Why Attending an Open House or In-Person Meeting at a Prospective School is Essential
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Enhancing Academic Performance Through Visualization Techniques
When children and youth face academic stress or struggle to perform at their best, finding effective solutions becomes crucial. The question then arises: how can we ensure they receive the optimal tools for success? This is especially important for those who encounter additional barriers, such as learning disabilities, which necessitate extra support. But what form should this support take?
While some prioritize academic outcomes, others might emphasize mental health and overall happiness. It’s important to recognize that academic performance and mental wellbeing are deeply intertwined; compromising one can negatively impact the other. A student struggling academically may feel diminished self-worth, while deteriorating mental health can hinder academic achievement. For instance, students with high test anxiety often perform worse than their peers with lower anxiety levels.1 For children and youth facing such obstacles, comprehensive support is essential. Performance-based visualization can play a key role in this support. However, imagery rescripting is not solely for reducing test anxiety—it has also proven effective in alleviating speech anxiety and enhancing sports performance.2
To better understand the impact of these techniques, imagine yourself as a 10-year-old in grade 5, grappling with academic challenges. It’s mid-October, and you’re feeling disheartened due to missed assignments and falling behind. As you sit in class, a wave of negative self-talk—“I’m a failure; I’ll never catch up”—overwhelms you. This mindset
It’s important to recognize that academic performance and mental well-being are deeply intertwined; compromising one can negatively impact the other.
hampers your ability to engage with the material and connect with your peers. Your attention drifts as your math teacher begins the lesson.
How can performance-based visualization techniques help to turn this situation around? While approaches may vary, effective visualization generally includes imagining oneself succeeding in a specific environment, promoting relaxation, and focusing the mind through imaginative techniques and environ-
mental cues (e.g., a special pencil or desk). With a skilled coach or therapist, students can develop a growth mindset, fostering a belief in their potential and possibilities.
Now, let’s revisit the scenario with the addition of performance-based visualization techniques. As a 10-year-old who has recently tried these methods, you find your mood shifting. You recall a session with your visualization therapist, reminding yourself to adopt a realistic and hopeful perspective: “If I make an effort now, I might still turn things around. Once I get going, it won’t be so bad.” With this newfound optimism, you use a cue—a special pencil provided by your therapist—to center yourself and stay focused. This small change helps you engage more actively in class. Although social issues still linger, you consciously set them aside until recess, allowing you to concentrate better when your math teacher begins to speak. By relaxing your muscles and practicing mental focus, you navigate through distractions, redirecting your attention to positive sensations of well-being and curiosity. This shift enhances your learning experience, allowing you to fully immerse yourself in the lesson.
For some children and youth, 50 minutes of traditional one-on-one talk therapy may
be sufficient, while others might benefit from additional scientific interventions like visualization to boost focus and emotional balance. If these options are not available at school, consider consulting a local mental health professional to explore how visualization techniques could support your child’s academic and emotional well-being.
In summary, academic success and mental well-being are deeply interconnected, especially for children and youth facing challenges like learning disabilities. By incorporating performance-based visualization techniques, students can cultivate a positive mindset, enhance focus, and improve their overall learning experience. While traditional therapy may suffice for some, the addition of visualization can provide an extra layer of support, fostering both academic achievement and emotional resilience. Whether through school resources or local mental health professionals, ensuring access to these techniques can empower students to reach
their full potential in both their academic and personal lives.
Laura Lourdu is a Registered Clinical Counsellor residing on BC’s west coast. Over a decade ago, she began her career working with children and youth, then moved into a role in career counselling, later earning a master’s degree while working in education. She finds delight and satisfaction helping other’s succeed. To learn more or connect with her, feel free to reach out to her via her website— lauralourducounsellingandworkshops.com
1. Kroener, J., Maier, A., Berger, A., & Sosic-Vasic, Z. (2024). Coping with test anxiety using imagery rescripting: A two-session randomized controlled trial. Journal of Affective Disorders, 356, 554-563. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2024.04.067
2. Ekeocha, T. C. (2015). The effects of visualization and guided imagery in sports performance. Ayres, J., & Hopf, T. (1992). Visualization: Reducing speech anxiety and enhancing performance. Communication Reports, 5(1), 1-10.
10 Visualization Techniques to Help You Meet Your Goals
• Make a vision board. Lay out a road map for your goals.
• Take small steps every day. Try breaking the goal down into smaller steps to overcome challenges.
• Use all five senses. Build a complete sensory experience around your goal.
• Lay out a success map. Visualize every step on the road to your goal.
• Sketch your goals. Turning ideas into art makes goal planning more fun by lightening the mood.
• Seek out resources. Focus on growth and build development into your process.
• Incorporate mental rehearsal. Mentally imagine yourself completing your goal in detail.
• Practice affirmations. Describe your goal as if you’ve already accomplished it.
• Meditate. Focus on your goals and tune out distractions.
• Write in a daily journal. Reflect on your progress every single day.
We can start by providing our students with opportunities to experience their education. This can take place in many enriched environments starting in their classrooms with the methods of learning that take place and extending into extracurricular activities. Additionally, varied experiences are available to them within our communities—from fun science, technology, engineering and mathematics subjects (STEM programs) to interdisciplinary arts and so much more. Each opportunity allows our kids and youth to delve deeper into the subject matter that interests them. With this type of learning, as teachers and program leaders, our responsibility begins with igniting that curiosity in our students in the ways we offer invitations for them to explore their learning.
The exciting thing about enriched education is that it can actually start from the first day of preschool and continue right through elementary—and even through high school—as long as we are providing our students with experiences that stimulate their curiosity and promote critical thinking opportunities. This learning is powerful when offered in ways where students can explore and experiment, taking the focus away from
What can we offer our children and youth to help them become more invested in their education?
By Lorrie Holmes
structured lectures into a more inquiry based, hands-on approach with students taking ownership in the process of their learning.
Today we are going to explore ways that an enriched education takes our students beyond their standard curriculum while providing them with opportunities to delve deeper.
Experiential learning practices featured in this story include: 1) Project-based learning; 2) Extracurricular activities; and 3) Advanced coursework. Each method encourages kids to foster their own love for learning and ultimately, to take ownership of their education paths. The exciting thing about this type of learning is that it is now widely available in many schools.
