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8 pregnancy The right choice of bedding can make your baby sleep better

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10 health Debating the need to give your child vitamins and other supplements

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4 pub’s note As the season turns it provides the perfect opportunity to reflect on the quality of your living 6 over to you Our readers have their say and share their news and views

16 parenting A dad reveals his reasons for saying “no” to sleepovers

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12 getaways A weekend of discovery in a quiet historical town evokes nostalgia

28 what’s on in March, April and May Family events, workshops, holiday programmes and open days

14 parenting Is it perfectionism or procrastination? Plus, tips for coping

30 finishing touch An old-fashioned coastal holiday helps a family resdiscover the joy and fun in life

18 an irish holiday The Emerald Isle is an ideal destination for a family holiday offering many varied experiences and wonderful folklore 20 education Children learn in many different ways, which influences how they absorb and process information 22 extramurals Gymnastics is more than just exercise, it’s also a fun way to learn valuable life lessons

31 recipes This raspberry-and-lemon sponge cake is not only flavoursome, it will also add style to your party

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pub’s note are you living “the good life”?

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The older I get, the more time I spend pondering the meaning of what it really means to me and my family when I talk about living “The Good Life”. And, more importantly, how my husband and I can help our daughters lead and live “The Good Life”.

We recently sold our house, and hope to downsize to something more compact and less cluttered, hopefully, freeing us to be more present with our children and each other. We move in a couple of weeks’ time, so I have begun sifting and sorting, discarding and donating.

All this has made me re-focus on what I REALLY need in my life. Keeping only that which “sparks joy” as the organising and decluttering guru Marie Kondo suggests.

“When something sparks joy, you should feel a little thrill, as if the cells in your body are slowly rising. When you hold something that doesn’t bring you joy, however, you will notice that your body feels heavier. When deciding, it’s important to touch it, and by that, I mean holding it firmly in both hands as if communing with it. Pay close attention to how your body responds when you do this,” she writes.

Decluttering and refocusing is not confined to things, but includes our family life; children’s lives; our work and workspace; hobbies; and relationships. As the seasons begin to change, perhaps now is a good time to consider what leading and living “The Good Life” means to you.

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Choose linen that is 100% cotton. Other fabrics may cause your baby to sweat and aren’t as healthy.

Use a mattress that fits securely into the cot and has ventilation holes. Make sure to air any mattress once a week.

Use elasticated fitted sheets that won’t come loose. Look for prewashed or high-quality sheets that won’t shrink in the wash.

Babies need bedding that keeps them at a comfortable temperature. Opt for a cotton blanket or sheet that can be tucked in snugly under your baby’s arms.

Avoid using a duvet for babies. Soft blankets, pillows and cuddly toys are also a suffocation risk. If you do have these on the cot, remove them when it’s time to sleep.

Cot bumpers can be a hazard. If you do decide to use one, make sure it is breathable and ties securely onto the cot. Alternatively, look for individual slat bumpers.

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Well-chosen bedding can do much to improve your child’s sleep.

here’s more to choosing linen than matching the duvet to the lampshade, or finding themed sheets to go with your child’s fluffy pillows. Here are some important factors to consider.

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Some babies and children may react to the fabric of their bedding, the detergent you’re using, or to the presence of dust mites in their rooms.

Signs that can indicate an allergic reaction include itchy or red skin, a rash, sneezing, watering eyes, dry tight skin or eczema. A runny nose, wheezing, asthma or sinus trouble may also suggest dust mites. There are some ways to help alleviate these problems: • Find out what is causing the reaction.

• Follow the washing instructions provided on their bedding.

• Use hypoallergenic or nonbiological washing powder, and avoid enzyme-enriched and perfumed detergents.

• Use dust mite covers, and look for linen, rugs and curtains that can be machine washed.

• Avoid having too many pillows or stuffed animals on the bed.

• Use high-quality bedding that is nonallergenic and dust mite-proof.

• Some children may have a reaction to down, so if necessary replace these with cotton duvet and pillow inserts.

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Children can start using a pillow and duvet from about 18 months, or when they move into a bed.

Comfort and durability are still important, and it is advisable to choose cotton as it is easily washable and durable.

Choose a high-quality mattress and keep it in a good condition by getting a mattress protector. We suggest a cotton casing that is waterproof, but also breathes easily.

Fitted sheets are a good idea as toddlers move around a lot while they sleep.

Get several changes of bedding, especially once you start night-time potty training.

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As with babies and toddlers, use high-quality, durable bed linen.

Children may spend a lot of time in their room and on their beds, so keep the mattress protector on in case of accidental spills or illness.

If they want to create a theme or use certain colours, suggest bedding that will satisfy their need for creativity without compromising its quality.

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health

Nutritional experts believe that these can be helpful at times.

Tori Hoffman

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what’s lacking and why?

According to Michelle B Lewis, a Cape-Town based nutrition and natural health coach, “we all need some sort of assistance when it comes to our diet, largely because of the stresses of environmental pollutants and the fact that a lot of the foods we eat today are processed and over-processed. The western diet also includes artificial additives and we lose a lot of nutrients along the way”. She explains that proper eating and correct food combinations are very important and good nutritional development starts in the womb. We all need a diet of fresh fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, wholegrains and the forgotten

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do children really need supplements and vitamins?

here’s a reason why there are so many vitamin supplements on the shelves today, for parents and children. It’s not just because popping a pill has become a marketing ploy and a quick fix for a poor diet and a busy lifestyle. It’s because picky eaters, over-processed food and trying to pack too much into an often stressful day has left the majority of us needing a supplement in one form or another.

nutrient, water. Of course, eating healthily isn’t always possible, Lewis admits, especially when it comes to picky eaters, and this is where vitamin supplements serve a purpose.

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do we need a supplement?

Opinion on whether or not you or your child needs to take a vitamin supplement is divided. The American Academy of Pediatrics says that it’s up to you and your family doctor to decide what you need to take and why.

Michelle says that while we don’t have to take supplements, she believes that we do need to help our bodies as much as possible. However, she emphasises that a supplement should never be used to replace a meal.

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Toddlers and children who are picky eaters or going through a phase of unbalanced eating will benefit from a supplement for that period. Also, families that follow vegetarian and vegan diets will most likely need a supplement too.

Growing children often need a supplement for their general health and development. If your child has been sick or has a low immune system, then a vitamin C and zinc supplement may be helpful. While the sun is the best source of vitamin D, children

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who don’t get enough regular sunshine might also benefit from a vitamin D supplement.

