Autumn 2011 Edition by Cairns Parenting Companion

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Informed Consent

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Cr Linda Cooper ‘My Battle with PND’

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13–14 Circumcision 16 –18 Preparing to Foster Top 5 Finds

21–22 No more Nappies!

24–25 Early Years Learning Framework 27

Community Photo Board

29–30 Gestational Diabetes 32–36 Directory

9 Well, we have never been so glad to see the end of summer. It’s certainly been a trying 3 months for everyone in Queensland and has no doubt made us all take stock, and treasure the more important things in our lives. In this edition, we had the pleasure of working with our ‘Guest Editor’ Emma. As a mum of 2 she worked with us on topics and ideas she felt other mums would relate to and want to know about. Thank you for your time, enthusiasm and ideas Emma. We’d also like to thank Cr. Linda Cooper for sharing a very private time in her life, as she battled post-natal depression.

43–44 Schools Out! And Craft 49–50 Calendar 52

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Dads Column ‘She Says, she means’

67 Confessions DISCLAIMER: No part of this magazine, including advertisements within it may be reproduced, in part, or in whole without the expressed permission of the editor. Whilst the greatest of care is taken to ensure that the information in the magazine is correct at the time of going to press, readers are advised to check details before visiting. The publishers cannot accept responsibility for errors, inaccuracies or omissions. The expressions expressed within Cairns Parenting Companion are not necessarily the view of the publishers, but those of individual writers.

Cairns Parenting Companion is starting up some regular ‘playdates’ at the beautiful Paradise Palms Resort. So if you are new to town, or want to bring your mothers group to a new spot then come and join us for a cuppa. Check out page 28 for more information on that! Speaking of social Bec, Juanita & Guest Editor Emma. engagements – keep April 3rd free. Acclaimed scientist Dr Sarah Lantz is coming to town to talk about how to raise our kids, chemical free! Be sure to read our feature on ‘pre-polluted babies’ 27 to get an idea on what Dr Lantz will be sharing at her workshop. Cairns Parenting Companion has also become proud supporters of the Northern Pride so look out for regular pages about our team and make sure you get involved. Thanks again for picking up the mag, please get in touch and share your ideas, thoughts and advice, we’d love to hear from you. feedback@parentingcompanion.com.au Leave a comment on our blog & sign up for our enewsletter www.parentingcompaion.com.au And check us out on Facebook!

Happy Parenting! Juanita and Bec

OUR EXPERTS

Naomi Wilson Family Counsellor Naomi Wilson is a trained & widely experienced early childhood teacher and lecturer, counsellor and life coach. She offers counselling on relationships and parenting at her clinic “Spectrum”, situated at Calanna Pharmacy complex, Woree.

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helen gamble Midwife

Belinda Coldebella is a clinical nutritionist & founder of Healthkicks Allied Healthcare and Healthkicks.com.au which is an interactive healthcare business enabling acces to a healthy lifestyle, Australia wide.

Helen Gamble has been a midwife for 20 years and has worked both in the UK and Australia. She currently offers antenatal and postnatal care to women and their babies at Draper Street Family Medical, Cairns and Apple Tree Medical Smithfield appletreemedical.com.au

KERAN THOMAS Child & Family Therapy Specialist Keran Thomas and her team at Birdwing Therapies are mental health social workers that offer counselling and therapy to children, teenagers, adults and families. They specialise in assisting parents with child/ teen behaviours, developmental issues and trauma related problems. birdwingtherapies.com.au

LIZ cHAPPEL General Practitioner Dr Liz Chappel is a Cairns GP working at both Draper Street Family Medical and Apple Tree Medical Smithfield. She is the mother of 4 children and a Stepdaughter. Her Medical interests include paediatrics, adolescent health, women’s health, sexual health, rheumatology and elderly.

Jude Perrett & Fiona Reid Physiotherapists Jude Perrett and Fiona Reid are both physiotherapists with Amanda Gale Physiotherapy who have trained/worked overseas (UK, Canada and NZ). They’re passionate about all areas of physiotherapy, pilates, aquatic therapy, running and cycling biomechanical assessments, Tai Chi, pre and post natal physio and exercise programs

LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

Good afternoon Juanita & Bec,

Hi Juanita and Bec,

I was in the Reds Salon & Spa last night & was

May I begin by congratulating you on the success

browsing through your magazine. Very impressed

of the Cairns Parenting Companion. We have a

and would very much like to become a subscriber. heavily pregnant colleague who has had her fair

CONGRATULATIONS TO OUR PREVIOUS WINNERS Community Photo Board Winner Tammy Swain Jay Laga’ai CD Winners Miranda,Tracie and Kate Grubby Bubby Car Seat Cover Winner Amanda Brownhill Boxy Design Lunchbox Winner Lisa Ashfield Healthkicks Wellbeing Program Winner Tracie Sanim Congrats to our book winners for your Comments on our Blog & Garage Sale

My daughter has only just returned to Cairns after

share of hormonal mood swings, to the point the

10 years overseas and is expecting their first child

only male in our office has been scared off children

in June. Your magazine was most informative and

for life!! We loved the piece on page 36 “The

perfect to provide all the information they need.

Hormones Made Me Do It!” Absolutely Brilliant!

Heather York

Jo Wyatt

To Resentful, I really understood the lady in the last issue who confessed that she felt resentful. I feel that way too. Take care. Hang in there, Anonymous ore read m his t t u abo sion on s e f n o c k page our bac

IN THIS ISSUE YOUR CHANCE TO WIN • What body part is that? By Andy Griffiths

see pg. 51

• Night Road - By Kristin Hannah see pg. 14

Hi,

• ‘Cubs’ & ‘Princesses’ junior memberships

Since picking up the latest edition of the Cairns parenting companion at the local library,

from the Northern Pride see pg. 57

I think I've mentioned it in conversation 2-3 times a day while chatting to girlfriends. What

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• An illumiboard - Thanks to Illumiboard see pg. 20

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the-less. So while reading through from front to back, it was like ticking off a check list

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• Chemical Free Kids - Dr. Sarah Lantz see pg. 52

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forward to the next one although this one will keep me busy for a while. Thank you ;-)

The Good Guys see pg. 27

see pg. 20

Regards Juanita and Bec

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PREGNANCY - THE DAY WE WELCOMED

This was my second breech pregnancy. My first ended in a scheduled caesarean section due to lack of research and understanding of breech presentation on my part. I wanted things to be different for my second birth... After finding out my baby was breech at 32 weeks I tried everything to flip her around, Moxibustion, acupuncture, herbs, visualisation, lying upside down and music. It turns out she was staying in the breech position. I bought books, searched the internet and had long discussions with my midwife and husband about birth plans, possible outcomes and what felt right for us. By 42 weeks...Baby and I were ready! On Friday night after coming home from dinner I went to the toilet at about 8.30pm and felt a pop! My waters had broken so we called our midwife to let her know. After assessing the situation she said to give her a call back when things got moving a bit.

Everyone in the kitchen knew it was a girl but didn’t say anything, instead referring to her as ‘the bubba’ to save the surprise for me. I stood up to birth her head. She was slimy and chubby and beautiful...9 pounds, born at 1.30am. We went to lie down in the bedroom and wait for the placenta to birth; my husband, my new baby girl and myself, with my support group surrounding us - my mum, mother in law, and my beautiful midwife.

contractions just took off!

My 4 year old daughter slept throughout the birth and joined us in the morning. I had successfully birthed my breech baby, from a previously scarred uterus in the privacy and safe environment of my own home.

I felt happiest labouring on my hands and knees and butting my head into the lounge when a contraction came. My husband was rubbing the small of my back as hard as he could to counteract the pain.

I made a very informed choice to have my baby this way and it could not have happened without immense help and guidance from my midwife who had laden me with literature, websites, forums and support.

I had a mantra repeating in my head, something that I had learnt from a mediation CD... ”make friends with your out breathe”... so I did just that, and it helped immensely.

It was an experience I shall remember and cherish forever.

We ended up calling her back in 20 minutes as the

My breathing changed into a grunting sound so we moved to the birthing pool at about 12.30am, which was located in my kitchen. I pushed gently for about an hour. As I crouched in the water, her little bum emerged first and then out flopped her right foot and after a brief pause it started kicking around in the water. The sensation of a baby wriggling in my pelvis felt unreal and slightly uncomfortable!

Juliet and her family

Her other leg popped out and she was born up to her neck.

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PREGNANCY - INFORMED CONSENT

Choices and decision making evolving

• What is the process? How is

care provider. It’s imperative to have a

from informed consent play a major

good partnership with your care providers

part in our lives and shape everyday

• What if it doesn’t work?

events. However it won’t be until the

• What are the benefits?

Pregnancy, labour, birth and the transition

• What are the risks?

to parenthood are all events that will

• What

and

appearance of those 2 blue lines that you discover the importance of informed consent and the huge implications it will make upon your and your baby’s life. ”Informed consent” or “informed refusal” is not a form or signature. It is a process between a woman and her caregivers to help her decide what will, or will not be done to her and her body. Informed consent also empowers a woman to decide about her care and how it will affect her baby. When a test, procedure, or medication is proposed it’s imperative to get the following information before making a decision. • What is the reason for the

procedure, test or medication?

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it done? How does it work?

are

the

alternatives?

(including doing nothing at all)

and by doing so you will feel empowered in the decision making process.

be exposed to a number of testing screening

procedures.

Prenatal

screening is testing for conditions or diseases in a fetus before it is born. The

You should always take time to make your decision and it should always be made free of threat or coercion. However if there is a state of emergency, your care provider will let you know this and complete informed consent may or may not be given. Obstetricians, GPs and midwives have an ethical duty to properly inform women of their options, specifically the availability of screening and diagnostic testing. Informed consent extends beyond the above mentioned points to choosing a

aim is to identify birth defects such as neural tube defects, Down’s syndrome and

chromosomal

Common

testing

ultrasonography,

abnormalities.

procedures nuchal

include

translucency

ultrasound and amniocentesis. Once reserved for only “high risk” pregnancies, prenatal screening has now become a routine feature in most 1st world countries; with up to 90% of women receiving some form of testing in pregnancy (Dormandy.E , Hooper.R, Michie.S, & Marteau. T.M., 2002)

PREGNANCY - INFORMED CONSENT

During labour and birth you will be

of the aforementioned tests or screening

unlimited power. Women genuinely do

faced with choices regarding rupturing

will require your “informed consent” or

have the right to say “yes” or “no”.

of membranes, labour and birthing

“informed refusal”. Parents will also have

positions, pain relief and management of

to decide whether they will opt in to the

the third stage, to name but a few.

Government’s

Once your baby has been born there will a plethora of tests and post natal screening

schedule

childhood

immunisations, which commences at six weeks of age.

that your baby will be exposed to; Intra

So in summary, “informed consent” is

muscular Vitamin K, almost immediately

an ethical principle. It gives a woman

after the birth, and within your baby’s

the authority to decide about care that

first week decisions regarding a hearing

affects herself and her baby. I am happy

screen, Hepatitis B immunisation and the

to say that women are taking the initiative

Neonatal Screen Test (NNST) will have to

to explore their options and are pleased

be made. The latter screens for metabolic

when they take control. Gone are the

disorders

phenylketonurea,

days when Obstetricians, GPs, midwives

galactosaemia and cystic fibrosis. All

and hospitals are perceived to hold

such

Dormandy.E, Hooper.R, Mitchie.S, & Marteau.T.M.(2002). Informed Choice to undergo prenatal screening: A comparison of two hospitals conducting testing either as part of a routine visit or requiring a separate visit. Journal of Medical Screening, 9, 109-114

Article written by Helen Gamble, Midwife, Apple Tree Medical, Smithfield

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PREGNANCY - DOULA

So you are pregnant! Do you feel overwhelmed and unsure of what to do next? Not many newly pregnant women know about the existence of doulas, who can help pave the sometimes rocky path to a satisfying birth experience. The word "doula" is an ancient Greek word meaning "female servant," but today it stands for a person, usually a woman, who gives physical and emotional support to a mother and her family during pregnancy, birth and after childbirth. A doula is experienced and trained in childbirth and works alongside midwives and doctors in hospitals, birth centres and homebirths, but is not actually a medical professional. Instead, she provides a consistency of care throughout pregnancy, birth and the newborn period that is often lacking in today's medical system. Studies around the world have shown that through using a doula, women have fewer caesarean sections (45% less), they reduce the use of synthetic oxytocin for inductions or augmentations (40%), pain medication (31%), epidurals (10-60%) and the use of forceps (34%). Also, it has been found that women have a higher self esteem (74% vs 59%), less depression (10% vs 23%) and less anxiety (28% vs 40%) at 6 weeks post-partum. A large factor for these percentages is that a doula supports a woman in her innate ability to birth. When a woman discovers this ability, she often finds that she can birth naturally, with minimal or no medical intervention. There are situations where medical intervention is necessary and saves lives, yet many births are possible without such measures. For the birth of my son, my partner and I hired a doula in my last six weeks of pregnancy. I would advise hiring a doula much earlier, such as in your first trimester, as there are so many benefits to be had from her support. We ended up with a lot of information to absorb in a very short amount of time, whereas over a full pregnancy there would have been more time to digest everything we needed to know. Yet, even with the short amount of time we had available, we benefited enormously, as many decisions we made would otherwise not have been fully informed. We originally planned to go to a hospital, as there were no homebirth midwives available at that time, and wanted to have a natural birth.

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PREGNANCY - DOULA

As we now know, births cannot be fully

support during the experience. Many women

significance of the entire birth experience. Not

"planned," as nature takes its own course,

come away from an emergency caesarean

only as a single event in itself, but as it related

but with a doula we felt we were given more

with feelings of trauma, but I feel that I was

to the mother, the family and the greater

options and information than we would have

able to have as good an experience I could

community. When people talk about major life

had going through the conventional route of the

have had under the circumstances, equipped

transitions, birth is certainly one of them. Yet, for

public health system . Instead of the uncertainty

with the information and support I needed to

some reason, it is often disregarded, trivialised

of what doctor or midwife would be present

make the right decisions.

and feared in our culture. Birth does not have

during the birth, we knew our doula was there for us from pregnancy through birth to life with a newborn baby (she comes to your home and assists during this demanding time).During my pregnancy our doula visited us regularly, offering assistance and information on every aspect of the coming birth, and showed us how we could make the most of every scenario. Although my son's birth ended up in an emergency caesarean and not the natural birth I had been hoping for, we were able to make it a much more positive experience

The process to become a doula can be a very personal decision, as Lynda Hay from Chrysalis Birth describes: "Becoming a doula was a natural progression for me. As a teenager I attended my first births when my sister had her children. I couldn’t understand why family members said that it would turn me off having my own children.

to be feared, nor does a woman have to “just get through it”. Whatever the circumstances, the experience can be wondrous – as all life transitions should be. As a doula, I feel privileged to be part of each family’s journey. For me, it’s not only about the birth. I am there for the whole experience – pregnancy, birth and parenting."

