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We have had an overwhelming response to our Education issue. It is clear that parents and schools are taking the role of educating children more seriously than ever. Over the past few weeks I have had the privilege of talking to a number of school heads, teachers and parents. Competition is fierce, the demands on our children increasing, projects and homework pile up and technology is a moving target. Everyone, it seems, is feeling the pressure. At a recent parent-teacher meeting, I was chatting to my daughter’s maths teacher. My daughter has been sick and missed 28 days last term, but still managed to write her exams. This wonderful man gave feedback on her marks, which he thought should be higher. My husband and I had our own questions. “Does she love maths? Does she love coming to your class? Does she show respect to you and her peers?” In other words, was she really being educated? We had just met with her English teacher, and the answer, to our questions, was “Yes!”. Finding the right educational path for your child is not always easy and I have realised, involves ongoing assessment. There is a school in Cape Town that works off the premise, “If there is joy, anything is possible”, and I have to agree. Can you imagine children in all under-resourced schools attending classes where the teacher is “joyfully” teaching them, and the principal

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contents 25

do you hear me? 3 a note from lisa 6 over to you readers respond

10 best for baby – soothing your sick baby Tammy Jacks speaks to the experts on how to get your baby to sleep during congestive nights

features 16 should we scrap homework? can a no-homework policy in schools really work? Samantha Page investigates

20 a fusion of taste in her book, Flavor’s, author Shanaaz Parker shares recipes rich with local taste

22 sport, no thank you not all boys are into sport. Samantha Page looks at ways you can encourage them in other fields, in this sport-mad country

25 do you hear me? all children crave attention, but some go overboard. Glynis Horning gives advice on how to deal with attention seekers

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14 dealing with difference – do you get the message? the need for speech therapy intervention is growing. Lucille Kemp looks at the most common issues and how parents can deal with them

28 a good read for the whole family 32 resource – design trends breed a love for architecture and design in your children by introducing them to these structural gems in your city. By Simone Jeffery

35 what’s on in august 43 next month in child magazine

12 what the law says new legislation on sugar, salt and dairy can help us fight lifestyle diseases. By Tamlyn Vincent

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46 finishing touch planning an event is not one of Anél Lewis’ strong points. Not even a child’s birthday party

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8 pregnancy news – tipping the scales it’s important to keep your weight within a healthy range when pregnant, says Lucille Kemp

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over to you don’t judge, just feed I’ve had a bit of a crazy ride with my blog the last couple of days and it’s led me to kick-start a campaign to promote positivity and support for women who bottle-feed their baby, whether it’s out of necessity or by choice. I think something needs to be done to help stop the judgement and criticism of bottle-feeding mothers. This isn’t an attack on breastfeeding – it’s simply the first time anyone has tried to start a network to support bottle-feeding mothers. There are so many reasons why women bottle-feed their baby. I want to say: “Hey, it’s okay if you have to bottle-feed your baby. You are just as amazing as any other mother out there.” Breast or bottle, all mothers are doing their best by their baby. The division and debate of “Breast vs. Bottle” shouldn’t even exist. Holly Leppard (#dontjudgejustfeed)

the point of vaccines With regards to vaccination, I feel that there is a chunk of information that is missing. I am raising a

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vegan child. I have been vegan for eight years and counting and my husband for 10 years. We had an enormous battle in the hospital when we refused to vaccinate our son due to the ingredients of the cocktail not being vegan-friendly. In order for the ingredients to be active, eggs have to be used and bovine (taken from pig hooves) is also added. Due to our Hebrew/Israelite faith, and as stated in the Torah, we do not touch anything that comes from a pig. As an alternative to vaccines, we strengthen our son’s immune system with natural supplements to prevent our son from being sick or catching viruses, which is the same objective of vaccines. I find it offensive when someone mentions that their child caught a disease from an unvaccinated child. What then is the purpose of vaccines? How can you blame the unvaccinated child, when you were guaranteed that your vaccinated child would be safe from diseases, but he wasn’t? It doesn’t make sense. My child is very healthy, goes for his check-ups and reaches his milestones as every other child his age. Thembakazi Matsebatlela

your voice online in response to “canine conundrums” Families want a dog, but realise it’s too much trouble. Parents should wait until their children are old enough to take responsibility of caring for a dog, such as walking the dog, bathing and feeding it. Anonymous in response to “education 101” Hell will freeze over before I will allow any government department or institution to decide which school my child should attend. The new system is ridiculous, with no logic behind it, as some learners are assigned to schools not even remotely close to their feeder areas. More people must start complaining about this new “initiative” to mess up the education system even more. Arlene subscribe to our newsletter and win Our wins have moved online. Please subscribe to our newsletter and enter our weekly competitions. To subscribe, visit childmag.co.za

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pregnancy news

tipping the scales

LUCILLE KEMP learns that watching what you eat is never more important than when you’re pregnant. Start by getting your information from a professional. the culprits

curtail the problem

Excessive weight-gain in pregnancy is usually among women who start out overweight, says Cape Town specialist dietician Annchen Weidemann. They can become diabetic, which means that in their third trimester they’re going to gain a lot of weight because there is a high insulin response. “It’s also your living habits. There’s so much involved in not only how we eat and when we eat, but who we eat with – how much we eat when we are with (or not with) those people,” says Weidemann. Cape Town gynaecologist Jacky Searle points out the incorrect beliefs that exist: “energy needs are not increased in the first half of pregnancy, and only increase slightly in the second half, so one does not need to ‘let go and eat for two’.” Also, snacking small amounts frequently best alleviates the nausea of early pregnancy, says Searle, but this unfortunately often leads to excessive weight-gain.

Searle says that pregnant women with impaired glucose tolerance and diabetes often complain of sugar cravings, and giving in to these perpetuates the cravings, and weight gain. Once they alter their diets appropriately, these sugar cravings tend to disappear. Weidemann says that if you must, indulge in your cravings a little, but don’t binge on chips. Have an extra fruit or another serving of veg, or maybe some ice cream. Spread your weight-gain so there’s a certain amount in your first, second and third trimester. Look at the distribution of meals, and take away late evening snacking. “Do more with the three meals than between three meals as this is most effective for sugar regulation and insulin production,” says Weidemann. It is important to address the problem while pregnant, and, in need, seek help from a dietician before your third trimester. When you become a mom life changes,

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says Weidemann, and if your life changes along with 20kg or more, it’s worse than if it’s going to change at your normal weight.

increased risks from excessive weight

weight-gain guideline

to mom

The increase in body weight in the first half of pregnancy, says Searle, is due to a buildup of fat and an increase in blood volume (note, there is a 150% increase in blood volume throughout your pregnancy). In the second half of pregnancy, the increase in weight is due to the baby, placenta, amniotic fluid and fluid accumulation in the mother. The “normal” fluid accumulation in pregnancy weighs 1,2kg, and the normal amount of fat gained in pregnancy is 4kg, details Searle. “For a good size baby, we’re talking a 6,5–7kg weight-gain in the mom, especially if you started your pregnancy overweight. We’re definitely not talking 15–20kg anymore.” No longer must you gain a certain amount of weight to produce a healthy baby, says Weidemann.

✻✻ miscarriage ✻✻ high blood pressure ✻✻ pre-eclampsia ✻✻ clotting ✻✻ impaired glucose tolerance ✻✻ gestational diabetes ✻✻ induced labour ✻✻ longer labour ✻✻ instrumental or Caesarean delivery ✻✻ wound infection and death. to baby ✻✻ prematurity ✻✻ congenital abnormalities ✻✻ macrosomia (a very big baby) ✻✻ shoulder dystocia at delivery and stillbirth Compliments of Dr Jacky Searle

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best for baby

soothing your sick baby Whether it’s a cough, cold or bout of teething that’s keeping your child awake at night, chances are you’re pretty tired too. TAMMY JACKS speaks to the experts about ways to cope

hile we all suffer from the sniffles now and then, studies have shown that it’s not unusual for babies and young children under the age of eight, to contract up to 10 viral colds a year, especially during the colder months. And with the average cold lasting up to 10 days, that’s a long time for your little one not to feel well. The good news is, “When a baby gets a cold, the immune system produces antibodies to fight it, which lingers to make the immune system strong enough to fight the next infection, says pharmacist and complimentary medicines expert, Giulia Criscuolo. However, a cold can make your child feel pretty uncomfortable, thanks to nasty symptoms such as fevers, congestion, coughs and runny noses. This often means a string of sleepless nights for both you and your little one. So what can you do to survive the winter and get some much-needed shut-eye? Criscuolo has the following tips…

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soothing strategies ✻✻ Keep your child’s room warm but not too hot as this can worsen congestion. ✻✻ Use a cool mist humidifier with a few drops of eucalyptus, tea tree, lavender or thyme oil and run it for a few hours at night and during your child’s nap times. ✻✻ Place a thin pillow between the crib springs and the mattress, so the mattress is slightly inclined to help the mucus drain down the throat. ✻✻ Treat fevers by placing your child in a lukewarm bath or sponge him down with lukewarm water. ✻✻ Ensure your child stays hydrated and gets enough fluids throughout the day and at night. This will help his body fight the infection. ✻✻ Make a natural chest rub by mixing one or two drops of eucalyptus, rosemary, peppermint and lavender essential oils into a carrier such as coconut oil. Rub a small amount onto your child’s chest and under his feet.

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tips to treat teething pain How babies experience teething in the first two years can vary widely, says paediatrician at Life Fourways Hospital, Dr Dewald Buitendag. If your child seems abnormally fussy at night, has white, puffy gums or is drooling excessively, there are a few things that you can do to soothe his teething pain: ✻✻ Rub his gums with a clean finger. This gentle pressure can ease his discomfort. ✻✻ Let him chew on a cold teething ring or dummy. These should be cooled in the fridge, not the freezer. ✻✻ Some parents find that amber teething necklaces ✻✻ To soothe a sore throat, make a hot water drink with a dash of turmeric, lemon juice, honey and ginger. This is only suitable for children over a year old. ✻✻ Herbal teas such as oregano, sage and thyme also relieve the symptoms of a cold. ✻✻ Chicken soup, for children six months and older, provides essential nutrients for the immune system.

skip cough and cold medicines Most over-the-counter medicines to treat coughs and colds aren’t recommended to children under the age of two, says the American Academy of Pediatrics. This is because many of these products contain more than one ingredient, increasing the chance of accidental overdose and side-effects. As an alternative, they recommend using a simple bulb syringe and saline nasal spray to clear stuffy noses plus plenty of TLC. Caring and comfort is one of the best medicines for your child.

