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As I sat at my desk last week, I realised that it was the first time this year that I wasn’t travelling to any one of six cities on business.

Publisher Lisa Mc Namara • lisa@childmag.co.za

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With most of my days spent at work, my daughters don’t get as much “alone time” with me as I would like. So, when Julian turned 16 in February, I decided the best present I could give her, was my time. At the end of this month, she will cash in a birthday voucher for “a week of undiluted mother and daughter fun”. We are travelling to the city of her choice, visiting art galleries, museums and markets. We’ll go to shows, shoe stores and possibly a whole lot of other shops too. But my gift isn’t where we go or what we do, it’s my undivided attention, listening to her and hearing her. It is laughing and getting lost – a lot! We both have an appalling sense of direction and won’t have my youngest, or my husband, to help us out.

I can’t wait! Happy birthday, sweet pea.

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upfront 3

a note from lisa

8 over to you readers respond

features 10 party fun for any space Child magazine gives you ideas for party games – from the beach to the lounge and the swimming pool 14 crossing the line

should you discipline other people’s children? By Joanne Lillie

17 you name it, baby!

Christina Castle looks at the lighter

side of naming your baby

18 20 resource – the ultimate party guide

Compiled by Tamlyn Vincent 30 a good read

new books for young people

32 what’s on in may 38 last laugh

Sam Wilson is baffled by her son’s excellent manners

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18 cake time!

Jenny Dodd brings you two mouth-

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9 upfront with paul

Paul Kerton gets serious about his seven-year-old’s university education

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giveaways in may your child’s dream house Having a space to call their own is a child’s dream and Strawberry Kids is in the business of realising these dreams, designing and manufacturing exclusive outdoor playhouses for girls and boys of all ages. The houses are purpose built so you can choose from seven different styles and sizes. They are made from quality exterior materials and can be painted in any colour. If you’d like one for older children or yourself as a possible outdoor office or studio, an extended height option is available on most styles. The playhouse components can be assembled by you, or by using one of Strawberry Kids’ preferred installers in your area. A Strawberry Kids creation will give your child years of outdoor and creative and play. For more information contact: info@ strawberrykids.co.za or visit strawberrykids.co.za Strawberry Kids is offering you a chance to win a Strawberry Kids Playhouse (Princess for girls or Fortress for boys) worth more than R4 000. To enter the competition, log on to strawberrykids.co.za, select Child Mag Competition and enter your details before 31 May 2011. Only one entry per reader.

throw a funtubbulous fun fair party Mr. Funtubbles Fabulous Family Funfair at Gateway has perfected the art of the ideal birthday party – rain-free with enough entertainment to keep the children busy for hours. Based on the traditional outdoor funfair,

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and games in a bright, clean and safe environment. Their value for money party packages include free invitations, access to rides, games and the kiosk, and a choice of one of two party areas equipped with tables and chairs. A dedicated team of staff are on hand to assist with setting up, cleaning and any other special entertainment arrangements that you wish to make on the day. For more information contact marketing@mrfuntubbles.co.za or visit mrfuntubbles.co.za One lucky Durban’s Child reader stands a chance to win a free mid-week birthday party package for ten children to the value of R1 500. To enter, email your details to win@childmag.co.za with “Mr Funtubbles Win” in the subject line or post your entry to Mr Funtubbles Win, PO Box 12002, Mill Street, 8010 before 31 May 2011. Only one entry per reader.

top toys beach in your back yard Crazy Concepts imports and distributes playground equipment and toys. A favourite for children one year and older is the Step2 Shady Oasis Sand and Water Play Table, which features dual wells for both sand and water play. Your child pours water into the wide funnel activating the water wheel, canals, moats, lakes and harbours. The play table also comes with a removable umbrella, and a seven piece accessory set.

Contact their head office in Somerset West (021 850 0102) for stockist information: 082 826 1786, info@crazyconcepts.co.za or visit crazyconcepts.co.za Three readers of Durban’s Child stand a chance to win a Step2 Shady Oasis Sand and Water Play Table valued at R1 000 each. To enter, email your details to win@childmag.co.za with “Crazy Concepts DBN Win” in the subject line or post your entry to Crazy Concepts DBN Win, PO Box 12002, Mill Street, 8010 before 31 May 2011. Only one entry per reader.

By entering this competition you consent to Hunter House Publishing handing over your contact details to the company providing the win and/or their agents and you may receive marketing communication from them, as a result.

Polly Potter’s Toy Store opened in Parkhurst under the ownership of Gia Bert three years ago, and today there are seven Polly Potter’s Toy Stores around Gauteng. Polly Potter’s Toy stores provide a quality range of toys and gifts for babies, toddlers and young children.

They source their toys from around the world and also stock a range of locally made products, offering a unique selection of traditional wooden toys at inexpensive prices.

Polly Potter’s is well known for their dollhouses, rocket ships, red wagons, hand puppets and theatres, puzzles, books, TP’s and all kinds of imaginary play. They are the sole sockists of Kidkraft and Melissa and Doug Victorian Dollhouses and accessories. For more information and branch details visit pollypotterstoystore.co.za.

One reader of Durban’s Child stands a chance to win a Kidkraft Savannah Dollhouse or Kidkraft Rocket Ship valued at R2 000. To enter, email your details to pollypotter@telkomsa. net with “Polly Potter DBN Win” in the subject line or post your entry to Polly Potter DBN Win, P.O Box 117, Dullstroom, 1110 before 31 May 2011. Only one entry per reader.

congratulations to our March winners Rani Govender who wins a gift voucher form Cape Union Mart and Morag Horne who wins a getaway to Ocean Eden lodge.

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sugar monster Your child is “special”, “an old soul”, so “at peace”, so “in tune”... I used to think this was largely due to his character. I found out last weekend that this is not necessarily so. Someone, with good intentions gave him a large bowl of sugared cereal with chocolate milk and gave him undiluted juice. For the next three hours I literally had no idea what I was dealing with. He had an initial high where he ran and ran, then he got mad, then he got irrational, then he started screaming at me because he wanted a train to come along the track… “now!” Then he started screaming because he wanted to go home “now”! Then, when we got to the car he refused to get into his car chair for 15 minutes. I picked him up (20kgs-plus) and put him there – the fight was not easy. He hollered and thrashed about in his chair for three minutes then fell fast asleep (he never normally sleeps at that time).

We met a friend for a picnic, and when he woke up, he was still in a foul mood, refused to walk, and just did not want to be there. After some cheese, tomatoes and pesto and water he went back to his old self. So, this got me thinking: if your child is wild and unhappy – adjust the diet. I could be wrong, it may not have been the food, but it was the first time he had had so much sugar in one sitting and it was the first time I had ever witnessed such behaviour in my three-year-old.

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I felt so sorry for my child. I thought of all the children being told off when maybe losing the sugary cereal and bringing in the wheat cereal might change their worlds.

Laura, Constantia

“no” is good enough I’m responding to Lisa Mc Namara’s pub’s note in the April issue of Child magazine. Saying “no” is so important. We don’t always have to agree, say “yes” or please everyone.

It is empowering to say “no” or, when caught off guard, “can I get back to you” or “let me think about it”. So many people feel they can’t say “no”. They feel obliged to say “yes”. We also don’t always have to explain ourselves.

Sometimes our “no” should be enough. When we do say “no”, it is empowering and it will be easier the next time.

Our lives should reflect our priorities and when it does, our thinking and choices, are aligned with that. We live the life we want, not the one we wish we had.

Andrea Cizlak

excellent feedback We run a craft programme, which is aimed at empowering abused and disadvantaged women in the community.

On behalf of our community, thanks for featuring us in your magazine; we’ve had lovely feedback. Peggy kindly collected old jewellery from the ladies in her church group. Paarlmedia have donated paper and carpet tiles

to the Zamakuhle Crèche in Chesterville. Forty litres of paint were also donated to a mom with two children whose house was accidentally set on fire. Tina also donated some old jewellery and other children’s goods.

We also received donations from Greenglades, an outlet for gifts and crafts as well as Burgess Florist, Carla’s Party Shop and Linen Square. Thank you so very much.

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tinker, tailor, soldier, sailor…

PAUL KERTON gets serious about his seven-year-old’s future vocation.

s I write this, it is my youngest daughter’s seventh birthday. You may think it too early to be thinking about your children’s careers. I certainly do, or did; until I sat next to a career advisor on a plane recently. My tack has always been, get a decent all-round education, get “school” qualified and then look around. Be flexible and adapt. There’s plenty of time for that.

Wrong! “That” is no longer good enough.

For starters, education, and particularly further education, is no longer an assumed entitlement and is indeed fast becoming an ultra-expensive luxury, shortly to be rationed to fewer students. South Africans have always paid for varsity but Western universities are now putting a premium on further learning.

Even Britain, where the universities used to be free to everyone as long as you turned up with a modest smattering of qualifications, is now using the credit crunch as an excuse to tighten the budgetary noose to the point where students now leave university with a degree plus an average personal debt of R350 000. And a burden of debt is

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not a great start to working life. Foreign students pay almost three times the fees of local students here, but it is still cheap compared to Europe. Expect an immediate influx of foreign students. Good for the bottom line, bad for prospects.

Competition for places – which are being radically reduced – is now ferocious.

Marks matter. Grades matter. Mindset matters. And all this, unfortunately, starts now. No longer can youth mess around experimenting with various courses until they hit on the right one. “Oh, Daddy, philosophy is so dreary, please, please let me try chemical engineering.” Mistakes are expensive. Time is expensive. The hallowed gap year will disappear. Smart people know that a year spent drifting around South America teaching English to Peruvians is better spent getting a head start in your chosen vocation – networking and interning.

Career advice, though, is traditionally limited and vague. When I was at school it was nonexistent. Tinker, tailor, soldier, sailor…

Eeenie-meenie-minee-mo… You either worked hard to become a professional, dropped out and became a tradesman,

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moved into Dad’s business or joined the army or navy.

The jobs landscape is changing daily.

Any kind of technology – computer, energy, bio or nano is a massive hit. Sectors such as finance (check out a banker’s bonus and weep), medicine, law and design will remain stable but many everyday jobs will disappear.

Languages are going to be so important but choice is crucial. It takes the same

time, energy and commitment to learn one language as it does to learn another. Bottom line – learn what everyone else is speaking.

The good news is, business and trade are now global. If you can’t get a job here, you can always get a job there. The big joke in Europe now is if you are going to India and want to know what the weather is like, call your local bank’s helpline.

Paul Kerton is the author of Fab Dad: A Man’s Guide to Fathering.

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party fun for any space Old-fashioned party games are the perfect way to keep an energetic group of children entertained.

CHILD MAGAZINE brings you twists on some of the classics as well as some great new ones.

These games and activities are perfect for grassy gardens where noisy shrieks can be expected.

piñata A papier-mâché or cardboard shape filled with sweets, prizes and confetti is hung up high. Players take turns hitting it with a stick until it breaks open and the treasure falls to the ground. They then collect as much loot as they can. themes, twists and tips Making a piñata is not that difficult: use craft glue to stick strips of newspaper to a large balloon. Leave to dry overnight then cut a small hole in the top. Paint, decorate, fill with sweets and hang. best for ages 3–6

icebreaker Treats and prizes are frozen in layers in a large plastic bucket. The ice block is removed from the mould and

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placed on the grass. Players take turns to scoop a cup of water from a bucket, run and pour it over the ice, attempting to melt it and free a prize. themes, twists and tips Freezing the ice in layers over a few days will ensure the treats are better distributed.

The larger the bucket or container the more fun – having a chest freezer helps. Freeze two ice blocks and make it a team relay. best for ages 3–8

balloon stomp Divide players into two teams and tie balloons around each player’s ankles. Each team must now pop the other team’s balloons while keeping their own intact. themes, twists and tips Choose two different colour balloons to separate teams. Add music and let players stomp until the music stops at which point they must all freeze. Anyone who doesn’t freeze is out of the game. best for ages 4–8

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small indoor spaces No garden? No problem. These indoor games and activities can be played in even the smallest apartment.

the princess. Pencil the initials of each player where he pins on the tail so you can keep track. best for ages 2–6

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mystery foods

Place a small note inside each balloon before blowing it up or filling it with helium. These notes can include dares, forfeits, jokes or the names of prizes (Hooray!

You’ve won a...). Tie the balloons into bouquets using ribbon and let each player take a turn to pop a balloon using a pin or by stomping on it. themes, twists and tips Choose balloons in your colour theme. Place small treats such as mini fizzers into each balloon instead of a note. To keep a helium balloon weighed down, place a brick or rock inside a small gift bag and tie the ribbons to the handle. best for ages 4–8

Place 10 to 15 different foods with distinct flavours but varying textures into separate bowls. Try strawberries, bananas, chocolate, peanut butter, mayonnaise, gherkins, olives, popcorn, tomato sauce and mustard.

Cut the solid foods into tiny pieces. Blindfold each child and have her smell each dish. If she can’t identify it correctly she must taste a small sample of it. Give her two points if she identifies by smell and one point for taste. At the end tally the points to see who wins. themes, twists and tips For younger children choose tastes they will enjoy. For older children you can throw in a sour surprise such as lemon juice or vinegar. best for ages 6–12

pin the tail on the donkey Draw a donkey with an X for a tail. Draw a separate tail onto cardboard or make one from wool. Players are blindfolded and spun around three times with the tail in hand and they then need to feel their way to the donkey and try to stick the tail in the correct position. The most accurate player wins a prize. themes, twists and tips For a modern twist, pin the watch on Ben 10, the bat on Batman or the crown on

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them how to ice butterflies, frogs and clown faces. Bake your cupcakes in flat-bottomed icecream cones – no wrappers to tidy up. No time to bake cupcakes? Use Marie Biscuits instead. best for ages 2–10

ice it Bake a batch of cupcakes and make bowls of various colour icing using icing sugar, water and food colouring.

Throw in a platter of interesting toppings (cherries, sprinkles, nuts and coconut) along with some plastic teaspoons and let children decorate their own cakes. themes, twists and tips Match icing to your theme colours or bake the cakes in themed wrappers. Show

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beach With outdoor games and activities that suit a sandy terrain, you can make use of common beach accessories.

water balloon toss Standing in two opposing lines, players gently toss a water balloon to each other and try to catch it without letting it burst. After each successful catch they take one step backwards. Once it pops, the players are out. The last pair standing wins. themes, twists and tips This game works just as well with a tennis ball, though this isn’t quite as much fun. best for ages 5–10

sandman Have players divide into teams. Each team must collect twigs, shells and pebbles from the beach and then build a large sandman (similar to a snowman). The best sandman wins. themes, twists and tips Bring sets of old clothing along and have teams “dress” their sandman. Take photos of each guest next to his sandman and use these as “thank you for coming to my beach party” cards later. best for ages 4–12

musical towels Think musical chairs but use beach towels instead. Each player lays his towel out and dances around to the music while one towel is removed. When the music stops, players must find a towel and lie down.

