Child magazine | PTA October/November 2018

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tech &issue toy

new research the effects of screen time on children’s ability to learn, mental health and happiness

gaming

the good, the bad and the ugly

fun times

cool toys that teach the glory of gardening playful snacks for kids a fastpass to the magic of Disney World

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october & november 2018 - the tech ‘n toy issue

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upfront

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6 over to you Our readers have their say and share their news and views

11 pregnancy How to prepare financially for your baby’s arrival

features

14 best for baby When it comes to potty training, timing is everything

4 pub’s note The tech debate remains a hot one, we discuss the pros and cons

16 toys that teach Our suggestions for toys that will boost your children’s development, creativity and motor skills 18 fun and function Used responsibly, tablets and other technological devices can benefit children in many ways 20 family getaway All the fun, excitement and attractions of Disney World 22 gaming Children’s time and activities online should be monitored 26 eating healthily Creative ideas for making fun, appealing, child-friendly snacks 28 exam time Our proven advice on how to help your children prepare for exams 30 the joy of gardening Connect with nature and bond with your family with our list of 12 garden-related things to do together

9 health What you eat can impact on your mental state

31 a good read Our selection of the best books about bugs, birds and worms 32 what’s on in October and November Family events, open days, workshops and holiday programmes 29 in the next issue of child magazine Our happy holiday issue, packed with tips on how to have the best holiday, plus a backto-school supplement 34 finishing touch Sometimes the best way to get the message across is to play your children at their own game

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pub’s note how much tech is too much?

One look at our letter’s page confirms; the debate rages on! Parents, teachers and researchers continue to question the pros and cons of the digital world our children find themselves growing up in. From the world of gaming (page 22) to how nutrition plays a huge part in mental wellness (page 9) and how a tablet can literally change the life of a child with learning barriers in the most wonderful way (page 16), the Child Mag team has tried to give you a balanced view from a variety of reliable sources.

The dangers of too much screen time remain real. Not only has France banned phones from all class rooms; recently, Silicon Valley executives have been speaking out about the purposefully addictive designs of smartphones and social media, which make them hard for children, especially teenagers, to put down. New research reports a large drop in adolescents’ happiness with the proliferation of smartphones, finding that the more hours a day teens spend in front of screens, the less satisfied they are. After rising since the early 1990s, adolescent self-esteem, life satisfaction and happiness plunged after 2012, the year smartphone ownership reached the 50% mark in the United States.

Navigating a safe, happy and fulfilling path for our children has never been more challenging. We hope that this issue steers you in the right direction towards a greater understanding of the issues facing our children, and how best to ensure they thrive in this new tech-dominated world.

P.S. To read more on the report Teens who spend less time in front of screens are happier go to our facebook page (the irony does not escape me).

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over to you Have your say – we value your thoughts, suggestions and feedback. editor@childmag.co.za is technology destroying our humanness?

Teeny toddlers, vulnerable teens, exhausted parents and even bored grandparents can be seen, heads-down, shoulders bent and disengaged from the real world as they spend endless hours scrolling through their devices. Too much screen time stifles creativity, imagination and playfulness, which are essential to the wholesome development of children.

Consider the following tips in reducing the amount of screen time for you and your children: 1. Set an example. Your children are more likely to do what you do, rather than what you say. You cannot expect them to reduce their screen time if you do not do the same.

2. Have dedicated no-go-zones for devices. During family activities, mealtimes and even when driving in a car can be cellphone-free zones.

3. Get outside. Plan activities that involve getting into nature – it is great for the soul and it will increase all the happy hormones in your bodies.

4. Encourage your children to become involved in activities beyond the school environment, sport, drama, music and art are all good options. And, encourage young children to play – just not on a device.

Cindy Glass, Step Up Education Centres

turning learning barriers into learning gifts A diagnosis of dyslexia, ADHD, anxiety, or any other learning disorder can be an overwhelming experience for both the child and the parent.

It may come with a sense of relief: Finally, there is an answer, a reason for why it has been so difficult for your child to concentrate in class, why they have been labelled too busy, non-compliant, or why they are simply unable to do things that seem so effortless for other learners.

But this diagnosis is not a solution – it is a signpost towards helping a student learn in the way that is best for them. Children with learning barriers often need more sensory stimulation and more handson experiences. They need answers to the questions that are burning in their minds before they can focus on multiplication! Put simply, they “learn differently” to the way education is usually structured in mainstream classes. Frequently, a diagnosis can also come with a range of misconceptions and too often the term “learn differently” brings to mind a conditioned form of thinking that implies nonacademic, or intellectually deficient, but this is not the truth. Many of our learners at EduExcellence are “out of the box” thinkers who simply require education to be presented differently.

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I am frustrated, challenged and sometimes exasperated by students.

But it is rare that I go home unimpressed. Daily, I see a fierce sense of independence, a thirst to genuinely learn and a willingness to debate topics that most students simply have not paused to question.

Students who learn differently are just as capable of being the engineers, doctors and entrepreneurs of the future, the pioneers who will try something new because ... “why not?” Far from being a hindrance, their “barriers” can be their greatest assets – providing them with an ability to see the world differently from their peers, sometimes quite literally! Although these children still need firm boundaries to structure their learning, I believe it is time we start shifting our thinking to celebrate learners who think in a non-linear way and recognise what they are truly capable of.

Shelly Schutte, EduExcellence Noordhoek

getting the techno balance right I heard from our school that you are researching the world of gaming.

As I have a 13-year-old-gamer, I look forward to reading the article.

I hope you will bring in the pros and cons because recently I chatted to a friend about the positives of gaming ... the new generation and equipping kids with the new world and technologies to follow etc.

She’s very into innovation and has visited Google, Amazon, Apple, Tesla ... as always it’s all about balance!

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teachers approve I love reading your magazine at the Science Centre. I find your articles interesting and educational.

I believe these articles would benefit many of our parents at the school where I teach. Is there any way that your magazine can be issued to our learners on a regular basis?

Shamiela Taliep, Rylands Primary

Child Magazine responds: Thanks for the positive comments, we are pleased that the articles are proving useful. We will add your school to the waiting list and hope you will soon be receiving your copies.

high praise I picked up a copy of your magazine at Weleda Pharmacy. As a grandmother of four bright little beings, it caught my interest!

I have to tell you that I read it from cover to cover, literally, looked at all the ads, places to go, fantastic articles, recipes, etc., and I have

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to compliment you on an outstanding magazine. I don’t think there was a page I skipped – well done!

Being an outdoor person, I loved the story by Melanie Rosettenstein of their holiday in Mozambique. I really believe that children still get more fun and enjoyment out in the open experiencing adventure and learning about nature. Living in a built-up city, I sometimes just take the children into the garden to learn about nature, and they love it. A good idea is to teach them how to plant little flowers or veggies in boxes and how to tend to them – would make a good article, but having just read your magazine for the first time, you may already have done so.

