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contents april 2015

20 3 a note from lisa

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6 over to you readers respond

10 head above water Tamlyn Vincent explains why and when secondary drowning becomes a threat

features 12 rules to live by Tamlyn Vincent gives tips for creating harmony in your home

18 too much information sharing on social media is popular, quick and easy. Christina Castle looks at possible dangers and taboos

20 expertly happy Lucille Kemp discovers the magic formula for happiness

22 what’s in a label? Samantha Page looks at how you can deal positively with behavioural challenges

25 crucial cursive writing longhand is still important for our children’s educational development, says Marina Zietsman

28 programming for life not all cartoons are bad, but parents should be aware of the content and limit time spent watching television, says Daniella Renzon

30 no visa required Lucille Kemp offers a list of overseas destinations you can fly to on a whim

33 laid-back delicious in her book, Lazy Days, Phillippa Cheifitz inspires with delicious recipes made with local produce

regulars 13 pregnancy news – tough, but wonderful Donna Cobban reminisces on what to expect when you’re expecting

14 best for baby – fit baby Anél Lewis finds out more about the benefits of exercise for your baby and toddler

16 dealing with difference – falling between the gap what if, for various reasons, your child with special needs doesn’t fit into any school?

Marc de Chazal finds out

36 resource – eat out specials a list of restaurants compiled by Simone Jeffery that offer special family deals

38 a good read for the whole family 42 what’s on in april 54 finishing touch Anél Lewis realises that children are great teachers of patience

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over to you baring it all I am a parent and am appalled to see so many moms strip their children naked when they play on the beach. Yes, the beach is where one wears less, but be respectful, if not for others, then for yourself. And instil the same self-respect in your children. It’s not right to expose your child’s body indecently in public places.

There are perverts out there that could be watching your child and possibly taking photos. Swimwear should be mandatory on beaches, even for toddlers.

Anonymous

growing problem of bullying I sympathise completely with parents of children who are bullied, and with parents of children who are bullies, who are at their wits’ end on how to resolve the issue.

I just don’t understand how a parent would make the conscious decision to let their child remain in an environment where they are being bullied, especially if they are aware of the situation. If the school refuses to take the matter seriously, you as a parent have a duty to remove your child from the harmful environment. If you knowingly let your child remain in it, then you are just

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Let us know what’s on your mind. Send your letters or comments to marina@childmag.co.za or PO Box 12002, Mill Street, 8010.

as responsible as the bully for the deterioration of your child’s wellbeing.

Roshika Pillay I feel so sorry for children, and their parents, who are victims of bullying. I feel that if the schools, where bullying is occuring, do not take the matter seriously, they should be named and shamed. It’s disgusting if the parents’ plea is not taken seriously. There should be zero tolerance for bullying.

Crystal Thank you for the article on bullying that every parent should read. To answer the question on where to turn to if bulling is taking place, I recommend the Department of Education. No child should ever be left to feel that way. Something needs to be done and someone needs to take this matter further.

Lynn

thanks to child magazine My child attends Noah’s Ark Highveld nursery. We would like to take this opportunity to thank you

for sharing your educational and informative magazine. We love to read the articles and see that other parents go through the same things we do.

It has also been helpful to find places and restaurants that accommodate children, and to find fun activities to do.

Avela Potelwa We would just like to let you know that we love your magazine. My daughter, Isabella, is learning to read and the highlight for her is when she gets your magazine at the library. I have to ask her several times if she has finished reading it, before I can indulge myself. Keep up the wonderful work. You are captivating young audiences too.

Tatiana and Isabella Godinho iThemba Lethu Durban, “I have a destiny”, invests in babies and children threatened by the effects of HIV/ Aids. After you featured our organization in your “how to help” section, we got such a lovely call from one of your readers wanting to make a donation – how exciting!

Karen Brokensha

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letters Thank you for including our organization in your “how to help” section [Forest Town School, who are collecting takkies for children with cerebral palsy]. In response a school is putting a bin in their reception to collect takkies from the children. One lady has offered to donate takkies, clothing and toys on an ongoing basis and a national company called Side Step are going to put bins in some of their stores, with the relevant artwork to be placed on the bins. Side Step import and sell brand-name takkies.

So far, I think that this is a very good result, thanks to Child magazine’s generous offer to place a free advert.

Marion

in response to “lazy parenting” (over to you, March 2015) This letter speaks to my heart. I have been accused of being military-like in my approach to parenting, but I see great value in drawing clear boundaries for my children.

They have flourished within those boundaries and, yes, it can be all-consuming and tiring, but only while they are learning where those boundaries are. Parenting is not for the faint-hearted and it can’t be done in half measures.

Your children deserve all your energy and attention. They exist by your hand and your choice. Make them your priority. Thank you for an insightful publication.

Alison Geduld I agree that behaviour and discipline should be implemented at home, but no parent can take responsibility for a teacher’s classroom situation. I have walked into many classes where the teacher has complete control over the class. I have seen swimming instructors that have two- to four-year-old children trained to the point where they know every single step of the routine, including where to be and

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We asked you what you think of breast-feeding in public, and here’s how you responded:

27%

I’m all for it

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I don’t mind, but it should be discreet

10% Do it at home or in private 2% I think it’s disgusting Go to childmag.co.za/content/breast-feedingpublic to read our article on this hot topic. Also look out for an article in a future issue of Child magazine on what to do when you aren’t able to breast-feed.

how to behave when they have to wait for others to finish up. Raising children has never been the responsibility of parents only. People who I have never met have an impact on my child’s life: the maintenance guy at school or visitors that come by when grandparents babysit. As a parent I do not have control over every aspect of my child’s experiences. The sooner teachers realise that their influence on a child’s life could be equal to that of family members, the sooner parents and teachers will become an educational team for their children.

Elizka

in response to “dear mommies of the posh suburbs…” (over to you, March 2015) As a misfit mom of three boys residing in the “posh suburbs” (without millions in the bank or a fancy car), who arranges playdates often, my advice would be: stop inviting someone that doesn’t want to come to your home. There are lots of other misfit moms who would love to have a playdate. If someone doesn’t want to arrange a visit or return the invitation, then move on. Personally, I’d rather my boys have lots of different friends than one best friend. If they do have a best friend then they must still be able to play with others. It is also the best way, besides parties, to get to know other moms. Another tip: I don’t invite less than two moms and no more than four to come along on a playdate – life happens and people cancel. It’s also very difficult for people with older children to arrange playdates because of the timing of after-school activities. But there is always someone who wants to join in on a playdate. Just widen your “search”.

Ask your son’s teacher who he gets on with at school and take it from there.

I love doing playdates; it’s always loud and busy, the children have a blast, and you get to know new people.

Some you’ll like and some you won’t.

Jacky Mangnall

your response online to “rules to live by” I disagree with rule number four that children need to have a say on where holidays are taken or what colour the house is painted. Those are adult decisions. They can decide between a chocolate or strawberry milkshake or what they’d like to wear to a party. Children are given too much say on adult things and it causes conflict

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between the parents when one sides with the child or the child doesn’t get what they suggested. The parents must be a united front and be parents to their children, not friends. Children don’t need to make decisions about grown-up things – they have many years to do that later on in life.

Anonymous to “mainstreaming special needs children” Parents should be aware that the right to an education is guaranteed in the constitution. Schools are obliged not only to provide admission to the institution, but also to afford assistance to a learner in order that they are able to obtain the benefit of learning. This means that children with special learning needs should be accommodated and be provided with learning support in whatever form is required. I am the mother of a little boy who has ADD. He has just started Grade 1 and the principal of the school that he attends advised me to put him on Ritalin or remove him from the school.

This is illegal. No child may be denied the right to an education, but also no person may be denied the right to make informed choices regarding healthcare.

Parents who encounter problems are advised to contact the education department in their province. In the event that the department fails to assist them and their child, they should contact the South African Human Rights Commission (if there is an infringement of the right to education) or the Public Protector (in the event that

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there is undue delay in provision of a service that has been promised).

Anonymous

Childmag says See the article “falling between the gap” on page 16, which looks at the right of children with special needs to quality education. to “overcoming dyslexia” My son is turning 10, but he can’t read or write. I suspect he is dyslexic. Where can I take him to be tested? His school says he needs to go to a special needs school.

Please help.

Anonymous Personally I can highly recommend the Davis Correction Programme. My son is dyslexic and worked with this programme. His schoolwork has improved by leaps and bounds and his teachers report only good things. For the first time he actually enjoys reading.

Anonymous Brain scanning research has showed the areas of the brain that process visual and auditory information, as well as the pathways that link them, are activated simultaneously during efficient reading. For a dyslexic reader, these same areas are not activated, resulting in reading that is laboured. There is a revolutionary reading treatment that activates all of these areas resulting in as much as a 24-month improvement in decoding ability

over 10 hours. It is also imperative that, if required, concessions of a reader, extra time, spelling and more are put in place in tests and exams so that a child with difficulties sees his results reflecting his cognitive ability and the effort that he is putting in.

Children with difficulties often have a high IQ and put in so much hard work. Having concessions allows them to see their effort rewarded.

Angela Prinsloo to “the right age to start school” Thank you for a well-balanced article. Children are indeed individuals and should be treated as such. Too often schools, and preschools, look at the year in which a child was born and pigeonhole them accordingly, often to the detriment of the child. My son started Grade 1 at age five and, although he was the youngest in his class, he was a top achiever and as far as emotional maturity is concerned, his teachers have always told me that he speaks his mind and will not follow his friends if he knows that something is wrong. I have no regrets sending him to school “early”.

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health

head above water You may think your child is safe after recovering from a near-drowning, but secondary drowning is still a threat. TAMLYN VINCENT explains.

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these symptoms, call an ambulance and perform mouth-to-mouth resuscitation.

preventing water accidents

water safety

• Supervise children around any water; children can drown in just a few centimetres of water.

• Ensure your pool is fenced off and has a net covering it when not in use.

• Pack away toys, pool equipment or other objects over which someone could trip.

• Educate children about pool safety.

• Warn children about the dangers of rough play, running around pools, doing flips into the water and diving into shallow water. Also be vigilant if Lilos are in the pool as children can easily become trapped beneath them.

wait and watch Lambinon recommends that you go to hospital for observation after a neardrowning. If symptoms develop, quick treatment is essential. If you don’t go to a hospital, Lambinon advises that the victim be observed for at least six hours after he has left the water. Children especially are

tired after such experiences and want to go to sleep. Observe them, says Lambinon, as symptoms may develop while they are asleep, and they may never wake up.

Symptoms to look out for include difficulty breathing, wheeziness, chest pain, persistent coughing, a fever and a change in behaviour or drop in energy level. If you notice any of

Secondary drowning isn’t common, but it does happen. And while it can happen to anyone, children are more at risk. Dominique Smythe, a swimming school instructor in Durban, says children who know how to swim are still at risk, but the threat is greater for children between the ages of one and four. Risk is increased when children and adults aren’t water safe, adds Smythe; rough play around water, diving into shallow pools, open access to water, and a lack of education and supervision all add to the risk. Teaching children to swim is one way to help prevent any type of drowning. Smythe recommends starting lessons between the ages of one and four years old. “Children five to 14 years old need to be water safe and be able to swim themselves out of dangerous situations,” says Smythe. It’s important not to overestimate your child’s swimming ability.

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any parents, I’m sure, have had a heart-stopping moment of panic when their child struggles in the water. Maybe he’s gone under for too long, or sucked in water instead of air. Most of the time, children cough up the water, breathe again, and you relax because everything is going to be fine. Except it isn’t always.

Secondary drowning or dry drowning are unofficial terms, but refer to drowning that happens after someone has left the water. Usually the child, or adult, will have had a near-drowning experience or struggle in the water, sucking water into their lungs. Craig Lambinon, media spokesman at the National Sea Rescue Institute, explains that secondary drowning occurs when this water causes the lungs to swell, making you feel like you are drowning again. The lungs can’t produce enough oxygen, which makes it difficult to breathe. This usually happens four to six hours after the victim has been in the water.

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family life

rules to live by Living with others can be wonderful, if you just remember a few rules, says TAMLYN VINCENT.

So here are my 10 rules for a peaceful house: Spend time together Eat together, play together and enjoy each other’s company.

Talk to each other Tell everyone about your day, talk about what made you happy or sad, and encourage your children to do the same.

Fix your problems Don’t go to bed angry, as the saying goes. Rather discuss and resolve any conflicts. Not by shouting, but by talking and figuring out a solution.

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Make decisions together Involve the whole family in any decisions, from what colour paint to buy, to where you want to go on holiday. You’re all living together, so you should all have a say.

Be fair Discipline and boundaries are necessary for a happy home, but they need to be consistent and fair, otherwise resentment may set in. Also, avoid casting blame. Everyone makes mistakes. Understanding this can help resolve conflicts more peacefully. And don’t forget to forgive one another for any mistakes made.

Be nice My mother always told me that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything. So, be kind to one another – and don’t shout.

Take time Don’t let your life get so busy that you don’t have time for one another. You don’t have to fill your days with planned activities. Find time to relax.

Laugh Tell jokes and funny stories, find the humour in serious situations, and laugh with one another.

Love Love one another, despite the things that drive you crazy, or because of them. Show your family that you love them whenever you can.

Breathe Be calm, and just breathe.

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ave you seen those family rules, most often on posters or painted on walls in someone’s house?

They include things like “a messy home is a happy home” or “say please and thank you”, all of which are really great rules to have. But do they make for a more peaceful family? And by peaceful, I don’t mean quiet. To me, peaceful means contentment, and living happily with yourself and everyone else in the home, even if there is a bit of organised chaos. This sort of peace comes from respect for one another, from not being afraid to say what you feel or think, and from parents who role model the right sort of behaviour.

