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summer 2019/2020 - the summer holiday issue
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4 pub’s note The prospect of the festive season and extended family time is so inviting 6 over to you Our readers have their say and share their news and views
26 what’s on this summer Family events, workshops, holiday programmes and open days
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30 finishing touch When it comes to being passionate about sport, there’s a fine line between fan and fanatic
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31 a good read Our selection of reads for the family and books to prepare for the new school year.
12 summer fun Nice-to-have and must-have things for the perfect summer holiday
8 pregnancy Our tried and tested tips on how to cope with some of those niggling pregnancy ailments
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10 baby Ensure baby’s safety, use our guide on how to childproof your home
26 family marketplace Family and community-related resource
14 parenting Mindful parenting, how to be more present
30 let’s party Durban’s best party resource
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16 recipes Try these recipes for a new, colourful take on summer holiday food
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18 education What characteristics define an effective teacher?
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20 back to school All the information you need to help make the back-to-school routine easier and less stressful
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pub’s note The spirit and excitement of Christmas and the imminent summer holiday reawakens a childlike wonderment in me.
Lisa McNamara, Publisher
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Do you feel the same way about the festive season? I have always loved Christmas and the promise of lazy family time that surrounds it. Once again, we have done all the hard work for you and rounded up literally hundreds of things to do as a family these holidays. Turn to page 26 for a round up of What’s On during the summer months. It’s time to let go of the stress and strain, and the mundane, and take in all that the holiday season has to offer. Whether you are keen to get out and catch the annual pantomime or simply laze around at home, we hope you draw your inspiration for some serious family fun from this, our bumper Summer Holiday issue. Why not capture the mood of the season by making refreshing, colourful popsicles, or a summer spread of grilled veggies with delicious dips (page 16); perfect for a quick and easy meal for family and friends? If you are feeling more energetic, pack a picnic and head for the park (or the beach) for a game of Frisbee. For all your Summer Fun essentials (and perhaps the odd stocking filler suggestion) we have a selection of day tripping must- and want-to-haves (page 12). With none of the usual school or work commitments, your options are endless and the joy of giving your time to your children has to be the greatest gift of all.
‘Tis the season for holiday fun ... enjoy! page 12
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plant-based pavlova Loving the latest issue (Spring 2019). One thing though – the Pavlova pudding recipe says: “This recipe will always contain egg and there is no replacement for this ingredient.” I’m happy to inform you that this isn’t true. You can use the brine from cooked chickpeas. I’ve done it myself and it’s amazing. Find out more here: https://www.vegansociety.com/ whats-new/blog/20-amazing-things-you-can-do-aquafaba Lauren Shapiro Child Mag responds: Thanks Lauren, great tip!
shifting perspective I couldn’t agree more with Sameer Rawjee, as quoted in your article, “the future is digital” (Spring, 2019), when he urges us to ditch preparing for specific careers. My daughter studied physics at university and nearly everyone I mentioned this to asked me what she would do for a job when she was finished. It blew my mind that so many people only value specific
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vocational studies. Of course, knowledge of physics is very useful in a number of careers, but more importantly, it seems that people have forgotten about learning for its own sake. Is it purely the downturn in our economy that has everyone so obsessed with finding a job from the time they hit playschool? Notwithstanding some great advice, I found it ironic that the subheading of your article was “to get your children ready for Industry 4.0”. My advice is rather the age-old one of encouraging learning. It’s a shift in perspective that will equip our children with the tools to make the right decisions about anything. Francine Hattingh
the role of sport in schools As an educator, I am often asked what role sport plays in schools, particularly in preparatory schools. Is it all about winning, learning skills, being in a team or doing something physical? Sport creates a wonderful environment in which to raise children. It allows a child to be active and physical and “learn about themselves as people”, including how they feel, how they think, and how they behave and perform in different sporting activities. We should never lose sight of the fact that sport is just “organised play”, and children love to play. The key for educators
and parents is to not allow the fulfillment of our own sporting dreams through our children to become our focus. Don’t ask who won the game, but rather “what did you enjoy about the game? What did you learn? Did you give your best? Did you play as a team?” Many parents believe that a child should “specialise early” in one sport, but this only results in burnout and, instead of what might have been an enjoyable activity for the child, they start hating it. Different sports develop different muscle groups and skills, and we need to encourage our children to play as many sports for as long as possible. For further insight, I recommend reading the following book: Raising Young Athletes – parenting your children to victory in sports and life by Jim Taylor, PhD Warren Bevan
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wave goodbye to How to cope with some of the ailments that you may experience while pregnant.
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s your pregnancy advances, it is quite natural to experience physical and emotional discomforts and find yourself thinking about issues you’ve never thought about before. Regardless of what is on your mind, know that your midwife/ GP/obstetrician and antenatal teacher are all there to help and support you before, during and after your baby is born. Don’t hesitate to talk to them.