The player caught without a towel is out. themes, twists and tips Add in an activity such as doing sit-ups in a row to ensure players don’t cheat by hovering over the towels. best for ages 3–12

park These outdoor games and activities don’t require large props – we know you have enough to carry as it is.

sticker tag Think paintball without the pain. Buy a couple of packs of sticky dots or squares and distribute one sheet per player. Have players run around and tag each other by sticking stickers on their backs. At the end of the game the player who has been tagged the least wins. themes, twists and tips Divide into teams so players only tag members of the other team. best for ages 3–12

relay races Divide players into two teams and have them race against the other team to win prizes. Traditional variations include a sack race, a three-legged race or an eggand-spoon race. Hard-boiled eggs minimise the mess. themes, twists and tips Introduce obstacles to the race to make it more interesting. A fun alternative is for players to run while holding onto an untied balloon filled with water without spilling any of it. best for ages 2–12

treasure hunt Children love a good treasure hunt. Scope out your local park and then draw landmark clues such as trees, slides and swings on index cards. At each point they should find another clue card and eventually the last clue will lead them to a treasure map, which tells them where the treasure is buried or hidden. Use a shoebox and fill it with chocolate coins and party favours. themes, twists and tips For older children, write out riddles as clues instead of drawing pictures. best for ages 4–12

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pool With games and activities that can be played in and beside the pool, you can use common pool toys and props.

spoon dive Gather up all the different sized spoons in your house (except your vintage cutlery) and toss them into the bottom of the pool. Let the children dive in to retrieve the spoons. Break guests up into smaller groups if there are lots of children. The child who retrieves the most spoons wins a prize. themes, twists and tips Tie different coloured ribbons around the handles of the spoons and assign values to each colour, so a red ribbon might be worth five points while a blue one is worth 10. Total up points to determine the winner or allocate small prizes and treats to each colour. best for ages 5–10

noodle joust Two players straddle a lilo while jousting with pool noodles to knock the other player into the water. Once a player is knocked off, a new challenger takes his place. The last player on the lilo is the champion. themes, twists and tips This game can get rough so make sure to supervise at all times. best for ages 6–12

poolside relay Players are divided into two teams. The first player in each team must race with a pool noodle between his legs to a second point where he drops the noodle and puts on a pair of flippers, large baggies and snorkelling mask. He then runs back to his team where he swaps his outfit with the next player, who then runs to the second point to undress and fetch the noodle. The race continues like this until the last player has finished. themes, twists and tips Use your imagination to add silly actions and extra pool props, and remember to plays this game away from the edge of the pool. best for ages 6–12

restaurant These quieter activities and games can be played around a restaurant table, but still allow for lots of fun.

marshmallow art A bag of marshmallows and a pack of toothpicks can provide fabulous entertainment as pairs of players have to compete at building simple 3D shapes such as stars, dogs and houses. themes, twists and tips Choose shapes that correspond to the theme. Add in different shape, size and colour marshmallows to keep it interesting. best for ages 6–12

bingo Prepare bingo cards (index cards with pictures or numbers on them). Each card should be unique. Have a set of master cards and show one master card at a time while players find the matching picture on their playing card and cross it off.

The first player to cross off all their pictures or numbers says “Bingo” and wins. themes, twists and tips Use pictures or symbols on the Bingo cards that correspond to your party theme. best for ages 5–12

general knowledge Print pages with 10 blank columns and 26 rows (one for each letter of the alphabet).

Give each player a sheet and pencil and then call out a theme such as “boys’ names”. Give players two timed minutes to fill the first column; each new row corresponding to the next letter in the alphabet (Andile, Bob, Charlton, Dave etc).

Players get one point for each space they fill. Tally up points to see who wins. themes, twists and tips Themes can include cars, countries, colours, girls’ names, bands and cartoon characters. best for ages 8–12

For more game ideas visit www.childmag.co.za/content/age-appropriate-parties

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crossing the line Creating boundaries and limits for our own children is part of everyday parenting. But should

’d always thought that other people’s children were other people’s business; that their behaviour – good or bad – had nothing to do with me. Yet, just recently I found myself admonishing two nine-year-olds who were throwing stones at squirrels. I didn’t think twice about telling them off.

but, is it really okay to discipline other people’s children?

“When it comes to discipline, it’s so important that adults have a very firm grasp of what true discipline actually is,” says Anne Cawood, a social worker and school counsellor from Cape Town. “If you believe that discipline

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and punishment are synonymous, then it could present problems when it comes to disciplining children who are not your own. However, if you have the mindset that discipline means teaching, guiding and socialising, then it becomes important for any adult who sees unacceptable behaviour in a child to set firm, gentle boundaries for the child. Children need help to learn that there will always be certain expectations – and that these may be different in varying situations,” says Cawood, who has four children, and is the author of the Boundaries series of parenting books.

Your approach to other children very often depends on the relationship you have with that child’s parents. If

your values are similar, discipline can be a collaborative effort. But, as Johannesburg-based clinical psychologist Liane Lurie says, “Once upon a time we might have said ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ but, today, with children being exposed to or experiencing drugs, pornographic material and sexual practices at an earlier age, parents are bound to be more protective over the kinds of messages our children may receive from others. We may very often take a shielding stance that what our child does is no-one else’s business,” says Lurie, whose work focuses on children and young people. “This could make us defensive and resistant to anyone else guiding our children.”

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we be applying the same rules to the offspring of others? JOANNE LILLIE asks the experts.

If you believe that discipline means teaching, guiding and socialising, then it becomes important for any adult who sees unacceptable behaviour in a child to set firm, gentle boundaries.

There is a very fine line between causing offence by interfering, or helping and preventing harm, and this is where the issue gets contentious. Most moms we spoke to said they would not interfere with another’s parenting, but there may be two exceptions to this. “Even if you have been placed in a position of authority – the parent has trusted

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you to look after the child on a play date, for example – or because the child is doing something potentially harmful to himself or another child, it’s a very tricky situation,” says Cape Town multimedia designer and mom Lanielle Gould.

“It’s tricky because behaviour, attitude and even what is regarded as harmful can be subjective.

“I had an experience where a friend’s child put her hand too close to the open flames of a braai. Another friend snatched her hand away to prevent her being burnt.

The child’s mother was furious because the little girl got a fright and she felt the other woman had been too rough,” says Lanielle.

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house rules “If a child is with you – either in your home or when you are out somewhere, then you need to set the rules and limits,” says Cawood. “A child may be allowed to control the TV remote in his own home, but if he walks into your home and picks up the remote to change the channel you have every right – in fact, responsibility – to say, firmly: ‘Sorry, in this home the children have to ask before changing the channel – please will you give it to me.’ This is fair and very respectful. Similarly, if you are on an outing and your child’s friend demands a sweet at a shop, you would need to firmly state: ‘We don’t have sweets before dinner. When we have eaten you may choose a sweet from the jar, but we are not going to buy any now.’ Then remain very firm regarding this limitation,” says Cawood.

A child needs to know that what may be allowed in her own home may not be allowed in another. This provides a platform for developing respect and, later, learning to tune in to the needs of others, explains Lurie.

Lisa Lait, marketing manager and mother of Robyn, four, and Rowan, two, from Johannesburg says, “I absolutely expect children who visit my home to abide by my rules. Very often a visiting friend will end up doing something with my child that is not acceptable. In that case, I will tell both children off at the same time, starting with something like: ‘You know the rules of this house, we do not...’ Then you can only hope that they both listen, and if they don’t and the parent is there, the parent can follow through.”

Local parenting expert, Megan de Beyer adds, “Unless there is disruptive, rude or angry behaviour, we should always focus on the character and temperament of other children in our home, before we worry about rules and etiquette. The first thing to recognise is whether your child plays well with and enjoys her friend.

Also some mothers are tense when their children have friends over, which can be picked up unconsciously by the visitor and result in unwelcome behaviour.”

the parent trap We as parents can be extremely sensitive to criticism – and telling another mother or father how to manage their child could cause a rift in your relationship. There really is nothing you can do unless it is a very close friend of yours and you have an open and honest relationship, says De Beyer.

“If a guest to your child’s birthday party, for example, is being disruptive and is under age four, I’d find a way to change the play, bring in a distraction or simply give the child attention,” she says. “From five up I think it’s reasonable to speak kindly and carefully to the parent, if he/she is there. If the parent isn’t present, I would recommend that you try a distraction first.

If that fails, speak to the child kindly and clearly about her behaviour and then give a suggestion of what she can do instead. Most children between five and 10 listen to a stranger quite willingly if you communicate without anger. If she continues to be disruptive, then you could contact the parent and explain the situation and ask if they could come and

tips for gentle guidance • C hoose your battles Let the little things go and save your interventions for major incidents.

• Don’t single out the perpetrator “In setting limits, try to direct your need for order to all children concerned. Try: ‘Let’s all go and play outside for now and leave this game for later’,” advises clinical psychologist Liane Lurie.

• Use distraction first Move on to a new activity or game. Something absorbing will keep those would-be naughty hands busy.

• Avoid “you” language and punitive methods when guiding other people’s children Do not accuse or criticise the parents, rather ask for cooperation and use “I” language to express the fact that the behaviour is not acceptable in your home, says counsellor and author Anne Cawood.

• Hold your judgment Rather get to know other children and give them positive attention, then begin to set boundaries kindly. It is best not to make it difficult for your child to have friends over to play, suggests parenting expert Megan de Beyer.

• Cape Town life coach and mom of 20-month-old Joshua, Janet Chadwick, says “To understand your children’s playmates, perhaps arrange a play date or two first with the other parents in attendance. That way, you can get an idea of what to expect from the children, what sort of values and boundaries they have, and how they interact with your children.”

• Have realistic expectations Learn to communicate assertively – but never be aggressive or personal, counsels Cawood.

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There is a very fine line between causing offence by interfering, or helping, and preventing harm. deal with it. Remember it’s always how you do something rather than what you do,” says De Beyer.

“So much depends on the way things are said,” agrees Cawood. If your appeal to an unruly child is going unheeded, and you need to involve his mom or dad, try this approach: “I am sure Jason is just very excited, but he is making things very difficult to control, so would you please ask him to calm down?” If the parent continues to ignore your request, then you may need to become more assertive and give the child a choice; something like: “Please stop pushing the other children over or you will need to go and sit quietly on the chair outside.” It is all about the way you communicate how the child’s behaviour is affecting the other children – or you. “If the other parent takes offence, then that really is their problem,” says Cawood.

Another strategy when enlisting the aid of another child’s parent is to try phrasing your concerns in the plural, suggests Lurie, such as: “It seems like things are getting slightly out of hand, what should we do about it?” In this way you invoke cooperation as opposed to a feeling of blame or resistance.

out and about If you are in a public space and a child is interfering with your child, or not listening to your requests, then you should feel confident to speak firmly to the child, says Cawood.

It’s useful to remember that there may be a particular context for a child’s behaviour – he may be tired, sick, irritable or just in need of attention. “Up until a certain age, a child’s primary means of communication may be behavioural rather than verbal,” says Lurie, which means since they can’t tell you how they feel, they may act out.

In the case of a playground bully, naturally your first priority is the safety of your child. But don’t react in anger, says De Beyer. “The bully needs to know his behaviour is not okay. You could simply ask: ‘Can you explain what is going on

here and what you are doing?’ in order to engage with them, then say what you saw and that it’s not okay to do that. But do not shout, criticise or hit another child – we cannot correct a bully by being a bully ourselves,” she warns.

So when should you step in? Without hesitation when a child is in harm’s way or if a child is breaking the law, moms and experts agree. But as with all your parenting, focus on the behaviour you saw when offering guidance, and do not criticise a child’s character. Do it kindly, and never in anger, concludes De Beyer.

naughty monkeys need understanding Children may act in a way we see as naughty for many reasons: to attract attention, to assert their independence, or because they feel that they lack parental or adult approval on some level, and so there are no boundaries to behaviour. Some children may know the difference between right and wrong but lack the ability to control impulses or urges to act.

The behaviour of any child has what is referred to as “communication value” – it expresses something about how a child is feeling about a particular situation at a particular time. A child may, depending on his or her developmental stage or maturity, lack the vocabulary to express what he or she is processing on an emotional or cognitive level – but they do have the ability to act out or misbehave as a way of expressing distress.

Remember that unconditional acceptance doesn’t necessarily equate to approval of certain behaviours. A sound relationship can go a long way in inculcating values and managing disciplinary challenges successfully, says Johannesburg clinical psychologist Liane Lurie.

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you name it,

baby!

ILLUSTRATION: MARIETTE BARKHUIZEN

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CHRISTINA CASTLE gives the funny side of figuring out what to call your bundle of joy.

aming your baby is an emotional process. But not necessarily for the reason it should be. Just when you think you’ve decided on the “one”, someone will blow it for you. It may be your husband’s granny who announces that all firstborn boys must be called Christoffel Albertus Hendrick. Perhaps your own sister recalls that child you were at school with who was always digging in his nose and eating the treasure.

“Wasn’t his name also Stuart?” Or you discover that your partner’s old university crush also just happened to be called Kate.

There are more obstacles in place when naming a baby than in a steeplechase. And they can even appear at the point of no return…

“Spring Day,” said my obstetrician as she booked my Caesar date. “What great names you could have for a baby born on Spring Day.” She was obviously suggesting that I was having a girl, I thought, and I moved into hormonal overdrive as I started thinking pink and planning fresh Spring Day names: Lily,

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Rose, Jasmine, Daisy, Ivy, Poppy and Violet. Just imagine how I could decorate the room.

But what I eventually gave birth to on that first day of September a good number of years back was certainly no petal.

“It’s a bull calf,” said our Eastern Cape farming relatives (they could only be from my husband’s side of the family).

Yep, I had given birth to a hefty 4,1kg boy – a second boy, bigger than the first. As delicious as he was, we realised we could not give him a delicate name. He needed something big – large, in fact. And with a surname like Castle, we had to be just a little careful.

When our first son was born he went nameless for about a week. In the hospital nursery he became known as Castle Lite. Friends also swamped us with their favourites: Sterling Castle, Bitterly Cold Castle, Charles Glass… We settled on Dylan.

With a vacuum of boys’ names second time round, the bull calf also spent the first few days of his life nameless.

When on our final day in hospital the paediatrician strolled

in to our room for a final checkup and asked if we had decided on a name, I answered proudly and deliberately.

“Yes, his name is Alexander.”

“Nice,” said the paediatrician, who picked up the name dictionary I had next to my bed and read aloud: “Alexander. Leader of men.”

Good name for a bull calf, I thought.

“And the diminutive forms are Alex, Alec, Lex and Sandy,” he continued, laughing. “Good one. Sandy Castle.”

Sandy Castle. We didn’t see that one coming.

what a mouthful Last year British celebrity chef Jamie Oliver introduced his new baby to the world: Buddy Bear Maurice Oliver. It’s certainly a mouthful. Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s Apple, however, is a little easier to digest. You’ve just got to wonder what’s going to be served up next.

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cake time!

Stuck for an idea for this year’s birthday cake? JENNY DODD offers four great recipes to make your child’s party one to remember.

stone age Dinosaurs remain an all-time favourite with children – team them with cavemen and cavewomen and your party will be a roaring success. Here’s a cake for the big day. This theme works well with five- to 10-year-olds.

1. Prepare the cake batter as per the recipe. Use the one batch for the square cake and divide the second cake batter mixture between the round tin and the oven-proof pudding bowl. Because of the depth of the bowl cake, the baking time should be extended to 50–60 minutes. Leave the cakes to cool completely.

2. Coat the upper surface of the round cake with brown icing. Trim the surface of the pudding bowl cake if necessary and place flat side down on top of the round cake. Hollow out a cave entrance, using the removed section to “pad” around the base of the dome if necessary to fit neatly on the round cake.

3. Coat the square cake with brown icing and place the cave in position as illustrated.

4. Insert the artificial greenery as illustrated.

5. Create a quarry with the Crunchie honeycomb sweet pieces.

6. Create a dinosaur nest with a mixture of brown and yellow icing and place the speckled eggs inside.

7. Place one of the dolls on the back of a dinosaur, securing with Prestik, and position on the cake. Add the other doll and dinosaurs as illustrated.

8. Pile the chocolate-coated nuts on the cake to resemble rocks.

9. Randomly scatter the white bone sweets around the cave.

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suggested game: musical dino prints Trace an outline of a dinosaur footprint onto cardboard and cut out dinosaur footprints, one less than the number of children. Place on the ground in the play area. On starter’s orders and to music, the children dance about – when the music stops each child rushes to a footprint. The last child is extinct. Play continues and with each round a footprint is removed, thus ensuring that there is always an extra child. The last child remaining receives a prize.

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PHOTOGRAPHS: RYNO, ILLUSTRATIONS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

• 2 x basic cake mixture (see box on page 19) – baked as 1 x 280mm square cake, 1 x 200mm round cake, 1 x 1,5 litre pudding-bowl cake • icing (see box on page 19) – brown, yellow • “greenery” available from craft shops • Crunchie honeycomb sweet pieces • speckled egg sweets • 2 x small dolls • plastic dinosaurs • chocolate-coated nuts in varying sizes • white bone-shaped sweets

farmyard frolics Here’s just the cake for a farm-inspired party… get creative and transform your home into a farmyard. Soon moos, oinks and baas will fill the air at this happy event. Great for three- to six-year-olds.

• 1 x basic cake (see box below right) prepared in a 280mm square tin • icing (see box right) – green, brown, yellow, blue • sugared fruit cubes • plastic farmyard toys • gold balls • melon sweets • large Astros • small craft sunflowers • wooden cocktail sticks • Prestik • small novelty scarecrow • small plastic tree 1. Bake the cake according to the recipe and leave to cool completely.

