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I am always interested to hear where families have been and what they’ve seen and done. I love the idea of going to a brand-new spot every couple of months, and I love the fact that in South Africa, that spot could be only an hour or two away from home. We have so many wonderful, extremely family-friendly options close to home (see our getaway adverts), that it’s a wonder we find the time to venture further. Having said that, the thrill of travelling to a new country, hearing a language so different to our own – even if we have 11 of them – is without a doubt worth being wedged between a snorer and a non-mover who hogs both armrests for 15 hours! I once flew to Sydney stuck between my husband, who snored, and a woman who

literally did not move the entire flight – not even to go to the bathroom. Thankfully, the spectacular sights and sounds of Sydney made up for the plane trip. If you are up to travelling a bit further for something a little different, then our getaway resource “slow down, everyone” (page 24) is what you need. Whether it’s to the exclusive Tswalu Kalahari or pony trekking in Lesotho, let us know what takes your fancy… we’d love to hear from you.

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contents

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24 upfront

health

8 don’t turn a deaf ear

a note from lisa

readers respond

features

regulars

14 live to learn

7 wins

6 over to you

a ctivities at home can take care of difficulties at school. By Ruth Rehbock

early identification of hearing problems is crucial to your child’s development. By Tamlyn Vincent

9 upfront with paul Paul Kerton urges parents to stay calm in the minefield that is the education system 10 best for baby – golden slumber

Kim Maxwell looks at the different options for getting your baby to sleep

12 dealing with difference

type 2 diabetes is the new paediatric disease, warns Marina Zietsman

24 resource – slow down, everyone

Child magazine brings you a list of holidays that will heal and rejuvenate you

26 a good read

16 backyard olympics get the children into the spirit of the Games with home-made athletic events for all shapes, sizes and ages. By Christina Castle 18 make a meal of it have your weekly menu sorted with inspiration from Jenny Kay and Elinor Storkey’s new book, Fuss-free Suppers 20 a trip down the countryside Louise Brouard shares her family’s adventures through the canals of France

new books for the whole family

28 what’s on in july 34 finishing touch what’s in a name, you may ask? Plenty, says Anél Lewis, if you are not very careful when choosing one

classified ads 32 let’s party 34 family marketplace

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letters

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where can I go? In response to the article on Asperger’s syndrome (June 2012). My son, four, was diagnosed with being on the autism spectrum. He has all the markers of SPD (semantic pragmatic disorder), which has similar symptoms to Asperger’s. We are struggling to find a remedial/special-needs school close to where we live. Are there any home schools in the Bluff, Glenwood, Yellowwood Park or Queensburgh areas that deal with children with learning disabilities? We are at a loss as to what to do as he is coping academically in the mainstream school he is attending, but because of his speech and social skills issues, the school is not too keen to keep him for another year. People judge these poor children so harshly and they are so quick to point out their issues, rather then their gifts. Is there anyone that can give me advice and guidance? Kelly-Anne Follow us on twitter.com/ChildMag and facebook.com/childmag.co.za

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the dolly debate Why is it nearly impossible to find decent black dolls in South Africa? I have been looking in various toy shops and I only see white dolls with blond hair and blue eyes. Is that possible in a country with a majority black population? I am white but my daughter is coloured because she has a Xhosa father. She has very curly hair and is four years old. She thinks only blond girls with straight hair are beautiful and the rest do not count. I do not want to perpetuate this vision. I am trying to find ways of encouraging her that black is beautiful, and curly hair is beautiful. I can’t find a specific doll brand (black) here, so am trying to find one in France. But it remains puzzling to me why it is so difficult to find black dolls in South Africa. Ingrid Dekker

facts on c-sections

how to really make a difference

I am writing in response to the article “special delivery” (June 2012). In this feature a figure of 21 percent is quoted for the Caesarean section rate in South Africa in 2003. I would like to clarify that this number represents births in the public sector. This figure has increased slightly in the intervening years and in 2010 was 22,5 percent. It would be more informative for your readers to cite the Caesarean section rate in the private sector in South Africa, which is very different. The Council for Medical Schemes reported a Caesarean section rate in the private sector of 62 percent in 2005 and more recently one of the largest private hospital groups reported a Caesarean section rate of 68 percent in 2011. In comparison, Norway and Sweden have Caesarean section rates of 17 percent and 18 percent respectively and have the lowest neonatal mortality rates in the world (two per 1 000 live births). Dr Tanya Doherty

My experience working for a vagrancy project and learning from various social welfare experts has led me to understand how important it is for a community to not give directly to those unfortunate enough to be begging and living on our streets, as this simply makes the problem worse and sadly encourages more and more people to stay on the streets and beg. It is much better and more helpful that we support and make our donations through a project, which is committed to helping people move off the streets and start a new life away from begging. I really encourage everyone to support such organisations in whatever way you can and to please not give any cash, food and other “hand-outs” or offer odd jobs directly to vagrants and others begging in your community. For example, I Care educate the public about the dangers of giving money to street children. They have homes for these children and are in constant need of donations, food, blankets and more. Concerned community worker

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Child magazine writer, Gary Koen, has won the prestigious Brandhouse Responsible Drinking Media Award for Best Online Entry 2012. Gary’s article, “think before you let them drink”, which appeared in the April issue of Child magazine, is now on our website, childmag.co.za. This is the first award initiative of its kind in the country, and aims to recognise journalistic efforts in supporting, promoting and contributing to the responsible drinking agenda. To read Gary’s article, go to childmag.co.za/ content/think-you-let-them-drink

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giveaways in july touched by someone you love children on the go Crocs South Africa introduces Crocband Jaunt Kids, fully moulded rain boots using Croslite material. They are lightweight, with finger holes for easy on-and-off and are available from a baby size six to a children’s size three in fuchsia, seablue or lime. Contact: 0861 692 762 or visit mycrocs.co.za Seven readers stand a chance to each win a pair of Crocband Jaunt Kids rain boots, valued at R299,95. Simply enter via childmag.co.za/wins-dbn and use the code “Crocs DBN”. Your details will be made available to Crocs.

Smallprint creates unique keepsakes of children’s fingerprints, handprints, artwork and handwriting on fine silver jewellery. Each piece of jewellery captures a moment in time. Contact Lisa: 076 323 9579, lisa.kennedy@smallprint.co.za or Mayurie: 083 661 2455, mayurie. bhagwandas@smallprint.co.za or visit smallprint.co.za or facebook. com/SmallprintSouthAfrica Three readers stand a chance to each win a Smallprint pendant with your child’s fingerprint, attached to a sterling silver snake chain, valued at R668. Simply enter via childmag.co.za/wins-dbn and use the code “Smallprint DBN”. Your details will be made available to Smallprint.

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congratulations to our May winners Nicola Meyer who wins décor for a party of 10 children and a mini candy buffet, valued at

or post your entry to PO Box 12002, Mill Street, 8010. Entries close 31 July 2012. Only one entry per reader.

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R3 500 and Liesl Dumke who wins a Baby Soft hamper, with Baby Soft and Radox products and a spa voucher for her and a friend, all valued at R2 000.

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health

don’t turn a deaf ear The early identification of any hearing problems can make a significant

n alarming 17 babies are born daily in South Africa with impaired hearing, and the Early Hearing Detection and Intervention Services in South Africa (EHDI SA) estimates that 7,5 percent of school-going children suffer from varying degrees of hearing loss. Elbé Boshoff, a Cape Town-based audiologist, says that if left undetected for too long, hearing loss can cause delays in your child’s speech, language and hearing development.

why it happens Babies may be born with congenital conditions that affect their hearing, or they may develop problems later on. Boshoff says most hearing loss is “acquired” after birth, and may be caused by exposure to a loud noise, infections, head or ear injuries, or certain illnesses. Dr De Wet Swanepoel, from EHDI SA, says babies who spend more than five days in the neonatal ICU may develop problems with their hearing as they are more prone to complications. Other

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causes include in-utero infections, genetic conditions, and craniofacial anomalies.

what to look for

trouble pronouncing words or who watch your lips when you speak may also be struggling to hear. Behavioural problems are another indicator, says Swanepoel.

Babies and children may show different signs of hearing loss as they age. • Boshoff says a younger baby may not be startled by a loud noise, such as a door slamming. An older baby may not turn her head towards a noise. If your baby stops babbling between six and eight months, or doesn’t reach normal speech and language milestones, there may be a problem. • Speech and language delays in toddlers can indicate hearing loss. If they are inattentive, have difficulty learning, or ask you to repeat phrases, they may be struggling to hear you. Another indicator is sitting too close to the television, or turning up the sound. • In children, poor academic performance or the teacher complaining that your child doesn’t seem to hear may be cause for concern, says Boshoff. Children that have

“Early identification is crucial to the management of hearing loss,” advises Boshoff. Babies absorb language in the first few months of life, says Swanepoel, so undetected hearing loss can have negative long-term effects. Babies should have a screening done before they are a month old and you can have it done shortly after birth. Another screening can be done at around seven months, says Boshoff. Children may also develop late onset hearing loss, or a middle ear infection where hearing loss is the only symptom. These types of problems can be difficult for parents to pick up and may affect learning and development. If you think your child may have trouble hearing, go for regular testing. Boshoff also recommends

when and where to go

that preschool and school-going children have their hearing tested once a year and it should be done by a registered audiologist. Treatment is most effective when started early, and Swanepoel recommends intervention before six months of age. However, this will depend on the nature of the hearing loss. A middle ear infection could be treated with medication or with ventilation tubes, also known as grommets,” says Boshoff. “If hearing loss is permanent, hearing instruments, a bone-anchored hearing aid or a cochlear implant would be recommended in most cases.”

who to call For more information or to find a speech therapist or audiologist in your area, contact the South African Speech-Language-Hearing Association: 086 111 3297, admin @sashla.co.za or visit sashla.co.za

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difference to your child’s development. By TAMLYN VINCENT

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keep calm and carry on PAUL KERTON says if you want to keep your child on track, you’ll need to, gently, play a more central role in their education.

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hink back to school – there were teachers you absolutely loved, teachers you loathed and teachers you didn’t even notice. Some were sticklers for the rules, others didn’t need to discipline – you simply hung on to their every syllable. The bottom line is there are great teachers, good teachers and useless teachers. The problem is nobody knows if the teacher is good or bad, until they teach. A bad teacher will only teach six months’ worth of syllabus in a school year, a great teacher will motor through a year and a half’s worth in the same time. The difference on your child is a whole year of learning. And both teachers earn the same! This is why in Europe they have mooted the idea of paying bad teachers less.

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No, seriously. Can you imagine being labelled a “bad” teacher and getting paid less than your colleagues in the staff room? Will individual grading mean wearing gold, silver or bronze badges? Can you imagine being the parent of a child who lands a bad teacher instead of a great teacher? Yes, we all quickly work out in our heads who is hot and who is not, but official naming and shaming is considered bizarre. They say to experience superior teaching you either get better teachers or halve the class size. A great teacher is preferable because you don’t need to employ more teachers or build more classrooms. The school environment doesn’t matter; an excellent teacher in a

bad school is far better than a bad teacher in an excellent school. Excellent schools just tend to attract more great teachers. The problem is there is a global shortage of teachers. Why? Wages have remained static while the demands, in terms of results, paperwork and being expected to do hours of overtime (for the love of the job), have intensified. Recently a group of teachers and examination board members, attending “seminars”, were “outed”. Such is the ferocity of competition between schools to get good grades, the examiners were telling the teachers, who paid vulgar sums of money, what the upcoming exam questions were. Also, men have left the profession in droves after a series of global “scandals” made it

impossible for them to teach, which is sad. Some men have an incredible affinity for children and are skilled at getting the best out of them, but a male teacher, certainly of younger children, now attracts the same comments he would if he’d just bought a Russian bride. This needs to be reversed. Everywhere, educationalists and ministers are trying to fast track learning to impart the most knowledge in the shortest space of time for the least cost. It’s a lottery so stay calm, choose wisely and monitor progress. Not only is your child’s future at stake but national pride to boot. Paul Kerton is the author of Fab Dad 2: From Walking to Talking… and Beyond.

