BC Magazine Philippines September 2012 James Tupper by BC Magazine Philippines

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MYLENE DIZON

Lounging Around with the Award-winning Actress and Single Mom, and Her Sons, Tomas and Lucas

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Raising Kids in a Culturally Diverse Society Exploring Wildlife in a California Safari Family Time, Unplugged and Outdoors Dealing with Child Abuse www.bcmag.ph

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Losing touch with your family? Time for a change

Hospital Checklist:

What to Pack For Delivery Day

JAMES TUPPER

The â&#x20AC;&#x153;Revengeâ&#x20AC;? star talks about his love story with actress Anne Heche, and parenting his two boys, Homer and Atlas

INSIDE BC contents 14 mommy time Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve curated skincare and wellness products to help you achieve the perfect glow 18 my hospital checklist Prepare your own checklists with the help of this pre-selected necessary items for childbirth

24 family time, unplugged and outdoors Share exciting experiences with your child with these helpful tips for the road

40 finding your mompreneur mojo Find out how to strike a balance between raising your family and having the entrepreneurial dream job

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On the Cover: james tupper WITH SONS, homer and atlas

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26 raising tolerant kids Arm your kids with these values to prepare them for a culturally diverse society 44 dig in Take a bite out of these delicious, easy to make snacks

50 mylene dizon Get to know the award-winning actress and mom to her sons, Tomas and Lucas

72 new beginnings Revenge star, James Tupper, talks to us about parenting, his relationship with Anne Heche, and his acting career

On the Cover: MYLENE DIZON WITH SONS, TOMAS AND LUCAS

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With one of my favorite actors, james tupper (from “revenge” and “Mr. Popper’s Penguins”); With James Tupper’s partner, Anne Heche; then-pregnant, with mylene dizon

Seventh Heaven Last August 15th, I celebrated my 36th birthday. It was a quiet and lovely day spent at home, with an early night spent blowing out the candle on my old fashioned chocolate cake with caramel custard filling, binging on The Farm Organics steaks, parmesan-crusted fish, and assorted pastas from Italianni’s. I felt tired but contented, as I normally did throughout my pregnancy, not knowing that the perfect present would arrive not even 24 hours later, with labor starting right before and during the birthday party of one of our good friends’ (Sottos’) son, Kiel. We stayed for about 45 minutes at the party, as my bloody show didn’t seem to stop, and headed straight to the hospital with my two daughters in tow. In the late afternoon, I had my mom picked up to watch over my girls, as our son and only (human) boy, Mathis Samuel, would be born on August 16th at 9:22 PM. If it happened several hours before, we would be twins of a different gender. Both him and I are Leos and are birthed on the Year of the Dragon (clearly this mother’s son)—supposedly a very auspicious year if we are to follow Chinese beliefs, so I’m sticking to that. After 6 years since the coming of my second daughter, I am back to those almost sleepless nights and walking aimlessly throughout the day; feeling the pains and pangs of nursing (can’t believe I forgot how painful this is, so I must have blocked out the memory); tossing out breast pads and trying to stop the leakage from some inane reason that caused the letdown (the sound of an incoming text message causes milk to flow—who knew?); distressing about things like vaccines and jaundice (another bout with phototherapy and prick tests yet again); having one child sick while caring for the other two— which has already happened; and for the first time, taking care not to get peed on my face. Despite all the worrying, like most new moms will tell you—and I say “most” because I exclude those mothers who leave their kids in garbage cans/public toilets and in front of other people’s homes—I am on a total, new parent babymoon. I am in love for the 7th time in my life, this including my adoration for our two furry ones. If there’s one thing that I pray to succeed in, that would be to have a healthy, safe, together and loving family, so I hope I’m well on my way to that path. Our little bambino completes us in a way I never knew could hap-

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pen, as we were already set in our ways. Blessings come sometimes when we least expect it to. I am enjoying every bit of the baby smell again, and how he coos and is soothed by my mere embrace. Thank you, God. Speaking of sons, our Hollywood cover is a lookback on our shoot at our photo studio in Beverly Hills with one of my favorite people and actors, “Revenge” TV and “Mr. Popper’s Penguins” star, James Tupper. James and partner, actress Anne Heche, have two absolutely handsome and well-behaved boys—obviously a product of their down-to-earth parents. The couple arrives sans nanny, and Anne herself takes care of diaper duties and helps me in between outfit changes. I admit being quite starstruck with Anne, having seen a lot of her movies, and was happy that she proved to be as easygoing and kind as her other half. And in continuing with our topic on little lads, our local cover model, Mylene Dizon, is obviously enamored with her two adorable boys. It’s insane how good Mylene looks after having given birth twice. This stunning single mom has enjoyed a long and steady acting career. We went to the same university and took the same course (Communication Arts), so we compared notes during the shoot—reliving some nightmares of professors in the process. Even then, she was already known for her looks, and was starting out in a show called “Kada,” which was a hit during those non-cable TV days, making Mylene and the cast instant celebrities of my generation. This issue again packs a punch so I’ll leave you to your reading. Please excuse me as I have to attend to a quick (yeah, sure) nappy clean-up. Join us in October as I ponder on what endearing costumes and activities to do for one of our favorite holidays: Halloween. Here’s my chance to dress up my infant, can’t-complain-yet, son in a red chili pepper costume, so wish me luck that I find it because that’s a photo opp for the books right there.

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1. Extra hospital gown, like Dear

Johnnies or Gownies—which double as breastfeeding gowns. Since this is most likely my last child, I’d like to wear something other than the standard issued hospice ones

2. Nightdress, or ‘dusters’ as we call them in the Philippines. Pajamas with buttons in front are a lifesaver

3. Maternity sanitary pads. Bring a minimum of 2 packs if normal delivery 4. Boyshort style panties—Mothercare or So-En for cheaper alternatives 5. Underpads like Tena, for “leaks” on the bed)

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8. Nursing cover from L’ovedBaby or Bebe Au Lait, in case you have visitors

2. Going home outfit(s)

9. Robe—like this soft pink one in the photo from Barefoot Dreams—which provides easy access for breastfeeding or as a cover-up for trips to the nursery 10. Mild facial wash (Cetaphil) and Make-up (unless you’re confident with how you look au naturel). Revlon has great options for powders, lipsticks—such as the Just Bitten Kissable line; and a good cheek stain 11. Nipple cream and breast pads (Avent Ultra Comfort Breast Pads, Lansinoh, Mothercare) FOR THE NEW BABY:

6. Breast pump—Medela or Avent); and Soothies for the boobies 7. Nursing pillow, especially if room-

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1. Socks, for you and the little one. For baby, try Jefferies Socks, Three Blind Mice, Baby Legs, Porkchop

3. Bonnets, mittens, sidetie/sidesnap shirts, frogsuits (must-have, especially for sleeping) 4. Diapers like Drypers Newborn

Soft; and birdseye cloth diapers which can also be used as burp cloths

5. Baby wipes—J&J, Pigeon, Pampers Sensitive—use if baby didn’t undergo circumcision 6. Cotton balls 7. Diaper rash cream (Pinxav, Desitin, Palmer’s Bottom Butter) 8. Baby soap such as Dove, or J&J Milk Bath, Cetaphil 9. Shampoo (if baby has a good head

of hair), Mustela hair and body wash,

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6. Cash—enough said 7. Snacks, or any comfort food 8. Water Earth’s Best, Noodle & Boo, California Baby, SheaOrganics 10. Car seat. We have a Cybex Aton, or my old Maxi-Cosi or Graco, or Safety 1st 11. Swaddle blankets—from Aden

and Anais, SwaddleMe Designs, Little Giraffe—or swaddling dresses

12. Betadine antiseptic, Bactroban

for wounds from pricking (although normally the hospital already charges you for these)

13. Baby bottles, if you’re pumping

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14. Safety 1st Deluxe Healthcare &

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9. Extras: Room scents; portable music speakers; DVDs

1. Latest issues of BC and SPARK Magazines (so I can post edit and self-impose more stress). Maybe some sexy book like 50 Shades might help speed labor along, hehe

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2. Own soap, shampoo, towels, tooth-

1. Digital camera and handheld video

3. Dishwashing liquid, plates, cutlery, sponge, dishes, disposable cups

2. Cellphone with charger (useful

brush, toothpaste, alcohol, feminine wash, facial tissues, toilet paper if you have a preferred brand (2-3 rolls), extra blankets for guardians (and to make the hospital feel like home)

4. Tucks pads (stings at first, but helps with the perineal healing) 5. Documents for baby’s birth certificate; your birth plan—list of whether you want an epidural, episiotomy, etc.; marriage certificate; insurance; PhilHealth paperwork—must accomplish in advance

cam (forgot both during my second delivery—that’s what you get when you live in the U.S. without any support group of family). Used film for our firstborn, and those prints are M.I.A.

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3. MacBook Pro (to photo edit this time around?) with charger, adaptor, or iPad 4. Portable internet connection (our trusty SmartBro allowed us to work and get in touch with family from abroad) bc

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or families considering reviving the tradition of a road trip vacation, it’s one of the best experiences parents and kids can share, says Michael DiLorenzo, author of Adventures with Jonny: Road Trip to the Parks!

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For semestral breaks and long weekends, why not travel to a nearby province via car, or experience nature at its finest in bed and breakfasts that offer lush gardens to get lost in, or exclusive resorts that provide weekend relaxation like no other.

