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health & wellness going barefoot when it’s ok to ditch the shoes

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to the joy of natural fibres how to choose the right school for your child’s

bond with your baby through massage

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They say “attitude is everything” and I believe them.

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Our attitude towards life defines us and impacts our children. In “check your attitude!” (pg 22) we look at why our approach towards our children’s learning is vital in encouraging their enthusiasm and development.

It’s easy to lose sight of this when living at a crazy pace. It seems the higher one climbs Maslow’s pyramid, the more emphasis we place on physical excellence.

Are we doing enough of the correct forms of exercise? Are we eating correctly to optimise our performance? Try having a lazy Sunday lunch without the Tim Noakes “diet” coming up. I also have to contend with various dietary issues in my home – my daughters are pescetarian; one is wheat, soy and dairy intolerant; my fatherin-law is diabetic; and my nephew can

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empty my fridge in five minutes flat. As a result, Sunday lunches are not quite as spontaneous as they used to be.

It’s all about striving for balance, which is why I love my job at Child mag where I’m exposed to much of the latest research and opinions around parenting. It’s our responsibility, and yours as a parent, to sift through all the information and choose a balanced path filled with a love of learning, good health and spiritual wellness (see pg 14). In this wonderful Health and Wellness issue we hope to inspire you and your family to live a more balanced, happy life.

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contents april 2014

20 upfront

regulars

3 a note from lisa

8 upfront with paul Paul Kerton points out the 10 lies children will tell

6 over to you readers respond 10 pregnancy news – matters of the heart Cassandra Shaw looks at

features 14 spirituality and school Lisa Lazarus looks at your child’s spiritual needs within the schooling context

17 cotton on to natural fibres Vanessa Papas explains the benefits of using natural fibres in everyday life

18 when dogs bite parents and dog owners are responsible for preventing dog bites. By Tamlyn Vincent

20 happy feet there’s a time to go barefoot and a time to wear shoes.

Marc de Chazal explains

22 check your attitude! Parents’ attitudes towards learning can make or break a child’s success at it, says Caryn Edwards

24 salads and sides Karen Dudley shares deliciously fresh recipes from her new book, Another Week in the Kitchen

congenital heart defect and discusses treatment options

11 best for baby – loving hands there are many benefits to massaging your baby, says Marina Zietsman

12 dealing with difference – childhood depression Glynis Horning looks at the alarming rise of teenage suicide in South Africa

26 resource – brilliant breakfast spots Lucille Kemp gives you a diverse list of family-friendly eateries to kickstart your day

30 a good read for the whole family 32 what’s on in april 42 finishing touch Cassandra Shaw learns anew the power of imagination and creative play

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a thought for the lefties

Children look up to their parents. They don’t think their parents have bad morals. As they grow, children will always emulate their parents’ way of life and learn from them. It is a shame when human nature reveals to children that their parents aren’t flawless. It could lead to the child walking the same path as the parent.

As parents, we must be aware of what we do in front of our children. No matter what we do, we need to think twice, especially how our actions will reflect back home. Many parents often do illegal things in front of their children. Exposing our children to drugs, alcohol, prostitution, criminal acts or other immoral deeds destroys their future. There is an old proverb that states, “it takes a village to raise a child”. I quote the late Reggae icon, Joseph Hill, who said: “Unless relatives or community elders work together in moulding children as they grow, those with parents of bad morals hold a detrimental future.” Parents, let’s be exemplary to our children for the sake of their brighter future, and for that of our nation. Let’s not forget our sons and daughters are the leaders of tomorrow.

Milton Jaure

Being a left-hander I found your article “left of centre” (March 2014) very interesting. I attended primary school in the 1950s and do not remember any special treatment. Those poor children were forced to change hands. Before that time the concern for left-handers was that they would not be able to work in a factory with machines designed for right-handed people.

Having taught art for 30 years I can agree with the findings of Denise Pape that 25% of the classes are left-handed. Since the advent of left-handed scissors I always made them available and taught the children to put their paints on their left-hand side. Parents should be advised not to see their left-handed child as abnormal. Did you know that Leonardo da Vinci was left-handed? He certainly did not have any spatial perceptual difficulties.

Liz Smith

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I read recently that 23% of the youth in South Africa are not interested in voting in the upcoming elections.

What astounded me most was the reason behind their lack of interest. Apparently the vast majority of respondents in this survey, said they feel nothing will change no matter who wins, or that there is no one worth voting for.

Don’t we as parents have a responsibility to make our children aware of the importance of elections? It’s such a cliché, but doesn’t the statement, “if you don’t vote, you cannot complain” make a lot of sense? My children are too young to vote, but I’d like to think that I’m preparing them for participation in a democracy.

Whoever they feel like voting for, I cannot shape that decision, as long as they know their voices count.

Lynne Saga

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My three year old and I love visiting different play parks around our city. I am alarmed though at the obesity I notice in children. I understand that not all children are born lean and athletic, but I see four year olds too obese to climb onto play equipment. They can hardly run, without “huffing and puffing”. And then I see what their parents feed them for breakfast.

Fast-food burgers and chips and carbonated cold drinks, all consumed before 9am! In my opinion fastfood outlets should not even be operational at that time of the morning.

I know I can’t ban my child from having the odd sweet or piece of cake, but I do make an effort to feed him healthy, balanced meals; especially for breakfast – the most important meal of the day. A friend recently told me that she will give her 10-year-old son a healthy snack or a balanced meal before he gets dropped off at a birthday party. It works well, as he is not starved when he gets to the party, and doesn’t feel that he has to stuff himself with sweets or cake. It’s simple measures like these that help our children learn healthy eating habits.

It’s not that difficult to implement. But if Mom, Dad and older siblings all indulge in fatty takeaways for breakfast, surely that’s not setting a good example for younger children. An overweight four year old struggling to play seems like child abuse to me.

Mariette van Buren

I just paged through the March issue of Child mag and have to agree with Michele Engelberg’s letter regarding school uniforms. Uniforms definitely have a place in South Africa. Something needs to be done about the cost of them though. I don’t buy branded clothing for my children, yet am forced to pay as much for uniforms; however, the quality is often shocking. Suppliers know they have the upper hand and couldn’t be bothered to up their game.

Suzy Oliveira

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Kathryn Brett, Babes in the Woods

online feedback In reply to the online feature “Understanding Tourette’s Syndrome” My 11-year-old son has Tourette’s syndrome (TS).

He is displaying vocal tics in the form of high pitched noises and swearing, and he has motor tics like spitting. I live in Cape Town, and it is very difficult finding any help here. Schooling is another nightmare.

I love reading articles like this that are positive. It gives me hope.

Glynnis Wow. Thank you for this wonderful article. We suspect that my son has TS. My heart really feels a bit better after reading this feature.

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Reply to online feature “Playing in dirt and mud builds a child’s immunity” I took both my children to Moms and Tots where they were encouraged to play and get messy at sensory play.

It taught me to also put my hands in and not just point the finger; to dig in and get dirty with them. It was just as good for me as it was for them. I actually overcame some of my sensory issues doing that.

Anonymous In reply to Cassandra’s online blog “He won’t swallow his meds!”

My daughter was the same. When she was almost three she had to be admitted to hospital so she could have her antibiotics via a drip as she refused to take any medication and she got very sick. I felt like I was the worst mother in the world. When she was in hospital, I was there the whole time so she became a bit too comfortable. After that, I made it clear to her that if she has to go back to hospital for not taking medication, she has to go alone. Thankfully, she does not get sick often.

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upfront with paul

10 lies children tell, in no particular order PAUL KERTON speaks honestly about the

“I’ll take them for walks and pick up their poos. Promise.”

In a straw poll of at least 140 friends, this turned out to be the mother of all lies.

Children will say absolutely anything to get a dog, cat, rabbit or anything cute. But when it’s time for the dirty work you won’t see them for dust.

“Yes, I’ve brushed my teeth.”

“Darling, your teeth are battleship grey. There’s a piece of chicken between them from last Sunday’s braai. Let me smell your breath... Oh My Gawd... you can’t go out like that; we’d need to alert the municipality. Go and brush them NOW!” “I’ll be staying at Tamsin’s tonight.”

Always check with Tamsin’s parents: a) if it is okay that she stays, and b) she is indeed staying at their house. Teenagers

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have a habit of omitting key parts of a sentence as in, “I’ll be staying at Tamsin’s brother’s hot friend’s place tonight.”

“Mom/Dad said I could.”

The classic playing one parent off against the other – always when one parent is away on business in Hawaii, or out of the house. Who said children weren’t manipulative? “So, shall we call Mommy then...?”

“I’m still hungry.”

They are either bored or have just spotted those irresistible chocolate mouses (mice?) you brought back from the supermarket. You will offer them 20 different kinds of healthy food and they will say, “I don’t feel like that”, then you will say, “Would you like a chocolate mouse?” and they will bite your hand off.

“My arm (ear/leg/head) hurts.”

This always occurs when they are supposed to be asleep and you and your partner are snuggling up. Obviously there is nothing wrong and they just want another dollop of attention. Greedy or what?

“All my friends are wearing them/ have got them.”

It is difficult not to concede to peer pressure, but first check and see what her friends are wearing and what they have got. This always boils down to some ridiculously skimpy piece of fashion or the latest iPhone.

“Michael did it, not me.”

The blame-game is a perennial challenge. Children don’t want to disappoint by being the culprit or the cause of any mayhem. And it isn’t until they get to age

30 that they will finally accept responsibility for their actions. Of course they did it. There was nobody else in the house.

“I’ll be back before midnight.”

This means they will think about coming home before midnight but will actually set off closer to 1am. Always add one hour, at least, to the promised home time. If you want them home at midnight, set their curfew at 11pm.

“I didn’t touch any cigarettes/ drugs/alcohol, honest.”

As children get older, their social consequences get slightly more serious. The short answer to this is: “Why are you crawling on all fours and think that the garage is your bedroom? Why is your top on, inside out?

Thought I wouldn’t notice, eh?”

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stories often told by our children.

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kidney care Your child could be suffering from kidney deficiency, but you can help them hugely by catching it in its early stages.

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LUCILLE KEMP alerts you to the signs.

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lthough the most common kidney diseases in children present at birth, leaving parents feeling helpless, Prof Kala of Wits University emphasises that there are also hugely preventative aspects of it. This disease is a problem that another Joburg-based paediatric nephrologist describes as, “devastating, but somehow not as front of mind as childhood cancer. Therefore, education about early detection and the treatment options should not be neglected.” A Joburg-based mother, who was very small during her pregnancy, took her three-week-old son to her local clinic with complaints that he had not gained weight, his tummy was swollen and he was passing urine with a poor stream. Her baby was referred to the provincial hospital and, after an abdominal ultrasound, it was found that the child had obstructed kidneys. “If there wasn’t a vigilant parent and capable attending medical personnel investigating, this infection would have been in kidney-failure zone within a couple of years,” says Kala.

why so important?

Those two bean-shaped organs on either side of your spinal cord have a pivotal role to play in maintaining your body. They help to clean the blood by removing excess fluids, salts, and waste products. Kidneys also release hormones that help regulate blood pressure, create new red blood cells and maintain calcium levels for healthy bones. Kidneys are like the body’s rubbish collection and disposal system. Without healthy, functioning kidneys there would be fluid overload and electrolyte abnormalities, which can be life-threatening: severe anaemia, bone abnormalities and high blood pressure (which could lead to heart failure) and also a risk of bleeding into the head, causing a stroke.

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be on the lookout “In newborns and infants, where kidney disease is prevalent, a failure to thrive is usually evident – poor weight gain and appetite, vomiting, a miserable mood, low- or high-blood pressure and poor urine output,” says Kala. In older children, signs and symptoms of kidney problems vary and include fever, swelling around the eyes, face, feet and ankles, burning or pain during urination, a significant increase in the frequency of urination, difficulty controlling urination (in children who are mature enough to use the toilet), recurrence of night-time bed-wetting (in children who have been dry for several months), blood in the urine and high-blood pressure. “It is a fallacy that children do not get hypertension,” says Kala.

help is at hand Treating the underlying condition that’s causing the kidney failure can sometimes help heal the kidneys. This, however, isn’t possible if the person has lost more than 15% of their kidney function, in which case a kidney transplant is needed. Kidney donation also allows you to have a living donor as one healthy kidney can still keep the donor’s body functioning well. If your child hasn’t found a living donor match, usually in the form of a close relative or friend, they will be on a waiting list to receive a kidney from a nonliving donor. So, in the interim your child will need to go on dialysis, which does the work of a kidney by cleaning the blood.

The Organ Donor Foundation stresses the importance of becoming a donor through its Save Seven Lives campaign, which works on the premise that one person has seven life-saving organs: one heart, two lungs, one liver, one pancreas and two kidneys.

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regnant mothers can do a lot to try and aid the health and safety of their unborn child through creating a healthy living environment, maintaining a well-balanced diet and regular exercise.