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how to cope have a snack such as a dry biscuit (ginger biscuits have proven effective) and a hot drink before getting out of bed; then get up slowly have regular small meals and snacks throughout the day to keep your blood sugar level constant and have a snack before going to bed have regular sips of water to prevent dehydration from vomiting rest as much as possible as being tired can make you feel worse.
mood swings Mood swings often occur during pregnancy. Stress and exhaustion can contribute to fluctuating feelings. Anxiety about childbirth and parenting, as well as hormonal changes can also make you feel very emotional. how to cope set aside time to rest regularly share your feelings with your partner, or confide in a close family member, friend, or counsellor.
fatigue It is normal to feel tired during pregnancy especially during the first trimester – remember that your body is growing a new life. Tiredness could also be due to anaemia. 8
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Is usually experienced in the first trimester of pregnancy due to high levels of pregnancy hormones, but may also occur throughout your pregnancy. Morning sickness can also be caused by pressure from the foetus; reflux and changes in the metabolism, as well as changes in hormones.
pregnancy woes how to cope a well-balanced diet with lots of green and other vegetables, fruit, nuts, and milk is important eat less refined foods (for example, sugars, carbohydrates) regular exercise and regular rest are essential consult with your doctor about safe vitamin and mineral supplements such as iron, magnesium and calcium.
constipation The same hormones responsible for loosening your joints and causing backache can affect your intestinal movements. Because of slower intestinal movements, more nutrients are absorbed, but you can also become constipated. Constipation can also be caused by iron supplements, the higher levels of progesterone during pregnancy, or pressure on your bowels from your growing baby. how to cope your diet should include lots of wholegrain fibres from fruit and vegetables do not eat refined foods, for example, sugars, carbohydrates eat other wholegrain foods such as wholewheat bread, brown rice and cereals drink lots of water do regular exercise speak to your doctor/midwife to change your iron and/or calcium supplements, as well as the antacids you’re taking. consult your midwife/GP before using any laxatives.
leg cramps If you are experiencing leg cramps or spasms – a common problem during second and third trimesters, especially at night – it may be due to slower circulation, a decrease in magnesium and calcium levels, or an increase in phosphorous levels. how to cope stretch the affected muscle and massage/rub it until the muscle begins to relax increase circulation by exercising your legs every night just before getting into bed flex your foot (toes turned up) when you feel a cramp coming on elevate the foot of your bed about 20cm keep bedclothes loose consult your midwife/GP about magnesium and calcium supplements.
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keeping up with your growing baby Our childproofing guide will help to make your and baby’s life easier and safer. Child Magazine
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he arrival of a new baby is a life-changing milestone for all parents, almost every aspect of your life changes. As the little one grows they begin to move about more and your sixth sense for potential danger increases. Simple things like leaving a hot mug on the coffee table become a possible cause for a trip to the emergency room. “From about nine months, a baby’s motor skills are more developed; they also have more control and movement of their bodies. They can balance themselves when in a sitting position and move themselves to crawl without losing balance. They can stretch out to grasp an object within their reach”, explains Parenting expert Sister Yolanda Mpilo. Your baby’s grasp is also steadier and firmer, meaning they can hold on to a toy, or tug at a loose cloth. They are also more attentive to sounds and objects around them. Before you know it, your baby will be moving at more speed and into more spaces. This is the time to make sure you have covered all the basics of childproofing, beyond just the space in the house. Sister Mpilo gives these simple and life-saving guidelines on how to ensure your baby’s environment is childproof.
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Put protectors around corners and sharp edges such as tables, television etc. If your home has stairs, make sure to install a steady child safety gate, preferably at the top and bottom of the stairs. Ensure that movable furniture, such as a television or bookshelf, is firmly fixed to the wall. Garbage bins should be kept in a place where baby is not able to reach, for example, in a cupboard with locks. All doors should always be closed or locked, so that baby cannot push open while crawling. Dishwasher, fridge and cupboards should have childproof locks, with cleaning detergents/alcohol/vegetables and fruits safely locked inside. Turn pot handles toward the back of the stove. Curtains and tablecloths should be placed in such a way that baby will not be able to grab. This includes cords from blinds. Make sure the floor is clear of any loose objects that baby can pick up while crawling, for example, loose coins, buttons. If you have pets, make sure to put their food and water bowls, toys, and litter box out of reach of the baby. The same precautions should be applied to your outdoor area.
Never leave a child alone in a bathtub or in the care of another child. Check water temperature before putting your baby in the bathtub.
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Adult supervision Fencing the pool Covering the pool Alarms (that should be used together with a fence and net)
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Always unplug and put away your electronics, for example, phone charger, hairdryer, especially when within reach of your little one. Put covers on plugs that are located closer to the floor or at eye level of baby when they are crawling. Loose cords for big electronics such as a television or sound system should be fastened in a plastic zip-tie. Even if baby is not at that age where they can operate a cellphone, they may use it as a toy or suck on it. Make sure to always keep it locked, and activate parental control. Also, put it in a phone case and screen protector to protect it from baby’s drool.
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mindful parenting How to be more present in your and your child’s life carmel murugen
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indfulness practice is being increasingly touted by science and psychology for its benefits to your health and mental wellbeing. Mindful parenting refers to being in tune with your inner state, watching yourself when something happens that would normally upset you, and being intentional about modifying your words and behaviour when responding to your child. It’s about cultivating the ability to be fully present in the moment. Sarah Foale, a mindfulness-based coach and facilitator in Cape Town, explains that “mindfulness invites a commitment to various practices that over time enable us to experience our lives in a more engaged, conscious, connected and compassionate manner”. She adds that through mindfulness practice, “we develop the capacity to be more present in our lives, and to show up more fully, firstly for ourselves, and then to all those around us, especially those we love and care about, such
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as our children”. Central to the practice is the STOP technique, which requires that when faced with a challenge you: • stop right where you are • take a deep breath, which will help you to steady yourself • observe what is happening here and now – with your body sensations, emotions and thoughts – and allow your emotions to settle • proceed from a place of presence, compassion, groundedness and wisdom.
give mindful parenting a try 1. Tune in to the present: Live your life in moments, taking time to create “breathing spaces” amid all the busyness and challenges. Be aware of when your attention is wandering from what you’re experiencing at that moment, and bring it back to the here and now.
