zeddesignsny@gmail.com
Happy Chanukah!
Door to Door Flatbush, Marine Park Edition
Bringing you the Buzz! on Savings & Events
Wishing all our readers A freilichen Chanuka
Volume 4, Issue 84 Dec 25th 2016
TIME
Motzei Shabbos 8:30
iDesign • 718.938.5477
Jan. 28, Feb. 4, & 11 Sunday 7:30
Feb. 12 TICKETS
25 $36 $45 50 $60 $75 VIP $100
$ $
To purchase tickets visit us at: www.RACHELSPLACEPRODUCTIONS.org or call
718.506.9900 VENUE
Master Theater 1029 Brighton Beach Ave Brooklyn, NY
FOR WOMEN & GIRLS ONLY For transportation call 718.338.6699
LOWEST CREDIT CARD PROCESSING RATES IN THE INDUSTRY CALL NOW 855-323-8300
895 McDonald Avenue
Brooklyn, New York 11218 1.800.221.0828
Sleep in Style
6 PIECE SET INCLUDES: 2 Duvet Covers 2 Fitted Sheets 2 Shams
BORO PARK 4518 13th Ave. 718.854.2595
CEDARHURST 134 Washington Ave. 516.218.2211
LAKEWOOD TODD PLAZA 1091 River Ave (Route 9) 732.364.8822
ORDER ONLINE @ THECLOSEOUTCONNECTION.COM In-store pickup available for your convenience
14th Ave. MENS SHOES
Storewide Chanukah Sale All Shabbos Shoes
$25 OFF
All Weekday Shoes
$15 OFF STARTING Dec. 21 - Dec. 30
4024 14th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11218 Tel. 718-436-6911
Sun.-Thurs. 10:30-7:00 Fri. 10:30-2:00 E-mail: 14shoes@gmail.com
1415 AVE M BROOKLYN, NY 11230 | 718.878.3103 | ORDER@ORGANICCIRCLENY.COM
1415 AVE M BROOKLYN, NY 11230 | 718.878.3103 | ORDER@ORGANICCIRCLENY.COM
6
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
3rd Annual
Winter Retreat
January 13-15, 2017 • Crowne Plaza Hotel • Stamford, CT
CLIMBING THE MOUNTAIN: A Path To Achieving Spiritual Greatness
Rabbi Zev Leff Rabbi Meir Goldwicht
Rabbi Yissocher Frand
Rabbi Chaim N.Segal
Prisoner of Zion
Yosef Mendelevich The man who took on the
Rabbi Y.Y. Jacobson
Rabbi Mordechai Becher
Rabbi Eli Gewirtz, Mrs. Chani Juravel, Mrs. Esther Wein, Rabbi Mat & Dr. Brachie Hoffman, and more... Illusionist
David Blatt
World Famous Violinist
Concert by
Eitan Katz
Gourmet catering by Chap-a-Nosh of Cedarhurst
Joe Deninzon |
Exciting childrens program and babysitting
For more information and reservations visit www.partnersintorah.org/retreat or call 973.221.3650 ext. 110
בס"ד
P O W E R E D
B Y
Bes Chanu t kah G Great fo ift. r
emplo workmate, yee, te ache family memb r, er, OR jus t abou anyone t !
They come in many shapes sizes and colors; many price ranges, leathers, and fabrics. Now’s the time--Lighten up your Chanukah and your family’s Yom Tov with Recliners, Reclining Loveseats, or Reclining Sofas at HUGE DISCOUNTS!!!
s ficate i t r e C Gift ailable Av
PLEASE NOTE CHANUKAH HOURS: TGI will close 4:30 on Chanukah nights. Sun: 11:00-5:00 Mon-Thurs. 10:30-4:30
CHANUKAH SPECIAL:
FULL LEATHER RECLINING SOFAS & RECLINERS AVAILABLE IN 5 BEAUTIFUL COLORS METAL GRAY, HARNESS BROWN, GALAXY, CHOCOLATE & WALNUT
We apologize to all our customers and perspective customers who found locked doors these past four weeks. בס"דwe are back to serve you and give you greater discounts than ever-with pleasure! Wishing everyone a פרייליכען לעכטיגען חנוכה
1534 62nd Street • Brooklyn, NY 11219 Tel: 718-256-5660 • Fax: 718-837-6040
Please visit our website at: www.tgifurniturestore.com
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
9
² À°
149.99
$
16
$
.95 ³º´¿¶ ÀÁÆ·¯»
Newest Braun Food Processor W/ KUGEL BLADE & JUICER
BLACK & DECKER
LARGE NON STICK GRIDDLE DISHWASHER SAFE
199.99
89
$
$
.99
Rowenta
Keurig Coffee Maker
PRO IRON STEAM STATION WITH STAINLESS STEEL SOLEPLATE, 1750-WATT WITH REMOVABLE TANK REFILL WHILE USING
BREWING SYSTEM 6 OZ. 8 OZ AND 10 OZ SIZES REMOVABLE 48 OZ. WATER RESERVOIR
149.99
$
Vacuum Cleaner ELECTROLUX CANISTER
VACUUM HARD FLOOR & CARPET VARIABLE SPEED TELESCOPIC WAND WITH TURBO BRUSH
299
$
.99
Bosch Mixer UNIVERSAL PLUS 800 WATT
W/ STAINLESS STEEL BOWL
449
$
4103 13TH AVE. BROOKLYN NY | 718.853.6061
1837 Coney Island Ave | 718.951.9533
STORE-WIDE CHANUKAH SALE!
50
All hats, suits, coats & more...*
1
BUY
GET
% off !
BALTIMORE • BROOKLYN • CEDARHURST CHICAGO LAKEWOOD • MONSEY • TORONTO • JERUSALEM *On like items only. Excluding Borsalino. Sale ends 1/2/17. Must mention this ad. Not valid with any other offer, special or discount. We are not responsible for typos. All prices are subject to change without notice. Other restrictions may apply.
271 prayers
Every Day
קו העפת יר
on Chanukah
All names submitted on any day of Chanukah will be sent on that day
The Segula of Rabbi A.Y.L. Steinman Shlit"a:
271 prayers on Chanukah at the Kosel Hamaaravi wich are auspicious time for Shidduchim and Parnassa
to the Gedolei Hador To be prayed for after Hadlakas Neiros.
Maran Hagaon Harav Chaim Kanievsky, shlit”a:
The tzedakah of Kupat Ha’ir is entirely pure and clean and we are all obligated in this.
24
1-888-KUPATHAIR 5
8
7
2
8
4
2
Donations can be sent to: Kupat Hair - 4415 14th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11219
www.kupat.org
קו העפת יר
L A I C E P S R E 31 SUPPER SPECIALLSS 31 SUPER SPECIALS 13 SUUPER SPECIAALS 13 SUPER SPECI S
L A I C E P S R E 31 SUPPER SPECIALLSS 31 SUPER SPECIALS 13 SUUPER SPECIAALS 13 SUPER SPECI S
ϱϮϭϰ ϭϯƚŚ ǀĞ͘ ϳϭϴ͘ϲϯϯ͘ϭϲϬϬ
We are under the Hashgacha of :
ĐĞ nj͘
Haolom
R GREAT FO ! PARTIES
Variety Cheese Tray
$6.99
ĂǀŽƌƐ
Reg. $9.99
Chanukah SpecIals!
