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Happy Mother’s Day My youngest daughter is desperate to grow up, fast. This is closely followed by a deep desire to be a mom. She yearns to be in control of her own destiny, which starts with a VW Beetle and culminates in having a little bundle as the sole focus of her love and adoration.

She describes, in detail, how she will manage her time between work (last night at the dinner table I counted three jobs), her husband and her three, maybe four, children, oh and “community commitments”. She assures me, “The children will always be beautifully groomed, eat healthy food and naturally, be high achievers.” I am quick to share my appreciation for her vision and enthusiasm, but after 21 years of parenting, I am tempted to read her the intro to this month’s lead article “the choices, the guilt, the beauty” (page 14): “I never thought being a grown-up would be like this, the constant constraints on your time, the requests, the pressures, the guilt when you don’t get it all right. It never ends.”

My eldest, being a little closer to adulthood, is appalled at the idea of motherhood, and, at the very mention, jumps up to clear the table and stack the dishwasher. This from a child who chose her roommate on an exchange trip, based on who she thought most likely to do her laundry.

As moms, we count our blessings, one for every child, but if our online poll is anything to go by, we are often in need of one more blessing – me-time (see page 24 for inspiration). We hope you love this issue, our celebration of mothers, as much as we enjoyed putting it all together for you. Join us in savouring the highs and sharing the lows and have a Happy Mother’s Day on the 8th.

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8 pregnancy news – maternal style Anél Lewis gets advice on

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14 the choices, the guilt, the beauty Mary Wuth admits that parenting can, at times, be exhausting, but says it’s all worth it

18 steer clear of the sniffles Tammy Jacks gives tips on how to boost your child’s immune system to prevent colds and the flu from plaguing your family this winter

20 the spirit leveller Lisa Lazarus finds that Struisbaai hasn’t changed in three decades, when she returns in search of childhood memories and tranquility

22 feminism and motherhood Glynis Horning says a return to

10 best for baby – build your baby’s brain Lucille Kemp investigates the influence music has on your baby’s development

12 dealing with difference – horse healing horse therapy has proven to help children who struggle with several developmental delays.

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24 resource – me-time for mom Marina Zietsman compiles a list of outof-the-box adventures for moms

28 what’s on in may 31 next month in child magazine

attachment parenting has opened the floor for debate on this sensitive topic

34 finishing touch life was very different for Anél Lewis and

26 cooking is for everyone in her new cookbook, Simply Delicious,

her husband in the year BC (Before Children)

Zola Nene shares festive recipes that

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letters

As the Julia Donaldson author tour has drawn to a close, I want to thank you for all of your assistance in helping make sure the Julia Donaldson brand was wellrepresented on all fronts. Everyone’s hard work paid off and the tour was a great success. Thank you to Child magazine for your assistance in the coverage ahead of the tour. A big Gruffalo hug, Tarryn and the Pan Macmillan SA Team

online comment to “reaction to allergies” I would like to respond to a comment made online regarding this article.

My son Jacob, who is six years old, attends a school that is open to an allergy policy and does its best, with the help of parents, to educate both parents and children on allergies. This has given my child the confidence to go to school in a safe environment. The sad truth is that second to childhood obesity, the largest emerging childhood illness

and cause of death is an allergic reaction. My son’s allergic reaction to eggs, peanuts, sesame seeds and bee stings could be fatal, and would require emergency medical intervention. I often want to ask the parents that are not educated or empathetic if, were this your child, would you not expect other parents and your friends to take the utmost care in ensuring your child’s safety? Would you be happy if another parent endangered your child’s life with disregard?

The lack of empathy for this “one” child’s safety saddens me, and people are unaware of how certain children even have to deal with being bullied, teased and threatened just for being different and having an allergy.

As parents of children who are allergic, we live in fear that, while not in our care they are always in harm’s way. We do our best to teach and educate them on how to safeguard themselves from danger, but some times things are out of our control. Every morning after dropping my children off at school I spend five to six

over to you my special child I am a mother of five children. My youngest daughter, Rebecca, is eight years old and has Down’s syndrome.

She is very high functioning and all this thanks to early intervention. She underwent physiotherapy, as well as occupational and speech therapy from an early age. What also helped was the continued stimulation of a happy household, and friends and visitors to our home.

I have schooled Rebecca at two different preschools; not special needs schools, but both mainstream schools and have now enrolled her in Grade 1 at a Joburg girls’

hours with my phone in my pocket, or where I can easily reach it, in case I have to rush to the hospital, because he has been stung by a bee. No parent wants to live under this constant threat of imminent danger.

I wish all parents, caregivers and teachers would better educate themselves on what it is like to live with an allergic child or family member. I promise you would be far more understanding and willing to champion the cause.

Chantal Waisman

online comment to “bakers day made easy” Being a chef and dad to a five-year-old little princess, I know the benefits of teaching young children the art and love of culinary creation and knowledge. What is more rewarding than to learn while you are having fun?

Healthy eating can be achieved through creative and interactive sessions with your children, giving them a good grounding for the years to come.

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preparatory school. It’s a very traditional, inner city school with a good history in education. My daughter has fitted in well and is thriving in an excellent academic environment, which is nurtured by the school.

I am very happy with my choice of school so far and, as a special needs parent, also pleased that I could take full advantage of the government’s inclusion policy. This school is providing the perfect environment for Rebecca’s academic and social development.

These results have made me a big advocate of mainstream schooling. I understand the need for special needs schools where children are mentally disabled, but

not simply because a child needs remedial intervention or is suffering from delayed milestones.

My daughter’s story is the perfect example of how mainstream schooling for disadvantaged or disabled children can contribute to their individual advancement, as well as the advancement of the school and society as a whole. I strongly believe that the inclusion of these children in a mainstream school has benefits for society.

On that note, I feel a lot still needs to be done around classroom assistants and facilitators who are much needed in schools that boast an inclusion policy.

Verity Farrell

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very parent would love to wrap their children in bubble wrap, but you can’t prevent accidents from happening. Though, you can be prepared.

As your inquisitive child becomes mobile, they will start to explore their surroundings, climbing objects, which could result in falls, bumps and stumbles. Russel Meiring from ER24 says that falls from just a few metres can cause serious injuries and even death. After a fall, apply an ice pack on any bumps or bruises. Should the incident cause profuse bleeding, Meiring says to make sure it is stopped immediately by applying direct pressure to the wound or by using a first-aid dressing. Call emergency medical services (EMS) and seek medical attention right away if your child seriously injures their head, neck, back, hipbones, thighs, is unconscious or is having difficulty breathing.

Burns and scalds are other common injuries in the home. According to Meiring, ER24 often sees burn injuries in the home that stem from touching the stove, spills from kettles and hot water from unattended baths. In treating a first-degree burn, where only the first layer of skin has been affected, you should immediately cool the wound under a cold tap. Do not use ice water as this can cause further damage by cooling the body too quickly. Once the burnt area is cooled, wrap it in a moist dressing and seek medical attention urgently. For all other burns, call EMS for immediate help.

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Children tend to put a host of weird and wonderful things in their mouths, which can lead to accidental poisoning and choking on swallowed objects. Michelle Cahi from ABC of CPR says that choking is one of the leading causes of death for infants and toddlers. If your child is choking, do not try to grab the object lodged in their throat or pat them on the back, as this could push the object further down the airway and make the situation worse. Call EMS immediately and perform the Heimlich manoeuvre. If you are unable to remove the object and the child becomes unresponsive, lower them to the floor and begin CPR. Cahi warns that children are often poisoned by household and cleaning products, personal care and beauty products, medicines, vitamins, plants, lead and carbon monoxide. Meiring advises that the ingestion of poisons should be treated very carefully. Do not make the child vomit as this may cause an airway obstruction, which may cause choking. If the child is actively vomiting, do not stop them from doing so. Keep any open containers or bottles so that the poison may be identified. Seek medical attention immediately.

Seconds count when it comes to water emergencies.

Cahi says that most children who drown in swimming pools had been missing from their parent’s sight for less than five minutes, and adds that most drownings take place in suburban swimming pools. More than half of all drownings

among infants under the age of one occur in bathtubs.

Another 12% of drownings in this age group occurs in buckets. In the event of a water emergency, get your child out of the water, call EMS immediately and prepare to begin CPR. Meiring says you need to make sure that the child has a pulse and is breathing. Check that the air passages are clear and if no pulse or breathing is present, CPR must be started immediately.

Education is key to safety, according to Cahi. Attending child first-aid and CPR classes will equip parents, childminders and caregivers with the knowledge to handle emergencies and save lives. While no parent wants to think about the worst happening to their child, in an emergency you will be glad you did.

first-aid essentials Here are a few things that ER24 says should be in all first-aid kits: ✻✻ sterile gauze

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✻✻ rehydration sachets ✻✻ tweezers ✻✻ sharp scissors ✻✻ safety pins ✻✻ gloves ✻✻ CPR mouthpiece ✻✻ torch and spare batteries ✻✻ list of emergency contact numbers

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maternal style There’s no reason to feel frumpy during your pregnancy. ANÉL LEWIS speaks to the experts about

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essential maternity wear that will make you feel fabulous before and after your baby is born.

ook, let’s be honest, I was no Kate Middleton during either of my pregnancies. My staple maternity gear was an oversized T-shirt I’d won years back at a grape-stomping competition and, in the last few weeks of my pregnancy, a strappy sundress bought from a flea market in downtown Joburg was all I could wear. I really did want to be like those radiant mothers who grace pregnancy magazines wearing chic leggings and cute tops that neatly hug their growing bumps. But in reality, I was more blob than blossoming mom-to-be, partly because I made the sartorial mistake of thinking I could get by wearing my pre-pregnancy “fat” clothes.

