuseum.org.

Wild About Winter. EcoTarium, 222 Harrington Way, Worcester. 10 a.m.-4 p.m.

Enjoy indoor sock skating, winter-inspired science and crafts for toddlers to teens, and try your hand at building a winter shelter that’s just your size. Free with admission. Adults $18, youth $14, members and children under 2 free. ecotarium.org.

Now and Then: Meet the Artists. The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst.

10 a.m.-4 p.m. Celebrate the opening of ‘Now & Then’ with a special art studio project, and plenty of illustrators showing off their early childhood artwork. Free with admission. Adults $9, youths $6, ages under 1 free. carlemuseum.org.

Matt Heaton & the Outside Toys.

Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline. 10:30 a.m. Matt Heaton’s Holiday Hootenanny is a dance-filled, laugh-laced party for the whole family featuring his band the Outside Toys and new songs from his album ‘Snow Day’. Adults $13.50, children $10.50. coolidge.org.

Voices from Around the World: Family Trees. Concord Museum, 53 Cambridge Turnpike, Concord. 11 a.m.-12 p.m. Enjoy books that open children’s hearts, minds, and provide authentic perspectives and voices from around the world. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $10, youths 5 and up $6, ages under 5 free. concordmuseum.org.

Make a Mess: Spin Art. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Twist, twirl, and give watercolors a whirl during this creative spinning art program. Free

with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Arms and Armor: Roman Legion. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester.

11:30 a.m. & 2 p.m. Meet Legionary and Auxiliary soldiers and learn about the Legion’s history, weapons, tactics, and daily life in this engaging presentation. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Holiday Nature Crafts Open House.

Broad Meadow Brook Conservation Center and Wildlife Sanctuary, 414 Massasoit Rd., Worcester. 1-4 p.m. Come to the visitor center to view the tree and make your own ornaments with natural materials through our help or your own imagination. Member adults $6, children $3; nonmember adults $8, children $5. massaudubon.org.

Pajama and Hot Chocolate Storytime.

Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 3-4 p.m. Enjoy a cozy afternoon sipping hot chocolate in your pajamas at the library, with wintry stories, and crafts.

Recommended for ages 3-8. Register ahead.

Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

Holiday Pops Family Concert. The Zeiterion Theatre, 684 Purchase St., New Bedford.

3:30 p.m. & 7 p.m. The New Bedford Symphony Orchestra presents a holiday pops family concert in a festively decorated theatre. $10-43. zeiterion.org.

Holly Jolly Sing-Along and Lantern Parade. Eustis Estate, 1424 Canton Ave., Milton. 5-7 p.m. An enchanting family-friendly holiday lantern stroll and Christmas carols at the Eustis Estate. Recommended for ages 5-12. Families $25, adults $10, children $5. historicnewengland.org.

15 SUNDAY The Nutcracker. Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline. 10 a.m. Celebrate the season during this screening of the Bolshoi Ballet’s performance of Tchaikovsky’s beloved score and timeliness story of a young girl and a nutcracker soldier. $25. coolidge.org.

Sherlock Jr. Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline. 10:30 a.m. Buster Keaton plays a movie projectionist who daydreams himself into the movies he is showing and merges with the figures and backgrounds on screen, with this special showing for families with a local scientist discussion. Adults $9.50, children $7.50. coolidge.org.

Monument Maker: Family Trees Program.

Concord Museum, 53 Cambridge Turnpike, Cambridge. 11 a.m.-12 p.m. A family-oriented talk, close-looking activities, and craft giving all ages the chance to sculpt their own masterpiece.

Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $10, youths 5 and up $6, ages under 5 free. concordmuseum.org.

Wild About Winter. EcoTarium, 222 Harrington Way, Worcester. 11 a.m.-4 p.m.

Enjoy indoor sock skating, winter-inspired science and crafts for toddlers to teens, and try your hand at building a winter shelter that’s just your size. Free with admission. Adults $18,

youth $14, members and children under 2 free. ecotarium.org.

Ice Art in the Courtyard. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 11 a.m.-4 p.m. See art take shape in a 6-foot ice sculpture demonstration in the Stoddard Courtyard, and keep warm with hot cocoa and cookies form our Sip Cart. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Santa in Salem. Phillips House, 34 Chestnut St., Salem. 12-2 p.m. Take a photo with Santa, see the elegant Chestnut Street mansion.

Enjoy cookies, cider, and a drop-in Christmas craft. Recommended for families with ages 4-10. Families $15. historicnewengland.org.

Special Sundays in the Studio. The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst.

12-5 p.m. Explore new materials in the art studio and try a different project. Free with admission. Adults $9, youths $6, ages under 1 free. carlemuseum.org.

Boston Area Chantey & Maritime Sing.

USS Constitution Museum, Building 22, Charlestown Navy Yard, Charlestown. 2-5 p.m. Listen, learn and lift your voices as you participate in your maritime heritage with a rousing chorus of sea chanteys. Free with admission. Donations $5-15. usscm.org.

Merrimack Valley Ringers. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 2 p.m.

Listen to the sounds of the season with this special holiday concert by the Merrimack Valley Ringers in the Museum’s Renaissance Court. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. Worcesterart.org.

Christmas Party and Concert. Thayer Conservatory, 438 Main St., South Lancaster. 4 p.m. Holiday music performed by various Thayer musical groups including the Youth Ensemble of New England. Free. thayerconservatory.org.

16 MONDAY Sally Sutton Celebration. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster.

10-10:45 a.m. Celebrate the stories of Sally Sutton with stories, art, music, and movement.

Recommended for ages 2-5. Register ahead.

Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

It’s a Wonderful Life. TCAN: Center for Arts, 14 Summer St., Natick. 7:30 p.m. Celebrate this season during this screening of the classic film as an angel is sent to help a desperately frustrated businessman in the midst of Christmas. Members $10, public $12. natickarts.org.

17 TUESDAY Make a Mess: Explore Kinetic Sand.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 1011 a.m. Squish it, sculpt it, drip it, and more, during this exploration and experimentation of kinetic sand. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

A Christmas Celtic Sojourn. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester. 7:30 p.m. Enjoy a line-up of top-level musicians,

singers, and dancers from around the Celtic World in this concert celebrating the Christmas holidays and winter season. $45-62. thehanovertheatre.org.

and walk on our beautiful trails. For ages 2-5.

Register ahead. Member children $3, nonmember children $4, adults free. Register ahead. massaudubon.org.

Folk Open Mic. TCAN: Center for Arts, 14 Summer St., Natick. 8 p.m. Enjoy the area’s most vibrant folk and acoustic music community showcase, with a special performance by artist Seth Connelly. Members free, public $5. natickarts.org.

Sensory Play Storytime. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 11:15 a.m.12 p.m. Look, listen, touch, and play during this time of stories and activities exploring different sensory concepts. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

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Materials Play. The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst. 11:30 a.m.

Experiment with materials selected especially for young explorers and caregivers in the Art Studio. Free with admission. Adults $9, youths $6, ages under 1 free. carlemuseum.org.

Artful Play: Pop Art. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 10:3011:15 a.m. Enjoy a story in the galleries, a hands-on activity led by a Museum educator, and snacks for your littlest learner. Designed for ages 0-5. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Hanukkah. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston. 4:30-10 p.m.

Come together for an evening of art, music, and activities in celebration of Hanukkah, the Jewish festival of lights with tours, musical performances, and a one-of-a-kind menorah.

Free. mfa.org.

It’s a Wonderful Life. TCAN: Center for Arts, 14 Summer St., Natick. 7:30 p.m. Celebrate this season during this screening of the classic film as an angel is sent to help a desperately frustrated businessman in the midst of Christmas. Members $10, public $12. natickarts.org.

19 THURSDAY Doggy Days: Winter Storytime. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10-11 a.m.

Join Therapy Dog Abby for a cozy, winter story-time. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Craft Day: Button Wreath Ornament.

Worcester Public Library: Great Brook Valley Branch, 89 Tacoma St., Worcester. 3:00 p.m.-4:30 p.m. Come drop by the library to create a button wreath ornament to take home and hang on your tree or alongside your holiday decorations. Free. mywpl.org.

20 FRIDAY Backyard and Beyond: Forest Fridays.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton.

10-10:45 a.m. Enjoy a nature-based activity based on the weather and season either in the Discovery Woods or out on the adjacent conservation land. Recommended for ages 2-6. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Solstice ‘Scapes. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 2-4:30 p.m. Celebrate the upcoming Winter Solstice and paint some winter landscapes inspired by the shortest day of the year. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Mister Rogers: It’s You I Like. Worcester Public Library: Main Branch, 3 Salem Sq., Worcester. 2:30 p.m. Enjoy memorable segments from Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, including visits with Koko the Gorilla, a trip to the Crayola crayon factory, and talks with celebrities. Free. mywpl.org.

Artful Play: Families in Art. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 10:3011:15 a.m. Enjoy a story in the galleries, a hands-on activity led by a Museum educator, and snacks for your littlest learner. Designed for ages 0-5. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Family Yoga Class. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 10:30-11:30 a.m.

Enjoy cooperative games, age-appropriate poses, breathing exercises, and simple mindfulness and relaxation activities. For ages 3-12 with caregivers. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

Matt Heaton’s Holiday Hootenanny.

TCAN: Center for Arts, 14 Summer St., Natick.

11 a.m. Matt Heaton’s Holiday Hootenanny is a dance-filled, laugh-laced party for the whole family featuring his band the Outside Toys and new songs from his album ‘Snow Day’. Adults $12, children $10. natickarts.org.

Solstice Shadows. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Play with light and shadows in celebration of the Winter

Solstice. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Polar Express Celebration. Wachusett Mountain, 499 Mountain Rd., Princeton. 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Come enjoy a holiday themed day at the mountain, featuring a polar express movie screening, holiday treats, carolers, kids crafts, and Santa sightings. Price varies. wachusett.com.

Arms and Armor: Medieval Men-atArms. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 11:30 a.m. & 2 p.m. Employing period clothing and weaponry, get a lively glimpse of the arms and armor, society, and daily life in the late Middle Ages. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

The Nightmare Before Christmas. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 2 p.m.

The Pumpkin King Jack Skeleton travels to a land of Christmas and finds inspiration during this Tim Burton animated flick. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

Mad Science Presents: Holidaze. Worcester Public Library: Frances Perkins Branch, 470 West Boylston St., Worcester. 4-5 p.m. Enjoy this dazzling festive science show featuring interactive fun and experiments with a holiday twist. Free. mywpl.org.

21 SATURDAY Pop-Up Play Day. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 10 a.m.-12 p.m. Enjoy the big, blue blocks of Imagination Playground and the colorful Bilderhoos architectural building components encouraging children to build, collaborate, and play. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $13, youths 4 and up $6, children under 4 free. berkshiremuseum.org.

Visit with St. Nick. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 10 a.m.-2 p.m.

Don’t forget to bring your camera during this special visit with Santa amongst WAM’s art-filled surroundings. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Stories and Craft. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 10-10:45 a.m. Enjoy stories and craft. Aimed at children through age 4. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

MFA Playdates: Winter Adventures.

Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston. 10:15-11 a.m. Enjoy story time and looking activities in the galleries, followed by artmaking exploring the wintry season on our doorstep. Recommended for ages 4 and under. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $25, youths 7 and up $10, ages under 7 free. mfa.org.

