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Issue #4: Recognizing the many places we have come from, and where we are headed.
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Editor-in-Chief Leif Tobias Gifford (they/he)
NB, Blackness, + Slang: An Op-Ed By: Saint Tawfik
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The Sydnificance of One Day at a Time By: Finchley Greene (they/them)
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For my parents and their parents before them By: Maria Munir (they/them) Here: A Portrait Series By: Tristan Crane
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on being enough: an account of racial and queer experiences with imposter syndrome By: L. Zhu 14 Goddess of Space By: Stephanie Fantastic (she/her)
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Artist Feature: Jess (they/them) of beadsagainstfascism Selected Poetry By: Aiden Feltkamp (they/he)
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A Path Towards Myself: A Poem By Ida Jouband (they/them) Starlight, A Comic By: michi / chrysanthemumskies (they/them) Douen Face & Spoil Shade By: Kwasi Shade
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Getting the X: Opening Day for Non-binary Gender Markers at California’s DMV By: Rain Chamberlain (they/them)
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NB, Blackness, + Slang: An Op-Ed By: Saint Tawfik This op-ed responds to the usage of “NB” within the non-binary community as opposed to its original usage as “Non-Black”.
We’re creative as hell. For as long as we’ve
and again through hashtags such as
been using language, Black and brown people have
#BlackLivesMatter and #MeToo.
been utilizing language in a subversive way. This re-
It cannot be overlooked that when these new
sistance to colonial terms and structure of language
words make their way into the mainstream through
is a way of dismantling white supremacy and its
everything from everyday language to commercial
rules. Historically viewed as incorrect or inferior to
usage, it is usually entirely co-opted and used with-
“proper” English, which is an ever-evolving language,
out credit to the original creators. A most notable ex-
Black slang has been changing the language game.
ample is that of Kayla Lewis who coined the term “on
This can readily be seen in what’s known as
fleek” back in 2014, a phrase which meant something
“Black Twitter,” a subsection of social media site
perfected, well-executed, or looking good. Since
Twitter, predominantly consisting of African-American
Lewis’ Vine video, the phrase has taken off, used in
users. Black Twitter allows for a direct transliteration
common language and even found in advertise-
of African American Vernacular English (AAVE) that
ments.
is easily accessible and signals to a user’s Black
Oftentimes, AAVE becomes commonly used
identity. Without the corporeal signifiers of the offline
in queer spaces before it reaches the mainstream.
world, one uses language as a way of identifying
RuPaul’s Drag Race is a vibrant example of Black
themself.
slang used by other communities. Both Black and
Oftentimes the language created by Black
queer communities develop their own languages in-
people on Twitter (or elsewhere) will inevitably find its
ternally to communicate and relate with each other.
way into mainstream media and colloquial speech
AAVE and LGBT Linguistics, respectively. And at the
and even Webster’s Dictionary. From “lit” to “on
intersection of these communities we find even more
fleek” and “woke,” terminology is constantly being
creativity.
created or brought back to life and popularity with
New language is constantly in development to
entirely new meanings. The force with which Black
subvert heteronormative and patriarchal ideologies,
Twitter influences popular language is also seen time
similar to what AAVE invariably does to white su6
premacy. Early feminist movements coined terms
for new language to come into use.
such as ‘womyn’ and ‘wombyn’ in order to re-center
Gender neutral language is increasingly re-
womanhood. Additionally, within queer communities,
placing that which is gendered in order to be as inclu-
new language is constantly being developed to de-
sive as possible, especially in non-binary communi-
scribe various identities. Gender-queer or non-binary
ties. Examples of this include replacing gendered pro-
language takes these early feminist movements an-
nouns with they and them, or more recently invented
other step, exiting the gender binary entirely and cre-
ze and zir or per and pers.
ating space for more identities to be recognized and
The Sydnificance of One Day At A Time By Finchley Greene (they/them) Syd on the left, Elena on the right from One Day at a Time
Season 3 of One Day At A Time has emerged on
seeing a non-binary character who is funny, relatable
Netflix and is a brilliant continuation of the last two
and so very human, is much needed.
seasons. Following Lupita, the head of a matriarchal
Over the seasons there have been one or two small
Latinx family as she navigates life dealing with a vari-
issues with the handling of Syd’s character, but all
ety of challenges such as PTSD, immigration, color-
these small issues have turned out to be a learning
ism, and importantly, Lupita’s daughter Elena, com-
curve, both for the on-screen characters and audi-
ing out as gay in season 1. By season two, we meet
ence.
Syd, who turns out to be Elena’s love interest.
Syd and the creators of One Day At A Time have
Syd is a non-binary character, and while the show is
held a beacon for the non-binary community where
infamous for addressing difficult topics, Syd’s identity
there wasn’t one before. Guttingly, Netflix have de-
is a needed breath of fresh air for trans and non-
cided to cancel the series- yet another blow for on-
binary identifying people as there is little representa-
screen representation, but with so much outcry and
tion elsewhere. So much misunderstanding, societal
support, I remain hopeful that a vibrant story would
and legal upheaval against trans rights recently, has
be eventually be brought back to life.
meant that trans people have been dehumanised, so 7
For my parents and their parents before them By Maria Munir (they/them) \ Twitter @Maria_Munir
The truth is simple: I don’t feel like my story is
going to make things better for everyone because I had to.
worth telling.