Claire Coetzee, owner of an online boutique that stocks maternity fashion, cautions that doggedly wearing your pre-pregnancy leggings and other favourites could stretch the elastic and pull at the seams, rendering some of the clothing unwearable once your baby has been born. Gillian Cary-Baddeley, who designs for a popular online maternity store, adds: “Don’t be tempted to buy ‘normal’ clothes in a larger size as they will not fit properly on your shoulders, arms or legs and you will simply look overweight. Maternity styles are designed to flatter.”

tips to look radiant and feel feminine throughout, and after, your pregnancy.

Invest in some core basics or classic items, such as a tank top or a maxi skirt and twist front dress, says Coetzee. These can easily be mixed and matched and glammed up with accessories for a special occasion. “They will also see you through your pregnancy and beyond, when you are still trying to lose some of the baby weight.” Also, avoid wearing clothing that looks like a big sack over your bump.

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Maintain some balance. If you’re wearing a full skirt, offset the look with a tight-fitted maternity top, and vice versa.

Think about maternity wear that will stand up to the rigours of breastfeeding. A beautiful top with a cowl neck that unclasps for feeding will make life far easier than pulling up an oversized shirt.

Coetzee recommends fabric with a fair amount of stretch that will accommodate your changing body. Bear in mind that things change – don’t be surprised if even the width of your back alters as you move through your pregnancy.

Nicola Jackson, of an online retailer in fashionable maternity wear, says maternity jeans that adapt to your shape are a must-have. “Choose a pair that has a bit of stretch and a waistband that is engineered to support your tummy, pre- and post-baby.”

Keep it simple and buy one comfortable and versatile item that can be worn in several different ways throughout your pregnancy.

Consider adding suitable exercise wear to your maternity wardrobe. “Don’t try to squeeze into clothes that do not fit you. You’ll only feel uncomfortable and could be damaging your skin. A great pair of leggings and a maternity tank top can be used for layering and for sport,” says Jackson.

And lastly, spare a thought for special occasions when you want to look glam.

“Feeling good about the way you look is a big part of enjoying your pregnancy. There is no need to change your signature style because you are pregnant,” says Jackson.

She recommends the “stylist” dress that can be wrapped in various ways to create numerous looks. Add accessories, a cardigan or jacket for extra elegance. “These garments look great long after your baby has been born.”

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build your baby’s brain Lullabies at bed time. Nursery rhymes at crèche. Sing-a-longs on road trips.

o you remember that fascinating video that first did its rounds a few years ago of a baby that, astonishingly, appeared moved and became teary as his mom sang a Rod Stewart ballad to him?

Laurel Trainor, a professor of psychology, neuroscience and behaviour and director of the McMaster Institute for Music and the Mind (MIMM) in Canada, was asked to explain this in an interview with National Geographic. She stated, interestingly, that research has shown that the ear is very mature at birth and that an infant can actually distinguish between major and minor chords.

As many people understand minor chords to sound sadder than major chords, was the “emotional baby” able to comprehend the sad content of the song? I imagine this question was the reason the video went viral.

Cape Town-based parents Lauren and Jeff Green found that their twin girls, who were born at 30 weeks, would respond well, early on, to having music in their environment. Be it on the radio or simply their parents singing silly songs to them. “Often, those silly songs were the only things that stopped the crying.”

Around the time the twins were turning eight months old, the Greens were interested to hear that a music

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programme for babies was launching in the city. Being premature, the girls’ sensory processing development needed addressing and having read about the benefits of music classes introduced from an early age, they felt it would be a wonderful activity for the girls to be involved in.

They were soon enrolled in the music programme and the impact from the first class was nothing short of profound. “Julia, a typical cry baby, sat alone unassisted for the first time, during the entire class. She was riveted.”

Music class came to be the highlight of their week, not only for the obvious enjoyment, but for the noticeable developmental improvements in the girls, which included sitting still and paying attention, participation in the group, remembering songs and storylines in advance of the class, understanding and correctly interacting with the different instruments, “and the girls learnt counting and colours quickly because the information was put to song,” says Lauren.

making music is a catalyst for learning The role that music plays in a child’s development is a topic that has received major airtime. In the early 90s, The Mozart Effect was brought into public light. The concept

suggests that early childhood exposure to classical music has a beneficial effect on mental development, enhancing intelligence, learning and creativity.

But, with time, the theory that simply playing classical music to your child will make them smarter had to make way for further research. “There is no evidence that listening to classical music has any more benefit than listening to any other type of music,” says Trainor. Rather, she emphasises the fact that whatever sensory experience infants have affects their brain development, and music is no exception.

The MIMM, which Trainor heads up, is an interdisciplinary group of researchers including psychologists, neuroscientists, music theorists, musicians, dancers, media artists, mathematicians, kinesiologists, health scientists and engineers. Part of their function is to study how the musical experience affects brain development, how musical training and exposure affects language, and cognitive and social abilities. In 2012 the institute released results from a study that was the first of its kind.

In the study, groups of babies and their parents spent six months participating in one of two types of weekly music instruction. One class involved interactive music-

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Music is like magic for a child and a force for their growth. By LUCILLE KEMP

Whatever sensory experience infants have affects their brain development, and music is no exception.

making and learning a small set of lullabies, nursery rhymes and songs with actions, and parents and infants worked together to learn to play percussion instruments, take turns and sing specific songs. In the other music class, infants and parents played at various toy stations while recordings from the Baby Einstein series played in the background.

Babies from the interactive classes showed better early communication skills, such as pointing at objects that were out of reach, and waving goodbye. Socially, these babies also smiled more, were easier to soothe, and showed less distress when things were unfamiliar or didn’t go their way.

While both class types included listening to music and all the infants heard a similar amount of music at home, a big difference between the classes was the interactive exposure to music.

got the music in you Cape Town-based mom Kirsty Savides and Joburg mom Magdalene Minnaar are both musical, so this naturally flowed into their parenting but, reassuringly, the way they integrate music into their children’s lives is simple enough for any parent to consider. Kirsty exposed her son

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to music in utero and was already getting positive cues.

“I was teaching piano while pregnant with him,” she says, “and he would jump around like crazy in my belly during the lessons.” Short of moms-to-be being able to play the piano, many moms like to play baroque or classical music in the house when it’s time to wind down.

Quite remarkably, there are studies indicating that infants remember sounds experienced in the last couple of months, before birth.

Kirsty also had music on-hand for its calming effect when her babies were colicky. She used every opportunity to expose them to many different styles of music, such as on car trips, and she sang instructions rather than yell instructions. Experts say you should sing simple, short songs in a high soft voice to your baby – try making up one or two lines about bathing, dressing and eating. Get your toddler to dance to music regularly and play songs with lots of repetition as this will stimulate their memorising ability. Buy them instruments, and when you’re playing music get them to reproduce the rhythm they hear.

Magdalene made a soothing playlist of music, mostly Mozart and Bach, which she has played to her son Jacob, now two years old, nearly every day since his birth. “I

bought him a pair of good children’s headphones so he can listen to the playlist when we are travelling,” she says.

In the same way it has guided and calmed Magdalene in her own life, music has helped Jacob to become the relaxed and focussed little boy his mom sees today.

find the music ✻✻ Junior Jive – juniorjive.co.za ✻✻ Kindermusik – kindermusik.com ✻✻ Little Maestros – littlemaestros.org ✻✻ Music 4 Minis – music4minis.co.za ✻✻ Music Box Studio – music-box.co.za ✻✻ Musical Rascals – musicalrascals.co.za ✻✻ Wriggle and Rhyme – wriggleandrhyme.co.za

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dealing with difference

horse healing To those who have seen their child healed almost subliminally, the science of therapeutic riding rings true, says SHANNON NEILL.

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y seven-year-old son, Daniel, never stops moving; if you force him to keep still he sings or hums until he’s able to wriggle, squirm and run around again. He was six weeks old the first time I draped him across a pony’s back, and it was like flicking a switch – he calmed down almost immediately. Over the years, this equine form of Valium has never failed to work on him.

“Horses have been described as the finest mood-altering drug for those they motivate, with only positive side effects,” says Lisa Hare, a Cape Town-based occupational therapist and senior riding instructor who specialises in therapeutic riding. Horses are used as a therapy to teach children (and adults) cognitive, physical, social, emotional, educational and behavioural skills.

“The great thing about children riding as a therapy is that it’s fun, it’s outdoors, and it’s something many children fantasise about, but few get the chance to do. Instead of being teased or treated as if they’re strange because they’re having therapy, these children are the envy of their friends,” says Lisa.

Dr Lana van Niekerk, head of the Occupational Therapy Division at the University of Cape Town, explains: “It’s an opportunity to master an activity that is perceived to be very challenging. Activities in which many children engage tend to have lower esteem value than those in which fewer children engage. The esteem value of horse riding is therefore very high.”

what horses can do for children The relationship between the horse and the child is a safe, reciprocal one that involves caring and is non-judgmental. In other words, horses don’t say, “If you ride me well, I will like you”. In fact, Lisa firmly believes that good therapy ponies are sensitive to their riders’ needs, and make allowances for their inexpert riding.

It’s an important aspect of the therapy, as children with emotional challenges often struggle to form friendships or develop relationships, and their riding abilities make them more acceptable to their peers. The relationships children develop with the horses they ride are sometimes the first positive relationships they’ve ever had, says Lisa. Having connected once with an animal, it’s often easier for them to form relationships with people. “Learning to control the horse teaches some children how to control themselves,” she explains.

Sharon says, “The horse is a large creature that is gentle and prepared to tolerate things that people may struggle with. For a lot of children with emotional challenges, the horse is very good at reflecting their emotions, so if a child changes his or her mood and becomes soft and gentle, the horse reflects that. For children, it’s a good way to learn about the consequences of behaviour.” She goes on to explain that riding also gives children the opportunity to care for something and experience being cared for. And it provides an element of risk, which is important in developing emotionality in children.

