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Editorial My first pregnancy took me by surprise – huge surprise. And I have to say that the word “huge” has stayed with me throughout this “parenting” thing. In the first few weeks with Julian, I kept waiting for someone to knock on the door and say, “thanks for looking after my baby, but I’ve come to get her now”. It was only after six weeks, when I went to the pathologist and asked for “my daughter’s test results” that it hit me; “she really is my daughter and I am her mom”.

To “huge” I have to add “humbling”. My children have taught me to apologise – to them, quite difficult, – and to my husband, really difficult. These days my parenting experiences alternate between humorous and harrowing. As our children grow up they, and society, throw all kinds of curve balls at us, balls we couldn’t in a million years have

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anticipated. Reading about keeping lines of communication open with your teenager, but keeping the door firmly closed on a messy room is, well, just that, reading. In real life, it’s really difficult. Parenting is definitely not for the faint-hearted – but the rewards, which are plentiful, make it worthwhile.

I look at them across the kitchen counter every morning and my eyes fill with tears; they are so beautiful and I am so honoured to be their mother.

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health

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a note from lisa

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readers respond

features 10 how to fight right

swimming lessons

male infertility is on the increase.

By Tamlyn Vincent 9

healthy mom

Tamlyn Vincent asks the experts about a mom’s diet when breast-feeding

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i t’s not about if you fight, but how you fight. By Glynis Horning

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14 island of the gods 7 upfront with paul

Lisa Mc Namara and her family discover beautiful Bali

Paul Kerton believes we should teach our children to drink responsibly

17 art smart

running out of room to exhibit your child’s artwork? Elaine Eksteen gives solutions

22 resource – helping hands

a list of services that come to your house to make life easier for you.

Compiled by Lucille Kemp

18 x vs z – the new generation game

Rodney Weidemann finds out how generation X and generation Z can bridge the great divide

28 a good read

new books for the whole family

30 what’s on in june 46 last laugh

Sam Wilson is the “child” in the car on family road trips

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help for a new mom I’d like to commend you on an amazing publication. I’ve just recently become a mom, and your magazine has been a godsend. I, like most new moms I’m sure, turn to magazines for answers, and most times end up more clueless than before. I’ve tried, without any success, to access a support group or network of moms as I feel I’ll most likely get some answers there. And, after reading

your magazine from cover to cover, I’ve not only found the answers I was looking for, I have also found a mom’s networking group.

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eager to get planning Thanks again for a great party issue. My palms actually get sweaty when I receive my copy and I have to

control myself so that I don’t start planning my two children’s parties immediately. Their birthdays are only in October and December, so it’s hard to hold back. I want to try out all the ideas, but it’s not quite the time yet.

But come August, I can start planning the first party and be on that fun roller-coaster ride of planning, baking, building and scheming until the middle of December.

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comments posted on our website on the cool lunchbox book extract: I have five children – four boys and a girl – who eat tons. I generally give a very healthy lunch box but the cost is huge. Any more ideas on filler uppers? – Mel Plan your week, so that the boredom of the sandwich can be avoided. Try a pasta salad for one day – especially if there’s lots of sport. I also occasionally buy pies on busy days and my girls really enjoy them. Be sure that the protein content of your lunch box is sufficient, as that also helps to sustain their energy. Try chicken drumsticks or mini frikkadels. My girls love cheese, so I would pack a variety of small portions of cheese (these can

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be bought, or I cling wrap smaller portions) and crackers as a filler. Baby tomatoes or gherkins with the cheese make it a picnic. – author of The Cool Lunchbox, Sandy Harper in reply to the working mom’s blog: I wish I could stay at home permanently with my son, but unfortunately we can’t survive on just one salary. – Natalie I think that working mothers should lobby for a momfriendly working environment with childcare at the work place, or close by, flexible hours and working from home options during some periods. – Nathea

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This month, being Child Safety Month, reminds us of the importance of our children’s safety around the house. Statistically, the home is the most common place for young children to be injured. However, childhood injuries are preventable with careful supervision, and especially if you ensure your nanny or au pair is trained in child safety and first-aid procedures.

Super Nannies offers nanny training and firstaid classes to parents, au pairs and domestic nannies. Their first-aid trainers are registered with the Resuscitation Council of SA and The American Heart Association. Contact: 021 461 6508, Karin: 072 972 2038 or visit supernannies.co.za One reader of Cape Town’s Child stands a chance to win a Super Nannies nannytraining course valued at R1 500. To enter, email your details to karin@supernannies.co.za with “ChildMagCT Win” in the subject line before 30 June 2011. Only one entry per reader.

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Teach your children to drink responsibly, advises PAUL KERTON.

ou are at a favourite pizza place, sat outside enjoying the dappled, retreating sunlight and early evening breeze. The children are picking through the menu and you order drinks. Your son or daughter – aged let’s say six or seven – has a guzzle of their own juice and then asks for a sip of your beer or wine; reaching their hand impishly towards your glass, “Purleeease Daddy”…

Here unfolds one of the greatest dilemmas and controversies of parenthood.

Do you say “No way, wait until you are 18 and can legally drink”, while slapping the child’s hand away, or do you say “Of course darling, but sip it slowly” and watch them like a hawk as they imbibe your amber, or crisp white, nectar?

It is odd that in most societies, men and women can legally get married at 16 but can’t legally toast their own marriage.

Personally, I do enjoy a beer or a glass of wine with my meal and don’t think it is such a big deal if my daughter has a sip of my drink. I look at those European families – particularly in Greece, Spain, France and Italy – where a small glass of wine is

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a traditional part of the Sunday lunch or evening meal, whatever the age. With my own brood, if we are having champagne to celebrate something, they will always have a “glass” even if the glass is the size of a thimble to start with. Alcohol is addictive, so there are always going to be certain individuals for whom one sip is never going to be enough. Just be aware of this.

I have friends who don’t drink at all and therefore neither do their children, which is fair enough. Although, abstinence and prohibition generally make something appear more attractive than it is. The other

extreme is that if you are crawling home from the pub every night the chances are your children will, eventually, do the same.

There is conflicting research on the subject with valid scientific, health and social arguments for both sides but my take on it is: teach them to drink responsibly and you will de-mystify the whole alcohol “theatre” and rituals that go with it. Then, when they do go out en masse into the teenage quagmire, they will have a responsible attitude to alcohol, instead of swilling shooters and binge-drinking, which leads to extreme drunkenness,

attendant vulnerability and sex issues. This has become an alarming epidemic in the UK – shocking beyond belief – particularly among girls, sometimes as young as 14, regularly being photographed literally lying in high street gutters late on a Friday night.

(It also regularly afflicts international rugby players who should know better.)

The trick is to be a good role model and promote responsible drinking habits.

Sip and savour as opposed to knocking back rounds, drinking in a “safe” and familiar environment with known friends and not performing any dangerous tasks (including driving) while drinking. This responsibility also includes real social skills like knowing how to say “no” to a drink without offending, and how to discreetly get rid of a drink if one is forced upon you – “oh go on have another one…” And on those rare occasions when you simply can’t be a good role model – stag nights, reunions, and Springbok call-up – get a family member to baby-sit and stay at a guesthouse.

Paul Kerton is the author of Fab Dad: A Man’s Guide to Fathering.

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etting pregnant – that should be fun. Most couples are excited about the chance to create life. But, for some, it isn’t fun. Many couples struggle to fall pregnant and male infertility is “growing massively” says fertility specialist Dr Colin La Grange, of the Life Centre in Durban. Why is this, and what can we do about it?

Infertility is “the inability to conceive after one year of unprotected intercourse,” says Cape Town-based obstetrician/gynaecologist and fertility specialist Dr Sascha Edelstein. He says that male infertility is “the sole factor in 20 to 30 percent of cases and a contributory factor in a further 25 to 50 percent.” Male infertility can be due to a number of factors: • low sperm count: anything less than 20 million per millilitre; • abnormal sperm morphology: this is most commonly seen relating to lower levels of testosterone, says La Grange. When sperm are abnormally shaped they are not able to move properly; • poor sperm motility: the sperm aren’t moving properly; • incorrect progression: sperm should move forward, rather than in a circle.

why might this be?

These factors can result from any number of causes.

“Childhood mumps with scrotal swelling (suggesting mumps orchitis) can cause sterility”, says Edelstein. Other reasons can include overheating of the testicles (which is why

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TAMLYN VINCENT looks at male infertility and ways to improve your chances of conceiving.

undescended testicles can result in infertility), trauma to the testes, obstructions in the outflow tract, retrograde ejaculation (semen enters the bladder instead of moving out through the urethra), and impotence, adds Edelstein.

Prostate problems can also affect sperm motility, says La Grange. He also places emphasis on stress and diet, saying that when combined with stress, a poor diet can negatively affect the production of testosterone. “Chemicals in the environment,” says La Grange, “including those in detergents or shampoos, can impact fertility.” Having had a sexually transmitted disease (STD) can also affect fertility, as can using lubricants, “which can be toxic to sperm”, advises Edelstein.

watch points “In the majority of cases there are no signs to predict sterility,” says Edelstein, but there are several indicators, and men experiencing these should seek medical advice: • loss of libido; • discharge from the penis, suggesting an STD; • small testes: “the normal size is approximately that of a squash-ball,” notes Edelstein; • varicocele or enlarged veins in the scrotum, which can cause overheating, adds La Grange; • swollen, enlarged and painful testes.

In addition, men with a typical A-type personality are at high risk, says La Grange. “Stress and the production

of testosterone compete for the same resources.” When coping with stress is demanding too many of the body’s resources, insufficient testosterone is produced and sperm stop growing properly.

what can you do?

Some male-infertility causes can’t be changed, and some may need medical treatment. However, there are certain lifestyle adjustments that can improve fertility. Here are a few suggestions: • Quit smoking: “it has been shown to affect sperm DNA,” says Edelstein. Sperm take about three months to develop, so changes will only be noticed in time.

• Cut the junk out of your diet. Avoid things like coffee, alcohol, sugar, wheat, red meat and chocolate, recommends La Grange.

• “Obesity can cause erectile dysfunction, as well as reduce circulating testosterone,” says Edelstein.

• “Certain vitamins and nutrients – such as zinc, selenium, vitamins A and E, and omega supplements – can improve fertility,” says La Grange.

• Avoid drugs such as anabolic steroids or marijuana.

• Avoid overheating the testes. Heating does play a role, says La Grange, who finds that people who have a high body temperature, like those who eat lots of hot foods or sit in a hot car all day, can have more problems with poor quality sperm.

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healthy mom TAMLYN VINCENT looks into what to eat when breast-feeding.

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o, after nine months of waiting, you finally have your bundle of joy and you’re ready to start breastfeeding. If you’re a new mom, the nurse may offer you some helpful advice. Then your friends will give you their two cents’ worth; your sister-in-law and mother might also have something to add: “drink stout – it increases milk supply” or “avoid spicy food; it irritates the baby”. It’s hard to know which tips to take on and which to ignore…

To help breast-feeding mothers, we chatted to the experts and have put together some guidelines to assist you in deciding what to eat and what to avoid when breast-feeding.

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think again Some foods can cause trouble when passed on through breast milk: • Stay away from “anything that is gas forming, including broccoli, cauliflower, onion and green peas,” suggests Sister Arlette Blaylock, who runs the Gentle Touch Clinic in Durban. Other culprits are spicy foods, caffeine and chocolate.

• Coffee, tea and alcohol act as stimulants, and are “known to cause negative effects on babies’ nervous systems,” says Marié Petrelis, a nutritional therapist at Path2Health in Johannesburg.

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• Alcohol should be avoided as it “goes into maternal milk” and takes a “full hour to pass”, says Blaylock.

But avoiding everything that could potentially be an issue might leave you with little to eat. Moms should eliminate foods once they cause problems, suggests Blaylock.

“Being conscious of the food you are eating and observing any negative effects these may have on your baby is really important,” says Petrelis. She suggests keeping a food diary if your baby is experiencing problems, which could include anything from wind to colic or eczema.

go for it Here are some good food tips for breast-feeding moms: • Eat plenty of “fresh fruit and vegetables,” says Petrelis: the more variety and colour mom gets, the more nutrients baby gets.

• Rather eat whole grains (brown rice or wholegrain breads and pastas), which have more nutrients than white, refined grains.

• Oily fish is brain food for babies, says Petrelis, who recommends moms eat a variety of fish such as salmon, sardines or tuna three times a week.

• “It is important to drink enough fluid,” says Blaylock, who recommends at least two litres of water a day, plus a glass of water before, during and after each

feed. “Not drinking enough fluid can cause inadequate milk supply,” says Petrelis. Other good drinks are fruit juices (in moderation), especially berry juices, and certain herbal teas – these can be calming and can aid digestion.

useful tips • You should take pregnancy or post-pregnancy vitamins.

• Cabbage leaves can help to relieve engorgement.

“Crush them to release the enzymes and then pack them into your bra,” says Petrelis. Feeding on demand can also help to regulate milk production, and ease engorgement.

• To keep your blood sugar levels even, Petrelis suggests “eating small meals with regular snacks that include some form of protein”. Go for healthy, nutritious foods, and meals that you can make ahead of time – cook more than you need and freeze portions for another day. “A wholegrain sandwich with avo and hummus is great when there is just no time for anything else,” says Petrelis.

• “Get skin to skin contact as soon after birth as possible”, as this helps with bonding and latching with your baby, and encourages successful breast-feeding, says Blaylock.

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y late parents were wonderful, loving people but they fought fiercely. It tore me up and put me off marriage for years. When I eventually relented with a wonderful, loving man of my own, we vowed not to fight when we had children. We did, of course. We’re human – we get tired and impatient, and children provide fertile new grounds for disagreement. So we settled for just trying to fight right.

Now reassuring research shows this is all that parents need to do. Conflict is inevitable in any relationship over time, and children can benefit from seeing their parents disagreeing “and even being mildly angry”, says psychologist Patrick Davies, co-author of a major US study published in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry. “It gives them

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a lesson on how you can come to a mutually acceptable solution through compromise.” Adds fellow psychologist and researcher, E Mark Cummings, “Children actually are not disturbed by it if there are sincere efforts to problem solve. They are happy to see the parents work it out.”