But it didn’t feel like it was my journey. This was the journey of my parents, and their parents be-
It feels self-indulgent to write about my journey. I feel like I
fore them.
have an inflated sense of self-importance, but I wonder how much of this is in response to being told to stay in my
My mum grew up as the eldest of two brothers and four
lane. I was assigned a gender at birth that no one was
sisters. She was cheeky, charismatic, and managed to
happy with. Everyone would have found it easier had I
weave her way out of trouble repeatedly. I look at her now,
been born a boy, but my parents embraced me all the
and I can map her face to the fields she ran through; I can
same. I grew up with facial palsy, paralysing half of my
see the creases of laughter where she teased her family
face, and that compounded the burden that nothing was
relentlessly; and I can see the wry eyebrow rising when
expected of me. My journey was not my own; it was al-
she heard something she disagreed with. This is the wom-
ways someone else’s.
an who, when she came to the UK from Pakistan as a 16year-old, went straight to school whilst speaking no Eng-
I went to school, and I excelled. I was no meek or mild
lish and leaving with a qualification in IT, despite her ex-
child by any measure. I miss those days when I bought a
tended family saying it was a waste of time. This is the
Barbie annual from a charity shop. It asked me what I
powerful woman who, when faced with unemployment,
wanted to be when I was older.
marched straight into a care home and refused to leave a ‘Let’s see. On Mondays, I’ll be Prime Minister. On Tues-
board meeting until they gave her a job.
day, I’ll be an actor. On Wednesday, I’ll work for charity. She got the job, of course. She’s my mum.
On Thursday, I’ll be the BBC News Political Correspondent. On Friday, I’ll work at Superdrug with Khala Uzma, my
I know where she gets it from, though. My mum’s dad
aunt.’
came to this country first and left his family behind in Pakistan. I was lucky to have had 7 years of his adoration. He
The fear of being Too Much didn’t quite strike me until lat-
may have passed on, but I remember so firmly when he
er in life. I joined a political party at seven or eight in oppo-
would say, ‘My Maria will do something, my Maria will
sition to the Iraq Invasion, I took a copy of Great Expecta-
achieve something, just you wait.’ He wanted all of us to
tions into school for quiet reading as a nine-year-old, and
get the education that he’d missed out on. He wanted to
my ‘favourite channel’ was BBC News. I was undefeata-
know it was worth uprooting himself to the other side of the
ble; I was going to be all the things I wanted to be. I was
world without his community. I really hope that he feels it 8
was worth it.
ciation for my human rights work, with a fellow recipient being Malala Yousafzai. Even as I write this, I feel ridicu-
My own dad is not much different. He sacrificed his prom-
lous. I’m not sure that this is exactly what I had in mind five
ising education to help support his siblings and parents.
- or even ten - years ago, but it’s not surprising for the kid
He’s been through so much strife, from country to country,
who walked up to their Member of Parliament as a child
just to try and make ends meet so he could send money
and asked if the MP knew where the weapons of mass
back to his family. Whether that was years in Saudi Arabia
destruction were hidden by Tony Blair. This was not blus-
under working conditions that would make any human
tering confidence. This was a genuine need to challenge
rights campaigner gasp or coming to the fabled land of
authority when lives are thrown into the firing line ‘for us’.
England only to be met with fervent racism, he has done so much to make our lives as comfortable as he can.
Was the harassment and death threats worth it? Have I made a difference? I ask myself this as I write this from the
I respect that, but I wish he hadn’t felt obliged to give up so
pit of depression. I haven’t showered for a week. I go to
much with no guarantee that it would be appreciated. But
work every day and smile otherwise people will be con-
he learnt from his dad, who walked miles and miles for
cerned. I apologise to everyone who emails me to ask me
weeks on end, that appreciation is not what matters; your
to speak at an event; they don’t know that I am not avoid-
family deserve your unconditional love.
ing them. I’m avoiding myself.
Whatever I do, I think of this first and foremost. As a kid, I
There’s something odd about the level of scrutiny I’ve
tried my hardest to be the very best at everything. I had to.
been under. I’m tired of dissecting myself for applause. I
I had to do something to show that everyone’s sacrifices
never walk away feeling compensated, and the temporary
had been worth it. I needed to prove that, despite where
minute increase in my bank account disappears once I
my parents came from, where we were going was so
repair my emotions.
much better. I had to be a lot of things that I couldn’t even name yet.
I’m just some random person from a town called Watford. My journey is nowhere near worthy of the people whose
I’m 23 years old now. I guess what hasn’t changed is that I
journey came before mine.
am still a lot of things. The difference is that if I listed them all, I’d get in trouble – that’s how you know my journey has
Queer stuff feels superfluous.
some way to go.
Gender euphoria scares me.
I’ve had my weird life of flying to Geneva as an expert for
I never feel euphoric. I never feel dysphoric. I feel the ab-
the United Nations and getting a letter from former Presi-
sence of strong feelings.
dent of the United States, Barack Obama, after coming out
Someone should take away my gender card. Well, some-
to him on live TV and standing up for the rights of non-
one should take gender off my driving license and my
binary people. I even got a medal from the Paris Bar Asso-
passport anyway, but if I had a loyalty card for being a 9
good public enby, I’d have zero stamps.
I can’t win. When the game wasn’t set up for me to play, and the rules change when I’m around, how can I be ex-
Honestly, I have zero stamps left to give. No one is about
pected to win?
to put my face on a stamp. Who cares if I have a Wikipedia page when I struggle to get out of bed in the mornings?
I should have done more by now. That’s my overriding
Who cares about any successful changes I’ve brought
feeling. I’ve let everyone down. I wasted my chances. De-
about through my activism? Who gives a shit?
spite all that I’ve achieved, I live in the constant anxious fear that I’ve somehow misused my opportunities to
I am an imposter. I’m reminded that every day, from being
change the world.
pushed out of queues in supermarkets for being a ‘filthy Paki’, to being slapped with a copy of the Metro on the
That it wasn’t good enough.
tube. Both middle class comforts I could never afford. My
That it wasn’t enough.
queerness isn’t visible except when I put on a hat that says
Maybe I’m wasting my platform. But I see no platform.
‘Queer’, because no one would look at this body and this skin and this face and this religion and believe that it’s
I stare up at the glass ceilings in the skyscraper built
queer.
above me. I know that I’m never going to get to the top.
