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To mark the occasion, we bring you more features, more recipes, great books, something to laugh about and “the ultimate party guide” (page 19). Whether your child is celebrating at home, at school or having a mega bash, we’ve covered every party whim from baby to teenager. This issue is a keeper. But parenting is not all fun and games, so we also explore difficult topics, such as fighting the urge to interfere in your child’s friendships (page 12), what happens when your daughter gets caught up in the manipulative world of the queen bee (page 18) and how to deal with a shy child (page 10). In this piece, Glynis Horning gives you

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10 tips to help your child. And then we get back to celebrating with the “finishing touch” column, which encourages parents to let loose once in a while by making time for their own little “party” (page 30) Enjoy this month’s issue and keep it close for when your child gets to wear their birthday crown and dish out the cupcakes.

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14 upfront

regulars

3 a note from lisa

7 pregnancy news – not thinking straight Anél Lewis sheds some light

5 over to you readers respond

on momnesia or “porridge brain”

8 best for baby – wrap them with care Katherine Graham looks at the

features 12 choosing their friends parents should think twice before interfering with their child’s choice of friends, says Gary Koen

14 party politics Cassandra Shaw chats to a few teachers to find out how they celebrate birthdays at their schools

16 chew on this Vanessa Papas dishes out the truth about processed foods

18 girl world your daughter needn’t fall victim to the queen bee’s bullying tactics, says Lucille Kemp

31 creative cakes we give you party inspiration from Arina du Plessis’s latest book

age-old practice of swaddling

10 dealing with difference – how to deal with a shy child there’s much parents can do to help their shy child. By Glynis Horning

17 upfront with paul we should think twice about our children walking about with expensive gadgets, says Paul Kerton

19 resource – the ultimate party guide Compiled by Tamlyn VIncent 26 a good read for the whole family 27 what’s on in may 30 finishing touch Cassandra Shaw believes parents should also enjoy a good party

health 6 mirror, mirror... when children start showing an interest in beauty routines. By Marina Zietsman

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letters

loving vermin In response to your article “more than just a pet” (March 2014): leaving the pet shop with bags of compressed sawdust, rodent cubes (different to the ones you put in the roof) and an expensive cage, I muttered to myself, “All this for vermin!” Excitedly gesturing toward the contents of the little cardboard box he was clutching, my little blonde asked, “So is his name Vernon, Mom?” And so Whiskers Vernon Joubert joined our household. Since becoming a single mom and relocating to an upstairs unit fondly referred to by me as “Freedom Flat”, we had been through a lot of ups and downs. The excitement of having a new home and a new routine had worn off and the reality of my working and the permanence of aftercare had been difficult. I’d implemented a reward chart to keep us all headed in the right direction. And that direction led us to vermin. Well, the first choice would have been a feline but the regulations of complex-living restricted us. Fish were boring and died too easily and I have a parrot named Tequila who bites with more ferocity than her namesake. So in search of something cuddlier and hardier, we chose a rat, as I have never met a goodtempered hamster. My second little blonde was going to settle for a female fish to go with the blue male known as Seaside. He has outlived his red counterpart, Liquorice, only because he is actually the second Seaside to grace the tank… but unluckily for me, there were no females to be found,

resulting in a trip back to the rodent cages for a mouse. My darling ignored the cute variegated specimens with the ink drop eyes and chose one of the white ones with creepy red eyes that remind me of laboratories… and it’s hello to Stuart Speedy Joubert. As luck would have it, Stuart fits perfectly into Ben 10’s jet. Sorry Ben, your wings have been clipped. Stuart is king of the cockpit now, and boy did he make it his own. After the children were sound asleep, I found myself haunted by a pungent ammonia smell that did not seem cage-related. After an unpleasant treasure hunt I settled on the green jet. Opening the cockpit revealed the most toxic smell I’d been subjected to in years – mouse urine. While attacking the area with all of the brands of disinfectant in my possession, I wondered why this excretion has not been used in biological warfare. The toxicity of this tiny amount of fluid seems unreal and completely wasted. Whiskers Vernon, although at least three times the size of Stuart Speedy, was not nearly as talented in the art of stench warfare. It took some doing but the cockpit is clean and odour free – ready for Ben or Stuart to log some more frequent flyer miles. Whiskers and Stuart have settled in well. After having their cages cleaned, they spent the entire night tearing paper and rearranging their homes. I imagine they do this in quite a foul mood seeing as they have to do it on such a regular basis. But they knuckle down and get it done with their tiny paws and sharp teeth.

over to you it’s a sensitive topic In response to “spirituality and school” (April 2014): I feel that education and spiritually should be completely separate. Spirituality is a personal choice and, until you can make that choice for yourself, it is up to your parents to teach and guide you. Why then are people still putting this role into the hands of our educators? They are there to impart knowledge, not guide a child on a spiritual path. Some schools say they are not associated with a religion, yet they still read from religious scripture at assembly and pray. If you want to teach morals and good behaviour, do it. You don’t need religion to do so. Cheryl

apraxia awareness Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS) is a disorder that seriously interferes with a child’s ability to develop clear speech. CAS makes it difficult or impossible for an affected child to plan the movement of the lips, tongue or jaw, which is needed for speech. Children with CAS generally have a good understanding of language – they know what they want to say, but have difficulty learning or carrying out the complex movements that underlie speech. Apraxia is one of the most severe childhood speech and communication disorders. Wednesday, the 14th of May 2014 marks the second annual Apraxia Awareness Day. I want to bring awareness to our community about this speech problem in children because, although there is little that is known about the disorder, and it is still very misunderstood, it

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As much work as they are for us parents, I feel it is so important for children to grow up with pets. The happiness they bring outweighs the extra work and smelly side effects. I was pondering this thought when my gaze settled on the packet of rodent cubes. It read: “Rodent cubes fed to your rodent colony are an investment in the health and wellbeing of your reptiles.” Ag, shame man. Nicole

not just another glossy magazine We love the articles in Child magazine, not because we revel in others’ sorrow or problems, but because we learn to have patience when dealing with our struggles in raising a boy. Child magazine is not only a list of places to go to and things to buy and see with children, but a mini-book of stories on how to raise children. We do not always know where to go for help, but reading Child magazine is a primary source, and sometimes just a source of inspiration. If these folks can handle their problems, so can we. No skinny models on the front cover and no stories inside about great people doing great things, but triumphant stories about normal people overcoming their child-rearing issues. When the magazine comes out and we’ve read it from cover to cover, I make sure to take it to my paralysed mother-in-law. She loves reading it too. Helen

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has a huge impact on children and their families. Speech and communication are critical skills for young children to develop. We need to find ways of supporting affected children and their families, because speech therapy, the only proven treatment for apraxia, is quite costly and will extend over many years for these children. They must work and struggle so much more just to learn to speak, a skill that comes effortlessly to other children. My son, Evan, was diagnosed with apraxia in 2012 when he was two and a half years old. With the speech and occupational therapy that he has been receiving since his diagnosis, he has made significant progress, from not being able to say “mommy” at age three to now speaking in excess of five words consecutively. I have teamed up with two other moms of apraxic/dyspraxic children to start creating awareness in South Africa. We have created a Facebook page called “Apraxia Awarness South Africa” and intend to launch our website, aarsa.co.za on 14 May. Deidre Warner

lovely cover I love the April cover on Child magazine Durban... it is absolutely brillant. Love it, love it, love it. Vurishka

online feedback In response to “being classified” I am a divorced “single father”. I find it ridiculous that our child sees his parents at times in the same place

but “miles apart”. I would certainly have loved for it all to have been different, but it is not. I am trying now, as best I can, to embrace the “single parent” label. I travel abroad often with my child. I have been to Disney World in Florida and it was fantastic. This year though, for us, it’s Lapland for Christmas, just to prove once and for all, that Father Christmas really does exist. Take a trip and enjoy every moment with your children. JH In response to “active learning” My nine-year-old daughter and I use Google to learn about things. We do this as a team, so there is never any chance of viewing inappropriate material. We used YouTube to find out how to draw Olaf from the movie Frozen, and within minutes she had drawn a good likeness. Having a tablet is like having an entire library at home – wonderful. Heather T

erratum In the article “childhood depression” (April 2014), Linda Naidoo is credited as the director of Childline Durban. Naidoo is in fact a former director. We apologise for any inconvenience this error might have caused. subscribe to our newsletter and win Our wins have moved online. Please subscribe to our newsletter and enter our weekly competitions. To subscribe, visit childmag.co.za

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health

mirror, mirror… Many of Hollywood’s “beautiful people” are moulded and “chipped at” to look like angelic beings. MARINA ZIETSMAN finds out what we should do when our children start showing an interest in a beauty routine.

Puberty is all about raging hormones, when common changes such as the appearance of more body hair and acne occur. These can be very embarrassing and can also come with various stigmas, but there are ways to help minimise them. skincare routine Children should start with a skincare routine at around 11 to 13 years of age when puberty sets in, recommends Lindey Visser, general manager at the International Health and Skincare Academy in Cape Town. Visser advises that children use products that are age appropriate and do not contain alcohol. They should not use soap, which is a breeding ground for bacteria. Aline Venter, training manager for the Sorbet Group, adds that “boys should definitely also start a skincare routine”. She suggests that a pubescent use a cleanser, toner, moisturiser and sunscreen daily. “They can also exfoliate once a week and use a mask, and there is no harm in going for a facial once a month.” removal of facial and body hair If your child shows an interest in removing unsightly hair to avoid being teased by peers, it’s probably the right time to do something about it. But Dr Dagmar Whitaker, a specialist dermatologist in Cape Town, says one should probably not start hair removal before puberty. “If hair is soft and light, it is best left alone. Let girls enjoy some freedom before they get roped in by peer pressure,” she says. Waxing and

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shaving can cause ingrown hairs, infections and unsightly scarring, says Whitaker. The most popular hair removal method is shaving. “It is cheap, but has the highest risk of ingrown hair,” says Whitaker. It can also lead to a thickening of the hair shaft and the hair then becomes more visible than before. “Bad shaving habits can scar you for life. It can also cause a viral infection (plane warts), which can be most unattractive, so the proper technique and hygiene is of utmost importance,” says Whitaker. She adds that hair-removal creams are gentle, but stay away if you have eczema or sensitive skin. Venter opts for waxing as the long-term benefits are great, but this must be done professionally. Visser adds that laser therapy is the safest option, but must be done with a registered laser therapist. Young girls should not be concerned about getting pubic hair. “Pubic hair develops at the onset of hormonal changes, indicating the beginning of puberty. But the chances of developing ingrown hair is a lot higher when shaving the pubic area,” says Whitaker. She adds that the area is also more prone to infections and even the development of sebaceous cysts. “If one chooses to shave pubic hair, then meticulous hygiene is imperative.” The bottom line is to gauge what motivates this interest in hair removal. Speak to a professional to find the right method for an age-appropriate result.

other beauty treatments Spray tans are not recommended. Spray tanning has been banned in New Jersey in the US for children under 14 years old, as DHA-exposure (DHA is present in the most effective sunless tanning products) has not been tested properly by the US Food and Drug Administration. Pedicures and manicures are harmless, but if you do choose nail polish, use a water-based formula, as they are chemical-free.

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not thinking straight Momnesia – myth or malaise of motherhood? ANÉL LEWIS looks at possible causes of “porridge brain” during pregnancy.

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knew something was up when I found myself pushing my car key into the ticket slot at the mall’s parking pay station. I was four months pregnant, and it felt like my brain was in a thick fog. I would walk into a room and forget why I was there. And if I didn’t write it down, or put a reminder on my phone, it would be forgotten in the haze of what was once my memory. When I fell pregnant again, it was the forgetfulness that made my husband suspect another baby was on the way. But what causes this “porridge brain”, also known as pregnesia or momnesia, that so many women seem to experience during, and for some time after, their pregnancy? While there is plenty of anecdotal evidence suggesting that it’s a very real condition, there’s no conclusive scientific evidence that it exists. In fact, a 2012 study by the Medical Research Council Unit on Anxiety and Stress Disorders at Stellenbosch University suggests that a pregnant woman becomes even more alert, as she develops a heightened sensitivity to danger. Other studies found that lack of sleep and a shift in priorities may have something to do with the memory lapses.

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Louann Brizendine, director of the Women’s Mood and Hormone Clinic at the University of California, says the upsurge in progesterone and oestrogen can affect the neurons in the brain. The rush of oxytocin when a woman gives birth also affects the brain’s functioning, which could explain why the brain fog tends to linger after birth. Then there’s the evolution argument – that women simply develop temporary memory loss so that they can focus on their pregnancy and child. The American Psychological Association concluded that while pregnancy may have some mild effects on cognitive functioning, it was actually the expectation or stereotype that pregnant women are a bit addled that makes them think they have pregnesia. I’m sure the many new mothers who’ve found their TV remote in the fridge, or left the house wearing a face mask, would strongly disagree. Despite what the science says, the good news is that momnesia is not permanent, and within a year you should be back to your lucid self again.

in the meantime write it down – phone numbers, special dates and things you need to buy for your baby set reminders on your phone or computer to alert you store your car keys and wallet in a conveniently placed bowl so you know where to find them don’t procrastinate – the quicker you do something the less likely you are to forget about it use timers when cooking

you’re not alone • Nikki Homann of Cape Town says: “I was shopping for fabric softener and I saw those dryer sheets that you can use in the tumble dryer instead of putting softener in the washing machine, and thought I would try them. I got home, and took the box of dryer sheets through to the laundry… at which point I remembered that we didn’t own a tumble dryer.” • Georgia Millad, also from Cape Town, recalls how she unwittingly started putting items into someone else’s trolley while shopping. When she realised her mistake, she abandoned the trolley and “made a dash for it”.