Postiv
Romaine Medley
$3.49
Reg. $4.89
לכבוד ט ו בשבט
Chanukah Cookies
ŶŝůůĂ
$3.69
Reg. $5.49
Chewy
Haddar
Hatov
Peanut Chews Platter
Topping
Sour Cream
$10.99 Reg. $15.49
$1.59
$2.49
Green’s
Sushi Maven
16oz
KŶůLJ
Ś
ŽƐ Schwartz
Baking Chocolate
לכ טוב “
$2.69
Žnj͘
Cheese Florets
$4.99
Reg. $7.49
White Sushi Rice
$3.49
Reg. $5.39
Gefen Can
Israeli Olives Black, Green, Sliced
$1.79
Reg. $2.69
nj͘
ZĞŐ͘ ΨϮ͘ϲϵ
< &d Z, ^
ƌLJ Θ
͘ ϱϵ
Bloom’s
Fresh
Real Chocolate Chips
Blueberries
$1.49
$1.79
Square Wave
Dee Best
Dessert Sauce
Pint
All Flavors
$3.89
Domino
Medium Salad Bowls
Confection Sugar
$1.09
$.79
Reg. $5.29
Tuv Taam
Sliced Lox 6 oz
$5.99
ͮ WŚŽŶĞ KƌĚĞƌƐ͗ ϳϭϴ͘ϲϯϯ͘ϭϲϬϬ &Ădž KƌĚĞƌƐ͗ ϳϭϴ͘ϲϯϯ͘ϭϲϬϭ
Meal Mart
Honey Smoked Turkey Breast
$3.49
Reg. $4.69
Not responsible for typographical errors. All specials start Wednesday 12/21/16 thru Tuesday 12/27/16
“
Reisman’s
Ice Cream House
Mini Doughnut Ice Cream 4pk
Reg. $8.59
$6.99
Reg. $8.99
ͮ ŵĂŝů KƌĚĞƌƐ͗ ŵLJƐƵƉĞƌϭϯŽƌĚĞƌΛŐŵĂŝů͘ĐŽŵ
- WEEKLY SUPER SPECIALS - WEEKLY SUPER SPECIALS - WEEKLY SUPER SPECIALS 18
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
S WEEKLY SUPER SAVER E WEEK EVERY DAY OF TH LOWEST PRICES
5013 13th Ave
C H A N U K A H
S P E C I A L S Wo w!!
Baker Choice
JJ
Haolom
Mini Croutons
Shredded Pizza Cheese
Farmer Cheese
Sour Cream & Onion
$2.49
$4.69
$.99
Meal Mart
Mishpacha
Honey Smoked Turkey Breast Reg. $4.69
WE DELIVER
Reg. $3.19
Reismanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s
Haddar
Topping
$1.59 Best Select
Graham Pie Crust
Chanukah Cookies
Vanilla Custard
$1.19
$3..69
$1.79
$3.49 JJ
Reg. $5.49
Whipped Cream Cheese
Baking Chocolate
Schwartz
Grape Tomatoes
Chanukah Color Candles
$3.49
$2.69
$.99
2/$1
Elite or Carmit
Gesher
Loose
Chocolate Coins
Mehadrin
24 pk. / Parve Only
Potatoes
Snowflakes
Half Gallon Ice Cream
$5.99
$.49 lb.
4/$1
$5.49
BBQ Only
SAMPLES OF OUR NON-SALE REGULAR DISCOUNTED PRICES! New lo w
er pric e!
American Cheese
Haolam
Mendelsohns
Pizza in Box
108 Slice
Sliced Muenster Cheese
Meal Mart
JJ
Canola Oil
$11.99 Turkey Roll
$3.89
Golden Flow
Milk
$2.39 MAGAZINE
$2.89
Cottage Cheese
$3.79
$8.49
Simply Lev
$4.99 Kedem
Korns
Grape Juice
$2.19
$4.79
Bread
Glass
Taster Choice
Coffee
Red 12 oz
$10.99
Blooms
Potato Chips
5/$1.09 Dagim
Case
Chunk Lite Tuna
$17.99
$1.29
Luvs
Osem
Pickles In Brine 7-9
$.99
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
In Water Kemach
Crisp Rice Cereal
$2.79
19
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
21
Kiruv
“Know What to
Answer... With thanks to Project Inspire of AISH.COM
”
You can make a differenceand it helps if you’re prepared. An everyday interaction with a Jew who’s far from, yet curious about, Torah observance, can ignite his neshamah and inspire him to find out more. And even if you don’t have a ready answer, a warm smile, a “thank you” for the question, and a promise to follow up, will go a long way.
Q
I’m in my thirties, and many of my friends who married are now divorced. I’d like to marry, but I want to make sure it’s the right person. Does Judaism have any guidelines to offer?
A
When our forefather Abraham needed to look for a wife for his son, Isaac, he sent his trusted servant, Eliezer, to find the right woman. Eliezer asked for God’s help in finding the right person, and devised a test: He will ask for water, and if the woman replies that she’ll give not only him, but also his camels, then he’ll know she’s the one (Genesis 24:10-14). Eliezer wasn’t just looking for someone nice. Nice people are polite and inoffensive. Nice is an important attribute for a waiter or a cleaning lady. But being kind is something else entirely. Someone kind truly cares about you – what your preferences are, what’s good for you. You can’t build a successful marriage with someone who isn’t kind. Another thing that’s so important is sharing goals. A goal is more than buying a new house or getting a promotion. A real goal is something that you’d like written on your tombstone. Two people living together with different goals in life is a recipe for disaster.
22
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
Q A
I have a question about prayer. Should we just be praying that God bring peace to the world, heal the sick etc.? Or is it also okay to ask for things I need personally? I mean, who am I to ask? This is a great question, and one that the greatest minds have dealt with!
Of course it’s wonderful that you care about others and don’t just consider your own personal needs. God definitely wants to hear our prayers for the whole Jewish nation and the whole world, too. But He also wants to hear your prayers for your own individual needs, and you certainly shouldn’t feel that you have no right to ask.
Firstly, from the perspective of an infinite being, there’s really no difference between a blade of grass and the Himalayas. To God, both are significant – otherwise, He wouldn’t have created them. Furthermore, when you pray to God for your own needs, it’s like proclaiming your belief that He is running your life, down to the tiniest details. This is an incredible statement of faith. The biggest philosophers denied that God is involved in our everyday lives, but that’s not what our Torah says. The history of our People is made up of God’s constant intervention in our lives. In fact, most of us will be able to recount occasions in their own lives when they truly saw that God was orchestrating things – what we might otherwise be tempted to call coincidences. The ideal relationship between each Jew and God is one of love. One of the reasons why we are created with parents is to give us some idea of how we should relate to God, and how He relates to us. If your loving father is standing right next to you – as the Torah teaches: God is everywhere – then you’ll certainly want to be talking to him, asking him for whatever you need, thanking him for what he gave you already… you’d be stupid not to! God wants us to be close to Him, and feeling that closeness is the greatest pleasure imaginable.
Q
I have three kids, and when they misbehave, I want to discipline them. But I worry that I could damage their self-esteem. What does the Torah say about disciplining with love?
