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I just have to convince my husband. This month’s resource (see page 18) has inspired me to put camping on our family getaway list and to try out as many of the sites as possible, dilapidated two-man tent, Beagles and all. The thought of waking up to the crisp morning air and collecting kindling to build the first fire of the day, fills me with childlike joy. I grew up making fires in our back garden, brewing strong coffee and making hunter’s stew

in my billycan. My dad was a Boy Scout all his life and imparted his fire-making skill and outdoor enthusiasm to me. Any chance of a campfire and I am there. I love building one and tending it until it grows into a pyromaniac’s dream. Thankfully my youngest daughter is also a keen camper, even though she has had to make do with school camps until now, which she loves. Hopefully our enthusiasm will rub off on my husband. I know the Beagles

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are already looking for their spot on the backseat of the car. I may even pack in my dad’s old, beautifully adorned campfire blanket.

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12 upfront

regulars

3 a note from lisa

6 upfront with paul we easily fall into

5 over to you readers respond

the trap of thinking that we are the parental experts, says Paul Kerton

8 pregnancy news – the right fit Marina Zietsman looks at how to

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choose the correct maternity bra

12 is your child camp ready? Christina Castle looks at how to “let go” when it’s time for your child’s first school camp

14 school matters stick to a few basic rules and getting your child into Grade 1 won’t be such a nightmare, says Marina Zietsman

9 best for baby – prepare for takeoff flying long distance with your baby can be a different experience each time. By Cassandra Shaw

10 dealing with difference – left of centre Lucille Kemp looks at the obstacles “lefties” have to face in a right-handed world

18 resource – happy campers

16 more than just a pet Tamlyn Vincent explains how children can learn a lot about, and from, animals by spending time with them

27 braaing at its best master outdoor cook, Justin Bonello, shares recipes from his latest book, Roads Less Travelled: The Ultimate Braai Master

Tamlyn Vincent gives you a list of family-friendly camp sites not too far from Durban

20 a good read for the whole family 21 what’s on in march 26 finishing touch Cassandra Shaw travelled the world as a child, and she wants her son to have the same experience

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health 7 hooked on fish there are many health benefits to eating fish, but we should think wisely about what type of fish we eat, advises Marc de Chazal

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letters

dealing with bullies

thanks for a great getaway

The school my children attend recently launched an initiative to help combat any potential drug or bullying related problem. It consists of an anonymous communication platform where parents and learners are able to report any unacceptable behaviour, safely. I find it difficult to put into words just how the general morale has changed for the better. There have been times I would have liked to phone the headmaster, only to be implored by both my children not to do so for fear of victimisation. I wish this had been started years ago. Daniel Alves

Thanks to Child mag and Xama Adventures on the Breede River for the online competition we won. It was stunning. We had no cellphone reception and all we could do was enjoy quality family time. A big thank you. Jemine

“moody” friend I have been reading your magazine for the past two months and I find it very informative. The only problem is that I get it from a friend, so if she is not in a good mood she does not lend it to me. Please tell me where can I get a monthly copy? Lindiwe M Zwane Childmag says You can subscribe to the magazine for R165 (11 issues). Contact Nicolene at subs@childmag.co.za. Schools and organisations can also email her and ask to be put on the waiting list.

being a class rep I just received the latest copy of the Child magazine on my desk (February 2014) and wish I had read the article “are you up to it?”, on how to be a good class rep this time last year, after having done a terrible job of it for the whole of last year… Thanks for a great resource! Jude It’s an absolutely brilliant and accurate article. As the chairlady of the school PTA, I will be using this as the benchmark communication tool for new class reps. Michelle Bennetts

finishing touch I loved Cassandra Shaw’s “finishing touch” column in February. I recall an interview with Oprah Winfrey

over to you competitive sport in primary schools

Your magazine that arrives in our mailbox, and which we hand out to the learners, has some great articles in it that we share in the homeroom classes. We have done this a couple of times with the Grade 6 group and it helps them to see that this magazine can be useful. The article we will look at sharing this month is “it’s not just a rumour” (February 2014). It is always a good topic to discuss with middle school students and even with the elementary grades. Thought I’d share the idea, as perhaps other teachers might like to try it too. Jan

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ours, where children are starting competitive sport too young, but it would also help the children in the rural and township areas who are missing out on appropriate sport participation. Jane Walker

school uniforms have a place

Thank you for your excellent magazine and thoughtprovoking articles. The article on competitive sport was an excellent read and confirmed my view on competitive sport for primary school children. We live in a part of the country where it’s commonplace to think that the earlier children start to play competitive sport, the better they will become. The contrary has shown to be true and the result is that children are illequipped physically as well as emotionally, and thus give up sooner. I commend Prof Noakes for his contribution to this article and was interested to read that while the South African Department of Sports and Recreation has endorsed the Canadian Model for Long-Term Athlete Development, this model is not being implemented in schools. I feel as South Africans we are being let down by the government as there is no policy for what is appropriate sport participation in schools and as a result schools are taking it into their own hands and are starting children at a very young age. Not only would an across-the-board policy benefit schools such as

I attended school in America and did not have the option of wearing a school uniform. I was pleasantly surprised when I came to South Africa and saw the children wearing school uniforms. For me, school uniforms take some pressure off for two reasons. The first is that there is no question as to what the child should wear to school. In the chaos of young children waking up early for school, organising breakfast, lunch, snacks and drinks in the early rush of the morning, having to choose what to wear would just be an added nuisance. With uniforms, the children know exactly what they must wear every day. They don’t have to sulk over that favourite shirt that they wanted to wear that they can’t find or that isn’t clean. The adults in the house also know that those school uniforms have to be ready to wear during the week. Other clothes are not the priority. Secondly, having gone to a school that held the gamut of children from wealthy families to children from less financially flush families, clothing became a sign of status. It tangibly separates the groups of children between those who can afford the newest fashions and

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I really enjoyed the article “active for life” (February 2014). It has opened the eyes of quite a few people that I spoke to. Well done on highlighting a really important matter and helping parents think about sport from a different perspective. Susan

where she asked a guest what the greatest gift his mother had given him was. His reply: “that her eyes lit up every time she saw me.” I too feel this way when I see my precious daughter now aged five. My partner often says that we both light up in each other’s presence. Our smiles are an extension of that love that flows through our being. I also hope to “embarrass” her for many years to come, and that she will also understand it one day too. Liesl Robbins

brands from those whose families cannot. I don’t believe that is an attribute to inculcate in children if it can be avoided. I believe for that reason alone, school uniforms have their place. South Africa has many challenges that first world countries do not face, such as lack of education, poverty, HIV and extreme violence against women and children. These are all sources of stress that other countries do not experience, at least not to the same degree. If the children and their families have something constant that they can rely on (however small), such as in the form of school uniforms, then I believe that is a positive thing. Michele Engelberg

love to dance I absolutely love the idea of Zumbatomic. I’ve been looking at ways to get my five year old “off” cartoons and on to something we can do together. We both love to dance and I could drop a few kilos while I’m at it. I’m also getting her two best friends and their mothers involved. Suvana Majiare subscribe to our newsletter and win Our wins have moved online. Please subscribe to our newsletter and enter our weekly competitions. To subscribe, visit childmag.co.za

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upfront with paul

other people’s children –

we know best When it comes to parenting, who is the true expert? By PAUL KERTON

icture Nigel, the hapless early caveman struggling with the concept of fire. Now if some alpha male – Brett – hadn’t known best, intervened and said, “give me the damn sticks, I’ll get the fire going” then we would all probably still be wandering around today, covered in duvets trying our best to keep warm. It’s a natural human survival instinct that we each think we know best, especially when it comes to children. This is not altogether true, but what is true is that we each think we know best for our own children, depending on our religion, culture, ethics and family traditions. And the way in which we were individually brought up.

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Clearly this is not altogether true either; witness the mother who fed her daughter nothing but chicken nuggets from McDonald’s for 15 years before the daughter fell over and almost died of renal failure. Or the couple that thought it a good idea, while drunk, to film their four year olds having a brutal fistfight and post it on YouTube. There are a million examples of parents who thought they knew best, but who knew the square root of nothing. Luckily, most of us get the child-rearing right or at least muscle through on this side of the line between right and wrong. A wise friend once described child-rearing as “a series of near misses” in that it only takes a lack of concentration for a nanosecond and the child has rolled off the deck, fallen

into the pool, eaten the rat poison, picked up the carving knife... just check out the Red Cross Children’s Hospital. But there is always something about other people’s children that will irritate other parents. The way they eat a meal, the way they dress, what they are allowed to watch on TV, how late they stay up, how they behave in public – every parameter of a child’s life is scrutinised and judged according to that adult’s own level of “knowing best”. You can see other parents looking on in public and sucking air through their teeth thinking, “I’d never let my Mary wear those shorts” or, my personal favourite, “can’t they control that child?” when a toddler is throwing a wobbler. This is a mixture of self-appointed superiority, snobbery and the thinking: “we

know best”. As you know, I write about parenting all the time and am supposed to know better than most, but I am not immune to having the finger pointed: “he doesn’t do this” and “he’s bad at that” and the extremely upsetting, “have you seen his driving?” The thing is, other people’s children are not our children (thank goodness). We each can only do our best whether we know best or not and, for me, if you can get a child from zero to their teens, and more especially their twenties, with all their faculties still working, while instilling ambition, humour, a good personality and a halfway decent moral compass, then you have done your best. Just go easy on the chicken nuggets. Follow Paul on Twitter: @fabdad1

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eafood is a healthy and popular choice for many of us. Children are encouraged to eat fish at least twice a week, not only because it’s a great source of lean protein, but also because it provides vitamins and minerals essential for growth and development. Fatty fish, such as salmon, has additional health benefits because it’s the best source of omega-3 fatty acids in the ocean. We need these essential fats in our diet for brain development and other critical functions. So, fish is good for us, just as long as we avoid the choking hazard of bones and we’re mindful of the toxins present in some seafood. This is where things get a bit tricky. Fatty fish, which is the main source of omega-3 fatty acids, often has high levels of toxins, such as mercury and polychlorinated biphenyls (PCBs). “These toxins can be particularly harmful to children’s growing bodies and rapidly developing brains,” says Leigh-Ann Silber, a dietician practicing in Joburg who has

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fish wise

Marc de Chazal describes the health benefits of fish for children, what types to eat, and other important factors to consider. a special interest in children’s nutrition. “When we eat seafood loaded with contaminants, we store these pollutants in our bodies, which build up over time. Young children and pregnant women are particularly sensitive to these contaminants, because they can be transferred across the placenta and through breast milk. Mercury and PCBs can negatively affect cognitive development, motor skills, reproductive organs and other critical developmental functions in children,” adds Silber. For safer fish options with the least mercury, it’s advisable to look lower in

the food web and to avoid the larger fish. Good local examples are anchovies and sardines. It’s also a good idea to serve a variety of seafood to reduce the likelihood of regular exposure to contaminated fish. “If your children will go for it, try them on oily fish such as salmon, sardines, pilchards and tuna twice a week, but we need to be careful of the sodium content in tinned fish,” says Silber. “Fresh and frozen fish are both great. To reap the best benefits, I recommend that you bake, grill, poach, steam or stir-fry your fish.”