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best for baby

wrap them with care Mothers have been doing it for centuries, yet the age-old practice of swaddling

ll eyes were on the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge when they first appeared in public with their baby – not only because it was the world’s first glimpse of him, but because he was seen swaddled. A favourite among nurses and nannies for lulling babies to sleep, swaddling has recently lost some of its lustre due to the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and hip dysplasia.

Proponents say that swaddling soothes babies and helps them sleep longer – especially if they suffer from colic. “Studies have shown that babies have more coordinated sucks and swallows when they are swaddled,” says Richardson, “so if your baby is a fussy feeder, keep him swaddled for the duration of the feed.”

risks benefits “Swaddling is the best way to imitate the tight hug of the womb environment,” says Ann Richardson, co-author of Baby Sense. “It provides deep-touch pressure and prevents your baby’s limbs from shooting out in a startle reflex – a common cause of night wakings.” Other experts agree. Registered nurse Cindy Homewood of the Bowwood Baby Clinic says the practice is very common in South Africa and for good reason. “Swaddling provides babies with the comfort, security and warmth they need,” she says.

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If you do decide to swaddle, it’s crucial that you do so correctly. Always place a swaddled baby on his back in the cot, never face down, to avoid the risk of SIDS. It’s also important not to wrap his legs straight. There should be enough room at the bottom of the blanket for him to bend his legs. “Improper swaddling by tightly wrapping your baby’s legs down straight may loosen the joints and damage the soft cartilage of the hip sockets, leading to hip dysplasia,” cautions Richardson. Another risk is overheating. Make sure the blanket is 100% cotton and avoid

using polyester or polar fleece wraps. If it’s hot, use a light muslin cloth so your baby remains cool. “It’s important that the swaddling blanket should keep the baby’s hands near his face in order to be able to soothe himself by sucking,” adds Homewood. “Previously the baby’s arms were pinned down at his sides or across his chest, which was frustrating. Another method of swaddling could be under his arms across his chest, therefore leaving his arms free.” Your baby will be ready to stop being swaddled between six and 12 months. “It’s a very individual decision as each child develops at his own pace,” comments Homewood. “Once the baby’s neurological system matures, he may not need the boundaries that swaddling provides.” Whether you use a cotton blanket or a custom-made swaddle, the benefits of swaddling are known. Any technique that helps your baby sleep better is worth considering, as long as you are mindful of the risks.

how to swaddle 1 Lie the blanket diagonally with the top corner folded over. Place the baby on the blanket with her hands close together in the midline near her mouth. 2 Wrap one side of the blanket across her body and tuck it in under her back and legs. 3 Fold the bottom end of the blanket up and tuck under the baby’s uncovered shoulder. Ensure enough room for her legs to move and bend. 4 Wrap the other side of the blanket over the opposite shoulder and tuck in around her body.

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is not without its detractors. KATHERINE GRAHAM investigates why.

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dealing with difference

how to deal with a

shy child

Shyness can hold a child back in our outgoing culture, but there’s much you

ost of us have experienced shyness – arriving at a dinner party where we don’t know a soul or facing a first day at work. We also know how important it is to be able to handle such situations and make social connections comfortably. So, having a child who clams up in company and clings, or who mumbles monosyllabic replies and retreats, can be disturbing. “My daughter would rather sit alone than make conversation with other children,” says Durban bookkeeper Janine* of her 11 year old. “At the school gala she was on tenterhooks wondering when she was going to be called to swim, but too shy to ask her teachers or her team-mates, who weren’t in her grade. She discovered afterwards she was just a reserve so she’d suffered for nothing.” Janine understands her daughter’s shyness – she experienced it herself as a child. “My dad died when I was five and my mom moved around, so we often changed schools and homes. I remember sitting at school with everyone talking around me and not feeling comfortable. I preferred to be on my own. I eventually got over it, but I don’t want that for my child.”

The causes are complex and unclear, and some researchers suggest they may include genetic factors or a chemical imbalance in the brain, but there is not enough proof of this, says Ladikos: “It’s rather a temperament trait.” Left untreated, acute shyness can restrict a child’s social development and education and impact their work and personal lives. It can even trigger co-morbid conditions, such as depression. “The low self-esteem that often goes with it may also predispose youngsters to substance abuse,” says Ladikos. These children need to be professionally assessed and treated as early as possible. They generally respond well to cognitive behavioural therapy that progressively exposes them to social situations. “Medication is usually not as successful, and should only be given when the anxiety is overwhelming and therapy is not producing success on its own,” says Ladikos. Most children, however, require only guidance and patience, outgrowing their shyness as they mature and acquire better social skills. There’s much parents can do to help.

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refrain “Calling a child ‘shy’ encourages them to define themselves that way and resist change,” says Patricia Tau, an educational psychologist at Sunshine Hospital in Benoni and Dalpark 6 in Brakpan. Rather tell them and other people that they can be “a bit reserved at first” but will “soon warm up”, she advises.

Being shy is not a fault, it’s largely a personality trait – part of being an introvert, says Pretoria psychiatrist Dr Annemarie Potgieter. In some cases it may be linked to a traumatic event or to life experiences, such as Janine’s. These children feel awkward in social situations, but once they become desensitised to them they usually relax, says child psychiatrist Dr Androula Ladikos, also from Pretoria. It’s only when they don’t, and extreme embarrassment or fear prevents them from socialising, that they need professional help. They may have an anxiety disorder or social phobia (though this usually shows up only in adolescence), or Asperger’s syndrome (an autism spectrum disorder that makes social interaction difficult).

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nurture Noticing a child’s needs from babyhood and responding to them teaches them to trust and feel secure, says Tau. Also, expose them early to the care of loving others, from relatives to baby-sitters, so they learn to trust them, says Ladikos. empathise Acknowledging how they feel without criticising builds confidence: “I know it can feel a bit scary magazine durban

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starting a conversation with someone you don’t know, but that’s how I’ve made all my friends.” Pushing them builds resistance: “Go on, don’t be silly, Mr X won’t bite!” Many parents need to be taught to resist the urge to say such things, says Tau. encourage “Encouraging and supportive parenting, where you allow a child to do things on their own without constantly correcting them, builds self-esteem, as opposed to controlled parenting,” says Ladikos. Also, help them to identify talents and interests that make them feel special, and develop them. “It gives them things to share with others, making it easier to connect,” says Tau. model Children learn most from watching us and role-modelling, says Ladikos. Smiling readily and making eye contact with others, greeting them, paying compliments, and chatting casually with check-out staff and car guards can all help foster a relaxed attitude to social interactions and teach your child social skills. “Also model tolerance, respect and forgiveness, as it teaches them that they don’t need to be perfect,” says Tau. facilitate Create opportunities for your child to socialise safely, stretching them slowly – from having one child over to play a few times, to having them visit that child, Tau suggests. Involve them in sport and cultural activities that interest them, from soccer to choirs, and remind teachers to involve them in class activities.

role play Ask what situations your child struggles with and act them out, from breaking into a play group to answering questions in class or coping with party nerves: “How would it be if you help serve the eats?” Also practise basic social skills, such as introductions, handshakes and making conversation. Suggest questions that they can ask, says Ladikos. respect Don’t put the child on the spot: “Go on, sing for your aunt. You really do it so well.” Ask them in advance if they want to and accept it if they decline, says Ladikos. Not all children are born performers. applaud Praise every attempt they make to socialise on their own, says Tau: “I know it wasn’t easy asking Siyabonga to play, but you’ll have fun. Well done.” Also teach them that failure is okay. It provides the feedback we need to grow. step back Whatever you do, don’t constantly speak for your child. It can be tempting when they’re shy, especially if you’re an extrovert. If someone addresses them, give them time to answer for themselves, Tau says, otherwise you are signalling that you don’t have confidence in them and could be keeping them from developing the very communication skills you want them to have. * Names have been withheld for privacy

don’t shy away ost children outgrow shyness, but get professional help if your child: M • avoids eye contact and interaction; • is socially isolated; • has learning or behavioural problems; • leaves others feeling uncomfortable in their presence and • has a family history of anxiety disorders, depression or substance abuse.

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parenting

choosing their friends We want to nurture and protect our children as much as we can, but we can’t live their lives for them.

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but none of it will really amount to anything if your child is unable to relate properly to themselves or to others. In many ways, these activities are largely secondary. The goal is to meet and make new friends, to share new experiences and to find out more about themselves. Parents have a vital role to play in teaching their children how to make choices, but that role does not extend to making those choices for them. That defeats the purpose of developing their ability to choose wisely. While it remains the parents’ responsibility to shield their children from destructive, harmful or threatening influences, which can include some of the friends they make, parents need to be cautious that they don’t dictate who their children’s friends should be.

learning to stand Most parents would agree that it’s their duty to nurture and protect their children. However, an equally important task is teaching them how to stand on their own two feet. Children do not naturally know how to look after themselves. The only way they are going to learn is by practice, before the real separation starts to happen when they are teenagers. Seven to 12 year olds are in the safest, most golden childhood years. This period of time in your child’s life is known as the “latency years” and is often misrepresented as a dormant phase during which nothing of great importance happens to them developmentally. This is simply not true.

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hen signing our children up to do swimming, cricket, horse riding, cooking, dancing, music or tapestry lessons, we tend to forget why we help them acquire these skills in the first place. The main reason is to help them develop into grown-ups who will one day leave home to pursue happy, successful lives of their own. Whether or not these lives will include their parents is largely dependent upon the parents’ ability to listen and talk to their children while they are growing up. Parents who get this right will hopefully build a relationship with their children that will last a lifetime. Having a child with a range of different skills, abilities and plenty of hobbies and pastimes may be laudable,

GARY KOEN explains.

Describing these years as “latent” is apt, because something is definitely happening to them beneath the surface. Children of this age group are sufficiently independent to be able to view and appreciate the outside world, yet they are still close enough to their families to feel safe and protected. During this time a wonderful blurring of boundaries occurs between themselves and this outside world, which is social and concrete and filled with so many more “things”. It is a truly delightful time as your child begins to discover, not only how they are able to engage with and influence the outside world, but also how the outside world can enrich their own internal life. It’s a time of great curiosity and learning when children acquire and put into practice all the skills they will need when faced with the challenges of real interpersonal relationships. During these years children need to be encouraged to identify and to act on their own needs and to discover their own power to fulfil them. This is a time to feel proud of themselves for trying something new, for joining in, for participating, for sharing and for appreciating their own abilities as well as those of others. All of these experiences will constellate and provide them with an anchor and a sense of direction. It is our hope for our children that they will start to develop minds of their own, so it’s vital that we do not take up too much of their lives with our own judgements and prejudices, because this will cut right across your child’s need to work these things out by themselves.

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natural separation The important thing to grasp is that the only way your child is going to learn how to look after himself is by separating from his parents. The most normal, natural way of doing this is by making his own friends. Parents who have tried to dictate who their children’s friends should be will find this essential aspect of being a teenager very threatening. They will end up feeling betrayed by their child’s natural need to separate and may even seek to undermine

It is during this time that children acquire and put into practice all the skills they will need when faced with the challenges of real interpersonal relationships. the appeal of the group. Some parents may even be secretly pleased when their children suffer setbacks and disappointments with their chosen circle of friends. They welcome the opportunity to expose the group as harmful and dangerous, and never hesitate to remind their teenager that their family must always come first. A teenager will become very anxious, resentful and even fearful if the message they receive is to choose between their friends and their family. If they are threatened

with being cut off from their family for making the “wrong” choice or they are told that their family can’t survive without them, this can severely cut across a teenager’s natural need to develop into a grown-up. If you have provided your child with a solid and safe family experience, it’s not necessary to remind them of the importance of their family. They will instinctively know and understand this. But the importance of family will be measured by how successful you are at helping your teenager grow and develop a separate and fulfilling life of their own. After all, how is your son or daughter ever supposed to start a family of their own if they are never allowed to separate from their own parents?

about the author Gary Koen is a clinical psychologist in private practice with over 20 years’ experience, working mainly with adults and adolescents. He also does presentations at schools on a range of teenagerelated topics. These include all the general aspects of normal adolescent development. He developed, and successfully runs a course, “An introduction to adolescence”, aimed at parents. He is also working on a book that deals with the challenges facing parents and teenagers and, as a father of three, he is heavily invested in everything he says. For more information, visit garykoen.co.za

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education

party politics There’s a lot to think about when planning a birthday celebration at school. CASSANDRA SHAW gives advice.

ask first While some schools celebrate birthdays in the classroom, others might not. So it’s important to contact your child’s school about their party policies. If they allow small celebrations, check if they have any limitations. Hawa Tayob from Elf Montessori Teacher Training says that they advise their educators to limit what parents can bring into the classroom so they don’t feel like it’s a competition. She feels that it’s important not to make parents with financial restraints feel uncomfortable and pressurised.

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longer be “cool”. To spare yourself, and your child, any embarrassment, why don’t you get your child to bake and bring in the cupcakes themselves? Liz says that’s what some of her Grade 7 to Grade 9 students do as most parents stop bringing things in once their children get to Grade 5 or 6.

special diets and allergies If you’re thinking of bringing something to eat, it’s a good idea to contact the school about their policies on allergies, as well as if there are any children with allergies or specific diets in your child’s class. Make your plans around these rules and try your best to accommodate everyone. Sonya says that if they have a student with a particular allergy, they “would ask parents to provide a little extra for this child”. Hawa suggests bringing alternatives such as a gluten-free cake. Ann Owgan, the headmistress at Brescia House Primary School in Joburg, says to make things easier at their school, parents are able to place orders for cupcakes with the tuck shop, which can be delivered to the class the morning of the birthday.

timing The classroom schedule is very important as it gives children a sense of order and structure to their day, says Hawa. Children seem to be more relaxed and calm if they know what to expect ahead of time. If you’re planning to bring something in, find out what time of day is best for the class. Like in most schools, Liz says that they ask parents to bring celebration goodies in the mornings, and that the items are kept in the school kitchen until break, when they will be distributed and the children will celebrate together. Sonya says that although the younger children tend to celebrate a little longer, her Class 5 students usually spend about 15 minutes having a birthday party.