2. Coat the upper two-thirds of the cake with green icing while the “field” section (the lower third) should be iced brown to resemble soil. Mark off the different areas – field of vegetables, pig in mud, field of sunflowers.

3. Separate the field from the grassed section with a row of sugared fruit cubes.

4. Coat the muddy section with brown icing and place the pig in position, with streaks of mud dripping off the toy.

5. Form a few bushy shrubs from icing for the sheep to graze on.

6. Dot a few kernels of corn for the chickens to enjoy.

7. Use a star nozzle to mark out the fields, adding a gold ball on alternate stars.

8. “Plant” one field of melons.

9. Use orange Astros to form carrot heads. Pull out green icing tops. Do the same using dark red submerged Astros to simulate beetroot.

10. Attach the sunflowers to the cocktail sticks with Prestik and insert into the cake.

11. Place the scarecrow in position to oversee the crop.

12. Place the tree in position and scatter red Astros on the grassed section to resemble apples.

basic icing This recipe is sufficient to ice the basic cake, for larger cakes or where the star nozzle is used, the quantity will need to be doubled.

• 100g white margarine, at room temperature • 2½ cups (625ml) icing sugar, sifted • 5 tsp (25ml) boiling water • ½ tsp (2,5ml) vanilla essence 1. Mix together the margarine and sifted icing sugar.

2. Add the boiling water, a little at a time, and mix until the desired consistency is obtained.

3. Add the vanilla essence.

4. Once the icing has been mixed, it may be coloured by adding powdered colouring, blending in small quantities (about ¼ tsp) at a time, until the desired shade is obtained. Liquid colouring may also be used, but take care that the consistency does not become too runny.

basic cake • • • • • • • •

4 extra-large eggs 300g (300ml) white sugar 2½ cups (625ml) cake (plain) flour 4 tsp (20ml) baking powder pinch of salt ¾ cup (180ml) oil ¾ cup (180ml) water 1 tsp (5ml) vanilla essence

1. Preheat the oven to 180˚C (350˚F).

2. Beat the eggs, then gradually add the sugar and beat until thick and pale.

3. In a separate bowl, sift the flour, baking powder and salt together.

4. In another bowl, lightly whisk the oil, water and vanilla essence to combine.

5. Gently fold the dry ingredients, alternately with the liquid, into the egg mixture.

6. Pour the cake mixture into the required greased pan(s) – see individual recipes for details.

7. Bake for 30–35 minutes. To test whether the cake is baked through, insert a skewer into the centre of the cake. If it comes out clean, it is done.

8. Turn out onto a rack to cool completely before icing.

suggested game: feed the ducks

about the book

Fill a plastic tub with water and float two or three small rubber ducks on the surface. (Be mindful of smaller children – fill the tub at time of play and do not leave unattended; empty immediately after the game.)

The children line up behind a marker at a predetermined distance away from the tub. Children take turns to attempt to toss the ball into the tub. Successful children choose a prize from a basket, and the game continues until each child has hit the target. (Those who struggle may be permitted to move closer to the bucket.)

Party Party by Jenny Dodd (Struik Lifestyle) offers a great collection of children’s birthday party themes. From “feisty fire engines” and “karate kicks” to “birthday bugs” and “enchanted forest”, there’s party inspiration galore. With suggestions for invitations, food, games and activities, treat bags, birthday cakes and décor, this book will help you plan the perfect celebration for your child. Available at all good bookshops nationwide.

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resource You can also access the party guide online at childmag.co.za

ACCESSORIES AND SERVICES AJ’s Jumping Castle Hire Rents out jumping castles.

Priced from R300−R600 depending on delivery distance. Contact AJ: 031 262 5640, 083 272 0394 or 083 777 8878 Apollo Jumping Castles Offers a variety of jumping castles and water slides.

Discounted rates between Monday and Thursday. Hire includes delivery and collection. Upper Highway area. Contact Cheryl: 084 655 5015, c.froise@telkomsa. net or visit adguide.co.za/apollo Balloonful Events Specialises in balloons − from helium balloons, arches, centrepieces, pillars, canopies and more.

Contact Michelle: 031 262 2018, 084 565 4201 or balloonfulevents@iburst.co.za Balloons Just 4 U Offers helium balloons, balloon-printing, themed balloons, balloon accessories, cold air inflatables and more.

Delivery service available. Contact: 031 572 3572, taprinting@icon.co.za or visit balloonsjust4u.co.za B-day Parties Suppliers of over 180 party themes and themed décor. Themes include Avatar, Barbie, Barney, Bolt, Little Mermaid and many more. Parcels delivered nationwide. Contact: 021 853 1727, linda@ bdayparties.co.za or visit bdayparties.co.za Bunny Foo Foo Party Packs Junkfree party packs that include dried fruit, stationery and goodies for boys and girls.

Options include art and crafts kits and cosmetic pouches. Contact Ishana: 082 565 9426 or kusheel@tiscali.co.za Candy Tree Creates candy trees for all occasions, or party packs with a craft and snacks. Candy tree from R180 upwards, party packs R35−R40. Contact Nats: 031 764 1844, 084 4990 378, freesplat@ hotmail.com or visit candytree.yolasite.com Charisma Hire For table settings and catering requirements. They deliver and clear up. Berea. Contact Francie: 031 201 2821, 082 956 1630, charismahire@ wirelessza.co.za or visit charismahire.co.za Chelsea Flowers Online florist provides flower arrangements, centrepieces and gift

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hampers for parties. All delivered locally.

Contact Joan: 031 563 8420, 083 284 8771, info@chelseaflowers.co.za or visit chelseaflowers.co.za Craft Blanche Retail and wholesale suppliers of all your invitation, card-making and scrapbooking requirements. Craft and DIY kits also available. National supplier.

Contact: 021 554 2290, info@craftblanche. co.za or visit craftblanche.co.za Daena Chanel Photography studio that will travel to your venue. They are based in Morningside, but will travel throughout KwaZulu-Natal. Contact: 082 435 5138, photography@daenachanel.com or visit daenachanel.com Eumalin Trading Enterprises Rents out party equipment, including chocolate fountains, and slush puppy and popcorn machines. Contact Shan: 082 459 0929 or shumal@telkomsa.net Floating Balloon Party Shop Sells themed party accessories. Southgate Business Park, Umbogintwini. Contact Odette: 031 914 0125 or megan@toscant.co.za Flower Fusion Offers a range of floral designs, that can match to your theme.

Countrywide delivery. Contact Robyn: 031 764 2801, flowerfusion@telkomsa.net or visit flowerfusionflorist.co.za Funcastles Specialises in renting out jumping castles, water slides and mini tables and chairs. Contact: 083 555 1689 or spitcastle@gmail.com Gary’s 4 Wheelers Entertainment Jumping castles, quad bikes and carousel swing available for hire. Delivery to all areas. Contact Gary or Sherry: 031 464 6572 or 072 575 4005 Gellie Baff This safe product turns water into colourful goo. Sprinkle the powder into water (a bowl or children’s pool).

Water turns back to normal. Countrywide.

Contact: 021 556 0332, wendy.ekman@ altiustrading.com or visit gellibaff.co.za Goodie Two Shoes Offers goodie boxes containing activity-related stickers, crayons, puzzles, beads, clay fun and toys. Different sizes and themes available. Delivery countrywide. From

R35. Contact Memre: 082 466 3182, memre@goodietwoshoes.co.za or visit goodietwoshoes.co.za Hanzon Design Projects Creates birthday banners, themed party backdrops, props and décor. Oversized birthday banner from R200. Contact Chris: 082 600 0994 or riverlounge52@gmail.com Happy Hop Jumping Castles Sells jumping castles. From R3 500. Contact: 083 236 1694, andrea@computeasy.co.za or visit happyhop.store.co.za Hip Hip Hooray Happy Birthday Rents out children’s party equipment suitable for 1−6 year olds, including jumping castles, ball ponds, obstacle courses, trampolines, soccer equipment and more. They also offer a venue for hire. Contact Kerry: 072 434 4349, kerryann.taylor5@gmail.com or visit hiphiphoorayhappybirthday.com Indoor Outdoor Play Centres Sells soft jumping castles and play systems for indoor and outdoor use. Contact Santie: 079 887 8322, info@iopc.co.za or visit iopc.co.za Ipigogo Spring Cleaners Will come to your house and clean up after your party.

Contact Bongeka: 031 462 2108, 073 975 6568 or ipigogosc@mweb.co.za It’s A Party They supply helium balloons, themed décor, novelty cakes, party entertainment, party-sweet packs, novelty sweets, gifts plus party platters. Umhlali.

Contact Robyn: 032 947 1071, 073 801 5247 or robyndeakin@telkomsa.net Its Mine Labels Range of personalised labels including magnetic invitations, partypack stickers, personalised party-pack tattoos, face labels and wrapping paper.

Delivery countrywide. Contact: 011 646 3640 or visit itsmine.co.za Jaguar Jumping Castles Hires jumping castles, including a princess castle and Barney. Western suburbs. Contact Lalitha: 031 711 1241 or 083 791 1241 Jitterbugs For magnet invitations, party-pack stickers, décor and banners.

Magnetic invitations from R9. Contact: 031 261 1030, orders@jitterbugs.co.za or visit jitterbugs.co.za

Jolly Jumpers Has a range of jumping castles for hire. If you hire for one day you get an extra day free. R350–R550. Contact: 082 306 6996 or visit jollyjumpers.co.za Jukebox Hire Disco package for children under 16 years includes a jukebox, disco lights and smoke machine. Contact Bob: 031 811 2657, 083 676 5232 or bob@ bigfunsa.co.za Just 4 Fun Jumping Castles Jumping castles, water balls and a zorb ball for hire.

From R350−R1 000. Contact Anien: 082 540 7806, aniensearle@mweb.co.za or visit just4funjumpingcastles.co.za Just Labels Specialises in personalised gift labels for children’s presents. R12 for 6 stickers. Contact: 031 266 1738, sales@ justlabels.co.za or visit justlabels.co.za Just Plastics Sells party accessories including party buckets, children’s chairs and tables and more. Contact Springfield: 031 263 1906, The Crescent: 031 566 3351 or visit justplastics.co.za Labels Inc Stocks a selection of invitations and gift labels. Countrywide delivery.

Contact: 082 556 4232, info@labelsinc. co.za or visit labelsinc.co.za Little Occasions Children’s Designer Partyware Designer partyware on their online shop. Contact: info@littleoccasions. co.za or visit littleoccasions.co.za Little Rascals Jumping Castles Offers indoor and outdoor themed parties, plus jumping castles, water slides, and tables and chairs for hire. Contact: 084 229 4857, 083 777 5353 or littlerascals. jumpingcastles@gmail.com Loadsafun Buy a range of children’s costumes, accessories, capes, fairy goodies, tutus and other dress-up products. Countrywide. Contact Carol: 072 703 3006, info@loadsafun.co.za or visit loadsafun.co.za Macaroon Offers online stationery, which can be designed with your photographs to create invitations and thank-you cards. Also gift tags and stickers available. From R200. Contact: 074 581 1731, taryn@macaroon.co.za or visit macaroon.co.za magazine durban

photographs: shutterstock.com, ILLUStrationS: shutterstock.com, nikki-leigh piper

Having a party? Here’s who to call. Compiled by Tamlyn Vincent

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Magical Piñatas Made to order in your choice of shape, size and colour. Price varies. Contact Lee-Ann: 082 627 6217 or leeann@magicalpinatas.co.za, Jo-Ann: 073 096 8104, joann@magicalpinatas.co.za or visit magicalpinatas.co.za MD Studios Photography studio that travels to your venue. Durban north and Umhlanga. Contact Michelle: 082 576 0010, michelle@mdstudios.co.za or visit mdstudios.co.za Money Box Party Packs Novel, affordable party packs, which double as gifts for party guests to take home. Four ranges available, including a DIY option that provides an art and crafts activity. From R8. Agents countrywide. Contact Tracy: 082 422 7872 or visit jorsam.co.za My Pink Panda Kids’ Parties Specialises in party-in-a-box themed décor and accessories, children’s tables and chairs, catering and entertainment. Durban and surrounds. Contact Nicole: 082 490 9501 or Chantal: 083 781 6044 or visit mypinkpanda.co.za Nox Designs Specialises in decorative personalised labels for party packs. Posted countrywide. From R40. Contact Nicky: 082 496 2930, nstark@mweb.co.za or visit noxdesigns.wordpress.com Parties4Africa Online shopping site for a wide range of party products, including plates, cups, serviettes, hats and more.

Countrywide. Contact Cheryl: 083 635 5353, Penny: 084 406 6313, 035 772 6592, info@parties4africa.co.za or visit parties4africa.co.za Parties 4 U Stockists of helium balloons, party décor and themed party accessories as well as jumping castle hire. Pick n Pay Centre, Bluff. Contact: 031 467 5803 Party Packs ‘n Piñatas Party packs, piñatas, cakes, biscuits, décor, piñata busters and jelly cameras for sale. Contact Kim: 087 805 9977, 082 683 5766, info@ partypacksandpinatas.co.za or visit partypacksandpinatas.co.za Party Shop SA Supplies party accessories including helium-filled balloons, themed packages, wigs and more countrywide.

Contact: 011 793 4238, sales@partyshopsa. co.za or visit partyshopsa.co.za

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Party Themes Classic For party accessories including plates, cups, serviettes, baking supplies, costumes, décor and gift wrap.

Springfield Park. Contact: 031 577 0202/6 or cassim@partythemeclassic.co.za Party Time Specialises in children’s themed parties and hires out children’s tables and chairs, gazebos, jumping castles and waters slides. Contact Rosh: 031 702 5527 or 083 777 8879 Party Whizz Supplies novelty cakes and party accessories such as lucky packets and balloons. Contact Samantha: 082 323 6088, partywhizz@gmail.com or visit partywhizz.yolasite.com Party Zone Hire Stocks more than 50 jumping castles, a train on tracks, mechanical bull, swings, ball ponds, waterslides, go-carts and merry-gorounds. Durban, Ballito and Hillcrest.

Contact Hassim: 083 685 5577 or visit partyzonehire.co.za Pedal Go-Karts Rent a go-kart for your child’s party. For children 4 and older.

Contact Martie: 082 889 2221, Celia: 084 955 3254 or info@pedalgokarts.co.za Piñata Africa Offers custom-made piñatas in any shape or size to suit your theme.

Posted throughout South Africa. From R250, including sweets. Contact Marianne: 082 457 2276, mgwyther@mweb.co.za or visit pinatas.co.za Pixies Jumping Castles and Party Hire Quality castles for hire to suit everyone’s budget. From R300, excluding delivery.

Party equipment also for hire. Contact: 083 251 9754, info@pixiescastles.co.za or visit pixiescastles.co.za Puzzle Worx Transform your favourite photo into a jigsaw puzzle. Make out-ofthe-ordinary invitations or a special gift for your child or grandparent. From R18,50.

Contact Jody: 083 275 6567, info@ puzzleworx.co.za or visit puzzleworx.co.za Rainbows and Rascals Specialises in party planning and hire, with hand-made themed invitations, party packs and more. Contact Lauren: 082 600 1911 or laurenmurray@mweb.co.za Russell Grant Photography Captures the special moments of your child’s party.

Contact Russell for a quote: 083 749 3040

Slush King Hires out party equipment including chocolate fountains, and candyfloss, soft serve ice cream, slush puppy and popcorn machines. Hire includes delivery, set up and collection.

Contact: 033 091 0941, 078 154 9000 or roadhousepmb@gmail.com Stick With Us! Personalised invites, partybox stickers, thank-you cards, gift stickers, personalised balloons, banners and posters. Photograph printing also available.

Contact Mandy: 082 377 0513 or mandy@ stickwithus.co.za The Ink Spot Sells helium and foil balloons, party bags, stickers, face paints, gifts, colouring sets, glow-in-the-dark stickers and birthday cards. Durban North.

Contact: 031 563 7199 or theinkspot@ telkomsa.net The Party Helpers Makes up party kits for you. Choose a theme for the party and they deliver the required number of kits to your door. Décor and accessories also available. Party kits range from R15−R50.