Past research has focused on destructive conflict, and has clearly shown that this affects children’s emotional wellbeing, making them more prone to aggression, bad behaviour, anxiety, sleep problems and depression. A study measuring children’s stress levels while they watched their parents fight showed that their heart rates, breathing and sweat-gland activity all rose.

The US study looked at families where parental conflict was more constructive. It found that in time, these children

grew psychologically healthier and showed more “prosocial” behaviour. “They tended to be friendly to other children, to be empathetic when others were upset, and to show concerns for moral issues and for the fairness and wellness of others,” Davies concluded.

the prizes The advantages of fighting right are obvious to Karin Steyn, a Johannesburg-based counselling psychologist who works with children, and is a young mother herself.

“It’s our job as parents to teach children the skills they need to cope in life, and disagreeing constructively is one of them,” she says. “It’s unrealistic to think you’ll find a partner one day and always be happy and never

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All parents disagree, and how we do it can harm our children – or help them. GLYNIS HORNING reports.

have problems. But often children grow up with that idea because they never saw their parents fight. As adults, they have issues about expressing emotions.”

They’re shocked to learn that fighting is a normal part of a relationship, that it’s not a problem, and won’t lead to the destruction of their relationship, says Steyn. “They panic and assume that something is wrong with them and their marriage. In fact, fighting is normal and healthy, and it’s needed to grow a relationship.”

All emotions are normal and healthy, she explains, including those often seen as bad – anger, hurt, disappointment. “It’s what you do with them that is important.” If you suppress them, they can emerge in corrosive passive-aggression or in physical ills, from heart

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Fighting is normal and healthy, and it’s needed to grow a relationship. conditions to cancers. “You need to model for children how to manage emotions, so they can develop as individuals and be able to assert and stand up for themselves, and withstand peer pressure.”

Children raised in families where parents repress feelings and don’t fight grow up frightened of conflict, says Steyn. They become over-anxious in new situations,

so they avoid them, depriving themselves of opportunities in life. They are afraid to express themselves because they think they will be ostracised or punished, and won’t be loved any more. So they repress their feelings and become like pressure-cookers, waiting to explode. “These are the people who say ‘I don’t know what happened, it just overwhelmed me, I blacked out and lost control.’”

the pitfalls But fighting right can be tricky. “Most conflict is about winning, and we tend to try and win at all costs,” says Johannesburg-based clinical psychologist and couples counsellor Ian Lipman. “This often means that we get ‘personal’, saying things that we don’t necessarily intend

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and that are personally damaging. For children to experience this is destructive, as they may begin to see you or your partner based on this, rather than the reality.”

If you fight fair and clean, and disagree rather than attack each other, “you model that differences are okay and a natural part of life, and the appropriate way to deal with them,” he says. But there are still times when it’s better to wait until children are asleep or out of the house before discussing your differences. Financial or marital problems, and issues with in-laws or with the children themselves are best dealt with in private.

Fights about financial and marital problems threaten children’s sense of security, warns Margery Rosen, author of Can This Marriage Be Saved? (Workman Publishing Company). If there are money problems, you can let them know money is tight, but reassure them you have enough to take care of them, she advises.

With marital problems, even if you agree to fight away from children there will

anxiety until you know for sure and have a plan, she says.

“Bottom line is that we all fight, and learning to do it right is important not just for the children but for your marriage,” concludes Steyn. “Research shows couples who fight have healthier and happier relationships that last longer. We all have issues that won’t just go away if we leave them. Being able to confront them and resolve them is a sign of emotional maturity – it shows you are in control of your life.”

fighting right Fighting is linked to our survival instinct and is a part of life. We strengthen our relationships and give children valuable life skills when we fight right: • Fight honestly – acknowledge and name your emotions (anger, hurt, disappointment), and take responsibility for how you express them.

• Use words, not actions – no slamming doors, throwing or pounding things.

Children actually are not disturbed by it if there are sincere efforts to problem solve. invariably be flare-ups, and they will still sense the tension – however much you pretend to get along. Explain that you love each other even when you fight, that the happiest couples disagree and arguments are part of life, says Lipman. “Tell them the argument is between Mom and Dad, and doesn’t involve them – children should not be drawn into adult affairs.”

Fighting in front of children when the fight is about them can leave them assuming responsibility for the problem and feeling guilty, he says, or it can allow them to manipulate you if the disagreement concerns discipline. And fighting about inlaws threatens their sense of family – these are their grandparents, remember.

Rosen is also against fighting in front of children about things you fear “may” happen, such as moving home or losing your job. Don’t put them through the

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• If you lose your temper, admit it and walk away to regain control – “I’m going to take 10 to calm down.” When children lose their tempers, use timeouts to help them do this too.

• Later, analyse the feelings behind the fury – was it fear, hurt, envy, guilt, a need to be right or in control? Are you just tired, stressed, hormonal? Or do you need to unpack them with a professional?

• Develop a release valve such as jogging, gardening or baking, and help children develop one too – walking the dog with you, tearing or crumpling paper.

• Practise relaxing, and show the children how – meditate, listen to music, watch comedy shows and off-load with friends.

Invite children to share their feelings with you.

• As a family, talk about anger, and how different people express it. Help

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children identify it in themselves by “reflecting” it for them – “You look angry because you’re clenching your fists; is that what you’re feeling?”

• Have a “catchword” you, your partner and the children can use when you feel things are getting out of control, suggests Lipman. “It should act as a handbrake – both parties should stop immediately and take time out or continue in a more respectful fashion.”

• Watch volume (keep it down), tone (sarcasm scars), and language (avoid insults and demeaning names); and focus on the action not the person.

“No naming, blaming or shaming,” says Steyn.

• Communicate clearly, and check that you properly grasp what your partner means – no making assumptions or jumping to conclusions. Paraphrase what they say and reflect it back: “When you say that, do you mean…?”

• Hear them out – listen without interruption or judgment until they feel understood. “Consensus comes when parties feel they have been heard and respected, not necessarily agreed with,” says Lipman. “Listening validates your partner and shows you respect them.”

• Use “I” statements – “When you do X, I feel Y” – and avoid generalising or catastrophising the situation – “you always”; “you never”.

• Spell out clearly what you would like – “I feel disrespected when you don’t ring to tell me you’re running late, please call next time.”

• Never ask children to choose sides or referee – they don’t want to know

who is right and who is wrong, they just want you to love each other and not to fight destructively.

• Never talk about leaving each other – it threatens children’s sense of security.

• Be sensitive to signs of stress in children – acting out, withdrawing, stomachaches, headaches, sleep problems and overeating.

• Don’t look to win, but to negotiate a compromise. Think of arguments as simply problems to be solved, says Rosen, and let children see there’s more than one solution.

• Be aware that we sometimes fight worse in front of our children, because we don’t want to look bad. Get a grip.

• Always make up in front of them, or tell them when you have, and show your affection as a couple. “Apologising, accepting fault and forgiving teaches our children responsibility and breaks the myth and expectation of perfection,” says Lipman.

• If you still struggle to fight right, get help. See a psychologist or call Famsa: 031 202 8987, 021 447 7951, or the Family Life Centre: 011 788 4784.

how children react Fighting in front of children can affect their sense of security and the confidence they need to explore the world, says researcher E Mark Cummings, co-author of Children and Marital Conflict: An Emotional Security Perspective (Guilford Press). How we handle conflict is critical whatever your child’s age.

Under two: “Even six-month-olds are acutely sensitive to all types of conflict,” says Cummings. They may not understand what is said, but they experience distress when their prime sources of comfort yell at each other.

Tip: Tone it down, hug each other and them, and say “It’s fine, we still love each other.”

Two to seven: Toddlers and preschoolers see themselves as the centre of the universe and when you fight they can think it’s because of something they’ve done.

Tip: Reassure them that everyone has differences; this is not about them, and you still love each other.

Seven and older: School children often fear the worst and think you’re heading for divorce. Their school work, behaviour and health can suffer.

Tip: Acknowledge you are having a disagreement, reassure them that you’re working at resolving it and that you still love each other. Show them with gestures of affection.

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island of the gods LISA MC NAMARA discovers that there’s plenty for the whole family to enjoy in beautiful Bali.

of colonialism, political strife and the travel industry”. Most of the Balinese are Hindu and we were in awe of their religious fervour. From offerings to processions – there seemed to be a ceremony on every street, every day. On the subject of streets: driving in Bali is scary. Not only are there hundreds of motorbikes on every street corner, but there are sometimes as many as four or five passengers – often with groceries and even a caged white rabbit – perched atop.

We escaped the mayhem of the roads for the sanctuary of the Club Med resort in Nusa Dua where we were to be hosted.

To be honest, Club Med Bali is not a resort; it’s more of a world on its own

The scenery and rich cultural sites deserve a month or two to really take them in and I dream of going back, this time for an extended stay.

My travel book, Bali and Lombok (DK Eyewitness Travel) sets the scene: “Hilltops and mountain gods are both prominent in Balinese legend. The landscape of the islands has deeply influenced their cultural, political and economic life for thousands of years. Old traditions have persisted remarkably, despite the successive impacts

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and offers the perfect holiday for families with award-winning children’s facilities.

They know that parents want time to relax and they understand that young children and teenagers have very different holiday expectations. Qualified and enthusiastic G.Os® (“gentil organisers”) look after the children. Club Med would magazine cape town

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hose in the know don’t recommend visiting Bali in January — it’s hot and humid, it rains and many Asians and Australians are on holiday, so resorts and beaches can be crowded. However, I was invited to attend a work function in Nusa Dua, South Bali and managed to convince my husband and youngest that a three-day visit to a country we had never been to would be worth the very long flight. Robyn, who is nine and an intrepid traveller, took little convincing but my husband required some work. The joy of landing on a notyet-visited continent and experiencing vastly different landscapes, people, food and culture proved to be worth every minute of the round trip.

Top: Tanah Lot Temple; above left: a Candi Bentar (split gate); above right: Robyn in Balinese dress

not be complete without its G.Os®, described as young, enthusiastic and child-loving. Your children, provided with entertainment, naps, specially prepared meals and everyday comforts, play happily and safely while you relax at the pool or beach.

For the older, somewhat fearless children who want to try out everything, the Mini Club offers amazing activities and adventures. Robyn took to snorkelling and the trapeze with some trepidation, but much enthusiasm, thoroughly enjoying them both. But she was just as happy swimming in the sea or the huge swimming pool. While I visited the spa for its signature Four Hands treatment, my husband read on his lounger, knowing that Robyn’s safety was taken care of by two vigilant lifeguards, one at either end of the pool.

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I was sad that Julian wasn’t along for the ride as Club Med offers teenagers freedom and excitement in a safe environment. There is no lifting to parties or worrying about alcohol, as the resort has shows and discos every night and a strict no under 18 drinking rule. They also have everything you need for land and aqua sports and teens are able to have a dream holiday with their own group of new friends from all over the world.

Sadly, our three days flew by. Robyn took part in a number of Mini Club events, and particularly enjoyed the traditional Balinese fashion show, the Michael Jackson extravaganza and the Circus Show put on by the amazingly talented and energetic G.Os®. South Bali is a good base for further exploration, so on our last day we ventured into the country and spent a hot and humid morning visiting the Temple of Tanah Lot and the surrounding rice fields. The scenery and rich cultural sites deserve a month or two to really take them in and I dream of going back, this time for an extended stay.

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when to go Bali is just a few degrees south of the equator and the average temperature hovers around the 30°C mark. The rain season is between October and March, although it mostly rains in the evenings giving you balmy, sunny days. The best time to go, however, is during their dry season from April to September.

offence. Here are some tips: • Light-weight natural fabrics • When visiting sacred sites, dress accordingly • Wear long-sleeved, light-weight clothing to avoid mosquito bites • Sarongs are a winner to cover up beach wear

how to get there health checks Vaccines It’s strongly suggested that you get vaccines for hepatitis A and typhoid fever. Older people and people with a compromised immune system should also get a flu vaccine. If you are planning on staying in Bali for an extended holiday, you might also want to talk to your health care practitioner about shots for hepatitis B, Japanese encephalitis and rabies (transmitted from monkey bites.)

Malaria The tourist areas in Bali are generally risk-free, but if you plan on visiting the rural areas it’s wise to take precaution. Ask your health care practitioner for the best medical option. Use insect repellent daily and wear lightweight, long-sleeved clothing.

Water “Bali belly” has a reputation of monumental proportions. Stay on the safe side and drink only bottled water and use it to brush your teeth.

what to wear Wearing too little clothing outside hotels and well-defined tourist spots might cause

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We flew courtesy of Air Malaysia and found their staff, service and planes to be first-class. Visit malaysiaairlines.com.

where to stay We stayed at the recently refurbished, four-trident rated Club Med Bali. The resort is surrounded by the Java Sea and Indian Ocean and a 30-minute transfer is available from Denpasar Airport. Package deals from 13 August 2011 to October 2011 are: Johannesburg R12 715 plus taxes (R3 280) Durban R14 850 plus taxes (R3 245) Cape Town R14 270 plus taxes (R3 690).

High season supplements apply from 24 September 2011 to 28 October 2011 For more info, contact 011 840 2600

family fun in Bali Go shopping, make a traditional offering, watch a traditional Balinese show and play at Kuta Beach. Other sights include the Sacred Monkey Forest, the Bali Elephant Park and Turtle Island.

special note It is advisable to do research on the country you are planning to visit and to learn more about that country’s political climate. Especially remote destinations should be well researched. The Australian government has posted advice on their website for Aussies planning on travelling to this part of Asia. For more info, visit smartraveller.gov. au/zw-cgi/view/advice/indonesia

Clockwise from top left: Balinese dancer; Club Med Bali pool and bar; G.O.® in action; Traditional Asian fare

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art smart If you can’t find your fridge for all the children’s paintings and drawings disguising it, perhaps it’s time to create an art wall, says ELAINE EKSTEEN. pockets of creativity

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y husband and I love art… but currently the only pieces we seem to be collecting are the painted scribbly bits, crayon scrawls and smudgy footprints of our toddler. Five years ago we’d never have dreamt our home would have a toddler’s artworks haphazardly maskingtaped to the kitchen tiles. Our fridge and kitchen walls will soon all be spoken for – and he’s only two. Who knows what our house will look like when he starts primary school.