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relieve teething pain. There is, however, no convincing scientific evidence that these work, says Buitendag. If you decide to use one, your child shouldn’t suck or chew on it, as this can cause choking. ✻✻ Try teething gels and powders. A small amount rubbed onto his sore gums has a brief numbing effect. Make sure these are sugar-free and specifically made for babies. ✻✻ If your child won’t settle at night, paracetamol and ibuprofen are safe to use for mild pain and fevers associated with teething. Paracetamol can be used from three months of age and ibuprofen from one year of age, adds Buitendag.

when eczema is the culprit In their book The Allergy-free Baby and Toddler Book (Vermilion), Charlotte Muquit and Dr Adam Fox say irritated skin leads to itching and then scratching, which leads to more irritation. “Bear in mind that itching is a particular problem when your child is asleep because conscious control of scratching is lost and you are not there to stop them,” say Muquit and Fox. They suggest to reduce skin irritation, use cotton clothing and bedding, mild detergents and mild prescription soaps and shampoos. Also keep your child’s fingernails short, the bedroom cool and try putting mitts on his hands at night-time to prevent excessive scratching and rubbing. Before bedtime, Muquit and Fox suggest to give your baby a lukewarm bath with a non-soap replacer. After you’ve patted your baby dry, apply steroids and wait at least 30 minutes before you use moisturiser or emollient. They say steroids must be prescribed and you must follow the directions precisely. Also don’t apply steroids just after moisturisers as steroids create a barrier over the skin and stop the moisturisers from working. When choosing skincare products for your baby, speak to a dermatologist who will prescribe a regime personalised for your child’s skin. It is impossible to prescribe a particular emollient for your baby, and you’ll have to find out which ones work through trial and error. But, in general, stay clear of any products that contain perfume, soap, alcohol or those that are abrasive. Muquit and Fox also suggest to consider using antihistamines to promote sleep and reduce scratching at night, but always seek medical advice first.

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health

what the law says New regulations on sugar, salt and dairy can help combat the steady rise

ast and convenient – that often sums up the food we eat. Ready-made, frozen foods, takeout, a quick bowl of cereal, and we’re all set with our weekly meals. And if we feel our energy flagging, we grab an energy drink. It’s hardly surprising, given our busy schedule. But this lifestyle is killing us. Noncommunicable lifestyle diseases are on the rise and the prognosis isn’t good. Obesity, diabetes and strokes are putting a strain not just on our health, but also that of the country’s economy as it deals with increased healthcare costs. While consumers should be more active in making healthier choices, government is also introducing new measures to help turn the tide on lifestyle diseases.

salt The World Health Organization (WHO) recommends a daily limit of 5g of salt, but the Heart and Stroke Foundation SA (HSFSA) says that on average South Africans consume more than 10g. Most of this comes from hidden salt; the salt added to processed food during manufacturing, found in items like chips, cereals, breads, processed meats, cheeses and ready-made meals. what’s the problem? “Too much salt can raise blood pressure,” says Jessica Byrne, a registered dietician at HSFSA, which can lead to

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strokes, heart conditions, kidney disease and blindness. Reducing salt intake can help prevent an estimated 220 fatalities from heart disease and strokes every day. New legislation that has been in effect since June 2016 limits the amount of salt added to food items. The amount of sodium that is allowed in different foods depends on the food. Bread, for instance, is only allowed a maximum of 380mg of salt per 100g by June 2019. Flavoured potato crisps (not including salt and vinegar flavour) can have up to 550mg of sodium per 100g. The hope, says Byrne, is that this will reduce the amount of salt we eat by 0,85g every day, which will translate to a predicted 7 400 fewer deaths each year from heart disease and stroke, and a saving of R300 million in healthcare costs.

sugar Would you ever add seven teaspoons of sugar to your tea? That’s how much sugar you’ll find in drinks like ice tea, energy drinks and other sugar-sweetened beverages, says the HSFSA. We get a lot of sugar from our diet, but there is also added sugar that we get from processed foods. what’s the problem? Too much sugar can lead to weight-gain or obesity, and increase the risk for diabetes, heart disease and certain cancers, says the HSFSA. The sugar tax, planned for April

2017, is intended to decrease the number of sugary drinks we consume and help combat the rising rate of obesity. The tax could help reduce obesity and bring in additional revenue for the government. It will be imposed on sugarsweetened beverages, which include carbonated drinks, noncarbonated drinks such as sports drinks and juice concentrates, dairy fruit mixes and sweetened fruit juices. The amount of tax charged on sugary drinks has yet to be finalised and it will probably affect the price for consumers, but it’s also likely to encourage companies to add less sugar to drinks. Trix Trikam, executive director at the South African Sugar Association, says that the sugar industry will engage closely with government on the proposed tax on sweetened beverages. She adds that “the South African sugar industry promotes a healthy, balanced lifestyle and supports the fight against obesity.”

dairy The label “low fat” applies to local dairy products with a fat content between 1,5% and 2,5%, but that is changing. To bring dairy products in line with international standards and codes of practice, they’re being reclassified. They’ll now fall into five categories (high fat, full fat, medium fat, low fat and fat free) to ensure that there is continuity with global packaging and food contents, says Yumna Frizlar from Parmalat.

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of lifestyle diseases. TAMLYN VINCENT looks at what you need to know.

why the change? The reclassification is more focused on conforming to international standards, so there aren’t any health implications. The products remain the same, but low fat items will now be classified as medium fat. Some brands have chosen to launch new low-fat products, but others, like Parmalat, have chosen rather to relabel products as medium fat. The regulation has come into effect and consumers can already see changes in labelling on some dairy products. But manufacturers have until the end of the year to fully implement these changes. Dairy products must now also include an ingredients list, “best by / use by / sell by” dates and a batch code indicator on the label.

making smart choices Consumers can play a more active role in leading a healthy lifestyle: ✻✻ Buy fresh: choose foods that are fresh and haven’t been processed ✻✻ Read the labels: look at the ingredients list. If salt or sugar is one of the first three items, the food is likely to be high in this. ✻✻ Look out for the Heart mark logo: foods with this have to meet strict nutritional criteria. ✻✻ Choose healthy drinks: drink water, water flavoured with a small amount of fruit juice

milk and yoghurt

stats you should know

content per 100g

adults in South Africa suffers from high blood pressure.

As of 2016

high-fat

4,5% ≤ 4,5% < full-fat

3,3% ≤

3,3 – 4,5%

medium-fat N/A

1,5 – 3,3%

low-fat

1,5 – 2,5%

0.5 – 1,5%

fat-free

1,5% ≥

0,5% >

or fresh fruit, fruit juice diluted with water or unsweetened milk. ✻✻ Courtesy of Parmalat

resource:

Find out how much salt you consume in a day: saltcalculator.co.za

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1 in every 3

Hypertension is responsible for

50%

of all strokes in South Africa.

South Africa has the

2nd highest

number of deaths due to sugar intake in the world. Mexico has the highest number. In 2012, South Africans consumed an average of Coca-Cola products per person.

285

✻✻ Courtesy of HSFSA

Information on sugar and health from the sugar industry: youandsugar.co.za

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dealing with difference

do you get the message? There is a growing need for speech therapy intervention and, on the advice of the professionals, LUCILLE KEMP seeks to equip you to address your child’s communication issues, from an early age.

Delayed speech and language is the most common developmental problem in children, says Joburg-based speech and language therapist Beverley Ordman. “A growing number of the 0–3 year old population is not developing the early speech and language skills, as they should be. By the age of 12 months they’re not saying single words yet. By the age of 18–24 months they are not starting to combine words like ‘me go’ or ‘want cookie’ and by the age of three years old we’re not getting the small three- to four-word sentences,” says Cape Town speech and language therapist Carianne Vermeulen. Articulation errors, such as a lisp, and stuttering or dysfluency in the early years is also quite common, says Ordman. Vermeulen also sees more children with poor listening skills and many children don’t know how to make sense of what they hear, and we learn speech and language by what we hear and understand. Vermeulen sees a growing number of children on the autism spectrum who have difficulty with speech and language development, and the social use of language (pragmatics), which includes knowing that we take turns when we communicate and that we make eye contact. In children six years and older, issues include language-learning disorders, articulation disorders, as well as auditory processing and phonological awareness disorders, points out Vermeulen.

the importance of early intervention A child’s critical language-learning phase takes place around the first five or six years of life, says Ordman. Therefore, early speech therapy intervention is crucial for children battling to develop communication skills. Early language skills underpin subsequent reading and

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writing skills, and are necessary for a child’s future success in their academic and personal lives, so it’s important not to ignore any sign that a child’s communication development may be delayed and to seek professional help as soon as you detect a problem, says Ordman. “If it was important enough to bring up with your paediatrician, then it’s important enough to get a second opinion from a speech therapist,” says Vermeulen. A delay of six months is not necessarily fixed in six months. It can often only be made up in one to two years, depending on the child’s potential. “The sooner we start, the bigger the chances of helping children develop age-appropriate skills, especially before they enter the school system when they have a whole host of things keeping them behind,” advises Vermeulen.

what to expect from therapy A solid treatment approach will consider your child’s individual strengths and weaknesses, and your child’s family and support system will be included. Vermeulen started seeing Gareth* when he was just over two years old. Apart from the word “Mommy”, and various sounds and gestures, there was nothing and he wasn’t responding to therapy. “So I told his mom to bring his four siblings to the following week’s session. While it was challenging, I was able to assess him as, with his siblings around, he was responding to my prompts.” Speech therapists will also involve parents or caregivers in the treatment plan as carry over of new skills into the everyday environment is the ultimate goal of therapy. If your child presents with any type of speech or language delay, you will be advised to first have your child’s hearing tested as it is one of the major causes of language delay, particularly in the preschool population, says Ordman.

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a common problem

Usually therapy is once a week, but there are disorders for which intensive therapy (3–4 sessions a week) may be recommended. However, your therapist should be sensitive to the cost of therapy. “Running on one session a week, Gareth’s mom reinforced my therapy sessions by working intensively with him at home, and two years later, fouryear-old Gareth, who has childhood apraxia of speech, is able to use short sentences intelligibly, more often,” says Vermeulen. A typical session will last between 30 and 45 minutes and will be interspersed with play and reinforcement time. When dealing with younger children the therapist will aim to achieve all the goals set out for your child before schooling begins. “If we get to pre Grade R and see that the child’s not going to be able to mainstream we refer to an educational psychologist,” says Vermeulen.

what parents can do Children who make the greatest strides in speech therapy are those with supportive and involved parents, says Ordman. Vermeulen shares a few take-home activities: ✻✻ Interact Ditch the TV and tablet, and engage in face-to-face interaction. This will teach young children to initiate conversation, keep a conversation going and take turns instead of sitting passively in front of a screen. Important to note that establishing successful communication begins long before a child actually starts speaking. When a baby cries and the mom responds with “Oh, you’re hungry. Let’s give you milk”, they are hearing language and associating it: when they cry, you respond. ✻✻ Talk them through an activity The better the child’s able to participate in the activity, the better their language-learning will be. Your child is crawling to the bucket with water and soap, follow them there and talk about what they are seeing. ✻✻ Respond with enthusiasm Research has shown that when an adult responds promptly and enthusiastically to their child’s message, it encourages the child to engage further and develops their language more. ✻✻ Add language to your child’s experiences “Yes, the door is broken. It’s broken because Daddy pulled too hard on it”. Talk to them about what they are busy with, “Oh, Daddy sees you’ve got the scissors and you are cutting; cutting out the big circle”. Talk to them about what you are busy with: “Look, mommy’s cooking. First I’m going to add the butter, then we’re going to stir and then we’re going to fry”. ✻✻ Wait for a response Research shows that it’s best to wait seven to 10 seconds. ✻✻ Don’t over-correct The better option is to model what we want, without making it negative for them. “Yes a s-s-s-nake.”

