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South Africans are always sad to say goodbye to summer. However, the approach of the colder, darker months brings good news for families in the form of a long-awaited winter break. For those with children who have just written exams, you will, no doubt, be breathing a sigh of relief as routine gives way to relaxed downtime and, hopefully, lots of family time.

As usual, the Child magazine team has rounded up a host of “what’s on” in Durban (see page 22), bringing you plenty of things to do and see in the city for the chilly weeks ahead.

If you are lucky enough to be leaving the bright lights, we have some pointers on travelling when pregnant (see page 6) and if you have recently had a baby and are venturing out, we have some tips on babysitting (see page 8). Do you take your nanny with you or hire one when you get there? Either way, it’s so important to feel comfortable with your choice in order to reap the true benefits of a family holiday.

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If, like me, you are planning on keeping it local, but wouldn’t mind a little “virtual travelling in an armchair”, turn to page 12 for a journey to the land of epicurean delights, smiles and the kingdom of wonder. Let us take you on an adventure as you explore the delights of Southeast Asia and all it has to offer families.

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3 a note from lisa 5 over to you readers respond 10 reader’s blog Jeanne Matthis warns of the dangers of mushrooms in our gardens

6 pregnancy news – have bump, will travel there is no need to be home-bound when pregnant.

Lucille Kemp offers a few travel do’s and don’ts for moms-to-be

features 12 destination: southeast asia taking a family holiday to this part of the world makes for an interesting and affordable adventure, says Simone Jeffery

14 screen sense avoiding technology is almost impossible. Samantha Page gets advice on how to raise balanced children in a world of screens

16 speak my lingo Marc de Chazal investigates the benefits of learning a second language at a young age

8 best for baby – stress-free baby travel Tammy Jacks looks at nanny options when travelling with your baby

20 resource – pick a date Tamlyn Vincent has compiled a list of inspirational date-night options for moms and dads

22 what’s on in july 25 next month in child magazine 26 finishing touch children can be

18 healthy start in life Catherine Barnhoorn’s new recipe book, Mila’s Meals, offers a large variety of gluten-, sugar- and dairyfree meals

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Tracking and documenting your baby’s growth and milestones in the first year has quickly become a huge trend. Pinterest is overflowing with different ideas on the subject and it has gone far beyond merely jotting down dates and notes. The most popular and creative way to document your baby’s first years is in photos.

Right at the onset of my pregnancy I had committed myself to the idea of doing a growth tracking for my little one. I took to the internet and was immediately presented with thousands of lovely ideas as to how to go about it. After getting some online inspiration, and being a crafter myself, I had it all planned and by the time my baby had arrived I was ready to go. I had decided on a side-by-side comparison theme where I would use a teddy as a size benchmark to show my

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baby’s growth over the months. I got a bit more creative with it and also made a wool-wrapped initial of his first name to use along with the teddy.

Given the emerging “flatlay” trend on Instagram and the obvious fact that my little one would not be able to sit up during the first few months, I went with a very basic flatlay set-up for his photos. At five months old, baby Ethan could sit up when supported and so it was time to change the set to suit his abilities.

I broke out my sewing machine and got started on some pretty oxford cushion covers and our new set was made. By eight months baby Ethan started pulling himself up to stand and I knew our photo set for the next month would have to evolve again. I had saved the boxes from my nappy purchase and then after a long two days of cutting, painting and gluing, our new set was done.

On each photo I document his weight and length together with milestones and little habits and quirks he has. It’s been a lovely journey documenting, tracking and watching my little one grow and meet the different milestones. At the end of his first year I’m going to put all these photos, as well as others, into a photobook. It makes for a brilliant keepsake and I’m looking forward to seeing the excitement when Ethan one day goes through his book and sees his childhood captured.

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travelling ma’am At her gynae and midwife’s consent, Cape Town mom Suné flew to London on a business trip at 29 weeks of her pregnancy, and back at 30 weeks. “I was told to sit in an aisle seat so I could have easy access to the toilets and move around frequently.” Suné was prescribed two bloodthinning injections, to prevent blood clots, administered three hours before each long-distance flight.

Another mom, Marina, based in London, flew to Vienna when she was 33 weeks pregnant. “I was massive so, unsurprisingly, squeezing into an economy seat was uncomfortable.” Marina also flew to Croatia when she was 10 weeks pregnant, which, for her, was a waste of time because she was nauseous the entire journey.

Suné also drives far to and from work every day.

Driving with morning sickness in her first trimester was a challenge, but she could manage if she had water and ginger sweets. During her third trimester, Suné’s feet were especially swollen and sore because of all the stop-andgo in bumper-to-bumper traffic. “Getting in and out of the car is also a big challenge in your third trimester. I tended to fall into the car and had to be conscious of getting out, because of my sore, unstable pelvis.” Marina, on the other hand, was told to stick to short journeys in the car, to make sure the seatbelt didn’t sit in a position that would put pressure on her belly, and to avoid sudden braking.

“Towards the end of my pregnancy, I could no longer twist round quite so easily to view my blinds spots, or lean forward enough to check for oncoming traffic.”

doctor’s orders ✻✻ Approximately 12–28 weeks is the safest time to fly, as the chance of complication is smallest.

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✻✻ Air travel is allowed till about 37 weeks but, from 28 weeks you should carry your doctor’s written consent on you. Without consent, some airlines may not allow you to fly if they assess that you simply look “ready to go”. ✻✻ Swollen feet are common after a prolonged flight, so wear compression stockings on the flight. ✻✻ Car seatbelts should be worn with the cross-strap between your breasts and lap, starting beneath the bump. ✻✻ Avoid long distance journeys, night driving, and share driving duties with a companion. ✻✻ Familiarise yourself with the medical facilities available at your destination, ahead of time, because desperately seeking medical help in a totally unknown environment will only add to your stress. ✻✻ Check airlines’/cruise-liners’ specific rules regarding travel during pregnancy. ✻✻ Check your travel insurance company’s cover for medical issues during pregnancy. ✻✻ It’s common to feel dizzy, nauseous and tired during pregnancy so stay rested, hydrated, take your supplements and eat regular, healthy meals. ✻✻ Seasickness may be worse in pregnancy. If you are booking a cruise, it’s important to check the medical facilities available on-board and at the docking ports. ✻✻ It is difficult to predict the potential risks of travel. For example, doctors didn’t know about the dangerous Zika virus a few years ago and that travel to South America would not be advisable during, or if planning, pregnancy. So, err on the side of caution, which includes avoiding malaria and vaccination areas during pregnancy, where possible. *Compliments of Cape Town gynaecologist, Dr Novikova

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Miscarriage is more likely during the first trimester.

12–28 weeks This is the safest time to fly.

28–37 weeks You must carry your doctor’s written consent on you.

38+ weeks Most airlines will not allow pregnant moms to travel at this stage.