A
Before he died, our forefather Jacob (Yaakov Avinu) blessed his children. The strengths and weaknesses of the various children define the character of each of the Twelve Tribes. Together, these tribes make up the nation of Israel. Here is what he tells Shimon and Levi: “Cursed is your anger, because it is strong” (Genesis 49:7). Though your passion for justice is praiseworthy, emotions can overwhelm your judgment. Jacob doesn’t curse Shimon and Levi directly. He curses their anger. It’s a parent’s responsibility to help children grow by correcting their mistakes. But when you rebuke them, be careful to emphasize that you love them. It’s just their behavior you don’t like. In proper measure, spice adds flavor. In excess, it mars the dish. Similarly, the influence of zealousness is best diffused. When the Land of Israel is later divided among the tribes, Levi receives no portion. Instead, his tribe is scattered throughout the Land, diffusing his influence throughout the nation.
Q A
Can I use an electric menorah with bulbs for Chanukah?
We don’t use an electric menorah for Chanukah, as it burns in a totally different way from the oil and wick lights in the Temple that we are commemorating. Some authorities do allow using an electric menorah, but only if there really is no other option, and only if it’s obvious that you are lighting this menorah specially for Chanukah. But even then you may not recite the blessings, as most authorities say this is not the valid way to fulfill the mitzvah. There are many beautiful and deep meanings behind using oil and wicks (or candles) to light the Chanukah flames, just as all of the Torah’s commandments have deep significance to them. This is the perfect time of year to en“light”en yourself!
Shimon, tradition tells us, was the tribe of teachers, who also fanned out across the country to educate our children. The character trait of passion for justice is valuable in an educator, but again, it must be sweetened with love. MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
23
24
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
26
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
I t ’s t i m e fo r o u r a n n u a l
CHANUKAH SALE .......................................
EVERYTHING
15% OFF
Sale starts 11/22/15
Faux Fur Throws
WOW!
Available in Cream, Caramel, Chocolate, Tan
Special Reg $99.99 price : $49.99 Scented
Slim Sachets Reg $4
SALE: $2
S Pillows SALE: $9.99 Reg $17.50
Limit 6 per customer
Monogrammed Towels GREAT! Reg $10 GIFT SALE: $4.99 Down Alternative
S F E R R A Celine
SALE: $49.00
Sale: $69.99
Twin Blue Label Quilts Reg $90
Soft cotton Throw Available in a variety of colors Reg $90
Gift Certificates Available *Limited to stock items on shelf *Excluding sale sets *Does not apply to custom or shipped orders
877.5.LINENS • www.elegantlinen.com Brooklyn: 5719 New Utrecht Ave.
Hrs: Sun-Thurs 10-6, Fri 10-2, Tue. Till 8 718-871-3535
Brooklyn: 1910 Avenue M
Lo New ca tio n
Hrs: Sun-Thurs 10:30-6:30, Fri 10-2 718-972-3535
Lakewood: 6776 Rt. 9 S Howell
Hrs: Sun-Thurs 10-6, Fri 10-2 732-905-9444
28
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
29
Shalom Bayis
By R Levy
Looking out for number one
one of the Secrets
of Shalom bayis As the common saying goes, “Opposites attract.” You may or may not agree, depending on your particular set of life experiences, but when it comes to marriage, there are two ways to look at this statement. OppOsites
attract
–
On sOme level, this must be
true, otherwise, people would never get married at all. But… they are still opposites. Men are different from women in almost every respect, and this is certainly no accident. It is told in the name of the Rebbe Reb Elimelech of Lizhensk zy”a that if husband and wife were not total opposites, it would be impossible for them to bring children into the world. Nonetheless, it still looks like a recipe for disaster, and this is actually what the Torah teaches us. The famous Midrash ( parashas Vayetzei) tells of a wealthy lady who came to Rabi Yosi bar Chalafta and demanded to know what God has been doing since He created the world. When she heard that He was “only” busy with making shidduchim, she decided to try her hand at it, too – and the results were catastrophic. None of the couples she paired managed to survive more than a day of married life together. One might think that Hakadosh Baruch Hu, knowing as He does the natures of all His creations, would have far greater success in matching people who are compatible with one another.
30
But this is not what we see. Rather, the same Midrash continues with Rabi Yosi agreeing with the lady that making shidduchim is exceedingly difficult, and that therefore, God “pairs them against their will, not by their own choices…” It’s certainly possible for God to pair up like-minded individuals – why would He choose not to? The Midrash concludes: “Those who choose to sing in joy and appreciation do so; those who choose not to sing, cry instead…” What does this come to tell us?
****
Did you ever see a chassan and kallah arguing under the chuppah? Most likely not – any minor disagreements were surely ironed out beforehand, and major disagreements would probably have led to the engagement being called off. Did you ever see a husband and wife arguing? What happened? Oh – you’re not as compatible as you thought you were? Where was the seichel to realize this, before you got married?
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
It would seem that Hakadosh Baruch Hu specially engineered matters- set up an elaborate smokescreen, so to speakto get two totally different people to somehow agree to spend the rest of their lives together. Just knowing this fact is going to help you get over the first hurdle, namely, the “Is he/she really my bashert?” question that is likely to pop up very quickly. The answer to this question is “Yes”with the proviso that bashert doesn’t necessarily mean what you thought it did. It certainly doesn’t mean that you will see eye to eye on everything, or even on most things. Of course you both have to be committed to a Torah lifestyle within broad parameters, but, sometimes shockingly, the similarities often stop there. Nonetheless, you are meant to be married to each other – there was no mistake. You weren’t stupid, or crazy, or bamboozled into marriage. You don’t even have to feel guilty that there is friction. And there is certainly nobody “out there” who would have made better marriage material for you. NoHakadosh Baruch Hu “paired you against your will.” He knew what He was doing – soon, b’ezras Hashem, will you.
****
The fact that we need to submit to a certain amount of deception in order to marry is actually not such a bad sign. Animals find their partners quite naturally and have no need for the institution of marriage to ensure the survival of the species. For Jews, however, marriage is not a matter of convenience. Neither is it the instinctive response of “We get along so well; let’s get married.” Rather, marriage is something holy, something very precious, something to be strived towards. The number of obstacles along the road to marital harmony only serve to highlight the great value of shalom bayis. We don’t get married because we want to get married – we get married because we need to be married. We need to gain something from being
married that we couldn’t possibly attain without it – and that something is: ourselves. Ask a non-Jew, “What does marriage start with?” and you will probably hear the answer, “Love.” Pointing out that marriages based on emotional love, especially in today’s world, tend to collapse into divorce pretty quickly, is unlikely to have any influence on the marrying couple. Most of the Western world long ago accepted that marriage will last as long as the emotions behind it do, and when they fizzle out, it’s time to leave. No hard feelings… This attitude is of course anathema to us. So, what is marriage based on? The right answer is: commitment. Commitment to your spouse, to build a home together; and, commitment to oneself. A mature adult does not enter into any commitment lightly, but intends and plans to be able to honor his word, regardless of almost all changes in circumstance. It is the privilege of an adult to be able to enter into a marriage or make any other oath. It should be a matter of honor, of self-esteem, to keep one’s word even when it’s a challenge to do so. This explains why marriage means so much more than doing what your spouse asks you to do, even with a smiling face. That is being committed to the other person; being committed to yourself, however, entails doing what is required for the marriage, even without being asked to do so. Even if the other person is mevater, or unaware of a need,
your actions, expect to have a stormy ride. Of course, emotions don’t just include the basic, “Right now, I’m just not in the mood” to do whatever needs to be done. They also incorporate, “What! After what he did yesterday? After what she said this morning?” Remember: You are committed to yourself. You too are flawed. You too have faults that you would rather other people forgot about, or ignored. If you believe in yourself as a person who can build a compassionate marriage, then do it – don’t wait for the other person to start.