1. Project-Based Learning
Project-based learning (PBL) provides students the opportunity to engage in handson learning that encourages children to use their imaginations and critical thinking. This method of learning helps our youth learn to create real-world connections with their subject matters through inquiry, collaboration, creativity, innovation, and reflection.
Many schools and school-aged programs have our students work on individual and
group projects. These projects can range from change-maker initiatives to STEM to the arts. This type of learning is ideal for curious learners that thrive through a hands-on approach. It’s also very effective for helping children and youth learn to collaborate in their learning and provides a lot of room for social growth.
To learn more about these opportunities in your local schools, find out what types of projects students create in their schools. Ask if they practice inquiry-based learning which is the first step to introducing our littles to exploring their learning in a self-directed style where educators support their learning with open-ended questions to promote exploration in their learning.
With respect to community-based schoolaged learning, you can find all sorts of projectbased learning opportunities in private programs. Also, many local attractions offer educational programs for kids—from the Vancouver Aquarium to Britannia Mines to the Planetarium and Science World. The opportunities for such learning are vast and can also be extended for families to join their children in extra learning with fun family outings.
2. Extracurricular Activities
Within the offerings of an enriched education, children and youth will have more opportunity to find and develop their own interests and talents, to develop strong friendships with like-minded peers, and to learn and develop life skills that expand far past academics.
Children can be exposed to these activities both at school and again, in our communities as part of their enriched education experience. Starting with sports and the arts, to clubs, competitions and even community service and volunteering—the opportunities are endless.
These opportunities are offered outside of the core academic requirements of any education program but are crucially important to offering a well-rounded learning experience. Many schools offer a wide range of extracurricular activities as part of their program and also work in collaboration with other services in the community, bringing in class-
room guests, taking classes on enriched field trips, and even using innovative curriculum kits to expand on the learning taking place in the classroom.
Ask your school what extracurricular activities they offer. Britannia Mine Museum and their STEAM Education Program (Science, Technology, Engineering, the Arts and Mathematics) is an excellent example of available programming. They provide unique, entertaining and memorable curriculumbased educational experiences that consider the relevance and impact of resource management and geologic exploration. From handson learning to critical thinking, students of all ages will have an enjoyable and engaging experience.
3. Advanced Coursework
There is no need for any child or youth to become bored at school or have to wait for their classmates to catch up. If you have a child that is wanting to have an educational
experience that challenges their intellectual boundaries, helps them develop more specialized skills, and ultimately, prepares them for a more demanding educational path, there are many options available to them including the following:
1. Schools and program for gifted children allow students to work at a faster and more complex pace. The Gifted Children’s Association of BC aims to extend support in navigating the unique developmental journey of gifted children through advocacy, education and collaboration. Their vision is a society that recognizes, values and responds to the diversity of giftedness. Visit giftedchildrenbc.org.
2. Advanced Placement (AP) or Pre-AP Courses are college and university level courses offered to secondary school students. To learn about these programs in your area, you can start by consulting with your school counselors to learn if
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Guide to Preschools
West Point Grey Preschool Vancouver, 604/257-8140
westpointgrey.org/programs/licensed-preschool [westpointgrey.org]
Ages 2.5–5 yrs
West Point Grey licensed preschool at Aberthau offers care for children 2.5 to 5 years old in a learning-through-play environment. Uniquely located in a mansion with large outdoor space this preschool is a hidden gem on the west side of Vancouver.
North Star Montessori
North Van, 604/980-1205
Northstarmontessori.ca
Ages 0–6 yrs
North Star offers Montessori programs for Infants & Toddlers, Preschool & Elementary aged children. Committed to meeting the developmental needs of each child, we foster a love of learning, independence, and respect. Practical experiences build confidence and inspire an intrinsic motivation to ‘learn’ and ‘do’ that students carry with them throughout their lives.
Westside Montessori Academy (WMA) Vancouver, 604/434-9611
westsidemontessoriacademy.ca
Ages 3–5 yrs
While WMA’s early-learning centre catering to full-day care for 3–5 year olds is coming in 2025, it currently offers special parent/tot sessions throughout the school year on select days of the week. WMA’s not-for-profit mission is to provide a safe, supportive educational environ-
ment that nurtures every child’s natural love of learning. We are committed to providing the tools, the guides and the prepared environment to allow each child to flourish socially and academically, reaching their full potential.
PJ Kids
West Van, 604/926-5972
pjkidsclub.com
Ages 2.5–5 yrs
A play-based childcare program for children 2.5 to 5 years old, with a French-enriched curriculum offering half-day and full-day sessions, based on the BC Early Learning Framework. PJ Kids has a great teacher to children ratio, small class sizes, a wonderful playground, and music and French Lessons. Located in the heart of Dundarave, they are a short walk from the community center and the library. The qualified and dedicated ECE teachers have a passion for working with young children.
Rothewood Academy
Richmond City Centre 604/279-1818
South Surrey 604/385-3441
White Rock 604/531-7677
Richmond Garden City 604/238-6070
Richmond Crestwood 604/227-9176
Rothewood.com
Ages 1–5 yrs
The Rothewood Educational Method is dedicated to teaching the whole child – head, hands, and heart. Our holistic approach to early learning is what makes Rothewood unique. Visit us today at rothewood.com for more information.
AP courses are offered in your child’s school district.
3. Honours Classes are advanced courses offered in many schools for those students who want to delve deeper into the same subjects as regular classes, but often at a faster and more complex pace.
4. STEM Enriched Programs offer extra content and project-based opportunities for students interested in developing their skills in Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math.
5. Language Immersion Programs offer partial and total French immersion starting as early as Kindergarten or Grade 1.
6. Enriched creative and performing arts curriculum. Inquire within your school and school district to learn about opportunities in schools.
7. Academic Competitions in the fields of STEM, sports, and the arts. Visit youthofcanada.ca to get started on learning about these exciting academic, creative, and innovative opportunities for your kids.
8. Project Based Learning (PBL). Inquire within your school and school district to learn about PBL opportunities in schools.
9. Provincial Online Learning Schools (POLS) offer public and POLSindependent courses and programs for K–12 students across B.C. Visit search. onlinelearningbc.com. invested Students (Continued from
Academic Anxiety
Understanding the feelings of our children is key to guiding them towards success when they are experiencing academic anxiety.
