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Living “the good life” is our new theme for March.

It’s a theme born out of the many letters we receive from parents and grandparents wanting more out of life – for themselves, their children and their grandchildren. “The good life” means different things to different people. It may mean doing all you can to ensure that your child is in good health, happy, confident and well educated. It may also mean taking that well-deserved break and spending time travelling, playing with your children or just relaxing with no pressures of city life weighing you down. Whatever it means for you, it’s a great ideal to strive towards as it epitomizes a sense of serenity, consciousness,

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community involvement and a real commitment to your family, with balance being the ultimate goal. On page 12 you’ll read how one family did just that by swapping their suburban life for five months of exploring North America with two preschoolers in tow. Yes, it can be done!

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3 a note from lisa 6 over to you readers respond

features 12 finding the magic Mary Wuth and her young family had an unforgettable adventure travelling through the US for five months

16 thinking out the box developing lateral thinking skills boosts selfconfidence in children.

By Jocelyn Warrington

18 picnic pleasers dine alfresco with these delicious recipes from Janet Kohler’s book Perfect Parties

8 pregnancy news – pregnancy 101 contemplating having children?

Anél Lewis looks at eight important questions to ask before starting the journey

9 best for baby – my baby needs a doctor! Ruwaydah Harris asks experts when you should rush off to the doctor

10 dealing with difference – misdiagnosed detecting a developmental disorder is not an exact science. Lucille Kemp investigates

23 a good read for the whole family

20 playing to win it’s not about the quantity of extramurals your child takes part in, but getting the balance right. By Tamlyn Vincent

22 world’s best dad Marc de Chazal shares advice on how to be the best father you can possibly be

31 pack light Tamlyn Vincent gives practical tips on how to pack for a trip

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24 resource – sea, sand and sunshine Marina Zietsman brings you some of the best family-friendly island getaways from around the world

26 what’s on in march 30 finishing touch her son is a formidable planker, says Anél Lewis, but he hasn’t quite perfected the art

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7 a family abroad Marina Zietsman finds out what necessary precautions you should take when travelling with little ones

29 let’s party 30 family marketplace

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over to you lazy parenting In response to the letter regarding “guidance for parents of intellectually gifted children” (February 2015): I am irritated at the statement that it is the teacher’s job to get children to focus in class. Comments like this must seriously send most teachers over the edge. I agree the teacher must keep the child engaged in the lesson, but it is not the responsibility of the teacher to ensure that your child is able to focus during their lesson. That, parents, is your job. Teachers already have a job – to teach.

They are not there to pull their hair out trying to get your little one to focus because you fed him a giant bowl of blue, sugary cereal just before kissing him goodbye and heading off to the gym, hoping magical fairies will wave their wands and your child will instantly grasp 1 + 1 or apply themselves in a 15-minute swimming lesson. It is the parent’s job to put their children to bed early enough so that they can apply themselves. It is the parent’s job not to leave a bat-eyed child in front of his iPad for hours on end, melting his brain into a mix of fast cars and

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electronic malfunction. It is the parent’s job to ensure their child’s diet is one that will allow her to sit quietly for half an hour and take in what is being said. Why should teachers have to ask what they could do to make their class more enjoyable so they can hold the attention of the children? Here’s a thought teachers: you should all dress up as Spider-Man and teach your class while hanging upside down from the classroom ceiling. Maybe you should duct tape an iPad to your forehead and flash images of hamburgers. No, sorry, it is not the job of teachers to factory through a generation of distracted children due to lazy parenting.

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confirmed with the party planner how many children will attend based on the RSVPs I received, and settled for a package deal within my budget. In future, I will have to respond that the numbers were finalized on the given RSVP date and I cannot accommodate them. Also keep in mind, unless specified, I’ve invited your child to the party, not the whole family. Don’t bring all the siblings or other friends and don’t send your au pair along with her children as well. If you have to bring extra children, it’s polite to ask your hostess first. And don’t arrive an hour early for the party. A time was specified for a reason, unless of course you have made prior arrangements with the hostess.

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party etiquette Parents should be reminded how to respond to a party invitation. I realise everyone is busy, but that’s no excuse not to RSVP by the given date. It’s irritating when the party is organised in advance and a mother RSVPs the night before, saying they’re attending. By this time, I have

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a family abroad The smaller bodies and developing immune systems of children present unique travel health needs. MARINA ZIETSMAN finds out about necessary precautions.

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roximity to good medical care is important while travelling with children, says Dr Pete Vincent, a medical advisor to the Netcare Travel Clinics. “It is preferable to wait until a child is two years old before subjecting them to isolated places in the developing world,” he advises. But if you do, keep the following in mind:

vaccine routine All routine vaccinations should be up to date. “Taking unvaccinated children across our borders exposes them to serious risk,” says Vincent. “The protection of herd immunity is lost when taking them out of their present environment.”

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prevention is better than cure

find more travel-related info • Netcare Travel Clinics – travelclinic.co.za • Centres of Disease Control – cdc.gov/travel • World Health Organisation – who.int/ith/ • Tips on packing a travel health kit: nc.cdc.gov/travel/page/pack-smart

Netcare Travel Clinics advise that international travellers be vaccinated against vaccine-preventable, destination-specific diseases for which they may be at risk. A doctor should also give an individual assessment. Find out from your travel clinic or doctor what vaccines are required for your destination, but the following should be considered: hepatitis A, meningococcal, rabies, typhoid fever and yellow fever.

malaria “No child under the age of five years old should be subjected to the threat of malaria,” says Vincent. “Malaria spreads rapidly in this age group and is usually life-threatening due to the difficulty of diagnosis.” Vincent says even in low risk areas, bite-prevention is vital by using protective measures from dusk to dawn. “Prompt diagnosis and treatment is crucial,” he says, “and take antimalarial medication precisely as prescribed.”

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Be more vigilant if you travel in areas where hygiene and sanitation are inadequate, and avoid salads, uncooked vegetables, unpasteurized fruit juice or milk, and milk products.

Eat only food that is fully cooked and served hot and fruit that has been washed in clean water and then peeled yourself. Wash your hands regularly with soap and water before eating, after using the bathroom or changing diapers, and after direct contact with small children, animals, sick people or faeces. If soap and water are not available, use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer.

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• Ask your doctor about a remedy to lightly sedate a hysterical infant or toddler on the plane.

• Breast-feeding, or the bottle, can help equalize the pressure in the ears and minimizes ear pain in infants during a flight.

Older children may find sucking on a lollipop helpful.

• Beware of extreme temperatures, as children cannot regulate their body temperature as well as adults can. Dress appropriately and offer fluids regularly. Use maximum sunscreen.

• While travelling you have less control over a child’s environment. Drowning, poisoning, burns and falls may occur. Watch out for unfenced waterways and stray animals.

• To counter jetlag, try to keep your children on the home routine shortly after landing.

Also allow your children to take marathon naps on arrival.

• Medical professionals and the travel industry can give you advice, but it’s your responsibility to get information, to understand the risks involved and to take the necessary precautions to protect your child while travelling.

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pregnancy news

pregnancy 101 Being a parent is life-changing. ANÉL LEWIS looks at eight important

ew relationships are about candlelit dinners and intimate chats – usually about love, life and happily ever after. But there are some discussions you need to have before adding children to the mix.

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Do you both want children? If so, how many? My husband told me quite flippantly when we were dating that he was keen for a brood of four. But after two weeks with a newborn, he quickly adjusted that to a more manageable two. While Mother Nature tends to have her own plan, make sure you have a clear idea of the preferred size of your family at the get-go. If you want more than one, decide whether you want to have a big gap between the two, or get all the nappies out of the way as quickly as possible. But also talk about what happens if life throws you a curveball, and baby number two turns out to be babies two, three and four. You should also think about possible complications. If routine pregnancy tests pick up an abnormality, what options would you consider? Could you cope with a child with special needs and what support network do you have in place?

under construction Be frank about your respective needs.

Does your husband need lots of attention?

Are you a control freak who finds it difficult to be at someone’s beck and call? It’s important to discuss upfront what your expectations are when it comes to being a family. Children are demanding, and it’s possible that you won’t be able to give your spouse the same attention you did when it was just the two of you.

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Examine the way you communicate with each other and be clear about your needs. Also, avoid having a baby to heal a relationship. Sleepless nights and the stress of a new person in your lives can add considerable strain to even the most rock-solid partnership. Take a hard look at your lifestyle. Are you ready to forego lazy Saturday brunches and impromptu getaways to change nappies and watch Thomas the Train?

count the costs Babies are expensive. Think nappies, wipes, paediatric visits... Do a detailed financial plan and budget. This will also help you decide how many children you can realistically afford. Factor in childcare expenses if you need extra help as well as the cost of school and extramural activities later on. Is your home large enough for an expanding family or will you have to move?

primary school options. Good schools are in high demand, and it’s important to get your child onto waiting lists as soon as you can.

Talk about what kind of school environment you would both prefer. Also agree now on whether you will vaccinate your children or not, bearing in mind that schools ask for the clinic card when you apply.

bad cop, good cop Unfortunately, someone has to be the disciplinarian. Decide together what constitutes inappropriate behaviour and how best to deal with it. While you may happily allow the children to paint themselves green just for 15 minutes of quiet, your husband may be furious about the mess. If he punishes them for something you appeared to condone, it could send mixed signals. Form a united front and act consistently. Broader parenting roles need to be established early on. Will you take turns with bath time and nappy changes, for example?

career plans Will you both go back to the office, or will one of you stay home with the children? Consider changing to half-day or freelance if your profession allows. In terms of labour legislation, women are able to take four months of maternity leave, starting one month before their due date. You can claim UIF if your maternity leave is unpaid. Be sure to factor in the adjustment to your monthly income as part of your budgetary planning.

childcare Childcare options will depend on your work decision. Will you have a nanny, day mother or rely on a family member to help out? At what age will you send your child to play school? You also need to start looking at

sleep woes Some parents prefer to sleep with their newborn alongside the bed, especially for night feeds. Others want to get their children accustomed to sleeping alone as soon as possible. Often the problems only really start a year or two later when your toddler decides that sleeping in Mom’s bed is more fun. Not only is this disruptive, but it can be disastrous for your relationship. Discuss sleep training options for various ages.

Unfortunately, children like to mix things up – so a good sleeper at eight months may turn into a sleepwalker at two years old.

lend a hand There will be times when you’re both going to need some TLC. Breast-feeding can be

stressful, so discuss with your partner about how you will both approach this, and if he should intervene if you find it difficult. It was such a relief for me when my husband gently encouraged me to change to formula after three agonising weeks of trying to breastfeed our daughter. Talk about the reality of postnatal depression. Up to 40% of women will develop some form of depression or anxiety after giving birth, says the Postnatal Depression Society of SA. Up to 10% of new fathers can also become depressed.

birthing options Find out upfront what your medical aid will cover or how much the birth will cost. But nothing is set in stone and an unexpected complication could mean a sudden change in birthing plan. Go on an antenatal course together so that you can make informed choices about birthing options.

• Traditional hospital birth – Options include vaginal birth or Caesarean section. Some hospitals have water-birth facilities. Discuss pain relief options with your gynaecologist or obstetrician.