Preschool Story and Nature Hour: Gift for the Birds. Wachusett Meadow Wildlife Sanctuary, 113 Goodnow Rd., Princeton.

10:30-11:30 a.m. Come for an hour of nature themed fun with your youngster as we read a book, make a nature craft to take home,

The Muppet Christmas Carol. Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline. 10:30 a.m. Join Kermit the Frog, Miss Piggy, and all the hilarious Muppets in this merry, magical version of Charles Dickens’ classic Christmas tale.

Adults $9.50, children $7.50. coolidge.org.

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Holiday Tour. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 2 p.m. Look for themes of fellowship and celebration on this docent-guided tour focused on merry-making and the holiday season. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

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Rockabye Beats. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 10-10:45 a.m. Come dance, sing, and get a little loco with this music jam sessions featuring Spanish songs, freestyle dance, and more. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

Happier Family Comedy Show. The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst.

3-4 p.m. Enjoy this family-friendly, improv show featuring audience participation fit for all ages. Member adults $9, youths $4.50; nonmember adults $10, youths $5. carlemuseum.org.

Everyday Engineering: Cup Towers.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Challenge yourself to construct a one-of-a-kind structure made entirely out of cups. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Jeannie Mack’s Winter Songfest. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 1010:45 a.m. Celebrate winter with songs about making snowmen, twirling around snowflakes, and sledding down hills. For ages 5 and under.

Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

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Drop-in LEGO Free Play. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Drop in for a day of play with LEGOs. Recommended for ages 3-12. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

Everyday Engineering: Cup Towers.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Challenge yourself to construct a one-of-a-kind structure made entirely out of cups. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

The Muppet Christmas Carol. Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline.

10:30 a.m. Join Kermit the Frog, Miss Piggy, and all the hilarious Muppets in this merry, magical version of Charles Dickens’ classic Christmas tale. Adults $9.50, children $7.50. coolidge.org.

A Christmas Carol Relaxed Performance. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester. 11 p.m. Celebrate the holiday season with New England’s largest production of A Christmas Carol during this performance adapted for adults and children who might benefit from a more relaxed environment with soft lighting, quiet area, and attentive volunteers. $28-56. thehanovertheatre.org.

The Muppet Christmas Carol. TCAN: Center for Arts, 14 Summer St., Natick. 1 p.m. & 4 p.m. Join Kermit the Frog, Miss Piggy, and all the hilarious Muppets in this merry, magical version of Charles Dickens’ classic Christmas tale. Adults $12, children $10. Natickarts.org.

Glen Hilliar Holiday Concert. Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 2 p.m. Listen to the sounds of the season in the Renaissance Court during this concert by Glen Hilliar. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

The Lion King: Live Action. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 2 p.m. Simba, Mufasa, Timon, Pumba, and more come to life during this live action inspired take on the classic Disney film. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

24 TUESDAY Dance Party. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 10-10:30 a.m. Move and groove to the music as kids and caregivers are invited to dance together. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

25 WEDNESDAY Christmas Day at the Inn. The Inn at Hastings Park, 2027 Massachusetts Ave., Lexington. Celebrate the festival Christmas holiday with a beautiful meal in the Town Meeting Bistro.

Adults $75, children $35. innathastingspark.com.

26 THURSDAY Everyday Engineering: Strike a Balance.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Drop-in to build a tabletop seesaw using rulers, paint stirrers, and paper towel tubes before piling on pennies for a custom balancing act. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Maker Day: Smorgasbord. Leominster Public Library, 30 West St., Leominster. 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Visit us for a maker day smorgasbord as we craft with a variety of library supplies. Recommended for ages 3-12. Free. leominsterlibrary.org.

December Vacation Week. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston.

10 a.m.-4 p.m. Enjoy free activities exploring works of art inspired by light and create your own masterpiece during this vacation week of fun. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $25, youth free. mfa.org.

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Peter and the Wolf. JFK Presidential Library & Museum, Columbia Point, Boston.

10:30-11:30 a.m. Enjoy marvelous scenery, handcrafted marionettes, and enchanting music following the classic tale of Peter, his animal friends, and a wolf. Register ahead. Free. jfklibrary.org.

Everyday Engineering: Strike a Balance.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Drop-in to build a tabletop seesaw using rulers, paint stirrers, and paper towel tubes before piling on pennies for a custom balancing act. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

December Vacation Week. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston.

10 a.m.-4 p.m. Enjoy free activities exploring works of art inspired by light and create your own masterpiece during this vacation week of fun. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $25, youth free. mfa.org.

Word Play. The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst. 11 a.m.-12 p.m. Join the Center Dance Studio for creative movement and narrative dance inspired by picture books.

For ages 3 and up. Register ahead. Free with admission. Adults $9, youths $6, ages under 1 free. carlemuseum.org.

Holiday Vacation Week. Institute of Contemporary Art: Boston, 25 Harbor Shore Dr., Boston. 11 a.m.-4 p.m. Get out and get artsy during December school vacation featuring gallery exploration and art making activities for all ages. Members free; nonmember adults, youths free. icaboston.org.

Snowman Pinch Pots. Worcester Public Library: Frances Perkins Branch, 470 West Boylston St., Worcester. 4-5 p.m. Make and decorate a snowman pinch pot using air-dry clay. Recommended for ages 5 and up. Free. mywpl.org.

28 SATURDAY Everyday Engineering: Balls and Ramps.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Design, build, and test out some simple tracks and mini-rollercoasters with loop-da-loops, hills, and straightaways. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

December Vacation Week. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston.