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stress-free baby travel You’ve just had a baby, but you have a serious case of cabin fever and desperately need a holiday. Do you take your nanny, hire one temporarily, or find a resort with qualified childminders? TAMMY JACKS weighs up the

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hile most will agree that having a baby is a special, memorable experience, the series of sleepless nights and long, intensive days that follow can be exhausting and leave new moms wishing for some time out. If a family holiday sounds like a good idea, who tags along matters a lot more now than it did in your pre-baby vacation days.

a helping hand Travelling with a baby will change the nature of the holiday, says Joburg-based psychologist, Laura Cook.

Babies have their own needs that have to be taken into consideration. For instance, your baby’s nap times might not coincide with your planned outings, and long day trips may be out of the question. Wouldn’t it be nice to have an extra pair of hands on board to help with the day-to-day tasks of feeding and babysitting? Here’s a few options to consider.

option 1: hiring a temporary nanny If you’re only looking for short-term help, your best bet is to hire someone with good hands-on experience with babies and a reputable list of references, says Paula Robert, owner of a Joburg agency that provides placements and does childcare training. “Going through an agency is a good option as it allows you to interview a few candidates before choosing someone with the qualities you’re after,” she adds. However, hiring someone for a short time only could mean that your baby may not feel comfortable being left with her for too long, causing unnecessary stress.

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option 2: taking your own nanny along If you plan to take your existing nanny, discuss your expectations upfront, says Robert. If you plan on leaving your baby with her for most of the day, so that you can relax, let her know beforehand so that she doesn’t expect too much time off. However, if you simply need an extra pair of hands to help you with daily tasks, then consider drawing up a daily schedule so that you’re both on the same page. It’s also customary to provide your nanny with travel expenses, food and a separate room, which can be costly, so plan this in advance, advises Robert.

option 3: choosing a child-friendly resort If you don’t like the idea of travelling with your nanny, many holiday destinations around the world cater for families with babies and young children. For instance, if you stay at a Club Med resort, you’ll have special check-in times, plus a choice of top notch baby gear rentals, babysitter services and kids clubs. “We take childcare seriously and all our resorts have qualified childminders, trained in everything from CPR to early childhood development, to look after babies from four months to two years of age, free of charge,” says Lesego Matabane, marketing manager for Club Med. “So whether you leave your baby for the whole day or just an hour or two, you can relax in the knowledge that your child will be well looked after and stimulated with various activities,” she adds. Babysitting services are offered at all Beachcomber resorts, whether for an evening or a whole day. You can also opt to have one babysitter for your family only for your entire stay. Lux Resorts also have babysitting at most of their resorts.

qualities to look for in a childminder Patience – Nannies often assume many of the responsibilities of a parent and must remain calm, cool and collected at all times.

Energy – Your nanny should have a clean bill of health and the energy required to meet the demands of caring for a little one.

Kindness – Nannies should enjoy being with children, and have a pleasant demeanour. A harsh attitude or short temper won’t work in this role.

A sense of responsibility – As professional caregivers, nannies are responsible for the health, safety and wellbeing of your child. This means being mindful of time, sticking to schedules and making sure tasks are completed.

questions to ask in an interview ✻✻ H ow many years’ experience do you have and how old were the children you’ve cared for? ✻✻ Do you have any formal early childhood development training? ✻✻ Do you have CPR and first-aid training? ✻✻ How do you comfort children? ✻✻ How would you deal with separation anxiety? ✻✻ What are your favourite stimulation activities to do with a baby? *Courtesy Paula Robert, Edubabe

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devil in disguise Mushrooms are a common sight in suburban South African gardens, but parents should be aware of which

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n early May, our one-year-old boy ate a mushroom in our garden. This mushroom was growing under our oak tree where we’d recently built a sandpit for him for his birthday. Luckily we are quite aware of the possible dangers of these fungi, and we immediately called the Poisons Information Centre at the Red Cross Children’s Hospital in Cape Town and sent them photos of the mushroom. It turned out to be a Death Cap mushroom or, amanita phalloides. It is one of the most poisonous mushrooms in the world. Half a mushroom can kill an adult if ingested and untreated.

We rushed him to hospital and he was given activated charcoal every four hours for 16 hours and they kept him overnight where he was monitored throughout. We were incredibly lucky as he didn’t ingest any of the mushroom, but was just chewing on it. He remained asymptomatic, but as so little is known about this mushroom he needed blood tests for the next week to ensure that his body wasn’t being poisoned while being symptom free.

The normal progression of this mushroom’s poisoning, is that for six hours after ingestion, you are asymptomatic,

but severe vomiting and diarrhoea follow this, which can last up to two days. This is followed by temporary recovery (usually two to four days), followed by a relapse. When you get sick again your liver and kidneys start to fail followed by multiple organ failure and even death. Most people who have survived this poisoning have needed a liver transplant.

Our primary reason for sending this information is to create awareness that there is something potentially deadly in our gardens and what to look out for. We’d also like to thank the Poisons Information Centre, who were absolutely brilliant in getting us the right information and who corresponded with our doctors.

The Poisons Information Centre: Helpline (24-hour service) 0861 555 777 poisonsinformation@uct.ac.za paediatrics.uct.ac.za/poisons-information-centre

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ANÉL LEWIS looks at the link between emotional distress and physical pain.

y daughter, Erin, started complaining about stomach cramps a few weeks into the school term. At first I was concerned that she had a virus, or perhaps a serious ailment, but I soon noticed a pattern in the recurrence of her symptoms. They seemed to start as soon as we began preparations for school, and never cropped up on weekends. Her teacher revealed that Erin tended to complain of a sore stomach for the first few hours of school, but she would bounce back as soon as she began playing. After a few weeks of talking to both Erin and her teacher, we established that Erin was struggling to adjust to her new class, and the pains were somatic of her anxiety.

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somatic signs Erin displayed one of the classic symptoms of somatic illnesses caused by emotional disturbances, says the International Child and Youth Network, based in America.

Other common complaints include headaches, dizziness and even hives or eczema. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders describes somatic disorders as symptoms that are severe enough to disrupt daily activities, but are not under the patient’s control. While the symptoms are very real, there is usually no physiological

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reason for the condition. In Contemporary Pediatrics, Drs Adam Pallant and Elizabeth Toll identify the most common childhood somatic symptoms and the age at which they tend to occur: stomach pain – preschool and

older; headache – school age and older; limb pains and aching muscles, fatigue and neurological problems – puberty and older.

make it better As a parent, it’s not always easy to distinguish between physical and somatic symptoms. Dr Jonathan Slater writes in Pediatric Annals that complaints of pain should always be taken as a sign that a child is anxious or experiencing some form of stress. Pallant and Toll say that while it’s tempting to just treat the symptoms with medicine, a doctor or GP must try to link the symptoms with what’s happening in the child’s life. Challenges such as being bullied at school could cause a child to withdraw and complain about headaches, for example. Parents are also advised to connect with their children. “Ask children directly, in kind, age-appropriate ways, about specific issues,” advise Pallant and Toll. Take their complaints about their physical symptoms seriously, but offer non-medicinal treatment solutions where possible.

“Taking the physical complaint seriously and working with it is a first step in managing somatic complaints. Equally important is dispelling the family’s sense that somatic complaints are manipulative or dishonest or that the patient is ‘faking it’,” say Pallant and Toll.