• Birthing centre – Perfect for couples with low-risk pregnancies wanting to give birth naturally in a more homelike environment with individualised care.

• Home birth – Suitable for low-risk natural or water births.

You could also involve a midwife or doula. Midwives are trained medical professionals who can perform medical procedures; a doula will offer emotional and practical support.

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seem like you’re crying wolf too often. Two paediatricians advise when to consult and when to play it by ear.

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our child will not get through the first few years of life without getting sick. Dr Claudia Gray, a paediatrician and allergologist at Vincent Pallotti Hospital in Cape Town, says your baby is likely to suffer five to 10 minor infections – such as the common cold – per year in the first two to three years of his or her life. “Young children are often sick because of their immature immune systems. In addition, every cold may last one to three weeks, so it can feel as if your baby is always sick,” says Gray. However, every sniffle may not need a doctor’s opinion, she adds.

So, as a new mom, how do you determine when to consult your paediatrician and when to sit it out? “As a general rule you shouldn’t take any risks with babies up to three months old, advises Dr Mgcini Thwala, a paediatrician in private practice in Joburg. When your baby is still so young, it’s best to be safe than sorry, he says. You will learn, with the help of your doctor, to determine when your baby needs medical care.

Doctors Gray and Thwala offer the following advice: Don’t be embarrassed if you’ve consulted your doctor and it turns out there’s nothing wrong with your baby, says Thwala. It’s better to get the assurance from a health practitioner than to self medictate.

Don’t do a Google search to determine what’s wrong with your baby. A thorough medical examination is needed to make a proper diagnosis, adds Thwala.

Apply the rule of seven when it comes to analysing your baby’s bowel movements. “Breast-fed babies can have up to seven dirty nappies a day, but sometimes they can have one dirty nappy in seven days. Formula babies, on the other hand, have to have at least one dirty nappy a day,” Thwala says.

He adds that during the first few days of life, a baby’s poop may be green and may change slightly to yellow. Don’t worry if you’re breast-feeding exclusively, advises Thwala.

You should see a doctor if your baby is feeding poorly, has a high fever of more than 38°C in the first six months and 38,5°C thereafter, is unusually tired or irritable, is breathing fast (more than one breath per second), wheezes when breathing out or has a whoop when breathing in and is not getting better after five days, Gray advises.

According to Gray, always seek medical advice if the child is very irritable, has respiratory distress or an unexplained rash.

Generally, if they have a low-grade fever, have periods of playfulness (even if it is after a dose of paracetamol), are eating and drinking relatively well despite the illness, and are not too lethargic or irritable, then you can sit it out for a few days, says Gray.

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misdiagnosed Detecting a developmental disorder is not as exact a science as identifying a broken arm or bronchitis.

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t three years old, Peter was dealing with multiple developmental and behavioural challenges and had been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) with associated ADHD when he was referred to an intervention centre in Cape Town.

He struggled to sit down and concentrate for more than a second, tended to be impulsive and lashed out at others as he could not communicate his frustrations. Following observations, the therapeutic team at the centre recommended he stay in the younger group at his preschool and attend occupational therapy (OT) to address his emotional, sensory, social and verbal difficulties.

A few months later, such was his improvement that his parents requested a second opinion from a neurodevelopmental paediatrician who questioned the original diagnosis.

Talk of special schooling was now off the table thanks to the progress Peter was making with occupational and speech therapy. He was closing the gap and soon moved up to the next class, with his attention span and group participation capabilities improving. By the time he was four-and-a-half years old, Peter no longer had an ASD diagnosis hanging over his head.

Symptoms may change over time, so always mention anything new that worries you, as a different diagnosis may be more appropriate.

In another incident, Cape Town mom Cindy was taken aback at a doctor’s flippancy when, at their first and only visit, she had briefly shared concerns about her six-year-old son Josh’s concentration span at school. Without evaluation the doctor’s response was that it was probably ADHD and that Josh should be given Ritalin.

Meanwhile, Cape Town parents Nancy and Tim Cockcroft’s toddler, Georgina, was presenting with various developmental delays, specifically speech. When she was two and a half years old they consulted with a speech therapist who ran tests and diagnosed Georgina with apraxia. However, during the speech therapy in the months that followed, Nancy saw no improvement and, feeling that her daughter wasn’t getting much from the process, she sought a second opinion. It emerged that Georgina was actually on the autism spectrum.

One such child is seven-year-old Justin Senigar, who was diagnosed with severe autism. When Shankardass and her clinical team used the EEG technology to look at Justin’s brain, it turned out that he was almost certainly not autistic, though symptoms mimicked autism. Two months after Justin went on anti-seizure medication for his brain seizures, his vocabulary went from three to 300 words and his communication and social interaction improved so dramatically that he was enrolled in a regular school and started excelling at karate.

markers of a good assessment In order to not put your child through the stress of an incorrect, under- or over diagnosis, here’s what to know: “A good assessment will be comprehensive, starting with familiarising both parent and child with the process and explaining their rights,” says Young. “Time should be spent with the family together as well as with the child and parents separately. Contact may need to be made with several other family members.” The clinician should give feedback in understandable terms to both the child and parents. You should feel able to disagree or ask questions at any point and should not feel rushed into decisions.

Discussions with your clinician will include clarifying the current concerns, screening for other difficulties that commonly co-occur, along with getting a family history and full developmental history. “You should be given the opportunity to disclose sensitive information in private, away from your child, if you so wish,” points out Wallace. Symptoms may change over time, so always mention anything new that worries you, as a different diagnosis may be more appropriate. For example, bipolar disorder often presents initially with a depressed episode. It is only once a manic episode occurs that the true diagnosis may be revealed.

Observations of child and caregiver interactions should take place and, based on the interventions the child needs, a decision needs to be made as to what further assessments are required, whether it is occupational therapy for sensorimotor or functional developmental delays or referral to a medical specialist for a diagnosis or medication.

An educational assessment may have to take place and further information may be needed, with your permission, from other healthcare workers and teachers. Rating scales may be used and underlying medical conditions should be considered.

when to get a second opinion If your doctor is rigid Young says your clinician should be able to address any worries you have about your child’s assessment or management plan by explaining their thinking.

They should be willing to adjust their assessment should more information come to light.

If you haven’t been given options Young says it is unusual for there to be only one form of treatment available, either with medication or therapeutic intervention. Your clinician likely has valid reasons for suggesting a particular course of action, but if you are not happy with it, other options should be made available. Even if it is the only therapeutic modality they are able to offer themselves, if this is not the best fit for your child, they should be able to advise you of other clinicians.

If you feel bullied into an unsuitable management plan Seek a second opinion from a clinician with more extensive qualifications or experience if your child does not seem to be improving after some time. They may well confirm the previous clinician’s assessment and plan, but in the long run this may help alleviate your anxiety and indecision.

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There is a variety of reasons why there seems to be such a huge margin for error when diagnosing a developmental disorder, according to child and adolescent psychiatrist Merryn Young and occupational therapist Kerry Wallace. There is no objective measure like a blood pressure reading to tell you that you have a condition or not and disorders that cause less behavioural disturbance are easily missed. Also, the same symptom can occur within different disorders. Epigenetic factors, such as prematurity and maternal postnatal depression, which makes a child more susceptible to various developmental disorders, needs to be more widely understood, says Wallace.

According to neuroscientists such as Dr Aditi Shankardass, we rely too heavily on observable behaviour and don’t look directly at the brain when treating disorders that essentially originate in the brain. “It is estimated that one in six children suffers from a developmental disorder, these being autism spectrum, sensory processing, learning and attention disorders,” says Shankardass who, based at Harvard, has done pioneering work using EEG brain scanning. She has discovered that almost 50% of children diagnosed with autism were found to be incorrectly diagnosed. magazine pretoria

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getaway

Lincoln loving the thrill of skiing at Lake Tahoe, California

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Exploring Mayan ruins at Chichen Itza, Mexico

Lincoln, Mary and Lola drinking in the views on top of the Rockefeller Centre, New York

Enjoying the thrills of life in the snow

Fun in the sun and warm waters in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico Keeping the children close at hand along the edges of the Grand Canyon

Hitching a ride with Dad in Zion National Park, Utah

Travelling across North America with two preschool age children for five months turned out to be an adventure of a lifetime for a South African family. MARY WUTH shares the highlights of their trip. time to travel

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Thankfully, we have our own company creating mobile apps, which requires little but the internet and a computer; our location is irrelevant. Without this our trip would probably never have made it off the drawing board. We were able to elbow out some activities and carve a five-month window from October to March. What started as a round-the-world trip was quickly modified into something more plausible in the time we had. The destination became, by default, North America, because it was the only continent my husband and I could agree on. He had his heart set on skiing; I wanted to lie on a beach. America has it all.

As our heads began to emerge from under the wasteland of early child rearing, thoughts of our round-the-world trip gradually began to resurface. Lola, our daughter, had just turned four and Lincoln, our lively, accident-prone son, was about to turn three. So, armed with dogged determination and wit, we dived into planning a trip before we could change our minds, or fall pregnant, whichever happened first.

With two months to finalise our planning, we set about deciding on the places we wanted to see the most, and the best route to get it all in. We found our equilibrium in the decision to hire an SUV and begin in New York, working our way in a clockwise direction down to Savannah, through New Orleans, Texas, Utah, Nevada, then California, up the West Coast, and across the top of the country back to New York. Oh, and a little sojourn off to Mexico in the middle somewhere. We agreed we wanted our trip to be flexible, so booked only the accommodation we were certain about before embarking on our trip. This gave us the freedom to stay longer if we were enjoying a place, but also to move on if we felt restrained.

Viewing our future through the filter of dirty nappies, burp cloths and seven o’clock bedtimes injected us with a sudden desire for adventure.

Viewing our future through the filter of dirty nappies, burp cloths and seven o’clock bedtimes injected us with a sudden desire for adventure. Given the predicament of my ever-increasing waistline and near junky dependence on salty cracks and olives, we decided we would schedule our travels for the year our daughter turned one. This was a solid idea, until we received news of a second little creation. We’re brave, but no amount of wine-induced courage could get us to jet off with a 14 month old and a newborn in tow, so on to Plan B. We bought a house and settled into suburban life.

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Our one non-negotiable as parents was remaining positive and upbeat for our children.

This wasn’t always easy. Five months on the road can leave you feeling lonely and in need of friends, but we chose this adventure and it was our job to keep things exciting for them. This was easy most of the time because it was exciting, but when you are running out of petrol in the middle of Mexican cartel land or sliding across the road in your car because you thought you knew better than the guy at the garage when he suggested you use tire chains, a smile and a joke are sometimes hard to muster. But, not only did our children surprise us with their level of ease at changing “homes” every few days, they thrived, becoming more outgoing and confident as our trip progressed. When your daughter spends more magazine pretoria

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fter spending five months travelling the US in temperatures as low as -36°C with two preschool children, 10 bags, two bikes, two scooters, an office-in-a-laptop-bag, and mounds of ski gear, tackling everyday life back home in Cape Town can seem a bit dull. The excitement of having a new “home” every few days, from a Caribbean beach to a winter wonderland, for months on end, can make even the most picturesque city feel like it’s lacking. But I’m getting ahead of myself…

My husband and I moved from Joburg to Cape Town shortly after we got married in our mid-twenties and found any desire to travel the globe fall into a dismal second place. We were in love with Cape Town. Then, rather abruptly, we found out we were about to become three, which changed everything.