“Children with physical difficulties and developmental issues are often cocooned against danger, but riding provides some risk. For a child, being able to do something they thought they couldn’t do is valuable in developing self-esteem and self-confidence.”

“Riding guarantees a real and observable outcome – being able to ride. It’s also brilliant in terms of offering a continual upgrading of the challenge,” says Lana.

Horses are not a miracle cure, but Lisa says the results sometimes seem to say otherwise.

Lizl, 11, is a lively, intelligent girl who now rides her horse competitively. She’s come a long way since she started therapeutic riding at the age of three and a half, because she didn’t speak.

“She was so withdrawn that if you stood on her toe she didn’t react. She wouldn’t eat, she was very slow, and she hated loud noises. The doctors didn’t know what was wrong with her, but they suspected autism,” says her mom, Yolanda. “The first time we put Lizl on a pony the words just poured out of her. She sang songs we’d sung to her for years without her reacting. Within four months of starting riding she was talking properly.” It sounds like magic, but part of it is pure science.

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Sharon explains, “The middle ear is stimulated by the horse’s movement, there is an anti-gravitational response and an acoustic response: all this information is received in the low brain structure, which is the foundation area of the brain that is important in speech.”

Therapists use horses to help children with problems ranging from poor speech to emotional problems, hyperactivity, low muscle tone, disruptive behaviour, hand-eye coordination, Down’s syndrome, cerebral palsy, autism – in fact, most things you can imagine.

For children with physical handicaps or difficulties, horse riding provides a unique freedom of movement that no other therapy offers. “The horse’s movement rotates the child’s hips just as correct walking does,” says Lisa. This correct movement can help teach children, with the potential physical ability, to walk. “Riding therapy is known as a neuro-muscular facilitation technique. This means the movement of the horse is creating responses in the muscles and nervous system that are being processed in the brain,” explains Sharon.

“The movement is causing rotation around the spine and the effect of this is to normalise muscle tone, increase strength in the muscles, and position the pelvis as though the child is walking. The act of moving on the horse is training the brain pathways to understand the physical processes of walking.”

Riding is also good exercise for children who struggle to move themselves. “It offers an intense workout for children with physical problems – every time the horse takes a stride, the rider’s body automatically adjusts eight times,” says Lisa.

Riding can also provide huge emotional benefits to children with physical disabilities.

A University of Cape Town study found that riding can give independence. “The horse becomes an extension of the person, giving them the ability to move in ways they are usually unable to – walk, run and explore new environments,” says Lana.

The study also found that mastering the art of riding could have a huge impact on the child’s sense of identity. With the help of the horse, the child learns it is possible to overcome physical barriers and restrictions, and experience something natural, challenging and fulfilling.

This article first appeared in Child magazine, August 2006

therapy breakdown ✻✻ Hippotherapy Children with physical difficulties are passive and the emphasis is on the movement of the horse and the influence of this on the child. ✻✻ Developmental riding therapy The child is more active, and a number of exercises are introduced. It benefits children with physical disabilities, as well as intellectual and psychiatric problems. ✻✻ Psycho-educational vaulting and riding The emphasis is on utilisation of the whole horse and the space around it. This therapy is oriented towards children with remedial needs and psychiatric problems, as well as physically high-functioning children with learning impairments and psychiatric difficulties. ✻✻ Riding as a sport and skill Riding is taught while being aware of the therapeutic benefits. ✻✻ Equine-facilitated therapy The emphasis is not on riding, but on using the horse as a tool to deal with psychological issues.

resource ✻✻ SARDA (South African Riding for the Disabled Association) 082 449 5176, national@sarda.co.za or sarda.co.za

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the choices, the guilt,

the beauty Modern parenting is a juggling act for most of us, especially mothers, so it doesn’t help when we’re bombarded by demands from every angle.

never thought being a grown-up would be like this: the constant constraint on your time, the requests, the pressure, the guilt when you don’t get it all right. It never ends.

When my husband and I had children, we didn’t realise how defining the roles we chose, would be. The world was still a place where, in part, things were the way we imagined them to be. We lacked the knowledge that comes with age and experience. I wanted to stay at home with the children, to give them my full attention; Shaun wanted a good balance of work and dad time.

In theory, our choices were simple. They were made before we realised that no parenting decision is ever easy.

I dived into my choice of role with vigour. I revelled in every moment I got to spend with Lola after she was born, and even more so when my friends with babies were going back to work. I made conscious choices about her

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diet, her activities and her nap times. When I fell pregnant with Lincoln, I poured as much of me as I could into those same decisions with him. As hard as parenting two children one year apart was, I was thankful that I had the opportunity to do it.

Shaun poured himself into his work with equal vigour, and then he came home and enjoyed time with his children. The balance wasn’t always there, but we were always striving for it.

Fast forward six years, through buying a house, starting a company, travelling overseas for six months, and all in-between, and the roles we started off choosing have become as much a part of us as our fingerprints.

Despite being responsible for all internal functioning, budgeting, admin and being general dogsbody in our company, my primary role is still with the children. So when I have to fit a few hours of work into my day, I struggle to

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MARY WUTH lets off a bit of steam, but admits it’s all worth it in the end.

Being a grown-up can suck at times, but the love you feel for your little people and the joy that they bring, that’s the beauty of adulthood.

find the headspace. Between remembering what extramurals are on, who I’m lifting where, school outings, what I’m cooking for dinner, if there are enough groceries in the house, what home maintenance needs to be done and general family admin, my mind is a blur with mundane chores. Since having children, I’m not sure I’ve experienced the focus and clarity you can put into your work when you are allowed to relinquish the humdrum of daily life. When I’m with the children, I have half a mind on work, and when I’m working I have half a mind on the children and the house. I feel like I am never giving anything my full attention. And I find myself envious of the amount of work Shaun fits into his day.

off balance I know this balancing act isn’t reserved solely for moms. On the other side of the spectrum, Shaun is plagued with pressures at work while trying to manage his own desire to “just be with his family”. This isn’t helped by the children’s questions of, “Why are you always working? Why can’t you spend more time with us like mommy does?” The guilt hovers like flies on a hot day. When he is at work, his mind is focused entirely on the pressures and demands of running a company. But because he is primarily responsible for bringing in the business, when work is not forthcoming, he spends his “family time” worrying

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about it. He can’t leave work at work and I can’t leave home at home. We carry around the weight of our seemingly simple decisions no matter what role we are trying to fill.

Some of the added baggage I have just lumped onto myself is the guilt of having a daughter who now thinks that women don’t work as hard as men.

The issue of women working has come up before and I have explained that women do work. Many have full time jobs, just like men, and they work just as hard. Some women choose to be at home after they have children, but not all women are lucky enough to have that choice. Although she understands at the time, it is still a recurring theme in conversation.

We had two women at our house the other day doing a quotation for window blinds. Lola looked confused and later whispered rather loudly in my ear, “But Mommy, why are they women?” I blushed a desperate shade of red. Did they think I teach my daughter that woman don’t work? Lola knows in theory that I work in the morning when she is at school, but she never sees me doing it because when she is around I am basically solely available to them. I can’t explain that looking after a family and a home is work, because it’s a different kind of work. It’s first and foremost, a love.

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undervalued I hope she comes to understand the different roles women play, but at the moment she is happily oblivious to the pressures and the guilt that plague most moms; possibly all parents. The roles we choose going into parenthood define us in our children’s eyes. They also define us in our own eyes. I know most stay-at-home moms don’t feel valued when being judged by society’s yardstick. The position of women in the home is sorely undervalued. The position of women, particularly mothers, in the workplace is equally sorely disrespected. The pressure and expectation that work will come before our children and our family is crippling, putting unnecessary pressure on moms and making the choices we are faced with when we have children even harder. We have enough parenting guilt without corporates loading on an extra dollop for good measure. Moms aren’t the only ones having their portion size increased either; dads are taking it in equal share. The fathers who want to be home in the evenings to tuck their little ones into bed are laughed at when they leave company drinks early, or looked down on when they excuse themselves from “voluntary” overtime.

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The other night, as I tried to sneak out of the room while the children were falling asleep, Lola asked me why I don’t sit with them until they fall asleep, like Daddy does. “Daddy works harder than you do, but he can still sit with us.” It was like taking a punch in the gut. I was trying to sneak out of the room to finish drilling holes in the shower wall to hang the toiletries rack, clean the kitchen after dinner, sort out the notices they brought home from school, and then finish some work at my computer. I’m pretty sure if I talk to her about it in 30 years’ time she will have quite a different opinion on it. If I ask my mom about all the insensitive things I said to her, this was probably on the list too.

I can’t expect my six year old to understand the complexities of what I juggle. That’s the beauty of childhood. Her turn will come. At least I hope it will, because as challenging and draining and pressure-filled as being a grown-up is, I get to kiss those cheeks goodnight before bed, even if I can’t always sit and watch them turn a rosy pink as they drop off to sleep. Being a grown-up can suck at times, but the love you feel for your little people and the joy that they bring, that’s the beauty of adulthood.

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steer clear of the

sniffles Colds and flu are a fact of life for children.

But the good news is, there are smart steps you can take to give their immune system a boost.

TAMMY JACKS finds out more.

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ith winter just around the corner, what can you do to protect your child from the array of germs floating around? In the colder months, we tend to spend more time indoors, making it easier for germs to spread.

give their immune system a boost For babies, the first line of defence against a viral or bacterial infection is breastfeeding, says Joburg-based paediatrician, Dr Dewald Buitendag. “At birth, a baby’s immune system is still immature. Luckily nature compensates for this by letting mothers transfer their immunity onto their babies. This happens when maternal antibodies cross the placenta during pregnancy, as well as when protective immunoglobulins pass through breast milk during feeding,” he says.