We have explored less than 5% of our oceans, but we’ve still managed to overfish many species. So in a concerted effort to improve the conservation of seafood and to help us consume fish with a clearer conscience, the Southern African Sustainable Seafood Initiative (SASSI) encourages us to question what we’re eating, where it comes from and how it was caught or farmed. They’ve made it really easy for us by listing seafood according to best choice, such as South African offshore trawled hake; seafood we should think twice about buying, such as prawns; and then fish we should not buy because the species are either unsustainable or illegal to sell here. You can find these lists at wwf.org.za/ sassi or simply text the name of the fish in question to 079 499 8795 and you’ll receive a message telling you to “eat up”, “think twice” or “hit the brakes”. Also look out for the MSC ecolabel endorsing wildcaptured fisheries’ products.

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pregnancy news

the right fit Your body changes and does all sorts of crazy things before and after the birth of your child. MARINA ZIETSMAN looks at the science of shopping for maternity and breast-feeding bras.

“A good nursing and breast-feeding bra can make all the difference to a nursing mom, by providing support, improving comfort and making breast-feeding easier and more accessible,” says Roland Bouttell of Carriwell SA, a leading international maternity and breast-feeding lingerie company. He adds that a new and expecting mom should keep in mind that she will need a variety of bras for different uses and occasions, depending on what stage of her pregnancy or breast-feeding she is in. There are three important features that go into choosing a good bra: fit, function and fashion.

fit the mould You’ll experience weight gain, an expanding rib cage and, later in pregnancy, mammary glands that are preparing to make milk for your baby. The size of a nursing breast can fluctuate many times during the day, and as much as two cup sizes in between feeds, so it is important to take this into consideration when choosing a bra. The golden rule as to when to get your first maternity bra, is if your current bra becomes too tight. Ideally, a woman will get her first

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nursing bras during the final stage of pregnancy – around 38 weeks. “For this stage, the focus is on comfort. She will be looking to purchase at least two non-underwire nursing bras. Supportive fabrics such as microfibre that allow for stretch and easy care are the best choices. Seamless fabric (seamless microfibre) will also be more comfortable as seams can often irritate sore, cracked or sensitive nipples,” says Bouttell.

the expert’s tips for fitting the right bra • A nursing bra cup should always be comfortable and not too tight, providing support while not squashing the breast tissue. • Fabric, especially for a newly nursing mom, should allow for breast change. • Bands should be snug but not tight, and support the breasts from the back rather than pulling down on the shoulders. • Once breast-feeding is established, a woman can use an underwire bra for daytime wear, however a non-underwire bra is highly recommended, especially for sleeping.

function is key Some nursing bras open from snaps or zippers at the centre or below the cup, while others open at the top of the cup. There are soft-cup bras designed to be lifted above the breasts or pushed to the side. Since all openings have their benefits, a drop-cup with a one-handed release clasp/ mechanism is definitely the preferred style. More important is the ease of opening, and the quality and strength of the clip. “The bra will be opened countless times. So, it is very important that the mom is able to unfasten and fasten the bra easily, and preferably one-handed, since she will often be doing so with her hands full,” says Bouttell. Other indicators to take note of include choosing a quality bra that is well stitched, has good quality elastics that will wash well and wide straps to support heavier breasts.

fashion Maternity bras don’t need to be matronly. You can choose from various makes and manufacturers, and still feel like a woman and not a nursemaid, as long as you keep functionality and fit as part of the criteria.

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choosing the correct bra

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takeoff

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flight with your baby might be keeping you up at night. But, a little prep work, resourcefulness and patience may help to improve your experience. By CASSANDRA SHAW

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ertain that her five-month-old son would be “screeching like a banshee… not sleeping, not eating – just being a general gremlin” and that everyone on board would nominate her and her husband as “prime candidates for Worst Parents of the Year prize”, Irene Walker was not looking forward to flying overseas with her child. But, despite her worries, she found that it was much easier than she’d imagined. “There was plenty of white noise to lull [him] to sleep.” Sarah Williams had a similar experience the first time she flew with her daughter, Lucy, who was one month old at the time. Yet, 10 months later, when they decided to fly again, the experience was a bit trickier. Lucy had difficulty sleeping and the bassinet was too small. Boredom also set in, and Sarah and her husband had to take turns walking Lucy up and down the plane or playing with the tap in the bathroom to keep her entertained. But, in spite of these difficulties, they survived – thanks to the help of other passengers, and by making use of the things they had brought along and found around them. Flying with young children is not always easy, and everyone’s experiences are usually different, but as long as you’re prepared and take things as they come, you will survive your flight. In the hopes of putting your mind at ease and preparing you for any turbulence ahead, both Sarah and Irene have offered some helpful pointers for the trip.

what surprised them most? • How kind, helpful and understanding complete strangers can be. • That their airline did not have purified water or any water that reached boiling point on board. • How well a young baby can sleep. • How much patience they had as mothers.

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tips for takeoff Check ahead Know what you can bring on board and what the airline will provide in terms of a baby meal, milk, seating, bedding and entertainment. You can bring food and milk for your baby, but you may have to taste it at security. Pack smart and keep organised Make sure to have a well-packed nappy bag that includes incidentals: something for privacy while breastfeeding, a dummy, toys and comfort items. Pack something new to grab their attention and some old favourites that remind them of home. Just don’t go overboard as space is a commodity, and “more” doesn’t always make things easier. Also, know where your stuff is at all times and keep your belongings organised. This helps at security and onboard. Time to shine You don’t have to dress up as a purple dinosaur, but try singing softly to them. Comfort and practicality Keep them in comfortable clothing, and if they’re crawling, make sure it’s something you don’t mind getting dirty. A change of clothes and something for them to sleep in can also help. Be aware of their routine when you book your flight. Give them something to drink or a dummy to suck on for takeoff and landing, to help with air pressure, and give them lots of cuddles. Everyday issues Most airlines are accommodating. If your bottle is dirty, ask the flight attendant to clean it for you. Although it’s cramped, there are usually nappy changing facilities in the bathroom. Don’t stress Relax and take things as they come. Also, don’t stress about grouchy passengers – most airlines supply earplugs anyway.

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dealing with difference

left of centre Left-handed children face a world that is wired to be right-handed. LUCILLE KEMP offers

some points to help them develop soundly.

s a left-hander growing up in the late 80s and early 90s, I don’t remember much fuss being made about my “difference”. I do remember some teachers would place me on the left-hand side of a desk pairing so I wouldn’t bump elbows with my right-handed classmates. I also remember it hurt when I tried to use their scissors. I mostly remember how Nicholas Waring, a fellow lefty in my primary school years, used to write like a “weirdo”. Imagine Nicholas, being told to “face the front”, with his wrist curved over and around his words in order to stay a precious few centimetres ahead of the sentence so as not to smudge the ink and to have a clear view of what he was writing. If he was left to his own devices he would sit with the left-hand side of his body over his workbook, which lay on its right-hand side. It sounds involved, but that’s because he was a left-hander trying to develop in a right-hander’s world. I’m not sure why I didn’t do what Nicholas did. I think I might have been all too aware of my difference and forced myself to replicate the right-handers surrounding me who wrote “straight up”, because goodness knows I didn’t want to be different at the age of seven, eight, nine, 10... Worldwide, about 10% to 13% of the total population is left-handed, says Joburgbased occupational therapist Kathryn Nish. But a rather hands-on, right-handed mom to a lefty, Tracy van der Merwe, notes that “Four years ago Denise Pape did a South African classroom study and found that in the five-year-old group there was 25% left-handedness. There is a genetic component to handedness so, the more lefties there are, the more there will be.”

There is a genetic component to handedness so, the more lefties there are, the more there will be. He cannot do the tasks fast enough… his work smudges and doesn’t look great… he feels uncomfortable with some tasks and does not want to do them again… He is different, and children don’t like different. As the majority of the world’s population is right-handed, the challenges that left-handers face are numerous. Right-handed people don’t have to think too hard about picking up a pen and writing as it flows comfortably from left to right. Just so, it is comfortable for the lefty to go from right to left but that’s not going to happen in the western world. The following details the classic features of the left-handed child’s challenges. ergonomic The child may not have the correct equipment and knowledge of the correct positioning at their desk. teaching method Many teachers may not be aware of the correct teaching method for letter formation, and worksheets and activities may not be presented and taught correctly. writing from left to right Lefties have to push when they write causing strain on the hand, wrist and shoulder as they squeeze the pen hard to prevent their fingers from slipping down the pen or pencil. wrist-hooking This occurs in order to see their work as they write and to prevent smudging. Hooking places pressure on the wrist and can cause compression of the nerves, leading to carpal tunnel syndrome. It may cause fatigue and a slow pace of writing. emotional Feeling different and being slow to finish work, possibly causes feelings of failure and unworthiness. Nish has had a left-handed boy in occupational therapy for one and a half years. “He had a low self-esteem, struggled to make friends and was shy and mistrustful of others. He was encouraged to use his right hand over his left, even though he was showing

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challenging times

clear left-hand preferences at about five years of age.” Though this should no longer be happening, Nish still finds children are forced to change their natural preference. “This requires education and compromise to ensure that the best functional outcome for the child is achieved.” Forcing a child to change their natural hand preference does not change their brain dominance and so it will affect concentration, memory, spatial, speech, reading, writing and fine motor (handwriting) skills.

different, not abnormal Clare Winter is a left-handed primary school teacher who models with both her leftand right-hand when teaching handwriting. “However, this is not the norm so more emphasis needs to be placed on this during teacher training.” Nish sees Clare’s method as a wonderful way to both model and normalise left-handedness. “The sooner teachers accommodate left-handed students, the sooner acceptance and awareness will reign.” “A simple adaptation of the teaching methods and presentation of information would make a huge difference to the lefties in the classroom,” says Nish. Through gross motor activities, 3D and 2D perceptual games and finally paper-based activities, the left-handed boy Nish was working with resolved his spatial perceptual difficulties, is far more confident, is able to correctly orientate his letters and now even has a couple of friends on the playground.