Give your child your full attention, actively listen to what they’re saying and be aware of their emotions. To really connect with your child, you need to disconnect from your electronic devices and not be preoccupied with thoughts of other responsibilities. 2. Make peace with your imperfections: Most of us strive to be the “perfect parent.” Newsflash! That’s not a thing. You are going to make mistakes as a parent. If your child doesn’t see you fail, how will they learn to cope with failure? Your response to your negative situation creates a teachable opportunity to demonstrate to your child how they should cope with loss, failure and rejection. 3. Keep calm: You arrive home after a long day at work, your nerves are frazzled and all you want is to relax in the solace of your home. Instead, you’re met at the door by your nine year old frantically waving a list of items needed for a school project the next day. Enough to make you want to snap like a twig? Our brains are naturally programmed to respond to the emotional reactivity of the moment, which is not the most helpful approach, especially if we resort to raised voices and expressions of frustration and anger. When feelings are intense, there is less space for thought. When you
respond calmly, your child feels they can trust you to be in control and this makes them feel secure. 4. Cultivate self–compassion: Parenting is one of the toughest jobs you’ll ever have. It requires a substantial investment of your time, energy and emotions. It can leave you feeling overwhelmed, perhaps even resentful. Mindful parenting encourages being kind to yourself, letting go of unrealistic expectations and loving and accepting yourself for who you truly are. You can’t give your child unconditional love if you aren’t able to show it to yourself. As you cultivate selfcompassion and self-acceptance it will flow naturally to your child. More often than not, your focus is out of sync with what you are experiencing at the moment. It may be on what’s already taken place or on what you anxiously anticipate is going to happen. Research indicates that this “mind-wandering” is detrimental to your health. By developing mindfulness practices you are enhancing your quality of life and giving your children your full self. More importantly, they will emulate your way of doing things, as children do. Teaching your child to live mindfully is one of the best gifts you can give as a parent.
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recipes
south african summer style Everybody knows that Sunday is filled with lots of vegetables, pumpkin, sweet potato, three-bean salad, green salad, and more. Well, here’s another great way of having your vegetables on Seven Colour Sunday. Maybe leave out the rice, just this once.
grilled veggie platters with dips Serves 6 | 20–25 min
grilled veggies marinade: • ¼ cup avocado oil • 3 tbsp honey • 4 tbsp balsamic vinegar • 1 tsp chili flakes • 1 tsp dried thyme • 1 tsp garlic powder • 1 tsp salt and pepper • 2 tbsp lemon rind • 2 tbsp lemon juice vegetables: • 500g asparagus, trimmed • 4 carrots, cut in half lengthwise • 1 red pepper, deseeded and cut into strips • 1 yellow pepper, deseeded and cut into strips • 1 red onion, cut into wedges • 1 butternut, sliced • 1 sweet potato, peeled and sliced
dips hummus: • 1 can (400g) chickpeas • 3 tbsp lemon juice • salt and pepper • ¼ cup olive oil blue cheese: • 300g blue cheese • 100g cream • salt and pepper sundried tomato: • 300g sundried tomatoes • 100g peppadews • 50g olive oil
Preheat the oven to 180°C. Mix together all the marinade ingredients. Marinate all the veggies in the marinade for 1 hour. Grill the veggies until they are tender and cooked. For the dips, blend together all the ingredients for each dip to make four dips. Serve with the vegetables.
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pesto: • 150g fresh basil leaves • 50g fresh parsley • 50g mint • 100g Parmesan cheese • 50g almond nuts • 60g olive oil • salt and pepper
Food was always colourful in our home, literally and figuratively, because we understood that people ate with their eyes first. wild cherry and cranberry rooibos with kiwi popsicles Serves 8 | 2 hours
We had an ice-cream truck pass through our neighbourhood on Sundays. The truck sold soft-serve and popsicles. We’d get so giddy when we heard the siren, begging our mom to get us popsicles. She didn’t always listen to us, but it was such a treat when she did. • 4 Laager cranberry & wild cherry flavoured rooibos teabags • 2 cups boiling water • 4 kiwi fruit, peeled • 3 cups mixed berries and cranberries, frozen Make a strong tea with the teabags and the boiling water. In a saucepan, reduce the tea to 1 cup and cool down completely. Place the kiwi fruit in a blender and blend until fully liquified. Add half of the reduced tea to loosen the mixture a bit. Pour the kiwi mix into the bottom of a popsicle mould with a stick. Freeze for 1 hour. Meanwhile, blend the frozen berries and loosen with the rest of the tea. Pour the berry mixture on top of the kiwi popsicles and place back in the freezer for another hour. Enjoy on a hot day.
about the book Tebo and Lebo, two ordinary kasi girls from Pretoria, have turned their love for cooking into a profession. Trained chefs, the down-to-earth twins love cooking for their family and friends. Food Stories is their invitation to anyone who enjoys good food to join them on their culinary journey: from grandmother Koko’s kitchen to working at a flatbread stand as culinary students and attending university in Los Angeles (“The pizza slices are as big as your face”). The twins make every new taste experience their own. Published by Human & Rousseau, this book is available at leading bookstores for R350.
