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Living “the good life” is our new theme for March.

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It’s a theme born out of the many letters we receive from parents and grandparents wanting more out of life – for themselves, their children and their grandchildren. “The good life” means different things to different people. It may mean doing all you can to ensure that your child is in good health, happy, confident and well educated. It may also mean taking that well-deserved break and spending time travelling, playing with your children or just relaxing with no pressures of city life weighing you down. Whatever it means for you, it’s a great ideal to strive towards as it epitomizes a sense of serenity, consciousness,

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community involvement and a real commitment to your family, with balance being the ultimate goal. On page 16 you’ll read how one family did just that by swapping their suburban life for five months of exploring North America with two preschoolers in tow. Yes, it can be done!

As you page through this issue, I know you’ll be inspired to plot your own path towards living

“the good life”.

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16 regulars

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features 16 finding the magic Mary Wuth and her young family had an unforgettable adventure travelling through the US for five months

20 thinking out the box developing lateral thinking skills boosts selfconfidence in children.

By Jocelyn Warrington

23 picnic pleasers dine alfresco with these delicious recipes from Janet Kohler’s book Perfect Parties

26 playing to win it’s not about the quantity of extramurals your child takes part in, but getting the balance right. By Tamlyn Vincent

28 world’s best dad Marc de Chazal shares advice on how to be the best father you can possibly be

43 pack light Tamlyn Vincent gives practical tips on how to pack for a trip

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10 pregnancy news – pregnancy 101 contemplating having children?

Anél Lewis looks at eight important questions to ask before starting the journey

12 best for baby – my baby needs a doctor! Ruwaydah Harris asks experts when you should rush off to the doctor

14 dealing with difference – misdiagnosed detecting a developmental disorder is not an exact science. Lucille Kemp investigates

30 resource – sea, sand and sunshine Marina Zietsman brings you some of the best family-friendly island getaways from around the world

32 a good read for the whole family 34 what’s on in march 42 finishing touch her son is a formidable planker, says Anél Lewis, but he hasn’t quite perfected the art

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13 a family abroad Marina Zietsman finds out what necessary precautions you should take when travelling with little ones

37 family marketplace 40 let’s party

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over to you dear mummies of the southern suburbs...

I consider myself a decent person. Granted, I don’t have millions in my bank account, I don’t drive a big car or have a gym membership, and we don’t have a swimming pool; and yes, I’m not married to my life partner (and no, he’s not in finance), but we have a warm home and a lovely son, who is gentle and kind and witty, and he loves to play with his friends.

He is seven years old, and has just completed his first year at “big school”. By far the biggest challenge – and there were quite a few – was the politics around playdates.

For my son, it is the most obvious and logical thing in the world to play (they get so little time for that during term) with a child he enjoys spending time with at school. And it’s a real reciprocal friendship, not just some boy that he might admire who doesn’t return the interest.

Some parents have been amazing (thank you!), willing to facilitate after-school get-togethers for the little ones.

But, on a number of occasions, my request for a playdate has been met with either no response, or vague, halfhearted “maybes”, which came to nothing in the end.

After the third try, surely the only graceful thing to do is

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to withdraw? Perhaps I am over-sensitive, but could it be that my child, who you don’t know, is shunned from your son’s after-school time because of your judgment of me?

Am I too “middle-class”?

How do I explain to my anxious child that despite the fact that I have asked his little friend’s mom (again) if they could play after school one day, she has indicated, subtly, but quite clearly, that she is not interested in letting that happen?

I understand that people are busy, and I get that generally we all have our own circles, but be assured: I am not intending to insinuate myself into your world, I simply want to help facilitate our children’s developing friendship. But if you do not have the time, or if you have social standards that I may not measure up to, can’t you just say so? At least then it would be clear…

All I’m asking is: please be kinder. It is not easy being a little child in a big world trying to navigate your way through the school system. Our children are so fragile, and their little hearts and minds are wide open, and boy, can they hurt. And those hurts, particularly with regard to perceived rejection, can linger for life.

Before you ignore or discard a playdate invitation with your child, suspend your own judgments and/ or interests for a moment, and think about these little people – their needs and desires. Trust your child to make friends with others who stimulate them positively, and give them a chance to make their own decisions; to create their own worlds. I promise I won’t stay for tea!

A misfit mom

brave little angel My friend’s baby boy, Mason, was born with Harlequin Ichthyosis (H.I.). As far as we know, Mason is the only H.I. sufferer in South Africa. This is a severe genetic disorder that mainly affects the skin. Infants with this condition are born with very hard, thick skin covering most of their bodies. The skin forms large, diamondshaped plates that are separated by deep cracks. He lost his right hand shortly after birth due to the tight skin blocking off his blood flow and his left hand is not 100% normal either. His creams cost his parents about R11 000 a month. Mason’s mom had to leave her job to care for him at home, while his father works during the day and delivers pizzas at night. He is an amazing child,

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full of smiles. All they want is for people to look at him and know what condition he has as opposed to staring and asking if they burnt their child. So, we have made little cards for the parents to give to people when they are out and about.

Carri Ann Buchner

wit goes a long way I have a seven-year-old daughter who had bacterial meningitis when she was six months old. As a result her legs and some of her fingers were amputated, leaving her to walk with prosthesis and sometimes use a wheelchair. She is in a mainstream school and is doing very well. We face challenges all the time, such as people asking questions, staring at her, or simply running away. I try to equip her to handle awkward questions and she handled one beautifully on her own.

A boy couldn’t stop staring at her and asked: “What happened to you?” She answered: “You know, it’s a long story.” And off she went…

Mrs T

party etiquette Parents should be reminded how to respond to a party invitation. I realise everyone is busy, but that’s no excuse not to RSVP by the given date. Generally one pays per child, whether you use a party planner or do it yourself. It’s irritating when the party is organised in

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advance and a mother RSVPs the night before, saying they’re attending. By this time, I have confirmed with the party planner how many children will attend based on the RSVPs I received, and settled for a package deal within my budget. In future, I will have to respond that the numbers were finalized on the given RSVP date and I cannot accommodate them. Also keep in mind, unless specified, I’ve invited your child to the party, not the whole family. Don’t bring all the siblings or other friends and don’t send your au pair along with her children as well. If you have to bring extra children, it’s polite to ask your hostess first. And don’t arrive an hour early for the party. A time was specified for a reason, unless of course you have made prior arrangements with the hostess.

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lazy parenting In response to the letter regarding “guidance for parents of intellectually gifted children” (February 2015): I am irritated at the statement that it is the teacher’s job to get children to focus in class. Comments like this must seriously send most teachers over the edge. I agree the teacher must keep the child engaged in the lesson, but it is not the responsibility of the teacher to ensure that your child is able to focus during their lesson. That, parents, is your job. Teachers already have a job – to teach. They are not there to pull their hair out trying

to get your little one to focus because you fed him a giant bowl of blue, sugary cereal just before kissing him goodbye and heading off to the gym, hoping magical fairies will wave their wands and your child will instantly grasp 1 + 1 or apply themselves in a 15-minute swimming lesson. It is the parent’s job to put their children to bed early enough so that they can apply themselves. It is the parent’s job not to leave a bat-eyed child in front of his iPad for hours on end, melting his brain into a mix of fast cars and electronic malfunction. It is the parent’s job to ensure their child’s diet is one that will allow her to sit quietly for half an hour and take in what is being said. Why should teachers have to ask what they could do to make their class more enjoyable so they can hold the attention of the children? Here’s a thought teachers: you should all dress up as Spider-Man and teach your class while hanging upside down from the classroom ceiling. Maybe you should duct tape an iPad to your forehead and flash images of hamburgers. No, sorry, it is not the job of teachers to factory through a generation of distracted children due to lazy parenting.

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pregnancy 101 Being a parent is life-changing.

ANÉL LEWIS looks at eight important conversations you should have before you contemplate children.

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Do you both want children? If so, how many? My husband told me quite flippantly when we were dating that he was keen for a brood of four. But after two weeks with a newborn, he quickly adjusted that to a more manageable two. While Mother Nature tends to have her own plan, make sure you have a clear idea of the preferred size of your family at the get-go. If you want more than one, decide whether you want to have a big gap between the two, or get all the nappies out of the way as quickly as possible. But also talk about what happens if life throws you a curveball, and baby number two turns out to be babies two, three and four. You should also think about possible complications. If routine pregnancy tests pick up an abnormality, what options would you consider? Could you cope with a child with special needs and what support network do you have in place?

under construction Be frank about your respective needs.

Does your husband need lots of attention?

Are you a control freak who finds it difficult to be at someone’s beck and call? It’s important to discuss upfront what your expectations are when it comes to being a family. Children are demanding, and it’s possible that you won’t be able to give your spouse the same attention you did when it was just the two of you.

Examine the way you communicate with each other and be clear about your needs. Also, avoid having a baby to heal a relationship. Sleepless nights and the stress of a new person in your lives can add considerable strain to even the most rock-solid partnership. Take a hard look at your lifestyle. Are you ready to forego lazy Saturday brunches and impromptu getaways to change nappies and watch Thomas the Train?

count the costs Babies are expensive. Think nappies, wipes, paediatric visits... Do a detailed financial plan and budget. This will also help you decide how many children you can realistically afford. Factor in childcare expenses if you need extra help as well as

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ew relationships are about candlelit dinners and intimate chats – usually about love, life and happily ever after. But there are some discussions you need to have before adding children to the mix.

the cost of school and extramural activities later on. Is your home large enough for an expanding family or will you have to move?

career plans Will you both go back to the office, or will one of you stay home with the children?

Consider changing to half-day or freelance if your profession allows. In terms of labour legislation, women are able to take four months of maternity leave, starting one month before their due date. You can claim UIF if your maternity leave is unpaid. Be sure to factor in the adjustment to your monthly income as part of your budgetary planning.

childcare Childcare options will depend on your work decision. Will you have a nanny, day mother or rely on a family member to help out? At what age will you send your child to play school? You also need to start looking at primary school options. Good schools are in high demand, and it’s important to get your child onto waiting lists as soon as you can.

Talk about what kind of school environment you would both prefer. Also agree now on whether you will vaccinate your children or not, bearing in mind that schools ask for the clinic card when you apply.

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Do a detailed financial plan and budget.

This will also help you decide how many children you can realistically afford.

sleep woes Some parents prefer to sleep with their newborn alongside the bed, especially for night feeds. Others want to get their children accustomed to sleeping alone as soon as possible. Often the problems only really start a year or two later when your toddler decides that sleeping in Mom’s bed is more fun. Not only is this disruptive, but it can be disastrous for your relationship. Discuss sleep training options for various ages.

Unfortunately, children like to mix things up – so a good sleeper at eight months may turn into a sleepwalker at two years old.

bad cop, good cop

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Unfortunately, someone has to be the disciplinarian. Decide together what constitutes inappropriate behaviour and how best to deal with it. While you may happily allow the children to paint themselves green just for 15 minutes of quiet, your husband may be furious about the mess. If he punishes them for something you appeared to condone, it could send mixed signals. Form a united front and act consistently. Broader parenting roles need to be established early on. Will you take turns with bath time and nappy changes, for example?

There will be times when you’re both going to need some TLC. Breast-feeding can be stressful, so discuss with your partner about how you will both approach this, and if he should intervene if you find it difficult. It was such a relief for me when my husband gently encouraged me to change to formula after three agonising weeks of trying to breastfeed our daughter. Talk about the reality of postnatal depression. Up to 40% of women will develop some form of depression or anxiety after giving birth, says the Postnatal Depression Society of SA. Up to 10% of new fathers can also become depressed.

birthing options Find out upfront what your medical aid will cover or how much the birth will cost. But nothing is set in stone and an unexpected complication could mean a sudden change in birthing plan. Go on an antenatal course together so that you can make informed choices about birthing options.

• Traditional hospital birth – Options include vaginal birth or Caesarean section. Some hospitals have water-birth facilities. Discuss pain relief options with your gynaecologist or obstetrician.

• Birthing centre – Perfect for couples with low-risk pregnancies wanting to give birth naturally in a more homelike environment with individualised care.

• Home birth – Suitable for low-risk natural or water births.

You could also involve a midwife or doula. Midwives are trained medical professionals who can perform medical procedures; a doula will offer emotional and practical support.

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best for baby

“Better safe than sorry” is a motto most new moms instinctively live by. But, running to your doctor whenever your baby has the sniffles may seem like you’re crying wolf too often. Two paediatricians advise when to consult and when to play it by ear.

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He adds that during the first few days of life, a baby’s poop may be green and may change slightly to yellow. Don’t worry if you’re breast-feeding exclusively, advises Thwala.

You should see a doctor if your baby is feeding poorly, has a high fever of more than 38°C in the first six months and 38,5°C thereafter, is unusually tired or irritable, is breathing fast (more than one breath per second), wheezes when breathing out or has a whoop when breathing in and is not getting better after five days, Gray advises.

According to Gray, always seek medical advice if the child is very irritable, has respiratory distress or an unexplained rash.

