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My first pregnancy took me by surprise – huge surprise. And I have to say that the word “huge” has stayed with me throughout this “parenting” thing. In the first few weeks with Julian, I kept waiting for someone to knock on the door and say, “thanks for looking after my baby, but I’ve come to get her now”. It was only after six weeks, when I went to the pathologist and asked for “my daughter’s test results” that it hit me; “she really is my daughter and I am her mom”.

To “huge” I have to add “humbling”. My children have taught me to apologise – to them, quite difficult, – and to my husband, really difficult. These days my parenting experiences alternate between humorous and harrowing. As our children grow up they, and society, throw all kinds of curve balls at us, balls we couldn’t in a million years have

anticipated. Reading about keeping lines of communication open with your teenager, but keeping the door firmly closed on a messy room is, well, just that, reading. In real life, it’s really difficult. Parenting is definitely not for the faint-hearted – but the rewards, which are plentiful, make it worthwhile.

I look at them across the kitchen counter every morning and my eyes fill with tears; they are so beautiful and I am so honoured to be their mother.

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readers respond

10 reader’s blog

Matthew Hattingh on firsttime fatherhood

health 13 healthy mom

12 reader’s blog

Lucille Blignaut shares how donated breast milk saved her son’s life

Tamlyn Vincent asks the experts about a mom’s diet when breast-feeding

21 swimming lessons

features

male infertility is on the increase.

By Tamlyn Vincent

16 how to fight right

i t’s not about if you fight, but how you fight. By Glynis Horning

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22 sneak peak

Lucille Kemp and Donna Cobban speak to families who have uprooted themselves and started over

26 x vs z – the new

generation game

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Paul Kerton believes we should teach our children to drink responsibly 14 dealing with difference

Rodney Weidemann finds out how generation X and generation Z can bridge the great divide

Child magazine sheds light on epilepsy 20 dad’s blog

follow Marc de Chazal’s online blog, – now in the magazine

30 island of the gods Lisa Mc Namara and her family discover beautiful Bali

34 resource – helping hands 33 art smart

running out of room to exhibit your child’s artwork? Elaine Eksteen gives solutions

a list of services that come to your house to make life easier for you.

Compiled by Gillian Hurst 40 a good read

new books for the whole family

44 what’s on in june 62 last laugh

Sam Wilson is the “child” in the car on family road trips

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over to you eager to get planning Thanks again for a great party issue. My palms actually get sweaty when I receive my copy and I have to control myself so that I don’t start planning my two children’s parties immediately. Their birthdays are only in October and December, so it’s hard to hold back. I want to try out all the ideas, but it’s not quite the time yet. But come August, I can start planning the first party and be on that fun roller-coaster ride of planning, baking, building and scheming until the middle of December.

Martha

greatly appreciated Thank you for listing the Lipizzaner Mother’s Day performances in your calendar. Both performances were booked out, which was far better than expected. Many people who phoned to enquire, mentioned that they had seen the entry in your magazine. As all the proceeds from these performances are used for the welfare of the horses, your assistance is greatly appreciated.

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my monthly fix I just need to compliment you and your team on an incredible publication. I don’t know what I would do without my monthly read.

Aida Loannides

help for a new mom I’d like to commend you on an amazing publication. I’ve just recently become a mom, and your magazine has been a godsend. I, like most new moms I’m sure, turn

to magazines for answers, and most times end up more clueless than before. I’ve tried, without any success, to access a support group or network of moms as I feel I’ll most likely get some answers there. And, after reading your magazine from cover to cover, I’ve not only found the answers I was looking for, I have also found a mom’s networking group.

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happy prize winner I would like to thank De Hoop Nature Reserve for sponsoring such a wonderful prize in Cape Town’s Child magazine. It was a great adventure and we will definitely be going back for more fun. Thank you for affording the Dollie clan the opportunity. It was an experience we will not be forgetting very soon.

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ditch the junk food I’d like to commend you on your fantastic, quality publication and also thank you for the opportunity to provide feedback and share my views.

One of the issues that concerns me is the amount of junk food that is given to children. We work so hard to provide our children with a good education, food, clothes and toys. We take them on outings and care for them when they are sick, yet many parents voluntarily give their children sweets containing artificial flavours, colourants and preservatives.

If it were possible to see each of these ingredients separately in a glass jar, the sweets would be unrecognizable and parents would be unlikely to give

comments posted on our website on the cool lunchbox book extract: I have five children – four boys and a girl – who eat tons. I generally give a very healthy lunch box but the cost is huge. Any more ideas on filler uppers?

– Mel Try wraps, meat and chicken balls, subs, and if you bake, mini loaves are fantastic. – Mazam Plan your week, so that the boredom of the sandwich can be avoided. Try a pasta salad for one day – especially if there’s lots of sport. I also occasionally buy pies on busy days and my girls really enjoy them. Be sure that the protein content of your lunch box is sufficient, as that also helps to sustain their energy. Try chicken drumsticks or mini frikkadels. My girls love cheese, so I would pack a variety of small portions of cheese (these can be bought, or I cling wrap smaller portions) and

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crackers as a filler. Baby tomatoes or gherkins with the cheese make it a picnic. – author of The Cool Lunchbox, Sandy Harper

that “poison” to their precious child. But because these items are wrapped and sold in the same shop that sells vegetables, parents are fooled into thinking that a bright blue, sticky sweet might qualify as some form of food.

I hear this regularly: “We only buy these sticky, cavity-forming treats once a year for my child’s birthday, when they expect to have sweets.” Think about this: if everyone only buys it for their child’s birthday once a year, then your children are eating it at all the birthday parties they go to several times a month. And should children expect to get sweets at a birthday party? We should teach our children that they should be happy they are getting a party at all.

I bake cakes and biscuits and buy pretzels, popcorn and fruit for my child’s parties – there are no sweets. But the children are so busy having fun that they don’t even notice. That’s what I think birthday parties are about – being with friends and enjoying the activities. The food should not be the focus. I think parents are more hung up on the food than the children. Children will eat whatever there is and then run off to play.

There are constantly articles about the benefits of eating healthily. So why are we filling our children’s mouths with stuff that has no nutritional value and is actually detrimental?

Recently my son’s school suggested my son has ADHD and we should consider putting him on Ritalin. I know that removing artificial colourants, preservatives and sugar from a child’s diet, could have a positive effect on learning disabilities such as ADHD. But it is difficult to control your child’s diet if the school allows other parents to distribute sweets at school or when a child has a birthday.

If junk food is not good for my child then surely it’s also not suitable for other children? It seems that putting my child (and other children) on Ritalin is a more favourable alternative than adopting a “no junk food” policy.

Concerned mother, Johannesburg

Follow us on Facebook and Twitter in reply to the working mom’s blog: It’s certainly a privilege nowadays to be able to stay home with your children, but also not the easy option. Three years on and I still battle with my identity as a stay-at-home mom who left her career on the backburner. – Grenda I wish I could stay at home permanently with my son, but unfortunately we can’t survive on just one salary. – Natalie

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learner dad MATTHEW HATTINGH on the stormy (and enjoyable) ride that is first-time fatherhood.

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In my bachelor days I scarcely paid babies any attention, but now I have come to see infants, well certainly my own, as heroic characters. They grunt and groan and strain to lift their wobbly heads up from the mat; like prizefighters in the best Rocky Balboa tradition, they’re not quitters.

They accept a daily diet of discomforts and indignities with often admirable restraint. They tolerate being prodded and offered up for scrutiny to all and sundry.

How would you like it if your bowel movements were subject to analysis and your moods were a source of endless conjecture? Would you be happy if people were forever inquiring as to your gender or asking how old you were?

Sure babies can wear you down and make running away to join the circus seem like an entirely reasonable proposition.

But just like circus clowns, babies have a knack for turning their frowns upside down. The grizzle disappears and they’re

soon radiating a brand of happiness that makes you feel so good about yourself it ought to be sold in bottles.

Then there’s all that goodwill that comes your way as family, friends and indeed total strangers stop to greet baby and gush and congratulate you on her adorable cuteness. Somehow you end up taking credit for a creation that owes more to nature or the divine, than any contribution, genetic or otherwise, you may have made. And so, in no time at all, you find yourself becoming like a Capetonian: deeply smug and insufferably proud for being associated with something undeniably beautiful, if rather windy.

Readers, this is your column – it’s a space to air your views, share a valuable parenting lesson, vent your frustrations or celebrate your joys. Send your writing to features@childmag.co.za

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abies, I’ve come to realise, are a bit like Cape Town: beautiful to look at but the wind will drive you crazy. Our bundle of joy had been home from the hospital a week or so, and we were smugly congratulating ourselves on her quiet, sweet nature, when the Cape Doctor came to town.

Before baby, we had been warned ad nauseam to get plenty of sleep (or to jol) while we could. The doom sayers were quite right, of course, but nothing really prepares you for the storms.

A friend and mother to three grown boys said she used to call the time between 5pm and 6pm Arsenic Hour. It’s that stretch when baby is fretful and parent starts to feel that knocking back a swig of deadly poison might be preferable to yet another dose of upset baby.

Our baby was born in winter so it would be dark when I returned from work to a frazzled mom and an inconsolable infant. “Here, it’s your turn,” she’d say, handing me our daughter. Arsenic Hour, of course, can very easily stretch to Arsenic Three Hours, giving new dads plenty of time to experiment with colic cures.

I had been warned that babies can rob you of your leisure time, your sleep and your mental wellbeing, but no-one told me how the little tormentor’s cries would also come to monopolise my sympathies.

It’s like Stockholm Syndrome, that psychological condition in which hostages develop positive feelings for and, after a while, even come to adore their captors.

I say adore because there really is something heart-warmingly wonderful about having a three-week-old lying on your chest, warm under the covers on a chilly morning, and marvelling at how this little person can wriggle her way up to nuzzle under your chin.

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make mine a gin and tonic Teach your children to drink responsibly, advises PAUL KERTON.

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ou are at a favourite pizza place, sat outside enjoying the dappled, retreating sunlight and early evening breeze. The children are picking through the menu and you order drinks. Your son or daughter – aged let’s say six or seven – has a guzzle of their own juice and then asks for a sip of your beer or wine; reaching their hand impishly towards your glass, “Purleeease Daddy”…

Here unfolds one of the greatest dilemmas and controversies of parenthood.

Do you say “No way, wait until you are 18 and can legally drink”, while slapping the child’s hand away, or do you say “Of course darling, but sip it slowly” and watch them like a hawk as they imbibe your amber, or crisp white, nectar?

It is odd that in most societies, men and women can legally get married at 16 but can’t legally toast their own marriage.

Personally, I do enjoy a beer or a glass of wine with my meal and don’t think it is such a big deal if my daughter has a sip of my drink. I look at those European families – particularly in Greece, Spain, France and Italy – where a small glass of wine is

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a traditional part of the Sunday lunch or evening meal, whatever the age. With my own brood, if we are having champagne to celebrate something, they will always have a “glass” even if the glass is the size of a thimble to start with. Alcohol is addictive, so there are always going to be certain individuals for whom one sip is never going to be enough. Just be aware of this.

I have friends who don’t drink at all and therefore neither do their children, which is fair enough. Although, abstinence and prohibition generally make something appear more attractive than it is. The other

extreme is that if you are crawling home from the pub every night the chances are your children will, eventually, do the same.

There is conflicting research on the subject with valid scientific, health and social arguments for both sides but my take on it is: teach them to drink responsibly and you will de-mystify the whole alcohol “theatre” and rituals that go with it. Then, when they do go out en masse into the teenage quagmire, they will have a responsible attitude to alcohol, instead of swilling shooters and binge-drinking, which leads to extreme drunkenness,

attendant vulnerability and sex issues. This has become an alarming epidemic in the UK – shocking beyond belief – particularly among girls, sometimes as young as 14, regularly being photographed literally lying in high street gutters late on a Friday night.

(It also regularly afflicts international rugby players who should know better.)

The trick is to be a good role model and promote responsible drinking habits.

Sip and savour as opposed to knocking back rounds, drinking in a “safe” and familiar environment with known friends and not performing any dangerous tasks (including driving) while drinking. This responsibility also includes real social skills like knowing how to say “no” to a drink without offending, and how to discreetly get rid of a drink if one is forced upon you – “oh go on have another one…” And on those rare occasions when you simply can’t be a good role model – stag nights, reunions, and Springbok call-up – get a family member to baby-sit and stay at a guesthouse.

Paul Kerton is the author of Fab Dad: A Man’s Guide to Fathering.

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sharing is caring Donated breast milk can give an at-risk baby a strong start in

the very place I had been working as a registered midwife and nursing sister for many years. This time, however, I was the mother of a premature baby and not the ICU-trained sister. Everything seemed so different. Knowing all the possible complications and everything that could go wrong made things extremely stressful and emotional, which affected my ability to produce breast milk for my son.

expressed help As both a mother and a nursing sister to premature and sick babies, I urge breast-feeding mothers to donate some of their breast milk (especially if you

I knew how important breast milk was and tried several medications to encourage lactation, but only produced small amounts of milk, which were not nearly enough for Ashton. I knew I didn’t want him to have formula; premature babies who have been given formula have a much higher risk of getting a debilitating, and potentially life-threatening, illness called necrotising enterocolitis, which causes the immature gut to go gangrenous. Providing prem babies with breast milk is the single most effective way of preventing these complications. Fortunately donor breast

milk was available and Ashton was given the start he deserved.

I am so glad I had access to donor breast milk. Ashton was ready to be discharged when he was six weeks old – he weighed 1 650 grams and was beautiful and healthy.

Ashton is now five years old and is a typical boy of his age. When I look at him I see a miracle of milk, love and prayers.

I will forever be indebted and thankful to all the mothers who donated breast milk to my son.

have plenty… just donating 50ml a day can make a huge difference). Your milk gives these small babies hope and a better chance at life.

For more information on donating your breast milk contact The South African Breast milk Reserve (SABR) on 011 492 1209, info@sabr.org.za or visit sabr.org.za

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n 25 November 2005, my son Ashton was delivered by emergency Caesarean section.

I was just six months and four days pregnant. Both our lives were in danger as I had developed severe pregnancyrelated high blood pressure. Ashton weighed just 990 grams.

Ashton was admitted to Groote Schuur Hospital’s neonatal intensive unit,

life, says LUCILLE BLIGNAUT, mom to prem baby Ashton.

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healthy mom TAMLYN VINCENT looks into what to eat when breast-feeding.

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o, after nine months of waiting, you finally have your bundle of joy and you’re ready to start breastfeeding. If you’re a new mom, the nurse may offer you some helpful advice. Then your friends will give you their two cents’ worth; your sister-in-law and mother might also have something to add: “drink stout – it increases milk supply” or “avoid spicy food; it irritates the baby”. It’s hard to know which tips to take on and which to ignore…

To help breast-feeding mothers, we chatted to the experts and have put together some guidelines to assist you in deciding what to eat and what to avoid when breast-feeding.

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think again Some foods can cause trouble when passed on through breast milk: • Stay away from “anything that is gas forming, including broccoli, cauliflower, onion and green peas,” suggests Sister Arlette Blaylock, who runs the Gentle Touch Clinic in Durban. Other culprits are spicy foods, caffeine and chocolate.

• Coffee, tea and alcohol act as stimulants, and are “known to cause negative effects on babies’ nervous systems,” says Marié Petrelis, a nutritional therapist at Path2Health in Johannesburg.

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• Alcohol should be avoided as it “goes into maternal milk” and takes a “full hour to pass”, says Blaylock.

But avoiding everything that could potentially be an issue might leave you with little to eat. Moms should eliminate foods once they cause problems, suggests Blaylock.

“Being conscious of the food you are eating and observing any negative effects these may have on your baby is really important,” says Petrelis. She suggests keeping a food diary if your baby is experiencing problems, which could include anything from wind to colic or eczema.

go for it Here are some good food tips for breast-feeding moms: • Eat plenty of “fresh fruit and vegetables,” says Petrelis: the more variety and colour mom gets, the more nutrients baby gets.

• Rather eat whole grains (brown rice or wholegrain breads and pastas), which have more nutrients than white, refined grains.

• Oily fish is brain food for babies, says Petrelis, who recommends moms eat a variety of fish such as salmon, sardines or tuna three times a week.

• “It is important to drink enough fluid,” says Blaylock, who recommends at least two litres of water a day, plus a glass of water before, during and after each

feed. “Not drinking enough fluid can cause inadequate milk supply,” says Petrelis. Other good drinks are fruit juices (in moderation), especially berry juices, and certain herbal teas – these can be calming and can aid digestion.

useful tips • You should take pregnancy or post-pregnancy vitamins.

• Cabbage leaves can help to relieve engorgement.

“Crush them to release the enzymes and then pack them into your bra,” says Petrelis. Feeding on demand can also help to regulate milk production, and ease engorgement.

• To keep your blood sugar levels even, Petrelis suggests “eating small meals with regular snacks that include some form of protein”. Go for healthy, nutritious foods, and meals that you can make ahead of time – cook more than you need and freeze portions for another day. “A wholegrain sandwich with avo and hummus is great when there is just no time for anything else,” says Petrelis.

• “Get skin to skin contact as soon after birth as possible”, as this helps with bonding and latching with your baby, and encourages successful breast-feeding, says Blaylock.

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CHILD MAGAZINE finds out more about this common neurological disorder.

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magine a light bulb that starts flickering for no reason. That was how 17-year-old Kai Fitchen’s neurologist explained his seizures, which started at age nine. His mother, Bobbie, recalls, “At first I did not realise what was happening.

He had recently had tonsillitis with very high temperatures and his seizures were happening at night so I initially thought they were some form of night terrors related to this. But he would be very tired the next day and they continued long after his tonsillitis had passed.” Bobbie eventually spoke to a psychologist thinking Kai might need psychotherapy for the terrors but after a phone consultation she was referred to a neurologist who diagnosed Kai with epilepsy and put him on medication to help control the seizures.

Epilepsy is a neurological disorder characterised by repeated seizures*,

auras), numbness, jerking, twitching, tingling, lip smacking or staring.

Generalised seizures are more obvious and complicated, with characteristics ranging from subtle twitching and jerking to complete loss of consciousness, body stiffening, uncontrollable shaking and violent muscle contractions.

According to Western Cape paediatric neurologist Dr Adri van der Walt, the causes of epilepsy are largely cryptogenic (no known cause) but can include congenital defects; neurological trauma, such as brain injury or hypoxia; obvious underlying diseases or disorders, such as cerebral palsy or tuberculosis; or in the odd case there will be a hereditary factor.

“Diagnosis of epilepsy is largely clinical,” says Van der Walt. “We do use EEGs but a routine EEG is only positive in 80 percent of patients.”

She is just like every other girl her age.

The only difference is that she takes tablets every morning and night to prevent her seizures.