do more “Put yourself in the shoes of a lefty in order to understand the struggles they experience every day. Help them with the things you can, and show empathy where you cannot. Attend or facilitate a workshop at your child’s school, where all of these things are discussed,” says Tracy. If your left-handed child is experiencing serious setbacks, seek professional assistance from an occupational therapist, but if you start with some of these points you could already be making a difference to your left-handed learner’s day. • Make sure the appropriate learning tools are being used as this will make fine motor tasks easier: left-handed scissors; a left-handed sharpener, if they are experiencing difficulties sharpening with a right-handed one; thin workbooks, so that they can rest their hands on the page and start close to the margin; a chart showing left-handed letter formation; and an incline board and non-smudge pens or pencils. • Position their work to the right of a table as this will decrease the wrist-hooking that occurs and the problems associated with it. • Demonstrate left-handed letter formation with your left hand so that the child can model you and see the actual flow of writing. • Teach the correct progression in art projects, which is right to left when colouring and painting, so they stay within the lines and don’t smudge their work. • Left-handed children should also learn to progress correctly in cutting, which is in a clockwise direction (right-handers cut anti-clockwise). • Support your left-handed child by advocating for them and teaching them how to advocate for themselves. • Ensure that the basics are in place, namely equipment and positioning. • Use a special grip on the pencil to help the fingers relax and not grip so tightly or slip down the pencil. • When copying a letter, put that letter at the top of a page or on the right-hand side so they don’t have to lift their hand while copying. • Symmetry drawings flipped to the other side of the page means the lefty won’t have to lift their hands while trying to complete the task. • As a right-hander teaching skills such as knitting, fastening shoelaces or using cutlery correctly – place yourself opposite the child and let them copy you. If she copies while facing you she is learning the left-handed way. To purchase left-handed learning tools, visit lefthandlearning.co.za magazine durban

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your child’s life

is your child

camp ready? CHRISTINA CASTLE pitches the question and discovers that, more often than not, our children are ready to head off to camp long

y parting words to my 16 year old were: “Be sensible. Drink lots of water. Use sunscreen.” He was about to embark on a three-week journey into manhood, deep in the Cederberg mountains. Yes, my lip was quivering and I was desperately fighting back the tears. “Ja, ja, I know. I’ll be fine, Mom,” he reassured me as he slung his backpack over his shoulder, gave me a fat hug and disappeared onto a bus. And I knew he would be. Years of overnight camps with the school, tours of sorts, sleepovers and holidays away with friends had prepared him (and me) for this journey. From the age of nine my children have been exposed to sleepover camps with the school. Camps are an annual event. Each year as the children mature, the independence, the social and physical skills required are challenged just a little bit more. What starts as an overnight stay in a cabin in Grade 4 quickly becomes a fend-for-yourself few days under the watchful eye of the teachers in Grade 7

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and eventually a man-making three weeks in the wild in Grade 10. While they are fun and physical, the school is acutely aware of the varying stages of physical, social and emotional readiness across the age groups. Their precamp preparation with the children addresses all aspects of readiness and the skills, responsibilities and anxieties that go with it. However, the reality of sleepover camps is not quite so textbook. Some children quite simply do not sleep out. The separation is just too much. Fears and other anxieties kick in. Or they just don’t operate well out of their comfort zones. While children should never feel pressured to go to camp, schools do expect your child to attend their camps; and they are more than equipped with the experience and expertise to help your child over this hurdle. Despite the wobbles and anxieties, school and commercial camps equip our children with skills they will carry for life. The independence, confidence, social

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before we are ready to let them go.

skills and self-discipline it builds are priceless, and strengthens the more your child is exposed to these environments. While experts say the ideal age to kickoff your child’s camp career is between eight and 10 years old, your child will let you know soon enough if he’s ready or not.

let him decide if he wants to go to camp It’s not a case of sign him up and ask him later. Your child first needs to express an interest in going away to camp. While you may plant the seed, allow him to make the decision himself as to whether he goes or not. Even the most camp-hardy child may not want to go to camp. Maybe he just wants to take time out at home after a busy school term. The decision ultimately should be his.

choose a camp that is appropriate While many children love the idea of learning to water ski, how many are really keen to do it intensely for a week? Ok, I’m all for “you never know until you try”, but you and your child need to be realistic about their genuine interests and staying power, if choosing a camp aimed at a specific activity. Not to mention the fact that a full day of waterskiing can be exhausting even for the most experienced water-skier. Many camps offer children a variety of activities – art in the morning, abseiling in the afternoon and singing at sunset. Your child is guaranteed to find his feet and dabble in activities he has never considered before. Varied activities are enriching and provide a great environment to make new friends. What’s more, camps often vary in length. Know what is right for your child. Be sure

that your child is comfortable with being away from home for that amount of time.

manage your child’s expectations It has been found that children who had positive expectations of camp, had good experiences at camp. Take away the mystery of the camp. Go over the itinerary in detail with him. While new and exciting experiences are a given, discuss the dayto-day goings on positively to overcome any anxiety. However, don’t oversell the camp or make it into something that it quite clearly is not.

friends or no friends? It’s always easier to enter a new situation when you have a couple of mates on your side. That said, camp is a breeding ground for new friendships. Existing friendships may restrict the opportunity to get to know others. It’s often too easy to team up with someone you know. If your child is going to camp with a friend, make sure they know to give each other space and are comfortable with each other when they decide to team up with someone new.

be upfront about his fears and anxieties Don’t be afraid to share your child’s camp fears and anxieties with those in charge. They will want to know exactly what to expect. Remember they are experts at this. Don’t think it’s just your child who is feeling uneasy; there are plenty of others in exactly the same situation.

help your child prepare for camp Include your child in the camp preparation process. He will feel more confident about heading off if he’s been involved right from the beginning – from decision-making to packing his own bag. While it’s wise for you to oversee exactly what’s going into the bag, let him follow the kit list and take responsibility for it. At least he’ll know where to find his undies (not that he’s likely to change them for the duration of the camp. The same goes for the toothbrush). Bags are packed and he’s ready to go. No matter what age they are, sending our children off to camp does get the lip quivering – yours more than his. Hang in there; the benefits are worth it. And for the record, my 16 year old returned from his man-making adventure in one piece, a little sunburnt, very much on the nose, hydrated, hungry and hairy. I gave him another fat hug and my eyes began to water. Yes, I did miss him terribly, but he really did stink. Visit childmag.co.za/content/ camp-ready-dbn for a few ideas on overnight and day camps in your area.

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March 2014

education

school matters Your child needs to start Grade 1, but all the rules, laws and paperwork involved drive many parents up the wall. MARINA ZIETSMAN puts the basics into context.

The Department of Basic Education has clear guidelines on how to register your child for Grade 1. You should apply at a public school in the year prior to that in which your child needs to start. Find out from the schools in your area when registration opens and applications close. Applicants must be five years old turning six, or older by 30 June the following year. If your child is younger than the required age, and you still wish to enrol them, you can apply to the principal for exemption. Such an application must be accompanied by a school readiness report, which can be supplied by a psychologist, or a progress report from a qualified educator. If your application is unsuccessful, you must be given the reasons in writing. You are also free to appeal this decision with the Member of the Executive Council (the MEC of a province is the cabinet of the provincial government). In the Western Cape it’s known as the Provincial Cabinet. Independent schools can also make provision for under-age learners “if it can be shown that exceptional circumstances exist, which necessitate the admission of an underage learner because admission would be in his or her best interest”. However, most independent schools prefer to admit learners to Grade 1 who are six years old in January, in the start of the school year. Schools start accepting learners at the beginning of the preceding year, and you should get an answer in writing from them. Follow up with the school if you don’t. Diane Fraser, marketer at St Peter’s Boys School, an independent school in Joburg, says to ensure a place in an independent school, parents should “fill in the application forms soon after the child’s birth”. Des Hugo, junior school headmistress at St Mary’s School, an independent school in Waverley, Joburg, agrees with this and adds: “Parents should consider applying for the Grade R year or at the school’s preprimary facility they’re interested in. This becomes more important if the family has no previous links to the school.” You are free to choose whether to register your child at a public school or at an independent school. Public schools are state controlled and independent schools are privately owned. Independent schools must be registered with the Provincial Education Department, and public schools must be established by the MEC for education in the province. You can check

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with the Provincial Education Department if a school is registered before you make any payments. You’ll need the following forms to register at a public school: 1) an application from the school, to be collected from the school, 2) an official birth certificate, and 3) an immunisation card. If your child is not a South African citizen, you’ll need: 1) a study permit, and 2) a temporary or permanent residence permit or proof that you have applied for permission to stay in South Africa.

indicate to schools which children should be prioritised for admission. Children outside the feeder zone of a school are allowed to apply, but will be placed on a waiting list if needed. The preference order of admission to schools is: 1) learners whose parents live in the feeder zone, at their own address or at their employer’s address, 2) learners whose parents’ work address is in the feeder zone, and 3) other learners, based on a first-come, first-served basis. “Parents

Contact the school and make sure you know how things work and what you’ll need to provide. in the zone Feeder zones do exist for public schools, and these are established by the Department of Basic Education in consultation with the school governing body (SGB). Feeder zones aren’t necessarily geographically adjacent to each other, so find out from the school you’re interested in if you fall in theirs. The main objective of feeder zones is to

often think that they live in the area and therefore are zoned for the school and need only apply the year prior to the start of school. Zoning only applies to public schools and not to independent schools,” says Fraser.

a foot in the door Parents must be careful not to assume that having an older brother or sister in a

preferred school would mean automatic admission for younger siblings. Junita Hensel, secretary at Sea Point Primary, a public school in Cape Town, says, “siblings do get preference, and children of old boys and old girls are looked at ‘favourably’.” Check with your school of choice that these criteria do exist. Fraser says, “Each child would need his or her own application form to be submitted regardless of whether a sibling has already been applied for. Siblings often do get preference, but only if all the correct paperwork and applications were also timeous.” Also, don’t assume that sister and brother schools have the same admissions policy, and make sure schools are in fact sister/brother schools. A reader of Child magazine wrote about her disappointment when her daughter was not admitted to an all-girls’ school. Her son attended an all-boys’ school, which she believed was the brother school to the all-girls’ school she had applied at. However, further investigation showed that the schools have similar names, as they’re both situated in the same suburb, but they are, in fact, not a brother/sister school. Hugo says, “There is variation in the admission policies of schools. In many cases, siblings do get preference, as do children of staff members and alumni. There is often no formal reciprocal arrangement with brother/sister schools, but schools do try to keep families together, if places are available.”

the bottom line Most schools feel that parents leave their child’s registration too late. In order to avoid any administrative red tape, register your child at the school of your choice well in advance. Contact the school and make sure you know how things work and what you’ll need to provide. Don’t base any decisions on assumptions. Even if your child has the right to an education and has laws protecting him, it’s imperative that parents adhere to the few simple rules regarding school admissions in order to have their child start their school career hassle-free.

resources • education.gov.za • isasa.org • erp.org.za

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what the law says

your child’s rights Missing birth certificate Learners must be accepted unconditionally, but a copy must be obtained from the Department of Home Affairs. No immunisation card Learners must be admitted, but thoroughly advised by the school on how to get immunised. Paying school fees It is illegal for schools to require a copy of a utility bill to determine whether the parent or guardian can afford to pay school fees. The law says, “no learner may be refused admission to a public school on the grounds that his/her parent/ caregiver is unable to pay, or has not paid school fees that have been lawfully determined.” Parents who cannot pay school fees are urged to consult with the school about applying for exemption from fees. Schools can, however, take parents to court if they refuse to pay school fees, but only after the exemption criteria have been applied and the parent is still liable to pay such fees. The learner must remain in school while the case is on. Registration fees Certain schools will charge you a fee when you register. Admission tests Public schools are not allowed to administer any tests related to the admission of a learner. Full classes Schools cannot refuse to admit a learner from their feeder zone. If full-class capacity has been reached, it’s the responsibility of the school and the heads of department to ensure all learners find a place at another school. Fee-paying schools have the right to limit the amount of learners per class to the maximum set by the school. According to the Department of Basic Education, “The right not to charge school fees is limited to the schools that have been declared ‘no-fee schools’. The names of these schools are published in the Provincial Gazette and the criteria to determine the ‘no-fee schools’ is based on the economic level of the community around the school.”