You can scream your queerness and be called aggressive.
But in my small way, like my parents and their parents be-
You can lower your gaze and be called oppressed. I can’t
fore them, I’ll inch a little bit higher to the summit.
explore my identity in this unnavigable land. This country
It’s a journey I’m finally ready to make.
was not made for people like to me to find ourselves. There’s no gap year experience on some ‘exotic’ beach that awaits me and my journey of self-discovery. My journey is curated for me. I don’t look the way people want me to. I’m not skinny, white, androgynous, or edgy. I could strip naked and still my body would be undesirable. When I am in the spotlight, my narrative is dictated by questions like whether I have a uterus, if I’ve been disowned, or what it’s ‘like’ to be… all that I am. My message is too jarring, and my reality is unsellable. No one wants to hear about the first-generation immigrant kid who has jumped from manual labourer to UN expert in one smooth story arc. No one wants to hear my story without tragedy. 10
Here: A Portrait Series By: Tristan Crane
Cheyenne She/They/Hers/Them Non-Binary Womxn/ Two-Spirit/ Hard Femme/ Butch/ Fxtch
“Although my lineage has been lost, I hold the title of Two-Spirit close to my heart. I am a warrior that both fights and loves to the fullest. I am a parent of a Trans / GNC child. My child is the one that taught me how to be my
true self. If it wasn’t for them, I might never have had the ability to see myself.”
Teek
They/Them
Bisexual/Non Binary Human, 67 years old
“I know everything I am is part of a wide spectrum of expres-
sion. That spectrum is not simply feminine on one end and masculine on the other; I don’t claim to know what those terms mean. I’m more familiar with so many other spectrums... I never know where I’ll be from one moment to another. It’s like dancing, in an eternally liminal space.”
Mateó
queer, they/them
“I am an indigenous qtpoc from Colombia. I come from the Muisca people and we were known for offering our deities (the sun and the moon) art in return for their magic. Through visual art, I found an outlet to express myself authentically starting at a really young age.
As a nonbinary brown artist, I plan to start a 11
revolución.”
Neve multigender/genderqueer/offgender/femme “Being in my body enough to remember that I want to fight for my right to experience joy and ease, that I want my community to experience joy and ease, is always the goal. I am a radical political, fairy tale romantic, and frightening adventure of embodiment with you.”
Jude
Ae/Em/Aer
Human transcending gender
“I’m not femme or masc, I’m just who I am, so get your gender off me! I love being visible trans and knowing that I’m
making a difference just by being me. I want to show other people how fun and freeing it can be to shed societal expectations of how to exist in this weird, wonderful world.”
Llano She/Her, They/Them Genderqueer Femme
“I always knew I was different and it has been quite the journey embracing it. I was already a drag performer and musician, but since then I have talked on stages small and large about growing up queer and my voyage of self discovery. My hope is that by making my identity more visible I can inspire more people to be their authentic selves and make the world a little bit more accepting.” view the other photos at hereportraits.com 12
on being enough: an account of racial and queer experiences with imposter syndrome By: L. Zhu
“Yes,” she answers, and we never speak of it again.
i. Mom tries her best to integrate Chinese culture
(Nowadays, I wish we would have.)
into my childhood: language videos, folklore picture books, celebrations of the Lunar New Year with my
iii.
one other Chinese friend in Wisconsin (our mothers,
I still don’t like girls in high school, not when my fa-
each single, both adopted us from China) in the one
vorite cartoon characters are Raven from Teen Ti-
sit-down Chinese family restaurant in town.
tans and Shego from Kim Possible. Not even when I find myself incredibly drawn to the stunning middle-
But she is the only Chinese friend I have, and soon
aged women in my favorite TV shows, wondering
Mom’s attempts fall flat as I lose interest. No one else
what it’d be like to get to be their husbands.
I attend school with has similar interests or traditions, so I fail to see the point in why I should.
And especially not during freshman year when the really pretty sophomore in my geometry honors class
ii.
throws her head back and laughs at some stupid joke
“Do you ever think about girls?” the same friend asks
I made. She tells me I’m really funny and I still don’t
me once, years later when we’re maybe 12 and
like girls when I make it my goal to make her laugh
swinging on the playset in her backyard.
as often as I can, nor when I re-read the blurb she leaves in my yearbook at the end of the year where
“What do you mean?” I ask.
she says that I’m one of the sweetest people she’s met over and over.
“The same way you do boys,” she elaborates. “Like, do you like them?”
I just hold an incredibly high admiration for all of these women. Y’know, girl power and all of that.
“No,” I say, and don’t know how to tell her that I don’t really like boys either. “Do you?” 13
iv.
marvel at our polar opposites in upbringings; I saw
Four years pass and I’m a freshman once again, sit-
more East Asians on campus during my first campus
ting in the mandatory discussion of our assigned
tour the year before than I had in my entire existence
summer reading on the first day of college orienta-
back home.
tion. I can’t stop watching the floormate sitting directly across from me speak, clinging onto her every
I do not understand the meeting’s pop culture refer-
word like she’s a prophet discussing the secrets of
ences and inside jokes of being raised by Asian par-
existence as we know it.
ents; cannot read the Mandarin written on the projection screen or relate to the buzzing excitement of po-
“If you were a fruit, what kind would you be?” she
tential group visits to some of the local boba tea
asks the room, and I’m struck with the desperation to
shops. The gaps between our experiences widen
be the kind she indulges herself in.
and I shake on the unsteady foundation, teetering at the edge of the new crevice.
Each time our eyes meet, it feels like being doused with ice-water; like she’s the first person who has ev-
Exposure to others in this community is a double-
er seen me.
edged sword; I cut my fingers on the razor-sharp sides with my blind eagerness and bleed alienation.