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moving forward “Medication is normally the best course of treatment and 70 percent of patients will respond to the first prescribed drug. A small subgroup will require a combination of two or more medications,” says Van der Walt. “There are no supplements that can treat epilepsy, although certain ones can be used to treat seizures caused by an abnormality in the system. This, however, is the case in a very small and rare group.”

Children with epilepsy can be put onto a ketogenic diet (high fat, moderate protein, low carb), but this is usually only prescribed when the medication route is not working as sustainability is a problem for children who don’t always buy into the idea of abstaining from yummy foods long term. “All diets must be run by a dietitian in conjunction with a neurologist,” says Van der Walt. “Parents should not decide to take this into their own hands.” Sometimes surgery is necessary to treat seizures.

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which are a result of abnormal electrical signals in the brain. “The highest incidence of seizures is within the first year of life, with approximately 120 cases per 100 000, dropping to 40 to 50 cases between one and 10 years and reduced to 20 in 100 000 in the teenage years,” says Dr Tiziana Aduc, paediatric neurologist and paediatrician at Sunninghill Hospital in Johannesburg.

Seizures (also known as fits) are classified as partial/focal – originating from one specific area of the brain – or generalised – involving all areas of the brain.

According to the World Health Organisation they can vary from “the briefest lapses of attention or muscle jerks, to severe and prolonged convulsions (violent and involuntary contractions, or a series of contractions, of the muscles). Seizures can also vary in frequency, from less than one per year to several per day.” Flickering lights, stress, illness, heat, anxiety and skipping medication may trigger seizures.

Focal seizures are generally less severe and may include sensory disturbances (strange feelings, smells or tastes sometimes referred to as epileptic

do daytime activities such as mountain climbing. However, even without daytime seizures, Kai still felt very different from his friends and withdrew from them, avoiding sleepovers and sometimes struggling with the fear that a seizure could strike at any time.

Noëline de Goede, national director at Epilepsy South Africa says, “There is still huge discrimination against children and adults with epilepsy. A lot of children are placed in special schools when they would be able to prosper at a mainstream school.” This makes educating teachers and peers imperative about epilepsy.

Ten-year-old T’mellia Ronnie from Cape Town was diagnosed with epilepsy when she was five. She is repeating Grade 3 this year in a mainstream school with a smaller class size – 18 learners compared to the 36 at her previous

school. “T’mellia copes better in a smaller class environment,” says her mother, Alex, “and her current school is more knowledgeable about epilepsy, which helps. Most mainstream schools still don’t know enough about it.”

Alex is working to increase awareness about epilepsy and to let people know that children with epilepsy are not different.

“T’mellia is just like every other girl her age. She does modelling, athletics and she sings. The only difference is that she takes tablets every morning and night to prevent her seizures.”

Says Van der Walt, “People fear things they don’t understand, so the best thing we can do is to educate others on epilepsy and how to manage seizures.” *Seizures can also be symptomatic of other diseases and disorders and their presence alone does not indicate epilepsy.

the truth about epilepsy • • • • • •

alling someone an “epileptic” is derogatory.

C People with epilepsy are not crazy, mentally ill or possessed.

Epilepsy is not contagious.

Epilepsy is not always inherited.

People with epilepsy will not swallow their tongue during a seizure.

People with epilepsy can lead a normal life although they should never swim alone or lock the door while bathing.

what to do if you witness a seizure Noëline de Goede, national director at Epilepsy South Africa, shares this important information: 1. Remain calm and make a note of the duration of the seizure.

2. Clear a space around him.

3. Loosen tight clothing and neckwear and remove spectacles.

4. Cushion the head and position the person on his left side, top leg bent, bottom arm slightly extended.

5. Wipe away excess mucous to facilitate breathing.

6. Reassure and assist until he has recovered or becomes re-orientated, then allow him to rest or sleep.

7. Do not restrict or restrain him.

8. Do not move him unless he is in immediate physical danger such as in a busy road.

9. Do not put anything between his teeth or in his mouth, this will cause injury.

10. Do not give him anything to eat or drink during the seizure.

11. Do not give him any medication unless instructed to do so by a neurologist.

12. Only seek medical attention if:

• the person has injured himself badly;

• it is his first seizure;

• it is a repeat seizure that lasts longer than five minutes;

• the seizures are repetitive and unrelenting.

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how to fight right

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y late parents were wonderful, loving people but they fought fiercely. It tore me up and put me off marriage for years. When I eventually relented with a wonderful, loving man of my own, we vowed not to fight when we had children. We did, of course. We’re human – we get tired and impatient, and children provide fertile new grounds for disagreement. So we settled for just trying to fight right.

Now reassuring research shows this is all that parents need to do. Conflict is inevitable in any relationship over time, and children can benefit from seeing their parents disagreeing “and even being mildly angry”, says psychologist Patrick Davies, co-author of a major US study published in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry. “It gives them

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a lesson on how you can come to a mutually acceptable solution through compromise.” Adds fellow psychologist and researcher, E Mark Cummings, “Children actually are not disturbed by it if there are sincere efforts to problem solve. They are happy to see the parents work it out.”

Past research has focused on destructive conflict, and has clearly shown that this affects children’s emotional wellbeing, making them more prone to aggression, bad behaviour, anxiety, sleep problems and depression. A study measuring children’s stress levels while they watched their parents fight showed that their heart rates, breathing and sweat-gland activity all rose.

The US study looked at families where parental conflict was more constructive. It found that in time, these children

grew psychologically healthier and showed more “prosocial” behaviour. “They tended to be friendly to other children, to be empathetic when others were upset, and to show concerns for moral issues and for the fairness and wellness of others,” Davies concluded.

the prizes The advantages of fighting right are obvious to Karin Steyn, a Johannesburg-based counselling psychologist who works with children, and is a young mother herself.

“It’s our job as parents to teach children the skills they need to cope in life, and disagreeing constructively is one of them,” she says. “It’s unrealistic to think you’ll find a partner one day and always be happy and never

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All parents disagree, and how we do it can harm our children – or help them. GLYNIS HORNING reports.

have problems. But often children grow up with that idea because they never saw their parents fight. As adults, they have issues about expressing emotions.”

They’re shocked to learn that fighting is a normal part of a relationship, that it’s not a problem, and won’t lead to the destruction of their relationship, says Steyn. “They panic and assume that something is wrong with them and their marriage. In fact, fighting is normal and healthy, and it’s needed to grow a relationship.”

All emotions are normal and healthy, she explains, including those often seen as bad – anger, hurt, disappointment. “It’s what you do with them that is important.” If you suppress them, they can emerge in corrosive passive-aggression or in physical ills, from heart

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Fighting is normal and healthy, and it’s needed to grow a relationship. conditions to cancers. “You need to model for children how to manage emotions, so they can develop as individuals and be able to assert and stand up for themselves, and withstand peer pressure.”

Children raised in families where parents repress feelings and don’t fight grow up frightened of conflict, says Steyn. They become over-anxious in new situations,

so they avoid them, depriving themselves of opportunities in life. They are afraid to express themselves because they think they will be ostracised or punished, and won’t be loved any more. So they repress their feelings and become like pressure-cookers, waiting to explode. “These are the people who say ‘I don’t know what happened, it just overwhelmed me, I blacked out and lost control.’”

the pitfalls But fighting right can be tricky. “Most conflict is about winning, and we tend to try and win at all costs,” says Johannesburg-based clinical psychologist and couples counsellor Ian Lipman. “This often means that we get ‘personal’, saying things that we don’t necessarily intend

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and that are personally damaging. For children to experience this is destructive, as they may begin to see you or your partner based on this, rather than the reality.”

If you fight fair and clean, and disagree rather than attack each other, “you model that differences are okay and a natural part of life, and the appropriate way to deal with them,” he says. But there are still times when it’s better to wait until children are asleep or out of the house before discussing your differences. Financial or marital problems, and issues with in-laws or with the children themselves are best dealt with in private.

Fights about financial and marital problems threaten children’s sense of security, warns Margery Rosen, author of Can This Marriage Be Saved? (Workman Publishing Company). If there are money problems, you can let them know money is tight, but reassure them you have enough to take care of them, she advises.

With marital problems, even if you agree to fight away from children there will

anxiety until you know for sure and have a plan, she says.

“Bottom line is that we all fight, and learning to do it right is important not just for the children but for your marriage,” concludes Steyn. “Research shows couples who fight have healthier and happier relationships that last longer. We all have issues that won’t just go away if we leave them. Being able to confront them and resolve them is a sign of emotional maturity – it shows you are in control of your life.”

fighting right Fighting is linked to our survival instinct and is a part of life. We strengthen our relationships and give children valuable life skills when we fight right: • Fight honestly – acknowledge and name your emotions (anger, hurt, disappointment), and take responsibility for how you express them.

• Use words, not actions – no slamming doors, throwing or pounding things.

Children actually are not disturbed by it if there are sincere efforts to problem solve. invariably be flare-ups, and they will still sense the tension – however much you pretend to get along. Explain that you love each other even when you fight, that the happiest couples disagree and arguments are part of life, says Lipman. “Tell them the argument is between Mom and Dad, and doesn’t involve them – children should not be drawn into adult affairs.”

Fighting in front of children when the fight is about them can leave them assuming responsibility for the problem and feeling guilty, he says, or it can allow them to manipulate you if the disagreement concerns discipline. And fighting about inlaws threatens their sense of family – these are their grandparents, remember.

Rosen is also against fighting in front of children about things you fear “may” happen, such as moving home or losing your job. Don’t put them through the

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• If you lose your temper, admit it and walk away to regain control – “I’m going to take 10 to calm down.” When children lose their tempers, use timeouts to help them do this too.

• Later, analyse the feelings behind the fury – was it fear, hurt, envy, guilt, a need to be right or in control? Are you just tired, stressed, hormonal? Or do you need to unpack them with a professional?

• Develop a release valve such as jogging, gardening or baking, and help children develop one too – walking the dog with you, tearing or crumpling paper.

• Practise relaxing, and show the children how – meditate, listen to music, watch comedy shows and off-load with friends.

Invite children to share their feelings with you.

• As a family, talk about anger, and how different people express it. Help

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children identify it in themselves by “reflecting” it for them – “You look angry because you’re clenching your fists; is that what you’re feeling?”

• Have a “catchword” you, your partner and the children can use when you feel things are getting out of control, suggests Lipman. “It should act as a handbrake – both parties should stop immediately and take time out or continue in a more respectful fashion.”

• Watch volume (keep it down), tone (sarcasm scars), and language (avoid insults and demeaning names); and focus on the action not the person.

“No naming, blaming or shaming,” says Steyn.

• Communicate clearly, and check that you properly grasp what your partner means – no making assumptions or jumping to conclusions. Paraphrase what they say and reflect it back: “When you say that, do you mean…?”

• Hear them out – listen without interruption or judgment until they feel understood. “Consensus comes when parties feel they have been heard and respected, not necessarily agreed with,” says Lipman. “Listening validates your partner and shows you respect them.”

• Use “I” statements – “When you do X, I feel Y” – and avoid generalising or catastrophising the situation – “you always”; “you never”.

• Spell out clearly what you would like – “I feel disrespected when you don’t ring to tell me you’re running late, please call next time.”

• Never ask children to choose sides or referee – they don’t want to know

who is right or who is wrong, they just want you to love each other and not to fight destructively.

• Never talk about leaving each other – it threatens children’s sense of security.

• Be sensitive to signs of stress in children – acting out, withdrawing, stomachaches, headaches, sleep problems and overeating.

• Don’t look to win, but to negotiate a compromise. Think of arguments as simply problems to be solved, says Rosen, and let children see there’s more than one solution.

• Be aware that we sometimes fight worse in front of our children, because we don’t want to look bad. Get a grip.

• Always make up in front of them, or tell them when you have, and show your affection as a couple. “Apologising, accepting fault and forgiving teaches our children responsibility and breaks the myth and expectation of perfection,” says Lipman.

• If you still struggle to fight right, get help. See a psychologist or call Famsa: 031 202 8987, 021 447 7951, or the Family Life Centre: 011 788 4784.

how children react Fighting in front of children can affect their sense of security and the confidence they need to explore the world, says researcher E Mark Cummings, co-author of Children and Marital Conflict: An Emotional Security Perspective (Guilford Press). How we handle conflict is critical whatever your child’s age.

Under two: “Even six-month-olds are acutely sensitive to all types of conflict,” says Cummings. They may not understand what is said, but they experience distress when their prime sources of comfort yell at each other.

Tip: Tone it down, hug each other and them, and say “It’s fine, we still love each other.”

Two to seven: Toddlers and preschoolers see themselves as the centre of the universe and when you fight they can think it’s because of something they’ve done.

Tip: Reassure them that everyone has differences; this is not about them, and you still love each other.

Seven and older: School children often fear the worst and think you’re heading for divorce. Their school work, behaviour and health can suffer.

Tip: Acknowledge you are having a disagreement, reassure them that you’re working at resolving it and that you still love each other. Show them with gestures of affection.

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dad’s blog

I’m watching you MARC DE CHAZAL thought as a toddler you could “fix” machines by using spiced words.

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must have been three or four years old – too young to remember this story – so I’m relying on good old oral tradition. As the story goes, my grandparents were visiting us on our farm. My grandfather found me outside somewhere pretending to fix my tricycle, which I had turned upside down with its wheels to the sky, banging away at it with something or other. My dad fixed his own tractors, you see, so I must have keenly observed him in his workshop and turned it into my own little game, as children do.

But, if you have a short temper and tend to swear a lot while you’re trying to fix the tractor that keeps breaking down and your son is hovering around your workshop, his pretend game may have a few startling yet colourful words thrown into the mix. My grandpa apparently heard his grandson using words better suited

to a workshop full of grown-up men than a toddler playing mechanic. I’m not sure if my grandfather was mildly amused or slightly horrified, but I’m sure my dad must have been a little embarrassed at supper that night. My mother would have seen to it.

“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you,” said American author Robert Fulghum.

Sure, I watched – and heard – my father in moments that were probably not his most shining as a role model. But he has always loved my mother. And he has always concerned himself with the wellbeing of his children. Those are the things I remember far more than the cursing of the broken tractor… and tricycle.

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My grandpa apparently heard his grandson using words better suited to a workshop full of grown-up men than a toddler playing mechanic.

health

swimming lessons

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etting pregnant – that should be fun. Most couples are excited about the chance to create life. But, for some, it isn’t fun. Many couples struggle to fall pregnant and male infertility is “growing massively” says fertility specialist Dr Colin La Grange, of the Life Centre in Durban. Why is this, and what can we do about it?

Infertility is “the inability to conceive after one year of unprotected intercourse,” says Cape Town-based obstetrician/gynaecologist and fertility specialist Dr Sascha Edelstein. He says that male infertility is “the sole factor in 20 to 30 percent of cases and a contributory factor in a further 25 to 50 percent.” Male infertility can be due to a number of factors: • low sperm count: anything less than 20 million per millilitre; • abnormal sperm morphology: this is most commonly seen relating to lower levels of testosterone, says La Grange. When sperm are abnormally shaped they are not able to move properly; • poor sperm motility: the sperm aren’t moving properly; • incorrect progression: sperm should move forward, rather than in a circle.

why might this be?

These factors can result from any number of causes.

“Childhood mumps with scrotal swelling (suggesting mumps orchitis) can cause sterility”, says Edelstein. Other reasons can include overheating of the testicles (which is why

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TAMLYN VINCENT looks at male infertility and ways to improve your chances of conceiving.

undescended testicles can result in infertility), trauma to the testes, obstructions in the outflow tract, retrograde ejaculation (semen enters the bladder instead of moving out through the urethra), and impotence, adds Edelstein.

Prostate problems can also affect sperm motility, says La Grange. He also places emphasis on stress and diet, saying that when combined with stress, a poor diet can negatively affect the production of testosterone. “Chemicals in the environment,” says La Grange, “including those in detergents or shampoos, can impact fertility.” Having had a sexually transmitted disease (STD) can also affect fertility, as can using lubricants, “which can be toxic to sperm”, advises Edelstein.

watch points “In the majority of cases there are no signs to predict sterility,” says Edelstein, but there are several indicators, and men experiencing these should seek medical advice: • loss of libido; • discharge from the penis, suggesting an STD; • small testes: “the normal size is approximately that of a squash-ball,” notes Edelstein; • varicocele or enlarged veins in the scrotum, which can cause overheating, adds La Grange; • swollen, enlarged and painful testes.

In addition, men with a typical A-type personality are at high risk, says La Grange. “Stress and the production

of testosterone compete for the same resources.” When coping with stress is demanding too many of the body’s resources, insufficient testosterone is produced and sperm stop growing properly.

what can you do?

Some male-infertility causes can’t be changed, and some may need medical treatment. However, there are certain lifestyle adjustments that can improve fertility. Here are a few suggestions: • Quit smoking: “it has been shown to affect sperm DNA,” says Edelstein. Sperm take about three months to develop, so changes will only be noticed in time.

• Cut the junk out of your diet. Avoid things like coffee, alcohol, sugar, wheat, red meat and chocolate, recommends La Grange.

• “Obesity can cause erectile dysfunction, as well as reduce circulating testosterone,” says Edelstein.

• “Certain vitamins and nutrients – such as zinc, selenium, vitamins A and E, and omega supplements – can improve fertility,” says La Grange.

• Avoid drugs such as anabolic steroids or marijuana.

• Avoid overheating the testes. Heating does play a role, says La Grange, who finds that people who have a high body temperature, like those who eat lots of hot foods or sit in a hot car all day, can have more problems with poor quality sperm.

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sneak peak LUCILLE KEMP and DONNA COBBAN chat to four families – some in South Africa and some abroad – who have uprooted themselves and started over.

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Meet the family Barbara Rishworth is single mom to two boys: 14-year-old Jacob and 11-year-old Jethro.

They recently made their transition from a remote smallholding to life in a city. Barbara teaches drawing to third-year Jewellery Design students at Durban University of Technology, and would like to pursue her masters in this field, when she’s more settled.

“Seven years ago, my friends jokingly summed up my life as having gone from four flushing toilets to a pit. When I got divorced, I left Chicago, came back to South Africa and decided a rural, old-fashioned childhood was what I wanted for my boys – so to the “pit” we headed, which was the rustic and remote community of Byrne Valley, Richmond in the southern Drakensberg. I paid for my share in the nature reserve, which is divided into 12 plots, built a home and “lived the life” – you have to drive an hour and a half to get anywhere.

Now life has made the return from pit to three flushing toilets. When Jacob turned 12, and would soon start high school, I had to weigh things up. Being where we were, I would have had to ship him off to boarding school, where I would only see him every second weekend; and Jethro would soon follow. So I decided to move back to a city, near to a good high school. I was petrified of the move. For seven years Byrne Valley protected me from

all that was bad in the world and it was wonderfully isolated from others. I would happily go for weeks without speaking to people. Living in the city again meant close proximity to people, paying too much rent for a, probably, dinky flat, traffic and the noise of domestic animals.

