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Are you a New Age parent? At Sunday lunch, my mom and aunt, both in their late seventies, referred to their children (I was the only one present), as “these New Age parents”. I was surprised. Firstly, it’s an old, rather hackneyed term and, secondly, what does it really mean nowadays anyway? They carried on chatting and as they hadn’t seen each other for months, I didn’t interrupt. Perhaps what the wise sisters were really referring to is the evolving and seemingly more challenging role parents are being asked to play, in what really is a new age. With the official unemployment figure at 25 percent, and the unofficial one galloping beyond 40 percent, we certainly need a new plan of action: how do we raise happy, healthy, environmentally friendly, really employable children, who are not completely stressed out? I often feel overwhelmed as I watch my children grow up, constantly stressing about school and sport. But when I actually sit back and look at their lives, I see a huge, ever-present safety net – their circle of friends. On page 18 we look at your child and the role their friends play in their lives. These friendships can give them what they really need to get where they are going: the fun and games, the love and the laughter, the shoulder to cry on and, so often, the confidence to conquer. While we strive to do all we can to love and protect our children, it may very well be their friends who carry them where we can’t. So let’s encourage childhood friendships and do what we can to help them grow. Wishing all dads a happy Father’s Day on 17 June.

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contents

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upfront 3

a note from lisa

6 over to you

readers respond

14 reader’s blog

Duster Moyo explains why he went on a techno diet

regulars features

8 wins

18 helping friendships grow

lynis Horning explores the G importance of friends in your child’s life

22 from yuck to yum UK nutrition guru, Annabel Karmel, gives you tips on how to get fussy eaters to enjoy healthy food. By Lucille Kemp 24 keep them learning

Sameerah Karolia suggests ways to keep children mentally stimulated over the holidays

11 upfront with paul the more time children spend outdoors, the happier they are, says Paul Kerton 12 best for baby – special delivery

Donna Cobban looks at the birthing options for your second or third baby

16 dealing with difference

Asperger’s syndrome is an autism spectrum disorder, but how do we identify it? Lisa Lazarus finds out

27 what my mother taught me author Alexandra Fuller speaks to Sue Segar about her eccentric mother 28 warm the soul

celebrity chef Jenny Morris shares recipes for Father’s Day from her book Cooking with Jenny Morris

health 15 all systems down

32 resource – romance me

does your child suffer from recurring infections? It might be primary immunodeficiency disease. Ruwaydah Lillah explains

it’s time to reconnect with your partner. Compiled by Lucille Kemp

36 a good read

new books for the whole family

38 what’s on in june 50 finishing touch

moving house is not for the faint hearted, but Anél Lewis has done it twice, and while heavily pregnant

classified ads 44 family marketplace 47 let’s party

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I am commenting on the article “give them a shot” (April 2012). As a healthcare professional and mother I would have preferred to see both sides of the vaccination debate presented to give me a balanced start to investigating this controversial topic. A good site for reading material on vaccines is nvic. org as it is neither for nor against vaccination. It would be great if any subject relating to health and children has medical, homoeopathic and any other related research presented. Siobhan Wilcox

put their children on Ritalin without giving them other options. In the years that I have been teaching, I have taught quite a few children that in my opinion as a teacher have had ADD/ADHD. In all of these cases I have called the parents in and we have discussed our options. Teachers cannot diagnose ADHD. The only thing that we can do is recommend that parents get their children assessed by an educational psychologist. Teachers are also not legally allowed to prescribe medication. I don’t agree that Ritalin is the only choice. I always suggest that parents change their children’s diets, increase their exercise and limit their TV time. I encourage them to visit their GP who can help them with alternatives and if this fails, I suggest they look at medication. I have seen success with low doses of Ritalin given during school time; it made a huge difference to those children, but it is not for everyone. People sometimes don’t understand that teachers have 30-plus children to educate and the other children have problems too. We try our best with the resources we have and I always put the needs of the children in my class first. Anonymous

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I would like to appeal to all who offer play facilities to ensure that safety checks are done on a regular basis and that the play equipment and surrounding areas are safe. I often see moms sitting and chatting with friends while children as young as 18 months are left unattended to climb and explore playground equipment that is not suitable for their age group. Should one of these children fall they might be left with a brain injury or broken limbs. I acknowledge that children need to explore their surroundings, but it should be in a controlled, safe environment, which has age-appropriate equipment. In most establishments I have noticed that there are no padded safety mats and should the child fall it is either onto hard soil or concrete. I would also appeal to them to ensure that there are no strangulation hazards. Concerned mom

First, I would like to thank Child magazine and Mural Maniac for my wonderful prize, which I won in the April issue of your magazine. I would also like to take this opportunity to say a huge thank you to everyone involved in the completion and installation of the mural, which is truly incredible. I still haven’t quite grasped that my son has such an interesting and original design in his bedroom… and we didn’t have to pay a cent! Everyone who has seen it so far is raving about it. Thank you for the friendly and helpful service on top of this fabulous prize. It has really been a wonderful experience. Juliet Kent

pretoria on the map I was exposed to Child magazine in Cape Town a year or two ago and was very impressed when you started distributing in Pretoria as well. Keep up the excellent work. Ilse Botha

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more on ADHD medication My child was diagnosed with ADHD and, after a consultation with a psychologist and psychiatrist, went on Ritalin a year ago, which made her “head clearer”, helped her to cope, and improved her level of confidence, school enjoyment and general happiness. We recently started weaning her off the medicine at the psychiatrist’s suggestion, and she is still getting 10 percent more on average for her exams, is a happy and confident child and the school admits they see a huge improvement. We are also able to control her ADHD with the right food and self-discipline. Each child is different and we should not judge nor set a standard rule. Parents should do their research and find a solution that works for their child. Nikki I am a teacher and it really upsets me when people state that we (teachers) immediately push parents to

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the worldwide club I was trying to get my one-year-old daughter to sleep. She was teething and she complained the whole day. It was her third or fourth day with the same level of discomfort. Even when sleeping, she complained. I was exhausted. At some point I was rocking her on the balcony. It was hot and the fresh air helped to relax her. I was so tired. My arms, back and knees were in pain from so many hours with her in my arms without a minute of silence, trying to do everything with a single hand. I felt helpless and frustrated. What else could I do? Suddenly, there on the balcony, I thought: how many other women are at this precise moment doing exactly what I’m doing? Millions of mothers must be in the same position as me. I felt so much better. I was not alone. I imagined a kind of connection between us, like small lamps all over the world, flashing at the same time. I belonged to the largest and oldest club in the world. Thanks to all the mothers for being moms. Nuria Vidal Galiano

from our website Comments on the article “overcoming the challenges of bed-wetting” My son is almost eight years old and a bedwetter. I have tried tablets that produce the “antidiuretic hormone” twice and the bedwetting alarm, but nothing worked. After 6pm in the evening my son is not allowed any fluids and he still sometimes wets his bed. Are there any solutions? – Anonymous In my experience as a therapist, children who bed-wet are experiencing some form of emotional stress. If one can pinpoint what this is and help a child to acknowledge what they are feeling and support them with love, understanding and care, the bed-wetting will stop almost immediately. Craniosacral therapy is also very helpful for children with bed-wetting woes. – Sam We had our son checked for bladder issues, used medication, and used the alarm. The alarm had the best results in our case. – Heinrich As a child who wet his bed until almost the age of 13, due to various levels of anxiety, I know how they feel and can say that it will pass. – Anonymous And more... Is there a way to find out about open days at schools? I know they often advertise this information in your magazine. – Wendy Childmag says... See our online and magazine “what’s on” sections for open days. I am a Grade R teacher and Gran, and would like to know how we go about getting your magazine circulated at our primary school? – Linda Kok Childmag says... For subscriptions to the magazine or to be added to our distribution waiting list, you can contact Helen Xavier via email at subs@childmag.co.za

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get out there If you want to teach your children well, start spending more of your weekend outdoors – they’ll be happier for it, and so will you, says PAUL KERTON.

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grew up in Ilkley, a lovely, safe Yorkshire town, which had a dangerously fastflowing river surrounded by craggy hills, gushing streams and giant rocks. I climbed trees to the very top – often with some very hairy moments getting down, I clambered up and over rocks and I’d take my bike with the thickest tyres over the roughest forest trails, years before they invented mountain bikes. We’d sail down river in car tyres, being careful to negotiate the killer rapids, and we’d play football in the park for days. In winter I went ice-skating on the small frozen lake, sometimes falling through the thinner ice, and when it snowed I took my toboggan and challenged my friends to the steepest, longest, most dangerous slopes. There were no cellphones or computer games, no Facebook and not much on TV, but I was happy and roamed free. Nobody – not parents, teachers, social workers or the police, bothered me and nobody said the word “don’t”. My mother

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simply asked if I had a vest on, adding, “be careful, and be back in time for dinner”. Play is often described by those in the know as “the work of children” in that without play children do not develop the physical and mental skills necessary to survive to a basic standard. The hope is that growing children will develop strong bones and good muscle tone, and an alert and curious mind bursting with imagination. These days, however, there seem to be an awful lot of people saying “don’t” and the

act of play is fast becoming a political football booted from one lobby group to another, which could either improve or restrict a child’s development and happiness. There has been a rash of child surveys recently done by important, concerned and influential bodies, institutions and corporations, and numerous pressure groups. They conclude that: 1) Children are getting fatter faster than ever before. 2) Their bodies are weak to the point that, 3) they cannot endure

simple exercise, like running. This is because, 4) they are spending too much time indoors or on the couch in front of a screen. 5) Parents don’t spend enough time playing with their children because, 6) they feel guilty for not working or not doing domestic chores. 7) Child’s play is deemed either too dangerous or not dangerous enough, depending on which group you believe, and 8), children are generally unhappy compared to children of 15 years ago. 9) Out of 21 “rich” western countries, UK children are the “unhappiest” children, while 10), the Netherlands has the happiest children with Scandinavian countries runners-up. (South Africa didn’t feature). Now in the UK parents need to seek planning permission to “erect” a jungle gym and are advised to take an “’elf and safety course (250 quid!)” to learn how to supervise their child on it. Please, let’s not go there… Paul Kerton is the author of Fab Dad 2: From Walking to Talking (... and Beyond).

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special delivery Often women don’t have the birth they envisioned, so when the time comes to prepare for a second or third baby, it’s helpful to know what the options are. By DONNA COBBAN

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had a Caesarean section. I held out for a natural delivery, but in the last week I developed cholestasis of pregnancy, a liver disorder with implications for the baby’s health, and the decision was made for me. “We’ll do it on Tuesday. Come in for a prep talk on Monday,” I was told. “But I want the baby to decide when he will be born, so let’s do it once I go into labour,” was my response. “But then you might have to get us all up in the middle of the night,” was the retort. Being the wimp I often am, I just mumbled, “Oh okay” and made my appointment. Then on Sunday at about midnight labour began and the next morning, at 8:02am, my son was born via C-section, on the day he chose. I felt I had won a small victory. But were I to do it again, I would do things differently. At that time, I knew no one who had used a midwife and I barely knew what a doula was.

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This can take place in a hospital or clinic with your gynaecologist/obstetrician, at a birth centre with a midwife or doula or even at your own home. Many hospitals now have birthing rooms or suites, which may include a bath, music and a double bed, where the partner can sleep over. Water births are gaining popularity, but they need careful planning as equipment needs to be booked well in advance. Medically there are mixed feelings as to delivering a baby under water – the pros and cons of which would need to be discussed with your medical practitioner.

pain relief in natural birth Dr Linda Walmesly, an obstetrician/gynaecologist at Groote Schuur Hospital in Cape Town, says pethidine and morphine are commonly used drugs in natural labour. These are given via injection to the mother preferably four hours before delivery. The antidote nalaxone is administered to the baby if there is a slow response postdelivery or if the mother received medication shortly before the birth. Entonox or nitrous oxide, otherwise known

as laughing gas, can be inhaled during and just before contractions for some pain relief. The most comprehensive form of pain relief would be an epidural, which is an injection of local anaesthetic via a small catheter into the space surrounding the spinal cord. It is an invasive procedure and is performed by an anaesthetist. It can be given in such a way that the mother can still walk around. Other methods include transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation, or Tens, which provides a non-invasive, lowrisk nerve stimulation that may help with pain; acupuncture; lying in a warm bath; soothing music and hypnobirthing

twenty-one The percentage of births in South Africa in 2003 that were by Caesarean section as reported by the World Health Organisation. The WHO standard is not more than 10 to 15 percent.

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types of births

and the use of relaxation techniques to diminish fear and help your body deliver naturally.

caesarean section South Africa, it seems, is fast following countries where fear, insurance and litigation have become major players in the birthing game and healthcare practitioners appear more reluctant to take any risks. According to a 2011 paper in the South African Medical Journal, “reasons for requesting a C-section include fears of labour and delivery, also known as tocophobia, convenience, control, and the preservation of pelvic floor function”. Many women also opt for an elective Caesarean as they can choose the date and time of the birth, maximise their maternity leave and because of anecdotal evidence that the procedure is safer for the mother and/or the baby, which is not necessarily true. The paper points out that some doctors believe a C-section reduces the risk of being sued, even if a vaginal birth may be the optimal option. It is performed by a gynaecologist/obstetrician with an anaesthetist present throughout the procedure. The reasons for a non-elective C-section include a baby in the breech position, meaning the feet or buttocks would have entered the birth canal first instead of the head, a baby deemed too large to pass through the pelvis or if the baby or mother is in distress. Often the baby may be placed directly onto the mother’s chest after birth, allowing for skin-on-skin contact. As a C-section is serious surgery, you will be in hospital for about three days and you will have to avoid lifting, exercise and driving for six weeks while you recover.

vaginal birth after Caesarean When asked about a vaginal birth after C-section, or a VBAC, Marilyn Sher, a midwife in private practice in

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Joburg, reports that these can be done successfully with an obstetrician. Ashleigh McGougan’s first child was in a breech position when she went into labour. The baby was therefore delivered via an emergency C-section, but she had her second child via a VBAC water birth, at home. This is also known as a home birth after Caesarean, or an HBAC. The VBAC is not popular as the medical profession prefers to stay away from potential risks, such as uterine rupture.