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Race, religion and language No discrimination will be tolerated regarding these points. The same goes for pregnant learners and those that are HIV positive. Learners are expected to wear the official school uniform, without any additions to the uniform that are not in accordance with the regulations. Ask the school you want to register with for their code of conduct to establish what is permitted and what isn’t. Waiting lists Before the school year starts, the school and the Department of Basic Education must find a place for children on a public school waiting list. Fraser suggests you apply to at least two to three schools. “If parents have not heard anything by midyear, prior to the start, the parents should contact the school for updated information.” Hugo adds: “Apply to as many schools as possible in the area you live, especially if you do not have other children already at a school, or are not a staff member or an alumni.” Hugo says if your child is not on a waiting list, they will never have an opportunity to be considered. She adds that schools are unable to inform parents on how long they will be on a waiting list, as the school only fills places from the list when families relocate or leave the school. “Generally, schools become aware of a family’s intention to leave one term prior to the date of leaving,” she adds. Special education needs Public schools must admit learners with special education needs, where it is reasonably practical, and schools are encouraged to make the necessary arrangements as far as possible to make facilities accessible to such learners. If a school cannot provide this, the principal and the school must refer the case to the Department of Basic Education to have the learner admitted to a suitable public school. Hensel says Sea Point Primary does accommodate children with special needs, but “on condition that the child receives adequate remedial support and has come from a remedial school.”

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animal appreciation

more than just a pet There is a lot that children can learn about animals. There is also a lot they can learn from

them. Tamlyn Vincent explores the many benefits that spending time with animals can offer.

oey, our mini dachshund is defleaing my son, causing fits of giggles. He buries his hand up his sleeve, driving Zoey crazy and making her nibble even harder. Reggie, our other sausage, tries to nuzzle his way in, but he’s just looking for a scratch. Laughter and enjoyment aren’t the only benefits of having two dogs share our home. My son throws balls for them, but they never relinquish their prize. They’ve never seen the point in giving back the ball. So to reclaim it, we have to play chase. And, of course, the dogs are useful at mealtimes. My son has quickly learnt that they’ll happily eat anything he doesn’t want, including tomatoes.

can also reduce blood pressure and decrease stress. A dog’s ability to help with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder has seen trauma dogs being used in crisis situations like school shootings. And because children often respond well to animals, they are used in a variety of therapy treatments. Children can learn about animals from books, or wildlife films. Through animal interactions, children can learn empathy and responsibility, while learning about these animals. While this is apparent with pets, it also becomes clear when children visit animal shelters or wildlife sanctuaries. There is also knowledge to be gained from spending time at certain zoos and aquariums.

Spending time with animals has many benefits for children. As animals don’t judge, children are often likely to talk to pets, improving self-confidence. Dr Marieanna le Roux, chair of Pets as Therapy in Cape Town, says this quality in animals can improve reading skills as children who are struggling with reading can practise with their dog. There are health benefits as well. Walking or running with dogs means more exercise. Interacting with pets

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Owning a pet can develop a nurturing instinct in children, says Dr Zee Akoojee, a Cape Town vet. Children develop a caring attitude and self-confidence from looking after pets. Children also need to learn the importance of caring for something without receiving anything in return, says Akoojee. Some of the responsibilities of having a pet include making sure there is always fresh water, cleaning up after the pet, feeding it and taking it for walks. So, before getting a pet, make sure your children are ready.

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four-legged friends animal aid

Teach them that a pet is for life, advises Akojee, and can’t be ignored when it’s no longer cute. “The entire family should be on board,” says Akoojee. Work together to find a pet that suits your family’s lifestyle, considering the space you have, the time and energy you can dedicate to the pet and remembering the basic costs and vet’s bills. Children who don’t have their own dog could walk dogs for friends or neighbours, letting them interact with animals and exercise, while teaching them responsibility. Another option for families with pets is to visit retirement villages or hospitals. Families can sign up to organisations like Pets as Therapy, which takes dogs, and a few cats, to visit these places. “When you see the faces of the people you’re visiting, you know you’ve done something good,” says Le Roux. The pets like the attention too. However, Le Roux says that not all dogs like getting patted, and not all people want to be visited, so children should go with an adult and only take their dog if it has the right temperament.

shelters and sanctuaries Children should learn about caring for people, animals and the environment, so they develop a caring, socially minded attitude that will stay with them, says Janet Legemaate, education officer at Durban’s Kloof and Highway SPCA. Visiting animal shelters or wildlife sanctuaries teaches children about the needs of animals. Children also learn about conservation and what it means to give back. Parents should show children what shelters need to care for animals and together think of ways to help, suggests Legemaate. Depending on the shelter, children need to be a certain age to volunteer, but there are other ways to help. “Bring dog biscuits to feed the dogs,” says Legemaate, or buy a bag of food. Look out for educational opportunities at wildlife sanctuaries and shelters or visit them as a family.

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aquariums, zoos and game reserves animal books for children Toddlers How Do Dinosaurs Love Their Dogs? by Jane Yolen – T-Rexes model both good and bad petcare behaviours. (Blue Sky Press, 2010) Tails Are Not For Pulling by Elizabeth Verdick – The book is about showing children how to love pets gently. (Free Spirit Publishing, 2005) Peek-a-Boo Pets by Francesca Ferri – Play peek-aboo with pets. (Barron’s Educational Series, 2009) Preschoolers A Home for Dixie by Emma Jackson – A story about an adopted puppy. (Harper Collins, 2008) Mr King’s Incredible Journey by David du Plessis – An introduction to a range of creatures from South Africa’s coast. (Random House Struik, 2011) Early graders Dear Greenpeace by Simon James – Emily writes to Greenpeace for advice on how to care for a whale in her pond. (Walker Books, 2008) My First Book of Southern African Mammals by Peter Apps – An introduction to a cross-section of mammals. (Random House Struik, 2000) Preteens and teens The Underneath by Kathi Appelt – A calico cat, about to have kittens, befriends a hound. (Simon and Schuster, 2008) White Dolphin by Gill Lewis – Kara and Felix have to work together to save a dolphin calf, and the reef in the bay of their home town. (Oxford University Press, 2012)

My son was terrified the first time we went to see dolphins. He thought they might jump out of the water and land on him. When he realised what they were he was enthralled, as are thousands of other children who pass through the education programme at Durban’s Seaworld, which teaches children about marine life and conservation. At the National Zoological Gardens of South Africa, children can see reptiles, birds and mammals, and become a junior nature conservator. They can also see animals in environments that simulate their natural habitats, a move encouraged by the environment enrichment programme followed at this facility. Visiting zoos and aquariums gives children the chance to meet animals up close, says Angeliné Schwan, communications officer at the National Zoological Gardens. Many zoos and aquariums treat animals with care and run conservation, rescue and rehabilitation programmes. But these types of facilities can come under criticism for keeping animals in captivity, or mistreating them. As parents, it’s important to be aware of these issues and to consider and question what’s in the animals’ best interests. Schwan recommends that before visiting a facility, check that they are a member of PAAZAB (African Association of Zoos and Aquaria; visit zoosafrica.com), which requires members to comply with certain standards. “Word of mouth is a good way to find out about the best places to visit,” says Schwan. At game reserves, animals are given free rein. No matter how you choose to introduce your children to animals, they will benefit from the interaction. When my son was born, and the dogs still didn’t know what he was, we looked forward to the day they would be friends. I think they are all on their way to being lifelong buddies, especially if they keep eating his vegetables for him.

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happy

campers Sleep under the stars at a great familyfriendly camping spot not too far from

Durban. By TAMLYN VINCENT

amping is a great pastime for young and old. If it’s your first time venturing out with your children, the key to a stress-free trip is to be prepared for everything and to not shy away from getting your children involved. Get them to help pack the car, choose the toys they want to take with them and set up the camp site.

glengarry Set in the Kamberg, overlooking the Little Mooi River, Glengarry offers visitors the chance to relax, or to join in more adventurous pursuits. There are two camp sites, situated next to the river or the dam. Both offer grassed, mostly shaded sites, with power points, and both have refurbished ablutions with hot and cold water. Glengarry is wheelchair friendly. The Garden Café serves healthy, home-made food.