Older children and teenagers are said to need cold-pressed oils such as omega and essential fatty acids. This is especially true for sporty children and those who are busy with exams. Not only are the omegas believed to help with bone and brain development, they help with peak endurance and concentration too. They’re also thought to assist with hyperactivity. When your daughter starts menstruating, you might consider an iron supplement or evening primrose oil to combat premenstrual tension.

Parents who find themselves feeling rundown would need a vitamin supplement and taking one should be part of their daily routine.

“They help combat stress and a vitamin B complex is very important for women,” says Lewis.

Tip: Parents wanting to give their children vitamin and mineral supplements should make sure that it contains no more than the RDA (recommended dietary allowance) of the vitamins and minerals for the ages of their children. RDAs are set high enough to more than meet the needs of most individuals in that category.

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getaways

where penguins play A Cape Town family took a trip “down the line” in search of warmer sea, less wind and exquisite lodgings.

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y grandparents lived in Fish Hoek for many years, and my aunt in Simon’s Town, so it’s a place that holds wonderful holiday memories for me.

Apart from the lovely old buildings and ancient cobbled stones, Simon’s Town is home to a unique and endangered land-based colony of African Penguins. The Boulders Penguin Colony is one of only a few in the world, it is also one of my children’s favourite destinations, with warmer, calm sea, and a wind-protected beach. We’ve spent many happy hours on that beach, making sandcastles, swimming and being entertained by the antics of the playful penguins. On more energetic days, we stroll down the boardwalks (there are three), stopping for my youngest to take a photo.

Boulders Visitor Centre: +27(0) 21 786 Boulders Beach 2329. www.sanparks.org

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Bertha’s Restaurant

feeling peckish?

Where better than at the water’s edge to have breakfast, lunch or dinner? Bertha’s Restaurant in the Quayside Centre has a large outdoor dining space, including a children’s play area, with views across Simon’s Town harbour. www.berthas.co.za

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keeping the best for last Our ultimate destination was the new Tintswalo at Boulders Boutique Villa offering luxurious seaside accommodation with unobstructed views over Boulders Beach.

We opted for the bed and breakfast option, as we were only there for a night. The rooms can be described as “super swish” and the breakfast, mouthwateringly moreish. Walking into the villa felt like going home, except with better furniture, food and a team of highly-trained staff to see to your every need. Yes, this did feel like a dream come true.

The venue can be booked exclusively as a private villa for fun family getaways or special celebrations. A private chef is available on request. With so much to do in the area, it makes a wonderful spot for families wanting to holiday together for a weekend, a week or longer. Our time at the villa can only be described by one word, bliss! We’ll be back …

Life is good: The views, food and accommodation at Tintswalo Villa sparked joy. www.tintswalo.com/boulders/villa

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perfectionism Is your child paralysed by perfection? Here’s what’s really going on and how you can help her.

Linda Stade

You know your child isn’t lazy and she isn’t a good old-fashioned procrastinator. It’s possible she’s experiencing perfection paralysis.

Perfection paralysis is when a person simply can’t start a project because they are so concerned they won’t get it exactly right. There only seems to be two options: • Start and prove you’re not perfect • Don’t start.

Teachers see it in classrooms all the time. Children will ask lots of questions and run many ideas past you, but they won’t commit anything to paper. Even when they do commit an idea to paper, they will screw it up and throw it away, rather than using it as a jump-off point for a better idea. These kids love correcting fluid because it stops them having to see their errors. They also like writing in pencil because anything risky can be erased. Laptop schools make this process of removing evidence even easier… it’s simply a matter of hitting “delete”.

Perfection paralysis is driven by a combination of several elements:

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t’s Sunday night, bed time. Your daughter is upset about the assignment for English due the next day. She’s had a week to do it and you’ve seen her sitting at her desk writing and making notes.

She has spent hours at it, so you assumed she’d finished. It turns out she hasn’t started. Well, she has. Several times. But each start she made, she deleted. It wasn’t quite right.

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Dr Brene Brown is an amazing speaker, author and research professor at the University of Houston. She works in the area of shame, vulnerability and empathy. She says: “Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect and do everything perfectly I can avoid or minimise the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” She considers shame to be the most powerful master emotion. “It is the fear that we are not good enough.”

People always talk about fear of failure, but in reality, the underlying fear is of shame. So, it is a logical belief that if we can change the association of mistakes = shame, we can disrupt this mindset. Mistakes must mean something positive. This can’t be a tokenistic pat on the back and “We all learn from our mistakes”. It has

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fear of shame and judgment

to be an authentic change in culture where mistakes are just normal.

Completely and utterly normal.

comparison It is human instinct to compare ourselves to others. We are biologically programmed to place ourselves in a hierarchical structure that determines status and possible mates. We compare our belongings with others’, we compare our partners to others’, we even compare our meals when we order at a restaurant!

For most people, these comparisons play a minor role in the way we go about our daily life. However, if a child has low self-worth they will always judge themselves as second best in the comparison “game”.

These negative comparisons reaffirm their low sense of worth and so they spiral further downward. The easiest way to avoid these comparisons is to present nothing for comparison. So they don’t. They are paralysed by their fear of comparison, so they avoid completing tasks.

Another technique people use to avoid comparison is to create disclaimers for themselves. If a child can say, “I did it all at the last minute, so I probably won’t get a very good result”, then there is less shame involved in a poor outcome. In fact, there is also a slight kick in social comparison because not caring about the system gives you a bit of “rebel without a cause” swagger.

anxiety If a child struggles with anxiety they already feel judged, inadequate and fearful. That’s how anxiety works. It’s little wonder that they find it hard to start a project if they’re already convinced that the outcome will lead to negative emotions. The problem is that not starting confirms their feelings of inadequacy. Not starting is failure too.

Anxiety doesn’t give any positive solutions and it has a contagion effect. Often perfection paralysis will begin with one subject or type of task and then it will start to generalise across lots of different circumstances and types of activities. Plenty of kids excel in a couple of subject areas, but are paralysed in others. As content gets more

challenging in the subjects where they feel comfortable, they will experience mistakes, and anxiety will infect that subject too. This sort of fear and anxiety limits kids. It stops them from trying anything new. That makes for a small world with little joy and wonder.

what can we do to help kids with perfection paralysis?

Tracy Webster is the wellbeing co-ordinator at Santa Maria College. She suggests these practical strategies for helping kids with perfection paralysis: • Model making mistakes. Admit you aren’t perfect. Be calm in the face of your own mistakes. Make it normal.

• Make things challenging. Make it an expectation that they will fail at first. Some things that are worth learning are hard won.

• Provide a safe environment. Kids need to feel as though getting things wrong is a valuable part of learning.