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holding thumbs for a ‘good teacher’? There’s a Japanese proverb that says that one day with a great teacher is better than a thousand days of diligent study. But what makes an effective teacher? ANÉL LEWIS
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y English teacher used to fist pump the air, long before fist pumps were a thing. She did this to emphasise a salient point, much to our amusement. We loved Mrs Sacks for this endearing idiosyncrasy, but more so for her ready smile and ability to unleash our imaginations; filling our minds with words and expressions. Yes, we learnt a lot about Chaucer and Gordimer while in her class, but we also discovered our own strengths. Mrs Sacks allowed us to make mistakes, to explore new passions and to believe that our dreams could become reality. Now, years later, I am one of many parents hoping fervently that my children will find their Mrs Sacks each time they start the new academic year. With the end of the fourth term approaching, schools are preparing to assign teachers and classes for next year, and the talk in the parking lot and on the sidelines of the sportsfield is all about who is getting which teacher. We all want a “good” teacher – but what does that really mean? I know of a few parents who have been actively campaigning for their preferred teacher for the past few months already. One of the mothers explains that her teacher of choice is known for encouraging the boys in her class to try harder, instead of criticising them for work poorly done. She adds that she’s also looking forward to this teacher’s open-door policy, as she’s known for replying immediately to parents’ concerns and for finding solutions that work for all the boys in her care. Generally, parents want to know that their children
are valued, that their needs are being recognised and that they are being given the space to express their unique personalities. Mandy Webb, a Cape Town-based Grade 1 teacher, with more than 25 years’ experience teaching Foundation Phase, says the most important trait of a good teacher is the ability to build relationships with each child. “Children learn best when they have connected with a teacher. I have found over the years that the children who maximise their potential in a subject are often the ones who have a connection with the teacher.” And this connection extends beyond the classroom, she adds. She has maintained contact with her former pupils, avidly following their careers and lives. When she asked her Grade 1 class to list what they considered to be important aspects of a good teacher, the children’s response was: kindness; patience; a willingness to explain things more than once; mutual respect; and fairness. One learner added: “(A teacher) must have kindness in her heart.” Clearly, while teachers need to be prepared and up-to-speed with the latest information and teaching techniques, these are not the qualities that make a teacher stand out from the rest. What matters most is that a teacher cares and that there is a connection or relationship with the child. It also helps if, as one Grade 1 revealed, “she must always smell nice.” Chris Waldburger, an English teacher at Hilton College in KwaZulu-Natal, says a “good” person who admits their mistakes, will make a good teacher. An effective teacher must also have knowledge and expertise. “We have seen the tragedy of this lack (of competence)
Children who maximise their potential in a subject are often the ones who have a connection with the teacher.
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in our country. You are far better off having a class of 100 with a great teacher than three classes of 35 with three bad teachers. Techniques, trends, learning styles, and educational technology all come and go. Often they are embraced with little evidential proof that they are effective. If a good person who knows their subject is teaching your children, successful learning will take place,” he says. And while it is critical for a teacher to have knowledge and passion for a subject, Waldburger also places importance on establishing a relationship with the class. “At the end of the day, a school should be a happy place where teachers and students are busy, but not stressed, and where relationships are paramount. In short, teaching is about life – building character, instilling knowledge and forming relationships.” Wendy Horn, principal of Protea Heights Academy in Cape Town who was a top 50 finalist for the 2018 Global Teacher of the Year Award, also places a premium on building relationships with learners. This is done by being part of all aspects of school, she explains. “It is through less formal activities – sports and cultural extracurricular – that you get to know the learners and they get to know you.” But Horn also says that clear boundaries must be in place to allow the learner to feel secure, “even if they push these boundaries (which is all part of learning and growing up).” While a good teacher should have high expectations and help each child to meet these, failure should not be avoided. It is but a “stepping stone” in the learning process, she adds. Great South African Teachers (Pan MacMillan 2011), compiled by Professor Jonathan Jansen, makes for interesting reading. He spoke to more than 100 South Africans about the teacher who had the most impact on their lives, and the recurring qualities mentioned were compassion, a passion for teaching, and the ability to inspire.
There is clearly no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to finding a good teacher. But these are among the qualities that seem to matter the most: 1 Kindness, empathy and compassion.
2 Establishing relationships, with the child and the parents.
3 Communication and the ability to listen.
4 Passion for and knowledge of the subject being taught. 5 Being prepared and efficient.
6 Involvement in all aspects of the school. 7 The ability to manage all the personalities in a class. 8 Understanding that learners have varied learning styles.
9 Conflict resolution skills. 10 Willingness to admit mistakes and apologise.
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get ready for back to school When the holidays are over and reality kicks in, you’ll need to focus on getting into the school routine again. We are here to help. CHILD MAGazine
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Get back into a normal routine a week before school begins. Gradually make bedtimes earlier and rise earlier. Practise being ready (washed, dressed, having breakfast) by a certain time. Also, eat meals at similar times daily to provide consistency in the transition from home to school. For preschoolers and toddlers, get the creche or daycare schedule and try to imitate this. “Re-introduce” your older child to school by looking at the coming term’s calendar together, counting down the days and chatting about the year ahead in a positive way. Young children often live in the moment, so reconnecting with the school can go a long way towards reducing any anxiety about returning for the new school year. Don’t neglect the afternoon schedule. Your goal in creating a good back-to-school routine is to get into the habit of doing certain things at specific times, for example, scale down on television time during term when this is the period your child will be doing homework. Stay school-ready during the holidays. Stock up on interesting and educational reading materials and games. Keep your child’s mind active with daily chores such as writing up the grocery list or tallying up the restaurant tab. Keep them active: go for family bike rides or walks and have family swimming galas. Practise certain milestones. Should your child be able to tie his shoelaces, do a tie knot or pack their lunch? Then overcome this challenge during the holidays when everyone is more relaxed.