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destination: southeast asia For adventurous families, Southeast Asia offers a lot of scope for an

land of smiles Officially called the Kingdom of Thailand, the country is known for pristine beaches, jutting limestone karsts, Buddhist temples and jungle trekking.

Due to its popularity, Thailand is one of the more expensive countries to visit in Southeast Asia. Even so, the prices are dramatically less than those in Western countries. To make your rands go further, stay away from the main streets or the main resorts visited by tourists. For a beach bum paradise head towards Phuket and Ko Samui. These islands offer everything from mini-golf and go-karts to a water park at West Sands Resort. For snorkelling, calm waters and good value guesthouses, visit Ko Chang, Ko Lak, Ko Lanta and Ko Bulon Lae (Ko means island in Thai). For cultural immersion, a culinary experience and to explore the jungle, a trip to Chiang Mai in the north will satisfy your adventurous spirit. Getting to your destinations can be done quickly via the domestic airlines – Chiang Mai, Phuket, Krabi and Ko Samui all have airports. But you can also make use of overnight trains and buses, which will add a few hours to your travel time, but give you an opportunity to see the countryside.

When to go Best weather – November to February. For a nationwide “water fight”, the Thai New Year, or Songkran, takes place from 13 to 15 April each year.

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exciting holiday, without breaking the bank. By SIMONE JEFFERY

land of epicurean delights Vietnam is a well-known destination among budget travellers, and while the costs are climbing, many of Vietnam’s attractions are based around its natural beauty and as such, cost very little. Tourists tend to be charged more than locals for everything so don’t be afraid to barter.

Vietnam is known for its culinary delights and one of the best places to experience the cuisine is in Hanoi, the capital city. Hanoi’s old quarter, the north end of Hoan Kiem Lake, is where the majority of the hotels, tourist shops and cafes are located. Explore the “36 streets” on foot or hop on board a cyclo – a three-wheel bicycle taxi – and you should be able to enjoy all the best sights of the city within a day. One recommended excursion is a guided street food tour or a cooking course, depending on your preferences.

Another interesting city is Hoi An, a historical port city on the central coast with plenty of charm and activities to keep children busy. The streets are narrow with canals carving through them and in the evenings the city is lit by old-fashioned lanterns. Join a Hoi An Free Tour on a bike tour through the countryside past rice paddies, quaint villages and fields of water buffalo. Children will also enjoy the tidal pools at An Bang Beach, planting vegetables at Tra Que village, and learning to paddle traditional bamboo basket boats on the Tra Nhieu Eco Tour.

When to go Best weather – October to April. Têt, the lunar New Year celebrations, take place between late January and March. See how families celebrate their ancestors and enjoy the public festivities – pagodas (religious temples) are then especially busy.

the kingdom of wonder Images of a swashbuckling Indiana Jones and Lara Croft come to mind when I think of Cambodia, with its numerous forest-filled temples crawling with the explorative roots of the Tetrameles nudiflora trees and markets serving deep-fried spiders. Despite being affected by decades of political upheaval and civil war, today’s Cambodia will welcome you with smiling faces and arms laden with souvenirs. Cambodia is still a very cheap travel destination, and it’s not difficult to find comfortable hotels at a reasonable price. However, you can expect to pay higher rates for the major, unmissable tourist attractions such as Angkor Wat. To save a few extra rands, plan your own excursions rather than opting for organised tours. Young children might not be able to understand the history behind all the sites, so try avoid temple fatigue by interspersing temple visits with lounging by the hotel pool during the hottest time of the day or visiting markets and city sites. Phnom Penh, the capital city, along with Siem Reap and Sihanoukville are the main tourist destinations and each has an international airport. Phnom Penh is noted for its beautiful and historical architecture, museums and markets, while Siem Reap is a popular tourist destination due to its proximity to Angkor Wat. Head to Sihanoukville on the south-western point for its beaches, tropical islands and the mangrove jungles of Ream National Park.

When to go Best weather – November to February. From December until February you can catch a glimpse of the Irrawaddy dolphin, an oceanic dolphin found in a freshwater stretch of the Mekong River.

island of the Gods You are spoilt for choice when it comes to family accommodation on the Indonesian island of Bali – from cosy family hotels and all-inclusive resorts, to villas with a private yard and pool. Hotels tend to be the cheaper option, while resorts charge a bit more and come with multiple pools and restaurants, a kids club, a gym and many other facilities. Go shopping and learn to surf in the beach towns of Kuta, Legian and Seminyak, but don’t expect a peaceful holiday, as the streets are packed with rowdy holidaymakers. Rather head further south to Jimbaran and Nusa Dua where you can experience the same easy access to shops and bars, but a slightly more relaxed vibe. In Legian, take the children to Waterbom Bali (voted the top water park in Asia) and then head over to Pirates Bay Bali on the Nusa Dua peninsula for lunch in a pirate-themed restaurant. Inland you can explore the small cultural village of Ubud whose surrounding rice paddies make for brilliant photo opportunities. Here you can learn how to carve roses into watermelons and make wooden masks at Pondok Pekak Library. Afterwards, head over to the Sacred Monkey Forest in Padangtegal, which is home to more than 100 species of trees and over 600 long-tailed macaques that live and roam freely.

When to go Best weather – April to June. See the Bali Arts Festival held from the second Saturday of June through to the second Saturday of July each year, and the Bali Kite Festival between the months of June and August.

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Screens and technology surround our children, but how do you help them keep pace with technological advances while setting clear boundaries to keep them safe and healthy?

SAMANTHA PAGE downloads advice from the experts.

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ust five more minutes…”

“I’m almost finished; just one more level…”

“Please, Mom, if I can just successfully navigate the liquorice traps and find the hidden bears…”

These are common refrains. They echo across the globe as young people on tablets, laptops, smart phones, e-readers and gaming devices beg their parents for a few more minutes of screen time, says family therapist and author Sarah Stiffelman.

“We have arrived in the digital world without a map or compass. Without doubt, the digital world offers untold riches: we can stay up to date with loved ones, learn things we might otherwise never be exposed to, entertain ourselves 24/7 – and the list goes on. A handheld device can become a portal into a world rich with discovery, whether in the hands of a 10 year old in Chicago or a young woman in an African village,” says Stiffelman, but she adds that as parents we need to be more informed about this digital landscape if we are to raise children who are able to develop a level of self-regulation and self-awareness that will allow them to “use technology without being consumed by it”.

“I’m a little torn,” says a Durban mom who has two eager, techno-savvy sons. “We live in a world that is technologically rich, so I don’t feel I can totally limit their exposure for fear of them lagging behind their peers. Our children cannot escape all the screens in every aspect of their lives, but I worry about the dangers of online predators and the lack of real connection. I’m very aware, so I make an effort to ensure their virtual connectivity is balanced with real face-to-face contact.”

It’s true that in our pixelated, powered-up world, mobile technology, social media and online communities are fundamental to the way we communicate, learn and develop, but parents need to know what it means to be a good digital role model, says Heather Cabot, web life editor at Yahoo!