Co-written by Marcus Lau and Rhiannon Lewis
As parents and educators, we hold key roles in the beautiful journey of our children’s growth, from their early years to adolescence. This time in their lives is filled with excitement, learning, change and discoveries. As they navigate through their different educational adventures, it’s natural for them to encounter obstacles that might make them feel anxious. By joining forces and working together, we can help them understand and manage these feelings, setting them on a path to becoming resilient individuals. The sources of academic anxiety vary as much as our children and students themselves. Some may feel the aspirations we hold for them, driving them to reach academic pinnacles or shine in certain areas. Others might self-impose these goals, motivated by personal ambitions or worries about fitting in with peers. Individual learning differences can also influence their educational experiences. In our modern era, the brisk pace of technological advancements in education can pose yet another layer of challenge. And let’s remember the intricate social dynamics of
school life—where friendships, peer interactions, and the quest for belonging intersect deeply with academics.
Recognizing that academic anxiety is a natural response to these multifaceted challenges is our shared first step. It’s not about “curing” or “combating” the anxiety; it’s about understanding its existence and guiding our young ones toward supportive strategies.
Fostering Organizational Skills
One of the most empowering skills we can instill is organization. Beyond tidy notebooks or digital folders, it encompasses managing time and responsibilities. Introducing planners, designating specific times for tasks, and breaking assignments into digestible pieces can give them a sense of mastery over their schedules and reduce the stresses associated with balancing various commitments. Try these strategies:
Pomodoro Technique: This time management method breaks work into short, focused intervals (usually 25 minutes), known as “pomodoros”, followed by a short break. It’s
especially effective for maintaining focus and motivation.
Color-Coding: Using different colors for subjects or task types can make a visual distinction in planners or calendars. This method can quickly give an overview of upcoming tasks.
Weekly Review: Set aside a specific time each week to review upcoming tasks, assignments, and time commitments. This not only helps with planning but reinforces the importance of preparation and forethought.
Mapping Out Goals: Goal setting can be
The Pomodoro time management method breaks work into short, focused intervals (usually 25 minutes), known as “pomodoros”, followed by a short break.
By introducing kids to the concept of SMART goals— Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound—we illuminate their academic journey.
compared to placing stepping stones towards achievement. By introducing kids to the concept of SMART goals—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound—we illuminate their academic journey. These goals bring about clarity, concentration, and a means to monitor progress, reducing feelings of being lost amid assignments and anticipations.
Cultivating Self-Awareness
Every child and student brings unique strengths and growth areas to the table. Engaging them with a range of instructional methods not only enhances their academic engagement and motivation but also helps them discern their preferred learning styles. This method resonates with the Universal Design for Learning (UDL) principles. UDL underscores the value of providing students with diverse means of engagement, action, expression, and representation to effectively comprehend and leverage their learning preferences.
Try these strategies: Engage in open conversations with your child to deepen their self-understanding. Here are some guiding questions to begin with:
1. Strengths and Growth Areas: “What do you think are your strongest subjects or skills? Which areas would you like to improve upon?”
2. Learning Preferences: “How do you feel most comfortable learning—through watching, listening, or doing?”
3. Classroom Experiences: “Which class do you feel you learn the most in? Why is that?”
4. Teaching Techniques: “Think about a time you really understood and enjoyed a lesson. What was the teacher doing? Were they showing slides, having a discussion, or doing hands-on activities?”
5. Feelings of Success: “Can you recall a time when you felt particularly successful in learning? What was the environment like? Were you working in a group, studying alone, or maybe with background music?”
By actively seeking answers to these questions, parents can get invaluable insights into their child’s unique learning profile, empowering them to tailor their support more effectively.
For a deeper understanding of the myths surrounding learning styles and the benefits of exposing students to varied learning approaches, consult this research: https:// journalhosting.ucalgary.ca/index.php/cjnse/ article/view/68575.
Championing Self-Advocacy
It’s essential to encourage our kids and students to articulate their feelings and needs. This involves fostering open conversations at home and in the classroom to ensure they know their avenues for support. No child should feel isolated in their academic journey.
Our roles as educators and parents intertwine, influencing the way a child experiences academics. Together, our combined support can shape an experience of wonder, curiosity, and determination.
In conclusion, while academic anxieties are part of the learning journey, they don’t have to overshadow the exhilaration of discovery.
Through united understanding, guidance, and resources, we can accompany our children and students, ensuring they navigate their formative years with self-assuredness, ready to embrace the world’s vast opportunities
Marcus Lau is an educator with over five years of teaching experience spanning secondary schools and higher education institutions. With an MEd in Special and Inclusive Education from the University of British Columbia (UBC), he presently serves as a seminar instructor at UBC. Beyond teaching, Marcus has played a pivotal role as a Behaviour Interventionist. Deeply committed to inclusive education, he advocates for the implementation of Universal Design for Learning (UDL) and champions full inclusion across various educational systems.” Rhiannon Lewis is an educational professional with experience in instructional design, teaching, curriculum development, and education research. She holds a BSc in Biology, a BEd in Secondary Education with a STEM specialization, and is currently pursuing an MEd in Curriculum Studies at UBC. Rhiannon is passionate about curriculum change initiatives that better support the current needs of students, and believes that the most beneficial learning environment is one in which learners feel safe and supported to try new things, make mistakes, learn, and grow.
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Why Attending an Open House or In-Person Meeting at a Prospective School is Essential
By Carlie Parkinson
Choosing a school is one of the most significant decisions you or your child will make. It’s not just about the academic programs or the school’s reputation; it’s about finding a place that feels right, offers the right environment, and aligns with your values and expectations. One of the best ways to gauge whether a school is the right fit is by attending an open house or arranging a school visit. Here’s why it’s so important.
1. Experience the School’s Atmosphere
Firsthand
An open house allows you to step inside the school and experience its atmosphere in a way that brochures, websites, and testimonials simply cannot convey. The vibe of a school—how welcoming, engaging, and dynamic it feels—can only be truly felt in person. During an open house, you can walk through the halls, visit classrooms, and get a sense of how students and staff
interact. This can help you determine if the school environment feels comfortable and inspiring.
“I like seeing families be able to get into conversations with students and teachers in a more informal way, it brings up questions they didn’t even know they had, or that maybe they had hesitated to ask.”