Ashleigh says her C-section was necessary only because the baby was breech and not due to any other medical condition, so she was a perfect candidate for a VBAC. It is rare to have an HBAC and finding a gynaecologist/ obstetrician who will act as a backup may be a challenge. But in Ashleigh’s case, her midwife was happy to go along with it as long as she promised to go to hospital if things got complicated.

your birth partners obstetrician/gynaecologist or midwife?

recommended by the World Health Organisation to

This can be a difficult decision. Both will offer you

have a scan at 12, 20 and 36 weeks. These, Marilyn

the same gynaecological and obstetrical services,

says, would be done by either the back-up doctor or

with full prenatal care, tests and screenings as well

a sonographer. She goes on to mention that the

as postpartum follow-up care. A midwife cannot do

South African Nursing Council’s midwife rules

surgery or Caesarean deliveries, but she/he can cut

state that the mother needs to see a doctor once

and suture episiotomies and give local anaesthetic for

in her pregnancy. “The obstetricians we work with

this. If you are having a VBAC and seeing a midwife

see the client once and thereafter only if we have

you will need a partnering obstetrician/gynaecologist

problems with the pregnancy or if the mom needs a

as a backup. If there are any complications in your

Caesarean section.”

pregnancy, seeing an obstetrician/gynaecologist is the recommended route to follow.

doula

Marilyn says her role is to give personalised

A doula is present throughout labour and is there

professional care during pregnancy, the birth and up

to offer emotional and physical support, and to

to six weeks post-delivery. “We see the moms any time

communicate with medical staff on the mother’s

between conception and birth and the checkups are

behalf. It’s not only the mothers who benefit. First-time

done on the same basis as for any doctor or clinic,”

fathers often report that a doula’s presence significantly

she says. Once labour starts, the midwife goes to the

reduced their own stress and worry. Belinda says, “The

hospital or home to support the mother and monitor

doula does not in any way take the place of a doctor or

her condition. While midwives do not do scans as

midwife, but rather assists the medical team by taking

they feel they are not essential at each visit, it is

care of the mother’s emotional needs and comfort.”

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a digital diet Techno-dependent father DUSTER MOYO and his daughter learn

y eight-year-old daughter suffers from night terrors and will see imaginary vampires when I walk into her room to close the curtains. When I recently walked into her room to console her while she was having one of her nightmares, she yelled, “Dad, switch off your Blackberry!” That was a turning point for me; making me realise that technology has taken over our lives. Our children text, email and tweet as if they are training for the Olympics, and they must improve their speed daily to make the grade. Yet despite our virtual and boundless digital connections with people, many of us feel overwhelmed and isolated, unsure of how to interact normally with our children. We blame Xboxes, PlayStations, smartphones, tablet computers and laptops for stealing us away from our children, things we love and people in general, but we are really our own worst enemies. Do a quick census

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of your digital life with the following questions: 1) Do you allow your child to parry questions about her school maths project while she fiddles on her smartphone? 2) Do you find yourself checking your LinkedIn profile or reading documents on Google while your daughter complains about her violin lessons? 3) Do you or your children feel that something has only really happened once they have shared it with their peers on MXit? and 4) Does your child get restless if his data airtime is up and he can’t go online? If you answered yes to any of these, then you are not alone. I too have lost contact with my children and people around me. We no longer have anything meaningful to say to each other when we are offline and in each other’s presence. So I sought the help of a psychologist to reclaim my relationship with my daughter. She drew up a three-step digital diet, starting with a detox. My daughter had to spend three days of the week without her laptop or smartphone, to rediscover herself, and her relationship with me. Then my daughter’s “virtual weight index” was calculated using a formula that measures how much she is weighed down by her use of gadgets and social networks to communicate. She was told that unless she

cut down on her use of technology, she would suffer from “digital obesity”. Our psychologist also showed us techniques beyond the hazy social networks that we can use to improve our relationship. I set up dates and timetables of when she could be online to answer friends’ tweets, reply to emails or search for information. This showed her that technology should be an aid and not an obsession. I encouraged her to re-establish friendships by walking to friends’ houses instead of just “liking” their Facebook profiles. For the first time in a while, she is rediscovering the art of conversation. With technology absent from the dinner table, she no longer almost loses her head in the salad bowl when she battles a cheating player in an online game. The digital diet has given us a healthy approach to technology, and improved our father-daughter relationship. Moyo is a scriptwriter and a proud father of one.

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how to drop their virtual weight and reclaim their relationship.

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all systems down Does your “sickly child” suffer from recurring infections and illnesses? He may have a primary immunodeficiency

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hen a recurrent chest infection refused to yield to an aggressive dose of antibiotics and nebuliser treatments, Pietermaritzburg nurse Cally Coldbeck realised something was wrong with her usually vivacious daughter, Megan. Days before the infection, Megan was a normal nine-year-old, climbing trees and playing with the animals on a friend’s farm in the Drakensberg. But a seemingly harmless infection quickly turned her into a shadow of her former bubbly self. “Her weight dropped and she slept all day without getting any better. We watched this energetic “firefly” waste away in front of our eyes.” After a series of tests, Meg, now 13, was diagnosed with a primary immunodeficiency disease (PID).

what is PID? When a part of the immune system is missing, or does not work properly, the

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disease, says RUWAYDAH LILLAH. body can’t get rid of germs or protect itself from new germs. This means that sufferers are more vulnerable to infections and struggle to shake off even the slightest germ. PID sufferers may experience autoimmune problems, where the immune system mistakenly attacks the body’s organs and tissues instead of germs and other disease-causing agents. Most primary immunodeficiencies are genetic disorders and there are over 150 types, many of which go undiagnosed. They vary in severity, with some being so mild that they may go unnoticed for years. More severe cases will usually be picked up soon after birth.

what are the symptoms? Dr Monika Esser, Head of National Health Laboratory Systems at Tygerberg Hospital and the Immunology Unit at Stellenbosch University, cautions parents not to panic and put every sniffle down to PID. To find

out if your child is at risk, she recommends you use the “spur” indicator, an acronym for severe, persistent, unexplained and recurrent infections, while also being aware of 10 warning signs. “Concerned parents should consult a doctor or clinic nurse,” advises Esser. Your child may be at risk if she has: • eight or more ear infections a year; • two or more serious sinus infections a year; • spent two or more months ineffectively on antibiotics; • two or more bouts of pneumonia per year; • recurrent deep skin or organ abscesses; • persistent mouth or skin thrush after the age of seven; • n eeded intravenous antibiotics to clear infections; • two or more deep-seated infections, such as meningitis, sepsis, cellulitis, or osteomyelitis; and • a family history of PID.

Stunted growth in infants may also be a warning sign.

is there a cure? Certain forms of severe combined immune deficiency and an increasing number of PIDs, even chronic granulomatous disease, can be cured by a successful bone marrow or a cord blood transplant, says Esser. “An early diagnosis is important, before irreversible organ damage occurs.” She adds that gene therapy holds some promise for curing PIDs, although the later onset of cancers is a problem. More common antibody deficiencies are usually treatable with immunoglobulin, antibiotics and vaccinations.

where to get help PiNSA has a national helpline exclusively for PID patients. Contact Joy Rosario: 082 365 4663, pinsahelp@mweb.co.za or visit pinsa.org.za

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dealing with difference

geek syndrome Is Asperger’s syndrome more common in people specialising in highly-skilled fields of science and engineering? LISA LAZARUS investigates. severe autism, the content – namely, what the child talks about – and the style of their communication – for example the way a conversation is about each person taking a turn to speak – will be affected. Dr Lynda Albertyn, child psychiatrist and head of the Child, Adolescent and Family Unit at the Johannesburg Hospital, says Asperger’s syndrome as a category is likely to fall away, and that all autistic disorders will soon be analysed along a spectrum, from higher-functioning to lower-functioning.

incidence of AS According to Autism Western Cape, autism spectrum disorders affect one in 110 children globally, and are four times more common with boys than girls. In the Western Cape, approximately 10 children are diagnosed each week at three of the province’s government hospitals. It is estimated that the number of people with AS is approximately one in 500, and that the number diagnosed with autism grows by 500 percent each year. Is it a case that this diagnosis is being made more easily, or are the rates of autism just steadily rising? Certainly there do appear to be areas where the rates of autism are particularly high. Nature magazine reports on a 2010 study, which found that “clusters [of high autism rates] tended to occur in areas where parents were older and educated to

It is widely accepted that the origin of Asperger’s syndrome is multifactorial and shouldn’t be ascribed to a single cause. what is asperger’s syndrome? Jana Forrester, a Cape Town-based educational psychologist, says that AS is a form of autism characterised by normal to superior IQ, which is accompanied by social and communication difficulties. The person also exhibits restricted and repetitive patterns of behaviour, interests and activities. Supposedly, AS differs from more severe autistic disorders in that language delays and/or deviances are not as apparent. Instead, children with AS tend to show high levels of language and speech development. While it may sound as if there are significant differences between a child who is autistic and one suffering from AS, the truth is that, in the words of AS expert Dr Tony Atwood, “the difference between high-functioning autism and Asperger’s syndrome is mostly in the spelling”. For children suffering from AS and more

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a higher level”. Older parents, it appears, also have a higher risk of having children with autism. Leading autism researcher Simon Baron-Cohen, also quoted in Nature magazine, is interested in the factors that promote the genetic inheritance of this disorder. He claims that the fathers of children with autism are more than twice as likely to be engineers as those of non-autistic children. Baron-Cohen hypothesises that with autism, especially higher-functioning autism, the brain has an average to heightened ability to understand a predictable system, or to “hyper-systematise”, and an inability to empathise or understand people’s feelings. This “systematising ability” can be inherited and in areas where such people are probably going to meet, get together and have children – think Silicon Valley

±1 in 110 children globally who are affected by autism spectrum disorders

– the autism rates could well be higher. In other words, scientists and engineers, those with high systematising abilities or brains, are more likely to produce autistic children, particularly when they marry each other. Baron-Cohen is not without his detractors, some of whom say that he tends to focus on very bright individuals with autism, and that his theories might give people the wrong impression; that autism is linked to being a “geek”. Dr Cobie Lombard, the principal of Unica School for Autism in Pretoria, says that it’s

“widely accepted that the origin of AS is multifactorial and shouldn’t be ascribed to a single cause”. After Helen’s son was diagnosed with AS, she began an intervention programme with him that included behaviour therapy, speech therapy (though this only worked when her son was a little older), occupational therapy and dietary intervention. “No two children suffering from AS are exactly alike,” she says. “Each child has his or her own particular issues, difficulties and obsessions.” She stresses that early intervention is critical. Noah has made remarkable improvements; this year he started at a mainstream school. “My child will always be on the autism spectrum; it is part of who he is. However, intervention has helped ensure that Noah fulfils his potential and, really, that is what all parents want for their children.”

red flags for possible autism communication: • no babbling by 11 months of age, • no simple gestures, such as waving, by 12 months, • no single words by 16 months, • no two-word phrases by 24 months, • no response when name is called, causing concern about hearing, and • loss of language or social skills at any age. behaviour: • odd or repetitive ways of moving fingers or hands, • oversensitive to certain textures, sounds or lights, • lack of interest in toys, or plays with them in an unusual and ageinappropriate way, for example, lining up, or opening and closing parts instead of playing with a toy as a whole, • compulsions or rituals – has to perform activities in a special way or

certain sequence; prone to tantrums if the ritual is interrupted, and • a preoccupation with unusual interests, such as light switches, doors and fans or unusual fears, for example, of the colour green. social: • rarely makes eye contact, • does not play peek-a-boo, • doesn’t point to show things, or follow your point, • m ore interested in looking at objects than at people’s faces, • prefers to play alone, • doesn’t make attempts to get parents’ attention, • child is in “his/her own world”, • doesn’t respond to a parent’s attempt to play, even if relaxed, and • avoids or ignores other children when they approach. Information courtesy of Autism Western Cape (autismwesterncape.org.za)

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elen Hayes, the CEO of Autism Western Cape, first noticed a problem with her son, Noah, now five, when his behaviour and verbal ability changed dramatically at 22 months. “We moved to a bush camp on the border of Timbavati around this time and initially I attributed Noah’s strange behaviour to the huge change in his environment, the separation from his nanny and the lack of opportunity for socialisation in the game reserve,” she says. Helen explains that Noah stopped eating and sleeping properly. His speech started to deteriorate; whereas before he was linking two words together, he now stopped speaking altogether. He would sometimes hit himself, and began to bang his head. There were also strange obsessions, like standing with his face against the television, or running his finger over the markings in a parking lot. “I remember Googling tip-toe walking and that led me to pages about autism. With horror I realised that Noah [matched] 12 of the 15 red flags for this condition.” At just over two years old, he was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum. Noah is a somewhat atypical case, because he initially presented with a speech delay, which is uncharacteristic for this condition. The diagnosis of Asperger’s syndrome (AS) was only made later, at about five, and after three years of specialised intervention.