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best for baby

golden slumber Getting your baby to sleep like a baby may be a struggle. KIM MAXWELL looks

at recommended bedtime practices.

hat old saying, “there are many ways to skin a cat”, came to mind when I started researching the most beneficial practices to encourage babies to sleep. Canvas the opinions from exhausted parents of babies under a year old, even the upbeat ones whose children “slept through” early, and there will be huge variations in what set the tone for restfulness. There’ll be mention of the type of bed linen used, the most suitable sleep environment or whether a baby shared their bed. Even defining what is “normal” sleep behaviour varies widely as it depends on what parents were exposed to. A colleague with a 20-month-old child and a hefty workload recently announced that she was enlisting professional help after being woken nightly with repeated requests for a bottle. It wouldn’t have taken long for my lack-of-sleep grumpiness to overwhelm me.

cot death There seems to be universal agreement by baby experts on ways to eliminate sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), the unexplainable death of a baby usually under the age of one. These include ensuring sleeping babies are only on their backs or sides, using rolled towels or wedges to assist, and on firm mattresses with no heavy, synthetic bedding that might cover faces or hamper breathing. Smoke-free bedrooms kept at moderate temperatures of between 18˚C and 21˚C also decrease the risk.

self-soothing skills Megan Faure and Ann Richardson’s Baby Sense and Sleep Sense (Metz Press) books emphasise equipping young babies with skills to “self-calm from an early age, at even a few weeks old” to aid

are bad sleep habits formed early? I remember stressing about this with my six-week-old son, when pacing or rocking seemed the only way to get him to wind. Michelle Baker, a Durban-based clinical psychologist, says these actions can help, “but 90 percent of that is the parent’s anxiety about other issues”. They might find it difficult to put their baby down in a cot, even with a monitor nearby, because of their own issues about cot death. Jenni Johnson, Johannesburg clinic practitioner, nurse and midwife specialising in parenting sleep issues, believes that babies younger than one month old cannot be spoilt. But children older than that will form habits quickly. “The earlier a baby is given the skills to settle itself, the better,” says Johnson. “However, babies and children can be taught these skills at any age. Sleep routines are best thought of as giving the child the gift of quiet time and sleep, rather than as a rigid routine.”

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sleep. This means parents should not react to a baby’s every murmur, and should instead encourage them to suck their hands, a dummy or a blanket. I took their advice on board because it sounded logical. I also created a “visually soothing” sleep environment, with darkened rooms, monotonous background noise, and firmly swaddled my baby in a stretchy cotton blanket for the first few months. But then I had a winter baby. Johnson says swaddling seems more successful in colder climates. “Most local babies I treat only find swaddling comforting in the first week or so, particularly if they’re unsettled. A baby that is settled and encouraged to fall asleep without much assistance will sleep more soundly, for longer and will be less niggly when waking,” advises Johnson. “One of the best gifts you can give your child is the skill of falling asleep on their own. It’s the foundation of independence and security.” magazine durban

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One of the best gifts you can give your child is the skill of falling asleep on their own. It’s the foundation of independence and security.

routine sleep The Baby Sense authors recommend instilling wake and sleep routines, and avoiding over stimulation before bedtime. These include limiting periods when the baby is awake and avoiding too many stimulating mobiles and pictures on walls for babies less than three months. I know many mothers who used these tips. A friend whose baby cried often, resisting sleep, battled to find a remedy until she finally sought professional help and the child was diagnosed with silent reflux. After trying several other methods, this mom used the customised approach of Erica Neser, Stellenbosch-based lactation consultant and author of Sleep Guide for Babies and Toddlers (Protea Bookhouse). “I’m somebody who gathers information and tries to provide parents with a broad range of opinions, because there can’t be only one way that works. I’m sometimes a lone voice, but I’m a little gentler in my approach.”

sleep close The issue of babies co-sleeping with their mothers often provokes prickly reactions. Neser is all for it, believing many sleep problems developed through an insistence that babies should sleep alone. “Human babies have slept close to their parents for thousands of years. There is plenty of evidence that it’s beneficial for both mothers and babies to sleep together,” she says.

give it time Neser says we should accept children’s night waking niggles and understand that that these issues will work themselves out over time. She quotes statistics suggesting that around 80 percent of three-month-old

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babies, 75 percent of six month olds and 50 percent of one year olds, need help to fall asleep again at night. “Hence we should see night waking as a healthy, normal part of child development, not necessarily a ‘problem’ that needs to be fixed,” she says. Her advice is at odds with many experts who instead coax babies to “sleep through” without interruption. For busy working parents, this is often a practical expectation. “I’m not willing to set a cut-off age if it feels right to the parent,” she adds, in reference to this milestone. “I wouldn’t see it as abnormal if a one-year-old baby is still rocked to sleep, if a two-year-old wants mom next to him to fall asleep, or a child aged four needs a massage to help him wind down.” Studies suggest that babies with sleep issues are more likely to have sleep difficulties as toddlers, compared with babies who sleep well from early on. A medical survey of over 250 mothers, done in Ohio, found that one in 10 children under age three had sleep problems, such as nightmares, waking, trouble falling asleep or an inability to sleep in their own bed. Those who had no sleep problems as babies, usually developed no problems when they were older. However, 21 to 35 of every 100 babies with sleep problems had sleep issues later on. Neser often counsels clients against slavishly following practitioners’ recommendations. “No expert or family member knows your baby better than you do. So ultimately I focus on helping a parent find what feels right,” she says. “Even if all the sleep strategies are ‘wrong’, most children will grow out of what they’re doing by age three or four. Parents often need permission to trust their own instincts.” She makes a good point.

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silent killer Diabetes is fast becoming the epidemic of the 21st century, with type 2 diabetes, previously unheard of in children, rising at alarming rates. By Marina Zietsman how do you know?

our to six million people in South Africa have diabetes and most of them are unaware that they have the condition. If this statistic does not make you choke on your fudge, maybe this statement will: type 2 diabetes has emerged as the new “paediatric disorder”.

one or two? What are we dealing with here and why are alarm bells ringing regarding type 2 diabetes? There are two types of diabetes, of which type 1 cannot be prevented. It is usually diagnosed in children and young adults, and was previously known as juvenile diabetes. Type 1 is classified

Alison Jordaan, 13, from Durban was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes in 2005. Her mom Dawn explains. “Alison was constantly thirsty and would drink litres of juice during the day. She complained of tummy aches and started wetting the bed again at night.” Alison’s sugar levels were tested and the result came back as HI (over 33 mmol/L; normal range is 4–8), which indicated hyperglycemia, a condition that occurs when the body’s blood sugar is too high. Alison was referred to a paediatric endocrinologist and was hospitalised. Here her parents were taught how to inject insulin into her tummy and test her blood sugar. The testing is still done up to eight times per day. The symptoms type 1 and 2 diabetes share are frequent urination, unusual thirst, extreme hunger, abnormal weight loss and extreme fatigue and irritability. Indicators of type 2 diabetes also include frequent infections, blurred vision, cuts or bruises that are slow to heal, a tingling or numbness in the hands and/or feet and recurring skin, gum or bladder infections.

We need to prevent rather than treat only and it needs to start from a very young age in our homes.

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risk factors Normally type 1 diabetes has a rapid onset and is accompanied by the classic symptoms of diabetes, says Olivier. “Alison was quite a sickly child so one of these illnesses could have triggered it,” says Dawn. In Alison’s case there is a family history of type 1 diabetes, but many people are diagnosed with diabetes without this genetic disadvantage. “Type 2 diabetes, traditionally only seen in middle-aged and elderly individuals or at least those older than 30 years of age, has a more gradual onset and is multifactorial in pathogenesis, meaning there is usually a family history of it, but lifestyle factors such as inactivity and being overweight also play a part in its development,” says Olivier. According to research in 2007 by Discovery Vitality and the Sports Science Institute of South Africa, 30 percent of teenage girls and 10 percent of teenage boys are overweight, while 22 percent of primary school girls magazine durban

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as an autoimmune disease, meaning the body’s immune system “attacks” its own tissues or organs, in this case the insulinproducing cells in the pancreas, resulting in the pancreas not being able to produce insulin. Genetics may play a role in this process, and exposure to certain viruses may trigger the disease. Type 2 diabetes means the body is not responding correctly to insulin. This is caused mainly by obesity and being unfit. Dr Christel Olivier at Diabetes Care Centurion explains the concern: “With the worldwide obesity epidemic, type 2 diabetes is now also emerging in teenagers and even children under the age of 10. In my practice I see many young adults between 18 and 30 years of age with type 2 diabetes, mostly with a family history of it and of being overweight or obese.” In fact, the last 30 years has seen a threefold increase in the number of cases of type 2 diabetes, as well as of type 1 diabetes.

and 17 percent of primary school boys are overweight. A whopping 17 percent of children under the age of nine are already overweight. Although type 2 diabetes is in itself not life threatening, in many ways it is more dangerous than type 1, as its onset is gradual and hard to detect. Diabetes SA warns that undetected high blood glucose levels over a long period can cause serious damage to the body and lead to blindness, a heart attack or stroke, kidney failure, impotence and amputation. Karen Pike, a diabetic nurse educator at the Constantiaberg Mediclinic in Cape Town points out other risk factors. “Ethnic origins, the gestational period (your baby is at higher risk of getting diabetes when in the womb) and an impaired glucose tolerance (IGT) all can play a role in the onset of diabetes.” When testing the incidence of type 2 diabetes in specific ethnic groups the results revealed five to seven percent, but in our Indian population it is as high as 14 percent. Olivier, however, warns that the worldwide tendency is that it is on the increase in all populations. IGT is a fancy name given to those cases that fall under “pre-diabetes”. This means your blood sugar levels are higher than normal, but below the level of a person with diabetes. The danger of being prediabetic is that people don’t often show the symptoms of the disease, so are unaware that they are developing full-scale type 2 diabetes. Weight loss, a change in diet, moderate exercise and early treatment can return blood sugar levels to normal.

manage and prevent As mentioned earlier, type 1 diabetes cannot be cured, only controlled, so the rules are simple: take insulin, eat healthy, check blood sugar levels regularly and be active. “As the years have passed, Alison’s insulin needs have increased,” says her mom. “She was injecting herself up to eight times a day until December 2010, when she was given an insulin pump.” The insulin pump delivers tiny amounts of insulin into her body all day, and she programmes it to give her extra insulin at meal times. Alison has tested her blood sugar over 20 000 times in her life. Dawn says that at first it was very difficult for them to understand the disease and deal with the information overload, but with guidance and a foolproof family plan, life can be normal. “Being diagnosed in Grade 1, my fears were how Alison would cope at school, and with sports, and how her peers would react, but we were lucky to have fantastic support from her teachers and friends.” Alison was back at school two weeks after diagnosis and, with the guidance of teachers, was testing her own blood sugar. “She started to inject herself within six months,” says Dawn. magazine durban

Dawn admits that type 1 diabetes is a 24/7 disease, but making coping mechanisms part of their routine has benefited her family. “We count carbohydrates in foods, Alison calculates her insulin level based on this and we take her blood sugar reading at the same time. As a family we have learnt how to eat healthier, as a good diet helps keep blood sugars stable. We also try to eat low GI foods when possible.” Alison’s condition has not stopped her from participating in sports. She has won medals for swimming and athletics, and was awarded the school trophy for best girls all-rounder in sport twice. Olivier adds that prevention of type 2 diabetes starts with acknowledging that you are in a high-risk group and getting tested annually. According to Diabetes SA, scientists believe that lifestyle and type 2 diabetes are closely linked. Lifestyle is one area that individuals can focus on to help prevent or delay the onset of the disease. A healthy diet, weight control, exercise, reduction in stress and no smoking are important preventative steps. If type 2 diabetes has been detected in your child, he will be treated with oral medication if it’s in the early stage (insulin treatment is only necessary when the diabetes is in its advanced stage) as well as with lifestyle intervention (weight loss and exercise). But where prevention is concerned, choosing a healthy lifestyle is number one. Olivier’s final advice is, “We need to prevent rather than treat only and it needs to start from a very young age in our homes. We as parents must set the example and teach our children to exercise on a regular basis and eat healthy.”

