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I spent many happy hours reading Winnie-the-Pooh to my eldest daughter, Julian. As a toddler she had Tigger-like tendencies, strutting around the garden in bellbottoms and gumboots, happiest when leading a trail of animals.

At one stage this included Booka, the Malamute; a pig (whose name escapes me); Phillip, the goat and a pony called Granny Groovy. We used to rent a tiny cottage on a three-acre farm, which had an assortment of creatures. Being surrounded by loving people and the great outdoors may be the reason for Julian’s affinity with the bear of big heart, but little brain.

Those were happy days. We planted sunflowers that grew taller

than both of us and when I had to go to work in the morning and Julian was sick, Jenny, the farm owner, would take her up to the main house and tuck her into bed next to Phillip, the goat, who kept his beady eyes on her.

Springtime always makes me want to pull out our worn copy of A.A. Milne’s A Treasury of Stories, Hums and Verse and share Pooh’s latest adventure with a freshly bathed, sleepy little tot. Sadly, my girls have moved on from stories of the lovable bear, but I’m glad their love of reading has endured.

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contents september 2013

upfront

regulars

3 a note from lisa

8 upfront with paul technology

6 over to you readers respond ad’s blog disciplining children 12 d doesn’t mean humiliating them, says Marc de Chazal

is wonderful, says Paul Kerton, but nothing compares to saying “I love you” face-to-face

10 pregnancy news – shaping up it’s important to keep fit while pregnant, says Lucille Kemp

features 16 difficult conversations to have with your child some discussions are not easy to have with children, but they may be necessary, says Tori Hoffmann

22 spring break get the children in on the spring cleaning action. Anél Lewis shares some ideas

24 sometimes growing up is sore to do Marc de Chazal finds out more about “mysterious” growing pains

26 what your nanny is thinking Anél Lewis asks two domestic helpers to share what’s important to them

28 read to write children that read are better students. By Marina Zietsman

32 moms who pop pills Françoise Gallet looks at the dangers of abusing prescription medication

13 best for baby – probiotics: nature’s recipe good gut health can help fight allergies and eczema.

By Vanessa Papas

14 dealing with difference Glynis Horning looks at the alarming rise of eating disorders in children

36 resource – a click away Tamlyn Vincent gives you inspiration for convenient online shopping

38 a good read for the whole family 42 what’s on in september 58 finishing touch Superman has entered Anél Lewis’s home; for a good reason it seems

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health 9 frosty bites Tamlyn Vincent looks at the benefits of fresh and frozen vegetables

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it’s what you know I am a huge fan of your magazine, and there is a pile of your magazines in my office, almost toppling over.

I continuously refer to old issues, which gives me a good excuse to have an extra cup of coffee. I want to thank you for the article “it’s what you know” (August 2013). I am always trying to find ways to increase my eight year old’s general knowledge. I bought a few encyclopaedias and other general knowledge books.

Our deal is that every night we read through a random topic and by the end of the year we know at least 300 new facts. Some days we are good, and other days we tend to slip, so I am very grateful for the ideas offered in this article.

Kamish

only is there research suggesting that artificial sweeteners can lead to weight gain, there is also evidence that aspartame is linked to damaging brain health. According to the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) in the United States, it is also responsible for a large majority of adverse food reactions to food additives.

Fructose, along with agave and honey (which, although natural and generally perceived as healthy, also contain high levels of fructose), are most readily converted to fat in the body and are linked to obesity, the development of type 2 diabetes and heart disease.

Natural sugars such as Stevia and Xylitol seem to be the best alternative to sugar itself.

Di Hill

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road safety

I immensely enjoy reading Child magazine but felt the need to respond to your “like it or lump it” article (August 2013). As a parent and nutritional therapist, I wanted to comment that recommending alternatives [to sugar], such as aspartame and sucralose, should come with some warning. Not

Two years ago, a car hit my little boy in front of his school. A few weeks prior to that terrible day, a dad went to the school and raised his concerns about the roadside safety of that spot and asked the faculty to do something that would help the children.

Unfortunately, it was this same dad who hit Nicolas

over to you your responses online My eldest daughter suffered from growing pains when she was four years old. She will be eight this December and still complains about it from time to time.

Now, my youngest daughter (6) is suffering from growing pains. She has the body of a nine-year-old girl, and I really feel sorry for her. Whenever she has an attack, I massage her legs with anti-inflammatory cream. It really works.

Monette in response to “helping your child with growing pains” The tip on apples is very useful [to place an elastic band around the apple after slicing it, so that it stays in shape]. My little one refuses to eat it when it is cut and a touch of lemon is added to it. Also, I have found that dried fruit and nuts, popcorn and homemade trail mixes are a welcome addition to snack time at school.

I would also like to thank you for the great work done

by Child magazine.

Sharona in response to “lunchbox tips” I often use lettuce for my daughter’s sandwiches. The trick is to use a whole leaf or tear it with your hands into smaller pieces. This way the lettuce remains crisp. I’m not sure why cutting or shredding lettuce with a knife makes it turn brown.

Sonia Billson in response to “lunchbox tips”

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with his car. I always park my car in front of the school, so that the children do not have to cross the road.

On this specific day, I was chatting to a friend, when I saw Nicolas running past us. It happened so fast. I heard the brakes and the hard thud, and people were screaming. I saw how my little boy was flung into the air. When he hit the ground, he did not move or make any sound. I ran to him and he started to groan. My friend took us to hospital. My son tried to look at me, but his eyes kept closing and I thought he was going to die.

At the hospital the doctor examined him and did a brain scan. My son had a concussion and a crack in his skull. Luckily, he healed completely and I treasure every moment with him. Today, together with the schoolpatrol, there are traffic police present when the school day ends.

I was very angry because I felt that the accident was unnecessary. But I knew that Nicolas was aware to never run across a street, and then I realised that he is just a small boy and accidents do happen. Parents just need to be very careful.

Jeanli Smit

Let us know what’s on your mind. Send your letters or comments to marina@childmag.co.za or PO Box 12002, Mill Street, 8010.

My son had his tonsils and adenoids removed when he was 18 months old due to recurring tonsillitis. It was the best decision we ever made. That was 16 months ago and he hasn’t even had the flu since. I would recommend having them both out at the same time, which means only one operation and only one recovery period.

Anonymous in response to “tonsillitis – the ins and outs”

where can I find back issues?

I may have missed it in a previous issue, but have you done any articles about choosing appropriate and beneficial apps for preschoolers and early graders? As an ex-teacher and now a grandmother of three, I spend many hours scouting for good apps and reading what educationalists are saying about touch screen technology.

Judy Childmag says All our articles can be found online. We also have back issues (dating back one year) on our website. Visit childmag.co.za

to home baking. Your features on parties in the May issue were well-timed, and I wanted to thank you for recommending the book Easy Party Treats for Children by Janette Mocke (Random House Struik).

The ideas she gives are fun and simple to make, and my children enjoyed making their party treats with me.

Instead of party packs, I was able to send home edible helicopters and cone princesses – both winners and far more rewarding.

Anne Quinlan

devil in blue tracksuit pants I read Paul Kerton’s column in the August issue (“too embarrassing”) and had to laugh out loud. I too had a pair of “ancient” blue tracksuit pants that did not want to get lost. They were just so comfortable, that I sometimes wore them to run quick errands. That was until my 11 year old pointed out to me that I looked like a “bad incarnation of Eminem”. Needless to say, I had to google images of the rapper in order “to get the picture”, and the pants are now history.

Rachel

party time made easy I am a busy working mom to four-year-old twins.

Their birthday in May always leaves me with a sinking feeling as I try to come up with something different for each of them. My schedule is demanding and time constraints mean that I cannot dedicate hours

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upfront with paul

i’ll be back…

Modern communication tools are useful when you’re away from your family, but nothing beats

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Saskia, Paul and Sabina

hey say, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, but “they” also say “out of sight, out of mind.” I’m not so sure which “they” to believe. But, whether in a grown-up relationship or the relationship you have with your children, my take is it is better to be with the ones you love and not just loving any old ones you might be with.

It’s horrible being away from my daughters; it makes me realise how fast they are growing up, and how much of that I am missing. My eldest is now taller than her mom. The youngest is using big words like “communication.” And I’m missing the enormous amount of fun we used to have together…

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Even in this hi-tech age, “communication” can be complicated. Yes, Skype is absolutely brilliant. It’s incredibly reliable and the sound and picture quality, 90 percent of the time, is amazing. It’s like being in the same room. And it’s free. I remember, only a few years ago, travelling to London and needing to phone home in Cape Town, funnelling what felt like hundreds of pound coins into a public phone that seemed more like a one-armed bandit – and that was if you could find one that worked – only to hear a crackly voice at best and a crossed line with some Afrikaans dentist from Bloemfontein. I spent half of each R250 call saying, “pardon?”.

With the proliferation of mobiles, iPads and laptops there are hardly any public phone booths to be found anymore in Greater London, and the internet café has practically disappeared altogether as most coffee shops, restaurants, hotels and snack bars now provide free broadband as a matter of course. They even now have broadband available on the London underground, but that doesn’t help really. It is impossible to Skype when your nose is sticking into somebody else’s armpit. It is so disappointing though, when either party fails to make the promised rendezvous, albeit for a legitimate reason.

I’ve found that skyping from a coffee house is extremely hazardous. Waiters barking orders for a “Tall skinny strawberry and cream Frappuccino”, and baristas noisily banging the residual coffee out of the Espresso machine filter, continually

interrupt any intimate conversation. Then there is the time factor, especially if you are two hours behind. Will they be home after “hip-hop” and will they have time before “piano”? Or will they be having supper?

Or doing their homework? Can I finish my meeting and get across town in time?

Timing is everything.

No, the best solution is to return home as soon as possible and get back to a normal routine. I can’t wait to return to Cape Town and give them a big hug and tell them I love them, face-to-face. You can tell your children you love them a thousand times over text and in emails – which is better than not doing it – but you really need to tell them while giving them a hug. So, I’m going to steal Arnold Schwarzenegger’s immortal words in The Terminator: “I’ll be back…”

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talking face-to-face, says PAUL KERTON.

health

frosty bites If fresh, seasonal vegetables aren’t available, frozen veggies are a healthy alternative if cooked correctly. By Tamlyn Vincent

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s a mom, I want what is best for my family, and for years I have thought that this meant steering clear of the frozen foods section in the supermarket. But fresh vegetables and fruit aren’t always easy to find, and as it turns out, frozen vegetables can be a nutritious substitute.

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fresh is best Fresh vegetables and fruit are best, says Durban nutritionist Cathy Grundy. They provide us with vitamins and minerals, which help us stay healthy while warding off lifestyle diseases such as heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure, says Toni Smyth, a dietician in Cape Town. Fresh produce also tastes better, and can be eaten raw, something you probably don’t want to try with frozen carrots.

But Grundy points out that vegetables and fruit start to lose nutrient value from the moment they are picked. And when we buy them from the supermarket, we have no way of knowing how long produce has been out of the ground, or how long it has been on the shelf. These vegetables are also generally picked before they are ripe, especially

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if they are not in season, and may travel long distances before appearing on the supermarket shelves. Grundy adds that they often have lower nutrient content than vegetables picked at the height of the season, when they are ripe. “By the time vegetables are farmed, packaged, transported and appear on the supermarket shelves, they have been exposed to air and light, which degrades certain nutrients,” says Smyth. We also have no way of knowing what chemicals they have come into contact with to prevent them from spoiling, adds Grundy. The only way to be sure, is to grow your own vegetables.

frozen food But a variety of fresh, seasonal, local produce isn’t always available, especially in winter months. This is where frozen veggies come in handy. Vegetables destined for the freezer are picked at the height of the season when they are ripe, so nutrient value is at its peak, says Grundy. They are blanched, to get rid of any bacteria, and then frozen as quickly as possible. Smyth adds that frozen vegetables

retain their vitamins and minerals, so are often just as good nutritionally, as fresh vegetables. Another plus for frozen produce is that the preparation is already done.

Frozen vegetables do need to be stored and cooked correctly to ensure that you are getting all of the nutrients from them. They can usually be stored for eight to 12 months, says Grundy, but should be kept in a freezer at between -5ºC and -18ºC. Take out only the amount you need, to avoid defrosting and refreezing, and store the remaining vegetables in sealed freezer bags or containers. Cook the vegetables from frozen, says Smyth, and go easy on the temperature and cooking time, to avoid losing nutrients. If you’re boiling them, only use a little bit of water. Alternatively, you can try steaming, blanching, grilling or poaching the vegetables. Grundy recommends that you avoid produce that has additives. Sodium, or salt, may be added as a preservative, or food may come crumbed or battered, but these increase the fat content of the vegetables. Some vegetables that freeze well are peas, corn, carrots, beans, cauliflower, broccoli and Brussels sprouts.

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pregnancy news

shaping up Having a conditioned body means being at your best for your child. By LUCILLE KEMP

now that you’re pregnant If you weren’t exercising before you became pregnant, biokineticist Tara-Lee Morton recommends that you get clearance from your gynae or GP before beginning any form of exercise, and thereafter get a biokineticist or personal trainer on board to monitor you during workouts.

As a start-up, The American College of Sports Medicine suggests walking and swimming. They also say that ideally you should exercise indoors as it provides protection from extremes in temperature and air pollution. Even though active women, who are pregnant, can exercise as usual, they will need to modify their programme based on how

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they feel, and as pregnancy develops, bringing with it joint slackness and weight gain.

what to do?

Your aim should be to manage your weight, improve your strength and focus on your pelvic muscles. “Your pelvic floor exercises are a variety of “squeeze-and-lift” (or knyping) movements. For fitness and weight management, go for brisk walks, swim, spin or use the elliptical trainer at the gym. You may also use light weights to tone up,” says Tara.

Hayley points out that many of the exercises recommended during pregnancy can be performed incidentally. So, pelvic floor exercises can be performed while brushing your teeth, and foot and ankle exercises while sitting at your desk.

Hayley also advises practicing squatting and tailor sitting as these exercises will strengthen your thigh muscles and increase circulation to your pelvis, making the joints suppler.

Pilates- and yoga-based exercise programmes are great options along with using resistance bands and doing various exercises with a Swiss ball. Kegel exercises can be done on all fours in what is known as the “cat-cow” stretch, which also incorporates breathing techniques.

take care You can start walking today with minimal supervision, but Hayley offers a few important pointers: “walk tall with your buttocks tucked under your spine, your shoulders back and your head up, not hanging down. Ease up towards the end of pregnancy, though, to pre-empt backache.”

there is payoff Exercise relieves you of that clumsy, fat feeling, which rears its head particularly in the last trimester. Staying in condition during pregnancy also means that you should regain your normal shape within a shorter time after your baby’s birth.

Tara emphasises: “Exercise will reduce pregnancyrelated high blood pressure and diabetes, and improve muscle strength and fitness, which will help specifically during birth. It also improves flexibility, circulation and sleeping patterns; reduces muscle stiffness and soreness, and relieves stress; minimises lower-back pain and increases endorphin levels in the bloodstream.”

The payoff of a toned body continues into everyday life as a mother, remarks Hayley. “You’ll need a strong back and set of arms to carry your baby, push the pram about town and move heavy car seats.”

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ayley Alexander, a specialist in pregnancy and postnatal yoga, actively taught yoga classes until she was eight months pregnant and continued exercising and walking until she was past her due date.

Hayley’s children were born naturally, with no pain medication, and she attributes this to having conditioned her body and, in turn, her mind. “For me, getting ready to have a baby is like preparing to run an ultra-marathon; the pre-training is essential if you are going to succeed.”

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dad’s blog

peep show Parents can discipline their children without

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visit a local food market most Thursday evenings.

There are very good reasons for this weekly ritual.

It’s close to home, the beer and food are great, and I get to hang out with two dear friends, their young daughters (and their old dog). Last week we sat outside the venue, enjoying a mild evening while the throngs inside jostled for an empty spot at a table. It’s a popular event. While we chatted about this and that, their children played with a new friend they’d made that evening. I’m always amazed at how quickly children can befriend each other in an environment like this. Anyway, they found stairs nearby, which probably serve as a fire escape from the building, where they sat eating treats from the market. These stairs, however, also happen to

give one a limited view into the men’s bathroom, which we eventually realised after observing the girls peeping through a tiny slit of window. My mate is a very chilled dad with a great sense of humour, but not so chilled

That put an end to their fun, and the stairway peep show was summarily abandoned. Later, he gently explained why they shouldn’t really be gawking into restrooms, but there was no humiliating scolding (unless you count the possible humiliation of suddenly seeing their dad on the other side of the window). I’m not sure how I would have handled the situation if I was in his shoes, but I couldn’t have done it better than he did. One thing is for sure, I don’t think his girls are going to be peeping into bathroom windows anytime soon.