• Praise process over product. The glitter border doesn’t matter if you haven’t put enough time into the actual process of the task.

• Praise effort over grades … but make sure there has been effort. Lots of people say, “You tried your hardest”, when the child really hasn’t.

• Teach kids about their brains. Show them that neutral pathways are created by practising skills and thinking.

• Teach them to plan. Big tasks can be overwhelming. Teach kids to approach tasks in more manageable sections.

• Show kids different approaches. There are often lots of different answers to a question, not just one. There are also lots of different ways to get an answer.

• Teach kids to accept their mistakes. Learning is a messy process. You don’t need to start again.

• Let kids be brave. Give kids lots of opportunities in their lives to be brave, physically, emotionally and intellectually.

Just get kids to start. It doesn’t matter where. Start in the middle, write the last sentence, write the first heading. It doesn’t matter. Just start.

Churchill said: “Perfection is the enemy of progress.” And he was right.

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A dad and his 10-year-old daughter have differing thoughts on sleepovers.

Patrick and JL Hempfing

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essie is a blessed girl. In her young life, she’s already had many wonderful experiences. She’s been to the beach, the zoo, and even to Disney World. She takes dance classes and plays a musical instrument.

She has many friends and spends quality time with her grandparents and her uncle, aunt, and favourite four-year-old cousin. She even gets to use more than her fair share of hot water to take the long showers she finds so relaxing and conducive for singing. Jessie is a lucky girl indeed.

However, Jessie makes one request that her mom Mattie and I have repeatedly denied. Jessie would like to go to sleepovers at friends’ houses.

My guess is that many parents, and all of Jessie’s friends, will side with her tween perspective. Would it hurt for Jessie to have a sleepover with friends? With a 99% degree of certainty, I’d predict she would have a wonderful time, maybe not get enough sleep, but have a positive experience. However, as a cautious father, there’s that 1% chance of trouble. Therefore, Jessie sleeps at home in her own cozy bed, with her 10kg guard dog. As a result, I sleep well, too.

I remember a discussion between Mattie and her mother that occurred the year after we got married. Mattie noticed that her dad took long naps each time we visited. Mattie’s dad has always worked hard and deserves a nap any chance he gets. However, it hurt Mattie’s feelings that her dad repeatedly slept when she had driven 45 minutes to see him. So, during one visit, while Mattie’s dad dozed, she spoke with her mom.

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“Mom, it seems like every time I come over, Dad goes to sleep.”

Mattie’s mom responded: “He hasn’t slept well since you left home. When you are here, he knows his girl is home safe and sound, so he can rest.”

Until recently, I hadn’t given their conversation much thought. Now, that I’m a father, though, it makes sense.

Will Mattie and I ever change our minds on sleepovers? Possibly.

And it’s not like Jessie hasn’t experienced sleeping away from home. On occasion, she spends the night with her grandparents. A few times, she’s even stayed overnight with her cousin. It’s the sleepover “with friends” that she’s missed out on.

Obviously, Mattie and I can’t shield Jessie from all of life’s dangers.

Trouble lurks in places we don’t always suspect. Jessie is independent, which is a good thing, and Mattie and I want her to enjoy life, not shy away from it. Like all responsible parents, we want to put our children in

places and situations where they’ll have a chance to grow, but not be in harm’s way. The right thing to do isn’t always clear, and many parenting decisions aren’t easy.

But whether Jessie is resting in her bed at home or in a sleeping bag at a friend’s house, one thing is certain ’tween daughter and dad, I love my girl and my girl loves me. And should Jessie ever sleep over at a friend’s house, I’ll likely take a long nap when she returns home the next day.

Patrick Hempfing had a 20-year professional career in banking, accounting and auditing before he became a father at age 44. He is now a full-time husband, stay-at-home dad and writer. JL Hempfing, now 14, began writing with her dad in kindergarten. Her current hobbies include reading, writing, playing clarinet and alto saxophone, and dancing.

Let’s hear her perspective.

“I’m old enough to have sleepovers with my friends. I think that my parents should try to let me go to one and see how it works.

Most of my friends have been having them since preschool. Just because things were different when my parents were young doesn’t mean that I should have the same. I’ll keep trying and maybe they’ll change their minds.”

– Jessie, Age 10

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everything’s eiré about ireland’s family adventures Ireland is an excellent option for families. There is a great deal to keep all ages entertained and it’s exceptionally easy to see a lot in a short time.

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eep a keen ear out for the sound of tapping when you head to the home of the last remaining leprechauns in Northern Ireland. Legend has it these little mischief-makers were in fact the shoemakers for fairies and, if you listen hard enough, you can still hear them tapping away at shoes with their tiny hammers. If leprechauns aren’t lure enough, we have five more experiences to inspire you:

You may be lucky enough to meet McCoillte, the Leprechaun Whisperer, during your visit to the Leprechaun and Fairy Cavern in Carlingford.

After meeting Carraig, one of the last remaining leprechauns on earth, McCoillte was inspired to protect these magical creatures and even managed to get them protected by the EU. You’ll descend below ground and see the spot where leprechauns and fairies converge in the morning as the sun rises. You’ll also hear how Ireland is working to protect the world’s last leprechauns.

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Visit Winterfell Castle

Present-day Castle Ward in Strangford, County Down, just 40 minutes’ drive from Belfast in Northern Ireland, hurtles you back to a time of feasting, fighting and family feuds. This is Winterfell, where you will find the Whispering Wood, where Robb Stark sets up camp and where Brienne confronts the Stark men. Dress up in the same outfits Jon Snow, and Robb and Bran Stark wore and practise your archery prowess at a replica of the Winterfell Archery Range, recreated in the courtyard in the very same spot that the filming took place.

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Giant’s Causeway

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volcanic activity which left its mark on the Northern Irish coast.

Admire the 40 000 interlocking basalt columns that fade into the sea from the safe vantage point of a clifftop walk, which was partly funded by the TTC’s Treadright Foundation, allowing everyone to explore more of this mythical spot.

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Titanic Belfast Visitor Centre

Located beside the historic shipyard where she was originally built, Titanic Belfast provides a fresh and insightful account of the famous RMS Titanic, from her conception in the early 1900s to her notorious maiden voyage, tragic end and her rediscovery under water.

What’s great about Titanic Belfast for kids is that the visitor experience uses special effects, rides and interactive exhibits to share the Titanic’s history so it’s relevant and interesting for all ages.