It was an amazing experience and I felt truly blessed to be there when my nephews came into this world.

than it would otherwise have been, through

It wasn’t until my own births, that I started

the options our doula had provided, and her

to research options and understand the

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NEWBORNS - FNQ MULTIPLE BIRTH ASSOCIATION Here are a few more tips for those expecting multiples – by mother of twins & secretary of FNQ Multiple Birth Association, Karen Bradfield-Keary.

Having more than one baby definitely has its challenges. Joining a group like the FNQ Multiple Birth Association can give you support from those who know.

Come and celebrate Multiple Birth Week from Sunday the 13th to th 20 of March. Contact Karen Bradfield-Keary on 0439797221 for more information.

My biggest fear about having the twins was that I would never sleep again, which was about right for about 12 months. The biggest surprise has been just how different they are. Even though I had my suspicions this may be the case as they aren’t identical and they are boy and girl, but there is nothing similar about them. They have developed differently and at different stages. The nicest part is how well they get on. Just looking at each other can send them into peals of laughter, and if one is crying the other will come up and pat them on the head. Cathy with her twins Jack & Sarah

Biggest tip. Get organised! In the early days I used to do 12 bottles ahead of time, so everyone could just grab a bottle and feed a bub.

Baby bouncer/rockers The old wire frame type are very handy because they’re transportable and you can place one wire foot behind the other and rock them both at the same time with one foot while you eat Quantities You don’t need to buy 2 or three of everything. I managed to sleep my twins in the one cot until 6months of age, which also helps reduce the washing. Routine Get both babies in to the same routine. If you can achieve this, your days will be much easier to handle and it will help you to rest too. Get Support Get in touch with your local Community Health Centre and access their range of support services. For example, ask about their ‘extended midwifery service’ to have a midwife visit your home and their ‘Drop In’ clinics which operate at all the community health centres for newborns to 8weeks old. Get In Touch Get in touch with the Far North Queensland Multiple Birth Association Inc. This is a local organisation run entirely by multiple mums that have been or are going through the same experiences as you. You may also be able to pick up some bargains on larger items that are no longer required by their members.

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NEWBORNS - POST NATAL DEPRESSION

Nick as a 1 year old

Cr Linda Cooper and her boys Nick and Fraser. When I fell pregnant with Nick it was a

than 12months, and thankfully I had a

bag for about three months. As far as I

truly magical moment. From my teenage

supportive husband, because I don’t think

was concerned, as long as I didn’t have

years I had several surgical procedures

either I, or Nick would have survived

the script filled, I was still in control.

on my ovaries so my chances of falling

without his help. Stew would leave for

pregnant were dramatically reduced. I

work in the morning and come home at

had already gone through one pretty bad

lunch, to see how I was. On a good day

miscarriage so when I fell pregnant with

I’d manage to get myself in front of the TV.

Nick the doctors prepared me for the

On a bad day I’d still be in my dressing

worst, telling me that there was a high

gown at 5pm with a screaming baby

likelihood I would miscarry again.

who hadn’t been fed for six hours. I would

But I didn’t and my first child was born extremely healthy and was so wanted that I thought he would suffocate from love. It was an easy birth, his sleeping patterns settled rapidly into a once-anight feed and I avoided the post-baby blues that quite often happen in the first week. I thought it was all pretty ‘cruisey’ but unfortunately the feeling of love only lasted a month. I can’t recall the exact moment when I started falling ‘out of love’ with my own child, but I vividly recall the feelings of displeasure when he demanded a feed, or wanted to be held. The original maternal instincts that seemed so forthcoming when he was born had flown out the window, along with my sanity. But to the outside world I appeared okay.

nursing centre – contemplating how long I could leave Nick at the front door until someone would pick him up. I thought about leaving him behind in shopping centres, and I went away on two holidays without him, once for two weeks. I didn’t miss him; in fact I dreaded returning home to this creature who demanded… all the time. A routine visit to the local GP became the defining moment when I understood what was going on. The GP asked me a series of questions which were part of a process of diagnosing depression. My responses obviously rang alarm bells and after a non-invasive chat he suggested that I take some medication that would help me cope. I think it was Prozac but I can’t really be sure because whilst he had recognised what I was dealing with, I still truly believed I could control the

The post-natal depression lasted for more

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situation. The script for Prozac sat in my

That, in itself, was a stupid decision. Postnatal depression does not care how strong or controlled you are. From the outside looking in I still feel like it never happened to me. But unfortunately it did and it sours my memories of raising a delightful baby. When I fell pregnant with my second child Fraser, I cried for months, expecting that my family would have to go through it again and whilst the chances supposedly increase with subsequent births, it never happened. There is no rhyme or reason, and there is certainly no rationale of why some women are more prone to it than others. There is also no miracle cure but from experience I would recommend that all mothers at least be prepared for it, and to discuss options in advance with their family and their local GP. At least then you will have a support network ready in case you are one of the unlucky ones. As a postscript, both my boys are very aware of what I went through and I hope that in time, if they should ever experience it with their own wives, they’ll be able to give her all the support she needs and feel more than comfortable that Nanna can give back a little love that went missing in action years ago.

NEWBORNS - POST NATAL DEPRESSION

what the experts say....

Depression, including perinatal depression is

adequate support or treatment. It sounds like a

working with women in the perinatal period

like most health problems. It’s best to recognise

bad news story so far, but actually it’s a good

are getting in the habit of using this tool

symptoms early and use a prevention/early-

news story.

regularly as a way to screen for early warning

intervention approach. This limits the impact of being unwell and makes recovery quicker and less harrowing. Yet, as with Linda’s powerful story, sometimes mental health problems are allowed to linger for many months without acknowledgment or support. Why?

With the right support and treatment perinatal depression has excellent rates of recovery. As with all health problems, the trick is recognising the warning signs and acting sooner rather than later. Your Doctor, Midwife or Child Health Nurse can each act as a conduit to

We might find it difficult to explain why

support. Your Doctor may be able to make

our mood is low because depression isn’t

a referral to a Psychologist or other specialist

necessarily logical. As one new Mum said

health practitioner on your behalf. This could

recently, “I should be happy. My baby

be heavily subsidised by Medicare/your

is healthy, I have people who love me.

health insurance fund to minimise out-of-pocket

Really there’s not much wrong with my

expenses or, in some circumstances, can be

life. How come I’m so bloody irritable

free.

and miserable all the time?”

Take a couple of minutes to check on

Often people who haven’t had experience

how you’re travelling by completing

with depression don’t recognise it for what it

the Edinburgh Depression Scale on

is. In clinical and practical terms depression

the following page. If you’re not sure how

is much, much different to having a bad day.

to start the conversation about your mood,

Depression robs people of pleasure, tolerance,

just take your completed scale to your next

joy, sleep, appetite, energy and motivation.

appointment with your Doctor, Midwife or

This can last for months at a time if there’s not

Child Health Nurse. All health professionals

signs of emerging symptoms. Information assists understanding. Websites like these are a good place to start: www.justspeakup.com.au www.blackdoginstitute.org.au www.panda.org.au Last, but not least, chances are that there are people in your social network who have some knowledge of depression and will be able to support you. As you may have read in Linda’s story, her biggest regret is that she resisted support and treatment when she had depression. There’s no need to repeat that mistake. Please speak-up and utilise all the supports available. Paul McNamara is a Perinatal Mental Health Clinical Nurse Consultant based in Cairns; he is employed by Queensland Health but does not represent Queensland Health in this article.

If you need immediate assistance, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For further information about depression, contact beyondblue on 1300 22 4636 or talk to your GP, local health professional or someone you trust.

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The Edinburgh Depression Scale

Therapies Birdwing Therapists offer: Counselling and Therapy Sandplay and Expressive Therapies

Please circle one answer for each question that is the

Strength Based and Solution Focused

closest to how you have felt in the PAST SEVEN DAYS.

Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy Behavioural and Family Therapy

Most of the time 0

Relaxation Therapies

Quite Often 1 Only occasionally 2 Not at all 3 I have been able to laugh and see the funny side of things 0 1 2 3

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I have looked forward with enjoyment to things 0 1 2 3 I have blamed myself unnecessarily when things went wrong 0 1 2 3 I have been anxious or worried for no good reason 0 1 2 3 I have felt scared or panicky for no good reason 0 1 2 3 Things have been getting on top of me 0 1 2 3

0-9 Scores in this range may indicate the presence of some symptoms of distress that may be short-lived and are not likely to interfere with day to day ability to function at home or at work. However if these symptoms have persisted for more than a week or two it would be wise to seek advice from a qualified health provider to find out the cause.

I have been so unhappy that I have had difficulty sleeping 0 1 2 3 I have felt sad or miserable 0 1 2 3 I have been so unhappy that I have been crying

10 - 12 Scores within this range indicate the presence of symptoms of distress that may be discomforting. We suggest that you repeat the test in 1- 2 weeks time. If you receive the same or a higher score you should consult your general practitioner about those symptoms or ask your health provider to refer you to a mental health specialist.

0 1 2 3

13+

The thought of harming myself has occurred to me*

Scores above 12 require further evaluation and possible referral to a perinatal mental health specialist.

0 1 2 3 Now add the scores you’ve circled & put the total here(scores explained adjacent) Total:

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* This is a screening test only - it isn’t designed to replace clinical advice/assessment.

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NEWBORNS - CIRCUMCISION

In males the term “circumcision” refers to the surgical removal of the prepuce/ foreskin of the penis. This is a piece of skin that overlaps the end of the penis (the glans). Circumcision has been performed as part of a cultural /religious procedure for thousands of years. In the 1950’s, more than 85% of Australian infants were circumcised. These days it is estimated that currently about 10-20% of boys are circumcised (Queensland has the highest rate) and worldwide about 20%. Circumcision is an emotive health issue. Current prevailing policy in Australia does not support routine neonatal circumcision. It is up to the parents to make an informed choice for their son.

Reasons you may choose to circumcise your son • Religious, cultural or cosmetic (to be the same as dad) • Reduction in urinary tract infections (UTI). These affect about 1%

of boys and are more slightly more likely in uncircumcised boys

• Penile cancer risk, though rare (1 in 100,000) is increased sixfold

in uncircumcised males

• Circumcision is a surgical procedure that has risks and

• Uncircumcised men may be more likely to transmit the (human

papilloma virus) HPV to their female partners (HPV is the

cause of cervical cancer)

Reasons to not circumcise your son

complications (rate reported of 1-5%). These include:

• Bleeding and local infection

• Other infections such as HIV, herpes, gonorrhoea and syphilis are

• Cosmetic damage (too much or too little skin removal

more likely to be transmitted in uncircumcised men if unprotected

sexual intercourse is practiced. (The prepuce can act as

• Ulceration/scarring of the penis (may cause “narrowing of the

a reservoir for such infections.)

can cause problem requiring further surgery)

eye of the penis” or “buried penis”)

• Other medical indications for circumcision include (paraphimoses

• Sexual dissatisfaction. Some literature indicates that the end of

(inability to replace the foreskin to its normal position), phimoses

the penis becomes less sensitive after circumcision rarely males

(inability to retract the foreskin), and recurrent balanoposthitis

describe psychological trauma or decreased sexual function

(inflammation of the glans penis and prepuce)

as a result of being circumcised.

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NEWBORNS - CIRCUMCISION

If you wish to consider circumcision for your son you should discuss the pros and cons of this fully with your GP.

Your Thoughts on Circumcision The thought of having my little boy hurt just was not

In Cairns, Dr Roger Waterfield will accept referrals for boys up to a

something that I wanted to actively pursue. I believe that

maximum of 7 weeks old. (ideally under 4 weeks). His current charge is

there are health benefits to having it done, and some dads

$250 (a medicare rebate may apply). In Townsville Dr Harry Stalewski

want their sons to look like them but I personally did not feel

will accept referrals up to 8 weeks. He charges in the region of $350

strongly enough to push for it and he was too small when

(medicare rebate may apply).

we were in hospital.

Genital hygiene and the uncircumcised penis. Separation of the glans from the foreskin occurs spontaneously during childhood (usually by aged 5 but may not occur until puberty). The foreskin should be left alone during infancy (attempts to retract it can lead to infection,

(Odette from Bentley Park) We chose to have our sons circumcised for cultural reasons. Circumcision is an important part of their father’s culture, and it was important for us to have them done. The couple

scarring etc). In older childhood, once separation of the

days after it was done were a bit tricky until they were

glans from the foreskin has occurred gentle retraction

healed, but they are now none the wiser. It was a fairly

can be used (to the point where resistance is met), and

easy process and wasn’t too traumatic (I think they both

the area can be washed in the bath /shower with warm

cried more about being naked in the cold air-con then the

water. It is normal to produce a white crumbly material

actual snip). I did however get resistance from my GP who

made from dead skin cells, (called Smegma) beneath

gave me the 3rd degree when I asked for a referral.

the foreskin. This rarely causes problems and usually discharges spontaneously. It is thought Smegma may assist in the normal process of separation of the inner surface of the penis from the foreskin. It is important that the foreskin is never left retracted behind the glans as this can cause swelling, pain and risk of paraphimosis.

(Rebecca – Manunda) We did the research and found out that circumcision does not significantly help to prevent disease and infection as first thought. We just didn’t want the boys to go through an unnecessary procedure. (James from Kuranda)

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I was disappointed about not getting my son circumcised when he was a baby. I found it very hard to find local information about circumcision and unfortunately left it too late. I would now have to consider having him put under anaesthetic to have this done. (Melissa - Trinity Park)

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PREPARING TO FOSTER

I remember it was around my 5th birthday and I got a new present, in the way of a 2 year old foster brother we nicknamed ‘DJ’. He was this shy little boy with a cheeky smile who stayed with us until he was 17 and became one of many foster kids my parents would bring home to care for. Foster brother DJ with my mum, Brother David and me - Babinda 1978

Foster and Kinship care week (7 – 14th March) celebrates this very special group of every

Rosemary Illoste from Cairns miscarried one

day people, like my parents, who open their homes and their hearts to kids in need. **

baby, buried another baby, birthed two

Throughout Far North Queensland, including Cape York, there are about 379 approved carer

children, raised disabled twins, fostered 19

families. But with over 1100 kids currently needing on-going intervention many more carers

children and loved and honoured them all.

are desperately needed to provide safety and support to these ‘at risk’ kids.