I am looking forward to handing this copy to my own children for their reading, and hope they can feel they have had some good ideas planted in their brains. Keep up the excellent work.

Maureen Cheetham, Bryanston

Child Magazine responds: Thank you for your wonderful comments and compliments, it makes the hard work we put into producing the magazine worth it. You must have been reading our mail: In this issue we feature an article about getting children involved in the garden (see page 30).

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eating right for mental stability There appears to be compelling evidence that what you consume could affect your mental health.

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ccording to The South African Depression and Anxiety Group, 1 in 3 people will experience mental illness in their lifetime and 23 people commit suicide every day. With so many of us affected by mental health issues, it’s vital that we explore positive ways of dealing with the challenges facing parents and children.

so, is there a link between nutrition and mental health?

A meta-analysis including studies from 10 countries, conducted by researchers at Linyi People’s Hospital in Shandong, China, suggests that dietary patterns may contribute to depression. According to a study of

120 children and adolescents – consuming fast food, sugar and soft drinks was associated with a higher prevalence of diagnosed attentiondeficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Led by Maria Izquierdo-Pulido, PharmD, PhD, of the University of Barcelona’s department of nutrition, food science and gastronomy – the study also found that children who ate fewer vegetables, fruit, fatty fish and other foods associated with the Mediterranean diet were more likely to have ADHD symptoms.

Evidence shows that food plays an important role in the development, management and prevention of specific mental health problems such as depression, schizophrenia, attention deficit

Evidence shows that food plays an important role in the develop­ment, manage­ment and prevention of specific mental health problems such as depression, schizophrenia, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.

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depression Although the occasional drink is harmless, heavy alcohol consumption is associated with anxiety and panic attacks. Excessive drinking also depletes serotonin (the happy chemical), leading to an individual becoming prone to anxiety and depression. Caffeinated beverages also increase the risk for anxiety, depression and poor sleep.

schizophrenia Correcting blood sugar problems may be a relevant nutritional approach. Addressing essential fat imbalances, increasing antioxidants, B12 and folic acid may also assist. Some people with mental health problems are

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sensitive to gluten, especially wheat, which can bring on all sorts of symptoms of mental illness.

adhd Some food additives have been implicated in behavioural problems, particularly in hyperactive children. Foods rich in protein such as lean beef, pork, poultry, fish, eggs, beans, nuts, soy, and low-fat dairy products can have beneficial effects on ADHD symptoms. The body uses protein-rich foods to make neurotransmitters – the chemicals released by brain cells to communicate with each other. Protein can prevent surges in blood sugar, which increase hyperactivity.

alzheimer’s and dementia Foods that protect against Alzheimer’s include green leafy vegetables, nuts, berries, beans, whole grains, fish, poultry, olive oil and wine.

The link between poor mental health and nutritional deficiencies has long been recognised by nutritionists, however, psychiatrists are increasingly becoming aware of the benefits of using nutritional approaches to mental health.

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hyperactivity disorder, dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.

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financial fitness for parents-to-be Entering the world of parenthood is a time of great joy and excitement, but it can also be a time of uncertainty and stress, especially on the family’s finances. Here’s how to prepare financially for parenthood.

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uring pregnancy, expectant parents do a great deal of research into what to expect in the various trimesters, the birthing process and how to care for the baby. But, according to John Manyike, Head of Financial Education at Old Mutual, “financial planning is seldom prioritised when preparing for a new addition to the family. Ensuring that your finances are under control can eliminate unnecessary pressures, reduce anxiety and give new parents the confidence and peace of mind to thoroughly enjoy this new chapter in their life”.

In April 2017, Ohio State University conducted research into the effects of stress such as financial strain, depressive symptoms, pregnancy-specific distress, perceived stress and general anxiety on expectant mothers and their babies. The study revealed that experiencing any of these stress indicators during pregnancy could contribute to the baby being underweight at birth.

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only buy what you can afford and need.

Know and stick to your budget.

To ensure that you are in financial good health and remain stress-free during pregnancy, follow these guidelines:

in your first trimester Research antenatal care options and decide where you would like to give birth. Enquire about the various costs involved including doctor’s visits and processes such as scans. Find out what antenatal care your current medical aid covers. Opt for the best medical care you can afford. If you can’t afford a medical aid, government clinics and hospitals provide this care free of charge. Cost out the essential items you will need once baby has been born.

Then open a savings account and put away as much money as possible to create a robust savings cushion for your soon-to-be bundle of joy.

during second trimester Don’t splurge on maternity clothing as it is only temporary; only purchase the necessities – a couple of dresses, tights and tunics – to see you through the nine months. If you are employed, contact your HR manager to find out about your company’s policy regarding maternity leave and benefits. Mothers are legally allowed four months off work, but most

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companies offer this as unpaid, not paid leave. If you qualify to claim unemployment benefits, visit your local UIF office or download the required forms to apply for your maternity benefits.

in third trimester By this time, you should have booked your bed at the hospital or clinic of your choice. Now, start shopping for baby essentials such as clothes, nappies, a cot, a car seat and linen. Pre-loved baby items can be bought or borrowed from family, friends and forums. Chances are your friends and family will organise a baby shower for you. So before buying and possibly ending up with duplicate items or too many things, wait to see what you receive as gifts. If you can’t wait, keep your receipts in case you need to exchange or return items.

Most importantly, only buy what you can afford and need. Know and stick to your budget; don’t let your excitement overtake your reasoning.

Nothing beats being prepared. It gives you the freedom to enjoy this new parenting journey you have embarked on. Having a baby is expensive, but proper planning and financial discipline is the first step to your family’s financial wellbeing.

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best for baby

are you ready for potty time?

Getting toilet training right requires having impeccable timing and a great deal of patience.

MELANIE ROSETTENSTEIN

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successfully made a wee in the potty. Soon she was coming home from school in panties. But, she still wasn’t cooperating at home, so it was time to get creative. I filled a jar with sweets for rewards and bought her a well-illustrated potty-training book. The bribery worked and my frustration vanished when I saw the pride on her face when she successfully did the deed in the potty. We were finally making progress.

timing is everything According to Sister Jenni Johnson of Berea Baby Clinic, Durban, potty training is all about timing. Even though my gamble worked, she said my timing was premature. She recommends delaying potty training until four to six months after a sibling’s birth where there is a two-year age gap. “A little bit of bribery can be useful and in this case following through with the support of the teacher was a good thing,” she adds.

A child needs to be physically, cognitively and emotionally ready to use the potty. The emotional readiness is often the last to come. A child needs to feel ready to let go of the familiarity and comfort of using nappies and venture into new territory. “Wait for the signs before you begin; if there are no signs, try again at two years and four months,” says Johnson. “Don’t worry if your child is not ready, it

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recently entered the world of potty training and boy, was I unprepared. Having successfully used the potty a few times, at 23 months my daughter was showing positive signs that she was ready to ditch her nappies. At 24 months, her baby brother arrived and the potty training was postponed while I had my hands full with the newborn. Fast forward a few months and I felt ready to tackle this critical milestone again. But, in that short time, my cooperative little girl had jumped feet first into the terrible twos and all my attempts to encourage her to sit on the potty were met with an emphatic “no”. She would either refuse to sit on the potty or sit on it for half an hour then do her business elsewhere. I tried everything, but she only sensed my growing frustration and wielded her newfound power accordingly. The only logical thing to do was to put those nappies back on.