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Flying Boat Museum

Visit Foyne’s Flying Boat Museum, the only dedicated flying boat museum in the world and the former refuelling point for Pan Am’s famous Yankee Clipper from 1939 to 1945, to gain insights into the rich history of aviation. You’ll feel like a passenger and learn how this was where Irish Coffee was first served to treat weary passengers whose New York flights were cut short due to bad weather.

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education

learning styles Make learning more enjoyable by understanding the way in which your child processes information.

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osh, aged seven, does his homework with a whiteboard marker on the sliding door in the lounge. Sometimes he practises his writing in chalk on the street outside his house and he loves to recite his spelling words while doing star jumps. He is also thriving at school.

But a few months ago, Josh’s teachers complained that he was unable to listen in class, follow instructions or complete tasks. His mother, Cindy Perry of Cape Town, says: “He wasn’t concentrating or finishing his work. He was talking too much and at other times, it was like he wasn’t there when the teacher was speaking.”

Josh was often separated from the class, spending time at his desk while they were on the mat, for example. Concerned, Perry initially had her son’s eyes and ears tested to see if there was a physiological explanation for his behaviour. She then called a GP who recommended, without even seeing Josh, that he be put on Ritalin for ADHD. Perry was not keen to give her son medication, and not without a thorough examination, so she took him to Lindy Hearne, a speech therapist, for her advice.

“Lindy made Josh read to her and gave him questions to answer. She also asked him to describe how he played at school.” Josh gushed animatedly about the wonderful games he played on the playground, and Hearne realised that with his vivid imagination, he required some form of activity to be stimulated, explains Perry. Hearne suggested that Perry find ways to do homework that would fit in with Josh’s particular style of behaviour.

So, instead of forcing Josh to sit still at a desk, while he writes within the margins of a notebook, Perry allows him to practise his letters on the sliding door. Sometimes, the tarred road is his workbook. “The freedom of that really appealed to him.” Spelling has been made more interesting by allowing him 20

to chant while he does star jumps. “He loves it, and wants to do more.” She says there has been a definite improvement in Josh’s work and his confidence, since they modified his learning methods. Perry has also given Josh plenty of positive encouragement, and adapted his diet to include more omega-3 fatty acids.

Hearne explains that she observed a mismatch between Josh’s learning style, which was movement-based or kinaesthetic, and the way in which he was being taught at school.

This is why she suggested different ways of learning that would allow Josh to process information in a way that was comfortable for him.

what are learning styles?

Melanie Hartgill, an educational psychologist from Johannesburg, says there are several different theories about how many learning styles exist. But there are three main learning pathways: visual (seeing), auditory (hearing) and doing (kinaesthetic). “Three of our five senses are used primarily when learning, storing, recalling and retrieving information. Just as we are predominantly left- or right-brained, we tend

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to use one modality more than the others.”

Visual learners learn best by seeing what is written on the board. They will enjoy writing and drawing and will grow impatient listening to long lectures. Auditory learners have excellent listening skills and will often prefer to recite information, rather than write it down.

Kinaesthetic or tactile learners prefer to be mobile and will often excel at hands-on activities such as experiments.

Glenda Karow, a Durban-based educational psychologist who specialises in learning problems, agrees. “Be careful not to “pathologise” the learning style. It is a preference and not a problem.” She says children should be encouraged to develop various learning styles, which they can adapt depending on the subject being studied. “Students who are able to learn through a variety of ways are more effective learners. Remember, they will have to cope in a variable learning-style world.”

when can you tell?

Your child’s learning preference will manifest from an early age, as soon as he starts interacting with his environment and speaking.

“Our learning style is believed to be relatively established by the age of seven years and though we are able to strengthen our styles after this age, we tend to have one dominant style,” Hartgill adds.

But, having said that, how a child learns may often depend on what is being learnt. Science and maths, for example, will require a more kinaesthetic approach than history.

at school The experts agree that teaching has evolved to accommodate various learning preferences.

There are not that many teachers who don’t cover all three (learning styles), but the teaching style will depend on the teacher – their age and preferred teaching method.

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Hartgill says teachers should combine different teaching methods to meet the respective needs of their class. “This would mean verbally teaching a concept while making use of visual input, such as notes, handouts, information on the board and overhead and then allowing the children to work through examples or elements of the task themselves.”

Often it is the parents who are stuck on the conventional modes of learning, observes Karow, but by trying something different, such as doing star jumps in the garden instead of sitting at a desk, parents could encourage their child to discover a more comfortable, and rewarding, way of learning.

how to identify your child’s learning style or preference Hartgill identifies the characteristics of the three main learning styles. Note that your child may show a stronger leaning to one of these styles, but is probably a combination of all three. the visual learner: • learns with images • reads charts, diagrams and maps more easily • can sit and play with building blocks • may be described as a daydreamer • is good at remembering faces, but may forget names • prefers to take detailed notes

the kinaesthetic learner: • needs to move • cannot sit still for long periods • uses body language and gestures to communicate • needs to be shown things, and not just explained to • loves to touch things • may be incorrectly labelled as ADHD • usually excels in sports • is often evident in boys the auditory learner: • thinks in words • enjoys storytelling • is unlikely to battle with spelling • loves reading • has an excellent memory for names, dates and trivia • enjoys word games • is often musically talented • doesn’t enjoy writing

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example) as a visual demonstration of the work taping the teaching session so that you can play it back later

learning guidelines Encourage the visual learner to: • use memory games, books with pictures and diagrams • use coloured paper and pens • highlight sections that are important • work on the computer • sit in the front of the class • learn through seeing or reading handouts

tips for parents and teachers

Encourage the kinaesthetic learner to: • listen to music as they work, if they ask for this • take frequent breaks to move around • tackle hands-on projects • move around while they are working • do art projects • act out stories

Karow recommends that you encourage your child to use as many senses as possible when learning. This could involve: • getting your child to pretend to teach, reciting out loud, at her desk or on her feet • using paper, posters or a white board for homework or study • drawing or writing (a mind map for

Encourage the auditory learner to: • read aloud when writing tests and exams or studying • create word problems • dictate their work onto a computer • present their assignments verbally • encourage debates and discussions • use mnemonics to help their memory.

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20 reasons your preschooler should do gymnastics that have nothing to do with learning gymnastics.

Anne josephson

2. Following directions. Gymnastics teaches kids to follow multi-stepped directions. Going around the obstacle course and remembering what to do at each station is far more than gymnastics training.

3. Following safety rules. Listening to the rules of how we keep ourselves safe in the gym helps children learn how to follow rules at home and school. It places an importance on the concept of personal safety that is relevant for life.