Contact Sam: 082 448 4427, Lisa: 073 237 7117 or visit thepartyhelpers.co.za The Plated Lizard Creates birthday baskets as gifts or upmarket party packs.

Delivery to your door. From R100. Contact Tandi: 031 765 5677, 082 874 1190 or platedlizard@mweb.co.za The Titanic Jumping Castle Shaped like a boat and ideal for pirate parties, the castle includes a climbing rope, slide and large jumping area. Contact Candice: 031 573 2210 or 082 839 2218 The Toy Factory Shop Offers a range of crafts for party packs. Contact Pinetown: 031 701 1836, Springfield: 031 263 0992 or visit thetoyfactoryshop.co.za Tinkerpan Party Packs Flat party packs in a theme of your choice, or personalise it with a picture of your child. Each pack has enough items for one child, including a party visor, cup wrapper, balloon and more. R50 a pack. Contact: 032 525 4924, 084 376 3890, rodlite@mweb.co.za or visit tinkerpanpartypacks.yolasite.com Tinkle-pea cc Specialises in gifts and party favours. Countrywide delivery.

Contact Jenny: 082 804 5678, jenny@ tinklepea.co.za or visit tinklepea.co.za

Tony Miller Promotions Provides all types of children’s entertainment including jumping castles, popcorn and candyfloss machines, swings and quad bikes.

Jumping castle themes include a giant caterpillar, jumbo bouncer, boxing ring and a toddler bouncer. They also sell balloons, party packs, button badges and medals.

Glenwood. Contact Tony or Lalitha: 031 205 2074 or visit tonymiller.co.za Visualize This DVD and photography for parties. From R500, includes film and photographs (100+) and a DVD slideshow with music of your choice. R200 for digital negatives on a CD. Contact Eugene: 082 611 0652 or visualizethis@telkomsa.net

ANIMAL PARTIES Crafty Duck Village Offers a farmyard, a snake and reptile park, a wildlife sanctuary, a fun train, horse rides, a craft shop and restaurant. There is a variety of party options available, including use of the barn, a visit to the wildlife sanctuary or reptile room and horse rides. Cost: self-catered R40 per child and R40 per adult (platters available at an extra cost for parents); catered R70 per child and R80 per adult. Contact: 033 390 1334/6 or visit craftyduck.co.za Crocodile Creek A working crocodile farm with snakes, lizards and more. Party area with playground. Paintball for older children and special surprises along the bush trail for party groups. Food and party packs to suit your requirements. Hire of Bush Party area R325. Contact: 082 920 0730 or crocodilecreek@mweb.co.za Phezulu Safari Park Offers a guided tour through the crocodile and snake park, with Zulu dancing and game drives. The play area has a jungle gym, swings and slides. Various packages available from R85. Valley of a Thousand Hills. Contact: 031 777 1000, info@phezulusafaripark. co.za or visit phezulusafaripark.co.za Trinity Riding Academy Hires out ponies for parties. R250 for a pony for two hours, includes transport. Contact Karyn: 079 508 8459, kaz@trinityridingacademy.co.za or visit trinityridingacademy.co.za

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ART AND CRAFTS PARTIES Buddy Bear Choose and then stuff your animal or bear. Add a heart, make a wish, give your stuffed toy a voice, then weigh and measure it to check if it is fit and healthy.

Dress it in the latest trends, and take it home. Contact Leanne: 031 764 2318, 031 764 2383, leanne@buddybear.co.za or visit buddybear.co.za Crafting Kids Specialises in fusion bead parties. Children can make an assortment of crafts from fridge magnets to bag hangers. Collect the kits for DIY parties or use their venue in Durban North. From R500. Contact: 082 579 0077 or visit craftingkids.bizspot.co.za iCraft Education Creates DIY craft kits for children. These kits make great party bags and gifts. Contact: 079 361 0737, info@icrafteducation.co.za or visit icrafteducation.co.za Just Imagine Mosaics Offers mosaic parties at your home. For ages 5 and older.

Minimum 10 children, R100 each. Contact Sheila: 083 782 7810, Zelda: 082 900 3565 or sheila.nichol@gmail.com Kidz Only Stocks a range of crafts, for parties or party packs. Order online.

Countrywide delivery. For more info: visit kidzonly.co.za Tactile Craft Studio Children can create their own mosaics, scrapbook pages, pottery and more. Costs range from R50− R100. Contact Maaike: 031 767 3131, 082 983 8182 or joyspring@global.co.za The Pottery Gallery Paint a tile, mug or bowl. There are also friendly animals, a giant teapot, ropes, swings and jungle gyms. Painting from R75, party venue from R200. Zimbali. Contact: 032 946 3232 Toby Tower Stocks a range of educational stickers and DIY activities. Also invitations, place mats and thank-you cards. Contact: 0800 220 488, tobytower@pyrotec.co.za or visit tobytower.co.za Yours Forever Craft Studio Art and crafts, mosaics, decoupage, candle making, ceramic painting and scrapbooking parties.

Maximum 10 children. Hillcrest. Contact Katherine: 031 765 6769 or 083 776 3235

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CAKES AND CATERING Angelique’s Sweet and Savoury Boutique Catering for big and small occasions, custom made to suit your theme. Offers savoury platters, novelty cakes and speciality sweets and treats. Contact Angelique: 071 886 7896, angeliquessweetboutique@gmail.com or visit angeliquessweetboutique.yolasite.com Baby Cakes Offers a wide range of cakes, from novelty birthday cakes to cupcakes. Cakes from R40–R200, shaped and 3D cakes from R150–R800.

Westville. Contact Tanja: 072 647 7276, tanja@babycakesonline.co.za or visit babycakesonline.co.za Birthday in a Box Provides themed birthday solutions, including cakes and party ware. From R500. Contact: 082 374 6399, zolita@zolita.co.za or visit zolita.co.za Buttercup Bakery Specialises in novelty cakes and cupcakes. Prices range from R8−R24 for cupcakes and R200−R2 000 for novelty cakes. Contact Sandra: 082 300 6073, sandra.viljoen@yahoo.com or visit buttercupbakery.co.za Cakedesignz Makes novelty, 3D and icecream birthday cakes, as well as cupcakes and mini cakes. Hillcrest. Contact Lee-Ann: 082 456 8487, cakedesignz@icon.co.za or visit cakedesignz.co.za Cakes by Farzana Rangila Cakes made to order. Contact: 083 384 1008 or farzanar@mtn.blackberry.com Cakes For All Occasions Specialises in novelty cakes. Contact Aliya: 072 259 2519 or aliya.m@era.co.za Carol’s Home Industries Offers novelty and picture cakes. Other catering includes quiches, platters and themed biscuits.

Birthday cakes from R120. Glenwood.

Contact: 031 202 3039, garb@telkomsa. net or visit carolscakes.co.za Centre Piece Events, Hire and Catering Hire and catering services, specialising in Victorian afternoon teas – complete with vintage china, decadent food, styling and décor. Contact Stuart: 031 312 3042, 084 819 5694, info@centrepiecehire.co.za or visit centrepiecehire.co.za

CherryBakes Creates condensed milk biscuits in all shapes and sizes. Upper Highway area. Contact Melissa: 083 602 7487, melissa@cherrybakes.co.za or visit cherrybakes.co.za Classic Cakes Makes novelty cakes for all occasions. Contact Jacqui: 079 262 6224, jacqui@classic-cakes.co.za or visit classiccakes.co.za Decadent Desserts Design and tailormake birthday cakes to suit your needs − 3D, picture and novelty cakes. Cakes start from R100. Contact Vaneshree: 031 708 4228 or decadentdesserts@telkomsa.net Delite Foods Specialises in tasty, sugarfree, low-fat foods, including jellies, biscuits and chocolate drinks that are also perfect for diabetics and those who are hyperactive. Order online. Purchases are shipped directly to you, countrywide.

Contact Fran: 021 702 0721/2, info@ delitefoods.co.za or visit delitefoods.co.za Eezee Peezee Freshly made party snacks and cakes to suit your requirements.

Choose from over 100 items or get a personalised themed menu. Nine items for 12 children R750; personalised cake from R250. Contact Ria: 076 711 7971 or eezeepeezee@hotmail.co.za Home Treats Provides a wide selection of cakes for birthday parties and tea parties; includes oven pans and novelty, picture and photo cakes plus a variety of sweet and savoury platters. A florist is also available. Contact Gail: 031 312 6908 House of Treats Bakes various cakes including image cakes from R250. Glen Anil. Contact: 031 569 5879 or sales@ houseoftreats.co.za In 2 Food For all your cakes and cupcakes, particularly 3D novelty cakes.

Cupcakes from R6; cakes from R275.

Contact Claire: 031 708 2603, 083 287 5571 or in2fabfood@mweb.co.za Indulgent Delights Cupcakes, brownies, cheesecakes and more baked goods to order. Twelve mini cupcakes R35 or R120 for a triple-chocolate cheesecake. Contact Hannah: 082 682 9695 or hannahedy@ afrihost.co.za Inkredible Produkts Suppliers of edible paper and in-house edible printing of

characters like Hello Kitty and Spider-Man. Prices range from R42,75 per A4 sheet for minimum orders of 15 sheets. Contact Sarel: 083 657 9225, sarel@inkredible. co.za or visit inkredible.co.za Janice Annetts Catering and Food Styling Party platters that feed 8−10 people. From R350−R700, with free delivery for two or more platters in the Durban area. Contact Janice: 082 560 7836, info@janiceannetts.co.za or visit janiceannetts.co.za Kauai Healthy food for children’s parties.

Wraps, muffins, fruit skewers, sandwiches, canapés, fruit smoothies, fresh fruit juices and more. Contact Nuraan: 021 552 0222, catering@kauai.co.za or visit kauai.co.za Party Packs and Snacks Party boxes, platters for children from age 1, various sweet items, tarts and cakes made to order. Delivery can be arranged. Platters from R140−R250.

Contact Michelle: 083 709 1843 or mmathysen@polka.co.za Paula’s Kitchen Specialises in cakes for special occasions, cupcakes and unique 3D cakes. Made to order. From R325. South Coast, Ballito and Hillcrest triangle. Contact Paula: 078 567 2963, Gavin: 084 222 5560, 031 708 2040, paula@paulaskitchen.co.za or visit paulaskitchen.co.za Pizza Boyz Makes huge pizzas that feed up to 20 children and are perfect for parties. Contact Umhlanga: 031 566 5428, Durban North: 031 564 2732 or Bluff: 031 467 7310 Princess Cupcakes For birthdays, from R5 each. Party packs on request.

Free delivery in the Ballito area. Contact: 079 027 4305 Specialised Cakes & Catering They supply cakes, cupcakes and hot and cold platters. Picture cakes from R180, butter-icing cupcakes from R3,50. Contact Maureen: 082 782 9751, Lee-Ann: 082 923 8888 or specialisedcakes@hotmail.co.za Supacakes For baked party goods, from cakes and cookies to cupcakes and novelty or edible image cakes. Contact Kerry: 072 150 2962, kerry@supacakes. co.za or visit supacakes.co.za

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The Country House Offers cakes and catering; specialises in sweets. Party cakes from R120 upwards depending on size.

Contact Amanda: 072 673 3909 The Fudge Lady Sells homemade sweets, candyfloss, toffee apples, fudge and party packs. Delivery can be arranged.

Contact: 084 563 2226, 083 668 3491 or thefudgelady@worldonline.co.za The Little Cake Company Offers novelty cakes and cupcakes, plus hire of cake stands. Cakes start from R350. Contact Leanne: 031 562 1436, 083 940 5614, leanne@thelittlecakecompany.co.za or visit thelittlecakecompany.co.za The Party Hat! From personalised invitations to themed party packs, cakes, cupcakes and piñatas. Cakes from R60. Contact Lorraine: 084 832 0293 or luluroets@hotmail.com Zoe Cakes for fun Freshly baked designer cakes and cupcakes. Contact Ballito: 082 469 6716, Durban: 082 975 5623 or visit zoecakesforfun.co.za Zolita’s Novelty cakes and cupcakes, and assistance with your catering requirements.

Cakes start from R120. Contact Zolita: 082 374 6399 or visit zolita.co.za

COOKING PARTIES Sugar Me Kids’ parties Children can decorate cupcakes and cookies.

Cakes and decorating ingredients supplied to match your theme. Go to their venue or they come to you. Durban area.

Contact Renee or Maria: 076 302 3396 or sugarme@rdesigns.co.za Tots n Pots Offers tailor-made baking parties. Choose from a menu of themes and recipes. Various packages available, including party packs, hats, aprons, ingredients, crafts and all equipment for baking. Contact Cindy (Amanzimtoti): 083 627 9292, Jenna (Ballito): 082 873 2924, Hawa (Berea): 083 280 2054, Barbara (Kloof): 083 306 1172, Karen (Umhlanga): 073 631 2299 or visit totsnpots.co.za

EDUCATIONAL PARTIES Greensleeves Take a medieval tour and learn about knights, tournaments, weapons and living in the Middle Ages. Then experience an authentic medieval meal. Minimum 30 children. Mini-feast and tour R70, costume hire R40. Camelot, Hillcrest. Contact: 031 765 9400, camelot@greensleeves.co.za or visit greensleeves.com Old Mutual MTN Sciencentre Over 200 exhibits, science activities and more.

Children get to spend two hours in the party room and have all-day access to the centre. Party packs, meals, and entertainment can be arranged and there are various party options. Gateway.

Contact: 031 566 8040, bookings@ sciencentre.co.za or visit sciencentre.co.za ScubaParties.com An underwater party at your home or a venue of your choice.

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footage, handmade invites and more. From R2 500−R3 000 for 10 children. Contact Toni: 074 413 9994, info@scubaparties. com or scubaparties.com The Menagerie Children are given an educational talk about animals and how to care for them, and they can touch and hold them. The animals include birds of prey, mammals and reptiles. Contact Fiona: 031 464 1828, 072 215 6368 or themenagerie@telkomsa.net Treasure Beach Environmental Centre Explore the rocky shore with a guide, learning about the creatures that live in rock pools. Boma area with braai facilities available. Adults R40, children R25. Contact Verlin: 031 467 8507 or tbeachadmin@wessakzn.org.za

ENTERTAINERS Adrian the Magician For children 3−9 years. The birthday child is also the star of the show. From R875−R975. Contact: 083 450 4024, magic@themagician.co.za or visit themagician.co.za AfrodizzyActs Entertainment agency that provides performers such as human statues, giant clowns, face painters, magicians, beat boxers and jugglers. You can also hire a photo booth. R500–R5 000.

Contact: 082 087 5748, afrodizzy@hotmail. com or visit afrodizzyacts.co.za Arthur Reed Delights children 3 years and older with his 45-minute display of magic.

Cost varies according to area. Contact Arthur: 031 702 0076, arthur@arthurreed. co.za or visit arthurreed.co.za Blue Flame Events and Branding Specialists Children’s entertainment including magicians, clowns, jumping castles, face painters and stilt walkers.

Countrywide. Contact Willie: 021 856 2774, 072 599 2288, info@bflame.co.za or visit bflame.co.za Cherry the Magical Clown Juggling, puppets, balloon sculpting and face painting. Lots of audience participation plus magician and fairy show. From R450–R650.

Contact Adi: 031 201 2515, 083 725 0925, adi@cherryco.co.za or visit cherryco.co.za Clowns4joy! Face painting, balloon modelling and party games. Jumping castles, chocolate fountain and bubble and popcorn machines available as well as scrapbooking, beading, art and little girls’ parties. Children’s tables, chairs and décor available too. Contact: 031 764 7764 Clowns for Africa Offers a variety of party packages, including activities like balloon modelling, face painting and a magic show.

One hour R500; a second hour R450. Extra travel allowance for venues outside the Upper Highway area. Contact Bob: 079 079 2059 or clowns4africa@gmail.com Clowns R Us Offers face painting, balloon sculpting, games and activities. From R380. A portion of the cost goes towards charity. Contact Esther: 031 765 1153, 082 491 2583 or clowns@post.co.za Costume Magic Hire your child’s favourite animated character to come to your party.

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Dilly the Clown Audience participation, magic, balloon animals, face painting, juggling, and parachute games. R550 for 1 hour, plus petrol if required. Contact Heather: 031 208 2986, 082 574 3230 or dillytheclown@iburst.co.za.