However, in some instances, the mother’s lifestyle choices do little to prevent certain disorders, like congenital heart defect (CHD) from occurring. Sound medical assistance and early diagnosis are key.

chd defined CHDs are the most common type of birth defect and they affect about 1:100 children, says Dr Liesl Zühlke, a paediatric cardiologist and president of the Paediatric Cardiac Society of South Africa. Yet, “in countries where antenatal screening (using fetal ultrasound) is not universal, such as South Africa, with varying rates depending on public, private and rural settings, [she says] the number is more likely to be higher”.

CHD occurs when the structure of the heart or its blood vessels have a defect.

However, there are many different types that range in severity. Zühlke says some small lesions can resolve spontaneously

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matters of the heart whereas others can be more complex, requiring treatment in the form of multiple surgeries. “The most common types of CHD are commonly termed ‘a hole in the heart’ where there are defects in the walls between the chambers of the heart, however, even these are all different,” she adds.

While some causes of CHD have been associated with genetics, most are still unknown. Zühlke stresses the importance of

paediatric cardiologist or foetal specialist for an individualised diagnosis.

Due to early diagnosis and strides in the treatment of CHD, survival rates have increased universally above 95%. Zühlke explains that “in the US, more people are living with repaired congenital heart disease than are being born with it.” In South Africa, however, these rates are not quite as high, and although this country’s survival rates

CASSANDRA SHAW discusses congenital heart defect – the most common birth defect in children. understanding that “common things such as maternal diet during pregnancy, exercise or lack of exercise during pregnancy does not cause heart disease in the baby.”

spotting chd The heart develops very early in pregnancy and an incorrect formation should be detectable at the 16- and 20-week scans.

If a defect is found, Zühlke says that your sonographer should refer you to a

within hospitals can be compared to those overseas, given the quality of our surgeons, Zühlke states that sometimes there is little hope for those who are diagnosed too late where surgery is no longer an option.

For those not diagnosed in utero there are a number of signs to look out for and they may differ depending on age. At birth, however, although most babies are born with blue hands and feet, Zühlke says that a baby with a blue tongue or blue lips is an

important danger sign that should never be ignored. A fast heartbeat, fast breathing, cold hands and feet and a poor pulse are also symptoms to look out for initially.

being proactive Because of its link to genetics, there may be a chance that subsequent pregnancies or mothers who have had CHD, could pass it on genetically. Zühlke explains that “it is important to scan all subsequent pregnancies. Pregnant women with a heart disease should also have good antenatal care” as it can aid early diagnosis. It is also advisable that would-be parents with a family history of CHD should see a genetic counsellor before deciding to become pregnant.

helpful links for parents • c ontact: kidsheartSA@gmail.com or visit: pcssa.org • visit: africa.congenital.org • visit: chdsouthafrica.weebly.com • visit: heartskids.co.za • visit: hudsoninitiative.org

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loving hands Baby massage has a number of beneficial elements and can also be

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a good way to bond with your child, explains MARINA ZIETSMAN.

ell-known French obstetrician and author Frederick Leboyer writes in his book, Loving Hands: The Traditional Art of Baby Massage, “Being touched and caressed, being massaged, is food for the infant. Food as necessary as minerals, vitamins, and proteins.”

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what are the benefits?

According to research sponsored by UNICEF and studies from the University of Miami’s Touch Research Institute, children and infants who were massaged showed improved sleeping patterns, diminished anxious behaviour and significantly reduced stress indicators. Premature babies who were regularly massaged gained weight faster, and performed better on developmental tasks. It benefitted their developing nervous systems, they acquired mental and motor skills earlier and were more relaxed than non-massaged babies.

“Babies with Down’s syndrome, cerebral palsy, autism and other syndromes can benefit from loving touch and massage,” says Ronel Coetzee, vice-president of IAIM South Africa (International Association of Infant Massage).

Certified infant massage instructor Sureida Pienaar, from Cape Town, says as all senses are used during massage, “It promotes bonding and a nurturing touch between the mom and the baby and improves verbal and

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nonverbal communication and pre-language communication skills.” Pienaar says massage also stimulates the circulatory, digestive, hormonal, immune, lymphatic, nervous and respiratory systems and it improves coordination and balance, learning abilities and muscular development and tone. “It also helps to relieve gas, colic, constipation, cramps and excess mucus, and helps with teething,” she adds.

Coetzee says there are added benefits for parents too. “It helps parents feel more competent and confident in their role and gives them the opportunity for focused time together.” She says massage also enhances communication and builds mutual respect between a parent and a child, as well as the bond between parents and adopted children. It also provides special time for the father and the child.

ages and stages It’s advisable to massage babies when they are in a quiet and alert state, and because newborns are often asleep, it’s difficult to find the opportunity. “My advice would be to start massaging as soon as you feel comfortable, providing the baby weighs more than 2kg,” says Coetzee. She adds that the benefits of massage and loving touch never disappear.

“It’s not necessary to ever stop massaging your child. Most of the same techniques can still be used on an older child.”

where and how Massage can happen anywhere, as long as both you and your baby feel safe and relaxed. Coetzee suggests home would be the most practical place, because it’s already an environment conducive to a relaxing atmosphere. Many parents follow a short course in baby massage. Pienaar says: “I demonstrate the massage movements on a doll and the parents practise on the baby in the class as well as at home.

At week five, the parents hopefully know the movements. It’s up to the parents to continue this from then onwards.”

Coetzee recommends a daily massage, but it’s not always practical. “Massage does not need to take long. A 5- to 10-minute massage is often adequate,” says Coetzee.

“The baby is the boss here,” adds Pienaar. “We only do it when the baby is receptive to it.” If a baby has had enough massage, she will start showing disengagement cues, such as frowning, grimacing or crying.

Coetzee says, “If the baby has a medical condition, is ill or hospitalised, massage should only be performed with the consent of the medical practitioner.”

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dealing with difference

childhood depression Depression and suicide are on the rise among children – are yours at risk? By GLYNIS HORNING

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urban-based marketing assistant Lwazi* was delighted when her salary finally allowed her to move her 12-year-old daughter from a township school to one in the city and rent a flat nearby. But in the months that followed, her once bubbly child grew increasingly moody. She struggled to make friends and her grades dropped. “I kept telling her the move was to give her a better life, and she must just work harder,” says Lwazi. “I sacrificed, she must too.”

Then in 2012, Lwazi returned from work to find her child unconscious, empty pill bottles and her school report beside her.

“She’d failed three subjects, but I couldn’t believe a child would try to kill herself.”

According to the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG), the suicide rate for children aged 10 to 14 has more than doubled in the past 15 years.

Of the 6 000 to 8 000 people that commit suicide every year, one in three patients admitted to hospitals are children or teens.

Around 60% of those who commit suicide are estimated to suffer from depression, which affects at least two in every 100 children, and five in 100 teens.

Until 1994 the incidence of depression and suicide was lower among black South Africans, says stress and suicide expert Prof Lourens Schlebusch, author of Mind Shift: Stress Management and Your Health (UKZN Press). Since then the stress of new expectations and the pressure from family and the community to succeed have seen “a huge increase”, he says.

function, it’s important to seek help, says Mpumi Mbhele, a Joburg clinical psychologist.

“Untreated, it can result in poor self-esteem, and the child becoming demoralised and unmotivated.” It may also precede more serious mental illness later in life.

Yet many parents are loath to accept that their children suffer from depression, says Linda Naidoo, director of Childline Durban. They fear the stigma is still linked to mental health problems, or believe it reflects on their parenting. “Depression is nothing to be ashamed of, but parents often blame themselves when children are diagnosed,” says Mbhele. “Even if they partly played a role through divorce, for example, there are always multiple contributing factors.”

This became clear to Lwazi when her employer arranged counselling after her daughter had recovered in hospital. A change of school and home, fear of failure, and guilt at disappointing her mother all had a role in the child’s depression. “I see now that taking those pills was her shouting for help,” says Lwazi. “I wish I had known the danger earlier.”

realise the risks Risk factors for depression and suicide in children include break-ups with friends, bullying, illness, bereavement, neglect, physical or sexual abuse, fanatical belief systems, chaotic or conflicted family, a family history of depression or suicide, academic or mental problems and an imbalance in brain chemicals. “Peer pressure and the need to belong also play a significant part in shaping teens’ perceptions of themselves,” says Cape Town counselling psychologist Diane Mallaby. “Those who feel rejected by their peer group take it very seriously and as a personal rejection.” A recent UK study suggests that children whose mothers are depressed in pregnancy also run a small increased risk of depression later in life. The researchers advise that women who are depressed get treatment before becoming pregnant, and if they are already pregnant, find treatment urgently.

head off depression The surest way to protect your child from depression is to remind them that you love them and are there to support them. “Developing an open, honest, trusting relationship will encourage them to come to you when they’re in distress,” says Mbhele. If you are unable to assist, make sure your child has a trusted relative, teacher or counsellor to talk to. Teach them to see mistakes as a chance to learn and grow, and help them analyse what went wrong and what they can do in future. When disciplining them, focus on their behaviour, not their personality, and on finding solutions. “Understanding teen depression is key, and patience is required because often they are moody, defiant and irritable, and they can present differently to adult depression,” says Mallaby. “Parents need a support base, and if they’re not coping they need to get help. It’s not an individual treatment plan that works best, but rather a holistic intervention.”

find treatment

Occasional moodiness and sadness is normal, particularly with the hormone changes around puberty, which today can start at age nine or 10. But when these or other signs persist for more than a few weeks and affect your child’s ability to

Start with a school counsellor or doctor, who can rule out physical problems and direct you to other professionals, or go to SADAG. “Don’t delay getting help, and always follow your intuition as a parent,” says Mallaby. The most effective form is cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), which focuses on changing the child’s dysfunctional thoughts and beliefs, and gives them coping and problem-solving skills. “It’s important that parents are involved,” she says.

“CBT combined with medication, exercise and a good support system is the best approach.”

know the signs If your child shows the following for more than a few weeks, get help: • low, flat mood, tearfulness; • tiredness, lack of energy; • loss of interest in things or people; • change in eating/sleeping patterns; • feelings of worthlessness, failure or guilt; • complaints of aches and pains that don’t improve; • drop in grades; • irritability, anger or aggression; • r egressive behaviour (bedwetting, thumb-sucking); and • increased risk-taking, use of alcohol or drugs and acting out in rebellious or sexual behaviour.

Should your child talk, even indirectly, about dying or suicide, get help fast.

Contact SADAG: 0800 567 567 (sms 31393) or Lifeline 0861 322 322

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spot the problem

Never tell your child to “snap out of it”. It’s not disrespect or laziness; they are unwell, says Mbhele. Tell them, “You look upset, is there something you’d like to tell me?” Then listen quietly. Unburdening can help them feel better and find their own solutions. Encourage them to follow their treatment and take any medication exactly as prescribed. Also encourage them to exercise regularly to release stress and feel-good endorphins, and to eat healthily.

Also, control your own emotions – unburden with friends and don’t escape in drugs or alcohol. “A child will react better to life’s challenges with a positive role model,” says Mbhele. Lwazi’s daughter is today “a different child”. She now sees what someone at SADAG said to her: “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” *Name changed to protect identity

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What are the benefits of attending a religious school? LISA LAZARUS speaks about

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education and your child’s spiritual needs.

hildren, claim the Journal of Child Health Care, tend to be more spiritually aware than many adults. That’s because children want to work out what the world is about, while lacking embarrassment about spiritual perceptions.

“Religion doesn’t mean much to me... but I sure can stop and wonder about things... you look up at the sky and you wonder what’s up there,” says a child (quoted in the journal article) from an atheist background, whose cousin was killed in an accident.

Given that children have a questing and spiritual dimension, should parents take this into consideration when thinking about schooling?

children’s spiritual needs Many schools focus on academics and sports. These activities “develop the mind and body, but don’t pay attention to spiritual disciplines,” says Susan Keegan, the director and administrator at The Vine School in Cape Town, which describes itself as “Bible-based and Christ-centred”. However, she adds, people are made up of body, mind and spirit and a holistic education should take all three aspects into account.

The Vine School believes in nurturing a child’s “spiritual (or inner) life” while teaching the child how to practise spiritual disciplines, including prayer, Bible study, quiet thoughtfulness, service, simplicity and stewardship. Mehtab Razack, deputy principal of Islamia Primary in Cape Town, also draws a distinction between the inward and outward manifestations of spirituality. “Spirituality implies inwardly that we are sincere, honest, just and compassionate while outwardly, spirituality is manifested in good behaviour and positive relations.”

According to Clare Pretorius, the senior deputy principal of Randpark Ridge-based Trinityhouse High School, which has an overtly Christian ethos, spirituality cannot be taught. It is a quality that is innate to a person, she says, though all people have a bent toward the spiritual, or what Pretorius terms “a God-shaped hole”. Children can, however, be taught the theory of Christianity. The school teaches by way of “lifestyle evangelism”, or leading by example.