Which got me thinking that perhaps it’d be better to create a special display zone somewhere in our home: a dedicated stretch of wall to hang some of our little artist’s “masterpieces” in a more permanent (and aesthetically pleasing) fashion.

Here are five ideas I’m toying with – perhaps one of these will also inspire you to create a permanent spot in your home for displaying your child’s art.

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Mount one of those see-through plastic magazine storage pocket systems on an open wall. The ease with which you can change what’s on display makes this an attractive option, particularly if your offspring will be in charge of rotating what’s on exhibit. Since the pockets aren’t a lot larger than A4, you might like to photograph their oversized drawings (or 3D items) and pop a print into a pocket.

frame it You’ll need a selection of picture frames. Hang the frames so that they work as a group. Choose frames that are identical (if you like symmetry) or choose a variety that work together as a collection – perhaps different size frames with various mouldings, but all in the same colour.

hang on tight Buy metal cable (like that used for balustrading or low-voltage track system lighting) and mount it flush against the

wall – you could put up say two or three rows, one below each other. Hang your child’s creations with binder or bulldog clips. Different colour clips can be used for different family members.

it’s a corker Glue cork tiles to your wall in a strip, square or shape of your fancy; or create an art panel down each child’s wardrobe door. Paint the tiles if you prefer a more exciting colour than cork au naturel. (If your children are young, ensure the tiles are out of reach, else tiny fingers may be injured by the drawing pins you’ll need to use to put up the art.)

magnetic attraction If you’ve ogled magnetic walls in overseas décor mags, like I have, you may be disappointed to know that magnetic wall primer seems to be pretty much unavailable in SA. I did track down two litres at a paint store in Johannesburg – but they’re not planning on getting in any

more. It is apparently possible to order it online, but it’s pricey. If you do manage to get your hands on some, here’s what you’ll need to do: mark up a block on your chosen wall and apply as many layers of the magnetic primer as stipulated on the tin. Apply a topcoat in an interior wall paint of your choice. The other way to create a magnetic art wall is to use metal cladding – a panel of mild steel, available from steel suppliers, works well and can be painted if you don’t like its dark colour.

creative genius Tips for curating your collection • Let your child play curator and choose the pieces that will be on display each month/term.

• Buy a large folder or flip file so you can store your child’s other artwork for future exhibitions or for safekeeping.

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X vs Z

the new generation game Parenting has always been challenging, but with our children growing up in a techno-saturated world, so different to the one in which we were youngsters, the gap

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ften referred to as the generation that refused to grow up, generation X has finally come of age in the 21st century – becoming the parents of the dot.com children who make up generation Z. Their children are of an entirely new millennium. The child whose birth date falls between 1995 and 2009 was born into and raised with technology. Cellphones, the internet, social media and satellite television are as normal to them as riding bikes and climbing trees were for their parents.

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helps you bridge the divide. changing of the guard These differences can leave children and parents worlds apart and, whenever there are large age gaps, conflict of one form or another will exist. According to Anel Annandale, an educational psychologist at Summit College in Kyalami, conflicts and misunderstandings between generations X and Z mainly tend to revolve around different expectations.

“Generation Z children are used to instant gratification, and might not think it unfair to expect that their parents meet their demands for material goods the instant they

express them. Conflict may also arise when the more environmentally aware gen z-ers place pressure on their parents to change their habits, scolding them for their previously accepted wasteful nature,” she says.

“In addition, generation Z lives in a virtual world, where it’s possible to connect with any number of friends around the globe. Despite this, they are very likely to be lacking in areas of verbal communication, confidence and interpersonal skills.” She points out that where generation X would likely have been more comfortable hanging out

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can feel enormous. RODNEY WEIDEMANN

Cellphones, the internet, social media and satellite television are as normal to this generation as riding bikes and climbing trees were for their parents.

with their friends at someone’s house, generation Z will more likely hang out in cyberspace. The problem with online socialising is that it can leave children unsure and insecure in face-to-face social situations.

“Gen Z will therefore require a lot of encouragement in social situations and may be very anxious about their academic achievements. As parents, it is important that you help your children set realistic goals, while offering plenty of encouragement and positive feedback,” says Annandale.

only a few hours a week. Spending time in a technologyfree environment, where you can communicate face-toface, is vital if you want to ensure your child feels valued,” says Glen-Spyron.

She says that it is also important to treat your children as individuals. This will help to boost their self-esteem.

Individuality, says Glen-Spyron, should be encouraged by parents in order to balance out the group culture that pervades social media. Parents must ensure that their children are made aware of the positive aspects of being an individual, as well as the benefits that come from belonging to a group.

quality time Charine Glen-Spyron, a clinical psychologist at Bella Vida Centre in Bryanston, points out that too much time online can stunt a child’s emotional intelligence, due to a lack of face-to-face communication.

“Generation X households often consist of dual-income families, meaning the parents do not spend as much time with their children as they would like. Because of this, they often overcompensate by being more lenient

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technological boundaries in terms of the child’s online activities. Parents need to let go of their guilt and realise that the need for boundaries and rules remains just as strong as it ever was,” she says.

“Of course, it is also important that parents make the effort to spend quality time with their children, even if it is

Annandale states that when it comes to technology, parents have a simple choice – get with it or lose out. The availability of alternative means of communication, such as email, sms, MXit and Facebook, offers savvy generation X parents a variety of ways to communicate, connect and relate to their children.

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“Of course, this must still be done within reason. In my practice, I often come across parents who are way too involved in their children’s personal lives. Just because social media enables you to chat to all your child’s friends and see what they are up to all the time, doesn’t mean that it is okay to do so,” she says.

A further point of potential conflict exists because the parent’s desire to protect their child from potential online predators is at odds with the child’s urge for online independence, says Glen-Spyron.

“Parents should implement rules that provide boundaries in which the children can explore their limits while still feeling safe and contained. By giving children choices that are age appropriate – and boundaries in which to express these – parents enable them to develop their sense of self-control within a protected zone, one in which the parent is still there to help them, if needed.”

Robyn Slade, 35, from Randburg, has an 11-year-old stepson and is a firm

days, but one has to be very careful and vigilant about what sites are being visited. Parents need to be quite open with their children, letting them know about the dangers that exist on social networks. My opinion is that we can’t deny our children the use of technology – we have to embrace it and learn as much about it as we can for their sake. It does, however, make me feel that our children are forced to grow up a little too quickly,” says Charlene.

the family brand Nikki Bush, creative parenting expert and co-author of the book Future-Proof Your Child: Parenting the Wired Generation (Penguin), says that generation Z will be very info-wise, with a unique understanding of technology. This is because it is something that has always been a part of their lives.

At the same time, they will place a higher emphasis on experiences than they will on school grades.

An adult climbs a tree and when they reach the top they think: it’s a long way to fall, whereas a child gets to the top and thinks: look how far I can see. believer in the benefits of technology. A self-confessed gadget-geek, she says that technology is the future and believes that it must be open to children, otherwise they won’t be able to develop the skills necessary to cope with life in the 21st century. “At the moment, we allow Joshua to have a cellphone, but not one that has internet access, as we feel he is too young for that. A suitably protected internet connection, which still allows him to research his own projects is also fine.

However, a Facebook or Twitter profile would not be allowed until he is older and can fully understand the dangers of online predators,” she says.

Charlene Goncalves, 38, from Bassonia, is a single mother of two who says that she was quite reluctant to give her children cellphones, but she realised that it is virtually a necessity for children today.

“The internet is also essential these

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As they get older, their value of experiences is likely to see them travelling the world or possibly joining a socially conscious effort in a foreign country or underprivileged area. However, in childhood it falls to the parents to provide these experiences.

“For this reason, it is important that parents create genuine experiences – whether this is special family time, specific outings or focused playtime – that will give this new generation the encounters it craves,” says Bush.

“Generation Z is also growing up in a world where it is constantly assaulted by brand images. If we are to help our children develop their own identity and moral compass, we need to have our own message – a family brand – that can directly compete with the many other messages our children receive from the media. If parents don’t respond by offering magazine cape town

strong values of their own, the family brand may become lost amid the clutter of the numerous other messages screaming for our children’s attention,” she says.

Bush says that to avoid generational conflict parents must make their family brand the one that their children aspire to. This should be done by providing them with a set of values and beliefs against which they can judge the messages streaming in from the outside. After all, no parent wants their child to appropriate values or morals from an external source, particularly when the current “cult of celebrity” makes idols out of people like Paris Hilton and Kanye West.

golden rule Annandale believes that the most important thing is to talk to your children, to listen to them and to lead by example. If parents want their children to learn decent values, they must be prepared to teach them.

“Don’t just sit them down in front of the TV or computer and expect them to learn these values on their own. Watch with them, learn with them and discuss with them what behaviour or actions you approve or did not approve of; discuss alternative behaviour or actions. I often hear complaints from parents that their children have no patience – I wonder how many of these parents have had

the patience to teach this virtue to their children?” says Annandale.

“I think that the golden rule when it comes to raising generation Z is the same as it would be for any other generation: the parent needs to realise that it is not about their feelings, it is about the child. They should therefore always ask whether what they are doing is in the best interests of the child,” adds Glen-Spyron.

She says that by shifting the focus away from what makes us anxious as parents, and instead focusing on what is best for the child, we can avoid many of the clashes that are otherwise inevitable in the growingup process. “Parents need to stand back and allow their children to explore, to fall over and skin their knees, or even on occasion, to be angry with their mom and dad. Children need to be given the space to explore the sense of wonder that only exists in childhood, and if that means they sometimes get hurt, then that is what must be allowed to happen,” says Glen-Spyron.

“Remember that an adult climbs a tree and when they reach the top they think: it’s a long way to fall, whereas a child gets to the top and thinks: look how far I can see,” says Glen-Spyron. “That is the fundamental difference parents should remember when the generation gap seems unbridgeable.”

generation Z under the microscope • Generation Z children were born between 1995 and 2009.

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technology and are the most technologically literate generation, hence their being referred to as “digital natives”.

• They tend to be the children of older, wealthier parents and have fewer siblings.

• They generally have short attention spans and are very impatient, desiring instant results.

• They tend to be very altruistic, placing a strong emphasis on issues such as tolerance, the environment, the underprivileged and social justice.

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helping hands Exhausted, overwhelmed and in need of some help at home?

baby

au pair and nanny agencies see box on page 27

breast-feeding support Birth, Baby & Beyond A Belville-based certified lactation consultant who does breast-feeding consultations at your home.

Contact: 021 910 0606 or 082 372 3348 Cindy Homewood A registered nurse and midwife based in Claremont counsels on breast-feeding, provides infant and child nutrition advice and does home visits.

Contact: 082 960 5940 Incredible Babies Sarah, based in Plumstead, services the southern suburbs area doing postnatal home visits and providing breast-feeding support. Contact: 083 437 7358

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Kathryn Sutton A nursing and lactation consultant based in Constantia does breast-feeding consultations and home visits. Contact: 082 728 6629 Marcha Izatt provides postnatal care and breast-feeding counselling for families in Melkbosstrand and surrounds. Contact: 078 138 2040 or marcha@pluto.co.za Motherhood Matters Registered nurses Megan and Tanya provide home care in the southern suburbs, especially in your baby’s first six weeks, and help includes dealing with feeding problems. Contact: 071 875 2668, info@motherhoodmatters. co.za or visit motherhoodmatters.co.za Ruth Katzman A qualified physiotherapist does home visits providing physiotherapy for breast-feeding problems. Covers the City Bowl, Atlantic Seaboard and the

southern suburbs as far as Constantia.

Contact: 082 864 8232 Tenfold Baby Clinic Jackie Butler, a registered midwife based in Welgelegen does postnatal home visits and provides breast-feeding support.

Northern suburbs. Contact: 021 559 6293 or 082 297 2742 The Lactation Consultancy Milnertonbased Jean Ridler is an internationally certified lactation consultant who does home consultations for breast-feeding problems, as well as breast-feeding classes for parents-to-be. She also hires out breast pumps. Contact: 021 556 9162 or 082 668 1082 Thula Baby Centre Heather Wood is a lactation consultant, registered nurse and midwife, based in Mouille Point. As well as

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LUCILLE KEMP has compiled a list of useful services that will come to you.

all the baby clinic services, she also does home visits for Thula Baby clients and moms on the Atlantic Seaboard. Contact: 021 434 2614, 072 548 8506 or Lindsay: 082 882 2211

night nurses Aupairs on Call Places night nurses. Based in Somerset West. Contact Surine: 021 851 6774, 073 931 7555, info@aupairsoncall. co.za or visit aupairsoncall.co.za Mom’s Helper A service for mothers of newborn babies, exhausted parents who need a break and parents who are sick themselves or battling with a sick baby.

Dedicated night nurses for babies up to six months. Contact: 084 517 6290 or 072 222 6279 Thula Baby Centre Places night nurses.

Based in Mouille Point. Contact: 021 434 2614, 072 548 8506 or 082 882 2211

sleep therapists and trainers Bear Essentials Baby routine therapist Lynn Wood provides sleep training as well as breast-feeding advice and support. Contact: 021 715 2104, 083 685 9639, lynnwoods@mweb.co.za or visit bearessentials.co.za Sleep Training Consultants Rhonel, or one of her team of 10, stays over for two full nights to take clients through sleep training. For children from the age of six months. Contact Rhonel: 021 761 5840 or visit sleeptrainingconsultants.com

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homework tutors Ashley Elkington Mathematics tutoring for one to two students in the afternoons for Grades 5 to 12 as well as help with the sciences. Contact: 082 044 7059 or ash. elkington@gmail.com Educate SA A directory of tutors for all grade levels and in most school subjects.

For the list of member tutors located in all parts of South Africa: visit educatesa.co.za Fatima Jacobs A part-time teacher and mathematics tutor with over 25 years teaching experience. She will help anyone in Cape Town, from Grade 8 to Grade 12.