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parenting

helping friendships

grow

Your child’s need for friends, and the ability to make them, changes at different ages and

stages, writes GLYNIS HORNING.

atching my teenage son’s warm camaraderie with his best buddy is a delight. Yet when they first met at one of my antenatal class’s reunion teas, they ignored each other, intent only on engaging with their moms and their baby mobiles. As toddlers they played separately, exchanging words when one coveted the other’s plastic spade or scooter. It was only in preschool that they slowly began the sharing, caring and communicating they do so well today. “We are social animals, so our brains are wired for social interaction and cognition,” says Durban-based education and child psychologist Dr Caron Bustin. “Nurturing this during sensitive stages supports a child’s holistic development.” It takes patience and sensitivity, but what would any of us be without the companionship, candid advice, comfort and sheer fun of good friends?

the baby years: zero to one Your baby learns the basics of forming friendships when you make eye contact with them and exchange smiles. They are drawn to the human face and voice, and if you talk, sing or read to them they babble or coo in response and imitate your expressions. “A mother’s interaction and her bond with her baby from birth is vital for a secure attachment [to form] between them,” says Joburg-based clinical psychologist Clare Harvey. “This secure relationship will form the blueprint for all further relationships the child will have.” What you can do: Put your baby’s chair or pram where they can see you while you cook or do chores. Harvey says, “Constantly talk to them and give them running commentary on your actions. You are then laying the foundation for healthy, secure friendships later on in life.”

Toddlers are notoriously selfabsorbed, seeing themselves as the centre of the universe, but they are curious about others and can show empathy. “Even one year olds have been observed trying to sooth their peers,” says Bustin. They initially play alone, but watch others at play. They then progress to “parallel play” alongside another child and, though there is little interaction, they are learning about friendship by mirroring each other’s actions or sounds. Favourite words tend to be “me” and “mine”, but they understand many more and are ripe for emotional guidance. What you can do: Coach them in feelings, consequences and self-control, all vital for friendship: “Thandi is crying because she is sad that you took her doll.” Empathise but have limits: “I know you want the spade and waiting is difficult, but Steven is using it now.” A child feels heard if you affirm their feelings or wishes, explains Bustin. They might not like a particular rule, such as waiting for their turn, but they will soon learn.

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the toddler years: one to three

the preschool years: four to six Friendship now rests largely on the proximity of the other child and an interest in what they are playing with. But children do begin to develop deeper bonds with a few special friends, usually of the same sex. There can be trouble when one child always assumes the role of leader, or can’t get the other child’s attention. They may resort to stepping on their playmate’s sand castle or smacking to get a reaction. What you can do: Develop your child’s empathy by explaining their friend’s viewpoint: “Let Fatima play Mom for a change or she may not want to come next time.” They need to try out different roles to develop empathy or to gain perspective, says Bustin. Cape Town educational psychologist René Daniels suggests joining in your child’s imaginary play to help develop sharing and other skills. “Talking and modelling appropriate social behaviour is vital as children mirror what we do,” she says.

the primary school years: seven to 12 From the age of seven, their friendships focus on shared activities such as sports or computer games, and on talking and gossiping. “As they internalise society’s values and conventions, children’s moral reasoning increases, but they’re still at the stage of direct consequences so they want to see punishment or obedience,” says Bustin. They can be self-righteous and will likely “tell on” their friends. What you can do: Explain that this is not acceptable, unless the other child is hurting or endangering themselves or others, she says. Talk to them about physical and emotional bullying and suitable responses, and practice these (see “what to do when”). Give them opportunities to form a variety of friendships. “Invite other children home, and insist they visit others too because of the different dynamic,” says Bustin. Involve them with sporting, cultural, scouting or other interest groups.

the middle school years: from 13 With growing independence, children start opening up to friends about their intimate feelings, dreams and fears. They may also begin forming friendships with, and crushes on, the opposite sex. Loss of friendship can seem like the end of the world, and they are painfully vulnerable to exclusion from the favoured or “cool” groups that form based on looks, dress and strong personality, as well as to teasing and bullying. Today some of the most devastating bullying is done on social networking sites such as MXit and Facebook. What you can do: Understand that a degree of social pain is normal and don’t interfere unless you have to, but make sure your child knows they can turn to you for help and advice, says Harvey. Daniels adds, “Talk to them about appropriate etiquette and what to share and keep private when using social networks. Helping them deal with emotional pain will build resilience and confidence and enhance their problem-solving skills.” If your child loses a friend or is rejected by a clique, listen compassionately and ask what they are doing about it. Give encouragement and suggestions if they ask but, expressing confidence in them by letting them work through it themselves to find their own solutions is the best way to help them grow, say both psychologists.

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what to do when… they fight with friends Fighting is normal, even among close friends, and as long as it’s within manageable proportions, leaving your child to sort it out teaches important life skills, says Harvey. If the fight gets heated, help them to identify their feelings and show empathy while remaining balanced. “You must have felt hurt when Vashni teased you. Do you think she may be upset because you wouldn’t let her use your crayons?” Point out consequences and encourage understanding. Say, “If you stop playing with her, could you miss having her over?” Offer support: “I know you can sort this out, but I’m here if you’d like to talk.” Above all, be a positive role model when you disagree with them, your own friends or your spouse. Calmly define the problem and your feelings and be respectful yet assertive. you don’t like their friends It’s often simpler to let an unsuitable friendship run its course than try to end it, says Harvey, “unless there could be lasting damage or danger to your child”. Calmly point out your concerns about the friend’s behaviour, and ask how it makes your child feel and

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whether it fits with their values. Let them know you trust them to make the right decisions and to resist peer pressure. If a friendship is dangerous because it involves drinking or drugs, limit the opportunities for contact and encourage opportunities to meet new friends, through sport or participation in other interest groups. If the friendship continues, you may have to separate them by changing classes or schools, but this should be a last resort, says Bustin. They will often be relieved to have the matter taken from their hands. “Always consult with your child throughout this process, letting them know what your thoughts are regarding how you would like to help,” adds Harvey. they’re friends with the Queen Bee or the bully Cliques are particularly powerful in middle school, when children can have a shaky self-esteem and crave the affirmation and identity of a group. These groups often distinguish themselves by putting down outsiders or competitors, and may project negative qualities onto them, also known as “scapegoating”, to boost their own sense of superiority, says Daniels. Your child may be sucked into a clique by fear of being ridiculed and excluded, rather than because they actively support the group’s Queen Bee leader or dominant bully. “A child

who lacks confidence and has poor social skills is more likely to find themselves in such a position. Acceptance and unconditional love from you would help them take a stand and move away from such situations.” Explain the difference between popularity, which is based simply on a group’s agreement that someone is attractive and “cool”, and friendship, which is based on genuine affection, trust and support. they bully a friend A bully will often mask their actions as being “strong” or “humorous” and blame the victim. They usually manipulate others to feel powerful and in control, so make sure that there is nothing negative going on in your child’s life. “Regular quality time and checking in with one another will definitely help,” says Daniels. Never facilitate bullying. If your child wants to exclude a child from a class party, ask how they would feel. Explain that they should never tolerate bullying and disrespect from anyone, and that it will not be tolerated from them. Discuss limits and consequences, and stick to them, says Daniels. “Creating a stable home, where value and respect for one another is prized, puts your child in the best stead for building lasting relationships.”

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health

from yuck to yum LUCILLE KEMP gets advice from UK food author, Annabel Karmel, about fussy eaters and child nutrition.

n an ideal world, you will effortlessly rear your child to eat all the food groups with a smile on their face. Then reality strikes, meal time is a battle of wills and, eventually, you give up the fight. Sometimes too soon, says Annabel Karmel, who shows you how you can get your fussy eater to enjoy a wide range of foods, and experiment with the new and even the exotic.

be positive Lots of attention is given to children for not eating when meal time should be a positive experience. So, give them loads of attention for whatever it is they do eat, even if a teaspoon of yoghurt is all they can stomach. Hide your frustrations, don’t fight and let them go out and play. Eventually, they’ll be ready to eat and you’ll find a hungry child is less fussy. And make meal time a fun family ritual by eating together at the table.

breakfast is best Children need complex carbohydrates for energy throughout the day so make sure they get some in the morning. The options vary from carrot and apple muffins or a banana to wholegrain cereal and scrambled eggs.

eat ethnic Children, for the most part, don’t like bland foods, says Annabel. So, introduce them to fruity Indian curries, Asian noodle dishes or Mexican quesadillas, and then you can take the family out to ethnic restaurants.

get them involved Your baby is less likely to be fussy later if you start making your own fresh baby food. The combinations are endless and can be as tasty as you like – season your puréed veggies with herbs and garlic, and sweeten their food with apple, sweet potato and carrots. Your baby will take to this more readily having already been conditioned to the sweet taste of breast milk. Also, don’t cook the veggies to death as all the nutrients will be lost. Simply steam the vegetables for six to seven minutes, then purée. Fresh preparation doesn’t have to be major PT. Once you’ve cooked and prepared the foods, you can freeze ice-cube portions in an ice tray.

Let your children make their own wraps. They’ll be more likely to eat something that they’ve prepared themselves. After all, this is their ego at stake.

start a reward system Have a chart up on the fridge and give your child a sticker every time they’ve tried something new. When they’ve reached a certain amount, say you’ll buy them that pair of jeans they want or they can watch the soccer match on TV. Cheap bribery? Maybe, but the winning point is you’re taking the focus and pressure off the food issue.

package it better Children like to hold their food so give them finger foods such as mini meatballs, fish goujons or sliced raw vegetables and dip. The vegetable is often enemy number one, so disguise the undesirable by puréeing courgettes, mushrooms, peppers, carrots and celery into tomato sauce. Instead of just potato mash, grate some carrots into the mash. When you make a lasagne, try the spinach and ricotta variation. If your child doesn’t like fruit, purée fruit and pour into ice-lolly moulds and freeze.

make food attractive Make individual fish pies in small ramekins; it’s likely to be more appealing for a child

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start early

than a lump of mash and sauce in the middle of their plate. Also, for stir-fry night, buy those child-friendly chopsticks that are joined at the top, this will add a little theatre to their eating – they’ll be so busy giggling and bobbing for their food that they’ll forget they’re eating veggies.

time it right Children are at their hungriest when they come home from school, which is probably when you have nothing nutritious to offer because you are thinking more about supper. Try to have something healthy prepared for when they walk through the door, because, being ravenous, they are more likely to eat it. Then, come dinner time, it doesn’t matter if they don’t eat everything on their plate.

make healthy junk food A child once told Annabel that the reason they like junk food is “’cause it tastes better than healthy food”. So, there’s no reason why you can’t make your own healthy junk food – this can be pizza, burger patties and hidden-vegetable tomato sauce.

children are great mimics Children are copycats so invite a cousin or friend that you know is not a fussy eater and begin your social experiment by serving something like an olive and pepper pizza for lunch. Your child is more likely to follow their friend’s lead and experiment with the new taste than if you are simply telling her to try it.

snacks should be nutrient dense Snacks for children are essential; they need that constant input of energy. Make a habit of having nutritious foods in the fridge such as a pasta salad, mini cheeses and meatballs. Avoid giving them calorieempty snacks such as chocolate biscuits, crisps and even fruit juice – they’ll fill up on this and lose their appetite for “real” food.

enlist the help of your dentist Simply get the family dentist to show your child photos of children with rotten teeth resulting from eating too many sweets. This scare tactic will have more impact than you trying for the hundredth time to discourage them from eating too many sweets.

break the pattern

children don’t get enough iron The greatest source of iron exists in animal protein. The easiest way to get meat into their system is by making the ever-popular spaghetti bolognaise. For those children who don’t eat meat, wholegrain cereals are packed with iron, but make sure they have a glass of orange juice with their breakfast as vitamin C helps absorb iron.

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Children have pretty much decided what they like and don’t like by the time they are five years old, according to Annabel, but they still have a clean palate and have only decided what they like based on what you’ve given them. It’s a case of “getting used to”, so keep introducing them to different foods. At first they’ll avoid the unusual taste of chicken satay, so leave it on the table for them to consider later – when they’re hungry they’ll come around.

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education

keep them

A long school break could lead to regression in your child’s numeracy and literacy skills. SAMEERAH KAROLIA suggests ways to beat the holiday slump.