After a week back in nappies, she insisted on wearing panties again. Her school friends were potty training and since potty time is party time for toddlers, she wanted in on the action. Not wanting to discourage her, I dutifully helped her back into her panties and asked her to sit on the potty.

Again, “no!” Out of despair, I asked her teacher if she would put her on the potty once a day. She agreed and later reported that she had sat on the potty without a fuss. After a few days, her teacher said she had

signs that your toddler is ready

These seven important signs and levels of ability will indicate when your toddler is ready to potty train.

Extracted from Potty Training in One Week by Gina Ford.

1. He is over 18 months old.

2. His nappy is frequently dry when you get him from his lunchtime nap. A dry nappy a couple of hours since his last nappy change would also be an indication that he is getting some bladder control.

3. He can understand and follow simple instructions, i.e. “go and fetch your red ball” or “put your toy in the box”.

4. He is aware that he is doing a poo, i.e. going very quiet and showing signs of concentration, or points to his nappy and says poo or pee-pee when he has done one.

5. He is eager to participate in taking off his own clothes – shoes, socks and shorts – and understands what pulling his shorts up and down mean.

6. He can point to the different parts of his body when you name them, for example, “where’s your belly button?” or “where’s your nose?”

7. He has the ability to sit still and occupy himself or concentrate for five to 10 minutes with a toy, book or watching a video.

A child needs to be physically, cognitively and emotionally ready to use the potty.

doesn’t matter if he or she has to stay in nappies until nearer the age of three.” There’s no prize for the youngest potty-trained child. Waiting until the child is a little older can make it a much simpler process.

My daughter still gets distracted and forgets to do her business in the potty, but every day is better than the last. If there is an accident, we just clean it up and carry on. If she successfully uses the potty or toilet, she is rewarded with heaps of praise. I have also set aside lots of one-on-one time for us, which has helped significantly. It’s taken a couple of months, but I can confidently say we have put our potty woes behind us and she is now very proud of being a big girl who wears big-girl panties.

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toys that teach Among the many popular “must-have” children’s toys, there are those that have real educational and developmental benefits. child magazine

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solve it: Puzzles and mazes, or mind games for older children all help with the development of rational thinking. Look for age-appropriate games and puzzles, including those with pictures that your child will relate to. board games: Children can start learning to play games such as checkers from a young age, and then advance to more strategic games such as Battleships or chess. Mystery games such as Cluedo also develop logic.

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irthdays, Christmas time, and special occasions are all great excuses for parents to spoil their children with a new toy. But with the aisles in toyshops bursting with gizmos, gadgets and trinkets, which one do you choose? A good place to start is to look for toys that will help boost your child’s creativity, rational thinking or improve their motor skills. Here are some of our suggestions for toys that teach.

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Make believe: Start a dress-up box or role-play corner. Costumes, hats and props are good options. Other ideas include pretend food, toy phones, toy furniture, puppets, or anything else that children can use to create a story. arts and crafts: Art supplies and craft items are essential for encouraging children to be creative.

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musical toys: Whether banging on a drum or learning to play the piano, music allows all children, from toddlers to teenagers, to express themselves. building blocks: Build a house, a tower or a whole city. Why not make a car, or a tree, or a funky creature? Building blocks let children create to their hearts’ content.

And, they’re also good for developing logic.

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tips for choosing toys

Toys that help to improve fine-motor control skills are those that exercise and strengthen the muscles in the fingers and hands. These toys also help children learn to control these muscles. Here are some to look out for: • sorting and stacking toys, where items need to be sorted by shape or colour, or stacked by size • beading, where a string is threaded through shapes or blocks • blocks or shapes that link together or stick together with magnets

Gross motor skills are developed by any toys that get children climbing, running, jumping, bouncing, pushing, rolling, throwing, kicking, crawling or walking. So your options are extensive: • jungle gyms with balancing beams, things to climb, places to crawl through and swings • push bikes and when children are old enough, pedal bikes • balls, beanbags and frisbees • tents and tunnels

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Choose toys that can be used in different ways and that can hold your child’s interest for several years.

Choose toys that encourage open play, so children can use their imagination when playing.

If a toy is interactive, it is bound to capture a child’s attention and encourage engagement.

Look for toys that encourage children to think, to problem-solve and, if possible, to be active.

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dealing with difference

tech toys – combining fun with function Correct and supervised use of tablets can both educate and empower children.

JACQUI TOOKE

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y five-year-old son’s face is alight with that wonderful mix of concentration and the joy of achieving. Matt is doing a puzzle on his tablet. Using one finger, he slides the puzzle pieces into place with great ease, showing that his mind can see exactly where the pieces should go. Matt has a rare genetic syndrome that results in global developmental delay with fine-motor and speech

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difficulties. He enjoys doing real puzzles, but his hands often let him down. Sometimes it takes him five or six frustrated attempts before he eventually gets the piece in place. That’s a whole lot of effort for one successful puzzle piece placement. But the tablet offers him movement at a flick of his finger, allowing him to achieve tasks free from the limitations of his fine-motor difficulties.

As Matt’s physiotherapist, Pamela Hansford, explains: “The iPad is an exciting tool that puts ‘fun’ into ‘function’ as it reduces the effort required for a task while increasing the success rate.” Children need to experience success to confidently engage with the world around them.

just a click away We bought Matt an iPad to support his communication efforts, but you can use any of the other tablet computers that are available. When Matt was four years old, his receptive language was far more advanced than his expressive language. He was mostly unable to speak, but could communicate using some signs. Although our family understood his signing, most other people did not. This is where the iPad has proved useful. Coupled with the augmentative communication application, Proloquo2go, it functions as a speech-generating device. But, unlike other communication devices, it is significantly cheaper and more versatile. As Matt presses a picture on the screen, the iPad speaks that word aloud, enabling him to communicate his thoughts and express his needs. One can customise by adding any number of pictures, uploading personal photos, and categorising them in different ways to make it easy to navigate. It’s simple to programme and allows the user to put together whole sentences. Now anyone can understand Matt.