My mate is a very chilled dad with a great sense of humour, but not so chilled that he’d simply ignore Peeping Tom behaviour.

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that he’d simply ignore Peeping Tom behaviour. After chuckling about it, he snuck back into the hall and went to the men’s bathroom, suddenly appearing on the other side of the window that his daughters were peering into.

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humiliating them, says Marc de Chazal.

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probiotics: nature’s recipe

Probiotics can encourage the production of antibodies in babies and children, which can protect them from allergies and eczema, says Vanessa Papas.

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here is more to probiotics than stimulating the growth and activity of good bacteria in your child’s digestive system. New research confirms that probiotics are the only form of supplementation proven to benefit allergy sufferers and prevent eczema in babies.

“It’s important to understand the difference between probiotics and prebiotics,” says expert allergist Dr Adrian Morris, who specialises in the testing, diagnosis and treatment of allergies at the Allergy Clinic based in Cape Town, Durban and Joburg. “The word ‘probiotics’ literally means ‘for life’, and refers to living organisms that have a number of health benefits. They are ‘good bacteria’ that colonise our bowels and have an impact on gut immunity.

If your child is on antibiotics or has diarrhoea, this friendly bacteria is killed along with bad bacteria, so gut flora is depleted and pathogenic bacteria can take over, decreasing your child’s immune system and making them more susceptible to various sicknesses. A probiotic supplement is needed in these cases to restore ‘good bacteria’ in the gut.

Prebiotics, on the other hand, are short chain sugars that probiotics feed on, which is why it’s so important that your child has a balance of prebiotics and probiotics.”

New research suggests that the use of probiotics may decrease a baby’s risk of getting eczema and reduce the risk of allergic reactions. Baby eczema (also called atopic dermatitis) appears as red, crusty patches on your baby’s skin, often during their first few months. No one really knows what causes eczema, but it’s an immune system reaction that can be triggered by certain things, including allergies. Heredity is a big factor in whether or not an infant gets eczema. If a mom or dad has eczema, a baby is a lot more likely to develop it too. Allergies are triggered by foreign substances called “allergens”, which can be anything from dust and pet hair to foods and pollen. The most

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effective probiotics in allergy prevention are acidophilus and bifidobacteria – a group of bacteria that normally live in the intestines, but can be grown outside the body and then taken by mouth as medicine.

“Reuteri has the most research done on this group of bacteria (parents should beware of cheap replicas),” says Morris. “However, they have to be taken early to be of benefit in reducing your child’s risk of developing allergies. The pregnant mother should take them throughout pregnancy, so that during vaginal childbirth she actually inoculates her newborn. That’s why Caesarean babies are more prone to allergies as they don’t receive a dose of good bugs going down the birth canal. The probiotic supplements should then also be taken while breast-feeding and given in powder form to the newborn baby at risk of eczema.”

Morris adds that while natural yoghurt (labelled “live and active cultures”) and some types of cheeses have lactobacillus, which is considered to also have probiotic characteristics, these foods are derived from milk, which can aggravate allergies. This is why doctors recommend using a probiotic supplement instead.

get it naturally Foods that contain probiotics include live yoghurt and yoghurt drinks; fermented and unfermented milk; miso and tempeh, which are made from fermented soya beans; some juices and soya drinks. Foods that contain prebiotics include onions, bananas, barley, garlic, chicory, asparagus, artichokes, soya beans and oats. Breast milk naturally contains prebiotics, so a breast-fed baby will benefit.

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dealing with difference

what’s eating our children?

Children as young as seven are presenting with eating disorders. Know the signs and find

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help fast, writes Glynis Horning.

hile her nine-year-old Joburg classmates romped in the playground, planning playdates at pools and birthday parties, Sarah Taunton* mostly sat alone.

“I was always comparing myself to others and I felt fat and ugly,” she says. “I hated wearing a bathing costume or shorts, but I wasn’t even chubby. My mom ran a beauty salon and was always on a diet; she wouldn’t have sweet stuff in the house.

I’d buy chocolate at the tuck shop and gorge before I went home, or pig out at my grandmother’s, where I was spoilt. Then I felt gross, so I’d hardly eat. My mom was too busy to notice. By 13 I’d learnt from other girls to stick my fingers down my throat and throw up after bingeing.”

Today Sarah is 17 and only recently managed to stop this through an eating disorders programme. “It probably sounds pathetic, but food ruled my childhood.”

and “pro-mia” online groups that promote anorexia and bulimia. “It’s estimated that 70 percent of eating disorders are triggered by life events, including death, divorce, abuse, bullying, and parents’ attitudes to body shape, food and weight,” Attwell says.

Some children seem more prone to develop eating disorders under such pressures. “Current opinion is that there’s a large genetic predisposition, particularly to developing severe restricting anorexia nervosa and full-blown bulimia nervosa,” says Dr Pam Morris, a Durban clinical psychologist, with an interest in eating disorders. This is often linked to a genetic family history of eating disorders, anxiety and depressive disorders, obsessivecompulsive disorder (OCD) or perfectionists and even autism sufferers. It tends to show up around adolescence, when these children have difficulty making the changes required in the transition to adulthood.

The secretive nature of eating disorders makes statistics hard to establish, but a growing number of children are being treated. A study by the US Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality showed hospitalisation for eating disorders in under 12s rose 119 percent between 1999 and 2006. Grainne Attwell, consultant dietician at Riverview Manor treatment centre near Underberg, reports that according to the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, 10 percent of eating disorders are diagnosed in children aged 10 or younger. “These are diagnosed eating disorders with psychopathology.

‘Disordered eating’ rates may be higher,” she says.

reasons to digest The reasons are complex, from a history of being overweight in early childhood, to size six models, competition between friends who diet, access to social media at a young age, and the rise of “pro-ana”

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“Adolescents with a predisposition to eating disorders are more vulnerable to social pressures towards thinness. They begin to think that ‘fatness’ is the reason for their difficulties, and see ‘thinness’ as a handy and more tangible ‘solution’ for these underlying, complex human difficulties,” Morris says. The problem then “feeds on itself,” as restricting food intake may directly alter neuro chemicals and reduce anxiety. This encourages more food restriction, and eating becomes associated with loss of control or anxiety. Starvation also increases “obsessional focus” and hyperactivity, which “numbs” the brain and may be quite rewarding, so the cycle of restricting food continues.

Restricting food also lowers neuro chemicals that control appetite, which commonly results in a massive, physical urge to binge, Morris says. “This elicits extreme anxiety and the urge to compensate for these extra calories by vomiting, using laxatives, exercising or further starving, magazine joburg

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An eating disorder can become a habitual, dysfunctional way of coping with a variety of life problems.

which perpetuates the cycle in bulimia nervosa.” Vomiting may also increase production of “feel-good” neuro chemicals, which can give a sense of relief from unpleasant feelings and anxiety, and may become addictive. “The eating disorder becomes a habitual, dysfunctional way of coping with a variety of life problems.”

Personality too may play a part, and youngsters who are driven, disciplined high achievers with low self-esteem seem more at risk. More girls present than boys, though boys are now estimated to account for about one in four cases of disordered eating.

“What is sometimes called ‘manorexia’ often starts in primary school, with boys wanting to be big but lean for sport at high school,” says Durban dietician Kathy Krog.

“At high school it continues, not only for sport but to attract girls. They cut out fat, bulk up with powders and over exercise.”

unpalatable facts The body needs fat, which contributes 30 percent of its total energy, and a restrictive diet in childhood and adolescence can stunt growth, says Krog. “Girls’ greatest growth potential is age nine to 12. For boys it’s 15 to 17, but they can keep growing to 25.”

Eating disorders also bring irreversible, potentially life-threatening health problems.

Anorexia can damage the heart, liver and kidneys, delay or stop menstruation, and lead to hair loss, thin bones, lethargy, headaches, dizziness, concentration problems, moodiness and social withdrawal. Bulimia can damage the stomach and kidneys, and cause heart problems from electrolyte and salt imbalance. Purging expels potassium, the acid in vomit triggers tooth decay, and salivary glands can swell from excessive throwing up, causing “chipmunk cheeks”.

plan of action It’s essential to get help as early as possible, before the disordered eating habit becomes ingrained. “Tell the child you are concerned and are taking them to a professional,” advises Attwell. “They’ll usually be in denial. Remember that someone with an eating disorder is controlled by it and will do anything for it, including manipulating, cheating and hiding. Stay calm and firm, magazine joburg

and persevere with a multidisciplinary treatment plan including a psychologist, psychiatrist and family doctor.” Involve teachers or school counsellors too.

Treatment can be a long journey, usually centred on cognitive behaviour therapy for eating disorders (CBT-E), where the child learns to identify negative automatic thoughts and replace them with more balanced ones. Family therapy is also important, as the child will spend most of their time at home, and parents or siblings can have a negative or positive influence.

After two years of treatment both Sarah and her mother are eating a balanced diet, and their relationship has improved. But when a child is dangerously malnourished or severely depressed, they may need to be hospitalised. * Name has been changed

warning signs • P reoccupation with food, weight or diet • Avoiding meals or events where there is food • Going to the bathroom after meals (to purge) • Scarred knuckles (from using fingers to vomit) • Social withdrawal • Dramatic weight change • Obsessive exercise

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ave family meals at the table.

H Give healthy food choices.

Set an example in your eating.

Don’t label food “good” or “bad”.

D on’t use food to reward or punish.

Don’t put overweight children on diets (they may become obsessed with food).

Become an active family and encourage sport.

Praise children’s inner qualities rather than appearance.

Build self-esteem.

Teach ways for them to handle their emotions.

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conversations to have with your child Six topics most parents dread; TORI HOFFMANN prepares you for those difficult conversations you may have to have with your child.

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hen your child acts up, does something wrong, or is going through a tough time – a death in the family, divorce, or failure at school – it’s hard to know how to broach the subject with them. There’s already an issue at hand, and the last thing you want to do is make it worse. So, how do you respond in these tricky situations?

And what do you say – depending on the age of the child – to explain the situation?

lying and stealing Anyone who has a toddler will know that they often pick up toys from school and playdates and bring them home, only for you to find them in their pockets later. They’re not stealing, and if you ask them where they got it or whose it is, they won’t lie about it; they probably won’t even know. As a child starts to grow up and out of the toddler phase (under seven) it’s important to remain calm and to not overreact should you catch him lying and stealing, says Cape Town social worker in private practice, and author of the popular Boundaries series of books, Anne Cawood. “Often, if a parent is over-punitive regarding stealing, the child will add a lie to the situation. Avoid direct questions as far as possible – for example, do not say, ‘Did you take the toy?’ because the kneejerk reaction to this will often be ‘No’, so a lie is added,” urges Anne.

“Rather say, ‘I see that you have a toy that is not yours – we need to take this back.’ This makes it easier for the child to say something like, ‘I just wanted to play with it’,” she says.

Once you have returned what was “stolen”, Anne encourages parents to take the opportunity to give their children a bit of a lesson about what it feels like if things get taken from them and then make the consequence a firm but age-appropriate one. Being over harsh, she says, is only likely to entrench dishonest behaviour.

“In the case of an older child, remain calm, but very firm. Make it clear that there will be consequences for dishonest behaviour. Try to give a warning when it happens the first time and tell your child what will happen if it happens again, as problems can escalate when a child gets away with it because the parent is overprotective. When it becomes

an entrenched problem in an older child, seek professional help. Remember that children seldom lie when it’s safe to tell the truth.”

sex, drugs and alcohol In this age of explicit media, such as television, children learn far more about sex than they ever did before. For this reason, Anne maintains that it’s vital to start the “birds and the bees” conversation during the preschool years. She makes the point, though, that it’s not to be a one-off conversation, but one that’s ongoing. “It’s a good idea to begin very simply with a basic book such as Mummy Laid an Egg by Babette Cole (Random House) or Where Did I Come From by Peter Mayle (Carol Publishing Corporation).

This will deal with the basics such as babies grow from a seed in Mommy’s tummy. Later the child will ask how it got in there and so it will develop. “Parents need to answer honestly.

If you don’t, your child will just ask someone at school who might give her the answers in a way you wouldn’t want.

“Some parents wait for the child to ask and they never do. This doesn’t mean that they are not interested – they may simply not feel confident to bring it up with you. In this case, make sure that you do bring it up with them. I tell parents not to allow a child to start Grade 1 without some knowledge.”

What’s important to remember is that this is part of your ongoing relationship with your child: to help the child feel safe and secure in asking and discussing these sensitive issues with you. As your child gets older, buy good books such as Teen Guide to Sex and Relationships by Jess C Scott (Createspace) on sex education and allow them to read them when they feel the need.

“The same principles apply to drugs and alcohol. Make sure your children have the facts and that you also establish very firm boundaries from a young age. Children will experiment because it’s part of the teen stage. But they will seldom fall prey to ongoing abuse of substances if you remain in touch with them, and ensure that the rules are clear and they know what the consequences of breaking the rules will be.”

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Too many families play ‘games’ like the game of ‘lets all pretend that nothing is happening’, which takes emotional and physical energy that would be better utilised for coping with the traumatic event positively.

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Children are far more switched on than we often give them credit for.

death and divorce “Talking about death and divorce is far more challenging,” cautions Cawood, adding that the main principle is to be age appropriate, honest and open because children are far more switched on than we often give them credit for. They pick up the vibes and hear our conversations. “Many parents come to me and find it very hard to actually use the dreaded ‘D’ words. But it’s vital that they hear these words from you, the people they trust most. They do not need to hear all the adult issues or the emotionally laden truth. But they are resilient (more so than we like to think) and benefit from hearing the truth as soon as possible. They may be devastated, but it’s wrong not to tell them in the mistaken belief that they cannot handle it. Too many families play ‘games’ like the game of ‘lets all pretend that nothing is happening’, which takes emotional and physical energy that would be better utilised for coping with the traumatic event positively, openly and honestly.” Families need to learn to keep the channels of communication effective and use empathy and age-appropriate common sense. Always turn to the professionals in cases of indecision, Cawood stresses.

one mom’s story about divorce When Janine Dunlop and her husband split up, they decided not to immediately tell their children that they were going to get divorced. They themselves didn’t know what the future would hold and they didn’t want to give their children too much information. At the time, their children were nine, six and four years old, and old enough to understand what was going on. However, a conversation about Dad moving to a new house was necessary. “We told our children together, over an amicable family picnic on the lounge floor, that their dad was going to live in another house, but that he would visit a lot, and once he found a house to live in permanently, they would be able to go and stay in that house too. It didn’t come as too much of a shock to them. Our older two told me afterwards that they expected it, because my ex-husband and I had been fighting so much. While we expected a lot of tears, they handled it very well and I think they appreciated our honesty, being treated like adults, and that we put them first. Their biggest concerns were practical issues such as how would they get to and from school (their dad doesn’t drive) and where would they put all of their stuff, but that was soon resolved,” explains Janine.

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a family dealing with death Telling your children about the death of anyone they are close to can be an exceptionally hard thing to do. Trying to remain strong while you yourself are falling apart is no easy task.

“But what if you don’t have to? What if you grieve with them?” asks Louise de Lucchi, who lost her husband to a heart attack when he was 48 and her children were four, five and seven years old.

“My husband passed away suddenly in the middle of the night. In the short time that I was gone to find help, my two older children – who’d woken up – had seen for themselves that their dad had died, and it wasn’t something that I had to sit down and tell them,” says Louise. That said, on the night it happened, Louise’s aunt still took the children downstairs and explained to them right away what had happened. She told them that their dad had gone to heaven. “We didn’t just leave it at that one conversation though to sweep it under the carpet. We kept talking about it; and six years later, we still talk about it.

“In that first week, my mother and family members were around us the entire time, and there was a lot of buffering. If I couldn’t handle the situation, then somebody would take the children and talk to them. My aunt, who is a minister, spoke to them about their father being like a dragonfly, watching them all the time. Because she related it to something physical and something they could understand, it helped them. I also let them see me cry and get angry. That way, they knew that it was okay to cry and get angry too. You can’t disguise it, you can’t play it down and you have to be honest with them and let them vent.