In keeping with these ideas, the school has an assembly every day in which a message from the gospel is given by a staff member. Christian principles are followed and taught throughout the school in all activities, including Bible education lessons, which take place on a weekly basis.

Andy Haefner, the principal of King David Yiddish Folk preprimary school, a traditional Jewish Orthodox establishment in Joburg, also believes that spirituality as well as organised religion should play a part in the school curriculum. For her, spiritual needs relate to the need to belong, both within the family and the greater community. “Every human being has an intrinsic need to feel part of something bigger than themselves and this is why people look to organised religion,” says Haefner.

The preprimary phase is ideal for starting religious instruction, Haefner says, as young children are beginning to think more abstractly and form opinions about their existence.

They are also open to learning about moral values through religion so that they grow up as menschen, a Yiddish word for “good, righteous people”. Sunil Singh, the principal of Westville Hindu Primary School in Durban, also emphasises how teaching spirituality is a way to impart “morals, values and discipline”.

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Not all parents who decide to send their child to a school that has a religious component, whether mild or intense, are themselves religious.

Not all parents who decide to send their child to a school that has a religious component, whether mild or intense, are themselves religious. Geraldine Dahl defines herself as “more spiritual and open-minded”, whereas she chose the Anglican Bishops Diocesan College (Cape Town) for her seven-year-old son. She describes the school as “religious”, although she was anticipating more of a religious push from the school.

Boys are expected to attend regular chapel services and meet with the school pastor.

Geraldine feels that at her son’s young age, he needs “the groundwork laid first”, but she does find it a “fairly difficult line to straddle”.

She explains that her son will eventually make his own decision about the extent to which he adopts formal religion into his life. However, Christianity is core to Western culture, she remarks, and because the Bible teachings are not part of his home life, he needs the tools provided by the school to make this important decision at a later stage. In addition, she is pleased to see the values of Christianity, such as “ethics, morals and the acceptance of others” being taught in the school rather than “Bible bashing”. The school includes boys from all faiths and she thinks they do a good job of blending religion and education. However, Dahl is quick to concede that she had no experience of a religiousbased school as, despite growing up in a strict religion, the school she attended had only one religious studies period a week, which she regularly bunked.

Sometimes parents, who are not themselves religious, decide, for whatever reason, to send their child to a religious school. Haefner confirms this when she says that they have parents from across the spectrum: the very observant to the nominally traditional. Staff are mandated to enlighten the children on all aspects of Judaism, but no one is ever made to feel that they have to abide by the doctrines or practices in any way.

When Keegan interviews prospective non-Christian families, she explains to them that they will be expected to respect the school’s faith commitment and that their children won’t be excused from religious activities such as chapel services. However, she suggests that parents honestly tell their children that they don’t believe all the same things as the school, and that they discuss the reasons for their choices when differences become evident.

different teaching approaches Besides the religious component, do these kinds of schools differ in any other significant ways? Razack explains that Islamia Primary offers both Arabic and Islamic Studies as subjects. This provides students with the opportunity to obtain secular and religious knowledge at the same institution as part of one learning experience. The curriculum of Westville Hindu Primary also goes beyond an academic and sports programme to include culture through music, dance and yoga, as well as meditation and simple Hawan, Hindi or Tamil lessons.

Keegan believes that The Vine School’s Christian world-view has a radical effect on their teaching approach. She says that it affects everything they do. Keegan explains that because children are made in the image of a personal God, they are seen as “creative, relational beings with unlimited potential and eternal destiny”.

With this perception in mind, she says it makes no sense to define expected outcomes and subject all children to the same standardised tests. This does not take their individuality into account. Therefore, the school does not support low-interest tasks magazine cape town

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like completing worksheets and other “busy work”, which just leads to boredom and inattention (and the proliferation of an ADHD diagnosis). “We also don’t believe in using ‘manipulative methods’ – like star charts, prizes, effusive praise, conditional love or even black marks or demerits – but prefer to awaken their curiosity through interesting and intellectually satisfying content.”

Jimmy Khanyile, who works as a scientist manager for the Department of Environmental Affairs, decided to send his daughter, Rorisang, aged six, to The Vine School. Khanyile explains that when he and his wife, Ella, saw the advert for the school in the paper, he perceived it as an answer to his prayers. They were searching for a religious school that embodies Christian faith values, such as kindness, care and ethics. He says: “The philosophy of the school (based on the Ambleside curriculum) and its religious alignment is congruent, because it allows learning and growing of new habits while strengthening an individual’s emotional intelligence, not only for learners but also for parents.” Choosing the right school for your child can cause anxiety for many parents. This is partly because a school is selected before a child’s talents and personality are entirely known. Schools with a strong religious component might be worth considering if the fit is good with the family, the school is particularly appealing or the spiritual needs of your child are important to you.

other ways to teach your child spirituality outside the classroom Dr Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist and creator of the website ahaparenting.com, offers the following tips for encouraging nondenominational spirituality: • Develop your child’s sense of wonder Try and point out the miracle of life to your child – take time to look at a new flower that has sprouted, a snail making tracks across the garden or a gangly puppy.

• Build trust Even if you don’t believe in a God, children need to feel that the universe is basically benevolent and not out to get them.

• Answer the deep questions Children’s endless questions can become annoying, but they are trying to get to the heart of the matter. They need to understand that there are reasons why things happen, even if these reasons don’t always make sense. Even if an act of violence occurs, she advises that you say, “Sometimes people disagree with each other and they don’t use their words to work things out. They fight – with their hands or guns or bombs. Those things always create more pain and hurt. That’s why we always try to use words.”

• Use reflection People benefit from shutting down the noise of technology

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and quietly reflecting, whether this includes prayer or not. Take time to be

Richard Dawkins’ book The Magic of Reality examines, at a level suitable for young people, how science rather than the Bible can explain the world. It’s an alternative way for understanding why things happen the way they do and this resource might be a useful addition for parents who want to provide children with a variety of explanations.

together with your family. Go for walks in the forest or look up at the night sky.

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Spend the weekend unplugged from all electronic devices.

• Teach gratitude Model aloud how wonderful it is to have certain things – a tasty meal, a warm bed at night, a fun play date; gratitude is about being aware of what has been received.

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explains Vanessa Papas.

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hen it comes to choosing your child’s sheets, linen, mattress protector, blankets, towels and clothing, the benefits of natural fibres far outweigh those of synthetics. Made from plant and animal sources, natural fibres take centre stage in terms of comfort, absorption, breathability and durability. Free of harsh chemicals, they are also less likely to cause skin irritations and allergies, and are extremely lightweight, while still providing softness, warmth and protection.

“There are a number of natural options available but the most popular fibres used in bedding and clothing are cotton, sourced from the cotton plant, and linen, from the flax plant,” explains Jimmy Ferendinos, CEO of a company specialising in hypoallergenic bedding, pure cotton towelling, percale bedding and natural bedding.

“Although linen is a more durable fibre, it’s very coarse and can be rough. Cotton, on the other hand, is still the undisputed ‘king’ when it comes to comfort and is ideal for delicate, sensitive skin. Not only does it not ‘cling’ to the body and absorb perspiration from the skin, preventing the ‘clammy’ feeling often experienced with synthetic fibres, but it’s hard-wearing and can withstand heavy usage, including continued laundering, giving you years of good service. It doesn’t pill and it’s hypoallergenic.”

Cotton has also become particularly popular in the manufacturing of reusable nappies and liners because of its high fluid absorbency (a cotton nappy with a weight of 85g can absorb up to 100ml of fluid). Other natural plant fibres, like coir (coconut husk) have begun replacing standard polyurethane mattresses as they allow a constant circulation of air through the mattress, reducing the chances of your baby overheating and decreasing the chance of allergies (dust mites cannot live in organic coir).

Another plant-derived fibre is hemp, which is both soft and extremely durable.

natural elements Products manufactured from animal fibres are ideal for children as they do not conduct heat, keeping them warm in winter and cool in summer. Wool, mohair and cashmere from sheep and goats, Angora wool from rabbits and silk from silkworms are the most popular. Pure wool can absorb up to a third of its own weight in moisture without feeling damp; mohair is flame- and crease-resistant; Angora wool is lightweight yet seven times warmer than wool; and cashmere is very soft. Silk is cool to touch, breathable, warm with superior insulating properties and naturally strong and durable. Raw silk also contains antimicrobial materials, which have healing and anti-inflammatory properties. Silk is very effective if your baby is susceptible to nappy rash. Placed directly on your baby’s skin, raw silk will reduce redness without any use of powder or cream. Just keep in mind, although biodegradable, natural fibres aren’t necessarily more gentle on the environment. Their cultivation can involve high usage of water and agricultural chemicals.

what does “thread count” mean?

Thread count refers to the number of threads woven together in a square inch. If you prefer a crisp sheet, choose a percale weave (200 to 300 thread count) and for a soft, silky sheet, choose a sateen weave (500 to 600 thread count). Steer clear of polycotton sheets under 180 thread count as they tend to pill with wear and become scratchy to the skin.

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when dogs bite Both parents and dog owners have a responsibility to ensure that dog bites

ne sunny day three-year-old Joshua was playing outside at our house. Zoey, our resident dachshund, was lying on her bed in the sun.

Joshua’s mom, Sarah, was enjoying lunch with family.

Then a scream tore through the air.

As Joshua ran inside, Sarah could see his face was bleeding. He had jumped onto Zoey’s bed, and she had bitten him. It wasn’t that bad. Sarah cleaned it, stuck a plaster on it, and Joshua carried on as if nothing had happened.

Joshua was lucky. Research shows that children under the age of six are more likely to be bitten than any other age group, and these bites usually happen at home or at a friend’s house. Most often children are bitten on the face, head and neck. Zoey was a small dog, and bit Joshua more as a warning nip. If a bigger dog had bitten him, he may have had scarring on his face and needed plastic surgery, or worse.

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why dogs bite Serious dog bites aren’t common, says Knysna-based dog expert and trainer, Karis Nafte. What is common is dogs trying to discipline children by nipping them. Nafte sees numerous dogs who have shown aggression towards children, and says there are two main reasons why dogs bite.

The first is that they may be in pain and frustrated, so they bite. If you notice a sudden change in behaviour in your dog, such as a friendly dog that becomes grumpy overnight, or if he growls at your touch, take him to the vet immediately. If the vet rules out medical problems, see a dog behaviourist.

And secondly, dogs bite as a last resort; as a final way of getting their message across. Dogs may express themselves by growling. This isn’t necessarily a sign of aggression, says Nafte. It’s often a dog’s way of saying he feels uncomfortable and, because of this, owners shouldn’t punish their dogs for growling. A natural instinct for any parent faced with a dog growling at their child is to shout at or punish the dog.

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But Nafte explains that dogs who are continually punished for growling may eventually stop growling, which could be potentially far more dangerous because your dog has no way, other than biting, to create distance between himself and the child. So when a child hugs a dog, for example, and the dog growls because he finds this intimidating, the best reaction is to quietly take the child away. “Screaming is the worst thing you can do,” advises Nafte. It sounds like barking to the dog, who may think you’re barking at the child and take it as an invitation to attack.

advance warning Dogs don’t just bite out of the blue, notes Nafte. Growling is one warning sign, but there are others. The dog may avoid a child, or freeze when the child approaches. He might avoid eye contact. Or he may stare, not when the child’s eating a sarmie, but with what Nafte calls hard, glassy eyes or with the whites of the eyes showing.

But, Nafte says, don’t ignore warning signs, regardless of the dog’s reason for growling. Rather deal with it by getting professional advice as soon as it starts. Dr Donald Leask, a Joburg vet, says dogs that bite or growl at children can be moved to a home without children, or to one where there is a strong alpha dog. When Sarah adopted a Cocker Spaniel her children were thrilled. But when the spaniel kept growling and behaving weirdly around the children, she had no choice but to give it away. The children weren’t thrilled, but Sarah did what she had to: prevent any future accidents.

do’s and don’ts Apart from paying attention to your dog’s behaviour, dog owners can take other precautions. Don’t leave your dog

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alone with children, says Leask. If children are visiting rather put your dog away, somewhere he’s comfortable and safe. If you’re walking your dog, ensure he’s on a leash, and that you’re the one in control. Nafte doesn’t recommend getting a puppy if you have small children. Leask agrees: “Getting a puppy with a two year old is a recipe for disaster, as one of them usually has very sharp teeth.” But if you do get a puppy, choose a breed that is more child-friendly, and take it to puppy school where it can be socialised and trained, and where you can both learn obedience basics.

But the onus is not solely on dog owners. Whether you own dogs or not, your children are likely to come into contact with them, and teaching children how to behave around dogs could prevent bites. “Parents should teach their children to respect dogs,” says Claire Buisman, operations manager at the Durban and Coast SPCA. Teach them how to treat dogs, including not pulling their tails or interrupting a dog while he’s eating. Children should stay clear of the dog if they’re walking around with a snack in their hands, says Buisman. Stop your children from hugging dogs, advises Nafte, especially those they don’t know well. For dogs who are not very comfortable with children, this feels like an act of aggression as the child seems to be pinning him down. And parents, especially those with dogs at home, should educate children that not all dogs are friendly.