98 percent the increase in the number of adults living with diabetes in Africa by the year 2030

complications Type 2 diabetes in children is on the increase worldwide, mainly due to poor lifestyle choices. When you are diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, it’s not only your blood sugar levels or pancreas that are affected. The following complications can also set in: • Heart and blood vessel disease • Nerve damage • Liver disease • Kidney damage • Eye damage • Foot damage • Skin problems • Brain problems

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education

Are you one of those parents scratching your head, wondering why so many children are being

round two decades ago children played ball, dug tunnels or made bows and arrows. They experienced the world directly, and thus had a sense of time and space. Now our lives involve less activity and more passivity; we push buttons and stare at screens rather than engage with the real world of soil, grass, pen and paper. “Obsession with technology is eroding our sense of physical potential and our sense of continuity in daily life; we switch tasks after a few seconds or minutes many times a day,” says Alison Scott, principal of Bellavista School in northern Johannesburg. “How many times do we get interrupted by or interrupt our own train of thought with cell phone calls, emails and the like?” says Scott, who adds that we in turn inflict this lack of focus on our children, who mirror our lifestyle and so can’t focus on ordinary tasks for any length of time.

What’s more, our physical existence takes a back seat. Instead of climbing trees, children are playing on computers and staring at the TV. This kind of living is translating itself in the classroom – Head of Occupational Therapy at the University of Free State, Annemarie van Jaarsveld says, “As occupational therapists, we receive our greatest number of referrals from teachers, mostly for reading, writing and the various gross motor skills, indicating that more children are not coping at school.” She adds that this is arguably due to the fact that we are raising passive children who spend a disproportionate amount of time hooked to a screen. “Electronic games offer immediate gratification, no real contact with another human being or real objects, and permit an escape to a virtual reality, which requires no physical energy or any sense of time or space,” says Scott.

play a key role in your child’s learning encourage your child’s numeracy skills • U se practical aids such as beads, fingers or an abacus to help with counting, adding and subtracting. • Involve children in everyday things like filling the petrol tank. Ask them to work out how much the fuel will cost at R11 a litre, and get them to calculate how far you have travelled on the last tank of petrol. • For young children, preschoolers and children in Grade 1, it helps to trace out the numbers one to ten on different surfaces. • Play games that use two dice. Board games can make learning fun.

boost your child’s literacy skills • R ead limericks, nursery rhymes and stories to your child. Get your child to read to you too and try not to interrupt him as it affects comprehension and continuity. • Trace letters in sand, and paint and cut out shapes of letters to help them remember them. • Take your child to the library and let him pick books he likes as long as the material is age-appropriate.

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Scott, who is also a qualified remedial teacher, believes one of the key issues today is that we don’t engage enough with our children. Among teachers, the consensus is that parents can and ought to play a key role in their child’s learning, which is termed ‘mediator’ learning. “Our greatest success stories are when we’ve targeted a problem with the parent and they facilitate the learning process,” she adds. This helps with children learning to transfer what they learn from one subject to another, for instance using sums to work out how well they have done in a spelling test or how much petrol was used on a road trip. Help your child to transfer the skills they learn at school to fun, good old-fashioned home activities, such as baking a cake. “Baking is wonderful as it requires your child to complete tasks using numeracy and literacy – you have to do things in sequence firstly, then you also need to understand weight, measurement and temperature – and waiting for the biscuits or cake to be ready gives them a real sense of time. Let younger children pour flour, stir in eggs or help decorate the cake,” says Scott. She adds that the new curriculum in South African schools is set up to promote a transfer of facts and skills, but cautions that if your child isn’t coping at school you must seek out professional help as soon as possible so that he doesn’t fall behind.

does your child need professional help? “Before choosing to have an intervention you need to clearly understand what difficulties are affecting your child’s

27 percent The increase in the number of children attending OT in 2011 compared to the amount that attended OT in 2008 – Medscheme

overall performance, says Juliette Grant, an educational psychologist who works at Tafelberg Remedial School in Cape Town. “An assessment should always look at the cognitive, scholastic and emotional functioning of a child. You need to know what obstacles the child faces in the learning situation.” Once your child has been assessed he or she will be referred to therapy such as speech or OT, or you’ll be advised to get a remedial teacher to help or a combination will be recommended. “The sooner you get help for your child, the better the chance of remedying the problem successfully,” says Grant, “keeping in mind that nothing is as valuable to your child’s learning as your support and your relationship with them. Whether it’s chatting or reading to your child, laying the table together, or listening to his problems with interest and empathy, you are improving your child’s chances of success.” What’s more, the more varied your child’s learning experience, the better. So, use all the tools at your disposal, say the experts. Whether it’s physical activity, the electronic screen or comic books, if your child is stimulated and able to focus, make the most of all the options. “Our children can concentrate on video games or movies, but the important aspect of concentration is whether they can focus on other tasks, and stay on task for the required amount of time,” says Scott. Key to teaching a child to focus is to give him a sense of security and the tools with which to regulate his feelings and his actions. “Part of our children’s problems with concentration for instance, stem from not having a sense of time, she adds. “Put a clock and calendar on the wall. Mark significant days like birthdays and school terms and explain how you break down the passing of time into days, hours, minutes and seconds.” Your child should recognise, for instance, that if he does homework for 20 minutes, he can then play outside for an hour before suppertime. “If your child knows there magazine durban

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sent for therapy of one kind or another? Well, RUTH REHBOCK assures you, you’re not alone.

are time limits for specific tasks, he will feel more secure and that he has some control over his world.” We need to also teach by example, say the experts. “Be organised at home if you want your child to be organised in other settings,” says Scott. “Play soccer, badminton or run races with your child, or teach him model-building or scrapbooking, and he will improve his co-ordination and fine and gross motor skills, and realise there is so much fun to be had without pushing a button.” “My daughter couldn’t concentrate in class for more than a few minutes and the teacher was really concerned as she was in Grade 1, which is when they’re forming the groundwork of their numeracy and literacy skills. I took her to an OT and she recommended we try physical exercise before any other type of treatments. She gave us exercises like skipping and climbing jungle gyms and rope ladders and she became a different child. After we incorporated these activities into her routine she blossomed and did well at school,” says Karen van Deventer from Centurion.

enhance your child’s ability to concentrate • Limit your child’s sugar or preservative intake and supplement with vitamins and omegas. • Create a space free of noise or intense visual distractions, like TV or ringing phones, if you want your child to be able to focus. • Brush your child’s skin or use deep pressure massage for children with tactile issues.

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• If your child moves around constantly, seat him on a movement cushion or give him putty to squeeze. Check that inefficient posture isn’t the cause of restlessness. • For an activity requiring focused attention, change the course of the activity regularly to keep your child interested. • Involve all learning styles as much as you can – visual, auditory and kinaesthetic (movement and sensation). “To be on track with any intervention, whether formal or informal, look at your child holistically,” says Grant. “We must always consider a child’s stage of development and take into account their individual strengths and weaknesses.” Marion Whitton from Durban says her daughter was diagnosed with concentration difficulties and low muscle tone at the age of 8 and her teacher and an OT recommended she be put on Ritalin and sent for regular OT. “I didn’t like her being on Ritalin – it can have problematic side effects and I didn’t feel comfortable putting my young daughter on this type of medication. She also wasn’t happy going to occupational therapy. We weren’t sure what to do for her, but after we heard about horse-riding as a good way to help with all sorts of issues, we decided to try it and the riding worked wonders. She became more focused, her work improved, she became more assertive and made friends more easily.”

improve your child’s coordination fine motor skills • Drawing, tracing and cutting • Threading beads or buttons • Using glue to stick cloth, pasta, beans • Playing with blocks and Lego “Using fingers, particularly the forefinger, middle finger and thumb, will help with finger dexterity and attention to detail,” says Grant.

gross motor skills • Dancing, gymnastics and karate can help with motor planning, balance, muscle tone and posture. • Netball, hockey, soccer and rugby help with endurance, agility and awareness of one’s body in space.

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activities

d r a y olympics k c a b CHRISTINA CASTLE outlines a few sporting classics that work for athletes of all ages, shapes and sizes.

shot put Calling all lightweights and heavyweights, this discipline is best performed outside, away from the windows. Arm yourselves with tinned food of varied weights and sizes. From tiny tomato paste tins to tins of tuna chunks that could feed an army of athletes, the idea here is to stage an over-theshoulder throwing competition. Points should be awarded for greatest distance and height thrown, most creative technique and loudest and most imaginative grunt made on release of the tin.

steeplechase Traditionally performed with horses, you may substitute the live beast for a tame broom. Around the garden, create an adventurous obstacle course of jumps, puddles and tunnels. Then it’s off to the wardrobe to find the closest thing to jodhpurs, jackets (try the trusted school blazer) and helmets. Saddle up and get galloping. Fastest time around the course wins. Prizes should also be considered for most handsome horse and best-dressed rider.

handstands On your hands, get ready, go! This event may be performed on your own, against a wall or in pairs, depending on ability. Younger or less experienced handstanders may require a little help to achieve balance. First prize is awarded to the hand stander who stays on their hands the longest – assisted or unassisted. Take it a step further and try to walk on your hands if you can. You may also want to try this with headstands. Trust me, it is the easier option. Just find yourself a nice soft pillow.

rhythmic gymnastics This is the pretty part of the Olympic Games, and your chance to get really creative. Choose an apparatus to work with – ribbon on a stick, or a lightweight ball or hoop. Then choreograph a simple gymnastics

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routine of leaps, somersaults, cartwheels and double back flips (just joking) that incorporate innovative and interesting use of that apparatus. And don’t forget the music. It will give your routine a very individual theme. Costuming is also an important factor to consider. Leotards, swimming costumes, and even underwear will certainly add to the experience. Just make sure those opening and closing poses are wellrehearsed. They can make or break a performance, I am told.

walkabout Get the walking shoes out, line up all participants and warm up those hips, because this walkabout will take you out into the neighbourhood and around the block. Remember there are very strict rules when walking: • Any form of running will lead to immediate disqualification. • Walkers must stick to pavements only. The sillier the walk the better (I think this event may have been created by the Monty Python brigade). Podium positions should be awarded to the speediest walker and definitely the silliest walker.

wheelbarrow race It may not boast the prestige of being an official Olympic sport, but if woodcutting can make it, then I think there is room for wheelbarrow racing. An old favourite and a definite crowd-pleaser, wheelbarrow races really need no explanation. Set up a course, find a mate and line up those chariots. Expect a few spills along the way. The wipeouts are the most fun and perhaps the best way to judge the winner of this particular event.

lawn bowls And you thought this was just a game for grannies. This gentle sport that displays the greatest of ball skills may not be played at a pace, but it can bring out the most competitive spirit in all of us. The object of the game is to deliver, by way of rolling, a ball closest to a placed white ball (called a jack) towards the end of the green – this is the area you play on. You can nudge out competitors’ balls along the way. The ball that is closest to the jack is the winner. While it is essentially an outdoor game, any flat indoor surface will do. And while the real game of lawn bowls requires

very definite ball size, shape and weight, using a variety of different balls could make for a lot more fun. Imagine playing it with a rugby ball…

tag rugby This gem of a game was created on the decks of Royal Navy aircraft carriers where tackle rugby may have hurt more than usual if you hit the ground. Equipped with a tag tucked into the back of your pants, players grab the tag instead of going for a tackle. The game works pretty much along the same lines as touch rugby except, by grabbing the tag, you have proof of the actual tagging, which basically means fewer fights and a more harmonious game. This game has fantastic, exhausting qualities.