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getaway

Glacier National Park, Montana

Avoiding copious fast-food outlets on our 24 000km drive with a road-side picnic

time hiding behind your legs than playing with friends at a party, this change alone made the trip worthwhile.

On our 24 000km drive around North America, the children remained buckled into their seats, either watching videos on the iPad, colouring in their books or playing make-believe games together. They are best friends. I might make them sound like angels, but it wasn’t always plain sailing; my husband will tell you that mothers utilise selective memory as a survival tool. We shared rooms and we shared our moods.

We were in each other’s space almost the entire time, but there isn’t a moment that I wouldn’t repeat, even the difficult ones.

At Yosemite National Park during a fullday hike up to Nevada Falls, California

so herding my children down a slope I am simply proficient on was going to be challenging. What I didn’t anticipate is that when you have little people to worry about, you forget your own fears. It was only in repeating the slopes that I did with my children, by myself, that I realised how scary I found them.

making memories Skiing was not the only part of the trip that had me realising my own strengths. There were times when I wanted to sit down and cry, times when Shaun, my husband, was chained to our hotel room or apartment because of a work deadline. I found myself

Travelling offers you everything: a view inside your own soul and a view inside those travelling with you.

Travelling with your children adds complexities, no doubt, but the bonuses far outweigh them. When on the road, not only do you have to carry all their gear and yours, but you carry their dreams along with yours, too. The journey doubles in weight, but it also doubles in enjoyment.

Nothing highlighted this more for me than skiing. After teaching the children the basics on the nursery slopes, we decided they were ready to head down some of the longer, more exciting runs. Now just to give you a bit of background here, I am ruffled doing anything more than a “green” run. I am a “distrustfully comfortable” skier,

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in places I didn’t know, with two children and no car. South Africa might be a thirdworld country, but nowhere does it come close to the chaos you feel in the middle of a city like Cancún, Mexico, when you don’t speak the language, where traffic seems to have a flow of its own regardless of any traffic signs, and travelling around with a daughter who has the biggest mass of tight blond ringlets draws strangers to you in a way walking around with a celebrity would. Putting on your big-girl panties is suddenly not enough; there were times I simply had to man up. I had to be stronger than even I thought I could be. magazine pretoria

Biking among the tall trees in Redwoods National Park, California

Luckily, there is always a flip-side. Ours was realising how much more joy everything brings when you are travelling with your children: the wonder in their eyes when they look up from their small little place on the pavement at the skyscrapers above them, or walk into the Disney Store in Times Square; the pure elation that bubbles from them when they roll in snow for the first time, or find their juice boxes frozen in the car overnight; their brave faces as they wobble around on their first skis, or the unrestrained laughter as they try and climb a palm tree on the beach. Sure, being able to party all night in New Orleans would have been an experience, but taking the children to eat

Lola sharing a wintry beach with the seagulls in Cambria, California

five months that sometimes I think we are still recovering. The good times were so good, and the tough times so tough, every emotion was piercing. Our journey, as incredible as it was, was also overwhelming at times. We learnt a lot about supporting each other, even in the midst of our own fears and anxieties.

Travelling offers you everything: a view inside your own soul and a view inside those travelling with you. Narrowmindedness gives way to perspective.

This offers understanding, while at the same time shrouding you in confusion and doubt. It broadens every facet of thought you have ever had, offering

Our one non-negotiable as parents was remaining positive and upbeat for our children. This wasn’t always easy. beignets and watch a jazz band in a quaint little Creole restaurant was pure enjoyment; just different. There are not many children who can say they have snow hiked through Zion National Park or climbed the peaks in Yosemite by themselves. Cruising through a frozen Yellowstone National Park on a snow mobile had us all laughing out loud, even when the children fell asleep and we spent the last hour just trying to keep them from falling off.

lessons along the way Every day was packed with adventure and life. We crammed so much into magazine pretoria

so much more to your life and your soul than you thought possible while wrapped in cotton wool at home, sipping expensive local wines complaining about your lack of promotion and the increase in the fuel price. Life is so much bigger, so much more.

We are repeatedly asked what our favourite part of the trip was and our answer is overwhelmingly simple – an uninterrupted five months of just being together, muddling through life as a family, uncovering our own strengths and seeing the magic in each other. Would I do it again? In a heartbeat.

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Developing lateral thinking skills will not only help your child solve complex problems, it can also boost self-esteem. By JOCELYN WARRINGTON

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bat and a ball cost R1,10. The bat costs R1 more than the ball. How much does the ball cost?

The first number that comes to your mind is 10c, right? The distinctive mark of this easy puzzle is that it evokes an answer that is intuitive, appealing and wrong.

Do the maths and you will see. If the ball costs 10c, then the total cost will be R1,20 (10c for the ball and R1,10 for the bat), not R1,10. The correct answer is 5c.

The purpose of the above puzzle is to observe your brain in autopilot and to note how intuitive impressions can hold great sway over our thoughts. In 1967, Dr Edward de Bono coined the term “lateral thinking”

obvious and involving ideas that may not be obtainable by using only step-by-step logic.

De Bono is the first to admit that creativity is a messy and confusing subject.

At its simplest level, “creative” means bringing into being something that was not there before. Understanding the need for creativity in business and industry today is the easy part. The phrase “innovate or die” is frequently bandied about as a reference to the emergence of a new creative economy in which efficiency is no longer the game changer. When Steve Jobs returned to Apple after 12 years, the company needed a controversial $150 million investment from archrival

Intelligence is something we are born with; thinking is a skill that must be learned. as a method of solving problems through an indirect and creative approach – a system of thinking that deliberately distances itself from intuitive, unconscious thought. “In the face of fast-changing trends, fierce competition and the need to work miracles despite tight budgets, better quality and service are not enough. Creativity and innovation are the only engines that will drive lasting success,” De Bono famously declared. Lateral thinking, therefore, is a way of breaking free of traditional thinking patterns and solving problems via an indirect or creative approach, using reasoning that is not always immediately

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Microsoft to stay afloat. Even worse, when asked what he would do were he in Jobs’s shoes, Michael Dell (of computer giant Dell Inc) said, “I’d shut [the company] down, and give the money back to shareholders.” Rather than give up, Jobs was able to use these “indignities” to fuel an amazing comeback. In a very short period of time, Apple grew to become the most valuable company ever. Innovation – the ability to think out the box – was the magic ingredient that brought Apple back from the brink. And innovation remains the key source of the company’s competitive edge.

Where traditional notions argue that creativity takes place via a process of logical thinking, trial and error, feedback and reflection, De Bono and other lateralthinking proponents stress the need to take off the “blinkers” of past knowledge in order to look at things afresh. Sadly, De Bono’s ideas run counter to many of the established “systems” of schooling and society as a whole, where a one-size-fitsall scenario frequently operates, says Niki Everitt, a Cape Town-based Montessori preschool teacher. “Whether this is due to the way teachers are trained, or because society expects everyone to conform, is a matter of debate, but teachers often have the perception that there is only one right way of doing things and that deviating from the set programme will lead to confusion or, worse, a greater workload for the teachers themselves,” says Everitt. “But children also learn from their parents, with all their preconceived notions. How many times, while watching a child do something, do we remark afterwards, ‘I wouldn’t have done it that way,’ yet remain amazed at the success of the outcome?”

Unless creativity is nurtured in childhood, we grow up as adults too “afraid” to take intellectual risks and we constantly fall back on “what we were taught”, says Everitt.

Lianna Morrison, an educational psychologist based in the Overberg, agrees: “The ability to look at problems from various angles and solve them in sometimes unconventional ways differs considerably from our traditional schooling system, which focuses on clearly measurable outcomes. While there are teachers who try to introduce more creativity into lessons, this is not often successful in the long run as the constant

fear of ‘will we be marked on this?’ is contrary to the creative process. Sure, it is easy to blame the school system, but the challenges that it faces in trying to ensure that millions of children’s learning needs are met and standards maintained is not an easily solvable one. Therefore it is up to parents to create opportunities for children to be their creative selves.”

freedom to fail Not only is the ability to think laterally essential for challenging the established status quo, but research also indicates that creativity is inextricably linked to the process of self-actualisation (the achievement of one’s full potential) and the building of self-esteem. Joburg-based educational psychologist Melanie Hartgill explains: “Childhood is perhaps the only time in one’s life that – hopefully – we won’t be criticised for thinking or doing things ‘differently’. As we all know, some of us function more with our right brains and some more with our left brains, some of us have a stronger auditory memory and some a stronger visual memory. So a young child needs to be given opportunities to experiment with different methods to find out what works best for him or her. Failure is as important a learning tool as success as it helps build self-confidence. And, as we know, self-confidence opens a lot of doors, even when ability is not one’s strongest point.”

One of the most widely held misconceptions about creativity, says Philippa Brinkmann who teaches at a prominent Cape Town junior school, is that only some children possess it: “Children are born with bucket loads of creativity and they constantly draw on this to solve problems they encounter every day: from finding a way to get their bodies across

serious creativity Educational psychologist Lianna Morrison suggests the following tools to increase your child’s ability to think laterally: • Encourage questions. Children need to ask questions about what they are being taught so that they can deepen their understanding of concepts. Teach them to ask the questions that no one else is asking.

• Creativity can be encouraged even in the traditional school setting; for example, maths and physics principles can be taught by giving children a bunch of straws, string and a marshmallow, with the goal of building the highest structure that can hold the marshmallow.

• Give children access to resources. These can be anything from paper and pencils to library cards, internet access or visits to museums.

• Let them work together, lead discussions and ask questions of one another.

Learning how to communicate one’s ideas in a respectful manner is as important as the ideas themselves.

• Let them try out their ideas. The annual Global Cardboard Challenge run by the Imagination Foundation (imagination.is) is an example of a fun, creative initiative that encourages children to put their ideas out there.

• Build the attributes that enhance creativity: confidence, curiosity, the freedom to explore and resourcefulness. Help them learn to silence their own inner critics.

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a room to learning to share a bar of chocolate with siblings so that everyone gets an equal amount. Creativity is not the sole possession of the ‘arty’ children.

A child who is organised and on top of her schoolwork has probably drawn on her creative powers to plan her learning process and manage her time well.

opportunities, tools and encouragement in a safe environment. “I remember watching a youngster mountain climbing with his dad down below holding the rope,” recalls Everitt. “The father wasn’t shouting up instructions to his son on how and where he should place his hands and feet, but was rather ‘there’ holding the rope should

Children are born with bucket loads of creativity and they constantly draw on this to solve problems they encounter every day.

Allowing children the space and time to explore ideas creatively develops logic and often they discover the need for planning and regulating their thought processes at the same time.”