She is regularly fully booked, so contact in advance. Contact: fatima047@gmail.com or visit tutorjobs.co.za Gemi Tutoring Primary and high school tutoring in Mathematics, Afrikaans, English, Xhosa and Science. Contact: 072 587 5669 or visit gemitutoring.co.za Get-a-Tutor They offer specially selected and screened tutors for all grades and subjects to come to your home. Contact: 072 132 3758, georgina@getatutor.co.za or visit getatutor.co.za Leopard Group Provides private tutoring at your home for all subjects from Grade 1 to 12. Contact: 078 343 7396, 082 268 3505, charles@leopardgroup.co.za or visit leopardgroup.co.za

Pam Ziman tutoring A qualified teacher who tutors preschoolers and primary school learners up to Grade 7 in various school subjects. She also teaches Hebrew.

Travels to the City Bowl, Atlantic Seaboard and southern suburbs as far as Claremont.

Contact: 021 461 9655 or 082 486 2220 Teach Me 2 Agency that provides private, school and music tuition in your home in all subjects from accounting to Zulu, and musical instruments from alto sax to the violin and voice training. All areas of Cape Town including Stellenbosch. Contact: 0861 832 246, info@teachme2.co.za or visit teachme2.co.za Tutor Master An agency that provides one-on-one and group tutoring in primary school subjects and languages. Contact: 011 786 7644, info@tutormaster.co.za or visit tutormaster.co.za

school lifting Careway Chauffeurs The experienced drivers have advanced driving skills, and will help busy families with a range of lifting duties. Contact: 021 987 5427 or visit careway.co.za Kids on Wheels Shuttle services operated by a mom with affordable rates and a paging service to let you know your children are safely dropped off.

Areas include Parklands, Table View, Blouberg, Sunningdale and Big Bay. From R500 per month return. Contact Caren: 083 389 7125 Monique’s Lifting Email Monique with the area of your home and destination, whether your child needs a lift home as well, the number of children, your price range, and she will send you a quote. Contact: monique@tropicanaplants.co.za

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resource Sarah’s Lifting Service A safe lifting service for children from school to home, especially from after-school activities.

R8 per km from pick up to drop off. Based in Newlands and available in the southern suburbs. Contact: 072 267 5400 Soccer Mom Places drivers suited to your children’s needs and schedules. You give them your requirement and area and they will source the drivers. Contact Ronelle: 082 849 1848, ronelle@soccermom.co.za or visit soccermom.co.za Tessa’s school lifts Takes your children to school/crèche and home, as well as to sporting activities. Tessa services Table View, Blouberg, Parklands and Sunningdale. Contact: 082 873 8086

food

online shopping Cybercellar Delivery of quality SA wine to your door nationwide or worldwide.

You can choose wine by estate or type.

Contact: 0860 SAWINE (729463), info@ cybercellar.com or visit cybercellar.com eWine Shop online for South African wines. They deliver all over South Africa and worldwide. Contact Natalie: 021 863 0336 or visit ewine.co.za Harvest of Hope Freshly picked, organically grown vegetables are delivered every Tuesday to a location near you. The website shows you what to expect with each week’s box, and each batch comes with a recipe.

For more info: visit harvestofhope.co.za Pick n Pay Online shopping includes groceries, general merchandise and back to school products. You can also do a quick advanced search for a specific item. Contact: 0860 30 30 30 or visit pnponline.co.za Wine of the Month Monthly deliveries of top quality wines, by the case, to your door. Contact 086 111 WINE (9463) or visit wineofthemonth.co.za Woolworths Woolies online shopping offers a broad range of food and groceries as well as airtime, clothing and gifts. Contact: 0860 100 987 or visit woolworths.co.za

ready-made meals Eat Smart Organics Their “heat and eat” organic meals are slowly steam-baked to

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enhance flavour, and they are prepared and cooked by hand. Greater Cape Town area delivery included in the price. Based in Montague Gardens. Contact: 021 551 5953, juliette@eatsmartorganics.co.za or visit eatsmartorganics.co.za Elephant Café Healthy, freshly prepared meals for children that are also convenient for parents. Elephant Café meals contain no added salt or sugar, are made without preservatives or additives and have hidden vegetables for fussy eaters. Delivery on Mondays and Thursdays to all Cape Town suburbs. Contact Oliver: 082 728 4263 or visit elephantcafe.co.za Ready Meals As the meals are only made when ordered, they require a twoday notice period. They also cater for vegetarians. Contact: 071 238 3986 or readymeals@hotmail.com Slimming Meals Sally makes three kinds of meals: the slimming meals which are balanced with veggies, lean meat and the right amount of carbs; the carb-free range and the Sally’s Kitchen range which uses little veg and only meat and carbs.

The greater Cape Town and Parklands areas. Deliveries are only done on Monday and Thursday morning. R25–R95 delivery fee, depending on area. Contact: 021 557 5217 (afternoons only), 082 887 7696, sally@slimmingmeals.com or visit slimmingmeals.com Tiny Tums Healthy home-cooked baby meals that are delivered to your door. The meals are made with seasonal ingredients and are immediately frozen. They have no sugar, salt, colourants or flavourants.

Delivers all over Cape Town including the Helderberg region. Contact: 072 605 7137, orders@tinytums.net or visit tinytums.net Twist Some More Specialises in slowcooked convenience meals. They arrive frozen so they don’t have any preservatives and added salt. All you do is heat and eat.

Based in Wellington. Twist delivers once a week in Cape Town and surrounds with a R30 delivery fee. Free delivery for orders of R500 and more. Contact: 021 873 2000, 082 873 2258, chef@twistsomemore.com or visit twistsomemore.com

health and beauty

beauty and massage therapists Body Essential Mobile Reiki healing for physical, emotional, mental and spiritual imbalances. Based in the northern suburbs.

Contact: 082 320 1646 Cape Mobile Spa A travelling spa offering everything from facials, manicures and pedicures to waxing, various massages and reflexology – all done in the comfort of your home. Contact: 082 939 5848 or visit capemobilespa.co.za Dominique A hairdresser who comes to you – she does the cut, colour, highlights and tints. She also does beauty treatments such as manicures, pedicures and makeup for special occasions. Greater Cape Town area. Contact: 083 710 6371 Jennifer Bovim Thai yoga massage and Trager-based remedial movement therapy suitable for combating chronic stress and restoring balance. The two-hour therapy is called the African Floor Massage. Contact: 073 822 9735 magazine cape town

Massage Cape Town Specialises in mobile massage services. They can accommodate short notice and same day appointments. Contact: 072 964 1889 Natural Balance Wellness Private Spa Studio & Mobile Spa This Tamboerskloofbased spa provides beauty and massage treatments, which range from aromatherapy massages and reflexology massages to body scrubs, body wraps, hair removal and facials. Contact Liz: 084 483 4539, mailliz@naturalbalance.co.za or visit naturalbalance.co.za Pure Sun Get a spray tan in the comfort of your own home. Travel costs for the northern suburbs. Contact: 082 467 1890 or danielle@puresun.co.za Reflexology On the Move Lyn will come to you and do aromatherapy, reflexology, Indian head massage, hot stone massage and leg massage. Lyn services the Atlantic Seaboard, City Bowl and southern suburbs as far as Claremont. Contact: 074 183 6187 Spa-Go Mobile Spa Provides mobile massage, spray tanning and personal training by locating professional therapists in your area. Available seven days a week.

Based in Belville. Contact Carla: 021 914 4554 or 079 892 0104 Tanning Solutions Offers orange-free, streak-free and UV-free tanning treatments, as well as massages in the comfort of your home. They are based in Steenberg Village and will travel to all parts of Cape Town.

Contact Mandy: 021 702 4075, 082 600 8846, mandy@tanningsolutions.co.za or visit tanningsolutions.co.za The Pamper Parlor Mobile pamper treatments, which include mini makeovers, manicures, pedicures and facials. Based in Durbanville. Contact: 073 919 9442, 084 776 8708, pamperparlor@gmail.com or visit pamper.withtank.com

pilates and yoga instructors Larissa Matthews She comes to you and runs a Pilates class at your home. Contact: 083 458 2054 or jplar@vodagsmail.co.za Pilates@Redesign Home Pilates classes for private, semi-private and group sessions.

Eula provides all the equipment and class times are at your request. Based in Durbanville but she will travel throughout the northern suburbs. Contact Eula: 079 669 5972 or eula@ pilatesatredesign.com Wynberg Pilates Studio For yoga and Pilates. Some instructors make home visits.

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Yogaway Four Pilates and four yoga teachers that specialise in various disciplines, including pelvic floor rehabilitation. Based in Newlands but they travel throughout the southern suburbs.

Contact: 082 806 5286, melissa@yogaway. co.za or visit yogaway.co.za

personal trainers Fit 4 U They can help you lose weight and tone or increase lean body mass. Athletes can also improve their performance with the sport conditioning programmes.

Contact: 082 854 9862, train@fit4u.co.za or visit fit4u.co.za

home and garden garden services

Bee’z Garden Services They cover the greater Cape Town area excluding Cape Town central. Contact: 076 263 5689 or visit beezgardenservice.co.za Cleancut Quality Gardens They work in Durbanville, Plattekloof, Milnerton and Melkbos. Quotes depend on the work done. Contact: 021 557 8782 or visit cleancut.co.za Garden Fundis Garden related services in Table View, Sunningdale, Parklands, Blouberg, West Beach, Big Bay, Milnerton, Sunset Beach, Bothasig, Edgemead and Melkbosstrand. For more info: visit gardenfundis.co.za Luke’s Pro Garden Services A garden service in Brackenfell that services the northern suburbs area. Contact: 082 075 0467 or lukesprogardens@gmail.com Michel’s garden services Service includes garden maintenance, landscaping and irrigation. Contact: 021 556 1231 or 083 709 6405 Nature’s Blue Print They offer garden management, garden maintenance, garden cleanups and winter pruning. Contact: 021 462 7029 or visit naturesblueprint.co.za Reliable Garden Service and Landscapers For applications of insecticides and weedkillers, tree felling and stump removals. Contact Nicholas: 083 639 6439 or contracts@sqmproperties.co.za

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personal organisers All sorted They come to your home, assess any areas, including cupboards, that need sorting or de-cluttering and sort the problem out. They give advice and tips on organising your day, help with tasks such as paying your accounts and assist with down scaling. For more info: visit allsorted.za.net Beorganised De-cluttering of homes and home-based offices, home organising, helping with moving and relocations and helping you move in, as well as organising garages, attics, basements and sheds.

Contact: 082 924 7787, info@beorganised. co.za or visit beorganised.co.za Best Kept Homes Basic services include housekeeping, making household payments and providing a pool service

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and a key holding service. Specialised services include stocking up your fridge and doing licence disc renewals. Contact: info@bestkepthomes.co.za Dial-A-Wash Laundry Services Personal laundry and dry cleaning services as well as garment processing, linen rental and clothing dyeing. Owner managed. Based in Gardens. Contact: 021 424 9764/1901 or 084 714 1906/1779 Errand Runner Services include diary management, typing, filing, bill payments, laundry delivery and banking. Available in Durbanville, Bellville, Panorama, Boston, Parow, Brackenfell, Kraaifontein and immediate outlying areas in the northern suburbs. Contact Adele: 083 415 2370, info@ errandrunner.co.za or visit errandrunner.co.za Get Organised Helps you de-clutter your home and organise spaces for optimal use.

Contact: 084 507 6891, tracey@getorganised. co.za or visit getorganised.co.za Get Stuff Done Helps with your business tasks; if you need help with a once-off project or a regular secretary. Contact Lara: 082 456 3713, info@getstuffdone. co.za or visit getstuffdone.co.za Handy Person on Call Home improvement services, bathroom remodelling, kitchen renovations, room additions or lawn mowing.

They operate six days a week and also offer an emergency, out-of-hours and public holiday service. They carry a stock of materials to save you time. Contact Johan: 078 170 3565 or visit handypersononcall.co.za

Molly Maid A professional full-day cleaning service. Contact: 021 556 3986, 083 627 5498, info@mollymaid.co.za or visit mollymaid.co.za My Life Organised Services include general household assistance, errands, personal shopping, travel and holiday help, entertainment and unattended home service. Contact: 082 963 7234, 084 641 1290, caro@mylifeorganised. co.za, carla@mylifeorganised.co.za or visit mylifeorganised.co.za Pressed in time Offers a mobile cleaning and laundry service. Contact: 0861 102 221 or visit pressedintime.co.za Toodu A web-based to do list system that will locate service providers for you. For more info: visit toodu.co.za

novelties Giftday Gifts and flowers delivered throughout South Africa. Contact: 0861 114 484 or visit giftday.co.za Gifts International An online shop for gifts of wine, hampers and proudly South African fare. Ideal for business associates and loved ones that are overseas. Contact: 021 712 0212 or visit giftworld.co.za Giftwrap Delivers a variety of personal and corporate gifts. Contact: 0861 111 817 or visit giftwrap.co.za Kalahari.net Buy anything from digital products to books, DVDs, games and photographic items. Well priced. For more info: visit kalahari.net

Mantality An online shop for the “urban man”. Find anything, from gadgets to novelty lights, beauty products and a vintage shaving range. Contact: 0861 626 825 or visit mantality.co.za Mantelli’s Specialises in gift packs with niche biscuits and cookies, which have a significant hand-made component, and can be included in a Netflorist hamper. For more info: visit mantellis.com Netflorist They deliver flowers and gifts.

Contact: 0861 300 600, care@netflorist. co.za or visit netflorist.co.za

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dog walkers Ani-mates As well as pet sitting, they provide dog walkers for Hout Bay, Constantia and the rest of the southern suburbs. Contact Julie: 072 616 6318 Dogs about town Provides dog walking and pet sitting in Table View, Milnerton, Sunset Beach, Big Bay, Atlantic Beach, Blouberg and Parklands. Contact Lindsey: 073 175 9260 Professional Pet Sitters Offers a dog walking service in the northern suburbs and Constantia/Wynberg. They also take care of your pets at home when you’re away. Contact: 083 273 4477 or visit home-sitters.com The Dog Walker Dogs are collected at your home and then walked around the nearest greenbelt or park for at least 45 minutes. Services Table View, Milnerton

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and the southern suburbs. Contact Gavin: 078 410 9355, gavin@gmail.com or Lee: 082 452 1154, lee@gmail.com or visit thedogwalker.co.za

pet grooming services Doggie Lane Parlour Pick up and drop off in the greater Cape Town area. Contact Ronel: 021 930 7988 or 082 339 8062 Pawfully Posh Grooming Parlour for cats and dogs. They pick up and drop off in Durbanville only. Contact: 021 976 5305

au pair and nanny agencies Au Pair at home Specialises in the placement of full- and half-day au pairs for all areas in the Western Cape. Contact head office/City Bowl: 021 761 6835, Tokai: 021 712 9511, Newlands: 021 683 7776, northern suburbs: 021 932 2425, Table View: 021 556 0066, aupairathome@ iafrica.com or visit aupaircapetown.co.za Au Pair SA A web-based au pair agency that will help you find an au pair as quickly and inexpensively as possible. For more info: visit aupairsa.co.za Au Pairs For You Has a range of professional au pairs you can interview, and choose yourself. Contact: 021 557 3935, 082 431 3608 or visit aupairsforyou.co.za Aupairs on Call Places permanent or temporary au pairs, ad hoc babysitters

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The Grooming Pad Grooms cats and dogs. They will pick up and drop off in the greater Cape Town area. Contact: 021 557 7422/3 or ginasa@gmail.com The Groom Room Grooms dogs and cats.