4x4 croquet While croquet does not really feature on the Olympic line up, this version of the game might just earn its stripes. Just wait until the Olympic committee hears about it. Traditionally played on flat, manicured lawn, while sipping gin and tonic, croquet is the game for aristocrats; 4x4 croquet, however, is not. It’s a backyard classic that requires players to hit golf balls, hockey balls or cricket balls through a series of obstacles using golf clubs, hockey sticks, cricket bats – whatever – over unmanicured terrain.

volleyball You only need two people to really get this game going. Inside or outside, volleyball requires a net and a ball. In fact, a net is not even necessary. A rope strung between two trees or two chairs to indicate the different sides of the court will suffice. Choose your ball depending on the age of players – the younger ones usually prefer a softer ball. Try using a balloon instead of a ball if you are playing indoors. Its erratic nature will put a hysterical spin on the game. ILLUSTRATIONS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

hile the Olympic Games are taking centre stage in London, our little sport stars can recreate the Olympic vibe in their own backyard with a little imagination, a couple of mates and their own set of rules. Let the games begin.

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book extract

make a meal of it We have the mid-week menu sorted with these three simple recipes from JENNY KAY and ELINOR STORKEY’s book Fuss-free Suppers. herb-crusted fish fillets

1 Sprinkle salt over the salt. 2 Combine the breadcrumbs, herbs

serves 4 Use either white or brown bread for the crumbs. This crumb mixture also works well on flattened chicken-breast fillets. • 4 white fish fillets (such as hake) • salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste • 3 slices bread, crumbed • 45ml (3 Tbsp) chopped fresh herbs • 80ml ( cup) grated Parmesan cheese • 250ml (1 cup) cake flour • 2 eggs, beaten • a little olive oil

lentil bobotie serves 4 This is a favourite classic dish with a twist. It’s worth taking the time to fry the onions slowly as this will bring out the sweetness in them. • 30ml (2 Tbsp) olive oil • 2 red onions, chopped • 10ml (2 tsp) chopped fresh garlic • 15–20ml (3–4 tsp) medium curry powder • 2 slices brown bread, soaked in water for 10 minutes • 2 x 400g cans lentils, drained and rinsed • 15ml (1 Tbsp) white wine vinegar • 15ml (1 Tbsp) apricot jam • salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste • 2 eggs • 160ml buttermilk or milk • 3ml (½ tsp) turmeric • 6–8 bay leaves • a few slivered almonds

roast chicken with feta and olives

1 Heat the oil in a saucepan and gently fry the onions until soft. Add the garlic and cook for 1 minute, then add the curry powder and cook for a further minute until fragrant. 2 Squeeze out the excess water from the bread and add the bread to the saucepan, together with the lentils, vinegar and jam. Mix well and season to taste. 3 Transfer the mixture to an ovenproof casserole dish and smooth over the top. 4 Preheat the oven to 160ºC. 5 Combine the eggs, buttermilk or milk and turmeric in a jug and season well with salt and pepper. 6 Pour the egg-mixture over the bobotie, spike with the bay leaves and scatter over the almonds. 7 Bake for 20–30 minutes or until the topping is set. Serve with yellow rice, chutney and sliced banana.

and Parmesan cheese in a bowl, and season with salt and pepper. 3 Put the flour and beaten egg into separate bowls. 4 Dip the fish fillets one at a time in the flour, then in the egg and finally in the breadcrumbs. 5 Heat a little oil in a non-stick frying pan and fry the fish for about 4 minutes a side until golden brown on both sides. Drain on paper towel and serve with a side salad and potato wedges.

serves 4 This is a great throw-together dish, full of colour and flavour. • 4 chicken thighs • 4 chicken drumsticks • 10ml (2 tsp) paprika • 2 red onions, cut into eighths • 1 small red pepper, deseeded and cubed • 1 small yellow pepper, deseeded and cubed • 1 small orange pepper, deseeded and cubed • 15ml (1 Tbsp) chopped fresh garlic • 30ml (2 Tbsp) olive oil • salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste • 1 x 410g can chopped and peeled tomatoes • 100g black olives, pitted • 45ml (3 Tbsp) chopped fresh origanum • 125g feta cheese, crumbled

1 Preheat the oven to 180ºC. 2 Toss the chicken portions in the paprika. 3 Put the vegetables, garlic and olive oil in an ovenproof roasting dish and season well with salt and pepper. Arrange the chicken portions on top of the vegetables and roast for 40 minutes. 4 Remove from the oven and add the tomatoes, olives and origanum. Return to the oven and roast for a further 15–20 minutes until the chicken is cooked through. 5 Sprinkle over the feta before serving.

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If you haven’t a clue what to cook for dinner, then Fuss-free Suppers (Struik Lifestyle), with its simple and interesting collection of recipe ideas, is the perfect kitchen keepsake. Would you have thought that green curry chicken pies could be effortlessly done midweek? From fish laksa to cider pork and sweet-and-sour beef casserole, Jenny Kay and Elinor Storkey present recipes that will not only make the cuisine routine easier, but a little more creative too. It’s available at all good book stores nationwide.

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getaway

a trip down the countryside A small family, a slow boat and a taste of rural France – LOUISE BROUARD shares memories of their barge

on, c’est tout fermé!” What do you mean everything is closed? The oddities of French sub-cultures had thwarted us on a number of occasions during our week-long voyage down the Nivernais canal. It was dinner time in the tiny hamlet of ChatelCensoir and we had been saving ourselves throughout the languorous day of barging for the consummate plat du jour, or plate of the day. But with everything closed, we were left with no choice but to cycle back to our barges, The Ha’Penny 900 and the Commodore 1370, with empty stomachs for some impromptu yoga on the deck and a leftover meal of Champagne, olives, salami and stale croissants. Five days earlier, our two families had set out on the leisurely journey down the Nivernais from the little town of Migennes after an initial diversion in nearby Troyes. In that ancient town, originally the capital of the Champagne region, we had our first and, thankfully, only sampling of the regional speciality, andouillette, a small sausage made of tripe. It is incongruent that a region that produces incomparable bubbly can also produce this little French oddity, which could best be described as haggis’ wayward cousin. The Nivernais is a less-frequented canal that originally formed part of an extensive network of waterways used to feed Paris with much needed supplies of wood for

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building and heating. It meanders vaguely south-north through Champagne and Chablis country, occasionally merging with the river Yonne, and eventually joining the Sienne. We had chosen to go upstream, from north to south, taking us from the wider, more commercial waterways at the start, to more appealing quieter waters. After a 10-minute boating lesson in broken Franglais, we were deemed competent enough to be sent on our merry way. We began with much nervousness and fumbling, but after the first few locks,

home-cooked meal on the deck of our barge. We prepared most of our meals in our galley which, although small, was very well equipped. Day two saw us eagerly waiting at the first lock of the day for it to open at 9am. After an hour or so, we found the perfect spot to leave the barge safely moored, manhandled the bikes onto the shore, and cycled off to visit the lovely little village of Appoigny. Bicycles are optional extras when booking a barge, but we found them to be essential equipment. The narrow

On the first night we moored next to an embankment just outside Bassou and enjoyed a lovely home-cooked meal on the deck of our barge. the process became second nature, and provided welcome opportunities to stop and chat to fellow travellers and an array of lock-keepers. Often we enjoyed the luxury of being the only boat passing through the lock with not another barge in sight. This afforded my six-year-old son, Braddyn, the opportunity to help the keepers open and close the locks, which proved to be quite an adventure for him. On the canals, you generally have the freedom to moor anywhere. On the first night we moored next to an embankment just outside Bassou and enjoyed a lovely

back roads and farmlands yearn to be explored, so we ended up cycling through the most pristine French countryside for over two hours, sans even the slightest complaint from the younger members in our party. Our first glimpse of Auxerre, the largest town on our chosen section of the canal, was truly breathtaking. We opted to motor past the busy marina to moor alongside a park where we managed to locate a public swimming pool for a much needed dip. Here some of the guys, much to their chagrin, had to borrow Speedos as

they were not permitted to swim in their swimming shorts. Another French oddity for which the only explanation given was “it’s the rule”. Walking through this beautiful old town as the sun was setting was a real highlight. The cathedral towers over the town, which is dotted with attractive squares below half-timbered houses. When planning our holiday, we opted for a shorter route that would allow us the flexibility of unscheduled stops and see us avoid endless hours of motoring. Choosing a late start the following morning, we stopped in Vaux for a long cycle up a steep hill to see the vineyards and much touted view, over the valley. We missed the view but did find the vineyards and an abundance of cherry trees, laden with sun-baked, ripe and fleshy fruit. Needless to say we rolled down the hill, replete with big, red, happy grins. “Merci Monsieur le Fermier – we left €10 (about R100) under the big rock in the northern corner as thanks.” The heat and exertion of that ride called for the spontaneous water fight that ensued while filling the barge’s water tank. Chugging back to Champs-sur-Yonne, we moored alongside our friends at what was fast becoming our favourite time of day. Sitting on the roof of our barge, with a sketch pad in one hand and a glass of chilled wine in the other, watching my son ride his bike up and down the towpath as

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cruise down the picturesque Nivernais canal.

Clockwise from top left: Arriving in Auxerre; Louise, Braddyn and Rob enjoying the views after a steep hike in Mailly le Chateau; Inside one of the larger locks; Auxerre Cathedral at sunset

the sun was setting, is the closest I have come to an extended moment of pure bliss in a very long time. The next day, with temperatures over 30˚C, our friends again took to cooling off in the canal while being gently towed behind their barge. We had resisted this temptation based on rather sage advice proffered by the guide books and some of the locals. The heat was, however, to prove our undoing and we finally relented. The welcome relief of the cool water was quickly dissipated as we slowly gathered a motley selection of canal debris around our necks as we were gently towed along. This included the odd bottle, a couple of bird feathers, and bits of soggy toilet paper. Yes, most rented boats pump their effluent directly into the canal. Not surprising then, that we later had to make a stop at a pharmacy for a magic potion to calm our son’s angry skin reaction. Running low on Champagne, which should never happen in France, we cycled from Vincelles to Irancy where we joined a wine-tasting in a blissfully cool cave. Champagne in hand, we puttered into Pregilbert for an overnight stop next to a lock. Here a late addition to our party, a septuagenarian aunt, joined the group, having arrived by train from Paris and having been ferried by bicycle to the boat. After an alfresco dinner on benches conveniently located along the deserted

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embankment, our boys, ranging in age from six to 19, held their own version of an athletic track event late into the night. Good simple stuff, that. Mailly-le-Chateau had us hiking up a rather steep path for a superb view of the surrounding area from the castle. A short stroll through the deserted hilltop town in search of an ice cream proved fruitless as all of the local inhabitants had barricaded themselves in the cool shelter of their homes during the heat of the day. Salvation eventually came in the form of ice creams and ice-cold beers in a wonderful waterside café in Merry-sur-Yonne, nestled in the shadow of the spectacular Saussois rocks, which form a sheer cliff about 40 to 50 metres high. Mooring just outside of Clamecy that evening, we cycled into the town for a dinner of escargot, chicken and chips. Clamecy is classified under the French tourist criteria as among the most beautiful routes in France, and it did not disappoint. After an early start, a full day was spent in Chatel-Censoir, where we had a memorable picnic lunch along the banks of the canal. Returning to the marina, we drank a final toast to our faithful friend, The Ha’Penny, which had been our home for the past week, and were filled with melancholy made only slightly more bearable by the knowledge that this was merely an au revoir.