Her self-published book,

** Based on Far North Queensland regional data for 2009-10. Taken from www.childsafety.qld.gov.au

Kids: Rosemary’s Babies” is a memoir that

“For the Love of

Rosemary felt compelled to write. “ I think there is a certain perception of foster

My Memories As A Foster Child – by Natasha Vitale

children in the community and I wanted the

I was born prematurely to very young parents and went in and out of care from when I was a

general public to know that these children are

couple of months old. The early years are just a blur to me but did impact on my relationships

very special.”

with many people. It seemed that I would just start to get used to my new home and I would be moved on again. My strongest memories really start when I was around four to five years old when I lived with my auntie, uncle and two cousins. I settled there and thought I was going to stay with them, which was okay because I was with family and my dad visited me sometimes. But of course I was moved on to another family where my younger brother and sister were

You can purchase this book by emailing Rosemary at r_iloste@hotmail.com or at the Raintrees Newsagency and the Jarra Newsagency in Tully.

fostered. Again just before my eighth birthday I moved in with the people I call mum and dad. Looking back I know that my early years left me with many insecurities and fear of rejection. But I am glad I was fostered and had the chance to be loved and belong in my foster family. We are very close. My foster dad gave me away at my wedding. My foster mum was present at the birth of my first child. I have limited contact with my birth parents but my foster parents are involved in my life always.

To purchase Rosemary’s Book ‘For the Love of Kids’ email: r_iloste@hotmail.com or at the Raintrees Newsagency and the Jarra Newsagency in Tully

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PREPARING TO FOSTER

What types of care is needed? General Foster Care: Family based care for children and young people with moderate to high support needs. Specialist Foster Care: Children/Young people are deemed to have complex or extreme needs and are able to live in a family based placement with intensive support. Residential Care: Children/Young People are deemed to have moderate, high, complex or extreme needs and are living in a residential placement whilst waiting for a family based placement or it has been identified that a residential care setting will best meet their needs. Residential care models can range from meeting the therapeutic needs of the children to providing basic foster care support. How long do I need to care for these children? There are many types of placements needed. Short term/Emergency: This type of placement occurs when there is an unexpected family crisis and children may need to be moved very quickly. Respite fostering: his is a placement where carers support specific children by promoting shortterm care on a regular basis.

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Long term: This type of placement is for the child who is not able to return to their family for a long time. The child may be in care until the age of 18.

SOME OF YOUR LOCAL FOSTER AGENCIES INCLUDE: Integrated Family and Youth Service Bronwen Tuimaseve - Team Leader, Foster Care Programs Ph: (07) 4032 9000 / Fax: 4053 6085 Email: btuimaseve@ifys.com.au

Kinship Care: Kinship carers care for children who are members of their family or community.

Families Plus FNQ Jeanene Lynam - Manager Ph: (07) 4058 3500 Email: jeanene.lynam@lccq.org.au

Specialist Care: This incorporates both primary and respite foster care. Carers are provided with an ongoing intensive support program to assist with meeting the young person’s needs. A specialist foster care allowance is applicable.

CAFAKCS (Culturally Appropriate Foster and Kinship Care Service) - Bev Godden - Manager Ph: (07) 4091 1188 Email: bgodden@wuchopperen.com

Do children have contact with their own family? Most children or young people will have contact with their family whilst in care. It becomes a real team effort between the carers, the child and the support and department workers to ensure the best outcomes for the child and to help them develop a sense of personal identity. What type of support do Carers receive? • Assistance from the support worker • 24 hour advice and support • Training and development • Support groups • Financial support • Youth mentors

Life without Barriers - Tony Willett Operations Manager Far North, QLD Ph: (07) 4032 8302 Email: tony.willett@lwb.org.au

Becoming a carer is a serious decision for any family. It is important that you sit down with your partner, your children or any other significant people in your life to consider the impact that fostering may have. If you are interested in becoming a carer and helping create a positive impact on a child or young person’s life then call 1300 550 877 or visit www.childsafety.qld.gov.au

Back Packs 4 Aussie Kids is a nonprofit organisation that packs bags for children going into kinship or foster care. f you would like to donate, contact Despina Parakas on 0401 473 185 WWW.BACKPACKS4AUSSIEKIDS.COM.AU

PREPARING TO FOSTER

One agency in Cairns helping to connect kids in need with specialist foster carers is ‘Life without Barriers’. This non-profit organisation aims to promote stability and long lasting relationships by finding homes for children with disabilities, special needs and challenging behaviours. All foster families receive ongoing support and training to maintain their capacity to care and assist them to meet the changing needs of each child or young person.

Q. How Long do Children stay in a Specialist

Q. Why do Children and Young people need

Foster Home?

Specialist Foster Carers?

A. This is dependent on each Childs need and relevant to their

A. • Teenagers who have not experienced a positive family life

individual situation. Each child’s situation is unique therefore Life

Without Barriers ensure Specialist Foster Carers are provided

with adequate information and support for each child in care.

family and show signs of stress, worry and insecurity.

Their anxiety and fears are often expressed with challenging

behaviours and anti-social acts.

Q. What do I need to become a Specialist Foster Carer?

and now need extra care, nurturing and deliberate intervention. • All Foster Children are affected by the separation from their

A. You can successfully become a Specialist Foster Carer at Life Without Barriers if you:

By providing a safe, nurturing and secure environment along with Life

• Are of adult age.

Without Barriers 24 hours Carer Support, you will contribute to the

• Do not have a disqualifying Criminal History.

improvement and development of a child’s life.

• Complete all relevant assessment and training required.

For example:

• Have the ability to provide deliberate and nurturing

• Improved attendance at School.

• The young person’s self-esteem and self confidence

care to children. • Are able to provide a safe, loving and caring environment to children.

may strengthen. • Their ability to resolve conflicts may improve and aggressive behaviour decline.

Q. Who are Specialist Foster Carers?

• Improved sense of community.

A. Life Without Barriers Specialist Foster Carers are people who:

• Children are less likely to be a victim or perpetrator of crime

• Come from diverse backgrounds and personal life experiences.

• Have identified abilities and strengths that are matched with

or be involved with substance abuse.

the needs of each child/ children. • Are committed to provide a nurturing environment to children who have challenging and/or extreme behaviours • Are resilient, honest and ready to take up the challenge to assist children to achieve a better life.

• Are able to demonstrate creative problem solving, have

good listening skills, flexibility, a sense of humour and

able to work as a team.

Making your decision. Being a Specialist Foster Carer is not right for everyone. But, is it right for you? While it is not an easy decision to make, we hope you will explore and evaluate your ability thoroughly.

If you are interested in taking the next step please contact our Cairns office and make an enquiry -We would love to hear from YOU 07 4032 8300 or visit www.lwb.org.au

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TODDLER - NO MORE NAPPIES

Poo smeared walls, exciting deposits behind the couch, accidents in the middle of shopping….. all the joys that toilet training brings, but the thrill of no more nappies is the definitely worth the effort.

Start Today! Let’s face it; toilet training is one of those things we are very happy to start tomorrow. The hardest challenge for parents is actually beginning. It is not for the faint hearted, we know this. It has been the procedure of many a parent to choose immediate “seek and destroy” of the soiled garment versus operation retrieval and clean-up. Whatever your method, you need to establish your game plan, arm yourself with the tools of the trade and just begin.

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Oh, Yeah! Praise, Praise, Praise. It is so important to begin toilet training with the right attitude. If you are not ready to give positive input into your child’s life, then hold off until you are. Build up not bring down is the key. Depending on how sensitive your child is, a displeased facial expression over an accident on the floor can be enough to set them back. Include – Go Team! Create ownership with your child where possible and include them on the journey with you. This is so important for better

understanding and acceptance. Take them shopping and let them choose their own underpants. They are more likely to keep them clean and dry. Oh, and this is a key part of the process that must be stressed – you CANNOT succeed, until you LOSE THE NAPPPY! Learn & Be Prepared Don’t expect the correct answer to the question “Do you need to go?”. How does your child know this? They have never done it before, you need to teach them. Knowing your child’s routine and getting them there at the right

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times, eliminates hit and miss. The more successes you have, the quicker they can start identifying what their body is doing to start to let you know they need to go. Excitement – Have fun! Think like a child and your child will respond accordingly. Turn the process into a game. Refocus and make it fun. This is the best way to overcome the Poo Challenge or avoid refusal. Use the same principles you employ to eat vegetables, because you know they need them. Don’t give up, just get cleverer!

and using the right tools can make it even easier. Flushable urinals for boys are a great advantage to teaching standing in real time.

Familiarity – feeling comfortable with the big toilet can help when leaving the home with acceptance of public toilets, etc.

Tools of the Trade – Potty or Toilet? This is often a personal preference thing, but if your child is over two, it is often easier to head straight for the toilet. This is what you need to consider:

Once you are ready to use the toilet you will need an insert to make the hole smaller to prevent fall-ins. Consider the process though when making this purchase – every day use - adding and removing - for the next two years or more of your child’s life….plus the next child. If you can afford the units that have the child and adult seat in one, it is worth every cent for convenience and sanity. Plus, at every opportunity consider tools that create independence. The child that can take themselves, because it is easy to pull the child seat down rather than juggle an insert, makes a big difference.

Clean out – Kylie with twin boys started toilet training at 14mths, and decided the potty was not for her, because she couldn’t stand the thought of the daily cleanup involved.

Toilet – Let’s go! Show your child it is a normal, everyday thing (which it is of course) and they will in turn feel comfortable with using this new tool. Monkey see, monkey do is the best way to teach your child, so let them watch you go. Watching Daddy weeing standing up is the best way to teach a boy,

Transition – The potty is only temporary. If you have a child that doesn’t like change, then starting on the toilet may be the best option to avoid another change in routine later on.

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EARLY CHILDHOOD - EARLY YEARS LEARNING FRAMEWORK

What an exciting time for young children! Finally, recognition across Australia from the very top (Council Of Australian Governments [COAG] in 2009) that Early Childhood consists of an incredible group of unique individuals who deserve to “experience learning that is engaging and builds success for life.”

Early Childhood – a group of wonderful

because someone else said to. A child’s play

problem solving, negotiating, improving

young people – including your children,

is their work so this means it will be relevant,

skills, building resilience & empathy – these

are at the heart of COAG’s vision that “All

stimulating and also a learning opportunity.

are just some of the attributes people learn

children have the best start in life to create a better future for themselves and for the nation”.

So we have Play-based Learning within a Strength-Based Approach – that’s when we look at how wonderful your child already is in

that we need during our lifetimes and what better time to learn than when we are young and our characters are developing and the learning patterns in our brains are being

To realise this proposal, Childcare Centres,

so many ways, and we provide opportunities

Family Day Care Schemes and Kindergartens

to extend their skills, knowledge and abilities

around Australia are embracing the “Early

by providing resources and interactions with

From January 2012 the Framework will

Years Learning Framework” (The Framework)

other children and adults.

be fully in place around Australia so

incorporating

various

elements

into

their daily programs and routines. As the name suggests, The Framework is exactly that – a structure or scaffold from which to build upon to support all young children in their quest to experience connections within relationships (families, friends, local community), cultures (neighbourhood, family, country) and learning (skills, knowledge, dispositions). The Framework has many aspects; a fundamental focus is that young children learn best through play. As you would know yourself, engaging in something you like and enjoy is more productive than the drain and drag of having to do a task

Educators in Early Childhood environments should

build

strong

partnerships

with

families, as you are a vital element of the success of our Government’s vision. Why? Because families are children’s “First and most influential Educators.”

Think about

what you do everyday – always talking with your children, playing games, reading, singing, undertaking normal daily routines around home (shopping, washing, eating, driving, meeting people, talking on the phone...) and all the time your child is learning and understanding more about the

formed?

this year Early Childhood services are gradually incorporating more aspects of the Government’s vision and your children will benefit in so many ways. Already there are many exciting and interesting activities & experiences occurring in childcare services; lots of learning through play, extending and perfecting skills. The Framework will provide clearer guidelines for all Early Childhood services and this ensures more children have opportunities to “maximise their potential and develop a foundation for future success in learning.”

world that they are a part of. Strengthening concepts (eg small, big, REALLY BIG),

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EARLY CHILDHOOD - EARLY YEARS LEARNING FRAMEWORK

Your Childcare Service should have booklets, fact sheets and lots of knowledge they can share about the Framework – just ask them! A key part of the Framework consists of 3 simple words – Belonging, Being, Becoming. Now picture a Pyramid – section it into three layers. The biggest piece across the bottom is the strongest and forms the basis for the rest of our pyramid. That section is called “Belonging”. We all need to connect with and belong to something – our family, our culture, our community, our peer groups. This

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Belonging is a firm anchor from which each person can grow and develop confidently and securely. The second level is “Being” – this is who and what we are here and now. This is us in our daily lives, living and interacting, learning and growing, it’s who we are Being. The final level, the apex of the pyramid is called “Becoming”. At all times we are identifying who we are. Our skills, capacities and knowledge constantly grows and changes; we are learning social behaviours, physical talents and maturing and developing our character and personality. The Belonging, Being, Becoming pyramid celebrates the wonderful journey of childhood and together with three other features of the Framework: Principles, Practices & Learning Outcomes, recognition is given to the major emphasis the early years of every person’s life has on their future success as an adult.

If your child is unwell, or if you feel something just isn’t right, head to your local V Pharmacy. You’ll be greeted by one of the friendly pharmacists who will be able to offer advice to put your mind at ease. And remember, there’s no such thing as a silly question when it comes to the health of your kids.

V Pharmacy is your trusted source for family health advice Cairns 86 Lake Street, Cairns T (07) 4051 2137

Kathy Lochlin - Smithfield Childcare Ref: Belonging, Being, Becoming. The Early Years Learning Framework for Australia Commonwealth of Australia 2009

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PLAYTIME FOR ALL ABILITIES a wheelie green future

A home recycling program is a great way to get the whole family involved in the recycling process. It provides a great opportunity to teach your kids about recycling and reusing. We want the planet to be a better place for future generations, but it is up to us to teach them how to keep it clean.