Generally, if they have a low-grade fever, have periods of playfulness (even if it is after a dose of paracetamol), are eating and drinking relatively well despite the illness, and are not too lethargic or irritable, then you can sit it out for a few days, says Gray.

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our child will not get through the first few years of life without getting sick. Dr Claudia Gray, a paediatrician and allergologist at Vincent Pallotti Hospital in Cape Town, says your baby is likely to suffer five to 10 minor infections – such as the common cold – per year in the first two to three years of his or her life. “Young children are often sick because of their immature immune systems. In addition, every cold may last one to three weeks, so it can feel as if your baby is always sick,” says Gray. However, every sniffle may not need a doctor’s opinion, she adds.

So, as a new mom, how do you determine when to consult your paediatrician and when to sit it out? “As a general rule you shouldn’t take any risks with babies up to three months old, advises Dr Mgcini Thwala, a paediatrician in private practice in Joburg. When your baby is still so young, it’s best to be safe than sorry, he says. You will learn, with the help of your doctor, to determine when your baby needs medical care.

Doctors Gray and Thwala offer the following advice: Don’t be embarrassed if you’ve consulted your doctor and it turns out there’s nothing wrong with your baby, says Thwala. It’s better to get the assurance from a health practitioner than to self medictate.

Don’t do a Google search to determine what’s wrong with your baby. A thorough medical examination is needed to make a proper diagnosis, adds Thwala.

Apply the rule of seven when it comes to analysing your baby’s bowel movements. “Breast-fed babies can have up to seven dirty nappies a day, but sometimes they can have one dirty nappy in seven days. Formula babies, on the other hand, have to have at least one dirty nappy a day,” Thwala says.

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a family abroad The smaller bodies and developing immune systems of children present unique travel health needs. MARINA ZIETSMAN finds out about necessary precautions.

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roximity to good medical care is important while travelling with children, says Dr Pete Vincent, a medical advisor to the Netcare Travel Clinics. “It is preferable to wait until a child is two years old before subjecting them to isolated places in the developing world,” he advises. But if you do, keep the following in mind:

vaccine routine All routine vaccinations should be up to date. “Taking unvaccinated children across our borders exposes them to serious risk,” says Vincent. “The protection of herd immunity is lost when taking them out of their present environment.”

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prevention is better than cure

find more travel-related info • Netcare Travel Clinics – travelclinic.co.za • Centres of Disease Control – cdc.gov/travel • World Health Organisation – who.int/ith/ • Tips on packing a travel health kit: nc.cdc.gov/travel/page/pack-smart

Netcare Travel Clinics advise that international travellers be vaccinated against vaccine-preventable, destination-specific diseases for which they may be at risk. A doctor should also give an individual assessment. Find out from your travel clinic or doctor what vaccines are required for your destination, but the following should be considered: hepatitis A, meningococcal, rabies, typhoid fever and yellow fever.

malaria “No child under the age of five years old should be subjected to the threat of malaria,” says Vincent. “Malaria spreads rapidly in this age group and is usually life-threatening due to the difficulty of diagnosis.” Vincent says even in low risk areas, bite-prevention is vital by using protective measures from dusk to dawn. “Prompt diagnosis and treatment is crucial,” he says, “and take antimalarial medication precisely as prescribed.”

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Be more vigilant if you travel in areas where hygiene and sanitation are inadequate, and avoid salads, uncooked vegetables, unpasteurized fruit juice or milk, and milk products.

Eat only food that is fully cooked and served hot and fruit that has been washed in clean water and then peeled yourself. Wash your hands regularly with soap and water before eating, after using the bathroom or changing diapers, and after direct contact with small children, animals, sick people or faeces. If soap and water are not available, use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer.

travelling made easy

• Ask your doctor about a remedy to lightly sedate a hysterical infant or toddler on the plane.

• Breast-feeding, or the bottle, can help equalize the pressure in the ears and minimizes ear pain in infants during a flight.

Older children may find sucking on a lollipop helpful.

• Beware of extreme temperatures, as children cannot regulate their body temperature as well as adults can. Dress appropriately and offer fluids regularly. Use maximum sunscreen.

• While travelling you have less control over a child’s environment. Drowning, poisoning, burns and falls may occur. Watch out for unfenced waterways and stray animals.

• To counter jetlag, try to keep your children on the home routine shortly after landing.

Also allow your children to take marathon naps on arrival.

• Medical professionals and the travel industry can give you advice, but it’s your responsibility to get information, to understand the risks involved and to take the necessary precautions to protect your child while travelling.

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dealing with difference

misdiagnosed Detecting a developmental disorder is not as exact a science as identifying a broken arm or bronchitis.

LUCILLE KEMP details ways to protect your child from a misdiagnosis.

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t three years old, Peter was dealing with multiple developmental and behavioural challenges and had been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) with associated ADHD when he was referred to an intervention centre in Cape Town.

He struggled to sit down and concentrate for more than a second, tended to be impulsive and lashed out at others as he could not communicate his frustrations. Following observations, the therapeutic team at the centre recommended he stay in the younger group at his preschool and attend occupational therapy (OT) to address his emotional, sensory, social and verbal difficulties.

A few months later, such was his improvement that his parents requested a second opinion from a neurodevelopmental paediatrician who questioned the original diagnosis.

Talk of special schooling was now off the table thanks to the progress Peter was making with occupational and speech therapy. He was closing the gap and soon moved up to the next class, with his attention span and group participation capabilities improving. By the time he was four-and-a-half years old, Peter no longer had an ASD diagnosis hanging over his head.

Symptoms may change over time, so always mention anything new that worries you, as a different diagnosis may be more appropriate.

In another incident, Cape Town mom Cindy was taken aback at a doctor’s flippancy when, at their first and only visit, she had briefly shared concerns about her six-year-old son Josh’s concentration span at school. Without evaluation the doctor’s response was that it was probably ADHD and that Josh should be given Ritalin.

Meanwhile, Cape Town parents Nancy and Tim Cockcroft’s toddler, Georgina, was presenting with various developmental delays, specifically speech. When she was two and a half years old they consulted with a speech therapist who ran tests and diagnosed Georgina with apraxia. However, during the speech therapy in the months that followed, Nancy saw no improvement and, feeling that her daughter wasn’t getting much from the process, she sought a second opinion. It emerged that Georgina was actually on the autism spectrum.

There is a variety of reasons why there seems to be such a huge margin for error when diagnosing a developmental disorder, according to child and adolescent psychiatrist Merryn Young and occupational therapist Kerry Wallace. There is no objective measure like a blood pressure reading to tell you that you have a condition or not and disorders that cause less behavioural disturbance are easily missed. Also, the same symptom can occur within different disorders. Epigenetic factors, such as prematurity and maternal postnatal depression, which makes a child more susceptible to various developmental disorders, needs to be more widely understood, says Wallace.

According to neuroscientists such as Dr Aditi Shankardass, we rely too heavily on observable behaviour and don’t look directly at the brain when treating disorders that essentially originate in the brain. “It is estimated that one in six children suffers from a developmental disorder, these being autism spectrum, sensory processing, learning and attention disorders,” says Shankardass who, based at Harvard, has done pioneering work using EEG brain scanning. She has discovered that almost 50% of children diagnosed with autism were found to be incorrectly diagnosed.

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margin for error

One such child is seven-year-old Justin Senigar, who was diagnosed with severe autism. When Shankardass and her clinical team used the EEG technology to look at Justin’s brain, it turned out that he was almost certainly not autistic, though symptoms mimicked autism. Two months after Justin went on anti-seizure medication for his brain seizures, his vocabulary went from three to 300 words and his communication and social interaction improved so dramatically that he was enrolled in a regular school and started excelling at karate.

markers of a good assessment In order to not put your child through the stress of an incorrect, under- or over diagnosis, here’s what to know: “A good assessment will be comprehensive, starting with familiarising both parent and child with the process and explaining their rights,” says Young. “Time should be spent with the family together as well as with the child and parents separately. Contact may need to be made with several other family members.” The clinician should give feedback in understandable terms to both the child and parents. You should feel able to disagree or ask questions at any point and should not feel rushed into decisions.

Discussions with your clinician will include clarifying the current concerns, screening for other difficulties that commonly co-occur, along with getting a family history and full developmental history. “You should be given the opportunity to disclose sensitive information in private, away from your child, if you so wish,” points out Wallace. Symptoms may change over time, so always mention anything new that worries you, as a different diagnosis may be more appropriate. For example, bipolar disorder often presents initially with a depressed episode. It is only once a manic episode occurs that the true diagnosis may be revealed.

Observations of child and caregiver interactions should take place and, based on the interventions the child needs, a decision needs to be made as to what further assessments are required, whether it is occupational therapy for sensorimotor or functional developmental delays or referral to a medical specialist for a diagnosis or medication.

An educational assessment may have to take place and further information may be needed, with your permission, from other healthcare workers and teachers. Rating scales may be used and underlying medical conditions should be considered.

when to get a second opinion If your doctor is rigid Young says your clinician should be able to address any worries you have about your child’s assessment or management plan by explaining their thinking.

They should be willing to adjust their assessment should more information come to light.

If you haven’t been given options Young says it is unusual for there to be only one form of treatment available, either with medication or therapeutic intervention. Your clinician likely has valid reasons for suggesting a particular course of action, but if you are not happy with it, other options should be made available. Even if it is the only therapeutic modality they are able to offer themselves, if this is not the best fit for your child, they should be able to advise you of other clinicians.

If you feel bullied into an unsuitable management plan Seek a second opinion from a clinician with more extensive qualifications or experience if your child does not seem to be improving after some time. They may well confirm the previous clinician’s assessment and plan, but in the long run this may help alleviate your anxiety and indecision.

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getaway

Lincoln loving the thrill of skiing at Lake Tahoe, California

finding the Cruising the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco

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Exploring Mayan ruins at Chichen Itza, Mexico

Lincoln, Mary and Lola drinking in the views on top of the Rockefeller Centre, New York

Enjoying the thrills of life in the snow

Fun in the sun and warm waters in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico Keeping the children close at hand along the edges of the Grand Canyon

Hitching a ride with Dad in Zion National Park, Utah

Travelling across North America with two preschool age children for five months turned out to be an adventure of a lifetime for a South African family. MARY WUTH shares the highlights of their trip. time to travel

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Thankfully, we have our own company creating mobile apps, which requires little but the internet and a computer; our location is irrelevant. Without this our trip would probably never have made it off the drawing board. We were able to elbow out some activities and carve a five-month window from October to March. What started as a round-the-world trip was quickly modified into something more plausible in the time we had. The destination became, by default, North America, because it was the only continent my husband and I could agree on. He had his heart set on skiing; I wanted to lie on a beach. America has it all.

As our heads began to emerge from under the wasteland of early child rearing, thoughts of our round-the-world trip gradually began to resurface. Lola, our daughter, had just turned four and Lincoln, our lively, accident-prone son, was about to turn three. So, armed with dogged determination and wit, we dived into planning a trip before we could change our minds, or fall pregnant, whichever happened first.

With two months to finalise our planning, we set about deciding on the places we wanted to see the most, and the best route to get it all in. We found our equilibrium in the decision to hire an SUV and begin in New York, working our way in a clockwise direction down to Savannah, through New Orleans, Texas, Utah, Nevada, then California, up the West Coast, and across the top of the country back to New York. Oh, and a little sojourn off to Mexico in the middle somewhere. We agreed we wanted our trip to be flexible, so booked only the accommodation we were certain about before embarking on our trip. This gave us the freedom to stay longer if we were enjoying a place, but also to move on if we felt restrained.

Viewing our future through the filter of dirty nappies, burp cloths and seven o’clock bedtimes injected us with a sudden desire for adventure.

Viewing our future through the filter of dirty nappies, burp cloths and seven o’clock bedtimes injected us with a sudden desire for adventure. Given the predicament of my ever-increasing waistline and near junky dependence on salty cracks and olives, we decided we would schedule our travels for the year our daughter turned one. This was a solid idea, until we received news of a second little creation. We’re brave, but no amount of wine-induced courage could get us to jet off with a 14 month old and a newborn in tow, so on to Plan B. We bought a house and settled into suburban life.

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Our one non-negotiable as parents was remaining positive and upbeat for our children.

This wasn’t always easy. Five months on the road can leave you feeling lonely and in need of friends, but we chose this adventure and it was our job to keep things exciting for them. This was easy most of the time because it was exciting, but when you are running out of petrol in the middle of Mexican cartel land or sliding across the road in your car because you thought you knew better than the guy at the garage when he suggested you use tire chains, a smile and a joke are sometimes hard to muster. But, not only did our children surprise us with their level of ease at changing “homes” every few days, they thrived, becoming more outgoing and confident as our trip progressed. When your daughter spends more magazine cape town

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fter spending five months travelling the US in temperatures as low as -36°C with two preschool children, 10 bags, two bikes, two scooters, an office-in-a-laptop-bag, and mounds of ski gear, tackling everyday life back home in Cape Town can seem a bit dull. The excitement of having a new “home” every few days, from a Caribbean beach to a winter wonderland, for months on end, can make even the most picturesque city feel like it’s lacking. But I’m getting ahead of myself…

My husband and I moved from Joburg to Cape Town shortly after we got married in our mid-twenties and found any desire to travel the globe fall into a dismal second place. We were in love with Cape Town. Then, rather abruptly, we found out we were about to become three, which changed everything.