10 a.m.-4 p.m. Enjoy free activities exploring works of art inspired by light and create your own masterpiece during this vacation week of fun. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $25, youth free. mfa.org.

Tanglewood Marionettes: Cinderella.

Newton Cultural Center at City Hall, 1000 Commonwealth Ave., Newton. 11 a.m. & 1 p.m.

This classic fairy tale is told with wit, style, and a dozen lavishly costumed marionettes. Advance $8, at-door $10. newtoncommunitypride.org.

Magnificent Monster Circus. The Eric Carle Museum, 125 West Bay Rd., Amherst. 11 a.m. & 1:30 p.m. CactusHead Puppets presents a circus like no other in this interactive show performed with several different styles of

puppets as they guide you through the world of monsters. Members $5.50, nonmembers $6. carlemuseum.org.

Holiday Vacation Week. Institute of Contemporary Art: Boston, 25 Harbor Shore Dr., Boston. 11 a.m.-4 p.m. Get out and get artsy during December school vacation featuring gallery exploration and art making activities for all ages. Members free; nonmember adults, youths free. icaboston.org.

Arms and Armor: Samurai Warrior.

Worcester Art Museum, 55 Salisbury St., Worcester. 11:30 a.m. & 2 p.m. Learn about the history and fighting techniques of the legendary Samurai during this demonstration of martial arts in existence since the 15th century. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $18, youths 4-17 $8, ages under 4 free. worcesterart.org.

Arthur Christmas. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 2 p.m. Enjoy this animated film following the youngest son of Santa Claus, Arthur, on an adventure around the Christmas season. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

Bilingual Storytime: Spanish. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 3 p.m.

Enjoy this story-time featuring stories, songs, and movement activities in English and Spanish.

Aimed at ages 3-5. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

29 SUNDAY Everyday Engineering: Balls and Ramps.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Design, build, and test out some simple tracks and mini-rollercoasters with loop-da-loops, hills, and straightaways. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

December Vacation Week. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston.

10 a.m.-4 p.m. Enjoy free activities exploring works of art inspired by light and create your own masterpiece during this vacation week of fun. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $25, youth free. mfa.org.

Holiday Vacation Week. Institute of Contemporary Art: Boston, 25 Harbor Shore Dr., Boston. 11-4 p.m. Get out and get artsy during December school vacation featuring gallery exploration and art making activities for all ages. Members free; nonmember adults, youths free. icaboston.org.

The Hip Hop Nutcracker. The Hanover Theatre, 2 Southbridge St., Worcester. 7 p.m.

This contemporary dance spectacle sets itself to Tchaikovsky’s timeless score to The Nutcracker ballet with a new verve and supercharged by a cast of a dozen all-star dancers. $42.50-62.50. thehanovertheatre.org.

30 MONDAY Explore and Play. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 10-10:30 a.m.

Unstructured play time with age appropriate toys and sensory experiences. For ages 2-4.

Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

Everyday Engineering: Balls and Ramps.

Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10

a.m.-2 p.m. Design, build, and test out some simple tracks and mini-rollercoasters with loop-da-loops, hills, and straightaways. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

December Vacation Week. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston.

10 a.m.-4 p.m. Enjoy free activities exploring works of art inspired by light and create your own masterpiece during this vacation week of fun. Free with admission. Members free; nonmember adults $25, youth free. mfa.org.

Sensory Play. Worcester Public Library: Frances Perkins Branch, 470 West Boylston St., Worcester. 10:30-11:15 a.m. Enjoy this interactive program exploring different textures, substances, and tools. For ages 0-5.

Free. mywpl.org.

Ukulele Scramble. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton. 3-4:00 p.m. Enjoy this family-oriented show featuring the dynamism of the ukulele with songs from the Renaissance, swing, folk, rock, and jazz moods. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

31 TUESDAY Noon Year’s Eve Party Prep. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 10 a.m.

Get ready to shake, rattle, and roll into the New Year by making party hats and noise makers, as we set up for our annual Noon time countdown. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

Matt Heaton Family Singalong. Newton Free Library, 330 Homer St., Newton.

10-10:45 a.m. Matt Heaton, the Toddlerbilly Troubadour, brings an infectious energy to his sing-alongs peppered with well known classics and original songs. Free. newtonfreelibrary.net.

Mayor’s New Year’s Eve Open House & Food Drive. Newton City Hall, 1000 Commonwealth Ave., Newton. 10-12 p.m. Bring a food pantry donation to City Hall and enjoy refreshments, crafting, and face painting. Free. newtoncommunitypride.org.

December Vacation Week. Museum of Fine Arts: Boston, 465 Huntington Ave., Boston. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Enjoy free activities exploring works of art inspired by light and create your own masterpiece during this vacation week of fun. Free with admission.

Members free; nonmember adults $25, youth free. mfa.org.

The Magic of David Hall. Berkshire Museum, 39 South St., Pittsfield. 11 a.m. & 1 p.m. Ring in the New Year with Berkshire Museum with Boston-based magician David Hall as he performs amazing magic and astonishing illusions. Member adults $5, children $3; nonmember adults $15, children $8. berkshiremuseum.org.

Bessie’s Noon Year’s Eve Pajama Dance Party. Discovery Museum, 177 Main St., Acton. 11:45 a.m. Dust off your dancing shoes, put on your finest PJs, and help us count down to 12 (noon) with a DJ dance party. Free with admission. Members free; nonmembers $14.50, ages under 1 free. discoveryacton.org.

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Holiday Happenings in the Bay State

There’s no shortage of seasonal celebrations this time of year. From dazzling light displays to quaint Christmas festivals, we’ve rounded up 15 of the most enchanting festivities for families.