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Take advantage of the sunshine and ne afternoons by taking the family to one of the new All Abilities Playgrounds in Mossman at George Davis Park (‘Bubu Kinkari’) or in Edmonton at the Sugarworld Botanic Gardens. These playgrounds have been designed to be used by children of all abilities and include a variety of exciting activities that encourage inclusive children’s play. Structures include a double ying fox, a wheel-chair accessible carousel, bamboo maze and balance beams, as well as a sensory space with outdoor musical instruments. There are also lovely sand and water areas and a barbeque picnic node for families. These playgrounds are funded by Council and the Department of Communities, through Disability Services as part of the Queensland Government’s popular All Abilities Playground Project – enabling participation in play.

• Reuse things we have collected so they are not wasted as quickly; • Recycle what we can; and • Dispose of what is left responsibly. Improvements have been made in Council’s recycling facility and additional items are now recyclable. Milk and juice cartons have been added to the list of recyclable waste which includes glass, plastics, steel and aluminium cans, newspapers, magazines and cardboard. For details on what you can and can’t place in your yellow-lidded recycling bin, visit Council’s website or collect a guide from Council’s Customer Service Centres or any branch of Cairns Libraries.

Playing in drains is a dangerous game Heavy downpours during the wet season can quickly send torrents of fast-owing water rushing down street drains. Children often see this as a chance to ‘ride the rapids’ but don’t realise the risks such as ash ooding and consequent drowning, poisonous gases, dangerous animals, drug users and broken bottles. Keep your children safe; don’t let them play in pipes or drains.

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HEALTH AND FITNESS - GESTATIONAL DIABETES

What is diabetes? Diabetes is a condition that occurs when blood glucose (sugar) levels are raised and the body is not able to use it for energy as effectively as usual. This happens as a result of problems producing or processing the hormone insulin in the body. Insulin acts like a key allowing glucose to move from the blood stream into the body’s cells where it can be used by the body for energy. Lack of insulin or inability of insulin to work properly causes the doors to the cells to stay shut and consequently sugars in the blood rise to abnormally high and often dangerous levels.

Who is at risk? • Women over 30 years of age. • Women with a family history of Type 2 diabetes. • Women who are overweight. • Indigenous Australians and Torres Strait Islanders. • Certain ethnic groups including: Indian, Chinese, Polynesian, Vietnamese, Middle Eastern. • Women who have had gestational diabetes during previous pregnancies. • Women who have had difficulty carrying a pregnancy to term.

What is gestational diabetes? Gestational Diabetes occurs during pregnancy. In pregnancy, the placenta produces hormones that help the baby to grow and develop. These hormones also partly block insulin action, meaning the need for insulin in pregnancy is 2 or 3 times higher than normal. If the body is unable to produce this much insulin, gestational diabetes develops. From 3-8% of pregnant women will develop gestational diabetes around the 24th to 28th week of pregnancy. When the pregnancy is over and the insulin needs return to normal, the diabetes usually disappears.

How will diabetes affect my baby? The mother’s glucose crosses the placenta very easily into the baby’s bloodstream. If the levels are too high the baby will make large amounts of its own insulin as it tries to lower its blood glucose. These high insulin levels in the baby can: • Cause excessive growth and fat deposits • Cause low blood glucose levels after birth. • Can cause breathing problems in the baby

Treatment The best way to keep your blood sugar levels normal during pregnancy is for you to have the ongoing help and support of a team including your partner, doctor, diabetes educator, dietician and midwife. The 3 key components of your care involve: • A healthy eating pattern. • Exercise. • Monitoring of blood glucose levels.

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HEALTH AND FITNESS - HOW TO PACK A HEALTHY LUNCHBOX

Packing a nutritious lunchbox will keep energy levels high and help improve your child’s concentration and ability to learn. To achieve a healthy balance for your child include: fresh fruit, vegetables and a combination of protein, dairy and carbohydrate foods.

container of mixed vegetables such as cherry tomatoes, carrot sticks, capsicum and cucumber and introduce a dip or Philly cheese. Another great way to improve our child’s vegetable intake is to sneak some salad onto sandwiches by grating carrot and lettuce or by mixing chopped meat with chutney or avocado.

Fruit – Although not always the most favourite part of the lunchbox it is an important part. If your kids won’t eat traditional fruit it might pay to be creative – instead of a whole apple try an “apple slinky” sprinkled with lemon juice or add fruit with a little more appeal like strawberries or grapes. Appeal to their sense of fun and make some simple mixed fruit mini skewers. Also try alternating fresh fruit with dried or packaged fruits, like sultanas or dried apricots or tinned pears and peaches. Dried fruit can be high in sugar so have this only occasionally. Also best left out of the lunchbox is dried fruit bars, straps or roll ups, these are high in sugar and low in fibre.

Protein – Kids need protein in their lunch to help them feel satisfied longer. The best options include low-fat dairy snacks, such as cheese sticks and slices, yoghurt pouches or milk poppers. In sandwiches try lean meats like chicken, turkey, ham or tuna or sliced hardboiled egg. Spreads like hommus, peanut butter or tzatziki also make good fillings or sandwich additions.

Vegetables – Kids love colour and child size portions so try preparing a variety of vegetable sticks or a small

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sustain their energy levels throughout the afternoon. Include a mixed variety to keep their interest high. Try bread rolls, pita bread, flat bread, bagels or crispbreads. Fruit loaf, pikelets, scones or homemade muffins can also be good choices. Choose wholegrain varieties where possible but if they will eat nothing but white, choose a variety with added fibre. Snacks – I know it can be hard, but try to limit pre-packaged snacks in the school lunchbox as they are often packed with sugars and nutrition poor. Sticking to just one per day is ideal. The best snacks to choose are those that are high in fibre/ wholegrains and low in fat. Choose packaged snacks that are: less than 600kJ, have 3-5g of protein and have less than 10g sugar per 100g.

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FAMILY BUSINESS DIRECTORY PREGNANCY, CHILDBIRTH AND POST NATAL 13HEALTH 13 43 25 84 (24Hrs / 7Days) www.health.qld.gov.au/13health

Maternity Wear • Pregnancy Yoga/massage or other type classes • Support Services • Retail shops SHOPPING FOR KIDS (ONLINE & RETAIL STORES) Gift retailers • Baby Specialist Stores • Kids Products

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Breast Feeding Helpline – 1800 mum2mum or 1800 6862686. Locally call Julie-Anne on 07 4055 6552 www.aba-cairns.com

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Photographers • Jewellery KIDS WELCOME Family restaurants • Family venues • Accommodation with kids clubs • Travel Agencies for Families • Fun things to do with the kids

1800 671 811 www.immunise.health.gov.au

BEYOND BLUE 1300 224 636 (24Hrs / 7Days) www.beyondblue.org.au

PARENT LINE 1300 30 1300 (8am – 10pm / 7Days – cost of a local call*) www.parentline.com.au

FOR MUM Hairdressers • Beauticians • Masseurs • Day Spas CHILDCARE, BABY-SITTERS & EARLY EDUCATION Primary Schools • Day Care Centres • Baby sitting services HEALTH SERVICES GPs • Gynaecologists • Obstetricians • Dentists Paediatricians • Gyms • Pharmacies

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KIDS HELPLINE 1800 55 1800 (24Hrs / 7Days) counsellor@kidshelp.com.au www.kidshelp.com.au

PARTY TIME Face Painters • Jumping Castles • Dress Up • Great Venues • Decorator Retail Stores • Clowns Kids Entertainers KIDS DEVELOPMENT Swimming Lessons • Music Lessons • Gymnastics • Sport Groups • Child Behaviour Development

POISONS INFORMATION SERVICE 13 11 26 www.health.qld.gov.au/poisonsinformationcentre

TRADES AND SERVICES Cleaners - Internal and External • Pool Services • Painters • Electricians • Mechanics

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baby equipment hire & hot mummies

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Corner of Mcleod Street & Upward Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4041 0468 Fax: 07 4041 1176 Web: www.babyequipmenthire.com.au Email: info@babyequipmenthire.com.au

PO Box 2890, Cairns, QLD 4870 Ph: 0404 020 741 Web: www.unique4kidz.com.au Email: diane@unique4kidz.com.au

Looking for a cost effective way to have all the necessities for your newborn? Baby Equipment Hire has capsules, bassinettes, rockers and more for your little one. We are also a certified car seat fitter.

Unique personalised gifts for children. Specialising in Music, your child’s name is used to create the songs, titles include all their favorite characters, Elmo, Wiggles, Mickey Mouse, Disney Princess, Barney, also the Kids Jukebox range.

queensland health community health centres Smithfield - 16 Danbulan Street, Smithfield Ph: 07 4226 4800 Westcourt - 277 Mulgrave Road, Cairns Ph: 07 4226 4333 Edmonton - 10-12 Robert Road, Centenary Park Ph: 07 4226 4900 Web: www.health.qld.gov.com.au

Queensland Health provides child health services which operate from Smithfield, Westcourt and Edmonton community health centres. Services include support for parenting, infant feeding, growth and development and referral for complex family issues.

zoe strickland - pre and post natal massage Body Mind Breath Centre & Amanda Gale Physio Ph: 0420 504 421 Web: www.bodymindbreathmassage.com.au Email: zoe@bodymindbreathmassage.com.au Positive nurturing support during pregnancy and beyond. Specialist pregnancy massage service with experienced and certified therapist to facilitate relaxation, relief from discomfort and to help manage stress and fatigue. Gift vouchers available. Call for clinic times and addresses Refer to page 6

baby yeti Shop 1, 72-74 Grafton Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4031 6767 Fax: 07 4031 6767 Web: www.babyyeti.com.au Email: info@babyyeti.com.au Baby Yeti is Cairns’ first eco-friendly baby shop offering eco and skin-friendly products for pregnancy, birth, and beyond; specialising in certified organic clothing, bedding, carriers, and skin-care. Good for you, bub, and the environment!

baby beehinds - cairns product consultant Ph: 0431 606 797 Email: juanslade@gmail.com Contact me for a free product demo and learn about our gorgeous, modern cloth nappies – use cloth the easy way! *Natural Fibres, *Soft Comfort, *Ultra Absorbent, *Fashionable – We’ve got your baby’s behind covered

women’s psychological health 2/325 Sheridan Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4031 8095 Fax: 07 4031 8096 Email: wphealth@bigpond.com Psychologists: Charlene Halfhyde and Suzanne Habib Psychological services for women. Pregnancy support, post-natal depression, anxiety, relationship issues, parenting support, trauma/abuse, grief/loss; pain management; communication skills; self-esteem building; stress management.

Shaz Spannenburg Digital images Lot 32 The Rocks Rd, Redlynch Ph: 07 4039 0442 Fax: 07 40390551 Web: www.digitalimages.com.au Email: shaz@digitalimages.com.au Shaz specialises in producing beautiful pregnancy and baby images from the privacy of her studio in Redlynch. Shaz is an accredited member of the AIPP and has been a full time photographer for 10 years. Refer to page 17

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juniors cairns and atherton 183 Bruce Highway, Edmonton or 32 Main St Atherton Ph: 07 4045 4044 (cairns) Ph: 07 4091 2732(atherton) Web: www.juniorsonline.com.au Email: cairns@juniorsonline.com.au or info@juniorsonline.com.au Your one-stop-shop with EVERYTHING FOR KIDS. We stock all the leading nursery brands like Safe-N-Sound, Boori and Phil and Ted. Ask our knowledgeable and friendly staff about our great package deals. Lay-bys available.

michael aw - the good guys 285 Mulgrave Road, Cairns Ph: 07 4046 7900 Fax: 07 4046 7999 Web: www.thegoodguys.com.au/cairns Email: cairns@thegoodguys.com.au

The Good Guys Cairns now gives you the option to buy online and pick up in store within 60 minutes! All your household electrical and more are now conveniently available online. Visit www.thegoodguys.com.au/cairns” www.thegoodguys.com.au/cairns and start shopping today. Refer to page 27

La murtanie kidswear Shop 15, Charlotte Close, Woree Ph: 07 4033 1227 Web: www.lamurtaniekidswear.com Email: lamurtaniekidswear@gmail.com

La Murtanie Kidswear specialises in infant to Pre Teens clothing and accessories. Christening and some formal outfits. Themed umbrellas, Wooden toys, Hats, Swimwear ,Backpacks. Everyone is welcome, you will be pleasantly surprised at our range and prices.

brothers world of entertainment 99-105 Anderson Street, Manunda Ph: 07 4053 1053 Fax: 07 4053 1098 Web: www.brotherscairns.com.au Email: admin@brotherscairns.com.au

Great children’s dining deals at Sunsets Family Buffet Restaurant and a fully supervised Kids Play Room for 3-12yr olds! Playstations, Games, Toys, Colouring in and so much MORE. Open 6pm- late every day and Sundays 9-2pm, 6-9pm. Refer to page 43

CAIRNS WILDLIFE SAFARI 2577 Kennedy Highway, Koah Ph: 07 4093 7777 Fax: 07 4053 1098 Web: www.cairnswildlifesafarireserve.com.au Email: info@cairnswildlifesafarireserve.com.au

Cairns Wildlife Safari Reserve is home to many of the world’s exotic and endangered animals. Set on 200 acres, 40 km west of Cairns. Experience Breakfast with the Beasts - surrounded by 19 lions while you enjoy your morning coffee. Refer to page 60

DUNDEE’S RESTAURANT ON THE WATER FRONT 1 Marlin Parade Harbour Lights, Shop 3 Cairns Water Front Ph: 07 4051 0399 Fax: 07 4031 4292 Web: www.dundees.com.au Email: dundees@dundees.com.au Dundee’s Restaurant on the Waterfront specialising in Australian Beef, Fresh Seafood and Pastas.Warm welcoming atmosphere. Free parking when dining! Lunch and dinner seven days a week from 11:30am to late. A great family dining experience.