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tough, but

wonderful DONNA COBBAN gleans some surprising titbits from mothers who wish someone had told them what to expect when having their first child.

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he night my water broke, I stood outside at the back door looking up at a star-studded sky, aware that my life was about to change forever. I longed for a village of elders to whisper words of advice and then silently retreat.

Looking back, had they been there, they would have told me that breast-feeding is not easy. Fail to get it right and your nipples will crack open and fissures will appear the size of canyons. They would have sung the praises of lashings of lanolin cream to protect those precious nipples while leaving piles of chilled cabbage leaves by my side to ward off the heat of milk engorged breasts. “Don’t worry too much,” they would have advised. “Not a lot can go truly wrong at this point. Sleep when he sleeps, get out as much as you can, go for long walks with him in the pram and relish every second with this tiny human being... it passes so quickly.”

Apparently, reading or watching a movie while breastfeeding may result in less bonding time with your baby.

Were I to do it again I would shrug off such nonsense and use the quiet times when breast-feeding seemed to be taking forever to read more gripping novels and catch up

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on world news and interesting research. Georgia, mother of two young children, wishes someone had told her to read as many books as possible over 300 pages long that require a modicum of concentration. She has not, however, lost all hope. “I am told that this skill may return when my youngest turns five.” Sticking firmly to literature, Georgia suggests mothers-to-be should remember they are having a child, not taking an exam. “You don’t have to read every book in the universe and attend every antenatal class. Your child will still stick with you. In fact, ditch the baby books and read War and Peace.”

Ingrid, mother of one with another on the way, has sage advice for when you feel beloved relatives closing in on you with all the best intentions at heart. You need to let go and let them help, she says. Some issues are, of course, easier than others, so it might be prudent to choose your battles wisely. Ingrid recounts her resistance to a new household appliance: “If your mother thinks you need a tumble drier and you really don’t think you do, but she’s not letting it go, let her buy it for you.”

When Ingrid was a mother-to-be she was constantly told by other parents how hard it was going to be. She became tired of the ominous warnings and resolved not to waste such negative advice on another mother-to-be in the family, who in turn was furious with her after the fact as no-one had told her about the tough bits. Ingrid has since resolved to tell people that while it can be tough, it is wonderful.

And that is just what it is – truly and utterly wonderful, mixed up with a bit of sleep deprivation, hormonal changes, self-doubt, confusion and exhaustion – sometimes in equal measures and sometimes not. But wonderful wins hands down in the end.

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baby Physical activity is an essential part of a healthy lifestyle, but how soon should we get our children involved in exercise? ANÉL LEWIS finds out more about the benefits of exercise for babies and toddlers.

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t what age should we get our children onto an exercise regime? As soon as possible, says Cape Town-based occupational therapist Zulfa Dominick, as exercise is in fact “playtime” that will stimulate your baby’s development physically and socially. It will also help with developmental milestones.

This can be done by joining a baby exercise class, or by incorporating fun exercises into your daily routine.

Keep up the exercise once your child starts to walk by encouraging age-appropriate physical activities. While your child’s physical activity lays a solid foundation for a healthy lifestyle, it also has significant benefits for their fine and gross motor skills, social interaction and confidence. The bonus of group exercise classes is that you get to meet other parents in a relaxed environment and make time to bond with your child.

what to expect Dominick says most of the exercises from birth to around 15 months are about stretching, massage and stimulation to make your baby more aware of his body and surroundings.

Exercise also stimulates visual, auditory and vestibular development as the baby is forced to rely on his senses to respond to the environment, says Dominick. When a child is stimulated through crawling over and under things, and swung during play, vestibular input is received. This allows the child to develop a tolerance for movement and improves gross motor coordination.

at home Dominick says the following exercises can be done with babies as soon as they show an ability to lift their head and press on their arms:

Muscle stretches Gently massage from the upper neck down the back in a criss-cross pattern, from the upper thigh down to the ankle, massaging the bottom and top of the feet, between the toes and moving the toes in a circular motion. Do the same with the upper limbs. This will promote good muscle tone and posture, and well-coordinated movements later on.

Vestibular exercises Facilitate crawling on a stable surface, gently guiding arms into the correct position and feet so that they don’t drag. Or, let your baby crawl over a raised pillow, roller or rolled pillow.

Standing and walking exercises Let your baby grasp your finger and then gently pull himself into a sitting position. Once your baby can pull himself up using your hand, then you can start doing trunk exercises by allowing him to sit up and play with a toy placed on the left side of his body, and then the right side. Note that the supported pull must be a gentle forward and up movement and not a direct upwards move, as this could cause dislocation at the glenohumeral (shoulder) joint.

Hand exercises From about two months, encourage an open hand by placing a rolled up sock in your baby’s hand or allow him to hold a soft toy. Move the fingers about individually, and then move them towards and away from the palm. At four months, let your baby reach for suspended objects to strengthen his shoulder girdle and arms. From about 12 months, you can introduce smaller objects and even buttons to stimulate the pincer grasp. Be sure to observe this activity at all times.

Feet exercises Encourage your baby to kick against an object such as your hand, a stuffed toy that makes sounds or a suspended ball.

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dealing with difference

falling between

the gap Many parents are finding that their children with special needs just don’t “fit in” to a specific school, for a number of reasons.

MARC DE CHAZAL investigates.

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atricia is a single mom from Joburg struggling to raise a child who has cerebral palsy. She cannot afford the R4 500 per month required to get her five-year-old daughter into a private, special needs school and the corporates she has approached for funding have all turned her down. To make matters worse, a government school also declined her application because her child, who is not toilet-trained, is considered physically and mentally challenged. It’s not the best solution, but Patricia has managed to get her daughter into a stimulation school that runs from 7am to 3pm for a substantially lower cost, freeing her up to find employment.

Patricia is not alone.

Many parents of children with special needs are running from pillar to post because their children allegedly don’t fit into a specific school – they are either not special needs enough or not remedial enough. New private schools are popping up in suburbs as a result, likely started by parents intent on a tailormade service for their own child with special needs. These facilities can become successful businesses, but they need to be registered with the Health and Education Departments. It’s only a solution for some children, however, as these schools and centres are usually privately run and the costs are picked up by the parents, indirectly marginalising people like Patricia who cannot afford it. They’re also faced with the same challenges when it comes to who fits into their school. Needs-specific schools tend to cater to a particular group of children, such as autistic, Down’s syndrome, cerebral palsy, physically

challenged or cognitively delayed, and they require specialised staff with a higher staff-to-pupil ratio.

slow march to inclusivity The White Paper 6 on Inclusive Education provides the framework to fulfil the right to quality education for children with disabilities, points out Liezl Schlebusch, a PhD student who has visited numerous schools and interviewed staff about parents’ journeys in finding the right school for their children. “The policy’s goal is to develop an inclusive education system that will recognise and accommodate the diverse range of learning needs,” says Schlebusch, “but the implementation is slow.

Currently, mainstream government schools are required to admit learners with special needs where it is ‘reasonably practical’.”

Sue Fowlds, principal of Wiggles & Squiggles School in Randburg, admits that inclusive learning environments are growing, but believes inclusion is complicated. “There will always be ‘that child’ who is too distracting, too boisterous, needs too much attention, is not keeping up with the group or is not coping with sitting, listening and responding appropriately in a mainstream class,” says Fowlds.

Are teachers in mainstream schools simply out of their depth when it comes to handling children with learning barriers? Sue Fowlds thinks so. “Teaching children with barriers to learning requires more specialised training and experience to meet their holistic educational needs. The child with special needs often throws a spanner in the works in

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The focus of inclusion is on removing the barriers to learning so that all children can reach their full potential.

a conventional classroom environment,” she says.

A child with special needs may be admitted into a mainstream school, but they still need to find their place in the school’s existing system, points out Schlebusch.

“Instead of focusing on changing the learner to fit into a specific educational system, the focus of inclusion is on removing the barriers to learning so that all children can reach their full potential,” she explains.

Fowlds agrees wholeheartedly.

It seems that we’re still a long way from achieving this. Children who use wheelchairs or crutches for mobility require ramps, suitable bag racks and wider aisles between desks.

Learning environments need to be adapted to accommodate them.

According to Fowlds, many schools prohibit parentemployed caregivers from accompanying learners and it doesn’t seem likely there will be budgets for state-provided support staff in the near future, which means that affected families of children with learning barriers must find a suitable remedial school – “a very long, tedious and often lonely journey,” she says.

for children with special needs on a central database with the Department of Education. “This will improve accessibility for the growing numbers of parents looking for the right school for their child,” she says. “I also believe teachers and facilitators need ongoing training in order to identify symptoms and behaviours, as there are numerous interventions available when something out of the ordinary is noticed. Teachers and support staff are not qualified to offer a diagnosis without a medical qualification, but they can suggest appropriate strategies for the child or refer parents to the right professionals, if they have the necessary training.”

The right to quality education can and should be realised for children with special needs.

Schlebusch is of the opinion that improved interaction with others and a suitable environment will enable children with special needs to “reap the social, emotional and cognitive benefits provided to all children in learning environments”. But the most important goal for these families is that their child is happy in a school environment, says Schlebusch. “Inclusion is more than just attending a school, though. It starts in our homes and in our community. By focusing on the strengths of a child with a disability and providing supporting environments that enable them to participate, we can create a truly inclusive society and achieve quality education for all.”

“It’s time that our special needs families – ‘the invisibles’ – were a bigger part of the community and their children more widely accepted into all areas of society,” adds Fowlds.

The right to quality education can and should be realised for children with special needs.

onwards So, what’s the way forward for frustrated parents at their wits’ end because they are being turned down continually when trying to enrol their children at schools recommended to them?

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too much information CHRISTINA CASTLE navigates the ethical quagmire that social media presents and realises how important it is that we think before we share.

names are there and I recognise the school uniform. I can also pretty much work out what area of Cape Town they are in. With just one click I sometimes have direct access to that child. And I could be anyone. I am anyone. I am not sure I am comfortable with that or if I would be comfortable with that if I were that child’s parent.

permission to post I wonder how my Facebook friends feel about this, so I put the question out there and within minutes I have an overwhelming response from Sydney to Singapore, Cape Town to Calgary, Bloemfontein to Buenos Aires. All the respondents have children aged somewhere between seven months and 27 years old. And their thinking is unanimous.

A four year old is more than likely oblivious to the fact that her gorgeous little face may be appearing on a variety of social media platforms for the entire world to see.

He seems to want a certain amount of control and privacy over the social media platforms he is active on. And while he is certainly of the age to verbalise (to me) exactly how he feels about the subject, a four year old is more than likely oblivious to the fact that her gorgeous little face may be appearing on a variety of social media platforms on a daily basis for the entire world to see. Is that okay?

So I logged on to Facebook, which I tend to do once a day, and trawled through the posts in my Facebook world.

It’s after the weekend, so the page is full of photos of Sunday family lunches, sports matches, birthday parties, surfing lessons, lost teeth, playdates, pets… you name it, it’s photographed. And in those photos are children I know and those I don’t know. But I know them now. Their

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“Posting without permission is a no-no.”

Fiona Gordon Turner, Cape Town “No permission, no posting. The truth is, it will continue to happen regardless.”

Sam Sporides, Joburg “If I would not post it on the large public billboard that I drive past on my way to work, then I don’t.”

Sean Moffat, Hilton “While I do still post, I am very mindful of what I post and almost never include pics of other parents’ children.”

Lynette Lawley Day, Cape Town “I post a pic every now and again.

However, I make sure that there are no labels attached – no school name, bus number, no name on her clothing, etc. – that could identify where she is and when.”

Kathleen Daily, New York “I stopped posting pics of my children years ago as I realised it’s not cool for

the same reason I don’t like my photo to be put up without my permission. I have advised my children to be very careful as Facebook is part of your CV.” Jill Cawse, Port Elizabeth “I have become more aware of what I post after reading an article about how the things you put on the internet linger for ages – the advice was not to post anything that would embarrass my children later in life.”

Catherine Pate, Porterville “I rarely post much stuff, but would only include friends and their children if I am sure they are okay with it. The permanency of stuff that gets posted does worry me, though.”

Tania Kerr, Sydney

likewise. Remember, the same social values apply regardless of the medium.

Okay, Alex, you win. You are right. It is “100% cringe” that I share a photo of you on Facebook without asking your permission first. I will instead just save it to the screen of my smartphone to show my friends. They can then tell me to my face how much you have grown and just how much you look like me. Some of them will even tell me they like it. #cringe

great responsibility From privacy to protection to permanency, this subject certainly has many parents aware of the responsibility required to manage their own social media activity and that of their children. However, we are talking across the generations here and while many parents are familiar with social media, our children are experts across all platforms: Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, YouTube, Instagram, Pinterest, Tumblr and more. Many children are using these platforms despite being under the legal age (13 years old in most cases).

And because many have access to these platforms via cellphones and other handheld devices, we do not have easy access to what our children and their friends are actually posting.

It is therefore critical that our children learn from an early age the responsible behaviour required when using social media. What is okay to post and what isn’t? What are the consequences of irresponsible posting? What goes online stays online – for years to come. Now that’s a difficult concept to grasp for a child who can’t think further than his next rugby game.

Social media is an exciting space that brings many of us lots of joy. Use it responsibly. Teach your children to do

how to stay one step ahead of your child’s social media activity • Familiarise yourself with all social media platforms.

• If your child is underage, do not sign them up. Age restrictions are there for a reason.

• Set the rules – make a set time of the day for social media interaction and be present when they are online.

• Encourage them to use the computer in a visible area of the house.

• Talk to your children about correct social media behaviour – its dangers and consequences.

• Show them the correct way to interact on social media. Don’t do or say anything on social media that you wouldn’t do or say to someone face-to-face.

• Establish privacy settings.