Celebrations can come in all shapes and sizes, so find out how your child’s school celebrates, and what you can do to help out. Sonya le Roux, a Class 5 teacher at Constantia Waldorf School, says celebrations change from grade to grade. In Class 1, a child chooses two friends to help decorate their birthday table with items that are important to the birthday extras child: a cake, as well as a handmade gift Some parents like bringing party packs or item of nature from their teacher. The to the school. Check first to make sure child is given a birthday crown and, before the school allows them. Hawa says singing a birthday song and eating cake, that some schools she consults don’t. extra tips each child whispers a special birthday It’s also wise not to fill party packs • Check if the school has plates and cutlery. If not, provide them. wish into the child’s ear. In Class 5, the with overly sugary and unhealthy foods, • T o save costs and clean-up time, send cupcakes so only the cupcake wrappers children say aloud to the birthday child as some parents may not want their need to be dealt with. what they admire in them most. children eating them. Ann says that they • A void a mess: make a vanilla rather than a chocolate cake, or leave out the Hawa says they advise parents to try to limit snacks with a high sugar sticky, coloured icing. participate in “The Birthday Circle” – a content, and Belinda Brinckate, head of universal Montessori celebration of the the Ashlings Phase at Ashton International birthday, which may vary slightly from College in Ballito near Durban, says school to school. It focuses on the child’s personal life journey, highlighting milestones and their parents usually only include three or four small sweets and a party favour in their experiences. Parents are asked to bring photos of their child and write what their child did party bags. or enjoyed most at each age. Once the ceremony is completed, the class sings “Happy Birthday” and the birthday child offers a cupcake to those participating in the celebration. invitations At Abeille Ruche in Cape Town, founder principal Liz Simpson says that their classes For your child’s afterschool party, it’s advisable that you hand out the party invitations with pray for the birthday child in the morning; “Happy Birthday” is sung in three languages – care. If you can’t invite the whole class, Belinda says that the best way to distribute the English, Afrikaans and isiXhosa, and cake is shared. invitations is to do so outside of the school environment. Contact the school and ask for the other parents’ details so you can email or mail the birthday invitations. Alternatively, age appropriate only invite a small portion of students, or just the boys or just the girls in the class. Before you hit the shops, make sure you first ask your child how they feel about a party But don’t ever leave out only one or two individuals, says Liz. This could cause some at school. Once children reach a certain age, their mommy bringing in cupcakes may no hurt feelings.

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child’s birthday is an event that’s jam-packed with anticipation, fun, friends, laughter and joy, but most importantly, it’s a time to celebrate. Last year I was surprised when a mother from my son’s class brought in treats and party favours to celebrate her child’s birthday at school; especially since I knew they were throwing a party the following weekend. But as the year went on, I noticed that this was commonplace. And this year, my son’s teacher mentioned how much fun the children have celebrating their birthdays in class: they eat cake, their name gets put on the board, they sing “Happy Birthday” and take a group photo. The more I thought about it, the more it seemed like a great way to make your child feel special on their big day, and as parents we’re always trying to find ways to make them feel good about themselves. But it’s important to remember that every school is different, and each has their own rules and ways of celebrating. So, if you’re as clueless as I was, here’s a list of things to consider when preparing for your child’s next birthday celebration at school.

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May 2014

health

chew on this We know that processed foods are bad for us, but so many foods are made that way. VANESSA PAPAS dishes out the truth on what is acceptable and what should be avoided.

processed foods defined Food processing is the transformation of raw ingredients into food, or of food into other forms. Think of it as taking clean, harvested crops or animal products and using these to produce attractive and marketable food products, often with a long shelf life. While there are certain benefits of food processing – from toxin removal and preservation to food consistency – there are many more disadvantages. “As a general rule of thumb, processed food is anything that has sugar as one of the top three ingredients (or high fructose corn syrup), has been chemically altered from its natural state, has ingredients you cannot pronounce and has colours not found in nature,” explains Vanessa Ascencao, a nutritionist and wellness speaker from Cape Town. “The more refined something becomes the less it is in its natural whole-food state and therefore loses some, if not all, of its nutrient value. A good example is oats. What we eat when we eat quick-cooking oats is actually far from what the oat groat looks like and the nutritional value it contains.” The same can be said for white flour, processed sugar and fruit juices, says Ascencao. A number of chemicals and additives are found in processed foods, which is why it’s important to read the ingredients on the packaging. Anything with the letter “E”, followed by a number, indicates an additive. Parents should be especially mindful of tartrazine (a synthetic lemon yellow azo dye – E102) found in fizzy

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drinks, ice creams, sweets, chewing gum, jam, yoghurt and certain infant medicines. Tartrazine is known to cause anxiety, migraines, asthma attacks, blurred vision, eczema, other skin rashes, thyroid cancer, Eosinophilia (increase in specific forms of white blood cells), clinical depression, ADHD or hyperactivity, hives, permanent DNA damage, heart palpitations, rhinitis, sleep disturbances/insomnia, general all-over weakness, hot flushes and OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).

destroys nerve cells in the brain, inhibits natural growth hormones and also causes obesity. Sometimes it’s tricky to see what foods contain MSG, so parents should look out for words such as monosodium glutamate, free glutamate, hydrolysed protein, autolysed yeast, yeast extract, caseinate, and natural or artificial flavours, as all of these can be indicators of MSG,” says Ascencao. There are other foods that should be avoided, such as chocolate, crisps,

The typical chicken nugget bought at a fast food outlet often contains more than 50% fat and more carbs than protein. unappetising additives Some of the most commonly consumed food products by children are ironically some of the most “chemically laden”: chicken nuggets, soft drinks, hot dogs, burgers and fries, sugary cereals, doughnuts, crisps and certain yoghurts. “Food experts claim chicken nuggets are at the pinnacle of industrialised foods,” says Ascencao. “While you may think that chicken nuggets are mostly protein, the typical chicken nugget bought at a fast-food outlet often contains more than 50% fat and more carbs than protein. The vast majority of hot dogs and other highly processed meats on the market contain loads of salt (often labelled ‘sodium’), artificial flavours and cheap unhealthy fillers,” says Ascencao. She adds that most soft drinks include artificial sweeteners, which can alter brain neurochemistry and increase insulin levels, leading to obesity, gallstones, gum disease and cavities, bloating, migraines, arthritis, fatigue, weight gain, breast cancer, cardiovascular disease and lowered immune function. “MSG – a food enhancer added to a number of foods attractive to children –

porridge and cornflakes, as these often contain something called GMOs (plants or animals that have had their DNA modified). GMOs can increase food toxicity, allergy susceptibility, immune suppression, resistance to antibiotics, and the incidence of cancer. Takeaway outlets are notorious for serving foods fried in oil that has been used and left to cool and then re-heated and used again. The oil is often treated with something called butylated hydroxyanisole (BHA) and butylated hydroxytoluene (BHT), which prevents fat spoilage. BHA and BHT can cause insomnia in children and longterm health issues, including liver and kidney damage, baldness, behavioural problems, cancer, foetal abnormalities, and even growth retardation. Other preservatives commonly found in foods include sodium nitrate and nitrite (added to canned foods and many cold meats), which can cause colon cancer, and partially hydrogenated vegetable oil, commonly found in foods such as crackers, cookies, cakes, doughnuts and French fries. It’s associated with heart disease, breast and colon cancer, atherosclerosis and elevated cholesterol.

good to know • Vitamin C is destroyed by heat and therefore canned fruits have a lower content of vitamin C than fresh ones. • Processed foods are high in refined sugar, which suppresses the immune system, causes hyperactivity, and affects blood-sugar levels, which affects your child’s ability to concentrate and focus, and their overall mood. • When wholegrains are refined, the bran and the coat of the grain are often removed. Some nutrients are lost, most significantly fibre.

foods to avoid Processed foods made with trans fats, saturated fats and large amounts of sodium include: • canned foods with large amounts of sodium or fat; • pasta meals made with refined white flour; • packaged high-calorie snack foods such as crisps, chocolates and sweets; • frozen fish sticks and frozen dinners high in sodium; • packaged cakes and cookies; • boxed meal mixes that are high in fat and sodium; • sugary breakfast cereals and • processed meats.

healthy non-processed/ less-processed foods • fruits and vegetables; .• organic oats, quinoa and brown rice; • coconut milk and almond milk; • good fats (almonds, sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds); • home-made chocolates (less dairy and sugar); • dips using hummus or mashed avo; • gluten-free or rye bread; • oat cakes; • free-range eggs, chicken and meat and • omega 3-rich fish such as salmon, sardines and pilchards. magazine durban

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ithout processed foods our grocery stores would look very different to what we’re used to. Think bright, fresh, colourful vegetables and fruits; organic gluten-free wholegrains; less plastic, tins and cardboard boxes; freshly caught wild fish; and organic eggs and dairy. Instead, when shopping for our family, we’re faced with chemically-laden, mass-produced and sugar-filled aisles.

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with money in hand Parents should think twice about the luxuries their children leave home with, advises PAUL KERTON.

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f I gave your daughter, whether 10 or 17 years old, R10 000 in cash and said, “Please give this money to your mother for me,” before dropping her off at the bus stop, you would think I’d lost my mind. Nobody – not even grown-ups – carry that much cash on them. Yet every day, thousands of children are doing just that – walking around with a cellphone, tablet or laptop worth R10 000. When the school bell rang the other day, I watched as children poured out of a typical school in a “good area”. The children were 11 to 15 years old and I’d guess that more than half of them had a very slick cellphone in their hand. One 11 year old walked past my car with the latest iPhone 5s, her eyes trancelike, fixated on

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the screen in the classic default position – totally unaware of her surroundings. The latest iPhone 5s 64GB costs an eye-watering R15 000. Older models are between R6 000 and R8 000, and lesser brand smartphones clock in at R4 000 to R6 000. A MacBook Pro is between R13 000 and R18 000. A good tablet is approximately R5 000. These figures are astonishing. The trouble now is that the technology is so advanced; it’s all squeezed into one hand-held unit, and mobiles are seriously expensive luxury items. We have lost the argument that they are not an integral part of our lives. Cellphones have gone from a “nice-to-have” to an “extra part of our brain”. And we are seemingly lost without them. Everybody wants to have the latest model. But not everybody can afford one,

which means that some people prefer to take everybody else’s, either for their own use, or to sell on. Last month, for the first time in 20 years of living in South Africa, I was mugged when two guys with knives “jumped” me at a railway underpass. It was stupid of me to walk there knowing that the station staff had gone home. They took my smartphone, but luckily I was unharmed. Just last week, however, a schoolboy had his throat slit outside a school in Somerset West for his cellphone. Incredibly, he survived. If it is any consolation, it is not only a South African problem, but a global one. In Syracuse, New York, cellphone thefts are up by 64% in a year and they even refer to it in street slang as “apple picking”.

Every phone has a unique ID: the International Mobile Equipment Identity (IMEI) number. The authorities, the phone companies and service providers could do something about it if they felt like it. They could kill the trade in second-hand phones by blocking stolen phones, immediately rendering them unusable. For instance, they could track my stolen phone right now to within 10 metres if they wanted to. The question is, do they really want to? And if not, why? As cellphones become ever more sophisticated and expensive, government needs to act to force cellphone companies to respond. At the moment nobody could care less. And our children are prime targets. Follow Paul on Twitter: @fabdad1

May 2014

your child’s life

girl world The queen bee – your daughter needn’t become one nor be victim to

one when you provide for her emotionally. By LUCILLE KEMP

he’s no longer invited to parties, she’s on the receiving end of sarcastic comments and has been deleted from the BBM group; she’s slowly being ejected by her own friends. This was the case with Lauren, Grade 8, who was bullied by Beth, a girl she had been friends with since Grade 5. She became so depressed, as a result, that she refused to go to school. This scenario is rife among girls at preadolescent age, when they are entering into “girl world”, which is often dominated by cliques led by queen bees – those girls in a position of power over their peers. Cape Town-based psychologist Mareli Fischer says queen bee behaviour is described as relational aggression, a subtle form of bullying. Rosalind Wiseman, in her book Queen Bees and Wannabes, illustrates the problem with this remark from a 12 year old: “Yes, we’re exclusive, but it’s just popularity. I’m the queen, but I’m not mean. People exclude themselves. Nobody has the power to do that. I’m perfect and I’m not in denial.” From early on, Beth stood out as the leader, the trendsetter, the one with the best ideas. She also controlled all decision making for the group and would punish, ridicule or ignore anyone who disagreed with her, outshone her academically or in sport, and received too much attention from a boy. Beth decided who was allowed in the group, where they would spend break times and what kinds of activities were desirable for them to participate in. And the group fell in line. Lauren, being more an observer than a leader, found it difficult to stand up to Beth because, while Beth railroaded everyone, being friends with her brought Lauren status, popularity and a social compass. In an emotionally mature world, behaviour such as this carries no weight because friends value kindness and loyalty over being cool, pretty and popular. Until then, however, “friendship” with a queen bee can be devastating to your daughter – the not-a-girl, not-yet-a-woman.

boys. It is easy to miss, leaving everyone feeling confused as to what really just happened. Listen to girls who tell you that there’s a problem; don’t dismiss it or doubt what you saw.