Hansford has also seen the positive benefits of using a tablet computer with a young girl who has severe athetoid cerebral palsy. Let’s call her Katie to respect her privacy. Katie has the potential to learn, but her physical challenges make it hard for her to function independently and she requires physical support for most daily activities. It was Katie’s speech therapist, Deborah Stodel, who introduced her to the iPad. Initially, the iPad’s bright lights and sounds scared Katie, but Stodel helped desensitise her to this sensory input and Katie now uses it for reading, drawing, spelling, piano playing, problem-solving and listening to music. “Katie delights in being able to achieve ‘pen and paper tasks’ with ease, accuracy and speed for the first time in her life,” explains Hansford. “The iPad is supporting transformational change in her daily life. For example, she no longer expresses her needs by issuing short, gruff demands, but is now able to frame polite requests.”

benefits and limits Tablets are easy to handle, which motivates children like Matt and Katie to participate in the learning process. When it’s difficult to move your body, you are often reliant on others choosing your activities for you.

With the tablet being so simple to manipulate, children can choose which application they want to use, giving them control over their own journey of exploration and learning.

Stodel has integrated technology into her work with children with autism, Down’s syndrome, learning difficulties and other developmental problems. She loves how user friendly tablet computers are and how highly motivating it is for children to learn using these gadgets. One can download thousands of applications, many of which are free, so there is something for everyone.

Although she thoroughly recommends it as a therapeutic tool and an educational device, she offers some cautions. Some children become so engrossed with the tablet in their hands that they make less eye contact and engage less with people, which is counter-productive in children with autism who struggle with relating. Other children with obsessive-compulsive tendencies may become fixated on it, throwing tantrums when encouraged to engage in other activities. There have been some articles claiming that these computers work miracles, but Stodel brings perspective by reminding us that, as with all tools, they are only as effective as the person who handles them. Similarly, they only become remarkable empowering tools when the child’s team of parents, therapists and teachers facilitate it well. A helpful hint Stodel offers is that one should ensure that the applications are in line with the child’s developmental goals, thereby providing enough challenge so as not to be boring, but not too difficult so that there is no chance of success.

What is so meaningful for us as parents is that, through Matt’s interactions with the iPad, we are able to see what he is indeed capable of. Before, when he was trapped by the limitations of his body, we would only see glimpses of Matt’s potential. The iPad removes the confines of hands and a mouth that just won’t do what he wants them to, and allows him to show us how much he really understands. As much as Matt loves the ability to achieve, we love being surprised by his achievements.

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unlock the magic of Disney World Your family’s fastpass to the most magical place on earth. child magazine

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t is fitting that Walt Disney World’s Magic Kingdom is sold as “the most magical place on earth”. Ask a child where in the world they would most like to visit and, chances are, their answer will be “Disney World”. And it’s not only the under-18s who think so.

The Walt Disney World Resort in Florida, Disney World, is the world’s most visited Disney resort. With over 52 million visitors annually – almost the entire population of South Africa – you’d be forgiven for thinking this “Small World” is in fact rather large and a bit intimidating to navigate.

what to do With four theme parks and two water parks, planning is the magic ingredient. Each park offers a different experience, so research which 20

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park and attractions your family would enjoy the most.

Here’s where all the fun and excitement happens: • Magic Kingdom: Home to all your favourite Disney characters, rides and that fairytale castle • Epcot: Lots to learn and ignite your imagination – visit Future World and the World Showcase, featuring 11 countries • Disney’s Hollywood Studios: The world of music, theatre, television and movies • Disney’s Animal Kingdom: Safaris, expeditions, and treks through the world’s wilderness areas all in one park • Disney’s Typhoon Lagoon: A giant wave pool, waterslides and H20 Glow Nights, this one’s for water babies the world over • Disney’s Blizzard Beach: A one-time ski resort melting into a water

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top tips to make your Disney World experience fantastic

1. have a plan: Go with a plan, but know that it will change. It is about finding that balance. Also, check your planned itinerary with Disney’s calendar as some attractions may actually be closed to accommodate events.

2. download the app: The key to unlocking the magic of Disney World won’t be found under a pot plant alongside the door of Cinderella’s Castle. It is on your mobile device.

Download the ‘My Disney Experience App’ to see real-time queue wait

wonderland, with raft rides, a one-acre wave pool and, our favourite, Ski Patrol Training Camp “Everybody plans to do a park a day and by the third day, they’re exhausted,” says Missy Maguire, a former travel agent specialising in Disney vacations.

She suggests that you plan for a park a day, but schedule rest time and a few extra days in between. “You are allowed to leave and re-enter parks on the same day. Don’t be afraid to take naps, no matter how old you are.”

Ideally, visitors need a week at Disney World. If you only have one day and are travelling with small kids, then rather visit the Magic Kingdom.

“And, whatever you do, don’t miss the Magic Kingdom’s fireworks show,” Maguire says. “The show uses choreographed projection mapping on Cinderella’s Castle and pyrotechnics to create a truly magical spectacle.

There is no better way to end a day at Disney World.”

times, book Fastpasses and even pre-order food.

You’ll still have to queue, but many of these are interactive and will keep you entertained.

3. ask the experts: Disney employees, called cast members, are there to help. Each park has a guest relations area, and there are cast members stationed around the parks to offer insider tips.

4. schedule downtime: Embrace your inner Sleeping Beauty and schedule in time for a nap now and then.

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You don’t have to pay Disney prices for food. Grab an Uber to a Walgreens or Walmart nearby and buy some snacks.

You’re allowed to bring food into the parks. You also don’t have to stay at a Disney resort. There are many hotels close to Disney World that offer benefits and perks. Staying on-site is convenient though and can save you time thanks to complimentary transfers.

when to go Disney World is a magical experience 365 days of the year, so it is always busy. Maguire suggests visiting in October or November, as it is not as hot, humid or rainy as in the summer months and there are fewer tour groups.

The whole Disney World experience is designed for families and presents a wonderful opportunity to make some precious memories.

So, if there was ever a perfect family getaway, this is it.

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the pros and cons of gaming in the digital world To keep our children safe in the virtual playgrounds where they now play, we need to know as much as we can about the online activities they’re engaged in.

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y son, aged six, is obsessed with Minecraft. When he’s not playing the game, he’s talking about zombies and “mods” he wants to work/explore. We were naturally concerned about his over-enthusiasm for this online game that involved portals and pickaxes. So, we decided to find out more. I downloaded a few cheat sheets and ventured into the modular world that held my son transfixed.

While I am not a fan of the exploding creepers, I am impressed by the game’s three-dimensionality. My son has even managed to create a model of the Titanic; unwittingly applying principles of geometry and dimension to complete the task. So, we’ve decided that if his activity is closely monitored within the parameters we set out, Minecraft does have features that can positively engage his creativity and spatial awareness.

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getting the balance right As with any pursuit, too much of a good thing can be detrimental. We should always monitor our children’s screen time, and at the same time, apply limits. According to the American Association of Pediatrics (AAP), children younger than six should have no more than one hour of screen time a day.

Older children should have restricted and closely-monitored screen access.

Online games should be just one aspect of a child’s downtime; not the only source of entertainment. The World Health Organisation this year classified “gaming disorder” as a mental health condition because of the risks associated with excessive digital gaming activities.