But I got lucky and found a peaceful, big house with yellowwood flooring in Seaview, Durban, which overlooks an ancient mango forest. And I have to say I have been surprised by the plusses of life in the mainstream. There is a wonderfully supportive group of like-minded people in my neighbourhood, some of whom also have children. I share the load with them, carting to and from school only twice a week. My children have made the move seamlessly.

They’re making friends quickly, getting to grips with technology, and we’re able to go to the movies and spend a day at the beach, while I haven’t had to sacrifice my freedom or sense of community. I have always found that living out in nature has quelled the beast in me, but making such a drastic move from farm to city has taught me there is something good to take from every situation.

I have been here for about two months now and while I’d like to be settled already and not have to consciously think about where everything is in a grocery store, seeing how happy my sons are is proof enough that I am where I should be. And in another seven years time when their schooling is over we can reassess… Who knows where will be next?”

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straight up

Meet the family Annchen Saaiman is originally from Uniondale in the Western Cape and she now lives in Oslo, Norway, with her Norwegian husband Rasmus and their three-year-old son, Sturla (Sturla, in case you were wondering, means a quick and busy person).

“At the end of 2009 we left Tokyo where we had been living for half a year and moved to Grefsen, a residential area about 10 minutes from Oslo’s city centre (which is where Rasmus has been living and working for about 10 years). The most dramatic change has of course been the weather, after Tokyo and, prior to that, South Africa. I really had to brace myself for the cold.

Norwegians have a favourite saying, “There’s no bad weather only bad clothes”. To a certain degree they are right, and I have since learnt to dress according to the weather and invest in good woollen clothes for the winter. When dressing a child the most important item is woollen underwear. You then add another layer of wool (pants and a jersey) and then something that they call an “utedress”, which is like a watertight duvet or windtight overall. It goes without saying that getting ready in winter takes a little longer. Every morning I walk Sturla to a nearby kindergarten and catch the tram in to the office where I work as an HR specialist at a software company. The corporate language is English (there are over 55 different nationalities working in the Oslo head office), but this does not mean I get away with not speaking Norwegian. Luckily the government gives a certain quota of foreigners married to Norwegians free Norwegian language lessons. I took these classes when

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we were last living here in 2007 and can now converse fairly fluently.

After work, weather and light allowing, we might go for a walk or spend time indoors preparing dinner and reading and playing. The weekends allow for more outdoor time – especially on our bicycle built for three. This has been one of the best investments we made. We bought the bike in Tokyo, and make regular outings on it, with Sturla in the baby seat, Rasmus cycling, and me at the back on the part that is meant for packages – it’s so much fun.

Norwegian food is a lot tamer than what we ate in Tokyo, where, because of the language barrier, we often had to eat what we got. Flattened octopus and shark fin soup were a highlight, and eating rice, vegetables, soup and fish for breakfast was also a first. So I am somewhat glad to be back to almost ‘normal’ eating. Although, my first Christmas dinner in Norway was a bit of a shock: my husband’s family eats a traditional meal of cooked trout with a pancake-like potato bread and soup. I missed the festive meals we have in South Africa, but over time I learnt to like this dish.

On the down side, making friends has not been as easy as I thought it would be – Norwegians tend to be very organised, leaving no space for spontaneous gettogethers with friends. But then I do get to meet a lot of foreigners who are having a similar experience and then get to meet friends of friends and inevitably if you know one South African you are sure to meet at least 10 others. All in all, I am very happy to be here – to be experiencing another culture and language.”

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Meet the family James and Lauren Stewart moved from the suburbs in Cape Town to a farm in Franschhoek.

James is a SAMA award-winning and Emmy-nominated musician and Lauren owns her own wellness distribution company. Their two sons are Jamie, seven-and-a-half-years old and Jack, three-and-a-half-years old.

“When Lauren and I got married it was a toss up between moving into my flat or sharing a large property with Lauren’s parents in Bishop’s Court, Cape Town. Luckily for me, my in-laws are two really special people, who I am close to, so the decision wasn’t difficult. We loved living together as one big happy extended family, but with Lauren and I having had our first son, we began to feel the need for more space, and were in search of a way we could all be together – but not on top of each other.

When the opportunity to buy an apricot farm in Franschhoek arose, we pounced on it. At first Lauren and I were nervous at the thought of moving away from our friends – we didn’t know anyone in Franschhoek.

We also arrived in winter, so the town was dead. It took a bit of to-ing and fro-ing before we properly settled as a family. In the beginning I insisted on maintaining my work routine: trekking to my studio in the city five days a week – for two years. When I woke up to the ridiculousness of it all (I was going in simply to answer phones

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and type emails), I decided to set up office at home with Lauren’s office next door. And because we are our own bosses, my wife and I get to have breakfast together every morning and with our children’s schools just up the road, we haven’t missed a gala or school play yet. If time spent with the family means we fall behind with work we always have after hours to catch up. The only pain is the travelling and traffic to Cape Town and the airport for meetings, which can be all too frequent sometimes, but in the grander scheme of things, it’s hardly a deal breaker.

Life is relaxed: I look out of the window from my desk onto mountains, blue skies and pear trees. The children have a huge lawn to play on, and they can run around and be adventurous on the farm. In winter there’s a river that runs through the property and they have lots of fun playing there. A coffee with friends at a café is a quick walk away, and we have some of the best restaurants in the country to choose from. Being on a farm on the border of the village, we are out of town but not in the middle of nowhere. And, of course, the small-town vibe makes us feel part of a close-knit community.

We’ve also made quite a few friends and have got to know many different families through our sons’ schools.

We have a good life and we’ve worked hard to achieve it – we’re literally enjoying the fruits of our labour.”

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Meet the family Patrick Maphaso is married to Emily and together with their children Tumi, aged seven, and Cindy, aged 11, they have been living in Ireland for the past 10 years. Patrick’s older daughter Gwen is 21 and lives in her own apartment in Dublin’s city centre, while Charmaine, aged 17, lives with Patrick’s ex-wife in Johannesburg.

“In 2001 I was offered a position in Ireland by an Irish recruitment agency.

I wasn’t sure what I was getting myself into and it took me six months to make up my mind. Initially I arrived on a work permit scheme but that’s all in the past as I now have Irish citizenship.

Our lives are very busy and each day I wake at 6:30am and head straight to the internet for 30 minutes just to check emails. I check in with Sky News at 7am, and then switch to BBC and euronews to get a good grasp on the day’s headlines.

If I’m working at our head office in Tallaght, I’ll hit the road by 8:15am and my wife will drop the children off at school, but if I’m heading to my office in Dublin City, I’ll drop the children and walk to the tram station to avoid traffic – this takes about 20 minutes compared to 45 minutes or more if I took the car. It goes without saying that we are mostly warmly dressed with a coat and umbrella in hand – it is not uncommon to have four seasons in one day. While we rarely see the sun, if we do, we are soon rewarded with rain and hailstones for the pleasure.

One thing that I haven’t found very different is our eating habits. Apart from Irish puddings and the fabulous Irish

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breakfasts, we eat pretty much the same things we ate back home. The schools that Tumi and Cindy attend are wonderful and the classes are never really more than 20 pupils per class.

Teachers get evaluated every quarter and receive regular in-house training, so the standard of education is very high. We don’t pay a cent in fees, although there is a small contribution for art and crafts and the like and then a few other costs tend to creep in as the year progresses.

My wife works at a Montessori crèche and finishes at 12:30pm, which allows her to fetch Tumi from school at 1:30pm and Cindy at 2:30pm. Their afternoons are generally filled with soccer and tennis games. I normally get home at 7pm, but it can sometimes be as late as 11pm, if I have meetings or other engagements. I now work as a selfemployed security/health and safety consultant and I market, research and deliver training countrywide depending on the demand. I also advocate on behalf of immigrants and organise and mobilise them to join the trade unions.

I sometimes represent immigrants at the labour-relations commission and equality tribunal. You work twice as hard when you’re self-employed – but what you put in, you get out. On the social side of things, we’ve found making friends not that easy. The Irish can be quite reserved, but once you pass that barrier you’ll find wonderfully warm people. While we miss South Africa, we do enjoy the relaxed manner in which the Irish operate and their capacity to enjoy life.”

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X vs Z

the new generation game Parenting has always been challenging, but with our children growing up in a techno-saturated world, so different to the one in which we were youngsters, the gap

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ften referred to as the generation that refused to grow up, generation X has finally come of age in the 21st century – becoming the parents of the dot.com children who make up generation Z. Their children are of an entirely new millennium. The child whose birth date falls between 1995 and 2009 was born into and raised with technology. Cellphones, the internet, social media and satellite television are as normal to them as riding bikes and climbing trees were for their parents.

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helps you bridge the divide. changing of the guard These differences can leave children and parents worlds apart and, whenever there are large age gaps, conflict of one form or another will exist. According to Anel Annandale, an educational psychologist at Summit College in Kyalami, conflicts and misunderstandings between generations X and Z mainly tend to revolve around different expectations.

“Generation Z children are used to instant gratification, and might not think it unfair to expect that their parents meet their demands for material goods the instant they

express them. Conflict may also arise when the more environmentally aware gen z-ers place pressure on their parents to change their habits, scolding them for their previously accepted wasteful nature,” she says.

“In addition, generation Z lives in a virtual world, where it’s possible to connect with any number of friends around the globe. Despite this, they are very likely to be lacking in areas of verbal communication, confidence and interpersonal skills.” She points out that where generation X would likely have been more comfortable hanging out

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Cellphones, the internet, social media and satellite television are as normal to this generation as riding bikes and climbing trees were for their parents.

with their friends at someone’s house, generation Z will more likely hang out in cyberspace. The problem with online socialising is that it can leave children unsure and insecure in face-to-face social situations.

“Gen Z will therefore require a lot of encouragement in social situations and may be very anxious about their academic achievements. As parents, it is important that you help your children set realistic goals, while offering plenty of encouragement and positive feedback,” says Annandale.

only a few hours a week. Spending time in a technologyfree environment, where you can communicate face-toface, is vital if you want to ensure your child feels valued,” says Glen-Spyron.

She says that it is also important to treat your children as individuals. This will help to boost their self-esteem.

Individuality, says Glen-Spyron, should be encouraged by parents in order to balance out the group culture that pervades social media. Parents must ensure that their children are made aware of the positive aspects of being an individual, as well as the benefits that come from belonging to a group.

quality time Charine Glen-Spyron, a clinical psychologist at Bella Vida Centre in Bryanston, points out that too much time online can stunt a child’s emotional intelligence, due to a lack of face-to-face communication.

“Generation X households often consist of dual-income families, meaning the parents do not spend as much time with their children as they would like. Because of this, they often overcompensate by being more lenient

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technological boundaries in terms of the child’s online activities. Parents need to let go of their guilt and realise that the need for boundaries and rules remains just as strong as it ever was,” she says.

“Of course, it is also important that parents make the effort to spend quality time with their children, even if it is

Annandale states that when it comes to technology, parents have a simple choice – get with it or lose out. The availability of alternative means of communication, such as email, sms, MXit and Facebook, offers savvy generation X parents a variety of ways to communicate, connect and relate to their children.

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“Of course, this must still be done within reason. In my practice, I often come across parents who are way too involved in their children’s personal lives. Just because social media enables you to chat to all your child’s friends and see what they are up to all the time, doesn’t mean that it is okay to do so,” she says.

A further point of potential conflict exists because the parent’s desire to protect their child from potential online predators is at odds with the child’s urge for online independence, says Glen-Spyron.

“Parents should implement rules that provide boundaries in which the children can explore their limits while still feeling safe and contained. By giving children choices that are age appropriate – and boundaries in which to express these – parents enable them to develop their sense of self-control within a protected zone, one in which the parent is still there to help them, if needed.”

Robyn Slade, 35, from Randburg, has an 11-year-old stepson and is a firm

days, but one has to be very careful and vigilant about what sites are being visited. Parents need to be quite open with their children, letting them know about the dangers that exist on social networks. My opinion is that we can’t deny our children the use of technology – we have to embrace it and learn as much about it as we can for their sake. It does, however, make me feel that our children are forced to grow up a little too quickly,” says Charlene.

the family brand Nikki Bush, creative parenting expert and co-author of the book Future-Proof Your Child: Parenting the Wired Generation (Penguin), says that generation Z will be very info-wise, with a unique understanding of technology. This is because it is something that has always been a part of their lives.

At the same time, they will place a higher emphasis on experiences than they will on school grades.

An adult climbs a tree and when they reach the top they think: it’s a long way to fall, whereas a child gets to the top and thinks: look how far I can see. believer in the benefits of technology. A self-confessed gadget-geek, she says that technology is the future and believes that it must be open to children, otherwise they won’t be able to develop the skills necessary to cope with life in the 21st century. “At the moment, we allow Joshua to have a cellphone, but not one that has internet access, as we feel he is too young for that. A suitably protected internet connection, which still allows him to research his own projects is also fine.

However, a Facebook or Twitter profile would not be allowed until he is older and can fully understand the dangers of online predators,” she says.

Charlene Goncalves, 38, from Bassonia, is a single mother of two who says that she was quite reluctant to give her children cellphones, but she realised that it is virtually a necessity for children today.

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As they get older, their value of experiences is likely to see them travelling the world or possibly joining a socially conscious effort in a foreign country or underprivileged area. However, in childhood it falls to the parents to provide these experiences.

“For this reason, it is important that parents create genuine experiences – whether this is special family time, specific outings or focused playtime – that will give this new generation the encounters it craves,” says Bush.

“Generation Z is also growing up in a world where it is constantly assaulted by brand images. If we are to help our children develop their own identity and moral compass, we need to have our own message – a family brand – that can directly compete with the many other messages our children receive from the media. If parents don’t respond by offering

strong values of their own, the family brand may become lost amid the clutter of the numerous other messages screaming for our children’s attention,” she says.

Bush says that to avoid generational conflict parents must make their family brand the one that their children aspire to. This should be done by providing them with a set of values and beliefs against which they can judge the messages streaming in from the outside. After all, no parent wants their child to appropriate values or morals from an external source, particularly when the current “cult of celebrity” makes idols out of people like Paris Hilton and Kanye West.

golden rule Annandale believes that the most important thing is to talk to your children, to listen to them and to lead by example. If parents want their children to learn decent values, they must be prepared to teach them.

“Don’t just sit them down in front of the TV or computer and expect them to learn these values on their own. Watch with them, learn with them and discuss with them what behaviour or actions you approve or did not approve of; discuss alternative behaviour or actions. I often hear complaints from parents that their children have no patience – I wonder how many of these parents have had

the patience to teach this virtue to their children?” says Annandale.

“I think that the golden rule when it comes to raising generation Z is the same as it would be for any other generation: the parent needs to realise that it is not about their feelings, it is about the child. They should therefore always ask whether what they are doing is in the best interests of the child,” adds Glen-Spyron.

She says that by shifting the focus away from what makes us anxious as parents, and instead focusing on what is best for the child, we can avoid many of the clashes that are otherwise inevitable in the growingup process. “Parents need to stand back and allow their children to explore, to fall over and skin their knees, or even on occasion, to be angry with their mom and dad. Children need to be given the space to explore the sense of wonder that only exists in childhood, and if that means they sometimes get hurt, then that is what must be allowed to happen,” says Glen-Spyron.

“Remember that an adult climbs a tree and when they reach the top they think: it’s a long way to fall, whereas a child gets to the top and thinks: look how far I can see,” says Glen-Spyron. “That is the fundamental difference parents should remember when the generation gap seems unbridgeable.”

generation Z under the microscope • Generation Z children were born between 1995 and 2009.

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technology and are the most technologically literate generation, hence their being referred to as “digital natives”.

• They tend to be the children of older, wealthier parents and have fewer siblings.

• They generally have short attention spans and are very impatient, desiring instant results.

• They tend to be very altruistic, placing a strong emphasis on issues such as tolerance, the environment, the underprivileged and social justice.

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island of the gods LISA MC NAMARA discovers that there’s plenty for the whole family to enjoy in beautiful Bali.

of colonialism, political strife and the travel industry”. Most of the Balinese are Hindu and we were in awe of their religious fervour. From offerings to processions – there seemed to be a ceremony on every street, every day. On the subject of streets: driving in Bali is scary. Not only are there hundreds of motorbikes on every street corner, but there are sometimes as many as four or five passengers – often with groceries and even a caged white rabbit – perched atop.

We escaped the mayhem of the roads for the sanctuary of the Club Med resort in Nusa Dua where we were to be hosted.

To be honest, Club Med Bali is not a resort; it’s more of a world on its own

The scenery and rich cultural sites deserve a month or two to really take them in and I dream of going back, this time for an extended stay.

My travel book, Bali and Lombok (DK Eyewitness Travel) sets the scene: “Hilltops and mountain gods are both prominent in Balinese legend. The landscape of the islands has deeply influenced their cultural, political and economic life for thousands of years. Old traditions have persisted remarkably, despite the successive impacts

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and offers the perfect holiday for families with award-winning children’s facilities.

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hose in the know don’t recommend visiting Bali in January — it’s hot and humid, it rains and many Asians and Australians are on holiday, so resorts and beaches can be crowded. However, I was invited to attend a work function in Nusa Dua, South Bali and managed to convince my husband and youngest that a three-day visit to a country we had never been to would be worth the very long flight. Robyn, who is nine and an intrepid traveller, took little convincing but my husband required some work. The joy of landing on a notyet-visited continent and experiencing vastly different landscapes, people, food and culture proved to be worth every minute of the round trip.

Top: Tanah Lot Temple; above left: a Candi Bentar (split gate); above right: Robyn in Balinese dress

not be complete without its G.Os®, described as young, enthusiastic and child-loving. Your children, provided with entertainment, naps, specially prepared meals and everyday comforts, play happily and safely while you relax at the pool or beach.

For the older, somewhat fearless children who want to try out everything, the Mini Club offers amazing activities and adventures. Robyn took to snorkelling and the trapeze with some trepidation, but much enthusiasm, thoroughly enjoying them both. But she was just as happy swimming in the sea or the huge swimming pool. While I visited the spa for its signature Four Hands treatment, my husband read on his lounger, knowing that Robyn’s safety was taken care of by two vigilant lifeguards, one at either end of the pool.

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I was sad that Julian wasn’t along for the ride as Club Med offers teenagers freedom and excitement in a safe environment. There is no lifting to parties or worrying about alcohol, as the resort has shows and discos every night and a strict no under 18 drinking rule. They also have everything you need for land and aqua sports and teens are able to have a dream holiday with their own group of new friends from all over the world.

Sadly, our three days flew by. Robyn took part in a number of Mini Club events, and particularly enjoyed the traditional Balinese fashion show, the Michael Jackson extravaganza and the Circus Show put on by the amazingly talented and energetic G.Os®. South Bali is a good base for further exploration, so on our last day we ventured into the country and spent a hot and humid morning visiting the Temple of Tanah Lot and the surrounding rice fields. The scenery and rich cultural sites deserve a month or two to really take them in and I dream of going back, this time for an extended stay.