****
“Those who choose to sing in joy and appreciation do so; those who choose not to sing, cry instead…” In many cases, despite the best efforts of husband or wife, the other spouse is simply not sufficiently invested in the marriage. How can the hard-working, determined spouse be expected to sing in joy when they see their work being either ignored, invalidated, or even sabotaged? Is this not a tragedy? On one level, the tragedy is undeniable. “If only…” tells us that things could have been so much better, so much more harmonious and productive. But only one of the partners has really lost the opportunity to build an everlasting edifice – not the one who tried and “failed” but rather the one who never tried at all. Marriage is an opportunity to build ourselves – regardless of the outcome, which is, as in all other matters, in Hashem’s hands. Surrendering our hopes and expectations is probably one of the hardest things for a striving human being to do – but if we do not wish to succumb to despair, we must learn this lesson. Then, and only then, will we be able to see the joy and appreciation- the joy of building ourselves through adverse circumstances, and the appreciation for being given the opportunity to do so. And then daven that your spouse will merit to do so, too.
the number of obstacles along the road to marital harmony only serve to highlight the great value of shalom bayis.
MAGAZINE
or does not expect it of you, it should still be a matter of honor for you to do the right thing – no matter how you feel. If your emotions are your guide to
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
31
to t c e p x Don’t Eange if You h C a ne e O e S e k a Don’t M
Call now for your FREE intro BODY COMPOSITION ANALYSIS & WEIGHT CONSULT *$160 VALUE WEIGHT MANAGEMENT WEIGHT LOSS CHALLENGES
CORPORATE WELLNESS WELLNESS EVALUATIONS
PERSONALIZED INDIVIDUAL & GROUP COACHING
(718) 339-5200
Doctor Recommended With Proven Results!
1648 E. 14TH STREET, SUITE 4 BROOKLYN, NY 11229
32
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
www.nynutritioncenter.com MAGAZINE
quality carpet
NOVEMBER 2010
107
True-Life
I
learned a lot about marriage from my first chavrusa. Shmuel and I were opposites in so many ways. He was from England, for one. He was logical, and intellectual, and became frum after hearing rational proofs of the Torah’s Divine origin at Yeshivas Aish HaTorah. He was also a misnaged. I, on the other hand, am American, and also emotional and passionate, and became frum without hearing a single proof – and I was initially attracted to Chassidus. We used to argue day and night, inside the beis medrash and out, but in the process, we grew much closer to each other and to Hashem. We challenged each other and forced one another to examine ourselves deeply and honestly. An ideal chavrusa partnership! And in many ways, the role of a wife is quite similar – she is called an ezer k’negdo – an “opposite helpmate” to challenge you to grow in the greatest way possible. Marriage is the best “tool” for improving your middos, and there’s no better training ground for marriage than a chavrusa!
Person (not)
THE WRONG GAVRIEL HORAN
36
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
“If that’s how insensitive and self-centered he is, what kind of husband will he make?”
Nonetheless, after our year together, we parted ways. I returned to the States, headed for a yeshivah in New York, and Shmuel remained in Eretz Yisrael. We kept in touch now and again. He called me after 9/11 to make sure my family and I were okay. I called him before Yom Tov. We remained friends. At a later point, somewhat surprisingly, I enrolled in a regular litvish yeshivah – and Shmuel discovered a small chassidish yeshivah for English speakers. We had balanced out. Whenever we spoke over the next few years, Shmuel told me about how great his new yeshivah was. The rabbanim gave him personal guidance to prepare him for marriage, and he felt that the yeshivah was solidifying his hashkafah, middos, and selfesteem, in addition to the learning. Meanwhile, I was devoting myself intensively to my learning, but I still felt very much adrift in my personal life. My rebbeim told me I should start dating, but each time I went out with a girl, I realized I lacked clarity on what I wanted in life. I was confused, and felt totally alone – and not at all ready for marriage. Nonetheless, I was sure that as soon as I got myself sorted out, I would meet the right person for me. That winter, I heard about a company offering cheap flights to Eretz Yisrael, and I decided to visit my friend. It had been over three years since we had last seen each other, and I needed a little chizuk. My ulterior motive was to check out his yeshivah, although I didn’t openly admit it to anyone – or myself, for that matter. I traveled around Eretz Yisrael for a week, and then spent a few days with Shmuel. Now his peyos and beard were long – mine were short and trimmed. But we still had a lot in common, and we spent long hours talking and reestablishing our relationship. During my visit, Shmuel started dating the girl who would eventually become
MAGAZINE
his wife. A few weeks later, when I was already back in the States, he called me with the news, and invited me to be his shomer before the chasunah, which would be at the beginning of the summer. I decided to go, and then spend the rest of the summer learning at his yeshivah in Eretz Yisrael, in order to get back in touch with my chassidish leanings, and hopefully find some direction in life before starting to date again. It worked out great – I enjoyed it so much that I decided to stay on, forgoing my flight home. Shmuel helped me get adjusted to life in Eretz Yisrael, and his new wife was happy to provide me with homecooked meals from time to time. He even gave me his old, prehistoric cell phone, now that he had moved up in the world, although I never quite worked it out. The battery used to die unexpectedly after a few minutes, and I never figured out how to change his old voice message: “Hi, you’ve got through to Shmuel…” Thanks to the personal attention of the rabbanim at the yeshivah, I worked through a lot of my issues in hashkafah and was soon able to start dating. I immediately hit it off with the first girl who was redt to me. She was sweet, quiet, and reserved – just the opposite of me! During the first date, I already knew that something
was special. I simply felt so ready to get married that I was confident that Hashem was about to send me the right person – and she was everything that I was looking for. After the first few dates, things were going well, and we decided that from then on, I would call her directly, rather than going through the shadchan. We went to the zoo on our next date. On the way home, we boarded a city bus. I hadn’t yet been in Yerushalayim for so long, and this was one of the first times I’d traveled on the buses there. Thinking that this would be the most tzniusdig arrangement, I decided to sit opposite her – and I chose the forward-facing seat, leaving the back-facing seat for her. Little did I know how nauseating this can be, to ride a bus backwards. In New York, the seats either face forward or sideways. My date found my choice of seating to be downright inconsiderate, and immediately after getting home, she called the shadchan to tell her so. “How could he take the forward-facing seat, and make me sit backwards to get dizzy?” she asked. “If that’s how insensitive and self-centered he is, what kind of husband will he make?” Then and there, she decided to call it off, and she insisted that the shadchan tell me so immediately.
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
37
I never figured out how to change his old voice message: “Hi, you’ve got through to Shmuel.
dead, there was no answer, just the voice mail – and the shadchan was puzzled to hear a British accent: “Hi, you’ve got through to Shmuel…” Assuming she had the wrong number, she didn’t even leave a message! And before she had a chance to verify my number, I had already called to set up the next date. Later, when my future wife called her to find out what was going on, the shadchan told her to just go out with me one more time, as it wasn’t nice to break up after already arranging a meeting. The next date went smoothly, and she forgot about the incident on the bus. And the rest is history – all thanks to my good friend Shmuel!