Andrew Przybylski, a psychologist at the Oxford Internet Institute, notes that excessive levels of online play “may crowd out opportunities

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commonsensemedia.org/blog/everything-you-need-to-know-about-minecraft saferinternetsouthafrica.co.za/online-games/ for face-to-face social and imaginative play” and encourage aggression and a desensitisation to risky behaviour. These could contribute to feelings of depression and anxiety. Dr Merryn Young, a Cape Townbased psychiatrist, says there’s a risk that the time spent gaming could displace real-life social activity. Studies have also shown that gaming can lead to changes in cognitive brain areas, adds Young. In the developing adolescent brain, changes in the neural reward system associated with feeling pleasure and motivation can make children more vulnerable to the negative impacts of gaming such as addiction and mood swings. “The ability to distinguish fantasy from reality develops with age and it is particularly important for parents to ensure that the content of games is developmentally-appropriate,” she adds.

Children engaged in multiplayer games tend to play for longer than they should as they don’t want to disappoint their teams. Reward patterns in games also play a role. “As you move up in levels, the rewards become more random and sporadic and this encourages more persistent playing because your brain has been trained to keep on with the behaviour until you can get the next reward.”

a foundation for the future Bec Oakley, writing on “minemum”, a blog for parents wanting to know more about Minecraft, highlights some of the positive aspects of online gaming. She says many of the games teach concepts such as logic, problem-solving and goal-setting, science, economics and literacy. Online games also introduce children to the basics of coding, which has been identified as one of the most important career options of the future. Children have to use memory and imagination to progress, and they are encouraged to take risks and learn from their mistakes, says Oakley.

Young agrees, saying that with responsible use, online gaming can be a “healthy recreational activity that provides an avenue for relaxation and a space for children to develop a sense of autonomy and competence”. Furthermore, she says research has shown improvements in several types of attention with online gaming, as well as enhanced visuospatial and motor skills. “Some studies have even explored positive aspects of gaming in improving memory in older adults,” Young adds.

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online predators But, as with any playground – virtual or real – a child is at risk if there are multiple players and adults involved. Online gaming allows for interactive play with anyone in the world in real time. Unfortunately, the anonymity of this virtual platform also creates opportunities for online predators wanting to groom children. Some games also allow players to generate their own content, which may be inappropriate or offensive. A mother in the UK received a nasty shock recently when she spotted a character in her seven-year-old daughter’s Roblox game simulating a violent sexual attack. The game’s developers apologised for the hack and took immediate steps to protect the platform. But, the breach is a stark reminder that parents need to be savvy about the how their children play online games.

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Find out about the game your child is playing. Know the game’s age rating but don’t assume that this means the content is appropriate for your child.

Tighten privacy settings and turn off chat functions. Most online platforms have parental controls so that you can monitor the content.

Restrict gaming to single-player mode, or opt for multiplayer LAN (local area network is a group of devices that share a common wireless link to a server) games.

Help your child to self-regulate by explaining the dangers of grooming and what to do if they encounter inappropriate content. Enforce the rule that they may never share personal information or images online. Dr Young says it’s helpful to chat to children about their experiences and reasons for playing – be it to socialise, explore a fantasy world or to escape reality – to keep the lines of communication open.

The AAP recommends setting up a family media plan, based on the needs of your child and the family, that stipulates how much screen time is allowed and what games may be played. Include set times when screen time is forbidden and locations in the house, such as the bedroom, were devices may not be used. If possible, limit gaming activity to a communal living space where you can keep an eye on them.

Be firm about screen time limits, even if this means putting a timer next to the computer or installing third party software that automatically shuts down the game at set times.

Maintain a healthy balance of activities that include old-fashioned board games and outdoor activities.

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deterioration of relationships with family members and isolation from others less motivation to engage in offline activities, including academic pursuits and physical activity preoccupation with thoughts about the previous or next online session irritability when unable to play lying about time spent playing or online purchases made physical effects such as fatigue, headaches, poor personal hygiene or, in extreme cases, carpal tunnel syndrome.

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Minecraft – from the age of 7 or 13 depending on the version of the game Fortnite – from age 12 Roblox – from age 10 Pixel Gun – from age 12 Zoo Tycoon – all ages Lego Dimension – from age 10

what’s the fuss about Fortnite?

Type “Fortnite” into any parenting group on Facebook and you will find a deluge of comments from parents concerned about the online game’s apparent hold over their children. The shooting game is described as a cross between Minecraft and Hunger Games and Fortnite Battle Royale is the free version that reportedly has more than 40 million players worldwide.

Competitors are dropped on an island where they have to build structures and do battle with each other using firearms and other weapons to be the last player standing. The object of the game is ostensibly to kill, so that one player emerges victorious. But it uses high-quality, cartoon-like graphics that make the game appealing to younger viewers. It is also one of the more social options out there, as it works best on a multiplayer platform and there is chat functionality.

Players can team up with friends, or connect with others around the world.

Dr Kristy Goodwin, an Australian children’s technology and development expert, says Fortnite can be played on a range of devices and at any time. The game is addictive because of the compulsive loops built into the play. It’s the adrenalin rush to be had from almost winning, that “keeps (players) enthralled and wanting more and more”, she explains. A nine-year-old girl in the UK even refused to take toilet breaks while playing. But Goodwin says that, as with any online game, there are pros and cons, and parents are advised to apply appropriate controls and time restrictions.

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play with your food Looking for a way to encourage your children to eat healthy food? Let them play with their food. The creative ideas below are from Sam Scarborough’s book Fun Foods: Healthy Meals for Kids.

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Sail away in a cucumber boat filled with tangy tuna mayo. ingredients • small cucumbers • tuna mayonnaise (homemade or bought) • wedge of yellow pepper • lemon wedges, for serving • you need: wooden or bamboo skewers Slice the cucumber in half lengthways and divide each half in two. (This will make four boats, so adjust the quantities

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“Little fishes eat their dishes”…

Get creative with this underwater fish scene. Make the first picture yourself; the kids are sure to want to make and eat more little fishies and bubbles. If you use a brown paper background, they can draw other fish, and sharks too.

Brown paper placemats are brilliant for creative children.

Save this idea for lunch when they are home for the holidays. ingredients • sliced wholewheat, brown and/or white bread • ham slices • cheese slices • cucumber or green apple

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as required). Cut a thin slice off one side to create a flat base, and cut a thin slice off the top of each cucumber half to use for the sail. Use a spoon to remove the pips and hollow out some of the flesh for the boat. Fill the hollow with tuna mayo. Secure the thin slice of cucumber to the skewer for the sail, curving it to look as if it is billowing in the wind. Press the end of the skewer into the centre of the cucumber boat. Cut a triangle of yellow pepper and secure it to the top of the skewer for the flag.

• parsley or coriander • small red or green grapes Use a fish-shaped cookie cutter or a sharp knife to make fish shapes from the bread.

Lay the shapes on a piece of brown paper, or on a suitable tray or platter. Cut the ham, cheese, cucumber or apple to depict the gills and scales.

