Participant’s Manual
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Collaborative Group Activity:
The groups will count off into appropriate numbers based on group size to form small groups. Each group will be given a rope with knots tied in intervals. Each person in the group will put a hand in between a knot in the rope. Each group member’s hand must not move from the rope while the other hand stays free. The facilitator will then ask the groups to untie the knots in a given amount of time. Then they are to tie a knot in the middle of the rope. Facilitator will begin a discussion about the nature of teamwork and collaborative groups. The groups will then be given the opportunity to name their collaborative groups. (Every group member needs to have a part in the naming of the group and at least verbally agree with the decision.) The name is to be positive and must not have any kind of gang affiliation, etc. This will be how the group will be recognized throughout the rest of the group sessions. Š 2001, 2016 by Carrie Marchant & FLP. All Rights Reserved.
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The exact opposite response to the “C Cold” response is the “H Hot” response. The “H Hot” response is a loss of temper or a loss of control of oneself that usually ends in outbursts or even an explosion of anger. With this type of aggressive response, there are usually negative consequences and outcomes that seldom, if ever, fix the problem, and generally just make it worse. We need to learn our particular internal and external warning signs so that we can STOP and rethink what’s going on.
When feeling angry or upset, the best way to communicate is to respond in a manner that is “COOL” and in control. The “COOL” response is a more calm and thought-out approach. This could be as simple as displaying non-reactive behavior or reacting with calm statements that make it clear how the person feels, without attacking the attacker. This response often improves self-esteem and reduces the unwanted behavior. Another problem occurs when you are feeling angry but are too embarrassed, ashamed or otherwise hesitant to honestly discuss the reason or reasons for your anger. Do not let this happen—because when it does, you run the risk of displaying your anger without being honest about the “true” reasons behind your anger. This is unfair to you because it does not solve your problem. It is also unfair to the other person because he or she is not being allowed to deal with the “real” reason you are feeling angry. Always make certain that you are honest about your feelings, because the lack of honesty can and will ruin any relationship. Do you have a problem with being honest about the reasons for your anger? Reasons for not being honest can include fear of what comes after you speak or fear of hurting the other person’s feelings if he or she knew what you really thought. © 2001, 2016 by Carrie Marchant & FLP. All Rights Reserved.
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mention any contacts you have at the company who would be willing to speak on your behalf. The second paragraph should highlight your strengths and experience. It should show that you know something about the company by addressing some of the requirements of the job you are applying for or how your experience will enable you to handle the specific job for which you are applying. The final paragraph opens the door to further communication and should end with “Sincerely.” Four line spaces should be made after “Sincerely” to allow room for you to sign your name. After the four blank lines for your signature, you type your full name, as you plan to sign it. Since you are attaching an application and/or resume, you should type under your name, “Enclosures” or “Attachments.”
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