Parent Driven Ministry Handbook

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Y C N E G R E M E FAITH The Barna Group reports that of those who attended church during high school only one-fifth of twenty-something’s (20%) are actively involved in a church.

DANGER The Barna Group also reports the percentage of teens who are evangelicals has declined from 10% in 1995 to just 4% today.

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Hoping to provide the first broad, multi on this trend, Fuller Theological Semina Family Ministry recently launched a thre this problem. Initial results reveal that 1 students in a pilot survey had engaged ing alcohol use and sexua

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We are losing out of five students who attended church as teenagers.

A recent study by the National Study of Youth & Religion titled Portraits of Protestant Teens found 63% of Protestant teens reported cheating in school, compared with only 58% of all teens.

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HOW DID WE GET HERE? Why are we failing to develop a life-long passionate relationship with Christ in our children? Two primary reasons: The Too often church leaders and pastors attempt to replace the home as the primary place of spiritual influence in the lives of students.

The Too often families give the responsibility of “fixing” their children to church leaders and blame the church when their students are not following God.

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We outsource everything to professionals: how to play catch, how to read, how to dance, how to study. We even outsource developing a walk with Jesus.

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The average church spends 40 hours per year with each student.

The average parents spend 3000 hours per year with their student.

The job of the church is to use our 40 hours to the parent’s 3000 hours.

Church Leaders 40 hours per year

Parent 3000 hours per year

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At the base of Peak 1, students make a choice. They either continue to grow only from Peak 1, or they get onto Lift 2.

BEGINNER RUNS SouledOut Service The SouledOut service has two purposes: 1. D : this is where students enter into the ministry.

2. D : Biblical teaching to help students become biblically literate.

ReMix Groups 1. The purpose of ReMix groups is to help students process God’s Word and apply it to their lives.

2. ReMix Groups establish key relationships.

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Winter Camp 1. Winter Camp is an extended time of relationship building among students.

2. Winter Camp is an important time for life-changing decisions.

Parent Section 1. The parent section is our initial opportunity to connect parents to the vision of driving faith at home rather than depending upon the Church.

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Baptism 1. Baptism is a choice students make to publicly declare their faith in Jesus Christ.

2. In order for students to be baptized at WVC they must watch the “Freestyle DVD” with their parents. This DVD introduces “THRIVE.” Then the student and parents meet with a WVC staff person before baptism.

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ADVANCED RUNS 360째 Groups 360째 Groups create and link significant adults as coaches in the lives of students while providing TRAINING PARTNERS (other students) for teenagers to grow alongside.

360째 Groups provide students:

A Openly sharing struggles with people who truly love them.

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E Breathing life and courage into each other.

C Discovering they are not alone as they face giant hurdles.

ACTS Projects ACTS Projects are opportunities that Woodmen Valley Chapel provides students and leaders to use their time and gifts to meet the needs of our community.

Third Project The Third Project is a project to mobilize students and their families to impact those most vulnerable to the effects of HIV/AIDS in Swaziland Africa.

Dare2Share Dare2Share is a ministry conference held in November to train students to share their faith and then go out to the streets of Denver to do it.

Driven Events Driven Events are events in which we bring in parenting experts to equip parents as they raise teenagers.

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PRO RUNS One11 Challenge One11 Challenge is a challenge to parents and students:

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Parents and their teenager meet together for intentional breakfast, coffee, ice cream, etc.

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The purpose of the One11 Challenge is to build a life-long intentional relationship between parents and their kids.

Mission Trips Our mission trips allow students to experience the transforming power of the Gospel in various ministry experiences and settings.

Amazed Race The Amazed Race challenges parents and students to

together in a significant way while experiencing great adventures all over Colorado.

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Sponsorship

Sponsorship is part of the Third Project. However, this is a step higher. On this run we challenge students to sponsor a child in Swaziland on a monthly basis.

Legacy Legacy is a one-on-one discipleship program where parents commit to being discipled for a year before taking their own child and another parent through the same material the next year.

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Signs a student is growing on PEAK 1

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• Consistently attends SouledOut Service (3 out of 5 weeks) or attends Winter Camp.

• Brings a Bible and pen and takes notes during the message.

• Shares during ReMix discussions.

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• Consistently reading Bible on their own at least once a week.

• Takes a Booster pack in order to memorize Scripture.

