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Every morning I wake up excited to go to school.

I love school!

So read the last sentence of my daughter Robyn’s high school application essay.

Sitting in front of the prospective headmaster as he read the sentence, I knew it was a winner – for her, for him, but especially for her dad and me. Her enthusiasm makes me think that we really did choose the right primary school for her. Our next challenge is to get it right for high school.

We want our children to be healthy and happy. We want them to make friends, have a good sense of humour and find a sport or hobby that fires them up. We also want them to get a great education, and choosing the right school can deliver all of the above and more. Our children’s future is determined by our choices. Feel the pressure, much?

Different schools have different things to offer the children they enrol, but what interests me is what Robyn has to offer her prospective school. I believe that through her contribution to the school, her teachers and classmates, the clubs she may join and any community involvement she may have, she will feel connected. Connection engenders a sense of belonging. And belonging leads to real happiness and, ultimately, success.

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10 vaccinated or vulnerable Lucille Kemp points out why vaccinations are so important

features 7 tone it down Tamlyn Vincent finds out that less is more when decorating a learning environment

14 bunking school truancy is a serious matter. Glynis Horning explains why it should be dealt with early

16 the myth of work-life balance Samantha Page says parents should not feel guilty when juggling work and family life

18 learning curves Tamlyn Vincent

regulars 8 pregnancy news – when you can’t breast-feed Anél Lewis gets expert advice on what to do

9 best for baby – soothing your crying baby Catherine Goldfain looks at reasons why babies cry and what you can do to calm them

12 dealing with difference – motor neuron disease can MND and sports injuries be linked?

Marina Zietsman finds the answer

looks at study methods that work,

24 resource – unusual school outings Lucille Kemp compiles a

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20 amsterdam – a celebration of history, art and light Lisa Mc Namara discovers that you can explore this Dutch city in 48 hours

22 what’s in a word? children do swear, sometimes. Gary Koen gives

list of unique places for your next class trip

26 what’s on in august 34 finishing touch getting the family out of the front door in the mornings is Anél Lewis’ nemesis

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right colours, artwork, posters, mobiles, books, displays… just thinking about everything that goes into your child’s classroom can be overwhelming.

Now imagine trying to learn in that environment. A recent study suggests that this is no easy task, especially for younger children, and that busy classrooms packed with bright colours and lots of displays and graphics can disrupt learning.

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packed full of problems The study, by lead author Anna Fisher from Carnegie Mellon University and published in the journal Psychological Science, looked at how children learn in neutral classrooms as opposed to those with lots of displays. The learners were able to focus better without all of the distractions.

This is probably because young children don’t yet know how to focus their attention. Catherine Radloff, a Cape Town-based educational psychologist, says that many children struggle with habituation, which is the ability of the brain to tell if the information it gets from the senses is important or not. “Habituation is vital so we can focus on information without becoming overstimulated,” says Radloff. But if children can’t do this, then a classroom full of visual information could leave them overloaded or distracted. Radloff adds that this is particularly true for children with attention difficulties or sensory integration challenges, who struggle to tell the difference between essential and non-essential sensory information.

keep it simple This doesn’t mean classrooms need to be bare and austere. Radloff believes that teachers can find a middle ground, creating an environment where children feel safe and motivated, without being overstimulated.

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down The way a classroom is decorated can influence how children learn.

TAMLYN VINCENT looks at ways to avoid distractions in the learning environment.

This is a philosophy shared by Montessori schools, where they encourage an uncluttered environment and place emphasis on using natural materials, says Lucy Cronjé, co-principal at a Montessori school. “You will not find bright cartoon-style posters, but pictures from nature and the world around us to support the current teaching themes,” adds Cronjé. There is also a lack of patterns, so children can focus on learning without getting distracted.

Colours are another important consideration. Colours like red, yellow and orange are generally considered happy colours, says Radloff, but teachers should be conservative with these. Using bright colours on large areas can be overstimulating. To create feelings of calm, relaxation, happiness and comfort, teachers can use cool colours like blue, green and purple. Radloff suggests painting the main teaching wall in a calm colour tone to attract children’s attention to the front of the classroom.

Order in the classroom, both in activities and layout, will help children find order in how they learn, says Cronjé.

She adds that low shelving for activities and tables where children can work help create independence, and she suggests using designated areas for chatty work, art, quiet work time and reading. Displays of artwork or projects can be placed at the back of the classroom, advises Radloff, where they aren’t likely to distract children from their lessons. Hanging mobiles also needs to be approached with caution, as the visual information combined with the movement can be very distracting.

So, while children don’t need to sit in bare classrooms, teachers should pay attention to where and how much visual input is provided. The classroom needs to be a place where children feel safe and stimulated, but the learning environment shouldn’t get in the way of learning.

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when you can’t breast-feed One of the first things new mothers are told is that “breast is best”. But what happens when breast-feeding doesn’t happen easily? ANÉL LEWIS asks an expert for practical advice.

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desperately wanted to breast-feed. But after a week of frustration, which involved plenty of tears – from me and my hungry baby – nipple shields (which ended up being chewed by the dog), several home visits from the midwife, hours of pumping with the world’s noisiest electric pump, and what felt like litres of “jungle juice” to stimulate milk production – I conceded defeat and switched to formula. But I felt like such a failure.

Nan Jolly, a doctor and certified lactation expert from Port Elizabeth with 38 years’ experience helping mothers, says breast-feeding is not a test you can pass or fail. “It’s something you and your baby learn to do, together.”

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Many of the problems encountered by mothers trying to breast-feed – cracked nipples, poor latch, slow milk production – boil down to one simple thing, says Jolly: “The underlying problem is the culture. Breast-feeding is a learnt behaviour. Most moms have no experience of seeing any breast-feeding before their own baby arrives, let alone any positive experiences.”

Jolly adds that in a “supportive culture”, 98% of women should be able to breast-feed for at least six months. In South Africa, only about 8% of babies are exclusively breastfed for that period. “There’s something wrong here.”

watch and learn Jolly suggests women surround themselves with other mothers who are successfully breast-feeding while still pregnant. She recommends joining a group that encourages breast-feeding, such as the La Leche League.

Women who see breast-feeding as “something that a good mother tries and usually fails at unless she’s lucky” may struggle to breast-feed. Jolly also recommends reading as much as possible about breast-feeding. “It’s best to gather as many opinions, updated information, encouragement and support from people who actually have done it despite things going wrong.”

“When the latch is effective, nipples aren’t sore, supply is excellent and ducts won’t get plugged so there’s no mastitis [painful inflammation of the breasts] or a breast abscess.”

separation anxiety Jolly says the list of things that keep mothers and babies apart is almost endless. From clock-watching to special nursing cushions, the focus is shifted from the basic need to keep your baby close to your body for as long as possible.

“I’ve found that to prevent and manage breast-feeding problems, nearly all caused by a culture of separation, the simple answer is to latch the baby effectively, and keep him latched for as long as he wants.”

feed often Jolly says babies feed often, sometimes many times in one hour. If you are carrying your baby close to you, this should be no bother, as all you do is help your baby’s mouth get near your breast. “Given access, he does it all himself. And if your baby’s in control, he will stop when he’s had enough and steadily grow.”

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skin-to-skin Once your baby is born, it’s important to put him on your chest immediately after delivery and to keep him close for as long as possible. Jolly says that if a baby is close to the mother, she will see when he is ready to feed.

latch effectively Jolly says you will know when your baby is latched properly as he will swallow milk audibly and visibly. You will also be comfortable. Breast-feeding should not hurt, she says.

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your crying baby Babies often cry – a lot. Figuring out the cause isn’t always easy, but there are things you can do to comfort your child, says CATHERINE GOLDFAIN.

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oothing a bawling baby is heart-wrenching for any mom. Sometimes just identifying the cause can prove tricky. Joburg-based nurse, Sr Shay, says babies pick up on a mom’s anxiety, so in your quest to mollify your mournful munchkin, a calm approach is key.

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why do babies cry?

All babies “fuss” at first due to immature neurological systems. Most newborns cry for about three hours a day, peaking at around six weeks, and then taper off to about an hour a day after three months.

which cry means what?

For Sabrina, a mother from Durban, it was quite easy: “A tired cry was whinier than other cries, whereas a cry of pain was more of a sharp, desperate cry. And then a hungry cry was more demanding.” But, since each child is different, most mothers resort to a process of elimination.

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crying cures Hunger Weigh your baby regularly when breast-feeding – and check your milk supply. Also avoid using feeding as a cure-all. “Often moms will hear their baby crying and the first instinct is to feed them,” says Shay, “but this will make them cry even more if something else is bothering them.”

ENT pain Ear, nose and throat issues are often the culprit.

If they’re stop-start feeding, it’s often because they have a sore throat.

Tummy troubles A colicky baby will draw their legs up to their stomach and cry. Probiotics and massage can help. A typical reflux baby, on the other hand, arches their back and the more you feed them, the worse their reflux becomes, says Shay. Joburg mom, Susan, has been down this road with her child. “Octavia was quite colicky and had bad reflux. We did do baby massage and that definitely helped. And I used gripe water. If you held her often, that’s usually what she wanted. We also used a lot of probiotics.” Another reason babies may cry a lot is food allergies, which are easily apparent and require medical

support. Lactose-intolerant babies, for instance, will have explosive, foamy stools and will scream incessantly.

Overstimulation “Sleep begets sleep,” says Joburg paediatrician Dr Lucic. Keeping your baby up and about for too long can lead to meltdowns. Putting them in a dark, quiet room with some white noise can work wonders.

Comfort Sometimes your baby just needs a nappy change, or to lose a layer of clothing – or even some oldfashioned rocking or cuddling.

When it’s serious... “A hungry cry will sound like ‘neh, neh’, but if they have a high-pitched cry, bordering on a scream, especially with a fever, you need to see a doctor,” says Shay. This could signal something serious, like meningitis.

Excessive crying should never be ignored. So, if you’ve done what you can in terms of feeding, burping, rocking, swaddling and massage but nothing helps, go to your paediatrician and get your baby’s ears, nose and throat checked. Provided there’s no fever and they’re feeding and gaining weight, you can leave it for 10 days to two weeks before consulting your doctor.

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vaccinated or vulnerable Clinical virologist Prof Diana Hardie and pharmacist Lee Baker clarify why it is important to ensure that your child receives their

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vaccinations. By LUCILLE KEMP

s a result of very high rates of childhood measles vaccination, the US succeeded in eliminating measles, the most infectious disease we know, in the year 2000.