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Glacier National Park, Montana

Avoiding copious fast-food outlets on our 24 000km drive with a road-side picnic

time hiding behind your legs than playing with friends at a party, this change alone made the trip worthwhile.

On our 24 000km drive around North America, the children remained buckled into their seats, either watching videos on the iPad, colouring in their books or playing make-believe games together. They are best friends. I might make them sound like angels, but it wasn’t always plain sailing; my husband will tell you that mothers utilise selective memory as a survival tool. We shared rooms and we shared our moods.

We were in each other’s space almost the entire time, but there isn’t a moment that I wouldn’t repeat, even the difficult ones.

At Yosemite National Park during a fullday hike up to Nevada Falls, California

so herding my children down a slope I am simply proficient on was going to be challenging. What I didn’t anticipate is that when you have little people to worry about, you forget your own fears. It was only in repeating the slopes that I did with my children, by myself, that I realised how scary I found them.

making memories Skiing was not the only part of the trip that had me realising my own strengths. There were times when I wanted to sit down and cry, times when Shaun, my husband, was chained to our hotel room or apartment because of a work deadline. I found myself

Travelling offers you everything: a view inside your own soul and a view inside those travelling with you.

Travelling with your children adds complexities, no doubt, but the bonuses far outweigh them. When on the road, not only do you have to carry all their gear and yours, but you carry their dreams along with yours, too. The journey doubles in weight, but it also doubles in enjoyment.

Nothing highlighted this more for me than skiing. After teaching the children the basics on the nursery slopes, we decided they were ready to head down some of the longer, more exciting runs. Now just to give you a bit of background here, I am ruffled doing anything more than a “green” run. I am a “distrustfully comfortable” skier,

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in places I didn’t know, with two children and no car. South Africa might be a thirdworld country, but nowhere does it come close to the chaos you feel in the middle of a city like Cancún, Mexico, when you don’t speak the language, where traffic seems to have a flow of its own regardless of any traffic signs, and travelling around with a daughter who has the biggest mass of tight blond ringlets draws strangers to you in a way walking around with a celebrity would. Putting on your big-girl panties is suddenly not enough; there were times I simply had to man up. I had to be stronger than even I thought I could be. magazine cape town

Biking among the tall trees in Redwoods National Park, California

Luckily, there is always a flip-side. Ours was realising how much more joy everything brings when you are travelling with your children: the wonder in their eyes when they look up from their small little place on the pavement at the skyscrapers above them, or walk into the Disney Store in Times Square; the pure elation that bubbles from them when they roll in snow for the first time, or find their juice boxes frozen in the car overnight; their brave faces as they wobble around on their first skis, or the unrestrained laughter as they try and climb a palm tree on the beach. Sure, being able to party all night in New Orleans would have been an experience, but taking the children to eat

Lola sharing a wintry beach with the seagulls in Cambria, California

five months that sometimes I think we are still recovering. The good times were so good, and the tough times so tough, every emotion was piercing. Our journey, as incredible as it was, was also overwhelming at times. We learnt a lot about supporting each other, even in the midst of our own fears and anxieties.

Travelling offers you everything: a view inside your own soul and a view inside those travelling with you. Narrowmindedness gives way to perspective.

This offers understanding, while at the same time shrouding you in confusion and doubt. It broadens every facet of thought you have ever had, offering

Our one non-negotiable as parents was remaining positive and upbeat for our children. This wasn’t always easy. beignets and watch a jazz band in a quaint little Creole restaurant was pure enjoyment; just different. There are not many children who can say they have snow hiked through Zion National Park or climbed the peaks in Yosemite by themselves. Cruising through a frozen Yellowstone National Park on a snow mobile had us all laughing out loud, even when the children fell asleep and we spent the last hour just trying to keep them from falling off.

lessons along the way Every day was packed with adventure and life. We crammed so much into magazine cape town

so much more to your life and your soul than you thought possible while wrapped in cotton wool at home, sipping expensive local wines complaining about your lack of promotion and the increase in the fuel price. Life is so much bigger, so much more.

We are repeatedly asked what our favourite part of the trip was and our answer is overwhelmingly simple – an uninterrupted five months of just being together, muddling through life as a family, uncovering our own strengths and seeing the magic in each other. Would I do it again? In a heartbeat.

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out the box

Developing lateral thinking skills will not only help your child solve complex problems, it can also boost self-esteem. By JOCELYN WARRINGTON

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bat and a ball cost R1,10. The bat costs R1 more than the ball. How much does the ball cost?

The first number that comes to your mind is 10c, right? The distinctive mark of this easy puzzle is that it evokes an answer that is intuitive, appealing and wrong.

Do the maths and you will see. If the ball costs 10c, then the total cost will be R1,20 (10c for the ball and R1,10 for the bat), not R1,10. The correct answer is 5c.

The purpose of the above puzzle is to observe your brain in autopilot and to note how intuitive impressions can hold great sway over our thoughts. In 1967, Dr Edward de Bono coined the term “lateral thinking” as a method of solving problems through an indirect and creative approach – a system of thinking that deliberately distances itself from intuitive, unconscious thought. “In the face of fast-changing trends, fierce competition and the need to work miracles despite tight budgets, better quality and service are not enough.

Creativity and innovation are the only engines that will drive lasting success,” De Bono famously declared. Lateral thinking, therefore, is a way of breaking free of traditional thinking patterns and solving problems via an indirect or creative approach, using reasoning that is not

always immediately obvious and involving ideas that may not be obtainable by using only step-by-step logic.

De Bono is the first to admit that creativity is a messy and confusing subject. At its simplest level, “creative” means bringing into being something that was not there before. Understanding the need for creativity in business and industry today is the easy part. The phrase “innovate or die” is frequently bandied about as a reference to the emergence of a new creative economy in which efficiency is no longer the game changer. When Steve Jobs returned to Apple after 12 years, the company needed a controversial $150 million investment from archrival Microsoft to stay afloat. Even worse, when asked what he would do were he in Jobs’s shoes, Michael Dell (of computer giant Dell Inc) said, “I’d shut [the company] down, and give the money back to shareholders.”

Rather than give up, Jobs was able to use these “indignities” to fuel an amazing comeback. In a very short period of time, Apple grew to become the most valuable company ever. Innovation – the ability to think out the box – was the magic ingredient that brought Apple back from the brink. And innovation remains the key source of the company’s competitive edge.

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tradition: the enemy of invention?

Where traditional notions argue that creativity takes place via a process of logical thinking, trial and error, feedback and reflection, De Bono and other lateralthinking proponents stress the need to take off the “blinkers” of past knowledge in order to look at things afresh. Sadly, De

with all their preconceived notions. How many times, while watching a child do something, do we remark afterwards, ‘I wouldn’t have done it that way,’ yet remain amazed at the success of the outcome?”

Unless creativity is nurtured in childhood, we grow up as adults too “afraid” to take intellectual risks and we constantly fall back on “what we were taught”, says Everitt.

Children are born with bucket loads of creativity and they constantly draw on this to solve problems they encounter every day.

Bono’s ideas run counter to many of the established “systems” of schooling and society as a whole, where a one-size-fitsall scenario frequently operates, says Niki Everitt, a Cape Town-based Montessori preschool teacher. “Whether this is due to the way teachers are trained, or because society expects everyone to conform, is a matter of debate, but teachers often have the perception that there is only one right way of doing things and that deviating from the set programme will lead to confusion or, worse, a greater workload for the teachers themselves,” says Everitt.

“But children also learn from their parents,

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Lianna Morrison, an educational psychologist based in the Overberg, agrees: “The ability to look at problems from various angles and solve them in sometimes unconventional ways differs considerably from our traditional schooling system, which focuses on clearly measurable outcomes. While there are teachers who try to introduce more creativity into lessons, this is not often successful in the long run as the constant fear of ‘will we be marked on this?’ is contrary to the creative process. Sure, it is easy to blame the school system, but the challenges that it faces in trying to ensure

serious creativity Educational psychologist Lianna Morrison suggests the following tools to increase your child’s ability to think laterally: • Encourage questions. Children need to ask questions about what they are being taught so that they can deepen their understanding of concepts. Teach them to ask the questions that no one else is asking.

• Creativity can be encouraged even in the traditional school setting; for example, maths and physics principles can be taught by giving children a bunch of straws, string and a marshmallow, with the goal of building the highest structure that can hold the marshmallow.

• Give children access to resources. These can be anything from paper and pencils to library cards, internet access or visits to museums.

• Let them work together, lead discussions and ask questions of one another.

Learning how to communicate one’s ideas in a respectful manner is as important as the ideas themselves.

• Let them try out their ideas. The annual Global Cardboard Challenge run by the Imagination Foundation (imagination.is) is an example of a fun, creative initiative that encourages children to put their ideas out there.

• Build the attributes that enhance creativity: confidence, curiosity, the freedom to explore and resourcefulness. Help them learn to silence their own inner critics.

that millions of children’s learning needs are met and standards maintained is not an easily solvable one. Therefore it is up to parents to create opportunities for children to be their creative selves.”

freedom to fail Not only is the ability to think laterally essential for challenging the established

status quo, but research also indicates that creativity is inextricably linked to the process of self-actualisation (the achievement of one’s full potential) and the building of self-esteem. Joburgbased educational psychologist Melanie Hartgill explains: “Childhood is perhaps the only time in one’s life that – hopefully – we won’t be criticised for thinking

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or doing things ‘differently’. As we all know, some of us function more with our right brains and some more with our left brains, some of us have a stronger auditory memory and some a stronger visual memory. So a young child needs to be given opportunities to experiment with different methods to find out what works best for him or her. Failure is as important a learning tool as success as it helps build self-confidence. And, as we know, self-confidence opens a lot of doors, even when ability is not one’s strongest point.”

One of the most widely held misconceptions about creativity, says Philippa Brinkmann who teaches at a prominent Cape Town junior school, is that only some children possess it: “Children are born with bucket loads of creativity and they constantly draw on this to solve problems they encounter every day: from finding a way to get their bodies across a room to learning to share a bar of chocolate with siblings so that everyone gets an equal amount. Creativity is not the sole possession of the ‘arty’ children.

A child who is organised and on top of her schoolwork has probably drawn on her creative powers to plan her learning process and manage her time well.

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Allowing children the space and time to explore ideas creatively develops logic and often they discover the need for planning and regulating their thought processes at the same time.”

According to De Bono, “Intelligence is something we are born with; thinking is a skill that must be learned.” Brainteasers, riddles and puzzles are great creative ways of getting children to think laterally, but so is providing them with everyday opportunities, tools and encouragement in a safe environment. “I remember watching a youngster mountain climbing with his dad down below holding the rope,” recalls Everitt. “The father wasn’t shouting up instructions to his son on how and where he should place his hands and feet, but was rather ‘there’ holding the rope should anything go wrong. The child chose his own route and method, according to his own ability, size and strength, and was really chuffed with himself when he reached the top, knowing that he had made a good plan and that no matter what, his father was there supporting him if need be. Surely that young boy will be better equipped to make good decisions in life than the boy who is constantly being steered in one direction only?”

brain games Great apps for children who need an extra brain-charged challenge: Pip and Posy Activities based on the Pip and Posy book series by Axel Scheffler, include colouring scenes with drawing tools, matching pairs, “spot the differences” games and jigsaw puzzles for different ability levels. Age: 3 years Pettson’s Inventions Twenty-seven puzzles contain various imaginary machines that allow children to combine sets of pulleys, gears, belts, weights (plus some air-puffing and fire-breathing creatures) into working “inventions”. Age: 5 years Questimate! Pro An estimation game in which children make up their own questions (there are various categories, from Amazing Animals to GeoOdyssey) and then challenge friends or family. Age: 7 years Hairy Balls Place your balls strategically to solve the puzzles in this addictive game that challenges the brain while developing planning and spatial reasoning skills. It includes quirky characters and an original soundtrack. Ages: 10 to 12 years

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joan’s refreshing summer salad Serves 6

There’s an interesting story to this recipe, originating with my late Aunt Joan, who was very proud of it. While on a diet, she wondered what she could concoct from the “legitimate” ingredients in her kitchen and came up with the following refreshingly different salad.

picnic pleasers A picnic is casual entertaining at its best, PHOTOGRAPHS: Sean Calitz

and one that appeals to families with young children. Once you’ve found the perfect spot, these recipes from JANET KOHLER’S Perfect Parties are sure to delight everyone.