Pick up and drop off within a 10km radius of each of the branches. Contact Durbanville: 082 419 3000 or Parow: 082 868 3338 Wiggle Waggle Pet Services Will fetch and drop off cats and dogs in Kuilsriver, Brackenfell and Kraaifontein. Contact: 021 981 5036

and au pairs to live in with children while parents are away. Based in Somerset West. Contact Surine: 021 851 6774, 073 931 7555, info@aupairsoncall.co.za or visit aupairsoncall.co.za Careway Home and Family Care The agency places au pairs, nannies and babysitters. Based in Durbanville.

Contact Lynette: 021 987 5427, 082 403 1183, lynette@careway.co.za or visit careway.co.za Educare Placements of nannies, au pairs, housekeepers and caregivers.

Durbanville: 083 291 7070, Blouberg: 082 826 2566, Constantia: 082 925 4925 (sms only) or educare@vodamail. co.za, Somerset West: 082 495 5979 or visit edugroup.co.za Family First Places experienced nannies, home cooks, au pairs and childminders.

Contact: 0861 000 894, 084 475 2605 or visit familyfirst.co.za Governess Connection Offers au pair placements to discerning parents situated all over Cape Town. Contact: 021 447 7853 or visit governessconnection.co.za Kid Connexion The placement of au pairs and nannies that suit your needs.

Contact: 021 554 3474, 071 145 4746 or kidsconnexion@gmail.com Marvellous Maids The agency places domestic workers in all aspects of domestic work. The placement fee comes with a three-month warranty. Contact: 086 111 5030 or visit marvellousmaids.co.za Sitters 4 U Places au pairs, professional nannies, nurses, paramedics and caregivers. Also offers domestic services and house sitting services. For more info: visit sitters4u.co.za

Super Nannies Cape Town A nanny placement agency endorsed by baby clinics, mothers and midwives.

Vredehoek. Contact Karin: 072 972 2038 Super Sitters They place live-in childminders, special subject tutors, hourly sitters, companionship to the elderly and au pairs. They also do house- and petminding. Contact: 021 552 1220, info@ supersitters.net or visit supersitters.net Village Nannies Places live-in or liveout nannies, au pairs and child minders.

Contact Tania or Jacky: 021 671 2249, 083 343 7580, taniaschrire@sybaweb. co.za or visit villagenannies.co.za We Lend a Hand For the placement of baby sitters, au pairs and facilitators.

They also have tutors in certain subjects.

Contact: 082 837 6226, welendahand@ gmail.com or visit welendahand.co.za

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a good read for toddlers

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Bizzy Bear – Fun on the Farm

By Benji Davies (Nosy Crow Ltd, R85) This sturdy, colourful board book is perfect for children one to three years old to learn about the farm and its animals. Each page has a tab to pull that reveals a delightful secret. Bizzy Bear makes his way around the farm to meet the three little pigs, cat and mouse, the sheep and cows, mother duck and her ducklings on the pond, the hen house and the stables.

This is also the perfect opportunity to play along and make animal sounds – there are 17 of them you can have fun with. Also look out for Bizzy Bear – Let’s go out and Play in the series.

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Naughty Nina

By Juliet Mickelburgh and AnnaLaura Cantone

(Bloomsbury Publishing, R72) Little Nina is tired of being nice all the time and decides she would like to be naughty instead. Being naughty is excellent fun, but after a while Nina makes a surprising discovery – being naughty all the time can be very boring.

So what will Nina decide to do instead? Beautifully illustrated with lovely detail, lots of humour and wonderful characters, this is a story with resonance for all. Little children will find that naughty antics are funny – up to a point. The book is written in rhyme, which makes for wonderful reading-out-loud story time.

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Fancy Nancy – Aspiring Artist

By Jane O’Connor and Robin Preiss Glasser

A Wish this Big

By Ingrid Mennen and Katrin Coetzer

(HarperCollins Publishers, R96) Girls between the ages of four and seven will be thrilled to see Fancy Nancy back.

It’s holiday time and Fancy Nancy is feeling glum because her best friend Bree is out of town. Luckily, Nancy’s mom brings home a brand-new set of glitter markers, Nancy puts her trademark flair to creative use and devotes herself to becoming a serious artist. After all, everything about being an aspiring artist is fancy, especially when inspiration strikes. The book comes with instructions on how your child can create her own artistic masterpiece.

(Tafelberg, R108) Rashied is a little South African boy who wants something big and round. He looks at the sun and the moon, but knows they are too far to catch and too large to keep. He discovers what he wants most is far more down to earth when his simple heartfelt wish becomes intertwined with his own imagination, and the great stories of hope and freedom that Grandpa tells from the time when he was imprisoned on Robben Island. This is a great story of hope and the special bond between a little boy and his grandfather.

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for early graders

for teens and preteens

for us Red Wolf

By Liza Marklund

Chester goes to Africa

By Leyland Hazlewood

Mimi

By John Newman

(Xlibris, R145) Chester is a field mouse that lives in the city far away from Africa. But Chester dreams of living in the countryside. Even though all his cousins try to stop him from leaving, he eventually packs up and boards a plane for Africa. It is here that his adventure begins.

Imagine his surprise when the plane touches down in Johannesburg, and he doesn’t see wide-open spaces, meadows, grasslands, lakes and mountains. He goes searching for the real Africa and encounters many fierce animals. Using the drum that he learned to play in the city, Chester befriends these animals and finally finds what he is looking for.

(Walker Books, R85) Mimi is a beautifully written and touching story about a young girl’s life following the sudden and unexpected death of her mother.

Despite Mrs Lemon’s extra sweeties, and sneaky peaks at her sister’s diary, Mimi is struggling. Her dad is always sad, her sister has a horrible secret, and 151 days ago her “mammy” died. What is Mimi to do? Mimi’s tale is a compassionate, immensely moving, and gently humorous story that captures the importance of family, of supporting and understanding one another, and sticking up for yourself when other people don’t understand. Children from seven years and up will enjoy this powerful story.

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the nail-biter

(Corgi Books, R108) Reporter Annika Bengtzon is working on the story of a devastating crime when she hears that a journalist investigating the same incident has been killed. It appears to be a hit-and-run accident. Several brutal killings follow – all linked by handwritten letters sent to the victims’ relatives. When Annika unravels a connection with the story she’s writing, she is thrown on to the trail of a deadly psychopath. This edge-of-your-seat suspense thriller will make you want to read Liza Marklund again and again. She knows how to weave unexpected twists and turns into a story.

parenting book Getting To Know You – Simple Games to Play with Your Baby

By Sally Featherstone and Clare Beswick (Featherstone Education, R113) Here is a collection of fun, touchy-feely games to play with your new baby. Experts have shown that baby games help with brain development as well as with more visible skills such as hand-eye coordination and mobility. The book is full of simple, effective and fun games that help your baby’s brain, eyes, hands and feet to develop. Plus, there is extra guidance on how to get the most out of your games and what your baby is learning. Featherstone and Beswick are leading authors, trainers and consultants in early years development and learning.

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what’s on in june

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Here’s your line-up of all the best things to do in Cape Town

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SPECIAL EVENTS Tulbagh Christmas in Winter Join the Winter Wonderland Christmas festival – come rain or shine and hopefully snow.

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Elemental Kids winter holiday event Children create art and handcrafted objects from burnt remains such as wood.

Mystery Ghost Bus Tour A fourhour luxury bus tour with pub stops, ghosts, poltergeists, castles, a dark haunted room, a cemetery and more.

Abundance Yoga and Holistic Centre Prenatal yoga aids health and vitality for you and your unborn baby.

Camphill School Volunteer at Camphill in Hermanus, which is a school for children and young adults with special needs.

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PHOTOGRAPHS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM, Green Point Urban Park - Bruce Sutherland City of Cape Town

to beat the winter blues. Compiled by LUCILLE KEMP

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SPECIAL EVENTS 4 saturday Bingo Evening Fundraiser for SA Riding for the Disabled Association (SARDA). Time: 6pm. Venue: Steenberg Estate Golf Club.

Cost: R50 entry. To book, contact Henrietta: 021 794 6191 or capetown-pr@sarda.co.za Healthy sensory habits for 21st-century parents A half-day workshop for parents covering topics such as “Understanding sensory intelligence”. Applications close 27 May. Time: 8:30am–1pm. Venue: tbc.

Cost: R450 per person, which includes refreshments, a goodie bag, a CD with workshop notes and sensory screening for children. Contact Sandra: 082 397 3606, events@sensoryintelligence.co.za or visit sensoryintelligence.co.za

the day as well as through the South African Dance Foundation. Time: 10am–4pm or 6pm–midnight. Venue: GrandWest Casino and Entertainment World. Cost: adults R40–R80, children under 12 years free–R10, depending on sessions. Contact SADF: 011 339 4439 or visit sadancefoundation.co.za or ackermans.co.za

13 monday Vodacom Funny Festival The master of ceremonies is Alan Committie and the line-up includes performances by Kalki Henenberg, Miss Ro, Eugene Khoza, Kev Orkian, Shimmy Isaacs and The Boy with Tape on his Face. Ends 10 July. Time: 8pm daily. Venue: Baxter Concert Hall. Cost: R130. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or visit computicket.co.za

5 sunday Soup, Sip and Bread Festival The Durbanville wineries search their cellars for soulful partners to go with soups, chowders, bisque and gumbos. The soups are homemade, the breads freshly baked and the diverse range of wines a perfect match. Time: 10am. Venue: 12 participating Durbanville wineries. Cost: tbc. Contact: 083 310 1228; for the festival programme, visit durbanvillewine.co.za

9 thursday Old Mutual Trophy Wine Show Taste around 90 award-winning wines. All wines at the tasting have achieved trophy, gold or silver medal awards and can be ordered at special prices on the night. Time: 5pm.

Venue: The Ballroom, CTICC, 1 Lower Long St. Cost: R100–R120. Contact: 011 482 5936 or visit trophywineshow.co.za

10 friday Cook Franschhoek For those who have always wanted to master the art of making bread, sushi or truffles and understand food and wine pairing. Establishments in Franschhoek are offering visitors a range of activities, focused on these elements.

Demonstrations accommodate eight to 30 people. Ends 12 June. Time: 9am–5pm.

Venue: varies. Cost: R30–R225. For more info: 021 876 2861 or book through Webtickets: visit webtickets.co.za

11 saturday The Ackermans Open Dance Regional Championship The series features some of the best South African dancers in different styles. Tickets are available at the venue on

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16–18 June – Chef Francois Ferreira at the ABSA Calitzdorp Port and Wine Festival

16 thursday ABSA Calitzdorp Port and Wine Festival Calitzdorp, renowned as the port capital of South Africa, is shaking up the Klein Karoo with a programme of events at the various wine cellars and village venues.

Ends 18 June. Time: 8am. Venue: varies.

Cost: adults R40–R90, children R20–R45.

For more info: visit portwinefestival.co.za or book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or book during the festival at the Calitzdorp Computicket box office Wind in the Willows It’s spring time and the weather is fine. Good-natured Mole loses patience with his spring-cleaning and dares to leave his underground home, heading up to take in the air. 16–19 June. Time: Thursday and Sunday 7:30pm, Friday and Sunday 2:30pm, Saturday 8pm. Venue: The Little Theatre, UCT, 37 Orange St, Gardens.

Cost: R50. Contact Nicky: 082 553 5155

19 sunday Father’s Day jazz brunch Lunch and light jazz overlooking St George’s Mall.

A dessert buffet is served in the lobby lounge. Time: 11:30am–3pm. Venue: Bombay Brasserie, The Taj Hotel, cnr Wale and Adderley St. Cost of carvery and buffet: adults R185, children under 12 R85, children under 5 free. Contact: 021 819 2000 or visit tajhotels.com/capetown Father’s Day train trip From Cape Town to Simon’s Town and back in 5,5 hours. If you would like to be dropped off or collected at Kalk Bay Station, then stipulate this when booking. Time: 10:30am–4:40pm. Venue: meet at Cape Town Station. Cost: adults R220, children 3–12 years R110. Contact: 021 556 1012 or info@atlanticrail.co.za magazine cape town

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Wacky Wine Weekend Fifty wineries showcase their wines, alongside a host of other attractions. Many of the activities need to be pre-booked directly with the respective wineries. Ends 5 June. Time: 8am. Venue: participating wine farms in the Robertson Valley. Cost: an R80 passport, valid for the whole weekend, which includes a stylish tasting glass, free 25ml wine-tasting samples, and a goodie bag. Contact: 023 626 3167, manager@robertsonwinevalley.com or visit wackywineweekend.com

20 monday Children’s Arts Festival An arts and entertainment programme within the Grahamstown National Arts Festival, for children 4–13 years. The daily schedule includes music, dance, drama and handcraft workshops, festival productions, lunchtime concerts, exhibitions and visits to the craft markets. There is also evening entertainment for those enrolled in the boarding programme. Participants are allocated to specific groups, depending on their age and ability, with a maximum of 20 pupils per group. Adult supervision is guaranteed and advance bookings are recommended. Ends 4 July. For more info and to book, contact Cindy: 046 622 2148, c.renard@saprepschool.com or visit childrensartsfestival.co.za

24 friday Make Way for Noddy The show includes several different Noddy stories and is performed by a versatile group of young and older actors. Ends 9 July. Time: 10:30am daily. Venue: Artscape Theatre. Cost: R50.

Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695

25 saturday Pedro the Music Man performs in Mermaid from Zanzibar Pedro is a teacher, musician, composer and storyteller

25 June – Saturday Soirée

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25 June – Pedro the Music Man performs in Mermaid from Zanzibar

and became very well-known as “Pedro the Music Man” from the children’s television series. Ends 30 June. Time: 11am. Venue: Kalk Bay Theatre. Cost: R45. Contact: 073 220 5430 Pilates and “Journey of Life” workshop A healthy, fun-filled morning of Pilates, meditation and life coaching.

Time: 9am–12:30pm. Venue: 11 Alexander Rd, Muizenberg. Cost: R250. Contact: 082 319 0731, jenny@jabulitos.co.za or visit jabulitos.com Saturday Soirée Enjoy an evening of fine wine, food and music with an exclusive three-course menu perfectly paired by winemaker Carl Schultz with a trio of his award-winning wines and a performance by top local musicians. Time: 6:30pm. Venue: Hartenberg Estate, Bottelary Rd, off the R304 to Stellenbosch. Cost: R220, which includes a glass of wine per course. Contact: 021 865 2541 or visit hartenbergestate.com Tulbagh Christmas in Winter Join the Winter Wonderland Christmas festival.

The village is decorated with lights and Christmas trees, the restaurants offer Christmas dinners, Father Christmas rides through the streets giving out treats to the children and a Rock with Santa Party is held in the evening. Also 26 June. Time: starts 10am daily. Venue: Tulbagh Valley. Cost: adults R30, which includes wine tasting and museum visits, children under 12 years free.

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29 wednesday International Ballet Gala A performance by more than 20 of the world’s best ballet dancers. Time: 8pm. Venue: Grand Arena, GrandWest Casino. Cost: from R80. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or for more info: visit ctibc.com

30 thursday Grahamstown National Arts Festival This is an important cultural event offering the best of indigenous and imported talent. Venue: 1820 Settlers National Monument. Ends 10 July. For a detailed and downloadable programme info (specific times, costs and venues): visit nafest.co.za

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Winter Gala at Hout Street Gallery Specialising in South African paintings and fine art, the gallery presents its popular annual Winter Gala. Ends 31 August. Time: Monday–Saturday 8:30am–5pm, Sunday 10am–5pm. Venue: 270 Main St, Paarl.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 872 5030 or visit houtstreetgallery.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Free two-hour introductory fabric painting workshop For adults and children. 26 June. Time: 8:45am–10:45am.

Venue: Pinelands. Cost: R30 per kit. Contact Wendy: 021 531 8076, 082 391 4954 or wendyadriaan@telkomsa.net Italian theme lab Learn to speak Italian by participating in fun activities and creative workshops. 4, 11, 18, 25 June. Time: 11am–12pm. Venue: The Italian School of Cape Town, The Grimley, 14 Tuin Plein St, Gardens. Cost: R60 per child per day or R200 per child per month. Contact: 021 461 8261 or info@scuolaitalianadelcapo.co.za Iziko Planetarium’s Davy Dragon goes to the moon Davy finds a strange bug, which he decides to take back to the moon.

For children 5–12 years. 25 June–17 July.

Time: Monday–Friday 11am, 12pm, 3pm; weekends 12pm and 3:30pm. Venue: Queen Victoria Rd, Gardens. Cost: adults R25, children R10. Contact: 021 481 3800

Mad about Mosaics workshop If you’re a fan of mosaics, head to this workshop for a bit of coaching and a creative outlet. 11 June. Time: 1pm. Venue: Pennypinchers, 261 Lansdowne Rd, Claremont. Cost: R150, which includes materials and refreshments.

Contact Gail: 021 683 0380 or ghend@ pennypinchers.co.za Talk on “Dawn of the Age of Dinosaurs in Antarctica” An illustrated talk by Dr Roger Smith of Iziko Museums Department of Palaeontology. Roger presents fossil and geological evidence to help explain how creatures survived a mass extinction as well as the cool climate of southern Gondwana.

23 June. Time: 8pm. Venue: SACS School, Newlands. Cost: R20. Contact: 021 762 1779 or visit capenaturalhistoryclub.co.za Tour of Two Oceans Aquarium for Solemates Discover where they obtain their sea water, how it is filtered and the various other processes that take place daily to maintain the aquarium displays. Suitable for ages 8 and older when accompanied by an adult. 18 June. Time: 9am–11:30am.

Venue: Dock Rd, V&A Waterfront. Cost: R25 per Solemate member. Contact: 021 418 3823 or members@aquarium.co.za

classes, talks and workshops Conscious Kids classes Classes are dynamic and include speech and drama, storytelling, creative movement, art and crafts and yoga. Time: Wednesday 2:30pm–4pm (6–9 year olds), 4pm–5:30pm

Kids’ fun extramural classes

(10–13 year olds). Venue: Erin Hall, 8 Erin Rd, Rondebosch. Cost: R70–R500. To reserve your place or for more info, contact: 083 644 4980 or lisa@growatale.co.za Kids’ fun extramural classes Programme includes art and crafts, drama, games, life skills and parties. Children 5–15 years welcome. Time: every Friday 3pm–5pm.

Venue: OIS Centre, Old Strandfontein Rd, Ottery. Cost: R20 per child per week. To register, contact: 021 704 1462, 074 106 0713 or stages@polka.co.za Kidz Discovery Offers professional programmes for baby and toddler groups and mother and child groups that involve art and tactile exploration, language, fine and gross motor development, visual motor play and experiments. For children 3 months–4,5 years. Time and cost: call to enquire. Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Contact Kathy: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery.co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za

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Collect-a-Can CAN Craze Competition Create your own character or structure using a minimum of 300 used beverage cans. Competition is for 7- to 18-year-olds. Entry is free; all you have to do is collect a minimum of 300 cans per structure. There are plenty of prizes in store. Photograph your creation and submit it to the email address listed here before 30 September.

Contact: 011 466 2939, jenette@collectacan.co.za or visit collectacan.co.za

Little Cooks Club northern suburbs This month Lisa makes rock cakes and runs a special Father’s Day class.

Time: call to enquire. Venue: 3 Vlei St, Aurora, Durbanville. Cost: call to enquire.

Contact Lisa: 073 227 3404 or lisab@ littlecooksclub.co.za

family outings Farmhouse Rocks at Cape Farmhouse The restaurant hosts outdoor concerts every Saturday afternoon. Time: gates open at 1:30pm. Venue: Cape Farmhouse Restaurant, junction off the M66 and M65 at the bottom of Redhill Rd, 3km past

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deep sea fishing for children 8–18 years.

Time: 9am–4pm, every weekend. Venue: Fish Hoek, Kalk Bay and Muizenberg. Cost: R200 per child. Contact: troy@born2fish. co.za or visit born2fish.co.za Drumbeat Charters Take a cruise to Duiker Island to see thousands of Cape fur seals in their natural environment. Time: 8:30am, 9:15am, 10am, 10:45am. Venue: Hout Bay. Cost: adults R65, children under 14 R25, children 2 and younger free. Contact: 021 791 4442 or visit drumbeatcharters.co.za Giraffe House The centre is home to a host of four-legged animals, reptiles and birds. Time: Monday–Sunday 9am–5pm.

Venue: cnr R304 and R101. Cost: adults R45, children 2–15 years R25. For more info: visit giraffehouse.co.za Graceland Venues This family-orientated venue has numerous fun activities to offer

including waterslides, indoor and outdoor play parks, farm animal encounters and pony rides. Time: Tuesday–Saturday 9am–4pm. Venue: Paarl. Cost: tbc. Contact Conny: 021 863 4109, 072 264 4009 or visit gracelandvenues.co.za Green Point Urban Park is now open.

Picnics are permitted but skateboarding and swimming are prohibited. Security personnel patrol the grounds. Time: 7am–7pm daily.

Venue: near Cape Town Stadium. Cost: free entry. Contact for security matters: 021 430 7356, for general enquiries: nafeesa. williams@capetown.gov.za Historical Hunt with A Whale Of A Heritage Route This hunt on foot involves identifying 15 photographic clues to uncover historical attractions for a meal voucher prize.

26 June. Time: 8:45am–12:30pm. Venue: The Vineyard Hotel. Cost: R45. Children

Scarborough. Cost: R50. Contact: 021 780 1246, info@capefarmhouse.co.za or visit capefarmhouse.co.za/rocks Wijnland Auto Museum Visit the museum with cars that are widely used by the film industry. Time: Monday–Sunday 9am–4pm.

Venue: 60 Tarentaal St, Oostenberg. Cost: adults R50, children 10 years and younger free. Contact: 021 988 4203

finding nature and outdoor play Born2fish Junior Champions Club Clinic The clinics cover rock, surf and estuary fishing, knot tying, casting and

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calendar 5–12 years half price. Toddlers free. Contact: 079 391 2105 or awhaleofaheritageroute@ gmail.com Miniature Blue Train The park alongside the train has a jungle gym. Time: Monday– Sunday 9am–6pm, weather permitting.

Venue: Mouille Point Promenade. Cost: R8 per ride. Contact Carlo: 021 434 4297 or 072 383 8195 Tokai Forest Arboretum Take the children and the dogs for a light walk.

More than 150 tree species can be seen.

Time: 8am–5pm, April–September. Venue: situated on the slopes of Constantiaberg.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 701 8692, thembelam@sanparks.org or visit sanparks. org/parks/table_mountain/default.php

holiday activities Adventure4U Parent and child mountain bike fun rides, rock climbing and hiking outings. 16 June and 24 June–18 July. For children 10 years and older. Venue: Table Mountain and surrounds. Cost: adults R120, children R70. Contact Haadin: 083 356 5591

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Clay Café holiday special Children can paint their own pottery. 24 June–18 July.

Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Main Rd, Hout Bay. Cost: two items plus juice and a snack R85. Contact: 021 790 3318 Dean Street Bookshop “My life in a paragraph” writing competition Get your child to write about their life, the highs and the lows, what they think makes them special and their hopes and dreams. The paragraph should not exceed a three-quarter page and must include their name and age.

Children can add drawings to their story. For ages 7–19 years. Entrants’ work is displayed on the bookshop board. Competition opens 27 June and closes 11 July. Prizes to be won.

For more info: 021 686 1604

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Elemental Kids winter holiday event The theme is fire… children create art and hand-crafted objects from burnt remains such as wood. Ideal for children 6–11 years. 27 June–1 July. Time: Monday–Friday 9am–4pm. Venue: tbc in the southern suburbs. Cost: R180 per day or R750 per week. Contact Tahirih: 084 873 4711 Kidz Discovery winter holiday club Offers a fun-filled morning including art and crafts, baking, face painting, dancing, dress-up role play, clambering on climbing walls and jungle gyms, story time and more. For ages 3–7 years. 27–29 June.

Time: 9:30am–12:30pm, early drop-offs from 8:30am for an extra fee. Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: R120 per morning, includes snack, baking and craft materials.

Contact: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery. co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za Kidz Get Wild (KGW) holiday camps There are three-day, four-day and sevenday camp options available for children 7–14 years. The KGW team incorporates challenging adventures with fun activities.

25 June–2 July. Time: departure time is confirmed on booking. Venue: Waterval, Tulbagh. Cost: R860–R3 010, depending on length of stay. A sibling pays less. Contact Helen: 021 712 6715 or visit kgw.co.za Kidz Playzone holiday programme Offers crafts on a daily basis. There are also magic and snake shows on specific dates.

For children 1–12 years. 24 June–18 July.

Time: Monday–Friday 9am–4:30pm. Venue: Durbanville Business Park, Durbanville. Cost: from R20 per hour. No extra cost for the programme. Contact: 021 979 4872, bev@ kidzplayzone.co.za or visit kidzplayzone.co.za Kronendal School holiday club Children bake, paint, build, swim, play and go for secure mountain and beach walks. 2, 6, 17, 24 June and 15 July. Time: 7:30am–1pm, 7:30am–3pm, 7:30am–6pm. Venue: Kronendal Primary School, Hout Bay. Cost: half-day R60, three-quarter day R90 or full day R120. Contact Joanne: 076 402 2333 or joannefrost.s.a@gmail.com Me-time holiday programme The programme includes art, crafts, baking, hiphop dancing and drama. For children 18 months–12 years. 27 June–19 July. Time: 8am–1pm, 9am–12pm or 2pm–5pm. Venue: 8 Somerset Lane, 1st floor, Somerset Square, Green Point. Cost: R130–R1 300, depending on amount of sessions. For more info: 021 418 1573, 082 491 0389 or visit me-time.co Nice Touch cooking for boys and girls Children make and bake and do box or plate decorating in which to take their goodies home. For ages 4–12 years. 27

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June–8 July. Time: 11:30am–1pm daily.

Venue: St James Church Hall, Sea Point.

Cost: R90 per child per lesson (pay for four lessons and get one free). Contact Janis: 082 319 9215 or visit nicetouch.co.za Planet Kids holiday workshop programme 24 June–18 July. Time: Monday–Friday 9am–1pm. Venue: Planet Kids, 3 Wherry Rd, Muizenberg. Cost: see website for details. Contact: 021 788 3070, info@planetkids.co.za or visit planetkids.co.za Roly Polyz holiday programme There’ll be cookie decorating, T-shirt painting, spindle art, beading and more. Specific details to be confirmed. For more info: 021 418 8181 or 072 625 4649 Seaside Village children’s programme For more details visit their website. Venue: Seaside Village Shopping Centre, Big Bay, Bloubergstrand. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit seasidevillageshoppingcentre.co.za Sporting Chance holiday clinic Choose from hockey, soccer or rugby. 27 June–1 July. Time: 9am. Venues: Constantia Sports Complex and Kelvin Grove, Newlands; Kenridge Primary School, Durbanville; Beaumont Primary, Somerset West; Astro Hockey, Bellville. Cost: R340–R500 per week, R120–R160 per day. Contact: 021 683 7299, admin@sportingchance. co.za or visit sportingchance.co.za The Playshed holiday hours You can enjoy a coffee and cake while your children enjoy the huge climbing gym and dressup area. Time: Tuesday–Sunday 9am–5pm during the school holiday for play with parents’ supervision. Drop-off mornings on Tuesday and Thursday until 12pm. Phone ahead to book. Contact: 021 801 0141/2 Tots n Pots Constantia A fun-filled, hands-on cooking and baking workshop experience for ages 2–10 years. Dates, time and venue to be confirmed. Cost R125 per 1,5-hour class. Contact Chene: 083 649 7405 or chene@totsnpots.com Winter School holiday activities at Kirstenbosch Children 6–17 years are occupied with interactive and creative workshops, from art classes to guided walks in the garden. 27 June–15 July. Time: call to enquire. Venue: Sanlam Hall (next to the Kirstenbosch Tea Room). Cost: free for the young participants. Contact: 021 799 8686 or visit sanbi.org Winter Workshop with JellyBean Events Activities include art and crafts such as T-shirt painting and cap design, Pilates, ballet, hip-hop and modern dance.