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✻✻ Treat your child as a full communication partner Always be one step ahead to encourage them to extend themselves, in a manageable way. If your child uses twoword combinations “mommy come... daddy sit... car go” add one word – “mommy is coming”. ✻✻ Read books Instead of reading word for word, keep it interesting. Talk about the pictures, make the voices of the characters in the pictures and let your child do the voices too. ✻✻ Ask open-ended questions So, “What did you read today?” and “Who did you play with?” You can always use their answers to elaborate – “Oh so you played with Jason. What game did you play?” ✻✻ Talk about your day This works well with children who stutter as it takes the pressure to talk off them. Talk and wait to see what they give back, if they don’t, you can guide them with open-ended questions. ✻✻ Repeat the same words often Research shows that a child has to hear something about 100 times before they will attempt saying it. ✻✻ Give your child positive reinforcement Remark when, for instance, your child comes up with “truck”, and until this point everything has been “car”. *Name has been changed

Talk about the pictures, make the voices of the characters in the pictures and let your child do the voices too. helpful websites For activities (0–3 years old): mylearningbabyguide.com To find a speech therapist near you: saslha.co.za

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education

should we

scrap

homework?

The body of complaints about the volume of homework children have to contend with, continues to grow. Many parents are starting to wonder whether homework has any merit and whether a no-homework policy can really work.

here are more tears today as I suffer through the umpteen examples of “perimeter” my son has for homework. He has had a long day and so have I, and neither of us has the patience or resolve required to tackle these mathematical conundrums. Yesterday it was the mass of Afrikaans that needed to be consumed for his weekly assessment on Friday, and the day before he was stressing about the research for a natural science project, studying for exams and assessments, and preparing for an oral that all seem to have converged on Tuesday. We are both frustrated, but I know that I’m not alone. Judging the discussions that regularly ensue in the school parking area, most parents feel that their children are overburdened with homework. “Does it [homework] even serve a purpose?” asks one strident mom. “My older son had to do 20 maths problems for homework and his teacher didn’t even check them.” A commiserating dad says he wishes children had more time to just be children. “When you come home from school, the last thing you want to do is more work,” he adds.

how effective is it? In an interview last year, education commentator and vice-chancellor of the University of the Free State, Prof Jonathan Jansen said homework could reinforce learning. “Like all good things homework can be abused, and too much work, or meaningless, repetitive work, serves no purpose at all,” he explained. “Homework can be an instrument for enriching classroom learning, connecting class learning to domestic lives, and providing

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opportunities for practise, to children who struggle with the limited time available for instruction in a school day.” But the issue remains contentious among parents, teachers and educators. “Homework is a black hole,” says Etta Kralovec, an associate professor of teacher education at the University of Arizona South and co-author of The End of Homework: How Homework Disrupts Families, Overburdens Children and Limits Learning, commenting on the rising movement to implement a no-homework policy at schools. Kralovec’s statement may be true, but while international research points to homework having little or no benefit to enhancing learning or performance, there has hardly been any research on the subject in South Africa. However, after an investigation of South African schools’ websites and brochures, the Mail & Guardian summarised the possible advantages as: ✻✻ increasing learner’s knowledge and improving their abilities and skills; ✻✻ reinforcing what learners have already learnt; ✻✻ preparing them for future lessons; ✻✻ providing ongoing opportunities for parents to participate in their children’s education; ✻✻ extending what they know by having them apply what they have learnt to new situations, or integrating their abilities by applying many different skills to a single task. “I’m not disputing the merits of homework,” says a Durban mom, “it’s the volume and seeming lack of guidelines that leave most parents questioning its effectiveness.” This opinion is supported by Dr Beverly Killian, head of the Child and Family Centre at the University of KwaZulu-Natal’s School of Psychology. “Homework does have a place for practising skills, role learning and developing self-esteem, but families lose time together if the load is excessive,” says Killian. Take a quick poll among your friends and family with children and you will discover that there is a great deal of inconsistency regarding the amount of homework assigned by South African teachers, even by teachers at the same school. While the accepted guideline is 10 minutes of homework a day for each grade (10 minutes for Grade 1 and 60 minutes for Grade 6), this scale is mostly not applied in SA schools. Local educational psychologist Anel Annandale commented on her blog that studies show that if pupils go past this prescribed maximum they get burnt out and their level of achievement drops.

smart learning In July last year, the homework controversy kicked into a new gear when Gavin Keller, the principal of Sun Valley Primary in Cape Town, announced his school was implementing a no-homework policy and “redesigning the way we teach”. “We became very aware of the increased level of stress in our homes over the past few years. Irrespective of class or level of employment, our parent cohort was experiencing a working environment that demanded more time on-task and this led to parents having less time available to assist children. The curriculum demands and teaching methods have changed over the years, leaving parents feeling unable to assist. Further, teachers were not assessing the homework given because they never knew if the learner completed the work or if the parents contributed. “We wanted to create time for children to play and read. Creativity and innovation are directly linked to the amount of time we allow the brain to be in a non-focused state. ‘Aha!’ moments – when you experience sudden insight or discovery – never happen when the pre-frontal cortex is engaged in active learning. Innovation happens when the brain is in automatic, unconscious, mindless mode. Time had to be created for play and the natural response to play is rest – and what better way to teach children to rest, after a lot of learning and play, than with a book, so homework was bartered for a commitment to 20 minutes of reading, seven days a week.” Keller cites brain-based or SMART learning, practised very successfully in Finland, as a source of inspiration for the school’s policy. He summarises SMART learning as: state Set the state of the brain before you teach it. Your environment determines your capacity for neural connections. meaning If there is no meaning, the brain doesn’t learn. Few learners saw the meaning in homework. It may have meaning for a 60-year-old educator, but it has no meaning for 21st-century children. attention Teachers need to learn to catch and keep attention. retention Retaining information is about gluing that information so that neurons can connect them and create meaning. transfer Great learning happens when a student knows how to transfer the information through analysis and synthesis, and use it in different contexts. “Too often South African children can only regurgitate information, and these environments produce a fixed mind-set,” says Keller. “Challenging environments develop a growth mind-set and that’s what we are desperate to achieve.” But what about learners who have learning deficits and need extra reinforcement? “My son has ADHD and after school, it’s hard to get him to focus on homework for another magazine joburg

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Innovation happens when the brain is in automatic, unconscious, mindless mode. hour or more. Often, he has to complete work he didn’t finish in class, his homework and studying. We both end up defeated,” says a Cape Town mom. “We all process information at different speeds, depending on our interests. No amount of extra work closes a learning gap,” explains Keller. “Learning gaps are closed by finding different neural paths to connect data. This requires intensive teaching by a professional, not a parent. (Apologies, but parents make the worst teachers.) Reinforcement is a myth. The word we use in brain-based teaching is repetition. Good teachers repeat the information in all the modalities for learning, for example, visual, auditory, reading and kinesthetic (touch).” Whether or not schools have a no-homework policy, teaching methods and teachers are key. In Finland, classes are capped at 12 students per teacher so there is plenty teacher interaction. All Finnish teachers are required to have a Master’s degree and they are constantly reviewing their methods. According to SMART teaching, if one method fails, they consult with colleagues to try something else. They believe the challenge is to find out how each student learns and to teach them according to how the learner’s brain is wired. “This is an extremely tall order,” says a Durban teacher. “I teach in a poorer area and I have 40 children in my class, so it’s hard to get around to each student and spend time with each one. I’m not happy about it but sometimes we just have to do the best we can. Often homework is not done because their parents can’t help them.” Killian also adds that the type of homework prescribed by various schools contributes to the educational divide when parents do not have the same resources or access to educational tools like the internet, books or magazines. So where do parents go from here? Keller says he challenges any school to show him a better teaching and learning climate. Six months after the no-homework policy was implemented, learners were happier and clearly flourishing, and that ensures their brains are ready to learn and store the necessary information in the cortex. But South African schools are not all as progressive as Sun Valley and it doesn’t appear homework is going to be entirely discarded any time soon. So until more innovation

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is applied to homework, parents should ask for clearer guidelines from their children’s teachers and school, say contributors to the Mail & Guardian survey. Parents can also promote responsibility, time management and independent effort even if they are not able to physically assist. Moms and dads should bear in mind that children learn from informal excursions or projects that can improve creativity, so they should plan more of these kinds of activities. While homework may be scoring an F on many fronts, parents, teachers and school heads can give it a passing grade by implementing clear and sustainable guidelines, keeping the learner’s environment and resources in mind and by striving to see homework as an opportunity to learn, grow and thrive in school and beyond.

how does a no-homework policy work? “The policy is no uniformed homework, which is work that has been assigned to the entire class and is to be completed by a set date,” says Gavin Keller. “Under pressure, a teacher can ask for permission to assign research tasks at home, but only the research may be done at home and the work in class so that we can assess the task effectively. Preparation for an oral is allowed. We also write formal assessments four times a year, from Grade 4 to 7. We write for four days. Two weeks prior to Assessment Week, a revision timetable indicates what must be studied during the home-time study period. This is to teach students how to plan and study for assessments. We believe writing exams is not a life skill. After our undergraduate degrees, we no longer write exams, so we are teaching learners a survival skill – how to survive high school and tertiary studies.”

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In her book, Flavor’s, author SHANAAZ PARKER embraces the abundance of ingredients we have around us and shares her flavourful recipes.

butternut and sweet potato in mango curry sauce serves 4–6 ingredients ✻✻ 1kg firm half-ripe mangoes, peeled and flesh cut into chunks ✻✻ 1 large butternut, cut into chunks ✻✻ 3 medium sweet potatoes, cut into chunks ✻✻ 30ml lemon juice ✻✻ 60ml butter, melted ✻✻ 30ml oil ✻✻ 1 large onion, chopped ✻✻ 3 green chillies, finely chopped ✻✻ 15ml garlic paste ✻✻ 5ml ground coriander ✻✻ 10ml ground cumin ✻✻ 10ml chilli powder ✻✻ 5ml tikka spice ✻✻ salt to taste ✻✻ 250ml fresh cream ✻✻ 100ml chopped coriander Serve with Basmati rice and sambals

method In a processor, blend mango till smooth; set aside in a small bowl. Place butternut and sweet potato in a large bowl of water, adding 30ml lemon juice. Keep aside. In a large pot heat oil and butter; add onions and chillies, and braise until golden. Add spices and blend with the onion, adding 250ml water. Bring to a slow boil till fragrant. Drain the water from the vegetables and add only the sweet potatoes to the pot. Cook over low heat for 7–10 minutes till just tender. Add butternut and mango puree, and cook for a further 5–7 minutes till all vegetables are cooked through and soft. Add cream to the pot and simmer till sauce is thick and gravy-like. Sprinkle with coriander before serving.

