CommUNITY Magazine (vol 3 iss 7 ) by Pride Center of the Capital Region

Words that Are Transphobic and Why Handling Triggers & Thought Ruts School Daze....Dignity in Policy...Help is Here For the Love of the Game How To Be a Trans Ally

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FEATURES Celebrate 45 Years as the Community’s Center with a look at improved accessibility!

Lift Restored

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Understanding Identities: Words That Are Transphobic & Why pg. 8

We Asked....

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September 2015 Volume 3, Issue 7 CONTENTS

COLUMNS Ask the Lawyer

Geri Pomerantz pg. 17

Trans View School Days...Dignity in Policy...Help is Here by Moonhawk Riverstone pg. 20 To Be a Blessing Walking Forward by Louise Bower Bannister pg. 25 Ask Mark Your Tax Questions by Mark D. Witecki pg. 27

CommUNITY Intro

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Triggers & Thought Ruts

pg. 10

Sex Ed Corner

pg. 13

The Fashionable and the Frivolous School, Shoes, and Shame by Alan Bennet Ilagan pg. 28

pg. 14

Michael Cooks and You Can Too A Taste of Italy by Michael Meade pg. 31

How To Be a Trans Ally

For The Love of The Game by Acey Mercer pg. 21

"There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle, because we do not live single-issue lives" ~Audre Lorde

Here’s Guffman Something About Mary by Patrick White pg. 33

NEWS,UPDATES & INFORMATION From the Editor’s Desk Program Director’s Corner Quick Clips Affiliates Calendar Weekly Events Calendar Special Events Calendar CommUNITY Calendar Advertisers Index

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Lift Restored

The Pride Center of the Capital Region is pleased to announce the completion of our brand new Elevator Lift! After nearly a year of preparation, stages of installation, and City inspections, full access has been restored to our Garden Level for programs and events for all. We are thrilled to be able to offer complete access to the most used area of our building once again. We are now working with the City of Albany to get an accessible parking only spot in front of the Center and looking in to a curb-cut for easier access from the street.

This huge project would not have been possible without the generous support of: • • •

The Carlilian Foundation The Community Foundation of the Capital Region William Tuthill & Greg Anderson

Dan McCoy: An Ally to Albany’s LGBT Community

• Declared June Pride Month in Albany County • Within 6 months of taking office, Dan issued Executive Order 12-02 which prohibits discrimination on the basis of gender identity and expression. • Actively speaks out on behalf of the LGBT community throughout Albany County • Works closely with the Pride Center’s Youth Support Program to make Lawson Lake available without charge for the program’s Summer Leadership Camp • Works closely with LGBT organizations such as the Pride Center and In Our Own Voices to develop trainings and seminars throughout the county to combat bullying. • Authored one of the first bills to make cyber-bullying a crime • Increased awareness and assistance for alcohol and substance abuse

Dan McCoy believes government should mirror the community it serves, he has appointed members of the LGBT community to positions of leadership in Albany County government.

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I love the Fall. Temperatures start to cool. It’s the best fashion season. Everyone comes back from their summer vacations. School is back in session! I always got excited with the start of the new school year and the promise of new adventures in learning. Our Center Youth program will be soon kicking off a new school year with a new Center Youth Action team, going out into our schools throughout the Capital Region and

providing much needed education and support. Of course this comes after having just held our 3-day Youth In Power Summer Leadership Camp for 56 amazing young folks. Filled w i t h fun workshops, o u t - door activities, a n dempowering seminars, this is the culmination of months of preparation. But the investment of time and energy is worth it when you see the happy faces of 56 campers! Looking ahead to this Fall, we have a lot of exciting things to look forward to. On Saturday September 26th, we will participate in the final AIDS Walk at Washington Park. On Friday October 16th, we will host the horrific murder of Tamara Dominguez, a 36 year old woman who was run over three times by an SUV in front of a church in Kansas City. 18.

Transgender, gender non-conforming P R O G R A M and gender questionD I R E C T O R ’ S C O R N E R ing members of our by R O S Y G A LVA Ń community have to think about how to survive on a daily basis, while I write this The number 18 keeps haunting me, ring- piece in the attempt to ing in my head as I write convince you of the imthis piece. This morning I portance of allyship. learned of the fatal stabbing of Jasmine Collins, 18 and counting. the 18th Trans woman murdered this year in It’s past time for our the United States (15 of movement to speak up who were Trans women and out about these of color). She was only atrocities, and to stand 32 years old. Jasmine’s up in a real, measurable murder was preceded by way for Trans Lives. Will

our annual Pride Center Gala at the Hilton Albany, an evening to honor the amazing work of people, organizations and businesses making strides in the LGBTQ community. And then to cap off our 45th Anniversary year celebration, the Troy Music Hall will be hosting a benefit concert for us starring Sandra Bernhard on Saturday, November 21! Let the celebration continue!!! Be well and be empowered!

Michael Weidrich Interim Executive Director

you continue to exclude Trans people from gender specific groups? Will you continue to chide LGBTQ centers across the country for making space for the survival and safety of all those in need of our support? Will you continue to sit back while transgender people get denied housing, medical care, employment, safety, life? It’s time to stand on the right side of history and understand that no one is free if others are oppressed. 18. If this number isn’t enough of a reason to convince you of why your allyship is desperately important, you may want to consider taking time to reflect why it is that you might value some lives over others.

U n d e r s ta n d i n g I d e n t i t i e s : T r a n s p h o b i c T e r m s

*Trigger Warning: Language / Examples of Transphobia

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“What is the most important issue or challenge facing the LGBTQ community (locally, nationally or globally)?"