“This is a shared experience, and one that will be talked about during family gatherings for years to come,” says DiLorenzo, a father of three. “For busy parents, this is a time to savor their children’s youth. As moms and dads eventually find out, they grow up fast.” bcmag.ph

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It’s also a chance to get children outside and away from their computers, he says. Children today already have a deep-rooted interest in technology, which is why a road trip to a natural, outdoor destination is an opportunity to “give your child the gift of the outdoors, which is a gift for life,” says DiLorenzo.

“The greatest family memories are created in shared adventure,” DiLorenzo says. “Outdoor recreation is filled with these memories just looking for a family to bring them home.”

The journey to a national park is as bonding an experience as whatever happens at the destination. “And there are parks in every city or province,” he notes. “If you don’t have the time or money to go cross country, pick a park closer to home.”

DiLorenzo offers these helpful tips for the road: Games, games, games!: Yes, there is ample entertainment for both drivers and riders in cars these days. BUT, the goal is to bond with the family, so consider a fun, albeit offcolor game like “Road Kill Round-Up.” A point system might break down like this: two points for the first to spot a poor critter; three for whoever first correctly identifies the species; two points subtracted for a false road-kill call; three points subtracted for misidentifying the kind. Beware of dairy drinks

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A spill in the backseat can eventually create quite a stink during a road trip. But do pack plenty of healthy snacks to save on pricey pit stops and avoid all the sugar and salt in junk food. smelly snacks):

Avoid big-city rush hours: When traveling through metropolitan areas, consider the busiest traffic periods. Whether you plan to stop and check out the city or simply zip through it, bumper-to-bumper traffic is something to avoid. A bit of consideration can save your family hours of grid-locked misery.

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Tech help: Various apps and websites can help drivers find the cheapest gas prices, food options, hotel rates and travel routes. Also, don’t forget a music mix that appeals to the entire family on one of these devices. (Remember, leave work at home—forget about work-related calls, texts and emails! Use a nonwork-related smartphone, if needed.)

About Michael A. DiLorenzo Michael A. DiLorenzo is a married father of three living in the outdoor-rich environs of Michigan. He created the “Adventures with Jonny” series to entertain and educate children (and parents!) about the activities available in the great outdoors.

Being in a hurry should be left for the morning commute; vacation should be different. When traveling across provinces, consider local culture. Enjoy diners and unique attractions, and don’t be afraid to take notes. Schedule pit stops:

Don’t forget the necessities: Pack

light, but right—and don’t forget the safety gear, such as car seats, booster seats, lightweight strollers, and other things that might come in handy for a stroll at the park. For families with hyper toddlers, don’t forget an extra set of clothes and toiletries—wipes, a small towel, powder, and other items to help freshen your little one up after an afternoon of play. A first-aid kit is also always a must. bc

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raising tolerant kids The more culturally diverse our society becomes, the more adept we’ll need to be at collaborating with people who hold profoundly different beliefs. That means our kids may need to navigate some tough conversations. Here are some pointers for teaching them to do just that

e parents spend huge amounts of time and money on raising well-rounded, prepared-forthe-real-world kids. We provide violin lessons to develop their brains. We send them to soccer practice to learn the value of teamwork. We encourage them to join multiple clubs to round out their education and to prepare them for college and the real world. But too often we forget one very important skill says Janet Penn—and it’s one they’ll have to have to succeed in an increasingly flat, culturally diverse world. “With a rise in diversity comes a rise in the potential for disagreements,”

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says Penn, executive director of Youth LEAD. “Chances are your kids will work with and live alongside people who have very different points of view on highly controversial topics. They’ll need to be able to have not only civil but productive conversations with these people—and the path to cultural harmony isn’t always smooth!

to respectfully disagree without getting angry or upset or feeling intimidated.”

“People who can’t navigate tough conversations will be seriously handicapped in their ability to move ahead in tomorrow’s business world,” she adds. “Often we’re taught that certain subjects like religion and politics are taboo—but in a global society it gets harder and harder to avoid them. We must make sure our kids are equipped

This is where Youth LEAD excels. This non-profit organization based in Sharon, Massachusetts, engages a diverse group of area high school students to inspire them to reflect upon their cultural values and beliefs, connect with others across differences, and act together to address local and global challenges.

A key goal of Youth LEAD is to help bridge what Penn calls the “difference divide” between people of different cultures and faiths. That means getting to them at a young age and helping them understand each other.

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community Penn says its overarching goal is for youth to develop the skills they’re going to need to operate in an increasingly global, culturally diverse world. “If your kids are never exposed to people from different cultural or religious groups, they may begin to believe things that aren’t true about certain groups,” she explains. “They need to see firsthand that such prejudice is unfounded, that Jews or Muslims or Christians are human beings like themselves. They need to organically learn that people from different cultures share both similarities and differences. And they need to practice the art of holding tough conversations so they’ll be able to do so. Penn says it may help to share with them the following tips, based on skills taught by Youth LEAD Get in touch with personal stereotypes and assumptions.

Before you can begin to have productive relationships and conversations with those from other cultures, you have to get real with yourself by considering your own personal stereotypes. For example, have you ever found yourself agreeing that women aren’t as apt as men in science and math, or that Jewish people aren’t good at sports, or that deep down all Muslims want to bring down the U.S.? It’s okay to admit that you have these secret feelings, says Penn—in fact, it’s a necessary first step in breaking down stereotypes. “Stereotypes are like pollution in the air,” she notes. “Sometimes it can be hard not to breathe them in. We are all capable of stereotyping and making false assumptions. It’s also important that we consider what stereotypes might hold a grain of truth. Being clear and honest with ourselves about our beliefs can help us manage these situations more openly and allow us to have more meaningful conversations.”

“We have all felt afraid, frustrated, and confused and have acted on those feelings,” says Penn. “Understanding the why behind people’s words and actions can help begin a discussion in a new way. For example, let’s say you have negative views of Muslims. Get to the root of those beliefs. How have you developed those views? If your only experience with Muslims is through reading about terrorist attacks in the newspaper, then of course your views will be negative. “It’s your responsibility as a global citizen to break out of those confines,” she asserts. “Make an effort to learn more about the Muslim religion. Have discussions with Muslim neighbors or colleagues. And I would say for everyone, we have to remember that we shouldn’t fear asking each other questions. We won’t get anywhere if we can’t have conversations about our fears and concerns.” Consider your gray areas.

Are your beliefs about other cultures based on fear? Are you afraid of the culture itself? Are you afraid that you’ll offend someone of a different race or religion if you ask them a question about their beliefs? Reflecting on times when you were afraid, confused, or closed minded can help you understand your beliefs and help you relate to someone you don’t agree with.

There is nothing easy about becoming a well-rounded global citizen. One’s education in doing so will require a lot of self-reflection, and some of the most difficult self-reflection will be parsing out those issues that fall into the gray areas. Can you think of a time when the values you hold dear related to a certain issue bumped up against other values that are also important to you? For example, maybe you are having difficulty opening up to the religious beliefs of someone else because they conflict with certain aspects of your own.

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“This is when becoming a global citizen can feel like a struggle between right and wrong for some young people,” says Penn. “They know they should be tolerant of others and their cultural and religious choices, but they have difficulties reconciling these issues with their own belief systems. And this is why selfreflection is so important. “A Christian or Jew who is secure in his own faith, who is not just ‘going along’ with what he thinks he’s ‘supposed’ to believe, is less likely to feel threatened by hearing beliefs that are the polar opposite of his own views,” she adds. “In fact, a democracy depends upon a citizenry able to understand why they hold their beliefs and how to defend them, rather than blindly following the pack.” Set personal ground rules.

When the time for reflection has ended and it’s time for the actual dialogue to begin, you must set a few ground rules for yourself. These will help keep you in check if a conversation turns contentious. Remember, you can’t control how the other party will handle a conversation, but you can control how you will handle it. In order to help their members create respectful conversations, Youth LEADers set the following ground rules for themselves: 1. I will speak for myself and from my

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own experience. (I will begin sentences with “I think” or “I feel,” as opposed to “You people” or “You think.”) 2. I will listen with an open heart and mind. 3. I will set aside the need to persuade others to agree with me. 4. I will not interrupt. (If someone else is speaking, I will wait until they have finished before I speak. I will not engage in “sidebar” conversations.) 5. I will “step up” to share my thoughts and experiences and then “step back” so others may share their thoughts and experiences. (I will try to ensure that everyone has a chance to speak.) 6. I will not attack a person or their faith. 7. I will ask a “clarifying question” if I don’t understand something that has been said. A clarifying question seeks to understand (e.g., “What do you mean by…” or, “Can you explain that to me?”). 8. I will “pass” if I don’t want to speak. 9. I will maintain confidentiality. “What’s said in here, stays in here.” Understand the difference between ignorance and ill intent.

Let’s say someone has offended you and your knee jerk reaction is to lash out angrily at her. Before you begin a conversation with her, ask yourself, “Is this person intentionally being hurtful or is she unaware of the impact of her words and actions?” At Youth LEAD this is

called thinking about Intent vs. Impact. “People who are ignorant of certain cultures may not know how inflammatory what they are saying truly is,” explains Penn. “For example if you’re bi-racial and someone asks you, ‘What are you, anyway?’ This question will very likely seem insensitive, but it is possible that it is coming from a place of positive curiosity. “Understand that the person may genuinely want to learn more about you, but he has phrased his question in a way that he isn’t aware is insensitive. When these issues arise, you have to be able to quickly assess the person’s intent and the impact they were hoping to have, and then act accordingly.” Use “I” statements to personalize thoughts and feelings.