“I think I have a crush on a girl,” I text my best friend from high school immediately after the session is dis-
No longer am I a twinkie (“yellow on the outside,
missed. “I might be gay.”
white on the inside”), as my high school friend once called me; instead, I have transformed into a fortune
“Happens to the best of us,” is his reply.
cookie: Chinese-appearing but truly American. Both are artificial.
v. A few weeks later, I attend my first meeting for the
My return visits to the student group are few and far
Chinese Students Association.
between, and then they become none.
The table of fellow first-years I sit with are warm and
vi.
welcoming, and discuss their shock at the lack of
“She’s cute,” I comment to my sophomore roommate
Asian population on campus from their hometowns. I
in the fall next year, watching a fellow student across 14
the room at the queer weekend retreat we’re all at-
The last thing I expect is to wake up one morning not
tending.
two months later and realize that I’m not a woman like I had thought myself as for the previous 19
My roommate agrees and I force myself to make
years.
awkward conversation with the girl, pushing past jumbled nerves and inviting her to sit with us through-
My knowledge of non-binarism suddenly becomes
out the weekend. We stargaze one night while every-
much more personal.
one else is playing Never Have I Ever and I lend her my jacket, distracted from the cold of the gravel be-
vii.
low by the warmth of her smile.
Time goes by and my involvement in queer and people of color spaces on campus grows exponentially.
Two weeks later we dive headfirst into a monoga-
The more I involve myself-- the more I become a
mous relationship, me half running on fumes from the
face and voice for different minority groups in the stu-
elation of having my affections explicitly reciprocated
dent body-- the more my fear of inferiority festers,
for the first time. This type of fuel, while powerful, is
unyielding.
not built for sustainability, and when I burn out a couple months later, we crash just as magnificently as
My entire being hovers in a liminal space and it’s ag-
we began.
onizing when I struggle to accept anything unknown. The places I so desperately wish to belong in height-
vii.
en my unrelenting uncertainty whether I deserve to
Later in the semester, my roommate comes out to
exist there. No matter how often I strive to become
me as non-binary in the middle of a late-night study
more (chopping my hair off and adapting a masculine
session in one of our floor’s study rooms. We’re both
hairstyle, complete with teal highlights, the summer
serving on the executive board for our queer student
after I discovered I was nonbinary; enrolling in as
group, and while I haven’t had any personal experi-
many East Asian culture and history classes as my
ence with the identity, I’ve learned the basics of it by
degree and schedule allows; plastering bi-pride stick-
this point.
ers on my laptop cover) I forever fall short of enough.
“Okay, thanks for telling me,” I say, and we move on.
When my first kiss since my breakup is with a white cis-man two years later, a seed of doubt plants itself 15
inside my soul. Each subsequent kiss with every additional man is a watering to this seed; each time another white man climbs into my bed, more flower buds appear on the stalks. It feels like a betrayal, not only to my queerness but also to my race, despite how my sexual history does not reflect my interests (each time an East Asian man asks me if I prefer white or Asian men, I am left flailing for words). How desperately I want to rip it from the soil and trample it.
Yet it is not a weed. The way it obscures my vision-makes me doubt myself, and selfishly demands so much of my attention-- is ugly like one, though.
ix. ‘Enough’ is a mirage, shimmering in the distance and taunting you to spend every last breath chasing after it even if it does not truly exist. It is a product of imposter syndrome-- for me, of the fear of taking up space I do not deserve.
Imposter syndrome is blinding. It makes you ask the wrong questions. I have spent far too much time wondering if I am enough for others instead of asking if I am enough for myself, when only I know my truth.
x. My current journey is working towards being able to answer that question with a resounding ‘Yes.’ 16
Art by Stephanie Fantastic, she/her 17
Artist Feature: Jess from beadsagainstfascism Jess (they/them) runs beadsagainstfascism, a crafts-based network of solidarity, using symbols from varying movements. They are Cree from James Bay and Irish. Their work hopes to inspire others to create their traditional crafts, and to make fascists uncomfortable.
How did you begin creating beadwork?
there are folx out here who are actively working to-
I began creating beadwork with my Grandmother,
ward making the world more safe and comfortable for
and I’ve been super crafty my whole life. I grew up
marginalized folx, and there are people who believe
with my dad’s side, but we would visit my mom’s side
in this so deeply that they’ll wear it on display. And if
pretty frequently and each time we did my grandma
they’re a member of any marginalized community, I
taught me at least one new skill. Later on I moved to
hope they’ll be even slightly comforted by this fact.
Toronto for school, which is only an hour away from
When people buy my work
where my grandma lives. I
and wear it, I want them to
got the chance to visit her
know that, especially if
and hang and learn from
they’re an ally/ accomplice
her, which was awesome.
to the community the beadwork supports, they should
This is when I picked back
be actively willing to en-
up on beadwork. I was also
gage with folx on the sub-
very involved with the Cen-
ject of the struggle of that
tre for Aboriginal Student
specific community and
Services at my university, where we did lots of work-
educate anyone who asks or is unfamiliar with the
shops, including beading workshops. Seeing all the
acronym or symbol. It’s a pretty big responsibility,
beautiful work my friends and peers were doing kind
really!
of reignited my interest in this craft. What do you hope to accomplish with What is the first thing that you want people to know
beadsagainstfascism?
when they’re engaging with your work?
My initial hope with doing this work was to find a way
When people first see it, I want them to know that
to contribute to the causes I believe in, as I was away 18
from my activist communities and hanging out back
an amazing capacity to constantly reinvent ourselves
home with my family and getting my health in order. I
and our cultures including material cultures, and this
have a panic disorder and I was homeless for a bit in
is yet another super cool evolution of that. I’m abso-
Toronto and it put an enormous strain on me so I had
lutely not the first to put such explicitly political con-
to leave and recoup, but I wanted to find a way to re-
tent into a traditional craft, but it's definitely what I do
main engaged with the stuff I was a part of when I
best right now and I plan on running with it!
was in the city. I’d dabbled in political beadwork before that, making Palestinian flag solidarity beadwork
Why is your emphasis on solidarity with other groups
for my friends and comrades, but I decided to take it
and movements, such as Black Lives Matter and sex
another step.
workers, important to your practice?