Children aren’t stupid.”

seek help SA Depression and Anxiety Group Contact: 011 262 6396, 0800 205 026 or visit sadag.co.za for grief support Childline Contact: 0800 055 555 or visit childline.org.za (they have a facility whereby a child can speak to them online via Mxit) Lifeline Contact: 082 231 0805 or visit lifeline.org.za Sanca National Directorate (South African National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence) Contact: 086 147 2622 (SANCA), sancanational@telkomsa.net or visit sancanational.org

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spring break It’s time to pack away the winter woollies and spruce up the house.

ANÉL LEWIS suggests six ways to get your children in on the cleaning action.

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finders keepers

Make a “treasure box” from an old cardboard box or a wash basket and send your child to collect items that have rolled under the couch or behind cupboards. You can offer prizes for the explorer who collects the most items.

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Nothing gets children moving like a good tune, so why not clean to music? Let them choose the songs and turn your cleaning into a dance-athon. You could also set a time limit, and give everyone 10 minutes to clean a particular room. The beat will make the race more entertaining.

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Give each child an apron, gloves, an old cloth and a bottle filled with non-toxic cleaning fluid. Choose a leader and get that child to walk through the house, stopping once they find something that needs cleaning. The others walking behind must stop and help with the same task. Give each child a turn to be in front.

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t’s never too soon to start teaching children about the importance of a good spring-clean. Get the younger ones started by assigning simpler tasks that can be completed fairly quickly. Remember that while some things may not get done perfectly, your children will enjoy just being part of the big clean-up. And, as Mary Poppins said, “In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun. You find the fun, and – SNAP! – the job’s a game.”

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Try setting up a detective game for older children.

Get them to go through your cupboards and fridge to find items that have expired. They can also be set out on an alphabet challenge. Ask them to arrange your spice rack in alphabetical order, or organise your cereal boxes alphabetically according to their name.

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If you have hardwood floors, get your children to don old socks that they can use to “skate” on the surface. They will burn off excess energy while you get your floors shined. Just make sure the area is safe and that they can’t hurt themselves on sharp edges. Maybe even get them to wear head gear. You could also turn your laundry basket or bin into a basketball “hoop”. Your little helpers won’t even realise that each “goal” they score is actually another item that has been picked up off the floor.

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Older children may be reluctant to sort through their cupboards, so offer an incentive that will also enable them to give back to a worthy cause. For every box of clothing or toys they collect and donate to a charity, they will get a new item of clothing or some other reward.

safety first It’s not advisable to let younger children work with detergents and other hazardous household cleaners. Instead, opt for everyday items that you can find in your cupboards, such as vinegar, baking soda and lemon juice. Vinegar is a natural deodoriser and can be used as a fabric softener. A vinegar and water spray can be used to clean your countertops and floors, while baking soda can be used instead of chemical scouring agents. Lemon juice is a great cleaner for brass and copper. You could also use non-toxic or green cleaning agents for your spring-clean.

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sometimes growing up is sore to do

aching legs The general consensus is that growing pains usually occur from the ages of two to 12 and are slightly more common in girls. However, Ashberg’s practice sees mostly boys between the ages of five and seven with this complaint.

“There are a few theories about what causes growing pains, but the most credible one seems to be the overuse of developing muscles during the day,” he says. “Children of this age are very active, and this is likely the reason why they may experience pain in their legs, especially in the late afternoon and at night. But I would hesitate to say that growing pains are very common or a normal part of growing up. Far fewer children suffer from them than you would think.”

Growing pains are different from leg cramps, which tend to be related to a muscle spasm. They are often described by children as an ache or throb in their legs, although children don’t always describe pain accurately.

Some children may also complain of headaches and abdominal pain. If there is persistent pain that just won’t let up, your child may have something more serious than growing pains. You should be concerned if the pain is accompanied by other symptoms, such as swelling, redness, or if it’s located in the joints or associated with an injury.

Poor posture may also cause pain. “Standing, sitting or walking awkwardly puts greater-than-usual strain on the supporting muscles of the body,” explains Brandon Maggen, a Cape Town-based podiatrist. “Sometimes, children whose feet pronate may have more trouble with pain than other children.”

Growing pains do not affect how a child walks and runs and they do not make a child sick. “If your child is limping, is complaining of pain during the day, is unwell or if their leg is sore to touch, you need to get your child checked by a doctor or podiatrist,” advises Maggen. Your health-care practitioner may then suggest blood tests and X-rays to get to the bottom of it.

Unfortunately, there is no specific treatment for growing pains, but gentle massage of a child’s sore legs reportedly helps, as do heating pads. Maggen adds that plenty of hugs and copious amounts of assurance by parents are really important. Pain relief medication such as ibuprofen may be prescribed, but Ashberg cautions against aspirin, which has been known to result in serious childhood diseases such as Reye’s syndrome.

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rapid growth

What’s it all about?

MARC DE CHAZAL explores the mystery of growing pains, shin splints, aching legs and rapid growth.

Growth spurts can be described as periods of rapid growth, often attributed to middle adolescence when the body produces a large amount of growth hormones. A child’s growth is not always steady and even, but tends to occur in spurts. Ashberg points out that the biggest growth spurt occurs in utero. After a child is born, we then see significant growth spurts taking place until the age of two. A child’s growth tends to plateau between the ages of two and five. “We see children between ages five and 10 maintaining a fairly even growth chart, and then the next big spurt occurs around the 10- and 11-year-old mark,” he says.

In between these spurts, growth continues, but less visibly. “During the prepubescent years, the extremities of the body grow faster than the torso, giving children a long-legged appearance,” explains Maggen. “As their bones grow, they pull the tendons and muscles along, and the ligaments to which the bones are attached become stretched.”

The emphasis to push children of early primary school age into organised sports from a younger age is of more concern to Ashberg. “We are seeing an increase in sportsrelated injuries in this age group, which should be more of a worry to us than growing pains,” he says.

If you are taking your child for regular medical checkups, you should only be concerned if your child falls off their growth chart in a drastic way. Ashberg points out that there may be various neurological reasons for a child’s delayed growth milestones. There may also be hormonal imbalances resulting in a child being smaller than usual. In these instances you will be referred to a paediatric endocrinologist if your doctor suspects this to be the problem. However, sometimes the slower growth of your child may be quite normal. “The key thing here is obvious, dramatic change.

Your child can’t choose his parents; so if your family is generally on the shorter side, this may well be the reason for your child’s seemingly slower growth,” says Ashberg.

shin splints Shin splints, or medial tibial stress syndrome (MTSS), is associated with strenuous activity. Stopstart sports such as squash and tennis and running on hard surfaces are often the cause of shin splints.

“What is essentially happening here is irritation where muscle attaches to bone because of too much pressure or impact,” says Dr Lyall Ashberg, a paediatric orthopaedic surgeon. “The pain described is similar to growing pains, but we tend to see this complaint among adolescents far more than younger children.”

The best treatment for shin splints is rest.

Podiatrist Brandon Maggen also recommends ice packs, supportive shoes for specific sports and physiotherapy.

“All children and young athletes recover from an injury at a different rate, and a return to activities is determined by how each particular child’s leg recovers,” he says. “In general, the longer symptoms are present before treatment is started, the longer it will take to get better.”

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f your child is younger than 13 and has woken up crying in the middle of the night because of pain in both his legs, he might be suffering from a phenomenon called “growing pains”. Medical science has made remarkable advancements in our lifetime, but we don’t have the answer for everything just yet. Growing pains are a bit of a mystery. Doctors don’t know exactly what causes them or how to cure them. Thankfully, they’re not life-threatening and they generally disappear when children become teenagers.

“It’s really a misnomer,” explains Dr Lyall Ashberg, a paediatric orthopaedic surgeon in Cape Town. “There is no medical evidence to suggest that growth causes pain, but we call them ‘growing pains’ because it commonly affects young children. The best we can do is rule out more serious problems and then help parents to manage their children’s pain.”

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what your nanny is thinking Your domestic helper probably spends more time with your children than you do, but are you treating her fairly? ANÉL LEWIS speaks to two women about their experiences and asks the experts for advice.

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thel*, who works in Joburg, has been looking after her employer’s children for over seven years. When she started, there was just one baby. Now there are three children, including a toddler. As the domestic helper, Ethel must care for the children, drive them to school and to doctors’ appointments and prepare their meals. She also cleans the house, but she says she gets no acknowledgement for the work she does. “They have no respect for me,” says Ethel. She says that despite spending several years looking after her employers’ most precious possessions – their children – they still don’t trust or treat her with the respect she feels she is owed. While there are plenty of courses for domestic helpers to improve their role in the home, there are no similar courses for employers, says Ethel.

Cape Town-based Mabel* has also had her fair share of juggling cleaning responsibilities with childminding. In her previous job, she looked after a four-year-old boy who was still in nappies. He was quite a demanding child, but despite this, she tried her best to keep the house tidy. However, her employers were not understanding, and would berate her for not doing her work properly. In her new position, she feels more content. Her employer understands that if the children are needy that day, it may not always be possible to get all the housework done. Mabel feels she can talk to her present employers about her needs, and ask for help if she feels she can’t complete everything.

• G et to know your domestic helper on a personal level. Communication is important.

• While you need to point out any problems, try to encourage and motivate your domestic helper. Continuous criticism is bad for morale.

• Don’t be unreasonable in the workload you expect her to get through. If you would not be able to cope, understand that she may battle too.

• Don’t keep reminding her of all the things you have done for her.

• Build a relationship where you can talk about problems and concerns. It is not just about the money you pay her, but about the respect you show her. “Actions speak louder than words,” says Ethel.

• If your domestic helper can look after your children, take the time to take an interest in hers. Often domestic helpers are forced to leave their children with other carers in another city or country. Be sensitive to this. “The love that I should be giving to my children, I am giving to theirs,” says Ethel.

• Don’t talk to her like a child. Listen to her grievances and respect her as you would others.

• Sign a contract at the start to formalise employment conditions and responsibilities, working hours and salary. This will prevent arguments and disappointment later on. * Names have been changed

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Ethel and Mabel offer employers who have domestic helpers the following advice:

what your domestic helper may be too nervous to ask: 1 Nutritious food Food is a basic necessity and domestic helpers don’t always have time to cook decent meals for themselves, says Angela Njazi, owner of Amazing Maids. Try to have accessible nutritious food options available in your kitchen and tell her about them.

2 A break in the day Domestic helpers have long standing hours and they need a chance to rest, says Angela. She also recommends not asking your domestic helper to do all the hard jobs in one day. It’s not easy on their bodies, so take this into consideration, especially if she is 40 or older.

3 A pay increase As an employer you are required to increase your domestic helper’s pay annually. She may be reluctant to ask, because she is worried you’ll replace her or you’ll send your child to daycare, says Angela. For more guidelines read: labour.gov.za/legislation/sectoral-determinations/sectoraldetermination-7-domestic-workers 4 Having her own family Your employee has perhaps sacrificed a lot in order to become a domestic helper, says Angela. For example, they may be worried that they won’t be hired or that you won’t want to keep employing them if they have children of their own, as children come with responsibilities.

5 Working hours and holiday time Be sympathetic about your domestic helper’s day. Take into account the number of hours she is working and how long it takes her to commute, especially if she’s accommodating your work schedule.

Discuss with your domestic helper when she would like to take a holiday. If there’s an overlap with your own, come up with a fair compromise.

6 Discipline It’s important that you’re both on the same page, says Karin Thomsen of Super Nannies. If you have not discussed this already, then it’s a good idea that you do. She won’t know what is expected and acceptable if you don’t tell her.

7 General parenting and care-related questions We’re not all doctors. Karin points out that sometimes dealing with colic, hiccups, fevers, and allergies aren’t that straightforward. Provide her with as much information as possible.

Angela and Karin’s advice on how to approach your domestic helper if she seems unhappy 1 Promote an ongoing relationship with communication.

2 Give her time to approach you.

3 Don’t be overly direct by asking her why she’s sulking.

4 Create a calm atmosphere. Ask someone to watch your child, and take your domestic helper out onto the terrace with some tea or coffee so she feels comfortable to open up.

four things you may be nervous to ask your domestic helper and ways to avoid awkwardness 1 Absences For example, if she is consistently late, ask her if she has a backup caregiver when her child is sick, says Karin.

2 Health questions Legally there are certain health issues that you are not allowed to ask about, such as her HIV-status. However, it’s important to ask about her TB-status as it’s an airborne disease, says Karin. You can check if anyone they spend a lot of time with has had it. It’s also okay to ask general health questions about diabetes and allergies. If you feel uncomfortable asking, there are other ways of judging someone’s general health. See how they look physically, says Angela, or ask their previous employer how often they called in sick.

3 Reading level You can ask her if she can read but, if it’s too awkward, ask her what level of education she achieved, says Karin. Another option is to ask her to fill out a form and see how well she does, advises Angela.

4 Tardiness If she is continuously late, ask her how she gets to work. Be understanding and try to come up with alternative options together, says Karin.

She also recommends keeping the lines of communication open. Does she have a backup phone she can use to call you? Can you supply her with a cellphone for this purpose? Be accommodating.

Angela Njazi started working as a domestic helper at the age of 16. She got her first Cape Town job through a domestic placement agency that she saw advertised in Child magazine. She has since combined her knowledge as a domestic helper and her education in HR to start Amazing Maids, a Cape Town-based domestic placement agency.

Karin Thomsen, co-founder and first-aid trainer of Super Nannies, has been in the South African domestic training and placement industry since 2006.

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read to write In the world of technology, it’s not always easy getting our children interested in literature.

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arper Lee, author of To Kill a Mockingbird once said: “Until I feared I would lose it, I never loved to read. One does not love breathing.”

How do we get today’s techno junkies to read a book and to discover the amazing world of tales in words? Jay Heale, author of Hooked on Books (Metz Press), offers the following advice: start creating a

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book-friendly home before your child is born. Heale reminds us that babies learn by seeing, hearing and copying. “They [babies] don’t need formal lessons. They absorb the world around them. They copy your sounds and your actions as best they can. If sitting down with one of those strange book-things looks like fun, then they want to do the same,” writes Heale.

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MARINA ZIETSMAN helps to inspire you.

readers make better students If you are still not convinced about the importance of reading, then maybe this truth will help: students that were fortunate enough to develop an appetite for reading as children are the ones that cope better academically.

Elizabeth Wasserman is a pathologist in private practice and extraordinary professor in the Division of Medical Microbiology at the University of Stellenbosch. She is also the author of the very popular series for eight to 11 year olds, Anna Atoom and Speurhond Willem, of which the latter has now been translated into English as Dogtective William. Wasserman says, “Although my specialty is medical microbiology and infectious diseases, I have a keen interest in education and have always been fascinated by whatever it may be that determines the success of my students as undergraduates and postgraduates. My observations are that students who are keen

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readers, and read on a broad variety of subjects, are generally better able to cope with the challenges of higher studies.”

“The ability to read with speed and a good grasp of content is of course essential, but some ‘softer’ skills also appear to be enhanced in the well-read student: they are able to integrate new learning into a broad framework of reference, and they are able to transfer skills and knowledge from one topic to another,” Wasserman adds.

She says readers solve problems more efficiently, and often more creatively. “Information nowadays is an open commodity, and this makes the mere memorisation of facts obsolete. I have heard it said that the current challenge is to be able to analyse and integrate content to create new knowledge. Talent or so-called ‘intelligence’ helps, but you need a highly trained and very fit brain to master these skills,” she concludes.

reluctant readers Claire Montague-Fryer, a Cape Town mom of three, has worked as a senior children’s bookseller and buyer for leading South African retailers for almost 20 years and is currently the website and content manager for Reader’s Warehouse. She has vast experience in getting reluctant readers interested in books. “The main reason for these children being reluctant readers is a lack of confidence in reading, and it’s a catch-22 situation; the less confident you feel while reading, the less you will read and practice and never improve,” says Claire. The term “reluctant reader” can refer to children who are behind their peers at school on reading level, children who see reading as “uncool”, children who can only focus on one specific activity or sport, and children who are not exposed to reading.

“Most reluctant readers are boys,” says Claire, “so the impetus lies with male role

models to encourage reading and you’ll have to show them that books are exciting: make the noises and jump around.” Claire says that today there are amazing series of children and young adult’s books available, far more so than when we were growing up, both in quality and range. Taboo subjects are empathetically handled, without patronising the reader. And the humble comic book has given birth to the underrated genre of the graphic novel, which is perfect for a reluctant reader, as often the content and illustrations are on par with an older reader’s age. “The main problem for reluctant readers is that often the content doesn’t match their age. For example, a 12-year-old boy is now beyond the humour in Captain Underpants, even though the reading level is right for him.