Dog bites can happen in an instant and could change your child’s life forever. They can also change your dog’s life. Joshua was visiting my house, when my dog Zoey snapped at him. It was the first time it had happened, but I couldn’t help but think, “What if she does this again? How could I ever give my dog away?” Or worse.

stray alert Teach your children what to do if they encounter a stray dog: • Don’t shout or pick up anything with which to threaten the dog, causing them to attack.

• Quietly look at the ground and slowly back away.

• Don’t run, as dogs may give chase. If you are running, start walking.

• If the dog is aggressive, hug a tree or lean flat against a wall.

• If you do fall down, use your hands and arms to cover your face and neck.

• When you are safely away, call the authorities.

golden rules Teach your children to never: • disturb dogs while they’re eating or sleeping; • take away dogs’ toys or possessions; • hug, kiss or put their faces near dogs’ faces; • try to tease, scare or hurt dogs; or • reach through a fence to pat dogs.

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happy feet Shoes or no shoes – MARC DE CHAZAL

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eet are remarkable. Each foot contains 26 bones (together that’s 25% of all the bones in your body), 33 joints and more than 100 muscles, tendons and ligaments. Our feet are complex anatomical structures that enable us to move about efficiently, whether we’re walking, running or jumping. It’s no wonder, then, that we have invented all kinds of shoes to protect our feet from injury and to enhance our performance in various sports. But are shoes always a good thing? There is a growing movement of barefoot enthusiasts around the world, and those who endorse minimalist shoes for walking and running, who believe that barefoot is best. They argue that traditional footwear weakens our feet and prevents us from walking and running with a natural gait. They also point out that we rely on the feedback we get from the ground to maintain our balance and form, especially when running, which is impeded by overly cushioned shoes.

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How does this affect our children?

Their feet are different to those of adults, because they’re still developing. Their growing feet are especially vulnerable to the elements and need protection from sharp objects such as glass and thorns when they start to walk; the flip side of this coin is that shoes may actually hamper the normal development of a young child’s foot. The bones in a baby’s foot are soft and will only harden around the five-year-old mark. You’d be hardpressed to find a podiatrist who will argue against the barefoot-is-best philosophy when talking about the novice walker. “I believe children should be barefoot as much as possible,” says Chris Delpierre, a podiatrist at the Sports Science Institute, who is also the father of one-year-old twins. “Going barefoot helps children to develop balance and good posture and is also best for the natural development of foot muscles.” magazine cape town

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explains the benefits of both.

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Delpierre advises parents to get their child’s first pair of shoes when they start to walk, not before. Bare feet or socks with rubber grips are adequate until your baby takes his first steps. “Your child’s first shoe should only be used to protect their feet from rough or wet surfaces,” says Delpierre.

“When children are learning to walk, they should be barefoot as much as possible.”

What should you look for in your toddler’s first shoe? Podiatrists tend to agree that a child’s first pair of shoes should be as light and soft as possible.

Flexibility is crucial. Put the shoe to the test by bending it in half and twisting it.

“The shoe should give the sole of the foot grip, but should in no way restrict the natural movement and growth of the foot,” Delpierre explains. “Try to get shoes made of leather or fabric that allows the foot to breathe naturally. As a child gets older,

When children start school, wearing shoes is usually compulsory. Kommetjie Primary School in the Western Cape does have a prescribed school uniform, but it has a relaxed policy about footwear. “We allow children to come to school barefoot,” says school secretary Dian Hanratty. “It generally gets very hot in the summer months and we find that going barefoot prevents the smelly feet problem. If children opt to wear shoes, the requirement is a white sport shoe for both girls and boys.

Most of our learners come to school barefoot throughout the year, although we stress the importance of personal hygiene and neatness,” adds Hanratty. Their learners are required to wear appropriate shoes for sports such as tennis and cricket (primarily to protect their feet from injury), for school outings and for certain school functions.

Each foot contains 26 bones (together that’s 25% of all the bones in your body), 33 joints and more than 100 muscles, tendons and ligaments. takkies or trainers are a good idea. Those that fasten with Velcro make doing them up much easier for parents.”

The Podiatry Association of South Africa stresses the importance of buying shoes that fit correctly. According to foot experts, no shoe should be “broken in”.

This just means the shoe is either poorly designed or poorly fitting. You want your child to be as comfortable as possible wearing shoes. They also advise that you look for a shoe with a round toe box, as this gives the toes more room. And there should be a thumb’s width between the end of the shoe and the end of the longest toe. When their toe approaches the end, it’s time for a new pair.

One of the most important things to remember when buying shoes, no matter the age of your child, is that feet naturally swell during the day, so the afternoon is a good time to go shoe shopping. It may be tempting to buy shoes with lots of growing room, but this is not ideal. “The shoe will be too big in the beginning, which causes unnatural foot function as the foot tries to grip the shoe,” says Delpierre.

There are some innovative “barefoot shoes” on the market for children, including some that are designed especially for learners who are required to wear black or brown shoes as part of their school uniform. The aim of these shoes is to give children the health benefits of going barefoot with the protection of normal shoes.

Delpierre believes that children benefit most from being barefoot when they are playing or exercising. “Wearing shoes restricts the natural movement of the foot, which will cause a loss of balance and agility. Shoes also cause the foot to function differently, which will affect the development of muscles in the foot,” he says.

“Shoes for specific sports can have a big impact on performance levels, but this is not a factor for young children.

As they get older and participate in sports such as tennis, hockey, rugby, soccer or cricket, shoes become very important for protection and performance.

But young children should be barefoot for sport.”

tips for parents • • • •

Inspect your child’s feet regularly.

Allow your baby to kick freely so that normal development can occur.

Do not force your child to walk – the average walking age is 10–18 months.

Encourage barefoot walking on suitable surfaces (sand, grass, carpets) to stimulate muscle activity and development.

• Shoe and sock sizes should be adjusted as their feet grow.

• Any complaint should be taken seriously.

Source: Podiatry Association of South Africa

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check your attitude!

CARYN EDWARDS explains how our attitudes to learning can affect our children’s aptitude.

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make learning exciting and fun Joburg-based psychologist and play therapist Shannon Eggers believes a teacher’s role is vital in promoting the enjoyment of a subject. “A teacher’s positive attitude

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teacher is modelling to the learner how mathematics or history can be enjoyable. Shannon believes that this is a vital concept to grasp when assessing a child’s response to a particular subject. “If children are assisted to see learning as an adventure or exciting discovery, rather than hard work, learning comes alive and the content is retained for longer.”

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impacts on the tone, energy and mood of a classroom of children and will always have consequences related to the learning environment.” She understands that a teacher who is passionate about his subject will teach with energy and enthusiasm, which then makes for a more engaging and interesting experience for the learner. The teacher’s passion will enhance his teaching of a subject as he will be more determined to impart the engaging essence of the subject. In many instances, passion is tantamount to fun, and Shannon knows that children learn when there is a level of amusement. Subconsciously, a passionate

As a home-schooling mom of four, Nicole Maurel cannot rely on school teachers to instil passion in her daughters’ learning. Instead, Nicole has a responsibility to teach not only one subject, but all school subjects to her children, and has the task of revealing a sense of fervour in all learning areas, whether her own passion lies therein or not. In order to achieve this, Nicole spends time with each child individually, focusing on their own strengths and weaknesses and using their personal interest to guide her teaching. Her six-year-old daughter, Ryen, is interested in astronomy and geography, neither of which Nicole is particularly drawn to. To facilitate and encourage Ryen’s enjoyment of these subjects, Nicole ensures that they take trips to the planetarium, which enables her to spend time poring over maps and atlases.

Because all four of her children are so different in their

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o you remember your favourite teacher at school?

Did that teacher happen to teach your favourite subject? Likewise, were you best at the sports and disciplines for which you received the most support and encouragement? Were your least favourite subjects or sports the same disciplines your parents or grandparents didn’t excel in? Were you ever told you probably wouldn’t do well in a particular field because your parent had no ability in that field and that you don’t have the genes for excellence?

If you recognise these scenarios, you are part of a large group of people whose passions and achievements are almost predetermined by words spoken over them at a young age. Unfortunately, because of the way you may have been encouraged or discouraged to enjoy particular subjects, you may be, unintentionally, projecting the same ideas onto your own children.

The attitudes to learning of parents, teachers and any people that your children spend time with or respect, are vital in a child’s development.

capabilities and interests, their involvement in outings to places that might have been of little interest to them may encourage a fascination that can later be explored.

Thalia Hansen, a high school teacher from Cape Town, also knows well how the passion of a teacher can influence learning. “Anyone can go into a classroom and recite a textbook; anyone can blurt out a prepared lesson. However, only a few can truly instil passion in their students.” Thalia believes that the key to learning is teaching with conviction: “If a teacher is passionate about a subject but speaks over the heads of the learners, the passion is useless. There is a critical balance between passion for the subject, and compassion for the student,” she reiterates. A teacher who dresses up to play a role, and uses music and other appealing approaches to learning, will not only engage the learner and encourage their learning, but will encourage a respect from the learners who realise that the teacher has their best interests at heart, and that is more important than an intact ego.

be a positive role model Shannon recognises that, unfortunately, not all children will experience a connection to a teacher or a subject, no matter the amount of effort a teacher may put into teaching it. This is where, she believes, parents’ roles are vital. “Parents are key role models for young children, and if they display enthusiasm for learning, this will go a long way in the encouragement of their child to develop an interest in learning, despite the subject matter.” Children need to have time management, organisational skills and revision

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exercises demonstrated to them by their parents so that they are equipped to learn and remember what they have been taught. Shannon continues, “Parents need to encourage and acknowledge perseverance and effort, and should avoid only the celebration of high marks. Perseverance is a far more useful life skill than the simple regurgitation of facts.”

If children are assisted to see learning as an adventure or exciting discovery, rather than hard work, learning comes alive and the content is retained for longer.

Moé, but startling to anyone who believed in the importance of IQ over self-belief – a vital fact in aiding the understanding of how important the attitudes of parents and teachers are when it comes to the education of children.

The inclusion of the compulsory subject of Life Orientation in the South African curriculum is a step in the right direction towards creating a generation of learners with a high EQ: acknowledging, identifying and managing feelings should be taught from a very early age. This, combined with the setting of realistic goals, constant support, unending encouragement, and an attitude of passion and enjoyment for learning may be the steps we need to take in order to ensure engaged, inquisitive and emotionally intelligent children.

Imagine if the instillation of positive self-belief existed in all classrooms, home schools, and indeed all homes.

Surely this is desirable and achievable? And your children will have you to thank.

eq over iq In order to prove the importance of attitude, Italian psychologist Angelica Moé, conducted a study with more than 200 high school students. Before they began, the students were told that “intrinsic aptitude” – a phrase infamously coined by Harvard president Larry Summers – would account for the differences in the achievement levels of the men and women taking part in the study. Thus, the students were preconditioned to believe that the results would not be a reflection on their intelligence, but would rather be based on their gender, and their “intrinsic aptitude” for the particular subject. The results were expected by

how to ensure a positive attitude for learning • K eep an eye on your children’s role models – do they reflect an attitude you want your children to have?

• Affirmations are powerful. They take the place of negative thoughts in children’s minds.

• Be realistic, but always be positive. Genes are less important than a positive attitude.

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book extract

salads and sides Filled with a delicious variety of flavourful recipes, KAREN DUDLEY’s new book lets us spend Another Week in The Kitchen. beetroot, fennel & fig salad | Serves 8

spinach & cheddar gözleme | Serves 8

I love the sweet “meaty” bite of the dried figs in this salad, and how the fragrant fennel connects with the beetroot.

I stared, slack-jawed, at the sheets of filled savoury börek and gözleme pastries that sell by the kilo from shops in Istanbul.

The shop assistant seemed appalled at the small amount I wanted to buy for our breakfast. Clearly, these are pastries that demand to be eaten in large amounts.

method Boil the beetroot in plenty of water until tender, about 40–50 minutes. Once cooked, drain and slip off the skins. Once cool enough to handle, grate the beetroot.

Combine the beetroot, half of the sliced figs, herbs, cumin seeds and one of the sliced fennel bulbs in a bowl together with the vinaigrette and lemon juice, and mix together gently with two wooden spoons. Season with salt and black pepper. You might want to add a little splash of flavoured vinegar at this point or a teaspoon of honey.

Pile on a platter and scatter over the remaining sliced fennel bulb. If using, drizzle or blob the Greek yoghurt on top.

Garnish with sumac, lemon rind, a few tendrilous fennel leaves and the remaining fig slices. If you can find beetroot sprouts, or micro leaves, these would be another fantastic garnish.

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black-eyed beans with swiss chard & tahini | Serves 8 This warm dish is an excellent way to eat both Swiss chard and black-eyed beans.