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activities Fishing is an option at the dams or river on the site, or at nearby locations. Other activities include hiking, river tubing, bowls and golf. There is also a network of MTB trails. nearby attractions The Kamberg Rock Art Centre, where visitors can take a two- to threehour guided walk to the Game Pass Shelter open to the public All year round best time to visit Every season is different, from spring when the English Country Garden bursts into life, to winter when the mountains are dusted with snow. directions Travel up the N3 and take the Nottingham Rd off-ramp. Continue through Nottingham Rd until you reach Rosetta. Turn left onto the Kamberg Rock Art Centre Rd and travel 31km. Turn left onto the Glengarry/Highmoor Rd and it’s immediately on the right. contact 033 267 7225, info@glengarry.co.za or visit glengarry.co.za

mac nicol’s bazley beach Situated on the banks of the Ifafa Lagoon, this camp site offers plenty to do. Arrive to a cup of tea, while your tent is set up for you on one of the large, mostly shaded sites. Sites have 10 amp electricity points with water points nearby. Ablutions are clean and modern, offering hot and cold water, and laundry facilities. Private ablution stands are available. There is a wellstocked shop and bottle store, with takeaways available in season or over long weekends. The resort is wheelchair friendly, and dogs are allowed out of season by arrangement. activities They have two swimming pools, one of which is heated in cooler months, and a children’s play area and TV room. Enjoy the lagoon or the beach. In season, there is a full entertainment programme, and out of season there are the weekly bring-and-braai nights. nearby attractions There are golf courses and nature trails, horse riding, scuba diving, boating and more. when to visit They are open year round, and the weather is pleasant throughout the year. directions Drive south on the N2, taking the Sezela/Esperanza turnoff. Turn right, go over the N2 and turn left on the R102 and left again on the R56. Travel about 5km to the resort. contact 039 977 8863 or visit macnicol.co.za

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Mac Nicol’s Bazley Beach

ugede tented camp and camp sites Located just outside Durban, in the Shongweni Dam and Game Reserve, Ugede Tented Camp offers luxury tented camps built on stilts on the water’s edge. Visitors can choose between two- or four-bed options. Unmarked camp sites are also available, and include clean ablutions with showers, but these don’t have electricity points. activities There are nature trails for hiking, rock climbing, and non-motorised water sports. friendly factors Pets are not allowed, but children can see a variety of game. nearby attractions See the largest Hydroplus Fuse Gate system in the world at the Shongweni Dam Wall, and the original water works, which are preserved as a national monument, and archaeological sites that have identified some of the earliest signs of cultivation in the world. directions To get there, travel along the N2. Take the Shongweni/Assagay off-ramp and follow the Shongweni Dam signboards until you get to the gates. contact 031 769 1283 or visit msinsi.co.za

mountain splendour Positioned at the foothills of the Central Drakensberg, on a small working farm, this eco-resort offers spectacular views. The large camping and caravan sites are set among a forest of trees. They provide assistance with erecting tents, or you can opt for “Glamping”, a self-catering safari tent that is preerected and kitted out with all the camping necessities. In addition, there are three basic self-catering cottages. Communal ablutions are spotless and there are a variety of private ablutions with plenty of hot water. The main ablution is wheelchair friendly. activities Other facilities include double tennis courts, mountain bike trails, picnic spots, walking paths as well as a swimming pool and a playground. The animal farm, handmilking Mary the cow, and pony rides are also big attractions. There is an on-site mountain bike shop and bike workshop, with single track MTB trails on the property. Hire one of the experienced trail guides for a longer, more advanced outride. nearby attractions There are restaurants, tea gardens, golf courses and hiking. friendly factors Pets are not allowed. open to the public All year round best time to visit All four seasons are markedly different. directions Take the N3 North and turn left at Exit 179. Go through Loskop and turn left at R600 to the Central Drakensberg. Go 12km towards Champagne Castle Hotel. Turn left onto D19 and travel 1km. contact 036 468 1172, info@ mountainsplendour.co.za or visit Mountain Splendour mountainsplendour.co.za

for different tastes These resorts have several camping spots in different parts of the country. • sanparks.co.za – Wild Card Membership gives you unlimited access to most of Southern Africa’s premier conservation areas. • foreversa.co.za – They have resorts in Gauteng, Limpopo, Free State, Mpumalanga and the Western Cape. • atkvresorts.co.za – All seven of their resorts have camping sites.

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books

a good read for toddlers Chickens Can’t See in the Dark By Kristyna Litten (Published by Oxford University Press, R196) The pictures in this book will make children laugh, plus there is a message about standing up for your beliefs. Little Pippa is adamant that she wants to see in the dark. It all started when Mr Benedict told his class, “As sure as eggs is eggs, chickens can’t see in the dark.” When asking for their help, Mr Owl and Granny Bumblefoot find the prospect hilarious. But then Little Pippa reads a book at the Book Barn Library and learns that carrots improve your eyesight. She immediately sets off to the farm shop to buy all their stock. Is she going to be successful, or will she be the laughing stock of the village?

for early graders

for preschoolers Sisi Goes to School and Other Stories By Wendy Hartmann and Joan Rankin (Published by Human & Rousseau, R150) Sisi, her family and friends are back in this delightful compilation of stories and rhyme that is filled with warmth, love and friendship. The five stories are: Sisi Goes to School, Sisi’s Special Sounds, Gogo’s Little Dog, Daddy’s Surprise and A Kiss For You. The book has beautiful illustrations by internationally known artist, Joan Rankin, which compliments the sparingly written, but spot on text. It is also available in Afrikaans as Sisi Gaan Skool Toe en Ander Stories.

for preteens and teens

Be Bright By Anita Potgieter

Phapo’s Gift By Marita van Aswegen

Rock Steady By Joanne MacGregor

A Horse called Hero By Sam Angus

(Published by Human & Rousseau, R89) This educational activity book is designed to help children sharpen their maths and language skills, while challenging them to be bright and creative. The fun maths exercises meet the standards of the Grade 1 to 3 curricula, while the language portion promotes language, reading and audio skills. The exercises will encourage young learners to practise the skills they acquire in their first school year in a new, fun way. Simple, clear instructions make the activities easy to complete, while a little star indicates to the learner where to complete their answer. In the back of the book the answers are clearly identified and explained. The author is a former teacher with many years’ experience teaching remedial classes to learners who have problems with maths and reading.

(Published by Knowledge Thirst Media, R70) Ten-year-old Phapo is clever, pretty and happy. But she has a big burden to carry: her father, who she loves very much, is dying from Aids. All around her, her school friends are getting boyfriends and girlfriends, but Phapo wants nothing more than to make mud-cakes under her favourite tree and dream of beautiful dolls. When the boys start looking at her, her grandma tells her a very special secret: Phapo has a precious, perfect fruit inside her. She alone has the power to treasure or to destroy that fruit. Phapo’s Gift is a truly South African story that teaches children about the effects of Aids and the advantages of abstinence. This highly relevant story of our time is full of colourful characters, brought to life with dozens of bright illustrations.

(Published by Protea, R140) Samantha Steadman, and her best friends – smart-mouthed Jessie Delaney and a politician’s daughter Nomusa Gule – are back at boarding school, in Grade 9, and they are up against a whole new set of challenges. Their creepy, new science teacher – the Poison Dwarf – takes delight in tormenting Sam, and she’s started counting and checking everything in a way that has her friends worried about her sanity. Add to that Sam’s determination to uncover and stop the illegal trade in San rock art, a blossoming new romance (or two) and a dangerous survival competition in the mountains, which will endanger the trio’s lives. Sam will need all her wits and courage to stand steady. Together they will have to find the strength to cope.

(Published by Pan Macmillan, R156) London, 1940: Dodo and her little brother Wolfie do not know what has happened to their father. A cavalry officer, war hero and veteran of the Somme, he has gone missing at Dunkirk. The children are evacuated to the West Country, away from everything they know. Alone in a high and wild land, they are taunted and bullied when their father is accused of cowardice and desertion. Wolfie finds an orphaned foal, names him Hero, and raises him. Together they roam the hills, finding freedom and happiness, little suspecting the dark shadow that hangs over them and the test that lies in store for both of them. But while the war took Wolfie’s hope, Hero gives him courage. This is a beautiful story from the author of Soldier Dog, for children from the age of 10.

for us What Lies Within By Tom Vowler (Published by Headline Publishers, R161) This is a tightly spun, atmospheric and powerfully psychological suspense thriller from a brilliant new voice in fiction. Living in a remote Devon farmhouse, Anna and her family have always been close to nature, surrounded by the haunting beauty of the moor. But when a convict escapes from a nearby Dartmoor prison, their isolation suddenly begins to feel more claustrophobic than free. Fearing for her children’s safety, Anna’s behaviour becomes increasingly irrational. Meanwhile, a young, idealistic teacher has just started her first job, but gets brutally attacked by one of her students. As the two narratives converge, the tension builds to a devastating denouement, shattering everything you thought you knew about nature, nurture and the true meaning of family.

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parenting book Is that My Child? The Brain Food Plan By Dr Robin Pauc with Carina Norris (Published by Random House, R215) Following the success of Is That My Child?, Dr Pauc demonstrates how nutrition and exercise can help children overcome many conditions – from dyslexia and dyspraxia to ADHD and Tourette’s Syndrome. The book includes easy-tofollow advice and information, from the effects nutrition can have on children’s behaviour to how different types of exercise can benefit children in different ways. There are recipe ideas as well as exercise and diet workbooks for parents to chart their child’s progress. Pauc is a specialist in child neurology and runs his own practice. He lectures on behalf of the prestigious Carrick Institute for postgraduate studies at Cape Canaveral and is author of several academic texts. Carina Norris is a registered nutritionist, author, journalist and consultant. magazine durban

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Durban Land, Sea and Air Festival Experience three days of aeronautic acrobatics, as well as action displays by the SA Navy and enforcement services.

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uShaka Marine World Make the most of the sun while it lasts, and visit this water park and aquarium.

Pilates retreat Treat yourself to a tension-relieving day of Pilates in a tranquil environment.

Shongololo Shakers Songs, rhymes and stories get toddlers moving and shaking to the music.

Singakwenza Education and Health NPC This project helps train educators in early childhood development through workshops.

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Umhlanga College open day Find out what the play group and preschool have to offer. Time: 9am. Venue: Umhlanga College, Prestondale. Cost: free. Contact Jeni: 031 566 5736, jenik@ ucollege.co.za or visit umhlangacollege.co.za

SPECIAL EVENTS 1 saturday Clifton Prep open morning Prospective boys and their parents meet the staff. Boys get a guided tour. Time: 8:30am. Venue: Clifton Prep, Lambert Rd, Morningside. Cost: free. Contact Barry: 031 312 2147 CompliMed Midlands Ultra Triathlon This half-ironman and sprint-distance triathlon caters for a range of triathletes from top individual competitors to team entries. Also 2 March. Time: 11am–4pm. Venue: Midmar Dam, Pietermaritzburg. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 764 1885, info@ bactive.com or visit midlandsultra.com Thomas More College Information mornings Attend an informative interactive morning for Grades 8–12. Time: 9:30am. Also 9am 27 February for Grades 000–0, and 28 February for Grades 1–7. Venue: 15 Sykes Rd, Kloof. Cost: free. Contact Juliet: 031 764 8643, admissions@thomasmore. co.za or visit thomasmore.co.za

5 wednesday Durban North College Grade 1 open day For 2015 Grade 1 parents and pupils to learn about this English and Afrikaans school. Time: 9am. Venue: Durban North College, 25 Prospect Hall Rd. Cost: free. Contact: 031 564 1347, dnkollege@telkomsa.net or visit durbannorthcollege.co.za

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6 thursday Miglio ladies’ breakfast Attend this event in aid of The Sunflower Fund. Time: 9am. Venue: Coastlands Hotel, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: R295. Contact Tanya: 083 387 7913 or tanya.miglio@mweb.co.za or Nikki: 082 898 9483 Suncoast Wine Club Taste fine wines while enjoying a three-course dinner. Time: 7pm. Venue: Havana Grill, Suncoast Casino. Cost: R250. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