QUICK CLIPS

We asked members of the Leadership Development Council, as emerging leaders in the movement, what they see as the current issues challenging our community. Here's what a few members see as most important: "As a nurse, I see the huge health disparities among the LGBTQ community and want to take meaningful strides to close those gaps. The Capital Region is in desperate need of culturally competent care for LGBTQ individuals. We need a community health center. Especially for the often forgotten about and Get Your Policy Right medically neglected trans* and genderqueer individuals." - Nikki Alcala, (Guidance for school dignity..for all on pg. 20) Health & Wellness Coordinator, Interfaith Partnership for the Homeless "I fear that LGBTQ Youth will continue to experience a lack of tolerance from both family and peers. Children are emotionally ill-equipped to deal with any kind of intolerance. Outreach to LGBTQ youth, to let them know it’s okay to be who they are, I think is the most important issue facing the community. Pride Centers are the start, but it needs to come from home, schools and organizations (like Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts)." -David Connors, Financial Advisor, RBC Wealth Management

Trans Students...Take the Field! "Audre Lorde said “there is no thing such as a single-issue struggle, because (Acey's in it for the love of the game on pg. 21) we do not live single-issue lives,” and I agree – it’s impossible to determine the Most Important Issue facing the LGBTQ community. If I have to be narrow, I think in New York we should be working on passing GENDA, improving educational and economic supports, enhancing transparency and accountability with law enforcement, and promoting visibility for all of the people in our community." - Lauren Ford, Education Specialist, Professional Development Program, Rockefeller College, University at Albany "Here in the U.S. our issues and challenges are nothing compared to other parts of the world. Although our country has hit some pretty remarkable milestones in the last few years in regards to equality and relationship recognition, LGBTQ youth health and homelessness are important and major issues facing our communities. Homelessness disrupts the lives and development of these young people and can lead to significant negative outcomes in mental and physical health, lower education attainment, and economic instability. " -Victor Ikeda-Wood

"Girl "Shoes!

(Past the shame and to the self on pg. 28)

"On a local and national level, I think trans* rights, education, and protection are the biggest issue we currently face as a community. Society as a whole should be more aware of what's happening across the country, and globally, with trans* people and the struggles they face. However, the LGBTQ community also has a lot to learn and a lot to fight for when it comes to this specific group of individuals within the LGBTQ group." -Noel Letourneau,Marketing Coordinator, ANS Advanced Network Services, LLC The Leadership Development Council is a diverse group of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Allied professionals dedicated to the preservation and future growth of the Pride Center of the Capital Region. The council’s mission is to develop and empower young LGBTQ and allied professionals and develop a new generation of leaders within the community.

Above, left to right: Nikki Alcala, David Connors, Lauren Ford, and Noel Letourneay. Not pictured: Viktor Ikeda-Wood.

Come Out...Find Something to Do (Find an event in our community in the leading Capital Region LGBTQ Events calendars starting on pg. 35)

LETTERS TO THE EDITORmweidrich@capitalpridecenter.org

Community Intro Meet the new Pride Center 's newest addition, Jeremy Hollon. Jeremy will work with the Pride Center as a Program Assistant and Volunteer Coordinator. He will be assisting the Pride Center in its effort to develop and expand its volunteer program. This will be done by engaging community members with meaningful volunteer opportunities to help them build transferable jobs skills and confidence.

5 Jeremy Facts Has a Bachelor’s of Science in Music Education: "I received a B.S. in Music Education with a focus in vocal music from The College of Saint Rose in 2014." Loves to attend concerts and musicals: "I enjoy attending popular musical events at places such as Proctors Theater, Park Playhouse, The Palace Theater, and Tanglewood. The most recent events that I attended were Singin' in the Rain and The Pajama Game at Park Playhouse in Washington Park, as well as Mahler's 8th Symphony at Tanglewood in Massachusetts."

Triggers & Thought Ruts Trauma, triggers, ruts in our thinking - they can be difficult to deal with and keep us in an unhealthy state. Here are some tips on how to reframe your thinking, respond when triggered and cope with trauma. If you or some you know would like more help, consider one of the Pride Center's support groups. Visit www.capitalpridecenter.org/programs-services/center-support/ for more.

CATASTROPHIZING → → → → → → → TRUST

We imagine the worst possible outcome and maybe think it's the only outcome.

We can honor our feelings in the present without allowing ourselves to predict the future. We can add realistic odds, too.

SHOULD'S → → → → → → →NON-STRIVING

We form strict rules and unrealistic expectations.

We can practice flexibility and forgiveness and release our expectations (for progress, for efficiency, etc.) altogether.

FILTERING + MAGNIFYING → → → → LETTING GO

We filter out the positive and magnify We can practice holding our thoughts the negative...like looking through in attention and releasing them, tinted binoculars. instead of fixating on negatives.

EMOTIONAL REASONING → → → → → PATIENCE

We decide that because something feels true, it must be.

We can notice an emotion and identify it as such, experience it, and let it go.

POLARIZED THINKING & LABELING → → → → → → → NON-JUDGING

We make blanket positive / negative Try to step back instead of reacting to assessments for whatever comes up. everything. To start, think in shades of gray, spectrums or percentages. We name call, to limit our perception even further

Loves superhero movies and television shows: "I love watching superhero movies. My favorite superhero movies to date are Ant-Man and Guardians of the Galaxy. Agents of Shield is my favorite superhero TV show." Loves to bake: "I have enjoyed baking since I was in middle school. Some of my favorite things to bake are snickerdoodle blondies, chocolate fudge cake, and strawberry bread." Travel Lover: "I visited several different countries while I attended The College of Saint Rose, including Ireland, Costa Rica, Germany, and France."

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How To... Don't Make Assumptions

Just as you shouldn't make assumptions about someone's sexual orientation, you also shouldn't make assumptions about a person's gender or gender identity. Exploring gender (and sexuality) is a healthy expression of growing and developing as a person. No one ever benefits from being labeled.

Create a Safe and Open Environment

Work toward creating an affirming environment where individual gender expression is supported and where there is room for dialogue and discussion. Challenge homophobic and transphobic remarks and jokes. Use inclusive, supportive, non-gender-specific language. Support others who challenge inappropriate behavior. "What are you?" is not an ok question to ask. "What pronoun do you use?" is an example of a better question.

Be Informed and Examine Your Own Biases

We are all products of a society with rigid gender roles. We are taught what is feminine and what is masculine, female and male, and told not to blur these categories. Recognize your level of comfort with the different types of gender expression, and see how this can affect your interactions with your friends, classmates, co-workers, and others. Read reliable sources, attend workshops to educate yourself about gender issues and talk to people in the know.