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team ingwe pty ltd - Pool alarms 47 Bramble Street, Clifton Beach Ph: 07 4059 0334 or 0418 233 299 Web: www.teamingwe.com & www.poolalarms.net.au Email: team.ingwe@gmail.com The team is dedicated to the sourcing and supply of top quality pool and other water alarms to combat the rising toll of water related accidents and death in Australia, particularly among the very young .Refer to page 26

just kids EARLY EDUCATION HOUSE 219 Draper Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4051 9788 Fax: 07 4031 5216 Web: www.justkids.net.au Email: admin@justkids.net.au

Established in 1985, Just Kids is focused on providing quality early education for young people. A home away from home. Come and visit us and check out the new renovations. Proudly owned and operated by Heath and Hayley Williams. Refer to page 59

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REDS SALON and SPA The Lakes Resort, 2 Greenslopes Street, Edge Hill Ph: 07 4032 0445 Fax: 07 4032 0448 Web: www.redssalon.com.au Email: info@redssalon.com.au Reds offers complete hair, spa and beauty treatments in glamorous surroundings. Refer to page 54

peak physique coaching and nutrition Ph: 0415 310 990 Web: www.yourpeak.com.au Email: cliff@yourpeak.com.au We are a locally owned personal training and nutrition supplement provider. At Peak Physique we provide One on One Training, Buddy Training, Bali Fit, Corporate Training, Fat Loss and Muscle Strength Coaching. Refer to page 38

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2-6 Fretwell Rd, Whiterock Ph: 07 4036 2777 Fax: 07 4036 2201 Web: www.childcarecairns.com Email: vicki@childcarecairns.com

97 Spence Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4051 3882 Web: www.beautyacademy.com.au Email: cba@beautyacademy.com.au

Let your child become part of the highly accredited, custom built, Sheridan Meadows Child Care Centre. Where trained and experienced professional staff offer families comfort, knowing their children are safely cared for in a home away from home learning atmosphere.

For a more reasonably priced beauty treatment with a prompt and professional service. Treatments available by a qualified beauty therapist and nail technician or with a practicing beauty student. Pregnancies massage or learn how to massage your baby also available. Refer to page 45

CATHOLIC EDUCATION DIOCESE OF CAIRNS 130 Lake Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4050 9700 Fax: 07 4051 2859 Web: www.cns.catholic.edu.au Email: enquiries@cns.catholic.edu.au

The Cairns Diocese’s 20 schools that offer Prep to Year 7 provide a quality, faithbased education. Fourteen schools also provide Before School, After School or Vacation Care. Catholic schools are affordable and welcoming to all.

executive babysitting Tari Place, Trinity Beach Ph: 07 4055 6510 or 0417 612 975 Web: www.executivebabysitting.com.au Email: pauline@executivebabysitting.com.au

Professional, reliable and affordable babysitting, servicing Cairns and Port Douglas since 1986. We service hotels, resorts, weddings, conferences and locals. Our team is committed to providing a safe, nurturing and supportive environment. All babysitters are holders of “blue cards”

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the skin care centre of cairns 1st Floor Traveltown 19 Lake Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4051 3087 Fax: 07 4051 3197 Web: www.skincarecentrecairns.com.au Email: info@skincarecentrecairns.com.au

Since 1972 we’ve been helping you with your skincare. Try ‘Environ’ – proven to be one of the world’s most effective skin care products. For a natural look that is concealing with a sun-block you can’t go past Jane Iredales 100% pure mineral make up.

brothers world of entertainment 99-105 Anderson Street, Manunda Ph: 07 4053 1053 Fax: 07 4053 1098 Web: www.brotherscairns.com.au Email: admin@brotherscairns.com.au Kids Disco Parties for 3-12yr olds with Crazy Bron and the Disco DJs, every Sunday from 3:30-6pm. Dancing, games, music, prizes, food and fun fun fun! Birthday Parties book fast so call now. Refer to page 43

cairns recreation centre

24-26 Armstrong Street, Edmonton Ph: 07 4045 4757 Fax: 07 4055 4599 Web: www.fullersports.com.au Email: info@fullersports.com.au

44 Behan Street, Manunda Ph: 07 4053 5353 Fax: 07 4053 3606 Web: www.cairnsrecreationcentre.com.au Email: geoff@cairnsrecreationcentre.com.au

The Family club on the Southside. Great children’s meal deals at the restaurant, and a state-of-the-art supervised Kids Play Area. Superb Dining, Bar, Café, Gaming and Entertainment facilities for mum and dad.

Cairns Recreation Centre is Cairns’ true rock n roll centre! For skating, rock climbing, parties, functions, conventions, trade shows and much more. Cairns Recreation Centre – promoting family, fun and fitness. Refer to page 41

granite gorge nature park 332 Paglietta Road (off Chewko Rd) Mareeba Ph: 07 4093 2259 Web: www.granitegorge.com.au Email: info@ granitegorge.com.au

Kids friendly, bush setting with a maze of awesome boulders, caves, pools and lookouts to explore. Hand-feed rare rock wallabies and petting animals, go swimming, fishing or just relax. Power sites & camping by open fire, stay in new cool, self-contained cabins or just come for the day.

cheeky monkey club cairns P.O BOX 571 Trinity Beach 4879 Ph: 07 4057 5214 Web: www.cheekymonkeyclub.com.au Email: sion@cheekymonkeyclub.com.au

Cheeky Monkey Club specailise in creating designer themes parties with a lot of fun and imagination. Catering for children of all ages, Cheeky Monkey Club can design games, activities and characters to make any theme come to life. Whatever the age, celebration or size, let the kids hang with Cheeky Monkey Club.

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CUPCAKE CREATIONS Civic Shopping Centre, 113-117 Sheridan Street Ph: 07 4051 1600 Web: www.cairnscupcakes.com.au Email: info@cairnscupcakes.com.au

Cupcake Creations involves a spoonful of laughter, a pinch of fun, sprinkle in some happiness and decorate with love! Cupcakes are available for Birthdays, Weddings, Baby Showers, Work Functions, Charity and Corporate Events and for those of you with a sweet-tooth. Refer to page 26

KIDS MOVES 7 Hodel Street, Whitfield Ph: 0408 772 590 Web: www.kidsmoves.com.au Email: sheridan@kidsmoves.com.au Kids Moves is solely based around children’s health, wellbeing, self esteem, and having fun! We specialise in birthday parties, special functions, and children’s fitness…We come to you! Check out our website for more information!

paradise palms resort and country club Paradise Palms Drive, Kewarra Beach Ph: 07 4059 9999 Fax: 07 4059 1120 Web: www.paradisepalms.com.au Email: sales@paradisepalms.com.au

Amanda gALE pHYSIOTHERAPY & wELLBEING cLINIC 17 Anderson Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4041 7717 Fax: 07 4041 7718 Web: www.amandagalephysio.com.au Email: info@amandagalephysio.com.au Physiotherapy and Wellbeing super clinic for all of your physiotherapy, wellbeing and fitness needs for the whole family. Specialist services for physiotherapy, pilates, massage, naturopathy, personal training, pregnancy fitness classes, beauty, yoga and health retail. Refer to page 41

Apple Tree Medical Shop 61, Smithfield Shopping Centre Cptn Cook Hwy, Smithfield Ph: 07 4038 2777 Fax: 07 4038 3077 Web: www.appletreemedical.com.au Email: reception@appletreemedical.com.au Apple Tree Medical at Smithfield Shopping Centre is the Northern Beaches newest General Practice offering a full range of GP services with male and female GPs and a midwife for postnatal and ante-natal support. Refer to page 4

Awakening Therapies 13 Anderson Street, Manunda Ph: 07 4031 1124 Web: www.awaken.com.au Email: julie@awaken.com.au

Children’s birthday parties have never been made easier at Paradise Palms. Prices start from $15 per child and include food, drink and access to Pelicans in Paradise Playground and swimming pool. Call 4059 9916 for further information Refer to page 7

We are a multimodality clinic dealing with a wide range of health issues. We offer acupuncture, massage, kinesiology, psychotherapy, dietary and nutritional advice, live blood analysis and specialised regimes for weight loss, fertility and stop smoking. Refer to page 23

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Ph: 0410 041 633 Web: www.sumphunkidzcraft.net.au Email: sumphunkidzcraft@gmail.com Sandart, Glass Deco, Shrink Art and other great crafts available to keep the kids happy and occupied. Ideal for Birthday Parties, Christmas Parties and Functions. Add some creative flare to your childs next birthday. Available for hire or retail sale.

zoo to you PO Box 335 Redlynch 4870 Ph: 0415 696 439 Web: www.zootoyou.com.au Email: info@zootoyou.com.au Zoo to You provides an interactive, up close wildlife experience. A variety of Australian native wildlife will be brought to you, in a range of educational or entertainment presentations for school groups, daycare centers and birthday parties with a difference! Refer to page 40

AMAZING CLEAN Ph: 07 4033 5283 or 0414 582 961 Web: www.amazingclean.com.au Email: amazingclean@tropicnet.com.au Bring your dirty or damaged blinds back to life! The Amazing Clean ultrasonic process will rejuvenate all types of blinds removing all types of stains & odours. Venetian, timber & roman blinds, vertical drapes, upholstery, leather and even mattresses! On-site curtain cleaning also available.

esteem cleaning service PO Box 741. Gordonvale, 4865 Ph: 0488 422 236 We can take care of all your domestic cleaning needs. Cleaning services include – Weekly/Fortnightly, *Ironing *Spring-cleaning *Bond and Vacate *Carpet and upholstery cleaning.Call us today for a quote. Full PL and Workcover Insured

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Suite 17, Calanna Medical Centre, Cnr Bruce Hwy and Toogood Rd, Woree Ph: 07 4054 5561 Fax: 07 3036 6928 Web: www.cairnsaudiologygroup.com Email: info@cairnsaudiologygroup.com Cairns Audiology Group is an independent Audiological practice which specialises in Paediatric hearing assessments from newborn babies through to school age children. We have the experience and skills to make the hearing assessments fun and easy for you and your children.

HEALTHKICKS 2/163 Lake Street, Cairns Ph: 07 4041 6675 Fax: 1300 635 243 Web: www.healthkicks.com.au Email: reception@healthkicks.com.au

Healthkicks Nutrition, Dietetic & Exercise Clinic specialise in individually designed health and wellbeing programs. Our fully qualified nutritionists, dieticians and exercise specialists use a team approach to help you achieve your health and fitness goal Refer to page 30

gps painting pty ltd PO Box 19 Bungalow 4870 Ph: 0408 988 683 Fax: 07 4052 1999 Web: www.gpspainting.com.au Email: info@gpspainting.com.au GPS Painting is a local family run business available for all your painting needs, residential & commercial, inside and out. We also provide Coolit roof painting. Call us for a free, no obligation quote and check us out on the web.

under pressure cleaning Ph: 0407 994 906 Web: www.underpressurecleaning.com.au Email: craig@underpressurecleaning.com.au Beat that ‘wet season’ mould! High pressure cleaning of your roof, eaves & gutters (gutter guard fitted), driveways, paths, patios & pool surrounds. Clean & seal timber decks, paint your roof and provide pre-paint prep for your house exterior. Call Craig now for a free, no obligation quote.

DIRECTORY

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spectrum counseling and life coaching Suite 9, Calanna Medical Centre, Cnr Bruce Hwy and Toogood Rd, Woree Ph: 0418 772 615 Web: www.spectrumlifestylecoach.com Email: naykww@austarnet.com.au Sometimes we need some counselling from professionals when things do not go the right way, or there is an issue affecting relationships and family. Sometimes life needs a change in direction – Spectrum Life Coaching can help you. REFER TO PAGE 6

32 Fishburn Street, Bentley Park Ph: 07 4045 2782 Web: www.swimskills.com.au Email: info@swimskills.com.au Boutique swim school offering small class sizes: BABIES MAX 4 PER CLASS, LEARNERS MAX 3 PER CLASS, STROKERS MAX 4 PER CLASS. Now with 2 specifically designed pools, fully enclosed and heated to 33 degrees all year round. Refer to page 8

C-ME SWIM

SPORTSWORLD 268 Gatton Street, Westcourt Ph: 07 4051 2863 Fax: 07 4041 2040 Web: www.sportsworldcairns.com Email: sportsworldfitness@bigpond.com

Sportsworld Fitness Centre is Cairns biggest and Best health club, offering state of the art facilities in a warm and friendly environment with child minding facilities available mornings and afternoons. Gym, classes, pool, sauna - you get the lot at Sportsworld. Refer to page 26

70 Russell St Edge Hill - Paradise Palms Country Club Sportsworld Fitness Centre - Gatton St. Ph: 07 4053 2549 Web: www.cmeswim.com.au Email: bookings@cmeswim.com.au

C-Me Swim is a boutique learn to swim school which offers quality learn to swim lessons for children as young as 5 months of age. With 3 locations, friendly, professional teachers and staff, and classes scheduled at various times to suit your routine.

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v pHARMACY – CAIRNS and SMITHFIELD 86 Lake Street, Cairns or Smithfield Shopping Centre Ph: 07 5051 2137 (Cairns) Ph: 07 4038 8900 (Smithfield) Web: www.vpharmacy.com.au Email: cairns@vpharmacy.com.au smithfield@vpharmacy.com.au When you leave a V Pharmacy, you don’t just leave with a product or prescription, you leave with a total health solution. At V Pharmacy you’ll feel V good, look V good. Refer to page 25

91-97 McNamara Street, Manunda Ph: 07 4053 1532 Fax: 07 4053 6268 Web: www.cairnspcyc.org Email: scott.pottle@pcyc.org.au The Cairns PCYC now provides more activities including Badminton, Basketball, Circus, State of the Art Gymnasium and ZUMBA. We also offer kindy gym, recreation classes up to level 4 for your kids. PCYC for FAMILY FUN and FITNESS. Refer to page 21

KINDERMUSIK WITH NICOLE

BIRDWING THERAPIES Ph: 07 4041 3504 Fax: 07 4041 4359 Web: www.birdwingtherapies.com.au Email: birdwingtherapies@bigpond.com At Birdwing Therapies, Keran - Social Worker and Therapist specialises in counselling and therapy for children, adolescents and families. Keran is able to do home and school visits to assist parents and carers of children having emotional and behavioural difficulties. Refer to page 11

9 Donnelly Close, Brinsmead Ph: 07 4034 2219 Fax: 07 4034 2886 Web: www.kmusikcairns.com Email: kindermusikwithnicole@yahoo.com.au

Music and movement developmentally appropriate classes for children 0 – 7 years. Classes held in air-conditioned studio in Brinsmead. Business established since 1998. Call or email Nicole for more information.