7 friday Barefoot for a day The Little Fighters Cancer Trust encourages the public to go barefoot for one day, as a conscious reminder of the journey that families supporting a member needing oncology treatments, have to walk. The day is also an opportunity to donate new shoes to children with cancer. For more info, contact Mandie: 021 863 0249, mandie@littlefighters.org.za or visit littlefighters.org.za

11 tuesday Best Days of Our Lives School’s out and your headmistress guides you through five decades of school reunions and music with the classes of ’69, ’79, ’89, ’99 and ’09. Ends 20 April. Time: 8pm Tuesday–Saturday; 2pm Sunday. Venue: The Barnyard Theatre, Gateway. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 566 3045 or visit barnyardtheatres.co.za

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Talk Sign campaign This initiative creates awareness about sign language and raises money through the sale of badges, to help educate deaf people. At a later stage, it will help them find employment. Buy a badge to show support for people who are deaf. Cost: badges R10. Contact Shamila: 031 309 4991/2/3 or shamila@talksign.co.za Gordon Road Girls’ School open day Learn about the Educational Trust preschool for Grades 000–0. Time: 9am. Venue: 69 Gordon Rd, Morningside. Cost: free. Contact: 031 303 2628

Decorex Durban This year’s expo offers a wide variety of exhibitors. See the Manscapes, outdoor living spaces for men, the Gourmet Food Market and the Design Your Life Theatre. Ends 23 March. Time: 10am–8pm. Venue: Durban Exhibition Centre. Cost: adults R65, children under 12 R15. For more info: visit decorex.co.za Durban Land, Sea and Air Festival The main attraction is the Sky Grand Prix featuring the best pilots in South Africa and five world-champion aerobatics pilots. You can also enjoy live music, air-themed movies, water-sport competitions and displays from the armed forces and SAPS. Ends 23 March. Time: 9am. Venue: North Beach, Durban. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit facebook.com/DurbanSkyGrandPrix Reach for a Dream’s annual men’s golf day Help make dreams come true for children with life-threatening illnesses. Time: 10:40am. Venue: Durban Country Club. Cost: R3 800 per four-ball. Contact: 031 566 2220 or prkzn@reachforadream.org.za

15 saturday Durban Girls’ College open morning Time: 9:45am–12pm. Venue: 586 Musgrave Rd, Essenwood. Cost: free entry. Contact Lynne: 031 268 7254, lneilson@dgc.co.za or visit dgc.co.za The International Hotel School ladies’ breakfast This event is in aid of The Sunflower Fund. Time: 8:30am. Venue: Westville Hotel, 124 Jan Hofmeyr Rd, Westville. Cost: R175. Contact: 031 266 1148, 078 207 9041, steph@sunflowerfund. org.za or visit sunflowerfund.org.za

16 sunday Crossing Over With John Edward Psychic medium John Edward connects with the other side to receive messages from loved ones. There are question-and-answer sessions. Time: 5pm. Venue: iZulu Theatre, Sibaya Casino, Umdloti. Cost: R783–R894. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Old Mutual Music at the Lake with Just Jinjer The acoustic duo, The Kickstands, is the support act. Children are welcome at the KidZone. Time: 2:30pm. Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: presold tickets R120, tickets on the day R150. Contact: 031 322 4201 or book through Webtickets: visit webtickets.co.za

21 friday Francofête 2014 Enjoy storytelling and animation, a children’s corner, music, a market, food, and an introduction to French. Time: 2pm–5pm. Venue: Sutton Park, Morningside. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 312 9582 or afdbn@global.org.za Rocking the Eras Krystle T and her band perform the greatest hits of the eras. Ends 30 March. Time: 8pm Friday–Saturday, 6:30pm Sunday. Venue: Rhumbelow Theatre, Cunningham Ave, Umbilo. Cost: R120. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

17 monday Time of the Writer Local and international writers gather for a thought-provoking week of literary dialogue and an exchange of ideas and discussion. Ends 22 March. Time: varies. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre and other venues. Cost: varies. For more info: visit facebook.com/TimeoftheWriter

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25 tuesday St James School for Girls and Boys open afternoon For prospective parents wanting to apply in 2015. Time: 2:30pm–3:30pm. Venue: 130 Mathews Meyiwa Rd, entrance in De Mazenod Rd, Greyville. Cost: free. Contact Mrs Billiet: 031 309 7031 or office.stjames@gmail.com

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28 friday Flowers, Food and Fashion The historic Crowhurst Lodge is decorated with flowers and foliage. Exclusive trade stalls sell popular items, there are daily cooking demonstrations and a fashion show with wine and cocktail snacks. Ends 30 March. Time: 10am, fashion show 5:30pm–7:30pm, Friday and Saturday. Venue: 74 Everton Rd, Kloof. Cost: R60, fashion show R160, cooking demonstrations R100. Contact Vaughn: 083 510 8792 or Marieke: 082 455 1039

29 saturday Dewey’s League – Reading for Justice A South Africa sporting hero, screen personality, celebrity mom or local author reads a story from a children’s book. Time: 10am–10:30am. Venue: Exclusive Books stores. Cost: free entry, donations of stationery welcome. Contact: 011 798 0000, support@exclusivebooks.co.za or visit blog.exclus1ves.co.za Durban North College (Canon) Rugby Week Watch 16 teams from across South Africa compete. Ends 1 April. Time: 8am–4pm. Venue: Durban North College, 25 Prospect Hall Rd. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 564 1347, dnkollege@telkomsa.net or visit durbannorthcollege.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Art lessons For children 8–18 years old. Time: 9am–11am, every Saturday. Venue: High Ridge Rd, Durban North. Cost: R125 per hour. Contact Suzette: 074 178 9388 or sdyson@remax-panache.co.za Arty Stars Art and craft lessons for children 18 months–5 years old and their moms. Time: 2:30pm–3:30pm Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. Venue: Westville. Cost: R680 per term. Contact Kelly: 083 777 4578 or babybrightstars@gmail.com

Saturday. Venue: Durban North Pigeon Club Hall, 2 Sunfield Place, Swapo Rd. Cost: R200 per month, R50 per lesson. Contact: 083 356 1317 or visit modeldynamics.co.za Rising Star Performing Arts classes Children 5–19 years old can join speech and drama classes, or take part in more specialised instruction, including musical theatre or on-camera acting. Time: varies. Venue: Durban and surrounds. Cost: varies. Contact: gill@rspa.co.za or visit rspa.co.za

family outings Flag Animal Farm fun day Meet Barney and Winnie the Pooh, enjoy puppet and milking shows, play on the jumping castle, foampit slide or in the playgrounds and indoor playcentres. You can also see a variety of farm animals. Time: 9am–4:30pm. Venue: Sheffield Beach. Cost: R33 entry. Contact: 032 947 2018 or visit flaganimalfarm.co.za

Thami Jali Retrospective Visit an exhibition of works by Thamsanqa Rutherford Jali. Starts end March. Time: 8:30am–4pm Monday–Saturday, 9am–4pm Sunday. Venue: Durban Art Gallery, 2nd floor, City Hall, Anton Lembede St. Cost: free. Contact Jenny: 031 311 2264/9

classes, talks and workshops Children’s yoga Time: 3pm every Wednesday. Venue: Centre of Wellbeing, 16 Canberra Ave, Durban North. Cost: R200 per month. Contact Angela: 076 410 1410 or angela@rautenbach.co.za Computer lessons Time: varies. Venue: suite 124 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Dr, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: R500 per month. Contact: 031 566 1110, 073 966 0983 or umhlanga@computers4kids.co.za Get Ready for School programme An introduction to formal learning for Grade R learners. Time: 1:30pm Monday–Friday, 8am every Saturday. Venue: suite 125 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Dr, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 566 1110, 082 042 2556 or tracy@kipumhlanga.co.za Modelling classes For children and teens 5–19 years old. Time: 10am–11:30am every

Books 2 You Discover hundreds of books. Time: 10am–3pm 6 March, 7:30am–1pm 7 March. Venue: Sarnia Primary. Also at Westville Senior Primary 11 and 12 March, Cygnet Prep 13 and 14 March, Berea West Prep 17 and 18 March, Glenwood Prep and Deutsche Schule Durban 19 and 20 March. Cost: free entry. Contact Kathy: 031 705 7744 or orders@books2you.co.za Burnedale Café This centre boasts a restaurant and pottery gallery, as well as a farmyard and art and décor shop. Time: 9am–4:30pm daily. Venue: Salt Rock Rd, Umhlali. Cost: varies. Contact: 032 947 1980 or visit facebook.com/Burndale Mr. Funtubbles Fabulous Family Funfair Enjoy fun rides and games for all ages. Time: 10am–9pm Monday–Thursday, 10am–11pm Friday, 9am–11pm Saturday, 9am–9pm Sunday. Venue: shop E047, upper level, Gateway Theatre of Shopping. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 584 6645 or visit mrfuntubbles.co.za Sugar Terminal tours Book your spot for a tour. Time: varies, Monday–Friday. Venue: 25 Leuchars Rd, Durban. Cost: adults R16, children R8. Contact: 031 365 8153, tourguide@sasa.org.za or visit sasa.org.za uShaka Marine World Experience the thrill of Wet n Wild’s 17 exhilarating water slides. Time: varies. Venue: 1 King Shaka Ave, Point. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 328 8000 or visit ushakamarineworld.co.za

finding nature and outdoor play Crocworld Conservation Centre Look forward to a fun-filled, educational outing. Time: 8am–4:30pm, daily. Venue: Old Main Rd, Scottburgh. Cost: adults R60, children R40. Contact: 039 976 1103, crocworld@ cbl.co.za or visit crocworld.co.za