do as I do So, what causes your sweet girl to grow into a bully? Fischer speaks about a dysfunction in making friends, which is a developmental skill. “Today’s children grow up with fewer siblings and opportunities for unstructured play and less freedom to explore friendships than that of children a decade ago,” she says. Also, a popular parenting style today promotes a high sense of individual entitlement ahead of getting along with others. Parents often focus on their child’s academic skills and can quite easily neglect social skills, which results in a self-centred child. Children are quite egocentric, says Fischer, and parents are the first teachers of empathy, which is needed to successfully negotiate the many social situations they will find themselves in. Giving reasons for the rules you enforce and offering explanations for your decision making, can result in children who cooperate, share and initiate positive social connections. “Although girls see the adult world as far removed from theirs, they’re watching us. Model what it looks like to enjoy positive relationships, deal with conflict constructively, maintain healthy individuality and make good choices,” states Muir. By observing how you share, support and communicate respectfully with people outside your family, as opposed to disregarding them or behaving in an exclusive way, your children are likely to do the same. Setting a good example is an unwritten rule that extends, of course, to all the adults in a child’s life. When the guidance counsellor at Lauren and Beth’s school was alerted to the bullying, she thought to take a step back and remind the girls in the grade about sisterhood and how women should collaborate with and celebrate each other.

dealing with it … the victim It can be difficult to tell when your child is being led by a queen bee because during the preteen years girls tend to be more in the presence of their friends than their parents, says Kathryn Muir, resident psychologist at a private all-girls school in Joburg. Listen to your intuition. Out of her own adolescent feelings of awkwardness and ineptitude, you may sense a loss of individuality and values and an almost obsessive “needing” what a particular girl or group has. Her words are not her own and you may see her being mean or acting in a way that you never expected of her. She may also withdraw, seem down and confused, and struggle to pinpoint situations that made her feel uncomfortable. Doubting herself is true of the girl being targeted by the queen bee. … the queen bee It’s important to note that a queen bee label is not an attack on a strong personality, but rather on bad behaviour. “There is nothing wrong with being popular, admired and socially adept; rather it becomes an issue when the particular girl uses these admirable qualities in ways that are hurtful and destructive,” points out Cape Town psychologist Gary Koen. Although parents play a vital role in managing this issue, the classroom and playground may be the best place to gauge queen bee behaviour. Muir highlights that teachers should be alert for subtle, nonverbal behaviour such as rolling eyes, a sideways glance, a sarcastic look, turning a back on another, sending notes and excluding others. Be aware of girls who are able to persuade other girls. Muir says, “Call this behaviour inappropriate just as you would when a child swears at or hits someone.” The bullying is not as overt as it often is with

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Take the situation seriously but deal with it calmly, showing compassion while being firm. Whether your child is the bully or the bullied, your job is to empower your child by equipping them emotionally. “I’m going to call you on it.” Name her behaviour as you see it. “When you roll your eyes at Samantha, it’s like you’re saying ‘You’re pathetic’, and that’s not on.” Let’s build a strong inner life. This means developing a healthy self-esteem and strong intuition. When your daughter is comfortable with who she is deep down, without feeling reliant on her looks, talent or a particular skill, she may feel more secure about her place in the world. Confidence is your friend. Bullying ends when she takes responsibility for herself and moves away from the clique. Behaviour you can respect. Model appropriate behaviour, especially when you feel angry, disappointed and threatened, and ensure you aren’t engaging in bullying yourself. Don’t abuse Facebook. Monitor their social media interactions and intervene with a timeout, if needed. “I get it.” Try to grasp your daughter’s world; ask questions and show a real interest in her experience. Don’t lecture. “I won’t make threatening calls to the school.” Do not coerce your child into a course of action – that is no different to being the queen bee. Talk and walk assertively. Show her she can be firm without being mean. Express your emotions. She should express anger in a direct manner and not underhandedly. Seek a more accepting friendship circle. Ask her to identify the characteristics of a good friend. magazine durban

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Olive Tree Events A provider of Disney and licensed party supplies. Upper Highway. Contact: 078 236 6077 or olivetreevents@gmail.com Parties4Africa An online party shop. Nationwide delivery. Contact: 073 942 1730 or visit parties4africa.co.za Party Dazzle They supply party and event decor, including LED and fairy lights, and balloons. North Coast. Contact: 082 854 6627, 071 670 2030, tanya@partydazzle. co.za or visit partydazzle.co.za Party Dezign Stockists of party ware, costumes and themed party ranges. Hillcrest. Contact: 031 765 4842, 083 771 6717, partydz@gmail.com or visit partydezign.co.za Partylicious Find all your party essentials including speciality cakes, party packs, baking supplies, costumes and helium balloons. Kloof Village Mall, Kloof. Contact: 083 645 5426 or hanliemaleham@telkomsa.net Party Packs and Piñatas Makes themed party packs, and supplies piñatas and jelly cameras. Nationwide. Contact: 087 805 9977, 082 683 5766, info@ partypacksandpinatas.co.za or visit partypacksandpinatas.co.za Piñata and Balloon Africa They can make any design and R250 includes a decorated stick and 200 sweets. Nationwide. Contact: 082 457 2276, mgwyther@mweb.co.za or visit pinatas.co.za Polkadots and Jellytots Stylish children’s parties, celebrations and party supplies. Umhlanga. Contact: 084 356 8279, polkadotsandjellytots@hotmail.com or visit polkadotsandjellytots.co.za Pretty Little Party They design and make party stationery, and have a range of printables. Countrywide. Contact: 084 586 2370, 082 410 9719 or visit prettylittleparty.co.za Sensation Lab Manufactures and hires out Bedoiun tents, dance floors, marquees, party decor and event lights. Nationwide. Contact: 011 023 5940, info@sensationlab.co.za or visit sensationlab.co.za Sky Toys They sell a wide variety of balloons, including plain, printed, novelty, foil and helium balloons. Nationwide.

Contact: 011 837 3924, info@skytoys. co.za or visit skytoys.co.za Stick With Us Design and printing of personalised party stationery including invitations, thank-you stickers and cards, party box stickers and more. Contact: 082 377 0513 or mandy@stickwithus.co.za Sunshine Parties Get designed party printables, including bunting, digital invitations, cupcake toppers and food labels. Contact: 031 764 6350, parties@sunshineshabby.com or visit sunshineshabby.com or etsy.com/shop/ SunshineParties The Crazy Store Offers a wide range of party essentials. Stores nationwide. Contact: info@crazystore.co.za or visit crazystore.co.za The Toy Factory Shop Importers, retailers and wholesalers of branded and non-branded toys at low prices. Pinetown, Springfield, Amanzimtoti or Hillcrest. Contact: 031 701 2968 or visit thetoyfactoryshop.co.za Tony Miller Promotions Provides jumping castles, balloons, party packages and more. Contact: 031 205 2074, 082 906 5450, lalitha@tonymiller.co.za or visit tonymiller.co.za Willow Custom Prints They create personalised invitations and party printables in any theme. Contact: willowcustomprints@gmail.com or visit willowcustomprints.etsy.com

animal parties Crocodile Creek Children’s parties include various options, such as paintball, bush adventure trail with reptile discovery and a bush party area. Ballito. Contact: 082 920 0730, crocodilecreek@ mweb.co.za or visit crocodilecreek.co.za Flag Animal Farm Birthday parties include a venue, setup, a pony ride for each child, a present for the birthday child and clean up. The indoor play centre is available for hire. Ballito. Contact: 032 947 2018 or visit flaganimalfarm.co.za Phezulu Safari Park Offers a party room, playground and tour through the crocodile and snake park. Party packages, a private Zulu dance, safari drive and other extras available. Botha’s Hill. Contact: 031 777

1000, info@phezulusafaripark.co.za or visit phezulusafaripark.co.za Reptile Party Time This travelling reptile show includes reptile-themed party packs and a photo shoot. Contact: 074 885 7651, reptilepartytime@yahoo.com or visit reptilepartytime.co.za The Animal Farmyard There are two undercover party areas with nearby playgrounds. Ask about Bush Buddies boot camp parties and Wonderland craft parties. Botha’s Hill. Contact: 031 765 2240, 082 979 6030, jenny@animalfarmyard.co.za or visit animalfarmyard.co.za The Cockatoo Café This party venue at the Umgeni River Bird Park offers several packages, which include entrance and a bird show, weather permitting. Contact: 031 579 3377 or neetu.arjun@gmail.com Winsome View Animal Farm and Country Bistro Parties can be indoors or outdoors, catered or self-catered, and include animal interaction and pony rides. Extras available. Summerveld. Contact: 031 769 1500, 076 870 0356, info@winsomeview.co.za or visit winsomeview.co.za

art and craft parties 4 Craft Sake Get mosaic or paint kits with guidelines. Craft birthday parties held at uShaka Marine World. Contact: 073 412 4366, michelle@4craftsake.co.za or visit 4craftsake.co.za Artbeat Studios Children are shown painting techniques and get their own canvas to create a masterpiece to take home. Musgrave. Contact: 031 209 3710, 082 881 9223, artbeat@mweb.co.za or visit facebook.com/pages/Artbeat-Studios Bambury Stocks a range of sticky mosaics. Nationwide delivery. Contact: 083 680 5976, nikiw@bambury.co.za or visit bambury.co.za Cool Kidz | Crafty Kidz They offer crafty kits for children. Nationwide postage. Contact: 079 873 0546, info@coolkidz. co.za or visit coolkidz.co.za Just Imagine Mosaics Mosaic parties at your home for children 5 years and older. Minimum 10 children. Contact: 083 782 7810 or sheila.nichol@gmail.com

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Just Kidding Around Children 6 years and older can create cards, bag tags or jewellery with Perler beads. Kits are available or contact an agent to host your party. Nationwide. Contact: 031 562 0200, 082 856 8140, julie@justkiddingaround. co.za or visit justkiddingaround.co.za Kidz Only Throw your own sandart party with their home kit, or get various packs. Nationwide delivery. Contact: 083 453 4032, admin@kidzonly.co.za or visit kidzonly.co.za Sandart R600 includes table, sand, 20 cards, delivery and collection. R10 per card thereafter. Umhlanga to Durban North. Contact: 083 656 1901, leanne.vanrensburg@kcc.com or visit sandart.co.za Wendy’s Perler Beads They’ll bring everything you need for a Perler beading party, and host it for you. Minimum 10 children. Contact: 076 608 9239 or wendy@mx.co.za

cakes and catering Baby Cakes Offers a wide range of cakes, from novelty cakes to cupcakes. Westville. Contact: 072 647 7276, tanja@babycakesonline.co.za or visit babycakesonline.co.za Baker Belle Order novelty cakes, themed cupcakes, cake pops, tarts and more, baked with fresh ingredients. Contact: 076 969 7359, info@bakerbelle.co.za or visit facebook.com/pages/Baker-Belle Ballina Ice Cream They supply natural ice cream in nine different flavours. They also offer ice-cream cakes or have a “learn how to make your own ice cream” party. Alverstone. Contact: 071 226 8032, samantha@ballina.co.za or visit ballina.co.za Bella and Boo Hire a mobile unit and have frozen yoghurt on tap at your party. You choose your flavours. Contact: 082 922 5186 or mobile@bellaandboo.co.za Bon Moment Bakers Specialising in decorated cookies for children’s birthday parties. Hillcrest; courier nationwide. Contact: bonmomentbakers@ iafrica.com or visit facebook.com/ BonMomentBakers

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Cakes by Aliya Specialises in novelty and 3-D cakes. Contact: 072 259 2519 or aliya.mahomed@gmail.com Cake Queens Specialising in novelty, character and photo cakes, cupcakes and cookies. Reservoir Hills. Contact: 071 795 5743, 083 985 8391, designercakes7@ gmail.com or visit cakequeens.co.za Cake Rite Images They do edible prints on icing sheets, rice paper and chocolates. Musgrave. Contact: 072 938 9550 or cakeriteimages@gmail.com Cakes by Ange Freshly baked children’s cakes and cupcakes. Durban North and surrounds. Contact: 084 515 6203, noonie@telkomsa.net or visit facebook. com/cakesbyange Cakes by Farzana Rangila Cakes made to order. Contact: 083 384 1008 or cakedreamz786@gmail.com Carol’s Home Industries Get cakes, cupcakes and platters for birthday parties. Glenwood. Contact: 031 202 3039, carolannettecakes@gmail.com or visit carolscakes.co.za Crazy Cakes They create beautiful cakes for all occasions. Contact: 031 463 2741, 084 880 2253 or candice.leth@yahoo.com Crunchy Munchy Homemade biscuits in assorted flavours, biscotti and shortbread. Berea. Contact: 031 201 3424, 072 356 7315 or leonafaulkner@telkomsa.net Cupcake Mom Homemade cakes, cookies and cupcakes are freshly made from quality ingredients. Upper Highway, delivery charge for Durban. Contact: 071 112 3381, enquiries@cupcakemom.co.za or visit cupcakemom.co.za Delite Foods Offers sugar-free, low-fat sweets, jellies, biscuits and chocolate drinks. Order online. Nationwide. Contact: 021 702 0721/2, info@delitefoods.co.za or visit delitefoods.co.za Extra Yum Cakes Get novelty cakes, cupcakes, themed cakes, bites and more. Durban and surrounds. Contact: 031 767 0704, 082 747 9738, tva_pr@ global.co.za or visit extrayumcakes. wozaonline.co.za/home House of Treats Bakes various cakes including image cakes. Glen Anil. Contact: 031 566 1194 or sales@houseoftreats.co.za Huberto’s They make ice-cream cakes for any occasion. Waterfall. Contact: 031