These antibodies only last for a few months and then run low, but the good news is, from six months of age, children start to produce their own antibodies. “To kick-start this process we immunise babies against the most common childhood illnesses,” adds Buitendag. Once your child starts school, it’s essential to keep routine vaccinations up to date and to consider an annual flu vaccination, says Cape Town-based doctor, Blaise Witney. This gives the immune system the “blueprint” to be prepared to fight off common viral and bacterial infections.

encourage a healthy diet When it comes to warding off infections, a healthy diet is essential, says Joburg-based dietician, Abby Courtenay.

A good balance of both macro- (carbs, protein and fat) and micronutrients (vitamins and minerals) are a must for meals. Focus on lean protein, good-quality dairy, wholegrains, plant fats, plus fruits and vegetables in their most natural form. Treats like ice-cream, sweets and chocolate should be limited since sugar places a huge amount of stress on a developing immune system, adds Cape-Town based nutritional therapist, Hannah Kaye. The aim is to encourage your child to eat more vegetables and to incorporate them into at least two meals a day, she says.

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consider a multivitamin and mineral supplement While you might question whether it’s necessary to spend money on vitamins and supplements, Kaye believes the answer depends on the child. “If you have a fussy eater who doesn’t like fruits and vegetables, then it’s worth investing in a multivitamin and mineral supplement, plus a good probiotic as it contains beneficial flora, which regulate immunity. A cod-liver oil supplement is also important as it not only contains anti-inflammatory fish oils but also vitamins A and D, which are essential for immunity. “A daily zinc supplement also goes a long way in combatting colds and flu,” she adds.

Let your child play outside, have fun and move as much as possible, rather than have them sit indoors. promote good exercise and sleep habits Studies have shown that sleep helps to regulate immune function. On the contrary, lack of sleep can lead to chronic low-grade inflammation and immunodeficiency (a sluggish immune response), both of which have a detrimental impact on health, says Kaye. The fact is, children need at least 10 to 11 hours of sleep a night to build a robust immune system, adds Witney.

Stress can also weaken the immune system. To combat this, Kaye recommends that you let your child play outside, have fun and move as much as possible, rather than have them sit indoors in front of an iPad or computer.

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Cold and flu viruses survive better in colder, drier climates than in warmer, humid conditions, says Joburg-based paediatrician, Dr Dewald Buitendag. Also, during winter people tend to spend more time indoors with the windows closed. This makes it easier for a virus to spread from one person to another. To help your child stay healthy, don’t spend too long in poorly ventilated areas such as shopping malls, wash their hands regularly, use blankets and warm clothes rather than heaters and avoid contact with anyone who’s sneezing or coughing.

immune-boosting lunchbox ideas ✻✻ Sliced strawberries with a pumpkin seed yoghurt dip ✻✻ Tuna salad (with broccoli florets and peppers) with cottage cheese dressing ✻✻ Crustless quiche (egg muffins) made with spinach ✻✻ Roast beef or baked beans with hummus on wholegrain toast Courtesy of Abby Courtenay, dietician

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getaway

Struisbaai hasn’t changed much in 35 years.

the spirit leveller A weekend getaway to the seaside dorp of Struisbaai in the Western Cape evoked old childhood memories for LISA LAZARUS

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ecently we headed out to Struisbaai for a weekend away. This town, nestling next to the southernmost tip of Africa, is known for having the longest beach in the Southern hemisphere, for still being a sleepy little dorpie, and for the wind. It also has a restaurant named “Restaurant”.

As a child I’d gone camping there often with my parents.

While my father windsurfed, my mother and I collected shells. We’d walk the beach for hours, eagle-eyed, and ever hopeful. There were swirly cones (very high value), perfect green sea urchins (moderately high value, but only if the creature inside had departed), bright pink fans (pretty but common), and a whole mass of ordinary shells, not worth the effort of bending down to pick them up.

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That was then. This time around, before we arrived at the longest beach in this part of the world, we had the longest drive in the world. The bottom of the car kept falling off. I’m sure there’s a more technical term for the plastic undercarriage of the vehicle, but, well, we were heading to Struisbaai, where there’s a restaurant called “Restaurant”.

Luckily, we had a roll of duct tape. Greg said his best moments were spent out on the highway, lying under the car, taping it back together.

“It’s quiet out there,” he said. “I can’t hear the children or the dog.” (I thought that was a bit unfair. The dog wasn’t really making a noise, though it was making its presence felt in other more subtle ways.) “All I hear is the stillness.”

While he was lying underneath the car, the children fought furiously. They had developed an intricate Lego currency consisting of powerful and weak armies, rare pieces, and desirable mini-figures. Unfortunately, they had brought some of these items with them. The older one would make the younger one scream by claiming greater military power.

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and created a few new ones.

“The word ‘power’ is banned in this car!” I shouted at them. “In fact, it’s not just in this car. It’s banned. End of story. You’re both on the same team. Nobody’s army is better or worse than anyone else’s! Nothing has more value than anything else.”

Struisbaai hasn’t changed much in 35 years: there’s the supermarket on the right; a bit further down, the guys selling rooikrans on the side of the road. Things happen slowly. When we camped, I remember my father levelling the caravan for hours with a spirit leveller. I know it’s not quite called that – the term is like something from a Victorian séance – but that’s what I remember. Whatever he used, it required a great deal of concentration, silence from us, and shouting from him. I don’t remember if the caravan was ever level or not. Probably not. In later years, we just took a kombi and I slept across the front seat over the gear shafts. In some ways, children are much tougher than adults.

Our children stayed in a beach house, with clean white sheets.

On the first day of our weekend away the wind picked up at 10am. My brother suggested a sheltered beach next to the harbour, a short drive away. Unbelievably, there were masses of sea urchins stuffed between the rocks.

“I can’t believe it!” I shouted at the children, pouncing on one. “I used to look for shells like these with my mother.”

I held up a tiny serrated green urchin, symmetrically patterned with white dots.

They whooped and screamed, and searched for more. We collected a whole bunch of them and stuffed them in somebody’s shoe to keep them safe. The next day we returned early in the morning to scour the beach for riches.

“Naah,” I said to the younger one holding up a piece of mussel shell. “Look at this.” I held up a peachy cone. “Rare.”

My oldest son had found a crab. He watched it scuttle sideways towards the sea. It dawned on me then that it might not be true after all, that the entire “shell currency” had been made up by my mother to keep a small child occupied on a very windy beach.

The way back to Cape Town seemed shorter than the trip to Struisbaai. Weirdly, it often seems to take longer to get somewhere than to go back. The children took up their fighting. The dog did its thing.

“Alien Avenger is the strongest ever,” said the eight year old, holding up a vicious-looking white and blue Lego mini figure.

“Noooo!” screamed the smaller one. “I want it.”

I sighed. “I don’t want to hear the words ‘strong’ or ‘valuable’. They’re banned. Remember.” Then I added for good measure, “Or the word ‘power’.”

“Can I say ‘power-line’?” asked Greg, gazing wistfully out the window at the silent trees, and the many sheep in the distance dotting the yellow-green hills.

I can’t believe it!” I shouted at the children, pouncing on one. “I used to look for shells like these with my mother.

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The next day we returned early in the morning to scour the beach for riches.

Joshua, aged four, making dinosaur prints to scare other beachgoers.

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feminism and

motherhood Equality is at the core of our constitution, and with most moms working and dads increasingly sharing chores, questions of feminism and motherhood may seem a non-issue to many. But factors like a return to “attachment parenting” have brought them to

lame it on Sheldon’s geek girlfriend Dr Amy Fowler in The Big Bang Theory, or rather on actress Mayim Bialik, who plays her in the sitcom. In a rare case of fiction reflecting reality, Bialik has a PhD in neuroscience – and is an ardent feminist. She is also a mother and (the real shocker, it turns out) an outspoken advocate of attachment parenting.

For Bialik, rejecting routine inductions and interventions in labour, breast-feeding on demand for as long as possible, bonding with babies in slings where they can hear your heartbeat, keeping them in your bed, and spending as much time with them as you can through early childhood, represent the best in mothering, for those who can manage it, and the new face of feminism. “We have empowered ourselves and refuse to endure a male-centred obstetric history that has taken women’s bodies and moulded them to their preferences for their convenience, their comfort and for their world view,” she wrote in the New York Times, and reiterates this on her website, Grok Nation, drawing on her experiences raising sons Miles (10) and Fred (8). She has even written a book about it: Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way. Yet attachment parenting, and anything else that smacks of stay-at-home motherhood, is anathema to some feminists (see “feminism and motherhood 101”), who see it as keeping women prisoners to their biology – cutting them off from careers and the corporate world, where they should still be breaking glass ceilings and storming corner offices. They consider it as threatening the gains of the feminist revolution, which they contend has not yet made the workplace fully woman-friendly – let alone mother-friendly.

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Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner, the author of The F-Word: Feminism in Jeopardy and co-author of The Motherhood Manifesto, says motherhood is today a bigger predictor of inequality than gender. “Too often mothers in the workplace have to hide the fact that they have children, tipping over the pictures in offices and not talking about their families, in order to be taken seriously,” she writes. She cites studies showing that even when candidates have identical résumés, education and job experience, moms are far less likely to land jobs than non-moms, and are offered lower salaries.

Her co-author, liberal activist Joan Blades, adds, “When mothers choose to ‘lean in’ to high pressure jobs that entail long working hours, they often have guilt heaped on them for supposedly neglecting their children. And when some choose to adjust their careers to have more family and personal time, they’re often accused of betraying feminism. It’s damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.”

So where does all this leave today’s mom? Can you be one and still be a feminist? Or is motherhood at odds with feminism – especially stay-home motherhood?