I opened an Etsy and the rest is history! I was so jazzed to learn people actually wanted this stuff! I really just want marginalized folx to be a little bit more comfortable existing in this world, and I want fascists, racists, white supremacists, homophobes, transphobes, misogynists to be a lot more uncomfortable. My goal is to have constant reminders that their beliefs and actions are harmful and will not be tolerated, and I want them to be reminded everywhere they go that there are folx willing to fight tooth and nail to take Some of Jess’ pins, such as the Palestinian flag, the
away their platforms and suppress their ability to do
Medicine Wheel, anti-Nazi symbols, and sex work
harm. Make fascists afraid.
solidarity (umbrella) pins.
Are you seeing a community of Indigenous people
Solidarity is super important to me, but it has to be
using traditional craft as activism?
genuine, committed, informed solidarity (no populist
Yes, and it makes me so happy! I’m a believer that
crap!). The vast majority of our movements and
any way that we can reclaim our practices and cul-
struggles and even our own identities have a million
tures and be visible in any space or dimension on our
complex intersections, so trying to section off move-
colonized land is activism, but Indigenous folx have
ments into their own little corners is not an accurate 19
or helpful representation of the world. Each move-
on solidarity. Sometimes it feels like the different
ment is so interconnected with so many others, and
parts of me are all being tugged in different directions
they need to mutually inform each other to ever actu-
and it’s like I’m being told “you can be Indigenous but
ally tackle the real problems we face as the complex
you can’t be a womxn too, pick one! You can be
human beings that we are. There obviously does
queer but you can’t be non-binary too, pick one!” And
need to be dedicated people working toward each
it’s just exhausting and isolating.
specific struggle; I just think the way that each of
I want people to feel like all the parts of who they are
those will be their strongest is by not pretending each
as human beings are fully seen. I think being Indige-
issue exists in a vacuum.
nous specifically and how I was raised and taught to see the world really informed my holistic viewpoint,
Another important aspect is that we’re all human be-
including in regards to politics. We are all WAY more
ings and we need support and we need to prevent
complex than the world gives us credit for and we
ourselves and each other from getting burnt out! Soli-
need to see more accurate representations of that.
darity, and actual physical representations of in-
None of us fit neatly into a little box.
formed, committed, and genuine solidarity like this
beadwork, is basically just being like “hey, I don’t face the things you face but I know and I care and you’re not alone”, and even just that humanizing and personal sort of unspoken statement can be really powerful, and remove a lot of that isolation that we all feel in this neoliberal capitalist hellscape. We really need to be doing a better job of taking care of ourselves and each other.
Some more of Jess’ pins in a container, along with ear-
You are Indigenous, queer, and a non-binary womxn.
rings. Black Lives Matter pins, antifa (antifascist flag),
How do you feel like these identities integrate them-
Medicine Wheel, and a Palestinian flag in a heart.
selves into what you make and the politics that drive a lot of your pieces?
Do you have any advice for others seeing what you
All my different identities lead to me never feeling
and others do, who are interested in pursuing this
fully represented, and it’s partially why I’m so keen
artform? 20
Specifically in regards to our traditional beadwork
and material cultures, I strongly encourage any Indigenous folx to reclaim these practices, and use them however they see fit! Honestly, we all need to just go for it. The first step ain’t easy, and I know I personally felt pretty self-conscious putting myself out there in such a raw way. Any time you create a piece of art and you show anyone, it takes a ton of guts. It’s like
mini representation of at least a part of you as a human and it’s nerve-wracking as heck!
But it never really goes as badly as we expect. In terms of our traditional crafts, honestly y’all, just make your ancestors proud and only use your work and your skills in ways you can be proud of too. In-
tegrity is key, even though it’s hard to maintain sometimes under capitalism. At the end of the day if you can be proud of the work you’ve done and the contribution you’ve made and it aligns with your values and beliefs, you’re doing a real good thing and you should keep it up. Support Jess’ work! Follow @beadsagainstfash on Twitter Shop for pins here: https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/ BeadsAgainstFascism (items are posted in chunks,
Some of Jess’ Pride pin designs. Small and large trans
so favourite their store for updates!)
flags, bisexual flags, and inverted pink triangles.
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Selected Poetry By Aiden Feltkamp (they/he)
Zdenka II why give up that purest & dearest segment of you for ungrateful vultures who pull at your kindness
Excavation/Burial
& gnaw at your patience we see the whiteness
I’m accidentally digging myself
of your sacred bones
into your life,
thin scrapes crosshatching
unearthing little pieces of you
the ancient cold cylinders exposed in the heat of the desert
carelessly left behind: scraps of paper between the pages of the book you read, notes scribbled on napkins crushed into the pocket of your jeans, tears suggested by the jagged outline of dried salt on your bathroom sink.
The deeper I dig, the more I find of you and the less I have of me above ground, free of the shallow grave of your memory. 22
A Path Towards Myself: A Poem By Ida Jouband (they/them) Ida is a non-binary writer, queer jewelry crafter, chaotic witch, and the proud dog parent of the cutest Jack Russell. They can be found on Instagram (@_godsavethequeer_) and Twitter (@sheinicorn).