Meanwhile, our unsuspecting hero (that’s me) had already picked up the phone to schedule the next date. Somehow, I didn’t catch the note of astonishment in her voice when she heard mine – and we fixed a time and place. But in fact, she was totally taken aback. Her words to the shadchan had been completely unambiguous. However, she was simply too nice to tell me to my face – and so she reluctantly agreed to go out with me again. Only years later, after we were already married, did I hear the inside story. What had happened? After hearing her firm decision that it was all over, the shadchan called my phone to tell me the unfortunate news. Since that phone was usually
Empower Your Bochur for Life. REBUILD SELF CONFIDENCE
IS THIS YOUR BOCHUR? Has difficulty paying attention and focusing on Limudim Finds it difficult getting up on time for minyan
place ad here
Gets frustrated with changes in schedule or usual routines Seems lost in Yeshiva (unhappy/not making it) Social difficulties
SET GOALS | PROBLEM SOLVE | ORGANIZE | MONITOR SUCCESS FEELS WONDERFUL. CALL NOW. FOR YOURSELF. FOR YOUR SON.
RABBI D. CYNAMON
As a Rebbe with over 20 years experience and professionally certified coach, Rabbi Cynamon has guided hundreds of bochurim to success. Through his unique approach with the warmth of a Rebbe and method of coaching, he can empower your son with the necessary skills and tools to be more successful.
בהסכמת הרבנים
38
TO SET UP A CONFIDENTIAL CONSULTATION 718.627.0333 rabbicynamon@ thrive4ward.com offices: Lakewood, Borough Park, Williamsburg
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
$24.99 reg 40.00
$26.99 reg 34.99
Buy 1 get 1 Free
$5.99 reg 8.99
Includes candles
$9.99
reg 14.99 Large Soft Cover
$12.99
$69.00
Includes Seforim Room reg. $90
4405-15TH Ave. MAGAZINE
718-437-3649 NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
39
Chanukah
SALE DEALS FOR DAYS YAMAHA YPG
. FRE
KORG PA
.
BE
E
WIT NCH &S HA N T PURY KEYB AND CHA OA RD SE
WITH GIFT CARD
YAMAHA PSRE
.
Store Hours Sunday 11:00am-5:00pm Monday-Thursday 9:30am-6:00pm Friday 9:30am-1:00pm
Address 895 McDonald Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11218 1.800.221.0828
SONY HDRCX HANDYCAM W/ FREE CASE & MEMORY CARD
.
KEURIG K
SONY ALPHA a W/ MM & MM LENSES & GB BUNDLE
.
.
CANON EOS REBEL T W/ MM & MM LENSES & CANON BAG
.
KODAK PIXPRO FZ
.
CALL AUTO CLICK TODAY THE CAR KEY EXPERTS CAR KEYS
on the dot design 917.538.4160
REMOTE HEAD KEYS
42
SMART KEYS REMOTES
WE COME TO YOU!
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
43
Biz Card- 7p.pdf
1
5/22/2016
li.space.redeďŹ ned@gmail.com
C
M
LI & JULIET
Y
CM
+
MY
CY
CMY
K
718 258 0260 44
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
10
GIFTS FOR HIM
MAKE THIS YEAR MEMORABLE. Sweaters | Scarves | Gloves | Earmuffs | Thermals | Raincoats | Kutchmas | Watches Wallets | Cufflinks | Hand-Made Gartlech | Neckties | Belts | Bomber Hats | Tzitzis BORO PARK | 5103 New Utrecht Ave. Brooklyn, NY | Phone. 718-972-4920 MONSEY | 20 Robert Pitt Drive, Monsey, NY | Phone. 845-352-4920
!א פרייליכן חנוכה
46
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
Shabbos Chanukah December 30 - January 1
Piscataway, New Jersey Gourmet Glatt Kosher Cuisine Catered by Meisner’s Fastest growing Star of 2016
Mendy “J” In Concert
Stimulating
Shiurim and Lectures Heimisha Crowd, Minyan on Premises Buffets and Viennese Desserts Cholov Yisroel & Chassidishe Shechita Oneg Shabbos and Kumzitz Full Fitness Center & Jacuzzi Large Indoor Pool Adjoining Rooms Available
Pesach With The Meisners The Stamford Plaza Hotel Stamford Connecticut “The Ultimate Pesach Getaway” Raizy 347-554-1558
Sydel 973-452-2468
Meisnerscatering@gmail.com MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
47
6 WEEK WEIGHT LOSS CHALLENGE
1820 AVENUE M
STORE HOURS
BETWEEN EAST 18 & EAST 19
oin the new upcoming FREE 6 Week Weight Loss Challenge, a community service, now open for registration with classes
(718) 300-1300
Jstarting in December. If you are looking for a FUN, motivating and supportive way to lose weight, don't miss this opportunity to
join us. The Weight Loss Challenge is a group meeting designed to motivate and challenge anyone looking to lose weight in a fun and supportive environment with weekly interactive meetings that discuss a new weight loss and nutrition topic each week, with accountability and weekly measurements. There will be prizes to celebrate your success and the Weight Loss Challenge includes a money jackpot. The winner or "biggest loser" at the end of the challenge will receive the cash. Our last challenge paid out $500 in cash prizes to the biggest losers, thousands of dollars already given away. The Weight Loss Challenge includes personal coaching. We encourage participants to join with friends and family.
NEW CLASS STARTING NOW!
Date: Mondays & Wednesdays Time: 7:15pm Place: NY Nutrition Center 1648 East 14th Street, Suite 4 Brooklyn, New York 11229 Cost of Registration; $40 (To cover jackpot and materials) Places are limited. Register Now! Call (718) 339-5200 New! Ask about our new Boro Park Location
48
WE SPECIALIZE IN
LARGE VARIETY OF PACKING MATERIALS
PACKING AND SHIPPING WORLDWIDE
Use a Street Adress, Not a P.O. Box Never Miss Packages, Mail Them Here Permanent Address, Even If You Move Forward Mail & Packages Business & Personal Manage Mail Online 24/7