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one pan chicken vegetable bake serves 4–6 ingredients ✻✻ 60ml butter ✻✻ 1kg chicken thighs, cleaned and washed ✻✻ 10 baby potatoes, scrubbed ✻✻ 8 whole garlic cloves, unpeeled and crushed ✻✻ 2 thin, long sweet potatoes, scrubbed and cut into thin slices ✻✻ 1 medium butternut, cut into large chunks, do not peel ✻✻ 1 red onion cut into large wedges ✻✻ 2 tomatoes, grated ✻✻ 30ml oil ✻✻ 3 lemons, the rind grated and the juice extracted ✻✻ 250ml whole cocktail cherry tomatoes ✻✻ 1 punnet whole baby mushrooms ✻✻ 2 chillies, chopped ✻✻ 250ml sweet chilli sauce ✻✻ 100ml mustard sauce ✻✻ 100ml peri peri sauce ✻✻ 60ml honey ✻✻ salt and pepper to taste ✻✻ a few sprigs of coriander

method Preheat oven to 180°C. Spray an oven tray with nonstick cooking spray. In a large bowl, add chicken, baby potatoes, garlic, sweet potatoes, butternut, peppers, onions and tomatoes. Add salt and a good amount of freshly milled pepper. Toss together. Place chicken and vegetables and mix in oven tray; top with butter and pour oil over to coat well. Roast for 30–40 minutes until chicken and veggies are tender. Remove chicken tray from oven. In a bowl, mix together all remaining ingredients and toss with chicken and vegetables. Return tray to oven and bake for a further 10–15 minutes until chicken and vegetables are browned and cooked through completely. Garnish with sprigs of coriander.

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ingredients ✻✻ 1 packet chocolate crunchy biscuits ✻✻ 50ml almonds, flaked ✻✻ 2 punnets fresh cherries, stones removed ✻✻ 500ml strawberry juice ✻✻ 60ml castor sugar ✻✻ 100ml strawberry jam ✻✻ 6 whole cherries with stems for garnish method Beat cream, icing sugar, custard and essence in a bowl with an electric mixer until soft peaks form. Chill in refrigerator. In a medium pot, add cherries, strawberry juice and sugar. Bring to a boil over low heat, stirring until sugar dissolves. Add jam and simmer till fruit becomes soft and juice thickens to a syrup, taking care that the fruit does not break up. Sprinkle half of the almonds into the base of each glass, reserving the rest for later use. Top with biscuits, then add the fruit mixture, dividing equally between the glasses. Sprinkle with reserved nuts. Finally top with custard cream and place a cherry in the centre.

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Custard cream: ✻✻ 250ml fresh cream ✻✻ 125ml ready-made vanilla custard ✻✻ 30ml icing sugar ✻✻ 5ml cherry essence ✻✻ 6 tall dessert glasses

Shanaaz Parker has authored five cookbooks, and she is well-known as a vibrant and informative radio food presenter.

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this book, she underwent another adventure in the culinary

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includes such treats as Mini Chilli Mustard Tuna Quiches and Potato and Shrimp-filled Parathas. In the section on pancakes, prepare to make Coconut and Almonddipped Pancake Triangles or Tiramisu Coffee Pancakes. She gives you flavourful recipes with meats, chicken, fish and vegetables, as well as a colourful section on chutney and desserts. Flavor’s is available at all good book stores and from spgoodfoodstudio.com for R195. Also find out about Shanaaz’s cooking and baking classes for adults and children.

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sport,

no thank you While the world assumes all boys love sport, enjoy playing games and compete with enthusiasm, there are some who cringe at the mention of teams, tackles and tries. Samantha Page wonders if parents should call

blog post earlier this year on The Huffington Post declared: “No, my son doesn’t play sports and really, it’s okay.” The author, psychotherapist and writer Kerry Foreman, felt compelled to write about her son’s lack of interest in sport when she realised that most people don’t know how to talk to a boy who doesn’t play sport. “Our society is programmed in a way that a boy who doesn’t play sports is an anomaly,” says Foreman. “What can we possibly have to say to a boy, if we can’t ask him about football, basketball or soccer?”

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Boys who are not interested in sport, or who are athletically challenged and uncoordinated, find themselves a stranger in their own boyish land because since they aren’t playing the games everyone else is playing and enjoying, or following professional leagues and players, they become harder to relate to. The heroes of the non-athletic are more likely scientists, musicians, artists, authors, animators and gamers, and their fields of interest are possibly books, construction toys and other creative pursuits.

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time-out on forcing boys into sport when they have no interest.

Most parents have heard all the arguments in favour of sport, and there’s no denying the obvious benefit of improved physical health. In addition, a media statement from the Department of Basic Education in 2014 stated that “sport provides challenges and adventures, fills vacuums and gives meaning and a sense of purpose to people’s lives. Participation, irrespective of the level at which it occurs, can build self-respect, self-esteem, confidence and enhance leadership capabilities.” But is there an equal amount of disadvantages? “Sporty children seem to be well-liked, are more popular and more powerful than those who struggle with physicality,” says a Cape Town mom whose son is not a natural sportsman, but attends a school that places high value on being involved in, and excelling at, sport. “My son feels that his lack of interest in sport leaves him at a disadvantage with the teachers and learners at his school and I can see that it has affected his confidence.” Eleven-year-old Jamie* says, “I am always chosen last when teams are decided during physical education. Nobody wants me on their team because the other boys know I can’t help them win. I really try to bowl the ball or score goals – to fit in – but I never quite get it and I just end up looking silly. Sometimes I even ask my mom to write a note excusing me from class, so I don’t have to go through the humiliation.” The pressure to not just participate but also excel on the sports field is becoming more and more prevalent, which adds to the burden non-athletes experience. “Competitiveness in schools is partly due to schools increasingly being seen as business units that compete with one another for pupils,” says

Dr Jason Bantjes, psychologist at Bishops Diocesan College in Cape Town, in a magazine article on school sport. “Boys also buy into the idea: ‘Where am I in the pecking order?’” Bantjes also makes the point that parents sometimes add to the high level of competitiveness in sport and that some parents see their children as extensions of themselves and attach heightened importance to their children’s achievements or take personal credit for what their children do. As a result, many South African boys on the brink of manhood have the perception that the worth of a man is measured by what he achieves. Despite the countless arguments in favour of encouraging your son to participate in sport, regardless of his ability, what if the pressure of an unfair playing field is too much? What if he is overwhelmed by the aggression and the noise? What if he feels that sport highlights his weaknesses and that, instead of building him up, it’s breaking him down. Shouldn’t his parents help him select an activity that is more suited to his personality? For many years, renowned psychologists have been making a compelling case for playing to your child’s strengths as a vital developmental strategy. “So much of what goes on in our society works to pressure people into meeting rigid expectations for behaviour, learning and development,” says Thomas Armstrong, PhD, and author of Awakening Your Child’s Natural Genius. “The reality is that individuals grow and learn in remarkably different ways. When we allow people to develop according to their natural rhythms, and learn in their own unique way, we make it possible for them to achieve a sense of meaning in their lives and enable them to share their remarkable gifts with those in their world.”

The reality is that individuals grow and learn in remarkably different ways.

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Perhaps your son can build team dynamics by being in a band, suggests journalist and author Sarah MacDonald. He can learn teamwork in a drama group and cooperation working on an art project. Likewise you can cultivate humility in defeat in playing other games, like chess or monopoly, and learn leadership as member of a Scouts group. “When my son was five years old, I watched him try to climb the monkey bars at a friend’s birthday party. He really struggled and over the years, I’ve seen him try to sink a basketball into a hoop, stand in front of the wickets with dread to face an oncoming ball and try to scale a wall in an obstacle course, all to prove to others that he can be like them. I’ve always hated that he tries so hard to conform because I worry that he’ll never get the opportunity to show people his own special talents,” says a Joburg mom of a 12-year-old boy who is lean and smart but not sporty. Foreman contends that society has instilled a fear in us that if our boy doesn’t play sports, that he is uninvolved or lazy and he is clearly sitting around doing nothing. “We ignore the statistics behind head trauma. We ignore the statistics regarding how many of those boys actually play in university or beyond. We ignore whether our children are enjoying themselves. We ignore what their true passion might be. We ignore that competitive sports keep them so busy, they have little time for much else.” Foreman and other parents question the merits of funnelling your son into a system they don’t fit into and wonder whether we should rather defy the rules and simply say “you, my boy, are enough.” If school and, more important, childhood is about developing the whole person, how do you develop the part that doesn’t like sport?

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tips for developing a non-athletic son

alternate fine motor and gross motor skills

Drawing, cutting with scissors, puzzles and even typing on the computer builds fine motor (small muscle) skills. Gross motor (large muscle) activities use the arms and legs. You could go outside and throw a tennis ball around, and afterwards you can draw a picture of the experience. Get creative, the whole idea is using both areas of physical development.

model moves

You are your child’s role model. They are always watching you and while they might not take up your interests, they will be curious about them. Give them a little basic sports info at a time, suggests playgrounddad.com, and help them succeed in even a basic understanding of a sport or activity in which you participate. The grasp of how something works makes it more interesting than something you don’t “get” at all.

playing to his strengths

It may seem like common sense, but finding out what your son is good at, or what is his natural talent, will help you hone in on an activity that is fun and that he can participate in without fear of failure. Keep building on those strengths and embrace his interests. Your support will instil a sense of self-worth and accomplishment, and his emotional wellbeing will be boosted by the fact that he’ll always have someone in his corner. *Name has been changed

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do you hear me? All children crave attention, but some demand far more than others. And if we don’t take care, a toddler who throws tantrums can turn into a teen drama queen or puffed-up prince, and a self-absorbed adult others avoid, making everyone’s life miserable – including their own.

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t may drive parents mad, but attention-seeking behaviour is, at its base, a survival mechanism. Getting attention can help keep us alive in a crisis. As vulnerable newborns, we wail to make known our need for feeds, nappy changes and to be held – to feel safe and protected. But as we grow, the craving for constant attention should decrease as we learn to meet our own needs and become independent. When that primitive survival drive persists at full bore, it’s counter-productive, alienating others. So why do some children still do it? “Mostly it’s because we’ve inadvertently taught them that in the short-term, at least, it produces the responses they want,” says Joburg counselling psychologist Karin Steyn. If constantly whining “Uppy, Mom, uppy!” gets them carried, and tantrums produce packets of chips or later curfews, they are being encouraged in that behaviour. And even if it comes with negative consequences – angry words, a smack from an over-stretched parent – this can seem preferable to being ignored.

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In some cases, research now suggests attention-seeking may be more than a behaviour problem, or a character trait (if your child comes from a line of extrovert, drama-queens) – it can be hard-wired into the child’s brain (see “talking science”). Mostly, however, the way to manage it is to see it for what it is, understand it, and once health or other possible problems have been ruled out, to counter it with unsolicited love. “Children don’t just need attention, they need to feel connected to their parents, to have their feelings validated and their experience of their world understood,” says Anwen Scholtz, an educational psychologist at a Durban primary school for children with learning difficulties. “In our fast-paced world, this is something harried parents can compromise in their survival within a cut-throat concrete jungle. “A child’s behaviour might be a message that more authentic connection is needed. You might need to slow down and talk about the day, the children’s worries and dreams. You might need to learn how to listen and genuinely enjoy the time you spend with your children. A recent study in the US found the average family spent 52 minutes a week in quality time. Of course, screen time was not considered quality time...”