The Animal Farmyard There are daily milking demonstrations and the chance to bottle-feed newborn animals. Time: 9am–4:30pm daily, milking 10:30am and 3:30pm. Venue: 3 Lello Rd, Botha’s Hill. Cost: entry R15, rides R5. Contact: 031 765 2240 or visit animalfarmyard.co.za The Swallow Migration This is the last chance to see the swallows as they come to roost. Time: 5pm. Venue: Mt Moreland. Cost: R10. For more info: visit barnswallow.co.za Winsome View Animal Farm There is a play area, with farm animals and pony rides. Time: 9am–3pm Tuesday–Sunday. Venue: Hamilton Way, Shongweni. Cost: varies. Contact: 082 892 1615 or visit winsomeview.co.za

holiday programmes Despicable Me camp Children 7–17 years old enjoy a week of themed fun and adventure. 30 March–6 April. Time: varies. Venue: Sugar Bay, Zinkwazi. Cost: R3 599. Contact: 032 485 3778, holidays@sugarbay. co.za or visit sugarbay.co.za Holiday boot camp This two-day clinic focuses on developing motor, social and mental skills while children 5–13 years old have fun. 1 and 2 April. Time: 8:30am–1:30pm. Venue: Boot Camp, Giba Gorge, Westmead. Cost: R250 per day, R400 both days. Contact: 082 782 6432, info@ boot-camp.co.za or visit boot-camp.co.za Mom’s Aide Holiday Club Children under 10 enjoy art and crafts, and games, lunch and juice. 31 March–4 April. Time: 7:30am–5pm. Venue: Heatherbelle’s Cafe, 4 Swapo Rd, Durban North. Cost: half-day R120, full day R200. Contact Tina: 078 617 2473 or tinalepan@mumsaide.com UP-grade school workshops These are run by specialised teachers. Workshops include either junior primary activities or specific subjects for senior primary and high school. 1–5 April. Time: 9am–12pm and 1pm–4pm. Venue: UP-grade, La Lucia Mall. Cost: workshops from R200. Contact Brett: 082 877 7161, brett@up-grade.co.za or visit up-grade.co.za

markets Essenwood Market Stock up on fresh food. Time: 9am–2pm every Saturday. Venue: Essenwood Rd. Contact: 031 208 1264 or visit essenwoodmarket.com

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calendar Golden Hours Family Market This is a fundraising initiative of Golden Hours Special School. Time: 10am–3:30pm every Sunday. Venue: Uitsig Rd, Durban North. Cost: free entry. Contact Lyn: 083 262 3693 I Heart market Local foodies and designers showcase their products. 1 March. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Moses Mabhida Stadium. Cost: free entry. Contact: thejoyteam@gmail. com or visit iheartmarket.blogspot.com Kloof Country Market Find handmade toys, decorations, spices, relishes, fresh produce and more. 8 and 15 March. Time: 9:30am–1pm. Venue: Robyndale Piggly Wiggly Centre, 10 Msenga Rd, Kloof. Contact: 082 454 3181 or info@countrymarkets.co.za Shongweni Farmer’s and Craft Market Shop for organic and local produce and crafts. Time: 6:30am–10:30am every Saturday. Venue: cnr Kassier Rd and Alverstone Rd, Assagay. Contact: 083 777 1674 or visit shongwenimarket.co.za The food market With over 40 local food stalls. 29 March. Time: 8am–1pm. Venue: The Hellenic Community Centre, Durban North. Contact: 084 505 0113 or visit thefoodmarket.co.za The Play Market This is a family market, so take blankets, dogs and children’s scooters.15 March. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Giba Gorge Mountain Bike Park, Westmead. Cost: R10 entry to the park. Contact: 071 307 0823 or gotoplaymarket@gmail.com Wonder Market Find a varied selection of foods, crafts and treasures at this “upmarket” market. 30 March. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Chris Saunders Park, Umhlanga. Cost: free entry. Contact: wonder@wondermarket. co.za or visit wondermarket.co.za

on stage and screen Best Days of Our Lives Celebrate the music and songs from the best days of our lives. 11 March–20 April. Time: varies. Venue: The Barnyard Theatre, Gateway. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 566 3045, gateway@barnyardtheatres.co.za or visit barnyardtheatres.co.za Old Mutual Music at the Lake with Just Jinjer 16 March. Time: 2:30pm. Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: presold tickets R120, tickets on the day R150. Contact: 031 322 4201 or book through Webtickets: visit webtickets.co.za

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Cost: R450. Contact Laura-May: 082 443 4533, info@pilatesinmotion.co.za or visit pilatesinmotion.co.za Taekwondo for Ladies Time: 7pm–8pm every Thursday. Venue: Westville Library. Cost: R130 per month. Contact Sam: 082 876 0628 or tkdtornados@gmail.com

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The Lego Movie This animated movie tells the story of Emmet, a normal Lego mini figure, who is mistakenly identified as key to saving the world. He joins a group, who are on a quest to stop an evil tyrant. Opens 14 March. Time: varies. Venue: 3D and other cinemas nationwide. Cost: varies. For more info: visit numetro.co.za or sterkinekor.com

playtime and story time Children’s story time Enjoy a story followed by a craft or activity. For children 3–8 years old. Time: 10am every Saturday. Venue: 26 Rockview Rd, Amanzimtoti. Cost: free. Contact: 031 903 6692 or thebookboutique@gmail.com Jimmy Jungles An indoor playground with different play areas per age group and a restaurant area. Time: 9am–6pm Monday–Saturday, 9am–4pm Sunday. Venue: Perry Yamaha Building, Tetford Circle, Umhlanga. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 566 2000 or visit jimmyjungles.co.za Lucky Bean They offer a safe children’s playground with an undercover play barn. There is also a coffee shop. Time: 9am–4pm, Tuesday–Sunday. Venue: 10 Cadmoor Rd, Assagay. Cost: R20 for the first child, R15 for each additional child per family. Contact: 082 216 3892 or visit luckybean.co (no .za)

sport and physical activities Adventure Kids swim school Children 3–15 years old learn to swim, or take stroke correction classes. Beginners, intermediate and advanced classes available. Time: 2pm–5pm, Monday–Thursday. Venue:

Glenashley Preparatory School, Durban North. Cost: once a week R250, twice a week R350. Contact: 084 624 5962 or dlzsmythe@gmail.com Ice hockey This sport improves agility, strength and coordination. The skills of the game are learnt in a safe environment. Time: 8:45am–9:30am every Sunday. Venue: Galleria Ice Rink, Galleria Shopping Centre, Amanzimtoti. Cost: varies, free session for new members. Contact Michelle: 072 237 3114, durbaknights@gmail.com or visit durbaknights.wordpress.com Taekwondo Tornados Children exercise and develop core strength. Time and venue: from 3:30pm every Wednesday, Westville Library; from 2pm, every Tuesday, Hillcrest Library. Cost: R130 per month. Contact: 082 876 0628 or tkdtornados@gmail.com

only for parents classes, talks and workshops e-Learner computer course For 8 weeks. Time: 9am–12pm Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: suite 124 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Dr, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: certified course R3 270. Contact: 031 566 1110, 074 113 8364 or umhlanga@computers4kids.co.za Make sushi 4 March. Other courses include: extreme cupcakes 11 March, a cheeseand-wine appreciation course 28 March, six-lesson expert baking course 18 March. Time: 6pm–9pm. Venue: Gecko Culinary Adventures, 596B Musgrave Rd. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 209 4555, cooking@ geckoschool.co.za or visit geckoschool.co.za Pilates Precision Preggie Pilates available by appointment. Time: 5:30pm–6:30pm Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: The School of Modern Montessori, 9 Anthony Dr, Gillits. Cost: four classes R280, eight classes R480. Contact: 071 183 4161 or sarahxevans@hotmail.com Pilates retreat They host a fullday Pilates retreat, with lunch and teas. Booking essential. 1 March. Time: 8:30am–4:30pm. Venue: Waterfall Retreat Centre, 20 Debengeni Rd, Waterfall.

Crossing Over With John Edward There are Q&A sessions and opportunities to receive messages from loved ones on the other side. 16 March. Time: 5pm. Venue: iZulu Theatre, Sibaya Casino, Umdloti. Cost: R783–R894. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Rocking the Eras 21–30 March. Time: 8pm Friday–Saturday, 6:30pm Sunday. Venue: Rhumbelow Theatre, Cunningham Ave, Umbilo. Cost: R120. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com

support groups Born Sleeping Parents bereaved by stillbirths, miscarriages or neonatal death share experiences. Contact: 084 524 1541/2, bornsleeping@gmail.com or visit their Facebook page: Born Sleeping Choc – Childhood Cancer Foundation KZN For more info, contact: 086 111 2182, dbn@choc.org.za or visit choc.org.za Durban Autism Support Group For mothers of children with ASD. Informal coffee mornings are held four times a year. Contact: 083 443 8385 or dimaitland@ tiscali.co.za Famsa Offers family and relationship counselling. Contact: 031 202 8987 or visit 30 Bulwer Rd, Glenwood Hi Hopes Home intervention programme for children who are deaf or hard of hearing. Contact: 082 897 1632, dianne.goring@ hihopes.co.za or visit hihopes.co.za Overeaters Anonymous Contact: 083 409 83009 or visit oa.org.za Pierre Robin Sequence Foundation They were established to support families and individuals affected by Pierre Robin Sequence (PRS) and its associated syndromes. They are online and aim to set up support groups in all major cities. Contact Leigh: 082 410 3197, info@ pierrerobin.org.za or visit facebook.com/ PRSFoundation Sadag For those suffering from depression or drug abuse or who may be suicidal. For more info or referral to a support group: visit sadag.org Speak Easy Support group for those who stutter and their family and friends. Contact Imraan: 082 786 3718 or visit speakeasy.org.za

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classes, talks and workshops Edubabe Childminder training, first aid workshops and cooking classes. Time: varies. Venue: Glenwood. Cost: varies. Contact Kate: 071 968 1007 or durban@ edubabe.co.za Edu-Maid Baby care, child stimulation and cooking classes for domestic workers. Time: varies. Venue: Sunningdale. Cost: R300. Contact Eleanor: 084 821 6668 magazine durban

HypnoBirthing This five-week course teaches mothers how to reach a deep state of relaxation during childbirth and help the body work more efficiently during labour. Starts 19 March. Time: 6pm–8:30pm every Wednesday. Venue: 67 Isaiah Ntshangase Rd, Durban. Cost: R1 800 per couple. Contact: 079 881 7199 or visit preggiepower.co.za Infant massage workshop 6, 13, 20 and 27 March. Time: 10am–12pm. Venue: Lasting Impressions Studio, 35 Caefron Ave, Westville. Cost: R600 per mom and baby. Contact: 031 267 0435 or info@ lasting-impressions-studio.co.za Preggi Bellies fitness classes These are designed for all levels of fitness. Time: 5:30pm–6:30pm every Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: Umhlanga Muscle and Fitness Xpress. Cost: R80 per class. Contact: 0860 723 559 (head office), 073 162 3710, Latascha@baby2be.co.za or visit preggibellies.co.za Pregnancy yoga Time: 3:45pm, every Wednesday. Venue: Centre for Wellbeing, 16 Canberra Ave, Durban North. Cost: R200 per month. Contact: Angela: 076 410 1410 or angela@rautenbach.co.za Shongololo Shakers This music and movement class for children 0–5 years old includes songs, rhymes and stories, as well as puppets and instruments. Time and venue: 11am every Tuesday, Cygnet Preparatory, Westville; 10:30am every Wednesday, Hillcrest Library; 9:30am and 3pm every Thursday, Heatherbelle’s Café, Durban North; 9am every Friday, Leaping Lizards, Gillitts. Cost: varies. Contact Corrine: 083 893 5155 or Beverley: 060 650 7323 or visit shongololoshakers.co.za Stroller training for moms For moms with babies 6 weeks–3 years old. Time: 9am–10am Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Venue: Mitchell Park, Morningside. Cost: R450–R500. Contact Bronwyn: bronwyn@ fit4health.co.za or visit fit4health.co.za

playtime and story time Baby Bright Stars Interactive classes for moms and babies. Time: varies. Venue: Westville. Cost: R750. Contact Kelly: 083 777 4578, babybrightstars@gmail.com or visit babybrightstars.co.za Clamber Club Movement and stimulation classes for babies 8 weeks–12 months, and children 1–4 years old. Time: varies. Venue: Ballito, Hillcrest and Kloof. Cost: varies. Contact Ballito: 076 222 2946, Hillcrest: 084 577 7630 or Kloof: 083 259 2746, or visit clamberclub.com Little Me Moms and Toddlers workshops Fun, educational workshops for toddlers 1–3½ years old and moms. Groups welcome. Time: varies. Venue: Sunningdale. Cost: R75 per session. Contact: 084 821 6668 or visit littleme.yolasite.com Moms and Babes and Moms and Tots workshops Programmes stimulate, develop skills and promote bonding.