However, since then, the Centre for Disease Control has reported a rising number of measles cases in the US and when an infected individual visited a Disney theme park in California in December 2014, 111 Americans contracted measles, the vast majority of whom had not received the measles vaccine. In July 2015, the US confirmed its first measles death in over a decade.

the forces at play Parents around the world have been afraid that vaccines can harm their children, a fear largely stemming from a study that linked autism to the measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) vaccination, which was officially found to be falsified.

Before Cape Town mom Shannon Matheson’s son, Jude, was born she had decided that she wanted to avoid vaccinating due to this particular perceived risk, “but after talking to many friends and looking at my environment I decided that it is necessary.”

Prof Diana Hardie points out that in South Africa we are all the more vulnerable to infectious disease and therefore cannot allow this study to continue to inform our decisionmaking about vaccinating our children. “The ongoing spread of measles occurring in many African countries to the north presents a significant risk of an imported case triggering an epidemic in South Africa. In 2009 and 2010 there was a countrywide measles epidemic, which resulted in many deaths from measles in infected children.” Lee Baker adds that KwaZulu-Natal is currently dealing with an outbreak of diphtheria, “all in children who have not had their diphtheria boosters.” In world news, an unvaccinated boy, with the first case of diptheria in Spain for 28 years, died in June 2015.

vaccines are a victim of their own success The bottom line is simple: vaccines prevent people from getting diseases that are potentially life-threatening and to date have saved millions of lives and prevented much pain and suffering. “Because of vaccination, killer diseases such as smallpox, polio, diphtheria, pertussis and tetanus are rarely, if ever, seen these days. If vaccination coverage falls too low, they will very likely return,” states Hardie. One of the main motivations for vaccinating one’s child, Hardie continues, is fear of the disease it prevents and due to current rarity, public fear of diseases such as measles has diminished. “In the 1950s when the first polio vaccines were introduced, parents queued for hours outside clinics to have their children vaccinated because at that time, almost everyone had known someone who had at random been struck down and maimed by poliomyelitis.”

Very high vaccine coverage is required to prevent outbreaks. Some infections are more easily transmitted than others, so the more infectious a disease, the higher the level of herd immunity needed to prevent circulation in the community. For example, more than 90% of children need to be vaccinated to prevent the circulation of measles in the community.

Hardie says that the Department of Health is struggling to maintain the target levels of infant measles vaccination required to prevent measles outbreaks. “Estimates of the immunisation coverage of children in South Africa published by WHO and UNICEF in 2013, showed that vaccine coverage was highest at 84% for BCG (the TB vaccine given at birth) and lowest for measles at 66% for one dose and 53% for the recommended two doses.”

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the power and limitation of herd immunity

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Because of vaccination, killer diseases such as smallpox, polio, diphtheria, pertussis and tetanus are rarely, if ever, seen these days.

If vaccination coverage falls too low, they will very likely return.

Hardie, however, urges parents to not rely on herd immunity, making it each individual household’s responsibility to ensure that their child is vaccinated. Due to a mounting number of parents choosing not to vaccinate their children, Baker says health authorities in the US are trying to make it more difficult for parents to opt out. “There are some US schools that are asking unvaccinated children to stay away from school in case they contract measles and infect children who can’t have the vaccine, such as children with leukaemia.”

why wouldn’t you vaccinate?

Vaccines trigger a natural protective response in the body to disease-causing organisms.

Granted, they can cause some physical side effects, but these don’t compare to the effects of not vaccinating your child. “Vaccination’s side effects are mostly mild and predictable and can be easily managed, and include fever, pain and swelling at the injection site,” says Hardie.

“Even though Jude got the Rota virus despite being vaccinated [possible, according to doctors, but the virus is far milder if the child is vaccinated] and he had a bad reaction to Pentaxim, [his arm swelled and he had a high fever for two days], I’m glad I decided to vaccinate him – I have greater peace of mind and it’s also a prerequisite for admission into most preschools,” says Shannon.

Since the measles epidemic in South Africa in 2009/10, Hardie reports that a growing number of children who had measles during the epidemic have been diagnosed with the devastating neurological disease sub-acute sclerosing panencephalitis (SSPE), which is a fatal measles virus infection that enters the brain during acute measles infection and multiplies unchecked. The disease presents six to eight years after the measles virus infection and lasts about one to two years. “Affected children develop progressive behavioural problems, intellectual deterioration, uncontrollable seizures and eventually lapse into a coma and die,” says Hardie.

Most parents today had their vaccines as children, says Baker, so why do they want to deprive their children of the protection they have had?

frequently asked questions Paediatrician and allergologist, Dr Claudia Gray, answers some of your questions around vaccinations.

“My baby didn’t get the BCG. Should I be worried?” The BCG protects against severe TB infection, which is extremely common in South Africa and a potentially serious infectious disease. Therefore the BCG vaccine is strongly advised here as soon after birth as possible, and if not then, before the child turns one year old. If a child did not receive the BCG in the first year of life, please discuss with your healthcare practitioner whether the vaccine may still be suitable to give at a later stage.

“My child has missed her six-year-old vaccination and she is now seven.

Can I still take her?” Yes, you can. Vaccinations are generally safe across the age groups and postponing vaccines is generally not an issue. However, certain vaccines only carry a license for certain age groups, mainly because they were only studied in that age group or because the immune system responds in different ways at different ages, leading to different recommended vaccines at the various ages. Once again, ask your clinic sister or doctor if the vaccine is still fine to give at your child’s age. If not, there will certainly be a similar alternative providing the relevant vaccine cover.

“I’ve lost my son’s immunisation card and he’s due for his six-year booster.

I have to register him for Grade 1 next year and I’m worried that they won’t take him as a result. Can the school refuse my child entry? How do I go about getting a new immunisation card?” Schools are particular about having a record of vaccinations to ensure the safety of the “herd” from preventable diseases. This should be respected. If you have lost your vaccine card, ask the nursing sister or doctor where your vaccinations were originally done, if they still have a record. Most have a backup record of the child’s notes or on their systems. In this way they can recreate your vaccine record card.

where to find help For vaccination queries, the Amayeza Information Centre: 0860 160 160 For more articles on immunisations: childmag.co.za

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dealing with difference

motor neuron disease

genes and mutations According to the Australian MND Association, only about 10% of MND cases are “familial”, meaning more than one person in the family suffers from it. Thus, 90% of cases are referred to as sporadic MND, and the cause is unknown.

The role of genetics in MND is intricate, but researchers have found that people with familial MND have the disorder because of a mutation in a gene, which causes the gene to function abnormally. This genetic mutation can be passed on through generations. In some cases, if a parent has a genetic mutation, their child has a 50/50 chance of inheriting MND. People who inherit an MNDrelated genetic mutation have a high but uncertain chance of developing MND, and not all people with this gene will inherit the disease.

Can this mutation be detected early and treated? Dr Franclo Henning, a neurologist in Cape Town and the

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People struck down by MND waste away before our eyes.

MARINA ZIETSMAN looks at this condition and its alleged link to contact sport.

chairman of the Motor Neuron Disease Association of South Africa (MNDASA), says it can be picked up by testing for the mutation that the parent has, but nothing can be done about it, even if detected before it shows signs. “Even in familial cases of MND, the disease mostly manifests in adulthood,” says Henning. “The reason for this is not quite clear. There are a number of other diseases that are also inherited and mainly manifest in adulthood.” Henning adds that one of the theories is that the disease only manifests once combined with “normal wear and tear” of advancing age. Another possibility, he says, is that the damage caused by the mutation takes time to accumulate and only shows symptoms later in life.

other culprits According to the MNDASA the cause of MND is not clear. Researchers believe they found a link between a cycad and MND in Guam, but Henning says a toxin theory has never been proven. “There was an initial small study that suggested occupational exposure to pesticides may be a risk factor, but subsequent larger population-based studies could not confirm this,” says Henning. Some researchers have indicated that a virus, which lies latent within the system for a long period, could cause MND. Henning refutes this: “There is absolutely no evidence for the disease being caused by a virus. The cause of sporadic MND is still unknown.

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t just 13 years old, Emma Goodman was diagnosed as the youngest sufferer of motor neuron disease (MND) in Britain, and the youngest to die of this debilitating disease in the UK. She passed away quietly in her sleep when she was 17 years old. Her family knew her time with them was short, and they were also fully aware that the condition had already claimed the lives of seven members of Emma’s immediate family, including her dad.

Most experts believe it is caused by a combination of genetic predisposition and certain environmental triggers, still unknown.” He says there is another theory doing the rounds that the cause of sporadic MND is minute variations in the DNA that needs an additional factor, such as an environmental trigger, to cause the disease, which could also be one of the reasons why it’s so difficult to find the cause. Henning adds that another important consideration is that MND is probably not a disease, but a syndrome. “In other words, it is a collection of different diseases that share certain characteristics.”

There is absolutely no proof that trauma injuries on the sports field can be linked to MND. danger on the sports field Recent newspaper headlines have put the spotlight on celebrity sport stars, such as Joost van der Westhuizen, being devoured by the disease. The majority of sports-

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mad South Africans have suddenly taken notice of a disease first described in 1874. Watching little Johnny on the field during Bulletjie rugby training has brought the disease close to home.

Should parents be worried? “There is absolutely no proof that trauma injuries on the sports field can be linked to MND,” says Henning. He adds that repeated head trauma does carry risks. Boxers, for instance, can develop a form of dementia and a condition called chronic traumatic encephalopathy. However, there is a world of difference between a sport like boxing, where the aim is to inflict injury, and rugby, where injury is the unfortunate side effect. “The sum of evidence from many population-based studies conducted over many years has shown that exercise is not a risk factor for MND,” says Henning.

Studies have shown two examples where MND appears to be more common: in Italian soccer and American NFL (grid iron); however, it is suspected that this is due to a genetic predisposition in these groups, and has nothing to do with soccer or American football.

In South Africa, four ex-international and provincial rugby players have been diagnosed since 2011, all of them younger than 45. It sounds excessive when we consider that 10 to 20 new cases per million are reported each year, but according to Henning, it is unlikely that taking part in sport alters one’s risk of developing MND.

motor neuron disease at a glance • Most people diagnosed with MND are over 40 years old.

• Only 10% of people with MND develop it before the age of 45.

• The highest incidence occurs between the ages of 50 and 70 years old.

• Men are affected twice as often as women.

• There is an increase in the amount of cases diagnosed worldwide, but this is most likely due to more accurate diagnostic testing. Because people tend to live longer, the incidence of a disease more common in older people will continue to increase.