plan your trip The barges are easy to operate and no previous sailing experience is required. Choose a route where lockkeepers are in attendance as operating the first few locks can be a little daunting. The cruising season is from March to October every year; we chose to go late in June. Do hire bicycles as this gives you freedom to visit nearby villages. You should bring the minimal amount of clothing, swimming costumes, comfortable non-slip shoes and waterproof clothing for the occasional rain shower. Other useful items include sunglasses, sun cream, insect repellent and hats. For companies that offer self-drive barge cruises in France, visit leboat.co.uk, barginginfrance.com, cruise-in-france.com or bargeconnection.com

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Where to go Nkwichi Lodge, Manda Wilderness, Mozambique What to expect Nkwichi is remote; you can only access it by boat, and there are no other lodges on the Mozambican side of Lake Malawi or Lake Niassa. The sand is powder-soft, sugar white, and you’re surrounded only by rocky coves, wilderness and empty beaches. Children can enjoy the famed treasure hunt and pirate adventure, family camp-outs in the wilderness and guided snorkelling and fishing trips. You can experience local living or you can make this your time to do absolutely nothing. Ask about the “lake of stars” bed, where you stay overnight on a rocky outcrop in the lake, a short distance from the lodge. Enquire about their South African resident rates. Perfect if you need a reminder that you can be happy with very little. How to book info@mandawilderness.org or visit http://mandawilderness.org/

American-style tipi village set in a field surrounded by trees, birdlife and a mountain stream. Perfect if you feel disconnected and need to reconnect with yourself. How to book 083 776 1922, info@ bluehippo.co.za or visit bluehippo.co.za

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Where to go Rwanda Eco-Tours, Rwanda What to expect Owned and run by Rwandans, this tour company offers visitors the chance to see Rwanda, while helping conservation and the community. If you want the rare experience of seeing gorillas in their natural habitat, go on a tour to the Northwest area of Rwanda and Parc National des Volcans. Tours run throughout the country and its national parks, giving you the chance to experience Rwandan traditions at a cultural village, take in other national parks or experience city life in the capital, Kigali. If you’re planning on seeing gorillas, you will need a permit. Perfect if you are bored with life and need a take-your-breath-away experience. How to book +25 078 835 2009, +25 028 050 0331, info@rwandaeco-tours.com or visit rwandaecotours.com

Where to go Mizpah Farm Retreat, KwaZulu-Natal What to expect A social worker and horse professional leads groups and individuals of all ages through tailor-made processes, which helps you to reflect and invest in your own personal growth. Through building a relationship of mutual trust and respect with a specific horse, meditation activities with the horses, and simply spending time interacting with the beautiful creatures, you are able to work through many issues such as divorce, depression, grief, lifelimiting diagnosis and more. Horses teach us to operate with no hidden agendas or preconceived judgments and teach us to live in the moment.

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mountain retreat Where to go The Blue Hippo Tipi Village in Greyton, Western Cape What to expect This family friendly location is a small retreat set in the mountains outside Greyton. The emphasis is on nature and healing where you can take part in retreats, healing therapies, massage, meditation, drumming or more spiritual ceremonies. You can also watch a fire-dancing performance, swim in the dam and river, horse-ride and go on a nature walk. The village has an organic vegetable and herb garden and a play area for children. You stay in the Native

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Where to go Wolwedans, Namibia What to expect Fly in two-by-two with the Dunehopper, a scheduled air taxi, from either Windhoek or Swakopmund, or you can access Wolwedans by car, which is in the NamibRand Nature Reserve, the largest private nature reserve in southern Africa. For a family’s greatest comfort opt for the Boulders Camp (sleeps eight), which is hugged by massive granite rocks and is perfect for when you’re travelling with cousins, aunties and uncles, or take the Dunes Lodge Suite (sleeps two, but can accommodate a child), or the Private Camp (your own desert villa, sleeping four). Go on long walks and see the renowned fairy circles or just chill while getting a marula oil or Indian head massage and let the children roam and explore. Don’t forget your camera and binoculars. Also enquire about Club Chateau, which allows you to stay half price any time of the year, and ask about the star beds, a new feature to be

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Perfect if you are stressed, traumatized or simply need to get back to basics. How to book 083 362 6057, liesl@healingwithhorses.co.za or visit healingwithhorses.co.za

out of africa Where to go Malealea Lodge & Pony Trek Centre, south west Lesotho What to expect Malealea Lodge is located in rural Lesotho with views of the countryside and mountains. Stay at the lodge and go on a one to five hour pony ride (perfect for children under 12 years) or opt for overnight treks from two to six days (suitable for children 12 years and older).

The trails traverse spectacular mountain passes and some of Lesotho’s highest waterfalls where you can explore Bushman paintings and experience Basotho culture. Sleep in remote and basic huts, which are hired from the Basotho people, and are equipped with a gas cooker, cooking and eating utensils and mattresses on the floor. The treks are usually about seven hours each day. No riding experience is necessary and though these treks can be long and tough, children love it. Perfect if you want to know real and untamed Africa. How to book 082 552 4215, info@ malealealodge.com or visit malealea.co.ls

natural healing Where to go Natal Spa Hot Springs & Leisure Resort, situated between Vryheid and Paulpietersburg What to expect Set amongst giant granite boulders that are millions of years old, with abundant birdlife, this serene and rejuvenating oasis is situated on 800 hectares of KwaZulu-Natal bushveld, with four kilometres of the Bivane River flowing through it. Although the main attraction on the resort is the rejuvenating hot mineral pools, well known for their antioxidant action, another popular attraction is the great 110m long super tube, and there are trampolines, a jungle-gym and a swimming pool for children. Adults can be pampered at the spa. Stay in either a hotel room, selfcatering units or camp. If you’re active you can go on a mountain bike trail or go fishing. Perfect if you need to recharge and detox, and for cleansing your body and mind. How to book 034 995 0300, 073 213 7242, adminspa@goodersons.co.za or visit goodersonleisure.co.za

barefoot living Where to go Stone Cottage Backpackers and Lodge, Plettenberg Bay What to expect Get in touch with your simple side and hit the road to Plett. Kayaking with whales or dolphins will enrich you and remind you that there is life beyond these city walls. Stay at one of the oldest holiday homes in Plett, the authentic Stone Cottage run by Annie the artist. Its creaky timber floors and doors, magazine durban

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high beamed ceilings, old-fashioned kitchens, Victorian beds, comfy couches, and black and white photos of life as it once was will spark a little imagination. This Ernest Hemingway-styled retreat offers great views of the bay and consists of three self-catering apartments or the Boetie Pierre, which sleeps four. Perfect if you want a home away from home and need a bit of relaxed and rustic. How to book visit stonecottage.co.za. For kayaking, contact Ocean Blue Adventures 044 533 5083

into the wild Where to go Leshiba Wilderness, Limpopo What to expect Leshiba, which lies in a hidden valley on top of the Soutpansberg Mountains, offers the near spiritual experience of walking amongst wildlife such as giraffe, zebra, porcupines and pangolins along spectacular trails through forests, across plains and down breathtaking gorges with sparkling pools. Splash into rock pools in the summer or enjoy the plunge pools at the lodge with panoramic views of the valley. Arrange for a champagne breakfast in the forest, and stay in the self catering Hamasha Bush Camp, which has a magnificent view through Hamasha gorge. Perfect if you need the soothing affect of wildlife around you. How to book 011 483 1841, 082 881 1237, info@leshiba.co.za or visit leshiba.co.za

the smoke that thunders Where to go The Royal Livingstone Hotel, Zambia What to expect Take part in a conservation programme through walking and interacting with cubs of captive-bred African lions that are being introduced back into the wild, or wade through the mighty Zambezi River atop an African elephant. The humble elephants have been trained through positive reinforcement, as opposed to the stern techniques used with Asian elephants, and will take you on an ecologically friendly game “drive”. There is a minimum age of 15 years and a height of 1,5metres or five feet for the lion encounter, and 10 years for the elephant safari. You can also revitalize with a day spent at the spa. Perfect if you want to connect with nature unbridled. How to book Jenman African Safaris: 076 878 8607, reservations@royallivingstone-hotel.com or visit royallivingstone-hotel.com

a piece of asia Where to go Tiger Canyons, Van der Kloof Lake, Philippolis, Karoo What to expect Sitting behind bars in a game drive vehicle in Tiger Canyons, you’ll appreciate the regal qualities of the fourteen free-roaming Asian tigers being reared on the reserve. During an early morning or late night game drive John Varty, renowned wildlife filmmaker, shares tales of his experiences while living with the tigers, and gives details on his conservation efforts to aid in the ongoing struggle for survival that tigers face. Unfortunately babies or toddlers are not allowed, as the game drives are about three hours long. Perfect if you are a wildlife fanatic wanting to appreciate these grand cats. How to book Sunette: 051 773 0063, 082 892 4680, info@jvbigcats.co.za or visit jvbigcats.co.za

The Royal Livingstone Hotel, Zambia

commune with nature Where to go Grootbos Private Nature Reserve, Western Cape What to expect In this idyllic setting, reconnect with your loved ones and get in touch with nature. Do whale spotting and flower safaris at its peak from July to December, and cave excursions and shark cave diving being best from January to July. Also seek out pampering at The Bloom Saloon with pedicures, manicures and facials. Your children can feed horses, collect their own eggs and traverse through a Milkwood forest on a treasure hunt overseen by specialised guides. Perfect if you need time to marvel at the beauty of nature while bonding with your family. How to book 028 384 8000, info@ grootbos.co.za or visit grootbos.com

in any way, thus creating a conscious and meaningful dolphin encounter. Retreats are for people of all ages and take place throughout the year, with the next trip being planned over the long weekend in August this year. Perfect if you are looking for a humbling and soulful encounter with these intelligent creatures of the sea. How to book Kate at Halo Gaia Holistic Travel: 011 447 8121, 082 307 0424, info@ halogaia.com or visit halogaia.com

the soul of africa Where to go Mogalakwena, northern Soutpansberg region, Limpopo What to expect Leave your tie and heels at home and recharge with sunset drives, wildlife walks, fishing or horseback riding around the Mogalakwena Reserve. Attend to your need for creative expression at The Craft Art Village, where young and old can get inspiration to paint, write, read and create. Feed your thirst for knowledge at the privately funded research centre a short walk away, which has numerous ecological and anthropological findings on display, made by the centre’s field workers, including the skeleton of a giraffe, a wet laboratory and an interpretive environmental centre. Perfect if you want a holistic retreat set in tranquil surroundings. How to book 021 424 7488, info@ mogalakwena.com, visit mogalakwena. com or visit their office in 3 Church St, Cape Town

find peace Where to go Tswalu Kalahari, Kuruman, Northern Cape What to expect Experience the majesty and open expanse of the Green Kalahari at this malaria-free exclusive private game reserve. Game drives, dune picnics and horseback safaris allow you to explore this wilderness, while bush walks and the natural exhibition of San rock art takes you closer to the land. Take the opportunity to see the meerkat colony or the black maned Kalahari lions. Children can join the junior ranger programme to learn about nature. Relax in an indoor or outdoor spa while you listen to the sounds of nature. Other must-dos are spending a night under the stars and letting the children cook their own dinner. Perfect if you are feeling overwhelmed and need to unwind in the tranquility of the desert. How to book 053 781 9331, res@tswalu. com or visit tswalu.com

a playful marine retreat

Tiger Canyons, Philippolis, Karoo

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Where to go Ponta Malongane, Mozambique What to expect Halo Gaia’s retreats combine the healing experience of swimming with dolphins with a chance to creatively express yourself through art, sacred sound journeys, drum circles and sand play. Following the terms of ethical marine mammal tourism, you must respect the will of the dolphin and allow them to approach you if they feel comfortable enough. You are not permitted to touch, feed or harass the wild dolphins

Tswalu Kalahari, Northern Cape

reconnect with africa Where to go Umlani Bushcamp, Timbavati, Limpopo What to expect Traditional African reed and thatch huts blend into the natural environment. The camp is lit by candlelight and oil lamps, and the open-air bush showers take you closer to nature. Local Shangaan rangers take guests on game drives and bush walks to see game, flora and the cultural heritage of the area. If you need to relax, lounge in hammocks by the pool, or watch the watering hole from the deck. Take to the air in a microlight or hot-air balloon. Visit the Moholoholo Rehabilitation Centre, take an elephant safari or go white-water rafting. Perfect if you are feeling uninspired and need the relaxed pace and rustic living that will restore you. How to book 021 785 5547, info@umlani. com or visit umlani.com

revitalise in the midlands Where to go Gwahumbe Game and Spa in Mid Illovo, KwaZulu-Natal What to expect Set in the tranquil farmlands between Durban and Pietermaritzburg, this safe game reserve offers you the opportunity to spot game from your balcony. Spa therapists are on hand and treatments are available for the whole family, as children can also be pampered from the tailor-made children’s spa menu. Children can join the junior explorer’s club, which is both educational and entertaining. Enquire about upcoming holiday ranger camps for children.