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ingredients • 1 x 400g can chickpeas, drained and rinsed • 1 English cucumber, peeled and finely chopped (deseed if you intend to keep the salad for more than a couple of hours) • 1 red pepper (or ½ red and ½ yellow, ideally for colour), deseeded and finely diced • 2 medium apples (Golden Delicious or firm red apples), diced • 15–30ml fresh lemon juice (for squeezing over apple to prevent discolouration) • ½ small onion, finely chopped (optional)

• 30ml mayonnaise* • salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste

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If you’re watching your calories, substitute normal mayonnaise with a reduced-fat version.

method 1 Simply mix all the ingredients together.

2 Store in the fridge until required.

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crunchy oat and chocolate biscuits Makes ± 18

This is an adaptation of an old recipe from Bredasdorp in the Southern Cape.

My family always asks me to make a batch for padkos whenever we set off for a picnic or holiday.

5 Bake for 20–30 minutes then remove from the oven. Pour over the chocolate topping while the biscuit base is still warm.

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ingredients • ± 45ml milk • 15ml butter (salted or unsalted) • 260g icing sugar, sifted • 30ml cocoa powder • 5ml vanilla extract

ingredients • 230g butter (preferably unsalted) or margarine • 100g granulated white sugar • 120g desiccated coconut • 40g rolled oats • 210g cake flour • pinch of salt • 15ml cocoa powder • 8ml baking powder method 1 Preheat the oven to 180°C. 2 Melt the butter, add the sugar, and stir to combine.

3 Stir in the coconut and oats, then sift in the flour, salt, cocoa powder and baking powder. Combine well and knead a little.

4 Press mixture into a 22cm greased or greaseproof paper-lined square tin; use the back of a spoon (or potato masher) to level the mixture.

chocolate topping

method 1 Combine all the ingredients in a saucepan and bring to the boil, stirring, then remove from the heat.

2 Pour the hot topping over the baked biscuit crust, tilting the pan so that the chocolate coats the surface.* 3 While the crust is still warm, cut the biscuit into squares, but leave them to cool and set completely before removing from the pan.

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If the mixture is too thick to pour, add a bit more milk. You can substitute chocolate ganache for this topping.

rustic italian antipasti picnic loaf Serves 4–6

In Europe, this is a popular choice for a picnic, and has huge visual appeal when you cut out a slice. It can be made several hours ahead of the picnic or even the night before. ingredients • 1 round artisan loaf of bread, about 23cm in diameter • ± 20ml basil pesto or ± 60g cream cheese • baby spinach leaves to line the base of the loaf (optional) • ± 250g buffalo mozzarella, sliced into rounds • a choice of Italian cold meats e.g. salami, Parma ham, mortadella, coppa • a selection of roasted vegetables e.g. roasted red and yellow bell

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peppers, roasted beetroot, grilled aubergine and preserved artichoke hearts (drained) ripe tomatoes or baby rosa tomatoes, sliced a handful of basil leaves seasoning to taste balsamic glaze (optional)

method 1 Cut out a lid from the top of the bread (reserve this for later). Scoop out some of the centre of the loaf (use for making croutons or breadcrumbs). Don’t scoop out too much, or the loaf will fall apart.

2 Spread some basil pesto or cream cheese over the bottom of the hollowed-out loaf.

3 Layer the various ingredients, starting with those that are firmer and have less moisture (such as the spinach or cheese) to prevent the base from becoming too soft or soggy. Season each layer.

4 Top the final layer with pesto or a little balsamic glaze.

5 Replace the lid and wrap the loaf firmly with clingfilm. You can use a can or two to weigh it down slightly.

Serve it 4–6 hours later, cutting into thick slices.

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my stand-by quiche recipe Serves 8

This faithful recipe is versatile, freezes beautifully and tastes as if it’s just been baked when reheated. The recipe can be made into individual quiches (simply place the pastry into non-stick muffin trays, chill in the fridge, then fill and bake).

cheese pastry ingredients • 155g cake flour • 90g cold butter, cut into smallish cubes • 60g Cheddar cheese, grated • 30–45ml cold water method 1 Preheat the oven to 190°C. 2 Process the flour and butter in a food processor for about 15 seconds, until crumbly. Alternatively, use your fingers to rub the butter into the flour.

3 Add the cheese and water. Process in short bursts until the mixture comes together. Add a little extra water if necessary.

4 Turn out the dough onto a floured surface and gather into a ball.

Cover with clingfilm and refrigerate for at least 30 minutes.

5 Roll out the dough to fit a 22cm diameter pastry case and place in the fridge to rest for 10–20 minutes before baking.

6 Line with paper and fill with baking beans. Bake the pastry case blind for about 10 minutes until the edges are just starting to colour. Remove the paper and baking beans and bake for a further 10 minutes until the base is firm and dried out slightly.

basic quiche custard ingredients • 3 eggs • 250ml cream (or half milk, half cream) • salt and freshly ground black pepper • 15ml chopped fresh mixed herbs (e.g. rosemary, parsley, thyme) • ± 75g grated cheese (e.g. mature Cheddar) • paprika for sprinkling method 1 Preheat the oven to 180°C. 2 Whisk the eggs and milk or cream lightly together, add seasoning and herbs, then pour over the filling of your choice.

3 Sprinkle over some grated cheese and a little paprika, then bake for approximately 40 minutes.

filling variations • Roasted Mediterranean vegetables drizzled with olive oil (bake for about 45 minutes until just tender) • Roasted sweet potato and butternut with feta • Freshly grated courgettes • Roasted butternut, Gorgonzola (or any other blue cheese) and cherry tomatoes • Roasted vegetables with red onion marmalade • Mushroom and bacon: fry 200g chopped bacon or pancetta in a little olive oil, and sauté a punnet of sliced mushrooms with 1–2 cloves garlic. Combine, then add to the basic quiche custard in the recipe.

about the book In Perfect Parties (Random House Struik) Janet Kohler presents a dazzling array of inspirational party ideas, complemented by delicious recipes. Janet also guides readers through every aspect of the party, whether it’s a birthday, engagement, picnic, baby shower, wedding or high tea. It’s all there – from choosing a theme and finding appropriate decor, right down to step-by-step recipes. The author is a trained cordon bleu chef who runs her own cookery school from home in Durban. This lavishly illustrated book is available at all good bookstores for R325.

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your child’s life

playing to win Choosing extramurals can be a balancing act, but the end goal is to nurture happy, motivated children. TAMLYN VINCENT offers some guidelines.

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Bruwer and Tzanos. They also learn how to win and lose gracefully, and how to deal with their frustrations.

Children should choose which extramurals they do, which lets them develop their unique interests, find their identity, and discover personal strengths, says Joburg-based occupational therapist Susan Holland. Extramurals help develop self-esteem, determination and confidence, while encouraging children to commit and persevere. Holland says these are essential life lessons “as children learn to experience failure, disappointment and the value of continued hard work”.

balancing act Not only will schools offer sports and after-school activities, but private classes are often available. So, do you sign your child up for everything, hoping that this will give him the best opportunity to develop?

No, say the sports coordinators at Thomas More College (TMC) in Kloof; children that take too many extramurals could be at a magazine cape town

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ow many extramurals does your child do every week? Don’t forget to count school sports, social clubs and other organised activities. Throw in school and homework, and some children are working longer days than their parents.

We all know extramurals are important, not just for physical development, but also for improving social skills. The focus, however, should be on choosing the correct, and the right number, of extramurals for your child.

Many extramurals give children the much-needed chance to exercise, which has benefits like building strength and increasing stamina. Exercise also builds muscles, which is important for children who struggle with low postural tone, say Lourdes Bruwer and Carly Tzanos, both of whom are occupational therapists and moms. Other extramurals let children explore more creative avenues or particular interests. Team sports and group activities show children how to work with others by taking turns, and learning about and following the rules, say

disadvantage. Children need a balance between homework and extramurals, and taking on too much too early can leave them disinterested or at risk of burnout.

Children also need time to be children.

Pamela, a Durban mom of two, ensures that her daughters’ time isn’t filled with organised activities. “Children also need to be outside swimming, playing and visiting friends,” she says.

them take a short break, but they go back and finish the year.

Every child is different, so consider each one separately and choose extramurals based on their individual strengths and weaknesses, says Holland. Younger children can join classes that don’t take too much time, or tire them out. Older children should be encouraged to continue with their choice of extramural, without giving

In a balanced day children can achieve something, learn new things and grow at their own pace.

But there are no hard and fast rules about how to achieve a balance.

Children’s personalities, time factors and family dynamics all impact on how many extramurals they can comfortably take on.

“If extramurals interfere with homework, or negatively affect family routine, this should be a red flag to parents,” says Holland. When children stop enjoying their extramurals, or when they lack motivation to do everyday tasks, then the balance probably isn’t right.

Holland says that homework should be a priority, plus children should have free time every day. They shouldn’t feel stressed or anxious about what they need to fit into a day, advises Holland. “In a balanced day children can achieve something, learn new things, and grow at their own pace.”

choosing wisely With so much on offer, how do you choose? Start with the activities children are interested in, say Bruwer and Tzanos.

Tell children what their options are and give them a say as they are the ones that need to commit to the activity. But the TMC sports coordinators caution that there shouldn’t be a choice of not doing an extramural; parents should encourage their children to participate in at least one activity a week, preferably a team one. Pamela’s daughters have to nag her for at least a term so she knows they are really interested, and only then will she assess costs, times and other details. She also asks them to commit to the extramural for a year. If their interest wanes, she encourages them and may let

up. Children should have fun with their extramurals, and activities that play to their strengths can build self-esteem. On the flip side, extramurals that improve children’s weaknesses can have a positive impact on development, as long as children enjoy them. These types of activities may even be recommended by a professional. In this case, say Bruwer and Tzanos, it’s important to help children understand how the activity will help them, and ensure they are given one that is challenging enough to keep them motivated, but not too difficult that they want to give up.

Too much pressure takes away some of the enjoyment.

If you have children that want to try everything, give them a limited number of choices, say Bruwer and Tzanos. And introduce one at a time so they can adjust easily. Extramurals outside of school can help shy children make new friends and build confidence. Privately-run activities also offer something that the school may not cater for, which children may love. But the TMC sports coordinators recommend that children sign up for at least one school extramural, so they can benefit from the social interaction and teamwork.

Extramurals are essential for creating well-balanced children. But finding the right balance for each child is equally important, remembering that children still have school, homework and playtime to get to. If children are happy, motivated and learning something new, then you know you’ve made the right choice.

budgeting tips • M ake sure children really want to do an activity before signing them up. Let them wait it out a bit, so you know they’re motivated, before committing.

• Set aside a budget and stick to it.

• Do your research and watch out for hidden expenses.

• Borrow or buy second-hand equipment until children show dedication.

• Try it at home first – ask friends or family to help teach or coach children. Or hire a tutor or high school student for a group of children.

• Get a lift club going for extramurals outside of school.

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world’s

best dad Children need their fathers to be invested in their lives from day one. MARC DE CHAZAL gathers some advice to help new dads make the most of the wonderful journey of fatherhood.

Toddlers can’t express themselves very well, and as they are curious little creatures, they tend to take on more than they can handle. change a nappy like a boss “The first thing to do is try to find someone else to change the nappy,” says Lee Farrell, father to Bella (5), and Eden (2). “This can be done in a number of ways, the most popular being the finders-keepers rule. If this fails then preparation is the key. Do not remove the fasteners of the soiled nappy without having all the necessary paraphernalia laid out within easy reach. The younger the child the more dangerous this operation will be. When they are young the poo can be quite runny. So before unfastening, check that there are no leakages to contend with. If you find any, place the fully clothed child directly into the bath and call for help. If you’re in the clear, then make sure to have a nappy bag, wet wipes and a clean nappy within your reach, but out of the baby’s reach. Carefully unfasten the

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nappy and clean up as much as you can before removing it. Immediately put the clean nappy under the child; they have a knack for urinating if they know there is no nappy under them. Then, one more wipe for good measure and fasten the new nappy. You’re done!”

courage under fire You don’t just need to keep your wits about you while changing a wriggling infant’s nappy. There are spills and thrills aplenty in childhood. Don’t panic, you’ve got this…

You’re going to have to deal with a toddler meltdown at some point. Toddlers can’t express themselves very well, and as they are curious little creatures, they tend to take on more than they can handle. A tantrum is more than likely.

To defuse one, you can try being silly (dads are usually good at it), distract them, ignore it or leave the scene. If you understand the cause – usually frustration or being overwhelmed – you can handle it better.

Most young children will get bumps, scrapes and bruises. It’s normal. But what should you do if it’s more serious? It’s not always easy to know when to call an ambulance, but definitely do so if your child stops breathing or is unconscious. You should get her to the ER if she is having difficulty breathing, has severe abdominal pain, has a cut that won’t stop bleeding, has injured a limb and can’t use it, or has swallowed pills or poison.

Always carry a fully-stocked first-aid kit in your car in case of emergencies and know what to do if your child has something stuck up his nose, has a cut, gets burned or has a fit.