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lex likes to give the impression that he is parentless, that his existence in the world is miraculous. “It’s just cringe, Mom.” That was my 14 year old’s response when he realised I had tagged him in a photo on Facebook. I could always load a few gory pics of the C-section to prove that I’m his mother, but I just wouldn’t do that to him (or me, for that matter). Until that time in the relatively near future (I hope) that he begins to acknowledge my existence again, I will not post any photographs of him on any social media platform without asking him first.

He seems not to have an issue at all, however, when his 22-year-old cousin posts a photo of the two of them fishing. Or when a school mate’s dad has photographed and posted him looking ever-so-buff on the rugby field.

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happy

LUCILLE KEMP finds that there really is a magic formula for happiness.

resilience This is the ability to come through despite challenging circumstances; children who learn to cope with life’s setbacks and disappointments have a head start for happiness. With the proper support, disappointment can strengthen rather than weaken the child, say Weil and Marden.

Focus on preparing your child for the bumps in the road as opposed to constantly trying to clear the way for them.

optimism If you find that your child reflects a somewhat halfempty approach to life, know that, according to Weil and Marden, optimism can be taught.

Focus on challenging the view that nothing can be done about a problem by countering “I can’t” with “what’s stopping you?” Recall your child’s past successes and praise their efforts, not just their triumphs.

thankfulness Taking things for granted is the enemy of happiness.

Weil and Marden say that children who feel entitled are less content than those who have an attitude of thankfulness.

Focus on teaching your child to make declarations, such as saying three things they are grateful for at bedtime or writing down five things they are thankful for every Sunday.

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knowing what makes you smile

Apart from the basic universal human needs – for food, shelter, security and love – individual needs, that we want met, develop.

Focus on allowing your children the freedom to explore and try different activities to discover what brings them enjoyment, say Weil and Marden. When they have this focus they will be able to play to their strengths, which will bring them an overall sense of joy.

connectedness According to Weil and Marden, “Happy children have secure and loving relationships with their parents, get on with other children and have at least one good friend.” These relationships deepen and are strengthened through communication.

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invite friends over and create opportunities for laughter, playfulness and show appreciation for all family members’ sense of humour, add Weil and Marden.

guidance Happy children know that they are loved and that their parents are in charge. Children tend to follow their desires the minute they arise, so you will have to teach them patience and delayed gratification – that there are many things out there that they have to wait for before they can fully enjoy them.

Focus on teaching them that it is possible to wait for things, however annoying the wait. Teaching them impulse control is crucial as there will be many times life calls for them to stop and think before acting.

doing something well We all get joy from deeds well done, children included, whether it is completing a difficult jigsaw puzzle or building a tower of bricks. Psychologist Steve Biddulph, author of Raising Boys, emphasises this by saying that a child should be able to cook a family meal by the age of 11.

Focus on allowing them to get stuck in and get creative.

Provide opportunities to learn new skills and master something appropriate to their age and ability.

realness Don’t get your family trapped in the happiness doctrine – you can’t expect to have fun all the time. Of this, the famed psychotherapist Carl Jung once said, “Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness and the word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning were it not balanced by sadness.”

Focus on letting your child know that you accept their feelings, whether joyful or painful, say Weil and Marden.

Acceptance and understanding are invaluable to your child.

connecting with nature From climbing trees to flying kites, there is magic in discovering the outdoors.

Focus on showing them that there is a whole world out there. Share with your child the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in.

morality and spirituality A deeper happiness arises when people live in tune with their values and morals. Giving your children a moral dimension can give their lives deeper purpose.

Focus on having rituals like lighting candles for birthdays or examining the intricate detail of flowers in the garden or quietly gazing at the stars together, which, say Weil and Marden, will fill your child with the wonder of existence.

finding the joy in the daily grind • L isten to music while at home together, giving each family member a chance to choose the tunes.

• Get sunshine and exercise every day.

• Break from routine, such as taking a different route to school.

• Make more time for loved ones not in your immediate family.

• Take daily family walks with the dogs before school or before dinner.

• Eat dinner outside at least once a week.

• Wake up a little earlier so you have more time to better enjoy the morning routine and the space you share with your dearest people.

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think life starts to get better for most of us when we realise that quality of life does not centre wholly on achieving the dream of a nice home, job title or goal weight… That it’s about achieving happiness. And we can be happy without said home, job title, goal weight…

As parents, achieving happiness is not only a skill that we must learn for ourselves in order to keep moving forward, it’s a responsibility that we have to our children because, in their growing years, they’re looking to us to set the tone for their lives.

Glenda Weil and Doro Marden, co-authors of Raise Happy Children, say a large part of a parent’s job is to “delve into the conditions for creating the fertile ground in which happiness can flourish – not the happiness that appears in holiday brochures where the sun is always shining and everyone is smiling, but more where the happiness endures through the ups and downs of real family life.”

As the saying by Norman MacEwan goes, happiness lies not so much in having but in sharing – children can be taught the joy of giving to others.

Focus on encouraging them to pick flowers for granny.

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label?

Even the best-behaved children can display challenging behaviour, at times, but what if your child has been labelled a “problem child”? SAMANTHA PAGE investigates how you can deal positively with behavioural difficulties.

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he boy who has climbed up the umpire’s chair at the actioncricket party grins broadly, clearly dismissing the possibility of punishment as his mother sternly tells him to get down. Instead he basks in the satisfaction of having made it through the gauntlet of parents, officials and fellow 10-year-old partygoers. “Okay, no PlayStation for a week,” his mom counters firmly, but I see her resolve waning as the boy crosses his legs defiantly and settles into his lookout.

imprison him; we give him the feeling of a life sentence. When we diagnose children with anxiety, impulsiveness or attention deficiency, we’ve given them a formal ‘condition’, which offers glum prospects.

(And indeed, we’ve provided a great excuse to sidestep any efforts at improvement – ‘I can’t possibly sit through class because I have ADHD’.) In fact, each of the aforementioned ‘conditions’ is nothing but a behaviour. We choose behaviours. And we can choose to adopt different behaviours.”

When we label a child we imprison him;

As the other parents stare wide-eyed, the mom apologises profusely and offers an explanation, “He has ADHD and was recently diagnosed with oppositional defiance disorder (ODD), so we’re still working out the kinks in social settings.” A collective nod spreads through the crowd as if these labels explain everything and, as more moms and dads chime in, attention shifts away from the boy, who is now using his juice straw and wrapper as a peashooter from his perch, to the myriad disorders represented in the children here today.

While ADHD is all too common these days, children are also being diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder, ODD and generalised anxiety disorder. Although one can completely understand the need for a formal diagnosis so that parents can access a broader range of resources, one wonders whether, in some instances, these labels do more harm than good.

supporting change “Labels are loaded,” says psychotherapist Lisa Finlay. “When we label a child we

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But what if your child’s teachers have identified him or her as a “problem child”? What if you’ve become increasingly concerned by their behaviour? What if you’ve had one too many combative standoffs in public or social settings?

“My son used to have hectic temper tantrums and I could see in his eyes that he was totally out of it,” says Denise Fry, mother of Liam (11). “The only way I could calm him was to hold him tightly, but at times this could take up to an hour. Also, he was not achieving the required developmental milestones, which was when my husband and I decided we needed a formal assessment. An educational psychologist diagnosed Liam with ADHD and pervasive development disorder and while I was grief-stricken at first, the tiger mom in me quickly took over, and I started to focus on getting my child the help he needed. I decided that I also needed support, so I attended a parental guidance class once a week to learn how to play to Liam’s strengths and work towards understanding magazine joburg

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we give him the feeling of a life sentence.

There’s a delicate balance between thinking every tantrum is a sign of a disorder and thinking it’s just a phase when assessing a child’s behaviour. him better. It’s been a long and difficult journey, but Liam is flourishing at a private school for children with special needs following the mainstream educational curriculum. It has helped immensely that his teachers are supportive, encouraging and compassionate.”

shaping behaviour There’s a delicate balance between thinking every tantrum is a sign of a disorder and thinking it’s just a phase when assessing a child’s behaviour, which is why a formal assessment can be hugely beneficial to parents, teachers and the child in question.

“A child acting out (biting, sulking, spitting, hitting) could be going through a phase – for example, when there’s a new baby in the home or parents are going through a divorce. The teenage years also bring behavioural problems due to surging hormones or peer pressure,” says Gauteng-based educational psychologist Leila Abdool Gafoor.

“However, professional help should be sought when parents have tried all strategies and failed to either establish what is causing the undesired behaviour or to succeed in changing it. Often children need an unbiased outsider to look into their lives and provide guidance and support in a manner that a family member cannot. Educational psychologists provide this assistance while encouraging positive growth and development,” adds Gafoor. magazine joburg

Often children with challenging behaviour are written off and banished to the back of the class or playground, but their parents, educators and mentors need to calmly coach them through the struggle and difficulty, instead of taking away that learning moment.

“My son, Simphiwe* (9), was diagnosed with ADHD in July last year. While it was a relief to finally have a diagnosis, which explained his lack of focus and inability to reach his full academic potential, my husband and I refused to use any labels.

Instead, we used mantras to empower him,” says his mom, Sindi*. “For example, ‘If you believe, you can achieve.’ ‘Be brave.

Be brilliant. Be you.’ ‘Try new things.’

“We believe that if we brand Simphiwe as anxious, he won’t take risks. If we allow him to use the ADHD label, we stop expecting him to behave and perhaps he would carry the label with him his whole life. Instead, we focus on his strengths, put forward compromises that produce win-win outcomes, and refuse to show up to every confrontation to which we are invited. Now, instead of being afraid of failure, he is more comfortable with trying and has excelled beyond expectation at school.”

It’s this focus on the positive as a support to parents, and self-regulation in children without undermining their confidence and individuality, which Joe Newman focuses on in Raising Lions: The Art of Compassionate Discipline. Forty years ago, the author was the April 2015

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quintessential “problem child”. In 1970, when he was diagnosed with ADHD and put on Ritalin, his prospects seemed limited, but today he trains and consults with parents, teachers and school administrators to raise and teach healthy, respectful children.

“One of the keys to success with strong-willed children is that the boundaries and expectations must be the same for children at home, in childcare and school environments. Everyone involved with teaching and working with the child must be on the same page,” he says.

Newman also challenges parents and teachers to take the time to understand the differences of children with atypical behaviour and work to accept them as they are, even while trying to shape their behaviour so they can thrive at home, school or in social settings.

And just how does one achieve this?

One way is setting up what Newman calls “areas of choice”. Giving children choice is empowering but they have to be responsible for their choices. For example, if you’ve given a choice between

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watching a TV programme or playing a computer game and the child chooses the game, he cannot lament the fact that he missed his favourite TV show, as it was his choice.

Another theme in Raising Lions is “Meet the Hand”, which deals with setting boundaries. “You state your need or set your boundary, but there is no yelling, no judgment and no shame. This recognises the child’s autonomy and empowers him, yet still aims to shape his or her behaviour,” explains Newman.

Every parent knows that some children are harder to handle than others, but happy, confident, caring children grow up in an atmosphere of flexibility and trust, supported by empathetic and realistic parents who are able to build on their child’s strengths and see challenging behaviour as an opportunity for growth, learning and living. And while you may not be able to always control your child, you can control your reaction to his behaviour. Remember, change always begins with choice. *Names have been changed.

behavioural problems you shouldn’t ignore 1 Aggressive behaviour If your child punches a playmate, you’ll step in, but other seemingly less-aggressive behaviour, such as biting or shoving, shouldn’t be ignored either. “If you don’t intervene, rough behaviour can become an entrenched habit. Plus, it sends a message that hurting people is acceptable,” says Cape Town-based educational psychologist Lisa Venter.

2 Constant interruptions It’s common for children to be so anxious to share something they interrupt you when you’re talking to someone else, but allowing children to constantly butt in doesn’t teach them to be considerate or patient. “As a result, she’ll think that she’s entitled to other people’s attention and won’t be able to deal with frustration,” says psychologist Jerry Wyckoff.

3 Tuning you out Having to tell your child three or four times to do something they don’t really want to sends the message that what you’re saying is unimportant and they are really in control. “I realised that my son ignoring me was a power play and if I allowed it to continue, he would entirely disregard my authority, so I’d walk over to him, look him in the eye and deliver my request in a fun but firm way,” says Sindi.

4 Bending the truth You need to confront dishonesty of any kind immediately but make sure you set rules. “It’s important that your child feels safe confiding in you, that you stay true to your word and that no matter what, your child feels loved even if their actions aren’t,” says Abdool Gafoor.

5 Displaying disrespect Eye-rolling, sharp retorts and sarcasm may start as early as preschool. “Teach and model suitable behaviour and help your child to appropriately express themselves in different situations. It’s also important to provide consistent consequences for unacceptable behaviour,” suggests Venter.

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crucial With the rise in popularity of digital media, cursive writing PHOTOGRAPHS: BRESCIA HOUSE SCHOOL / SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

is going the way of the typewriter. But at what cost?

MARINA ZIETSMAN finds out why longhand is still important for our children’s educational development.

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n June last year, a concerned mother in the US phoned her Tennessee state representative and informed her that her son’s junior high school history teacher wrote homework assignments on the blackboard in cursive, which her son could not read. It wasn’t the teenager’s fault. Teaching cursive writing was not compulsory at the time, but this is about to change in a number of US states.

Some people may argue that cursive writing is an ancient skill, especially seeing that children are often introduced to communicating via keyboards from preschool age. But there are others who feel that cursive still has its place. Writing in Psychology Today William Klemm, a professor of neuroscience, says: “Scientists are discovering that

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learning cursive is an important tool for cognitive development, particularly in training the brain to learn ‘functional specialisation’ (the capacity for optimal efficiency). Brain imaging studies show that cursive activates areas of the brain that do not participate in keyboarding.”