Gwahumbe Game and Spa, KwaZulu-Natal

Perfect if you are feeling stressed and need a bit of pampering and you want your children outdoors. How to book 031 781 1082, info@ gwahumbe.co.za or visit gwahumbe.co.za

safari inspiration Where to go Kwa Madwala, Mpumalanga What to expect Situated on the southern border of the Kruger National Park, this private game reserve boasts a rock camp in the mountains, a gazebo game lodge and a family orientated thatched bush camp. The variety of ways to get close to nature are with a game drive into the Kruger, by microlight, on horseback or elephant safaris. You can also try a night or walking safari. Tours run to Mozambique, Swaziland, God’s Window, Pilgrim’s Rest or to Matsamo Cultural Village. You can also take some time out at the Rustic Day Spa. Perfect if you need time out to find your own pace again. How to book 082 779 2153 or res@ kwamadwala.co.za or book online: visit kwamadwala.net July 2012

books

a good read for toddlers

for early graders African Tales By Gcine Mhlophe and Rachel Griffin

When the World Was Waiting for You By Gillian Shields; illustrated by Anna Currey (Published by Bloomsbury Publishing, R80) This celebration of new life will allow for tender bedtime cuddles as the book relishes the shared family pleasure of a newborn baby. This first board book will encourage children to either think about their own arrival into the world or prepare them for the arrival of a sibling, as the words visual and pictures combine to create a world at peace with itself. Children feast from as young as two years old up to the age of four will find the story and illustrations delightful, as a family of rabbits prepares for the much-anticipated arrival of a new baby.

Zou and the Box of Kisses By Michel Gay (Published by Gecko Press, R150) Zou is spending his first night away from home. He knows he will miss all his daily kisses: morning kisses, bedtime kisses and no-reason-at-all kisses, but he doesn’t need to worry. Mom and Dad have come up with a brilliant solution. They have sent a box of kisses along with Zou. As the lights are turned down on the train, Zou is in desperate need of a kiss, and uses only one. But one little zebra is very sad, and his crying is so heartbreaking, that Zou now needs two kisses. Soon Zou’s box of kisses comes to the rescue for all on the train.

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(Published by Barefoot Books, R142) Travel through our colourful continent and discover the rich culture of the many people who live here. The characters you’ll meet include a brave boy who must try to save his village with the help of a talking bull, a wise spider man who outsmarts an evil king and a girl who is swept out to sea as a baby, but who survives to become a remarkable leader. Each of the stories in this book is prefaced by an introduction full of facts about its country of origin.

a young explorer’s guide

On Safari – Desert, River and Bushveld By Nadine Clarke

(Published by Random House Struik, R190) Children can journey into three exciting wilderness areas and discover the fascinating animals, plants and people that make these areas their home. Discover the secrets of survival and explore the hidden treasures of southern Africa’s wild places. The book introduces readers to a remarkable array of creatures, many with unique characteristics and patterns of behaviour that enable them to survive in their particular environment. In each adventure a local guide takes young readers through the landscape and introduces them to its inhabitants, uncovering many mysteries along the way. The book is packed with intriguing information, exciting things to do or make, challenging quizzes to test your child’s skills and games to play.

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Next Stop – Zanzibar Road! By Niki Daly (Published by Giraffe Books, R81) The quirky and much-loved gang from Zanzibar Road is back for another fun-filled adventure with Mama Jumbo, Little Chico and a host of colourful and entertaining characters that will delight children and adults alike. Mama Jumbo is going to the market with Mr Motiki’s taxi, and after a day of bargaining, swapping and shopping, she makes her way home, happy and satisfied. That is until a big thorn punctures the taxi’s wheel, and they’re stuck in the middle of nowhere, under an African sun as hot as a vetkoek. Then Mama Jumbo comes to the rescue with her Bum-Bum-Bubblegum…

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Moving House By Jenny Hatton; illustrated by Joan Rankin (Published by Jacana Media, R40) This is another lovely addition to the Lucy series. Children will easily relate to the stories, which reflect true-to-life events such as going on a journey, moving house and a visit to the beach. The rhythmic text of the Lucy books help build children’s reading skills and confidence while they are absorbed in the humorous illustrations and the lives of Lucy’s family members. In this version, Lucy is moving but is not at all keen – she loves the sounds of her old house and old street. But moving is an adventure, and Lucy might just love her new room. Teachers, parents and librarians can also download activity sheets relating to the story from jacana.co.za/teachers-and-librarians

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Science in Seconds By Hazel Muir

The One Dollar Horse By Lauren St John

(Published by Quercus, R85) Simple and accessible, Science in Seconds is a visually led introduction to all the scientific concepts that really matter. Each idea is made incredibly quick to remember and easy to understand, illustrated by means of a straightforward picture and a maximum 200-word explanation. Concepts span all of the key scientific disciplines including physics, chemistry, biology, ecology, biotechnology, anatomy and physiology, medicine, earth science, energy generation, astronomy, space flight and information technology – it is the quickest possible way to learn about everything from black holes and quantum computers, to the Casimir effect, molecular geometry, photosynthesis, earthquakes and stellar evolution.

(Published by Orion Children’s Books, R140) Fifteen-year-old Casey Blue lives in East London’s grimmest tower block and volunteers at a local riding school, but her dream is to win the world’s greatest three-day event: the Badminton Horse Trials. When she rescues a starving, half-wild horse, she’s convinced that the impossible can be made possible. But she didn’t think of the effect of her father’s criminal record, or the distraction of a boy with dark eyes. Casey learns the hard way that no matter how high you jump, or how fast you gallop, you can never outrun the past. This book is recommended for teens from age 12.

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for us

When in broad daylight I open my eyes By Greg Lazarus

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(Published by Kwela Books, R176) Greg Lazarus is the pen name of husband-andwife writing duo Greg Fried and Lisa Lazarus. Lisa is a psychologist and freelance writer, as well as a mom and a regular features contributor to Child magazine (visit childmag.co.za for some of her articles). Greg is a philosopher at the University of Cape Town. This is their second co-written book, which has received rave reviews. In the aftermath of her mother’s sudden death, Maria Petros confronts disturbing questions: what is the secret society that her mother frequented and who is the philosopher she meets in a therapy session and why is he pursuing her with such vigour? The book is set in a familiar yet sinister Cape Town and it explores, in evocative and erotic fashion, the extent to which people prey on one another.

The Flight of Gemma Hardy By Margot Livesey (Published by HarperCollins, R275) Fate has not been kind to Gemma Hardy. Orphaned by the age of 10, neglected by a bitter and cruel aunt, sent to a boarding school where she is both servant and student, young Gemma seems destined for a life of hardship and loneliness. Yet her bright spirit burns strong. Fiercely intelligent, singularly determined, Gemma overcomes each challenge and setback, growing stronger and more certain of her path. Now an independent young woman with dreams of the future, she accepts a position as an au pair on the remote and beautiful Orkney Islands. But Gemma’s biggest trial is about to begin; a journey of passion and betrayal that will lead her to a life she’s never dreamed of.

parenting books Baby Medbasics By Luke Hermann and Tara Summers Hermann (Published by Perseus Books, R135) Do you know how to care for your child in an emergency? This guide shows you, in clear, simple language and easy-to-understand illustrations, how to handle the most common infant emergencies. Whether you’re a parent, grandparent or caregiver, Medbasics provides you with the knowledge, confidence and security you need. The guide is divided into colour-coded sections for allergies, bites and stings, bleeding, burns, choking, CPR, falls, fever, poison and rashes. Emergency numbers published in the book are not relevant to South Africa, but it’s the practical advice and format of the book that makes it a very handy tool.

Have a New Teenager by Friday By Dr Kevin Leman

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(Published by Fleming H. Revell Company, R179) Life will never quite be the same again when you have a teenager in the home, but it can be better than you ever dreamed. The author believes you’re just five days away from your teenager asking: “What can I do to help?” With his signature wit and common-sense psychology, internationally recognised family expert and New York Times bestselling author Kevin Leman will help you gain respect, even admiration, from your teenager. He shows you how to establish healthy boundaries and workable guidelines. He shows you how to communicate with the “whatever” generation, how to turn selfish behaviour around and navigate the critical years with confidence.

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calendar

what’s on in july

You can also access the calendar online at

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Here’s your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see. Compiled by TAMLYN VINCENT.

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SPECIAL EVENTS

FUN FOR CHILDREN

ONLY FOR PARENTS

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The Horse mastership course teaches children what it means to be a true equestrian.

Inhale/Exhale iKapa Dance Theatre partners with musicians Afropolitan Explosiv in this performance.

2x2 Stroller training Swap your mummy tummy for a six–pack while exercising with your baby.

Winter Warmth Donate blankets to old age homes, orphanages, crèches and rural households.

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KZN Winter Air Tour Over 300 aircraft and daring pilots take to the skies above Durban.

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14 saturday KZN Winter Air Tour Aerobatic pilots put on a thrilling airshow for the whole family. Other show dates available around KZN. Time: 10am. Venue: Virginia Airport, Durban North. Cost: R100. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

19 thursday Durban International Film Festival The festival showcases South African and African films, with a special focus on French cinema. Ends 29 July. Time: varies. Venue: varies. Cost: varies. For more info: visit cca.ukzn.ac.za

20 friday Sundowner Ride Take an afternoon ride to the beach to watch the sun set. Time: 3pm–6pm. Venue: Horseback Beach Adventures Farm. Cost: R390. Contact Amelia: 084 467 0752, horsebeachrides@gmail.com or visit horsebeachrides.co.za

SPECIAL EVENTS 1 sunday Waterfall Super Spar Forest 10 A 10 kilometre walk/run and a fun run for children. Time: 7am. Venue: Forest Hills Sports Club, Forest Dr, Kloof. Cost: varies. Contact Lin: 083 799 9520, 2012forest10@ gmail.com or visit foresthillssc.co.za

3 tuesday Legally Blonde the musical This musical theatre performance showcases the talents of high school learners. Ends 15 July. Time: varies. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, UKZN, Glenwood. Cost: R100. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

4 wednesday Inhale/Exhale This dance production explores how life experiences and stories cause emotional reactions that affect breathing. Ends 7 July. Time: 8pm. Venue: The Playhouse, 231 Anton Lembede St, Durban CBD. Cost: R100. Contact: admin@ikapadancetheatre.co.za or visit webtickets.co.za

Arno Carstens album launch Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Hilton College Theatre, Hilton. Cost: R120. Contact: 033 383 0126, tickets@hiltoncollege.com or visit hiltoncollegetheatre.co.za Kloof and Highway SPCA golf day Book a fourball. Time: 10:44am. Venue: Kloof Country Club. Cost: R1 200 per fourball. Contact Janine 031 764 1212/3 or marketing@kloofspca.co.za The Convent Girls Back for another season, this show is saucier than ever, with new songs and stories. Ends 29 July. Time: varies. Venue: Rhumbelow Theatre, Cunningham Rd, Umbilo. Cost: R100. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