Double Delicious Entertainment Face painters, balloon modelling, clowns, karaoke, jumping castles and more. From R550 an hour. Contact Gaylene: 031 762 2232, 082 387 5230, gaylene@doubledelicious.co.za or visit doubledelicious.co.za Durban Face Painting Specialises in children’s parties. R300 an hour. Contact Delene: 084 455 1101 or visit durban-facepainting.co.za Fantasy land Sasha-Lee dresses up as your child’s favourite character and entertains at the party. Variety of packages available, some including activities and crafts. Contact: 031 765 7462, 071 362 7603 or cattery@telkomsa.net FunSA Offers balloons, face painting, games and dancing. They dress to your theme. One hour R350, 1½ hours R450, two hours R550. Contact Belinda: 083 627 7033 or visit funsa.yolasite.com Gum Gum the Clown Puppets, stories, mystifying illusions, games and balloon shaping. Various packages to choose from. Price on request.

Contact Adrian: 083 388 8940 or visit gumgumtheclown.co.za Jewels the Clown Provides an entertaining show, hairspray for funky hairdos and face painting for children.

From R800–R1 500. Contact: 031 461 1006, 082 356 4144 or jofjerusalem@ iafrica.com Kiddies’ Karate Birthday Parties Children can have fun learning basic karate, and even break thin wooden boards. For boys and girls 5−13 years. Contact Sensei Derek: 031 505 4444 or 082 777 1755 Little Kickers They supply the sporting equipment, professional coaches and games for a soccer party. You supply your own snacks and food. Each child receives a medal afterwards. Contact: 0861 088 888, admin@littlekickers.co.za or visit littlekickers.co.za Mr Bubbles the Clown A clown show, with face painting, balloon animals, games, a magic show and more. Contact Anita: 031 563 7958 or 084 819 9285 On the Ball Productions Brings the circus to the party. Also a superhero, pirate, fairy princess or Prince Charming. An interactive magical circus variety show including face painting, balloon twisting and games.

Contact: 074 113 2278, ontheball@otbp. co.za or visit otbp.co.za Penguin Parties Entertainment such as dancing, games and pamper parties.

Themes include Hannah Montana, Hello Kitty and rock star themes, but can be customised to your needs. From R950 for 30 children. Photographer optional. Contact: 082 320 7526 or tamerinb@gmail.com Puppet World Interactive puppet show with music, lighting and characters. Contact Heather: 031 208 8202 or 082 808 0057 magazine durban

Rico the Clown Offers a magic show, juggling, face painting, balloon shaping, games and more. One hour R650, plus extra for petrol for functions outside Durban. Contact Rico: 031 464 4718, 082 459 1797 or shirleymoon@telkomsa.net Simon’s Snake Shows A 45-minute or hour-long snake and reptile show at a venue of your choice. Educational and entertaining. From R650. Contact Simon or Nadine: 078 382 7819 or 078 391 6721 Tekweni Puppet Plays Offers indoor and outdoor hand-puppet shows, with a variety of educational, entertaining and musical themes. For ages 3–12. From R500− R900, depending on distance travelled.

Contact Pamela: 031 261 2370, 082 403 1707, pamela.tancsik@gmail.com or tekwenipuppetplays.com The Hairy Fairy Hairstyling parties with various themes. The birthday girl receives a free gift bag with hair accessories.

From R50 per child, minimum 10 children. Contact Adri: 073 634 3572 or adrithehairyfairy@yahoo.com The Incredible Dog Show Provides entertainment for children’s parties. They operate countrywide. Contact Lloyd: 084 500 0415, lloyd@dogzcool.com or visit dogzcool.com Vuzu Entertainment Supplies face painters, clowns, jugglers, stilt-walkers, dance teachers, magicians and more.

Contact Diane: 031 564 2879, 082 423 3123 or visit vuzuentertainment.co.za

FANCY DRESS HIRE Carnival and Backstage Fancy dress costumes for sale and made to order.

Fairy dresses, pirate and cowboy outfits and more. Berea. Contact: 031 202 3852 Fantasia Costume and Prop Hire Dressup costumes, props, linen and draping for all themes and ages for hire. Sells wigs, masks, moustaches, party favours and accessories. Costume hire from R55.

Contact: 031 762 1871, ferreiramig@ telkomsa.net or visit fantasiahire.co.za STYLEbudd Costumes and Prop Hire Offers a wide range of fancy dress and costumes for hire, including accessories and décor. Viewing by appointment.

Musgrave. Contact Patrick: 031 207 6547, 084 337 0089, stylebudd@mweb.co.za or visit stylebudd.myeweb.net Troubadour Productions They have over 7 000 costumes and 70 cartoon character costumes to hire. From R50. Berea.

Contact: 031 209 2817/8, troubad@iafrica. com or visit troubadour.co.za

INDOOR PARTIES Action Cricket Soccer, cricket and netball parties.

R950 for two hours. Glen Anil. Contact Nitsa: 031 569 2173, nitsa@ durbannorthactioncricket.co.za Adventure Golf Parties Two games of mini-golf with invitations, a party area, drink, chips and sweets. R450 for 10 children; R40 per extra child. Pavilion. Contact: 031 265 1570 or visit adventuregolf.co.za May 2011

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Beauty in Motion Mobile pamper parties, including portable beds, spa baths, candles and music. Get manicures, pedicures, make-up and more. Three treatments for each girl R100 each.

Minimum of 8 girls. Contact Michelle: 083 785 6044 or beautyinmotion@eca.co.za Build-A-Bear Workshop’s Build-A-Party Offers an entertaining and fun experience for any child aged 3 and older. Make your own cuddly animal and personalise it with outfits and accessories. From R95.

Contact: 08611 BEARS (23277) or visit buildabear.co.za Dodgems Formula Racing Dodgems racing from R15 per ride; two children per car. Discounted rates for weekday parties and weekend mornings out of season.

Gateway. Contact Robyn: 082 334 4690 Highway Action Sports Arena Action cricket, netball, soccer and dodgeball parties. R950 for 16 children includes twohour venue hire, an umpire and equipment.

Optional catering includes sweets, snacks, cake, juice, a choice of hotdogs, chicken nuggets or sausage rolls and tea/coffee for the adults. R1 300 for up to 16 children.

Additional children R50 each. Contact: 031 705 6046, liora@highwayactionsports.co.za or visit highwayactionsports.co.za It’s Thairs This children’s hair salon offers pamper parties for girls 5 years and older.

Davallen Centre. Contact: 031 562 8462, 031 562 9534 or itsthairs@gmail.com Le Rendez-Vous Restaurant Situated at Crocworld in Scottburgh, they host your party from R30 a child. Contact: 039 976 0083, 076 904 1477 or lrdv@skytec.co.za Lime Juice Hair & Beauty Offers pamper parties at their venue or yours. Choose a minimum of two treatments, from a minipedicure or manicure, chocolate facial, make-up or hair curls. Prices depend on treatments and number of girls booked.

Contact: 032 946 0798, 083 419 2661 or honneysett@worldonline.co.za Little Divas Offers makeover parties for girls from 5 years to teenagers. They come to your venue. Girls are treated to facials, relaxing massages, manicures and pedicures. Optional personalised dressing gowns available as gifts. Catering options

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available. From R150–R250, minimum nine guests. Contact Roberta: 083 374 7924 or roberta.moran@uec.co.za Mr Funtubbles Fabulous Family Funfair This indoor funfair features seven imported rides. Children’s birthday parties include use of the party room and a card loaded with ride credits for each child. Midweek package R50 per child (R110 ride credits), weekend package R75 per child (R200 ride credits). Contact: 031 584 6645, party@mrfuntubbles.co.za or visit mrfuntubbles.co.za Petits Fours Hosts high teas for birthday parties, makes novelty cakes and offers catering. High-tea parties R95−R135.

Durban North. Contact: 031 563 3278 or petitsfours-durban@hotmail.com Spa Royale Little Lady Pamper Parties In-house pampering begins at R130 (cost includes venue hire) or they can visit you. Contact: 031 566 1286, 083 408 8046, info@sparoyale.co.za or visit sparoyale.co.za Superbowling Tenpin bowling parties.

Gateway and Pavilion from R38 a child, depending on selected package. Galleria from R350 depending on party package, with bumper cars, mini glow golf, and more. Contact Galleria: 031 904 5770, Gateway: 031 566 5668/9, Pavilion: 031 265 1626 or visit superbowling.co.za The Chicken Shack Café Choose between a pizza party or fairy party for R55 per child, which includes food and drink or a self-catering party for R400 plus R10 per child. Optional catering for adults. 41 Old Mission Rd, Grosvenor. Contact: 031 467 9461, fulloutputcc@telkomsa.net or visit chickenshackcafe.co.za Treehouse Parties and Events Specialising in themed children’s parties.

For R90 per child, you get décor, invitations, snacks, entertainment, venue hire and more. Gateway. Contact: 082 926 1035 or treehouse.g@gmail.com Westwood Paintball An indoor day or night paintball arena in Westwood Shopping Mall. Birthday parties R150 per person, includes equipment and 150 paintballs. Contact: 083 644 3050 or visit westwoodpaintball.co.za

INDOOR AND OUTDOOR PARTIES Animal Farmyard Offers various packages, which include use of one of two party areas with a table, tablecloths and chairs, a jungle gym, swings and slides as well as a milking demonstration, a packet of animal feed and one pony or tractor ride per child.

Catering for children and adults available.

Botha’s Hill (1km after Kearsney College).

Packages from R15 per child and R10 per adult. Contact Jenny: 031 765 2240, 082 979 6030 or visit animalfarmyard.co.za Bearworx Stuff-your-own bear parties for R200−R300 per person. Contact Dalmain: 082 455 6779, dalmain@bearworx.co.za or visit bearworx.co.za Bon Vie Café Children’s menus, platters for adults and a supervised play area with a jungle gym, toys and dress up. Pamper parties and sand art also available. Venue hire R600; additional costs depend on food requirements. Contact: 076 735 4394, 082 378 0279 or bonvie@sia.co.za Bubble Ball Children can play on water, without getting wet. The balls and pools are made of durable materials and on-site supervision is provided. Contact Lauren: 073 222 3718, info@bubbleballkzn.co.za or visit bubbleballkzn.co.za Butterflies for Africa See butterflies from all over the world and many other creatures. You can hire the party room from R150 an hour, or the butterfly garden.

Catering available, including butterflyshaped cakes, platters and party packs.

Willowton, Pietermaritzburg. Contact Jeni or Segree: 033 387 1356, jeni@butterflies. co.za or visit butterflies.co.za Col’Cacchio Pizzeria A restaurant, with pizza and pasta and you can book a party table. Children’s meals start at R28.

Gateway. Contact: 031 584 6822 or visit colcacchio.co.za Epic Karting All-weather go-kart racing for children 10 years and older. Record your lap time, have a grand prix race or hire out the track. Laps from R40; track hire from R1 800. Galleria, Amanzimtoti. Contact: 0861 111 889, bookings@epickarting.co.za or visit epickarting.co.za

Golden Hours Party Venue A covered party hut with two tables and 30 chairs.

There’s also a large adventure playground with jungle gyms and swings. R350 for 30 adults and 30 children for three hours.

Pony hire, tractor and choo-choo train hire, as an extra option. Durban North. Contact Lyn: 083 262 3693 Gotta Play Provides exclusive entertainment options. Lasercross is a fun, safe laser game for children 7 years and older. The phasers use a harmless invisible beam. A mobile set-up and inflatable obstacles allow for a variety of games to be played. The Funhouse has interactive carnival games of chance and skill for children 4 years and older. Lasercross R1 260; Funhouse R960 for 14 players; R45 per player thereafter, including set-up and facilitation of games. Contact: 083 306 6385, funhouse@live.co.za or visit lasercross.co.za Italian Club Indoor and outdoor venue available, with themed décor, a jumping castle and play equipment. Games, crafts and more can be organised. Catering available. Price depends on selected package. Contact Debbie: 082 579 0077, partykids@getcrafting.co.za or visit partykids.getcrafting.co.za Jack and Jill Children’s Parties Provides everything you need at their venue to make your party a success including tables, chairs, party packs, snacks, balloons and more. R100 per child.

DIY party packs also available. Contact Melody: 032 525 4924, 084 376 3890 or rodlite@mweb.co.za Kids’ Party Bus A London-style doubledecker bus with a soft interior play facility with slides, ball pools, mazes, a climbing frame and toys. Ideal for 3−8 year olds.

R1 600 for a three-hour party within 30km of The Pavilion Shopping Centre. Contact Alex: 082 689 7642, alex@kidspartybus. co.za or visit kidspartybus.co.za Little Occasions Offers a shady grassed playground with slides, jungle gyms and a Wendy house. Bring your own party food or use their catering service. Friday and Saturday, 2pm–4pm. Durban North.

Contact: 082 377 9739 or poogie@wol.co.za

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Marula’s Indoor or outdoor party venue with a play area. Various party packages available, starting from R600. Contact: 031 266 7600, 083 661 4403 or visit marulas.co.za Mini Town Children can run after the electric train, marvel at the ships passing under the railway bridge and visit the miniature city. Various party areas with tables and chairs. Braai stand, refrigerators and power supply available. Venue R200, adults R12, children R10, jumping castle R200. Contact Brian: 031 337 7892 or minitown@live.co.za Mountain View Entertainment Centre With quad bikes, putt-putt, archery, paintball and more for an action party.

Various party packages available.

Entrance fee for adults R15, children R25. Contact: 033 390 1513 or visit mountainviewentertainment.co.za Playball Venue hire, with entertainment and catering at an additional cost. R1 100 for four hours. Contact Kim: 031 765 8780, 083 630 5110 or playball@mweb.co.za Playworks Teambuilding and Party Games Offers themed party games for children and teens including Survivor, The Amazing Race, mafia murder mystery, treasure hunt, pirates and more at a venue of your choice. Contact Linda: 031 466 4488, 082 856 1018, info@playworks.co.za or visit playworks.co.za Polly Parrot Party Venue This party spot at the 1000 Hills Bird Park offers a venue, entertainment and catering for children and parents (optional). R95 includes entry to the bird park, a party pack with juice, sweets, chips, hot dog, cupcakes, a decorated venue and two rides on the zipline for each child. Contact Christine: 072 927 8242, raredleg@iafrica.com or visit 1000hillsbirdpark.co.za Rainbow Inflatables KZN Offers giant slides, a mechanical bull, zorb balls, jumping castles and more. Contact Nick: 083 262 5131, Gail: 082 877 8662, rainbowinflatables@telkomsa.net or visit rainbowinflatables.co.za Sand Art Parties A fun activity suitable for children aged 5 and older. R500 includes a table, bottles of coloured sand and 20

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cards, delivered and collected; additional cards R10 each. For parties fewer than 10 children, home kits are available. Contact: 083 383 7102, ingridlloyd@mweb.co.za or visit sandart.co.za Spur Steak Ranches A safe venue for children’s parties. Each child gets a selected children’s meal, soda, ice cream and party cup, filled with sweets at R42,95.

Invitations optional. Balloons, headdresses and play canyons are available. Booking essential. For a restaurant near you, visit spur.co.za Tehilah Café A venue with a park, animals, a jumping castle, trampolines, a coffee shop and more. Malvern. Contact: 083 269 4246 or info@tehilahcafe.co.za The Toybox Child-friendly venue with addon catering and entertainment services.

Durban North. Contact Julie: 082 555 2161 or visit toyboxkidz.co.za Twinkle Spa An in-house or mobile salon that transforms girls into princesses and boys into cool dudes for parties. The princess package includes fairy make-up, a manicure and more for R50. The cool dude package includes hairstyling and tattoos for R30. Contact: 032 525 8059 or dodsbrooks@yahoo.co.uk Wave House Fun party packages to choose from in a safe environment with qualified instructors on hand to assist.

Reserved party areas. Learn to surf on the Flowriders, slide on the four supertubes, climb the highest indoor climbing rock in the world or skate the Tony Hawk skate park. Contact Kim: 031 584 9400, kim.perry@wavehouse.co.za or visit wavehouse.co.za Wow Balls Walk on water, jump, flip, roll, crawl or just float in one of these transparent balls, and you don’t get wet.