Bunty McDougall is a Cape Town-based occupational therapist who has worked in the field of learning difficulties for 25 years. McDougall is also qualified in sensory integration (SI) and neuro-developmental therapy and currently develops resources for handwriting skills. “The functional specialisation of the brain is the ability of many parts of the brain to work together. It also activates the working memory centres of the brain,” she explains.

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how the brain works Virginia Berninger, a psychologist at the University of Washington, conducted a study of children in Grades 2 to 5. This research demonstrated that printing, cursive writing and typing on a keyboard are all associated with distinct, separate brain patterns. Berninger found that the children who wrote by hand consistently produced more words and ideas than those using a keyboard. She also established that the children with better handwriting showed greater activation in areas associated with the working memory.

In another study, Karin James, a psychologist at Indiana University, studied children who had not yet learnt to read or write a letter or a shape. The children were asked to copy the shape or letter they saw on an index card in one of three ways: draw it on a blank sheet, trace the image on a dotted line or type it on a computer. Afterwards the children were placed in a brain scanner and shown the same image. The results proved that the way in which the children duplicated the word or shape was profoundly different.

When using their freehand to draw a letter, they exhibited increased activity in three areas of the brain that are activated in adults when they read and write. In comparison, the other two methods showed a much weaker effect. James also observed children writing letters and others just watching them doing the activity. She found that by physically writing the letter the brain’s pathways were engaged, which assists the learning benefits of handwriting.

We need to be aware of how critical handwriting is to learning. It is not just a communication tool – it’s a learning tool.

McDougall says functional MRIs show us which parts of the brain are active during certain tasks. “It has shown that the sequential finger movements used when children are writing by hand activate the memory centres in the brain,” she says. “This is why writing things down helps us to remember them.” McDougall says these centres are not activated when keyboarding – or rather, the act of pressing down a key on a keyboard does not activate the memory centres in the same way. “This does not mean keyboarding does not have a place in education today,” says McDougall, “but we need to be aware of how critical handwriting is to learning. It is not just a communication tool – it’s a learning tool.”

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write to read Current research has also shown a definite link between fine motor skill development (handwriting is a fine motor skill) in preschool and the reading and maths abilities of learners in Grade 2. McDougall says this is by no means based on one isolated study, but has been replicated to substantiate the link. “We need to focus on children’s fine motor skills development as the foundation for writing (composition) as well as reading,” she says. “The research done also shows that handwriting sets up the brain for learning to read.” Learning handwriting, says McDougall, is the precursor to composition, which is probably one of the greatest goals we want to achieve in school, and we need to know how to efficiently establish the handwriting foundations for this critical skill.

According to the American Psychological Association, first graders who learnt to write cursive received higher scores in reading words and in spelling than a comparable group who learnt to write in manuscript (unjoined letters). One possible explanation is the continuity of movement in cursive, whereas in manuscript writing attention is given to single letters. The continuous line in writing a word provides kinaesthetic feedback about the shape of the words as a whole, which is absent in manuscript writing.

fine tuning McDougall adds that children’s fine motor skills are deteriorating and this has escalated exponentially with the excessive use of the iPad. “Swiping and pressing does not develop the fine motor hand and the supporting muscles for handwriting,” says McDougall. “The foundational aspects for handwriting need to be introduced to children in a structured manner at preschool level. This means the development of the foundational muscles and movement patterns for pencil control and handwriting. This should be done in conjunction with the graded introduction and development of other fine motor skills required for Grade 1, such as cutting, folding, manipulating and letter formation.”

As the American tycoon, author and engineer Lee Iacocca once said, “The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen.”

fun exercises Fun activities to help preschoolers develop fine motor skills: Hiding the toys You will need playdough and some small plastic animals. Hide the animals in the playdough. Your child must then pull off the dough to find the animal inside. To increase the challenge, roll some balls with no animals hiding in them.

Stamping Place a facecloth or absorbent cloth in a tray. Saturate the cloth with paint and use as a stamp pad. You can stamp all sorts of objects: for example, use a toy car to drive across the pad and then across a sheet of paper. You can also use plastic shapes to make an imprint and make stamps from stacking cups, leaves, shapes cut from potatoes and sponges and shapes from shape sorters. Remember to use a big piece of paper and encourage your child to use all of it.

Gluing Make your own glue by mixing half a cup of flour and three-quarters of a cup of cold water into a thin paste. Boil the mixture for a few minutes over a slow heat until thick. Stir constantly. Thin with cold water and let the mixture cool.

Store in an airtight container. You can start by making a collage. Cut out pictures from old cards, magazines or newspapers. Add bits of fabric, buttons or feathers to your picture collage.

Courtesy of Play Learn Know by Dr Melodie de Jager and Liz Victor (Metz Press)

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Many parents use TV as a babysitter at times, but how does watching hours of cartoons affect a child’s

artoons can benefit children when they’re age-appropriate, support their developmental progress, aid in their cognitive, moral and social development, and encourage fantasy life, says KZN-based clinical psychologist Prof Lourens Schlebusch. “But when cartoons are used as babysitters, a child’s social interactions are with the fictitious characters in these shows. So many studies correlate aggressive behaviour with violence in cartoons as well as a desensitization to the suffering of others. It can cloud a child’s moral development and teach them negative models for social interaction,” he says.

Schlebusch suggests parents consider the nature of the shows, along with the amount of exposure children have to them, given their level of cognitive maturation, and ask: “What message does this show give my child?”

Senior vice president and country manager for The Walt Disney Company Africa, Christine Service, explains that Disney

creates their Disney Junior shows, targeting two to seven year olds, by working closely with parents and caregivers, utilising focus group research and an advisory board comprised of experts in the field of transmedia, storytelling, early education, language development, diversity, digital trends and literacy. All this guides Disney Junior’s learning and development curriculum. Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, for example, introduces early mathematical skills and problem-solving, while Sofia the First gives girls a self-assured, independent and adventurous role model.

Nickelodeon brand head Tasania Parsadh says animators can take years to create a show. They consider the target age group, get input from psychologists on age-appropriate messages and try to support preschool curriculums. For example, Bubble Guppies is designed to support school readiness and develop emotional skills.

Dora the Explorer engages children in problem- and puzzle-solving and appreciation of difference and independence.

Being exposed to hours of violent cartoons can subliminally condition children that violence is an acceptable way to resolve conflict.

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Patricia Hidalgo, content and creative chief officer for Turner Broadcasting EMEA, says that they take great care and pride developing shows for top children’s entertainment channels such as Cartoon Network and Boomerang.

Gauteng-based play therapist, Dr Sheri Davimes, says parents should use content as well as age-appropriateness to discern what their children watch. She says, “A show such as Barney may annoy parents, but it holds appropriate lessons for children, teaching them vital social skills such as sharing, taking turns and kindness. Cartoons such as Charlie and Lola or Handy Manny do the same.”

Davimes warns, however, that being exposed to hours of violent cartoons can subliminally condition children that violence is an acceptable way to resolve conflict or can help them get what they want. She says, “In real life it’s not funny to prank, hurt, tease and bully.”

Principal of Joburg-based Kairos School of Inquiry, Marc Loon says, “Cartoons are such an easy way to babysit a child that parents have become scared of their children saying, ‘I’m bored.’ This statement is actually a healthy opportunity for children to respond to an innate stimulus, to take initiative and discover their own creative, industrious, imaginative and even active potential.” When screen time begins to replace traditional forms of necessary functions such as childcare, imaginative play and social interaction, Loon cautions that cognitive problems are inevitable. These include: • the ordinary effort required to attend to a difficult activity, such as an academic task in the classroom, is suppressed because cartoons may train children to be passive; • the ordinary initiative required in imaginative play and social interaction in the child’s home environment is also suppressed; • attention problems can be expected when teachers inevitably can’t match the same level of exciting entertainment as a fast-paced cartoon programme;

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• children tend to become bored quickly and don’t know how to entertain themselves; • the suppression of physical movement during hours of TV watching will often “leak” out during classroom time or homework time.

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savvy parents • A merican Academy of Paediatrics recommends no TV for children under two and thereafter not more than two hours daily.

• Bedrooms should be TV- and computer-free zones.

• Mealtimes should not include TV. • Eye specialists recommend children sit at least 1,5 metres away from the screen and not in a dark room.

• Stick to age-appropriate shows, especially when older siblings are controlling the remote.

• Monitor what they watch and discuss the content if they’re exposed to shows they’re not emotionally mature enough to process.

• Just because others are watching certain programmes, doesn’t mean your child has to.

• Encourage more outdoor play to develop muscle tone, posture, concentration and sleep.

• Substitute TV viewing for family time. Go on a picnic, ride bikes or build Lego.

Professor of paediatrics and director at the Centre for Child Health, Behaviour and Development in Seattle, Dr Dimitri Christakis agrees. In his popular TEDtalk he discusses his research findings in the field: “Prolonged exposure to this rapid image change during this critical window of brain development can precondition the mind to expect high levels of input that can lead to inattention later in life.” His research found that the more TV children watched before the age of three, the more likely they were to have attention problems at school age. Each additional hour they watched increased their chances by 10%. Educational programmes did not increase the risk of developing attentional problems, but violent cartoons increased it by 100%. Conversely, each hour of cognitive stimulation children received, such as being read to, reduced their chances of developing attention problems by about 30%.

Cape Town-based child and family therapist Lara Stern adds, “Fast-paced cartoons can lead to sleep disturbances and night terrors. The bright lights affect melatonin levels and can overstimulate instead of regulate and calm children before bed.” She says studies found that children who watched age-appropriate cartoons have more peaceful sleep. Stern suggests we consider what our children would be doing if they weren’t on the couch watching cartoons. Concerns around fine and gross motor skills would naturally be improved and many other areas of a child’s development would also benefit.

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getaway

no visa required South Africans can decide at the drop of a hat to visit many countries around the world without the hassle of applying for a visa. LUCILLE KEMP brings you some choice destinations.

africa zambia

The flight Fours hours and the country is one hour ahead Maximum length of stay Thirty days Must-see Maasai Mara National Reserve; Mombasa; The Great Rift Valley and Mount Kenya Family-friendly Family safaris, hot air balloon flights, guided bush walks led by red-robed Maasai warriors and hand-feeding giraffe at the well-known Giraffe Manor Vaccinations Compulsory: yellow fever, if coming from or stopping over in an endemic area. Recommended: hepatitis A, tetanus, typhoid, cholera and meningitis

The flight Two hours Maximum length of stay Unlimited Must-see Victoria Falls; Kafue National Park and the Zambezi River source Family-friendly The Luangwa River Cruise;

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Saturday Dutch Market in the Kabulonga area of Lusaka; in November book a tour guide to see the wildebeest migration Vaccinations Compulsory: none.

Recommended: hepatitis A, tetanus and meningitis

• Take antimalarial medication where necessary • Eat and drink safely • Prevent bug bites • Keep away from animals • Reduce your exposure to germs • Avoid sharing body fluids • Avoid non-sterile medical or cosmetic equipment • Ask your doctor what vaccines and medicines you need based on where you are going, how long you are staying and what you will be doing.

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health advice

australia fiji

asia maldives The flight Seven hours and the country is three hours ahead Maximum length of stay Thirty days Must-see The HP Reef and the Banana Reef; Alimatha Island; Manta Point and the Hukuru Miskiiy (Old Friday Mosque)

Family-friendly The numerous resorts and the safe shallow lagoons with brightlycoloured fish Vaccinations Compulsory: yellow fever, if coming from or stopping over in an endemic area. Recommended: hepatitis A and typhoid

sri lanka The flight Nine hours and the country is three hours ahead Maximum length of stay Thirty days Must-see The tea plantations; Batticaloa and the east coast; The Temple of the Sacred Tooth Relic; Yala National Park; Unawatuna and south coast beaches; Adam’s Peak night pilgrimage; the ancient ruins of Polonnaruwa and the Sigiriya Rock Family-friendly Pinnawala Elephant Orphanage; The Cultural Triangle and watch a Kandyan dance performance Vaccinations Compulsory: yellow fever if coming from or stopping over in an endemic area. Recommended: hepatitis A, tetanus and polio

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The flight Eighteen hours and the country is 11 hours ahead Maximum length of stay Six months as a tourist Must-see Experience Fiji’s largest isle, Vitu Levu; visit the Nadi region’s open-air souvenir market and pick up traditional Fijian crafts; hike the Taveuni Falls; fly to the Mamanuca islands and visit Monuriki, the island Tom Hanks made famous in Cast Away; see fire-walking on Beqa Island Family-friendly Bouma Falls; boat trip up the Navua River Vaccinations Compulsory: yellow fever, if coming from or stopping over in an endemic area. Recommended: hepatitis A, tetanus, typhoid and polio

new zealand The flight Fifteen hours and the country is 11 hours ahead Maximum length of stay Three months Must-see Milford Sound; guided walk to the Fox Glacier; kayak through The Bay of Islands Family-friendly Rotorua for its Maori culture and geothermal phenomena such as geysers, boiling mud pools and huge volcanic craters; explore hiking and mountain biking, leisure and wildlife parks, scenic flights, lake and river activities Vaccinations None

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north america

south america

bahamas

costa rica

The flight Sixteen hours and the country is seven hours behind Maximum length of stay Your passport must be valid for at least six months from date of entry Must-see Sandy Toes and Rose Island, which offers a pristine all-day inclusive private island experience Family-friendly Clifton Heritage National Land and Sea Park; Ardastra Gardens, Zoo and Conservation Centre Vaccinations Compulsory: yellow fever if coming from or stopping over in an endemic area. Recommended: polio, tetanus, hepatitis A and typhoid

The flight Fifteen hours and the country is eight hours behind Maximum length of stay Thirty days Must-see Monteverde for cloud forest and rainforest exploration; Manuel Antonio beach; Arenal Volcano and Corcovado National Park for its mountains, hot springs and waterfalls – National Geographic has called it the most biologically intense place on Earth in terms of biodiversity. There are also cultural festival celebrations at various times of the year.