21 saturday Expectant parents seminar Parents expecting multiples listen to talks on sleep training, breast-feeding multiples and more. Time: 12:30pm–4pm. Venue: Netcare Parklands Hospital, Overport. Cost: members R100, non–members R130. Contact Jolene: 083 457 1400 or jolene. simionato@oricoles.co.za

22 sunday McCarthy Toyota Durban Multisport Series Individuals and small teams take part in Olympic or sprint triathlons, or a sprint duathlon. The Rookie triathlon is for competitors 8 years and older. Time: varies. Venue: Suncoast Casino Beach, Durban Beach. Cost: R90–R300. Contact B–Active Sports: 031 764 1885, info@bactive.com or visit bactive.com

11 wednesday KZN Military Tattoo Great fun for lovers of military music and other military activities. Ends 13 July. Time: 5pm and 8pm. Venue: Kings Park Cycle Track, Stamford Hill. Cost: R60–R100. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

12 thursday The ABBA Show A fast–paced tribute show that relives the magical hits of ABBA. Ends 29 July. Time: 8pm, Thursday–Saturday; 3pm, Sunday. Venue: iZulu Theatre, Sibaya Casino, Umdloti. Cost: R210. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com magazine durban

19 July – Durban International Film Festival July 2012

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24 tuesday The Sunflower Fund Golf day Funds raised go towards helping children diagnosed with leukaemia. Time: 10:30am. Venue: Mount Edgecombe Country Club. Cost: R2 052 per fourball. Contact: 031 266 1148 or steph@sunflowerfund.org.za

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27 friday Baba Indaba Boutique Show For parents and babies. Ends 29 July. Time: 9am–7pm. Venue: Gateway Shopping Centre. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit babaindaba.co.za

28 saturday Miniature Show Dollhouses and miniatures are on display, and hobby items are for sale. Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: Berea Primary School, 20 Bellevue Rd. Cost: R5 entry. Contact: mezmonk@yahoo.co.uk Thomas More College country fair A day with art and crafts, an excitement zone, arena events and more. Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: 15 Sykes Rd, Kloof. Cost: free entry, parking fee. Contact Rae: 031 764 8640

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science African Art Centre View work from a variety of artists and crafters. Time: 8:30am–5pm, Monday–Friday; 9am–3pm, Saturday. Venue: African Art Centre, Florida Rd, Durban. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 312 3804/5 or visit afriart.org.za Warrior’s Gate Moth Museum For exhibits of war memorabilia. Time: 11am–3pm, Tuesday–Sunday; 10am–12pm, Saturday. Venue: 1 Masabalala Yengwa Ave, K E Masinga Rd, Durban. Cost: free. Contact: 031 307 3337

classes, talks and workshops Core 4 Kids Action-filled classes build upper body and core muscle strength. For children 6–9 years. Time: 2pm–3pm or 3pm–4pm, Monday and Tuesday. Venue: Danville Ave, Glenashley. Cost: R70. Contact Michaela: 074 101 2616 Creative Kids workshop Interactive singing, dancing or creative workshops. 25 June–13 July. Time: 11am. Venue: Under the Fig Tree Amphitheatre, Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: R50. Contact Jaz: 072 533 4779 or jazvaughann@yahoo.com Get Ready for school programme A gentle introduction to formal learning for Grade R learners. Time: 1:30pm, every Tuesday; 3pm, every Thursday; 11am, every Saturday. Venue: Suite 125 Ridgeton

29 June–8 July – ECR House and Garden Show

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Busyballers Holiday Clinic With obstacle courses, races and other age–appropriate games for children 3–10 years old. 25, 27, 29 June and 2, 4 and 6 July. Time: 8am–12pm. Venue: Morningside Sports Club, 132 Hollander Crescent. Cost: R80. Contact Lisa: 083 236 0059, lisa@busyballers.co.za, or visit busyballers.co.za

Towers, 6 Aurora Dr, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: four lessons R670. Contact: 031 566 1110, 082 042 2556 or tracy@kipumhlanga.co.za Just Imagine Mosaics Classes run during school holidays and on Saturdays. Time: varies. Venue: Kloof. Cost: varies. Contact Sheila: 083 782 7810, sheila@kznmosaics. co.za or visit kznmosaics.co.za Meditation classes for children 5–12 years old. 1 July. Time: 10am–11:15am. Venue: Mahasiddha Kadampa Buddhist Centre, 2 Hollings Rd, Malvern. Cost: R10. Contact: 031 464 0984, info@meditateindurban.org or visit meditateindurban.org Permaculture course for children For children 9–12 years old. 2–4 July. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Permaculture Garden, Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: R75 per day. Contact: 031 322 4021 or dbginfo@durban.gov.za Yoga for children develops strength and flexibility while improving concentration and coordination. Time: 3pm, every Friday. Venue: Centre of Wellbeing, 16 Canberra Ave, Durban North. Cost: R40. Contact Angela: 076 410 1410 or angela@rautenbach.co.za

family outings Book Fair Find children’s books at good prices. 16–20 July. Time: 8am–12pm. Venue: Alnoor Pre-Primary, Westville, also at Yellowwood Park Primary 19 and 20 July and La Lucia Junior Primary 30 and 31 July. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 705 7744, info@ books2you.co.za or visit books2you.co.za ECR House and Garden Show 29 June–8 July. Time: 10am. Venue: Durban Exhibition Centre, Durban CBD. Cost: adults R60, children under 16 free. Contact: 031 303 5941 or visit housegardenshow.co.za Music Under the Marula A family festival with live music, children’s entertainment, stalls and more. 8 July. Time: 11am–5pm. Venue: Under the Marula, B30 D359, Shongweni. Cost: R5 entrance. Contact: 082 312 6114, musicunderthemarula@ gmail.com or visit underthemarula.com Segway Tours Glide around the stadium on gyro–stabilised transporters. For children over 10 years. Time: varies. Venue: Moses Mabhida Stadium, Stamford Hill. Cost: varies. For more info: visit segwaytours.co.za

finding nature and outdoor play Dangerous Creatures See reptiles such as the black mamba and Gila monster lizards. Time: 10am–5pm, daily. Venue: uShaka Marine World. Cost: R30. Contact: 031 328 8000 or visit ushakamarineworld.co.za The Animal Farmyard Offers daily milking demonstrations, and pony, tractor and foefie slide rides. Time: 9am–4:30pm, daily; milking 10:30am and 3:30pm. Venue: 3 Lello Rd, Botha’s Hill. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 765 2240 or visit animalfarmyard.co.za

holiday programmes Akimbo Kids holiday activities For children 1–8 years old. See the facebook page for activities and dates. Time: varies. Venue: 40 Meadway Rd, Drummond. Cost: R20 entry. Contact: 031 783 7892 or visit facebook.com/akimbo.kids Alisro Holiday Club Daily activities include baking, art, games and more. 25–29 June, 10–13 and 16 July. Time: 7:30am–12:30pm or 7:30am–5pm. Venue: Ashton International College, Albertina Way, Ballito. Cost: half day R60, full day R90. Contact Christell: 083 327 3578 or aftercare@alisro.co.za Computer workshop Learn or improve computer skills. For Grade R–7 learners. 26 June–13 July. Time: 8am–10am, Monday– Friday. Venue: suite 125 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Drive, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: R130 per session. Contact: 031 566 1110 or visit computers4kids.co.za Cooking Cooks holiday classes For children 8 years and older. 25, 27–29 June and 2, 4–5 July. Time: 10am–12pm. Venue: 90 Dawncliffe Rd, Westville. Cost: R170 per lesson. Contact: 031 266 8488 or debbie. solomon@eastcoast.co.za CrazyFit Kids Bootcamp Children get fit. 25–29 June and 2–6 July. Time: 8:30am–10:30am. Venue: Essenwood Park, Musgrave. Cost: R450. Contact Bronwyn Bath: 072 244 3669, bronwyn@fit4health. co.za or visit fit4health.co.za Drumkidz Holiday workshops 30 minutes of drumming. For 3–12 year olds. 5, 10, 12 and 17 July. Time: varies. Venue: JB holiday Club, Musgrave or Sandy’s Holiday Care, Cowies Hill. Cost: varies. Contact: 083 242 1677 or 082 406 5603

Holiday Craft class Beading, mosaic and canvas painting class. 24 July. Time: 10am. Venue: Balmoral Hotel, Durban Beachfront. Cost: tbc. Contact Shireen: 083 597 8602 or shireen_m@telkomsa.net Holiday fun at the Heritage For cupcake decorating, a magic show, inflatable ball pond, face painting and more. Time: 10am–2pm, every Saturday. Venue: The Rose Garden, Heritage Market, Hillcrest. Cost: free, pony rides R5. Contact: 031 765 2500 or visit heritagehillcrest.co.za Honeybee Preschool holiday care With fun activities. Time: varies. Venue: 96 Marianhill Rd, Ashley. Cost: R70 per day, discounted rate if attending throughout holidays. Contact: 031 700 2173 Imagine That holiday club Fun craft classes teach scrapbooking, decoupage and more. Time: 1pm–4pm. Venue: 25, 27, 29 June and 2, 6, 9 and 12 July, Imagine That, The Crescent Shopping Centre, or 26, 28 June, 3 and 10 July, Imagine That, Windermere Shopping Centre. Cost: R120– R170, depending on the class. Contact The Crescent: 031 566 3354 or Windermere: 031 312 7855 JB Holiday Club Wholesome outdoor fun and activities for children 3–7 years old. 25 June–13 July. Time: 7:30am–5pm. Venue: 62 Silverton Rd, Essenwood. Cost: R80 per day. Contact: 083 242 1677 King’s Camps Combine a holiday camp, sport’s club and activity holiday into a week of adventure. For 4–17 year olds. 2–6 July and 9–13 July. Time: 8am–4pm. Venue: Highbury Prep School, Highbury Rd, Hillcrest. Cost: from R450. Contact Nick Brushett: 072 189 4288, info@sa.kingscamps.org or visit sa.kingscamps.org Reduce Reuse Recycle programme Activities focus on caring for the earth. 23 June–15 July. Time: varies. Venue: KZN Sciencentre, Gateway. Cost: adults R25, children R30. Contact: info@sciencentre.co.za Study skills programme Learn how to study smarter. For Grades 5–7 and Grades 8–12. 26 June–13 July. Time: 9am–12pm,

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Fun activities including baking and craft classes, sprout growing lessons and more. 26 June–13 July. Time: 10:30am–11:30am, Tuesday–Friday. Venue: 10 Cadmoor Rd, Assagay. Cost: varies. Contact: 082 216 3892, info@ luckybean.co or visit luckybean.co

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Monday–Friday. Venue: Suite 125 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Drive, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: 10 Modules R2 300, including 2 workbooks and certificate. Contact: 031 566 1110 or tracy@kipumhlanga.co.za Sugar Bay Choose from three holiday camps, with a Nickelodeon, Bali or Music, Arts and Drama theme. 24 June–15 July. Time: varies. Venue: Zinkwazi Beach. Cost: varies. Contact: 032 485 3778, holidays@ sugarbay.co.za or visit sugarbay.co.za

markets Essenwood Market Time: 9am–2pm, every Saturday. Venue: Essenwood Rd. Contact: 031 208 1264 or visit essenwoodmarket.com I Heart Market 7 July. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Moses Mabhida Stadium, Stamford Hill. Contact: thejoyteam@gmail.com Kloof Country market 7 and 21 July. Time: 9am–12:30pm. Venue: Robyndale Centre, 10 Msenga Rd, Kloof. Contact Linda: 082 454 3181 or linda@ healinghandskzn.co.za Shongweni Farmer’s and Craft Market Time: 6:30am–10:30am, every Saturday. Venue: cnr Kassier Rd and Alverstone Rd, Assagay. Contact Christine: 083 777 1674, info@shongwenimarket.co.za or visit shongwenimarket.co.za The food market 28 July. Time: 8am–1pm. Venue: The Hellenic Community Centre, Durban North. Contact: 084 505 0113 or visit thefoodmarket.co.za