For ages 7–13 years. 27 June–1 July. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Claremont Civic Centre.

Cost: R150 per day, including snacks, juice,

T-shirt and cap. Contact Amanda: 083 392 9593 or jellybeanevents@gmail.com

markets City Bowl Market on Hope This foodie market stocks everything from oysters and champagne to sushi. Time: 9am–2pm, every Saturday. Venue: 14 Hope St, Gardens. Cost: free entry. Contact: 073 270 8043, citybowlmarket@gmail.com or visit citybowlmarket.co.za Earth Fair Market Time: the Tokai market is open every Saturday 9am–2pm and every Wednesday 3pm–8pm. St George’s Mall is open every Thursday 11am–5pm. Venue: St George’s Mall market is situated off Wale St and Church St. Tokai market is situated in South Palms Centre. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit earthfairmarket.co.za Hout Bay Market The market has a wide variety of stalls and for the children ponyrides. Time: 9am–4pm, every Sunday.

Venue: Village Green, Main Rd, Hout Bay. Cost: free. Contact: 082 850 9752 Nitida Farmers’ Market Enjoy breakfast and then shop for organic goodies.

Le Bonheur Croc Farm June holiday offer To get two children in for the price of one, present your June copy of Cape Town’s Child magazine.

Alternatively, present your copy of Cape Town’s Child magazine and pay for one child’s fishing fee and obtain two children’s tickets for catch and release fishing. Call them for dates. Time: Monday–Sunday 9am–5pm. Venue: Babylonstoren Rd, R45, Simondium. Cost: adults R32, children 18 and younger R10.

Contact: 021 863 1142

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calendar 25 June. Time: 8am–12:30pm. Venue: Nitida Cellars, Old Tygervalley Rd. Cost: free. Contact Getha: 083 651 0699 or visit nitida.co.za Schoolyard Market Enjoy the many sights and food while browsing through the diverse stalls. There are plenty of fun activities for children. 25 June. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Elkanah House, 85 Sunningdale Dr, Sunningdale. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 554 8586, michellej@ elkanah.co.za or visit elkanah.co.za Stellenbosch Fresh Goods Market You can find everything from stroopwafels and extra virgin olive oil to cheeses. Time: 9am–2pm, every Saturday. Venue: Oude Libertas Amphitheatre, cnr Adam Tas and Oude Libertas Rd, Stellenbosch. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 809 7473 or visit slowmarket.co.za

The Alphen Antiques and Collectables Fair A variety of items, including jewellery, glass, ceramics, silver, toys, books, and paintings is on sale. 11 and 25 June. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Alphen Centre, Main Rd, Constantia. Cost: free. Contact: 084 626 7499, desd@cybersmart.co.za or visit antiqueking.co.za The Bay Food and Wine Market A family-friendly, food and wine market with a children’s zone. Time: 9:30am–2:30pm, every Saturday. Venue: Victoria Mall, Hout Bay. Cost: free entry. Contact Claire: 082 385 0915, Philippa: 079 553 9320, info@ thebayfoodandwinemarket.co.za or visit thebayfoodandwinemarket.co.za

June. Time: 10am. Venue: Artscape Theatre.

Cost: R40. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695 or visit artscape.co.za Disney Junior channel launch DStv is launching a brand-new channel aimed at children 2–5 years old. It is an extension and renaming of Playhouse Disney specifically aimed at this age group. 1 June. For more info: visit disney.co.za/disney-junior/ Show Me Show Me series two premieres An enchanting series for preschoolers, which explores the magic of a playground high in the sky. Starts 13 June. Time: every weekday 6:25am on CBeebies; channel 306 on DStv

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Bizzy Bodies Indoor play park for children 1–12 years. Time: Monday–Saturday 10am–5pm. Venue: Bizzy Bodies, 23 Bell

Amaza The Xhosa setwork for high school learners is a thriller set in rural Transkei. 1–3

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Table Mountain Cableway Kidz Season Two children under 18 years ride free with an adult when an adult return ticket is purchased on weekends, public holidays and during school holidays. As part of the Kidz Season, all children are given a treasure hunt map to help them find fun goodies. They are also given an armband, which entitles them to 10% discount on specially marked items at The Shop at the Top. A special entertainment programme for children runs 24 June to 18 July. Ends 30 October. Time: first car up 8am, last car up 6pm, last car down 7pm. Venue: Tafelberg Rd. Cost: R180 per adult return ticket; includes two children under 18 years travelling free (normal child rate R90). Valid on return fares only.

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Crescent, Westlake Business Park, Tokai.

Cost: R40 for one hour. Contact: 021 702 0505, info@bizzybodies.co.za or visit bizzybodies.co.za Bloubergstrand Library story time Certain Mondays and Wednesdays; call to enquire. Stories are ideal for 8 to 9 year olds but the library does accommodate older children. Time: from 3pm. Venue: Andrew Foster Rd, Bloubergstrand. Cost: free. Contact: 021 554 1641 Bugz Family Playpark An indoor and outdoor park with sandpits, pedal cars, jumping castles, rowing boats, jungle gyms and a choo-choo train. Time: Monday– Sunday 9am–5pm. Venue: Bugz Playpark, Kraaifontein. Cost: R20; babies that can’t yet walk free. Contact: 021 988 8836 or bugzparty@mwebbiz.co.za Little Birdy Bookshop story time Time: 12:30pm, every Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Main Rd, Greyton. Cost: free. Contact: 079 350 9658

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Millstone Farmstall and Café There is an outside area and horse riding. Time: Tuesday– Sunday 9am–5pm. Venue: Alexandra Rd, Oude Molen Eco Village, Pinelands. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 447 8226 Mondeor Garden and Life This nursery and restaurant offers a tranquil setting for adults as well as a playpark with a supervised splash pond, play gyms and a grassed playground. Time: Tuesday– Sunday 9am–5pm. Venue: smallholding 22, Mondeor Rd, Somerset West. Cost: free entry. Contact Annette: 021 858 1608, 082 565 0615 or visit mondeorgardens.co.za Noordhoek Farm Village Saturday activities and entertainment. 4 June scarf decorating; 11 June puppet fun; 18 June snowflake fun; 25 June pizza day. Time: 10:30am–12:30pm. Venue: the Bandstand, Noordhoek Farm Village.

Cost: free. Contact: 021 789 2812 or visit noordhoekvillage.co.za Rondebosch Library story time Every Wednesday and Friday for preschoolers 3–5 years old. Time: 10am. Venue: St Andrews Rd. Contact: 021 689 1100 Slatterys This restaurant has an outdoor play area and inside play corner. Time: Tuesday–Saturday 9am–10pm, Sunday 9am–4pm. Venue: Unit 4, Oude Westhof Village Square, Van Riebeeckshof Rd, Durbanville. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 913 7753/4 or visit slatterys.co.za Supafun This indoor play venue has scooters and animal bouncers, a jungle gym, trampoline, play houses, fantasy dress up and more. Time: Monday–Friday 10am–6pm, Saturday 10am–5pm, Sunday 11am–3pm, public holidays 10am–2pm.

Venue: Shop 23, The Paddocks, Racecourse Rd, Milnerton. Cost: R40 per child − unlimited play supervised by parent; R40 per child per hour − drop and shop. Contact: 021 552 4776 or visit supafun.co.za Wynberg Library holiday activities Wednesday art and crafts and story hour.

24 June–18 July. Time: 10:30am–12pm.

Venue: off Church St. Cost: free. Contact Anita or Charmaine: 021 797 9178

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Capoeira for children Exercise for children while having fun. Exercises adapted according to each child’s age and ability. Time: Tuesday 2pm–3pm

13 June – Show Me Show Me series two premieres

(ages 5–7) and 4pm–5:30pm (ages 8 and older); Saturday 9am–10am (ages 5–7) and 10am–11am (ages 8 and older). Venue: Capoeira Cordão de Ouro Academy, First Floor, 53 Castle St, Cape Town. Cost: R70 per class (reduced monthly rate available).

Contact: 071 107 0973, cdo.co.za@gmail. com or visit capoeiracdo.co.za Laser Games The laser system emits a harmless infrared beam. Unlimited ammunition is included and there is no need for uncomfortable protective safety gear.

Suitable for ages 6 and older. Time: Monday– Sunday 9:30am–11am, 11:30am–1pm, 1:30pm–3pm, 3:30pm–5pm. Venue: Imhoff Farm, Kommetjie. Cost: R95 per player for a two-hour session. Contact Robyn: 021 790 7603 or info@lasertag.co.za

Little Angels acting classes Little Stars is a drama, dance and freedom class designed for budding stars aged 3–6 years or 7–10 years. Time: every Saturday for ages 3–6 10am–11am and ages 7–10 11am–12pm. Venue: The Zen Studio, 10 Viola Rd, Blouberg. Cost: R250 per month.

Contact Nadya: 021 556 2490, 071 605 8047 or visit freedomclasses.com/ Little_Stars.html Planet Kids modern dance classes For boys and girls, taught by a qualified dance teacher. The class lasts 30 minutes with 15 minutes of play before and after the class.

Time: from 3pm, every Tuesday. Venue: Planet Kids, 3 Wherry Rd, Muizenberg. Cost: R50 per class, R320 per term. Contact: 021 788 3070 or visit planetkids.co.za

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Y is for yoga children’s yoga workshops

Y is for yoga children’s yoga workshops For children aged 24 months–14 years. 27 June–2 July. Time: morning and afternoon sessions vary. Venue: Karma Shala Yoga Studio and Yoga Way Yoga Studio. Cost: R55 per session, discounts for three or more bookings. Contact: 082 642 5256 or 079 137 4249

800 0157, carolyn.roode@gmail. com or visit safe-kids.co.za CPR and first aid courses If you are a member of Discovery Vitality you get points on completion of the course. 15 and 25 June. Time: 9am–1:30pm.

Venue: 3rd floor, maternity lounge, Cape Town Medi-Clinic. Cost: R250 per person, which includes a certification card and manual.

Contact Daniele: 084 593 2314 or satrainingcentre@gmail.com Ladies’ craft classes Mothers are welcome to bring their daughters.

Time: 2pm–5pm, every Saturday. Venue: OIS Centre, Strandfontein, Ottery. Cost: R60 each, including materials used.

Contact: 021 704 1462, 074 106 0713 or stages@polka.co.za

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Accredited child and infant CPR and basic first-aid courses 10 June Plumstead 9:30am–12:30pm. 4 and 18 June Blouberg 1pm–4pm, 8 June Claremont (nannies) 1:30pm–4:30pm. 11 June Durbanville 9am–12pm. 7 June Panorama (nannies) 2pm–5pm. 21 June Kenridge 6:30pm–9:30pm. Contact Carolyn: 084

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People’s Summit for Quality Education Hosted by Equal Education and open to all.

25–27 June. Start times: 25 June 12pm, 26 and 27 June 8am. Venue: opens in Khayelitsha and thereafter is held at the University of Cape Town. Cost: call to enquire. Contact John: 021 387 0022, 072 345 6775, summit@equaleducation.org.za or visit educationsummit.org.za Sugar and Spice Nanny Training Course includes first aid, childproofing, time management, understanding routines, hygiene, nutrition and age-appropriate games. 1–22 June. Time: 1:30pm–4:30pm, every Wednesday. Venue: Claremont. Cost: call to enquire. Contact Caithe: 071 366 4725, caithe@nannytraining.co.za or visit nannytraining.co.za

on stage and screen Athol Fugard’s The Bird Watchers Fugard returns to the theatre to direct the world premiere of The Bird Watchers.

30 May–4 June. Time: Monday–Saturday 7:30pm; 3pm (extra show) Wednesday and Saturday only. Venue: cnr Harrington and Caledon St, District Six. Cost: R100– R170. Contact: 021 461 4554, alicia@ thefugard.com or visit thefugard.com Fridays at Bread Café Live acoustic music and cocktails for R25. Time: 4pm–7pm.

Venue: Bromwell Boutique Mall, 250 Albert Rd, Woodstock. Cost: free entry. Contact: 082 611 5612, michelle@madworld.co.za or visit breadcafe.co.za

Andra performs in the Silvertree Restaurant Winter Concert Series

iConfused In a world of technological gadgets that claim to help you get through the confusion of everyday life, comedian Mark Palmer shows you that life is meant to be confusing and no amount of “apps” can change this. 31 May–4 June. Time: 8:30pm. Venue: On Broadway Theatre, 44 Long St, cnr Hout St. Cost: R65. Contact: 021 424 1194, info@onbroadway.co.za or visit onbroadway.co.za Monday Night Jazz Jam at Klein Libertas Amateur Theatre With Ramon Alexander.

Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Bergzight Plein, Du Toit St, Stellenbosch. Cost: R15. Contact: 021 883 8164, info@kleinlibertasteater. co.za or visit kleinlibertasteater.co.za

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Not The Midnight Mass presents Hot Cross Nuns South Africa’s award-winning a cappella group is back. 31 May–4 June.

Time: Tuesday–Friday 8:15pm, Saturday 6pm and 8:30pm. Venue: Baxter Theatre.

Cost: Tuesday–Thursday R110, Friday and Saturday R130. Contact: 021 685 7880, alexander@uct.ac.za or visit baxter.co.za

out and about C.O.M.E – Comedy on Monday Evening An evening of laughter and fun featuring comic talent. Time: 8pm. Venue: Zula Sound Bar, 196 Long St. Cost: R40.