The graphic novel, on the other hand, can make up by offering suitable content,” Claire points out.

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often notice something new in the story

in the house and read them

or have a new question, which can

yourself. It doesn’t have to be a

result in a completely silly or meaningful

novel; it can be a magazine, the

conversation,” Claire advises. It also

newspaper or an e-book. You cannot

instils confidence, in that the child will

force a love of literature, but you can

know he is capable of reading it himself

certainly give them a love and

(as he has now heard it often enough).

appreciation of the written word.

it’s never too late If you’ve missed the step of getting your baby or toddler interested in books, says Claire, there is still time to encourage a love of reading. “You need to practice reading at home, without it seeming like homework. This is where the role of the recommended reading list becomes invaluable; where you need to tap into what his interests are.” If you have a reluctant teenage reader, tap into their world, and invest in an appropriate e-book.

Claire’s recommended graphic novels for reluctant readers Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer (from age 12) Artemis Fowl series by Eoin Colfer (from age 12) Alex Rider series by Anthony Horowitz (from age 10) Tintin by Herge (from age 6) Asterix and Obelix by Rene Goscinny and Albert Uderzo (from age 12) Sandman series by Neil Gaiman (from age 11)

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support and inspiration Nal’ibali This is a national reading-for-enjoyment campaign to spark children’s potential through storytelling and reading. Their goal is to create a general awareness of the critical link between reading for enjoyment and educational achievement through mass media and face-to-face engagement. Visit nalibali.org Reading Association of South Africa Their aim is to bring together individuals and organisations who are committed to the study and teaching of reading and writing. They are affiliated to the International Reading Association (IRA), and are dedicated to promoting teaching and research in reading and writing at all levels of South African society. Visit rasa.uce.ac.za Biblionef SA Their vision is to donate appropriate books to all under-resourced children in their mother tongue. Visit biblionefsa.org.za Early Learning Resource Unit (Elru) This non-profit development and research group is a national organisation working in under-resourced urban and rural areas to increase access to, and improve quality in, early childhood development services and programming.

First Words in Print Their aim is to promote a culture of reading among very young children and their caregivers, and contribute towards children’s literacy development. All First Words in Print books are written, illustrated and published

by South Africans. They also have numerous other projects. Visit nlsa.ac.za The South African Children’s Book Forum This is an independent, non-profit organisation (NPO) which seeks to publicise and support quality books for young readers, especially in South Africa. Visit sacbf.org.za The International Board on Books for Young People (IBBY) This is a non-profit organisation that represents an international network of people from all over the world, who are committed to bringing books and children together.

Visit ibby.org Puku This is a weekly online literary newspaper focused on children’s literature, education and literacy in southern Africa. Among the aims of this newspaper is to build up a transparent, regularly updated and accurate database of reviews of recreational and educational books and resources for African parents, teachers and librarians in all South African official languages. Visit puku.co.za

To download recommended reading lists for different ages, visit childmag.co.za/ content/reading-lists

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moms who pop pills Juggling the complexities of parenthood, work and social life are far from “child’s play”. FRANÇOISE GALLET investigates prescription drug abuse and how some parents are relying on pills in order to function.

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Siphokazi Dada, a scientist from the Medical Research Council’s (MRC) Alcohol and Drugs Research Unit, says older females around the age of 40 tend to be the majority of people who report over-the-counter and prescription drug addiction.

It seems that some mothers are reaching for a pharmacological solution to cope with the toll taken by the demands of modern living and parenthood. Rozelda Rabie, a Joburg general practitioner, finds that parents are more stressed, especially older women for whom the arrival of the first child is a huge adjustment to their established lifestyle and career. Pretoria psychiatrist Nazmeera Khamissa mentions that it is also the stay-at-home

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hen Shirley Phillips* (42) thinks back over the last 16 years of her parenting she is filled with a sense of loss. “There are so many things that I missed. I felt like I wasn’t there.” Seven months ago, Shirley admitted herself to a drug addiction rehabilitation centre to help battle her addiction to codeine – an addiction that began when she started using Nurofen and Syndol for period-pain relief. Shirley always saw drug addiction involving marijuana, cocaine or heroin abuse. She had no idea how easily she – a mother, designer, sister, daughter, wife – could fall into the trap of addiction to over-the-counter or prescription medicine.

mother who puts herself under pressure to fulfil the role of perfect mother that she has a higher tendency to resort to over-the-counter medication or abuse prescription drugs as a means to cope.

According to Pretoria-based clinical psychologist Dr Colinda Linde there seems to be a trend among women facing these sorts of pressures toward using pain medication or anything containing codeine. “They say it takes the edge off, when they are having a rough day,” she says. Linde also finds that many of the women she sees, who selfmedicate, are quite open about using medicine as a quick fix as they haven’t got time to sit and deal with the stress and pressures of their situation.

Sharing and word of mouth play a role too. “People share medication – someone who has found a medicine useful will share it with a family member or friend with similar symptoms,” adds Sorika de Swart, marketing and training consultant at Elim Clinic Professional Addiction Treatment Centre in Joburg.

As a mother, and woman in her forties, Shirley can relate. She believes that women of her generation have a lot to deal with and that she has noticed how a number of her friends are self-medicating.

Because it is all too easy to fall into the trap of addiction, Shirley has taken to informing her doctor of her addiction and blacklisting herself at pharmacies. Dr Johann Kruger, president of the Pharmaceutical Society of South Africa, explains just why Shirley’s efforts are important. “Unfortunately, there is currently no central registry system linking all pharmacists and doctors, and giving all these professionals access to an individual’s medication history. There is therefore nothing to stop them from going from pharmacy to pharmacy, or from doctor to doctor, to get either supplies or prescriptions.” Dr Brendan Belsham, a child psychiatrist and author elaborates, “Each doctor might prescribe a painkiller in good faith, completely unaware of how many colleagues have been consulted that very week. I have had several instances of

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mothers abusing their child’s Ritalin medication, repeatedly requesting new scripts under the guise that the script was lost or the medication mislaid.”

the numbers While Cathy Karassellos, a clinical psychologist and manager of the Cape Town Drug Counselling Centre, agrees that “we live in a society that puts a lot of trust in medication to solve problems”, she believes over-the-counter and prescription drug abuse is an ongoing phenomenon. “There is no sudden increase,” she says.

Findings from the MRC’s research into alcohol and drug abuse in 2006 and again in 2012 offers support for this. “About four percent of people, who are admitted for substance abuse treatment including other drugs, are primarily dependent on over-the-counter or prescription medication. The figures remain fairly the same even today,” explains

signs that you or a loved one may be abusing medication • • • • • •

The use of medication is becoming a focal point in your life.

You lie about how much or how regularly you use medication.

You make sure that you always have this medication at hand, just in case.

You take higher doses than the label says.

You experience severe mood swings.

You pretend to lose medication or prescriptions to be able to get more scripts.

• You seek scripts from various doctors or various pharmacies to hide the extent of your use.

• You’ve tried to stop or use less but found it to be too difficult.

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Dada of the MRC. However, she adds that the only data available is solely from those who access specialist addiction treatment centres. And so, while it may seem that “there are few people who abuse or depend on over-the-counter or prescription medication, many people may not be aware that they are dependent on them and therefore do not seek help,” she explains.

dangers and effects on family De Swart explains how the use of medicine, such as sedatives and tranquilisers; opioid painkillers and stimulants, such as diet pills, can become problematic. “Using over-thecounter and prescription medicine is perfectly okay and necessary for our health, but only if used by the person it was prescribed for, for the recommended duration only and in the right dosage and frequency. The moment you use more, or for a longer period, you are entering a danger zone.” As a social worker with 15 years of experience in the field of addiction, she has found that because medication is accessible and people think it is safe and legal, this form of addiction is particularly insidious. “Many who are addicted to painkillers were prescribed this for a valid physical health reason. They may still have chronic pain and because they build up a tolerance, they need to continue to take more and more of the same medication,” she says.

By the time Shirley sought professional help, she was moving from over-the-counter “uppers” to “downers” just to get through the day. “You think you are doing everyone a favour by taking a pill because you are ‘coping’ but you are not really emotionally present,” she says. “I thought I was docile and in control but I was really on an emotional rollercoaster.

It created huge insecurity and uncertainty in my children.” Shirley is determined to reclaim her life, but it isn’t easy. She has had to work hard on regaining her family’s trust.

De Swart elaborates further on the impact of medication abuse on the family. “Parents who misuse medication are often not very involved in the lives of their children. They may sleep a lot, neglect to cook or nurture their children. The physical and emotional absence can have a severe effect on the attachment between parent and child. This in turn may lead to serious problems for the child in later life,” she says.

underlying issues Prescribed painkillers and sleeping tablets helped businessman and father Dominic Moore* (46) cope with debilitating back pain, and this was how he slipped into addiction.

Insomnia and chronic back pain kept driving him to seek a repeat for his prescription until he had built up a dependency. And then the traumatic and premature birth of his son was the “seed” for the onset of an undiagnosed depression – a factor that increased his vulnerability to addiction. Likewise, Shirley also battled an undiagnosed depression.

Despite the stress that parenthood brings with it, Karassellos cautions against attributing a cause-and-effect link between the stress of parenting and a tendency towards the abuse of prescription or over-the-counter drugs. With 28 years experience in drug addiction, her view is that most people take various pills occasionally and handle this well. “Those with a tendency towards addictive disorders will be the ones to develop

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are you down?

The South African Depression and Anxiety Support Group (sadag.org) shares some common symptoms of depression: • Persistent sad, or an “empty” mood • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities that were once enjoyed, including sex • Feelings of hopelessness and pessimism • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness and self-reproach • Insomnia or hypersomnia, early morning awakening or oversleeping • Decreased energy, fatigue and feeling run down • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders and chronic pain

dependency on the pills,” she says. Khamissa agrees and stresses that the challenges of parenting don’t imply a blanket vulnerability to substance abuse, as everyone’s perception of stress differs. She suggests that a predisposition for developing emotional disorders, such as anxiety and depression, is a factor that makes someone more vulnerable to selfmedicating and hence abuse.

“Mental illness can lead to substance misuse and substance use in turn, worsens or alters the course of a person’s mental state,” adds De Swart.

Ironically, in instances where there is an underlying anxiety or depression, the correct and appropriate use of medication, monitored by a professional, could make a world of difference. “There are times when it is appropriate for a parent to take prescriptions to address debilitating symptoms in order to become a better parent or spouse, to the benefit of everyone in the home. I have often recommended just this,” explains Belsham.

Both Dominic and Shirley are zealous that others, who might be in similar situations, understand that a pill will never “fix” what they are trying to cope with. Joburg child psychiatrist David Benn adds, “Anxiety or depression can never possibly have one cause.

Therefore it follows that there is never only one solution. Thus, if medication is used, it should be used for specific conditions that are known to respond to those medications and then almost always with other interventions like counselling and psychotherapy.”

Shirley and Dominic cite the diagnosis of an underlying mental illness as being the starting point in their journey to recovery. Finding their way to coping drug-free with stress has meant seeking professional psychiatric help and regular counselling. For Dominic it has also meant professionally managing the medication for his anxiety and depression.

Rabie urges parents – overly stressed or not – to look to support each other. We need to understand the complex emotional and physical factors that topple individuals, vulnerable to addiction, into dependence. We need to see pill popping as a cry for help.

“It’s not about judging; it’s about standing together,” she counsels. * Names have been changed.

drugs commonly misused or abused From Sorika de Swart (Elim Clinic Professional Addiction Treatment Centre) • Opioids or painkillers – prescribed for pain relief including hydrocodone, morphine, fentanyl and codeine • Central nervous system depressants – barbiturates and benzodiazepines prescribed for anxiety or sleep problems, often referred to as sedatives and tranquilisers, such as Xanax, Valium and Librium • Stimulants such as Ritalin, Adderall and Dexedrine. Appetite suppressants containing ephedrine are also often misused.

serotonin Child psychiatrist David Benn sheds some light on serotonin “Serotonin is a neurotransmitter substance found in the central nervous system. It is one of a large number of substances that transmit messages between nerve cells via a microscopic space called the synapse. It is well known that there are deficiencies of Serotonin in these tiny post-synaptic spaces, particularly in mood disorders like depression and anxiety. In anxiety other substances are also implicated like noradrenaline and norepinephrine.

Anti-depressants, which are not addiction-forming substances, restore the normal levels of these substances in those post-synaptic spaces.”

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a click away Online shopping is fast, convenient and helps you stay on top of life,

getting organised ilovestuff.co.za They offer products for the home, mom, dad, children, which include toys and decor, and the pets. If you’re stuck for ideas on what to buy someone, you’ll also find gift suggestions. neatfreakshop.co.za Organise your home spaces and your life, with products for the office, kitchen, children’s rooms and more.

Diaries, planners and bags also help make life a little easier. You can also shop for gifts and get gift inspiration. thegreenshop.co.za The focus is on green home products, including solar and LED lighting, green pet products, cleaning products and items for the garden. Gift ideas and toys are available. yuppiechef.com Whether you’re mixing, grating, baking or chopping, you’ll find the right tool for the job here. Plus you’ll find appliances, crockery, cutlery and more, and special children’s kitchen utensils.

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groceries freshearth.co.za Organic groceries and other eco-friendly products are delivered to major centres around South Africa.

Find everything from baby foods to sugar alternatives and pet-care products. gourmetfoodshop.co.za Get deli type foods and condiments delivered. They offer a wide range of cheeses, meats, sweets,

coffees and more. Based in Joburg, they deliver fresh foods in this city, but anything else can be delivered nationwide. pnponline.co.za Buy fresh and frozen products, items from the bakery or butchery, and other groceries. Additional categories include “health”, “stationery” and “home”. thrupps.co.za Account holders can order online from the selection of poultry, meats,

cheeses, fruit and veg, flowers, hampers for different occasions and more. toddlertastes.co.za and babytastes.co.za Order premade toddler meals and baby food that is balanced and wholesome. wellnesswarehouse.com The focus is on healthy and green living. Shop online for healthy and organic foods, supplements, eco-friendly household products, and beauty, baby and fitness products. woolworths.co.za Find all of your groceries here, as well as baked goods and ready-prepared meals. You’ll also find clothes, stationery and homeware.

holidays budget-getaways.co.za Find different accommodation options in the Western Cape, from child- and pet-friendly spots, getaways for groups, chalets, camping and caravanning, and romantic getaways.

Some of the getaways offer online booking.

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clubmed.co.za Book your Club Med holiday online. Choose from global locations that will suit your needs, whether you’re travelling with young children, or looking for something to keep teens busy. holidays.mtbeds.co.za Find special offers around South Africa, at the last minute, and book your holiday online. kulula.com Book and pay for flights and accommodation online. There are various packages available for around southern Africa. luxresorts.com Book an island holiday, with a choice of hotels on Mauritius, Reunion Island or the Maldives. pentravel.co.za Whether you’re going somewhere local or international, you can book your whole holiday online, including flights, accommodation, cruises and tours.

Packages are available for different holiday types and destinations. safarinow.com They offer a variety of accommodation options in South Africa and nearby countries. Get a quote or book online.

school supplies and textbooks bookshelf.co.za Textbooks are available for specific schools or for individual orders.

They also stock study aids, fiction and many other titles. cna.co.za Find stationery, school bags, diaries, flash drives and books. Files, art and craft items, labels and more available.

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jutaonline.co.za They sell textbooks online, with books for Grade R and upwards, and with prescribed lists for some schools. myschoolstationery.co.za Shop for stationery from lists supplied by registered schools, or place an individual order. You can also request that a school be listed.

They offer a wide range of stationery and school supplies. redpepperbooks.co.za Buy textbooks and other books online. You can search by ISBN, title or author. They do have partner schools, which list prescribed books. valuestationery.co.za They sell stationery online, including art and craft supplies, maths sets, book covers and more. vanschaikschoolbooks.com Booklists are provided for some schools and the site allows individuals to search for specific books and study guides. waltons.co.za Buy your stationery online, including pens, files, books, calculators and more. writeleft.co.za They sell and distribute stationery for left-handed people, including pens, rulers and scissors. They also stock writing skills books for those who are left-handed. zabooks.co.za This online digital book store allows users to buy and download textbooks and other books directly onto their iPad. Schools can add booklists, or individuals can find the books they need.

safety tips To shop online is convenient, offers more variety, and gives you access to specials.