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getting from A to B You might be quite glad to see the little ones going back to school, but getting them there and back can be a mad dash, so be prepared. Getting your child ready and at school on time can be a chore for both of you, but by creating and sticking to a plan, you can reduce the morning madness. When starting at a new school, practise your route to school beforehand to eliminate any anxiety and establish a safe pick-up and drop-off spot. Make sure you use the right car seat for your child. This will depend on your child’s height and weight and the type of vehicle. If you are going to be using a lift service, introduce your child to the driver so that they feel more at ease once school starts. Check that your car seat fits properly in the lift car and that the driver knows how to install it correctly. If they supply a car seat, check that it is appropriate for your child. Also, find out if the lift service can take your child to and from extramurals or if you need to make other arrangements.
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Having the correct school accessories is essential for children who are going to be starting classes. Before going to purchase hair accessories, clothing and shoes, check the school’s code of conduct for requirements. Also, check the school regulations regarding acceptable hairstyles and length. Uniforms can be purchased in slightly bigger sizes so that they last longer. As children’s feet are continually growing, you should buy the school shoes as close to the start of school as possible. Get a sturdy bag that won’t strain your child’s back when they have to lug all those books and stationery to and around school. An orthopaedically-designed school bag that has extra padding will distribute the weight on your child’s back evenly. Be sure to label everything using markers, or iron-on, sew-on or stick-on labels. You don’t want them to come home with half of the stuff missing.
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is your child left-handed?
Learn everything you can about your child’s lefthandedness. Teach them in a way that allows them to learn – with the right equipment, knowledge and instructions. 1. Ensure your child has the correct hand formation and pencil grip. The hand and wrist should be straight and pointing to the line on which they are writing. The paper should be angled
about 30 degrees clockwise. This will ensure they don’t smudge their writing. 2. Demonstrate a task from a left-handed child’s perspective. It can be quite confusing for a left-hander to try to copy a task demonstrated by a right-handed adult. 3. Teachers should consider putting left-handers together in a class – this will mean they can use the same equipment and they won’t bump elbows when they write.
pen and paper Without the correct school supplies and gear, children can have a hard time keeping up with their lessons and keeping pace with the rest of the school. Armed with the school’s stationery and textbook list, you can do all your shopping from the comfort of your home. There are several suppliers with online stores that offer delivery to the school or your home. Check with your school for their suggested supplier. The stationery and textbook list may be preloaded on their website for your convenience. You can also check the school’s shop for any second-hand textbooks. Don’t forget to get all the necessary materials to wrap the books – pre-cut book covers (check if you need school-specific covers), plastic covers, craft paper, plastic rolls and labels. For all your back to school basics go to: childmag.co.za/downloads
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gadgets galore Probably the biggest change in education over the past few decades has been the introduction of new technology. Parents should keep up with the ever-changing digital world. Some schools require children to use tablets or laptops, while others may allow children to use these during class time, homework time or for specific subjects. This may depend on your child’s grade. Check with your school as to their policy on tablets and laptops. If tablets or laptops are allowed, you can use them to download reference books, such as a dictionary. You may also be able to find digital textbooks – several CAPS-approved textbooks are available as e-books. Check with the school if you need to supply a tablet and at what specs and if you need to download any software. The software and apps that you place on your child’s tablet or laptop will probably depend on his age and on what is recommended by the school. But you can include items like Google Docs and office software (which will depend on the make of your laptop or tablet). Some children may be allowed to take cellphones to school. Most schools will allow this, especially for older children, but with limits as to when phones can be used.
Depending on where your child is in his school career, you may consider getting him a portable hard drive or USB drive, a portable charger or headphones.
5 tips to keep your child safe online 1. Know what social media platforms your child is active on and what games he is playing online. 2. Be aware of age restrictions and read the T & Cs of each social media platform. Age restrictions are in place for a reason. Children need a certain level of emotional maturity to process the content they are exposed to. 3. Ensure privacy settings are secure on each platform your child is on, and make sure you know how to install them. 4. Install parental control software on all devices. There are free apps that can help you filter inappropriate content, monitor your child’s activity online and set time limits. 5. Ensure that screen time is limited, this includes TV, all devices and gaming. Psychologists’ research shows that two hours per day is the appropriate amount of screen time daily.
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how well does your child handle money? consider how easily your child picks up on social cues? If they are slow to catch on, this could be aggravated in texting or social media conversations how well will your child cope with limits to screentime?
Is your child ready for a cellphone? Smartphones have gone from being luxury items to modern essentials. They’ve transformed the way we communicate and perform a myriad of other functions too – they’re our notebooks, calendars, alarm clocks, entertainments hubs, health trackers and more. Technology has become a way of life, a necessity we simply can’t, or won’t, do without. As we prepare for smart cities of the future and allow our children access to technology for learning and communication purposes, the question most parents ask is “when is the right time to get your child a smartphone?” The Child Mind Institute, a nonprofit organisation that helps children with learning disorders and mental health – says that usually, children between the ages of 10 to 12 will ask for a phone. Although this may be of concern to some parents, there are many advantages to this. Child experts say it’s not a question about the right age, but rather the rite of passage. “I tell parents that it’s not so much about a particular age as it is about a kid’s social awareness and understanding of what the technology means,” says Jerry Bubrick, a clinical psychologist at the institute. He recommends the following factors be considered when purchasing a smartphone for a child: • how often does your child lose things? If they misplace things constantly, it might be worth purchasing a cheaper smartphone.