766 2595, admin@hubertos.co.za or visit hubertos.co.za Iced ’n Sliced Specialising in cakes and cupcakes for all occasions. Westville. Contact: 031 266 2037, 072 234 7455, icednsliced.dbn@gmail.com or visit icedsliced.blogspot.com It’s a Cake! They make any cake for any occasion. Westville. Contact: 072 452 4527, itsacake2@gmail.com or visit itsacake.co.za Kauai Wholesome food available in large enough quantities for any party. Stores countrywide. Contact: 021 552 0222 or visit kauai.co.za Kezbear Creations Themed tables are decorated with a variety of cakes, pops, biscuits and more. Contact Kerry: 072 150 2962 or luceykerry@gmail.com Mixies Cake Deco Get cakes, cupcakes, party favours, push pops and edible prints. Contact: 071 421 4555, mixiescakedeco@gmail.com or visit mixiescakedecor.wozaonline.co.za Pizza Boyz Makes huge pizzas that feed up to 20 children. Contact Umhlanga: 031 566 5428 or Durban North: 031 564 2732, info@pizzaboyz.co.za or visit pizzaboyz.co.za Sugar-free TLC Find sugar-free cakes, cupcakes, biscuits and desserts, and dairy-, gluten- and egg-free cakes and desserts. Suitable for diabetics. Durban delivery available. Contact: 082 601 6552, tracy@sugarfree-tlc.co.za or visit sugarfree-tlc.co.za Supacakes Their creations include gourmet and novelty cakes and cupcakes at affordable prices. Nationwide. Contact: info@supacakes. co.za or visit supacakes.co.za Sweets and Biscuits Unlimited Party goods, novelty toys, sweets, biscuits, cold drinks, party packs and buckets are available. Pinetown. Contact: 031 702 5168 or unlimited@yebo.co.za Taylor Made Cakes Order any cake, from box cake to single tier novelty cakes, or cupcakes for your event. Contact: 083 609 7152 or wcgmouse@live.co.za The Cake Shack Cakes to fit all occasions and themes. Ballito to Durban North. Contact: info@thecakeshack.co.za or visit thecakeshack.co.za

cooking parties Cooking Kids Parties Invitations, birthday cakes, goodie bags and eats for parents can be supplied. Kloof. Contact: 031 764 6577, meryl@merylschoolofcooking.co.za or visit merylschoolofcooking.co.za Little Cooks Club New exciting cooking themes available such as spade to spatula, kids vs kitchen, liquorice and lime, frosting and fondant, and more. For children 2–15 years old. Contact: headoffice@littlecooksclub.co.za or visit littlecooksclub.co.za Sugar Me Kids’ Parties Children can decorate cupcakes and cookies to match the theme. Held at your venue. Contact: 072 837 9198 or laundermaria@gmail.com Tots n Pots Tailor-made baking parties, including Junior MasterChef, ladies high tea, teddy bears’ picnic, and chef of the day. Contact: angie@totsnpots.com or visit totsnpots.co.za

educational parties Greensleeves Take a medieval tour and experience an authentic medieval meal. Camelot, Hillcrest. Contact: 031 765 9400 or greensleeves@camelotcastle.co.za Secret Lab Children learn about science in a fun way. They see how to grow sugar crystals or write an invisible message. Contact Lidia: 079 340 8212 or Katya: 076 201 6958 or secretlabinafrica@gmail.com The KZN Science Centre Affordable party packages are available in a fun and educational lab room. Gateway. Contact: 031 566 8040, education@kznsc.org or visit kznsc.org The Menagerie Children learn about animals and get the chance to see and touch some of them. Contact: 031 464 1828, 072 215 6368 or themenagerie@ telkomsa.net Toby Tower Find creative activities, stickers and more for party favours or edutainment. Nationwide. Contact: 0800 220 488, tobytower@pyrotec.co.za or visit tobytower.co.za Treasure Beach Explore the shores along Treasure Beach under the

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supervision of qualified guides. Boma areas available. Bluff. Contact: 031 467 8507/8, tbeachadmin@wessakzn.org.za or visit treasurebeach.co.za

entertainers Absolute Parties DJ, sound and lighting hire. Contact: 031 404 7360, 031 792 0448, 078 244 7012, stanton@absoluteparties.co.za or visit absoluteparties.co.za Adrian Smith – The Magician Specialising in birthday parties. Contact: 071 837 1731, magic@themagician.co.za or visit themagician.co.za Big Top Entertainment Magic and circus shows, face painting, balloon twisting, stilt walking and games. Contact: 031 811 4145, info@bigtop.co.za or visit bigtop.co.za Blue Flame Events and Branding Specialists They offer face painters, balloon twisters, jumping castles and more. Nationwide. Contact: 072 599 2288, info@bflame.co.za or visit bflame.co.za Cherry the Magical Clown See juggling, puppet stories, balloon sculpting, face painting and a magician, fairy show and mime. Contact: 031 201 2515, 083 725 0925 or adi@cherryco.co.za Clamber Club Parties Mobile obstacle course party entertainment for children 1–9 years old. Nationwide. Contact: 011 325 2031, headoffice@clamberclub.com or visit clamberclub.com Clowns 4 Joy! Get face painting, balloon sculpting, party games, jumping castles, bubble machines, decor and more. Contact: 031 764 7764, familycare@futurenet.co.za or visit familycaredurban.co.za Clowns for Africa They have clowns, do balloon modelling, face painting, a magic show and games. Travel costs apply outside Upper Highway area. Contact: 079 079 2059 or clowns4africa@gmail.com Clowns R Us Offers clowns, face painting, stilt walkers, magicians, pamper parties and more. Contact: 031 765 8240, 082 491 2583 or clowns@post.com Dilly the Clown With magic, balloon animals, juggling, and drama and parachute games, offered with the clowning package or as a separate package. Contact: 082 574 3230 or dillytheclown@iburst.co.za Face painting, make-up and special effects For children’s parties. Contact: 074 804 9289 or amykarsen@gmail.com Gaby’s Make-up Artistry Choose from a variety of party packages including face painting, games, art and crafts or a pamper party. Glenwood. Travel allowance may apply. Contact: 082 701 0300 or gabysmakeupartistry@gmail.com Gerard the Clown Events and Entertainment For clowns and magic shows, children’s rides, carnival games and more. Contact: 012 687 5179, 082 979 1534, gerard@gerardtheclown. co.za or visit gerardtheclown.co.za, carnivalgames.co.za or kulkuns.co.za Jewel Events For party planning, decor and clown shows. Contact: 082 356 4144, 084 923 5980 or jewelevents08@gmail.com

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Kiddies’ Karate Parties Children 5–12 years old learn basic karate in a fun way. Durban North to Umhlanga. Contact: 082 777 1755 or derekkrummeck@gmail.com PhotoBooth Inc Packages include unlimited duplicates of photo strips, an operator, props and a DVD with the photos. Contact: 083 377 9449, rob@photoboothinc.co.za or visit photoboothinc.co.za Princess, fairy and character parties at your castle, or anywhere Plus get games, balloon sculpting, a treasure hunt and more. Durban and surrounds. Contact: 082 808 5128 Puppet World Interactive puppet show with music, lighting and characters to suit your theme. Contact: 031 767 0920, 082 808 0057 or heather@puppetworld.co.za Rico the Clown Offers a magic show, juggling, face painting, games and more. Contact: 031 464 4718, 082 459 1797 or ricotheclown@telkomsa.net The Guy in the Green Shorts Runs children’s Zumba parties. Contact: 083 548 5187, gianfranco.human@gmail.com or visit theguyinthegreenshorts.blog.com The Incredible Dog Show A dog show for the entire family. Nationwide. Contact: 084 500 0415, lloyd@dogzcool.com or visit dogzcool.com Vuzu Entertainment For magicians, jugglers, stilt walkers, dance teachers or bootcamps, and more. Contact: 031 564 2879, info@vuzuentertainment.co.za or visit vuzuentertainment.co.za

equipment for hire Apollo Jumping Castles Hire jumping castles and water slides, including delivery and collection in Upper Highway area. Contact: 084 655 5015, c.froise@ telkomsa.net or visit adguide.co.za/apollo Funcastles Rents out jumping castles, water slides and mini tables and chairs. Contact: 083 555 1689 or spitcastle@gmail.com Have a Ball Zorb Ball hire for children 5 and older. Balls need at least 10 metres to roll. Durban North to Ballito. Contact: 079 690 6435, info@haveaball.co.za or visit haveaball.co.za Highway Jumping Castles Hire includes delivery, setup and collection. Hillcrest. Contact: 081 035 0096, 083 227 3230 or hjcastles@gmail.com Jolly Jumpers Jumping castles for hire. Contact: 082 306 6996, jollyjumpers@ vodamail.co.za or visit jollyjumpers.co.za Just 4 Fun Jumping Castles Products are in a good condition, and deliveries are owner supervised. Upper Highway. Contact: 082 540 7806, aniensearle@mweb.co.za or visit just4funjumpingcastles.co.za KZN Inflatables Offers giant slides, Zorb balls, mechanical bull, jumping castles and more. Contact: 083 262 5131, 082 877 8662, gail@kzninflatables.co.za or visit kzninflatables.co.za Milamoo Soft Play Hire Provides a softplay hire service, for children 6 months– magazine durban

4 years old. Contact: 076 596 3888, milamoo.info@gmail.com or visit facebook.com/mmsoftplay Party Wizard There are jumping castles, a 12m water slide, a Giant Wave slide and party equipment. Pinetown. Contact: 084 614 6055 or info@partywizard.org Party Zone Hire Stocks more than 120 jumping castles, a train on tracks, mechanical bull, go-karts and merry-gorounds. Includes a helicopter ride. Does foam parties. Contact: 083 685 5577 or hamod@webmail.co.za Peekaboo Soft Play Hire The soft-play equipment allows children 0–4 years old to have fun in a safe indoor or outdoor environment. Upper Highway. Contact: 079 874 1621, jenna.gouws@gmail.com or visit facebook.com/peekaboohire Pixies Jumping Castles and Party Hire A range of jumping castles and water slides are for hire, plus get children’s tables and chairs. Contact: 083 251 9754, info@pixiescastles.co.za or visit pixiescastles.co.za

fancy dress hire Carnival and Backstage Fancy dress costumes for sale and made to order. Berea. Contact: 031 202 3852 or mandy@ carnivalandbackstage.co.za Costume Carnival Hires costumes for adults and children, and mascots. Durban North. Contact: 083 258 0635, 081 470 4661, costumecarnival@gmail.com or visit costumecarnival.co.za Fantasia Costume Hire and Party Shop Hire quality costumes, buy accessories, or inflate helium balloons. Upper Highway. Contact: 031 762 1871, ferreiramig@ telkomsa.net or visit fantasiahire.co.za Imagination Costume Hire Stocks a variety of themed costumes for children and adults. Glenwood. Contact: 031 202 9999 or imaginationcostumes@gmail.com Stylebudd – Costumes | Props | Decor | Styling For all your fancy dress costumes, props, mascots and decor. Berea. Contact: 072 684 7313, 084 337 0089, stylebudd@ mweb.co.za or visit stylebudd.co.za Troubadour Productions They hire out over 7 000 costumes and 70 cartoon character costumes. Berea. Contact: 031 209 2817/8 or troubad@iafrica.com

full party planning service 1 Potato 2 For jumping castles and party entertainment, including Survivor parties. Durban North. Contact: 084 569 0226, bookings@1potato2.co.za or visit 1potato2.co.za Big Occasions for Little People Specialises in themed parties for children of all ages, which are personalised to suit every occasion. Based in Durban. Contact: 031 818 2016, 083 656 2599, bashford@mweb.co.za or visit facebook. com/BigOccasions Fun SA Get decor, jumping castles, entertainment and more. Contact: 083 627 7033 or mail@funsa.co.za magazine durban

Funtastique Party and Event Planning Packages include themed decor, draped gazebos, equipment hire, setup, venue sourcing and more. Contact: 083 234 6259, info@funtastique.co.za or visit funtastique.co.za Hearty Party by Kim H They offer affordable tailor-made or DIY packages for parties or events. Durban North to greater Durban. Contact: 084 633 1105, heartypartybykim@gmail.com or visit facebook.com/HeartyPartyByKimH Hedgehog Party Services Themed party decor and planning, and a florist service. Contact: 082 294 1882, info@hedgehogparties.co.za or visit hedgehogparties.co.za iKandy Kids They help you run a successful party at your home or venue. Contact: 084 589 4980, 074 680 4391, ikandykids@gmail. com or visit ikandykids.com Kids Dream Parties Complete party solutions from start to finish. Contact: 031 467 1149, 076 089 0598, kidsdreamparty@gmail.com or visit kidsdreamparties.wozaonline.co.za Little Raindrops Party Specialists They supply everything from decorations and games to clowns and cakes. Contact: 084 562 8807, candice@littleraindrops. co.za or visit littleraindrops.co.za Magic Memories Assorted packages available or they can put one together to suit your budget. Durban North. Contact: 083 464 1367 or magicmemories01@gmail.com MCSR Function Hire They have jumping castles, equipment, party supplies and more. Choose a theme, or have one tailor made. Contact: 076 978 6295, mcsrfunctionhire@live.com or visit fantasyparties.co.za Monkey Magic Kiddie Parties Get a personalised one-stop service for any occasion, from a children’s party to a baby shower. Durban’s South Coast. Contact: 071 608 1108, kim@monkeymagic.co.za or visit monkeymagic.co.za Nixie Pixie Parties Specialising in themed parties, they cover every aspect. Get tailor-made packages. Contact: 072 168 8643, nixiepixieparties@gmail.com or visit nixiepixieparties.yolasite.com Parties from Heaven Offers party packages in a variety of themes. Disney mascots available. Contact: 083 775 0377 or remmanuel1974@gmail.com Parties with Pizzazz Packages include setup, draped gazebo, cake, party packs, photographs and more. Durban North to Durban South. Contact: 081 235 1668 or mel.peace04@gmail.com Party Angels They organise children’s themed parties, children’s pamper parties, evening functions, foam disco parties and baby showers. Contact: 082 616 0110 or partyangelsdbn@gmail.com Party Dreams Specialises in children’s parties according to any theme you can imagine to make your child’s May 2014

resource dreams come true on their special day. Contact: 082 693 1440 or catherinerobertse@gmail.com Party Princess Offers themed parties, setup, equipment, decor, entertainers, cakes, games and more. Contact: 083 944 3477, info@partyprincess.co.za or visit partyprincess.co.za Polka Dot Party They ensure that each party is unique and has a personal touch. Contact: 082 920 8102, sonja@polkadotparty.co.za or visit polkadotparty.co.za Posh Party For fashion and pamper parties, high teas, baby showers or a dinner party. An online shop sells party decor items. Kloof. Contact: 078 200 8578, tarryn@poshparty.co.za or visit poshparty.co.za Prat’s Parties and Clown Hire Offering themed setup, entertainers, equipment and more. West suburbs. Contact: 082 920 8804, pratsparties@gmail.com or visit pratsparties.co.za Quirky Queens Tailor-made party packages to suit your needs, theme and budget. Upper Highway to Durban. Contact: 031 762 4953, 084 555 1195, info@quirkyqueens.co.za or visit quirkyqueens.co.za Shindig Sisters They plan big and small parties for big and small people. They can cover the entire event from start to finish or help out with smaller details. Contact: 071 332 8424, info@shindigsisters.co.za or visit shindigsisters.co.za Sugar Plum Parties Provides themed parties and organises party packs, cakes, decor and entertainment. Contact: 072 666 7260, calley@sugarplumparties. co.za or visit sugarplumparties.co.za Sugar Skye An events and design company that caters for all ages. Amanzimtoti. Contact: 074 589 5589, sugarskyer@gmail.com or visit sugarskye.com Supakids Their style is fresh and modern with a twist of vintage, and they offer affordable solutions for your special day. Contact: 083 298 6178, office@supakids. co.za or visit supakids.co.za The Cutest Party on the Block Specialises in handmade, customdesigned party decor. Contact: 076 502 6763 or skathree@hotmail.com