It’s also quick, easy and saves time. But there are people who will take advantage of online shoppers, so it’s good to be aware of some safety guidelines.

• Use common sense; don’t give out details that sites don’t need. Rather err on the side of caution by giving as little information as possible. If a deal sounds too good to be true, it probably is, and if you feel pressured into buying something, rather walk away.

• Do your research. Look into what other people say about a website or service offered online. If you are booking a holiday online, find out about where you are staying, and look for it on Google maps.

• Use sites with which you are familiar and avoid misspelling their name. Also check that you are using the correct domain (.co.za or .com).

• Check up on prices to ensure that you are not paying too much.

• Make sure you have good antivirus software on your computer.

• Check for signs that you are shopping on a secure website: a padlock should appear somewhere, usually in the address bar, and the URL will read https.

• Don’t shop from public terminals. If you’re using a WiFi hotspot, make sure you’re using a virtual private network (VPN), and if you’re not, don’t enter in any passwords or banking details.

• If shopping on your phone, only use apps that you know and that have been downloaded from a reliable source, and try to make purchases from within the app.

• Choose complex passwords that are made up of numbers and letters. Don’t use the same password for all of your online transactions.

• Read the policies about returning goods, refunds and deliveries and find out what happens if nobody is at home when the delivery arrives. Also check for a privacy policy to find out what the site will be doing with your details.

• If booking your holiday online, make sure you are booking through a reputable travel agency. Double-check all details before paying to avoid having to make changes and possibly paying extra.

• Don’t email your credit card details to anyone.

• Check your bank account and your bank statements regularly.

• Once it arrives, check your purchase to ensure you have the correct order and that it is in good condition.

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a good read for toddlers

Mister King’s Incredible Journey Activity Book

By David du Plessis

a delightf ul visual feast

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Mrs Vickers’ Knickers

By Kara Lebihan and Deborah Allwright

A Squash and a Squeeze

By Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler

(Published by Egmont Children’s Books, R126) Mrs Vickers is just pegging out her favourite knickers when, “whoosh”, they are caught in a gust of wind and fly away. Mrs Vickers’ knickers are whisked and whirled on the breeze; on and on they sail, over the building site and through the town. Will she ever be united with her favourite pair of knickers? This story about a pair of pink frilly knickers causes a hilarious journey for children from the age of two years old.

(Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R112) Celebrating 20 years of a classic picturebook pairing, this laugh-out-loud story was the first to be created by the awardwinning team of Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler. Two decades after it was originally published, this classic tale of a little old lady, a wise old man and a chaotic collection of larder-raiding, curtain-chewing, jig-dancing animals is as fresh and as funny as ever. This anniversary edition comes complete with early drawings from Axel’s sketchbook and a specially written foreword from Julia herself.

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(Published by Random House Struik, R45) David du Plessis has produced an activity book that addresses the importance of childhood education. The activity book can be used as a companion to the storybook or as a standalone project for early learners. With 32 pages of pictures to colour and puzzles to solve, the activities will keep children entertained for hours. The book promotes recognition of shapes, patterns and sequences; develops hand-eye coordination; introduces numbers and letters; offers an assemble-it-yourself paper toy; imparts basics about penguins and other sea life, and fosters an awareness of, and regard for, nature. There are also links to a website where further puzzles can be downloaded to prolong the fun.

Hot Hippo

By Mwenye Hadithi and Adrienne Kennaway (Published by Hodder Children’s Books, R89) This is the story of how Hippo came to live in the river instead of on dry land. Hippo was hot and thought how wonderful it would be to live in the water. He pleads with the Ngai, the god of Everything and Everywhere, to let him live in the rivers and streams. Finally Ngai agrees that Hippo can live in the water, but only if he promises not to eat the little fishes. Ngai decides that Hippo can live in the water during the day, but at night he must come out of the water to eat grass. Hippo is very happy with this arrangement, but because Hippo can’t swim, he walks on the river bed to this day, and for extra assurance, comes out of the water with his mouth wide open to show Ngai that he doesn’t eat the fish.

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Mum’s Cronky Car

By Anita Pouroulis and Jon Lycett-Smith

wonderfu l, bright and funny

for early graders

(Published by Digital Leaf, R80) Unloved and unappreciated, mom’s cronky car is on the verge of being scrapped and abandoned. Then one morning, on the school run, the Cronk lives up to her name by being overtaken by a disability scooter! And out of nowhere, mom’s cronky car does something she’s never done before – she goes into aeroplane mode. From that moment on she is the family favourite and their adventures begin. Your seven year old will enjoy reading Mum’s Cronky Car, but this hilarious story, with its absolutely stunning illustrations, is also a great one to read out loud to children as young as four. Mum’s Cronky Car is truly a modern Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.

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Flip the Flaps: Animal Homes and Seashore

By Judy Allen, Hannah Wilson and Simon Mendez (Published by Kingfisher, R96 each) From watery places to deep, dark caves, young readers will satisfy their curious minds as they flip the flaps to uncover animal homes both expected and unexpected. Observing a tailorbird construct an elaborate nest and rolling over stones to see the creepy-crawly residents underneath, Animal Homes gives children the perfect peek into all creatures’ natural habitats. In Seashore the questions uncover essential and extraordinary facts about the wonderful things that live in and around the seashore, from penguins diving into the sea to turtles burrowing in the sand. Other books in the series are: Dinosaurs, Farm Animals, Jungle Animals, Minibeasts, Pets and more.

Lula & Lebo – Head and Shoulders, Washing Day and Shopping Day

By Ellen Aaku, Blain van Rooyen, Mandy Collins, Anton Brand and NT Mofokeng (Published by Puo Publishing, R90 each) Puo Educational Products is addressing the language issue by creating relevant content that educates, entertains and empowers children. Their aim is to inspire children while developing a culture of reading. Approved by the Department of Education, their books reach children through parents, teachers and corporate social investment projects. In these three bilingual books, Lula and Lebo learn about their head and shoulders in English and Sesotho, experience wash day in English and isiXhosa and go shopping in English and Afrikaans.

To order, visit puo.co.za

Just So Stories

By Rudyard Kipling and Alex Latimer

classic reborn

(Published by Penguin SA, R126) How did the leopard get his spots? Why do cats act as though they own the place? What does a crocodile like best for lunch? Why are rhinos so cranky? What causes the ocean tides to rise and fall? Who wrote the alphabet?

Generations of children have grown up with Just So Stories and have been captivated by Kipling’s wonderful insights into the world around us – all delivered in his mesmerising, read-aloud prose. Now these classic gems have been given a fresh look for a new generation. Illustrated by children’s book author Alex Latimer, each story comes alive with his own insights and humour.

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for preteens and teens Dear Scarlett

By Fleur Hitchcock

Sorrowline

By Niel Bushnell (Published by Andersen Press, R117) Twelve-year-old Jack Morrow is used to life being complicated. His mother died five years ago, and his father is now headed for prison. But then Jack discovers he’s a Yard Boy, someone with the ability to travel through Sorrowlines, the channels that connect every gravestone with the date of the person’s death. He is quickly pulled into an adventure beyond anything he could have possibly imagined. Finding himself in 1940s war-torn London, with his then-teenage grandfather, Davey, Jack soon realises that his arrival in the past has not gone unnoticed. The evil forces of a secret world are determined to find him and to find out all he knows. This terrific time-travel thriller is recommended for children from the age of nine.

(Published by Nosy Crow, R112) This is a funny, moving and absorbing story about a young girl’s attempts to learn more about her dead father through the objects she finds in a cardboard box he’s left her. The box is full of clues.

Scarlett and her friend, Ellie, go on a sometimes hilarious, sometimes scary, journey of discovery, following the clues and always remembering to “keep looking up”; even though they’re not sure what “keep looking up” means. Was Scarlett’s dad a thief? Was he a spy? And what does it mean to be his daughter? Fleur Hitchcock is a great new voice in children’s literature, and Dear Scarlett is an excellent book recommended for children from the age of nine to 11.

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Stormbreaker – The Graphic Novel

By Anthony Horowitz

(Published by Walker Books, R149) This is a bold and stylish reissue of the groundbreaking and hugely popular adaptation of Alex Rider’s very first mission in graphic novel form. Forcibly recruited into MI6 after the mysterious death of his guardian, 14-year-old Alex is sent to infiltrate the organisation of a sinister billionaire. Within days he’s gone from schoolboy to superspy, and it looks like his first assignment may be his last. This novel is suited for children from the age of seven, but it’s a great start to get your older reluctant reader interested in books. The Alex Rider series comprises nine novels, which include four graphic novels, and this book has been adapted into a film starring Alex Pettyfer, Mickey Rourke and Bill Nighy.

parenting books Fantastic First-Time Father: 50 Things You Really Need to Know

By Tim Mungeam (Published by Quercus Publishing, R129) Finding out you’re going to be a father for the first time is an incredible feeling; your life will never be the same again. Though, biologically speaking, your job is done, the real work is yet to come: supporting the mother of your child through all the highs and lows of her pregnancy, and preparing for your new role as a father. Most dads-to-be feel underprepared and overawed, but this book has all the expert advice you need for every step of the journey, from receiving the news to functioning on two hours of sleep a night. Along the way you’ll get insider tips and expert advice.

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for us a treat to read

Capital

By John Lanchester (Published by Faber and Faber, R199) Pepys Road: an ordinary street in the capital.

Today, through each letterbox drops a card with a message: We Want What You Have. At 40, Roger Yount is blessed with an expensively groomed wife, two sons and a powerful job.

Zbigniew has come from Warsaw to indulge the super-rich in their interior-decoration whims. Freddy, teenage football sensation, has left Senegal to follow his dream. Quentina has exchanged the violence of Zimbabwe for that of the enraged middle classes. For them all, this city offers the chance of a different kind of life.

Making Finn

By Susan Newham-Blake

The Chemistry of Tears

By Peter Carey (Published by Faber and Faber, R129) It’s London 2010, and Catherine Gehrig, conservator at the Swinburne Museum, learns of the unexpected death of her colleague and lover of 13 years. As the mistress of a married man, she has to grieve in private. Her boss at the museum, aware of Catherine’s grief, gives her a special project: to piece together both the mechanics and the story of an extraordinary, eerie automaton. The mechanical creature is a clockwork puzzle, commissioned in 19th-century Germany by an English man, Henry Brandling. Linked by the mysterious automata, Catherine and Henry’s stories intertwine across time to explore the mysteries of life and death, the miracle and catastrophe of human invention and the body’s astonishing chemistry of love and feeling.

(Published by Penguin SA, R171) Susan’s childhood dream of becoming a mother has not diminished with the revelation, alarming both to herself and her bewildered family, that she does, in fact, “bat for the other team”. Having made peace with her identity and having finally found a beloved partner, she is now faced with a daunting problem: with no man around, how do you make babies? Time is of the essence: at 34 years old, Susan cannot afford to waste another moment.

And so begins an unconventional journey to parenthood with some agonising decisions to be made along the way. Told with disarming honesty, Making Finn is a warm, witty and moving first-person account of two women’s quest to create a family.

Breastfeed your Baby

By Marie-Louise Steyn (Published by Metz Press, R144) Breast-feeding is the natural, healthy way to nourish your baby, but it is not always easy or instinctive. Mothers often lack the knowledge and support they need for trouble-free breastfeeding. Breastfeed Your Baby is a complete but concise, practical guide for nursing mothers. The information is based on the most recent research in the field and, since it is evidence based, it will also be invaluable to doctors, nursing staff, antenatal professionals and doulas. The information is authoritative and presented in such a way that the book can be read in one or two sittings before the baby’s birth, yet detailed enough to remain an essential companion throughout the breast-feeding process. The content is enhanced throughout with practical hints and tips.

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Your guide to a month of family friendly activities in your city. Compiled by SIMONE JEFFERY.

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Survival campout Children who enjoy roughing it in the wild are put to the test during a survival campout away from modern luxuries.

Joburg Festival of Beer A gathering of micro- and mega brewers for enthusiasts, first-timers and connoisseurs to enjoy.

Swing from tree to tree Jungle Junkies offers children a miniature town, jungle gyms and a wide variety of monkeys.

Door of Hope They have three homes that provide care and shelter for abandoned, abused and orphaned babies and toddlers.

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Family adventure hike Join the Johannesburg Hiking Club for an easy hike across the hills and rivers of Hennops.

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SPECIAL EVENTS 1 sunday Cellar Rats spring wine festival There is supervised entertainment for the children while parents relax and enjoy some of South Africa’s best wines in the countryside. Children can take part in crab catching and sport activities, or enjoy a snake display, jumping castle, waterslide and more. Time: 11am–3pm. Venue: The Old Mill, Magaliesburg. Cost: adults R110, children R15; designated drivers free. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Heart Awareness Month Take care of your heart and take advantage of the free healthy heart screenings taking place at Clicks Clinics nationwide. Call 0860 254 257 to make your appointment or visit clicks.co.za/Campaigns/hearthealth

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Family adventure hike Join the Johannesburg Hiking Club for an easy 5km hike that is suitable for children. The hike takes place in Hennops, with a bring-andbraai or picnic afterwards. For children 8 years and older. Time: 7:30am. Venue: meet outside Game at Fourways Mall, cnr William Nicol Dr and Fourways Boulevard, Fourways. Cost: adults R90, children R40.

Contact: 010 590 1903, jhc@mweb.co.za or visit jhbhiking.co.za Jazz on the Lake Now in its 21st year, the artists at this year’s concert pay homage to our musical icons. The line-up includes Mafikizolo, Sufi Gospel Project (India), Brenda Mntambo and the Satchmo Trumpet Summit (USA), to name a few. Take a picnic, blankets and chairs. Time: 11am–6pm.

Venue: Zoo Lake, cnr Jan Smuts Ave and Westwold Way, Saxonwold. Cost: free. For more info: visit arts-alive.co.za Prime position Chart-topping rock band Prime Circle, best known for the songs Hello and Same Goes For You, and supporting acts Jet Black Camaro and Naming James, are providing visitors to the botanical gardens with an afternoon of rock and Indie music. Time: 2pm–4pm.

Venue: Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden, end of Malcolm Rd, Poortview, Roodepoort. Cost: R80 online, R100 at the gate. Book through Ticketbreak: 012 326 0560 or visit ticketbreak.co.za Spring Day picnic Celebrate the start of spring with a decadent picnic hamper

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to be enjoyed on the verdant lawns of Rustig. Knowing that everything is taken care of, including the dishes, parents can sit back and relax as the children play on the jungle gyms. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Rustig, off the R401, Hekpoort. Cost: baskets from R799 per couple (inquire about children’s baskets). Contact: 082 780 4971, cradlepicnics@gmail.com or visit cradlepicnics.co.za

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5 thursday Glorious Saints flower festival The flower festival is set in the charming “English village” church, which is filled with displays by top floral arrangers. Several musical performances entertain. Ends 7 September. Time: from 9am; 2013 RHS Chelsea Flower Show screenings 9:30am, Friday and Saturday. Venue: St Francis Church, 46 Tyrone Ave, Parkview. Cost: R30; Chelsea Flower Show screenings R50.

Contact: 083 275 7072, 079 553 5679 or visit gardensofthegoldencity.co.za Night of the Museum The Origins Centre will stay open later than usual tonight and give all visitors the chance to view the latest exhibition, Walking the Corridors of Freedom. The exhibition, a collection of body tracings from participating schools, captures the exuberant, energized Joburger perfectly. Time: 6pm–9pm. Venue: Wits University, Empire Rd, Braamfontein.

Cost: free. Contact: 011 717 5700 or visit origins.org.za

SA Tattoo This massed multicultural event features iconic local rock band Just Jinjer. From the mighty hail of the drum major to the toe tapping of the Highland dancers, this year’s programme combines local talents with sensational acts from France and Switzerland. 5–8 September.

Time: 8pm, Thursday; 8:30pm, Friday and Saturday; 2pm and 5pm, Saturday; 6pm, Sunday.

Venue: Montecasino Outdoor Event Arena, cnr William Nicol Dr and Witkoppen Rd, Fourways.