• Makes a eclaration of their faith through baptism.

Signs a student is growing on PEAK 3

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• Consistently attends 360° Groups (3 out of 5 weeks).

• Participates in an A.C.T.S. service project.

• Consistently gives money in offering for the Third Project.

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• Consistently meets with parent intentionally for the One11 Challenge. .

• Sponsors a child in Swaziland, Africa.

• Participates in either the Amazed Race or Mission Trip with parent or mentor.

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Taking the One11 Challenge is not for the FAINT of HEART The One11 Challenge is an amazing opportunity for a parent and teenager to intentionally connect in a significant way.

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Our goal is to help parents and middle school students find a warm relational environment in which their relationship with each other and with Jesus Christ is cultivated.

The One11 Challenge is not easy. It will not only challenge you to get out of your comfort zone, it will cost you time and resources.

However, the potential rewards can be life and relationship changing.

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Recognize the The One11 will challenge your: • Time • Comfort • Fears • Values • Relationships

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Select a Time ideas and locations: • Time

Every Thursday before school and work, after church, every Friday night, every Saturday morning, before church, every Tuesday night, whatever time both of you have free, etc...

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Breakfast, lunch, dinner, coffee, ice cream, basketball, working out, fishing, sewing, walking, sitting, putting a movie on for the younger kids and going into another room, anything you can do together that is enjoyable for both of you and that allows you to tallk.

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McDonalds, Egg & I, Starbucks, Pikes Perk, It’s a Grind, Baskin Robbins, Cold Stone, park, mall­ anyplace that you both enjoy and fits your circumstances and schedule.

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Select a that fits your life and relational situation.

When choosing a book keep in min d: • Your relational circumstances • Teenage issues the student is facing • Issues going on in your home • How easy the book is to use • When choosing a book, you ma y want to go to a Christian book store and find a book together.

WVC’s Connections book store has every resource we recommend in stock or availab le via order.

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Use the book to generate : When using the book, remember • The book is a tool; the goal is not to get through the book, it’s to open up.

• When there is a question, make sure both of you answer, not just the student.

• Become skilled at asking questions when no questions are provided.

• Become skilled at sharing personal life experiences, lessons, and stories.

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2. Don’t ab use the inform ation shared by using it a gainst your p artner in an argument la ter or as a gu ilt trip.

3. Encourag e each other to talk, even your thoughts if are weird.

4. Don’t be satisfied with each other’s first response to questions, dig deeper with follow u p quesitons.

5. Keep up the pace.

6. Rememb er, the goal is opening up a connecting, nd not finishing a book.

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BEST book for teens this year! This book takes a look at the cultural expectations for teenagers and how students are capable of rising above low expectations. The “rebelution” taught in the book looks at how teenagers can challenge themselves to do hard things and make a big difference in their own spheres of influence.

Study guide available at www.therebelution.com.

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90 devotionals that focus on the life and teachings of Christ. It’s simple, short, and easy to read, but the teachings are super practical. This is a perfect start for a new believer or a someone investigating a walk with Jesus.

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This 12 week devotional guide looks at a variety of questions that students ask about faith, and it targets connecting faith and action. It’s an excellent resource for the One11 Challenge. Some of the topics include “Why should I be honest with God?”,“Why do I need the Holy Spirit?”, and “Why should I defend my faith?

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Everything Counts

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“Everything Counts” is the classic Oswald Chambers book,“My Utmost for His Highest” adapted for students.

Use this to spark discussion, or as a companion for the original version so that parents and students are each working through the same devotional on their own unique levels.

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The Young Man in the Mirror Usability

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Every dad or mom needs to go through this book with their son before high school. An exceptional road map towards authentic manhood that fits right into our One11 Challenge. Dads, be prepared to take an authentic look in the mirror as you guide your son through this book.

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This dating book looks at a variety of issues in dealing with boyfriends and girlfriends, and it covers everything from pursuing the relationship to purity and even pornography. It’s perfect for the older teen who is interested in the opposite sex. The Biblical perspectives are outstanding teaching tools.

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These short novels each take on a different teen issue including: eating disorders, cutting, drinking, loneliness, depression, and suicide. Each book is an engaging story about a teen girl dealing with a particular issue, and it looks at how to deal with the issue from a Biblical viewpoint. Great conversation starter to deal with a variety of peer-related issues.