—Director of Development at Urban Academy, Sonja Kennedy
2. Meet the Faculty and Staff
A school is only as strong as its faculty and staff. During an open house, you’ll have the opportunity to meet teachers, administrators and support staff. You can ask questions, learn about their teaching philosophies, and
get a sense of their passion and commitment to education. These interactions can provide valuable insight into how the school operates and how your child will be supported academically and emotionally.
“I like seeing families be able to get into conversations with students and teachers in a more informal way, it brings up questions they didn’t even know they had, or that maybe they had hesitated to ask. It’s real people connecting with real people, all in the interest, in the end, of supporting children in their educational journey.” —Director of Development at Urban Academy, Sonja Kennedy.
3. Understand the Curriculum and Programs
Open houses are a great time to dive into the details of the school’s curriculum and extracurricular programs. Schools often showcase their academic offerings, special programs, and extracurricular activities during these
events. This is your chance to learn about the school’s approach to education, how it aligns with your child’s learning style, and what opportunities are available to help them grow outside the classroom. Whether it’s advanced placement courses, arts programs, sports teams, or clubs, understanding what the school offers is crucial in making an informed decision.
4. Get a Feel for the School Community
The school community plays a significant role in a student’s overall experience. At an open house, you can observe how students interact with each other and with teachers, as well as how the school fosters a sense of community and belonging. You may also have the chance to meet other parents, which can provide insights into how engaged and supportive the parent community is. A strong, collaborative school community can greatly enhance your child’s educational experience.
5. Clarify Expectations and Ask Questions
Attending an open house gives you the opportunity to ask specific questions and clarify any uncertainties you might have about the school. This could range from inquiries about school policies, safety measures, student support services, to understanding how the school handles discipline and conflict resolution. These are important aspects that will affect your child’s day-today experience at school, and getting clear answers will help you make a more informed decision.
6. Visualize the Daily Routine
Seeing the school in action during an open house helps you visualize what a typical day might be like for your child. You can observe the flow of the day, the structure of classes, and how students transition between activities. This practical insight can be invaluable in determining whether the school’s routines and expectations will be a good fit for your child’s needs.
7.
Evaluate Facilities and Resources
Facilities and resources are a critical part of the educational experience. During an open house, you’ll have the chance to tour the campus and assess the condition of classrooms, libraries, laboratories, sports facilities, and other essential areas. You can also gauge whether the school’s resources, such as technology and learning materials, are up-to-date and adequate to support a modern education.
8. Gain Confidence in Your Decision
Finally, attending an open house can give you the confidence that you are making the right decision. It’s an opportunity to see if the school aligns with your expectations and whether it’s a place where your child can thrive. Making such an important decision can be daunting, but the more information and experiences you gather, the more assured you’ll feel in your choice.
Attending an open house is more than just a formality; it’s a crucial step in finding the right school. It allows you to see beyond the surface and delve into the true nature of the school environment, its people, and its offer-
you equip
the
and insight needed to make a well-informed, confident decision that will have a lasting impact on your or your child’s educational journey.
Independent and Private School Guide
Alexander Academy
400-570 Dunsmuir Street, Vancouver, BC, V6B 1Y1 604/687-8832; alexanderacademy.ca
British Columbia Christian Academy 1019 Fernwood Avenue, Port Coquitlam, BC, V3B 5A8 604/941-8426; bcchristianacademy.ca
Bodwell High School and Bodwell Academy 955 Harbourside Drive, North Vancouver, BC, V7P 3S4 604/924-5056; bodwell.edu
Brockton School
3467 Duval Rd., North Vancouver, BC, V7J 3E8 604/929-9201; brocktonschool.com
Columbia Academy Vancouver, 778/379-6811 columbiaacademy.ca
Children’s Hearing & Speech Centre of BC 3575 Kaslo St., Vancouver, BC, V5M 3H4 604/437-0255; childrenshearing.ca
Choice School
20451 Westminster Hwy, Richmond, BC, V5M 3H4 604/273-2418; choiceschool.org
Collingwood School
70 Morven Drive, West Vancouver, BC, V7S 1B2 604/925-3331; collingwood.org
Cousteau, l’Ecole Française Internationale de Vancouver 3657 Fromme Rd., North Vancouver, BC 604/924-2457; cousteauschool.org
Crofton House
3200 West 41st Ave., Vancouver, BC, V6N 3E1 604/263-3255; croftonhouse.ca
Eaton Arrowsmith
213-2150 Western Parkway, UBC, Vancouver, V6T 1V6 604/264-8327, eatonarrowsmith.com
SCHOOL NAME
Fraser Academy 2294 W. 10th Avenue, Vancouver BC 604/736-5575; fraseracademy.ca
Fraser Valley School
19533 64th Avenue, Surrey, BC, V3S 4J3, Langley, BC 604/427-2282; fves.bc.ca
HongDe School
100-688 West Hastings St, Vancouver, BC, V6B 1P1 604/416-0386 www.hongdeschool.ca
Island Pacific School
671 Carter Road, Bowen Island, BC 604/947-9311; islandpacific.org
James Cameron School
20245 Dewdney Trunk Rd, Maple Ridge, BC, V2X 3C9 604/465-8444 or 604/465-4561; jcs.bc.ca
Kenneth Gordon Maplewood School 420 Seymour River Place, North Vancouver, BC 604/985-5224; kgms.ca
Little Flower Academy
4195 Alexandra Street, Vancouver, BC, V6J 4C6 604/738-9016; lfabc.org
Independent and Private School Guide
SCHOOL NAME
Madrona Independent School
2064 West 10th Avenue, Vancouver 604/499-7303; madronaschool.com
Mia Montessori Academy Richmond, BC
604/726-8428; mia-montessori.com
Meadow Montessori Elementary & Preschool
11391 Dartford Street, Maple Ridge, BC 604/465-3492; meadowmontessori.ca
Meadowridge School
12224 - 240th Street, Maple Ridge, BC 604/467-4444; meadowridge.bc.ca
Mulgrave School
2330 Cypress Bowl Lane, West Vancouver, BC 604/922-3223; mulgrave.com
North Star Montessori
1325 East Keith Road, North Vancouver, BC 604/980-1205; northstarmontessori.ca
North Star offers Montessori programs for Infants & Toddlers, Preschool & Elementary aged children. Committed to meeting the developmental needs of each child, we foster a love of learning, independence, and respect. Practical experiences build confidence and inspire an intrinsic motivation to ‘learn’ and ‘do’ that students carry with them throughout their lives.