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HEALTH AND FITNESS

And the crowd goes wild! Well, 4 kids and a husband anyway. Tanya Brooks-Cooper from

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Companion E-newsletter winner to receive a figure over-haul. 12 weeks of one-on-one fitness coaching, nutrition and exercise plans with Cliff Kovacs from Peak Physique

Whether it’s getting back into the school routine, bed times, homework, sport or dealing with the overwhelming images of the Queensland Floods and cyclone ‘bad news’ stories, our kids minds are not only sponges for learning, but have all the hormonal and chemical responses to the way they live, eat, move, play and learn. This is occurring in their developing brain at a rapid speed, and patterns will start to set them up for the responses they will have for life… in work, relationships, eating, moving and playing. Children need 30-60 minutes of physical activity a day to help regulate their level of happy hormones (serotonin, endorphins, dopamine, and norepinephrine), which are secreted by the pituitary gland, the pea-sized master gland located deep within the base of the brain. Serotonin is released with mild, normal physical activity, like walking, riding, and playing, and gives us the sense of wellbeing that ‘we can do it’ and a nice sense of calm afterwards. Serotonin is released just by moving around because we are built to move. Normal functional movement gives us the oomph to ‘get up and go’ and to keep going. Endorphins are the ‘huff and puffers’, we often feel exhilarated, peaking and quite invincible after running around. Your kids will be hyped up after this and it naturally lowers the stress/worry chemicals like cortisol in the brain. Kids who don’t move enough can be depressed, worried and overwhelmed as cortisol builds up in the brain. It’s the happy hormones that regulate mood, appetite, sleep and general wellbeing, and kids who move 30 minutes a day or more naturally manage the stress chemicals and hormonal responses to life. Try these ‘happy hormone’ strategies: Move to boost happy hormones, 30 minutes every day – it doesn’t matter how - just move, walk, run, ride, scoot, dance, play, climb. Feed the happy hormones – only eat when you are hungry, and teach your kids about Red, Orange and Green Light foods. Low Glycaemic Index foods will also regulate insulin responses to meals, and kids’ energy levels will be more even, and they won’t be ‘starving’. Laugh to increase happy hormones- laughter increases heart rate and blood circulation, lowers stress hormones and raises the happy hormones. Focus on the Positive – look for the good in everything, and catch yourself when complaining as your children will naturally adopt your attitudes.

Coaching and Nutrition.

WHO’S THAT GIRL? Tanya and her husband were married in 2008. The Mayor will remember the special occasion as one of the key attendees, and this year with her youngest daughter starting high school, it’s great timing. Now there’s room for Tanya to focus on her self - well sort of, there is also a newborn to consider. The hardest challenge will be adding her strict exercise and new healthy eating plan to her already busy life. “I’m really looking forward to downgrading my wardrobe from size 18s to 14s, then I’ll set my sights on a half marathon. But to start off with I’m really looking forward to exercising again, with my own fitness coach”

THE PLAN Every four weeks we will have a measure in of both biceps, bust, hips, waist and both thighs. We will then compare the results every four weeks. Each week I will post the workouts that Tanya has mastered at www.yourpeak.com.au along with a few tips. Every four weeks in Parenting Companion’s e-newsletter we will have a catch up so everyone can see how Tanya is going.

OUR GOAL Size 14 or better. And for everyone at home hopefully a fitter, healthier and more motivated you. Cliff and Tanya For more information email cliff@bootcamp.com.au or visit www.yourpeak.com.au.

HEALTH AND FITNESS - PILATES

something for everybody!

MICK - 8 week beginners Pilates course (Back to Basics) How were you introduced to and what was the reason for starting Pilates?

exercises to do. Have you tried other types of strengthening exercises? If so what were they and how did they compare to Pilates?

You can participate in Pilates any time, even when an injury is present. You feel very balanced in the core and elongated and stronger after each session. This feeling stays with you after continued participation.

It was recommended by my physiotherapist as I was suffering from knee and low back pain and struggling with my posture.

I regularly go to the gym but I enjoy Pilates as it targets my core strength with less injury and strain. After decades of sporting activity, I wish Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d been introduced to Pilates earlier.

How long have you been practicing Pilates?

DIANE - Clinical Equipment Pilates class

During the 8 week course I spent 20mins each day practicing my class exercises that were progressed each week. By the end of the 8 weeks, I could see how much stronger I was and my back pain had also decreased, so after I finished the course I continued to practice independently for 20-40mins 3 times a week.

How were you introduced to and what was the reason for starting Pilates?

Having a Physiotherapist who understands what my physical status is at any point in time means that my programme can adapted accordingly. When I had severe low back pain, my programme was modified so I could continue to exercise. My back has improved so the exercises can now become more challenging again.

Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve always been very active but after breast cancer surgery, I realised I needed a gentle and controlled way to return to exercise.

Have you tried other types of strengthening exercises? If so what were they and how did they compare to Pilates?

While visiting Melbourne, I was introduced by my daughter to a physiotherapy-based Pilates equipment class. I then waited anxiously for the same kind of class to be introduced in Cairns.

I participate in weight training, boxing, cardio, RPM, swimming, and regular walking and hill trekking.

What do you like about Pilates? In the Back to Basics courses, you receive handouts with each class which then makes up into a really useful course handbook by completion of the course. It allows easy reference to a whole host of

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What do you like about Pilates?

What are the benefits of Pilates?

Since attending regular Physiotherapistled Pilates classes twice weekly since May 2010, my core has strengthened immeasurably.

HEALTH AND FITNESS - PILATES fiona - Anti-natal Pilates class How were you introduced to and what was the reason for starting Pilates? I started Pilates as one of my classes at my gym. When I got pregnant I decided to seek out a small class so I could be more monitored. What do you like about Pilates? I feel refreshed and relaxed after a class. Having a Physiotherapist who comes round to you throughout the class means they can make the exercise work that much better just by tweaking your position or technique a fraction. Also, being in a small class rather than with 30 other people means you can get individual attention. What benefits do you experience with Pilates? I feel calm and happy at the end of a class. I know I am working towards a goal of strengthening and balancing my body. I feel really confident doing Pilates while I’m pregnant and stretching relieves some aches and pains. I think about the instructions regarding posture and balance throughout the week not just in the class. Have you tried other types of strengthening exercises? If so what were they and how did they compare to Pilates? I have done a little weight training and pump classes. I find classes more interesting than weights in the gym.

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I have also learnt that sometimes ‘less is more’. In gyms, they tend to push with ‘upping’ weights without focusing on positioning and accuracy. naomi - Postnatal Pilates class How were you introduced to and what was the reason for starting Pilates? I originally trained in Pilates when I was ballet dancing. After having two big babies my stomach muscles had separated and my pelvic floor muscles weren’t improving. I knew I had to start doing something about it. How long have you been practicing Pilates? I’ve just started the last couple of months. I’ve already seen significant improvements in my pelvic floor muscles and my inner stomach muscles- they have improved amazingly! I’ve also had fewer tension headaches since starting Pilates. Have you tried other types of strengthening exercises? If so what were they and how did they compare to Pilates?

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I had tried at home to do pelvic floor exercises but I didn’t know if I was actually doing them right, so it’s been great to learn how to do them correctly by a professional.

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HEALTH AND FITNESS - HEAD LICE

- Nick Loukas Pharmacist for V Pharmacy It is that time of year again, when back to school means welcoming new visitors into your home. Yes, the dreaded visit from the head lice family. Head lice are common in children and their families. Head lice are small insects that live on the scalp and lay eggs (nits) on the hair. Lice and nits cause an itchy scalp, although not every child gets the visible ‘scratch’, so regular checking of hair is vital. If your child has not been treated for head lice before, and you only find eggs, you should consider treating for head lice. However another option, if you do not want to use insecticidal treatments, is to check again the next day using the conditioner and comb technique. If your child has been treated recently, and you find only hatched eggs, but no lice, you may not need to treat since the eggs could be from the old infection. You should check your child every week using conditioner & a fine tooth comb. A female louse will lay between three to eight eggs (nits) per day in the hair, within 1.5cm of the scalp. These eggs resemble dandruff but cannot be brushed off. Head lice do not have wings or jumping legs so they cannot fly or jump from head to head. They can only crawl. People get head lice from direct head to head contact with another person who has head lice. Head lice live in the hair and come down to the scalp to feed by sucking blood. So head lice formulations must be applied to all parts of the hair. A complete regime consists of two treatments 7 days apart, the first to kill the climbers, and the second to kill the juvenile lice hatched from the eggs over the intervening 6 days. No currently available product kills all eggs. Many head lice products contain insecticides and most work by attacking the nervous system of the lice. All products licensed and registered with the Therapeutic Goods Administration in Australia have an Aust L or Aust R number. Check for this to see that the product is licensed for use in Australia. Be wary of head lice treatment products in Australia that are not officially approved. It’s important to follow the directions exactly because these products are insecticides. Applying too much medication or too frequently can increase the risk of causing harm. Following the directions on the product label is also important to ensure that the treatment works properly. If your child is 2 years old or under, you should not use medicated lice treatments without talking to your local pharmacist. At V Pharmacy, we can recommend a medicated shampoo, a cream rinse or a lotion to kill the lice. These may be over-the-counter (OTC) or prescription medications, depending on what treatments have already been tried. Medicated lice treatments usually kill the lice and nits, but it may take a few days for the itching to stop.

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Come & Meet the Animals This Easter! For all the fun of the farm join Melville’s Baby Animal Farm in Centre Court - Cairns Central.

There’ll be baby chickens, ducklings, geese, lambs and kids just to name a few. FREE at Cairns Central!

Sat 16 – Sun 24 April

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With Quicksilver or Great Adventures

It’s time for holiday fun on the Great Barrier Reef! These school holidays when you cruise with Quicksilver or Great Adventures, the kids will receive our fun Squid Squad Great Barrier Reef activity book for FREE!

The Cairns Recreation Centre is operating a fun program full of sports based activities for school aged children between 5 and 14 years (in a non competitive environment). From indoor rock climbing, roller skating, to team building events and other indoor sports – it will be non-stop activity & FUN! Plus there’ll be special visits from local sporting identities. 8am – 5pm Monday – Friday $25 all day and $15 for half a day. Bookings preferred. Phone 40 535353

Just mention Cairns Parenting Companion when booking. And of course don’t forget your locals 30% discount!

Quicksilver Outer Reef and Low Isles Cruises: 4087 2100 Great Adventures Reef and Green Island Cruises: 4044 9944

Give your child the Jump Start they deServe phone 07 4036 8111 PO Box 110E, Earlville Queensland 4870 email tas@tas.qld.edu.au | fax 07 4036 8222 TAS White Rock, Progress Road TAS Kewarra Beach, Poolwood Road

The first year of school sets a vital platform for your child’s future education. When you enrol your child in the TAS Prep Programme, Jump Start, you can be assured they will receive the best possible start to their schooling life. TAS Jump Start provides an enjoyable and nurturing environment with a stimulating curriculum that develops skills and confidence to set your child up for a prosperous TAS education from Jump Start to graduation. Visit www.tas.qld.edu.au or email our Admissions Officer at admissions@tas.qld.edu.au to make an appointment with one of our Early Childhood Specialists.

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CRAFT ACTIVITIES

1. First you will need to paint your

plate - we chose yellows and

oranges but you can paint your

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2. Allow to dry. 3. Fold your plate in half to form the

chickens body.

4. Cut a beak from the orange

cardboard (see template on our

website) and attach with glue or

sticky tape to the inside front

end of your plate.

5. Attach wiggle eyes with glue to the

front of both sides of your plate.

6. Attach some feathers to the back of

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HEALTH AND FITNESS - ORAL HYGIENE

Children’s health and well-being are a primary concern to all parents. Children’s oral care and the maintenance of healthy teeth play a vital role in insuring a healthy childhood. When will my baby’s teeth develop?

How should I brush my child’s teeth?

There is no exact timeframe in which your baby’s teeth will develop. In general your baby’s front four teeth (two on the top and two on the bottom) are the first to appear,

usually between 6 – 12 months of age. Over the course of the next 2 years up

Use a pea size amount of children’s toothpaste

until the age of 3 years, a complete set of 20 primary or baby teeth should have appeared. Even though all 20 baby teeth will eventually fall out it is important to take

Use simple brushing technique such as small circular brushing motions

It often helps to stand behind your child and tilt their head back, supporting their jaw with the opposite hand.

good care of these first teeth as they not only allow good function and aesthetics, they also hold the spaces for the permanent teeth and allow a straight eruption path. When should I take my child to the dentist? It is recommended that your child’s first dental visit should be timed when their full set of baby teeth have appeared. This is usually around 18 months to 2 years of age. This enables the dentist to check for early signs of problems, show you the right way to clean and care for your child’s teeth and is a good opportunity for you to ask any questions about the development of their teeth. It is important that your child’s first dental visit is pleasurable and fun, which will help to motivate and keep your child enthusiastic about caring for his or her teeth.

Choose a children’s toothbrush suitable for the age – not too big with soft bristles

Generally children under the age of ten years require help brushing their teeth, whether you are brushing their teeth or supervising.

So remember, starting early and starting right will ensure that your child will stay healthy, happy and have a right smile for many years to come.

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Dear Baz,

Dear Baz.

My 12-year old daughter has a gutter mouth. I’m worried that her exposure to the latest music film clips has de-sensitised her. What can I do to tidy up her language before she gets kicked out of school? From Lyn Jenson Owner of Sushi Express & mother of one Lyn the problem of our dear little treasures picking up the language most commonly used in the smoko room at a construction site is one that many parents go through. I know my parents had to go through it when I was a little tacker and have thankfully now passed on that burden to my wife. Now you say your daughter is 12 years of age, well my dear, you should be thankful that your little gutter mouth is a late bloomer. I think a short word of warning, from you to your daughter, simply explaining that if she doesn’t curb her language then you will be forced to wash her filthy, painter and docker, trollop, trash talking mouth out with wasabi. Also your concern over the listening/ watching of music that de-sensitizes our youth can also be fixed with the wasabi. Simply rub the wasabi into her sinfully peering eyes and clog up her repulsively respondent hearing ears. This will in turn cover her in the glory of the underlying message of all three monkeys. “Hear no Evil”, “See no Evil”, and “Speak no Evil”.

My youngest daughter won’t keep her shoes on. She would walk around barefoot all day if she could. What can I do to encourage her to put them on and keep them on? From Tyson Franklin - Proarch Podiatry.