“We have to get a handle on this because there’s no going back,” says Cabot.

“Our children will never know a time they couldn’t watch an erupting volcano on YouTube.”

According to research conducted by Yahoo!, the average household has a staggering 23 tech devices, 59% of children have witnessed their parents using a mobile device while driving, 46% have seen Mom or Dad using a phone during dinner and children under the age of five are more likely to be able to play a computer game than tie their shoelaces.

With so much tech in our lives, it’s not surprising that a study by the Kaiser Family Foundation, which provides in-depth information on key health issues, reported that with

technology allowing virtually 24-hour media access as children and teens go about their daily business, the amount of time young people spend with entertainment media has risen dramatically. Today, eight to 18 year olds devote an average of seven hours and 38 minutes to using entertainment media during an average day, which equates to more than 53 hours a week. And because they spend so much of that time “media multitasking” (using more than one medium at a time), they actually manage to cram a total of 10 hours and 45 minutes worth of media content into those seven hours.

While there is a growing concern about screen time and its connection to inactivity, not all screen time is detrimental. Many articles have blamed technology for obesity, insomnia, violence, aggression and language development issues, but this suggests that removing technology would make children fitter, and mental health issues would diminish and occupational health challenges would simply vanish, which everyone knows is unlikely.

For many years the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has recommended that children aged two and under have absolutely no exposure to screens, and, for older children, that screen time be limited to just two hours a day. In September last year, the AAP changed their guidelines to reflect a more nuanced approach.

Part of their update reads: “In a world where ‘screen time’ is becoming simply ‘time,’ our policies must evolve or become obsolete. The public needs to know that the Academy’s advice is science-driven, not based merely on the precautionary principle. Scientific research and policy statements lag behind the pace of digital innovation. A case in point: The 2011 AAP policy statement ‘Media Use by Children Younger Than Two Years’ was drafted prior to the first generation iPad and the explosion of apps aimed at young children.”

Author Mark C. Taylor reminds us in his insightful book Speed Limits: Where Time Went And Why We Have So Little Left that a precautionary attitude always seems to accompany new innovations. “Like today’s parents concerned about the psychological and physical effects of their children playing video games, 19th-century physicians worried about the effect of people sitting in railway cars for hours watching the world rush by in a stream of images that seemed to be detached from real people and actual things.” At the time, some physicians seemed to suggest that the experience of speed could result in “neurasthenia, neuralgia, nervous dyspepsia, early tooth decay and even premature baldness.” Paranoia aside, there is valid concern in support of over-consumption and the converse: creating technological deficits that could hinder development in the wired world.

And if it is to be believed that the average teen is spending more time consuming media than sleeping, it’s clear that parents also need a more plugged-in approach.

Craig Blewett, senior lecturer at the University of KwaZulu-Natal, in the discipline of information systems and technology, says he can see how parents could feel that children

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The average teen is spending more time consuming media than sleeping, it’s clear that parents also need a more plugged-in approach.

are simply wasting their time on these devices, however, that may not be the real issue.

“Today’s devices are not like the single function radios and televisions children’s parents grew up with. In the past if a child was spending lots of time in front of the TV it was obvious they were doing only one thing – watching TV. Modern devices allow for a wide range of activities from consumption to conversation to creation. Even sitting in front of a TV, a child today could be doing anything from having a conversation, playing a game, watching a movie or creating a world in Minecraft.”

Blewett believes that the problem is when children aren’t doing any of these things during their seven-plus hours of entertainment media. Research shows that on average, children are spending about 40% of their time on “passive consumption” compared with just 3% on actual content creation. Perhaps, as Blewett contends, it’s not technology that isn’t working, but how we’re using it that needs adjustment. Screen time for children must be based on activity not passivity.

So just how can we integrate technology into parenting and model smart usage? The experts have some advice.

Monkey see, monkey touch, swipe and drag It’s important to check your own engagement with screens and mobile devices and model good behaviour so that if you don’t want your child checking his or her phone at the dinner table, you shouldn’t be doing that either. Talk through every interaction so that your child knows the difference between using the device as a game versus a means of communication. – techrepublic.com You are the superhero Technology is your trusty sidekick. When Michael Jackson passed away, Heather Cabot’s children were intrigued by all the hype and quizzed her about who Michael Jackson was and what made him so great. She took out her iPad and showed them videos of the King of Pop performing live. Technology is at its best at those teachable moments. – Cabot, Yahoo!

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Create a family tech zone The family computer should be in a high-traffic area that can be easily supervised (not in a bedroom or hidden alcove). Cabot adds that downloadable filters and parental controls “are helpful, but you can’t rely on them.” You wouldn’t leave your child alone in a place that wasn’t childproofed, and the internet certainly doesn’t have covers on its power sockets. “Our morals should be the same in the digital world as they are in the real world,” she says. – Cabot at Yahoo!

Make eye contact, not iContact While doing research for her book Alone Together, Sherry Turkle chatted with children who complained about their parents being disconnected. “They talked about moms who bring their phones to bedtime, or when they approach the car after school and the parent makes a hand gesture instead of eye contact because they’re finishing an email.” The result? Children are modeling the same behaviour. “As a professor, I find that children are having trouble making eye contact. They would rather send an email than come by during office hours. Social skills are vanishing,” notes Turkle. The answer: make and maintain a connection and resist the urge to take a tech interlude. Stay present in that moment. You can finish your mail or send the text when you have finished connecting with a real person in real time. – parenting.com New tech, new methods “While the binge-watching trend may signal a worrying focus on consumption, research shows that active teaching and learning approaches are good for learners. The future of our classrooms relies on teachers harnessing this energy, combining it with the benefits of technology and then activating learning in the classroom. By moving children from passive readers and hearers to active curators and creators, teachers and parents can significantly impact both the learner’s enthusiasm in the classroom, how much they learn and make technological interactions positive and productive.” – Blewett, teachernology.com/blog

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Children reportedly have a remarkable natural ability to learn a second or third language at an early age. MARC DE CHAZAL considers the benefits.

English language speaker, but the other languages I was exposed to, or could’ve been exposed to, as a child are widely used in South Africa and in French-speaking Africa.

It’s a real pity I was never encouraged to master them.

It’s obviously never too late to learn a new language – there are great language schools offering courses and free apps such as Duolingo – but it’s the benefits of acquiring more than one language as a child that is really worth exploring.

Research at Cornell University’s Language Acquisition Lab, headed up by Dr Barbara Lust, demonstrates how well-equipped children are to accomplish the complex task of learning language. In her book Child Language: Acquisition and Growth, Lust writes: “Already at birth, even before they speak or understand language, infants begin processing the speech stream around them in order to determine the sounds of the language (phonology), and the form of the phrases and sentences of the language (syntax).

By the time they are 12 months of age, they will have ‘cracked the code’ for many of these properties as they get ready to launch into their first processed words. Here they will show they are mapping what they know about the form of language to what language means (semantics).”

Lust goes on to show that by the time children are three years old, they will have mastered much of the basic system of language around them.