FOREVER STAMPS AVAILABLE
Special Designs In-Stock PASSPORT PHOTOS IN
60 SEC.
www.OutsideTheBoxShipping.com
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
Chanukah Shaindy Klein
A
typical Chanukah menu sounds as though it were planned by the undertwelve crowd: potato pancakes, fried, of course, in lots of oil; sweet cream-cheese rugelach; strawberryjam-filled donuts (sufganiyot) covered in powdered sugar; fried apple fritters; cheese-filled donuts fried in oil and dipped in honey; cheese blintzes; and more. Is it all just a ploy to keep kids lingering around the candles and enjoying a family meal? Not at all! Chanukah food traditions have their origins in the first years that the holiday was celebrated, and are meant to remind us of certain miracles associated with the events of Chanukah itself. And of course, remembering the miracles and the freedom that we’re all celebrating adds a special flavor to everything we serve… Why do we eat fried foods during Chanukah? Most of us are familiar with the miracle of the oil — that one day’s supply of oil lasted for eight days. And we know this is the origin of the mitzvah to light the menorah for eight days. It is also the reason why we have the custom of eating foods cooked in oil. But there are deeper connections between olive oil and Chanukah. Mystically, both the menorah and the oil used to light it are associated with chochmah, wisdom. The war between the Greeks and the Jews was also a war over whose wisdom would endure. The Greeks wanted everyone under their rule to think and study exactly as they
50
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
did. They were violently opposed to the idea of G dly wisdom, and so forbade the study of Torah. Also, the word shemen, Hebrew for oil, contains the same letters as shemoneh, eight, the number of days that the miracle of the oil lasted. So now we know the basic connection between fried foods and Chanukah. But where did all the different traditional Chanukah foods come from? Over the centuries, different Jewish communities throughout the world have found a variety of ways to incorporate both oil and dairy (due to the miracle that occurred when Yehudis, daughter of Mattisyahu the High Priest, cut off the Greek general’s head after tempting him with wine and cheese) into their Chanukah meals. One of the most famous, Israeli sufganiyot, may actually derive from a yeast dough pastry mentioned in the Talmud. These pastries were cooked in oil and called sufganin (absorbent) because they absorbed a lot of oil in cooking. They did not contain milk, but were sweetened and perhaps even filled with honey. Since they were cooked in oil, they became a Chanukah staple early on. In India, the sweet yeast dough remained primarily a flour and honey or sugar combination, but milk and butter were added as well, making the Indian version of sufganiyot also a dairy treat. In Ashkenazi communities, where olive oil was scarce and expensive, goose or chicken fat was often used for frying. Potato latkes, apple fritters, and other nondairy fried foods became the norm, although today when olive (or other pareve) oil is affordable and commonly used, dairy is often added — usually in the form of a dollop of sour cream on top.
MAGAZINE
3-dimenSional Flower Shaped FritlaCh One can’t get more traditional than serving fritlach on Chanukah. The sooner you eat these after making them, the better they are, although you might want to give them time to cool first! Ingredients: 3 eggs 5 T. sugar pinch of salt 4 T. wine 4 T. oil 2½ cups flour (more if necessary) oil for deep frying confectioners’ sugar for topping Directions: Combine eggs, sugar, salt, wine, oil and flour into a soft dough. On a floured surface, roll out the dough so that it’s paper thin. Cut out 3 circles with the floured rim of a drinking glass. Place one circle on top of the other. Press down the center of the circle with your fingers to stick all 3 circles together. Cut ½-inch slits all around, starting from the outside and cutting in towards the center, leaving approximately ½ an inch between each slit. Repeat with remaining dough. Heat oil in a frying pan for deep frying. Fry on both sides until golden brown. Remove and drain on paper towels. Sprinkle with confectioners’ sugar. Serve fresh. Yeild: 10 Fritlach
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
51
hints & tips If making and freezing yeast dough ahead of time, wrap with plastic wrap and let rise for a minute before placing in the freezer. This will fill all the minuscule air pockets with dough, eliminating freezer burn and that “freezer taste.”
SafeTY WhIle frYINg: The Home Safety Council recommends the following precautions when frying foods:
1
Do not leave the stove unattended.
2
Turn the handles of frying pans toward the back of the stove so that children can’t reach up and grab them.
34
5
Keep dishtowels, paper goods, paper bags and curtains at least three feet away from the range when cooking. Roll up loose-fitting sleeves.
Keep hot pans, trays and foods away from the edge of the counter so children cannot reach them.
Have a safe and happy Chanukah!
doughnutS (SuFganin)
Donuts are a terrific old-fashioned treat. There are never enough to last eight days! Ingredients: 5 cups flour 1 oz. yeast 3 oz. margarine 2 T. sugar pinch of salt 1 cup water or milk 3 egg yolks 1/3 cup orange juice oil for frying Directions: Knead flour, yeast, margarine, sugar, salt, water or milk, egg yolks, and orange juice into a soft dough. Allow dough to rise in a warm place for 1 hour. On a floured surface, roll out dough to ½-inch thickness. Cut circles using the floured rim of a drinking glass or a donut cutter. Heat oil in a frying pan for deep frying and fry each circle for 2–3 minutes on each side, until golden brown. Remove donuts from oil with a slotted spoon and drain on paper towels to absorb excess oil. Note: To prevent oil from burning, place 1 carrot into oil. Icing: White version: ¾ cup icing sugar 1 T. oil 3 T. boiling water (add more as needed very little at a time till desired texture) Brown version: Add 3 T. cocoa powder to the white version above Mocha version: Add 1 T. coffee granules, diluted in hot water, to the white verison above Place all ingredients in a bowl and mix by hand. Cover donuts in a variety of designs and colors. Have fun!
Yeild: 40 Donuts
52
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
!
R
TOM S U C
GN ESI
S TO
YOU H TC MA
N CHA
A UK
Y ART P H
OR DEC
D
C. Roth 718-812-8159
G. Winkler 347-522-5871
MANY MORE DESIGNS TO CHOOSE FROM - LIMITED STOCK - ORDER EARLY!
R OU Y W WO
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
! EST U G
53
54
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
A YIDDISHE KOP BY GADI POLLACK
AVAILABLE NEXT WEEK AT YOUR LOCAL JUDAICA AND BOOKSHOP
56
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
57
THE PERFECT CHANUKAH GIFT!
RSVP: WWW.MAYANYISROEL.NET/MYEFCHANUKAH
718-677-0030
a
Great Day
"Helping children connect with their peers"
starts with a
24-HOUR NURSES NIGHT NURSES • ELDERLY CARE
newmarketingcreative / 732.276.7918
BABY CARE • CERTIFIED • RELIABLE
GoodNight THE AG E N C Y T HAT
personally NURSING AGENCY K NOWS EV E RY NURSE
GoodNight Nursing
This year, give your child the tools to make friends in school!
Social Skills Training Groups Boys Age 3-4
Girls Age 3-4
Boys Age 5-6
Girls Age 5-6
Boys Age 7-8
Girls Age 7-8
Boys Age 9-10
Girls Age 9-10
Parents, watch entire session via video hook up! For more information contact:
MALKY HAUER 732.644.2894 MICHAL BRULL 732.552.8954
Nechama Stamm MS, BCBA, LBA 718-338-0252 or email nechama.childconnect@gmail.com
Child Connect is a trademark of Child Connect Licensed Behavior Analyst, PLLC
62
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
Ch���k��
sale
50% of�! up to
��u�... save up to an extra 15% off
with our Chanukah bonus scratch off
pastel pastel
���n� $1�0 �e� � ���� ��� �� �ea�b�n� ����� ������e� las�
| |www.buypastel.com www.buypastel.com | |
866.615.8870 866.615.8870
Monroe Meron Drive | 845-783-4010 Monroe 1414 Meron Drive | 845-783-4010
pastelchildrenclothing pastelchildrenclothing
Boro 347-955-5010 Boro Park Park 4502 450218th 18th Avenue Avenue | |347-955-5010
Williamsburg 100 718-599-0330 Williamsburg 100Lee LeeAve. Ave. || 718-599-0330
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
63
64
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
BS”D
Plaza PAL Auto Leasing
CALL 718-975-9000 2750 Nostrand Ave Corner of Ave N Brooklyn NY 11210
WE SELL, LEASE & FINANCE
ALL MAKES AND MODELS
www.PlazaAutoLeasing.com
WHEN YOU NEED A VEHICLE FOR YOUR BUSINESS, PLAZA AUTO LEASING IS THE ANSWER... INTRODUCING PLAZA AUTO LEASING’S
COMMERCIAL DIVISION!