• If a parent has familial MND, children can be tested for the mutation, but this cannot be done in South Africa. DNA samples get sent overseas.

Motor Neuron Disease Association of South Africa 021 531 6130 mndaofsa@global.co.za mnda.org.za

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bunking school Truancy is a growing problem globally and it starts in the primary grades, affecting a child’s future if not addressed early. By GLYNIS HORNING

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emotional support demonstrated by their parents,” Van Breda reports in the journal Psychology.

Whatever the cause of truancy, the effects can be considerable if it continues, he says. “General consensus seems to exist among researchers that truancy may be linked to serious, immediate and far-reaching consequences for youth, families, schools and communities.” It’s referred to as a “gateway crime”, he explains, because in the US most inmates in adult jails report their first appearance before a judge was as a juvenile on truancy charges.

parental responsibility But even at a less extreme level, poor attendance can have a damaging effect on a child’s education. In an interview in The Telegraph, the former British Minister of State for Schools, Nick Gibb, said children who attended school regularly had been found to be four times more likely to achieve five or more passes at the end of their schooling, including English and maths, than those who were persistently absent.

In the UK and US, the problem is being addressed with stiff penalties. British parents can be fined £50 (about R800) for failing to ensure a child attends school, and this doubles if they don’t pay in 28 days. After 42 days they can be prosecuted and face imprisonment. They can also be subjected to “parenting contracts” – legally binding agreements forcing them to attend parenting courses and have counselling.

According to the South African Schools Act (84 of 1996 as amended), it’s compulsory for children aged seven to 15 to attend school every day of the academic year. In terms of Section 3, any parent who “without just cause and after a

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laying truant – taking unauthorised absence from school – is “a serious issue for schools and communities worldwide,” reports Maynard van Breda, a senior lecturer in the Department of Psychology of Education at UNISA. In the UK alone it’s estimated to have soared by 40% in the past 20 years, with more than 62 000 children a year now skipping school without a good excuse.

While statistics are hard to come by in South Africa*, educationalists are concerned – and not only in connection with rural and township schools, where added socioeconomic factors exacerbate the problem. “Some children miss school to do seasonal farm work to support impoverished families, and Aids orphans stay home to care for siblings in child-headed households,” says Prof Ruksana Osman, head of Wits School of Education.

“But there’s lots of truancy from wealthy families where children end up in clubs and on drugs. Truancy is a social phenomenon that cuts across the full spectrum of society, and the reasons are varied and complex.”

In a thesis on truancy, Gauteng psychologist Dr Monkie Muriel Moseki lists, among the reasons, personality factors such as poor social skills, learning problems, scholastic failure and low self-esteem; school factors such as poor facilities, poor teaching, overcrowding and bullying; and family factors such as poor parental involvement, violence in the home and substance abuse.

In a study on truants in the Western Cape, a quarter of those interviewed said they had chosen to skip school and preferred to be on the streets because of “chaotic family lives, including broken traditional family structures, a serious lack of interest shown, and very little social and

written notice from the Head of Department (at school), fails to comply, is guilty of an offence and liable, on conviction, to a fine or to imprisonment not exceeding six months.”

The Policy on Learner Attendance (General Notice 361 of 2010) stipulates that a medical certificate is required, says Carol Lottering, principal of Manor Gardens Primary in Durban.

The upshot is that many principals feel they cannot officially grant a request for a child to be absent from school – for example, to take advantage of cheaper out-of-season holiday travel (the second most common reason, after sickness, for British parents keeping children out of school – a pattern believed to be common in privileged South African schools too). In reality, however, principals may tacitly give permission, depending on the individual case, and an undertaking by parents to see the child makes up work missed.

Some independent schools, especially those with children from other countries, take special measures to work around this. “Holidays are planned at the school to accommodate all the children from the various countries,” says Shivani Sahadeo, deputy principal: foundation phase at Crawford Preparatory in Pretoria. “Therefore, during the July break we have a longer break so that parents can plan accordingly.”

Her school, like most well-functioning schools, takes attendance seriously and has measures in place to promote it. “We call parents after three days of a child not being at school, and find out the reasons,” she says. “Parents are then responsible for making sure that the catch-up work is done so the child doesn’t fall behind. Teachers will keep the work aside and assist if new concepts were taught.” Crawford has a tardiness policy too, and parents receive letters when children are brought to school late. “Learning the responsibility of

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is your child at risk?

Education authorities say a typical truant: • most likely comes from an unhappy or dysfunctional home.

• has too much freedom at home or too little encouragement to learn.

• is depressed and anxious.

• struggles to learn and to pass subjects, and so has a negative self-image and negative feelings about teachers and school.

• lacks a sense of fitting in, possibly due to parents’ inability to afford uniforms or other things that help them feel included.

• has difficulty socialising, and doesn’t feel emotionally connected with peers and teachers, lacking a sense of belonging and community.

• is at a dysfunctional school where the staff is disinterested.

get help If you can’t control the problem, approach your child’s teacher or principal or the Department of Basic Education (call 0800 202 933). Get counselling if necessary: call the SA Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag) 0800 21 22 23, sms 31393 or sadag.org.za

getting to school and on time is an integral part of our standard of excellence, which prepares the children for success – instructional time is viewed as a precious resource.”

Lottering echoes this: “At Manor Gardens Primary we take pride in being an excellent school, and two of the many factors contributing to this are the encouragement of 100% pupil and staff school attendance, and teachers teaching and testing from the first until the last day of term. If truancy means missing school on a regular basis for no good reason, ours is almost zero.”

Where truancy is a problem, which Osman believes is mainly at poorly-functioning government schools, she says the solution should lie not in harsh penalties including fines and imprisonment, but in a “nuanced approach – after all, travel can be educational, and what about parents’ rights to take children out of school occasionally?” Truancy is a complex matter and can’t just be legislated, she says. “But that doesn’t mean it should be uncontrolled. It should be handled collaboratively by the collective decisions of parents, schools, learners and communities.”

It comes down to having clear, regular communication between parents and schools, Osman concludes – and if a child is absent, good follow-up and negotiation, or access to help from the Department of Social Welfare and Development.

“School is an extension of the home. And if we get that relationship right, we can manage the problem.” *The Department of Basic Education did not respond to questions on the incidence of truancy in South Africa, the nature and number of penalties imposed, and other related issues, in spite of numerous emails and telephone calls from the writer over three weeks.

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18 had at least one parent in the workforce, which means more families than ever are engaged in this balancing act.

But the “Mommy Wars” have been raging since the early 80s. Achieving worklife balance has been the topic of many self-help books, seminars and movies, and working parents have been fighting the guilt of trundling off to work despite their little one’s tummy ache for more decades than any of us care to remember, so what has changed?

“Context,” writes Tovah Klein, child psychologist and author of How Toddlers Thrive. “Increased opportunities and expectations have evolved in our hyperconnected world and women now participate in many, if not all, professions.”

integration

The struggle to find a happy medium between work and parenting isn’t a weakness; it’s human. SAMANTHA PAGE discovers that there are no easy answers, but there is hope.

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t’s Honours Day at my son’s school, but instead of enjoying the choral items and the parade of neatly attired boys striding across the stage, I’m watching the clock. I’m expected back at the office in an hour, and I’m starting to wonder whether I’ll make it. My heart is galloping and my stomach is churning at the prospect of having to explain my tardiness to my boss, who explicitly asked me to come back to the office to attend an important meeting.

I surreptitiously shoot off an email to my assistant, alerting her to a possible delay, careful to maintain eye contact with my son, who I know is watching me intently for any signs of distraction. A somewhat muted ping to my left, a vibrating handbag to my right, and, later, an embarrassed scuffle to answer a Mission Impossible ringtone behind, assures me I’m not alone in my juggling act. Believe me, the irony of that particular ringtone didn’t escape me.

“Working parents are like plate spinners at a carnival,” says a Forbes magazine writer. “They juggle their children’s school

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schedules and activities while balancing their own work deadlines, attending conferences, and sneaking in the occasional shower.”

Everyone I ask says the same thing: raising children is hard; so is building a career. “Having children and working to advance yourself professionally inevitably overlap since our child-bearing and careersetting years coincide,” says Becca, a senior sales executive in Cape Town, “and my company doesn’t have any policies in place to support working parents, let alone working women. Though I love my job, I hate feeling like I’m always sacrificing one thing to make the other work.”

This eternal quest to find some semblance of balance is no longer just the domain of working mothers. An increasing number of dual-income families means that these issues hit home with working fathers too. Increasingly, dads are spending more hours parenting and taking care of the home. In one 2013 study, it was estimated that 88,2% of families with children under

beyond work-life balance While strides are being made to provide more flexibility and integration between work and home life, what can working parents do in the meantime to cope with the demands of career and family and the ever-increasing guilt?

For starters, try to think beyond worklife balance. Experts agree that it’s an unrealistic goal that just makes you feel like you’re failing at everything. “Words like ‘multitasking’ and ‘balance’ are code words for the ability to run faster than a colleague or the ability to keep plates spinning in the air like the best Chinese juggler,” writes The Balance Myth author Teresa Taylor.

“The problem with these concepts is that eventually one trips, or gravity wins.”

“The reality is that the more involved you are with your child the more successful he will be,” says Gauteng-based educational psychologist Leila Abdool Gafoor. “Parental involvement enhances knowledge, confidence and self-esteem; however, children are stronger than we realise and often have such a high internal locus of control that they perform, unassisted, in some circumstances. Supporting your child does not mean attending all the events in which he participates. It involves being supportive at home, helping your child practise, and motivating and building his confidence with praise,” says Gafoor.

Groundbreaking research from a study in the April Journal of Marriage and Family revealed that what matters most is not how

What matters most is not how many hours parents spend with their children, but rather how engaged parents are when they’re with their children.

But in addition to legislation, change needs to happen at an organisational level, which means changes in structure and culture, and also at an individual level, suggests Marjolijn Dijksterhuis, director of the UCT Graduate School of Business’ Women in Leadership course.

many hours parents – particularly mothers – spend with their children, but rather how engaged parents are when they’re with their children.

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the myth of work-life balance

So, what are the realities for working parents? Can women do it all? Will your child be less successful at school while you build your career? There are no simple yes or no answers to these questions, though often that’s how they are framed.

Perhaps work-life integration is the new normal, suggests Laura Vanderkam, author of I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time.