To find a first aid course, browse childmag.co.za/ resources/first-aid-courses

Speaking of cars and children, your patience is going to be tested while driving, especially on long trips. The trick is to keep them entertained. Games and age-appropriate movies on a tablet are a no-brainer. Audiobooks and music also work, as do games such as count the lampposts or white cars (lots of those on the road). And always make sure your children are strapped into their seats and that you’ve properly fitted the baby car seat.

fun times Greg Andrews, father to Katy (9), and Grace (6), often takes his daughters outdoors to find the fun. A favourite spot is in a park near to home that has a stream and a small dam, with a watery rock slide a bit further up that’s easy to access. And Greg always has plenty of large (or small) colourful chunks of chalk on hand, which they use to create street art on pavements or in parking lots. He’s also a fan of pepakura, a type of paper craft in which flat paper models are cut out, folded, and otherwise constructed into hollow models in three dimensions. “Google it… and descend down the rabbit hole,” he says wryly.

One of their favourite outings is a train trip along the southern line from Cape Town to Simon’s Town. “A little planning is required because of train timetables and making sure we have enough snacks and stuff to do along the way, such as colouring-in books or something to read,” says Greg. “It’s always educational meeting different people on the train, especially travelling ‘third class’,” he says.

A bus trip can also be fun and educational. The City Sightseeing Red Bus tours are a great way to get around your city with children, but Greg says you’ll be surprised how much children also love a ride on a Golden Arrow bus.

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he moment a man gingerly holds his child for the first time is quite possibly the most awe-inspiring and terrifying event of his life. “It is much easier to become a father than to be one,” Kent Nerburn aptly put it in Letters to My Son: Reflections on Becoming a Man. It takes work to be a great dad, but the reward is worth it.

Here’s some advice for new dads from fathers who have, for the most part, bumbled along this fantastic journey like everyone else before them.

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It’s possible to still be a great dad if you find yourself going solo one day. For Angus Begg, it all comes down to time.

“At about 6:40am recently, my five year old, Fynn, asked if I could read him an excerpt from Tintin’s Crab With the Golden Claws,” Angus recalls. “It was the story-frame in the Sahara desert, where Captain Haddock is on a camel with the ubiquitous bottle of grog raised to his lips. He is about to drink when the bottle explodes, hit by a bullet fired by a Bedouin horseman. Fynn wanted to know every detail, with each sequence explained: ‘And then what happened?

And then? Why? How?’ Each frame was explained until Haddock and Tintin ended up in a life boat being shot at by devilish baddies in a seaplane… until I realised I still had to make breakfast, brush teeth – ‘and gargle Dad’ – before getting him to school. While it makes him feel valued, loved and heard, for the Lone Ranger Dad this time spent is priceless.

“There is no right age to have a vasectomy,” says Dr Anthony Martin Grizic, a urologist practicing at Chelmsford Medical Centre in Durban. “The decision should be taken by a couple when they have made up their minds that they definitely don’t want any more children. However, I think it’s unwise to do it younger than 30 years old,” adds Grizic.

“A vasectomy can technically be reversed, but you should consider it irreversible.”

Once you’ve decided to get the snip, you can opt to have the procedure done under local or general anaesthetic. Either way, you’ll be discharged the same day.

A sperm count should be done around two months after the procedure and again at about the three-month mark to ensure you are sterile.

Your patience is going to be tested while driving, especially on long trips.

“No less important in the ‘lessons learnt’ stakes has been allowing him to fail and observing his joy at success,” says Angus, “whether expressed as quiet triumph or an elated whoop, like when we removed the trainer wheels from his bike.”

Angus admits that time for a single dad is never enough, “but it achieves an intensity the regular dad can barely imagine”.

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show me the money Children are not only hard work; they can burn a spectacular hole in your wallet. But you’re smart. You’re going to start saving for your child’s education as soon as possible, especially for high school and tertiary education, which tends to increase in cost annually by 4% above the rate of inflation. One way to get a head start is to take your annual bonus and put it into an RA. Each year thereafter, top it up with the money you get back from the taxman plus the amount by which your bonus exceeds the previous year’s bonus. Whatever education plan you opt for, the important thing is to get going sooner rather than later.

You can also open an investment in your child’s name, which will teach him the importance of saving as well as the remarkable power of compounding interest. One of the simplest places to start is with an index-tracking fund.

You can invest as little as R300 per month or a lump sum of R1 000.

You’ll also need appropriate medical aid cover for your family. Medical bills can quickly pile up for young families who find themselves in their paediatrician’s waiting room every other week.

Also speak to your financial advisor about a good life policy and update your will. Hopefully you’ll still be around to walk your grandchildren to the park one day, but in case you aren’t, rather leave your family a legacy than a financial burden.

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uy a newspaper the day your child is born.

B Schedule a date night once a month.

If your baby is on the bottle, share the night shift.

Help out around the house.

Babyproof your house before the toddler stage.

Time spent with your child is not babysitting.

bookmarks • L ove Sex Fleas God by Bruce Clark (Published

by Umuzi) • Help! I’m a Dad by Nick Harper (Published by Michael O’Mara Books Limited) • I Will Fart on Your Dreams by Lee Farrell (Available on Amazon’s Kindle platform)

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sea, sand and sunshine On most resort islands there is a wealth of things to see and do while enjoying the exclusivity and seclusion it offers. MARINA ZIETSMAN has picked some of the best family-friendly island getaways around the globe. south pacific

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part in traditional Fijian lali drum sessions.

Family activities include banana boat rides, kayaking, paddle boarding, the Monoriki Island Tour (or Tom Hanks Island, where Cast Away was filmed), volleyball, handline fishing at sunset and more. Parents can indulge in lots of island activities, such as scuba diving, snorkelling, island tours, deep sea fishing, surfing and more, or simply find a hammock and tuck into a book.

Accommodation The resort has traditional thatched-roof bures, or bungalows. The family bures are specifically for larger groups who need some extra space. These can sleep up to 10 people. They also have a set family dinnertime where the children can choose from a buffet with a large variety of popular dishes, giving parents a chance to sip on a cocktail nearby.

Best time to go May to September For more info Visit castawayfiji.com

Destination St Lucia, part of the Lesser Antilles, south Caribbean Drawcard St Lucia is really two islands in one, with lots of small, luxurious resorts, mostly in the north, and old plantations, hidden beaches and the geological wonder of the Piton Mountains in the southern regions.

For families You can drive through a volcano, hike in the Pitons and the rainforest, visit the Sulphur Springs of Soufriere and explore the Caribbean coral reef. St Lucia stands apart from the rest of the Caribbean islands due to its varied landscape and diverse culture and cuisine, which is distinguished by African, Indian, Caribbean, British, Spanish and French influences. For the active traveller there is snorkelling in the ocean, and a wide range of water sports.

The beaches have soft sand and the water

fast fact Fiji was once known as Cannibal Isles, as cannibalism was rife on the island until the late 1800s. The indigenous tribes believed that eating an enemy inflicted the ultimate humiliation.

is warm for swimming. You can take a family sailboat down the island’s coast, go on whale and dolphin-watching expeditions and glass-bottomed boat trips. There are also rainforest nature trails suitable for families with young children. The Pigeon Island National Park has two beautiful beaches, military ruins, a lookout point at the top of the fort and an Interpretive Centre where you can learn about the rich history of the island. Teenagers can enjoy rainforest treks, ziplining over the tree canopy or riding a Segway along a nature trail. Horseback riding on the beach is also popular, as is kite surfing.

Accommodation Several hotels cater for families with children’s clubs and menus, as well as adjoining rooms and childfocused activities. Babysitting services are

available at some locations. Some hotels also feature water parks.

Best time to go In mid-December to April the weather is ideal, but the rates are higher. Summer and autumn is the wet season and hurricane season runs from June to November.

For more info Visit stlucianow.com

fast fact Despite its population of only 176 000, there are two Saint Lucian Nobel Prize winners: Arthur Lewis for economics and Derek Walcott for literature.

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Destination Castaway Island, situated in the heart of the Mamanuca group of islands, Fiji Drawcard It offers a nature experience with all the comforts of a resort hotel. The island has an area of 70 hectares and is only inhabited on one side where the tourist resort is situated. It is surrounded by coral reefs, with magnificent sea life and beautiful beaches. The Castaway Island Resort has won numerous travel awards.

For families The island resort has a Kids’ Club that is open from 9am until 10pm every day. Children from the age of three years old enjoy all sorts of fun island discoveries with an emphasis on naturebased play. They can play games like poison ball and traffic lights, and take part in ice-cream eating competitions. They can also enjoy more island-based activities such as crab hunting and snorkelling lessons, as well as getting dressed up for the torch-lighting ceremony and taking

mediterranean Destination Malta, southern Europe Drawcard Summer time in Malta is all about outdoor living, but there is much more to Malta than sea and sand. It has a rich history dating back thousands of years and is also a popular destination for concerts, open-air music events, art and crafts fairs, exhibitions, shows, feasts and carnivals.

For families With warm weather year-round as well as being considered one of the safest places in the world (it regularly ranks as one of the top 10 safest destinations on international crime indexes), Malta is the ideal holiday for families. Satisfy your cultural cravings and visit prehistoric temples, Roman ruins, medieval castles, forts, ancient churches and chapels. Some of these locations have regular enactments of history, complete with costumes and events. Malta is famous for diving and snorkelling, and thanks to the weather, there is plenty to do, ranging from rock climbing, caving, golf, tennis and horse riding to windsurfing, kayaking, jet-skiing, waterskiing, wakeboarding, paragliding, water polo, canoeing, fishing, yachting and sailing.

Accommodation There is a wide variety of accommodation to choose from: hotels, campsites, farmhouses, guesthouses, flats, hostels, villas and two tourist villages. Of the latter, Mellieha Holiday Centre has a children’s club. The other, Wardija Hilltop Village, was carved out of a hill, which gives it panoramic views of the sea. Both villages have dedicated children’s areas.

Best time to go July to September is around 30°C, but May/June and October/ November is less busy and cooler (27°C).

For more info Visit visitmalta.com and maltababyandkids.com

fast fact Malta consists of three islands: Gozo, Comino and Malta. Comino, the smallest of the three, is virtually uninhabited, save one hotel, and is carless.

south indian ocean Destination Mauritius Drawcard The flight there is only three hours from Durban, four hours from Joburg and five hours from Cape Town.

For families A ring of coral reefs surrounds almost the entire coastline of Mauritius and forms many shallow lagoons, rich with white coral sand beaches and dunes.

Mauritius is also a malaria-free zone. The beaches are long and uncrowded and the island has unusual wildlife and fauna. Most resorts are child-friendly, with children’s clubs, and the shallow waters are ideal for little ones. Naturally, Mauritius is popular for its water sports, from dolphin-watching cruises to snorkelling, scuba diving, surfing and rafting. Inland there are nature reserves, Segway tours, cultural villages and culinary tours, hiking tours, the Mauritius Aquarium and several water parks.

Accommodation Mauritius has plenty of superb hotels and resorts, which are convenient, have children’s clubs with

activities, and all amenities in-house. If you’d prefer not to go this route, opt for holiday apartments, villas, B&Bs, beach cottages, penthouses, inns, or tree lodges and luxury tent options.

Best time to go The island has a classic tropical climate with warm sunny weather virtually all year round. May to December is recommended as it’s not too humid.

February and March gets the most rain.

For more info Visit mauritius.net

fast fact Mark Twain allegedly said: “You gather the idea that Mauritius was created first, and then heaven; and that heaven was copied after Mauritius.”

north indian ocean Destination The Maldives, an island nation in the Indian Ocean/Arabian Sea region, consisting of 26 atolls.

Drawcard Year-round sunshine, warm water, water sports, top dive sites, a safe environment and barefoot luxury.

For families The Maldives used to have the reputation of a honeymooners’ retreat,

fast fact The Maldives is a strictly Muslim nation, and obeying local laws and traditions is a requirement.

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but that is rapidly changing with more and more islands and resorts catering specifically for families. The Maldives has excellent diving spots and many of the family-friendly resorts have certified PADI diving centres, which offer ageappropriate scuba courses for children and teenagers. Most resorts and hotels with children’s clubs offer surfing lessons, cookery classes, art and crafts sessions with local materials, treasure hunts, nature walks and more, as well as indoor activities such as films and computer games.

Water sports include windsurfing, catamaran sailing, banana boat riding, waterskiing, parasailing, fun tubes and canoeing.

Accommodation Find out beforehand which islands are child-friendly. Some islands do not, for example, allow children under the age of eight years old. Resorts will also be wary of allowing parents with children to stay in over-water villas. But there are enough resorts with beachfront cabins, which makes it more relaxing for parents to lounge on their private veranda and watch the children play on the beach.

Best time to go From December to April you’ll miss the rain, but it’s the peak season.

For more info Visit visitmaldives.com and for a list of child-friendly islands, visit tripadvisor.com

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Zoe and Beans – Pirate Treasure!

By Chloë and Mick Inkpen

Red, Blue, Peekaboo!

By Georgie Birkett (Published by Campbell Books, R93) This is a lift-the-flap book with soft, touch-and-feel felt for toddlers up to the age of three years old. Play hideand-seek around the house and find out who’s hiding behind the red curtains, the cuddly brown bear and the funny orange hat. With soft and colourful touch-and-feel felt flaps on every page, this interactive book is also a great way to learn about colours. Another delightful book of discovery by the same illustrator is Peekaboo! Where are you?

(Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R93) In this book for children up to the age of five years old, our heroes go on a seaside adventure. Zoe, Beans and their friend Oscar have got buckets and spades and they’re ready to search for buried pirate treasure. But digging is hard work and treasure is difficult to find.

It looks like it’s up to clever Beans to sniff something out. This is the perfect summer read, and children will love joining in the hunt for pirate treasure in this sunny, fun-filled seaside story.

Jeff and George and the Totem Pole

By Emily Child and Julia Anastasopoulos (Published by Penguin SA, R123) This entertaining book illustrates the unusual friendship between a boy and a springbok that live in a flat in Cape Town. Jeff loves to organise things; George loves to dream of green grass.

They share an overwhelming passion for rugby, adventure and imaginative problem-solving.

Scholastic Activities – Holiday Sticker Activity Book

By Steven Wood (Published by Scholastic, R98) With tons of stickers, doodling, colouring and puzzles, this is the perfect activity book for children from five to seven years old. Are you in the mood for holiday play? This book will keep you busy on the plane, on the beach and by the poolside. Even if you stay home, you’ll feel as if you’re walking down a seaside promenade. The pictures are vibrant and colourful, just like a bright and breezy holiday snapshot.

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The Zog Activity Book

By Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler (Published by Scholastic, R162) Everyone’s favourite dragon is back – and now children aged three to eight years old can join in the fun. This activity book is based on the best-selling book Zog. It includes a press-out dragon mobile, a press-out crown, make-yourown Egg-Box Zog activity, reusable stickers, recipes, finger puppets, postcards, colouring-in, dot-to-dots, spot the difference, mazes, simple word searches and more.

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The Roald Dahl Treasury

By Roald Dahl

True or False?

By Andrea Mills

(Published by Random House Group, R261) Whether a beautiful gift for the Dahl fan or a stunning introduction to Roald Dahl’s work, this superb hardback is jam-packed with complete picture tales, as well as excerpts from longer stories, poetry (some previously unpublished), autobiographical material and letters. It is also filled with outstanding artwork from Quentin Blake, Raymond Briggs, Posy Simmonds, Ralph Steadman, Patrick Benson, Charlotte Voake, Lane Smith and Babette Cole, among others.

(Published by Dorling Kindersley, R296) Do we only use 10% of our brains? Does lightning ever strike the same place twice?

Does spinach make you stronger? Was the T-Rex the biggest dinosaur? Consult this encyclopaedia and find out whether these common beliefs are true or false. Packed with fun facts for children, statistics and common sayings, it covers lots of weird topics and fascinating information, from animals and people to space and science.

The book is also filled with colourful pictures, photographs and infographics.

Diary of a Wimpy Kid – The Long Haul

By Jeff Kinney (Published by Penguin SA, R161) A family road trip is supposed to be lots of fun, unless, of course, you’re the Heffleys. The journey starts off full of promise, but then quickly takes several wrong turns – petrol station bathrooms, crazed seagulls, a fenderbender and a runaway pig – not exactly Greg Heffley’s idea of a good time. But even the worst road trip can turn into an adventure, and this is one the Heffleys won’t soon forget. magazine cape town

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The Runaways

By Elizabeth Goudge (Published by Hesperus Press, R161) When four orphaned children run away from their tyrannical grandmother, they begin a great adventure. Locked away in separate rooms as punishment by their ruthless grandmother, Nan, Robert, Timothy and Betsy decide to make their escape. Their pony leads them to a house that belongs to their Uncle Ambrose. Gruff but loveable Uncle Ambrose agrees to take them under his wing, letting the children have free rein in his sprawling manor house and the surrounding countryside.

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Get Plucky with the Ukulele

By Will Grove-White

The Imaginary

By A.F. Harrold and Emily Gravett (Published by Bloomsbury, R157) Rudger is Amanda’s best friend. He doesn’t exist. Only Amanda can see her imaginary friend – until the sinister Mr Bunting arrives at Amanda’s door. Mr Bunting hunts imaginaries. Rumour has it that he eats them, and he’s sniffed out Rudger. Soon Rudger is alone, and running for his imaginary life. But can a boy who isn’t there survive without a friend to dream him up? This is a brilliantly funny, scary and moving read, with beautiful illustrations by the awardwinning Emily Gravett.

Urgle

By Meaghan McIsaac (Published by Andersen Press, R130) Abandoned at birth, the Brothers of the Ikkuma Pit know no mothers. They fend for themselves, each training their Little Brother to survive – until they grow into men and it’s time for their Leaving Day. No boy knows what’s beyond the forest.

No Brother who has left has ever come back. Until now… This is an imaginative and original read for children from the age of 12 years old.

(Published by Octopus Publishing Group, R260) For millions of people around the world, the ukulele is becoming the instrument of desire: a revolution in music is happening under our noses and its weapon of choice is a vertically challenged guitar. The beauty of the ukulele is that it’s quick to learn, inexpensive and one of the most portable instruments – plus, it makes a surprisingly acceptable ping-pong bat.

This light-hearted book includes tips on how to choose the right ukulele, how to hold it, tune it and play it, and also gives you tunes to learn.

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parenting Becoming the Boss

By Lindsey Pollak

The Last Days of Rabbit Hayes

By Anna McPartlin

I Am Malala

By Malala Yousafzai with Christina Lamb

The Allergy-free Baby & Toddler Book

By Charlotte Muquit and Adam Fox

(Published by Harper Collins, R222) In her latest book, a New York Times bestseller, Pollak reinvents the concept of management for a new generation, offering a fresh and relevant approach to career success that shows them how to take the next step: becoming a leader. Written exclusively for Generation Y readers to address their unique needs, this book is a brisk, tech-savvy success manual filled with real-world, actionable tips.

(Published by Random House Group, R257) Rabbit Hayes loves her life, ordinary as it is, and the extraordinary people in it.

She loves her spirited daughter, Juliet; her colourful, unruly family; and the only man in her big heart, Johnny Faye. But it turns out the world has other plans for Rabbit, and she’s okay with that, because she has plans for the world too, and only a handful of days left to make them happen.

(Published by Orion Publishing, R142) In October 2012, a 15-year-old Pakistani girl was shot in the face at point-blank range because she had the temerity to stand up to the Taliban. That girl, Malala Yousafzai, survived the brutal attack, and the shocking story made headlines around the world. Overnight, Malala became a global symbol of peaceful protest and education for all. She was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize, the youngest person ever to be singled out in that way.

(Published by Random House Group, R257) This book explains everything you need to know about allergies, from navigating the diagnosis process to the practical steps you can take to manage it in the long term. You’ll also find 30 delicious allergyfree recipes. Comprehensive, accessible and informative, The Allergy-Free Baby & Toddler Book gives parents the knowledge and reassurance they need to stop allergies getting in the way of a fun, full and active childhood.

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see.

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Museum Night Experience Cape Town’s inaugural museum night and walk between museums in and around the Company’s Garden.

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You Bet Your Life! Following rave reviews at the 2014 National Arts Festival opening of this South African musical, Cape Town is in for a treat.

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Babies Read Books storytelling programme Master storyteller Sharon Geffen performs every second Tuesday.

March for Milk with Milk Matters This involves you paying a small fee and walking along the Sea Point Promenade to raise awareness of not only breastfeeding but donor breast milk.

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Weintaufe Harvest Celebration The beautifully appointed wine estate, Eikendal, livens up with its annual celebration of superb wines, good food and alfresco family fun.

tasting from the barrel, children under 12 years old free. Contact: 021 855 1422 or info@eikendal.co.za

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4 wednesday The Chaeli Campaign’s Ability Festival A programme of top-class theatre, dance and great music from South African artists. This family festival aims to grow the conversation about disability in South Africa. Ends 7 March. Time: varies. Venue: Masque Theatre, Muizenberg. Cost: R50 single show, R100 for a double bill. Contact: 021 788 1898, bookings@masquetheatre. co.za or visit chaelicampaign.co.za 4 March – The Chaeli Campaign’s Ability Festival

SPECIAL EVENTS 1 sunday Kirstenbosch Summer Sunset Concerts 1 March: Goldfish. Cost: adults R135 and 6–21 year olds R100. 8 March: Mi Casa.

Cost: adults R135 and 6–21 year olds R100.

15 March: Al Bairre and Shortstraw. Cost: adults R100 and 6–21 year olds R75. 18 March: Ben Howard. Cost: R465 each. 21 March: GoodLuck. Cost: adults R135 and 6–21 year olds R100. 22 March: Beatenberg and Gangs of Ballet. Cost: adults R100 and 6–21 year olds R75. 29 March: Johnny Clegg. Cost: adults R160 and 6–21 year olds R130. Children 6–21 years old must present their ID books. Time: 4pm gates open, 5:30pm–7pm concert. Venue: Kirstenbosch National Botanical Garden. Book through Webtickets: visit webtickets.co.za Weintaufe Harvest Celebration Head out to Eikendal, when the wine estate livens up with its annual celebration of superb wines, good food and alfresco family fun. The spotlight falls on the wine farm’s flagship Chardonnay 2015 as well as the new Cucina di Giovanni restaurant. Other attractions include live music, tractor rides through the vineyards, golfing action at the water’s edge, cheetah viewing and lucky draws while the little ones are kept busy with a jumping castle, a jungle gym and face painting. Time: 10am–5pm. Venue: Eikendal Wine Estate, R44 between Stellenbosch and Somerset West. Cost: adults R40, which includes a free glass and

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7 saturday Cape Town Cycle Tour Juniors The event promises fun, prizes and great activities for all ages. Youngsters 0–6 years old can enjoy a 1,7km safe and fun ride. Children 6–12 years old can tackle the 2,5km, 5km, 7,5km or 10km routes. Parents must accompany the 1,7km route entrants on foot, while the participants tackling one of the longer routes can be accompanied by a parent on a bike. Time: 8am. Venue: Youngsfield Military Base, Wynberg. For more info: visit cycletour.co.za Barleycorn Music Festival The Barleycorn Music Club is celebrating its 40th anniversary. Acts include Flat Stanley and Albert Frost, amongst many others. Time: 6pm. Venue: Baxter Theatre, Main Rd, Rondebosch Cost: adults R100, students, scholars and pensioners R80. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com or for more info: 082 493 1564 or visit barleycorn.org.za

Constantia Waldorf Fair The theme is the “adventure playground” with water-sliding, skateboarding, human foosball and more on offer. There is acoustic lounge chill-out space and the main stage show will feature live music, the Jungle Theatre and well-known comedian Rob van Vuuren. 21 March. Time: 11am–5pm.

Venue: Spaanschemat River Rd. Cost: adults R30 and children R10. For more info: visit waldorfconstantia.org.za

14 saturday Cape Town Carnival The carnival is a celebration of African identity, showcasing the diverse communities and cultures of our country. This year’s theme is Elemental, celebrating fire, water, air and earth. A colourful parade introduces the audience to more than 32 floats and acts, each carefully built, decorated and choreographed to embody the theme. Over 2 000 costumed performers and musicians entertain viewers with magical floats and vibrant dance routines. The parade is followed by an afterparty showcasing some of South Africa’s hottest musical talent. Time: 4pm start.

Venue: Green Point Fan Walk. Cost: free. For more info: visit capetowncarnival.com Durbanville Farm Festival Heinz Winkler sets the tone, while various activities such as target shooting, horse rides, merry-goround and a Skylectric racing track keep children enthralled. See a sheep being shorn and get sentimental among the old tractors and heritage exhibition. Time: 9am–5pm.

Venue: Diemersdal Wine Estate. Cost: adults R40 and learners R10. Contact: 021 976 4106 or kommunikasie@isales.co.za Grace Primary School open day Time: 9:30am–11am. Venue: Pinelands Congregational Church, Nerine Ave, Pinelands. Cost: free. Contact: info@ graceprimary.org or visit graceprimary.org Imhoff Waldorf School open day Find out more about the preschool, primary school and high school. Time: 9:30am–12pm.

Venue: Preschool and primary school: Imhoff Waldorf School, behind Imhoff Farm, Kommetjie Rd, Kommetjie; high school: Imhoff Waldorf High School, Kommetjie Rd. Cost: free. Contact: 021 783 3056, helen@ imhoffwaldorf.org or visit imhoffwaldorf.org Jan van Riebeeck School Festival With a trail run, fun run, a Zip Zap Circus performance, children’s theatre, a magician, games, stalls, a teen tent, a spit braai and a music festival. Time: 6:30am–6pm. Venue: Jan van Riebeeck High School sports field, De Hoop Ave, Tamboerskloof. Cost: adults and high school children R30, preschool and primary school children free; no entry fee if you enter for fun run or trail run. For more info: visit jvrfeesdag.co.za

21 saturday Ubuntu Festival “Happy Me, Happy You” is the theme this year, with Mi Casa as the headline act, and pop-up food stalls featured.