...of NY’s #1 Shomer Shabbos Car Leasing Company Plaza PAL Auto Leasing
WHETHER IT’S 1 OR 100 VEHICLES, PLAZA AUTO LEASING GETS THE JOB DONE! • Easy, flexible financing and lease terms to fit your business needs! • Any make, any model! • Design services - We’ll help you find the right set up, including shelving, plumber packs, electrician packs, ladder racks, scafolding, and more! • Custom upfit and industry specific add-ons
Our Commercial Vehicle Specialist: Yossi Gurevitch
CALL 718-975-9000 ext. 213 TO GET THE CAR OR TRUCK YOU NEED TO GET YOUR BUSINESS ROLLING! All Leases 36 months/10k miles per year. Elantra deal requires lease conquest or loyalty. Due at signing 1st month, applicable taxes, bank MAGAZINE NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885 65 fee, registration fees. Expires 3/31/2016. DCA #1312589 DMV #7084665
בס"ד
CHANUKAH SALE ALL SUITS 10%-35% OFF
BOY’S DEPT
Winter Coats $20 OFF Car Coats & 3/4 Jackets $15 OFF Sweaters, Scarves, Ties & Cufflinks 10% OFF Wool Pants 10% OFF 2nd or more pair of woolen pants 15% OFF
Board Certified by the American Board of Pediatric Dentistry
10% OFF
OVER 20 YEARS EXPERIENCE
all boys
Suits,Coats,Shirts
1769 51 St. Brooklyn, NY 11204
718.854.1196
Pediatric Dentist
Sale expires January 2
Sun & Thurs: 11:00-9:00 | Mon, Tues, Wed: 11:00-7:00 | Friday: 11:00-1:00 | Open מוצש”קby appointment.
חנוכהhours: 11:00-5:00 7:00-9:00
Check out our App!
wagshallkiddsapp.com 4 Preventative Dentistry 3 4 Interceptive & Complete Orthodontics 3 4 Digital X-Rays/ Reduced Radiation Of Exposure 3 4 Treatment Of Infants, Toddlers, Tweens & Teens 3 4 Laughing Gas Available 3
rgrossmandesign@gmail.com
4 Sunday & Afterschool Hours 3
2525 Nostrand Ave. Suite 1C Brooklyn, NY 11210 T 718.339.3435 · F 718.339.3751 wagshallkidds@gmail.com We now accept Delta Dental
Invisalign
Jonathan Paley, D.D.S Orthodontist for Children & Adults
Dr. Paley ues the latest imaging and orthodontic technology. These advanced tools and diagnostic systems allow us to create a precise and effective plan to treat every case.
66
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
50%
OFF
Chanukah Sale (some exclusions)
Tel. 347 404 7737 1305 47th St.Brooklyn, NY STORE HOURS: Sun.-Thur. 11-7 â&#x20AC;¢ Fri. 11-2 E-mail: coutureofftherack@gmail.com Follow us on Instagram: coutureofftherack
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
67
2016
Winter Sale
Buy e + Thre
STARTING
SUNDAY DEC 11TH
ENDS
MONDAY JAN 2ND
Buy Two
Buy One
Get
Get
30% ff O
Get
% 0 5
40% ff O
ALL BABY SHOES
15% OFF
Off
Pop in and grab your perfect pair before they run out!
ALL BOOTIES
20% OFF
718.851.0908 / 5013 16th Ave. Brooklyn, NY / oomphshoe.com *All sales are final. Excludes all boots, natives and slippers. No store credit or refunds on sale items. Additional conditions may apply.
68
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
FOLLOW US
MAGAZINE
HIT THE BEACH, NOT THE KITCHEN. ORDER GOURMET KO S H E R F O O D F R O M U S .
Free delivery on your first order. Serving all of South Florida.
D OW N LOA D
561.620.7999 | GROVEKOSHER.COM 22191 POWERLINE RD, BOCA RATON, FL. | DELRAY BEACH, FL.
MAGAZINE
NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
OUR APP
69
HealtH Not Just A Diet By Esther Dahan
artificial
SWEETENERS We know them by a variety of names – Splenda, Nutrasweet, Equal, Sweet’N Low, and more – and we know all about their claim to enhance weight loss, but are they really everything they seem?
The Not-So-Sweet Side of Sugar
Most of us, even those of us who still ingest sugar, know pretty much what’s wrong with it. It can cause weight gain, for starters. Although the 46 calories in a tablespoon of sugar in your morning coffee aren’t likely to be the major cause of you packing on the pounds, those calories add up a lot quicker when delivered by the cupful into cakes and other desserts. Many studies have indicated that a daily intake of twenty teaspoons of sugar can cause diabetes after fifteen to twenty years. Twenty teaspoons may seem like a lot, but sugar hides in many commonly eaten foods such as bread, ketchup, salad dressing – and even health foods, like rye crackers. Of course, just one giant soda will give you the whole amount in a few slurps. Furthermore, the problem is not confined to weight gain and diabetes; a wide variety of physical illnesses could be avoided or their symptoms ameliorated simply by staying away from sugar. In addition, more and more studies are suggesting a strong link between over-consumption of highsugar foods and development of mental illness – from “lowgrade” behavioral problems such as hyperactivity to fullblown disorders such as bipolar and clinical depression. Many parents and teachers can attest to the negative effects of sugar ingestion on children’s behavior, although unfortunately, far too few doctors recommend dietary changes before prescribing mind-altering medication such as Ritalin or Concerta. Or, for those who do opt to make some changes, they take a different type of pill instead…
Artificial Effects
Like most people, my introduction to artificial sweeteners was disappointing. As an image-conscious teenager, diet cola seemed like the answer to my dreams. Sweetened with saccharin, it promised the same great taste but without the calories. I tried it. It was awful… A later experiment sweetening coffee with aspartame had a different result – instead of weird-tasting sweetness it was simply bitter. Sucralose, on the other hand, tasted great in coffee and tea, but was terrible for baking; cakes fell flat – literally. Store-bought goodies made with artificial sweeteners were also a let-down; desserts just didn’t taste as good (or tasted plain awful) and those made with sugar alcohols – mannitol, maltitol, sorbitol – caused many people terrible stomach cramps. Yet in a strange desperation to have our cake and eat it, many of us continue to buy artificially sweetened products.
Weight Loss?
What’s the perfect partner to that dietetic muffin or cupcake? A tall glass of diet soda, of course… Surely the bubbles and liquid will help trick the stomack into thinking that it’s full, which will help people stick to their weight-loss plans… But it doesn’t work that way. In a recent update, the Mayo Clinic admitted that “consuming artificial sweeteners may be associated with increased weight, but the cause is not yet known.” Other studies have demonstrated a clear link between consumption of artificial sweeteners and heightened food cravings. Based on studies
conducted on rats, Susan E. Swithers of Purdue University has theorized that zero-calorie sweeteners disturb the body’s self-regulation. “Sweet” usually raises the body’s temperature, but saccharin doesn’t do that, so Swithers postulates that the body either eats more or expends less energy (slowing the metabolism) to compensate. Nonetheless, the FDA has approved artificial sweeteners – aspartame, sucralose, saccharin, acesulfame potassium – although it has also set limits for their consumption. Let’s take a closer look.