4. Patience. No one likes waiting, especially three, four and five year olds! Practising standing in line for short periods of time and containing your excitement as you wait for your turn on the trampoline are just a couple of ways gymnastics teaches patience.

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5. Working co-operatively. From partner drills to moving a mat together, gymnastics teaches kids to work together for a common purpose.

hat if Johnny never learns a cartwheel? Or how about if Janie never masters holding a handstand? Would there still be any value in putting your preschooler in a gymnastics class?

Yes, I say. Absolutely, yes. In addition to it being a lot of fun, here are 20 reasons your preschool aged child should do gymnastics that have nothing to do with learning gymnastics.

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to your favourite friend in line. Gymnastics teaches these lessons and helps children learn appropriate ways to resolve their conflicts.

8. Interacting appropriately with adults and peers. Learning to have good manners and speak in a way that is respectful is an important skill for preschoolers to learn.

Gymnastics class helps a child learn to treat the teacher with respect and how to navigate social dynamics with their preschool peers.

9. Persistence. Gymnasts must try and try again to achieve even the simplest of skills.

Gymnastics teaches kids to stay with an activity until it’s completed.

10. Discipline. Combining listening, respect for rules and patience leads to discipline.

When a child has the basics of discipline, self-discipline, the ability to self-regulate behaviour, is the next step.

11. Co-ordination. Gymnastics is the basis of all sports. The building blocks for athletic pursuits down the line are laid in gymnastics.

12. Asking for help. Young gymnasts learn how to ask for help from their coach and peers.

6. Responsibility in cleaning up. Learning to put your carpet spot or cartwheel mat back into a pile is an important skill and one that many parents will be grateful to have their preschooler master next time there is Lego all over the house!

13. Coping with jealousy. Inevitably another child will learn a skill more quickly, run a race faster or be chosen to lead the line for the day, and your preschooler will not like it. Gymnastics class gives your child an opportunity to cope with those yucky feelings and express them appropriately.

7. Conflict resolution. It’s not easy when you don’t get to be first. Or you don’t get the pink poly spot. Or you are unable to stand next

14. Character. Gymnastics stresses the importance of doing the right thing, even when the teacher isn’t looking. Preschool

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1. Separation. Learning to leave your parent or caregiver in the lobby while you go into class is the beginning of learning how to separate before a child goes to school. The ability to adjust to new situations is an important part of a preschoolers’ education.

gymnasts begin developing this important skill in class.

15. Resilience. A four year old child falling down and getting back up while trying to master a cartwheel is learning resilience, the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties.

16. Grit. When you learn to keep trying in order to achieve a goal, it is called grit.

Educators around the nation understand the relationship between achievement and grit. Watching that same resilient four-yearold child persist at learning a cartwheel is laying the groundwork for a child who possesses grit.

17. The value of effort. Gymnastics is not an easy sport. However, if children continue to try hard they will see progress. They will understand the relationship between effort and success.

18. Ambition. Setting lofty goals and believing that you have the capacity to reach them is the core of what it means to be ambitious. Watching older kids fly around the gym and thinking that someday, if you work hard, you can do that too, is the beginning of ambition.

able to do class on your own, following the rules and directions, getting along with your peers, understanding that you are an able learner and that failing is ok because you are ambitious, and have courage and grit, is it any surprise that you are self-confident?

19. Courage. Gymnastics can be a scary sport. It is when we face something that pushes us out of our comfort zone that we have the opportunity to develop courage.

Courage is not only being brave when we fear something, it is also a trait we can call upon when we have to do something that we do not wish to do, like chores or homework, all things that preschoolers will be learning to cope with in the not-too-distant future.

So, while I hope all of the Johnnys and Janies enrolled in a preschool gymnastics programme learn great basic skills and have a lot of fun doing so, possibly falling in love with gymnastics and going on to stick with the sport through their childhoods. In the last analysis, these 20 traits will serve them well no matter where their athletic career goes.

Put down the iPad and take your child to the gym!

20. Self-confidence. Is it any wonder that a child who develops all of these traits also develops self-confidence? Self-confidence is, simply put, your belief in yourself. If you are

Anne Josephson is president and CEO of JAG Gym in Los Angeles. She is the parent of four daughters aged 16 to 20. (courtesy of www.gymwizards.co.za)

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age-appropriate birthday party themes Here is a list of easy-to-organise, fabulously fun activities for children of all ages.

Elaine Eksteen

age 2–3 years bike, trike and scooter rally

age 4–6 years what’s potting ready You’ll need a couple of punnets of seedlings (try herbs like basil or flowers such as pansies or marigolds), potting soil, small terracotta pots, a watering can or two and, spoons that can be used as little spades. Then something for decorating the pots – for younger children: ear buds, acrylic paint and strips of ribbon; for older children: sequins, mosaic tiles, craft glue, beads and raffia. Ask children to bring an apron, otherwise you will need to provide something to protect their clothing. get set Arrange the equipment outside, or in your family room with lots of newspaper on the table and floor – somewhere you don’t mind mess. go Children can decorate their pots. Little ones can use an ear bud to create a polka-dot design on the body of the pot and then, with help, tie a piece of ribbon of their choice round the neck.

Older children can stick mosaic tiles round the rim, or decorate with sequins, or thread beads onto raffia and wind round the pot. When they are done they can select a seedling and plant it, which they then get to take home with them.

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age 3–8 years create a cupcake

age 5–8 years racing car relay ready You’ll need some large cardboard boxes (ask your local supermarket if they have any packaging you could recycle); paint; brushes’; scissors; glue, colourful paper; plastic packaging for decorating; red-and-white danger tape; tent pegs; and a few cycling helmets. Ask children to bring an apron or old shirt to work in, otherwise you’ll need to provide something to protect their clothing. get set Use danger tape secured in place with tent pegs and make lanes (to match the number of teams) in your garden or the neighbourhood park. go Divide the children into teams and get them to build and decorate their “racing cars”. It’s probably a good idea to serve the food once the cars are built (this’ll allow time for the glue to dry – and you can add the odd staple to secure things before the race). This is also a good time to take a photo of each car – they probably won’t look quite their best after the relay! Then arrange half the team at the one end of a lane, the rest at the other. In turn, each team member must first put on and fasten the helmet, jump into the car and carry it along with them down the lane. When they reach the end, the driver hops out, hands over the

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ready You’ll need sufficient un-iced cupcakes (if you’d prefer to avoid the hassle of baking your own, store-bought chocolate or blueberry muffins will work just as well); ingredients for making a few colours of icing; and sprinkles, chocolate buttons and other bits for decorating the cupcakes. get set Prepare the icing and set up a table with all the goodies for decorating, plus some palette knives or sucker sticks for applying the icing. go The children can decorate their own cupcakes. You could get them to vote for their favourites or just take a photo of each (to send with the thank-you note) and allow them to munch on their creations.