Personalizing what you are thinking or feeling makes it about you. It prevents you from making generalizations about an entire group or about the person you are confronting. When you use “I” statements, you keep what you’re saying focused only on you. “This method asks students to express how a given belief or events have affected them personally,” says Penn. “Through ‘I’ statements they share their own life experiences without attacking bcmag.ph

community the beliefs or experiences of others. For example, let’s say there’s a conversation about conflict in the Middle East. You’re Jewish and don’t agree with the Palestinian approach to getting statehood. “Rather than make a statement that attacks their efforts you might say, ‘I’m Jewish. I’m uncomfortable with the actions Palestinian leaders are taking. I think they are continuing to impede the peace process. While I support the existence of the Palestinian people, I don’t support the mentality of their leaders.’ Using ‘I’ statements prevents the conversation from becoming accusatory. You’re expressing an opinion, not making an accusation. Opinions can be discussed, but it is very difficult to keep an open conversation going when accusations start flying.” Start with an agreement.

At the beginning of a conversation with someone with whom you have a fundamental disagreement, try to find some common ground. “That’s true even when you’re talking about an issue as polarizing as school prayer, for example. If both parties can agree that they believe in freedom of religion, knowing you have this core value in common will keep you from demonizing or dismissing each other,” notes Penn. “Finding this common ground will help you both approach the conversation from a more open, understanding place.”

Remain silent.

In order to benefit from the questions mentioned above, you have to listen deeply to the other person’s answers. And in order to listen deeply, you have to remain silent. “You can’t listen deeply when you’re thinking about the next thing you’re going to say,” says Penn. “When you know you can’t speak, it’s much easier to listen. And when you are a better listener, you can ask better questions. Eventually the other person comes to see that you do care about what they have to say. You might not be able to reach a complete agreement, but you can reach mutual respect.” Learn how to take greater action.

Of course, there will be some situations that are instant, aggressive, or for some other reason it is not safe or effective to engage another person. “In these kinds of cases at Youth LEAD, participants are taught to take their feelings and reactions and turn them into social action and local and global change,” says Penn. “They do this through dialogue, community events, workshops, etc., but anyone can do it by becoming more educated on a topic or volunteering to work for a cause they believe in. This is what being a global citizen is all about: actively learning and participating in ways that make the world a better, safer place for everyone.”

Get to the heart of the matter.

Youth LEAD teaches its members to get to the heart of others’ core principles and beliefs. In order to do that members are taught to ask the right questions. “Most questions we might ask serve us and our positions,” explains Penn. “But if we can learn to ask questions out of genuine interest in another person, it can turn a conversation in a new direction. For example, you might ask, ‘Do you have a personal connection to this topic?’ Or, ‘What about your life experience has influenced your beliefs?’ These questions show that you’re genuinely seeking an understanding of that person, and they help you to have a more complete understanding of where they’re coming from.” bcmag.ph

“The skills taught at Youth LEAD and organizations like it are invaluable in the working world,” says Penn. “People who master them are able to resolve conflict more quickly and come up with better solutions, build stronger workplace relationships, and create more productive, enjoyable work environments. These are the kinds of skills employers will increasingly expect and demand—and the kids who develop them at a young age will thrive. “Of course, it’s not all about business,” she adds. “These are the kinds of skills that help people get along with friends and family as well. They’re the yarn we use to weave the tapestry of a richer, happier, more interesting, and more harmonious life.” bc

“Often we’re taught that certain subjects like religion and politics are taboo—but in a global society it gets harder and harder to avoid them. We must make sure our kids are equipped to respectfully disagree without getting angry or upset or feeling intimidated.”

About Youth LEAD:

Youth LEAD, Inc., (youthleadonline.org) was founded in 2004 to inspire and motivate youth to reflect upon their values and beliefs, connect with others across differences, and act together to address local and global challenges. YL’s Leadership Program trains high school students to reach across religious, ethnic, and racial divides to increase understanding and to turn fear of differences into hope and positive action. { SEPTEMBER 2012 } b c PHILIPPINES

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scars of child abuse It’s about time we shed light on this matter, to help victims and their family members better understand its effects and how we can prevent it from happening again

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“90% of child sexual abuse victims know the offender. Child predators are terrorists.”

the U.S., instances of child abuse increase during the summer, with some shelters and child advocacy centers actually doubling their caseloads, according to anecdotal reports. No matter the season, however, parents and family members must be vigilant when it comes to spotting and preventing child abuse.

While these tragedies include everything from neglect to beatings, child advocate Michelle Bellon, author of The Complexity of a Soldier, says parents and caregivers should be especially alert to one of the most easily hidden and underreported crimes: child sexual abuse. “90 percent of child sexual abuse victims know the offender. Child predators are terrorists,” Bellon says. “Like the terrorists we deploy armies to battle overseas, they prey

on innocents and subject them to physical and emotional torture.” The consequences can be devastating and lifelong, including post-traumatic stress disorder and separation anxiety, according to the American Psychological Association reports. “Does this sound like anything else we have heard about since 9/11? To me, it is very similar to what victims of terrorism face, and what soldiers face after fighting wars,” Bellon says. “I think child predators should be called what they are—domestic terrorists.” A victim by the name of Mara, who was brave enough to share her story, came to us to speak about the issue and her case. "It started when I was six years old at the house of my guardian. The perpetrator was

Bellon shares these guidelines from a number of sources, including the Centers for Disease Control, to keep children safe. When choosing a day care center, school, or summer program, ask about employee (and volunteer) screening and how interactions are monitored. A criminal background check is not sufficient to ferret out sexual

abusers, since many have never been charged or convicted. Instead the program should look for warning signs in written applications and interviews. For instance, some predator adults spend all of their time with children and have no significant adult relationships. Policies on interactions between adults and children should include examples of appropriate and inappropriate conduct, and definitive steps for both monitoring and addressing concerns and complaints. Ask about the training. Staff and even temporary volunteers should undergo training to recognize signs of sexual abuse and to learn when it’s appropriate to report concerns. There should be a designated person to handle reports. Training should be required for staff and volunteers who come on board midway through the program or school year. Policies should include procedures for handling not just potential abuse, but also violations of the code of conduct for interactions. Ask about interactions between older and younger children. Some organizations or communities allow older children to serve as “junior counselors” or activity assistants. Ask about the guidelines for these situations, including whether and how long children may be unsupervised by an adult.

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Linda O’Dochartaigh Linda O’Dochartaigh has worked in health care and is an advocate for victims of child abuse and domestic violence. She wants survivors to know that an enriched, stable and happy life is available to them. O’Dochartaigh is the mother of three grown children and is raising four adopted grandchildren. { SEPTEMBER 2012 } b c PHILIPPINES

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Make sure children understand “personal boundaries.” Teach children the importance of recognizing and respecting the invisible barriers that separate them from other people. They should be able to recognize their comfort zone—and that of others!—and know that they can and should speak up about setting limits. Start at home by respecting a child’s right to say “no” to physical contact, such as tickling and hugs. Never force a child to kiss a relative. Recognize signs of a problem. Children often won’t or can’t tell you what’s happening, but there are signs to watch for, including changes in behavior such as withdrawal or unprovoked crying, night terrors, bedwetting, eating problems, unexplained injuries, suddenly avoiding a particular person, and unusual interest in or knowledge of sexual matters.

the husband of my first cousin, who was my guardian," she recalls. "Unfortunately, I was not raised by my biological parents. I was a product of a second/illegal family." She said she never reported the incident to the authorities, and explained, "Sobrang takot ko na baka mag-away away sila dahil lang sa akin. I was afraid na hindi ako paniwalaan ng pinsan ko, afraid na mapag-usapan ng mga tao. Takot sa magiging future ko kapag nalaman ng mga tao ang ginawa sa akin." Mara continues, "I was very afraid kapag naiiwan sa bahay kasi for sure something will happen again. I

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learned to be independent when it came to school work and I pitied myself. [I was a] loner, no friends."

it after how many years." Mara also says that she currently has no plans about talking to this to her children.

Fast forward to today, Mara is a grown woman with a family of her own. She admits, "My hubby knows [about] it. Thank God, for he helped me to move on. [I have a] trauma that other people or even family friends or relative might do it to them also."

“As terrible as the initial abuse is for children, the volume of lifelong negative consequences is usually worse,” says child advocate Linda O’Dochartaigh, whose novel Peregrine, details the stark aftermath of child sex abuse.

She admits that she was honest with the man who was to be her husband, saying, "He knew that I was not a virgin anymore, and somehow it affected him, but he told me my past is not a big deal to him. But I had to tell him. He was the first person to know about

“Children who suffer sexual abuse often hear the voice of their abuser in their minds for the rest of their lives, telling them they’re bad, they’re ugly, they’re worthless. These children are often sentenced to a lifetime of relationships in which they are victims.” bcmag.ph

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Trouble handling emotions: One of the surest

signs of well-being is the ability to handle adversity in stride; to keep emotions in check. “For victims of sexual abuse, a lasting legacy is the opposite of well-being,” she says. Victims may have trouble expressing emotions, which are then bottled up, often leading to sporadic bouts of depression, anger and anxiety. Many turn to drugs and alcohol to numb their pain. A core sense of worthlessness or being damaged: The physical side of

sexual abuse is just one aspect; what haunts victims is the voice of the abuser, constantly reinforcing a lack of personal value. As time passes and children mature into adults, victims often do not invest in themselves. With a deep sense of being damaged, they often feel incapable or unworthy of higher-paying jobs, for example. Difficulty in relationships and lack of trust: Most child abuse

comes from authority figures who are close to the victim—family members, family friends, church leaders, teachers, etc. Children who cannot feel secure within their own family, the most fundamental of relationships, may develop deep-seeded trust issues. Relationships are frequently doomed because victims trash good relationships, fearing their partner will ultimately try to control or hurt them, or they’ll bond with an abusive person because they do not know what a good relationship entails.