That’s wonderful, but doesn’t teaching children a second or third language just create confusion or even language deficit? On the contrary, say Cornell linguistic researchers. It’s good for their minds.

Meryl Bailey of a multilingual preschool and training facility in Joburg agrees that there are many cognitive and social advantages of multilingualism. “Memory, problemsolving ability, creativity, cultural and language sensitivity, confidence, and the ability to learn other languages, greatly

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y grandmother loves to tell the story of when she babysat the toddler version of me and couldn’t understand a word of what I said. Apparently I needed to go to the toilet, as one does throughout life, but on this occasion my request was made in isiZulu. Growing up on a farm in rural KwaZuluNatal exposed me to both isiZulu and isiXhosa, which were the mother tongues of the majority of people living and working on the farm. My nanny was Zulu speaking and I had friends who were native speakers of these two languages, so I was naturally acquiring their languages through constant interaction with them.

I was sent to boarding school during my early primary school years, which sadly removed me from the multilingual environment I had enjoyed as a toddler. As a result I stopped actively using these languages, except for the odd greeting and phrase, which I can still recall.

Incidentally, my father’s parents were both native French speakers, but my dad never spoke it in our home unless his relatives were visiting (and my mother only spoke English), so I didn’t grow up speaking what is today one of the three most widely spoken languages in the world.

I like to think that the doorway of opportunity would’ve been far wider in my life had I acquired languages other than English, and passable Afrikaans. Sure, I have a wonderful advantage in today’s world being a native

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increases when you speak more than one language,” says Bailey. “But it’s not true that children absorb language like a sponge, so it must be done in a very deliberate and careful manner. I have found that they should start as young as possible, as this is when they are most sensitive to language and have the time to acquire it.”

Linguists make an important distinction between language acquisition and language learning. They say that young children acquire language in a subconscious way, without being drilled on the grammatical rules of the language. Children acquire their home language by virtue of its everyday use in the home, not because they understand that a complete sentence requires a subject and a predicate. Language learning, on the other hand, is not communicative, but rather a top-down instruction of the grammatical rules.

Getting back to the benefits of being able to communicate in more than one language from a young age, Bailey says that adaptability is one of the most distinguishing features she has observed in her young students, “…the ability to not only communicate in different languages, but to understand different cultures. They learn humility, and that

the way they do something is not the only way things can be done, which is an essential skill in South Africa today, and for learning any language in the future.”

Parents are an important part of the process, according to Bailey. “In order for the language to really become important to the children, it must be a priority for the parents,” she says. “That may mean parents learning alongside their child, taking them on cultural trips, making new friends who speak the language, and seeking out opportunities to use the language, such as in restaurants and shops. Parents who don’t speak the language themselves may opt to send their children to a school that teaches that language, an obvious place where children are forced to acquire the language by using it daily.”

It does take a lot of time and cognitive work for a young child to acquire languages, so be patient with your child. He’s also slowly acquiring all his other life skills and learning about the world at the same time. But persevere, as the cognitive and social benefits for your child will be invaluable. Bilingualism (or multilingualism) will enable your child to access cultures in a way that someone who speaks

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one language can never do, and the cognitive advantages can contribute to your child’s academic success. Like every other aspect of parenting, it’s important to remain positive as you raise your bilingual child.

tips for parents ✻✻ Surround your child with plenty of opportunity for language exchange, beginning at birth. ✻✻ Children also learn from overhearing language around them, so do expose them to the spoken language in fun ways through mediums such as music and television. ✻✻ Language drills are not necessary for normally developing children. Parents should allow their young child to discover language rather than explicitly “teaching” them. ✻✻ Surround children with language through literacy. Read to your children and talk about what is being read. ✻✻ There’s no need to maintain a one person, one language environment at home. Your children will sort out the languages by themselves.

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healthy start in life

quinoa bites vegetarian; for adults too; great for lunchboxes Makes 12 (using a small muffin pan) ingredients ✻✻ 1 cup fresh spinach ✻✻ 2 cups soaked and cooked quinoa ✻✻ 2 organic eggs, beaten ✻✻ ¼ cup fresh parsley, finely chopped ✻✻ ½ cup hard goat’s cheese, finely grated ✻✻ 1 tsp paprika ✻✻ pinch Himalayan or sea salt ✻✻ pinch freshly ground black pepper

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Wilt the spinach leaves by placing them in a sieve and pouring boiling water over them. Chop it finely. Add all the ingredients to a large bowl and mix well.

Spoon the mixture into the prepared muffin pan and push down with the back of a spoon.

These will not rise so fill the muffin pan to the height you would like your quinoa bite to be.

Place in the oven and bake for approximately 20 minutes until golden.

Allow to cool slightly, then place all the quinoa bites on a wire rack until cool enough to eat.

Leftover quinoa bites can be frozen for up to one month.

To reheat, place them in a warm oven until heated through.

This is a great way to use up left over quinoa, and simple enough to cook from scratch. Quinoa is a nutrient-dense food – a complete protein and a valuable source of healthy fats, calcium, phosphorus, magnesium, vitamins E and B, fibre and iron. Mila loves these and has been eating them since she was 12 months old.

Food should be delicious and nutritious believes CATHERINE BARNHOORN. From Mila’s Meals, her new cookbook, she shares some

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raw; vegetarian; vegan; egg-free; for adults; great for lunchboxes Makes 1 litre and serves 6 to 8 adults

choc-nut fudge raw; superfood; vegetarian; vegan; egg-free; grain-free; for adults too; great for lunchboxes Makes 30 (2cm x 2cm) fudge squares The fudge is packed with nutrients and has antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, antifungal, antibacterial, antimicrobial and general body nourishing properties. It is a great source of healthy fats, calcium, iron, potassium, zinc, protein, iron, fibre, copper, magnesium, phosphorus, vitamins A, Bs, C and K, folate and choline. ingredients ✻✻ 1 cup dates, soaked and pitted ✻✻ 1 cup coconut oil, melted ✻✻ ½ cup cashew nuts, activated ✻✻ ¼ cup raw cacao powder ✻✻ 1 tsp green powder (a mixture of chlorella, spirulina, barley and wheatgrass) ✻✻ a pinch of Himalayan or sea salt ✻✻ ½ cup water

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Gradually add the water while the processor is running until the mixture is smooth. You want to make sure it is not too runny as it will not set – the amount of water you need to add depends on how long you soak your dates for. The longer they have soaked (and the more water they are retaining), the less water you need to add to the mixture.

Scoop the mixture into a shallow dish lined with baking paper.

Place in the fridge and allow to set – this takes approximately 1 hour.

Cut the fudge into squares and serve.