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1 Set guidelines: Before you give your child a phone, sit them down and explain what can and cannot be used on the device. It may be worthwhile to draw up a short contract between yourself and your child, which lists responsibilities with which both parties must comply. 2 Education on data charges: Set monthly monetary limits. You may need to educate them about what data charges are and how much it costs for games and apps. 3 Social media and strangers: If your child is under the age of 13, they should not be on social media. With messaging apps like Whatsapp, they need to be advised on the dangers of communicating with strangers and about sending pictures of themselves or their personal details to other people, even if they are known to the family. 4 Inappropriate communication: Parents should assist their children by providing guidance on what is appropriate content to send and what is not. According to author Emma Sadleir in her book Selfies, Sexts and Smartphones, thousands of people (adults and children) fall into the trap of chatting and giving out too much personal information in the online space. It is, therefore, extremely important for children to understand why they should not be communicating with strangers and why they should be very careful with the information they share online. In Sadleir’s book, she lists strong privacy settings and turning off location services as crucial practices. 5 Set limits on screen time: The recommended screentime for children is two hours per day. Before purchasing the device, make sure your child has agreed to follow your screentime limits.
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Here are some basic tips to follow when purchasing a smartphone for your child:
lunchtime Make lunch planning and packing easy with these ideas. The emphasis should be on nutritional meals and functional lunchboxes. Get children a small cooler to take to school for lunches and snacks. This way, they won’t spill anything in their school bags, or forget about half-eaten sandwiches. You can go for a cooler bag or box, but if children have a locker or designated bag area, ensure that the cooler box will fit. You’ll also need plenty of lunch boxes and plastic containers for sandwiches and snacks.
lunchbox friendly fishcakes Serves 4 - 6 | Prep 15 minutes | Cooking 15 minutes
Recipe by Siba Mtongana, from her bestselling cookbook, Welcome To My Table, R389 from Takealot.
Get a few water bottles, as on days with lots of sport, your child may want to take two bottles to school. Pack enough healthy foods to get your child through the day – avoid any junk food, sugary food and fizzy drinks. Some schools do allow treats on certain days – find out which and save treats for these days. Find out if children in the class have any food allergies, especially if you’re supplying birthday treats or baker day items. If there is a tuck shop at school, limit tuck shop lunches to once or twice a week and encourage your child to choose healthier options. Make lunchboxes extra special with this yummy recipe.
2 tbsp canola oil 1 small red onion, finely chopped 2 cloves garlic, finely chopped 1 tsp butter chicken curry spice or mild curry powder, heaped 1 spring onion, roughly chopped 375g butternut peeled, cooked and mashed (it should be dry, not too wet) 60g flour, plus extra for dusting 120 g panko breadcrumbs 4 x 170g cans tuna in brine, drained Sea salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste 1 tbsp smoked BBQ sauce Heat the oil in a large pan and sauté the onion for 4 minutes until soft and translucent. Add the garlic and spring onion and cook for 1 minute. Add the curry powder and stir for 30 seconds, taking care not to burn the spice.Add the mashed butternut and stir and until
combined. Add the flour, a heaped spoonful at a time, and stir well. Stir in the drained tuna until well combined. Season with salt and pepper. Switch off the heat and allow the mixture to cool slightly until cool enough to handle. In a tray or plate, mix the extra flour and breadcrumbs. Heat a nonstick pan with enough oil for shallow frying. Shape 2 tbsp-spoonfuls of the mixture into a ball using your hands. Repeat with the remaining mixture. Dust the fish cakes in the bread crumb mixture flattening them slightly to form mini fish cakes. Cook each one in oil for 1½ minutes on one side and 1 minute on the other. Gently remove from the pan and drain on wire rack lined with kitchen paper. Allow to cool completely before packing into an airtight container to refrigerate or pack for lunch.