According to Catherine McCall, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and the author of When the Piano Stops: A Memoir of Healing from Sexual Abuse, “talking to children about sexual abuse and talking to them about sex are intertwined.” She explains that teaching children about sex should be a continuous process that begins even before they reach puberty. Educating them about their body parts is also an important step, as it also leads to guiding them to know that touching, looking, or taking photographs of their own or other people’s private parts is inappropriate and must not be toler-

ated. Have a support person or group that your child can go to for help. This can be people he or she trusts in your immediate community, school, or neighborhood, and yourself. It is also important to let them understand that child sexual abuse does not only occur physically, but also through the Internet as well. Perpetrators and pedophiles can easily approach children in chat rooms and other online forums, so it’s also important to have parental controls in place, especially when it comes to the use of computers and electronics that provide access to the Internet. bc

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experiencing wildlife Safari West is a 400-acre lot that houses over 400 exotic animals. It’s not a zoo nor a drive-through park. They want you to experience these animals in their natural habitat. And because the climate in Santa Rosa is similar to that of Africa, the animals thrive even in the colder months. I was really excited for their safari tour that drove through the homes of rhinos, giraffes, zebras, kudus, and other mammals native to Africa. The ostrich were a naughty bunch to drive past, and almost swallowed someone’s camera holder whole. Our guide also brought us inside a large aviary, which housed exotic birds from all over the world. I’m sure it was like a colorful picture book brought to life for my 1-year old baby. He couldn’t get his eyes off of the African Flamingos, which are Safari West’s newest exhibit. As the sun set, all the guests gathered around the fire pit where the staff prepared barbecued steak and chicken for our dinner. Children (and adults) were invited to roast some marshmallows on the pit after dinner. And if you’ve forgotten you were in the wine country, they had fine bottles of California and South African wine available. A glass of chardonnay paired perfectly with the setting sun and distant sound of flamingos.

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Even though it was summer in California, the night was chilly. No wonder our bed in the tent had layers and layers of comforters and duvets. And if that wasn’t enough, there was a heater provided.

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1. From afar, the tent looked like a cabin 2. The interior of Safari West’s luxury tent made of heavy lined canvas and a wooden frame decorated with African artifacts 3. The fire pit where our dinners were cooked 4. Another mammal native to Africa: The Kudu 5. A deer and its fawn freely roaming around behind our tent 6. We had time to take a quick family portrait in front of the lagoon 7. Ostrich playing with our safari guide

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ring home the bacon…or play, “This little piggy”? Work outside the home and feel perpetually guilty and exhausted, or quit your job and feel perpetually broke (and exhausted)? For years, these were the tough choices mothers faced. Maybe we could do both—work and parent—but could we do both well? We wondered. It’s a question that, these days, seems positively antiquated, says Kimberley Clayton Blaine. “Thanks to the Internet and to the skills we women have developed from our years in the workforce, we have more options than ever before,” says Blaine, licensed family and child therapist, mother of two boys, and author of The Go-To Mom’s Parents’ Guide to Emotion Coaching Young Children. “More and more moms are crafting lives that have ample

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time for both work and family—and we’re doing it well.” Such is the story of Blaine herself. A licensed family and child therapist, she spent many years dedicated to her career, working with small children and their families. But when she started a family of her own, things changed. Blaine wanted to spend more time at home with her own children, but she didn’t want to give up the career she loved and had worked so hard for. And, thanks to technology and her own business savvy, she didn’t have to. Today, Blaine is an online powerhouse. As an accomplished author, social media maven, mom-blogger, and producer of a web channel dedicated solely to moms, she has become the go-to source for women everywhere. Widely touted as “the preschool whisperer” and known online as, “The Gobcmag.ph

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To Mom,” Blaine has become a trusted source of valuable information and an expert that a lot of other mothers depend on. So how did she rise to online-stardom status? The transition, she says, was natural. “As a mother, I found myself online looking for answers to the questions I had,” explains Blaine, “and I also found myself looking to connect with other women and mothers like me. But I failed to find one place that encompassed all the things that I was looking for. So I decided to create it.” As a licensed therapist, Blaine knew that she had something to offer. And as a social media-savvy woman, she knew that she had the tools necessary to connect with people. And for Blaine, the opportunity that working in a digital world has created has given her the chance to live the life she wants. She has the family time she desires and the career she always dreamed of. And the world, she says, is there for every mom’s taking right now. You just have to know how to go out there and take it. Read on for ten tips that Blaine says will get you started on the path to your own dream job:

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Find a need to fill.

To get started, you’re going to want to make sure that your venture fills a need out in the existing market. Is it something that is different from what is out there already? Is it better, faster, bigger, more innovative? Consider these questions as you weigh the pros and cons of going out on your own. When Blaine started out, she saw a niche that needed filling—solid parenting advice in one, convenient place—that she was more than qualified to fill. Everyone has their own expertise, interests, or an eye for where something is missing. Tap into that to create your own success. Test market your idea before

ture, social media, like Twitter, wasn’t nearly as popular as it is now. And yet, that’s become one of her biggest outlets for making connections in the online community to drive traffic to her sites. At the time, it may have seemed to some that the time she devoted to Twitter was a waste of time, but she knew she was investing in something important. And today, that has paid off. Figure out how to transfer your workplace skills to your new venture.

Whether it’s people skills you’ve picked up in dealing with clients, marketing know-how, or even just your admirable work ethic, tap into that skill set and transfer it to your new venture.

you take the plunge.

Before you drop everything (your steady paycheck included) and start your new venture, it’s a good idea to “test market” your idea. You would start out doing this work on the side before you resign. Get your first customer or at least some healthy interest before you take the full-time plunge. Pay attention to your gut instincts.

Some of the most successful businesses got their big break because they were on the cutting edge of a new trend. Take Kimberley, for example. When she first started her online ven-

Assemble a top-notch team.

Approach your new business venture just like you would anything at your old job. As you are getting started, understand that you’ll have to serve as your own team for awhile, but down the line expect to do some hiring (and have a plan in place for it). During your early days as a one-man show, make sure you are always on the lookout for talent so that when you are ready to expand, you can hire the right team. For Kimberley, having the right team has been paramount to the success of her latest venture, MommyToMommy.TV. { SEPTEMBER 2012 } b c PHILIPPINES

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Social media is making it easier and more convenient than ever for mompreneurs to stay connected. Twitter and Facebook can keep you connected no matter where you are. You can blog and comment during naptime, or introduce a new product while you wait in the pick-up line at school. Blaine cautions that while staying connected is great, it often isn’t enough to take you to that next level. Go the extra step and engage in conversation with those you are connected with. That’s where the true rewards lie. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

We all have our strengths when it comes to business. But that also means we all have our weaknesses as well. When it comes to the areas that are outside of your expertise, don’t hesitate to ask someone to help you. Kimberley surrounded herself with mentors and contacts for the areas of

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business that were not her strong suit, and she called on them when necessary. Stay true to your brand.

Don’t be quick to jump at the first opportunity that comes knocking. Stay true to who you are and what you know feels right. For example, Blaine was recently approached by a well-known brand to be a spokesperson. While the exposure would have been great, she didn’t feel right about the partnership, because it went against some of the values she had built her brand on, so she turned the opportunity away. Remember, the Internet is forever. Whatever you say and do online will never go away. Be wary of attaching your brand and your name to something that may not be right for you in the long run. Go for the gusto.

A big break can change everything. Just because you are going out on your own it doesn’t mean that you

don’t deserve to be backed from the big players. Getting one big sponsorship can open the doors for plenty of other big opportunities, and it helps to legitimize your brand and give you some credibility. It took Kimberley three years of promoting her brand and showcasing her expertise before she landed large sponsorships like Sony, Vimeo, and Yahoo! And it took a lot of persistence on her part to get her foot in the door. Remember, companies are not going to come looking for your talent—YOU have to be the one to put it out there. Realize that being a mompreneur won’t be easy.

But if you’re doing it right, it will be exhilarating. Of course you’re going to get tired, and at times the work is going to pile up. That’s why it’s so important to feel passionate about what you’re doing. It’s knowing that you love your entire life—your kids, your customers, and all—that will keep you running the race. bcmag.ph

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“Do what works for you and what makes you happy, and your own success story will begin to write itself right before your eyes.” “The mompreneur life doesn’t necessarily work for everyone, and it’s certainly not perfect,” Kimberley concludes. “I still have days that are stressful, and I still have moments when I feel like I’ll never get it all done. But I enjoy what I do so much that at times I forget I’m paid. And that’s how I know that I’m doing what I love to do and that I’m doing the right thing. Do what works for you and what makes you happy, and your own success story will begin to write itself right before your eyes.” Get your business affairs in order.

Depending on the type of business you are starting, there will be steps you need to take to get yourself started. Meet with your financial advisor and talk through a plan for getting started (and having a cushion), write out your goals and plans for the next twelve months, set up email accounts, phone lines, or get your website up and running. If you start off on the right foot (instead of already behind), then you’ll be less likely to feel overwhelmed. And if you get most of the busy work and red tape behind you initially, you’ll have more time to concentrate on the important things—like getting your business off the ground and running!

your kitchen table, then it can be easy to get distracted by dirty dishes. And likewise, if your business line is tied into your personal cell phone, it can be hard to focus on devoting your full attention to your kids during outings to the park. Even if it’s a small corner somewhere in your house, set up a workspace where you can devote yourself to working during your set hours. Set up an email account and phone line that are specific to the business (and not co-mingled with personal) and be sure to devote a space to important work documents, like bills and contracts, so that you can find them easily. Get your spouse on board.