If there is any left over, you can store it in an airtight container in the fridge for up to 3 weeks (due to the nature of coconut oil, the fudge will soften when it stands at room temperature).

ingredients ✻✻ 800ml (2 cans) preservative-free coconut milk ✻✻ 2 Tbs arrowroot powder ✻✻ ½ cup xylitol or honey ✻✻ 2 tsp alcohol-free vanilla extract or seeds of 1 vanilla pod ✻✻ 4 Tbs kefir (optional)

flavour variations ✻✻ pureed strawberries ✻✻ chocolate – 3 Tbs raw cacao powder ✻✻ minty green – 1 drop of food grade peppermint oil, 1 Tbs spinach or kale juice

Besides the fact that there are no synthetic ingredients or high quantities of genetically modified sugars, the main ingredient in this ice cream (coconut milk) has antiinflammatory, antiviral, antifungal and antibacterial benefits. It contains high amounts of beneficial fat – including lauric acid, a type of fat rarely found in nature, which can only otherwise be found in breast milk. Other nutrients found in coconut milk include vitamins B, C and E, iron, selenium, sodium, calcium, magnesium and phosphorus.

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Place the coconut milk and arrowroot powder in a saucepan over medium heat and stir to combine. Bring the mixture to the boil while stirring continuously. Cook for an additional 2 minutes to allow the mixture to thicken – it should be the consistency of thick syrup.

Add the xylitol or honey and vanilla and stir until it has combined well.

Add any additional flavours at this stage.

Transfer the ice cream mixture to a mixing bowl, cover and allow to cool (this could take up to 4 hours in the fridge, so perhaps do this overnight).

Transfer the mixture to an ice cream maker, add the kefir and follow the manufacturer’s instructions.

Serve immediately in bowls or transfer to a freezer-safe container and keep frozen until ready to serve.

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of her gluten-, sugar- and dairy-free recipes.

butternut and cranberry fritters vegetarian; grain-free; for adults; great for lunchboxes Makes 30 toddler-sized flapjacks Butternut is an excellent source of vitamins A, Bs, C and K, and fibre. Mixed with the cranberries you get a meal with an astonishing array of phytonutrients, which offer antioxidants, anti-inflammatory and anti-cancer health benefits. The addition of chickpea flour makes this meal a source of protein too – perfect for the little ones who are not too keen on meat. ingredients ✻✻ 1/3 cup chickpea flour ✻✻ ½ tsp freshly squeezed lemon juice ✻✻ ½ cup coconut milk (or other dairyfree alternative) ✻✻ 1 cup butternut, cooked and pureed ✻✻ 2 eggs beaten ✻✻ 4 Tbs cranberries, chopped ✻✻ 1/3 cup potato flour ✻✻ 1/3 cup tapioca flour ✻✻ 1 tsp aluminium-free baking powder ✻✻ ½ tsp baking soda ✻✻ 1 tsp cinnamon ✻✻ ½ tsp Himalayan or sea salt ✻✻ coconut oil for frying

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Once the soaking is complete, add the butternut puree, beaten eggs and cranberries. Mix well.

In a separate bowl, mix the dry ingredients with a whisk (the potato flour, tapioca flour, baking powder, baking soda, cinnamon and salt).

Add the dry ingredients to the butternut mixture and mix well to form a thick batter (while being careful not to over mix).

Heat just enough coconut oil in a frying pan to coat it.

Scoop tablespoons of the batter into the pan.

Fry them until they are firm and golden on the underside then flip over for another couple of minutes. Test to see if the fritters are done by pressing lightly on them. If they are done, they will spring back.

Transfer to some kitchen towel to drain and cool.

Serve as is – or with some raw honey drizzled on top.

Left over fritters can be frozen and placed in the toaster to defrost and reheat as and when you need them.

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about the book This book is a call to action for every parent to be conscious of what they are feeding their little ones, providing a guideline on how to achieve this as effectively and effortlessly as possible. If you are a new mom or know anyone who is; if your child has food allergies or intolerances; if you plan to raise your children on a “free from” diet; or if you would simply like to nutritionally educate yourself, then this is the book for you. Mila’s Meals: The Beginning & The Basics is self-published by Catherine Barnhoorn and to order the book visit milasmeals.co.za

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Book a date night with your partner to rekindle the love, for quality time together, or

here’s just never enough time for a date night, with excuses aplenty. Maybe you’re saving up this month. Or you can’t find a babysitter. But, there are plenty of reasons for making time, to find that babysitter, and to spend some money on dinner for two. After all, a romantic evening out costs a lot less than a divorce.

Okay, maybe you’re not there yet. But spending some alone time with your significant other is a good way to make sure you don’t get there. Date nights not only give you the chance to reconnect and communicate with one another, but having a break from the everyday routine can reignite your spark and remind you why you fell in love in the first place. You’ll probably also be reminded that there’s more to life, and your relationship, than your children. And it’s a great excuse to have a bit of fun. So it may seem like hard work, but making each other feel special (even if that means quality alone time at home) can go a long way to strengthening your relationship. So, put away your phones, make sure the children are in good hands, and pick a date.

adventure date Nothing gets your heart racing like a bit of adventure and excitement, so try out an adrenaline-filled date. Once-off adventures could include a mild but exhilarating horse

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ride, something safe, but thrilling, like a zipline course, an extreme whitewater rafting trip or a sky dive experience. If you’re already a couple of adrenaline junkies, why not take up a new extreme sport? Parkour or free running is gaining in popularity. Mountain bike and hiking trails are readily available, near to home or at getaway destinations, while rock climbing, diving or skiing give you the chance to explore our beautiful country as well as more exotic destinations.

Put away your phones, make sure the children are in good hands, and pick a date.

experience. If you really can’t get away, hire some golden oldies and settle in for a movie marathon at home, complete with buckets of popcorn, pizza and a snuggly blanket. Choose from old-school romance (think Sleepless in Seattle), eighties horror (Nightmare on Elm Street) or catch up on new releases you haven’t seen.

playing games Instead of playing games with just the family, book a table for quiz night and as a team compete against others.

Going out to a casino means you get to dress up and play at being a high roller – just make sure you only take cash that you can afford to lose. If you prefer a quiet evening at home, set up chess, scrabble or backgammon.

Try inviting other couples around for a double date, and start a friendly league.

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A must-see movie has just come to a cinema near you, but it’s definitely not for children’s eyes. Call the grandparents, an aunt or the babysitter, and opt for “the red carpet”. If this isn’t a frequent occurrence, book tickets at a luxury cinema. Here you can enjoy more comfortable chairs, a better selection of snacks and have a more romantic

Treat yourself and your significant other to a day of health and pampering. Sign up for a couple’s massage at the spa or ask for a package deal, complete with healthy snacks, champagne, strawberries and more. You could visit a health hydro together, where you enjoy spa and hydrotherapy treatments, along with delicious, healthy food.

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just to have some fun. TAMLYN VINCENT rounds up some entertaining options.

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If you’re feeling inspired, or in need of some artistic inspiration, head to a local art gallery. Wander the quiet spaces, taking in the imagery and enjoying the companionable silence. Sometimes it’s good to share time together without feeling the need to talk. Then enjoy a glass of wine, discussing your thoughts and feelings about the art. If you’re looking for something more practical, sign up for an art class together. You can learn how to paint with watercolours, throw a pot or sketch a portrait.