Pacific Spirit School
4196 W. 4th Ave., Vancouver, BC 604/222-1900; pacificspiritschool.org
Pattison High School
981 Nelson Street, Vancouver, BC, V6Z 3B6 604/608-8788; pattisonhighschool.ca
Pear Tree School
Pearson College UWC
215 – 2678 West Broadway, Vancouver, BC, V6K 2G3 604/355-2155, peartree.school
At Pear Tree School, our Why is to guide children in discovering their true calling and developing a deep sense of purpose, empowering them to leave a meaningful legacy that positively impacts the lives of others.
650 Pearson College Dr, Victoria, BC, V9C 4H7 604/391/2411, pearsoncollege.ca 391 2411
Pythagoras Academy
8671 Odlin Crescent, Richmond, BC, V6X 1G1 604/370-0199; pythagorasacademy.ca
Diamond School
18620 Highway 10, Surrey, BC, V3S 1G1 604/574-4736; diamondschool.ca
Richmond Jewish Day School
8760 No. 5 Rd., Richmond, BC 604/275-3393; rjds.ca
Alcuin College
200-1046 St Georges, North Vancouver, BC, V7L 3H6 604/360-8656; alcuin.ca
St. George’s School
4175 West 29th Ave., Vancouver, BC 604/221-3890; stgeorges.bc.ca
SCHOOL NAME
St. John’s School
2215 W. 10th Ave, Vancouver, BC, V6K 2J1 604/732-4434 or 604/629-2458; sjs.ca
St. John’s Academy
369 Boundary Rd, Vancouver BC, V5K 4S1 604/683-4572; sjavan.ca
St. Mary’s School
5239 Joyce Street, Vancouver, BC, V5R 4G8 T. 604/437-1312 bkrivuzoff@stmary.bc.ca
Saplings Nature School
1390 W 22nd St, North, Vancouver, BC, V7P 2G4 778/838-0335 saplingsnatureschool.ca
SelfDesign Learning Community – Distributed Learning School PO Box 74560, Kitsilano RPO, Vancouver, BC 1 (877) 353-3374 (1-87-SELFDESIGN); selfdesign.org
Southpointe Academy
1900 - 56th Street, Tsawwassen, BC 604/948-8826; southpointe.ca
Southridge School
2656 160th Street, South Surrey, BC, V3S 0B7 604/535-5056; southridge.bc.ca
Independent and Private School Guide
Stratford Hall
3000 Commercial Drive, Vancouver, BC 604/436-0608; stratfordhall.ca
Surrey German School
Kwantlen Park Secondary School, Surrey 604/564-0486; surreygermanschool.com
Students meet on Saturday mornings to learn German in a supportive, academically rigorous environment. Classes are offered from preschool to adults and for any previous knowledge. School runs from September to May. Certificates are accepted for credit at schools and universities.
Traditional Learning Academy
1189 Rochester Avenue, Coquitlam, BC, V3K 2X3; 604/931-7265 traditionallearning.com
Urban Academy
466 Rousseau Street, New Westminster, BC, V3L 3R3
604/524-2211; urbanacademy.ca
Urban Academy is a future-focused independent school (JK-12, co-ed, AP) that enriches the BC curriculum through immersive, hands-on learning experiences. We inspire students to think critically, develop a community mindset and find meaningful ways to contribute. Our students are prepared to excel academically and to be the creative innovators of tomorrow.
Vancouver College
5401 Hudson Street, Vancouver, V6M 0C5 BC 604/261-4285; vancouvercollege.ca
Vancouver Formosa Academy
5621 Killarney Street, Vancouver, BC, V5R 3W4 604/436-2332; vfa.bc.ca
Vancouver Hebrew Academy
1545 W. 62nd Ave, Vancouver, BC 604/266-1245; vhebrewacademy.com
Vancouver Montessori School
8650 Barnard Street, Vancouver, BC 604/261-0315; vancouvermontessorischool.com
Vancouver Talmud Torah 998 West 26th Ave., Vancouver, BC 604/736-7307; talmudtorah.com
Vancouver Waldorf School
2725 St Christophers Road, North Vancouver, BC, V7K 2B6 604/985-7435; vancouverwaldorfschool.ca
VISST - Vancouver Independent School For Science & Technology #200 - 1490 W Broadway, Vancouver, BC, V6H 4E8 604/566-7836 visst.ca
West Point Grey Academy 4125 West 8th Avenue Vancouver, BC 604/222-8750; wpga.ca
Westside Montessori Academy (WMA)
5550 Fraser Street, Vancouver 604/434-9611; westsidemontessoriacademy.ca
Co-ed, grades K–7 (early-learning centre coming soon)
WMA’s not-for-profit mission is to provide a safe, supportive educational environment that nurtures every child’s natural love of learning. We are committed to providing the tools, the guides and the prepared environment to allow each child to flourish socially and academically, reaching their full potential.
Westside Montessori School (WMS)
4157 Oak Street, Vancouver, BC, V6H 2N1 and 3396 Cambie Street, Vancouver, BC, V5Z 2W5 604/731-6594; westsidemontessori.ca
York House School
4176 Alexandra St., Vancouver, BC and 3274 East Boulevard, Vancouver, BC 604/736-6551; yorkhouse.ca
• Struggling with reading
• Difficulty with focus or attention
• Trouble remembering things they’ve been asked to do
• Holding books too close or tilting head when reading
• Mixing similar words ( ‘was’ and ‘saw’) or letters (b/d or p/q)
The Benefits of Vision Therapy
By Bart A. Stump
It started subtly, the occasional complaint of words moving around on the page or struggling to line up the numbers in a math problem. I didn’t think much of it until I got the email from my daughter Beth’s math teacher stating that she was refusing to complete a project. It didn’t make any sense. This was a fun project that the kids normally enjoyed. It involved proportionally enlarging a cartoon to poster size using a grid system. That evening at home I questioned Beth about what happened. She explained that as she tried to transfer the material from one drawing to the other, she kept losing her place. As her frustration level rose, she completely gave up and refused to do the assignment.
Thinking she might need glasses, we visited the eye doctor. While her vision was 20/20, her eyes were not functioning properly, and we received a referral for vision therapy.