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keep up the good work Dindar says parents should have some sort of plan of action for the holidays and set some ground rules, since children thrive on routine and guidelines. She suggests that you allow for leisure time and outdoor activities, as well as some prepared activities.

make the most of outings Visit museums and places of interest and then discuss with your children what they saw, felt or touched. Encourage them to draw, write and talk about their experiences. This will help develop their vocabulary and also their cognitive or thinking skills.

read, read, and read some more “Parents should encourage their children to form book clubs and introduce electronic reading devices, such as a Kindle or books on computer tablets,” says Dindar. Reward their reading by allowing them to buy a book, or to choose one online. Instead of buying books, you can also visit your local library. Ask friends and family to give you old magazines and newspapers for them to read.

make travelling fun

Van Rooyen says road trips can be a learning opportunity. “Be creative. Invent games and rules for language and maths. Play games, such as adding and subtracting the numbers on number plates, learning the colours of vehicles or playing word games.”

are also valuable as they offer opportunities to develop numeracy and language skills. Playing Monopoly will also teach your children how to manage their finances.

extra work

Children can do extra maths and English classes to combat the holiday slump. Some schools give children holiday packs, which encourage them to complete a “winter or summer challenge”. This ensures that they haven’t regressed in their maths and reading when school reopens.

have fun Nadia Tayob, a mom from Joburg who has a two-yearold daughter, Aaliya, and four-year-old son, Deen, believes that a child’s body and mind need to be stimulated every day. “Being a crafty mom myself, I love to do art and crafts with my children. Painting is always a favourite and I also encourage messy play with shaving cream or goop, made with corn starch and water. Some of our favourite outdoor activities include having water fights that involve a lot of running and giggles. We play freeze dance at home. We also do crab walk races that strengthen their arms in a fun way. To stimulate their minds, I create weekly activity trays for my children and leave them on their play shelf at home. This allows them to do the activity when their body or mind needs the stimulation, without me having to push them to do it.”

play games

what role can teachers play?

Clarke says popular games, such as cards, Scrabble and Trivial Pursuit

Van Rooyen believes teachers can help combat this slump by supplying the

resources that parents will need for the holiday period. “Furthermore, they should follow up with parents after the holidays and also provide feedback.” “Teachers can encourage children to keep a record of all the books they read during the holidays. They could be rewarded during the term for the most books read and reviewed. At the end of the year, each grade acknowledges a reader who qualifies for a merit award,” says Dindar. Clarke suggests that schools allow pupils access to the school library during the holidays or offer a regular daily story hour. Alternatively pupils should be encouraged to borrow books from the school library that they can read over the holidays. Teachers could meet with parents before the school closes to brief them on the importance of keeping their children stimulated over the holidays. They could also provide parents with a recommended list of age-appropriate activities to do. Teachers could go the extra mile by putting together holiday packs filled with activities for the children to do over this period.

recommended resources printable worksheets • e-classroom.co.za • tlsbooks.com • abcteach.com • schoolexpress.com audiobooks • storynory.com • lightupyourbrain.com/stories children’s activity book • freestuff.co.uk/free-kidsactivity-book

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eeping holiday boredom at bay is not the only thing you should be concerned about when the term ends. Shereen Dindar, an education specialist and life coach from Mpumalanga, says the holiday slump occurs when “children tend to ‘switch off’ their brains to school-related work such as reading, writing or studying”. Their minds, tuned into television and computer games, become sluggish and they experience a regression in terms of what they learnt at school during the term. Primary school teacher Marthie van Rooyen from the North West, believes that this regression is most likely to occur during the long winter and summer holidays, as children generally lose interest in school work due to a lack of stimulation during this lengthy period of downtime. A number of studies have highlighted the detrimental effects of a long-term school break. In Summer Learning Loss: The Problem and Some Solutions, published in the Education Resources Information Centre Digest, education professor Harris Cooper found that the test scores of pupils in the US were at least one month behind when they returned to school after the summer holiday. Learning loss was more pronounced for maths and spelling than for other tested skill areas, as they benefit from regular practice. Maths competency was found to be lower than reading after a long break, as parents are more likely to encourage children to read than revise their numeracy skills at home. Ensuring that your children keep active during the holidays is a sure way to avoid the “holiday slump”. Alan Clarke, a Cape Townbased education consultant, believes that, “anything that engages the child actively, whether intellectually or physically, is good for them”.

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brain-boosting activities for all ages toddlers and preschoolers • Provide your children with a tactile experience by hiding small toys in a bowl of rice, beans or oats and letting them look for these objects. To strengthen fine motor skills, these small toys could also be hidden in playdough. • Print out a large alphabet to fit a sheet of paper. Put the paper inside a plastic sleeve. Give your child play dough to roll out and place onto the alphabet helping them practice writing their letters. • Get creative with finger paint, splatter paint, paint with brushes and even body paint. • Invest in educational DVDs that teach children their alphabet, numbers and colours. That way if they must watch TV, let it be something they can learn from. • If you have an iPad, download electronic books. Audio books are also great for toddlers. • There are many great YouTube animated videos on counting and learning the alphabet. Watch them with your children. • Let your children scribble with bath crayons while they bath. • Make simple picture books with your children using old photos and magazines. Write the name of the object at the top of the picture and then encourage them to read their own books. • Create themed sensory bins that contain rice and theme-orientated three-dimensional objects. You could also include cups and a magnifying glass, which enables them to use the sensory tub in many different ways. • Build puzzles and play board games.

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grades 1 to 3 • Get the children to help you in the kitchen. Encouraging them to measure out the ingredients themselves, provides a learning and tactile experience. • Story time should be a part of your everyday routine. • Invest in activity books that can be purchased from book shops. • Get the children to write out your grocery lists for you as you dictate to them. • When out shopping let them pay at the till, helping them check to see if they have paid the right amount and have received the right amount of change. • Encourage them to “shop” with paper money. • If they can go to work with mom or dad, let them accompany you. Then keep them busy with activities such as filing and typing. grades 4 to 7 • Visit museums and places of historical interest. • Play sports with them and let them keep score. • Get creative with more challenging art and crafts. • Have them type out recipes or documents for you. • Encourage them to correspond with pen pals. • Get them to write out their own thank-you notes for gifts received. • Have your children keep a diary during their holidays where they write about their daily activities.

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my story

what my mother taught me Author Alexandra Fuller, who has captured the spirit of her eccentric mother in two

magical books, speaks to SUE SEGAR about what she learnt from this indomitable woman.

couple of years ago, while renowned author Alexandra Fuller was working to a terrible deadline, her young son shouted up to her, asking what was for supper. Fuller’s reply to him was, “I don’t know. There’s a cookery book in the kitchen. Make supper yourself, even if it’s runny scrambled eggs.” Fuller, who wrote Don’t Let’s Go to the Dogs Tonight (Picador), in which she candidly recalls her unruly African childhood on farms in the then Rhodesia, and Malawi and Zambia in the 1970s and 1980s, believes her childhood influenced her mothering style. She grew up during a civil war in a country where minefields, disease and poverty were rife, and with a mother who was an alcoholic and a manic-depressive, who lost three young children. The book relates warts-and-all anecdotes about her sometimes emotionally absent mother – some humorous, others deeply poignant.

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nicola fuller of central africa Her mother, Nicola Fuller, famously hated the book and for years introduced her daughter by saying, “This is my American daughter who writes books about not being hugged enough”. Fuller wrote a sequel, Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness (Simon and Schuster), which focuses on the remarkable life of her mother, who preferred to be known as Nicola Fuller of Central Africa. The New York Times Book Review describes her as “one of the most memorable characters of African memoir”. A beautiful, larger-than-life woman who loved Africa, she was the kind of mother who lived more for animals than children and would shout “Emergency!” whenever she found her glass empty. She married the quieter Tim Fuller, who had come to Kenya as a young man to “see a giraffe and escape alcoholic relatives”, but who ended up having to go off to “fight the terrorists” while his wife tended to the cattle and children, and killed the snakes. While she might joke about her mother’s parenting skills, Fuller, who now lives with her husband and three children in Wyoming, has actually learnt a great deal of mothering wisdom from her endearingly eccentric mother.

they can’t keep their bedroom clean. She taught me that you don’t want to end up with children who can’t take care of themselves or other people. She drummed into her children from an early age that they must be each other’s advocates. She’d say, ‘Here’s your little sister. Take her hand.’” Fuller, who enjoys a “conversational” relationship with her children, believes in setting firm ground rules. “I stress to them that if they have a problem, they are welcome to sit down with me and talk about it. I don’t mind confrontation, but I cannot stand it when people lose the dignity of their own intelligence. I talk with my children non-stop, especially my son. I’m terrified of raising a misogynist. No issues are off the table. They are highly aware of the issues

She was the sort of mother who got on a horse and got on with her day. If you couldn’t keep up with her, it was your funeral. that the world faces, such as climate change. I ask them every day, ‘how did you change the world today?’ What’s the moral responsibility of having freedom of speech if you just sit there with tape over your mouth?” Fuller believes there is nothing as wrong as a parent who thinks that their role is to protect their children from the world, rather than prepare them for it. From her mother, Fuller learnt the basics of child-rearing: “that both dogs and children require plenty of fresh air and exercise”. Fuller says, “Every evening, she would take us on death marches; she still does it with my own children. On our last visit, she took the children for a walk. There were bees in the baobab trees. When the bees started swarming, she yelled ‘save the dogs’. My daughter said to her afterwards, ‘You were more interested in the dogs’ and she replied: ‘Children – easy come, easy go!’”

an unconventional upbringing lessons learnt Speaking during a visit to Cape Town to promote her latest book, Fuller says, “One of the first things I learnt is that a person isn’t going to do much to save the world if magazine cape town

Fuller’s take on materialism, ageing and death are influenced by her experiences as a child. “I watch my children growing up in a materialistic, Western culture where people try and defend themselves against the inevitability of age and death

by acquiring more and more stuff and by treating death as taboo. Growing up as I did, death was background noise in our lives. I have actively spoken to my children about ageing and death, while the Western media seems to scream out every week about a new product or vitamin that will save us. It’s so self-indulgent and it’s precisely the sort of thing my mother would have no truck with.” This passionate reader, who does not have a television set at home, was introduced to Shakespeare by her mother, “before we could walk”. Her sister, Vanessa, firmly believes that her abiding hatred of reading dates back to hearing Troilus and Cressida read to her while in the womb. Known as “Bobo” in her family, Fuller grew up understanding that she’d been born to “replace” Adrian, the baby before her who had died. Her little sister Olivia drowned and then a baby brother died before coming home from hospital, after which her mother had a nervous breakdown. She says, “We all hope that our children are going to have an easy life, but I am not sure that life is all about bubbles and ease. Suffering is inevitable. My mother was not the textbook mother. She was the sort of mother who got on a horse and got on with her day. If you couldn’t keep up with her, it was your funeral. If you forgot to take water, it was your problem. She was very nurturing when we were babies, but if you try and kiss her, she grimaces and becomes a frozen corpse. She can’t stand being touched or kissed. “I have strong memories of her taking baby Olivia out onto the veranda and gently holding her and singing ‘Everybody loves my baby’, but that sense of gentleness, would end quite quickly.” She adds, “My mother never ever allowed us to feel entitled. Be grateful for what you have while you have got it and don’t ever whine.” Despite having been raised by this damaged and sometimes remote woman, Fuller has a powerful love for her mother, having once said that a child never stops longing for a mother who is inaccessible. Fuller used to sniff her mother’s handkerchief at boarding school, just to be reminded of that smell of Vicks and tea. “I always knew she loved me, in a tough, look-after-yourself kind of way.” So, has she spent hours in therapy because her mother didn’t hug her enough? “Gosh no,” says Fuller. “She’s ended up being the most wonderful mother to have, and I’ve learnt so much from her.” June 2012

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warm the soul broad bean, new potato and bacon salad with deep-fried leeks My garden is never without broad beans. I grow hundreds of the plants to keep me in a steady supply. So much of the broad bean plant is edible at different stages of its development. I often pick the beans when they are only half developed and the seeds in the pods are still small; I slice them with the pod, cook them lightly and toss them in garlic butter. I make delicious bean dips with them, and add them to stews. I pinch out about 10cm of the growing tips and cook them like spinach – yummy. My friend Enzo Cocca taught me to lightly batter them and fry them – delicious. I have the time of my life picking huge piles of beautiful fat swollen broad beans from my garden, munching as I go and thinking of all the wonderful things I can do with them. Please try this salad.

garlic thyme dressing • ¾ cup extra virgin olive oil • 3 cloves garlic, crushed • 1 tablespoon fresh thyme leaves • ¼ cup red wine vinegar • 1 teaspoon wholegrain mustard • 2 tablespoons freshly chopped chives

1. Place the potatoes, leeks, bacon and beans in a shallow dish, and season with black pepper and a little salt. 2. When mixing the dressing, pour the olive oil in the pan in which you cooked the bacon, add the garlic, thyme and vinegar to the pan and warm gently to lift off all the lovely bacon flavour. Remove from the heat and stir in the mustard and chives. 3. Pour the warm dressing onto the potatoes and beans, and stir gently to coat.

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the salad • 300g new potatoes, boiled till tender, cooled and sliced • 4 baby leeks, thinly sliced and deep-fried • 250g streaky bacon, crisply fried and chopped (keep the pan) • 2 cups lightly steamed broad beans • freshly ground black pepper • salt, to taste

With JENNY MORRIS’ loving approach to everything from salads, soups and breads, to meats and veggies, Cooking with Jenny Morris will inspire the family gathering for this Father’s Day.

slow, lazy man lamb Okay boys, this dish is simple and easy enough to prepare. This gives us girls the night off – time to take a nice deep bubble bath and, hello, no headache. the lamb • 2kg free-range lamb, (nice-sized leg or shoulder) • 1 tablespoon olive oil • salt and pepper • large stem fresh rosemary • 1 cup chicken or vegetable stock • juice of 1 lemon the vegetables • 6 celery stalks, roughly chopped • 4 peeled carrots, roughly chopped • 1 large head of garlic • 2 onions, peeled and thickly sliced • 4 large potatoes, washed and cut into thick rounds • 1 teaspoon dried oregano • 1 tablespoon olive oil • salt and pepper magazine cape town

1. Preheat the oven to 160°C. Toss all the vegetable ingredients together and place them at the bottom of a large roasting pan. 2. Oil the lamb and season with salt and pepper. Brown gently in a frying pan and remove. Place the rosemary stem onto the vegetables, top with the lamb, pour in the stock and lemon juice, and seal with foil. Just forget about it for 2½ hours. 3. Check for tenderness. You will know that the meat is ready when it falls away from the bone. 4. Serve with a mound of buttery, garlicky polenta.