Family-friendly Zip-lining through Monteverde’s forest canopy; night-time turtle nesting at Refugio Nacional de Fauna Silvestre Ostional; learning to surf at Mal País and Santa Teresa; white-water rafting on the Río Reventazón or Río Pacuare and exploring the jungle rivers of Tortuguero Vaccinations None

jamaica The flight Fifteen hours and the country is seven hours behind Maximum length of stay Ninety days Must-see Dunn’s River Falls; Dolphin Cove; Montego Bay; Bob Marley Museum; Martha Brae River; Green Grotto Caves and Lime Cay Family-friendly Chukka River tubing safari; horse-back ride and swim in Sandy Bay; family catamaran cruises that include snorkelling; a 120-foot waterslide and giant water trampolines Vaccinations Compulsory: yellow fever, if coming from or stopping over in an endemic area. Recommended: hepatitis A, tetanus, typhoid and polio

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argentina The flight Ten hours and the country is five hours behind Maximum length of stay Unlimited Must-see Iguazu Falls and the Perito Moreno Glacier up close via excellent and safe catwalk systems; a town off the beaten track; El Chalten; the Mendoza wine province; whale-watching in the Golfo Nuevo; seeing the penguin colony at Punt a Tombo national protected area and the Peninsula Valdes Wildlife Sanctuary for birds and marine species Family-friendly Horse-riding in the Pampas; Parque de la Costa amusement park; Miramar Beach; Bioparque Temaiken Nature Reserve and Buenos Aires Zoo Vaccinations None

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delicious These unfussy recipes from PHILLIPPA CHEIFITZ’s Lazy Days use local produce in easy, mouthwatering dishes that will not disappoint.

marinated mushroom and mozzarella sandwiches serves 4

grilled whole eggplants with bruschetta serves 6

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ingredients • 250g portabellini mushrooms, cleaned and sliced • 200g soft mozzarella ball, torn into shreds • basil leaves for the marinade, mix together • ½ cup olive oil • juice of 1 large lemon • 1 clove garlic • crushed sea salt and milled black pepper

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method Mix the mushrooms and mozzarella with the marinade. Leave for a few hours or overnight in the fridge. Use as a sandwich filling together with the basil leaves.

ingredients • 6 medium eggplants (or allow 1 per person) • olive oil • fresh lemon juice • sea salt and milled black pepper for the bruschetta • ciabatta loaf, sliced • olive oil • 1 head garlic, halved

method Prick the eggplants and grill on the braai until charred outside and meltingly soft inside. To make the bruschetta, brush the sliced bread with olive oil, then toast over the coals. Remove and smear with the halved head of garlic.

To serve the eggplant, slash a cross on top of each one, squash the sides to open and flavour with olive oil, lemon juice and seasoning.

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braaied fish steaks with lemon and basil dressing serves 4 ingredients • 4 fish steaks, about 750g • sea salt and milled black pepper • olive oil for the dressing, blend together • cup olive oil • ¼ cup fresh lemon juice • handful of basil leaves • grated zest of 1 lemon • sea salt and milled black pepper for serving • hot steamed potato slices • shredded crispy lettuce method Season and oil the fish.

Grill over the coals until starting to char but still moist inside. Immediately place on a pile of potato slices and lettuce, drench with dressing and serve.

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baked peaches with raspberries serves 6 ingredients • 6 firm ripe dessert peaches • ¾ cup sweet wine for serving • fresh raspberries • icing sugar • fresh mint • vanilla ice cream or cream (optional)

method Halve the peaches and remove the stones. Place in a baking dish. Pour over the wine and bake at 190°C for 15 minutes or until tender. Serve chilled, filled with raspberries, sprinkled with icing sugar and garnished with mint.

If you like, serve with vanilla ice cream or cream.

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rosemary bread serves 8 This is one of my favourite bread recipes.

If you use instant dried yeast, there’s no need to prove, simply mix with the flour.

You can also bake it in two square pans, or stretch it to fit a large shallow baking pan to make a flat bread. ingredients • 2 teaspoons dried yeast

about the book

• 1 teaspoon sugar • about 1 –1½ cups warm water • 3 cups white bread flour • 1 teaspoon salt • 4 tablespoons olive oil • sprigs of fresh rosemary • coarse sea salt • milled black pepper method Dissolve the yeast and sugar in ½ cup of warm water. Leave for about 10 minutes or until frothy. Sift the flour and

roll the ball of dough around in it. Seal

so that it is about 1cm thick. Press

salt into a bowl. Stir in the dissolved

the bowl with plastic film and leave to

in rosemary and sprinkle with coarse

yeast, the rest of the water and 3

rise in a warm kitchen until doubled

salt and pepper. Dimple with the back

tablespoons of the olive oil to make a

in size (about 1½ hours). Punch down

of a wooden spoon or poke with your

soft dough. Turn onto a well-floured

and knead lightly. Rest for about 5

fingertips. Drizzle over the remaining

board and knead for 10–15 minutes until

minutes. Line an oiled oblong baking

tablespoon of oil. Cover and leave to

smooth and elastic. Keep flouring your

pan (about 30cm x 23cm) with nonstick

rise again until almost doubled. Bake at

hands if necessary. Oil a large bowl and

baking paper and spread dough to fit

200°C for 30 minutes or until golden.

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Lazy Days (Quivertree Publications)

by Phillippa Cheifitz is a stunning cookbook that embraces the laidback nature of holidays on the West Coast, so typically characterised by white silky sands, hot sun and cold ocean waters. The recipes selected for this cookbook perfectly complement such long and lazy days where people can take short siestas, sunset strolls and enjoy picnics or braais, afternoon teas and sundowners. The food is simple and delicious, showing off the local best. The cookbook has wonderful variety, including food for picnics, light lunches, braais and long lazy dinners, with the accent on family meals. Lazy Days is available at good bookstores for R345.

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eat out

specials Dining at any of these restaurants can save you some money and will be a real treat for the family. Compiled by SIMONE JEFFERY balata restaurant Overlooking the Randpark Golf Course, this stylish restaurant serves breakfast, lunch and dinner. They offer a great spread for the Sunday lunch buffet with dishes changing every week. There is an outdoor area, free Wi-Fi, live entertainment and during the winter months there are fireplaces to keep you warm.

Special offer The Sunday lunch buffet costs R175 per person and children up to six years old eat free.

Opening times Breakfast 6:30am–10:30am, lunch 12:30pm–2:30pm, dinner 6:30pm–10:30pm daily Location The Fairway Hotel, Setperk St, Randburg Contact 011 478 8013, banqueting3@thefairway.co.za or visit thefairway.co.za

bambanani This is a contemporary Mediterranean and tapas restaurant serving breakfast, lunch and dinner. There is a well-equipped play area catering to children from six months to 12 years old with attentive childminders, a three-storey climbing frame and a games room. The tables look out onto the play area so you can keep an eye on your children. They offer free Wi-Fi and numerous newspapers and magazines.

Special offer From 6pm until close on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, for each dining adult ordering a main meal you will receive a free children’s meal (excluding the children’s ribs and chips).

Opening times 9am–8pm Tuesday–Friday, 8am–8pm Saturday, Sunday and public holidays Location 85 4th Ave, Melville Contact 011 482 2900, info@bambanani.biz or visit bambanani.biz

chief’s boma An African-themed restaurant with a large outdoor terrace overlooking a small dam and a jungle gym (they have a jumping castle on weekends). The restaurant serves a buffet lunch and dinner daily with live music provided by a marimba band in the evenings.

Special offer Children under five years old eat free at the buffet, which consists of a salad bar, curries and stews, a wide variety of meat dishes (including venison and their signature oxtail), and desserts. The buffet costs R205 per person, children six to 12 years old R100, children under five free Monday–Friday, and R165 per person, children six to 12 years old R82,50, children under five free, Saturday and Sunday.

Opening times Lunch 12pm–3:30pm, dinner 6pm–10:30pm Location Indaba Hotel and Conference Centre, William Nicol Dr, Fourways Contact 011 840 6600, restaurant@indabahotel.co.za or visit chiefsboma.co.za

This Italian-style eatery caters for the whole family, serving up generous portions of food made from fresh ingredients. Focusing on convenience and health, you can also order wheat- and gluten-free pizza bases. Children are also top priority, and get a free lucky packet with every children’s meal ordered, while the Dough-it-Yourself pizza tray is designed to let them create their own pizzas, right at the table.

Special offer “Children eat free on Sundays” allows children 12 years old and younger to order their choice of any pizza or pasta from the children’s menu. On Tuesdays you can buy one, get one free when ordering any standard size pizza or pasta. Breakfast specials are only R24,90 each and include the unique Breakfast-on-Pizza or a plated Grilled Supremo Breakfast. See the website for the full T&Cs for specials.

Opening times Open for breakfast, lunch and dinner; time varies depending on branch Location There are Panarottis branches located throughout South Africa and internationally Contact 086 000 7262 or visit panarottis.co.za

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panettone café This is a relaxed restaurant serving family favourites such as burgers, pasta and woodfired pizza. Children can get creative and make their own pizzas and there is an outdoor play area with childminders on hand.

Special offer Every Tuesday and Wednesday, for every dining adult you get one children’s meal free – for children under 12 years old, no sharing.

Opening times 10am–10pm Tuesday–Friday, 8am–10pm Saturday, 8am–5pm Sunday Location Zoo Lake Sports Club, cnr Cardigan Ave and Westwold Way, Parkview Contact 011 026 3506, zoo@panettone.co.za, visit panettone.co.za or Facebook: Panettone Café

primi life in randpark ridge They specialise in pasta and pizza, and also offer a variety of meat, fish and chicken dishes and free-range burgers. Wheat-free pasta is available. Children are catered for with a special Primi pods menu and can take part in dough rolling and pizza making. There is an outdoor playground suitable for young children and free Wi-Fi. Special offer Every Monday and Wednesday from 4pm until close, children 10 years old and younger can make one free pods pizza for every adult meal ordered.

Opening times 7am–11pm Monday–Saturday, 7am–4pm Sundays and public holidays Location Lifestyle Garden Centre, cnr Beyers Naudé Dr and Ysterhout Ave, Randburg Contact 011 793 3888 or visit primi-world.com

spur steak ranches Ideal for families, Spur Steak Ranches offer a variety of family-friendly services, from the play areas and the colouring-in pages that arrive at your table, to the balloons and Secret Tribe magazine that’s free in-store. Burgers and steaks are always a treat, but you’ll also find chicken, seafood and vegetarian options on the menu.

Special offer On Mondays you can take advantage of their burger special – buy one burger, get one free – available all day, eat in only. On Thursdays they offer a bottomless ribs, wings or calamari special, which is available all day (eat in only, no doggy bags). If you’re having a birthday party at Spur, the birthday child gets a free meal.

Opening times Open for breakfast, lunch and dinner; time varies depending on branch Location There are Spur branches throughout South Africa as well as 29 international outlets Contact 0860 007 787 or to find your nearest branch visit: spur.co.za

the house of ribs A popular family restaurant with an indoor and outdoor play area. They specialise in ribs and steaks, but also offer chicken, pork, seafood dishes and a children’s carvery.

Special offer After 5pm from Monday to Thursday, children under 10 years old eat free. This only applies to dishes on the children’s menu and is limited to two children per table or group.

Opening times 9am–9:30pm Monday–Saturday, 9am–6pm Sunday Location The Tower Centre, cnr North Rand Rd and Bental Rd, Boksburg Contact 011 826 3550/9, info@houseofribs.co.za or visit houseofribs.co.za

wimpy One of South Africa’s leading quick-service restaurants offers a wide range of burgers, along with breakfast and coffee.

Special offer If your child orders off the children’s menu, they get a free drink.

Opening times Varies per store Location All over South Africa Contact 011 315 3000, 0860 094 679, info@wimpy.co.za or visit wimpy.co.za magazine joburg

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books

a good

read toddlers

Darkness Slipped In

By Ella Burfoot

Spot’s Spooky Fun

By Eric Hill

(Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R140) Daisy is busy playing when Darkness slips in through her bedroom window.

But she isn’t afraid – she takes him by the hand and together they dance the night away. With darkness imagined as a friendly night-time visitor, this playful rhyming story makes a great bedtime read for toddlers from the age of three years old, and it’s perfect for reassuring children who are afraid of the dark.

(Published by Puffin Books, R92) It’s Halloween and time for some trick-ortreat fun for Spot and his friends. Helen dresses as a fairy, Tom puts on his pirate suit, and Steve transforms himself into a clown. But what should Spot dress up as? A bunny? Or how about a wizard?

This reissue of a favourite Spot board book – Spot’s Halloween – with a new cover and updated inside pages, will delight children younger than four years old.

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The Something

By Rebecca Cobb

Who’s In My Family?

By Robie H. Harris

(Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R127) Underneath the cherry tree in the garden is a small hole. Our little hero is convinced there is something in the hole. When his ball disappears down there, he can’t stop thinking about what could be hiding in it.

Is it a little mouse’s house? The lair of a hungry troll? Or maybe a dragon’s den?

Whatever it may be, he’s determined to find out. This is an imaginative adventure for children from three years old.