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The Party Hippo Specialises in children’s themed parties, providing personalised invites, cakes, and more. Contact: 072 046 3736, thepartyhippo@gmail.com or visit facebook.com/Partyhippo

indoor and outdoor parties Apache River Spur There’s an extensive supervised play zone, with playground, PlayStations, Xboxes and a children’s bathroom. Separate indoor toddler play area available. Durban North. Contact: 031 564 3368 or apacheriver@ spursteakranch.co.za Blue Zoo Offers a jungle gym area, activities such as sandart, beading and more. Party packages available. Morningside. Contact: 031 303 3568, 082 498 4234 or bluezoo@iafrica.com Buddy Bear Choose your bear, stuff and fluff, add a heart, make a wish, dress and accessorise. Hillcrest and Ballito. Contact: 082 664 7107, leanne@buddybear.co.za or visit buddybear.co.za Burnedale Café One of a Kind offers supervised play for children 1–5 years old. The other party area offers free play. Party packages available. Umhlali. Contact: 032 947 1980, 072 255 8046 or sonitis@ telkomsa.net Butterflies for Africa Children can have a tour of the butterfly enclosure. Catering is available. Willowvale, Pietermaritzburg. Contact: 033 387 1356, info@butterflies. co.za or visit butterflies.co.za Clamber Club Parties Action parties for 1–9 year olds, at your home and filled with fun. Contact: 082 728 7430 or partiesdurban@clamberclub.com Duck and Deck Animal Farm and Tiksiloo Coffee Shop Children can interact with farm animals and enjoy pony rides. Designated party areas, party packages and catering available. Assagay. Contact: 031 768 1029, sarah@duckanddeck.co.za or visit duckanddeck.co.za Epic Karting Guests can compete on individual laps, driver shoot-outs or endurance go-kart races. Contact Galleria: 031 904 5470, Springfield: 031 579 3753 or Pietermaritzburg: 033 386 3384 or visit epickarting.co.za

Golden Hours Party Venue This rustic party venue has a playground and optional tractor rides. The wooden party hut has adult chairs and tables, electricity and water. Durban North. Contact Lyn: 083 262 3693 Green Meadow Mini Farm and Tea Garden Venue hire includes table and chairs, balloons and a banner. Children can bring bikes for the bike track. Extras available. Hillcrest. Contact: 074 300 5926 or greenmeadow505@gmail.com Heather Belles Café Venue hire, themed parties and party packages available. Durban North. Contact: 031 563 4546, hbellecafe@gmail.com or visit facebook. com/heatherbellescafe Little Lambs Preschool Party Venue Hire There is a playground, lawn area and small bike track. Plus get an airconditioned room or undercover area for 1–2 year olds. Some equipment provided. Hillcrest. Contact: 031 765 1833, admin@ littlelambspreschool.co.za or visit littlelambspreschool.co.za Lucky Bean Offers party venue hire, setup and clean up, as well as sandart and use of equipment. Hillcrest. Contact: 082 216 3892, info@luckybean.co or visit luckybean.co Natures Haven Lodge Caters for various functions including children’s parties. Bluff Eco Park. Contact: 031 467 8865, info@bluffecopark.co.za or visit bluffecopark.co.za People’s Park Café Parties include the venue, playground access, setup and clean up. Go-kart hire available. Moses Mabhida Stadium. Contact: 031 303 5719 or visit mmstadium.com Playball party venue Offers a playground, tarred area and a grass area. Some equipment provided, plus an assistant helps set up and clean up. Hillcrest. Contact: 031 765 8780 or playball@mweb.co.za Playworks technology and events Choose from various themes like Survivor Games, Crazy Ball, Lasertag, Disco, Amazing Fun Race and more. Contact: 031 466 4488, 082 856 1018, info@ playworks.co.za or visit playworks.co.za Polly Parrot Parties 1000 Hills Bird Park offers an undercover party area, with entrance to the bird park, zip-line rides

and a jungle gym. Extras are also available. Botha’s Hill. Contact: 072 927 8242, 076 810 8013, raredleg@iafrica.com or visit birdpark.co.za Sand Art R550 includes 20 cards, sand, a table, delivery and collection. Highway area. Contact: 076 645 1430 or gkoenig70@gmail.com Southern Rock Climbing Gym Price includes gear hire and assistance. New Germany. Contact: 031 705 3842, info@southernrockgym.co.za or visit southernrockgym.co.za Suga Shack Party Venue This private party venue offers party themes, decor and catering. Or do your own. Ballito. Contact: 083 777 4797 or sugashackparties@gmail.com Tehelia Café A venue with animals, a jumping castle, playground and more. Three party areas are available. Jumping castles and equipment can be hired. Queensburgh. Contact: 031 464 8619, 082 871 0004, info@tlccaterers.co.za or visit tlccaterers.co.za The Chicken Shack Café Choose between a pizza, fairy and self-catering party. Old Mission Rd, Grosvenor. Contact: 031 467 9461, 082 339 7433, fulloutputcc@telkomsa.net or visit chickenshackcafe.co.za The Coffee Corner and Kiddies Party Venue There is a grassed area, playground and a track for push bikes. Moms cater for the children and the venue provides eats for adults. Contact: 031 563 0882, 079 538 2160, 084 424 9290 or dnbcoffeecorner@gmail.com Wakaberry Frozen Yoghurt Bar Waka parties are for children ages 14 and younger. Choose from different party packages and extras. Find your nearest branch online. Contact: 031 572 4971 or visit wakaberry.co.za Whack a Waffle Your own waffle chef makes decadent waffles on a stick. Sauces range from chocolate to wild berry and there are several toppings available. Durban North and surrounds. Contact: 083 721 0787, anrie@whackawaffle.co.za or visit whackawaffle.co.za

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indoor parties Build-A-Bear Workshop Make your own cuddly animal, give it a heart and personalise it. Parties tailored to your budget. Gateway. Contact: 08611 23277 (BEARS) or visit buildabear.co.za Electric Avenue Entertainment includes bowling, dodgem cars, arcade games, and X-rider. Gateway. Contact: 031 566 5668 or visit electric-avenue.co.za Jimmy Jungles KZN A play emporium with various play areas, that provides everything from the invitations to the cake. Umhlanga. Contact: 031 566 2000, jimmyjungles@mweb.co.za or visit jimmyjungles.co.za Mr Funtubbles Fabulous Family Funfair All-weather party venue with entertainment and easy setup. Gateway. Contact: 031 584 6645, party@mrfuntubbles.co.za or visit mrfuntubbles.co.za Spur Steak Ranches This family restaurant offers a safe venue for children’s parties plus a birthday combo meal. Nationwide. Contact: 0860 007 787 or visit spur.co.za Superbowling Book a bowling party and get bumper cars and mini glow golf at half price. Galleria, Amanzimtoti. Contact: 031 904 5770, junita@superbowling.co.za or visit thefuncompany.co.za The Harvest Church Café This lovely venue for children’s parties is central and secure. Somerset Park. Contact: 082 444 7933 or dicoffeemc@gmail.com Treehouse Parties and Events An exclusive venue for children’s parties, private functions and events, with various packages. Gateway. Contact: 082 926 1035 or treehouse.g@gmail.com

music and drama parties African Drumshack Entertainment Interactive group drumming and circus performers available. Contact: 083 704 4879, drumshack@3i.co.za or visit drumshack.org Kids Just Love to Dance Disco or dancing parties for children 7–13 years old with lights, a mic for karaoke and more. Travel costs apply outside of Durban North. Contact: 072 135 8784 or cazzied@vodamail.co.za

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Mohan’s Jukebox Company Hire a party jukebox, or karaoke/jukebox combo, or party lights, and pool and soccer tables. Durban and surrounds. Contact: 031 207 3266, 082 659 5959, info@jukeco.com or visit jukeco.com Musical Rascals – Drumming Adventures Children drum along to adventures, sing, drum and dance to songs and play party games. Contact: 081 587 2599, bhavna@musicalrascals. co.za or visit musicalrascals.co.za Shongololo Shakers A music and movement party with puppets and instruments for all, action songs and parachute games. For children 1–4 years old. Contact: 060 350 7323, 083 893 5155, info@shongololoshakers.co.za or visit shongololoshakers.co.za

outdoor parties Africa Whispers Country Café An outdoor function area, rides, jumping castle and play area. Crestholme, Waterfall. Contact: 083 270 0003 or info@africawhispers.co.za Boot Camp SA Durban Children five years and older do commando obstacle courses and paintball. Giba Valley, Westmead. Contact: 082 782 6432, info@ boot-camp.co.za or visit boot-camp.co.za Durban Boat Hire Luxury boats in different sizes accommodate from two to 60 people. Contact: 074 149 0606, info@durbanboathire.co.za or visit durbanboathire.co.za Durban Funworld Amusement park rides in a safe venue. Durban. Contact: 031 332 9776 or funpark@iafrica.com Durban Society of Model Engineers Miniature steam train rides, playground and party area with setup and use of kitchen facilities included. Durban North. Contact: wendy@thebridalshopkzn.co.za Giba Gorge The price includes a ride to the waterfall and a gift for the birthday child. Additional activities available. Giba Gorge, Westmead. Contact: 031 769 1527, info@gibagorge.co.za or visit gibagorge.co.za Giba Gorge Horse Trails Riders enjoy a guided pony ride along trails. Giba Gorge, Westmead. Contact: 082 623 3783 or visit gibagorgehorsetrails.co.za

Groovy Balls Adventure Park Packages cater for all your needs including venue, activities, catering, decorations and more. Contact: 031 783 7162, 084 330 3112, connan@groovyballs.co.za or visit groovyballs.co.za Hakuna Matata Charters Enjoy a party on a 58ft catamaran, with a harbour cruise. Contact: 031 307 3782, 083 274 6846, enquiries@hmcharters.co.za or visit hmcharters.co.za Happi Days toy and party venue They offer a jumping castle, colourful bunting and plenty of trimmings. Sage Café has various catering options. Salt Rock. Contact: 082 565 8746, info@happidays. co.za or visit happidays.co.za Lucky Linton Gold Mine and Children’s Farmyard Learn to pan for gold or look for semi-precious stones in the scratch patch. There are pony rides, rafting, fishing and a foefie slide. Ballito. Contact: 032 947 1459, 083 287 8383, annesandybell@webmail.co.za or visit luckylinton.com Paintball Adventures Paintball parties for 9 years and older. Contact Durban North: 076 444 5570, Westville: 083 655 0339 or visit durbanpaintball.co.za Picnics for Pixies Choose from a variety of menus, decor and entertainment. Contact: 079 099 9115, durban@dialapicnic.co.za or visit picnicsforpixies.co.za Rain Farm Game and Lodge The party package includes a game drive, children’s meal, fun in the play area and use of facilities. Ballito. Contact: 032 815 1050, info@rainfarm.co.za or visit rainfarm.co.za Splash Water World There are waterslides, pool and river rides as well as mini golf and a braai area. Refreshments available. Amanzimtoti. Contact: 031 904 2273, 031 903 3034, ragingrapids@yebo. co.za or visit splashwaterworld.co.za S.W.A.T Laser Tag For children 8 years and older. Go to their venue, or they come to yours. Durban North. Contact: 076 444 5570 or visit swatlasertag.co.za uShaka Marine World Spend a day at uShaka where you are spoilt for choice at uShaka Kids World, Sea World or Wet ’n Wild. Contact: 031 328 8119, bookings@ushakamarineworld.co.za or ushakamarineworld.co.za

pamper parties Beauty in Motion Treatments, candles, spa baths and music. Contact: 083 785 6044, beautyinmotion@eca.co.za or visit beautyinmotion.co.za Gwahumbe Junior Spa A pamper session is followed by lunch, bracelet making and a dessert bar. For 5–10 children. Mid-Illovo. Contact: 031 781 1082, info@gwahumbe. co.za or visit gwahumbe.co.za My Little Star Spa A mobile spa that offers treatments for girls and massages for moms. Central Durban. Contact: 083 786 3335, kathija@mylittlestarspa.co.za or visit mylittlestarspa.co.za Sorbet Visit Sorbet Broadway to spoil you and your loved ones. Durban North. Contact: 031 564 5486, 082 765 7585 The Body Workx Choose from the readymade packages or tailor-make one. Contact: 031 401 1218, 078 646 4102 or thebodyworkx@yahoo.com The Hairy Fairy Hairstyling parties with various themes. Minimum of 10 children. Durban. Contact: 073 634 3572 or adrithehairyfairy@yahoo.com Zenju Day Spa Ballito Girly spa pamper parties, for children 5 years and older. Ballito and North Coast. Contact: 073 724 3037, info@zenju.co.za or visit zenjudayspa.co.za

sports parties Action Sports Choose a combination of netball, soccer or cricket, with equipment and an umpire provided for a two-hour party for children 5 years and older. Contact: 0861 122 8466, info@ actionsports.co.za or visit actionsports.co.za Busyballers Parties Sports, games, obstacle courses, treasure hunts, pool games and more, at a venue of your choice. For 4–10 years old. Contact: 083 236 0059 or lisa@busyballers.co.za Soccercise Starz Birthday Parties One hour of soccer fun at a venue of your choice. Contact: 011 882 3428, info@ soccerstarz.co.za or visit soccerstarz.co.za Sport on Court Africa Sport included is soccer, netball and more. Durban North and Westville. Contact: 031 560 0107, janine@sportoncourt.net or visit sportoncourt.net