Understand What Gender Identity Means

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We all can learn how to be a better ally, and following the tips above are a good start. In the coming month teacher's and student's will be getting to know a new class and may benefit from some additional pointers..... 14

...Be A Trans Ally Ally Checklist For Students and Teachers ✓ Familiarize yourself with the language and use preferred terms of the individual. ✓ Use language that doesn't assume youth have a specific sexual orientation or gender identity. ✓ Make yourself aware of the resources (both local and national) that exist. ✓ Model behavior you wish to see in others. ✓ Encourage the formation and/or success of a Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) ✓ Promptly intervene when youth behave disrespectfully toward their peers based upon sexual orientation, gender identity or other differences. Ally Checklist For Teachers ✓ Schedule ongoing trainings for teachers and students to equip them to support all students. ✓ Display posters or other symbols indicating a trans friendly environment. ✓ Discuss reporting procedures. ✓ Encourage representation of all types of diversity - in hallways, classrooms, in curriculum, at events. ✓ Enforce a zero tolerance policy for bias and transphobic language. ✓ Consider non-discrimination policies that exceed the minimum state and federal regulations. ✓ Bring in speakers to talk about their experiences as a trans person. ✓ Treat youth fairly by avoiding double standards for trans students and cis students. Learn more and make your organization, school, business, place of worship or medical practice become more trans inclusive and learn in depth how to be an ally and serve the community? Book a training from the Pride Center and go far beyond the check list to effective ally-ship. Training and education is an essential component in creating safer services and community spaces for LGBTQ people in the Capital Region. For over 20 years, the Pride Center of the Capital Region has delivered comprehensive trainings and presentations for K-12 schools, colleges, businesses, organizations, and governmental agencies in our 10-county service area. In 2013 alone, we reached over 2,500 audience participants. Our nationally-known trainers are experts in providing education and professional development trainings for entities seeking to improve their services for LGBTQ individuals and community. To learn more about the 40+ trainings the Pride Center offers visit: www.capitalpridecenter.org/trainingsservices or contact Lyndon Cudlitz, Training and Education Manager at (518) 462-6138 ext. 16

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Claims by the religious right that religious liberty in America is under siege, though ludicrous, are occupying the resources of our judiciary and some state legislatures. The free birth control provision of the Affordable Care Act (ACA) has been challenged in more than 100 lawsuits around the country since the passage of the ACA five years ago. Meanwhile, states seeking to allow public officials and businesses to refuse to provide services or take actions that could be viewed as supportive of same sex marriage are considering state level religious freedom restoration acts that extend into the public sphere without a compelling state interest. And at least one county clerk, in Kentucky, has sued the governor over her purported right as a public official to refuse to issue marriage licenses to same sex couples based on her religious beliefs. The cases involving the religious objections to the birth control provisions of the ACA are of course much farther along than the cases following the Supreme Court’s June 2015 same sex marriage case. It is likely that the US Supreme Court will again take up the issue of the ACA’s contraceptive coverage mandate in the next term. The ACA requires employers with 50 or more full time employees to offer group health insurance coverage

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objectors can not be allowed to impose the constraints of their beliefs on the rest of the Nation”. “The rights conferred by the First Amendment and the RFRA do not include a right to have the government or third parties behave in a manner that comports with an individual’s religious beliefs.”

2nd Circuit Court of Appeals

providing minimum essential coverage” including “preventative care and screenings” for females without any cost sharing requirements (no copays, deductibles or co-insurance). Through regulations, federal agencies, defined “preventative care” to include amongst other things, all FDA approved contraceptive methods for women with reproductive capacity. This is the contraceptive coverage mandate at issue in these challenges to the ACA. The ACA includes exemptions for religious employers, such as churches and associations (such as the Archdiocese of New York). Other religious affiliated not for profit organizations that hold themselves out as a religious organization and oppose providing the mandated coverage based on religious objection, are eligible for an accommodation to opt out of providing the coverage.1 These eligible organizations can opt out of paying for objectionable medical services without denying important services to the employees. These eligible employers simply need to notify the federal government or their insurer, or third party administrator if self-insured, that it is eligible for the religious objection to the contraceptive mandate, and the employer will have no further role in providing coverage for the objectionable services. If the employer

chooses not to provide the coverage for birth control, the insurer or third party administrator (for self-insured employers) will do so. The employer does not pay any fee for this coverage, and doesn’t even have an obligation to notify their employees about the availability of such coverage. In other words, the employer simply identifies itself as a religious objector, and then nothing further is required of it. A third party then provides the coverage, as required by the ACA, filling the gap such that the insured individual is not deprived of the benefits of coverage. Hundreds of religious affiliated not for profits have challenged the ACA accommodation that allows them to opt out of providing contraceptive coverage, under the federal Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA). The RFRA was passed by Congress in 1990 following the Supreme Court decision in Dept. of Human Res of Oregon v. Smith. Smith involved the free exercise of religious clause of the First Amendment. It held that the first amendment does not prohibit enforcement of valid laws of general

The Circuit courts have held that the ACA does

not substantially burden the practice of religion Ask the Lawyer continued on pg. 18

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Indeed, as the Second Circuit pointed out, this is the accommodation that right that religious liberty was identified by the Supreme Court in America is under siege, in Burwell v. Hobby Lobby Stores though ludicrous, are (holding amongst other things that occupying the resources of for profit corporations must also be our judiciary and some state allowed to seek the accommodation) to alleviate any substantial burden on legislatures religious expression.

Claims by the religious

application that incidentally burden religious conduct. This created some tension with prior case law, which held that the first amendment is violated if a challenged law imposes a substantial burden on religious practice and the burden is not justified by a compelling government interest, thus imposing stricter scrutiny. The RFRA requires that the government may only substantially burden a person’s exercise of religion if it is demonstrated that the application of the burden is in furtherance of a compelling government interest and is the least restrictive means of furthering that compelling government interest. The RFRA requires strict scrutiny of laws where the incidental burden on religious exercise is substantial. Although the religious not for profits succeeded over 80% of the time in the federal trial courts in their RFRA challenges to the ACA contraceptive mandate and accommodation, those cases were all reversed on appeal by the federal circuit courts, including most recently the second circuit court of appeals in Catholic Health Care Systems v. Burwell (decided 8/7/15). Several cases have already been to the Supreme Court, but there has not yet been a final decision on the merits. Those cases have been sent back down to the lower courts for further consideration. It is likely that at least one of these cases will be on the Supreme Court’s calendar next term. The Circuit courts have held that the ACA does not substantially burden the practice of religion, ending the inquiry under the RFRA. By allowing the employer to self-certify and opt out of the birth control mandate, any substantial burden is eliminated. 18