Bialik has no doubts: “It’s just as much a feminist choice to be a parent as it is to not be one,” she says in an interview with Yahoo Celebrity. She made her choice work, as most women do, through compromise – ditching neuroscience for television work with more flexible, parent-friendly hours: “I’m glad that I completed my PhD and I’m very proud of it,” she says. “But the life of a research professor would not have suited my needs in terms of what kind of parenting I wanted to do.” Interestingly, she is now divorced.

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the fore once again. By GLYNIS HORNING

feminism

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motherhood equal partners?

We asked a few South African moms how they feel about the issue…

Leisl Algeo, 33, education company MD, mom of Cole, men in many ways, but motherhood reminded me there seven and Gabriel, five are some roles only women can take on – especially in a Does being a mom make you less of a feminist? “The child’s life.” opposite – it’s tougher to ask for equality when you’re a Is an egalitarian parenting partnership possible? “Yes, mom, so feminism (‘the advocacy of women’s rights on but it’s not easy. Thabile’s dad and I have different the ground of the equality of the sexes’) is needed more expectations and different roles to play. We’re no longer than ever.” together, but he provides finances for schooling (though I Is an egalitarian parenting partnership possible? “It provide too). I’m the one who does daily parenting, and I’m takes practice and constant recommitment to support each okay with that. We’re friends, which is important, because other to be equal parents and careerists. I’m almost always fathers are vital role models in a child’s life. When our the parent who gets home early daughter starts dating, she for the children, so when I ask will know what a man who that my husband does this once truly cares for her is like.” in a while and he still gets home Does feminism colour late, I SCREAM feminism.” your parenting? “Thabile’s Does feminism colour your a tomboy – she likes dolls parenting? “I teach my sons that but also bikes and monster you can do or be anything. That trucks, and I’m fine with that. means my youngest sometimes I tell her the packaging says – Mayim Bialik wants to be a fairy or a dancer, for ‘children’ of so many and it’s important to me that he years, not for boys or girls. feels supported. My husband and I also talk to the boys It’s not about your gender, it’s about your interests and about how we all do housework – it’s not mom’s job.” skills. I just want her to be her best self.”

We have empowered ourselves and refuse to endure a male-centred obstetric history.

Jane Linley-Thomas, 35, radio presenter, mom of Cooper, five and twins Rocco and Lula, three Does being a mom make you less of a feminist? “No ways. But I guess I’m lucky to be married to the man I am [married to].”

Is an egalitarian parenting partnership possible? “Mike and I tackle everything [parenting] together – in fact, he is the one who cooks dinner every night and has been at the forefront of every dirty nappy from the start.”

Does feminism colour your parenting? “We do have roles – dad is the guy you can rough and tumble with, and I am the warm embrace a moment away, always. And Cooper and Rocco certainly gravitate towards sharks, pirates and dinosaurs, where Lula and I would rather paint our nails and play with my trunk of jewels. But we are a very close unit and love nothing more than all lying together under a duvet reading books or watching a movie. Being covered in snot, Marmite, tears and sticky gunk is part of this journey.”

Lungile Langa, 29, journalist, mom of Thabile, eight Does being a mom make you less of a feminist? “I believe women are powerful in their own right, equal to

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Omeshnie Naidoo, 34, media group lifestyle executive, mom of Vittal, four, and Keshav, one Does being a mom make you less of a feminist? “I see no conflict between feminist values and motherhood.

Biologically, I just happen to be the one that can carry the baby – motherhood is my privilege.”

Is an egalitarian parenting partnership possible?

“Dhivan and I are in an equal partnership. We split the costs, chores (we don’t have domestic help), and the responsibility of raising the children – not always in equal parts, as work gets in the way, but we’re accommodating of each other. And there’s no task designated “male” or “female” in our home – he does nappies and bottle feeds, just like I do. In fact, we’re highly competitive.”

Does feminism colour your parenting? “I’m raising my boys to see male and female as equal. But I’ve had family members say to them, ‘only girls cry’ or ‘you throw like a girl’. I’m still a child in the extended family system, and battle to assert myself as an adult with the right to raise my children as I see fit. I was made to feel inadequate for not being able to have a natural birth and breast-feed, and that made me irate. I say, be the mother you want to be.”

First-wave feminists, such as Simone de Beauvoir, Kate Millett and Betty Friedan, pointed out the link between women’s oppression and their role as mothers. As the preface to a 1971 collection of feminist writing, Liberation Now!, put it, “We are not against love, against men and women living together, against having children. What we are against is the role women play once they become wives and mothers.”

Women were encouraged to repress their maternal desires and put off having children.

From the 60s, second-wave feminists such as Sara Ruddick and Mary O’Brien emphasised women’s right to work, and the idea that motherhood was not necessary for fulfillment, that it restricted entry to public life and fed into “patriarchal agendas”.

From the mid-80s on, thirdwave feminists have been divided, some moving from the early criticism of motherhood to celebrating it, others intensifying the attack. Views differ widely, but Jane Price Knowles, in Women-Defined Motherhood: A Feminist Perspective, says the challenge of mothering now seems to be “not how to be ‘good enough’, but to dare to believe in our goodness enough to be ‘bad enough’.”

For more on the topic see Motherhood and Maternity – Feminist Critiques at science. jrank.org

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me-time for mom Being a mom is no easy task, but nurturing

yourself while raising your family needs honest encouragement. MARINA ZIETSMAN asked

Pack up your girlfriends, and show them how it’s done... down the track with a 4x4 It gives us a sense of safety manoeuvring our sturdy 4x4s through city traffic, or rolling over traffic humps in mall parking lots, but why not learn more about your all-in-one vehicle and take it on a genuine safari? You can book an introductory course, where you learn more about your vehicle and what it can do for you on a 4x4 trail. When you’ve mastered the basics, you can do an accredited training course or an advance-training course. Then pack up your girlfriends, or family, and show them how it’s done on a 4x4 trip. Go to 4x4track.co.za for options in all our provinces.

moms what they really wanted, and compiled

dress-up casino night

this list of mom-time excursions.

Don an outfit fit for the red carpet, and treat yourself to a night at a casino. Try your luck at roulette, blackjack or a “one-arm bandit” (budget for this; use only a specified amount to gamble with, what you win you take home and what you lose must not hurt your pocket), then enjoy a meal at one of the many restaurants, ending the evening with a world-class show. Visit the websites of these casinos to track upcoming shows: Montecasino in Fourways, Grand West in Cape Town, Suncoast Casino in Durban or Morula Sun Casino near Pretoria (tsogosun.com or suninternational.com)

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Taking a cruise on a luxury ocean liner is as close to an all-in-one holiday as you can get. Combine sunbathing and activities from a holiday resort, the spa options from a wellness retreat, the nightlife and restaurants from a casino and beautiful and interesting destinations, and you get a moving holiday of a lifetime. Or if you just need a recharge weekend or midweek break with your girlfriends, choose a short cruise option. MSC Cruises has shorter trips from Durban to Cape Town, and trips leaving Cape Town and returning to the Mother City or a long cruise from Durban to the Portuguese Islands near Mozambique. And if you cannot leave the family at home, there are options where children cruise free of charge. Opt for a cruise that has activities for children where they are kept busy, while you indulge in luxury. Even teenagers are catered for.

Canyon Ranch offers the Spa Club @ Sea packages on the Queen Mary II, Oceania Cruises, Regent Seven Seas Cruises and Celebrity Cruises – luxury getaways all over the world. For more info: msccruises.co.za, canyonranchdestinations.com or for more international variety fodors.com

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glamping

spa heaven

Glamorous camping is an excellent way to enjoy the great outdoors without having to endure the great outdoors.

Glamping is not such a new concept though. Google reports that the key word started being searched for on their site around 2007. But way back the Bedouins and Turkish Ottomans set up glamorous tents, and in the early 1900s Europeans on safari in Africa refused to rough it, and well-equipped tents were erected for them. Today, glamping means any kind of semi-permanent structure in the outdoors with features far beyond that of a simple tent.

In South Africa you can opt for luxury safari tents such as Gorah Elephant Camp in the Addo Elephant National Park, where each luxury tent has its own deck offering panoramic views of the plains. In the Knysna region there are several treehouse and treetop settings to choose from, as the lush forests in the area offer a fairy-tale setting for privacy and adventure. International destinations to consider include White Pine Ancient Forest outside Toronto in Canada, secluded tented lodges in France, beach glamping in Australia, ocean huts in Mexico, tented cabins in Uganda, lush tents in Thailand… the list is endless. For destinations around the globe: glampinghub.com

A trip to the spa is not an extravagance. Health spas are incredibly relaxing places, making them a great destination for de-stressing and relaxing. Spa treatments are also beneficial for your skin, muscles and joints, and aid better sleep. Depending on your spa wish list, you can choose from an extensive selection of spas. Resort and hotel spas usually offer a wide variety of recreational facilities, while destination spas offer a full-immersion spa experience in which all guests participate. If you’re going for opulence, opt for the crème de la crème of spas, the connoisseur spa. These usually have extraordinary ambience, luxury accommodation, high staff-to-guest ratio, exceptional service and superb cuisine. Day and salon spas offer a simple, flexible way to incorporate treatments into your everyday life, while medical or cosmetic spas operate under the full-time supervision of a licenced healthcare practitioner. For a bit of luxury research, visit luxuryhotelawards.com for local and overseas options.

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Whether you want to visit a foreign market and haggle over the price of veggies and spices, or pick your own fresh ingredients to cook al fresco, travelling the world to learn different cuisines is a cultural experience that’s hard to beat. Book a tour that offers visits to organic farms, while you travel around Israel, and cook vegetarian dishes with outstanding chefs. You can learn more about China on a tea tour where real tea masters are your guides.

You can even book a Taste of Iceland culinary tour.

Provence is always a popular choice with culinary tours ranging from organic vegan cooking, truffle hunting holidays, and wine and culinary tours.