(Published by Walker Books, R145) This is a fun look at the many kinds of families that make up our world, for children from four years old. Join Nellie, Gus and their parents at the zoo, where they see all kinds of children and families, both animal and human. Then Nellie and Gus invite friends and relatives for a big dinner at home. The warm, humorous illustrations and friendly conversations will help young children feel that whoever is in their family, it is perfectly normal and wonderful. magazine joburg

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Stick Man Book and Floor Puzzle

By Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler Scholastic Activities: Knights, Dragons and Castles Sticker Activity Book

By Tom Knight (Published by Scholastic, R103) Children from five years old can take a trip into the world of brave knights and fierce dragons. There are lots of fun things for them to do inside the activity book, with over 200 stickers to add to complete scenes, pictures to colour and puzzles to complete. These include dot-todot scenes, spot-the-difference challenges, mazes to unravel and riddles to figure out.

(Published by Scholastic, R269) This gift box set includes rhyming fun from the creators of The Gruffalo. One morning, Stick Man goes for a jog and forgets to watch out for an excited dog.

Suddenly Stick Man becomes the stick that the dog wants to use for his favourite trick, and soon Stick Man is being used for all sorts of things: a flag mast, a cricket bat, a river game. As summer changes to winter, Stick Man is lost and frozen. How will he get home to his family tree again, where his Stick Lady love and three stick children are waiting for him?

Read this classic story then complete the big 24-piece floor puzzle.

early graders

Space Pirates: Stowaway!

By Jim Ladd

Get Into Art: Animals

By Susie Brooks

(Published by Nosy Crow, R120) The Space Pirates series for children from seven years old includes fast-paced, funny stories with gags galore. When Sam’s parents crash-land on Planet X, Sam asks his noisy neighbours for help, but they are black-hearted space pirates, only interested in treasure and singing space shanties. So Sam climbs into a barrel of alien gloop and stows away.

The three other books in the series are Stranded, Mutiny and Treasure.

(Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R109) This is a brilliant new way to inspire children from seven years old to get into art. This activity series explores a wide range of artists’ work while encouraging children to develop their own skills and techniques. Get Into Art is perfect for active young artists of all abilities. Art projects are varied, intriguing and clearly explained and will act as a springboard for plenty of artistic experiments.

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preteens and teens

for us

Homeroom Diaries

By James Patterson and Lisa Papademetriou (Published by Random House Group, R189) Margaret “Cuckoo” Clarke recently had a brief stay in a mental institution following an emotional breakdown, but she’s turning over a new leaf with her “Happiness Project”. She’s determined to beat down the bad vibes of the haters, the terror teachers, and all of the trials and tribulations of high school by writing and drawing in her diary. And when life gets really tough, she works through her own moments of uncertainty through imaginary conversations with her favourite literary characters. This is a very funny read from the number one bestselling author for children from 12 years old.

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Gladiator: Son of Spartacus

By Simon Scarrow (Published by Penguin Books, R119) Free from slavery, Marcus is determined to find and save his kidnapped mother.

Meanwhile, his master, Julius Caesar, wants Marcus to help destroy the bands of rebel slaves and their leader Brixus, who plans to unite a slave army and resurrect the cause of Spartacus. But Marcus and Brixus are old allies who share a lifethreatening secret. Now Marcus must choose between friend and master. Neither side will surrender. Bloodshed is certain.

This is the third book in the epic series for children from nine years old.

When You Dance With the Crocodile

By E. Müller (Published by Wordweaver, R228) “Continue if you dare” flashes across the computer screen as Helena’s father tests out a new computer game on her. The game is said to be extremely dangerous and Helena is warned not to touch it when her father has to leave the house. But she is cross with him for leaving her alone and in defiance goes back to the game. She clicks on a video showing a girl in trouble and, unable to resist the urge to help her, tumbles back in time to a Southern Africa beset by slave traders, wild animals, hostile inhabitants and runaway criminals. This is a gripping and humorous page-turner that will appeal to boys and girls 10 to 13 years old.

A Song for Issy Bradley

By Carys Bray (Published by Random House Group, R257) This is the story of Ian Bradley – husband, father, maths teacher and Mormon bishop – and his unshakeable belief that everything will turn out alright if he can only endure to the end, like the pioneers did. It is also the story of his wife, Claire, and her desperate need for life to pause while she comes to terms with tragedy.

The book explores the outer reaches of doubt and faith, and of a family trying to figure out how to carry on when the innermost workings of their world have fallen apart.

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parenting

Easy as Pie Pops

By Andrea Smetona (Published by Page Street Publishing, R234) Whether you want something sweet, fruity or savoury, Easy as Pie Pops has the perfect bite-sized treats that’ll be a hit with family and friends. Andrea Smetona, the owner of Cakewalk Desserts, a very popular eatery in California, shares her most in-demand pie pop recipes. And with some of her most coveted cake pop and mini loaf recipes included, this book is a necessity for any person looking to make talk-ofthe-town, miniature pastries that are the next dessert sensation.

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Quick and Easy Weaning

By Annabel Karmel Overwhelmed

By Brigid Schulte (Published by Bloomsbury, R196) In her attempts to juggle work and family life, Schulte began to question whether it is possible to be anything you want to be, have a family and still have time to breathe. Seeking answers and inspiration, she explores the wiring of the brain, why workplaces are becoming increasingly demanding, worldwide differences in family policy, how cultural norms shape our experiences at work and why it’s so hard for everyone – but women especially – to feel they deserve a moment of peace.

(Published by Random House Struik, R210) Weaning your baby can be a tricky milestone for any parent, but with her years of experience and wealth of expertise, Annabel Karmel is on hand to help. In this book she aims to take the stress out of your baby’s transition to solid food, guiding you through the weaning process step-by-step, from your baby’s very first purée to introducing more complex flavours and textures. The book also features 100 speedy, simple, yet delicious, recipes, each one packed full of nutrition. She also offers at-aglance weekly meal planners.

The Contented Baby Goes to School

By Gina Ford (Published by Vermilion, R225) Your child’s first days at school and nursery are exciting times, but they can be very daunting – for you and your child. In this book, Gina Ford helps you calm any fears with practical advice on preparing your child to be confident and capable of taking these important new steps. With practical exercises for developing skills, plus advice on overcoming any difficulties you might face, this book will ensure that both you and your child are fully prepared for this new stage in your lives.

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You can also access the calendar online at

what’s on in april

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see.

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bump, baby & tot in tow

how to help

The Art of the Brick Be enthralled by the world’s most famous artworks, which have been recreated by Lego bricks.

Pythonesque Unwind with the best of Monty Python.

Bowen Babies course Learn how to handle problems like colic, reflux and sleep disruptions.

67 Blankets for Mandela Day Knit or crochet a blanket for people in need by 21 April.

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St John’s College Rugby Festival Three days jam-packed with schoolboy rugby matches, a beer garden, a wine tasting bar and many food vendors.

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SPECIAL EVENTS 1 wednesday It’s Easter time Have fun in the library with a performance by Darren the magician.

For 3–13 year olds. Time: 10am–11:30am.

Venue: Weltevreden Park Library, 1203 Fern Rd, Weltevreden Park. Cost: free. Contact: 011 679 3406 The Dress-up Box Select clothes and accessories from the box, create your style, strike your pose, and snap your shot.

1 April–13 May. Time: 9am–3pm every Friday–Sunday. Venue: Lakeside Mall, Tom Jones St, Benoni. Cost: free. Contact: 011 427 1801 or angelap@primelife.co.za

2 thursday Stars of Sandstone A fun-filled steam heritage festival and a romantic reminder of the trains, planes and transport of yesteryear. The collection includes two-foot Narrow Gauge locomotives, steam traction engines, vintage agricultural machinery, old cars, buses, aircraft and a magnificent collection of military vehicles. Space is limited. Ends 12 April. Time: all day. Venue: Sandstone Estates, near Ficksburg, Eastern Free State. Cost: varies. Contact: 011 805 4692/6530 or visit sandstone-estates.com

3 friday Good Friday at The Oakleaf Enjoy a seafood braai while children take part in Easter activities. Booking essential. On 5 April there is an Easter egg hunt and lamb on the spit.

Time: 12:30pm–2:30pm. Venue: The Oakleaf Family Restaurant, 61 Rivonia Rd, Sandhurst.

Cost: seafood braai R250; Easter egg hunt and lamb on the spit R150. Contact: 011 884 5837 or info@theoakleaf.co.za Easter Beach Festival Enjoy a host of activities, live entertainment, beach games and delicacies from the Midlands. Ends 6 April. Time: tba. Venue: Montecasino, Fourways. Cost: free. Contact: 011 510 7995 or visit montecasino.co.za Meet Barney and Elsa Sing and dance with Barney and Elsa (Frozen) and enjoy fun Frozen activities. Ends 6 April. Also 11 and 12 April. Time: Barney 10am–10:45am and 2pm–2:45pm, Elsa 11:15am–12:15pm and 5:15pm–4:15pm, daily. Venue: Piazza at Clearwater Mall, cnr Hendrik Potgieter Dr and Christiaan de Wet Rd, Strubens Valley. Cost: free. For more info: visit clearwatermall.co.za

4 saturday Artists under the Sun Stroll among the artists exhibiting on the lawns surrounding Zoo Lake. There are rowboats and a jungle gym. Ends 5 April. Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: cnr Jan Smuts Ave and Westwold Way, Saxonwold. Cost: free. Contact: 011 432 1482 or artists.aus@mweb.co.za

9 thursday Dainfern College open day An opportunity to see the school in action and meet the principals, staff and pupils.

For parents of Grade 0–12 learners. Time: 9am–10am. Venue: Dainfern College, Broadacres Dr, Dainfern. Cost: free. Contact: 011 469 0635 or visit dainferncollege.co.za

10 friday 2–12 April – Stars of Sandstone

St John’s College Rugby Festival Three days jam-packed with schoolboy rugby matches, a beer garden, a wine tasting bar and many food vendors. Ends 6 April.

Time: 7am–8pm Thursday, 7am–4:30pm Saturday, 7am–5pm Monday. Venue: St David Rd, Houghton. Cost: R35. Contact: publicity@stjohnscollege.co.za or visit stjohnscollege.co.za

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Art from Nature Join Karin for a walk in nature and collect ingredients to make a work of art. Children must wear old clothes and take an ice tray for mixing paints, scissors and wood glue. For five years and older. Time: registration 8:45am, 9am–12pm. Venue: Kloofendal Nature Reserve, cnr Galena Ave and Veronica St, Kloofendal, Roodepoort. Cost: R80 per child, adults are also welcome. Contact: 011 674 2980, 079 693 5608 or visit kloofendalfriends.org.za

Croc City Easter egg hunt Take your little ones to search for Easter eggs at the crocodile and reptile farm.

While you’re there you can see the crocs being fed and try out the Flyover zipline that takes you across the croc enclosures. Time: 9am–4:30pm, Easter egg hunt 10am–11am. Venue: Croc City Crocodile and Reptile Park, plot 59, cnr Cedar Rd and R114, Nietgedacht.

Cost: adults R70, pensioners R60, children under 12 R50. Contact: 083 657 7561, 086 672 6719 or visit croccity.co.za

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The Royal Drakensberg MTB Challenge A fun weekend packed with entertainment for the whole family. There is a family fun ride and 1km walk on Saturday, a supervised Kids Zone and the Extreme Classic, intermediate and beginners’ rides on the Sunday. Ends 19 April. Time: varies. Venue: All Out Adventures, Northern Berg, Drakensberg. For more info: visit royaldrakmtb.co.za

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LinguaMites open day View their new premises in Randburg and find out more about this trilingual preschool that offers tuition in Chinese, English and isiZulu. For parents of 1–6 year olds. Time: 9am–11am.

Venue: LinguaMites Multilingual Preschool, 333 York Ave, Ferndale. Cost: free. Contact: 072 561 3113 or visit linguamites.co.za Walkerville Agricultural Show An annual show with a host of interesting activities and stalls selling a variety of treats. View demos of milking, shearing, weaving and spinning as well as dressage, show jumping and mounted games in the large arena. Ends 12 April. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Walkerville Showgrounds, R550, Walkerville. Cost: R30 per car.

Contact: show@walkervillesa.co.za or visit walkervillesa.co.za

WAM talkabout A painting workshop in the WAM Café. Booking is essential. For families with 6–12 year olds. Time: 12pm–1pm.

Venue: Wits Art Museum, cnr Jan Smuts Ave, Braamfontein. Cost: free. Contact: 011 717 1368 or info.wam@wits.ac.za Houghton Estate Nursery School open day For parents of children 3 months– 5 years old. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: 58 St John’s Rd, Houghton Estate. Cost: free.

Contact: 011 487 3129, info@hefc.co.za or visit hefc.co.za

15 wednesday Hobby and Gadget Expo Stands specialising in hobbies and gadgets are situated throughout the centre. Ends 19 April. Time: 9am–7pm Wednesday and Thursday, 9am–9pm Friday, 9am–7pm Saturday, 9am–5pm Sunday. Venue: The Glen Shopping Centre, cnr Orpen Rd and Letaba St, Oakdene. Cost: free. Contact: 011 435 9252 or visit theglenshopping.co.za

17 friday Waterstone College Family Sports Festival Over 1 000 athletes participate in netball, soccer and hockey. There is a craft market, a children’s play area, and live music. Tickets are available at the gate.

Ends 19 April. Time: 2pm–8pm Friday, 8am–9pm Saturday, 8am–2pm Sunday.

Venue: Waterstone College, Main Service Rd, Kibler Park. Cost: R20 per day, R50 for all three days. Contact: 011 943 2682 or visit waterstonecollege.co.za

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24 friday Lumo night run Dress in lumo and take part in a fun run or walk around Rietvlei Zoo Farm. Pizza, drinks and glowsticks are on sale. Time: doors open 5pm, run starts 6pm.