Although the court must generally accept the rationality and significance of the RFRA plaintiff ’s religious beliefs, it is for the court, to assess the magnitude of the burden of the law or regulation on those beliefs. Requiring the employer to fill out one little piece of paper identifying itself as a religious objector, is simply not substantial. It is very different from those cases in which, for example, a person was denied unemployment benefits when fired for refusing to work on her Sabbath or because a religious pacifist

Hundreds of religious affiliated not for profits have challenged the ACA accommodation that allows them to opt out of providing contraceptive coverage, under the federal Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA)

refused to work on the production of armaments. In the ACA cases, no government benefit is denied, nor is the religious objector required to do anything more than identify itself as a religious objector. The federal appeals courts have denied the plaintiff religious not for profit organizations’ claims that the consequences of the religious objector notification triggers a third party to provide objectionable services, in violation of plaintiff ’s rights. The notification is simply a means to identify and exempt the employer from the mandate. The coverage is then provided by third parties in spite of the employer, not because of the employer, and in no way impairs the

employer’s freedom to believe, express or exercise religion. These religious institutions do not have a right to dictate the conduct of government to comport with their religious beliefs. As the second circuit held “Religious objectors can not be allowed to impose the constraints of their beliefs on the rest of the Nation”. “The rights conferred by the First Amendment and the RFRA do not include a right to have the government or third parties behave in a manner that comports with an individual’s religious beliefs.” 1

In Burwell v. Hobby Lobby Stores, 134 S. Ct. 2751 (2014). the Supreme court inexplicably held, amongst other things, that the RFRA applied to the for profit business, whose religious beliefs were substantially burdened by the birth control mandate of the ACA, without allowing it the accommodation given to not for profit religious organizations.

The legal rights of LGBTQ families are an ever-changing landscape, to be addressed monthly in this column. The material in this article is provided for informational purposes only and is not intended to give legal advice, and should not substitute for the independent advice of counsel. The views expressed in this column are solely those of Ms. Pomerantz and do not reflect the opinion of the Pride Center. The material in this article is provided for informational purposes only and is not intended to give legal advice, and should not substitute for the independent advice of counsel. The views expressed in this column are solely those of Ms. Pomerantz and do not reflect the opinion of the Pride Center. Geri Pomerantz is an attorney in the capital district with a practice focused on family and matrimonial law, specifically including LGBTQ families. Geri conducts continuing legal education training for other lawyers, and conducts community education, on issues of importance to the LGBTQ community. She recently presented on parentage issues at the LGBT law day at Albany Law School. Geri is a member of the Collaborative Divorce Association of the Capital District. She can be reached at GPEsq@pomerantzlaw.org

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Previous years in September columns I have alluded to the old advertising billboard and bumper stickers that said: “School’s Open: Drive Carefully”. Well, how about this year we try: “School’s Open: Policy Carefully” instead! Transgender students need to stop being run over by the lack of effective policies and administrative leadership in schools so that they safely go to school and receive an education. Last year amid a huge brouhaha the Shenendehowa School District passed and instituted a policy purporting to make it safe for transgender students attending their schools. Would that were the case. Colleagues and activists I’ve spoken with said all along that the school district resisted educational efforts by transgender experts, had a fundamental lack of knowledge of the issues and challenges transgender students face in the schools in their districts. I can say from clinical experience that individual teachers and social workers “get it” but the administration clearly does not. The sensationalistic manner in which they proposed and voted on the policy did nothing but fan the flames of ignorance and bigotry and give transgender students a message that their district was not going to support them, and it was not safe here. No one was taking a moment to step into the shoes of a transgender student or their family while all this hysteria was being played out in the media. Then, when one looked at the policy--and mind you--Shenendehowa officials had been exposed to what clear effective policies look like, one found a very very flawed likely illegal policy. Shen school officials had been told the contents of the recent ruling by the federal Department of Education with regard to Title IX and transgender students and what had been very clearly stated. They ignored all that information and instituted a policy directly in violation of Title IX placing undue hardship on transgender students, and requiring the compulsory outing of a student’s transgender status in order for the student to be at school. It even included a statement that the student could 20

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not transition gender at school if their grades did not meet certain criteria! Really?! So, if I have multiple sclerosis and I need to use a wheelchair to get around school, you mean I need to have a certain grade average in order to use my chair??? Really? Since when does is access to one’s medical care dependent upon one’s grades? Apparently that’s the policy at the Shenendehowa school district.

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students need to stop being run over by the lack of effective policies and administrative leadership in schools so that they safely go to school and receive an education

Anyone wanting to put in place a policy to support and protect transgender students need only to have accessed model policies available online or through such folks as the New York Civil Liberties Union, or reach out to individual policy experts such as myself who have been writing these polices for over a decade. Now, it’s even easier. When the Dignity for All Students Act was passed in June 2011 it had a year’s delay to implementation until July 2012. Now 3 years in place, we know while the law is great, it has not stopped bullying--nor for some populations like LGBT youth even slowed it down. Within DASA is a very clear guideline on the proper treatment for transgender students. It took NYS Dept. of Education 3 years to write a policy that effectively outlines in excruciating detail what needs to happen in school districts statewide

to protect transgender students and give them equal access to a safe and effective educational environment. No school district needs to reinvent the wheel here. No one needs to put their own particular spin on transgender protections for student. All that needs to be done is for school boards to simply adopt the Dept. of Education policy as their own. Nice and simple and easy. This is the law. There is no need for hearings, no need for sensationalistic press and shouting parents. Just do the business of implementing state law into the running of the school district. During the Shenendehowa hearings, I was reminded of my past experience--when the federal government ordered busing to making school more racially balanced and fair, and was reminded when we first racially integrated schools the riots that ensued when the law was being enforced. Eventually most of social distress quieted down. For a country founded on equality for all, we are, at times, loath to share it with other Americans. Transgender students are now bearing the brunt of this next extension of rights in the public schools. The time is now in school districts to adopt, institute and implement the New York State Dept. of Education’s policy: New York State Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students Guidance Document. The second part of that is to train all school board members, administrators and teachers in exactly what this policy means and how to enforce for the safety of all students, not only transgender students. The New York Civil Liberties Union issued a report in June 2015 just prior to the Dept. of Ed’s policy finalization detailing the horrific treatment of transgender students under the Dignity for All Students Act (DASA) and how the failure of school districts to effectively implement DASA is causing deep and enduring distress for transgender students and robbing them of their right to an education.