Venues: Amanzimtoti, Berea, Durban North, Umhlanga and the Highway area. Cost: varies. For more info: visit momsandbabes. co.za or momsandtots.co.za Toptots Children 8 weeks–4 years old learn and play. Time: varies. Venue: branches in Durban North, Ballito, Glenwood, Kloof, Hillcrest, Westville and Hilton. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 266 4910, 082 876 7791, info@toptots.co.za or visit toptots.co.za

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support groups La Leche League Worldwide breastfeeding support organisation. Contact Jane: 031 309 1801 or visit llli.org/southafrica Mothers 2 Baby For new and older moms who are finding motherhood challenging. Babies welcome. Time: 10am–11:30am, every third Thursday of the month. Venue: Hillcrest Private Hospital, Kassier Rd. Cost: free. Contact Hayley: 061 453 3718

how to help Singakwenza Education and Health NPC This project helps close the gap in early years education by meeting the learning needs of children 1–5 years old, who live in economically disadvantaged communities. This is done by training caregivers in crèches, and running Waste2Toys Workshops where educators learn to make toys and teaching aids with recyclable materials. You can adopt a crèche and provide for their physical needs, fund a trainer, or host/fund a workshop. Contact: 033 343 1650, info@singakwenza.co.za or visit singakwenza.org The Handbag Project Donated new or used handbags are filled with items that assist rape victims during the initial reporting process. Items include a facecloth, soap, deodorant, shampoo, fresh underwear and more, plus a handwritten letter to remind them that they will get through it as support and care are available. Sign up to assist with packing handbags, which often takes place at Store Town in Waterfall. Each R150 donated goes towards another packed bag. Contact Trish: 031 765 4559, trish@jff.org.za or visit jff.org.za

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don’t miss out! For a free listing, email your event to durban@childmag.co.za or fax it to 031 207 3429. Information must be received by 28 February for the April issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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finishing touch

branching out CASSANDRA SHAW recalls how travelling at a young age impacted her life and ultimately that of her son’s.

t’s amazing how much of an impact exposing your child to new and unusual things can have on them. Encouraging them to experience unfamiliar things or to visit different places can really ignite their curiosity and imagination. Taking them out of their everyday world creates the opportunity for you to open up their minds and to see what’s out there beyond their comfort zones. I remember when my parents took me to Hong Kong when I was five. My mom, being a chef, thought it important to expose me to different foods while we were there, and whenever we tried out a new restaurant, the waiters and waitresses would encourage me to eat something interesting like chicken’s

March 2014

feet, tripe or snake soup – the latter I remember, to this day, not being overly keen on. It’s amazing though, that at such a young age, I was able to maintain so many memories from this trip. Sure, a lot of them were childlike, such as driving on a doubledecker bus, or visiting a massive toy store, but the overall experience really shaped my life. I instantly caught the travel bug; I have an appreciation for Chinese culture and I absolutely love dim sum. I see the same light appear in my son whenever we teach him something new, travel somewhere or take him someplace different. Like most children, he soaks up new experiences, whether it’s playing puttputt for the first time, travelling overseas

or spending time outdoors. He recently went on a camping trip with my husband and his family and when they got back he was talking a mile a minute about what he had done, seen and how much fun he’d had. He played outside with his cousins, explored the area and slept in a tent – the idea of which absolutely thrilled him. When it came time to sleep, he didn’t make a fuss and he didn’t try to put it off, he actually looked at my husband and said, “Dad, I’m tired, I think it’s time I went to sleep in the tent now, ok?” So, he did. He got up, went to the tent on his own and fell asleep. I can only imagine what was going through his mind at that moment: being in the dark, lying on the ground, and listening to the

sounds of the wild – all this just outside his temporary, A-frame, fabric home. But that’s the beauty of a family holiday; the experiences and memories that a child will have of them for the rest of their life. These things will shape them into who they want to be and inevitably play a part in what they teach or get their children to experience one day too. I don’t think I’ll get my son to try snake soup anytime soon, but I’ll certainly encourage him to travel or join me for some dim sum, whenever we get the chance. Having missed out on his first real camping trip, Cassandra’s keen on introducing her son to things she remembers about camping, like roasting marshmallows and eating s’mores.

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PHOTOGRAPH: MENKE BONNEMA

Cassandra and her son

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braaing at its best Master how to cook outdoors with JUSTIN BONELLO’s Roads Less Travelled: The Ultimate Braai Master Second Series.

braaied pizza

mussel curry

By Bertus Basson Way back, when I first started filming my show Cooked, I made a dustbin pizza for my crew before we hit Splashy Fen music festival in the southern Drakensberg. That was my attempt at a braaied pizza. In a 45-gallon metal drum on top of two unglazed terracotta tiles, I had a makeshift pizza oven that baked delicious pizza in less than 15 minutes. This time round, Bertus (a pro at simple and delicious food) made pizza straight on the braai grid. I had my doubts, especially after all the effort I went to making a pizza oven using a dustbin, but admittedly have to swallow my words. So try this if you don’t have a dustbin lying around in your backyard. It’s way simpler. I love learning new tricks like this. Bertus uses the same basic bread dough recipe that I’ve used for years, so I guess in the world of outdoor pizza we’re even. Until next year…

By Andrew and Thando When you get to walk the Wild Coast foraging for food, one ingredient you’re bound to find are mussels. Can you imagine picking mussels and then preparing them right there on the beach while the sun is setting in the background? Life really doesn’t get any better than that. It’s simply perfect. Get out there and do it… but make sure you’ve got a permit before you do – available from the post office.

PHOTOGRAPHS: Louis Hiemstra & Dominique Little: Cooked in Africa Films

for the best pizza dough, you’ll need: • 500g white bread flour • a big pinch of salt • 10g yeast • 325ml warm water Combine the flour and salt in a large mixing bowl. Activate and dissolve the yeast by placing it in another bowl and adding the warm water. Give it a stir, and sprinkle a handful of flour over the mixture to prevent the yeast from forming a crust. Leave the yeast mixture in a warm spot for about 10 minutes or until it begins to froth and gradually add it to the flour, mixing it well until it forms a dough. The only way to do this is with your hands. If the dough is too sticky, add a bit more flour; if it’s too dry, add a splash more water, and so on. Knead for 10 minutes until the dough has a smooth, elastic consistency. Sprinkle some flour onto your work surface, place the dough on the flour and cover with a damp tea towel. Leave the dough to rise for about 30 minutes or until it has doubled in size. Sprinkle some flour on a clean working surface and tear off a fistsized piece of dough. Using your fingers or a rolling pin (or a bottle of wine) roll the dough out into your preferred size and shape – keeping in mind it can’t be bigger than your braai grid. The border can be slightly thicker if you like a thick crust pizza. Bertus didn’t do a tomato base, but used olive oil and sliced garlic instead. This is Bertus’s favourite topping, but the possibilities are endless, so go wild.

you’ll need: • olive oil, mixed with about 2 garlic cloves, thinly sliced • mozzarella, sliced • red onion, thinly sliced • cherry tomatoes, halved • slices of Parma ham • fresh basil • rocket • Parmesan shavings • salt and cracked black pepper Take the pizza base and put it on a grid over moderate coals. Braai the base for a couple of minutes, or until the bottom is crispy and golden and the top starts bubbling. Flip the base over and brush the top with the garlicky olive oil. Take out a couple of the garlic slices and arrange them on top of the pizza. Next, scatter sliced mozzarella on the base – as much as you like. Reduce the heat of your coals slightly by scraping some to the side – the slow heat will give the mozzarella time to melt without burning the bottom of the pizza. Go ahead and drizzle some more garlicky olive oil onto the pizza, then once the cheese has melted, remove the pizza from the heat. Top with red onion, tomatoes, Parma ham, basil, rocket, Parmesan shavings and season with salt and black pepper. Cut into odd-sized slices and let your friends dig in (once you’ve had your slice). Then let them each make their own pizza.

you’ll need: • 1,5kg mussels, scrubbed clean, beards removed and soaked in salted water (or sea water) • a glug of olive oil • 1 onion, finely chopped • 2 garlic cloves, crushed • 3 red chillies, seeds removed and chopped • a chunk of ginger, grated • 2 teaspoons of green curry paste • 2 tablespoons of curry powder

• 2 tablespoons of garam masala • 1 tin of whole peeled tomatoes • 1 tin of coconut milk First up, steam the clean, beardless mussels until they open up. Toss the ones that didn’t open back into the ocean and set the open ones aside. Now, heat a potjie over moderate to hot coals, add a glug of olive oil and fry the onion, garlic, chilli and ginger until the onions are soft, then stir in the green curry paste. Next, chuck in all the spices, mix everything around and cook for another minute or two. Add the whole peeled tomatoes and once all the liquid has evaporated, pour in the coconut milk. Once the sauce starts to simmer, add the mussels and cook for about five minutes more. Take it off the heat and serve with freshly baked bread (great to mop up the sauce) or rice, good wine, great friends and a spectacular view of the ocean.

about the book This is the ultimate book for braai lovers. Authored by Justin Bonello, Bertus Basson, Marthinus Ferreira and written by Helena Lombard, Roads Less Travelled: The Ultimate Braai Master Second Series is filled with mouthwatering recipes like White Bean and Smoked Feta Soup, Carpetbagger and Fire-Baked Lemon Tart. It’s published by Penguin Books and can be found at all good bookstores for R230.