Italy, another gastronomic destination, offers olive harvesting working holidays, Under the Tuscan Sun cooking holidays, Sicily cooking adventures and much more. Locally there are plenty of city-based cooking schools for short courses and cooking getaways in the Winelands and the Karoo. Visit bookculinaryvacations.com

pack a yoga mat You’ve been diligently packing your yoga mat in the car boot, driving to the gym or the local yoga studio, just to be back in the bustle of the city driving home… for chores and to prepare dinner or take the youngest to the ENT. Would you like to unpack your mat and stay a while longer in yoga bliss? Then a yoga retreat is the answer. Usually these retreats are hidden from civilisation with stunning settings and blissful peace. On a retreat, away from the usual distractions of your daily life, you will be able to focus solely on your practice. You will also detox digitally, as you’ll be away from the city, your laptop, cellphone, television and other connected devices. And because you are in a “dome of wellness” most of the time, you’ll also eat healthy. Combine this serenity with a bit of adventure, and book a yoga retreat in another country where you can make global yoga friends and see a new world. For inspiration go to bookyogaretreats.com where you can book yoga-style retreats from Egypt or Finland, to Estonia or Ireland.

shopping the world Shopping makes you feel good. Research has proven how shopping activates key areas of the brain, boosting our mood and making us feel better. Keep in mind you don’t want to overspend, but if you have the budget, why not shop “big”. Fifth Avenue in New York is known as one of the best shopping streets in the world with expensive department stores and designer boutiques, and spectacular window displays during Christmas.

Bond Street in London’s West End is one of Europe’s busiest boulevards. Or opt for luxurious stores in Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills. You might run into one of Hollywood’s rich and famous at Chanel. Avenue Montaigne in Paris is where you’ll find the home of designers such as Louis Vuitton. If a new Gucci bag is not priority, why not explore a busy street market in another country. La Boqueria in Barcelona, Spain has been around since the 13th century and you can even take a Catalan cooking course at the market. If you want to experience the Indian sub-continent at its best, brave Chandni Chowk in Delhi, India where you can buy anything… literally anything. In northern Africa, Marrakech is home to some of the best, and most authentic shopping options in Morocco. Visit condenast.com or tripadvisor.com and type “best shopping” in their search engines. You’ll leave tomorrow.

explore a world city on foot If you are self-sufficient, healthy-minded and environmentally conscious, then discovering a world city on foot would be a likeable option. While walking around a new city, you can explore historical sites and architecture at leisure, find beautiful, non-touristy spaces and meet local residents. Here are a few suggestions to make your feet itchy. In Rome, lovers of history will find countless attractions on every street and lane, no matter how insignificant it may seem. From the Roman Forum and the Pantheon, to the Trevi Fountain and Colosseum, the city has many unexpected wonders. In New Orleans you can circle your way through the French Quarter where you’ll find stunning architecture, and see street painters and musicians through hidden gateways and in front of local cafes – a vibrant experience at best. Or try Budapest, where the Danube River splits the city in two, and you can marvel at the museums in both parts, Buda and Pest. For inspiration, invest in the book Walkable City by Jeff Speck (Macmillan Publishers) or visit freecitytour.com.

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book extract

cooking is for

everyone

The new cookbook, Simply Delicious, chronicles ZOLA NENE’S food journey thus far – how it started and what shaped her into the chef she is today. Here are some easy, yet festive, recipes to try at home.

homemade ginger beer Nothing quenches a thirst quite like the sting of ginger beer. I enjoy making this on weekends. makes 2 litres ingredients ✻✻ 150g fresh root ginger ✻✻ 500g white sugar ✻✻ 100g seedless raisins ✻✻ zest and juice of 1 lemon

✻✻ 500ml boiling water ✻✻ 1,5 litres water, at room temperature ✻✻ 10g instant dry yeast

method Roughly grate the ginger on the coarse side of the grater.

Mix the ginger, sugar, raisins, lemon zest and lemon juice in a large plastic bowl or bucket.

Pour the boiling water onto the mixture and stir until the sugar has dissolved.

Pour in the water at room temperature, sprinkle over the yeast and stir to dissolve.

Cover the bucket or bowl with cling film and leave to stand in a warm place for two hours. During this time, the raisins will begin to rise and float to the top. Once all the raisins are floating and the mixture has developed little bubbles, the ginger beer is ready to bottle.

Filter the mixture through muslin cloth to remove all the bits and then bottle the ginger beer (put a raisin in each bottle).

Store the bottles at room temperature overnight to develop a fizz.

The following day, open each bottle to release some of the built-up gas. You can now store the ginger beer in the fridge, ready for consumption – the cold temperature will stop any further fermentation. It will keep for up to one week.

Serve in tall glasses filled with ice and topped with sprigs of fresh mint.

It’s basically the fresh version of samp. mealie and sugar-bean soup

ingredients ✻✻ 500ml dried sugar beans, soaked in cold water overnight ✻✻ 1 onion, finely chopped ✻✻ 30ml chopped fresh thyme ✻✻ 15ml chopped fresh rosemary ✻✻ 10ml dried chilli flakes

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Green (or white) mealies are a hot commodity in the Nene household, probably because we mostly only ever get to eat them when we go to Durban; they aren’t as readily available in George, it seems. Green mealies are completely different to the yellow sweet corn with which we are familiar – the kernels of green mealies are much bigger, the flesh is denser and the flavour is more savoury and not quite as sweet. We eat them straight off the cob either cooked on an open fire until charred and crispy, or boiled in salted water until tender and juicy. Sometimes, when there are mealies left over (which is not very often), my mom makes izinkobe, a fresh mealie and dried sugar-bean stew. It’s basically the fresh version of samp. This recipe is inspired by that dish – I’ve just added a touch more liquid and some spice, and turned it into a soup. serves 4

✻✻ 1,5 litres cold water ✻✻ 500ml fresh green mealie kernels ✻✻ salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste ✻✻ 60ml chopped fresh parsley

method Wash and drain the soaked sugar beans, then add to a large saucepan along with the onion, thyme, rosemary and chilli flakes.

Cover with a litre of the cold water and bring to the boil.

Once boiling, turn down the heat and simmer for 1 hour, topping up with extra water if necessary. Don’t let the beans boil dry.

After an hour, add the mealie kernels and the remaining 500 ml water and cook for another 45 minutes.

Season to taste and serve in large bowls with fresh parsley sprinkled on top.

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pap lasagne This is my updated version of pap, sausage and sauce. serves 4–6 ingredients ✻✻ 30ml olive oil ✻✻ 1 onion, chopped ✻✻ 5ml fennel seeds ✻✻ 500g pork mince ✻✻ 15ml tomato paste ✻✻ 410g can chopped tomatoes ✻✻ 10ml white sugar

✻✻ salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste ✻✻ 800ml vegetable stock ✻✻ 250ml maize meal ✻✻ 125ml grated Parmesan cheese, plus extra for topping

method Heat the oil in a frying pan over medium heat and sauté the onion and fennel seeds until the onion has softened.

Add the pork mince and cook, stirring continuously, until browned.

Add the tomato paste, tomatoes and sugar, season to taste and reduce the heat.

Leave to gently simmer for 15 minutes while you prepare the pap.

Place the vegetable stock into a saucepan and bring to the boil.

Sprinkle in the maize meal while stirring vigorously with a wooden spoon.

Cook, stirring occasionally, for 15–25 minutes until the pap is thick and cooked through. It should come away from the sides of the pan.

Remove the saucepan from the heat, and stir in the Parmesan cheese.

Preheat the oven to 200°C. Grease a 2-litre capacity ovenproof dish, and evenly spread half the pap over the base.

Pour over the mince sauce and spread the remaining pap on top.

Sprinkle over some extra Parmesan cheese and bake for 20 minutes or until the cheese is melted and golden.

peanut butter millionaires’ shortbread This recipe is a combination of two delicious sweet treats: peanut butter fudge and millionaires’ shortbread. I learnt how to make both fudge and shortbread during my home-economics classes, so I figured why not put the two together to form a new and tasty cookie combination. This is for those days when your sweet-tooth cravings get the better of you. makes 12 squares ingredients for the shortbread ✻✻ 120g butter ✻✻ 60g castor sugar for the topping ✻✻ 60g butter ✻✻ 250g muscovado sugar ✻✻ 60ml milk

✻✻ 170g cake flour, sifted

✻✻ 125g smooth peanut butter ✻✻ 150g icing sugar, sifted ✻✻ 100g dark chocolate, chopped

method Preheat the oven to 180°C and grease and line a 20cm square baking tin.

To make the shortbread, cream the butter and sugar until pale.

Stir in the flour to form a soft dough.

Press the dough into the prepared baking tin and bake for 25 minutes, or until golden and crisp.

To make the topping, melt the butter in a saucepan over medium heat.

Add the sugar and milk and stir until the sugar has melted, then bring to the boil for 2–3 minutes, without stirring.

Remove from the heat and stir in the peanut butter.

Using a wooden spoon, beat in the icing sugar until the mixture is smooth.

Pour the peanut-butter mixture onto the cooked shortbread in the tin, smooth the top with a spatula and leave to cool slightly.

Melt the chocolate in a double-boiler or in a glass bowl placed over a saucepan of simmering water.

Spread the melted chocolate, reserving about two tablespoons, over the peanutbutter layer and refrigerate until set.

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About the book Zola Nene’s food philosophy is very simple – cooking is for everyone. With easy-to-follow instructions, the recipes will ensure that anyone can produce mouth-watering results. And Simply Delicious is all about Zola’s journey as a chef; it’s her culinary career told through her recipes, interspersed with snippets and perspectives of her life journey, including tributes to the people who have inspired and influenced her cooking style. It’s available from good book stores nationwide (R250).