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founded on equality for all, we are, at times, loath to share it with other Americans. Transgender students are now bearing the brunt of this next extension of rights in the public schools

Below are some links. Share them with your school districts. Make sure school districts are fully aware of their responsibility to protect and serve transgender students. It is not the responsibility of school districts to demean, to out and to thwart transgender students at every turn. It is the responsibility of schools to be model citizens, not models of discrimination and bigotry. Until next time...T Links: NYS Dept. of Education, July 2015 policy: http://www.capitalpridecenter.org/?p=20426 GLSEN Model Policy: http://www.capitalpridecenter.org/?p=20429 NYCLU Dignity for All Transgender Report: http://www.capitalpridecenter.org/?p=20428 California Safe Schools Policy: http://www.capitalpridecenter.org/?p=20427

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Walking Forward by Louis Bower Bannister This article is part of my current journey and is written partly in response to a Pastoral Letter written on 18 July by Bishop William Love of the Episcopal Diocese of Albany following both the SCOTUS Marriage Equality ruling and the actions of the General Convention of The Episcopal Church which is the governing body of the national denomination held every three years. His letter, for those wishing to read it, may be found at: www.albanyepiscopaldiocese.org.

In a recent meeting of liberal-minded Episcopalians who live and worship in the Episcopal Diocese of Albany, Bishop William Love asked us who we thought he was. This meeting was held a short time after the SCOTUS marriage equality ruling and after the General Convention of The Episcopal Church voted to introduce a gender neutral marriage liturgy for trial use by same sex couples throughout the Episcopal Church. I have thought a lot about the Bishop's question over the past several weeks. He is notoriously conservative in this theology, particularly where GLBT and women's issues are concerned. It would have been easy for me to answer, “Homophobic,” or “Bigot,” or “Narrow-minded.” But I honestly don't think that he is a bigot, and I have come to realize that we are all narrow-minded in some form or other. My answer to the Bishop's question is quite simple: We are very much the same person.

What? How? We each grew up in the church. We each love Jesus. We each serve the church. We each pray daily. We each seek to serve others in the name of a loving God. We each read our Books of Common Prayer. We each devoutly read and try to live out the word of the Bible. We each have very strong and clear convictions based on our interpretations of what we read in the Bible. But we differ fundamentally because those interpretations vary, and in that we are broken because of our separate convictions. I have struggled for seven years to live as an active member of congregations in The Episcopal Diocese of Albany. This struggle is new to me in my 40 years of life because in every other place I have ever lived I have known my beloved church, The Episcopal Church, to be a brightly shining beacon of inclusive love and forward thinking that practices radical hospitality and love to all who enter through its doors. Who I am as a gay man was never an issue for me in the church because I was always deeply aware that I was seen, honored and loved completely as a child of God. It is, I have realized, impossible for me to be seen, honored or loved completely as a child of God in this diocese by its bishop or by a majority of its clergy. Impossible because they cannot see past my sexuality. They see me not as a child of God but as someone who they consider to be an abhorrent sexual being that is not of

God and when they see me that way they are not looking at me through the eyes of Jesus. And to me, if they, as members of the clergy and as human beings who profess to be followers of Jesus, cannot see me through the eyes of Christ, then they have failed their baptismal vows and their ministries in the church. What can I do about that while on my journey? I can continue to see them, honor them, and love them as children of God. I can pray that they might one day have a change of heart that allows them to see me just as I see them. And that we might all, together in The Episcopal Diocese of Albany, be witnesses of the inclusive and loving Gospels that the overwhelming majority of The Episcopal Church lives in the world through thought, word and deed. And now, for a time, my journey takes me to worship in a neighboring diocese where I am, without exception, a child of God. My departure from my church home is not an admission of defeat, but a way for me to continue to love and serve the church and to live into my full potential as a beautiful and spiritual being. I miss my beloved church family at The Cathedral of All Saints in Albany, but, have come to realize as I have discovered in my heart... I have not left. I have walked forward.

Louis Bower Bannister is a life-long Angli can/Episcopalian who lives in Albany. He is the proprietor of The Enchanted Florist in downtown Albany. He can often be seen his enthusiastic and delinquent We Are Broken because of our separate convictions chasing puppy, Oliver, through Washington Park. This article is one of a series provided by Advocates for Welcoming Congregations, a Capital Region group that encourages the welcoming of LGBT persons into the full life and leadership of communities of faith. The group also works to make visible for members of the LGBT community opportunities for practicing their faith traditions.

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Dear Albany Al, Try and get the value of the painting from an art appraiser on the date of death of the person you inherited the painting from. If an estate tax return was done for the deceased, the painting's value might be listed on the return. The tax cost of the painting is the Date of Death value from the person

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When I was in third grade, saddle shoes were all the rage. At least I thought they were - the way they contrasted so delightfully in and of themselves, the way they sharpened an outfit. I didn't pay much attention to who exactly was wearing them, but I loved the way they looked and soon became obsessed with getting a pair. At Buster Brown there was a pair of saddle shoes - for boys in fact - and I rejoiced as I slid them on my feet. Ahh, the glory of a pair of shoes! These shone in shiny black and white, beacons of pride and joy, like tickling piano keys as I walked. I marched around the store, admiring them in the shoe mirrors. They were bold, and at first my feet were unaccustomed to something so demanding of a second look. Could I pull them off? Of course! How could I not? I thought of those pretty little girls parading around in their pristine saddle shoes, topped by perfectly-white frilly socks. How they glided along on dainty footsteps, how they made it look so effortlessly elegant and easy, and how I wanted to do the same. The first day I wore my saddle shoes I felt like I was floating into school. I was making my own black-and-white checker-tiled dance-floor, Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers all rolled into one (before I even heard their names in the ‘Vogue’ rap). Yet the whispers upon my entering class were not of awe or envy. I knew those whispers even then. These were whispers of confusion. These were the whispers of discomfort. These were the whispers of ridicule. I thought I heard someone say they were girl shoes.