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when to go Bali is just a few degrees south of the equator and the average temperature hovers around the 30°C mark. The rain season is between October and March, although it mostly rains in the evenings giving you balmy, sunny days. The best time to go, however, is during their dry season from April to September.

offence. Here are some tips: • Light-weight natural fabrics • When visiting sacred sites, dress accordingly • Wear long-sleeved, light-weight clothing to avoid mosquito bites • Sarongs are a winner to cover up beach wear

how to get there health checks Vaccines It’s strongly suggested that you get vaccines for hepatitis A and typhoid fever. Older people and people with a compromised immune system should also get a flu vaccine. If you are planning on staying in Bali for an extended holiday, you might also want to talk to your health care practitioner about shots for hepatitis B, Japanese encephalitis and rabies (transmitted from monkey bites.)

Malaria The tourist areas in Bali are generally risk-free, but if you plan on visiting the rural areas it’s wise to take precaution. Ask your health care practitioner for the best medical option. Use insect repellent daily and wear lightweight, long-sleeved clothing.

Water “Bali belly” has a reputation of monumental proportions. Stay on the safe side and drink only bottled water and use it to brush your teeth.

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We flew courtesy of Air Malaysia and found their staff, service and planes to be first-class. Visit malaysiaairlines.com.

where to stay We stayed at the recently refurbished, four-trident rated Club Med Bali. The resort is surrounded by the Java Sea and Indian Ocean and a 30-minute transfer is available from Denpasar Airport. Package deals from 13 August 2011 to October 2011 are: Johannesburg R12 715 plus taxes (R3 280) Durban R14 850 plus taxes (R3 245) Cape Town R14 270 plus taxes (R3 690).

High season supplements apply from 24 September 2011 to 28 October 2011 For more info, contact 011 840 2600

family fun in Bali Go shopping, make a traditional offering, watch a traditional Balinese show and play at Kuta Beach. Other sights include the Sacred Monkey Forest, the Bali Elephant Park and Turtle Island.

special note It is advisable to do research on the country you are planning to visit and to learn more about that country’s political climate. Especially remote destinations should be well researched. The Australian government has posted advice on their website for Aussies planning on travelling to this part of Asia. For more info, visit smartraveller.gov. au/zw-cgi/view/advice/indonesia

Clockwise from top left: Balinese dancer; Club Med Bali pool and bar; G.O.® in action; Traditional Asian fare

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art smart If you can’t find your fridge for all the children’s paintings and drawings disguising it, perhaps it’s time to create an art wall, says ELAINE EKSTEEN. pockets of creativity

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y husband and I love art… but currently the only pieces we seem to be collecting are the painted scribbly bits, crayon scrawls and smudgy footprints of our toddler. Five years ago we’d never have dreamt our home would have a toddler’s artworks haphazardly maskingtaped to the kitchen tiles. Our fridge and kitchen walls will soon all be spoken for – and he’s only two. Who knows what our house will look like when he starts primary school.

Which got me thinking that perhaps it’d be better to create a special display zone somewhere in our home: a dedicated stretch of wall to hang some of our little artist’s “masterpieces” in a more permanent (and aesthetically pleasing) fashion.

Here are five ideas I’m toying with – perhaps one of these will also inspire you to create a permanent spot in your home for displaying your child’s art.

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Mount one of those see-through plastic magazine storage pocket systems on an open wall. The ease with which you can change what’s on display makes this an attractive option, particularly if your offspring will be in charge of rotating what’s on exhibit. Since the pockets aren’t a lot larger than A4, you might like to photograph their oversized drawings (or 3D items) and pop a print into a pocket.

frame it You’ll need a selection of picture frames. Hang the frames so that they work as a group. Choose frames that are identical (if you like symmetry) or choose a variety that work together as a collection – perhaps different size frames with various mouldings, but all in the same colour.

hang on tight Buy metal cable (like that used for balustrading or low-voltage track system lighting) and mount it flush against the

wall – you could put up say two or three rows, one below each other. Hang your child’s creations with binder or bulldog clips. Different colour clips can be used for different family members.

it’s a corker Glue cork tiles to your wall in a strip, square or shape of your fancy; or create an art panel down each child’s wardrobe door. Paint the tiles if you prefer a more exciting colour than cork au naturel. (If your children are young, ensure the tiles are out of reach, else tiny fingers may be injured by the drawing pins you’ll need to use to put up the art.)

magnetic attraction If you’ve ogled magnetic walls in overseas décor mags, like I have, you may be disappointed to know that magnetic wall primer seems to be pretty much unavailable in SA. I did track down two litres at a paint store in Johannesburg – but they’re not planning on getting in any

more. It is apparently possible to order it online, but it’s pricey. If you do manage to get your hands on some, here’s what you’ll need to do: mark up a block on your chosen wall and apply as many layers of the magnetic primer as stipulated on the tin. Apply a topcoat in an interior wall paint of your choice. The other way to create a magnetic art wall is to use metal cladding – a panel of mild steel, available from steel suppliers, works well and can be painted if you don’t like its dark colour.

creative genius Tips for curating your collection • Let your child play curator and choose the pieces that will be on display each month/term.

• Buy a large folder or flip file so you can store your child’s other artwork for future exhibitions or for safekeeping.

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helping hands Exhausted, overwhelmed and in need of some help at home?

GILLIAN HURST has compiled a list of useful services that will come to you.

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au pair and nanny agencies See box on page 39

breast-feeding support Adie’s Baby Care Postnatal and baby care advice as well as home weighing and immunisations, Bilibed hire and baby massage. Northern suburbs.

Contact Adrienne Utian: 084 588 6677 or adiesbabycare@yahoo.com Bedfordview Mother and Baby Clinic At-home support for new moms with baby care advice, breast-feeding support, postnatal depression counselling and a night nurse referral service. Contact: 011 455 5468 or babyclinic@mweb.co.za Belly Business Tracy van der Merwe, a qualified lactation consultant, will answer any questions a new, anxious parent may have about antenatal care. Honeydew-

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based, but will visit throughout the northern suburbs. Contact Tracy: 083 417 3316 Delicia Baven A lactation consultant who offers baby care support at home. She will teach you how to bath your baby, and give nutrition and sleep routine advice. Contact Delicia: 084 500 5097 Judy Kirkwood A certified lactation consultant who will work with you to resolve any breast-feeding issues or parenting anxieties. Bryanston, Fourways, Sandton, Lonehill, Sunninghill and Rivonia.

Contact Judy: 082 562 1986.

Little Blessings Laura Fayce provides antenatal care in the comfort of your home.

Contact Laura: 083 301 2826 or alfayce@ gmail.com Marica du Toit A certified lactation consultant who will answer all your breastfeeding questions and visit you at home.

Based in Pretoria. Contact: 083 441 7645

Mother Love Claire has many years of experience and provides breast-feeding support and advice for moms who are feeling overwhelmed. Contact Claire: 011 465 1644, 079 496 8562 or claire@ motherlove.co.za

night nurses 24/7 Care for You Providers of nursing and child care staff to meet all your needs.

Contact Debbie or Clementine: 011 656 9165 or debbiepauw@yahoo.com Blue Angels Patient Care A vital service that will provide carers to look after your sick child. Contact Marina: 083 440 3740 or marina@neomail.co.za

other Babyproof Will identify potential danger spots in your home, help you to choose the most effective safety products specific to

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your needs and instal these safety devices for you. Throughout Johannesburg. Contact Michelle Jacobs: 082 902 4110, michelle@ babyproof.co.za or visit babyproof.co.za Hire-a-Toy Provide your child with an ever-changing toy box. Age-appropriate toys delivered to your door every month.

Contact Michael Labuschagne: 083 273 7458, michael@cottononkids.co.za or visit cottononkids.co.za.

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homework tutors Cleone Blake Teaches beginner to adult theory of music for all instruments as well as one-on-one French tuition. Contact Cleone: 083 624 2453 Education Matters SA Offers one-onone tuition in all subjects, from primary to tertiary levels, in the language of your choice. Johannesburg and Pretoria.

Contact Sheelagh Tingle: 083 417 5419, info@educationmatters.co.za or visit educationmatters.co.za Hire Education Offers one-on-one tuition for primary and high school pupils, in all subjects in your home. Teachers form a mentoring relationship with your child and take a holistic approach to motivate and inspire their pupils. Nationwide. Contact Brett 0861 TUTOR (88867), info@hireeducation. co.za or visit hireeducation.co.za

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Penguin Tutoring Teachers visit your home to tutor children from Grades 1 to 12. Tutoring in any subject. Johannesburg and Pretoria. Contact Masiwa Simoloka: 071 288 8919, enquiries@penguintutoring. co.za or visit penguintutoring.co.za Professional Tuition Services Will find the right home tutor for your child. Professional tutors are available to teach all subjects in the current curriculum. Contact Dean: 083 381 1060, dean@protuition.co.za or visit proplacements.co.za Teach Me 2 Provides private school and music tuition in your home. All subjects, from accounting to Zulu. Musical tuition is available for every instrument from alto sax to the violin, as well as voice training.

Highly qualified and reliable tutors are available nationwide. Contact Jonathan Rawson: 0861 832 246, info@teachme2. co.za or visit teachme2.co.za Tutor Box Provides qualified educators and au pairs according to your child’s specific needs. Contact Michelle: 011 450 4528 or annemarie@tutorbox.co.za Tutor Master Provides home tutors to teach languages, computer and other subjects as well as driver training. They also offer an au pair placement facility.

Nationwide. Contact: 011 786 7644, info@ tutormaster.co.za or visit tutormaster.co.za

school lifting School Link A safe and reliable transfer service to school and back. An

experienced driver and assistant in each vehicle ensures that your children are collected and dropped off safely. Central and northern Johannesburg. Contact Samantha Kaufmann: 083 379 3998 or samantha@school-link.co.za Soccer Mom A driver placement agency that falls between an au pair and a shuttle service. Drivers are placed on a one-on-one basis according to your needs and area.

Contact Rosalynn Bayne (Johannesburg): 012 996 1985, 079 763 4909 or Ardin Wegerle (Pretoria): 012 343 4045, 083 651 8166 or visit soccermom.co.za

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online shopping Cybercellar Order quality, South African wines online and have them delivered to your door locally or worldwide. Buyers can select their wine by estate or type. Contact Fiona: 0860 SAWINE

(729463), fiona@cybercellar.com or visit cybercellar.com eWine Online retail company specialising in South African wines. Situated in Paarl, they deliver wine all over South Africa and worldwide. See their website for details and shipping rates. Contact Natalie: 021 863 0336 or visit ewine.co.za Pick n Pay Buy your groceries, wine, stationery and flowers online and have them delivered directly to your door.

Create and save monthly or weekly shopping lists too. Contact: 0860 303 030, onlineshopping@pnp.co.za or visit pnponline.co.za Wine of the Month Club Explore the tastes of the world with monthly deliveries of top quality wines to your door by the case. You can also join the Olive Club, Whiskey Club, Brandy Club and Coffee Club. Contact: 086 111 WINE (9463) or visit wineofthemonth.co.za

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resource Woolworths Browse for groceries, home goods, gifts and clothes at your leisure and have them delivered to you. Contact: 0860 100 987 or visit woolworths.co.za

ready-made meals Baby Tastes & Toddler Tastes Introducing your baby to solids has never been easier, with home-made, preservative-free, nutritional meals delivered to your door.

Contact Vanessa: 082 330 3867 or info@ exquisitetastes.co.za Chef Direct Healthy, fully-prepared meal packs are delivered to your door. Contact Jonathan: 083 456 9955, info@chefdirect. co.za or visit chefdirect.co.za FoodCapers.co.za Will deliver freshly cooked, nutritionally-balanced meals to you. Throughout Johannesburg. Contact Darryl: 083 449 5663, darryl@foodcapers. co.za or visit foodcapers.co.za Food Wagon Home-cooked meals delivered directly to your home from Monday to Friday. A dietician works out meal plans to ensure optimal nutrition.

Contact Alida: 012 661 8861, 083 431 9081 or visit foodwagon.co.za Kiddi Kos Takes the hassle out of balancing your child’s diet. Nutritional meals for children one year and older, delivered to your home. Contact Wendy: 082 784 7698, wendy@kiddi-kos.co.za or visit kiddikos.co.za Meals for Zeal Frozen, ready-made meals delivered to you. All meals are nutritional and allergen-free. They also offer cooking classes for domestics and moms. Greenside and Midrand. Contact Miranda Vivier: 011 486 4400, 084 240 5851, marinda@ meals4zeal.com or visit meals4zeal.com

Kerryn Lindsay Facials, manicures, pedicures, waxing and massage all done at home. Contact Kerryn: 079 775 0791 or kerrynmaralik@gmail.com Mabzia Liberda Will travel to your home to provide rehabilitation massage for sports players and cancer sufferers. Randpark and surrounds. Contact Mabzia: 011 795 4252, 072 288 2825 or mabzial@ hotmail.com Mobile Hair Salon Emma Levenson will provide all hairdressing services at your home. Colours, cuts, highlights, Brazilian blow-dries, extensions, and regular blowdries are all part of her service. Contact Emma: 072 576 6589 or eleventhorpe@ gmail.com Mobile Massage An experienced massage therapist will visit you at home for a Swedish or Chinese body and foot massage as well as a range of aromatherapy treatments.

Fourways, Dainfern, Lonehill. Contact Nancy: 078 553 8199 Salon Massajica Swedish, holistic and pregnancy massage in the comfort of your home. Contact Estie: 082 338 0698 or estiet@gmail.com Tranquil Treatments A mobile spa offering all beauty treatments in the comfort of your home. Includes manicures, pedicures, massages, facials and waxing. Throughout Johannesburg. Contact Tara Kroll: 083 659 4691 or tranquiltreatments@ hotmail.co.za

personal trainers Body Measures Fitness and weightloss training in your home. Free body assessment, plus a free first session.

Randburg and surrounding areas. Contact Kerry Farrel: 083Â 626 3302 One-on-One Fitness Offers a range of fitness solutions in the comfort of your home, from prenatal and postnatal training, to sports conditioning, weight loss, toning and general fitness. Track your progress online. Includes lifestyle advice from dieticians, physiotherapists and more. Contact: 011 447 6722 or info@ oneononefitness.co.za Travelling Trainers Any type of exercise, including boxercise, Pilates, cardio, weight loss and toning. Trainers bring all training equipment with them and will travel to anywhere in Johannesburg. Contact Candy Bukes: 084 872 4637 or candy@ travellingtrainers.co.za

pilates and yoga instructors

health and beauty

beauty and massage therapists Beautopia A beautician who comes to your home to do facials, massage, waxing, manicures and pedicures. Contact Tatiana: 072 302 2879 or beautopia@ telkomsa.net Body Mind Healing Reflexology and intuitive massage at home. Baby massage lessons are also available. Contact Juliette Erasmus: 082 322 3942 or juliette@ bodymindhealing.co.za Gillian Dodge Massage Holistic massage treatments in your home and the sale of organic products. Contact Gillian: 082 257 7875 or gilliandodge@gmail.com

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Travelling Pilates Develop your core strength with Michelle Neuman, a mobile Pilates instructor. Michelle will travel to homes in Bryanston, Parkmore, Lonehill, Douglasdale, Fourways and Sandton.

Contact Michelle: 072 180 0865 or michelle.neuman@gmail.com

other Body Talk This unique type of therapy, which locates energy circuits in the body, enables young people to reach their potential. Contact Yvette: 083 230 8761 or visit bodytalksystem.co.za Magnificent Health Auricular acupuncture to treat stress, ADD and ADHD. Live/ dry blood analysis, evolved life coaching, magazine joburg

hypnotherapy and neuro-linguistic programming at your home. Benoni area.

Contact Nepheritie Naidoo: 079 887 4900 or info@magnificenthealth.org

home and garden home and garden services

ABT Handyman Picture hanging, moving furniture, installing childproof gates, painting, tiling, laminate flooring waterproofing, thatching and more. Contact Collen Walters (NHBRC registered): 011 704 7210, 074 103 0557 (24 hrs), 076 568 1022 (24 hrs), blueunicorn@mweb.co.za or visit abthandyman.co.za Brooms and Brushes Removes garden refuse, rubble and soil, and rubbish weekly.

Contracts are available throughout Gauteng.

Contact Marius Loubser: 082 684 3236 or broomsandbrushes@iburst.co.za Handy Man Team For your building, general maintenance, painting and tiling needs. Contact: 011 888 6000, 082 445 5006 or handymanteam@polka.co.za Home Hygiene Will clean, sanitise and “pimp� your municipal dustbins.

Contact Derek: 079 656 9258 or derek@ hygienebin.co.za Lawnmower Land Has a fully-equipped workshop with qualified technicians who repair and service all garden power products. Collection and delivery in Johannesburg. Contact: 011 789 2308, sales@lawnmowerland.co.za or visit lawnmowerland.co.za Lifestyle-on-location Will provide any home maintenance services you may need, from garden services, plumbers, electricians, car maintenance and laundry service. Contact Sacha: 071 560 9829, info@lifestyle-on-location.co.za or visit lifestyle-on-location.co.za Veggie Box Delivers pre-planted vegetable boxes planted with organic soil and seedlings to you. Make gardening simple and fun for your children. Contact Mandy: 084 608 8708 or mandy@brainfood.co.za

personal organisers Ayoba Concierge A personalised, professional service with personal shoppers and errand runners.