Cost: R218–R398. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

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6 friday Casual Day 2013 Purchase your Casual Day sticker and wear anything you want for the day in support of persons with disabilities. The 2013 campaign theme is “Go Big”. Cost: R10 per sticker. For more info on where to get stickers: 011 452 2774 or visit casualday.co.za

7 saturday Buskaid in Concert This musically innovative and uplifting programme features several Buskaid soloists performing music by Rameau, Vivaldi, Brahms, Dvorák and Hubay as well as the contemporary British composer, John Woolrich. For adults and children 7 years and older. Time: 7:30pm–9:30pm. Venue: Linder Auditorium, St Andrews Rd, Parktown. Cost: R100–R180.

Contact: 011 442 9676, bull@buskaid.org.za or visit buskaid.org.za

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Cooper’s Cave picnic and tour A living museum in which fossils remain embedded in ancient rock to tell tales of a bygone era. Palaeoanthropologist Christine Steininger leads you through this remarkable landscape, describing the environment past and present. The walk is followed by a light picnic lunch. Booking essential. Time: 9am. Venue: Sterkfontein Caves, Sterkfontein Caves Rd, off the R563, Cradle of Humankind. Cost: adults R375, children up to 14 years R150. Contact: 014 577 9000 or visit maropeng.co.za Pamper day for charity Spoil yourself with a 20-minute hand, foot or head massage and help raise funds for the sterilisation of animals in underprivileged areas, and the care of animals in need.

Space is limited. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: Lifestyle on Location, Komari Ave, Paulshof.

Cost: adults R200, children under 10 R100.

Contact: 082 461 1606 or bookings@ lifestyle-on-location.co.za Soweto National Marimba Festival The one-day festival takes the form of a competition. Festival participants come from all walks of life, with learners from the most exclusive schools playing alongside youngsters from the most impoverished areas; from primary to high schools; from amateur to professional bands. Time: 8:30am–6pm. Venue: Morris Isaacson School, Mputhi St, Soweto. Cost: R80.

Contact: 082 896 7189, hilde@mef.org.za or visit meg.org.za

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Spring Fair at Albert’s Farm The park is buzzing with happy families enjoying the live entertainment, climbing trees, feeding geese, enjoying the swings and roundabouts, and flying kites. Bring your dogs on a lead, picnic hampers, and chairs or a blanket. Time: 10am–3pm.

Venue: Albert’s Farm, 8th St Greymont, cnr 6th Rd West, Northcliff. Cost: free entry. Contact: 083 583 5383 or nina@ outofthebox.org.za

9 monday Discover SANparks For five days, South African National Parks offers all South Africans free entrance into participating parks for you to explore and appreciate the unique fauna, flora, landscapes and natural heritage of South Africa. This offer excludes Namaqua, Boulders and Tankwa Karoo National Park.

Ends 13 September. Venue: nationwide.

Cost: free entry for SA day visitors. Contact: 012 426 5000 or visit sanparks.co.za

14 saturday Darling buds of September Join an expert for a spring flower walk among the flora as he identifies the various blossoming flowers and surprises you with a few interesting facts. Booking essential.

Time: 9am–11am. Venue: Kloofendal Nature Reserve, Galena Ave, cnr Veronica St, Kloofendal, Roodepoort. Cost: adults R50, children R25. Contact: 079 693 5608 or visit kloofendalfriends.org.za Dunvegan Primary Carnival Day Scour the market stalls for goodies and tasty treats, and recline in the beer tent to watch the rugby while your children let off a bit of steam on the giant inflatables, go-karts, racing simulator and more. All ages. Time: 10am–4pm. Venue: Dunvegan Primary School, Sheila St, Dunvegan, Edenvale. Cost: adults free, children R100 for children-zone armbands. Contact: 082 994 2068, murray.family@telkomsa.net or visit dunveganprimary.co.za

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calendar Equine Assisted Therapy fundraiser Enjoy an evening of rock, blues and Afrikaans music to raise funds for equine therapy.

Proceeds go to Bluemoon Equine Assisted Therapy’s BEAT Programme for people with disabilities in underprivileged communities.

Time: 3pm–11pm. Venue: Liedjieboer Pub and Grill, 180 Graham Rd, Glen Austin, Midrand. Cost: adults R100, teenagers R50, children free. Contact: 071 417 0268 or nicky.futcher@gmail.com Garden World’s Clivia Show Visit the Joburg Clivia Club’s annual show and find the greatest variety. Ends 15 September. Time: 8:30am–5pm, Saturday; 8:30am–4pm, Sunday. Venue: Garden World, Beyers Naudé Dr, Muldersdrift. Cost: R10. Contact: 082 650 1463, nursery@gardenworld.co.za or visit gardenworld.co.za Joburg Day 2013 Pack a picnic and salute the South African musicians, on a warm Joburg afternoon. See the Parlotones, Goldfish, Locnville, Lloyd Cele, Jack Parow and more. Time: from 11am. Venue: Crocodile Creek Polo Club, Botasdal Farm, Elandsdrift Rd, Lanseria. Cost: R250. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit highveld.co.za Open day at Elma Park Preprimary Parents interested in enrolling their children for 2014 can pop in to find out more about the school and meet the teachers. For parents of children 2½–6 years old. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Elma Park Preprimary, 17 Adjutant Rd, Elma Park, Edenvale. Cost: free. Contact: 011 453 9388 or elmaparkpps@mweb.co.za Panda Pen Nursery School Fête A funfilled morning with games and prizes, as well as market stalls where you can browse for early Christmas gifts. Food, cakes and refreshments are on sale. Time: 9am–1pm.

Venue: Panda Pen Nursery School, cnr Kelly Ave and Sylvan Rd, Boskruin, Randburg.

Cost: free entry, tickets for food and games vary. Contact: 011 792 4557, rox@ pandapen.co.za or visit pandapen.co.za St Andrew’s Spring Expo There are inflatables of various sizes, and stalls selling quality homemade crafts, wine bags, pewter products, scrapbooking items and more. The food court sells cuisine and drinks.

Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: St Andrew’s, St Andrew’s Ave, Senderwood. Cost: adults R10, children under 18 free. Contact: 011 453 9408 or visit standrews.co.za

Pebbles Preschool’s fun day Join the fun at the various stalls and races, paintball and jumping castles, see the cute farmyard animals and try the tasty titbits at the food stalls. Suitable for preschool learners. Time: 10am–1pm. Venue: in the church garden next to Pebbles Preschool, Benard Rd East, Morninghill, Bedfordview. Cost: R10 per person.

Contact: 011 615 3721

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Poplar Academy’s spring fair and open day Join the learners as they plant trees for Arbor Day. There is a fun 2km and 4km walk suitable for all ages, food stalls and an extramural exhibition. The school caters to children from Grade R–12. Time: 8am–3pm, walk starts 9am. Venue: Poplar Academy, 39 Whisken Ave, Crowthorne, Midrand. Cost: free entry, fun walk R20 per person. Contact: 082 655 0723, info@poplaracademy.co.za or visit poplaracademy.co.za

15 sunday Me-Nuts Kids Like2Bike series Children can take part in a friendly 2km, 5km or 10km race around a cycle park. Parents are able to run alongside. There is entertainment for the children after the ride, as well as lots of food and drinks on sale. This is the fourth race in a series of five. For children 2–12 years old. Time: 9am. Venue: The Big Red Barn Cycle Park, cnr Nelson Rd and Glen Rd, Sunlawns AH, Olifantsfontein. Cost: R100. Contact: 083 326 6721, kirsty@ like2bike.co.za or visit like2bike.co.za

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September. Time: 10am–9pm. Venue: Coca-Cola Dome, cnr Northumberland Rd and Olievenhout Ave, Northriding.

Cost: adults R75, children R40 (includes a coupon book). Contact: 0861 366 343 or visit goodfoodandwineshow.co.za

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Music in the Gardens: Mafikizolo Dance the afternoon away with versatile kwaito band Mafikizolo in the botanical gardens. The support act is the young jazz singer, Sindi Nene. Time: 2pm–4pm.

Venue: Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden, end of Malcolm Rd, Poortview, Roodepoort. Cost: R80 online, R100 at the gate. Book through Ticketbreak: 012 326 0560 or visit ticketbreak.co.za Sproutability family fun day Bring the whole family for a stroll through the zoo while completing a scavenger hunt and meeting exhibitors along the way.

There are jumping castles, face painters and popcorn machines too. Register at the Sproutability desk at the entrance and pick up your scavenger hunt kit.

Time: 10:30am–3:30pm. Venue: Joburg Zoo, cnr Jan Smuts Ave and Upper Park Dr, Parkview. Cost: R30. Contact: 074 126 4379, kerry@sproutability.co.za or visit sproutability.co.za

20 friday Soweto Festival Expo Celebrate the richness and diversity of Soweto in a fun, relaxed family environment. You are able to watch the table soccer tournament, visit the reptile park, try out the climbing wall and Red Bull extreme zone, and enjoy live entertainment and thrilling rides in the amusement park. Ends 24 September.

Time: 10am–8pm. Venue: Nasrec Expo Centre, cnr Randshow Rd and Nasrec Rd. Cost: adults R50, pensioners and children 5–12 years old R20, children under 5 free. Contact: 011 646 5630 or visit sowetofestivalexpo.co.za

21 saturday Colour Me Crazy 5km run Get blasted with red, yellow, green, blue and pink coloured powder as you pass each kilometre on the 5km route. The festivities end with performances by Mi Casa, Locnville, and more. All ages. Time: registration 9am, race starts 11am. Venue: Riversands Farm, off the R511, Kyalami. Cost: R290–R320 (tickets include colour powder packs and a T-shirt). Contact: info@colourmecrazy. co.za or visit quicket.co.za Good Food & Wine Show An interactive food, wine and lifestyle show with special appearances by celebrity chefs, including MasterChef Australia’s Gary Mehigan and Hayden Quinn. Visitors can expect vibrantly themed exhibition stands showcasing decadent morsels, fresh produce and the latest in kitchen equipment. Ends 24 magazine joburg

Heritage Day picnic Enjoy a picnic in the gardens with side-splitting humour provided by stand-up comedian Barry Hilton. There is a children’s play area.

Doors open at 11:30am. Time: 1:30pm.

Venue: Gardens of Vespasian at Emperors Palace, 64 Jones Rd, Kempton Park. Cost: from R85. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Khamba and the Tree With No Name Celebrate Heritage Day with this traditional African folk tale adapted for puppets and performed by Margaret Auerbach. For children 4 years and older. Time: 10am.

Venue: Kinderspiel, 39 Greenhill Rd, Emmarentia. Cost: R50. Contact: 011 646 7457 or emma.kinderspiel@telkomsa.net

25 wednesday Spring in Weltevreden Park Library Children sing songs, take part in interactive storybook readings, and do creative craft activities in which they make spring blossoms and flowery spring pictures. For children 3–10 years old. Time: 10am–11am. Venue: Weltevreden Park Public Library, 1203 Fern Rd, Weltevreden Park, Roodepoort. Cost: free. Contact: 011 679 3406

26 thursday Taste of Joburg Prepare your palate for 14 of Joburg’s top restaurants as they prepare to serve their tantalising signature dishes.

Ends 29 September. Time: 6:30pm– 10:30pm, Thursday–Friday; 1pm–5pm and 6:30pm–10:30pm, Saturday; 12pm–5pm, Sunday. Venue: Montecasino Outdoor Event Area, cnr William Nicol Dr and Montecasino Boulevard, Fourways. Cost: from R80, festival crowns R5 each (four to eight crowns per dish). For more info: visit tasteofjoburg.com

27 friday FNB Joburg Art Fair A sustainable art fair that showcases the best contemporary art from the African continent. This year’s focus is on photography. Ends 29 September.

Time: 11am–4pm. Venue: exhibition 1, Sandton Convention Centre, 161 Maude St, Sandton. Cost: R100 per person, school groups: R15 per student and teacher. For more info: visit fnbjoburgartfair.co.za OutdoorX Leisure and Adventure Show The three-day outdoor festival offers access to advice and the right equipment for your next outdoor adventure. Live entertainment is provided by Bobby van Jaarsveld, Lianie May, The Campbells and DJ Ossewa, among others. You can enjoy a flip in a helicopter, spend a few hours in the children’s entertainment area and relax in the beer garden. Tickets are available at the gate. Ends 29 September. Time: 10am–5pm. Venue: Malonjeni Guest Farm, off the R42, outside Vereeniging.

Cost: adults R60, children 6–12 years old R20, children under 5 free. For more info: visit outdoorx.co.za September 2013

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28 saturday Springtime school fête Young and old can enjoy food, candy, music, fun and games at the Dotty Potty School fête. There is a jumping castle, rides and slides, face painters and market stalls.

Time: 9am–5:30pm. Venue: Dotty Potty Nursery School, 4 Vernon Rd, Morninghill, Bedfordview. Cost: adults R5, children R20.

Contact 011 615 6504 children R20. Contact: 011 615 6504

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art, culture and science First Lego League – Disaster Blast Challenge Registrations to take part in the 2013 Junior First Lego League are still open. This year children explore natural disasters, and design and construct a working model using Lego bricks and moving parts to solve a specific problem.

For children 6–9 years old. Competitions start 19 October. Venue: nationwide. Cost: R200 per team. Contact: 082 851 8892 or visit jfllsa.org To infinity and beyond Children can join Thomas the astronomer for a stellar trip to the game reserve, the craters of the moon and beyond. For children 5–8 years old. Time: 10:30am, every Saturday.

Venue: Planetarium, Wits University, Empire Rd, Parktown. Cost: R23 per person. Contact: 011 717 1390 or visit planetarium.co.za

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National Cupcake Day Join Cupcakes of Hope in raising awareness and funds for families of children with cancer and in need of medical assistance. You can do your part by volunteering to be a Cupcake Angel and baking and donating 48 tasty cupcakes, or by purchasing a cupcake from the stands at the participating malls around the country. Time: varies. Venue: Fourways Mall, East Rand Mall, Clearwater Mall, The Glen, Greenstone, Cresta, Carnival Mall and Eastgate Mall. Cost: R10 donation. Contact: 073 208 6757, sandy@cupcakesofhope.org or visit cupcakesofhope.org

classes, talks and workshops Children’s beading workshop They can create their own jewellery or decorative item using beads during a two-hour workshop. Booking essential. Minimum of 10 people required. For children 5–12 years old. Parents can relax with cake and something to drink. 28 September. Time: 9am–11am. Venue: One10 Coffee Shop, 110 Susman Ave, cnr Ralda Rd, Blairgowrie.

Cost: R100 (includes a beverage and a snack). Contact: 082 377 7159 or oneten@mweb.co.za

Choosing a career Education and assistance in finding the right career option for your child ensures that their lives have focus and direction, and neutralises the potential temptation to get involved in criminal activities. For children 10 years and older. 21 September. Time: 10–14 years, 9am–10am; 15 years and older, 10:30am–11:30am. Venue: The Academy of Light, 160 Coleraine Dr, Rivonia, Morningside. Cost: R100. Contact: 083 677 1402, madpupssa@gmail.com or visit madpups.co.za

Ladybird Corner classes Let your little one draw, print, paint, bake, discover and explore while having fun with others. For children 2 years and older. Time: art classes 2pm–3pm, every Tuesday; baking classes 3pm–4pm, every Monday. Venue: Ladybird Corner, 24 12th Ave, Linksfield Netcare Hospital. Cost: R100 per child, R80 for joining friend or sibling, R350 per child per month. Contact: 011 485 3057 Little Cooks in Fourways Young cooks learn to appreciate food during a handson cooking class that will teach them basic cooking skills as they make an apple and almond cake, baked brie and jam parcels and traditional chocolate cake. For children 2–7 years old. 2–21 September. Time: 3pm–4pm, Monday and Thursday; 9am–10am, Saturday.

Venue: Little Cooks Club, Fourways. Cost: from R95 per weekday lesson, R100 per Saturday lesson. Contact: 082 874 2851, deborahg@littlecooksclub.co.za or visit littlecooksclub.co.za Magic Blox 4 Kids course This life-skills course is designed to equip children with the necessary skills to overcome challenges, as well as build their self-confidence, improve their relaxation skills, learn to lead positive, happy lives and improve parent-child communication. For children 9–12 years old. 2–14 September. Time: 2pm–4:30pm.

Venue: Northwold, Randburg. Cost: R2 400.

Contact: 083 325 6076, julie@magicblox. co.za or visit magicblox.co.za

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Seedpod creative morning Moms are welcome to join their children as they spend the morning painting on a canvas.