We all need to eat, so why not make it a special occasion every once in a while? Dress up for dinner at a fancy restaurant, or go to that spot you’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t had the nerve to take the children. Or try something new and exotic. If you can’t get out, substitute by making an extravagant dinner for two at home. You and your partner can visit a local market for interesting ingredients, then, once the children are tucked in, spend an evening cooking and tasting together.

Exploring new tastes is a great way to discover what you both like and dislike. Head to a dairy or goat farm that offers cheese tasters – some of these venues may also provide picnics, where you can sample your selection of cheeses while relaxing outside. Chocolate tasting is another good option. Or make a day of going to a local winery, distillery or craft brewery to try their range of beverages. Some may also do tours, where you can find out how they make their brew.

overnight getaway If you’re ready to leave the children for a night (or two), book a stay at a nearby retreat, lodge or hotel. It could be just outside town or a getaway further afield. Wherever you choose to go, look for something romantic (rose petals in the bath, anyone?). Whatever your preference, this can include an offering of activities you want to try out, a spectacular view or a cuisine speciality. You may have special requirements, like a vegetarian menu, or you want to ensure that you’ll have Wi-Fi access during your stay. Ask about these upfront to avoid spoiling your night out.

under the stars Nothing says romance like an evening under the stars.

Outdoor movies are a popular choice, where you can set up a blanket and enjoy an evening picnic. If you prefer something with a bit more volume and rhythm, head to a concert in a park. For a quieter evening, spread a blanket on the lawn, pack a picnic and enjoy a night of stargazing from the back garden.

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Access an extended calendar online at

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The BFG 1

This film, opening today, tells the tale

ECR House and Garden Show Running from 1–10 July, the show features a travel and adventure section, an outdoor shisa nyama, celebrity chefs and DIY appearances and a 400sqm children’s jungle playground by Wild Adventures. Tanya Visser is doing a talk on growing vegetables for children’s meals in the Celebrity Chef Kitchen on 5 and 7 July at 1pm. Doors open at 10am at the Durban Exhibition Centre. Adults pay R85, children under 12 years old get in free of charge. For more

set out on an adventure to capture the evil, man-eating giants who have been invading the human world. It shows at 3D and other cinemas nationwide. For more info: numetro.

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Join a fun 10km walk or run, and help support the Robin Hood Foundation. There are lucky draw prizes, a Kiddies Fun Race starting at 9am, and refreshments on sale. The walk starts at 7am at the Forest Hills Sports Club. Contact 083 289 0921 or foresthillsac@gmail.com

Godfrey Johnson enchants audiences with a variety

Child Welfare Durban and District Crazy Hats 5km fun walk

of colourful characters. The show includes new

A 5km fun walk with food stalls and entertaining activities for

satirical songs covering a range of trending

the whole family. Registration begins at 8am and the walk

themes from corporate cannibals to post hipster

hipsters. Watch as he effortlessly plays piano, sings and entertains with an extensive repertoire ranging from Stephen Sondheim to David Bowie. It’s on from

starts at 9am. The walk commences at the Durban Amphitheatre and goes to Sunkist and back. Adults

1–3 July at 8pm Friday and Saturday, and 2pm and

pay R50 and children under 18 pay

6:30pm Sunday at the Rhumbelow Theatre in Umbilo.

R25. Call 031 312 9313 or email

Tickets are R140 at computicket.com

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Six Of The Best

Christmas in July Gift Market

Celebrate the music of the six greatest pop and rock icons of all time at The Barnyard Theatre in Gateway, with the music of Freddie Mercury, Jon Bon Jovi, Meatloaf, Billy Joel, Pink and Cher. Show times are 8pm Tuesday–Saturday and 2pm Sunday, from 12 July– 28 August. The tickets cost R155 Wednesday–Saturday, R120 on Tuesday and R110 on Sunday. To book: barnyard.durban

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This one day market is filled with 90 exhibitors, a food court and a children’s play area. Indulge in a shopping expedition with the varied selection of trending gift ideas for your friends, colleagues and your children’s teachers. It’s open from 10am–5pm at the DLI Complex in Greyville.

Tickets for adults are R30 and children under 10 years old are free. Contact 071 552 0986 or jo@eventscompany.durban

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Old Mutual Music at the Lake

This Blues Rock concert features Dan Patlansky, Albert Frost and Hezron Chetty. It opens at 2pm at the Durban Botanic Gardens. Tickets cost R60–R140. Call Durban Botanic Gardens on 031 322 4021 or book at webtickets.co.za

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This shows pays tribute to the billboard number one hit songs from 2015, with chart-toppers from stars like One Direction, Justin Bieber, Selena Gomez and Demi Lavato. It shows at The Barnyard Theatre on 23 and 30 July, and 6, 13, 20 and 27 August. Tickets are R100.

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Thomas More College Country Fair There is an indoor and outdoor expo, a craft market, excitement zone, food stalls and lots more, from 9am–4pm.

It’s held at 15 Sykes Rd, Kloof and parking costs R15.

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This is the ultimate interactive family-friendly theatrical experience. Families can join Dora and her friends, Boots and Diego, on a voyage of discovery as they embark on an exciting trip to Treasure Island in search of the ultimate pirate party.

Show times are 10am, 2pm and 6pm daily from 1–3 July at the ICC Durban. Tickets range from R185–R325.

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Dora the Explorer Live!

Dora’s Pirate Adventure

of a young girl, the Queen of England, and

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Clicks & PaedIQ Baby Bootcamp

Enjoy a morning jam-packed with talks from well-known speakers, respected in their field, lots of give-aways, goodie bags and more.

It runs from 9am–12pm at the Protea Hotel Edward on the Durban Beachfront. Tickets are R200. Visit paediq.com

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Word Warrior competition

Read Educational Trust’s imaginative writing competition aims to stimulate, excite and grow young minds. Entrants can write about anything that tickles their fancy, from a nonfiction illustrated recipe book or the history of their family, to a fictional story – the world is their oyster. The winning story will win books worth R5 000 for their school and a R1 000 voucher for themselves. The competition is open to learners 9–16 years old and entries close 21 October. The winning story will be announced in November 2016. Go to

holiday programmes Disney Musicals workshop Exploring the music of

Sugar Bay holiday camp A week-long adventure

Disney, students receive vocal training and choreography lessons, working towards a mini presentation. This is for Grades 1–6 from 5–7 July at 9am–12pm and costs R450. Students in Grades 7–12 can join the Improvisation Workshop 29 June–1 July or the Show Choir Workshop 4–8 July. Workshops take place at the Durban Actors Studio at 168 Mahatma Gandhi Rd. Call 083 326 3257 or go to rspa.co.za/register Dynamic Studying An informal test is conducted to determine the child’s preferred learning style. It covers linear summarising, mind maps and exam technique. A parent note is included for re-enforcement. The R700 workshop runs on 12 and 13 July from 8:30am–12pm at Ashton International College in Ballito. Contact 083 379 1429, 082 716 8878 or angelamccall@telkomsa.net Lucky Bean free holiday craft activities From 28 June–15 July children plant a salad garden, make a sock caterpillar, do jewel art, bake, and make bird feeders. Activities are free and classes start at 10am and 12pm Tuesday–Friday. Email info@luckybean.co for the full programme or Facebook: Lucky Bean

camp where children 7–17 years old do over 100 freechoice activities, while supervised by well-trained counsellors. The All American Bash Week starts 3 July and Jungle Book Week starts 10 July. Camps take place in Zinkwazi Beach and cost R5 799 for a new camper, which includes accommodation, food and activities. For more info: sugarbay.co.za Survivor Kids Challenge On 6 and 7 July, children 6–13 years old take part in adventures and games. Wear comfortable clothes, flat shoes, sunscreen, a hat, and pack water and lunch. It’s from 8am–4pm at Treasure Beach Environmental Education Centre. It costs R120.