(You can also use mayonnaise or any other suitable spread to decorate the fish). Add pieces of cucumber or apple and cheese for the eyes.

Decorate the scene with “seaweed” made from parsley or coriander leaves, and add bubble trails with a line of small grapes.

car rolls

Is it a roll or a Rolls-Royce?

Zoot up a small bread roll by adding wheels and funny drivers. For younger children, one roll will suffice, but older ones might eat more, so we’ve given two ways to make up the rolls. ingredients • cocktail bread rolls • butter • your choice of fillings (ham, cheese, tuna mayo, etc.)

• cucumber slices • cherry tomatoes, halved • hard-boiled egg • cheese • carrot sticks • you need: cocktail sticks, to secure the ingredients (cut or break them, as necessary) Cut the roll in half, butter both halves and fill with your choice of filling. To make the wheels, place half a cherry tomato

fruit faces

Use fruit to create funny faces.

Serve these as soon as you make them otherwise the banana will start to discolour. ingredients • naartjie • strawberries • sweetmelon (spanspek) • dried banana chips • bueberries • pumpkin seeds or seedless raisins • banana

in the middle of a cucumber slice and insert a cocktail stick through the centre. Use the cocktail stick to secure the wheel to the side of the roll.

Make four wheels. For one of the rolls, peel the hard-boiled egg, halve it and position the egg, yolk side down, on top of the roll, to resemble the “driver”. Secure the egg with a cocktail stick, leaving it sticking out of the egg. To the cocktail stick, add a small circle of cucumber for a bowler hat and a sliver of cucumber or cheese for a feather, pressing them down gently to secure.

Add small circles of cucumber for the eyes. For the other roll, make a face with a strip of cheese and add pieces of carrot stick for the hair and eyes. Use a cocktail stick to fix half a cherry tomato to the front of the roll for a headlamp. Remind children to remove any cocktail sticks before they start eating.

Peel the naartjie and divide the segments in half. Place one half flat side down on the plate.

Peel the banana and cut a thin slice off the back so it rests on the plate without falling over.

Cut a mouth in the banana and set in place. Scoop small balls of melon and position them for the ears. Add banana chips and pumpkin seeds or seedless raisins for the eyes.

Add blueberry “hair” and half a strawberry or a melon ball for the nose.

about the book

The aim is to put fun back into feeding children. Filled with 60 practical, easy-to-make recipes Fun Foods: Healthy Meals for Kids by Samantha Scarborough aims to get parents and children involved in the preparation of meals, while promoting a healthy approach to eating.

The book is published by Struik Lifestyle (R170).

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Many children find it challenging to study for exams, but parents can assist in making this process a little easier by following these seven tips.

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reparing for tests can be hard for anyone. Studying when you have concentration issues can be even harder. But there are ways in which parents can help their children overcome these difficulties when it comes to exam time. Children may struggle to sit still, could become distracted by slight noises in an otherwise quiet room, or may have difficulty focusing on learning for the test, or on the test itself. The concerns are as varied as the children with ADD or ADHD, but parents and teachers can work together to find a solution for each individual child.

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Get organised: If your child struggles to focus, help them to prioritise tasks.

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You may need to sit with them at first, to help make lists, organise and structure the time before a test and divide work into manageable steps. Help them figure out what study techniques and tools work best for them, so they can start to organise their work, make notes and work through the material. Older children may work well in study groups.

Find your space: Everyone learns differently. Children with ADHD may be more inclined to pace, move or fidget while they learn. They may need a quiet space, or one with a low hum of background noise. Try to accommodate these needs as much as possible.

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test. This means taking the time to learn the material, rather than just cramming the night before. As soon as a test date has been set, get them to start revising and learning. Don’t let them find lots of other little projects to do, this will only lead to distraction and delays. Your child may also say they know the material, but if they don’t, the pressure of a test could trip them up. Encourage revision through practice tests, worksheets and quizzes.

Take a break: The length of time someone can concentrate varies, and what you’re concentrating on makes a difference. If your child is interested in the subject they may be able to focus for longer. But breaks are still necessary.

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30 minutes – then set a timer for a quick break, preferably to get up and move, before hitting the books again.

Stay healthy: Eating a balanced diet and having a healthy breakfast every day (but especially on the morning of a test) is essential. Encourage exercise every day, particularly during study sessions, and make sure your child gets a good night’s sleep before any test – another good reason not to cram.

In the test: Remind your child to relax during the test. They can take deep breaths, and even short mental breaks, if they find they’re losing focus. Also encourage them to check their answers before handing in the test, so that if they did lose concentration, they can correct any mistakes.

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sow seeds of love, harvest family unity It’s national Garden Day on Sunday 21 October. Get the family (and friends) together to celebrate the beauty of gardening. It’s a child-friendly and educational pastime, too.

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here’s nothing quite like the joy of gardening! It’s a wonderful way for children to connect to nature, take pride in growing their own plants, flowers and food and, of course, there are amazing health benefits that go along with gardening. Children are natural gardeners; they like to learn and understand by doing hands-on work, and love to play in the dirt. So, this Garden Day, gather the family, your friends and get gardening.

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Make flower crowns together, using fresh flowers and greenery from your garden.

• Choose your flowers and gather the tools needed, these include secateurs, florists’ wire and rope for the base (you’ll need to help children with the tools and techniques).

• Create small posies by tying bunches of blooms together with the florists’ wire.

• Attach the posies to the rope by facing stems in the same direction and overlapping as you go along. Leave the ends of the rope clear to allow for an easily adjustable crown size.

Paint rocks and pebbles, these create a pretty and playful environment. The brighter and more personalised they are, the lovelier they will look in your garden.

Make and hang a bird feeder, this is a fun way for you and your children to get to know which birds are native to your area and what calls they make. It is also an excellent way to help out our feathered friends when their food sources are limited. This is a good one to get dad involved, he can help with cutting/sawing wood, screwing and glueing.

Go on a bug hunt. Set your children off to see how many different insects they can find in the garden.

Collect them in a container so that you and the children can see them better with a magnifying glass. Return them to the wild when you have finished!

Let the children camp in the garden. If you have a safe and secure garden or backyard, let your kids enjoy the night camping right outside the house. All kids love a campout!

Create miniature fairy gardens filled with magic. Choose a corner of a flower bed, under a tree, even in a pot on the patio – fairy gardens are so small they’ll fit in any space – and add fairy figurines and toadstools.

Paint flower pots, then let the children plant their own seeds and dot around the garden or on the patio, it makes the outside area look bright and inviting and children will enjoy watching the seeds germinate.

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Host a plant club for your children and their friends. Ask everyone to bring interesting plants to swap with each other.

Create a garden-themed masterpiece. Painting with kids is usually a messy activity, so where better to do it than the garden? Let your children look around and get motivation from the garden or paint scenes of their garden. As Impressionist painter Claude Monet said: “My garden is my most beautiful masterpiece.”