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paintball arena. Time: varies. Venue: Westwood Shopping Mall, Westville. Cost: varies. Contact Simine: 082 556 5540 or simine@westwoodpaintball.co.za

only for parents classes, talks and workshops From 2 July – King’s Camps

Village Green open days The charity shops, tea garden and nursery are open. Time: 8am–12pm, every Monday and Saturday. Venue: 29 Village Rd, Village Green, Kloof. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 764 1212 / 3 or visit kloofspca.co.za

on stage and screen Legally Blonde the musical High school learners are given the chance to work with a professional theatre team. 3–15 July. Time: varies. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, Glenwood. Cost: R100. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

playtime and story time Books and Books story time Time: 10am–11am, every Saturday. Venue: Kensington Square, Durban North. Cost: free. Contact: 031 563 6288 or visit booksandbooks.co.za Children’s story time A story followed by a craft or activity. For ages 3–8 years. Time:

10am, every Saturday. Venue: 26 Rockview Rd, Amanzimtoti. Cost: free. Contact: 031 903 6692 or thebookboutique@gmail.com Steam train rides 8 and 22 July. Time: 11am–4pm. Venue: 4 Hinton Grove, Virginia. Cost: R5 per ride. Contact Gerald: 031 205 1089 or 082 569 1383

sport and physical activities Horse mastership course A hands-on course ideal for beginners. For children 7 years and older. 28 July. Time: 2pm–5pm. Venue: Horseback Beach Adventures Farm. Cost: R350. Contact Amelia: 084 467 0752, horsebeachrides@gmail.com or visit horsebeachrides.co.za The Dance Academy A new ballet class for children aged 5–6 years. Starts 19 July. Time: 1:30pm–2:30pm, every Thursday. Venue: Kloof Civic Hall, Old Main Rd, Kloof. Cost: R550 per term. Contact Michelle: 072 483 6222 or mcclark@mweb.co.za Westwood Paintball Children get a chance to exercise in an indoor, all weather

Beginners in oil painting 26–27 July. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Simbithi EcoEstate, Ballito. Cost: R500. Contact: 082 486 2126 or visit jjdigby.com Bikram Yoga Time: 5:15pm–6:45pm, every Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: Body Guru Gym, Umhlanga. Cost: varies. Contact Heather: 083 764 0752, heather@bikramyogadurban.co.za or visit bikramyogadurban.co.za isiZulu Permaculture Introduction course Learn how to harvest your own fresh salad and vegetables. 21 July. Time: 8:30am–3pm. Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: R150. Contact: 031 322 4021 or dbginfo@durban.gov.za Mom’s IT lessons Introduction and advanced learning of computer skills. Time: 9am–12pm, Tuesday or Thursday. Venue: Suite 125 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Drive, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: R150 per hour, certified course R2 900. Contact: 031 566 1110, umhlanga@computers4kids.co.za or visit computers4kids.co.za Pilates in Motion Classes develop and improve posture, core strength and

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calendar tone. Time: 4:15pm and 5:15pm, every Monday, Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: Musgrave. Cost: varies. Contact LauraMay: 082 443 4533, info@pilatesinmotion. co.za or visit pilatesinmotion.co.za Pilates Precision Conditioning exercises to help you lose weight and tone. Time: 5:30pm–6:30pm, every Tuesday or Thursday. Venue: Kloof or Gillits. Cost: four classes R280. Contact Sarah: 071 183 4161 or sarahxevans@hotmail.com Weight loss challenge A 12 week course on healthy nutrition and losing weight. Starts 6 or 25 July. Time: 9:30am–10:30am, every Friday, or 5:30pm–6:30pm, every Wednesday. Venue: Umhlanga Rocks. Cost: R350. Contact: 082 852 4890 or tracy. mills@telkomsa.net

on stage and screen Durban International Film Festival Over 250 screenings present the latest in contemporary world cinema. 19–29 July. Time: varies. Venue: varies. Cost: varies. For more info: visit cca.ukzn.ac.za Inhale/Exhale Dancers are inspired by how different emotions influence breathing. 4–7 July. Time: 8pm. Venue: The Playhouse, 231 Anton Lembede St, Durban CBD. Cost: R100. Contact: admin@ikapadancetheatre. co.za or visit webtickets.co.za The ABBA Show Revisit the supergroup’s hits. 12–29 July. Time: 8pm, Thursday– Saturday, 3pm, Sunday. Venue: iZulu Theatre, Sibaya Casino. Cost: R210. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com The Convent Girls This show looks at the similarities and differences in the lives of the characters. 20–29 July. Time: varies. Venue: Rhumbelow Theatre, Umbilo. Cost: R100. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

out and about Cargo Hold wine and brandy tastings Enjoy dinner and a tasting. Van Ryn Brandy Tasting 3 July, Neethlingshof Wine Tasting 9 July. Time: 7pm. Venue: Cargo Hold, uShaka Marine World. Cost: tbc. Contact: 031 328 800 or visit ushakamarineworld.co.za

support groups Adhasa support groups Contact Stuart: 031 298 8896 or Robin: 082 499 1344 for ADHASA meeting times and support. Bipolar Kids South Africa Support group that assists parents, family and friends of

children with bipolar mood disorder and ADHD. Contact: 082 780 6335, 083 227 2304 or visit bpkidssouthafrica.co.za Born Sleeping Parents bereaved by stillbirths, miscarriages or neonatal death can share their experiences. Contact: 084 524 1541/2, bornsleeping@gmail.com, visit bornsleeping.wordpress.com or visit their Facebook page: Born Sleeping Childhood cancer parent support Contact: 084 831 3683 or visit choc.org.za Durban Autism support group For mothers of children with ASD. Contact Di: 083 443 8385 or dimaitland@tiscali.co.za Famsa offers family and relationship counselling. Contact: 031 202 8987 or visit 30 Bulwer Rd, Glenwood, Durban. Hi Hopes Home intervention programme for children who are deaf or hard of hearing. Contact: 082 897 1632, dianne.goring@ hihopes.co.za or visit hihopes.co.za Overeaters Anonymous Members share solutions. Contact: 031 708 6014 or 083 456 6971 Reach for Recovery Breast Cancer support group Get together for bring– and–share morning teas. Contact: 031 205 9525 or 072 248 0008 Sadag For those suffering from depression or drug abuse or who may be suicidal. For more information or referral to a support group: visit sadag.co.za Speak Easy Support group for those who stutter. Contact Imraan: 082 786 3718 or visit speakeasy.org.za

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classes, talks and workshops 2x2 stroller training Exercise with other new moms with your baby. Time: 9:30am–10:30am, every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Venue: tbc. Cost: R500 per month. Contact: 072 244 3669, bronwyn@ fit4health.co.za or visit fit4health.co.za Infant massage class Easy techniques that support bonding, relaxation, development, and communication. Time: varies. Venue: varies. Cost: varies. Contact Dana: 076 387 5425, peace@nurture-now. com or visit nurture-now.com PreggiBellies Fitness classes for pre- and post-natal moms. Time: varies; Tuesday and Thursday evenings, Saturday mornings. Venue: Underground Fitness Club, Lighthouse Mall, Umhlanga. Cost: varies. Contact: 0860 723 559 or visit preggibellies.co.za Pregnancy or Moms and Baby Yoga Time: varies. Venue: Centre for Wellbeing, 16 Canberra Ave, Durban North. Cost: varies. Contact Angela: 076 410 1410 or angela@rautenbach.co.za

playtime and story time Clamber Club Movement and stimulation classes for children 1–4 years old. Time: varies. Venues: branches in Ballito, Hillcrest

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and Kloof. Cost: varies. Contact Ballito: 076 222 2946, Hillcrest: 084 577 7630 or Kloof: 083 259 2746 or visit clamberclub.com Lucky Bean Undercover and outside play areas for children 0–7 years old, and a coffee shop for moms. Time: 8:30am–4pm, Tuesday–Sunday. Venue: 10 Cadmoor Rd, Assagay. Cost: R20 entrance. Contact: 082 216 3892 or visit luckybean.co Moms and Tots and Moms and Babes workshops Stimulates learning and selfconfidence. Time: varies. Venue: branches in Amanzimtoti, Umhlanga, Durban North, Highway area and Glenwood. Cost: varies. Contact: info@momsandtots. co.za or visit momsandbabes.co.za or momsandtots.co.za Toptots Children 8 weeks–4 years can learn and play. Time: varies. Venue: branches in Durban North, Ballito, Glenwood, Kloof, Hillcrest, Westville and Hilton. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 266 4910, 082 876 7791, info@toptots.co.za or visit toptots.co.za

support groups Durban New Moms Support Group For moms of babies and toddlers. Time: 9:30am, every Friday. Venue: Durban North. Cost: free. Contact Alexandra: 031 562 9253 or 083 788 0689 La Leche For breast-feeding support. Contact Jane: 031 309 1801 or visit llli.org Mothers 2 Baby For moms who are finding motherhood challenging. Booking essential. Time: 10am–11:30am, third Thursday of the month. Venue: Hillcrest Private Hospital, Kassier Rd. Cost: free. Contact Hayley: 078 640 7949

how to help Winter Warmth East Coast Radio and The Hub collect blankets. Blankets cost R40 or make a cash donation. For more info: visit ecr.co.za

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the name of the game What’s in a name? Ask Beyonce’s baby, Blue Ivy, or the offspring of an Egyptian dad called Facebook in a few years’ time,

name is a funny thing. While it may seem cute now to name your child Briella, after the star of that horrendous reality show Jerseylicious, the novelty will wear off. Your poor daughter will be less than enthused about her moniker when she reaches her twenties and realises she was named after a hairdresser from New Jersey known as the “boob monster”. Briella, by the way, is currently one of the most popular girl’s names in the United States. For us mere mortals, here in the real world, there are several things to consider before you scribble down a name on your child’s birth certificate. Can the name be shortened, and will the abbreviated version or nickname expose your child to playground taunts? Think carefully before you make up a name. My parents lovingly combined their

names, Anne and Neville, to come up with mine. Great in theory, but not so funny when you are in high school and the boys take delight in coming up with off-colour versions of it. As a result, I am keenly aware of the importance of a well-placed accent when it comes to spelling a name correctly. So, pick a name that your child, and others, will be able to spell with ease. I fear I may have already let my son, Conor, down on that score. We wanted him to have an Irish name, like his sister Erin, as a nod to my Gaelic ancestry. After referring to him as Connor for several months, a last-minute internet search revealed that this was in fact the Scottish spelling. I wasn’t too fussed about dropping the second “n”, until a friend promptly started referring to him as Cone-er. Oh dear, I hope Conor takes after his father and grows up to be a strapping 6 ft 4. Maybe we should

have gone the same route as actor Alec Baldwin, who simply named his daughter Ireland, then there would have been no confusion. Conor was almost a Declan, named after a charming Irish lad I met years ago while backpacking through Dublin, but my husband wasn’t so keen on this one. Don’t drop the ball when it comes to the second or middle name either. Erin’s was decided during a particularly festive braai when my husband promised my mother, Anne, that Erin would have her name. I didn’t mind, as it’s an honour for Erin to share her grandmother’s name, but imagine if it had been something unfortunate, like Hortentia or Tu Morrow? Moral of the story – don’t drink and name. And finally, be mindful of what word your child’s initials will spell. If the names you come up with are something like Penny Ivy Goldstein, you may want to hit the baby-

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naming books again. Conor’s second name is Seán, and I’m thrilled that this means his initials are the same as Irish novelist, CS Lewis. However, it seems poor CS was less than enamoured with his name, Clive Staples, which is why he preferred to be known by his initials, or simply as “Jack”. I hope Conor is more satisfied with his names, despite the dodgy spelling. Anél Lewis, Child magazine’s features editor, writes this from home while she is on maternity leave. You can read more of her online blog on childmag.co.za/ mom-blog

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and they will tell you, “plenty”. By Anél Lewis