It can be served with flat bread or fragrant rice and makes a great accompaniment to simple roast chicken or lamb. ingredients • 300g black-eyed beans, soaked overnight • 1kg Swiss chard, thoroughly washed • 1¾ cups vegetable stock • ½–¾ cup tahini • 4 leeks, washed, trimmed and chopped • olive oil, for cooking • 6 cloves garlic, sliced • 1 tsp ground nutmeg • 1½ tsp chilli powder • 1 large bunch coriander (about 40g), chopped • salt and black pepper • lemon wedges, as garnish method Cook the beans in plenty of boiling water for about 40 minutes or until tender, then drain them in a colander.

While the beans are cooking, prepare the chard: separate the leaves and the stalks. Then chop the leaves roughly and the stalks more finely.

Pour a little hot stock onto the tahini in a bowl, whisk thoroughly and tip it back into the rest of the stock, and whisk again.

Fry the leeks in olive oil for 3–4 minutes and add the garlic. Stir fry for a minute and then add the chard stalks.

Cook for another 2 minutes and then add the chard leaves, spices and coriander. Stir well for a few moments and then add the cooked beans.

Pour the tahini stock mixture over the beans and chard, season to taste and allow to bubble gently for about 4–5 minutes. If you find the sauce has thickened too much, you could add another ½ cup of boiling water to thin it to your liking. Serve with lemon wedges.

ingredients • 2 tsp olive oil • 500g Swiss chard leaves, chopped • ½ bunch coriander, chopped • ½ red chilli, deseeded and finely chopped • • • • •

1 red onion, grated 2 cloves garlic, crushed 200g cheddar, grated 2–3 sheets filo pastry 6 tbsp butter, melted

method Heat the olive oil in a large frying pan and sauté the chard, coriander, chilli, onion and garlic for 2–3 minutes until the leaves have wilted.

Remove from the heat, drain and discard the cooking fluids. Cool in a bowl, then add the grated cheese.

about the book She’s done it again. After the success of A Week in the Kitchen, Karen Dudley has authored yet another book offering a number of delectable recipes to enjoy with family and friends. Whether you’re cooking at home or bringing a dish somewhere to share, you’ll find something nice, that’s sure to be a hit, in here. Another Week in the Kitchen is published by Jacana Media and can be found at all good book stores.

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ingredients • 1kg beetroot • 120g sliced dried figs • 30g dill, roughly chopped • 30g coriander, roughly chopped • 2 fennel bulbs, very finely sliced, some leaves reserved for garnish • 2½ tsp cumin seeds, toasted in a dry pan • ¼ cup of your favourite vinaigrette • 1 tsp ground sea salt • freshly ground black pepper • 5 tbsp extra-virgin olive oil • splash of flavoured vinegar (optional) • juice of 1 lemon and zest for garnishing • ½ cup Greek yoghurt (optional) • good pinch of sumac (optional)

You will need to cover the filo with a damp cloth while you’re not working with it. Butter one sheet of the filo thoroughly. Lay another layer of filo over the first. Cut the large sheet into 3 rectangles.

Working with one piece at a time, spoon some of the chard-and-cheese filling into the middle of one half of the large rectangle. Brush the sides with melted butter. Fold the rectangle in half to enclose the filling. Fold over the sides to seal and brush with more butter. Brush the outside of the rectangles with melted butter and arrange the “envelopes” on a platter. Repeat until you have 6 filled pastry envelopes.

Heat the remaining butter in a nonstick pan and sauté the gözleme for 2–3 minutes on each side, until they are brown.

You can either keep the pastries well covered with a damp cloth until your guests arrive and fry them on the spot while they watch, wide-eyed, or you can fry them ahead of time and pop them into the oven on a roasting rack over a baking sheet to warm up briefly (3–5 minutes) in a hot oven. Slice into rough rectangles or triangles and serve immediately. These certainly do not last long.

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brilliant breakfast spots Start the morning at one of these fun, family breakfast spots in

oranjezicht city farm market The Oranjezicht City Farm is a non-profit project celebrating local food, culture and community through urban farming in Cape Town. It is adjacent to Homestead Park, which has swings, slides, a jungle gym and a merry-go-round under shady, old oak trees. The park is made up of terraced lawns, which means parents can watch their children play and stay for picnics with free Wi-Fi and newspapers. The market’s classic breakfast offering is Shakshouka, a Tunisian dish of eggs poached in a sauce of tomatoes, chili peppers and onions spiced with cumin. There are also fresh fruit juices, smoothies and cordials, which are offered in children’s sizes as well. They cater for children by offering less pricey meals in smaller portions. Fresh foods include organic fruit, veg and mushrooms, as well as ethically sourced meat, dairy and eggs. additional treats The food garden is a wonder for children to explore and learn about how their food is grown, as

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well as chat to other community members and even the farmer. On market days, Saturdays at 10am–12pm, there is a children’s activity in exchange for a donation from each child; think stories and crafts with an environmental theme, children’s yoga or planting seedlings to take home.

A weekly newsletter is circulated for updates on produce available, as well as special children’s events. They also host quarterly children’s markets. hours of operation 9am–2pm every Saturday find them Alongside the corner of Sidmouth Ave and Upper Orange St, Oranjezicht contact kids@ozcf.co.za or cityfarm@ozcf.co.za or visit ozcf.co.za

schoon de companje This restaurant is a collaboration of true artisans seeking to use only the finest, purest ingredients with integrity; De Companje is determined to be the platform where real farmers and artisans meet. They see themselves

more as an old-style food market, than a restaurant.

They bring you Nice To Meat You Boutique Butchery, Het Roosterij roasted Arabica coffee beans, FannyChanel Artisan Ice Cream, Het Wijnwinkeltje craft wines, De Oude Bank Bakkerij’s nutritious bread and De Brasserij, a cozy corner bar, which showcases local musicians every Saturday night. On selected Wednesdays, expect intimate events ranging from vertical tastings with winemakers to food feasts. Schoon De Companje is open from 6pm–9pm in the evenings as part of the kuiers op die stoep evenings. Their Creamy Scrambled Eggs with a Flat White was the first item on the menu, and it is still in high demand. additional treats Children can work with the bakers, making their own chocolate sticks. hours of operation 7am–6pm Tuesday–Friday, 8am–6pm Saturday, 8am–1:30pm Sunday find them 7 Church St, Stellenbosch contact 021 883 2187, info@decompanje.co.za or visit decompanje.co.za

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oumeul bakkery

Schoon de Companje

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This bakery favourite, originally from Riviersonderend, has branched out to Long Street. Thanks to its early morning opening, it is the ideal destination for you and the children on those sunny midweek mornings when they’re up at the crack of dawn and you just want to get out and go for a drive. So why not pack the pram or the pouch if they’re still young and head in the direction of the exciting city? Oumeul is known for their tasty croissants and sandwiches made on their own brown bread, sourdough or ciabatta. They’re also known for their various pies made the traditional way with home-made puff pastry. They sell a fine brand of coffee, the Bootlegger brand, and all the goodies are made on the premises so their products are reasonably priced. additional treats The “cocktail range” (mini pies) is perfect for children. They are also very welcoming and accommodating, having even made boiled eggs for children by parents’ special request even though these are not on the menu. hours of operation 6:30am–5pm Monday–Friday find them On the corner of Riebeeck St and Long St; opposite Triangle House. Riebeeck St runs parallel to Strand St contact 021 419 0662 or info@oumeul.co.za

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table bay hotel The V&A Waterfront-based hotel offers a long, indulgent breakfast, served at the water’s edge and with the most striking sea and mountain views. If the weather is fine, the outside terrace is sure to win. Whether it’s an intimate and chic breakfast you’re after or a casual and relaxed atmosphere, you’ll get what you need. There are over 250 items on the breakfast buffet. The children will love the freshly made pancakes and waffles with an array of toppings. There is a colourful, seasonal selection of watermelon, strawberries, papaya and mango, and the freshly squeezed juices are delicious. The alluring smell and array of just-baked pastries and breads are welcoming and accompany an even greater assortment of the tastiest cold cuts, cheeses and preserves. Have your eggs done every which way and the omelettes are substantial. additional treats Complimentary parking is offered. hours of operation 6:30am–11pm daily find them Quay 6, V&A Waterfront contact 021 406 5988

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lekke neh There is a build-a-pizza area for the children, a confectionary counter to rival Willie Wonka’s, loads of shade, awesome natural surroundings, two trampolines as well as two mammoth jungle gyms. Lekke Neh has an à la carte menu, space in abundance and ageappropriate entertainment, including Weltevreden’s Carnival area for children of all ages, a reasonably new addition to the estate’s offering. additional treats The area is a complete child haven so nobody is allowed to smoke in the carnival area and no glass is permitted to leave the bar counter and enter this play area.

There are also three dedicated childminders on duty during peak times. hours of operation 9am–9pm daily. The Carnival closes at 6pm. find them At Welgevonden Wine Estate, Cloetesville, Stellenbosch contact 021 889 6588 or reservations@weltevredenestate.com

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four & twenty café The café, at its heart, is a celebration of food and flavours.

They offer a wide selection of hand-crafted patisserie items that are seasonally inspired, complemented by a “pantry” brimming with home-made confectionery and locally sourced specialities. The evolving menu is generous and sumptuous with dishes that are fresh and experimental and the “createyour-own” menu option is perfect for your fussy little eater that just wants avo on toast.

They have also become quite well-known for their Eggs-Be-Lean, a diet-friendly twist on eggs Benedict. The toast is replaced with a truffled aubergine and mushrooms rosti, topped with two poached eggs and smothered in a Four & Twenty Café lighter yoghurt-hollandaise (less buttery calories there too). It is finished off with a veritable tower of bacon or a leaner option of smoked salmon or bresaola (Italian-style cured beef). additional treats Maynardville Park is a mere walk across the road. They also have free Wi-Fi on-site and play beautiful, silent black-and-white films all day. hours of operation 8am–5pm Tuesday–Saturday (hot kitchen opens at 8:30am and closes at 3:30pm) and 9am–4pm Sunday (hot kitchen opens at 9:30am and closes at 2:30pm) find them Opposite Maynardville Park, 23 Wolfe St, Chelsea, Wynberg contact 021 762 0975, info@fourandtwentycafe.co.za or visit fourandtwentycafe.co.za

harvey’s at the mansions This iconic courtyard, delicatessen and restaurant within the beachfront hotel, Winchester Mansions, has welcomed many a family looking for great service with a sea view.

The beauty of the mansions is that there is something for everyone – be there with the sparrows and energetic children for everything from a breakfast buffet to a Mexican, French, German or South African-themed breakfast or opt for their Sunday jazz brunch atmosphere. The Mexican breakfast consists of eggs, bacon, avo and salsa served in a tortilla wrap. The German breakfast comprises cheddar cheese, ham, cream cheese and a soft boiled egg served on a bread roll, while the Italian option is an omelette with tomato, mozzarella and pesto served on a focaccia roll. If you would prefer the jazz brunch you’re free to enjoy eggs, sushi, dessert and more. With the jazz brunch, you’ll receive a complimentary Sunday newspaper and a glass of bubbly on arrival. Check the website for the jazz band line-up. additional treats Harvey’s is affiliated to StreetSmart, which raises money for education, skills training and family reunification programmes for street children. For this they add R5 to your table’s bill. You are welcome to give extra. Contributions are voluntary. hours of operation From 7am daily for breakfast; 11am–2pm for Sunday jazz brunch find them Opposite Sea Point Promenade, 221 Beach Rd, Sea Point contact 021 434 2351, harveys@winchester.co.za or visit winchester.co.za

la petite tarte This authentic French patisserie opens onto the pavement in Green Point’s De Waterkant.

The tarts, salads and quiches are renowned and the friendly owners, who travel extensively, are always happy to share with you their finds from distant lands. Children will love how “pretty” the tarts look as much as how delicious they taste. The Chicken and Leek, and Mushroom and Caramelised Onion Pies are legendary. The Croque Monsieur is highly recommended. The Pineapple and Walnut Cake must be tried at tea time and half portions are available. hours of operation 8:30am–4pm daily find them The Piazza, shop 11a, Dixon St, De Waterkant contact 021 425 9077 or cristiana@polka.co.za magazine cape town

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a good read for toddlers

Mister Sengi’s Very Big Friend and Activity Book

By David du Plessis and Charles de Villiers

boris is our hero

Boris Saves the Show

By Carrie Weston and Tim Warnes (Published by Oxford University Press, R130) Miss Cluck has some exciting news for her class. There is going to be an end-of-term show. All the animals rehearse tirelessly and soon the day of the show arrives, but disaster strikes. Miss Webb and her nursery class, who should be coming to watch the show, are stuck in the mud. How will the show go on?

Boris has an idea. He dashes out (in his superhero costume), saves the guests, and the curtain rises on a wonderfully entertaining show. And, of course, Boris is the hero of the story, both on and off the stage.

Time for Bed, Fred!