Then, sudden and swift and irrevocable, the onslaught of shame. With reddened face and panicky disposition, I seethed in inner agony. I quickly took my seat and swung my feet under my chair, away from prying eyes. At heads-down time,

I peeked under the desks to study the feet around me. Only girls were wearing saddle shoes. I shrunk in embarrassment. I cringed at the monstrosities on my feet. I'd made a fatal misstep. I who never faltered, who never failed, now felt the hot flush of being the almost-object of ridicule. I felt myself teetering on the brink of becoming ostracized from the only people who seemed to matter. Yet I never let on that those whispers bothered me, or even made it to my ears. I never let on how badly they crushed my ego and destroyed the silly bit of joy I got in those shoes. I never let on that when they tried to break me, they had in fact succeeded. I didn't wear the saddle shoes much after that – just a few more times so as not to arouse the suspicion or ire of my frugal parents for not making use of new shoes. They went back into their box, worn only at home or on vacation or where I could be myself and not worry about being chided for it. Everything I do today, every strange, questionable object I wear, is done in honor of that little boy who was robbed of such joy, held captive for the rest of his boyhood by a gang of innocently cruel children. They were taught by the world to dress like a boy or a girl, and there was never room for anything in-between. Another line between innocence and shame. Another demarcation of growing up. The way we erase our identities to fit in, to feel like we belong – I didn’t know then that it was the very way I would grow to hate myself. It would take years before I returned to my quirky style. Years of khakis and polos, and jeans and sneakers, and trying to be the boy everyone wanted me to be. Years in which I pushed my lovely saddle shoes into the dark recesses of my closet, and the life-loving fun that should comprise every childhood into the hidden recesses of my heart. Alan Bennett Ilagan is a freelance writer and amateur photographer who resides in upstate New York with his husband Andy. He created the website www. ALANILAGAN.com, which contains a repository of his work, as well as a daily blog; the website recently celebrated its tenth anniversary online. He was the manager of the Romaine Brooks Gallery from 2008 to 2012. His writing has appeared in Instinct, xy magazine, Capitalmen, Q Northeast, the Windy City Times, and the Boston Phoenix. Notable artistic collaborations have been created with the likes of Steven Underhill, Paul Richmond, Dennis Dean, and Michael Breyette.

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Inspired by a couple of friends who went to Rome this summer (and came home five pounds heavier, raving about the cuisine), I thought that this month we’d take a vicarious tour of Italy through a couple of classic Italian pasta sauces.

meat for later. In the same pot, sauté the onion and garlic in the olive oil & butter until the onions are translucent. Deglaze the pan with wine and reduce by half. Puree the whole tomatoes and add them to the pot along with the sliced carrots and reserved meat. Simmer for about 1 1/2 hours. (If the sauce becomes too dry add a little water or chicken stock) Salt and Pepper to taste. In a big pot of salted boiling water, cook pasta al dente. Serve sauce over pasta with grated cheese.

Pasta Bolognese Bolognese sauce (ragu alla Bolognese in Italian, also known by its French name, Sauce Bolognaise) is a meatbased pasta sauce originating in Bologna in the central Northern region of Italy. It’s one of the most famous Italian sauces and one that most Americans are familiar with. The people of Bologna traditionally serve their famous ragu with freshly-made tagliatelle (the Northern Italian name for fettuccine). Less traditionally, the sauce is served with rigatoni or used as the stuffing for lasagna or cannelloni. 1 lb. ground beef 1 lb. ground veal or lamb 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 tablespoon butter 1 large onion, chopped 4 - 6 cloves of garlic 1/4 cup red wine 2 carrots, peeled and sliced 1 16 oz. can whole tomatoes with/ juice Salt & pepper to taste 1 pound fettuccine or rigatoni Parmesan cheese for grating on top

Have all your meats ready to go and start a big pot of water boiling. Peel and dice the onion. Then peel and finely chop the garlic. Peel the carrots and cut them into 1/2 inch pieces cutting across the carrot. In a large sauce pot, brown the chopped beef and (veal or lamb), drain fat and reserve

Fettuccine Alfredo Alfredo is a sauce made from heavy cream, butter, parsley and minced garlic. It is most often served on fettuccine. Alfredo sauce was invented in Rome in 1914 by restaurant owner Alfredo di Lello. An earlier version was a Roman dish known as Fettuccine al burro (fettuccine with butter), prepared only with butter, Parmigiano Reggiano and reserved cooking water as a sauce. The butter was added both before and after the fettuccine was put into the serving bowl, a technique known as “doppio burro” (double butter). Di Lillo’s original contribution was to increase the amount of butter and add cream to the recipe to create a thicker, smoother (and even richer) sauce. Fettuccine Alfredo became extremely popular and di Lello's restaurant attracted many celebrities. Mary Pickford and Douglas Fairbanks, two silent screen stars whose marriage created a media frenzy not equaled until Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, fell in love with the dish while on their

highly-publicized honeymoon in 1919. As a result, Fettuccine Alfredo was introduced in the United States and became for many Americans their first taste of Italian cuisine. Today, Fettuccine Alfredo is far more popular in the United States than in Italy, where it is mostly served to American tourists (many Italians have never even tried it). You can make any modification you like to the basic Fettuccine Alfredo, including cubed cooked chicken, fresh or frozen peas or other vegetables. It can also be served on any type of pasta you like. 1/2 cup butter 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 cups heavy whipping cream 1 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese 1 teaspoon salt (or to taste) 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper (or to taste) 1 pound fettuccine Chopped fresh parsley for sprinkling Additional freshly grated Parmesan cheese for sprinkling

In a big pot of salted boiling water, cook fettuccine al dente. While pasta is cooking, melt butter in large skillet; brown the minced garlic in the butter, then add cream, salt and pepper. Bring to a boil and simmer for a few minutes uncovered to reduce and thicken sauce. Remove from heat and add cooked fettuccine and one cup of Parmesan. Sprinkle with chopped parsley. Toss to combine and serve immediately with an extra sprinkling of Parmesan cheese over the top, if desired. Michael Meade graduated from the Culinary Institute of America in Hyde Park, New York, worked at Jack’s Oyster House in Albany and is currently sous-chef at Thunder Mountain Curry in Troy. Questions and comments are welcome at Michaelmeade1215@yahoo.com