According to De Bono, “Intelligence is something we are born with; thinking is a skill that must be learned.” Brainteasers, riddles and puzzles are great creative ways of getting children to think laterally, but so is providing them with everyday

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brain games Great apps for children who need an extra brain-charged challenge: Pip and Posy Activities based on the Pip and Posy book series by Axel Scheffler, include colouring scenes with drawing tools, matching pairs, “spot the differences” games and jigsaw puzzles for different ability levels. Age: 3 years Pettson’s Inventions Twenty-seven puzzles contain various imaginary machines that allow children to combine sets of pulleys, gears, belts, weights (plus some air-puffing and fire-breathing creatures) into working “inventions”. Age: 5 years Questimate! Pro An estimation game in which children make up their own questions (there are various categories, from Amazing Animals to GeoOdyssey) and then challenge friends or family. Age: 7 years Hairy Balls Place your balls strategically to solve the puzzles in this addictive game that challenges the brain while developing planning and spatial reasoning skills. It includes quirky characters and an original soundtrack. Ages: 10 to 12 years

anything go wrong. The child chose his own route and method, according to his own ability, size and strength, and was really chuffed with himself when he reached the top, knowing that he had made a good plan and that no matter what, his father was there supporting him if need be. Surely that young boy will be better equipped to make good decisions in life than the boy who is constantly being steered in one direction only?”

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joan’s refreshing summer salad Serves 6

There’s an interesting story to this recipe, originating with my late Aunt Joan, who was very proud of it. While on a diet, she wondered what she could concoct from the “legitimate” ingredients in her kitchen and came up with the following refreshingly different salad.

picnic pleasers

ingredients • 1 x 400g can chickpeas, drained and rinsed • 1 English cucumber, peeled and finely chopped (deseed if you intend to keep the salad for more than a couple of hours) • 1 red pepper (or ½ red and ½ yellow, ideally for colour), deseeded and finely diced • 2 medium apples (Golden Delicious or firm red apples), diced • 15–30ml fresh lemon juice (for squeezing over apple to prevent discolouration)

• ½ small onion, finely chopped (optional) • 30ml mayonnaise* • salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste

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If you’re watching your calories, substitute normal mayonnaise with a reduced-fat version.

method 1 Simply mix all the ingredients together.

2 Store in the fridge until required.

A picnic is casual entertaining at its best, and one that appeals to families with young children. Once you’ve found the perfect spot, these recipes from JANET KOHLER’S

my stand-by quiche recipe Serves 8

Perfect Parties are sure to delight everyone.

6 Line with paper and fill with baking beans. Bake the pastry case blind for about 10 minutes until the edges are just starting to colour. Remove the paper and baking beans and bake for a further 10 minutes until the base is firm and dried out slightly.

basic quiche custard Serves 4–6

In Europe, this is a popular choice for a picnic, and has huge visual appeal when you cut out a slice. It can be made several hours ahead of the picnic or even the night before. ingredients • 1 round artisan loaf of bread, about 23cm in diameter • ± 20ml basil pesto or ± 60g cream cheese • baby spinach leaves to line the base of the loaf (optional) • ± 250g buffalo mozzarella, sliced into rounds • a choice of Italian cold meats

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e.g. salami, Parma ham, mortadella, coppa a selection of roasted vegetables e.g. roasted red and yellow bell peppers, roasted beetroot, grilled aubergine and preserved artichoke hearts (drained) ripe tomatoes or baby rosa tomatoes, sliced a handful of basil leaves seasoning to taste balsamic glaze (optional)

method 1 Cut out a lid from the top of the bread (reserve this for later). Scoop out some of the centre of the loaf (use for making croutons or breadcrumbs). Don’t scoop out too much, or the loaf will fall apart.

2 Spread some basil pesto or cream cheese over the bottom of the hollowed-out loaf.

3 Layer the various ingredients, starting with those that are firmer and have less moisture (such as the spinach or cheese) to prevent the base from becoming too soft or soggy. Season each layer.

4 Top the final layer with pesto or a little balsamic glaze.

5 Replace the lid and wrap the loaf firmly with clingfilm. You can use a can or two to weigh it down slightly.

Serve it 4–6 hours later, cutting into thick slices.

This faithful recipe is versatile, freezes beautifully and tastes as if it’s just been baked when reheated. The recipe can be made into individual quiches (simply place the pastry into non-stick muffin trays, chill in the fridge, then fill and bake).

cheese pastry ingredients • 155g cake flour • 90g cold butter, cut into smallish cubes • 60g Cheddar cheese, grated • 30–45ml cold water method 1 Preheat the oven to 190°C. 2 Process the flour and butter in a food processor for about 15 seconds, until crumbly. Alternatively, use your fingers to rub the butter into the flour.

3 Add the cheese and water. Process in short bursts until the mixture comes together. Add a little extra water if necessary.

4 Turn out the dough onto a floured surface and gather into a ball.

Cover with clingfilm and refrigerate for at least 30 minutes.

5 Roll out the dough to fit a 22cm diameter pastry case and place in the fridge to rest for 10–20 minutes before baking.

ingredients • 3 eggs • 250ml cream (or half milk, half cream) • salt and freshly ground black pepper • 15ml chopped fresh mixed herbs (e.g. rosemary, parsley, thyme) • ± 75g grated cheese (e.g. mature Cheddar) • paprika for sprinkling method 1 Preheat the oven to 180°C. 2 Whisk the eggs and milk or cream lightly together, add seasoning and herbs, then pour over the filling of your choice.

3 Sprinkle over some grated cheese and a little paprika, then bake for approximately 40 minutes.

filling variations Roasted Mediterranean vegetables drizzled with olive oil (bake for about 45 minutes until just tender) • Roasted sweet potato and butternut with feta • Freshly grated courgettes • Roasted butternut, Gorgonzola (or any other blue cheese) and cherry tomatoes • Roasted vegetables with red onion marmalade • Mushroom and bacon: fry 200g chopped bacon or pancetta in a little olive oil, and sauté a punnet of sliced mushrooms with 1–2 cloves garlic. Combine, then add to the basic quiche custard in the recipe.

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rustic italian antipasti picnic loaf

crunchy oat and chocolate biscuits Makes ± 18

This is an adaptation of an old recipe from Bredasdorp in the Southern Cape.

My family always asks me to make a batch for padkos whenever we set off for a picnic or holiday.

crunchy oat biscuits ingredients • 230g butter (preferably unsalted) or margarine • 100g granulated white sugar • 120g desiccated coconut • 40g rolled oats • 210g cake flour • pinch of salt • 15ml cocoa powder • 8ml baking powder method 1 Preheat the oven to 180°C. 2 Melt the butter, add the sugar, and stir to combine.

3 Stir in the coconut and oats, then sift in the flour, salt, cocoa powder

and baking powder. Combine well and knead a little.

4 Press mixture firmly into a 22cm greased or greaseproof paperlined square tin; use the back of a spoon (or potato masher) to level the mixture.

5 Bake for 20–30 minutes then remove from the oven. Pour over the chocolate topping while the biscuit base is still warm.

chocolate topping ingredients • ± 45ml milk • 15ml butter (salted or unsalted) • 260g icing sugar, sifted • 30ml cocoa powder • 5ml vanilla extract method 1 Combine all the ingredients in a saucepan and bring to the boil, stirring, then remove from the heat.

2 Pour the hot topping over the baked biscuit crust, tilting the pan so that the chocolate coats the surface.* 3 While the crust is still warm, cut the biscuit into squares, but leave them to cool and set completely before removing from the pan.

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If the mixture is too thick to pour, add a bit more milk. You can substitute chocolate ganache for this topping.

picnic packing check list • • • •

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Serving plates and platters Plates and bowls for eating Glasses and mugs Cutlery: forks, knives, spoons, teaspoons, bread knife, utility knife and/or cheese knife, serving utensils Paper serviettes or cloth napkins Damp cloth or moist wet wipes Paper towel Bottle opener/corkscrew and bottle cooler Insect repellent and suntan cream Candle/s or lamps and a torch if it is likely to get dark Firelighters or matches and firewood to make a fire Braai utensils (grid, tongs, etc.)

Containers, foil or packets for leftovers Packets or bin liners for refuse

• Picnic blanket and/or fold-up chairs and table • Ice bricks or ice cubes food and drink items • All savoury items for the picnic • All sweet or dessert items for the picnic • Flask with filter coffee or hot water for tea or instant coffee • Milk • Sugar • Salt and pepper • Salad dressing and condiments • Butter • Wine • Juice/water/soft drinks • Breads, baguettes and/or bread rolls • Cheese platter and fruit • Chips, dips or pâté

about the book In Perfect Parties (Random House Struik) Janet Kohler presents a dazzling array of inspirational party ideas, complemented by delicious recipes. Janet also guides readers through every aspect of the party, whether it’s a birthday, engagement, picnic, baby shower, wedding or high tea. It’s all there – from choosing a theme and finding appropriate decor, right down to step-by-step recipes. The author is a trained cordon bleu chef who runs her own cookery school from home in Durban. This lavishly illustrated book is available at all good bookstores for R325.

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Children should choose which extramurals they do, which lets them develop their unique interests, find their identity, and discover personal strengths, says Joburg-based occupational therapist Susan Holland.

Extramurals help develop self-esteem, determination and confidence, while encouraging children to commit and persevere. Holland says these are essential life lessons “as children learn to experience failure, disappointment and the value of continued hard work”.

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playing to win Choosing extramurals can be a balancing act, but the end goal is to nurture happy, motivated children. TAMLYN VINCENT offers some guidelines.

Not only will schools offer sports and afterschool activities, but private classes are often available. So, do you sign your child up for everything, hoping that this will give him the best opportunity to develop? No, say the sports coordinators at Thomas More College (TMC) in Kloof; children that take too many extramurals could be at a disadvantage. Children need a balance between homework and extramurals, and taking on too much too early can leave them disinterested or at risk of burnout. Children also need time to be children. Pamela, a Durban mom of two, ensures that her daughters’ time isn’t filled

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ow many extramurals does your child do every week? Don’t forget to count school sports, social clubs and other organised activities. Throw in school and homework, and some children are working longer days than their parents.

We all know extramurals are important, not just for physical development, but also for improving social skills. The focus, however, should be on choosing the correct, and the right number, of extramurals for your child.

Many extramurals give children the much-needed chance to exercise, which has benefits like building strength and increasing stamina. Exercise also builds muscles, which is important for children who struggle with low postural tone, say Lourdes Bruwer and Carly Tzanos, both of whom are occupational therapists and moms. Other extramurals let children explore more creative avenues or particular interests. Team sports and group activities show children how to work with others by taking turns, and learning about and following the rules, say Bruwer and Tzanos. They also learn how to win and lose gracefully, and how to deal with their frustrations.

with organised activities. “Children also need to be outside swimming, playing and visiting friends,” she says.

But there are no hard and fast rules about how to achieve a balance. Children’s personalities, time factors and family dynamics all impact on how many extramurals they can comfortably take on. “If extramurals interfere with homework, or negatively affect family routine, this should be a red flag to parents,” says Holland.