Contact: 021 424 2442, vusa@zulabar. co.za or visit zulabar.co.za Comic at Work Every Sunday they bring you a line-up of local and often international comedians. Join them for a few drinks, maybe a meal and definitely some laughs.

Time: 8:30pm. Venue: Obviouzly Armchair, 135 Lower Main Rd, Observatory. Cost: R40.

Contact: 021 460 0458, info@armchair.com or visit obviouzlyarmchair.com Monday Music at Barleycorn Music Club In 34 years, the club has met almost every week to provide a platform for local and visiting musicians to exercise their talents. As a non-profit organisation, all funds gathered are used to promote local music and musicians. Time: 8pm. Venue: Villager FC, 11 Lansdowne Rd, Claremont (next to Tiger Wheel and Tyre). Cost: R20.

Contact: 072 500 2163, mr.jasperdick@ gmail.com or visit barleycorn.org.za

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Mystery Ghost Bus Tour The route is as follows: Ferryman’s Tavern at V&A Waterfront, Lutheran Church, Little Theatre, Good Hope Seminary, Kimberley Hotel, Castle of Good Hope, Fenton Rd, District Six, Groote Schuur Hospital, St John’s Church Cemetery, Alphen Hotel Manor, Tokai Manor, return to Waterfront. For 18 years and older. Bring torch, camera and cash for drinks and meals. 4 June. Time: 6pm–midnight. Venue: meet at Ferryman’s Tavern, V&A Waterfront. Cost: R295. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or for more info: visit mysteryghostbus.co.za Silvertree Restaurant Winter Concert Series Unplugged performances that are cosy and relaxed. 5–26 June. Time: 6:30pm–9:30pm, every Sunday. Venue: Silver Tree Restaurant, Kirstenbosch.

Cost: R100, which includes a welcome drink. Contact: 021 762 9585 or info@ kirstenboschrestaurant.com Sunday sunset jazz Featured artists include Charles Louw, Leslie Jooste, Alistair Adams, Danny Butler, Charlton Abrahams, Tietie Tsira, Kelvin Bubble and more. Time: 5pm, every Sunday. Venue: Blue Chip Restaurant, Wetton. Cost: R30. Contact Charles: 079 025 4572 Various exhibitions at Michael Stevenson Gallery Berni Searle – Interlaced, Ângela Ferreira and Sabelo Mlangeni. 26 May–23 July. Time: Monday– Friday 9am–5pm, Saturday 10am–1pm.

Venue: Michael Stevenson Gallery,

Edges From the team that brought you I love you, you’re perfect, now change. 1–25 June.

Time: Wednesday–Saturday 8:30pm. Venue: Kalk Bay Theatre. Cost: 1 June R80, 2 June R175 (includes snacks and wine), 3–25 June R110. Contact: 073 220 5430 or visit kbt.co.za

Buchanan Building, 160 Sir Lowry Rd, Woodstock. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 462 1500 or visit michaelstevenson.com

support groups ASCON Aspergers Connection Support group for parents. Jana Forrester has a career that spans language teaching, remedial

education, preschool management and high school counselling. 8 June. Time: 7pm.

Venue: Vera School for Autism, Anglesey Rd, Rondebosch East. Cost: free. Contact Avril: 083 666 2157 or ameaker@telkomsa.net Cancer Care support group Held on the first Tuesday of every month. Time: 5:30pm.

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calendar free. Contact Emerentia: 021 930 4245 or emerentia.esterhuyse@cancercare.co.za Compassionate Friends of Cape Town Grief support for bereaved parents. Contact: 0861 CARING (227464), support@tcfcape. co.za or visit tcfcape.co.za Forever Families Four meetings per year for families, with adopted children, to come together and chat about specific topics. A specialist facilitates. For confirmed dates, contact Riana: 083 284 7319 or foreverfamilies_za@ymail.com LGBT parents support group For gay and lesbian parents and parents-to-be, there are regular meetings to exchange ideas and experiences. Contact the Triangle Project: 021 448 3812, health2@triangle. org.za or visit triangle.org.za Safe Schools call centre Educators, learners and parents can call the tollfree number to report violence, sexual abuse, alcohol and drug abuse, vandalism or to report corruption in schools. The call centre also provides information on HIV/Aids, racism and pregnancy. Time: Monday–Friday 8am–7:30pm. Contact: 0800 454 647 Selective Mutism support group For more info on meetings and support: supportgroup@selectivemutism.co.za or visit selectivemutism.co.za Speak Easy support group For people who stutter, their family members and friends. Contact: heatherw50@telkomsa. net or visit speakeasy.org.za Tourette’s syndrome support Nicolette (Durbanville): 083 292 5481 and Chuki (Somerset West): 082 924 4909 provide telephonic support and advice to parents on where to go for professional help For more support groups visit childmag.co.za/resources/supportgroups

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classes, talks and workshops Abundance Yoga and Holistic Centre Discover the potential health for you and your unborn baby through prenatal yoga. Time: tbc. Venue: 11 Montrose Ave, Claremont. Cost: tbc. Contact: 021 674 2497 or abundanceyoga@telkomsa.net Adventure Boot Camp Keep your maternity clothes for your next baby and take advantage of Adventure Boot Camp’s winter special. 30 May–24 June. Cost: two camps five days a week, for R850. Contact: 021 447 2746, 082 567 2267 or to register visit adventurebootcamp.co.za

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BabyGym workshops An interactive brain and body development workshop for babies 2 months and older. 21 June–19 July. Time: 10am, every Tuesday. Venue: Fish Hoek. Cost: R630. Contact Marlise: 073 145 4367, marlise.howell@babygym. co.za or visit babygym.co.za. BabyGym is doing a roadshow end August. For further details contact Marlise Birth Options and Incredible Babies antenatal classes During the course some of the topics covered include stages of labour, pain, newborn care and breast-feeding. 22 June–27 July. Time: 7:30pm–9:30pm. Venue: 12 Victoria Rd, Plumstead. Cost: R750 per couple. Contact Andrea: 021 761 9623, info@birthoptions. co.za or visit birthoptions.co.za Parent centre moms-to-be and momsand-babies group Support for parents.

Time: 10am–12pm, every Thursday. Venue: Kingsbury Maternity Hospital, Wilderness Rd, Claremont. Cost: R40 including refreshments. Contact: 021 762 0116 or zaiboe@theparentcentre.org.za Postnatal workshops For expectant parents or for parents with babies under eight weeks. 4 June. Time: 9am–2pm.

Venue: Cape Town Medi-Clinic. Cost: R450 per person or R600 per couple. Contact Daniele: 084 593 2314 or satrainingcentre@ gmail.com Wriggle and Rhyme A relaxed, fun group where you and your baby or toddler can enjoy music and movement together. Time and venue: Wrigglers class 9am and Rhymers class 10:30am. Sun Valley Tuesday–Friday; Bergvliet Tuesday and Thursday; Constantia Wednesday; Wynberg Thursday. Cost: R390 for eight classes. Contact Kirsty: 079 740 4561, info@wriggleandrhyme.co.za or visit wriggleandrhyme.co.za

playtime and story time Mom’s Club For moms and babies. At least once a month there is a speaker on a baby-related topic. Time: 10am–11:30am, every Tuesday during term. Venue: Medway Youth Centre, cnr Medway and Milford Rds, Plumstead. Cost: free. Contact Barbara: 074 580 4480 or eachus.rosemary@gmail.com Sea Point Library story time Every Wednesday 10am–11am for preschoolers and younger. Contact: 021 439 7440/1 SuperStars baby and toddler activity workshops Aimed at providing your baby or toddler with a safe and supported environment in which to play and explore.

3 May–24 June. Time: 3–6 months Tuesday 9:30am–10:15am, 6–9 months Tuesday 10:30am–11:15am, 9–12 months Wednesday 9am–9:45am, 1–2 years Wednesday 10am–11am, 2–3 years Tuesday 3pm–4pm or Friday 10:15am–11:15am.

Venue: Little Picasso’s Café, Northumberland Close, Parklands. Cost: R550–R650 per term, eight lessons per term. Contact Angelique: 082 431 3608 or superstarsworkshops@ gmail.com The Playshed Offers a separate play area for toddlers. Time: Tuesday–Sunday 9am–5pm, during the school holiday, for play with parents’ supervision. Drop-off mornings on Tuesday and Thursday until 12pm. Phone ahead to book. Contact: 021 801 0141/2 magazine cape town

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For more help planning your child’s party visit

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Camphill School This school in Hermanus was established in 1952. It is a therapeutic community and an independent, residential and day school for children and young adults with special needs. The school is mostly staffed by volunteers. You can help by volunteering, making a donation or sponsoring – the full cost of a day learner per month is R2 500. Most of the children’s parents can only pay a very small percentage of this amount. Contact Heidi: 028 313 8216, school@camphillhermanus.org.za or visit camphill-hermanus.org.za/school.php

support groups Cleft Friends Support group for parents with babies born with cleft lips and palates.

Contact: helena@cleftfriends.co.za or visit cleftfriends.co.za Cleft lip and palate support For telephonic, professional advice and referral from a speech therapist with years of experience in cleft lip and palate therapy.

Contact Ros: 021 404 6459 Hi Hopes Offers families of deaf babies home-based, family-centred support and information. Contact Renee: 021 949 9388, 076 891 8188 or devilliers.renee@gmail.com Little Miracle Support group For parents of premature babies. Contact: 0861 548 853, info@littlemiracle.co.za or visit littlemiracle.co.za Postnatal Depression Support Association The organisation offers help for moms and their families. You can also join the chat group. Contact the national helpline: sms “help” and your name to 082 882 0072 for them to contact you. Head office: 021 797 4498 or visit pndsa.org.za For more support groups visit childmag.co.za/resources/supportgroups

how to help Leliebloem House All the children that are sent to Leliebloem House are wards of the court. The house is a child and youth care centre that nurtures, feeds, cares for and

protects abandoned and abused children through its various programmes. They work toward reunifying these children with their families and communities as soon as a stable home environment can be established. The subsidy received covers approximately 60% of the cost of looking after the children. They need school bags, shoes, pyjamas, games, educational toys, stationery, clothes and food. Contact: 021 697 4947, fcornelius@ leliebloem.org.za or visit leliebloem.org.za Men on the Side of the Road Project (MSR) The most visible of the unemployed are the men who stand on the side of the road every day, waiting for any job that may come their way. MSR is a non-profit organisation that registers members, verifies their skills and employment background, and then introduces them to potential employers. If you’d like to help, you could hire a skilled worker or you could sms “small” to 31353. You pay R20 per month subscription, giving one unemployed person one day’s work or sms “medium” to pay R30 per month subscription, which gives them 1,5 days of work, or “large” to pay R40 per month subscription, which gives them two days’ work. Contact Peter: 021 448 9000, peterk@employmen.co.za or visit msr.org.za The Walter Sisulu Paediatric Cardiac Foundation Ensures that underprivileged children in Africa, requiring corrective cardiac intervention, get the help they need irrespective of their ability to pay for it. Readers are asked to please make donations to this cause; sms “heart” to 38208 to donate R10. For more info: visit wspcca.org.za

don’t miss out!

For a free listing, email your event to lucille@childmag.co.za or fax it to 021 462 2680. Information must be received by 27 May for the July issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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last laugh

road-tripping

across the RSA

Joe, Sam and Benj

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remember the first time Andreas and I did a car trip as parents. We packed up six-month-old Joey in his bulky, multi-click car seat and then chucked all his essentials in after him... into our little Volksie. Pram, camping cot, play donut, portable fan, his giant Pooh Bear; if our little snookums needed it, it was crammed in the back of that car.

All was great. Right until we started driving, and Joey started crying.

“Um, Dreas?” I said. “I can’t reach the baby to comfort him. He’s kinda wedged behind the pram. In fact, now that I think about it – that’s probably why he is crying.”

“Can’t talk. Driving,” said Dreas, through gritted teeth. “Need to get to Pretoria in 14 hours. You’re not going to need pee stops and stuff, are you?”

As you’ve probably intimated, that first trip didn’t go very well.

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Eleven years later, with parents still 14 hours away and a budget that doesn’t leave much for aeroplane money, we’ve got a lot better at road-tripping.

We have pretty much the same rituals as most SA families, in that we leave before the crack of dawn, take our favourite pillows, pack egg mayonnaise sandwiches, and argue about who is going to sit with that last bag squished under their legs.

We also make most of the same mistakes. We let the boys pack their own “trip bags”, which inevitably results in everyone squirming around for at least an hour looking for a dropped Bakugan or some other tiny, but emotionally-priceless piece of plastic. Against our better judgement, we let children eat greasy pit-stop burgers at 10am, and then blame each other if anyone throws up.

But luckily, as we’ve got older and less flexible, the children have become much easier to manage. To the point where, well, I think I am now the car’s Weakest Link.

It’s not my fault; I’ve just always needed to pee a lot. And I get very antsy sitting in a car for hours. And bored. And...

“Mom!” yelled Joey exasperated, about five hours into our last trip. “You know we aren’t nearly there yet! The sat nav says four more hours; you should know this better than anyone, you are sitting right in front of it!”

“Joe has a point, Mom,” said Benj sternly. “Your constant whining is breaking my concentration. It’s hard enough reading Asterix in the car without you moaning and huffing all the time. Why don’t you play on your iPhone or something?”

“Or look outside,” said Andreas. “See that cool ridge over there? That’s a dolerite

sill! Isn’t that interesting? That’s been there since the split of age-old continents...”

Yup. I am officially the most childish person in my family. Which I’m okay with, because it means I have also invented the coolest road trip game ever... “car dancing”.

It’s frigging awesome. You play your most boppy ’80s compilation, and then headbang your way through the Karoo. Sure you get a few stares from passing motorists (especially at stop-n-gos) but by the time you’ve got your hair out of your eyes, you’ve covered like a hundred kilometres.

And the best news? My boys let me do it for an hour every trip; two if I’ve been good.

Sam Wilson is the Editor-in-Chief of Women24, Food24 and Parent24. She’s also a little upset about the number of travel draughts dropped down the side of her seat that she can’t wiggle back up.

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PHOTOGRAPH: Andreas SpÄth

SAM WILSON survives family trips – and her children’s irritation – by playing cool car games.