Contact: 071 461 4833, info@wowballs. co.za or visit wowballs.co.za

MUSIC PARTIES Drumkidz For a fun, different party, try a djembe drum session for children of all ages. Drum to a story or song, and play drumming games. Party for 15 children R690, includes an activity

sheet for each child plus a gift for the birthday child. Contact Robynne: 083 631 6064, robynne@drumkidz.co.za or visit drumkidz.co.za Kids Just Love To Dance Children’s disco or dancing parties include lights, mirror ball, games, music and a microphone. R900 for 2½ hours, plus travel if not in the Durban North/La Lucia area. Contact Carol: 072 135 8784 or cazzied@vodamail.co.za

OUTDOOR PARTIES Action Paintball Offers two different arenas for children’s birthday parties, plus undercover picnic areas and braai facilities. Paintball from R80. Contact Jason: 074 172 1309, jason@hillcrestpaintball.co.za or visit hillcrestpaintball.co.za Bizzy Lizzy Tea Garden Features a safe grassed area, complete with jungle gym and swings; ideal for birthday parties. Also pony rides, a jumping castle (on request), party packs, balloons, sweets and chips.

Tea, coffee and platters available for adults. Botha’s Hill. Contact Debbie: 031 777 1006 or d.flowers@telkomsa.net Boot Camp SA Offers age-appropriate action-packed parties. Tables and seating provided. Catering services for children and adults are an optional extra.

On-site braai facility may be used free of charge during events. Giba Gorge Valley, Westmead. Contact: 031 701 7282, durban@bootcamp-sa.co.za or visit bootcamp-sa.co.za Busyballers Parties At your home, the beach, a sports field or your local sports club. Entertainment includes various sports, games, obstacle courses, treasure hunts, mini Olympics, pool games and more. Adventure jumping castle for hire.

For ages 3–10. Contact Lisa: 083 236 0059 or lisa@busyballers.co.za Clamber Club Parties Offers fun obstacle course parties for children 1−9 years.

Jungle gym, sandpit and jumping castle available. Chairs and tables provided; you take care of the catering and decorating.

Durban North. Contact Michaela: 074 101 2616 or durban-north@clamberclub.com

Duck and Deck Animal Farm and Tea Garden A venue for children to interact with farm animals and enjoy pony rides.

Designated party areas and catering for adults in the tea garden. Assagay. Contact: 031 768 1029, office@duckanddeck.co.za or visit duckanddeck.co.za Durban Charter Boat Bookings Choose from over 30 boats for your party, for 2−100 passengers. Catering available.

Contact Maureen: 031 709 0797, 073 175 1559, info@boatcharters.co.za or visit durbanboatcharters.co.za Durban Funworld Unlimited amusement park rides in a safe venue. Parties are held from 9am−11am on Saturday, when the park is closed to the public. Contact Kaylee: 031 332 9776, 072 803 4304 or funpark@iafrica.com Durban Society of Model Engineers Miniature steam-train rides, museum, playground and party area with setup included, as well as use of kitchen facilities. R400 for 15 children; R10 per extra child. Durban North. Contact: 082 577 2067 or alfred.farr@transnet.net Giba Gorge Mountain Bike Park Great venue for children’s parties. The party area has tables and 10 chairs. Catering optional. R895 for 20 children and 20 adult entry vouchers. Price includes a ride to the waterfall with two guides, a CD of party photos and a gift pack for the birthday child. Additional activities, including a jumping castle, also available. Weekends: 9am, 11am, 1pm and 3pm. Contact Jason: 031 769 1527, info@gibagorge.co.za or visit gibagorge.co.za Glenridge Party venue The large, shaded garden comes fully equipped with a jungle gym, swings, wooden animals and more.

Fully-equipped kitchen, chairs and tables available. Venue hire R350. Contact Lynne: 031 261 7272 Gorgeous Girl Charters A party on the dam. Learn to waterski and have fun on the ski tube. R2 500 includes four-hour boat hire and skipper. Contact Peter: 083 679 1273 Hakuna Matata Charters Offers harbour and deep-sea cruises. Bring your own décor and party packs. Party for

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children under 12 years R2 000 for two hours. Contact Chantell: 031 307 3782, 083 274 6846, enquiries@hmcharters.co.za or visit hmcharters.co.za Happi Days Toy Shop and Party Venue Offers a party in a garden setting. Options include either venue hire (including jumping castle, bunting and balloons) or venue hire plus catering. Parents can relax at the Sage Café. For children 1–12 years. From R600. Umhlali area. Contact Kurt: 082 412 9905, 082 554 6258, info@happidays.co.za or visit happidays.co.za Holla Café Collisheen Estate Children can enjoy the space in the extensive 100-year-old garden. Various party packages available. Contact Chantelle: 032 947 1465, bnb@collisheen.co.za or visit collisheen.co.za Horizons Gourmet Picnics Offers children’s picnic baskets with bug jars.

Boys can have an archery party, or children can make their own pizzas. There is a large lawn and playground for children.

Situated at the Truth Café, Howick North/ Tweedie. Contact: 082 895 1042 or horizonspicnics@iafrica.com Jameson Park Hire out the gazebo for your birthday party. R500 for the day.

Visit the zoo at Mitchell Park. Adults R6, children R4. Morningside. Contact: 031 303 4371 or 031 322 4096 Lucky Linton Gold Mine & Children’s Farmyard Learn to pan for gold or go down a mine shaft. Children can also look for semi-precious stones in the scratch patch. Pony rides, rafting and foefie slide also available. R15 entry. Balito. Contact: 032 947 1459 or 083 255 1277 Paintball Adventures Paintball parties based on combat simulation and war games, for ages 9 and older. Minimum of 10 players at R70 each. If the group has 14 or more players, the birthday child gets 50 extra paintballs. Durban North and Westville. Contact Tim (Westville): 083 655 0339, Roan (Durban North): 076 444 5570 or visit xgames.co.za Splash Water World Waterslides, pool and river rides, mini golf and braai area. Refreshments and food hampers available. Contact: 031 904 2273, 082 781 5535, Leandra-rr@yebo.co.za or visit splashwaterworld.co.za Sport on Court Africa Children can enjoy a variety of sports for boys and girls, from soccer to netball. Evening parties with night lights available. Durban North and Westville. Contact Janine or Chantal: 031 560 0107, 082 826 9714, janine@ sportoncourt.net or visit sportoncourt.net Sugar Bay Book for a party camp at the holiday resort for children 7−17 years.

Bookings available during school terms for a minimum of 30 children. Prices vary depending on number of children and duration of camp. Contact: 031 485 3778 or bookings@sugarbay.co.za S.W.A.T Lasertag Based on combat simulation and war games, for children 8 years and older. Minimum of 12 players at R80 each. Contact Roan: 076 444 5570 or visit swatlasertag.co.za

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The Chuck Wagon Party Venue Situated at Stonyhurst Riding School, this venue offers pony rides, party packs, a food table, colouring-in sheets, swings and a tour of the stables. R40 per child.

Hammarsdale. Contact Carole: 083 448 7807 or japa@absamail.co.za The Flying Donkey A venue with pony rides, a Wendy house, jungle gym and swings. Hire the venue or take a party package. Mount Edgecombe. Contact: 083 378 8899, char.delaney@telkomsa.net or visit flyingdonkey.co.za The Litchi Orchard A venue with an open lawn for water slides or jumping castles, a wood pizza oven and play area.

Situated on-site, Lemon Canary takes care of your catering needs, including cakes and cupcakes. Contact Jeani: 082 571 3859, jeani@litchiorchard.co.za or visit litchiorchard.co.za or Kerry: 083 293 2396 or lemoncanarydesign@gmail.com Umgeni Steam Railway Catch the steam train from Kloof to Inchanga Station (where tables and chairs can be provided for your party) on the last Sunday of every month. Train rides are R150 per adult and R120 per child. For groups of 10 or more children, the price is R120 for two children, provided the group is in the coach with wooden slatted seating (bookings must be done by phone). For more info: visit umgenisteamrailway.co.za.

For tables and chairs contact Peter: 083 300 9064 uShaka Marine World Spend a day full of sun and fun at uShaka where you are spoilt for choice between hosting your birthday party at Sea World or Wet ’n Wild.

R80 per child. Ask about the optional extras and party packages. Contact: 031 328 8000, bookings@ushakamarineworld. co.za or visit ushakamarineworld.co.za Yellowwood Café See miniature farm animals, ride around the pushbike track or play on the jungle gym. Various party packages available from R15 a child, or hire the venue from R450. Howick. Contact Sandy: 033 330 2461, info@yellowwood. co.za or visit yellowwood.co.za.

PARTY PLANNERS 1Potato2 Offers jumping castles and water slides, as well as party entertainment.

They also provide catering, décor and party packs. Prices start from R220 a day.

Durban and surrounds. Contact: 082 467 5668, bookings@1potato2.co.za or visit 1potato2.co.za Big Little Parties Provides planning for birthday parties with a wide variety of themes to choose from. Additional items, such as a jumping castle, available at an extra cost. Contact Robyn: 032 947 1071, 073 801 5247 or robyndeakin@ telkomsa.net Big Occasions for Little People Themed parties for boys and girls of all ages, including décor, catering, gift bags, birthday cakes, entertainment and photographers. Contact: 031 818 2016, 083 656 2599 or bashford@mweb.co.za magazine durban

Classy Party Planners Plan and set up the party from beginning to end. They offer a jumping castle, tables and chairs, décor, catering, bubble machines, rides and more. Contact Eshia: 031 569 5559, 082 503 5170, classypartyplanners@gmail.com or visit classypartyplanners.co.za Crazy Chameleon Kiddies’ Parties Specialises in themed parties with décor.

For children 1−7 years. They set up at a venue of your choice. Additional services include cakes, party packs, balloons, accessories and jumping castles. From R400. Contact: 0861 KIDDIE (543343), info@crazychameleon.co.za or visit crazychameleon.co.za Creative Image Offers photography and filming as well as events coordination.

They have a variety of accessories and décor. Contact: 083 318 1276, 084 854 6676 or creative.image@webmail.co.za.

DIY Kiddies Partyz Specialises in the hire of tables and chairs, and novelty linen.

Themed party accessories, cakes, jumping castles, party packs and more are available at an additional cost. Basic DIY package from R500. Contact: 084 665 7005 or diykiddiespartyz@rocketmail.com Dolphin Coast Parties They set up for you at a venue of your choice and offer 42 themes to choose from. R26 to R36 per child. North Coast. Contact Elizabeth: 084 460 7224, dolphincoastparties@yahoo.com or visit dolphincoastparties.co.za Dynamic Parties Offers you a complete walk-in walk-out function. Get a clown, décor, gazebo and more. Choose from a range of packages from R400. Contact Shirlee: 031 400 4245, 083 596 3501 or visit dynamicparties.co.za Glossy Events They find you a venue, decorate it, provide stationery, gifts, entertainment and more. Contact Sphindile: 031 201 8390, 082 884 1812, glossyevent@gmail.com or visit glossyevents.yolasite.com Incredible Parties Specialises in party planning. Choose from various packages. Contact Igeshni: 079 184 7447, info@partythemes4kids.com or visit partythemes4kids.com Kids Licensed to Party Provides tables, chairs, the theme of your choice, party packs and more. Free delivery and collection in the Upper Highway area.

From R300 for 10 children. Contact Carla: 031 776 3658, 084 516 0911, or carla@ magicmail.co.za Kitty Catz Kiddies Party Jumping castles, water slides, clowns, face painters, themed décor, party packs and balloon sculpting.

Contact Kitty: 076 531 4005 or kitty@ mcnaughtan.co.za KNS Partyz They organise décor, a jumping castle, tables and chairs, entertainment, accessories, cakes and more. Contact Pamela: 031 400 3951/2, 083 779 3951 or knspartyz@live.co.za Magic Memories From décor to sweet platters, party packs, snack platters and cupcakes, they organise your party.

Contact: 083 464 1367, 083 564 0674 or magicmemories01@gmail.com magazine durban

Monkey Magic Kiddie Parties Delivers and sets up all themed décor, tables, chairs, covers and tablecloths. Optional add-ons include themed plates, cups, serviettes, sweetie packs, cakes, piñatas, jumping castles and photo boards. Contact Kerin: 082 468 3649, kerin@monkeymagic. co.za or visit monkeymagic.co.za Parties from Heaven Offers party packages with party packs, cakes, banners, chairs and tables, and more.

Choose from a variety of themes. Party package from R2 750. Contact Rochelle: 082 894 6902 or partiesfromheaven@ yahoo.com Party Kids They plan your party and provide the décor, entertainment and catering. A party zone with optional themerelated backdrop surrounds the party.

Based at The Italian Club. Contact Debbie: 082 579 0077, partykids@bizspot.co.za or visit partykids.bizspot.co.za Party Planet A range of helium balloons, hot-air balloons, décor, costumes, masks, paints, cards and party accessories. Mirror ball and bubble machines available for hire.

Westville. Contact Carla: 072 124 5509 Perfect Parties for Little People Provides themed parties for boys and girls at a venue of your choice, including décor, party boxes and gift bags. Savoury snacks available. Contact Lisa: 082 647 8608 or mandate@dgc.co.za Polka-Dot Party Planning service, which includes themed décor, gifts, party packs, catering, gazebos and activity-based entertainers. Packages range from R850− R1 700. Contact Sonja: 031 205 4172, 082 920 8102 or polkadot@preferred.co.za Prat’s Parties and Clown Hire Complete party planning for your children’s parties.

Prices range from R400−R3 000. Contact: 082 920 8804, pratsparties@gmail.com or visit pratsparties.co.za Sugar Plum Parties Provides themed parties and organises party packs, cake, décor and entertainment. Contact Nikki: 082 498 4234, Clair: 082 403 9144, clair@sugarplumparties or visit sugarplumparties.co.za Supakids Offers the complete custommade party package for your budget.

Parties are individually priced. Contact Nelia: 082 332 9687, nelia@supakids.co.za or visit supakids.co.za The Party Hippo Organises themed parties with décor, a cake, chocolates, bubbles, posters, goodie boxes, invitations and more. Party for 10 from R500. Contact Angie: 079 556 1388, thepartyhippo@gmail. com or visit thepartyhippo.yolasite.com Wart and Fish Trading They take care of the décor, party packs, games, activities and a party hostess. Parties are held at Greenglade in Westville. Contact Tina: 082 852 3688, wartandfish@telkomsa.net or visit wartandfishtrading.co.za Wow Wow Parties They coordinate your party, from the invitations and theme to the photographer, cake, décor, accessories, party packs and more. From R400. Contact: 084 580 0122 or visit wowwowparties.co.za May 2011

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a good read

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for toddlers great gift

Zoe and Beans – Where is Binky Boo?

By Chloë and Mick Inkpen

Kipper

By Mick Inkpen

(Hodder Children’s Books, R109) Kipper has touched a chord with children and parents alike and in this edition Kipper gets tired of his old and worn basket and sets off to find another place to sleep. Needless to say, he eventually returns to his old basket, where his pet rat and favourite bone await him. It is the best basket in the whole wide world.

Inkpen’s illustrations are as enduring as always and children as young as two will enjoy the story and the drawings. This edition of the book comes with a special 10-episode DVD where your child can watch Kipper on his trail of adventures.

Freddie and the Fairy

By Julia Donaldson and Karen George (Macmillan Children’s Books, R72) Freddie is delighted when he meets a fairy who offers to grant him his every wish. But fairy Bessie-Belle can’t hear very well, and Freddie’s wishes keep coming out wrong.

Wishing for a pet gets him a net, and a dog turns into a frog.

Then Freddie tries for a cat, only to be surprised by a bat.

Freddie really gets annoyed when, instead of a parrot, he gets a carrot! Luckily the Fairy Queen appears to set things right. This lovely, simple story has a great lesson at the end.

The Perfect Hug

By Joanna Walsh and Judi Abbot (Simon & Schuster, R90) There are hugs for wrigglers, and hugs for gigglers; hugs that are tickly and hugs that are prickly. The little Panda in this story is out to find the perfect hug – with hilarious consequences. But will he find it? This book shows there is a perfect hug right under your nose. A feel-good picture book, this is simply bursting with the cuddliest, “snuggliest”, most perfect hugs and is an adorable follow-up to The Biggest Kiss.