While working from home and having a flexible schedule does allow more time for house chores than a traditional nine-to-five job, it may be hard for your spouse to understand that he won’t always come home to a perfectly clean house and dinner on the table. Just because you aren’t leaving the house to head to an office every day doesn’t mean that you won’t be doing work, and that can be a tough adjustment. Sit down and talk through the ways you can share responsibilities as you get your business started, and make sure he understands what your workday looks like.

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at one time. You can’t do good work if you’re trying to send emails and fix lunch at the same time…and you aren’t engaging your kids if you attempt to put a puzzle together while listening in on a conference call. Having a set time to work, just like working inside an office, will help you to get more accomplished without feeling so overwhelmed. Accept that a 9-to-5 schedule just isn’t in the cards.

In a more traditional office setting, you show up to work in the morning and when you leave in the evening, you leave. Kimberley finds that she can fit work into the hours that her children are at school, and once they are home, she sets work aside in order to be a mom full-time. And she also finds herself doing a lot of video editing in the late night or early morning hours when her kids are sleeping. Remember, you have to be just as professional as everyone else.

It’s important to remember that your business is just that: a business. And just because you are sending emails while wearing your pajamas, it doesn’t mean the code of business conduct you follow should be any different than if you were in an office wearing a nice suit. Be sure to follow the same rules and etiquette that you would if you were working inside an organization. Reply promptly and professionally to any emails or phone calls, proofread any documents, and address any customer complaints or concerns in a prompt, professional manner. bc

About the Author: Kimberley is a national child development expert and a licensed family and child therapist specializing in working with children newborn to six years old. Kimberley is currently the social marketing director for a Los Angeles-based early childhood mental health campaign (Project ABC) funded by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Her webshow, TheGoToMom.TV, has captured one of the largest growing niche audiences—parents who have children birth to seven—through professionally produced yet authentic and real educational videos. Currently, Kimberley is sponsored by Vimeo and Sony and is a member of the Yahoo! Motherboard team of bloggers. Kimberley lives in Los Angeles, California, with her husband and two young boys. bcmag.ph

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Bond with this hilarious modern family as they try to survive a wedding over one weekend. Divorced couple Don and Ellie Griffin (Robert De Niro and Diane Keaton) are forced to act like a happy couple for the sake of their adopted son’s wedding, when his very conservative biological mom unexpectedly decides to attend. The Griffins are then forced to tackle their past, present, and future with a possible fiasco.

Follow Ralph’s journey in proving that he can be a good guy. He’s a bad-guy character in a classic game who longs to be as loving as Fix-It Felix, the game’s perfect good guy. Ralph unknowingly stirs up trouble in the entire arcade when he sneaks into a new first-person shooter game and unleashes a deadly enemy. The film features voices of Alan Tudyk, John C. Reilly, Jane Lynch, Ed O’Neill and Sarah Silverman, among others. bcmag.ph

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Top-selling app, Temple Run, collaborates with Disney/Pixar’s Brave in this exciting running game. Set in Scotland, see Merida’s archery skills, as she tries to earn coins and outrun the demon bear, Mordu. Chasing Yello

Challenge yourself by helping Yello the goldfish escape 7-year-old Mathilda. Use different commands and gestures to avoid dangerous hazards, collect stars, and level up. Plus, you can share your score on social networks. Snoopy’s Street Fair

Join the entire PEANUTS gang in this fun and interactive app. Unlock its mini games, collect trading cards, and interact with other players. It also features Charles M. Schulz’s original artwork.

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“Home” by Phillip Phillips

American Idol Season 11 champ unleashes his debut single “Home”, after his victory. Co-written by Drew Pearson, who also worked with Idol Alumnis, and British singer-songwriter Greg Holden. “As Long As You Love Me” by Justin Bieber

Multi-talented performer, Justin Bieber, sings about a tragic love story implying that he’s all grown up. It’s about his love for a girl who left him heartbroken. “Everything About You” by One Direction

This British-Irish boyband gives fans another reason to smile by singing about finding love and doing everything to keep that feeling alive. “Curiosity” by Carly Rae Jepsen

McDonald’s Baby Swing Commercial

Check out this cute baby as it smiles, frowns, laughs and cries at the sight of the world famous logo. HP ePrint “Happy Baby”

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pass) her tenacity and energy. As they waited on their mom to finish hair and makeup, they kept themselves busy by playing games, watching TV, and having their hair trimmed by the stylist. As soon as the shoot began, Mylene and the boys were all on work mode—they were all easy to work with that it didn’t take too long for the shoot to be done. After several incredibly fun (think jumping-on-the-bed, splashing-inthe-pool kind of fun) layouts, we sit down and get serious with this multi award-winning actress, whose career in the Philippine entertainment industry spans 16 years. She straightforwardly talks about how her pregnancies caught her off-guard, but made the “mental deadline” that she made

for herself to have children, and opens up about how her two gregarious little boys were manifestations of her “mental notes”—that she wanted to have children by the age of 30. The surprising result was two little boys with then-boyfriend, actor Paolo Paraiso (she admits that she and Paolo were not in the best terms during her second pregnancy, and quietly advises, “It’s not something women should follow”). Nonetheless, her strength, dedication, and admiration for her little boys are inspiring. Find out what it’s like growing up as the youngest in the Dizon household, her proudest mommy moment (so far) that drove her to tears, and how her boys make her heart melt in the littlest ways. bcmag.ph

Mylene: Floral dress by WAREHOUSE . Yellow belt by MASSIMO DUTTI, P2,950 . Black peep toe shoes by SO FAB . Necklace and cuff by SM ACCESSORIES Tomas: Fedora hat by FORE AXEL AND HUDSON . Yellow polo by KNUCKLEHEADS, both by stylist’s own . Checkered shorts by FLORSHEIM KIDS, P400 . White sneakers by ELLE Lucas: Blue polo, P699.75 and shoes, both by FLORSHEIM KIDS . Blue golfer’s hat by FORE!! AXEL AND HUDSON . Green shorts by DA LIL GUYS, both by stylist’s own bcmag.ph

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BC: What was it like growing up? Do you have any brothers and sisters? M: I have two other sisters, and I have

one brother. Oh I was the youngest, so it was fairly easy—easy and hard for me. Easy, because all I had to do was call “Daddy” pag inaapi na ‘ko ng mga siblings ko—and hard because I was the easiest target.

BC: The bunso. M: Oo! Parang yung panganay, walang

pwedeng tumira dun, kasi patay kaming lahat. Yung pangalawa, ang pwede lang mang-bully dun ay yung panganay lang. Yung brother ko, dalawa lang ang pwede mang-bully sa kanya. Eh ako, lahat sila pwede nila ‘ko i-bully diba. Kaya lugi ako. BC: How did you get into acting? Was it something you’ve always wanted to pursue? M: Back in 1995-1996, it was all about

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“Single parents are schizos! Especially [since] I have 2 kids. I cannot be angry, getting mad at both when only one is at fault. I should be able to switch attitudes in a snap! And when the bad cop is at work, I have to make sure that the good cop is just standing by for later when the dust has settled and it’s time to explain why mommy got angry.” the money. I was so broke, I was willing to do most anything just to have enough to finish college. At that time, I was too proud to ask for help from my family, and had only my relationship with my friends to rely on. So when Louie Aguinaldo asked if I was willing try for ABS-CBN’s Star Circle (they were auditioning for Batch 2 at that time), even if I found it baduy, I decided to go for it. The plan was to try it out for a couple of months, save enough money for school, and exit as soon as I can. That was the plan...16 years ago.

you’ve played? M: Physically-challenging

BC: Describe your first big break. What were the biggest challenges you had to overcome as an actress? M: Director Gil Portes called my man-

BC: Greatest accomplishment in your career as an actress so far? M: “Best Actress” awards from Urian,

ager and said that he had a script for me, and that he wanted to hand it to me that evening. He was so excited about the movie and thought that I could play the lead character. That same night, I read the screenplay for the movie, Gatas. It still may be the best I’ve read, and I was being asked to be the bida. Wow. The only hitch was that the movie required me to bare my breasts, as the role was that of a nursing mom in the middle of World War II. Nevertheless, I still agreed because I didn’t want to let go of the opportunity of playing Pilar, to play lead, to work on a beautifully-written script. I knew I would hate myself later if I let a little thing as baring my breasts get in the way of my work. After all, it was not as if I was doing a porno flick! So there, I would consider Gatas as my first big break. Acclaims and nominations came after that. I could not be happier.

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would have to be the ones that required prosthetics. Most challenging was playing Susan in Mara Clara. After years of playing the villainess in films and TV soaps, I was asked to play the super kawawa and the super bait mother of the lead character. I believe many from the studio thought that I could not do it, that I would not be believable. I had to step up my game 100%—just to prove to them and to myself that it is not impossible. Heck, even my mom doubted me!

Film Academy of the Philippines, Cinemalaya Independent Film Festival, and Golden Screen Awards for my portrayal of Joyce in Chris Martinez’s movie, 100. BC: On the personal aspect, how is Paolo’s relationship with your boys now that you’re separated? How have your children dealt with the separation? M: We never limit the time they can

spend with each other. Paolo may see the boys whenever he wants. I even encourage him to do so, because I cannot provide for the father figure that they need in their lives. The boys love him and they look up to him. And with regards to being separated, well, I try to be as honest as possible with the boys. Tomas would ask questions like why we never married or why my family name is different from theirs, and I would just try to answer in a way that I believe he will understand but is also the truth. I don’t lie about these things to my children. I don’t think it’s fair to do that.