age 7–10 years photo trail ready This is the techno take on the nature/ treasure hunt. Instead of bringing back the item, teams must return with a photo of each object or activity on the list. You’ll need a few fairly indestructible point-and-shoot digital cameras. (Perhaps some of the children are able to bring their own. Chat to parents when you hand out the invitations). get set Visit the venue to familiarise yourself with what’s there. Make a list of the things the guests will need to capture on their cameras and print out a copy for each team. If you are having the party at your local botanical garden, for instance, include a particular tree, a sculpture, a bird that’s a common resident, and so on. At your own home you might include a close-up shot of an ant, something purple, five round items of different colours

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ready Children will need to bring along their pushbikes, trikes or scooters, so remember to send out a request with the invitations. Borrow a couple of bikes and have these as backup for those who forget theirs. You’ll need to chalk up a course on your driveway with a few obstacles and road signs. get set Map out a track and include a stop street or two and a traffic light (enlist a parent’s help – green plate for go, red for stop). go Children can scoot around the course at leisure, or parents can help them along. A talking stop sign (Grandpa might like this job), chatty traffic lights (perhaps Dad has the sense of humour for this one?) and a human tunnel will add to the fun.

helmet and the next driver continues. Award prizes for best-looking car, most sturdy vehicle and winning team.

or a funny face. You can also get the children to snap themselves making a human pyramid, for example. For safety sake, if you are in a public place, you’ll need an adult to dash round with each team. At your home you might want to stipulate no-go areas. You probably don’t want your wardrobe unpacked in search of that feather boa your son saw you wear to a fancy dress last year … go Divide the children into groups and send them off to find the things on the list and photograph them. Give prizes for the best photo, first to complete the assignment or funniest picture. If you’re at home you could show the children each other’s images by loading them all onto a memory stick and playing it through your music system on the TV.

a dispenser; as many sheets of wrapping paper as there are guests; and a small gift wrapped in tissue paper. get set Set out the party food on the tablecloth under the table. Have a music system with an appropriate CD at the ready. go Greet children with “goodbye”; start by eating the food under the table; sing happy birthday backwards – you can stick the words underneath the tabletop: “You to birthday happy, you to birthday happy”; and so on. Play the birthday child’s favourite party games backwards and reward the “losers” as the winners. Hop sack-race relays in reverse. Play musical statues, but the children need to dance when the music is off and freeze when the music is on. Send them all home with a cheerful “hello”.

age 8–10 years backwards bonanza

age 8–13 years music mania

ready You’ll need a few old rice bags for sack races (try your hardware store); sticky tape in

ready You’ll need a music system that can take a microphone, and a CD of the birthday

child’s favourite songs (or consider hiring a karaoke machine). Come up with a list of song titles and write these on little slips of paper.

You could also find someone to teach the partygoers some cool new hip-hop moves, for instance. get set Make sure the music system is working and set it up in the room where you are having the party. go Let the guests take turns singing along through the mic, the less outgoing can sing in pairs. Run a game of charades with the song titles you have prepared and get them to try out a few dance moves with the help of your guest hip-hop “star” or a current music video.

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one stop birthday basics guide accessories

indoor & outdoor venues

Celebrate Party & Events Store – Durban North 064 836 6984/ celebratepartystore.co.za The Crazy Store – All areas 0861 111 281 / info@crazystore.co.za Money Box Party Packs – All areas 083 659 4055 / jorsam.co.za Parties4Africa – Online 072 083 4844 / parties4africa.co.za

Burnedale Farm – Dolphin Coast 032 947 0133 / burnedale.co.za Lucky Bean Children’s Play Area – Assagay 082 216 3892 / luckybean.co.za uShaka Marine World – The Point 031 328 8000 / ushakamarineworld.co.za Spur Steak Ranch – All areas 0860 007 787 / spur.co.za

catering

Action Sports South Africa – Durban North actionsports.co.za /info@actionsports.co.za Build-A-Bear @ Toy Kingdom – Gateway 031 566 3949 / buildabear.co.za Durban Ice Arena – North Beach 031 332 4597 / durbanicearena.co.za Jump4Joy Trampoline Park – Durban North 031 563 0106 / info@j4j.co.za Mangwanani Africa Kids Spa – uShaka Marine World, Durban 0860 550 055 / mangwanani.co.za Motion Inc. Sports – Westville 031 829 9687 / @MotionIncSports (FB) / motionincsports.com Pallet Jacks – Hillcrest 031 765 2954 / palletjacks.rocks The Fun Company Pavilion – Westville 031 265 0092 / thefuncompany.co.za The Ice Rink – Galleria 031 904 1156 / theicerink.co.za

Chateau Gateaux – chateaugateaux.co.za Pavilion 031 265 0102 Morningside 031 309 1661 Gateway 031 566 5622 Durban North 031 563 6061 Custom Cakes by Joanne – Glenmore 084 518 1402 / customcakesbyjoanne.com Durban Cake Company – Westville North 072 452 4527 / durbancakecompany.co.za

entertainers Busyballers – All areas 083 236 0059 / busyballers.co.za Fun Science Secret Lab – All areas 076 201 6958 / secretlabinafrica@gmail.com Reptile Party Time – All areas 074 885 7651 / reptilepartytime.co.za Cherry Co – All areas 031 201 2515 / cherryco.co.za

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Wet Rock Adventures Indoor Waterpark – Waterfall 087 288 4256 / wetrockadventures.co.za

outdoor parties Animal Anti-Cruelty League Party Venue – Upper Highway 031 736 9093 / aacl.co.za Animal Farmyard - Assagay 031 765 2240 / animalfarmyard.co.za Boot Camp – Giba Valley 082 782 6432 / bootcamp.co.za Chimp and Zee (uShaka Marine World) – The Point 031 332 1167 / chimpandzee.co.za Crocodile Creek – Tongaat 032 940 4444 / crocodilecreek.co.za Flag Animal Farm – Sheffield Beach 032 947 2018 / flaganimalfarm.co.za Go Bananaz Adventure Park – Amanzimtoti 084 565 2116 / gobananaz.co.za Playworks Teambuilding and Training – All areas 031 466 4488 / playworks.co.za Sugar Rush Park – Dolphin Coast 060 997 9996 / sugarrush.co.za WavePark Gateway – Umhlanga 031 584 9400 / wavepark.co.za Winsome View Animal Farm & Country Bistro – Hillcrest 031 769 1500 / winsomeview.co.za

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what’s on in march/april/may For more events go to childmag.co.za/whats-on or submit an event for our June/July/August issue before 3 May to durban@childmag.co.za

holiday fun

9 March Russian Ballet Tour The Royal Moscow Ballet will tour South Africa to present three pieces: Tchaikovsky’s Romeo and Juliet Overture: Fantasy; the third movement of Tchaikovsky’s Symphony No.6 (Pathétique); and excerpts from Carl Orff ’s scenic cantanta, Carmina Burana.