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mussel meat and leek risotto topped with prawns In case you have never made risotto with me before, I like to do it like this: you need time and patience for making a risotto. You spend a lot of time at the pot, keeping it moist and when all the moisture cooks away, wet it again. The end result should be creamy and tender – well worth the time spent. So get your glass of wine… and stay with the heat. • • • • • • • • • • • • •

2 teaspoons olive oil 3 tablespoons butter 1 onion, peeled and finely chopped 3 leeks, white part only, thinly sliced 2 cloves garlic, crushed 1 cup uncooked risotto rice 5 cups boiling chicken stock ½ cup dry white wine cup grated Parmesan 300g mussel meat 200g prawn meat ¾ cup cream ½ cup roughly chopped Italian parsley

• 3 tablespoons snipped chives • salt and pepper, to taste 1. Heat the olive oil and butter in a saucepan and fry the onion and leeks gently till they are soft – don’t burn them. When translucent, add the garlic and rice, and stir well to coat the rice. 2. Add a third each of the stock and the wine, stirring constantly. Simmer until almost all the liquid has been absorbed. Repeat until the stock and wine have all been used and the rice is tender. Cooking time should be 35 to 40 minutes. 3. Stir in the Parmesan cheese, and mussel and prawn meat. Add the cream, and warm the mussels and prawns through. Stir in the herbs, season with salt and pepper, and serve. I like to enrich it with a spoon of butter and then serve with a huge green salad.

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tip: Keep the stock hot at all times. I also love to add little cubes of roasted red pepper to this risotto as a garnish.

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did you know? Once rice has been cooked, you have to take good care of it. If rice left from your dinner has stood at room temperature overnight, bacteria will have a field day; they will multiply at an alarming rate and cause food-poisoning toxins that will leave you sick, so throw out any rice that has been left out overnight. If you want to reuse any leftovers the next day to make egg-fried rice, run some cold water through the rice, bag it and put it into the fridge straightaway. Remember that bacteria can make you really ill; do not keep cooked rice for longer than two days in the fridge and never reheat it more than once.

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figgy panettone bread and butter pudding I can’t imagine my life without a fig in it. This sexy, sweet, juicy-fleshed, biblical fruit, full of crunchy seeds, transports me to paradise. Even the thought of a wasp making her home inside the body of the fig for a short while doesn’t turn me off, unlike some people I know. When figs are really ripe, the juice oozes out of them and that is the way it should be. I am lucky to own two fig trees and I have to fight with the birds to keep the fruit on the tree for as long as possible so that they can ripen. Figs have stacks of potassium and they contain impressive amounts of fibre, so let your body make full use of them when they are in season.

The wonderful thing about a fig is that it freezes so well; when my fig trees are swollen with more fresh fruit than I know what to do with, I always open-freeze a few kilos. Then I can make this delicious pudding long after the season is over. • 10 figs, sliced lengthways into quarters • 125ml honey • ¾ cup dried cranberries • 1 medium panettone, cut into 5 thick slices • 2 whole eggs • 2 extra egg yolks • grated zest of 1 orange • 30ml castor sugar • 500ml cream • ½ teaspoon ground cinnamon sugar, for sprinkling

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1. Butter a 1,5-litre ovenproof dish. Place half the sliced figs on the bottom of the dish, drizzle with honey, and scatter on the cranberries. 2. Cut each slice of panettone into 4 triangles and pack them onto the sliced figs. Mix together the eggs, extra egg yolks, orange zest, sugar, cream and cinnamon, and pour over the panettone. Leave to stand, covered, for 30 minutes. 3. Preheat the oven to 180°C. Arrange the remaining sliced figs over the pudding, sprinkle with a little sugar and bake for 40 to 50 minutes, until crisp and lightly browned on top. 4. Serve warm or even deliciously cold the next day.

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If you don’t have panettone, you can use five thick slices of raisin bread instead.

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about the book Cooking with Jenny Morris (Sunbird Publishers) opens the door to the Giggling Gourmet’s kitchen and is a definitive collection of culinary ideas, with its A–Z index of ingredients and corresponding recipes. For instance, you’ll learn 10 different ways to work with goat’s cheese and 26 unique seafood and fish recipes. Jenny’s tips and tales, such as how she used to pick mussels off the rocks with her dad, will help you set the scene as much as they’ll show you how to prepare the dish. Cooking with Jenny Morris is available from all good book stores.

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romance me Here are some charming ways to spend much-needed quality time with your partner. By LUCILLE KEMP

unparalleled pampering The spa at The Twelve Apostles Hotel, perched on the edge of the Atlantic Ocean, relaunched in August 2011. The white crystal grotto, with its seven treatment rooms, is equipped for hydrotherapy treatments, traditional steam and mud cleansings, and manicures and pedicures. It also has plunge pools and a flotation pool. Their signature treatments are the hot stone foot massage, fynbos exfoliation and lava shell massage, and a champagne picnic followed by treatments in the mountain gazebos. A complimentary health bar with fresh fruit, juices and herbal teas is available, and delicious lighter meals can be ordered off the spa menu. The Twelve Apostles was recently named leading spa resort in Africa. Contact: 021 437 9060, thespa@12apostles.co.za or visit 12apostleshotel.com

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Make a weekend of it and head to Oudtshoorn for a hot-air balloon ride where you can take in the panoramic views of the stunning Swartberg Mountain range. Arrive early to enjoy a cup of coffee while the team prepares the balloon for flight. Shortly before sunrise join the pilot in the basket and gently float away in the crisp morning air and, after landing, enjoy a glass of sparkling wine – a time-honoured tradition in hot-air ballooning. In summer they launch at 5:15am and in winter they launch at 7am. Bring a hat to shield your head from the burners and remember your camera and binoculars. Contact: 082 784 8539, info@oudtshoornballooning.co.za or visit oudtshoornballooning.co.za

Dinner at Buena Vista Social Café makes for the perfect romantic spot, and come 9pm when the salsa begins, the atmosphere turns electric. This AfroCuban restaurant, with its authentically Cuban mood and décor, has an open dance floor for you to salsa on a Sunday night. The DJs play a range of Latin favourites to a floor filled with people dancing – all levels are welcome. Being that it’s so popular, it is essential that you book a table. For those interested, Buena Vista runs salsa classes every Wednesday at 8pm, at R40 a head. 15 Alfred House, Portswood Road, V&A Waterfront. Contact: 021 421 0348 or visit http://buenavistas.co.za

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savour the sensation Look beyond the citrus groves, rolling lawns, water features and fragrant lavender beds when you enter this Blaauwklippen Valley estate, as you really want to be there to experience wine and chocolate tasting. Winemaker Kevin Arnold and chocolatier Richard von Geusau have created tasting sessions of dark and milk chocolate paired with Shiraz, Cabernet Sauvignon and natural

sweet wines. Waterford Estate also offers chocolate tasting paired with their MCC Sparkling Wine 2000. Enquire about their wine drive safari where you can experience the Capeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s natural beauty. The chocolate and wine tasting is R65 per person and the chocolate tasting with the Waterford MCC is R120 per person. To book contact: 021 880 0496, cellardoor@waterfordestate.co.za or visit waterfordestate.co.za

a gourmandâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s good time Warwick Estate has a relaxed approach to wine-making as they have to life and for this reason they encourage picnicking on their grounds. Spoil your partner with some of their best wines, their gourmet picnic basket of ciabatta, camembert and cheddar cheese, charcuterie, oak-smoked Norwegian salmon, a variety of spreads, salads and brownies, and find the best spot to enjoy it. There are private picnic pods, a forest courtyard where you can picnic under trees, the lawn or the penthouse, which is an exclusive area in mountainous vineyards with picture-postcard views. The Warwick picnics close at the end of April and restart in September. Gourmet picnic baskets or vegetarian picnic baskets are R299 each and cater for two people. Contact: 021 884 4410, visit@warwickwine.com or visit warwickwine.com

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a ride with a view Take your partner on a two-hour beach buggy ride along the dunes from Paternoster to St Helena Bay, with a guide. Get the stories of the Portuguese explorers along the way, try spotting whales and dolphins in the bay and catch a glimpse of the fishermen’s colourfully painted boats going out to sea in the early mornings. The ancient granite hills and boulders form a backdrop to St Helena Bay and

offer stunning views of the Piketberg Mountains. You could also opt for the five-hour adrenalin-rush ride where you will see as far as Jacobsbaai and the Cape Columbine Nature Reserve. Out there, it’s you and the seagulls, the ocean, neverending pristine beaches and round pale boulders protruding from the horizon of cobalt water. Contact Deon: 022 752 2222, 072 402 1829, deon@farrout.co.za or visit farrout.co.za

hit the road A Harley-Davidson can turn a simple there-and-back trip into an unforgettable adventure that awakens all five senses – not only will you see the expansive Atlantic Ocean as you reach the top of Kloof Nek, but you’ll feel the cool ocean breeze on your face and smell the pine trees. Hire a Heritage Softail Classic or an Electra Guide Ultra Classic and hit the open road. Aside from the well-known coastal drive to Pringle Bay along the R44 or the well-trodden Route 62 journey to Montague, there is a road trip that Cape Country Routes highlights, which incorporates coastal and inland areas. From Cape Town it runs via Stellenbosch, Langebaan, Paternoster, Velddrift, Lamberts Bay, Clanwilliam, Citrusdal, Ceres, Tulbagh, Riebeeck Kasteel and back to Cape Town. Cape Bike Travel is based in Green Point. Contact Jörg: 084 606 4449, info@ capebiketravel.com or visit capebiketravel.com

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cosy in the country Wheatlands is a newly-built luxury bed and breakfast situated in the Heuningkloof Wine Estate, nestled in its own valley, with 360-degree views of the Riviersonderend Mountains and undulating farmlands of the Overberg. There are three luxury suites, two of which have a private stoep. Facilities include a large pool, fullyequipped braai area, riverside picnic area, walking trails and a 20km mountain-bike track. Greyton, a beautiful hamlet of oaklined streets, is a mere 10-minute drive away, and you can visit the weekly farmer’s market on Saturday, have a beer by the fireplace at The Village Pub and enjoy an intimate meal at The Post House. To book accommodation, contact: 028 254 1900, 082 367 2614 or miekececil@telkomsa.net

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your secret rendezvous Indulge in a little fine dining at Five Flies. To set the tone, meet at the bar and have a sundowner. Separate rooms throughout the 240-seater restaurant guarantee privacy and ensures a romantic atmosphere. The cellar, however, is the most intimate spot for couples, as the space can be decorated with candlelight and rose petals strewn across the floor. 14–16 Keerom St (opposite the High Court). Contact: 021 424 4442, info@fiveflies.co.za or visit fiveflies.co.za

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a good read for toddlers

Dinosaur Dig! By Penny Dale

for th e boys

(Published by Nosy Crow, R66) This beautifully illustrated book by Ten in the Bed author Penny Dale combines young boys’ favourite subjects – digging, dirt, driving fast – and most important of all, dinosaurs. With a great story line, lots of absorbing detail and even some counting, the books are full of energy. Dinosaur Zoom!, the second book in the series for children from age two, will be released later this year. In this book the dinosaurs are back and this time they’ll be revving, roaring and racing at a dinosaur birthday party. The sturdy board book is easy to clean and is sure to become a favourite with your little boy.

for early graders Sophie and the Shadow Woods – The Goblin King By Linda Chapman and Lee Weatherly (Published by HarperCollins Children’s Books, R55) As the new guardian of a magic gateway in the mysterious Shadow Woods, 10-year-old Sophie’s mission is to stop the mischievous creatures that live there from entering our world. But disaster strikes when the Goblin King steals the key. Girls from the age of seven will love this series. Visit the website sophieandtheshadowwoods. com for activity sheets and other fun games.

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for preschoolers Finding Aunt Joan and Swimming in the Sun By Jenny Hatton; illustrated by Joan Rankin (Published by Jacana Media, R40) While you can read these books to your pre-schooler, this delightful new series also helps beginner readers build their reading confidence. The exquisite illustrations bring the series to life and children will easily relate to the stories as they reflect true-to-life events such as going on a journey, moving house and visiting the beach. The rhythmic text of the Lucy books will help build children’s reading skills and confidence while they are absorbed in the humorous illustrations and the lives of Lucy’s family.

for preteens and teens The Peppers and the International Magic Guys By Siân Pattenden (Published by HarperCollins Children’s Books, R82) The world of the Peppers is a show-stopping adventure starring an unbeatable double act – the Pepper twins: Monty and Esmé. They are spending the summer with their Uncle Potty, an enthusiastic member of the International Magic Guys. So when it is threatened with closure, the twins must use every trick in the book to save it. But no one can find the book; the escapologist is all tied up and the human cannonball has put Potty’s assistant out of action.