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1. Winterlights - Stockbridge, North Andover, Canton At Naumkeag, Thursdays through Sundays, Nov. 21-Dec. 29; plus Dec. 23, 30, 31 At Stevens-Coolidge Place, Thursdays through Sundays, Nov. 21-Dec. 29 At Eleanor Cabot Bradley Estate, Fridays through Sundays, Nov. 22-Dec. 29

The gardens at three iconic Trustees homes are illuminated with tens of thousands of shimmering holiday lights and designed light installations for this immersive holiday experience. Over 500,000 LED lights transform the properties at Naumkeag in Stockbridge, Stevens-Coolidge Place in North Andover, and the Eleanor Cabot Bradley Estate in Canton. Each site offers seasonal entertainment, children’s activities and refreshments for purchase. At the Stevens-Collidge Place, an interactive children’s area inspired by classic children’s “The Mitten” will allow the young and young at heart to become a part of the story. thetrustees.org/winterlights

2. Edaville Christmas Festival of Lights - Carver

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Daily through Jan. 1 (closed Dec. 25)

During the holiday season, Edaville USA transforms into an enchanting wonderland aglow with millions (yes, millions) of lights. During the Festival of Lights, families can enjoy unlimited Christmas train rides and the theme park’s 90-plus rides and attractions -- including access to Cran Central and the iconic Thomas Land. With an upgraded train package, you can join Mrs. Claus, Santa and his elves on the ‘Where’s Santa?’ train ride -- a 45-minute interactive ride where you’ll be served chocolate milk and cookies. Each guest receives a special present. Admission $37, kids 2-3 $32. edaville.com

3. ZooLights at the Stone Zoo - Stoneham

Daily, Nov. 22-Jan. 4 (Closed Dec. 25)

Christmas lights and animals? What more could a kid want? ZooLights dazzles visitors of all ages each holiday season. Stroll along tree-lined paths lit by thousands of twinkling lights. Visit black bears, a bald eagle, Canada lynx, arctic foxes, and even reindeer. This year, guests can embark on a “brick safari” as they explore the zoo’s paths and spot 40 life-size animal sculptures made from millions of colorful Legos. Enjoy more festive fun by warming up by the fire pits and toasting marshmallows for s’mores. Children will want to make sure they visit with Santa who is available for photos through Dec. 24. Adults $16.95, children up to 12 $10.95, kids under 2 free. zoonewengland.org/zoolights

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4. Bright Nights - Springfield Daily, Nov. 27-Jan. 5 (closed Dec. 2-3)

Over the last 25 years, millions of visitors have taken in the “Bright Nights” at Springfield’s Forest Park. Load up the car for this annual attraction, which has been on People.com’s list of “Top Ten Holiday Happenings in America.” The nearly three-mile tour features more than 650,000 glittering lights. The display is always evolving, so you’ll see familiar favorites and new additions every year. Rates: Monday-Thursday $20 per car; Friday-Sunday and holidays $35 per car. Find a printable coupon and other special rates on their website. brightnights.org

5. Festival of Trees & Snow Village - Wellesley

Daily, Nov. 29-Dec. 15; Weekends Dec. 20-22 & 27-29

The more than 60 gorgeously decorated Christmas trees that are raffled off each year are the centerpiece of this event, but there is so much more to the festive fun. Put on by the Massachusetts Horticultural Society at the Gardens at Elm Bank, the festival includes garden lights, visits from Santa, horse-drawn carriage rides, and a fire pit with s’mores. Enchanting displays with model trains winding through villages and vignettes, including Christmas in the City (Boston of course!), Fenway Park, and hundreds of decorated houses and lights await guests in the Snow Village. Members $5, non-members $10, children under 12 free. masshort.org 38 DECEMBER2019

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11. Santa’s Arrival and Tree Lighting - Rockport Saturday, Dec. 7

Where else can you see Santa arrive by lobster boat? After a brisk ride across Sandy Bay, Santa will arrive at T-Wharf on Rockport Harbor, then ride into town by firetruck.

Children can visit with Saint Nick before the tree lighting ceremony at Dock Square, where Christmas carols and eggnog will add to the festive mood. rockportusa.com

12. Chain of Lights - Millbury & Sutton Saturday and Sunday, December 7-8

These neighboring towns take turns hosting annual festivities over a weekend celebration of the season. Community organizations and businesses host “stops” with all sorts of holiday-themed fun. Take a free trolley ride to various locations around town where merriment takes place all day long. Food, concerts, hayrides, animals, kids’ activities, and shopping are all in store. Sutton hosts Saturday; Millbury celebrates on Sunday. facebook.com/millburychainoflights, suttonchainoflights.weebly.com

13. Holiday Pops Kids Matinee - Boston Saturdays and Sundays, Dec. 7-22, plus Dec. 23-24

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6. Tower Hill Winter Wonderland - Boylston Wednesdays through Sundays, Nov. 29-Dec. 29

Enjoy decorated indoor rooms and soak in the warmth of subtropical plants in the botanic garden’s conservatories, while the outdoor gardens and grounds provide opportunities for walks and hikes. Families with children will enjoy the scavenger hunts, a model train, discovery backpacks, and hands-on activities. Sing-along performances with Margeret McCandless will be held on Saturdays through Dec. 28.

Admission $6 for ages 6 to 18, $16 for ages 19 to 64, and $11 for 65+. Kids 5 and under free. towerhillbg.org/night-lights-2019

7. Boston Common Holiday Tree Lighting - Boston Thursday, Dec. 5

Each year an enormous Christmas tree, gifted to Boston from Nova Scotia, makes its way from way up north to the city’s Common where it’s decorated with thousands of glittering lights. Enjoy a free figure skating performance on the Frog Pond, warm refreshments, music and entertainment before Mayor Marty Walsh (joined by Santa, of course) flicks on the lights, illuminating the city’s special tree, along with nearly 100 more throughout the Common and Public Garden. The show closes with a special fireworks display over the Common.