May 2014

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a good read for toddlers

for preschoolers One Fine Day Love Came to Visit By Rus Nerwich and Amanda Bayda

Rover By Michael Rosen and Neal Layton

Black Dog By Levi Pinfold

(Published by Bloomsbury Publishing Group, R135) This is a tender and funny book about the adventures of a small dog and his pet girl. Meet Rover; no, not the dog, the little girl. She is the four-legged narrator’s pet human. Today they are going to play in the giant sandpit. The trouble starts when Rover wanders off while her parents are taking a nap on the beach. Pet human’s mom and dad get a bright idea: they let the dog sniff the little girl’s toy rabbit and send him off to help find her. This book, with its refreshing humour, will delight children up to the age of five, as well as parents.

(Published by Templar, R206) A black dog appears outside the Hope family’s home. As each member of the household sees it and hides, the dog grows bigger and bigger. Only Small, the youngest Hope, has the courage to face Black Dog. When it chases her she shows no fear, so it grows smaller and smaller. Back to the size of a normal hound, he is welcomed into the Hope household as their newest addition. This title was the winner of the Cilip Kate Greenaway Medal 2013, and the “What’s The Story” category for the favourite book for children aged 4–7 years old in the Coventry Inspiration Book Awards.

for early graders Dogtective William and the Poachers By Elizabeth Wasserman and Chris Venter (Published by NB Publishers, R120) This is the third book in the Dogtective William series. In this edition Alex and his extraordinary dog, William, find themselves packed off to Aunt Ada’s game farm. Trouble brews right from the start of their bushveld holiday – poachers are on the trail of the rhino on the farm, and have already wounded a large bull. The scoundrels are now using a helicopter to trace their prey. Can a boy and a dog get the better of these fearsome hunters? William’s training as a dogtective has not prepared him for the dangers of the African bush and, for once, Alex might be the one to save the famous dog’s skin.

Later Years at Malory Towers By Enid Blyton

(Published by Penguin Books, R113) This is Jeff Kinney’s eighth book in this hilarious and highly successful series, and Greg Heffley and his friends now have a whole new set of adventures. Greg is on a losing streak. His best friend, Rowley Jefferson, has ditched him, and finding new friends in middle school is proving to be a tough task. To change his fortunes, Greg decides to take a leap of faith and turn his decisions over to chance. Will a roll of the dice turn things around, or is Greg’s life destined to be just another hardluck story? The Diary of a Wimpy Kid series has again been nominated for the Nickelodeon Kids Choice Awards 2014 for Favourite Book.

(Published by Egmont Children’s Books, R167) Malory Towers is a boarding school for girls in Cornwall. Enid Blyton wrote six books for this series between 1946 and 1951. The heroine is Darrell Rivers, who enters the school in the first form and becomes head girl when she is in the sixth. But of course it’s not all plain sailing for Darrell and her friends. In this fantastic bumper volume of classic stories from the much-loved author, Darrell and her friends grow together as they share their school days. There are new students to induct, sporting matches to be won, tempers to control and tricks to play on teachers. Readers from the age of eight can join Darrell in mischief, mayhem and midnight feasts. These timeless stories of the famous girls’ school are in Blyton’s hugely popular and successful style and the book includes three popular tales.

The Lost Art of Having Fun: 286 Games to Enjoy with Family and Friends By Gyles and Saethryd Brandreth (Published by Hodder and Stoughton, R402) This book picks out over 250 games, guaranteed to make even the grumpiest child or adult laugh. With all kinds of interesting stories and lovely illustrations, it shows you clearly, and very entertainingly, how to play them. Nine chapters cover pretty much every eventuality: “Rainy Day Games”, “Car Journey”, “Analogue Fun in a Digital World”, “Music and Drama”, “Word Games and Brainteasers”, “Racing Games”, “Party Games” (split between children’s birthday parties and dinner parties), “Weekend-away Games” and “Seasonal Games: Christmas, New Year and Easter”. With this book, you don’t need consoles or board games. May 2014

for preteens and teens

Diary of a Wimpy Kid: Hard Luck By Jeff Kinney

for us

(Published by Tones of Note Publishing, R200) Love is explained through an interactive audio book. But this is much more than the simple story of love explained. After writing it, the author, who is an internationally acclaimed jazz musician, developed an interactive app, creating the possibility to interact with the illustrations and make musical compositions. It provides a platform for children to practise reading and experiment with sounds. Charming illustrations are brought to life by a warm, engaging narrative. Children can interact with the original score by Nerwich with the musical soundboards. There are fun audio VO and SFX hotspots to discover. Other features include “Record myself”; “Play my voice” and more. To get the app or book, watch a short film or listen to the original score, visit lovecametovisit.com

parenting book Mummy and Me Craft: Make and Learn Together Editor Jo Casey (Published by Dorling Kindersley, R177) Introduce your child to the wonderful world of crafting with this colourful and inspiring book of 20 fun craft projects for the whole family. From felt creatures and paper jewellery to origami and paint projects. It is packed with things to make and do. Plus, little ones can learn about the materials they’re working with. Painting, drawing, cutting and pasting, and using a range of crafting materials such as scissors and glue sticks help children develop hand-eye coordination and fine motor skills. magazine durban

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what’s on in may

You can also access the calendar online at

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see this month. Compiled by TAMLYN VINCENT

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special events

FUN for children

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SPECIAL EVENTS

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The Discovery East Coast Radio Big Walk This family event sees thousands of families and friends enjoying the walk along Durban’s beachfront.

FUN FOR CHILDREN

ONLY FOR PARENTS

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Annie A rags to riches story, this hit Broadway musical is guaranteed to entertain the whole family.

The Original Queens of Comedy A laugh-a-minute comedy sketch about life’s experiences.

Baby Bright stars Moms and babies spend quality time together, as babies learn and develop.

Tekkie Tax Show support for animals, basic family care, children, disability or education welfare organisations.

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SPECIAL EVENTS

FUN FOR CHILDREN

1 thursday

art, culture and science

The Diary of Adam and Eve The show takes a dig at observations about love. Ends 3 May. Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Seabrooke’s Theatre, DHS, Musgrave. Cost: R80. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com The Original Queens of Comedy Journey through vignettes of life’s experiences, with a South African/Indian twist. Ends 4 May. Time: 8pm Thursday–Saturday; 2pm Sunday. Venue: iZulu Theatre, Sibaya Casino. Cost: R160–R180. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com

Art lessons For children 8–18 years old. Time: 9am–11am, every Saturday. Venue: High Ridge Rd, Durban North. Cost: R125 per lesson. Contact Suzette: 074 178 9388 or sdyson@remax-panache.co.za

classes, talks and workshops

18 May – 2014 uMngeni SPCA / Hill’s Township Dog Show

3 saturday

23 friday

The Lifestyle Expo Showcases products and services from the house and garden to leisure and health. Time: 8am. Venue: Hutchison Park, Amanzimtoti. Cost: adults R40, children R10. Contact: 031 904 1578 or events@bigevents365.co.za

Annie This rags to riches story is a family favourite. Ends 15 June. Time: 7pm Tuesday–Saturday, 2:30pm Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, Glenwood. Cost: R130–R200. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com

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The Sunflower Fund Charity Ball in association with IBV International Vaults Time: 6:30pm. Venue: The Southern Sun Elangeni Hotel, OR Tambo Parade. Cost: R650. Contact Stephanie: 078 207 9041 or steph@sunflowerfund.org.za

Pilates retreat Hosted by Pilates in Motion. Time: 8:30am–4:30pm. Venue: Waterfall Retreat Centre, 20 Debengeni Rd, Waterfall. Cost: R500. Contact: 082 443 4533 or info@pilatesinmotion.co.za

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Flag Animal Farm fun day in aid of PINC Play on the jumping castles, join the beauty pageant and meet the animals. Time: 9am. Venue: Sheffield Beach. Cost: R33. Contact: 032 947 2018 or visit flaganimalfarm.co.za High tea A fundraiser for Golden Children’s Home. Time: 2pm–5pm. Venue: Elarish, 899 Bluff Rd. Cost: R120. Contact: 031 206 1479, 031 202 2157 or 083 294 0014

Hillcrest Primary School Family Fun day With rides, a craft market and food stalls. Time: 9am. Venue: 17 Emoyeni Dr. Cost: free entry. Contact Sally: 031 765 1214

13 tuesday Sensory profiling for the classroom This workshop discusses dealing with diversity and individuality within the classroom. Time: 1:15pm–5pm. Venue: tbc. Cost: R450. Contact Sandra: 082 397 3606 or visit sensoryintelligence.co.za

18 sunday 2014 uMngeni SPCA / Hill’s Township Dog Show Entry is for dogs from local, resource-poor communities. Time: 9am. Venue: Howick West Soccer Stadium. Cost: R5 per dog, spectators free, donations welcome. Contact: 033 330 4557, pro@howickspca. org.za or visit umngenispca.org.za Husqvarna Classic Mid-Illovo MTB Challenge and Trail Run Offers the MTB and iNsingizi trail runs, the Gwahumbe Family Experience and the i-Cycle Insurance Fun Ride. Time: registration 6am. Venue: MidIllovo Club. Cost: R60–R140. Contact: 086 100 7624, info@roag.co.za or visit roag.co.za The Discovery East Coast Radio Big Walk Take part in a fun walk along Durban’s coastline. Time: from 7am. Venue: uShaka Marine World to Moses Mabhida Stadium. Cost: R60–R75. Enter at Totalsports stores or online: visit ecr.co.za

20 tuesday Crown of the Russian Ballet Featuring masterpieces of French music in ballet. Ends 21 May. Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Playhouse Opera Theatre, Anton Lembede Rd. Cost: R150–R280. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com

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28 wednesday World Play Day Cotlands hosts a series of activities across the country. Get involved by donating or by promoting this right. Time: 8am. Venue: varies. Cost: donations welcome. Contact: 011 683 7201, lois@ cotlands.org or visit cotlands.org

29 thursday Reach for a Dream Gameshow Test your music knowledge; 3-course meal included. Time: 6:30pm. Venue: Auto Umhlanga BMW. Cost: R280. Contact: 031 566 2220 or kznadmin@reachforadream.org.za Teeny Tots Golf Day Fundraiser for a new classroom. Time: 11am. Venue: Umhlali Country Club. Cost: R2 000 per four-ball or sponsor a hole. Contact: 082 290 9313 or debs.nicholson@gmail.com

30 friday SPCA Annual Golf Day With dinner and prizes, in aid of Durban and Coast SPCA. Time: 10:30am. Venue: Royal Durban Golf Club. Cost: R1 800 per four-ball. Contact: 031 579 6500 or caroline@spcadbn.org.za

Babes in the Wood Children 0–5 years old learn about nature. Time: 9am, every Thursday. Venue: Stainbank Nature Reserve, 90 Coedmore Ave, Yellowwood Park. Cost: R30. Contact Kathryn: 072 649 3618 or katambersaunders@hotmail.co.uk Children’s yoga Time: 3pm, every Wednesday. Venue: Centre of Wellbeing, 16 Canberra Ave, Durban North. Cost: R200 per month. Contact Angela: 076 410 1410 or angela@rautenbach.co.za Computers 4 kids Time: 10am–11am or 11am–12pm, every Saturday. Venue: suite 124, Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Dr, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: R500 per month. Contact: 073 966 0983 or visit computers4kids.co.za Study skills course For Grades 5–7 and 8–12. Starts 10 May. Time: 9am–1pm, every Saturday. Venue: Kip McGrath Education Centre Umhlanga, 125 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Dr. Cost: R3 200. Contact: 031 566 1110 or visit kipmcgrath.co.za

family outings Books 2 You Time: 10am–3pm, 8 May, 7:30am–12pm, 9 May. Venue: Athlone Park Primary. Also at Maris Stella, 12–13 May, St Henry’s Marist College, 22–23 May, and Hillcrest Primary, 26–28 May. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 705 7744 or orders@ books2you.co.za Sugar Terminal Tours Time: varies, Monday–Friday. Venue: 25 Leuchars Rd, Durban. Cost: adults R16, children R8. Contact: 031 365 8153, tourguide@sasa. org.za or visit sasa.org.za

finding nature and outdoor play Crocworld Conservation Centre Time: 8am–4:30pm, daily. Venue: Old Main Rd, Scottburgh. Cost: adults R60, children R40. Contact: 039 976 1103, crocworld@cbl. co.za or visit crocworld.co.za