Have dinner in the garden. Make dishes featuring a homegrown ingredient, and get your children to join in the picking of the vegetables or herbs and help prepare the dinner.

Craft fun vases by cutting off the top of a butternut squash (hopefully grown in your own veggie garden) and filling it with freshly-picked flowers.

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What you do on Garden Day is completely up to you, but it’s a great opportunity to get together, enjoy communing with nature and celebrate your garden.

The glory of gardening: hands in the dirt, head in the sun, heart with nature. To nurture a garden is to feed not just the body, but the soul.

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books

a good read In celebration of spring, we’ve rounded up a selection of books about bugs, bees, birds and butterflies.

My Green Day

By Melanie Walsh (Walker Books, R131) Turn the innovative shaped pages to reveal 10 ways in which every child can make their day greener. With a helpful explanation to back up every activity, this is the perfect picture book for teaching young children the importance of conserving the world around them. Suitable for ages 3+.

James’s Giant Bug Book

By Roald Dahl (Penguin Random House, R175) At the end of the garden, a peach starts to grow and GROW AND GROW. Seven very unusual creepy-crawlies are inside that peach and they are all waiting to take James on an adventure. Join James, The Centipede, The Earthworm and the rest of the gang in this journey around the world of insects. It’s packed with facts and fun activities to try at home such as building your very own bug hotel! Suitable for ages 5+.

Tullula

By Refiloe Moahholi (Yellow Hat Publishers, R249) Tullula is a majestic bird born into royalty – the ndunas of the herd. Being a nduna means having to guard the skies at night (although it’s not entirely clear what the ndunas are guarding against). Tullula longs for something different, so she sneaks off during the day while the rest of the ndunas are sleeping to explore what life is like living in sunlight. Includes a bonus CD featuring the Tullula song and a reading of the story by the author. Suitable for ages 3+.

A Busy Day for Birds

By Lucy Cousins (Walker Books, R140) Peck, hop, flap and make some noise in this story full of colour, rhyme and feathered friends! Flap your wings, fly up high, open your beak and sing in this fun action rhyme story about fantastical birds by multi-award-winning author Lucy Cousins.

Suitable for ages 2+.

Hungry Birds of Africa

By Haden Clendinning (Penguin Random House, R50) Africa is richly blessed with bird species. Haden Clendinning introduces nine different, hungry birds via their eating habits. Written in rhyming verse, the text is fun yet educational and young readers or listeners will find out whether the birds are still hungry by their respective bedtimes. Each bird is magnificently illustrated in colour. Suitable for ages 4–8.

The Guinea Fowl’s Spots

By Dianne Stewart (Penguin Random House, R130) This is a unique collection of African folktales, exclusively about birds. Drawn from across the continent, these tales often draw on human characteristics and are followed by African proverbs that illustrate various moral lessons.

Suitable for ages 9–12.

A School Where I Belong

By Dylan Wray, Roy Hellenberg, Jonathan Jansen (Bookstorm, R219) Drawing on the authors’ experiences in sup­porting schools over the past 20 years, and the insight of those interviewed, the book outlines six areas where true transformation in South African classrooms and schools can begin.

Forever Outnumbered

By Simon Hooper (Hodder, R312) The story of a man’s journey to parenthood – from a 24-year-old man-child with no idea of what being a dad involved to where he finds himself today: The single male in a household of five women, or in other words, outnumbered. His house is now known as “the place where silence came to die”. It’s also where you’ll find carpets that are made up of 50% glitter and where there are more pink stuffed animals than at a colour-blind taxidermist. But, he wouldn’t change a thing.

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what’s on in october & november

For more events go to childmag.co.za/whats-on or submit an event for our December/January issue before 2 November to pretoria@childmag.co.za

20 September–21 October Peter and the Wolf An imaginative telling of Peter and the Wolf, with a South African flair. Suitable for age 5+.

Time: Various matinee and evening performances, tickets from R130 upwards, book at online.computicket.com Venue: Montecasino Studio Theatre Contact: mark@montetheatre.co.za.

22 and 23 September Hockey training Hockey professionals and coaches from the Investec Hockey Academy are running training courses for players aged 8 to 18 and coaches of all levels.

Venue: St Mary’s School, 186 Duxbury Rd, Hillcrest, Pretoria Contact: Bernadine Miller (031) 940 5565, bernadine@investecacademy.com or investechockeyacademy.com

27 September– 2 October Tierlantynkies Kuier en Koopfees A family-friendly design and food fair with wine tasting, craft beer, live music and children’s entertainment.

Time: 9am–6pm (Thursday–Saturday and Monday), 10am–4pm (Sunday) and 9am–4pm (Tuesday) Venue: 3Ci, 56 Saal St Zwavelpoort, Pretoria-East Contact: ronel@tierlantynkies.co.za, tierlantynkies.co.za

Contact: 082 423 0603 / 084 804 0490, tshwaneyouththeatre@gmail.com for bookings

5–7 October rAge Expo Get info on the latest in gaming hardware and software, apparel and accessories, plus esport spectating, cosplay, geek arts and culture, at this annual expo.

Time: 10am (Friday), 9am (Saturday and Sunday) Venue: Ticketpro Dome, Northriding Cost: U/6s enter free, R150 for a day pass, R300 for a weekend pass, tickets available at the door or from online.computicket.com

4 and 5 October The Jungle book A full-scale production performed by children for children. Raised by a family of wolves since birth, Mowgli must now leave the only home he’s ever known. Guided by no-nonsense panther Bagheera and free-spirited bear Ballou, the young boy meets an array of jungle animals, and learns valuable life lessons as his journey of selfdiscovery leads to fun and adventure.

Time: 3pm (Thursday) and 6pm (Friday) Venue: Theatre on Pointe, Hatfield Plaza Cost: R110 from ticketspace.co.za Contact: 012 460 6033

29 September–6 October Rumpelstiltskin A theatrical production of the Grimms’ fairytale.

Time: Daily shows (except for Sundays) 10:30am and 2:30pm. Evening show on 5 October at 6:30pm and three shows at 9:30am, 12:30pm and 3:30pm (6 Oct) Venue: Irene Village Theatre Cost: R95 (adults), R85 (children seated on floor cushions) 32

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5–14 October The Nutcracker Joburg Ballet presents an enchanting new production of The Nutcracker. With exquisite dancing, beautiful sets and music by the Johannesburg Philharmonic Orchestra, this production is an unforgettable treat.

Time: Various performances including matinees.

Venue: Joburg Theatre, Braamfontein Cost: Tickets range from R100 to R475, book through Joburg Theatre Box Office 0861 670 670 or online at joburgtheatre.com or webtickets.co.za Contact: Fiona Walsh 011 877 6900 / 084 405 1112, or fionaw@joburgballet.com

17 October–2 December Matilda The Musical Matilda The Musical tells the story of an extraordinary little girl with a vivid imagination and a sharp mind who is determined to change her destiny.