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Constant interrupting, whining or throwing tantrums can turn home or social visits into a minefield. But until around age seven, children can struggle to prioritise their wants and express them clearly, and their easiest option may be attention-seeking behaviour. “We often expect children to behave in a certain way without teaching them the skills that they need,” says Scholtz. “You need to take time to help children verbalise their feelings. Dan Siegel calls this ‘name it to tame it’. Children who can ask for what they really need will not need to whine, cry or scream as much.” It can seem exhausting to have to teach these skills, but part of teaching is modelling, she says. Telling a child: “I know you get so angry when something disappoints you” can diffuse a situation much faster and more gently than offering a punishment or reward. “If my daughter is not centre stage, she’s acting up,” sighs Durban interior designer Martina*, mother of lively four-year-old Kelly*. “I’ve started working from home and have a part-time nanny, but Kelly plays up unless she’s ‘working’ near me. Then she constantly interrupts, even when I’m on the phone. And when I leave to visit clients, she throws tantrums unless I promise to bring something. One reason for working from home is to spend more time with her, but I’m beginning to think play school is an option.”

Children don’t just need attention, they need to feel connected to their parents, to have their feelings validated. advice: ✻✻ Try to understand the attention-seeker’s reasoning. “She might need more stimulation than a nanny can give, especially if you are not available to play either,” says Steyn. ✻✻ Keep calm. Yelling back or lashing out will just make her more anxious (that you may leave her) and likely to seek attention. It models the very behaviour you don’t want. Take a time-out yourself if need be – breathe deeply and regain control. ✻✻ Use distraction. “It’s the best way to prevent meltdown,” says Scholtz. Equip yourself with a few stock options – things your child enjoys and will find more interesting than continuing down the whining road. A younger child might be happy with “Let’s make tea for teddy,” she suggests. ✻✻ Help your child calm down. “When she’s very emotional is not a good teaching moment,” says Scholtz. “Calm her by empathising with her feelings: ‘Oh no! I see the lovely ship you just built has broken. It’s okay to be sad and frustrated’.” Then talk about making a plan. Tell her you can’t understand whiny voices, and it’s not polite to interrupt. Perhaps organise a secret signal for when she does this. ✻✻ Give plenty of unsolicited attention. “Put aside even a few minutes a day for one-onone time, allowing your child to direct the play or choose the activity,” says Steyn. “She’s more likely to feel recognised and important.” ✻✻ Actively reward the child when she is not playing up, says Scholtz: “I’m so happy when I’m cooking and listening to your quiet playing noises”. ✻✻ Don’t try to make her feel guilty by telling her what a tough day you’re having and how she is adding to it – you can compound her worry and the problem. “But if you overreact to a child’s behaviour, it can be helpful to tell them you’ve had a rough day, but shouldn’t have taken it out on them,” says Scholtz. ✻✻ If the behaviour persists, see your paediatrician to check there is no underlying health or mental health problem, such as ADHD.

at school

From constantly raising their hands (“Me, pick me!”) to acting class clown or bullying, attention-seeking behaviour at school can be hugely disruptive. It can affect an already stressed teacher and the class, and lead to the child being labelled, judged and shunned, making the problem worse. It can also have various causes, including concentration or other learning problems and low self-esteem, though some children are just more outgoing than others, says Scholtz. “Jabu* was always joking around, and when that didn’t work, he’d start fights,” says the eight-year-old’s mother, Thabeka*, from Pietermaritzburg. “The teacher wanted him out, especially because he was behind in his work. But when I was called in, I explained that his dad left after I got breast cancer last year. Jabu also helps look after two younger children.”

advice: ✻✻ Speak to teachers about problems at home that may affect your child’s behaviour in attention-seeking or other ways. ✻✻ If you are unable to give your child the attention you would like to, try to find someone who can – a gran, teacher, church member or NGO worker.

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✻✻ Make sure you find time for your child in the evenings, over weekends and holidays, and do your best to attend special events in her life, says Steyn. ✻✻ Teachers should be trained in deflecting attention-seeking behaviour, from ignoring it to diverting children, and giving praise for good or calm behaviour. ✻✻ If the behaviour is linked to poor self-esteem, help them find an area in which they excel, from art or sport to just tidying the classroom. “Help them feel they are special and lovable and not known only for their problems,” says Steyn.

the only child

Because only children don’t have to share your love and affection, or their toys and clothes, some may see themselves as the centre of the universe, causing complications outside the home and in later life. “Avisha* was a real little princess by the time she started pre-primary,” laughs Lallie*, Benoni mom of the 10-year-old, ruefully. “But her teacher was great, teaching all the children to share and take turns. She put Avisha gently in place, and put her in charge of a smaller girl, praising her for being a good role model. The tantrums stopped, and this year she was voted class monitor.”

advice: ✻✻ Talk to your child about sharing and helping others, and, more importantly, model it, to encourage empathy and help them be less self-centred. “Help them create an opportunity to show their love and care for others through planning surprises,” says Steyn. “Encourage the child’s own initiative.” ✻✻ Arrange visits with other children from a young age. “Children will learn from natural consequences that to share and be kind and generous takes them further,” says Steyn.

arrival of a sibling

Adjusting to the change from being an only child can trigger attention-seeking behaviour, but this can also happen when there are already other siblings. As Adele Faber, author of Siblings Without Rivalry, puts it, “The arrival of a new child is interpreted as ‘less for me’. Less lap, less time, less attention…” It can be threatening, especially for children aged 18 months to three years old – earlier they are largely oblivious to the change, and later they have other interests. Some act out with jealousy, aggression and regression (bed-wetting, thumb-sucking). “I caught my son pinching his baby sister, then one day he bit her toe. I was horrified,” says Cape Town mom Heather*, of her three-year-old son. “I bit his toe, to show him what it was like. But the next day I found him putting our cat on her face. His granny had told him cats could smother babies.”

advice: ✻✻ How well children deal with the arrival of a sibling depends on how well you manage this transition and reassure the child they are still safe, loved and acknowledged, says Steyn. ✻✻ Be empathetic and reassuring: “It’s hard with changes in the family, but it will be fun, too.” ✻✻ Set realistic expectations: don’t promise an instant playmate. Tell the child about when he was a baby. ✻✻ Give him a role: “You’ll be the baby’s teacher,” and involve him in showing her to visitors. “Remember to talk about the older child’s accomplishments to others, especially when they can overhear you,” says Steyn. ✻✻ Plan one-on-one time each day, perhaps snuggling and reading to him while baby nurses. ✻✻ Give lots of hugs and remind him that love stretches and there’s plenty to go around. *Names have been changed

talking science According to reports in Psychology Today and the American Journal of Psychiatry, extreme attention-seeking and “drama addiction” can sometimes be a response to early developmental trauma triggered by neglect, abuse or trauma. The developing brain adjusts to early conditions so as to survive in a world where these prevail. Lack of attention can then be registered by the unthinking amygdala area of the brain as a frightening threat; and while the thinking parts (anterior cingulated cortex) should be able to counter that, extreme stress can limit the availability of serotonin to manage that, suggest the researchers. Drama can also stimulate the pituitary gland and hypothalamus to produce endorphins (natural opiates), resulting in an addiction, of sorts, to drama. But while you may not be able to rewire the brain, it’s possible to manage the effects of early neglect, abuse or trauma, with counselling, psychotherapy or play-therapy for children, says psychologist Karin Steyn.

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a good read

books

for toddlers Go, Go, Gorilla! By Lydia Monks (Published by Egmont Books, R146) Gorilla is coming for a visit, but how are they going to entertain her? What does a gorilla like to do? Will it be skiing? Or what about skating? It could be swinging... You’ll soon see in this delightful picture book about finding fun in everything you do.

for pre-schoolers The Rainbow’s Heart By Richard Latimer for toddlers Rosie’s Hat By Julia Donaldson and Anna Currey (Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R163) This is the story about one little girl, one smart hat, a sudden gust of wind and a whole hatful of adventures. And what an adventure this hat is enjoying: meeting playful dogs, floating in the ocean, turning into a nest and so much more.

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(Published by Bumble Books, R149) When cousins Dusty Rhodes and Bob Wyre are asked to save a mysterious colony of bees, they must follow a honeyguide across Africa, through border posts and foul weather – all the way to the rainbow’s heart. But will they be in time to rescue the bees, and will their plan to save them work?

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early-graders African Folk Tales series By Sindiwe Magona and Nicole Blomkamp (Published by David Philip Publishers, from R51) This is a lovely series of African folk tales for children six to eight years old. In The Stranger and his Flute, the town is plagued by mice, and the mayor must make a plan because the town folk didn’t pay for him to be “fat and lazy”. Greedy Man, Kind Rock tells the tale of Hlohlesakhe, a man who remembered his neighbours when good fortune fell on him. The Woman on the Moon explains what happens when everybody decides to no longer obey the rules. Soyiso learns an important life lesson in Buhle, the Calf of many Colours. In Nokulunga, Mother of Goodness, beautiful Nokulunga gets married, and her mother gives her a special pot, one that has to be used wisely... Stronger than a Lion is a fable with a strong message.

for early graders Encore, Mr William Shakespeare! – A Sticker Activity Book By Marcia Williams (Published by Walker Books, R133) Marcia Williams brings five of William Shakespeare’s best-loved plays to life with puzzles, games, drawing, colouring and over a hundred stickers for children.

for pre-teens and teens The Mastery Club By Liliane Grace (Published by Grace Productions, R337) This novel, about five children who form a club to support each other in achieving their goals and dreams, is packed with practical tools and information about goal-setting, constructive thinking, how the mind works, and character values like persistence, courage and a good attitude.

for pre-teens and teens The Rule of Thoughts By James Dashner (Published by Ember, R175) This is the sequel to The Eye of Minds, the very popular series about cyber terrorism. In this second book, Michael has completed the Path, and what he found at the end turned his world upside down. The cyber terrorist, Kaine, is not dead. In fact, he’s a Tangent, a computer programme that can come alive again. And, his master plan is more terrifying than Michael could imagine.