8. Main Street at Christmas - Stockbridge

What better time to take advantage of Boston’s world-class cultural attractions than the holidays? Enjoy one of New England’s most beloved traditions -- Holiday Pops -- family style. Boston Pops hosts eight family-friendly Kids Matinees in the world-famous Symphony Hall. These special concerts feature the Boston Symphony Children’s Choir and include a children’s sing-along and post-concert photos with Santa.

The matinees are shorter than regular concerts at about 75 minutes. For those seated at the floor tables, there are special kid-friendly menu options along with holiday treats. A sensory-friendly show is slated for Dec. 7. Tickets start at $45. bso.org

14. White Christmas - West Brookfield Sunday, Dec. 8

The historic town of West Brookfield kicks off the season in classic small-town New England style during the day-long White Christmas celebration. Streets glow with twinkling white lights while the picturesque Town Common hosts a tree lighting, Christmas carolers, roasted chestnuts and s’mores and free hayrides and hot chocolate. A holiday concert, puppet show, gingerbread house decorating, elf hunt, ice sculpting, and walking lantern tours are all part of the fun. facebook.com/westbrookfieldwhitechristmas

15. Cocoa & Carols Holiday Cruise - Boston Various dates through Dec. 28

Classic Harbor Line’s luxury yacht Northern Lights gets decked out for the holidays for an evening of holiday cheer. The Blue Motion Quartet plays a jazzy sing-a-long of Christmas carols and other holiday favorites during this 90-minute cruise through the Boston harbor. Sip hot chocolate and take in the city lights from the toasty solarium.

Adults $53, children $35. boston-sailing.com

Friday through Sunday, Dec. 6-8

The town of Stockbridge, made famous by Norman Rockwell’s painting of the village during the holidays, becomes a magical New England setting decorated with holiday wreaths and festive lights for this annual celebration. Enjoy holiday readings, house tours, caroling, and a holiday concert. Hop on a horse-drawn carriage, visit with Santa, and have lunch at the Christmas Food Booth. The weekend caps off on Sunday with a recreation of the scene depicted in Main Street at Christmas, complete with vintage automobiles parked in the spots occupied in the painting. stockbridgechamber.org

9. Christmas Stroll - Nantucket Friday through Sunday, Dec. 6-8

Main Street shuts down to traffic for this annual weekend kick off to Noel, Nantucket style. Costumed carolers, craft shows and live performances spread out through the downtown, where the streets are illuminated by hundreds of decorated, seven-foot Christmas trees. On Saturday, the Nantucket Town Crier, in full regalia, rings in the Stroll, leading everyone to the wharves to meet Santa and Mrs. Claus, who arrive via Coast Guard Cutter. Be sure to stop by the Nantucket Whaling Museum, which is transformed into a glittering winter wonderland, with the month-long Festival of Trees showcasing more than 80 community-crafted Christmas trees. christmasstroll.com

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10. Christmas by Candlelight - Sturbridge

Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings, Dec. 6-29, plus Monday, Dec. 23 Enjoy an evening filled with New England holiday traditions, live musical performances, storytelling, sleigh rides, festive foods, a roaring bonfire, and strolls around the decorated Village Common. Take a walk through the living history museum by the glow of candlelight. Catch the nightly tree lighting and marvel at dozens of delicate gingerbread houses. Adults $28, youth $14, kids 3 and under free. osv.org

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Boredom Busters

Cabin fever? Take a day trip to check out one of these cool, kid-friendly adventures happening over holiday vacation week in the Bay State and beyond.

Go skating - in your socks

Several special winter break experiences are on tap at the Boston Children’s Museum, including a production of Curious George and the Golden Meatball, a live musical created exclusively for the Museum, as well as “snowmazing” activities, live animal presentations, STEAM activities, story times, dance performances, and more. On Dec. 21, 22, and 28, the museum is hosting Morning Cocoa with Characters events, which include early admission, a hot chocolate bar, and the chance to meet Curious George. (Advance tickets required). Or, stop in any day for sock skating through the museum’s Alpine Village.

See the ‘Northern Lights’ Head south to see the aurora borealis? Sort of.

The Mystic Aquarium is hosting its first-ever evening lights display this month. The unique experience takes visitors on a journey along the lighted pathways of the aquarium’s outdoor habitats, illuminated by a recreation of the Northern Lights.The spectacle is set to music while hand-crafted lanterns help shine a whole new light on Arctic species. Check it out Thursday, Friday and Saturday evenings through Jan. 4.

Marvel at ice sculptures

Boston’s downtown waterfront and Harborwalk gets transformed into a magical, winter wonderland for the annual Ice Sculpture Stroll. Over a dozen businesses and cultural institutions from the city’s waterfront neighborhoods come together on New Year’s Eve to provide an afternoon of free family fun. Wind your way down the waterfront through the trail of interactive ice sculptures as you get ready to ring in 2020.

Explore the rails

A suite of train-themed attractions at the Museum of Science in Boston is sure to entertain any railroad enthusiast. The museum’s temporary model train exhibit, All Aboard! Trains at Science Park, makes its return for a second year in a row, alongside a variety of other attractions, including Thomas & Friends and OMNI and 4-D films. Enjoy a day exploring the rails with miniature trains and hands-on activities. Kids can lay wooden tracks and consult with expert train model makers. Younger children will delight in the Thomas & Friends exhibit, where they can solve a variety of challenges combining play and STEM concepts. Experience The Polar Express and Thomas & Friends: Boiling Bubblers in 4-D, or catch the popular Rocky Mountain Express in the Omni Theater. All Aboard! is open through Jan. 7.