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what’s on this summer For more events go to childmag.co.za/whats-on or submit an event for our autumn issue before 31 January to durban@childmag.co.za
29 November–5 January Alice in Wonderland
1 December The Christmas Doggy Dash
This new version of Alice in Wonderland offers a glorious array of zany, topsy-turvy characters, including colourful puppets as well as magical scenery, vibrant costumes, topical jokes and toe-tapping songs. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, Mazisi Kunene Rd, Durban Time: Various Cost: R150–R250 (adults), R120–R200 (children, students and pensioners), R140 (schools and preview performances), book at online.computicket.com
This fun, family event includes a family walk with your furbabies, a 7km trail run, Christmas market with lots of goodies, jumping castle and face painting for the kids. The organiser’s goal is to sterilise 2 025 dogs and cats by 2025 in various communities that really need it. No food or beverage vendors allowed. Venue: Giba Gorge Mountain Bike Park, 110 Stockville Road, Tollgate, Pinetown Time: 6am–1pm Cost: R30–R150, tickets from quicket.co.za Contact: chanti@brighterfuture.org.za
30 November UV Foam Glow 4K
6–8 December A Christmas Carol: The Story of Scrooge
Shine at this family-friendly, 4km trail run. There’s a chill zone, FutureLife product tastings and a photo booth. UV accessories will also be on sale. Venue: Giba Gorge Mountain Bike Park, 110 Stockville Rd, Tollgate, Pinetown Time: 4:30pm (registration opens), 7pm (run starts) Cost: R180, R120 (early bird), R150 (first phase), under-10s free. Purchase tickets from quicket.co.za Contact: 031 769 1527, info@gibagorge.co.za or gibagorge.co.za
30 November SPCA Market Day Shop for bargains, eat some food, get treats and support a great cause! Antiques, toys, boerewors, books and jewellery on sale. Venue: SPCA Durban, Willowfield Crescent, Springfield Park Time: 8am–10:30am Cost: R10, children under-12 free with adult Contact: 031 579 6500, info@spcadbn.org.za or spcadbn.org.za
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A ballet based on the classic book and presented by The Playhouse Company in partnership with Cape Town City Ballet. On Christmas Eve, the elderly and unpleasant Ebenezer Scrooge is paid a visit by the ghost of his dead business partner who tells Scrooge that three spirits will call on him. Following their visitations, Scrooge undergoes a transformation. Venue: Opera Theatre, The Playhouse Company, 231 Anton Lembede Street (formerly Smith Street), Durban
Time: 7:30pm (6, 7 December) and 3pm (8 December) Cost: R150–R220 from webtickets.co.za Contact: 031 369 9596/9540, artsadmin@ playhousecompany.com
6 December–5 January Frozen 2 Enchanted Lands It’s here! Frozen 2 Enchanted Lands opens in cinemas countrywide. To celebrate, Gateway is inviting you to slide into its Frozen Lands entertainment area – discover the waterfalls, visit the Earthkeepers and the Wishing Tree and then make your way to the Unknown on a journey of discovery. Venue: Gateway Theatre of Shopping,
1 Palm Boulevard, Umhlanga Ridge, Durban Time: 9am–7pm (closed on 25 December and 1 January) Cost: R30–R80, under-2s enter free, tickets from webtickets.co.za Contact: Michelle Shelley 031 514 0500 or Michelle.shelley@epsgroup.co.za
12–30 December Durban Botanic Gardens Trail of Lights Offering a magical night out for families, couples and groups and the chance to give back to several noteworthy charities, this year’s trail will be bigger and brighter than ever. There’ll be nightly entertainment, kids’ activities run by selected
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charities, displays and a food garden. New to the event is the festive market showcasing local and authentic gifting and decor. Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens Time: 6:30pm–10pm Cost: R50 (early-bird tickets 1 Oct–30 Nov), R65 from 1 Dec, tickets available from webtickets. co.za or Pick n Pay, R80 (limited tickets available at the door), R100 (12 Dec VIP preview evening) Children under-one enter for free Contact: info@trailoflights.co.za or webtickets.co.za
15–31 December Litchi Picking Festival Join in the feast and fun – eat as many litchis as you can while picking. The entrance fee includes 1.6kg litchis and a tractor-trailer trip into the orchard. Food and drinks on sale. The
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VIP picking evenings include a two-course meal and drinks. Venue: Just past the Flag Farm Animal Farm on Sheffield Beach Road Time: 9am–3pm, 9am–12pm (24 December), closed 25 December Cost: R150 (cash only), R50 for toddlers with no bucket to take home, R500 (VIP picking, booking is essential) Contact: Heidie 071 438 4290 litchifestival@ gmail.com or lifewithheidie.com/litchi-picking
markets 6 December Christmas Craft Market The community of Clansthal work hard to ensure their conservancy is pristine so visitors can enjoy the beautiful facilities. Enjoy a
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relaxing Sunday in a beautiful, privately-owned garden at the Christmas Summer Market: local arts, crafts, music and fine food and gifts will be available to purchase. Venue: 111 Pig & Whistle Drive, Clansthal Time: 9am–2pm Cost: Free entry Contact: Liz Cunningham 083 556 8108 or lizc@scottburgh.co.za
7 December iHeart Market IHeart Market is a community of makers, providing a retail platform for local design, craft, fashion and food and a great day out. Venue: The Hay Store, Albert Terrace and Camperdown Road, Point Time: 9am–2pm Contact: iheartmarket.com
7, 14, 15, 16, 21, 22, 28 December Shongweni Farmers Market Make your way to The Shongweni Farmers & Craft Market for their Christmas Extravaganza. Authentic, artisanal food and drink options, fresh organic produce, homemade deli edibles, unique handmade crafts and incredible live performances from KZN’s most talented artists are all on offer. Purchase stunning locally handmade Christmas decor items and gifts. Dogs are welcome. Venue: 457 Mr551 Rd, Shongweni Resource Reserve, Shongweni Time: 6:30am–1pm (Saturdays) and 8am–1pm (Sundays and public holidays) Cost: Free Contact: 031 777 4686 or info@ shongwenimarket.co.za
9–14 December 2019 Mosaic Workshop Sign up your children for some creative fun! Aimed at girls and boys aged 5–12 years of age, but all are welcome. All materials will be provided and include prepared masonite shapes and cut mosaic tiles. Children are welcome to bring small, old or broken toys, games or trinkets that could be incorporated into an art piece. The workshop is three hours long, with a short snack break. Venue: Berea (at the artist’s house) Time: 9am–12noon Cost: R250 per head inclusive of all materials, booking is essential Contact: marcelle@marcelledk.co.za
I CARE Please support I CARE. If you have any clothes, linen, shoes, DVDs, sporting equipment, or stationery that you are getting rid of, please consider donating to I CARE. Perhaps you have a child changing or finishing school; all uniforms, shoes, stationery, sporting equipment are most welcome. Collection during office hours can be arranged or donations can be dropped off at I CARE’s head office, inside Christ Church, 57 Hambridge Ave, Somerset Park, Umhlanga or at the I Care Hope Centre, corner of Mathew Meyiwa (Stamford Hill) Road and Kent Street, Greyville.