You’ll have a special mommy or daddy moment every time you read this story to your child, as it’s sure to lead to a long hug of its own.

(Macmillan Children’s Books, R106) Zoe loves her doll Molly, but so does her dog, Beans. And it’s become a bit of a problem. It all began when Beans lost his favourite toy, Binky Boo. Will Zoe and Beans ever find him? Let’s hope so, because Molly is getting very stinky! Join the lovable, lively Zoe and her devoted dog Beans on their very first adventure. Zoe and Beans: Where is Binky Boo? is the beginning of a new series featuring two adorable characters children are sure to love. Children aged three plus will enjoy the heart-warming comic storytelling combined with vibrant characterised illustrations.

for preschoolers for early graders Giraffe’s Knot

By Michaël Escoffier and Kris Di Giacomo (Macmillan Children’s Books, R66) One morning Giraffe wakes up with a knot in her neck. All the animals give suggestions to solve her problem. One suggests cutting her up to untangle the pieces, the other wants to attach her to a crane and stretch her until the knot is untangled. A third even thinks if she swallows a snake it will help. Poor Giraffe is desperate. Then Elephant tells her about the great elephant sangoma, called TickleTickle.

Needless to say, a lot of laughter saves the day. This is a lovely African-themed book to teach children all about how friends can help untangle “knots” in our lives.

Hidden Images – Garden

By Roger Burrows (Running Press Kids, R75) Children between four and eight will have hours of fun with this book. This is a colouring-in book with a difference, which stimulates visual creativity and guides you to find flowers, plants, animals and other related shapes and objects buried within every page. On each page you’ll find patterns repeated – upside down and back-to-front.

Use coloured pencils, felt-tip pens or crayons to create your very own garden. You may even want to frame some of the designs or use them for greeting cards, decorations or as wrapping paper.

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One Potato

By Sue Porter (Mathew Price Ltd, R63) Children between the ages of four and eight will delight in this story about Goat’s quest to get the last potato on the plate. Unfortunately the other farm animals have the same idea. So, he suggests several competitions, and the winner will get the potato. But being farm animals, they all have different strengths and the tasks dished out by Goat seem a bit unfair. Goose’s neck is too wobbly to stand on its head, and Pig is too round to race to the top of the hayloft. In the end, the clever mice end up with the prize.

Near One Cattail

By Anthony D. Fredericks and Jennifer DiRubbio (Dawn Publications, R130) This stunningly illustrated book teaches children about the importance of wetlands and why they are in danger. Children go on an exploration of a wetland and learn in rhyming text about all the animals that live there. It shows the interconnectedness of the animals that can be found there and it will trigger young readers’ curiosity to find out more. This is the fourth title in the award-winning Web of Life series and children as young as four will enjoy the pictures, while children up to the age of 10 will love to read it and learn more.

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what’s on in may

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Here’s your line-up of all the best things to do in Durban to beat the winter blues. Compiled by TAMLYN VINCENT

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Drumkidz Djembe drum sessions get children drumming to stories and songs.

031 Collection presented by Mr Price See what Durban’s fashion designers can do.

Pregnancy Body Stretch Exercise classes combining callanetics, Pilates and relaxation breathing.

Love for Africa Hire your party entertainment to raise funds for a children’s charity.

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Old Mutual Music at the Lake Mother’s Day Concert Celebrate this special day with a picnic concert.

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SPECIAL EVENTS 1 sunday The Bats Have a listen to Loudly South African, with Eddie Eckstein, Paul Ditchfield, Pete Clifford and Derek Gordon. Ends 8 May. Time: Tuesday–Saturday 7pm, Sunday 12:30pm. Venue: The Heritage Theatre, Hillcrest. Cost: R195, Tuesday and Sunday R165. Contact: 031 765 4197 or visit heritagetheatre.co.za Fun in the Sun family carnival The Highway Hospice brings you water slides, zorb balls, jumping castles, stalls and more.

30 April–2 May. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Mr Price King’s Park Stadium, Masabalala Yengwe Ave, Stamford Hill. Cost: free entry. Contact Shannon: 031 208 6110 or shannon@hospice.co.za

5 thursday Fundraising Golf Day Open Air School for the physically disabled celebrates their 90th birthday. Time: 10:30am. Venue: Beachwood Country Club, Durban North.

Cost: four-ball R2 000, includes dinner.

Contact Avashni or Gerda: 031 205 1277

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SPCA/Hill’s Township Dog Show The biggest of its kind in South Africa, it offers township specials their chance to shine.

Spectators, volunteers and entrants welcome. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: Ngcendemhlope High School, Mafakathini, Howick. Cost: pet entry R5, spectators free. Contact Heather: 033 330 5299, 082 378 2300 or somerzet@iafrica.com

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26 thursday BOF Health and Beauty Expo Variety of exhibits, plus prizes and goodie bags.

Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: Umhlali Country Club, Ballito. Cost: free entry. Contact Wendy: 072 100 7025, info@bofnetworx. co.za or visit bofnetworx.co.za

27 friday The Royal Show Exhibits, activities and entertainment. View the animals or visit the fun fair. Ends 4 June. Time: 9am. Venue: The Royal Showgrounds, Pietermaritzburg. Cost: adults R45, children under 12 R25, parking R15. For more info: visit royalshow.co.za

The God of Carnage A social comedy that examines what happens when two couples (plus rum and tension) meet to discuss their children’s playground fight. Ends 29 May. Time: Tuesday–Saturday 7:30pm, Sunday 3:30pm. Venue: Seabrooke Theatre, Musgrave.

Cost: R70–R100. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

Monkey Nuts The story of a competitionobsessed bank teller, brought to you by the cast and creator of Chilli Boy. Ends 15 May. Time: Thursday–Saturday 8pm, Sunday 6pm. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, Glenwood. Cost: R60–R120. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

6 friday Heroes of Hope Charity Ball The Sunflower Fund, in association with International Bank Vaults, pays tribute to unsung heroes and highlights the need for bone marrow stem cell donors.

Time: 6:30pm. Venue: The Great Ilanga Room, The Southern Sun Elangeni Hotel, Durban beachfront. Cost: R600, includes dinner. Contact Stephanie: 078 207 9041, steph@sunflowerfund.org.za or visit sunflowerfund.org.za

7 saturday Family fun day A day of fun for the whole family. Time: 9am–2:30pm. Venue: Hillcrest Primary School, 17 Emoyeni Dr, Hillcrest. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 765 1214, admin@hillcrestprimary.co.za or visit hcps.co.za Highway Hospice fête Offers plenty of stalls, food and fun. Time: 8am–2pm.

Venue: Highway Hospice, 59 Locksley Dr, Sherwood. Cost: free entry. Contact Cheryl: 031 208 6110

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Old Mutual Music at the Lake Mother’s Day Concert A picnic concert with the KZN Philharmonic Orchestra and soloists Belinda Dolphin and Jaz Vaugh’hann. Time: 2:30pm.

Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: earlybird adults R70, children R20; on concert day adults R80, children R20. Contact: 031 322 4021 or book through ticketbreak.co.za

John Wesley Pre-Primary School family fun day Offers games and prizes for the children. Food and treats available.

Time: 10am–2pm. Venue: 4 Daventry Place, La Lucia. Cost: free entry. Contact Linda: 031 562 0239 ADHD support group mini-conference Includes talks by experts, products, books and services on show. Time: 8:30am–1pm.

Venue: Pinetown Senior Primary School.

Cost: R100 per person or R150 per couple.

Contact Karen: 084 674 2201, Pat: 082 561 0056 or pinetown@ladd.co.za

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The Strat Pack Celebrates rock music and the Fender Stratocaster guitar. Ends 5 June.

Time: Tuesday–Saturday 7pm, Sunday 12:30pm. Venue: The Heritage Theatre, Hillcrest. Cost: R195, Tuesday and Sunday R165. Contact: 031 765 4197 or visit heritagetheatre.co.za

Comrades Marathon Time: 5:30am– 5:30pm. Venue: Durban City Hall, ends Midlands Cricket Oval, Pietermaritzburg. For more info: visit comrades.com Mind, Body, Soul Fair With over 100 health, holistic and spiritual exhibitions, plus belly dancing, talks and food. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Westville Civic Centre.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 072 428 3431

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19 thursday 031 Collection presented by Mr Price Showcases Durban’s fashion designers, both established and new. Ends 21 May. Time: 8pm. Venue: 33 Cobham Grove, Sydenham.

Cost: R170. Contact Steven: 031 263 2240

20 friday Lawrence Anthony, author of The Elephant Whisperer and founder of The Earth Organisation, is guest speaker at The Christmas Fair fundraising. This is followed by snacks and a book signing. Time: 5:45pm.

Venue: Simbithi Country Club, Ballito. Cost: R220. Contact: 083 268 3884

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calendar The Home Industries market day For designer cakes, clothing, health studios, kitchenware and more. Plus competitions and prizes. Time: 8:30am. Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: free entry.

Contact: 082 876 7447

9:30am–4:00pm. Venue: 3 Willow Way, Assagay. Cost: R15. Contact: 031 768 1029 or visit duckanddeck.co.za Treasure Beach Explore the shoreline with a guide while learning about ecosystems.

Time: varies. Venue: 835 Marine Dr, Bluff.

Cost: adults R35, children R20. Contact: 031 467 8507 or tbeachadmin@wessakzn.org.za

31 tuesday Girls Wanna Rock A tribute to the women of rock and disco through seven decades. Ends 10 July. Time: varies. Venue: The Barnyard Theatre, Gateway. Cost: Wednesday–Saturday R125, Tuesday night and matinee R90. Contact: 031 566 3045 or visit barnyardtheatres.co.za Montpelier Pre-Primary open day Prospective parents can view this school, for children 2–5 years. Time: 9am–11am.

Venue: 210 Montpelier Rd, Morningside.

Cost: free. Contact: 031 312 6670

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Old Mutual MTN Sciencentre Looks at science in a fun and interesting way. Time: Monday–Thursday 9am–7pm, Friday– Saturday 9am–9pm, Sunday 9am–6pm.

Venue: Upper level, Gateway. Cost: adults R24, children R25. Contact: 031 566 8040, info@sciencentre.co.za or visit gatewaysciencecentre.co.za

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Holistic Healing for Kids Focuses on mindnastics, building self-esteem and improving concentration. Monday–Saturday.

Time: 2pm. Venue: North Beach, Durban.

Cost: R200. Contact Rookaya: 031 332 9724 or rookayavawda@mweb.co.za Sugar Me cake decorating courses For anyone 10 years and older. Time: Monday and Thursday 5pm–7pm, Saturday 12pm–2pm. Venue: Monday and Saturday Broadway Methodist Church, Thursday Westville Methodist Church.

Cost: 10-lesson course R1 100. Contact: 076 302 3396 or sugarme@rdesigns.co.za

classes, talks and workshops Dharma for Kids Teaches love, compassion and wisdom. For children 5–12 years and parents. 8 May. Time: 10am–11am. Venue: Mahasiddha Buddhist Centre, 2 Hollings Rd, Malvern. Cost: R10. Contact: 031 464 0984 or visit meditateindurban.org Drumkidz Djembe drum sessions get children drumming to stories and songs.

Offers eight lessons per term. For children 5–7 years every Tuesday and 3–5 years every Wednesday. Time: 3pm–3:30pm. Venue: varies. Cost: eight lessons R295. Contact: 083 631 6064, robynne@drumkidz.co.za or visit drumkidz.co.za Extreme dance classes Hip-hop and freestyle dancing for children 4–17 years old. Time: Tuesday, time depends on age.

Venue: 62 Winston Churchill Dr, Pinetown.

Cost: varies. Contact: 083 727 3243 or visit extremedance.co.za

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Tots n Pots Cooking fun. Time: varies.

Venues: Ballito, Berea, Durban North and Kloof. Cost: varies. Contact Ballito: 082 873 2924, Berea: 083 280 2054, Durban North: 073 631 2299 and Kloof: 083 306 1172

family outings Books2You Book fair. Time: 24 May 10am–5pm, 25 May 7:30am–2pm. Venue: Clifton Preparatory School, Durban, also at Berea West Senior Primary School 31 May. Cost: free entry. Contact: 082 907 1577 or visit books2you.co.za Horseback beach adventures Ride along the beach or through the bush.

Pony rides on Saturday and Sunday.

Time: Friday–Wednesday 3pm. Venue: 501 Reunion Rd, Isipingo. Cost: R250– R350, pony rides R10. Contact: 084 467 0752 or visit horsebackbeachadventures. bravehost.com Rayz Kids World Spend the day visiting Black Skulls Treasure Cave and Rayz Gold Diggers. For children 2–10 years. Tiny tots and parents also catered for. Time: 9am–6pm. Venue: uShaka Marine World.

Cost: R40. Contact: 031 328 8000 or visit ushakamarineworld.co.za The Inchanga Choo Choo Travel through the Valley of 1000 Hills to Inchanga. 29 May. Time: departs 8:30am or 12:30pm.

Venue: Stoker’s Arms, Kloof Station. Cost: adults R150, children R120. Contact: 087 808 7715, 082 353 6003 or visit umgenisteamrailway.co.za

finding nature and outdoor play 1000 Hills Bird Park Home to rare and exotic birds. Now featuring a new 150m zip line. Time: Tuesday–Sunday 8am–4pm.

Venue: 1 Clement Stott Rd, Botha’s Hill.

Cost: adults R25, children R15. Contact: 072 927 8242 or visit 1000hillsbirdpark.co.za Crocodile Creek Offers sanctuary to 7 000 crocodiles. Open daily. Time: 9am–5pm; guided tours at 10am, 11:30am, 12:30pm, 2pm and 3pm; feedings at 11am and 3pm. Venue: Tongaat. Cost: adults R50, 11–18 years R30, 4–10 years R20. Contact: 032 944 3845 or visit crocodilecreek.net Duck and Deck animal farm A chance for children to touch, feel and interact with animals. Closed Mondays. Time:

Essenwood Market Fresh food, children’s activities and a range of stalls.

Time: 9am–2pm, every Saturday. Venue: Essenwood Rd. Contact: 031 208 1264 or visit essenwoodmarket.com Farmer’s Market Non-refrigerated fresh produce. Time: 10am–1pm. Venue: Jimmy Bellows Sports Field, Westville (Thursday), Autumn Drive, Umhlanga (Wednesday), Amanzimtoti Sports Club (Tuesday).

Contact Rob: 082 413 1887 Golden Hours Family Market Fundraising initiative of Golden Hours Special School.

Time: 10am–3:30pm, every Sunday. Venue: Uitsig Rd, Durban North. Cost: free entry.

Contact Lyn: 083 262 3693 i heart market Food and design market showcasing locally produced crafts, food and fresh veggies. 7 May. Time: 9am–2pm.

Venue: DLI Hall, 5 DLI Ave, Greyville. Contact: 079 496 4788 or thejoyteam@gmail.com Our Country Market Offers natural, fresh produce. Petting animal farm and pony rides available. Last Sunday of every month.

Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: The Heritage Market, Hillcrest. Contact: 031 765 2500 Shongweni Farmer’s and Craft Market Many stalls with gourmet food, organic and local produce and crafts. Time: 6:30am–10am, every Saturday. Venue: cnr Kassier and Alverstone Rds, Assagay.

Contact Christine: 083 777 1674 or info@ shongwenimarket.co.za The food market Locally produced food, children’s corner, mini flower market and tea garden. 28 May. Time: 8am–2pm.

Venue: The Hellenic Community Centre, Durban North. Contact: 083 777 5633 or visit thefoodmarket.co.za The Litchi Orchard Farmers Market Covered market featuring live music and a children’s playground. First and third Saturday of every month. Time: 9am–1pm.

Venue: Seaforth Ave, Foxhill. Contact: 084 205 6151 or jeremy@litchiorchard.co.za

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The Riverside Market Offers high quality products. Proceeds go to local charities. First Sunday of every month. Time: 10am–3pm.

Venue: northern entrance of Scottburgh, Scottburgh River Mouth. Contact Sue or Tony: 039 975 3893

on stage and screen Girls Wanna Rock The girls of the cast take you through seven decades of music.