It doesn't matter where you're going
But Man wasn't either
As long as you keep walking
It felt too cold and harsh She looked into Her eyes
There was a girl once Without many words Girl was not the right one It tasted both sweet and sour
And somewhere a light stared back Just a little melody In a never-ending silence And that day They knew
On the edge of Her lips But Boy wasn't either
It doesn't matter where you're going
It just didn't feel right
As long as you keep walking
She stared at herself And somewhere, someone stared back Just a whisper, a begining Of a symphony yet unwritten
There was a woman once Without many words Woman was not the right one It felt too soft and flickering
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Starlight, A Comic
Comic by Michi (they/them) 24
@RequiemPluie on Twitter
michiums.bigcartel.com 25
Douen Face & Spoil Shade By: Kwasi Shade
Sometimes when I felt small, I stood guard at the
and then I run up on him and...”
entrance. I arrested the bad memories that
The chandelier was a blur of light dangling in dancing
walked into my mother's little house and tossed
crystal as I woke up walking on slept foot and crowd-
them into the black garden that grew at the back.
ed eyes so tired with ruin. My tears punctured the walls too; the broken tiles and the bloody furniture
Yet there were bad memories that climbed through
cracked and pinched at my feet. I remembered how
the walls and took the same fright that was in me the
he drove the scissors through me, his face was lit,
night I died as legs to stand on. The pain swallowed
vexed at my insistence that there be no drugs in the
me whole and spat me out five sizes larger than the
house. I was loud when I said it.
rooms in which my body grew rotten. I was swollen and my rotting flesh bled like noise against the walls.
He was called the black sheep of the family because
My right foot spread the length of the hallway and my
unlike me and my dark skinned brothers, he was yel-
toes were soaked in the bathroom sink. An eye in my
low. People flocked to the yellow black sheep. He
mother's old room turned with a heavy feeling. I was
was the black sheep with many friends and I was
infected. The particulars of any family was strange to
'different’, 'weird’, 'mad’, ‘had too much and was al-
begin with.
ways messing it up’, lonely and thought to be gay.
“This was where it happen?”
At fifteen my mother diagnosed me mad. I was the second of four boys and what made me strange was
“Yeah, boy. I stab him up and thing cause he too stu-
not like my brothers’ spitting on the floor, dumping of
pid.”
rubbishness in the living room area, pissing in corMy little brother was a known criminal in and around
ners, or their constant yelling about the house de-
Morvant. He was right. I had been stupid. Love was
spite the functionable presence of sinks, bins, a toilet
an indulgence in stupidity. I learned from him that this
and pillows. What my mother found strange was my
pain that had trapped me in my afterlife was some-
quiet.
thing like love. It was how I learned too of the moShe said I was too quiet. She said I read too many
ment I died.
books. I stayed in my bedroom away from everyone
“I just standing they and I say, 'nah, he too schupid!’ 26
to avoid criticism. It had the opposite effect.
A bad memory fluttered in my stomach. There was the time he drove a screwdriver across my face.
As a boy I longed for my brothers. I cleaned the spit, piss and rubbish. When they ordered me about I complied. Peace and love I said. I spoke to them. I thought they were angry and I should counsel them. My mother felt I was a know it all. I was fifteen when I first called her neurotic. I was fifteen when I told her her son was a psychopath. She returned the favor “Something wrong with he.” She told the therapist the first time I was taken to a psychiatric hospital. “He like to read too much.” They were hard to bear, the memories in this house. I ran away. A child was not taught about the world nor taught how to dismantle its anger as it seethed in
them but I practiced my breath well. When my mother
There was the time he stabbed me in my sleep. The bad memory was a bird. There's always a bird. There's always something feathered about this house. The hammer that was smeared with my tears swung in my fingers. The bird skipped and sang and turned in my stomach until my throat was choked with noise. Kobi and his friend were dividing a bag of grass. On the dining table there were three guns and a bowl with bullets. I heaved a long breath and the walls were pushed slightly. I wanted to feel small again. I wanted to leave. “You feel that?”
“Mmm. Help me throw him out.”
first asked if I was gay I had not considered it. I
Here was where I had died. In the dining room area of
lashed out. I ran away from the shame that was in
my mother's crumbling house.
that house. My mother was angry. There were plenty in Morvant who were angry with me too. As a boy I felt I could cure them of it with love but they laughed. Like my mother. I thought it peculiar. I ran again. “That not right what you do you brother; is your brother, boy.” “That bullerman.” “No, man.”
“Nah Kobi, I not doing that.” My blood was stained cherry on the walls. The walls that I painted several times in my life was covered in my blood. Still. The color of the dining table was changed. Cherry mahogany.
“Nah, nah. He mad. Is,...is he fault.”
It had seeped onto the floor as well. The checkered
“But he dead, Kobi.”
tiles were marbled with cherry. And there were cherry
“What you go do, call the police?”
footprints. My cherry footprints.
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gait was changed. My breath was damaged. When
Curtis gave Kobi a car and a sum of money. Alison
the ground stopped I didn't know it. Not in any way
rushed to the house on three occasions to ensure
that I could explain.
that Kobi was okay and that he had survived the ordeal. The gossip took. He was defending his life. I
He turned on the pipe and washed his hands over a
was gay.
growing pile of dirty wares. The water dangled crystal when he slapped his hands against the stale air and
I lived my life in a small way. I knew I was different. I
turned off the pipe.
scared people.
“Yeah. Them have to give me thing. Ain, where you
“You sure you want to do this?”
want to take the new car for a spin?”
“You should leave.”
I heard the car ignite and pull away. I exhaled. A gun
“Kwasi, you know you need me.”
was left on the table. The bad memory that danced in
“You mean my art? I don't need nobody.”
my stomach leapt onto the table and simmered
I loved them for who I felt they ought to be not for
around the gun. Another bad memory; her back
who they were. I was guilty too.
turned to me as she left the house. No words were
left between us.
“You don't know me anyway.”