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for pre-teens and teens The Princess Diaries: Royally Obsessed and Prom Princess By Meg Cabot (Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R146 each) The popular Princess Diaries series has been given a make-over, and the stories are still as popular as ever. This is a lovely gift set idea for young girls.

parenting Calmer Easier Happier Screen Time By Noël Janis-Norton (Published by Yellow Kite, R326) This is a guide for parents of toddlers to teenagers on how to get back in charge of technology. Practical strategies help you get back in charge of your children’s screen time and change family life for the better. The author is a learning and behaviour specialist with more than 40 years’ experience helping parents and teachers. Her practical solutions will help wean children and teens off their screen dependency.

for us South African Cookbook for Diabetes By Hilda Lategan (Published by Tafelberg, R250) Statistics show that the incidence of diabetes among South Africans is growing at an alarming rate. Even children are being affected by the disease. This cookbook will help you get your diabetes and insulin resistance under control. It contains more than 100 delicious and healthy recipes using ingredients that are affordable and easy to find.

for us Dyslexia in the Classroom By Dr Carine Mays (Published by Go Focus, R195) This book takes you on a powerful journey through the life of a dyslexic student. An invaluable guide for teachers and educators, it explains why dyslexics struggle. Understand their way of processing information, and experience how they feel in the classroom. Be equipped to identify possible dyslexics and use the tools to help them. Order the book from gofocus.co.za

for us Braai: Reuben on Fire By Reuben Riffel (Published by Quivertree, R380) As an ode to the quintessential South African cooking style, Reuben takes you on a road trip through his past. From hunting and cooking pigeons on the farms of Franschhoek, as a child, to his travels where he learnt how to experiment with unexpected flavours and exotic ingredients. magazine joburg

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Introduce children to the visual world of design, by exploring the various landmarks in your city. By SIMONE JEFFERY

Designed by architect Pierre Swanepoel of StudioMAS Architects, Circa Gallery can be viewed as sculptural architecture. The oval shaped building is designed in such a way as to provide maximum floor space for people to gather and socialise while viewing art in a comfortable setting. Aluminium barriers, resembling reeds, wind around the building from the ground floor to the roof. This allows views into, and out of, the building and a striking autumnal design feature. Besides being interesting to look at, the building is also self-sufficient, producing its own electricity on site using solar voltaic panels and harvesting rain water used for everything except drinking. The building won a Silver Loerie in 2010 in the communication design category for architecture and interior design. Location 2 Jellicoe Ave, Rosebank Contact 011 788 4805 or circagallery.co.za

27 Boxes The bohemian suburb of Melville is home to a retail centre made entirely out of shipping containers. Built by Citiq Property Developers, the bright, edgy centre makes practical use of recycled containers, creatively assembled with a mix of industrial and urban chic to house boutique shops. A weekly market is held on the rooftop and there is an amphitheatre and a play park. Citiq Property Developers enjoy the unique design process and economic sense that container building offers, having developed two other container buildings in Joburg â&#x20AC;&#x201C; an apartment block in Randburg known as 61 Countesses, and a student residence in Newtown called Mill Junction. Location 75 3rd Ave, Melville Contact 011 712 0000 or 27boxes.co.za

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Circa Gallery

FNB Stadium

Nelson Mandela Bridge

The calabash design of the FNB Stadium was achieved by building around the structural profiles of the existing stadium from the 1980s. The curved facade is made up of a mosaic of fibre-concrete panels in eight earthen colours and two textures. There is a ring of lights running around the base of the structure that simulates a fire beneath the pot. They poured 80 000 cubic metres of concrete, placed 9 000 tonnes of reinforcing steel and erected 8 000 tonnes of structural steel during the reconstruction. Ten black, vertical lines are visible on the exterior and interior of the building. Nine of these lines are geographically aligned with the other World Cup stadia in the country while the tenth is directed at Berlin’s Olympic Stadium where the previous World Cup final was held in 2006. The lines represent the road to the final. Location cnr Nasrec Rd and Rand Show Rd, Nasrec Contact 011 247 5300 or stadiummanagement.co.za

Designed by architectural firm Dissing and Weitling, the bridge crosses 42 operational railway lines and is the largest cable-stayed bridge in Southern Africa at 284 metres. Asymmetrical in design, two pylons at varying heights portray a delicately balanced structure of interesting appeal. The structure is held in place by 52 diagonal cable stays attached to the concrete-filled pylons. The bridge was part of the government’s improvement plan aimed at reviving the inner city. They called for designs that would attract people to the ambience of the area, a smart design with artistic value but not exorbitant. The bridge was built in 2003 at a cost of R83 million. The bridge is monitored by 24-hour video surveillance, supports two lanes of traffic, two sidewalks and a cycle path. Location Bertha St, Joburg Contact Gauteng Tourism: 011 085 2500 or joburg.org

Nizamiye Complex The Nizamiye Complex is an exquisite example of Ottoman architecture. The mosque was modelled on the Selimiye Mosque in Edirne, Turkey, scaled and adapted to South African building standards. The mosque features a 32 metre high and 24 metre wide dome covered in 48 tonnes of lead, four 55 metre minarets, courtyards, fountains and a rich array of Turkish ceramics and tapestries. The minarets are constructed in such a way that they’re parallel to each other, thus giving the impression of two minarets when viewed from any of the four sides. Guided tours can be arranged. Location cnr K101 and Le Roux Ave, Midrand Contact 079 029 0488 or nizamiye.co.za

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remember the popular buildings from your childhood?

Sandton’s skyline is constantly changing. Driven by technological and engineering advancements, buildings can now take on organic shapes that are beautiful and practical. Paragon Architects is one firm that is pushing the boundaries. They are behind numerous developments in Sandton, including the statuesque architectural statements of the Norton Rose Fulbright building in Alice Lane, the green Alexander Forbes building in West Street, and the blobitecture of the Sasol building in Katherine Street. Architects are no longer creating formalised office blocks, but green buildings focussed on energy conservation. The Alexander Forbes building was awarded four stars by Green Building Council of South Africa for its use of glass to allow natural light and reduce lighting costs and motion occupancy. Sensors detect when spaces are not occupied and switch off fittings accordingly, and grey water systems ensure sustainable water usage. You can get an aerial view of Sandton from the Hyundai Balloon stationed in Mushroom Farm Park. There are no age restrictions, but it is weather dependent. Location Sandton Contact Gauteng Tourism: 011 085 2500 or Hyundai Balloon: 011 784 6881

Wits Art Museum WAM is located within the university’s cultural precinct, which includes the Wits Theatre and the School of Arts. Architects Nina Cohen and Fiona Garson knitted together and regenerated parts of three existing adjacent buildings: Lawson’s Corner (previously a Shell petrol station), University Corner and Dental House. The brickwork on the exterior is literally a protective skin for the treasures of the collection, but it also references the patterns and textures found in different genres of African art, particularly basketry and textiles. The rich blue tiles on the exterior were original architectural elements to which the button-like brass studs were subsequently applied. They also recall materials found in the collection, in beadwork, and on staffs and sculptures. The museum introduces children to art during a monthly family talkabout, which is a series of fun art activities based on the current exhibition. Location cnr Bertha and Jorissen St, Braamfontein Contact 011 717 1365 or wits.ac.za/wam

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Hanging Building – Built in the 1960s for Standard Bank, the “hanging building” was constructed from the top down. The building was designed by German architect, Professor Helmut Hentrich from Dusseldorf. Location 78 Fox St, Joburg CBD Anstey’s Building – Built in 1935, the Anstey’s Building is an art deco treasure that was the tallest building in Joburg at 77 metres. It was declared a national monument after it was refurbished in 1994 under the direction of architect Denzil Hersch. Location 59 Joubert St, Joburg CBD Diamond Building Standing at a height of 80 metres with massive sheets of glass placed at varying angles, 11 Diagonal Street looks like a multi-faceted diamond that reflects the excesses of the 1980s. The building was built in 1984, commissioned by Anglo American, designed by Helmut Jahn and sold to Absa Bank in 2007. In contrast, the “diamond” is surrounded by an eclectic mix of single- and double-storey Victorian and Edwardian structures. Location 11 Diagonal St, Joburg CBD

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what’s on in august Compiled by SIMONE JEFFERY

Sunflower Day

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Get your very own Tube of Hope (Tope) to show your support for The Sunflower Fund on Sunflower Day in September. Schools with the greatest Sunflower spirit on Sunflower Day can win prizes. To enter, take photos of your class, or even your whole school, doing something creative with their Topes, upload them to The Sunflower Fund’s Facebook Page (Sunflower Day Schools Competition Gallery) and get your family and friends to like your entries. Register online before 16 September. Topes are available from Pick n Pay stores nationwide. For more info: 0800 121 082 or sunflowerfund.org.za

Slava’s Snowshow An award-winning international sensation that

transports you into dream-like places where a bed becomes a boat on a storm-tossed sea, a woman is wrapped in cellophane and becomes flowers in a vase, a child walks in amazement inside a bubble and many more captivating acts. Performances take place at Montecasino’s Teatro until 14 August, at 8pm Tuesday–Saturday, 3pm Saturday, and 2pm and 6pm Sunday. Recommended for children 8 years old and older. Tickets cost R175–R400; family packages are available. Book through computicket.com

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Khokho’s Treasure

The National Children’s Theatre in Parktown presents Khokho’s Treasure, on stage until 4 September. It’s an original production that will enthral and entertain young audiences and instil pride in our rich, unique South African culture and heritage. When their beloved mkhulu dies, the children on the farm inherit a dusty old suitcase, which they unpack and discover various treasures. Performance times vary. Booking essential. Tickets cost R110 for chairs and R90 for cushions and for pensioners. For bookings, contact 011 484 1584, bookings@nctt.org.za or nationalchildrenstheatre.org.za

calendar Access an extended calendar online at

childmag.co.za or submit an event for September before 5 August to joburg@childmag. co.za

Garden Design Show

The show features the 2016 Award Winning Kirstenbosch-SA Chelsea Exhibit. See designer gardens, garden revamps, school gardens depicting “Gardens through the Eyes of a Child”, and educational exhibits by the Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden. Garden World in Muldersdrift is open from 8am–5pm Monday–Saturday, 8am–5:30pm Sunday (tea garden is closed on Mondays), and the show runs until 4 September. Entry is R20 per person, and children under 12 years old enter free. For more info: 011 957 2545 or gardenworld.co.za

Slipper Day Buy your Slipper Day sticker, wear your favourite slippers and help Reach for a Dream fulfil the dreams of children faced with a life-threatening illness. Stickers cost R10 and are available from Wimpy and Pick n Pay stores nationwide. The school that sells the most stickers wins a private concert with three top SA artists and other prizes. For more info: info@slipperday. co.za or slipperday.co.za

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Peter Pan Jr

Decorex

Fly away to Neverland with Peter and the Darling children

A one-stop shop for every room in the house and every space around the home – from DIY to decorating, state of the art kitchens, bathroom sanctuaries, building materials to furnishing fabrics, and lots more. The expo is at the Gallagher Convention Centre in Midrand until 9 August, from 10am–6pm daily. Tickets cost R110 for adults, R90 for pensioners and students, and R20 for children under 12 years old. For more info: thebereed.co.za/decorex

in this adaptation of Scottish writer JM Barrie’s enchanting novel. Drama Buzz brings all the characters of Neverland to life at the Roodepoort Theatre at 7pm on Friday, and at 2pm and 7pm on Saturday. School shows take place

Delicious urban gardening: growing food in the city Jane Griffiths’ talk looks at how to grow food in every available urban space: from rooftops and vertical gardens, to patios, pavements and containers. She includes inspirational examples as well as practical

at 9am and 11am on Friday. The show is suitable for

advice on how to do it yourself. The talk is at Garden

children 3 years old and older. Tickets cost R80. Contact

World in Muldersdrift at a cost of R120 per person,

AJ Wilson on 083 738 0979, dramabuzzsa@gmail.com or

including refreshments and giveaways. Arrive 1:30pm

roodepoorttheatre.com

for 2pm. Contact them on 011 957 2545, 011 956 3003, 083 997 6142 or gardenworld.co.za