Get artsy

Hands-on fun might not be the first thing that comes to mind when you think of the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston, but there’s plenty that kids can touch in the museum’s various children’s programs. Bring kids to the MFA during the holiday break for activities exploring works of art inspired by light, free with admission. They can even make their own masterpiece to take home. Program runs Thursday through Tuesday, Dec. 26-31.

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Go on a reindeer quest Grab your boots and get the kids outside. Trustees properties are hosting “reindeer quests,” and inviting guests to find some elusive wooden reindeer sculptures hidden throughout trails. You can search for a herd of them at Appleton Farms Grass Rides in Ipswich or Chestnut Hill Farm in Southborough. Or, check out Francis William Bird Park in Walpole, where four reindeer are hidden along the trails.

Before you head out, stop at the trailhead parking lot kiosk to pick up some trail trips and bells.

When you find a reindeer, place a bell around its neck. These are self-guided programs, and the parks are open dawn to dusk.

Take in some history Live out your Lego dreams

Lego lovers will be in heaven at the Springfield Museums’ Everything is Awesome: Build It Week. Each day is a little different from the one before and each features a guest appearance, including magician Eric Benton and illustrator David White, a western Massachusetts-based artist who specializes in designing giant robots, or mecha, for video games and books. Daily activities include sustainable building demos, a Brick Lab and self-portrait studio, and an art discovery center with costumes, gallery games and more. Build It Week activities run Friday through Monday, Dec. 27-30.

One of New England’s most historic homes, the Old Manse in Concord, is hosting longer hours and extra tours over winter break. Learn about the minister who sparked a revolution, his grandson who inspired the transcendental movement, and world-famous artists, musicians, and scientists who have all called this 18th century house their home. From upstairs, you can look out over the North Bridge, where the famous battle of April 19, 1775, took place, and on the window panes, you can see the poems Nathaniel Hawthorne and his wife wrote to each other. Go to thetrustees.org for a list of tour dates and times.

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The Crowder’s Adoption Story

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ost parents think their job of parenting is more or less over once their children reach adulthood. They don’t have to sacrifice weekends for birthday parties or soccer tournaments, or worry about how they are going to put together a science fair project the night before it is due.

Sharon had done all that with her three adult sons from a previous marriage, but still wanted to grow a family with her new

husband, Marcus. With Sharon’s ‘expertise’ as an older mother, she felt ready to do it all over again, with more knowledge and patience for raising younger kids.

A simple interaction with a social worker got them thinking about adoption. The social worker asked Sharon and Marcus if they ever thought about adopting, which prompted the couple to talk about it and explore the process. In 2014, they began the MAPP (Massachusetts Approach to Partnership in Parenting) training and home study process.

Six months later, they were ready to grow their family.

Sharon and Marcus started attending events where they met many of the children whose profiles they had seen on the MARE website. “Going to the events gave us a clear idea,” said Marcus. It took a bit of time, but Sharon remembers when and where she was when she got the call that they had gotten a sibling group available for placement. “I couldn’t contain myself – I just started calling people,” she said.

Sharon was scared to tell her

December’s Child: Meet Dashawn My name is Dashawn and I want to be a professional football player!

Ten-year-old Dashawn is a happy and easygoing boy of African-American and Caucasian descent who is eager to please the adults in his life. Initially shy, Dashawn warms up quickly once he feels comfortable with a new person. He loves to run around and is really taken with sports, especially football, which he is playing through his school.

Other favorite activities include playing video games, watching television, and playing with action figures and Play-Doh. He also enjoys watching Disney movies with his foster brothers.

Dashawn will frequently pick up books without being prompted and enjoys quiet time. His foster mother says that he is helpful around the house, and always makes his bed and washes the dishes after dinner.

Dashawn is in the fifth grade in a regular education setting. He does well in class without any extra supports. Although at times he can have a short temper, he has developed positive peer relationships with his classmates.

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Legally freed for adoption, Dashawn is seeking a loving and supportive family.

His social worker is open to exploring families of any constellation where Dashawn can be the only or youngest child in the home. A family should be open to helping Dashawn maintain a relationship with his biological mother and younger sister.

Can you provide the guidance, love and stability that a child needs? If you’re at least 18 years old, have a stable source of income, and room in your heart, you may be a perfect match to adopt a waiting child. Adoptive parents can be single, married, or partnered; experienced or not; renters or homeowners; LGBTQ singles and couples.

The process to adopt a child from foster care requires training, interviews, and home visits to determine if adoption is right for you, and if so, to help connect you with a child or sibling group that your family will be a good match for.

To learn more about adoption from foster care, call the Massachusetts Adoption Resource Exchange (MARE) at 617-964-6273 or visit www. mareinc.org.

older sons that she and Marcus were in the process of adopting.

When she told her older son that they had gotten a placement he didn’t think she was serious at first, but after realizing it was the real deal and seeing the pictures of his soon-to-be younger sisters, he and his other brothers welcomed the girls into the family with open arms.

When Sharon and Marcus adopted their daughters, Angel was going into the first grade, and Cassidy was going to be in third grade. The two girls are just like any other children, they like science and gym class, as well as going to summer camp and seeing their camp friends.

But they also had trauma in the past, and medical issues, both of which were driving certain behaviors not too long after the adoption.

Sharon said that being a mom to older children helped her deal with certain anxieties and other medical-related behaviors that Angel and Cassidy were expressing. Sharon explained that Angel would display certain aggressive behaviors at first, but with outside help and resources, she no longer displays those negative behaviors. Between therapy, medicine and even martial arts, Angel and her parents have figured out how to best channel and treat her anxiety.