“They not like you.” My wife had said. “You different
A sudden murder, like her last words, will cure any-
from them.”
one of resignation. I felt guilt. Guilt like this made me nostalgic. I remembered how far or long I had lived
“But we is the same people. We have the same
like this. Then I saw it. When the police officers came
name.” I laughed. “Stop saying stupidness.”
on the sixth day after my death my mother came to
“Kwasi, family is a living arrangement. They don't
the house and sat beside Kobi. The officers at first
love you. You different.”
asked the routine introductory questions. The estab-
I was angry with her for giving me the first warning. It
lishing questions. When the officers asked for an ex-
was as she had said, 'an arrangement.’
planation my family said some of the following:
“You're not gay, okay? Just be happy. Be yourself.”
“Is he beat me up. He was pushing and beating me
She said.
up all in the house in the room. He doesn't even do
“I still love you.”
nothing in the house. He don't do nothing. He don't like nobody.”
What a disappointment. Five days after my death 28
The desperate path of cherry footprints that led to the
“Yeah. Is a team, boy. Loyalty.” Kobi skinned through
door where a splotch was altered; a wipe or two of
his teeth.
hands crazy with shock, bloody angels that were now
“Yeah, nah you right. Well, how much you think he
a color like cherry mahogany and peppered with light
go take?”
from the chandelier. I had grown so large I couldn't
“Derrick stupid too ain. We could give him this and he
walk out the front door.
go be normal.”
There were bad memories standing on the door. I
Kobi held up a handful of grass to his friend.
had known love was bad luck but I listened to the
“It smelling sticky too. He go like it.”
fog, that indistinguishable yearning to be with my family, and I had loved my killer so much I had hoped
A sudden murder can cure you of resignation. It can
their love for me was as real.
fill you with a vile thirst for breath, as I was, like that time lost in an earthquake when the fear that gripped
The fog was a bird turning in my stomach too. I was
me was the uncertainty of my condition.
mistaken about the nature of whatever it was among us that broke my heart. I had resigned myself.
“Kwasi? Why you not answering? You gay in truth?”
A pair of socks was rolled up to my knees. I made a
For thirty years I didn't know the ground was moving.
habit of scrubbing my feet before I ran the socks up
I thought it was love. Then one day I stopped or was
the length of each foot so it frustrated me when the
jerked to a sudden conclusion and I was thrown by it.
soles of my left foot itched. I squirmed, rubbing it
The gravity of the earthquake held me hostage. The
against the walls but nothing. My hands were tied to
bad memories flooded into me and a rage took hold
a leak in the kitchen.
of my body. Memories of the many times my blood was spilled in this house boiled my skin.
“Why you does get on so stupid?”
“Strap up. We going and drop this off. You have the
It dried up. I dropped the hammer. Kobi and the
keys?”
pearty gangster that was with him grabbed three handfuls of grass each and dumped it into black plas-
“I think you leave it in the kitchen, boy.”
tic bags. They had another bag that was filled with
Alison's face was bent in the photograph that hung
pink and blue dime bags.
on the wall. A year had passed since I stopped and I
“Derrick go want some too, ain't?”
was still thrown. She looked used and old; a platinum blonde wig and a dress one size too small. Kobi's
“Derrick?” 29
“We try to get him help all the time, I don't know what
and a halted demeanor. When I woke up dead I knew
was wrong with Kwasi.”
the problem was that I had forgotten how to dream. When I slept I remembered my perfection. I remem-
I was born among monsters, a monster then, and I
bered everything. It was how I travelled back in time.
had claimed humanness. Like a fool.
And there I found vague things; a Douen's face, for
A murder foreseen was different. And having traveled
instance, gnashing teeth plunging into my flesh. But
back in time I remembered that Kobi stabbed my
nothing was for certain.
younger brother in his leg, destroyed the BMW Curtis
As Kobi walked back into the house I saw it, the
had given to my younger brother, torn up money that
Douen who ran up the stairs and bit me; a pair of
he felt was not enough, bit a hole in my head and the
scissors undoing my flesh.
list went on. I knew this was coming I remembered. I had seen it coming. I had ignored the signs. I had
My brother was a known criminal in and around
ignored promised death because I had surrendered
Morvant. Bad memories of him grew in the backyard.
my life. I didn't know who I was.
There were thyme and ixora bushes around them. In a fit of selfishness he picked up the furniture in the
I pounded the door. I wanted to move on. She was
house and determined to put them up for sale. It was
still by the door. After Kobi had been rescued from
my eldest brother who warned me.
my death, they celebrated.
It was my mother who called me and said that I was
“Rabbit? Why you call me non binary?”
responsible for her things. That I should 'be a man.’
The extended family was gathered in the living room
They always convinced me that I was a Douen. I be-
walking on the cherry floors. They smoked out the
lieved them.
apartment. They prayed.
I told Kobi as she said. He was not to sell the things
“Kwasi, you know you different, right?”
in the house. We grew loud. He skinned his teeth like
“Sounds like a skill. I just being me. I think. What so
a Douen preparing for flight.
different about me?”
“You stupid, yes.”
“Your brain.”
“Kobi, don't sell nothing. I ain saying it again.”
I slept through most of my childhood hiding in my
I hadn't seen him attempt flight since we were six. It
dreams.
was his expression that haunted me. It gave me a
I had connived sex in my face with elegiac speech
feeling that grew over me like night and made me a 30
coward. I who had this power had resigned to walk-
ing, contentment; living with a family of monsters. “Boy, what you doing?” I lingered on the bad memories. The furry gesture of his face as he stood on the landing, the quick approach as he flew up the stairs and kicked the gate repeatedly. His wings were short.
“Boy, you go mash up the gate!” And the realization that he was at the same time stabbing me, how I bled out; bad memories came to me. As this memory ran through me I grew. My skin burned. My flesh boiled; there was a heat in my blood. My wings came undone. The heat of the moment returned; washing my face with regret. “You faggot!” He spat. My little brother killed me and there was nothing I could do.