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for us In the Orchard, the Swallows By Peter Hobbs (Published by Faber and Faber, R150) In the foothills of a mountain range in Northern Pakistan is a beautiful orchard – swallows dive silently over the branches, and the scent of jasmine threads through the air. Pomegranates hang heavy, their skins darkening to a deep crimson. Neglected now, the trees are beginning to grow wild, their fruit left to spoil. Many miles away, a frail young man is flung out of prison gates. Looking up, scanning the horizon for swallows in flight, he stumbles and collapses in the roadside dust. His ravaged body tells the story of 15 years of brutality. Just one image has held and sustained him – the thought of the young girl who left him dumbstruck with wonder all those years ago. But they were children then, and knew nothing of love, or cruelty. This is a tale of tenderness in the face of great and corrupt power.

Shaka the Great By Walton Golightly (Published by Quercus Publishing, R225) It is 1826 and Shaka, king of the Zulus, has brutally consolidated his power and is ready to move against those who continue to resist his authority. But now a new tribe has emerged: white men from across the Great Water, claiming that they wish to trade with Shaka. As the king grows increasingly obsessed with these outsiders, he becomes oblivious to the threat growing from within his own court. Only Shaka’s loyal captain and his young sidekick have the power to thwart this conspiracy but to succeed, their wits need to be as sharp as their enemies’ knives. Seething with sorcery and betrayal, battles and intrigue, triumph and tragedy, Shaka the Great takes us to an empire at its zenith; to a time when the name Zulu began to echo around the world as a byword for courage and nobility.

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parenting book Parenting Apart By Christina McGhee

helpful guide

(Published by Random House Struik, R215) This is a comprehensive resource for separated and divorced parents wanting to raise happy and secure children. When a marriage ends, the most important thing parents can do is help their children through the difficult transition and remain united as parents even if they are no longer a couple. Divorce coach Christina McGhee offers practical advice on how to help children adjust and thrive during and after separation and divorce.

Classic tales from Penguin Books can be yours

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The Beatrix Potter books are loved by children everywhere for their humorous, lively tales and beautiful illustrations. The Tale of Peter Rabbit turns 110 this year and to celebrate, Penguin Books has released a special collection of all the Beatrix Potter books. There are 23 titles in the collection and each book contains a publisher’s note explaining how that tale came to be. For more info: visit penguinbooks.co.za One reader stands a chance to win a Beatrix Potter hamper containing the first 10 books in the collection, valued at R850. Simply enter via childmag. co.za/wins-ct and use the code “Peter Rabbit CT”.

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what’s on in june

You can also access the calendar online at

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Here’s your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see. Compiled by LUCILLE KEMP.

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SPECIAL EVENTS

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My Favourite Things Baby and Kiddies Market See what this Bellvillebased market has in store for you with its offering of quality products.

Slanghoek winter winemaker weekend Make your own wine at Slanghoek wine cellar during this weekend away.

Seeking Motherhood workshop This supportive, engaging workshop is for women experiencing pregnancy problems, including fertility issues.

SPCA three-day book sale Courtesy of the Canal Walk Foundation, there are quality books on sale, from fiction, non-fiction and children’s books to reference and general interest.

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Cape Town Book Fair Part of your literary entertainment is at the children’s zone on Saturday morning for a reading of Vumile and the Dragon by its author, Claerwen Howie.

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Hartenberg’s Feast of Shiraz and Charcuterie Enjoy some of the finest flagship Syrahs from leading cellars, paired with artisanal fare. Wineries invited include Boekenhoutskloof, La Motte, Rust en Vrede and Saxenburg. Chefs create treats to complement the wine, and there is a selection of bread and olives to go around. Time: 12pm–5pm. Venue: Hartenberg Wine Estate, Bottelary Road, off the R304 to Stellenbosch. Cost: R180 per person, including food and wine tastings. Book through Webtickets: visit webtickets.co.za

Spur High School League The first race starts at 9am and is ideal for children 10–18 years old. Time: 7:30am registration. Venue: Willowbridge, Durbanville. Cost: R40; entries can be taken on the day. Contact Chantelle: 021 884 4547, info@ amarider.co.za or visit amarider.co.za/spur/ Montessori@home open day Attend this open day and view the facilities of Montessori@home, which has schools in Durbanville and Paarl. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: 68 Amandel Rd, Durbanville or Groot Parys Estate, Paarl. Cost: free. Contact Durbanville: 082 043 4074 or janine@ montessoriathome.co.za or Paarl: 083 639 0633 or nici@montessoriathome.co.za

4 monday Wacky Wine Weekend Join thousands of wine lovers at South Africa’s biggest regional wine festival. Activities for the whole family take place at individual wineries and include wine tasting, food pairings, live music, adventure, arts and sport. See the programme online for the times of specific activities. Ends 10 June. Time: 10am. Venue: the wineries of the Robertson Wine Valley. Cost: R90 per adult, valid for the whole weekend. Children enter free. Contact Elizma: 023 626 3167, manager@ robertsonwinevalley.com or visit wackywineweekend.com

SPECIAL EVENTS 1 friday Slanghoek winter winemaker weekend Celebrate winter with a travelling dinner, an intimate affair on Friday evening, as well as their Blend and Bottle event on Saturday

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morning, where you can make your own wine. Ends 3 June. Time: confirmed on booking. Venue: participating venues in the Slanghoek Valley. Cost: R1 250 per person (including bed and breakfast, dinner on both evenings and the Blend and Bottle session). Contact Jenny: 023 344 3138 or info@slanghoekresort.co.za

Book sale Quality second-hand adult’s and children’s books are on sale at bargain prices. Ends 6 June. Time: 11:30am–3:30pm. Venue: The International School of Cape Town, Woodland Heights, Wynberg. Cost: R5–R15. Contact: 021 761 6202

15 friday Cape Town Book Fair There are books galore and special guests providing literary entertainment. On Saturday morning at

9 June – Spur High School League

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18 monday Open market day and mega children’s book sale The Travelling Book Shop sells a wide selection of excellent toddler and preschooler books at good prices. A variety of dress-up outfits and other gift ideas are available. Registration is also open for the baby, toddler and preschool classes. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Kidz Discovery, The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: free entry. Contact: 083 654 2494 or info@kidzdiscovery.co.za

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21 thursday 15 June – Cape Town Book Fair

10am, there is a reading of Vumile and the Dragon by author Claerwen Howie. Ends 17 June. Time: 2pm–10pm, Friday; 9am–6pm, Saturday; 9am–5pm, Sunday. Venue: Cape Town International Convention Centre. Cost: adults R60 per day, children under 12 free. Contact Nicole: 011 549 8300 or visit capetownbookfair.com Cook Franschhoek Make bread, sushi and truffles or simply pair food and wine with some of the valley’s highly acclaimed chefs and winemakers, who present in hands-on demonstration kitchens. Participating restaurants include Cotage Fromage, Le Quartier Français, Bread and Wine at Môreson, and Ryan’s Kitchen. Ends 17 June. Time: starts 10am. Venue: participating restaurants and wineries in

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the Franschhoek Valley. Cost: R140–R1 500 per event. Contact: 021 876 2861 or visit webtickets.co.za

16 saturday Youth Entrepreneurs Day and Kids Expo Youth stalls are available for 13–21 year olds, and there are prizes for best product, best exhibition stand and best overall business plan. Adult stalls selling childrelated products and services are available. There is also a career expo for high school learners and a variety of entertainment for children. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: OIS Centre, Old Strandfontein Rd, Ottery. Cost: free entry; youth stalls R30, adult stalls R100. Contact: 021 704 1462, stages@ polka.co.za or visit stageslifestyle.co.za

Sunflower Fund concert The Valley Christian Church performs in a fundraising concert, Simply the Best, where all proceeds raised go to the Sunflower Fund. The church band covers artists such as Adele, Michael Jackson, Tina Turner, Lenny Kravitz, Bon Jovi and more. There are also dance performances and artwork auctions. Tickets are available at The Paddling Centre, AP Jones, Fish Hoek Primary School, Milkwood Pre-primary and Sandy’s coffee shop at Valyland. Ends 23 June. Time: 7pm. Venue: Fish Hoek High School. Cost: R50 or R100. Contact: 082 565 7950 or visit sunflowerfund.org.za

23 saturday Make way for Noddy Our hero has a bad cold and needs some medicine, but he is not interested. Ends 7 July. Time: 10:30am daily, excluding Sundays. Cost: R50. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695

Camps Bay Preparatory School food fair Enjoy a fun evening with food from a number of different countries. 2 June. Time: 4pm–7pm. Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 438 8075

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29 friday SPCA three-day book sale From fiction, to children’s books, there is something for everyone on sale. The initiative is made possible by the Canal Walk Foundation. Also 30 June. Time: 9am–6pm. Venue: Canal Walk (opposite Vida e Caffé on the upper level). Cost: free. Contact Natasha: 021 700 4155, awareness@spca-ct.co.za or visit spca-ct.co.za

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Father’s Day special at Clay Café Join in this fun family day out – children paint a mug for Dad, and there is gourmet boerewors rolls on sale. Booking essential. 17 June. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Old Dairy, Oakhurst Farm, Main Rd, Hout Bay Cost: call to enquire. Contact: 021 790 3318 or visit claycafe.co.za

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art, culture and science Art and craft classes Designed for 4–5 year olds and 6–12 year olds. Cost: varies depending on age. Contact Kathy: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery.co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za Artjamming art classes Highly experienced art teachers are available. For 5–13 year olds. 4–6 June, 11–13 June, 18–20 June and 25–27 June. Time: 3pm–4pm or 4pm–5pm. Venue: Cape Quarter, Shop 14, Somerset Rd, Green Point. Cost: R150 per class. Contact: 021 421 6129 or visit artjamming.co.za Doodle Creative Space art classes Classes teach spatial perception, handeye coordination, observational skills and techniques. Time: 2:30pm–3:30pm and 4pm–5pm, Monday–Wednesday. Venue: 221 Buitenkant St, Gardens (above Lazari). Cost: call to enquire. Contact: 084 533 3569, doodlecreativespace@gmail.com or visit doodlecreative.co.za E-Waste jewellery workshop Create a colourful piece of jewellery. Suitable for children 8 years and older. Moms are welcome. 2 and 25 June. Time: 11am–12:30pm. Venue: Constantia. Cost: R100 each including materials. Contact Heather: 076 399 3790 Sue Nepgen children’s art tuition The second-term programme includes drawing and painting people and portraits in various media, etching in oils, clay relief work and textured collage. For 4–13 year olds. Time: Thursday and Friday afternoon, and Saturday morning. Venue: Michael Oak Waldorf School, Kenilworth or 28 Klaasenbosch Drive, Constantia. Cost: R550 for a full term, including materials, firing and outings. Pro-rata fees for late joiners. Contact Sue: 021 794 6609, 083 237 7242 or snepgen@xsinet.co.za

classes, talks and workshops Big Bay Drumkidz weekly drumming classes Each child gets the chance to drum along to a variety of stories, songs and games. For 3–8 year olds. 7, 14 and 21 June. Time: 1:30pm–2pm. Venue: Crazee Daisee in Seaside Village. Cost: R310 for eight lessons; once-off registration fee R95. Contact Melanie: 079 161 3999 or melanie@drumkidz.co.za Dealing with divorce workshop This workshop helps to show young people that their feelings of anger, frustration or sadness are normal and gives tips for getting through this emotional roller coaster. Book before 15 June. For children ages 6–18 years. 28 June. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: Blouberg Life Studio for Kids, Melkbosstrand. Cost: R500, which includes survival kit, workshop resources and refreshments. Contact Leanne: 072 213 3166 or leanne@equalzeal.com Kidz Discovery Brightstart preschool preparedness programme This early development programme for 2½–5 year olds (across four levels) helps your child embrace formal learning with confidence. Time and cost: depending on age group. Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Contact Kathy: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery. co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za Kindermusik Early-childhood music therapy and movement classes for 0–7 year olds. Enjoy a free preview class. Classes are age dependent, and are on different days of the week. Time: varies. Venue: Bergsig Church, Boland Way, Vierlanden. Cost: R380–R400 per term. Contact Louise: 074 102 5617 or lsteenkamp0@gmail.com Somerset West Drumkidz weekly drumming workshop These Djembe drumming workshops are action-packed

and high-energy. 7 and 14 June. Time: 1:30pm–3:30pm. Venue: Church of Christ, cnr Irene Ave and Lourensford Rd. Cost: R45 for 30 minutes of high-energy drumming or R140 for four consecutive weeks. Contact Lana: 071 871 5839 or lana@drumkidz.co.za Tots n Pots cooking and baking workshop Cook a variety of healthy snacks, meals and yummy treats such as Mother’s Day Fruit Tarts, Tuna Pasta Bake and Banana Pineapple Muffins. For children 2–6 years: 6 and 7 June. Time: 3pm–4pm. For children 2–10 years: 2, 9 and 16 June. Time: 10am–11am. Venue: Constantia Tots n Pots. Cost: R720 per term (eight weeks) or R90 per class, if space available. Contact Hannah: 082 569 8666, constantia@ totsnpots.com or visit totsnpots.com

family outings Breakfast with Two Oceans Aquarium curator Celebrate Father’s Day by taking Dad to a talk on shark tagging and a behindthe-scenes look at how the aquarium cares for and maintains the shark exhibits. Continental breakfast included. Due to the behind-the-scenes visit, no children under