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calendar Access an extended calendar online at

what’s on in may

childmag.co.za or submit an event for June before 29 April to capetown@childmag. co.za

Compiled by MARINA ZIETSMAN

Snow World This snow park and entertainment venue offers unique

Farm to Table Festival

combinations of snow and ice activities for all ages, though

Natural food farmers, farm to table chefs and others are sharing their knowledge, passion and produce with festival guests. You can enjoy talks, demos, tastings and informative tours. There are several stalls and bars.

Sunday at 4pm is the Long Table Farm Feast (booking essential) and at 12:30pm the Farm BBQ Picnic with live music (booking essential). There is special children’s entertainment and it also runs on 24 April, starting at 9am at Boschendal Estate, Pniel Rd, Groot Drakenstein, Franschhoek. For tickets: https://plankton.mobi/Home/ Index (costs vary). Or contact them on 021 870 4274 or boschendal.com

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Elgin Wine and Country Food Festival

Award-winning wines, a delectable culinary experience, a plethora of outdoor activities, live entertainment and natural scenic wonders ensure that visitors, young and

the snow boarding has an age restriction of 6 years old.

The park is open until 31 July on Wednesday and Thursday 12pm–10pm, Friday 12pm–11pm, Saturday, public and school holidays 10am–11pm and Sunday 10am–9pm.

The park is closed on Monday and Tuesday, except for public holidays and school holidays. For real winter fun, visit SunExhibits at GrandWest Casino and Entertainment World, 1 Jakes Gerwel Dr, Goodwood. A non-riders pass is R50, and the other activities range from R60–R140.

Contact them on 078 775 0103, info@snowworld.co.za or snowworld.co.za

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The Riebeek Valley Olive Festival

TEDDY BEAR FAIR

old, enjoy a memorable time in this hospitable valley. Each

Enjoy all the teddy bears, with teddy bear competitions,

of the participating wineries in the Elgin region offers a

children’s activities and food stalls. The fair is hosted by

unique programme. Book tickets through webtickets.co.za.

the Dutch Reformed Church Constantia and the Cape

The festivities start at 10am and end 5pm and is also open

Teddy Bear Community. The funds raised are for the less

on 30 April. Tickets cost R120, and

fortunate. Visit the fair at The Range, Spaanschemat River

children under 18 accompanied by an adult enter free. For more info 071 267 9785, info@elginwine. co.za or elginvalley.co.za

7 Fan Con: Comic Con This comic convention is the first event of its kind to take place in SA and the two-day show

Rd, Tokai and it runs from 10am–4pm. Adults pay R30

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and workshops, comic book launches, book

Expect fine fare from local

signings, comics and art prints on sale and

restaurants

more. It starts at 10am at The Lookout, V&A

best of craft cider and

and

the

Elgin wines. Master an

apple

tasting,

buy apple pies and apples by the bag

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and let the children run free. Lots of

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under 18 years old enter free.

For more info 022 448 1545, olivefestival@gmail.com

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The festival is a day of adventure,

and farm-grown produce.

Cervantes’ eccentric hero, Don Quixote, goes on a journey full of adventures with his loyal squire Sancho Panza in search of the perfect woman.

The Bolshoi`s panache and excellence are combined in Fadeyechev`s critically acclaimed staging of this exalting dance performance. The performance is at 11am at The Fugard Theatre Bioscope, Caledon St, District 6 and costs R100.

Contact them on 021 461 4554 or book tickets through computicket.com

Weekend Olive Passport, and children

Applewood Harvest Festival and trail run

panel programme of discussions, interviews

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8 May; both days from 10am–5pm. It costs R125 for a

webtickets.co.za

best of Elgin’s gourmet artisanal

Don Quixote

the whole family. The festival also runs on

or buy tickets through

apple-themed activities and the

fancon.co.za or fancon.co.za

wines. Shop for artisanal beers and local food, while enjoying entertainment for

aegenseberger@sybaweb.co.za

national and international comic artists, a

under 12 years old enter free. Contact: info@

local South African olive producers and

entry and children R10. For more info 072 149 1366 or

(also 8 May) offers an artist alley featuring

Waterfront. It costs R100–R160, and children

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Sample a wide range of olives from

entertainment; from live music and tractor

Rugbytots Durbanville free taster The 8:30am class is suitable for children 2–3,5 years old and the 9am class is for children 3,5–6 years old. Just email Coach Rich with your child’s name and age to book your free taster. The classes are run at the Durbanville Rugby Club, 1 Sport Way. For more info 072 275 6990, richard@rugbytots.co.za or rugbytots.co.za

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Franschhoek Literary Festival

The tenth festival runs until 15 May for the annual

rides, to hay-diving,

long weekend when writers gather in Franschhoek

scarecrow

to discuss writing: from fiction and poetry, to

building

and apple hunting. Sign

biographies, history, politics and conservation.

up for the 11km trail run

There are several family-friendly events such as

(8am start) or a gentle 5km

joining multi-million selling illustrator Korky Paul

fun run. The fun takes place

with Winnie the Witch & Wilbur for this event full

at Applewood Preparatory School, Appletizer Rd, Elgin. It costs R10 donation per family entry, the trail run is R100 and the fun run R50. Contact them on 021 848 9121 or for more info applewood.co.za

of energy, wit, enthusiasm and lots of audience participation, plus big prizes to be won. Korky shows how reading and drawing are fun (13 May, 10am in the church hall). For a full programme and all details go to flf.co.za

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Craft market and children’s piggy bank market

This dog-friendly market has a Kid’s Piggy Bank Market where entrepreneurial children display their wares. All crafters make their own products or are small home industries. There is a wide selection of goodies on sale, from clothing and jewellery to woodwork.

The market is on from 10am–12pm at Rondebosch Park, cnr Sandown Rd and Campground Rd, Rondebosch. Entry is free and for more info 083 784 0393 or rondeboschmarket@gmail.com

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One Heart For Kids Launch Run

The One Heart For Kids non-profit movement aims to help children across Southern Africa learn how to read.

One Heart endeavours to use trail-running and familyorientated sport events as a fundraising platform. The first of these family events takes place in a farmer’s market atmosphere. There are three distances: a 10km trail run, a pram-friendly 5km family trail run/walk and a 3km children’s race for children from 8–13 years old. Participants can register online at myactive.co.za or between 6:30am–7:40am prior to the event. Dogs are welcome. It takes place at Blaauwklippen Wine Estate in Stellenbosch and costs R50–R90 (R20 extra for late entries). Starting times are 8:15am–8:30am.

For more info: leentjie@oneheartforkids.co.za or oneheartforkids.co.za

High tea festival series South Africa`s first Annual High Tea Festival Series is brought to you by The Tea Princess.

This festival highlights and showcases teas of the world, tea sets, products, food, clothing, jewellery and everything high-tea related. It’s time to dress up and feel like a lord and lady for the afternoon.

For a modern twist you can sip on champagne while enjoying caviar and other treats. The series starts at 1:30pm at the Old Mutual Conference and Exhibition Centre, Kirstenbosch Botanical Gardens and tickets cost R300, which you can book at computicket.com

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exhibitors

The World Congress is the most important meeting of all members of ASSITEJ (International Association of Theatre for Children and Young People), which takes place once every three years.

The performing arts festival encompasses a diverse and rich range of theatre productions from across the globe. It gives insight into theatre for young audiences up to 19 years old, and you can see performances from a wide variety of countries and continents. It is presented at venues across the city including Artscape, Baxter, Cape Town City Hall, township theatres and heritage sites. It ends 27 May. For more info: assitej.org.za

Jewish Literary Festival (JLF) This is a brand new event and the

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JLF will showcase authors, poets, illustrators, journalists, writers and educators who have a Jewish connection or are engaged with subjects of Jewish interest. A full children’s programme is on offer for all ages. Authors, teachers,

9am at Woodbridge Island in Milnerton and ends at the FNB Building, Portside. It costs R120 for licensed runners and for unlicensed runners R140. For more info 074 927 4838, entries@thecapetown12.com or thecapetown12.com

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Burn the Floor: Fire in the Ballroom

Burn the Floor is the show that revolutionised the image of dance, launching the many TV reality shows such as Dancing with the Stars. With its reputation as the world`s toughest dance show, the dancers are handpicked to embrace a new Latin American feel. Fire in The Ballroom is still focused on its ballroom origins, but promises to blow the roof off the theatre, with music from Santana, Janis Joplin, Christina Aguilera and Led Zeppelin. It runs until 5 June at 8pm, with additional performances 3pm on 21 May, 28 May and 4 June; and 2pm on 22 May, 29 May and

5 June at the Baxter Theatre, Main Rd, Rondebosch. Book tickets through computicket.

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La Traviata

La Traviata is regarded as one of Verdi`s finest operas, and Richard Eyre`s traditional staging is one of The Royal Opera`s most popular productions.

The opera tells the story of the Parisian courtesan

creative activities. Delicious lunches are served

died in 1847 aged just 23. In this revival, Violetta

and coffee bars are open throughout the day. It

is sung by Russian soprano Venera Gimadieva in

runs from 9am–5pm at the Gardens Community

her debut with The Royal Opera. This one-day-only

Centre, Hatfield St, Gardens. Activity costs vary.

performance is at 11am at The Fugard Theatre

For more info info@jewishliteraryfestival.co.za or

Bioscope, cnr Caledon St and Lower Buitenkant St,

jewishliteraryfestival.co.za

District Six. Tickets are R100 and can be booked through computicket.com

Get a pair of their funky shoelaces called “Tekkie Tags” (sticker included) and spiff up the tekkies you choose to wear on National

you would like to support. It costs R10 per

show runs until 29 May at

sticker, which can be bought at Toys R Us

the Cape Town International

stores, Babys R Us stores, Reggies and Clicks.