3 September. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Seedpod Studio Parkhurst, 13 4th Ave, Parkhurst. Cost: R200. Contact: 011 447 0006, parkhurst@seedpodstudio.co.za or visit seedpodstudio.co.za

family outings A picnic with a view After meeting your guide you are given a picnic basket containing eating utensils and a blanket, and given 30 minutes to purchase your desired foodstuffs from the market.

You then head to the Carlton Centre to enjoy a panoramic picnic on the 50th floor and a short talk on the city.

Booking essential. For adults and children 5 years and older. Time: meet at 11am,

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every Sunday. Venue: meet at Market on Main, Main St, Maboneng Precinct, Joburg Central. Cost: adults R180, children R90. Contact: 072 880 9583 or visit mainstreetwalks.co.za Lost in a labyrinth Enjoy a 10-minute walk in the largest uninterrupted hedgerow maze in the southern hemisphere. Bring a picnic to enjoy on the lawns or have a meal at the Castle. All ages. Time: 9am–4pm, daily. Venue: Chartwell Castle and Guest House, cnr 1 Hood Rd and Watercombe Rd, Chartwell West. Cost: adults R50, children R25. Contact: 010 227 0003, info@chartwellcastle.co.za or visit chartwellcastle.co.za

finding nature and outdoor play Crazy Kidz Farmyard A farmyard in the middle of Randburg (complete with the farm’s original windmill) offers children a spot where they can feed and pat farmyard animals. Time: 9am–5pm, Monday– Sunday. Venue: Crazy Kidz Farmyard, 9 Daniel St, Daniel Brink Park, Randburg.

Cost: R25 per child. Contact Jana: 082 389 9153, crazykidzfarmyard@gmail.com or visit crazykidzfarmyard.co.za In a while, crocodile Pop into the crocodile and reptile park at 2pm on Saturday and Sunday and watch how they feed the crocodiles, or catch the venomous snake show at 11am on Sunday.

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the reception area every half an hour, and brave children who are 2 years and older are able to hold baby crocodiles, tarantulas and more. Time: 9am–4:30pm, daily. Venue: Croc City, plot 59 R114, Old Pretoria Rd, Nietgedacht. Cost: adults R60, pensioners R55, children R40. Contact: 083 321 1016, 083 657 7561, info@croccity. co.za or visit croccity.co.za

holiday programmes Domestic Bliss’ children’s cooking programme Have your children develop a love of cooking from a young age. They learn about kitchen safety, cooking terms, measurement, hygiene and nutrition, as they cook up a storm under guidance.

For children 7–13 years old. 27, 29 and 30 August and 1 September. Time: 9am–12:30pm. Venue: Domestic Bliss, 235

Jan Smuts Ave, Parktown North. Cost: R320 per day (includes refreshments). Contact: 011 447 5517, db@domesticbliss.co.za or visit domesticbliss.co.za FlipFlop Gymnastics holiday camp Children travel to the Hartbeespoort Holiday Resort for a weekend filled with fun fitness activities, nature walks, treasure hunts, campfire tales, baking and more. No cellphones allowed. Space is limited. 27–30 September. Time: departs 3pm. Venue: departs from Sixteen10 Restaurant, Plantyard Nursery, Herman Rd, Meadowdale Mall, Edenvale. Cost: R1 700, which includes transport, meals, drinks, three nights’ accommodation and activities.

Contact: 072 238 7342, flipfloptv@ telkomsa.net or visit flipflopgym.co.za HEFC holiday programme This is an action packed, fun-filled programme to keep children entertained, stimulated and safe during the holidays. Children participate in music and movement, messy play, do ball skills and crazy hands art. For children 3 months–13 years old. 23–27 September. Time: 8am–5:30pm. Venue: Houghton Estate Family Centre, 58 St Johns Rd, Houghton Estate. Cost: half-day R100, full day R200. Contact: 011 487 3129, 082 499 2578, tracy@hefc.co.za or visit hefc.co.za Kloofendal holiday programme Children learn more about their environment and explore the world around them. Activities range from a gold mine

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Kidz Take Over drama school An acting school is ideal for children who want to be on stage. They are taught various acting skills over a three-month period, after which all children star in a professional production at The Theatre on the Square in Sandton City. For children 6–18 years old. 13 and 14 September. Time: Bedfordview: 3:30pm–4:30pm, every Friday; Bryanston: 12pm–1pm, every Saturday. Venue: The Italian Club, 7 Marais Rd, Bedfordview or Dance Zone, Bryanpark Shopping Centre, cnr Cumberland Rd and Grosvenor Rd, Bryanston. Cost: R1 250 per course. Contact: 082 871 0034, shaye@kto.co.za or visit kto.co.za

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adventure, making art from nature, a junior ranger programme, and a bundi bash adventure. Booking essential. 25, 27, 28 and 30 September. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Kloofendal Nature Reserve, cnr Galena Ave and Veronica St, Kloofendal, Roodepoort.

Cost: R80–R120 per day. Contact Karin: 079 693 5608 or visit kloofendalfriends.org.za Survival campout Children who enjoy roughing it in the wild are put to the test during a three-day survival campout away from modern luxuries. They are shown how to start a fire using a flint, build shelters, find food and water, and learn which plants are useful for survival.

Bring your own tent and bedding. Booking essential. 27–29 September. Time: starts 4pm Friday; ends 3pm Sunday. Venue: Kareekloof Farm, near Lanseria. Cost: R750 (food and drinks included). Contact: 076 429 6739, cashanerangers@gmail.com or visit key2comms.wix.com/cashane-rangers Tamtam Kids holiday programme Children are kept engaged, entertained and stimulated during the holidays while completing crafts (from painting to moulding and design), baking treats, and taking part in story time, free play, dress up and more. For children 3 years and older. 24–27 September. Time: 10am–1pm.

Venue: 102 Wrenrose Court, 1st floor, off Wrenrose Ave, opposite Planet Fitness Wanderers, Birdhaven. Cost: R300 per child (R50 discount per sibling); R1 000 for four days. Contact: 082 807 7100, tammy@ tamtamkids.com or visit tamtamkids.com Wondrous water holiday programme This week’s Science Alive programme allows children to investigate water. They can take part in interactive exhibits, be amazed by the water rockets, science shows and delicious instant ice cream. For children 5–12 years old. 21–30 September. Time: 10am–4pm.

Venue: Sci-Bono Discovery Centre, cnr Miriam Makeba St and President St, Newtown. Cost: entry: adults R20, children R10; workshops from free to R20. Contact: 011 639 8400/27, mangena.thami@scibono.co.za or visit sci-bono.co.za

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markets Antique Fair On the upper and lower levels of the quiet section of the mall, are antique dealers. 1 September. Time: 9am–4pm. Venue: Nelson Mandela Square, cnr Maude St and 5th St, Sandton. Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 217 6001 or visit nelsonmandelasquare.co.za Askari spring market Browse through the craft and food stalls among the ox wagons and heritage museum. Enjoy old favourites such as koeksisters, melktert, potjiekos, mampoer and ginger beer and watch the elephants play in the dam.

1 September. Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Askari Game Lodge, Plumari Private Game Reserve, Doornhoek, Magaliesburg. Cost: donation of a second-hand book. Contact: 014 577 2658/9, reservations@askarilodge. co.za or visit askarilodge.co.za Books2You Book Fair Discover hundreds of books, from bestsellers to fantastic non-fiction. 16 and 17 September. Time: 10am–3:30pm, Monday; 7:30am–2pm, Tuesday. Venue: Grayston Preparatory, cnr North Rd and Gillard St, Sandown.

Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 705 7744, orders@books2you.co.za or visit books2you.co.za Farmer John’s Sunday Market Get your fresh veggies and meat straight from the farm and browse for interesting crafts and organic eats. Time: 9:30am–2:30pm, every Sunday. Venue: on the premises of Newton House School, 118 CR Swart Dr, Bush Hill Estates, Randburg. Cost: free entry. Contact: 078 099 7295, info@ farmerjohn.co.za or visit farmerjohn.co.za

on stage and screen A Midsummer Night’s Dream A very talented group of children will surprise and delight you with this beautiful adaptation of William Shakespeare’s popular comedy.

For children 8 years and older. 6 and 7 September. Time: 10am, Friday; 2pm, Saturday. Venue: Victory Theatre, 105 Louis Botha Ave, Houghton Estate. Cost: adults R60, children R40, pensioners R25, magazine joburg

children under 5 free. Contact Tracey: 082 446 0429 or apesp2013@gmail.com An Evening with Gilan Gork Spend an evening with this mentalist at Joburg Child Welfare’s fundraiser. Booking essential. 4 September. Time: registration from 5pm, dinner 6pm, show 7pm. Venue: Killarney Country Club, 60 5th St, Killarney. Cost: R350, including a light dinner. Contact Tracey: 011 298 8500, pr@jhbchildwelfare. org.za or visit jhbchildwelfare.org.za Dance Umbrella 2013 A 16-day showcase of contemporary dance. 31 August–15 September. Time: varies. Venue: varies. Cost: R60–R100. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit danceforum.co.za Premiere of Felix This SA film was voted Best Film at the Durban International Film Festival. Fourteen-year-old Felix Xaba dreams of becoming a saxophonist like his late father, but his mother thinks jazz is the devil’s music. 13 September. Time: varies. Venues: Bedford Centre, Benoni, Carlton, Clearwater, Eastgate, Festival Mall, Fourways Mall, Hyde Park, Maponya Mall, Montecasino, Sandton City, Southgate Mall, The Glen and Westgate. Cost: varies per cinema. For more info: visit felixthemovie.com Puppet show with Sneaky Bill Meet the animals at the zoo and save them from the clutches of the nasty Sneaky Bill. A thoughtprovoking puppet show with plenty of excitement and participation. For children 4 years and older. 10 and 28 September. Time: 3:30pm, Tuesday; 10am, Saturday. Venue: Kinderspiel, 39 Greenhill Rd, Emmarentia.

Cost: R50. Contact: 011 646 7457 or emma. kinderspiel@telkomsa.net The Secret Garden A tale about a 10-yearold girl whose life is turned around after her parents pass away and she is sent to live with her uncle in England. Here, she finds the key to a secret garden. Booking essential.

2 September–6 October. Time: during the public school term: 9am and 11am, Monday–Saturday; during public school holidays: 10:30am and 2:30pm, Tuesday– Sunday. Venue: National Children’s Theatre, 3 Junction Ave, Parktown. Cost: adults R110, children R90. Contact: 011 484 1584 or visit nationalchildrenstheatre.org.za Unity College’s annual school concert The learners from Unity College explore the magic of animals, movies and music in their annual concert titled, It’s a Kind of Magic. All ages. 29 August and 3 September. Time: 7pm–8pm. Venue: Dainfern College School, Broadacres Dr, Dainfern. Cost: adults R30, children under 10 years R10. Contact: 011 465 2422/3, info@unity-college.org.za or visit unity-college.org.za

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playtime and story time Backstroke in a ball pond Jungle Rumble is an indoor playground with trampolines, jungle gyms, jumping castles, slides and a baby area. Time: 9am–5pm, Tuesday– Saturday; 10am–5pm, Sunday. Venue: Jungle Rumble, Panorama Shopping Centre, cnr Kliprivier Rd and Jordi Rd, Mulbarton.

Cost: from R40 per hour. Contact: 011 432 0403, info@junglerumble.co.za or visit junglerumble.co.za Bumboarding Have fun bumboarding and slope surfing down the 20m ski slope or play on the jungle gym and trampoline.

For children 3 years and older. Time: 2pm–4pm, every Tuesday and Thursday.

Venue: Ski Deck, 74 Bond St, cnr Bond St and Elgin Rd, Ferndale. Cost: R85 per child for two hours. Contact: 011 781 6528, info@ski.co.za or visit ski.co.za Olivedale Library story time Children aged 3 and older can enjoy an engaging morning listening to stories. For children 3–7 years old. Time: 10am–11am, every Friday. Venue: Olivedale Library, President Fouche Rd, Olivedale. Cost: free entry.

Contact: 011 462 6285/6 Once Upon a Time Enjoy some improvised storytelling as Bradley Tyler uses his vivid imagination to transport children on magic carpet rides over enchanted rainbows.

Bring something to sit on and snacks. No need to book. For children 4–11 years old. Time: 2pm–3pm, Monday–Saturday.

Venue: Bordeaux South Park, Park Ave, Randburg. Cost: free. Contact Brad: 071 723 0272 or craigbtyler@hotmail.com Story time in Parkview Library A story time suitable for children in preschool and primary school. Time: 3:30pm–4pm, every Monday. Venue: Parkview Library, 51 Athlone Ave, Parkview. Cost: free. Contact: 011 646 3375

sport and physical activities Capoeria classes The Brazilian martial art form combines rhythm, music, acrobatics and self-defence. The classes are suitable for beginners through to advanced.

Booking essential. Time: children 10am, every Saturday; adults 6pm–8pm, every Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: Emara Life Wellness and Remedial Centre, 15 Wessels Rd, Rivonia. Cost: R540 per month.

Contact: 084 810 1959 FUNdamentals cycling clinic This is aimed at educating children about bicycle safety control, respect and appreciation.

Booking essential. For children 4–12 years old. 14 September. Time: 9am–11am.

Venue: The Big Red Barn Cycle Park,

Cinderella the ballet A modern take on the classic rags to riches fairy tale, set to the score

by Johann Strauss II, is brought to you by the South African Mzanzi Ballet. 13–29 September. Time: varies. Venue: Joburg Theatre, 163 Civic Boulevard, Braamfontein.

Cost: R189–R336 (children 4–7 years old pay half-price). Book through the theatre: 0861 670 670 or visit joburgtheatre.com

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calendar cnr Nelson Rd and Glen Rd, Sunlawns AH, Olifantsfontein. Cost: R250. Contact: 083 326 6721, kirsty@like2bike.co.za or visit like2bike.co.za Houghton Estate swimming school launch The estate’s family centre has launched its indoor swimming programme offering instruction for beginners, to those who want to correct their strokes, training programmes to strengthen swimming competency, preggy classes and a moms-and-minkins group. For adults and children from 6 months. 2 September.

Time: 9am–5pm. Venue: Houghton Estate Family Centre, 58 St Johns Rd, Houghton Estate. Cost: adults R100, preschool learners R80, primary school learners R90. Contact: 073 081 3629 or nicole.b.marshall@gmail.com Melville Koppies guided tours Learn about grassland flora and fauna, geology, archaeology and history while on a three-hour guided tour. 1, 8, 15 and 24 September. Time: 1 and 15 September, 3pm; 8 September, 8:30am; 24 September, 8:30am. Venue: park opposite Marks Park Sports Club, Judith Rd, Emmarentia. Cost: adults R40, children R10. Contact: 011 482 4797 or visit mk.org.za Preseason cricket clinic A three-day clinic that uses technical and behavioural coaching to teach children every aspect of the game, from batting, bowling and fielding to etiquette, the rules of the game and gain general knowledge

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of the game. For children 4–14 years old. 25–27 September. Time: 9am–2pm.

Venue: University of Johannesburg’s cricket oval, cnr Kingsway Rd and University Rd, Auckland Park. Cost: R500 per student, R670 per family of two students. Contact: 0861 123 273, info@cricketschool.co.za or visit cricketschool.co.za Quiet on the court A fun holiday clinic teaches children all the rules and skills needed for tennis. For children 3–16 years old. Children 3–6 years old take part in mini tennis. 23–27 September. Time: 8:30am–1:30pm. Venue: Lonehill Crawford Preparatory School, Sceales Rd, Lonehill.

Cost: varies. Contact: 083 443 3391, info@ itatennis.co.za or visit itatennis.co.za

1, 8, 15 and 24 September – Melville Koppies guided tours

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Cooking with herbs A talk and demonstration on how to create delicious dishes for spring with popular herbs. 7 September. Time: 10am. Venue: Ngwenya Glass Village, off Beyers Naudé Dr and R114, Muldersdrift. Cost: R80, which includes tea/ coffee and cake. Contact: 083 285 8383 Healthy eating course A four-week cooking course teaches your domestic helper a selection of contemporary, easy to prepare meals, using fresh, seasonal ingredients. Course starts 12 September.

Time: 8:45am–1pm, every Thursday. Venue: 235 Jan Smuts Ave, Parktown North. Cost: R1 820. Contact: 011 447 5517, 083 525 4992 or visit domesticbliss.co.za Montessori information session Find out more about the accredited training programmes that will be offered in 2014.

14 September. Time: 10:30am–11:30am.

Venue: Buccleuch Montessori School, 35 Muller St North, Buccleuch. Cost: free.