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Clay Café holiday special Your children spend a leisurely day painting pottery in a relaxed environment. 21 June–15 July. Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: Old Dairy, Oakhurst Farm, Main Rd, Hout Bay. Cost: holiday special is R85, which includes two items to paint plus a juice and a small snack. Contact: 021 790 3318 or visit chasms.co.za Drumkidz weekly drumming classes

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Drama workshop: characterisation A fun-filled workshop where children explore different characters using improvisation, exciting props and costumes. Suitable for children 11–13 years old. 25–29 June. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: southern suburbs. Cost: R600. Contact Caroline: 074 140 0563, caroline@ cmdramaacademy.com or visit cmdramaacademy.com

the age of 4 years old allowed. Booking essential. 9 June. Time: 8am–10am. Venue: Two Oceans Aquarium. Cost: adults R120, children 4–13 years R60. Contact: 021 418 3823 or members@aquarium.co.za Cape Town Book Fair 15–17 June. Time: 2pm–10pm, Friday; 9am–6pm, Saturday; 9am–5pm, Sunday. Venue: Cape Town International Convention Centre. Cost: adults R60 per day, children under 12 free. Contact Nicole: 011 549 8300 Child-friendly, fine-dining Sunday lunch Enjoy the afternoon with a gourmet buffet lunch and bottomless bubbly. When the children are finished eating they can watch movies in the sound room; this includes popcorn and a cold drink. Time: from 12pm. Venue: The African Pride 15 on Orange Hotel, Gardens. Cost: R265 per person including bubbly. For more info: visit africanpridehotels.com/15-on-orange-hotel Father’s Day train trip If any guests would like to be dropped off or collected at Kalk Bay Station, they must stipulate when booking. This can’t be arranged on the day of departure as it has to be planned into the running timetable, so let them know early. 17 June. Time and venue: departs Cape Town at 10:30am and arrives in Simon’s Town at 12pm; departs Simon’s Town 3pm and arrives in Cape Town 4:40pm. Cost: adults R220, children 3–12 years R110. Contact: 021 556 1012, info@ atlanticrail.co.za or visit atlanticrail.co.za

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The SSISA (Sport Science Institute of South Africa) holiday kid’s club The club is fully supervised and has specially designed activities, including boot camp, children’s Zumba classes, swimming, games and easy sports activities. Children receive a SSISA-branded snack cooler bag and water bottle. Suitable for children 7–15 years. 25–29 June. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Sports Science Institute of SA, Newlands and South African Breweries (SAB) fields and surrounds. Cost: R950 for the week. Contact: 021 659 5600, info@ ssisa.com or visit ssisa.com

the park. Time: 7am–7pm daily. Venue: situated near the Cape Town Stadium. Cost: free entry. For security matters, contact: 021 430 7356 Miniature Blue Train Children love the train as well as the park alongside it, which has a jungle gym. Time: 9am–6pm, Monday–Sunday, weather permitting. Venue: Mouille Point promenade. Cost: R8 per ride. Contact Carlo: 021 434 4297 or 072 383 8195

holiday activities Artjamming holiday programme Monday: learn how music and art work hand in hand; Tuesday: learn how colour affects everyday life; Wednesday: have fun with foam; Thursday: learn to paint landscapes; Friday: learn to paint portraits like Andy Warhol. Artjamming also offers free size upgrades on certain canvas painting sessions during the school holidays. 25 June–13 July. Time: 9am–11am, Monday– Friday. Venue: all Artjamming stores. Cost: R155 per class. Contact Leora: 082 784 1313 or leora@artjamming.co.za Bootcamp SA Kids Adventure Camp A three- or five-day camp on a riverside farm in Porterville, facilitated by fun and experienced counsellors. For ages 7–14 years. 24–27 June or 24–29 June. Time: 2pm drop-off and 12pm collection. Venue: Buffalo Drift, R44 to Porterville (11kms after Gouda). Cost: R2 100 (five days) and R1 750 (three days). Contact Kyle: 082 455 6723 or capetown@bootcamp-sa.co.za Drumkidz holiday workshop Each child gets the chance to drum along to a story, song and some fun drumming games. The holiday workshop is 30 minutes long. Ideal for children aged 3–8 years. 28 June. Time: 10:30am–11am, Monday–Friday. Venue: Crazee Daisee’s Play Centre, Seaside Village Shopping Centre, Big Bay. Cost: R40 per drummer. Contact Melanie: 079 161 3999 or melanie@drumkidz.co.za Gumboot Parties holiday club The programme includes horse riding, building forts, baking, painting, crafts, swimming and more. Suitable for children 4–12 years. 25 June–13 July. Time: 7:30am–5:30pm, Monday–Friday. Venue: Gan Eden Farm, Vissershok Rd, Durbanville. Cost: R100 per child per day. Contact: 072 182 9333 or visit gumbootparties.co.za

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Ice Station school holiday programme Take the children, your buckets, spades, accessories and, most importantly, your warm gloves, to build your own snowman and stand a chance to win prizes. The judges are looking for the most colourfully decorated Frosty the Snowman. 27 June and 4 and 11 July. Time: 10am–12:30pm. Venue: The Ice Station, GrandWest Casino and Entertainment World, Goodwood. Cost: normal skating fees apply; if your child is not skating, snowman building is R5. Contact: 021 535 2260 or visit icerink.co.za JellyBean winter workshop Activities include hip-hop, swing and modern dancing, yoga relaxation and stretching exercises, crafting, which includes têkkie design, glass painting and decoupage as well as baking and cooking. For children aged 5–12 years old. 25 June. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Erin Hall, Rondebosch. Cost: R160 a day or R750 for five days. Contact Amanda: 083 392 9593, bookings@jellybeanworld. co.za or visit jellybeanworld.co.za Just Love holiday workshops Art classes to help you develop essential life skills. 22 June–15 July. Time: 1:30pm–3pm and 3:30pm–5pm. Venue: 10 Bronnies Way, Diep River. Cost: R200 including materials. Contact: 079 525 8991 or visit justlove.co.za Kidz Discovery winter fun factory holiday club Semi-structured mornings of art and crafts, baking, face painting, dress-up, role play, clambering on climbing walls and the jungle gym, crazy dancing,

story time and more. Under 3 year olds must be supervised by an adult. On Tuesday and Thursday there is a focused programme for 2–4 year olds and on Monday, Wednesday and Friday there are special craft sessions for 5–8 year olds. 27 June–11 July. Time: 9:30am–12:30pm. Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: R120 per day, including a snack, baking and craft materials. Contact Kathy: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery.co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za Kidz Playzone holiday programme The programme consists of daily play and crafting. 25 June–13 July. Highlights: 2 July: snake show 11am; 9 July: magic show 11am. Time: 9am–4:30pm weekdays. Venue: 10 Pastorale St, Durbanville Business Park. Cost: from R20 for the first hour (normal play rates apply), no extra cost for the programme. Contact: 021 979 4872 or bev@kidzplayzone.co.za Kirstenbosch winter wonders programme Activities include storytelling, walks and creative workshops. Suitable for 6–17 year olds. 22 June–15 July. Time: 9am–5pm daily. Venue: Kirstenbosch National Botanical Gardens, Rhodes Dr. Cost: free entry into the garden for young participants (6–17 year olds). Contact: 021 799 8783 or visit sanbi.org Kronendal aftercare holiday club The day’s activities include art and crafts, drumming, baking, mountain hiking, a walk to the beach and swimming. 25 June–13 July. Time: 7:30am–6pm, Monday–Friday. Venue: Kronendal School, 10 Andrews Road, Hout Bay. Cost: halfday R60 (bring own snack), three-quarter R90 (including lunch and snack), full-day R120 (including lunch and snack). Contact Joanne: 076 402 2333 or joannefrost.s.a@ gmail.com Lila’s Holiday yoga workshops 25 June: yoga and nutrition workshops for children 4–7 years. Time: 11:30am–1pm. Cost: R180 per child. 27 June: yoga for pre teens 8–11 years. Time: 10:30am–12pm. Cost: R180. 28 June: yoga for teens 12 years and older. Time: 10:30am–12:30pm. Cost: R195. 28 June: mom and daughter yoga. Time: 4:30pm–6pm. Cost: R250 per couple. 30 June: Mom and child yoga for children 2–5 years old. Time: 9:30am–10am. Cost: R95 per couple. Pack lunch and water. Venue: Lila’s Studio, 201 Bree St. Contact: 083 377 9248 or info@lila-yogatherapy.com

Earth Fair Market Let your children enjoy the newly revamped children’s play area while you shop. There are puppet shows, craft and cookie making, sand art and an abundance of play dough to keep them busy. Time: 3pm–8:30pm, every Wednesday; 9am–2pm, every Saturday. Venue: Builders Warehouse Centre, Main Rd, Tokai. Cost: free. Contact Jacqui: jacqui@earthfairmarket.co.za or visit earthfairmarket.co.za

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My Favourite Things Baby and Kiddies Market A market for quality baby and children’s products and services such as free talks and classes, welcome packs, books, toys, clothing, accessories, maternity wear and food. Forms part of the winter holiday programme. 29 and 30 June. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: High Street Shopping Village, Bellville. Cost: adults R10 entry, children free. Contact Helena: 083 324 9053, helena@myfavouritethings. co.za or visit myfavouritethings.co.za Nitida Farmers’ Market Expect to find handmade chocolates, chocolate velvet cupcakes, organic vegetables, nuts, dried fruit and much more from 45 different stalls. There are also a few selected crafts available. 23 June. Time: 8am–12:30pm. Venue: M13/Old Tygervalley Rd, Durbanville. Cost: free entry. Contact Getha: 083 651 0699, getha@nitida.co.za or visit nitida.co.za The Fringe Handmade Market The Fringe, Cape Town’s design and innovation district, hosts their exclusive Fringe Handmade Market to showcase creative goods and innovative displays by local creatives. 2 June. Time: 10am–6pm. Venue: Harrington St. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit thefringe.org.za June 2012

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sport and physical activities Goldilocks and the Three Bears Goldilocks gets lost in the woods while playing hide and seek, and stumbles across a house belonging to the three bears. With nobody there, Goldilocks goes inside and makes herself at home. The three bears come home to find their visitor fast asleep, and with this comes hilarious consequences. A fairy-tale classic for the whole family. 23–30 June. Time: 10:30am. Venue: Baxter Theatre, Main Road, Rondebosch. Cost: R40 per person. Contact: Elton: 083 364 8284 or visit computicket.com

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on stage and screen Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs The show is recommended for children 4 years and older. Parking is ample and free. Refreshments are on sale. 2, 9, 16, 23 and 30 June. Time: 10am and 11:15am. Venue: The Rainbow Puppet Theatre, Constantia Waldorf School, Spaanschemat River Road, Constantia. Cost: R20 at the door for adults and children. Contact: 021 783 2063, therainbow.puppettheatre@gmail.com or visit waldorfconstantia.org.za/facilities. htm#rainbow

Open market day and mega children’s book sale 18 June. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Kidz Discovery, The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: free entry. Contact Kathy: 083 654 2494 or info@kidzdiscovery.co.za SPCA three-day book sale 29 and 30 June. Time: 9am–6pm. Venue: Canal Walk, opposite Vida e Caffé on upper level. Cost: free. Contact Natasha: 021 700 4155, awareness@spca-ct.co.za or spca-ct.co.za

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playtime and story time Book Lounge Saturday story time Each week has a different theme. Time: 11am, every Saturday. Venue: 71 Roeland St, Gardens. Cost: free. For more info: visit booklounge.co.za Claremont Library A toddler story time is held throughout the year, which incorporates singing and movement. 6, 13, 20 and 27 June. Time: 10am. Venue: Library Square, Wilderness Road. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 674 4195/6 or claremont.library@capetown.gov.za

Dynamic Rhythmic Gymnastics Club classes Rhythmic gymnastics not only builds physical abilities such as strength, flexibility, dexterity and endurance, but it also enhances musical ability such as rhythm. Call to enquire about the free trial classes. 7, 14, 2, and 28 June; classes for children younger than 6 take place at 2:15pm and classes for children older than 6 take place at 3pm. 5, 12, 19 and 26 June; Tuesday classes are suitable for ages 6 years and older and take place at 3pm. Venue: St James Church Hall, 10th St James Rd, Sea Point. Cost: call to enquire. Contact: Cecile. 071 111 5150 or cieliasteyn@gmail.com Spur High School League Mountain bike race for children 10–18 years. 9 June. Time: 7:30am registration. Venue: Willowbridge, Durbanville. Cost: R40; entries taken on the day. Contact Chantelle: 021 884 4547, info@amarider.co.za or visit amarider. co.za/spur/

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CPR courses for family and friends The Family and Friends CPR Course is ideal for people with no prior medical knowledge, who want to learn lifesaving skills. The courses are run by Professional Emergency Training. 2 June. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Constantiaberg Mediclinic. 16 June. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Milnerton Mediclinic. Cost: R250. Contact: training@pec.co.za or visit pec.co.za Creative Life Groups Experience your creative side in an environment where there is no judgment or pressure. Run by a registered clinical psychologist, group therapist and artist. 11, 18 and 25 June. Time: 9am–11:30am. Venue: Val’s Art