She was evaluated by Dr. Christa Roser of Vision Therapy Associates on multiple areas including tracking, convergence, 3-D manipulation and visualization, coordination and focusing. The results of her evaluation were literally eye opening—her eyes were
significantly behind where they should be developmentally.
Our big question was, what exactly is vision therapy? While a routine visual screening looks at issues like clarity (20/20 vision) and diseases of the eyes, vision therapy deals with problems in how the eyes function in conjunction with how the brain processes the visual stimuli it receives.
It is up to teachers and parents to recognize possible visual concerns and ask more questions about what the child is experiencing.
Vision therapy may be used to treat the following:
• Focusing problems
• Eye movement issues
• Misalignment of the eyes
• Inefficient eye teaming
• Visual information processing disorders
These issues are often associated with specific symptoms, however, care must be exercised
in assessing visual capacities. According to occupational therapist Karen Graybill, “… young kids do not usually know they are having visual issues because what they see and how they see it is their ‘normal’ and they do not know any different. Often kids do not know, for example, that frequently losing their place or seeing double isn’t something other people experience! It is up to teachers and parents to recognize possible visual concerns and ask more questions about what the child is experiencing.”
Symptoms to watch for:
• Losing place or skipping words/rows of print
• Eye strain
• Fatigue or headache when reading or using a computer
• Squinting or closing one eye
• Double vision
• Print running together or blurring
• Letter, number, or word reversals
• Poor hand/eye coordination
• Depth perception difficulties
• Struggling with remembering/comprehending reading material
Our next question was, can vision therapy
help with the learning difficulties Beth was experiencing? According to Dr. Roser, “Twenty-five percent of school age children have a vision issue impacting how they read and learn.” While most optometrists do not claim that vision therapy is a direct treatment for learning disabilities, it is focused on correcting visual problems that interfere with reading, learning, and educational instruction. With close to 80% of learning being acquired through visual means, it’s reasonable to conclude that correcting vision issues may improve certain learning difficulties.
A plan was developed for addressing Beth’s visual weaknesses and she came home with a bag of materials used for completing a variety of daily exercises. Weekly sessions with her eye care specialist were coupled with these athome exercises. The exercises involved using specialized lenses and prisms, strengthening a weaker eye by covering the dominant eye with a patch, using a Brock String, a string with beads at various distances to strengthen convergence and divergence (the eyes’ ability to turn inward or outward while focusing on targets at different distances), tracking
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moving objects, solving problems by visualizing the steps involved, visually manipulating objects 3-dimensionally, and memorizing material by using visual mnemonics.
Beth’s progress was checked at her weekly therapy sessions, and the improvement was rapid and impressive. Beth’s not alone. Tim Miller, a seventh-grade science teacher, has this to say, “My daughter who is now 24 years old has endured the tribulations that go along with having a learning disability as well as ADHD and Asperger’s. She benefitted greatly from the learning systems provided
The Benefits of Vision Therapy
by vision therapy. It provided her with better focusing techniques and established a routine to attacking some reading difficulties often associated with ADHD.”
When asked about the impact of COVID on visual health, Dr Roser replied, “The dramatic increase in screen time during the COVID pandemic has absolutely had a negative impact on the visual systems of children and adults. Extended time looking at screens causes eye strain and tunnel vision which can affect overall visual functioning. We have even seen young people go cross-eyed from excessive screen time.”
With the potential for such significant vision problems, what can parents do to help avoid them? According to Dr Roser, “Parents can prevent vision issues by encouraging good visual hygiene (monitoring working distance with near work, good lighting, taking breaks with near work, and limiting screen time), and activities which promote the development of good visual skills. This
includes playing outside (especially ball play), eye hand coordination tasks such as coloring, dot-to-dot, mazes, hidden pictures, word searches, jacks, marbles, crafts, and building with blocks of all sorts.”
While vision therapy may not help everyone, it proved to be extremely effective in helping resolve Beth’s issues. So, if your children are struggling and voice any of the above
listed concerns, a visit to the local vision therapist may be greatly beneficial for both you and them.
Bart Stump is an educator, historian, writer, and adventurer. He has written articles about intriguing personalities, interesting locations, historical events, and parenting topics. Using
Vision Therapists in the Lower Mainland
Discover Vision Therapy
Burnaby, 604/291-7746
discovervisiontherapy.com
At Discover Vision Therapy we are dedicated to vision training. Vision is much more that simply seeing clearly. How your child perceives, learns, processes and guides their motor skills and function is largely driven by vision. Our customized vision therapy programs result in fit, focused and faster eyes to take in more accurate information from the world.
Eyelab, Doctors of Optometry
Vancouver, 604/260-1166
helloeyelab.com
Dedicated pediatric eye care for your child’s unique needs. Our expert team specializes
in Myopia Management, Vision Therapy, and Dry Eye treatment—while also offering comprehensive care to keep your family’s eyes healthy.
Lynn Valley Optometry
North Vancouver, 604/987-9191
lynnvalleyoptometry.com
Dr Mueller and Dr. Shajani at Lynn Valley Optometry are specialty trained in Vision Therapy and Vision Development. Together they hold a combined 50 years of experience helping children reach higher potential. Our unique style of vision therapy is one of its kind, allowing us to address more developmental and learning issues with a deeper level of integration through the addition of NeuroDevelopmental Movement.®
Perspective Optometry
Vancouver, 604/435-3931
perspectiveoptometry.ca
Dr. Mini Randhawa built Perspective
Optometry as a fun family-based clinic. Their goals are to provide you and your children with the information you need to help keep your visual system as strong and healthy as possible, especially in this digital world where kids are increasingly exposed to screens. Come visit them, they promise to make it a magical experience for your kids!
Studying the arts for your mind, body, and soul
By Aurora van Roon
The arts have an incredible ability to feed so many aspects of ourselves. Listening to music, dancing to a song, viewing unique artwork, or sketching a doodle can improve our daily lives. Whether it’s as an outlet, something that inspires us, or a way to express who we are, the impact of the arts is limitless. Here are some ways an arts education can benefit your MIND, BODY, and SOUL.
MIND
By participating in the arts, you gain many valuable skills and attributes that can improve all aspects of your life.
• Developing your creativity can help you think outside the box and come up with new ideas.