Venue: Calco Café and Pizzeria, Rietvlei Zoo Farm, Swartkoppies Rd, Alberton. Cost: R10, (includes a glowstick). Contact: 076 425 1346 or calvin.dias@hotmail.com

25 saturday Scout Troop Scaletrix Fundraiser There is an 8,5m digital slot car track, which allows six competitors per fiveminute race. Food and refreshments are on sale. Time: 9:30am–11pm. Venue: Herbert Park Bowling Club, 81 Turf Club St, Turffontein. Cost: R5 entrance fee, R5 per race. Contact: 078 811 4987, 081 316 1287 or cj@letstalksolutions.co.za

26 sunday Benoni Art Route Pop in at art studios, cafés, restaurants and the Benoni Country Club to view works of art and watch the creative process. Visit the website for the route map. Time: 10am–3pm. Venue: venues across Benoni. Cost: free. For more info: visit benoniartroute.co.za Farnham Easter Training Show Riders of all ages and levels take part in horse riding and an Easter egg hunt. Time: 8am. Venue: Farnham Riding School, 228 Galanthus Rd, Kyalami. Cost: tbc. Contact: 082 803 9903 or visit farnham.co.za Nicolway Bryanston turns three Join in celebrations; pop balloons and win prizes. Time: centre operating times.

Venue: Nicolway Bryanston, cnr William Nicol Dr and Wedgewood Link, Bryanston.

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This exhibition tells the story of dinosaurs from the Mesozoic Era around 250 million years to 65 million years ago. There are 25 life-size animatronic dinosaurs as well as dino rides, excavation sandpits, a dino movie and a jumping castle.

11 April–17 May. Time: 9am–5pm.

Venue: Tshwane Events Centre, Soutter St, Pretoria West. Cost: R85–R120, family ticket (two adults and two children) R350. For more info: visit dinosalive.co.za

We the People Walk Ahead of Human Rights Day children can engage in activities such as chalking on the floor, dancing and aerobics. Time: 7:30am–12:30pm. Venue: Constitution Square at Constitution Hill, 1 Kotze St, Braamfontein. Cost: free. Contact: 011 381 3106 or visit constitutionhill.org.za

27 monday Montecasino Bird Garden’s birthday celebrations Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Montecasino, Fourways. Cost: R33– R58. Contact: 011 510 7995 or visit montecasino.co.za

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Photography workshop For children during two lessons and an outing to the Joburg Zoo. For 6–11 year olds: 8–10 April and 21–23 April. Time: 9:30am–12:30pm.

Venue: CODP Saxonwold Campus, 91 Oxford Rd, Saxonwold. Cost: R900.

Contact: photo@codp.co.za Pottery and mosaic madness Children of all ages can paint or mosaic on ceramic figurines or wooden blanks. Children 6 years and under need to be accompanied by an adult. Time: 9am–4pm Monday–Friday, 9am–2pm Saturday. Venue: Glendower Place Shopping Centre, Dowerglen. Cost: R20 per person per hour, excluding material. Contact: 011 453 2721 or visit potteryjunxion.co.za

art, culture and science The Art of The Brick View up to 75 art sculptures created from more than a million Lego bricks. There is a PlayStation gaming area, a Lego building zone and more. 3 April– 2 August. Time: 9am–6pm. Venue: between Aldo and Carlton Hair, The Zone @ Rosebank Zone, park at zone 2 parking, entrance via Oxford Rd. Cost: adults R140, children under 18 years R95, children under 2 free. For more info: visit theartofthebricksa.co.za Tutankhamun – His Tomb and His Treasures The exhibition has reconstructed the tomb of Tutankhamun to scale. Ends 12 April. Time: 9am–7pm Sunday–Thursday, 9am–9pm Friday–Saturday. Venue: Silverstar, Muldersdrift, Mogale City. Cost: adults R160, pensioners and students R120, children 6–18 years R100, children under 5 free, family of four R440, includes audio guides. For more info: visit tut-exhibition.co.za

classes, talks and workshops Calmkids A five-day workshop where children learn to keep calm and alleviate anxiety, improve the quality of sleep, learn to self-soothe, increase the capacity of their brain potential, learn to manage moods and stress in appropriate ways, and more.

Booking essential. For 5–7 year olds.

30 March–3 April and 6–10 April. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: PsychMatters Centre, 9 Park St, Bedfordview. Cost: R1 200. Contact: 011 450 3576 or visit psychmatters.co.za Jimmy’s blingin’ bangles Make fun bangles in the garden with Jimmy the clown.

Booking recommended. For 4–12 year olds.

Time: 9am–4pm every Saturday and Sunday.

Venue: Angelo’s Kitchen, 32 7th Ave, Parktown North. Cost: free with meals. Contact: 011 447 8001 or visit angeloskitchen.co.za

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family outings Lipizzaners See the Lipizzaner stallions, meet the riders and feed the horses. Time: 10:30am every Sunday. Venue: Lipizzaner Centre, 1 Dahlia Rd, Kyalami. Cost: R140, pensioners R80, children 4–12 years old R70, children 3 and younger free if seated on your lap. Contact: 011 702 2103, 079 716 4792 or visit lipizzaners.co.za Safari maize maze Make your way around a growing maize maze designed in the shape of an elephant and calf, and answer the quizzes and riddles. Time: 10am–5pm every Saturday and Sunday, last ticket sales at 2:30pm. Venue: Honeydew Mazes, 82 Boland St, Honeydew. Cost: adults R120, children under 16 R80, family ticket (two adults and two children) R350. Contact: 073 795 2174 or visit honeydewmazes.co.za

older. Time: 9am–5pm daily. Venue: Cradle of Humankind. Cost: R250. Contact: 011 956 6197 or visit wildcaves.co.za Farnham Little Leaguers Children 5–12 years old learn valuable skills relevant to horse riding and caring. 12 April. Time: 9am. Venue: Farnham Riding School, 228 Galanthus Rd, Kyalami. Cost: R350. Contact: 082 803 9903 or visit farnham.co.za Long walk through Kloofendal Nature Reserve Wear a hat and sunscreen and take a bottle of water. Booking essential. 4 April.

Time: 8am–10am. Venue: cnr Galena Ave and Veronica St, Kloofendal, Roodepoort.

Cost: R20–R30. Contact: 011 674 2980, 079 693 5608 or visit kloofendalfriends.org.za

holiday programmes Anna and Olaf go to Legoland A course for 5–9 year olds with drama, dance and singing. Date, time and venue: 30 March–2 April: Norscot Manor Recreation Centre, Fourways 10:30am–12:30pm; 30 March–2 April: Roosevelt Park Recreation Centre, Roosevelt Park 2:30pm–4:30pm; 20–23 April: Parkhurst Moth Hall, Parkhurst 11am–1pm. Cost: tbc. Contact: 011 025 2525 or visit buzzdrama.com Chartwell Stables pony camp Children ride twice a day, manage the stables and play games. Children can attend for the day or sleep over. For children 6 years and older. 7–9 April. Time: 8am–5pm.

Venue: Chartwell Stables, 112 Runnymead St, Chartwell. Cost: R400 per day. Contact: 073 952 8572 or visit chartwellstables.co.za Cricket School of Excellence holiday clinic Four days of cricketing fun covering all aspects of the game. For 4–13 year olds.

30 March–2 April. Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: University of Johannesburg cricket oval.

Cost: R600. Contact: 0861 123 273 or visit cricketschool.co.za

finding nature and outdoor play Abseiling and caving adventure Gear up and abseil in through the roof of a wild cavern before enjoying an adventure by torchlight.

Booking essential. For children 8 years and

Expressions holiday programme Children enjoy supervised games and activities in a country environment with a playground and a slip-n-slide.

Booking essential. For 5 years and older.

Younger children are welcome if they are accustomed to attending a full school day.

26 March–10 April, 20 April–4 May. Time: 8am–4:30pm. Venue: The Expressions Centre, 59/2 Norfolk Rd, Carlswald. Cost: R260 per day. Contact: 082 402 8169 or visit expressionsinfocus.co.za Fun-a-Galore holiday programme Children learn to cook and bake nutritious dishes. Booking essential. For 6–12 year olds. 28–30 April. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Miele Gallery, 63 Peter Place, Bryanston.

Cost: half-day (morning or afternoon) R275, full day R375. Contact: 082 468 7720 or visit fun-a-galore.co.za In the Forest holiday camp An outdoor adventure camp where 6–13 year olds spend their days in the country enjoying activities like giant camp games, treasure hunts, hiking, obstacle courses, art and crafts, and relays. Booking essential. 6–10 April. Time: 7am–6pm. Venue: 2 Aloe Ridge Dr, cnr R82, Eikenhof. Cost: R205 per day, R1 025 per week, includes breakfast, lunch, snacks and all activities. Contact: 076 575 8003, 076 035 4038 or visit intheforest.co.za

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ITA tennis clinic Tennis clinics for 3–16 year olds. 30 March–3 April and 20–24 April. Time: 8:30am–1pm. Venues: 30 March–3 April: Lonehill Crawford Preparatory School, Sceales Rd, Lonehill, and 20–24 April: Craighall Park Tennis Club, St Alban’s Rd, Craighall. Cost: R300– R990 for five days. Contact: 083 443 3391 or visit itatennis.co.za Kidz Fishing Camp Children 7–14 years old get close to nature and learn how to fish, tie knots, canoe and more. Additional activities are also offered. 21–30 April.

Time: all day. Venue: Vaal River. Cost: R1 200. Contact: 083 610 2911 or visit kidzfishingcamp.co.za Mini master chefs Children get stuck in baking Easter treats and take part in a cooking competition. For children 5 years and older. 27 March–2 April and 8–13 April. Time: 10am–12pm and 2pm–4pm. Venue: Olive Branch Cookery School, 42 Witkoppen Rd, Fourways. Cost: R280. Contact: 082 854 7388 or visit olivebranchcooking.co.za magazine joburg

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27 March–4 May – Oodles of fun

Oodles of fun Take part in various fun activities in a safe and secure venue with supervisors that have been trained by a child psychologist. For 1–10 year olds. 27 March–4 May. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Yeesh!, Woodmead Commercial Park, Waterval Crescent, Woodmead. Cost: R150 per day (no food); R200 per day (including healthy food items). Contact: 011 656 9669, 084 402 2849 or visit yeesh.co.za Shepherd’s Fold Stables pony camp Spend a few days on a real horse farm grooming, feeding and riding ponies. You can swim in the dam with your pony, go on trail rides and more. Booking essential.

For 6–16 year olds. Campers need to be 8 years and older to sleep over. 30 March–2 April, 20–22 April. Time: 8am–5pm. Venue: Shepherd’s Fold Stables, 55 Sunset Dr, Elandsdrift, Lanseria. Cost: R300 per day, R50 extra per night to sleep over. Contact: 084 220 2657 or visit shepherdsfoldstables.co.za

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Under the oak tree The Oakleaf Restaurant is offering supervised holiday activities for children under 12 years old. Booking essential. 7–30 April. Time: 10am–12:30pm Tuesday–Thursday. Venue: The Oak Leaf Restaurant, 61 Rivonia Rd, Sandton. Cost: varies per activity. Contact: 011 884 5837 or info@theoakleaf.co.za Vicky Friedman’s Fame Academy A week of singing, dancing and acting with a final performance on a professional stage.

For 6–16 year olds. 6–11 April. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Crawford College Benmore, Waterstone Dr, Benmore. Cost: R900. Contact: 082 336 4424, vicky@ showiz.co.za or visit fameacademy.co.za

markets Arty Sundays This pop-up art exhibition showcases a large selection of artwork. There are interactive ceramic activities for young and old, caricatures, gourmet food and live

music. 12 April. Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: Rosebank Sunday market, The Rosebank Mall. Cost: free. Contact: 011 028 7818/9 or michele@rosebanksundaymarket.co.za Bamboo Farmers’ Market A quaint weekly market made up of homegrown produce, fresh farm milk and butter, freerange eggs and chickens and preservativefree bread. Time: 9am–1pm every Saturday.

Venue: Bamboo Lifestyle Centre, 53 Rustenburg Rd, Melville. Cost: free entry.

Contact: 083 284 6226 or visit bambooonline.co.za Kamers vol Geskenke Buy creative goods sourced from around the country. 23–27 April. Time: 9am–5pm Thursday, Sunday and Monday; 9am–7pm Friday–Saturday.

Venue: St John’s College, Saint David Rd, Houghton. Cost: R50 online, R70 at the gate. For more info: visit kamersvol.com

The Avengers to stop the villainous Ultron from enacting his terrible plans. Premieres 24 April in cinemas nationwide. For more info: visit numetro.co.za or sterkinekor.com Cinderella A live-action feature that brings to life the timeless images from Disney’s 1950 animated masterpiece. Premieres 3 April in cinemas nationwide. For more info: visit disney.com/Cinderella Crown of the Russian Ballet Graduates of the best Russian choreography schools have prepared a programme devoted to Tchaikovsky. 25 and 26 April. Time: 3pm and 8pm Saturday, 3pm Sunday. Venue: Theatre of Marcellus at Emperors Palace, 64 Jones Rd, Kempton Park. Cost: R150–R280.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

on stage and screen All Directions A tribute to the music of the British pop boy band, One Direction.

Also featured are songs from other stars as performed by One Direction on The X Factor.

2, 10 and 11 April. Time: 2pm. Venues: 2 April: Barnyard Theatre Rivonia, and 10–11 April: Barnyard Theatre Emperors Palace.

Cost: R100. Contact Rivonia: 011 234 2033, Emperors Palace: 011 823 6933 or visit barnyardtheatre.co.za Avengers: Age of Ultron When Tony Stark tries to jumpstart a dormant peacekeeping programme, things go awry and it is up to

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The ultimate classical ballet featuring an array of leading dancers in the principal roles, including Viengsay Valdés, prima ballerina of the National Ballet of Cuba. 17 April–3 May. Time: varies. Venue: Joburg Theatre, 163 Civic Boulevard, Braamfontein.