“Increasingly people are rejecting the notion of work-life balance in favour of another phrase: work-life integration. Thanks to smartphones and the growing popularity of working remotely, moving work around on dimensions of time and space is not only possible, but has become the norm.”

While this might not yet be commonplace in South Africa, some multinationals are starting to take note of reality, and with more women in the workplace, and many graduates weighing up local job opportunities with international ones, flexible working hours is fast becoming “a very attractive differentiator for a company to offer its new recruits and to have as a retention tool,” says Cathy Smith, at the time, HR director at IBM South and Central Africa.

Locally, the Clicks Group Limited is moving in an admirable direction, making work-life integration possible by implementing HR policies to support working parents. Awarded the Top Employers South Africa 2015 certification, the Clicks Group is living its transformation agenda, says Germinah Nyikana, Learning and Development Manager. “Clicks has implemented impressive flexibility policies, generous maternity benefits and has also gender-aligned their CSI policies.”

spending too much time with your children – especially if you’re stressed – can be detrimental to parents and children alike.

Sustainable change always needs to happen from the inside out. While organisations should see the value in supporting working parents by implementing policies to that effect, individuals need to be bold enough to ask prospective employers about what kind of flexibility is offered, in the same way they would inquire about health care benefits. Families need to

change the way responsibilities are divvied, and parents should use pockets of time with their children with renewed focus on quality interactions.

No family situation is, or ever will be, perfect, but as a working parent, you and your children have the power to create what works for you. Parents need to nurture and love their children, and children need to be empowered to support you and their family.

When you make the shift in your head, you’ll almost always feel it in your heart.

six techniques for working parents

By Teresa Taylor, author of The Balance Myth 1 Stop multitasking “Instead of trying to do several things at once, plan your day so that you have blocks of time (even if they’re only 10 or 15 minutes long), where you are working exclusively on only one thing.”

2 Assign a time limit to everything you do “I applied this rule to both work and home, and while it takes some practise and a willingness to let go of perfection, it helps you stay focused on the task at hand.”

3 Keep one calendar “Early in my career, I kept separate calendars for work and home, and meeting and appointment overlaps occurred, and I missed a few things. Noting personal and professional items on the same calendar prevents that.”

4 Have a daycare Plan B (and C, and D) “Daycare failure. Two words that panic any working mother. I learnt this the hard way when I had to fire a Babysitter From Hell on a day when my husband was out of town and I was late for a big meeting. On that occasion, luckily, my mom rode to the rescue – but from that point on, I always had at least one backup plan, just in case.”

5 Learn how to delegate “Many years ago, six months into a new, longdesired job, I thought I was going to have to resign, because I didn’t want the shame of being fired. My problem was that I didn’t know how to delegate the work, lead through others, or say no. Luckily, I had a boss who was willing to mentor me and who taught me that I needed to ask for help.”

6 Make your home life a priority “If your personal life is a mess, you’ll never be your best at work. You can’t take the mother out of the career woman or the career out of the mother, so use both to your advantage.”

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learning

curves How children learn can impact their success in tests and exams. TAMLYN VINCENT discovers study methods that work and those that don’t.

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olour-coded notes, keyword clouds and cute drawings may make your child’s notes look wonderful, but do they help them learn?

Considering the time and effort it takes to make such colourful masterpieces out of her study notes, your child should be excelling. Is she? It could be that these study techniques, while impressive to look at, aren’t actually effective.

what really works?

Making notes is a skill. Aitken says that notes should help you recall the work, not simply recognise it, as you will need to remember it. Mind maps or flash cards can work, says Brett Botha, who runs an extra tuition centre in Durban. These can be used effectively for practise testing, by placing a question on one side and the answer on the other. Nikki Wates, who has developed a study skills programme for primary school learners, says that flash cards are an effective study method. “They’re portable, and the constant repetition means knowledge is committed to long-term memory. Mind maps use both the left and right side of the brain, and they work well for visual learners,” says Wates.

But it is a difficult technique to grasp, and children often need to learn how to see the bigger picture, rather than isolated facts, which can take time and dedication from adults. Doing past papers and redoing worksheets are other ways to practise skills and test knowledge. “People learn more from their mistakes than from the things they get right,” says Botha. So children can also go over past tests and worksheets, to see where they went wrong and how to fix this.

“It’s important to see the pattern of mistakes made,” advises Aitken, so look for problem areas, like going off track, writing too little or not understanding the question. Children can speak to their teachers to find out where they can improve. Learning from their mistakes also builds self-belief in children, says Botha.

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A study by Dunlosky et al, published in the journal, Psychological Science, in 2013, had the five authors investigating study methods to learn which work and which don’t. Top of the pile of those that don’t work is highlighting.

On the flip side, practise testing has proven to be very effective, as has distributed learning (when learners spread out their revision and learning times over a long period).

“A good study technique starts at the beginning of the year and requires preparation before class, listening during class, proper daily revision and committing to good homework practices,” says Sharon Aitken, an educational psychologist in Cape Town. Consistent work during the year is important, not only because learners will gain an understanding of the work, but also because when it comes to exam time, they will only need to revise the notes they have made throughout the year and practise the skills they will need.

For distributed learning to work, children need to apply their time management skills, ensuring that they schedule regular homework time.

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parental involvement Another effective way to study is to teach someone else, which helps children understand the subject better, and helps them figure out where the gaps in their knowledge are, says Botha. Parents can be effective study partners here, encouraging children to check their notes to fill in any blanks. Parents can help in other ways too, particularly as supervisors.

Aitken says that the brain only stops developing in the mid-20s, and executive function skills, like time management or the ability to delay gratification, are the last to develop. So parents should be continually monitoring, supervising and teaching children the skills they need to study effectively. “Parents are essential,” says Aitken, “as most children do not have the ability to apply study techniques consistently through the year, usually leaving it to the last minute.”

help but only if children understand the work properly first, advises Aitken.

in short The study also pointed out that summarising wasn’t always effective, as it was time-consuming and there is some skill involved in doing it properly.

If learners are simply rewriting notes, they probably won’t remember much, says Wates. But when they intentionally search for key words or main ideas, recall is likely to be better. Botha does say that each learner is different, and various techniques will work for each person.

But dedicating time to effective studying is essential, as children need to first understand the material and then learn it.

“So while certain techniques can improve your results, there is no replacement for consistently working during the year,” says Aitken.

People learn more from mistakes than from the things they get right. no cramming

exam time

Last-minute revision is not effective.

Cramming, learning select material, and reading through wads of text doesn’t commit the material to memory.

Transferring knowledge into long-term memory is key, says Botha. But a lot of study techniques, like highlighting or underlining, take time and don’t really help children. “Learners tend to highlight too much instead of picking out one or two key words from each fact, which is counterproductive,” notes Wates. Children end up rote learning, which takes time and doesn’t help them answer questions, as they struggle to separate essential from non-essential information, says Aitken.

Memory techniques, or mnemonics, can

Everyone gets a little anxious during test and exam time. “Some anxiety is good as it helps you to think better,” notes Aitken. But too much can cause panic, and learners can go blank in the exam. If children have been studying throughout the year, are familiar with the work, and confident in their abilities, these can help to ease the nerves. Using relaxation techniques can also help. But if the anxiety has got to the stage where panic is going to set in, short-term anxiety-relieving medication can help. There are herbal tablets available, or you can speak to your doctor about short-term prescription medication.

Medication reduces the phobic response, says Aitken, so in the long term children will probably need less medication.

• Time management: study courses for children and parents are available, or look for aids like daily planners to help children plan their time effectively.

• A good diet, with plenty of nutrition, can help improve concentration and general health.

• Fit in exercise. This keeps children healthy, while giving them an outlet for stress and tension.

• Get enough sleep. This is also essential for concentration and wellbeing.

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getaway

amsterdam

a celebration of history, art and light

You can experience a tremendous amount of this colourful city in just

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he capital of the Netherlands is well known for its artistic heritage and narrow houses with beautiful gabled facades perched on meandering canals. It is home to the Dutch masters, as well as modern art collections, edgy fashion and colourful houseboats. The locals are friendly and (if your Afrikaans is good) easy to understand. Although the city deserves a month’s stay, two families managed to see and do a great deal in a recent two-day stopover.

A city icon and great photo op

The floating flower market

where have all the flowers gone?

Amsterdam, the most watery city in the world

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High-street fashion shopping in Kalverstraat

In Amsterdam, you’ll find them at the Floating Flower Market. Tulips of every hue and fragrance, and bulbs for sale, make this a good stop for the whole family. It’s also a great place to buy Dutch cheese. We couldn’t get enough of this national treasure and loaded our bags with a dozen different flavours, only to have it confiscated as we went through customs in Joburg. amsterdam.info/ shopping/flowermarket For more shopping we headed to Kalverstraat for high-street fashion and then on to Negenstraatjes as the teenagers were keen to experience the local designers. I was content to amble through the Jordaan, a charming shoppingeating-arty part of town. The Dutch have perfected the art of lighting, resulting in window displays that are true works of art. amsterdam.info/shopping

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48 hours, as LISA MC NAMARA discovered on a recent trip with her family.

for a bit of culture Head to the Great Waterloo District.

In the heart of Amsterdam’s Jewish quarter, the area around Waterlooplein is now the site of the Jewish Historical Museum and Rembrandt House. Waterlooplein itself is home to a wonderful flea market as well as the Muziektheater, home of the Dutch national opera and ballet companies. operaballet.nl A school readathon resulted in my daughter, Robyn, having just completed both The Diary of Anne Frank and The Fault in Our Stars days before landing in Amsterdam, so a trip to Anne Frank House was top of our list. Climbing the stairs, stepping through “the cupboard” and imagining how difficult it must have been to walk on the wooden floorboards without them creaking, made for memorable moments in this World War II hideout where Anne wrote her famous diary. annefrank.org Having grown up in a house where (a replica of) The Night Watch took centre stage, my husband was delighted to have the opportunity to view the real thing at the Rijksmuseum.

It is located at the Museum Square in the borough Amsterdam South, close to the Van Gogh Museum (which sadly, we didn’t get to). Tickets for most museums can be booked online, way in advance, avoiding long queues and niggly children. Although a guided tour was on offer, we chose a multimedia tour at the Rijksmuseum, which the children found thoroughly entertaining. rijksmuseum.nl

eating out

Statue of Anne Frank on Westerkerk Plaza

Amsterdam is a warm and welcoming city, and its cuisine reflects its multiculturalism.

We dined at delicious Turkish, Italian and traditionally Dutch eateries, some located down dark, cobbled lanes and others overlooking the beautifully lit canals and houseboats.