When children stop enjoying their extramurals, or when they lack motivation to do everyday tasks, then the balance probably isn’t right. Holland says that homework should be a priority, plus children should have free time every day. They shouldn’t feel stressed or anxious about what they need to fit into a day, advises Holland. “In a balanced day children can achieve something, learn new things, and grow at their own pace.”

choosing wisely With so much on offer, how do you choose? Start with the activities children are interested in, say Bruwer and Tzanos.

Tell children what their options are and give them a say as they are the ones that need to commit to the activity. But the TMC sports coordinators caution that there shouldn’t be a choice of not doing an extramural; parents should encourage their children to participate in at least one activity a week, preferably a team one. Pamela’s daughters have to nag her for at least a term so she knows they are really interested, and only then will she assess costs, times and other details. She also asks them to commit to the extramural for a year. If their interest wanes, she encourages them and may let them take a short break, but they go back and finish the year.

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In a balanced day children can achieve something, learn new things and grow at their own pace. budgeting tips • M ake sure children really want to do an activity before signing them up.

Get them to wait a bit, so you know they’re motivated.

• Set aside a budget and stick to it.

• Do your research and watch out for hidden expenses.

• Borrow or buy second-hand equipment until children show dedication.

• Try it at home first – ask friends or family to help teach or coach children.

Or hire a tutor or high school student for a group of children.

• Get a lift club going for extramurals outside of school.

Every child is different, so consider each one separately and choose extramurals based on their individual strengths and weaknesses, says Holland. Younger children can join classes that don’t take too much time, or tire them out. Older children should be encouraged to continue with their choice of extramural, without giving up. Children should have fun with their extramurals, and activities that play to their strengths can build self-esteem. On the flip side, extramurals that improve children’s weaknesses can have a positive impact on development, as long as children enjoy them. These types of activities may even be recommended by a professional. In this case, say Bruwer and Tzanos, it’s important to help children understand how the activity will help them, and ensure they are given one that is challenging enough to keep them motivated, but not too difficult that they want to give up. Too much pressure takes away some of the enjoyment.

If you have children that want to try everything, give them a limited number of choices, say Bruwer and Tzanos. And introduce one at a time so they can adjust easily. Extramurals outside of school can help shy children make new friends and build confidence. Privately-run activities also offer something that the school may not cater for, which children may love. But the TMC sports coordinators recommend that children sign up for at least one school extramural, so they can benefit from the social interaction and teamwork.

Extramurals are essential for creating well-balanced children.

But finding the right balance for each child is equally important, remembering that children still have school, homework and playtime to get to. If children are happy, motivated and learning something new, then you know you’ve made the right choice.

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best dad Children need their fathers to be invested in their lives from day one.

MARC DE CHAZAL gathers some advice to help new dads make the most of the wonderful journey of fatherhood.

change a nappy like a boss “The first thing to do is try to find someone else to change the nappy,” says Lee Farrell, father to Bella (5), and Eden (2). “This can be done in a number of ways, the most popular being the finders-keepers rule. If this fails then preparation is the key. Do not remove the fasteners of the soiled nappy without having all the necessary paraphernalia laid out within easy reach. The younger the child the more dangerous this operation will be.

When they are young the poo can be quite runny. So before unfastening, check that there are no leakages to contend with. If you find any, place the fully clothed child directly into the bath and call for help. If you’re in the clear, then make sure to have a nappy bag, wet wipes and a clean nappy within your reach, but out of the baby’s reach.

Carefully unfasten the nappy and clean up as much as you can before removing it. Immediately put the clean nappy under the child; they have a knack for urinating if they know there is no nappy under them.

Then, one more wipe for good measure and fasten the new nappy. You’re done!”

courage under fire You don’t just need to keep your wits about you while changing a wriggling infant’s nappy. There are spills and thrills aplenty in childhood. Don’t panic, you’ve got this…

You’re going to have to deal with a toddler meltdown at some point. Toddlers can’t express themselves very well, and as they are curious little creatures, they tend to take on more than they can handle. A tantrum is more than likely. To defuse one, you can try being silly, distract them, ignore it or leave the scene. If you understand

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the cause – usually frustration or being overwhelmed – you can handle it better.

Most young children will get bumps, scrapes and bruises. It’s normal. But what should you do if it’s more serious? It’s not always easy to know when to call an ambulance, but definitely do so if your child stops breathing or is unconscious. You should get her to the ER if she is having difficulty breathing, has severe abdominal pain, has a cut that won’t stop bleeding, has injured a limb and can’t use it, or has swallowed pills or poison. Always carry a fully-stocked first-aid kit in your car in case of emergencies and know what to do if your child has something stuck up his nose, has a cut, gets burned or has a fit.

To find a first aid course, browse childmag.co.za/resources/first-aidcourses Also, your patience is going to be tested while driving, especially on long trips. The trick is to keep them entertained. Games and age-appropriate movies on a tablet are a no-brainer. Audiobooks and music also work, as do games such as count the lampposts or white cars. And always make sure your children are strapped into their seats and that you’ve properly fitted the baby car seat.

fun times Greg Andrews, father to Katy (9), and Grace (6), often takes his daughters outdoors to find the fun. A favourite spot is in a park near to home that has a stream and a small dam, with a watery rock slide that’s easy to access. Greg always has plenty of colourful chunks of chalk on hand, which they use to create street art on pavements or in parking lots. He’s also a fan of pepakura, a type of paper craft in which flat paper models are cut out, folded, and otherwise constructed into hollow models in three dimensions.

“Google it… and descend down the rabbit hole,” he says wryly.

One of their favourite outings is a train trip from Cape Town to Simon’s Town. “A little planning is required because of train timetables and making sure we have enough

snacks and stuff to do along the way, such as colouring-in books or something to read,” says Greg. “It’s always educational meeting different people on the train, especially travelling ‘third class’,” he says.

A bus trip is also fun and educational.

The City Sightseeing Red Bus tours are a great way to get around your city, but Greg says you’ll be surprised how much children also love a ride on a Golden Arrow bus.

lone ranger It’s possible to still be a great dad if you find yourself going solo one day. For Angus Begg, it all comes down to time. “At about 6:40am recently, my five year old, Fynn, asked if I could read him an excerpt from Tintin’s Crab With the Golden Claws,” Angus recalls. “It was the story-frame in the Sahara desert, where Captain Haddock is on a camel with the ubiquitous bottle of grog raised to his lips. He is about to drink when

couple when they have made up their minds that they definitely don’t want any more children. However, I think it’s unwise to do it younger than 30 years old,” adds Grizic. “A vasectomy can technically be reversed, but you should consider it irreversible.”

Once you’ve decided to get the snip, you can opt to have the procedure done under local or general anaesthetic. Either way, you’ll be discharged the same day. A sperm count should be done around two months after the procedure and again at about the three-month mark to ensure you are sterile.

show me the money Children are not only hard work; they can burn a spectacular hole in your wallet. But you’re smart. You’re going to start saving for your child’s education as soon as possible, especially for high school and tertiary education, which tends to increase in cost annually by 4% above the rate of inflation.

Your patience is going to be tested while driving, especially on long trips. the bottle explodes, hit by a bullet fired by a Bedouin horseman. Fynn wanted to know every detail: ‘And then what happened?

Why? How?’ Each frame was explained until Haddock and Tintin ended up in a life boat being shot at by devilish baddies… until I realised I still had to make breakfast, brush teeth – ‘and gargle Dad’ – before getting him to school. While it makes him feel valued, loved and heard, for the single dad, this time spent is priceless.

“No less important in the ‘lessons learnt’ stakes has been allowing him to fail and observing his joy at success,” says Angus, “like when we removed the trainer wheels from his bike.”

Angus admits that time for a single dad is never enough, “but it achieves an intensity the regular dad can barely imagine”.

when to get the snip “There is no right age to have a vasectomy,” says Dr Anthony Martin Grizic, a urologist practicing at Chelmsford Medical Centre in Durban. “The decision should be taken by a

One way to get a head start is to take your annual bonus and put it into an RA. Each year thereafter, top it up with the money you get back from the taxman plus the amount by which your bonus exceeds the previous year’s bonus. Whatever education plan you opt for, the important thing is to get going sooner rather than later.

You can also open an investment in your child’s name, which will teach him the importance of saving as well as the remarkable power of compounding interest.

One of the simplest places to start is with an index-tracking fund. You can invest as little as R300 per month or a lump sum of R1 000.

You’ll also need appropriate medical aid cover for your family. Medical bills can quickly pile up for young families who find themselves in their paediatrician’s waiting room a lot. Also speak to your financial advisor about a good life policy and update your will. Hopefully you’ll still be around to walk your grandchildren to the park, but in case you aren’t, rather leave your family a legacy than a financial burden. magazine pretoria

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he moment a man gingerly holds his child for the first time is quite possibly the most awe-inspiring and terrifying event of his life. “It is much easier to become a father than to be one,” Kent Nerburn aptly put it in Letters to My Son: Reflections on Becoming a Man. It takes work to be a great dad, but the reward is worth it. Here’s some advice for new dads from fathers who have bumbled along this fantastic journey like everyone else before them.

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Zoe and Beans – Pirate Treasure!

By Chloë and Mick Inkpen

(Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R93) In this book for children up to the age of five years old, our heroes go on a seaside adventure. Zoe, Beans and their friend Oscar have got buckets and spades and they’re ready to search for buried pirate treasure. But digging is hard work and treasure is difficult to find.

It looks like it’s up to clever Beans to sniff something out.

Jeff and George and the Totem Pole

By Emily Child and Julia Anastasopoulos (Published by Penguin SA, R123) This entertaining book illustrates the unusual friendship between a boy and a springbok that live in a flat in Cape Town.

Jeff loves to organise things; George loves to dream of green grass. They share an overwhelming passion for rugby, adventure and imaginative problem-solving.

True or False?

By Andrea Mills

The Roald Dahl Treasury

By Roald Dahl (Published by Random House Group, R261) Whether a beautiful gift for the Dahl fan or a stunning introduction to Roald Dahl’s work, this superb hardback is jam-packed with complete picture tales, as well as excerpts from longer stories, poetry (some previously unpublished), autobiographical material and letters. It is also filled with outstanding artwork from Quentin Blake, Raymond Briggs, Posy Simmonds, Ralph Steadman, Patrick Benson, Charlotte Voake, Lane Smith and Babette Cole, among others.

(Published by Dorling Kindersley, R296) Do we only use 10% of our brains? Does lightning ever strike the same place twice?

Does spinach make you stronger? Was the T-Rex the biggest dinosaur? Consult this encyclopaedia and find out whether these common beliefs are true or false. Packed with fun facts for children, statistics and common sayings, it covers lots of weird topics and fascinating information, from animals and people to space and science.

The book is also filled with colourful pictures, photographs and infographics.