This dilemma is as old as time itself. As far as man has come since inventing the wheel, we have not, to my knowledge, been able to overcome this age old problem. Having three (3) boys in my household, I’m not up to speed in dealing with things made of sugar and spice and all things nice, however the fact that this problem is not restricted to a single sex I can tell you I’m in a similar predicament with my two (2) year old. In Zoolander headquarters (my house) this problem is dealt with in the simplest of manners, utilising basic duct tape. By taping his footwear to his feet, the barefoot bandit can’t strike again. This solution sometimes has its drawbacks, namely if you put the tape on to tight. Of course having tape over the whole foot can also cause problems with loss of grip when walking in wet areas but at least if they end up in hospital due to a fall, the police won’t be called to investigate child abuse/neglect as they will be able to see that the child has footwear on. Regards Zoolander Baz.

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CALENDAR

AUTUMN CALE CAIRNS MARCH

APRIL

International Women’s Day Breakfast Pullman Hotel Reef

Chemical Free Kids Seminar With Dr Sarah Lantz The

5th

Casino from 7am This year marks the 100th anniversary of when International Women’s Day was first celebrated in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland in 1911. You can book your tickets through ticketlink on 1300 855 835 or www.ticketlink.com.au.

8th International Women’s Day 2011 Celebrating 100 years of women’s achievements

10th – 12th

Leukaemia Foundation’s World’s Greatest Shave National Playgroup Week

23rd World’s Biggest

Playgroup 10.00am – 12.00pm Goomboora Park, Brinsmead (behind Cool Waters Caravan Park) Come and enjoy a morning of FREE fun activities for children under school age! Contact Emma on 4033 6566 for more information.

26th & 27th

Raintrees Shopping Centre Tackle & Tinnie Show

10.00am – 1.00pm Two days of nautical know how will be shared with fishing and boating enthusiasts with guest speakers and exhibitors from around the region. Join Zinc FM on Saturday from 10am - 1pm as they broadcast live from the centre.

Toad Day Out & Earth Hour

At 8.30pm on Saturday 26th March the world is encouraged to ‘TURN OFF’ for 1 hour to take a stand against climate change. While your lights are out, turn on your torch and support TOAD DAY OUT! Gather your family and friends, and your toad catching equipment to capture as many toads alive and unharmed as you can. Keep them over night and on Sunday 27th join the fun on collection day – 8.30am to 12.00pm at Main Park on Smithfield Village Drive. There will be a gold coin donation BBQ and plenty of prizes! Call Lisa on 0488 900 302 if you require further information.

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Cairns International from 2pm at Brothers World of Entertainment There are over 100,000 synthetic chemicals available on the market and over half of these have never been tested for their toxicity on the human body. This is your chance to learn how to raise healthy kids in a toxic world. Head to www.parentingcompanion.com.au to find out how you can purchase your tickets or see page 53 for more information.

MAY

1st

Feast Of The Three Saints

Silkwood 10.00am til late Bringing together people from all over the region in celebration and to enjoy the festivities. www.feastofthethreesaints.com.au

Kuranda Easter In The Park

10.00am – 4.00pm Centenary Park, Kuranda will be buzzing for Easter in the Park!! There will be fashion parades, busking competitions, horse carriage rides, huge jumping castles, kids games, whip cracking show, didgeridoo competition, baby animal petting zoo, animals from the Cairns Wildlife Safari, cane toad races, face painting, Honey house bee hive display (buzz buzz) and a huge Easter Egg Hunt. Visit www.facebook.com/event

6th

Diesel In Concert from 8.30pm at Brothers World of Entertainment

8th Mother’s Day

10th

Adam Harvey & Beccy Cole in concert from 8pm at Brothers World of Entertainment

15th School Holidays Start 22nd Good Friday 23rd Holy Saturday 24th Easter Sunday 25th Easter Monday ANZAC Day

It is the day we remember all Australians who served and died in all wars, conflicts, and peacekeeping operations. Cairns Esplanade cenotaph is one of the sites for the Dawn Service.

27th Back To School

“Mothers hold their children's hands for a short while, but their hearts forever” Author Unknown “God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers” Jewish Proverb “Insanity is hereditary; you get it from your children” Sam Levenson

9th Bec’s Birthday 25th National Simultaneous

Storytime 11.00am at all library venues in the North ‘Feathers for Phoebe’ by Rod Clement will be

ENDAR INNISFAIL/TULLY

2011

MARCH

APRIL

Feast of the Senses Sunday 27th March

The 28th Annual Innisfail District Ballet & Dance Competition

18th – 27th

is the Market Day, proudly sponsored by Australian Bananas, with over 80 market stalls expected, with plenty of local produce and local eateries out to ‘strut their stuff’. Bring the family down to Innisfail for a day of fun and food and also to support the beautiful city of Innisfail! Street Entertainment and the Rambutan Competition is worth the visit. www.feastofthesenses.com.au

MAY

15th - 21st

Attracting over 350 dancers and performers from the region, being held at the Innisfail Shire Hall starting at 9.00am Daily. visit www.idbds.com.au for more information

21st Golden Gumboot

Festival, Tully from 2.30pm

To promote Tully`s reputation for being a “Pretty Wet Place” this family-oriented festival has as many things to do involving gumboots as you can imagine! The Gumboot Games include gumboot throwing competitions, gumboot golf putting, dancing in gumboots, decorated gumboots..! Includes festival parade and Golden Girl quest and a big afternoon of family entertainment, food and music. Starts 2:30 pm with Festival Parade around the Tully Showgrounds. Contact Tully Visitor & Heritage Centre http://tullygumbootfestival.com/home.html 4068 2288

TABLELANDS APRIL

MAY

Country Rock & Blues Undara

Wheelbarrow Race Mareeba to Chillagoe Starting at the Mareeba Heritage Centre, solo runners, duos, mens, ladies and mixed teams work to out-do each other to reach the finishing line in Chillagoe first and also to raise much needed funds for local charities. For more info and registration visit www.mareebaheritagecentre.com.au

15th – 17th Outback Volcanic Park 3 days of great music in one of our region’s most amazing places, Undara Volcanic Park along the Savannah Way. visit www.undara.com.au

PORT DOUGLAS/MOSSMAN

13th – 15th Great

MARCH

APRIL

MAY

2011 Wednesday March 2nd till 6th

Port Douglas Academy of Performing Arts is conducting

Douglas Carnivale

2nd Parenting Program

April from 5.30 to 7.30pm at the Mossman Community centre. Cost $30.00 per adult (negotiable For more information visit www.pdnc.org.au ph 4099 5518 or email family1@pdnc.org.au

13th Shave for a Cure with Mereana at the Port Douglas Yacht Club

Ongoing Swimming lessons at the Mossman swimming pool

Catering for 3 months to teenagers during the school terms. Phone 40982627

27th

dance, singing and drama classes. Available Monday to Friday during the school term. Phone 0408985157 for more information

19th – 29th Port visit

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20th Carnivale Parade

Macrossan St starting at 5.30pm with main procession at 7.00pm. This year’s theme is ‘Wonderland’. Check out the entertainment zones up and down Macrossan St so there will be something to keep everyone entertained from 5pm till midnight! Don’t forget the kids amusement park set up at the Sugar Wharf end of Macrossan Street offers old world fun fair atmosphere for the whole family! Submitted by Sandra Zajaz from Port Kidz

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EARLY CHILDHOOD - READY READING

I bet you can remember your favourite story when you were growing up? Stories help children to cope with a lot of their feelings and problems. Story time can be a special caring time, which they will remember all their lives.

Tips for story-tellers Whether you read or tell stories to your children you will be helping them in many ways.

You can get picture books that don’t have any words, so you can make up the story from the pictures for your children. Telling them or reading them from books, stories are one of the ways that children learn to enjoy reading.

Babies and toddlers Young babies enjoy the warmth of your company and the sound and rhythm of your voice, long before they can understand the words. Babies and toddlers can start to learn to enjoy books as you show them brightly coloured pictures and name the objects or sing a rhyme about the picture. They can understand the words that you say long before they can talk. Stories need to be simple and short because toddlers have short attention spans. Two-year-olds will often correct you if you leave out a word or will enjoy saying some of the words as they get to know their loved stories.

Ask your children to tell you a story — and listen to them. Show them you are interested. Find books that you can start and finish in the reading time.

Take your children to the library and let them select some books to read from the section for their age. They may not like them all, but they will probably like some and they are learning to use a library. Ask about borrowing tapes, CDs and DVDs.

Letting your children choose some of the books to borrow (and choose the stories you tell) will help them to learn that they are a partner in the reading time. School age children Don’t make story time a reading lesson — it is a time for sharing, relaxing and fun. Don’t expect too much too soon when your children are learning to read stories for themselves. It is special to have stories read to you at any age.

Help children find books about their interests. Beginning book-readers need books with simple words for success and enjoyment. Books that are too hard can put them off.

All children are different. Your children might not enjoy the same books or be at the same reading level as other children of the same age or do what their older siblings did at the same age.

Don’t worry if your children like comics as they get older — it is all part of reading. Once they are confident readers they are likely to want to move on to reading different things.

Many children (and adults) like to return to old favourites from time to time, even when they can read much more difficult stories. This could happen especially if they are unwell or unhappy.

Children aged 3–school age Let your children choose their favourite books or stories. You and your children can act out stories. Children can make pictures or models of stories.

For your chance to win a copy of the new Andy Griffiths book “What body part is that?” Tell us on our blog what book you like reading to your child. Go to www.parentingcompanion.com.au and visit our blog

Would you like to become a volunteer ‘ready reader’ and help our primary school kids build confidence and enjoyment in books and the art of reading? If you think you have the enthusiasm for reading to kids, contact Rosemary Illoste in Cairns on 40465215. No formal qualifications required just a love of kids and reading!

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PRE POLLUTED BABIES

What do we need to do to have our babies flourish in a toxic world?

Dr Sarah Lantz (PhD) is a research fellow at the University of Queensland, mother, author of the bestselling book Chemical Free Kids: Raising Healthy Children in a Toxic World and all round chemical conscious parenting nut. What do I do for a living? I work in research. In projects where we slice and dice placentas and umbilical cords and examine the chemical compounds in them. Things that we have found include waste by-products such as pollution from incinerators, dioxin, Teflon, PCBs, formaldehyde, heavy metals including lead, methylmercury and cadmium. Consumer products: sulphates, parabens, phthalates, fragrances, artificial musks, brominated flameretardants, preservatives, triclosan, bisphenol-A (BPA). And probably the most disturbing of all are the industrial chemicals banned over 30 years ago. Organophosphates (pesticides) make up the bulk of these chemicals. The evidence of health impacts from these synthetic chemicals continues to grow. Many can be traced directly to the illnesses that our babies and children are now experiencing, including immune diseases, asthma, allergies, and cancers, higher rates of learning and behavioural difficulties and intellectual impairment. Research also reveals that toxic chemicals are associated with a host of reproductive problems: birth defects, altered sexual maturation, low birth weight, delayed growth, developmental delay, decreased coordination, fetotoxicity (including miscarriage, spontaneous abortion, stillbirth) pre-term delivery, reduced fertility—in both men and women – and infertility.

industry, including the personal care, cosmetic and food industry, has always taken the position that there is no reason to hold up production of ‘useful’ products if no danger has been proven. Of course, we assume that companies consider health before wealth, and that those manufacturing, marketing and regulating the products we buy and consume would not approve products that compromise our health. But consider that when we use the most popular consumer products on the shelves – wipes, nappies, bubble bath, shampoo, cleansers, toothpaste – we create toxic babies, children and teenagers. Consider also that every time you hold your child, they inhale the chemicals in your moisturiser, foundation and perfume. Consider that when you kiss your child, they are potentially ingesting the phthalates in your lipstick. Consider that many of these toxic chemicals in your cosmetics are passed on to your baby through your breast milk and via the placenta when your baby is growing inutero and at its most vulnerable. (Babies do not have a blood brain barrier while in the womb or detoxifying enzymes).

Dr Sarah Lantz’s Bestselling Book Chemical Free Kids

Who decides what’s safe for our children? These days, most chemicals produced and released onto the market have had no safety testing to determine their health impacts. Current regulations do not require manufacturers of commercial chemicals to supply any toxicity data before selling their products. This means that over half of the chemicals produced for human consumption have never been tested for toxicity of the human body (EWG, 2001). At the heart of this legislation is the principle which allows for a certain amount of acceptable risk. And with this knowledge,

• Reduce toxic exposure and avoid products that contain harmful ingredients; • Withdraw consent from companies that produce toxic products; • Purchase ethical, organic, natural products; • Look for products that are certified organic to food standards (and have the certified organic logo). Personal care and cosmetics should be as pure as the foods we eat. • Read labels – marketing claims are limited by the law, and can mean anything or nothing at all; • Also, familiarise yourself with a good chemical database such as: • Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep Database: - www.cosmeticsdatabase.com • Miessence Chemical Ingredients Directory - www.healthylife.mionegroup.com/toxic • The Chemical Maze www.possibility.com

Dr Sarah Lantz is conducting a workshop in Cairns ON THE 3rd April. See the following page for more information.

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What impact does chemicals in our food and our personal care products have on our kids?

April’s Playdate in Paradise: Tuesday 12th April Kids entertainer – Kids Moves “old fashioned games the kids will love”

Learn how to raise healthy kids in a toxic world.

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Hi there, My name is Ellie Parrington . We moved to Cairns not long ago for work, so I know no-one here. Due to the nature of hubby’s work, I’ve found it hard to have any time out. I’m trying hard to stay healthy and active with my family (I’’ve lost the 15 kilos I gained in pregnancy with Baby #2), but you know, life’s busy... Who has much time for themselves? I have a permanent tension headache from pulling my hair back in a pony-tail every single day! I would love to be treated to a makeover and some pampering - It sounds so decadent, and so far removed from my every day reality.

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DADS COLUMN

None of the following is representative of the views of Parenting Companion and for reasons of personal safety the author wishes to remain anonymous. Yep! He’s a bloke. And he’s confused!

You should have known. The postnatal period

The first four 10ths of a second is all the time

..and men are more shallow than

is an amazing time of discovery and joy and

you have to feign distraction while your internal

women could ever believe”.

not a time to comment on how good her sister

monologue screams; WHY?!!?? Why THAT

looks after three kids.

QUESTION??!!