Time: 10am–6pm. Venue: Maynardville Park, Wynberg. Cost: free. Contact: 021 556 8200 or charlene@hippocommunications.com

28 saturday 14 March – Cape Town Carnival

Kids Theatre Festival Pack a picnic and join in the magical forest theatre. Roald

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calendar Dahl’s children’s classic Fantastic Mr Fox returns, with two other plays, Get Kraken and Memory, interspersed with improvisational fun. Fun and games are promised for the family. Time: 12pm. Venue: Paul Cluver Amphitheatre. Cost: R150. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 Bloubergrant Pre-Primary fête Loads of games planned. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Bloubergrant Pre-Primary, 4 Curlewis Rd. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 557 5500

Free running club Led by Nike+. 4, 11, 18 and 25 March. Time: 5:30pm–7pm.

Venue: V&A Waterfront running route. Cost: free. Contact: 011 256 0700 or visit nike.com

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science

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Art and crafts fun family day Activities include beading, wire art, quilling, clay modelling, mosaics, painting, slimey goo monsters, pee shooters and more. Freebies include face-painting, “henna” and stick-on tattoos and a dress-up photo booth. Three-hour slots are available. 7 March. Time: 9am–5pm.

Venue: Create Art Studio, Thaba Park, Signal Gun Wine Farm, Durbanville. Cost: adults R150, children R110. Contact: 072

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766 3246, create.artclasses@gmail.com or visit createart.co.za Art group for children Weekly term-time art group with a focus on self-expression through art and creative play. For 8–10 year olds. Time: 3:30pm–5pm Thursday or 9am–10:30am Saturday. Venue: Frank Joubert Art Centre, Newlands. Cost: R140 per 90-minute session. Contact: 076 581 1794 or rebecca.solveig@gmail.com Free two-hour introductory fabric painting workshop 28 March. Time: 8:45am–10:45am. Venue: Pinelands. Cost: R35 per kit. Contact: 021 531 8076, 082 391 4954 or wendyadriaan@telkomsa.net

Museum Night Participating museums feature the following: the Iziko South African National Gallery shows William Kentridge; the Jewish Museum shows “Jews of Struggle”; the Iziko South African Museum exhibits the Wildlife Photographer of the Year entries; the Planetarium presents “Star lore comes back to Africa”; the Slave Lodge features Sue Williamson’s “There’s something I must tell you” and the Old Townhouse shows Rembrandt. 26 February. Time: 5pm–9pm.

Venue: varies. Cost: free. For more info: visit museum-night.co.za Sue Nepgen’s children’s art classes First and second term’s programme consists of creative clay work, painting and drawing on canvas, “shape shifting”, sketching, watercolour, chalk pastel pictures, mixed media and printing. For 4–13 year olds.

Children may join in after those dates.

Time: weekday afternoons and Saturday mornings. Venues: Michael Oak Waldorf School, Kenilworth or 28 Klaasenbosch Dr, Constantia. Cost: R685 per term, including materials and firing. Pro-rata fees for late joiners. Contact: 021 794 6609/4723, 083 237 7242 or snepgen@xsinet.co.za

classes, talks and workshops Cooking with Hannah Classes with an educational twist for 2–10 year olds.

Time: 3pm–4pm Monday–Wednesday.

Venue: Meadowridge. Cost: call to enquire. Contact: 082 569 8666 or cookingwithhannah1@gmail.com

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Masterchef classes. 28 March: Easter egg hunt. Time and cost: email to enquire.

Venue: Valley Farmstall, Hout Bay. Contact: eventsatthevalley@gmail.com

finding nature and outdoor play

7 March – Day jol fundraiser

Kidz Discovery parent and child groups Age-appropriate classes that address all aspects of your child’s development.

They also offer educational craft classes for 3–5 year olds (with guardian) and multi-medium art classes for 6–12 year olds. Time: varies. Venue: Camps Bay. Cost: varies. Contact: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery.co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za The Kids Cooking Club and Party Club Weekly cooking classes. Also school outings and once-off playdates (minimum six children). For 2–15 year olds. Time and cost: varies. Venue: Stodels, Constantia. Contact: 083 309 8024, thekidscookingclub@gmail. com or visit thekidscookingclub.co.za

family outings Day jol fundraiser Enjoy food and games stalls, spot prizes, a lucky draw and live

rock music to raise funds to help little Mason, who suffers from a serious genetic condition, called Harlequin Ichthyosis, that affects the skin. His treatment costs R11 000 a month. 7 March. Time: 2pm–7pm. Venue: Killarney Race Track’s main clubhouse. Cost: R50. Contact: 082 777 5442 or 076 840 5505 Hands-on Harvest Join the Robertson Valley for some harvest-themed activities and learn more about the hard work that is captured in a single bottle of wine.

7 February–29 March. Time and cost: varies according to activities on the programme; visit the website. Venue: wineries of the Robertson Wine Valley. Contact: 023 626 3167, manager@robertsonwinevalley. com or visit handsonharvest.com Valley Farmstall events 7 March: Little Entrepreneur market for children by children. 21 March: craft day and Little

Ratanga Junction is open on weekends There are new rides and attractions. Ends 29 March. Times: 10am–5pm. Venue: Century City. Cost: adventure rider: R172 (access to all rides), mini adventurer rider: R90 (under 1,3m) and fun pass (nonriders): R65. Contact: 0861 200 300 or visit ratanga.co.za Solms-Delta family picnics Choose a spot next to the river, dam or in the

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forest. Fyndraai chef Shaun Schoeman prepares a selection of salads and cold meats. Prebooking of picnics is essential as picnic sites are limited to ensure privacy.

On weekends visitors can enjoy a tractorand-trailer ride through the vineyards to the picnic area. Time: 12pm. Venue: SolmsDelta, Franschhoek. Cost: R175 per person, R290 per basket (serves two, excluding wine), children’s picnic R75. Contact: 021 874 3937 ext 114 or 115, tastingroom@ solms-delta.co.za or visit solms-delta.co.za

markets Bluebird Garage Market Time: 4pm–10pm every Friday. Venue: 39 Albertyn Rd, Muizenberg. Cost: free entry. Contact: 082 331 2471 or visit bluebirdmarket.co.za Country Craft Market Each stall is manned by the crafter himself, and a very high standard is maintained. Country Kids keeps the little ones entertained while the Country Kitchen provides refreshments.

There is plenty of safe, free parking. 14 and 28 March. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Southey’s Vines, 186 Main Rd, Somerset West. Cost: free. Contact Gill: 021 852 6608, info@countrycraftmarket.org or visit countrycraftmarket.org Elkanah House Schoolyard Market 28 March. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Elkanah House High School, 85 Sunningdale Dr, Sunningdale. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 554 8586, michellej@elkanah.co.za or visit elkanah.co.za

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calendar Food Market at The Range, Tokai For top-quality food, wine, craft beers, children’s activities and live entertainment.

Time: 4:30pm–9:30pm. Venue: The Range, Orpen Rd, Tokai. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 713 2340, info@therange.co.za or visit therange.co.za Groote Post monthly market Locals present a selection of Darling gourmet produce including mushrooms, burgers, bread, cheese, cured meat, olive oil, preserves and more. 29 March. Time: 10am–3pm.

Venue: Darling. Cost: free entry. Contact: 082 877 6677, eldre@iloveyzer.co.za or visit grootepostcountrymarket.co.za

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ProNutro AfricanX Trailrun South Africa’s premier three-day stage trail run returns, where participants have to rely on their teammates’ experience, strength and expertise to complete the route. Teams of two battle it out along 22km–34km each day. 13–15 March.

Venue: festival village on the grounds of the Houw Hoek Inn, Elgin, Grabouw. Cost: R2 900, which includes breakfast and lunch, R3 400, which includes breakfast lunch and dinner or R3 900, which includes breakfast, lunch, dinner and tented accommodation. Contact: entries@stillwatersports.com or visit stillwatersports.com

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Lat Wai Sunday Farm Market This outdoor market offers bungee jumping, pony rides, tractor rides, mini train rides, pedal go-karting as well as a food and craft village. Time: 10am every Sunday.

Venue: Joostenbergvlakte. Cost: R10 entry.

Contact: 081 402 7483 Lourensford Harvest Market Quality market products at a sophisticated, yet rustic, market. Specific programmes are planned for the children by Rugbytots and Clamber Club. Time: 10am–4pm every Sunday. Venue: Lourensford Wine Estate, Lourensford Rd, Somerset West. Cost: free.

Contact: 079 496 8335, hello@lfhm.co.za or visit lfharvestmarket.co.za Minitown market A family-oriented craft market surrounding a miniature model of Cape Town with moving trains and cars, a food court and lots for the children to do.

For 3–12 year olds. Time: 10am–4pm every Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Wild Clover Farm, R304, Koelenhoff, Stellenbosch.

Cost: free entry. For more info: visit minitownmarket.co.za Val de Vie market and polo Browse everything from food and wine to clothing and jewellery. You can also enjoy a polo match. Entertainment for children varies each month. 29 March. Time: 10am–3pm.

Venue: Val de Vie Wine Estate, PaarlFranschhoek Valley. Cost: free. Contact: 021 863 6100, events@valdevie.co.za or visit valdevie.co.za

on stage and screen Home 3-D premieres 27 March When Earth is taken over by the Boov, an alien

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race in search of a new home, all humans are promptly relocated. But when one girl, Tip, manages to avoid capture, she finds herself the accidental accomplice of a banished Boov named Oh. For more info: visit numetro.co.za or sterkinekor.com The Tale of Peter Rabbit For 2 years and older. 28 March and 2, 4, 7, 8, 9 and 10 April. Time: 10:30am or 12:30pm, depending on days. Venue: Artscape Theatre Foyer. Cost: R70. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695

3–13 March – The Ugly Duckling and other stories

The Ugly Duckling and other stories Two magical stories are staged with colourful characters, audience participation and popular songs by Justin Bieber, Michael Jackson Taylor Swift, Nicki Minaj, Pharrell Williams and Meghan Trainor.

3–13 March. Time: 9:30am and 10:45am.

Venue: Baxter Theatre, Rondebosch.

Cost: R55. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or for more info, visit lilliputplayers.co.za

playtime and story time Story time with The Book Lounge Time: 11am every Saturday. Venue: 71 Roeland St, Gardens. Cost: free. Contact: 021 462 2425 or visit booklounge.co.za

sport and physical activities Cricket School of Excellence Friday group coaching and Saturday matches for u10–u13s. 30 January–21 March. Time: 3:30pm–5pm Friday and 8am Saturday matches. Venue: UCT Cricket Oval. Cost: R600. Contact: adam@cricketschool.co.za or visit cricketschool.co.za Free bootcamp classes Led by the Sports Science Institute of South Africa. This forms part of the Active Outdoor Programme at V&A Waterfront. 3, 10, 17 and 24 March.

Time: 5:30pm–6:15pm. Venue: Croquet Lawn, V&A Waterfront. Cost: free. Contact: 021 659 5700 or fit@ssisa.com Free yoga classes Led by Gururamdas Yoga Studio. 4, 11, 18 and 25 March. Time: 5:30pm–7pm. Venue: Pierhead Deck, V&A Waterfront. Cost: free.

Contact: info@gururamdas.co.za or visit gururamdas.co.za Hope in Motion Walk 4 Wheels 20 March. Time: 5:30pm (registration from 4:30pm). Venue: Bergvliet Sports Association, Bergvliet. Cost: R40. Contact: 0861 242 354, info@chaelicampaign.co.za or visit chaelicampaign.co.za Kidz on the Move Weekly classes cover all aspects of fitness, and emphasis is placed on having fun, making friends and building confidence. For 7–14 year olds.

Time: 4pm–5pm Monday–Thursday and 3pm–4pm Friday. Venue: Sports Science Institute of South Africa, Boundary Rd, Newlands. Cost: tbc. Contact: 021 659 5600, fit@ssisa.com or for the programme visit ssisa.com Kirstenhof Dance and Pilates Studio Choose from ballet, modern, hip-hop, Bollywood belly dancing and Pilates classes.

Time: open daily during the week. Venue: 14 Windhover St, Kirstenhof. Cost: varies; free trial classes are available. Contact: 021 701 2750, 082 739 0100 or lianepenny@gmail.com Sunningdale Gymnastics skill-specific classes For 6–13 year olds. 23–26 March.

Time: 2pm–5pm. Venue: Sunningdale Sport Centre. Cost: R80 per class. Contact: sunningdale@gymwizards.co.za or visit gymwizards.co.za

A happy heart, a peaceful mind and a playful spirit – Monday group Start the week correctly with a morning of deep relaxation and stress management, guided visualisations and guided journeys. Time: 9am–11am every Monday. Venue: 27 Bach Slot Villas, Bach Close, Sonstraal Heights.

Cost: R150. Contact: adrian@hypnoworx. co.za or visit hypnoworx.co.za Family and Friends CPR 7 March.

Time: 9am. Venue: Constantiaberg Mediclinic, Burnham Rd, Plumstead.