Contact: 082 900 3192, heidi@montessorisa. co.za or visit montessorisa.co.za Mosaics 101 You can choose to mosaic a tray, house number, frame, vase, ornamental tortoise or mushroom using the direct mosaic method. They will guide you through the design and assist with the adhesives, cutting and grouting. 12, 26 and 28 September.

Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Seedpod Studio Parkhurst, 13 4th Ave, Parkhurst. Cost: R100 deposit. Contact: 011 447 0006 or visit seedpodstudio.co.za Organic vegetable gardening Learn everything you need to know to grow your own food from heirloom seeds. The course covers how to make biodegradable pots, mulching, planting and germinating seeds, and looks at companion planting.

Booking essential. 1 September. Time: 11am–4pm. Venue: Inner City Farm, Sandown. Cost: R580 (includes a light lunch and tea/coffee). Contact: 082 365 0050, linda@soughtafterseedlings.co.za or visit soughtafterseedlings.co.za Parent effectiveness training (PET) An eight-week course teaches parents practical communication and conflict handling skills. Starts 9, 10 and 21 September. Time: 6:30pm–9:30pm, every Monday; 9am–12pm, every Tuesday; or 2:30pm–5:30pm, every Saturday. Venue: Glen Austin, Midrand. Cost: R1 800.

Contact: 073 250 1040, heidibeyers@ parents.co.za or visit parents.co.za Positive Parenting Educational psychologist Dr Derek Jackson gives a talk on how to raise a positive, confident child in the often negative world in which we live in. Booking essential. 11 September.

Time: 7pm–9pm. Venue: Family and Child Centre, 4 Jack St, Robinhills. Cost: R120.

Contact: 011 782 5790 (mornings only) or tinaotte@telkomsa.net

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Secret life of bees An experienced beekeeper gives a talk about the value of bees, and demonstrates how to make honey mead and infuse honey with herbs. Bring a garden chair, notepad, pen and hat. Booking essential. Other workshops are held throughout the month.

14 September. Time: 2pm. Venue: The Herb and Indigenous Plant Guild, 161 Rienert Ave, Kempton Park West. Cost: R30 per member, R35 per visitor (includes refreshments). Contact: 011 393 3427, 076 265 4948 (office hours only) or patsyspotions@vergeer.co.za Skills development through play A basic introduction to play as well as an in-depth exploration of each developmental area. 17, 18 and 19 September. Time: 8am–4pm. Venue: Cotlands, 134 Stanton

St, Turffontein. Cost: from R1 600 per person. Contact: 011 683 7200, toylibrary@ cotlands.org or visit cotlands.org Tiny Bite hands-on workshops Cover your own cake in fondant icing and learn how to model icing bunnies, hedgehogs and birds, or learn to roll, bake and ice biscuits like a professional.

Booking essential as space is limited. 13, 20 and 24 September: biscuit decorating workshop; 14 September: beginner’s cake decorating workshop. Time: 9am–12:30pm. Venue: Tiny Bite, Sandton.

Cost: biscuit workshop R350, cake decorating workshop R450 (all recipes and ingredients provided). Contact: 082 927 9763, allison@tinybite.co.za or visit tinybite.co.za

on stage and screen Celebration 5 Enjoy this celebration of classical ballet and contemporary dance, featuring highlights from the South African Mzansi Ballet’s repertoire and featuring El Colegio del Cuerpo, or The Body School, from Colombia. 20–27 September. Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Joburg Theatre, 163 Civic Boulevard, Braamfontein. Cost: R189– R336. To book: 0861 670 670 or visit joburgtheatre.com Comedy in the Gardens Enjoy a few drinks in the garden before comedians Chris Forrest, Deep Fried Man, Dale Amler, Nqoba Ngcobo and Hannes Brummer take to the stage. Tickets can be bought at the door,

but they recommend booking in advance.

For 18 years and older. 26 September.

Time: 8pm. Venue: Shepstone Gardens, 8 Hope Rd, Mountain View. Cost: R120.

Contact: comedy@shepstonegardens.co.za or visit shepstonegardens.co.za Footprints of a Dancer This production celebrates the diverse and fascinating Indian culture with its rhythmic instruments.

14 and 15 September. Time: 7:30pm, Saturday; 3pm, Sunday. Venue: The Lyric Theatre, Gold Reef City, cnr Gold Reef Rd and Northern Park Way, Ormonde. Cost: R130–R150. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Helfgott’s Final Tour After 20 years of extensive touring, legendary pianist David Helfgott has decided to cut back on his demanding schedule. Helfgott, whose life inspired the Oscar-winning film Shine, is bidding farewell to Joburg with one performance. 8 September. Time: 3:30pm.

Venue: Linder Auditorium, University of the Witwatersrand, 27 St Andrews Rd, Parktown. Cost: R195–R315. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com Sunset Boulevard In Andrew Lloyd Webber’s musical, silent movie star Norma Desmond longs for a return to the big screen, having been discarded by Tinseltown with the advent of “talkies”. She meets struggling Hollywood screenwriter Joe Gillis, but their subsequent passionate and volatile relationship leads to tragedy.

Violin and piano recital Lovely works by Brahms, Pärt and Prokofiev, performed by South African-born violinist Sarita Uranovsky and local pianist Tertia Downie. For children 10 years and older. 15 September. Time: 4pm–5:30pm. Venue: Glenshiel, Order of St John, 19 Woolston Rd, Westcliff. Cost: R120. Contact: 083 414 0041

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21 August–20 October. Time: 8pm, Tuesday–Saturday; 4pm, Saturday; 2pm and 6pm, Sunday. Venue: Pieter Toerien’s Montecasino Theatre, cnr William Nicol Dr and Witkoppen Rd, Fourways. Cost: R100–R325. Contact: 011 511 1818 or visit montecasinotheatre.co.za

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calendar Welsh superstar The angelic voice of Katherine Jenkins is accompanied by a 24-piece orchestra. 18 and 19 September.

Time: 8pm. Venue: The Teatro at Montecasino, cnr William Nicol Dr and Witkoppen Rd, Fourways. Cost: R300– R750. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.com

out and about Charity golf day for Matt’s Foundation Take part in a golf day that follows a betterball stableford format. The proceeds raised will benefit Matt’s Foundation, a non-profit organisation that raises funds to care for the underprivileged children in the Vaal community. 13 September. Time: 11am.

Venue: Riviera on Vaal Hotel and Country Club, Mario Melani Dr, Vereeniging. Cost: R1 400 per four-ball, R350 per player (includes a goodie bag, halfway house and prize-giving dinner). Contact: 016 420 2245/6, helpus@mattsfoundation.co.za or visit mattsfoundation.org.za Feather of Hope champagne breakfast Enjoy a morning of glamour, pampering and relaxation as The South African Federation for Mental Health, together with its patron, Rachel Tambo, hosts its third annual champagne breakfast and fashion show. Proceeds go towards improving the lives of those living with

Johnson’s Baby Sense Seminars

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Up-to-date parenting information delivered by some of South Africa’s best-loved baby care experts. The morning seminar deals with issues faced by parents with babies aged 4–18 months, while the afternoon seminar focuses on the secrets to a calm newborn and newborn basics from bathing, cleaning, rashes, sleep and more. For parents with babies 0–18 months.

Time: 8:30am–5pm. Venue: The Maslow Hotel, cnr Grayston Dr and Rivonia Rd, Sandton. Cost: R230 per seminar, R75 per workshop.

Contact: 021 461 4669, bookings@ go4word.co.za or visit babysense. co.za/seminars

intellectual disability and/or mental illness.

For 18 years and older. 3 September. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Shepstone Gardens, 8 Hope Rd, Mountain View. Cost: R400, which includes entertainment, pampering and a three-course meal. Contact: 084 583 2608, 082 779 7449 or visit safmh.org.za Joburg Festival of Beer A gathering of micro- and mega brewers showcasing 200 local and international beers for enthusiasts, first-timers and connoisseurs to indulge in. There is live entertainment and food on offer, guided beer tours, beer pong tournaments, workshops, blind tastings and home-brewing demonstrations. 6–8 September. Time: 12pm. Venue: Pirates Sports Club, 25 Braeside St, Parkhurst.

Cost: R120. Book through Webtickets: 0861 225 598 or visit webtickets.co.za Moved-Unmoved The exhibition of Bonnie Walters’ new works on paper pursues themes of self-discovery and self-expression by reconnecting with the inner child.

24–29 September. Time: 9:30am–5pm.

Venue: Upstairs @ Bamboo, cnr 9th St and Rustenburg Rd, Melville. Cost: free entry.

Contact: 083 457 3259, bonniewalters@ iburst.co.za or visit bamboo-online.co.za Norman Catherine exhibition Admire the artwork by contemporary South African artist Norman Catherine. It’s a combination of comical and nightmarish forms on paper or as sculptures. Ends 19 September. Time: 9am–6pm, Monday–Friday; 9am–1pm, Saturday. Venue: Circa on Jellicoe, 2 Jellicoe Ave, Rosebank. Cost: free entry. Contact: 011 788 4805, info@circagallery.co.za or visit circagallery.co.za Receiving a multilingual education Parents interested in exploring the benefits of a trilingual education (Chinese, English, and isiZulu) can find out more during this information session. For parents of children 1–5 years old. 16 September. Time: 7pm.

Venue: LinguaMites Multilingual Preschool, behind the Buzz Shopping Centre, cnr Witkoppen Rd and Douglas Ave, Fourways.

Cost: free. Contact: 072 561 3113, info@ linguamites.co.za or visit linguamites.co.za

support groups Muscular dystrophy awareness Emotional support and advice for parents of children affected by muscular dystrophy is just a phone call away. Contact Zigi: 011 907 5057 or visit mdsa.org.za Overeaters Anonymous A support group for people suffering from overeating, bulimia and anorexia. Contact: 011 640 2901, oa_sa@overeatersanonymous.org.za or visit overeatersanonymous.org.za Single parents support group A social club for single parents and their children that meets up and takes part in various activities once a month. 28 September.

Time: 1pm. Venue: varies. Cost: free membership. Contact: 076 054 5510 or visit soloparenting.weebly.com

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classes, talks and workshops Cleva Me stimulation classes During a term, mothers will learn how to stimulate their babies with structured play, gross

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motor activities, sensory stimulation and massage. For babies 2 months–1 year old.

16 September. Time: classes take place from 9am–10am and 10:30am–11:30am, Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Venue: Sunninghill. Cost: R125 for a single class, R1 000 per term. Contact: 079 899 2456, marlize@clevame.co.za or visit clevame.co.za Learn to massage your baby A fourweek course for you to learn how to soothe your baby’s problems (such as colic, sleep and bonding issues). For parents of babies 2 weeks–1 year old. 9 September.

Five-week BabyGym course starts 16 September. Time: 11:30am–12:45pm.

Venue: The Children’s Therapy Centre, Petervale. Cost: R500. Contact: 083 303 1190 or joannebradley@global.co.za

playtime and story time Swing from tree to tree Within the Little Falls Garden Centre is a wonderland for children, with a miniature town, soft play systems, jungle gyms, tortoises that are free to roam, and a wide variety of monkeys in all shapes and sizes. Basic food and drinks are available. You can pre-order picnic baskets. Time: 8am–4pm, Tuesday–Saturday; 9am–4pm, Sunday.

Venue: Jungle Junkies, 99 Riverside Rd, Kromdraai, Muldersdrift. Cost: 30 minutes R30, unlimited play R40. Contact: 083 273 9555 or vanblerkyolande@gmail.com

support groups Building bonds with your baby A support group for moms experiencing the baby blues, or postnatal depression.

Time: 9am–10:30am, every Friday. Venue: The Family Life Centre, 1 Cardigan Rd, Parkwood. Contact: 011 788 4784 or Sumaiya: 079 269 5955 La Leche League Krugersdorp An informal discussion on breast-feeding for new moms, hosted by La Leche League.

7 September. Time: 2pm. Venue: tbc in Krugersdorp. Cost: free. Contact: 011 476 3439 or visit llli.org Postnatal Depression Support Group An informal get-together for moms suffering from postnatal depression.

Share your experiences with a mom who has experienced PND, while enjoying a cup of coffee. Time: 10am–12pm, every Wednesday. Venue: near Northgate. Cost: free. Contact: 083 469 5454

Robin Hood Foundation for distribution to underprivileged mothers from Aidsaffected communities. Contact: 083 707 0531 or visit robinhoodfoundation.co.za Door of Hope They provide care and shelter for abandoned, abused and orphaned children. Two houses are situated in Glenvista and another in Berea. Assistance in the form of monetary donations, surgical gloves, and baby changing pads would be appreciated. Contact: 011 432 2797 or visit doorofhope.co.za Ride for a purpose When taking part in the 94.7 Cycle Challenge you can register to raise funds and awareness for a charity of your choice, support a good cause that you believe in, or ride in memory of a loved one. Contact: 011 017 2700, cyclechallenge@highveld.co.za or register on cyclechallenge.co.za Santa Shoebox Project pledges open 1 September Visit the website and sign up as a new donor or if you’re already registered simply make a pledge for the child who will receive your shoebox. The start of the drop-off period is in October.

For more info, drop-off points and to learn what needs to go in your shoebox: visit santashoebox.co.za The Lighthouse Baby Shelter A safe haven for abandoned babies and children.

The shelter offers a Moses Basket, a hole in the wall where unwanted babies can be dropped off anonymously rather than being discarded in bins and left on pavements.

Venue: 48 Drysdale Rd, Sundowner. Contact: 011 795 4207, wanita@homefinsa.co.za or visit thelighthousebabyshelter.co.za The Michael John Connor Institute This is a newly established home and nonprofit organisation that cares for children with disabilities from birth to 7 years old that has been abandoned, neglected and/ or abused. Any donations are welcome; from cash and services to equipment.

Venue: East Rand. Contact: 082 778 6467, gwenh@mjci.co.za or visit facebook.com/ michaeljohnconnorhome

how to help Bless a Baby spring charity drive During September, pop into a Baby Boom or Toys R Us store to purchase and donate new baby items such as blankets, towelling and disposable nappies, baby-gros, bibs, booties, jerseys and toys. All items will be donated to the

Bless a Baby spring charity drive

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For a free listing, email your event to joburg@childmag.co.za or fax it to 011 234 4971. Information must be received by 30 August for the October issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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rin is obsessed with a certain superhero who has a penchant for wearing tight pants and a red cape. At first, I thought it was just a fleeting crush. But it’s been more than a month already and her whole life revolves around Superman. She wants Superman socks, Superman bubbles and a Superman cake for her birthday, although I’m hoping she will have forgotten about him by December. She has also watched the movie about 17 times and can even hum the darn theme song. I have to admit to being a bit concerned. Is it really healthy for a two year old to show so much interest in a comic character with superpowers? She likes Winnie-the-Pooh, and she is a fan of Mister Maker, but it’s the man in red and blue that really gets her animated.

I asked her what it was about this aerodynamic man in spandex that intrigued her, and she informed me that it was his “big red boots” and his ability to fly to the moon.

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But I think the thing that impresses her most is his ability to save the day. When I struggled to load some parcels into the car recently, she told me, “Don’t worry, Superman can do it for you.”

And I suppose there is something in all of us that wants to believe in a superhero; in someone who can rescue us when things go awry.

We adults are, of course, somewhat jaded. Many of us have given up on makebelieve and the notion that good can triumph over evil. But if Erin still believes that a man with a funky “S” emblazoned on his shirt can stop an aeroplane in midflight, who am I to shatter the illusion?

There is plenty of time for her to discover that things are not always as they seem,

and that sometimes the baddie will win. I hope she believes in the tooth fairy too, and Father Christmas. She’s not so keen on the Easter bunny, but maybe that will change before it’s time to hide the eggs next year.

For now, it’s enough for her to know that there’s someone out there who’s fighting the good fight, with his big boots and flowing cape. When she faces a difficult task, I remind her that Superman would tackle it with all his might and this motivates her to try again. “I’m supersonic too,” she tells me. It even helped when I needed her to take some medication recently. Yes, I hauled out the old “Superman would take his medicine” card.

But you know, it could have been much worse. At least she’s not infatuated with Justin Bieber; not yet anyway.

Anél Lewis is a political writer for the Cape Argus. She has to accept the fact that her daughter prefers wearing a red towel around her neck, as a makeshift Superman cape, to pretty jerseys with kitty patterns.

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Someone to look up to; red boots and all, AnÉl LEWIS uncovers the value of believing in superheroes.