The Colour Fest U18

Annual Bear Fair

A unique, safe and colourful event catering strictly

Teddy bear enthusiasts are spoilt for choice with stall

to under 18s. Dressed in their brightest white, children can

holders selling everything to do with teddies, from

enjoy a kaleidoscope of cultures, colour and creative fun

DIY kits, accessories and tools so you can make your

and a line-up of electronic music aimed directly at an U18

own bear, to collectable hand-made and antique

crowd from 11am–9pm at Innesfree Park, cnr Katherine

bears, clay bears and more. There is a R5

St and Grayston Dr, Sandton. Tickets cost R200. For more

entrance fee that will be donated to the Teddy

info: thecolourfest.co.za

Bear Clinic. The fair is at Mosaiek on Danielle St in Fairland from 9am–2:30pm. Contact them

Artists Under the Sun

A monthly open-air exhibition of fine art and sculpture. Dogs on leads are welcome. The exhibition takes place on the lawns of Zoo Lake until 7 August, from 9am–4pm. Contact them on 011 432 1482, artists.aus@mweb.co.za or artistsunderthesun.co.za

on 011 764 4317, info@honeydewbears.co.za or honeydewbears.co.za

Emmarentia Live Celebrate Women’s Day at Emmarentia Dam (next to the botanical garden) with sunshine, craft food, a beer garden and iconic SA music. The line-up includes Mango Groove, Freshlyground, Mi Casa, Gangs of Ballet and Goodluck. The concert runs from 10am–6pm. Online presale tickets cost R299 per adult and R349 at the gate on the day; children 6–12 years old pay R50, and children under 6 years old enter free. For more info: emmarentialive. co.za

Vegetable container workshop

Johan du Preez from Starke Ayres shows you how to create your own vegetable container. The presentation is at Garden World in Muldersdrift. Arrive 10:30am for 11am. The workshop costs R150 per person, including a Starke Ayres goodie bag, refreshments and giveaways. Contact them on 011 957 2545, 011 956 3003, 083 997 6142 or gardenworld.co.za

Earth Expo A showcase of lifestyle products to show you how to change your life and live sustainably with minimal effort. Thursday is EduTainment day dedicated to students with speakers from WeCan24, St Stithians, Rand Water and more. The expo is open from 9am–6pm until 14 August at Montecasino in Fourways. Entry is R100 for adults, R75–R90 for students, R60 for pensioners and children 6–16 years old, and children 5 years old and under enter free. For more info: earthexpo.co.za

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Pimp My Soup pop-up restaurant

All the dishes are prepared and served by little people (with some big people helping). They are serving hearty winter soups that you can pimp to your liking and the evening ends with some classic winter desserts. The event takes place from 5pm on 11 and 31 August at Miele Bryanston Centre, 63 Peter Place, Bryanston. Tickets cost R75 for adults, R50 for children (one free ticket if your child is prepping). Contact them on 082 468 7720, jean@fun-a-galore.co.za or fun-a-galore.co.za

Designing small spaces and up-cycling Spend the morning learning how to design in small spaces and re-invent by re-using with Bernadine Drath and Fiona Lear. The talk is taking place at Garden World in Muldersdrift at a cost of R120 per person, and includes a goodie bag, refreshments and giveaways. Arrive 9:30am for 10am. Contact them on 011 957 2545, 011 956 3003, 083 997 6142 or gardenworld.co.za magazine joburg

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Prime Circle – To the Roots

Prime Circle is set to showcase their deluxe edition of Let the Night In. Take along a picnic basket (no glasses or alcohol) and blankets. The concert is at Walter Sisulu National Botanical Gardens, Malcolm Rd, Poortview, Roodepoort. Gates open at 11am. The concert starts at 1pm and ends at approximately 5pm. Tickets cost R150 online, R170 at the gate, and children under 12 years old enter free. Book through plankton.mobi

Building bonds with your toddler The aim of this group is to help parents of 2–5 year olds raise happy, confident, healthy, cooperative and responsible children. You learn about parenting styles, developmental stages, the difference between praise and encouragement, discipline and lots more. The group meets every week for four weeks from 6pm–8pm at The Family Life Centre, 1 Cardigan Rd, Parkwood. Each session costs R300. For more info: 011 788 4784, training@ familylife.co.za or familylife.co.za

Little Maestros classical concert

With this concert series, aimed specifically at the younger listeners aged 0–7 years old, Little Maestros offer a relaxed environment where little ears learn through Mozart, Bach and well-known nursery rhymes. August’s theme is “The Happy Harp”. The concert is from 3pm–4pm at the Foxwood Theatre in Houghton and 10am–11am on 27 August at Skoobs Theatre of Books in Montecasino. Tickets cost R100 per adult and R20 per child. Tickets are available online through quicket.co.za or contact Magdalene on 076 835 6561, music@littlemaestros.org or littlemaestros.org

Dramatic arts showcase A showcase of talent from the dramatic arts learners at Maragon Ruimsig High School. The showcase is suitable for 13 years old and older and takes place at 7pm until 19 August in Maragon High School’s drama studio, off Peter Rd in Ruimsig. Tickets cost R50. Contact Shaun on shaun.hansel@maragon. co.za or maragon.co.za

Cerebral palsy and hemiplegia seminar

Guest speakers, who live with or are affected by these disabilities as well as representatives from SARDA and the Vita Nova Centre, share their experiences and advice. Funds raised are donated to the latter organisations. The seminar is at Idle Winds Conference Centre, cnr R511 and William Nicol Dr, Doornrandjes from 8:30am–1:30pm. Tickets are R680, and includes lunch. For more info: 083 525 7558, tamsyn@littlepeepssa.com or littlepeepssa.com

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20 Open day at Genesis Maternity Clinic

Mothers-to-be can tour the clinic and find out more about birthing at Genesis. The open day runs from 10am–2pm at 5 Northwold Dr, Saxonwold (cnr Jan Smuts Ave). No need to book. For more info: genesisclinic.co.za

Mother and child flower-arranging Join Colleen McGillivray and Interflora for a fun-filled afternoon where they show mothers and daughters how to make a beautiful flower arrangement. Arrive 1:30pm for 2pm. The workshop is at Garden World, Beyers Naudé Dr, Muldersdrift at a cost of R100 per person, and it includes the workshop cost, refreshments and giveaways. For more info: 011 957 2545, 011 956 3003, 083 997 6142 or gardenworld.co.za

SAMRO Foundation overseas competition final

Expect an evening of exceptional live music as two jazz and two Western art music finalists perform in the hopes of winning an overseas scholarship. Included in the finalists’ repertoire is premiere performances of challenging commissioned works written by top South African composers. The evening is at the Linder Auditorium, 24 Saint Andrews Rd, Parktown. Times still to be confirmed. Tickets are R100 per person. For more info: 011 712 8417, samrofoundation@samro.org.za or samrofoundation.org.za

UCMAS abacus and mental arithmetic national competition

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The competition sees children 3–13 years old from all over South Africa exchanging their knowledge and culture. Watch as they compete using abacus mental arithmetic with speed, accuracy, confidence and discipline from 9am–5pm at the Wynand Marais Community Centre, cnr Olienhout Ave and Houtkapper St, Birchleigh, Kempton Park. The event is free for spectators. For more info: 082 672 0143, christo@ucmas-sa. co.za or ucmas-sa.co.za

WAM family talkabout Families are invited to take part in fun art activities in the current exhibition from 12pm–1pm. Space is limited to 30 families on a first-come, first-served basis. Wits Art Museum (WAM) is situated on the cnr Bertha St (ext of Jan Smuts Ave) and Jorissen St, Braamfontein. There is no charge. For more info: 011 717 1365, info. wam@wits.ac.za or wits.ac.za/wam

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Kinder Theatre: The Lighthouse

Health and Fitness Expo

Rays of Hope golf day

Kinderspiel in Emmarentia plays host to a tale of friendship and love that is brought to life through multiple characters, physical theatre, acrobatics, shadow puppetry and more. The production tells the story of Gordon who lives in a light house. He watches the sea every day for ships and for his

Step up to the tee at the Bryanston Country Club and enjoy a game of golf in aid of Rays of Hope, a registered NPO which manages a large number of social outreach projects with a particular focus on Alexandra Township. Tee off is from 10:30am and costs R5 500 per four ball, on a first-come, first-served basis. For more info: 0861 000 000, charis@raysofhope.co.za or raysofhope.co.za

friend Samuel the Sailor. Surely Samuel will come back for

A showcase of health related products, events, clothing and the chance to meet well-known athletes in the industry. The expo is at Clearwater Mall in Roodepoort until 28 August. Take the children to see the strongest men in South Africa competing in the SA Strongman championship on 27 August from 10am–4pm. Contact: 011 288 5260 or clearwatermall.co.za

Gordon’s birthday? There is a performance at 10am and 3:30pm on 23 August, and at 10am on 27 August. Suitable for children 3 years old and older. Tickets cost R55 per person and bookings are essential. For more info: 011 646 0870, kinderspiel@telkomsa.net or kinderspiel.co.za

The Prince of Wales Polo Cup Waterfall Polo Estate, off Woodmead Dr in Midrand,

Beechwood Gardens open day Take an amble around this classic Johannesburg garden in Hyde Park, laid out in 1945 by landscape architect Joane Pym. The gardens feature magnificent trees, a rainforest, a water garden comprised of six ponds and a bog, a colonnade, a formal rose garden, a lotus garden and a sunken vegetable garden. The gardens are wheelchair and pram-friendly. Dogs are not allowed. The open days are from 26–28 August, 9am–5pm, and cost R50 per person; children under 12 years old enter free. For more info: 011 325 4477, margaret@charlesgreig.co.za or beechwoodgardens.co.za

hosts

the

inter-provincial

chosen for the official South African national team. The knockouts and opening ceremony take place on Friday

the semi-finals on Saturday finals under

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18-year-olds

must be accompanied by an adult. Book through ticketpros.co.za

the prestigious cup and the honour of being

and are free to attend.