Includes grocery and meal delivery, a laundry service, cleaning and emergency services. Contact: 012 665 0717, 072 704 0674 or info@ ayoba-concierge.co.za Cloud 9 Organised Offers a professional organiser for your home and office. They will sort out your cupboard spaces and filing systems and clear the clutter from magazine joburg

your life. Greater Pretoria area, including Centurion, Hartbeespoort, Midrand, Fourways, and Sandton. Contact Heidi Meyer: 012 654 3058, 073 621 3316, heidi@cloud9organised.co.za or visit cloud9organised.co.za Get Organised Professional help to create order, space and more time in your life. Contact Leanne: 083 449 5565 or leanneh@getorganised.co.za Get Stuff Done Offers professional secretarial and administration support services as needed. Ideal for parents who work at home and need their lives to be more organised and clutter-free. Contact Lara Waters: 082 456 3713, info@getstuffdone. co.za or visit getstuffdone.co.za

other Bergens Appliance Repairs Collect and deliver household appliances that need to be mended. White goods repaired include washing machines, tumble dryers, fridges, freezers, dishwashers and microwaves (with a 90-day guarantee) and black goods include audiovisual appliances such as TVs and Hi-Fis (with a 60-day guarantee). Contact 0861 366 378 or visit bergens.co.za Black Martini Travel Mobile travel agent specialising in self-catering and boutique hotels in Mauritius, as well as regular hotels. Choose from a portfolio of private villas and bungalows. All transfers, flights and accommodation booked. Contact Kathryn Garton: 082 456 5796 or kathryn@blackmartinitravel.co.za Dial a Nerd Travelling computer technicians will sort out all your technical problems: from diagnostics to virus protection, hardware and software supply and installation. Contact: 087 72 NERDS (63737) or visit dialanerd.co.za Domestic Bliss Helps you find the right domestic worker. Contact: 011 880 464, 011 447 5517, 082 902 3524, db@domesticbliss. co.za or visit xts@mweb.co.za First Class Domestic Placement of domestic workers, child minders, au pairs, tutors and frail care nurses. Contact Karin: 076 123 9642

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resource Maids on Wheels Will provide domestic workers to do your housekeeping on a daily, weekly or monthly basis. Carpet and upholstery cleaning can also be provided. Contact Gary: 082 553 2359, maidsonwheels@vodamail.co.za or visit maidsonwheels.co.za Marvellous Maids Will find the right domestic for your needs, draw up your employment contract and help with UIF registration. Staff training courses also available. Johannesburg and Pretoria. Contact: 0861 115 030 or visit marvellousmaids.co.za

novelties CottonOn Kids Buy all your bottles, food, strollers, furniture, maternity wear, toys and gifts online. Visit cottononkids.co.za

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Daizee.net Shop online for accessories and products for women, babies, toddlers and children, from toys to breast-feeding aids.

Visit daizeeshopping.co.za Exclusive Books Shop online for all your books, e-books, music, films and games.

Free delivery to your closest Exclusive Books branch. Visit exclus1ves.co.za Flowerspot Browse online for flowers, gifts, candles and chocolates and have them delivered to you or friends and family.

Visit flowerspot.co.za HealthMatrix Find all your natural and organic supplements and foods on the web. Contact Bruce: 011 615 9233, 083 454 1857, bcohen@mweb.co.za or visit healthmatrix.co.za iWarehouse Shop for all your outdoor lifestyle gear and gadgets and have them delivered to you. Visit iWarehouse.co.za Kalahari.net The easy way to buy books, games, music CDs and downloads, movies and digital and photographic equipment.

Visit kalahari.net Loot Shop for books, magazines, games, DVDs and music. Free delivery for orders over R230. Visit loot.co.za Mantality The simple way to buy gifts for “the man who has everything”. This online store offers everything from fragrances, face and body products to digital gadgetry and adventure trips. Delivery nationwide. Contact: 0861 626 825 or visit mantality.co.za Mantelli’s Specialises in gift packs with niche biscuits and cookies, which have a

significant handmade component, and can be included in a Netflorist hamper. Visit mantellis.com My School Stationery Avoid the stress of long queues and shop online for school stationery and it will be delivered to you.

Contact: info@myschoolstationery.co.za or visit myschoolstationery.co.za Neatfreak Save time, money and space.

Buy everything you need to organise your life, from storage solutions for your arts and crafts supplies to charging stations for multiple phones. Gift certificates available.

Visit neatfreakshop.co.za Netflorist Browse for flowers and gifts online and have them delivered locally and internationally. Contact: 0861 300 600, care@netflorist.co.za or visit netflorist.co.za Pistachio kids Buy everything you need for your baby and toddler online and have it delivered to your door. Contact Georgie: 011 608 4712, 082 940 1993 or visit pistachiokids.co.za

pets

pet grooming services Dog Salon Grooming of all breeds of dogs and cats. They collect and deliver throughout Johannesburg. Contact Troy Lee: 011 463 4368 or 083 501 1066 Doggy Style Mobile Grooming Will take care of your furry friends’ grooming needs in the comfort of their own homes. Fourways through to Melville and surrounds. Contact Lynda Redman: 083 482 1094

Hydro Pooch Dog grooming at your home.

Washing, drying and nail clipping. Contact Xonra Hutchings: 082 775 5799 Lindy Rolle Expert Groomer Will visit you to attend to your pet’s grooming needs.

Randburg, Honeydew, Fairlands. Contact Lindy: 082 701 9682 Madame Flea Flee Pet Parlour Collects and delivers your pets for grooming. They will also deliver Montego pet food to your door. Contact: 011 433 2399 or 086 593 0571 Merry Mutts Will travel to your home anywhere in Johannesburg North and on the West Rand to groom your dogs.

Contact Prince Bada: 083 402 5222 Mobile Dog Grooming Parlour Will visit your home to wash, dry and groom your best friend. Northern, western and eastern Johannesburg. Contact Nickita: 083 325 9584 or nick@deventer.co.za Mutt Cuts Professional grooming of all breeds of dogs and cats. Will collect and deliver in the Midrand area. Contact Debbie Odendaal: 072 250 4552 or mwdebj@mweb.co Paws Grooming Parlour Will collect your pets for grooming, take them for their inoculations and deliver pet food to your door. West Rand. Contact Amelia: 011 768 2502 or 084 950 0614 Posh Paws Collects and delivers your pets for grooming. Specialises in small breeds. Benoni. Contact Fran: 011 965 1271 or 083 331 1683

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Priority Pet Food An online store that will deliver all your pet care supplies. Delivery anywhere in Gauteng from R30. Contact: 011 234 4877, info@prioritypetfood.co.za or visit prioritypetfood.co.za Razzmatazz Expert Grooming Collection and delivery service to surrounding areas for a nominal charge between Tuesday and Friday. They groom all breeds of dogs.

Midrand. Contact Jane: 082 457 9751 or visit razzmatazzparlour.co.za Sit, Stay Pets @ Home Michelle will visit your home to feed and play with your pets while you are on holiday or on business trips. Based in Sunninghill only. Contact: 011 803 3056 or 072 387 1490

The Jolly Dog Will collect and deliver your furry friends for you. Johannesburg.

Contact Rose: 011 453 2805 or jozip@ mweb.co.za The Pooch Parlour Will collect and deliver pets for grooming and deliver pet food to your door when they return your animal.

Alberton and surrounds. Contact Suzanne Dantu: 011 907 9339, info@thepoochparlour. co.za or visit thepoochparlour.co.za Twisted Whiskers Pet Deli & Spa Collects and drops off pets for grooming. Also delivers top quality pet food within a 10km radius of Randburg and Bryanston. Contact: 011 463 5957, info@twistedwhiskers.co.za or visit twistedwhiskers.co.za

au pair and nanny agencies

child care. Contact Ruth Kloppers: 087 808 9433, ruth@helpathome.co.za or visit helpathome.co.za Just Kids Aupair Recruitment Will find the right person to keep your children safe and happy. Contact Clara: 011 828 8102, 082 723 8722 or clara@ justkidz.co.za Just Like Mom Au Pairs A professional recruitment company that will provide qualified, vetted au pairs. Contact Monique: 082 785 0231 or monique@ justlikemom.co.za Kids Connexion A stress-free solution for finding the right au pair or nanny.

Contact Gina: 072 270 4388 or kidsconnexion1@gmail.com

Careway Works closely with you to provide the right staff for your home.

They offer an au pair and domestic worker placement service and will also supply quality carers for frail or elderly people in the home. Nationwide.

Contact Desiree Pather: 011 805 9057, desiree@careway.co.za or visit careway.co.za First Class Domestic Placement of domestic workers, child minders, au pairs, tutors and frail care nurses. Contact Karin: 076 123 9642 Help at home Will help you find nannies and domestic staff trained in

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Nannies in Training Offers first aid, home care, cooking and baby care training for your domestic worker or childminder in their home language.

They also offer a domestic and nanny placement service. Contact Nicky Hartel: 011 467 9897, 083 277 5599, nicky@nanniesintraining.co.za or visit nanniesintraining.co.za Old School Cool Strictly vetted au pairs available and a lifting service called Cool Cabbies. They provide pre-arranged and scheduled lifting, ad hoc and emergency lifting, as well as transport for the elderly or those unable to drive. Contact: 011 262 2511, info@oldschoolcool.co.za or visit oldschoolcool.co.za

Pro Placements Placement of qualified and professional au pairs as well as tutors for all subjects and grades. Contact Hayley: 0861 0692 4453, 083 270 5060, hayley@proplacements.co.za or visit proplacements.co.za Sugar & Spice Nanny Training Your childminder learns to be the best carer, with nanny training. Contact Sonya Stein: 084 500 4141, sonya@nannytraining. co.za or visit nannytraining.co.za Sitters 4 U Provides a placement service for au pairs and nannies, nurses, domestic workers, tutors and drivers in Gauteng. Contact: 087 808 5357, 083 691 2009, sitters@sitters4u.co.za or visit sitters4u.co.za

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for toddlers Bizzy Bear – Fun on the Farm

By Benji Davies (Nosy Crow Ltd, R85) This sturdy, colourful board book is perfect for children one to three years old to learn about the farm and its animals. Each page has a tab to pull that reveals a delightful secret. Bizzy Bear makes his way around the farm to meet the three little pigs, cat and mouse, the sheep and cows, mother duck and her ducklings on the pond, the hen house and the stables.

This is also the perfect opportunity to play along and make animal sounds – there are 17 of them you can have fun with. Also look out for Bizzy Bear – Let’s go out and Play in the series.

great read-out loud

Naughty Nina

By Juliet Mickelburgh and AnnaLaura Cantone

(Bloomsbury Publishing, R72) Little Nina is tired of being nice all the time and decides she would like to be naughty instead. Being naughty is excellent fun, but after a while Nina makes a surprising discovery – being naughty all the time can be very boring.

So what will Nina decide to do instead? Beautifully illustrated with lovely detail, lots of humour and wonderful characters, this is a story with resonance for all. Little children will find that naughty antics are funny – up to a point. The book is written in rhyme, which makes for wonderful reading-out-loud story time.

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On the Move and On the Farm

By Brenda Apsley and Craig Cameron (Human & Rousseau, R100 each) These pop-and-play books are ideal for children aged three plus. They will enjoy popping the picture poppers into place to complete scenes, detach and play again.

Play along by helping your child choose a picture and pop the right animals into place.

Explore the scenes, name objects and describe events. You can even encourage your child to tell their own stories based on what they see. Children can learn and have fun while they identify, count, assess size and find differences and similarities.

Betty and the Yeti

By Ella Burfoot (Macmillan Children’s Books, R85) Betty’s out for a walk in the snow when she finds a jingly jangly hat, a scarf and a giant coat that comes down to her knees. They don’t belong to the polar bear, the whale or the arctic hare, so whose are they? Then Betty finds a yeti behind a rock. At first she is scared and wants to run away, but the yeti convinces her that he is just shy and really needs a friend. This is a fresh and funny story, from the creator of the highly acclaimed Darkness Slipped In, which teaches children about not judging people at first sight and giving others a chance.

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for preschoolers proudly South African

for early graders

A Wish this Big

By Ingrid Mennen and Katrin Coetzer

(Tafelberg, R108) Rashied is a little South African boy who wants something big and round. He looks at the sun and the moon, but knows they are too far to catch and too large to keep. He discovers what he wants most is far more down to earth when his simple heartfelt wish becomes intertwined with his own imagination, and the great stories of hope and freedom that Grandpa tells from the time when he was imprisoned on Robben Island. This is a great story of hope and the special bond between a little boy and his grandfather, so a wonderful book to share with grandparents as well.

Fancy Nancy – Aspiring Artist

By Jane O’Connor and Robin Preiss Glasser (HarperCollins Publishers, R96) Girls between the ages of four and seven will be thrilled to see Fancy Nancy back with a new adventure.

It’s spring holidays and Fancy Nancy is feeling glum because her best friend Bree is out of town. Luckily, Nancy’s mom comes to the rescue. When she brings home a brand-new set of glitter markers, Nancy puts her trademark flair to creative use and devotes herself to becoming a serious artist (or artiste, as Nancy would say). After all, everything about being an aspiring artist is fancy, especially when inspiration strikes. The book comes with instructions on how your child can create her own artistic masterpiece.

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Dinosaurs of Doom

By Mike Brownlow and Corina Fletcher (Macmillan Children’s Books, R205) This is a mega pop-up book that children up to eight years of age will have loads of fun with, while learning. The story is about the evil genius Tempus Fugit, who is trying to take over the world with his army of destructive dinosaurs. The Time Pirates; Alex the athlete, Catarina the leader, Michael the walking encyclopaedia, Nisha the maths genius and Takumi the science supremo, need to stop them. The book includes a pop-up cityscape and laboratory, over 30 press-out pieces and two stand-alone pop-up dinosaurs, which your child can use to make this story come alive.

Chester goes to Africa

By Leyland Hazlewood (Xlibris, R145) Chester is a field mouse that lives in the city far away from Africa. But Chester dreams of living in the countryside. Even though all his cousins try to stop him from leaving, he eventually packs up and boards a plane for Africa. It is here that his adventure begins. Imagine his surprise when the plane touches down in Johannesburg, and he doesn’t see wideopen spaces, meadows, grasslands, lakes and mountains. He goes searching for the real Africa and encounters many fierce animals. Using the drum that he learned to play in the city, Chester befriends these animals and finally finds what he is looking for.

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for teens and preteens The Body at the Tower

By Y.S. Lee (Walker Books, R93) Children from age 11 who loved the character Mary Quinn in the first book of the series, A Spy in the House, will enjoy this follow up Victorian detective trilogy. At 12, an orphan and convicted thief, Mary was miraculously rescued from the gallows and at 17 she began to work undercover for the Agency. It’s July 1859, and a bricklayer falls to his death from the clock tower of the Houses of Parliament – the most recent horror in a string of scandals that plagues the building site. With the British people eagerly watching the installation of Big Ben, Mary Quinn disguises herself as a 12-year-old boy to uncover the grim truth.

The Chocolate Box Girls – Cherry Crush

By Cathy Cassidy

excellent debut

Golf – From Tee to Green; the Essential Guide for Young Golfers

By Clive Gifford (Kingfisher, R115) Aspiring golfers aged nine to 12 can use this colourful book as a guide to the popular game. It offers easy-to-follow instructions that are sure to improve the all-round play of any young golfer; from tee shots and iron play to pitching, chipping, coping with bunkers and reading a green. The book tells you everything you need to know to get started. It includes a comprehensive guide to the equipment you need and has step-by-step photographs to illustrate every aspect of the game. An added bonus is the information on the all-time great players, famous holes and memorable tournaments.

(Puffin Books, R150) Girls aged nine to 11 will enjoy this new series by Cathy Cassidy. Cherry Costello’s life is about to change forever. She and Dad are moving to Somerset where a new mom and a bunch of brand-new sisters are waiting. On Cherry’s first day there she meets Shay Fletcher; with suntanned skin and sea green eyes he’s the kind of boy who should carry a government health warning. But Shay already has a girlfriend; Cherry’s new stepsister Honey. Cherry knows her friendship with Shay is dangerous – it could destroy everything, but does that mean she is going to stay away from him?

Mimi

By John Newman (Walker Books, R85) Mimi is a beautifully written and touching story about a young girl’s life following the sudden and unexpected death of her mother. Despite Mrs Lemon’s extra sweeties, and sneaky peaks at her sister’s diary, Mimi is struggling. Her dad is always sad, her sister has a horrible secret, and 151 days ago her “mammy” died.

What is Mimi to do? Mimi’s tale is a compassionate, immensely moving, and gently humorous story that captures the importance of family, of supporting and understanding one another, and sticking up for yourself when other people don’t understand.

Children from seven years and up will enjoy this powerful story.

for us Heart of Tango

By Elia Barceló (Maclehose Press, R158) It is 1920 in La Boca, a poor quarter of Buenos Aires, and the young Natalia is to be married to a German immigrant sailor much older than herself. Two days before the wedding she meets Diego, when he and other musicians serenade her on the eve of the ceremony. She and Diego fall madly in love and dance a tango charged with passion at the reception before Diego disappears. Soon after Natalia’s brutal wedding night her father dies and her husband is lost at sea. Natalia is forced to become a dancer in a tango hall, to entertain Buenos Aires’ seedy underworld. It is here where Diego discovers her, but their reunion has violent and devastating consequences.

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Red Wolf

By Liza Marklund (Corgi Books, R108) Reporter Annika Bengtzon is working on the story of a devastating crime when she hears that a journalist investigating the same incident has been killed. It appears to be a hit-and-run accident. Several brutal killings follow – all linked by handwritten letters sent to the victims’ relatives.

When Annika unravels a connection with the story she’s writing, she is thrown on to the trail of a deadly psychopath.

This edge-of-your-seat suspense thriller will make you want to read Liza Marklund again and again. She knows how to weave unexpected twists and turns into a story.

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parenting books

Getting To Know You – Simple Games to Play with Your Baby

By Sally Featherstone and Clare Beswick

Raise Happy Children

By Glenda Weil and Doro Marden

bond r with you baby

(Featherstone Education, R113) Here is a collection of fun, touchy-feely games to play with your new baby. Experts have shown that baby games help with brain development as well as with more visible skills such as hand-eye coordination and mobility. The book is full of simple, effective and fun games that help your baby’s brain, eyes, hands and feet to develop. Plus, there is extra guidance on how to get the most out of your games and what your baby is learning. Featherstone and Beswick are leading authors, trainers and consultants in early years development and learning.

(Hodder & Stoughton, R140) This book gives you practical and trusted advice to make your home a nurturing place in which your children can flourish. You can learn how to talk, how to listen and how to communicate with your child in a way that will allow them to grow in confidence and self-esteem and make family life happier, more open and more harmonious. The book shows you how to save time and how to motivate your children.

The authors have approached experts to give tips and they’ve included real-life case studies. They have many years’ experience in running workshops for parents.

for dads Killing Kebble – An Underworld Exposed

By Many Wiener

The Mayan Prophecy

By Steve Alten

Worth Dying For

By Lee Child

(Quercus, R110) On 21 December 2012, the ancient Mayan calendar will complete its thirteenth cycle.

Archaeologist Julius Gabriel dies certain of one fact: that, on this date, the human race will cease to exist. Mankind’s salvation lies in a millennia-old code. Ancient legacies – from the pyramids of Mexico and Egypt to the drawings of the Nazca Desert – are key to preventing the imminent global holocaust.

Only Julius’s son, Michael Gabriel, can decipher this puzzle. Michael is incapable of action, locked in an asylum where he has been wrongly incarcerated for the past 11 years. But now he has been assigned a new psychiatrist, Dominique Vasquez, upon whose actions the fate of the world will soon rest. Lovers of classic fantasy thrillers will devour this well-researched book.

(Bantam Press, R180) Lee Child has been described as a storyteller who knows a lot about style. This follow-up to 61 Hours has been much awaited and fans are dying to know what will happen next to Reacher. First, he falls foul of the Duncans, a local clan that has terrified an entire county into submission. But it’s the decades-old, unsolved case of a missing eight-year-old girl that Reacher can’t let go.