Time: 2pm and 6pm Venue: Playhouse Opera

16– 24 March Peppa Pig Singalong Surprise Time: First show at 11am, followed by a one hour meet and greet; second show 2pm, meet and greet till 3:30pm.

Venue: Expo Explore Court, Gateway Mall Cost: Free Contact: gatewayworld.co.za

18–30 March Alakazam Magic Show Magician extraordinaire Brendan Peel presents a visual, engaging and educational show that is suitable for children 4+. There will be a colouring-in competition after the show.

Time: 11am Monday to Saturday Venue: Rhumbelow Theatre, Umbilo Cost: R75 Contact: roland@stansell.co.za

20–31 March The BFG KickstArt performs Roald Dahl’s delightful classic children’s story The BFG on stage, directed by Greg King. Be enthralled by the adventures of the big, friendly giant and the little ophan, Sophie, whom he befriends.

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and picnic and braai sites are available.

Time: 9am–4:30pm (Monday to Sunday) Venue: 3 Lello Road, Assagay 1000 Hills, Botha’s Hill Cost: R30 Contact: Jenny 082 979 6030

Hop aboard the Ocean Express uShaka Marine World’s newest attraction, a mini train that comes with all the romance and enchantment of a bright and fun miniature railroad. This state-of-the-art electrical train leaves from outside Nando’s and does the circuit of Village Walk.

Cost: R20 for a 10-minute ride with music Venue: uShaka Marine World Contact: 031 328 8000 during office hours

20, 21 April Cooking Kids Holiday Courses Let your children spend the morning enjoying some fun time in the kitchen.

Time: 9am–10.30am Venue: Meryl’s School of Cooking, 1 Wingfield Road, Kloof Cost: R550 Contact: Meryl 083 794 6577 or meryl@merylschoolofcooking.co.za, merylschoolofcooking.co.za

The Animal Farm Yard A delightful outing for the whole family.

Children can feed and pet the animals, ride a pony, take a tractor ride, play on the jungle gym and even zip-line. The tea garden offers light lunches, breakfast, cakes and beverages

23 March Musical Theatre

20, 21 April Africa’s largest Easter Egg Hunt

Durban Actors Studio in partnership with Luminous present a one-day-only Musical Theatre Crash Course for young performers under the guidance of songstress extraordinaire, Samantha Landers. For ages 9–15 years.

Time: 1pm–5pm Venue: 114 Intersite Avenue, Umgeni Business Park, Durban Cost: R650 per student Contact: 031 332 0173, info@ durbanactorsstudio.co.za, durbanactorsstudio. co.za/musical-theatre-crash-course/

Join in for a day filled with fun activities.

A ticket not only allows your child to participate in the Easter egg hunt, but also includes entrance into Wet n Wild and Sea World. With an Easter Egg Hunt Map in hand, kids can explore nooks and crannies throughout uShaka Marine World before settling down with their loot for a day of fun at Wet ‘n Wild, Sea World and uShaka Kids World. Limited tickets will be available from Computicket or uShaka online ticketing, so don’t delay!

Book: online.computicket.com

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20 April Monster Jam

only with an event ticket priced at R150, R250, R350, R450 and R600 Book: online.computicket.com

One of the biggest action-packed live events on four wheels is coming to South Africa for the first time! Featuring four-metre-tall, five-ton custom-made monster trucks racing and ripping up a track full of obstacles.

Monster Jam kicks off with the world-famous Pit Party.

Time: The Pit Party is from 1pm to 3:30pm.

Show starts 6pm Venue: Moses Mabhida Stadium Cost: Pit Party tickets cost R150. Available

open days

Curro Castle Eco Kidz Every day is open day at this happy, friendly place in Simbithi Eco Estate.

It caters for children from 18 months to 6 years/grade R. The environment stimulates discovery and eager learning.

Time: 9am every weekday Venue: 3 Sneezewood Crescent, Simbithi Contact: Berneen Hall info@ecokidzsimbithi.com

Curro Castle and Curro HCA Pre-primary and Primary Explore this child-friendly environment where dedicated educators interact with learners in a sincere and empathetic way.

Date: 3 March Time: 9am–11am Venue: 2 Blessing Ninela Road, Hillcrest Telephone: 031 765 6813 (Castle), 031 765 2752 (primary school)

Curro Heritage House Prospective parents are invited to join the open evening. Places are offered for children aged 3 months to grade 12 Date: 6 March Time: 5pm–7pm Venue: 160 Lilian Ngoyi Road, Morningside Contact: Tracy Bolton 082 564 6193

Highbury Preparatory School Learn more about how the school’s boycentric teaching and learning can benefit your son. Meet the headmaster, watch the boys

7 May The Browns’ School Golf Day This annual fundraising event is open to private and company bookings of fourballs.

Time: Tee off from 11am–1pm Venue: Kloof Country Club, Kloof Cost: R2 650 per fourball Contact: Jane Noble 031 700 6065, idc@ brownsschool.co.za

perform and tour the beautiful estate.

Date: 8 March Time: 8:30am Venue: Highbury Prep, Hillcrest Contact: 031 765 9800, RSVP online at www. hps.co.za or email marketing@hps.co.za

St Henry’s Marist College The preparatory school (grades 000–7)is hosting an open day. Bring your sons and daughters to meet the principal and then be taken on an interactive tour around the campus, led by the grade 7 ambassadors.

Light refreshments and snacks provided.

Date: 2 March Time: 9am Venue: 210 Mazisi Kunene (South Ridge) Road, Glenwood, Durban Contact: 031 261 7369, 031 261 2125, admissions@sthenrys.co.za or sthenrys.co.za

St Mary’s DSG Kloof St Mary’s is an Independent Christian Girls’ school offering tuition from grade R to 12. Boarding facilities are available from grade 8 onwards. We don’t just instil the values that create young women of character, we inspire young minds to think, cultivating the curiosity to explore their world.