Cassidy also has anxiety from her past trauma, but has found different ways to cope, such as doing breathing exercises with her mom. “Even with biological children you have issues. Foster children are no different…they just need a second chance. They didn’t get asked for the cards

they were dealt,” Sharon said.

Angel and Cassidy speak positively about their own adoption experience, despite challenges they faced. Cassidy tells her friends how lucky she and Angel are. Angel doesn’t really think of herself as being adopted. “They are my parents,” she puts simply.

Sharon said that she and Angel have a lot of similarities, ranging from certain habits such as talking with their hands and clumsiness of knocking over a drink on the table. Marcus and Cassidy are similar in demeanor as well, being described as the quiet and “chill” ones of the family.

The Crowders prank each other, motivate each other and are always there to help one another out. Because of their story and experiences, they make it a point to be a resource for other families as well.

Sharon met Diane Tomaz, former Director of Family Support Services, at one of the Jordan’s Furniture events and she had asked if Sharon wanted to be a mentor. Sharon is very active as a mentor, as well as Marcus, who enjoys the ease of talking with prospective parents. Even Angel and Cassidy do their part at MARE events, sharing their experience as children being adopted to other adoptive parents, and children waiting to be adopted.

What the family hopes to share with everyone is that the journey is worth the waiting, classes, home studies and patience. “Just stay with it, because it is very rewarding in the end,” Sharon said.

take eight

with Tony Williams

Tony Williams grew up in the projects of Jamaica Plain in the 1950s and ‘60s. At 16, after experiencing trouble as a street gang member, he discovered an unlikely pathway to success — ballet. As a young man, he gained access to Boston Ballet’s dance program and progressed to become a principal dancer. From there he performed all over the world. When Williams retired, he returned to his hometown and opened a dance school. Not long after, he created the beloved Urban Nutcracker, a modern, Boston-centric take on the holiday classic. Williams chatted with us ahead of the Urban Nutcracker performances at the Shubert Theater, Dec. 19-28.

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You were very athletic and into sports growing up in Jamaica Plain. How did you get into dance?

I played baseball and was on the track team in high school. I also did gymnastics. At that time, some of the guys were taking ballet to help their gymnastics. I went along with them and got hooked on ballet.

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You spent years traveling the world as a ballet dancer. Is there a place or production that stands out as your favorite?

One of the countries I performed in while performing with the Royal Winnipeg Ballet was Cuba in 1974.

I met the famous Cuban ballerina, Alicia Alonso, while watching her Cuban National Ballet.

was your vision when you started 3. What Tony Williams Dance Center? Have you seen it come to fruition?

To be honest, it was to finally find a respite from being a “Ballet Teacher Gypsy.” You see, I had been making a living teaching at many dance schools, including Boston Ballet, Boston Conservatory of Dance, Wellesley College, Acton School of Ballet, Lexington School of Ballet, Groton School and many schools in New England. A typical work week had me travelling throughout Greater Boston, New Hampshire, and Connecticut! Finally opening up my own school afforded me the luxury of being in one location. My original vision of starting my school, in my twentieth year, has truly come to fruition.

your approach to teaching? Was 4. What’s there a learning curve when it comes to teaching children or did it come naturally?

I’ve been teaching since the late 70s, but when I would ask the people who taught me to dance, ‘how do you do teach kids?’ they would say, ‘I don’t know!’ They just knew how to teach professionals.

That’s easy. Teaching kids is hard. It’s like having a firm fist with a soft glove on the outside. But I had discovered that I — this 6-foot-tall guy — could sit down cross-legged, make funny faces and teach toddlers. And the kids love the fact that you are acting like a kid! You have mostly kids who are beginners but there’s always someone that’s very talented. So how do you juggle keeping everyone moving at their own pace? The sign of a good teacher is someone

that can have a telepathic sense of where those kids’ consciousness is. A student has to be pushed more because if they can do more, they want more.

Some kids are hungry, but some aren’t. But the kids that aren’t so hungry need to be pushed too.

motto is ‘diversity through dance.’

What does this mean?

5. Your

To provide excellent dance training for kids from mixed demographic backgrounds. My studio is located in the heart of Jamaica Plain. JP has a diverse socio-economic population. Here, students come from the housing projects (where I lived as a kid) to the stately mansions lining Jamaica Pond. I am most proud of the nexus of families from diverse backgrounds. They come together to share the wonderful experience of the world of dance.

charge — to the unfolding performance. A mother who attended the performance with her parents and 3-year-old daughter once told me that her parents and their granddaughter were fully absorbed in the show. If you can have three generations absorbed in a show, then you’ve got a show that can endure for years to come.

8. What do you want your legacy to be?

A person that strove for harmony amongst both friends and strangers. He tried to achieve his goals through hard work, getting up when pushed down, and never giving up on dreams.

the story behind the Urban 6. What’s Nutcracker?

When I started my school 20 years ago, I had 17 boys enrolled along with the girls. The boys were recruited because of my two male hip hop and tap teachers. I got the idea to get the students parents help me put on a Nutcracker production. But, because there were already many traditional productions, both professional and amateur, I came up with the idea to incorporate my ballet background (and many years of performing in the Nutcracker) with hip hop and tap. At that time I had heard Duke Ellington’s orchestration of Tchaikovsky’s original score. So, I set upon mixing both scores along with ballet, tap and hip hop and called it the Urban Nutcracker.

Nutcracker has become a staple in Boston during the 7. Urban holiday season. Why do you think it continues to resonate with audience members and different generations?

Well, most of all, it is an entertaining show. But, the show has lots of heart. The humanity expressed by the dancers in the show is reflective of those sitting in the audience. Folks feel a palpable connection — an electric BAYSTATEPARENT 43

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