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The Runaways

By Elizabeth Goudge (Published by Hesperus Press, R161) When four orphaned children run away from their tyrannical grandmother, they begin a great adventure. Locked away in separate rooms as punishment by their ruthless grandmother, Nan, Robert, Timothy and Betsy decide to make their escape. Their pony leads them to a house that belongs to their Uncle Ambrose. Gruff but loveable Uncle Ambrose agrees to take them under his wing, letting the children have free rein in his sprawling manor house and the surrounding countryside. magazine pretoria

The Imaginary

By A.F. Harrold and Emily Gravett (Published by Bloomsbury, R157) Rudger is Amanda’s best friend. He doesn’t exist. Only Amanda can see her imaginary friend – until the sinister Mr Bunting arrives at Amanda’s door. Mr Bunting hunts imaginaries. Rumour has it that he eats them, and he’s sniffed out Rudger. Soon Rudger is alone, and running for his imaginary life. But can a boy who isn’t there survive without a friend to dream him up? This is a brilliantly funny, scary and moving read, with beautiful illustrations by the awardwinning Emily Gravett.

parenting The Last Days of Rabbit Hayes

By Anna McPartlin

The Allergy-free Baby & Toddler Book

By Charlotte Muquit and Adam Fox

(Published by Random House Group, R257) Rabbit Hayes loves her life, ordinary as it is, and the extraordinary people in it.

She loves her spirited daughter, Juliet; her colourful, unruly family; and the only man in her big heart, Johnny Faye. But it turns out the world has other plans for Rabbit, and she’s okay with that, because she has plans for the world too, and only a handful of days left to make them happen.

(Published by Random House Group, R257) This book explains everything you need to know about allergies, from navigating the diagnosis process to the practical steps you can take to manage it in the long term. You’ll also find 30 delicious allergyfree recipes. Comprehensive, accessible and informative, The Allergy-Free Baby & Toddler Book gives parents the knowledge and reassurance they need to stop allergies getting in the way of a fun, full and active childhood.

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sea, sand and sunshine On most resort islands there is a wealth of things to see and do while enjoying the exclusivity and seclusion it offers. MARINA ZIETSMAN has picked some of the best family-friendly island getaways around the globe. south pacific

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part in traditional Fijian lali drum sessions.

Family activities include banana boat rides, kayaking, paddle boarding, the Monoriki Island Tour (or Tom Hanks Island, where Cast Away was filmed), volleyball, handline fishing at sunset and more. Parents can indulge in lots of island activities, such as scuba diving, snorkelling, island tours, deep sea fishing, surfing and more, or simply find a hammock and tuck into a book.

Accommodation The resort has traditional thatched-roof bures, or bungalows. The family bures are specifically for larger groups who need some extra space. These can sleep up to 10 people. They also have a set family dinnertime where the children can choose from a buffet with a large variety of popular dishes, giving parents a chance to sip on a cocktail nearby.

Best time to go May to September For more info Visit castawayfiji.com

Destination St Lucia, part of the Lesser Antilles, south Caribbean Drawcard St Lucia is really two islands in one, with lots of small, luxurious resorts, mostly in the north, and old plantations, hidden beaches and the geological wonder of the Piton Mountains in the southern regions.

For families You can drive through a volcano, hike in the Pitons and the rainforest, visit the Sulphur Springs of Soufriere and explore the Caribbean coral reef. St Lucia stands apart from the rest of the Caribbean islands due to its varied landscape and diverse culture and cuisine, which is distinguished by African, Indian, Caribbean, British, Spanish and French influences. For the active traveller there is snorkelling in the ocean, and a wide range of water sports.

The beaches have soft sand and the water

fast fact Fiji was once known as Cannibal Isles, as cannibalism was rife on the island until the late 1800s. The indigenous tribes believed that eating an enemy inflicted the ultimate humiliation.

is warm for swimming. You can take a family sailboat down the island’s coast, go on whale and dolphin-watching expeditions and glass-bottomed boat trips. There are also rainforest nature trails suitable for families with young children. The Pigeon Island National Park has two beautiful beaches, military ruins, a lookout point at the top of the fort and an Interpretive Centre where you can learn about the rich history of the island. Teenagers can enjoy rainforest treks, ziplining over the tree canopy or riding a Segway along a nature trail. Horseback riding on the beach is also popular, as is kite surfing.

Accommodation Several hotels cater for families with children’s clubs and menus, as well as adjoining rooms and childfocused activities. Babysitting services are

available at some locations. Some hotels also feature water parks.

Best time to go In mid-December to April the weather is ideal, but the rates are higher. Summer and autumn is the wet season and hurricane season runs from June to November.

For more info Visit stlucianow.com

fast fact Despite its population of only 176 000, there are two Saint Lucian Nobel Prize winners: Arthur Lewis for economics and Derek Walcott for literature.

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Destination Castaway Island, situated in the heart of the Mamanuca group of islands, Fiji Drawcard It offers a nature experience with all the comforts of a resort hotel. The island has an area of 70 hectares and is only inhabited on one side where the tourist resort is situated. It is surrounded by coral reefs, with magnificent sea life and beautiful beaches. The Castaway Island Resort has won numerous travel awards.

For families The island resort has a Kids’ Club that is open from 9am until 10pm every day. Children from the age of three years old enjoy all sorts of fun island discoveries with an emphasis on naturebased play. They can play games like poison ball and traffic lights, and take part in ice-cream eating competitions. They can also enjoy more island-based activities such as crab hunting and snorkelling lessons, as well as getting dressed up for the torch-lighting ceremony and taking

mediterranean Destination Malta, southern Europe Drawcard Summer time in Malta is all about outdoor living, but there is much more to Malta than sea and sand. It has a rich history dating back thousands of years and is also a popular destination for concerts, open-air music events, art and crafts fairs, exhibitions, shows, feasts and carnivals.

For families With warm weather year-round as well as being considered one of the safest places in the world (it regularly ranks as one of the top 10 safest destinations on international crime indexes), Malta is the ideal holiday for families. Satisfy your cultural cravings and visit prehistoric temples, Roman ruins, medieval castles, forts, ancient churches and chapels. Some of these locations have regular enactments of history, complete with costumes and events. Malta is famous for diving and snorkelling, and thanks to the weather, there is plenty to do, ranging from rock climbing, caving, golf, tennis and horse riding to windsurfing, kayaking, jet-skiing, waterskiing, wakeboarding, paragliding, water polo, canoeing, fishing, yachting and sailing.

Accommodation There is a wide variety of accommodation to choose from: hotels, campsites, farmhouses, guesthouses, flats, hostels, villas and two tourist villages. Of the latter, Mellieha Holiday Centre has a children’s club. The other, Wardija Hilltop Village, was carved out of a hill, which gives it panoramic views of the sea. Both villages have dedicated children’s areas.

Best time to go July to September is around 30°C, but May/June and October/ November is less busy and cooler (27°C).

For more info Visit visitmalta.com and maltababyandkids.com

fast fact Malta consists of three islands: Gozo, Comino and Malta. Comino, the smallest of the three, is virtually uninhabited, save one hotel, and is carless.

south indian ocean Destination Mauritius Drawcard The flight there is only three hours from Durban, four hours from Joburg and five hours from Cape Town.

For families A ring of coral reefs surrounds almost the entire coastline of Mauritius and forms many shallow lagoons, rich with white coral sand beaches and dunes.

Mauritius is also a malaria-free zone. The beaches are long and uncrowded and the island has unusual wildlife and fauna. Most resorts are child-friendly, with children’s clubs, and the shallow waters are ideal for little ones. Naturally, Mauritius is popular for its water sports, from dolphin-watching cruises to snorkelling, scuba diving, surfing and rafting. Inland there are nature reserves, Segway tours, cultural villages and culinary tours, hiking tours, the Mauritius Aquarium and several water parks.

Accommodation Mauritius has plenty of superb hotels and resorts, which are convenient, have children’s clubs with

activities, and all amenities in-house. If you’d prefer not to go this route, opt for holiday apartments, villas, B&Bs, beach cottages, penthouses, inns, or tree lodges and luxury tent options.

Best time to go The island has a classic tropical climate with warm sunny weather virtually all year round. May to December is recommended as it’s not too humid.

February and March gets the most rain.

For more info Visit mauritius.net

fast fact Mark Twain allegedly said: “You gather the idea that Mauritius was created first, and then heaven; and that heaven was copied after Mauritius.”

north indian ocean Destination The Maldives, an island nation in the Indian Ocean/Arabian Sea region, consisting of 26 atolls.

Drawcard Year-round sunshine, warm water, water sports, top dive sites, a safe environment and barefoot luxury.

For families The Maldives used to have the reputation of a honeymooners’ retreat,

fast fact The Maldives is a strictly Muslim nation, and obeying local laws and traditions is a requirement.

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but that is rapidly changing with more and more islands and resorts catering specifically for families. The Maldives has excellent diving spots and many of the family-friendly resorts have certified PADI diving centres, which offer ageappropriate scuba courses for children and teenagers. Most resorts and hotels with children’s clubs offer surfing lessons, cookery classes, art and crafts sessions with local materials, treasure hunts, nature walks and more, as well as indoor activities such as films and computer games.

Water sports include windsurfing, catamaran sailing, banana boat riding, waterskiing, parasailing, fun tubes and canoeing.

Accommodation Find out beforehand which islands are child-friendly. Some islands do not, for example, allow children under the age of eight years old. Resorts will also be wary of allowing parents with children to stay in over-water villas. But there are enough resorts with beachfront cabins, which makes it more relaxing for parents to lounge on their private veranda and watch the children play on the beach.

Best time to go From December to April you’ll miss the rain, but it’s the peak season.

For more info Visit visitmaldives.com and for a list of child-friendly islands, visit tripadvisor.com

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see.

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Polymer clay workshop This beginner and intermediate polymer clay workshop is for adults and children.

Stop and smell the roses Discover the fine art of deciphering rose scents, presented by expert Anja Tachner.

Good night baby An enlightening talk by a sleep consultant provides advice on newborn sleep.

Wet Nose 2015 Sleepathon Give something of yourself and bond with and spoil an abandoned animal.

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Basic photography workshop Learn how best to capture the moments that matter.

SPECIAL EVENTS 1 sunday Friends of the Rail Enjoy a day out on a genuine steam locomotive as it chuffs along to the small mining town of Cullinan. Once there you can visit some of the craft shops, galleries and museums and have lunch.

They provide braai fires. Also 21 March.

Time: 8am–6pm. Venue: Hermanstad Railway Station, 152 Miechaelson St, Daspoort. Cost: adults R250, pensioners R200, children 13–18 years old R175, children 7–12 years old R150, children 2–6 years old R100. Contact: 012 767 7913, 082 098 6186 or visit friendsoftherail.com

3 tuesday Open day at Crawford Schools Find out more about this independent school that caters to learners from Grade 000 to matric.

Time: 9am–2pm. Venue: 555 Sibelius St, Lukasrand. Cost: free. Contact: 012 344 1886 or visit crawfordschools.co.za

7 saturday Basic photography workshop A basic course on understanding your camera settings so that you can take better photos of moments that matter. Presented in English and Afrikaans. Booking essential.

For adults and teenagers 13 years and older. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Laughing Chefs Restaurant, 217 Soutpansberg Rd, Rietondale. Cost: R800, includes a light lunch. Contact: 082 436 3546 or monique@moniquebrits.com Pecanwood College open day Interested parents and pupils are welcome

to visit the school, get to know some of the teachers and enjoy the fun activities.