Primary School (grades R–7) Open Day Date: 1 March Time: 9am High School Open Day Date: 2 March

Time: 9am Venue: 30 St Marys Rd, Kloof Contact: Lisa Abbott openday@ stmarysdsg.co.za to RSVP

Kainon School Open Week Join the school as they show all they have to offer your child on their education journey.

Date: 4–8 March Time: 8–11am Tours will take place on the hour Venue: 36 Perth Road, Westville Contact: 031 262 5296, admissions@ kainon.co.za, kainonschool.co.za

Trinityhouse Palm Lakes The open day will showcase the school’s unique educational offering for children from grade 000 to grade 7.

Date: 6 March Time: 8am–3pm Venue: Trinityhouse Palm Lakes, Trinity Palm Lakes Family Estate Contact: 032 947 2030

Weavers’ Nest Open Day A co-educational pre-primary school for grades 0000–00 (ages 2–5).

Date: 7 March Time: 8:30am for a tour of Weavers’ Nest and presentation about how the children learn through play.

Venue: Weavers’ Nest, Highbury Preprimary, Hillcrest Contact: 031 765 9800, RSVP online at hps. co.za or email marketing@hps.co.za

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finding fun Most moms keep a scrapbook to record their children’s “first”, but this mom got to have her own “first”. Sometimes the best things in life really are free. anél lewis

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e recently spent some time at the coast and I was struck once again by how reliant our children have become on external – often digital – stimulation to keep them entertained. For the initial day or so, I found myself constantly explaining to Conor that yes, there was no Wi-Fi, and no, there would be no screen time. The first trip to the beach drew mixed reviews from my city slicker children. “There’s so much sand,” wailed Erin.

“Erm … well yes, that’s what distinguishes the beach from a park,” I mumbled to myself as we walked the 300 metres to the sea. “My feet are too sore to carry my bodyboard,” moaned Conor.

I gritted my teeth and told myself that the pure,

unadulterated joy of being in the surf would put an end to their moaning. It did – but it also silenced my own inner voice that had been shouting out negative thoughts throughout the year.

As I found myself whooshing (okay, bobbing may be more apt) towards the beach on a wave, I could feel the stress and tension of the past year ebb away. It was my first time on a bodyboard, and I loved every exhilarating second. Aside from the rush of being able to make it to the shore in one piece, there was something magical about being able to share it with Conor and Erin as they flew past me on their boards. Erin’s laugh could be heard above the crash of the waves,

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and I watched as Conor’s confidence grew with each successful surf. There was no talk of iPads or Minecraft. It was just us and the sea. The rest of the holiday included similar simple pursuits.

Conor got stuck into some house painting (with actual paint and not little blocks in an online game) and Erin and her friend rode their bikes to a nearby grass patch for an impromptu picnic of grapes and warm Oros. No bells and whistles, no fancy apps and shiny toys. And the verdict on the drive home after this blissful break? “Can we come back here for our next holiday?”

Anél Lewis is taking surfing lessons on the sly, so that she can keep up with the rest of the family when they visit the coast again.

recipes

special occasion treat A cake to grace any party table ... Baking Secrets: Recipes for Every Occasion, is filled with a selection of quality recipes.

raspberry-and-lemon sponge cake basic sponge cake This is my go-to recipe: a soft sponge with a fine crumb and beautiful texture that can be transformed by adding any number of exciting and different syrup flavours. The base is deliciously sweet and absorbs syrup like a sponge – hence the name! It also keeps very well and can be frozen for later use. The technique takes some practice and precision, but once you have mastered it, this cake will give you great pleasure and you’ll be making it over and over again. ingredients basic sponge cake • 770 g butter • 180 g cake flour • 15 ml cornflour • 200 g sugar • pinch of salt • 6 eggs lemon syrup • 125 ml fresh lemon juice • 100 g sugar raspberry-and-lemon icing • 400 g butter, at room temperature • 600 g icing sugar • Juice of 1 medium lemon • 200 g raspberries equipment • 20 cm round cake pan or 2 x 15 cm cake pans lined with baking paper • Double boiler • Electric mixer • Broad paddle • Sharp knife or palette knife • Small saucepan • Cake cutter

method basic sponge cake Preheat the oven to 180 ˚C. Line the bottom of a cake pan with baking paper – don’t spray the pan or spread with butter.

Melt the butter and set aside to cool.

Sieve the cake flour and cornflour into a mixing bowl and keep at hand.

Prepare a double boiler with 2 cups of water heated over medium heat.

Place the sugar, salt and eggs in the bowl of an electric mixer and beat until well mixed. Place the mixing bowl over the simmering water and beat continuously using a wire whisk. The egg mixture should become warm and the sugar must dissolve. Test regularly to check whether the mixture is warm, and remove from the heat as soon as it is hot.

Place the mixing bowl in the electric mixer and beat with the balloon whisk at a high speed. The mixture should increase to three times its original volume, and be light in colour. Whisk until the mixture has cooled – about 5–7 minutes.

Use a broad paddle to carefully fold in the flour mixture; do this in three separate batches. Stir 2 tablespoons of the egg-and-flour mixture into the melted butter. Add this back to the mixing bowl with the other ingredients and fold through well, careful not to lose too much volume. The mixture should be light, almost foamy, and have a light colour.

Pour the cake batter into the cake pan or pans and bake for 25–30 minutes.

Allow to cool and cut carefully around the edge of the pan with a thin, sharp knife or palette knife. Keep the blade as close to the cake pan as possible.

lemon syrup Cook the ingredients in a small saucepan until the sugar is dissolved and the mixture becomes syrupy. Remove from the heat and allow to cool. raspberry-and-lemon icing Place the butter in the mixing bowl of an electric mixer and beat until soft and smooth. Add the icing sugar and beat at a medium speed until the icing is white and creamy – about 5 minutes.

Add the lemon juice and beat through well. Add the raspberries and mix through at a slow speed. Add a tablespoon of boiling water to make the mixture easily spreadable. assemble the cake Using a cake cutter, divide the cake into 4-6 layers of equal thickness (about 1 cm thick). Place the first layer on the cake plate and drizzle with the lemon juice, but be sure not to moisten the cake too much. Spread an even layer of the icing on top. Place the next layer on top and repeat until all the layers have been used.

Decorate the entire cake with a thin layer of the icing, making sure that the icing is smooth and even around the sides and on top. Decorate the top of the cake with choux puffs dipped in whitechocolate ganache, golden rose leaves and raspberries painted gold. Serve on your prettiest plate or cake stand.

about the book

Baking Secrets: Recipes for Every Ocassion by Martjie Malan (Quivertree Publishers, R376) is a beautifully illustrated book featuring easy-to-follow steps to make your baking experience enjoyable and successful.

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