BC: Who are the boys with most of the time? M: The boys live with me. Most week-

ends, they stay with their grandparents from Paolo’s side.

BC: What is the most challenging part about being a single parent? Any advice for other single parents? M: I hate that I cannot divide my body

into 3. If only I could be with Tomas, with Lucas, and with work all at the same time, then that would just be awesome! But since I am not omnipresent, time management is my best friend. There are times wherein I cannot be with Tomas or with Lucas, or I may have to ask permission from work just so that I can attend to an important event in the boys’ life, and it can get frustrating at times, but I just make do with what I can. On the upside, single parents get to experience most of the firsts in their children’s lives! Since we stretch ourselves thin to be there for our children all the time, we get to experience all the new and wonderful milestones. BC: How do you juggle your responsibilities as an actress and as a mother? M: Again, time management. BC: Favorite mommy duty? M: Taking the boys to their

activities like soccer games, swim school, camping, surf classes, guitar lessons. I want my boys to know that I am there for them, that I will support anything that they want to do (as long as I approve of it), that I will cheer them on and be proud of them, win or lose.

BC: How do you bond with them? Favorite activities together?

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Aside from what I mentioned, we have what we call “hugging time.” And that’s just what it is, we hug each other with gigil! M:

BC: Describe your parenting style. Are you a good cop or a bad cop? M: Both! Single parents are schizos!

Especially [since] I have 2 kids. I cannot be angry, getting mad at both when only one is at fault. I should be able to switch attitudes in a snap! And when the bad cop is at work, I have to make sure that the good cop is just standing by for later when the dust has settled and it’s time to explain why mommy got angry. BC: Okay, let’s talk about your proudest mommy moment. M: Proudest mommy moment—Tomas

Mylene: Gray knitted long sleeves top by MASSIMO DUTTI, P4,650 . Silver cuff by SM ACCESSORIES Lucas: White shirt by ELLE, P699.75 . Diaper by DRYPERS Tomas: Yellow long sleeves by PETIT BATEAU, stylist’s own

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is very good in soccer. He tried out for the varsity team of his school and I was at work then, when the list of the players that were accepted in the team came out. I got a text message from the coach saying that my son got in, I was crying on set. Iyak ako ng iyak, eh prep lang naman siya. (Laughs) Tapos sila yung, “Umiiyak ka?” Sabi ko, “Pumasok sa varsity yung anak ko.” Sabi nila, “Ang weird mo!” Iyak ako ng iyak talaga kasi parang it’s such a big boy thing to be part of the school varsity, diba? And then Lucas naman, because he is so easy to deal with—(looks out the window)—look at them, they’re so cute oh. Ang hilig-hilig niyang kumanta. So tuturuan ko siya ng mga kanta, kakantahin naman niya. Right now we are studying Corinne Bailey Rae’s “Put Your Records On.” He’ll have me play that song. (Sings) “Three little birds sat on my window.” Yan. Papa-play niya tapos kakanta-kanta. Showbiz yan eh.

BC: Speaking of showbiz, when they grow up, if they want to become actors,

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would you— M: No. (Laughs)

No, no, no. They have to finish school first, college first. After college, they can decide and do whatever they want. Like I always tell them now, when they say they want to, I say, “You can be better than mom. You can be better than what mommy’s doing.” I know that, and this is not the only job in the world. You have to look for the thing that would make you happy and you have to stick with that. BC: True. Any funny or embarrassing moments as a new mom, when they were younger? M: When I was in LA, I was pregnant

with Tomas, I was with my friend, Angela Velez, who was also pregnant with their first born, and we were wobbling about Rodeo Drive. Wobbling talaga, mga nine months na kami nun, manganganak na. Tapos may dumaan ba namang dalawang supermodel sa harapan namin! Yung— ‘tang #ñ@! (Laughs) Bad trip yun ah! Feeling mo parang—diba ‘pag pregnant ka lalo na yung sa States, parang everybody’s so nice to you, padaanin ka, pero nung dumaan yung dalawang supermodel, lahat ng attention ng lahat ng tao, nasa kanila. Yung iniwan nalang kami, yung, diyahe ‘to ah. Bad trip ah. Tapos parang mayroong naglalakad na dalawang bagets sa harapan mo nasexy na matangkad…Kasya din sakin yung pantalon mo dati eh. (Laughs) BC: Speaking of being that skinny, how do you keep fit? M: I do Barre 3. I try to exercise when-

ever I can. Although it’s not regular, because an actor’s work isn’t regular as well, I guess I just work out whenever I can and I watch what I eat. I’ve always been a healthy eater and I don’t like getting todo busog, like empatso busog—I hate that feeling, nasusuka ako. But I love to eat. As in, if you want me to get mad, if you want me to walk out of the set, don’t feed me. Talagang lalabas lahat ng devil ng katawan ko. Lalabas sila at magagalit sila ng grabe. Nagse-speech bcmag.ph

ako sa galit. Ganun. (Laughs) I try to be as active as I can. I can’t say that I have one particular brand of work out, maybe I am moody that way. If I feel like running today, lifting weights tomorrow, going to Barre3 class, or even traveling to where the swells are and surf, then I’ll do it. I like to move, but I do sometimes feel like going to the gym is a chore, that’s why I make it

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“Tomas would ask questions like why we never married or why my family name is different from theirs, and I would just try to answer in a way that I believe he will understand but is also the truth. I don’t lie about these things to my children. I don’t think it’s fair to do that.” say we are an odd bunch. I guess that’s alright because that makes us never boring!

pag buong araw ka nang tinatawag na “Mommy,” mahirap din pala. Nakakapagod din.

tanim ka nga lang ng kamatis eh parang if you see the fruit, it’s like, “Eee! Meron akong kamatis!”

BC: What are your mommy essentials, and what are those things you can’t go through a day without? M: As a mother?

BC: What’s in your purse? M: It’s either I carry a full bag, or I don’t

BC: Kasi inalagaan mo yung plant. M: Oo. What more my boys.

BC: Yes. M: The

lock on the door. It’s essential for every mother. Yes! Legal na mag-lock ngayon ng pinto. Pwede ‘yon. Bayaan mo silang kumatok dun sa labas, dahil kailangan minsan talaga natin ng time para mag-exhale, mag-breathe out ng konti. Can’t be, “Mommy! Mommy! Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!” the whole day. We will go nuts. Now, I understand. I remember when I was growing up, we had all these mothers na laging naka-downers. (Laughs) Mga Valium moms. My mom wasn’t one of those. Eh, pero ganun kasi talaga minsan,

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carry anything at all. I suppose, I bring the usual stuff: wallet, iPad, shades, a little make up, lotion, cologne, hand sanitizer, colored pens, pill box, Band Aids, Swiss knife, carabiners. Nothing unusual. Ultimate necessities are my wallet and my shades.

BC: On another note, what, to you, makes motherhood beautiful? M: It’s that everyday chance that

you see the person you’re raising grow a dot, grow little by little. It’s that blessing that I get to see even their eyelashes grow long, or knowing that they’re a size bigger in their diapers or their shoes or being able to mark that chart on the wall. It’s just a great blessing to watch something grow. Kahit mag-

BC: What more a person. M: Oo, a person. It’s just

wonderful.

BC: Okay, most valuable parenting advice you’ve received and from whom? M: Parenting advice I’ve received and

from whom. Wait, you have to give me a moment to think about that.

BC: Sure. M: Off the

top of my head right now, it came from my sister, she said that I should treasure every moment that I’m with the children because not all moms get to do that. And that my children are wonderful, not to waste time anywhere else, if I can be with kids rin naman, eh dun nalang ako. bc

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Twilight long-sleeve “Marc Who?” T-shirt by Little Marc, marcjacobs. com for stores . Contrast stitch cargo jams short in adobe by babystyle, babystyle. com . Tiger yellow Brava sandals by Birki’s by Birkenstock, birki.us

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(Boy on top of washer) Vector green shirt by Energie, energie.it . Water-resistant with elastic waist shorts (part of the Lion set) by One Kid, pureboyclothes.com (Boy standing) Anchor ocean loop terry hoodie and silvery scorpion board shorts by babystyle, babystyle.com

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Brown shoes by FLORSHEIM KIDS, P800 . Pink sandals by SUGAR KIDS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P399.75 . Plaid polo shirt by BOYS GOT STYLE BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P349.75 . Pink polka dot dress by RUSTANETTE, P795 . Yellow t-shirt with collar by BOYS GOT STYLE BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P349.75 . Gray shoes by FLORSHEIM KIDS, P2,199.75 . Black shorts by BOYS GOT STYLE BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P449.75 . Checkered polo shirt by KIDDOS, P845 . Orange sleeveless top and skirt by LITTLE MISS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P399.75 . Robot t-shirt by KIDDOS, P595 . Blue jeans by KIDDOS, P895 . Gray shoes by FLORSHEIM KIDS, P2,199.75

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White and black sleeveless dress by LITTLE MISS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P599.75 . Navy blue shoes by FLORSHEIM KIDS, P2,199.75 . Brown pants by KIDDOS, P695 . Striped t-shirt with collar by KIDDOS, P545 . Blue striped top with flower accent by KIDDOS, P595 . Tan shoes by FLORSHEIM KIDS, P1,699.75 . Denim shorts by ZAP’D BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P399.75 . Yellow jeggings by ZAP’D BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P299.75 . Sleeveless printed top and green shorts by LITTLE MISS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P399.75 . Cream shoes by SUGAR KIDS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P429.75