By Yasmeen Ismail (Published by Bloomsbury Publishing, R142) It’s time for bed, but will Fred actually go to bed? You bet he won’t. From hiding up trees, and splashing in muddy puddles, to hiding in the kitchen sink, squeezing himself into a watering can, rolling up to fit himself under a chair, hiding on his masters bed and disappearing behind bookshelves, Fred will do anything to avoid bedtime. He even prefers to have a bath. But what’s this?

All that running around couldn’t possibly have made Fred sleepy, could it? This is a delightful bedtime book, destined to become a classic, with children from the age of one to five years old. Especially reluctant bed-goers will fall in love with the boisterous, energetic Fred in this picture book.

for early graders Wolf and Dog

By Sylvia vanden Heede and Marije Tolman (Published by Gecko Press, R222) The Dutch edition of this book, for children from the age of eight, won the prestigious Dutch Flag and Pennant Award. Dog is Wolf’s cousin. Wolf is Dog’s cousin. That’s strange because Wolf is wild and Dog is tame. Wolf lives in a forest on top of a hill. Dog doesn’t. Dog has a basket and a boss. These hilarious stories are about the important things in life – like food, family and fleas. The beautifully constructed stories foster a sense of humour and acceptance of difference, all told in fun rhyme.

Lift and Explore: Rainforest

By Deborah Murrell (Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R169) Little readers love lifting flaps to learn new things. Lift and Explore is a new series that allows them to do just that. These chunky, durable board books encourage children to interact with the simple, friendly, and lively text time and time again. Each book focuses on a single topic children love such as dinosaurs, oceans, animals and rainforests. A simple glossary and a page of fun puzzles introduce children to important nonfiction book features at an early age. Rainforests are filled with exciting wild life, plants, and insects waiting to be discovered. With Lift and Explore: Rainforests, young explorers lift many flaps to find out more about this exotic and exciting place.

The chunky pages and sturdy flaps are perfect for pint-sized hands to lift over and over again.

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(Published by Random House Struik, R72 and R50) This heart-warming bedtime story about an elephant-shrew, Mister Sengi, and his quest for greater stature, takes children on a magical moonlight tour through the bushveld. Encounters with animals carry the reader on to the fairy-tale ending. The activity book promotes recognition of shapes, patterns and sequences; develops hand-eye coordination; introduces numbers and letters; offers an assemble-it-yourself paper toy; imparts some basics on bushveld life, and generally fosters a high regard for nature.

Ev’s Adventures with Sleek Zeek and Fudge

By Claudette Barnes

An Elephant and Piggie Book: Are you Ready to Play Outside?

By Mo Willems

(Published by Kids in Books, from R275) These personalised storybooks bring books to life for children. Stories take on a new meaning as younger children search the pages for his or her own name and discover pictures of themselves in the illustrated adventures. Every story is written with a special moral message. Also in the series is the My Very Own Reader storybooks.

These innovative versions of the Kids in Books storybook range have been created especially for young children who are learning to read. The books are abridged versions of the traditional storybooks. The print style used closely matches that of a school child’s first reader. Visit their website to order and to see the range of stories and books available: kidsinbooks.co.za

(Published by Walker Books, R98) This is one of a series of delightfully humorous award-winning tales for beginner readers from the internationally acclaimed author-illustrator of Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus! and Knuffle Bunny. Gerald is careful. Piggie is not. Piggie cannot help smiling. Gerald can. Gerald worries so that Piggie does not have to. Gerald and Piggie are best friends. In Are You Ready to Play Outside?, Piggie can’t wait to go and play in the sunshine. But will a rainy day ruin all the fun? Children from the age of five will love the bright colours and lively humour.

Told entirely in speech bubbles, with a repetitive use of familiar phrases, this highly original book is perfect for children who are just learning to read.

for early graders

explore your city

Treasure Hunting at the Company’s Garden

By Donnaleen Coue (Published by TD Harry Advertising, R95 excl. postage) We first met our two friends in the book, The Magic of Kirstenbosch, and now Ami and Ziggy are spending a day at the Company’s Garden. They are on a treasure hunt in search of Isi Squirrel’s golden acorn. Their quest takes them on a space mission at the planetarium after the fish in the koi pond tell them they saw something bright in the sky. The Egyptian geese direct them to the museum, where Ami and her friends embark on a fossil hunt. And then a garden spider steers them to the National Gallery. In this book, the friends learn the importance of teamwork and the differences between right and wrong. To order the book, visit: amiandziggy.co.za

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for us Captive: The Story of the Cleveland Abductions

By Allan Hall

Lockwood & Co. – The Screaming Staircase

By Jonathan Stroud (Published by Hyperion Books, R222) A sinister problem has occurred in London: all nature of ghosts, haunts, spirits and spectres are appearing throughout the city, and they aren’t exactly friendly. Only young people have the psychic abilities required to see and eradicate these supernatural foes.

Many different psychic detection agencies have cropped up, and they are in fierce competition for business. The plucky and talented Lucy Carlyle teams up with Anthony Lockwood, the leader of Lockwood & Co, a small agency that runs independently of any adult supervision. Lucy, Anthony and their colleague, George, are forced to take part in the perilous investigation of Combe Carey Hall. The book is suitable for children from the age of nine to 12.

Catching Fire

By Suzanne Collins (Published by Scholastic, R160) Against all odds, Katniss has survived the Hunger Games. She and fellow District 12 tribute Peeta Mellark are miraculously still alive. Katniss should be relieved, even happy. Yet nothing is the way Katniss wishes it to be. Gale holds her at an icy distance. Peeta has turned his back on her completely. And there are whispers of a rebellion against the Capitol, a rebellion that Katniss and Peeta may have helped create. Much to her shock, Katniss has fuelled an unrest that she’s afraid she cannot stop. And what scares her even more is that she’s not entirely convinced she should try. This is the second book in the Hunger Games trilogy, and Katniss is about to be tested as never before.

Ostrich

By Matt Greene (Published by Orion Publishing Group, R194) Alex has a story to tell. He just doesn’t know what kind of story it is yet. He’s got a lot of the concerns every 12 year old has, but lately, ever since his brain surgery, everyone in his life is behaving more than a little mysteriously. He’s certain there’s something rotten at the heart of his parents’ marriage, and when his beloved hamster Jaws 2 starts acting up as well, he decides it’s time to investigate. So begins the journey that will take him to the limits of his understanding and take you back to the wonder and conviction of your own adolescence, to a time when you understood the world so much better than it understood you.

(Published by Penguin, R105) This is the real story of one monster, three innocent girls and 10 years in captivity. On 22 August 2002, 21-year-old Michelle Knight disappears. On 21 April 2003, Amanda Berry goes missing the day before her 17th birthday. On 2 April 2004, 14-year-old Gina DeJesus fails to come home from school. For over a decade these girls remained undetected in a house just five kilometres from the block where they all went missing, held captive by a terrifying sexual predator; tortured, starved and raped, and kept in chains. Michelle, Amanda and Gina fell victim to the dark obsessions that drove Ariel Castro to kidnap and enslave them. Based on exclusive interviews with witnesses, psychologists, family and police, this is an unflinching record of a truly shocking crime in a very ordinary neighbourhood.

Spunky

By Sarah Strydom

Command Authority

By Tom Clancy

(Published by Graysonian Press, R240) The words in this book are Sarah’s, or Spunky as she is affectionately known.

She started to write them only a short time after her diagnosis with cancer – she was eight years old. Her story is one of bravery and determination. Sarah could not wait for her eighth birthday, but everybody was crying. She didn’t understand why they were so upset. Sarah did not know it then, but her life was about to change forever.

She candidly tells her story in this book about what it’s like to lose your hair, vomit for hours and learn how to walk again. She shares the sadness of losing a friend in the ward next to her, but she also shares her happiest moments.

(Published by Penguin Books, R246) Decades ago when he was a young CIA analyst, President Jack Ryan Sr was sent a simple support mission to investigate the death of an operative who had been looking into suspicious banking activities.

Ryan uncovered not only financial deceit, but also the existence of a KGB assassin, code-named Zenith. He was never able to find the killer. But in the shadowy world of covert operations, nothing stays hidden forever. In the present, a new strong man has emerged in the Russian republic – the enigmatic President Valeri Volodin.

Suddenly the chances for global conflict grow ever greater, and the possibility of survival may soon be lost for all.

parenting books 50 Things you Really Need to Know: Super Bright Baby

By John Farndon (Published by Quercus, R196) From pregnancy to toddlerhood, this book will help you nurture your child’s intellectual and emotional growth and give them the very best start in life. With strategies and tips that can be used at every stage in your baby’s development, and the scientific facts behind them, this book is the smart choice for parents who want a bright future for their children. In here you will find out what is the best sleep routine for your baby. Learn how to make play time both fun and educational, what the most important stages of brain development are and how to encourage creativity in your child. John Farndon is the author of many books for children and adults on scientific and environmental issues, including the international bestseller, Do You Think You’re Clever? magazine cape town

Reasons My Kid is Crying

By Greg Pembroke

you’re not alone

(Published by Pan Macmillan, R157) The book of the smash-hit Tumblr blog, “Reasons My Son is Crying”, features toddlers from around the world in the midst of apocalyptic meltdowns.

As author Greg Pembroke tells it, “this book started when I posted a few pictures online of my 21-monthold son, Charlie, in mid-tantrum.” Reasons My Kid is Crying features hilarious photographs of adorable children from around the world, having “a moment”, with a caption about the minor event that triggered it. For any burned-out parent who thinks that their child is the only one who loses it over the smallest of things, this book is also a reminder that not every toddler tantrum is a tragedy, and that it’s okay to laugh at the insanity of it all.

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what’s on in april

You can also access the calendar online at

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see this month.

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Spier Easter egg hunt Children follow a trail of yarn more than 3km long to find Easter eggs on the farm.

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ONLY FOR PARENTS

Robotics holiday workshop Children learn to make crocodiles, boats and spinning tops or build and programme Mindstorms robots.

Bot River Barrels & Beards The harvest festival features barrel tastings and a beard parade with judging of the boldest beard in Bot River.

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Moms and Tots yoga Moms and children under 6 years old bond while learning the basics of yoga.

Unakho Children’s Home The home, which cares for 23 orphans in Barcelona, Gugulethu, has specific needs that include a combi to transport the children to and from school.

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3 thursday Taste of Cape Town Experience this gourmet village of taste-shaping restaurants, pop-up eateries and select producers offering special menus of starter-sized dishes as well as boutique exhibitors, craft beer producers, wineries, ice-cream makers, charcuteries, cheeseries and chocolatiers. Other highlights include pop-up restaurants and the Pick n Pay Chef’s Theatre, featuring high-profile chefs. Ends 6 April. Time: 6:30pm–10:30pm Thursday and Friday, 1pm–5pm and 6:30pm–10:30pm Saturday, 12pm–5pm Sunday. Venue: Green Point Cricket Club, cnr Vlei Rd and Fritz Sonnenberg Rd. Cost: R80–R685. Book through itickets.co.za or for updates visit Taste of Cape Town on Facebook or @tasteofCT on Twitter or visit tasteofcapetown.com

5 saturday Impi Challenge Trail running with an adventure style obstacle course. The categories are: Impi Mini: 6–10 year olds, Impi Dash: 10–16 year olds, Impi Challenge and Elite: 16 years and older. Also 6 April.

Time: 8am–5pm, daily. Venue: Lievland Wine Estate and Wiesenhof Legacy Park, Stellenbosch. Cost: call to enquire. Contact: 076 772 3735, info@impichallenge.co.za or visit impichallenge.co.za

Constantia Food and Wine Festival Enjoy culinary delights, local wines and live entertainment. There is an open-air play area with activities for children of all ages. Ends 13 April. Time: 11am–9pm Friday and Saturday, 11am–5pm Sunday. Venue: Constantia Uitsig Wine Estate Cricket Oval. Cost: adults R150, under 18s R30 per day. Book through webtickets.co.za or for more info, contact Carryn: 083 679 4495 or Hayley: 079 556 9474, info@ constantiafoodandwine.co.za or visit constantiafoodandwine.co.za

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Chameleons Montessori open day For toddlers and preschoolers to enrol for 2014/15. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Durbanville. Cost: free. Contact: 021 976 9611 or visit chameleonmontessori.co.za

Spier Easter egg hunt Children follow a trail of yarn to find eggs. There is face- and egg-painting, and wine and chocolate tasting for parents. Enjoy lunch on the lawns. Time: 10am. Venue: Spier Wine Farm, Stellenbosch.

Cost: tbc. For more info: visit spier.co.za

13 sunday FamFest This event promises an abundance of activities and entertainment for all ages, with a special focus on children. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: The Wild Clover Farm, R304, Stellenbosch. Cost: R50, under 2s free.

Contact: 021 462 1529 or visit famfest.co.za

25 friday Decorex Cape Town A décor, design and lifestyle exhibition. Ends 28 April. Time: 10am–7pm. Venue: CTICC. Cost: R15–R75.