The Arborescence display at the Amsterdam Light Festival

Jack and Josie on one of the many beautiful bridges

getting around The central area of Amsterdam is easy to get around on foot. The GVB public transport office at Centraal Station has route maps and a guide to the ticketing system, which is based on zones with the same ticket valid on buses, metros and trams. gvb.nl The ideal way to get around is by bicycle; there are several rental agencies around town (about €7 daily or €30 weekly). But with two families, nine of us in total, we opted for trains and trams when we weren’t walking.

If the weather is good, exploring on foot is the way to go. Start with the City Free Tour (cityfreetour.com/Amsterdam) to get your bearings, then move onto the canal bus or cruises with audio or commentary (canalcompany.nl).

We were lucky enough to experience the Water Colours Cruise during the Amsterdam Light Festival. Inspired by the theme “The Bright City”, national and international artists displayed around 20 fantastic artworks of light.

Live like a local, rent a houseboat

Jack and Robyn ready to board

getting there…

Jack and Robyn enjoying Amsterdam’s public transport

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Trams run from 6am until 12:30am

We flew KLM, and loved it! The seats were comfortable, toilets always clean and staff warm and professional. Visit klm.com and download the app for easy check-ins and flight updates.

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word? what’s in a

It’s not uncommon for children to swear, says

GARY KOEN, but the challenge for parents is to

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remember my five-year-old son asking me: “Dad, what happens if you say the F-word?” He didn’t ask it in a naughty or precocious way – it was a genuine, thoughtful question, which required a genuine, thoughtful answer.

And the truth is: nothing really happens if you say the F-word. Aunt Petunia may choke on her shortbread. Dad may go pale and edge nervously away from Mom. But other than that, nothing actually happens.

The world still turns, the birds carry on singing, and just maybe a whole new conversation with your child begins. While you certainly don’t want to encourage your children to swear, it’s important to keep it in perspective if they do.

Swearwords, by their very definition, are rude and offensive otherwise they wouldn’t be considered swearwords.

Despite their offensive nature, however, they’re still just words. But like most words, how they are used is what matters.

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While sergeant-majors may have elevated swearing to a kind of art form, for the majority of us, swearing is a somewhat limited way of expressing ourselves.

Children, however, are naturally inquisitive.

For many of them, a new word can be something like a new toy, to be played and experimented with in a wide variety of situations – and they’ll often delight in the reactions they get. However, when fetching your six-year-old daughter from school and asking how her day was, you would not expect her to reply: “I had a beeping great day, thanks Dad. How was yours?” If you ever find yourself in such a predicament, your role is to educate and intervene so that they quickly learn when, if ever, there is an appropriate time to use a swearword.

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keep things in perspective.

which are easy to acquire and easy to use, but they should rather focus on expanding and growing their vocabulary so that they are able to express themselves and their feelings in ways that are both understandable and appropriate. In simple terms, you need them to understand that there are so many other words that they first need to learn before they even think of using swearwords.

One of the main reasons that parents don’t want their children to swear is because it’s considered rude and disrespectful.

Well-brought up children are not supposed to be rude and disrespectful. Furthermore, it’s considered very embarrassing for parents if their offspring engage in random acts of swearing, especially in front of other adults, as this may indicate that they have clearly failed in their duty to raise well-behaved children.

Now, an important point to bear in mind is that swearwords are not the first words that children learn as they acquire the ability to speak. It’s not like it goes “Mama”, “Dada”, “doggie”, “#@*&!”.

Instead, children learn these words from older brothers and sisters, but mostly from their parents. So, while you may be tempted to race for the soap when little Jonny lets fly a bunch of expletives, watching your own mouth in the presence of your children is equally important.

Similarly, adults who don’t have children are often quite oblivious to the need to watch their language when visiting friends with children. It’s best to quickly yet discreetly remind them of who else might be overhearing the conversation. There is no need to be overly judgemental or critical, as it is unnecessary to demonise either the word or your friend. Most true friends will instantly respect your wishes.

can be sure that one of the others would quickly run to the teacher or a parent to tell on them. But among eight to 10 year olds, it would certainly not be unusual for them to sample a whole range of expletives and expressions. By the time they become teenagers, the fact that they swear hardly raises an eyebrow. Nevertheless, on each occasion, the context in which the swearing takes place remains consistently important.

words as weapons While children certainly do swear among themselves, it becomes a noticeable issue when they start swearing at their parents.

This can become particularly difficult when they become teenagers capable of using words like blunt force weapons designed to exact maximum pain and hurt. When this happens, there are clear boundary and relationship issues at stake, which points towards an underlying frustration that needs more attention than the words themselves.

Often you will find that these children do feel incredibly frustrated with their parents, particularly with their emphasis on how they should be behaving, and the expectation that they should always be good boys and girls without really knowing or feeling the benefit of why they should always be so good. Often their anger is a direct retaliation to their parents’ anxiety around how they are behaving, without attempting to understand why they are behaving like this. The parents, in turn, often feel hurt and misunderstood, and frequently resort to sulking themselves.

What you will inevitably find, however, is that these children are looking for a real connection with their parents. Being openly rude is their last resort of making such a connection. Stopping the swearing

Children learn swearwords from older brothers and sisters, but mostly from their parents.

Also bear in mind that while swearing may be considered rude and vulgar, it also presents an opportunity to be rude and vulgar. No-one is good all the time, and amongst friends and acquaintances, who is to say we shouldn’t use the occasion to fire off a few choice swearwords? However, it would be uncommon for a group of five to six year olds to swear among each other. The main reason for this is a sense of compliancy and obedience to their parents and a fear of the consequences. If a five year old swears among his friends, you magazine cape town

and the rudeness and the hurt is very important, but it has to be replaced with genuine talking, listening and an authentic willingness to understand where these children are coming from and what they are feeling. This needs to be accompanied with the message that being able to communicate one’s anger and frustration is very important, and this can at times include swearing, but it is equally true that swearing cannot become the only way in which they express themselves and expect to be understood.

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resource

unusual

school outings LUCILLE KEMP gathers information on some of the most interesting Cape Town venues that can cater to school groups. oranjezicht city farm (ozcf) Maximum number of heads Group size varies from a whole school class or grade to a minimum of eight children in the case of home schools or individuals.

Most appropriate age group They cater for children from preschool to high school learners.

Physical address Upper Orange St, Oranjezicht Opening times Outings are usually from 9:30am–11:15am or 11:30am–1:15pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays, but alternate times and dates can be negotiated.

Is booking essential? Booking is essential at least one week in advance, preferably longer in the case of school bookings. The educational programme is run by volunteers, several of whom are teachers, and bookings are reliant on volunteer availability.

Contact 083 628 3426, visit@ozcf.co.za or ozcf.co.za

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Nielsen Tours are historic and cultural presentations with a lot of banter and interaction. They can arrange private tours for school groups of older children and on those occasions the team creates a quiz with questions to answer along the way as well as a prize at the end. The guides also supply you with nuts to feed the squirrels. The private tours are built around the normal itinerary, which includes the Cape Town Historical Tour and the Bo Kaap tour, details of which you can find on their website.

Maximum number of heads 40 Most appropriate age group For 12–14 year olds Physical address Green Market Square, cnr Burg St and Shortmarket St Opening times Provided on booking Is booking essential? Yes Contact 079 681 9109 or nielsentours.co.za

Their Charlie and the Chocolate Factory-style outing is age appropriate and offers a story or an educational movie on chocolate, as well as a walk through a cocoa plantation and 17th-century production kitchen. The children go into the kitchen to see the creativity that can take place with chocolate. Each child receives chocolate dough to experiment with as well as a wafer cone with liquid chocolate to enjoy. The whole outing should take about 90 minutes. There is a coffee shop on-site.

Maximum number of heads Up to 60 people Most appropriate age group 7–14 year olds Physical address 145 Sir Lowry Rd, The Palms Decor and Lifestyle Centre, Woodstock Opening times 9:30am or 2:30pm Is booking essential? Yes Contact 021 461 2301

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A tiny working urban organic farm that offers school- and child-centred outings where the main aim is to reconnect children with what they eat. The standard format of the outing is two hands-on activities and a guided tour of the vegetable garden, appropriate to the age of the children. Children learn through planting seeds, harvesting vegetables, investigating creatures that live in the garden and exploring different plant tastes and smells. The outings can be structured to fit in with specific themes in the school curriculum, but the OZCF team also has plenty of ideas around which to plan your day. The length of a tour depends on the age of the children, but generally it lasts from one-and-a-half to two hours, including a snack break. Groups can extend their visit by enjoying a picnic lunch in Homestead Park, adjacent to the farm.

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Visiting parliament includes a DVD presentation on the national symbols and the new parliamentary emblem.

Guided tours of parliament include the history and functions of parliament, an explanation of how parliament works and how you can get involved in the parliamentary processes. The school can arrange for learners to observe debates from the public galleries in the national assembly or national council of provinces and children can meet with a member of parliament. There are also presentations on the structure of parliament, committees of parliament, how a law is made and parliament’s oversight role. Upon booking of a tour the school will be requested to provide the personal details of everyone that will be attending the tour. Parliamentary tours are free but do not offer parking or refreshments.

Maximum number of heads They can accommodate 40 people per tour and only cater for two groups per time slot.

Most appropriate age group From 6 years old to seniors Physical address 90 Plein St, Cape Town Opening times Tours of parliament take place from Monday–Friday, 9am–12pm on the hour. On Fridays, and when parliament is not in session, tours continue to take place from 2pm–4pm.

Is booking essential? You have to book a tour and if you have a large group, one to two months in advance.

Contact 021 403 2266, tours@parliament.gov.za or parliament.gov.za

School groups are taken around the factory to see how the Clay Café team makes pottery. The children then have a lesson on decorating techniques and paint their own plate.

Prices depend on the size of the items painted.

Maximum number of heads Up to 60 children can be catered for.

Most appropriate age group All ages Physical address Main Rd, Hout Bay Opening times 9am–5pm daily Is booking essential? Yes Contact 021 790 3318, info@claycafe.co.za or claycafe.co.za

the college of magic The school excursion involves a two-hour visit including shows, a tour of the Victorian College of Magic, and a hands-on scientific investigation session. The programme is grade-specific, with four age groupings – the Grade R/ preschool tour lasts 1,5 hours, and the Grade 1–3, Grade 4–5 and Grade 6–7 groups go on a tour lasting two hours.