Cost: R100–R400. Book through the Joburg Theatre: 0861 670 670 or visit joburgtheatre.com

Dinosaur Musical Theatre A unique musical with life-size, dinosaur puppets and animatronic dinosaurs. The story follows Sangoma Mukuru as he travels back in time in search of a magical root. Performance times vary. 3–17 April. Time: 10am and 2pm. Venue: Joburg Theatre, 163 Civic Blvd, Braamfontein. Cost: R200. Book

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through the Joburg Theatre: 0861 670 670 or visit joburgtheatre.com Heidi An interactive production based on the beloved children’s book about a Swiss orphan girl, who is taken to live with her grumpy grandfather high up in the Swiss Alps. Bookings essential. 9 March–12 April.

Time: 10:30am and 2:30pm Monday– Saturday. Venue: National Children’s Theatre, 3 Junction Ave, Parktown. Cost: R90–R110. Contact: 011 484 1584 or visit nationalchildrenstheatre.org.za Mamma Mia! An enchanting tale of love and friendship unfolds on a Greek island and features 22 of Abba’s greatest hits. No children under 3. 24 March–19 April. Time: 8pm Tuesday–Saturday, 3pm Saturday, 2pm and 6pm Sunday. Venue: The Teatro at Montecasino, cnr Montecasino Blvd and William Nicol Dr, Fourways. Cost: R150– R500. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Puppet shows at Kinder Theatre The theatre is hosting magicians, pirates, princesses and unicorns throughout the month of April. Bookings essential.

Time: 3:30pm every Tuesday, 10am every Saturday. Venue: Kinderspiel, 39a Greenhill Rd, Emmarentia. Cost: R55 per show.

Contact: 011 646 0870, kinderspiel@ telkomsa.net or visit kinderspiel.co.za

playtime and story time Eagle Express train Children and adults are welcome to hop aboard the Eagle

Express, a small train that departs from the entrance at 12pm on weekends and makes its way past the restaurant and waterfall. Time: 8am–5pm every Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden, Malcolm Rd, Poortview, Roodepoort. Cost: adults R35, pensioners and the disabled R25, university students R25, learners R12, children under 6 free.

Contact: 086 100 1278 or visit sanbi.org

sport and physical activities NiaKids classes A movement programme that teaches sensory intelligence and improves coordination and fitness. The programme draws from martial arts, dance and the healing arts. For 6–12 year olds. Time: 2:30pm–3:30pm every Thursday. Venue: Valley Shopping Centre, 396 Jan Smuts Ave, Craighall. Cost: R50.

Contact: julie@magicblox.co.za or visit magicblox.co.za

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Childcare and first aid Have your domestic worker trained on an accredited childcare and first aid course to ensure your peace of mind. The classes take place over five weekly sessions.

9 April. Time: 8:30am–2pm. Venue: Domestic Bliss, 235 Jan Smuts Ave, Parktown North. Cost:R2 200. Contact:

011 447 5517, 083 525 4992 or visit domesticbliss.co.za Cleft palate workshop Georgia Jammine, a speech and language therapist, discusses cleft palates: identification, examination, feeding and interventions.

The talk is aimed at speech therapists, educators and parents of infants and young children. Booking essential. 15 April. Time: 7pm–8pm. Venue: Bellavista School Hall, 35 Wingfield Ave, Birdhaven.

Cost: R80. Contact: 011 788 5454 or visit bellavista.org.za Dealing with divorce Learn how to empower yourself and your child. 22 April.

Time: 9am–11am. Venue: Psychmatters Family Centre, 9 Park St, Bedfordview.

Cost: R450. Contact: 011 450 3576 or visit psychmatters.co.za Fun with letters and words demonstration See how these educational tools help improve or accelerate your child’s reading skills. For parents, teachers, therapists and home-schooling tutors of 4–9 year olds. 9 April. Time: 9am–9:45am.

Venue: Sunninghill Gardens. Cost: free.

Contact: marian@raisingreaders.co.za or visit raisingreaders.co.za Good feet, bad feet Ballet is a great way for adults to get into shape. Time: 6:15pm–7:30pm every Monday and Wednesday. Venue: Joburg Theatre Complex, 163 Civic Boulevard, Braamfontein. Cost: R70 per class; cash only. Contact: 011 877 6897 or visit joburgballet.com

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29 April–7 June – Morecambe

on stage and screen Morecambe Craig Urbani stars as Eric Morecambe in this moving, often hilarious, tale of one of Britain’s best-loved entertainers who progressed from humble beginnings in music hall to entertaining millions of viewers on Christmas Day. 29 April–7 June. Time: 8:15pm. Venue: Pieter Toerien’s Studio Theatre, Montecasino, cnr William Nicol Dr and Montecasino Boulevard, Fourways. Cost: R130–R165.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Pythonesque Roy Smile’s Monty Python biography tells the story of the Oxford and Cambridge graduates who came together in 1969 to form one of the best-loved comedy troupes ever – Monty Python’s Flying Circus. 15 April– 15 May. Time: 8pm Tuesday–Saturday, 5pm Saturday, 3pm Sunday. Venue: Pieter Toerien’s Montecasino Theatre, cnr William Nicol Dr and Witkoppen Rd, Fourways. Cost: R100–R170. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Trio Frizzante Three Austrian musicians share their passion for chamber music.

The tour programme focuses on works by Austrian composers, such as Mozart. 19 April. Time: 5pm–7pm. Venue: Glenshiel Manor, 19 Woolston Rd, Westcliff. Cost: R170. Contact: 083 414 0041

out and about Mother’s Group Explore the joys and challenges of motherhood in a small group (maximum 4 participants). Share ideas on how to implement techniques for aiding your child’s emotional intelligence development.

For mothers of children of all ages. Time:

9:30am–11am every Wednesday and Saturday. Venue: Office Tower 202, Killarney Mall, Riviera Rd. Cost: R200. Contact: 081 439 5247, anna@movingminds.co.za or visit movingminds.co.za WAM talkabout Join Penny Siopis for a walk and talk through her exhibition. 25 April. Time: 12pm–1pm. Venue: Wits Art Museum, cnr Jan Smuts Ave and Jorissen St, Braamfontein. Cost: free. Contact: 011 717 1368 or info.wam@wits.ac.za

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classes, talks and workshops BabyGym Learn how to stimulate your baby and ensure whole brain development. For babies 2 weeks– 1 year old. 13 April–18 May. Time: 9:30am–10:45am. Venue: The Children’s Therapy Centre, Petervale. Cost: R790 for five weeks. Contact: 083 303 1190 or joanne.bradley@babygym.co.za Baby massage course For parents with babies 4 weeks–6 months old.

8 April. Time: 9:30am–11:30am. Venue: The Bub Hub and Company, shop 3G, Broadacres Lifestyle Centre, cnr Cedar Rd and Valley Rd, Broadacres. Cost: R650.

Contact: info@thebubhub.co.za or visit thebubhub.co.za Baby yoga For babies 3 weeks–18 months. Time: 10am–10:45am every Monday and Tuesday. Venue: Monday: The Bub Hub, Broadacres Lifestyle Centre, Cedar Rd, Broadacres; Tuesday: Genesis Birthing Clinic, cnr Jan Smuts Ave and Northwold Dr, Saxonwold. Cost: R600 per month. Contact: 076 081 7615 or visit yogamama.co.za

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Bowen Babies course The half-day course empowers moms and childcare providers to deal with baby problems like colic, reflux and sleep disruptions as well as unsettled babies, in a safe, gentle and noninvasive way. For carers of babies 0–6 months old. 18 April. Time: 9am–2pm.

Venue: shop GC15 Broadacres Lifestyle Centre, cnr Cedar Rd and Valley Rd, Broadacres. Cost: R800. Contact: 083 260 4580 or mybowenbabies@gmail.com Expectant Parents seminar An informative morning for parents expecting multiples and singletons. 18 April. Time: 8:30am–1pm. Venue: Accolades, 72 Dale Rd, Midrand. Cost: R300. Contact: 072 049 7891 or marionsmith129@gmail.com Pikanini Baby Play and Learn stimulation workshop By using researched playing techniques you give your child the best possible learning foundation.

For babies from 0–6 months. 17 April.

Time: 11:30am–1:30pm. Venue: The Bub Hub and Company, shop 3G, Broadcares Lifestyle Centre, cnr Cedar Rd and Valley Rd, Broadacres. Cost: tba. Contact: info@ thebubhub.co.za or visit thebubhub.co.za Toptots term 2 classes Share and be a part of your little one’s development while having fun with other moms. For children 12 weeks–4 years old. 11 April–20 June.

Time: varies. Venues: Bryanston, Randburg, Mondeor, Glenvista. Cost: tba. Contact Bryanston: 082 459 5860, Glenvista: 083 459 5673 or visit toptots.co.za Zumbini The Zumbini programme was developed for caregivers and their children, to learn, bond and grow in an upbeat, happy, musical environment.

For babies from 0–3 years old. 14 April.

Time: 11am–12:30pm. Venue: The Bub Hub and Company, shop 3G, Broadcares Lifestyle Centre, cnr Cedar Rd and Valley Rd, Broadacres. Cost: tba. Contact: info@ thebubhub.co.za or visit thebubhub.co.za

it’s party time For more help planning your child’s party visit 11 April–20 June – Toptots Term 2 classes

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how to help 67 Blankets for Mandela Day South Africans are encouraged to knit or crochet a blanket by 21 April to keep needy people warm and create a world record in the process. The blankets will be spread across the lawns of the Union Buildings in Pretoria at the feet of the Nelson Mandela statue before being donated to charity organisations around the country. Blankets can be dropped off at Auto and General Theatre on the Square in Sandton, Auto and General Park in Midrand, and The Saxon Hotel, Villas and Spa in Sandhurst.

Cost: free. Contact: 0617 676 767 or visit 67blankets.co.za

support groups Dyspraxia South Africa A support group for parents and/or caregivers who have children and young adults dealing with dyspraxia. For more info: visit dyspraxiasouthafrica.co.za Mom Squad A support group for new moms run by the Trinity Methodist Church.

Chat about the challenges and rewards of motherhood over a cup of tea. Time: 9:15am–11am every Thursday. Venue: Linden. Cost: R10 per session towards refreshments. Contact: 082 334 4029 or vandermerwekj@gmail.com South African Centre for Missing and Exploited Children For the tracing and recovery of missing children. Contact: 012 393 2002 or visit missingkids.co.za The Teddy Bear Clinic Provides therapy, counselling, assistance and support to children and parents who have been abused.

Contact: 011 484 4554 or visit ttbc.org.za

30 April – Charity golf day

Charity golf day Enjoy a four-ball in aid of Down Syndrome Association (DSA) Gauteng. DSA Gauteng assists parents of children with Down’s syndrome and other intellectual or physical disabilities to access medical and therapy treatments that are essential to their wellbeing and future development. 30 April. Time: registration 10:30am, first tee-off 11am. Venue: Glenvista Golf Course, Vorster Ave, Glenvista Country Club. Cost: R4 000 for a team of four players. Contact: 011 640 6637, 072 645 8369 or karen.dsag@vodamail.co.za Meals on Wheels They provide meals for the needy. You can sponsor a hungry person by SMSing the word “MEAL” to 39055, charged at R15 per SMS. Contact: 0860 000 700, mealsonwheels@mweb. co.za or visit mow.org.za

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hustle and bustle ANÉL LEWIS learns a few lessons in patience from her children. in. And then came the really tricky part – moving forward. I started to get frustrated.

At work, I am teased for my tendency to rush from one place to the next. As one colleague said, I tend to “bustle”, often at great speed. Walking leisurely is not my strong point. So, as you can imagine, doing the slip-slop shuffle was a real test of my patience.

But then, instead of urging Conor to hurry up, I decided to slow down and match his tentative steps. I looked down at my boy learning a new skill and delighted in the touch of his hand trustingly clasped around mine. Life can be so frenetic – I am really trying to find joy in the many special moments I share with my children.

Children are great teachers of patience – something I never expected to have in such short supply when I became a parent. These lessons in calmness can manifest themselves in the strangest ways. Like when I suddenly find myself standing for almost an hour

next to the railway line so that Conor can see the train go past just once, or leaving the house with Mardi Gras blue eyeshadow after a makeover session from Erin.

When she first came to me with my make-up bag, as we were about to dash out of the house, I was irritated. We would be late for school. There would be traffic. But if I said no, I would miss out on a precious bonding moment with my daughter.

She was thrilled to be part of my morning routine, and was quite opinionated about what I should wear to match my newlypainted face. And it wasn’t the sensible heels I had picked out earlier, the ones that would allow me to dash from one appointment to the next in my customary way.

It was my old pair of slip-slops – and there was no chance I could bustle about in those.

Anél Lewis now wears slips-slops to work on Fridays, just as a reminder that life is not always about the bustle.

I looked down at my boy learning a new skill and delighted in the touch of his hand trustingly clasped around mine.

PHOTOGRAPH: Susie Leblond Photography

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here’s a wonderful saying about not really knowing someone until you have stood in, and walked around in, their shoes. Well, I could add to that and say you don’t really know the true meaning of patience until you have watched a two year old putting on slip-slops for the first time, and then trying to walk in them. Have you ever tried to explain to a headstrong toddler the seemingly simple motion of moving their feet in a shoe so that the V-shaped thingy is squeezed between their toes and they can move forward? I don’t even know the technical terms for the parts of a slip-slop, so imagine how much fun I had trying to explain it to Conor. But, he had watched Erin glide effortlessly into her pair of sandals and he was determined to do the same.

It took a while to get the shoes on, and the left one kept on sliding between the third and fourth toe, instead of between the big toe and the second one. But eventually Conor managed to get both feet

Erin, Anél and Conor

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