31 May–10 July. Time: varies. Venue: The Barnyard Theatre, Gateway. Cost: Wednesday–Saturday R125, Tuesday night and matinee R90. Contact: 031 566 3045 or visit barnyardtheatres.co.za Old Mutual Music at the Lake Mother’s Day Concert with the KZN Philharmonic Orchestra. 8 May. Time: 2:30pm. Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: earlybird adults R70, children R20; on concert day adults R80, children R20. Contact: 031 322 4021 or book through ticketbreak.co.za Sundowner Acoustic Sessions Enjoy an evening under the stars, with music by Sandy Bigara and food. Time: every Friday 6pm–9pm. Venue: Blue Zoo, Mitchell Park, Morningside. Cost: free entry. Contact Sandy: 082 865 0226

playtime and story time Books and Books children’s story time Time: 10am, every Saturday. Venue: Shop 42 Kensington Square, 53 Kensington Dr, Durban North. Cost: free. Contact: 031 563 6288 or booksandbooks@telkomsa.net Children’s story time A story followed by a craft or activity. For ages 3–8 years. Time: 10am, every Saturday. Venue: 26 Rockview Rd, Amanzimtoti. Cost: free. Contact: 031 903 6692 or thebookboutique@gmail.com Clamber Club Jungle gym, hoops, sandpit and more. Time: 12pm–4:30pm, every Friday. Venue: Hellenic Community Centre, High Grove Rd, Durban North. Cost: R20.

Contact Michaela: 074 101 2616 Playball Parents can enjoy coffee or the art shop, while children play in the garden.

Time: Monday–Friday 8am–4pm. Venue: Old Main Rd, Hillcrest. Cost: varies. Contact Kim: 031 765 8780 or 083 630 5110 Steam train rides Ride a miniature steam engine. Second and fourth Sunday of every month. Time: 11am–4pm. Venue: 4 Hinton Grove, Virginia. Cost: R5 per ride. Contact: 083 284 6469

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sport and physical activities Durban Ice Rink Open seven days a week, with five skate sessions daily. Don’t forget to take socks. Time: varies. Venue: 81 Somtseu Rd, Durban CBD. Cost: R40 (includes skate hire). Contact: 031 332 4597 or visit durbanicerink.co.za Mongoose Primary Schools mountain bike series Experienced and entry level school mountain bikers can join in. Various age categories available. 14 May. Time: 1pm. Venue: Howick Primary School, Howick. Cost: R30 entry. Contact André: 082 336 7149 or andre@hps.co.za The Rock Brave the world’s highest indoor climbing wall. Time: Monday–Thursday 10am–7pm, Friday 10am–9pm, Saturday 9am–9pm, Sunday 9am–6pm. Venue: Gateway. Cost: R40. Contact: 031 584 9400

Edu-Maid child stimulation course Domestic helpers can upgrade and broaden existing skills. Time: Monday– Friday 8:30am–12pm. Venue: Sunningdale.

Cost: R350. Contact: 031 572 4313 or 084 821 6668 Homeopathy in the home A workshop

by Dr Alex de la Rouviere. 21 May. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: 18 Musgrave Rd, Musgrave. Cost: free, optional notes R90.

Contact Cherald: 031 202 3082 Meditation classes for moms Time: 8:30am–9:30am, every Friday. Venue: Hillcrest Library, 22 Delamore Rd, Hillcrest.

Cost: R25. Contact: 031 765 2162 or visit meditateinhillcrest.org Meryl’s School of Cooking Learn how to make easy, healthy dinners. Time: varies.

Venue: 1 Wingfield Rd, Kloof. Cost: morning course R650, evening course R350 . Contact Meryl: 031 764 6577, meryl@absamail. co.za or visit merylschoolofcooking.co.za Yoga on the Beach Classes held every Thursday for adults and teens, from beginners to advanced. Time: 5pm–6pm, every Thursday. Venue: Suncoast Zone.

Cost: free. Contact: 031 201 8585

on stage and screen 031 Collection presented by Mr Price A showcase of Durban’s fashion designers.

19–21 May. Time: 8pm. Venue: 33 Cobham Grove, Sydenham. Cost: R170. Contact Steven: 031 263 2240

Monkey Nuts The story of a competitionobsessed bank teller. 5–15 May. Time: Thursday–Saturday 8pm, Sunday 6pm.

Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, Glenwood. Cost: R60–R120. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com The Bats They’re back with Loudly South African. 1–8 May. Time: Tuesday–Saturday 7pm, Sunday 12:30pm. Venue: The Heritage Theatre, Hillcrest. Cost: R195, Tuesday and Sunday R165. Contact: 031 765 4197 or visit heritagetheatre.co.za The God of Carnage Two couples meet to discuss their children’s playground fight. 10–29 May. Time: Tuesday–Saturday 7:30pm, Sunday 3:30pm. Venue: Seabrooke Theatre, Musgrave. Cost: R70–R100. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or visit computicket.com The Strat Pack Celebrates the Fender Stratocaster guitar. 10 May–5 June. Time: Tuesday–Saturday 7pm, Sunday 12:30pm.

Venue: The Heritage Theatre, Hillcrest. Cost: R195, Tuesday and Sunday R165. Contact: 031 765 4197 or visit heritagetheatre.co.za

support groups ADHASA Support Groups For adult and child ADHD. Meetings are irregular.

Contact Stuart: 031 298 8896 or Robin: 082 499 1344 for details on ADHASA, meeting times and support Al Anon and Alateen Support groups for those affected by drinking. Alateen is for

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Dealing with Death and Dying without Pain Aims to help you prepare for this, or to help others who are dying. For those 12 years and older. Time: 9:30am–12:45pm. Venue: Mahasiddha Buddhist Centre, 2 Hollings Rd, Malvern. Cost: R130. Contact: 031 464 0984 or info@meditateindurban.org Educational talk A reflexologist discusses the lymphatic system and immunity. 27 May. Time: 6pm–7pm. Venue: Westville North Library, Westville. Cost: free. Contact Jyoti: 031 262 2943 or 076 987 0195

Summer of Love A musical tribute to the ’60s. 19 April–29 May. Time: varies. Venue: The Barnyard Theatre, Gateway. Cost: Wednesday–Saturday R125, Tuesday night and matinee R90. Contact: 031 566 3045, gateway@barnyardtheatres.co.za or visit barnyardtheatres.co.za

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younger relatives or friends of alcoholics.

For more info or to find your nearest branch contact: 031 304 1826 or visit alanon.org.za CANSA Support Durban North For survivors, relatives and friends. Second Tuesday of every month. Venue: Durban North Methodist Church hall. Contact: 031 564 2510 Childhood cancer parent support group CHOC schedules regular support meetings. Contact Gill: 084 831 3683 or visit choc.org.za Childline Works to protect children, offer counselling to abuse victims, educate and train. Call the toll-free line any time: 0800 055 555 or visit childlinesa.org.za

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Compassionate Friends Support group for family and friends who have lost a loved one. Fourth Sunday of every month. Venue: ABSA premises, 20 Hunter St, Durban CBD. Time: 3pm–5pm. Contact: 031 335 0463 Depression and Anxiety South Africa For depression, trauma, bipolar disorder, and other mood and anxiety disorders.

Contact: 0800 205 121 Diabetes South Africa Contact: 0861 222 717 or durban@diabetessa.co.za Down Syndrome Association KZN Third Saturday of every month. Venue: Anglican Church Hall, Umbilo Rd. Contact: 076 978 9811 or the office: 031 464 2055 Durban Autism Support An informal and volunteer-based Asperger’s syndrome support service. Contact Di: 083 443 8385 or dimaitland@tiscali.co.za FAMSA Offers family and relationship counselling, parenting guidance, conflict resolution and more. Contact: 031 202 8987 or visit 30 Bulwer Rd, Glenwood Hi Hopes Offers support and information to families of babies with hearing loss.

Contact Cheryl: 082 447 1142 or cheryl. devnath@gmail.com Hoping is Coping Nationwide support groups for those newly diagnosed with cancer and their families. Contact: 011 646 5628, lgold@icon.co.za or visit cansa.org.za Reach for Recovery Breast Cancer Support Group Gets together for bringand-share morning teas. Contact: 031 205 9525 or 072 248 0008

SADAG South African Depression and Anxiety Group offers assistance to those suffering from depression or drug abuse or who may be suicidal. For more information or referral to a support group: visit sadag.co.za Speak Easy A Support group for those who stutter, their family and friends.

Contact Imraan: 082 786 3718 or visit speakeasy.org.za The KZN Cerebral Palsy Association Read a mother’s Diary of a Cerebral Palsied Child. Other parents, family or friends of those with cerebral palsy can find support and understanding there. For more info: visit: kzncerebralpalsy.co.za/diary.php We Help You Cope cancer support group Covers a range of topics from nutrition to spiritual needs. Time: 5:30pm–7pm, every Thursday. Venue: The Boardroom, Netcare Parklands Hospital, 75 Hopelands Rd, Overport. Contact Bernice: 031 242 4129 or bernice. prevostdelangristin@netcare.co.za

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classes, talks and workshops Baby and Toddler seminar Moms with babies learn about nutrition, vaccinations, plus listen to a talk from an audiologist.

Moms with toddlers find out about food for fussy eaters and tantrums. 28 May. Time: babies 8am–12pm, toddlers 2pm–5pm.

Venue: Lasting Impressions, 35 Caefron Ave, Westville. Cost: R100, couples R150.

Contact Alison: 031 267 0435 or lasting. impressions.studio@gmail.com Hypnobirthing Regular classes help you prepare mentally, physically and emotionally for a better birth. Time: varies. Venue: Mt Edgecombe. Cost: R1 300 per couple, includes course materials. Contact Patti: 079 220 2639 or durbanhypnobirthing.co.za Infant Massage workshops Learn to massage your baby. Time: Wednesday 10:30am–12pm. Venue: Lasting Impressions,

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Out of the Blue Animal Rescue Rescues, rehabilitates and cares for injured and unwanted animals. They currently have over 97 animals including horses, dogs and donkeys. You can help with donations of food for the animals or money for the vet bills. Alternatively, visit them to sponsor an animal. Contact: 031 768 1768, peter@rat.co.za or visit outofthebluerescue.co.za

35 Caefron Ave, Westville. Cost: four sessions R550. Contact Alison: 031 267 0435, 083 661 6682 or lasting.impressions.studio@ gmail.com Moms and Babes group meeting A chat group for moms with babies, includes a guest speaker. 6 May. Time: 9:30am–10:30am. Venue: Stork’s Nest Clinic, Umhlanga Hospital Medical Centre. Cost: free. Contact: 031 560 5528 Pregnancy Body Stretch Exercise classes combining callanetics, Pilates and relaxation breathing. Time: Monday and Wednesday 1pm. Venue: Lasting Impressions, 35 Caefron Ave, Westville. Cost: one lesson R60, eight lessons R320. Contact: 031 267 0435, 083 661 6682 or lasting.impressions. studio@gmail.com

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Raising Multiple Babies Seminar Parents and caregivers can learn about baby sign language, toilets, and developmental activities. 14 May. Time: 12:30pm–4pm.

Venue: Parklands Netcare Hospital, Overport.

Cost: R100. Contact: 082 338 2625 or visit samultiplebirth.co.za The Yummy Mummy Workshops Four workshops that teach you about tools for effective parenting and investing in your image. Each runs for one day. 9 and 11–13 May. Time: 9am. Venue: 28 Kensington Drive, Durban North. Cost: varies. Contact: 082 560 8699 or wendy.hind@gmail.com

playtime and story time Moms and Tots and Moms and Babes workshops Little ones learn through

play and socialisation, while building the relationship between mothers and their toddlers. For toddlers 1–3½ years and babies 2–12 months. Time: varies. Venues: Umhlanga, the Highway area, Durban North, and Glenwood. Cost: varies. Contact: info@ momsandtots.co.za or visit momsandbabes. co.za or momsandtots.co.za Muslimahs and Tots workshops Interactive programmes designed to build relationships through play, geared specifically towards Muslim parents. Time: varies. Venue: branches in North Beach, Overport and Umhlanga. Cost: varies. For more info: visit muslimahsandtots.co.za Toptots Children 8 weeks–4 years can join an age-appropriate class to learn and play.

Time: varies. Venues: Durban North, Ballito, Kloof, Hillcrest, Westville and Hilton. Cost: about R810 per term. Contact: 031 266 4910, 082 876 7791 or visit toptots.co.za

support groups La Leche A breastfeeding support organisation. For breastfeeding support and questions contact Jane: 031 309 1801 or visit llli.org/southafrica

Postnatal Depression Support Association of South Africa No support groups are meeting currently. Call the national helpline on 082 882 0072 or visit pndsa.co.za For more support groups visit childmag.co.za/resources/supportgroups

how to help Love for Africa Clowns for Africa entertains to raise funds for awareness programmes, orphanages, homes, and more. If you are having a birthday party, call for a clown.

Donations are also welcome. Contact: 079 079 2059 or clowns4africa@gmail.com The Highway Dragon Blanket Run Collect blankets for underprivileged children. Blankets can be collected from you, or you can drop them off at The Girl Guides Hall, Lyton Crescent, Pinetown, on 16 June. Contact Les: 083 487 6846 or Jo: 083 285 0815

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manners maketh... the mom?

SAM WILSON is no prude to being rude, which is why

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have never been big on manners. I’m sure there’s some unremembered childhood trauma underpinning this, but I have always seen manners as a way of hiding one’s true self from everyone else. I know, a bit of a curveball, but that’s how I feel.

Being someone with no internal monologue, it’s always been hard to hide anything about myself, which is why I am so uncomfortable around composed, polite folk. While I am bumbling forth about the eye-wincing minutiae of my life and falling all over myself to spill my personal failings, polite folk tend to clam up, watching me in mild distress and sometimes distaste. Which, of course, exacerbates the burble.

Picture the scene: “Hi, I’m Sam,” I’ll say winningly at some function or other, waving a wine glass. “Those canapés look delicious!”

“So nice that you could come,” says polite person, smoothly. “Would you care for a canapé?”

“Gosh, I’d ‘care for’ six, but my tummy’s been a bit dodge today, so I’d better not,” I’ll reply. “Although, we all know that after a couple more glasses of champers, I’m going to eat as many as are left, so why not?”

Polite person looks puzzled and leaves as quickly as possible. Now, if she’d just been impolite and said something like, “I know! I ate a tray in the kitchen before I brought them out! They are delicious! Does my breath smell like liver paté?” we’d be BFFs for the evening. But no.

For me, the ruder I can be around you, the closer the friendship, and vice versa. I never introduce myself on the phone to close friends, I just start talking. I complain when guests don’t bring me drinks in my own house, if they’ve made for themselves. I ask deeply personal questions from the get-go.

I just find politeness, well, very boring. That is, until I met my son Benjamin.

Benjamin was born polite. Hell, he would have thanked me fresh from the womb, if he hadn’t had to go through that pesky “learning to speak” phase. And it’s a joy to behold.

“Hello, I am very pleased to meet you,” Benj will say, extending a hand to anyone newly in his environs. “My name is Benjamin Späth.” [cue winning smile.] “And this

is my mother, Sam Wilson.” [cue deferential gesture in my direction.]

“Um, hi,” I’ll mumble awkwardly, while wiping my perennially sweaty palm off on my jeans. “It’s nice to, you know...”

You must see the impact it makes on people. A little politeness, applied with skill, and people light up like Christmas trees on Holy Night. Which in turn makes my beloved Benj feel really good about himself. Thereby kicking off an entire cycle of happiness from just one polite gesture.

“How do you do that?” Andreas, Joe and I will ask Benj after such encounters. (Because while all three of us are also nice, no one else got the “self-assured politeness” gene.) “Who taught you? Is it hard?”

“I don’t know,” Benj will say, with a smile, “it just comes naturally to me. And it makes meeting people and talking to them so much nicer if you’re thoughtful from the start.”

Wow. Way to turn my world on its head, little guy. This parenting stuff is not for sissies.

Sam Wilson is the Editor-in-Chief of Women24.com, Parent24.com and Food24.com. She is secretly in awe of how nice her sons are, and fervently hopes, somehow, she had something to do with it.

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PHOTOGRAPH: Andreas SpÄth

her son’s politeness so baffles (and impresses) her.