The Duncans want Reacher gone, or dead.

They are waiting for a secret shipment and they have the kind of customers no one can afford to annoy. For as dangerous as the Duncans are, they’re just at the bottom of a criminal food chain stretching halfway around the world. Reacher – bruised and battered – should have just kept on going, but for him, that was impossible.

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(Pan Macmillan, R150) Mandy Wiener is an award-winning Eyewitness News reporter and she has been covering the gripping story of Brett Kebble’s murder for five years. In September 2005, Kebble, a prominent South African mining magnate, was killed on a quiet suburban street in Johannesburg in an apparent “assisted suicide”. The top-level investigation that followed was a tipping point for democratic South Africa. It exposed the corrupt relationship between the Police Chief and Interpol president Jackie Selebi and his friend Glenn Agliotti, and revealed an underworld dominated by drug lords, steroid-fuelled bouncers and a dubious security unit moonlighting for the police. Killing Kebble is not the story of one murder. It’s a gritty, fast-paced chronicle of how one death blew the lid off Johannesburg’s underworld.

We Need to Talk

By Jonathan Jansen (Bookstrom, R140) Professor Jonathan Jansen, rector of the University of the Free State, is fast becoming a household name in South Africa for his critical and, at times, inconvenient views. In this collection of articles previously published in The Times, Jansen highlights the issues that confront our country – the issues we need to talk about. With humour, humility, the occasional burst of anger and a good dose of common sense, Jansen discusses education, race and identity, the state of our nation, leadership and even sport.

This is a book to make you stop and think, while his ideas will give you plenty to talk about at the dinner table, in the staff room or in the classroom.

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There’s so much to do in Johannesburg in June, so don’t stay home under the duvet. Get the family out of the house and enjoy everything our wonderful city has to offer. Compiled by Gillian Hurst

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The Butterfly Garden at Ludwig’s Roses is a treat for the senses.

Simple and striking mosaic classes get the creative juices flowing.

Learn the art of baby massage and soothe problems away.

Donate all your used household goods to the Matt’s Foundation garage sale for children in need.

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Winter Wonderland Get your little ones out into the fresh air for some fun.

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SPECIAL EVENTS 1 wednesday Chocolate dessert tasters course This workshop is for the dessert enthusiast who wants to bake using Lindt chocolate.

Discover the full flavour of this chocolate and how you can use it to prepare simple desserts. Time: 6pm–9pm. Venue: Chocolate Studio, Shop 38 Design Quarter, Fourways. Cost: R150. Contact: 011 467 5730 or visit chocolatestudio.co.za The Learning Point Education and Careers Expo If you’re looking for the right school in your area talk to various education institutions, ranging from preschool to high school. Local and national boarding schools are also present to answer all your questions. Time: 2pm–6pm.

Venue: The King’s School West Rand’s school hall, Malcolm Rd, Poortview, Roodepoort. Cost: free entry. Contact Donna: 083 552 8778

2 thursday Dainfern College open day Visit the school and find out what your child can gain from globally relevant education.

Time: 9am–10am. Venue: Dainfern College, Broadacres Dr, Dainfern. Cost: free entry. Contact Caroline: 011 469 0635, cgrobbelaar@dainferncollege.co.za or visit dainferncollege.co.za

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Winter Wonderland Keep warm with fun and games on the lawns and stand a chance to win a big prize. Young and old can enjoy live entertainment and great food. Ends 5 June. Time: 10am­–4pm daily.

Venue: Cabanas Hotel lawns, Sun City, North West. Cost: R50 entrance to Sun City, no charge at the Wonderland. Contact Valria: 072 626 4042

4 saturday Bedfordview Primary School annual fun day An outing for the entire family with craft and food stalls, a mega play and jumping castle area, and live entertainment. Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: Bedfordview Primary School, School Rd, Bedfordview. Cost: free entry. Contact Claudia: 082 559 8342 Free Me talk and slide show Learn about the great work Free Me does to rescue and rehabilitate abandoned and injured wild animals. Time: 9am. Venue: Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden,

Malcolm Rd, Poortview, Roodepoort. Cost: members R30, non-members R60, children under 12 half price. All ages welcome and booking is essential. Contact Karen: 086 694 9636, 086 100 1278 or botsoc@ sisulugarden.co.za

4 June – Kildrummy mini-walk and fun day

Mini-walk and fun day Kildrummy is hosting their annual mini-walk and fun day. Join them for a short sponsored walk followed by a market and a wide choice of delicacies to eat. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: 67 Komari Ave, Paulshof. Cost: varies.

Contact Natalie: 011 803 5338 or info@ kildrummyschool.co.za The Sunflower Fund Annual Ball 2011 This charity ball is being held to raise funds to pay for tissue-typing tests for South Africans who wants to join the SA Bone Marrow Registry. Time: 6:30pm for 7pm.

Venue: Maroela Room, The Sandton Sun, cnr 5th Ave and Alice St, Sandton. Cost: R750 per person or R7 500 for a table of 10 people. Contact Lauren: 011 783 4568 or visit sunflowerfund.org.za UCMAS 5 th Annual National Competition Children from various UCMAS centres in South Africa compete to show the progress they have made and to highlight the effectiveness of the UCMAS programme. The climax of the event is the learners’ demonstration of their “magical” mental skills on stage such as 100 arithmetic questions in eight minutes. Time: 11:15am.

Venue: Wits College of Education, Linder Auditorium, 27 St Andrews Rd, Parktown.

Cost: free entry. Contact Sumaya: 011 447 6714/0977, 083 284 4917 or sumaya@ ucmassa.co.za

5 sunday Outdoor Family Adventure Challenge This outdoor adventure orienteering challenge involves finding key areas, marked with an orange and white flag, around the Voortrekker Monument and finishes with a lucky draw. Circuits are laid out for children and adults from five to 70 years old. Time: registration at 8:30am,

19 June – Father’s Day with the Lipizzaners

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Zwartkops Raceway Catch the Pro Tour Series (national/regional circuit racing) at Zwartkops.

Categories on the day include Shelby Can Am, Goldwagen Challenge, Red Square ZX10 Kawasaki Masters, Execuline Formula Vee, Altech GT Challenge and Altech Porsche Club Challenge. You’ll find loads of entertainment for the whole family.

Time: 10am–5pm. Venue: Zwartkops Race Track (on the R55 towards Pretoria).

Cost: adults R60, students R40, children under 12 enter free. Contact: 012 374 5800/5802, info@zwartkops.co.za or visit zwartkops.co.za

starts from 9am. Venue: Voortrekker Monument, Pretoria. Cost: R100 per group.

Contact Tania: 082 902 6097, mwtapa@ mweb.co.za or visit racorienteers.co.za

10 friday Amadea Safe House annual golf day Tee off for a good cause. Amadea provides a loving and safe haven for abandoned, abused, neglected and disabled children − some of whom are affected or infected

by HIV/Aids – and assists in feeding the underprivileged in the community.

Funding also goes towards a classroom for the children. Sponsors are needed for prizes and holes. Time: tbc. Venue: Akasia Golf Club, Waterbok St, Theresa Park, Pretoria. Cost: R2 000 per four-ball, R3 000 to sponsor a hole and play a fourball. Contact Maritza: 083 271 8345 or maritza.kleinhans@gmail.com Outdoor Adventure and Travel Expo Get all the info you need about the best outdoor and travel options available in South Africa and particularly in Gauteng.

Lots of entertainment and food stalls to keep the whole family entertained. Ends 12 June.

Time: 9am. Venue: Inanda Country Base, Kyalami. Cost: tbc. Contact Shirley: 082 443 2277 or shirley@outdoorexpo.co.za

11 saturday Bedfordview Primary School annual open day An opportunity for parents of prospective Grade R−Grade 1 pupils to meet with staff and pupils and learn more about the school’s educational approach, facilities and extramural activities.

Entertainment is provided for children while parents attend talks. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Bedfordview Primary School, School Rd, Bedfordview. Contact Ursula: 011 455 4700/1/2 Elma Park Pre-Primary School open day Visit the school and find out more about their holistic, child-centred philosophy and take a walk around the facilities. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Elma Park Pre-Primary School, 17 Adjutant Rd, Elma Park. Contact Glynis or Carla: 011 453 9388 or elmaparkpps@mweb.co.za magazine joburg

12 sunday Chakra Painting Let go of judgement, relax and find meaning through art.

Expressing yourself with paint is a wonderful therapy. Time: 9am–12:30pm. Venue: Creativity Gym, 777 Rivonia Rd, Rivonia.

Cost: R480, including all materials. Contact Michelle: 084 777 4361, innovation@ mweb.co.za or visit creativitygym.co.za

18 saturday Swartkrans Walking Tour This is one of the Cradle’s richest fossil sites and is usually closed to the public. Take advantage of a rare opportunity for a small group to observe an active palaeontological dig, guided by scientist Morris Sutton who is currently excavating there. Adults only. Time: 9am.

Venue: Sterkfontein Caves, Maropeng. Cost: R350 per person including light picnic lunch.

To book: visit maropeng.co.za

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19 sunday Father’s Day with the Lipizzaners The stallions “dance” to a selection of music from James Bond films. Also see the displays of saloon cars, sports cars and four-wheel drives. Time 10:30am–11:30am. Venue: 1 Dahlia Rd, Kyalami. Cost: R110 at the door (ticket office opens one hour before the performance) or book through Computicket: visit computicket.com or contact Judy: 083 601 2104 or visit lipizzaners.co.za Potjie Competition at Ludwig’s Roses Win prizes for best potjie and best-dressed team. There is entertainment, such as tractor train rides, a children’s play garden and live music. Time: 10:30am. Cost: R320 per team.

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22 wednesday Peter Pan – The Ballet Peter Pan has delighted children for generations. The JYB`s dance celebration of this tale of youth and imagination is sure to appeal to young and old. Ends 25 June. Time: 8pm, 25 June also 11am and 3pm. Venue: University of Johannesburg Arts Centre, Auckland Park.

Cost: R80. Contact: 011 325 4475, taryn@ pinkroomproductions.co.za or visit jyb.co.za

25 saturday Teddy Bears On Parade Spend a morning and view rare teddy bears from one of Germany’s oldest teddy bear manufacturers, Hermann-Coburg. Visitors can also see an array of plush animals created for the World Wildlife Fund as well as a wide range of local and imported handmade bears, including rare miniature bears and animals from the Hermann collection. One visitor can win a signed copy of Hermann’s anniversary book, Milestones. Time: 9:30am–1pm. Venue: Hall 5, Edenvale Community Centre, cnr Van Riebeeck Ave and Second St, Edenvale.

Cost: free entry. Contact Victoria: 011 828 7901 or info@vaharper.co.za The Dream Tree Nursery School open day Visit the school and tour the facilities to find out more about what they can offer your child. Time: 10am–12pm. Venue: 84 Sneddon St, Sydenham. Cost: free. Contact Alisa: 011 640 6620, 082 593 1630 or alisa@mweb.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science

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Science and Technology Museum The museum’s goal is to get the South African youth to experience science hands on and encourage children to interact with the displays. Visit the inflatable Starlab planetarium, the Hall of Holography and other displays. Time: Monday–Friday

8am–4pm, Saturday 2pm–5pm. Venue: Didacta Building, 211 Skinner St, Pretoria.

Contact: 012 392 9300

classes, talks and workshops Be Sharp Beetles This music and movement programme develops children through drumming, percussion play and cultural musical stories. Suitable for children 6 weeks–8 years. Children are exposed to English, Afrikaans, Zulu and Sotho. Time and cost: varies. Venue: Northcliff. Contact: 082 922 8161 or visit besharpbeetles.co.za Children’s Art Classes Experienced teacher Kendal Milford shares a range of techniques involving elements of art, principles of design and medium, which vary between projects. Kendal is a fun, but strict methodologist who cultivates artistry through structured play with an emphasis on “possibility” as a guiding energy in the making of individual artwork. 1–30 June. Time: Thursday 3:30pm–5pm. Venue: The Seedpod Studio, Broadacres Garden Centre, Broadacres. Cost: R150 per class.

Contact Jacqui: 011 465 0375 Color Café Relax and let your creative side out for a walk. Choose from a wide range of ceramics and decorate them as you please.

If ceramics aren’t your thing, then you can do a mosaic. Venue: Color Café, Hyde Park Square, North Rd, Dunkeld West. Cost: starts from R60 (including materials); open seven days a week. Time: 9am–5pm including public holidays. Contact Sam: 011 341 0734

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House of Chess Learn strategy, forwardthinking and logic with fun chess lessons for all ages; from the beginner to the advanced player. Time: Monday–Friday 1pm–7pm. Venue: 4 MacArthur Ave, Robindale, Randburg. Cost: R100 per hour.

Contact Estelle: 083 944 6578 Little Chefs cooking class Your 7- to 14-year-old child learns a life skill and becomes more confident in the kitchen. 4 and 11 June: Time: 10am–12pm. Venue: Little Cooks Club, Rivonia. Cost: R190 per class. Contact: christine@littlecooksclub. co.za or visit littlecooksclub.co.za

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Little Green Fingers Creative gardening lessons for 3–7 year olds to reintroduce children to nature through practical and fun activities. Your little ones will plant and have the pleasure of watching something grow.

Time: course times vary. Venue: your home or school. Cost: depends on programme.

Contact Sally-Ann Chalmers: 082 443 2538, info@littlegreenfingers.co.za or visit littlegreenfingers.co.za Mozart and Muffins Kindermusik is a programme that stimulates the brain through the effective use of music and movement.

Preview a class with your child and find out more about music and the benefits of learning an instrument. Children can come dressed as a favourite character. Refreshments available.

11 June. Time: 11am. Venue: Kindermusik, Bryanston studio. Contact Cathy Anne: 082 648 9070 or cathma@mweb.co.za

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Pottery Junxion An art studio where you choose and paint your own pottery.

Also offering regular workshops on drybrushing, paint techniques, antiquing and mosaics. Time: 9am–4pm Monday– Friday, 9am–2pm Saturday. Venue: 5 Glendower Place, 99 Linksfield Rd, Dowerglen. Cost: varies. Contact: 011 453 2721, paint@potteryjunxion.co.za or visit potteryjunxion.co.za Tots n Pots Baking workshops for children aged 2 to 10 years. Have lots of fun and make yummy new things, such as caramel banana pinwheels. Dates and times vary.

Venues: Norscot Manor Recreation Centre, Fourways/Bryanston and Randburg. Cost: R90 per lesson or R840 for 10 lessons.

Contact Barbara: 083 306 1172, barbara@ totsnpots.com or Janine: 072 086 6213 or janine@totsnpots.com

family outings Cultivino at Irene Village Mall Discover great estate wines, gourmet snacks, live entertainment and welcoming fires at Cultivino. 2 and 3 June. Time: 6pm–10pm.

Venue: Irene Village Mall, cnr Nellmapius and Van Ryneveld Rds, just off the R21.

Cost: R50, includes a tasting glass.

Contact Martilize for pre-booking: 012 662 4446, martilize@mseed.co.za or visit irenevillagemall.co.za Goblin’s Cove Fantasy Restaurant Set in a forest with a lake and playground featuring jungle gyms, a sandpit and an aviary as well as the Fairywinkle fairy and goblin shop. Time: varies, Wednesday­ – Sunday. Venue: R24 Magaliesburg/ Hekpoort. Cost: free entry. Contact: 014 576 2143, goblins@worldonline.co.za or visit goblins.co.za Ludwig’s Roses Home to the largest selection of rose varieties in the world, it’s also the home of the largest exhibition of free-flying butterflies in Gauteng. Time: 8am–5pm. Venue: off the N1 freeway, Wallmannstahl, Pretoria. Cost: free entry.

For more info: visit ludwigsroses.co.za Northern Farm Nature Reserve This conservancy is a firm favourite for hiking, mountain biking, bird watching and picnics. Time: 6am–6pm. Venue: R114, Diepsloot (near Fourways). Cost: R30. For more info: visit northernfarm.co.za Predator World Enjoy a 50-minute horse ride with an experienced guide. Time:

subject to booking. Venue: Predator World, R556, near Sun City. Cost: adults R385, children R369; includes entrance into Sun City, hamburger, wedges and a drink.

Contact San-Mare: 014 552 6900, 076 817 6869 or visit predatorworld.co.za Rietvlei Farm and Lifestyle Centre Pack a picnic and enjoy a day of fun in the outdoors. Take your bicycles and

Star Wars Build-A-Thon Lego supplies models for the children to build new Star Wars sets and there are giveaways. 11 June. Time: tbc. Venue: Engenius Academy, Fourways Mall, Shop L23, Fourways Boulevard, Fourways.

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explore the farm and mountain bike route, or wander along one of the hiking trails.

There is also a nine-hole putt-putt course.

Light meals and tuck shop available.

Braais are allowed. Children can feed the farm animals and visit their bird aviary.

Time: 8:30am–5:30pm, Tuesday–Saturday.

Venue: Rietvlei Farm, Swartkoppies Rd, Alberton. Cost: adults R25, children under 12 R15, R30 per vehicle. Contact: 011 024 1512/4, 079 041 1488 or info@ rietvleifarm.co.za Sunday jazz lunch Enjoy the scenic views across the Magaliesberg range and relax to the sounds of music while enjoying a carvery lunch. Time: 12pm–3pm, every Sunday. Venue: Tumulus Restaurant, Maropeng Visitor’s Centre, Cradle of Humankind. Cost: adults R125. Children’s menu available. Booking essential. Contact: 014 577 9000 or visit maropeng.co.za The South African National Museum of Military History This museum boasts more than 44 000 items, from medals and uniforms to weapons, vehicles and even aircraft. Time: 9am–4:30pm. Venue: Erlswold Way, Saxonwold. Cost: adults R22, children R11. Contact: 011 646 5513 or visit militarymuseum.co.za Van Gaalen’s Cheese Farm Situated at the foot of the Magaliesberg range this is a working cheese farm and the menu is filled

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with delicious cheese-based and Dutch treats. Farmyard animals and a play area keep children busy. Venue: off the R512, Skeerpoort (near Hartbeespoort). Contact: 012 207 1289 or visit vangaalen.co.za Winter Wonderland Keep warm with fun and games on the lawns and stand a chance to win a big prize. Entertainment and refreshments on sale. Ends 5 June.

Time: 10am–4pm daily. Venue: Cabanas Hotel lawns, Sun City, North West. Cost: R50 entrance to Sun City, no charge at the Wonderland. Contact Valria: 072 626 4042

finding nature and outdoor play Acrobranch Test your balance, strength and focus by going from tree to tree doing fun exercises. Time: weekends and public holidays 9am–5pm. Venue: James and Ethel Gray Park, Melrose St Extension, Melrose.

Cost: adults R150, children 7–11 years R100, children 3–7 years R70. Contact: 078 438 7463, info@acrobranch.co.za or visit acrobranch.co.za Aloe walk and talk in the Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden As a large number of aloe species are in bloom, book early for this popular event. All ages welcome and booking is essential. 18 June.