open days Thomas More College Attend an interactive information session at the school on 18 or 20 February. Venue: 15 Sykes Road, Kloof, KwaZulu-Natal Time: 10am–12pm 18 Feb (Grades 000–7), 20 Feb (Grades 8–11) Contact: 031 764 8640, jhartley@ thomasmore.co.za or thomasmore.co.za
Maris Stella Tour the school’s campus and learn about its innovative and holistic approach to education. Maris Stella will give your daughter the opportunity to develop academically, physically and spiritually. Join the high school open evening on 12 February at 5:30pm, the junior primary and prep open day on 13 February with tours at 9am and 11am, and the preschool open morning on 29 February at 9am. Venue: 558 Stephen Dlamini Rd, Essenwood Contact: 031 209 9426, marisstella.co.za.
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for the love of sport … any kind, anywhere, any time
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There’s a subtle difference between sports fan and fanatic as ANÉL LEWIS discovers
onor immerses himself in his sport, which is a wonderful thing in an age where children tend to spend a fair amount of time playing games online. But his dedication to the game – especially rugby – is sometimes a tad extreme. During the recent World Cup, it was not uncommon for us to wake up before 6am to the sound of a very animated commentator bemoaning Faf Du Plessis’s kicking. Look, I am all for a good game of rugby. I still wear my 1995 World Cup jersey with pride and I know my Mapimpi from my Mtawarira, but one has to draw the line at having a seven-year-old rugby “expert” follow you into the shower so he can explain how the All Blacks committed four high tackles in the recent clash. I think the zenith of Conor’s obsession was the night I went to kiss him goodnight and found him asleep with his rugby ball. And, please don’t let his team lose. My robust boy implodes faster than a junior school scrum if
the game does not go his way. Tears will roll down his cheeks as he tries to make sense of the loss. As the World Cup came to an end, and we packed away the rugby boots, we were hopeful that Conor would have a more measured approach to the next sport to pique his interest. Craig, his father, is not a big cricket fan so we reckoned this sporting season would be an easy wicket, so to speak. But alas, we knew we were in for a tough innings when, again in the wee hours of the morning, I stumbled to the bathroom and encountered a shadowy figure padded to the hilt, complete with gloves and helmet. I thought I was hallucinating and hastily switched on the lights. It was just Conor, proudly backing the Proteas in his own very special way. Please bear in mind, that when he is kitted like that, Conor also expects me to join him at the crease. So there I was, in my pyjamas, standing in the garden trying to understand
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Anél, Conor, Craig and Erin
what my son wanted me to do when he called for a spin bowl. It almost made me nostalgic for the Rugby World Cup. At least I still have another four years to learn the difference between a ruck and maul. If you’re looking for Anél Lewis, she can be found at the cricket nets, trying to learn the difference between an innings and an over, while fervently hoping that her son takes an interest in board games for a while.
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books
A selection of super reads for all, plus books to help beat the back to school blues. Kenny the Kudu and his Christmas adventure By Victoria Mallett (Reach, R150) A delightfully illustrated magical tale set in the African bushveld about the power of believing and never giving up on your dreams. Why should reindeer always pull Santa’s sleigh? Kenny has other ideas! Look out for Ozzie the Ostrich and his Flaming Fla-migos, by the same author. Children will love this story while learning to embrace their uniqueness, flaws and all. Will suit early readers.
Witchfield By Nicole Rimensberger (Self, R140) Katie Peridot quite likes being ordinary. Unfortunately, some very out-of-theordinary things have been happening to her. Then she teams up with Themba, and the adventure begins ... Also in the series is Tilly & Thandeka (R110); an exciting adventure about two brave girls who have to solve the mystery of a missing crown. Great for 8–12 year olds.
Not Quite Snow White By Ashley Franklin (Harper, R233) A delightful and inspiring picture book that highlights the importance of selfconfidence while taking an earnest look at what happens when that confidence is shaken or lost. Tameika encourages us all to let our magic shine. Ages 4–8.
The Art of Racing in the Rain By Garth Stein (Harpercollins, R139) A super summer read for adults and older children, this is a heartwarming tale in which Enzo, a loyal family dog, tells the story of his human family, how they nearly fell apart, and what he did to bring them back together. Meet the dog who will show the world how to be human.
back to school basics
Once Upon a Rhyme series By Joy Husted (Self, R186 each) This series will make a wonderful addition to a home or preschool library. All the stories encourage social and emotional development, from anger issues to sharing, caring and embracing differences.
Maths made fun in Grade 1, 2 and 3 By Mart Meij (Best Books, R103 each) Maths anxiety can have a debilitating effect on children’s self-confidence and learning potential. Instilling basic numeracy skills at an early age and teaching maths in a way that engages young learners can help to prevent a lifelong fear of numbers. This series helps to lay a solid foundation with a practise-makes-perfect approach. These workbooks are an important resource in the classroom and at home.
Cook the Week in 2 Hours By Caroline Pessin (Hamlyn, R392) How great would it be to come home from work or school lifts each night and not have to stress over what to make for dinner? To know there’s a delicious, healthy meal ready so you can spend time with your children or your partner, or just relax instead? This book makes that a reality. Set aside two hours at the weekend to batch-cook all of Monday– Friday’s evening meals. Sixteen menus are grouped by the seasons and designed to feed a family of four. Take “get organised” to the next level plus save money and time.
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