Participant’s Manual
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Collective Group Activity: Past and Future Decisions
Each participant will be given a rubber band. They will hold the rubber band vertically with two fingers from one hand holding the bottom and two fingers of the other hand holding the top. They will then be instructed to pull down slowly with one hand and up with the other so that the rubber band becomes tight. The bottom hand represents where the participants are right now and the top hand represents where they want to be when making good decisions. The tension in between is representative of the tension they will have while they are in the process of this journey of change—the time when the most courage will be needed. The tensions sometimes will be very intense (spread the rubber band fully); and then as they begin to make the changes (move bottom hand up), the tensions will become less and less. Š 2005, 2016 by Carrie Marchant & FLP. All Rights Reserved.
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Materials needed: Make scrap paper and a pen available to each teen.
❶ You should not speak to any of the parents, including your own during the Parent Panel presentations. You should listen politely for understanding of all the parents but especially your own. ❷ You may ask respectful questions of the other parents as long as your questions are not threatening or in any way derogatory. ❸ You may ask for clarification from your parent(s) in a respectful manner with no intimidating body language or loudness of voice. ❹ You may not argue with any parent! Use caution when speaking to ensure that your questions do not seem like attacks or strong opinions. ❺ You should not present body language that would intimidate any of the parents. The facilitator will be monitoring for such. ❻ Each teen should take notes in order to be better prepared to reiterate what your parent(s) had to say. Please try to make consistent eye contact with your parent. © 2005, 2016 by Carrie Marchant & FLP. All Rights Reserved.
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More Instructions for Parents: We will work together to finish this list of values. What else would you like to add to the list included below?
Leaning Slightly Forward (This indicates you are open to what other people are saying.) Maintaining Positive Eye Contact (No eye squinting or eye rolling). Maintaining Positive Body Language (Without clenched fists, etc. Maintain self-control.) Maintaining Good Facial Language (No mean or “dirty” looks.) Positive Gesturing like Nodding to Indicate “I Understand You”.
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