For more info: visit decorex.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Connecting through art: Process Art Group Children explore the expressive potential of art at this weekly term-time group. Classes may suit shy children. For 9–11 year olds. Starts 10 April. Time: 3:30pm–5pm, every Thursday. Venue: Frank Joubert Art Centre, Newlands. Cost: R130 per week. Contact: 076 581 1794 or rebecca.solveig@gmail.com Free two-hour introductory fabric painting workshop 26 April. Time: 8:45am–10:45am. Venue: Pinelands. Cost: R35 for kit. Contact: 021 531 8076, 082 391 4954 or wendyadriaan@telkomsa.net Science Out Loud science talks The talk is on parenting young children in the 21st century – the advantages, challenges and downside of screens are presented by occupational therapist Kerry Wallace. 23 April. Time: 5:30pm for 6pm. Venue: Cape Town Science Centre. Cost: free. Contact: 021 300 3200 or info@ctsc.org.za Sue Nepgen’s children’s art classes start The second-term programme consists of creative clay work, sketching, watercolour painting, colour work with wax and turpentine, as well as drawing and painting projects on personal themes. For 4–13 years old. Starts 24 April. Time: in the afternoons and Saturday morning. Venues: Michael Oak Waldorf School, Kenilworth or 28 Klaasenbosch Dr, Constantia. Cost: R640 a term, including materials and firing.

Pro-rata fees for late joiners. Contact Sue: 021 794 6609/4723, 083 237 7242 or snepgen@xsinet.co.za

16 wednesday 5 April – Impi Challenge

Swan Lake Presented by Cape Town City Ballet, famous ensemble pieces and breathtaking solos are brought to life by Tchaikovsky’s haunting music. 5, 9, 12, 13, 16, 19 and 20 April. Time: 7:30pm; 2pm on 12 and 19 April, 3pm on 20 April. Venue: Artscape Opera House. Cost: R120–R275.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7698

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Camps Bay Primary School open day Time: 8:30am–10:30am. Venue: Dunkeld Rd, Camps Bay. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 438 1503

18 friday The Women’s Lifestyle Expo Over 100 exhibitors across the fashion, beauty, wellness and business fields. Ends 20 April.

Time: 10am–7pm. Venue: The Lookout, V&A Waterfront. Cost: R90–R350. For more info: visit womenslifestyleexpo.co.za

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classes, talks and workshops Micro Chefs at the City Bowl Market Children can take part in a range of cooking experiences from preparing sensory foods for pickey eaters as well as a puppet show.

Run by paediatric dietician Kath Megaw.

12 April. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Red Harbour Church, 14 Hope St. Cost: R30.

Contact: 0861 477 776, megawlk@ absamail.co.za or visit nutripaeds.co.za Tots n Pots Kids cooking classes Children make a dish using age-appropriate techniques. For 3–12 year olds. Time and venue: see website. Cost: R90 per class.

Contact: 076 816 3892, constantia@ totsnpots.com or visit totsnpots.co.za

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The Kids Cooking Club holiday club Children learn to make Easter chick cupcakes and nests or iced bunny and chick biscuits with Royal icing.

On certain days, there will be crafts too. 31 March–5 April. Time: 9:30am–11:30am. Venue: Stodels, Constantia. For costs and more info, contact Taryn: 083 309 8024, thekidscookingclub@gmail.com or visit thekidscookingclub.co.za

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Circus and Music Fair The Sisonke Social Circus opens the fair. The fun continues into the night with food and activity stalls and music. 29 March.

Time: 12pm–9pm. Venue: Stellenbosch Waldorf, Spier Campus, Annandale Rd, Stellenbosch. Cost: R40. Contact: 021 881 3867, althea@waldorfschool.org.za or visit waldorfschool.org.za Easter Sunday Lunch The hotel spoils families with a lunch and children can enjoy an Easter egg hunt. 20 April. Time: tbc.

Venue: The Twelve Apostles Hotel and Spa, Victoria Rd, Camps Bay. Cost: adults R385, R195 per child under 12 years old. Contact: 021 437 9029, restaurants@12apostles. co.za or visit 12apostleshotel.com

20 April – Easter Sunday Lunch

Obs Family Festival This three-day festival includes imaginative performances for children as young as 1 year old. 20–24 March. Time: varies. Venue Theatre Arts Admin Collective, Methodist Church Hall, Observatory. Cost: adults R40, children 12 years and younger R20. Contact: 021 447 3683 or visit theatrearts.co.za SA Cheese Festival Culinary exploration of cheeses and other products. Fun includes jumping castles and the animals of the Milk Factory. 26–29 April. Time: 10am–6pm daily, last day until 5pm. Venue: Sandringham Farm, Stellenbosch. Cost: R130, children under 13 free. For more info: visit cheesefestival.co.za

finding nature and outdoor play Whale spotter for Juniors workshops Join A Whale of a Heritage Route for a series of sponsored educational whalespotter workshops. These are designed for children 7–14 years old. False Bay launch area: 5 April. Greater Saldanha Bay area:

5,12 April – Whale spotter for Juniors workshops

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12 April. Time: 7:30am–9:30am, Saturdays.

Venue: provided on registration. Cost: free.

Contact: 079 391 2105 (sms only) or visit awhaleofaheritageroute.co.za

holiday activities Atlantic Surf Easter beach holiday club Children must take their own full wetsuit, surf- or bodyboard, sunblock, a beach towel, warm clothing, a hat or a cap, a packed lunch and juice. Equipment hire is available.

For 6–13 years old. 31 March–3 April. Times: 9am–1pm. Venue: Big Bay. Cost: four days R600; two or three days R500. Contact: 083 659 1444 or 083 284 2422 Clay Café holiday special Children get two items to paint. 28 March–8 April. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Clay Café, Main Rd, Hout Bay. Cost: R95. Contact: 021 790 3318, chasms@houtbay.com or visit claycafe.co.za Club-V Kids Club The programme includes art and crafts, a paint-jamming session, basketball, bean bag or hoola hoop challenges, soccer shoot outs and a yoga-inspired movement class. For 3–13 year olds. 31 March–4 April. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Virgin Active Health Clubs countrywide. Cost: free for Club-V members. Contact: 0860 200 911 or your local Virgin Active Health Club ConfiKids holiday programme This fun and interactive programme teaches children to communicate clearly and confidently. For 7–14 years old. 29 and 30 April. Time: 9am–12pm or 1pm–4pm.

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Venue: Confident Communicator, 5 Caversham Centre, 15 Main Rd, Heathfield.

Cost: R1 390 per child. Contact Michelle: 021 712 5563, 082 554 9285, michelle@ confikids.co.za or visit confikids.co.za Cooking with Hannah Easter holiday programme 31 March–4 April. Time: 10am–11:30am. Venue: Sea Point. Cost: R320 for 3 classes or R120 per class. Contact: 082 569 8666 or cookingwithhannah1@ gmail.com Crafty Play holiday fun Easter-themed craft activities include painting, air-drying clay and foam art. On Tuesday children make something for Mother’s Day and on Wednesday they make something for Dad. For 5–9 year olds. 31 March–4 April. Time: 10am–12pm or 2pm–4pm. Venue: Blouberg

31 March–3 April – Atlantic Surf Easter beach holiday club

31 March–3 April – CSE Easter holiday cricket coaching

Sands. Cost R60 for two hours. Contact Carmen: 082 998 0825, craftyplayct@gmail. com or visit craftyplay.wix.com/kidz CSE Easter holiday cricket coaching Junior cricket coaching is offered in a fun environment, with the latest in technical and behavioural training techniques. Book online to reserve your spot. For 4–14 year olds. 31 March–3 April. Time: 9am–2pm.

Venues: UCT, Woolsack Cricket Oval, Hout Bay International School, Jan van Riebeeck Laerskool, Parklands College or Van der Stel Cricket Club. Cost: R600. Contact: 0861 123 273 or visit cricketschool.co.za Easter busking entertainment There are beading workshops, a balloon sculptor, Hula Hoop and magic show, a juggling show, an Easter bunny and crafts. Children

can also have their faces painted. 2–6 and 18–21 April. Time: from 12pm. Venue: Cape Village. Cost: n/a. Contact: 021 505 7451 Easter Market Includes Easter egg hunt, egg painting and cupcake decorating. Tea garden and market for the adults. 19 April.

Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Valley Farmstall, Hout Bay. Cost: call to enquire. Contact: 021 790 3803 or valleyfarmstall@gmail.com Elemental Kids holiday programme An experiential and stimulating programme built around a natural theme. This month’s theme is “The Spellbound Forest!” 31 March–4 April and 7–11 April. Time: 9am–4pm daily. Venue: Kirstenbosch Stone Cottage. Cost: R210 per day or R880 per week. Contact: 084 873 4711 or visit elementalkids.co.za

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Flippers Swim School holiday clinic A four-day programme is designed around learning to swim or correcting strokes in one-on-one lessons in an indoor, heated pool. 1–4 April. Time: a 15-minute time slot between 8am–12pm. Venue: Oxford Rd, Observatory. Cost: from R280. Contact: 083 747 9196 or info@flippersswimschool.co.za Headstart Swim School holiday clinic Watch your child’s swimming progress at beginners’ and stroke-correction swimming clinics. 31 March–4 April. Time: a time slot between 8am–5pm. Venue: Headstart Swim School, 104 Queen Victoria Rd,

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Claremont. Cost: from R150 per clinic.

Contact: 021 674 7681, headstartswim@ gmail.com or visit headstartswim.co.za Holiday care programme with Sunny Skies Nursery School Two craft activities in the morning and free play in the afternoon. For 2–8 year olds. 1–4 April.

Time: 7am–6pm. Venue: 26 Howard Dr, Meadowridge. Cost: R45–R55 per child per day. Contact: 021 712 5657, 082 781 3080 or sunnyskies@telkomsa.net Kids on Cloud 9 holiday programme Choose from 1–5 day activities, excursions and clinics in soccer, kinetics, dance and horse riding. For 4–13 year olds. 31 March–4 April.

Time: 9am–1pm or 3pm. Venue: northern and southern suburbs. Cost: from R140 per day. Contact: coachgrant@kidsoncloud9. co.za or visit kidsoncloud9.co.za Kidz Discovery fun factory holiday club Make, bake and create in a fun environment.

30 March–4 April. Time: 9:30am–12:30pm.

Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: R140 per child for 3–9 year olds and R200 for specialised TotChefs and Art club combo classes on 2 April. Contact: 083 654 2494 or info@kidzdiscovery.co.za Kidz on the Move holiday club Covers swimming, Zumba, sports games, boot camp workouts, cardio and strength sessions. 31 March–4 April. Time and cost: call to enquire. Venue: Sports Science Institute of South Africa, Newlands.

Contact: 021 659 5600, fit@ssisa.com or visit ssisa.com

Nature’s Treasure Box art workshop Children take part in games, storytelling, walks in the garden and create their own treasure box. For 6–9 year olds. 3 April. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Gold Fields Environmental Education Centre, Kirstenbosch. Cost: R50.

Contact: 021 799 8670, s.hey@sanbi.org.za or visit sanbi.org.za Ratanga Junction is open Ends 4 May. Time: 10am–5pm. Venue: Century City.

Cost: varies. Contact: 0861 200 300 or visit ratanga.co.za Robotics holiday workshops Robotics and aviation: Grades 1–4 make crocodiles, boats and spinning tops and learn about aeroplanes. There is supervised exploration of the museum. Mindstorms robotics: Grades 5–9 work in teams to build and programme Mindstorms robots. 2–4 April.

Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: South African National Gallery, St Johns St. Cost: R500 for each three-day workshop. Contact: 021 448 8516 or visit ortsacape.org.za

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The Pride Fighting Academy holiday club Martial arts activities, story time and art and crafts with qualified teachers and childminders. For 3–9 year olds. 30 March– 4 April. Time 8:30am–11am. Venue: studio in Gardens. Cost: R400 for the week. Contact Jess: 084 827 9730 Two Oceans Aquarium family sleepover Enjoy a treasure hunt, learn the art of papiermâché using recycled materials and watch

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a movie. For Solemate members. 4 April.

Time: 6:30pm Friday–8am Saturday. Venue: Two Oceans Aquarium. Cost: adults R220, children 4–13 years old R180, children 2–3 years old R140. Contact: 021 418 3823 or members@aquarium.co.za to become a Solemate member.

Zip Zap Circus at V&A Waterfront The show features acrobats, jugglers and trapeze artists. 31 March–3 April. Time: 3pm–4pm.

Venue: V&A Waterfront Amphitheatre. Cost: free. For more info: visit waterfront.co.za

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playtime and story time Brackenfell Library Story hours Each session includes two to three stories and play or crafts. Dates tbc. For 2–6 year olds. Time: 10:30am. Venue: Paradys St, Brackenfell.

Cost: free. Contact: 021 981 1375 or gertruida.duplessis@capetown.gov.za

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markets Chilled Market at The Range in Tokai A new evening market for the family among the vineyards of Constantia Valley.