All groups visiting enjoy an exciting discovery session with knowledgeable school teacher Prof Bayla, experience the Light Show in a darkened theatre and there is an interactive magic show performed by Mr Starlight the magician on the topic “Light, Colour and Optics”. Teachers receive a teacher’s pack containing material pertaining to the topic and each child receives a glow stick during the Light Show.

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preschool classes there are sometimes extra moms or carers assisting the teachers.

Most appropriate age group Four or five year olds can enjoy the visit, but optimum enjoyment is from five years old up to Grade 7 – each age group is catered for by an appropriate programme.

Physical address The Magic Classroom, 215 Imam Haron Rd, Claremont (previously Lansdowne Rd) Opening times The Magic Classroom runs during school terms, Monday–Thursday, at 9am–11am and again at 11am–1pm Is booking essential? Booking is essential; there is an official booking form. After the college has received the booking form, schools are sent written confirmation of their time slots.

Contact 021 683 5480, magicclassroom@collegeofmagic. com or collegeofmagic.com

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see.

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Learn to crochet Thimbles Quilt & Knit will show you how to make a blanket in two classes.

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Vegetable gardening course Join Jo Fuller and learn to grow food naturally, working with the rhythm of the seasons and the biodiversity that exists in your garden.

New messy play classes Artjamming’s new classes for 8 months–4 year olds provide a safe, social and stress-free experience for parents and children to enjoy fun and educational messy art and crafts activities together.

The Rare Bear Project This project raises funds for the Rare Disease Society of South Africa (RDSSA) through the sale of its knitted bears.

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Rush Trampoline Park launches The park is set to be an indoor extreme facility with 2 220 square metres of adventure, excitement and challenges with wall-to-wall trampolines, including dodge-ball courts, foam pits and the Rush Performance Wall.

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One Night in Cape Town Oppikoppi Festival’s international acts are performing in Cape Town. The line-up is as follows: 6 August Gogol Bordello, 7 August Twin Atlantic and Brand New. Time: 8pm.

Venue: Shimmy Beach Club. Cost: R400.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.co.za

Totalsports Women’s Race Be part of the “Women Run This City Movement”. All entrants receive an exclusive fitted T-shirt, while finisher’s bracelets are handed to all runners/walkers as they cross the finish line.

The Totalsports Women’s Race supports PinkDrive. Time: 8am. Venue: start at Townhall, Plein St and end at Coetzenburg Stadium, Stellenbosch. Cost: from R70. For more info: totalsportswomensrace.com Kidz Discovery meet and greet Visit them for new term enrolments into any of the baby and toddler classes, the unique preschool preparedness classes or for the registered Bridging BrightStart school for 2,5–5,5 year olds. Time: 12pm by prior appointment. Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: varies. Contact: 083 654 2494, info@ kidzdiscovery.co.za or kidzdiscovery.co.za

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Hermanus Wine and Food Festival This celebration brings together more than 65 of the premium wine and craft beer producers in South Africa. Ends 9 August. Time: 5pm–8pm Friday, 11am–7pm Saturday, 11am–3pm Sunday. Cost: R150 per person per day. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.co.za Slipper Day Reach for a Dream enables ill children to experience a fun aspect of life. All you need to do is buy a R10 sticker and wear your slippers to work, school, and the shops or if you are unable to wear your slippers then wear your sticker. Stickers can be purchased at any Wimpy, directly through Reach for a Dream, through Butlers or at Woodheads in Cape Town. For more info: 021 555 3013, carla@reachforadream. org.za or reachforadream.org.za

Cape Winemakers Guild Auction Showcase These wines represent the pinnacle of wine mastery by the guild’s 46 highly respected members.

Time: 6pm–9pm. Venue: Cape Town International Convention Centre. Cost: R190 per person including tasting glass. To book: webtickets.co.za

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Home birth gathering This meeting is for anyone interested in giving birth

1 saturday German International School Cape Town open day Sit in on any of the Grades 1–12 classes. Time: 8am–12:30pm.

Venue: 28 Bay View Ave, Tamboerskloof.

Cost: free. Contact: 021 480 3830, info@ dsk.co.za or dsk.co.za

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Divas Unite Women’s Day concert The charity concert brings together a starstudded ensemble of inspirational South African women, including Freshlyground’s Zolani Mahola, soprano Magdalene Minnaar and Sterling EQ. The MC is Katlego Maboe.

Time: 1:30pm. Venue: Cape Town City Hall Auditorium. Cost: adults R290, children 8–12 years old R210, which includes snacks, cupcakes, tea, coffee and bubbly. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.co.za

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15 saturday Waldorf Winter School for parents Parents can spend a day engaging with the Waldorf approach to education. Time: 8:30am–4pm. Venue: Stellenbosch Waldorf School, Santa Rd. Cost: R200 per person or R350 per couple. Contact: 021 881 3867, admin@waldorfschool.org.za or waldorfschool.org.za

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This boutique event celebrates the slower pace: from intimate family-hosted dinners to hiking in the veld, from specialised tastings and pairings to a regional food market like no other. Ends 10 August. Time: as per activities on programme. Venue: wineries of the Robertson Wine Valley. Cost: varies – see programme. Contact: 023 626 3167, manager@robertsonwinevalley.com or robertsonslow.com

at home. Time: 2pm–4pm. Venue: unit A West Riding Five, cnr Shire Rd and Palomino Rd. Cost: R70 per person, R120 for two. Contact: 082 846 2433, behm. helen@gmail.com, clairebrauer@gmail. com or homebirth.org.za

22 saturday Johnson’s Baby Sense seminars In the first session experts equip moms-to-be with everything they need to know about a baby’s transition from womb to world.

The afternoon session includes information on stimulating your baby, gentle sleep solutions and what it takes to be a brave mom. A Johnson’s Baby massage workshop takes place between the two sessions.

Time: 8:30am–12pm and 1:30pm–5pm for seminars; 12:15pm–1:15pm for the workshop. Venue: The Vineyard Hotel.

Cost: R240 per seminar and R60 for the massage workshop. Each person attending receives a goodie bag, refreshments and the chance of winning prizes. For bookings: babysense.com Rush Trampoline Park launches The park is an indoor extreme facility with 2 220 square metres of wall-to-wall trampolines, including dodge-ball courts, foam pits, slam-

dunk basketball hoops, battle beam and the Rush Performance Wall. There is free Wi-Fi and an area to relax. Time: 10am–10pm.

Venue: cnr Main Rd and Stegman St, Stadium on Main, Claremont. Cost: launch price R75 per hour. Contact: 082 460 5388, 083 279 4453 or enquires@rushsa.co.za

23 sunday Blisters for Bread charity family fun walk This Peninsula School Feeding Association event raises funds to feed hungry school children. The run ends with fun, food and festivities at the Green Point Cricket Club. Time: 8am. Venue: Green Point Cricket Club. Cost: R50. Entries are limited to 12 000 walkers. Enter online or collect and drop off the form at Top Events in Maitland or the Rondebosch, Sea Point, Tyger Valley and Canal Walk Sportsmans Warehouse branches. For more info: psfa.org.za

27 thursday Clanwilliam Wild Flower Show A display of more than 400 species of freshly picked wildflowers, many of which grow nowhere else in the world, carefully and creatively arranged in a landscape exhibit. This year’s theme is “Windows...”. Ends 5 September.

Time: varies. Venue: Flower Church. Cost: adults R50, pensioners R35 and children R10.

Contact: 027 482 2024, cederberg@lando. co.za or clanwilliamwildflowershow.co.za

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10 August – Totalsports Women’s Race

Caversham Institute open morning For those interested in early childhood development. Time: 9am–11am. Venue: Brakenfell. Cost: free. For more info: cavershaminstitute.co.za

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Soil for Life open garden Explore the beautiful vegetable garden with your friends and family and discover how they are changing lives in the communities of Cape Town. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: Soil for Life, Stables Lane, Spanchemat River Rd, Constantia. Cost: R10 per person. Contact: 021 794 4982, info@soilforlife.co.za or soilforlife.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Can Craze Competition Learners across South Africa are encouraged to create the most imaginative artworks from 300 or more used cans to stand a chance to win their share of R60 000. The competition runs until 30 September. For more info: 011 466 2939 or collectacan.co.za Create Art children’s classes Time: 2:30pm–4:30pm, every Monday and Wednesday. Venue: Create Art Studio, Thaba Park, Signal Gun Wine Farm, Durbanville. Cost: juniors R75 and seniors R85. Contact: 072 766 3246, create. artclasses@gmail.com or createart.co.za

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Sue Nepgen’s children’s art classes This term’s programme includes work inspired by Kirstenbosch. For 4–13 years old. Starts 30 and 31 July and 1 August.

Time: held in the afternoons and Saturday morning. Venues: Michael Oak Waldorf School, Kenilworth or 28 Klaasenbosch Dr, Constantia. Cost: R685 a term, including materials and firing. Pro rata fees for late joiners. Contact: 021 794 6609, 083 237 7242 or snepgen@xsinet.co.za Tutankhamun – His Tomb and His Treasures Exhibition Ends 27 September.

Time: 9am. Venue: GrandWest Casino. Cost: adults R160, 6–18 year olds R100, children 5 years and younger free, discounted family package of four tickets available. For more info: tut-exhibition.co.za

Kids Who Can stress management course An eight-week course that teaches children how to manage what life throws at them. For 6–10 year olds. Starts 29 July.

Time: 4pm–5:30pm. Venue: Constantiaberg Preprimary School, Meadowridge. Cost: R2 000. Contact: 072 590 1669 or vitsy783@ yahoo.com Learn to crochet For 10 years and older.

1 and 15 August. Time: 9am–12pm every Saturday. Venue: Thimbles Quilt & Knit, 10 Gladstone St, Durbanville. Cost: R260.

Contact: 021 979 4469 The Kids Cooking Club Join for term three weekly classes, which includes Master Chef classes. Outdoor play area and café available. Now generator powered. For 2–15 year olds. Time: 10am–11am for 2–3 year olds, 3:30pm–4:30pm for other age groups, Monday–Thursday. Venue: Stodels, Constantia. Cost: call to enquire. Contact: 083 309 8024 thekidscookingclub@gmail. com or thekidscookingclub.co.za Winter Brilliance walks With garden guides on Saturday mornings. 1 August: succulents and the magnificent seven.

8 August: family walk. 15 August: the Proteaceae family. Time: 9:30am–11am.

Venue: gate one, Kirstenbosch National Botanical Garden. Cost: free, but garden entry fees apply. Contact: 021 799 8783 or kirstenboschinfo@sanbi.org.za Wynberg Revisited The Cape Natural History Club is hosting a talk by historian and

author Dr Helen Robinson. 28 August. Time: 8pm. Venue: The Athenaeum, Newlands.