The school caters to learners 3–18 years old. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: cnr Oberon Dr and R512, Hartbeespoort. Cost: free. Contact: 082 294 8216 or visit pecanwoodcollege.co.za

14 saturday Impi Challenge A combination of trail running with adventure-style obstacle courses. Participants can enter individually or as part of a team. Dress creatively.

Children can take part in the Impi Dash (approximately 5–7km) or Impi Mini (1–1,2km). Suitable for adults and children 6 years and older. Time: 7:30am–12pm.

Venue: Van Gaalen Kaasmakerij, at the R560 and R512 T-junction, Skeerpoort.

Cost: R100–R550. For more info: visit impichallenge.co.za Princess Rosebud and Thorn Prince Your child could be the next ambassador for the queen of flowers. Children decorate the thorn castle, pot roses and arrange flowers.

For 5–11 year olds. Time: 10am. Venue: Ludwig’s Roses, 61 Haakdoornlaagte, Wallmansthal. Cost: pageant entry fee R150. Contact: 012 544 0144 or visit ludwigsroses.co.za

18 wednesday Open day at Trinityhouse An opportunity for interested parents to chat to staff and view the facilities at this independent school with a Christian ethos, catering to learners from Grade 000–3. Time: varies. Venue: 1 Heritage Hill Boulevard, off Nellmapius Dr, Centurion. Cost: free. Contact: 012 003 1395 or visit trinityhouse.co.za

Like2Bike Fundamentals MTB skills course

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Get junior off to a great start with a MTB skills course aimed at entrenching safety, bicycle control as well as respect and appreciation for the bike. Pre-entries only. For 2–14 year olds. Time: 8am–10am.

Venue: Northern Farm, off the R114 to Diepsloot, Nietgedacht. Cost: R270. Contact: 083 326 6721 or visit like2bike.co.za

14 March – Princess Rosebud and Thorn Prince

21 saturday The 4x4 outdoor show Ride the latest 4x4 vehicles or a monster truck, catch fish at the Cawood Lake, try your hand at archery, air rifles, laser guns, paintball and drumming, and jump aboard a carnival ride. Tickets are available at the gate.

You are able to visit the monument at no additional cost. Also 22 March. Time: 8am–5pm Saturday, 8am–4pm Sunday.

Venue: Voortrekker Monument, Eeufees Rd, Skanskop, Pretoria. Cost: adults R90, pensioners R70, children R40. For more info: visit 4x4outdoorshow.co.za

22 sunday Me-Nuts Kids Like2Bike fun cycling series The second event of the Like2Bike cycling series is a 2km, 5km, 10km or 20km cycle. For 2–14 year olds. Time: 8am. Venue: Heia Safari Ranch, plot 59, Beyers Naudé Dr, Muldersdrift. Cost: online pre-entries R120, entries on the day R130. Contact: 083 326 6721 or visit like2bike.co.za

28 saturday Lights off for Earth Hour Join communities around the world in the fight against climate change by turning off your lights and electrical appliances for one hour. Time: 8:30pm–9:30pm. For more info: visit earthhour.org Hartklop Fees Riana Nel, Karlien van Jaarsveld, Bobby van Jaarsveld, Elvis Blue and Adam take to the stage for a concert in aid of the President Kruger Children’s Home. The home is a registered NPO that cares for children who have been through traumatic experiences, providing a home with a stable environment in which they can grow to their full potential. Time:

gates open 6:30pm, concert starts 7pm.

Venue: NG Moreleta Auditorium, 1353 De Villebois Mareuil Dr, cnr Garsfontein Rd, Moreleta Park. Cost: R110–R250. Book through iTickets: 0861 000 291 or visit itickets.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Alice Elahi retrospective For nearly 50 years Elahi has captured the African landscape, often at its most stark and elemental. Her watercolours cover an area from the Cunene River in the north to the coves and bays of the Cape in the south.

7 February–26 April. Time: 10am–5pm.

Venue: North Gallery, Pretoria Art Museum, cnr Frances Baard St and Wessels St, Arcadia Park, Arcadia. Cost: adults R20, pensioners R10, learners R5. Contact: 012 358 6750 or visit pretoriaartmuseum.co.za Story of South African Art Admire a selection of artworks from the permanent collection, including works of early 20th-century painters, resistance artists of the 1980s and artists of the 21st century.

Time: 10am–5pm Tuesday–Sunday. Venue: Albert Werth Hall, Pretoria Art Museum, cnr Schoeman St and Wessels St, Arcadia Park.

Cost: adults R22, pensioners and students R11, learners R5. Contact: 012 358 6750 or visit pretoriaartmuseum.co.za Tutankhamun – His Tomb and His Treasures The exhibition has faithfully reconstructed the tomb of Tutankhamun to scale. 2 December–12 April. Time: 9am–7pm Sunday–Thursday, 9am– 9pm Friday–Saturday. Venue: Silverstar, Muldersdrift, Mogale City (next to

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how to resolve conflicts so everyone wins and how to deal with a collision of values. Booking essential. 7 March. Time: 9am–5pm every Saturday for three weeks.

Venue: 63 Nicolson St, Brooklyn. Cost: R2 500, includes the textbook and workbook, snacks and refreshments. Contact: 082 375 0693, solvei@parents.co.za or visit parents.co.za Stop and smell the roses Discover the fine art of deciphering rose scents. Booking essential. 15 March. Time: 10:30am. Venue: Ludwig’s Roses, 61 Haakdoornlaagte, Wallmansthal. Cost: R50. Contact: 012 544 0144 or visit ludwigsroses.co.za

Tree huggers Acrobranch offers children and adults a treetop adventure with obstacle courses made up of swings, ziplines, suspension bridges and ladders.

Suitable for children from 3 years old.

Venue: The Big Red Barn, Nelson Rd, off the M18, Olifantsfontein. Cost: R80–R200.

Contact: 086 999 0369, 012 940 1972 or visit acrobranch.co.za Walk on the wild side Take a guided tour through the lion park at the Chameleon Village, interact with the cubs and have lunch. Time: 8am–5pm daily.

Venue: Cost: R299 for two adults and two children, includes cub interaction and lunch. Contact: 073 055 6726 or visit chameleonvillage.co.za 25–31 March – Tierlantyn’kies Market

Popping and locking dance classes

markets the R28 Krugersdorp/Pretoria highway).

Cost: R100–R160, family of four R440, includes audio guides. For more info: visit tut-exhibition.co.za

classes, talks and workshops Chocolate Easter workshop Create Easter chocolate treats, including decorating a premoulded chocolate bunny. For 8–13 year olds; younger children welcome by prior arrangement. 7, 27 and 28 March.

Time: 2pm–4pm Friday, 10am–12pm Saturday. Venue: Snyman Sjokolateur Boutique Factory, Waterkloof Ridge. Cost: R135 per child per event. Contact: 074 140 1087 or info@snymanchocolates.com Polymer clay workshop Create a personalised light switch cover using polymer clay. Take along a rolling pin, wet wipes and a craft knife. Booking essential.

For adults and children 6 years and older.

28 March. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Moot area (address given on booking confirmation). Cost: R250. Contact: 083 456 1903 or vanessa@hostesspro.co.za Relaxing yoga and mindfulness classes Children learn yoga postures and mindfulness through games, songs and stories. For 8–12 year olds. Time: 2:15pm every Thursday. Venue: Yoga Harmony, Cape Connection, 59 Garsfontein Rd, Menlyn. Cost: R520 per term. Contact: 072 645 2984 or thechilledoutchild@gmail.com

family outings Between a rock and a hard place Descend into the depths of the Sterkfontein Caves and explore the limestone caverns where early hominid remains have been found. Wear comfortable shoes and clothes.

Time: 9am–5pm daily; last admissions at 4pm. Venue: Sterkfontein Caves, Kromdraai Rd, Cradle of Humankind. Cost: adults R195, pensioners R85, students R100, children 4–14 years old R97, children under 4 years old free. Contact: 014 577 9000 or visit maropeng.co.za Guided tours of Van Gaalen Kaasmakerij The tour takes 75 minutes and includes a cheese tasting, a cup of coffee or juice and Dutch apple cake. Time: 10am every Wednesday and Saturday.

Venue: on the R560 and R512 T-junction, Skeerpoort. Cost: R90. Contact: 012 207 1289 or info@vangaalen.co.za

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Books2You Book Fair There are hundreds of books to discover. 2–4 March.

Time: 10am–3pm Monday, 7:30am–3pm Tuesday, 7:30am–10:30am Wednesday.

Venue: Springvale Primary, Wierda Park, Centurion. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 705 7744 or orders@books2you.co.za Greenlyn Goods Market A weekly market with high-quality handcrafted products and imported goods. Time: 8am–2pm every Saturday. Venue: cnr Mackenzie St and Thomas Edison St, Menlo Park. Cost: free entry. Contact: 082 373 3516 or visit greenlyngoodsmarket.webs.com Tierlantyn’kies Market A variety of exhibitors, wine tasting, deli food and children’s entertainment. 25–31 March.

Time: 9am–7pm Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday; 9am–4pm Tuesday; 10am–4pm Sunday. Venue: 56 Saal St, Zwavelpoort, Pretoria East. Cost: adults R30, children free (tickets are valid for the duration of the market). For more info: visit tierlantynkies.co.za

on stage and screen Home (3-D) When Earth is taken over by the over-confident Boov, an alien race in search of a new home, all humans are promptly relocated while the Boov get busy reorganising the planet. Premieres 27 March at cinemas nationwide. For more info: visit sterkinekor.com or numetro.co.za Storieman’s Rooikappie en die Wolf A theatre production based on the series of children’s books. 30 March. Time: 11am.

Venue: Atterbury Theatre, 4 Daventry St, Lynnwood. Cost: R90. Contact: 012 471 1700 or visit atterburytheatre.co.za

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sport and physical activities Little Kickers Trial Class Boys and girls are introduced to soccer skills through fun games and activities. Booking essential. For children from 18 months–8 years old. Time: 9am–11am every Saturday. Venues: Club Sport Maritimo, cnr Richard St and Park St, Hatfield, and Sport Park, cnr Kruger Rd and Cantonments Rd, Lyttleton. Cost: free.

Contact: 072 222 4147, centurion.hatfield@ littlekickers.co.za or visit littlekickers.co.za Popping and locking dance classes For all interests and levels. For children 3 years and older. Time: varies. Venue: Dance De’Art, cnr Jan Shoba St and Pretorius St, Hatfield. Cost: R100 per class. Contact: 082 379 3530 or visit dancedeart.co.za

Flirting with Coward Fleur de Cap winner Godfrey Johnson performs a oneman cabaret in the spirit of Noel Coward with his illuminating wit and irresistible musical charm. 27 and 29 March. Time: 8pm Friday, 3pm Sunday. Venue: Brooklyn Theatre, Greenlyn Village Centre, cnr Thomas Edison St and 13th St, Menlo Park.

Cost: R90–R120. Contact: 012 460 6033 or visit brooklyntheatre.co.za Gauteng Philharmonic Orchestra Easter concert 20 and 22 March. Time: 8pm Friday, 3pm Sunday. Venue: Brooklyn Theatre, Greenlyn Village Centre, cnr Thomas Edison St and 13th St, Menlo Park.