Time: 9am. Venue: Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden, Malcolm Rd, Poortview, Roodepoort. Cost: members R30, nonmembers R60, children under 12 half price.

Contact Karen: 086 694 9636 or botsoc@ sisulugarden.co.za Croc City Crocodile Farm View crocodiles and hatchlings at close range.

Time: 9am–4:30pm. Venue: Old Pretoria Rd, Nietgedacht. Cost: adults R45, children R25. For more info: visit croccity.co.za Cubs and Scouts Children aged 7–18 years can learn practical life skills while enjoying wholesome outdoor fun such as camping, hiking, pioneering and cooking.

Time: varies. Venue: several venues throughout Johannesburg. Cost: varies per term. For more info: visit: scouting.org.za Drakes Farmyard Children aged 1–6 years can pet cows, rabbits and sheep or enjoy a pony ride. Picnic baskets are welcome. Time: 9am–5pm, Monday and Wednesday. Venue: 30 Beacon Ave, Linbro Park. Cost: R25 includes refreshments.

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Footloose Trout farm The farm is situated in a tranquil 10-hectare setting with spectacular views. It is the ideal venue for fly-fishing or conventional fishing.

The estate offers 13 dams, well stocked with trout, bass, barbel and carp. Time: Tuesday–Friday 8am–5pm, weekends and public holidays 7am–6pm. Venue: Footloose Trout Farm, off William Nichol Dr, Fourways. Cost: adults R50, children R40, children under 3 free. Contact Kim: 011 464 5264, 083 462 2779 or visit footloosetroutfarm.co.za Irene Dairy Visit a fully functioning dairy, buy farm-fresh products or enjoy a meal at the country café. Children can play on the tractor and feed the cows. Time: 8am–5pm. Venue: 100 Nellmapius Dr, Irene. Cost: free entry. Contact: 012 667 4012, countrycafe@willoworld.com or visit willoworld.com Lion Park Get up close and personal with creatures of the wild. The park is home to many lions including white ones. You can play with cubs, feed the giraffe, enjoy a game ride or visit the restaurant. Time: Monday– Friday 8:30am–5pm, Saturday–Sunday 8:30am–6pm. Venue: cnr Malibongwe and R114, Lanseria. Cost: adults R115, children R80. Contact: 011 691 9905, lionpark@ cknet.co.za or visit lion–park.com Melville Koppies Nature Reserve and Heritage Site Three-hour guided tours are given every Sunday, alternating between mornings and afternoons.

Best suited for children 6 and older. Time: 9am. Venue: park opposite the entrance at Marks Park in Judith Rd, Emmarentia. Cost: adults R30, children R10. Contact Wendy: 011 482 4797 or visit mk.org.za

Cooper’s Cave Picnic and Walking Tour An interactive fossil and site talk as well as a chance to explore a cave, look for fossils and learn how to make stone tools. Jerseys, torch, hat, sunscreen, comfortable clothes and walking shoes. Also pack the camera. 4 June. Time: 9am. Venue: Sterkfontein Caves, Maropeng. Cost: R350 per person or R1 350 per person sharing per night, which includes dinner, bed, breakfast, picnic and walking tour.

To book: visit maropeng.co.za

Saturday and Sunday. Venue: 82 Boland St, Honeydew. Cost: adults R60, children R55, family ticket for four R200. For more info: 010 222 0075, enquiries@maizemaze.co.za or visit honeydewmazes.co.za Trees Eco Fun Park Picnic venues, tunnels, obstacle course and outdoor games. Time: 10am–6pm. Sunday by arrangement. Venue: 2 Totius Rd, Cloverdene, Benoni. Cost: R20 per person. Contact Nicolette: 082 458 1504 or 083 452 2104

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Monaghan Farm organic market Wander through the grounds of this organic market situated on a farm-style estate.

Children can run freely, play cricket and soccer, or slide on the waterslide. Time: tbc, every Sunday. Venue: Monaghan Farm, near Lanseria Airport, Lanseria. Cost: free entry.

Contact Prospero: 082 451 5692 or visit monaghanfarm.co.za Montecasino Bird Gardens These gardens are home to birds, mammals and reptiles. Be thrilled by the Flights of Fantasy bird show. Time: 8:30am–5pm. Venue: Montecasino, Fourways. Cost: adults and children over 10 R45, children under 10 R25. For more info: visit montecasino.co.za Myths and Legends maize maze Get lost in 3,5km of maze set within a growing maize field. The maze involves finding the eight major habitats of the world and endangered animals. Time: 10am–5pm, magazine joburg

Faraway Tree Holiday Craft Club Keep your child busy with mornings of creative, arty activities. Each day is packed with games, face painting, and a special craft.

Booking is essential. For 3- to 7-year-olds. 27 June–1 July. Time: 8am–12pm. Venue: The Faraway Tree, 7 Condor Rd, Douglasdale.

Cost: R120 per day. Contact: 083 234 4120 or farawaytree@telkomsa.net Happy Acres Holiday Camp Activities with trained counsellors include art and crafts, walks, games, sports, hobbies, swimming, cook-outs, crab-catching and playing with the guinea pigs and rabbits.

For children aged 7–14. 25 June–2 July.

Venue: Happy Acres, Magaliesburg. Cost: R1 500 (includes meals, accommodation and activities, but excludes transport costs). Contact: 083 449 5123 or hacres@ iafrica.com Holiday drama day camp Children write, produce and star in their own drama production. 27 June­–15 July. Time: 9:30am–3pm. Venue: Flutterbies Nursery School, 17 Troupant Place, cnr Gertrude St, Randpark Ridge. Cost: R150 per day inclusive of breakfast and lunch, or R1 800 for the whole term, inclusive of meals and four tickets to the show. Contact Carol: 011 793 4118 or carol@flutterbies.co.za June 2011

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calendar Kidz Fishing Camp At this three-day camp, children learn all they need to know to become a fisherman. A qualified South African angler shares his expertise and water safety is of the highest priority. Other on-site activities include table tennis, board games, educational movies, a pool table, camp fires and boat rides. 27–29 June. Venue: Vaal Dam. Cost: R650 (includes meals, equipment and transport). Contact Manuela: 083 610 2911 or visit kidzfishingcamp.co.za Smudge Activities available include puppet painting, canvas decorating, beading and threading. Also enjoy the baby space while you sip coffee in the coffee shop. Time: 10am–5pm Monday–Friday, 10am–4pm Saturday, 10am–1pm Sunday. Venue: Valley Centre, 396 Jan Smuts Ave, Craighall Park. Cost: R110 per child for first hour, R55 for every hour thereafter. Contact: 011 501 0234 or visit smudgeart.co.za Triba A wide range of craft and sporty activities include yoga, swimming, baking, painting and craft classes run by trained instructors. Time: varies. Venue: 39–41 St Albans Ave, Craighall Park. Cost: varies according to class. Contact: 011 501 4740

markets Blairgowrie Toy Fair Browse the stalls for dinky toys, matchbox cars, teddies and dolls. Refreshments on sale. 26 June. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: Blairgowrie Recreation Centre, Park Lane, off Conrad Dr. Cost: adults R10, children under 16 free. Contact

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Family Fresh Market at Cedar Offers freshly baked cakes, children’s activities, hand-crafted jewellery and much more. Load a picture of you and your friends or family at the market on their Facebook page and you could win a R250 Cedar Square gift voucher.

Time: 10am–2pm, every Saturday.

Venue: Cedar Square, Willow Rd, Fourways. Cost: free entry. Contact: natasha@purpleplumm.co.za

Don: 011 787 2696, don@ravenscroft.co.za or visit modelcars.co.za Bryanston organic market Stalls offer organic clothing, children’s toys, art, coffee and food. Time: 9am–3pm, every Thursday and Saturday. Venue: Culross Rd, Bryanston. Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 706 3671, jules@bryanstonorganicmarket. co.za or visit bryanstonorganicmarket.co.za Craighall River Market Enjoy a wide variety of art, crafts and organic produce.

Children’s playground and pony rides available. 11 June. Time: 8:30am–1pm.

Venue: Colourful Splendour Nursery (REEA), Craighall Park. Cost: free entry.

Contact Roy: 011 465 3413 or jmsinek@ mweb.co.za Fare on the square – Irene Village Mall Organic fare, creative crafts and family entertainment... al fresco. 26 June.

8:30am–1pm, every Saturday. Venue: Pirates Sports Club, Fourth Ave Ext, Parkhurst. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit jozifoodmarket.co.za Rooftop Market Over 600 stalls offer quality clothing, ceramics, art and crafts, and handcrafted items. Time: 9am–5pm, every Sunday. Venue: Mall of Rosebank, Cradock Ave, Rosebank. Cost: free entry.

Contact: 011 442 4488 or info@craft.co.za The Antiques Fairs The antique fair at Nelson Mandela Square takes place on the lower and upper levels of the mall. 5 June.

Time: 9am–4pm. Cost: free entry. Also visit the Hyde Park Antiques Fair at Hyde Park Corner in the CNA Courtyard. 26 June.

Time: 9am–4pm. Cost: free entry. Contact Clyde: clyde4th@mweb.co.za Walkerville Farmer’s Market for fresh produce and crafts. Time: 9am–3pm, every Saturday. Venue: 112 Main Rd, Walkerville

Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: cnr Nellmapius Dr and Van Ryneveld Ave, Irene. Contact Marietjie: 012 662 4446 or marietjie@ mseed.co.za Garden World art and crafts fair Wander the gardens and shop for wellpriced, handmade gifts, goodies and garden supplies.

26 June. Time: 9am–3:30pm.

Venue: Garden World, Beyers Naudé Dr, Muldersdrift. Cost: free entry. Contact Magriet: 011 678 8244 Jozi Food Market Treat yourself to a wide range of tasty treats for the pantry as you experience a mixture of cultures and gourmet delights. Each vendor offers speciality produce. Time: 22 June–3 July – The Guitar That Rocked The World

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Theatre, Loveday St, Braamfontein. Cost: from R120. Contact: 011 877 6853/4 vipticketing@joburgtheatre.com or book through joburgtheatre.com The Pirates Of Penzance Gilbert and Sullivan’s comic masterpiece with a whole lot of dresses, eye patches and swashbuckling.

It is entertainment for young and old. 14 June–9 July. Time: 8:15pm. Venue: Old Mutual Theatre on the Square, Sandton City. Cost: R80–R120. Contact Daphne: 011 883 8606 or book at theatreonthesquare. co.za or strictlytickets.com

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Larney Ladybirds Playdays

(on the R82 between Southgate and Vereeniging). Cost: free entry. Contact: 079 076 7680

on stage and screen Disney Junior channel launch DStv is launching a brand-new channel aimed at children 2–5 years old. It is an extension and renaming of Playhouse Disney specifically aimed at this age group. 1 June. For more info: visit disney.co.za/disney-junior/ Jazz on the Square with Mimi Ntenjwa.

5 June. Time: 6pm. Venue: Old Mutual Theatre on the Square, Sandton City. Cost: from R120. Contact Daphne: 011 883 8606 or book at theatreonthesquare.co.za or strictlytickets.com Jozi’s Winter Circus Young and old alike will be thrilled by the amazing

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feats and amusing antics of the circus’s talented acrobats, jugglers, clowns, and contortionists. Ends 17 July. Time: shows 12pm and 2:30pm. Venue: The Hippodrome, Gold Reef City. Cost: adults R150, children under 1,3m and pensioners R100. Contact: 011 248 5000 or visit goldreefcity.co.za Romeo and Juliet The South African Ballet Theatre brings you the saga of Romeo and Juliet. 1–19 June. Time: Friday 8pm, Saturday 3pm and 8pm, Sunday 8pm. Venue: Hoofd St, Braamfontein.

Cost: tbc. Contact: 011 877 6898 or visit saballettheatre.co.za The Guitar That Rocked The World A celebration of the much adored Fender Stratocaster guitar. 22 June–3 July. Time: 8pm. Venue: The Mandela at Joburg

Bedfordview Library Story time for children aged 2–5 years. Time: 10am, every Thursday. Venue: 3 Hawley Rd, Bedfordview.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 874 5013 Bryanston Library Story time for children aged 2–6 years. Time: 2:30pm, every Wednesday. Venue: cnr New and Pyne St, Bryanston. Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 706 3518 Build-a-Bear workshops Create your own teddy bear or stuffed animals. Open every day. Time: dependent on store.

Venue: several in the Johannesburg area.

For more info: visit buildabear.co.za Charity book sales 1 and 29 June. Time: 9am–6pm Monday–Friday and 9am–3pm Saturday. Venue: Benmore Gardens Shopping Centre, cnr Grayston Dr and Benmore Rd, Sandton. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit benmoregardens.co.za

Rivonia Primary School volleyball tournament Calling all volleyball social teams to a round-robin tournament just for fun. If you have an amateur mixed team (minimum two ladies on the court at any time) book your team a place for the day.

There is loads of entertainment for the children, a beer tent and food stalls. 11 June. Time: 8:30am.

Venue: Rivonia Primary School, Rivonia. Cost: R1 000 per team.

Contact Greg: 082 413 3005, Sam: 083 309 9830, Adriana: 082 452 4478, rivoniavolleyball@gmail.com or rivonia@gmail.com

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Hedgehog Lane Outdoor fairground with a Ferris wheel, merry-go-round and miniature Hedgehog Express Train. There is also a creative studio, bakery and hair salon. Picnic baskets welcome. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Garden Shop, 278 Main Rd, Bryanston.

Cost: adults free, children R18. For more info: visit hedgehoglane.co.za Jimmy Jungles Indoor adventure playground with supervised, secure facilities for toddlers and children from 6 months up to a maximum height of 1,4m. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Shop 60, Stoneridge Centre, Modderfontein. Cost: R30 per hour. Contact: 011 452 2180 or visit jimmyjungles.co.za Larney Ladybird Playdays Let the little ones blow off some steam, while you relax with a cup of coffee. Time: 10am–4pm, every Wednesday. Venue: Larney Ladybirds, Valley Rd, Broadacres, Fourways. Cost: adults R25; includes bottomless coffee/ tea and cake or a muffin. Children R15; including juice, chips, fruit stick and mini colouring-in book. Contact Bianca: 083 770 7702, bianca@larneyladybirds.co.za or visit larneyladybirds.co.za Love Books Different storytellers relate everything from traditional African folk tales to fairy tales, the classics and brand new stories. Suitable for children 4–8 years.

Time: 10am, every Saturday. Venue: Love Books, The Bamboo Centre, 53 Rustenburg Rd, Melville. Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 726 7408 or storytelling@lovebooks.co.za Norscot Manor Library Story time for children aged 2–8 years. Time: 3pm–3:30pm, every Wednesday. Venue: 16B Penguin Dr, Norscot Manor. Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 705 3323 Oki-Doki This play and party venue offers a unique “town” where children can play dress-up. Also a coffee shop for parents.

Time: Tuesday–Saturday 8:30am–4:30pm.

Venue: 66 6th St, Linden. Cost: free entry for adults, children R20. Contact: 011 888 8940, info@oki-doki.co.za or visit oki-doki.co.za

Olivedale Library Story time for children 3–6 years. Time: 10am–11am, every Friday.

Venue: President Fouche Rd, Olivedale.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 462 6285/6 Serendipity’s story time Your little one is led through magical experiences as books come alive in front of them. Every Tuesday and Wednesday. Time: Tuesday (preschoolers) 11am, Wednesday 4pm for the slightly older scholars. Cost: entry to Serendipity – R45 for the first child, R35 for the second child and R30 for each additional child. Adults free. Contact: 011 447 7386 or serendipityplay@gmail.com Words Bookstore Enjoy a cup of coffee, read a book and let the children play in the play area. Story time can be arranged. Time: 7am–6:30pm. Venue: Health Emporium, cnr Church and Market St, Midrand. Contact: 011 315 3801 or maria@wordsbookstore.co.za Yeesh! Fun for kids Supervised softplay indoor playgrounds with coffee bars.

Time: 9am–5pm, Tuesday–Sunday. Venue: Unit G6, Woodmead Commercial Park, Waterval Crescent, Woodmead and 5 Main Rd, Bryanston. Cost: R40 per hour. Contact Woodmead: 083 923 2306, Bryanston: 073 230 6531 or visit yeesh.co.za

sports and physical activities Avalanche Hit the ice and go bumboarding or skiing on the 65m slope and drag lift. Instructors are on hand at all times for lessons and safety instruction. Time: 9am–late, Monday–Sunday. Venue: Cedar Square, Fourways. Cost: varies. Contact Lance: 011 467 2426 Compu-Kart Raceway Indoor go-karting venue suitable for children 10 and older.

Time: 10am–9pm. Venue: Stoneridge Shopping Centre, cnr Modderfontein and Hereford Rd, Modderfontein. Cost: R50–R250 dependent on number of laps. Contact: 0861 465 278 or visit compu-kart.co.za Ice Skate at Northgate Time: 10am to 5pm and 7:30pm–10:30pm, Monday– Sunday. Venue: Northgate Ice Arena, Northgate Shopping Centre, entrance 6, cnr Olievenhout Rd and Northumberland Ave, Northriding. Cost: entrance R43, skate hire R20. Tuesday night half price. Sunday night madness R30 for entrance and skate hire. Contact: 011 794 8706 Kidi-Sportz A fun-filled and exciting programme to enhance gross motor and physical development for children from 18 months to 6 years. The programme is especially beneficial for children with low muscle tone. To find a programme near you, contact: 011 469 1594, 083 281 4391 or info@kiddisportz.co.za

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Stargazing at Maropeng Take the opportunity to join Maropeng’s resident astronomer, Vincent Nettmann, for a laser-guided sky tour and talk on the stars. This is your chance to view “the darling of astronomy”, Saturn, followed by a three-course dinner at the Maropeng Boutique Hotel. Binoculars and warm clothes are essential. 25 June. Time: 6pm for welcome drinks. Venue: Maropeng Boutique Hotel. Cost: R295 per person including a three-course dinner or R1 110 per person per night for an overnight stay, including bed and breakfast, stargazing dinner and presentation. To book visit: maropeng.co.za and click on Shop

Randburg Raceway Experience the adrenalin rush of indoor go-karting.

Time: 11am–8pm. Venue: Samantha St, Strijdom Park, Randburg. Cost: R120 for a 10-minute race. Contact: 011 792 2260 or visit randburgraceway.co.za Sandboarding School Join this outdoor school where instructors assess your skills level, train you and have you gliding over sand. Wear sports shoes and bring sun block.

Time: depends on bookings, Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Mount Mayhem, Benoni.