Contact 031 467 8507 or tbeach@wessa.co.za Wildlife Warriors holiday club Children 6–11 years old enjoy an educational experience at Crow’s Environmental Educentre with fun activities focused on environmental awareness. Children can attend any amount of days. Drop off: 7am–8am; collection 4pm–4:30pm, weekdays 27 June–15 July. Lunch and tea breaks provided. Pay R120 per day or R500 per week.

Contact 031 462 1127 or education@crowkzn.co.za

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next month in august is our “education” issue on street 21 July

in this issue: ✻✻ should schools adopt a no-homework policy? ✻✻ make sense of your child’s report card ✻✻ when your son is just not into sport ✻✻ the importance of sun safety at home and at school ✻✻ shedding light on the attention-seeking child we also look at: ✻✻ common speech impediments ✻✻ the new legislation on salt, sugar and fat ✻✻ helping your baby sleep better

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“mom, bring me…”

ANÉL LEWIS says that her children’s demands can be disruptive, and a bit

e all know about “man flu” – when men purport to be on death’s door at the first sniffle and are therefore incapable of functioning normally. Well, I would like to propose that children under the age of 10 experience something similar.

But let’s call their condition “Mom, bring me…”. For some reason, children who are perfectly capable of climbing monkey bars while reciting the names of the “Paw Patrol” characters, and are able to construct engineering models of bridges that would put the designers of the unfinished Foreshore freeways in Cape Town to shame, are simply unable to pour themselves a glass of juice. My son, Conor, is now well and properly potty-trained. So adept is he now at this ablution business, that he can create patterns in the sand when he chooses to spend the odd penny outside in the garden. But if he knows I am at home, he is suddenly incapable of the most basic of functions and I am called upon umpteen times to help with the clean-up operation.

I shudder to think what happens when I am not nearby.

Erin tends to need liquid refreshment 17 times a day. It starts with “Bring me some milkshake”, and soon escalates to “Bring me cold water with three ice blocks.”

The instructions can get quite specific. During a recent long weekend, Craig and I timed the intervals between the requests. And we worked out that Erin and Conor’s

respective calls for everything from changing the TV channel to serving snacks meant that I seldom got to sit for longer than seven minutes. We also discovered that for some reason, only I was fully equipped to deal with the various demands. It seems that only I can make the warm Milo in the morning that my son needs to get his day started and only I am able to read bedtime stories at night. I clearly make the best cereal and toasted sarmies, and Conor seems to think that the terms “mom” and “personal dresser” are synonymous. Although, in his defence, getting back into a onesie in the dark is no walk in the park – especially when you’re only four years old.

I have to be honest and admit that being on call like this all day is irritating, and some days I’m tempted to put in earphones so that I simply don’t hear the 101 requests that come my way. But there’s also a part of me that realises that this absolute faith in my ability to provide for their every need won’t last. They are already becoming more independent. Erin chooses her own outfits and insists on mixing her own juice in the mornings. Conor may still struggle with the fine art of disrobing from his onesie, but he’s already getting how to set the dinner table for us in the evenings. They won’t need me the same way ever again. And while it does rankle a wee bit, and I do have to set clear boundaries as to what I will do for them and

what they really need to sort out themselves, I’m secretly pleased that they still need me for some things.

Anél is considering setting up a schedule as to when she will attend to all queries and demands, including those for refreshment and wardrobe assistance, so that she can sit for longer than seven minutes on weekends.

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irritating at times, but she admits that it feels good to know they still need her.

Erin, Anél and Conor

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books for toddlers Let’s Play: Aliens in Space

By Yu-hsuan Huang

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(Published by Campbell Books, R228) Two little boys build a rocket and zoom off for an out-of-this-world adventure.

What will happen next? Little hands can twist, turn and slide the scenes to bring this magical book to life.

for pre-schoolers Squishy McFluff: The Invisible Cat!

By Pip Jones and Ella Okstad (Published by Faber and Faber, R128) An imaginary friend is a wonderful thing. Just think of all the giggles, games and adventures that can be shared. Well, Ava’s a girl who knows all about that. Written in comical rhyming verse for children from the age of four years old, this is a lovely read about a pretty naughty cat.

early-graders Free to be Me!

By Gillian Beeton and Janine Rech (Published by Real Expression, R200 excl. delivery) This interactive journal is designed to help develop a child’s belief in their own value and worth. The activities encourage their natural, creative selves to explore their strengths, to be their own best friend, and to deal with their feelings. Order the book at janine@expressivearts.co.za

for pre-schoolers My First Hugless Douglas Activity Book and Hugless Douglas and Friends Activity Book

By David Melling (Published by Hodder Children’s Books, R114 and R82) Both books come with over 100 stickers and include colouring-in, puzzles, spot-the-difference and more. The Hugless Douglas and Friends book also has a board game.

parenting Bully-proof

By Gail Dore (Published by Struik Lifestyle, R172) Every day in South Africa, thousands of children go to school filled with terror because they know that they’re going to be bullied. In this book, life-skills trainer Gail Dore, exposes the insidious nature of bullying and the long-term harm it causes, as well as what can be done to put a stop to it. She explains how to identify the different types of bullies and recognise the different forms bullying take.

early-graders The Dogtective series

By Elizabeth Wasserman and Chris Venter (Published by Robinson, R202) This is book four, five and six of the series. Alex is 12 years old and an only child. He spends a lot of time with his dog, William, which the family adopted from the SPCA a few years ago. But only Alex knows William’s secret: he understands human language and he can talk. Together they travel the world, dodge bad guys and make wrongs right.

early-graders Old Possum’s Book of Practical Cats

By T.S Eliot (Published by Faber and Faber, R113) All children should hear this classic story about cats at least once – some are sane, some are mad and some are good and some are bad. Enjoy the show with all our favourite cats starring Macavity, the mystery cat, Mr Mistofelees, the original conjuring cat, Mungojerrie and Rumpelteazer, and many more.

for us The South African Bike Book and Events Guide

By Tim Brink (Published by Map Studio, R299) As cycling continues to explode as a sport in South Africa, it is easy to feel intimidated by the equipment, the clothing, the hustle and the bustle. This book will guide you through the packed peloton to the happy, twowheeled place that only cyclists know. It covers everything from choosing the right bike, tuning and riding skills, and repairs to top events.