Cost: R270 for three hours or R320 for four hours, including paediatric first aid.

Contact: 021 705 6459, training@pec. co.za or visit pec.co.za

on stage and screen Hidden Years Music Festival remembers Ben Segal This festival celebrates the life and music of some of South Africa’s foremost protest singers and folk musicians, David Marks and the late Ben Segal, who had the foresight to record their music. 7 March. Time: 2pm gates open. Venue: Paul Cluver Amphitheatre. Cost: R190. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 Last night of the proms Wynberg Rotary Club’s annual charity fundraiser promises to celebrate their 30th anniversary in style with the theme “The Pearls of Proms”. Richard Cock conducts the orchestra and choirs.

15 March. Time: 2:30pm and 7:30pm.

Venue: City Hall. Cost: R200–R250. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 You Bet Your Life! Poor recently deceased Jonny (Fick) finds himself trapped in a rather unconventional game show where scenes from his life are replayed. Hosted

by Timothy Radcliffe (Perold), the audience is introduced to Jonny’s neurotic mother, his crazy ex-girlfriends, a Russian drag performer and other characters who all seem bent on keeping Jonny in limbo as Timothy tries to manipulate things to secure his own redemption. 5–21 March. Time: 7pm Monday–Saturday. Venue: Alexander Bar, Loop St. Cost: R80 online and R90 at the door. Book through Alexander Bar: visit alexanderbar.co.za

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2nd floor, Elta House, 3 Caledonian Rd, Mowbray. Cost: free. Contact: 021 686 1475, health2@triangle.org.za or visit triangle.org.za Overeaters Anonymous People share a solution to the problem of compulsive overeating. Time and venue: call to enquire.

Cost: free. Contact: 011 640 2901, 076 274 5474 (sms) or visit oa.org.za

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out and about Western Province Aquatics corporate relay challenge Participate in their 2015 challenge. 1 March. Time: 10am–5pm.

Venue: Sea Point Swimming Pool. Cost: R2 000 per team. Contact: marketing@ wpaquatics.org or visit wpaquatics.org

support groups LGBTI (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender) Parents Support Group Regular meetings for LGBTI parents. Time: tbc with enquiry. Venue: Triangle Project,

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Stellenbosch Street Soirees Cars make way for a merry crowd to mingle, indulge in Stellenbosch wines and snack on gourmet bites by famed resident foodies. Live music by the popular blues singing sensation, Gerald Clark, adds feelgood vibes. 11 and 25 March.

Time: 6pm–8pm. Venue: Drostdy St, Stellenbosch. Cost: R50 for a tasting glass. Contact: 021 886 4310 or visit wineroute.co.za

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Cape Town Home Birth gathering Meet and speak to midwives, doulas and others who have had home births or are planning to. Refreshments are served. 1 March.

Time: 2pm–4pm. Venue: 18 Axminster Rd, Muizenberg. Cost: R60 or R100 for two. Contact: 078 557 9070, 073 514 9754, ruth@homebirth.org.za, birthjunkie@ outlook.com or visit homebirth.org.za Kidz Discovery baby/toddler and parent groups Age-appropriate classes that address all aspects of your child’s development. For babies from 3 months old. Date, time and cost: call to enquire.

Venue: The Drive, Camps Bay. Contact: 083 654 2494 or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za Moms and Babes Claremont A play activity programme using age-appropriate toys, messy play, music, feely play, gross and fine motor skills, outdoor play and massage. For 2–12 month olds. Time: 10am and 3pm Monday–Thursday. Contact: 082 746 3223 or reesdi@mweb.co.za Moms and Tots Bergvliet Ageappropriate classes filled with fun activities in a structured play environment. These are ideal for socialising and assisting in reaching milestones. For 1–4 year olds.

Time: 9am–11am and 3pm–4:30pm.

Venue: Rose Rd, Bergvliet. Cost: fees are per term. Contact: 083 571 2915, shiree@ telkomsa.net or visit momsandtots.co.za Moms Club For moms with babies or toddlers to meet. At least once a month there is a speaker on a baby-related topic.

Time: 10am–12pm Tuesdays (during term time). Venue: Medway Community Church, cnr Medway Rd and Milford Rd, Plumstead. Cost: free. Contact: 084 428 4128 or eachus.rosemary@gmail.com Nanny training course The training comprises four modules, geared towards babies and children from birth to 5 years old. Cape Town: 26 and 27 March. Time: 9am–4pm. Northern suburbs and southern suburbs: 4–25 March. Time: 9am–12pm (southern suburbs) and 2:30pm–5:30pm (northern suburbs). Cost: R1 800. Contact: 021 461 6508 or visit supernannies.co.za Toptots Claremont mother and child workshop Creative messy play, perceptual development, massage, sensory motor activities, fine motor activities and a music programme. For 8 weeks to 4 years old. Time: morning and afternoon classes.

Venue: 74 Ranelagh Rd, Claremont. Cost: R1 000 a term. Pro-rata if you register during the term. Contact: 079 248 8083, lisam@toptots.co.za or visit toptots.co.za Wriggle and Rhyme A relaxed, structured music programme for babies and toddlers to enjoy with their moms or carers. Using

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music as a catalyst for learning, they explore a different theme each term. There’s also time for tea afterwards. For 6–18 months and 18 months–3 year olds. Time: varies.

Venues: Claremont, Constantiaberg, Fish Hoek and Kenilworth. Cost: R175 onceoff joining fee including their CD and T-shirt welcome pack. Fees are R550 per eight-week term. For more info: visit wriggleandrhyme.co.za

playtime and story time Babies Read Books storytelling programme Master storyteller Sharon Geffen performs every second Tuesday. For 1–3 year olds. 3, 17 and 31 March. Time: 9:15am. Venue: Cape Town Mediclinic, Hof St. Cost: R15. Contact: 082 222 4082 or sharon.geffen@gmail.com Little Maestros classical concerts for moms and tots Little ears learn through Mozart and Bach. This month’s concert features Strings n Things with the Juliet String Quartet. 10 March. Time: 11am, second Tuesday of the month. Venue: Youngblood-Africa, 70–72 Bree St. Cost: R100 entry for parent plus one, R120 for parent plus two. Contact: bookings@ biblioteek.co.za

support groups La Leche League breast-feeding support group meetings Southern suburbs: 12 March. Time: 9:15am–11:15am. Contact Natashia: 082 814 7210 or Bridgette: 083 460 5753.

Parklands: 25 March. Time: 10am–12pm.

Contact Simela: 021 553 1664, Juliet: 021 556 0693 or Bahia: 079 524 5008.

Parklands: 8 March. Time: 2pm–4pm.

Contact Kim: 082 330 5352. Parow: 18 March. Time: 10am–12pm. Contact Dilshaad: 021 930 2475. Durbanville: 10 March. Time: 10am–12pm. Contact Trudy: 021 976 2598, Tiffany: 021 913 3586 or Vania: 021 910 2885. Kenridge: 2 March.

Time: 10am–12pm. Contact Rosemary: 021 910 0606 or Irma: 021 979 1425. Paarl: 17 March. Time: 9:30am–11:30am. Contact Wilma: 082 922 8195. Stellenbosch: 10 March. Time: 9:30am– 11:30am. Contact Francia: 082 940 9685. Heldelberg: 2 March.

Time: 10am–11:30am. Contact Leana: 083 415 4657 The Parent Centre Moms-to-be and Moms and Babies group Time and venue: 10:30am–12:30pm every Tuesday at Mediclinic Cape Town or 10am–12pm every Thursday at Mediclinic Constantiaberg. These groups are suitable for moms with babies up to 1 year old. Cost: R50, including refreshments. Contact: 021 762 0116, reception@theparentcentre.org. za or visit theparentcentre.org.za

how to help March for Milk with Milk Matters The human milk bank is organising this event, which involves paying a small fee to walk along the Sea Point Promenade to raise awareness around breast-feeding and donor breast milk. You receive a goodie bag and there’s a lucky draw. 28 February. Time: 9am. Venue: Sea Point Pavilion. Cost: R100 per family. Contact: 021 659 5599, 082 895 8004 or visit milkmatters.org

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12 March – La Leche League breast-feeding

For a free listing, email your event to capetown@childmag. co.za or fax it to 021 462 2680.

Information must be received by 27 February for the April issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published.

To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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my son, the planker It may be a fad or he may just be trying to get close to her. Either way, ANÉL LEWIS is happy to humour her son… for now.

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ou know that craze that took social media by storm a few months ago, the one where people would lie face down, usually in an incongruous or unusual location? Hilarious! People lying in funny places, pretending to be planks.

What could be funnier?

Well, it’s not so hilarious at 3am when my two-year-old son, Conor, decides that my torso would be a fantastic “incongruous or unusual location” for him to try out his planking moves.

Did I mention that Conor weighs 20kg, and has not yet quite mastered the art of planking with minimal movement? So it is like having an oversized bean bag doing “snow angel” repetitions, while lying across the length of your body. The first few nights I humoured him. It was just a fad, I told my husband Craig. He’s just trying to get close to me, I told myself.

But night after night, a few hours before dawn, I would first hear the footsteps, and then feel the weight of my boy as he assumed the position.

I decided to read up on my son’s antics.

According to Wikipedia, plankers compete to find the most unusual and original location in which to play. Planking

can also include “lying on a flat surface, or holding the body flat while it is supported in only some regions”.

That explained why my bladder usually took the brunt of Conor’s nocturnal stunt.

So the next night I thought I would shake things up a bit. I curled up into a ball so that he could not find a flat surface on which to position his body. But it seems I underestimated his commitment to the task, and by morning I was lying like a semi-squashed snail pinned down by Conor’s outstretched, planked form.

I have to confess that I have since grown accustomed to waking up with Conor’s squishy, warm cheek pressed firmly against mine, his arm curled around my neck. In a few years’ time, the closest I will probably get to finding out about my son’s shenanigans – planking or otherwise – will be via Facebook.

But I am also fervently hoping that he does not discover the Ice Bucket Challenge any time soon – at least, not before he can sleep a whole night in his own bedroom.

Anél Lewis is reading up on sleep training techniques so that she can deter her son from trying out any more gymnastic moves on her before he hits the 30kg mark.

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PHOTOGRAPH: Susie Leblond Photography

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pack light Here are some useful packing tips for families going away over the holidays. By TAMLYN VINCENT

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oliday time often includes trips to see family or just to get away. And this means packing. I usually take as much as possible (who knows what you’ll need?), but this results in an over-stuffed bag, even for overnight stays. I’m even worse when I pack for my son, throwing in two warm and two cool outfits, just in case. It’s only when we get home that I realise we haven’t used half the clothes we’ve hauled along. So, to save space next time my family goes away on holiday, I go in search of packing tips.

best case Think about what sort of bags you need. If you’re going overseas, a suitcase may be best. If you’re only going for a few nights, or you’ll be carrying your luggage, go for a backpack or duffel bag.

Get children their own bags, which they can pack and carry themselves. Not only will they learn some responsibility, it will also keep them excited.

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technique There are different ways to pack your clothes: folding and rolling are both good options. Either way, pack shoes and heavy items in the corners of your case or bag. Heavier clothes like jeans go next, followed by lighter items. If your bag has wheels, pack shoes closest to the base with the wheels to help stabilise the bag.

choose wisely Take practical and versatile clothes and choose complementary colours, so you can mix and match outfits

instead of packing extra clothes you won’t use. Don’t overpack for scenarios that aren’t likely to occur. Choose clothes that are less likely to wrinkle, and that suit the weather at your destination. If it’s going to be cold, rather layer up instead of taking bulky jackets. And don’t pack double – if your partner has packed certain items, like a torch and spare batteries, there’s no need for you to also take these.

Take practical and versatile clothes and choose complementary colours, so you can mix and match outfits instead of packing extra clothes you won’t use. put it in plastic Packing clothes in plastic resealable bags ensures clothes are neat and easy to find. You can pack entire outfits this way, or keep tops or pants together. Children’s outfits can also go into resealable bags. Once the outfit is dirty, stick it back into the bag so that the rest of your children’s

clothes don’t get smelly. Also put anything that can leak into a plastic bag. In fact, if you’re travelling overseas, you should probably pack all of your toiletries in clear plastic bags. Take a few extra plastic bags, just in case.

easy access Pack raincoats in easily accessible spots, like a side pocket. Keep activities for children nearby, or in hand luggage, so you can get to them quickly. If you’re planning a long road trip, pack snacks for the car and keep essential items, like phone chargers, close at hand. If you’re stopping overnight along the way, pack separate smaller bags for everyone, and pack these last.

don’t forget • Torch (turn the batteries around when you pack it, so it doesn’t accidentally turn on) • Medicine and vitamins • Sunscreen • Electronics and chargers • First aid kit • Toiletries – in travel-sized bottles • Maps (or download the Google Maps app) • Bank cards (check with your bank that they’re open for international use) • Your passports, visas, driver’s license and copies of everything • Printouts of your travel plans • If you’re flying, take a photo of the contents of your bag, for insurance purposes