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(Top, left) Pink and white rayon and spandex skull dress by Flowers By Zoe, psychobabyonline.com . Shoes by Agatha Ruiz De La Prada, agatharuizdelaprada. com (Inside basket) Chocolate Punk girl sweater by Dirty Laundry, dirtylaundrytees.com . Green and white striped cotton shirt and salmon pink shorts by Ralph Lauren Childrenswear, polo.com (Bottom, right) Pink dress with lace ribbon trimmings by Miss Sixty, misssixty.com

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(Boy) Yellow “Skate and Destroy” paintsplatter design long-sleeved shirt by Grail, grailclothing.com . Army green pants by Chip & Pepper, chipandpepper.com . Green laceup “Thrashed” sneakers with skull on back heel by Skechers, skechers.com (Girl) Ootaon long-sleeved moss green dress with hood by Diesel Kids, dieselkids.com . Pink Chuck Taylors by Converse, gap.com

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Red long sleeves by JUSTEES BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P249.75 . Black leopard jeggings by BLUSH BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P399.75 . Black shoes by SUGAR KIDS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P449.75 . Blue robot long sleeves by KIDDOS, P745 . Pink blouse (comes with printed jeggings, also shown) by KIDDOS, P695 . Blue plaid polo shirt by KIDDOS, P695 . Brown and white shoes by TOUGH KIDS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P499.75 . Red polka dot blouse by BLUSH BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P399.75 . Blue sandals by SUGAR KIDS BY SM KIDS’ FASHION, P549.75 bcmag.ph

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New BEGINNINGS As “Revenge” star James Tupper’s family life evolves with Anne Heche and their two handsome boys, Homer and Atlas, we recreated scenes that could ensue on move-in day if only the 3 men of the house are left in-charge P h o t og r ap h s b y M a r t in a n d K a r iz TA N Y A F a vi s S t o r y a n d S t y li n g b y K a r iz TA N Y A F a vi s P h o t o A ssis t a n t S t e p h e n S e i d e l S t y li n g A ssis t a n t A m y H ighfi l l Hai r b y Jov a n Town s e n d

(On the cover) Homer: Cord blazer by Right Bank Babies, rightbankbabies.com . Bologna red gingham shirt with paisley cuff by Ciao Marco, ciaomarco.com . Greaser jeans with cuffs by Knuckleheads, knuckleheadsclothing.com James: Red gingham shirt and Safado K jeans by Diesel, diesel.com Atlas: Green double-button coat by Zutano, zutano.com . Maroon rocker tee by Kingsley, kingsleyclothing.com . Bright white signature pants by L’ovedbaby, lovedbaby.com . Mini James pre-walker shoe by Vincent, vincentshoestore.us

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urrently playing the late David H. Clarke, the father of the lead character in ABC’s “Revenge,” and also previously known for playing a surgeon back in the U.S. from a stint in Iraq on NBC’s medical drama show, “Mercy,” Tupper is also known for creating quite the stir in actress Anne Heche’s on and off-screen life on their former show, “Men in Trees,” where the two met and fell hard for each other. The destiny-defining show was filmed in Canada where Tupper, who hails from Nova Scotia, is from.

Atlas: Blue shirt and Zaghor B Party P black jeans by Diesel Kid, dieselkids. com . Galaxy shoes by Umi, umishoes.com James: K-clap jacket and Safado L jeans by Diesel, diesel. com Toys: First Snaps by Alex Jr. from Alex Toys, alextoys.com

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Many viewers were saddened when “Mercy” was canceled (my motherin-law included), since it would mean an arrest to seeing the lead’s good looks and charm—but even though on-air the couple’s relationship was put to a premature halt, their story as parents to their baby boy, Atlas, and Heche’s son from a previous marriage, Homer, has only begun. Heche went to accompany her boys to the photo shoot sans entourage, and you see a glimpse of the domestic life these two lead. Tupper is kind, warm, and is a ball of talent. He grabs the guitar on set and starts tuning, and in his words, “rockin’ out,” making you realize that you have to be that versatile to have a shot at making it in Hollywood. Changing their boys from one outfit to the next, everyone was in high spirits. Heche’s gorgeous then-7-year old is a mini version of his mom—from the blond hair, sharp nose, to the pensive aura. He had a blast driving around the toy truck, but was always careful around his cherubic, too-cute baby bro with an infectious smile, Atlas, whom the family affectionately calls “Attie.”

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Kariz Favis: You played a doctor in the show “Mercy.” What are the similarities and the differences between you and your character, Dr. Sands? James Tupper: I think we both

look really good with our shirt off. Ha ha! Just joking. I’ll tell you what attracted me to playing him was that he went to Iraq for a year as a medical professional. He came back to the States, he’s from California, he kind of lost his place in the world, and that I found that really interesting. He moved to New Jersey to become a doctor, and he’s kind of holding it together after having lived in a traumatic environment, basically by continuing to work. I was interested in the idea of someone being lost, and not knowing where they belong.

K: You think you’ve ever felt that way in your life? J: Oh, for sure. I think any-

body that grew up in a different country, and moves to a new country that is now their home, now where they belong—it’s strange. K: Is it true you worked as a carpenter in between acting jobs? J: I did, and I still do some-

times, but I work for pizza now because I do projects for my friends. I go overnight and I’ll build them a desk or put in something, so that when I visit them, I can check on it. (Smiles) K: Have you ever built anything for Homer and Atlas? J: That’s a really great ques-

tion. We’ve been so busy working that I haven’t really had a chance to set up my woodshop. But we have started construction of a tree house in our

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summer cottage in Vancouver, Canada. K: You are in the movie, “Me and Orson Welles.” What was it like working on the film? J: It was really an exciting thing

to work on because I play Joseph Cotten, the movie star. The movie’s so specific, it takes place in 1937 in the Mercury Theatre in New York around this one production of Julius Caesar, and it’s exciting, fun to shoot. Zac Efron is in it, as well as Claire Danes. Expect me to be sexy and fun. Ha ha ha!

K: That’s good to know, ha ha! You’ve acted onstage, for TV and in movies. Which is your favorite, and where will we see more of you in? J: Well, my favorite thing to do

is to support my family, so I really appreciate the job in television, but I would love to do a Noel Coward play on Broadway with Anne Heche. I want to do a “War of the Roses,” I want to do a “man versus woman” type of play. K: How did you and Anne click? J: I think it came from a long

time being friends. I think we realized that we kind of saw the world in a similar light.

K: How long were you friends before you got together? J: Almost a year. Anne’s a very

loving person.

K: How do you find fatherhood to two boys so far? J: It’s unequivocally the best

thing I’ve ever done. I love every minute of it. Even when it’s challenging.

K: What’s challenging? J: Oh heavens, they’re

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how serious you are about the line. I think that’s a big part of parenting, it’s trying to show how serious you really are about the line, and yet you want them to enjoy and have their spirit and explore things—and you also wanna keep them safe and teach them how to be moral, responsible, and ethical boys—but fun-loving too. K: Do you see yourself in them already? J: Anne always mentions that they imi-

tate me, the stuff I do, not so much the baby yet, but Homer.

K: How do the brothers interact? J: They’re really good. When Attie

was born we bought a Tom Brady signed helmet as a gift from Attie to Homer, and I think it did the trick. It welcomed Homer into brotherhood, and it kind of welcomed Attie into the world. I think there are always feelings that older siblings get, but we couldn’t be happier. Homer plays with the baby, he reads him stories. When we’re driving in the car, he minds the bottle. He’s often correct about what Attie wants—like, “Oh, he’s hungry,” or “Mom, I think

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his diaper…” He’s a very involved boy. It’s true, eh. K: Now that you have a new baby, do you still get to have alone time with Anne? J: Yeah, but it’s precious stone now.

We have a favorite date that we like to do once every two months. We get on the Vespa—Anne bought me a new Vespa—and we drive down to Venice, sit on a terrace, and have a drink and talk. I always talk with a faint Italian accent; it’s sexy. You’re supposed to ask now, are you Italian. K: Are you? J: No, just on

our dates. (Laughs)

K: Ha ha! So you have a bicoastal lifestyle because of work? J: Yeah, we do. It’s a bit of a juggling

act. I have to get back as often as I can, and she has been great about coming and visiting. I’ve made friends with the production people in “Mercy.” They’ve been very helpful in keeping the family together. But we’re all spending Thanksgiving and Christmas

together. K: Any plans for the holidays already? J: I plan to lay a kiss on Anne. I plan

to mix up some cranberries and play soccer with Homer. I don’t know, play football. Homer’s a big Patriots fan. He’s only seven, and he’ll sit down and watch the last 3 or 4 minutes of the game with me, but that’s as far as he’s gotten.

K: What’s your favorite bonding moment with the boys? J: Homer and I had an amazing good

fortune. We found a clue that a pirate had left behind up in Vancouver, and we hunted this treasure down. We used compasses and measuring tapes, and we went under old bridges and we dug holes, and at one point we threw a metal bar across the field and it landed on the trunk of a tree. At the end of it we found a treasure chest. That’s one of my favorite things. The other thing that Homer and I love to do is slow motion, underwater fighting—kung fu fighting. Everyday is my favorite day. He’s great. He’s fun.

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K: How do you split parenting duties? Who does what? J: I do everything—no, she does every-

thing. Hahaha! We just do whatever needs to be done. And there’s rarely complaining. Sometimes there’s some tiredness but it’s understandable, and because she does the lion’s share I try to take the baby, and give her an extra couple of hours of sleep. I call it daddyAttie time.