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SOMETHING ABOUT MARY

My first encounter with Mary Darcy was seeing her interview Stephen Sondheim at HVCC a couple of years ago. She was so poised, professional, engaging, knowledgeable and spontaneous, I thought to myself who is this? I have since seen her onstage as the housewife Muriel who breaks out of her shell in “Dirty Rotten Scoundrels,” the jaded Joanne in Mr. Sondheim’s ‘Company’ with LAGS and most recently as the soothsayer/domestic [Cassandra] in ‘Vanya and Sonia and Mash and Spike’ at Curtain Call. It was also hard not to notice how many people were attracted to Mary and attended her shows to see her. I sat down with her recently to find out

something about Mary. What do you do, Mary? “I write, edit, sell advertising and plan events for All Over Albany which is a website about the Capital Region-Albany, Schenectady, Troy all the hamlets in between, things to do within the North, South, East and West of us. I spend my days writing about things people need to know who live in the Capital region. It’s kind of the virtual water cooler for the Capital region. What the news of the day is, what do you want to do, where do you want to go. What food is really good. We just took 120 people down the Hudson on a train and back up on a cruise. We did tasting and tours. It’s for curious people. People who have an omnivorous curiosity and are really engaged in the place that they live. One of the things that they are interested in is theater.” What interests you about the theater? “I write and sell that by day…What [do] I really want to do? Is act. I have known from the day I could walk and talk that I wanted to tell stories. I tell them in print. I tell them in improv with the Mop & Bucket, I’ve been working with them for four years. My favorite place to tell them is onstage. I just finished doing ‘Vanya and Sonia and Masha and Spike’ and I had this little role. I walked on and walked off. It’s the easiest thing in the world. You walk on, you make people

laugh and you walk off. I had this moment, Cassandra has this big speech in the second act and I felt this give and take with the audience and I felt this incredible…they were coming with me on a journey. It was this moment that even as I was doing it I felt in the back of the head ‘This is so awesome. You are so lucky and so blessed.’ “We have this limited amount of time, this limited time on this earth which I’ve become conscious of recently because I’ve recently lost both of my parents and I’m rethinking what my priorities are in life. And my priorities are-I’m going to do as much of this as I’m going to fit into my life! Not only do I get joy but I give other people joy.

“People have said to me that acting is selfish. Look at me, look at me. Acting for me has never been look at me. It’s always bout what can I do in service? What can I do in service of the story? In service of the play, in service of the audience? Paying attention to other people and other people’s stories. If you find your niche in life where you can share something, be of service, which people are really enjoying, whatever it is…if you’re a doctor, if you’re a chef, if you’re whatever it is, if you’ve found it- Hallelujiah! Because some people go through their whole lives and never find it.” What’s your take on the state of theater in the Capital Region? “I’m excited about all these new companies. People will say ‘Oh, we don’t have enough talent to handle all these companies. Last summer I was thrilled with ‘Avenue Q’ (put on by Family Players at the GE Theatre directed by Jeffrey Hocking). It’s not my favorite show but I could close my eyes and think I was listening to the cast album, it was that good. “The other thing is the sharing. It now feels this theater community is stronger than it ever has been. I see the community in community theater. There was ‘Anything Goes’ in the Park by Not So Common and this year the show was stronger than anything Not So Common has been able to do before, I think, because of all the sharing that’s going on between theatres. This year they had a problem with the set. This design was too large, it didn’t fit the stage and they put out a call- We need to do this set, we have one weekend left and everything needs to be redone. It’s like, everybody came to their

aid. It’s this beautiful set. Someone said it was like by Ikea. Everything folds and fits into everything else. It’s great and it happened because this group put out this call looking for help and this community said yes. We are now saying Yes. “The other thing is all the programs for kids. I grew up and there were three places-ACT, SCP and SLOC. I grew up in Saratoga and later there was Home Made but not when I was a kid. When I was a kid there was nothing. When I was a kid, every day I’d ride my bike or watch TV and I felt something that I couldn’t name. Much later I knew…acting is what I should have been doing.” What are you excited about in the new season? I'm looking forward to so many things! Mostly ‘Sweeney Todd’ at SLOC, ‘Clybourne Park’ at Schenectady Civic and ‘Glengarry Glen Ross’ at Curtain Call and ‘Angel Street’ at Albany Civic.

Angel Street Albany Civic Theater 235 Second Ave. Albany, NY 12209 September 4, 5, 6; 11, 12, 13, 2015 Sweeney Todd Schenectady Light Opera Company (SLOC) 427 Franklin Street Schenectady, NY 12305 January 29 – Feb 7, 2016 Glengarry Glen Ross Curtain Call Theater 210 Old Loudon Rd. Latham, NY 12110 February 19 - March 19 Clybourne Park Schenectady Civic Players 12 S Church St, Schenectady, NY 12305 (Auditions: March 1 & March 3@ 7:30PM) May 6 – 8 and 11 – 15, 2016 Patrick White is a Capital Region actor, director and teacher who will be in “The Night Alive” at Curtain Call Theatre 10/16-11/7. He teaches an acting class Saturday mornings in downtown Albany. white.patrick1963@gmail.com 33

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Friday September 4 Opening Reception for Seeing Me: Archetypes of Beauty

Join us at the Romaine Brooks Gallery for a special 1st Friday reception to celebrate the opening of Pilar ArthurSnead's solo show, Seeing Me: Archetypes of Beauty. Enjoy complimentary refreshments and community as you visit with the artist and her photographic installation.

Friday, August 7 Romaine Brooks Gallery The Pride Center 332 Hudson Ave, Albany, 12210 5-9 pm Free!

Tuesday, September 15 2015 U.S. Trans Survey-Taking Event! The National Center for Trans Equality (NCTE) is working with organizations across the country to provide access to complete the U.S. Trans Survey to those who may not have computer access, who may need assistance when taking the survey, or who may need a safe place to take the survey. This will occur through “survey events” throughout the country. We are excited to announce that the Pride Center will be hosting a survey taking event at September's Trans Pride Meet and Greet! We'll have snacks, laptops and WiFi available in the Garden Level. The survey can be completed on a computer or on any web-enabled device, such as a tablet or smart phone, and is available in English and Spanish. Group facilitators will also be present to help folks navigate the site, or to help answer any questions! The Meet and Greet will still occur on the 1st floor. OPEN TO TRANS* AND GENDER-QUESTIONING PEOPLE 18+ ONLY. Thank you in advance to our cisgender (non-trans) friends and partners for showing your allyship by respecting the survey space as a trans-only space. Tuesday, September 15 Garden Level & Rainbow Cafe The Pride Center 332 Hudson Ave, Albany, 12210 7-9 pm Free! The U.S. Trans Survey is now available to complete! If you can not make the event or would like to complete the survey at home visit: www.ustranssurvey.org