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Space, southern suburbs. Cost: R350 per group including all materials. Contact Kim: 079 365 3060, info@kimfoster.co.za or visit kimfoster.co.za Every Parent Matters Network Provides parent coaching, workshops and courses that offer fresh and positive ideas to help you be the best parent possible. 23 June. Time: 2:30pm–4pm. Venue: Erin Hall, Erin Rd, Rondebosch. Cost: R40–R50. Contact Noshiena: 072 446 5136 or nurturingseedfamilies@ gmail.com Integrated Marketing Communication Conference At the third conference, attendees meet and are exposed to all the communication disciplines that are available to marketers (advertising, direct marketing, digital and social media marketing) with the goal of creating a single marketing communication strategy. 5–7 June. Time: confirm on booking. Venue: Crystal Towers Hotel, Century City. Cost: R4 750 excluding VAT. For more info: visit imcc.co.za Toastmasters Breakfast Club The club meets every Wednesday morning, providing a mutually supportive, positive

learning environment where members can develop communication and leadership skills that foster self-confidence and personal growth. For 18 years and older. 6, 13, 20 and 27 June. Time: 7:15am–9am. Venue: The Mugg & Bean Coffee Shop, Cavendish Square, Claremont. Cost: R50 per person, which includes bottomless coffee and a choice of selected breakfasts to be ordered before 7:30am. Contact Marion: 076 236 4326, marion.toastmasters@gmail.com or visit toastmasters74.org Your family and temperament workshops In this series of four workshops you look at your built-in preferences and the four temperaments. You learn how people of different temperaments naturally have different values, stressors, strengths and weaknesses, and you learn about your built-in strengths and difficulties as a parent and partner. 5, 12, 19 and 26 June. Time: 7pm–9:30pm. Venue: Michael Oak Waldorf School, 4 Marlow, Rd, Kenilworth. Cost: R1 000 per person and R1 750 per couple. Contact: 021 696 1946, 076 303 5324 (sms only) or karoy@mweb.co.za

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Who sang the theme from Top Gun? Who has won the most Grammy Awards? Have you got the brains to take on their quiz? The multi awardwinning Follow Spot Productions brings you a spectacular music trivia game show. The talented cast performs the greatest chart-topping hits from the past 50 years with heaps of attitude. 6–9, 13–16 and 20–23 June. Time: 8:30pm. Venue: Kalk Bay Theatre. Cost: R95. For more info: visit kbt.co.za

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on stage and screen Mac-Don’t-Say-Beth A lighthearted comedy centred on the three witches who appear at the beginning of Macbeth. The show pokes fun at the theatre superstition surrounding Macbeth, which holds that the word “Macbeth” is said to be cursed, so actors avoid saying it. 27–30 June. Time: 8:30pm. Venue: Kalk Bay Theatre. Cost: R85. For more info: visit kbt.co.za Steenberg monthly movie nights Tickets for the food-and-wine themed movie night include a meal. Gourmet popcorn with delicious handmade seasoning is also on offer as well as wine gums handmade by Chef Brad Ball. Guests can purchase Steenberg wine at cellar prices. Screening 5 June: Julie and Julia; 19 June: Bottle Shock and 26 June: Chocolat. Time: 6:30pm. Venue: Steenberg Vineyards, Constantia. Cost: R100 (R80 for club members). Contact Lida: 021 713 2211 or lida@steenbrg.co.za

out and about Hartenberg’s Feast of Shiraz and Charcuterie 2 June. Time: 12pm–5pm. Venue: Hartenberg Wine Estate, Bottelary Rd off the R304 to Stellenbosch. Cost: R180 per person, including food and wine tastings. Book through Webtickets: visit webtickets.co.za

Jazz cheese fondue The day consists of a Sunday cheese fondue lunch and live jazz or blues in the downstairs tasting cellar. 24 June. Time: 12pm– 3:30pm. Venue: Delheim Wine Estate, Knorhoek Rd, Stellenbosch. Cost: fondue R150 per person sharing. Contact: 021 888 4607 Old Cape Wine Shop wine tasting They stock a wide range of great value wines. 2, 9, 16, 23 and 30 June. Time: 11am–2pm. Venue: Old Cape Wine Shop, Imhoff Farm. Cost: free for tastings. Contact: 021 783 5054 or info@ocws.co.za Slanghoek winter winemaker weekend 1–3 June. Time: confirmed on booking. Venue: participating venues in the Slanghoek Wine Valley. Cost: R1 250 per person including bed and breakfast, dinner on both evenings and a Blend and Bottle session at Slanghoek Cellar. Contact Jenny: 023 344 3138 or info@ slanghoekresort.co.za Wacky Wine Weekend 7–10 June. Time: varies. Venue: The wineries of the Robertson Wine Valley. Cost: R90 per adult, valid for the whole weekend. Children enter free. Contact: Elizma: 023 626 3167, manager@robertsonwinevalley.com or visit wackywineweekend.com

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support groups LGBT parents support group For gay and lesbian parents and parents-to-be, there are regular meetings to exchange ideas and experiences. Contact the Triangle Project: 021 448 3812, health2@triangle. org.za or visit triangle.org.za Safe Schools call centre Educators, learners and parents can call the toll-free number to report violence, sexual abuse, alcohol and drug abuse, vandalism or to report corruption in schools. The call centre also provides information on HIV/Aids, racism and pregnancy. Time: 8am–7:30pm, Monday–Friday. Contact: 0800 454 647 Speak Easy support group For people who stutter, their family members and friends. Meetings are used to discuss issues around stuttering, to share new ideas and experiences, discuss feelings and to practise one’s speech techniques. Contact: heatherw50@telkomsa.net or visit speakeasy.org.za

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Cook Franschhoek 15–17 June. Time: starts 10am. Venue: participating restaurants and wineries in the Franschhoek Valley. Cost: R140–R1 500 per event. Contact: 021 876 2861 or visit webtickets.co.za

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classes, talks and workshops Baby and toddler mother-and-child groups Age-appropriate classes that address all aspects of your child’s development. Suitable for children from 3 months–5 years. Time and cost: depending on age group. Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Contact Kathy: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery. co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za Eight-week emotional and social toddler programme Eight fun-filled sessions for mother/caregiver and toddler to participate in structured activities incorporating emotional, social and sensory intelligence training. Book by 1 June. For children 2–4 years. 14 June. Time: 12:30pm–1:30pm. Venue: Blouberg Life Studio for Kids, Melkbosstrand. Cost: R880 per caregiver and toddler plus a once-off Zeal Kit fee of R400 (includes eight weekly sessions). Contact: 082 453 4313 or angelique@equalzeal.com Seeking Motherhood workshop This supportive and engaging workshop is for women experiencing pregnancy-related problems, which can include fertility, pregnancy loss, maternal or baby-health concerns, medical testing and secondary infertility. It is an opportunity to find balance, share stories and build coping skills for the road ahead. 16 June. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Highlands Boutique Hotel, Kenilworth. Cost: R1 650 includes refreshments, lunch and workshop booklet. Contact Sarah: 082 047 8929, sarah@seekingmotherhood.com or visit seekingmotherhood.com Tiny Handz baby sign language training As a baby’s mouth, lips, tongue and teeth mature slower than their handeye coordination, they can be taught sign language, which helps them understand and communicate with those around them. Cost includes materials and excludes refreshments. 8 and 9 June. Time: call to enquire. Venue: Durbanville. Cost: R360 per person per workshop. For more info: visit tinyhandz.co.za

playtime and story time Moms Club For moms and babies. At least once a month there is a speaker on a baby-

related topic. Time: 10am–11:30am, every Tuesday during term. Venue: Medway Youth Centre, cnr Medway Rd and Milford Rd, Plumstead. Cost: free. Contact Barbara: 074 580 4480 or eachus.rosemary@gmail.com Moms-to-be and moms and babies group Hosted by Parent Centre. Time: 10am–12pm every Thursday. Venue: Kingsbury Maternity Hospital, 2nd floor, Wilderness Rd, Claremont. Cost; R40 including refreshments. Contact: 021 762 0116 zaiboe@theparentcentre.org.za Motherhood Matters baby massage classes The course is run over four weeks in small groups of around six moms and babies. The group covers the benefits of massage and the moms also find support in each other in addition to receiving ongoing breast-feeding support from Lynn. Time: 10am–11:30am, every Wednesday. Venue: Kirstenhof. Cost: R500. Contact Megan: 071 875 2668 or visit motherhoodmatters.co.za Sea Point Library story time For preschoolers and younger. Time: 10am–11am, every Wednesday. Venue: cnr Three Anchor Bay Rd and Main Rd, Sea Point. Contact: 021 439 7440/1 The Mama Bamba Way antenatal weekend workshop Birth preparation classes. 9 and 10 June. Time 10am–5pm daily. Venue: Constantia. Cost: R1 500 per couple. Contact Robyn: 021 712 0298, robyn@mamabamba.com or visit mamabamba.com

support groups Born Sleeping Enables parents bereaved by miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death to share their experiences at meetings, through a Facebook group, via email or via phone. Contact Nicole: 084 524 1541/2 or visit bornsleeping.wordpress.com La Leche League breast-feeding support groups Panorama: 4 June. Contact Carol: 021 558 5319. Stellenbosch: 12 June. Contact Olga: 082 062 0206. Durbanville: 19 June. Contact Trudy: 021 913 2816 or Tiffany: 021 913 3586. Rondebosch: 12 June. Contact Becky: 021 531 2485. Fish Hoek: 1 June. Contact Tammy: 021 782 9240. Parow: 20 June. Contact Dilshaad: 021 930 2475. Milnerton Mediclinic: 5 June at 9:30am. Contact Juliet: 021 556 0693. Parklands Intercare: 27 June. Contact Simela: 021 553 1664. Paarl: 5 June. Contact Jonette: 021 872 5297. Malmesbury: Selma provides telephonic support on 083 2655 458. Napier: Emma provides telephonic support on 082 696 3584. Unless it is otherwise stated, meetings are at 10am Postnatal Depression Support Association The organisation offers help for moms and their families. You can also join the chat group. Contact the national helpline: sms “help” and your name to 082 882 0072 for them to contact you, or head office: 021 797 4498 or visit pndsa.org.za

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how to help SPCA three-day book sale The quality and diversity of the books on sale ensures that there is something for everyone from fiction, non-fiction and children’s to reference and general interest. Courtesy of the Canal Walk Foundation. 29 and 30 June. Time: 9am– 6pm. Venue: Canal Walk opposite Vida e Caffé on the upper level. Cost: free. Contact Natasha: 021 700 4155, awareness@spca-ct.co.za or spca-ct.co.za

National Soup Day There are about 11 million people in South Africa who do not know where their next meal will come from. To curb this, Denny will donate 40 cents of every Denny soup sold, until August 2012, to FoodBank SA, a non-profit organisation and South Africa’s only food-banking network that secures quality food for the hungry. For more info: visit foodbank.org.za

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June 2012

finishing touch

on the move It rates as one of the most stressful things you can do... And moving house while heavily pregnant, is not for the faint-hearted, says ANÉL LEWIS.

Anél and Erin

ome people bungee jump for kicks, others get their adrenaline boost from rock climbing or diving with sharks. I get mine from moving house when heavily pregnant, usually in summer. Except, unlike the adventure junkies, I don’t tackle the move voluntarily or with any enthusiasm. In fact, I would rather watch The Golden Girls reruns while hanging from a trapeze than move house when pregnant. Unfortunately, our life pattern has conspired against me and I have been forced to attempt this extreme feat not once, but twice. And just for added thrills, I’ve done it in two cities.

June 2012

The first move was in Johannesburg, and I was about seven months pregnant. All I can remember of that experience was the heat and the downpour at about 4pm as I scrambled to get the last of the boxes into the house before the daily thunderstorm. I could at least still see my toes, so my unpacking and cleaning capabilities were not as hamstrung as with the second move. This time, I was eight months pregnant, and very uncomfortable at the height of the Cape Town summer. Fortunately my husband did most of the packing and heavy lifting. But on moving day, I was on my feet for several hours. By the end, I was convinced that I was going to give birth on one of the moving company’s trolleys. The day started off well enough, with my husband and I packing the last of the odds and ends before the movers arrived at 9am. I was tasked with taking our Ridgeback, Vida, and her mixed-breed

partner in crime, Chloe, to the vet for a check-up while Craig did the “heavy” work. I thought I had it easy. But I had forgotten that Vida, who weighs more than 30kg, has delusions of being a contender for the next J&B Met. And Chloe, who has only one eye, semiblindly follows Vida wherever she runs. I managed to get them into the car, but by the time we arrived at the vet, they were ready to break land-speed records. As I opened the door, they bolted, leaving me standing with two pink leashes in my hand. I attempted to waddle in their direction. But when I noticed the children at the next door primary school pointing in my direction, I realised how absurd I must have looked – like a giant beach ball, marooned in the parking lot while two gregarious dogs ran donuts around me. I decided to give in gracefully. I would explain to Craig that the dogs had run off to greener pastures, and that we would

save a good few rand each month in dog food. But fortunately, a kind gentleman stepped in to help, and after about 20 minutes of cajoling and some tears, from me, we got the errant hounds into the vet. The rest of the day was spent directing the movers around the new house and keeping an eye on Erin, who was intent on climbing into the boxes as we unpacked them. When the final box was dropped off, at about 7pm that evening, I felt as if I had completed a Cape Epic and a Dusi Canoe Marathon back-to-back. And I vowed again that I would never move when pregnant. In fact, the next time I pack a box, bubble-wrap an ornament or lift a couch, the children had better be old enough to help out. Anél Lewis has now settled into her new home. Conor Sean Lewis was born on 10 April at a healthy 3,6kg. Anél has embraced being the mom of two little ones, but admits she misses the office vibe.

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