Time: 8pm (Tuesday–Fridays), 3pm and 8pm (Saturdays) and 1:30pm and 6pm (Sundays) Cost: Tickets from R420–R520, book at online. computicket.com Venue: Teatro Montecasino Contact: 011 510 7472

5 October THOMAS & FRIENDS™: BIG WORLD! BIG ADVENTURES! Opens today. This new CG-animated movie sees Thomas leave Sodor for the very first time to travel to Africa, South America, USA and China meeting new friends along the way. The fun-packed plot is full of wonder and curiosity, animals and several musical songs.

Time: Check your local Ster-Kinekor theatre Venue: Ster-Kinekor theatres nationwide

Times: Shows at 9:30 am, 11am and 4:30pm Venue: Ticketpro Dome Cost: Tickets range from R190–R590 from ticketpros.co.za

21 October Fun duathlon 11 October World Sight Day World Sight Day is aimed at raising awareness and increasing resources to achieve eye care everywhere. Sight is essential in early childhood development as almost 75% of a child’s early learning comes through vision. Early treatment in children is critical, preferably before age six when the brain and the eye are still developing. South African NGO Orbis Africa has compiled a checklist for parents and caregivers of young children.

Find it at orbisafrica.co.za/eye-carechecklist-for-parents-and-caregivers/

20 October Fun Walk A 5km walk inside the National Zoo in Pretoria that is suitable for the whole family.

Time: Opens at 6am, the walk starts at 7:30am Venue: National Biodiversity Institute (SANBI), National Zoological Garden, 232 Boom Street, Pretoria Cost: R50 (adults) and R40 (children u/18) Contact: Lettie Appelgrein 012 323 0294, info@fotz.co.za

20–21 October PAW Patrol Live!

PAW Patrol Live! Race to the Rescue is an action-packed, high-energy, musical adventure.

A fun run, bike, run event especially for children, various distances for different ages (2–14 years). Parents are welcome to run/ride with their kids for free.

Time: 8am Venue: The Big Red Barn, 7 Nelson Road, Olifantsfontein Cost: R150 online pre-entry or R170 late entry on the day Contact: Kirsty Searle 083 326 6721, kirsty@ like2bike.co.za or like2bike.co.za

26 October Camp for diabetic children Children 6–16 years with diabetes can join this weekend camp.

Venue: Wag ’n Bietjie Adventure Camp Cost: R600 per child Contact: Mariaan Marais, 079 319 0887, pretoriadiabetes@hotmail.com

27–28 October Lego Brick Fair Toy Adventures is hosting a gathering of LEGO lovers. Come and view tables filled with collections of LEGO and amazing creations.

Let the children find inspiration and enjoy the wonderful world of LEGO. Time: 9am–6pm (27 Oct), 9am–3pm (28 Oct) Venue: Toy Adventures at The Grove Mall Cost: Free entry Contact: 010 007 3078

28 October FUNdamentals MTB skills course A two-hour clinic aimed at entrenching safety, bicycle control and respect and appreciation for the bike. Suitable for ages 4–12 years.

Time: 8am Venue: Riversands Farm Village, Rose Road, Knopjeslaagte Cost: R300 online, only pre-entries allowed Contact: Kirsty Searle 083 326 6721, kirsty@ like2bike.co.za or like2bike.co.za

3 November Fun 50th Year Birthday Bash Irene Pre-primary school celebrates 50 years with a day of fun and activities and market stalls.

Time: 9am Venue: 39 Crawford Road, Irene, Centurion Cost: Free entry Contact: Trudy Sonnenberg 012 667 1813

17 November 2018 Zoo Walk A 5km walk inside the National Zoo in Pretoria that is suitable for the whole family.

Time: Opens at 6am, walk starts at 7:30am Venue: National Biodiversity Institute (SANBI), National Zoological Garden, 232 Boom Street, Pretoria Cost: R50 (adults) and R40 (children u/18) Contact: Lettie Appelgrein 012 323 0294, info@ fotz.co.za

holiday programmes

29 September–6 October Spring Holiday Camp A week-long camp for children 7–14 offering various physical activities throughout the day.

Children are split into age groups and each group is allocated a counsellor.

Venue: Happy Acres, Old Rustenburg Road (R24), Magaliesburg Cost: R2 200, including accommodation, meals and tuck Contact: Jannis Rodrigues 083 449 5123, admin@happyacres.co.za or happyacres.co.za

1–4 October Kidz Fishing Camp Not only do they learn to fish, but the children participate in a lot of other fun activities aimed at connecting them with nature.

Venue: Villa Nova at the Vaal River Contact: Manuela Candito 083 610 2911, nella. villanova@gmail.com or kidzfishingcamp.co.za

open days

17 October Hatfield Montessori Preschool Come and see what this preschool has to offer.

Time: 3pm–5pm Venue: 1307 South Street, Hatfield Contact: 012 362 0269, info@hatfield.co.za 33

final touch

moms can play games, too If you can’t beat them, join them.

Craig, Conor, Erin and Anél

anél lewis

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typical day generally includes various permutations of the following: “Conor, please put on your shoes.” Silence.

I repeat myself. No sign of life from the TV room.

“Conor, put on your shoes.” My tone starts to change. Unfazed, Conor remains as inert as an indolent dassie posing for tourists on Table Mountain. I raise the level of my voice for the third demand. “Conor, shoes!” He looks up as if he has just heard me for the first time. “I can’t find them.” Seriously? I know they are lying on top of his Lego box. I shout that he has five minutes to find them, or else. Some gratuitous huffing and puffing can be heard from the next room, and the sound of a box being shifted half-heartedly. I even hear a bit of a drumbeat as

he wanders off course to pump out a quick set, clearly forgetting the task at hand. “Nope, they are not here,” he eventually replies. Furious, I storm into the room to locate the shoes and, in exasperation, actually put them on his feet.

Why is it that children are unable to find essential items of clothing and belongings in the real world, but ask them to dodge a zombie or find a pickaxe in a virtual one, and they suddenly develop skills that would put forensic investigators to shame? When playing one of his favourite online games, Conor is amazingly astute. He can build ships and create threedimensional structures. But, don’t ask him to make his real bed or locate a missing rugby ball. Well, as they say in the classics, “if you

can’t beat them, join them”. So, when Conor asked me for chocolate milk a few days later, I pretended to be engaged in a fascinating game of Minecraft. “Sorry, I don’t know where the milk is,” I mumbled, staring at my phone screen. After a few more pleas for refreshments fell on deaf ears (mine for a change), Conor realised what was going on. “Okay, Mom, if I make my bed, can I have some milk and maybe play Minecraft?” Who says us parents can’t play the game too? We just need to be sure that we’re the ones setting the rules.

Anél is now also caught up in the Minecraft fad and has her own game set up. If only she could locate that elusive gold ingot that she has been searching for. Maybe Conor can help ….

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magazine | pretoria October/November 2018