Saturday, September 26 2015 AIDS Walk

The 2015 Capital Region AIDSWalk will bring together our community to celebrate the lives of friends, family, and our neighbors living with HIV/ AIDS. Please join us for a fun filled day with food, entertainment, and awards to support local organizations providing HIV/AIDS awareness, prevention education, counseling, and healthcare services for those living with this disease. Proceeds benefit the men, women, and children living with HIV/AIDS served by the Pride Center and Capital Region AIDS organizations! Saturday. September 26 Washington Park, Albany 11 am - Registration 12 am - Walk

Sunday, September 27 Apple Picking with Center Families This annual, seasonal classic can only get better with friends! Plan now and enjoy a special day picking apples with community and our little ones! Center Families is program of the Pride Center dedicated to empowering and celebrating LGBTQ headed families across the Capital Region. Sunday, September 27 Indian Ladder Farms 392 Altamont Road, Altamont, 12009 Time TDA No Cost to Enter - Pay for What you Pick

LOOKING AHEAD : Monday, October 5 LGBTQA Professionals’ Networking Event

The Region’s Largest LGBTQA Monthly Event returns in October with it's first installment in Cohoes. Plan now to join us and meet up with friends , distribute your business cards, and make important business contacts. Monday, October 5 6-8PM Spindles on Remsen 241 Remsen St., Cohoes, 12047 $10 suggested donation

(May be donated beforehand, for your convenience at www.capitalpridecenter.org/events/octobernetworking/)

Friday, October 16 2015 Pride Center Gala!

Friday, October 16 Hilton Albany 5:30 pm Info: www.capitalpridecenter.org/2015-pride-center-gala

SPORTS / FUN & GAMES Gay Skate - Tuesdays - An open skate for the LGBTQ Community! $9.50 w. Skate Rental / $6.50 w. your own skates. For more info contact David at DB40@ AOL.com or (518) 573-3962 - 7-9:30pmRollarama Skating Center, 2710 Hamburg St., Schenectady Geek and Gaymer Night -Thursdays - 9pm- Rocks, 77 Central Ave, Albany (518) 472-3588 Capital Area Pride Bowlers will be starting the first half of their new season on Sept 13th the Sunday till Nov 29th. Then off for the holidays ! It is 15.00 per week dues. For the first day of bowling arrive by 5:30. Open to all. Sportsman Bowling Lanes, 1652 Crane St. Schenectady. More info - Dimas (518) 894-1083. K

Waterworks Pub - Mondays - 10pm - 2am, No Cover. (18+) 76 Central Ave, Albany, (518) 465-9079 Oh Bar - Thursdays - 10pm - 1am, No Cover. (21+) 304 Lark St., Albany, (518) 463-9004 Waterworks Pub - Fridays - 10pm 18+ (w. cover)- 76 Central Ave, Albany, (518) 465-9079 ROCKS - Fridays - 9pm-12am 77 Central Ave, Albany, (518) 472-3588 Circus Cafe - Saturdays -10pm - 2am, (21+) 392 Broadway, Saratoga, (518) 583-1106 Center Square Pub - Saturdays - 10pm - 2am, No Cover. 32 Dove St., Albany, (518) 729-2880

OPEN MIC / LITERARY Wednesday 8/ 12- Live from the Livingroom monthly poetry open mic- The Pride Center, Garden Level 332 Hudson Ave, Albany, (518) 4626138

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Open Minded Mic & Talent Showcase (for all performers)- Every 1st & 3rd Thursday - sign up 8:30pm start 9:00pm - Rocks, 77 Central Ave., Albany - (518) 472-3588

Variety Open Mic - Sundays - 10 pm - 12am - Waterworks Pub, 76 Central Avem Albany - (518) 465-9079 SOCIAL / SUPPORT GROUPS Out of the Closet I Am (for women who have sex with women): 1st & 3rd Wednesdays- 6:30pm-8pm Men’s Empowerment Group: 1st & 3rd Thursdays -6-7:30pm Voices of Unity (for Transgender people of color): 2nd & 4th Wednesday of each month from 6pm-7:30pm Groups listed above meet at In Our Own Voices, 245 Lark St., Albany, (518) 432-4188 YouthPride! A student led meeting that centers around helping LGBTQ students and allied students discuss matters in our community, schools, and in their Gay Straight Alliances (GSAs) that they have in their schools. YouthPride provides leadership development and an opportunity to help plan activities around GLSEN’s Days of Action and Days of Support. 1st Friday of the month 6-9pm- Professor Java’s Coffee Sanctuary, 217 Wolf Rd., Colonie Trans Partners Group: provides support for people to discuss and explore their relationships with trans-identified or gender non-conforming individuals. Open to people currently in partnerships with trans-people or people exploring their gender identities. Monthly on Tuesdays at 5pm. Contact Faith Hoffman at faith@choicesconsulting.com for more information. Choices Counseling and Consulting, 523 Western Ave. Suite 2A Albany, NY 12203-1617, (518)438-2222

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Live Trivia with Frieda- Tuesdays ROCKS - 8-10pm 77 Central Ave, Albany, (518) 472-3588 Oh Bar - Wednesdays - 9pm-12am 304 Lark St., Albany, (518) 463-9004

SPECIAL COMMUNITY EVENTS The Gayly Bowl is a community event from In Our Own Voices where teams can engage in a number of athletic challenges moving from novice to advance, all in the spirit of healthy competition. Food, prizes and swag items will be provided to all who come and participate. Additional team points and incentives will be given for HIV testing. Sept. 19 – 1-4pm Six Mile Water Works Park (136 Fuller Rd) more info and to register: gsantos@inourownvoices.org BEAR ALBANY Celebrates 10 years with INFAMOUS JOCK PARTY WEEKEND! Friday events include Cigar Night on the Patio @ Eginma Co. in Troy and BEAR e OKE! at Waterworks Pub. Saturday night: The Main Event! Bring your JOCK to ROCKS. Clothes check available! Sunday: Brunch at McGeary's at noon, later, Hot Boi Auction at ROCKS. For complete schedule, hotel information and more visit: www.bearalbany.com The Great Gay Geek Retreat! Free Your Inner Geek! For the third year in a row, gay geeks will be gathering at Easton Mountain for a weekend of relaxation, exploration, and geeky fun! Join us for star talks, creative workshops, bonfires, horror movies, outdoor games and more! September 18-20 - Easton Mountain Retreat Center - 31 Herrington Hill Rd., Greenwhich, NY. For rates and additional information visit: www.eastonmountain.org

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