Cost: R160–R310. Contact: 012 460 6033 or visit brooklyntheatre.co.za

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Helping your child internalise healthy boundaries A workshop to help you move beyond the first phase of getting your child to obey and act within the limits you set for them. It covers everything from bullying, to knowing how to set limits with other people around physical touch, and verbal or emotional messages. Booking essential. 28 March. Time: 9am–11:30am.

Venue: Vita Nova Counselling Centre, 615 Vampire St, Elardus Park. Cost: R700 per couple, R360 per individual, R300 for teachers. Contact: 082 541 4357 or visit vitanova.co.za Parent effectiveness training course Learn to talk so that children listen and get insights into how to validate a child,

Heidi An interactive production based on the beloved children’s book about a Swiss orphan, who is taken to live with her grumpy grandfather high up in the Swiss Alps. Booking essential. 9 March– 12 April. Time: 10:30am and 2:30pm Monday–Saturday. Venue: National Children’s Theatre, 3 Junction Ave, Parktown, Joburg. Cost: R90–R110.

Contact: 011 484 1584 or visit nationalchildrenstheatre.org.za

5 March – Swing for a Deaf Child

out and about Food and wine pairing An evening of wine paired with a delicious tasting menu. 6 March. Time: 6:30pm for 7pm. Venue: Shokran Events Venue, plot 99, Tierpoort. Cost: R250. Contact: 082 335 5659, info@shokran.co.za or visit shokran.co.za Swing for a deaf child Swing for a worthy cause and join Transoranje’s Golf Day fundraiser. Transoranje School for the Deaf provides specialised education and training to 200 profoundly deaf learners from the age of 3 years old until they leave school. For golfers 17 years and older.

5 March. Time: tee off from 10am–12pm.

Venue: Pretoria Golf Club, Morkel St, (Pretoria West course). Cost: R1 400 per four-ball. Contact: 012 386 6072 or visit transoranje.webs.com

support groups LifeLine Pretoria Confidential telephonic and face-to-face counselling for all traumatic matters. Contact: 0861 322 322, 012 804 3619 or visit lifelinepta.org.za magazine pretoria

Muscular dystrophy support system They give emotional support and advice to parents of children affected by muscular dystrophy. Contact: 011 472 9824 or visit mdsa.org.za

bump, baby & Tot in tow

classes, talks and workshops BabyGym with Christine Over five weeks, learn new techniques to stimulate your baby’s senses, brain and muscles. For babies from birth to 1 year old. Starts 20 or 28 March. Time: 10am every Friday or Saturday.

Venue: Empowering Mothers, 366 Snowy Walker St, Garsfontein. Cost: R790. Contact: 084 220 0548 or visit babygym.co.za Good night baby A talk incorporating helpful tips on how to calm your new baby and debunk a few myths about sleep.

19 March. Time: 10am. Venue: Parentwood, 103 North St, Rietondale. Contact: 084 584 4199 or visit goodnightbaby.co.za PreggieFit An exercise programme that combines Pilates and yoga, designed specifically for pregnant women in any stage of their pregnancy. Time: 9am Tuesday and Wednesday, 6pm Thursday.

Venue: Beverly Acquisto Dance School, 431 Marais St, Brooklyn. Cost: R100 per class. Contact: 082 377 6222 or visit beverlydanceschool.co.za

Preggie Yoga at Yoga Connection

Preggie yoga The class is not strenuous and is suitable throughout all stages of pregnancy. Yoga helps strengthen and improve muscle tone, relieve backache and correct posture. Booking essential.

Time: 11am–12:30pm every Saturday, arrive 15 minutes earlier for your first class.

Venue: Yoga Connection, 243 Brooks St, Brooklyn, Pretoria East. Cost: R90 per class. Contact: 072 333 3646 or visit yogaconnection.co.za

7am–9pm Monday–Thursday, 7am–10pm Friday, 8am–10pm Saturday, 8am–5pm Sunday. Venue: Villa San Giovanni, Wonderboom Airport, main terminal building. Cost: varies. Contact: 012 543 0501, 076 252 0002 or visit vsg.co.za

support groups Born Sleeping For parents of miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death to share their experiences. Contact: 084 524 1541/2, bornsleeping@gmail.com or visit bornsleeping.wordpress.com Hi Hopes Provides home-based support for families with deaf or hard-of-hearing infants. Contact: 011 717 3750, info@ hihopes.co.za or visit hihopes.co.za New parent support group Weigh your baby, get advice and feeding support from registered nurses, and enjoy a cup of tea with other moms. For babies 0–6 weeks old. Time: 10am–1pm every Thursday.

Venue: Parentwood Baby and Family Wellness Centre, 103 North St, Rietondale.

Cost: free. Contact: 012 329 1301 or parentwood@birth2baby.co.za

it’s party time For more help planning your child’s party visit

childmag.co.za/ resources/birthday-parties

how to help Become an organ donor Your organs can save up to seven lives. For more info contact: 0800 22 66 11 or register online by visiting odf.org.za The Storehouse This NPO welcomes donations of clothing, children’s books, nonperishable food, household goods, toys and more, which they distribute to beneficiaries around South Africa, Swaziland, Zambia and Zimbabwe. They are currently in need of clothing for boys of all ages. Venue: donations can be dropped at the Hatfield Christian Church or The Storehouse office in Lyttelton. Contact Isabell: 012 644 0111, 082 891 4934 or visit thestorehouse.org.za Wet Nose 2015 Sleepathon Spend 24 hours in a kennel with a shelter dog and experience their daily life for yourself.

Proceeds will go towards Wet Nose animals.

Suitable for 18 years and older. 21 and 22 March. Time: 10am Saturday–10am Sunday. Venue: Wet Nose Animal Rescue Centre, plot 75, Vaalbank, Kungwini. Cost: R100 registration fee. Contact: 072 439 9555 or visit wetnose.org.za

playtime and story time Playtime at Villa San Giovanni Children can let their imagination run free in the outdoor play area with a jungle gym, jumping castle, swings and a sandpit, while you nibble on delicious pizza. Time:

Playtime at Villa San Giovanni

don’t miss out!

For a free listing, email your event to pretoria@childmag.co.za or fax it to 011 234 4971. Information must be received by 27 February for the April issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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my son, the planker It may be a fad or he may just be trying to get close to her. Either way, ANÉL LEWIS is happy to humour her son… for now.

Erin, Anél and Conor

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ou know that craze that took social media by storm a few months ago, the one where people would lie face down, usually in an incongruous or unusual location? Hilarious! People lying in funny places, pretending to be planks.

What could be funnier?

Well, it’s not so hilarious at 3am when my two-year-old son, Conor, decides that my torso would be a fantastic “incongruous or unusual location” for him to try out his planking moves.

Did I mention that Conor weighs 20kg, and has not yet quite mastered the art of planking with minimal movement? So it is like having an oversized bean bag doing “snow angel” repetitions, while lying across the length of your body. The first few nights I humoured him. It was just a fad, I told my husband Craig. He’s just trying to get close to me, I told myself.

But night after night, a few hours before dawn, I would first hear the footsteps, and then feel the weight of my boy as he assumed the position.

I decided to read up on my son’s antics.

According to Wikipedia, plankers compete to find the most unusual and original location in which to play. Planking

can also include “lying on a flat surface, or holding the body flat while it is supported in only some regions”.

That explained why my bladder usually took the brunt of Conor’s nocturnal stunt.

So the next night I thought I would shake things up a bit. I curled up into a ball so that he could not find a flat surface on which to position his body. But it seems I underestimated his commitment to the task, and by morning I was lying like a semi-squashed snail pinned down by Conor’s outstretched, planked form.

I have to confess that I have since grown accustomed to waking up with Conor’s squishy, warm cheek pressed firmly against mine, his arm curled around my neck. In a few years’ time, the closest I will probably get to finding out about my son’s shenanigans – planking or otherwise – will be via Facebook.

But I am also fervently hoping that he does not discover the Ice Bucket Challenge any time soon – at least, not before he can sleep a whole night in his own bedroom.

Anél Lewis is reading up on sleep training techniques so that she can deter her son from trying out any more gymnastic moves on her before he hits the 30kg mark.

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finishing touch

travel

pack light Here are some useful packing tips for families going away over the holidays. By TAMLYN VINCENT

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oliday time often includes trips to see family or just to get away. And this means packing. I usually take as much as possible (who knows what you’ll need?), but this results in an over-stuffed bag, even for overnight stays. I’m even worse when I pack for my son, throwing in two warm and two cool outfits, just in case. It’s only when we get home that I realise we haven’t used half the clothes we’ve hauled along. So, to save space next time my family goes away on holiday, I go in search of packing tips.

best case Think about what sort of bags you need. If you’re going overseas, a suitcase may be best. If you’re only going for a few nights, or you’ll be carrying your luggage, go for a backpack or duffel bag.

Get children their own bags, which they can pack and carry themselves. Not only will they learn some responsibility, it will also keep them excited.

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technique There are different ways to pack your clothes: folding and rolling are both good options. Either way, pack shoes and heavy items in the corners of your case or bag. Heavier clothes like jeans go next, followed by lighter items. If your bag has wheels, pack shoes closest to the base with the wheels to help stabilise the bag.

choose wisely Take practical and versatile clothes and choose complementary colours, so you can mix and match outfits

instead of packing extra clothes you won’t use. Don’t overpack for scenarios that aren’t likely to occur. Choose clothes that are less likely to wrinkle, and that suit the weather at your destination. If it’s going to be cold, rather layer up instead of taking bulky jackets. And don’t pack double – if your partner has packed certain items, like a torch and spare batteries, there’s no need for you to also take these.

Take practical and versatile clothes and choose complementary colours, so you can mix and match outfits instead of packing extra clothes you won’t use. put it in plastic Packing clothes in plastic resealable bags ensures clothes are neat and easy to find. You can pack entire outfits this way, or keep tops or pants together. Children’s outfits can also go into resealable bags. Once the outfit is dirty, stick it back into the bag so that the rest of your children’s

clothes don’t get smelly. Also put anything that can leak into a plastic bag. In fact, if you’re travelling overseas, you should probably pack all of your toiletries in clear plastic bags. Take a few extra plastic bags, just in case.

easy access Pack raincoats in easily accessible spots, like a side pocket. Keep activities for children nearby, or in hand luggage, so you can get to them quickly. If you’re planning a long road trip, pack snacks for the car and keep essential items, like phone chargers, close at hand. If you’re stopping overnight along the way, pack separate smaller bags for everyone, and pack these last.

don’t forget • Torch (turn the batteries around when you pack it, so it doesn’t accidentally turn on) • Medicine and vitamins • Sunscreen • Electronics and chargers • First aid kit • Toiletries – in travel-sized bottles • Maps (or download the Google Maps app) • Bank cards (check with your bank that they’re open for international use) • Your passports, visas, driver’s license and copies of everything • Printouts of your travel plans • If you’re flying, take a photo of the contents of your bag, for insurance purposes