• The arts can build confidence as you hone skills and share your work with others.
• Many art forms push you to be adaptable, as you have to find a way to overcome challenges in your studies.
• Beyond that, the focus and perseverance required can motivate you to work until a goal is achieved.
These skills are important to build at a young age as they can help you succeed later in life in a variety of career paths.
BODY
The arts also can improve your physical wellbeing. Dance can help build strength, flexibility, mental concentration, coordination, and musicality. Music helps with coordination and improves dexterity and lung capacity (depending on the instrument of choice). Visual arts can enhance fine motor skills. The more you practice, the more these skills grow. No matter your age, different art forms can engage your body in new ways.
SOUL
By engaging in the arts, you are participating in a powerful form of self-expression. It is an amazing outlet to express emotions, feelings, and thoughts on the world around you and share important aspects of yourself. As the world gets busier, it’s important to take time for yourself.
By participating in the arts, you are creating a space to engage with you. On another
level, you are joining a community. An art class is a chance to connect with people who have similar interests. It is a space to socialize and collaborate to accomplish a goal together. Often many of the bonds formed in an art class are strong ones, as you are sharing important aspects of yourself. Many classes provide the opportunity to take your studies to another level, either through performances or by displaying your work. This also extends your community beyond your classroom to people who love to engage with art.
Overall, the benefits of the arts are innumerable. Numerous studies have found that the arts can help reduce stress and anxiety by improving you physically and mentally. In our 50 years as an arts organization, we have seen firsthand the power the arts have on people of all ages. Whether you want to continue to grow a skill or try something new, artistic studies are a great place to start
Aurora van Roon is the Communications Coordinator at Place des Arts, a not-for-profit, arts education centre located in Coquitlam. She is passionate about the arts and is constantly trying out new mediums.
Through SPARK, children discover a love for the performing arts and adults are surprised by how much fun they had. Join us year-round for a variety of shows for children of all ages.
See what’s on at surrey.ca/spark
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Guide to Arts Schools
Arts Umbrella
Vancouver: 1400 Johnston St, 604/681-5268
Surrey: #02 – 13678 100 Ave. Park Place Central Surrey, 604/585-6996
Arts Umbrella is a non-profit centre for arts education, providing programs for young people ages 2–22 in Art & Design, Dance, and Theatre, and Music & Film. Programs are delivered across Metro Vancouver and give young people a space to express themselves creatively and develop a life-long love of the arts. Classes and workshops take place in Vancouver and Surrey including a large state-of-the-art education facility on Granville Island.
The Arts Conservatory Richmond, 604/241-0141 theartsconservatory.ca
A vibrant fine arts school that offers comprehensive programs in music, visual arts, and dance. The experienced instructors provide personalized instruction in a nurturing environment, fostering creativity and skill development for students of all ages and levels.
Colourstrings Conservatory of Music
129 East 8th Ave, Vancouver colourstrings.ca
Embark on a lifelong musical journey at Colourstrings Conservatory of Music. Explore Joyful Music & Movement Group Classes (3 months to 6 yrs) and unlock your
musical potential with expert instrumental and choir lessons for 5 yrs to adult. Visit us at colourstrings.ca or 129 East 8th Ave, Vancouver.
Evergreen Cultural Centre
1205 Pinetree Way, Coquitlam evergreenculturalcentre.ca
Join us for our 2024–25 season of events!
At Evergreen, we believe that access to the arts is the foundation for healthy kids and a vibrant community. Explore the magic of live performances and art gallery exhibitions in a welcoming, accessible space. Tickets to our exciting Family Series events are just $12/ person, pay-more-if-you-can, and the art gallery at Evergreen is free to attend. Come experience the arts together!
Gateway Academy
6500 Gilbert Road, Richmond, BC gatewaytheatre.com/youth-academy
At Gateway Academy, we believe music helps our students ages 6–18 develop self-expression, grow in confidence and gain an understanding of themselves and others. Working together in song and dance, our Musical Theatre students learn to tell their own stories through movement and the expression of music and lyrics.
Lights Up Musical Theatre
Locations throughout the Lower Mainland lightsuptheatre.ca
Classes (6 months old to 18 years)
At Lights Up Musical Theatre, we see music as a key to unlocking the power of a child’s creativity—and once that door is open, a world of possibilities is in reach. Music is a language that speaks to the soul, a medium through which emotions are expressed and a gateway to imagination.
Long & McQuade Music Lesson Centres
With 17 locations across British Columbia, visit our website to find the store nearest you. We offer private one-on-one lessons custom-tailored to the needs and goals of the individual student. Our students range from children just beginning their journey in music, to seniors who enjoy music as a hobby. Lessons for every age, level, and style.
Place des Arts
1120 Brunette Avenue, Coquitlam, BC Placedesarts.ca
Classes (6 months to 18 years)
During the school year, Place des Arts has group classes and private lessons in music, dance, theatre, visual arts and literary arts offered after school, in the evenings and on weekends. Classes are for all ages and every skill level—beginner to advanced. Register now and take part in the arts!
What is a good age to start learning a musical instrument?
By Laura Hasthorpe, BA, CPGS, CSAK
Music teacher’s get asked this question a lot! The answer is not necessarily a specific age but more about whether YOUR child is developmentally and musically ready.
Playing an instrument requires reading, listening, movement, memory, even emotion. When all of the areas of the brain responsible for those processes spring into action “your brain is on fire.”
Learning an instrument can be a frustrating experience for a child who is not ready.
Most children—even the musically inclined—can benefit from waiting a little longer to start instrumental lessons than the anxious parent might be given to believe.
Beginning an instrument is exciting and fun but it also takes daily practice.
Parents, are you ready to commit to helping them practice? The younger your child is the more they need you and your undivided attention to help them practice.
Some of the best musicians in this world started their instrumental training relatively late.
The most important way to help your child enjoy learning an instrument is not to start lessons too soon, but instead support and
encourage the development of their musicality and musicianship!
The key to success on an instrument is developing a foundation of musicianship skills BEFORE learning an instrument. The natural way young children express their musical ideas is through their voice. If a child has a solid musical foundation they will likely learn an instrument with ease and success!
There are many early childhood music classes offered but not all are created equally. Search around for teachers that have specialized training and experience in early years music and music literacy.