The Animal Farmyard Daily milking demonstrations. Time: 9am–4:30pm daily; milking 10:30am and 3:30pm. Venue: 3 Lello Rd, Botha’s Hill. Cost: entry R15, rides R5. Contact: 031 765 2240

markets Golden Hours Family Market Time: 10am–3:30pm, every Sunday. Venue: Uitsig Rd, Durban North. Cost: free entry. Contact Lyn: 083 262 3693 I Heart market 3 May. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Moses Mabhida Stadium. For more info: visit iheartmarket.blogspot.com Open Sunday markets 25 May. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Kloof and Highway SPCA, 29 Village Rd, Village Green, Kloof. Contact: 031 764 1212/3 or visit kloofspca.co.za Shongweni Farmer’s and Craft Market Time: 6:30am–10:30am, every Saturday. Venue: cnr Kassier and Alverstone Rds, Assagay. Contact: 083 777 1674 or visit shongwenimarket.co.za The Food Market 31 May. Time: 8am–1pm. Venue: The Hellenic Community Centre, Durban North. Contact: 084 505 0113 or visit thefoodmarket.co.za The Play Market 11 May. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Giba Gorge MTB Park, 110 Stockville Rd. Cost: R10 entry to the park. Contact Derryn: 071 307 0823 or gotoplaymarket@ gmail.com Wonder Market 25 May. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: Chris Saunders Park, Umhlanga. Contact: wonder@wondermarket.co.za or visit wondermarket.co.za

on stage and screen Annie 23 May–15 June. Time: 7pm Tuesday–Saturday, 2:30pm Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, Glenwood. Cost: R130–R200. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com

playtime and story time Children’s story time For children 3–8 years old. Time: 10am, every Saturday. Venue: 26 Rockview Rd, Amanzimtoti. Cost: free. Contact: 031 903 6692 Lucky Bean A playground with a playbarn and coffee shop. Time: 9am–4pm Tuesday– Sunday. Venue: 10 Cadmoor Rd, Assagay. Cost: R20 per child, R15 for each additional child per family. Contact: 082 216 3892 or visit luckybean.co (no .za)

Mother’s Day with Mango Groove An Old Mutual Music at the Lake occasion. 11 May. Time: 2:30pm. Venue: Durban Botanic Gardens, Berea. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 322 4201 or book through Webtickets: webtickets.co.za

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31 saturday The Birches Pre-primary School fun day There are games, prizes, a jumping castle, tea garden, market, rides and more. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: 1 Oribi Rd, Pinetown. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 708 4764 magazine durban

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sport and physical activities Ice hockey Learn the game in a safe environment. Time: 8:45am–9:30am, every Sunday. Venue: Galleria Ice Rink, Amanzimtoti. Cost: varies. Contact: 072 237 3114 or visit durbaknights.wordpress.com Taekwondo Tornados Time and venue: 3:30pm every Wednesday, Westville Library; 2pm every Tuesday, Hillcrest Library. Cost: R130 per month. Contact: 082 876 0628 or tkdtornados@gmail.com Clamber Club

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Adult computer course Time: 9am–12pm Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: suite 124 Ridgeton Towers, 6 Aurora Dr, Umhlanga Ridge. Cost: R3 270. Contact: 074 113 8364 or umhlanga@ computers4kids.co.za Pilates Precision Preggie Pilates by appointment. Time: 5:30pm–6:30pm Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: The School of Modern Montessori, 9 Anthony Dr, Gillitts. Cost: varies. Contact: 071 183 4161 or sarahxevans@hotmail.com Weekend meditation retreat Enjoy walks, meditation practice and organic vegetarian food. 9–11 May. Or join a day retreat in Kloof on 25 May. Time: starts 4:30pm Friday; ends 1pm Sunday. Venue: Heronmoor Retreat, Hlatikhulu Valley, Kamberg. Cost: R950. Contact: 031 764 6193 or visit meditateindurban.org

on stage and screen Crown of the Russian Ballet 20 and 21 May. Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Playhouse Opera Theatre, Anton Lembede Rd. Cost: R150–R280. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com The Diary of Adam and Eve 1–3 May. Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Seabrooke’s Theatre, Durban High School, Musgrave. Cost: R80. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com The Original Queens of Comedy 1–4 May. Time: varies. Venue: iZulu Theatre, Sibaya Casino, Umdloti. Cost: R160–R180. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

support groups Durban Autism Support Contact Di: 083 443 8385 or dimaitland@tiscali.co.za

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Venue: Lasting Impressions, 35 Caefron Ave, Westville. Cost: R600. Contact: 083 661 6682 or info@lasting-impressions-studio.co.za Preggie Power Prenatal yoga class. Time: 4:30pm–5:30pm, every Friday; 7am–8am, every Saturday; 8am–9pm, every Sunday. Venue: 8 Sunny Circle, Sunningdale. Cost: four classes R350, drop-in R100. Contact: 079 881 7199 or visit preggiepower.co.za Shongololo Shakers Music and movement classes for 0–5 year olds. Time and venue: 11am, every Tuesday, Cygnet Preparatory, Westville; 10:30am, every Wednesday, Hillcrest Library, 9:30am and 3pm, every Thursday, Room to Bloom, Durban North; 9am, every Friday, Leaping Lizards, Gillitts. Cost: varies. Contact: 083 893 5155 or visit shongololoshakers.co.za

playtime and story time Baby Bright Stars Interactive classes for moms and babies. Time: varies. Venue: Westville. Cost: R800. Contact Kelly: 083 777 4578, kelly@babybrightstars.co.za or visit babybrightstars.co.za Clamber Club Classes for babies 8 weeks– 12 months, and children 1–4 years old. Time: varies. Venue: Ballito, Hillcrest and Kloof. Cost: varies. Contact Ballito: 076 222 2946, Hillcrest: 084 577 7630 or Kloof: 083 259 2746, or visit clamberclub.com Moms and Babes and Moms and Tots workshops Programmes stimulate, develop skills and promote bonding. Venue: Amanzimtoti, Berea, Durban North, Umhlanga and the Highway area. Cost: varies. For more info: visit momsandbabes. co.za or momsandtots.co.za

support groups Mothers 2 Baby For moms who are finding motherhood challenging. Babies welcome. Time: 10am–11:30am, third Thursday. Venue: Hillcrest Private Hospital. Cost: free. Contact: 061 453 3718

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classes, talks and workshops Edu-Maid Baby care, child stimulation and cooking classes for domestic workers. Time: varies. Venue: Sunningdale. Cost: R300. Contact Eleanor: 084 821 6668 Infant massage workshop Begins 8 May. Time: 10am–11:30am, every Thursday.

Tekkie Tax An annual fundraising campaign for a variety of select welfare organisations. Stickers are R10 and available from participating organisations. 30 May. Contact Cornel: 012 663 8181, tekkietax@ mweb.co.za or visit tekkietax.co.za

don’t miss out! For a free listing, email your event to durban@childmag.co.za. Information must be received by 2 May for the June issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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May 2014

finishing touch

a time to party i

t was my son’s birthday recently. Naturally, that entailed a lot of planning, time and hard work for both his father and me: get the class list from school; design and send out the invitations; manage email correspondence; keep track of who’s coming; think of party activities; make party favours; design the world’s most amazing Spider-Man cake; and cater for about 30 children, their parents and our friends – enough to drive any parent slightly batty. A birthday party for a young child is a big event in their lives and as parents you want it to be special. From the moment our son’s party ended last year, he was putting in requests about what his next party should include – something I’m sure most children do. Knowing exactly what he wanted, I thought that starting the preparations a few weeks in advance and leaving the food planning until the last couple of days would be fine. Yet, you forget how much time it takes to prepare food and bake and decorate a cake for so

Cassandra and her son

many people. Every spare moment from Friday night until “party time” on Sunday was spent in the kitchen. Well, almost every moment… The evening before the party, I surprised my husband with concert tickets to see his favourite band, Electric Light Orchestra (ELO), at an outdoor venue in Paarl. We both grew up listening to their music, and our son often requests and sings along to

their songs while we drive in the car. So, this surprise was a big one. Once our kitchen shackles had been released, we left our son with a friend, a.k.a. the best baby-sitter in the world, and headed out to see the show. We were both really tired, but it was great to get out and have a bit of well-deserved “us time”. It was surreal being outside overlooking the Winelands while listening to the sounds of

ELO playing only a few rows ahead. It felt like we were children again as we giggled and sang along to every song. At one point we even walked down to the front of the stage and danced around like complete fools – something we used to do when we first started dating; and haven’t really done since parenthood started. I realised at that moment the importance of two things: it’s great to focus your attention on your child – plan and create a special, over-the-top day for them that they’ll hopefully remember or look back on fondly forever, but it’s also extremely important to let loose once in a while and to create time for your own little “party”. That’s what this night was for – a party for us to relax, appreciate how far we’ve come in life and to celebrate, in our own way, the little boy that we brought into this world, all of our hard work and how much we are grateful for. Both Cassandra and her son had a wonderful “party” and, true to form, her son is already putting in his requests for next year’s do.

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PHOTOGRAPH: MENKE BONNEMA

You can’t let your children have all the fun. CASSANDRA SHAW describes the best way to plan a party.

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Put your best cake forward this year with the help of Party Magic 5. ARINA DU PLESSIS shares some decorating ideas that your children will love. ahoy, me hearties! pirate ship cake what you’ll need • 2 x 30cm loaf cakes • 1 x 20cm round sponge cake • 875ml white butter icing • pretzel sticks • 3 wafer biscuits • 6 red Astros • 125ml small red sweets • 4 each of blue, yellow and black Liquorice Allsorts other • kebab sticks • cotton string • 1 small plastic skull for the figurehead (available from toy and party shops) • 3 blue-and-white striped paper straws • 2 pirate flags on toothpicks • red cardboard • paper punch • 1 red-and-white checked paper serviette • double-sided tape • birthday candles

step 1 Cover a cake board with paper and plastic. Place the two loaf cakes next to each other on the board. Round off the two back corners. Cut the front into a curved point so that the cakes have a boat shape.

loaf/slab cake makes 1 large slab cake what you’ll need • 20ml margarine • 250ml milk • 5 extra-large eggs • 375ml sugar • 580ml cake flour • 15ml baking powder • 3ml salt method Preheat the oven to 190°C. Grease a baking tin with butter, oil or spray with non-stick cooking spray. Line the tin with baking paper and grease or spray again. Bring the margarine and milk to the boil, and leave to cool. Beat the eggs well until light and add the sugar a spoonful at a time. Beat well until

PHOTOGRAPHS: BERNA COETZEE

butter icing makes about 500ml butter icing what you’ll need • 125g soft butter or margarine • 500ml icing sugar, sifted • 10ml vanilla essence • boiling water or lukewarm milk

step 2 Ice the cake with white butter icing. Cut off a piece of the sponge cake that is as long as the back of the cake and is approximately 5cm wide. Place it on the back of the cake and secure with kebab sticks to form the cabin. Ice this with white icing too. step 3 Push pieces of pretzel stick around the edge of the “deck”. Make a railing by winding string around the sticks. Stick two wafers on the front of the cabin and another on the bow. Put the “figurehead” in place. Push two kebab sticks into the deck for masts and slip a straw over each. Make flag poles in the same way: cut straws in half and put the flags in them. step 4 Decorate the cake with Astros, small sweets and Liquorice Allsorts (see the photo). Cut sails out of red cardboard and curl the edges. Punch holes in the sails and put them on the masts. Cut four double flag shapes out of the serviette, fold around the masts and flagpoles and stick in place. Push the candles into the cake.

thick and light. (This should take about 10 minutes – the mixture is ready when it runs off the beater in a thick ribbon.) Sift the flour, baking powder and salt together and fold into the egg mixture. Gradually add the warm milk mixture and fold in. Pour into the prepared baking tin and smooth the top. Bake for 30 minutes until well risen and golden brown or until a cake tester inserted in the middle of the cake comes out clean. Leave to cool in the tin for a few minutes before turning out on a wire rack to cool completely. For a chocolate slab cake replace 80ml of the cake flour with cocoa powder. For two large loaf cakes, pour the batter into two greased and lined loaf tins (approximately 33cm) and bake for 35–45 minutes.

method Cream the butter or margarine and icing sugar. Beat in the vanilla essence and a little boiling water or milk to make a spreadable icing. Keep beating until the icing is light and creamy. Use as is or beat in food colouring to make coloured icing. For chocolate icing add 30ml cocoa powder to the icing sugar and slightly more boiling water or milk.

sponge cake makes 2 x 20cm sponge cakes what you’ll need • 125ml water • 125ml milk • 100ml cooking oil • 4 extra-large eggs, at room temperature • 450ml sugar • 500ml cake flour • 10ml baking powder method Preheat the oven to 180°C. Grease two round or square 20cm baking tins with butter or oil, line with baking paper and grease again. Bring the water, milk and oil to the boil and remove from the heat. Beat the eggs well. Add the sugar a little at a time and keep beating until the mixture is thick and pale yellow. (This should take about 10 minutes – the mixture is ready when it runs off the beater in a thick ribbon.) Sift the flour and baking powder together and fold into the egg mixture. Add the warm milk mixture and fold in to combine. Divide between two baking tins and bake for 25 minutes until done or until a cake tester inserted in the middle of the cake comes out clean. For chocolate sponge cake replace 80ml of the cake flour with cocoa powder.

about the book Brush up on your decorating skills with the help of Arina du Plessis’ Party Magic 5. In her book, she offers parents a range of creative ideas for their children’s parties; everything from invitations and snacks to cakes and party favours. The book has 20 themed-cake recipes with eight additional decorating ideas for cupcakes; giving you something for every taste, age group and budget. Party Magic 5 is published by Human and Rousseau and can be found at all good book stores for R185.