What were you thinking? Now you’ve done

Remember too that no matter the positional

it. You’ve unleashed the darkness. Verbal

orientation of your partner when the question

interchange now takes a dangerous twist

was asked you can be sure that she is

where she says one thing but she means

now looking at your face, directly or via

another. And you’ve got no idea what’s going

reflection in the mirror. She’s looking with eyes

on.

sharpened by a complex series of emotional

And the most deadly example of this technique is the potent question; “Do these shorts make my bum look big”? That’s what she says, but what does she really mean? Does she mean that she needs reassurance? That she’s still attractive to you? Or, that after predetermining that any answer you give will be incorrect; she’ll take out her ongoing frustration by tearing out your spleen and waving it around in primeval triumph?

worse. We’re just different.

and chemical anomalies that will allow her to accurately gauge your reaction and preempt your

anticipated

That’s not to say that either gender is better or

inadequate

response.

Don’t make eye contact! At around the half-second mark your nervous (and strangely dry) lips begin to move. You’re about to speak without any formal instructions from your brain. This is where it usually all goes wrong. The truth is that this isn’t a simple matter of “snipping either the red wire or the blue wire” in bomb disposal fashion. There really is no right answer. I don’t think it’s possible

It’s too late to ponder all that now. The question

for men to even begin to understand why the

has been asked and the clock is ticking.

question gets asked, let alone what the correct

You have only about a second to make a

answer may be. It’s all to do with an important

satisfactory response. So let’s switch into

but little known theory; “that women are

slow-mo, break down the process and try to

more complicated than men will ever

neutralise this situation.

understand ..

Hey! Snap out of it! Your philosophical pondering has eaten up the rest of your precious second. Already her left eyebrow is beginning to quiver. Times up! But don’t panic. Here’s a technique that’ll buy you a little more time. Just lock eyes and say, with total conviction; “Babe” (or your preferred endearment) “your bum actually makes those shorts look great”. Temporary confusion. You now have an extra 1.5 seconds to run, change the subject or wait for the next question, which is usually: “what do you mean by that”? And let’s be honest. We don’t know the answer to that question either. So what happens next? Maybe the bomb goes off. Maybe you both laugh it off. Or maybe you’re learning to live without a spleen. What she says is one thing, and what she means is another. Don’t ponder; just enjoy the mystery. Your relationship may not be perfect, but it’ll never be boring.

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NORTHERN PRIDE

Q&A with Northern Pride CEO Chris Sheppard CPC- Chris, you have played in Australia for the North Qld Cowboys, St. George Illawarra Dragons and Northern Pride. This season, you have retired from playing and have taken on the role of CEO of the

Chris and his family CPC- How did you and your wife meet? CS – At school, Jade comes from Dimbulah and they only go to Grade 10 out there so she did Grade 11 and 12 at Mareeba High.

Northern Pride. What has been the biggest challenge in this transition from player/coach to senior management?

CPC- You now have three beautiful children,

CS – It has allowed me more time to concentrate on my administration

how has becoming a father changed you?

role and spend time with family. Taking away the playing

CS – Kyan, Chase and Meika have changed my outlook

commitments has reduced the load on me more than anything.

on life, and what was once important no longer really matters that much. It has changed a lot of things about

CPC- What i’s your vision for The Northern Pride?

me – how I look at life, how I approach life, why I do the things I do and so on. I’m sure every father is the same.

CS – To be the best club in the Queensland Cup, and be perennial contenders for the title. Also to always maintain a majority of places for local talent, to have a club and a team

CPC- What is the best piece of advice you would give

that truly represents our region and what we stand for.

anyone wanting to play professional rugby league? CS – Where your life goes is your choice. That is the biggest

CPC- What about the club are you most proud of?

message I’d convey. You choose whether you go to school, whether you smoke or drink, whether you work hard in your chosen

CS – There are two things that I am most proud of; a) the way local

field. People are always looking for an excuse to why this didn’t

players and people involved can now actively pursue opportunities

happen or that didn’t happen. Flip this thinking around and see

and pathways from their own doorstep. b) The difference our

challenges as an opportunity to better yourself and your future. 26

‘Take Pride Program’ has meant to our local community.

of the 28 players in our squad are North Queenslanders who were kids running around just like the kids today, so it can be done.

CPC- You started your career playing for the Mareeba Gladiators, who inspired you and what is your

CPC- What are 3 of the most important things

fondest memory of growing up in Mareeba?

a team needs to do to win a premiership?

CS – My Grandad was the first person who really got me into

CS – Believe in one another 100%. Know your attributes

footy (I come from a family of footy tragics) and he was what

whilst recognising and working to improve your deficiencies.

really inspired me when I was young. I am a very competitive

And be willing to put yourself as an individual second to

person and hate losing so I always wanted to be better. My

the team’s needs. The team is always more important.

fondest memories of growing up in Mareeba are of my family and mucking around with my mates. One of my fondest was when my team went from running last as U14’s to winning the U15 CDJRL Premiership which I still see as very special.

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Also, highlight your abilities and talents by producing a ‘skills based résumé’. Essentially, this requires detailing your skills within the particular areas being targeted by your employer (customer service, accounts payable etc). Position descriptions provide heaps of hints about what each employer is looking for. Which leads to a vital point. The purpose of a résumé and letter of application is to introduce yourself to a prospective employer in such a way that they will want to meet you and, hopefully, hire you. It is therefore important that résumés and cover letters are targeted to each individual position. Yes, this takes time, however, your prospective employer will appreciate the fact that you took the time to research the position and the company.

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r u o y k r o w , s s o b n w Be your o Starting a business is an exciting and fulfilling decision that can lead to a satisfying experience. It isn't an easy road though, a large number of small business fail in the first 24 months. It is imperative to plan and get the right advice up front to ensure that your business is here for the future. Smart Artz Creative has developed the following steps to help you start and brand your business. It is our intention that with the assistance of this information and contacts these steps can assist you in the planning process for the foundations of your business to grow on.

STEP 1) WHAT IS YOUR BUSINESS Define, research and evaluate your potential; 1. Products and/or services 2. Customers and suppliers 4. Location for your business to trade

Create a business plan from Step 1. You need to think and create a budget for your operations and marketing.

STEP 3) BUSINESS NAME Think of a unique name that can let customers know who you are and what you sell. Contact Smart Artz for advice on business name selection for future branding. For business name search and advice contact the Office of Fair Trading at www.fairtrading.qld.gov.au.

STEP 4) DOMAIN NAME Check the availability of the business name you want as a domain name - a very important step! Contact Smart Artz to conduct a search and brainstorm domain names for registry. Domain names from $99.

STEP 5) REGISTER YOUR ENTITY How will you trade? Will you be a Sole Trader, a Partnership or a Company Structure? This is an important step in your business planning and it is advisable to contact legal and accounting advice for the right entity structure.

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Once you have discussed your entity structure register your business name with your state government. Contact the Office of Fair Trading at www.fairtrading.qld.gov.au or for a company registration contact ASIC at www.search.asic.gov.au.

STEP 7) SETUP BANK ACCOUNT/S Contact a local bank to discuss with a business banker the setup of your account in the name of your business or company, discuss credit and merchant facilities if needed.

STEP 8) REGISTER ABN Register your ABN (Australian Business Number) from the Australian Taxation Office at www.abr.gov.au.

STEP 9) BRAND DEVELOPMENT

STEP 2) BUSINESS PLAN

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STEP 6) REGISTER A BUSINESS NAME

Contact Smart Artz for the design, branding and marketing needs for the start to your business. Select an experienced company to discuss your business idea and initiate them to help you develop a brand. You must consider and discuss the following; 1. Logo Design 2. Corporate Identity Design 3. Website Design - register your domain name and discuss email and website hosting - design and build a website to suit your online and marketing needs 4. Print Collateral Needs (stationery, brochures, flyers, posters and company portfolios) 5. Signage Needs (office, building, vehicle and promotional signs) 4. Packaging and Label Needs 5. Marketing & Advertising Needs

STEP 10) ENJOY YOUR EXPERIENCE To discuss the above Smart Steps to Starting your Business contact Smart Artz Creative.

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FINANCE - READER’S TOP MONEY SAVING TIPS

The Jarrett Family Junk Mail Take the “No Junk Mail” Notice off your letterbox. Use the catalogues to make sure you get things at their cheapest. Back Ups Always have a back-up of things in your freezer. Buy things like butter, bread, cheese (grated) and place in the freezer – so you don’t have to run to the shop just to get one thing and come back with more. Buy Bulk Look for things on special like, Fabric Softener, Washing Powder, Washing Detergent, Body Wash, Shampoo and Conditioner… Check out Campbell’s Cash and Carry too with friends. Birthday Calendar Buy a little Birthday Calendar so that you see birthdays well in advance and can buy things when they are on special. Use Your Sales Mid Year – Use these sales to purchase your bigticket items for Xmas.

Boxing Day Sales Use these to purchase Birthday Gifts for the year and ex Xmas goods, paper, cards, ribbons, tags etc. Garage Sales Don’t avoid them. You never know what you will find

Menu Plan Do up a list of the meals you want to make for each day throughout the week - use up things in the Pantry and the Fridge Shopping List Put a Shopping List on the Fridge Door and write it down as you go. When you go shopping, if it’s not on the list then you don’t need it or already have it. Invest in a Deep Freezer Handy for back-ups and frozen vegies. Also freeze things like grated cheese, bananas (great for smoothies instead of using ice), herbs and bread.

Fuel Fill up your car the day after payday, this way you know you have the money and the car is always full. Also avoiding the “no fuel, no money and the kids in the car” scenario. Use Direct Debit Allocate a small amount of money to each of your utilities, electricity, rates etc... so when the bill arrives it won’t be so shocking. Use Enjo (Non-chemical cleaning cloths) This product is expensive in the beginning but when you don’t have to keep purchasing the chemicals you will get your money’s worth. Plants Ask your friends for cuttings from their gardens or share veggie gardens. Keep the bar fridge stocked up Join a wine club so the wine-rack is stocked and there’re no last minute expensive buys. Look for specials on beers and stock up when on sale.

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Enough is enough. In this age of consumption, the cost of repairing a Plasma TV is comparable to a new one. No sooner is the iPhone released then we greet its 4th Cousin... No sooner do we master the controls of the XBox 360 then Microsoft take away the controls and we control it with our bodies. Soon bodies will be obsolete and next? Windows Mind point Zero?! I imagine a world driven purely by our thoughts? I am not a technophobe... I am quite the opposite, however, over time I have come to witness a disturbing trend and realise that it is important to balance the growth of consumption with a supply of sensibility. To many who think it is a "Financial Advisers" objective to prey on the ‘pursuit of consumption’ I implore that not all

advisers are created equal. This particular adviser recently found value in the intangible. I spent a morning sitting on the beach, enjoying the sun and the serenity. I say “enjoying” as though it was my choice but I will admit, I was dragged – begrudgingly. The first 15 minutes was filled with irritability and the restlessness of an unsettled mind - racing to think through the things I ought to be worried about. My mind was a muddled confusion of anxiety which dissipated only under the duress of time. No other force in my existence had compelled me to confront myself or to challenge my own

remains the same. Aspiring for betterment is fine but it is also important to find balance because every brilliantly invested cent is worth a fraction of itself if you don't have the internal happiness to enjoy it.

headspace, but in the span of a few short

I can help with one half of the equation, but

hours, I had done all of the above and relaxed

the happiness that comes from serenity and the

beyond belief.

love of life - that is up to you. The question you

For all of life’s "pursuit of demand” and the battle to outpace the Joneses... the beach

need to ask on both counts is - when is enough, enough?

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Celebrate

Remember

Fight Back!

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THE CONFESSION BOX

“Fess up and get it off your chest!”

I confess . . . I am turning into my mother. Yes, it’s not something I’ll readily admit too but the evidence is mounting and there’s no denying it. I’m not talking in the looks department, although I do get the occasional, “You look so much like your mother!” The moment it hit me was on one of her regular but short visits to Cairns. They always have to be short visits. Our time spent under the one roof needs heavy supervision with a 2 night maximum. We know exactly what buttons to push so any extended period of time together usually ends up in a screaming match or some heavy sulking. Anyway, this particular visit was probably the first time my husband had experienced a mother/ daughter sleepover. He’d already worked out some of our similarities, like our aversion to house-work, and our really terrible story telling ability. But it wasn’t until we both walked out in exactly the same nightie that he, and I, realised my mother had left her indelible mark on me. So the “passion killer” was binned fairly promptly after that and was never referred to again. My mother has for many years got my husband’s name mixed up with my ex’s. She confuses me with my two sisters and I even think the dog’s names been thrown into the mix too. Well now, I’m starting to notice that I do the roll call before I find the right name to call my children. And then there’s the way we both tend to hoard our perishable food. I know it’s off and should be thrown away but usually it’s not until a family member tries to

eat it or notices some unusual colours starting to form, that the matter is dealt with. It’s a well-known rule amongst my family that you enter my mother’s fridge at your own peril. And definitely do not try the cheese! Yep, I’m just going to give in and let nature run its course. But if I start doing crosswords, wanting to have long conversations about the weather and looking at funeral notices then I know, there’s no turning back! Anonymous

I confess . . . I really understood the lady in the last issue who confessed that she felt resentful. I feel that way too. You know how people say actions speak louder than words? My husband says “your job is the most important of all because you raise the kids.” Well, his actions do not portray that! He controls all of the money except what he gives me, and when he has had a bad day he reminds me that the world revolves around money so whoever makes money is in control. I know in his heart of heart he believes what I do is a very important job, but his male ego somehow will not really give “me” the credit. I don’t want for anything and neither do my 2 kids but I am on a budget that he controls. It is time as well, he believes when I go out for a few hours, he is doing me a favour. Of course when he goes out to do shopping or whatever, it is to him, “my job” to have the children. I love my husband but I wish he

could see that this is not really fair! Especially because I do all the night time feeds, sicknesses with the kids, meals, bedtimes, etc. Some men do not understand that if we felt more appreciated we would be happier, and happier means more ‘sex’, to me anyway! Hopefully I can get my husband to read this by ‘anonymous’ and it might click. I live in hope. Take care, hang in there, Anonymous

I confess . .. I taught my 3 yr old how to turn the TV on and change the channel to ABC2 so that I can get a sleep-in after a long night up with his baby brother Anonymous

I confess . . . I wanted to slap my obstetrician when I heard him tell me that I fall into the category of a ‘geriatric pregnancy’. Geriatric!!!! What does that mean? Should I be pushing a walking frame rather than a pram? What a pathetic term to use for pregnant mothers over the age of 35 years. Find a new one! Anonymous

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