Kodaly-inspired music classes develop musicianship skills and music literacy and are taught by Kodaly music specialist’s that have undergone an extensive teacher training process, not just one or two training courses.
Each lesson is carefully designed to gently and logically support progress through playful singing games and creative movement using percussion instruments, parachutes, balls and scarves.
Purposeful singing games develop musical language, expression and intellectual skills through guided questions and answers. Problem solving leads the children into
developing musical literacy and basic music competence.
What is basic music competence?
• Able to sing in tune and move accurately to rhythm
• Able to distinguish between higher and lower sounds in pitch and long and short sounds in rhythm (having a “good ear”)
• Able to accurately clap back rhythm patterns (musical memory)
• Able to track from left to right and read basic rhythm notation
• Able to feel and understand the difference between beat and rhythm
Other skills required to learn an instrument with ease and success:
• Good fine motor coordination—the ability to control small muscles of the body and coordinate the eyes and hands together
• Able to concentrate and focus for a 30-minute lesson
The benefits of musicianship training before moving to instrument lessons: If the musician has been ‘created’ (i.e. they have developed basic music competence and basic music literacy) there will only be the
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technical difficulties of playing the instrument to think about.
If a child can hear what is on the page before playing, he will have a greater understanding of the music.
An understanding of pitch relationship through singing leads to better intonation— the ability to play in tune. This is particularly important when learning a string instrument. If a child can sing expressively it will help them play expressively on their instrument.
Learning an instrument benefits your brain!
Neuroscientists have found that learning to play a musical instrument can enhance verbal memory, spatial reasoning and literacy skills. Playing an instrument makes you use both sides of your brain, which strengthens memory power.
Learning an instrument is vital for the best cognitive development to occur. This is due to the brain’s neural networks lighting up like
fireworks between the auditory, visual and motor cortices in the brain (hearing, seeing and moving), creating millions of connections across the brain at once.
Learning an instrument builds so many connections that the brain grows to be 30% more dense than students who do not learn an instrument1!
Learning an instrument for a minimum of two years before the age of 7, or three years after the age of 7, creates permanent cognitive change (this includes adults!). It is generally agreed that 5–7 years is the ideal minimum amount of music learning for cognitive development, but of course, the more learning throughout life, the better the cognitive outcomes.
From 7 years old, the brain begins a natural process called pruning, which involves the brain ‘trimming’ information it doesn’t require so it can absorb more information. Pruning is much quicker for musicallytrained students, occurring in just six months
as opposed to 18 months for non-musicallytrained students.
Einstein once said: “Life without playing music is inconceivable to me. I live my daydreams in music. I see my life in terms of music... I get most joy in life out of music.” And as it turns out, Einstein was onto something: many studies show a correlation between musical training and academic success, in both children and adults. Learning to play an instrument stimulates the brain, improving functions like memory and abstract reasoning skills, which are essential for math and science.
Laura Hasthorpe, BA, CPGS, CSAK is a distinguished professional violist, founder, and director of Vancouver’s Colourstrings Conservatory of Music.
Help Solve Money and Family Budget Arguments with these 3 Tips
Credit Counselling Society
Just as it’s normal to love your family, it’s normal to argue with them about money. An American Psychological Association survey reported that 31% of couples said money was a big source of conflict in their relationship. Especially during tough times like the COVID-19 pandemic, the stress of making ends meet can cause friction between you and your loved ones. Balancing a family budget while keeping everyone happy is tough, but don’t give up. Family budgets work best when everyone has a voice and understands the reasoning behind the spending plan. That’s what a budget really is—a plan for how you’ll use your money to make yourselves happy. Following are three tips to help you solve and avoid family budget arguments
1. Gradually ease into a family budget
Getting your family to follow a budget is a marathon, not a race. Someone new to marathons would probably start with walking and gradually work towards jogging. Taking the time they need lets them eventually run 10K and maybe even enjoy it. But if you try to force your family to suddenly start running a marathon from Day 1, then they might sprint, but it will probably be to get away from you. After you’ve figured out your family budget and a strategy to meet it, give them and yourself some patience as you all adjust your spending habits. A little forgiveness for small mistakes will go a long way for future success and family harmony. What’s most important is that you all agree on the plan and follow it as best as you can.
2. Work with your partner, not against them
Working with your spouse instead of against them will make your life easier in a lot of ways, but especially when it comes to solving financial problems. Couples argue about money for a lot of reasons and this can put a big strain on marriages. Maybe you grew up in different environments, have different views on financial problems, or even just communicate in different ways.
Sit down with your partner and figure this all out. Treat the meeting as quality time together where there can be no distractions and agree to be honest without getting confrontational. Above all, avoid the blame game—it doesn’t solve anything and will just hurt your relationship. Here are some questions to get you started:
• What does money mean to each of you?
• What are your financial goals (short, medium and long term)?
• How does each of you see managing your money going forward?
When you understand each other’s perspectives, make a budget you can agree on. Revisit your expenses over the past 2 months to make sure you haven’t forgotten anything; also keep in mind seasonal expenses such as insurance and car maintenance, and set aside funds for these in a separate savings account.
Figuring out a budget together probably means you’ll both have to make compromises somewhere, and that’s okay. Once you get onto the same page, you’ll find that working as a team rather than fighting is a lot better for your family budget, not to mention your sanity.
3. Involve your children in family budget planning
Even if your children don’t get a vote in your family budget, that doesn’t mean you can’t give them a voice. As part of your family, they too deserve to know what’s going on, and knowing will help them understand your financial choices. This will of course depend on their age, but if they’re old enough to spend money, then they should be old enough to talk about it.
Do try as much as possible to involve them in your planning. If they feel that they also had a part in the decision process, then they’ll be much more likely to follow and be happy with the family budget. Most importantly, getting them to think about finances now will help them successfully manage their finances when they grow up.
This article is reprinted with the permission of the Credit Counselling Society (CCS). Since 1996 CCS has been helping individuals and families learn how to budget and manage their finances better. Their credit counsellors are available for confidential, free appointments to help you with your money and debt and their website nomoredebts.org is full of helpful tips from creating a budget that works, to using credit wisely, self-serve learning options, debt repayment solutions, and what to do when you’re maxed out and don’t know where to turn next. You can reach out at 1-888-5278999 or on nomoredebts.org to send email or start an anonymous chat.