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This book is perfect for middle school girls who are dealing with friend drama. It discusses how to deal with mean girls from a biblical perspective and offers the reader biblical solutions to dealing with unnecessary drama in girl relationships.

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The young man’s version of the book “Every Man’s Battle” and workbook are invaluable tools for equipping guys to deal with lust and sexual temptation. This would be a difficult book for a dad to go through with his son, but it would challenge both to build the authenticity and relationship they have always craved.

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This book is a powerful guide towards manhood. It is great resource for any parent to go through with their teenage boy to truly drive home what being a man of God is all about. Easy to use and powerful content--thus, it’s perfect for guys!

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The best girl’s books we’ve found. These are three Bible studies through three women’s lives in the Bible. The author does an amazing job of bringing out how relevant the lives of these women are to today’s teenagers.

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At some point, every girl needs to read this book before high school. This is an eye opener for girls on how they look at sexual issues versushow guys view them. It helps them realize that technical virginity is not the goal.

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My Life His Mission Kim P. Davis

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This book is for those students who have a heart for Global Missions. It focuses on discovering God’s heart for missions and to investigate if God might be calling you to the missions field, either short term, or long term. This would be a powerful book for any parent/teenager to go through.

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Jesus Freaks is an older book that has withstood the test of time. It was a partnership between Voice of the Martyrs and the now-broken-up band, DC Talk. The book contains numerous short stories of martyrs, people who have given up their lives to follow God. Stories come from the history of Christianity, but many are modern day. For the One11 Challenge, read a story and talk about how that story impacts the way we live.

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This book is not set up for discussion, but would be well worth any effort. This book is a challenge that flies in the face of our culture of lazy Christianity. It challenges readers to learn lessons from heroes of the past to become fully devoted followers of Christ.

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Susy Weibel shares from her own diary she kept while she was a teenager to reveal life lessons learned. This is a powerful book in that readers learn that what seems like the end of the world as a teenager is just the beginning of God’s journey in your life. This book would take time to prepare.

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REVIEW

Before you create your spiritual growth plan for this next year, take a look back at what you’ve been doing.

On a scale of 1-10 how intentional have you been about driving faith at home?

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What is one intentional activity you wish you had done this past year to drive fatih at home?

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Check what you’ve done th is past year intentionally to drive faith at home:  Mom or d ad has sat in parent sectio at SouledOu n t.  Connecte d at least on ce a day (aro table, helpin und dinner g with homew o rk , etc...).  Family a ttended WVC main service s together.  Mom or dad attended Driven Even  We went t last year. on parent/ch ild date nigh ts.  Went thro ugh the Driv en Conferen and created a ce last year spiritual grow th plan.  We tried th e One11 Cha llenge at lea st once.  We met f or the One11 Challenge on a regular basi s.  We had fa mily devotion nights or rea together as a d the Bible family.  Prayed to gether regula rly.  Mom or d ad volunteere d for Souled Out.  We took p art in the A mazed Race .  Went on a missions tr ip together.  Mom or d ad took part in SouledOu one-on-one d t’s Legacy iscipleship pro g ra m.  Served to gether on a se rvice project.  Other:  Other:

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Help Those in N eed How do you plan on Livng Third this yea r with your time, talent, and money?  Sometimes givi ng to Third Project  Tithing (regular) giving to Third Pro ject  Sponsor a Thir d Project child in A frica  Serving on an A.C.T.S. Project  Going on a mis sion trip.  Serving togeth er as a family  Other

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What is your key strategy to be intentional at home ?

 This week: This year:  Not planning intentional activites.

Voice My Heart in Prayer

How do you plan on praying during your quiet times this year?

 Outloud or in my head  Typing on computer or journaling  Not planning on a quiet time.

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How do you plan on memorizing Scripture?

 SouledOut Booster cards  Awana  Not planning on memorizing Scripture

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Do you plan on going on the missions trip to Salt Lake City this July?  Yes--Student & Parent  Yes--Just student  No Sponsorship

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Do you plan on participating in the Amazed Race in June?  Yes--Student & Parent  Yes--Just student  No Legacy

Parents: Would you be interestned in our Legacy One-on-One Discipleship program when a spot opens up?

 Yes  No We understand this is our plan, and we will hold to it to the best of our ability with God’s help!

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