Sucralose
Sucralose was discovered by chance by British scientists back in 1976. They weren’t actually looking for a food sweetener – they were trying to develop a new pesticide… In 2008, a study conducted at Duke University showed that Splenda causes pH imbalance in rats, as well as depletion of good bacteria, swollen livers, and kidney calcification. (This was in addition to the weight gain mentioned above.) Many people report that Splenda causes them headaches or irritability.
Aspartame
Aspartame was discovered in 1965 by a chemist who was looking to invent an anti-ulcer drug. He happened to lick his finger during an experiment, and noticed that it tasted sweet. Aspartame is the most controversial of the artificial sweeteners. It contains 10% methanol which is broken down in the body to form... formaldehyde. The 2005 Soffritti study (with cooperation from the US National Toxicology Program) on rats from a cancer research center in Italy showed that levels of aspartame below those of the currently approved intake caused tumors, leukemia, and other forms of cancer. More recently, data culled over twenty-two years from the Nurses’ Health Study and the Health Professionals’ Follow-Up Study – which involved over 125,00 people – showed that even one can of diet soda a day increased the incidence of leukemia in both
men and women (by 42%), and increased multiple myeloma (102%) and non-Hodgkin lymphoma (31%) in men. As an aside, non-diet sodas didn’t fair much better. This same study showed a 66% increase in non-Hodgkin lymphoma for those who drank sugary sodas. Acesulfame Potassium (a.k.a. Acesulfame K) This sweetener was discovered in 1967 by a German chemist who enjoyed tasting his experiments – sometimes much to his own detriment. Not many studies have been made on this sweetener. One study showed an increase in mutations of the DNA of male mice. Another showed an increase in tumors in female rats. Some claim it triggers respiratory diseases. Methylene chloride, a paint-stripper, is used in its production – and methylene chloride is also used to decaffeinate tea and coffee. But some studies show it to be safe.
Saccharin
Saccharin was discovered in 1879 by a researcher experimenting with extraction of coal tar derivatives. One of the compounds spilled on his fingers and later, when he ate supper, he noticed that his bread tasted sweeter. He managed to trace this back to the compound extracted from the coal tar and saccharin was born. 1970s studies showed increase in incidence of bladder cancer in rats fed saccharin, but the reliability of these studies was later called into question. A 2008 study showed that saccharin increases insulin production. Saccharin has been studied for the longest of all the artificial sweeteners, and it may be one of the safest of these chemicals, but its contribution to weight gain still stands.
Better Options
Many books dealing with nutrition The Mayo CliniC adMiTTed ThaT
“consuming artificial
sweeteners may be associated with increased weight…
”
and weight loss discourage the use of natural sweeteners like molasses and honey. While these books admit that honey and molasses contain important nutrients, they still dismiss them due to their sugar, carbohydrates, and calories, while at the same time allowing for small amounts of artificial sweetener. A tablespoon of molasses contains 58 calories, an amount that isn’t likely to make or break a diet. More importantly, it provides 4% of one’s daily calcium needs, 5% of iron, copper, and selenium RDA, and also contains magnesium, manganese, and potassium in even larger amounts. Furthermore, molasses has a gentle laxative effect. When white sugar was too pricey, Americans used the cheaper molasses in their coffee. Though it sounds odd, molasses gives coffee a more robust flavor, in addition to added sweetness. Honey, at 64 calories a tablespoon, is also unlikely to ruin a diet from the occasional addition to a cup of tea. And because it’s sweeter than white sugar, people tend to add less, so that we’re actually only looking at around 20 calories in that cup. A tablespoon of honey provides us with 1% of our daily calcium and iron needs. It also contains antioxidants and assists with digestion. Other natural sweeteners are on the market, but are beyond the scope of this article. While neither honey nor molasses should be overeaten, studies seem to show that their moderate use is far preferable to sugar or artificial sweeteners in people with no issues that contraindicate their consumption. And of course, many people take no sweetener in their tea or coffee, or just drink goodold water… Most healthy American centenarians and nonagenarians report eating a few cookies, or a bit of pie or ice cream every week. They just don’t go overboard. This shouldn’t be news to us. As the Rambam writes, “As long as one exercises plenty, doesn’t eat until he is (overly) satisfied, and keeps his bowels soft, he will suffer no illness, and his strength will increase even if he eats unhealthy foods.”
10% Discount when mentioning this ad.
3D Kitchens Inc.
Kitchens • Vanities • Bath fixtures • Sinks • Faucets • Hardware • Countertops & more Visit our showroom located at: 1412 Ave. M Brooklyn, NY 11230 www.the3dk.com
718 336-4100
Showroom hours: Sun:10am-5pm Mon-Wed:10am-6pm Thurs:10am-7pm Fri & Sat-closed
THAT SUSHI SPOT Sushi that hits the spot
Chanukah Special
platter. $28. awesome. 48 pc chef assorted - half fish, half veg. Cannot be modied. Chanukah promo is cash only.
Kehillah Kashrus www.thatsushispot.com
347.587.5100 2462 Nostrand Avenue
2436 nostrand ave brooklyn, ny 11210
Th e C a n te e n
347.702.8988 kehillah kashrus
e l evate d f a s t- fo od
beef
tisinal ar
jerky
burgers
dogs
s a us a g e s
s u bs
po p co rn
pulled brisket
chicken
Dine in . Take out . Catering beef jerky platters starting at just $45 free delivery • curbside pickup • online ordering
full menu at wwww.brooklyncanteen.com
Divine Design • 732.367.7198
elevated fast food has arrived on nostrand avenue.
Womens clothing boutique
8 DAYS 8 DEALS! You miss a day, you miss a deal
'fashion beyond the box'
T LOROTKHEORUEST , FO LS E DEA OF TH
E INNSDTORO N
RAM. INSTAG
A
DAY) DAY 1 (SUN HING! T Y R E V E F 65% OF HAPPY CHANUKAH F R O M
THE K SQUARED TEAM!
SE PLEALL CA UR FOR O UKAH CHANURS HO
Brooklyn 1670 49th street. | Lakewood 5 Stamford Hill rd. 718.215.1518 | sales@ksquaredny.com | @K2.SQUARED
76
www.NyBuzzMagazine.com I To advertise, call 718-513-9885
MAGAZINE
Pesach
on the Adriatic Sea by the Levkowitz Family
Enjoy a dream vacation, at a breathtaking oceanfront hotel combining beauty, luxury and class!
Porec - Croatia - Valamar
10 Days > 13 â&#x20AC;&#x201C; 23 Nissan > April 9 â&#x20AC;&#x201C; 19, 2017
Tzvi: (972) 50-670-1850 Shlomit: (972) 54-424-4577 718.513.9885 Office: (972) 3-618-0121 ekrtours@gmail.com zq0506701850@Gmail.com
& JY
Imperial Wood Flooring
walk on us for a
lifetime
New!
Dustless Sanding
DESIGN INSTALLATION & REFINISHING HARDWOOD FLOORS BORDERS • LAMINATE • VINYL
12 Months Financing Available Servicing the tristate area
718.309.5092
Fully licensed and Insured
www.imperialwoodfloor.com
Est. 2002
info@imperialwoodfloor.com
Commercial and Residential
Free Estimates