Cost: R250, including gear hire. Contact: 082 605 1150, info@purerush.co.za or visit purerush.co.za Wonderwall Indoor climbing wall for beginner to advanced climbers. Time: Tuesday–Thursday 10am–10pm, Friday 10am–9pm, Saturday 9am–6pm. Venue: Unit 1 Kya Sands Industrial Village, 22 Elsecar St, Kya Sands. Cost: adults R60, children R40. Contact: 011 708 6467 or visit wonderwall.co.za

4 June – Candles and flowers workshop

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Candles and flowers workshop Learn how to create arrangements with flowers and candles. 4 June. 9am–12pm. Venue: Ngwenya Glass Village, Muldersdrift. Cost: R200, includes flowers to take home, refreshments and a contribution to SARDA (South African Riding for the Disabled Association). Contact Kami: 082 817 1293 Chocolate appreciation workshop Become a chocolate connoisseur and learn about how chocolate is made from bean magazine joburg

to bar. Discover seven different flavours of chocolate and its history, while enjoying a taste experience and demonstration by the Lindt maitre chocolatier. 3, 7, 15, 21 and 30 June. Time: 6pm–7:30pm. Venue: Chocolate Studio, Shop 38, Design Quarter, Fourways. Cost: R150. Contact: 011 467 5730 or visit chocolatestudio.co.za Community-building seminar Dr Louise van Rhyn, social entrepreneur, and founder of Symphonia for South Africa, hosts a session that aims to strengthen our society through active citizenship. A cross section of the population is brought together. 27 and 28 June. Time, venue and cost: tbc. For more info: 021 913 3507, 079 697 2949 or kerrie@symphonia.net Dinner-date cooking demo Learn to cook four instant menus. Booking is essential. 11 June. Time: 10am–2pm.

Venue: Foodlink Cookery School, Beaulieu, Kyalami. Cost: R300. Contact: 082 457 1522, info@hospitalitysecrets.co.za or visit hospitalitysecrets.co.za Domestic worker cooking class Empower your domestic worker and create time for your family by letting your domestic worker take charge of meals. Healthy and delicious family recipes are taught by a qualified chef. Times: 9:30am–12pm.

Venue: Little Cooks Club, Rivonia. Cost: R350. Contact: christine@littlecooksclub. co.za or visit littlecooksclub.co.za Foundation oil painting course This eight-lesson course focuses on the traditional techniques of painting figures and objects in oil paints. Classes are aimed at teenagers and adults. 1–25 June. Time: 9am–1pm, every Saturday. Venue: The Indigo Studio, Rivonia. Cost: R2 400. Contact Taryn: 082 904 3720 or taryn@beelinestudio.co.za Killing Kebble – An Underworld Exposed Enjoy breakfast followed by a presentation by award-winning Eyewitness News reporter and author Mandy Wiener as she discusses her new book.

2 June. Time 7am–9am. Venue: Hyatt Regency Hotel, cnr Oxford and Biermann Rd, Rosebank. Cost: R410 per person, R3 950 per table of 10. Contact Tebogo: 011 807 4724 or events@finlay.co.za June 2011

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Learn to massage your baby Take a four-week course with your baby. Discover how to soothe problems such as colic, sleep and bonding issues through massage. For moms with babies aged 2 weeks to 1 year. 1 June.

Time: 11am–12pm. Venue: The Children’s Therapy Centre, Petervale, Bryanston. Cost: R470.

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Moms weekend entertaining class Learn fresh, new ideas for casual and formal entertaining for friends from braais to dinner parties. The class is taught by a qualified chef. 8 June. Time: 9:30am–12pm.

Venue: Little Cooks Club, Rivonia. Cost: R350. Contact: christine@littlecooksclub. co.za or visit littlecooksclub.co.za Pewter and mosaic classes Get creative with pewter modelling and simple, striking mosaic projects. Booking is essential. 11 June. Time: 10am–11am. Venue: Ngwenya Glass Village, off Beyers Naudé Dr and the R114, Muldersdrift. Cost: R75, includes tea and cake. Contact Joan: 083 326 5157 Take a Soweto Tour Join Steve the Rhubuluza Croc on a crawl through the taverns of Soweto. Experience the life and vibe of the township as you embark on a mind-opening edutainment experience.

Escape your comfort zones as you blow your vuvuzela and share a beer with the locals, while crawling from pub to shack to famous landmark in a genuine Soweto taxi. To book a tour, contact Sean: 011 463 8895, 079 050 9185 or shaun@ simkile.co.za Visual art journalling Release your inner artist and enjoy a relaxing approach to art. All materials are provided. 4 June.

Time: 9am–12:30pm. Cost: two-week taster R450, four weeks R700, eight weeks R1 200. Contact Michelle: 084 777 4361, innovation@mweb.co.za or visit creativitygym.co.za

on stage and screen Defending the Caveman Alan Committie stars in the all-time favourite “date comedy” that explores the reasons why men don’t like to ask for directions and why ladies need so much cupboard space. Ends 5 June. Time: 8pm Wednesday–Friday, 3pm and 8pm Saturday, 3pm Sunday. Venue: Pieter Toerien Main Theatre, Montecasino, 3116 William Nicol Dr, Sandton. Cost: R150. Book through Computicket: 083 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Jesus Christ Superstar This dramatised version of the last seven days in the life of Jesus of Nazareth, as seen through the eyes of Judas, has Cito (Wonderboom’s front man) as Jesus of Nazareth with South African singer Nadine playing Mary Magdalene.

3–26 June. Time: 8pm–10:30pm. Venue: The Teatro, MonteCasino, Fourways. Cost R100–R365. Book through Computicket: visit computicket.com Parker’s Urban Comedy Nights Laugh all night as stand-up comics give their unique perspectives on life as we know it. Shows throughout June. Time: 8pm.

Venue: Supersport Showbar, Carnival City.

Cost: R30. Contact: 021 426 1233

family members. Contact: 011 887 9966 or visit edsupport.co.za CHOC Provides advice and support for families affected by childhood cancer.

Contact: 086 111 3500 or visit choc.org.za Compassionate Friends Support group for bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents. Contact: 011 440 6322 or visit compassionatefriends.org.za Hi Hopes An early-intervention, homebased programme that empowers parents of deaf or hearing-impaired children aged 0–3 years. Contact: 011 717 3750 or claudine.storbeck@wits.ac.za Johannesburg Bipolar Support Association Contact Linda: 011 485 2406 or visit bipolar.co.za LifeLine A 24-hour confidential crisis intervention service. Contact: 011 728 1347

support groups Alcoholics Anonymous To find a support group in your area visit aasouthafrica.org.za Anorexia and Bulimia Family Support Group Assists those suffering from anorexia and bulimia nervosa as well as the affected

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PACSEN – Parents for Children with Special Educational Needs Provides counselling, support and information for parents with special needs children.

Contact: 012 333 0149 or visit pacsen.co.za Respect Me Support for children affected by bullying. Contact Kelly: info@respectme. co.za or visit respectme.co.za The Family Life Centre Offers marriage, divorce and couple counselling, single parent and step-parent support groups, as well as play therapy, grief counselling and trauma debriefing. Venue: 1 Cardigan Rd, Parkwood. Contact: 011 788 4784/5, famlife@iafrica.com or visit familylife.co.za Tough Love Self-help programme and support group for families affected by drugs, alcohol, substance, verbal or physical abuse. Contact: 0861 868 445 or visit toughlove.org.za Tourette’s syndrome support group Contact: 011 326 2112 or 082 357 6586 Women and men against child abuse Medical, psychological and followup therapy and treatment for children who have been sexually, physically and emotionally abused as well as support for their non-offending family members or caregivers. Contact: 011 789 8815, tania@ wmaca.org or visit wmaca.org For more support groups visit childmag.co.za/resources/supportgroups

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classes, talks and workshops Let’s Eat Learn about nutrition for children, reasons for fussy feeders and eaters, and how to cope with feeding problems.

Workshops throughout June. Venue: 35 Northwold Dr, Saxonwold. Contact: 011 447 2202, info@brightstartrightstart.co.za or visit brightstartrightstart.co.za Let’s Play Attend the programme with your baby and learn about their socialemotional development in the first year.

You learn simple, fun and practical activities to encourage play and language skills.

Workshops throughout June. Venue: 35 Northwold Dr, Saxonwold. Contact: 011 447 2202, info@brightstartrightstart.co.za or visit brightstartrightstart.co.za Let’s Talk A programme for your baby, where you explore the magic of sounds and words through interactive songs, games and rhymes. Boost and build confident communication skills in little ones aged 18–24 months. Workshops throughout June. Venue: 35 Northwold Drive, Saxonwold. Contact: 011 447 2202, info@brightstartrightstart.co.za or visit brightstartrightstart.co.za Moms and Tots Interactive workshops for parents with tots from 1–3,5 years, which include free play with educational toys, music, stories and crafts as well as life skills, messy play and gross motor

activities. Several venues throughout Johannesburg.

Contact: 011 469 1530 or visit momsandtots.co.za Preggi Bellies One-hour cardio and weight-training programme for expectant and postnatal moms. All exercises conform to strict obstetric guidelines. Venues: Melrose, Rivonia, Craighall, Fourways, Parkmore, Bedfordview. Cost: various packages available; call for more information. Contact David: 011 440 6222, 082 656 2917 or visit preggibellies.co.za Pregnancy yoga for expectant moms.

Time: Monday 5:30pm–7pm, Tuesday 10am–11:30am. Venues: Craighall and Athol. Cost: R90 per class or R300 for four classes. Contact: theoni@consciousbirth. co.za or visit consciousbirth.co.za Push Me Fit exercise classes An exercise programme for moms with babies over six weeks of age. The workout was designed by physiotherapists as a specialised postnatal workout. Venues: Mushroom Farm Park, Delta Park, Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden. Cost: contact their offices for information on the various packages available that suit your needs. Contact Jo-Anni: 011 326 4639, info@pushmefit. co.za or visit pushmefit.co.za The Good Enough Mother Workshop This course is aimed at new moms

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who need a little confidence and advice and who might be feeling a little overwhelmed with motherhood. Discover that just doing your best is always good enough to make you a wonderful mother. Course run by qualified social workers. Attendees receive the resource book New Arrival Survival. 21 June. Time: 10am−12pm. Venue: 19 Hampton Court Rd, Gallo Manor. Cost: R200, which can be claimed back from medical aid.

Contact Stephanie: 082 575 4587 or urdang@netactive.co.za The Silver Birch Situated within a nursery, this restaurant offers eats and there is also a play area, mini train and petting zoo to keep tots entertained for hours. Venue: Lifestyle Home Garden,

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Take a pic for charity Support cancer research and submit a beautiful photograph to be sold at an outdoor exhibition to raise money. All proceeds pay for tissue-typing tests required by donors to the South African Bone Marrow Registry. The photograph can be abstract, macro, landscape, colour or black and white. Ends 14 July. Drop off or post your pictures to The Sunflower Fund, 4th Floor, South Tower, Nelson Mandela Square, cnr 5th and Maude St, Sandton or Postnet Suite 145, Private Bag X9976, Sandton, 2146

cnr Beyers Naudé Dr and Ysterhout Ave, Randpark Ridge. Contact: 011 792 5714 or visit thesilverbirch.co.za Top Tots Interactive parent and toddler workshops aimed at development from birth to preschool. Venue: several venues throughout Gauteng. For more info and branch contact numbers: visit toptots.co.za

playtime and story time Jelly Fish Secure indoor play area with coffee shop. Activities include gardening, dress up and free play. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: lower level, Bedford Village Shopping Centre, cnr Van Buuren Rd and Nicol Rd, Bedfordview.

Cost: R100 for first hour; includes take-home art; R50 per hour thereafter. Contact: 011 024 2379 or visit jellyfishkids.co.za Jimmy Jungles Indoor adventure playground with supervised, secure facilities for toddlers and children from six months up to a maximum height of 1,4m. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Shop 60, Stoneridge Centre, Modderfontein. Cost: R30 per hour. Contact: 011 452 2180 or visit jimmyjungles.co.za Jungle Rumble Indoor playground and party venue with allocated baby area for birth to 3 years. Time: 9am–5pm Tuesday– Saturday, 10am–5pm Sunday. Venue: Panorama Shop and Leisure Centre, cnr Kliprivier and Jordie Rds, Mulbarton. Cost: R15–R45. Babies under 10 months free. For more info: visit junglerumble.co.za Parkview Library story time Suitable for children under 3 years. Time: 10am, every Monday. Venue: Parkview Library, 51 Athlone Ave, Parkview. Cost: free entry.

Contact: 011 646 3375 Piccino’s Indoor soft-play area suitable for children aged 2–6 years, coffee shop for moms. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Norwood Mall, Hamlin Rd, Norwood. Cost: R40 per hour. Contact: 011 728 0928 Yeesh! Fun for kids Supervised softplay indoor playgrounds with coffee bars.

Time: 9am–5pm Tuesday–Sunday. Venue: Unit G6, Woodmead Commercial Park, Waterval Crescent, Woodmead, 5 Main Rd, Bryanston. Cost: R40 per hour. Contact

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support groups Adoption South Africa Offers support groups for adopters as well as extensive services in counselling and legal social work. For more info: visit adoptionsa.co.za Bedwetting Support Group Monday– Friday, 8am–5pm. Contact: 083 289 6640 Cleft Friends Support for parents with babies born with cleft lips and palates. For more info: visit cleftfriends.co.za Divorce Support workshop A workshop for individuals going through a divorce or who are recently divorced.

Scheduled subject to sufficient numbers.

Time: 7pm–9pm. Venue: 1 Cardigan Ave, Parkwood. Cost: R390. Contact: 011 788 4784/5 or visit familylife.co.za La Leche League Breast-feeding support group. For more info: visit llli.org Neobirth Pregnancy Care Centre Support for crisis pregnancies, abortion, miscarriages, adoption and general parenting issues. Contact: 012 343 6401 or visit neobirth.org.za Postnatal Depression Support Association Assists mothers and their families affected by postnatal depression.

Contact: 011 786 8803, pndsagauteng@ gmail.com or visit pndsa.co.za SA Preemies Support group for parents and families of premature babies. Contact: 080 773 3643, support@sapreemies.za.org or visit preemiesforafrica.org South African Multiple Birth Association Provides moral and practical support to parents or guardians of multiple births. Contact: 0861 432 432 Tough Love Self-help programme and support group for families affected by unacceptable adolescent behaviour. Contact: 0861 868 445 or visit toughlove.org.za

For more support groups visit childmag.co.za/resources/supportgroups

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how to help CLAW This is a community-led animal welfare society that provides veterinary assistance in impoverished areas. They have dogs, cats, puppies and kittens looking for homes. For more info: visit claw-sa.org Little Eden Society Currently 301 children and adults aged 2–61 years with profound intellectual disabilities are housed there. They require donations in the form of goods, cash and time. They also have a project where you can sponsor a resident on a monthly basis. For more info: visit littleeden.org.za Matt’s Foundation garage sale in aid of children in need Donate the things you no longer use for the organisation to sell for a good cause. Any form of donation is welcome. All proceeds go towards charities supported by Matt’s Foundation.

Join them for a day of fun. 4 June. Time: 11am. Venue: Riviera on Vaal Hotel and Country Club’s Pitch and Putt Course, Mario Milani Dr, Vereeniging. Cost: free entry. Contact Chantel: 016 455 6100, chantel@mvcommunications.co.za or visit mattsfoundation.co.za Missing Children SA Needs volunteers.

Register on the mailing list to assist with searches by distributing flyers when a child goes missing. Contact: 072 647 7464 or visit missingchildren.org.za Pregnancy Awareness The Neobirth Centre helps women with unplanned pregnancies with pregnancy care. You can help by looking at their needs list and assisting with donations of goods or your time. For more info: visit neobirth.org.za Soapkidz This is a non-profit organisation that aims to create environmental awareness and promote nature conservation among underprivileged and abused children. They require things like sleeping bags, first-aid kits, mountain bikes and lots more. For their wish list: visit soapkidz.org

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For a free listing, email your event to joburg@childmag.co.za or fax it to 011 234 4971. Information must be received by 27 May for the July issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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last laugh

road-tripping

across the RSA

Joe, Sam and Benj

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remember the first time Andreas and I did a car trip as parents. We packed up six-month-old Joey in his bulky, multi-click car seat and then chucked all his essentials in after him... into our little Volksie. Pram, camping cot, play donut, portable fan, his giant Pooh Bear; if our little snookums needed it, it was crammed in the back of that car.

All was great. Right until we started driving, and Joey started crying.

“Um, Dreas?” I said. “I can’t reach the baby to comfort him. He’s kinda wedged behind the pram. In fact, now that I think about it – that’s probably why he is crying.”

“Can’t talk. Driving,” said Dreas, through gritted teeth. “Need to get to Pretoria in 14 hours. You’re not going to need pee stops and stuff, are you?”

As you’ve probably intimated, that first trip didn’t go very well.

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Eleven years later, with parents still 14 hours away and a budget that doesn’t leave much for aeroplane money, we’ve got a lot better at road-tripping.

We have pretty much the same rituals as most SA families, in that we leave before the crack of dawn, take our favourite pillows, pack egg mayonnaise sandwiches, and argue about who is going to sit with that last bag squished under their legs.

We also make most of the same mistakes. We let the boys pack their own “trip bags”, which inevitably results in everyone squirming around for at least an hour looking for a dropped Bakugan or some other tiny, but emotionally-priceless piece of plastic. Against our better judgement, we let children eat greasy pit-stop burgers at 10am, and then blame each other if anyone throws up.

But luckily, as we’ve got older and less flexible, the children have become much easier to manage. To the point where, well, I think I am now the car’s Weakest Link.

It’s not my fault; I’ve just always needed to pee a lot. And I get very antsy sitting in a car for hours. And bored. And...

“Mom!” yelled Joey exasperated, about five hours into our last trip. “You know we aren’t nearly there yet! The sat nav says four more hours; you should know this better than anyone, you are sitting right in front of it!”

“Joe has a point, Mom,” said Benj sternly. “Your constant whining is breaking my concentration. It’s hard enough reading Asterix in the car without you moaning and huffing all the time. Why don’t you play on your iPhone or something?”

“Or look outside,” said Andreas. “See that cool ridge over there? That’s a dolerite

sill! Isn’t that interesting? That’s been there since the split of age-old continents...”

Yup. I am officially the most childish person in my family. Which I’m okay with, because it means I have also invented the coolest road trip game ever... “car dancing”.

It’s frigging awesome. You play your most boppy ’80s compilation, and then headbang your way through the Karoo. Sure you get a few stares from passing motorists (especially at stop-n-gos) but by the time you’ve got your hair out of your eyes, you’ve covered like a hundred kilometres.

And the best news? My boys let me do it for an hour every trip; two if I’ve been good.

Sam Wilson is the Editor-in-Chief of Women24, Food24 and Parent24. She’s also a little upset about the number of travel draughts dropped down the side of her seat that she can’t wiggle back up.

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PHOTOGRAPH: Andreas SpÄth

SAM WILSON survives family trips – and her children’s irritation – by playing cool car games.