Cost: R20 per person. Contact: 021 782 1620 or capenaturalhistoryclub.co.za

family outings Friday jazz evenings On 7 August: Bokani Dyer Quintet and on 14 August: Toya Delazy, Albert Frost and Lee Thompson.

Time: 6pm–8pm. Venue: V&A Waterfront Amphitheatre. Cost: free. For more info: waterfront.co.za Table Mountain Cableway’s Kidz Season Special Enjoy a treasure hunt and a winter café meal. For 4–17 year olds.

Ends 31 October. Time: 8:30am–6pm.

Venue: Lower Tafelberg Rd. Cost: R225 – two children ride free with every paying adult. Contact: info@tablemountain.net or tablemountain.net

finding nature and outdoor play Muizenberg Moonlight Meander Walk in the light of a full moon on the Blue Flag Muizenberg Beach. 1 August. Time: 6pm.

Venue: meet in front of Knead Bakery at Surfer’s Corner, Muizenberg. Cost: free but donations to Safer Together are welcome.

For more info: safertogether.org Whale and dolphin watching for groups A series of 90-minute talks and groups are invited to select a date in August.

Time: 10am–11:30am Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays. Venue: Simon’s Town. Cost:

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R20, which includes educational material and refreshments. Contact: 079 391 2105 or awhaleofaheritageroute@gmail.com

markets Bay Harbour Market Time: 5pm–9pm Friday, 9:30am–4pm Saturday and Sunday.

Venue: 31 Harbour Rd, Hout Bay. Cost: free entry. For more info: bayharbour.co.za Chilled Market at The Range Time: 4:30pm–9:30pm, every Friday. Venue: Orpen Rd, Tokai. Cost: free entry and secure off-street parking. Contact: 021 713 2340, info@therange.co.za or therange.co.za Clanwilliam farmers market As part of the Clanwilliam Wild Flower Show. 28–30 August. Time: tbc. Venue: next to the Clanwilliam Wild Flower Church. Cost: free entry. For more info: clanwilliamwildflowershow.co.za Durbanville Craft Market Time: 8:30am–2pm every first Saturday of the month. Venue: Rust-en-Vrede, Durbanville.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 072 173 1040 or durbanvillecraftmarket@gmail.com Lourensford Harvest Market Pets are welcome. Time: 10am–3pm every Sunday. Venue: Lourensford Wine Estate, Lourensford Rd, Somerset West. Cost: free.

Contact: hello@lfhm.co.za or lfhm.co.za The Good Night Market The market also offers live music, food and a bar. 29 July.

Time: 6pm–9pm. Venue: Watershed, 17 Dock Rd, V&A Waterfront. Cost: free entry.

Contact: 021 408 7840 or waterfront.co.za

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High School Drama Festival The festival gives learners an opportunity to create and present an original drama around a central theme on a professional stage. 17–20 and 22 August. Time: 6pm. Venue: Artscape Arena, Artscape Theatre. Cost: R40 each.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com School Arts Festival Ten schools share the same stage each evening, contributing to a diverse theatre experience, from classical choirs to contemporary dance. The festival culminates in a gala performance. 11–13 and 17–20 and 24, 25 and 27 August. Time: 7pm. Venue: Artscape Theatre Centre. Cost: R40. Book through Artscape Dial-A-Seat: 021 421 7695 or artscape.co.za West Side Story Ends 23 August. Time: varies. Venue: Artscape Opera House. Cost: R95–R300. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695

Blasters There is a soft play area for 0–3 year olds and a play area for 4–12 year olds. Time: 9am–10pm Monday–Saturday and 9am–6pm Sunday. Venue: Cape Gate Décor Centre, Brackenfell. Cost: adults free, children 4 years and older R40, children under 4 years old R30. Contact: 021 981 7555 or blasters.co.za Bounce World This indoor inflatable play area is open over most weekends. There is a coffee shop and free Wi-Fi. Time: 9am–5pm.

Venue: 15 Montague Dr, Montague Gardens. Cost: R60 per child. Contact: 021 552 3165 or montaguearena.co.za Saved by the dogs Walk a dog or play with a puppy compliments of Tears Animal Rescue. 12 August. Time: 11am–2pm.

Venue: The Company’s Garden. Cost: free.

Contact: 021 785 4482 or 061 722 7903

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sport and physical activities Die Burger MTB Challenge Six distances are on offer. For 6 years and older. 2 August.

Time: 8:05am. Venue: Stellenbosch. Cost: from R110. Contact: 021 884 4752 or dieburgermtbchallenge.co.za Falke Winter Trail Run For 6 years and older. 23 August. Time: 8:45am. Venue: Uitkyk Wine Estate, R44, Stellenbosch. Cost: from R100. Contact: 021 884 4752, info@ dirtopia.co.za or dirtopia.co.za Rugby School of Excellence Friday group coaching For 5–13 year olds. 7 August– 18 September. Time: 3:30pm–4:30pm every

Friday. Venue: Villagers RFC. Cost: R600.

Contact: info@therugbyschool.co.za or therugbyschool.co.za Season Change trail run For children 6 years and older. 30 August. Time 8:30am.

Venue: Delvera Farm, R44, Stellenbosch.

Cost: from R70. Contact: 021 884 4752, info@dirtopia.co.za or dirtopia.co.za

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Adult beginner swimming lessons Learn in heated indoor pools. Time: 8am–7:30pm Monday–Friday and 8am–5pm Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Headstart Swim School, Claremont. Cost: R85 per lesson. Contact: 021 674 7681 or headstartswim@gmail.com Basic quilting course 29 July–2 September.

Time: 9am–12pm every Wednesday.

Venue: Thimbles Quilt & Knit, 10 Gladstone St, Durbanville. Cost: R780. Contact: 021 979 4469 Celebrate the life of Maria Montessori Watch a video on the Montessori Method followed by a discussion and tea. 29 August.

Time: 10am–11:15am. Venue: suite 101, 28 Main Rd, Mowbray. Cost: free. Contact: 021 685 8119 Chilton short course in childcare A comprehensive course on the fundamentals of childcare/ECD. 4–7 August. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Chilton College,

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Educational psychologist Shirley Kokot explores issues such as underlying causes of learning difficulties as well as how parents and teachers can help. Time: 9am– 11:30am. Venue: Pinelands North Primary School, Richmond Ave, Pinelands. Cost: R150 per person. Contact: 078 120 4704, denisepape@absamail.co.za or ilt.co.za

The Scalabrini Centre, 47 Commercial St, Cape Town CBD. Cost: R1 300. Contact: 079 842 6599, chiltontraining@gmail.com or chiltonaupairs.co.za Family and Friends CPR 1 August.

Time: 9am. Venue: Constantia Mediclinic, Burnham Rd, Plumstead. Cost: R270 for three hours and R320 for four hours, including paediatric first aid. Contact: 021 705 6459, training@pec.co.za or pec.co.za Housekeepers advanced cooking and baking course Time: 9am–12:30pm.

Venue: Montana Rd, Camps Bay. Cost: contact to enquire – the price includes ingredients, a recipe file and certificate.

Contact: 021 437 1150 (kitchen), 082 319 9215 (Janis), janis@nicetouch.co.za or nicetouch.co.za Save-a-Child first aid (incl CPR) 14 or 21 August. Time: 9am. Venue: southern suburbs. Cost: R450 per person or R750 per parent/couple for full course and R250 per person or R400 per parent/couple for CPR and Choking. Contact: 072 323 6172 or kerry@educarecape.co.za Tour of Montessori Connect Schools Montessori Connect Sunridge for 1–6 year olds. Time: 9am–10am daily. Venue: 21 Eagle Crescent, Table View. Contact: 021 556 4119 or mcsunridge@mweb.co.za.

Montessori Connect Children’s Workshop for 1–12 year olds. Time 9:30am–10:30am every Wednesday. Venue: 128 Belvedere Rd, Claremont. Contact: 021 671 7538 or childwork@mweb.co.za. Montessori Connect Nutwood Forest for 3 months– 6 year olds. Time 9:30am–10:30am, every Wednesday. Venue: 3 Braemar Rd, Green Point. Contact: 021 439 4874 or nutwood. adm@mweb.co.za Vegetable gardening course Learn to grow food naturally, working with the rhythm of the seasons and the biodiversity in your garden. 15 and 16 August. Time: 8:30am–3:30pm. Venue: Soil for life, Stables Lane, off Brounger Rd, Spanchemat River Rd, Constantia. Cost: R750 per person.

Contact: 021 794 4982, info@soilforlife. co.za or soilforlife.co.za

on stage and screen Born in the RSA Barney Simon’s Born in the RSA is revived, 30 years after its world premiere. Ends 8 August. Time: 7pm Monday–Saturday. Venue: Baxter Golden Arrow Studio, Main Rd, Rondebosch. Cost: R60. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com Cape Town Folk n Acoustic Festival Featuring David Kramer, Valiant Swart, Faye Oakes, Macstanley and others. 7 and 8 August. Time: 8pm. Venue: Baxter

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Theatre Concert Hall. Cost: R175 or R195.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com Madame Zingara’s The Celebration Tour 7 July–26 September. Time: 6pm.

Venue: The Grand Parade. Cost: from R550, this includes a four-course dinner with canapés and a welcome drink. Contact: 0861 623 263, boxoffice@madamezingara. com or madamezingara.com

out and about Cape Leopard Trust fundraising event A luncheon with entertainment and delicious food all paired with Leopard’s Leap wines. An art auction is the highlight.

Proceeds raised go to The Cape Leopard Trust. 15 August. Time: 11:30am. Venue: Leopard’s Leap Family Vineyards, R45 Main Rd, Franschhoek. Cost: R1 500 per person. Contact: 021 433 1699 or clt@ opulentliving.co.za One&Only Cape Town guest speaker series Watch footage of Shark Warrior Lesley Rochat as she descends into the deep to freedive with sharks. An ex TV presenter, Lesley is now an avid shark and ocean campaigner and conservationist.

6 August. Time: 6pm. Venue: One&Only Cape Town. Cost: R295. Contact: 021 431 4511 or restaurant.reservations@ oneandonlycapetown.com We Love Wine Wine lovers can taste and buy more than 100 wines directly from the producers. The Pebbles Project, which looks after disadvantaged children, is the charity beneficiary of the festival. No under 18s. 21 and 22 August. Time: 5pm–9pm Friday and 12pm–6pm Saturday. Venue: CapeGate. Cost: R70. Contact 021 981 2288 or capegatecentre.co.za White Water Rafting season The Doring River becomes a wild, energetic river with grade two to three rapids to raft from mid-June to mid-September.