4 April. Time: 4:30pm–9:30pm, every Friday.

Venue: Orpen Rd, Tokai. Contact: 021 713 2340 or chilledmarket@therange.co.za Jolly Carp organic market For vegetables, fruit, olive oil, honey, eggs, seed loaves and hot meals. Enclosed ecopark for children. Time: 10am–3pm, every Saturday. Venue: 38 Sasmeer Rd, Retreat.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 074 302 3254 The Dirty South fashion and goods market For organic honey, vegetables, quiches and authentic Greek food. There are vintage clothing, jewellery and they host a clothes swap. 5 April. Time: 10am–3pm, first Saturday of the month. Venue: Blue Bird Garage, Muizenberg. Cost: free entry, clothes swap R20 to participate. For more info: visit facebook.com/dirtysouthgoodsmarket

their RV. 14 April. Time: 6pm on Cartoon Network, DStv channel 301

Swan Lake 5, 9, 12, 13, 16, 19 and 20 April. Time: 7:30pm, 2pm on 12 and 19 April, 3pm on 20 April. Venue: Artscape Opera House. Cost: R120–R275. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7698

on stage and screen Rio 2 Blu, Jewel and their three children venture from the magical city into the wilds of the Amazon. Premieres 11 April at major cinemas countrywide.

For more info: visit sterkinekor.com or numetro.co.za Storytime 2 Cinderella and the Frog Prince take the lead roles. Suitable for children from 4 years old. 31 March–4 April. Time: 11am and 2pm. Venue: Masque Theatre, 37 Main Rd, Muizenberg. Cost: R40. Contact Dayle: 084 367 1046, masquetheatre@ mweb.co.za or visit masquetheatre.co.za

Tales of Little Grey Rabbit Help Little Grey Rabbit rescue her friends. 29 March–5 April.

Time: 10:30am, also 12:30pm on 3, 4 and 5 April. Venue: Artscape Theatre Foyer. Cost: R60. Book through Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695 or Computicket: 0861 915 8000 The Elves and the Shoemaker This version of the fairytale is based in Cape Town. 31 March–5 April. Time: 10am. Venue: Nassau Theatre, Palmyra Rd, Newlands. Cost: R50.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 Uncle Grandpa season 1 premiere Uncle Grandpa and his merry gang pop up everywhere as they travel around in

Movement classes Pilates for 6–12 year olds: 2 April. Time: 10:30am–11:15am. Cost: R100. Yoga for 6–12 year olds: 3 April. Time: 10:30am–11:30am. Teen Pilates for 13–18 year olds: 3 April. Time: 12:30pm–1:30pm.

Venue: The Studio on Almond, 41 Almond St, Newlands. Cost: R100. Contact: 021 671 1224 or claire@thestudiogroup.co.za Pilates classes For 9–12 year olds. Time: 2:45pm–3:15pm, every Monday. Venue: Catherine Chambers Physiotherapy, Health Junction, Vredehoek. Cost: R360 per month.

Contact Gillian: 021 461 2159 or info@ healthjunction.co.za Soccer classes with Little Kickers now in the Boland For boys and girls aged 18 months–7 years in Paarl, Stellenbosch and Somerset West. Four age groups are available in midweek or Saturday classes.

Free trials are available. Contact Neil: 076 265 0196 or boland@littlekickers.co.za

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calendar Teddy Tennis at Glen Country Club Children aged 3–7 play tennis to music.

Time: Monday–Friday afternoons. Venue: The Glen Country Club in Clifton. Cost: tbc. Contact Mark: 083 679 0731, mark@ teddytennis.com or visit teddytennis.com

only for parents classes, talks and workshops CPR and paediatric first-aid courses 5 April. Time: 9am. Venue: Constantiaberg Mediclinic, Burnham Rd, Plumstead.

Cost: R270 for Family and Friends CPR or R320 for Family and Friends CPR and Paediatric First Aid. Contact: 021 705 6459 or training @pec.co.za Nino Grow Your Baby’s Brain parent day Presented by Dr Nils and Jill Bergman.

Babies welcome. Book tickets online. 5 April.

Time: 8:30am–1pm. Venue: Vincent Pallotti conference room, Pinelands. Cost: R150 per person, R250 per couple. Contact: 021 531 5819, jill@ninobirth.org or visit ninobirth.org Zumba fitness classes For all ages and fitness levels. Time: 6:30pm–7:30pm, every Monday and Wednesday. Venue: The Leisure Centre, Atlantic Beach Golf Estate.

Cost: R300 per month. Contact: 084 580 7497 or zumbacapetown@gmail.com

on stage and screen 1789 The French Revolution Year One A perspective on an event that changed Western history. 12, 14 and 15 April. Time: 7pm for 7:30pm. Venue: St Cyprian’s School Hall, Gorge Rd, Oranjezicht. Cost: adults R90, scholars R70. Contact: 021 464 6074 Undermined Mashing up comic book and African storytelling, this is the true tale of Madlebe, an ordinary man with an extraordinary gift. 9 April–3 May. Time: 8pm, Wednesday–Saturday. Venue: Kalk Bay Theatre, Main Rd, Kalk Bay. Cost: R70 or R80. To book: visit kalkbaytheatre.co.za

out and about Bot River Barrels & Beards There is a self-imposed shaving ban during the annual grape harvest season at Bot River in the Overberg. The event features barrel tastings, a beard parade and judging of the boldest beard, a three-course dinner and live entertainment. 5 April. Time: 5pm. Venue: The Old Shed, Anysbos Farm, Swartrivier Rd, off the N2. Cost: R270. Contact: 082 852 6547, nicolene@botriverwines.co.za or visit botriverwines.com The Spier Secret Courtyard Revel in food, wine and creativity in a hidden nook that opened in February and closes at the end of April. Join in their secret dinners, food jams, live music and movie nights.

Time: 4pm, Thursday, Friday and Saturday; 6:30pm live music begins. Venue: 64A Wale St. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit spiersecret.co.za

support groups Ten-week Divorce Therapy Support Groups 4 March–13 May. Time and venue: 9:30am–11am at My Urban Retreat, De Waterkant or 6pm–7:30pm at Little Stream, Constantia. For more info: visit collaboratecapetown.co.za

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classes, talks and workshops Baby massage The course is held once a week for four weeks. For ages 6 weeks–5 months. Starts mid April.

Time: 10am–11:30am. Venue: Protea Rd, Claremont. Cost: R575. Contact: 082 971 3975 or lynn@motherhoodmatters.co.za Brain Gym group session Learn techniques to release your stress and tension while integrating and accomplishing your goals. Time: varies, every Wednesday.

Venue: Amani House, 14 Martingale Ave, Hout Bay. Cost: R100 per person per hour, 45 minutes for children’s classes; R500 for five sessions. Contact: 079 800 2749 or aureliebraingym@gmail.com Moms and Tots Noordhoek/Fish Hoek Stimulate the love of learning in your toddler with this interactive workshop. Classes from 9 months (Fish Hoek branch only).

Starts 14 April. Time: 9:30am–11:30am, Tuesday–Friday. Venue: Noordoek and Fish Hoek area. Cost: call to enquire. Contact Lunette: 021 785 7721 or 083 487 5446 Moms & Tots Yoga An opportunity for moms and children under 6 years old to bond while learning the basics of yoga. 4 April. Time: 10:30am–11:30am. Venue: The Studio on Almond, 41 Almond St, Newlands.

Cost: R150 for moms and tots. Contact: 021 671 1224 or claire@thestudiogroup.co.za Parent Centre moms circle groups For moms-to-be and moms with babies up to one year old. Time and venue: 10:30am–12:30pm, every Tuesday, Mediclinic Cape Town; 10am–12pm, every Thursday, Mediclinic Constantiaberg. Cost: R50, including refreshments. Contact: 021 762 0116 or visit theparentcentre.org.za Wriggle and Rhyme This is a relaxed group where parents/childcare workers with children enjoy music and movement together using props, puppets, singing, movement and instruments. Date and time: varies.

Venues: Claremont, Constantiaberg and Fish Hoek. Cost: R150 joining fee, R500 per child per term. Contact: info@wriggleandrhyme. co.za or visit wriggleandrhyme.co.za magazine cape town

Breakfast for Better Days Kellogg’s aims to provide five million breakfast servings to about 25 000 students every school day in 2014 in Gauteng, KwaZulu-Natal, the Western Cape and Eastern Cape provinces. In order to facilitate this, 150 000kg of cereal and 500 000 litres of milk, sponsored by Parmalat, will be distributed to participating schools across South Africa by FoodBank SA. Show support for this Kellogg’s initiative. For more info: visit kelloggs.co.za or follow @KelloggsZA on Twitter and facebook.com/KelloggsMomsSA on Facebook for regular updates

playtime and story time Active Babies This moms and babies group meets once a week in the fresh air. Coffee and tea provided. Time: 9:30am–11:30am, every Wednesday. Venue: Bergvliet Methodist Church, 2 Wesley Ave, Bergvliet.

Cost: free. Contact: 072 144 0075 or activebabiescpt@gmail.com Babies Read Books story time Storyteller and preliteracy expert Sharon Geffen is at the Cape Town Mediclinic every second Tuesday. Story time is suitable for babies and toddlers 1–2 year olds. 8 and 22 April. Time: 9:15am–9:45am. Venue: Hof St, Gardens.

Cost: R15 per child. Contact: 082 222 4082 Playgroup in Italian Toddlers learn basic Italian while playing. For 12–36 months old. Starts 7 April. Time: 9:30am–10:30am, every Friday. Venue: 137 Hatfield Street, Gardens. Cost: R700 per term. Contact: 021 465 8261 or visit ladante.co.za

support groups La Leche League breast-feeding support groups For meeting times, contacts and more info: visit llli.org or their Facebook page: La Leche League South Africa

how to help Reach for a Dream charity golf day They are celebrating their 25-year anniversary.

11 April. Time and cost: call to enquire.

Venue: Rondebosch Golf Club. Contact Maureen: admin@tuskevents.co.za or for sponsorships: genevieve@reachforadream. org.za or visit reachforadream.org.za Sisanda Fundaytion charity golf day Join in with your four-ball and help raise funds for an organisation that runs fun days for less fortunate children. 17 April. Time: email to enquire. Venue: Westlake Golf Club. Cost: R2 000 per four-ball. Contact Jill: jill.hunter@sisanda.org.za Unakho Children’s Home Care Pastor Julius Bonani and his wife, Irene, care for 23 orphans in Barcelona, Gugulethu. Their needs are for single bed sheets; a large tumble dryer; clothing (for boys aged 2–15 years old and girls aged 3–17 years old); a medical first-aid kit, and a combi to transport the children to and from school.

Contact: 084 580 7497 or kindershoop@ hotmail.com

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don’t miss out!

For a free listing, email your event to capetown@childmag.co.za or fax it to 021 462 2680. Information must be received by 4 April for the May issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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it’s party time For more help planning your child’s party visit

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imagination

is a wonderful thing Being a grown-up isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

CASSANDRA SHAW explains the importance of “play”.

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eing an only child until the age of nine, I remember having to come up with all sorts of creative games to play with my stuffed animals, dolls and toys. My parents would try to play with me when they had the chance, but I clearly remember wondering why they didn’t want to “play” for as long, or as often, as I did.

On a recent trip to Canada, we really noticed our son using his imagination a lot more than he normally does at home. He was in an unknown space, either in transit or in a different country, with unfamiliar surroundings and environments, new toys and for the most part a lot of adults. Naturally,

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he had to find some way of entertaining himself. Sometimes I would hear him asking a question, and I’d mistakenly think he was directing it at me, only to be shot down with a response like, “No Mom, I wasn’t talking to you… I was talking to my dinosaur.”

It was also quite novel to see him play with some of my old toys that my mom had kept over the years. My Star Trek: The Next Generation action figures and shuttlecraft being his go-to favourites.

(Yes, yes, I know).

What I enjoyed most, was that he would be playing with these quite seriouslooking spacemen and women, but would also include a few of his cars, plastic

animals and some miniature figurines in his storyline. Occasionally he’d ask me to join in on the game but, in addition to a bit of stage fright, I was shocked to find that, despite my years of experience playing as a child, I was seriously lacking in the imagination department. So, I’d play for a few minutes before sheepishly getting up to do something a bit more “grown-up”.

Looking at him coming up with innocent, yet creative, scenarios and having so much fun doing it, really made me envious.

As an adult, I’d lost that drive to simply “play” 24/7 and I realised that when we grow up, we make a lot of necessary sacrifices when it comes to “play”. We

lose a bit of that energy and innocence; the idea that magic is all around us; the unwavering belief in beloved holiday figures like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy or simply the notion that our stuffed animals really do have feelings.

From now on, my goal is to sit down and try to play a lot more with my son. I need to practise how to “play” again. I’m a little bit rusty, and he clearly has a thing or two to teach me. And who better to spend my extra time with, and to learn from, than him? If only we hadn’t left my old action figures behind…

Cassandra still freezes when it comes to making dolls speak, but luckily she’s a pro with building blocks and racing cars.

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PHOTOGRAPH: MENKE BONNEMA

Cassandra and her son