K: Do you get down and dirty, like change diapers, give the baby a bath? J: What do you think? Of course I do!

And as recently as this morning.

K: Do you shop for your boys? J: I do. We found some really

cool shops in New York and we go clothing shopping. I find it really fun, actually. K: Do you have favorite purchases? J: The Montessori toys. And there’s this

Japanese clothing brand that we love in New York.

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(Anne Heche interjects, “You shop for them all the time! They have way too many clothes and you say, “Oh this one’s too cute, I have to get it…”) (Smiles) I want Homer to understand that when I’m away and working he gets the benefit of it, because we don’t get to spend everyday together. So I got him an Apple iPod Touch, and I have a rule that I will not come home without a gift—something will be on hand for them. K: Do you plan to introduce Homer and Attie to the world of sports, especially football, which you played a lot of when you were younger? J: I did play, yeah. Of course, they’re

both really active. We call Attie, “Bam Bam,” because he grabs everything and starts whacking and throwing it. He’s 7 months old, but he’s the size of a 1-year old. Homer’s doing a school play right now. I kind of follow along with what he shows his interests to be. He’s been

taking piano lessons with his mom. And he’s more of like a sports stats guy, like, “Who do you think is better in the long term, Joe Montana or Brett Favre?” It’s hilarious, he knows all these old-time players he’s never seen play. K: Does Attie already have funny stuff that he does? J: Yeah, he’ll talk. He tries to talk to you,

but it’s like a cough. (Imitates cough) And he hates to lay back—he’s always trying to push himself with his elbows forward. He won’t be held in a lying down position; you have to hold him upright, so that he can look around. That’s his thing. K: You want to add anything? J: Yeah, I want to say that I got

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if she’s here. She’s fantastic. (Smiles at Anne, seated beside him) bc

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outside the box Discover how to take small spaces to its limits without sacrificing the marriage of style and function to create a chic expanse that is oneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s living quarters P h o t og r ap h s b y M a r k C a b a l a ng wo r ds b y V a l e r i e Ann e d e l C a s t i l l o S p e cial t h a n ks t o MJ Ringo r of M 2 B u i l d e r s C o r p o r a t ion

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security, ease of use, functional amenities, and low maintenance are just a few of the many perks of living in a condominium, making it a choice for young professionals, just-married couples, and small families. But with the limited space in every unit, how does one maintain its aesthetic value without sacrificing function? “You have to consider space planning,” MJ Ringor of M2 Builders Corporation, who designed this 132-square meter condo in One Rockwell, explained. “When you design a smaller space, you have to choose versatile furniture and home furnishing, pieces that are compact and easy to move and serve multiple purposes, so it’s easier to design, and you can maximize the space.” It is also essential to invest in pieces that are flexible, such as a sofa that may double as a sleeper for guests who are staying the night, or a dining room table that may be used as a work desk. Beds with drawers are also a great investment, as they provide additional storage without taking up extra space. The key here is function. Ringor explains that before all else, one must consider how the space shall be used, regardless if you’re designing your home or office. That sofa bed can also serve as a child’s bed for future use. “Aside from the space, you have to consider its function first,” he says. “Whatever the use of the space is, whether it’s a master bedroom, music room, etc, you have to think about its function, then its design. It follows, depending on the function that you want for the space.” When it comes to investing in key pieces, however, Ringor says that it’s important that the more durable furniture are the ones which are often used. He says that for living spaces, “pieces like sofas, beds, that’s what should be durable, and whatever else is often used, where there will be most traffic of people.” Again, function also plays a part in deciding on the materials of bcmag.ph

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a particular piece of furniture. Ringor recommends researching on the material used, such as fabric, finish, and its overall support like wood or metal. Think about its function and if the material will go well with its surroundings. Paying attention to these things make for less problems down the road. When it comes to designing and decorating, don’t depend entirely on your furniture to save you space, as some visual tricks can make quite a difference. Lines create illusions of length, so go ahead and hang your curtains from the ceiling to give off a heightened wall effect. Lines on your floor will also make your space seem bigger. Rounded furniture is also great for smaller spaces, as it’s easier for people to move around them (and is safer with small children around). For chairs, pick those without arm rests as they are easier to get in and out of and move around—and are lighter too. Especially for homes with kids, it’s easy to pile up on clothes, toys, books, and other paraphernalia. The first step to maximizing space is to properly store things that you don’t use often, and let go of items that your kids have grown out of, like old clothing, books, and toys. A shelter or charitable organization would be happy to receive these items. Make it a habit to clean out at least once a year and discard items that you and your family no longer use or need. For children’s rooms, especially for those of little ones, it’s better to place bookshelves on the lower part of the wall, for easier access. A corner or side of a room can serve as a reading area, with a low bookshelf and a rug right beside it. Make use of storage bins for stuffed toys, books, or laundry (3 Sprouts from Numa has organic storage bins with adorable designs), as it can help de-clutter your child’s space. Ringor says that accessories are easier to change once you get tired of them, but furniture are more long term, so go for designs that go well with different colors and looks. Remember that designing your home or office space isn’t rocket science—one must only be meticulous defining the function he wants to get out of a space, and all else—including style, will follow.

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When decorating a small space, there are a few easy strategies that’ll help make the most of a room with modest square footage: Space planning. Choose a focal point. Perhaps

a wall at the far end of a room that will pull your eye into the space visually. Painting this wall a deeper hue will help accomplish this goal nicely. Baseline furniture. Make sure that all furniture

selected for the space is smaller in scale, according to the square footage of the room. Lower profile, less bulky furniture will increase the perceived visual space making it feel open and airier. Accent furniture. Keep all accent pieces light

in feel. When your side tables and cocktails table are heavy in shape or color, they have a tendency to add visual weight to your room, thereby making it appear even smaller. Keep all pieces light in color or with glass tops and, if possible, keep the shape rounded and flowing. Reflection. Consider mirroring an entire wall

with 12’ x 12’ mirrors. This is timeless look and creates depth and dimension. Decor. Do not over accessorize a smaller space.

Choose accessories that mean something to you and then edit! Less is more. Flooring. When overall square footage is small, the walls can feel very close to together. This is the perfect time to consider the fifth wall—the floor! Keep the rest of the flooring neutral and the focus on a beautiful graphic rug which brings the focus down and around the space. When choosing a bold rug, be sure to place a lighter feeling cocktail table on top, keeping the space open and airy.. Lighting. Avoid hanging fixtures. If, for instance, your ceilings are low, hanging fixtures will only further accentuate this. Always use can lights when possible or, if you have a more modern style, today’s versatile track lighting works great. This keeps the area above your furniture sightline free and clear of visual interruptions. Storage. Storage is, of course, always important in a small space. To ensure that you don’t over accessorize your space with your “overstock” items, make sure that all furniture pieces you select have storage options, such as a electronics console with drawers, storage ottoman, etc. Open bookcases used for storage tend to add nothing but a cluttered, closed in feeling.

About the author

Elaine Williamson is Principal of Dallas-based Elaine Williamson Designs—a full service, award-winning firm that specializes in high end custom interior design and style making for luxury residential and high rise properties, as well as commercial and retail projects in the U.S. bcmag.ph

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Food for Thought, Abbott Media Launch On August 16, Abbott presented a new supplement that addresses health risks associated with undernutrition. The launch of Similac Mom, the most complete nutritional supplement for expectant and breastfeeding mothers, was held at CCA in Podium, where Chef Trisha Ocampo presented delectable dishes made with the supplement, such as Cream of Pumpkin Soup, Honey Almond Panna Cotta, and Peanut Butter Banana Smoothie.

Regulatory and Medical Director of Abbott Nutrition International, Dr. Jose Rodolfo Dimaano, discussed the importance of complete nutrition during pregnancy and explained the risks of undernutrition, which include anemia, low birth weight, and slow cognitive development for the child. President of the Philippine OB-Gyne Society, Dr. Raul Quillamor was also present to discuss women’s health, revealed that, “In the Philippines, about 1/3 of all pregnant women are nutritionally at risk.” Similac Mom aims to address this with its Eye-Q Plus System of nutrients and 24 essential vitamins and minerals to support growth and bone development, and is now available in the market. 1 VP of Philippine Obstetrical and Gynecological Society Dr. Raul Quillamor 2 New Similac Mom from Abbott 3 Dr. Jose Rodolfo Dimaano Jr., MD, 4 Contestants creating their fruit smoothies with Similac Mom 5 Similac Mom Brand Manager Diana Aaron 6 CCA’s Chef Trisha Ocampo

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Jennifer Garner-affleck

bc moment LO

alias: m.o.m.

Jennifer Garner is A.K.A. adoring mother to her three children

he Odd Life of Timothy Green and Butter star, Jennifer Garner, 40, and her daughter Violet Anne (shown here, turning 7 in December), look like true BFF’s out on the town together. The family, along with papa, Ben Affleck, make five with Seraphina Rose Elizabeth (turning 4 in January next year), and baby boy, Samuel Garner (born in February 2012). The family reportedly reside in a $16-million home in L.A.’s posh Brentwood neighborhood, and are frequently seen coming in and out of school drop-offs and pick-ups (among them, art classes) for their children. Here, we look back at the coo-some twosome all bundled up one winter in New York, showing that the nippy air can’t keep them from having their precious times of togetherness. bc

W o r ds b y K a r iz T a ny a F a vi s P h o t og r ap h b y Do u g M e s z l e r / S p l a s h N e w s

b c PHILIPPINES { SEPTEMBER 2012 }

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