Rafting is available every weekend, 11 July– 13 September. For more info: 021 975 9727 or info@bundi.co.za

support groups Dyspraxia South Africa Contact: info@dyspraxiasouthafrica.co.za or dyspraxiasouthafrica.co.za LGBTI (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex) Parents regular meetings Contact them for further details. Venue: Triangle Project, 2nd floor Elta House, 3 Caledonian Rd, Mowbray. Contact: 021 686 1475, health2@triangle.org.za or triangle.org Overeaters Anonymous For more info: 076 274 5474 or oa.org.za magazine cape town

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classes, talks and workshops Birth Options antenatal classes Lead by a midwife with a lifetime of experience, this series of six evenings aims to help you prepare with confidence for the birth of your baby. 18 August–22 September. Time: 7pm–9pm every Tuesday. Venue: Plumstead.

Cost: R1 100 per couple. Contact: 021 761 9623 or birthoptions.co.za Cape Town Midwifery and Birth Conference launch and film Refreshments are on sale. 11 August. Time: 6pm. Venue: Erin Hall, Erin Rd, Rondebosch.

Cost: contact to enquire. Contact: info@ midwiferyandbirthconference.co.za or midwiferyandbirthconference.co.za New messy play classes Artjamming’s messy play classes are in line with the early childhood developmental stage.

For children 8 months–4 years old. Starts 28 July. Time: email for booking details and times. Venue: Artjamming V&A Waterfront. Cost: R800 per term for eight classes. Contact: 021 425 5050, messy@ artjamming.co.za or artjamming.co.za

playtime and story time Moms and Babes A weekly play and activity programme, developed by an occupational therapist and physiotherapist specifically for babies 2–13 months old. Time: 11am and 3pm Monday–Thursday. Venue: Claremont.

Cost: contact to enquire. Contact: 082 746 3223 or reesdi@mweb.co.za Moms and Tots Bergvliet Ageappropriate classes throughout the week with fun activities in a structured environment. For 1–4 years old. The third term is in full swing. Time 9am–11am and 2:30pm–4pm. Venue: Rose Rd, Bergvliet.

Cost: contact them for details. Contact: 083 571 2915 or shiree@telkomsa.net Toptots mother and child workshop Activities include creative messy play, massage, fine motor activities and gross motor activities. For children 8 weeks– 4 years old. Term starts 27 July. Time: varies.

Venue: Toptots Claremont, 74 Ranelagh Rd. Cost: R1 100 per term; pro rata if you register during the term. Contact: 079 248 8083, lisam@toptots.co.za or toptots.co.za

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Wriggle and Rhyme music classes For 6–18 months and 18 months–3 years old.

Term starts 27 July. Time: varies. Venues: Claremont, Constantiaberg, Fish Hoek, Kenilworth and Meadowridge. Cost: tbc.

Contact: info@wriggleandrhyme.co.za or wriggleandrhyme.co.za

support groups La Leche League Breast-feeding Support Group monthly meetings Southern suburbs: 13 August. Contact Natashia: 082 814 7210 or Bridgette: 083 460 5753. Parklands: 26 August. Contact Simela: 021 553 1664, Juliet: 021 556 0693 or Bahia: 079 524 5008. Parklands: 9 August. Contact Kim: 082 330 5352.

Parow: 19 August. Contact Dilshaad: 021 930 2475. Durbanville: 11 August. Contact Trudy: 021 976 2598, Tiffany 021 913 3586 or Vania: 021 910 2885. Kenridge: 3 August. Contact Rosemary: 021 910 0606 or Irma: 021 979 1425. Paarl: 18 August. Contact Wilma: 082 922 8195.

Stellenbosch: 11 August. Contact Francia: 082 940 9685. Heidelberg: 3 August.

Contact Leana: 083 415 4657

how to help Kidz2Kidz They provide reading corners to Grade R classrooms that do not have any books for the children to read. You can make a financial donation, hold your own fundraiser for this cause, collect secondhand children’s books for 1–7 year olds or volunteer to read to children. For more info: info@kidz2kidz.co.za or kidz2kidz.co.za Princess Project South Africa This registered nonprofit organisation assists girls whose parents cannot afford to hire or buy them matric dance attire. To make donations of this nature: princessproject.co.za The Rare Bear Project This project raises funds for the Rare Disease Society of South Africa (RDSSA) through the sale of its knitted bears. The knitters customise the bears according to the patient information they receive from the RDSSA, so each one is different. If you would like to donate a bear at a cost of R100: rarediseases.co.za

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For a free listing, email your event to capetown@childmag.co.za or fax it to 021 462 2680. Information must be received by 31 July for the September issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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finishing touch

morning mayhem It’s no mean feat to get herself and her children ready for the day, so ANÉL LEWIS is happy just to

hy is it that no amount of planning the night before ever really prepares you for the mayhem that comes in the morning?

The day starts when Conor rams a dinosaur or some or other rescue vehicle up my nose. “Tea,” he whispers. “I need tea.” I step on the cat as we make our treacherous descent down the stairs. There is only one plastic receptacle in the entire kitchen that will do for Conor’s morning cuppa. And of course, on Monday mornings said cup is usually MIA. Conor starts to howl. I pick him up and we head to the playroom. I step on something wet and cold. It’s a half-masticated piece of boerewors from Sunday’s braai. But there’s no time to wipe it off because Conor is in hysterics about his cup and his tea. Down onto all fours I go to search under the couch. I find a soggy dish towel wrapped around a

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fluffy unicorn, four Lego pieces and a hairy lollipop. No cup. I decide to cut my losses and return to the kitchen. As we move down the passage, something ricochets off my foot. The cup! Conor sits on the counter while I make his tea so that he can make sure I add the chocolate milkshake powder. I don’t ask questions at this time of the morning. If he wants chocolate tea, so be it.

I hear footsteps and Erin peeps around the corner. She wants to draw. “Now? Okay, okay, let’s get the crayons.” I reckon I can dress her while she’s drawing. I bring their clothes. “No, I don’t want that!” shouts Conor. Erin’s not interested in the top I have for her either. “It’s too short and it doesn’t match.” Great, all I need now is fashion advice from my four year old. I dash upstairs and get myself ready.

No time for hair and make-up. Finally, we

Erin, Anél and Conor

are in the car, but then Erin wails: “Mom, something smells.” We’re trying to pottytrain Conor and things are still more miss than hit. I grab Conor and head back upstairs to change his pants. Back in the car, as we pull out of the garage, Erin whispers: “Mom, I need to take something starting with ‘b’ to school.” You’ve got to be kidding me. Instead of shouting the first expletive I can think of starting with ‘b’, I dash inside and grab a banana.

We’re more than 15 minutes late. I screech into the traffic queue, my wet hair frizzing in the warmth of the car. But then from the backseat I hear, “Hot dog, jumping frog... elbow kirky”. The two of

them are singing their hearts out, blissfully unaware of the pandemonium it took just to get them out of the door.

To passing motorists, we probably look like the Von Trapp family going on a summer holiday – despite the fact that Conor is still in his pyjama top and Erin’s hair resembles something from the J&B Met. But it’s okay.

Any day that starts with my children singing a song – and a cup of chocolate tea – is bound to be a good one.

Anél Lewis has invested in a massive white board so she can plan ahead for the week. She’s also prepacked containers with teabags and chocolate milk powder to save time in the mornings.

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PHOTOGRAPH: Susie Leblond Photography

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make it out the front door.

book extract

tastes like

freedom Try these delicious LCHF recipes from KAREN THOMSON and KERRY HAMMERTON’S Sugar Free for a sustainable sugar-free lifestyle. vegetarian thin-crust cheese pizza serves 8 ingredients | base • 3 eggs • 225g grated mozzarella cheese • 112g grated cheddar cheese • ground crystals or flaked salt and ground black pepper • 1 crushed garlic clove (optional) • 1 tsp mixed herbs ingredients | toppings • tomato paste or purée • raw toppings of your choice, e.g. mushrooms, feta cheese, olives, buffalo mozzarella, basil leaves and cherry tomatoes.

Non-vegetarian options include ham and anchovies.

method Preheat the oven to 180°C. Grease a medium-sized baking tray with butter.

Make the base by beating the eggs together. Mix with all the cheese, seasoning, garlic and herbs.

Evenly spread the egg and cheese mixture on the baking tray, almost to the edges, making it as thin as possible.

Bake for 15–25 minutes or until the base is golden brown.

Remove the pizza base from the oven and while warm, spread with a thin layer of tomato paste or purée.

Add the raw toppings and put the pizza under the oven grill for approximately 4–5 minutes, or until the toppings are cooked.

nutty flapjacks Note: If you’re eating flapjacks with whipped cream and berries, remember to add additional fat and fruit portions. makes 6 ingredients • 1 tsp butter (or 1 tsp coconut oil) batter • 3 eggs • cup (100g) nut flour (or substitute coconut flour) • ¼ tsp bicarbonate of soda • 1 tbsp milk, coconut milk or almond milk • scraped seeds of 1 vanilla pod (optional but delicious)

PHOTOGRAPHS: Donna Lewis and Caroline Gardner

method Make the flapjack mixture by whisking the eggs together.

Gradually stir the egg liquid into the dry ingredients. Once the egg and flour are combined, add the milk with vanilla, and mix

through. Let the batter stand for 5 minutes.

Heat a small frying pan and melt the butter or coconut oil.

Add a ladleful of flapjack mixture.

Cook for a few minutes at medium heat. Wait for air bubbles to appear on top before flipping the flapjacks with a spatula and cooking the other side.

Remove flapjacks from the pan and keep warm. Serve with whipped cream and fresh or stewed berries.

Tip: Make your own nut flour by blending nuts such as almonds, walnuts or macadamias in a food processor until they resemble coarse flour. Don’t overdo it or your nut flour will turn into nut butter.

about the book Sugar Free by Karen Thomson and Kerry Hammerton (Sunbird Publishers) is packed with scientific research and nutritional advice to help you understand sugar and carb addiction. The book also has dietician-approved weekly meal plans and recipes, including options for vegetarians, along with journal exercises, to help you break the mental, physical and emotional traps of old eating patterns. Sugar Free is available from all good bookstores for R250.