Convention Centre. Friday and

the next level. Entries close 1 May. The race starts at

based on the reallife courtesan Marie Duplessis, who

sector. Choose which of the five sectors

10am–10pm

including individuals that take the dress-up option to

occupied all day with storytelling, workshops and

and live theatres and event

it’s

run brings together runners from all walks of life,

Violetta Valery, one of opera`s greatest heroines,

stickers, each representing a beneficiary

Saturday

in the exciting 12km race. This fast-paced, flat

entertainers and carers keep the young ones

Enjoy food and drink stands

and

Runners, joggers and walkers line up to partake

com from R142.50–R232.50.

Tekkie Tax Day. There are five different

for families and children. The

from Sunday

10am–6pm. Tickets cost R50– R140 and children 0–12 years old enter free. For more info goodfoodandwineshow.co.za May 2016

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World Congress of Children’s Theatre

showcase the latest trends.

zones. There is entertainment

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Guests are entertained with aerial acrobats, fire performances, jumping castles, art exhibitions and more. Young and old are invited to dress up as anything from clowns to pool noodles. You’ll be blown away by the amazing stage, created to entertain you.

It starts at 4pm at the Hillcrest Quarry, Tygerberg Valley Rd, Durbanville. Tickets cost R120 (early bird R100 on quicket.co.za). For more info: trashcabaret@gmail.com

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Tekkie Tax Day

Good Food and Wine Show Around

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Trash Cabaret presents Carnival of dreams

FNB Cape Town 12 Onerun

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For more info tekkietax.co.za

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Magic Spectacular The College of Magic presents the spellbinding Imagine! Family Magic Spectacular – a dazzling show that features some of South Africa’s top children’s entertainers in a fantastical world filled with illusions, magic, hilarious antics and funfilled fantasy. It runs from 12pm–1pm at Artscape Theatre, DF Malan St. Tickets are R130. For more info 021 683 5480 or collegeofmagic.com

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open day

The Boost Educational Support Centre The centre offers specialised and individualised home schooling programmes for children from Grade 1 to Grade 12. Their open day is on 16 May at 6pm. RSVP via boostcentre. ct@gmail.com. They’re in shop 401, The Avalon, 123 Hope St, Gardens.

For more info 083 556 9724 or boostcentrect.co.za

markets

I Love Big Bay Market

Earth Fair Food Market

This is the perfect market for those who love the beach and epic sunsets. Their selection includes four food trucks, more dinner options in the courtyard, 30 fashion, craft and goods traders as well as a coffee, cold brew, two wine bars, a local bar and craft beer on tap. It’s on 25 May from 4pm–9pm at Eden on the Bay Shopping Centre, Big Bay Beach Promenade. For more info bigbaymarket.co.za

Shop for a range of natural and organic products, and enjoy live music and

next month in

experience the inner city’s electric vibe. The market is in Tokai (South Palms Centre, 333 Main Rd, Retreat) from 9am–2pm (7, 14, 21 and 28 May), 3pm–8:30pm (4, 11, 18 and 25 May), and in St Georges Mall, CBD 11am–3pm (5, 12, 19 and 26 May). For more info earthfairmarket.co.za

june is our “let’s party” issue on street 24 May

don’t miss our bumper party resource: from planning the best bash to party favours, inspiration to bake like a pro and thank-you notes – we’ve got it covered we look at… philanthropic parties – making birthdays meaningful for more than just your child it’s father’s day what makes a great dad? the joys of a man cave also... do we need vitamin B?

plus

our education focus: should I let my child fail?

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finishing touch

in the year BC… Before her children were born, ANÉL LEWIS spent her spare time seeking out the picturesque things in life, but with two children

long, long time ago, in the halcyon years BC – Before Children – my husband, Craig, and I enjoyed visiting new places. We browsed the stalls at quaint markets, and tasted fine wine at cellars overlooking picturesque valleys.

But now, with two energetic children under the age of six in tow, the closest I get to seeing anything picturesque is the “conserve water” poster on the back of a cloakroom door.

The demands start as soon as we park the car.

“Mom, I need to go to the bathroom.” We’ve just arrived at a beautiful farm and Conor has made a beeline for the jungle gym. Erin takes a sharp left and heads for the restroom.

“No problem,” I say. We go – and after a few minutes we’re ready to settle down for a relaxing picnic. But as soon as I shake out the blanket, I feel a tug at my side.

“Mom, I need to go right now,” whispers Conor.

“Of course you do,” I mutter to myself. I look imploringly at Craig. But before he can stand up, Conor shouts: “No! Mom, you have to take me.”

Back to the “conserve water” poster and the floral bathroom. At least it’s cool in there. In the distance, I can hear the enticing “clink” of wine being poured. I catch a snippet of animated conversation. But where I am, there’s no entertainment… just the hum of the fan and Conor kicking his feet against the porcelain bowl.

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After a mini meltdown because the dryer is “too loud” and the water “too cold”, we head back. Seven minutes later, Erin’s decided that she needs another bathroom visit.

And yes, it seems I am the only person remotely qualified to accompany her.

This time, I take my phone so that I can catch up on some social media updates, while she does her business.

But my hopes are dashed when she shouts, “Mom, put that phone away.” There’s nothing to do but wait, and see if I can read the “conserve water” poster backwards.

Outside, Conor has discovered a fountain and is already peeling off his clothes.

“Mom, put on our costumes.”

I comply, thinking the water feature should keep them busy for at least half an hour.

But alas, not even 10 minutes pass before a shivering Erin asks to get dressed again.

“Are you sure?”

I’m assured that they both really want to explore instead of swim.

Craig and I settle back against the cushions. I open the crackers, but it’s as if I’ve unwittingly transmitted a radar signal audible only to children and small dogs. Erin and Conor magically reappear from their sojourn on the swings and yes, they need to swim again.

Erin, Anél and Conor

On go the costumes, setting the pace for a day punctuated by umpteen toilet breaks and costume changes.

But, despite the fact that I spent an inordinate amount of time waiting outside bathroom doors – because “Mom, you mustn’t see me”, I realised that these snatched moments alone with my children were in fact precious opportunities to bond with them. Without the distractions of technology and television, they used our loo breaks to talk about the previous night’s dream, the fire truck they had spotted in a toy store and the books they wanted to take out from the library.

During the many, many costume changes, I got to hear about Conor’s progress with his underwater swimming and Erin’s fear of diving boards.

Those mundane moments, while irritating at the time, will be cherished one day when they start visiting new places without us. And who knows, maybe one day when my days of lazy outings are long over, and I’m dependent on my children to take me out, they will have to wait for me on bathroom breaks.

Anél Lewis has now laid down the law and explained that each child will get only two bathroom breaks and one outfit change with mom per outing. She’s also taken to carrying a book of Sudoku with her – just in case she’s stuck in a bathroom without any reading material.

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PHOTOGRAPH: Susie Leblond Photography

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under six years old on the scene, she’s forgotten what that entails.

books

a good read toddlers Hogs Hate Hugs!

By Tiziana Bendall-Brunello and John Bendall-Brunello (Published by Lion’s Children’s Books, R264) Little Hog is the cutest, cuddliest hog in the whole forest, and everyone wants to hug him. But one day Little Hog gets fed up with all this hugging – he’s too grown up for that. Can his friends persuade him that you can never be too old for a hug?

With adorable and lively illustrations packed with character, this picture book is fantastic for parents and children to enjoy together.

preschool The Landy Series

By Veronica Lamond (Published by Struik Nature, R95 each) Educational with an environmental message, these beautifully illustrated books will delight young children and the large community of “landy” owners. The first book in the series, Landy, tells of Jack finding Landy abandoned at the bottom of the field and how they start their new life together. In the next book we meet Fender, and the adventures begin.

early grades Freckle Juice

By Judy Blume and Emily Gravett (Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R103) Andrew wants freckles. He wants to be like Nicky Lane, who has millions of them. If he had freckles like Nicky, then his mother would never notice when his neck was dirty. He wouldn’t have to wash and he’d never be late for school.

for moms The Daughterhood

By Natasha Fennell and Róisín Ingle preteens and teens All About Pumpkin

By Natasha Farrant (Published by Faber and Faber, R164) In the third book in this series for children from the age of 11 years old, Bluebell, Twig and Jas are sent to stay with Grandma for the summer. There is sobbing and shouting.

There are horses and night-time dares, confusing boys and grandmas to look after.

But there is also laughter and love – and that is what being a family is all about.

for us Durban Curry: So Much of Flavour

By Erica Platter and Clinton Friedman (Published by Paw Paw, R281) If you love curry, you’ll come across recipes in this book you either forgot about or never knew existed. If you’re new to the world of curries, within these pages are carefully sourced formulae, lovingly shared by their inventors.

From Cindy’s Chicken and Egg Curry, Yoshan’s Masala Braai Chops, to Mango Achar and Govinda’s Paneer Chutney, it’s a book full of spice and flavour.

(Published by Simon and Schuster, R371) The relationship we have with our mothers is one of the most complex we’ll ever know.

It’s universally recognised that while the bond between mothers and daughters can be especially close, it can also bring challenges.

When Natasha’s mother was diagnosed with a progressive illness, she wasn’t ready to deal with the consequences. With this a process of selfscrutiny began. She also knew she wasn’t the only person feeling like this, and with a call-out in an Irish newspaper, hundreds of responses poured in. From there this book was born.

for us The Illustrated South African First Aid Manual

By Linda Buys (Published by Struik Lifestyle, R146) This book offers concise, yet comprehensive, instructions on how to deal with all common firstaid emergencies, including bleeding, epilepsy, poisoning, amputations, diarrhoea, shock, burns, vomiting, choking, wounds, hypothermia, CPR, bites, heatstroke, drowning, fractures, stings, strains and sprains, eye injuries, as well as domestic pet first aid. Step-by-step illustrations show the latest procedures.