All

tournament

which the best players in the country compete for

The action continues with and

polo

Stonehaven on Vaal’s Spring Beer Festival Enjoy a family day on the banks of the Vaal River with loads of complimentary children’s entertainment. There are dragon boat races, different water sports, live music by Francois Van Coke, Matthew Mole, Goodluck and Monark, as well as food stalls and craft and traditional beers. The festival runs from 9am until late and costs R60 for adults and R20 for children 15 years old and younger. For more info: 016 982 2851/2, rosemary@stonehaven.co.za or springbeerfestival.co.za

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Mad Hatter’s Tea Party Wear your most outrageous hat and join PLG Willow View Academy in Kempton Park for a trip down the rabbit hole. There are mouth-watering cakes on sale,

Edufun4kids spring carnival and market

Enjoy a fun day out with carnival rides, a flea market and food stalls, face painting, photobooth fun, a Deeghuys

a prize for the most fabulous hat of the day and

tea garden and more. The carnival takes place from

even a game of croquet from 10am–12pm. There

9am–5pm at 181 Hole in One Ave, Ruimsig. Entrance is

is an entrance fee of R10 per person, payable at the gate. Contact Karen on 011 565 6600, karen.britz@

Requiem for the Living Composed by South African composer Rexleigh Bunyard, in honour of, and to create awareness for, the living victims and survivors of HIV/ AIDS. It is a dramatic concert written for a large instrumental ensemble that incorporates

symphonic instruments, two choirs and vocal soloists. The concert starts at 8pm at the Linder Auditorium, 27

Saint

Andrews

Rd, Parktown. Tickets are available through computicket.com or for more info: reqliving.org

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plgschools.co.za or plgschools.co.za

1769, salomelouwm@gmail.com or edufun4kids.co.za

The Wedding Expo

Cell C Day of Races

Brides-to-be can meet with all the wedding suppliers they will need for their very special day during the expo that is at the TicketPro Dome in North Riding until 28 August, from 9am–5pm. Tickets cost R100 online, R120 at the door, and R30 for children 2–10 years old. For more info: wedding-expo.co.za

indigenous African instruments and standard

free and all ages are welcome. For more info: 011 958

With an emphasis on fitness, fun, friends and fitting in, runners 9 years old and older can “Find Their Fit” at the inaugural Cell C Day Of Races in aid of the Unogwaja Charitable Trust. The race takes place at Roosevelt High School’s sports grounds from 9am. Tickets cost R60. Contact Stillwater Sports on 082 991 0045, entries@ stillwatersports.com or dayofraces.com

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calendar

holiday programmes

markets Fresh2U Farmers Market

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over 80 vendors selling unique items, such as wooden pallet signs, hand-painted pillows, bottled goodies and food items. The market takes place on 6 and 27 August from 9am–2pm

Ace Tennis clinic Coaches introduce children to the

Serendipity’s holiday club Children 0–10 years old

at Franz Hoenig Haus Gardens, High St,

game of tennis or help them take their game to the next level. Suitable for 2–16 year olds. The clinic runs from 9am–1pm, 29 August–2 September, at the Parkhurst Tennis Club, 12th St, Parkhurst. The clinic costs R900 for all five days or R250 per day. Numbers are limited and the closing date for entries is 24 August. For more info: 083 271 3804 or annchapman1956@gmail.com

are kept busy with organised games, free play, baking, art and crafts and storytelling from 9am–12:30pm or 9am–4:30pm Tuesday–Friday during both the public and independent school holidays. Serendipity is based at 48 Keyes Ave, Rosebank. Half-day costs R160, and full-day costs R260. For more info: 011 447 7386 or serendipityplay.co.za Sherpa Kids holiday care With over 90 themes and 1 000 structured activities, children can enjoy a fun-filled, activity-themed camp from 8 August–2 September in Kyalami and Saheti, and 3 August–5 September in Sandton. Activities include arts and crafts, music and drama, sports and games. The camp is suitable for 4–12 year olds and takes place from 7am–6pm at Kyalami Preparatory School, 10 Lyndore Rd in Kyalami; at Saheti School, Civin Dr in Senderwood; and at 36 Rivonia Rd in Sandton. The camp costs R150 a day (for five or more days) and R175 a day (for less than five days), includes cereal, a mid-morning snack, lunch and an afternoon snack. For more info: Saheti School: 082 908 1202 or joburgeast@sherpakids.co.za; Kyalami Preparatory School: 083 360 6603 or pretoria@ sherpakids.co.za; and Sandton: 072 456 3304 or bdm@ sherpakids.co.za Shepherd’s Fold Stables pony camp The stables in Elandsdrift, Lanseria, is holding a three-day pony camp for 6–15 year olds (must be 8 years and older to sleep over), from 15–17 August, with a focus on making horse riding fun and exciting for all levels of riders. Bookings essential. The camp costs R300 per camper per day, R50 extra per night to sleep over. For more info: 084 220 2657 or shepherdsfoldstables.co.za

Modderfontein. Contact: 082 338 7818,

Cricket School of Excellence holiday clinic Boys and girls aged 6–15 years old take part in a week of cricketing fun from 8–11 August, 9am–1pm. The cricket clinic is at the University of Johannesburg Cricket Oval at a cost of R650 per child. For more info: 0861 123 273, adam@cricketschool.co.za or cricketschool.co.za Expressions Centre winter holiday fun Children 4 years old and older enjoy a variety of creative and crafty activities as well as fun physical games such as yoga, baking and cooking, dance, drama, music, gardening, Minute to Win It challenges and a science fair. The camp is at the Expressions Centre, Norfolk Rd in Carlswald, from 10 August–5 September, 8am–4:30pm (half-day until 1:30pm) Monday–Friday. The programme costs R200 for half-day and R260 for a full day. For more info: 082 402 8169, carla@expressionsinfocus.co.za or expressionsinfocus.co.za

Fun-a-Galore cooking and baking holiday programme From 10–11 August and 29–31 August, children 6–12 years old learn to cook and bake healthy food and develop confidence in the kitchen. They can also take part in a pop-up “Pimp My Soup” restaurant on 11 and 31 August where they are involved in prep and service or, if they prefer, they can be a guest and enjoy a meal prepared and served by little people. The programme takes place from 9am–1pm. During the pop-up restaurant children can be dropped off at 2pm to be part of the prep. The restaurant opens at 5pm. The programme is at Miele Bryanston Centre, 63 Peter Place in Bryanston and costs R275 per child per day. For more info: 082 468 7720, jean@fun-a-galore.co.za or fun-a-galore.co.za ITA holiday clinic A five-day tennis clinic for 3–16 year olds at Craighall Park Tennis Club. Bookings essential. The camp takes place from 15–19 August and 22–26 August, between 8:30am–1:30pm daily and costs R300–R990 per clinic. For more info: 083 443 3391, info@itatennis.co.za or thetenniscoach.co.za

Magic Blox 4 Life school holiday programme

Sugar Bay holiday camp A week-long adventure camp held at Sugar Bay

From 11–27 August, children 5–12 years old take part in a life coaching / EQ programme that will equip them with a strong emotional foundation as well as the skills and tools to lead positive, happy and mindful lives. The course is run over a series of six workshops, over a three-week period at the Talk Sense Early Intervention centre, 50 Ballyclare Dr in Bryanston. The programme costs R2 500 per child. For more info: 083 325 6067, julie@magicblox.co.za or magicblox.co.za NCT Winter holiday camp The National Children’s Theatre in Parktown is holding a musical theatre camp for 7–17 year olds from 15–19 August. The camp is inspired by the writings of Roald Dahl. The week concludes with a showcase for parents. Bookings essential. The camp costs R1 300 for the five-day course. For more info and to book, contact Sizi on 011 484 1584, sizi@nctt.org.za or nationalchildrenstheatre.org.za

Holiday Resort, Zinkwazi Beach in KZN. Children 7–17 years old experience over 100 free-choice activities under the supervision of well-trained counsellors. Bookings essential. Each week follows a different theme: 7–14 August: Ghostbusters Week, 14–21 August: Japan Week, 21–28 August: Nitro Circus Week. The camp costs R5 799 for a new camper. For more info: 032 485 3778, holidays@ sugarbay.co.za or sugarbay.co.za Wild Kids holiday programme Drop your 3–9 year olds off for outdoor fun. The programme focuses on fine motor, gross motor, perceptual and sensory skills. It takes place at the Child’s Play Therapy Centre at 28 Hornbill St in Fourways from 9am–12pm every Monday and Friday from 8 August–5 September. The programme costs R300 per workshop, including materials and a snack. Bookings essential. For more info: 082 379 2675, angelacmeneses@ gmail.com, troyeterblanche@gmail.com or wild-kids.co.za

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fresh2umarket@gmail.com or Facebook: Fresh 2 U Farmers Market

Launch of Ngwenya Country Market

On 7 August Ngwenya Glass

Village, off the R114 and Beyers Naudé Dr in Muldersdrift, launches their country market where visitors are able to meet with local vendors and farmers offering fresh organic delights, a range of arts and crafts, live music and family fun in a unique environment. The market will run from 9am–3pm. For more info: 082 497 6054

Walkerville Farmer’s Market

weekly market for handcrafted wares and fresh, organic produce. It takes place from 9am–3pm every Saturday at 112 Main Rd (R82), Walkerville. For more info: 079 076 7680, info@wfmarket.co.za or wfmarket.co.za

open days Kairos School of Inquiry info talk The school offers a personalised, innovative and holistic primary school education within a culture of inquiry. They cater to learners from Grade 0–7. Find out more during their info talk on 20 August. Arrive 9am for 9:30am. The school is situated at 12 Sabie Rd (cnr Rustenburg Rd), Emmarentia. For more info: 011 646 6221, admin@ kairosschool.co.za or kairosschool.co.za

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next month in september is our “get active” issue on street 25 August

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family fun – safe ways to get fit life skills our children really need cookie recipes to celebrate heritage day family-friendly mountain bike getaways sun safety at home and at school

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a new look at ADHD

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planes, trains and garbage trucks ANÉL LEWIS admits she is not successful at planning events.

’m not much of an event planner. In fact, that’s part of the reason I studied journalism – so that I could write about the events other people planned. But being a mom has forced me to explore a whole new range of skills I never thought I would need. Take first aid, for example. Who would have thought that rubbing an ice block over a toe would make it easier to remove a pesky shard of glass? Gymnastics is another skill I seem to have unwittingly mastered. You should see me vault over a couch, a coffee table and a sleeping cat to catch a cup full of chocolate milk before it falls onto the lounge’s white carpet. But despite these talents that I seem to have picked up, event planning is still not my forte, and birthday parties fill me with dread. There’s the quandary of who to invite. If I left it up to Conor, it would be me and his dad, Thomas the Train and that guy who collects tickets on the Polar Express. And if I asked him on a Tuesday, he would throw in the “garbage truck guys” as well (don’t ask; he’s going through a municipal services phase).

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Erin, Anél and Conor

When pushed to come up with a more inclusive guest list, I was told: “No gills.” Okay, so a Nemo party was definitely off the cards, then? As I started to rattle off the names for Conor’s guest list, I was told again that “no geels” were allowed. The penny dropped. No girls! Seeing as this would exclude me, his sister, Erin, and much of our friendship circle, we reminded him that no girls meant fewer gifts. With the guest list duly amended, we could move on to the theme. Conor insisted that he wanted a Hot Wheels party. Delighted that we had progressed from the locomotive – the theme of his parties for the past two years – I set about organising a racing car cake and party favours. Only to be told a few days later that he hated cars and wanted a firetruck party. I compromised, and changed the theme to “planes, trains and automobiles” to make sure we had all our bases covered – including garbage trucks, just in case. Conor agreed and we booked a spot at the Blue Train Park.

The night before the festivities, Conor was beside himself with excitement. I sometimes wonder if children really notice all the effort that goes into planning a party. So, I was amazed when Conor insisted on helping to assemble the party packs. As we dropped in the last bag of chips, he said, “Thank you for organising my party, Mom and Dad.” The appreciation was so heartfelt, and directed at both Craig and I, that we were a bit taken aback. The next morning, when we showed him the beautiful racing car cake with his name on, Conor could not contain his joy. “Is this for me, Mom? Thank you so much. This is going to be the best birthday ever.” It didn’t matter that this was to be his third train/car/plane party in almost as many years. Conor was just so grateful for all the hard work and love we had put into making the day special for him. And that made it the best party ever; for all of us. Anél is looking for online courses in event management, just in case Conor decides to explore more adventurous party themes next year.

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Not even birthday parties for four year olds.