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Getting the X: Opening Day for Non-binary Gender Markers at California‘s DMV By: Rain Chamberlain (they/them) On January 2nd 2019, it was freezing at 8:45am
cations were done on the computer. The one part of
when I was sitting in my wheelchair in line outside
the new application that was confusing for this pro-
the Fresno North DMV field office. I had been waiting
cess was that I had to choose between whether I
for this day for a year (or twenty), and non-binary
was correcting or updating my ID, with no clear ex-
gender markers, written as X, were finally available
planation of the difference.
for my state ID. I have been working with Intersex & Genderqueer Recognition Project for a couple of
Turns out the option to press is “update”, because
years to make this possible, and we managed to
the difference is whether you have to pay for it or not,
push SB-179 through with a large joint effort.
and SB-179 does say that people getting their gender markers changed have to pay for the ID change.
A few months ago I got my birth certificate updated,
I have mixed feelings on it being “update” and not
and a some time before that I was the third known
“correct” as far as terminology goes for those of us
person to get a court order that said I was non-binary
changing what the gender markers say, but in the
legally. Now, at least for adults in California, a court
long scheme of things that’s fairly minor. The fee it-
order is not needed to just change one’s gender
self had increased by a dollar, which the website did
marker on their ID.
not reflect.
There are many mixed feelings about that – both in
There was a form that had to be filled out on paper
myself, and from what I’ve heard from others. Most of
specifically for the gender change. It was a fairly sim-
my own feelings (and many of what I’ve heard) can
ple form, but it had to be filled out without errors.
be summed up as ‘I’d rather there not be gender
They didn’t ask for all my usual paperwork (birth cer-
markers on IDs at all, but if there has to be I want
tificate, etc) because I already had a valid ID and
people to have the option to have theirs be accurate.’
was just getting it changed, but I had it there just to
This change meant some protection in that, but it al-
be safe, and I recommend that others do as well.
so meant there would be no more chances to not bring my gender up in situations that required my ID.
So far it was all going pretty well overall - the biggest problem being my hat hair. But when I was at the
I arrived at the DMV thinking I was prepared, to find
window, doing everything I had done before when I
out that more things had changed than just the gen-
had changed my name and my gender on the binary,
der marker options. I don’t know if this was new this
my memory got jogged to something horrible that
year or just since I had been there last, but the appli-
had happened last time. My anxiety rose, and I 32
asked the employee “You’re not going to destroy my
the area until a supervisor came and talked to me,
ID, are you?”
parking my wheelchair obnoxiously in the way of the line so that they couldn’t just ignore me. A second
They said that they’d punch a hole through it.
supervisor came out already having heard my story with a sticky note in hand with the number for Issu-
I said, yes, that destroys it and makes it not valid,
ance on it, which is 916-657-7790. They told me that
and that was done to me last time, and I became
I could call that number to see if they could expedite
homeless because of it. They had said that I would
it but they had no idea if that would be possible or
get a temporary one at the photo window, but then
not. So I left the office and went about my day.
the photo window refused to give me a temporary
one saying that they didn’t do that. I was told I would
On the morning of January 4th, I called the Issuance
have to wait the 4-6 weeks to get a new one, only
number. The first few times I called they were so
that 4-6 weeks became 6 months.
busy that the automated system hung up on me and said to call back later. Finally, I got the message that
It turned out the DMV decided that the name and
there were over 50 people in line ahead of me and to
gender change should be flagged for fraud even
hold for an hour. When I got through, the person told
though there was no other reason to do so, only they
me that they only expedite IDs when the person is
neglected to tell me that they were doing so until I
traveling. I told them about the issue of the DMV
spent days on the phone getting shuffled from office
punching holes through the cards, and they said that
to office. I finally had to go back into the field office
it was a matter to take up with policy. They gave me
and start the application again, wait the 4-6 weeks
that number, and this is the one to save to your
again, and finally get my ID.
phones: 916-657-5691.
While I waited, not having an ID disrupted my ability
So I called policy, and got through to a person right
to make financial transactions, which, combined with
away (no automated machine at all). At first, they told
extreme poverty, caused me to lose my apartment,
me the same lines I had heard in the field office –
and for many more devastating things to go wrong..
that it was due to a law and they didn’t have a choice
This was not because I changed my gender; but ra-
but to destroy the old cards, so I would have to re-
ther, it was because of blatant discrimination by the
quest it be changed by way of bill. But they’d look up
DMV.
the law section number for me.
In the meantime, I was having a panic attack in the
I asked why the cards couldn’t be sent to the field
DMV. They insisted on punching the hole in my ID.
offices instead, and we could bring our old cards in to
The people who did it were convinced that the photo
be hole-punched when the new ones arrived. The
window would give me a temporary ID, but the em-
DMV policy person said they have to consider people
ployee at the photo window said that was never done
who cannot get to the DMV easily.
for IDs, only for driver’s licenses. I refused to leave 33
But then they found the section of law and read it,
and realized. Oh. That law only applies to driver’s licenses. Also, the field offices had been instructed to not destroy or confiscate IDs when the nonbinary applications came in, especially at first, because it was a new process and they weren’t sure yet how many bumps would need to be smoothed out. (All of this is paraphrased.) So….the field offices either “didn’t get the memo” or were ignoring it.
And while I can only tell my own story, I had heard similar experiences from others in the past few days, so I know it wasn’t just me. The employee told me to call the policy office when someone is applying for the non-binary gender marker change, so they can contact the field office on the day of and make sure that they are aware of the policy. The employee seemed to think that I and/or IGRP would be aware of every non-binary person in the state who was doing this, and would have time to intercede each time, which is wrong. There’s no reason that each person who is aware cannot call for themselves. Having an ID that says X on it in the gender slot now (since yes, it came in) isn't going to be a magic spell
that stops this from ever happening. But what the ID does help with is the narrative - it allows me to frame my own identity, my own life, in words and labels that are empowering to me as I deal with the discrimination that I would have to deal with either way. And that is not, by far, a cure - but it is powerful.
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